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 So we're reading from 1st Peter chapter 3, it's on page 1219, 1st Peter chapter 3 verses 1 to 7.

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 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands, so that if any of them do not believe

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 the word, they may be won over without words by the behaviour of their wives, when they

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 see the purity and reverence of your lives.

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 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold

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 jewellery and fine clothes.

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 Instead it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,

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 which is of great worth in God's sight.

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 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make

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 themselves beautiful.

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 They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah who obeyed Abraham and called him

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 her master.

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 You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

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 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with

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 respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing

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 will hinder your prayers.

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 Well, before we start, let me say two things.

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 Hopefully it was clear that this morning the text is about husbands and wives.

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 Maybe you're sitting there thinking, well, I'm not a husband, I'm not a wife.

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 Please don't not listen because the principles, the applications are about faithful witness

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 in family life, in home life.

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 So what applies to husbands and wives in turn relates to us all.

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 And the other thing is, with a subject like this, a topic like this, I often find that

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 when I've prepared through it, I'm asking myself lots more questions than what we get a chance

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 to deal with.

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 So maybe through this you've got questions at the end of it and you want to talk about it,

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 then please feel free to do so afterwards.

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 With that in mind, let's pray and ask for God's help.

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 Our Father God, we thank you for the gift of family and for the gift of our homes.

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 We recognise that all these things come from you.

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 And so it's our desire that we would live according to your plan and according to your design for the family.

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 So Father, for whatever our experiences may have been, the good experiences and the hard experiences,

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 that you would help us to come under your word today,

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 that we may become husbands and wives that you call us to be.

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 Father, we need your help and we need your understanding.

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 So please give it to us, we ask.

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 Amen.

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 Amen.

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 Well, being a follower of Jesus Christ in the world is not easy.

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 As we speak up for Christian truth, as we stand for Christian values,

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 we will face opposition.

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 That's the repeated message throughout 1 Peter.

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 And how we respond is crucial.

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 Rather than run away and hide, we are, look at chapter 2, verse 12.

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 Instead of running away and hiding, we are to live such good lives among the pagans,

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 among those who are not yet followers of Jesus,

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 that though they accuse you of doing wrong,

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 though they mightn't like what you believe or want to listen to what you say,

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 they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.

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 You see, our good deeds can soften hard hearts,

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 it can break stubborn minds, it can shatter disinterested souls

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 so that people want to hear the truth about Jesus Christ.

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 And having explained how we are to live good lives in society and in work,

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 that's what we looked at last week,

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 we are now called to live such good lives within the family.

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 Chapter 3, verses 1 to 7.

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 In particular, how we are to live such good lives as a Christian

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 if my spouse is not yet a Christian.

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 Now, while the text here, chapter 3,

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 specifically addresses husbands and wives and the marriage relationship,

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 the principle, as we were saying just a moment ago,

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 applies to all family relationships within the home.

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 That how we live affects other people.

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 So back to chapter 2, verse 12.

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 We are to live such good lives among our families

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 who are not yet believers.

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 Among our parents, among our siblings,

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 that though they do not necessarily agree with you

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 or believe the same things as you,

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 they will see how you live and behave within the family.

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 And they will glorify God on the day he visits us.

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 So with that in mind, let's look especially

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 at what this means for husbands and wives.

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 First, wives and husbands.

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 Marriage is a gift from God and it's designed by God.

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 Genesis 1, chapter 24,

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 gives us the pattern and the shape of marriage.

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 Let me quote Genesis 1, verse 24,

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 where it says,

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 a man will leave his father and mother,

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 be united to his wife,

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 and they will become one flesh.

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 So marriage is a lifelong,

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 exclusive relationship

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 between one man and one woman,

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 sealed by a sexual union.

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 marriage is a lifelong,

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 exclusive relationship

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 between one man and one woman,

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 sealed by a sexual union.

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 This is God's design

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 and it is good for us.

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 So how are husbands and wives

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 to live out this relationship

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 when your spouse is not yet a follower of Jesus Christ?

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 Well, look at chapter 3, verse 1.

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 Wives, in the same way.

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 Now look at verse 7.

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 Husbands, in the same way.

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 So husbands and wives are called to live

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 in the same way as what?

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 Well, I think he's taking us back

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 to the rest of chapter 2.

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 So look at chapter 2, verse 13.

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 It's addressing every single person in verse 13.

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 It says,

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 submit yourselves,

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 all of you,

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 submit yourselves

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 for the Lord's sake

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 to every authority

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 instituted among men,

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 whether to the king,

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 that is our Taoiseach

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 or our government,

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 as the supreme authority.

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 Or look at verse 18.

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 Slaves.

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 And we were looking there

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 at the context of employees.

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 Employees,

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 submit yourselves

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 to your masters,

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 to your employer

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 with all respect.

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 This is, you see,

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 God's good order

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 and God's good design for life.

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 There are those

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 who have positions

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 of authority,

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 those who have

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 responsibility

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 to care and provide

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 and watch over others,

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 whether that's the government

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 or whether that's your boss.

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 Similarly,

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 there are those

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 who are under authority

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 and are there

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 to support and respect

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 those who are

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 in authority.

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 In fact,

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 whatever position

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 we find ourselves

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 in life,

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 we are all called

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 to follow the example

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 of Christ.

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 Chapter 2, verse 21.

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 To this you were called,

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 because Christ suffered for you,

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 leaving you an example

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 that you should follow

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 in his footsteps.

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 So, in the same way,

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 all of us,

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 especially in this context,

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 husbands and wives,

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 are to follow God's good order

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 and God's good design

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 for life.

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 So, in the same way,

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 now if we follow

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 God's good order

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 for our relationships,

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 there will be

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 a deep,

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 intimate joy

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 where husband and wife

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 will flourish together

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 and they will become

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 the people God

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 calls them to be.

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 But in this context,

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 the reason for calling us

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 to live in the same way,

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 the reason for calling us

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 to follow God's good design

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 is, look at the rest

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 of verse 1

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 of chapter 3,

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 so that

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 if any of them,

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 if any of the husbands

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 who do not believe

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 the word,

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 so if they are not yet

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 followers of Christ,

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 they may be won over

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 without words

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 by the behaviour

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 of their wives.

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 Now the same, I think,

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 applies to husbands

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 in verse 7.

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 Look at the first part

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 of verse 7.

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 Husbands, in the same way,

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 be considerate

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 as you live

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 with your wives.

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 Now I think the context

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 is pushing

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 and implying

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 that husbands

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 would also

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 win over

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 their

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 unbelieving wives

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 by how they live.

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 So the message

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 is crystal clear.

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 God is saying,

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 follow my good design

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 for life

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 and you will

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 win over those

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 who are not yet

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 believers within your family,

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 whether that happens

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 to be your husband,

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 your wife,

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 your parents

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 or your siblings.

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 You see,

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 following God's good design

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 can soften the hard heart

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 of your wife,

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 it can break the stubborn mind

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 of your husband,

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 it can shatter

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 the disinterested soul

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 of your parents

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 so that they will want

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 to hear the truth

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 about Jesus Christ.

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 They will see

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 your good deeds

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 and they will be

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 drawn to

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 and attracted to

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 who Jesus is.

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 So what will this

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 good living look like

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 in the marriage

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 relationship?

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 Well, we're going to

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 take them one by one.

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 First, we're going to look at

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 the beautiful wives.

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 There are three ways

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 believing wives

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 can win over

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 their unbelieving husbands

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 and it's all to do

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 with your beauty.

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 First of all,

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 your submissive beauty.

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 Look at verse 1

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 of chapter 3.

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 Wives,

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 in the same way,

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 be submissive

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 to your husbands.

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 Now, I realise

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 that might sound

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 very archaic

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 and very chauvinistic

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 and out of date

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 and, well,

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 we don't use

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 that kind of language

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 anymore.

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 Well, it's important

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 for us to see

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 that biblical submission

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 and we must understand

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 what it looks like

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 is something

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 truly beautiful.

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 As we'll see shortly,

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 the husband

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 is to respect

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 his wife,

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 to care for her,

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 to serve her.

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 Following the example

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 of Christ,

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 he is to literally

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 give his life

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 for her.

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 So, for the husband,

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 it's about care,

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 not control.

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 It's about serving

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 his wife,

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 not suppressing

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 his wife.

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 And it's to this

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 kind of

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 Christ-like leadership

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 that wives

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 are to submit.

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 And in submission,

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 they support

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 their husband,

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 they affirm

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 their husband.

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 Have a look

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 at verse 5.

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 For this is the way

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 the holy women

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 of the past

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 who put their hope

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 in God

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 used to make

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 themselves

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 beautiful.

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 They were submissive

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 to their own

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 husbands.

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 Like Sarah,

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 who obeyed Abraham

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 and called him

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 her master.

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 If we look back

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 into Genesis

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 chapter 12

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 where we read

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 about Abraham

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 and Sarah,

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 Genesis 12

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 tells us that

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 Sarah was a

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 really beautiful

00:14:04.419 --> 00:14:04.879
 woman.

00:14:05.120 --> 00:14:05.620
 Physically,

00:14:06.039 --> 00:14:07.299
 she was incredibly

00:14:07.299 --> 00:14:07.899
 attractive.

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 She was so

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 beautiful

00:14:10.500 --> 00:14:12.159
 that Abraham

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 was afraid

00:14:13.079 --> 00:14:14.120
 that this

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 powerful rich

00:14:15.199 --> 00:14:16.360
 king was going

00:14:16.360 --> 00:14:17.319
 to kill Abraham

00:14:17.320 --> 00:14:18.620
 and take Sarah

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 for his wife.

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 So he lied

00:14:20.640 --> 00:14:21.780
 and said,

00:14:21.960 --> 00:14:22.840
 Sarah was

00:14:22.840 --> 00:14:23.840
 my sister.

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 But the beauty

00:14:26.180 --> 00:14:27.460
 that wives

00:14:27.460 --> 00:14:28.320
 are to emulate,

00:14:29.360 --> 00:14:30.020
 that Peter

00:14:30.020 --> 00:14:30.660
 is calling

00:14:30.660 --> 00:14:31.860
 wives to emulate,

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 he's saying

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 it's not about

00:14:34.080 --> 00:14:34.640
 Sarah's

00:14:34.640 --> 00:14:36.120
 physical beauty,

00:14:36.820 --> 00:14:38.160
 but it's about

00:14:38.160 --> 00:14:39.200
 her submissive

00:14:39.200 --> 00:14:39.820
 beauty.

00:14:41.840 --> 00:14:42.540
 They are,

00:14:42.640 --> 00:14:43.220
 verse 6,

00:14:43.700 --> 00:14:44.700
 like Sarah

00:14:44.700 --> 00:14:46.380
 who obeyed

00:14:46.380 --> 00:14:47.000
 Abraham

00:14:47.000 --> 00:14:48.039
 and called

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 him her

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 master.

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 Now,

00:14:51.740 --> 00:14:52.539
 just in case

00:14:52.539 --> 00:14:53.379
 you're wondering,

00:14:53.580 --> 00:14:54.100
 Kirsty doesn't

00:14:54.100 --> 00:14:54.620
 wander around

00:14:54.620 --> 00:14:54.980
 the house

00:14:54.980 --> 00:14:55.700
 calling me

00:14:55.700 --> 00:14:56.519
 master.

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 We've got to

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 understand again

00:15:00.279 --> 00:15:00.960
 the context.

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 It doesn't mean

00:15:01.539 --> 00:15:02.179
 that Sarah

00:15:02.179 --> 00:15:02.940
 was reduced

00:15:02.940 --> 00:15:03.820
 to a mere

00:15:03.820 --> 00:15:05.460
 slave answering

00:15:05.460 --> 00:15:06.080
 his every

00:15:06.080 --> 00:15:06.980
 beck and call.

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 No,

00:15:08.039 --> 00:15:08.840
 it's an

00:15:08.840 --> 00:15:09.860
 expression of

00:15:09.860 --> 00:15:11.000
 her deep

00:15:11.000 --> 00:15:12.460
 respect and

00:15:12.460 --> 00:15:13.820
 support for

00:15:13.820 --> 00:15:14.580
 her husband.

00:15:15.879 --> 00:15:16.659
 And wives

00:15:16.659 --> 00:15:17.100
 are called,

00:15:17.179 --> 00:15:17.620
 this is the

00:15:17.620 --> 00:15:18.100
 submissive

00:15:18.100 --> 00:15:18.559
 beauty,

00:15:19.019 --> 00:15:19.399
 one of

00:15:19.399 --> 00:15:19.839
 deep

00:15:19.839 --> 00:15:20.419
 respect

00:15:20.419 --> 00:15:22.199
 and support

00:15:22.199 --> 00:15:23.399
 and affirming

00:15:23.399 --> 00:15:24.559
 the role

00:15:24.559 --> 00:15:25.459
 of the

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 husband.

00:15:28.600 --> 00:15:29.120
 Now,

00:15:29.179 --> 00:15:29.439
 you say,

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 well,

00:15:29.639 --> 00:15:30.039
 that's all

00:15:30.039 --> 00:15:30.360
 well and

00:15:30.360 --> 00:15:30.740
 good when

00:15:30.740 --> 00:15:31.159
 the husband

00:15:31.159 --> 00:15:31.659
 is living

00:15:31.659 --> 00:15:31.980
 as he

00:15:31.980 --> 00:15:32.439
 should be.

