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 Father, we confess that sometimes we are afraid of your word, and we don't maybe even want to acknowledge it, but we're afraid of it.

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 And sometimes, Father, we take great delight, glee, in your word because we think it gives us powers that it doesn't.

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 Because we want power, we want to be the center.

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 So, Father, you know the true state of our hearts, and you know the true state of our lives.

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 And we know that you love us, that Jesus is our Savior and Lord for all who put their faith and trust in him.

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 And so we ask that the Holy Spirit would fall with might and power and deep conviction as we open your word.

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 Father, bring your word to the very center of who we are.

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 And this we ask in Jesus' name. Amen.

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 Please be seated.

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 Amen.

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 So, one of the things, if you read any book on how to preach or anything like that, one of the things they talk about in preaching is that you have to begin your sermon pretty well right away with something that's going to grab people.

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 Like, within the first minute, you need to do something to grab people's attention and grant them a type of either tension or curiosity to enter into the sermon.

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 And today, all I have to do is this.

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 And I know I meant it to be funny, but I mean, it's a very serious issue, right, in terms of Canada.

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 All I have to do is say, today, you turn in your Bibles to Ephesians chapter 5, verses 22, and the opening sentence is,

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 wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord.

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 And instantly, I've got curiosity.

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 Instantly, I've got tension effortlessly right off the bat.

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 So, here's the thing.

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 I mean, we all laughed, and I meant to get a bit of a laugh, but it's very serious.

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 The fact of the matter is, is that you can just imagine what it would be like if on Monday, if those of you who work somewhere,

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 if you got all your co-workers together and said you'd like to share this text with them,

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 if I was to gather all the people in the coffee shop, and it wouldn't matter if it was a hipster coffee shop,

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 Tim Hortons, sort of the opposite end of hipster, or Starbucks to hipsters, the opposite end of hipster as well,

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 second cup, who goes to second cup, and if you're just to go and gather people up and read this text,

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 there'd be all sorts of tension in the room.

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 In fact, for many people, for many women in particular, but often for men,

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 there'd be actually a type of physical pain and shock that such a text would be read.

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 Like, there'd be actual shock and maybe pain and fear that such a text would be read.

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 And if they didn't do just the normal Canadian thing, saying whatever and trying to be polite,

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 but if they actually engaged with you, I mean, amongst other things, people would say to me,

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 George, don't you think a text like this is unbelievably dangerous?

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 Like, don't you think this text will lead to abuse?

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 In fact, some people would say, George, if people believe this text, women will die.

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 In fact, we'll be lucky if all that happens is that they end up in the emergency room,

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 because women will die if you have a text like this and try to get people to believe it.

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 That it's shocking that in an age when women can be fighters, pilots, and run nations,

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 and run billion, multi-billion dollar corporations,

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 that in an age like that, this, that a text like this would even be read without being read

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 and then being mocked or saying that it should be discarded.

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 And that's basically how most Canadians and most North Americans would view the text.

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 In fact, probably, especially if I was to do it in a coffee shop where I was familiar,

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 one of the questions would ask me is this.

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 They'd probably say, George, do you believe this?

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 And it would be like that, do you believe this?

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 Like, surely you don't believe this.

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 And if I said I did, there'd be, whoa, whoa.

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 Right? That's the world we live in.

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 That's the world we live in.

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 So, what are we going to do with all of this?

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 Well, what I'm going to do is I'm going to begin by telling you

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 what many, many Christians in North America do about a text like this.

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 And they're well-meaning, and I might also, I might in fact be describing some of you here in this room.

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 Well-meaning people, well-meaning Christians, very conscious of how this text is viewed in the world.

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 And so, how do they do?

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 What they do is they do this.

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 They go, in fact, many people who, many Canadian Christians would even right off the bat say,

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 whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

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 Time out, George.

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 You didn't begin the text in the right spot.

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 Like, what on earth are you doing?

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 Like, you should have begun not with verse 22, where it says, wives, submit to your husbands.

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 You should have begun with verse 21, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.

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 And what would happen in many Christian churches, many pulpits, including many evangelical and charismatic churches,

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 is they would do something like this.

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 They would say, well, George, verse 21 is before verse 22.

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 And verse 21 gives the general principle about how Christians are to relate to each other.

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 And the general way that Christians are to relate to each other is that they're to learn how to submit to one another.

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 And so, therefore, that's what governs this text.

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 That's the big idea, rather than just picking on husbands and wives.

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 And then they would say something like this.

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 They'd say, but because you see what's going on, is there some type of local problem that's going on in Ephesus?

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 And then they'll begin to tell you the local problem that was going on in Ephesus.

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 And then they'd say, so given that there's this local problem going on in Ephesus,

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 and Paul is giving advice for a very particular problem,

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 therefore what we need to do now here in Ottawa in 2019 is we need to understand that this is the text that everybody has to follow.

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 And the other text, 22 to 33, is just talking about a local thing which no longer applies.

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 Now, here's the thing. It's very, very well-meaning.

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 But the problem is there is no local situation in Ephesus like what they're talking about.

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 Like it doesn't exist.

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 I don't want to offend some of you, and some of you might come up and give me some books.

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 And in the books show me how archaeologists say this.

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 But fundamentally, there is no particular situation like this that gets you around the problem of the text.

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 The second thing is that at the level of the original language,

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 and it's shown in most modern Bible translations,

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 the reason that whole new section begins at verse 22 is because verses 15 to 21 is one sentence in Greek.

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 It's not as if it's a series.

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 In English Bibles, because English doesn't usually work in that way,

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 that you can have such long sentences.

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 So what happens is there's a whole lot of sentences,

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 and they'll make this look like the beginning of a new sentence,

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 and then they'll want to put this.

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 But at the original language, 15 to 21 is one long sentence.

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 And in fact, actually, I can tell you another thing.

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 Sorry, time out.

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 Geek moment for grammar nerds.

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 Okay.

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 In that long sentence, the submitting to one another in Christ,

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 it's a third of three participles, and there's a governing noun, and it's verse 18.

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 So there's the governing noun, and then three instances of what the governing verb, and blah, blah.

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 In other words, 21 is really connected to that sentence,

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 and it's not a brand new sentence that should begin a new paragraph.

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 End of grammar geek moment.

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 The other problem with the well-meaning way to try to get around the text,

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 because you see, really what happens is they use verse 21 to deconstruct or make verses 20.

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 Another way to put it is they use 21 to deconstruct verses 22 to 33,

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 or a better way to put it is they use verse 21 to make verses 22 to 33 disappear.

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 But the problem is that Paul doesn't make reference to, let's say, something like head coverings,

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 which you might wonder then if it's referring to something a bit more local.

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 The fact of the matter is that Paul grounds all of his argument in the fact that Jesus died for sinners,

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 that Jesus is Savior and Lord, and the book of Genesis chapter 2, which is in creation.

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 In other words, things which aren't local but are, in fact, universal and fundamental to the Christian faith.

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 So it's a well-meaning attempt to deal with it, but it's not right.

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 And so for some of you, your answer to all that will be, ouch.

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 George, you just made the problem worse.

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 You haven't helped the problem at all.

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 You have made it worse.

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 You're saying that this text is something universal that applies to husbands and wives in Ottawa in 2019.

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 So here's my first brief point.

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 And this is going to make you even more worried about me, but I thought I'd get it right out.

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 I think the Bible's teaching on marriage is wise.

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 This is obviously not the only text on marriage in the Bible.

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 I'm not going to try to pretend it is, but I think this teaching on marriage is very wise when it's properly understood.

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 And I know there's lots of fear and anxiety around the text, but I think we've got to walk towards it because the teaching is wise.

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 And I hope by your prayers that I can show you that, in fact, it is very wise for Christians to understand and to walk towards.

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 So let's start walking towards it.

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 Let's get back to our text.

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 So Ephesians chapter 5, verses 22 to 24.

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 The way the text is structured is the first three verses talk to wives.

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 Then I think it's eight verses that talk to husbands.

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 And then there's a concluding verse that talks to husbands and wives together.

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 Maybe it's three and nine and one.

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 I can't remember just off the top.

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 But you can see there's almost three times more time he spends talking to husbands than there will be to wives.

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 But let's look at what it says here.

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 Verse 22, wives, submit to your own husbands.

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 Another translation is, be subject to your own husbands as to the Lord.

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 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its savior.

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 Now, as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in all things to their husbands.

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 So you can see my first point that I mentioned a little bit earlier, that the fact the text is going to ground it not in something that we might say,

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 that sounds like it's a bit of a unique issue, but something very, very fundamental.

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 Christ is the head of the church, that Christ is the savior, that the church, the real church, the invisible church, is his body.

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 It's grounded in something which is not local, but in fact something which is universal.

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 And the fact of the matter is, is submit is the word in the original language.

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 It's not that we can sort of do around it.

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 It's important now as we started to try to gently look into this text, is that it doesn't say wives submit to men.

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 It doesn't say wives submit to, yeah, it doesn't say wives submit to men.

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 It says wives submit to your own husbands.

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 In other words, this is a text that Louise would have to read,

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 understanding that it's referring to how she relates to me,

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 and not how she relates to other men.

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 It's just to her own husband.

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 Just as, in a moment, it's a text that will be referring to me

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 in terms of how I relate to my wife, Louise, not to all other women.

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 But it's still very, very stark and very, very shocking in Canada.

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 In fact, some of you might say, many Canadians would say in the coffee shop

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 that I've actually made it worse.

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 Once again, there's no out and dodge around the word submit.

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 It says what it says, and it's very stark.

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 It's a strong exhortation repeated twice.

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 Wives submit to your own husbands.

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 So wives, in verse 24, should submit in all things to their husbands.

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 The text actually makes it worse.

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 Now, it looks as if I've made it worse.

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 But actually, it's only when we actually start to really look at the text

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 that we start to notice that the text, that Paul, that the Bible does something

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 which is unbelievably odd.

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 And it's such an odd thing that happens.

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 And let's be frank.

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 There is a problem with patriarchy.

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 There is a problem with patriarchy.

