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 If those who are going to read, if they could come up.

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 There's two readings, one from Ephesians and one from Genesis.

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 The Genesis reading first and then Ephesians, so we'll do that.

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 Genesis 3, 1-17, you'll find it on page 5.

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 Of your Bible.

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 That's the beginning of the Bible.

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 Now the servant was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made.

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 He said to the woman, did God really say you must not eat from the tree in the garden?

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 The woman said to the serpent, we may eat fruit from the trees in the garden.

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 But God did say you must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden.

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 You must not touch it or you will die.

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 You will not surely die, the servant said to the woman, for God knows that when you eat it, your eyes will be opened and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.

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 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it.

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 She also gave some to her husband who was with her and he ate it.

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 Then the eyes of both of them were opened and they realized they were naked.

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 So they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.

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 Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day.

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 And they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden.

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 But the Lord God called to the man, where are you?

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 He answered, I heard you in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked.

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 So I hid.

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 And he said, who told you that you were naked?

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 Have you eaten from the tree from which I commanded you not to eat?

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 The man said, the woman, you put her here with me.

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 She gave me some fruit from the tree and I ate it.

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 And then the Lord God said to the woman, what is this that you have done?

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 And the woman said, the serpent, he deceived me and I ate it.

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 So the Lord God said to the serpent, because you have done this, cursed are you above all the livestock and all the wild animals.

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 You will crawl on your belly and you will eat dust all the days of your life.

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 And I will put enmity between you and the woman, between your offspring and hers.

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 He will crush your head and you will strike his heel.

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 To the woman he said, I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing.

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 With pain you will give birth to children.

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 Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you.

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 To Adam he said, because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, you must not eat of it.

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 Cursed is the ground because of you.

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 Through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life.

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 And the next reading is taken from Ephesians chapter 5, beginning at verse 22.

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 And that's on page 1176 of the Church Bible.

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 Ephesians chapter 5, beginning at verse 22.

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 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.

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 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the saviour.

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 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

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 Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,

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 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

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 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.

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 He who loves his wife loves himself.

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 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church.

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 For we are members of his body.

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 For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.

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 This is a profound mystery, but I am talking about Christ and the church.

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 However, each of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,

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 and the wife must respect her husband.

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 Thanks very much, Ross and Chris, for reading.

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 Please keep your Bibles open there at Ephesians 5.

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 That's the main part that we're going to be looking at, but we'll also be going back to Genesis 3.

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 And this is a continuation in our little series on learning to lead.

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 Last week we were looking at leaders within the church.

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 Next week, well, it's the all-age celebration.

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 So a week after that, we're going to be looking at leaders within the home.

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 And today we're looking at leaders in marriage.

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 Well, let's ask for God's help as we look at this.

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 Our Father, we are grateful for all that you give to us, but we are needy people,

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 and we always need the help of your Holy Spirit to understand these words that have been written,

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 to see how they apply to us, but also that they would change us and transform us and cause us to live according to your design.

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 So please work amongst us this morning.

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 Please encourage us all and help us as we seek to understand what it is to lead in marriage as you have designed it.

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 And we pray it in Jesus' name. Amen.

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 And can I say as well, if there's any questions at any time,

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 if it's really a bursting question, you can signal.

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 But if you can wait until at the end, that's okay too.

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 But please, you know, we do want to discuss these things,

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 and there may be issues that arise and you want to talk through.

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 So please feel free to talk to me after.

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 So, leaders in marriage.

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 Well, marriage, it seems, is still very popular.

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 According to last year's census, which I hope you all filled out,

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 37% of our population is now married.

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 That's an increase of 145,000 from five years ago.

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 So love is certainly in the air.

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 However, the same census tells us that there's a greater increase in marriage breakdown.

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 So, for example, divorce is up by 150% from five years ago.

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 That's an extra 50,000 couples who've experienced a broken marriage.

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 Or to put it another way, 15% of those who get married end in divorce or separation.

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 And that's a very conservative figure.

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 And it doesn't stop there.

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 Many stay together, but yet their marriages are very unhappy,

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 and they cease to function as they ought.

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 And, of course, there's many reasons for that,

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 and we haven't time to look at all of those reasons.

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 But I think the main underlying reason,

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 the root cause for marriage breakdown,

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 is a failure for God's people to follow God's design for marriage.

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 And, in particular, the husband in his role as leader.

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 So what is God's design for marriage?

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 Well, as one writer put it,

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 it is politically incorrect and deeply beautiful.

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 Have a look at Ephesians, chapter 5, verse 22.

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 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.

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 For the husband is the head of the wife,

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 as Christ is the head of the church.

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 So let me summarize it like this.

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 Submission and headship,

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 and when we say headship, we mean leadership.

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 Submission and headship is God's beautiful design for marriage.

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 Now, I know that's a terribly unpopular statement,

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 and that could get me into a lot of trouble.

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 If I was to write that in a local newspaper,

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 I bet you I would get a lot of replies.

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 In fact, it sounds very deeply offensive

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 and culturally oppressive.

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 And before you're going to leave in anger or annoyance

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 or start throwing shoes at me or anything else like that,

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 we want to explore what we mean by submission and headship.

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 Well, first, it does not mean inferiority or superiority.

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 It means equality.

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 At the very beginning of the Bible,

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 no need to turn to it.

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 In Genesis 1, 27, it says that

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 God created man in his own image.

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 In the image of God, he created him.

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 Male and female, he created them.

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 So we are all equal in God's sight.

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 We're all made in his image.

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 So men are not greater,

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 and women are not better.

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 Exercising headship

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 does not increase my status or my value

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 any more than exercising submission

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 reduces my status or value.

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 We are equally loved

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 and treasured by God.

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 Equal in value

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 before God

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 and equal in our position

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 before God.

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 So there's equality

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 between man and woman,

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 husband and wife.

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 Now, second,

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 while there's equality,

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 this does not mean

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 sameness or likeness.

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 It means

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 that we are complementary.

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 Men and women are different.

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 Physically,

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 we're different.

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 That's obvious.

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 Emotionally,

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 we're different.

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 And part of that difference

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 is seen in our God-given roles.

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 So under God's design,

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 we have been given

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 different responsibilities.

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 And we see this

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 as we read through

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 the creation account

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 of the man and the woman,

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 particularly in Genesis chapter 2.

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 Because there's,

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 we read through that account,

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 we see that Adam

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 was given the command

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 not to eat

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 from the fruit of the tree

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 in the middle of the garden.

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 Chapter 2, verse 16.

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 Don't eat it,

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 he was told.

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 And then we read

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 a little bit later on

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 and we see that Eve

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 eats the fruit

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 and she gives it

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 to her husband,

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 but it's God

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 who holds Adam

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 to account

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 for what has happened

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 in chapter 3, verse 9.

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 So this is termed

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 in Ephesians

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 as headship.

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 He's responsible.

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 He's the leader.

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 God holds him

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 to account.

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 And we also see

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 within the Genesis account

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 that when God

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 created Eve,

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 it was with a special purpose

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 of being a helper

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 to Adam.

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 in chapter 2, verse 20.

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 And being a helper

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 doesn't mean

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 a go for,

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 get this, get that.

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 But that Adam

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 was incapable

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 of doing all

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 that God had called him

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 to do

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 and he needed

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 a helper,

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 he needed a partner,

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 somebody who was going

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 to work alongside him.

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 And this is termed

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 in Ephesians

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 as submission.

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 So equality

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 but complementarity.

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 Adam needed Eve

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 and Eve needed Adam.

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 This was all part

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 of God's beautiful design

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 for marriage.

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 But third and primarily,

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 God's design

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 for the man

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 and the woman

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 was ultimately

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 that he would reflect

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 the gospel.

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 So when we look

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 at the role

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 of the husband

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 and the wife,

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 we see a picture

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 of the gospel.

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 The role

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 of the husband

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 reflects the headship

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 of Christ

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 which is seen

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 through sacrificial service.

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 The role

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 of the wife

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 reflects the submission

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 of the church

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 to Christ

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 through willing obedience.

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 So look at verse 24

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 of Ephesians

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 chapter 5.

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 Now as the church

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 submits to Christ,

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 so also wives

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 should submit

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 to their husbands.

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 And verse 25,

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 Husbands,

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 love your wives

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 just as Christ

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 loved the church

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 and gave himself

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 up for her.

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 Verse 32,

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 this is a profound mystery

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 but I am talking

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 about Christ

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 and the church.

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 So here he's going

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 on about marriage

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 but then he says,

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 no actually

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 we're talking

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 about Christ

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 and the church.

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 We're talking

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 about the gospel.

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 God's design

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 for marriage

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 is a visible picture

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 of the good news.

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 In fact,

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 a marriage relationship

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 is a working demonstration

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 of Christ's headship

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 over the church

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 and the church's

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 submission to Christ.

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 So if you want to know

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 what Christ has done,

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 well we're to look

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 at the husband

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 and we'll get

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 a picture of that.

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 If we want to know

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 how the church

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 should respond to Christ,

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 we'll look at the wife

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 and we'll get

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 a picture of that.

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 The marriage relationship

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 is to be a beautiful

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 picture of the gospel.

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 That is its primary

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 reason.

