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 Okay, today I'm going to talk about repenting from victim mentality.

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! Repenting from victim mentality.

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! I'm going to start off with a verse from John chapter 7.

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 Asked them, hey, am I going to heaven?

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 You know, they were searched and they were immediately held accountable.

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 And they had no excuses.

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 That's what being around Jesus is like.

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 And I just thought about that.

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 Like, what is it to have a church where, you know, Jesus says he's here with us for his body.

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 He lives and dwells in the temple through the Holy Spirit.

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 So it should be like that, you know.

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 I don't know if any of you who've read Chronicles of Narnia, I love all the scenes with Aslan because it's exactly like this.

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 I think C.S. Lewis just nails it.

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 Just this, he immediately calls you to account.

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 If you start complaining about other people, he more or less is like, what's that to you?

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 You know.

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 And there's immediately just this sense of, oh, it's Aslan.

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 My mouth is shut.

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 And yeah, I am accountable.

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 And I've been distracted by a bunch of other things that are preventing me to see that I'm accountable.

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 And then you talk to me and now I see it.

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 And that's what it should be like in Christ's church.

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 You know.

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 He sent the ministry of the Holy Spirit for the upbuilding.

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 We speak the truth of love to the building up of the church that we might grow up into Jesus in all things.

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 And part of that is being held accountable.

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 And there's, I don't know if this is the best term for it, but I think the opposite of being held accountable is having a victim mentality.

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 Holding on to this thing that disperses my accountability among a bunch of other people.

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 And that's all I want to talk about today.

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 So victim mentality.

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 Repenting from victim mentality.

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 First, what is victim mentality?

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 So I'll look at two sources.

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 I'm going to look at Grok, which is an AI thing through Twitter.

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 For those of you who like AI, I enjoy it.

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 I did not write my sermon in AI, but I did get a definition for this.

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 And then the Bible.

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 Okay, so we're going to major on the Bible, but we're going to minor on this definition.

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 We're going to start off with this one because it's really good.

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 So Grok.

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 Grok.

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 I asked Grok, what is victim mentality?

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 Grok says victim mentality is, the definition of victim mentality is,

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 a psychological mindset where an individual consistently perceives themselves as the victim of circumstances.

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 As a victim of other people's actions.

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 As a victim of external events.

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 Often feeling powerless to change their situation.

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 It involves a persistent belief that one is unfairly treated, targeted, or unable to influence their life outcomes.

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 Leading to a cycle of self-pity, blame, and avoidance of personal responsibility.

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 This is awesome.

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 I love it.

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 It's great.

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 Sounds good.

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 We'll see if the Bible corroborates this, but, you know, sounds good so far.

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 Key characteristics.

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 These are some indicators.

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 This is characteristics that typify someone who has a victim mentality.

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 Number one, external blame.

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 They often point fingers at others or outside events for their problems.

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 Like saying, everyone's out to get me, instead of looking at their own actions.

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 Number two, a sense of powerlessness.

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 They feel like they have no control over what happens to them as if they're stuck and they can't make things better.

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 Self-pity.

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 They focus a lot on their struggles.

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 Sometimes making them seem worse than they are, which keeps them feeling like a victim.

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 Avoidance of responsibility.

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 Number four, they avoid owning up to their mistakes and prefer to say someone or something else caused their issues.

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 Defensiveness.

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 Defensiveness.

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 When someone gives them feedback, they might take it personally.

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 Get upset or see it as an attack instead of a chance to grow.

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 Number six, entitlement.

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 They may think they deserve extra sympathy or help from others because of their hardships.

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 Number seven, pessimism.

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 They tend to expect the worst, like thinking things will always go wrong or people will let them down.

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 Number eight, repetition of negative patterns.

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 They often end up in situations where they feel mistreated or taken advantage of as their mindset keeps pulling them into these cycles.

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 So all these characteristics, external blame, sense of powerlessness, self-pity, avoidance of responsibility, defensiveness, entitlement, pessimism.

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 Man, it happens a lot.

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 But everywhere they go, somehow they're done wrong and it ain't their fault.

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 Okay?

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 That's what someone who has a victim mentality acts like.

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 So if none of these are familiar to you, you need to go and have like a humility check.

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 Like this is convicting to me categorically on every single one of these.

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 And it should be convicting to us because this is baked into our Adamic, sinful nature, which we'll read about when we get to the Bible's definitions.

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 So that's what Grok says.

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 Okay?

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 Set that aside.

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 People make things up.

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 You know, what does the Bible have to say?

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 Maybe that's all wrong.

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 All right?

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 So now we're going to pivot to the Bible, see what the Bible has to say about victim mentality.

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 I think there's two stories.

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 I want to read two stories.

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 I think they're a good example of this.

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 The first is Adam and Eve.

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 Genesis chapter 3, verses 9 through 13.

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 The context for this is God had commanded Adam to not eat the tree of knowledge of good and evil.

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 He forms Eve after this.

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 And you know the story.

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 They fall into sin.

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 They eat it.

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 They eat the apple.

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 Okay?

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 And so now they're in a state of sin.

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 And God's following up on it.

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 This is the context for this.

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 Verse 9.

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 But the Lord God called to the man and said to him, where are you?

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 And he said, Adam is hiding, by the way.

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 He'd made fig leaves for himself and he was covering himself up because he realized he was naked.

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 Him and his wife gloom.

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 And they're hiding from God.

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 All right?

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 And Adam said, I heard the sound of you in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked and I hid myself.

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 And God said, who told you that you were naked?

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 Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?

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 The man said, the woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me the fruit of the tree and I ate it.

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 Then the Lord God said to the woman, what is this that you have done?

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 And the woman said, the serpent deceived me and I ate.

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 So, do any of these sound familiar?

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 External blame.

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 It's God.

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 You gave me this woman.

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 Each other.

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 You know.

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 The devil.

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 The devil made me do it.

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 Technically, those are all true.

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 See, that's the problem with this mentality is it takes facts, true things,

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 and warps them to defend you from your ownership of your own sin.

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 Sense of powerlessness.

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 She gave me the fruit and I ate.

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 I mean, what's it supposed to do?

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 She gave it to me, you know.

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 The serpent deceived me and I ate.

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 I just, I couldn't help it, you know.

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 I'm a woman, right?

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 I know that's offensive, but this is, this is,

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 this is the narratives we run, you know.

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 I mean, Paul says it.

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 He says, hey, listen, the reason women are not to hold a role of authority in the church

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 is because Eve was deceived and the man wasn't deceived.

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 He did it knowingly, okay?

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 He's more culpable.

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 That's a fact.

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 She's alluding to this right off the very beginning.

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 Does it absolve her of her moral agency?

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 No.

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 No.

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 She's accountable.

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 Anyway, self-pity.

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 Avoidance of responsibility.

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 They're immediately hiding, okay?

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 They're trying to hide from God.

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 They don't want to, you know,

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 they don't want to have this conversation that's about to happen.

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 Defensiveness.

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 God just asked, did you do it?

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 You realize that they didn't even,

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 they didn't just say yes.

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 They gave a case.

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 They started off with a case.

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 Yeah, the woman you gave me, you know,

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 she gave it to me and I ate it.

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 The serpent deceived me and I ate it.

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 He just said, did you do it?

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 Accountability just says yes.

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 You know, they didn't do that.

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 Blame shifting, hiding.

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 Defensiveness.

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 Entitlement.

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 They're garnering sympathy.

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 You gave me this, you know, woman.

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 You know how possible she is.

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 Give me fruit, you know, like,

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 it's just immediately.

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 It's the devil.

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 He's the deceiver.

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 Like, who could stand in the presence of the deceiver like that?

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 Of course I've got to see, you know, entitlement.

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 So I think these characteristics are pretty clear.

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 They're here.

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 Pessimism.

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 You know, they have a sense of foreboding,

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 driven by their guilt.

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 They're hiding from God.

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 Something bad's going to happen.

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 Guilt makes that happen.

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 You have a pessimistic outlook always.

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 You probably are loaded down with guilt.

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 It clouds everything.

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 Okay?

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 Repetition of negative patterns.

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 You see they had one sin,

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 and then they started stacking them all.

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 Okay?

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 They didn't stop the sinning.

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 It's blaming people.

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 It's hiding.

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 It's trying self-righteously to make some garments for yourself

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 and clothe yourself.

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 You know, they're just,

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 they're immediately in a cycle.

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 You know?

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 So anyway, I think those are all the Grok attributes, I guess,

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 and they seem pretty substantial.

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 You know, they're substantiated by this.

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 So seems to shake out here.

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 There's two more, though, that jumped out to me here.

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 I think this is where we start to see how Christian the Bible is.

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 The world doesn't think about certain things that God does.

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 You see they did some other things, too.

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 They started making self-righteous sacrifices.

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 They immediately started trying to deal with their sin and their guilt

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 with their own effort.

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 They make fig leaves,

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 try to cover themselves.

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 That's not in the Grok definition,

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 but I think it fits.

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 Okay?

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 That fits with how we are.

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 When we're locked in a cycle of victimhood,

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 you can see it play out like that.

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 We'll talk about that more later.

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 And then no conviction of sin.

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 You see, there is no conviction of sin.

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 They were sorry.

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 They were admitting it.

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 No.

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 There's no conviction of sin.

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 They hated the consequences.

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 They got caught.

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 They didn't hate the sin.

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 They hated that they got caught,

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 and they were trying to get out somehow of the consequences

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 by blaming other people,

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 throwing other people under the bus.

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 All right.

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 It's example number one.

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 Example number two.

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 Jesus' parable of the minas or the minas.

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 I don't know how to pronounce it,

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 but I'll call it minas.

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 Luke 19, verses 12 through 27.

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 He said,

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 This is Jesus speaking.

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 A nobleman went into a far country

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 to receive for himself a kingdom

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 and then return.

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 Calling ten of his servants,

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 he gave them ten minas

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 and said to them,

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 Engage in business until I come.

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 But his citizens hated him

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 and sent a delegation after him,

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 saying,

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 We do not want this man to reign over us.

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 When he returned,

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 having received the kingdom,

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 he ordered these servants

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 to whom he had given the money

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 to be called to him

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 that he might know

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 what they had gained by doing business.

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 The first came before him,

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 saying,

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 Lord,

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 your mina has made ten minas more.

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 And he said to him,

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 Well done,

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 good servant,

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 because you've been faithful

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 in very little.

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 You shall have authority

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 over ten cities.

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 And the second came,

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 saying,

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 Lord,

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 your mina has made five minas.

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 And he said to him,

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 And you are to be over five cities.

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 And then another came,

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 saying,

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 Lord,

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 here is your mina,

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 which I have laid away

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 in a handkerchief.

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 For I was afraid of you,

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 because you are a severe man.

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 You take what you did not deposit

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 and you reap what you did not sow.

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 And the master said to him,

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 I will condemn you

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 with your own words,

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 you wicked servant.

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 You knew that I was a severe man

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 taking what I did not deposit

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 and reaping what I did not sow.

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 Why then did you not put my money

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 in the bank

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 and at my coming

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 I might have collected it

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 with interest?

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 And he said to those who stood by,

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 Take the mina from him

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 and give it to the one

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 who has the ten minas.

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 And they said to him,

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 Lord,

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 he has ten minas.

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 You can see this kind of

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 humanistic,

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 humanistic,

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 like,

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 fairness mentality

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 creeping here.

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 It's just like,

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 what?

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 You're going to give this

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 to the one who has the most?

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 It's just like,

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 I mean,

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 share,

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 you know?

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 It's not the way the Lord works.

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 I tell you,

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 why?

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 Why does he do that?

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 I tell you that everyone

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 who has,

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 more will be given.

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 Okay?

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 But from the one

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 who has not,

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 even what he has

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 will be taken away.

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 But as for these enemies

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 of mine,

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 who did not want me

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 to reign over them,

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 bring them here

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 and slaughter them before me.

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 Whew,

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 man.

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 That is a brutal story.

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 There's a lot to say

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 about that principle.

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 I'm just going to say

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 this as an aside.

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 God is not like we are.

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 He's not a humanist.

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 He doesn't have

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 this weird sense

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 of fairness.

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 He has,

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 the economy

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 in his kingdom

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 is faithfulness.

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 If you are faithful

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 with little,

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 you will get more.

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 And if you are faithful

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 with that,

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 you will get more.

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 You know who God

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 gives stuff to?

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 People who've been

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 faithful with much.

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 He has no

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 quals

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 not giving you anything

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 if you're not faithful

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 with it.

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 Okay?

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 So,

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 setting that aside,

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 just,

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 you know,

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 this principle is all

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 over scripture.

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 I think it bears mentioning.

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 Okay,

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 but anyway,

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 back to the attributes

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 of,

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 of,

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 the grok attributes

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 of victim mentality.

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 We have them here.

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 External blame.

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 Servant blames his master

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 for his failure.

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 It's because you're

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 such a hard guy.

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 Like,

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 who could invest

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 with a guy like you?

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 Sense of powerlessness.

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 Sense of powerlessness.

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 He won't accept

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 that he has the ability

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 to go grow that investment.

00:14:58.399 --> 00:14:58.620
 You know?

00:14:59.240 --> 00:14:59.799
 It's magic.

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 I don't know all this,

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 you know,

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 investment stuff.

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 It's too risky,

00:15:02.059 --> 00:15:02.259
 you know?

00:15:02.340 --> 00:15:02.699
 I'm just gonna.

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 Self-pity.

00:15:06.120 --> 00:15:07.120
 He tries to elicit sympathy

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 for his disobedience.

00:15:08.620 --> 00:15:09.579
 Avoids responsibility.

00:15:09.879 --> 00:15:10.699
 He blames his master.

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 Again,

00:15:11.139 --> 00:15:11.639
 blame shifting.

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 He doesn't own

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 his own sinful fear

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 of failure.

00:15:16.699 --> 00:15:17.879
 He blames his master.

00:15:18.059 --> 00:15:18.720
 You're just too scary,

00:15:18.840 --> 00:15:19.059
 you know?

00:15:19.840 --> 00:15:20.159
 Entitlement.

00:15:20.340 --> 00:15:21.340
 Tries to get sympathy

00:15:21.340 --> 00:15:22.399
 by accusing his master

00:15:22.399 --> 00:15:23.179
 of being too hard.

00:15:23.860 --> 00:15:24.220
 Pessimism.