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 It's not an imagined problem.

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 It might not be as extensive as some people would say, but it's a problem.

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 And many times, Christians, especially those who are known as evangelicals,

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 one of the great weaknesses of their thinking is that they talk as if patriarchy is not ever a problem,

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 just as they'll talk as if social class isn't a problem or racism isn't a problem.

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 They refuse.

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 We refuse to acknowledge that these are real things, real issues, real problems,

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 prejudice, discrimination, racism, anti-Semitism, patriarchy.

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 These are real problems in the world, and they have real impacts on how we read the Bible without realizing it.

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 And sometimes when Christians are defending the Bible, what they don't realize is they're not actually defending the Bible.

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 They're defending patriarchy, and they shouldn't.

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 And they shouldn't.

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 We shouldn't.

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 The Bible is going to do something unbelievably odd.

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 It's so odd that what happens is we fill in something with a patriarchal perspective that's actually not in the Bible.

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 Look what happens next.

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 So here it is, verse 24.

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 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husband.

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 What happens next?

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 Look at what it says.

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 We'll read all of them, and then I'll point out what's so odd about it.

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 Husbands, love your wives.

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 Verse 25.

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 Husbands, love your wives.

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 It's just the plural, right?

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 It's not saying that husbands have more than one wife, right?

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 So, George, love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water and the word,

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 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

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 And notice this big thing.

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 Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

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 It's a way of very powerfully saying that Jesus loves you and me to the point of dying on the cross.

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 He didn't die on the cross because of something he had done.

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 He didn't do it because it was some type of extreme sport and he wanted to win the gold medal.

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 No, he saw your need and mine, and so out of love for you and me, he comes and dies upon the cross for you and me.

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 So here's the thing which most of us don't notice.

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 Okay?

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 Normally, this is what we would expect.

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 Louise, submit to George in all things.

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 George, these are the types of things you should say.

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 These are the types of things you can't say.

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 These are the types of limits you can do.

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 This is the type of way that, you know, these are the benchmarks.

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 Is any of that there?

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 None.

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 You know what's missing in this text?

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 The man is not given any power to command.

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 Zero.

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 That's what we would expect.

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 Many Christian commentators say, well, it's assumed.

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 And so they fill it in with patriarchy.

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 No.

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 It's not assumed.

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 How do I know it's not assumed?

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 Well, one of the things is actually a proper use of verse 21.

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 Because in verse 21, right?

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 It's talking about you're filled with the Holy Spirit and filled in the Holy Spirit.

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 And if you're filled in the Holy Spirit, there's a certain way of talking with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs.

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 Rejoicing in making melody in your heart in all times.

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 You know, there's a, I can't remember what the second one is, which is terrible.

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 I should remember it, but I'm on a roll.

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 And then there's a third one, submitting to one another.

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 And does the text there say to other people, okay, George has to submit to everybody.

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 So everybody else, this is how you can boss George around.

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 It's not there.

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 It's the same word.

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 Why would you assume it's there in verse 25 when you assume it's not there in verse 21?

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 You can't.

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 Well, then people say, well, George, that makes no sense.

00:17:39.079 --> 00:17:39.519
 Exactly.

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 From the world's point of view, which rates everything with power.

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 It makes no sense.

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 But what does Jesus do?

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 What is the Bible doing?

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 The Bible is not saying this is how power works.

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 So this is how you have to work.

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 No.

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 What does the Bible point us to?

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 The gospel.

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 How are we to understand marriage?

00:18:05.660 --> 00:18:06.740
 Understanding the gospel.

00:18:07.460 --> 00:18:10.359
 How is a husband to understand how to relate to his wife?

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 Think about the gospel.

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 How is the wife to understand how to think about her husband?

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 Think about the gospel.

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 Not think about power.

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 Think about the gospel.

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 And so here's the shocking thing.

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 What you would expect normally if this was written,

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 what, Louise, submit in all things.

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 George, now we're expecting,

00:18:30.779 --> 00:18:32.379
 you're going to say something about command and said,

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 what does Jesus say to me?

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 What does the Bible say?

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 George, love your wife to the point of being willing to die for her.

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 And not just die so she can be left in poverty and sadness.

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 The point is that you are to understand that God's will for her is that she will be holy

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 and she will be beautiful and she will be whole and she will be complete.

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 And you are willing to die to your own.

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 You have to be willing.

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 You are exhorted, George, to die to your own will in such a way

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 that this work of God in her will work more and more and more and more and more.

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 And that, George, is your task.

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 Your task, George, is not how to boss her around.

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 Your task, if you choose to accept it,

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 your task, mission impossible reference, sorry,

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 your task is to be willing to die for your wife,

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 die to your own agendas,

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 die to all of these things and be willing to die for her.

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 Now, I'm going to say a little bit more about it,

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 but I want to show the big point about all of this.

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 So if I lose you for the rest of the sermon, this is the big point.

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 The Bible gives wise exhortations in light of the true nature of love,

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 the true problem of sin,

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 and the enduring truth of the gospel.

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 That's the way to understand this text.

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 Hopefully I have the time and I'll be able to show you

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 that that's, in fact, what's going on.

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 That the Bible gives wise exhortations,

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 not, it doesn't, the Bible doesn't hit the women.

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 It's that the, it's giving wise exhortations in light

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 of what all of us know is the true nature of love.

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 It's giving wise exhortations in light of what we all know

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 about the true problem of sin.

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 And what the world doesn't know, but we know if we're Christians,

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 it's giving wise exhortations in light of the enduring truth of the gospel.

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 And that's what Paul is doing here in chapter 5, verses 22 to 24.

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 So how do I say this?

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 What is the nature of love?

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 We think about it for a second.

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 When we're in deep love with somebody,

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 the first time when we fall really in love with another person,

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 and that love that we have for another person,

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 it seems like it's reciprocated.

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 I will give an example from the, so I was in love with Louise,

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 and, you know, we go on a date or two,

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 and then finally I get over, invited over to her house for her apartment.

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 She was sharing an apartment with some other people.

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 I get over, I get invited over for a meal and for tea,

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 and I, we talk, and at the time she lived in an apartment

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 right near James Street in Bronson.

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 I lived out at Bank and Hunt Club.

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 Those of you in Ottawa, that's a long way away.

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 And we stopped talking at 2.30 in the morning.

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 It was January.

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 It was minus 25.

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 Buses had stopped.

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 Uber hadn't been invented.

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 Taxis were for rich people.

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 I had to walk home.

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 2.30 in the morning.

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 Bronson and James to Bank and Hunt Club.

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 Now let me ask you this question.

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 Did I walk there along those streets thinking,

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 how dare she keep me talking so late?

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 This is terrible.

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 She had no concern for me and my needs

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 that I had to walk for so long in such a...

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 No!

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 I thought I was the luckiest guy in the world.

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 I thought I was the luckiest guy in the world.

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 Quite a few years ago in this congregation,

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 there was a man who used to come here all the time.

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 And he was a really, really nice guy.

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 Loved wine.

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 Loved good food.

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 And he was plump.

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 And one day,

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 I come into a meeting with him

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 and he looked a bit flushed.

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 A bit pink.

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 And I asked him what he'd done.

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 He said,

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 I just came from jogging.

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 I said,

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 you went jogging?

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 That's bad people skills, by the way.

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 I shouldn't have said,

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 you went jogging?

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 I should have said,

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 way to go!

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 Or something like that.

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 But I lost it.

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 Because if you were to pick everybody in the church

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 as to who's going to go for a jog,

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 he would have been like right close to the bottom of the list.

00:23:01.440 --> 00:23:01.759
 Okay?

00:23:03.419 --> 00:23:05.259
 Well, how come you went jogging?

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 There was a girl,

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 a young woman.

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 And he liked her.

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 She went jogging.

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 He said,

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 you want to go jogging?

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 And he did.

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 That ended up not working out,

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 that relationship.

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 But the point is this.

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 Obviously,

00:23:28.720 --> 00:23:29.380
 with Louise and me,

00:23:29.460 --> 00:23:30.540
 with many, many adventures,

00:23:30.660 --> 00:23:31.760
 eventually it did work out.

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 But this poor fellow,

00:23:32.740 --> 00:23:33.680
 it did not work out.

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 And they never got together.

00:23:35.579 --> 00:23:36.619
 But here's the point.

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 What happens when you're really in love with another person

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 and you know that they're in love with you?

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 What happens?

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 You're willing to sacrifice.

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 The first thing about it,

00:23:46.319 --> 00:23:47.460
 when you're in love,

00:23:47.879 --> 00:23:49.419
 you feel the most yourself

00:23:49.419 --> 00:23:50.939
 that you've ever felt in your life.

00:23:51.000 --> 00:23:51.220
 Right?

00:23:52.159 --> 00:23:52.879
 When you're in love,

00:23:52.960 --> 00:23:53.960
 you feel like yourself.

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 You feel powerful.

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 You have a great identity.

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 You feel confident.

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 And you also,

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 what will you do?

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 You put yourself second

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 so that you can do

00:24:04.700 --> 00:24:06.000
 their other person's interest.

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 You're willing to sacrifice for them.

00:24:07.940 --> 00:24:08.920
 Isn't that the

00:24:08.920 --> 00:24:11.740
 true nature of love?

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 What else happens?

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 We're going to see this in a moment.

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 Like,

00:24:18.779 --> 00:24:19.799
 you talk to somebody,

00:24:20.480 --> 00:24:20.680
 you know,

00:24:20.740 --> 00:24:22.019
 talk to a person

00:24:22.019 --> 00:24:23.900
 and they've had a great marriage

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 and their husband dies

00:24:25.079 --> 00:24:26.519
 or they've had a great marriage

00:24:26.519 --> 00:24:27.079
 and it's come,

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 where one person really loves the other person

00:24:29.359 --> 00:24:30.799
 that's come to an end through divorce

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 or some other thing like that.

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 And for the person

00:24:33.359 --> 00:24:35.259
 who really loves the other person,

00:24:35.359 --> 00:24:37.019
 it feels like a type of death.