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 But to get back

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 to the design

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 and the reason

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 for the breakdown

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 in marriage

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 is because

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 we have rejected

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 collectively

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 as a society

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 God's design

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 for marriage

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 especially

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 and I'm going

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 to be hard

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 on us men,

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 myself included,

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 we have rejected

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 God's design

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 for marriage

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 in two ways.

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 first we

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 abdicate

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 our authority.

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 Look back

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 to Genesis 3

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 and we'll see

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 how this has worked out.

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 Genesis chapter 3.

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 In Genesis 3

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 we have the account

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 of the first marriage

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 and sadly

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 the first marriage

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 breakdown.

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 and traditionally

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 we tend to look

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 at this story

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 and we think

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 well

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 the wife

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 that's Eve

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 she's the one

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 to blame

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 because she's the one

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 who ate the fruit

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 but that's not actually

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 the real story.

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 Look at chapter 3

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 verse 6.

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 When the woman

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 saw the fruit

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 of the tree

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 that was good

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 for food

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 and pleasing

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 to the eye

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 and also desirable

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 for gaining wisdom

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 she took some

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 and she ate it.

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 she also gave

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 some to her husband

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 who was with her

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 and he ate it.

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 So Adam

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 the husband

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 was actually there

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 all along.

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 All throughout

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 that temptation

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 Adam was just

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 standing idly by.

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 He had been given

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 the original command

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 in chapter 2

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 verse 16

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 not to eat

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 of the fruit

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 and now

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 he ignores

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 his responsibility

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 to ensure

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 that God's commands

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 are being worked out

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 within his life

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 and within his marriage.

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 That's why

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 it's God

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 who comes looking

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 for Adam

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 afterwards

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 even though

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 it was Eve

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 who ate the fruit

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 first

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 he comes looking

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 for Adam

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 chapter 3

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 verse 9

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 the Lord God

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 called to the man

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 where are you?

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 Come on Adam

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 show yourself.

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 Down to verse 17

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 to Adam

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 he said

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 because

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 you listened

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 to your wife

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 and ate

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 from the tree

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 about which

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 I commanded you

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 you must not

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 eat of it

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 cursed

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 is the ground

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 because of you.

