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 Proverbs 29, verse 22.

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 A man of wrath stirs up strife, and one given to anger causes much transgression.

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 Proverbs 19, verse 19.

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 A man of great wrath will pay the penalty, for if you deliver him, you will only have to do it again.

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 Proverbs 20, verse 22.

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 Do not say, I will repay evil. Wait for the Lord, and he will deliver you.

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 Proverbs 29, verse 11.

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 A fool gives full bent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.

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 Proverbs 14, verse 29.

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 Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, and he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.

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 Proverbs 12, verse 16.

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 The vexation of a fool is known at once, but the prudent ignores an insult.

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 Proverbs 19, verse 11.

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 Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.

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 Proverbs 15, verse 1.

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 A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

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 Proverbs 15, verse 18.

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 A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.

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 Proverbs 10, verse 12.

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 Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.

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 Proverbs 25, verses 21 to 22.

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 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink.

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 For you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you.

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 James 1, verses 19 to 21.

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 Know this, my beloved brothers.

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 Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger,

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 or that anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

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 Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness,

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 and receive with meekness the implanted word which is able to save souls.

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 Well, good morning, everyone.

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 Well, you might have noticed already that we're getting into Proverbs,

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 so we're getting back into our holiday series in wisdom literature,

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 and we're going to be wrapping up Proverbs.

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 I don't know if you ever can wrap up Proverbs.

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 There's so much in it, but we are.

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 So we've got three more weeks.

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 This one is on anger, as you can tell.

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 And next week will be on living wisely in a post-Christian world.

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 And then we're going to wrap up in Chapter 31,

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 that elusive woman, the woman of wisdom.

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 Then in Term 1, we're going to be getting into the Book of Romans

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 to get into that core foundational truth that we find in Romans,

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 just to get our orientation right as we head into the new year.

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 So I hope you're looking forward to that.

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 Will you pray with me as we get into God's word?

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 Let's pray together.

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 Yeah, Lord, if there's any emotion that has led to the destruction

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 of your image bearers themselves

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 and to the destruction of relationships

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 and wreaked havoc in your church

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 and between husbands and wives and parents and children and friendships,

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 Lord, anger must be up there, if not the top of the list.

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 Lord, I pray, I suppose what we just prayed in that song,

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 that you would give us an undivided heart,

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 that you would change us, sanctify us that little bit more today.

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 Lord, we need your word,

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 not only so that life will go well,

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 but so that we live in a way that pleases you

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 and represents you well.

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 Lord, it's just so lovely that you send the rain

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 and just refreshes the earth,

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 like you give us that picture in Isaiah.

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 I pray that your word would send it.

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 May it fall down and wash our hearts this morning,

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 that we might be slow to anger like you are.

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 In Jesus' name I pray.

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 Amen.

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 Well, to get into this,

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 I'm going to borrow a very ordinary situation story

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 from a book by Larry Crabb.

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 Now, the technology,

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 you understand once I say the story,

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 but the technology you might need to update a little bit,

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 but I think we can all still resonate with the situation

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 and I think we can apply it.

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 It's a husband and wife situation,

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 but we can apply it to any relationship, I think.

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 So, the wife retells what happened.

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 So, this is her words.

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 We each had really bad days

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 and all we wanted to do was relax in front of the TV.

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 As soon as we both were settled and comfortable,

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 the phone rang.

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 Neither of us moved.

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 After about three rings,

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 my husband said in the most tired voice,

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 Honey, could you get it?

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 Well, I immediately felt irritated.

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 I knew he was going to ask me to get up.

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 I was tired too,

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 and I felt like I'm always the one who waits on him.

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 So, I said,

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 I just got comfortable.

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 I wish you'd get it this time.

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 Well, you would have thought

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 I asked him to run to the store at midnight.

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 He stared at me for a second with utter disgust.

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 Then he got up.

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 By the time he got there,

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 the phone had stopped.

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 We barely said a word to each other

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 the rest of the evening.

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 That's the story.

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 Now, I've picked this story

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 to lead into this topic for a few reasons.

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 You might be on the receiving end

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 of some very destructive anger,

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 whether verbally or physically.

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 It could be criminal.

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 And that's not okay.

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 And there's people to help.

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 There's pastors, there's psychologists,

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 there's police.

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 My focus today, though,

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 is on anger at the level of that story.

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 The kind of everyday anger

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 that we all feel in every relationship,

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 nearly every day.

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 So, I just want that story to be a picture

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 of kind of the scope

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 of what we're trying to cover today.

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 Another reason for...

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 I like this story

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 is to hopefully hold up something of a mirror

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 in case you don't think you're an angry person.

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 It's such a small situation,

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 like a phone ringing.

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 You just want to both relax.

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 There's politeness in the words.

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 Honey, I'm comfortable.

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 Can't you do it this time?

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 Like, it's polite.

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 It's civil.

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 And yet you can feel the hurt.

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 You can feel the anger in the room.

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 It's the silence.

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 It's the stare of the eyes.

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 It's seething inside,

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 but not actually expressing what you're feeling.

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 And it destroyed the freedom of that relationship,

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 at least for the rest of the evening.

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 And if it was a pattern of relating,

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 who knows what else it would destroy.

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 It's such a simple thing,

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 and that's why I find it so powerful.

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 Anger is destructive,

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 and I think we're all angry people.

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 I'm still learning to express my anger in constructive ways.

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 Like, I used to...

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 Not that Emma would ever do anything to cause me to be upset,

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 but I used to...

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 I would be passive-aggressive towards her

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 and try the silent treatment

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 and being short in my replies and avoiding her.

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 And there was just one problem.

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 She had no idea that I was upset,

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 and it just didn't work.

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 If you're down the passive-aggressive end of the spectrum of anger like I am,

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 just stop for a second and think about what you're doing.

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 You hurt me,

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 so I will try and hurt you by withdrawing my love from you.

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 That's brutal.

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 It's destructive.

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 I'm probably saying that harsher

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 because I'm talking to myself there.

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 We all have a problem with anger.

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 And it seems to be a growing problem with this pandemic.

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 Bo Wong shared an article with me,

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 A Nation on Hold Wants to Speak to the Manager.

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 Many customer relation jobs are just...

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 They're fed up of the anger of customers recently,

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 especially on airlines and in supermarkets

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 and in restaurants and things.

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 People get angry over masks.

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 I think there's one employee sums it up,

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 saying,

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 Have you seen a man in his 60s have a temper tantrum

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 because we don't have the expensive imported cheese he wants?

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 A man in his 60s at Woolies

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 having a temper tantrum in the middle of the aisle.

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 You're looking at someone and thinking,

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 I don't think this is about the cheese.

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 That's the state of our society at the moment.

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 In our relationships, in our society,

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 there's an anger problem.

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 But then, is it a problem?

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 Have you found it's common to hear at the moment

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 that expressing anger is a good thing?

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 I'm being authentic.

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 I'm being real.

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 I'm wearing my heart on my sleeve.

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 I'm being myself.

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 People need to accept me

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 and acknowledge my feelings,

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 acknowledge the hurt that's been done to me.

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 Being authentic and venting your anger

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 avoids bottling it up

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 so that it doesn't explode in more destructive ways.

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 People aren't in the dark about what you're thinking.

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 You've just laid it bare.

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 And shouldn't you stand up for yourself

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 and defend yourself?

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 Our world is kind of saying at the moment

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 that anger is good.

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 As we get into God's word,

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 we're going to see that God gives us a better way,

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 a better way to live.

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 That's what we always find in God's word.

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 He has a better way

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 than authentically venting your anger.

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 One of the main things he says again and again is,

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 I don't know if you picked it up

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 as it was being read out,

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 be slow to anger.

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 So Proverbs 19.11.

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 Good sense makes one slow to anger

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 and it is his glory to overlook an offence.

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 And again, Proverbs 29.11.

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 A fool gives full vent to his spirit,

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 but a wise man quietly holds it back.

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 Notice in these that the offence is felt,

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 the offence occurred.

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 You may well arrive at anger,

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 but be slow to it.

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 Good sense, God says,

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 isn't showcasing your anger right away,

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 but good sense, you'll be slow to anger.

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 And that got me thinking, like, why?

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 Why is that?

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 Because the times I've tried to be slow to anger,

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 like I've already said,

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 it often just comes out in more destructive ways later.

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 It's not like delaying it makes it go away.

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 Not all the time.

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 Maybe if it's a tiny thing, it does.

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 So why be slow to anger?

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 I think there's four reasons,

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 and I hope to step us through it.

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 There might be more reasons,

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 but let's go through these four.

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 I think the first reason we should be slow to anger

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 and not just authentically blowing our top off

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 whenever we're angry

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 is to prevent the relational carnage that anger causes.

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 So Proverbs 29, 22.

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 A man, a person of wrath,

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 stirs up strife,

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 and one given to anger causes much transgression.

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 So the feeling of anger isn't wrong,

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 but letting your anger take control of you

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 to then lead to wrong choices

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 that do damage to relationships,

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 that's the problem.

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 Someone described anger,

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 someone I read this week,

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 described anger as a gateway drug

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 to many other sins.

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 Just spend a moment and reflect

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 on words and actions that you regret.

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 What words do you regret recently?

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 Or maybe in the past, I don't know.

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 How many of those were prompted by your anger?