00:24:37.159 --> 00:24:38.459
 It feels as if there's

00:24:38.459 --> 00:24:40.299
 something in the very center

00:24:40.299 --> 00:24:41.319
 of who you are

00:24:41.319 --> 00:24:42.659
 that's been ripped out

00:24:42.659 --> 00:24:45.039
 because it's the very nature of love,

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 not only that you give of yourself

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 and that you want to give to that person,

00:24:51.740 --> 00:24:53.259
 but that you become one.

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 That in love,

00:24:55.459 --> 00:24:57.979
 you want to enter into the other person's life

00:24:57.980 --> 00:24:59.039
 and you want that person

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 to enter into you

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 and there's a type of oneness

00:25:01.360 --> 00:25:02.599
 so that when there's a break,

00:25:02.740 --> 00:25:04.620
 it actually feels like a type of death.

00:25:04.819 --> 00:25:05.799
 It actually feels like

00:25:05.799 --> 00:25:07.460
 there's something inside of you

00:25:07.460 --> 00:25:08.519
 that got ripped out.

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 That's the nature of love.

00:25:12.339 --> 00:25:13.360
 Look at what happens

00:25:13.360 --> 00:25:14.339
 in the rest of the text.

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 Look at verses 28 to 30.

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 Look at how the text talks.

00:25:19.279 --> 00:25:19.420
 Right?

00:25:19.860 --> 00:25:20.599
 Verse 28.

00:25:21.259 --> 00:25:21.960
 In the same way,

00:25:22.019 --> 00:25:24.000
 husbands should love their wives

00:25:24.000 --> 00:25:25.319
 as their own bodies.

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 He who loves his wife

00:25:28.799 --> 00:25:29.480
 loves himself.

00:25:29.619 --> 00:25:30.539
 This is a talking,

00:25:30.700 --> 00:25:31.559
 this isn't something

00:25:31.559 --> 00:25:32.740
 that like in terms of

00:25:32.740 --> 00:25:34.000
 overwhelming the other person.

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 It's describing this deep type of oneness.

00:25:36.700 --> 00:25:37.779
 It's reminding the husband

00:25:37.779 --> 00:25:39.159
 of the deep type of oneness

00:25:39.159 --> 00:25:40.200
 that happens in love.

00:25:40.799 --> 00:25:41.319
 Verse 29.

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 For no one ever hated his own flesh,

00:25:43.339 --> 00:25:45.099
 but nourishes and cherishes it

00:25:45.099 --> 00:25:47.059
 just as Christ does the church

00:25:47.059 --> 00:25:51.119
 because we are members of his body.

00:25:51.700 --> 00:25:52.779
 And then Paul goes

00:25:52.779 --> 00:25:54.440
 and he quotes from the book of Genesis.

00:25:54.599 --> 00:25:56.259
 Genesis chapter 2, verse 24.

00:25:56.480 --> 00:25:56.819
 He says,

00:25:57.119 --> 00:25:58.019
 Therefore a man shall leave

00:25:58.019 --> 00:25:58.960
 his father and mother

00:25:58.960 --> 00:26:00.879
 and hold fast to his wife,

00:26:01.319 --> 00:26:04.019
 and the two shall become one flesh.

00:26:04.460 --> 00:26:06.099
 This mystery is profound,

00:26:06.259 --> 00:26:07.440
 and I am saying that it refers

00:26:07.440 --> 00:26:08.379
 to Christ and the church.

00:26:08.460 --> 00:26:09.920
 He's using the Christ and the church

00:26:09.920 --> 00:26:11.539
 in this mystery of love

00:26:11.539 --> 00:26:13.200
 and the mystery of marital love

00:26:13.200 --> 00:26:13.940
 in particular,

00:26:14.559 --> 00:26:17.460
 that it's as if there's this one flesh.

00:26:17.460 --> 00:26:20.279
 So if you go back

00:26:20.279 --> 00:26:23.559
 to my point,

00:26:24.420 --> 00:26:27.920
 the Bible gives true exhortations

00:26:27.920 --> 00:26:29.779
 in light of the true nature of love.

00:26:33.279 --> 00:26:34.340
 The submitting,

00:26:35.039 --> 00:26:36.079
 the sacrificing,

00:26:37.380 --> 00:26:38.360
 the becoming one.

00:26:38.819 --> 00:26:40.559
 The entire teaching

00:26:40.559 --> 00:26:43.059
 is shaped on the true nature of love,

00:26:43.120 --> 00:26:43.500
 isn't it?

00:26:43.500 --> 00:26:49.980
 But some of you might say,

00:26:50.140 --> 00:26:52.079
 George,

00:26:52.720 --> 00:26:55.000
 this doesn't work.

00:26:56.319 --> 00:26:57.599
 This doesn't work.

00:26:59.059 --> 00:26:59.579
 George,

00:27:01.660 --> 00:27:03.380
 marriages end in divorce.

00:27:03.880 --> 00:27:04.319
 George,

00:27:04.700 --> 00:27:06.240
 there's selfishness in marriage.

00:27:06.619 --> 00:27:07.099
 George,

00:27:08.220 --> 00:27:09.779
 husbands abuse their wives.

00:27:10.720 --> 00:27:11.599
 There can be, of course,

00:27:11.720 --> 00:27:13.200
 wives abusing their husbands,

00:27:13.200 --> 00:27:14.900
 but it's a bigger problem

00:27:14.900 --> 00:27:16.500
 of husbands abusing their wives,

00:27:16.960 --> 00:27:18.559
 especially of physical violence.

00:27:19.380 --> 00:27:19.819
 And George,

00:27:20.160 --> 00:27:20.840
 this all now,

00:27:20.900 --> 00:27:21.799
 now all of a sudden,

00:27:21.940 --> 00:27:23.180
 our critics will go,

00:27:23.299 --> 00:27:23.620
 well, George,

00:27:23.660 --> 00:27:25.080
 this is just all airy-fairy.

00:27:26.080 --> 00:27:27.059
 But no.

00:27:28.500 --> 00:27:29.720
 The Bible gives

00:27:29.720 --> 00:27:31.400
 these wise exhortations

00:27:31.400 --> 00:27:33.059
 in light of the true nature of love

00:27:33.059 --> 00:27:34.960
 and the true problem of sin.

00:27:36.660 --> 00:27:37.279
 You see,

00:27:37.340 --> 00:27:38.180
 the problem is

00:27:38.180 --> 00:27:38.740
 that the Bible

00:27:38.740 --> 00:27:40.480
 is both more wildly optimistic

00:27:40.480 --> 00:27:41.240
 than the world,

00:27:41.240 --> 00:27:44.339
 but also more wildly realistic,

00:27:44.940 --> 00:27:46.880
 all within the context

00:27:46.880 --> 00:27:48.240
 of the truth of the gospel.

00:27:49.579 --> 00:27:50.160
 You see,

00:27:50.299 --> 00:27:51.480
 the problem I have often

00:27:51.480 --> 00:27:51.720
 when,

00:27:52.019 --> 00:27:52.859
 that many of us have

00:27:52.859 --> 00:27:53.759
 when we talk to Christians,

00:27:53.920 --> 00:27:55.099
 and because we live in Canada,

00:27:55.200 --> 00:27:55.980
 we have it as well,

00:27:56.039 --> 00:27:56.680
 on one hand,

00:27:57.180 --> 00:27:57.940
 on one hand,

00:27:58.039 --> 00:28:00.039
 what will the average Canadian say

00:28:00.039 --> 00:28:00.480
 about,

00:28:00.559 --> 00:28:01.620
 if you explain the gospel

00:28:01.620 --> 00:28:02.799
 or something like that to them,

00:28:02.819 --> 00:28:04.259
 and about Jesus dying for sinners,

00:28:04.319 --> 00:28:05.539
 and the average Canadian will say,

00:28:05.620 --> 00:28:07.480
 but people are fundamentally good.

00:28:08.099 --> 00:28:09.059
 Don't they say that?

00:28:09.579 --> 00:28:10.720
 People are fundamentally good.

00:28:10.759 --> 00:28:11.579
 I'm a good person.

00:28:12.619 --> 00:28:13.240
 But then the very,

00:28:13.339 --> 00:28:14.000
 very next breath,

00:28:14.079 --> 00:28:14.480
 they say,

00:28:14.579 --> 00:28:15.559
 you can't have advice

00:28:15.559 --> 00:28:16.039
 about this,

00:28:16.119 --> 00:28:16.659
 about marriage.

00:28:16.759 --> 00:28:16.919
 Why?

00:28:17.039 --> 00:28:17.859
 Because people aren't

00:28:17.859 --> 00:28:18.700
 fundamentally good,

00:28:18.740 --> 00:28:19.839
 and they beat each other up.

00:28:20.279 --> 00:28:20.500
 Well,

00:28:20.519 --> 00:28:20.899
 one moment,

00:28:20.960 --> 00:28:21.599
 which one is it?

00:28:23.619 --> 00:28:24.099
 I mean,

00:28:24.119 --> 00:28:26.279
 it's a type of a discontinuity

00:28:26.279 --> 00:28:27.460
 in how a lot of us think

00:28:27.460 --> 00:28:28.559
 people are fundamentally good,

00:28:28.659 --> 00:28:29.940
 but you can't give this type

00:28:29.940 --> 00:28:30.720
 of advice to people

00:28:30.720 --> 00:28:31.659
 because they'll abuse it.

00:28:31.700 --> 00:28:31.899
 Why?

00:28:32.019 --> 00:28:32.139
 Well,

00:28:32.139 --> 00:28:32.720
 because they're not

00:28:32.720 --> 00:28:33.579
 fundamentally good.

00:28:34.000 --> 00:28:35.079
 But the Bible's realistic.

00:28:35.200 --> 00:28:36.000
 The Bible doesn't say

00:28:36.000 --> 00:28:37.259
 people are fundamentally good.

00:28:39.059 --> 00:28:40.659
 It says there's an integrity

00:28:40.659 --> 00:28:41.179
 to people.

00:28:41.319 --> 00:28:42.579
 There's a longing for the good.

