WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.899 If you'd open up your Bibles to Ephesians chapter 5. 00:00:11.779 --> 00:00:17.660 Last week we started in a section in which Paul is addressing husbands and wives. 00:00:21.400 --> 00:00:22.900 Married couples in the room. 00:00:25.719 --> 00:00:28.640 Did you come this morning thinking that your marriage is beyond hope? 00:00:30.000 --> 00:00:37.399 Did you walk into this building this morning thinking that your marriage is missing something? 00:00:39.480 --> 00:00:41.859 Do you think that you're a failure as a wife? 00:00:43.939 --> 00:00:46.159 Husband, do you think you're a failure as a husband? 00:00:48.620 --> 00:00:50.840 Or maybe you just think your marriage is just fine. 00:00:51.439 --> 00:00:52.460 I mean, everybody's happy. 00:00:53.200 --> 00:00:54.299 No problems here. 00:00:54.299 --> 00:01:05.979 Well, last Sunday we looked at Paul's exhortations to wives to come under their husbands' care. 00:01:07.579 --> 00:01:13.560 But did you know in this passage, starting in verse 22 going through verse 33 of chapter 5, 00:01:13.560 --> 00:01:22.379 the Apostle Paul spends three times as much holy writ on husbands than on wives. 00:01:23.960 --> 00:01:25.760 He's got a lot to say to husbands. 00:01:26.879 --> 00:01:28.060 So let's look at it now. 00:01:28.879 --> 00:01:33.939 I'm going to start off in verse 22, bring us back up to speed with what he said to wives, 00:01:33.939 --> 00:01:37.759 and then we'll read through 33. 00:01:37.959 --> 00:01:40.039 So please read along with me in your Bibles. 00:01:40.579 --> 00:01:41.399 This is God's Word. 00:01:43.140 --> 00:01:46.079 Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, 00:01:46.219 --> 00:01:48.739 for the husband is the head of the wife, 00:01:48.900 --> 00:01:52.819 even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, 00:01:53.659 --> 00:01:55.359 and himself its Savior. 00:01:55.359 --> 00:01:58.859 Now as the church submits to Christ, 00:01:59.079 --> 00:02:05.219 so also wives should submit in everything to their own husbands, their husbands. 00:02:06.239 --> 00:02:06.599 25. 00:02:06.879 --> 00:02:12.699 Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 00:02:13.360 --> 00:02:16.560 that he might sanctify her, 00:02:17.039 --> 00:02:19.939 having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word, 00:02:19.939 --> 00:02:27.620 so that he may present the church to himself in splendor without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, 00:02:28.280 --> 00:02:32.219 that she might be holy and without blemish. 00:02:33.240 --> 00:02:33.780 28. 00:02:33.879 --> 00:02:37.979 In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. 00:02:38.740 --> 00:02:40.780 He who loves his wife loves himself, 00:02:40.939 --> 00:02:43.120 for no one ever hated his own flesh, 00:02:43.659 --> 00:02:45.280 but nourishes and cherishes it, 00:02:45.979 --> 00:02:49.360 just as Christ does the church. 00:02:49.939 --> 00:02:51.859 Because we are members of his body. 00:02:53.199 --> 00:02:57.159 Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, 00:02:57.240 --> 00:02:59.099 and the two shall become one flesh. 00:03:00.180 --> 00:03:02.400 This mystery is profound. 00:03:03.620 --> 00:03:09.919 And I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 00:03:12.599 --> 00:03:13.120 33. 00:03:13.120 --> 00:03:13.199 33. 00:03:13.560 --> 00:03:17.840 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, 00:03:17.840 --> 00:03:22.740 and let the wife see that she respects her husband. 00:03:26.539 --> 00:03:30.599 Husbands, this morning, I want you to feel what's going on here. 00:03:31.640 --> 00:03:33.159 It's not me exhorting you. 00:03:34.159 --> 00:03:36.480 It's not your wife exhorting you. 00:03:37.340 --> 00:03:40.879 It's God exhorting you through His Word. 00:03:40.879 --> 00:03:42.879 And here's what he's saying. 00:03:43.919 --> 00:03:51.120 Husband, love your wife like Christ loves His bride. 00:03:52.539 --> 00:03:58.159 Love your lady like Christ loves His lady. 00:03:59.219 --> 00:04:00.659 Now don't hear me wrong. 00:04:00.759 --> 00:04:03.639 I'm not saying be Christ to your wife. 00:04:03.639 --> 00:04:05.639 You can't. 00:04:05.639 --> 00:04:06.419 You can't. 00:04:06.419 --> 00:04:07.500 Because you're not. 00:04:07.899 --> 00:04:08.939 You're not Jesus. 00:04:10.939 --> 00:04:13.459 But what you can be, 00:04:14.299 --> 00:04:16.439 what you must be, 00:04:17.000 --> 00:04:24.180 is like Christ in the way you love this woman God has given to you. 00:04:26.839 --> 00:04:29.339 Husbands, you have a high calling in marriage 00:04:29.339 --> 00:04:33.339 to be like Christ in the way that you love her. 00:04:34.979 --> 00:04:38.959 You are to exercise this responsibility entrusted to you 00:04:38.959 --> 00:04:41.119 in love. 00:04:42.779 --> 00:04:45.579 So this morning, I want you to see five points. 00:04:46.199 --> 00:04:46.859 Five points. 00:04:46.899 --> 00:04:48.099 We're going to pull it from the text. 00:04:48.599 --> 00:04:51.819 The first point is going to be a little bit of a reminder. 00:04:52.019 --> 00:04:54.939 So let's go to that first point right now. 00:04:55.620 --> 00:04:56.439 So five points. 00:04:56.519 --> 00:04:57.279 Here's the first one. 00:04:57.279 --> 00:04:57.319 Five points. 00:04:59.339 --> 00:05:00.579 Remember, 00:05:02.159 --> 00:05:05.299 marriage is a dance. 00:05:07.719 --> 00:05:10.299 Last week, I wanted to help you see 00:05:10.299 --> 00:05:12.779 kind of the big sweep of our Bibles. 00:05:13.120 --> 00:05:15.339 Creation, fall, redemption. 00:05:16.819 --> 00:05:20.059 And in creation, in Genesis chapters 1 and 2, 00:05:20.179 --> 00:05:22.359 we read that God created Adam and Eve 00:05:22.359 --> 00:05:24.239 in His own likeness. 00:05:24.899 --> 00:05:28.339 And so Adam bore the likeness of God 00:05:28.339 --> 00:05:29.179 and so did Eve. 00:05:29.279 --> 00:05:31.259 They are of equal value in God's sight. 00:05:31.379 --> 00:05:32.060 Equal worth. 00:05:33.000 --> 00:05:34.239 But what we also saw 00:05:34.239 --> 00:05:36.479 is that God assigned them roles 00:05:36.479 --> 00:05:39.099 based on Adam's manness 00:05:39.099 --> 00:05:42.139 and based on Eve's woman-ness. 00:05:43.079 --> 00:05:44.559 And so equal value, 00:05:44.759 --> 00:05:47.339 but differing roles in this thing called marriage. 00:05:47.439 --> 00:05:48.139 This dance. 00:05:48.139 --> 00:05:53.439 So Adam was to lead his lady in this dance. 00:05:55.959 --> 00:05:57.259 But then there was the fall. 00:05:59.479 --> 00:06:02.279 And the dance was distorted. 00:06:02.459 --> 00:06:05.159 The roles in this thing called marriage 00:06:05.159 --> 00:06:07.419 were distorted. 00:06:09.599 --> 00:06:12.139 Husbands would either abdicate or be tyrannical. 00:06:12.139 --> 00:06:15.659 Wives would either be a floor mat or usurp. 00:06:17.800 --> 00:06:20.879 Sin made a mess of the roles. 00:06:23.159 --> 00:06:24.599 But it didn't stay there 00:06:24.599 --> 00:06:27.139 because with the coming of Jesus, 00:06:28.579 --> 00:06:32.039 Jesus came to redeem the roles in marriage. 00:06:33.039 --> 00:06:36.039 He came to make right what was made wrong. 00:06:36.040 --> 00:06:39.160 He came to bring order to that 00:06:39.160 --> 00:06:42.100 which was placed into disorder. 00:06:43.640 --> 00:06:47.060 And so what we read in Ephesians 5, 00:06:47.540 --> 00:06:49.760 22-33, 00:06:50.180 --> 00:06:52.720 is God's plan of restoration 00:06:52.720 --> 00:06:54.379 of the roles in marriage. 00:06:55.420 --> 00:06:56.780 And what we see is that 00:06:56.780 --> 00:06:59.800 husbands are going to take their cues 00:06:59.800 --> 00:07:02.820 from Jesus, the head. 00:07:02.819 --> 00:07:05.599 We are the heads of our wives. 00:07:05.699 --> 00:07:07.699 And so we are to lead our ladies. 00:07:08.899 --> 00:07:10.360 And what you are going to see is 00:07:10.360 --> 00:07:12.939 we lead out of love. 00:07:14.279 --> 00:07:16.019 And what we read in 5-23 00:07:16.019 --> 00:07:17.259 are that wives, 00:07:17.620 --> 00:07:19.180 you are assigned a role. 00:07:19.860 --> 00:07:23.920 And your role is the church-like response 00:07:23.920 --> 00:07:24.839 to Christ. 00:07:25.500 --> 00:07:27.459 To come under the care of Christ. 