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 He just assumes

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 from the outset

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 it's not gonna go well

00:15:26.220 --> 00:15:26.559
 for him,

00:15:26.639 --> 00:15:26.899
 okay?

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 So you have it all there.

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 Every single one

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 of those things.

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 And then you have

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 the two extra,

00:15:33.600 --> 00:15:34.240
 the Bible ones,

00:15:34.299 --> 00:15:34.439
 right?

00:15:34.439 --> 00:15:35.819
 Self-righteous sacrifices.

00:15:37.039 --> 00:15:37.159
 Right?

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 I did the thing.

00:15:38.679 --> 00:15:39.480
 I hid the talent.

00:15:40.319 --> 00:15:41.439
 He thought that was

00:15:41.440 --> 00:15:42.680
 his bare minimum.

00:15:42.780 --> 00:15:43.500
 He's being a good boy.

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 I did what you said.

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 I took care of it.

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 Like,

00:15:47.300 --> 00:15:47.560
 don't you,

00:15:47.680 --> 00:15:48.540
 aren't you gonna accept me?

00:15:48.600 --> 00:15:49.560
 At least I didn't lose it,

00:15:49.600 --> 00:15:49.820
 right?

00:15:50.780 --> 00:15:51.140
 No.

00:15:53.160 --> 00:15:54.400
 And no conviction of sin.

00:15:54.540 --> 00:15:55.260
 Zero ownership.

00:15:56.200 --> 00:15:56.360
 Okay?

00:15:56.560 --> 00:15:57.520
 Blaming his master.

00:15:58.860 --> 00:15:59.800
 So there it is.

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 So anyway,

00:16:01.380 --> 00:16:01.960
 I think the Grok,

00:16:01.960 --> 00:16:02.660
 the Grok list

00:16:02.660 --> 00:16:03.440
 is a pretty good list.

00:16:04.240 --> 00:16:05.320
 It misses some stuff

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 because it's not,

00:16:06.600 --> 00:16:07.340
 it doesn't have a sense

00:16:07.340 --> 00:16:08.540
 of the need for atonement.

00:16:08.940 --> 00:16:09.820
 It doesn't have the sense

00:16:09.820 --> 00:16:10.760
 of the need for conviction

00:16:10.759 --> 00:16:11.340
 and repentance.

00:16:13.039 --> 00:16:13.480
 You know,

00:16:13.500 --> 00:16:14.200
 the rest of the Grok

00:16:14.200 --> 00:16:15.580
 overview of it,

00:16:15.659 --> 00:16:15.899
 you know,

00:16:15.960 --> 00:16:16.220
 had,

00:16:16.659 --> 00:16:16.860
 you know,

00:16:16.960 --> 00:16:17.740
 I think the worldly,

00:16:17.879 --> 00:16:18.879
 there's a lot of worldly tools

00:16:18.879 --> 00:16:20.179
 that are good at diagnosing problems,

00:16:20.179 --> 00:16:21.500
 but they have horrible solutions.

00:16:21.860 --> 00:16:22.720
 Its solution is horrible.

00:16:23.019 --> 00:16:23.200
 You know,

00:16:23.220 --> 00:16:24.840
 just like counseling and therapy

00:16:24.840 --> 00:16:25.100
 for,

00:16:25.240 --> 00:16:25.340
 you know,

00:16:25.340 --> 00:16:26.059
 how you've grown up

00:16:26.059 --> 00:16:26.319
 and how,

00:16:26.460 --> 00:16:26.740
 you know,

00:16:27.139 --> 00:16:28.159
 your parents messed you up

00:16:28.159 --> 00:16:28.480
 and stuff.

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 And sure,

00:16:28.819 --> 00:16:29.659
 all that stuff happens,

00:16:29.659 --> 00:16:31.240
 but the Bible has a much more

00:16:31.240 --> 00:16:33.259
 foundational problem assessment.

00:16:34.259 --> 00:16:34.580
 Sinner.

00:16:35.500 --> 00:16:36.919
 You need salvation.

00:16:37.159 --> 00:16:38.059
 It's a big problem.

00:16:38.519 --> 00:16:39.079
 It's so big,

00:16:39.419 --> 00:16:40.339
 Jesus had to come down

00:16:40.339 --> 00:16:40.799
 from heaven

00:16:40.799 --> 00:16:43.179
 and he had to fix it for you.

00:16:43.779 --> 00:16:43.919
 Okay.

00:16:44.000 --> 00:16:44.500
 It's a big one.

00:16:45.459 --> 00:16:45.639
 So,

00:16:45.979 --> 00:16:47.199
 anyway,

00:16:47.500 --> 00:16:49.479
 I'm going to

00:16:49.479 --> 00:16:51.379
 take a little time here

00:16:51.379 --> 00:16:52.039
 and just walk through

00:16:52.039 --> 00:16:53.679
 a few other attributes.

00:16:53.939 --> 00:16:54.339
 These are things

00:16:54.339 --> 00:16:55.000
 that stood out to me

00:16:55.000 --> 00:16:55.779
 just reading the Bible,

00:16:55.979 --> 00:16:57.119
 just kind of meditating on this.

00:16:57.859 --> 00:16:58.239
 So,

00:16:58.319 --> 00:16:59.079
 what does victim mentality

00:16:59.079 --> 00:16:59.879
 look like in the Bible

00:16:59.879 --> 00:17:01.039
 from these stories?

00:17:01.859 --> 00:17:02.799
 It's lack of repentance.

00:17:04.019 --> 00:17:04.799
 You can just say

00:17:04.799 --> 00:17:05.599
 as simple as that.

00:17:06.159 --> 00:17:07.159
 Victim mentality,

00:17:07.680 --> 00:17:09.720
 a pervasive victim mindset,

00:17:10.339 --> 00:17:11.159
 it just means

00:17:11.159 --> 00:17:11.919
 you haven't repented.

00:17:12.919 --> 00:17:13.159
 Okay.

00:17:13.480 --> 00:17:14.359
 That's all it means.

00:17:14.579 --> 00:17:15.399
 Lack of repentance.

00:17:15.940 --> 00:17:16.879
 It's an indication

00:17:16.879 --> 00:17:19.460
 that you are not

00:17:19.460 --> 00:17:20.279
 accepting responsibility

00:17:20.279 --> 00:17:21.019
 for your own sin.

00:17:21.980 --> 00:17:22.759
 And you have a really

00:17:22.759 --> 00:17:25.079
 complicated set of behaviors

00:17:25.079 --> 00:17:27.119
 that take that responsibility

00:17:27.119 --> 00:17:27.940
 that the Holy Spirit

00:17:27.940 --> 00:17:28.799
 is trying to give you

00:17:28.799 --> 00:17:30.740
 and you're farming it out.

00:17:31.379 --> 00:17:32.059
 You're putting it

00:17:32.059 --> 00:17:32.899
 on your circumstances

00:17:32.899 --> 00:17:33.440
 and people

00:17:33.440 --> 00:17:33.759
 and, you know,

00:17:33.759 --> 00:17:34.400
 all that kind of stuff

00:17:34.400 --> 00:17:35.099
 we just talked about.

00:17:36.379 --> 00:17:37.379
 It means you haven't repented.

00:17:38.200 --> 00:17:38.440
 Okay.

00:17:40.619 --> 00:17:41.299
 In other words,

00:17:41.339 --> 00:17:41.839
 I'm going to call this

00:17:41.839 --> 00:17:43.859
 victim mentality unrepentance.

00:17:44.019 --> 00:17:44.900
 They're synonyms,

00:17:46.200 --> 00:17:46.379
 but

00:17:46.379 --> 00:17:48.480
 the victim mentality

00:17:48.480 --> 00:17:49.640
 is just a helpful way

00:17:49.640 --> 00:17:50.619
 of thinking about it.

00:17:50.619 --> 00:17:50.859
 Okay.

00:17:50.940 --> 00:17:51.680
 Because we know

00:17:51.680 --> 00:17:52.259
 we can say,

00:17:52.379 --> 00:17:52.680
 oh, yeah,

00:17:52.680 --> 00:17:53.680
 I totally do that.

00:17:54.119 --> 00:17:54.539
 You say,

00:17:54.960 --> 00:17:56.700
 I don't think you've repented.

00:17:57.740 --> 00:17:58.440
 I've repented

00:17:58.440 --> 00:17:59.279
 from all known sin.

00:17:59.440 --> 00:18:00.099
 What are you talking about?

00:18:00.940 --> 00:18:01.379
 You say,

00:18:01.480 --> 00:18:02.839
 you're living in a victim mentality.

00:18:02.940 --> 00:18:03.079
 It's like,

00:18:03.079 --> 00:18:03.579
 well, yeah,

00:18:03.679 --> 00:18:04.139
 but you know,

00:18:04.460 --> 00:18:05.079
 makes sense.

00:18:05.159 --> 00:18:06.659
 My circumstances are really hard.

00:18:06.759 --> 00:18:07.740
 You would too, right?

00:18:08.359 --> 00:18:08.639
 No.

00:18:09.359 --> 00:18:09.679
 No,

00:18:09.720 --> 00:18:10.399
 they're the same thing.

00:18:10.799 --> 00:18:11.079
 Okay.

00:18:11.439 --> 00:18:12.259
 We're going to talk about why

00:18:12.259 --> 00:18:12.759
 in a little bit.

00:18:13.399 --> 00:18:13.740
 So,

00:18:13.899 --> 00:18:14.539
 some evidences

00:18:14.539 --> 00:18:15.480
 of victim mentality.

00:18:15.899 --> 00:18:16.139
 It's not going to,

00:18:16.220 --> 00:18:19.019
 doing all of the proof text

00:18:19.019 --> 00:18:20.059
 for this would take way too long,

00:18:20.099 --> 00:18:21.199
 so I'm just going to burn through these.

00:18:21.200 --> 00:18:22.500
 If you think these,

00:18:22.799 --> 00:18:23.319
 if you have a problem

00:18:23.319 --> 00:18:23.940
 with any of these,

00:18:24.460 --> 00:18:25.120
 I encourage you

00:18:25.120 --> 00:18:25.559
 to search it out

00:18:25.559 --> 00:18:25.920
 in the scriptures

00:18:25.920 --> 00:18:26.640
 and see if it's true.

00:18:26.900 --> 00:18:27.120
 Okay.

00:18:27.559 --> 00:18:28.700
 And I do have proof text

00:18:28.700 --> 00:18:29.240
 for some of these,

00:18:29.360 --> 00:18:33.259
 but I have 18 evidences

00:18:33.259 --> 00:18:34.580
 of victim mentality

00:18:34.580 --> 00:18:35.519
 unrepentance.

00:18:35.960 --> 00:18:36.120
 Okay.

00:18:36.920 --> 00:18:37.559
 Number one,

00:18:38.059 --> 00:18:38.759
 this is the easy one.

00:18:38.940 --> 00:18:39.840
 You avoid responsibility

00:18:39.840 --> 00:18:40.400
 for sin.

00:18:40.620 --> 00:18:41.680
 It's somebody else's fault.

00:18:42.559 --> 00:18:42.720
 Yeah,

00:18:42.779 --> 00:18:42.960
 yeah,

00:18:43.019 --> 00:18:43.360
 it's sin,

00:18:43.440 --> 00:18:44.860
 but so and so.

00:18:45.620 --> 00:18:46.700
 My wife made me do it.

00:18:47.279 --> 00:18:48.420
 I was stressed out at work.

00:18:48.480 --> 00:18:49.000
 I was tired.

00:18:49.440 --> 00:18:49.720
 Whatever.

00:18:50.400 --> 00:18:50.580
 You know.

00:18:51.420 --> 00:18:52.080
 Number two,

00:18:52.200 --> 00:18:52.700
 blame shifting,

00:18:52.860 --> 00:18:53.500
 which is basically

00:18:53.500 --> 00:18:54.980
 the outworking

00:18:54.980 --> 00:18:56.380
 of not taking responsibility

00:18:56.380 --> 00:18:56.940
 for sin.

00:18:57.140 --> 00:18:57.180
 It's,

00:18:57.460 --> 00:18:58.340
 I'm not taking responsibility

00:18:58.340 --> 00:18:58.740
 for sin

00:18:58.740 --> 00:19:00.539
 and this is what I do about it.

00:19:00.720 --> 00:19:00.960
 Okay.

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 It's blaming God,

00:19:04.019 --> 00:19:04.660
 blaming others,

00:19:04.840 --> 00:19:05.700
 blaming circumstances.

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 God did not make you sin.

00:19:08.720 --> 00:19:09.000
 Okay.

00:19:09.500 --> 00:19:10.860
 The Bible is very clear about this.

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 Is there a mystery there?

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 God's sovereign?

00:19:13.400 --> 00:19:13.720
 Yes.

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 But the Bible,

00:19:15.259 --> 00:19:16.360
 there are mysterious things

00:19:16.359 --> 00:19:17.059
 that are not plain

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 and then there are plain things

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 that are plain

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 and this is one of the plain things

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 that are plain.

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 God cannot be tempted with evil

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 nor does he tempt anyone

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 but each man is led astray

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 when he's tempted.

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 Okay.

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 It's you.

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 Can't shift the blame on God.

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 God didn't make you sin.

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 Other people didn't make you sin either.

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 What if they're super bad other people?

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 What if they're extremely provocative?

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 They can't make you sin.

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 They can't.

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 It's impossible.

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 No one can make you sin.

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 You are the only one

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 who makes you sin

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 according to the Bible.

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 Blaming circumstances.

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 Life's too hard.

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 Have you seen how much I got on my plate?

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 Surely it's reasonable

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 that I can blow out.

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 Look at the Son of God.

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 Okay.

00:20:06.139 --> 00:20:07.599
 Tempted in every way

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 like we are

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 says in the news

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 yet without sin.

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 Okay.

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 I'm going to move through these

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 a little quicker.

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 Easily offended.

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 What is that?

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 What do you mean easily offended?

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 How is that a sign of victim mentality?

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 Some of these are

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 like directly victim mentality things

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 and other things are like

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 things you do

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 when you have victim mentality

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 that might not be that obvious.

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 I think getting offended

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 is one of them.

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 On two points.

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 One is

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 you get offended at people

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 for not helping you

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 with your responsibilities

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 because you're avoiding it.

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 Okay.

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 You don't want to do

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 that hard thing

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 and so you want

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 other people to help you do it

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 and you get mad at them

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 when they don't.

