WEBVTT 00:00:00.660 --> 00:00:07.679 We are the Yee family. I'm Bernard. I'm Angeline. I'm Abby. I'm Isaac. And I'm Elizabeth. 00:00:08.980 --> 00:00:13.880 This is the first Sunday of Advent. The word Advent means coming. 00:00:14.599 --> 00:00:20.480 And today we are prepared for the coming of Christmas, God's gift of Jesus to the world. 00:00:21.120 --> 00:00:26.160 Each week we prepare by lighting a candle and focus on different themes of Christ's coming. 00:00:26.600 --> 00:00:29.160 This week we light the candle of hope. 00:00:29.160 --> 00:00:40.560 From the beginning of its history as a nation, Israel, God's chosen people, has experienced great trials, slavery, oppression, war, famine, exile, and despair. 00:00:41.000 --> 00:00:47.659 In the midst of this despair, God whispered hope, one who was coming to rescue his people. 00:00:48.579 --> 00:00:56.320 Then, one night in a manger, the most unlikely of places, in the town of Bethlehem, 00:00:56.320 --> 00:01:03.859 before a crowd of sheep and cows, a poor peasant girl gave birth to a son. 00:01:04.719 --> 00:01:08.079 And on that night, hope was born. 00:01:08.079 --> 00:01:32.480 That same hope that humbly came across as a child is ours today. 00:01:32.480 --> 00:01:39.840 In a world so full of despair and hopelessness, Christ is our undeserved hope. 00:01:40.500 --> 00:01:43.780 He is the hope for our friends and neighbors. 00:01:44.380 --> 00:01:47.000 He is the hope for Hong Kong. 00:01:47.520 --> 00:01:49.960 He is the hope for the nations. 00:01:49.959 --> 00:01:59.959 Please join us in reading from Isaiah chapter 9, verse 6 to 7, which you'll find on the screens. 00:01:59.959 --> 00:02:12.219 For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government shall be upon his shoulder, 00:02:12.840 --> 00:02:22.400 and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. 00:02:22.400 --> 00:02:28.319 Of the increase of his government and of peace, there will be no end. 00:02:28.760 --> 00:02:38.560 On the throne of David and over his kingdom, to establish it and to uphold it, with justice and with righteousness, 00:02:39.379 --> 00:02:46.560 from this time forth and forevermore, the zeal of the Lord of hosts will do this. 00:02:47.840 --> 00:02:49.500 Let us bow our heads and pray. 00:02:52.400 --> 00:02:55.680 Restore us, O Lord, we pray. 00:02:56.360 --> 00:02:59.740 Bring us back to that place where we once met, 00:03:00.260 --> 00:03:03.680 as shepherd to the stable after hearing angels sing. 00:03:04.520 --> 00:03:08.260 Bring us back to that place when our love was fresh. 00:03:09.140 --> 00:03:13.099 Not embarrassed to express itself in praise to our heavenly King. 00:03:13.939 --> 00:03:16.400 Restore us, O Lord, we pray. 00:03:18.340 --> 00:03:19.620 Good morning, Watermark. 00:03:19.620 --> 00:03:23.560 This morning, Tobin continues on with his guerrilla sermon series. 00:03:23.800 --> 00:03:30.300 If you recall, the last couple of weeks we've had a chance to SMS questions that we may have always wanted to ask in church, 00:03:30.379 --> 00:03:31.960 but we were a little afraid to ask them. 00:03:32.460 --> 00:03:35.920 And so we've taken those questions and we've been putting them into specific buckets, 00:03:35.920 --> 00:03:37.379 and we've been addressing those. 00:03:37.480 --> 00:03:40.740 So last week we talked about money and finance and stewardship. 00:03:40.740 --> 00:03:47.960 And today we talk about marriage and relationships and, to use a Tobinism, massive sex. 00:03:49.280 --> 00:03:52.860 So we've had the children and students go to their classes today, 00:03:52.920 --> 00:03:55.260 and if your kids have chosen to stay back, 00:03:55.340 --> 00:03:58.660 we just wanted to let you know that it may be a little bit more of an adult conversation, 00:03:58.659 --> 00:04:00.859 but if you have those conversations with your children, 00:04:01.219 --> 00:04:02.659 you're welcome to stay with us as well. 00:04:03.180 --> 00:04:04.439 So we've been giving these letters, 00:04:04.599 --> 00:04:08.419 and one of the letters that we got is probably from one of our university students. 00:04:08.659 --> 00:04:08.859 It says, 00:04:08.939 --> 00:04:09.579 Pastor Tobin, 00:04:09.859 --> 00:04:14.900 I was told in my uni that marriage as an institution is something from the Middle Ages 00:04:14.900 --> 00:04:17.680 and that it's not really relevant to our day and age. 00:04:18.519 --> 00:04:20.300 Living together is a much better option. 00:04:21.240 --> 00:04:23.079 What are Watermark's thoughts on this? 00:04:24.000 --> 00:04:25.680 Please take a listen to a few more letters. 00:04:25.680 --> 00:04:28.280 Pastor, 00:04:28.600 --> 00:04:32.459 I'm pretty confident that my spouse is having other affairs 00:04:32.459 --> 00:04:34.780 as he travels to different countries for business. 00:04:36.100 --> 00:04:37.259 What should I do? 00:04:39.280 --> 00:04:40.620 Do I have him followed? 00:04:41.899 --> 00:04:45.259 Should I ask him about this and risk everything falling apart, 00:04:45.399 --> 00:04:48.740 or should I just shut up and live my comfortable life in Hong Kong? 00:04:49.720 --> 00:04:51.340 I'm desperate for your thoughts, 00:04:51.399 --> 00:04:53.360 as my friends all say it is common, 00:04:53.360 --> 00:04:55.860 and I should just swallow shame and live with it. 00:04:59.740 --> 00:05:00.379 Pastor T, 00:05:00.860 --> 00:05:02.360 as a single person, 00:05:02.780 --> 00:05:05.720 I really struggle with this idea of being single. 00:05:06.560 --> 00:05:07.180 Or should I say, 00:05:07.259 --> 00:05:08.160 sometimes I struggle, 00:05:08.360 --> 00:05:09.220 and other times I say, 00:05:09.300 --> 00:05:09.960 who cares? 00:05:10.680 --> 00:05:12.800 And that married people are just not that happy anyway. 00:05:12.800 --> 00:05:14.639 Actually, 00:05:14.860 --> 00:05:18.079 I have not found that right person to complete me yet. 00:05:19.020 --> 00:05:21.579 I'm still looking for a person who can fulfill my emotional, 00:05:21.900 --> 00:05:22.319 sexual, 00:05:22.819 --> 00:05:25.400 and spiritual needs without asking too much from me. 00:05:26.100 --> 00:05:27.860 A person who can fit into my lifestyle 00:05:27.860 --> 00:05:29.300 without slowing me down 00:05:29.300 --> 00:05:31.379 and making me distracted from my goals. 00:05:32.319 --> 00:05:33.780 I guess my question is, 00:05:34.160 --> 00:05:35.379 should I be bothered by this? 00:05:36.080 --> 00:05:37.060 Should this concern me? 00:05:37.060 --> 00:05:41.839 Pastor, 00:05:42.240 --> 00:05:45.879 how often should a couple have sex each month? 00:05:46.480 --> 00:05:46.920 And no, 00:05:47.079 --> 00:05:48.339 I'm not a man asking this. 00:05:48.959 --> 00:05:52.120 I just want to have it more often than my husband. 00:05:53.000 --> 00:05:54.860 My husband is always so tired, 00:05:55.319 --> 00:05:55.800 distracted, 00:05:56.459 --> 00:05:57.459 or busy with his work. 00:05:58.340 --> 00:06:00.980 Would God make me with this desire for my husband 00:06:00.980 --> 00:06:03.199 that cannot be fulfilled by him? 00:06:03.199 --> 00:06:04.199 Help. 00:06:08.939 --> 00:06:09.339 Help. 00:06:10.180 --> 00:06:11.079 As a wife, 00:06:11.159 --> 00:06:13.620 I'm really struggling with being married in Hong Kong. 00:06:14.379 --> 00:06:16.379 I feel like I've lost my best friend, 00:06:16.500 --> 00:06:17.019 my husband. 00:06:18.039 --> 00:06:19.099 Because of his work, 00:06:19.180 --> 00:06:20.219 he is often gone, 00:06:20.659 --> 00:06:22.740 and I have to celebrate major events 00:06:22.740 --> 00:06:24.379 in our family's lives without him. 00:06:25.379 --> 00:06:27.240 I feel like we don't connect anymore 00:06:27.240 --> 00:06:28.000 on a heart level, 00:06:28.839 --> 00:06:30.180 and that often I go to bed 00:06:30.180 --> 00:06:30.939 with a person 00:06:30.939 --> 00:06:32.579 who no longer knows me 00:06:32.579 --> 00:06:33.779 or cares to know me. 00:06:34.680 --> 00:06:35.300 I mean, 00:06:35.500 --> 00:06:37.540 we've changed so much as people 00:06:37.540 --> 00:06:38.439 since being married, 00:06:38.980 --> 00:06:40.319 and each stage of life 00:06:40.319 --> 00:06:41.540 brings us further apart. 00:06:42.300 --> 00:06:43.060 During the week, 00:06:43.139 --> 00:06:44.079 I manage the house 00:06:44.079 --> 00:06:44.740 and the family, 00:06:44.879 --> 00:06:45.839 and we have our own schedule 00:06:45.839 --> 00:06:46.519 that works. 00:06:47.300 --> 00:06:48.279 But when he returns, 00:06:48.819 --> 00:06:50.439 he wants us to drop everything 00:06:50.439 --> 00:06:51.779 and to try and fit him back 00:06:51.779 --> 00:06:52.659 into our lives. 00:06:53.639 --> 00:06:55.220 I'm trying to do this, 00:06:55.500 --> 00:06:57.480 but it's getting harder and harder 00:06:57.480 --> 00:06:59.860 to fit the stranger we call dad 00:06:59.860 --> 00:07:01.400 back into our family. 00:07:02.500 --> 00:07:03.980 My friends at the club tell me 00:07:03.980 --> 00:07:04.780 to just make sure 00:07:04.780 --> 00:07:05.879 I get enough resources 00:07:05.879 --> 00:07:06.759 before I leave him 00:07:06.759 --> 00:07:07.560 to start over. 00:07:08.400 --> 00:07:10.180 I do not want to do this, 00:07:11.220 --> 00:07:13.819 but he is no longer the person 00:07:13.819 --> 00:07:14.500 I married, 00:07:15.040 --> 00:07:16.560 and I worry for our children. 00:07:18.319 --> 00:07:18.759 So, 00:07:19.259 --> 00:07:21.840 what hope does Watermark and Jesus 00:07:21.840 --> 00:07:23.000 bring to me 00:07:23.000 --> 00:07:24.379 in this situation? 00:07:24.379 --> 00:07:32.259 Good morning. 00:07:32.920 --> 00:07:34.139 The scripture reading today 00:07:34.139 --> 00:07:35.100 comes from Genesis 00:07:35.100 --> 00:07:36.360 and the book 00:07:36.360 --> 00:07:38.219 to the Ephesians. 