00:15:33.259 --> 00:15:33.959
 What about

00:15:33.959 --> 00:15:34.360
 when the

00:15:34.360 --> 00:15:34.939
 husband is

00:15:34.939 --> 00:15:36.059
 not Christ-like

00:15:36.059 --> 00:15:36.679
 in his

00:15:36.679 --> 00:15:37.139
 leadership?

00:15:38.240 --> 00:15:38.719
 Well,

00:15:38.740 --> 00:15:39.639
 that's precisely

00:15:39.639 --> 00:15:40.480
 the context

00:15:40.480 --> 00:15:40.939
 here.

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 That's what

00:15:42.259 --> 00:15:42.840
 Peter is

00:15:42.840 --> 00:15:44.059
 driving at.

00:15:44.539 --> 00:15:45.100
 Wives

00:15:45.100 --> 00:15:46.080
 are to be

00:15:46.080 --> 00:15:46.779
 submissive to

00:15:46.779 --> 00:15:47.460
 their husbands

00:15:47.460 --> 00:15:48.899
 even when

00:15:48.899 --> 00:15:49.860
 he is not

00:15:49.860 --> 00:15:50.539
 yet a

00:15:50.539 --> 00:15:50.939
 believer.

00:15:51.779 --> 00:15:52.620
 If he

00:15:52.620 --> 00:15:53.340
 mocks your

00:15:53.340 --> 00:15:53.960
 faith in

00:15:53.960 --> 00:15:54.279
 Jesus,

00:15:55.600 --> 00:15:56.059
 he's saying

00:15:56.059 --> 00:15:56.980
 don't fight

00:15:56.980 --> 00:15:57.319
 him.

00:15:58.759 --> 00:15:59.740
 Affirm him

00:15:59.740 --> 00:16:00.939
 in his

00:16:00.939 --> 00:16:01.299
 role.

00:16:02.379 --> 00:16:03.139
 If your

00:16:03.139 --> 00:16:03.700
 husband should

00:16:03.700 --> 00:16:04.379
 even stop

00:16:04.379 --> 00:16:04.939
 you talking

00:16:04.939 --> 00:16:05.600
 about Jesus

00:16:05.600 --> 00:16:05.980
 in the

00:16:05.980 --> 00:16:06.259
 home,

00:16:07.399 --> 00:16:08.700
 don't control

00:16:08.700 --> 00:16:09.100
 him.

00:16:09.100 --> 00:16:11.420
 support

00:16:11.420 --> 00:16:12.000
 him.

00:16:12.879 --> 00:16:13.320
 Why?

00:16:14.019 --> 00:16:14.279
 Well,

00:16:14.320 --> 00:16:14.720
 go back

00:16:14.720 --> 00:16:15.259
 to chapter

00:16:15.259 --> 00:16:15.659
 3,

00:16:15.759 --> 00:16:16.300
 verse 1,

00:16:16.700 --> 00:16:17.220
 the second

00:16:17.220 --> 00:16:17.700
 part.

00:16:18.360 --> 00:16:19.519
 So that

00:16:19.519 --> 00:16:20.879
 if any

00:16:20.879 --> 00:16:21.220
 of them

00:16:21.220 --> 00:16:21.800
 do not

00:16:21.800 --> 00:16:22.440
 believe the

00:16:22.440 --> 00:16:22.680
 word,

00:16:22.759 --> 00:16:23.040
 if any

00:16:23.040 --> 00:16:23.320
 of them

00:16:23.320 --> 00:16:23.840
 are not

00:16:23.840 --> 00:16:24.100
 yet

00:16:24.100 --> 00:16:24.560
 followers

00:16:24.560 --> 00:16:25.259
 of Christ,

00:16:25.620 --> 00:16:26.200
 they may

00:16:26.200 --> 00:16:26.899
 be won

00:16:26.899 --> 00:16:27.480
 over

00:16:27.480 --> 00:16:27.860
 without

00:16:27.860 --> 00:16:28.620
 words

00:16:28.620 --> 00:16:30.159
 by the

00:16:30.159 --> 00:16:30.840
 behaviour

00:16:30.840 --> 00:16:32.240
 of their

00:16:32.240 --> 00:16:32.879
 wives.

00:16:33.460 --> 00:16:34.300
 When they

00:16:34.300 --> 00:16:34.860
 see the

00:16:34.860 --> 00:16:35.560
 purity

00:16:35.560 --> 00:16:36.680
 and

00:16:36.680 --> 00:16:37.700
 reverence

00:16:37.700 --> 00:16:38.860
 of your

00:16:38.860 --> 00:16:39.460
 lives.

00:16:40.539 --> 00:16:40.940
 So you

00:16:40.940 --> 00:16:41.139
 see,

00:16:41.240 --> 00:16:41.820
 submissive

00:16:41.820 --> 00:16:42.259
 beauty

00:16:42.259 --> 00:16:43.120
 is something

00:16:43.120 --> 00:16:43.840
 wonderful

00:16:43.840 --> 00:16:44.960
 and it

00:16:44.960 --> 00:16:45.600
 can win

00:16:45.600 --> 00:16:45.940
 your

00:16:45.940 --> 00:16:47.080
 unbelieving

00:16:47.080 --> 00:16:47.639
 husband

00:16:47.639 --> 00:16:48.519
 over

00:16:48.519 --> 00:16:50.259
 for Christ.

00:16:52.539 --> 00:16:53.139
 Now

00:16:53.139 --> 00:16:53.620
 before we

00:16:53.620 --> 00:16:54.159
 move on,

00:16:54.720 --> 00:16:55.019
 there's

00:16:55.019 --> 00:16:55.539
 something else

00:16:55.539 --> 00:16:55.879
 I just

00:16:55.879 --> 00:16:56.200
 want to

00:16:56.200 --> 00:16:56.620
 address

00:16:56.620 --> 00:16:57.980
 here and

00:16:57.980 --> 00:16:58.399
 that is

00:16:58.399 --> 00:16:58.800
 that it

00:16:58.800 --> 00:16:59.279
 may be

00:16:59.279 --> 00:16:59.899
 the case

00:16:59.899 --> 00:17:01.860
 that the

00:17:01.860 --> 00:17:02.460
 unbelieving

00:17:02.460 --> 00:17:02.980
 husband

00:17:02.980 --> 00:17:04.160
 is

00:17:04.160 --> 00:17:04.779
 physically

00:17:04.779 --> 00:17:05.860
 or

00:17:05.860 --> 00:17:06.420
 verbally

00:17:06.420 --> 00:17:06.980
 abusive.

00:17:06.980 --> 00:17:08.819
 it

00:17:08.819 --> 00:17:09.160
 may be

00:17:09.160 --> 00:17:09.559
 that he

00:17:09.559 --> 00:17:09.900
 is

00:17:09.900 --> 00:17:10.980
 unfaithful

00:17:10.980 --> 00:17:11.380
 in the

00:17:11.380 --> 00:17:11.860
 marriage,

00:17:12.539 --> 00:17:12.920
 sleeping

00:17:12.920 --> 00:17:13.319
 with

00:17:13.319 --> 00:17:13.720
 other

00:17:13.720 --> 00:17:14.000
 women.

00:17:15.500 --> 00:17:15.720
 It

00:17:15.720 --> 00:17:16.039
 could be

00:17:16.039 --> 00:17:16.380
 that the

00:17:16.380 --> 00:17:16.839
 home is

00:17:16.839 --> 00:17:17.400
 no longer

00:17:17.400 --> 00:17:18.000
 a safe

00:17:18.000 --> 00:17:18.579
 and secure

00:17:18.579 --> 00:17:19.519
 place for

00:17:19.519 --> 00:17:20.000
 the wife

00:17:20.000 --> 00:17:20.360
 and for

00:17:20.360 --> 00:17:20.920
 the children.

00:17:22.240 --> 00:17:22.720
 Does that

00:17:22.720 --> 00:17:23.259
 mean then

00:17:23.259 --> 00:17:23.640
 that they

00:17:23.640 --> 00:17:24.299
 must still

00:17:24.299 --> 00:17:24.799
 stay?

00:17:25.079 --> 00:17:25.779
 What do

00:17:25.779 --> 00:17:26.079
 we do

00:17:26.079 --> 00:17:26.360
 then?

00:17:27.220 --> 00:17:27.480
 Well,

00:17:27.519 --> 00:17:27.980
 if that's

00:17:27.980 --> 00:17:28.539
 the case,

00:17:29.220 --> 00:17:29.660
 the wife

00:17:29.660 --> 00:17:29.960
 and the

00:17:29.960 --> 00:17:30.279
 children

00:17:30.279 --> 00:17:30.799
 need

00:17:30.799 --> 00:17:31.640
 protection

00:17:31.640 --> 00:17:32.720
 and care.

00:17:32.720 --> 00:17:33.400
 Matthew

00:17:33.400 --> 00:17:34.259
 19

00:17:34.259 --> 00:17:34.960
 talks

00:17:34.960 --> 00:17:35.360
 about

00:17:35.360 --> 00:17:35.860
 that.

00:17:37.039 --> 00:17:37.460
 That the

00:17:37.460 --> 00:17:37.740
 church

00:17:37.740 --> 00:17:38.180
 family

00:17:38.180 --> 00:17:38.559
 should be

00:17:38.559 --> 00:17:39.059
 there to

00:17:39.059 --> 00:17:39.740
 provide

00:17:39.740 --> 00:17:40.799
 and support

00:17:40.799 --> 00:17:41.839
 the wife

00:17:41.839 --> 00:17:42.579
 and the

00:17:42.579 --> 00:17:42.960
 children.

00:17:43.299 --> 00:17:43.759
 The right

00:17:43.759 --> 00:17:44.380
 authorities

00:17:44.380 --> 00:17:45.000
 would need

00:17:45.000 --> 00:17:45.339
 to be

00:17:45.339 --> 00:17:45.839
 informed

00:17:45.839 --> 00:17:46.380
 if there's

00:17:46.380 --> 00:17:46.880
 physically

00:17:46.880 --> 00:17:47.500
 an abusive

00:17:47.500 --> 00:17:48.200
 behaviour.

00:17:49.519 --> 00:17:49.920
 And if

00:17:49.920 --> 00:17:50.220
 it's

00:17:50.220 --> 00:17:51.000
 unresolved

00:17:51.000 --> 00:17:51.360
 and if

00:17:51.360 --> 00:17:51.640
 it's

00:17:51.640 --> 00:17:52.400
 unchanged,

00:17:54.059 --> 00:17:54.360
 as

00:17:54.360 --> 00:17:54.680
 Matthew

00:17:54.680 --> 00:17:55.220
 19

00:17:55.220 --> 00:17:55.660
 talks

00:17:55.660 --> 00:17:55.980
 about,

00:17:56.559 --> 00:17:56.779
 the

00:17:56.779 --> 00:17:57.480
 believing

00:17:57.480 --> 00:17:58.039
 wife

00:17:58.039 --> 00:17:59.460
 may have

00:17:59.460 --> 00:18:00.220
 to leave

00:18:00.220 --> 00:18:00.720
 her

00:18:00.720 --> 00:18:01.160
 husband.

00:18:02.579 --> 00:18:03.160
 Abusive

00:18:03.160 --> 00:18:04.259
 and

00:18:04.259 --> 00:18:05.440
 unfaithful

00:18:05.440 --> 00:18:05.960
 behaviour

00:18:05.960 --> 00:18:06.720
 in marriage

00:18:06.720 --> 00:18:07.799
 must not

00:18:07.799 --> 00:18:08.920
 be

00:18:08.920 --> 00:18:09.680
 tolerated.

00:18:10.860 --> 00:18:11.339
 And the

00:18:11.339 --> 00:18:11.600
 church

00:18:11.600 --> 00:18:12.019
 should be

00:18:12.019 --> 00:18:12.559
 a place

00:18:12.559 --> 00:18:13.539
 of safety

00:18:13.539 --> 00:18:14.380
 and security

00:18:14.380 --> 00:18:15.039
 and care

00:18:15.039 --> 00:18:15.579
 and provision

00:18:15.579 --> 00:18:16.480
 for those

00:18:16.480 --> 00:18:17.000
 who find

00:18:17.000 --> 00:18:17.539
 themselves

00:18:17.539 --> 00:18:18.420
 in that

00:18:18.420 --> 00:18:19.120
 situation.

00:18:20.339 --> 00:18:21.019
 However,

00:18:21.960 --> 00:18:22.600
 where

00:18:22.600 --> 00:18:23.180
 possible,

00:18:24.539 --> 00:18:25.019
 wives

00:18:25.019 --> 00:18:26.220
 can win

00:18:26.220 --> 00:18:27.019
 over their

00:18:27.019 --> 00:18:28.059
 unbelieving

00:18:28.059 --> 00:18:28.759
 husbands

00:18:28.759 --> 00:18:30.519
 by their

00:18:30.519 --> 00:18:31.079
 submissive

00:18:31.079 --> 00:18:31.519
 beauty.

00:18:33.420 --> 00:18:34.460
 The second

00:18:34.460 --> 00:18:34.879
 beauty

00:18:34.879 --> 00:18:35.640
 is an

00:18:35.640 --> 00:18:36.180
 inner

00:18:36.180 --> 00:18:36.720
 beauty.

00:18:38.160 --> 00:18:38.519
 So,

00:18:38.799 --> 00:18:39.379
 verse 3.