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 Even though it's totally illegal.

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 It's yours.

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 God gave you to do that thing.

00:20:49.879 --> 00:20:50.000
 Okay.

00:20:51.459 --> 00:20:52.240
 Getting offended

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 at people who point out your sin

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 because you already have a case

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 that you're not a sinner.

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 How dare you say otherwise?

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 How dare you say otherwise?

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 I'm offended at you.

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 Okay.

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 Because you have a victim mentality.

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 Number four.

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 Makes excuses for other people's sins

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 because you're making excuses

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 for your own.

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 It clouds everything.

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 Avoids calling people to repent

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 because you're avoiding it too.

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 Okay.

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 Divisive gossiping.

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 I think this is an interesting one

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 that occurred to me

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 because this is me.

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 I've done this.

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 And the specific reason

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 I think how these are connected is

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 victims feel they have a right to gossip

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 because they've been done wrong.

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 That person doesn't deserve

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 a direct, loving, frank confrontation

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 because they've done me wrong.

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 So I now have a license to go

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 say all kinds of things about them

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 behind their back.

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 Victim mentality.

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 Taking up offenses for others.

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 This is where you agree

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 with another sinner's

00:21:58.079 --> 00:21:59.579
 controversy with God

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 or other people

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 because you have your own

00:22:02.879 --> 00:22:03.879
 controversy going on.

00:22:04.579 --> 00:22:04.799
 Okay.

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 So you're primed and ready

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 to take up an offense

00:22:07.839 --> 00:22:09.279
 as soon as you hear about it.

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 This especially shows up.

00:22:12.599 --> 00:22:13.359
 This is very interesting

00:22:13.359 --> 00:22:14.720
 in church discipline situations.

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 You know,

00:22:15.880 --> 00:22:16.420
 if you have any help

00:22:16.420 --> 00:22:16.940
 in this church,

00:22:17.000 --> 00:22:17.539
 we would plan to have

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 a larger church.

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 And it was very interesting

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 to see

00:22:21.519 --> 00:22:24.480
 in a few instances

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 of church discipline,

00:22:25.519 --> 00:22:26.500
 this flares up immediately.

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 And it's interesting

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 to see the people

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 who get super offended

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 by faithful practice

00:22:33.000 --> 00:22:33.839
 of Matthew 18's

00:22:33.839 --> 00:22:34.380
 church discipline.

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 And they immediately

00:22:37.200 --> 00:22:38.400
 take an underdog position

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 and assume

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 that that person's

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 being wronged.

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 And they're not.

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 It's telling.

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 It's telling about

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 what that person's lifestyle,

00:22:49.419 --> 00:22:50.219
 what their relationship

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 with the Lord is like.

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 They got a backlog

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 of justification

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 for why they're not

00:22:54.279 --> 00:22:54.899
 in the wrong.

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 And so when they see

00:22:55.859 --> 00:22:57.199
 someone held to an account

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 for being in the wrong,

00:22:58.059 --> 00:22:58.359
 it's like,

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 oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

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 Hold the phone.

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 That's terrifying

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 because they think

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 it might happen to me.

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 If I go on

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 in unrepentance,

00:23:06.679 --> 00:23:08.179
 what might happen to me?

00:23:09.419 --> 00:23:09.699
 Anyway,

00:23:10.019 --> 00:23:11.019
 that's an interesting one.

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 Can't handle

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 being misunderstood.

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 Because you're

00:23:15.240 --> 00:23:16.240
 justifying yourself

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 rather than resting

00:23:17.039 --> 00:23:19.099
 in Christ's justification.

00:23:19.679 --> 00:23:21.059
 If Jesus is my righteousness,

00:23:21.240 --> 00:23:21.639
 I don't need it

00:23:21.639 --> 00:23:22.219
 for being denied.

00:23:23.079 --> 00:23:23.439
 Okay?

00:23:23.919 --> 00:23:24.759
 But if I got this

00:23:24.759 --> 00:23:26.039
 victim mentality narrative,

00:23:26.099 --> 00:23:27.419
 I just got this whole case

00:23:27.419 --> 00:23:27.959
 I've been building

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 for why I'm right.

00:23:31.159 --> 00:23:31.599
 If you,

00:23:31.740 --> 00:23:33.059
 if you,

00:23:33.219 --> 00:23:35.359
 if you're accusing me

00:23:35.359 --> 00:23:35.759
 of something

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 and it seems to be

00:23:36.339 --> 00:23:37.359
 because you don't understand me,

00:23:37.379 --> 00:23:37.559
 it's just,

00:23:37.639 --> 00:23:38.259
 I can't handle that.

00:23:38.339 --> 00:23:39.159
 You have to understand

00:23:39.159 --> 00:23:40.259
 my case, right?

00:23:40.599 --> 00:23:41.679
 It's a beautiful case.

00:23:41.680 --> 00:23:42.120
 I've been working

00:23:42.120 --> 00:23:42.900
 on it for years.

00:23:46.640 --> 00:23:47.000
 Okay.

00:23:49.400 --> 00:23:50.360
 Rescue mentality

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 because you're waiting

00:23:51.500 --> 00:23:52.740
 for someone to rescue you,

00:23:52.940 --> 00:23:53.920
 not taking responsibility

00:23:53.920 --> 00:23:54.660
 for your own actions

00:23:54.660 --> 00:23:55.560
 so it just bleeds over

00:23:55.560 --> 00:23:56.080
 into other areas

00:23:56.080 --> 00:23:56.519
 of your life.

00:23:57.420 --> 00:23:57.820
 Unwillingness

00:23:57.820 --> 00:23:58.400
 to call people

00:23:58.400 --> 00:23:59.200
 to take responsibility

00:23:59.200 --> 00:23:59.960
 for themselves

00:23:59.960 --> 00:24:01.320
 because if you're a victim,

00:24:01.460 --> 00:24:02.259
 everyone else is too.

00:24:02.960 --> 00:24:03.140
 Right?

00:24:05.140 --> 00:24:05.539
 You already talked

00:24:05.539 --> 00:24:06.380
 about controversies.

00:24:06.380 --> 00:24:07.360
 complaining

00:24:07.360 --> 00:24:08.580
 because you have

00:24:08.580 --> 00:24:09.220
 a case against,

00:24:09.320 --> 00:24:10.560
 you have a case against God

00:24:10.560 --> 00:24:11.440
 that your circumstances

00:24:11.440 --> 00:24:12.440
 are just too hard

00:24:12.440 --> 00:24:13.020
 to not sin.

00:24:13.560 --> 00:24:14.400
 So it comes out

00:24:14.400 --> 00:24:14.940
 in complaining.

00:24:15.800 --> 00:24:15.920
 Okay.

00:24:17.300 --> 00:24:18.120
 Ministry mindset.

00:24:18.400 --> 00:24:19.000
 This is kind of

00:24:19.000 --> 00:24:19.620
 interesting one.

00:24:19.700 --> 00:24:20.580
 I was just thinking about

00:24:20.580 --> 00:24:22.540
 this doesn't seem

00:24:22.540 --> 00:24:23.420
 to be obvious.

00:24:24.100 --> 00:24:25.760
 Why would a ministry mindset

00:24:25.760 --> 00:24:27.900
 just getting

00:24:27.900 --> 00:24:30.940
 your sense of identity

00:24:30.940 --> 00:24:32.340
 through service

00:24:32.340 --> 00:24:33.120
 and ministry work,

00:24:33.180 --> 00:24:34.120
 why would this be connected

00:24:34.120 --> 00:24:36.000
 to this victim mentality?

00:24:37.200 --> 00:24:38.860
 It's a way of sacrificing.

00:24:39.860 --> 00:24:40.360
 You know,

00:24:40.460 --> 00:24:41.580
 you're trying to pay God off.

00:24:42.760 --> 00:24:42.980
 Yeah,

00:24:43.020 --> 00:24:43.980
 you got this controversy

00:24:43.980 --> 00:24:45.180
 over here with God,

00:24:45.260 --> 00:24:46.200
 between you and God,

00:24:46.640 --> 00:24:47.540
 but man,

00:24:47.680 --> 00:24:47.960
 I just,

00:24:48.080 --> 00:24:48.940
 I can't accept that

00:24:48.940 --> 00:24:49.860
 that's what God says

00:24:49.860 --> 00:24:50.300
 in my life,

00:24:50.340 --> 00:24:50.880
 so I'm going to try

00:24:50.880 --> 00:24:51.560
 to pay for it

00:24:51.560 --> 00:24:52.560
 by doing a whole bunch

00:24:52.560 --> 00:24:53.260
 of work for the Lord.

00:24:53.920 --> 00:24:54.540
 This is where the ministry

00:24:54.540 --> 00:24:55.460
 mindset comes in.

00:24:56.540 --> 00:24:56.980
 Doom and gloom

00:24:56.980 --> 00:24:57.880
 outlook on life.

00:24:58.220 --> 00:24:58.640
 You don't believe

00:24:58.640 --> 00:24:59.240
 God is good.

00:25:00.280 --> 00:25:00.680
 Escapism,

00:25:01.140 --> 00:25:02.140
 because life is too hard.

00:25:02.440 --> 00:25:03.160
 Life is too hard,

00:25:03.240 --> 00:25:03.760
 I have to have

00:25:03.760 --> 00:25:04.480
 a pressure relief off.

00:25:04.520 --> 00:25:05.060
 I got to escape

00:25:05.060 --> 00:25:05.540
 into something.

00:25:06.380 --> 00:25:07.280
 Envy and jealousy

00:25:07.280 --> 00:25:07.700
 of others,

00:25:07.800 --> 00:25:08.060
 gifts,

00:25:08.260 --> 00:25:08.500
 family,

00:25:08.660 --> 00:25:08.960
 spouse,

00:25:09.100 --> 00:25:09.620
 circumstances,

00:25:09.780 --> 00:25:10.160
 et cetera,

00:25:10.360 --> 00:25:11.700
 because you feel

00:25:11.700 --> 00:25:12.680
 like God did you wrong

00:25:12.680 --> 00:25:14.240
 with your lot in life.

00:25:15.640 --> 00:25:16.600
 If you just had

00:25:16.600 --> 00:25:17.280
 what they had,

00:25:17.860 --> 00:25:20.300
 then I could be

00:25:20.300 --> 00:25:21.060
 joyful in the Lord,

00:25:21.580 --> 00:25:22.460
 but I can't.

00:25:24.460 --> 00:25:24.860
 Insecurity,

00:25:24.980 --> 00:25:25.560
 because you feel

00:25:25.560 --> 00:25:26.300
 abandoned by God,

00:25:26.380 --> 00:25:26.940
 no confidence.

00:25:26.940 --> 00:25:31.059
 It's a long list.

00:25:31.059 --> 00:25:31.900
 I didn't know

00:25:31.900 --> 00:25:32.559
 where I was going

00:25:32.559 --> 00:25:32.799
 through,

00:25:32.900 --> 00:25:33.820
 but those are things

00:25:33.820 --> 00:25:34.360
 that came to mind.

00:25:34.660 --> 00:25:35.380
 I think there's a lot more.

00:25:35.860 --> 00:25:36.920
 This is like a tangled web.

00:25:37.039 --> 00:25:37.539
 This is just,

00:25:38.000 --> 00:25:39.140
 our victim mentality

00:25:39.140 --> 00:25:39.799
 is so baked

00:25:39.799 --> 00:25:40.580
 into our hard code,

00:25:40.640 --> 00:25:41.259
 we got it right

00:25:41.259 --> 00:25:41.980
 from our dad,

00:25:42.100 --> 00:25:42.320
 Adam.

00:25:42.900 --> 00:25:43.140
 Okay?

00:25:43.299 --> 00:25:44.100
 He had it,

00:25:44.360 --> 00:25:45.220
 and all of his kids

00:25:45.220 --> 00:25:45.680
 have it.

00:25:45.900 --> 00:25:46.140
 Okay?

00:25:46.420 --> 00:25:47.059
 So none of us

00:25:47.059 --> 00:25:47.820
 are above this,

00:25:48.059 --> 00:25:49.180
 but we need to know about it.

00:25:49.180 --> 00:25:50.120
 We need to have a category

00:25:50.120 --> 00:25:51.200
 for what it looks like

00:25:51.200 --> 00:25:52.100
 so that we can

00:25:52.100 --> 00:25:52.720
 repent from it.

00:25:52.779 --> 00:25:53.559
 We can put it off.

00:25:54.019 --> 00:25:54.139
 Okay?

00:25:54.960 --> 00:25:55.299
 So,

00:25:55.639 --> 00:25:56.659
 what does that look like?

00:25:56.700 --> 00:25:57.839
 What does repentance look like?

00:25:58.619 --> 00:25:59.619
 These are just a few things.

00:25:59.720 --> 00:26:01.099
 Repentance is a big deal.

00:26:01.359 --> 00:26:01.940
 Last stuff you said

00:26:01.940 --> 00:26:02.440
 about repentance,

00:26:02.559 --> 00:26:02.980
 I want to point out

00:26:02.980 --> 00:26:03.519
 a few things.

00:26:04.019 --> 00:26:04.579
 Number one,

00:26:05.039 --> 00:26:06.000
 it starts with conviction

00:26:06.000 --> 00:26:06.960
 by the Holy Spirit.

00:26:07.099 --> 00:26:08.419
 Jesus says in John 16,

00:26:08.500 --> 00:26:08.740
 8,

00:26:09.059 --> 00:26:09.740
 and when he,

00:26:10.159 --> 00:26:10.980
 referring to the Holy Spirit,

00:26:11.079 --> 00:26:11.339
 comes,

00:26:11.679 --> 00:26:12.720
 he will convict the world

00:26:12.720 --> 00:26:13.720
 concerning sin

00:26:13.720 --> 00:26:14.659
 and righteousness

00:26:14.659 --> 00:26:15.319
 and judgment.

00:26:15.980 --> 00:26:16.419
 Conviction,

00:26:17.019 --> 00:26:17.720
 it's a synonym

00:26:17.720 --> 00:26:19.359
 for being convinced.

00:26:20.240 --> 00:26:21.099
 You're convinced

00:26:21.099 --> 00:26:21.639
 of something.

00:26:21.759 --> 00:26:22.460
 You weren't convinced

00:26:22.460 --> 00:26:23.359
 of something before.