00:28:43.019 --> 00:28:44.480
 It says that there's common grace

00:28:44.480 --> 00:28:45.559
 and they do good things,

00:28:45.679 --> 00:28:46.779
 but it says that we are,

00:28:46.919 --> 00:28:47.139
 in fact,

00:28:47.240 --> 00:28:48.179
 bent by sin.

00:28:48.960 --> 00:28:49.419
 And you see,

00:28:49.500 --> 00:28:50.159
 this then is why

00:28:50.159 --> 00:28:51.559
 the Bible is so wise.

00:28:52.159 --> 00:28:52.399
 Right?

00:28:52.419 --> 00:28:53.579
 If you think about it for a second,

00:28:53.700 --> 00:28:54.279
 this is why

00:28:54.279 --> 00:28:55.659
 the Bible is so wise.

00:28:55.980 --> 00:28:56.639
 This is why,

00:28:56.759 --> 00:28:57.460
 if you go back

00:28:57.460 --> 00:28:58.639
 and you look later on,

00:28:59.000 --> 00:28:59.759
 remember I said

00:28:59.759 --> 00:29:01.759
 it sets before the wife

00:29:01.759 --> 00:29:02.839
 this task

00:29:02.839 --> 00:29:04.599
 of submitting to her husband

00:29:04.599 --> 00:29:05.359
 as to the Lord.

00:29:05.359 --> 00:29:07.240
 and it doesn't give

00:29:07.240 --> 00:29:08.159
 the husband

00:29:08.159 --> 00:29:10.659
 any power to command.

00:29:12.059 --> 00:29:12.459
 Instead,

00:29:12.899 --> 00:29:14.119
 it says to the husband,

00:29:14.399 --> 00:29:14.779
 husband,

00:29:15.219 --> 00:29:16.339
 love your wife

00:29:16.339 --> 00:29:17.979
 as Jesus loved his church.

00:29:18.039 --> 00:29:18.459
 In other words,

00:29:18.579 --> 00:29:20.679
 love for the sake of her,

00:29:21.779 --> 00:29:23.199
 put her so high

00:29:23.199 --> 00:29:24.759
 and the need for her

00:29:24.759 --> 00:29:25.179
 to be,

00:29:26.899 --> 00:29:28.199
 have integrity

00:29:28.199 --> 00:29:28.979
 and all of that

00:29:28.979 --> 00:29:30.139
 to the point of being willing

00:29:30.139 --> 00:29:31.199
 to die to yourself

00:29:31.199 --> 00:29:31.740
 and in fact,

00:29:31.799 --> 00:29:32.819
 even die into your own life.

00:29:32.879 --> 00:29:33.759
 Be willing to die.

00:29:33.759 --> 00:29:35.240
 And the wife

00:29:35.240 --> 00:29:36.200
 is not given

00:29:36.200 --> 00:29:37.039
 any power

00:29:37.039 --> 00:29:37.900
 to command

00:29:37.900 --> 00:29:39.079
 the husband.

00:29:40.000 --> 00:29:40.980
 Both of them

00:29:40.980 --> 00:29:42.180
 are voluntary.

00:29:45.200 --> 00:29:46.440
 Why are they voluntary?

00:29:49.319 --> 00:29:50.119
 Because there's

00:29:50.119 --> 00:29:50.920
 the true problem

00:29:50.920 --> 00:29:51.440
 of sin.

00:29:53.059 --> 00:29:53.359
 You see,

00:29:53.440 --> 00:29:54.160
 there's a task

00:29:54.160 --> 00:29:55.079
 which is enjoined,

00:29:55.200 --> 00:29:56.359
 but it's not total

00:29:56.359 --> 00:29:57.559
 submission

00:29:57.559 --> 00:29:58.920
 nor total dying.

00:30:00.839 --> 00:30:01.319
 Wives

00:30:01.319 --> 00:30:02.160
 who are here,

00:30:02.680 --> 00:30:03.379
 if your husband's

00:30:03.380 --> 00:30:03.920
 a jerk,

00:30:04.960 --> 00:30:05.400
 I don't know

00:30:05.400 --> 00:30:05.780
 if I was allowed

00:30:05.780 --> 00:30:06.700
 to say that in church,

00:30:07.500 --> 00:30:08.960
 I just did.

00:30:10.880 --> 00:30:11.560
 That's going to

00:30:11.560 --> 00:30:12.760
 really profoundly

00:30:12.760 --> 00:30:13.420
 shape

00:30:13.420 --> 00:30:14.240
 what on earth

00:30:14.240 --> 00:30:14.820
 submission's

00:30:14.820 --> 00:30:15.620
 going to look like.

00:30:17.340 --> 00:30:18.360
 If your husband's

00:30:18.360 --> 00:30:18.780
 abusive,

00:30:20.220 --> 00:30:21.260
 that's probably

00:30:21.260 --> 00:30:21.900
 going to make it

00:30:21.900 --> 00:30:22.760
 that the submitting

00:30:22.760 --> 00:30:23.300
 is going to be

00:30:23.300 --> 00:30:24.380
 almost impossible

00:30:24.380 --> 00:30:25.360
 to see

00:30:25.360 --> 00:30:26.360
 because he's abusive.

00:30:27.400 --> 00:30:28.400
 Because the nature

00:30:28.400 --> 00:30:28.980
 of the person

00:30:28.980 --> 00:30:29.640
 you're married to

00:30:29.640 --> 00:30:30.100
 is in fact

00:30:30.100 --> 00:30:30.580
 going to have

00:30:30.579 --> 00:30:31.220
 a profound

00:30:31.220 --> 00:30:32.839
 way of shaping

00:30:32.839 --> 00:30:34.819
 the godly

00:30:34.819 --> 00:30:35.740
 following

00:30:35.740 --> 00:30:36.159
 of these

00:30:36.159 --> 00:30:37.079
 exhortations.

00:30:40.639 --> 00:30:41.859
 And in fact,

00:30:41.960 --> 00:30:42.819
 it says more than this.

00:30:42.819 --> 00:30:43.299
 It's all,

00:30:43.439 --> 00:30:43.879
 it's,

00:30:43.879 --> 00:30:44.759
 it's,

00:30:44.759 --> 00:30:44.960
 it's,

00:30:44.960 --> 00:30:46.159
 it's,

00:30:46.159 --> 00:30:47.279
 it's why not only

00:30:47.279 --> 00:30:48.619
 is the command

00:30:48.619 --> 00:30:49.559
 voluntary,

00:30:49.559 --> 00:30:51.059
 so it's up to

00:30:51.059 --> 00:30:51.559
 the person

00:30:51.559 --> 00:30:52.220
 who does it,

00:30:52.299 --> 00:30:53.039
 but it's also

00:30:53.039 --> 00:30:54.500
 because they,

00:30:55.119 --> 00:30:55.720
 because the Bible

00:30:55.720 --> 00:30:56.859
 understands that sin

00:30:56.859 --> 00:30:58.079
 is fundamentally

00:30:58.079 --> 00:30:58.639
 a problem

00:30:58.639 --> 00:30:59.599
 of selfishness

00:30:59.599 --> 00:31:01.079
 and it's fundamentally

00:31:01.079 --> 00:31:01.639
 a problem

00:31:01.639 --> 00:31:02.440
 of putting yourself

00:31:02.440 --> 00:31:02.960
 at the center

00:31:02.960 --> 00:31:03.480
 of the universe

00:31:03.480 --> 00:31:04.839
 and viewing everything

00:31:04.839 --> 00:31:05.539
 from your own

00:31:05.539 --> 00:31:06.119
 perspective.

00:31:06.500 --> 00:31:07.240
 Quick example

00:31:07.240 --> 00:31:07.659
 of this

00:31:07.659 --> 00:31:08.940
 to how sin

00:31:08.940 --> 00:31:09.679
 makes us

00:31:09.679 --> 00:31:10.139
 the center

00:31:10.139 --> 00:31:10.759
 of the universe

00:31:10.759 --> 00:31:11.679
 and,

00:31:11.740 --> 00:31:13.059
 and see everything

00:31:13.059 --> 00:31:13.659
 from our own

00:31:13.659 --> 00:31:14.179
 perspective.

00:31:14.319 --> 00:31:14.799
 If at the end

00:31:14.799 --> 00:31:15.399
 of the service

00:31:15.399 --> 00:31:16.519
 I was to announce

00:31:16.519 --> 00:31:17.200
 that God

00:31:17.200 --> 00:31:18.079
 answered our prayer

00:31:18.079 --> 00:31:19.279
 in a remarkable way

00:31:19.279 --> 00:31:20.259
 and has given us

00:31:20.259 --> 00:31:20.939
 a building,

00:31:21.599 --> 00:31:23.519
 the very first thing

00:31:23.519 --> 00:31:24.559
 most of us would think

00:31:24.559 --> 00:31:25.159
 is how does this

00:31:25.159 --> 00:31:25.759
 affect me?

00:31:28.539 --> 00:31:29.879
 If I said the building

00:31:29.879 --> 00:31:32.119
 is two kilometers away,

00:31:32.460 --> 00:31:33.460
 for many of us

00:31:33.460 --> 00:31:34.299
 the very first thing

00:31:34.299 --> 00:31:35.039
 will be how does this

00:31:35.039 --> 00:31:35.559
 affect me?

00:31:35.659 --> 00:31:35.859
 Not,

00:31:36.240 --> 00:31:37.439
 praise God!

00:31:38.480 --> 00:31:39.759
 How does this affect me?

00:31:40.139 --> 00:31:41.240
 Problem of selfishness.

00:31:42.980 --> 00:31:44.059
 And so that's why

00:31:44.059 --> 00:31:44.759
 the text,

00:31:44.960 --> 00:31:45.879
 I have to watch my time,

00:31:45.980 --> 00:31:46.500
 the text

00:31:46.500 --> 00:31:48.359
 is so wise.

