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[0:00] Hallelujah. Thank you for tuning in to this powerful message by David Entry at Karis Phase 2,! Our Christ Centred Youth Services. You can never find Christ outside of the open Word of God.

[0:13] May Jesus Christ reveal Himself to you as you listen. So chapter one opens up with what God has accomplished for us. Chapter two takes us further into who we were and have become.

[0:30] In Christ. Chapter three explains Ephesians, I'm talking about. Ephesians chapter three explains how we are not an afterthought or we are not an accident, but we are part of the script from the beginning. So in Ephesians chapter two, verse ten, when it spoke about you are the workmanship of God created in Christ Jesus unto good works.

[0:59] The works which He had before hand were prepared before, say before hand. Before hand. Before hand. That's what you should work in them. The good works were prepared before hand. That before hand means before time.

[1:14] So before you were born. Before the world was created. What you are supposed to do in life has been prepared. Has been carved out already. This is how I can put it. It's like you join a team. And then they give you a jersey or uniform.

[1:36] It wasn't like after you join a team now they are going to get uniform for you. The uniform was prepared for you even before you were born. It has been waiting for you to come into this season for the uniform to be given to you.

[1:51] So when you come on board, it's not like God is now trying to find what He can do with your life. God has already marked out. When you were a sinner in the world, before your mother conceived you, God has already.

[2:09] That's why you couldn't have been aborted. That's why your mother could never have miscarried you. Because you have already been planned to be here.

[2:28] Are you getting what I'm saying? So in Ephesians chapter 3, we get to see the bigger program of God which was from eternity. Which He has planned for us to be part of.

[2:41] Then you come to Ephesians chapter 4. Then it says that since He planned for you, He defined who you are supposed to be. And He predestined or He arranged your path to play in the script.

[2:59] It's already written. Since all that, now that you have come in, what should you do? It tells you what you should do. So chapter 4 starts with your responsibility.

[3:13] Adulthood is the beginning of responsibility. Most people think they are adults because of their age. You are adults because of your sense of responsibility.

[3:31] There are still 29-year-old boys. Who cannot even tidy their own room. Their mother has to do it for them always.

[3:42] Whilst there are 20-year-old men who can marry and take care of a home and run a home and lead a wife.

[3:54] So your age is not a reflection of your sense of your maturity. It's your sense of responsibility. Well, so say responsibility.

[4:08] Learn to take responsibility. Don't just tell your mom, I'm now 18. I'm now... Can you shut up and prove you are 18 by your sense of responsibility? Prove you are 20 by your sense of responsibility.

[4:19] And stop using figures. Life is measured by not your duration, by your donation. What you bring to the table is more important than how long you've been around.

[4:33] Methuselah would have been the savior. Jesus lived 33 years, but he saved the whole world. Methuselah lived 969 years, and there's nothing about him apart from his age.

[4:49] So now let's get back to the text. Am I provoking somebody? I'm teaching you, but I have to also provoke you. Because we can't afford for you to continue the family legacy.

[5:04] You must be the star in your family. So chapter 4 tells us about now. Start working with responsibility.

[5:17] And how does it start? It tells us about the fact that we should work in love. We should keep the unity of the spirit. Through the bond of peace.

[5:28] And then it tells us there's one father, there's one Lord. Baptism. And then the servant says that unto every one of us, grace is given. And then it goes on to the ministers. Apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors, teachers.

[5:38] Who are given to equip the saints. To prepare us for the works of ministry. So you see, he's talking ministry now. That we all, till we all come to the unity of faith. Not being tossed like children.

[5:50] To and fro like children, you know, by coming to maturity. And then it says that we are all connected to Christ from the head. What every joint supplies. So it began and then it said that no, don't leave your life like those who are in the world.

[6:04] Chapter 4 verse 17. In the futility of their mind. Don't be like unbelievers because you are normal. He's beginning to charge you with responsibility. So the first point of entry of responsibility is grace works to build the church.