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 God holds

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 Adam

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 the head

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 of the marriage

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 to account

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 he is the one

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 who is responsible

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 Adam

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 has abdicated

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 his authority

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 he's been sitting

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 back with his arms

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 folded

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 he hasn't taken

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 his role seriously

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 in fact

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 he's turned

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 his back

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 on God's design

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 and the knock-on

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 effects of this

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 are disastrous

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 because

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 abdicating

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 authority

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 leads to

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 the husband

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 abusing

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 his authority

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 look at

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 chapter 3

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 of Genesis

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 and the last

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 part of verse 16

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 this is the

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 the pronouncement

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 upon Eve

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 upon the woman

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 for her part

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 in it

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 but let's

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 let's hear

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 carefully what it

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 says

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 it's the last

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 two lines

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 of verse 16

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 it says

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 that your

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 desire

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 will be

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 for your

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 husband

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 and he

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 will rule

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 over you

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 now we need

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 to understand

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 that carefully

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 when it says

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 for the woman

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 to desire

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 your husband

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 it doesn't

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 mean to say

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 that she's

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 going to be

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 totally madly

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 in love

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 with him

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 it means

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 actually to

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 dominate

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 your husband

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 to take

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 his place

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 to put

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 yourself

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 in his

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 place

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 and to

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 take on

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 his role

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 and in

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 response

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 he

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 will rule

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 over you

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 to rule

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 over

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 not in a

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 good way

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 but in a

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 bad way

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 it means

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 to oppress

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 your wife

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 to be

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 harsh

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 today we

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 call it

00:18:41.360 --> 00:18:42.020
 feminism

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 and chauvinism

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 where the

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 wife

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 usurps

00:18:46.280 --> 00:18:47.220
 her authority

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 and the

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 husband

00:18:48.680 --> 00:18:50.140
 abdicates

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 or abuses

00:18:51.060 --> 00:18:52.299
 his authority

00:18:52.299 --> 00:18:53.680
 the wife

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 tries to do

00:18:54.400 --> 00:18:54.840
 what the

00:18:54.840 --> 00:18:55.700
 husband should

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 do

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 she seeks

00:18:57.100 --> 00:18:57.420
 to be

00:18:57.420 --> 00:18:57.779
 head of

00:18:57.779 --> 00:18:58.340
 the family

00:18:58.340 --> 00:18:59.539
 and the

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 husband

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 abuses

00:19:00.500 --> 00:19:01.360
 his role

00:19:01.360 --> 00:19:02.100
 so instead

00:19:02.100 --> 00:19:02.779
 of serving

00:19:02.779 --> 00:19:03.440
 his wife

00:19:03.440 --> 00:19:04.180
 his wife

00:19:04.180 --> 00:19:04.539
 is there

00:19:04.539 --> 00:19:05.039
 to serve

00:19:05.039 --> 00:19:05.400
 him

00:19:05.400 --> 00:19:07.779
 and I

00:19:07.779 --> 00:19:08.120
 hope we

00:19:08.120 --> 00:19:08.539
 can see

00:19:08.539 --> 00:19:08.980
 how this

00:19:08.980 --> 00:19:09.620
 begins to

00:19:09.620 --> 00:19:10.160
 get worked

00:19:10.160 --> 00:19:10.660
 out within

00:19:10.660 --> 00:19:11.279
 our marriage

00:19:11.279 --> 00:19:11.980
 relationships

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 this is

00:19:14.759 --> 00:19:15.500
 part of

00:19:15.500 --> 00:19:16.140
 the fall

00:19:16.140 --> 00:19:16.640
 this is a

00:19:16.640 --> 00:19:17.019
 part of

00:19:17.019 --> 00:19:17.600
 working out

00:19:17.600 --> 00:19:17.920
 of what

00:19:17.920 --> 00:19:18.400
 happens when

00:19:18.400 --> 00:19:18.700
 we go

00:19:18.700 --> 00:19:19.060
 against

00:19:19.060 --> 00:19:19.540
 God's

00:19:19.540 --> 00:19:20.040
 design

00:19:20.040 --> 00:19:21.040
 the wife

00:19:21.040 --> 00:19:21.620
 tries to

00:19:21.620 --> 00:19:22.220
 control

00:19:22.220 --> 00:19:22.860
 the husband

00:19:22.860 --> 00:19:23.880
 manipulating

00:19:23.880 --> 00:19:25.240
 and scheming

00:19:25.240 --> 00:19:26.080
 and trying

00:19:26.080 --> 00:19:26.360
 to get

00:19:26.360 --> 00:19:26.759
 their own

00:19:26.759 --> 00:19:27.140
 way

00:19:27.140 --> 00:19:27.759
 and in

00:19:27.759 --> 00:19:28.420
 response

00:19:28.420 --> 00:19:28.940
 the husband

00:19:28.940 --> 00:19:29.540
 doesn't like

00:19:29.540 --> 00:19:30.100
 this so he

00:19:30.100 --> 00:19:30.660
 tries to

00:19:30.660 --> 00:19:31.300
 crush the

00:19:31.300 --> 00:19:31.600
 wife

00:19:31.600 --> 00:19:32.380
 and becomes