00:07:38.360 --> 00:07:39.439 Please follow along 00:07:39.439 --> 00:07:40.240 in your bulletins. 00:07:40.240 --> 00:07:52.259 Then God said, 00:07:52.720 --> 00:07:54.180 Let us make man 00:07:54.180 --> 00:07:55.040 in our image 00:07:55.040 --> 00:07:56.740 according to our likeness, 00:07:57.300 --> 00:07:58.180 and let them rule 00:07:58.180 --> 00:07:59.620 over the fish of the sea 00:07:59.620 --> 00:08:01.280 and over the birds of the sky 00:08:01.280 --> 00:08:02.340 and over the cattle 00:08:02.340 --> 00:08:03.740 and over all of the earth 00:08:03.740 --> 00:08:05.740 and over every creeping thing 00:08:05.740 --> 00:08:06.840 that creeps on the earth. 00:08:06.839 --> 00:08:09.039 God created man 00:08:09.039 --> 00:08:10.019 in his own image. 00:08:10.500 --> 00:08:11.439 In the image of God 00:08:11.439 --> 00:08:12.259 he created him. 00:08:12.859 --> 00:08:13.759 Male and female 00:08:13.759 --> 00:08:14.659 he created them. 00:08:15.479 --> 00:08:16.500 God blessed them, 00:08:16.699 --> 00:08:17.699 and God said to them, 00:08:17.939 --> 00:08:18.979 Be fruitful and multiply 00:08:18.979 --> 00:08:20.099 and fill the earth 00:08:20.099 --> 00:08:20.879 and subdue it 00:08:20.879 --> 00:08:22.639 and rule over the fish 00:08:22.639 --> 00:08:23.159 of the sea 00:08:23.159 --> 00:08:23.979 and over the birds 00:08:23.979 --> 00:08:24.599 of the sky 00:08:24.599 --> 00:08:26.459 and over every living thing 00:08:26.459 --> 00:08:27.539 that moves on the earth. 00:08:28.379 --> 00:08:29.459 For I know the plans 00:08:29.459 --> 00:08:30.419 that I have for you, 00:08:30.599 --> 00:08:31.299 declares the Lord, 00:08:32.059 --> 00:08:33.059 plans for welfare 00:08:33.059 --> 00:08:34.559 and not for calamity, 00:08:34.559 --> 00:08:36.279 to give you a future 00:08:36.279 --> 00:08:36.919 and a hope. 00:08:37.919 --> 00:08:38.839 Therefore be careful 00:08:38.839 --> 00:08:39.759 how you walk, 00:08:40.019 --> 00:08:41.379 not as unwise men, 00:08:41.500 --> 00:08:42.399 but as wise, 00:08:42.779 --> 00:08:44.279 making the most of your time, 00:08:44.539 --> 00:08:45.859 because the days are evil. 00:08:46.919 --> 00:08:47.439 So then, 00:08:47.519 --> 00:08:48.299 do not be foolish, 00:08:48.539 --> 00:08:49.239 but understand 00:08:49.239 --> 00:08:49.879 what the will 00:08:49.879 --> 00:08:50.819 of the Lord is. 00:08:51.619 --> 00:08:52.699 And do not get drunk 00:08:52.699 --> 00:08:53.259 with wine, 00:08:53.379 --> 00:08:54.639 for that is dissipation, 00:08:55.519 --> 00:08:56.099 but be filled 00:08:56.099 --> 00:08:56.779 with the Spirit, 00:08:57.319 --> 00:08:59.079 speaking to one another 00:08:59.079 --> 00:09:00.599 in psalms and hymns 00:09:00.599 --> 00:09:01.879 and spiritual songs. 00:09:02.359 --> 00:09:03.639 Singing and making melody 00:09:03.639 --> 00:09:04.419 with your heart 00:09:04.419 --> 00:09:05.000 to the Lord, 00:09:05.840 --> 00:09:06.879 always giving thanks 00:09:06.879 --> 00:09:07.679 for all things 00:09:07.679 --> 00:09:09.480 in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ 00:09:09.480 --> 00:09:10.100 to God, 00:09:10.439 --> 00:09:11.220 even the Father, 00:09:11.699 --> 00:09:12.980 and be subject to one another 00:09:12.980 --> 00:09:14.439 in the fear of Christ. 00:09:15.740 --> 00:09:16.259 Wives, 00:09:16.580 --> 00:09:19.019 be subject to your own husbands 00:09:19.019 --> 00:09:20.620 as to the Lord, 00:09:21.179 --> 00:09:21.779 for the husband 00:09:21.779 --> 00:09:23.179 is the head of the wife 00:09:23.179 --> 00:09:24.279 as Christ 00:09:24.279 --> 00:09:26.500 is also the head of the church, 00:09:27.139 --> 00:09:27.840 he himself 00:09:27.840 --> 00:09:28.740 being the Savior 00:09:28.740 --> 00:09:29.600 of the body. 00:09:30.319 --> 00:09:31.179 But as the church 00:09:31.179 --> 00:09:32.240 is subject to Christ, 00:09:32.240 --> 00:09:33.560 so also the wives 00:09:33.560 --> 00:09:34.180 ought to be 00:09:34.180 --> 00:09:34.960 to their husbands 00:09:34.960 --> 00:09:35.779 in everything. 00:09:36.940 --> 00:09:37.379 Husbands, 00:09:37.960 --> 00:09:39.320 love your wives, 00:09:39.960 --> 00:09:41.039 just as Christ 00:09:41.039 --> 00:09:42.299 also loved the church 00:09:42.299 --> 00:09:43.960 and gave himself up for her, 00:09:44.539 --> 00:09:45.279 so that he might 00:09:45.279 --> 00:09:46.120 sanctify her, 00:09:46.720 --> 00:09:47.560 having cleansed her 00:09:47.560 --> 00:09:48.700 by the washing of water 00:09:48.700 --> 00:09:49.419 with the word, 00:09:49.940 --> 00:09:50.840 that he might present 00:09:50.840 --> 00:09:52.039 to himself the church 00:09:52.039 --> 00:09:53.000 in all her glory, 00:09:53.600 --> 00:09:54.539 having no spot 00:09:54.539 --> 00:09:55.080 or wrinkle 00:09:55.080 --> 00:09:56.279 or any such thing, 00:09:56.720 --> 00:09:57.799 but that she would be 00:09:57.799 --> 00:09:59.879 holy and blameless. 00:09:59.879 --> 00:10:02.159 So husbands 00:10:02.159 --> 00:10:02.960 ought also 00:10:02.960 --> 00:10:04.320 to love their own wives 00:10:04.320 --> 00:10:05.439 as their own bodies. 00:10:06.439 --> 00:10:07.019 He who loves 00:10:07.019 --> 00:10:07.679 his own wife 00:10:07.679 --> 00:10:08.399 loves himself, 00:10:09.179 --> 00:10:10.019 for no one ever 00:10:10.019 --> 00:10:11.080 hated his own flesh, 00:10:11.580 --> 00:10:12.279 but nourishes 00:10:12.279 --> 00:10:13.439 and cherishes it, 00:10:13.840 --> 00:10:14.519 just as Christ 00:10:14.519 --> 00:10:15.679 also does the church, 00:10:16.240 --> 00:10:17.100 because we are members 00:10:17.100 --> 00:10:17.820 of his body. 00:10:18.679 --> 00:10:19.480 For this reason 00:10:19.480 --> 00:10:20.340 a man shall leave 00:10:20.340 --> 00:10:21.299 his father and mother 00:10:21.299 --> 00:10:22.600 and shall be joined 00:10:22.600 --> 00:10:23.299 to his wife, 00:10:23.539 --> 00:10:24.059 and the two 00:10:24.059 --> 00:10:25.299 shall become one flesh. 00:10:25.299 --> 00:10:27.219 This mystery is great, 00:10:27.799 --> 00:10:28.479 but I am speaking 00:10:28.479 --> 00:10:29.000 with reference 00:10:29.000 --> 00:10:30.319 to Christ and the church. 00:10:31.059 --> 00:10:31.539 Nevertheless, 00:10:32.359 --> 00:10:33.079 each individual 00:10:33.079 --> 00:10:33.740 among you 00:10:33.740 --> 00:10:34.379 is to love 00:10:34.379 --> 00:10:35.159 his own wife 00:10:35.159 --> 00:10:36.399 even as himself. 00:10:37.120 --> 00:10:37.939 And the wife 00:10:37.939 --> 00:10:38.879 must see to it 00:10:38.879 --> 00:10:39.859 that she respects 00:10:39.859 --> 00:10:40.479 her husband. 00:10:41.199 --> 00:10:42.279 This is God's word. 00:10:45.579 --> 00:10:46.299 Thanks guys. 00:10:46.439 --> 00:10:47.299 Great music today. 00:10:47.579 --> 00:10:48.079 Worshiping. 00:10:48.080 --> 00:10:58.720 How you guys doing? 00:10:59.840 --> 00:11:00.400 Wow. 00:11:03.100 --> 00:11:04.280 That's pretty good, 00:11:04.320 --> 00:11:05.080 good, great. 00:11:05.940 --> 00:11:06.900 Better than normal. 00:11:07.960 --> 00:11:08.680 Hey, we are, 00:11:09.340 --> 00:11:10.540 as I get all my 00:11:10.540 --> 00:11:13.820 stuff organized up here, 00:11:14.820 --> 00:11:17.120 we are doing 00:11:17.120 --> 00:11:19.279 a sermon series. 00:11:19.940 --> 00:11:20.159 Actually, 00:11:20.179 --> 00:11:20.779 this is the last one 00:11:20.779 --> 00:11:21.220 for a while 00:11:21.220 --> 00:11:22.100 as we enter into Advent, 00:11:22.259 --> 00:11:23.220 and we are going to 00:11:23.220 --> 00:11:24.039 have people text 00:11:24.039 --> 00:11:24.919 messaging us. 00:11:25.019 --> 00:11:25.879 I think the thing 00:11:25.879 --> 00:11:26.519 is still open 00:11:26.519 --> 00:11:28.399 if you want to try 00:11:28.399 --> 00:11:29.060 later on. 00:11:30.100 --> 00:11:30.720 And we are looking 00:11:30.720 --> 00:11:31.419 at questions 00:11:31.419 --> 00:11:33.179 that people want to ask, 00:11:33.279 --> 00:11:33.799 but they are afraid 00:11:33.799 --> 00:11:34.240 to ask, 00:11:34.299 --> 00:11:34.799 because they are afraid 00:11:34.799 --> 00:11:35.580 if they ask it, 00:11:35.600 --> 00:11:36.019 it is going to start 00:11:36.019 --> 00:11:36.919 this huge fight 00:11:36.919 --> 00:11:37.440 or argument. 00:11:38.159 --> 00:11:38.899 I called them 00:11:38.899 --> 00:11:39.700 guerrilla Christians 00:11:39.700 --> 00:11:40.320 in my family 00:11:40.320 --> 00:11:40.740 growing up, 00:11:40.759 --> 00:11:41.259 because there are things 00:11:41.259 --> 00:11:42.100 that you know 00:11:42.100 --> 00:11:42.720 you shouldn't go there, 00:11:42.759 --> 00:11:43.480 but if you go there, 00:11:43.899 --> 00:11:44.639 just prepare to get 00:11:44.639 --> 00:11:45.620 your arms ripped off 00:11:45.620 --> 00:11:46.139 by the person 00:11:46.139 --> 00:11:46.860 you are talking to, 00:11:46.860 --> 00:11:47.860 in that conversation. 