WEBVTT

00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:14.120
 As previously mentioned, this is a bit of an abnormal Sunday morning in that we actually won't spend much time in Ephesians chapter 6 or any other particular text.

00:00:14.120 --> 00:00:16.120
!

00:00:30.000 --> 00:00:46.179
 So, we're going to talk about how it is that God intends for children to be trained, and we're having to apply our thoughts for our culture and draw out then how it is we should best do this thing.

00:00:46.179 --> 00:01:01.159
 So, we'll look, and we'll look at some of the clear commands to parents to train up their children, the fear and admonition of the Lord, and then we'll talk about how and the why of what we're doing here.

00:01:01.780 --> 00:01:13.299
 I'd fit this sermon into a category of sermons that we kind of do periodically, why we do what we do and why we do what we do the way we do what we do, which sounds funny to hear.

00:01:13.299 --> 00:01:23.859
 It's even funnier to type it out, so if you ever are at your computer and you need a laugh, type that sentence, why we do what we do and why we do what we do the way we do what we do.

00:01:24.700 --> 00:01:40.599
 And I think it's timely. There's just times we need to stop and pause and think together about how it is that we arrange ourselves as a church, work within the gray areas of the commands of God for church,

00:01:40.599 --> 00:01:47.939
 put some clear boundaries on what we should do together as a church, but then how do we carry all of it out together.

00:01:49.179 --> 00:01:58.079
 Certainly, our fellowship is odd in a lot of ways, and there are going to be guests amongst us who will come and go, what in the world?

00:01:58.079 --> 00:02:11.780
 And at very least, we need to have these kinds of conversations so that you can say, well, let me explain to you why we do what we do and why we do what we do the way we do what we do.

00:02:11.780 --> 00:02:26.920
 You need to be able, for the sake of guests or those that you might invite to prime them so you become part of the messaging of our church.

00:02:28.039 --> 00:02:35.780
 We also find that some parents in our church may need some help in the process of training children,

00:02:35.780 --> 00:02:43.340
 children, and it certainly could be helpful to have convictions renewed, to again remember the why of it.

00:02:43.460 --> 00:02:50.360
 Oh yeah, it's so good, the why, which fuels us to work on the how of it.

00:02:51.500 --> 00:02:57.599
 Some may need just some practical help, just some things that have been learned across the years

00:02:57.599 --> 00:03:03.520
 as a congregation of having children meet with us in our services together.

00:03:03.520 --> 00:03:13.740
 And I think that some of the non-parents in the room, so I think this time together shouldn't be lost on those without children.

00:03:14.680 --> 00:03:18.520
 It's not just necessarily for you thinking about having children someday,

00:03:19.620 --> 00:03:29.260
 but that you would consider how it is you ought to participate as we work together as a people to raise children.

00:03:29.259 --> 00:03:35.879
 God has saved people, not just you.

00:03:36.819 --> 00:03:41.060
 Certainly I hope that's true of you, that He has in fact saved you.

00:03:41.419 --> 00:03:49.680
 But more than that, the higher thought is that as Jesus hung on the cross and received the wrath of God,

00:03:50.219 --> 00:03:54.259
 He was receiving the wrath of God for the sins of the church.

00:03:54.259 --> 00:03:58.479
 He called out a people for His possession.

00:03:58.840 --> 00:04:06.379
 And therefore, when we come together with the church, we shouldn't be only thinking about our interests.

00:04:06.620 --> 00:04:13.259
 We should be looking instead to the interests of others and considering how it is that we can serve others,

00:04:14.319 --> 00:04:18.120
 preferring them over ourselves.

00:04:18.120 --> 00:04:24.800
 And so there's things I think this morning that need to be said that are going to be beneficial for all of us

00:04:24.800 --> 00:04:30.379
 as we work together to be an intergenerational church.

00:04:30.660 --> 00:04:35.360
 And let me explain why that word, what a word it is.

00:04:36.699 --> 00:04:41.319
 Very often our church gets framed as a family-integrated church.

00:04:41.319 --> 00:04:47.560
 And I shy away from that term, and I hear many of you still use the term family-integrated,

00:04:47.659 --> 00:04:50.899
 which very often simply means kids are in the service.

00:04:51.019 --> 00:04:53.379
 And that's usually how you're using it when you do that.

00:04:53.659 --> 00:05:00.039
 However, I prefer that we not use that term because of what often gets connected with that.

00:05:01.139 --> 00:05:07.779
 In fact, there are many who would suggest that if you do not have children in your main gathering with you,

00:05:07.779 --> 00:05:13.119
 that you're in sin, the church is not doing church as God intended the church to be done.

00:05:13.439 --> 00:05:17.199
 And I will tell you right now that we don't hold that view.

00:05:17.759 --> 00:05:23.119
 We're not looking down our noses at every other church in our area that may have something provided for children

00:05:23.119 --> 00:05:26.979
 during the main gathering and saying, not a biblical church.

00:05:27.279 --> 00:05:28.479
 We're not doing that.

00:05:29.339 --> 00:05:34.379
 And some that would call themselves family-integrated, not all, but some do in fact do that.

00:05:34.379 --> 00:05:37.540
 And so I think that's a thing we want to be careful of.

00:05:38.079 --> 00:05:43.439
 We have had guests, families, guests here that feel that way after leaving.

00:05:43.620 --> 00:05:48.540
 They say, we can't do this thing, and we don't appreciate that you're telling us we're wrong to go to any other church.

00:05:48.579 --> 00:05:50.019
 And I go, we didn't say that.

00:05:51.240 --> 00:05:55.639
 Well, some of you have, in essence, said that to these families.

00:05:55.719 --> 00:05:58.980
 So we want to be really, really clear about that, right?

00:05:59.259 --> 00:06:04.040
 We are trying to apply biblical wisdom in the way we meet.

00:06:04.040 --> 00:06:11.600
 You'll hear me say often, this seems like the best thing right now to help us follow the commands of God.

00:06:12.060 --> 00:06:16.120
 I don't think it's the only way to accomplish this.

00:06:16.879 --> 00:06:22.780
 I also decided not to use the term multi-generational, and many of you might think that'd be an easier word to use.

00:06:22.779 --> 00:06:33.879
 But as I think about educational disciplines, when you bring together multiple disciplines to accomplish a goal,

00:06:34.000 --> 00:06:37.679
 this is often called multidisciplinary work.

00:06:38.299 --> 00:06:43.119
 But each person has their own expertise, and they come and they offer their expertise to solve a solution.

00:06:43.120 --> 00:06:48.120
 Intergenerational communicates something a little bit different.

00:06:48.939 --> 00:06:53.439
 Interdisciplinary work means that certainly some people may have an expertise,

00:06:53.680 --> 00:06:58.840
 but they come together and they learn each other's expertises in order to solve a problem.

00:06:58.939 --> 00:07:03.160
 It has a much more together feel to it.

00:07:03.160 --> 00:07:07.380
 And so, we are a faith family.

00:07:08.080 --> 00:07:13.180
 We're meant to be working to that kind of degree of relationship, right?

00:07:13.180 --> 00:07:19.200
 That we pick up and bear each other's burdens and offer support and help in that way,

00:07:19.300 --> 00:07:24.600
 which is why I prefer the term intergenerational.

00:07:24.600 --> 00:07:29.340
 And so, as we talk about being an intergenerational church,

00:07:29.780 --> 00:07:33.280
 it doesn't just mean that kids are in the service with us.

00:07:33.560 --> 00:07:39.660
 It means that we're a gathering of believers that love and care for all generations, right?

00:07:39.760 --> 00:07:42.860
 Titus chapter 2 ministry, right?

00:07:43.080 --> 00:07:47.840
 Older men and older women ministering to younger men and younger women.

00:07:48.300 --> 00:07:54.100
 Because we believe that all generations add to the vitality of the church, right?

00:07:54.100 --> 00:07:59.600
 That we need one another in walking out the Christian faith.

00:08:00.740 --> 00:08:07.080
 You have heard me say, and maybe I'm unintentionally becoming known for saying,

00:08:07.160 --> 00:08:10.820
 if you always hang out with your idiot friends, you'll always be an idiot.

00:08:11.800 --> 00:08:14.040
 And I don't mean to insult your friends, right?

00:08:14.060 --> 00:08:17.800
 But if you find yourself in a demographic box,

00:08:18.280 --> 00:08:23.600
 you don't get the shared experience of people outside of that particular demographic.

00:08:24.100 --> 00:08:26.980
 And so, we need one another, right?

00:08:27.240 --> 00:08:31.960
 I need parents who have gone before me as an example, right?

00:08:32.019 --> 00:08:35.360
 Both the lessons that they learned in how not to do things,

00:08:35.480 --> 00:08:38.120
 as well as how to do things.

00:08:38.200 --> 00:08:41.700
 I need people I can ask questions of.

00:08:41.700 --> 00:08:47.400
 I need the zeal of young people in our church, right?

00:08:47.400 --> 00:08:49.560
 It is very easy for me to get comfortable.

00:08:50.160 --> 00:08:57.080
 Man, I love having a bunch of young people who are ready to go take on the world with the gospel of Jesus Christ.

00:08:57.220 --> 00:09:00.480
 I need to be spurred on in that way.

00:09:00.480 --> 00:09:07.860
 These are just some examples of how it is we come together as an intergenerational church,

00:09:07.940 --> 00:09:12.460
 seeking to honor God with all that we do together.

00:09:13.320 --> 00:09:19.659
 One aspect of that, one aspect, and it seems to be a prominent aspect,

00:09:19.659 --> 00:09:24.659
 it's certainly the most contested application of that thinking,

00:09:25.480 --> 00:09:33.980
 is that we encourage congregants to bring their children to sit with us in the congregational gathering.

00:09:34.539 --> 00:09:37.120
 This is certainly not without its pains, right?

00:09:37.159 --> 00:09:39.179
 We do have our moments, don't we?

00:09:39.819 --> 00:09:41.939
 I've said to you before, of all people,

00:09:41.940 --> 00:09:44.380
 I'm preaching and trying to keep a train of thought,

00:09:44.980 --> 00:09:49.080
 that when there's the outburst, I'm with you in that.

00:09:49.320 --> 00:09:51.940
 We push through and we press on.

00:09:52.720 --> 00:09:58.500
 And we do so because there's something that undergirds this type of thinking.

00:09:59.180 --> 00:10:03.320
 There's a reason that we are gathering together in this way.

00:10:03.960 --> 00:10:08.940
 Let me again say, we do not assert that it is wrong to age segregate.

00:10:08.940 --> 00:10:12.540
 We have, I talked about it earlier this morning,

00:10:12.840 --> 00:10:15.580
 a time on Sunday evenings where we're going to do that very thing.

00:10:15.660 --> 00:10:17.060
 We're going to have some stuff for kids,

00:10:17.160 --> 00:10:19.260
 and we're going to have some stuff for adults.

00:10:19.400 --> 00:10:22.540
 Certainly there's times where it's good for us to gender segregate,

00:10:22.600 --> 00:10:26.140
 let the women get together and talk about things that guys don't want to hear about,

00:10:26.360 --> 00:10:29.260
 and vice versa for the ladies.

00:10:29.440 --> 00:10:31.280
 There are moments for this.

00:10:31.580 --> 00:10:34.640
 And certainly a church can.

00:10:35.120 --> 00:10:36.040
 I think it's possible.

00:10:36.040 --> 00:10:38.100
 I just think it's difficult in our age.

00:10:38.940 --> 00:10:43.980
 Have programs provided for children and still encourage and support

00:10:43.980 --> 00:10:48.760
 and find parents living out their God-given responsibility

00:10:48.760 --> 00:10:51.900
 to train up their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord.

00:10:51.960 --> 00:10:53.500
 I do think this is possible.

00:10:54.060 --> 00:10:57.800
 We just see that we live in a culture that's so highly specialized

00:10:57.800 --> 00:11:00.360
 that parents are so quick,

00:11:00.800 --> 00:11:03.320
 so ready to give away their responsibilities

00:11:03.320 --> 00:11:06.260
 to the quote-unquote professionals.

00:11:06.260 --> 00:11:10.440
 So often with schools, with coaches.

00:11:10.720 --> 00:11:13.580
 And we see this very thing happen in the church as well.

00:11:14.180 --> 00:11:18.379
 We, without intention, often in our culture,

00:11:18.860 --> 00:11:21.600
 reduce parents to merely being chauffeurs,

00:11:21.860 --> 00:11:24.780
 just getting kids to the place that they're meant to be,

00:11:25.460 --> 00:11:28.400
 where the highly trained professional can help them.

00:11:28.399 --> 00:11:31.059
 And the Bible doesn't speak in these terms, beloved.

00:11:31.480 --> 00:11:34.860
 The Bible never commands the church to raise children.

00:11:35.259 --> 00:11:42.600
 The Bible never commands a particular parachurch ministry to raise children.

00:11:42.759 --> 00:11:47.019
 The Bible commands parents to raise children.

00:11:47.019 --> 00:11:51.699
 And so you can take comfort as a parent that this command has been given to you

00:11:51.699 --> 00:11:56.860
 and therefore the grace necessary to fulfill it will be also given to you.

00:11:56.879 --> 00:12:02.039
 And you don't have to give away this responsibility to another.

00:12:02.819 --> 00:12:05.799
 And so that's what we're hoping to accomplish.

00:12:05.919 --> 00:12:11.879
 We're hoping to very clearly place that responsibility on the shoulders of parents

00:12:11.879 --> 00:12:15.199
 and then do all kinds of things, which we'll talk about in a bit,

00:12:15.200 --> 00:12:17.140
 to support that work, right?

00:12:17.140 --> 00:12:20.920
 To say, this is a heavy load and we want to bear it with you.

00:12:21.480 --> 00:12:23.680
 But it is your load.

00:12:24.580 --> 00:12:30.200
 In the great day of judgment, I'll be held accountable for all kinds of things that I do

00:12:30.200 --> 00:12:32.480
 and say and feel.

00:12:32.780 --> 00:12:35.020
 Certainly my leadership of many of you.

00:12:35.320 --> 00:12:38.840
 But I don't believe that I'm going to be held accountable for the children of our church.

00:12:39.240 --> 00:12:41.660
 I think that accountability is going to be yours.

00:12:41.659 --> 00:12:47.379
 My part in that is how have I helped you pastor your kids in your home?

00:12:47.740 --> 00:12:52.860
 And that's why we want to be careful about how we do this very thing.

00:12:53.839 --> 00:13:00.980
 So CFC as an intergenerational church believe it's a parent's full responsibility,

00:13:01.419 --> 00:13:07.799
 full responsibility to train children and teach them how to worship and learn about God.

00:13:07.799 --> 00:13:10.899
 So quickly, let's look at Ephesians chapter 6 and verse 4.

00:13:13.919 --> 00:13:16.179
 And I'll look at a couple of other passages as well.

00:13:18.579 --> 00:13:22.899
 Right after a command for children to obey their parents,

00:13:24.240 --> 00:13:25.819
 in verse 4, Paul says,

00:13:25.819 --> 00:13:28.919
 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger,

00:13:29.539 --> 00:13:35.719
 but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

00:13:35.720 --> 00:13:38.080
 So it's commanded here, right?

00:13:38.320 --> 00:13:39.440
 And a few other places.

00:13:39.820 --> 00:13:42.000
 Deuteronomy chapter 6 and verse 7.

00:13:44.420 --> 00:13:48.940
 You shall teach the commandments of God diligently to your children

00:13:48.940 --> 00:13:51.680
 and shall talk of them when you sit in your house

00:13:51.680 --> 00:13:52.840
 and when you walk by the way

00:13:52.840 --> 00:13:54.060
 and when you lie down

00:13:54.060 --> 00:13:56.100
 and when you rise.

00:13:57.460 --> 00:14:00.700
 There's a general application of wisdom given to us

00:14:00.700 --> 00:14:03.580
 from Proverbs chapter 22 and verse 6.

00:14:03.580 --> 00:14:06.540
 Train up a child in the way he should go.

00:14:07.400 --> 00:14:08.780
 Even when he is old,

00:14:09.520 --> 00:14:11.180
 he will not depart from it.

00:14:12.139 --> 00:14:17.080
 And so we have these very clear commands to us as parents

00:14:17.080 --> 00:14:19.240
 to train our children.

00:14:19.940 --> 00:14:23.220
 It's our responsibility to educate.

00:14:23.780 --> 00:14:25.960
 Parents, even if someone else is doing that,

00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:28.080
 if your child is in public school,

00:14:28.200 --> 00:14:28.980
 for example,

00:14:28.980 --> 00:14:32.200
 you are responsible for what they are learning.

00:14:32.720 --> 00:14:36.420
 You need to be aware of their curriculum.

00:14:36.920 --> 00:14:39.980
 You need to be asking them many tough questions.