00:19:32.380 --> 00:19:33.560
 very domineering

00:19:33.560 --> 00:19:34.620
 and aggressive

00:19:34.620 --> 00:19:38.220
 and all of

00:19:38.220 --> 00:19:39.120
 this leads

00:19:39.120 --> 00:19:39.820
 to heartache

00:19:39.820 --> 00:19:40.740
 and pain

00:19:40.740 --> 00:19:41.860
 and brokenness

00:19:41.860 --> 00:19:43.500
 and disorder

00:19:43.500 --> 00:19:45.240
 this terrible

00:19:45.240 --> 00:19:46.519
 ongoing cycle

00:19:46.519 --> 00:19:47.000
 of trying

00:19:47.000 --> 00:19:47.660
 to control

00:19:47.660 --> 00:19:48.240
 the husband

00:19:48.240 --> 00:19:49.279
 and the

00:19:49.279 --> 00:19:49.599
 husband

00:19:49.599 --> 00:19:50.420
 in response

00:19:50.420 --> 00:19:51.019
 crushing

00:19:51.019 --> 00:19:52.379
 his wife

00:19:52.379 --> 00:19:53.660
 so instead

00:19:53.660 --> 00:19:54.379
 of seeing

00:19:54.379 --> 00:19:55.180
 the gospel

00:19:55.180 --> 00:19:57.359
 instead of

00:19:57.359 --> 00:19:57.859
 getting this

00:19:57.859 --> 00:19:58.759
 wonderful picture

00:19:58.759 --> 00:19:59.740
 of Christ

00:19:59.740 --> 00:20:01.559
 all we see

00:20:01.559 --> 00:20:02.259
 is sin

00:20:02.259 --> 00:20:03.440
 in all

00:20:03.440 --> 00:20:04.440
 its ugliness

00:20:04.440 --> 00:20:04.640
 things

00:20:04.640 --> 00:20:08.120
 now let's

00:20:08.120 --> 00:20:08.740
 just take a

00:20:08.740 --> 00:20:09.480
 moment out

00:20:09.480 --> 00:20:10.259
 from this

00:20:10.259 --> 00:20:11.200
 and apply

00:20:11.200 --> 00:20:12.019
 this to

00:20:12.019 --> 00:20:12.580
 husbands

00:20:12.580 --> 00:20:14.100
 and to

00:20:14.100 --> 00:20:14.580
 wives

00:20:14.580 --> 00:20:16.960
 so husbands

00:20:16.960 --> 00:20:17.680
 listen up

00:20:17.680 --> 00:20:18.900
 and not just

00:20:18.900 --> 00:20:19.420
 husbands

00:20:19.420 --> 00:20:20.340
 but all

00:20:20.340 --> 00:20:21.580
 potential husbands

00:20:21.580 --> 00:20:22.820
 okay

00:20:22.820 --> 00:20:24.640
 listen carefully

00:20:24.640 --> 00:20:26.220
 we need to

00:20:26.220 --> 00:20:27.400
 see that

00:20:27.400 --> 00:20:28.400
 our sinful

00:20:28.400 --> 00:20:29.059
 nature

00:20:29.059 --> 00:20:31.419
 our natural

00:20:31.419 --> 00:20:32.119
 tendency

00:20:32.119 --> 00:20:33.099
 is always

00:20:33.099 --> 00:20:34.379
 moving towards

00:20:34.379 --> 00:20:35.279
 abdicating

00:20:35.279 --> 00:20:36.240
 our authority

00:20:36.240 --> 00:20:37.619
 or abusing

00:20:37.619 --> 00:20:38.799
 our authority

00:20:38.799 --> 00:20:40.539
 we abdicate

00:20:40.539 --> 00:20:41.339
 and we sit

00:20:41.339 --> 00:20:42.019
 back because

00:20:42.019 --> 00:20:42.899
 we just don't

00:20:42.899 --> 00:20:43.519
 want to take

00:20:43.519 --> 00:20:43.819
 on the

00:20:43.819 --> 00:20:44.460
 responsibility

00:20:44.460 --> 00:20:45.919
 it's too

00:20:45.919 --> 00:20:46.440
 much like

00:20:46.440 --> 00:20:47.339
 hard work

00:20:47.339 --> 00:20:48.460
 after all

00:20:48.460 --> 00:20:48.839
 we've got

00:20:48.839 --> 00:20:49.460
 much better

00:20:49.460 --> 00:20:50.139
 things to be

00:20:50.139 --> 00:20:50.599
 doing like

00:20:50.599 --> 00:20:51.319
 well there's

00:20:51.319 --> 00:20:51.940
 all the sport

00:20:51.940 --> 00:20:52.579
 we've got to

00:20:52.579 --> 00:20:53.059
 do and there's

00:20:53.059 --> 00:20:53.440
 all those

00:20:53.440 --> 00:20:54.519
 DIY projects

00:20:54.519 --> 00:20:55.200
 and then there's

00:20:55.200 --> 00:20:55.799
 all that work

00:20:55.799 --> 00:20:56.339
 I've got to

00:20:56.339 --> 00:20:56.659
 do it

00:20:56.659 --> 00:20:57.359
 you know

00:20:57.359 --> 00:20:57.980
 in the mornings

00:20:57.980 --> 00:20:58.659
 and everything

00:20:58.660 --> 00:20:58.900
 else

00:20:58.900 --> 00:20:59.820
 why would I

00:20:59.820 --> 00:21:00.440
 waste my

00:21:00.440 --> 00:21:01.220
 time on

00:21:01.220 --> 00:21:01.880
 caring

00:21:01.880 --> 00:21:03.040
 and giving

00:21:03.040 --> 00:21:03.980
 to my wife

00:21:03.980 --> 00:21:04.580
 and to

00:21:04.580 --> 00:21:05.040
 family

00:21:05.040 --> 00:21:06.300
 and investing

00:21:06.300 --> 00:21:06.640
 in them

00:21:06.640 --> 00:21:07.220
 why would I

00:21:07.220 --> 00:21:07.600
 do that

00:21:07.600 --> 00:21:08.100
 when I've

00:21:08.100 --> 00:21:08.620
 got things

00:21:08.620 --> 00:21:09.000
 to do

00:21:09.000 --> 00:21:09.680
 for myself

00:21:09.680 --> 00:21:12.720
 and we

00:21:12.720 --> 00:21:13.580
 abuse our

00:21:13.580 --> 00:21:14.060
 authority

00:21:14.060 --> 00:21:14.800
 because well

00:21:14.800 --> 00:21:15.220
 we're just

00:21:15.220 --> 00:21:16.300
 selfish beings

00:21:16.300 --> 00:21:17.840
 and we're

00:21:17.840 --> 00:21:18.420
 insecure

00:21:18.420 --> 00:21:20.340
 and we want

00:21:20.340 --> 00:21:21.340
 everything done

00:21:21.340 --> 00:21:22.060
 for us

00:21:22.060 --> 00:21:23.279
 we prioritize

00:21:23.279 --> 00:21:24.500
 our comfort

00:21:24.500 --> 00:21:25.120
 and our

00:21:25.120 --> 00:21:25.620
 happiness

00:21:25.620 --> 00:21:26.620
 above our

00:21:26.620 --> 00:21:26.960
 wife

00:21:26.960 --> 00:21:27.440
 we know

00:21:27.440 --> 00:21:27.779
 what our

00:21:27.779 --> 00:21:28.460
 comforts are

00:21:28.460 --> 00:21:29.000
 and we

00:21:29.000 --> 00:21:29.400
 know what

00:21:29.400 --> 00:21:30.019
 we want

00:21:30.019 --> 00:21:32.100
 so they

00:21:32.100 --> 00:21:32.660
 suffer

00:21:32.660 --> 00:21:34.019
 while we

00:21:34.019 --> 00:21:34.579
 savour

00:21:34.579 --> 00:21:35.160
 the moment

00:21:35.160 --> 00:21:38.400
 now I

00:21:38.400 --> 00:21:38.600
 don't know

00:21:38.600 --> 00:21:38.840
 what you

00:21:38.840 --> 00:21:39.220
 think of

00:21:39.220 --> 00:21:39.460
 that

00:21:39.460 --> 00:21:39.980
 husbands

00:21:39.980 --> 00:21:40.860
 and potential

00:21:40.860 --> 00:21:41.319
 husbands

00:21:41.319 --> 00:21:41.860
 but I

00:21:41.860 --> 00:21:42.360
 think

00:21:42.360 --> 00:21:44.640
 we fit

00:21:44.640 --> 00:21:45.360
 into one

00:21:45.360 --> 00:21:46.319
 or at

00:21:46.319 --> 00:21:47.140
 times both

00:21:47.140 --> 00:21:47.559
 of these

00:21:47.559 --> 00:21:48.140
 positions

00:21:48.140 --> 00:21:50.380
 but God

00:21:50.380 --> 00:21:51.039
 has made

00:21:51.039 --> 00:21:51.700
 us and he

00:21:51.700 --> 00:21:52.100
 has given

00:21:52.100 --> 00:21:52.880
 us a role

00:21:52.880 --> 00:21:53.900
 and responsibility

00:21:53.900 --> 00:21:55.460
 that demands

00:21:55.460 --> 00:21:56.620
 our attention

00:21:56.620 --> 00:21:58.800
 and we

00:21:58.800 --> 00:21:59.280
 need to

00:21:59.280 --> 00:21:59.680
 repent

00:21:59.680 --> 00:22:02.100
 we need

00:22:02.100 --> 00:22:02.960
 to acknowledge

00:22:02.960 --> 00:22:03.860
 to our

00:22:03.860 --> 00:22:04.200
 wives

00:22:04.200 --> 00:22:04.580
 we need

00:22:04.580 --> 00:22:04.960
 to come

00:22:04.960 --> 00:22:05.580
 before them

00:22:05.580 --> 00:22:06.080
 verbally

00:22:06.080 --> 00:22:07.100
 and acknowledge

00:22:07.100 --> 00:22:07.519
 and say

00:22:07.519 --> 00:22:07.820
 to them

00:22:07.820 --> 00:22:09.200
 yes I

00:22:09.200 --> 00:22:09.800
 have let

00:22:09.800 --> 00:22:10.259
 you down

00:22:10.259 --> 00:22:10.700
 yes I

00:22:10.700 --> 00:22:11.440
 have failed

00:22:11.440 --> 00:22:11.940
 in this

00:22:11.940 --> 00:22:12.400
 area

00:22:12.400 --> 00:22:13.259
 and we

00:22:13.259 --> 00:22:13.900
 need to

00:22:13.900 --> 00:22:14.780
 seek God's

00:22:14.780 --> 00:22:15.200
 forgiveness

00:22:15.200 --> 00:22:15.940
 and we

00:22:15.940 --> 00:22:16.280
 need to

00:22:16.280 --> 00:22:16.840
 ask of

00:22:16.840 --> 00:22:17.500
 his grace

00:22:17.500 --> 00:22:17.920
 and his

00:22:17.920 --> 00:22:18.400
 spirit

00:22:18.400 --> 00:22:19.120
 to be

00:22:19.120 --> 00:22:19.580
 able to

00:22:19.580 --> 00:22:20.140
 live out

00:22:20.140 --> 00:22:20.620
 his

00:22:20.620 --> 00:22:21.080
 beautiful

00:22:21.080 --> 00:22:21.660
 design

00:22:21.660 --> 00:22:27.140
 so

00:22:27.140 --> 00:22:27.640
 husbands

00:22:27.640 --> 00:22:29.380
 and potential

00:22:29.380 --> 00:22:30.120
 husbands

00:22:30.120 --> 00:22:32.060
 listen

00:22:32.060 --> 00:22:32.600
 carefully

00:22:32.600 --> 00:22:33.100
 to these

00:22:33.100 --> 00:22:33.620
 things

00:22:33.620 --> 00:22:35.660
 but let

00:22:35.660 --> 00:22:35.960
 me say

00:22:35.960 --> 00:22:36.300
 something

00:22:36.300 --> 00:22:36.980
 to wives

00:22:36.980 --> 00:22:38.400
 and all

00:22:38.400 --> 00:22:39.060
 potential

00:22:39.060 --> 00:22:39.820
 wives as

00:22:39.820 --> 00:22:40.100
 well

00:22:40.100 --> 00:22:43.019
 you need

00:22:43.019 --> 00:22:43.540
 to see

00:22:43.540 --> 00:22:44.360
 that your

00:22:44.360 --> 00:22:44.920
 sinful

00:22:44.920 --> 00:22:45.440
 nature

00:22:45.440 --> 00:22:45.820
 your

00:22:45.820 --> 00:22:46.360
 heart

00:22:46.360 --> 00:22:47.200
 tendency

00:22:47.200 --> 00:22:49.100
 is always

00:22:49.100 --> 00:22:49.700
 moving

00:22:49.700 --> 00:22:50.380
 towards

00:22:50.380 --> 00:22:51.360
 usurping

00:22:51.360 --> 00:22:51.960
 authority

00:22:51.960 --> 00:22:53.240
 or

00:22:53.240 --> 00:22:53.840
 becoming

00:22:53.840 --> 00:22:54.759
 a slave

00:22:54.759 --> 00:22:55.740
 to authority

00:22:55.740 --> 00:22:56.200
 so let

00:22:56.200 --> 00:22:56.740
 me unpack

00:22:56.740 --> 00:22:57.200
 that

00:22:57.200 --> 00:22:58.720
 wives

00:22:58.720 --> 00:22:59.299
 tend to

00:22:59.299 --> 00:22:59.840
 usurp

00:22:59.840 --> 00:23:00.100
 their

00:23:00.100 --> 00:23:00.580
 authority

00:23:00.580 --> 00:23:01.640
 to demand

00:23:01.640 --> 00:23:02.400
 their rights

00:23:02.400 --> 00:23:03.799
