WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:10.620 Today, we're going to be continuing the series of Colossians, and I have the privilege of preaching on Colossians 3, 18 to 4, 1. 00:00:12.919 --> 00:00:19.420 Now, really quickly, I know that there's a lot of people in here who have been married for longer than I have been, 00:00:19.780 --> 00:00:23.100 who have probably been married for longer than I've been alive. 00:00:25.120 --> 00:00:29.120 But one thing to remember is that truth is timeless. 00:00:30.000 --> 00:00:32.520 And that wisdom is not just giving to age. 00:00:32.759 --> 00:00:34.640 It's giving to all freely from God's. 00:00:36.480 --> 00:00:49.539 And so first, I just want to go through a brief introduction and go through kind of what Paul's theology has been leading up to right now. 00:00:49.539 --> 00:00:56.359 Right. So Paul explains to the Colossians with different words that we are we are in Christ. 00:00:56.359 --> 00:00:58.399 Right. The old man. 00:00:59.000 --> 00:01:01.019 Now we are the new man. 00:01:01.119 --> 00:01:02.519 So just a few verses. 00:01:03.079 --> 00:01:07.780 If you want to turn with me, Colossians chapter one, verse 21 and 22. 00:01:08.719 --> 00:01:13.060 Once you were alienated and hostile in your minds, expressed in your evil actions. 00:01:13.060 --> 00:01:20.840 But now he has reconciled you by his physical body through his death to present you holy, faultless and blameless before him. 00:01:21.840 --> 00:01:23.799 Colossians 2, 6 to 7. 00:01:23.799 --> 00:01:37.659 So then, just as you receive Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him, being rooted and built up in him, established in the faith, just as you were taught and overflowing with gratitude. 00:01:38.500 --> 00:01:39.719 Colossians 2, 20. 00:01:39.719 --> 00:01:46.400 If you died with Christ to the elements of this world, why do you live as if you still belong to this world? 00:01:47.400 --> 00:01:49.219 Why do you submit to the regulations? 00:01:50.000 --> 00:01:50.120 Right. 00:01:51.000 --> 00:01:52.719 Colossians 3, 1 to 4. 00:01:53.500 --> 00:01:58.560 If you have been raised with Christ, seek the things above where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. 00:01:59.560 --> 00:02:02.460 Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. 00:02:02.519 --> 00:02:05.480 For you died and your life is hidden with Christ and God. 00:02:05.480 --> 00:02:09.500 When Christ soothes, your life appears, then you will also appear with him in glory. 00:02:10.120 --> 00:02:12.319 And then, I'll do this one last. 00:02:12.599 --> 00:02:16.120 Colossians 3, 8 and 3, 12. 00:02:16.300 --> 00:02:16.520 Right? 00:02:17.219 --> 00:02:17.879 3, 8. 00:02:17.879 --> 00:02:25.359 But now, put away all the following, anger, wrath, malice, slander, and filthy language from your mouth. 00:02:25.979 --> 00:02:26.759 And then, 3, 12. 00:02:26.900 --> 00:02:35.859 Therefore, as God's chosen ones, holy and dearly loved, put on compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. 00:02:36.099 --> 00:02:36.300 Right? 00:02:36.719 --> 00:02:37.379 All of this. 00:02:37.479 --> 00:02:41.259 You were once lost, alienated from God. 00:02:41.259 --> 00:02:43.819 You were once evil, slanderers, malicious. 00:02:44.379 --> 00:02:47.459 But now, all these different things. 00:02:47.579 --> 00:02:47.699 Right? 00:02:48.679 --> 00:02:51.419 So, Paul is just driving home this point. 00:02:51.979 --> 00:02:55.039 And now, we're kind of in application. 00:02:55.379 --> 00:02:55.539 Right? 00:02:55.959 --> 00:02:59.919 We've been in application mode for a while now that Paul is giving. 00:02:59.919 --> 00:03:08.379 But, really, he's honing in here on Colossians 3, 18 to 4, 1 on our homes. 00:03:08.619 --> 00:03:08.799 Right? 00:03:09.399 --> 00:03:14.719 What does this theology of the old self look like in our homes? 00:03:14.879 --> 00:03:16.939 What does it look like now that we're in Christ? 00:03:17.199 --> 00:03:17.359 Right? 00:03:17.859 --> 00:03:18.859 What should it look like? 00:03:19.339 --> 00:03:20.419 So, I'll read that really quickly. 00:03:20.560 --> 00:03:21.699 I'll start at verse 17. 00:03:21.699 --> 00:03:29.419 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. 00:03:30.199 --> 00:03:33.619 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 00:03:34.179 --> 00:03:36.839 Husbands, love your wives, and don't be bitter toward them. 00:03:37.519 --> 00:03:41.139 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. 00:03:41.859 --> 00:03:45.500 Fathers, do not exasperate your children so that they won't become discouraged. 00:03:46.399 --> 00:03:48.939 Slaves, obey your human masters in everything. 00:03:48.939 --> 00:03:53.840 Don't work only while being watched as people pleasers, but wholeheartedly fearing the Lord. 00:03:54.400 --> 00:03:56.340 Whatever you do, do it from the heart. 00:03:56.840 --> 00:04:03.960 That's something done for the Lord and not for people, knowing that you will receive the reward of an inheritance from the Lord. 00:04:04.560 --> 00:04:10.900 You serve the Lord Christ, for the wrongdoer will be paid back for whatever wrong he has done, and there's no favoritism. 00:04:11.860 --> 00:04:17.860 Masters deal with their saves justly and fairly, since you know you too have a master in heaven. 00:04:17.860 --> 00:04:23.840 So the sermon is titled, Priority, Preeminence, and Perseverance. 00:04:25.939 --> 00:04:33.759 So verse 17 is an important verse for the backdrop of the rest of what Paul is going to say in our homes. 00:04:34.460 --> 00:04:39.580 And whatever you do, in word or in deed, do everything in the name of the Lord, right? 00:04:39.579 --> 00:04:46.120 This section for Christ's preeminence in our homes, right? 00:04:46.659 --> 00:04:51.419 In everything that we do, in word or in deed, do all in the name of Christ. 00:04:52.740 --> 00:04:53.240 Right? 00:04:53.399 --> 00:05:00.000 So in these following verses, there's three relationship pairs that Paul mentioned, right? 00:05:00.579 --> 00:05:05.560 Wives and husbands, children and fathers, slaves and masters. 00:05:05.560 --> 00:05:15.259 And a footnote here to just think about is that kind of the leaders of these relationships are not put first, right? 00:05:16.240 --> 00:05:18.040 Wives are put before husbands. 00:05:18.680 --> 00:05:20.819 Children are put before fathers. 00:05:21.579 --> 00:05:25.180 Slaves are put before masters in the way that Paul presents it. 00:05:25.180 --> 00:05:35.220 And it's kind of these three pairs that I'm going to focus on in interpreting the scripture and then give some application points, right? 00:05:37.400 --> 00:05:42.759 So first, wives are called to submit to their husbands, right? 00:05:42.759 --> 00:05:48.740 This submission is voluntary submission. 