00:14:40.740 --> 00:14:44.080
 And oh, the discernment our young people need

00:14:44.080 --> 00:14:46.340
 as they're in public education.

00:14:46.800 --> 00:14:48.460
 We have to labor in this

00:14:48.460 --> 00:14:52.120
 because the labor has been given to us.

00:14:52.960 --> 00:14:53.820
 Non-parents,

00:14:54.120 --> 00:14:57.120
 we want to support the parents in our church.

00:14:57.120 --> 00:14:59.419
 We want to do everything that we can

00:14:59.419 --> 00:15:03.860
 to help them pick up this mighty task

00:15:03.860 --> 00:15:07.580
 that has been given to the parents of our church.

00:15:08.480 --> 00:15:11.120
 The 19th century English Baptist pastor,

00:15:11.360 --> 00:15:12.340
 you guys know I love,

00:15:12.440 --> 00:15:13.940
 Charles Spurgeon,

00:15:14.080 --> 00:15:16.779
 who was a big proponent of Sunday school,

00:15:17.019 --> 00:15:19.820
 which was four children at its inception,

00:15:20.879 --> 00:15:21.519
 once said,

00:15:21.519 --> 00:15:25.019
 let no Christians fall into the delusion

00:15:25.019 --> 00:15:28.399
 that Sunday school is intended to ease them

00:15:28.399 --> 00:15:29.919
 of their parental duties.

00:15:30.879 --> 00:15:33.939
 The first and most natural condition of things

00:15:33.939 --> 00:15:35.539
 is for Christian parents

00:15:35.539 --> 00:15:37.220
 to train up their own children

00:15:37.220 --> 00:15:40.799
 in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

00:15:41.500 --> 00:15:43.919
 And so anything that we do together as a church

00:15:43.919 --> 00:15:47.360
 or a relationship you might even develop

00:15:47.360 --> 00:15:49.600
 with the child that is not your own

00:15:49.600 --> 00:15:52.600
 ought to be done in support of

00:15:52.600 --> 00:15:56.000
 that work of parents with their kids.

00:15:56.240 --> 00:15:57.659
 That's why I pray on Sunday morning

00:15:57.659 --> 00:15:59.060
 with the kids from Lethia Way.

00:15:59.200 --> 00:16:00.759
 We ask that what we do here

00:16:00.759 --> 00:16:03.120
 and what these children's parents do with them

00:16:03.120 --> 00:16:04.500
 day in and day out in their homes

00:16:04.500 --> 00:16:07.399
 turn them to repentance and to faith.

00:16:07.519 --> 00:16:12.060
 We merely want to come alongside, right?

00:16:12.059 --> 00:16:16.739
 Because it is biblical for parents

00:16:16.739 --> 00:16:20.719
 to bear the responsibility for child training.

00:16:21.219 --> 00:16:26.719
 Our children need to be taught the things of God

00:16:26.719 --> 00:16:28.259
 and they need to be taught

00:16:28.259 --> 00:16:30.239
 that they stand in this world

00:16:30.239 --> 00:16:33.000
 underneath the authority of God

00:16:33.000 --> 00:16:36.719
 and under your authority as parents.

00:16:37.179 --> 00:16:39.719
 This is so incredibly important for them

00:16:39.720 --> 00:16:43.700
 that they see what good, loving, kind authority

00:16:43.700 --> 00:16:45.860
 looks like in their lives, right?

00:16:46.620 --> 00:16:50.680
 Corrected and trained for their good.

00:16:51.620 --> 00:16:53.320
 We talk all the time with our boys

00:16:53.320 --> 00:16:55.940
 about disciplinary action after the fact,

00:16:56.080 --> 00:16:59.240
 after one of them has bent over a knee

00:16:59.240 --> 00:17:01.779
 and they have gone and thought about what they did.

00:17:01.879 --> 00:17:06.019
 We ask, why is it important to obey your parents?

00:17:06.019 --> 00:17:09.779
 And the answer that we are always prodding along

00:17:09.779 --> 00:17:12.660
 is because God who loves them gave us to them

00:17:12.660 --> 00:17:13.660
 and we love them.

00:17:13.940 --> 00:17:14.700
 We love you.

00:17:14.779 --> 00:17:17.059
 That's why you need to obey.

00:17:17.539 --> 00:17:19.240
 Our children should be learning this

00:17:19.240 --> 00:17:21.460
 through our parenting, right?

00:17:21.519 --> 00:17:24.079
 Beyond just the specifics of what we teach,

00:17:24.180 --> 00:17:25.180
 they need to be learning

00:17:25.180 --> 00:17:29.859
 that the world functions with authority, right?

00:17:29.900 --> 00:17:31.480
 God first and foremost

00:17:31.480 --> 00:17:34.740
 and then subservient authorities under that.

00:17:34.740 --> 00:17:37.279
 A great problem with our society today

00:17:37.279 --> 00:17:38.880
 is that there are so many who function

00:17:38.880 --> 00:17:40.240
 as if there is no authority

00:17:40.240 --> 00:17:41.720
 and there is no consequence

00:17:41.720 --> 00:17:43.839
 for anything that they do.

00:17:43.960 --> 00:17:46.740
 And boy, are they grossly awoken

00:17:46.740 --> 00:17:50.559
 when consequences do in fact arise, right?

00:17:50.579 --> 00:17:53.480
 There is authority placed over us.

00:17:53.759 --> 00:17:55.519
 We are not completely free

00:17:55.519 --> 00:17:57.519
 to do whatever we would do.

00:17:57.680 --> 00:17:59.059
 Praise the Lord, right?

00:17:59.099 --> 00:18:00.599
 He governs over us.

00:18:00.900 --> 00:18:02.079
 He keeps us safe.

00:18:02.079 --> 00:18:06.500
 He restrains our wickedness by these things.

00:18:06.619 --> 00:18:09.960
 And our children need to learn this.

00:18:10.919 --> 00:18:13.919
 So, it's biblical for parents

00:18:13.919 --> 00:18:15.819
 to bear the responsibility

00:18:15.819 --> 00:18:17.679
 for child training.

00:18:18.559 --> 00:18:19.779
 Children need to learn authority.

00:18:19.899 --> 00:18:24.659
 They need to be also trained to learn.

00:18:25.259 --> 00:18:26.279
 This is not a thing

00:18:26.279 --> 00:18:28.000
 that children pick up immediately.

00:18:28.000 --> 00:18:31.299
 I think we might have in our congregation

00:18:31.299 --> 00:18:32.660
 some kindergarten teachers,

00:18:32.819 --> 00:18:35.500
 if not some that are in those early years.

00:18:35.880 --> 00:18:38.500
 And they know that one of the major works

00:18:38.500 --> 00:18:40.880
 that's done when a child is already

00:18:40.880 --> 00:18:42.599
 five and six years old

00:18:42.599 --> 00:18:43.680
 in the public school system

00:18:43.680 --> 00:18:45.660
 is to get them to sit still

00:18:45.660 --> 00:18:48.839
 and to be quiet and to pay attention.

00:18:49.599 --> 00:18:53.700
 They should learn this much before that happens, right?

00:18:53.700 --> 00:18:54.840
 Long before.

00:18:55.200 --> 00:18:56.740
 They waste almost a year

00:18:56.740 --> 00:18:58.279
 of that education

00:18:58.279 --> 00:19:01.580
 just learning to learn.

00:19:02.519 --> 00:19:05.180
 We are meant as parents, right?

00:19:05.259 --> 00:19:08.080
 To instruct, to show them

00:19:08.080 --> 00:19:12.640
 how it is they're meant to act later in life.

00:19:13.500 --> 00:19:14.740
 Sam and I remind each other often

00:19:14.740 --> 00:19:16.319
 that we're not raising boys.

00:19:16.440 --> 00:19:18.539
 We're raising men, right?

00:19:18.660 --> 00:19:22.160
 We're starting with the end in mind.

00:19:22.160 --> 00:19:26.279
 Who do we want these young boys to become?

00:19:26.980 --> 00:19:29.060
 And oh, the many years of work

00:19:29.060 --> 00:19:31.100
 it will take to get them to that place.

00:19:31.220 --> 00:19:32.759
 And now as my oldest is eight,

00:19:32.880 --> 00:19:34.759
 I see those years fleeting.

00:19:34.960 --> 00:19:38.980
 They're going by so very quick.

00:19:39.300 --> 00:19:41.360
 There is so much work to be done

00:19:41.360 --> 00:19:42.779
 with our children.

00:19:43.620 --> 00:19:45.519
 We primarily want our children

00:19:45.519 --> 00:19:48.000
 to learn, to learn,

00:19:48.080 --> 00:19:49.600
 because we want them to learn

00:19:49.600 --> 00:19:52.060
 the things of God, right?

00:19:52.059 --> 00:19:53.179
 That they would understand

00:19:53.179 --> 00:19:54.179
 who God is

00:19:54.179 --> 00:19:57.039
 and His righteous requirement of them.

00:19:57.679 --> 00:19:58.240
 That they would see

00:19:58.240 --> 00:20:00.059
 their absolute inability

00:20:00.059 --> 00:20:02.980
 to keep His good commands.

00:20:02.980 --> 00:20:05.399
 And that they would flee to Christ

00:20:05.399 --> 00:20:08.359
 by repentance and faith.

00:20:09.059 --> 00:20:10.240
 We want our children

00:20:10.240 --> 00:20:12.039
 to be able to listen to

00:20:12.039 --> 00:20:13.960
 and understand the instruction

00:20:13.960 --> 00:20:15.379
 of the Bible.

00:20:16.099 --> 00:20:17.599
 Romans 10.17 says that

00:20:17.599 --> 00:20:19.279
 faith comes from hearing

00:20:19.279 --> 00:20:22.399
 and hearing through the Word of Christ.

00:20:23.619 --> 00:20:25.059
 Children and others,

00:20:25.240 --> 00:20:26.159
 or parents and others,

00:20:26.279 --> 00:20:28.000
 if we care about the children

00:20:28.000 --> 00:20:28.919
 of our church,

00:20:29.299 --> 00:20:31.939
 we should care that they're being trained

00:20:31.939 --> 00:20:33.319
 to learn.

00:20:33.579 --> 00:20:36.919
 To learn the things that matter most

00:20:36.919 --> 00:20:38.959
 in their lives.

00:20:38.960 --> 00:20:42.240
 We want the Word of God

00:20:42.240 --> 00:20:43.880
 to be accompanied by

00:20:43.880 --> 00:20:45.220
 the Spirit of God

00:20:45.220 --> 00:20:46.920
 that our children would believe.

00:20:47.980 --> 00:20:49.420
 Spurgeon, again, says,

00:20:49.579 --> 00:20:50.840
 it is not your instruction

00:20:50.840 --> 00:20:51.980
 that can save the souls

00:20:51.980 --> 00:20:52.700
 of your children.

00:20:53.360 --> 00:20:54.259
 It is the blessing

00:20:54.259 --> 00:20:55.100
 of the Holy Spirit

00:20:55.100 --> 00:20:57.700
 accompanying your labors.

00:20:58.600 --> 00:20:59.180
 So parents,

00:20:59.259 --> 00:20:59.960
 we get in there

00:20:59.960 --> 00:21:00.900
 and we work,

00:21:01.140 --> 00:21:01.759
 we teach,

00:21:01.860 --> 00:21:02.319
 we teach,

00:21:02.400 --> 00:21:02.860
 we teach,

00:21:02.940 --> 00:21:03.360
 we teach,

00:21:03.359 --> 00:21:04.799
 we teach and we pray

00:21:04.799 --> 00:21:06.359
 that God would save

00:21:06.359 --> 00:21:07.799
 our kids.

00:21:08.679 --> 00:21:10.639
 Our efforts are so

00:21:10.639 --> 00:21:13.039
 incredibly feeble.

00:21:13.719 --> 00:21:14.599
 But we can take heart

00:21:14.599 --> 00:21:15.639
 that the lives of our children

00:21:15.639 --> 00:21:17.139
 lay not in our hands,

00:21:17.519 --> 00:21:18.839
 but in the hands

00:21:18.839 --> 00:21:19.419
 of our good

00:21:19.419 --> 00:21:21.159
 and faithful Father.

00:21:21.939 --> 00:21:22.179
 See,

00:21:22.279 --> 00:21:22.879
 I can press on.

00:21:23.039 --> 00:21:23.599
 That's no problem.

00:21:26.879 --> 00:21:28.359
 So children need to be trained

00:21:28.359 --> 00:21:29.019
 to learn.

00:21:30.159 --> 00:21:30.939
 Children also

00:21:30.939 --> 00:21:31.919
 need to be trained

00:21:31.920 --> 00:21:33.360
 to be part

00:21:33.360 --> 00:21:34.980
 of a church.

00:21:36.039 --> 00:21:37.180
 By sending children

00:21:37.180 --> 00:21:38.640
 to a different room

00:21:38.640 --> 00:21:39.759
 to be separated

00:21:39.759 --> 00:21:40.360
 from the

00:21:40.360 --> 00:21:41.180
 quote-unquote

00:21:41.180 --> 00:21:42.320
 adult service,

00:21:43.039 --> 00:21:43.779
 they learn

00:21:43.779 --> 00:21:44.220
 that whatever

00:21:44.220 --> 00:21:45.220
 is taking place

00:21:45.220 --> 00:21:46.120
 in the church gathering

00:21:46.120 --> 00:21:47.140
 is not meant

00:21:47.140 --> 00:21:48.000
 for them.

00:21:50.140 --> 00:21:51.300
 If little ones

00:21:51.300 --> 00:21:52.620
 are starting off

00:21:52.620 --> 00:21:53.600
 in circumstances

00:21:53.600 --> 00:21:54.779
 that make it seem

00:21:54.779 --> 00:21:55.519
 like they are not

00:21:55.519 --> 00:21:57.200
 valued in the church,

00:21:58.180 --> 00:21:58.920
 when does that

00:21:58.920 --> 00:22:00.440
 thinking change?

00:22:00.440 --> 00:22:02.799
 When are they taught

00:22:02.799 --> 00:22:03.960
 that it is simply

00:22:03.960 --> 00:22:05.900
 not true?

00:22:06.559 --> 00:22:07.720
 We value you

00:22:07.720 --> 00:22:08.580
 when you turn

00:22:08.580 --> 00:22:09.620
 five.

00:22:10.440 --> 00:22:11.259
 The things of God

00:22:11.259 --> 00:22:11.860
 are going to be

00:22:11.860 --> 00:22:12.980
 made available to you

00:22:12.980 --> 00:22:14.100
 when you turn

00:22:14.100 --> 00:22:15.620
 three,

00:22:15.880 --> 00:22:16.420
 whatever that

00:22:16.420 --> 00:22:17.279
 may be.

00:22:17.700 --> 00:22:18.940
 When do we begin

00:22:18.940 --> 00:22:20.160
 helping our kids

00:22:20.160 --> 00:22:20.820
 understand

00:22:20.820 --> 00:22:21.799
 that what we do

00:22:21.799 --> 00:22:22.539
 together as a church

00:22:22.539 --> 00:22:23.380
 is valuable,

00:22:24.220 --> 00:22:24.759
 which means it's

00:22:24.759 --> 00:22:25.880
 valuable for all

00:22:25.880 --> 00:22:27.220
 of us?

00:22:27.220 --> 00:22:29.140
 in many churches,

00:22:29.579 --> 00:22:30.779
 the youth have

00:22:30.779 --> 00:22:31.799
 their own service.

00:22:32.360 --> 00:22:33.500
 If you're a teenager,

00:22:33.640 --> 00:22:34.279
 you're pulled out

00:22:34.279 --> 00:22:35.180
 of the quote-unquote

00:22:35.180 --> 00:22:36.200
 adult service,

00:22:36.400 --> 00:22:37.860
 which are often

00:22:37.860 --> 00:22:38.799
 just an extension

00:22:38.799 --> 00:22:40.460
 of children's church.

00:22:41.360 --> 00:22:42.480
 The kids haven't

00:22:42.480 --> 00:22:43.140
 learned,

00:22:43.259 --> 00:22:43.579
 right,

00:22:43.720 --> 00:22:44.700
 how to sit

00:22:44.700 --> 00:22:45.339
 and to listen

00:22:45.339 --> 00:22:46.579
 and to appreciate

00:22:46.579 --> 00:22:48.059
 the things of God.

00:22:48.279 --> 00:22:49.839
 And in many churches,

00:22:50.360 --> 00:22:51.620
 the adult service

00:22:51.620 --> 00:22:52.360
 has become

00:22:52.360 --> 00:22:53.079
 little more

00:22:53.079 --> 00:22:53.839
 than an extension

00:22:53.839 --> 00:22:55.599
 of the youth service.