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 That harsh word,

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 the emotional payback,

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 making that person feel scared,

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 making that person feel small,

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 making them feel unwanted,

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 retaliating, hurt for hurt,

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 like a tennis match.

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 What's the cost?

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 It's not easy to take words back, is it?

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 Do you notice the trust that takes weeks

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 and months and years to build

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 is just torn down so quickly

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 with those harsh words?

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 The cost of cooperation,

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 the cost of,

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 like that story of the husband and wife,

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 of being relaxed in each other's presence,

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 the loss of intimacy.

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 There's a cost to the honour of God.

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 There's a big cost.

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 There's a relational cost.

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 And that's a pretty good reason

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 to just pause in our anger

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 before just letting fly.

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 And it's not just damaging to other people.

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 It's actually damaging to ourselves.

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 So Proverbs 19, 19,

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 a man of great wrath will pay the penalty.

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 For if you deliver him,

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 you will only have to do it again.

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 I think this is talking about

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 the natural consequences of my anger,

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 your anger.

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 If you're quick to lose your temper,

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 others will lower their trust in you.

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 They'll learn to manage you

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 rather than feel safe with you.

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 They'll learn to fear you

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 rather than trust you.

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 There's a cost to you.

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 There's consequences.

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 It may just be in certain situations.

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 It's like,

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 don't raise that topic with that person.

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 Like, you'll get an earful.

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 Or maybe it's just,

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 generally,

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 people will lose respect and trust,

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 cooperation with you.

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 So there's a cost.

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 Relationally,

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 there's a cost to you.

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 There's consequences.

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 So let's be slow to anger

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 for relationship's sake.

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 And as Christians,

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 we should be slow

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 for God's reputation's sake.

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 I think a second reason

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 to be slow to anger

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 is to work out

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 whether or not

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 I should be angry.

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 Should you be angry?

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 We think that it's the situation itself

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 that makes us angry,

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 but that's not good sense.

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 You need time to look inside yourself

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 to see,

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 why am I angry in this moment?

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 First, we need to understand

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 what anger is.

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 I've found two descriptions helpful.

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 One is,

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 anger is a blocked goal,

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 and I'll give a description of that

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 in a moment.

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 So you have a goal,

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 it's been blocked,

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 that produces anger.

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 A second,

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 which I heard in a talk years ago

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 and it stuck with me,

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 is that anger is personal hurt

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 wrapped in barbed wire.

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 I just thought it was a good image.

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 It's like,

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 you're hurt,

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 and so you intentionally

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 wrap that hurt in barbed wire

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 and kind of throw it back.

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 That image has stuck with me.

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 So going back to the blocked goal.

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 So in a TED Talk,

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 a psychologist describes anger.

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 If you're going to visually imagine

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 what's going on inside you,

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 it looks a lot like driving on the roads,

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 which is probably why there's

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 road rage all the time.

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 So just imagine,

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 each person is in their car

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 and we're driving on the same space,

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 interacting,

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 and when you're driving,

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 you have a goal.

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 You have a destination

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 you're trying to get to.

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 But imagine someone cuts into your lane,

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 slows down,

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 and then makes you

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 miss that green light

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 and you have to stop

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 and wait a couple minutes

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 for the light to go green again.

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 Your goal has been blocked.

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 Producing anger.

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 Well, not necessarily.

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 Imagine it's a Sunday afternoon.

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 Yes, you want to get home,

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 but you've got no deadline.

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 Would you be angry?

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 Maybe if you felt like your rights

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 have been impinged or something,

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 but if you didn't care about that,

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 you don't have to respond in anger.

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 What is more important

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 is what's going on inside your car,

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 if I can use that expression.

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 That will be the critical thing

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 of whether you get angry or not.

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 Imagine if that person cut in front of you

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 and you're on the way to a job interview

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 and you're already running late,

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 you're financially under pressure,

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 you need this job,

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 you need it to look after your family,

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 your reputation is going to be impacted

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 because you're going to be even later

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 to the job interview,

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 then that person cutting in,

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 oh, it is unforgivable.

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 It's punishable.

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 Do you see the difference?

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 It's the same external situation

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 and yet what's happening inside your car

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 makes all the difference

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 about whether you get angry or not.

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 Going back to that article Beau shared,

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 someone described the increasing anger in society.

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 I think they were on the money

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 when they said it like this.

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 That waiter at the restaurant,

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 that flight attendant,

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 they become a stand-in

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 for everything coming between

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 what we experience

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 and what we think we're entitled to.

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 They're blocking our goal

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 of what we're entitled to, in other words.

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 And so they just cop it.

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 If you just authentically fly off the handle,

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 you haven't taken the time

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 to work out what's causing your anger.

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 More often than not,

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 I find it's what's inside my car,

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 inside my heart,

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 my thinking,

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 that's causing the anger,

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 not the external circumstances.

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 So we need to be slow to anger

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 to work out what goal is being blocked.

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 Is it my goal

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 or is it the Lord's goal?

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 So,

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 is it my reputation

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 and expectations,

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 entitlements,

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 that's being blocked?

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 Let me give a personal example for this one.

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 There's always a danger in personal examples.

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 I don't want to make it about myself,

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 but I think it will illustrate it.

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 And hopefully you can think about

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 what you're feeling at the moment.

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 I've used this illustration

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 way too much recently,

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 but I'll use it again.

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 Samuel's sleep.

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 I've been quick to anger recently.

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 I told Emma what the topic was this week

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 and she laughed,

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 just knowing the irony of it

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 and God's grace in it as well.

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 I've been quick to anger.

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 Sam is still not sleeping well.

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 We've tried a whole bunch of things.

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 But,

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 now you think,

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 the goal is clear,

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 I want a good night's rest.

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 It's happening to me.

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 I'm not the cause of it.

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 It's happening to me.

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 But does that mean I have to get angry?

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 Do I have a choice?

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 Looking inside the car,

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 I need to understand

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 my deeper goal.

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 Why do I think

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 I'm entitled

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 to a good night's sleep?

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 I've been reflecting on it

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 and let me just

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 share what I think my goal is

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 at the moment.

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 I think it's something like this.

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 I want to be competent

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 in my responsibilities as a man

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 and I want to be seen

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 to be competent

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 and I need sleep to do that.

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 I think it's something like that

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 going on for me at the moment.

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 And Sam is blocking that goal.

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 But it's not him causing the anger.

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 It's that goal which is wrong

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 that's causing the anger.

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 Or that thinking I'm entitled to sleep

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 or that God demands

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 that I need sleep to achieve that.

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 So I think James 4.

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 I don't think I'm making this up.

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 I think it's in James 4, 1-4.

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 What causes quarrels

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 and what causes fights among you?

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 Is it not this?

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 That your passions are at war within you.

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 You desire and do not have

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 so you murder.

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 You covet and cannot obtain

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 so you fight and quarrel.

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 You do not have

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 because you do not ask.

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 You do not receive

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 because you ask wrongly

00:22:41.759 --> 00:22:43.559
 to spend it on your own passions.

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 So when we feel anger

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 we want to rush in

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 and presume the offender is guilty

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 and deserves punishment.

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 But wisdom tells us to pause

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 and check your own heart.

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 Check what's in the car.

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 What's under the hood.

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 Check for the idols in our heart.

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 The good things you believe

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 you are entitled to

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 and must have.

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 So what have you been angry about lately?

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 You might want to write it down

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 if you're taking notes.

00:23:14.359 --> 00:23:15.579
 What have you been angry about lately?

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 Check what's under the hood.

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 What goal is there?

00:23:21.639 --> 00:23:22.659
 The deeper goal.

00:23:22.779 --> 00:23:23.879
 What goal is there?

00:23:25.500 --> 00:23:27.439
 What is it about your sense of person,

00:23:27.759 --> 00:23:28.519
 your reputation

00:23:28.519 --> 00:23:30.960
 that you feel is being threatened?

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 What do you think you're entitled to?

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 Let's be slow to anger

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 and examine ourselves.

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 And if you find like me

00:23:42.059 --> 00:23:43.920
 that more often than not

00:23:43.920 --> 00:23:45.860
 there's some idol lurking there,

00:23:46.440 --> 00:23:47.319
 confess it to God.

00:23:47.440 --> 00:23:48.360
 Confess it to the person

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 you've been angry to

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 and tweak your goal.

00:23:51.860 --> 00:23:53.600
 Maybe the goal is okay

00:23:53.600 --> 00:23:54.799
 but it's just out of order.

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 It's not in its proper order.

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 So what if you find,

00:24:05.880 --> 00:24:06.539
 after examining,

00:24:06.720 --> 00:24:08.380
 what if you find that your goal

00:24:08.380 --> 00:24:10.220
 isn't your own making?

00:24:10.360 --> 00:24:12.240
 What if it is primarily

00:24:12.240 --> 00:24:13.759
 the Lord's reputation

00:24:13.759 --> 00:24:15.160
 that has been damaged

00:24:15.160 --> 00:24:16.840
 and you're angry about that?

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 What if it's his expectations,

00:24:19.299 --> 00:24:20.640
 what he is entitled to

00:24:20.640 --> 00:24:22.340
 that has been crossed?

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 Well, I think talking like this

00:24:27.720 --> 00:24:30.459
 helps us affirm

00:24:30.459 --> 00:24:32.579
 that there is good things

00:24:32.579 --> 00:24:33.519
 to be angry about.