[6:16] And then, don't be like unbelievers. Then it goes on to the lifestyle again. Till we got to where he said we shouldn't lie to one another. We shouldn't go down on anger.

[6:28] It all began to talk about behavior. Then it enters into chapter 5. Then it tells us to walk in love. Then after teaching us we should walk in love.

[6:39] We should be like children of light. It keeps building us up. So all, you know, responsibility. Behavior. Behavior. Then when he finishes redeeming the time for the days that are evil.

[6:51] Verse 18. Don't be filled with wine. But be filled with the spirit. Speaking to yourself in Psalms. I explain all this. Then when he finishes our behavioral responsibility.

[7:02] So long as church community and grace community is concerned. He moves us into family. And with the family he starts with wives. Submit yourself to your husbands.

[7:13] Then he says husbands love your wife. And he showed the husband how he should love their wife. He showed the wife how they should submit. He didn't just say submit. He said submit like this. So don't say after me I've tried I've submitted.

[7:25] No, no, no, no. You haven't tried. You can't write an exam and the pass mark is 82. And he said I tried. I got 75. It's good enough. They have to. No, no, please. You didn't set the exam.

[7:36] You didn't set the standard. So they said this is the standard. So God gave us the standard of how a wife should be. And how a husband should be. So when he started family life or social responsibility outside of church he went into social responsibility.

[7:49] And when it comes to social responsibility he starts with family. When it comes to family he starts with wife and then husband. And the marriage setting. Healthy family starts with marriage.

[8:02] Between a husband and a wife. Healthy family. God's ideal. God's ideal. Starts with marriage.

[8:17] Then you see there cannot be a husband without marriage. Right? You can't have a husband. It's only in these days you can have a husband who doesn't have a wife.

[8:33] That's an oxymoron. How can you be a wife without a husband? When you say somebody is a wife. It means he has a husband.

[8:44] When you say somebody is a wife. So that term husband wife only works within the context of marriage. So when the Bible says wives. You know that this is somebody who has a wife and a husband.

[8:56] You are not the one he's talking to. Ephesians chapter 5 verse 22 is not talking to you. Verse 25 is not talking to you.

[9:08] Even though you are a man. Ephesians 5 verse 25 says that. Husbands are you? Do you have a wife? Then you are not a husband. The easiest definition of a husband is someone.

[9:24] The easiest definition of a wife is someone. So now he started addressing relationship. Marriage. Marital relationship.

[9:36] And he said there is no evidence. Or no clearer standard of marriage. Outside of Christ. So Christ. That's why he never had a wife on earth.

[9:48] Because. Christ didn't marry because he didn't have to. He came to die for his wife. Oh that's so romantic isn't it?

[10:02] Oh. The most romantic person I've ever lived is Jesus. He came purposely. I'm coming to die for my wife. So he said. Pastor.

[10:13] The church is not your wife. It's my bride. Be careful. Take care of my bride for me. Don't behave like the church is yours. Wow. So.

[10:25] Christ came. So then he goes into husband and wife. Then after husband and wife. Chapter 6. It's one. He said. We haven't finished. Let's go into family matters again. Then he.

[10:36] Ah. Someone get you something. So why didn't you shout hallelujah? Hallelujah. Children.

[10:50] Listen. You are somebody's children. Yes. Oh sorry. I made a mistake. Is there anyone here who doesn't have a mother? Wow.

[11:00] I'm sure they'll try and do that too. Even test tube babies. There's nothing like a test tube baby. IVF.

[11:11] In vitro fertilization. In vitro. They fertilize the egg. In a test tube. But it couldn't develop in a test tube. The egg.

[11:23] Do you know what fertilization means? Where you bring the seed. And inject it into the egg. For it to fertilize. So now the egg.

[11:33] Has begun. Become an embryo. Embryo cannot stay in a test tube. So. Nobody develops in a test tube. The fertilization can happen in a test tube.

[11:46] But the development happens in a womb. I get what I'm saying. And then they implant it in the womb. And then you see the woman pregnant. After a while you see the pregnancy.