00:18:41.619 --> 00:18:42.339
 Your

00:18:42.339 --> 00:18:42.779
 beauty,

00:18:42.920 --> 00:18:43.579
 still addressing

00:18:43.579 --> 00:18:44.119
 wives,

00:18:44.339 --> 00:18:44.879
 your beauty

00:18:44.879 --> 00:18:45.460
 should not

00:18:45.460 --> 00:18:46.099
 come from

00:18:46.099 --> 00:18:46.619
 outward

00:18:46.619 --> 00:18:47.420
 adornment

00:18:47.420 --> 00:18:48.660
 such as

00:18:48.660 --> 00:18:49.160
 braided

00:18:49.160 --> 00:18:50.519
 hair and

00:18:50.519 --> 00:18:51.000
 the wearing

00:18:51.000 --> 00:18:51.680
 of gold

00:18:51.680 --> 00:18:52.379
 jewellery

00:18:52.379 --> 00:18:53.000
 and fine

00:18:53.000 --> 00:18:53.579
 clothes.

00:18:54.240 --> 00:18:54.500
 So,

00:18:54.619 --> 00:18:54.779
 sorry,

00:18:54.920 --> 00:18:55.140
 Kirsty,

00:18:55.259 --> 00:18:55.480
 I won't

00:18:55.480 --> 00:18:55.740
 be able

00:18:55.740 --> 00:18:56.019
 to buy

00:18:56.019 --> 00:18:56.420
 you gold

00:18:56.420 --> 00:18:56.819
 jewellery

00:18:56.819 --> 00:18:57.299
 anymore.

00:18:57.299 --> 00:18:59.139
 Instead,

00:18:59.500 --> 00:19:00.079
 verse 4,

00:19:00.419 --> 00:19:00.799
 it should

00:19:00.799 --> 00:19:01.220
 be that

00:19:01.220 --> 00:19:01.579
 of your

00:19:01.579 --> 00:19:02.619
 inner self.

00:19:03.919 --> 00:19:04.240
 Now,

00:19:04.319 --> 00:19:04.519
 again,

00:19:04.599 --> 00:19:04.839
 let me

00:19:04.839 --> 00:19:05.180
 make it

00:19:05.180 --> 00:19:05.599
 very clear,

00:19:05.680 --> 00:19:05.839
 there's

00:19:05.839 --> 00:19:06.159
 nothing

00:19:06.159 --> 00:19:06.940
 wrong

00:19:06.940 --> 00:19:07.579
 with

00:19:07.579 --> 00:19:07.879
 women

00:19:07.879 --> 00:19:08.240
 making

00:19:08.240 --> 00:19:08.839
 themselves

00:19:08.839 --> 00:19:09.379
 look

00:19:09.379 --> 00:19:10.319
 beautiful.

00:19:11.359 --> 00:19:11.879
 Wives,

00:19:11.980 --> 00:19:12.399
 it's not

00:19:12.399 --> 00:19:12.980
 wrong

00:19:12.980 --> 00:19:13.799
 to dress

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 well.

00:19:14.700 --> 00:19:15.319
 It's not

00:19:15.319 --> 00:19:15.779
 wrong

00:19:15.779 --> 00:19:16.319
 to go

00:19:16.319 --> 00:19:16.759
 and get

00:19:16.759 --> 00:19:17.200
 your hair

00:19:17.200 --> 00:19:17.480
 done.

00:19:17.559 --> 00:19:17.919
 It's not

00:19:17.919 --> 00:19:18.379
 wrong

00:19:18.379 --> 00:19:18.819
 to go

00:19:18.819 --> 00:19:19.159
 to the

00:19:19.159 --> 00:19:19.419
 gym.

00:19:20.779 --> 00:19:21.379
 However,

00:19:22.519 --> 00:19:23.000
 outward

00:19:23.000 --> 00:19:23.799
 physical

00:19:23.799 --> 00:19:24.460
 beauty

00:19:24.460 --> 00:19:26.079
 is never

00:19:26.079 --> 00:19:26.639
 going to

00:19:26.640 --> 00:19:27.000
 change

00:19:27.000 --> 00:19:27.240
 the

00:19:27.240 --> 00:19:27.800
 heart

00:19:27.800 --> 00:19:29.100
 of your

00:19:29.100 --> 00:19:29.759
 unbelieving

00:19:29.759 --> 00:19:30.240
 husband.

00:19:31.040 --> 00:19:31.920
 You may

00:19:31.920 --> 00:19:32.540
 do well

00:19:32.540 --> 00:19:33.440
 to attract

00:19:33.440 --> 00:19:33.860
 them to

00:19:33.860 --> 00:19:34.720
 yourself

00:19:34.720 --> 00:19:36.100
 through your

00:19:36.100 --> 00:19:36.600
 physical

00:19:36.600 --> 00:19:37.160
 beauty,

00:19:37.580 --> 00:19:38.980
 but they

00:19:38.980 --> 00:19:39.420
 are not

00:19:39.420 --> 00:19:40.020
 necessarily

00:19:40.020 --> 00:19:40.480
 going to

00:19:40.480 --> 00:19:41.000
 be attracted

00:19:41.000 --> 00:19:41.640
 to Christ

00:19:41.640 --> 00:19:42.100
 through your

00:19:42.100 --> 00:19:42.440
 physical

00:19:42.440 --> 00:19:42.920
 beauty.

00:19:44.920 --> 00:19:45.640
 Proverbs

00:19:45.640 --> 00:19:46.100
 11

00:19:46.100 --> 00:19:48.140
 says

00:19:48.140 --> 00:19:48.600
 this,

00:19:49.440 --> 00:19:50.320
 like a

00:19:50.320 --> 00:19:50.940
 gold ring

00:19:50.940 --> 00:19:51.240
 in a

00:19:51.240 --> 00:19:51.680
 pig's

00:19:51.680 --> 00:19:52.160
 snout

00:19:52.160 --> 00:19:53.720
 is a

00:19:53.720 --> 00:19:54.200
 beautiful

00:19:54.200 --> 00:19:54.700
 woman

00:19:54.700 --> 00:19:54.759
 woman

00:19:54.759 --> 00:19:55.559
 who

00:19:55.559 --> 00:19:55.940
 shows

00:19:55.940 --> 00:19:56.340
 no

00:19:56.340 --> 00:19:57.600
 discretion.

00:19:59.180 --> 00:19:59.559
 You see,

00:19:59.840 --> 00:20:00.200
 wives,

00:20:00.299 --> 00:20:00.539
 you can

00:20:00.539 --> 00:20:00.740
 be

00:20:00.740 --> 00:20:01.380
 beautifully

00:20:01.380 --> 00:20:02.059
 attractive,

00:20:02.720 --> 00:20:03.319
 you can

00:20:03.319 --> 00:20:04.039
 be drop

00:20:04.039 --> 00:20:04.340
 dead

00:20:04.340 --> 00:20:04.880
 gorgeous,

00:20:05.720 --> 00:20:06.580
 but without

00:20:06.580 --> 00:20:07.400
 that inner

00:20:07.400 --> 00:20:08.480
 Christ-like

00:20:08.480 --> 00:20:09.180
 beauty,

00:20:10.240 --> 00:20:11.000
 you are

00:20:11.000 --> 00:20:11.840
 never going

00:20:11.840 --> 00:20:12.279
 to win

00:20:12.279 --> 00:20:12.900
 your husband

00:20:12.900 --> 00:20:13.740
 for Christ.

00:20:15.819 --> 00:20:16.580
 So,

00:20:16.660 --> 00:20:16.980
 wives,

00:20:17.059 --> 00:20:17.360
 let me

00:20:17.360 --> 00:20:17.880
 ask you,

00:20:17.880 --> 00:20:20.820
 what effort

00:20:20.820 --> 00:20:21.900
 attention do

00:20:21.900 --> 00:20:22.280
 you put

00:20:22.280 --> 00:20:23.560
 into looking

00:20:23.560 --> 00:20:24.280
 physically

00:20:24.280 --> 00:20:24.860
 good?

00:20:28.060 --> 00:20:28.720
 Watch

00:20:28.720 --> 00:20:29.100
 what you

00:20:29.100 --> 00:20:29.440
 eat,

00:20:30.100 --> 00:20:30.680
 you watch

00:20:30.680 --> 00:20:31.100
 what you

00:20:31.100 --> 00:20:31.320
 wear,

00:20:31.640 --> 00:20:32.240
 you watch

00:20:32.240 --> 00:20:32.720
 how you

00:20:32.720 --> 00:20:32.980
 look,

00:20:33.100 --> 00:20:33.680
 you take

00:20:33.680 --> 00:20:34.200
 note of

00:20:34.200 --> 00:20:34.780
 how people

00:20:34.780 --> 00:20:35.640
 look at

00:20:35.640 --> 00:20:35.900
 you.

00:20:37.500 --> 00:20:38.240
 Do you

00:20:38.240 --> 00:20:38.680
 watch

00:20:38.680 --> 00:20:39.460
 your own

00:20:39.460 --> 00:20:39.900
 heart?

00:20:41.540 --> 00:20:42.200
 Are you

00:20:42.200 --> 00:20:42.800
 developing

00:20:42.800 --> 00:20:43.800
 that inner

00:20:43.800 --> 00:20:44.360
 beauty

00:20:44.360 --> 00:20:45.720
 that will

00:20:45.720 --> 00:20:46.560
 attract your

00:20:46.559 --> 00:20:48.099
 husband to

00:20:48.099 --> 00:20:48.579
 Christ?

00:20:49.279 --> 00:20:49.899
 Are we

00:20:49.899 --> 00:20:51.220
 working on

00:20:51.220 --> 00:20:51.720
 our own

00:20:51.720 --> 00:20:52.299
 hearts?

00:20:54.200 --> 00:20:54.639
 So,

00:20:55.279 --> 00:20:56.079
 wives are

00:20:56.079 --> 00:20:57.240
 to have

00:20:57.240 --> 00:20:58.000
 a submissive

00:20:58.000 --> 00:20:58.399
 beauty,

00:20:59.079 --> 00:20:59.899
 they are

00:20:59.899 --> 00:21:00.359
 to have

00:21:00.359 --> 00:21:01.019
 an inner

00:21:01.019 --> 00:21:01.819
 beauty so

00:21:01.819 --> 00:21:02.220
 that they

00:21:02.220 --> 00:21:02.879
 can win

00:21:02.879 --> 00:21:04.339
 over their

00:21:04.339 --> 00:21:05.179
 unbelieving

00:21:05.179 --> 00:21:05.720
 husbands.

00:21:07.579 --> 00:21:08.480
 But there's

00:21:08.480 --> 00:21:08.839
 a third

00:21:08.839 --> 00:21:09.279
 beauty,

00:21:10.399 --> 00:21:11.259
 an unfading

00:21:11.259 --> 00:21:11.940
 beauty.

00:21:12.299 --> 00:21:12.879
 Verse 4,

00:21:13.039 --> 00:21:13.559
 let's read

00:21:13.559 --> 00:21:14.039
 verse 4

00:21:14.039 --> 00:21:14.339
 again.

00:21:15.519 --> 00:21:16.039
 Instead,

00:21:16.559 --> 00:21:17.859
 of the

00:21:17.859 --> 00:21:18.579
 outward

00:21:18.579 --> 00:21:19.139
 physical

00:21:19.139 --> 00:21:19.619
 beauty,

00:21:20.159 --> 00:21:20.700
 it should

00:21:20.700 --> 00:21:21.139
 be that

00:21:21.139 --> 00:21:21.539
 of your

00:21:21.539 --> 00:21:21.940
 inner

00:21:21.940 --> 00:21:22.519
 self,

00:21:23.220 --> 00:21:23.460
 the

00:21:23.460 --> 00:21:24.659
 unfading

00:21:24.659 --> 00:21:25.379
 beauty

00:21:25.379 --> 00:21:26.980
 of a

00:21:26.980 --> 00:21:27.519
 gentle

00:21:27.519 --> 00:21:28.059
 and

00:21:28.059 --> 00:21:28.720
 quiet

00:21:28.720 --> 00:21:29.259
 spirit,

00:21:30.460 --> 00:21:30.919
 which is

00:21:30.919 --> 00:21:31.559
 of great

00:21:31.559 --> 00:21:32.019
 worth

00:21:32.019 --> 00:21:33.359
 in God's

00:21:33.359 --> 00:21:33.759
 sight.

00:21:35.480 --> 00:21:35.720
 Now,

00:21:35.779 --> 00:21:36.379
 let's be

00:21:36.379 --> 00:21:36.919
 real here,

00:21:37.019 --> 00:21:37.639
 let's face

00:21:37.639 --> 00:21:38.240
 the facts.

00:21:38.480 --> 00:21:38.919
 Physical

00:21:38.919 --> 00:21:39.639
 beauty

00:21:39.639 --> 00:21:40.559
 fades.

00:21:41.460 --> 00:21:41.819
 Even

00:21:41.819 --> 00:21:42.099
 the

00:21:42.099 --> 00:21:43.099
 supermodels

00:21:43.099 --> 00:21:44.599
 will droop

00:21:44.599 --> 00:21:45.619
 and wrinkle.

00:21:46.559 --> 00:21:47.319
 We can

00:21:47.319 --> 00:21:47.819
 only put

00:21:47.819 --> 00:21:48.440
 on so

00:21:48.440 --> 00:21:48.839
 much

00:21:48.839 --> 00:21:49.759
 makeup.

00:21:50.720 --> 00:21:51.279
 Unless,

00:21:51.440 --> 00:21:51.679
 of course,

00:21:51.759 --> 00:21:52.059
 you want

00:21:52.059 --> 00:21:52.339
 to look

00:21:52.339 --> 00:21:52.740
 like a

00:21:52.740 --> 00:21:53.119
 plastic

00:21:53.119 --> 00:21:53.619
 mannequin

00:21:53.619 --> 00:21:54.119
 who can't

00:21:54.119 --> 00:21:54.319
 even

00:21:54.319 --> 00:21:55.019
 smile

00:21:55.019 --> 00:21:55.359
 because

00:21:55.359 --> 00:21:55.619
 they've

00:21:55.619 --> 00:21:56.000
 got so

00:21:56.000 --> 00:21:56.240
 much

00:21:56.240 --> 00:21:56.960
 Botox.