00:26:23.559 --> 00:26:24.740
 And then the Holy Spirit

00:26:24.740 --> 00:26:25.940
 had a conversation with you

00:26:25.940 --> 00:26:26.940
 about some stuff

00:26:26.940 --> 00:26:28.059
 and all of a sudden,

00:26:28.259 --> 00:26:29.879
 I'm convinced now.

00:26:30.700 --> 00:26:31.759
 I thought everyone else

00:26:31.759 --> 00:26:32.279
 was the problem

00:26:32.279 --> 00:26:34.179
 and then I had a talk

00:26:34.179 --> 00:26:34.799
 with Aslan

00:26:34.799 --> 00:26:36.759
 and now I realize

00:26:36.759 --> 00:26:37.919
 I'm the problem.

00:26:38.519 --> 00:26:38.899
 It's me.

00:26:39.279 --> 00:26:39.879
 There's no one else.

00:26:40.299 --> 00:26:41.179
 I'm the only one

00:26:41.179 --> 00:26:42.279
 responsible for my sin,

00:26:42.419 --> 00:26:42.879
 full stop.

00:26:43.139 --> 00:26:43.440
 Conviction.

00:26:43.579 --> 00:26:44.339
 That's what conviction is.

00:26:45.279 --> 00:26:45.879
 And it's essential.

00:26:46.119 --> 00:26:47.179
 If you don't have conviction,

00:26:47.319 --> 00:26:48.500
 then you can't have repentance.

00:26:49.740 --> 00:26:49.899
 Okay?

00:26:50.220 --> 00:26:50.799
 Everything else

00:26:50.799 --> 00:26:51.779
 is just religious games.

00:26:52.500 --> 00:26:52.619
 Okay?

00:26:52.619 --> 00:26:53.539
 Just playing with God.

00:26:54.039 --> 00:26:54.899
 Going through motions,

00:26:55.059 --> 00:26:55.659
 confessing sin.

00:26:55.700 --> 00:26:56.000
 This is why

00:26:56.000 --> 00:26:56.779
 confessing sin

00:26:56.779 --> 00:26:58.399
 isn't even necessarily

00:26:58.399 --> 00:26:58.899
 repentance.

00:26:59.419 --> 00:26:59.679
 Okay?

00:27:00.480 --> 00:27:01.379
 Have you owned it?

00:27:01.700 --> 00:27:02.799
 Because you can confess sin.

00:27:03.139 --> 00:27:03.960
 Yeah, I looked at porn,

00:27:04.059 --> 00:27:04.460
 but man,

00:27:04.879 --> 00:27:05.480
 my wife,

00:27:05.659 --> 00:27:07.039
 she just,

00:27:07.740 --> 00:27:08.859
 she's been cold and distant.

00:27:09.519 --> 00:27:09.740
 You know,

00:27:09.819 --> 00:27:10.679
 what are you going to do?

00:27:13.079 --> 00:27:13.700
 That's not,

00:27:13.759 --> 00:27:14.579
 that's not conviction.

00:27:14.579 --> 00:27:15.319
 So,

00:27:15.319 --> 00:27:18.240
 so,

00:27:18.240 --> 00:27:19.720
 what does this conviction

00:27:19.720 --> 00:27:20.599
 lead into?

00:27:20.720 --> 00:27:21.720
 It produces a heart

00:27:21.720 --> 00:27:22.759
 and mindset change

00:27:22.759 --> 00:27:23.460
 that results in

00:27:23.460 --> 00:27:24.220
 change behavior.

00:27:24.759 --> 00:27:25.299
 Matthew 3,

00:27:25.379 --> 00:27:26.139
 18 through 10,

00:27:26.240 --> 00:27:27.159
 John the Baptist said,

00:27:27.660 --> 00:27:27.960
 therefore,

00:27:28.220 --> 00:27:29.620
 bear fruit in keeping

00:27:29.620 --> 00:27:30.300
 with repentance

00:27:30.300 --> 00:27:31.380
 and do not suppose

00:27:31.380 --> 00:27:32.500
 that you can say to yourselves,

00:27:32.700 --> 00:27:33.580
 we have Abraham

00:27:33.580 --> 00:27:34.320
 for our father

00:27:34.320 --> 00:27:35.720
 or I'm a Christian,

00:27:35.820 --> 00:27:36.560
 I go to a good church,

00:27:36.860 --> 00:27:37.080
 you know,

00:27:37.320 --> 00:27:37.720
 apply this,

00:27:37.840 --> 00:27:38.960
 rework this in today's language

00:27:38.960 --> 00:27:39.480
 with, you know,

00:27:39.960 --> 00:27:40.640
 Christians here.

00:27:41.000 --> 00:27:41.580
 For I say to you

00:27:41.580 --> 00:27:42.340
 that from these stones,

00:27:42.460 --> 00:27:43.279
 God is able to raise up

00:27:43.279 --> 00:27:43.940
 children in Abraham.

00:27:44.400 --> 00:27:45.400
 The axe is already laid

00:27:45.400 --> 00:27:46.140
 at the root of the trees.

00:27:46.140 --> 00:27:46.460
 Therefore,

00:27:46.620 --> 00:27:47.680
 every tree that does not

00:27:47.680 --> 00:27:48.300
 bear good fruit

00:27:48.300 --> 00:27:49.060
 is cut down

00:27:49.060 --> 00:27:50.360
 and thrown into the fire.

00:27:51.620 --> 00:27:52.140
 It's,

00:27:52.140 --> 00:27:53.120
 it's futile to try

00:27:53.120 --> 00:27:53.940
 to pay God off

00:27:53.940 --> 00:27:54.700
 with sacrifices.

00:27:55.060 --> 00:27:55.680
 He wants repentance

00:27:55.680 --> 00:27:57.460
 and true conviction

00:27:57.460 --> 00:27:59.540
 results in heart change

00:27:59.540 --> 00:28:01.180
 that results in

00:28:01.180 --> 00:28:02.860
 life change.

00:28:03.420 --> 00:28:03.680
 It's,

00:28:04.000 --> 00:28:04.800
 it's,

00:28:04.800 --> 00:28:05.960
 it's to the extent

00:28:05.960 --> 00:28:06.360
 where he says

00:28:06.360 --> 00:28:07.240
 bear fruit,

00:28:07.980 --> 00:28:09.120
 real actions,

00:28:09.340 --> 00:28:09.820
 change,

00:28:09.900 --> 00:28:10.900
 things that happen

00:28:10.900 --> 00:28:11.740
 and change in your life.

00:28:11.860 --> 00:28:12.320
 Bear fruit

00:28:12.320 --> 00:28:13.860
 in keeping with

00:28:13.860 --> 00:28:14.600
 repentance,

00:28:14.980 --> 00:28:16.080
 which is the heart thing.

00:28:16.320 --> 00:28:16.600
 Okay.

00:28:17.100 --> 00:28:18.220
 So real heart change

00:28:18.220 --> 00:28:18.920
 produces fruit.

00:28:22.600 --> 00:28:23.340
 And then

00:28:23.340 --> 00:28:24.540
 this is an interesting one.

00:28:27.020 --> 00:28:28.080
 It doesn't stay

00:28:28.080 --> 00:28:29.280
 just a me God thing,

00:28:29.540 --> 00:28:29.720
 right?

00:28:30.040 --> 00:28:30.520
 Repentance.

00:28:30.820 --> 00:28:32.080
 It turns into

00:28:32.080 --> 00:28:33.580
 a ministry

00:28:33.580 --> 00:28:34.259
 of exhorting

00:28:34.259 --> 00:28:35.420
 others to repent.

00:28:36.580 --> 00:28:37.200
 And this is the,

00:28:37.300 --> 00:28:38.380
 this is the kicker here.

00:28:39.740 --> 00:28:41.220
 And it doesn't commiserate

00:28:41.220 --> 00:28:42.060
 with their sin anymore.

00:28:42.860 --> 00:28:43.340
 Okay.

00:28:43.900 --> 00:28:44.320
 It says,

00:28:44.400 --> 00:28:44.700
 wait a minute,

00:28:44.759 --> 00:28:46.080
 that sin was killing me.

00:28:47.120 --> 00:28:48.860
 And I had to be brought

00:28:48.860 --> 00:28:50.040
 to a place of accountability

00:28:50.040 --> 00:28:51.280
 in order to be right with God.

00:28:53.080 --> 00:28:54.360
 And now I see

00:28:54.360 --> 00:28:56.720
 their sin is killing them

00:28:56.720 --> 00:28:58.720
 and they have to be brought

00:28:58.720 --> 00:29:00.100
 to a place of accountability

00:29:00.100 --> 00:29:01.540
 to be made right with God.

00:29:02.340 --> 00:29:03.860
 So I'm not going to commiserate

00:29:03.860 --> 00:29:04.840
 with their sin anymore.

00:29:05.340 --> 00:29:07.220
 I'm not going to have long conversations

00:29:07.220 --> 00:29:08.340
 with other people about,

00:29:08.340 --> 00:29:08.340


00:29:08.339 --> 00:29:08.959
 oh,

00:29:09.039 --> 00:29:10.439
 how hard their life is

00:29:10.439 --> 00:29:11.659
 and all the different reasons

00:29:11.659 --> 00:29:12.099
 why they're,

00:29:12.359 --> 00:29:13.419
 they needed to sin

00:29:13.419 --> 00:29:15.139
 and they needed to stay stuck

00:29:15.139 --> 00:29:15.659
 where they are

00:29:15.659 --> 00:29:17.319
 because it's poisonous.

00:29:18.240 --> 00:29:19.379
 It keeps them stuck.

00:29:20.059 --> 00:29:21.599
 And God had mercy on me

00:29:21.599 --> 00:29:23.000
 through his word

00:29:23.000 --> 00:29:24.059
 and through the faithful ministry

00:29:24.059 --> 00:29:24.879
 of people who didn't care

00:29:24.879 --> 00:29:25.720
 what I thought about them

00:29:25.720 --> 00:29:27.079
 and were willing to make me mad.

00:29:27.119 --> 00:29:27.439
 You know what?

00:29:27.459 --> 00:29:28.359
 I'm a really hard person

00:29:28.359 --> 00:29:28.859
 to confront.

00:29:29.220 --> 00:29:29.379
 Okay.

00:29:30.000 --> 00:29:31.580
 You pay for it.

00:29:31.600 --> 00:29:32.540
 My wife has paid for

00:29:32.540 --> 00:29:33.680
 confronting me with sin before.

00:29:34.640 --> 00:29:36.140
 So someone loved me so much

00:29:36.140 --> 00:29:36.960
 that they paid for it

00:29:36.960 --> 00:29:37.620
 because they love me.

00:29:38.200 --> 00:29:38.860
 Guess what?

00:29:39.200 --> 00:29:39.920
 You start being willing

00:29:39.920 --> 00:29:40.540
 to pay for it too

00:29:40.540 --> 00:29:41.120
 for other people.

00:29:45.280 --> 00:29:45.640
 Okay.

00:29:45.700 --> 00:29:46.020
 Wait a minute.

00:29:52.340 --> 00:29:52.700
 Okay.

00:29:52.900 --> 00:29:53.120
 Yeah.

00:29:53.580 --> 00:29:54.980
 I think a good example.

00:29:55.200 --> 00:29:55.680
 Oh, there we go.

00:29:55.860 --> 00:29:56.180
 There we go.

00:29:56.180 --> 00:29:59.140
 My notes mixed up.

00:29:59.180 --> 00:30:00.340
 A good example of this is Paul.

00:30:01.279 --> 00:30:02.220
 Paul was a reviler.

00:30:02.539 --> 00:30:03.700
 He's a persecutor of the church.

00:30:03.880 --> 00:30:04.840
 Acts 26, 20.

00:30:05.340 --> 00:30:06.720
 You know, he gets radically converted

00:30:06.720 --> 00:30:07.660
 in Acts 26, 20

00:30:07.660 --> 00:30:08.440
 towards the end of his,

00:30:08.480 --> 00:30:09.900
 you know, ministry in Acts.

00:30:10.360 --> 00:30:11.940
 He gives his testimony

00:30:11.940 --> 00:30:12.960
 of what his ministry

00:30:12.960 --> 00:30:13.820
 looked like after that.

00:30:14.600 --> 00:30:15.180
 And he said,

00:30:15.600 --> 00:30:16.440
 they went declaring,

00:30:16.700 --> 00:30:16.960
 you know,

00:30:17.000 --> 00:30:17.560
 through all the world,

00:30:17.600 --> 00:30:18.759
 I'm just going to summarize that part.

00:30:19.200 --> 00:30:20.560
 What was he declaring?

00:30:21.340 --> 00:30:22.820
 That men should repent

00:30:22.820 --> 00:30:24.480
 and turn to God,

00:30:24.480 --> 00:30:26.279
 performing deeds

00:30:26.279 --> 00:30:29.000
 appropriate to repentance.

00:30:30.000 --> 00:30:31.640
 See, Paul wasn't some Gnostic guy

00:30:31.640 --> 00:30:32.000
 who's just like,

00:30:32.059 --> 00:30:33.319
 oh, it's all in the heart, man.

00:30:34.759 --> 00:30:35.039
 You know,

00:30:35.279 --> 00:30:35.660
 the outside,

00:30:35.799 --> 00:30:36.700
 clean the inside of the cup,

00:30:36.740 --> 00:30:37.019
 the outside,

00:30:37.160 --> 00:30:37.620
 take care of itself.

00:30:37.900 --> 00:30:38.900
 Yes, it actually will.

00:30:39.779 --> 00:30:40.940
 That's why you can say,

00:30:42.180 --> 00:30:42.539
 repent,

00:30:42.759 --> 00:30:43.279
 turn to God

00:30:43.279 --> 00:30:44.539
 and perform deeds

00:30:44.539 --> 00:30:45.579
 in keeping with repentance

00:30:45.579 --> 00:30:46.759
 because out of the heart

00:30:46.759 --> 00:30:49.240
 flow all kinds of things

00:30:49.240 --> 00:30:50.539
 that are evident to everybody.

00:30:51.740 --> 00:30:52.960
 You shouldn't be scared of that.

00:30:52.960 --> 00:30:56.920
 And that was his ministry then.

00:30:57.319 --> 00:30:58.180
 Paul wasn't ashamed

00:30:58.180 --> 00:30:58.880
 of this ministry.

00:30:59.980 --> 00:31:00.160
 I mean,

00:31:00.180 --> 00:31:01.579
 he paid for it dearly.