00:05:49.139 --> 00:05:50.579 It's not subservience. 00:05:52.740 --> 00:05:57.279 And what is that difference, right? 00:05:57.639 --> 00:06:08.259 Well, subservience is willingness to obey without question and the condition of being less important than someone or something else, right? 00:06:08.259 --> 00:06:11.039 Submission is voluntary. 00:06:11.500 --> 00:06:18.899 It's taken on yourself to come under the vision of that person that you're following or that thing that you're following, right? 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:23.360 Wives voluntarily come under their husband. 00:06:23.480 --> 00:06:24.539 They're not lesser than. 00:06:25.120 --> 00:06:27.920 It's equal in value, dignity, and worth, right? 00:06:30.139 --> 00:06:36.459 But Paul says, right, in the following verse, the manner of your submission, right? 00:06:36.459 --> 00:06:37.959 What is the manner of your submission? 00:06:38.739 --> 00:06:42.519 It's as it is fitting in the Lord, right? 00:06:44.299 --> 00:06:50.959 Another way you could say this is to submit in a manner that is appropriate for those who are in the Lord. 00:06:51.439 --> 00:06:57.079 It's not saying follow your husband as you would the Lord, right? 00:06:57.139 --> 00:06:58.379 Your husband is not the Lord. 00:06:58.899 --> 00:07:01.939 As those who are in the Lord follow your husbands, right? 00:07:01.939 --> 00:07:07.939 If your husband is telling you, demanding you to sin, that's not appropriate for one who is in the Lord. 00:07:10.259 --> 00:07:15.139 So the manner of this submission is as it is fitting in the Lord, right? 00:07:16.920 --> 00:07:21.159 So wives, what is your submission like, right? 00:07:21.800 --> 00:07:24.759 What should it be like, right? 00:07:24.759 --> 00:07:29.599 Christ is the one that is our head. 00:07:30.180 --> 00:07:32.319 Christ is the one that is your head, right? 00:07:33.899 --> 00:07:40.339 If we think about a giant organization, right? 00:07:40.879 --> 00:07:42.240 Like Favorite or Garmin. 00:07:43.019 --> 00:07:45.240 You have these CEOs, right? 00:07:45.819 --> 00:07:48.240 You have the COO. 00:07:48.240 --> 00:07:51.560 You have the director of operations. 00:07:52.079 --> 00:07:54.060 Then you have the branch manager. 00:07:54.540 --> 00:07:56.420 Then you have the manager. 00:07:56.840 --> 00:07:58.280 Then you have the supervisor. 00:07:58.579 --> 00:07:59.240 And then you have me. 00:08:01.480 --> 00:08:03.480 I am not talking to the CEO. 00:08:04.660 --> 00:08:06.759 I'm talking to my supervisor, right? 00:08:07.120 --> 00:08:09.500 I'm not relating to my CEO in any way. 00:08:09.500 --> 00:08:17.079 But in this regard, every relationship that is mentioned here is related back to Christ. 00:08:17.959 --> 00:08:19.259 Who's the head of everything? 00:08:19.759 --> 00:08:23.120 My relationship at work is cut off at my supervisor. 00:08:23.420 --> 00:08:25.740 I'm not going to her boss and complaining. 00:08:26.500 --> 00:08:27.480 It's cut off right there. 00:08:27.600 --> 00:08:30.560 Though there is some trickling down that happens from a CEO. 00:08:30.980 --> 00:08:33.159 But that relationship is cut off right there. 00:08:33.159 --> 00:08:40.299 Here, wives are submitting to their husbands because of Christ, right? 00:08:41.219 --> 00:08:45.480 So how does submission relate to Christ? 00:08:47.759 --> 00:08:49.600 How does it, right? 00:08:50.659 --> 00:08:56.139 Christ is actively in obedience to the Father, right? 00:08:56.699 --> 00:08:59.019 He is the perfect form of submission. 00:08:59.019 --> 00:09:03.220 Your submission should be after Christ's submission. 00:09:03.740 --> 00:09:08.399 Who came willingly on behalf of his Father to save the lost sheep of Israel. 00:09:08.779 --> 00:09:10.500 To save lost Gentiles. 00:09:11.000 --> 00:09:12.360 That is perfect submission. 00:09:13.220 --> 00:09:15.120 Submission is hard, right? 00:09:15.579 --> 00:09:18.340 We see Jesus weeping in the garden. 00:09:18.779 --> 00:09:22.019 Father, not my will, but your will be done, right? 00:09:23.120 --> 00:09:24.860 Submitting himself to the Father. 00:09:26.220 --> 00:09:28.019 What is your submission like? 00:09:29.019 --> 00:09:33.899 Are you submitting to your husbands as it is fitting unto the Lord? 00:09:34.860 --> 00:09:36.860 Do you follow your husbands into sin? 00:09:39.699 --> 00:09:44.299 Wives, are you submitting to your husbands out of fear of the Lord? 00:09:45.120 --> 00:09:46.759 Or is it more duty? 00:09:47.360 --> 00:09:48.159 You have to do this. 00:09:49.779 --> 00:09:52.319 When your husband is not leading you, 00:09:52.320 --> 00:09:56.000 are you just taking the reins? 00:09:58.960 --> 00:10:01.020 Or are you trying to get his attention? 00:10:01.740 --> 00:10:03.100 Hey, you need to be leading in this. 00:10:04.740 --> 00:10:05.080 All right. 00:10:06.040 --> 00:10:10.860 You should be in submission even if your husband is not leading and not taking the reins. 00:10:11.620 --> 00:10:12.260 Does that make sense? 00:10:13.020 --> 00:10:13.420 Hopefully. 00:10:15.879 --> 00:10:16.740 Verse 19. 00:10:17.540 --> 00:10:18.340 Keep it moving. 00:10:18.340 --> 00:10:27.280 Husbands, love your wives and don't be bitter towards them. 00:10:30.620 --> 00:10:32.399 Love holds it all together. 00:10:33.639 --> 00:10:33.840 Right? 00:10:34.500 --> 00:10:38.620 I mean, so many passages would come to your mind in regards to love. 00:10:38.860 --> 00:10:39.960 In John 3.16, 00:10:39.960 --> 00:10:43.980 For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son. 00:10:44.220 --> 00:10:44.360 Right? 00:10:45.620 --> 00:10:48.180 Thinking of 1 Corinthians 13.1-3. 00:10:48.379 --> 00:10:50.660 If I speak in regards to the gift, 00:10:50.940 --> 00:10:53.180 if I speak in human or angelic tongues, 00:10:53.500 --> 00:10:54.560 but do not have love, 00:10:54.620 --> 00:10:56.860 I'm a noisy gong or a playing cymbal. 00:10:57.280 --> 00:10:59.240 If I have the gift to prophesy 00:10:59.240 --> 00:11:01.740 and understand all mysteries and knowledge, 00:11:01.840 --> 00:11:03.700 and I have all faith and I can move mountains, 00:11:03.780 --> 00:11:05.100 but I do not have love, 00:11:05.900 --> 00:11:07.139 I'm nothing. 00:11:07.139 --> 00:11:09.220 If I give away all my possessions, 00:11:09.659 --> 00:11:12.299 and I give over my body in order to boast, 00:11:12.419 --> 00:11:13.480 but I do not have love, 00:11:13.559 --> 00:11:15.000 I gain nothing. 00:11:16.039 --> 00:11:16.460 Right? 00:11:16.539 --> 00:11:18.059 Love is so important. 00:11:18.279 --> 00:11:21.460 It is the most important thing in a marriage, 00:11:22.039 --> 00:11:27.019 and it's what Paul commands husbands to take charge of. 00:11:28.100 --> 00:11:28.340 Right? 00:11:28.340 --> 00:11:35.600 Paul writes in Colossians 3.14, 00:11:36.120 --> 00:11:38.360 Above all, put on love, 00:11:38.440 --> 00:11:42.180 which is the perfect bond of unity. 