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 But let's hear Proverbs 20, 22

00:24:37.159 --> 00:24:39.179
 for advice from the Lord

00:24:39.179 --> 00:24:40.599
 of what to do in that situation.

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 Do not say,

00:24:43.639 --> 00:24:45.459
 I will repay evil.

00:24:46.459 --> 00:24:47.759
 Wait for the Lord

00:24:47.759 --> 00:24:49.980
 and he will deliver you.

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 So there is such a thing as evil.

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 I think we call it

00:24:55.500 --> 00:24:56.279
 in Christian circles

00:24:56.279 --> 00:24:57.519
 righteous anger.

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 Now I want to pause at that point

00:25:01.500 --> 00:25:01.879
 and go,

00:25:02.419 --> 00:25:03.599
 if by righteous anger

00:25:03.599 --> 00:25:04.799
 you mean that you believe

00:25:04.799 --> 00:25:05.799
 something is wrong

00:25:05.799 --> 00:25:07.000
 in its own right

00:25:07.000 --> 00:25:08.659
 and therefore you are entitled

00:25:08.659 --> 00:25:09.299
 to be angry,

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 I can't see anything Christian

00:25:11.199 --> 00:25:13.019
 about that definition

00:25:13.019 --> 00:25:13.839
 of righteous anger.

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 Everyone thinks that way.

00:25:17.559 --> 00:25:18.779
 If you think it's wrong

00:25:18.779 --> 00:25:20.279
 and therefore you're entitled

00:25:20.279 --> 00:25:20.859
 to be angry.

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 I don't think that's a good

00:25:22.879 --> 00:25:23.479
 enough definition.

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 If you mean by righteous anger

00:25:25.919 --> 00:25:27.459
 that what is being done

00:25:27.459 --> 00:25:28.899
 is against God's will

00:25:28.899 --> 00:25:30.319
 and his name

00:25:30.319 --> 00:25:31.099
 and reputation

00:25:31.099 --> 00:25:32.119
 is being injured,

00:25:33.119 --> 00:25:33.979
 his purposes

00:25:33.979 --> 00:25:35.519
 are being blocked,

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 of course the Lord

00:25:37.519 --> 00:25:38.859
 is sovereign over those

00:25:38.859 --> 00:25:41.079
 but if that's what you mean

00:25:41.079 --> 00:25:41.960
 then okay,

00:25:42.259 --> 00:25:43.799
 there is such a thing

00:25:43.799 --> 00:25:44.619
 as righteous anger.

00:25:47.680 --> 00:25:48.980
 Jesus was angry.

00:25:49.779 --> 00:25:50.920
 You read the Gospels

00:25:50.920 --> 00:25:51.680
 and there was times

00:25:51.680 --> 00:25:52.440
 where he was angry

00:25:52.440 --> 00:25:54.839
 but he was angry

00:25:54.839 --> 00:25:55.299
 because

00:25:55.299 --> 00:25:57.579
 the glory

00:25:57.579 --> 00:25:58.559
 belonging to God

00:25:58.559 --> 00:25:59.660
 was not being given

00:25:59.660 --> 00:26:00.319
 to God.

00:26:00.319 --> 00:26:02.039
 I suspect

00:26:02.039 --> 00:26:02.679
 we don't feel

00:26:02.679 --> 00:26:03.419
 this kind of anger

00:26:03.419 --> 00:26:04.939
 nearly enough.

00:26:06.519 --> 00:26:07.399
 I could be wrong

00:26:07.399 --> 00:26:07.799
 about that

00:26:07.799 --> 00:26:08.379
 but I suspect

00:26:08.379 --> 00:26:09.519
 that's our problem.

00:26:10.079 --> 00:26:10.740
 Maybe we should be

00:26:10.740 --> 00:26:11.220
 more angry.

00:26:13.019 --> 00:26:13.700
 I think

00:26:13.700 --> 00:26:14.799
 for righteous anger

00:26:14.799 --> 00:26:16.000
 we're on safer grounds

00:26:16.000 --> 00:26:17.519
 when we're feeling it

00:26:17.519 --> 00:26:19.099
 on behalf of others

00:26:19.099 --> 00:26:20.319
 and especially those

00:26:20.319 --> 00:26:21.200
 who are vulnerable.

00:26:21.200 --> 00:26:21.279
 people.

00:26:23.740 --> 00:26:24.620
 The other thing

00:26:24.620 --> 00:26:25.019
 this proverb

00:26:25.019 --> 00:26:26.000
 teaches us

00:26:26.000 --> 00:26:27.580
 is that he promises

00:26:27.580 --> 00:26:28.600
 to deliver us

00:26:28.600 --> 00:26:29.100
 in the end.

00:26:29.340 --> 00:26:30.299
 To take the matter

00:26:30.299 --> 00:26:31.500
 into our own hands

00:26:31.500 --> 00:26:32.500
 to get justice

00:26:32.500 --> 00:26:33.259
 right now

00:26:33.259 --> 00:26:34.000
 is to take

00:26:34.000 --> 00:26:35.299
 the moral high ground

00:26:35.299 --> 00:26:36.600
 that only the Lord

00:26:36.600 --> 00:26:37.840
 is entitled to.

00:26:39.000 --> 00:26:40.160
 So have you ever said

00:26:40.160 --> 00:26:40.759
 or thought

00:26:40.759 --> 00:26:41.460
 about a person

00:26:41.460 --> 00:26:42.720
 I would never do

00:26:42.720 --> 00:26:43.600
 what they did?

00:26:45.840 --> 00:26:46.700
 That's taking

00:26:46.700 --> 00:26:48.100
 the moral high ground.

00:26:49.580 --> 00:26:50.559
 Only the Lord

00:26:50.559 --> 00:26:51.819
 knows precisely

00:26:51.819 --> 00:26:53.299
 what someone deserves.

00:26:54.220 --> 00:26:55.079
 Only he can see

00:26:55.079 --> 00:26:55.759
 people's heart

00:26:55.759 --> 00:26:57.059
 perfectly.

00:26:57.700 --> 00:26:58.740
 And only the Lord

00:26:58.740 --> 00:26:59.819
 is completely holy

00:26:59.819 --> 00:27:00.539
 and can say

00:27:00.539 --> 00:27:01.799
 I would never do

00:27:01.799 --> 00:27:03.359
 what they did.

00:27:05.579 --> 00:27:06.779
 I think we should

00:27:06.779 --> 00:27:07.559
 care deeply

00:27:07.559 --> 00:27:08.279
 about evil.

00:27:08.500 --> 00:27:09.119
 Don't get me wrong.

00:27:09.919 --> 00:27:10.759
 We should care

00:27:10.759 --> 00:27:11.720
 deeply about evil

00:27:11.720 --> 00:27:13.019
 when God's reputation

00:27:13.019 --> 00:27:14.500
 is at stake.

00:27:15.500 --> 00:27:16.519
 But vengeance

00:27:16.519 --> 00:27:17.399
 isn't ours.

00:27:18.099 --> 00:27:19.319
 It belongs to him.

00:27:20.559 --> 00:27:21.839
 He's the judge

00:27:21.839 --> 00:27:24.019
 and he calls us

00:27:24.019 --> 00:27:24.819
 to love our enemies

00:27:24.819 --> 00:27:25.379
 and wait

00:27:25.379 --> 00:27:26.399
 for his deliverance.

00:27:28.799 --> 00:27:29.859
 So either way

00:27:29.859 --> 00:27:30.619
 when we look

00:27:30.619 --> 00:27:31.579
 in our own car

00:27:31.579 --> 00:27:33.339
 under our own hood

00:27:33.339 --> 00:27:34.639
 and see what goal

00:27:34.639 --> 00:27:35.419
 is being blocked

00:27:35.419 --> 00:27:36.519
 either way

00:27:36.519 --> 00:27:37.359
 if it's the idols

00:27:37.359 --> 00:27:38.440
 of our heart

00:27:38.440 --> 00:27:39.099
 or if it's

00:27:39.099 --> 00:27:40.019
 the Lord's name

00:27:40.019 --> 00:27:41.059
 and his expectations

00:27:41.059 --> 00:27:41.679
 being blocked

00:27:41.679 --> 00:27:42.179
 either way

00:27:42.179 --> 00:27:42.659
 the remedy

00:27:42.659 --> 00:27:43.799
 I think is the same

00:27:43.799 --> 00:27:44.679
 and that's what we find

00:27:44.679 --> 00:27:45.899
 in James chapter 1.

00:27:45.900 --> 00:27:48.560
 I don't think

00:27:48.560 --> 00:27:48.960
 the remedy

00:27:48.960 --> 00:27:50.880
 is Buddhist

00:27:50.880 --> 00:27:51.840
 meditation

00:27:51.840 --> 00:27:52.960
 trying to remove

00:27:52.960 --> 00:27:53.700
 all desire

00:27:53.700 --> 00:27:56.740
 nor is it

00:27:56.740 --> 00:27:57.960
 taking God's place

00:27:57.960 --> 00:27:58.640
 as judge

00:27:58.640 --> 00:27:59.700
 of right and wrong

00:27:59.700 --> 00:28:01.820
 and quickly showing

00:28:01.820 --> 00:28:02.880
 how authentically

00:28:02.880 --> 00:28:03.940
 foolish you are.