00:21:58.079 --> 00:21:58.460
 Inner

00:21:58.460 --> 00:21:59.019
 beauty,

00:21:59.220 --> 00:21:59.639
 on the

00:21:59.639 --> 00:21:59.879
 other

00:21:59.879 --> 00:22:00.279
 hand,

00:22:00.679 --> 00:22:01.519
 does not

00:22:01.519 --> 00:22:02.339
 fade.

00:22:02.700 --> 00:22:03.200
 It only

00:22:03.200 --> 00:22:03.859
 gets more

00:22:03.859 --> 00:22:04.700
 beautiful and

00:22:04.700 --> 00:22:05.480
 it grows

00:22:05.480 --> 00:22:06.599
 over time.

00:22:06.980 --> 00:22:07.259
 Look at

00:22:07.259 --> 00:22:07.720
 verse 4

00:22:07.720 --> 00:22:08.019
 again.

00:22:08.299 --> 00:22:08.639
 It should

00:22:08.639 --> 00:22:09.019
 be that

00:22:09.019 --> 00:22:09.559
 inner

00:22:09.559 --> 00:22:10.539
 beauty of

00:22:10.539 --> 00:22:10.700
 the

00:22:10.700 --> 00:22:10.899
 inner

00:22:10.899 --> 00:22:11.220
 self,

00:22:11.220 --> 00:22:11.480
 the

00:22:11.480 --> 00:22:12.360
 unfading

00:22:12.360 --> 00:22:13.019
 beauty

00:22:13.019 --> 00:22:14.200
 of a

00:22:14.200 --> 00:22:14.779
 gentle

00:22:14.779 --> 00:22:15.640
 and

00:22:15.640 --> 00:22:16.420
 quiet

00:22:16.420 --> 00:22:17.299
 spirit.

00:22:18.660 --> 00:22:19.519
 A

00:22:19.519 --> 00:22:19.940
 wife

00:22:19.940 --> 00:22:20.440
 who is

00:22:20.440 --> 00:22:20.940
 gentle,

00:22:22.120 --> 00:22:22.559
 is not

00:22:22.559 --> 00:22:23.180
 harsh,

00:22:24.519 --> 00:22:25.180
 is not

00:22:25.180 --> 00:22:25.779
 aggressive

00:22:25.779 --> 00:22:26.200
 in her

00:22:26.200 --> 00:22:26.660
 talk,

00:22:27.039 --> 00:22:27.500
 is not

00:22:27.500 --> 00:22:28.140
 nagging

00:22:28.140 --> 00:22:28.319
 and

00:22:28.319 --> 00:22:28.940
 impatient

00:22:28.940 --> 00:22:29.839
 towards

00:22:29.839 --> 00:22:30.059
 her

00:22:30.059 --> 00:22:30.440
 husband.

00:22:31.740 --> 00:22:31.960
 A

00:22:31.960 --> 00:22:32.240
 wife

00:22:32.240 --> 00:22:32.620
 who is

00:22:32.620 --> 00:22:33.259
 quiet,

00:22:33.720 --> 00:22:34.059
 is

00:22:34.059 --> 00:22:34.860
 calming,

00:22:36.319 --> 00:22:36.680
 brings

00:22:36.680 --> 00:22:37.440
 peace

00:22:37.440 --> 00:22:38.420
 into the

00:22:38.420 --> 00:22:38.720
 home,

00:22:39.220 --> 00:22:39.799
 soothes

00:22:39.799 --> 00:22:40.059
 the

00:22:40.059 --> 00:22:40.419
 troubled

00:22:40.419 --> 00:22:40.980
 waters

00:22:40.980 --> 00:22:41.259
 that

00:22:41.259 --> 00:22:41.419
 there

00:22:41.419 --> 00:22:41.639
 may

00:22:41.639 --> 00:22:41.940
 be.

00:22:42.799 --> 00:22:43.159
 This

00:22:43.159 --> 00:22:43.559
 is the

00:22:43.559 --> 00:22:43.839
 kind

00:22:43.839 --> 00:22:44.059
 of

00:22:44.059 --> 00:22:44.460
 beauty

00:22:44.460 --> 00:22:45.019
 that

00:22:45.019 --> 00:22:45.279
 will

00:22:45.279 --> 00:22:45.779
 win

00:22:45.779 --> 00:22:46.460
 over

00:22:46.460 --> 00:22:46.859
 your

00:22:46.859 --> 00:22:47.799
 unbelieving

00:22:47.799 --> 00:22:48.299
 husband

00:22:48.299 --> 00:22:48.659
 for

00:22:48.659 --> 00:22:49.139
 Christ.

00:22:51.240 --> 00:22:52.019
 Of course

00:22:52.019 --> 00:22:52.460
 it doesn't

00:22:52.460 --> 00:22:52.960
 mean that

00:22:52.960 --> 00:22:53.460
 the wife

00:22:53.460 --> 00:22:54.419
 can't

00:22:54.419 --> 00:22:54.899
 talk or

00:22:54.899 --> 00:22:55.299
 that she

00:22:55.299 --> 00:22:55.720
 doesn't

00:22:55.720 --> 00:22:56.039
 have an

00:22:56.039 --> 00:22:56.399
 opinion.

00:22:57.019 --> 00:22:57.279
 No,

00:22:57.319 --> 00:22:57.500
 it's

00:22:57.500 --> 00:22:57.839
 talking

00:22:57.839 --> 00:22:58.200
 about

00:22:58.200 --> 00:22:58.480
 this

00:22:58.480 --> 00:22:59.859
 Christ-like

00:22:59.859 --> 00:23:00.659
 character.

00:23:01.299 --> 00:23:01.440
 She

00:23:01.440 --> 00:23:01.700
 does

00:23:01.700 --> 00:23:02.119
 not

00:23:02.119 --> 00:23:03.299
 retaliate.

00:23:03.639 --> 00:23:03.759
 She

00:23:03.759 --> 00:23:04.319
 is not

00:23:04.319 --> 00:23:05.680
 argumentative.

00:23:06.039 --> 00:23:06.159
 She

00:23:06.159 --> 00:23:07.159
 is gentle

00:23:07.159 --> 00:23:07.839
 and

00:23:07.839 --> 00:23:08.480
 quiet

00:23:08.480 --> 00:23:09.159
 in

00:23:09.159 --> 00:23:09.619
 spirit.

00:23:09.799 --> 00:23:14.000
 Now I

00:23:14.000 --> 00:23:14.359
 know we're

00:23:14.359 --> 00:23:15.000
 addressing and

00:23:15.000 --> 00:23:15.639
 talking about

00:23:15.639 --> 00:23:16.359
 wives here,

00:23:17.519 --> 00:23:18.539
 but before we

00:23:18.539 --> 00:23:19.099
 move on,

00:23:19.539 --> 00:23:20.119
 if you're a

00:23:20.119 --> 00:23:20.779
 single woman

00:23:20.779 --> 00:23:22.319
 who hopes

00:23:22.319 --> 00:23:22.720
 to be

00:23:22.720 --> 00:23:23.399
 married one

00:23:23.399 --> 00:23:23.720
 day,

00:23:25.079 --> 00:23:26.779
 do not

00:23:26.779 --> 00:23:27.819
 try and

00:23:27.819 --> 00:23:28.319
 gain a

00:23:28.319 --> 00:23:28.740
 husband

00:23:28.740 --> 00:23:30.299
 by your

00:23:30.299 --> 00:23:30.700
 physical

00:23:30.700 --> 00:23:31.220
 beauty.

00:23:32.559 --> 00:23:33.440
 Do not

00:23:33.440 --> 00:23:34.680
 dress in

00:23:34.680 --> 00:23:35.220
 such a

00:23:35.220 --> 00:23:35.779
 way to

00:23:35.779 --> 00:23:36.799
 lure and

00:23:36.799 --> 00:23:37.799
 capture your

00:23:37.799 --> 00:23:38.619
 future husband.

00:23:39.000 --> 00:23:39.379
 Why?

00:23:39.799 --> 00:23:41.279
 Well,

00:23:41.359 --> 00:23:41.839
 because the

00:23:41.839 --> 00:23:42.440
 only reason

00:23:42.440 --> 00:23:42.899
 he's going

00:23:42.899 --> 00:23:43.460
 to marry

00:23:43.460 --> 00:23:44.279
 you is

00:23:44.279 --> 00:23:44.700
 for your

00:23:44.700 --> 00:23:45.200
 beauty.

00:23:46.519 --> 00:23:47.079
 But as

00:23:47.079 --> 00:23:47.500
 we've just

00:23:47.500 --> 00:23:48.019
 seen in

00:23:48.019 --> 00:23:48.759
 verse 4,

00:23:49.099 --> 00:23:49.879
 what happens

00:23:49.879 --> 00:23:50.379
 then when

00:23:50.379 --> 00:23:50.940
 your beauty

00:23:50.940 --> 00:23:51.559
 fades?

00:23:54.240 --> 00:23:54.619
 Well,

00:23:54.639 --> 00:23:54.960
 that's one

00:23:54.960 --> 00:23:55.180
 of the

00:23:55.180 --> 00:23:55.859
 main reasons

00:23:55.859 --> 00:23:56.599
 why many

00:23:56.599 --> 00:23:57.059
 marriages

00:23:57.059 --> 00:23:57.659
 break up,

00:23:57.720 --> 00:23:58.139
 because the

00:23:58.139 --> 00:23:58.579
 man no

00:23:58.579 --> 00:23:59.359
 longer likes

00:23:59.359 --> 00:23:59.819
 the way

00:23:59.819 --> 00:24:00.460
 his wife

00:24:00.460 --> 00:24:01.019
 looks,

00:24:01.759 --> 00:24:02.599
 so goes

00:24:02.599 --> 00:24:03.019
 off with

00:24:03.019 --> 00:24:03.399
 somebody

00:24:03.399 --> 00:24:03.879
 else.

00:24:05.919 --> 00:24:06.480
 Women,

00:24:06.680 --> 00:24:07.059
 physical

00:24:07.059 --> 00:24:07.940
 beauty may

00:24:07.940 --> 00:24:08.339
 be the

00:24:08.339 --> 00:24:08.980
 standard of

00:24:08.980 --> 00:24:09.360
 the world,

00:24:09.599 --> 00:24:09.960
 it may

00:24:09.960 --> 00:24:10.480
 be across

00:24:10.480 --> 00:24:10.839
 every

00:24:10.839 --> 00:24:11.339
 magazine

00:24:11.339 --> 00:24:11.860
 that you

00:24:11.860 --> 00:24:12.319
 read.

00:24:13.140 --> 00:24:13.940
 How women

00:24:13.940 --> 00:24:14.960
 look sexually

00:24:14.960 --> 00:24:16.000
 may be the

00:24:16.000 --> 00:24:16.740
 demands and

00:24:16.740 --> 00:24:17.240
 the pressures

00:24:17.240 --> 00:24:17.860
 of men,

00:24:18.319 --> 00:24:20.000
 but God's

00:24:20.000 --> 00:24:21.019
 good and

00:24:21.019 --> 00:24:22.079
 right design

00:24:22.079 --> 00:24:22.700
 for us,

00:24:22.759 --> 00:24:23.299
 verse 4,

00:24:23.579 --> 00:24:24.160
 is that there

00:24:24.160 --> 00:24:24.740
 would be an

00:24:24.740 --> 00:24:25.720
 unfading

00:24:25.720 --> 00:24:27.339
 inner beauty

00:24:27.339 --> 00:24:29.240
 of a gentle

00:24:29.240 --> 00:24:30.440
 and quiet

00:24:30.440 --> 00:24:31.220
 spirit,

00:24:31.980 --> 00:24:33.079
 which is of

00:24:33.079 --> 00:24:34.620
 great worth

00:24:34.619 --> 00:24:35.879
 love in

00:24:35.879 --> 00:24:36.759
 God's sight.

00:24:39.339 --> 00:24:40.339
 And again,

00:24:40.619 --> 00:24:41.279
 older women

00:24:41.279 --> 00:24:42.019
 within this

00:24:42.019 --> 00:24:42.500
 church,

00:24:42.819 --> 00:24:43.379
 let me

00:24:43.379 --> 00:24:44.179
 encourage you

00:24:44.179 --> 00:24:44.879
 to model

00:24:44.879 --> 00:24:45.739
 to the

00:24:45.739 --> 00:24:46.119
 younger

00:24:46.119 --> 00:24:47.099
 women what

00:24:47.099 --> 00:24:47.919
 this inner

00:24:47.919 --> 00:24:49.159
 beauty looks

00:24:49.159 --> 00:24:49.639
 like.

00:24:50.139 --> 00:24:50.799
 That is the

00:24:50.799 --> 00:24:51.500
 responsibility

00:24:51.500 --> 00:24:53.039
 of all of us

00:24:53.039 --> 00:24:53.500
 within the

00:24:53.500 --> 00:24:54.099
 family of the

00:24:54.099 --> 00:24:54.359
 church.