[11:57] And then. At the appointed time. The delivery happens. And a full blown human being. Is crying. Hallelujah. And it becomes like you. Listening to the word of God.

[12:09] With an assignment of God on his life. Or her life. Praise the Lord. Hallelujah. And so. Everybody has a mother. Everybody has a mother. And everybody has a father.

[12:21] Even if you don't know who he is. Your mother cannot unnaturally produce you. It's a creation order. Natural. By nature.

[12:32] It takes positive and negative. To produce electricity. So. Children. Obey your parents. In the law.

[12:44] And that's part of spirituality. Fan. You are not spiritual. The way you treat your wife. Tells us. How unspiritual you are. The way you treat your husband.

[12:55] Tells us. How unspiritual you are. Now. It's taking it further. It says that. Your attitude. Towards. Your parents. Now.

[13:06] It said. Obey them. In the Lord. That means that. They don't. It doesn't mean they should be. Born again. They should be in the Lord. It said. You are doing it. You being in the Lord. That's what you are doing.

[13:18] Okay. So. Obey them in the Lord. In other words. It's like. Forensic scientists. When they are going.

[13:29] Or. Those who work. In the high scientific laboratory. They have to wear all kinds of stuff. And they are. Their gloves. They are working inside their glove. So. They are handling. The COVID patient.

[13:41] Or the Ebola patient. Even though they are handling. It's the gloves that is handling them. So. It's not just them. It's them. But. It's through a medium. Obey.

[13:52] Your parents. In the Lord. So. You are being in the Lord. You are doing it. In the Lord. You are not just doing it. By yourself. Am I communicating?

[14:06] You are a Christian. You are born again. You are in church. Obey your parents. In the Lord means that. As long as it's in line with God's purpose.

[14:18] God's word. If your father tells you. Go and insult your mother. Because she's upset. You can't do it. Because that's not in the Lord. If your dad.

[14:30] Your mom tells you. Never say good morning. Never say hello to your dad. When you see him. Throw a stone at him. You cannot do that. Because you can't obey your mother. That's no obedience in the Lord.

[14:44] If your dad tells you. If you are born again. He doesn't want to have anything with you again. You cannot be born again. If you do that. You are disobeying. Obey in the Lord. I respect you.

[14:58] And whatever you say. I will do it. But not when you say. I should stand against God. So obey your parents. In the Lord.

[15:09] Obey. And especially. It's not only those who live with your parents. But some of you who live with your parents. I just don't understand. When you always argue with your mother. And he did contention with your mother.

[15:21] That's not nice. That's not nice. Tell someone. That's not nice. Stop it. Shake them on their shoulders. And tell them. That's not nice. Always in.

[15:35] I know your mom. Your dad. Sometimes parents can be a handful. They can be a handful. But you have to grow in wisdom. To know how to handle a father.

[15:48] A mother. How to handle your parents. Because there is a biblical instruction. That obey. Them in the Lord. He said.

[15:59] Children. Let's already allow. Ephesians chapter 6 verse 1. Let's go. Children. Obey your parents in the Lord. Why? Because this is right. Why? Because this is right. Why? Because this is right.

[16:09] Why? Because this is right. You are thinking about human rights. This is biblical rights. This is right. Right. This is right.

[16:21] Obey your parents. This is right. This is right. Your parents. Your mother. Said. I do not. In this house.

[16:32] We don't do things like this. I don't care. No. It's disobedience. It's wrong. Even if she's wrong. You have to. If or he's wrong.

[16:43] You have to. Do it with such respect. That. It's not challenging. Their authority. Hey. I'm not going to say something.

[16:55] That would. Can save somebody's life. If. Your parents. Like you. Is a. Bigger blessing. Naturally. Many parents like.

[17:06] Naturally. Some of you. Your mom just loves you. Your dad just loves you. But. There is something. You can get. For him to start. Liking you. He likes.

[17:17] Your dad loves you. But now. He likes you. Because of your attitude. Because of your attitude. Towards her. Your attitude towards him. Your obedience towards him.