00:31:50.119 --> 00:31:51.259
 It sets before us

00:31:51.259 --> 00:31:52.240
 an exhortation

00:31:52.240 --> 00:31:53.259
 that's voluntary

00:31:53.259 --> 00:31:55.400
 that means

00:31:55.400 --> 00:31:55.980
 that the husband

00:31:55.980 --> 00:31:56.460
 and the wife

00:31:56.460 --> 00:31:57.619
 do it with eyes

00:31:57.619 --> 00:31:58.359
 wide open

00:31:58.359 --> 00:31:59.819
 in light of the reality

00:31:59.819 --> 00:32:00.819
 of the other person.

00:32:00.980 --> 00:32:02.259
 There's still an exhortation

00:32:02.259 --> 00:32:02.819
 to deal with

00:32:02.819 --> 00:32:03.519
 their own sin,

00:32:03.599 --> 00:32:04.559
 their own selfishness,

00:32:04.920 --> 00:32:06.099
 their own self-centeredness.

00:32:06.279 --> 00:32:07.180
 And it's also

00:32:07.180 --> 00:32:08.660
 very wise

00:32:08.660 --> 00:32:09.539
 because everything

00:32:09.539 --> 00:32:10.319
 is cast

00:32:10.319 --> 00:32:11.160
 within the reality

00:32:11.160 --> 00:32:11.779
 of the fact

00:32:11.779 --> 00:32:12.759
 that Jesus died

00:32:12.759 --> 00:32:13.380
 on the cross

00:32:13.380 --> 00:32:14.019
 for sinners.

00:32:14.019 --> 00:32:14.160
 sinners.

00:32:18.379 --> 00:32:19.039
 And that's

00:32:19.039 --> 00:32:19.400
 what brings

00:32:19.400 --> 00:32:20.180
 to the third thing.

00:32:20.379 --> 00:32:21.000
 It's not just

00:32:21.000 --> 00:32:21.440
 in light of

00:32:21.440 --> 00:32:22.019
 the true nature

00:32:22.019 --> 00:32:22.440
 of love,

00:32:22.519 --> 00:32:23.160
 the true problem

00:32:23.160 --> 00:32:23.559
 of sin,

00:32:23.619 --> 00:32:24.379
 but the enduring

00:32:24.379 --> 00:32:25.740
 truth of the gospel.

00:32:25.879 --> 00:32:26.099
 You see,

00:32:26.160 --> 00:32:26.619
 one of the things

00:32:26.619 --> 00:32:27.559
 which is so wonderful

00:32:27.559 --> 00:32:28.359
 about the text

00:32:28.359 --> 00:32:29.019
 is if you think

00:32:29.019 --> 00:32:29.500
 about it,

00:32:30.299 --> 00:32:30.920
 the husband

00:32:30.920 --> 00:32:31.720
 and the wife

00:32:31.720 --> 00:32:32.400
 together

00:32:32.400 --> 00:32:34.539
 show the beauty

00:32:34.539 --> 00:32:35.319
 of the gospel.

00:32:36.779 --> 00:32:37.619
 It's not just

00:32:37.619 --> 00:32:38.319
 that the husband

00:32:38.319 --> 00:32:39.019
 shows the beauty

00:32:39.019 --> 00:32:39.539
 of the gospel

00:32:39.539 --> 00:32:39.980
 and the wife

00:32:39.980 --> 00:32:40.339
 doesn't,

00:32:40.400 --> 00:32:40.839
 or the wife

00:32:40.839 --> 00:32:41.420
 shows the beauty

00:32:41.420 --> 00:32:41.960
 of the gospel

00:32:41.960 --> 00:32:42.539
 and the husband

00:32:42.539 --> 00:32:43.019
 doesn't.

00:32:43.399 --> 00:32:43.920
 It shows

00:32:43.920 --> 00:32:44.579
 that in a good

00:32:44.579 --> 00:32:44.960
 marriage,

00:32:45.019 --> 00:32:45.899
 a godly marriage,

00:32:45.899 --> 00:32:47.420
 it takes a husband

00:32:47.420 --> 00:32:48.639
 and wife together

00:32:48.639 --> 00:32:49.980
 so the beauty

00:32:49.980 --> 00:32:50.659
 and the power

00:32:50.659 --> 00:32:51.420
 of the gospel

00:32:51.420 --> 00:32:51.879
 is seen.

00:32:52.000 --> 00:32:52.779
 How does that work?

00:32:52.859 --> 00:32:52.960
 Well,

00:32:52.980 --> 00:32:53.500
 think about what

00:32:53.500 --> 00:32:54.379
 the gospel teaches.

00:32:54.500 --> 00:32:55.099
 What does the gospel

00:32:55.099 --> 00:32:55.519
 teach?

00:32:55.799 --> 00:32:56.799
 The gospel teaches

00:32:56.799 --> 00:32:57.200
 this,

00:32:58.539 --> 00:32:59.259
 that God

00:32:59.259 --> 00:33:00.920
 the Father,

00:33:01.079 --> 00:33:01.819
 God the Son,

00:33:01.940 --> 00:33:03.039
 God the Holy Spirit,

00:33:03.500 --> 00:33:04.279
 three persons,

00:33:04.440 --> 00:33:05.000
 one God

00:33:05.000 --> 00:33:06.099
 from all eternity,

00:33:06.819 --> 00:33:08.500
 they see human beings

00:33:08.500 --> 00:33:10.139
 made in the image

00:33:10.139 --> 00:33:10.700
 of God

00:33:10.700 --> 00:33:11.379
 and they see

00:33:11.379 --> 00:33:11.839
 that we have

00:33:11.839 --> 00:33:12.439
 made ourselves

00:33:12.439 --> 00:33:14.379
 the center,

00:33:14.859 --> 00:33:15.599
 we have made

00:33:15.599 --> 00:33:16.699
 ourselves selfish,

00:33:17.240 --> 00:33:18.220
 we now turn

00:33:18.220 --> 00:33:18.980
 from each other,

00:33:19.059 --> 00:33:20.099
 we turn from God,

00:33:20.259 --> 00:33:21.339
 we turn from the

00:33:21.339 --> 00:33:22.019
 created order,

00:33:22.439 --> 00:33:23.399
 there's this problem

00:33:23.399 --> 00:33:24.359
 of being bent

00:33:24.359 --> 00:33:25.720
 away from the good

00:33:25.720 --> 00:33:26.619
 that's at the center

00:33:26.619 --> 00:33:27.339
 of every single

00:33:27.339 --> 00:33:27.879
 human being

00:33:27.879 --> 00:33:28.599
 and human beings

00:33:28.599 --> 00:33:29.319
 cannot save

00:33:29.319 --> 00:33:29.839
 themselves

00:33:29.839 --> 00:33:31.179
 and so God

00:33:31.179 --> 00:33:31.799
 the Father

00:33:31.799 --> 00:33:32.699
 says to God

00:33:32.699 --> 00:33:33.199
 the Son

00:33:33.199 --> 00:33:34.539
 in a sense,

00:33:35.099 --> 00:33:35.980
 the only way

00:33:35.980 --> 00:33:36.939
 to save them

00:33:36.940 --> 00:33:39.460
 is to have

00:33:39.460 --> 00:33:40.059
 you

00:33:40.059 --> 00:33:41.660
 enter into

00:33:41.660 --> 00:33:42.400
 that world

00:33:42.400 --> 00:33:43.279
 and become

00:33:43.279 --> 00:33:44.340
 as one of them

00:33:44.340 --> 00:33:44.900
 and die

00:33:44.900 --> 00:33:45.940
 in their place

00:33:45.940 --> 00:33:48.820
 and so God

00:33:48.820 --> 00:33:49.420
 the Son

00:33:49.420 --> 00:33:51.140
 in submission

00:33:51.140 --> 00:33:52.140
 to his Father

00:33:52.140 --> 00:33:55.059
 sets aside

00:33:55.059 --> 00:33:56.100
 his divine glory,

00:33:56.259 --> 00:33:57.519
 his divine prerogatives,

00:33:58.080 --> 00:33:59.120
 his appearance

00:33:59.120 --> 00:34:00.279
 as God,

00:34:00.580 --> 00:34:01.580
 his majesty,

00:34:01.579 --> 00:34:02.679
 he sets

00:34:02.679 --> 00:34:03.439
 all of these

00:34:03.439 --> 00:34:04.359
 things aside,

00:34:04.359 --> 00:34:05.679
 the honor

00:34:05.679 --> 00:34:06.299
 and the glory

00:34:06.299 --> 00:34:06.980
 and the worth

00:34:06.980 --> 00:34:08.900
 that he is owed

00:34:08.900 --> 00:34:09.539
 as God,

00:34:09.619 --> 00:34:10.299
 the Son of God,

00:34:10.360 --> 00:34:11.059
 he sets them all

00:34:11.059 --> 00:34:11.619
 aside

00:34:11.619 --> 00:34:12.659
 and being

00:34:12.659 --> 00:34:15.059
 still remaining

00:34:15.059 --> 00:34:15.960
 fully God,

00:34:16.299 --> 00:34:17.619
 he humbles himself

00:34:17.619 --> 00:34:18.340
 and submits

00:34:18.340 --> 00:34:19.059
 to the demands

00:34:19.059 --> 00:34:19.519
 of love,

00:34:19.659 --> 00:34:20.179
 submits to the

00:34:20.179 --> 00:34:20.500
 Father,

00:34:20.719 --> 00:34:22.420
 submits to the need

00:34:22.420 --> 00:34:23.380
 of fallen human

00:34:23.380 --> 00:34:24.139
 beings like you

00:34:24.139 --> 00:34:24.519
 and me

00:34:24.519 --> 00:34:25.860
 and enters

00:34:25.860 --> 00:34:27.239
 the human story

00:34:27.239 --> 00:34:28.279
 as a zygote

00:34:28.280 --> 00:34:29.100
 in the womb

00:34:29.100 --> 00:34:29.580
 of Mary.

00:34:30.800 --> 00:34:31.360
 Submission.

00:34:31.760 --> 00:34:32.420
 No gospel

00:34:32.420 --> 00:34:33.220
 without submission.