00:11:42.860 --> 00:11:43.580 Right? 00:11:44.860 --> 00:11:47.340 Love unifies a family. 00:11:48.180 --> 00:11:50.220 But he commands husbands to do that. 00:11:51.040 --> 00:11:53.220 Husbands are meant to be the glue to their family. 00:11:53.220 --> 00:11:56.180 Without love, 00:11:56.259 --> 00:11:57.680 without love from a husband, 00:11:57.800 --> 00:11:59.040 there's chaos in a family. 00:11:59.500 --> 00:11:59.680 Right? 00:11:59.980 --> 00:12:01.279 There's no unity in a family. 00:12:01.759 --> 00:12:02.220 There's disorganization. 00:12:03.879 --> 00:12:04.080 Right? 00:12:05.040 --> 00:12:06.879 We see wives start taking leads, 00:12:07.019 --> 00:12:08.360 start taking charge in all this, 00:12:08.660 --> 00:12:09.200 which is wrong. 00:12:09.899 --> 00:12:11.600 You could ask the husband, 00:12:11.720 --> 00:12:14.040 hey, how are you doing in loving your wives? 00:12:14.100 --> 00:12:15.740 How are you doing in loving your kids? 00:12:15.740 --> 00:12:20.919 So, what is love? 00:12:21.259 --> 00:12:21.379 Right? 00:12:22.279 --> 00:12:28.399 Biblical love is not defined simply by emotional or even sexual terms. 00:12:29.279 --> 00:12:37.480 It is to be defined by the will and action of the one who is willing to consider the other object as important. 00:12:37.860 --> 00:12:38.039 Right? 00:12:38.860 --> 00:12:40.419 So, not self-serving. 00:12:41.060 --> 00:12:44.100 It's considering another person more important than themselves. 00:12:44.799 --> 00:12:44.980 Right? 00:12:44.980 --> 00:12:47.460 Acting on behalf of that other person. 00:12:48.320 --> 00:12:48.500 Right? 00:12:49.120 --> 00:12:50.879 In a modern context, 00:12:51.019 --> 00:12:52.860 love is this emotional rush. 00:12:54.220 --> 00:12:54.940 Right? 00:12:55.080 --> 00:12:56.500 That's not biblical love. 00:12:57.480 --> 00:12:59.600 Biblical love is an action. 00:13:00.100 --> 00:13:01.320 Helping the other person. 00:13:01.480 --> 00:13:04.220 Not thinking selfishly about yourself. 00:13:05.060 --> 00:13:07.159 And putting their needs before yours. 00:13:07.519 --> 00:13:07.680 Right? 00:13:07.679 --> 00:13:08.679 And then, 00:13:08.679 --> 00:13:10.859 and then, 00:13:10.859 --> 00:13:12.819 Paul continues, 00:13:13.379 --> 00:13:17.679 and uses the word harsh or bitter here as the opposite of love. 00:13:17.779 --> 00:13:17.899 Right? 00:13:20.259 --> 00:13:20.879 Husbands, 00:13:21.059 --> 00:13:24.679 love your wives and don't be harsh or bitter towards them. 00:13:24.739 --> 00:13:24.899 Right? 00:13:24.899 --> 00:13:29.720 And this word bitter is not like, 00:13:29.720 --> 00:13:31.139 you bitter old woman. 00:13:31.799 --> 00:13:32.100 Right? 00:13:32.220 --> 00:13:33.220 It's not like that. 00:13:33.779 --> 00:13:35.459 It's actually harsh. 00:13:35.779 --> 00:13:43.279 It reflects a general evil and sinful intention that a husband has towards a wife. 00:13:43.279 --> 00:13:44.059 Right? 00:13:44.059 --> 00:13:45.519 In Romans 13, 00:13:45.619 --> 00:13:46.039 it says, 00:13:46.599 --> 00:13:47.619 sorry, 00:13:47.779 --> 00:13:48.819 in Romans 3, 00:13:48.939 --> 00:13:49.419 14, 00:13:49.839 --> 00:13:51.399 it says, 00:13:52.119 --> 00:13:56.759 those who are filled with cursing and bitterness have no fear of God. 00:13:57.319 --> 00:13:57.879 Right? 00:13:58.659 --> 00:13:59.299 This, 00:13:59.399 --> 00:13:59.619 this, 00:13:59.619 --> 00:14:00.659 this cursing, 00:14:00.739 --> 00:14:03.379 this bitterness that we feel towards our wife is condemned. 00:14:03.379 --> 00:14:04.600 Um, 00:14:04.879 --> 00:14:07.799 you have no fear of God when you're acting like this towards your wife. 00:14:09.059 --> 00:14:09.460 Um, 00:14:10.139 --> 00:14:10.659 and there's, 00:14:11.100 --> 00:14:11.860 this, 00:14:11.960 --> 00:14:14.220 this happened a little bit ago with Sarah and I, 00:14:14.539 --> 00:14:19.580 where I had asked her to give me a massage because my back was really hurt. 00:14:19.919 --> 00:14:20.200 Right? 00:14:21.519 --> 00:14:21.919 Um, 00:14:22.240 --> 00:14:23.460 and I was like, 00:14:23.539 --> 00:14:24.580 can you give me a massage? 00:14:24.679 --> 00:14:26.539 It was like 10 or 11 o'clock. 00:14:26.639 --> 00:14:27.159 She was like, 00:14:27.480 --> 00:14:28.480 I'm really tired. 00:14:29.019 --> 00:14:30.139 I just want to go to bed. 00:14:30.919 --> 00:14:31.720 I was like, 00:14:32.419 --> 00:14:32.919 I was like, 00:14:32.919 --> 00:14:34.799 could you just serve me? 00:14:35.679 --> 00:14:36.539 You should serve me. 00:14:36.620 --> 00:14:36.779 Like, 00:14:36.799 --> 00:14:37.719 why do you just want to go to bed? 00:14:37.779 --> 00:14:37.939 Like, 00:14:37.959 --> 00:14:38.259 could you, 00:14:38.500 --> 00:14:38.899 she's like, 00:14:39.019 --> 00:14:40.179 I'm so tired. 00:14:40.279 --> 00:14:40.579 I'm like, 00:14:40.699 --> 00:14:42.240 could you just joyfully serve me? 00:14:42.500 --> 00:14:42.740 Like, 00:14:42.799 --> 00:14:43.179 you know what? 00:14:43.279 --> 00:14:43.979 You just say no, 00:14:44.339 --> 00:14:44.839 just say no. 00:14:44.879 --> 00:14:45.179 She was like, 00:14:45.199 --> 00:14:45.399 no. 00:14:46.000 --> 00:14:47.120 And I got so bitter. 00:14:48.699 --> 00:14:49.059 And, 00:14:49.139 --> 00:14:49.439 uh, 00:14:49.439 --> 00:14:49.839 you know, 00:14:50.059 --> 00:14:56.779 I went and grabbed my massage gun and I massaged myself for like 10 minutes while my wife is trying to sleep. 00:14:58.179 --> 00:14:58.959 And I'm like, 00:14:59.480 --> 00:15:00.480 this will keep her awake. 00:15:01.759 --> 00:15:02.519 What bitterness. 00:15:02.919 --> 00:15:03.519 Right? 00:15:04.799 --> 00:15:06.500 What bitterness in my own heart. 00:15:07.219 --> 00:15:08.059 That's awful. 00:15:08.599 --> 00:15:08.819 Right? 00:15:09.419 --> 00:15:09.819 Wives, 00:15:10.539 --> 00:15:10.919 um, 00:15:11.199 --> 00:15:11.319 are, 00:15:11.459 --> 00:15:11.620 are, 00:15:11.819 --> 00:15:13.899 should be dearly loved objects. 00:15:13.979 --> 00:15:14.199 Right? 00:15:15.120 --> 00:15:15.659 You should be like, 00:15:15.740 --> 00:15:15.860 Hey, 00:15:15.860 --> 00:15:16.879 my wife is really tired. 00:15:16.939 --> 00:15:17.979 Let me go in the other room. 00:15:18.360 --> 00:15:18.639 Like, 00:15:18.879 --> 00:15:20.240 use the massage gun or whatever. 00:15:21.339 --> 00:15:21.779 Um, 00:15:22.000 --> 00:15:26.860 but that's a minute example of something that could be a bit bigger. 00:15:27.199 --> 00:15:27.639 Right? 00:15:27.959 --> 00:15:30.199 If I let that bitterness fester in my heart, 00:15:30.699 --> 00:15:31.339 oh my gosh, 00:15:31.340 --> 00:15:32.160 I hate my wife. 00:15:33.740 --> 00:15:34.040 Oh, 00:15:34.160 --> 00:15:34.660 I hate it. 00:15:34.660 --> 00:15:34.920 Like, 00:15:35.000 --> 00:15:39.220 I come from a background where my dad was a really bitter man. 00:15:40.220 --> 00:15:41.660 My dad abused me. 00:15:42.519 --> 00:15:42.759 Right? 