00:22:56.799 --> 00:22:57.240
 It's centered

00:22:57.240 --> 00:22:58.259
 on entertainment,

00:22:58.799 --> 00:22:59.339
 wrapped up

00:22:59.339 --> 00:23:00.399
 in emotion

00:23:00.399 --> 00:23:01.419
 because

00:23:01.419 --> 00:23:03.079
 these adults

00:23:03.079 --> 00:23:04.059
 have never been

00:23:04.059 --> 00:23:05.859
 taught to grow up.

00:23:06.579 --> 00:23:07.619
 Our Christian culture

00:23:07.619 --> 00:23:09.779
 is failing to train,

00:23:10.319 --> 00:23:11.459
 so we have many

00:23:11.459 --> 00:23:13.879
 spiritual adolescents

00:23:13.879 --> 00:23:15.799
 and adults

00:23:15.799 --> 00:23:16.619
 of our day.

00:23:17.119 --> 00:23:17.679
 This is a

00:23:17.679 --> 00:23:18.959
 tragic thing

00:23:18.959 --> 00:23:20.699
 kids need

00:23:20.699 --> 00:23:21.480
 to learn.

00:23:21.819 --> 00:23:22.319
 Some of you

00:23:22.319 --> 00:23:23.619
 probably came here

00:23:23.619 --> 00:23:25.199
 and at the outset

00:23:25.199 --> 00:23:25.519
 thought,

00:23:25.639 --> 00:23:26.739
 this is kind of boring.

00:23:27.899 --> 00:23:28.839
 You're likely

00:23:28.839 --> 00:23:29.739
 a result

00:23:29.739 --> 00:23:30.759
 of the culture

00:23:30.759 --> 00:23:32.039
 that entertained you

00:23:32.039 --> 00:23:32.839
 and entertained you

00:23:32.839 --> 00:23:33.759
 and entertained you.

00:23:34.519 --> 00:23:35.199
 And while we want

00:23:35.199 --> 00:23:36.699
 people to really enjoy

00:23:36.699 --> 00:23:37.859
 when we gather together,

00:23:37.979 --> 00:23:39.000
 we're not being boring

00:23:39.000 --> 00:23:40.079
 by design.

00:23:40.659 --> 00:23:41.819
 I want you to know

00:23:41.819 --> 00:23:43.679
 that it is also okay

00:23:43.679 --> 00:23:45.259
 with us as a church

00:23:45.259 --> 00:23:46.519
 if what we do

00:23:46.519 --> 00:23:47.439
 is a bit boring

00:23:47.439 --> 00:23:49.039
 to the nominal Christian

00:23:49.039 --> 00:23:51.119
 who comes in and says,

00:23:51.219 --> 00:23:52.159
 I just don't feel

00:23:52.159 --> 00:23:52.939
 entertained.

00:23:52.940 --> 00:23:54.680
 The plea to them

00:23:54.680 --> 00:23:55.660
 is, well then grow up.

00:23:56.440 --> 00:23:57.340
 We're talking about

00:23:57.340 --> 00:23:58.360
 the things of God.

00:23:58.539 --> 00:23:59.080
 We're singing

00:23:59.080 --> 00:23:59.940
 and praying

00:23:59.940 --> 00:24:01.100
 and opening up

00:24:01.100 --> 00:24:02.559
 the scripture together.

00:24:03.900 --> 00:24:05.279
 So you see how

00:24:05.279 --> 00:24:07.059
 we can as a church

00:24:07.059 --> 00:24:08.180
 start early

00:24:08.180 --> 00:24:09.660
 and I hope

00:24:09.660 --> 00:24:10.900
 turn the tide

00:24:10.900 --> 00:24:13.740
 of this young generation.

00:24:14.220 --> 00:24:15.640
 We want to raise,

00:24:15.779 --> 00:24:16.600
 as the Puritans

00:24:16.600 --> 00:24:17.059
 would say,

00:24:17.299 --> 00:24:18.039
 churchmen.

00:24:18.039 --> 00:24:19.980
 I want my boys

00:24:19.980 --> 00:24:20.759
 to understand

00:24:20.759 --> 00:24:21.799
 the great value

00:24:21.799 --> 00:24:23.279
 of the congregation

00:24:23.279 --> 00:24:24.759
 gathering together

00:24:24.759 --> 00:24:25.920
 and doing deep

00:24:25.920 --> 00:24:27.440
 and weighty things

00:24:27.440 --> 00:24:29.200
 to the glory of God.

00:24:30.200 --> 00:24:30.779
 So children need

00:24:30.779 --> 00:24:31.319
 to be trained

00:24:31.319 --> 00:24:32.960
 to be a part

00:24:32.960 --> 00:24:35.220
 of the church.

00:24:35.740 --> 00:24:36.159
 Children need

00:24:36.159 --> 00:24:36.720
 to be trained

00:24:36.720 --> 00:24:38.859
 for self-control.

00:24:38.859 --> 00:24:38.939
 people.

00:24:40.579 --> 00:24:42.000
 And we have had

00:24:42.000 --> 00:24:43.240
 just so many,

00:24:43.279 --> 00:24:44.919
 and so many parents

00:24:44.919 --> 00:24:45.379
 that I would say

00:24:45.379 --> 00:24:46.399
 are great parents

00:24:46.399 --> 00:24:48.159
 come and say,

00:24:48.399 --> 00:24:49.959
 we just can't do it.

00:24:50.799 --> 00:24:52.099
 We just can't do it.

00:24:52.799 --> 00:24:54.859
 It is not unreasonable

00:24:54.859 --> 00:24:56.299
 to expect a child

00:24:56.299 --> 00:24:57.279
 to be able to learn,

00:24:57.659 --> 00:24:58.099
 learn,

00:24:58.639 --> 00:24:59.259
 to process,

00:24:59.959 --> 00:25:00.879
 to sit through

00:25:00.879 --> 00:25:01.779
 an entire sermon.

00:25:01.779 --> 00:25:03.359
 It is not unreasonable.

00:25:04.660 --> 00:25:05.619
 If we believe

00:25:05.619 --> 00:25:06.720
 an hour's worth

00:25:06.720 --> 00:25:07.660
 of good behavior

00:25:07.660 --> 00:25:08.819
 is too much

00:25:08.819 --> 00:25:09.519
 to ask

00:25:09.519 --> 00:25:10.240
 of our children,

00:25:11.259 --> 00:25:12.359
 then we are fiercely

00:25:12.359 --> 00:25:13.480
 underestimating

00:25:13.480 --> 00:25:14.460
 our children.

00:25:15.940 --> 00:25:16.700
 If you begin

00:25:16.700 --> 00:25:17.319
 to actually throw

00:25:17.319 --> 00:25:17.920
 some effort

00:25:17.920 --> 00:25:19.019
 into training your kids,

00:25:19.079 --> 00:25:20.180
 you will be astounded

00:25:20.180 --> 00:25:21.879
 at what they can

00:25:21.879 --> 00:25:23.200
 accomplish.

00:25:24.220 --> 00:25:24.720
 I'm going to use

00:25:24.720 --> 00:25:25.359
 as an example,

00:25:25.480 --> 00:25:25.839
 and we are not

00:25:25.839 --> 00:25:26.700
 a perfect example.

00:25:27.399 --> 00:25:28.200
 My wife,

00:25:28.539 --> 00:25:30.000
 I think with fair success,

00:25:30.160 --> 00:25:30.940
 pulls it off

00:25:30.940 --> 00:25:32.480
 each week

00:25:32.480 --> 00:25:33.660
 for the last

00:25:33.660 --> 00:25:34.460
 eight years

00:25:34.460 --> 00:25:36.320
 with no help

00:25:36.320 --> 00:25:36.720
 from me.

00:25:38.279 --> 00:25:39.059
 If you have

00:25:39.059 --> 00:25:39.559
 both a mom

00:25:39.559 --> 00:25:39.960
 and a dad

00:25:39.960 --> 00:25:41.460
 sitting with your kids,

00:25:41.580 --> 00:25:42.620
 you are at a great

00:25:42.620 --> 00:25:43.299
 advantage

00:25:43.299 --> 00:25:45.480
 to my family,

00:25:46.140 --> 00:25:47.259
 and yet somehow

00:25:47.259 --> 00:25:49.740
 from age two,

00:25:49.860 --> 00:25:50.279
 and we can even

00:25:50.279 --> 00:25:50.799
 back up,

00:25:50.960 --> 00:25:52.340
 Silas was much younger,

00:25:53.220 --> 00:25:54.240
 they are able

00:25:54.240 --> 00:25:54.720
 to sit

00:25:54.720 --> 00:25:55.580
 and do that work,

00:25:55.680 --> 00:25:56.120
 and it is not

00:25:56.120 --> 00:25:56.920
 because our kids

00:25:56.920 --> 00:25:58.680
 are just good tempered.

00:25:59.000 --> 00:25:59.700
 They are not.

00:26:00.940 --> 00:26:03.559
 I have wonderful

00:26:03.559 --> 00:26:04.019
 children,

00:26:04.740 --> 00:26:05.440
 but they have

00:26:05.440 --> 00:26:06.840
 had to be trained.

00:26:07.160 --> 00:26:07.640
 They have had to

00:26:07.640 --> 00:26:08.880
 learn how to do

00:26:08.880 --> 00:26:10.160
 what it is

00:26:10.160 --> 00:26:10.700
 they are doing

00:26:10.700 --> 00:26:11.779
 here and in other

00:26:11.779 --> 00:26:13.120
 places as well.

00:26:13.200 --> 00:26:14.019
 We have to teach

00:26:14.019 --> 00:26:15.740
 them self-control.

00:26:15.960 --> 00:26:16.880
 I am fearful

00:26:16.880 --> 00:26:17.820
 for this generation

00:26:17.820 --> 00:26:18.720
 and their ability

00:26:18.720 --> 00:26:20.440
 to hold jobs

00:26:20.440 --> 00:26:21.840
 because guess what?

00:26:21.900 --> 00:26:22.880
 A lot of life

00:26:22.880 --> 00:26:24.279
 is going to be

00:26:24.279 --> 00:26:24.880
 mundane

00:26:24.880 --> 00:26:26.080
 and boring.

00:26:26.680 --> 00:26:27.120
 You are going to

00:26:27.120 --> 00:26:27.860
 sit down at a job

00:26:27.859 --> 00:26:28.979
 and do data entry

00:26:28.979 --> 00:26:29.639
 for eight hours

00:26:29.639 --> 00:26:30.019
 a day,

00:26:30.799 --> 00:26:32.379
 but as a child

00:26:32.379 --> 00:26:32.939
 you can't sit

00:26:32.939 --> 00:26:33.799
 still for an hour.

00:26:34.699 --> 00:26:35.599
 Oh, the tragedy

00:26:35.599 --> 00:26:36.459
 that will ensue

00:26:36.459 --> 00:26:38.240
 from such a thing.

00:26:39.619 --> 00:26:40.659
 Silas, my two-year-old,

00:26:40.699 --> 00:26:41.740
 is sitting very quietly,

00:26:41.879 --> 00:26:42.759
 at least at this moment.

00:26:43.579 --> 00:26:44.099
 Hey, buddy.

00:26:45.979 --> 00:26:47.779
 And doing quite well.

00:26:47.879 --> 00:26:48.339
 Sam's going,

00:26:48.899 --> 00:26:50.659
 yes, he's doing well.

00:26:50.719 --> 00:26:51.219
 Don't interrupt.

00:26:51.339 --> 00:26:51.939
 Don't interrupt

00:26:51.939 --> 00:26:54.619
 what he's doing well.

00:26:54.619 --> 00:26:56.659
 But by teaching

00:26:56.659 --> 00:26:58.179
 our children

00:26:58.179 --> 00:26:58.659
 to sit through

00:26:58.659 --> 00:26:59.459
 a church gathering,

00:27:00.519 --> 00:27:01.179
 they're learning

00:27:01.179 --> 00:27:02.099
 a number of

00:27:02.099 --> 00:27:02.779
 important and

00:27:02.779 --> 00:27:03.679
 profitable habits

00:27:03.679 --> 00:27:04.539
 that translate

00:27:04.539 --> 00:27:06.699
 into other areas

00:27:06.699 --> 00:27:08.379
 of their life.

00:27:08.859 --> 00:27:10.479
 The youngest children

00:27:10.479 --> 00:27:11.219
 amongst us

00:27:11.219 --> 00:27:12.819
 are primarily

00:27:12.819 --> 00:27:14.199
 learning self-control.

00:27:14.359 --> 00:27:14.659
 People say,

00:27:14.799 --> 00:27:15.459
 why are you having

00:27:15.459 --> 00:27:16.539
 the kids in the service?

00:27:17.239 --> 00:27:18.199
 What's the point?

00:27:18.599 --> 00:27:19.079
 Clearly,

00:27:19.319 --> 00:27:20.359
 I'm not going to go

00:27:20.359 --> 00:27:21.619
 and ask Silas later

00:27:21.619 --> 00:27:22.359
 what he learned

00:27:22.359 --> 00:27:22.899
 from the sermon.

00:27:23.479 --> 00:27:24.479
 He has no idea

00:27:24.480 --> 00:27:25.220
 what I'm talking about.

00:27:25.360 --> 00:27:26.079
 He heard his name

00:27:26.079 --> 00:27:26.680
 and he looked up.

00:27:27.120 --> 00:27:28.279
 That was the extent of it.

00:27:28.519 --> 00:27:29.039
 But he's learning

00:27:29.039 --> 00:27:30.180
 something extremely important

00:27:30.180 --> 00:27:31.120
 which is going to feed

00:27:31.120 --> 00:27:33.460
 into many greater

00:27:33.460 --> 00:27:35.000
 and more important things.

00:27:35.200 --> 00:27:35.599
 He's learning

00:27:35.599 --> 00:27:36.720
 to sit still now

00:27:36.720 --> 00:27:38.460
 and then he'll begin

00:27:38.460 --> 00:27:40.740
 to learn from sermons

00:27:40.740 --> 00:27:43.120
 as time progresses on.

00:27:43.259 --> 00:27:44.799
 So it does matter.

00:27:44.940 --> 00:27:46.120
 It is helpful

00:27:46.120 --> 00:27:48.220
 and important.

00:27:48.960 --> 00:27:50.019
 Our little ones

00:27:50.019 --> 00:27:51.200
 have an absolute,

00:27:51.740 --> 00:27:52.059
 I mean,

00:27:52.099 --> 00:27:52.839
 it is incredible

00:27:52.839 --> 00:27:53.599
 how much energy

00:27:53.599 --> 00:27:54.099
 they have,

00:27:54.099 --> 00:27:54.099


00:27:54.199 --> 00:27:54.480
 isn't it?

00:27:54.559 --> 00:27:54.740
 I mean,

00:27:54.799 --> 00:27:56.279
 it is just oozing

00:27:56.279 --> 00:27:57.519
 out of them

00:27:57.519 --> 00:27:58.019
 and they're going

00:27:58.019 --> 00:27:58.959
 to need to learn

00:27:58.959 --> 00:28:00.980
 how to dial it back

00:28:00.980 --> 00:28:02.599
 and to sit down

00:28:02.599 --> 00:28:04.399
 and to be quiet.

00:28:05.579 --> 00:28:07.539
 Children also gain perspective

00:28:07.539 --> 00:28:09.240
 by being trained

00:28:09.240 --> 00:28:09.899
 to stay

00:28:09.899 --> 00:28:11.240
 for the congregational gathering.

00:28:11.359 --> 00:28:12.439
 They come to understand

00:28:12.439 --> 00:28:14.399
 that not everything

00:28:14.399 --> 00:28:15.579
 revolves around

00:28:15.579 --> 00:28:16.399
 their need

00:28:16.399 --> 00:28:17.480
 for entertainment.

00:28:17.480 --> 00:28:20.200
 They are learning

00:28:20.200 --> 00:28:21.460
 at a very,

00:28:21.599 --> 00:28:22.640
 very young age

00:28:22.640 --> 00:28:24.319
 to put others

00:28:24.319 --> 00:28:25.839
 before themselves.

00:28:26.480 --> 00:28:27.039
 We have had

00:28:27.039 --> 00:28:28.259
 countless conversations

00:28:28.259 --> 00:28:29.160
 with our children

00:28:29.160 --> 00:28:30.480
 about not being distracting

00:28:30.480 --> 00:28:31.099
 to others

00:28:31.099 --> 00:28:32.079
 because others

00:28:32.079 --> 00:28:33.720
 are here to listen

00:28:33.720 --> 00:28:34.599
 or to sing

00:28:34.599 --> 00:28:35.740
 or to, right?

00:28:35.860 --> 00:28:36.960
 That what they do

00:28:36.960 --> 00:28:38.759
 affects other people

00:28:38.759 --> 00:28:39.940
 and they should be concerned

00:28:39.940 --> 00:28:41.299
 about that type

00:28:41.299 --> 00:28:42.180
 of thing.