00:11:48.860 --> 00:11:49.740 And so last week, 00:11:49.779 --> 00:11:51.060 we talked about stewardship, 00:11:51.300 --> 00:11:53.019 money, finances, 00:11:53.440 --> 00:11:54.440 how much we should give, 00:11:54.879 --> 00:11:56.139 and we looked at the passage 00:11:56.139 --> 00:11:56.980 in Luke 16, 00:11:57.220 --> 00:11:57.840 and at the end, 00:11:57.899 --> 00:11:58.399 we said, 00:11:59.620 --> 00:12:00.000 hopefully, 00:12:00.279 --> 00:12:01.560 you heard me say, 00:12:02.519 --> 00:12:03.600 that the whole story 00:12:03.600 --> 00:12:04.120 of the steward 00:12:04.120 --> 00:12:04.919 only worked 00:12:04.919 --> 00:12:07.019 as long as the master 00:12:07.019 --> 00:12:07.480 was good. 00:12:08.840 --> 00:12:10.519 The story of stewardship 00:12:10.519 --> 00:12:11.379 that we read, 00:12:11.840 --> 00:12:12.539 the story of the guy 00:12:12.539 --> 00:12:13.360 trying to cheat 00:12:13.360 --> 00:12:14.539 and trying to fix 00:12:14.539 --> 00:12:16.519 and focus on his future 00:12:16.519 --> 00:12:18.539 only was going to work 00:12:18.539 --> 00:12:19.860 if the master 00:12:19.860 --> 00:12:20.459 was good 00:12:20.459 --> 00:12:22.120 and gracious 00:12:22.120 --> 00:12:22.899 and kind. 00:12:23.539 --> 00:12:24.299 Because no matter 00:12:24.299 --> 00:12:26.379 how clever he was 00:12:26.379 --> 00:12:27.279 in trying to figure out 00:12:27.279 --> 00:12:27.879 his future 00:12:27.879 --> 00:12:28.659 and what was important 00:12:28.659 --> 00:12:29.360 in his future, 00:12:30.199 --> 00:12:30.759 if the master 00:12:30.759 --> 00:12:31.659 called him on it, 00:12:32.459 --> 00:12:33.199 he would be lost. 00:12:34.319 --> 00:12:35.179 So today, 00:12:35.559 --> 00:12:37.120 and I think that's a theme 00:12:37.120 --> 00:12:37.779 we need to carry 00:12:37.779 --> 00:12:38.779 through all of our talks, 00:12:38.860 --> 00:12:39.879 today we want to look at 00:12:39.879 --> 00:12:42.039 questions that you've heard 00:12:42.039 --> 00:12:42.980 talked about. 00:12:42.980 --> 00:12:43.779 We want to look at the idea 00:12:43.779 --> 00:12:44.460 of marriage, 00:12:45.220 --> 00:12:46.240 love, 00:12:46.440 --> 00:12:46.879 sex, 00:12:47.080 --> 00:12:47.899 maybe a little dating. 00:12:48.000 --> 00:12:48.740 We'll probably do another one 00:12:48.740 --> 00:12:49.220 for dating, 00:12:49.700 --> 00:12:50.340 for singles. 00:12:50.580 --> 00:12:51.539 And I think this is probably 00:12:51.539 --> 00:12:52.700 a topic that is, 00:12:53.320 --> 00:12:55.379 I've actually never heard this 00:12:55.379 --> 00:12:56.180 in church before, 00:12:56.279 --> 00:12:57.460 hardly ever growing up. 00:12:57.980 --> 00:12:58.139 I mean, 00:12:58.139 --> 00:12:59.580 I never heard a topic 00:12:59.580 --> 00:13:00.320 on marriage 00:13:00.320 --> 00:13:01.300 or a sermon series 00:13:01.300 --> 00:13:01.759 on marriage. 00:13:02.159 --> 00:13:02.940 I've never heard 00:13:02.940 --> 00:13:03.519 a sermon series 00:13:03.519 --> 00:13:05.139 on relationships, 00:13:05.840 --> 00:13:06.800 guys and girls, 00:13:07.019 --> 00:13:07.600 roles. 00:13:07.960 --> 00:13:08.899 I've never heard 00:13:08.899 --> 00:13:09.879 a topic for sure 00:13:09.879 --> 00:13:11.300 or a sermon on sex. 00:13:11.299 --> 00:13:12.519 But I think that, 00:13:13.139 --> 00:13:14.319 and you can say that word 00:13:14.319 --> 00:13:14.759 in church, 00:13:14.879 --> 00:13:15.179 sex, 00:13:15.319 --> 00:13:15.539 okay? 00:13:15.620 --> 00:13:16.139 So some of you 00:13:16.139 --> 00:13:16.719 are going to, 00:13:16.759 --> 00:13:17.519 we'll edit it out 00:13:17.519 --> 00:13:18.379 when people listen on it, 00:13:18.399 --> 00:13:19.199 but that's okay 00:13:19.199 --> 00:13:20.419 because God created that. 00:13:20.759 --> 00:13:21.359 But I think that was 00:13:21.359 --> 00:13:21.959 one of those things 00:13:21.959 --> 00:13:23.979 that I'd never imagined 00:13:23.979 --> 00:13:25.079 that we could talk about 00:13:25.079 --> 00:13:26.120 in the church 00:13:26.120 --> 00:13:27.839 and yet the church 00:13:27.839 --> 00:13:29.099 needed to talk about it 00:13:29.099 --> 00:13:29.679 so much. 00:13:29.719 --> 00:13:31.059 It seemed like the church 00:13:31.059 --> 00:13:31.939 throughout the ages 00:13:31.939 --> 00:13:34.279 was quiet 00:13:34.279 --> 00:13:35.079 when it needed 00:13:35.079 --> 00:13:36.159 to speak up. 00:13:36.159 --> 00:13:38.559 And it seems like it, 00:13:39.079 --> 00:13:40.139 when it spoke up, 00:13:40.199 --> 00:13:40.980 it didn't necessarily 00:13:40.980 --> 00:13:42.459 say the right things. 00:13:43.299 --> 00:13:43.819 It said things 00:13:43.819 --> 00:13:44.899 that kind of got changed 00:13:44.899 --> 00:13:46.059 as cultures and time 00:13:46.059 --> 00:13:47.819 and was not good 00:13:47.819 --> 00:13:48.699 and basically ended up 00:13:48.699 --> 00:13:49.240 putting people 00:13:49.240 --> 00:13:50.779 in bondage 00:13:50.779 --> 00:13:51.519 and legalism 00:13:51.519 --> 00:13:52.919 as opposed to grace 00:13:52.919 --> 00:13:54.339 and mercy 00:13:54.339 --> 00:13:55.620 and love. 00:13:56.500 --> 00:13:57.419 My family 00:13:57.419 --> 00:13:59.079 never talked 00:13:59.079 --> 00:13:59.959 about these things. 00:14:00.839 --> 00:14:01.559 I can remember 00:14:01.559 --> 00:14:02.399 when it came time 00:14:02.399 --> 00:14:03.939 to talk about sex, 00:14:03.940 --> 00:14:05.700 my dad gave me 00:14:05.700 --> 00:14:06.260 this book. 00:14:07.900 --> 00:14:08.900 And the book 00:14:08.900 --> 00:14:10.760 had two people 00:14:10.760 --> 00:14:11.800 walking their dogs. 00:14:12.840 --> 00:14:13.880 And it said, 00:14:14.540 --> 00:14:14.780 look, 00:14:15.400 --> 00:14:15.940 the masters 00:14:15.940 --> 00:14:16.900 are walking the dog. 00:14:17.660 --> 00:14:18.840 There's a daddy dog 00:14:18.840 --> 00:14:20.560 and there's a girl dog. 00:14:21.480 --> 00:14:22.540 Oh, next page. 00:14:23.160 --> 00:14:23.800 The daddy dog 00:14:23.800 --> 00:14:24.440 and the girl dog, 00:14:24.640 --> 00:14:25.880 they fall in love. 00:14:26.780 --> 00:14:28.160 Isn't marriage great? 00:14:29.140 --> 00:14:30.000 Next page. 00:14:30.520 --> 00:14:31.140 Daddy dog 00:14:31.140 --> 00:14:31.780 and the girl dog 00:14:31.780 --> 00:14:32.960 go into a room. 00:14:32.960 --> 00:14:34.440 The door shuts. 00:14:35.639 --> 00:14:36.420 Next page. 00:14:37.120 --> 00:14:37.840 The door opens, 00:14:37.920 --> 00:14:38.360 daddy dog 00:14:38.360 --> 00:14:38.860 and the girl dog 00:14:38.860 --> 00:14:39.420 walk out 00:14:39.420 --> 00:14:40.060 and there's a whole bunch 00:14:40.060 --> 00:14:40.500 of little puppies 00:14:40.500 --> 00:14:41.120 behind them. 00:14:42.620 --> 00:14:43.759 Isn't sex wonderful? 00:14:45.379 --> 00:14:45.980 And a week later 00:14:45.980 --> 00:14:46.800 my dad came back 00:14:46.800 --> 00:14:47.560 to me and he said, 00:14:48.000 --> 00:14:48.960 are there any questions 00:14:48.960 --> 00:14:49.440 you have 00:14:49.440 --> 00:14:51.160 on marriage, 00:14:51.900 --> 00:14:52.500 love, 00:14:52.820 --> 00:14:53.500 or sex? 00:14:53.639 --> 00:14:54.379 And I was like, 00:14:54.940 --> 00:14:56.220 there's no way 00:14:56.220 --> 00:14:57.400 I'm going to ask 00:14:57.400 --> 00:14:58.420 a question to my parents 00:14:58.420 --> 00:14:59.060 on this topic. 00:14:59.460 --> 00:15:00.080 And I just think 00:15:00.080 --> 00:15:00.600 it was just, 00:15:00.720 --> 00:15:01.800 I just remember that. 00:15:01.799 --> 00:15:02.839 And even to this day 00:15:02.839 --> 00:15:03.579 as siblings 00:15:03.579 --> 00:15:05.179 when we talk about kids 00:15:05.179 --> 00:15:06.419 and growing up 00:15:06.419 --> 00:15:07.699 and a sex question 00:15:07.699 --> 00:15:08.279 comes up, 00:15:08.579 --> 00:15:08.979 we say, 00:15:09.059 --> 00:15:09.279 okay, 00:15:09.399 --> 00:15:10.479 you better bring out 00:15:10.479 --> 00:15:11.059 the puppy book 00:15:11.059 --> 00:15:11.620 and let's open up 00:15:11.620 --> 00:15:12.379 the puppy book 00:15:12.379 --> 00:15:13.339 and see what the puppy book says. 00:15:13.779 --> 00:15:14.259 But I think that, 00:15:14.279 --> 00:15:14.439 you know, 00:15:14.479 --> 00:15:16.259 you can learn a lot 00:15:16.259 --> 00:15:17.599 about, 00:15:17.759 --> 00:15:18.099 hey Charles, 00:15:18.139 --> 00:15:18.459 can I ask you 00:15:18.459 --> 00:15:18.879 a quick favor? 00:15:19.259 --> 00:15:20.039 Could you shut that door 00:15:20.039 --> 00:15:20.519 so we can, 00:15:21.199 --> 00:15:21.539 for the outside 00:15:21.539 --> 00:15:22.039 for the kids? 00:15:22.500 --> 00:15:23.319 I think you can learn 00:15:23.319 --> 00:15:24.939 a lot about 00:15:24.940 --> 00:15:26.540 how a culture 00:15:26.540 --> 00:15:27.720 talks about marriage, 00:15:28.380 --> 00:15:28.940 love, 00:15:29.320 --> 00:15:30.260 and sex. 00:15:31.020 --> 00:15:31.760 And you can look 00:15:31.760 --> 00:15:32.400 at our culture 00:15:32.400 --> 00:15:32.980 and look at how 00:15:32.980 --> 00:15:33.780 it's portrayed 00:15:33.780 --> 00:15:34.540 on movies 00:15:34.540 --> 00:15:35.300 and on videos 00:15:35.300 --> 00:15:36.000 and songs 00:15:36.000 --> 00:15:37.040 and you can learn 00:15:37.040 --> 00:15:37.740 a lot about 00:15:37.740 --> 00:15:38.880 the values 00:15:38.880 --> 00:15:39.440 and things 00:15:39.440 --> 00:15:40.320 that we put in that. 00:15:41.040 --> 00:15:42.000 In the Old Testament, 00:15:42.400 --> 00:15:43.040 whenever you talked 00:15:43.040 --> 00:15:43.880 about relationships 00:15:43.880 --> 00:15:44.480 and marriage 00:15:44.480 --> 00:15:45.060 and sex, 00:15:45.440 --> 00:15:46.280 the word that always 00:15:46.280 --> 00:15:46.840 came out 00:15:46.840 --> 00:15:47.820 was this word 00:15:47.820 --> 00:15:48.160 yada. 00:15:48.159 --> 00:15:48.279 Yada. 00:15:49.480 --> 00:15:52.819 Y-A-W-D-A-H. 00:15:52.919 --> 00:15:53.360 Can you say it with me? 00:15:53.439 --> 00:15:53.659 Yada. 00:15:54.639 --> 00:15:54.980 Yada. 00:15:55.319 --> 00:15:55.819 And sometimes 00:15:55.819 --> 00:15:56.539 you hear people say 00:15:56.539 --> 00:15:57.360 yada, yada, yada. 00:15:58.439 --> 00:15:59.819 But that is the word 00:15:59.819 --> 00:16:00.519 that was primarily 00:16:00.519 --> 00:16:01.959 used in the Hebrew culture 00:16:01.959 --> 00:16:02.839 when it started talking 00:16:02.839 --> 00:16:03.759 about sex, 00:16:04.459 --> 00:16:04.879 marriage, 00:16:05.059 --> 00:16:05.939 and relationships. 00:16:06.079 --> 00:16:07.819 It's used over 500 times 00:16:07.819 --> 00:16:09.039 in the Old Testament. 