00:31:01.740 --> 00:31:03.900
 He lost the approval

00:31:03.900 --> 00:31:05.100
 of so many people,

00:31:05.360 --> 00:31:06.600
 but he loved them faithfully

00:31:06.600 --> 00:31:07.680
 just like Jesus loved them.

00:31:08.620 --> 00:31:08.799
 You know,

00:31:08.920 --> 00:31:10.180
 the world hates you.

00:31:11.759 --> 00:31:12.299
 When he said,

00:31:12.460 --> 00:31:13.720
 the world can't hate you,

00:31:14.140 --> 00:31:14.779
 but it hates me

00:31:14.779 --> 00:31:15.519
 because I tell them

00:31:15.519 --> 00:31:16.600
 that their deeds are evil.

00:31:16.599 --> 00:31:18.559
 When we repent,

00:31:18.659 --> 00:31:19.639
 we go right on Jesus.

00:31:20.519 --> 00:31:21.899
 We get to be part of Jesus'

00:31:22.159 --> 00:31:23.019
 ministry on the earth.

00:31:23.319 --> 00:31:24.319
 And it's a wonderful thing.

00:31:25.139 --> 00:31:25.279
 You know,

00:31:25.299 --> 00:31:26.219
 not everyone will hear it,

00:31:26.240 --> 00:31:26.699
 but guess what?

00:31:26.740 --> 00:31:27.459
 When people do,

00:31:28.599 --> 00:31:29.879
 it's amazing.

00:31:30.559 --> 00:31:31.500
 You get a new friend.

00:31:31.859 --> 00:31:32.659
 You get a brother and sister

00:31:32.659 --> 00:31:33.119
 in the Lord.

00:31:34.319 --> 00:31:34.959
 It's wonderful.

00:31:36.139 --> 00:31:36.879
 Last is,

00:31:37.000 --> 00:31:37.439
 repentance

00:31:37.439 --> 00:31:40.899
 is essential for salvation.

00:31:41.840 --> 00:31:43.400
 You can't get around it.

00:31:44.519 --> 00:31:45.140
 Luke 13,

00:31:45.220 --> 00:31:45.840
 3 says,

00:31:46.200 --> 00:31:47.180
 Jesus is speaking to people.

00:31:47.300 --> 00:31:47.480
 No,

00:31:47.600 --> 00:31:48.160
 I tell you,

00:31:48.200 --> 00:31:49.120
 unless you repent,

00:31:49.240 --> 00:31:50.940
 you will all likewise perish.

00:31:51.960 --> 00:31:52.420
 Acts 2,

00:31:52.480 --> 00:31:52.840
 38,

00:31:52.960 --> 00:31:53.720
 Peter said to them,

00:31:54.140 --> 00:31:55.300
 repent and be baptized

00:31:55.300 --> 00:31:56.259
 every one of you

00:31:56.259 --> 00:31:57.759
 in the name of Jesus Christ

00:31:57.759 --> 00:31:58.460
 for the forgiveness

00:31:58.460 --> 00:31:59.200
 of your sins

00:31:59.200 --> 00:32:00.540
 and you will receive

00:32:00.540 --> 00:32:02.080
 the gift of the Holy Spirit.

00:32:03.620 --> 00:32:04.380
 It's essential.

00:32:05.120 --> 00:32:05.780
 Faith and repentance,

00:32:06.000 --> 00:32:06.540
 they're two sides

00:32:06.540 --> 00:32:07.240
 of the same coin.

00:32:07.440 --> 00:32:07.580
 Okay,

00:32:07.580 --> 00:32:08.140
 they go together.

00:32:09.820 --> 00:32:10.220
 So,

00:32:10.220 --> 00:32:12.140
 let's take it to heart.

00:32:12.600 --> 00:32:13.519
 I want to share

00:32:13.519 --> 00:32:14.539
 one example of repentance

00:32:14.539 --> 00:32:15.259
 from the Bible.

00:32:15.400 --> 00:32:16.220
 So we have a couple examples

00:32:16.220 --> 00:32:17.180
 of this victim mentality.

00:32:17.279 --> 00:32:18.019
 I want to share an example

00:32:18.019 --> 00:32:19.860
 of the opposite of that.

00:32:20.839 --> 00:32:21.559
 Real repentance.

00:32:21.640 --> 00:32:22.799
 What's it look like in practice?

00:32:24.220 --> 00:32:25.279
 The story of David

00:32:25.279 --> 00:32:26.339
 after Bathsheba,

00:32:26.460 --> 00:32:27.519
 after he falls into sin

00:32:27.519 --> 00:32:27.980
 with Bathsheba,

00:32:28.000 --> 00:32:28.880
 I think is an awesome one.

00:32:29.259 --> 00:32:29.620
 I'm not going to read

00:32:29.620 --> 00:32:30.000
 the whole thing.

00:32:30.039 --> 00:32:30.700
 If you want to read it later,

00:32:30.819 --> 00:32:32.420
 it's 2 Samuel 11 and 12.

00:32:32.519 --> 00:32:33.100
 It would take too long

00:32:33.100 --> 00:32:33.539
 to read it here.

00:32:34.380 --> 00:32:35.240
 But I am going to read

00:32:35.240 --> 00:32:35.980
 Psalm 51,

00:32:36.160 --> 00:32:37.339
 pieces of Psalm 51,

00:32:37.339 --> 00:32:38.660
 which is his prayer to God.

00:32:38.660 --> 00:32:40.180
 When you get insight

00:32:40.180 --> 00:32:40.900
 into his heart.

00:32:41.660 --> 00:32:42.720
 I think it's just awesome.

00:32:43.620 --> 00:32:44.120
 Psalm 51,

00:32:44.119 --> 00:32:46.059
 have mercy on me,

00:32:46.079 --> 00:32:46.419
 O God,

00:32:46.479 --> 00:32:48.000
 according to your steadfast love,

00:32:48.419 --> 00:32:49.839
 according to your abundant mercy,

00:32:50.359 --> 00:32:51.739
 blot out my transgressions.

00:32:51.859 --> 00:32:52.739
 Wash me thoroughly

00:32:52.739 --> 00:32:53.619
 from my iniquity.

00:32:54.259 --> 00:32:55.479
 Cleanse me from my sin.

00:32:56.000 --> 00:32:58.279
 For I know my transgressions

00:32:58.279 --> 00:32:59.519
 and my sin

00:32:59.519 --> 00:33:00.619
 is ever before me.

00:33:01.839 --> 00:33:03.099
 Against you only

00:33:03.099 --> 00:33:03.839
 have I sinned

00:33:03.839 --> 00:33:04.519
 and done what is evil

00:33:04.519 --> 00:33:05.079
 in your sight

00:33:05.079 --> 00:33:06.779
 so that you may be justified

00:33:06.779 --> 00:33:07.579
 in your words

00:33:07.579 --> 00:33:08.219
 and blameless

00:33:08.219 --> 00:33:09.099
 in your judgment.

00:33:09.779 --> 00:33:10.259
 Ownership.

00:33:10.259 --> 00:33:12.319
 Behold,

00:33:12.400 --> 00:33:13.220
 I was brought forth

00:33:13.220 --> 00:33:13.839
 in iniquity

00:33:13.839 --> 00:33:14.359
 and in sin

00:33:14.359 --> 00:33:15.660
 did my mother conceive me.

00:33:16.279 --> 00:33:16.559
 Behold,

00:33:16.640 --> 00:33:17.299
 you delight truth

00:33:17.299 --> 00:33:17.980
 in the inward being

00:33:17.980 --> 00:33:18.839
 and you teach me wisdom

00:33:18.839 --> 00:33:19.700
 in the secret heart.

00:33:20.559 --> 00:33:21.460
 Purge me with hyssop

00:33:21.460 --> 00:33:22.279
 and I shall be clean.

00:33:22.440 --> 00:33:22.940
 Wash me

00:33:22.940 --> 00:33:24.519
 and I shall be whiter than snow.

00:33:25.759 --> 00:33:26.599
 I think I'm going to bounce around

00:33:26.599 --> 00:33:27.180
 and just read a few

00:33:27.180 --> 00:33:27.839
 of the verses

00:33:27.839 --> 00:33:28.379
 throughout this

00:33:28.379 --> 00:33:29.339
 because I'm kind of

00:33:29.339 --> 00:33:30.200
 running down on time here.

00:33:30.599 --> 00:33:31.180
 Create in me

00:33:31.180 --> 00:33:31.859
 a clean heart,

00:33:31.980 --> 00:33:32.400
 O God,

00:33:32.460 --> 00:33:33.379
 and renew a right spirit

00:33:33.379 --> 00:33:33.920
 within me.

00:33:34.920 --> 00:33:35.859
 Then I will teach

00:33:35.859 --> 00:33:37.099
 transgressors your ways

00:33:37.099 --> 00:33:37.920
 and sinners

00:33:37.920 --> 00:33:38.740
 will turn to you.

00:33:38.740 --> 00:33:41.220
 For you will not

00:33:41.220 --> 00:33:42.220
 delight in sacrifice

00:33:42.220 --> 00:33:43.120
 or I will give it.

00:33:43.480 --> 00:33:44.319
 You will not be pleased

00:33:44.319 --> 00:33:45.180
 with the burnt offering.

00:33:45.740 --> 00:33:47.059
 The sacrifices of God

00:33:47.059 --> 00:33:48.039
 are a broken spirit,

00:33:48.380 --> 00:33:49.579
 a broken and contrite heart,

00:33:49.620 --> 00:33:49.900
 O God,

00:33:49.940 --> 00:33:50.960
 you will not despise.

00:33:52.240 --> 00:33:53.240
 Then you will delight

00:33:53.240 --> 00:33:54.259
 in right sacrifices

00:33:54.259 --> 00:33:55.079
 and burnt offerings

00:33:55.079 --> 00:33:55.940
 and whole burnt offerings.

00:33:56.460 --> 00:33:57.700
 Then bowls will be offered

00:33:57.700 --> 00:33:58.279
 on your altar.

00:33:58.940 --> 00:34:00.059
 See the complete contrast

00:34:00.059 --> 00:34:00.920
 between this

00:34:00.920 --> 00:34:02.400
 and those other examples before.

00:34:03.240 --> 00:34:04.660
 A deep conviction of sin,

00:34:05.079 --> 00:34:05.339
 okay?

00:34:05.740 --> 00:34:06.740
 He was cut to the heart

00:34:06.740 --> 00:34:07.339
 and he owned it

00:34:07.339 --> 00:34:08.239
 and he started off with that.

00:34:08.239 --> 00:34:08.939
 It's just me.

00:34:09.539 --> 00:34:10.459
 No one else made me.

00:34:11.039 --> 00:34:11.579
 It wasn't,

00:34:11.839 --> 00:34:12.599
 I was real lonely

00:34:12.599 --> 00:34:13.359
 because, you know,

00:34:13.379 --> 00:34:14.739
 all my whatever hundred wives,

00:34:14.799 --> 00:34:15.759
 I don't know how many wives he had.

00:34:15.919 --> 00:34:16.619
 He has no excuses,

00:34:16.739 --> 00:34:17.079
 but like,

00:34:17.179 --> 00:34:18.099
 he could have made an excuse

00:34:18.099 --> 00:34:18.639
 out of anything

00:34:18.639 --> 00:34:19.719
 because we are sinful.

00:34:19.839 --> 00:34:20.479
 We can make an excuse

00:34:20.479 --> 00:34:20.939
 out of anything.

00:34:21.459 --> 00:34:22.439
 I was just walking around

00:34:22.439 --> 00:34:23.259
 my roof and just,

00:34:23.439 --> 00:34:24.239
 whoa, there she was,

00:34:24.279 --> 00:34:25.119
 naked, washing.

00:34:26.079 --> 00:34:27.139
 How could I not?

00:34:27.559 --> 00:34:27.959
 You know?

00:34:29.539 --> 00:34:30.179
 He didn't do any

00:34:30.179 --> 00:34:30.779
 of that kind of stuff.

00:34:31.779 --> 00:34:32.539
 Before God,

00:34:33.159 --> 00:34:34.159
 I sinned, Lord.

00:34:34.159 --> 00:34:36.000
 He says,

00:34:36.279 --> 00:34:37.099
 I've sinned against you

00:34:37.099 --> 00:34:37.699
 and you only.

00:34:37.879 --> 00:34:37.980
 You see,

00:34:38.039 --> 00:34:39.339
 he owns that this is really

00:34:39.339 --> 00:34:40.480
 a him God thing,

00:34:41.420 --> 00:34:41.679
 okay?

00:34:43.119 --> 00:34:44.420
 Deep conviction of sin.

00:34:44.519 --> 00:34:45.219
 He blames self

00:34:45.219 --> 00:34:46.319
 instead of blaming others.

00:34:46.879 --> 00:34:48.659
 He has this sense of power

00:34:48.659 --> 00:34:50.259
 to repent from his own sin

00:34:50.259 --> 00:34:51.759
 instead of a sense

00:34:51.759 --> 00:34:53.440
 of self-justifying powerlessness.

00:34:54.019 --> 00:34:54.719
 He owns it.

00:34:55.079 --> 00:34:55.899
 He comes boldly

00:34:55.899 --> 00:34:56.859
 before the throne of grace.

00:34:56.860 --> 00:34:59.260
 He has godly sorrow

00:34:59.260 --> 00:35:00.160
 instead of self-pity.

00:35:00.640 --> 00:35:02.099
 He accepts responsibility

00:35:02.099 --> 00:35:03.160
 instead of avoiding it.

00:35:03.760 --> 00:35:05.019
 He's open to correction

00:35:05.019 --> 00:35:06.000
 instead of defensiveness.

00:35:06.640 --> 00:35:08.039
 He has zero entitlement.

00:35:09.420 --> 00:35:10.480
 He's not a Debbie Downer.

00:35:10.559 --> 00:35:11.380
 He has optimism

00:35:11.380 --> 00:35:12.280
 in the forgiveness

00:35:12.280 --> 00:35:13.539
 and restoration of God

00:35:13.539 --> 00:35:14.220
 after repentance,

00:35:14.360 --> 00:35:14.620
 you know?

00:35:15.400 --> 00:35:16.160
 This isn't some

00:35:16.160 --> 00:35:16.980
 woe is me

00:35:16.980 --> 00:35:19.680
 sort of self-flagellating repentance.