[17:27] Has made him. Just like you. Listen. It makes a big difference. In life. If your mom likes you. She loves all of you.

[17:39] As a family. She loves all your. Other brothers and sisters. But. You. Your attitude. Makes her really. She's pleased with you. Jesus. Had to secure that.

[17:50] Father spoke for us. This is my belief. In whom. I am well pleased. The father loved the son. By God. To apply. Where he said that. I am well pleased. In him. Yeah.

[18:01] No wonder. The grave. Could he hold him. His father. Is well pleased. With him. He says that. For. You will not leave. Your holy one. To see corruption. I love you too much.

[18:12] To leave you. You are. You've been so holy. In everything. I love you so much. I can't leave you. The Bible says that. He who raised Christ. From the dead. So. Christ's resurrection.

[18:24] God was also working. God. God went to the grave. He said. You kill him. Come on. I love you too much. Let's go. God raised him. He said. The Bible said. But God raised him.

[18:36] Acts chapter 2. Verse 24. But God raised him. But God. Did what? Raised him. Did what? Raised him. Yes. Who God raised him up.

[18:49] God raised him up. It was God who did it. Romans chapter 8. Verse 11. Says that. If he. The spirit of him. Who raised Christ from the dead. Yes. Who raised Christ from the dead.

[19:01] in Acts chapter 10, verse 42 and 43, God raised him up. God raised him up. Because God cannot leave him. God cannot leave him.

[19:13] Verse 41. No, no. Go to the 40, I think, where it's about him God raised. God raised up on the third day.

[19:25] Jesus Christ. God was the one who raised him. Why? Because that's his beloved son. Amen. Hello. I. If your mother likes you, it's a big blessing.

[19:39] That's one of the things I'm working on very hard. And I, my mother-in-law and my mother, my dad passed, I was one of my dad's favorites. No wonder I'm doing well in life.

[19:51] From childhood. My dad always liked me because of my attitude towards him and everything. And my mom loves me. But now I'm targeting her to like me more than everybody.

[20:03] Wow. Yeah. It's my target. By the way I treat her. By the way I honor her. I celebrate her. It's intentional.

[20:14] It's intentional. Because at her age and my age, if she likes me more, it will be more blessing to me. She cannot, she might not be able to give me money, give me contact, but her love and liking for me, her pleasure about me will secure pleasure in life for me.

[20:35] Are you learning something? Those of you who think I can do without you, especially those of you who always, if you have insulted your mother, as for you, as for you, I feel sorry for you.

[20:51] I feel sorry for you. You have to go and apologize and beg her to forgive you. Some of you have to go back to your dad, dad, please, please forgive me and let him pray for you and release you.

[21:04] Let him pray for you. And he said, I bless you. It's okay. You have to hear from his mouth that I've released you. It's okay. It's okay. You have to hear from, you need it to because your light will be switched off in darkness.

[21:19] There are people who are fasting and praying and nothing is working. Nothing is working because of standing order against their dad. The other time I just decided that there are some things I'll do for my siblings just for my, because I know my dad will be happy if I do it for them.

[21:37] So, he's not alive but I will honor his memory. This is how to live longer. There are things you can do to make life do you good.

[21:51] That's what we call responsibility. You have to, responsibility is responding to ability. You respond to the things that you should be able to do.

[22:04] It is not fineness that secures good marriage. I don't know if you know some beautiful people whose marriages are so bad. Yeah. Fineness doesn't secure good marriage.

[22:16] Fineness doesn't secure good will and doing well in life. That's the next thing I'm going to. So, he said, Obey your parents in the Lord for this is right.

[22:27] Let's all say that together. Obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. I'm not surprised some of you can't say it loud. Let's try it again. Obey your parents in the Lord for this is right.

[22:37] One more time. Obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. Then he drops the bigger one. That's the lifesaver. Let's all read it out. Let's go. Verse two. Obey your father and mother which is the first one with promise.