00:16:09.419 --> 00:16:10.199 And when you look 00:16:10.199 --> 00:16:10.939 at its usage, 00:16:11.079 --> 00:16:11.679 some guys have done 00:16:11.679 --> 00:16:12.879 extensive studies 00:16:12.879 --> 00:16:13.779 on yada, 00:16:14.139 --> 00:16:15.339 you see that it means 00:16:15.339 --> 00:16:16.100 to know, 00:16:16.699 --> 00:16:17.639 to observe, 00:16:18.159 --> 00:16:19.360 to study closely, 00:16:19.620 --> 00:16:21.199 to be a servant of, 00:16:21.519 --> 00:16:22.819 to have a relationship with, 00:16:22.980 --> 00:16:23.799 to have marriage, 00:16:24.100 --> 00:16:25.100 to have sexual relationships. 00:16:25.500 --> 00:16:26.159 It's not just 00:16:26.159 --> 00:16:27.500 this abstract idea, 00:16:27.620 --> 00:16:27.899 yada, 00:16:28.139 --> 00:16:29.240 oh, I know that person 00:16:29.240 --> 00:16:29.659 over there. 00:16:29.799 --> 00:16:30.919 But when you say yada, 00:16:31.279 --> 00:16:32.559 it means intimacy. 00:16:33.620 --> 00:16:35.219 It means coming together. 00:16:35.379 --> 00:16:36.559 It means knowing 00:16:36.559 --> 00:16:37.839 that person 00:16:37.839 --> 00:16:39.279 very, very well. 00:16:39.339 --> 00:16:40.500 It means being a student 00:16:40.500 --> 00:16:41.480 of that person. 00:16:41.579 --> 00:16:42.600 It means knowing 00:16:42.600 --> 00:16:43.860 what that person 00:16:43.860 --> 00:16:44.779 is thinking 00:16:44.779 --> 00:16:47.679 before they say it. 00:16:48.159 --> 00:16:50.100 in a relationship, 00:16:50.100 --> 00:16:50.939 as you walk 00:16:50.939 --> 00:16:51.819 into a relationship 00:16:51.819 --> 00:16:52.699 with a man 00:16:52.699 --> 00:16:53.259 and a woman, 00:16:53.819 --> 00:16:54.500 it's this yada, 00:16:54.860 --> 00:16:56.659 it's this intimacy 00:16:56.659 --> 00:16:58.419 that happens. 00:16:59.299 --> 00:16:59.539 Now, 00:16:59.600 --> 00:17:00.539 sometimes you see 00:17:00.539 --> 00:17:01.439 somebody and you say, 00:17:01.620 --> 00:17:03.179 I see my wife over there 00:17:03.179 --> 00:17:03.519 and I go, 00:17:03.679 --> 00:17:04.480 yada, yada, yada, 00:17:04.480 --> 00:17:06.519 which has other meanings 00:17:06.519 --> 00:17:07.379 to that. 00:17:08.099 --> 00:17:09.039 It means beyond, 00:17:09.180 --> 00:17:10.500 I just want to know her, 00:17:10.579 --> 00:17:11.339 but I want to 00:17:11.339 --> 00:17:13.299 spend time with her 00:17:13.299 --> 00:17:14.559 in the puppy room, 00:17:14.619 --> 00:17:14.920 right? 00:17:15.300 --> 00:17:16.600 So that's what that means. 00:17:17.019 --> 00:17:18.060 But we're going to talk 00:17:18.060 --> 00:17:18.900 about that today 00:17:18.900 --> 00:17:19.759 and it's important 00:17:19.759 --> 00:17:20.519 to remember that 00:17:20.519 --> 00:17:21.900 when the Bible talks 00:17:21.900 --> 00:17:22.779 about marriage 00:17:22.779 --> 00:17:24.000 and sex 00:17:24.000 --> 00:17:25.259 and love, 00:17:25.800 --> 00:17:26.860 that it's always done 00:17:26.860 --> 00:17:27.759 in this aspect 00:17:27.759 --> 00:17:28.680 of caring. 00:17:30.700 --> 00:17:31.700 It's always done 00:17:31.700 --> 00:17:32.300 in the aspect 00:17:32.300 --> 00:17:33.060 of commitment. 00:17:34.200 --> 00:17:35.380 It's always done 00:17:35.380 --> 00:17:36.920 with this understanding 00:17:36.920 --> 00:17:39.279 of a personal knowing. 00:17:40.019 --> 00:17:41.160 It's always done 00:17:41.160 --> 00:17:42.340 with this idea 00:17:42.340 --> 00:17:43.580 of sacrifice. 00:17:43.579 --> 00:17:45.359 there's always 00:17:45.359 --> 00:17:46.539 the word covenant 00:17:46.539 --> 00:17:48.740 that is after it. 00:17:49.839 --> 00:17:50.559 And we're going to talk 00:17:50.559 --> 00:17:51.500 about what that covenant 00:17:51.500 --> 00:17:52.199 means because 00:17:52.199 --> 00:17:54.579 there is a huge meaning 00:17:54.579 --> 00:17:56.119 behind the idea 00:17:56.119 --> 00:17:56.819 of covenant 00:17:56.819 --> 00:17:57.539 and what it means 00:17:57.539 --> 00:17:58.439 when a man 00:17:58.439 --> 00:17:59.399 and a woman 00:17:59.399 --> 00:18:01.279 covenant together. 00:18:02.059 --> 00:18:02.539 And so we're going 00:18:02.539 --> 00:18:03.039 to talk about 00:18:03.039 --> 00:18:03.619 what does it mean 00:18:03.619 --> 00:18:04.899 to be sacred. 00:18:05.319 --> 00:18:05.779 We're going to talk 00:18:05.779 --> 00:18:06.159 about yada. 00:18:06.919 --> 00:18:08.199 In 60 AD, 00:18:08.319 --> 00:18:09.199 the passage that you have 00:18:09.199 --> 00:18:09.819 here right now, 00:18:10.379 --> 00:18:11.279 Paul was in prison. 00:18:11.939 --> 00:18:12.439 Well, he wasn't really 00:18:12.439 --> 00:18:12.779 in prison. 00:18:12.779 --> 00:18:13.519 He was in chains. 00:18:13.579 --> 00:18:14.339 He was in chains 00:18:14.339 --> 00:18:15.500 between these Roman soldiers 00:18:15.500 --> 00:18:17.059 and they kept him 00:18:17.059 --> 00:18:17.500 in his house 00:18:17.500 --> 00:18:18.000 because he paid 00:18:18.000 --> 00:18:18.480 for his house. 00:18:18.539 --> 00:18:18.879 So he's paying 00:18:18.879 --> 00:18:19.379 for his house, 00:18:19.799 --> 00:18:20.379 paying for his prison. 00:18:20.480 --> 00:18:21.319 He's been chained up 00:18:21.319 --> 00:18:22.839 and he hears this news 00:18:22.839 --> 00:18:23.579 and the news is 00:18:23.579 --> 00:18:24.799 that this young church 00:18:24.799 --> 00:18:25.399 that he started 00:18:25.399 --> 00:18:25.980 in Ephesus 00:18:25.980 --> 00:18:27.899 was having trouble 00:18:27.899 --> 00:18:29.660 and he became 00:18:29.660 --> 00:18:30.279 very concerned 00:18:30.279 --> 00:18:30.779 about it. 00:18:31.259 --> 00:18:32.139 And this church 00:18:32.139 --> 00:18:33.099 was very interesting. 00:18:33.200 --> 00:18:33.700 He planted it 00:18:33.700 --> 00:18:34.740 about two years before 00:18:34.740 --> 00:18:36.279 and this church 00:18:36.279 --> 00:18:36.680 was planted 00:18:36.680 --> 00:18:37.319 in a culture 00:18:37.319 --> 00:18:38.019 that was surrounded 00:18:38.019 --> 00:18:38.700 by at least 00:18:38.700 --> 00:18:39.879 three other cultures. 00:18:40.660 --> 00:18:41.279 It was surrounded 00:18:41.279 --> 00:18:42.160 by the Roman culture 00:18:42.160 --> 00:18:43.440 and it was Roman 00:18:43.440 --> 00:18:44.340 by the Greek culture 00:18:44.340 --> 00:18:45.200 and it was Roman 00:18:45.200 --> 00:18:46.120 by the Hebrew culture 00:18:46.120 --> 00:18:46.779 and Jewish culture 00:18:46.779 --> 00:18:48.180 and all of these cultures 00:18:48.180 --> 00:18:48.980 came in 00:18:48.980 --> 00:18:51.259 and started to influence 00:18:51.259 --> 00:18:53.500 God's people 00:18:53.500 --> 00:18:55.060 in a very, 00:18:55.220 --> 00:18:55.800 very negative 00:18:55.800 --> 00:18:56.960 and harsh way. 00:18:57.800 --> 00:18:58.040 And so, 00:18:58.259 --> 00:18:59.160 as Paul started 00:18:59.160 --> 00:19:00.040 to see this church 00:19:00.040 --> 00:19:01.019 start to fall apart 00:19:01.019 --> 00:19:01.740 and struggle with 00:19:01.740 --> 00:19:02.259 what does it mean 00:19:02.259 --> 00:19:02.720 to yada? 00:19:03.019 --> 00:19:03.620 What does it mean 00:19:03.620 --> 00:19:04.360 to have relationships? 00:19:04.519 --> 00:19:04.860 What does it mean 00:19:04.860 --> 00:19:05.340 to be married? 00:19:05.620 --> 00:19:06.100 What does it mean 00:19:06.100 --> 00:19:07.019 to know people? 00:19:07.100 --> 00:19:07.519 What does it mean 00:19:07.519 --> 00:19:08.700 to serve people? 00:19:09.420 --> 00:19:11.960 He penned this passage 00:19:11.960 --> 00:19:13.539 in this book of Ephesians 00:19:13.539 --> 00:19:14.819 and I think when we read this 00:19:14.819 --> 00:19:15.559 for me personally 00:19:15.559 --> 00:19:16.480 it is something 00:19:16.480 --> 00:19:17.539 that we just kind of read 00:19:17.539 --> 00:19:18.420 and we forget about 00:19:18.420 --> 00:19:19.200 how powerful 00:19:19.200 --> 00:19:20.220 and meaningful it is 00:19:20.220 --> 00:19:21.960 because when Paul 00:19:21.960 --> 00:19:24.319 wrote this passage 00:19:24.319 --> 00:19:26.379 things were very different 00:19:26.379 --> 00:19:27.180 than it was today. 00:19:28.220 --> 00:19:29.559 In Paul's day and age 00:19:29.559 --> 00:19:30.079 in Roman, 00:19:30.379 --> 00:19:30.680 Greek, 00:19:31.019 --> 00:19:31.859 in Hebrew society 00:19:31.859 --> 00:19:34.019 a woman meant nothing. 00:19:34.019 --> 00:19:36.839 A woman was property. 00:19:37.900 --> 00:19:39.039 She had no rights 00:19:39.039 --> 00:19:39.759 whatsoever. 00:19:40.660 --> 00:19:41.680 She could not divorce 00:19:41.680 --> 00:19:42.039 her husband 00:19:42.039 --> 00:19:43.160 no matter how bad 00:19:43.160 --> 00:19:43.759 he treated her 00:19:43.759 --> 00:19:44.799 and if he disappeared 00:19:44.799 --> 00:19:46.220 for 20 years 00:19:46.220 --> 00:19:47.259 there is no way 00:19:47.259 --> 00:19:48.019 that she could get rid 00:19:48.019 --> 00:19:48.379 of him. 00:19:49.839 --> 00:19:50.720 But in these cultures 00:19:50.720 --> 00:19:51.539 the man 00:19:51.539 --> 00:19:53.099 could divorce a woman 00:19:53.099 --> 00:19:54.379 in an instant. 00:19:55.379 --> 00:19:56.220 I was reading 00:19:56.220 --> 00:19:57.119 some old text 00:19:57.119 --> 00:19:57.460 and it said 00:19:57.460 --> 00:19:58.319 basically this guy 00:19:58.319 --> 00:19:59.700 divorced his wife 00:19:59.700 --> 00:20:00.519 because she made 00:20:00.519 --> 00:20:01.019 the food 00:20:01.019 --> 00:20:01.940 too salty. 00:20:01.940 --> 00:20:04.980 and that's the culture 00:20:04.980 --> 00:20:07.000 that Paul was writing to 00:20:07.000 --> 00:20:07.799 and this is the culture 00:20:07.799 --> 00:20:08.400 that the people 00:20:08.400 --> 00:20:09.220 were struggling with. 00:20:09.640 --> 00:20:10.680 Men in this day 00:20:10.680 --> 00:20:12.299 they were gods. 00:20:13.160 --> 00:20:14.059 They were rulers. 