00:28:42.180 --> 00:28:44.019
 from a very early age

00:28:44.019 --> 00:28:44.900
 they're able

00:28:44.900 --> 00:28:46.080
 to begin

00:28:46.080 --> 00:28:48.060
 getting this concept.

00:28:48.380 --> 00:28:48.440
 Like,

00:28:48.680 --> 00:28:49.620
 this is a huge thing

00:28:49.620 --> 00:28:50.759
 for us to even understand

00:28:50.759 --> 00:28:51.680
 as adults.

00:28:52.019 --> 00:28:53.039
 How much better

00:28:53.039 --> 00:28:54.120
 if we start early?

00:28:54.279 --> 00:28:54.440
 Like,

00:28:54.500 --> 00:28:55.460
 we get the seed

00:28:55.460 --> 00:28:56.580
 planted in them

00:28:56.580 --> 00:28:58.120
 and it begins to grow

00:28:58.120 --> 00:28:58.880
 so they will begin

00:28:58.880 --> 00:28:59.560
 to understand

00:28:59.560 --> 00:29:00.600
 the world

00:29:00.600 --> 00:29:02.120
 does not revolve

00:29:02.120 --> 00:29:03.539
 around you.

00:29:05.180 --> 00:29:05.340
 Right?

00:29:05.620 --> 00:29:06.019
 So,

00:29:06.740 --> 00:29:07.940
 doing this

00:29:07.940 --> 00:29:09.779
 takes work.

00:29:10.519 --> 00:29:11.240
 It takes work.

00:29:13.100 --> 00:29:13.980
 Know that

00:29:13.980 --> 00:29:15.440
 sacrifice is required

00:29:15.440 --> 00:29:17.220
 and your patience

00:29:17.220 --> 00:29:18.779
 will probably run out

00:29:18.779 --> 00:29:19.880
 before

00:29:19.880 --> 00:29:21.600
 it gets stronger.

00:29:23.779 --> 00:29:24.920
 But it's also important

00:29:24.920 --> 00:29:25.440
 to know

00:29:25.440 --> 00:29:26.920
 that as a church

00:29:26.920 --> 00:29:27.960
 we've made a commitment

00:29:27.960 --> 00:29:29.920
 to working this out

00:29:29.920 --> 00:29:30.420
 together

00:29:30.420 --> 00:29:31.140
 that we're

00:29:31.140 --> 00:29:32.360
 here for you.

00:29:32.620 --> 00:29:33.960
 You're not alone

00:29:33.960 --> 00:29:35.880
 in this effort.

00:29:36.480 --> 00:29:37.759
 We are pleased

00:29:37.759 --> 00:29:38.740
 that if you are here

00:29:38.740 --> 00:29:40.000
 that you are even

00:29:40.000 --> 00:29:41.059
 giving it an effort.

00:29:41.539 --> 00:29:41.619
 Like,

00:29:41.640 --> 00:29:42.500
 that is a wonderful,

00:29:42.779 --> 00:29:43.500
 wonderful thing

00:29:43.500 --> 00:29:44.799
 that you're

00:29:44.799 --> 00:29:45.799
 trying

00:29:45.799 --> 00:29:46.539
 to do this

00:29:46.539 --> 00:29:46.900
 and you need

00:29:46.900 --> 00:29:47.740
 to be encouraged

00:29:47.740 --> 00:29:48.779
 in continuing

00:29:48.779 --> 00:29:50.599
 to try

00:29:50.599 --> 00:29:52.000
 to do this.

00:29:52.759 --> 00:29:53.119
 And so,

00:29:53.279 --> 00:29:53.900
 in the effort

00:29:53.900 --> 00:29:54.759
 of doing it,

00:29:54.839 --> 00:29:55.440
 let me just give you

00:29:55.440 --> 00:29:57.140
 some practical tips

00:29:57.140 --> 00:29:59.700
 for the how.

00:30:00.960 --> 00:30:01.519
 First,

00:30:01.839 --> 00:30:03.319
 we cherish

00:30:03.319 --> 00:30:04.599
 Sunday mornings.

00:30:06.160 --> 00:30:07.700
 The most valuable step

00:30:07.700 --> 00:30:08.240
 in training

00:30:08.240 --> 00:30:08.240


00:30:08.240 --> 00:30:08.860
 a child

00:30:08.860 --> 00:30:09.940
 to sit through

00:30:09.940 --> 00:30:10.700
 and participate

00:30:10.700 --> 00:30:12.460
 in church gatherings

00:30:12.460 --> 00:30:14.340
 is to cherish

00:30:14.340 --> 00:30:15.920
 church gatherings.

00:30:16.980 --> 00:30:17.620
 Parents,

00:30:18.000 --> 00:30:19.340
 if you don't act

00:30:19.340 --> 00:30:20.279
 like you're happy

00:30:20.279 --> 00:30:21.039
 to be here,

00:30:21.500 --> 00:30:22.039
 your children

00:30:22.039 --> 00:30:22.840
 are going to pick

00:30:22.840 --> 00:30:23.440
 that up.

00:30:24.140 --> 00:30:25.200
 It's a great service

00:30:25.200 --> 00:30:25.620
 to them

00:30:25.620 --> 00:30:26.720
 if you make

00:30:26.720 --> 00:30:27.900
 Sunday

00:30:27.900 --> 00:30:29.120
 the most important

00:30:29.120 --> 00:30:30.779
 day of the week.

00:30:30.920 --> 00:30:32.279
 If you're excited

00:30:32.279 --> 00:30:33.340
 about what we get

00:30:33.340 --> 00:30:34.000
 to do

00:30:34.000 --> 00:30:35.000
 together

00:30:35.000 --> 00:30:36.259
 on Sundays,

00:30:37.220 --> 00:30:38.000
 we sat through

00:30:38.000 --> 00:30:38.440
 a particularly

00:30:38.440 --> 00:30:40.700
 long thing

00:30:40.700 --> 00:30:41.220
 where the boys

00:30:41.220 --> 00:30:41.720
 were expected

00:30:41.720 --> 00:30:42.599
 to be quiet

00:30:42.599 --> 00:30:43.259
 and when we got

00:30:43.259 --> 00:30:43.980
 out from it,

00:30:44.539 --> 00:30:45.200
 Cade noted

00:30:45.200 --> 00:30:45.700
 that it was

00:30:45.700 --> 00:30:46.259
 longer

00:30:46.259 --> 00:30:47.839
 than a church

00:30:47.839 --> 00:30:48.240
 gathering

00:30:48.240 --> 00:30:50.099
 and Judah said

00:30:50.099 --> 00:30:50.759
 it was more

00:30:50.759 --> 00:30:51.380
 boring

00:30:51.380 --> 00:30:51.980
 than a church

00:30:51.980 --> 00:30:52.420
 gathering.

00:30:53.420 --> 00:30:53.940
 And,

00:30:54.099 --> 00:30:54.720
 of course,

00:30:55.359 --> 00:30:56.480
 for a second

00:30:56.480 --> 00:30:56.960
 my feelings

00:30:56.960 --> 00:30:57.359
 are hurt

00:30:57.359 --> 00:30:57.799
 because I don't

00:30:57.799 --> 00:30:58.559
 really want

00:30:58.559 --> 00:30:59.680
 our gatherings

00:30:59.680 --> 00:31:00.240
 to be boring

00:31:00.240 --> 00:31:00.880
 to my children.

00:31:01.000 --> 00:31:01.240
 It's not what

00:31:01.240 --> 00:31:02.099
 I hope for

00:31:02.099 --> 00:31:03.160
 them,

00:31:03.359 --> 00:31:04.019
 but it gave me

00:31:04.019 --> 00:31:04.500
 an opportunity

00:31:04.500 --> 00:31:05.180
 to talk about

00:31:05.180 --> 00:31:06.200
 why it shouldn't

00:31:06.200 --> 00:31:06.680
 be boring

00:31:06.680 --> 00:31:07.339
 to them.

00:31:07.620 --> 00:31:07.960
 Oh,

00:31:08.200 --> 00:31:08.980
 it's the greatest

00:31:08.980 --> 00:31:10.160
 thing we do.

00:31:10.279 --> 00:31:11.180
 It's way better

00:31:11.180 --> 00:31:11.480
 than,

00:31:11.539 --> 00:31:12.019
 and I can fill

00:31:12.019 --> 00:31:12.779
 in the multiple

00:31:12.779 --> 00:31:13.420
 blanks of things

00:31:13.420 --> 00:31:13.920
 that my children

00:31:13.920 --> 00:31:15.039
 really enjoy

00:31:15.039 --> 00:31:16.880
 going to go do,

00:31:17.440 --> 00:31:18.359
 but to show them

00:31:18.359 --> 00:31:19.500
 that I think

00:31:19.500 --> 00:31:20.440
 it's the most

00:31:20.440 --> 00:31:21.160
 important thing.

00:31:21.460 --> 00:31:22.200
 I think

00:31:22.200 --> 00:31:23.819
 it's best.

00:31:24.460 --> 00:31:25.200
 Non-parents,

00:31:25.359 --> 00:31:25.839
 you can help

00:31:25.839 --> 00:31:26.579
 us with this,

00:31:26.859 --> 00:31:27.059
 right?

00:31:27.599 --> 00:31:28.400
 Being attentive,

00:31:29.079 --> 00:31:29.240
 right?

00:31:29.240 --> 00:31:30.279
 Showing up

00:31:30.279 --> 00:31:30.980
 on time,

00:31:31.559 --> 00:31:32.099
 minimizing

00:31:32.099 --> 00:31:33.960
 bathroom breaks,

00:31:34.279 --> 00:31:34.480
 right?

00:31:34.720 --> 00:31:35.680
 Show the kids

00:31:35.680 --> 00:31:36.500
 around you

00:31:36.500 --> 00:31:37.140
 that what we're

00:31:37.140 --> 00:31:38.519
 doing is important

00:31:38.519 --> 00:31:39.620
 to you,

00:31:40.079 --> 00:31:40.279
 right?

00:31:40.400 --> 00:31:41.339
 I love as much

00:31:41.339 --> 00:31:41.960
 as the next person

00:31:41.960 --> 00:31:42.539
 when a kid is

00:31:42.539 --> 00:31:43.039
 on a parent's

00:31:43.039 --> 00:31:43.500
 shoulder and

00:31:43.500 --> 00:31:44.039
 they're smiling

00:31:44.039 --> 00:31:44.480
 at me.

00:31:45.259 --> 00:31:45.980
 Don't start

00:31:45.980 --> 00:31:46.799
 entertaining them.

00:31:47.539 --> 00:31:48.200
 Smile back

00:31:48.200 --> 00:31:48.759
 and then pay

00:31:48.759 --> 00:31:49.120
 attention,

00:31:49.319 --> 00:31:49.440
 right?

00:31:49.480 --> 00:31:50.039
 That's the thing

00:31:50.039 --> 00:31:50.480
 you can do

00:31:50.480 --> 00:31:50.900
 for them.

00:31:51.359 --> 00:31:52.079
 Stare beyond

00:31:52.079 --> 00:31:53.920
 them to what's

00:31:53.920 --> 00:31:55.039
 happening with

00:31:55.039 --> 00:31:56.180
 us in the room

00:31:56.180 --> 00:31:57.880
 at that time.

00:31:57.880 --> 00:31:59.640
 Whether you

00:31:59.640 --> 00:32:00.180
 treat being

00:32:00.180 --> 00:32:00.600
 at church

00:32:00.600 --> 00:32:01.400
 as a delight

00:32:01.400 --> 00:32:03.380
 or as a duty,

00:32:04.080 --> 00:32:04.540
 your children

00:32:04.540 --> 00:32:05.260
 will notice.

00:32:06.260 --> 00:32:06.640
 It will make

00:32:06.640 --> 00:32:07.060
 a difference

00:32:07.060 --> 00:32:07.500
 to them

00:32:07.500 --> 00:32:08.120
 and impact

00:32:08.120 --> 00:32:08.560
 their young

00:32:08.560 --> 00:32:09.000
 hearts.

00:32:09.960 --> 00:32:10.420
 The contemporary

00:32:10.420 --> 00:32:10.840
 pastor,

00:32:10.960 --> 00:32:11.420
 John Piper,

00:32:11.520 --> 00:32:12.480
 suggests that

00:32:12.480 --> 00:32:13.860
 parents should

00:32:13.860 --> 00:32:14.500
 be jealous

00:32:14.500 --> 00:32:14.980
 to model

00:32:14.980 --> 00:32:15.320
 for their

00:32:15.320 --> 00:32:15.660
 children

00:32:15.660 --> 00:32:16.880
 the tremendous

00:32:16.880 --> 00:32:17.740
 value they

00:32:17.740 --> 00:32:18.920
 put on reverence

00:32:18.920 --> 00:32:20.120
 in the presence

00:32:20.120 --> 00:32:21.080
 of Almighty

00:32:21.080 --> 00:32:21.480
 God.

00:32:22.140 --> 00:32:22.740
 This is a

00:32:22.740 --> 00:32:23.260
 great work.

00:32:23.420 --> 00:32:23.520
 Okay?

00:32:23.560 --> 00:32:24.180
 So we cherish

00:32:24.180 --> 00:32:25.000
 Sunday mornings.

00:32:25.000 --> 00:32:27.019
 We also

00:32:27.019 --> 00:32:27.740
 practice.

00:32:29.079 --> 00:32:30.099
 This is a

00:32:30.099 --> 00:32:30.619
 step that is

00:32:30.619 --> 00:32:32.299
 often overlooked.

00:32:33.599 --> 00:32:34.039
 Children do

00:32:34.039 --> 00:32:34.720
 not have tests

00:32:34.720 --> 00:32:35.460
 without homework,

00:32:36.559 --> 00:32:36.859
 ideally,

00:32:37.339 --> 00:32:38.099
 and they're

00:32:38.099 --> 00:32:38.700
 not put into

00:32:38.700 --> 00:32:39.359
 a game

00:32:39.359 --> 00:32:40.519
 without first

00:32:40.519 --> 00:32:40.859
 going to

00:32:40.859 --> 00:32:41.380
 practice,

00:32:42.519 --> 00:32:42.819
 ideally,

00:32:43.160 --> 00:32:43.339
 right?

00:32:44.259 --> 00:32:45.099
 You cannot

00:32:45.099 --> 00:32:45.839
 expect that

00:32:45.839 --> 00:32:46.539
 this is the

00:32:46.539 --> 00:32:46.980
 best place

00:32:46.980 --> 00:32:47.440
 to train

00:32:47.440 --> 00:32:48.279
 a child.

00:32:48.900 --> 00:32:49.680
 It just

00:32:49.680 --> 00:32:50.299
 isn't the

00:32:50.299 --> 00:32:50.920
 best place

00:32:50.920 --> 00:32:51.400
 to train

00:32:51.400 --> 00:32:52.579
 a child.

00:32:52.579 --> 00:32:53.639
 We

00:32:53.639 --> 00:32:55.819
 discipline

00:32:55.819 --> 00:32:56.339
 our children

00:32:56.339 --> 00:32:57.000
 differently

00:32:57.000 --> 00:32:57.519
 in our

00:32:57.519 --> 00:32:58.139
 living room

00:32:58.139 --> 00:32:58.559
 than we

00:32:58.559 --> 00:32:59.000
 could in

00:32:59.000 --> 00:32:59.759
 this room.

00:33:00.159 --> 00:33:00.279
 Now,

00:33:00.299 --> 00:33:00.500
 they could

00:33:00.500 --> 00:33:00.879
 get taken

00:33:00.879 --> 00:33:01.139
 out of

00:33:01.139 --> 00:33:01.519
 this room

00:33:01.519 --> 00:33:02.599
 and disciplined

00:33:02.599 --> 00:33:03.220
 in the same

00:33:03.220 --> 00:33:03.559
 way,

00:33:04.259 --> 00:33:05.039
 but I am

00:33:05.039 --> 00:33:06.000
 much more

00:33:06.000 --> 00:33:06.879
 quick to

00:33:06.879 --> 00:33:07.679
 deliver discipline

00:33:07.679 --> 00:33:08.419
 of the

00:33:08.419 --> 00:33:09.159
 physical form

00:33:09.159 --> 00:33:10.839
 in my

00:33:10.839 --> 00:33:11.379
 living room

00:33:11.379 --> 00:33:11.819
 than I

00:33:11.819 --> 00:33:12.119
 would be

00:33:12.119 --> 00:33:12.439
 here.

00:33:12.559 --> 00:33:13.019
 I don't

00:33:13.019 --> 00:33:14.460
 think people

00:33:14.460 --> 00:33:15.000
 would appreciate

00:33:15.000 --> 00:33:15.779
 hearing a little

00:33:15.779 --> 00:33:16.419
 outcry and

00:33:16.419 --> 00:33:17.039
 hearing the

00:33:17.039 --> 00:33:17.619
 smack that

00:33:17.619 --> 00:33:18.059
 would follow

00:33:18.059 --> 00:33:19.599
 that,

00:33:20.339 --> 00:33:20.799
 and then the

00:33:20.799 --> 00:33:21.220
 crying that

00:33:21.220 --> 00:33:21.899
 would ensue.