00:35:20.180 --> 00:35:21.240
 He's talking about

00:35:21.240 --> 00:35:22.260
 when God restores him,

00:35:22.300 --> 00:35:22.980
 what he's going to do

00:35:22.980 --> 00:35:24.140
 and how joyful it's going to be.

00:35:24.200 --> 00:35:25.220
 He's totally confident.

00:35:26.000 --> 00:35:26.000


00:35:26.860 --> 00:35:30.160
 And then for the biblical categories,

00:35:30.940 --> 00:35:31.640
 he knows that

00:35:31.640 --> 00:35:32.980
 acceptable sacrifices

00:35:32.980 --> 00:35:34.160
 can only follow

00:35:34.160 --> 00:35:35.019
 after true repentance.

00:35:35.300 --> 00:35:36.660
 He makes no attempt

00:35:36.660 --> 00:35:38.180
 to go atone

00:35:38.180 --> 00:35:38.800
 for his sin

00:35:38.800 --> 00:35:39.980
 with sacrifices at all.

00:35:40.720 --> 00:35:41.620
 He knows

00:35:41.620 --> 00:35:42.640
 he's got something

00:35:42.640 --> 00:35:43.340
 to do first.

00:35:43.920 --> 00:35:44.780
 He's got to get right.

00:35:46.260 --> 00:35:46.780
 Then

00:35:46.780 --> 00:35:48.500
 he can offer sacrifices.

00:35:49.019 --> 00:35:49.380
 You see,

00:35:49.539 --> 00:35:50.440
 when we have a victim mentality,

00:35:50.519 --> 00:35:51.200
 we flip those.

00:35:51.579 --> 00:35:53.039
 We try to out-sacrifice

00:35:53.039 --> 00:35:55.120
 my guilty conscience.

00:35:55.700 --> 00:35:56.539
 That's bad.

00:35:57.200 --> 00:35:57.920
 That's disorder.

00:35:58.320 --> 00:35:59.000
 That's backwards.

00:35:59.820 --> 00:36:00.960
 We've got to get right with God.

00:36:01.059 --> 00:36:01.880
 God doesn't care

00:36:01.880 --> 00:36:02.800
 about all that stuff.

00:36:03.220 --> 00:36:04.039
 You know who he cares about?

00:36:04.300 --> 00:36:05.720
 A broken and contrite heart.

00:36:06.220 --> 00:36:07.180
 A right relationship

00:36:07.180 --> 00:36:07.640
 with him

00:36:07.640 --> 00:36:08.820
 through the one sacrifice

00:36:08.820 --> 00:36:09.519
 that he made

00:36:09.519 --> 00:36:10.220
 perfectly

00:36:10.220 --> 00:36:11.160
 for all time,

00:36:11.400 --> 00:36:12.500
 the Lord Jesus Christ.

00:36:12.880 --> 00:36:14.079
 He doesn't need your works

00:36:14.079 --> 00:36:15.320
 because he finished them already.

00:36:16.059 --> 00:36:17.220
 All of our works

00:36:17.220 --> 00:36:18.519
 are entering into

00:36:18.519 --> 00:36:19.680
 the finished work

00:36:19.680 --> 00:36:20.099
 of Jesus

00:36:20.099 --> 00:36:20.660
 that's prepared

00:36:20.660 --> 00:36:21.400
 ahead of time

00:36:21.400 --> 00:36:23.160
 for us to walk in.

00:36:23.159 --> 00:36:26.019
 We deny that truth

00:36:26.019 --> 00:36:27.039
 when we get

00:36:27.039 --> 00:36:28.019
 into ministry mindset.

00:36:28.619 --> 00:36:29.819
 We've got to ask ourselves,

00:36:29.899 --> 00:36:30.339
 we're obsessed

00:36:30.339 --> 00:36:31.239
 with ministry stuff.

00:36:31.519 --> 00:36:31.739
 Why?

00:36:32.460 --> 00:36:33.519
 A lot of ministry stuff's good,

00:36:33.839 --> 00:36:34.539
 but why?

00:36:35.179 --> 00:36:35.599
 Why?

00:36:37.599 --> 00:36:38.980
 Eagerness to restore sinners

00:36:38.980 --> 00:36:39.699
 in the same way

00:36:39.699 --> 00:36:40.480
 is the last one.

00:36:40.719 --> 00:36:41.059
 You see,

00:36:41.739 --> 00:36:42.519
 he not only is getting

00:36:42.519 --> 00:36:43.219
 right with God,

00:36:43.759 --> 00:36:44.699
 he knows

00:36:44.699 --> 00:36:46.099
 after I'm restored,

00:36:46.299 --> 00:36:47.199
 I'm going to teach

00:36:47.199 --> 00:36:48.219
 people about you

00:36:48.219 --> 00:36:49.159
 and then

00:36:49.159 --> 00:36:52.099
 sinners will return to you.

00:36:52.159 --> 00:36:53.139
 I'll teach transgressors

00:36:53.139 --> 00:36:53.639
 your ways.

00:36:54.219 --> 00:36:54.819
 It's a ministry.

00:36:55.339 --> 00:36:55.839
 That's why

00:36:55.839 --> 00:36:57.359
 if we're abdicating

00:36:57.359 --> 00:36:58.099
 a responsibility

00:36:58.099 --> 00:36:58.639
 to call people

00:36:58.639 --> 00:36:59.079
 in our fitness

00:36:59.079 --> 00:36:59.719
 and says something

00:36:59.719 --> 00:37:00.539
 about our walk with God,

00:37:01.139 --> 00:37:01.959
 full stop, okay?

00:37:02.799 --> 00:37:04.359
 It's not fun

00:37:04.359 --> 00:37:05.339
 to do this thing.

00:37:06.719 --> 00:37:07.539
 Nobody said

00:37:07.539 --> 00:37:08.139
 it was fun,

00:37:08.459 --> 00:37:09.839
 but it's salvation.

00:37:10.399 --> 00:37:11.219
 It's good.

00:37:11.500 --> 00:37:12.179
 Jesus did it,

00:37:12.259 --> 00:37:12.759
 Paul did it,

00:37:12.819 --> 00:37:13.199
 and when we're right

00:37:13.199 --> 00:37:13.719
 with God,

00:37:14.159 --> 00:37:14.859
 take it on.

00:37:15.000 --> 00:37:16.039
 We stop commiserating

00:37:16.039 --> 00:37:16.500
 with people.

00:37:16.500 --> 00:37:19.659
 It's like a doctor

00:37:19.659 --> 00:37:20.519
 who knows

00:37:20.519 --> 00:37:22.059
 their patient has cancer

00:37:22.059 --> 00:37:23.619
 and is just like

00:37:23.619 --> 00:37:24.900
 entering into

00:37:24.900 --> 00:37:25.599
 their pity party

00:37:25.599 --> 00:37:26.119
 with them

00:37:26.119 --> 00:37:27.719
 about their cancer

00:37:27.719 --> 00:37:29.019
 and prescribing

00:37:29.019 --> 00:37:29.920
 them payments.

00:37:31.099 --> 00:37:31.820
 It's wicked.

00:37:32.900 --> 00:37:33.719
 They deal with the cancer,

00:37:34.239 --> 00:37:34.500
 okay?

00:37:34.840 --> 00:37:35.539
 And then they'll get healed.

00:37:36.539 --> 00:37:37.619
 No one likes to hear

00:37:37.619 --> 00:37:38.300
 they got cancer,

00:37:38.780 --> 00:37:39.059
 okay?

00:37:39.199 --> 00:37:39.960
 That's not a fun

00:37:39.960 --> 00:37:40.840
 conversation ever.

00:37:41.739 --> 00:37:42.599
 No doctor's like it.

00:37:42.619 --> 00:37:43.239
 Why do they do it?

00:37:43.340 --> 00:37:44.079
 It's their job,

00:37:44.139 --> 00:37:44.920
 it's their responsibility,

00:37:44.920 --> 00:37:46.239
 and they actually love people.

00:37:46.940 --> 00:37:47.460
 That's what we need

00:37:47.460 --> 00:37:47.820
 to be like.

00:37:48.219 --> 00:37:48.400
 Okay,

00:37:48.900 --> 00:37:49.219
 so,

00:37:50.519 --> 00:37:51.980
 that's what repentance

00:37:51.980 --> 00:37:52.480
 looks like.

00:37:52.519 --> 00:37:53.340
 It's the complete opposite

00:37:53.340 --> 00:37:54.079
 of victim mentality.

00:37:54.800 --> 00:37:55.699
 What David did

00:37:55.699 --> 00:37:57.099
 after sinning grievously

00:37:57.099 --> 00:37:57.780
 with Bathsheba

00:37:57.780 --> 00:37:58.960
 and murdering her husband

00:37:58.960 --> 00:38:00.260
 and covering it up,

00:38:01.119 --> 00:38:01.340
 okay?

00:38:01.820 --> 00:38:02.019
 Like,

00:38:02.199 --> 00:38:02.840
 it's a great example.

00:38:04.639 --> 00:38:05.159
 Repentance,

00:38:05.320 --> 00:38:06.500
 it applies to

00:38:06.500 --> 00:38:07.800
 any sin

00:38:07.800 --> 00:38:08.619
 no matter what.

00:38:09.159 --> 00:38:10.699
 This is the opposite

00:38:10.699 --> 00:38:11.539
 of victim mentality.

00:38:11.920 --> 00:38:12.900
 This is what true repentance

00:38:12.900 --> 00:38:13.440
 looks like.

00:38:14.159 --> 00:38:14.360
 So,

00:38:15.659 --> 00:38:17.559
 I have some specific

00:38:17.559 --> 00:38:18.519
 applications of this

00:38:18.519 --> 00:38:19.220
 for Christchurch.

00:38:19.700 --> 00:38:20.500
 Just praying through

00:38:20.500 --> 00:38:21.000
 our church,

00:38:21.679 --> 00:38:22.840
 looking at my own life.

00:38:23.960 --> 00:38:25.139
 I'm on the roster

00:38:25.139 --> 00:38:26.079
 for some of this stuff,

00:38:26.240 --> 00:38:26.480
 okay?

00:38:27.059 --> 00:38:27.460
 So,

00:38:27.619 --> 00:38:28.420
 I would encourage you,

00:38:28.480 --> 00:38:29.099
 don't think about

00:38:29.099 --> 00:38:29.679
 other people.

00:38:31.079 --> 00:38:32.099
 Think about yourself.

00:38:32.900 --> 00:38:34.000
 Resist the temptation

00:38:34.000 --> 00:38:34.500
 to be like,

00:38:34.639 --> 00:38:35.340
 oh yeah!

00:38:36.539 --> 00:38:36.860
 Be,

00:38:37.420 --> 00:38:38.000
 Lord Jesus,

00:38:38.000 --> 00:38:39.700
 I want to have a conversation

00:38:39.699 --> 00:38:40.480
 with you right now.

00:38:41.500 --> 00:38:42.239
 What about me?

00:38:42.699 --> 00:38:42.859
 Okay?

00:38:43.699 --> 00:38:44.059
 So,

00:38:44.139 --> 00:38:44.500
 those are the hardest

00:38:44.500 --> 00:38:45.059
 things to hear

00:38:45.059 --> 00:38:45.539
 and our minds

00:38:45.539 --> 00:38:46.279
 are pre-programmed

00:38:46.279 --> 00:38:46.859
 to avoid that.

00:38:47.739 --> 00:38:47.859
 Okay?

00:38:48.159 --> 00:38:48.719
 We're programmed

00:38:48.719 --> 00:38:49.379
 to think about

00:38:49.379 --> 00:38:50.159
 other people.

00:38:50.980 --> 00:38:52.619
 We're predisposed,

00:38:52.779 --> 00:38:53.539
 like we've been evading

00:38:53.539 --> 00:38:54.179
 our whole life.

00:38:54.259 --> 00:38:54.679
 We've been evading

00:38:54.679 --> 00:38:55.159
 our responsibility

00:38:55.159 --> 00:38:55.619
 our whole life.

00:38:55.659 --> 00:38:56.359
 We're really good at it.

00:38:56.819 --> 00:38:57.299
 And so,

00:38:57.419 --> 00:38:58.299
 we need to ask God

00:38:58.299 --> 00:38:58.659
 for humility.

00:38:58.779 --> 00:38:58.939
 Lord,

00:38:59.639 --> 00:39:00.119
 talk to me.

00:39:00.339 --> 00:39:00.519
 Okay,

00:39:00.699 --> 00:39:00.939
 so,

00:39:01.139 --> 00:39:01.699
 here's some things.

00:39:02.019 --> 00:39:02.460
 Number one,

00:39:02.879 --> 00:39:03.539
 take responsibility

00:39:03.539 --> 00:39:04.319
 for your own sin.

00:39:04.980 --> 00:39:05.939
 God is not responsible

00:39:05.939 --> 00:39:06.599
 for your sin.

00:39:07.139 --> 00:39:08.099
 Others are not responsible

00:39:08.099 --> 00:39:08.739
 for your sin.

00:39:08.739 --> 00:39:10.259
 you are.

00:39:11.359 --> 00:39:12.379
 Read James 1,

00:39:12.459 --> 00:39:13.559
 verse 13 through 17.

00:39:14.159 --> 00:39:15.819
 Read 1 Corinthians 10, 13.

00:39:16.319 --> 00:39:17.219
 No temptation

00:39:17.219 --> 00:39:18.279
 has overtaken you,

00:39:19.139 --> 00:39:20.259
 such is not common to man.

00:39:20.679 --> 00:39:22.099
 But God is faithful

00:39:22.099 --> 00:39:23.219
 and will,

00:39:23.619 --> 00:39:24.699
 with the temptation,

00:39:25.199 --> 00:39:26.199
 make a way of escape

00:39:26.199 --> 00:39:27.439
 so you can bear it.

00:39:28.159 --> 00:39:29.039
 Is that true?

00:39:29.139 --> 00:39:29.819
 Yes or no?

00:39:30.559 --> 00:39:31.679
 If it's true,

00:39:32.319 --> 00:39:33.619
 you have zero

00:39:33.619 --> 00:39:36.479
 room to stand on

00:39:36.479 --> 00:39:37.500
 by saying God's responsible

00:39:37.500 --> 00:39:37.979
 for your sin

00:39:37.979 --> 00:39:38.319
 or other people

00:39:38.320 --> 00:39:38.780
 responsible.