00:07:28.459 --> 00:07:30.100 Come under the care of your husband. 00:07:30.100 --> 00:07:33.840 What we see Paul doing in Ephesians 5, 00:07:33.939 --> 00:07:35.160 22-33, 00:07:35.480 --> 00:07:38.620 is making Christ the ultimate bridegroom 00:07:38.620 --> 00:07:42.120 and the church the ultimate bride. 00:07:43.240 --> 00:07:45.800 And they become our examples 00:07:45.800 --> 00:07:48.640 as Christian husbands and wives. 00:07:49.140 --> 00:07:52.160 They kind of determine our steps, 00:07:52.540 --> 00:07:53.260 if you will, 00:07:53.760 --> 00:07:56.000 in this thing called marriage. 00:07:56.000 --> 00:07:58.980 What you are going to see is that 00:07:58.980 --> 00:08:02.560 this Christ church basis 00:08:02.560 --> 00:08:06.379 runs throughout 22-33. 00:08:14.120 --> 00:08:14.959 Point two. 00:08:15.519 --> 00:08:17.379 And let's now get into the passage. 00:08:19.439 --> 00:08:21.279 Verse 25, we read this. 00:08:22.160 --> 00:08:23.800 Husbands, love your wives 00:08:23.800 --> 00:08:25.480 as Christ loved the church. 00:08:26.000 --> 00:08:27.699 Husbands, love your bride 00:08:27.699 --> 00:08:30.240 like Christ loves His bride. 00:08:30.300 --> 00:08:31.399 Now what does that look like? 00:08:33.440 --> 00:08:35.740 Well, it's a Christ-like love. 00:08:38.120 --> 00:08:39.879 There are two mistakes, guys, 00:08:39.980 --> 00:08:41.639 that we make in our husbanding. 00:08:42.179 --> 00:08:44.299 We can fall off the horse on either side. 00:08:45.220 --> 00:08:46.460 It's either abdicating 00:08:46.460 --> 00:08:49.179 and we tempt our wife in a certain way. 00:08:49.179 --> 00:08:51.459 Or we become tyrants 00:08:51.459 --> 00:08:53.739 and we tempt our wife in a certain way. 00:08:54.079 --> 00:08:55.000 Both are wrong. 00:08:55.139 --> 00:08:56.179 Do you know what they both have in common? 00:08:57.079 --> 00:08:58.059 It's about me. 00:08:59.179 --> 00:09:00.439 It's about my comfort. 00:09:00.699 --> 00:09:01.579 It's about what I want. 00:09:02.819 --> 00:09:04.919 But what we see going on in verse 25 00:09:04.919 --> 00:09:08.539 is what God is calling us to. 00:09:09.539 --> 00:09:12.139 He's calling us out of abdicating 00:09:12.139 --> 00:09:15.080 and He's calling us out of being a tyrant. 00:09:15.480 --> 00:09:17.559 He's calling us to be like Christ 00:09:17.559 --> 00:09:20.519 in the way that we love our wives. 00:09:20.659 --> 00:09:23.559 That word love is that classic word agape. 00:09:24.519 --> 00:09:28.919 And it's used six times in verses 25-33. 00:09:29.120 --> 00:09:32.860 There is an emphasis on love in this passage. 00:09:34.319 --> 00:09:35.980 Notice that the command in 25, 00:09:35.980 --> 00:09:38.539 the exhortation isn't husbands, 00:09:38.879 --> 00:09:39.840 head your wives. 00:09:42.100 --> 00:09:45.100 It's husbands, love your wives. 00:09:46.639 --> 00:09:48.019 Here's what that means. 00:09:49.240 --> 00:09:50.899 God has entrusted husbands 00:09:50.899 --> 00:09:52.120 with a responsibility 00:09:52.120 --> 00:09:54.700 for the welfare of their wives. 00:09:55.500 --> 00:09:57.420 And that responsibility 00:09:57.420 --> 00:10:02.800 is to be exercised in Christ-like love. 00:10:02.799 --> 00:10:05.939 And that agape love 00:10:05.939 --> 00:10:08.299 is not a selfish love. 00:10:08.459 --> 00:10:11.099 It's a love that is concerned 00:10:11.099 --> 00:10:13.620 about the greatest good of another. 00:10:14.899 --> 00:10:15.559 And so husbands, 00:10:15.679 --> 00:10:16.919 what we're being called to here 00:10:16.919 --> 00:10:19.359 is to lead in a certain way 00:10:19.359 --> 00:10:21.139 in which we have the greatest good 00:10:21.139 --> 00:10:22.179 of our wives in mind. 00:10:23.839 --> 00:10:25.699 That's the love we're being called to here. 00:10:26.319 --> 00:10:27.459 Can I just tell you something, brother? 00:10:28.299 --> 00:10:30.639 In order for you to love your wife 00:10:30.639 --> 00:10:31.639 like Christ, 00:10:31.639 --> 00:10:34.340 you must first know what it means 00:10:34.340 --> 00:10:36.879 to be loved by Christ. 00:10:40.179 --> 00:10:42.100 Do you know His great love for you, brother? 00:10:44.679 --> 00:10:47.080 Do you know He gave Himself up for you? 00:10:49.279 --> 00:10:51.319 He died for you. 00:10:53.000 --> 00:10:54.559 And now you're being called 00:10:54.559 --> 00:10:55.519 to love your wives 00:10:55.519 --> 00:10:57.720 in like fashion. 00:10:57.720 --> 00:11:01.920 So, what kind of love? 00:11:02.100 --> 00:11:03.180 It's a Christ-like love. 00:11:03.340 --> 00:11:04.300 And that kind of love, 00:11:04.420 --> 00:11:05.480 I've just been towing it, 00:11:05.620 --> 00:11:07.840 is a sacrificial love. 00:11:08.399 --> 00:11:10.560 He gave Himself. 00:11:12.000 --> 00:11:13.800 It's a voluntary love. 00:11:14.300 --> 00:11:15.519 In John chapter 10, 00:11:15.899 --> 00:11:17.320 Jesus is talking about Him 00:11:17.320 --> 00:11:18.460 as the good shepherd. 00:11:18.980 --> 00:11:20.399 And about eight times 00:11:20.399 --> 00:11:21.300 in that passage, 00:11:21.399 --> 00:11:22.300 He references Himself 00:11:22.300 --> 00:11:24.259 as laying down His life. 00:11:24.340 --> 00:11:25.920 In verse 18 in chapter 10, 00:11:25.980 --> 00:11:26.560 He says this, 00:11:26.559 --> 00:11:28.319 I lay down my life 00:11:28.319 --> 00:11:29.419 of my own accord. 00:11:30.019 --> 00:11:32.019 I do it voluntarily. 00:11:33.079 --> 00:11:33.639 Brother, 00:11:34.279 --> 00:11:35.519 you're being called 00:11:35.519 --> 00:11:37.579 to love your wife 00:11:37.579 --> 00:11:40.879 not as a strong-armed in, 00:11:41.019 --> 00:11:41.899 God is angry, 00:11:42.379 --> 00:11:43.779 but a calling to, 00:11:44.299 --> 00:11:45.119 a wooing, 00:11:46.439 --> 00:11:48.159 voluntarily loving your wife, 00:11:48.319 --> 00:11:49.500 laying down your life. 00:11:49.500 --> 00:11:54.399 Christ gave Himself 00:11:54.399 --> 00:11:55.860 for His bride. 00:11:57.220 --> 00:11:58.440 It's not only voluntary, 00:11:58.759 --> 00:11:59.679 it's sacrificial. 00:12:00.019 --> 00:12:01.240 He gave Himself. 00:12:01.399 --> 00:12:02.740 He's talking about His death. 00:12:03.220 --> 00:12:05.259 He's talking about the cross. 00:12:05.600 --> 00:12:06.659 He's talking about 00:12:06.659 --> 00:12:08.740 coming to an end to Himself 00:12:08.740 --> 00:12:10.860 for the good of someone else, 00:12:11.539 --> 00:12:12.120 His bride. 00:12:13.919 --> 00:12:14.779 It's voluntary, 00:12:15.120 --> 00:12:15.840 it's sacrificial, 00:12:16.440 --> 00:12:17.720 it's substitutionary. 00:12:17.720 --> 00:12:19.460 He gave Himself up for her. 00:12:21.180 --> 00:12:22.860 He took what 00:12:22.860 --> 00:12:24.360 was deserving, 00:12:24.720 --> 00:12:25.940 His bride deserved. 00:12:26.019 --> 00:12:26.580 You get it? 00:12:29.580 --> 00:12:30.840 Martin Lloyd-Jones, 00:12:30.960 --> 00:12:33.779 who was a wonderful 00:12:33.779 --> 00:12:35.100 preacher and pastor 00:12:35.100 --> 00:12:36.220 of a bygone era, 00:12:37.220 --> 00:12:38.660 when he was preaching 00:12:38.660 --> 00:12:39.980 through this passage, 00:12:40.660 --> 00:12:43.139 he said something to the effect, 00:12:43.139 --> 00:12:44.939 what God gives us 00:12:44.939 --> 00:12:45.779 a pattern of, 00:12:46.580 --> 00:12:47.039 husbands, 00:12:47.600 --> 00:12:49.600 is none other than 00:12:49.600 --> 00:12:51.340 the atoning work 00:12:51.340 --> 00:12:52.840 of Jesus Christ 00:12:52.840 --> 00:12:54.960 in the way we love our wives. 00:12:56.039 --> 00:12:56.559 Husbands, 00:12:56.639 --> 00:12:57.319 you want a model 00:12:57.319 --> 00:12:58.259 for loving your wife? 00:12:58.799 --> 00:12:59.919 Think cross. 00:13:02.279 --> 00:13:03.240 Think atonement. 00:13:05.199 --> 00:13:05.879 Brothers, 00:13:05.980 --> 00:13:06.980 to love our brides 00:13:06.980 --> 00:13:08.659 like Christ loved His bride 00:13:08.659 --> 00:13:10.240 is to give ourselves 00:13:10.240 --> 00:13:11.299 for them. 00:13:11.299 --> 00:13:13.579 to give up our lives. 00:13:15.019 --> 00:13:15.979 But you know what? 00:13:16.479 --> 00:13:18.139 That giving up your life 00:13:18.139 --> 00:13:19.500 is not the goal. 00:13:20.799 --> 00:13:22.059 That's the means 00:13:22.059 --> 00:13:23.419 to another end. 00:13:24.259 --> 00:13:25.679 We give our lives 00:13:25.679 --> 00:13:27.559 for something glorious, 00:13:28.099 --> 00:13:29.379 for something splendid. 