00:15:43.759 --> 00:15:45.780 He beat her countless nights. 00:15:46.379 --> 00:15:46.639 Right? 00:15:46.639 --> 00:15:48.460 That's where that bitterness, 00:15:48.679 --> 00:15:52.559 evil intentions towards your wives. 00:15:52.759 --> 00:15:52.960 Right? 00:15:53.519 --> 00:15:54.259 If that bitterness, 00:15:54.720 --> 00:15:56.220 which is in all us men, 00:15:56.379 --> 00:15:57.439 is not in check, 00:15:57.960 --> 00:15:59.139 in check with love, 00:15:59.639 --> 00:16:00.639 and Christ-like love, 00:16:00.699 --> 00:16:01.519 that's where at least, 00:16:02.519 --> 00:16:03.100 um, 00:16:03.100 --> 00:16:07.700 how does love relate to Christ? 00:16:08.820 --> 00:16:09.019 Right? 00:16:09.040 --> 00:16:09.840 That's an easy one. 00:16:10.420 --> 00:16:10.879 Like, 00:16:10.960 --> 00:16:11.340 John 3, 00:16:11.379 --> 00:16:11.759 16. 00:16:12.460 --> 00:16:13.080 Our kids know. 00:16:13.820 --> 00:16:14.060 Right? 00:16:15.080 --> 00:16:15.940 God came, 00:16:16.019 --> 00:16:16.300 like, 00:16:16.800 --> 00:16:17.060 to, 00:16:17.159 --> 00:16:18.040 to save us, 00:16:18.120 --> 00:16:18.639 lost sinners. 00:16:19.040 --> 00:16:19.259 Right? 00:16:19.920 --> 00:16:22.200 With all the bitterness that we have towards God, 00:16:22.279 --> 00:16:23.279 God came and saved us. 00:16:24.100 --> 00:16:24.460 Romans, 00:16:24.720 --> 00:16:24.920 right? 00:16:25.240 --> 00:16:27.480 What could separate us from the love of God? 00:16:28.220 --> 00:16:28.519 Right? 00:16:28.519 --> 00:16:31.000 God loves us so much. 00:16:32.860 --> 00:16:33.159 Um, 00:16:34.039 --> 00:16:39.220 now, 00:16:39.639 --> 00:16:40.039 husbands, 00:16:40.600 --> 00:16:42.539 how are you loving your wives? 00:16:45.059 --> 00:16:46.240 How are you loving your wives? 00:16:46.519 --> 00:16:47.399 Is your love, 00:16:48.039 --> 00:16:50.039 a love that is holding the family together, 00:16:50.039 --> 00:16:51.579 or is it self-seeking? 00:16:53.419 --> 00:16:53.659 Right? 00:16:54.860 --> 00:16:55.379 Is, 00:16:55.439 --> 00:16:56.220 is there love, 00:16:56.220 --> 00:16:58.059 an affection towards your wife, 00:16:58.059 --> 00:16:58.359 or, 00:16:58.479 --> 00:17:02.699 or do you always have to continually fight against this bitterness that you have? 00:17:04.039 --> 00:17:04.299 Right? 00:17:05.379 --> 00:17:07.480 How is your love in leading your wife? 00:17:08.679 --> 00:17:10.419 How is your love in saying, 00:17:10.720 --> 00:17:11.079 like, 00:17:11.740 --> 00:17:11.980 you know, 00:17:11.980 --> 00:17:13.240 my wife is so tired today, 00:17:13.259 --> 00:17:14.639 I'm going to do the dishes for her. 00:17:16.720 --> 00:17:17.159 How, 00:17:17.240 --> 00:17:21.299 how is your love in your wife in setting expectations for what the home should be like? 00:17:23.639 --> 00:17:25.799 How's your love for your wife in childry? 00:17:25.799 --> 00:17:28.180 Right? 00:17:29.539 --> 00:17:32.440 Love is not an emotional or sexual term. 00:17:33.440 --> 00:17:34.460 It is an action. 00:17:34.879 --> 00:17:37.779 Something that you're doing to help the other person. 00:17:37.859 --> 00:17:38.680 It's not self-seeking. 00:17:39.460 --> 00:17:40.500 That's the first pair, 00:17:40.859 --> 00:17:41.559 husbands and wives. 00:17:41.639 --> 00:17:42.339 The second pair, 00:17:43.519 --> 00:17:44.339 father and children, 00:17:44.619 --> 00:17:44.819 right? 00:17:46.079 --> 00:17:46.480 Um, 00:17:46.480 --> 00:17:48.940 verse 20 to 21. 00:17:49.059 --> 00:17:49.360 Children, 00:17:49.700 --> 00:17:53.259 obey your parents and everything for this pleases the Lord. 00:17:54.200 --> 00:17:54.720 Fathers, 00:17:54.920 --> 00:17:58.259 do not exasperate your children so that they won't become discouraged. 00:17:59.039 --> 00:18:00.680 Raise your hand if you're a child in here. 00:18:03.400 --> 00:18:04.599 This is to you guys. 00:18:06.640 --> 00:18:07.079 Guys, 00:18:07.440 --> 00:18:08.759 you need to obey your parents. 00:18:08.759 --> 00:18:11.980 Simply put, 00:18:12.319 --> 00:18:12.579 uh, 00:18:12.579 --> 00:18:14.940 because this pleases the Lord. 00:18:16.559 --> 00:18:19.240 This pleases God when you obey your parents, 00:18:19.680 --> 00:18:19.960 right? 00:18:20.740 --> 00:18:26.299 Whenever your parents ask you to do something and you do it without grumbling or complaining, 00:18:26.960 --> 00:18:27.740 this pleases God. 00:18:28.819 --> 00:18:32.579 Let your obedience to your parents be because you love the Lord, 00:18:32.960 --> 00:18:34.779 because you want to obey your parents. 00:18:34.779 --> 00:18:35.339 Okay? 00:18:37.339 --> 00:18:37.879 And this is, 00:18:38.119 --> 00:18:39.279 this is more than, 00:18:40.059 --> 00:18:40.839 for you adults now, 00:18:41.359 --> 00:18:41.639 this, 00:18:41.759 --> 00:18:42.500 this submission, 00:18:42.799 --> 00:18:47.500 this obedience that children need to have to their parents is not a voluntary, 00:18:47.500 --> 00:18:48.779 um, 00:18:48.779 --> 00:18:49.220 submission. 00:18:49.420 --> 00:18:51.940 It's not the same thing as wives to husbands. 00:18:52.160 --> 00:18:53.019 It is more, 00:18:53.019 --> 00:18:53.480 uh, 00:18:53.500 --> 00:18:54.519 like subservience. 00:18:55.519 --> 00:18:56.000 Um, 00:18:56.920 --> 00:18:57.819 of course, 00:18:58.379 --> 00:18:58.759 there's a, 00:18:58.839 --> 00:19:00.680 there's a caveat to that when it says, 00:19:01.240 --> 00:19:01.660 um, 00:19:01.759 --> 00:19:04.759 children obey your parents and everything for this pleases. 00:19:04.779 --> 00:19:05.420 Pleases the Lord. 00:19:05.839 --> 00:19:06.160 Of course, 00:19:06.200 --> 00:19:07.319 sin does not please the Lord, 00:19:07.920 --> 00:19:08.480 right? 00:19:09.000 --> 00:19:13.119 Assuming these are Christian parents who are rearing their kids. 00:19:13.119 --> 00:19:13.420 Well, 00:19:14.220 --> 00:19:15.759 um, 00:19:15.879 --> 00:19:19.899 fathers do not exasperate your children so that they won't become, 00:19:19.899 --> 00:19:20.759 uh, 00:19:20.759 --> 00:19:21.359 discouraged. 00:19:22.420 --> 00:19:22.980 Um, 00:19:23.339 --> 00:19:24.279 exasperate, 00:19:24.279 --> 00:19:25.220 uh, 00:19:25.220 --> 00:19:29.660 means to cause irritation or annoyance or to excite the anger of, 00:19:29.839 --> 00:19:33.660 or to be irritated to the point of imprudent action, 00:19:33.660 --> 00:19:34.220 right? 00:19:34.680 --> 00:19:35.680 That's a mouthful. 00:19:36.360 --> 00:19:37.100 I'll just, 00:19:37.200 --> 00:19:42.259 I'll just do the end to be irritated to the point of imprudent actions, 00:19:42.259 --> 00:19:43.120 right? 00:19:44.279 --> 00:19:45.060 That is, 00:19:45.160 --> 00:19:46.519 that is exasperating. 