00:33:22.560 --> 00:33:23.120
 This isn't

00:33:23.120 --> 00:33:23.780
 the best

00:33:23.780 --> 00:33:24.759
 place.

00:33:25.180 --> 00:33:25.380
 And we

00:33:25.380 --> 00:33:25.960
 across the

00:33:25.960 --> 00:33:27.380
 years have

00:33:27.380 --> 00:33:28.060
 encountered

00:33:28.060 --> 00:33:29.259
 a parent that

00:33:29.259 --> 00:33:30.100
 really tries to

00:33:30.100 --> 00:33:30.500
 work it out

00:33:30.500 --> 00:33:30.780
 here,

00:33:30.920 --> 00:33:31.300
 and so there's

00:33:31.300 --> 00:33:31.840
 the noise

00:33:31.840 --> 00:33:32.340
 and the

00:33:32.340 --> 00:33:33.040
 shh and

00:33:33.040 --> 00:33:33.440
 the noise

00:33:33.440 --> 00:33:33.759
 and the

00:33:33.759 --> 00:33:34.180
 shh and

00:33:34.180 --> 00:33:34.580
 the noise

00:33:34.580 --> 00:33:34.860
 and the

00:33:34.860 --> 00:33:35.240
 shh and

00:33:35.240 --> 00:33:35.640
 the noise

00:33:35.640 --> 00:33:35.880
 and the

00:33:35.880 --> 00:33:36.240
 shh and

00:33:36.240 --> 00:33:36.580
 the noise

00:33:36.580 --> 00:33:36.800
 and the

00:33:36.800 --> 00:33:37.040
 shh.

00:33:38.060 --> 00:33:38.580
 And it's

00:33:38.580 --> 00:33:39.400
 more distracting.

00:33:40.100 --> 00:33:40.700
 And the

00:33:40.700 --> 00:33:41.320
 child's not

00:33:41.320 --> 00:33:41.920
 comprehending

00:33:41.920 --> 00:33:42.580
 what's going

00:33:42.580 --> 00:33:43.500
 on in

00:33:43.500 --> 00:33:44.360
 that space.

00:33:44.580 --> 00:33:45.360
 It's not

00:33:45.360 --> 00:33:46.180
 actually the

00:33:46.180 --> 00:33:47.140
 thing that's

00:33:47.140 --> 00:33:48.140
 most needful,

00:33:48.240 --> 00:33:48.400
 right?

00:33:48.440 --> 00:33:48.740
 What they

00:33:48.740 --> 00:33:49.920
 need is to

00:33:49.920 --> 00:33:50.600
 be trained at

00:33:50.600 --> 00:33:51.380
 home and

00:33:51.380 --> 00:33:51.800
 then brought

00:33:51.799 --> 00:33:52.279
 here,

00:33:52.359 --> 00:33:52.539
 and we'll

00:33:52.539 --> 00:33:52.960
 talk a bit

00:33:52.960 --> 00:33:53.519
 more about

00:33:53.519 --> 00:33:54.319
 placing

00:33:54.319 --> 00:33:55.339
 expectations and

00:33:55.339 --> 00:33:56.940
 consequences on

00:33:56.940 --> 00:33:57.759
 the children at

00:33:57.759 --> 00:33:58.180
 that time.

00:33:58.639 --> 00:33:59.099
 The practice

00:33:59.099 --> 00:34:00.099
 at home is

00:34:00.099 --> 00:34:01.180
 absolutely

00:34:01.180 --> 00:34:03.399
 necessary.

00:34:04.680 --> 00:34:05.579
 Start small,

00:34:06.579 --> 00:34:07.859
 take steps,

00:34:08.139 --> 00:34:08.940
 best suit your

00:34:08.940 --> 00:34:09.860
 children and

00:34:09.860 --> 00:34:10.539
 their age,

00:34:10.800 --> 00:34:11.679
 and grow in

00:34:11.679 --> 00:34:11.860
 it.

00:34:11.960 --> 00:34:12.960
 So a

00:34:12.960 --> 00:34:13.139
 wonderful

00:34:13.139 --> 00:34:14.219
 suggestion from

00:34:14.219 --> 00:34:14.699
 the Zwimkes.

00:34:15.139 --> 00:34:16.360
 If you don't

00:34:16.360 --> 00:34:16.840
 know the Zwimkes,

00:34:16.960 --> 00:34:17.460
 I am sorry for

00:34:17.460 --> 00:34:17.619
 that.

00:34:17.619 --> 00:34:18.239
 previous members

00:34:18.239 --> 00:34:18.460
 of our

00:34:18.460 --> 00:34:18.859
 church that

00:34:18.859 --> 00:34:19.319
 are serving

00:34:19.319 --> 00:34:20.219
 in Germany

00:34:20.219 --> 00:34:20.839
 right now,

00:34:21.739 --> 00:34:22.159
 every one of

00:34:22.159 --> 00:34:22.500
 their five

00:34:22.500 --> 00:34:22.839
 girls,

00:34:23.319 --> 00:34:24.199
 Kathleen did

00:34:24.199 --> 00:34:24.420
 what she

00:34:24.420 --> 00:34:25.119
 called blanket

00:34:25.119 --> 00:34:25.599
 time,

00:34:26.380 --> 00:34:27.199
 and she did

00:34:27.199 --> 00:34:27.880
 that largely.

00:34:28.039 --> 00:34:28.279
 She was

00:34:28.279 --> 00:34:28.759
 training them

00:34:28.759 --> 00:34:29.299
 up to

00:34:29.299 --> 00:34:29.960
 self-discipline,

00:34:30.059 --> 00:34:30.480
 but she did

00:34:30.480 --> 00:34:31.019
 that largely

00:34:31.019 --> 00:34:31.579
 to have the

00:34:31.579 --> 00:34:32.339
 kids in the

00:34:32.339 --> 00:34:32.839
 service,

00:34:33.480 --> 00:34:34.420
 gave them a

00:34:34.420 --> 00:34:34.980
 blanket with

00:34:34.980 --> 00:34:36.039
 quiet toys,

00:34:36.179 --> 00:34:36.960
 and expected

00:34:36.960 --> 00:34:37.759
 them to be

00:34:37.759 --> 00:34:38.199
 quiet,

00:34:38.359 --> 00:34:39.420
 in infancy,

00:34:39.940 --> 00:34:40.559
 to be quiet.

00:34:40.960 --> 00:34:41.339
 She was able

00:34:41.339 --> 00:34:41.900
 to sit with

00:34:41.900 --> 00:34:42.400
 them and

00:34:42.400 --> 00:34:43.139
 correct them,

00:34:43.179 --> 00:34:43.819
 to be right

00:34:43.820 --> 00:34:44.400
 there and

00:34:44.400 --> 00:34:45.480
 ready to

00:34:45.480 --> 00:34:46.519
 bring correction

00:34:46.519 --> 00:34:47.000
 to help them

00:34:47.000 --> 00:34:47.500
 understand what

00:34:47.500 --> 00:34:48.580
 that looks like.

00:34:48.760 --> 00:34:49.180
 So you could

00:34:49.180 --> 00:34:49.680
 do something

00:34:49.680 --> 00:34:50.320
 like that at

00:34:50.320 --> 00:34:51.160
 home and

00:34:51.160 --> 00:34:51.980
 then bring it

00:34:51.980 --> 00:34:53.400
 here as well.

00:34:53.680 --> 00:34:54.280
 You're welcome

00:34:54.280 --> 00:34:54.660
 to put a

00:34:54.660 --> 00:34:55.200
 blanket in the

00:34:55.200 --> 00:34:55.460
 aisle.

00:34:55.860 --> 00:34:56.240
 The fire

00:34:56.240 --> 00:34:57.460
 inspector never

00:34:57.460 --> 00:34:58.080
 shows up on

00:34:58.080 --> 00:34:58.340
 a Sunday

00:34:58.340 --> 00:34:58.680
 morning.

00:34:59.960 --> 00:35:01.100
 So think

00:35:01.100 --> 00:35:01.660
 about things

00:35:01.660 --> 00:35:02.039
 you could

00:35:02.039 --> 00:35:02.780
 implement at

00:35:02.780 --> 00:35:03.320
 home and

00:35:03.320 --> 00:35:03.780
 then bring

00:35:03.780 --> 00:35:05.100
 with you here.

00:35:05.220 --> 00:35:05.980
 We, with our

00:35:05.980 --> 00:35:07.120
 boys, had a

00:35:07.120 --> 00:35:08.019
 little seat that

00:35:08.019 --> 00:35:08.600
 you strapped a

00:35:08.600 --> 00:35:09.059
 kid into,

00:35:09.480 --> 00:35:10.340
 and we worked

00:35:10.340 --> 00:35:10.900
 at home on

00:35:10.900 --> 00:35:11.340
 helping them

00:35:11.340 --> 00:35:11.700
 learn to be

00:35:11.700 --> 00:35:12.280
 quiet at

00:35:12.280 --> 00:35:13.039
 home, and

00:35:13.039 --> 00:35:13.620
 they sat in

00:35:13.619 --> 00:35:14.500
 a chair here,

00:35:14.599 --> 00:35:15.079
 and it made

00:35:15.079 --> 00:35:15.900
 sense to them.

00:35:15.960 --> 00:35:16.639
 If I sit here,

00:35:16.940 --> 00:35:17.739
 I can nibble on

00:35:17.739 --> 00:35:18.759
 Cheerios as long

00:35:18.759 --> 00:35:19.380
 as I'm quiet.

00:35:20.739 --> 00:35:21.619
 So you can work

00:35:21.619 --> 00:35:23.179
 on these types

00:35:23.179 --> 00:35:24.839
 of things.

00:35:24.980 --> 00:35:25.299
 You could have

00:35:25.299 --> 00:35:26.000
 other forms of

00:35:26.000 --> 00:35:26.839
 quiet play with

00:35:26.839 --> 00:35:28.159
 older kids, and

00:35:28.159 --> 00:35:28.980
 let me tell you,

00:35:29.500 --> 00:35:30.039
 if you're a parent

00:35:30.039 --> 00:35:30.599
 and you feel like

00:35:30.599 --> 00:35:31.159
 you have no extra

00:35:31.159 --> 00:35:31.779
 time in your day,

00:35:31.859 --> 00:35:32.539
 you are going to

00:35:32.539 --> 00:35:33.799
 love doing this

00:35:33.799 --> 00:35:34.279
 kind of training

00:35:34.279 --> 00:35:34.539
 because it's

00:35:34.539 --> 00:35:34.940
 going to give

00:35:34.940 --> 00:35:36.219
 you time in

00:35:36.219 --> 00:35:36.579
 your day.

00:35:36.900 --> 00:35:37.579
 We do at our

00:35:37.579 --> 00:35:38.579
 house, I call it

00:35:38.579 --> 00:35:39.139
 book time.

00:35:39.799 --> 00:35:40.139
 The boys know

00:35:40.139 --> 00:35:40.639
 exactly what I'm

00:35:40.639 --> 00:35:41.219
 talking about,

00:35:41.420 --> 00:35:41.940
 and it's usually

00:35:41.940 --> 00:35:43.539
 when my brain's

00:35:43.539 --> 00:35:44.179
 about to explode

00:35:44.179 --> 00:35:44.659
 from the noise

00:35:44.659 --> 00:35:45.139
 in the house,

00:35:45.679 --> 00:35:46.199
 and I've almost

00:35:46.199 --> 00:35:46.800
 always got a book

00:35:46.800 --> 00:35:47.380
 with me that I

00:35:47.380 --> 00:35:47.920
 would love to

00:35:47.920 --> 00:35:48.880
 read, and I

00:35:48.880 --> 00:35:50.039
 sit them on the

00:35:50.039 --> 00:35:50.300
 couch.

00:35:50.400 --> 00:35:50.779
 They get a big

00:35:50.779 --> 00:35:51.320
 stack of books

00:35:51.320 --> 00:35:51.920
 each, and they

00:35:51.920 --> 00:35:52.440
 sit on the couch.

00:35:52.500 --> 00:35:52.860
 They were doing

00:35:52.860 --> 00:35:53.739
 this before any

00:35:53.739 --> 00:35:54.159
 of them were

00:35:54.159 --> 00:35:54.759
 readers, just

00:35:54.759 --> 00:35:56.320
 looking at pages

00:35:56.320 --> 00:35:57.800
 of books, and I

00:35:57.800 --> 00:35:58.460
 sit in a chair next

00:35:58.460 --> 00:35:59.880
 to them, and I

00:35:59.880 --> 00:36:00.199
 can bring

00:36:00.199 --> 00:36:01.940
 correction, verbal

00:36:01.940 --> 00:36:03.820
 correction, loudly,

00:36:03.820 --> 00:36:04.820
 Judah.

00:36:04.820 --> 00:36:06.400
 Judah, we're being

00:36:06.400 --> 00:36:07.360
 quiet right now.

00:36:07.500 --> 00:36:08.019
 You know you're

00:36:08.019 --> 00:36:08.480
 supposed to be

00:36:08.480 --> 00:36:08.820
 quiet.

00:36:09.519 --> 00:36:10.300
 And we worked

00:36:10.300 --> 00:36:11.440
 our time up in

00:36:11.440 --> 00:36:12.600
 that way, so now

00:36:12.600 --> 00:36:13.780
 I expect 45

00:36:13.780 --> 00:36:14.460
 minutes, and they

00:36:14.460 --> 00:36:15.039
 sit there very

00:36:15.039 --> 00:36:15.920
 quietly for 45

00:36:15.920 --> 00:36:17.240
 minutes and look

00:36:17.240 --> 00:36:17.780
 at books, and

00:36:17.780 --> 00:36:18.580
 we're working with

00:36:18.580 --> 00:36:19.420
 our two-year-old

00:36:19.420 --> 00:36:20.820
 Silas to join in

00:36:20.820 --> 00:36:21.420
 on that.

00:36:21.880 --> 00:36:22.720
 I expect it for a

00:36:22.720 --> 00:36:23.580
 while, and then I'll

00:36:23.580 --> 00:36:24.080
 let him off the

00:36:24.080 --> 00:36:24.780
 couch and go do

00:36:24.780 --> 00:36:25.480
 something else,

00:36:25.580 --> 00:36:26.780
 because his poor

00:36:26.780 --> 00:36:27.740
 little body is

00:36:27.740 --> 00:36:29.440
 freaking out.

00:36:29.780 --> 00:36:29.840
 Right?

00:36:29.840 --> 00:36:31.660
 So you need to

00:36:31.660 --> 00:36:32.640
 practice at home, and

00:36:32.640 --> 00:36:33.480
 you need to be

00:36:33.480 --> 00:36:34.260
 appropriate, and you

00:36:34.260 --> 00:36:34.920
 need to work your

00:36:34.920 --> 00:36:36.320
 way up.

00:36:36.800 --> 00:36:37.640
 It's difficult to

00:36:37.640 --> 00:36:38.720
 expect absolute

00:36:38.720 --> 00:36:40.220
 silence from your

00:36:40.220 --> 00:36:40.700
 children.

00:36:41.300 --> 00:36:42.300
 Please know I don't

00:36:42.300 --> 00:36:43.180
 expect absolute

00:36:43.180 --> 00:36:45.039
 silence from your

00:36:45.039 --> 00:36:46.559
 children, but your

00:36:46.559 --> 00:36:47.480
 children can be

00:36:47.480 --> 00:36:48.680
 taught to control

00:36:48.680 --> 00:36:49.900
 their volume.

00:36:50.480 --> 00:36:51.519
 Even a little one

00:36:51.519 --> 00:36:52.360
 can learn how to

00:36:52.360 --> 00:36:52.700
 whisper.

00:36:53.960 --> 00:36:54.720
 I use a hand

00:36:54.720 --> 00:36:55.100
 symbol.

00:36:55.860 --> 00:36:56.720
 Instead of shushing,

00:36:56.820 --> 00:36:58.059
 I go like this, and

00:36:58.059 --> 00:36:58.740
 they get it.

00:36:58.940 --> 00:36:59.760
 Because when I go

00:36:59.760 --> 00:37:00.480
 like this, I start

00:37:00.480 --> 00:37:01.000
 talking more

00:37:01.000 --> 00:37:01.320
 quietly.

00:37:01.940 --> 00:37:02.540
 And it's really

00:37:02.540 --> 00:37:03.420
 incredible how

00:37:03.420 --> 00:37:04.440
 smart they are, and

00:37:04.440 --> 00:37:04.960
 how they can pick

00:37:04.960 --> 00:37:05.580
 that kind of thing

00:37:05.580 --> 00:37:05.860
 up.