00:24:54.819 --> 00:24:55.459
 Women are to

00:24:55.459 --> 00:24:56.439
 demonstrate and

00:24:56.439 --> 00:24:57.819
 show what

00:24:57.819 --> 00:24:59.299
 true inner

00:24:59.299 --> 00:24:59.979
 beauty looks

00:24:59.979 --> 00:25:00.379
 like.

00:25:00.380 --> 00:25:02.000
 And if you

00:25:02.000 --> 00:25:02.560
 are a mother

00:25:02.560 --> 00:25:03.720
 here today and

00:25:03.720 --> 00:25:04.200
 you've got

00:25:04.200 --> 00:25:05.080
 young daughters,

00:25:06.320 --> 00:25:07.680
 cultivate that

00:25:07.680 --> 00:25:09.220
 unfading beauty

00:25:09.220 --> 00:25:10.120
 to your

00:25:10.120 --> 00:25:10.560
 daughters.

00:25:11.880 --> 00:25:12.640
 The things

00:25:12.640 --> 00:25:13.280
 that they hear

00:25:13.280 --> 00:25:13.760
 about, the

00:25:13.760 --> 00:25:14.160
 things they

00:25:14.160 --> 00:25:14.680
 read about,

00:25:14.760 --> 00:25:15.100
 the things

00:25:15.100 --> 00:25:15.380
 that your

00:25:15.380 --> 00:25:16.000
 daughters will

00:25:16.000 --> 00:25:16.980
 see are

00:25:16.980 --> 00:25:18.980
 all about

00:25:18.980 --> 00:25:20.420
 dressing sexually.

00:25:21.420 --> 00:25:22.060
 That is the

00:25:22.060 --> 00:25:22.740
 demands and

00:25:22.740 --> 00:25:23.260
 the pressures

00:25:23.260 --> 00:25:23.920
 of the world.

00:25:24.320 --> 00:25:24.740
 But that

00:25:24.740 --> 00:25:26.600
 inner, unfading

00:25:26.600 --> 00:25:29.960
 beauty, that

00:25:29.960 --> 00:25:30.579
 is what we

00:25:30.579 --> 00:25:31.299
 should cultivate.

00:25:32.299 --> 00:25:33.220
 So wives,

00:25:33.900 --> 00:25:34.680
 young women,

00:25:35.860 --> 00:25:37.400
 desire a

00:25:37.400 --> 00:25:38.240
 submissive,

00:25:38.960 --> 00:25:39.420
 inner,

00:25:40.500 --> 00:25:41.160
 unfading

00:25:41.160 --> 00:25:41.720
 beauty,

00:25:42.160 --> 00:25:43.299
 because it

00:25:43.299 --> 00:25:43.980
 will win

00:25:43.980 --> 00:25:46.059
 over your

00:25:46.059 --> 00:25:46.700
 unbelieving

00:25:46.700 --> 00:25:48.360
 husband to

00:25:48.360 --> 00:25:48.799
 Christ.

00:25:51.100 --> 00:25:51.940
 So,

00:25:52.319 --> 00:25:53.900
 beautiful

00:25:53.900 --> 00:25:54.559
 wives,

00:25:56.559 --> 00:25:57.340
 faithful

00:25:57.340 --> 00:25:58.059
 husbands,

00:25:58.059 --> 00:25:58.200
 husbands.

00:26:00.119 --> 00:26:00.679
 And likewise,

00:26:00.980 --> 00:26:01.659
 I've just

00:26:01.659 --> 00:26:02.440
 put it

00:26:02.440 --> 00:26:03.019
 together that

00:26:03.019 --> 00:26:03.299
 there are

00:26:03.299 --> 00:26:03.960
 three ways

00:26:03.960 --> 00:26:04.460
 believing

00:26:04.460 --> 00:26:06.079
 husbands can

00:26:06.079 --> 00:26:06.639
 win over

00:26:06.639 --> 00:26:07.079
 their

00:26:07.079 --> 00:26:08.440
 unbelieving

00:26:08.440 --> 00:26:09.220
 wives.

00:26:10.500 --> 00:26:11.279
 So husbands,

00:26:11.460 --> 00:26:11.940
 first,

00:26:13.099 --> 00:26:13.579
 be

00:26:13.579 --> 00:26:15.119
 considerate.

00:26:16.480 --> 00:26:17.200
 Look at

00:26:17.200 --> 00:26:17.779
 verse 7.

00:26:18.819 --> 00:26:19.299
 Husbands,

00:26:19.559 --> 00:26:20.279
 in the same

00:26:20.279 --> 00:26:20.720
 way,

00:26:21.899 --> 00:26:22.259
 be

00:26:22.259 --> 00:26:23.339
 considerate

00:26:23.339 --> 00:26:24.179
 as you

00:26:24.179 --> 00:26:25.679
 live with

00:26:25.679 --> 00:26:26.399
 your wives.

00:26:26.400 --> 00:26:28.360
 in case

00:26:28.360 --> 00:26:28.740
 you didn't

00:26:28.740 --> 00:26:29.060
 know,

00:26:29.500 --> 00:26:29.880
 men and

00:26:29.880 --> 00:26:30.240
 women are

00:26:30.240 --> 00:26:30.840
 different,

00:26:31.620 --> 00:26:32.080
 very

00:26:32.080 --> 00:26:32.580
 different.

00:26:33.740 --> 00:26:34.200
 And it's

00:26:34.200 --> 00:26:34.700
 the role of

00:26:34.700 --> 00:26:35.180
 the husband

00:26:35.180 --> 00:26:35.920
 to be

00:26:35.920 --> 00:26:37.720
 considerate.

00:26:37.840 --> 00:26:38.360
 That means

00:26:38.360 --> 00:26:39.120
 they are to

00:26:39.120 --> 00:26:41.380
 try and

00:26:41.380 --> 00:26:42.820
 understand our

00:26:42.820 --> 00:26:43.180
 wives.

00:26:43.300 --> 00:26:43.860
 We are to

00:26:43.860 --> 00:26:44.920
 know them,

00:26:45.660 --> 00:26:46.680
 really get to

00:26:46.680 --> 00:26:47.120
 know them,

00:26:47.420 --> 00:26:48.160
 to understand

00:26:48.160 --> 00:26:49.140
 them emotionally,

00:26:49.560 --> 00:26:49.980
 physically,

00:26:50.519 --> 00:26:51.040
 sexually,

00:26:51.320 --> 00:26:52.060
 so that we

00:26:52.060 --> 00:26:52.600
 can serve

00:26:52.600 --> 00:26:53.340
 their needs.

00:26:53.339 --> 00:26:56.000
 Some years

00:26:56.000 --> 00:26:56.240
 ago,

00:26:56.299 --> 00:26:56.939
 a film came

00:26:56.939 --> 00:26:57.459
 out called

00:26:57.459 --> 00:26:57.980
 What Women

00:26:57.980 --> 00:26:58.439
 Want.

00:26:58.899 --> 00:26:59.099
 I don't

00:26:59.099 --> 00:26:59.319
 know if

00:26:59.319 --> 00:26:59.919
 you've seen

00:26:59.919 --> 00:27:00.240
 it or

00:27:00.240 --> 00:27:00.679
 know it.

00:27:01.359 --> 00:27:02.059
 Nick Marshall

00:27:02.059 --> 00:27:02.480
 is the

00:27:02.480 --> 00:27:03.259
 character played

00:27:03.259 --> 00:27:04.139
 by Mel Gibson.

00:27:04.439 --> 00:27:05.000
 He has an

00:27:05.000 --> 00:27:05.339
 accident,

00:27:05.480 --> 00:27:05.859
 I think he

00:27:05.859 --> 00:27:06.399
 falls over

00:27:06.399 --> 00:27:06.639
 and he

00:27:06.639 --> 00:27:07.119
 bangs his

00:27:07.119 --> 00:27:07.379
 head,

00:27:07.839 --> 00:27:08.279
 and the

00:27:08.279 --> 00:27:08.779
 result of

00:27:08.779 --> 00:27:09.299
 the accident

00:27:09.299 --> 00:27:10.079
 is he

00:27:10.079 --> 00:27:10.480
 has the

00:27:10.480 --> 00:27:11.379
 ability to

00:27:11.379 --> 00:27:11.939
 hear what

00:27:11.939 --> 00:27:12.399
 women are

00:27:12.399 --> 00:27:12.799
 thinking.

00:27:13.699 --> 00:27:14.079
 It's quite

00:27:14.079 --> 00:27:14.439
 funny.

00:27:16.079 --> 00:27:16.799
 Apart from

00:27:16.799 --> 00:27:17.240
 being the

00:27:17.240 --> 00:27:18.000
 only man on

00:27:18.000 --> 00:27:18.519
 the planet

00:27:18.519 --> 00:27:18.939
 who can

00:27:18.939 --> 00:27:19.720
 understand a

00:27:19.720 --> 00:27:20.019
 woman,

00:27:20.019 --> 00:27:21.859
 he has

00:27:21.859 --> 00:27:22.359
 learned to

00:27:22.359 --> 00:27:22.879
 know what

00:27:22.879 --> 00:27:23.920
 they need.

00:27:25.160 --> 00:27:25.559
 And of

00:27:25.559 --> 00:27:25.879
 course,

00:27:26.079 --> 00:27:26.559
 the story

00:27:26.559 --> 00:27:27.000
 is he

00:27:27.000 --> 00:27:27.539
 wins over

00:27:27.539 --> 00:27:28.039
 the love

00:27:28.039 --> 00:27:28.920
 of his

00:27:28.920 --> 00:27:29.359
 life.

00:27:30.480 --> 00:27:30.720
 Well,

00:27:30.779 --> 00:27:31.319
 as husbands,

00:27:32.259 --> 00:27:32.720
 I'm not

00:27:32.720 --> 00:27:33.220
 saying go

00:27:33.220 --> 00:27:33.559
 and bang

00:27:33.559 --> 00:27:34.039
 your head

00:27:34.039 --> 00:27:34.379
 so you

00:27:34.379 --> 00:27:35.000
 can understand

00:27:35.000 --> 00:27:35.619
 your wife

00:27:35.619 --> 00:27:36.759
 or women,

00:27:37.099 --> 00:27:37.519
 but we

00:27:37.519 --> 00:27:37.920
 are to

00:27:37.920 --> 00:27:38.660
 consider

00:27:38.660 --> 00:27:39.879
 what our

00:27:39.879 --> 00:27:40.859
 wives need.

00:27:41.900 --> 00:27:42.440
 That's what

00:27:42.440 --> 00:27:42.879
 it is to

00:27:42.879 --> 00:27:43.259
 consider.

00:27:43.400 --> 00:27:43.720
 We're to

00:27:43.720 --> 00:27:44.500
 know them

00:27:44.500 --> 00:27:45.460
 intimately,

00:27:45.980 --> 00:27:46.440
 how they

00:27:46.440 --> 00:27:46.960
 tick,

00:27:47.220 --> 00:27:47.579
 how they

00:27:47.579 --> 00:27:48.079
 work.

00:27:48.720 --> 00:27:49.279
 Most of

00:27:49.279 --> 00:27:49.680
 the time

00:27:49.680 --> 00:27:49.920
 I

00:27:49.920 --> 00:27:50.559
 confess,

00:27:51.819 --> 00:27:52.399
 I spend

00:27:52.399 --> 00:27:52.920
 my time

00:27:52.920 --> 00:27:53.339
 trying to

00:27:53.339 --> 00:27:53.759
 communicate

00:27:53.759 --> 00:27:54.440
 what I

00:27:54.440 --> 00:27:54.940
 need.

00:27:56.119 --> 00:27:56.359
 How

00:27:56.359 --> 00:27:56.720
 Kirsty

00:27:56.720 --> 00:27:57.000
 should

00:27:57.000 --> 00:27:57.420
 serve

00:27:57.420 --> 00:27:57.859
 me.

00:27:58.559 --> 00:27:59.139
 But that's

00:27:59.139 --> 00:27:59.599
 selfish.

00:28:01.720 --> 00:28:02.539
 Rather than

00:28:02.539 --> 00:28:02.920
 win your

00:28:02.920 --> 00:28:03.740
 wife towards

00:28:03.740 --> 00:28:04.099
 Christ,

00:28:04.200 --> 00:28:04.460
 it will

00:28:04.460 --> 00:28:04.960
 push them

00:28:04.960 --> 00:28:05.660
 away from

00:28:05.660 --> 00:28:06.019
 Christ.

00:28:06.279 --> 00:28:06.779
 So we

00:28:06.779 --> 00:28:07.220
 need to

00:28:07.220 --> 00:28:07.559
 be as

00:28:07.559 --> 00:28:08.000
 husbands

00:28:08.000 --> 00:28:08.899
 asking

00:28:08.899 --> 00:28:09.619
 questions,

00:28:10.099 --> 00:28:10.460
 learning

00:28:10.460 --> 00:28:11.539
 the concerns,

00:28:11.720 --> 00:28:12.259
 the fears

00:28:12.259 --> 00:28:12.700
 that our

00:28:12.700 --> 00:28:13.240
 wives may

00:28:13.240 --> 00:28:13.539
 have,

00:28:13.799 --> 00:28:14.119
 and in

00:28:14.119 --> 00:28:14.660
 response

00:28:14.660 --> 00:28:15.359
 serving

00:28:15.359 --> 00:28:16.579
 their needs

00:28:16.579 --> 00:28:17.460
 emotionally,

00:28:18.539 --> 00:28:18.980
 physically,

00:28:19.279 --> 00:28:20.720
 and sexually.