00:19:46.640 --> 00:19:49.420 Sometimes when I hug Ruben too tightly and, 00:19:49.420 --> 00:19:51.420 and like squeeze him and kiss him, 00:19:51.460 --> 00:19:53.960 he'll like flare up and get really angry. 00:19:54.080 --> 00:19:54.300 It's like, 00:19:54.340 --> 00:19:54.519 yeah, 00:19:54.519 --> 00:19:55.080 let me go. 00:19:55.079 --> 00:19:56.000 It's like, 00:19:56.000 --> 00:19:57.379 let me stop doing that. 00:19:58.799 --> 00:19:59.240 Right. 00:19:59.639 --> 00:20:04.899 But a continual exasperation of our kids and different things, 00:20:04.939 --> 00:20:05.159 right? 00:20:05.720 --> 00:20:06.839 You're never good enough, 00:20:06.960 --> 00:20:07.159 son. 00:20:08.339 --> 00:20:09.579 You could never do this. 00:20:09.639 --> 00:20:09.919 Right. 00:20:12.599 --> 00:20:13.839 Why are you like this? 00:20:13.899 --> 00:20:14.899 Why can't you be better? 00:20:16.539 --> 00:20:16.759 Right. 00:20:17.619 --> 00:20:19.259 Exasperating our kids in this way, 00:20:19.259 --> 00:20:24.799 leads to a lifelong thing of being discouraged. 00:20:25.259 --> 00:20:28.879 And this discouragement is more of a child growing, 00:20:29.619 --> 00:20:32.180 not as a man should, 00:20:32.259 --> 00:20:33.700 not as a man of God should, 00:20:33.779 --> 00:20:35.240 but in reckless living, 00:20:35.359 --> 00:20:35.559 right? 00:20:35.559 --> 00:20:36.919 Um, 00:20:37.500 --> 00:20:37.919 to that, 00:20:38.019 --> 00:20:38.440 to that, 00:20:38.460 --> 00:20:38.839 uh, 00:20:39.220 --> 00:20:43.339 meaning of to be irritated to the point of imprudent actions, 00:20:43.339 --> 00:20:44.379 um, 00:20:44.419 --> 00:20:44.619 that, 00:20:44.759 --> 00:20:46.379 that a child might even say, 00:20:46.859 --> 00:20:47.220 um, 00:20:48.179 --> 00:20:50.559 dad always puts so much on me, 00:20:50.639 --> 00:20:51.940 so much on me. 00:20:51.940 --> 00:20:54.460 And he always expected so much of me, 00:20:54.460 --> 00:20:55.619 um, 00:20:55.619 --> 00:20:58.460 that I always felt bogged down by the Lord. 00:20:59.000 --> 00:21:01.559 I was always just so like the Lord, 00:21:01.740 --> 00:21:02.359 just law, 00:21:02.559 --> 00:21:02.859 law, 00:21:03.059 --> 00:21:03.379 law, 00:21:03.779 --> 00:21:05.200 just like my dad. 00:21:06.379 --> 00:21:06.539 Right. 00:21:07.559 --> 00:21:10.559 Continual exasperation is his, 00:21:10.779 --> 00:21:13.419 that's what's going to lead to fathers, 00:21:13.819 --> 00:21:18.039 especially like kids will relate to their heavenly father, 00:21:18.159 --> 00:21:19.139 how they relate to you. 00:21:19.579 --> 00:21:20.220 Of course, 00:21:20.259 --> 00:21:22.839 the Lord can redeem all of that as he has with me, 00:21:22.839 --> 00:21:23.819 with many of you guys. 00:21:25.139 --> 00:21:26.759 But in a sense, 00:21:26.839 --> 00:21:27.839 that's what that'll lead to. 00:21:28.240 --> 00:21:28.319 Right. 00:21:29.339 --> 00:21:30.899 Like I'm never enough for God. 00:21:32.579 --> 00:21:32.960 Um, 00:21:33.599 --> 00:21:34.839 so fathers, 00:21:35.559 --> 00:21:37.200 how are you rearing your children? 00:21:37.859 --> 00:21:39.879 This pointed directly to fathers, 00:21:40.119 --> 00:21:40.839 not, 00:21:40.899 --> 00:21:41.079 not, 00:21:41.220 --> 00:21:41.899 not mothers, 00:21:42.099 --> 00:21:42.440 right? 00:21:43.399 --> 00:21:43.819 Fathers, 00:21:43.940 --> 00:21:45.379 how are you rearing your child? 00:21:47.259 --> 00:21:47.700 Um, 00:21:48.259 --> 00:21:49.019 for those who are older, 00:21:49.079 --> 00:21:50.339 who've already had kids, 00:21:50.399 --> 00:21:51.539 how have you reared your child? 00:21:52.099 --> 00:21:54.139 What could you teach this congregation? 00:21:54.140 --> 00:21:55.700 where you messed up? 00:21:59.060 --> 00:21:59.380 Uh, 00:21:59.380 --> 00:22:02.100 do you love them or are they bothered you? 00:22:03.820 --> 00:22:04.240 Right. 00:22:04.640 --> 00:22:06.820 Do you see lack of freedom when you see your kids? 00:22:08.100 --> 00:22:09.259 Not the ability to, 00:22:09.300 --> 00:22:11.460 to go out and do live life. 00:22:11.460 --> 00:22:14.079 When you spank them, 00:22:14.600 --> 00:22:17.700 is it with the rod of wrath and anger and annoyance? 00:22:18.420 --> 00:22:21.039 Or is it with love and patience? 00:22:24.100 --> 00:22:25.840 Are you loving your kids in these regards? 00:22:27.100 --> 00:22:28.039 The third pair, 00:22:30.240 --> 00:22:30.640 um, 00:22:30.840 --> 00:22:32.019 slaves and masters, 00:22:32.200 --> 00:22:32.400 right? 00:22:33.059 --> 00:22:33.340 Uh, 00:22:33.339 --> 00:22:35.859 while we're in a more modern time and century, 00:22:36.259 --> 00:22:36.720 uh, 00:22:36.759 --> 00:22:37.059 where, 00:22:37.279 --> 00:22:37.559 uh, 00:22:37.579 --> 00:22:38.199 there's not, 00:22:38.279 --> 00:22:38.720 uh, 00:22:39.119 --> 00:22:41.439 a lot of slaves in the USA, 00:22:42.439 --> 00:22:42.980 um, 00:22:43.779 --> 00:22:45.759 raise your hand if you have a nine to five. 00:22:49.279 --> 00:22:49.759 Uh, 00:22:49.839 --> 00:22:50.959 is anyone here a mom? 00:22:54.019 --> 00:22:54.459 Julie, 00:22:54.720 --> 00:22:54.959 only, 00:22:55.339 --> 00:22:56.339 uh, 00:22:56.339 --> 00:22:57.740 uh, 00:22:57.740 --> 00:23:01.439 are there any kids in here who get asked to do chores? 00:23:03.740 --> 00:23:04.299 Uh, 00:23:04.359 --> 00:23:07.019 do we have any business owners or managers in here? 00:23:09.980 --> 00:23:11.980 Looks like we got a whole mixed bag. 00:23:12.779 --> 00:23:13.220 Um, 00:23:13.500 --> 00:23:16.179 so I'll read those verses real quickly. 00:23:16.639 --> 00:23:17.059 Slaves, 00:23:17.199 --> 00:23:19.059 obey your human masters and everything. 00:23:19.799 --> 00:23:22.959 Don't work only while being watched as people pleasers, 00:23:23.359 --> 00:23:25.480 but work wholeheartedly fearing the Lord. 00:23:25.480 --> 00:23:26.900 Whatever you do, 00:23:27.259 --> 00:23:31.299 do it from the heart as something done for the Lord and not for people. 00:23:31.680 --> 00:23:35.019 Knowing that you will receive the reward of your inheritance from the Lord, 00:23:35.420 --> 00:23:40.380 you serve the Lord Christ for the wrongdoer will be paid back for whatever wrong he has done. 00:23:40.759 --> 00:23:41.839 There's no favoritism. 00:23:42.740 --> 00:23:45.920 Masters deal with your slaves justly and fairly, 00:23:46.180 --> 00:23:48.940 since you know that you too have a master in heaven. 00:23:49.960 --> 00:23:50.220 Right? 00:23:51.059 --> 00:23:51.500 Um, 00:23:52.339 --> 00:23:52.880 you know, 00:23:53.000 --> 00:23:53.259 these, 00:23:53.360 --> 00:23:55.440 these verses are very self-explanatory. 00:23:55.480 --> 00:23:56.200 Right? 00:23:57.120 --> 00:23:57.400 Look, 00:23:57.559 --> 00:23:59.140 don't work while being watched. 00:24:00.299 --> 00:24:01.640 Don't be people pleasers. 00:24:02.539 --> 00:24:02.980 Right? 