00:20:14.200 --> 00:20:14.980 They were the king. 00:20:15.299 --> 00:20:15.740 They were under 00:20:15.740 --> 00:20:16.600 no obligation. 00:20:16.779 --> 00:20:17.640 They had no responsibility 00:20:17.640 --> 00:20:18.620 to their wife 00:20:18.620 --> 00:20:19.460 or to their family. 00:20:19.759 --> 00:20:20.680 They didn't have to care. 00:20:21.059 --> 00:20:22.080 The passage says 00:20:22.080 --> 00:20:23.200 as you read history 00:20:23.200 --> 00:20:24.279 that most men 00:20:24.279 --> 00:20:25.420 had four to five 00:20:25.420 --> 00:20:26.680 to six mistresses, 00:20:27.140 --> 00:20:27.740 concubines, 00:20:27.880 --> 00:20:28.799 and other wives. 00:20:29.880 --> 00:20:30.759 The only reason 00:20:30.759 --> 00:20:31.500 they had a wife 00:20:31.500 --> 00:20:32.180 was to take care 00:20:32.180 --> 00:20:32.700 of the children 00:20:32.700 --> 00:20:34.099 while they were 00:20:34.099 --> 00:20:34.740 out traveling. 00:20:35.640 --> 00:20:36.579 But when it came 00:20:36.579 --> 00:20:37.980 to ideas of love 00:20:37.980 --> 00:20:40.380 and relationship, 00:20:42.200 --> 00:20:43.259 Aristotle, 00:20:44.039 --> 00:20:44.480 Plato, 00:20:45.059 --> 00:20:45.599 Plutarch, 00:20:46.019 --> 00:20:46.720 the play writers 00:20:46.720 --> 00:20:47.339 in Greek 00:20:47.339 --> 00:20:48.279 and Roman history, 00:20:48.680 --> 00:20:49.200 none of them 00:20:49.200 --> 00:20:50.059 would ever say 00:20:50.059 --> 00:20:51.039 that that happened 00:20:51.039 --> 00:20:51.779 within the family. 00:20:52.819 --> 00:20:53.240 None of them 00:20:53.240 --> 00:20:53.779 would ever say 00:20:53.779 --> 00:20:54.200 that it happened 00:20:54.200 --> 00:20:55.019 between husband and wife. 00:20:55.079 --> 00:20:55.559 They would always say 00:20:55.559 --> 00:20:56.019 that it happened 00:20:56.019 --> 00:20:58.119 outside of the marriage thing. 00:20:58.440 --> 00:20:59.500 Love was seen 00:20:59.500 --> 00:21:00.940 purely as an emotion 00:21:00.940 --> 00:21:03.039 there was no commitment 00:21:03.039 --> 00:21:03.620 behind it 00:21:03.620 --> 00:21:04.860 and most of the time 00:21:04.860 --> 00:21:06.140 love was lived 00:21:06.140 --> 00:21:07.160 outside of marriage. 00:21:07.640 --> 00:21:08.460 You would never say 00:21:08.460 --> 00:21:09.420 that you loved your wife. 00:21:10.380 --> 00:21:11.019 You would say 00:21:11.019 --> 00:21:12.000 you loved your concubines. 00:21:12.820 --> 00:21:14.000 You loved your mistresses. 00:21:15.100 --> 00:21:16.000 But you never 00:21:16.000 --> 00:21:17.240 loved your wife. 00:21:17.720 --> 00:21:18.759 Sex was either seen 00:21:18.759 --> 00:21:19.120 as something 00:21:19.120 --> 00:21:20.220 that you needed to do 00:21:20.220 --> 00:21:21.140 like breathe 00:21:21.140 --> 00:21:21.820 or eat 00:21:21.820 --> 00:21:23.160 or it was seen 00:21:23.160 --> 00:21:23.980 as something dirty 00:21:23.980 --> 00:21:24.960 and terrible. 00:21:25.860 --> 00:21:26.480 And marriage 00:21:26.480 --> 00:21:27.480 was merely 00:21:27.480 --> 00:21:28.600 a social transaction. 00:21:28.599 --> 00:21:30.779 The women and men 00:21:30.779 --> 00:21:31.240 would go down 00:21:31.240 --> 00:21:31.839 to the forum 00:21:31.839 --> 00:21:33.799 after work at night. 00:21:34.279 --> 00:21:34.759 They would have 00:21:34.759 --> 00:21:35.519 a couple drinks. 00:21:36.059 --> 00:21:36.719 They would look 00:21:36.719 --> 00:21:37.199 at the guys 00:21:37.199 --> 00:21:38.000 who walked in 00:21:38.000 --> 00:21:39.279 and they would see 00:21:39.279 --> 00:21:40.279 who was the most handsome, 00:21:40.919 --> 00:21:42.439 who was the most in shape, 00:21:42.939 --> 00:21:44.379 who wore the best togas, 00:21:45.119 --> 00:21:45.699 who drove 00:21:45.699 --> 00:21:46.959 the fastest chariots, 00:21:47.279 --> 00:21:48.719 and they would say 00:21:48.719 --> 00:21:49.579 that's the guy 00:21:49.579 --> 00:21:50.039 I want to hook 00:21:50.039 --> 00:21:50.939 my trailer to. 00:21:51.500 --> 00:21:52.500 And that's what 00:21:52.500 --> 00:21:53.559 marriage was all about. 00:21:54.019 --> 00:21:54.799 Marriage was seen 00:21:54.799 --> 00:21:56.500 only as a contractual agreement 00:21:56.500 --> 00:21:58.079 to elevate one family 00:21:58.079 --> 00:21:59.700 to a higher position socially. 00:22:00.500 --> 00:22:01.640 So you never saw 00:22:01.640 --> 00:22:02.440 people marrying 00:22:02.440 --> 00:22:03.500 for love 00:22:03.500 --> 00:22:04.440 because the women 00:22:04.440 --> 00:22:05.339 couldn't do that. 00:22:05.579 --> 00:22:06.460 The dad would always 00:22:06.460 --> 00:22:07.460 marry the women off 00:22:07.460 --> 00:22:08.920 to benefit their family 00:22:08.920 --> 00:22:09.579 and to make 00:22:09.579 --> 00:22:10.400 a better thing happen. 00:22:10.839 --> 00:22:12.000 So this is the world 00:22:12.000 --> 00:22:14.940 that Paul is living in. 00:22:16.359 --> 00:22:17.400 This is the world 00:22:17.400 --> 00:22:18.240 that Paul is writing 00:22:18.240 --> 00:22:19.319 this book of Ephesians to 00:22:19.319 --> 00:22:20.180 and that's why 00:22:20.180 --> 00:22:21.079 when you read it, 00:22:21.279 --> 00:22:22.200 you have to say, 00:22:22.860 --> 00:22:23.140 wow, 00:22:23.900 --> 00:22:26.319 he's making 00:22:26.319 --> 00:22:28.559 some amazing changes. 00:22:29.600 --> 00:22:30.660 Because for thousands 00:22:30.660 --> 00:22:31.279 of years, 00:22:31.340 --> 00:22:32.420 this is how people 00:22:32.420 --> 00:22:33.220 saw men. 00:22:33.900 --> 00:22:35.140 For thousands of years, 00:22:35.220 --> 00:22:35.900 this is how people 00:22:35.900 --> 00:22:36.940 saw women. 00:22:37.720 --> 00:22:38.860 For thousands of years, 00:22:38.940 --> 00:22:39.700 this is how people 00:22:39.700 --> 00:22:40.819 saw marriage. 00:22:41.200 --> 00:22:42.120 For thousands of years, 00:22:42.180 --> 00:22:42.539 this is how people 00:22:42.539 --> 00:22:43.900 saw love and sex 00:22:43.900 --> 00:22:44.600 and they saw it 00:22:44.600 --> 00:22:45.400 very different 00:22:45.400 --> 00:22:46.720 than the way 00:22:46.720 --> 00:22:47.460 Paul taught, 00:22:48.460 --> 00:22:49.420 the way the Scripture 00:22:49.420 --> 00:22:50.019 points to, 00:22:50.019 --> 00:22:51.619 the way that Jesus 00:22:51.619 --> 00:22:52.220 talked to. 00:22:53.079 --> 00:22:54.460 In the book of Ephesians 00:22:54.460 --> 00:22:55.559 for the first time, 00:22:55.639 --> 00:22:56.160 as we see, 00:22:56.519 --> 00:22:57.220 Paul writes 00:22:57.220 --> 00:22:58.079 and he pens out there 00:22:58.079 --> 00:22:58.519 that women, 00:22:59.000 --> 00:22:59.559 they're no longer 00:22:59.559 --> 00:23:01.139 just material items. 00:23:02.359 --> 00:23:02.980 But they have 00:23:02.980 --> 00:23:03.740 equal value 00:23:03.740 --> 00:23:04.500 and worth 00:23:04.500 --> 00:23:06.099 within God's family 00:23:06.099 --> 00:23:06.599 and kingdom. 00:23:07.660 --> 00:23:08.440 To be single 00:23:08.440 --> 00:23:09.079 was looked at 00:23:09.079 --> 00:23:10.039 as something terrible 00:23:10.039 --> 00:23:10.779 in the ancient world. 00:23:11.119 --> 00:23:11.740 No one would ever 00:23:11.740 --> 00:23:12.379 want to be single. 00:23:12.480 --> 00:23:13.039 It was terrible. 00:23:13.160 --> 00:23:13.940 You should never do that 00:23:13.940 --> 00:23:14.879 because everyone knew 00:23:14.879 --> 00:23:15.940 that your worth 00:23:15.940 --> 00:23:16.700 was dependent upon 00:23:16.700 --> 00:23:17.160 the children 00:23:17.160 --> 00:23:17.900 that you passed down 00:23:17.900 --> 00:23:18.940 from generation to generation. 00:23:18.940 --> 00:23:20.240 But for the first time 00:23:20.240 --> 00:23:21.140 in the church, 00:23:21.519 --> 00:23:22.640 singleness was elevated 00:23:22.640 --> 00:23:24.620 to this high place 00:23:24.620 --> 00:23:25.460 and this high standard. 00:23:27.120 --> 00:23:28.500 Paul didn't take a wife. 00:23:28.640 --> 00:23:29.519 Jesus didn't take a wife. 00:23:29.720 --> 00:23:30.600 Some of the greatest leaders 00:23:30.600 --> 00:23:31.039 in the church 00:23:31.039 --> 00:23:32.120 said it's okay 00:23:32.120 --> 00:23:34.320 because you're elevated 00:23:34.320 --> 00:23:35.320 and you're pushed off 00:23:35.320 --> 00:23:36.220 maybe not by your 00:23:36.220 --> 00:23:37.059 physical children 00:23:37.059 --> 00:23:40.080 but by your spiritual children. 00:23:41.299 --> 00:23:41.840 And the people 00:23:41.840 --> 00:23:42.480 who would have been 00:23:42.480 --> 00:23:43.580 disturbed the most 00:23:43.580 --> 00:23:45.259 by the passage today 00:23:45.259 --> 00:23:48.160 would be the men. 00:23:48.940 --> 00:23:50.640 Because when the men 00:23:50.640 --> 00:23:52.120 heard words like 00:23:52.120 --> 00:23:53.240 love your wives 00:23:53.240 --> 00:23:56.279 and it was commanded 00:23:56.279 --> 00:23:56.960 to them 00:23:56.960 --> 00:23:58.279 to love their wives 00:23:58.279 --> 00:23:59.920 it was about 00:23:59.920 --> 00:24:00.640 an action. 00:24:02.000 --> 00:24:02.539 And in that day 00:24:02.539 --> 00:24:03.000 and age 00:24:03.000 --> 00:24:04.380 no one ever 00:24:04.380 --> 00:24:06.880 loved their wives. 00:24:07.320 --> 00:24:08.559 The idea of loving 00:24:08.559 --> 00:24:09.700 your wives unconditionally 00:24:09.700 --> 00:24:10.620 to be a servant 00:24:10.620 --> 00:24:11.420 to sacrifice 00:24:11.420 --> 00:24:12.320 to give of yourself 00:24:12.320 --> 00:24:14.080 to seek the highest 00:24:14.080 --> 00:24:15.140 good for your wife 00:24:15.140 --> 00:24:16.340 to be unconditional 00:24:16.340 --> 00:24:17.240 to be selfless 00:24:17.240 --> 00:24:17.980 to be sacrificial 00:24:17.980 --> 00:24:19.039 to not live 00:24:19.039 --> 00:24:19.660 for yourself 00:24:19.660 --> 00:24:21.079 to be a servant 00:24:21.079 --> 00:24:21.839 leader. 