00:13:29.379 --> 00:13:32.340 And we see that played out 00:13:32.340 --> 00:13:35.320 in verses 26 and 27. 00:13:36.799 --> 00:13:39.759 There are three that's 00:13:39.759 --> 00:13:41.820 in 26 and 27. 00:13:42.059 --> 00:13:42.939 Let me just read them to you. 00:13:43.559 --> 00:13:44.559 Christ gave Himself up 00:13:44.559 --> 00:13:46.659 that He, Christ, 00:13:46.820 --> 00:13:48.279 might sanctify her. 00:13:48.939 --> 00:13:49.460 The church. 00:13:50.320 --> 00:13:51.500 That's in verse 26. 00:13:52.000 --> 00:13:53.139 And then verse 27, 00:13:53.620 --> 00:13:54.559 Christ gave Himself up 00:13:54.559 --> 00:13:55.779 that He might present 00:13:55.779 --> 00:13:56.980 the church to Himself 00:13:56.980 --> 00:13:57.820 in splendor. 00:13:57.820 --> 00:13:59.879 And then, 00:14:00.500 --> 00:14:01.760 also in verse 27, 00:14:03.140 --> 00:14:05.220 that she might be holy 00:14:05.220 --> 00:14:06.960 and without blemish. 00:14:07.100 --> 00:14:07.500 You know what 00:14:07.500 --> 00:14:08.879 all those that's 00:14:08.879 --> 00:14:09.680 have in common? 00:14:10.560 --> 00:14:11.960 They're all purpose clauses, 00:14:12.100 --> 00:14:12.860 which means this. 00:14:13.700 --> 00:14:15.000 Jesus gave Himself up 00:14:15.000 --> 00:14:15.640 for a goal. 00:14:16.520 --> 00:14:17.920 He gave Himself up 00:14:17.920 --> 00:14:19.680 for the splendor 00:14:19.680 --> 00:14:21.000 of His bride. 00:14:21.480 --> 00:14:23.340 For her holiness. 00:14:23.340 --> 00:14:23.660 holiness. 00:14:24.920 --> 00:14:26.500 He gave Himself up 00:14:26.500 --> 00:14:28.180 for the greatest good 00:14:28.180 --> 00:14:29.660 of the one He loved. 00:14:31.360 --> 00:14:31.800 Holiness. 00:14:34.860 --> 00:14:35.940 Let's go back to that 00:14:35.940 --> 00:14:36.800 first that. 00:14:37.180 --> 00:14:38.460 That He might sanctify her. 00:14:41.460 --> 00:14:42.440 When you hear the word 00:14:42.440 --> 00:14:43.019 sanctify, 00:14:43.139 --> 00:14:44.040 I know many of you 00:14:44.040 --> 00:14:44.600 in this room, 00:14:44.660 --> 00:14:45.440 when you hear that word 00:14:45.440 --> 00:14:45.940 sanctify, 00:14:46.060 --> 00:14:46.720 you think of 00:14:46.720 --> 00:14:47.800 sanctification, 00:14:48.080 --> 00:14:49.180 the process 00:14:49.180 --> 00:14:51.100 of being made 00:14:51.100 --> 00:14:52.480 more and more like Jesus. 00:14:52.480 --> 00:14:53.779 That work of God 00:14:53.779 --> 00:14:54.580 that He does 00:14:54.580 --> 00:14:55.720 in cooperation 00:14:55.720 --> 00:14:57.759 with a saint 00:14:57.759 --> 00:14:59.019 to become like Jesus. 00:14:59.240 --> 00:14:59.379 But, 00:14:59.519 --> 00:15:00.620 that's not how 00:15:00.620 --> 00:15:01.800 this word is being used 00:15:01.800 --> 00:15:02.800 here in this passage. 00:15:04.100 --> 00:15:04.480 This sanctify 00:15:05.300 --> 00:15:06.240 is actually 00:15:06.240 --> 00:15:07.519 a one-time 00:15:07.519 --> 00:15:09.539 definitive act 00:15:09.539 --> 00:15:10.659 in which 00:15:10.659 --> 00:15:11.879 God calls 00:15:11.879 --> 00:15:12.700 a sinner 00:15:12.700 --> 00:15:13.800 out of sin 00:15:13.800 --> 00:15:14.480 and consecrates 00:15:15.180 --> 00:15:15.820 that sinner 00:15:15.820 --> 00:15:16.620 to God 00:15:16.620 --> 00:15:17.440 in holiness. 00:15:18.440 --> 00:15:18.800 And so, 00:15:18.899 --> 00:15:19.340 instead of 00:15:19.340 --> 00:15:20.480 progressive sanctification, 00:15:20.480 --> 00:15:21.120 sanctification, 00:15:21.440 --> 00:15:22.580 you need to be thinking 00:15:22.580 --> 00:15:24.940 positional sanctification. 00:15:25.580 --> 00:15:26.519 This is true 00:15:26.519 --> 00:15:27.240 of you 00:15:27.240 --> 00:15:28.180 in Christ. 00:15:28.680 --> 00:15:29.620 You are 00:15:29.620 --> 00:15:30.620 a holy one. 00:15:31.100 --> 00:15:31.659 You are 00:15:31.659 --> 00:15:32.720 a saint. 00:15:33.300 --> 00:15:34.100 It happened 00:15:34.100 --> 00:15:34.779 the moment 00:15:34.779 --> 00:15:35.379 you believed. 00:15:36.279 --> 00:15:37.420 God set you apart 00:15:37.420 --> 00:15:38.100 for Himself. 00:15:40.139 --> 00:15:40.680 And we see 00:15:40.680 --> 00:15:41.440 how He did that. 00:15:42.860 --> 00:15:43.500 That He might 00:15:43.500 --> 00:15:44.159 sanctify her, 00:15:44.220 --> 00:15:45.120 having cleansed her 00:15:45.120 --> 00:15:45.860 by the washing 00:15:45.860 --> 00:15:46.360 of water 00:15:46.360 --> 00:15:47.039 with the word. 00:15:47.039 --> 00:15:49.099 Christ sanctified 00:15:49.099 --> 00:15:49.519 us 00:15:49.519 --> 00:15:51.639 by cleansing 00:15:51.639 --> 00:15:52.199 us. 00:15:54.360 --> 00:15:55.279 It's a 00:15:55.279 --> 00:15:55.759 moral, 00:15:56.719 --> 00:15:57.259 spiritual 00:15:57.259 --> 00:15:57.860 cleansing 00:15:57.860 --> 00:15:58.519 that's being 00:15:58.519 --> 00:15:59.439 spoken of here. 00:16:01.120 --> 00:16:01.620 Cleansing 00:16:01.620 --> 00:16:02.399 us from our 00:16:02.399 --> 00:16:02.719 sin. 00:16:03.439 --> 00:16:03.819 That's what 00:16:03.819 --> 00:16:04.199 He's getting 00:16:04.199 --> 00:16:04.419 at. 00:16:07.179 --> 00:16:08.000 And He did 00:16:08.000 --> 00:16:08.579 that by 00:16:08.579 --> 00:16:09.939 washing us 00:16:09.939 --> 00:16:10.759 with the water 00:16:10.759 --> 00:16:11.699 of the word. 00:16:12.559 --> 00:16:13.079 What is He 00:16:13.079 --> 00:16:13.639 talking about 00:16:13.639 --> 00:16:13.959 there? 00:16:14.839 --> 00:16:15.599 He's talking 00:16:15.599 --> 00:16:16.299 about the gospel. 00:16:17.779 --> 00:16:18.219 Jesus 00:16:18.219 --> 00:16:19.439 cleanses us 00:16:19.439 --> 00:16:20.059 from sin 00:16:20.059 --> 00:16:20.599 through the 00:16:20.599 --> 00:16:21.279 message of 00:16:21.279 --> 00:16:21.740 the cross 00:16:21.740 --> 00:16:22.319 of Christ. 00:16:23.279 --> 00:16:23.579 A sinner 00:16:23.579 --> 00:16:24.419 believes in 00:16:24.419 --> 00:16:24.919 what God 00:16:24.919 --> 00:16:25.339 and Christ 00:16:25.339 --> 00:16:25.759 has done 00:16:25.759 --> 00:16:26.179 for them. 00:16:26.500 --> 00:16:26.860 They hear 00:16:26.860 --> 00:16:27.219 the message, 00:16:27.360 --> 00:16:27.860 they believe 00:16:27.860 --> 00:16:28.019 it, 00:16:28.179 --> 00:16:28.699 and they 00:16:28.699 --> 00:16:29.799 are cleansed 00:16:29.799 --> 00:16:30.439 from their 00:16:30.439 --> 00:16:30.759 sin. 00:16:32.039 --> 00:16:32.759 Who will 00:16:32.759 --> 00:16:33.439 wash away 00:16:33.439 --> 00:16:34.099 my sin? 00:16:35.559 --> 00:16:36.279 Nothing but 00:16:36.279 --> 00:16:36.639 the blood 00:16:36.639 --> 00:16:37.120 of Jesus. 00:16:40.039 --> 00:16:40.679 So in 00:16:40.679 --> 00:16:41.419 love for us, 00:16:41.740 --> 00:16:42.319 Christ gave 00:16:42.319 --> 00:16:43.059 Himself up 00:16:43.059 --> 00:16:43.639 for us 00:16:43.639 --> 00:16:45.360 to sanctify 00:16:45.360 --> 00:16:45.740 us, 00:16:45.799 --> 00:16:46.199 and He did 00:16:46.200 --> 00:16:46.680 that by 00:16:46.680 --> 00:16:47.540 cleansing us 00:16:47.540 --> 00:16:47.920 with His 00:16:47.920 --> 00:16:48.300 atoning 00:16:48.300 --> 00:16:48.700 blood. 00:16:50.879 --> 00:16:51.680 Behind this 00:16:51.680 --> 00:16:52.140 is a really 00:16:52.140 --> 00:16:52.500 interesting 00:16:52.500 --> 00:16:53.100 practice. 00:16:54.340 --> 00:16:54.540 In the 00:16:54.540 --> 00:16:55.040 first century 00:16:55.040 --> 00:16:55.440 there's this 00:16:55.440 --> 00:16:55.820 thing called 00:16:55.820 --> 00:16:56.440 the bridal 00:16:56.440 --> 00:16:56.960 bath, 00:16:57.860 --> 00:16:58.360 in which 00:16:58.360 --> 00:16:59.060 a bride 00:16:59.060 --> 00:16:59.759 on her, 00:16:59.860 --> 00:17:00.120 or the 00:17:00.120 --> 00:17:00.580 day before 00:17:00.580 --> 00:17:00.980 her wedding 00:17:00.980 --> 00:17:01.220 day, 00:17:01.379 --> 00:17:02.440 would bathe 00:17:02.440 --> 00:17:03.240 herself to 00:17:03.240 --> 00:17:03.780 present her 00:17:03.780 --> 00:17:04.700 clean to 00:17:04.700 --> 00:17:06.420 her husband, 00:17:06.620 --> 00:17:07.120 her bride. 00:17:08.080 --> 00:17:08.759 Paul is 00:17:08.759 --> 00:17:09.220 pulling on 00:17:09.220 --> 00:17:09.779 that strength 00:17:09.779 --> 00:17:13.359 that He 00:17:13.359 --> 00:17:13.539 might 00:17:13.539 --> 00:17:14.119 sanctify 00:17:14.119 --> 00:17:14.420 her. 00:17:15.559 --> 00:17:15.980 Second 00:17:15.980 --> 00:17:16.299 that, 00:17:16.399 --> 00:17:16.799 that He 00:17:16.799 --> 00:17:17.399 might present 00:17:17.399 --> 00:17:17.859 the church 00:17:17.859 --> 00:17:18.480 to Himself 00:17:18.480 --> 00:17:19.500 in splendor. 