00:24:03.579 --> 00:24:04.160 That's like, 00:24:04.200 --> 00:24:09.019 I don't have to expound a ton upon that for you to know what that means over. 00:24:10.160 --> 00:24:11.019 Whatever you do, 00:24:11.099 --> 00:24:11.960 do it from the heart. 00:24:12.220 --> 00:24:14.360 That's something done from the Lord and not for people. 00:24:15.740 --> 00:24:16.440 Got that? 00:24:17.299 --> 00:24:18.279 Everyone knows that. 00:24:19.079 --> 00:24:23.420 Knowing that you will receive a reward of your inheritance from the Lord. 00:24:24.100 --> 00:24:24.400 Whoa. 00:24:24.400 --> 00:24:24.460 Whoa. 00:24:25.580 --> 00:24:27.100 Who are you working for? 00:24:28.200 --> 00:24:29.900 Not for your human masters. 00:24:31.880 --> 00:24:32.080 You know, 00:24:32.160 --> 00:24:32.700 slaves, 00:24:33.019 --> 00:24:33.860 this is a context. 00:24:33.960 --> 00:24:34.580 In this context, 00:24:34.720 --> 00:24:35.320 it's slaves. 00:24:36.180 --> 00:24:37.740 Slaves don't get an inheritance. 00:24:39.240 --> 00:24:39.960 Right? 00:24:40.420 --> 00:24:41.360 Their property, 00:24:41.620 --> 00:24:42.720 they belong to their owners. 00:24:43.320 --> 00:24:44.080 They die. 00:24:44.079 --> 00:24:46.339 Nothing goes to them. 00:24:48.199 --> 00:24:48.839 But here, 00:24:48.960 --> 00:24:50.720 slaves receive an inheritance, 00:24:51.079 --> 00:24:52.319 a glorious inheritance. 00:24:53.399 --> 00:24:55.240 We also get this inheritance. 00:24:57.799 --> 00:24:58.740 Serve the Lord. 00:24:59.099 --> 00:24:59.279 Right? 00:24:59.619 --> 00:25:00.399 Serve the Lord. 00:25:01.119 --> 00:25:02.099 You're not serving man. 00:25:02.299 --> 00:25:03.519 Your service is to the Lord. 00:25:03.839 --> 00:25:04.599 He's watching. 00:25:05.579 --> 00:25:07.579 The CEO of a massive, 00:25:07.819 --> 00:25:08.619 giant corporation 00:25:08.619 --> 00:25:10.739 can't see everything that you're doing, 00:25:10.859 --> 00:25:13.299 but the Lord sees everything that you're doing. 00:25:14.579 --> 00:25:14.819 Right? 00:25:16.659 --> 00:25:17.859 For the wrongdoer, 00:25:17.939 --> 00:25:20.079 will we pay back whatever wrong he has done? 00:25:20.179 --> 00:25:21.459 And there's no favoritism. 00:25:21.599 --> 00:25:21.759 Right? 00:25:24.679 --> 00:25:27.579 There are two views of the wrongdoers, 00:25:27.639 --> 00:25:28.199 if you want to say. 00:25:28.399 --> 00:25:30.239 A wrongdoer here could be viewed as, 00:25:30.759 --> 00:25:31.319 you know, 00:25:31.359 --> 00:25:32.500 in ultimate sense, 00:25:32.919 --> 00:25:34.939 one who is rebelling against God 00:25:34.940 --> 00:25:36.779 will be condemned. 00:25:37.440 --> 00:25:37.600 Right? 00:25:38.380 --> 00:25:39.500 Another sense is, 00:25:39.500 --> 00:25:40.840 the wrongdoer here is, 00:25:41.220 --> 00:25:41.460 you know, 00:25:41.519 --> 00:25:42.100 your co-worker. 00:25:42.980 --> 00:25:43.580 You're like, 00:25:43.680 --> 00:25:44.700 I'm working. 00:25:45.580 --> 00:25:47.100 I'm working so hard. 00:25:47.860 --> 00:25:48.340 Like, 00:25:48.700 --> 00:25:50.259 and I get no notice. 00:25:51.100 --> 00:25:52.100 Get no promotion. 00:25:52.720 --> 00:25:53.920 But this dude here, 00:25:54.000 --> 00:25:54.920 he's a people pleaser. 00:25:56.039 --> 00:25:56.519 He'll like, 00:25:56.620 --> 00:25:58.440 say what the master wants to hear. 00:25:59.059 --> 00:25:59.580 He'll like, 00:26:00.080 --> 00:26:01.880 only work whenever the master's here, 00:26:01.980 --> 00:26:03.259 and he gets all the promotions. 00:26:03.900 --> 00:26:04.700 Why does that happen? 00:26:05.940 --> 00:26:08.080 But there's no favoritism with God. 00:26:09.259 --> 00:26:09.960 There's none. 00:26:10.900 --> 00:26:11.740 God knows everything. 00:26:14.340 --> 00:26:14.779 Masters, 00:26:15.100 --> 00:26:15.460 deal 00:26:15.460 --> 00:26:17.580 with your slaves 00:26:17.580 --> 00:26:18.580 justly and fairly, 00:26:18.880 --> 00:26:20.400 since you know that you two have 00:26:20.400 --> 00:26:21.420 a master in heaven. 00:26:22.000 --> 00:26:23.160 Directly to managers, 00:26:23.500 --> 00:26:23.820 really, 00:26:23.940 --> 00:26:24.640 and business owners. 00:26:25.700 --> 00:26:27.240 How are you dealing with your 00:26:27.240 --> 00:26:28.779 hired employees? 00:26:31.160 --> 00:26:32.000 Justly and fairly? 00:26:33.180 --> 00:26:34.340 Is there favoritism? 00:26:34.940 --> 00:26:37.059 What does that look like? 00:26:39.160 --> 00:26:39.600 Um, 00:26:39.960 --> 00:26:47.880 in all of these examples, 00:26:47.880 --> 00:26:47.980 examples, 00:26:48.780 --> 00:26:49.120 uh, 00:26:49.280 --> 00:26:52.620 a wife is put before a husband. 00:26:53.060 --> 00:26:55.220 A child is put before a father. 00:26:55.940 --> 00:26:57.640 Slave is put before a master. 00:26:58.040 --> 00:26:58.500 Not, 00:26:58.560 --> 00:27:01.200 not because one is lesser of any degree, 00:27:01.200 --> 00:27:03.400 but it's because of how we ought to 00:27:03.400 --> 00:27:05.260 think of ourselves as lesser. 00:27:05.900 --> 00:27:06.320 Right? 00:27:06.319 --> 00:27:08.179 Like, 00:27:08.240 --> 00:27:09.939 we shouldn't boast over our wives and say, 00:27:10.039 --> 00:27:10.859 I'm your husband. 00:27:11.139 --> 00:27:11.700 We should say, 00:27:11.779 --> 00:27:12.379 I love you. 00:27:13.220 --> 00:27:13.500 Let me, 00:27:13.579 --> 00:27:14.379 let me help you. 00:27:14.599 --> 00:27:14.759 Right? 00:27:15.319 --> 00:27:16.980 You shouldn't look at your child and say, 00:27:17.039 --> 00:27:17.200 you're, 00:27:17.240 --> 00:27:18.319 you're lesser than me. 00:27:18.319 --> 00:27:19.359 Anything like that. 00:27:19.399 --> 00:27:20.039 Or a master. 00:27:20.539 --> 00:27:20.799 Right? 00:27:21.179 --> 00:27:23.000 You too have a master in heaven. 00:27:23.960 --> 00:27:25.740 You're a different rank and a different position. 00:27:26.240 --> 00:27:26.879 You too, 00:27:27.819 --> 00:27:28.179 like, 00:27:28.359 --> 00:27:30.019 need to treat your slaves, 00:27:30.139 --> 00:27:31.159 your employees, 00:27:31.299 --> 00:27:31.539 sorry, 00:27:32.200 --> 00:27:32.559 um, 00:27:32.939 --> 00:27:33.460 justly, 00:27:33.700 --> 00:27:33.980 fairly. 00:27:33.980 --> 00:27:35.420 And so, 00:27:35.539 --> 00:27:36.319 really quickly, 00:27:36.500 --> 00:27:37.539 in all of these things, 00:27:37.620 --> 00:27:37.819 right, 00:27:38.360 --> 00:27:38.740 um, 00:27:38.779 --> 00:27:39.420 for moms, 00:27:39.599 --> 00:27:40.120 for kids, 00:27:40.339 --> 00:27:40.579 for, 00:27:40.579 --> 00:27:41.940 um, 00:27:42.240 --> 00:27:42.980 business owners, 00:27:43.140 --> 00:27:43.680 for managers, 00:27:43.980 --> 00:27:44.860 for employees, 00:27:45.779 --> 00:27:46.319 um, 00:27:47.599 --> 00:27:47.960 children, 00:27:48.539 --> 00:27:52.980 when your mom or dad asks you to put some toys away in the basket, 00:27:53.700 --> 00:27:56.380 do you, 00:27:56.480 --> 00:27:56.799 uh, 00:27:57.140 --> 00:27:57.839 Dilly and Dally, 00:27:58.539 --> 00:28:03.200 is it when they come by that you start putting stuff back in the basket? 