00:34:34.680 --> 00:34:35.460
 And how does

00:34:35.460 --> 00:34:36.420
 the gospel continue?

00:34:37.000 --> 00:34:37.820
 The gospel

00:34:37.820 --> 00:34:38.640
 isn't all about

00:34:38.640 --> 00:34:39.400
 just the submission

00:34:39.400 --> 00:34:40.120
 of the Son

00:34:40.120 --> 00:34:40.960
 to the demands

00:34:40.960 --> 00:34:41.320
 of love

00:34:41.320 --> 00:34:42.019
 and to the Father

00:34:42.019 --> 00:34:43.040
 because there's

00:34:43.040 --> 00:34:43.740
 no gospel

00:34:43.740 --> 00:34:44.580
 without the Son

00:34:44.580 --> 00:34:45.800
 of God's

00:34:45.800 --> 00:34:47.240
 dying upon

00:34:47.240 --> 00:34:47.860
 the cross.

00:34:51.580 --> 00:34:52.640
 And so Jesus

00:34:52.640 --> 00:34:53.700
 lives a sinless

00:34:53.700 --> 00:34:54.140
 life,

00:34:54.340 --> 00:34:54.820
 miracles,

00:34:55.019 --> 00:34:55.380
 teachings,

00:34:55.560 --> 00:34:56.180
 sinless life

00:34:56.180 --> 00:34:56.880
 and dies upon

00:34:56.880 --> 00:34:57.460
 the cross.

00:34:58.280 --> 00:34:59.780
 So that you

00:34:59.780 --> 00:35:00.240
 and I

00:35:00.240 --> 00:35:01.900
 can be made

00:35:01.900 --> 00:35:02.700
 right with God

00:35:02.700 --> 00:35:03.340
 when we put

00:35:03.340 --> 00:35:03.720
 our faith

00:35:03.720 --> 00:35:04.120
 and trust

00:35:04.120 --> 00:35:04.519
 in him.

00:35:05.120 --> 00:35:06.080
 And we see

00:35:06.080 --> 00:35:07.780
 in Ephesians 5

00:35:07.780 --> 00:35:09.500
 not just

00:35:09.500 --> 00:35:10.880
 that the Bible

00:35:10.880 --> 00:35:11.960
 is giving advice

00:35:11.960 --> 00:35:12.720
 around the true

00:35:12.720 --> 00:35:13.740
 nature of love

00:35:13.740 --> 00:35:15.220
 that when we

00:35:15.220 --> 00:35:15.800
 think about it

00:35:15.800 --> 00:35:16.460
 we understand

00:35:16.460 --> 00:35:16.900
 that that's

00:35:16.900 --> 00:35:17.460
 the true nature

00:35:17.460 --> 00:35:17.820
 of love

00:35:17.820 --> 00:35:18.400
 and it's

00:35:18.400 --> 00:35:19.580
 giving exhortations

00:35:19.580 --> 00:35:20.160
 in light of

00:35:20.160 --> 00:35:20.660
 the true

00:35:20.660 --> 00:35:21.840
 problem of sin

00:35:21.840 --> 00:35:23.140
 which we all

00:35:23.140 --> 00:35:23.880
 realize there is

00:35:23.880 --> 00:35:24.440
 a true problem

00:35:24.440 --> 00:35:24.920
 of sin

00:35:24.920 --> 00:35:26.180
 and we as Christians

00:35:26.180 --> 00:35:27.080
 but not necessarily

00:35:27.080 --> 00:35:27.560
 the world

00:35:27.559 --> 00:35:28.759
 we also understand

00:35:28.759 --> 00:35:29.519
 that the entire

00:35:29.519 --> 00:35:30.619
 advice is shaped

00:35:30.619 --> 00:35:31.880
 within such a way

00:35:31.880 --> 00:35:33.360
 that in a good

00:35:33.360 --> 00:35:34.340
 marriage the husband

00:35:34.340 --> 00:35:35.279
 and wife together

00:35:35.279 --> 00:35:37.219
 make the gospel

00:35:37.219 --> 00:35:39.119
 beautiful.

00:35:42.559 --> 00:35:44.000
 Make the gospel

00:35:44.000 --> 00:35:44.900
 beautiful

00:35:44.900 --> 00:35:46.799
 to a fallen world.

00:35:50.799 --> 00:35:52.119
 Need to wrap it up.

00:35:52.119 --> 00:35:56.359
 verse 33

00:35:56.359 --> 00:36:02.119
 however let each

00:36:02.119 --> 00:36:02.500
 one of you

00:36:02.500 --> 00:36:03.119
 love his wife

00:36:03.119 --> 00:36:03.699
 as himself

00:36:03.699 --> 00:36:04.420
 and let the wife

00:36:04.420 --> 00:36:04.980
 see that she

00:36:04.980 --> 00:36:05.960
 respects her husband.