00:28:05.640 --> 00:28:07.420
 We find the solution

00:28:07.420 --> 00:28:09.480
 in James chapter 1

00:28:09.480 --> 00:28:12.320
 that we are given

00:28:12.320 --> 00:28:13.040
 the resources

00:28:13.039 --> 00:28:14.099
 if we belong

00:28:14.099 --> 00:28:15.440
 to the Lord Jesus Christ.

00:28:16.059 --> 00:28:16.799
 The resources

00:28:16.799 --> 00:28:17.839
 to deal with our anger

00:28:17.839 --> 00:28:19.700
 isn't out there.

00:28:20.119 --> 00:28:20.720
 We don't have to say

00:28:20.720 --> 00:28:22.099
 it's implanted

00:28:22.099 --> 00:28:22.779
 in us

00:28:22.779 --> 00:28:23.519
 that we're going

00:28:23.519 --> 00:28:23.839
 to find.

00:28:23.920 --> 00:28:24.839
 So James chapter 1

00:28:24.839 --> 00:28:26.539
 Know this

00:28:26.539 --> 00:28:27.359
 my beloved

00:28:27.359 --> 00:28:28.480
 brothers

00:28:28.480 --> 00:28:29.639
 and sisters.

00:28:30.779 --> 00:28:31.519
 I just want

00:28:31.519 --> 00:28:32.139
 to pause there

00:28:32.139 --> 00:28:32.799
 because

00:28:32.799 --> 00:28:34.139
 at first reading

00:28:34.139 --> 00:28:34.379
 of this

00:28:34.379 --> 00:28:35.379
 I skipped over it

00:28:35.379 --> 00:28:36.859
 but there's a very

00:28:36.859 --> 00:28:37.779
 important word there

00:28:37.779 --> 00:28:38.299
 beloved.

00:28:38.299 --> 00:28:42.440
 We are beloved

00:28:42.440 --> 00:28:43.220
 by the Lord

00:28:43.220 --> 00:28:43.740
 if you are in

00:28:43.740 --> 00:28:44.879
 the Lord Jesus Christ.

00:28:48.019 --> 00:28:49.119
 Put that alongside

00:28:49.119 --> 00:28:50.940
 what God is about

00:28:50.940 --> 00:28:51.419
 to say.

00:28:53.819 --> 00:28:55.039
 Let every person

00:28:55.039 --> 00:28:55.960
 be quick to hear

00:28:55.960 --> 00:28:57.220
 slow to speak

00:28:57.220 --> 00:28:58.299
 slow to anger

00:28:58.299 --> 00:28:59.119
 for the anger

00:28:59.119 --> 00:29:00.159
 of man does not

00:29:00.159 --> 00:29:01.079
 produce the

00:29:01.079 --> 00:29:02.099
 righteousness of God

00:29:02.099 --> 00:29:03.799
 therefore put away

00:29:03.799 --> 00:29:04.839
 all filthiness

00:29:04.839 --> 00:29:06.039
 and rampant

00:29:06.039 --> 00:29:07.159
 out of control

00:29:07.159 --> 00:29:07.879
 wickedness

00:29:07.880 --> 00:29:09.940
 the Lord

00:29:09.940 --> 00:29:11.220
 knows the

00:29:11.220 --> 00:29:12.480
 unlovely things

00:29:12.480 --> 00:29:13.400
 in our heart

00:29:13.400 --> 00:29:14.440
 and he knows

00:29:14.440 --> 00:29:15.660
 the unlovely things

00:29:15.660 --> 00:29:16.420
 we do because

00:29:16.420 --> 00:29:17.000
 of our anger

00:29:17.000 --> 00:29:17.980
 and yet

00:29:17.980 --> 00:29:19.040
 he calls us

00:29:19.040 --> 00:29:19.560
 beloved.

00:29:20.780 --> 00:29:21.680
 How is that

00:29:21.680 --> 00:29:22.120
 possible?

00:29:25.640 --> 00:29:26.640
 We're to put

00:29:26.640 --> 00:29:27.400
 those ugly things

00:29:27.400 --> 00:29:28.680
 away and receive

00:29:28.680 --> 00:29:29.600
 with meekness

00:29:29.600 --> 00:29:30.480
 with gentleness

00:29:30.480 --> 00:29:31.120
 humility

00:29:31.120 --> 00:29:32.960
 the implanted

00:29:32.960 --> 00:29:33.880
 word which is

00:29:33.880 --> 00:29:34.540
 able to save

00:29:34.540 --> 00:29:35.120
 your souls.

00:29:35.280 --> 00:29:35.880
 I think this is

00:29:35.880 --> 00:29:36.720
 the word of the

00:29:36.720 --> 00:29:37.480
 gospel of the

00:29:37.480 --> 00:29:38.059
 Lord Jesus

00:29:38.059 --> 00:29:40.319
 the one who

00:29:40.319 --> 00:29:41.559
 had every right

00:29:41.559 --> 00:29:42.579
 to be angry

00:29:42.579 --> 00:29:43.819
 wrathful

00:29:43.819 --> 00:29:45.680
 at my

00:29:45.680 --> 00:29:47.660
 self-defending

00:29:47.660 --> 00:29:49.599
 idolatrous

00:29:49.599 --> 00:29:50.000
 anger

00:29:50.000 --> 00:29:51.460
 he chose

00:29:51.460 --> 00:29:52.039
 to make me

00:29:52.039 --> 00:29:52.860
 his beloved

00:29:52.860 --> 00:29:55.920
 and he did it

00:29:55.920 --> 00:29:56.579
 through costly

00:29:56.579 --> 00:29:57.019
 love

00:29:57.019 --> 00:30:00.079
 rather than

00:30:00.079 --> 00:30:01.559
 punishing

00:30:01.559 --> 00:30:02.299
 or threatening.