00:37:06.400 --> 00:37:07.080
 So you can teach

00:37:07.080 --> 00:37:08.020
 your kids to bring

00:37:08.020 --> 00:37:09.560
 their volume down,

00:37:09.640 --> 00:37:10.520
 so that if they do

00:37:10.520 --> 00:37:12.200
 need something when

00:37:12.200 --> 00:37:12.580
 we're meeting

00:37:12.580 --> 00:37:13.760
 together, they can

00:37:13.760 --> 00:37:15.340
 ask for it

00:37:15.340 --> 00:37:16.440
 appropriately.

00:37:17.480 --> 00:37:17.600
 Right?

00:37:19.000 --> 00:37:20.120
 If you need to,

00:37:20.840 --> 00:37:21.900
 sit with your kids,

00:37:22.180 --> 00:37:23.820
 join them on the

00:37:23.820 --> 00:37:24.800
 couch, on the

00:37:24.800 --> 00:37:26.160
 floor, set some

00:37:26.160 --> 00:37:27.280
 time aside in your

00:37:27.280 --> 00:37:28.940
 day to actually

00:37:28.940 --> 00:37:30.220
 show them what it

00:37:30.220 --> 00:37:31.139
 looks like to do

00:37:31.139 --> 00:37:31.780
 the thing you're

00:37:31.780 --> 00:37:33.019
 asking them to do.

00:37:33.220 --> 00:37:33.780
 Like, don't give

00:37:33.780 --> 00:37:35.139
 them a far-off

00:37:35.139 --> 00:37:36.260
 concept of what it

00:37:36.260 --> 00:37:36.820
 means to sit

00:37:36.820 --> 00:37:37.200
 quietly.

00:37:38.240 --> 00:37:39.059
 Tell them and then

00:37:39.059 --> 00:37:40.220
 show them what it

00:37:40.220 --> 00:37:41.300
 looks like to sit

00:37:41.300 --> 00:37:41.679
 quietly.

00:37:42.099 --> 00:37:43.559
 We periodically have

00:37:43.559 --> 00:37:44.019
 a little share

00:37:44.019 --> 00:37:45.320
 circle in our house,

00:37:45.440 --> 00:37:46.159
 and I teach the

00:37:46.159 --> 00:37:46.820
 kids how to ask

00:37:46.820 --> 00:37:48.360
 nicely and to share,

00:37:48.579 --> 00:37:49.340
 and I'm still doing

00:37:49.340 --> 00:37:49.820
 this with our

00:37:49.820 --> 00:37:50.800
 eight-year-old who

00:37:50.800 --> 00:37:51.539
 now thinks it's the

00:37:51.539 --> 00:37:52.159
 most boring,

00:37:52.320 --> 00:37:53.619
 ridiculous task, but

00:37:53.619 --> 00:37:54.639
 yet hasn't learned

00:37:54.639 --> 00:37:55.360
 how to do it.

00:37:55.360 --> 00:37:57.360
 And so we model

00:37:57.360 --> 00:37:58.519
 what it looks like.

00:37:58.720 --> 00:37:58.840
 Right?

00:37:58.880 --> 00:37:59.500
 And we're looping

00:37:59.500 --> 00:38:00.340
 now a two-year-old

00:38:00.340 --> 00:38:01.680
 into that process of

00:38:01.680 --> 00:38:02.900
 asking nicely and

00:38:02.900 --> 00:38:04.140
 saying, thank you.

00:38:04.200 --> 00:38:05.099
 And if your brother's

00:38:05.099 --> 00:38:05.860
 not ready to share

00:38:05.860 --> 00:38:06.900
 yet, what do you do?

00:38:07.260 --> 00:38:07.380
 Right?

00:38:07.500 --> 00:38:08.320
 You don't yell and

00:38:08.320 --> 00:38:08.620
 hit.

00:38:09.360 --> 00:38:10.640
 So our children need

00:38:10.640 --> 00:38:11.240
 this kind of thing

00:38:11.240 --> 00:38:12.660
 modeled out for them.

00:38:13.640 --> 00:38:14.640
 The greatest benefit

00:38:14.640 --> 00:38:15.820
 gained from practicing

00:38:15.820 --> 00:38:17.780
 at home is being

00:38:17.780 --> 00:38:19.000
 able to continually

00:38:19.000 --> 00:38:20.220
 worship as a family

00:38:20.220 --> 00:38:22.120
 throughout the week.

00:38:22.119 --> 00:38:24.059
 So you can train at

00:38:24.059 --> 00:38:24.980
 home by doing

00:38:24.980 --> 00:38:26.259
 family worship at

00:38:26.259 --> 00:38:26.519
 home.

00:38:26.679 --> 00:38:27.579
 Picking up these

00:38:27.579 --> 00:38:28.480
 important things that

00:38:28.480 --> 00:38:29.159
 we do on Sunday

00:38:29.159 --> 00:38:30.219
 mornings and doing

00:38:30.219 --> 00:38:31.539
 that in your home as

00:38:31.539 --> 00:38:32.279
 well.

00:38:32.599 --> 00:38:33.839
 It's a wondrous thing

00:38:33.839 --> 00:38:34.440
 for children to

00:38:34.440 --> 00:38:35.819
 understand that God

00:38:35.819 --> 00:38:37.579
 does not only exist

00:38:37.579 --> 00:38:38.819
 on Sundays.

00:38:39.659 --> 00:38:40.480
 This building isn't

00:38:40.480 --> 00:38:41.980
 somehow holy, the

00:38:41.980 --> 00:38:42.739
 place in which we

00:38:42.739 --> 00:38:44.019
 come and meet with

00:38:44.019 --> 00:38:44.279
 him.

00:38:44.480 --> 00:38:45.219
 But those who are

00:38:45.219 --> 00:38:46.400
 God's people are

00:38:46.400 --> 00:38:48.619
 God's dwelling place.

00:38:48.940 --> 00:38:50.659
 And so in every day,

00:38:51.099 --> 00:38:51.900
 our kids need to see

00:38:51.900 --> 00:38:53.320
 us as parents excited

00:38:53.320 --> 00:38:55.440
 to talk about him,

00:38:55.500 --> 00:38:56.519
 to share what we

00:38:56.519 --> 00:38:59.000
 know with them.

00:38:59.320 --> 00:39:00.280
 And I will tell you,

00:39:00.559 --> 00:39:01.900
 parents, if you want

00:39:01.900 --> 00:39:02.880
 to really understand

00:39:02.880 --> 00:39:03.639
 the things of God,

00:39:03.760 --> 00:39:05.900
 try to explain it to

00:39:05.900 --> 00:39:07.039
 a three or four or

00:39:07.039 --> 00:39:07.680
 five-year-old.

00:39:08.160 --> 00:39:09.180
 Try to bring it down

00:39:09.180 --> 00:39:09.980
 to their place.

00:39:11.440 --> 00:39:12.280
 Meditate on it

00:39:12.280 --> 00:39:13.680
 yourself in that way.

00:39:14.099 --> 00:39:14.940
 I hope sometimes

00:39:14.940 --> 00:39:15.780
 Aletheia Way serves

00:39:15.780 --> 00:39:16.639
 you just because you

00:39:16.639 --> 00:39:18.420
 go, oh, you said

00:39:18.420 --> 00:39:18.980
 that in the simplest

00:39:18.980 --> 00:39:19.619
 of terms.

00:39:19.940 --> 00:39:20.619
 And what a glorious

00:39:20.619 --> 00:39:21.539
 truth that is.

00:39:21.900 --> 00:39:22.639
 It's a good thing to

00:39:22.639 --> 00:39:23.000
 consider.

00:39:24.139 --> 00:39:25.539
 Okay, we give clear

00:39:25.539 --> 00:39:26.200
 expectations.

00:39:26.900 --> 00:39:27.900
 We give clear

00:39:27.900 --> 00:39:29.500
 expectations.

00:39:29.980 --> 00:39:31.019
 You have to communicate

00:39:31.019 --> 00:39:31.980
 to your children in

00:39:31.980 --> 00:39:32.940
 advance what you

00:39:32.940 --> 00:39:34.280
 expect of them.

00:39:34.920 --> 00:39:35.840
 Beloved, adults

00:39:35.840 --> 00:39:36.800
 behave this way.

00:39:37.139 --> 00:39:37.619
 Have you ever had a

00:39:37.619 --> 00:39:38.380
 job where you didn't

00:39:38.380 --> 00:39:39.119
 really know what your

00:39:39.119 --> 00:39:40.039
 boss wanted of you and

00:39:40.039 --> 00:39:41.400
 he never quite seemed

00:39:41.400 --> 00:39:42.139
 happy with you?

00:39:42.280 --> 00:39:43.119
 I've had some of those

00:39:43.119 --> 00:39:44.039
 and I hated it.

00:39:44.320 --> 00:39:45.240
 Just tell me what you

00:39:45.240 --> 00:39:46.480
 expect so I can make

00:39:46.480 --> 00:39:48.380
 you happy and go home

00:39:48.380 --> 00:39:49.880
 thinking I've done my

00:39:49.880 --> 00:39:51.780
 job at the end of the

00:39:51.780 --> 00:39:52.079
 day.

00:39:52.280 --> 00:39:54.200
 So tell your kids what

00:39:54.200 --> 00:39:56.440
 it is that you expect

00:39:56.440 --> 00:39:56.820
 of them.

00:39:57.099 --> 00:39:57.519
 And there can be

00:39:57.519 --> 00:39:58.760
 variance in that, the

00:39:58.760 --> 00:40:00.079
 expectations you have

00:40:00.079 --> 00:40:00.960
 for your kids.

00:40:01.160 --> 00:40:02.400
 Some parents are going

00:40:02.400 --> 00:40:03.140
 to want their kids to

00:40:03.140 --> 00:40:04.460
 sit perfectly still,

00:40:05.160 --> 00:40:06.700
 attentive, listening to

00:40:06.700 --> 00:40:07.440
 every word that comes

00:40:07.440 --> 00:40:08.059
 out of my mouth.

00:40:08.340 --> 00:40:09.240
 Some parents are going

00:40:09.240 --> 00:40:09.900
 to let their kids look

00:40:09.900 --> 00:40:12.119
 at books or draw or do

00:40:12.119 --> 00:40:13.640
 mazes or whatever.

00:40:13.820 --> 00:40:14.780
 That is fine.

00:40:14.780 --> 00:40:16.300
 Just let your kids know

00:40:16.300 --> 00:40:17.500
 what it is that you're

00:40:17.500 --> 00:40:19.460
 expecting of them.

00:40:19.940 --> 00:40:21.300
 Please include in that

00:40:21.300 --> 00:40:23.360
 not being distracting.

00:40:23.860 --> 00:40:23.980
 Right?

00:40:24.260 --> 00:40:25.320
 Not being distracting.

00:40:25.519 --> 00:40:26.360
 Like what we are doing

00:40:26.360 --> 00:40:27.480
 together is weighty.

00:40:27.540 --> 00:40:29.500
 The primary thing we're

00:40:29.500 --> 00:40:30.820
 doing is not helping you

00:40:30.820 --> 00:40:31.440
 train your kids.

00:40:31.860 --> 00:40:33.220
 The primary thing we're

00:40:33.220 --> 00:40:34.400
 doing is gathering

00:40:34.400 --> 00:40:35.640
 together to be equipped

00:40:35.640 --> 00:40:37.700
 for every good work.

00:40:37.840 --> 00:40:40.440
 So keep that in mind.

00:40:41.240 --> 00:40:41.940
 Alongside of your

00:40:41.940 --> 00:40:42.800
 expectations for them,

00:40:42.900 --> 00:40:44.040
 make sure they know what

00:40:44.039 --> 00:40:45.980
 can be expected when

00:40:45.980 --> 00:40:47.320
 they misbehave.

00:40:48.279 --> 00:40:48.940
 As you lay out

00:40:48.940 --> 00:40:49.800
 expectations for their

00:40:49.800 --> 00:40:51.599
 behavior, have clear

00:40:51.599 --> 00:40:53.000
 consequences for

00:40:53.000 --> 00:40:54.039
 disobedience.

00:40:54.460 --> 00:40:55.759
 This is what will happen

00:40:55.759 --> 00:40:58.000
 if you don't obey.

00:40:58.739 --> 00:41:00.139
 Be consistent with your

00:41:00.139 --> 00:41:01.179
 children by always

00:41:01.179 --> 00:41:02.239
 following through with

00:41:02.239 --> 00:41:03.940
 stated consequences.

00:41:04.559 --> 00:41:06.019
 And this absolutely gets

00:41:06.019 --> 00:41:06.360
 repetitive.

00:41:07.159 --> 00:41:08.199
 It absolutely does.

00:41:09.380 --> 00:41:11.639
 But repetition is a key

00:41:11.639 --> 00:41:13.639
 in training little ones.

00:41:13.639 --> 00:41:15.079
 So you guys all know how

00:41:15.079 --> 00:41:16.359
 I like to alliterate and

00:41:16.359 --> 00:41:17.639
 it seems like everything I

00:41:17.639 --> 00:41:19.059
 alliterate in my world

00:41:19.059 --> 00:41:20.239
 starts with a C.

00:41:21.059 --> 00:41:22.159
 This is no exception to

00:41:22.159 --> 00:41:22.420
 that.

00:41:24.139 --> 00:41:25.400
 If you ask me what our

00:41:25.400 --> 00:41:26.719
 philosophy for training our

00:41:26.719 --> 00:41:27.960
 children is, I will tell

00:41:27.960 --> 00:41:29.079
 you clear expectations,

00:41:30.299 --> 00:41:31.059
 clear consequences,

00:41:31.579 --> 00:41:33.000
 and consistency.

00:41:33.679 --> 00:41:36.139
 We absolutely have to

00:41:36.139 --> 00:41:37.960
 follow through with our

00:41:37.960 --> 00:41:38.159
 children.

00:41:38.319 --> 00:41:39.099
 So clear expectations,

00:41:39.299 --> 00:41:39.859
 clear consequences,

00:41:39.860 --> 00:41:41.579
 promises, and consistency.

00:41:43.140 --> 00:41:45.480
 Next, we are prepared.

00:41:45.940 --> 00:41:46.900
 We are prepared.

00:41:47.640 --> 00:41:48.579
 Prep your children for

00:41:48.579 --> 00:41:49.519
 coming to church, right?

00:41:49.559 --> 00:41:50.519
 Part of that is stating

00:41:50.519 --> 00:41:51.900
 expectations, right?

00:41:51.920 --> 00:41:53.360
 You can turn their minds to

00:41:53.360 --> 00:41:54.760
 what is important about the

00:41:54.760 --> 00:41:55.000
 day.

00:41:55.079 --> 00:41:55.980
 If you have older children,

00:41:56.059 --> 00:41:57.220
 you begin to talk to them

00:41:57.220 --> 00:41:58.760
 about last week's text,

00:41:59.280 --> 00:42:00.640
 what we may be preaching

00:42:00.640 --> 00:42:01.680
 about this week, although

00:42:01.680 --> 00:42:03.420
 these days, who knows what

00:42:03.420 --> 00:42:04.079
 text we'll be in.

00:42:04.480 --> 00:42:06.019
 But typically, you can look

00:42:06.019 --> 00:42:07.319
 at where we are in the

00:42:07.319 --> 00:42:09.299
 Scripture and see, with a

00:42:09.299 --> 00:42:10.599
 fair guess, what verses

00:42:10.599 --> 00:42:11.980
 will come next in our

00:42:11.980 --> 00:42:14.199
 verse-by-verse exposition.

00:42:14.860 --> 00:42:16.360
 It helps to hit the ground

00:42:16.360 --> 00:42:17.900
 running, take the kids to

00:42:17.900 --> 00:42:19.920
 the bathroom before you come

00:42:19.920 --> 00:42:21.940
 inside, have their things

00:42:21.940 --> 00:42:22.920
 ready to go.

00:42:23.019 --> 00:42:24.219
 So when we sit down and it's

00:42:24.219 --> 00:42:25.599
 time to open God's Word and

00:42:25.599 --> 00:42:26.659
 preach, you're not fumbling

00:42:26.659 --> 00:42:28.460
 through backpacks and opening

00:42:28.460 --> 00:42:31.819
 up loud containers, right?

00:42:31.820 --> 00:42:36.120
 Let me suggest to you, bags

00:42:36.120 --> 00:42:37.840
 that aren't crunchy and food

00:42:37.840 --> 00:42:40.180
 that's not crunchy and toys

00:42:40.180 --> 00:42:41.539
 that don't bang together,

00:42:41.720 --> 00:42:42.780
 like, think about things that

00:42:42.780 --> 00:42:43.960
 are quiet because it'll keep

00:42:43.960 --> 00:42:44.900
 them quiet, right?

00:42:44.920 --> 00:42:45.860
 As they're seeing, I don't

00:42:45.860 --> 00:42:47.539
 make noise with the stuff

00:42:47.539 --> 00:42:49.059
 that I'm playing with.