00:24:23.819 --> 00:24:25.140 This is the first time 00:24:25.140 --> 00:24:26.000 this was ever said 00:24:26.000 --> 00:24:26.519 in the history 00:24:26.519 --> 00:24:26.980 of the world. 00:24:28.880 --> 00:24:29.680 And so when the church 00:24:29.680 --> 00:24:30.319 heard this 00:24:30.319 --> 00:24:31.059 and they were being 00:24:31.059 --> 00:24:32.240 influenced by the Greeks 00:24:32.240 --> 00:24:32.940 and the Romans 00:24:32.940 --> 00:24:33.660 and the Jewish culture 00:24:33.660 --> 00:24:34.440 it was 00:24:34.440 --> 00:24:36.180 outstanding 00:24:36.180 --> 00:24:36.960 and amazing 00:24:36.960 --> 00:24:37.620 and hard 00:24:37.620 --> 00:24:38.700 and difficult 00:24:38.700 --> 00:24:40.759 because of where 00:24:40.759 --> 00:24:41.500 they came from. 00:24:42.440 --> 00:24:42.900 Marriage 00:24:42.900 --> 00:24:43.859 was lifted up 00:24:43.859 --> 00:24:44.440 and was shown 00:24:44.440 --> 00:24:45.279 to be a mystery 00:24:45.279 --> 00:24:46.299 and it was shown 00:24:46.299 --> 00:24:47.180 to be this idea 00:24:47.180 --> 00:24:48.160 of God's 00:24:48.160 --> 00:24:49.559 redempting story 00:24:49.559 --> 00:24:50.519 being played out 00:24:50.519 --> 00:24:51.319 throughout the world. 00:24:51.920 --> 00:24:52.799 So now instead of 00:24:52.799 --> 00:24:53.759 just being a contractual 00:24:53.759 --> 00:24:54.119 agreement 00:24:54.119 --> 00:24:54.960 it was something 00:24:54.960 --> 00:24:55.819 that God 00:24:55.819 --> 00:24:56.539 blessed 00:24:56.539 --> 00:24:57.500 he ordained 00:24:57.500 --> 00:24:58.480 and he showed 00:24:58.480 --> 00:24:59.240 that I'm going to 00:24:59.240 --> 00:24:59.980 show the world 00:24:59.980 --> 00:25:00.899 what it's like 00:25:00.899 --> 00:25:01.980 to have a relationship 00:25:01.980 --> 00:25:02.639 with Christ 00:25:02.639 --> 00:25:03.500 as they look at you 00:25:03.500 --> 00:25:04.200 and your wife 00:25:04.200 --> 00:25:05.039 and live out 00:25:05.039 --> 00:25:05.720 this story 00:25:05.720 --> 00:25:08.940 of two sinful people 00:25:08.940 --> 00:25:10.200 coming together 00:25:10.200 --> 00:25:11.460 and working together. 00:25:12.240 --> 00:25:13.359 Love is a commitment 00:25:13.359 --> 00:25:14.339 it's not a feeling 00:25:14.339 --> 00:25:15.379 and all of these 00:25:15.379 --> 00:25:16.339 things God 00:25:16.339 --> 00:25:17.359 tells us 00:25:17.359 --> 00:25:18.359 Paul tells us 00:25:18.359 --> 00:25:19.319 is based on 00:25:19.319 --> 00:25:20.159 God's relationship 00:25:20.159 --> 00:25:20.859 with himself. 00:25:22.480 --> 00:25:23.339 All of these 00:25:23.339 --> 00:25:24.079 things are based 00:25:24.079 --> 00:25:24.879 on Jesus 00:25:24.879 --> 00:25:25.799 and how he lived 00:25:25.799 --> 00:25:26.379 in the world 00:25:26.379 --> 00:25:28.199 because we know 00:25:28.199 --> 00:25:29.299 from eternity past 00:25:29.299 --> 00:25:29.919 that God 00:25:29.919 --> 00:25:31.000 created and 00:25:31.000 --> 00:25:32.379 existed in three 00:25:32.379 --> 00:25:32.799 people 00:25:32.799 --> 00:25:33.939 God the Father 00:25:33.939 --> 00:25:34.899 God the Son 00:25:34.899 --> 00:25:36.259 and God the Holy Spirit 00:25:36.259 --> 00:25:37.720 and there was never 00:25:37.720 --> 00:25:38.519 a time that there 00:25:38.519 --> 00:25:39.639 wasn't a Trinity 00:25:39.639 --> 00:25:41.319 and there was never 00:25:41.319 --> 00:25:42.299 a time that these 00:25:42.299 --> 00:25:43.599 three people 00:25:43.599 --> 00:25:44.980 didn't defer 00:25:44.980 --> 00:25:46.720 didn't care for 00:25:46.720 --> 00:25:48.139 didn't think more 00:25:48.139 --> 00:25:48.599 of 00:25:48.599 --> 00:25:49.960 didn't serve 00:25:49.960 --> 00:25:52.059 didn't selflessly 00:25:52.059 --> 00:25:53.279 give to the other 00:25:53.279 --> 00:25:53.759 person 00:25:53.759 --> 00:25:55.700 and Paul is saying 00:25:55.700 --> 00:25:56.339 in the midst of 00:25:56.339 --> 00:25:57.359 all of these things 00:25:57.359 --> 00:25:58.419 as we look at 00:25:58.419 --> 00:25:58.720 Jesus 00:25:58.720 --> 00:25:59.460 as we look at 00:25:59.460 --> 00:26:00.539 how God is 00:26:00.539 --> 00:26:01.759 that is how 00:26:01.759 --> 00:26:02.659 we are also 00:26:02.659 --> 00:26:03.480 to be 00:26:03.480 --> 00:26:05.419 now when everybody 00:26:05.419 --> 00:26:06.339 heard this 00:26:06.339 --> 00:26:07.700 again it would have 00:26:07.700 --> 00:26:08.720 been counter 00:26:08.720 --> 00:26:09.359 cultural 00:26:09.359 --> 00:26:11.319 because Paul 00:26:11.319 --> 00:26:11.959 is saying 00:26:11.959 --> 00:26:12.979 that even 00:26:12.979 --> 00:26:13.839 within the 00:26:13.839 --> 00:26:14.639 character of 00:26:14.639 --> 00:26:15.079 Jesus 00:26:15.079 --> 00:26:17.979 there's always 00:26:17.979 --> 00:26:18.539 an other 00:26:18.539 --> 00:26:19.399 orientation 00:26:19.399 --> 00:26:21.740 that Jesus 00:26:21.740 --> 00:26:22.299 was always 00:26:22.299 --> 00:26:22.919 thinking about 00:26:22.919 --> 00:26:23.519 other people 00:26:23.519 --> 00:26:25.179 that Jesus 00:26:25.179 --> 00:26:25.719 was always 00:26:25.719 --> 00:26:26.659 serving other 00:26:26.659 --> 00:26:27.079 people 00:26:27.079 --> 00:26:28.859 that the Godhead 00:26:28.859 --> 00:26:29.319 was always 00:26:29.319 --> 00:26:30.079 deferring to each 00:26:30.079 --> 00:26:30.539 other and they 00:26:30.539 --> 00:26:31.479 were serving 00:26:31.479 --> 00:26:32.819 and giving 00:26:32.819 --> 00:26:33.740 to each other 00:26:33.740 --> 00:26:35.299 and he basically 00:26:35.299 --> 00:26:36.359 encourages the 00:26:36.359 --> 00:26:37.599 church in Ephesus 00:26:37.599 --> 00:26:39.839 he encourages us 00:26:39.839 --> 00:26:41.959 that we're to do 00:26:41.959 --> 00:26:42.439 the same 00:26:42.439 --> 00:26:45.099 that we're to do 00:26:45.099 --> 00:26:45.539 the same 00:26:45.539 --> 00:26:47.279 Paul's basically 00:26:47.279 --> 00:26:48.319 telling the church 00:26:48.319 --> 00:26:48.699 here 00:26:48.699 --> 00:26:50.359 that the basis 00:26:50.359 --> 00:26:51.359 of their problems 00:26:51.359 --> 00:26:54.839 is self-centeredness 00:26:54.839 --> 00:26:58.419 the basis of their 00:26:58.419 --> 00:26:59.240 problems is an 00:26:59.240 --> 00:26:59.980 unwillingness to 00:26:59.980 --> 00:27:00.279 serve 00:27:00.279 --> 00:27:02.699 and he's telling 00:27:02.699 --> 00:27:03.199 them that as we 00:27:03.199 --> 00:27:03.959 go on this journey 00:27:03.959 --> 00:27:04.619 with God 00:27:04.619 --> 00:27:05.959 that every day 00:27:05.959 --> 00:27:07.000 each one of us 00:27:07.000 --> 00:27:08.240 have a choice 00:27:08.240 --> 00:27:08.740 of how this 00:27:08.740 --> 00:27:09.220 story is going 00:27:09.220 --> 00:27:09.799 to play out 00:27:09.799 --> 00:27:12.440 we can play it 00:27:12.440 --> 00:27:12.940 out according to 00:27:12.940 --> 00:27:13.440 what God has 00:27:13.440 --> 00:27:13.859 said in his 00:27:13.859 --> 00:27:14.200 word 00:27:14.200 --> 00:27:15.079 and we can 00:27:15.079 --> 00:27:15.559 trust him to 00:27:15.559 --> 00:27:15.940 be good 00:27:15.940 --> 00:27:16.400 and trust him 00:27:16.400 --> 00:27:16.700 to be in 00:27:16.700 --> 00:27:17.059 control 00:27:17.059 --> 00:27:17.480 and trust him 00:27:17.480 --> 00:27:17.980 to be holy 00:27:17.980 --> 00:27:18.720 and gentle 00:27:18.720 --> 00:27:19.339 and gracious 00:27:19.339 --> 00:27:20.420 and forgiving 00:27:20.420 --> 00:27:23.059 or we can 00:27:23.059 --> 00:27:23.519 play it out 00:27:23.519 --> 00:27:23.940 according to 00:27:23.940 --> 00:27:24.380 what the world 00:27:24.380 --> 00:27:24.819 says 00:27:24.819 --> 00:27:26.299 this is how 00:27:26.299 --> 00:27:26.519 you should 00:27:26.519 --> 00:27:26.819 live 00:27:26.819 --> 00:27:28.200 this is what 00:27:28.200 --> 00:27:28.440 you should 00:27:28.440 --> 00:27:28.720 do 00:27:28.720 --> 00:27:30.420 and in the 00:27:30.420 --> 00:27:31.119 midst of all 00:27:31.119 --> 00:27:31.539 of these 00:27:31.539 --> 00:27:32.140 themes 00:27:32.140 --> 00:27:33.460 that we can 00:27:33.460 --> 00:27:33.980 play out 00:27:33.980 --> 00:27:34.380 as we live 00:27:34.380 --> 00:27:35.119 out our lives 00:27:35.119 --> 00:27:36.739 the scripture 00:27:36.739 --> 00:27:37.259 is really 00:27:37.259 --> 00:27:37.699 clear 00:27:37.699 --> 00:27:38.379 that in the 00:27:38.379 --> 00:27:38.899 midst of it 00:27:38.899 --> 00:27:40.779 you and 00:27:40.779 --> 00:27:42.839 I are 00:27:42.839 --> 00:27:43.439 radically 00:27:43.439 --> 00:27:45.839 self-centered 00:27:45.839 --> 00:27:49.139 you and I 00:27:49.139 --> 00:27:49.599 are radically 00:27:49.599 --> 00:27:50.199 self-centered 00:27:50.199 --> 00:27:51.859 and we need 00:27:51.859 --> 00:27:52.359 a hero 00:27:52.359 --> 00:27:53.939 to come into 00:27:53.939 --> 00:27:54.459 our lives 00:27:54.459 --> 00:27:54.959 and to change 00:27:54.959 --> 00:27:55.259 us 00:27:55.259 --> 00:27:57.399 I want to 00:27:57.399 --> 00:27:57.759 look at the 00:27:57.759 --> 00:27:58.719 questions that 00:27:58.719 --> 00:27:59.039 were brought 00:27:59.039 --> 00:27:59.539 in today 00:27:59.539 --> 00:28:01.799 my wife said 00:28:01.799 --> 00:28:02.359 I can't do 00:28:02.359 --> 00:28:02.879 it alone 00:28:02.880 --> 00:28:04.720 and so 00:28:04.720 --> 00:28:05.200 I wanted 00:28:05.200 --> 00:28:05.640 to ask 00:28:05.640 --> 00:28:06.140 Christina 00:28:06.140 --> 00:28:06.740 to come 00:28:06.740 --> 00:28:07.080 up 00:28:07.080 --> 00:28:08.820 and we're 00:28:08.820 --> 00:28:09.040 going to 00:28:09.040 --> 00:28:09.320 kind of 00:28:09.320 --> 00:28:09.860 talk about 00:28:09.860 --> 00:28:10.360 these really 00:28:10.360 --> 