00:39:39.120 --> 00:39:39.280
 Okay?

00:39:39.640 --> 00:39:40.260
 You gotta own it.

00:39:41.880 --> 00:39:42.440
 Number two,

00:39:42.539 --> 00:39:43.240
 take responsibility

00:39:43.240 --> 00:39:43.860
 for mission

00:39:43.860 --> 00:39:44.680
 and discipleship

00:39:44.680 --> 00:39:45.780
 and instead of expecting

00:39:45.780 --> 00:39:46.460
 other people

00:39:46.460 --> 00:39:47.600
 like leaders,

00:39:48.500 --> 00:39:49.340
 other more sure people,

00:39:49.420 --> 00:39:49.539
 oh,

00:39:49.580 --> 00:39:50.340
 they're more mature than me,

00:39:50.360 --> 00:39:51.019
 they'll take care of that,

00:39:51.620 --> 00:39:52.500
 to do it for you.

00:39:52.960 --> 00:39:53.320
 No.

00:39:54.360 --> 00:39:55.280
 God has given you

00:39:55.280 --> 00:39:55.539
 a mina

00:39:55.539 --> 00:39:58.000
 that he's going to give,

00:39:58.640 --> 00:39:59.519
 call you to account for

00:39:59.519 --> 00:40:00.039
 and no one else

00:40:00.039 --> 00:40:00.720
 in the entire world.

00:40:01.800 --> 00:40:02.160
 Okay?

00:40:03.039 --> 00:40:03.620
 Don't avoid

00:40:03.620 --> 00:40:04.500
 the responsibility of that.

00:40:04.559 --> 00:40:05.200
 Don't get irritated

00:40:05.200 --> 00:40:05.660
 at other people

00:40:05.659 --> 00:40:06.099
 because they're not

00:40:06.099 --> 00:40:06.799
 helping you

00:40:06.799 --> 00:40:07.639
 with the thing

00:40:07.639 --> 00:40:08.639
 that he told you to do.

00:40:09.299 --> 00:40:09.579
 Okay?

00:40:09.759 --> 00:40:10.579
 That's not partnership.

00:40:11.679 --> 00:40:11.980
 That's,

00:40:12.339 --> 00:40:12.960
 anyway,

00:40:13.000 --> 00:40:13.779
 that's just passing the buck.

00:40:14.359 --> 00:40:14.679
 Number three,

00:40:14.799 --> 00:40:15.500
 own your responsibility

00:40:15.500 --> 00:40:16.279
 for your family,

00:40:16.339 --> 00:40:16.719
 your children,

00:40:16.839 --> 00:40:17.179
 your spouse,

00:40:17.259 --> 00:40:17.719
 your parents.

00:40:18.159 --> 00:40:18.819
 Don't farm it out

00:40:18.819 --> 00:40:19.199
 to other people.

00:40:19.279 --> 00:40:19.799
 It's the same thing.

00:40:19.879 --> 00:40:20.679
 They're one of your means.

00:40:20.819 --> 00:40:21.019
 Okay?

00:40:22.119 --> 00:40:22.739
 Get help,

00:40:22.839 --> 00:40:23.440
 get partnership,

00:40:23.559 --> 00:40:24.059
 get prayer,

00:40:24.159 --> 00:40:24.719
 get counsel,

00:40:24.719 --> 00:40:26.599
 but own the responsibility

00:40:26.599 --> 00:40:27.199
 yourself.

00:40:28.539 --> 00:40:29.480
 The Bible's very clear

00:40:29.480 --> 00:40:30.439
 about this in divine order.

00:40:30.519 --> 00:40:31.119
 We have lots of verses

00:40:31.119 --> 00:40:31.879
 we could talk about that

00:40:31.879 --> 00:40:32.519
 for a long time.

00:40:34.039 --> 00:40:34.599
 Next one,

00:40:34.679 --> 00:40:35.359
 own your responsibility

00:40:35.359 --> 00:40:35.959
 to the church.

00:40:36.119 --> 00:40:37.099
 Speak the truth in love.

00:40:37.699 --> 00:40:38.379
 Submit to authority.

00:40:38.500 --> 00:40:39.179
 Receive and give

00:40:39.179 --> 00:40:39.819
 frank correction

00:40:39.819 --> 00:40:41.439
 instead of passive-aggressively

00:40:41.439 --> 00:40:42.019
 gossiping.

00:40:42.079 --> 00:40:42.239
 Like,

00:40:42.359 --> 00:40:43.419
 we need to own this stuff.

00:40:44.719 --> 00:40:45.259
 Next one,

00:40:45.319 --> 00:40:46.000
 own your finances

00:40:46.000 --> 00:40:47.519
 instead of harboring

00:40:47.519 --> 00:40:49.079
 a poverty mentality

00:40:49.079 --> 00:40:50.159
 and depending on others.

00:40:50.779 --> 00:40:51.000
 Like,

00:40:51.059 --> 00:40:51.579
 the question is,

00:40:51.599 --> 00:40:52.359
 is God your provider

00:40:52.359 --> 00:40:53.619
 or not?

00:40:53.619 --> 00:40:54.619
 Okay?

00:40:55.339 --> 00:40:56.079
 Does he own the cattle

00:40:56.079 --> 00:40:57.159
 on a thousand hills

00:40:57.159 --> 00:40:58.000
 or whatever or not?

00:40:58.679 --> 00:40:59.619
 If he does,

00:41:00.179 --> 00:41:01.019
 let's take that promise

00:41:01.019 --> 00:41:01.500
 to the bank.

00:41:02.159 --> 00:41:02.279
 Okay?

00:41:03.500 --> 00:41:04.279
 Own hospitality.

00:41:04.400 --> 00:41:05.159
 Who cares if other people

00:41:05.159 --> 00:41:05.719
 aren't doing it?

00:41:05.779 --> 00:41:06.559
 Are you doing it?

00:41:07.299 --> 00:41:08.599
 Are you opening wide

00:41:08.599 --> 00:41:09.159
 your heart

00:41:09.159 --> 00:41:09.940
 to other people

00:41:09.940 --> 00:41:11.619
 and basically

00:41:11.619 --> 00:41:13.019
 kind of have an amnesia

00:41:13.019 --> 00:41:14.179
 with respect to how

00:41:14.179 --> 00:41:15.179
 other people are doing about it?

00:41:15.199 --> 00:41:15.659
 It's one of the words

00:41:15.659 --> 00:41:15.960
 of the year,

00:41:16.019 --> 00:41:16.400
 hospitality.

00:41:16.519 --> 00:41:17.059
 We're trying to grow

00:41:17.059 --> 00:41:17.679
 in that this year.

00:41:18.719 --> 00:41:19.599
 Forget about what other people

00:41:19.599 --> 00:41:19.799
 are doing.

00:41:19.880 --> 00:41:20.400
 Just do it yourself.

00:41:20.900 --> 00:41:21.019
 Right?

00:41:22.139 --> 00:41:22.460
 Family.

00:41:22.559 --> 00:41:22.699
 Sorry,

00:41:22.799 --> 00:41:22.960
 family,

00:41:23.079 --> 00:41:23.400
 not hospitality.

00:41:23.400 --> 00:41:23.880
 Thank you.

00:41:24.780 --> 00:41:25.700
 My wife gave me the look.

00:41:27.760 --> 00:41:28.920
 Ruthlessly kill excuses.

00:41:29.680 --> 00:41:30.800
 Discontentment is an excuse.

00:41:31.260 --> 00:41:32.119
 It's from not getting

00:41:32.119 --> 00:41:32.820
 your desires met.

00:41:33.019 --> 00:41:33.200
 Okay?

00:41:33.780 --> 00:41:34.820
 James 4 is really clear

00:41:34.820 --> 00:41:35.420
 about this.

00:41:36.480 --> 00:41:37.240
 Have you learned

00:41:37.240 --> 00:41:38.320
 the secret of contentment

00:41:38.320 --> 00:41:38.720
 like Paul?

00:41:38.820 --> 00:41:39.559
 Paul had Jesus

00:41:39.559 --> 00:41:40.180
 in a prison

00:41:40.180 --> 00:41:41.280
 and he was a happy,

00:41:41.400 --> 00:41:41.920
 happy man.

00:41:43.260 --> 00:41:44.099
 Why is that not

00:41:44.099 --> 00:41:44.780
 the case for you?

00:41:45.740 --> 00:41:46.460
 Same Jesus,

00:41:46.940 --> 00:41:47.519
 same Savior.

00:41:48.940 --> 00:41:50.019
 Loneliness and self-pity.

00:41:50.360 --> 00:41:50.820
 Same thing.

00:41:50.960 --> 00:41:51.720
 Contentment with Jesus.

00:41:51.719 --> 00:41:53.519
 Paul was not lonely

00:41:53.519 --> 00:41:54.319
 in his prison.

00:41:54.839 --> 00:41:55.799
 He had the Lord Jesus.

00:41:56.279 --> 00:41:56.519
 Okay?

00:41:56.679 --> 00:41:58.019
 He was overflowing.

00:41:58.500 --> 00:41:58.899
 Somehow,

00:41:59.399 --> 00:42:00.319
 he figured out

00:42:00.319 --> 00:42:01.119
 how to just be

00:42:01.119 --> 00:42:02.339
 an overflowing well

00:42:02.339 --> 00:42:02.879
 of blessing

00:42:02.879 --> 00:42:03.439
 to Christians

00:42:03.439 --> 00:42:04.359
 all over the world

00:42:04.359 --> 00:42:05.439
 alone in prison.

00:42:06.739 --> 00:42:07.699
 That's God's will for you.

00:42:08.739 --> 00:42:09.299
 God's got you

00:42:09.299 --> 00:42:10.199
 in a lonely season of life.

00:42:10.319 --> 00:42:10.679
 Guess what?

00:42:10.719 --> 00:42:11.659
 He wants you to overflow

00:42:11.659 --> 00:42:12.939
 through your relationship

00:42:12.939 --> 00:42:13.439
 with Jesus.

00:42:13.439 --> 00:42:15.480
 Lack of obedience.

00:42:15.579 --> 00:42:16.019
 I got too much

00:42:16.019 --> 00:42:16.420
 on my plate

00:42:16.420 --> 00:42:17.059
 to obey God.

00:42:17.920 --> 00:42:19.059
 Maybe in your own strength,

00:42:19.139 --> 00:42:19.280
 yes.

00:42:19.360 --> 00:42:20.400
 Maybe God's loaded you up

00:42:20.400 --> 00:42:20.880
 so you would not

00:42:20.880 --> 00:42:21.920
 trust yourself but God.

00:42:22.480 --> 00:42:22.659
 Okay?

00:42:23.740 --> 00:42:24.619
 Unwillingness to receive

00:42:24.619 --> 00:42:25.059
 correction.

00:42:25.699 --> 00:42:26.320
 We've already talked

00:42:26.320 --> 00:42:26.840
 about that.

00:42:27.260 --> 00:42:27.820
 Lack of prayer

00:42:27.820 --> 00:42:28.340
 and Bible reading.

00:42:28.440 --> 00:42:29.519
 I think this is just

00:42:29.519 --> 00:42:30.400
 a Christian practical.

00:42:30.980 --> 00:42:31.519
 It seems like

00:42:31.519 --> 00:42:32.260
 one of the first things

00:42:32.260 --> 00:42:33.960
 to go and the excuse is

00:42:33.960 --> 00:42:34.860
 my life's just too busy.

00:42:35.179 --> 00:42:35.659
 I have too much

00:42:35.659 --> 00:42:36.119
 on my plate.

00:42:36.699 --> 00:42:37.639
 No, you don't.

00:42:37.639 --> 00:42:38.400
 Never forever

00:42:38.400 --> 00:42:39.119
 for the rest of your life

00:42:39.119 --> 00:42:39.599
 you don't.

00:42:40.940 --> 00:42:42.000
 Seek first the kingdom

00:42:42.000 --> 00:42:42.980
 of God

00:42:42.980 --> 00:42:43.740
 and his righteousness.

00:42:43.739 --> 00:42:44.659
 All these things

00:42:44.659 --> 00:42:45.339
 will be added to you.

00:42:45.719 --> 00:42:46.539
 One thing is needful,

00:42:46.619 --> 00:42:47.039
 Jesus said,

00:42:47.079 --> 00:42:47.779
 to sit at my feet

00:42:47.779 --> 00:42:48.339
 and hear my word.

00:42:48.599 --> 00:42:49.279
 We always,

00:42:49.459 --> 00:42:50.339
 as a born again believer

00:42:50.339 --> 00:42:50.739
 in Jesus,

00:42:50.899 --> 00:42:52.679
 have time to sit alone

00:42:52.679 --> 00:42:53.279
 with Jesus

00:42:53.279 --> 00:42:56.399
 and pray to our Father

00:42:56.399 --> 00:42:57.219
 through Jesus

00:42:57.219 --> 00:42:58.359
 to fellowship

00:42:58.359 --> 00:42:59.279
 with the Holy Spirit

00:42:59.279 --> 00:43:01.139
 to read his word

00:43:01.139 --> 00:43:02.379
 and be edified

00:43:02.379 --> 00:43:03.219
 so that we can edify

00:43:03.219 --> 00:43:03.759
 other people.

00:43:03.879 --> 00:43:04.459
 We always do

00:43:04.459 --> 00:43:05.319
 100% of the time

00:43:05.319 --> 00:43:06.000
 and he'll protect it.

00:43:06.500 --> 00:43:06.799
 You know what he said

00:43:06.799 --> 00:43:07.259
 about Mary?

00:43:08.379 --> 00:43:09.439
 One thing is needful

00:43:09.439 --> 00:43:11.259
 and it will not

00:43:11.259 --> 00:43:12.939
 be taken from her.

00:43:14.739 --> 00:43:15.379
 God will never

00:43:15.379 --> 00:43:16.659
 take away your time

00:43:16.659 --> 00:43:17.079
 to pray

00:43:17.079 --> 00:43:17.759
 and spend time

00:43:17.759 --> 00:43:18.359
 with him and his word.

00:43:18.779 --> 00:43:19.000
 Okay?

00:43:19.359 --> 00:43:20.079
 So forget about it.

00:43:20.099 --> 00:43:20.799
 Stop letting that

00:43:20.799 --> 00:43:21.319
 be an excuse.

00:43:22.199 --> 00:43:22.879
 Stop escaping.