00:42:49.140 --> 00:42:50.840
 It'll help keep their volume

00:42:50.840 --> 00:42:51.600
 down.

00:42:51.980 --> 00:42:53.480
 But as they get louder here,

00:42:54.140 --> 00:42:54.860
 they feel a little more

00:42:54.860 --> 00:42:56.260
 justified to speak up over the

00:42:56.260 --> 00:42:56.740
 top of.

00:42:56.820 --> 00:42:57.559
 So it can be really, really

00:42:57.559 --> 00:42:59.519
 helpful to be thoughtful of

00:42:59.519 --> 00:42:59.920
 that, right?

00:42:59.920 --> 00:43:03.220
 Like a pencil bag that, right,

00:43:03.280 --> 00:43:04.780
 maybe has a quiet Ziploc thing

00:43:04.780 --> 00:43:06.700
 in its cloth rather than a

00:43:06.700 --> 00:43:09.139
 giant Ziploc bag that has to

00:43:09.139 --> 00:43:10.500
 be crunched in and out of to

00:43:10.500 --> 00:43:11.559
 get things in and out of it.

00:43:11.940 --> 00:43:13.260
 Could be an example of

00:43:13.260 --> 00:43:15.519
 something like that, right?

00:43:15.659 --> 00:43:16.500
 You don't want your kids

00:43:16.500 --> 00:43:17.680
 frantically jumping up and

00:43:17.680 --> 00:43:18.760
 down and trying to find their

00:43:18.760 --> 00:43:20.000
 stuff, right?

00:43:20.000 --> 00:43:21.680
 When we begin to sit down

00:43:21.680 --> 00:43:23.480
 together, it'll help them come

00:43:23.480 --> 00:43:26.700
 sit down, settle in for our

00:43:26.700 --> 00:43:27.579
 time, right?

00:43:27.579 --> 00:43:31.239
 You have to prepare yourself

00:43:31.239 --> 00:43:32.039
 as well.

00:43:33.900 --> 00:43:35.239
 It will be hard to fully

00:43:35.239 --> 00:43:37.019
 listen to an entire sermon

00:43:37.019 --> 00:43:39.500
 with a squirmy, noisy

00:43:39.500 --> 00:43:39.880
 toddler.

00:43:40.519 --> 00:43:41.059
 Amen, parents?

00:43:42.179 --> 00:43:44.000
 This means that you cannot

00:43:44.000 --> 00:43:45.480
 expect a Sunday morning to be

00:43:45.480 --> 00:43:47.739
 your only biblical fuel for

00:43:47.739 --> 00:43:48.119
 the week.

00:43:48.460 --> 00:43:49.699
 This is true for every single

00:43:49.699 --> 00:43:50.960
 one of us, right?

00:43:50.980 --> 00:43:51.779
 This can't be it.

00:43:51.920 --> 00:43:53.159
 You will be malnourished if

00:43:53.159 --> 00:43:55.079
 this is the only Bible you

00:43:55.079 --> 00:43:55.400
 get.

00:43:55.599 --> 00:43:56.360
 You see this morning,

00:43:56.360 --> 00:43:57.200
 you're getting very little

00:43:57.200 --> 00:43:57.780
 of it, right?

00:43:57.860 --> 00:43:59.860
 Ephesians chapter 6 and

00:43:59.860 --> 00:44:00.380
 verse 4.

00:44:02.599 --> 00:44:04.700
 So, what should we be doing

00:44:04.700 --> 00:44:05.920
 throughout the week, right?

00:44:05.960 --> 00:44:06.940
 We ought to be feeding

00:44:06.940 --> 00:44:09.160
 ourselves from the Holy

00:44:09.160 --> 00:44:12.099
 Writ every single day.

00:44:12.440 --> 00:44:14.920
 Being filled up with the

00:44:14.920 --> 00:44:16.599
 Bible will help you come

00:44:16.599 --> 00:44:18.200
 here and maybe miss the

00:44:18.200 --> 00:44:20.280
 third point from the second

00:44:20.280 --> 00:44:20.760
 point.

00:44:21.260 --> 00:44:23.180
 And you'll be okay if you do

00:44:23.180 --> 00:44:24.000
 that thing.

00:44:24.099 --> 00:44:25.860
 Go back and listen to the

00:44:25.860 --> 00:44:28.140
 recording or ladies, ask your

00:44:28.140 --> 00:44:29.420
 attentive husband what was

00:44:29.420 --> 00:44:31.300
 said there, right?

00:44:31.700 --> 00:44:33.300
 Sermons are necessary, but

00:44:33.300 --> 00:44:34.440
 they are certainly not

00:44:34.440 --> 00:44:35.260
 enough.

00:44:35.860 --> 00:44:36.620
 They're certainly not

00:44:36.620 --> 00:44:38.000
 enough.

00:44:38.620 --> 00:44:41.260
 And as you teach your

00:44:41.260 --> 00:44:42.280
 children, as you prepare your

00:44:42.280 --> 00:44:43.260
 children, right?

00:44:43.420 --> 00:44:45.120
 Keep in mind, for those of us

00:44:45.120 --> 00:44:46.099
 with young children, these are

00:44:46.099 --> 00:44:48.320
 working years and there will

00:44:48.320 --> 00:44:50.360
 come reaping years.

00:44:50.460 --> 00:44:51.599
 This is another Kathleen's

00:44:51.599 --> 00:44:52.860
 Wimke mantra.

00:44:52.860 --> 00:44:53.500
 mantra.

00:44:54.240 --> 00:44:55.440
 And if you guys know those

00:44:55.440 --> 00:44:56.420
 Wimkes, you knew how

00:44:56.420 --> 00:44:58.579
 wonderfully obedient her older

00:44:58.579 --> 00:44:59.620
 girls were.

00:45:00.180 --> 00:45:02.120
 They were just a joy to have

00:45:02.120 --> 00:45:03.120
 around because they were

00:45:03.120 --> 00:45:06.120
 really invested in as young

00:45:06.120 --> 00:45:07.079
 children.

00:45:07.300 --> 00:45:08.740
 So, keep that in mind as we're

00:45:08.740 --> 00:45:09.920
 doing the hard work of training

00:45:09.920 --> 00:45:11.059
 our kids, right?

00:45:11.059 --> 00:45:13.240
 That we are going to reap a

00:45:13.240 --> 00:45:15.500
 reward for that kind of work.

00:45:15.500 --> 00:45:18.539
 As your children grow, if they

00:45:18.539 --> 00:45:20.239
 are trained, what a blessing

00:45:20.239 --> 00:45:21.880
 it would be, what wonderful

00:45:21.880 --> 00:45:23.280
 things would be, that they

00:45:23.280 --> 00:45:24.739
 will be able to learn right

00:45:24.739 --> 00:45:26.460
 alongside of you.

00:45:26.920 --> 00:45:28.159
 And you will learn together as a

00:45:28.159 --> 00:45:28.940
 family, right?

00:45:28.960 --> 00:45:30.860
 To sit together and to hear

00:45:30.860 --> 00:45:32.559
 God's Word preached, to have

00:45:32.559 --> 00:45:34.360
 conversations about it all

00:45:34.360 --> 00:45:35.639
 afternoon, right?

00:45:35.960 --> 00:45:36.940
 Until nap time comes.

00:45:37.480 --> 00:45:39.460
 What a glorious thing that would

00:45:39.460 --> 00:45:39.639
 be.

00:45:40.500 --> 00:45:41.380
 Okay, we discipline.

00:45:42.699 --> 00:45:43.880
 Proper discipline can be a

00:45:43.880 --> 00:45:45.660
 difficult thing to navigate, but

00:45:45.660 --> 00:45:47.160
 we can be sure that it is

00:45:47.160 --> 00:45:48.059
 necessary.

00:45:49.000 --> 00:45:50.440
 Proverbs 22, 15 says that

00:45:50.440 --> 00:45:51.539
 folly is bound up in the heart

00:45:51.539 --> 00:45:53.260
 of a child, but the rod of

00:45:53.260 --> 00:45:55.119
 discipline drives it far from

00:45:55.119 --> 00:45:55.360
 him.

00:45:55.440 --> 00:45:56.079
 So, we're talking about

00:45:56.079 --> 00:45:57.920
 corrective discipline.

00:45:58.579 --> 00:46:00.740
 Later in Proverbs 29, verse 15,

00:46:01.400 --> 00:46:03.460
 the rod and reproof give

00:46:03.460 --> 00:46:05.519
 wisdom, but a child left to

00:46:05.519 --> 00:46:08.039
 himself brings shame to his

00:46:08.039 --> 00:46:08.820
 mother, right?

00:46:08.820 --> 00:46:10.680
 And the Scripture encourages

00:46:10.680 --> 00:46:12.700
 this kind of corrective

00:46:12.699 --> 00:46:13.980
 discipline.

00:46:15.319 --> 00:46:16.480
 Disciplining our children,

00:46:16.759 --> 00:46:17.779
 Voddie Bauckham writes, is

00:46:17.779 --> 00:46:18.799
 not about teaching them to

00:46:18.799 --> 00:46:19.739
 behave in a way that won't

00:46:19.739 --> 00:46:20.739
 embarrass us.

00:46:21.759 --> 00:46:22.939
 We are working towards

00:46:22.939 --> 00:46:24.519
 something much more important

00:46:24.519 --> 00:46:25.099
 than that.

00:46:25.439 --> 00:46:26.659
 We're actually raising our

00:46:26.659 --> 00:46:27.699
 children with a view toward

00:46:27.699 --> 00:46:30.199
 leading them to trust and to

00:46:30.199 --> 00:46:31.699
 follow Christ.

00:46:32.480 --> 00:46:34.419
 So, after expectations are set

00:46:34.419 --> 00:46:35.960
 and children understand them,

00:46:36.000 --> 00:46:37.059
 make sure they know the

00:46:37.059 --> 00:46:38.039
 consequences for

00:46:38.039 --> 00:46:38.839
 disobedience.

00:46:38.840 --> 00:46:41.240
 It is good practice to use

00:46:41.240 --> 00:46:42.640
 the same course of discipline

00:46:42.640 --> 00:46:44.579
 as you would at home.

00:46:44.780 --> 00:46:45.820
 Don't confuse them.

00:46:46.100 --> 00:46:47.740
 There's different standards and

00:46:47.740 --> 00:46:50.180
 consequences on Sunday than

00:46:50.180 --> 00:46:52.220
 there are other days of the

00:46:52.220 --> 00:46:52.860
 week, right?

00:46:53.120 --> 00:46:54.519
 Again, for us, we have to

00:46:54.519 --> 00:46:55.600
 remove our children to do the

00:46:55.600 --> 00:46:57.579
 same thing at home from the

00:46:57.579 --> 00:46:57.800
 room.

00:46:57.960 --> 00:47:00.420
 You probably will have to as

00:47:00.420 --> 00:47:00.800
 well.

00:47:01.640 --> 00:47:03.160
 Remember to take advantage of

00:47:03.160 --> 00:47:04.900
 that time at home when you're in

00:47:04.900 --> 00:47:06.099
 an environment where discipline

00:47:06.099 --> 00:47:08.599
 is much, much easier to

00:47:08.599 --> 00:47:09.440
 administer.

00:47:10.340 --> 00:47:11.820
 When you take your kids out of

00:47:11.820 --> 00:47:14.420
 this room, work not only to

00:47:14.420 --> 00:47:15.460
 explain what they're doing

00:47:15.460 --> 00:47:17.260
 wrong, but how it is

00:47:17.260 --> 00:47:19.300
 disobedient and why that

00:47:19.300 --> 00:47:21.960
 disobedience is not okay.

00:47:22.139 --> 00:47:23.139
 You don't want to just blindly

00:47:23.139 --> 00:47:24.460
 discipline without also

00:47:24.460 --> 00:47:26.039
 verbally correcting, helping

00:47:26.039 --> 00:47:27.240
 them to understand, even at the

00:47:27.240 --> 00:47:30.139
 very youngest age.

00:47:30.940 --> 00:47:32.660
 Young parents ask Sam and I

00:47:32.660 --> 00:47:34.480
 often, when do you start

00:47:34.480 --> 00:47:35.559
 disciplining your kids?

00:47:35.659 --> 00:47:36.880
 And we say, on the changing

00:47:36.880 --> 00:47:37.240
 table.

00:47:38.159 --> 00:47:39.659
 You have to begin setting

00:47:39.659 --> 00:47:41.340
 expectations, and our first

00:47:41.340 --> 00:47:43.440
 expectation is don't roll over.

00:47:44.159 --> 00:47:44.780
 That's it.

00:47:45.679 --> 00:47:47.240
 I'm doing a really, really,

00:47:47.380 --> 00:47:49.240
 really hard operation here.

00:47:50.119 --> 00:47:51.800
 If I'm going to not have to

00:47:51.800 --> 00:47:53.460
 take a scalding hot shower, so

00:47:53.460 --> 00:47:55.900
 don't move is the first command

00:47:55.900 --> 00:47:57.460
 we give to our kids.

00:47:57.740 --> 00:47:59.099
 And then we expect that they

00:47:59.099 --> 00:48:00.740
 will not move.

00:48:01.079 --> 00:48:02.420
 And we don't spank our

00:48:02.420 --> 00:48:03.820
 infants, but we put our hand on

00:48:03.820 --> 00:48:05.240
 their chest and pull them down

00:48:05.240 --> 00:48:06.620
 if they're starting to roll

00:48:06.620 --> 00:48:07.000
 over.

00:48:07.400 --> 00:48:08.660
 And boy, do they get it quick.

00:48:09.160 --> 00:48:10.680
 They understand, Dad is not

00:48:10.680 --> 00:48:11.900
 happy with me when I am

00:48:11.900 --> 00:48:14.400
 flipping over and smearing as I

00:48:14.400 --> 00:48:15.600
 go.

00:48:20.280 --> 00:48:25.360
 So, parents, if your children are

00:48:25.360 --> 00:48:26.480
 not keeping the standard that

00:48:26.480 --> 00:48:29.900
 you set for them, don't try to

00:48:29.900 --> 00:48:30.840
 correct, try to correct, try to

00:48:30.840 --> 00:48:31.500
 correct, try to correct.

00:48:31.500 --> 00:48:32.659
 You need to get them up and you

00:48:32.659 --> 00:48:33.460
 need to get them out.

00:48:34.199 --> 00:48:35.960
 In fact, the non-parents in the

00:48:35.960 --> 00:48:37.219
 room need to see you doing that,

00:48:37.539 --> 00:48:39.599
 not trying to pacify them, but

00:48:39.599 --> 00:48:40.820
 moving quickly with them to

00:48:40.820 --> 00:48:41.639
 administer discipline.

00:48:41.900 --> 00:48:42.880
 Like, you have not met the

00:48:42.880 --> 00:48:44.539
 standard, so we're heading out.

00:48:44.980 --> 00:48:46.300
 There will be some discipline for

00:48:46.300 --> 00:48:47.920
 not meeting the standard, and

00:48:47.920 --> 00:48:50.380
 then we'll see how we can

00:48:50.380 --> 00:48:51.699
 correct after that.

00:48:52.199 --> 00:48:53.500
 Once you've left the room, you

00:48:53.500 --> 00:48:55.039
 need to discern if it's possible

00:48:55.039 --> 00:48:56.539
 to return to the meeting room.

00:48:56.539 --> 00:48:59.119
 It may not be possible to return

00:48:59.119 --> 00:49:01.219
 to the room and be fruitful to

00:49:01.219 --> 00:49:03.320
 sit in this space.

00:49:03.559 --> 00:49:04.880
 Again, we have a training space

00:49:04.880 --> 00:49:05.559
 across the hall.

00:49:05.880 --> 00:49:06.860
 That's what that's there for.

00:49:07.119 --> 00:49:07.980
 I know we call it the overflow

00:49:07.980 --> 00:49:09.079
 room, a lot of you do.

00:49:09.500 --> 00:49:10.800
 I call it the training space,

00:49:10.960 --> 00:49:11.179
 right?

00:49:11.519 --> 00:49:12.860
 It's got a TV over there.

00:49:12.980 --> 00:49:14.300
 You can go sit as if you're

00:49:14.300 --> 00:49:15.639
 sitting in here, but there you

00:49:15.639 --> 00:49:16.800
 can be a little more corrective.

00:49:16.860 --> 00:49:17.719
 They can be a little more

00:49:17.719 --> 00:49:20.079
 distracting and help them in that

00:49:20.079 --> 00:49:21.639
 space, right?

00:49:21.960 --> 00:49:24.159
 If they learn that when they have

00:49:24.159 --> 00:49:25.719
 an outburst, they get to go do

00:49:25.719 --> 00:49:26.719
 something more fun.