[22:52] Oh, it's a commandment with promise. Oh, oh. That's the first one. God gave other commandments and attached from myself. That one is the first one. Jesus repeated it a few times.

[23:05] Honor, not your father, not your mother and your father. I know your mom has always been there. But I said, your father and your mother. And not only your mother.

[23:15] Some of you is only your mom. Some of you is only your dad. He said, honor your father and you need the two.

[23:32] Yes. When it comes to marriage, you are a man, you need only one wife, one woman. Right? It's a matter. If you want to have a child, you are a woman, you need only one man.

[23:43] You don't need seven men. But if you, when it comes to honoring, if you want to enjoy the benefits of honoring parents, you need the two.

[23:55] Okay, I don't know my dad. That is a different story. God makes provision for every deficiency. Wow. I'm talking to you who know your dad.

[24:07] whatever goes around. Come around. It goes. It will come back. So when you are young, be careful.

[24:18] You will not always be young. Next 15 years, can you imagine you? You will be 45. You, next 15 years, you will be 40 years.

[24:30] Yes. Can you imagine? Some of you, in 15 years, it's even too much. Next 10 years, you will be 38. Next 10 years is coming.

[24:42] The way you are living now. Next 10 years is coming. You will answer. Next 10 years, it's either going to be your friend or your enemy. Based on what you are doing now.

[24:55] When you are young, don't be driven by pleasure. Everything is nice.

[25:06] I love it. It's nice. I love it. You might eat into your destiny. When you have a credit card, don't just be going swapping and buying food. Because there's a time where payment time is coming.

[25:20] Yeah. It's only on white people who just, the money is available. So they are enjoying. They are swiping. They are swiping. Shin. Temu. Zara. Zara.

[25:34] River Island. And my favorite one is Primark. Swipe. Swipe. Swipe.

[25:45] Swipe. It will behave like, it will look like everything is fine. For now. And it's time for, you are in uni. You are not steady. You are not steady. You are not, every party you are there.

[25:59] You've attended parties so much that you have parted with your future. Every party you are there.

[26:12] Every party. You are in school and you are in uni. Your course is very demanding. It's very demanding. You spend ungodly hours on social, hours on social media, looking at people who have put oil on their thighs.

[26:29] but, whatever you are doing now, get ready to pay for it tomorrow. Now, it's time for investment.

[26:43] The younger you are, later in your life, you'll be cruising. You'll be cruising. That's why it's good to study because you don't want to now start your master's when you are 42.

[26:54] Do it now. So, you start early and you can do something for your life. Now, children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right.

[27:05] Then it goes to the big one. Honor your father and your mother, which is the first commandment with a promise. So, oh, honoring your father and mother is not a suggestion.

[27:18] It's a first commandment with a promise. It's a commandment with a promise. When it's a commandment, it doesn't take into consideration your feeling. Hello?

[27:30] If it's a commandment, forget about your feeling. What side of the road are you supposed to drive in the UK? If you're in a hurry and really late and there's traffic on your side and if there's so much traffic and time is not your side and you really feel irritated, your feeling doesn't give you the right to drive on the wrong side of the road because when it comes to commandments, it's not based on feelings.

[28:01] It's based on facts and standards and it says that this is the first commandment with a promise. So, honoring your mother and father is not based on whether you feel good about them or you feel bad about them.

[28:14] It's just honor because the problem is, I won't do it. No problem. You will also get the first line in the verse 3. That's all. He said, so that, that means that, honor your mother and father.

[28:27] That, so when you honor, what happens? Now, let me tell you why your best friend is struggling. It's because of the broken relation between him and his parents.

[28:42] Why that your cousin is trying and everything is working against them and they are hoping that when they come to church and the powerful man of God pray for them, it will change. Tell them, I said, it will get worse.

[28:54] It will never, listen, listen, if you don't bath, it doesn't matter how much perfume you put on yourself. it will get worse.

[29:06] By nature, things don't get better. It gets worse as time goes on. And so, if you attack or dishonor a father or a mother and life starts working against you and you don't fix it, it doesn't matter what you do, it will never get better.