00:43:23.779 --> 00:43:24.279
 Jesus says,

00:43:24.479 --> 00:43:24.899
 in this world

00:43:24.899 --> 00:43:25.519
 you will have trouble.

00:43:25.639 --> 00:43:26.359
 Our life is going

00:43:26.359 --> 00:43:26.899
 to be hard.

00:43:27.519 --> 00:43:28.259
 But take heart.

00:43:28.539 --> 00:43:29.519
 I've overcome the world.

00:43:30.059 --> 00:43:30.339
 Okay?

00:43:31.379 --> 00:43:31.779
 Yes,

00:43:32.399 --> 00:43:33.359
 if you're following Jesus

00:43:33.359 --> 00:43:34.000
 you're going to have

00:43:34.000 --> 00:43:34.659
 a hard life.

00:43:37.179 --> 00:43:37.479
 Like,

00:43:37.959 --> 00:43:38.519
 praise the Lord.

00:43:38.599 --> 00:43:39.539
 Jesus had a hard life.

00:43:40.519 --> 00:43:41.659
 And when he comes back

00:43:41.659 --> 00:43:42.199
 we're going to have

00:43:42.199 --> 00:43:44.799
 experiential physical rest

00:43:44.799 --> 00:43:45.619
 from our labors.

00:43:46.379 --> 00:43:47.759
 We can have spiritual rest

00:43:47.759 --> 00:43:49.279
 now with a hard life

00:43:49.279 --> 00:43:50.759
 through his rest.

00:43:51.539 --> 00:43:52.179
 Stop envying

00:43:52.179 --> 00:43:53.000
 and comparing yourself

00:43:53.000 --> 00:43:53.659
 with other people.

00:43:54.619 --> 00:43:55.639
 Who cares what God

00:43:55.639 --> 00:43:56.159
 gave them?

00:43:57.199 --> 00:43:57.460
 Okay?

00:43:58.259 --> 00:43:59.319
 Stop using that

00:43:59.319 --> 00:44:00.239
 as an excuse

00:44:00.239 --> 00:44:02.259
 for your own discontentment.

00:44:02.679 --> 00:44:03.219
 It's wicked.

00:44:04.259 --> 00:44:04.399
 Okay?

00:44:06.259 --> 00:44:07.440
 Put off insecurity.

00:44:07.759 --> 00:44:08.879
 Don't be an insecure person.

00:44:09.440 --> 00:44:10.140
 It's almost like this

00:44:10.140 --> 00:44:11.960
 like almost like a virtue

00:44:11.960 --> 00:44:12.960
 to be kind of like

00:44:12.960 --> 00:44:13.619
 insecure.

00:44:14.900 --> 00:44:15.160
 No.

00:44:15.660 --> 00:44:16.880
 Does Jesus Christ

00:44:16.880 --> 00:44:18.039
 the Lord of heaven and earth

00:44:18.039 --> 00:44:19.119
 live inside of you

00:44:19.119 --> 00:44:20.260
 or not?

00:44:21.539 --> 00:44:22.700
 It's a yes or no question.

00:44:23.460 --> 00:44:24.300
 If he is

00:44:24.300 --> 00:44:25.340
 he's the same

00:44:25.340 --> 00:44:26.380
 yesterday and today

00:44:26.380 --> 00:44:26.900
 and forever

00:44:26.900 --> 00:44:28.980
 and everything's

00:44:28.980 --> 00:44:29.680
 under his feet.

00:44:30.039 --> 00:44:30.599
 All authority

00:44:30.599 --> 00:44:31.280
 on heaven and earth

00:44:31.280 --> 00:44:32.220
 has been given to him.

00:44:33.480 --> 00:44:34.500
 He commands you

00:44:34.500 --> 00:44:36.000
 to go there forth

00:44:36.000 --> 00:44:37.599
 and make disciples.

00:44:37.599 --> 00:44:38.799
 He commands you

00:44:38.799 --> 00:44:39.519
 to speak the truth

00:44:39.519 --> 00:44:39.980
 in love.

00:44:41.420 --> 00:44:41.960
 It's his.

00:44:42.039 --> 00:44:42.559
 It's his power

00:44:42.559 --> 00:44:43.059
 and his glory.

00:44:43.599 --> 00:44:44.059
 In fact

00:44:44.059 --> 00:44:45.799
 he is glorified

00:44:45.799 --> 00:44:46.420
 more

00:44:46.420 --> 00:44:47.799
 when we have people

00:44:47.799 --> 00:44:48.579
 who are weak.

00:44:49.179 --> 00:44:50.039
 That's why he picked him.

00:44:50.319 --> 00:44:51.119
 That's why he picked us.

00:44:52.980 --> 00:44:53.880
 Cease from your own works

00:44:53.880 --> 00:44:54.380
 instead of being

00:44:54.380 --> 00:44:55.360
 a ministry Martha.

00:44:55.799 --> 00:44:56.380
 Have you entered

00:44:56.380 --> 00:44:57.179
 God's rest

00:44:57.179 --> 00:44:58.440
 such that you can relax

00:44:58.440 --> 00:44:59.380
 and enjoy people

00:44:59.380 --> 00:45:00.659
 or is everyone

00:45:00.659 --> 00:45:02.019
 a ministry project to you?

00:45:02.539 --> 00:45:03.000
 I think this is key.

00:45:03.039 --> 00:45:03.420
 We're talking about

00:45:03.420 --> 00:45:04.079
 building family.

00:45:04.719 --> 00:45:05.839
 This ministry mindset

00:45:05.840 --> 00:45:07.160
 you can get into it

00:45:07.160 --> 00:45:07.680
 for so long

00:45:07.680 --> 00:45:08.500
 we don't even realize

00:45:08.500 --> 00:45:09.400
 why we can't

00:45:09.400 --> 00:45:09.980
 enjoy people

00:45:09.980 --> 00:45:10.320
 and why people

00:45:10.320 --> 00:45:11.280
 don't enjoy being around us.

00:45:12.220 --> 00:45:12.860
 That's me.

00:45:13.800 --> 00:45:14.640
 I've made people

00:45:14.640 --> 00:45:15.480
 feel so uncomfortable

00:45:15.480 --> 00:45:16.539
 for so long in my life

00:45:16.539 --> 00:45:17.200
 because I've treated

00:45:17.200 --> 00:45:18.240
 everyone like a problem

00:45:18.240 --> 00:45:18.760
 to solve

00:45:18.760 --> 00:45:21.039
 and it destroys fellowship.

00:45:21.420 --> 00:45:21.519
 Okay.

00:45:22.860 --> 00:45:23.660
 It's evidence

00:45:23.660 --> 00:45:24.440
 of self-righteous

00:45:24.440 --> 00:45:25.000
 sacrificing.

00:45:25.180 --> 00:45:25.539
 I'm trying to

00:45:25.539 --> 00:45:26.559
 I'm trying to

00:45:26.559 --> 00:45:27.260
 please Jesus

00:45:27.260 --> 00:45:28.019
 through all my

00:45:28.019 --> 00:45:28.820
 ministry stuff

00:45:28.820 --> 00:45:30.280
 and I just can't relax

00:45:30.280 --> 00:45:31.600
 because I'm not

00:45:31.600 --> 00:45:32.180
 at rest in the

00:45:32.180 --> 00:45:32.900
 finished work of Jesus.

00:45:32.900 --> 00:45:33.500
 You know

00:45:33.500 --> 00:45:36.680
 encourage people

00:45:36.680 --> 00:45:37.380
 to take responsibility

00:45:37.380 --> 00:45:38.099
 for themselves.

00:45:38.260 --> 00:45:38.780
 This is related

00:45:38.780 --> 00:45:39.280
 to the call

00:45:39.280 --> 00:45:39.900
 to repentance.

00:45:40.440 --> 00:45:40.820
 They call it

00:45:40.820 --> 00:45:41.740
 take responsibility

00:45:41.740 --> 00:45:42.500
 for ourselves.

00:45:42.639 --> 00:45:43.099
 If you're taking

00:45:43.099 --> 00:45:43.559
 responsibility

00:45:43.559 --> 00:45:44.340
 for yourself

00:45:44.340 --> 00:45:46.680
 you encourage

00:45:46.680 --> 00:45:47.460
 people to take

00:45:47.460 --> 00:45:47.920
 responsibility

00:45:47.920 --> 00:45:48.660
 for themselves.

00:45:49.099 --> 00:45:49.780
 You can't repent

00:45:49.780 --> 00:45:50.280
 for them.

00:45:50.579 --> 00:45:51.680
 You can't rescue them.

00:45:52.420 --> 00:45:52.740
 Some of the

00:45:52.740 --> 00:45:53.380
 rescuing mindset

00:45:53.380 --> 00:45:53.960
 comes from.

00:45:55.240 --> 00:45:55.880
 It's so crazy

00:45:55.880 --> 00:45:56.860
 how these things

00:45:56.860 --> 00:45:58.260
 actually show us

00:45:58.260 --> 00:45:59.380
 what we think

00:45:59.380 --> 00:46:00.099
 about ourselves.

00:46:02.000 --> 00:46:02.519
 Rescuers

00:46:02.519 --> 00:46:03.440
 are people

00:46:03.440 --> 00:46:04.119
 who feel

00:46:04.119 --> 00:46:04.739
 like they need

00:46:04.739 --> 00:46:05.199
 to be rescued.

00:46:05.980 --> 00:46:06.579
 They're not

00:46:06.579 --> 00:46:07.199
 taking responsibility

00:46:07.199 --> 00:46:07.840
 for their life.

00:46:08.099 --> 00:46:08.539
 So we need to

00:46:08.539 --> 00:46:09.340
 fight against that.

00:46:09.380 --> 00:46:09.679
 We need to take

00:46:09.679 --> 00:46:10.079
 responsibility

00:46:10.079 --> 00:46:10.759
 for ourselves.

00:46:12.239 --> 00:46:13.059
 Last point.

00:46:14.880 --> 00:46:15.719
 Jesus became

00:46:15.719 --> 00:46:16.179
 a victim

00:46:16.179 --> 00:46:16.880
 for us.

00:46:18.320 --> 00:46:19.219
 We still feel

00:46:19.219 --> 00:46:19.840
 like we're a victim.

00:46:20.239 --> 00:46:20.739
 We need to remember

00:46:20.739 --> 00:46:21.820
 that there's only one.

00:46:23.300 --> 00:46:24.179
 Jesus became

00:46:24.179 --> 00:46:24.559
 a victim

00:46:24.559 --> 00:46:25.179
 for us

00:46:25.179 --> 00:46:26.500
 and

00:46:26.500 --> 00:46:29.920
 we deserve

00:46:29.920 --> 00:46:30.380
 to be a victim

00:46:30.380 --> 00:46:30.820
 but he came

00:46:30.820 --> 00:46:31.539
 a victim for us.

00:46:32.519 --> 00:46:34.099
 Romans 5.6

00:46:34.099 --> 00:46:34.360
 says,

00:46:34.480 --> 00:46:35.039
 while we were

00:46:35.039 --> 00:46:35.739
 still helpless

00:46:35.739 --> 00:46:37.259
 at the right

00:46:37.259 --> 00:46:37.699
 time,

00:46:38.099 --> 00:46:38.619
 Christ died

00:46:38.619 --> 00:46:39.420
 for the ungodly.

00:46:40.980 --> 00:46:41.880
 In 1 Corinthians

00:46:41.880 --> 00:46:42.719
 15.57

00:46:42.719 --> 00:46:43.179
 says,

00:46:43.300 --> 00:46:43.940
 but thanks be to

00:46:43.940 --> 00:46:44.259
 God

00:46:44.259 --> 00:46:45.280
 who gives us

00:46:45.280 --> 00:46:45.880
 the victory

00:46:45.880 --> 00:46:46.619
 through our

00:46:46.619 --> 00:46:47.519
 Lord Jesus Christ.

00:46:48.119 --> 00:46:48.599
 We're still

00:46:48.599 --> 00:46:49.360
 tempted to harbor

00:46:49.360 --> 00:46:50.159
 a victim mentality.

00:46:50.739 --> 00:46:51.500
 Think of Jesus

00:46:51.500 --> 00:46:52.820
 being made a victim

00:46:52.820 --> 00:46:53.280
 for you.

00:46:53.980 --> 00:46:54.300
 They ought to

00:46:54.300 --> 00:46:54.860
 shut our mouths.

00:46:55.440 --> 00:46:55.579
 Okay?

00:46:56.099 --> 00:46:56.480
 They ought to

00:46:56.480 --> 00:46:57.000
 shut us up.

00:46:57.559 --> 00:46:58.500
 We need to shut up

00:46:58.500 --> 00:46:59.780
 in a good way.

00:46:59.780 --> 00:47:01.000
 We need to

00:47:01.000 --> 00:47:01.600
 shut the

00:47:01.600 --> 00:47:02.440
 narrative down

00:47:02.440 --> 00:47:03.460
 that we're

00:47:03.460 --> 00:47:04.360
 somehow victims

00:47:04.360 --> 00:47:05.280
 of other people

00:47:05.280 --> 00:47:06.440
 and of God

00:47:06.440 --> 00:47:07.519
 because on the

00:47:07.519 --> 00:47:08.200
 day of judgment

00:47:08.200 --> 00:47:09.019
 that's all going

00:47:09.019 --> 00:47:09.519
 to go away

00:47:09.519 --> 00:47:10.260
 in an instant.

00:47:12.420 --> 00:47:12.980
 Don't wait

00:47:12.980 --> 00:47:13.340
 till then.

00:47:14.040 --> 00:47:14.760
 Let's get right

00:47:14.760 --> 00:47:15.400
 with God today.

00:47:15.640 --> 00:47:16.200
 Let's repent

00:47:16.200 --> 00:47:16.860
 of this

00:47:16.860 --> 00:47:18.880
 defensiveness

00:47:18.880 --> 00:47:20.260
 and let the

00:47:20.260 --> 00:47:20.920
 Lord bring us

00:47:20.920 --> 00:47:21.540
 to accountability

00:47:21.540 --> 00:47:21.980
 and ownership.

00:47:22.500 --> 00:47:22.580
 Okay?

00:47:22.880 --> 00:47:23.300
 Anyway,

00:47:23.380 --> 00:47:23.880
 that's all I had.

00:47:23.880 --> 00:47:24.019
 that's all I had.