00:28:03.980 --> 00:28:06.440 Are you putting stuff in the basket and you're like, 00:28:06.519 --> 00:28:06.700 oh, 00:28:06.720 --> 00:28:07.360 this is cool. 00:28:08.319 --> 00:28:09.539 And then they come and you're like, 00:28:09.599 --> 00:28:09.740 oh, 00:28:09.779 --> 00:28:10.640 I need to put it away. 00:28:14.279 --> 00:28:15.500 You're being a people pleaser. 00:28:16.720 --> 00:28:17.819 You're being a people pleaser. 00:28:18.039 --> 00:28:18.140 You, 00:28:18.180 --> 00:28:19.640 you need to obey your parents. 00:28:19.940 --> 00:28:22.019 You need to listen to them fully. 00:28:22.480 --> 00:28:23.940 What they're asking you to do. 00:28:25.000 --> 00:28:25.400 Moms, 00:28:26.059 --> 00:28:26.339 right? 00:28:26.460 --> 00:28:29.960 Because you guys mainly take care of the house and your kids. 00:28:31.559 --> 00:28:31.960 Uh, 00:28:32.019 --> 00:28:33.960 what does your house look like when you're not having a house? 00:28:33.980 --> 00:28:34.799 Having company over. 00:28:36.779 --> 00:28:37.220 Uh, 00:28:37.480 --> 00:28:38.700 is it a mess? 00:28:39.819 --> 00:28:41.259 Is it people are coming over? 00:28:41.360 --> 00:28:43.000 So we need to get everything in order. 00:28:44.900 --> 00:28:45.920 Shouldn't be that way. 00:28:46.740 --> 00:28:47.220 Right? 00:28:47.579 --> 00:28:49.740 We should be stewards of what we're given. 00:28:50.640 --> 00:28:51.000 Um, 00:28:51.579 --> 00:28:53.319 or when your husband's about to come home, 00:28:53.420 --> 00:28:53.880 you're like, 00:28:53.960 --> 00:28:54.579 kids, 00:28:54.740 --> 00:28:55.940 let's pack it all up. 00:28:56.420 --> 00:28:56.860 Right? 00:28:58.380 --> 00:28:58.819 Um, 00:28:59.099 --> 00:29:02.120 you should be working hard. 00:29:02.559 --> 00:29:03.000 And, 00:29:03.059 --> 00:29:05.500 and it shouldn't be when people are coming over to your house. 00:29:05.519 --> 00:29:05.959 You're like, 00:29:06.439 --> 00:29:07.059 like that, 00:29:07.119 --> 00:29:08.539 that is the people pleasing them. 00:29:08.759 --> 00:29:09.039 Right? 00:29:09.919 --> 00:29:11.639 You're trying to show people that, 00:29:11.899 --> 00:29:12.279 you know, 00:29:12.319 --> 00:29:13.379 I've got it all together. 00:29:14.179 --> 00:29:15.159 When in reality, 00:29:15.299 --> 00:29:16.859 you don't, 00:29:17.399 --> 00:29:19.979 you're trying to show them something that you're not. 00:29:21.799 --> 00:29:22.239 Um, 00:29:22.240 --> 00:29:27.500 those who work jobs, 00:29:27.779 --> 00:29:30.339 are you wholeheartedly working? 00:29:31.240 --> 00:29:31.779 Right? 00:29:32.380 --> 00:29:32.880 Is it? 00:29:35.880 --> 00:29:37.019 The boss is here. 00:29:37.019 --> 00:29:41.460 That's not what it should be either. 00:29:42.240 --> 00:29:43.660 Or pipe fitter or, 00:29:43.740 --> 00:29:44.319 or whatever. 00:29:44.480 --> 00:29:44.700 Right? 00:29:45.299 --> 00:29:48.000 It should be working hard onto the Lord. 00:29:49.240 --> 00:29:50.259 Shouldn't be like, 00:29:50.740 --> 00:29:55.879 you should not have the mentality of when the boss comes is when fear is put into my heart. 00:29:56.119 --> 00:29:57.279 I need to start working hard. 00:29:58.940 --> 00:29:59.379 Um, 00:29:59.380 --> 00:30:01.320 because the Lord is watching. 00:30:01.820 --> 00:30:03.440 There's no favoritism with the Lord. 00:30:03.760 --> 00:30:05.200 Business owners and managers, 00:30:05.840 --> 00:30:06.640 um, 00:30:07.040 --> 00:30:12.480 are you showing favoritism to bros or to gals you're fond of? 00:30:13.340 --> 00:30:13.780 Right? 00:30:13.779 --> 00:30:13.879 What? 00:30:15.240 --> 00:30:16.539 Friends you really like. 00:30:16.960 --> 00:30:18.099 I don't want to let them go. 00:30:18.200 --> 00:30:18.960 They're really cool. 00:30:19.740 --> 00:30:20.819 I love hanging out with them. 00:30:22.440 --> 00:30:22.879 Um, 00:30:23.359 --> 00:30:26.099 do they get all the good leads because you really like them? 00:30:27.460 --> 00:30:27.660 Right? 00:30:28.539 --> 00:30:30.920 Do they get raises because you really like them? 00:30:33.000 --> 00:30:34.819 Are you keeping them employed? 00:30:36.180 --> 00:30:37.359 Because they're a bro, 00:30:37.960 --> 00:30:39.259 even though they're a bad employee. 00:30:41.420 --> 00:30:41.819 Right? 00:30:42.039 --> 00:30:42.839 That's favoritism. 00:30:43.779 --> 00:30:47.680 There's no partiality with God and there should not be partiality with us. 00:30:49.960 --> 00:30:51.200 Even with our kids, 00:30:51.579 --> 00:30:53.119 are we showing partiality? 00:30:53.799 --> 00:30:54.899 I have one kid. 00:30:55.899 --> 00:30:56.200 So, 00:30:56.899 --> 00:30:57.420 I love them. 00:30:58.039 --> 00:30:59.599 But with you who have more kids, 00:30:59.720 --> 00:31:00.559 is there partiality? 00:31:01.119 --> 00:31:01.779 Should not be. 00:31:02.639 --> 00:31:02.819 Right? 00:31:02.819 --> 00:31:02.879 Right? 00:31:05.480 --> 00:31:05.960 Um, 00:31:06.319 --> 00:31:07.799 really quickly, 00:31:07.960 --> 00:31:09.639 I want to conclude with 00:31:09.639 --> 00:31:11.899 three final thoughts. 00:31:11.900 --> 00:31:14.000 Um, 00:31:14.200 --> 00:31:16.519 and those are mainly with my titles. 00:31:17.360 --> 00:31:18.820 The first is priority 00:31:18.820 --> 00:31:20.519 and preeminence. 00:31:21.240 --> 00:31:21.920 Right? 00:31:23.080 --> 00:31:23.700 First, 00:31:23.860 --> 00:31:25.580 Christ is our first priority. 00:31:26.860 --> 00:31:28.080 This passage 00:31:28.080 --> 00:31:30.940 is all about Christ. 00:31:31.080 --> 00:31:32.860 Focusing all these different areas 00:31:32.860 --> 00:31:34.300 of Christ. 00:31:34.440 --> 00:31:34.620 Right? 00:31:34.619 --> 00:31:36.459 Wives, 00:31:36.879 --> 00:31:38.459 submit yourselves to your husband 00:31:38.459 --> 00:31:39.819 as is fitting in the Lord. 00:31:41.099 --> 00:31:41.619 Children, 00:31:41.839 --> 00:31:42.859 obey your parents 00:31:42.859 --> 00:31:44.979 for this pleases the Lord. 00:31:46.559 --> 00:31:47.000 Um, 00:31:47.500 --> 00:31:48.039 slaves, 00:31:48.579 --> 00:31:49.959 obey your human masters. 00:31:49.959 --> 00:31:50.359 Right? 00:31:51.579 --> 00:31:51.939 Um, 00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:53.559 as something done for the Lord. 00:31:54.219 --> 00:31:54.639 Masters, 00:31:55.219 --> 00:31:56.459 deal with your slaves 00:31:56.459 --> 00:31:57.339 justly and fairly 00:31:57.339 --> 00:31:58.919 because you have a master 00:31:58.919 --> 00:31:59.339 in heaven. 00:32:00.099 --> 00:32:01.599 This is Christ's preeminence. 00:32:01.659 --> 00:32:01.859 Right? 00:32:02.939 --> 00:32:03.759 It's not that, 00:32:03.839 --> 00:32:04.579 like, 00:32:04.659 --> 00:32:05.819 analogy of the CEO. 00:32:06.159 --> 00:32:06.339 Like, 00:32:06.379 --> 00:32:07.480 you're not just dealing 00:32:07.480 --> 00:32:08.500 with your supervisor. 