00:17:19.839 --> 00:17:20.059 Now, 00:17:20.379 --> 00:17:20.920 I want you 00:17:20.920 --> 00:17:21.359 to see two 00:17:21.359 --> 00:17:21.859 things here. 00:17:22.700 --> 00:17:23.660 It's Christ 00:17:23.660 --> 00:17:25.240 presenting the 00:17:25.240 --> 00:17:26.519 church to 00:17:26.519 --> 00:17:27.000 Himself. 00:17:28.460 --> 00:17:29.039 And what that 00:17:29.039 --> 00:17:29.720 means is this. 00:17:30.519 --> 00:17:31.279 This is a 00:17:31.279 --> 00:17:31.660 work of 00:17:31.660 --> 00:17:31.940 Jesus. 00:17:33.119 --> 00:17:33.639 Christ 00:17:33.639 --> 00:17:34.539 doing a 00:17:34.539 --> 00:17:35.180 work from 00:17:35.180 --> 00:17:36.099 beginning to 00:17:36.099 --> 00:17:36.960 end in 00:17:36.960 --> 00:17:37.279 His 00:17:37.279 --> 00:17:37.920 bride. 00:17:39.299 --> 00:17:39.900 But the 00:17:39.900 --> 00:17:40.319 other thing I 00:17:40.319 --> 00:17:40.519 want to 00:17:40.519 --> 00:17:40.860 point out 00:17:40.860 --> 00:17:41.319 is this. 00:17:42.259 --> 00:17:43.519 When this 00:17:43.519 --> 00:17:44.140 presentation 00:17:44.140 --> 00:17:44.900 takes place. 00:17:47.360 --> 00:17:48.180 Whenever it 00:17:48.180 --> 00:17:48.880 takes place, 00:17:49.880 --> 00:17:50.440 Christ is 00:17:50.440 --> 00:17:50.660 going to 00:17:50.660 --> 00:17:51.120 present to 00:17:51.120 --> 00:17:51.900 Himself a 00:17:51.900 --> 00:17:53.100 church in 00:17:53.100 --> 00:17:53.700 splendor, 00:17:54.200 --> 00:17:55.840 without spot, 00:17:56.740 --> 00:17:57.759 without wrinkle, 00:17:58.380 --> 00:17:59.180 without any 00:17:59.180 --> 00:17:59.880 such thing. 00:18:00.640 --> 00:18:00.920 You know what 00:18:00.920 --> 00:18:01.259 He's talking 00:18:01.259 --> 00:18:01.559 about? 00:18:02.420 --> 00:18:03.220 He's talking 00:18:03.220 --> 00:18:03.600 about when 00:18:03.600 --> 00:18:03.940 He comes 00:18:03.940 --> 00:18:04.340 back. 00:18:05.779 --> 00:18:06.279 Jesus is 00:18:06.279 --> 00:18:06.519 going to 00:18:06.519 --> 00:18:06.920 present, 00:18:06.960 --> 00:18:07.620 to Himself 00:18:07.620 --> 00:18:08.900 a church 00:18:08.900 --> 00:18:09.980 perfected. 00:18:11.059 --> 00:18:11.660 And what 00:18:11.660 --> 00:18:12.140 that means 00:18:12.140 --> 00:18:12.720 is this. 00:18:14.000 --> 00:18:14.620 He's in 00:18:14.620 --> 00:18:15.039 it for the 00:18:15.039 --> 00:18:15.700 long haul. 00:18:17.259 --> 00:18:18.319 He's making 00:18:18.319 --> 00:18:19.220 us clean. 00:18:19.440 --> 00:18:19.819 And on the 00:18:19.819 --> 00:18:20.259 day He 00:18:20.259 --> 00:18:20.940 comes back, 00:18:21.240 --> 00:18:21.539 He's going 00:18:21.539 --> 00:18:21.920 to present 00:18:21.920 --> 00:18:22.279 us to 00:18:22.279 --> 00:18:22.819 Himself 00:18:22.819 --> 00:18:23.759 in 00:18:23.759 --> 00:18:24.380 perfected 00:18:24.380 --> 00:18:24.840 glory, 00:18:25.279 --> 00:18:25.360 in 00:18:25.360 --> 00:18:26.019 perfected 00:18:26.019 --> 00:18:26.840 splendor. 00:18:27.900 --> 00:18:28.620 Which brings 00:18:28.620 --> 00:18:29.120 us to the 00:18:29.120 --> 00:18:29.620 last of 00:18:29.620 --> 00:18:29.860 that. 00:18:30.100 --> 00:18:30.559 That she 00:18:30.559 --> 00:18:30.980 might be 00:18:30.980 --> 00:18:31.420 holy and 00:18:31.420 --> 00:18:31.720 without 00:18:31.720 --> 00:18:32.200 blemish. 00:18:32.259 --> 00:18:32.500 It's in 00:18:32.500 --> 00:18:33.240 contrast to 00:18:33.240 --> 00:18:34.120 the without 00:18:34.120 --> 00:18:34.519 spot, 00:18:34.640 --> 00:18:34.880 wrinkle, 00:18:34.960 --> 00:18:35.240 or any 00:18:35.240 --> 00:18:35.819 such thing. 00:18:36.059 --> 00:18:36.559 Those would 00:18:36.559 --> 00:18:37.379 be spot and 00:18:37.379 --> 00:18:37.819 wrinkles. 00:18:38.279 --> 00:18:38.399 They're 00:18:38.399 --> 00:18:39.240 imperfections. 00:18:39.899 --> 00:18:40.779 We try to 00:18:40.779 --> 00:18:41.240 cover those 00:18:41.240 --> 00:18:41.539 up. 00:18:44.059 --> 00:18:44.899 Christ died 00:18:44.899 --> 00:18:45.279 for His 00:18:45.279 --> 00:18:46.000 bride so 00:18:46.000 --> 00:18:46.339 that He 00:18:46.339 --> 00:18:46.720 could one 00:18:46.720 --> 00:18:47.220 day present 00:18:47.220 --> 00:18:47.619 her to 00:18:47.619 --> 00:18:48.299 Himself in 00:18:48.299 --> 00:18:48.599 moral 00:18:48.599 --> 00:18:49.200 perfection, 00:18:50.000 --> 00:18:50.899 in splendor. 00:18:51.899 --> 00:18:52.740 The goal 00:18:52.740 --> 00:18:53.619 of Christ's 00:18:53.619 --> 00:18:54.259 sacrificial 00:18:54.259 --> 00:18:55.359 death was 00:18:55.359 --> 00:18:56.039 the moral 00:18:56.039 --> 00:18:57.399 splendor of 00:18:57.399 --> 00:18:58.299 the church. 00:18:58.960 --> 00:18:59.619 That she 00:18:59.619 --> 00:19:00.179 would be 00:19:00.179 --> 00:19:00.879 holy and 00:19:00.879 --> 00:19:01.179 without 00:19:01.179 --> 00:19:01.919 blame. 00:19:01.920 --> 00:19:06.340 maybe you're 00:19:06.340 --> 00:19:06.539 thinking, 00:19:06.680 --> 00:19:07.200 man, I 00:19:07.200 --> 00:19:07.620 thought this 00:19:07.620 --> 00:19:07.860 was a 00:19:07.860 --> 00:19:08.420 passage about 00:19:08.420 --> 00:19:08.820 husbands. 00:19:11.820 --> 00:19:12.460 Husbands, 00:19:12.820 --> 00:19:13.320 love your 00:19:13.320 --> 00:19:14.420 wife like 00:19:14.420 --> 00:19:15.380 Christ loved 00:19:15.380 --> 00:19:15.940 the church. 00:19:16.560 --> 00:19:16.860 Give 00:19:16.860 --> 00:19:17.940 yourself up 00:19:17.940 --> 00:19:18.560 for the 00:19:18.560 --> 00:19:20.539 splendor of 00:19:20.539 --> 00:19:21.320 your wife. 00:19:22.880 --> 00:19:23.720 What kind 00:19:23.720 --> 00:19:24.240 of splendor? 00:19:25.800 --> 00:19:26.740 Paul spells 00:19:26.740 --> 00:19:27.180 it out in 00:19:27.180 --> 00:19:28.060 spiritual terms, 00:19:28.320 --> 00:19:28.700 holy and 00:19:28.700 --> 00:19:29.120 blameless. 00:19:29.119 --> 00:19:32.539 brothers, 00:19:32.879 --> 00:19:34.039 I know 00:19:34.039 --> 00:19:34.399 many of 00:19:34.399 --> 00:19:34.739 you are 00:19:34.739 --> 00:19:35.299 wonderful 00:19:35.299 --> 00:19:36.259 protectors of 00:19:36.259 --> 00:19:36.839 your families, 00:19:36.959 --> 00:19:37.199 of your 00:19:37.199 --> 00:19:37.459 wives. 00:19:37.779 --> 00:19:38.239 Keep on 00:19:38.239 --> 00:19:38.699 doing that. 00:19:40.059 --> 00:19:40.719 I know 00:19:40.719 --> 00:19:41.159 many of 00:19:41.159 --> 00:19:41.519 you are 00:19:41.519 --> 00:19:41.779 just 00:19:41.779 --> 00:19:42.319 outstanding 00:19:42.319 --> 00:19:43.359 providers for 00:19:43.359 --> 00:19:43.879 your wife. 00:19:44.399 --> 00:19:44.819 Keep on 00:19:44.819 --> 00:19:45.319 doing that. 00:19:45.579 --> 00:19:46.500 That's right 00:19:46.500 --> 00:19:47.119 on the money. 00:19:48.559 --> 00:19:49.039 But if we 00:19:49.039 --> 00:19:49.459 take our 00:19:49.459 --> 00:19:49.919 cues from 00:19:49.919 --> 00:19:50.579 Jesus in 00:19:50.579 --> 00:19:51.119 this passage, 00:19:51.239 --> 00:19:51.419 do you know 00:19:51.419 --> 00:19:51.639 what our 00:19:51.639 --> 00:19:52.299 greatest aim 00:19:52.299 --> 00:19:54.079 is in 00:19:54.079 --> 00:19:54.459 loving our 00:19:54.459 --> 00:19:54.779 wives? 00:19:56.519 --> 00:19:57.159 It's their 00:19:57.159 --> 00:19:57.500 holiness. 00:19:59.119 --> 00:20:01.379 This is a 00:20:01.379 --> 00:20:01.719 call to 00:20:01.719 --> 00:20:02.159 spiritual 00:20:02.159 --> 00:20:02.539 leadership, 00:20:02.739 --> 00:20:02.899 brothers. 00:20:05.159 --> 00:20:05.819 This is a 00:20:05.819 --> 00:20:06.139 call to 00:20:06.139 --> 00:20:06.479 lead our 00:20:06.479 --> 00:20:06.879 wives in 00:20:06.879 --> 00:20:07.259 such a 00:20:07.259 --> 00:20:07.579 way that 00:20:07.579 --> 00:20:07.879 we lay 00:20:07.879 --> 00:20:08.199 down our 00:20:08.199 --> 00:20:09.099 lives for 00:20:09.099 --> 00:20:09.259 their 00:20:09.259 --> 00:20:09.519 greatest 00:20:09.519 --> 00:20:09.899 good, 00:20:10.159 --> 00:20:10.399 to be 00:20:10.399 --> 00:20:10.579 like 00:20:10.579 --> 00:20:10.879 Jesus. 00:20:14.539 --> 00:20:14.979 So 00:20:14.979 --> 00:20:15.239 brothers, 00:20:15.339 --> 00:20:15.699 love your 00:20:15.699 --> 00:20:16.279 wives into 00:20:16.279 --> 00:20:16.639 holiness. 