00:30:02.299 --> 00:30:04.899
 so whether I

00:30:04.899 --> 00:30:05.619
 find inside

00:30:05.619 --> 00:30:06.579
 goals of my

00:30:06.579 --> 00:30:07.259
 own making

00:30:07.259 --> 00:30:08.259
 idols that

00:30:08.259 --> 00:30:08.759
 are creating

00:30:08.759 --> 00:30:09.319
 this anger

00:30:09.319 --> 00:30:10.159
 it's this

00:30:10.159 --> 00:30:11.139
 implanted word

00:30:11.139 --> 00:30:11.700
 that I need

00:30:11.700 --> 00:30:12.440
 I need the

00:30:12.440 --> 00:30:12.960
 word of the

00:30:12.960 --> 00:30:13.359
 gospel

00:30:13.359 --> 00:30:14.919
 but what

00:30:14.919 --> 00:30:15.579
 reputation

00:30:15.579 --> 00:30:16.720
 is greater

00:30:16.720 --> 00:30:18.180
 than I am

00:30:18.180 --> 00:30:18.539
 beloved

00:30:18.539 --> 00:30:20.000
 by the Lord

00:30:20.000 --> 00:30:22.159
 you will not

00:30:22.159 --> 00:30:23.000
 find a better

00:30:23.000 --> 00:30:23.899
 reputation

00:30:23.899 --> 00:30:24.740
 a better name

00:30:24.740 --> 00:30:25.279
 for yourself

00:30:25.279 --> 00:30:26.779
 whether people

00:30:26.779 --> 00:30:27.659
 acknowledge or not

00:30:27.660 --> 00:30:29.160
 it doesn't

00:30:29.160 --> 00:30:29.420
 matter

00:30:29.420 --> 00:30:32.060
 and what can I

00:30:32.060 --> 00:30:32.600
 be entitled

00:30:32.600 --> 00:30:33.640
 to if he is

00:30:33.640 --> 00:30:33.980
 Lord

00:30:33.980 --> 00:30:35.060
 I'm not

00:30:35.060 --> 00:30:36.779
 what can I

00:30:36.779 --> 00:30:37.259
 be entitled

00:30:37.259 --> 00:30:38.180
 to if

00:30:38.180 --> 00:30:38.880
 everything I

00:30:38.880 --> 00:30:39.519
 have is by

00:30:39.519 --> 00:30:40.279
 his grace

00:30:40.279 --> 00:30:44.559
 so if it's

00:30:44.559 --> 00:30:45.019
 the idols

00:30:45.019 --> 00:30:45.519
 of your heart

00:30:45.519 --> 00:30:46.119
 producing the

00:30:46.119 --> 00:30:46.319
 anger

00:30:46.319 --> 00:30:46.799
 it's this

00:30:46.799 --> 00:30:47.680
 implanted word

00:30:47.680 --> 00:30:48.200
 we need

00:30:48.200 --> 00:30:49.759
 and if it is

00:30:49.759 --> 00:30:50.680
 righteous goals

00:30:50.680 --> 00:30:51.379
 that you're angry

00:30:51.379 --> 00:30:51.779
 about

00:30:51.779 --> 00:30:54.180
 he gives us

00:30:54.180 --> 00:30:54.680
 the example

00:30:54.680 --> 00:30:55.139
 to follow

00:30:55.139 --> 00:30:57.180
 he chose

00:30:57.180 --> 00:30:58.319
 not to attack

00:30:58.319 --> 00:30:59.259
 the person

00:30:59.259 --> 00:31:00.819
 but to

00:31:00.819 --> 00:31:01.799
 attack the

00:31:01.799 --> 00:31:02.720
 person's sin

00:31:02.720 --> 00:31:03.960
 through costly

00:31:03.960 --> 00:31:04.379
 love

00:31:04.379 --> 00:31:07.680
 so either way

00:31:07.680 --> 00:31:08.359
 it's the word

00:31:08.359 --> 00:31:08.920
 of the gospel

00:31:08.920 --> 00:31:09.680
 that puts our

00:31:09.680 --> 00:31:10.480
 goals in

00:31:10.480 --> 00:31:10.880
 order

00:31:10.880 --> 00:31:13.240
 we don't

00:31:13.240 --> 00:31:13.500
 have to

00:31:13.500 --> 00:31:13.880
 defend

00:31:13.880 --> 00:31:14.380
 ourselves

00:31:14.380 --> 00:31:14.680
 but we

00:31:14.680 --> 00:31:15.259
 can choose

00:31:15.259 --> 00:31:15.820
 to respond

00:31:15.820 --> 00:31:16.360
 with love

00:31:16.360 --> 00:31:19.440
 this is at

00:31:19.440 --> 00:31:19.840
 the very

00:31:19.840 --> 00:31:20.580
 heart of

00:31:20.580 --> 00:31:21.000
 the God

00:31:21.000 --> 00:31:21.620
 we worship

00:31:21.620 --> 00:31:23.680
 Moses saw

00:31:23.680 --> 00:31:24.240
 this on

00:31:24.240 --> 00:31:24.700
 the mountain

00:31:24.700 --> 00:31:26.279
 when God

00:31:26.279 --> 00:31:27.140
 passed in

00:31:27.140 --> 00:31:27.560
 front of him

00:31:27.560 --> 00:31:28.420
 declaring his

00:31:28.420 --> 00:31:28.880
 glory

00:31:28.880 --> 00:31:30.200
 so do you

00:31:30.200 --> 00:31:30.500
 remember

00:31:30.500 --> 00:31:31.400
 Exodus 34

00:31:31.400 --> 00:31:32.560
 the Lord

00:31:32.560 --> 00:31:33.820
 the Lord

00:31:33.820 --> 00:31:35.080
 a God

00:31:35.080 --> 00:31:36.080
 merciful and

00:31:36.080 --> 00:31:36.580
 gracious

00:31:36.580 --> 00:31:37.440
 slow

00:31:37.440 --> 00:31:38.620
 to anger

00:31:38.619 --> 00:31:40.599
 this is at

00:31:40.599 --> 00:31:41.159
 the heart

00:31:41.159 --> 00:31:41.419
 of the

00:31:41.419 --> 00:31:41.679
 God

00:31:41.679 --> 00:31:42.259
 we worship

00:31:42.259 --> 00:31:44.099
 slow to

00:31:44.099 --> 00:31:44.519
 anger

00:31:44.519 --> 00:31:45.919
 and abounding

00:31:45.919 --> 00:31:46.639
 in steadfast

00:31:46.639 --> 00:31:47.039
 love and

00:31:47.039 --> 00:31:47.839
 faithfulness

00:31:47.839 --> 00:31:50.019
 what Moses

00:31:50.019 --> 00:31:50.639
 saw being

00:31:50.639 --> 00:31:51.099
 declared

00:31:51.099 --> 00:31:52.239
 was embodied

00:31:52.239 --> 00:31:52.959
 perfectly

00:31:52.959 --> 00:31:53.659
 by the Lord

00:31:53.659 --> 00:31:54.000
 Jesus

00:31:54.000 --> 00:31:54.579
 his son

00:31:54.579 --> 00:31:56.219
 so 1 Peter 2

00:31:56.219 --> 00:31:57.619
 is a

00:31:57.619 --> 00:31:58.399
 lovely

00:31:58.399 --> 00:31:58.839
 description

00:31:58.839 --> 00:31:59.239
 of it

00:31:59.239 --> 00:32:00.599
 when Jesus

00:32:00.599 --> 00:32:01.199
 when he was

00:32:01.199 --> 00:32:01.879
 reviled

00:32:01.879 --> 00:32:02.539
 he did not

00:32:02.539 --> 00:32:03.199
 revile in

00:32:03.199 --> 00:32:03.619
 return

00:32:03.619 --> 00:32:04.479
 when he

00:32:04.479 --> 00:32:04.859
 suffered

00:32:04.859 --> 00:32:05.259
 he did

00:32:05.259 --> 00:32:05.439
 not

00:32:05.439 --> 00:32:05.879
 threaten

00:32:05.879 --> 00:32:06.779
 but

00:32:06.779 --> 00:32:07.419
 continued

00:32:07.419 --> 00:32:08.039
 entrusting

00:32:08.039 --> 00:32:08.479
 himself

00:32:08.479 --> 00:32:09.079
 to him

00:32:09.079 --> 00:32:09.839
 who judges

00:32:09.839 --> 00:32:10.559
 justly

00:32:10.559 --> 00:32:12.279
 he himself

00:32:12.279 --> 00:32:13.419
 bore our

00:32:13.419 --> 00:32:14.039
 sins in

00:32:14.039 --> 00:32:14.719
 his body

00:32:14.719 --> 00:32:15.379
 on the tree

00:32:15.379 --> 00:32:16.139
 that we

00:32:16.139 --> 00:32:16.899
 might die

00:32:16.899 --> 00:32:17.319
 to sin

00:32:17.319 --> 00:32:17.679
 and live

00:32:17.679 --> 00:32:18.319
 for righteousness

00:32:18.319 --> 00:32:19.779
 by his

00:32:19.779 --> 00:32:20.219
 wounds

00:32:20.219 --> 00:32:20.679
 you have

00:32:20.679 --> 00:32:21.199
 been healed

00:32:21.199 --> 00:32:22.179
 for you

00:32:22.179 --> 00:32:22.799
 were straying

00:32:22.799 --> 00:32:23.439
 like sheep

00:32:23.439 --> 00:32:24.379
 but have

00:32:24.379 --> 00:32:25.219
 now returned

00:32:25.219 --> 00:32:26.239
 the shepherd

00:32:26.239 --> 00:32:27.079
 and overseer

00:32:27.079 --> 00:32:27.359
 of your

00:32:27.359 --> 00:32:27.839
 souls

00:32:27.839 --> 00:32:29.459
 aren't you

00:32:29.459 --> 00:32:30.359
 so glad

00:32:30.359 --> 00:32:30.699
 if you

00:32:30.699 --> 00:32:31.000
 just

00:32:31.000 --> 00:32:32.139
 like

00:32:32.139 --> 00:32:33.159
 all my