00:32:08.980 --> 00:32:10.559 You're dealing with the king, 00:32:10.980 --> 00:32:11.740 with the cosmos. 00:32:11.919 --> 00:32:13.039 You need to judge your work. 00:32:14.359 --> 00:32:15.619 It's all pointing back 00:32:15.619 --> 00:32:16.039 to Christ. 00:32:16.159 --> 00:32:16.480 Moms, 00:32:16.599 --> 00:32:17.119 you're labored. 00:32:17.199 --> 00:32:17.980 You're work at home. 00:32:18.659 --> 00:32:19.459 Christ is watching. 00:32:20.259 --> 00:32:20.500 Right? 00:32:21.319 --> 00:32:21.740 Children, 00:32:22.399 --> 00:32:23.859 even while you labor now, 00:32:24.000 --> 00:32:24.740 Christ is watching. 00:32:25.459 --> 00:32:25.939 Fathers, 00:32:26.220 --> 00:32:26.919 business owners, 00:32:27.800 --> 00:32:28.560 Christ is watching. 00:32:29.800 --> 00:32:30.460 Are you laboring? 00:32:32.259 --> 00:32:32.620 Uh, 00:32:32.700 --> 00:32:34.300 Christ is first priority 00:32:34.300 --> 00:32:34.920 in all of this. 00:32:35.580 --> 00:32:35.940 Um, 00:32:36.720 --> 00:32:40.600 and we seek to please, 00:32:40.640 --> 00:32:40.920 uh, 00:32:40.920 --> 00:32:41.300 Christ. 00:32:41.759 --> 00:32:41.900 Right? 00:32:42.279 --> 00:32:43.539 In this divine priority, 00:32:44.000 --> 00:32:45.660 if Christ is not the one 00:32:45.660 --> 00:32:46.880 who we are following after, 00:32:47.640 --> 00:32:48.180 uh, 00:32:48.180 --> 00:32:48.519 then we, 00:32:48.600 --> 00:32:49.960 we've got it all flip-flops. 00:32:50.820 --> 00:32:51.640 If our, 00:32:51.720 --> 00:32:52.519 if our desire, 00:32:52.640 --> 00:32:52.860 right, 00:32:53.620 --> 00:32:55.480 if our desire as men 00:32:55.480 --> 00:32:56.279 is to please 00:32:56.279 --> 00:32:57.299 only our wives, 00:32:57.660 --> 00:32:58.500 uh, 00:32:58.500 --> 00:32:59.480 then we start submitting 00:32:59.480 --> 00:33:00.480 ourselves to our wives 00:33:00.480 --> 00:33:01.859 and not to God. 00:33:02.859 --> 00:33:03.339 Uh, 00:33:03.379 --> 00:33:03.799 wives, 00:33:03.960 --> 00:33:04.259 if, 00:33:04.399 --> 00:33:06.500 if our only desire 00:33:06.500 --> 00:33:07.519 is to just please 00:33:07.519 --> 00:33:08.139 our husbands, 00:33:08.379 --> 00:33:09.759 we've created them 00:33:09.759 --> 00:33:10.480 into an idol, 00:33:10.599 --> 00:33:11.180 something that they 00:33:11.180 --> 00:33:11.740 should not be. 00:33:12.700 --> 00:33:13.519 Not we've, 00:33:13.660 --> 00:33:15.319 you've created them 00:33:15.319 --> 00:33:15.839 into idols, 00:33:15.839 --> 00:33:16.619 into something that 00:33:16.619 --> 00:33:17.460 they should not be. 00:33:17.799 --> 00:33:19.019 Price is your master 00:33:19.019 --> 00:33:19.519 and your Lord. 00:33:20.160 --> 00:33:20.399 Right? 00:33:21.319 --> 00:33:21.819 Um, 00:33:22.660 --> 00:33:23.519 price is head 00:33:23.519 --> 00:33:24.639 in all of these things. 00:33:25.740 --> 00:33:26.259 Uh, 00:33:26.299 --> 00:33:27.119 and perseverance, 00:33:27.680 --> 00:33:28.759 the last one, 00:33:29.720 --> 00:33:30.359 is perseverance 00:33:30.359 --> 00:33:31.480 is not in relation 00:33:31.480 --> 00:33:32.460 to the pea and tulip, 00:33:32.779 --> 00:33:34.039 uh, 00:33:34.039 --> 00:33:35.480 but it is to persevere 00:33:35.480 --> 00:33:36.440 in all of these 00:33:36.440 --> 00:33:37.240 different areas 00:33:37.240 --> 00:33:38.819 with Christ 00:33:38.819 --> 00:33:39.400 being your head. 00:33:40.539 --> 00:33:40.940 Uh, 00:33:40.940 --> 00:33:41.299 children, 00:33:41.539 --> 00:33:42.119 it's hard 00:33:42.119 --> 00:33:42.980 being a child, 00:33:43.299 --> 00:33:43.680 uh, 00:33:43.720 --> 00:33:45.299 under sinful parents. 00:33:46.279 --> 00:33:47.019 It's hard. 00:33:47.799 --> 00:33:48.220 Um, 00:33:48.480 --> 00:33:49.740 whenever it's really hard 00:33:49.740 --> 00:33:50.180 for you guys, 00:33:50.259 --> 00:33:50.460 pray. 00:33:51.160 --> 00:33:52.160 Ask the Lord for help. 00:33:54.000 --> 00:33:54.440 Wives, 00:33:54.579 --> 00:33:55.360 it's really hard 00:33:55.360 --> 00:33:57.079 to be under sinful men. 00:33:58.220 --> 00:33:59.299 It is really hard. 00:34:00.460 --> 00:34:00.900 Pray. 00:34:01.900 --> 00:34:03.000 Ask the Lord for help. 00:34:04.140 --> 00:34:04.759 He's your head. 00:34:06.220 --> 00:34:06.660 Ultimately, 00:34:07.680 --> 00:34:08.500 persevere in this. 00:34:08.559 --> 00:34:08.960 You can. 00:34:10.960 --> 00:34:11.780 Generations of women 00:34:11.780 --> 00:34:12.500 have done it. 00:34:13.039 --> 00:34:13.159 Well, 00:34:14.220 --> 00:34:14.760 husbands, 00:34:16.139 --> 00:34:16.599 persevere. 00:34:18.199 --> 00:34:19.199 Persevere in the Lord. 00:34:19.199 --> 00:34:21.219 Hold fast to love. 00:34:22.199 --> 00:34:23.179 Hold fast to the Lord. 00:34:24.599 --> 00:34:25.359 Not to yourself, 00:34:25.799 --> 00:34:26.759 not to selfishness, 00:34:26.859 --> 00:34:28.159 not to selfish ambition, 00:34:28.279 --> 00:34:28.719 but to the Lord. 00:34:31.500 --> 00:34:32.199 And then, 00:34:32.359 --> 00:34:32.859 real quickly, 00:34:32.960 --> 00:34:33.599 just want to end, 00:34:33.659 --> 00:34:33.859 uh, 00:34:33.859 --> 00:34:34.439 with a song. 00:34:35.439 --> 00:34:36.899 All sufficient merit 00:34:36.899 --> 00:34:38.239 is Christ 00:34:38.239 --> 00:34:39.839 shining like the sun. 00:34:40.299 --> 00:34:41.559 A fortune I inherit 00:34:41.559 --> 00:34:42.419 by no work 00:34:42.419 --> 00:34:43.199 that I have done. 00:34:43.599 --> 00:34:44.679 My righteousness 00:34:44.679 --> 00:34:45.639 I forfeit 00:34:45.639 --> 00:34:47.419 at my Savior's cross. 00:34:47.420 --> 00:34:49.519 where all sufficient merit 00:34:49.519 --> 00:34:50.760 did what I could not. 00:34:51.880 --> 00:34:52.460 In love 00:34:52.460 --> 00:34:53.500 he condescended, 00:34:53.880 --> 00:34:54.320 eternal, 00:34:54.659 --> 00:34:55.519 now and time, 00:34:56.039 --> 00:34:56.940 a life without 00:34:56.940 --> 00:34:57.840 blemish, 00:34:57.960 --> 00:34:59.099 the maker made to die. 00:34:59.840 --> 00:35:00.440 The law 00:35:00.440 --> 00:35:01.700 could never save us, 00:35:02.059 --> 00:35:02.740 our lawlessness 00:35:02.740 --> 00:35:03.460 as one, 00:35:04.940 --> 00:35:05.920 until the pure 00:35:05.920 --> 00:35:06.659 and spotless 00:35:06.659 --> 00:35:07.059 Lamb, 00:35:07.260 --> 00:35:07.619 Christ, 00:35:08.019 --> 00:35:08.720 had finally come. 00:35:08.719 --> 00:35:10.639 the law itself. 00:35:10.639 --> 00:35:11.279 It's good, 00:35:11.439 --> 00:35:13.839 but what I was 00:35:13.839 --> 00:35:14.419 going to say 00:35:14.419 --> 00:35:14.679 is that 00:35:14.679 --> 00:35:14.919 every visa 00:35:14.919 --> 00:35:16.199 came from 00:35:16.659 --> 00:35:17.619 the law 00:35:17.619 --> 00:35:19.179 of 00:35:19.179 --> 00:35:19.759 heaven 00:35:19.759 --> 00:35:21.919 and 00:35:22.000 --> 00:35:35.319 in good