 to express

00:23:03.799 --> 00:23:04.759
 their autonomy

00:23:04.759 --> 00:23:06.200
 it's my

00:23:06.200 --> 00:23:06.799
 way or

00:23:06.799 --> 00:23:07.360
 the highway

00:23:07.360 --> 00:23:08.319
 unless it's

00:23:08.319 --> 00:23:08.640
 my way

00:23:08.640 --> 00:23:08.960
 we're not

00:23:08.960 --> 00:23:09.559
 doing it

00:23:09.559 --> 00:23:13.860
 but wives

00:23:13.860 --> 00:23:14.380
 can also

00:23:14.380 --> 00:23:14.980
 become a

00:23:14.980 --> 00:23:15.779
 slave to

00:23:15.779 --> 00:23:16.360
 authority

00:23:16.359 --> 00:23:17.779
 they see

00:23:17.779 --> 00:23:18.259
 themselves

00:23:18.259 --> 00:23:18.740
 as just

00:23:18.740 --> 00:23:19.419
 nothing more

00:23:19.419 --> 00:23:19.759
 than a

00:23:19.759 --> 00:23:19.979
 little

00:23:19.979 --> 00:23:20.519
 mousy

00:23:20.519 --> 00:23:21.279
 doormat

00:23:21.279 --> 00:23:22.599
 a yes

00:23:22.599 --> 00:23:22.759
 sir

00:23:22.759 --> 00:23:23.059
 no

00:23:23.059 --> 00:23:23.279
 sir

00:23:23.279 --> 00:23:23.559
 three

00:23:23.559 --> 00:23:23.919
 bags

00:23:23.919 --> 00:23:24.159
 full

00:23:24.159 --> 00:23:24.359
 sir

00:23:24.359 --> 00:23:24.679
 whatever

00:23:24.679 --> 00:23:24.939
 you

00:23:24.939 --> 00:23:25.219
 want

00:23:25.219 --> 00:23:25.539
 I'll

00:23:25.539 --> 00:23:25.819
 do

00:23:25.819 --> 00:23:27.899
 well such

00:23:27.899 --> 00:23:28.319
 a wife

00:23:28.319 --> 00:23:28.699
 who lives

00:23:28.699 --> 00:23:29.099
 that way

00:23:29.099 --> 00:23:29.579
 sadly

00:23:29.579 --> 00:23:30.139
 has lost

00:23:30.139 --> 00:23:30.839
 sight of

00:23:30.839 --> 00:23:31.519
 her dignity

00:23:31.519 --> 00:23:31.879
 and her

00:23:31.879 --> 00:23:32.219
 value

00:23:32.219 --> 00:23:33.159
 that she

00:23:33.159 --> 00:23:33.919
 is precious

00:23:33.919 --> 00:23:34.399
 and that

00:23:34.399 --> 00:23:34.799
 she's been

00:23:34.799 --> 00:23:35.579
 made in

00:23:35.579 --> 00:23:36.419
 God's

00:23:36.419 --> 00:23:36.939
 image

00:23:36.939 --> 00:23:39.119
 that wives

00:23:39.119 --> 00:23:39.899
 were called

00:23:39.899 --> 00:23:40.279
 to be

00:23:40.279 --> 00:23:41.319
 helpers and

00:23:41.319 --> 00:23:42.259
 partners with

00:23:42.259 --> 00:23:42.839
 their husbands

00:23:42.839 --> 00:23:44.639
 and to

00:23:44.639 --> 00:23:45.459
 make possible

00:23:45.459 --> 00:23:45.899
 what their

00:23:45.899 --> 00:23:46.839
 husbands simply

00:23:46.839 --> 00:23:47.639
 cannot do

00:23:47.639 --> 00:23:48.179
 on their

00:23:48.179 --> 00:23:48.720
 own

00:23:48.720 --> 00:23:51.159
 so wives

00:23:51.159 --> 00:23:51.879
 and potential

00:23:51.879 --> 00:23:52.339
 wives

00:23:52.339 --> 00:23:53.399
 God has

00:23:53.399 --> 00:23:54.199
 made you

00:23:54.199 --> 00:23:55.220
 beautifully

00:23:55.220 --> 00:23:56.919
 and wonderfully

00:23:56.919 --> 00:23:59.339
 but rather

00:23:59.339 --> 00:23:59.980
 than write

00:23:59.980 --> 00:24:00.599
 your own

00:24:00.599 --> 00:24:01.119
 role and

00:24:01.119 --> 00:24:01.740
 your own

00:24:01.740 --> 00:24:02.819
 description

00:24:02.819 --> 00:24:03.579
 for what

00:24:03.579 --> 00:24:04.279
 a wife

00:24:04.279 --> 00:24:04.980
 should be

00:24:04.980 --> 00:24:06.919
 follow

00:24:06.919 --> 00:24:07.619
 God's

00:24:07.619 --> 00:24:08.059
 design

00:24:08.059 --> 00:24:08.579
 which is

00:24:08.579 --> 00:24:09.279
 best for

00:24:09.279 --> 00:24:09.579
 you

00:24:09.579 --> 00:24:10.579
 and good

00:24:10.579 --> 00:24:11.039
 for you

00:24:11.039 --> 00:24:13.379
 and where

00:24:13.379 --> 00:24:13.799
 we need

00:24:13.799 --> 00:24:14.379
 to repent

00:24:14.379 --> 00:24:16.159
 let's

00:24:16.159 --> 00:24:16.720
 repent

00:24:16.720 --> 00:24:18.240
 and just

00:24:18.240 --> 00:24:18.779
 as husbands

00:24:18.779 --> 00:24:19.279
 need to

00:24:19.279 --> 00:24:19.679
 acknowledge

00:24:19.679 --> 00:24:20.460
 to wives

00:24:20.460 --> 00:24:21.659
 so wives

00:24:21.659 --> 00:24:22.119
 need to

00:24:22.119 --> 00:24:22.659
 acknowledge

00:24:22.659 --> 00:24:23.720
 to their

00:24:23.720 --> 00:24:24.179
 husbands

00:24:24.179 --> 00:24:28.419
 and maybe

00:24:28.419 --> 00:24:28.939
 you're not

00:24:28.939 --> 00:24:29.339
 married

00:24:29.339 --> 00:24:30.839
 maybe you

00:24:30.839 --> 00:24:31.619
 were married

00:24:31.619 --> 00:24:32.939
 where do

00:24:32.939 --> 00:24:33.339
 you fit

00:24:33.339 --> 00:24:33.839
 into all

00:24:33.839 --> 00:24:34.439
 of this

00:24:34.439 --> 00:24:35.839
 well

00:24:35.839 --> 00:24:36.519
 marriages

00:24:36.519 --> 00:24:37.799
 need

00:24:37.799 --> 00:24:38.779
 prayer

00:24:38.779 --> 00:24:39.939
 and support

00:24:39.940 --> 00:24:41.440
 as I

00:24:41.440 --> 00:24:41.880
 said at

00:24:41.880 --> 00:24:42.360
 the beginning

00:24:42.360 --> 00:24:43.660
 the increase

00:24:43.660 --> 00:24:44.559
 in marriage

00:24:44.559 --> 00:24:45.080
 breakdown

00:24:45.080 --> 00:24:45.779
 goes on

00:24:45.779 --> 00:24:46.200
 and on

00:24:46.200 --> 00:24:46.580
 and on

00:24:46.580 --> 00:24:47.120
 and it's

00:24:47.120 --> 00:24:47.559
 just as

00:24:47.559 --> 00:24:48.080
 likely to

00:24:48.080 --> 00:24:48.380
 happen

00:24:48.380 --> 00:24:48.740
 within

00:24:48.740 --> 00:24:49.240
 God's

00:24:49.240 --> 00:24:49.580
 family

00:24:49.580 --> 00:24:49.799
 as

00:24:49.799 --> 00:24:50.200
 anywhere

00:24:50.200 --> 00:24:50.640
 else

00:24:50.640 --> 00:24:51.200
 we're

00:24:51.200 --> 00:24:51.380
 not

00:24:51.380 --> 00:24:51.860
 immune

00:24:51.860 --> 00:24:52.120
 to

00:24:52.120 --> 00:24:52.279
 the

00:24:52.279 --> 00:24:52.840
 pressures

00:24:52.840 --> 00:24:53.500
 and

00:24:53.500 --> 00:24:53.680
 the

00:24:53.680 --> 00:24:54.440
 temptations

00:24:54.440 --> 00:24:56.519
 so

00:24:56.519 --> 00:24:57.059
 marriages

00:24:57.059 --> 00:24:57.640
 need

00:24:57.640 --> 00:24:58.240
 prayer

00:24:58.240 --> 00:24:59.160
 and they

00:24:59.160 --> 00:24:59.380
 need

00:24:59.380 --> 00:25:00.019
 support

00:25:00.019 --> 00:25:01.039
 and they

00:25:01.039 --> 00:25:01.279
 need

00:25:01.279 --> 00:25:01.980
 encouragement

00:25:01.980 --> 00:25:02.480
 from

00:25:02.480 --> 00:25:03.120
 all

00:25:03.120 --> 00:25:03.880
 of

00:25:03.880 --> 00:25:04.299
 God's

00:25:04.299 --> 00:25:04.700
 family

00:25:04.700 --> 00:25:07.580
 so what

00:25:07.580 --> 00:25:07.900
 does it

00:25:07.900 --> 00:25:08.539
 look like

00:25:08.539 --> 00:25:09.120
 then to

00:25:09.120 --> 00:25:09.819
 live out

00:25:09.819 --> 00:25:10.700
 God's

00:25:10.700 --> 00:25:12.140
 good design

00:25:12.140 --> 00:25:13.100
 for marriage

00:25:13.100 --> 00:25:16.240
 well let's

00:25:16.240 --> 00:25:16.640
 look at

00:25:16.640 --> 00:25:17.580
 two things

00:25:17.580 --> 00:25:17.799
 here

00:25:17.799 --> 00:25:18.420
 the design

00:25:18.420 --> 00:25:19.279
 of headship

00:25:19.279 --> 00:25:20.080
 to start

00:25:20.080 --> 00:25:20.380
 with

00:25:20.380 --> 00:25:22.460
 we need

00:25:22.460 --> 00:25:22.720
 to go

00:25:22.720 --> 00:25:23.340
 back to

00:25:23.340 --> 00:25:24.000
 Ephesians

00:25:24.000 --> 00:25:25.039
 chapter 5

00:25:25.039 --> 00:25:27.819
 go back

00:25:27.819 --> 00:25:28.480
 to Ephesians

00:25:28.480 --> 00:25:29.380
 chapter 5

00:25:29.380 --> 00:25:34.740
 the

00:25:34.740 --> 00:25:35.580
 husband's

00:25:35.580 --> 00:25:36.240
 headship

00:25:36.240 --> 00:25:36.840
 of the

00:25:36.840 --> 00:25:37.300
 wife

00:25:37.300 --> 00:25:39.500
 is

00:25:39.500 --> 00:25:40.340
 modelled

00:25:40.340 --> 00:25:41.640
 on

00:25:41.640 --> 00:25:42.440
 Christ's

00:25:42.440 --> 00:25:42.960
 headship

00:25:42.960 --> 00:25:43.800
 of the

00:25:43.800 --> 00:25:44.200
 church

00:25:44.200 --> 00:25:44.720
 so in

00:25:44.720 --> 00:25:45.200
 Ephesians

00:25:45.200 --> 00:25:45.600
 5

00:25:45.600 --> 00:25:45.860
 verse

00:25:45.860 --> 00:25:46.520
 23

00:25:46.520 --> 00:25:48.540
 it says

00:25:48.540 --> 00:25:49.160
 for the

00:25:49.160 --> 00:25:49.600
 husband

00:25:49.600 --> 00:25:50.100
 is the

00:25:50.100 --> 00:25:50.360
 head

00:25:50.360 --> 00:25:50.640
 of the

00:25:50.640 --> 00:25:51.020
 wife

00:25:51.020 --> 00:25:52.300
 as

00:25:52.300 --> 00:25:52.940
 Christ

00:25:52.940 --> 00:25:53.600
 is the

00:25:53.600 --> 00:25:53.860
 head

00:25:53.860 --> 00:25:54.160
 of the

00:25:54.160 --> 00:25:54.560
 church

00:25:54.560 --> 00:25:54.940
 his

00:25:54.940 --> 00:25:55.340
 body

00:25:55.340 --> 00:25:55.780
 of which

00:25:55.780 --> 00:25:55.960
 he

00:25:55.960 --> 00:25:56.340
 is the

00:25:56.340 --> 00:25:56.700
 savior

00:25:56.700 --> 00:25:57.340
 verse

00:25:57.340 --> 00:25:57.860
 25

00:25:57.860 --> 00:25:58.260
 so

00:25:58.260 --> 00:25:58.740
 husbands

00:25:58.740 --> 00:25:59.140
 love

00:25:59.140 --> 00:25:59.300
 your

00:25:59.300 --> 00:25:59.740
 wives

00:25:59.740 --> 00:26:00.480
 just

00:26:00.480 --> 00:26:00.700
 as

00:26:00.700 --> 00:26:01.060
 Christ

00:26:01.060 --> 00:26:01.540
 loved

00:26:01.540 --> 00:26:01.759
 the

00:26:01.759 --> 00:26:02.200
 church

00:26:02.200 --> 00:26:02.920
 and

00:26:02.920 --> 00:26:03.240
 gave

00:26:03.240 --> 00:26:03.740
 himself

00:26:03.740 --> 00:26:04.000
 up

00:26:04.000 --> 00:26:04.320
 for

00:26:04.320 --> 00:26:04.600
 her

00:26:04.600 --> 00:26:06.480
 headship

00:26:06.480 --> 00:26:08.240
 is about

00:26:08.240 --> 00:26:08.880
 self

00:26:08.880 --> 00:26:09.680
 sacrifice

00:26:09.680 --> 00:26:11.040
 it's about

00:26:11.040 --> 00:26:11.520
 loving

00:26:11.520 --> 00:26:12.440
 service

00:26:12.440 --> 00:26:13.980
 C.S.