00:20:16.879 --> 00:20:17.259 Lay your 00:20:17.259 --> 00:20:18.059 lives down 00:20:18.059 --> 00:20:18.459 so that 00:20:18.459 --> 00:20:18.979 your wife 00:20:18.979 --> 00:20:19.579 can 00:20:19.579 --> 00:20:20.279 spiritually 00:20:20.279 --> 00:20:22.299 thrive in 00:20:22.299 --> 00:20:22.979 Christ. 00:20:23.099 --> 00:20:23.299 You're 00:20:23.299 --> 00:20:24.379 caring for 00:20:24.379 --> 00:20:24.679 her 00:20:24.679 --> 00:20:25.719 spiritual 00:20:25.719 --> 00:20:26.859 welfare 00:20:26.859 --> 00:20:27.239 above 00:20:27.239 --> 00:20:28.319 all else. 00:20:29.119 --> 00:20:31.959 But you 00:20:31.959 --> 00:20:32.699 can't give 00:20:32.699 --> 00:20:33.539 your wife 00:20:33.539 --> 00:20:34.459 something that 00:20:34.459 --> 00:20:34.899 you don't 00:20:34.899 --> 00:20:35.199 have. 00:20:36.599 --> 00:20:37.519 You can't 00:20:37.519 --> 00:20:38.019 lead your 00:20:38.019 --> 00:20:38.799 wife somewhere 00:20:38.799 --> 00:20:39.259 that you 00:20:39.259 --> 00:20:39.799 yourself are 00:20:39.799 --> 00:20:40.379 not going. 00:20:41.259 --> 00:20:41.659 So to 00:20:41.659 --> 00:20:42.519 spiritually lead 00:20:42.519 --> 00:20:43.399 your wife 00:20:43.399 --> 00:20:44.719 starts with 00:20:44.719 --> 00:20:45.799 your own 00:20:45.799 --> 00:20:46.399 personal 00:20:46.399 --> 00:20:46.919 holiness. 00:20:47.579 --> 00:20:48.139 That's where 00:20:48.139 --> 00:20:48.699 it starts. 00:20:50.079 --> 00:20:50.859 And your 00:20:50.859 --> 00:20:51.799 personal holiness 00:20:51.799 --> 00:20:53.359 starts and 00:20:53.359 --> 00:20:54.579 ends with 00:20:54.579 --> 00:20:55.279 Christ. 00:20:55.279 --> 00:20:59.440 brother, is 00:20:59.440 --> 00:20:59.980 Jesus your 00:20:59.980 --> 00:21:00.660 first love? 00:21:03.660 --> 00:21:04.339 Are you 00:21:04.339 --> 00:21:04.960 seeking to 00:21:04.960 --> 00:21:05.599 obey the 00:21:05.599 --> 00:21:05.980 greatest 00:21:05.980 --> 00:21:06.660 commandment 00:21:06.660 --> 00:21:07.220 to love 00:21:07.220 --> 00:21:07.559 the Lord 00:21:07.559 --> 00:21:08.019 your God 00:21:08.019 --> 00:21:08.839 with everything 00:21:08.839 --> 00:21:10.099 you got? 00:21:10.940 --> 00:21:11.779 The greatest 00:21:11.779 --> 00:21:12.279 thing that you 00:21:12.279 --> 00:21:12.639 can do, 00:21:12.799 --> 00:21:13.000 husband, 00:21:13.299 --> 00:21:14.079 the greatest 00:21:14.079 --> 00:21:15.180 thing that you 00:21:15.180 --> 00:21:16.139 can do for 00:21:16.139 --> 00:21:17.019 your wife 00:21:17.019 --> 00:21:18.720 is to love 00:21:18.720 --> 00:21:19.559 your God 00:21:19.559 --> 00:21:20.480 with everything 00:21:20.480 --> 00:21:21.359 you got. 00:21:21.359 --> 00:21:22.019 To love 00:21:22.019 --> 00:21:22.960 him without 00:21:22.960 --> 00:21:23.920 any reservations. 00:21:23.920 --> 00:21:25.360 all sails to 00:21:25.360 --> 00:21:25.840 the wind 00:21:25.840 --> 00:21:27.220 loving Jesus. 00:21:27.720 --> 00:21:28.560 Full throttle 00:21:28.560 --> 00:21:29.500 love for 00:21:29.500 --> 00:21:29.940 Jesus. 00:21:30.180 --> 00:21:30.960 That is the 00:21:30.960 --> 00:21:32.060 greatest thing 00:21:32.060 --> 00:21:32.640 that you can 00:21:32.640 --> 00:21:33.360 do for your 00:21:33.360 --> 00:21:33.860 wife. 00:21:36.940 --> 00:21:37.920 That's where 00:21:37.920 --> 00:21:38.680 spiritual 00:21:38.680 --> 00:21:39.060 leadership 00:21:39.060 --> 00:21:39.759 starts. 00:21:41.039 --> 00:21:41.880 In your 00:21:41.880 --> 00:21:42.279 private 00:21:42.279 --> 00:21:44.180 devotion to 00:21:44.180 --> 00:21:44.560 Christ. 00:21:44.680 --> 00:21:45.840 Now, if 00:21:45.840 --> 00:21:46.360 you're pursuing 00:21:46.360 --> 00:21:47.259 Jesus that 00:21:47.259 --> 00:21:47.660 way, do you 00:21:47.660 --> 00:21:47.900 know who's 00:21:47.900 --> 00:21:48.120 going to 00:21:48.120 --> 00:21:48.380 notice? 00:21:49.120 --> 00:21:49.519 Oh, your 00:21:49.519 --> 00:21:49.920 wife will 00:21:49.920 --> 00:21:50.500 notice that. 00:21:52.620 --> 00:21:53.220 She might 00:21:53.220 --> 00:21:53.620 not know what 00:21:53.619 --> 00:21:53.939 to do with 00:21:53.939 --> 00:21:54.359 you, actually. 00:21:56.759 --> 00:21:57.279 She may 00:21:57.279 --> 00:21:57.839 just want to 00:21:57.839 --> 00:21:58.219 come under 00:21:58.219 --> 00:21:58.699 your care 00:21:58.699 --> 00:22:01.279 and trust 00:22:01.279 --> 00:22:01.779 herself to 00:22:01.779 --> 00:22:02.199 you fully. 00:22:04.199 --> 00:22:04.739 Allow you 00:22:04.739 --> 00:22:05.119 to lead 00:22:05.119 --> 00:22:06.399 her into 00:22:06.399 --> 00:22:06.859 greater and 00:22:06.859 --> 00:22:07.739 greater holiness. 00:22:09.159 --> 00:22:09.879 It might be 00:22:09.879 --> 00:22:10.399 an adjustment, 00:22:11.399 --> 00:22:12.819 but it's a 00:22:12.819 --> 00:22:13.379 good adjustment. 00:22:15.959 --> 00:22:16.419 Now, you 00:22:16.419 --> 00:22:16.719 might be 00:22:16.719 --> 00:22:17.239 thinking this, 00:22:17.279 --> 00:22:17.879 but my wife 00:22:17.879 --> 00:22:18.219 is more 00:22:18.219 --> 00:22:18.679 spiritually 00:22:18.679 --> 00:22:19.319 mature than 00:22:19.319 --> 00:22:19.679 I am. 00:22:20.199 --> 00:22:20.679 My wife 00:22:20.679 --> 00:22:20.959 is a 00:22:20.959 --> 00:22:21.299 spiritual 00:22:21.299 --> 00:22:21.899 giant. 00:22:23.079 --> 00:22:23.759 I'm just 00:22:23.759 --> 00:22:24.460 showing up. 00:22:26.519 --> 00:22:27.279 Well, brothers, 00:22:27.359 --> 00:22:27.639 here's the 00:22:27.639 --> 00:22:28.019 good news. 00:22:28.139 --> 00:22:28.639 It's not 00:22:28.639 --> 00:22:29.019 about how 00:22:29.019 --> 00:22:29.659 mature you 00:22:29.659 --> 00:22:29.960 are. 00:22:30.599 --> 00:22:31.279 It's about 00:22:31.279 --> 00:22:32.000 how faithful 00:22:32.000 --> 00:22:32.579 you are, 00:22:33.379 --> 00:22:34.299 living out 00:22:34.299 --> 00:22:35.119 the role 00:22:35.119 --> 00:22:35.940 God has 00:22:35.940 --> 00:22:36.559 entrusted 00:22:36.559 --> 00:22:37.200 to you. 00:22:38.299 --> 00:22:38.960 You don't 00:22:38.960 --> 00:22:39.539 have to be a 00:22:39.539 --> 00:22:40.379 spiritual giant 00:22:40.379 --> 00:22:40.859 to lead 00:22:40.859 --> 00:22:41.359 your wife. 00:22:42.180 --> 00:22:43.159 Look who 00:22:43.159 --> 00:22:44.039 I am. 00:22:45.240 --> 00:22:46.119 Your wife's 00:22:46.119 --> 00:22:47.480 holiness is 00:22:47.480 --> 00:22:48.079 not dependent 00:22:48.079 --> 00:22:48.419 on you, 00:22:48.539 --> 00:22:48.680 brother. 00:22:48.680 --> 00:22:50.100 your wife's 00:22:50.100 --> 00:22:50.920 holiness is 00:22:50.920 --> 00:22:51.440 dependent on 00:22:51.440 --> 00:22:51.759 Jesus. 00:22:53.700 --> 00:22:55.200 So, because 00:22:55.200 --> 00:22:55.660 he's the 00:22:55.660 --> 00:22:56.220 vine, do 00:22:56.220 --> 00:22:56.380 you know 00:22:56.380 --> 00:22:56.620 what you 00:22:56.620 --> 00:22:56.820 do? 00:22:57.960 --> 00:22:58.640 Over and 00:22:58.640 --> 00:22:58.940 over and 00:22:58.940 --> 00:22:59.440 over again. 00:23:00.160 --> 00:23:01.180 You point 00:23:01.180 --> 00:23:02.320 your bride 00:23:02.320 --> 00:23:03.580 to her 00:23:03.580 --> 00:23:04.880 Savior over 00:23:04.880 --> 00:23:05.240 and over 00:23:05.240 --> 00:23:05.519 and over 00:23:05.519 --> 00:23:05.799 again. 00:23:06.299 --> 00:23:06.940 You love 00:23:06.940 --> 00:23:07.299 her to 00:23:07.299 --> 00:23:07.740 Jesus. 00:23:08.039 --> 00:23:08.440 You love 00:23:08.440 --> 00:23:08.880 her into 00:23:08.880 --> 00:23:09.320 holiness. 00:23:10.060 --> 00:23:10.400 There's 00:23:10.400 --> 00:23:11.700 only one 00:23:11.700 --> 00:23:12.400 Savior. 00:23:13.340 --> 00:23:13.660 And to 00:23:13.660 --> 00:23:14.000 love your 00:23:14.000 --> 00:23:14.500 wife like 00:23:14.500 --> 00:23:15.080 Christ is 00:23:15.080 --> 00:23:15.519 not to 00:23:15.519 --> 00:23:16.200 be Christ. 00:23:16.320 --> 00:23:16.640 It's to 00:23:16.640 --> 00:23:17.279 love her to 00:23:17.279 --> 00:23:17.799 Christ. 00:23:18.680 --> 00:23:21.299 Think of 00:23:21.299 --> 00:23:21.880 your wife's 00:23:21.880 --> 00:23:23.840 splendor as 00:23:23.840 --> 00:23:25.779 Christ-likeness. 00:23:26.860 --> 00:23:27.340 Holiness. 00:23:28.500 --> 00:23:29.100 And your 00:23:29.100 --> 00:23:29.840 job, 00:23:29.980 --> 00:23:30.299 brothers, 00:23:30.620 --> 00:23:31.320 is to 00:23:31.320 --> 00:23:32.019 love your 00:23:32.019 --> 00:23:33.340 wife so 00:23:33.340 --> 00:23:33.640 that she 00:23:33.640 --> 00:23:34.340 becomes more 00:23:34.340 --> 00:23:34.620 and more 00:23:34.620 --> 00:23:35.519 like Jesus. 