00:32:33.159 --> 00:32:33.459
 sin

00:32:33.459 --> 00:32:33.859
 I probably

00:32:33.859 --> 00:32:34.159
 know

00:32:34.159 --> 00:32:34.500
 like

00:32:34.500 --> 00:32:35.339
 just the

00:32:35.339 --> 00:32:35.559
 tip

00:32:35.559 --> 00:32:35.759
 of the

00:32:35.759 --> 00:32:36.139
 iceberg

00:32:36.139 --> 00:32:37.219
 aren't you

00:32:37.219 --> 00:32:37.939
 so glad

00:32:37.939 --> 00:32:38.479
 that God

00:32:38.479 --> 00:32:39.000
 is a God

00:32:39.000 --> 00:32:39.339
 who is

00:32:39.339 --> 00:32:40.000
 slow

00:32:40.000 --> 00:32:41.240
 to anger

00:32:41.240 --> 00:32:42.259
 so slow

00:32:42.259 --> 00:32:43.879
 he even

00:32:43.879 --> 00:32:44.939
 took

00:32:44.939 --> 00:32:46.119
 my sin

00:32:46.119 --> 00:32:46.879
 upon himself

00:32:46.879 --> 00:32:47.939
 to deal

00:32:47.939 --> 00:32:48.699
 with

00:32:48.699 --> 00:32:50.519
 the gap

00:32:50.519 --> 00:32:50.919
 between

00:32:50.919 --> 00:32:51.639
 our relationship

00:32:51.639 --> 00:32:53.659
 I'll never

00:32:53.659 --> 00:32:54.479
 taste a drop

00:32:54.479 --> 00:32:55.000
 of his

00:32:55.000 --> 00:32:55.939
 eternal

00:32:55.939 --> 00:32:56.339
 anger

00:32:56.339 --> 00:32:56.959
 discipline

00:32:56.959 --> 00:32:58.119
 yes

00:32:58.119 --> 00:32:59.679
 but he only

00:32:59.679 --> 00:33:00.159
 disciplines

00:33:00.160 --> 00:33:00.620
 those he

00:33:00.620 --> 00:33:00.980
 loves

00:33:00.980 --> 00:33:02.320
 we will

00:33:02.320 --> 00:33:02.600
 never

00:33:02.600 --> 00:33:03.200
 taste a drop

00:33:03.200 --> 00:33:03.460
 of his

00:33:03.460 --> 00:33:03.700
 anger

00:33:03.700 --> 00:33:04.100
 he is

00:33:04.100 --> 00:33:04.440
 slow

00:33:04.440 --> 00:33:04.820
 to anger

00:33:04.820 --> 00:33:05.680
 if we

00:33:05.680 --> 00:33:05.940
 don't

00:33:05.940 --> 00:33:06.360
 worship

00:33:06.360 --> 00:33:06.800
 this

00:33:06.800 --> 00:33:07.279
 in our

00:33:07.279 --> 00:33:07.620
 God

00:33:07.620 --> 00:33:08.060
 then

00:33:08.060 --> 00:33:09.500
 you

00:33:09.500 --> 00:33:09.759
 can't

00:33:09.759 --> 00:33:10.080
 produce

00:33:10.080 --> 00:33:10.200
 it

00:33:10.200 --> 00:33:10.360
 any

00:33:10.360 --> 00:33:10.519
 other

00:33:10.519 --> 00:33:10.740
 way

00:33:10.740 --> 00:33:10.860
 I

00:33:10.860 --> 00:33:11.000
 don't

00:33:11.000 --> 00:33:11.300
 think

00:33:11.300 --> 00:33:14.560
 this

00:33:14.560 --> 00:33:15.080
 slow

00:33:15.080 --> 00:33:15.440
 to anger

00:33:15.440 --> 00:33:15.759
 God

00:33:15.759 --> 00:33:16.340
 calls us

00:33:16.340 --> 00:33:16.700
 to bring

00:33:16.700 --> 00:33:17.580
 glory

00:33:17.580 --> 00:33:17.960
 to his

00:33:17.960 --> 00:33:18.519
 reputation

00:33:18.519 --> 00:33:20.860
 by being

00:33:20.860 --> 00:33:21.460
 like him

00:33:21.460 --> 00:33:21.940
 and we

00:33:21.940 --> 00:33:22.300
 can only

00:33:22.300 --> 00:33:22.720
 do that

00:33:22.720 --> 00:33:24.279
 by accepting

00:33:24.279 --> 00:33:25.060
 that implanted

00:33:25.060 --> 00:33:25.580
 word of the

00:33:25.580 --> 00:33:25.920
 gospel

00:33:25.920 --> 00:33:28.380
 that he

00:33:28.380 --> 00:33:28.900
 conquered

00:33:28.900 --> 00:33:31.259
 our sinful

00:33:31.259 --> 00:33:31.680
 anger

00:33:31.680 --> 00:33:32.180
 through

00:33:32.180 --> 00:33:33.120
 his costly

00:33:33.120 --> 00:33:33.500
 love

00:33:33.500 --> 00:33:35.400
 so I just

00:33:35.400 --> 00:33:35.860
 want to finish

00:33:35.860 --> 00:33:36.380
 with some

00:33:36.380 --> 00:33:36.960
 proverbs

00:33:36.960 --> 00:33:37.660
 that give us

00:33:37.660 --> 00:33:38.259
 some concrete

00:33:38.259 --> 00:33:39.040
 examples of

00:33:39.040 --> 00:33:40.140
 how we can

00:33:40.140 --> 00:33:40.820
 honour the

00:33:40.820 --> 00:33:41.480
 Lord in

00:33:41.480 --> 00:33:42.720
 responding

00:33:42.720 --> 00:33:44.840
 with love

00:33:44.840 --> 00:33:46.280
 rather than

00:33:46.280 --> 00:33:48.400
 out of control

00:33:48.400 --> 00:33:48.780
 anger

00:33:48.780 --> 00:33:52.740
 firstly we can

00:33:52.740 --> 00:33:54.160
 love those who

00:33:54.160 --> 00:33:54.860
 are angry at

00:33:54.860 --> 00:33:55.300
 us

00:33:55.299 --> 00:33:56.220
 by not

00:33:56.220 --> 00:33:57.139
 retaliating

00:33:57.139 --> 00:33:57.919
 but

00:33:57.919 --> 00:33:58.980
 responding

00:33:58.980 --> 00:33:59.579
 with calm

00:33:59.579 --> 00:33:59.960
 and gentle

00:33:59.960 --> 00:34:00.460
 words

00:34:00.460 --> 00:34:01.059
 so Don

00:34:01.059 --> 00:34:02.440
 helped us

00:34:02.440 --> 00:34:02.680
 and the

00:34:02.680 --> 00:34:02.960
 children

00:34:02.960 --> 00:34:03.500
 understand

00:34:03.500 --> 00:34:03.980
 this one

00:34:03.980 --> 00:34:04.799
 15

00:34:04.799 --> 00:34:05.079
 one

00:34:05.079 --> 00:34:06.139
 a soft

00:34:06.139 --> 00:34:06.720
 answer

00:34:06.720 --> 00:34:07.799
 turns away

00:34:07.799 --> 00:34:08.199
 wrath

00:34:08.199 --> 00:34:09.420
 but a

00:34:09.420 --> 00:34:10.019
 harsh word

00:34:10.019 --> 00:34:10.579
 stirs up

00:34:10.579 --> 00:34:10.880
 anger

00:34:10.880 --> 00:34:12.320
 just because

00:34:12.320 --> 00:34:13.340
 someone is

00:34:13.340 --> 00:34:15.039
 engaging

00:34:15.039 --> 00:34:16.739
 with hostility

00:34:16.739 --> 00:34:17.360
 even if it's

00:34:17.360 --> 00:34:18.039
 passive aggressive

00:34:18.039 --> 00:34:18.559
 hostility

00:34:18.559 --> 00:34:19.179
 we don't have

00:34:19.179 --> 00:34:19.820
 to respond

00:34:19.820 --> 00:34:21.079
 in kind

00:34:21.079 --> 00:34:23.559
 if we are

00:34:23.559 --> 00:34:24.880
 trusting that

00:34:24.880 --> 00:34:25.480
 we are safe

00:34:25.480 --> 00:34:26.019
 in Christ

00:34:26.019 --> 00:34:26.619
 we don't have

00:34:26.619 --> 00:34:27.000
 to respond

00:34:27.000 --> 00:34:27.500
 like that

00:34:27.500 --> 00:34:29.539
 I think the

00:34:29.539 --> 00:34:30.719
 second advice

00:34:30.719 --> 00:34:31.239
 that proverbs

00:34:31.239 --> 00:34:31.860
 gives us

00:34:31.860 --> 00:34:32.440
 guidance

00:34:32.440 --> 00:34:34.199
 is that

00:34:34.199 --> 00:34:35.400
 we are called

00:34:35.400 --> 00:34:36.059
 not just to

00:34:36.059 --> 00:34:36.759
 control our

00:34:36.759 --> 00:34:37.079
 anger

00:34:37.079 --> 00:34:38.619
 or to express

00:34:38.619 --> 00:34:39.000
 our anger

00:34:39.000 --> 00:34:39.579
 in constructive

00:34:39.579 --> 00:34:40.219
 ways but to

00:34:40.219 --> 00:34:41.500
 positively love

00:34:41.500 --> 00:34:42.119
 the person

00:34:42.119 --> 00:34:42.719
 in return

00:34:42.719 --> 00:34:44.400
 so

00:34:44.400 --> 00:34:45.059
 proverbs

00:34:45.059 --> 00:34:45.360
 10

00:34:45.360 --> 00:34:45.719
 12

00:34:45.719 --> 00:34:46.440
 hatred

00:34:46.440 --> 00:34:47.119
 stirs up

00:34:47.119 --> 00:34:47.480
 strife

00:34:47.480 --> 00:34:48.199
 but love

00:34:48.199 --> 00:34:49.619
 covers all

00:34:49.619 --> 00:34:50.139
 offences

00:34:50.139 --> 00:34:51.219
 now that

00:34:51.219 --> 00:34:51.819
 word covers

00:34:51.819 --> 00:34:52.960
 it's not

00:34:52.960 --> 00:34:53.619