00:26:14.060 --> 00:26:14.240
 Lewis

00:26:14.240 --> 00:26:15.200
 writes

00:26:15.200 --> 00:26:15.660
 that the

00:26:15.660 --> 00:26:16.220
 headship

00:26:16.220 --> 00:26:16.560
 of the

00:26:16.560 --> 00:26:17.080
 husband

00:26:17.080 --> 00:26:18.280
 is not

00:26:18.280 --> 00:26:18.780
 expressed

00:26:18.780 --> 00:26:19.440
 in husbands

00:26:19.440 --> 00:26:20.020
 doing as

00:26:20.020 --> 00:26:20.700
 they like

00:26:20.700 --> 00:26:22.860
 but in

00:26:22.860 --> 00:26:23.480
 him whose

00:26:23.480 --> 00:26:24.080
 marriage

00:26:24.080 --> 00:26:25.000
 is most

00:26:25.000 --> 00:26:25.580
 like a

00:26:25.580 --> 00:26:26.600
 crucifixion

00:26:26.599 --> 00:26:28.579
 one

00:26:28.579 --> 00:26:28.740
 one of

00:26:28.740 --> 00:26:29.399
 service

00:26:29.399 --> 00:26:29.939
 whose

00:26:29.939 --> 00:26:30.459
 wife

00:26:30.459 --> 00:26:31.519
 receives

00:26:31.519 --> 00:26:32.199
 most

00:26:32.199 --> 00:26:33.299
 and

00:26:33.299 --> 00:26:33.659
 gives

00:26:33.659 --> 00:26:34.119
 least

00:26:34.119 --> 00:26:36.240
 so

00:26:36.240 --> 00:26:36.699
 husbands

00:26:36.699 --> 00:26:37.159
 we are

00:26:37.159 --> 00:26:37.339
 to

00:26:37.339 --> 00:26:37.919
 exercise

00:26:37.919 --> 00:26:38.639
 our

00:26:38.639 --> 00:26:39.279
 authority

00:26:39.279 --> 00:26:40.519
 by giving

00:26:40.519 --> 00:26:41.359
 of ourselves

00:26:41.359 --> 00:26:42.299
 sacrificially

00:26:42.299 --> 00:26:43.480
 to our

00:26:43.480 --> 00:26:44.019
 wives

00:26:44.019 --> 00:26:45.299
 and primarily

00:26:45.299 --> 00:26:45.799
 I think

00:26:45.799 --> 00:26:46.159
 this is

00:26:46.159 --> 00:26:46.619
 done by

00:26:46.619 --> 00:26:47.159
 taking

00:26:47.159 --> 00:26:47.859
 and applying

00:26:47.859 --> 00:26:48.519
 and working

00:26:48.519 --> 00:26:48.980
 out the

00:26:48.980 --> 00:26:49.399
 gospel

00:26:49.399 --> 00:26:50.359
 within

00:26:50.359 --> 00:26:51.099
 our

00:26:51.099 --> 00:26:51.539
 marriages

00:26:51.539 --> 00:26:52.059
 and within

00:26:52.059 --> 00:26:52.259
 our

00:26:52.259 --> 00:26:52.639
 family

00:26:52.639 --> 00:26:53.119
 so look

00:26:53.119 --> 00:26:53.319
 at the

00:26:53.319 --> 00:26:53.759
 rest of

00:26:53.759 --> 00:26:54.019
 verse

00:26:54.019 --> 00:26:55.019
 26

00:26:55.019 --> 00:26:55.959
 and 27

00:26:55.959 --> 00:26:57.279
 husbands

00:26:57.279 --> 00:26:57.699
 are to

00:26:57.699 --> 00:26:57.919
 love

00:26:57.919 --> 00:26:58.099
 their

00:26:58.099 --> 00:26:58.500
 wives

00:26:58.500 --> 00:26:58.939
 just as

00:26:58.939 --> 00:26:59.339
 Christ

00:26:59.339 --> 00:27:00.459
 gave

00:27:00.459 --> 00:27:00.799
 himself

00:27:00.799 --> 00:27:01.500
 for her

00:27:01.500 --> 00:27:02.919
 to make

00:27:02.919 --> 00:27:04.359
 her holy

00:27:04.359 --> 00:27:05.019
 cleansing

00:27:05.019 --> 00:27:05.500
 her by

00:27:05.500 --> 00:27:06.000
 the washing

00:27:06.000 --> 00:27:06.639
 with water

00:27:06.639 --> 00:27:07.079
 through the

00:27:07.079 --> 00:27:07.319
 word

00:27:07.319 --> 00:27:08.000
 and to

00:27:08.000 --> 00:27:08.399
 present

00:27:08.399 --> 00:27:08.779
 her to

00:27:08.779 --> 00:27:09.199
 himself

00:27:09.199 --> 00:27:09.779
 as a

00:27:09.779 --> 00:27:10.279
 radiant

00:27:10.279 --> 00:27:10.919
 church

00:27:10.919 --> 00:27:11.639
 without

00:27:11.639 --> 00:27:12.259
 stain

00:27:12.259 --> 00:27:12.879
 or wrinkle

00:27:12.879 --> 00:27:13.819
 or any

00:27:13.819 --> 00:27:14.079
 other

00:27:14.079 --> 00:27:14.539
 blemish

00:27:14.539 --> 00:27:15.419
 but holy

00:27:15.419 --> 00:27:16.339
 and

00:27:16.339 --> 00:27:17.099
 blameless

00:27:17.099 --> 00:27:18.839
 so just

00:27:18.839 --> 00:27:19.439
 as Jesus

00:27:19.439 --> 00:27:20.019
 Christ

00:27:20.019 --> 00:27:20.719
 gave of

00:27:20.719 --> 00:27:21.019
 himself

00:27:21.019 --> 00:27:21.599
 to make

00:27:21.599 --> 00:27:21.919
 us

00:27:21.919 --> 00:27:22.519
 the church

00:27:22.519 --> 00:27:23.200
 beautiful

00:27:23.200 --> 00:27:25.079
 so husbands

00:27:25.079 --> 00:27:25.720
 are to

00:27:25.720 --> 00:27:26.000
 give

00:27:26.000 --> 00:27:26.799
 themselves

00:27:26.799 --> 00:27:27.539
 to their

00:27:27.539 --> 00:27:27.940
 wives

00:27:27.940 --> 00:27:28.700
 to make

00:27:28.700 --> 00:27:29.019
 them

00:27:29.019 --> 00:27:29.579
 beautiful

00:27:29.579 --> 00:27:31.059
 not just

00:27:31.059 --> 00:27:31.660
 physically

00:27:31.660 --> 00:27:32.400
 outwardly

00:27:32.400 --> 00:27:32.859
 but in

00:27:32.859 --> 00:27:33.700
 their purity

00:27:33.700 --> 00:27:34.579
 inwardly

00:27:34.579 --> 00:27:35.160
 and in

00:27:35.160 --> 00:27:35.319
 their

00:27:35.319 --> 00:27:36.000
 godliness

00:27:36.000 --> 00:27:39.940
 I find

00:27:39.940 --> 00:27:40.539
 this quote

00:27:40.539 --> 00:27:41.400
 very helpful

00:27:41.400 --> 00:27:43.240
 we who

00:27:43.240 --> 00:27:44.000
 are husbands

00:27:44.000 --> 00:27:45.400
 need

00:27:45.400 --> 00:27:46.099
 sufficient

00:27:46.099 --> 00:27:46.700
 guts

00:27:46.700 --> 00:27:47.319
 to be

00:27:47.319 --> 00:27:48.039
 beauticians

00:27:48.039 --> 00:27:49.440
 that is

00:27:49.440 --> 00:27:49.879
 to give

00:27:49.879 --> 00:27:50.420
 ourselves

00:27:50.420 --> 00:27:51.259
 in loving

00:27:51.259 --> 00:27:51.940
 serving

00:27:51.940 --> 00:27:52.759
 leadership

00:27:52.759 --> 00:27:53.539
 of our

00:27:53.539 --> 00:27:54.080
 wives

00:27:54.080 --> 00:27:55.680
 so that

00:27:55.680 --> 00:27:56.080
 through

00:27:56.080 --> 00:27:56.460
 our

00:27:56.460 --> 00:27:56.960
 love

00:27:56.960 --> 00:27:57.940
 they may

00:27:57.940 --> 00:27:58.299
 become

00:27:58.299 --> 00:27:58.580
 more

00:27:58.580 --> 00:27:59.259
 beautiful

00:27:59.259 --> 00:28:00.440
 on the

00:28:00.440 --> 00:28:01.160
 inside

00:28:01.160 --> 00:28:04.400
 potential

00:28:04.400 --> 00:28:05.559
 wives

00:28:05.559 --> 00:28:06.960
 never

00:28:06.960 --> 00:28:07.440
 settle

00:28:07.440 --> 00:28:08.100
 for anything

00:28:08.100 --> 00:28:08.600
 less

00:28:08.600 --> 00:28:09.320
 than a

00:28:09.320 --> 00:28:09.700
 husband

00:28:09.700 --> 00:28:10.779
 who will

00:28:10.779 --> 00:28:11.019
 give

00:28:11.019 --> 00:28:11.559
 themselves

00:28:11.559 --> 00:28:12.460
 in loving

00:28:12.460 --> 00:28:13.420
 serving

00:28:13.420 --> 00:28:14.299
 leadership

00:28:14.299 --> 00:28:18.519
 so that's

00:28:18.519 --> 00:28:19.059
 the design

00:28:19.059 --> 00:28:19.240
 of

00:28:19.240 --> 00:28:19.440
 head

00:28:19.440 --> 00:28:19.619
 ship

00:28:19.619 --> 00:28:20.079
 what about

00:28:20.079 --> 00:28:20.799
 the design