00:28:22.079 --> 00:28:23.139
 So husbands,

00:28:24.259 --> 00:28:24.899
 first,

00:28:25.660 --> 00:28:26.740
 we can win

00:28:26.740 --> 00:28:27.359
 over our

00:28:27.359 --> 00:28:27.960
 unbelieving

00:28:27.960 --> 00:28:28.720
 wives by

00:28:28.720 --> 00:28:29.099
 being

00:28:29.099 --> 00:28:30.359
 considerate,

00:28:31.039 --> 00:28:31.740
 taking time

00:28:31.740 --> 00:28:32.899
 to understand

00:28:32.899 --> 00:28:34.240
 who they

00:28:34.240 --> 00:28:34.579
 are.

00:28:36.259 --> 00:28:36.899
 Second,

00:28:37.899 --> 00:28:39.119
 we are to

00:28:39.119 --> 00:28:40.019
 be respectful.

00:28:40.859 --> 00:28:41.440
 Let's read

00:28:41.440 --> 00:28:41.920
 verse 7

00:28:41.920 --> 00:28:42.160
 again.

00:28:42.240 --> 00:28:42.599
 Husbands,

00:28:42.740 --> 00:28:43.220
 in the same

00:28:43.220 --> 00:28:43.519
 way,

00:28:43.960 --> 00:28:44.839
 be considerate

00:28:44.839 --> 00:28:45.399
 as you live

00:28:45.399 --> 00:28:45.740
 with your

00:28:45.740 --> 00:28:46.160
 wives,

00:28:46.160 --> 00:28:47.779
 and treat

00:28:47.779 --> 00:28:48.519
 them with

00:28:48.519 --> 00:28:50.000
 respect.

00:28:51.700 --> 00:28:52.300
 Respectful

00:28:52.300 --> 00:28:52.759
 in two

00:28:52.759 --> 00:28:53.279
 ways.

00:28:55.180 --> 00:28:56.040
 Look again

00:28:56.040 --> 00:28:56.640
 at verse 7.

00:28:56.759 --> 00:28:57.200
 Treat them

00:28:57.200 --> 00:28:57.920
 with respect

00:28:57.920 --> 00:28:58.420
 first,

00:28:59.220 --> 00:28:59.980
 as the

00:28:59.980 --> 00:29:00.400
 weaker

00:29:00.400 --> 00:29:01.400
 partner.

00:29:02.779 --> 00:29:03.279
 Now again,

00:29:03.360 --> 00:29:03.759
 this isn't

00:29:03.759 --> 00:29:04.380
 saying that

00:29:04.380 --> 00:29:04.940
 women or

00:29:04.940 --> 00:29:05.620
 wives are

00:29:05.620 --> 00:29:06.480
 inferior.

00:29:07.540 --> 00:29:08.080
 No,

00:29:08.140 --> 00:29:08.480
 there's an

00:29:08.480 --> 00:29:09.140
 equality.

00:29:10.140 --> 00:29:10.740
 But what it

00:29:10.740 --> 00:29:11.259
 is saying

00:29:11.259 --> 00:29:11.940
 is simply

00:29:11.940 --> 00:29:12.380
 this,

00:29:12.380 --> 00:29:13.420
 that men,

00:29:14.220 --> 00:29:14.660
 generally

00:29:14.660 --> 00:29:15.260
 speaking,

00:29:15.400 --> 00:29:16.000
 and husbands,

00:29:16.280 --> 00:29:16.640
 generally

00:29:16.640 --> 00:29:17.140
 speaking,

00:29:17.320 --> 00:29:18.260
 are physically

00:29:18.260 --> 00:29:19.340
 stronger.

00:29:20.120 --> 00:29:20.620
 So if you're

00:29:20.620 --> 00:29:21.000
 to have an

00:29:21.000 --> 00:29:21.560
 arm wrestle

00:29:21.560 --> 00:29:21.980
 with your

00:29:21.980 --> 00:29:22.340
 wife,

00:29:22.740 --> 00:29:23.360
 husband will

00:29:23.360 --> 00:29:24.260
 probably win.

00:29:25.540 --> 00:29:26.720
 So husbands,

00:29:27.560 --> 00:29:28.140
 he's saying,

00:29:28.220 --> 00:29:28.780
 are not to

00:29:28.780 --> 00:29:29.260
 use their

00:29:29.260 --> 00:29:29.860
 physical

00:29:29.860 --> 00:29:31.480
 strength to

00:29:31.480 --> 00:29:32.420
 crush their

00:29:32.420 --> 00:29:32.820
 wife,

00:29:33.040 --> 00:29:33.660
 or to

00:29:33.660 --> 00:29:34.360
 threaten

00:29:34.360 --> 00:29:34.960
 their wife,

00:29:35.140 --> 00:29:35.600
 or to

00:29:35.600 --> 00:29:36.400
 abuse them,

00:29:36.560 --> 00:29:37.020
 or to

00:29:37.020 --> 00:29:38.080
 demand things

00:29:38.080 --> 00:29:38.520
 from their

00:29:38.520 --> 00:29:38.940
 wife.

00:29:39.880 --> 00:29:40.460
 They are

00:29:40.460 --> 00:29:41.140
 to use

00:29:41.140 --> 00:29:41.700
 their

00:29:41.700 --> 00:29:42.540
 God-given

00:29:42.540 --> 00:29:43.820
 strength to

00:29:43.820 --> 00:29:44.380
 care,

00:29:44.800 --> 00:29:45.300
 protect,

00:29:45.560 --> 00:29:46.420
 and provide.

00:29:47.660 --> 00:29:48.700
 Our homes

00:29:48.700 --> 00:29:49.100
 and our

00:29:49.100 --> 00:29:50.300
 families should

00:29:50.300 --> 00:29:50.960
 be a place

00:29:50.960 --> 00:29:51.420
 where our

00:29:51.420 --> 00:29:51.960
 wives and

00:29:51.960 --> 00:29:52.560
 our children

00:29:52.560 --> 00:29:54.440
 do not

00:29:54.440 --> 00:29:55.320
 fear coming

00:29:55.320 --> 00:29:55.780
 home,

00:29:56.720 --> 00:29:57.140
 where they

00:29:57.140 --> 00:29:57.640
 do not

00:29:57.640 --> 00:29:58.700
 fear speaking

00:29:58.700 --> 00:29:59.160
 to their

00:29:59.160 --> 00:29:59.480
 dad.

00:29:59.680 --> 00:30:00.040
 They do

00:30:00.040 --> 00:30:00.700
 not fear

00:30:00.700 --> 00:30:01.420
 speaking to

00:30:01.420 --> 00:30:01.980
 their husbands,

00:30:02.340 --> 00:30:02.920
 but instead

00:30:02.920 --> 00:30:04.200
 they long

00:30:04.200 --> 00:30:04.780
 to be at

00:30:04.780 --> 00:30:05.259
 home because

00:30:05.259 --> 00:30:05.800
 it is a

00:30:05.800 --> 00:30:06.360
 place of

00:30:06.360 --> 00:30:07.240
 protection

00:30:07.240 --> 00:30:08.360
 and safety.

00:30:08.640 --> 00:30:09.060
 It's a

00:30:09.060 --> 00:30:09.800
 place where

00:30:09.800 --> 00:30:11.120
 they flourish

00:30:11.119 --> 00:30:11.799
 in the

00:30:11.799 --> 00:30:12.459
 safety and

00:30:12.459 --> 00:30:13.699
 security that

00:30:13.699 --> 00:30:14.199
 the husband

00:30:14.199 --> 00:30:14.959
 provides.

00:30:17.239 --> 00:30:17.799
 John

00:30:17.799 --> 00:30:18.239
 Stott,

00:30:18.359 --> 00:30:18.939
 a Christian

00:30:18.939 --> 00:30:19.339
 author,

00:30:20.299 --> 00:30:21.219
 put it like

00:30:21.219 --> 00:30:21.739
 this very

00:30:21.739 --> 00:30:22.259
 well when

00:30:22.259 --> 00:30:23.079
 speaking about

00:30:23.079 --> 00:30:23.599
 wives.

00:30:25.079 --> 00:30:25.639
 He said

00:30:25.639 --> 00:30:25.939
 this,

00:30:26.039 --> 00:30:26.399
 they are

00:30:26.399 --> 00:30:27.019
 delicate

00:30:27.019 --> 00:30:27.839
 flowers

00:30:27.839 --> 00:30:29.719
 which are

00:30:29.719 --> 00:30:30.219
 easily

00:30:30.219 --> 00:30:30.899
 trodden

00:30:30.899 --> 00:30:32.099
 underfoot

00:30:32.099 --> 00:30:33.779
 and which

00:30:33.779 --> 00:30:34.399
 wither

00:30:34.399 --> 00:30:35.679
 and die

00:30:35.679 --> 00:30:37.179
 if the

00:30:37.179 --> 00:30:37.899
 climate is

00:30:37.899 --> 00:30:38.619
 unfriendly.

00:30:38.619 --> 00:30:40.619
 you know

00:30:40.619 --> 00:30:40.799
 that

00:30:40.799 --> 00:30:41.219
 husbands

00:30:41.219 --> 00:30:42.039
 that how

00:30:42.039 --> 00:30:42.879
 we talk,

00:30:44.239 --> 00:30:44.719
 how we

00:30:44.719 --> 00:30:45.179
 live,

00:30:45.299 --> 00:30:45.639
 how we

00:30:45.639 --> 00:30:46.279
 behave,

00:30:47.799 --> 00:30:48.739
 provides

00:30:48.739 --> 00:30:49.579
 the climate

00:30:49.579 --> 00:30:50.519
 of whether

00:30:50.519 --> 00:30:52.359
 it kills

00:30:52.359 --> 00:30:53.019
 our wives

00:30:53.019 --> 00:30:54.279
 or whether

00:30:54.279 --> 00:30:54.899
 it causes

00:30:54.899 --> 00:30:55.319
 them to

00:30:55.319 --> 00:30:55.959
 flourish

00:30:55.959 --> 00:30:57.559
 and grow.

00:30:58.679 --> 00:30:59.119
 They are

00:30:59.119 --> 00:30:59.479
 weaker

00:30:59.479 --> 00:31:00.399
 than you.

00:31:01.399 --> 00:31:02.079
 Use the

00:31:02.079 --> 00:31:02.859
 God-given

00:31:02.859 --> 00:31:03.699
 gift of the

00:31:03.699 --> 00:31:04.399
 strength that

00:31:04.399 --> 00:31:04.719
 he has

00:31:04.719 --> 00:31:05.759
 provided to

00:31:05.759 --> 00:31:06.559
 care so

00:31:06.559 --> 00:31:07.000
 that they

00:31:07.000 --> 00:31:07.960
 flourish

00:31:07.960 --> 00:31:09.659
 and become

00:31:09.659 --> 00:31:10.179
 the women

00:31:10.179 --> 00:31:11.220
 that God

00:31:11.220 --> 00:31:11.759
 calls them

00:31:11.759 --> 00:31:12.139
 to be.

00:31:13.619 --> 00:31:14.299
 So we

00:31:14.299 --> 00:31:14.599
 are to

00:31:14.599 --> 00:31:15.359
 respect them

00:31:15.359 --> 00:31:16.039
 because they

00:31:16.039 --> 00:31:16.539
 are weaker

00:31:16.539 --> 00:31:17.139
 than you

00:31:17.139 --> 00:31:18.659
 but second

00:31:18.659 --> 00:31:19.659
 because they

00:31:19.659 --> 00:31:20.879
 are heirs

00:31:20.879 --> 00:31:22.220
 with you.

00:31:23.679 --> 00:31:24.399
 Look at

00:31:24.399 --> 00:31:25.079
 verse 7.

00:31:26.759 --> 00:31:27.359
 I'll read

00:31:27.359 --> 00:31:27.940
 verse 7

00:31:27.940 --> 00:31:28.659
 from the start.

00:31:28.720 --> 00:31:29.099
 Husbands,

00:31:29.240 --> 00:31:29.679
 in the same

00:31:29.679 --> 00:31:29.879
 way,

00:31:29.940 --> 00:31:30.919
 be considerate

00:31:30.919 --> 00:31:32.119
 as you live

00:31:32.119 --> 00:31:32.440
 with your

00:31:32.440 --> 00:31:32.879
 wives.

00:31:33.879 --> 00:31:34.359
 Treat them

00:31:34.359 --> 00:31:35.119
 with respect

00:31:35.119 --> 00:31:35.919
 as the weaker

00:31:35.920 --> 00:31:37.539
 partner and

00:31:37.539 --> 00:31:39.519
 as heirs

00:31:39.519 --> 00:31:40.240
 with you

00:31:40.240 --> 00:31:40.779
 of the

00:31:40.779 --> 00:31:41.180
 gracious

00:31:41.180 --> 00:31:42.900
 gift of

00:31:42.900 --> 00:31:43.300
 life.

00:31:44.660 --> 00:31:45.300
 In other

00:31:45.300 --> 00:31:45.660
 words,

00:31:45.800 --> 00:31:46.180
 if your

00:31:46.180 --> 00:31:46.720
 wife is

00:31:46.720 --> 00:31:47.200
 not yet

00:31:47.200 --> 00:31:47.720
 a follower

00:31:47.720 --> 00:31:48.320
 of Jesus,

00:31:49.200 --> 00:31:49.880
 treat them,

00:31:50.340 --> 00:31:51.420
 respect them

00:31:51.420 --> 00:31:52.519
 as if they

00:31:52.519 --> 00:31:53.880
 were a

00:31:53.880 --> 00:31:54.440
 follower of

00:31:54.440 --> 00:31:54.740
 Jesus.