00:36:07.039 --> 00:36:07.460
 So I just want

00:36:07.460 --> 00:36:08.039
 to try to

00:36:08.039 --> 00:36:09.400
 bring it up

00:36:09.400 --> 00:36:09.859
 to a

00:36:09.859 --> 00:36:11.779
 final point

00:36:11.779 --> 00:36:12.279
 I think

00:36:12.279 --> 00:36:12.960
 I'm going to

00:36:12.960 --> 00:36:13.440
 just skip

00:36:13.440 --> 00:36:14.480
 through some

00:36:14.480 --> 00:36:15.239
 things here

00:36:15.239 --> 00:36:16.900
 you can look

00:36:16.900 --> 00:36:17.559
 it up online

00:36:17.559 --> 00:36:20.840
 some final

00:36:20.840 --> 00:36:21.320
 things

00:36:21.320 --> 00:36:22.239
 it's very

00:36:22.239 --> 00:36:22.619
 interesting

00:36:22.619 --> 00:36:23.500
 in this text

00:36:23.500 --> 00:36:25.059
 there's two

00:36:25.059 --> 00:36:25.759
 exhortations

00:36:25.759 --> 00:36:26.579
 given to women

00:36:26.579 --> 00:36:27.519
 the wives

00:36:27.519 --> 00:36:27.860
 and two

00:36:27.860 --> 00:36:28.480
 exhortations

00:36:28.480 --> 00:36:29.039
 given to the

00:36:29.039 --> 00:36:29.360
 husbands

00:36:29.360 --> 00:36:30.360
 and they're

00:36:30.360 --> 00:36:31.059
 not the same

00:36:31.059 --> 00:36:32.699
 and so

00:36:32.699 --> 00:36:34.880
 for those

00:36:34.880 --> 00:36:35.579
 women who

00:36:35.579 --> 00:36:36.019
 are married

00:36:36.019 --> 00:36:36.579
 here in the

00:36:36.579 --> 00:36:36.779
 room

00:36:36.779 --> 00:36:39.699
 the exhortations

00:36:39.699 --> 00:36:40.119
 that are given

00:36:40.119 --> 00:36:40.619
 to you

00:36:40.619 --> 00:36:43.000
 is to

00:36:43.000 --> 00:36:43.380
 submit

00:36:43.380 --> 00:36:44.079
 to your

00:36:44.079 --> 00:36:44.500
 husband

00:36:44.500 --> 00:36:46.519
 and to

00:36:46.519 --> 00:36:46.980
 respect

00:36:46.980 --> 00:36:47.260
 him

00:36:47.260 --> 00:36:51.099
 and

00:36:51.099 --> 00:36:52.599
 for some

00:36:52.599 --> 00:36:53.019
 of you

00:36:53.019 --> 00:36:53.719
 that's going

00:36:53.719 --> 00:36:54.079
 to be very

00:36:54.079 --> 00:36:54.519
 hard

00:36:54.519 --> 00:36:55.139
 maybe for

00:36:55.139 --> 00:36:55.679
 issues in

00:36:55.679 --> 00:36:56.219
 your past

00:36:56.219 --> 00:36:56.739
 some of you

00:36:56.739 --> 00:36:57.239
 it's because

00:36:57.239 --> 00:36:57.960
 your husband

00:36:57.960 --> 00:36:58.519
 isn't maybe

00:36:58.519 --> 00:36:59.880
 acting very

00:36:59.880 --> 00:37:00.780
 well right

00:37:00.780 --> 00:37:01.079
 now

00:37:01.079 --> 00:37:02.619
 but the

00:37:02.619 --> 00:37:03.500
 task that's

00:37:03.500 --> 00:37:04.000
 given to you

00:37:04.000 --> 00:37:04.460
 is to learn

00:37:04.460 --> 00:37:04.800
 how to

00:37:04.800 --> 00:37:05.099
 submit

00:37:05.099 --> 00:37:05.480
 and to learn

00:37:05.480 --> 00:37:05.780
 how to

00:37:05.780 --> 00:37:06.119
 respect

00:37:06.119 --> 00:37:07.039
 and one

00:37:07.039 --> 00:37:07.320
 of my

00:37:07.320 --> 00:37:07.960
 pieces of

00:37:07.960 --> 00:37:08.639
 advice to

00:37:08.639 --> 00:37:09.059
 you would

00:37:09.059 --> 00:37:09.500
 be that

00:37:09.500 --> 00:37:10.000
 next time

00:37:10.000 --> 00:37:10.320
 you give

00:37:10.320 --> 00:37:10.800
 your husband

00:37:10.800 --> 00:37:11.340
 a card

00:37:11.340 --> 00:37:12.099
 don't say

00:37:12.099 --> 00:37:12.480
 on it

00:37:12.480 --> 00:37:12.980
 I love

00:37:12.980 --> 00:37:13.139
 you

00:37:13.139 --> 00:37:13.539
 but say

00:37:13.539 --> 00:37:13.800
 on it

00:37:13.800 --> 00:37:14.260
 I respect

00:37:14.260 --> 00:37:14.620
 you

00:37:14.620 --> 00:37:17.540
 I don't

00:37:17.540 --> 00:37:17.840
 know why

00:37:17.840 --> 00:37:18.200
 the Bible

00:37:18.200 --> 00:37:18.700
 says that

00:37:18.700 --> 00:37:19.120
 rather than

00:37:19.120 --> 00:37:19.580
 something else

00:37:19.580 --> 00:37:19.900
 but that's

00:37:19.900 --> 00:37:20.340
 what the Bible

00:37:20.340 --> 00:37:20.840
 says

00:37:20.840 --> 00:37:25.620
 say I

00:37:25.620 --> 00:37:26.080
 respect

00:37:26.080 --> 00:37:26.340
 you

00:37:26.340 --> 00:37:27.740
 and maybe

00:37:27.740 --> 00:37:28.340
 rather than

00:37:28.340 --> 00:37:28.680
 saying the

00:37:28.680 --> 00:37:29.160
 different ways

00:37:29.160 --> 00:37:29.360
 that you

00:37:29.360 --> 00:37:29.640
 love him

00:37:29.640 --> 00:37:30.040
 say these

00:37:30.040 --> 00:37:30.220
 are the

00:37:30.220 --> 00:37:30.580
 ways I

00:37:30.580 --> 00:37:31.060
 respect

00:37:31.060 --> 00:37:31.360
 you

00:37:31.360 --> 00:37:34.640
 and for

00:37:34.640 --> 00:37:35.080
 husbands

00:37:35.080 --> 00:37:36.400
 who are

00:37:36.400 --> 00:37:36.700
 here

00:37:36.700 --> 00:37:38.160
 there's two

00:37:38.160 --> 00:37:38.520
 different

00:37:38.520 --> 00:37:39.000
 commands

00:37:39.000 --> 00:37:39.480
 in this

00:37:39.480 --> 00:37:39.740
 text

00:37:39.740 --> 00:37:39.980
 you go

00:37:39.980 --> 00:37:40.240
 back

00:37:40.240 --> 00:37:40.420
 and you

00:37:40.420 --> 00:37:40.560
 look

00:37:40.560 --> 00:37:40.780
 there's

00:37:40.780 --> 00:37:40.960
 two

00:37:40.960 --> 00:37:41.520
 imperatives

00:37:41.520 --> 00:37:41.820
 in the

00:37:41.820 --> 00:37:42.180
 text

00:37:42.180 --> 00:37:43.100
 given to

00:37:43.100 --> 00:37:43.280
 men

00:37:43.280 --> 00:37:43.620
 different

00:37:43.619 --> 00:37:44.019
 than the

00:37:44.019 --> 00:37:44.259
 ones

00:37:44.259 --> 00:37:44.480
 that are

00:37:44.480 --> 00:37:44.699
 given

00:37:44.699 --> 00:37:45.339
 to

00:37:45.339 --> 00:37:45.460
 the

00:37:45.460 --> 00:37:45.799
 wives

00:37:45.799 --> 00:37:46.059
 the

00:37:46.059 --> 00:37:46.380
 two

00:37:46.380 --> 00:37:47.000
 imperatives

00:37:47.000 --> 00:37:47.319
 given

00:37:47.319 --> 00:37:47.519
 to

00:37:47.519 --> 00:37:48.239
 husbands

00:37:48.239 --> 00:37:48.559
 is

00:37:48.559 --> 00:37:48.859
 this

00:37:48.859 --> 00:37:50.099
 agape

00:37:50.099 --> 00:37:50.619
 love

00:37:50.619 --> 00:37:51.460
 that's a

00:37:51.460 --> 00:37:52.119
 self-giving

00:37:52.119 --> 00:37:52.639
 putting the

00:37:52.639 --> 00:37:53.239
 other first

00:37:53.239 --> 00:37:53.839
 seeking the

00:37:53.839 --> 00:37:54.259
 true good

00:37:54.259 --> 00:37:54.519
 of the

00:37:54.519 --> 00:37:54.799
 other

00:37:54.799 --> 00:37:55.659
 agape

00:37:55.659 --> 00:37:56.219
 love your

00:37:56.219 --> 00:37:56.500
 wife

00:37:56.500 --> 00:37:56.799
 to the

00:37:56.799 --> 00:37:57.219
 point of

00:37:57.219 --> 00:37:57.639
 being willing

00:37:57.639 --> 00:37:58.039
 to set

00:37:58.039 --> 00:37:58.440
 aside

00:37:58.440 --> 00:37:59.179
 your power

00:37:59.179 --> 00:37:59.579
 and your

00:37:59.579 --> 00:38:00.079
 prerogatives

00:38:00.079 --> 00:38:00.400
 and your

00:38:00.400 --> 00:38:00.859
 agendas

00:38:00.859 --> 00:38:01.359
 and so

00:38:01.359 --> 00:38:01.819
 love your

00:38:01.819 --> 00:38:02.159
 wife

00:38:02.159 --> 00:38:02.739
 and that

00:38:02.739 --> 00:38:03.139
 obviously

00:38:03.139 --> 00:38:04.019
 also includes

00:38:04.019 --> 00:38:04.679
 love as

00:38:04.679 --> 00:38:05.119
 affection

00:38:05.119 --> 00:38:05.839
 and it

00:38:05.839 --> 00:38:06.339
 is very

00:38:06.339 --> 00:38:06.980
 appropriate

00:38:06.980 --> 00:38:08.039
 husbands

00:38:08.039 --> 00:38:08.519
 that if you

00:38:08.519 --> 00:38:09.039
 write a card

00:38:09.039 --> 00:38:09.400
 for your

00:38:09.400 --> 00:38:09.619
 wife

00:38:09.619 --> 00:38:10.039
 don't say

00:38:10.039 --> 00:38:10.659
 I respect

00:38:10.659 --> 00:38:10.880
 you

00:38:10.880 --> 00:38:11.179
 say I

00:38:11.179 --> 00:38:11.400
 love

00:38:11.400 --> 00:38:11.639
 you

00:38:11.639 --> 00:38:14.219
 and to

00:38:14.219 --> 00:38:14.679
 figure out

00:38:14.679 --> 00:38:14.900
 in the

00:38:14.900 --> 00:38:15.219
 light of

00:38:15.219 --> 00:38:15.340
 your

00:38:15.340 --> 00:38:15.739
 marriage

00:38:15.739 --> 00:38:16.199
 how it

00:38:16.199 --> 00:38:16.579
 is that

00:38:16.579 --> 00:38:16.779
 you were

00:38:16.779 --> 00:38:17.059
 to put

00:38:17.059 --> 00:38:17.659
 such love

00:38:17.659 --> 00:38:18.239
 into practice

00:38:18.239 --> 00:38:18.619
 for your

00:38:18.619 --> 00:38:18.980
 wife

00:38:18.980 --> 00:38:20.719
 and the

00:38:20.719 --> 00:38:21.199
 other thing

00:38:21.199 --> 00:38:21.480
 and this

00:38:21.480 --> 00:38:21.739
 is a

00:38:21.739 --> 00:38:22.099
 mystery

00:38:22.099 --> 00:38:22.480
 and I

00:38:22.480 --> 00:38:22.820
 don't have

00:38:22.820 --> 00:38:23.179
 time to

00:38:23.179 --> 00:38:23.519
 go into

00:38:23.519 --> 00:38:23.880
 it but it

00:38:23.880 --> 00:38:24.179
 must be

00:38:24.179 --> 00:38:24.860
 very important

00:38:24.860 --> 00:38:25.380
 because it's

00:38:25.380 --> 00:38:25.779
 in Genesis

00:38:25.779 --> 00:38:26.559
 chapter 2

00:38:26.559 --> 00:38:27.739
 Jesus quotes

00:38:27.739 --> 00:38:28.139
 it Paul

00:38:28.139 --> 00:38:28.659
 quotes it

00:38:28.659 --> 00:38:28.920
 it's in

00:38:28.920 --> 00:38:29.539
 several parts

00:38:29.539 --> 00:38:29.739
 of the

00:38:29.739 --> 00:38:30.039
 Bible

00:38:30.039 --> 00:38:30.800
 is that

00:38:30.800 --> 00:38:31.800
 guys who

00:38:31.800 --> 00:38:32.300
 are married

00:38:32.300 --> 00:38:32.940
 you need

00:38:32.940 --> 00:38:33.420
 to learn

00:38:33.420 --> 00:38:33.980
 to set

00:38:33.980 --> 00:38:34.639
 aside and

00:38:34.639 --> 00:38:35.199
 leave your

00:38:35.199 --> 00:38:36.019
 your mother

00:38:36.019 --> 00:38:36.699
 and father

00:38:36.699 --> 00:38:38.379
 your task

00:38:38.379 --> 00:38:38.719
 is to

00:38:38.719 --> 00:38:39.159
 leave your

00:38:39.159 --> 00:38:39.379
 mother

00:38:39.379 --> 00:38:39.980
 and father

00:38:39.980 --> 00:38:42.480
 and live

00:38:42.480 --> 00:38:42.799
 with your

00:38:42.799 --> 00:38:43.239
 wife in

00:38:43.239 --> 00:38:43.679
 such a

00:38:43.679 --> 00:38:43.919
 way

00:38:43.919 --> 00:38:45.379
 that you

00:38:45.379 --> 00:38:45.939
 unite and

00:38:45.939 --> 00:38:46.359
 relate to

00:38:46.359 --> 00:38:46.599
 her

00:38:46.599 --> 00:38:47.339
 to move

00:38:47.339 --> 00:38:47.659
 towards

00:38:47.659 --> 00:38:48.379
 one flesh

00:38:48.379 --> 00:38:50.099
 that's your

00:38:50.099 --> 00:38:50.919
 task guys

00:38:50.919 --> 00:38:51.659
 that's my

00:38:51.659 --> 00:38:52.179
 task

00:38:52.179 --> 00:38:53.679
 to be

00:38:53.679 --> 00:38:54.079
 willing to

00:38:54.079 --> 00:38:54.539
 love my

00:38:54.539 --> 00:38:55.119
 wife Louise

00:38:55.119 --> 00:38:56.779
 to learn

00:38:56.779 --> 00:38:57.399
 that I

00:38:57.399 --> 00:38:57.799
 to be

00:38:57.799 --> 00:38:58.299
 challenged

00:38:58.299 --> 00:38:59.099
 to continually

00:38:59.099 --> 00:38:59.639
 love my

00:38:59.639 --> 00:39:00.059
 wife in

00:39:00.059 --> 00:39:00.439
 such a way

00:39:00.439 --> 00:39:00.639
 that I'm

00:39:00.639 --> 00:39:00.960
 willing to

00:39:00.960 --> 00:39:01.359
 die for

00:39:01.359 --> 00:39:01.579
 her

00:39:01.579 --> 00:39:03.119
 and understand

00:39:03.119 --> 00:39:03.819
 the mystery

00:39:03.819 --> 00:39:04.239
 of what it

00:39:04.239 --> 00:39:04.739
 means to

00:39:04.739 --> 00:39:05.179
 leave my

00:39:05.179 --> 00:39:05.619
 mother and

00:39:05.619 --> 00:39:06.500
 father behind

00:39:06.500 --> 00:39:08.280
 to pursue

00:39:08.280 --> 00:39:08.820
 being one

00:39:08.820 --> 00:39:09.519
 flesh with

00:39:09.519 --> 00:39:09.820
 her

00:39:09.820 --> 00:39:11.840
 that's the

00:39:11.840 --> 00:39:12.340
 task

00:39:12.340 --> 00:39:14.119
 singles

00:39:14.119 --> 00:39:15.519
 you get to

00:39:15.519 --> 00:39:16.199
 listen in on

00:39:16.199 --> 00:39:16.760
 an odd

00:39:16.760 --> 00:39:17.199
 sermon

00:39:17.199 --> 00:39:19.599
 all I can

00:39:19.599 --> 00:39:20.179
 tell you is

00:39:20.179 --> 00:39:20.519
 you've gotten

00:39:20.519 --> 00:39:21.039
 some advice

00:39:21.039 --> 00:39:21.599
 about how to

00:39:21.599 --> 00:39:22.219
 pray for your

00:39:22.219 --> 00:39:23.099
 married friends

00:39:23.099 --> 00:39:25.880
 please stand

00:39:25.880 --> 00:39:31.940
 one of the

00:39:31.940 --> 00:39:32.440
 things which I

00:39:32.440 --> 00:39:32.940
 didn't mention

00:39:32.940 --> 00:39:33.280
 in this

00:39:33.280 --> 00:39:33.599
 sermon

00:39:33.599 --> 00:39:34.500
 I'm going to

00:39:34.500 --> 00:39:34.880
 mention it

00:39:34.880 --> 00:39:35.159
 right now

00:39:35.159 --> 00:39:35.639
 which is still

00:39:35.639 --> 00:39:36.420