00:28:10.740 quickly 00:28:10.740 --> 00:28:12.080 and we want 00:28:12.080 --> 00:28:12.340 to look at 00:28:12.340 --> 00:28:12.600 some of 00:28:12.600 --> 00:28:13.140 these things 00:28:13.140 --> 00:28:13.980 and if we 00:28:13.980 --> 00:28:14.400 have enough 00:28:14.400 --> 00:28:14.940 time 00:28:14.940 --> 00:28:16.340 we will 00:28:16.340 --> 00:28:17.120 take some 00:28:17.120 --> 00:28:17.820 other questions 00:28:17.820 --> 00:28:18.720 but again 00:28:18.720 --> 00:28:19.200 we feel like 00:28:19.200 --> 00:28:19.560 this is just 00:28:19.560 --> 00:28:20.160 a foundation 00:28:20.160 --> 00:28:20.900 we're building 00:28:20.900 --> 00:28:21.240 on this 00:28:21.240 --> 00:28:21.660 foundation 00:28:21.660 --> 00:28:22.740 of marriage 00:28:22.740 --> 00:28:23.400 and relationships 00:28:23.400 --> 00:28:24.080 and sex 00:28:24.080 --> 00:28:26.900 as we live 00:28:26.900 --> 00:28:27.460 our life 00:28:27.460 --> 00:28:28.140 as a family 00:28:28.140 --> 00:28:28.640 and a church 00:28:28.640 --> 00:28:29.340 we believe 00:28:29.340 --> 00:28:29.640 that God 00:28:29.640 --> 00:28:30.080 has put us 00:28:30.080 --> 00:28:31.140 here to be 00:28:31.140 --> 00:28:31.480 a part of 00:28:31.480 --> 00:28:31.940 the community 00:28:31.940 --> 00:28:32.700 and to be 00:28:32.700 --> 00:28:33.160 with each 00:28:33.160 --> 00:28:33.440 other 00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:34.500 and to be 00:28:34.500 --> 00:28:34.900 as open 00:28:34.900 --> 00:28:35.559 as possible 00:28:35.559 --> 00:28:36.320 so my 00:28:36.320 --> 00:28:36.759 prayer is 00:28:36.759 --> 00:28:37.019 that there's 00:28:37.019 --> 00:28:37.539 never a time 00:28:37.539 --> 00:28:38.019 you don't feel 00:28:38.019 --> 00:28:38.640 like you can't 00:28:38.640 --> 00:28:39.519 ask us a 00:28:39.519 --> 00:28:39.820 question 00:28:39.820 --> 00:28:41.299 and there's 00:28:41.299 --> 00:28:41.779 never a time 00:28:41.779 --> 00:28:42.680 as a community 00:28:42.680 --> 00:28:43.299 that we're not 00:28:43.299 --> 00:28:44.299 dialoguing 00:28:44.299 --> 00:28:45.279 and talking 00:28:45.279 --> 00:28:45.820 about all 00:28:45.820 --> 00:28:46.140 of these 00:28:46.140 --> 00:28:46.580 things 00:28:46.580 --> 00:28:48.600 and so 00:28:48.600 --> 00:28:49.460 we're going 00:28:49.460 --> 00:28:49.840 to cut 00:28:49.840 --> 00:28:50.420 the video 00:28:50.420 --> 00:28:51.259 off now 00:28:51.259 --> 00:28:51.720 because we 00:28:51.720 --> 00:28:52.039 don't want 00:28:52.039 --> 00:28:53.799 to record 00:28:53.799 --> 00:28:54.480 this 00:28:54.480 --> 00:28:57.940 I'm going 00:28:57.940 --> 00:28:58.240 to close 00:28:58.240 --> 00:28:58.539 this up 00:28:58.539 --> 00:28:59.019 right now 00:28:59.019 --> 00:28:59.900 there's a 00:28:59.900 --> 00:29:00.340 couple things 00:29:00.340 --> 00:29:00.660 I want to 00:29:00.660 --> 00:29:00.980 share with 00:29:00.980 --> 00:29:01.259 you really 00:29:01.259 --> 00:29:01.539 quickly 00:29:01.539 --> 00:29:02.700 there's a 00:29:02.700 --> 00:29:03.079 book sale 00:29:03.079 --> 00:29:03.500 out there 00:29:03.500 --> 00:29:04.539 all the 00:29:04.539 --> 00:29:05.119 books are 00:29:05.119 --> 00:29:05.700 we're selling 00:29:05.700 --> 00:29:06.399 at a loss 00:29:06.399 --> 00:29:07.359 some of them 00:29:07.359 --> 00:29:07.940 20% 00:29:07.940 --> 00:29:08.920 but there's 00:29:08.920 --> 00:29:09.339 some books 00:29:09.339 --> 00:29:09.920 here that I 00:29:09.920 --> 00:29:10.299 think are 00:29:10.299 --> 00:29:10.940 great on 00:29:10.940 --> 00:29:11.220 marriage 00:29:11.220 --> 00:29:11.519 actually 00:29:11.519 --> 00:29:11.779 they're the 00:29:11.779 --> 00:29:12.180 best books 00:29:12.180 --> 00:29:12.539 I've ever 00:29:12.539 --> 00:29:12.879 read 00:29:12.879 --> 00:29:13.819 and Christina 00:29:13.819 --> 00:29:14.339 and I 00:29:14.339 --> 00:29:15.180 have made 00:29:15.180 --> 00:29:15.680 a career 00:29:15.680 --> 00:29:16.099 of reading 00:29:16.099 --> 00:29:16.759 marriage books 00:29:16.759 --> 00:29:17.960 there's three 00:29:17.960 --> 00:29:18.659 of two of them 00:29:18.659 --> 00:29:19.420 first one is 00:29:19.420 --> 00:29:19.879 The Meaning of 00:29:19.879 --> 00:29:20.299 Marriage by 00:29:20.299 --> 00:29:20.859 Tim Keller 00:29:20.859 --> 00:29:22.920 it's one of the 00:29:22.920 --> 00:29:23.379 best books 00:29:23.379 --> 00:29:23.920 I've ever read 00:29:23.920 --> 00:29:24.339 on marriage 00:29:24.339 --> 00:29:24.819 this is a 00:29:24.819 --> 00:29:25.279 great book 00:29:25.279 --> 00:29:25.819 for single 00:29:25.819 --> 00:29:26.240 people 00:29:26.240 --> 00:29:27.579 if you're 00:29:27.579 --> 00:29:27.920 single 00:29:27.920 --> 00:29:28.460 I would 00:29:28.460 --> 00:29:29.599 I challenge 00:29:29.599 --> 00:29:30.119 you to read 00:29:30.119 --> 00:29:30.459 this 00:29:30.459 --> 00:29:31.219 if you don't 00:29:31.219 --> 00:29:31.559 like it 00:29:31.559 --> 00:29:32.019 give it back 00:29:32.019 --> 00:29:32.219 to me 00:29:32.219 --> 00:29:32.459 I'll give 00:29:32.459 --> 00:29:32.639 you the 00:29:32.639 --> 00:29:33.539 money back 00:29:33.539 --> 00:29:34.179 and the other 00:29:34.179 --> 00:29:34.879 book is Sacred 00:29:34.879 --> 00:29:35.379 Marriage 00:29:35.379 --> 00:29:36.419 it's by Gary 00:29:36.419 --> 00:29:36.779 Thomas 00:29:36.779 --> 00:29:37.239 it's one of the 00:29:37.239 --> 00:29:37.839 best books on 00:29:37.839 --> 00:29:38.319 marriage and 00:29:38.319 --> 00:29:38.779 relationships 00:29:38.779 --> 00:29:39.099 do we have 00:29:39.099 --> 00:29:39.899 sacred influence 00:29:39.899 --> 00:29:41.500 I'm not sure 00:29:41.500 --> 00:29:42.039 but they're all 00:29:42.039 --> 00:29:42.359 out there at the 00:29:42.359 --> 00:29:42.759 book table 00:29:42.759 --> 00:29:43.739 and then 00:29:43.739 --> 00:29:44.500 there's this 00:29:44.500 --> 00:29:44.919 devotion 00:29:44.919 --> 00:29:45.579 it just came 00:29:45.579 --> 00:29:45.899 out 00:29:45.899 --> 00:29:46.939 Christina and I 00:29:46.939 --> 00:29:47.419 started reading 00:29:47.419 --> 00:29:47.579 it 00:29:47.579 --> 00:29:48.919 it's 365 day 00:29:48.919 --> 00:29:49.399 devotion 00:29:49.399 --> 00:29:50.819 it's one of the 00:29:50.819 --> 00:29:51.579 best devotions 00:29:51.579 --> 00:29:52.799 I've ever seen 00:29:52.799 --> 00:29:53.619 and so I just 00:29:53.619 --> 00:29:54.059 went ahead and 00:29:54.059 --> 00:29:54.219 order 00:29:54.219 --> 00:29:54.919 if I were 00:29:54.919 --> 00:29:56.419 independently wealthy 00:29:56.419 --> 00:29:57.139 which you know 00:29:57.139 --> 00:29:57.879 by my salary 00:29:57.879 --> 00:29:58.319 I'm not 00:29:58.319 --> 00:29:59.679 I would buy 00:29:59.679 --> 00:30:00.319 everybody in 00:30:00.319 --> 00:30:00.679 the church 00:30:00.679 --> 00:30:01.639 one of these 00:30:01.639 --> 00:30:02.119 books and give 00:30:02.119 --> 00:30:02.639 it to you as a 00:30:02.639 --> 00:30:03.319 gift for Christmas 00:30:03.319 --> 00:30:03.740 because I think 00:30:03.740 --> 00:30:04.919 they are significant 00:30:04.919 --> 00:30:06.099 and so they're on 00:30:06.099 --> 00:30:06.859 the book sale out 00:30:06.859 --> 00:30:07.480 there at the table 00:30:07.480 --> 00:30:08.519 so please check 00:30:08.519 --> 00:30:09.279 the books on the 00:30:09.279 --> 00:30:09.740 way out 00:30:09.740 --> 00:30:10.980 for you 00:30:10.980 --> 00:30:12.399 also we talked 00:30:12.399 --> 00:30:13.419 about being a 00:30:13.419 --> 00:30:14.159 successful steward 00:30:14.159 --> 00:30:14.819 last Sunday 00:30:14.819 --> 00:30:15.539 was using our 00:30:15.539 --> 00:30:16.679 money to give 00:30:16.679 --> 00:30:17.079 people an 00:30:17.079 --> 00:30:18.259 opportunity to 00:30:18.259 --> 00:30:19.000 hear about Jesus 00:30:19.000 --> 00:30:19.579 that's what 00:30:19.579 --> 00:30:20.359 stewardship is 00:30:20.359 --> 00:30:21.079 in scripture 00:30:21.079 --> 00:30:22.539 and so we have 00:30:22.539 --> 00:30:23.659 several neat 00:30:23.659 --> 00:30:24.439 opportunities and 00:30:24.439 --> 00:30:24.960 this one right 00:30:24.960 --> 00:30:25.720 here is December 00:30:25.720 --> 00:30:26.980 15th 00:30:26.980 --> 00:30:27.819 we're having 00:30:27.819 --> 00:30:28.599 Michael Ramson 00:30:28.599 --> 00:30:29.160 come in for 00:30:29.160 --> 00:30:29.940 training in the 00:30:29.940 --> 00:30:30.980 morning and 00:30:30.980 --> 00:30:31.559 then at night 00:30:31.559 --> 00:30:32.200 we are giving 00:30:32.200 --> 00:30:32.839 out tickets 00:30:32.839 --> 00:30:33.440 we're having 00:30:33.440 --> 00:30:34.360 four turkeys 00:30:34.360 --> 00:30:34.839 a Christmas 00:30:34.839 --> 00:30:36.180 meal and an 00:30:36.180 --> 00:30:36.920 outreach at the 00:30:36.920 --> 00:30:37.640 community center 00:30:37.640 --> 00:30:38.660 and so these 00:30:38.660 --> 00:30:39.579 tickets are available 00:30:39.579 --> 00:30:40.720 right now outside 00:30:40.720 --> 00:30:42.500 so if you can't 00:30:42.500 --> 00:30:43.180 come for the 00:30:43.180 --> 00:30:43.860 dinner that night 00:30:43.860 --> 00:30:45.059 unless you bring 00:30:45.059 --> 00:30:45.819 a friend who 00:30:45.819 --> 00:30:47.360 is asking 00:30:47.360 --> 00:30:47.980 questions about 00:30:47.980 --> 00:30:48.460 Christianity 00:30:48.460 --> 00:30:49.720 and this will be 00:30:49.720 --> 00:30:50.220 the ticket to 00:30:50.220 --> 00:30:50.740 get you in 00:30:50.740 --> 00:30:51.460 so we want to 00:30:51.460 --> 00:30:51.940 encourage you to 00:30:51.940 --> 00:30:52.420 pray about who 00:30:52.420 --> 00:30:52.680 you're going to 00:30:52.680 --> 00:30:52.980 bring 00:30:52.980 --> 00:30:53.740 it's going to 00:30:53.740 --> 00:30:54.120 be a great 00:30:54.120 --> 00:30:54.380 