 saying covers

00:34:53.619 --> 00:34:53.960
 up

00:34:53.960 --> 00:34:55.039
 it's not

00:34:55.039 --> 00:34:55.940
 just cover

00:34:55.940 --> 00:34:56.599
 up anything

00:34:56.599 --> 00:34:57.199
 anyone's done

00:34:57.199 --> 00:34:57.519
 wrong

00:34:57.519 --> 00:34:58.819
 I think it's

00:34:58.819 --> 00:34:59.259
 the opposite

00:34:59.259 --> 00:35:00.819
 of stripping

00:35:00.819 --> 00:35:01.219
 them

00:35:01.219 --> 00:35:02.719
 isn't that

00:35:02.719 --> 00:35:03.279
 what anger

00:35:03.279 --> 00:35:04.159
 tries to do

00:35:04.159 --> 00:35:04.619
 anger

00:35:04.619 --> 00:35:05.119
 wrapped in

00:35:05.119 --> 00:35:05.679
 barbed wire

00:35:05.679 --> 00:35:06.259
 you're trying

00:35:06.259 --> 00:35:06.799
 to strip

00:35:06.799 --> 00:35:07.480
 that person

00:35:07.480 --> 00:35:08.159
 of

00:35:08.159 --> 00:35:09.480
 I don't

00:35:09.480 --> 00:35:09.699
 know

00:35:09.699 --> 00:35:10.460
 of their

00:35:10.460 --> 00:35:11.000
 reputation

00:35:11.000 --> 00:35:11.359
 of

00:35:11.359 --> 00:35:13.299
 what they

00:35:13.299 --> 00:35:13.619
 want

00:35:13.619 --> 00:35:15.199
 but love

00:35:15.199 --> 00:35:16.000
 covers up

00:35:16.000 --> 00:35:17.559
 it serves

00:35:17.559 --> 00:35:18.579
 it sees

00:35:18.579 --> 00:35:19.019
 them in the

00:35:19.019 --> 00:35:19.599
 best possible

00:35:19.599 --> 00:35:20.039
 light

00:35:20.039 --> 00:35:22.000
 it serves

00:35:22.000 --> 00:35:22.759
 their interests

00:35:22.759 --> 00:35:24.380
 their real

00:35:24.380 --> 00:35:24.719
 interests

00:35:24.719 --> 00:35:25.599
 not necessarily

00:35:25.599 --> 00:35:26.199
 their immediate

00:35:26.199 --> 00:35:26.719
 interests

00:35:26.719 --> 00:35:29.000
 it seeks

00:35:29.000 --> 00:35:29.460
 their good

00:35:29.460 --> 00:35:30.239
 love covers

00:35:30.239 --> 00:35:30.880
 up offences

00:35:30.880 --> 00:35:32.559
 and it

00:35:32.559 --> 00:35:33.019
 doesn't take

00:35:33.019 --> 00:35:33.719
 much for

00:35:33.719 --> 00:35:35.480
 one soft

00:35:35.480 --> 00:35:35.860
 word

00:35:35.860 --> 00:35:36.599
 one act

00:35:36.599 --> 00:35:36.980
 of love

00:35:36.980 --> 00:35:37.380
 to just

00:35:37.380 --> 00:35:38.079
 turn

00:35:38.079 --> 00:35:39.059
 a relationship

00:35:39.059 --> 00:35:39.539
 have you

00:35:39.539 --> 00:35:40.000
 found that

00:35:40.000 --> 00:35:40.519
 you're in

00:35:40.519 --> 00:35:40.960
 an argument

00:35:40.960 --> 00:35:41.639
 and it

00:35:41.639 --> 00:35:41.860
 doesn't

00:35:41.860 --> 00:35:42.420
 take much

00:35:42.420 --> 00:35:46.320
 the Lord

00:35:46.320 --> 00:35:46.920
 calls us

00:35:46.920 --> 00:35:47.360
 to be

00:35:47.360 --> 00:35:47.639
 the one

00:35:47.639 --> 00:35:48.139
 to initiate

00:35:48.139 --> 00:35:48.559
 that

00:35:48.559 --> 00:35:50.079
 and then

00:35:50.079 --> 00:35:50.420
 Proverbs

00:35:50.420 --> 00:35:50.960
 25

00:35:50.960 --> 00:35:52.059
 21 to

00:35:52.059 --> 00:35:52.440
 22

00:35:52.440 --> 00:35:52.800
 if your

00:35:52.800 --> 00:35:53.059
 enemy

00:35:53.059 --> 00:35:53.700
 is hungry

00:35:53.700 --> 00:35:54.119
 give him

00:35:54.119 --> 00:35:54.320
 bread

00:35:54.320 --> 00:35:54.700
 to eat

00:35:54.700 --> 00:35:55.480
 if he's

00:35:55.480 --> 00:35:55.760
 thirsty

00:35:55.760 --> 00:35:56.119
 give him

00:35:56.119 --> 00:35:56.300
 water

00:35:56.300 --> 00:35:56.780
 to drink

00:35:56.780 --> 00:35:57.920
 for you

00:35:57.920 --> 00:35:58.380
 will heap

00:35:58.380 --> 00:35:58.760
 burning

00:35:58.760 --> 00:35:59.240
 coals

00:35:59.240 --> 00:35:59.519
 on his

00:35:59.519 --> 00:35:59.820
 head

00:35:59.820 --> 00:36:00.880
 and the

00:36:00.880 --> 00:36:01.119
 Lord

00:36:01.119 --> 00:36:01.740
 will reward

00:36:01.740 --> 00:36:01.980
 you

00:36:01.980 --> 00:36:03.500
 sounds like

00:36:03.500 --> 00:36:03.920
 the goal

00:36:03.920 --> 00:36:04.380
 is to

00:36:04.380 --> 00:36:04.760
 inflict

00:36:04.760 --> 00:36:05.159
 pain

00:36:05.159 --> 00:36:05.360
 but

00:36:05.360 --> 00:36:07.160
 I don't

00:36:07.160 --> 00:36:07.579
 think so

00:36:07.579 --> 00:36:07.840
 it's not

00:36:07.840 --> 00:36:08.440
 going

00:36:08.440 --> 00:36:09.140
 I'm better

00:36:09.140 --> 00:36:09.539
 than you

00:36:09.539 --> 00:36:10.200
 by serving

00:36:10.200 --> 00:36:10.480
 you

00:36:10.480 --> 00:36:12.079
 it's going

00:36:12.079 --> 00:36:12.460
 I'm not

00:36:12.460 --> 00:36:12.660
 going to

00:36:12.660 --> 00:36:13.079
 engage

00:36:13.079 --> 00:36:13.400
 the way

00:36:13.400 --> 00:36:13.800
 you are

00:36:13.800 --> 00:36:14.780
 in this

00:36:14.780 --> 00:36:15.260
 hostility

00:36:15.260 --> 00:36:15.620
 I'm going

00:36:15.620 --> 00:36:16.180
 to serve

00:36:16.180 --> 00:36:16.440
 you

00:36:16.440 --> 00:36:18.079
 and do

00:36:18.079 --> 00:36:18.180
 you know

00:36:18.180 --> 00:36:18.420
 what that

00:36:18.420 --> 00:36:18.740
 does to

00:36:18.740 --> 00:36:19.200
 the person

00:36:19.200 --> 00:36:21.240
 it doesn't

00:36:21.240 --> 00:36:21.880
 annoy you

00:36:21.880 --> 00:36:22.500
 when you

00:36:22.500 --> 00:36:22.760
 just want

00:36:22.760 --> 00:36:23.360
 to be mean

00:36:23.360 --> 00:36:23.780
 to someone

00:36:23.780 --> 00:36:24.079
 but they

00:36:24.079 --> 00:36:24.500
 keep being

00:36:24.500 --> 00:36:24.960
 nice to

00:36:24.960 --> 00:36:25.220
 you

00:36:25.220 --> 00:36:27.140
 it convicts

00:36:27.140 --> 00:36:27.340
 you

00:36:27.340 --> 00:36:27.660
 doesn't

00:36:27.660 --> 00:36:28.039
 it

00:36:28.039 --> 00:36:28.820
 I think

00:36:28.820 --> 00:36:29.059
 that's

00:36:29.059 --> 00:36:29.380
 what it's

00:36:29.380 --> 00:36:29.880
 talking about

00:36:29.880 --> 00:36:31.420
 the answer

00:36:31.420 --> 00:36:32.920
 to the

00:36:32.920 --> 00:36:33.599
 destructiveness

00:36:33.599 --> 00:36:33.980
 of anger

00:36:33.980 --> 00:36:34.300
 is to

00:36:34.300 --> 00:36:34.700
 serve

00:36:34.700 --> 00:36:34.980
 and that

00:36:34.980 --> 00:36:35.300
 actually

00:36:35.300 --> 00:36:35.800
 will help

00:36:35.800 --> 00:36:36.400
 that person

00:36:36.400 --> 00:36:37.300
 be convicted

00:36:37.300 --> 00:36:37.820
 before the

00:36:37.820 --> 00:36:38.080
 Lord

00:36:38.080 --> 00:36:44.580
 so

00:36:44.580 --> 00:36:46.960
 I just

00:36:46.960 --> 00:36:47.280
 want to

00:36:47.280 --> 00:36:47.960
 finish up

00:36:47.960 --> 00:36:48.340
 by saying

00:36:48.340 --> 00:36:48.800
 do you

00:36:48.800 --> 00:36:48.940
 know

00:36:48.940 --> 00:36:49.440
 what I

00:36:49.440 --> 00:36:49.620
 think

00:36:49.620 --> 00:36:50.260
 is way

00:36:50.260 --> 00:36:50.519
 better

00:36:50.519 --> 00:36:50.760
 than

00:36:50.760 --> 00:36:51.500
 authentically

00:36:51.500 --> 00:36:52.600
 just

00:36:52.600 --> 00:36:53.720
 blowing

00:36:53.720 --> 00:36:54.140
 your top

00:36:54.140 --> 00:36:54.440
 off

00:36:54.440 --> 00:36:55.240
 anger

00:36:55.240 --> 00:36:55.840
 like

00:36:55.840 --> 00:36:56.240
 that's

00:36:56.240 --> 00:36:56.500
 what our