00:23:36.279 --> 00:23:36.680 You're not 00:23:36.680 --> 00:23:37.120 seeking to 00:23:37.120 --> 00:23:38.019 transform your 00:23:38.019 --> 00:23:38.680 wife into 00:23:38.680 --> 00:23:39.500 your image, 00:23:39.640 --> 00:23:40.019 but you're 00:23:40.019 --> 00:23:40.660 seeking to 00:23:40.660 --> 00:23:41.480 love her 00:23:41.480 --> 00:23:42.120 into the 00:23:42.120 --> 00:23:42.820 image of 00:23:42.820 --> 00:23:43.400 Christ. 00:23:44.680 --> 00:23:45.640 Christ has 00:23:45.640 --> 00:23:46.560 delegated you 00:23:46.560 --> 00:23:47.600 the responsibility 00:23:47.599 --> 00:23:50.019 and you 00:23:50.019 --> 00:23:50.639 fulfill it 00:23:50.639 --> 00:23:51.240 for the 00:23:51.240 --> 00:23:51.699 glory of 00:23:51.699 --> 00:23:53.259 Christ as 00:23:53.259 --> 00:23:53.619 you depend 00:23:53.619 --> 00:23:54.199 on Christ. 00:23:57.819 --> 00:23:58.480 I'll tell 00:23:58.480 --> 00:23:58.819 you what, 00:23:59.819 --> 00:24:01.299 guys, I 00:24:01.299 --> 00:24:01.659 think you'll 00:24:01.659 --> 00:24:02.399 testify with 00:24:02.399 --> 00:24:02.819 this, that 00:24:02.819 --> 00:24:03.279 there's no 00:24:03.279 --> 00:24:04.039 greater joy 00:24:04.039 --> 00:24:04.459 for a 00:24:04.459 --> 00:24:04.759 Christian 00:24:04.759 --> 00:24:06.279 husband than 00:24:06.279 --> 00:24:07.119 to see his 00:24:07.119 --> 00:24:09.039 wife spiritually 00:24:09.039 --> 00:24:10.240 thriving, 00:24:11.719 --> 00:24:13.159 loving her 00:24:13.159 --> 00:24:13.480 Savior. 00:24:13.480 --> 00:24:16.140 so we 00:24:16.140 --> 00:24:17.799 exercise our 00:24:17.799 --> 00:24:18.720 responsibility, 00:24:19.019 --> 00:24:19.900 our headship 00:24:19.900 --> 00:24:22.000 in love 00:24:22.000 --> 00:24:22.920 for the 00:24:22.920 --> 00:24:24.099 welfare of 00:24:24.099 --> 00:24:25.000 our wives, 00:24:25.059 --> 00:24:25.500 and at the 00:24:25.500 --> 00:24:26.180 top of that 00:24:26.180 --> 00:24:27.420 list is her 00:24:27.420 --> 00:24:28.620 spiritual health. 00:24:32.720 --> 00:24:33.599 So here's 00:24:33.599 --> 00:24:33.880 what that 00:24:33.880 --> 00:24:34.120 means, 00:24:34.200 --> 00:24:34.460 guys. 00:24:35.339 --> 00:24:36.099 Our eyes 00:24:36.099 --> 00:24:36.480 need to be 00:24:36.480 --> 00:24:36.980 on Jesus. 00:24:37.980 --> 00:24:38.860 In order to 00:24:38.860 --> 00:24:39.759 lead your 00:24:39.759 --> 00:24:40.700 wife well, 00:24:41.559 --> 00:24:42.259 eyes on 00:24:42.259 --> 00:24:43.259 Jesus, hearts 00:24:43.259 --> 00:24:44.420 for him. 00:24:46.019 --> 00:24:47.240 Second, very 00:24:47.240 --> 00:24:47.980 practical 00:24:47.980 --> 00:24:49.879 recommendation to 00:24:49.879 --> 00:24:50.299 lead your 00:24:50.299 --> 00:24:50.700 wives. 00:24:52.599 --> 00:24:53.420 Pray for 00:24:53.420 --> 00:24:53.980 your wife. 00:24:55.759 --> 00:24:56.559 Make time, 00:24:56.640 --> 00:24:57.079 maybe it's on 00:24:57.079 --> 00:24:57.599 your commute, 00:24:57.799 --> 00:24:58.879 maybe it's got 00:24:58.879 --> 00:24:59.599 some down time 00:24:59.599 --> 00:25:00.059 every day, 00:25:00.200 --> 00:25:01.059 pray for your 00:25:01.059 --> 00:25:01.440 wife. 00:25:04.000 --> 00:25:04.559 It's 00:25:04.559 --> 00:25:05.140 Christ-like. 00:25:06.339 --> 00:25:06.640 Ben was 00:25:06.640 --> 00:25:07.099 talking about 00:25:07.099 --> 00:25:07.539 it earlier. 00:25:09.019 --> 00:25:09.619 Romans 8, 00:25:09.619 --> 00:25:10.519 Jesus 00:25:10.519 --> 00:25:11.319 intercedes 00:25:11.319 --> 00:25:12.099 for us. 00:25:12.179 --> 00:25:12.539 He's at the 00:25:12.539 --> 00:25:12.979 right hand 00:25:12.979 --> 00:25:13.639 of God. 00:25:14.579 --> 00:25:14.919 Hebrews 00:25:14.919 --> 00:25:15.959 chapter 7, 00:25:16.819 --> 00:25:17.419 he is 00:25:17.419 --> 00:25:18.739 alive 00:25:18.739 --> 00:25:20.019 to intercede 00:25:20.019 --> 00:25:20.819 for us. 00:25:22.339 --> 00:25:22.819 Brothers, 00:25:22.899 --> 00:25:23.539 let's intercede 00:25:23.539 --> 00:25:23.919 for our 00:25:23.919 --> 00:25:24.179 wives. 00:25:24.259 --> 00:25:24.639 Maybe you're 00:25:24.639 --> 00:25:24.939 saying right 00:25:24.939 --> 00:25:25.039 now, 00:25:25.079 --> 00:25:25.199 well, 00:25:25.319 --> 00:25:26.699 I just 00:25:26.699 --> 00:25:26.919 wouldn't 00:25:26.919 --> 00:25:27.199 know what 00:25:27.199 --> 00:25:27.619 to pray. 00:25:29.459 --> 00:25:30.000 Let me 00:25:30.000 --> 00:25:30.259 give you 00:25:30.259 --> 00:25:30.439 some 00:25:30.439 --> 00:25:31.839 suggestions. 00:25:33.739 --> 00:25:34.199 Start 00:25:34.199 --> 00:25:34.859 praying that 00:25:34.859 --> 00:25:35.439 your wife 00:25:35.439 --> 00:25:36.199 would love 00:25:36.199 --> 00:25:36.859 Jesus above 00:25:36.859 --> 00:25:37.439 all else. 00:25:37.440 --> 00:25:39.720 start 00:25:39.720 --> 00:25:40.039 praying 00:25:40.039 --> 00:25:40.539 Ephesians 00:25:40.539 --> 00:25:40.880 3, 00:25:41.000 --> 00:25:41.840 16-19 00:25:41.840 --> 00:25:42.279 for your 00:25:42.279 --> 00:25:42.500 wife. 00:25:42.580 --> 00:25:42.900 I find 00:25:42.900 --> 00:25:43.240 myself 00:25:43.240 --> 00:25:43.539 praying 00:25:43.539 --> 00:25:43.740 that 00:25:43.740 --> 00:25:44.039 for my 00:25:44.039 --> 00:25:44.299 wife 00:25:44.299 --> 00:25:44.779 a lot. 00:25:45.380 --> 00:25:45.680 That 00:25:45.680 --> 00:25:46.059 God 00:25:46.059 --> 00:25:46.500 by his 00:25:46.500 --> 00:25:46.840 spirit 00:25:46.840 --> 00:25:47.420 would 00:25:47.420 --> 00:25:47.820 strengthen 00:25:47.820 --> 00:25:48.200 my 00:25:48.200 --> 00:25:48.600 wife's 00:25:48.600 --> 00:25:48.820 inner 00:25:48.820 --> 00:25:49.240 being, 00:25:49.559 --> 00:25:49.799 that 00:25:49.799 --> 00:25:50.180 she 00:25:50.180 --> 00:25:50.640 would 00:25:50.640 --> 00:25:51.100 know 00:25:51.100 --> 00:25:51.660 God's 00:25:51.660 --> 00:25:52.039 great 00:25:52.039 --> 00:25:52.400 love 00:25:52.400 --> 00:25:52.840 for her. 00:25:53.920 --> 00:25:54.259 And be 00:25:54.259 --> 00:25:54.660 strengthened 00:25:54.660 --> 00:25:55.380 by that. 00:25:57.059 --> 00:25:57.360 Pray 00:25:57.360 --> 00:25:57.940 for wisdom 00:25:57.940 --> 00:25:58.400 for your 00:25:58.400 --> 00:25:58.640 wife, 00:25:58.700 --> 00:25:58.900 whatever 00:25:58.900 --> 00:25:59.220 she's 00:25:59.220 --> 00:25:59.519 facing 00:25:59.519 --> 00:25:59.779 that 00:25:59.779 --> 00:25:59.960 day, 00:26:00.039 --> 00:26:00.180 whether 00:26:00.180 --> 00:26:00.420 in the 00:26:00.420 --> 00:26:00.759 workplace 00:26:00.759 --> 00:26:01.160 or 00:26:01.160 --> 00:26:01.360 in the 00:26:01.360 --> 00:26:01.660 home. 00:26:02.740 --> 00:26:02.960 Pray 00:26:02.960 --> 00:26:03.320 for your 00:26:03.320 --> 00:26:03.580 wife 00:26:03.580 --> 00:26:03.840 for 00:26:03.840 --> 00:26:04.660 patience, 00:26:05.039 --> 00:26:05.440 especially 00:26:05.440 --> 00:26:05.840 if she's 00:26:05.840 --> 00:26:06.100 raising 00:26:06.100 --> 00:26:06.360 little 00:26:06.360 --> 00:26:06.759 ones. 00:26:07.440 --> 00:26:11.160 Pray 00:26:11.160 --> 00:26:11.400 for 00:26:11.400 --> 00:26:11.600 them. 00:26:14.720 --> 00:26:15.279 Direct 00:26:15.279 --> 00:26:15.620 them to 00:26:15.620 --> 00:26:16.059 the Bible 00:26:16.059 --> 00:26:16.440 over and 00:26:16.440 --> 00:26:16.840 over again. 00:26:17.799 --> 00:26:18.320 If 00:26:18.320 --> 00:26:18.840 Jesus 00:26:18.840 --> 00:26:19.559 bathed 00:26:19.559 --> 00:26:19.779 his 00:26:19.779 --> 00:26:20.220 bride 00:26:20.220 --> 00:26:20.880 with 00:26:20.880 --> 00:26:21.080 the 00:26:21.080 --> 00:26:21.480 gospel, 00:26:22.240 --> 00:26:22.680 let's 00:26:22.680 --> 00:26:22.860 be 00:26:22.860 --> 00:26:23.200 bathing 00:26:23.200 --> 00:26:23.559 our 00:26:23.559 --> 00:26:23.980 brides 00:26:23.980 --> 00:26:24.340 with 00:26:24.340 --> 00:26:24.480 the 00:26:24.480 --> 00:26:24.820 gospel, 00:26:25.580 --> 00:26:25.980 reminding 00:26:25.980 --> 00:26:26.220 them 00:26:26.220 --> 00:26:26.660 over and 00:26:26.660 --> 00:26:27.019 over again 00:26:27.019 --> 00:26:27.580 who they 00:26:27.580 --> 00:26:28.340 are in 00:26:28.340 --> 00:26:28.880 Christ. 