night 00:30:54.380 --> 00:30:54.960 Michael's going 00:30:54.960 --> 00:30:55.279 to do a 00:30:55.279 --> 00:30:55.779 20 minute 00:30:55.779 --> 00:30:56.380 presentation 00:30:56.380 --> 00:30:58.620 on Christmas 00:30:58.620 --> 00:30:59.620 and its meaning 00:30:59.620 --> 00:31:00.360 we're going to 00:31:00.360 --> 00:31:00.840 have a Q&A 00:31:00.840 --> 00:31:01.640 time afterwards 00:31:01.640 --> 00:31:02.960 a lot of food 00:31:02.960 --> 00:31:03.560 and fun and 00:31:03.560 --> 00:31:04.260 fellowship so 00:31:04.260 --> 00:31:05.280 grab a ticket 00:31:05.280 --> 00:31:05.860 right there 00:31:05.860 --> 00:31:07.240 and also on 00:31:07.240 --> 00:31:07.880 your way out 00:31:07.880 --> 00:31:08.900 you can grab 00:31:08.900 --> 00:31:09.440 some of these 00:31:09.440 --> 00:31:10.040 these are 00:31:10.040 --> 00:31:11.060 we're sending 00:31:11.060 --> 00:31:13.060 out 19,000 00:31:13.060 --> 00:31:13.560 of these 00:31:13.560 --> 00:31:14.380 this year 00:31:14.380 --> 00:31:15.480 to every 00:31:15.480 --> 00:31:16.140 English speaking 00:31:16.140 --> 00:31:17.000 household in 00:31:17.000 --> 00:31:17.480 this area 00:31:17.480 --> 00:31:18.000 this part of 00:31:18.000 --> 00:31:18.340 Hong Kong 00:31:18.340 --> 00:31:18.660 Island 00:31:18.660 --> 00:31:19.700 it's basically 00:31:19.700 --> 00:31:20.180 an invitation 00:31:20.180 --> 00:31:21.220 to the Christmas 00:31:21.220 --> 00:31:22.420 celebration that 00:31:22.420 --> 00:31:22.660 we're going to 00:31:22.660 --> 00:31:23.140 do on December 00:31:23.140 --> 00:31:23.980 25th 00:31:23.980 --> 00:31:24.839 so we want 00:31:24.839 --> 00:31:25.160 to encourage 00:31:25.160 --> 00:31:25.819 you to grab 00:31:25.819 --> 00:31:26.640 some of these 00:31:26.640 --> 00:31:27.059 and hand them 00:31:27.059 --> 00:31:27.660 out to your 00:31:27.660 --> 00:31:28.299 friends and 00:31:28.299 --> 00:31:28.720 people in your 00:31:28.720 --> 00:31:29.039 workplace 00:31:29.039 --> 00:31:31.120 and just use 00:31:31.120 --> 00:31:32.140 them to use 00:31:32.140 --> 00:31:32.980 your money wisely 00:31:32.980 --> 00:31:34.319 to invite people 00:31:34.319 --> 00:31:36.440 to hear and have 00:31:36.440 --> 00:31:37.000 opportunities about 00:31:37.000 --> 00:31:37.620 hearing about Jesus 00:31:37.620 --> 00:31:38.539 we didn't take an 00:31:38.539 --> 00:31:39.380 offering this Sunday 00:31:39.380 --> 00:31:39.980 we don't ever take 00:31:39.980 --> 00:31:41.360 offerings but you 00:31:41.360 --> 00:31:41.940 know that all the 00:31:41.940 --> 00:31:42.779 offering from the 00:31:42.779 --> 00:31:43.500 bulletins and the 00:31:43.500 --> 00:31:44.799 books they all go 00:31:44.799 --> 00:31:46.200 to outreach 00:31:46.200 --> 00:31:47.740 and so as you 00:31:47.740 --> 00:31:48.579 consider what Christ 00:31:48.579 --> 00:31:49.099 has done in your 00:31:49.099 --> 00:31:49.799 life we would just 00:31:49.799 --> 00:31:51.360 ask for you to 00:31:51.359 --> 00:31:52.659 tithe in that 00:31:52.659 --> 00:31:53.299 manner like we 00:31:53.299 --> 00:31:54.059 talked about last 00:31:54.059 --> 00:31:55.299 Sunday and with 00:31:55.299 --> 00:31:55.679 that 00:31:55.679 --> 00:31:57.599 you want to 00:31:57.599 --> 00:31:58.179 pray I'll pray 00:31:58.179 --> 00:31:58.639 let me pray 00:31:58.639 --> 00:31:59.399 by the way 00:31:59.399 --> 00:31:59.959 thank you please 00:31:59.959 --> 00:32:00.819 stand up yeah 00:32:00.819 --> 00:32:01.299 we'll just 00:32:01.299 --> 00:32:03.599 by the way thank 00:32:03.599 --> 00:32:04.539 you for this day 00:32:04.539 --> 00:32:05.799 thank you for your 00:32:05.799 --> 00:32:07.379 grace even as we 00:32:07.379 --> 00:32:08.139 bumbled through these 00:32:08.139 --> 00:32:09.479 questions but I 00:32:09.479 --> 00:32:10.259 pray as a church 00:32:10.259 --> 00:32:11.079 that we just cannot 00:32:11.079 --> 00:32:12.979 afford not to talk 00:32:12.979 --> 00:32:13.719 about these things 00:32:13.719 --> 00:32:14.500 so just give us 00:32:14.500 --> 00:32:15.679 grace and wisdom 00:32:15.679 --> 00:32:16.799 and how to move 00:32:16.799 --> 00:32:17.299 forward in 00:32:17.299 --> 00:32:18.199 relationships and 00:32:18.199 --> 00:32:19.359 in dating I 00:32:19.359 --> 00:32:20.299 pray for people who 00:32:20.299 --> 00:32:20.939 are here 00:32:20.940 --> 00:32:22.900 Lord that if they 00:32:22.900 --> 00:32:23.680 want to talk to 00:32:23.680 --> 00:32:24.960 somebody immediately 00:32:24.960 --> 00:32:25.799 afterwards there'll 00:32:25.799 --> 00:32:26.440 be people up here 00:32:26.440 --> 00:32:27.380 to pray there's a 00:32:27.380 --> 00:32:28.279 men's fellowship that 00:32:28.279 --> 00:32:30.039 started up they can 00:32:30.039 --> 00:32:31.240 grab a hold of that 00:32:31.240 --> 00:32:31.880 there's a women's 00:32:31.880 --> 00:32:32.660 fellowship that started 00:32:32.660 --> 00:32:33.900 up and what I pray 00:32:33.900 --> 00:32:34.920 that we would not 00:32:34.920 --> 00:32:36.019 leave here without 00:32:36.019 --> 00:32:37.200 finding ways to 00:32:37.200 --> 00:32:39.100 connect and allow 00:32:39.100 --> 00:32:41.059 you to to change 00:32:41.059 --> 00:32:43.380 us what I pray for 00:32:43.380 --> 00:32:44.140 our church family 00:32:44.140 --> 00:32:45.680 here I know that 00:32:45.680 --> 00:32:46.120 we're all at 00:32:46.120 --> 00:32:46.840 different stages of 00:32:46.840 --> 00:32:47.580 life we're all 00:32:47.580 --> 00:32:48.259 struggling with 00:32:48.259 --> 00:32:49.860 different things and 00:32:49.860 --> 00:32:50.600 above all of these 00:32:50.599 --> 00:32:51.399 things we need your 00:32:51.399 --> 00:32:53.219 grace and mercy and 00:32:53.219 --> 00:32:54.019 so we become before 00:32:54.019 --> 00:32:54.919 you and we realize 00:32:54.919 --> 00:32:55.959 that you have to be 00:32:55.959 --> 00:32:56.779 the hero of our 00:32:56.779 --> 00:32:58.799 story you have to be 00:32:58.799 --> 00:33:00.399 the person who who 00:33:00.399 --> 00:33:01.879 leads it and if you're 00:33:01.879 --> 00:33:03.099 not then we're we're 00:33:03.099 --> 00:33:04.839 in trouble and so we 00:33:04.839 --> 00:33:05.740 come before you this 00:33:05.740 --> 00:33:06.559 beginning of the 00:33:06.559 --> 00:33:07.539 Christmas season and 00:33:07.539 --> 00:33:08.459 we just worship you 00:33:08.459 --> 00:33:10.480 we thank you for your 00:33:10.480 --> 00:33:11.759 amazingness as God 00:33:11.759 --> 00:33:13.219 that you sent your son 00:33:13.219 --> 00:33:14.399 for us and we come 00:33:14.399 --> 00:33:15.839 and we just we just 00:33:15.839 --> 00:33:16.859 worship in that sense 00:33:16.859 --> 00:33:17.559 pray that we would be 00:33:17.559 --> 00:33:18.980 different we pray that 00:33:18.980 --> 00:33:19.620 Hong Kong would be 00:33:19.620 --> 00:33:20.539 different because of 00:33:20.539 --> 00:33:22.099 what you've done in us 00:33:22.099 --> 00:33:24.259 today so Lord we come 00:33:24.259 --> 00:33:25.640 and we worship you and 00:33:25.640 --> 00:33:26.559 we love you in Jesus 00:33:26.559 --> 00:33:28.819 name amen God bless you 00:33:28.819 --> 00:33:32.220 next week next week we're 00:33:32.220 --> 00:33:32.980 back here there's 00:33:32.980 --> 00:33:34.140 donations wait one 00:33:34.140 --> 00:33:36.120 second there's already a 00:33:36.120 --> 00:33:36.900 Christmas present 00:33:36.900 --> 00:33:37.759 underneath this tree 00:33:37.759 --> 00:33:41.099 oh man what's it say 00:33:41.099 --> 00:33:45.659 it says to uncle millen 00:33:45.659 --> 00:33:49.359 happy birthday from the 00:33:49.359 --> 00:33:51.659 miller kids millen you 00:33:51.659 --> 00:33:52.480 want to come get this 00:33:52.480 --> 00:33:57.099 millen is not on staff 00:33:57.099 --> 00:33:58.539 millen serves he serves 00:33:58.539 --> 00:33:59.740 he does an amazing job 00:33:59.740 --> 00:34:01.319 and my kids knew that 00:34:01.319 --> 00:34:02.219 your birthday was 00:34:02.219 --> 00:34:04.719 Thursday and you're 22 00:34:04.719 --> 00:34:07.799 I am 21 21 and so they 00:34:07.799 --> 00:34:08.559 wanted to get you a 00:34:08.559 --> 00:34:09.480 present so this is from 00:34:09.480 --> 00:34:10.659 the miller family right 00:34:10.659 --> 00:34:12.539 here so bring your food 00:34:12.539 --> 00:34:13.980 in there's some business 00:34:13.980 --> 00:34:14.880 cards for the men's 00:34:14.880 --> 00:34:15.900 ministry happy birthday 00:34:15.900 --> 00:34:16.280 millen 00:34:16.280 --> 00:34:20.860 gather together with a man 00:34:20.860 --> 00:34:22.400 and we'll see you back 00:34:22.400 --> 00:34:23.880 here next Sunday love you 00:34:23.880 --> 00:34:24.260 guys 00:34:24.260 --> 00:34:26.719 have a good week 00:34:26.719 --> 00:34:30.199 hey I forgot to announce 00:34:30.199 --> 00:34:31.079 also there's the 00:34:31.079 --> 00:34:32.519 foundations class that we've 00:34:32.519 --> 00:34:33.559 been doing this morning and 00:34:33.559 --> 00:34:34.980 this evening so if you want 00:34:34.980 --> 00:34:36.059 to join that it's for one 00:34:36.059 --> 00:34:37.000 hour it's right out the 00:34:37.000 --> 00:34:39.260 door following Chris and 00:34:39.260 --> 00:34:40.179 there's a choir rehearsal 00:34:40.179 --> 00:34:41.800 right here in the back so 00:34:41.800 --> 00:34:43.059 foundation class for one 00:34:43.059 --> 00:34:44.559 hour we want everybody in 00:34:44.559 --> 00:34:45.400 the church to be a part of 00:34:45.400 --> 00:34:46.539 that it'll be next week 00:34:46.539 --> 00:34:48.900 also and then a choir right 00:34:48.900 --> 00:34:49.719 here thank you 00:34:49.719 --> 00:34:52.139 few O'neil 00:34:52.139 --> 00:34:54.319 meeting 00:34:54.379 --> 00:34:56.299 to 00:34:56.319 --> 00:34:58.919 AAA 00:34:59.599 --> 00:35:01.659 you