[29:26] Prayer cannot correct that. Prayer might give you the backbone, audacity to go and fix it. But it never gets right until it's fixed.

[29:40] I'm so happy I'm talking to people with the rest of your future ahead of you. Fix it now before you become a byword and a proverb. Fix it now before you become negative statistics because it looks like you are on the highway of becoming negative statistics.

[29:56] It looks like it. It doesn't matter how you dress. You are still going to be a negative statistics. Fix it now! The honor thing, you can't go about it.

[30:07] You can't go around. You can't circumvent it. Oh, I don't feel like, I don't want. You don't have a choice. It doesn't matter how hungry you are. Does that mean you should start eating your feces? You don't have a choice.

[30:20] You can't say I'm so hungry so now I'm drinking sea water. I'm so thirsty. So I'm drinking you will die. It's not meant for consumption. In the same way, when it comes to the subject of honor, of mother, of father and mother, there is no way around it.

[30:40] But my mom hates me. My mom hates me. That's the problem. God will deal with her. He didn't say honor on condition. He said honor. He said father, yes. He said mother.

[30:51] What do you do to your father? What do you do to your mother? That's it. If you want it to be well with you. Else, you will suffer in life.

[31:04] You. You. You see. It will not be you. It will be ill. Ill with you. Everything everybody does will be working until you get involved and everything stops working.

[31:19] Why is he telling me all this? I'm not telling you. That's what he's saying. Am I a printing press? Did I write this? That's God's word. That's the manner for life. You are trying to use everything to fix what you are destroying through your disobedience.

[31:33] Thank God you heard what you are hearing. Thank God you got to hear what you are hearing. And guess what? This was not written to pagans. To Christians.

[31:47] So if it's true for Christians, as for those who are not in Christ, how can you be a Christian and you can't obey the scriptures? What kind of Christian is this?

[32:01] You. You are a fake Christian and a hypocrite for that matter. You are a Christian. By me, I can't obey this. You are not a Christian. It's in the Bible. It said, if you are of God, you receive God's word.

[32:16] But because John chapter 7 verse 8, verse 47, because you are not of God, you don't receive God's word. Yeah. He who is of God hears God's word. Therefore, you do not hear.

[32:27] Because you are not of God. There is no clearer sign that you are not born again. Like when you say, I mean, I can't obey this. I can't take this. You are not born again. Psalm 1, verse 1, blessed is the one who walks not in the counsel of Godly, or not stand in the way of sin, not sit in the seat of the mockers, but his delight.

[32:44] Say his delight. Say his delight. Delight. Your delight is here. It's a sign that you belong to God. If you don't have a delight in God's word, you don't belong to God.

[32:57] As newborn babes desire the sincere milk of the world, there is an affinity, there is an attraction, there is a desire in you for God's word. That is a sign that you are of God.

[33:10] And you are not just religious. If you are just religious, the attraction is not there. The attraction is the you just behave like you are okay. You like what we like, but you really deeply, the attraction, you don't know why.

[33:23] I don't see what the big fuss about it. Yeah, because you don't belong to God. Those of us who belong to God, the word of God has us. The word gets us.

[33:33] It's like, sometimes it doesn't matter what state you are in. The word has a way of softening you. You have a soft spot for God's word. And the word says that honor your father and your mother.

[33:47] What don't you understand about this? Honor your father and mother that it will be well with you. Without prayer, you want it to be well. You can be praying and praying.

[33:58] If you don't do this, it will be ill with you. Say to the righteous, it shall be well with you. That means the righteous person will honor his mother and father. Listen, what I haven't said yet, even if you are a pagan and you honor your mother and father, it shall be well with you.

[34:19] You'll be a prosperous pagan. Yeah. You'll be a thriving pagan. Thriving pagan. You can be a witch. A witch.

[34:29] A satanist. And you honor your mother and father. You'll be a very thriving, prosperous satanist. Yes. There are a lot of people in satanism and evil and they are doing very well.