00:31:55.660 --> 00:31:56.140
 Now again,

00:31:56.259 --> 00:31:57.380
 I take this

00:31:57.380 --> 00:31:58.100
 to be talking

00:31:58.100 --> 00:31:58.700
 not just

00:31:58.700 --> 00:31:59.039
 that,

00:31:59.880 --> 00:32:00.080
 yes,

00:32:00.180 --> 00:32:00.640
 the wife

00:32:00.640 --> 00:32:01.100
 here could

00:32:01.100 --> 00:32:01.460
 be a

00:32:01.460 --> 00:32:01.720
 believer,

00:32:01.860 --> 00:32:02.259
 but I

00:32:02.259 --> 00:32:03.019
 think it's

00:32:03.019 --> 00:32:03.720
 also saying

00:32:03.720 --> 00:32:04.440
 that she

00:32:04.440 --> 00:32:05.060
 might not

00:32:05.060 --> 00:32:05.440
 be a

00:32:05.440 --> 00:32:05.779
 believer.

00:32:06.900 --> 00:32:07.640
 So treat

00:32:07.640 --> 00:32:08.000
 them as

00:32:08.000 --> 00:32:08.360
 if they

00:32:08.360 --> 00:32:09.380
 were a

00:32:09.380 --> 00:32:09.900
 follower of

00:32:09.900 --> 00:32:10.240
 Jesus.

00:32:10.559 --> 00:32:11.220
 Just as

00:32:11.220 --> 00:32:11.980
 Christ has

00:32:11.980 --> 00:32:12.600
 treated the

00:32:12.600 --> 00:32:13.340
 husband in

00:32:13.340 --> 00:32:13.740
 grace,

00:32:15.059 --> 00:32:15.840
 so the

00:32:15.840 --> 00:32:16.480
 husband is

00:32:16.480 --> 00:32:16.920
 to treat

00:32:16.920 --> 00:32:17.700
 the unbelieving

00:32:17.700 --> 00:32:19.000
 wife with

00:32:19.000 --> 00:32:19.720
 grace.

00:32:20.059 --> 00:32:20.640
 Just as

00:32:20.640 --> 00:32:21.200
 God has

00:32:21.200 --> 00:32:22.200
 pursued you,

00:32:22.660 --> 00:32:23.360
 loved you,

00:32:23.759 --> 00:32:24.580
 and did not

00:32:24.580 --> 00:32:25.320
 give up on

00:32:25.320 --> 00:32:25.600
 you,

00:32:25.980 --> 00:32:27.000
 pursue your

00:32:27.000 --> 00:32:27.440
 love,

00:32:27.759 --> 00:32:29.000
 pursue with

00:32:29.000 --> 00:32:30.100
 love your

00:32:30.100 --> 00:32:30.500
 wife,

00:32:30.500 --> 00:32:31.039
 no matter

00:32:31.039 --> 00:32:31.700
 how she

00:32:31.700 --> 00:32:32.500
 might respond.

00:32:32.500 --> 00:32:33.500
 love her.

00:32:33.500 --> 00:32:34.920
 So even if

00:32:34.920 --> 00:32:35.380
 your wife

00:32:35.380 --> 00:32:36.480
 rejects

00:32:36.480 --> 00:32:37.660
 Jesus talk,

00:32:38.460 --> 00:32:39.200
 even if

00:32:39.200 --> 00:32:39.839
 she's hostile

00:32:39.839 --> 00:32:40.440
 to your

00:32:40.440 --> 00:32:40.900
 faith,

00:32:42.039 --> 00:32:42.700
 the answer,

00:32:43.319 --> 00:32:44.220
 respond with

00:32:44.220 --> 00:32:44.680
 grace,

00:32:45.079 --> 00:32:46.539
 just as

00:32:46.539 --> 00:32:47.519
 God responded

00:32:47.519 --> 00:32:48.180
 in grace

00:32:48.180 --> 00:32:49.640
 towards us.

00:32:50.299 --> 00:32:51.119
 Love her

00:32:51.119 --> 00:32:52.700
 as God

00:32:52.700 --> 00:32:53.500
 loved you

00:32:53.500 --> 00:32:54.519
 and made

00:32:54.519 --> 00:32:55.500
 you his

00:32:55.500 --> 00:32:56.140
 heir.

00:32:56.339 --> 00:32:57.279
 If God

00:32:57.279 --> 00:32:58.160
 pursued you

00:32:58.160 --> 00:32:58.740
 and did not

00:32:58.740 --> 00:32:59.299
 give up on

00:32:59.299 --> 00:32:59.480
 you,

00:32:59.480 --> 00:33:00.319
 and made

00:33:00.319 --> 00:33:00.759
 you his

00:33:00.759 --> 00:33:01.299
 child,

00:33:02.880 --> 00:33:03.519
 so husbands

00:33:03.519 --> 00:33:04.279
 we have no

00:33:04.279 --> 00:33:05.680
 right to

00:33:05.680 --> 00:33:06.740
 give up on

00:33:06.740 --> 00:33:07.339
 our wives.

00:33:07.700 --> 00:33:08.420
 We pursue

00:33:08.420 --> 00:33:08.980
 them with

00:33:08.980 --> 00:33:10.660
 love so

00:33:10.660 --> 00:33:11.099
 that they

00:33:11.099 --> 00:33:11.860
 also will

00:33:11.860 --> 00:33:13.579
 share in

00:33:13.579 --> 00:33:14.420
 the heirs of

00:33:14.420 --> 00:33:14.940
 the gracious

00:33:14.940 --> 00:33:16.339
 gift of

00:33:16.339 --> 00:33:16.779
 life.

00:33:17.940 --> 00:33:18.960
 So husbands,

00:33:19.400 --> 00:33:20.920
 be considerate,

00:33:22.099 --> 00:33:23.460
 be respectful,

00:33:24.460 --> 00:33:25.900
 and it

00:33:25.900 --> 00:33:26.799
 may win

00:33:26.799 --> 00:33:27.539
 over your

00:33:27.539 --> 00:33:28.420
 unbelieving

00:33:28.420 --> 00:33:29.180
 wife.

00:33:29.480 --> 00:33:31.279
 And then

00:33:31.279 --> 00:33:31.700
 third,

00:33:32.740 --> 00:33:33.319
 husbands,

00:33:33.480 --> 00:33:34.259
 be disciplined.

00:33:35.940 --> 00:33:36.620
 We're to be

00:33:36.620 --> 00:33:37.480
 considerate and

00:33:37.480 --> 00:33:38.079
 respectful,

00:33:38.220 --> 00:33:38.559
 look at the

00:33:38.559 --> 00:33:39.140
 very end of

00:33:39.140 --> 00:33:39.680
 verse 7,

00:33:41.000 --> 00:33:41.900
 so that

00:33:41.900 --> 00:33:42.720
 nothing

00:33:42.720 --> 00:33:44.680
 will hinder

00:33:44.680 --> 00:33:46.500
 your prayers.

00:33:48.120 --> 00:33:49.140
 As husbands,

00:33:49.360 --> 00:33:50.180
 we should be

00:33:50.180 --> 00:33:50.920
 praying for

00:33:50.920 --> 00:33:51.920
 our wives.

00:33:53.200 --> 00:33:53.700
 Husbands

00:33:53.700 --> 00:33:54.140
 should be

00:33:54.140 --> 00:33:54.599
 praying for

00:33:54.599 --> 00:33:55.620
 their unbelieving

00:33:55.620 --> 00:33:56.839
 wife to

00:33:56.839 --> 00:33:58.200
 become a

00:33:58.200 --> 00:33:58.759
 follower of

00:33:58.759 --> 00:33:59.059
 Jesus.

00:33:59.480 --> 00:34:00.059
 God

00:34:00.059 --> 00:34:00.779
 will

00:34:00.779 --> 00:34:01.480
 be

00:34:01.480 --> 00:34:02.059
 God

00:34:02.059 --> 00:34:03.120
 can.

00:34:03.120 --> 00:34:03.860
 God

00:34:03.860 --> 00:34:04.259
 can.

00:34:04.339 --> 00:34:04.740
 And that's

00:34:04.740 --> 00:34:05.259
 simply what

00:34:05.259 --> 00:34:05.700
 we're saying

00:34:05.700 --> 00:34:06.279
 through prayer.

00:34:07.120 --> 00:34:07.500
 We're saying,

00:34:07.579 --> 00:34:07.819
 God,

00:34:08.139 --> 00:34:09.059
 you open the

00:34:09.059 --> 00:34:09.820
 eyes of the

00:34:09.820 --> 00:34:10.440
 wife of my

00:34:10.440 --> 00:34:10.659
 heart.

00:34:11.000 --> 00:34:11.820
 You open

00:34:11.820 --> 00:34:12.780
 their eyes

00:34:12.780 --> 00:34:13.340
 so that they

00:34:13.340 --> 00:34:13.800
 see the

00:34:13.800 --> 00:34:14.159
 need of

00:34:14.159 --> 00:34:14.480
 Jesus.

00:34:14.480 --> 00:34:15.179
 God

00:34:15.179 --> 00:34:16.099
 can't

00:34:16.099 --> 00:34:18.760
 hear it.

00:34:18.760 --> 00:34:20.099
 But what

00:34:20.099 --> 00:34:20.719
 good is our

00:34:20.719 --> 00:34:21.639
 prayer life

00:34:21.639 --> 00:34:23.340
 if we are

00:34:23.340 --> 00:34:24.039
 not living a

00:34:24.039 --> 00:34:24.679
 good life?

00:34:26.059 --> 00:34:27.119
 It may be that

00:34:27.119 --> 00:34:27.780
 we want our

00:34:27.780 --> 00:34:28.380
 wives to

00:34:28.380 --> 00:34:29.460
 become more

00:34:29.460 --> 00:34:30.139
 like Christ

00:34:30.139 --> 00:34:30.920
 or to come

00:34:30.920 --> 00:34:31.699
 to Christ,

00:34:31.960 --> 00:34:32.719
 but sadly,

00:34:32.960 --> 00:34:33.740
 our own lives

00:34:33.740 --> 00:34:34.280
 look nothing

00:34:34.280 --> 00:34:35.139
 like Christ.

00:34:35.719 --> 00:34:36.440
 Our behavior

00:34:36.440 --> 00:34:37.000
 can,

00:34:37.119 --> 00:34:37.740
 look at the

00:34:37.740 --> 00:34:37.980
 end of

00:34:37.980 --> 00:34:38.420
 verse 7,

00:34:38.699 --> 00:34:39.199
 it can

00:34:39.199 --> 00:34:39.740
 hinder

00:34:39.739 --> 00:34:41.759
 our prayers.

00:34:43.159 --> 00:34:45.559
 The very thing that we want to happen

00:34:45.559 --> 00:34:47.059
 as we pray for our wives

00:34:47.059 --> 00:34:48.519
 doesn't happen

00:34:48.519 --> 00:34:50.659
 because of the way in which we're living.

00:34:54.839 --> 00:34:57.859
 Yes, husbands must be disciplined in prayer.

00:34:59.179 --> 00:35:01.479
 But we must also be disciplined

00:35:01.479 --> 00:35:03.259
 in how we behave.

00:35:05.899 --> 00:35:07.859
 Maybe you think as a husband here

00:35:07.859 --> 00:35:09.419
 whether your wife is believing or not

00:35:09.420 --> 00:35:09.940
 you're thinking

00:35:09.940 --> 00:35:11.760
 I wish my wife was different

00:35:11.760 --> 00:35:14.400
 and you talk to God about it.

00:35:16.159 --> 00:35:19.940
 But does our life match what we pray?

00:35:24.000 --> 00:35:25.380
 Before we move on

00:35:25.380 --> 00:35:27.900
 as we said to young women

00:35:27.900 --> 00:35:29.019
 who are not yet married

00:35:29.019 --> 00:35:30.760
 and who may one day be married

00:35:30.760 --> 00:35:32.000
 husbands

00:35:32.000 --> 00:35:35.960
 or those who seek to be husbands

00:35:35.960 --> 00:35:37.880
 and would long to be married one day

00:35:37.880 --> 00:35:40.140
 these are the values

00:35:40.140 --> 00:35:43.000
 these are the kinds of things

00:35:43.000 --> 00:35:45.519
 that you should be cultivating in your life

00:35:45.519 --> 00:35:46.519
 and young women

00:35:46.519 --> 00:35:47.900
 these are the things

00:35:47.900 --> 00:35:49.240
 that you should be looking for

00:35:49.240 --> 00:35:50.720
 in a future husband.

00:35:50.900 --> 00:35:52.220
 One who is considerate

00:35:52.219 --> 00:35:52.779
 considerate

00:35:52.779 --> 00:35:54.219
 respectful

00:35:54.219 --> 00:35:57.199
 it doesn't matter if they have

00:35:57.199 --> 00:35:59.439
 a six pack

00:35:59.439 --> 00:36:01.539
 doesn't matter if they're successful

00:36:01.539 --> 00:36:03.419
 and have a great career

00:36:03.419 --> 00:36:06.659
 but are they considerate

00:36:06.659 --> 00:36:08.219
 are they respectful

00:36:08.799 --> 00:36:10.699
 are they disciplined

00:36:10.699 --> 00:36:13.759
 will they cultivate

00:36:13.759 --> 00:36:15.379
 a life in which

00:36:15.379 --> 00:36:16.759
 you will flourish

00:36:16.759 --> 00:36:17.460
 and grow

00:36:17.460 --> 00:36:18.559
 and become the person

00:36:18.559 --> 00:36:19.879
 God called you to be.