00:26:29.580 --> 00:26:29.860 This 00:26:29.860 --> 00:26:30.160 is who 00:26:30.160 --> 00:26:30.580 you are. 00:26:31.180 --> 00:26:31.559 This 00:26:31.559 --> 00:26:31.880 is who 00:26:31.880 --> 00:26:32.360 you are. 00:26:32.799 --> 00:26:33.059 You're 00:26:33.059 --> 00:26:33.759 blood-bought. 00:26:34.160 --> 00:26:34.799 You belong 00:26:34.799 --> 00:26:35.120 to the 00:26:35.120 --> 00:26:35.440 king. 00:26:36.279 --> 00:26:36.700 That's 00:26:36.700 --> 00:26:36.980 who you 00:26:36.980 --> 00:26:37.259 are. 00:26:37.440 --> 00:26:38.320 Not 00:26:38.320 --> 00:26:38.620 what you 00:26:38.620 --> 00:26:39.160 look like. 00:26:40.059 --> 00:26:40.600 It's 00:26:40.600 --> 00:26:41.059 who you 00:26:41.059 --> 00:26:41.400 belong 00:26:41.400 --> 00:26:41.680 to. 00:26:42.320 --> 00:26:42.519 And 00:26:42.519 --> 00:26:42.620 you 00:26:42.620 --> 00:26:42.900 belong 00:26:42.900 --> 00:26:43.059 to 00:26:43.059 --> 00:26:43.380 first 00:26:43.380 --> 00:26:43.600 and 00:26:43.600 --> 00:26:44.039 foremost 00:26:44.039 --> 00:26:45.220 Jesus. 00:26:47.140 --> 00:26:47.640 Young 00:26:47.640 --> 00:26:47.880 men. 00:26:49.200 --> 00:26:49.559 Young 00:26:49.559 --> 00:26:50.080 unmarried 00:26:50.080 --> 00:26:50.420 men in 00:26:50.420 --> 00:26:50.680 the room. 00:26:51.120 --> 00:26:51.440 I was 00:26:51.440 --> 00:26:51.640 helping 00:26:51.640 --> 00:26:51.900 move 00:26:51.900 --> 00:26:52.320 somebody 00:26:52.320 --> 00:26:52.740 yesterday 00:26:52.740 --> 00:26:53.039 and I 00:26:53.039 --> 00:26:53.160 was 00:26:53.160 --> 00:26:53.700 working 00:26:53.700 --> 00:26:54.080 alongside 00:26:54.080 --> 00:26:54.320 two 00:26:54.320 --> 00:26:54.559 young 00:26:54.559 --> 00:26:54.900 guys 00:26:54.900 --> 00:26:55.320 and I 00:26:55.320 --> 00:26:55.440 said, 00:26:55.519 --> 00:26:55.759 I got 00:26:55.759 --> 00:26:56.019 something 00:26:56.019 --> 00:26:56.240 in your 00:26:56.240 --> 00:26:56.440 sermon 00:26:56.440 --> 00:26:56.779 for you 00:26:56.779 --> 00:26:57.039 tomorrow. 00:26:58.779 --> 00:26:59.039 Middle 00:26:59.039 --> 00:26:59.400 school 00:26:59.400 --> 00:27:00.120 guys, 00:27:00.279 --> 00:27:00.460 high 00:27:00.460 --> 00:27:00.700 school 00:27:00.700 --> 00:27:01.120 guys, 00:27:01.279 --> 00:27:01.640 college 00:27:01.640 --> 00:27:02.100 guys, 00:27:02.240 --> 00:27:02.680 unmarried 00:27:02.680 --> 00:27:03.120 guys. 00:27:03.900 --> 00:27:04.340 You 00:27:04.340 --> 00:27:04.680 don't get 00:27:04.680 --> 00:27:04.980 married 00:27:04.980 --> 00:27:05.340 and flip 00:27:05.340 --> 00:27:05.880 this switch 00:27:05.880 --> 00:27:06.120 and all 00:27:06.120 --> 00:27:06.360 of a 00:27:06.360 --> 00:27:06.500 sudden 00:27:06.500 --> 00:27:06.700 you're 00:27:06.700 --> 00:27:06.859 loving 00:27:06.859 --> 00:27:07.039 your 00:27:07.039 --> 00:27:07.279 wife 00:27:07.279 --> 00:27:07.480 like 00:27:07.480 --> 00:27:07.740 Christ 00:27:07.740 --> 00:27:07.920 loved 00:27:07.920 --> 00:27:08.079 the 00:27:08.079 --> 00:27:08.359 church. 00:27:08.740 --> 00:27:08.920 You 00:27:08.920 --> 00:27:09.140 start 00:27:09.140 --> 00:27:09.460 training 00:27:09.460 --> 00:27:09.880 yourself 00:27:09.880 --> 00:27:10.180 now 00:27:10.180 --> 00:27:10.579 for that. 00:27:12.059 --> 00:27:12.240 You 00:27:12.240 --> 00:27:12.480 start 00:27:12.480 --> 00:27:12.900 loving 00:27:12.900 --> 00:27:13.420 now 00:27:13.420 --> 00:27:14.480 that way. 00:27:15.160 --> 00:27:15.420 Loving 00:27:15.420 --> 00:27:15.619 your 00:27:15.619 --> 00:27:15.920 mothers 00:27:15.920 --> 00:27:16.400 and loving 00:27:16.400 --> 00:27:16.640 your 00:27:16.640 --> 00:27:17.039 sisters, 00:27:17.220 --> 00:27:17.440 looking 00:27:17.440 --> 00:27:17.859 out for 00:27:17.859 --> 00:27:18.039 their 00:27:18.039 --> 00:27:18.400 welfare. 00:27:19.680 --> 00:27:20.019 Get in 00:27:20.019 --> 00:27:20.660 the practice 00:27:20.660 --> 00:27:21.180 of dying 00:27:21.180 --> 00:27:21.880 to yourself 00:27:21.880 --> 00:27:22.740 for the 00:27:22.740 --> 00:27:23.119 welfare 00:27:23.119 --> 00:27:23.939 of the 00:27:23.939 --> 00:27:24.219 women 00:27:24.219 --> 00:27:24.519 God 00:27:24.519 --> 00:27:24.539 God 00:27:24.539 --> 00:27:24.679 has 00:27:24.679 --> 00:27:24.959 placed 00:27:24.959 --> 00:27:25.139 in 00:27:25.139 --> 00:27:25.259 your 00:27:25.259 --> 00:27:25.559 life. 00:27:26.599 --> 00:27:26.839 You're 00:27:26.839 --> 00:27:26.939 going to 00:27:26.939 --> 00:27:27.099 build 00:27:27.099 --> 00:27:27.299 some 00:27:27.299 --> 00:27:27.679 momentum 00:27:27.679 --> 00:27:27.979 into 00:27:27.979 --> 00:27:28.399 marriage. 00:27:31.359 --> 00:27:31.919 Sisters, 00:27:33.539 --> 00:27:34.059 unmarried 00:27:34.059 --> 00:27:34.459 sisters, 00:27:35.259 --> 00:27:36.879 I'm 00:27:36.879 --> 00:27:37.079 just going 00:27:37.079 --> 00:27:37.279 to give 00:27:37.279 --> 00:27:37.539 you some 00:27:37.539 --> 00:27:37.819 humble 00:27:37.819 --> 00:27:38.299 advice. 00:27:41.099 --> 00:27:41.599 Here's 00:27:41.599 --> 00:27:41.779 who to 00:27:41.779 --> 00:27:42.119 be looking 00:27:42.119 --> 00:27:42.459 for, 00:27:43.019 --> 00:27:43.659 for a 00:27:43.659 --> 00:27:43.899 husband. 00:27:45.579 --> 00:27:46.059 Someone 00:27:46.059 --> 00:27:46.699 who's going 00:27:46.699 --> 00:27:47.179 to love 00:27:47.179 --> 00:27:47.899 Jesus more 00:27:47.899 --> 00:27:48.319 than you. 00:27:49.239 --> 00:27:49.739 That's who 00:27:49.739 --> 00:27:50.059 you're looking 00:27:50.059 --> 00:27:50.359 for. 00:27:52.159 --> 00:27:52.639 He's 00:27:52.639 --> 00:27:52.899 loving 00:27:52.899 --> 00:27:53.539 Jesus more 00:27:53.539 --> 00:27:53.859 than you. 00:27:53.919 --> 00:27:54.240 He will 00:27:54.240 --> 00:27:54.879 love you 00:27:54.879 --> 00:27:55.299 well. 00:27:58.179 --> 00:27:58.659 Well, 00:27:58.700 --> 00:27:58.839 we've 00:27:58.839 --> 00:27:59.240 taken a lot 00:27:59.240 --> 00:27:59.579 of time 00:27:59.579 --> 00:27:59.859 on this 00:27:59.859 --> 00:28:00.339 first one. 00:28:00.440 --> 00:28:00.659 Let's 00:28:00.659 --> 00:28:01.200 now move 00:28:01.200 --> 00:28:01.559 to point 00:28:01.559 --> 00:28:01.919 three. 00:28:02.839 --> 00:28:03.279 Husbands, 00:28:03.440 --> 00:28:04.039 love your 00:28:04.039 --> 00:28:05.599 wife as 00:28:05.599 --> 00:28:06.740 Christ loves 00:28:06.740 --> 00:28:07.399 his body. 00:28:07.480 --> 00:28:07.919 This is in 00:28:07.919 --> 00:28:08.619 verses 28 00:28:08.619 --> 00:28:09.179 through 30. 00:28:10.559 --> 00:28:11.019 So, 00:28:11.099 --> 00:28:11.480 Paul has 00:28:11.480 --> 00:28:11.879 been spending 00:28:11.879 --> 00:28:12.240 a lot of 00:28:12.240 --> 00:28:12.639 time in 00:28:12.639 --> 00:28:13.740 comparing a 00:28:13.740 --> 00:28:14.319 husband's 00:28:14.319 --> 00:28:14.679 love for 00:28:14.679 --> 00:28:15.179 his wife 00:28:15.179 --> 00:28:16.440 to Christ's 00:28:16.440 --> 00:28:16.859 love for 00:28:16.859 --> 00:28:17.720 his bride. 00:28:18.220 --> 00:28:18.619 But in 00:28:18.619 --> 00:28:19.440 verse 28, 00:28:19.559 --> 00:28:19.980 he seems 00:28:19.980 --> 00:28:20.440 to change 00:28:20.440 --> 00:28:21.140 metaphors. 00:28:22.039 --> 00:28:22.420 He moves 00:28:22.420 --> 00:28:23.220 from bride 00:28:23.220 --> 00:28:23.980 talk to 00:28:23.980 --> 00:28:25.259 body 00:28:25.259 --> 00:28:25.759 talk. 00:28:32.519 --> 00:28:33.279 He says 00:28:33.279 --> 00:28:33.759 in verse 00:28:33.759 --> 00:28:34.259 28, 00:28:34.460 --> 00:28:34.740 in the 00:28:34.740 --> 00:28:35.279 same way, 00:28:35.400 --> 00:28:35.720 husbands 00:28:35.720 --> 00:28:36.640 should love 00:28:36.640 --> 00:28:37.480 their wives 00:28:37.480 --> 00:28:38.140 as their 00:28:38.140 --> 00:28:39.319 own bodies. 00:28:40.579 --> 00:28:41.240 It's a 00:28:41.240 --> 00:28:41.700 comparison. 00:28:43.059 --> 00:28:43.740 What I 00:28:43.740 --> 00:28:44.099 love about 00:28:44.099 --> 00:28:44.579 the Apostle 00:28:44.579 --> 00:28:45.039 Paul is 00:28:45.039 --> 00:28:45.460 he's a 00:28:45.460 --> 00:28:45.980 realist. 