00:28:20.799 --> 00:28:21.180
 of

00:28:21.180 --> 00:28:21.819
 submission

00:28:21.819 --> 00:28:22.339
 the

00:28:22.339 --> 00:28:22.759
 wife

00:28:22.759 --> 00:28:24.759
 well the

00:28:24.759 --> 00:28:25.200
 wife's

00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:25.579
 submission

00:28:25.579 --> 00:28:25.980
 to the

00:28:25.980 --> 00:28:26.399
 husband

00:28:26.399 --> 00:28:27.039
 is again

00:28:27.039 --> 00:28:27.759
 modeled on

00:28:27.759 --> 00:28:28.440
 the church's

00:28:28.440 --> 00:28:29.099
 submission to

00:28:29.099 --> 00:28:29.480
 Christ

00:28:29.480 --> 00:28:30.119
 look at

00:28:30.119 --> 00:28:31.139
 Ephesians 5

00:28:31.139 --> 00:28:31.980
 verse 22

00:28:31.980 --> 00:28:33.539
 and 24

00:28:33.539 --> 00:28:34.180
 wives

00:28:34.180 --> 00:28:35.339
 submit to

00:28:35.339 --> 00:28:36.079
 your husbands

00:28:36.079 --> 00:28:37.799
 as to

00:28:37.799 --> 00:28:38.419
 the Lord

00:28:38.420 --> 00:28:40.580
 verse 24

00:28:40.580 --> 00:28:41.519
 now as the

00:28:41.519 --> 00:28:42.400
 church submits

00:28:42.400 --> 00:28:43.120
 to Christ

00:28:43.120 --> 00:28:45.120
 so also

00:28:45.120 --> 00:28:46.000
 wives should

00:28:46.000 --> 00:28:46.680
 submit to

00:28:46.680 --> 00:28:47.420
 their husbands

00:28:47.420 --> 00:28:49.300
 in everything

00:28:49.300 --> 00:28:52.000
 now let's be

00:28:52.000 --> 00:28:52.259
 clear

00:28:52.259 --> 00:28:53.360
 submission if we

00:28:53.360 --> 00:28:54.279
 were to read

00:28:54.279 --> 00:28:55.640
 the whole context

00:28:55.640 --> 00:28:56.740
 of chapter 5

00:28:56.740 --> 00:28:58.640
 it starts by

00:28:58.640 --> 00:28:59.240
 telling us that

00:28:59.240 --> 00:28:59.779
 we are to

00:28:59.779 --> 00:29:00.680
 submit to

00:29:00.680 --> 00:29:01.200
 one another

00:29:01.200 --> 00:29:01.940
 verse 21

00:29:01.940 --> 00:29:02.680
 so submission

00:29:02.680 --> 00:29:03.300
 isn't just

00:29:03.300 --> 00:29:04.279
 for wives

00:29:04.279 --> 00:29:04.860
 just for women

00:29:04.859 --> 00:29:05.959
 we're all to

00:29:05.959 --> 00:29:07.339
 submit to

00:29:07.339 --> 00:29:07.939
 one another

00:29:07.939 --> 00:29:08.859
 in order

00:29:08.859 --> 00:29:10.059
 to submit to

00:29:10.059 --> 00:29:10.879
 God's design

00:29:10.879 --> 00:29:11.519
 and purposes

00:29:11.519 --> 00:29:12.479
 for us

00:29:12.479 --> 00:29:14.599
 and submission

00:29:14.599 --> 00:29:15.419
 is not about

00:29:15.419 --> 00:29:16.500
 obeying every

00:29:16.500 --> 00:29:17.299
 demand or

00:29:17.299 --> 00:29:18.139
 decree of

00:29:18.139 --> 00:29:18.779
 your husband

00:29:18.779 --> 00:29:20.319
 submission

00:29:20.319 --> 00:29:21.740
 is primarily

00:29:21.740 --> 00:29:22.959
 about obedience

00:29:22.959 --> 00:29:23.799
 to God's

00:29:23.799 --> 00:29:24.319
 order and

00:29:24.319 --> 00:29:25.099
 God's design

00:29:25.099 --> 00:29:26.019
 it's about

00:29:26.019 --> 00:29:27.079
 living life

00:29:27.079 --> 00:29:28.059
 as God

00:29:28.059 --> 00:29:28.859
 intended you

00:29:28.859 --> 00:29:29.199
 to live

00:29:29.199 --> 00:29:29.759
 this is his

00:29:29.759 --> 00:29:30.759
 best for you

00:29:30.759 --> 00:29:33.539
 in practice

00:29:33.539 --> 00:29:34.259
 wives it

00:29:34.259 --> 00:29:34.839
 means not

00:29:34.839 --> 00:29:36.079
 being insistent

00:29:36.079 --> 00:29:37.419
 on one's

00:29:37.419 --> 00:29:37.859
 rights

00:29:37.859 --> 00:29:39.639
 not always

00:29:39.639 --> 00:29:40.359
 pushy and

00:29:40.359 --> 00:29:40.919
 demanding

00:29:40.919 --> 00:29:41.619
 your own

00:29:41.619 --> 00:29:42.000
 way

00:29:42.000 --> 00:29:43.659
 but instead

00:29:43.659 --> 00:29:44.659
 becoming a

00:29:44.659 --> 00:29:45.179
 partner

00:29:45.179 --> 00:29:46.339
 instead coming

00:29:46.339 --> 00:29:47.459
 alongside your

00:29:47.459 --> 00:29:48.599
 husband and

00:29:48.599 --> 00:29:49.939
 encouraging him

00:29:49.939 --> 00:29:51.279
 on in his

00:29:51.279 --> 00:29:51.639
 role

00:29:51.639 --> 00:29:54.779
 John Stott has

00:29:54.779 --> 00:29:55.339
 put it well

00:29:55.339 --> 00:29:55.980
 like this he

00:29:55.980 --> 00:29:56.799
 says submission

00:29:56.799 --> 00:29:57.859
 to the husband's

00:29:57.859 --> 00:29:59.480
 role does not

00:29:59.480 --> 00:30:00.539
 mean living under

00:30:00.539 --> 00:30:01.899
 a tyranny of

00:30:01.899 --> 00:30:02.519
 oppression

00:30:02.519 --> 00:30:04.019
 compassion but

00:30:04.019 --> 00:30:04.579
 under his

00:30:04.579 --> 00:30:05.480
 responsibility

00:30:05.480 --> 00:30:07.440
 and care

00:30:07.440 --> 00:30:10.319
 so here we

00:30:10.319 --> 00:30:10.920
 have these

00:30:10.920 --> 00:30:12.059
 wonderful pictures

00:30:12.059 --> 00:30:13.879
 of what it is

00:30:13.879 --> 00:30:15.119
 to live in

00:30:15.119 --> 00:30:16.019
 God's design

00:30:16.019 --> 00:30:17.480
 together the

00:30:17.480 --> 00:30:18.400
 husband and

00:30:18.400 --> 00:30:19.279
 the wife paint

00:30:19.279 --> 00:30:19.900
 a beautiful

00:30:19.900 --> 00:30:21.259
 picture of the

00:30:21.259 --> 00:30:22.879
 gospel and

00:30:22.879 --> 00:30:23.639
 as we live

00:30:23.639 --> 00:30:24.339
 according to

00:30:24.339 --> 00:30:25.139
 God's design

00:30:25.139 --> 00:30:26.539
 they point

00:30:26.539 --> 00:30:27.839
 people around

00:30:27.839 --> 00:30:29.199
 them to the

00:30:29.199 --> 00:30:29.639
 love of

00:30:29.639 --> 00:30:31.859
 Christ and

00:30:31.859 --> 00:30:32.299
 how we

00:30:32.299 --> 00:30:32.679
 ought to

00:30:32.679 --> 00:30:33.720
 respond to

00:30:33.720 --> 00:30:34.240
 Christ

00:30:34.240 --> 00:30:35.859
 that's why

00:30:35.859 --> 00:30:36.740
 marriage is

00:30:36.740 --> 00:30:37.519
 so vital

00:30:37.519 --> 00:30:39.599
 as we go

00:30:39.599 --> 00:30:40.119
 about our

00:30:40.119 --> 00:30:41.079
 day every

00:30:41.079 --> 00:30:41.619
 day as we

00:30:41.619 --> 00:30:42.240
 go to work

00:30:42.240 --> 00:30:42.839
 as we live

00:30:42.839 --> 00:30:43.459
 amongst our

00:30:43.459 --> 00:30:43.919
 neighbours

00:30:43.919 --> 00:30:45.419
 our marriages

00:30:45.419 --> 00:30:46.419
 are on

00:30:46.419 --> 00:30:48.339
 display all

00:30:48.339 --> 00:30:49.039
 the time

00:30:49.039 --> 00:30:50.619
 our marriages

00:30:50.619 --> 00:30:51.299
 are out there

00:30:51.299 --> 00:30:51.859
 people are

00:30:51.859 --> 00:30:52.659
 looking at us

00:30:52.659 --> 00:30:53.539
 they are always

00:30:53.539 --> 00:30:54.799
 witnessing our

00:30:54.799 --> 00:30:55.480
 marriages are

00:30:55.480 --> 00:30:56.900
 always communicating

00:30:56.900 --> 00:30:58.400
 something to