00:49:27.699 --> 00:49:29.199
 You go across the hall and you

00:49:29.199 --> 00:49:29.839
 put them down.

00:49:30.259 --> 00:49:31.899
 You go put them in child care

00:49:31.899 --> 00:49:32.379
 downstairs.

00:49:32.980 --> 00:49:33.739
 Guess what they're going to do

00:49:33.739 --> 00:49:35.379
 every single Sunday, right?

00:49:35.980 --> 00:49:37.759
 With our kids, fortunately, when

00:49:37.759 --> 00:49:39.480
 both Kate and Judah, our older

00:49:39.480 --> 00:49:42.679
 ones, were young, my brother-in-law

00:49:42.679 --> 00:49:43.799
 was preaching as well, and so I

00:49:43.799 --> 00:49:45.739
 had these big blocks of time that

00:49:45.739 --> 00:49:46.599
 I wouldn't have to preach.

00:49:46.719 --> 00:49:48.059
 And so what I did in those times

00:49:48.059 --> 00:49:50.239
 to help out Sam with our

00:49:50.239 --> 00:49:51.399
 training is that if one of them,

00:49:51.399 --> 00:49:53.799
 I mean, one little outburst,

00:49:54.159 --> 00:49:55.599
 we'd give them a, you need to be

00:49:55.599 --> 00:49:55.879
 quiet.

00:49:56.019 --> 00:49:57.059
 If they didn't do it again, I was

00:49:57.059 --> 00:49:59.399
 up and out of this room, and they

00:49:59.399 --> 00:50:00.059
 would be spanked.

00:50:00.480 --> 00:50:02.199
 And then we would go into the

00:50:02.199 --> 00:50:04.239
 kitchen, because you can hear

00:50:04.239 --> 00:50:05.399
 through that little rolly door

00:50:05.399 --> 00:50:08.179
 back there, what's going on in

00:50:08.179 --> 00:50:08.460
 the room.

00:50:08.519 --> 00:50:09.960
 We didn't have a cool TV across

00:50:09.960 --> 00:50:10.699
 the hall at the time.

00:50:11.399 --> 00:50:12.659
 And I would make them put their

00:50:12.659 --> 00:50:14.659
 head down on my shoulder and be

00:50:14.659 --> 00:50:14.980
 quiet.

00:50:15.679 --> 00:50:16.839
 It's a lot less fun.

00:50:17.679 --> 00:50:18.940
 In here, they got to sit and look

00:50:18.940 --> 00:50:20.519
 at a book, right, or color.

00:50:20.519 --> 00:50:22.460
 When they weren't appropriate,

00:50:23.099 --> 00:50:24.400
 they got to do nothing.

00:50:25.519 --> 00:50:27.239
 Often they fell asleep when we did

00:50:27.239 --> 00:50:28.139
 that, right?

00:50:28.280 --> 00:50:30.920
 But it got less fun for them, and

00:50:30.920 --> 00:50:32.579
 so they really quickly said, gosh,

00:50:32.960 --> 00:50:34.199
 if I want to keep coloring, I've got

00:50:34.199 --> 00:50:34.780
 to be quiet.

00:50:35.340 --> 00:50:36.820
 And they learned to sit and to be

00:50:36.820 --> 00:50:38.440
 quiet in that way.

00:50:38.539 --> 00:50:41.739
 And so you want to figure out the

00:50:41.739 --> 00:50:43.599
 best way to move them to where you'd

00:50:43.599 --> 00:50:46.259
 like for them to be here with us in

00:50:46.260 --> 00:50:48.340
 the room, right?

00:50:48.620 --> 00:50:50.300
 Remember that training area is there

00:50:50.300 --> 00:50:52.300
 to serve you and to help you in

00:50:52.300 --> 00:50:54.720
 eventually bringing kids over here.

00:50:54.820 --> 00:50:55.660
 Don't put them down.

00:50:56.320 --> 00:50:58.180
 Make them sit in your lap in here.

00:50:58.320 --> 00:50:59.420
 Maybe they can sit in a chair out

00:50:59.420 --> 00:50:59.800
 over there.

00:50:59.880 --> 00:51:02.000
 Maybe make them sit in your lap so

00:51:02.000 --> 00:51:04.460
 it's less fun in that way.

00:51:05.260 --> 00:51:08.180
 So moms of nursing infants, you know

00:51:08.180 --> 00:51:09.680
 there's a nursing room there for you.

00:51:09.780 --> 00:51:12.040
 Certainly happy to have you use that.

00:51:12.780 --> 00:51:14.060
 So how we help you do it, let me

00:51:14.060 --> 00:51:15.620
 just run this really quickly.

00:51:16.380 --> 00:51:17.800
 We do have child care downstairs

00:51:17.800 --> 00:51:20.880
 during this time for other meetings

00:51:20.880 --> 00:51:21.720
 that we have.

00:51:22.300 --> 00:51:24.080
 We understand not all families and

00:51:24.080 --> 00:51:26.020
 visitors have children who are ready

00:51:26.020 --> 00:51:27.240
 to sit through a Sunday gathering.

00:51:27.600 --> 00:51:29.060
 Some aren't ready for it yet and are

00:51:29.060 --> 00:51:30.620
 still in the process, right?

00:51:30.880 --> 00:51:32.480
 They don't need to be put in the game

00:51:32.480 --> 00:51:32.740
 yet.

00:51:32.860 --> 00:51:34.280
 They still need to be trained at home.

00:51:35.300 --> 00:51:37.780
 So training a child takes this time

00:51:37.780 --> 00:51:40.420
 and patient sacrifice and we want to

00:51:40.420 --> 00:51:40.760
 help.

00:51:40.940 --> 00:51:42.260
 We want to be here to support you in

00:51:42.260 --> 00:51:42.480
 that.

00:51:43.780 --> 00:51:45.660
 The child care is provided with the

00:51:45.659 --> 00:51:48.460
 short-term goal of accommodating

00:51:48.460 --> 00:51:50.379
 visitors and we have had the family

00:51:50.379 --> 00:51:51.859
 that walks in and we go, hey, did you

00:51:51.859 --> 00:51:52.079
 know?

00:51:52.159 --> 00:51:54.319
 And I go, I mean, they are not prepared

00:51:54.319 --> 00:51:57.000
 at all for having their children sit with

00:51:57.000 --> 00:51:58.319
 them in the service.

00:51:58.719 --> 00:51:59.359
 What a great thing.

00:51:59.420 --> 00:51:59.960
 We have child care.

00:52:00.019 --> 00:52:00.759
 Hey, that's no problem.

00:52:01.699 --> 00:52:02.719
 We'd love for your kids to come

00:52:02.719 --> 00:52:03.119
 downstairs.

00:52:03.779 --> 00:52:05.359
 That'd be totally okay.

00:52:05.360 --> 00:52:05.539
 Okay.

00:52:06.059 --> 00:52:08.680
 So that short-term goal and for also

00:52:08.680 --> 00:52:10.620
 helping families with children in

00:52:10.620 --> 00:52:11.780
 foster care, right?

00:52:11.840 --> 00:52:14.599
 Children who are coming from being

00:52:14.599 --> 00:52:16.519
 trained differently and trying to

00:52:16.519 --> 00:52:18.680
 learn can be a very difficult thing.

00:52:18.740 --> 00:52:19.880
 So we want to serve those families

00:52:19.880 --> 00:52:20.300
 well.

00:52:20.960 --> 00:52:23.519
 But also the long-term goal of helping

00:52:23.519 --> 00:52:26.000
 new member parents who join our church

00:52:26.000 --> 00:52:29.160
 or new parents transition their kids

00:52:29.160 --> 00:52:31.000
 into sitting through worship.

00:52:31.000 --> 00:52:33.019
 And so I want to encourage you to do

00:52:33.019 --> 00:52:34.960
 that as quickly as you can.

00:52:35.199 --> 00:52:37.400
 Like really try to work your kids up

00:52:37.400 --> 00:52:39.440
 here as quickly as you can.

00:52:39.800 --> 00:52:40.480
 Work them up here.

00:52:41.400 --> 00:52:43.059
 If you wait till your child is three

00:52:43.059 --> 00:52:44.139
 years old to start training him to

00:52:44.139 --> 00:52:45.619
 sit in here, you're starting from

00:52:45.619 --> 00:52:46.179
 ground zero.

00:52:46.619 --> 00:52:47.800
 You might as well start earlier.

00:52:48.199 --> 00:52:49.699
 That'd be my encouragement to you.

00:52:50.219 --> 00:52:51.159
 I also know that we have those

00:52:51.159 --> 00:52:53.420
 particularly tough, particularly tough

00:52:53.420 --> 00:52:53.840
 days.

00:52:54.000 --> 00:52:56.300
 And it's okay if you need to take a

00:52:56.300 --> 00:52:58.280
 big deep breath and let somebody

00:52:58.280 --> 00:53:00.980
 else hold your fussy one and a half

00:53:00.980 --> 00:53:02.860
 year old while you sit and listen to

00:53:02.860 --> 00:53:03.219
 a sermon.

00:53:03.340 --> 00:53:04.139
 That's all right.

00:53:04.199 --> 00:53:06.360
 But we want to encourage you to not

00:53:06.360 --> 00:53:07.980
 take advantage of that for a long

00:53:07.980 --> 00:53:08.940
 period of time.

00:53:09.539 --> 00:53:12.760
 But find space to be working with

00:53:12.760 --> 00:53:14.820
 your kids and to be bringing them up

00:53:14.820 --> 00:53:16.619
 here with us eventually.

00:53:17.440 --> 00:53:19.300
 I talked already about Aletheia Way.

00:53:20.159 --> 00:53:22.079
 Meant to support, meant to show

00:53:22.079 --> 00:53:23.960
 children that our church loves them.

00:53:24.039 --> 00:53:25.659
 I love that you guys sing the kids

00:53:25.659 --> 00:53:25.960
 song.

00:53:26.019 --> 00:53:27.619
 That's such a good thing because it

00:53:27.619 --> 00:53:29.159
 says to the kids that you're with

00:53:29.159 --> 00:53:30.559
 them in this thing.

00:53:30.559 --> 00:53:32.139
 We're not just all gawking at you

00:53:32.139 --> 00:53:33.779
 like animals in a zoo.

00:53:34.360 --> 00:53:36.199
 But we're with you in singing these

00:53:36.199 --> 00:53:39.779
 wonderful, simple songs that we sing

00:53:39.779 --> 00:53:41.299
 with the children.

00:53:41.920 --> 00:53:43.460
 They need to feel love.

00:53:43.579 --> 00:53:46.019
 They need to feel appreciated in our

00:53:46.019 --> 00:53:46.920
 gathering together.

00:53:47.119 --> 00:53:49.279
 Not like the, we want you just off in

00:53:49.279 --> 00:53:50.099
 the corner quiet.

00:53:50.440 --> 00:53:53.139
 But please come and participate with

00:53:53.139 --> 00:53:53.340
 us.

00:53:53.400 --> 00:53:56.139
 I love hearing the kids sing when we're

00:53:56.139 --> 00:53:57.619
 singing our congregational songs

00:53:57.619 --> 00:53:57.900
 together.

00:53:57.900 --> 00:54:00.099
 That's a wonderful, wonderful thing.

00:54:00.160 --> 00:54:03.320
 And they need to feel allowed to do

00:54:03.320 --> 00:54:03.940
 that with us.

00:54:03.980 --> 00:54:05.099
 So we hope that Aletheia Way does that

00:54:05.099 --> 00:54:06.720
 and serves as an example, as I said,

00:54:07.840 --> 00:54:09.519
 for how you can do it at home.

00:54:09.760 --> 00:54:11.800
 How you can simply sit down with your

00:54:11.800 --> 00:54:14.280
 kids and do the things of God with

00:54:14.280 --> 00:54:16.500
 them in your home.

00:54:16.700 --> 00:54:18.680
 I also mentioned previously Project

00:54:18.680 --> 00:54:18.960
 Grow.

00:54:19.119 --> 00:54:20.400
 It's a program aimed at teaching

00:54:20.400 --> 00:54:22.079
 children the foundational truths of

00:54:22.079 --> 00:54:23.119
 the Christian faith.

00:54:23.119 --> 00:54:24.779
 And we're going to be using the New City

00:54:24.779 --> 00:54:26.500
 Catechism, which is a systematic

00:54:26.500 --> 00:54:29.920
 theology done in questions and answers

00:54:29.920 --> 00:54:33.019
 that the kids will memorize to, again,

00:54:33.119 --> 00:54:36.779
 come alongside to aid parents in this

00:54:36.779 --> 00:54:37.139
 work.

00:54:37.259 --> 00:54:39.440
 And then finally, encouragement.

00:54:40.400 --> 00:54:42.359
 It's really important to understand that

00:54:42.359 --> 00:54:44.259
 no family in our congregation has ever

00:54:44.259 --> 00:54:46.059
 shown up at the door with perfectly

00:54:46.059 --> 00:54:46.759
 behaved children.

00:54:47.980 --> 00:54:49.539
 There's no such thing, really.

00:54:49.539 --> 00:54:52.980
 So if you see families who are doing

00:54:52.980 --> 00:54:55.920
 it well, ask questions.

00:54:57.039 --> 00:54:58.420
 How are you doing this?

00:54:59.300 --> 00:55:00.460
 It's going to be a rare family that's

00:55:00.460 --> 00:55:01.559
 going to go, I don't know, our kids

00:55:01.559 --> 00:55:02.639
 just quiet all the time.

00:55:03.719 --> 00:55:04.980
 Had a couple of those kids.

00:55:05.400 --> 00:55:08.779
 But for the most part, a lot of training

00:55:08.779 --> 00:55:12.779
 went into helping kids sit quietly.

00:55:13.199 --> 00:55:15.880
 And there is no need to feel embarrassed

00:55:15.880 --> 00:55:17.900
 in our midst for the sake of a crying

00:55:17.900 --> 00:55:18.199
 child.

00:55:18.199 --> 00:55:20.039
 We get that it happens, right?

00:55:20.659 --> 00:55:22.159
 Those of you who are non-parents,

00:55:22.639 --> 00:55:24.399
 help parents who are like picking up a

00:55:24.399 --> 00:55:25.519
 kid that's crying and walking out of

00:55:25.519 --> 00:55:28.000
 this room by not acting like it matters.

00:55:28.539 --> 00:55:29.359
 It doesn't matter.

00:55:29.779 --> 00:55:31.460
 If you're so easily distracted, boy,

00:55:31.539 --> 00:55:32.679
 you need to work on your focus.

00:55:33.559 --> 00:55:35.079
 It's no big deal, right?

00:55:35.339 --> 00:55:36.859
 Let them get up and walk out with

00:55:36.859 --> 00:55:41.359
 every head turning as they go that way,

00:55:41.579 --> 00:55:41.799
 right?

00:55:41.839 --> 00:55:43.939
 There's no need to feel embarrassed when

00:55:43.939 --> 00:55:46.819
 the kid's having a rough day and you

00:55:46.820 --> 00:55:49.500
 have to go do some disciplinary action.

00:55:50.240 --> 00:55:51.820
 We've all gone through the training process

00:55:51.820 --> 00:55:53.280
 and we're really happy.

00:55:53.400 --> 00:55:56.519
 We rejoice to walk alongside you as you do

00:55:56.519 --> 00:55:57.019
 this thing.

00:55:57.620 --> 00:56:00.059
 And so I hope that this bit of time,

00:56:00.160 --> 00:56:01.680
 and again, I know this is abnormal.

00:56:01.960 --> 00:56:03.340
 I feel like I've got to just read something

00:56:03.340 --> 00:56:04.420
 from the Bible real quick.

00:56:04.420 --> 00:56:08.780
 This is a lot to work out of a couple of

00:56:08.780 --> 00:56:11.119
 very simple commands, right?

00:56:11.240 --> 00:56:15.019
 The responsibility of child raising is laid

00:56:15.019 --> 00:56:17.519
 on the shoulders of parents.

00:56:17.599 --> 00:56:19.780
 So we want to keep thinking about how do we

00:56:19.780 --> 00:56:23.059
 do this really well together because we

00:56:23.059 --> 00:56:26.300
 want these kids, right, to repent and believe

00:56:26.300 --> 00:56:28.659
 in the gospel of Jesus Christ.

00:56:28.659 --> 00:56:32.420
 We want to see genuine faith in our children

00:56:32.420 --> 00:56:35.519
 and we're going to have to help parents do that,

00:56:35.599 --> 00:56:35.739
 right?

00:56:35.759 --> 00:56:39.579
 We want to come together to be intergenerational

00:56:39.579 --> 00:56:43.119
 to aid them in the process of raising up their

00:56:43.119 --> 00:56:46.199
 children in the fear and admonition of the Lord.

00:56:46.559 --> 00:56:47.319
 Let's pray together.

00:56:47.320 --> 00:57:17.300
 Let's pray together.