00:36:56.500 --> 00:36:56.720
 world

00:36:56.720 --> 00:36:56.980
 says

00:36:56.980 --> 00:36:57.220
 to do

00:36:57.220 --> 00:36:57.340
 with

00:36:57.340 --> 00:36:57.680
 anger

00:36:57.680 --> 00:36:57.960
 do you

00:36:57.960 --> 00:36:58.000
 know

00:36:58.000 --> 00:36:58.140
 what's

00:36:58.140 --> 00:36:58.300
 better

00:36:58.300 --> 00:36:58.460
 than

00:36:58.460 --> 00:36:58.640
 that

00:36:58.640 --> 00:36:59.380
 I

00:36:59.380 --> 00:36:59.560
 think

00:36:59.560 --> 00:36:59.760
 what's

00:36:59.760 --> 00:36:59.960
 better

00:36:59.960 --> 00:37:00.280
 is

00:37:00.280 --> 00:37:00.460
 that

00:37:00.460 --> 00:37:00.640
 we

00:37:00.640 --> 00:37:00.820
 can

00:37:00.820 --> 00:37:01.620
 authentically

00:37:01.620 --> 00:37:02.260
 display

00:37:02.260 --> 00:37:02.620
 the

00:37:02.620 --> 00:37:03.120
 character

00:37:03.120 --> 00:37:03.500
 of

00:37:03.500 --> 00:37:03.700
 our

00:37:03.700 --> 00:37:04.120
 slow

00:37:04.120 --> 00:37:04.320
 to

00:37:04.320 --> 00:37:04.600
 anger

00:37:04.600 --> 00:37:05.039
 God

00:37:05.039 --> 00:37:06.940
 by

00:37:06.940 --> 00:37:07.519
 trusting

00:37:07.519 --> 00:37:08.639
 Jesus

00:37:08.639 --> 00:37:09.039
 costly

00:37:09.039 --> 00:37:09.300
 love

00:37:09.300 --> 00:37:09.460
 for

00:37:09.460 --> 00:37:09.779
 us

00:37:09.779 --> 00:37:10.759
 you

00:37:10.759 --> 00:37:10.900
 can

00:37:10.900 --> 00:37:11.079
 just

00:37:11.079 --> 00:37:11.699
 authentically

00:37:11.699 --> 00:37:12.059
 blow

00:37:12.059 --> 00:37:12.420
 your top

00:37:12.420 --> 00:37:12.619
 off

00:37:12.619 --> 00:37:12.960
 or you

00:37:12.960 --> 00:37:13.119
 can

00:37:13.119 --> 00:37:13.820
 authentically

00:37:13.820 --> 00:37:14.420
 display

00:37:14.420 --> 00:37:15.139
 the

00:37:15.139 --> 00:37:15.380
 God

00:37:15.380 --> 00:37:15.519
 who

00:37:15.519 --> 00:37:15.639
 is

00:37:15.639 --> 00:37:15.820
 slow

00:37:15.820 --> 00:37:15.960
 to

00:37:15.960 --> 00:37:16.239
 anger

00:37:16.239 --> 00:37:17.979
 and

00:37:17.979 --> 00:37:18.000
 and

00:37:18.000 --> 00:37:18.339
 and that

00:37:18.339 --> 00:37:18.459
 will

00:37:18.459 --> 00:37:18.859
 please

00:37:18.859 --> 00:37:19.119
 him

00:37:19.119 --> 00:37:19.699
 that

00:37:19.699 --> 00:37:19.839
 will

00:37:19.839 --> 00:37:20.079
 help

00:37:20.079 --> 00:37:20.219
 the

00:37:20.219 --> 00:37:20.599
 people

00:37:20.599 --> 00:37:21.359
 you're

00:37:21.359 --> 00:37:21.759
 engaging

00:37:21.759 --> 00:37:22.079
 with

00:37:22.079 --> 00:37:24.219
 may

00:37:24.219 --> 00:37:24.419
 God

00:37:24.419 --> 00:37:24.639
 help

00:37:24.639 --> 00:37:24.779
 us

00:37:24.779 --> 00:37:24.919
 with

00:37:24.919 --> 00:37:25.099
 that

00:37:25.099 --> 00:37:25.759
 let me

00:37:25.759 --> 00:37:26.059
 pray

00:37:26.059 --> 00:37:26.979
 and ask

00:37:26.979 --> 00:37:27.239
 for that

00:37:27.239 --> 00:37:27.459
 help

00:37:27.459 --> 00:37:28.159
 let's pray

00:37:28.159 --> 00:37:32.719
 Lord

00:37:32.719 --> 00:37:33.239
 cause

00:37:33.239 --> 00:37:33.480
 us

00:37:33.480 --> 00:37:33.920
 to

00:37:33.920 --> 00:37:35.179
 worship

00:37:35.179 --> 00:37:35.920
 you

00:37:35.920 --> 00:37:37.920
 because

00:37:37.920 --> 00:37:38.379
 you

00:37:38.379 --> 00:37:38.539
 are

00:37:38.539 --> 00:37:38.779
 slow

00:37:38.779 --> 00:37:38.940
 to

00:37:38.940 --> 00:37:39.259
 anger

00:37:39.259 --> 00:37:42.359
 your

00:37:42.359 --> 00:37:43.059
 patience

00:37:43.059 --> 00:37:44.019
 I

00:37:44.019 --> 00:37:45.019
 think

00:37:45.019 --> 00:37:45.239
 it's

00:37:45.239 --> 00:37:46.119
 underrated

00:37:46.119 --> 00:37:46.779
 your

00:37:46.779 --> 00:37:47.279
 patience

00:37:47.279 --> 00:37:47.679
 with us

00:37:47.679 --> 00:37:47.900
 is

00:37:47.900 --> 00:37:48.579
 incredible

00:37:48.579 --> 00:37:51.059
 that you

00:37:51.059 --> 00:37:52.799
 convict us

00:37:52.799 --> 00:37:53.559
 of our

00:37:53.559 --> 00:37:54.000
 sin

00:37:54.000 --> 00:37:55.460
 that you

00:37:55.460 --> 00:37:57.000
 don't

00:37:57.000 --> 00:37:57.699
 wipe us

00:37:57.699 --> 00:37:57.900
 out

00:37:57.900 --> 00:37:58.460
 immediately

00:37:58.460 --> 00:37:59.119
 even though

00:37:59.119 --> 00:38:00.039
 you alone

00:38:00.039 --> 00:38:00.699
 are entitled

00:38:00.699 --> 00:38:01.019
 to

00:38:01.019 --> 00:38:02.639
 that you

00:38:02.639 --> 00:38:03.159
 even

00:38:03.159 --> 00:38:03.639
 took

00:38:03.639 --> 00:38:04.900
 the thing

00:38:04.900 --> 00:38:05.480
 that offended

00:38:05.480 --> 00:38:05.880
 you

00:38:05.880 --> 00:38:06.900
 you wore

00:38:06.900 --> 00:38:07.500
 it yourself

00:38:07.500 --> 00:38:08.079
 you took

00:38:08.079 --> 00:38:08.619
 it yourself

00:38:08.619 --> 00:38:10.259
 so that

00:38:10.259 --> 00:38:10.900
 we could

00:38:10.900 --> 00:38:13.339
 know that

00:38:13.339 --> 00:38:13.920
 we are

00:38:13.920 --> 00:38:14.559
 beloved by

00:38:14.559 --> 00:38:14.779
 you

00:38:14.779 --> 00:38:15.679
 it is

00:38:15.679 --> 00:38:16.259
 incredible

00:38:16.259 --> 00:38:17.699
 slowness

00:38:17.699 --> 00:38:18.099
 to anger

00:38:18.099 --> 00:38:19.159
 forgive us

00:38:19.159 --> 00:38:19.779
 for when we

00:38:19.779 --> 00:38:20.219
 think that

00:38:20.219 --> 00:38:21.359
 you fly

00:38:21.359 --> 00:38:21.659
 off the

00:38:21.659 --> 00:38:21.980
 handle

00:38:21.980 --> 00:38:22.739
 you were

00:38:22.739 --> 00:38:23.299
 not like

00:38:23.299 --> 00:38:23.559
 that

00:38:23.559 --> 00:38:24.380
 please

00:38:24.380 --> 00:38:25.000
 change

00:38:25.000 --> 00:38:25.359
 our

00:38:25.359 --> 00:38:25.839
 image

00:38:25.839 --> 00:38:26.179
 of you

00:38:26.179 --> 00:38:26.819
 if we're

00:38:26.819 --> 00:38:27.059
 thinking

00:38:27.059 --> 00:38:27.400
 that

00:38:27.400 --> 00:38:28.719
 and Lord

00:38:28.719 --> 00:38:29.179
 help us

00:38:29.179 --> 00:38:30.000
 to relate

00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:30.319
 in the

00:38:30.319 --> 00:38:30.679
 church

00:38:30.679 --> 00:38:31.019
 in our

00:38:31.019 --> 00:38:31.559
 families

00:38:31.559 --> 00:38:32.819
 at work

00:38:32.819 --> 00:38:33.380
 places

00:38:33.380 --> 00:38:34.579
 friendships

00:38:34.579 --> 00:38:35.139
 Lord

00:38:35.139 --> 00:38:35.819
 please help

00:38:35.819 --> 00:38:36.099
 us to

00:38:36.099 --> 00:38:36.599
 honour you

00:38:36.599 --> 00:38:37.619
 by being

00:38:37.619 --> 00:38:37.920
 slow

00:38:37.920 --> 00:38:38.339
 to anger

00:38:38.340 --> 00:38:39.120
 help us

00:38:39.120 --> 00:38:39.660
 to see

00:38:39.660 --> 00:38:40.200
 the idols

00:38:40.200 --> 00:38:40.539
 of our

00:38:40.539 --> 00:38:40.860
 heart

00:38:40.860 --> 00:38:42.360
 and confess

00:38:42.360 --> 00:38:42.740
 it

00:38:42.740 --> 00:38:43.900
 and help

00:38:43.900 --> 00:38:44.220
 us to

00:38:44.220 --> 00:38:44.780
 worship you

00:38:44.780 --> 00:38:45.559
 in Jesus

00:38:45.559 --> 00:38:45.920
 name I

00:38:45.920 --> 00:38:46.100
 pray

00:38:46.100 --> 00:38:46.700
 Amen