00:36:22.960 --> 00:36:23.960
 So husbands

00:36:23.960 --> 00:36:26.279
 we can win over

00:36:26.279 --> 00:36:27.759
 our unbelieving wives

00:36:27.759 --> 00:36:29.699
 by being disciplined.

00:36:32.099 --> 00:36:33.079
 As we finish

00:36:33.079 --> 00:36:34.399
 let me read this quote

00:36:34.399 --> 00:36:36.559
 from a book entitled

00:36:36.559 --> 00:36:37.299
 Married

00:36:37.300 --> 00:36:38.680
 for God.

00:36:39.560 --> 00:36:41.300
 It shows us that

00:36:41.300 --> 00:36:42.880
 the relationship

00:36:42.880 --> 00:36:44.500
 between husband and wife

00:36:44.500 --> 00:36:45.700
 is

00:36:45.700 --> 00:36:47.640
 something that can

00:36:47.640 --> 00:36:48.260
 win

00:36:48.260 --> 00:36:49.580
 unbelievers over

00:36:49.580 --> 00:36:50.900
 for Christ.

00:36:51.940 --> 00:36:53.160
 Listen to this quote

00:36:53.160 --> 00:36:55.740
 I like to think

00:36:55.740 --> 00:36:56.840
 that men and women

00:36:56.840 --> 00:36:58.980
 may say to themselves

00:36:58.980 --> 00:36:59.760
 as they watch

00:36:59.760 --> 00:37:00.840
 a Christian husband

00:37:00.840 --> 00:37:02.120
 or a Christian wife

00:37:02.120 --> 00:37:04.620
 I've never seen God.

00:37:05.760 --> 00:37:07.180
 Sometimes I wonder

00:37:07.179 --> 00:37:08.759
 when I look at the world

00:37:08.759 --> 00:37:09.859
 if God is good

00:37:09.859 --> 00:37:11.419
 or if there is a God

00:37:11.419 --> 00:37:13.739
 but

00:37:13.739 --> 00:37:15.799
 if he can make

00:37:15.799 --> 00:37:16.659
 a man and woman

00:37:16.659 --> 00:37:17.679
 love one another

00:37:17.679 --> 00:37:18.399
 like this

00:37:18.399 --> 00:37:20.219
 if he can make

00:37:20.219 --> 00:37:21.019
 this husband

00:37:21.019 --> 00:37:22.619
 show costly

00:37:22.619 --> 00:37:23.539
 faithfulness

00:37:23.539 --> 00:37:24.379
 through sickness

00:37:24.379 --> 00:37:25.899
 as well as health

00:37:25.899 --> 00:37:27.719
 if he can give him

00:37:27.719 --> 00:37:28.239
 resources

00:37:28.239 --> 00:37:29.679
 to love his wife

00:37:29.679 --> 00:37:30.699
 when frankly

00:37:30.699 --> 00:37:31.480
 there is nothing

00:37:31.480 --> 00:37:32.699
 in it for him

00:37:32.699 --> 00:37:35.319
 well then he must be

00:37:35.319 --> 00:37:36.579
 a good God.

00:37:37.179 --> 00:37:38.759
 and if he can give

00:37:38.759 --> 00:37:39.940
 his wife grace

00:37:39.940 --> 00:37:40.739
 to submit

00:37:40.739 --> 00:37:41.739
 so beautifully

00:37:41.739 --> 00:37:43.519
 with such an

00:37:43.519 --> 00:37:44.059
 attractive

00:37:44.059 --> 00:37:45.259
 gentle spirit

00:37:45.259 --> 00:37:46.639
 under terrible

00:37:46.639 --> 00:37:47.199
 trials

00:37:47.199 --> 00:37:49.639
 then again

00:37:49.639 --> 00:37:50.559
 he must be

00:37:50.559 --> 00:37:51.759
 a good

00:37:51.759 --> 00:37:52.859
 God.

00:37:52.860 --> 00:37:57.519
 you see

00:37:57.519 --> 00:37:58.400
 how we live

00:37:58.400 --> 00:37:59.380
 our behaviour

00:37:59.380 --> 00:38:01.500
 our good lives

00:38:01.500 --> 00:38:03.539
 can attract

00:38:03.539 --> 00:38:04.180
 people

00:38:04.180 --> 00:38:05.140
 to Christ

00:38:05.140 --> 00:38:06.519
 so that they

00:38:06.519 --> 00:38:07.140
 will want to

00:38:07.140 --> 00:38:07.640
 hear

00:38:07.640 --> 00:38:08.740
 the truth

00:38:08.740 --> 00:38:10.160
 about Christ

00:38:10.160 --> 00:38:11.760
 so if you

00:38:11.760 --> 00:38:12.440
 are a believer

00:38:12.440 --> 00:38:13.300
 here today

00:38:13.300 --> 00:38:14.539
 and whatever

00:38:14.539 --> 00:38:15.480
 context

00:38:15.480 --> 00:38:16.160
 your family

00:38:16.160 --> 00:38:16.820
 relationships

00:38:16.820 --> 00:38:17.460
 may be

00:38:17.460 --> 00:38:18.300
 if you are

00:38:18.300 --> 00:38:18.740
 the only

00:38:18.740 --> 00:38:19.200
 Christian

00:38:19.200 --> 00:38:19.880
 in your family

00:38:19.880 --> 00:38:20.559
 your parents

00:38:20.559 --> 00:38:21.059
 aren't yet

00:38:21.059 --> 00:38:21.519
 Christians

00:38:21.519 --> 00:38:22.380
 your husband

00:38:22.380 --> 00:38:23.139
 or your wife

00:38:23.139 --> 00:38:23.960
 isn't a Christian

00:38:23.960 --> 00:38:25.079
 your children

00:38:25.079 --> 00:38:25.960
 aren't Christians

00:38:25.960 --> 00:38:27.920
 it may be a place

00:38:27.920 --> 00:38:28.460
 where they don't

00:38:28.460 --> 00:38:29.039
 want to hear

00:38:29.039 --> 00:38:29.800
 about Jesus

00:38:29.800 --> 00:38:30.579
 they don't want

00:38:30.579 --> 00:38:31.179
 to talk

00:38:31.179 --> 00:38:31.920
 about Jesus

00:38:31.920 --> 00:38:34.340
 but when they

00:38:34.340 --> 00:38:35.259
 see the beauty

00:38:35.259 --> 00:38:36.139
 of your life

00:38:36.139 --> 00:38:38.119
 the faithfulness

00:38:38.119 --> 00:38:38.820
 of your life

00:38:38.820 --> 00:38:41.000
 they will be

00:38:41.000 --> 00:38:41.599
 won over

00:38:41.599 --> 00:38:42.820
 by your good deeds

00:38:42.820 --> 00:38:44.400
 their hearts

00:38:44.400 --> 00:38:45.739
 will be softened

00:38:45.739 --> 00:38:48.259
 the hardness

00:38:48.259 --> 00:38:49.479
 will be

00:38:49.479 --> 00:38:50.339
 broken away

00:38:50.339 --> 00:38:51.799
 and they

00:38:51.799 --> 00:38:52.119
 will be

00:38:52.119 --> 00:38:52.639
 attracted

00:38:52.639 --> 00:38:54.219
 to Christ

00:38:54.219 --> 00:38:56.319
 may God

00:38:56.319 --> 00:38:57.059
 in his grace

00:38:57.059 --> 00:38:58.099
 give to us

00:38:58.099 --> 00:38:58.559
 all that

00:38:58.559 --> 00:38:59.339
 inner beauty

00:38:59.339 --> 00:39:01.019
 and that

00:39:01.019 --> 00:39:02.019
 faithful living

00:39:02.019 --> 00:39:04.179
 so that we

00:39:04.179 --> 00:39:04.799
 win others

00:39:04.799 --> 00:39:05.139
 over

00:39:05.139 --> 00:39:06.319
 for the Lord

00:39:06.319 --> 00:39:06.679
 Jesus

00:39:06.679 --> 00:39:07.619
 let's pray

00:39:07.619 --> 00:39:08.759
 that that

00:39:08.759 --> 00:39:09.479
 might happen

00:39:09.479 --> 00:39:10.679
 let's do

00:39:10.679 --> 00:39:11.219
 that now

00:39:11.219 --> 00:39:20.739
 where we are

00:39:20.739 --> 00:39:21.939
 in our seats

00:39:21.939 --> 00:39:23.079
 in the quietness

00:39:23.079 --> 00:39:26.659
 pray for

00:39:26.659 --> 00:39:29.000
 the person

00:39:29.000 --> 00:39:29.500
 who

00:39:29.500 --> 00:39:30.739
 you love

00:39:30.739 --> 00:39:31.839
 within your family

00:39:31.839 --> 00:39:32.819
 who is not yet

00:39:32.819 --> 00:39:33.939
 a believer

00:39:33.939 --> 00:39:34.480
 it could be

00:39:34.480 --> 00:39:34.980
 wider

00:39:34.980 --> 00:39:36.599
 a relative

00:39:36.599 --> 00:39:38.639
 parent

00:39:38.639 --> 00:39:39.819
 wife

00:39:39.820 --> 00:39:40.480
 or husband

00:39:40.480 --> 00:39:46.300
 pray that

00:39:46.300 --> 00:39:46.600
 God

00:39:46.600 --> 00:39:47.300
 will give you

00:39:47.300 --> 00:39:48.080
 an inner

00:39:48.080 --> 00:39:48.539
 beauty

00:39:48.539 --> 00:39:53.320
 so that

00:39:53.320 --> 00:39:54.100
 you reflect

00:39:54.100 --> 00:39:55.200
 the beauty

00:39:55.200 --> 00:39:55.960
 of Christ

00:39:55.960 --> 00:40:00.100
 pray that

00:40:00.100 --> 00:40:00.660
 you will have

00:40:00.660 --> 00:40:01.820
 that faithful

00:40:01.820 --> 00:40:04.600
 strength

00:40:04.600 --> 00:40:06.860
 that they

00:40:06.860 --> 00:40:07.539
 will see

00:40:07.539 --> 00:40:08.660
 the faithfulness

00:40:08.660 --> 00:40:09.320
 of Christ

00:40:09.320 --> 00:40:12.080
 his serving

00:40:12.080 --> 00:40:13.059
 and sacrificial

00:40:13.059 --> 00:40:13.600
 life

00:40:13.600 --> 00:40:19.820
 father we

00:40:19.820 --> 00:40:20.320
 recognize

00:40:20.320 --> 00:40:20.920
 that our

00:40:20.920 --> 00:40:21.500
 relationships

00:40:21.500 --> 00:40:22.220
 at times

00:40:22.220 --> 00:40:23.260
 can be hard

00:40:23.260 --> 00:40:23.960
 and difficult

00:40:23.960 --> 00:40:26.019
 it can be

00:40:26.019 --> 00:40:26.660
 hard to be

00:40:26.660 --> 00:40:27.220
 a Christian

00:40:27.220 --> 00:40:29.620
 in the

00:40:29.620 --> 00:40:30.080
 context

00:40:30.080 --> 00:40:30.700
 where others

00:40:30.700 --> 00:40:31.200
 are not

00:40:31.200 --> 00:40:33.880
 father give

00:40:33.880 --> 00:40:34.180
 us the

00:40:34.180 --> 00:40:34.740
 grace that

00:40:34.740 --> 00:40:35.300
 we need

00:40:35.300 --> 00:40:37.400
 to live

00:40:37.400 --> 00:40:38.060
 beautiful

00:40:38.060 --> 00:40:38.860
 and faithful

00:40:38.860 --> 00:40:39.460
 lives

00:40:39.460 --> 00:40:41.140
 and would

00:40:41.140 --> 00:40:41.700
 you please

00:40:41.700 --> 00:40:42.460
 use us

00:40:42.460 --> 00:40:44.100
 to win

00:40:44.100 --> 00:40:44.960
 others over

00:40:44.960 --> 00:40:45.980
 for the

00:40:45.980 --> 00:40:46.580
 Lord Jesus

00:40:46.580 --> 00:40:48.680
 and may we

00:40:48.680 --> 00:40:49.240
 together

00:40:49.240 --> 00:40:50.460
 as a church

00:40:50.460 --> 00:40:51.539
 family support

00:40:51.539 --> 00:40:53.440
 and encourage

00:40:53.440 --> 00:40:54.000
 one another

00:40:54.000 --> 00:40:54.320
 well

00:40:54.320 --> 00:40:56.340
 as we seek

00:40:56.340 --> 00:40:56.860
 to live

00:40:56.860 --> 00:40:58.120
 for you

00:40:58.119 --> 00:41:01.119
 we ask

00:41:01.119 --> 00:41:01.480
 this in

00:41:01.480 --> 00:41:02.199
 Jesus name

00:41:02.199 --> 00:41:04.119
 amen

00:41:04.119 --> 00:41:09.339
 we're going

00:41:09.339 --> 00:41:09.799
 to sing

00:41:10.440 --> 00:41:10.840
 to sing

00:41:10.840 --> 00:41:12.280
 us

00:41:16.280 --> 00:41:17.380
 to be

00:41:17.380 --> 00:41:17.440
 spread

00:41:17.440 --> 00:41:18.180
 in

00:41:18.180 --> 00:41:18.340
 those

00:41:18.340 --> 00:41:19.039
 as

00:41:19.039 --> 00:41:19.400
 you

00:41:19.400 --> 00:41:19.800
 we

00:41:19.800 --> 00:41:20.220
 to go

00:41:20.220 --> 00:41:20.340
 to

00:41:20.340 --> 00:41:20.500
 his