 technically part of

00:39:36.420 --> 00:39:36.840
 the sermon

00:39:36.840 --> 00:39:38.619
 is if you go

00:39:38.619 --> 00:39:39.200
 back and you

00:39:39.200 --> 00:39:40.220
 read verses

00:39:40.220 --> 00:39:42.099
 chapter 5

00:39:42.099 --> 00:39:42.780
 verse 15

00:39:42.780 --> 00:39:43.240
 to 21

00:39:43.240 --> 00:39:43.760
 that long

00:39:43.760 --> 00:39:44.300
 sentence

00:39:44.300 --> 00:39:44.740
 and the

00:39:44.740 --> 00:39:45.440
 sort of the

00:39:45.440 --> 00:39:46.400
 governing verse

00:39:46.400 --> 00:39:47.300
 is walk in

00:39:47.300 --> 00:39:47.680
 love

00:39:47.680 --> 00:39:49.440
 and then

00:39:49.440 --> 00:39:50.180
 but the more

00:39:50.180 --> 00:39:51.039
 specific thing

00:39:51.039 --> 00:39:51.840
 that governs

00:39:51.840 --> 00:39:52.800
 the next little

00:39:52.800 --> 00:39:54.000
 bit and governs

00:39:54.000 --> 00:39:54.460
 the rest of the

00:39:54.460 --> 00:39:55.159
 text is that we

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 are to learn to

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 live in the

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 spirit

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 and the fact

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 of the matter

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 is both

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 husbands and

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 wives and

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 for singles

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 who have the

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 task of living

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 as a single

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 life to the

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 glory of God

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 is the

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 wonderful thing

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 about marriage

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 for us as

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 Christians

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 isn't that there's

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 somehow on one

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 level something

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 different for

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 Christian marriage

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 than non-Christian

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 marriage

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 marriage was

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 instituted by

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 God before the

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 fall it's woven

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 into the created

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 order it's part of

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 how all marriages

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 are to work

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 it's why many

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 non-Christian

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 marriages are

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 better than

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 Christian marriages

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 because marriage

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 is integral to

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 the way man

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 and woman

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 male and female

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 were created

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 and it's just

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 there but the

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 thing which is

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 specifically helpful

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 for us is not

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 just that we

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 look to the

00:40:36.579 --> 00:40:37.960
 gospel to

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 shape how we

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 live our lives

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 and to shape

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 our imagination

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 and to shape

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 the healing of

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 our memory

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 and the healing

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 of our wounds

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 but to also

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 understand that we

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 don't do our

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 marriage alone

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 that for you

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 and me who

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 are in Jesus

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 we dwell in the

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 Holy Spirit

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 and God in

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 particular

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 joins us to

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 call upon the

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 help of the

00:40:58.599 --> 00:40:59.300
 Holy Spirit

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 to figure out

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 how to live

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 and embody

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 these exhortations

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 in the real

00:41:04.659 --> 00:41:05.579
 context of our

00:41:05.579 --> 00:41:06.279
 own marriage

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 how to repent

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 and what to

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 pursue

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 let's pray

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 Father if there

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 are any here

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 who have not

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 yet given

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 their lives

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 to Jesus

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 I ask that

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 you would

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 make the

00:41:18.179 --> 00:41:18.899
 gospel more

00:41:18.899 --> 00:41:19.500
 beautiful and

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 more real to

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 them and move

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 in their hearts

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 that they would

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 give their lives

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 to Jesus

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 even today

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 Father for

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 those of us

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 who are here

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 who are not

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 in marriage

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 we bless you

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 for them

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 we ask that

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 the Holy Spirit

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 would move in a

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 mighty and

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 powerful way

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 in the midst

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 of their singleness

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 that their life

00:41:36.599 --> 00:41:37.219
 as a single

00:41:37.219 --> 00:41:38.379
 person would be

00:41:38.379 --> 00:41:39.239
 lived in such a

00:41:39.239 --> 00:41:39.739
 way that the

00:41:39.739 --> 00:41:40.519
 gospel is made

00:41:40.519 --> 00:41:41.000
 beautiful

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 that they come

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 closer and

00:41:43.420 --> 00:41:44.359
 closer to Jesus

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 that they are

00:41:45.000 --> 00:41:45.859
 filled more and

00:41:45.859 --> 00:41:46.639
 more by the Holy

00:41:46.639 --> 00:41:48.019
 Spirit and know

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 the integrity

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 that they have

00:41:50.039 --> 00:41:50.679
 as a single

00:41:50.679 --> 00:41:51.399
 made in your

00:41:51.399 --> 00:41:51.920
 image and

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 redeemed by

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 Jesus and your

00:41:53.279 --> 00:41:53.859
 child by

00:41:53.859 --> 00:41:54.500
 adoption and

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 grace

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 and Father for

00:41:55.899 --> 00:41:56.519
 those of us

00:41:56.519 --> 00:41:57.139
 who are husbands

00:41:57.139 --> 00:41:57.699
 and wives

00:41:57.699 --> 00:41:58.320
 we ask that

00:41:58.320 --> 00:41:59.059
 the Holy Spirit

00:41:59.059 --> 00:41:59.699
 would move with

00:41:59.699 --> 00:42:00.420
 might and power

00:42:00.420 --> 00:42:01.239
 and deep conviction

00:42:01.239 --> 00:42:02.559
 in our marriage

00:42:02.559 --> 00:42:03.480
 that you would

00:42:03.480 --> 00:42:04.420
 help us Father

00:42:04.420 --> 00:42:05.079
 to remember

00:42:05.079 --> 00:42:06.280
 these exhortations

00:42:06.280 --> 00:42:06.940
 and that you

00:42:06.940 --> 00:42:08.019
 would fan into

00:42:08.019 --> 00:42:08.739
 flame within us

00:42:08.739 --> 00:42:09.440
 a longing and

00:42:09.440 --> 00:42:10.019
 yearning to be

00:42:10.019 --> 00:42:10.780
 so gripped by

00:42:10.780 --> 00:42:11.380
 the gospel

00:42:11.380 --> 00:42:12.179
 that we seek

00:42:12.179 --> 00:42:12.940
 to pursue

00:42:12.940 --> 00:42:14.059
 that which you

00:42:14.059 --> 00:42:14.920
 exhort us to

00:42:14.920 --> 00:42:16.300
 seek and that

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 we would be

00:42:16.759 --> 00:42:17.539
 willing to repent

00:42:17.539 --> 00:42:18.340
 of those things

00:42:18.340 --> 00:42:18.820
 that we need

00:42:18.820 --> 00:42:19.539
 to repent of

00:42:19.539 --> 00:42:20.259
 that our

00:42:20.259 --> 00:42:21.360
 marriages Father

00:42:21.360 --> 00:42:21.780
 that our

00:42:21.780 --> 00:42:22.719
 individual lives

00:42:22.719 --> 00:42:23.039
 and our

00:42:23.039 --> 00:42:23.840
 marriages might

00:42:23.840 --> 00:42:24.800
 make the gospel

00:42:24.800 --> 00:42:25.440
 beautiful

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 Father that

00:42:26.860 --> 00:42:27.260
 is our

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 prayer

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 and we

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 ask this in

00:42:29.460 --> 00:42:29.940
 the name of

00:42:29.940 --> 00:42:31.000
 Jesus and

00:42:31.000 --> 00:42:31.599
 all God's

00:42:31.599 --> 00:42:32.320
 people said

00:42:32.320 --> 00:42:33.460
 Amen