[34:45] Are you not in class with some Buddhists? Don't you have some Hindus in your class who are doing better than you? Being born again doesn't mean everything becomes well with you.

[35:00] There are things you have to do to get things to be well with you. When you are born again, you have the Holy Spirit on standby to help you. He said, with them is the arm of flesh.

[35:12] In the book of 1 Chronicles chapter 12, I think 32 or so. He said, with them is the arm of flesh, but with us is the almighty God to help us. Yeah.

[35:23] He said, chapter 32, verse 8, he said, with him is an arm of flesh, but with us is the Lord our God to help us and to fight our battles.

[35:35] So when you are in Christ, God is actually himself. God himself is with you on the right path as you intend to do what is right. He is there to help you. But if you are not born again, you might struggle to obey your parents in the Lord.

[35:51] You already know in the Lord. Number two, you might be struggling to honor your father or honor your mother, which is necessary for your well-being. You can do a personal research.

[36:05] Look at members of your family or family friends who have dishonored their father or their mother. Look at their lives. Do a research and see. Some of it is sad.

[36:16] Some of it is sad. Maybe sometimes it's about time we just dig a little bit into history to see people's past so we can learn from it. Because one of the things you cannot do, excuse me, and God can also do.

[36:30] With God, all things are possible, but he can't do everything. God cannot change your history. God cannot change your history. That's what I'm begging you.

[36:41] Be careful what history you are making now. Be careful because it will be too late to change it. Those of you who have lost your virginity, can you regain it? It can't change again. It doesn't matter how powerful you are like an angel.

[36:52] It can't change again. It can never change again. Those of you who have insulted your mother before, told your mom, I hate your head, you can't change it again. But with those things, you can do reparations.

[37:05] You can ask God for forgiveness. And those of you who don't have, who have a toxic and disrespectful, dishonorable relationship with your mother or with your father, you can go and do reparation.

[37:18] Everything doesn't, somebody told me, my dad hates me, I don't know why. My dad, oh Peter, he talks to me, he insults me. I know your dad is a very complicated creature, but what do you do to your dad?

[37:31] You don't honor him when your mother is in good relation with him. A dad, he said, Malachi, chapter 3, he says that, a son honoreth his father, a servant his master.

[37:49] It's there. The relationship between a servant and a boss is that of honor. Malachi, chapter 1. A son does what? Honoreth his father.

[38:00] Let's read that bit together. Let's go. A son honoreth his father. And then? As a servant his master. Let's read the whole thing again. A son honoreth his father. As a servant his master.

[38:10] Louder. A son honoreth his father. As a servant his master. What does a son do to the father? Honoreth his father. Jesus said, I honor my father.

[38:22] A son honoreth. And God said, if I were a father, where is my honor? He said, if I were a father, where is my honor? The definition of a mother is someone you honor. Stop calling me papa.

[38:35] It's not necessary if you can honor. Some people call papa papa, but they don't honor. Others might not even call papa, but their honor surpasses many who call papa. He love you daddy.

[38:48] He love you daddy. You are a liar. It's not real. It's fake. He said, God himself said, if I were, I'm a father, where is my honor?

[39:00] Because that is the only thing a father deserves. That is the, the, a father's bona fide right in your life is honor.

[39:13] It's no, you don't have a choice in it. If he's a father, give him the honor. If he's a father, give it to him. And stop giving excuses. What if, what, stop about, what if, what if, what, someone has caught Ebola.

[39:28] So what if I love him and I want to give you a little hug. Hey, you know what that means? Stop that. If then I am the father, where is my honor?

[39:44] You call God, oh God, my father. And yet, when God speaks to you, you don't honor. When it's time for praise, I wish you had sitting across your leg. Pray, praying to God. I can't be bothered.

[39:56] You know, your attitude towards God shows how much you honor him. Amen. Your attitude towards church is a reflection of the quality of honor you give towards God and how father God is to you.

[40:10] If I were a father, if I were a father, where is my honor? Where is my honor? Find a way how you can make your father like you if it's within your power.