00:30:58.400 --> 00:30:59.319
 everybody else

00:30:59.319 --> 00:31:00.180
 around us

00:31:00.180 --> 00:31:02.380
 and by God's

00:31:02.380 --> 00:31:02.799
 grace

00:31:02.799 --> 00:31:06.160
 we can

00:31:06.160 --> 00:31:06.779
 communicate

00:31:06.779 --> 00:31:07.599
 through our

00:31:07.599 --> 00:31:08.819
 marriage the

00:31:08.819 --> 00:31:09.980
 gospel of

00:31:09.980 --> 00:31:10.980
 Jesus Christ

00:31:10.980 --> 00:31:13.360
 people see a

00:31:13.360 --> 00:31:14.200
 visible picture

00:31:14.200 --> 00:31:15.980
 of Christ's

00:31:15.980 --> 00:31:17.160
 love for the

00:31:17.160 --> 00:31:17.880
 church as the

00:31:17.880 --> 00:31:18.700
 husband loves

00:31:18.700 --> 00:31:19.539
 his wife

00:31:19.539 --> 00:31:21.460
 and people

00:31:21.460 --> 00:31:22.139
 get to see

00:31:22.139 --> 00:31:22.619
 how we

00:31:22.619 --> 00:31:23.399
 should respond

00:31:23.399 --> 00:31:24.139
 to Christ

00:31:24.139 --> 00:31:25.940
 as the

00:31:25.940 --> 00:31:26.799
 wife submits

00:31:26.799 --> 00:31:27.779
 and supports

00:31:27.779 --> 00:31:29.279
 her husband

00:31:29.279 --> 00:31:32.500
 so men

00:31:32.500 --> 00:31:34.420
 and all

00:31:34.420 --> 00:31:35.059
 potential

00:31:35.059 --> 00:31:35.759
 husbands

00:31:35.759 --> 00:31:37.839
 take

00:31:37.839 --> 00:31:39.379
 responsibility

00:31:39.379 --> 00:31:41.359
 take this

00:31:41.359 --> 00:31:42.019
 calling

00:31:42.019 --> 00:31:43.440
 seriously

00:31:43.440 --> 00:31:45.659
 and lead

00:31:45.659 --> 00:31:46.420
 your marriages

00:31:46.420 --> 00:31:47.440
 well

00:31:47.440 --> 00:31:50.759
 and wives

00:31:50.759 --> 00:31:52.660
 take your

00:31:52.660 --> 00:31:53.120
 calling

00:31:53.120 --> 00:31:53.900
 seriously

00:31:53.900 --> 00:31:55.860
 and know

00:31:55.860 --> 00:31:56.380
 what it is

00:31:56.380 --> 00:31:57.140
 to submit

00:31:57.140 --> 00:31:58.259
 to your

00:31:58.259 --> 00:31:58.779
 husbands

00:31:58.779 --> 00:32:00.860
 in partnership

00:32:00.860 --> 00:32:03.440
 and may God

00:32:03.440 --> 00:32:04.039
 give us the

00:32:04.039 --> 00:32:04.960
 grace to live

00:32:04.960 --> 00:32:05.400
 out his

00:32:05.400 --> 00:32:06.500
 beautiful design

00:32:06.500 --> 00:32:08.160
 every single

00:32:08.160 --> 00:32:08.519
 day

00:32:08.519 --> 00:32:10.220
 let's pray

00:32:10.220 --> 00:32:32.660
 our father

00:32:32.660 --> 00:32:33.240
 God we

00:32:33.240 --> 00:32:34.039
 come to you

00:32:34.039 --> 00:32:34.400
 and

00:32:34.400 --> 00:32:36.480
 well we

00:32:36.480 --> 00:32:37.000
 acknowledge

00:32:37.000 --> 00:32:37.960
 perhaps we're

00:32:37.960 --> 00:32:38.400
 feeling

00:32:38.400 --> 00:32:40.019
 a little

00:32:40.019 --> 00:32:40.240
 bit

00:32:40.240 --> 00:32:40.920
 rebuked

00:32:40.920 --> 00:32:43.340
 and challenged

00:32:43.340 --> 00:32:44.400
 about your

00:32:44.400 --> 00:32:45.860
 your model

00:32:45.860 --> 00:32:46.320
 and your

00:32:46.320 --> 00:32:47.120
 design for

00:32:47.120 --> 00:32:47.500
 how we

00:32:47.500 --> 00:32:48.000
 should live

00:32:48.000 --> 00:32:50.800
 but thank

00:32:50.800 --> 00:32:51.200
 you for

00:32:51.200 --> 00:32:51.960
 your grace

00:32:51.960 --> 00:32:54.259
 that even

00:32:54.259 --> 00:32:54.740
 what we've

00:32:54.740 --> 00:32:55.140
 been looking

00:32:55.140 --> 00:32:55.920
 at reminds

00:32:55.920 --> 00:32:57.160
 us of

00:32:57.160 --> 00:32:57.820
 the gospel

00:32:57.820 --> 00:32:58.340
 the good

00:32:58.340 --> 00:32:58.820
 news of

00:32:58.820 --> 00:32:59.140
 Jesus

00:32:59.140 --> 00:33:01.080
 that we

00:33:01.080 --> 00:33:01.560
 can come

00:33:01.560 --> 00:33:02.100
 to him

00:33:02.100 --> 00:33:02.780
 time and

00:33:02.780 --> 00:33:03.360
 time again

00:33:03.360 --> 00:33:05.980
 and find

00:33:05.980 --> 00:33:06.540
 forgiveness

00:33:06.539 --> 00:33:09.859
 and find

00:33:09.859 --> 00:33:10.480
 the grace

00:33:10.480 --> 00:33:11.059
 and the

00:33:11.059 --> 00:33:11.440
 mercy

00:33:11.440 --> 00:33:13.500
 and the

00:33:13.500 --> 00:33:14.200
 way to

00:33:14.200 --> 00:33:14.740
 go on

00:33:14.740 --> 00:33:15.259
 living as

00:33:15.259 --> 00:33:15.680
 you call

00:33:15.680 --> 00:33:16.019
 us to

00:33:16.019 --> 00:33:16.299
 live

00:33:16.299 --> 00:33:18.879
 I pray

00:33:18.879 --> 00:33:19.619
 for every

00:33:19.619 --> 00:33:20.159
 marriage

00:33:20.159 --> 00:33:21.359
 represented

00:33:21.359 --> 00:33:21.819
 here

00:33:21.819 --> 00:33:23.899
 that you

00:33:23.899 --> 00:33:24.500
 would protect

00:33:24.500 --> 00:33:24.799
 them

00:33:24.799 --> 00:33:25.740
 and keep

00:33:25.740 --> 00:33:26.359
 them

00:33:26.359 --> 00:33:28.539
 enable each

00:33:28.539 --> 00:33:29.359
 husband here

00:33:29.359 --> 00:33:30.159
 to lead

00:33:30.159 --> 00:33:31.599
 his marriage

00:33:31.599 --> 00:33:32.180
 and his

00:33:32.180 --> 00:33:32.680
 family

00:33:32.680 --> 00:33:33.700
 well

00:33:33.700 --> 00:33:36.880
 may

00:33:36.880 --> 00:33:37.180
 every

00:33:37.180 --> 00:33:37.640
 wife

00:33:37.640 --> 00:33:38.900
 and

00:33:38.900 --> 00:33:39.460
 potential

00:33:39.460 --> 00:33:40.000
 wife

00:33:40.000 --> 00:33:42.200
 know what

00:33:42.200 --> 00:33:42.600
 it is

00:33:42.600 --> 00:33:43.340
 to live

00:33:43.340 --> 00:33:44.059
 alongside

00:33:44.059 --> 00:33:44.759
 their

00:33:44.759 --> 00:33:45.180
 husband

00:33:45.180 --> 00:33:46.319
 in

00:33:46.319 --> 00:33:46.880
 submission

00:33:46.880 --> 00:33:48.519
 in

00:33:48.519 --> 00:33:49.140
 partnership

00:33:49.140 --> 00:33:52.860
 and we

00:33:52.860 --> 00:33:53.340
 pray that

00:33:53.340 --> 00:33:53.620
 you would

00:33:53.620 --> 00:33:53.960
 give us

00:33:53.960 --> 00:33:54.420
 the grace

00:33:54.420 --> 00:33:54.920
 to do

00:33:54.920 --> 00:33:55.340
 this

00:33:55.340 --> 00:33:56.360
 and

00:33:56.360 --> 00:33:56.880
 ultimately

00:33:56.880 --> 00:33:58.360
 that it

00:33:58.360 --> 00:33:58.880
 may lead

00:33:58.880 --> 00:33:59.360
 and point

00:33:59.360 --> 00:33:59.840
 others

00:33:59.839 --> 00:34:01.179
 to

00:34:01.179 --> 00:34:01.919
 our

00:34:01.919 --> 00:34:02.419
 saviour

00:34:02.419 --> 00:34:02.819
 jesus

00:34:02.819 --> 00:34:03.299
 christ

00:34:03.299 --> 00:34:05.720
 so please

00:34:05.720 --> 00:34:06.319
 help us

00:34:06.319 --> 00:34:07.439
 and help us

00:34:07.439 --> 00:34:08.079
 all to be an

00:34:08.079 --> 00:34:09.059
 encouragement to

00:34:09.059 --> 00:34:09.579
 one another

00:34:09.579 --> 00:34:11.599
 we ask all

00:34:11.599 --> 00:34:12.000
 this in

00:34:12.000 --> 00:34:12.759
 jesus name

00:34:12.759 --> 00:34:14.119
 amen