[40:23] How you can make your mother like you. I know you have other siblings and every time there's argument, argument. You be on your mother's side. Don't be against your siblings, but let your mom know that, mom, I know you are wrong, but mom, you are always right.

[40:39] Do you understand what I'm saying? Fine. Pray, okay. Pray for wisdom. God, give me wisdom to know how to handle. Because every situation is different. So I can't take this out.

[40:50] Because I don't know your mom. I don't know your dad. Because the condition might be crazy. Maybe your mom is an unrobber. And she wants to use your car to go and rob a bank.

[41:01] I don't know. How about people whose fathers have raped them? Abusive fathers. How do we play out the honor? How do you go about this?

[41:12] Because your father has hurt you so much. You naturally hate him. And justifiably so. It's understandable. You should hate him.

[41:24] But unfortunately, you are supposed to be honoring someone you hate really right. So now there's a complication. Because you need to honor to procure well-being.

[41:36] The currency for buying well-being is honor. So if you don't bring honor to the table, you can't take well-being. So the one who has hurt you, especially if he's a father or mother, has hurt you beyond where you can recover to even honor them.

[41:53] God will punish them more. Because they are stripped you of something that can help you to do well in life. That's wicked. That's why the verse 4 says that you fathers, don't provoke your children to wrath.

[42:08] You are destroying their future. You! Don't do that, fathers. What it means to be a father is you have to be careful how you provoke your child to step into or step out of safety zone in their relationship with you.

[42:22] Don't do that, father. Don't do that, mother. A father who has raped their daughter or their child, God will punish them. Not only in hell, on earth.

[42:35] No, no, no. Nobody does that and will ever die in peace. No, it's, life will punish you, I'm telling you. So don't, listen, leave them for God.

[42:45] Obey God and see what God will do. Sometimes now you will be begging God, God, please forgive him. Oh God, I didn't, he's such a wicked father, but I didn't, oh, he's suffering too much. You, yeah, that shows that God is with you.

[42:55] Because when you are with God, you tend to have mercy on even people who you don't like. I think I'm preaching too much. Oh God! You see, I'm saving your life.

[43:09] You want to see someone who is doing well? And my secret, I honor every father figure in my life. Because I go out of my way to make sure that this man will like me. And one way of honoring is giving.

[43:22] It's the scripture, if I was a father, where is my honor? You see, it's about giving, it's there. One of the ways to express your honor is giving. Giving respect. Giving of your resources.

[43:33] You don't give someone you honor. You don't give the person things that are at your level. Did you understand that? You are going to meet King Charles.

[43:45] It's his birthday. It's his 80th birthday. You want to give him something. Then you go and buy Primark shoe, which that's the one you normally wear. Why don't you start saving and buy Max and Spencer?

[43:57] Do you understand that? It's not, you don't, you can't afford it for yourself. But you can't afford to bring him lower to you. Do you understand that? Oh, it is helping me.

[44:08] These are the principles I operate. Mom, it's working for me. Do I look like someone suffering? It's working for me. It's not, there are a lot of pastors who can even preach more powerfully, but they are struggling.

[44:24] Because who are you honoring to expect to do well? Show me who you are honoring. Where are your honor figures? Figures of honor. Some people sit online and attack anybody.

[44:35] They will not last in life. So they look for people who have decency. They become their target. And they continue to go down because what you respect, you can expect. Someone scream honor.

[44:51] Honor! Scream it again, honor. Honor! Some things, it will be hard to hear about us. Because we are too busy honoring and procuring well-being.

[45:04] Well-being. Well-being. How are you? I'm well. When we say we are well, you can tell we are actually well. Oh, hallelujah. So if you want it to be well with you, learn to honor well.

[45:17] When you honor well, you are fetching from wells of well-being. You are stopping, drawing from the well of well-being.

[45:29] And it will be well with you. In Jesus' name. Amen. Thank you for choosing to listen to this message by David Entry. We hope you were blessed by it.

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