00:28:46.200 --> 00:28:46.380 And so 00:28:46.380 --> 00:28:46.700 what he's 00:28:46.700 --> 00:28:47.259 doing here 00:28:47.259 --> 00:28:48.000 is he's 00:28:48.000 --> 00:28:48.500 appealing to 00:28:48.500 --> 00:28:49.160 something every 00:28:49.160 --> 00:28:49.740 husband can 00:28:49.740 --> 00:28:50.339 relate to, 00:28:50.759 --> 00:28:51.380 looking out 00:28:51.380 --> 00:28:51.680 for his 00:28:51.680 --> 00:28:52.160 own body. 00:28:54.920 --> 00:28:55.620 Says it in 00:28:55.620 --> 00:28:56.160 verse 29, 00:28:56.279 --> 00:28:56.720 for no one 00:28:56.720 --> 00:28:57.220 ever hated 00:28:57.220 --> 00:28:57.660 his own 00:28:57.660 --> 00:28:58.240 flesh, 00:28:58.539 --> 00:28:59.440 but nourishes 00:28:59.440 --> 00:29:00.039 it and 00:29:00.039 --> 00:29:00.519 cherishes 00:29:00.519 --> 00:29:00.819 it. 00:29:02.579 --> 00:29:02.799 Okay, 00:29:02.799 --> 00:29:03.059 just a 00:29:03.059 --> 00:29:03.480 quick note. 00:29:04.779 --> 00:29:05.160 In verse 00:29:05.160 --> 00:29:05.620 28, 00:29:05.759 --> 00:29:06.440 he refers to 00:29:06.440 --> 00:29:07.319 the husband's 00:29:07.319 --> 00:29:07.900 body, 00:29:08.480 --> 00:29:08.920 and then in 00:29:08.920 --> 00:29:09.579 verse 29, 00:29:09.700 --> 00:29:10.359 he refers to 00:29:10.359 --> 00:29:11.180 the husband's 00:29:11.180 --> 00:29:11.660 flesh. 00:29:12.440 --> 00:29:12.940 He's using 00:29:12.940 --> 00:29:13.779 them synonymously, 00:29:14.279 --> 00:29:14.799 and there's a 00:29:14.799 --> 00:29:15.380 reason for that. 00:29:15.539 --> 00:29:15.839 It's going to 00:29:15.839 --> 00:29:16.420 come out later. 00:29:16.420 --> 00:29:17.620 So hold on 00:29:17.620 --> 00:29:17.860 to that 00:29:17.860 --> 00:29:18.160 thought. 00:29:19.480 --> 00:29:19.840 But what 00:29:19.840 --> 00:29:20.200 Paul is 00:29:20.200 --> 00:29:20.539 saying here 00:29:20.539 --> 00:29:21.060 is as you 00:29:21.060 --> 00:29:21.620 take care of 00:29:21.620 --> 00:29:22.039 your own 00:29:22.039 --> 00:29:22.580 body, 00:29:22.720 --> 00:29:22.960 husband, 00:29:23.220 --> 00:29:23.660 as you 00:29:23.660 --> 00:29:24.200 rest it, 00:29:24.320 --> 00:29:24.960 exercise it, 00:29:25.039 --> 00:29:25.500 protect it, 00:29:25.800 --> 00:29:26.519 as you feed 00:29:26.519 --> 00:29:26.880 it and 00:29:26.880 --> 00:29:27.480 clean it, 00:29:28.380 --> 00:29:28.700 did I 00:29:28.700 --> 00:29:29.259 mention feed 00:29:29.259 --> 00:29:29.440 it? 00:29:32.440 --> 00:29:33.080 Take that 00:29:33.080 --> 00:29:33.460 way of 00:29:33.460 --> 00:29:33.900 thinking and 00:29:33.900 --> 00:29:34.460 apply it to 00:29:34.460 --> 00:29:34.920 how you love 00:29:34.920 --> 00:29:35.340 your wife. 00:29:35.759 --> 00:29:36.560 Just as you 00:29:36.560 --> 00:29:37.740 take care of 00:29:37.740 --> 00:29:38.160 yourself, 00:29:38.900 --> 00:29:39.960 love yourself, 00:29:40.380 --> 00:29:41.080 take care of 00:29:41.080 --> 00:29:41.600 your wife, 00:29:42.000 --> 00:29:42.600 love your 00:29:42.600 --> 00:29:43.060 wife. 00:29:43.059 --> 00:29:44.879 Behind it's 00:29:44.879 --> 00:29:45.259 the golden 00:29:45.259 --> 00:29:45.579 rule, 00:29:45.700 --> 00:29:46.019 love your 00:29:46.019 --> 00:29:46.480 neighbor as 00:29:46.480 --> 00:29:47.000 yourself. 00:29:47.559 --> 00:29:47.960 Brother, 00:29:48.059 --> 00:29:48.440 your closest 00:29:48.440 --> 00:29:48.879 neighbor is 00:29:48.879 --> 00:29:49.399 your wife. 00:29:52.940 --> 00:29:53.460 But you 00:29:53.460 --> 00:29:53.700 know what, 00:29:53.759 --> 00:29:53.899 there's 00:29:53.899 --> 00:29:54.440 something about 00:29:54.440 --> 00:29:54.899 this that 00:29:54.899 --> 00:29:55.379 kind of falls 00:29:55.379 --> 00:29:55.919 a little flat 00:29:55.919 --> 00:29:58.299 because just 00:29:58.299 --> 00:29:58.899 before he's 00:29:58.899 --> 00:29:59.460 talking about 00:29:59.460 --> 00:30:00.039 loving your 00:30:00.039 --> 00:30:00.519 wife like 00:30:00.519 --> 00:30:01.039 Christ loved 00:30:01.039 --> 00:30:01.500 the church, 00:30:01.619 --> 00:30:01.980 it's like 00:30:01.980 --> 00:30:02.720 the selfless 00:30:02.720 --> 00:30:03.339 kind of love 00:30:03.339 --> 00:30:03.799 and now he 00:30:03.799 --> 00:30:04.240 says love 00:30:04.240 --> 00:30:04.599 your wife 00:30:04.599 --> 00:30:04.940 like your 00:30:04.940 --> 00:30:05.259 body, 00:30:05.480 --> 00:30:06.039 it's like 00:30:06.039 --> 00:30:07.799 Paul, 00:30:08.000 --> 00:30:09.079 he kind 00:30:09.079 --> 00:30:09.419 of like went 00:30:09.419 --> 00:30:10.879 from selfless 00:30:10.879 --> 00:30:11.480 to selfish. 00:30:11.480 --> 00:30:12.940 What's going 00:30:12.940 --> 00:30:13.400 on here? 00:30:14.720 --> 00:30:15.299 There's more 00:30:15.299 --> 00:30:16.000 going on here. 00:30:19.160 --> 00:30:19.799 There are a 00:30:19.799 --> 00:30:20.420 couple clues in 00:30:20.420 --> 00:30:21.299 this text to 00:30:21.299 --> 00:30:21.740 help us see 00:30:21.740 --> 00:30:21.920 that. 00:30:22.019 --> 00:30:22.299 The first 00:30:22.299 --> 00:30:22.759 clue is in 00:30:22.759 --> 00:30:23.360 the beginning 00:30:23.360 --> 00:30:24.200 of verse 28, 00:30:24.319 --> 00:30:24.759 that first 00:30:24.759 --> 00:30:26.180 clause phrase 00:30:26.180 --> 00:30:26.779 in the same 00:30:26.779 --> 00:30:27.079 way. 00:30:27.380 --> 00:30:27.920 In the same 00:30:27.920 --> 00:30:28.259 way, 00:30:28.400 --> 00:30:28.680 husbands, 00:30:29.440 --> 00:30:30.019 husbands should 00:30:30.019 --> 00:30:30.440 love their 00:30:30.440 --> 00:30:30.940 wives as 00:30:30.940 --> 00:30:31.240 their own 00:30:31.240 --> 00:30:31.579 bodies. 00:30:31.680 --> 00:30:32.299 That phrase 00:30:32.299 --> 00:30:33.099 in the same 00:30:33.099 --> 00:30:33.680 way at the 00:30:33.680 --> 00:30:34.059 beginning of 00:30:34.059 --> 00:30:34.720 verse 28 is 00:30:34.720 --> 00:30:35.500 actually pointing 00:30:35.500 --> 00:30:36.059 back. 00:30:38.000 --> 00:30:38.620 Pointing back 00:30:38.620 --> 00:30:38.980 to what, 00:30:39.059 --> 00:30:39.519 you ask? 00:30:39.920 --> 00:30:40.140 Well, 00:30:40.180 --> 00:30:40.599 the way that 00:30:40.599 --> 00:30:41.259 Christ loves 00:30:41.259 --> 00:30:41.879 the church. 00:30:42.740 --> 00:30:43.140 But you 00:30:43.140 --> 00:30:43.500 said, 00:30:43.619 --> 00:30:43.900 well, 00:30:44.079 --> 00:30:44.460 in verses 00:30:44.460 --> 00:30:45.140 25 to 00:30:45.140 --> 00:30:45.799 27, 00:30:46.319 --> 00:30:46.980 Christ loves 00:30:46.980 --> 00:30:47.480 his church 00:30:47.480 --> 00:30:48.059 like a 00:30:48.059 --> 00:30:48.440 bride. 00:30:48.500 --> 00:30:48.779 He's not 00:30:48.779 --> 00:30:49.259 talking about 00:30:49.259 --> 00:30:49.700 loving his 00:30:49.700 --> 00:30:50.099 church like 00:30:50.099 --> 00:30:50.640 a body. 00:30:51.519 --> 00:30:51.859 What are 00:30:51.859 --> 00:30:52.119 you talking 00:30:52.119 --> 00:30:52.460 about? 00:30:54.460 --> 00:30:54.980 Look at 00:30:54.980 --> 00:30:55.579 verse 23. 00:30:57.339 --> 00:30:57.579 For the 00:30:57.579 --> 00:30:58.039 husband is 00:30:58.039 --> 00:30:58.339 the head 00:30:58.339 --> 00:30:58.579 of the 00:30:58.579 --> 00:30:58.839 wife, 00:30:58.960 --> 00:30:59.500 even as 00:30:59.500 --> 00:31:01.039 Christ is 00:31:01.039 --> 00:31:01.460 the head 00:31:01.460 --> 00:31:01.839 of the 00:31:01.839 --> 00:31:02.319 church, 00:31:03.359 --> 00:31:04.500 his body. 00:31:06.619 --> 00:31:07.000 And there 00:31:07.000 --> 00:31:07.420 it is. 00:31:09.140 --> 00:31:09.879 Husbands are 00:31:09.879 --> 00:31:10.279 to love 00:31:10.279 --> 00:31:10.899 their wives 00:31:10.899 --> 00:31:11.480 as their 00:31:11.480 --> 00:31:12.079 own bodies 00:31:12.079 --> 00:31:12.899 as Christ 00:31:12.899 --> 00:31:13.660 loves the 00:31:13.660 --> 00:31:14.379 church which 00:31:14.379 --> 00:31:14.960 is his 00:31:14.960 --> 00:31:15.339 body. 00:31:16.220 --> 00:31:16.940 That's what's 00:31:16.940 --> 00:31:17.599 under this 00:31:17.599 --> 00:31:18.119 passage. 00:31:19.000 --> 00:31:19.839 Under verses 00:31:19.839 --> 00:31:20.899 28 and 29. 00:31:21.940 --> 00:31:22.339 Even though 00:31:22.339 --> 00:31:22.879 Paul has been 00:31:22.879 --> 00:31:23.500 talking about 00:31:23.500 --> 00:31:24.039 the church as 00:31:24.039 --> 00:31:24.660 the bride of 00:31:24.660 --> 00:31:24.980 Christ, 00:31:25.299 --> 00:31:25.660 he now 00:31:25.660 --> 00:31:26.799 introduces the 00:31:26.799 --> 00:31:27.519 church as the 00:31:27.519 --> 00:31:28.079 body of 00:31:28.079 --> 00:31:28.680 Christ with 00:31:28.680 --> 00:31:29.220 that phrase 00:31:29.220 --> 00:31:29.839 in the same 00:31:29.839 --> 00:31:30.139 way. 00:31:31.259 --> 00:31:31.899 It's never 00:31:31.899 --> 00:31:32.299 left his 00:31:32.299 --> 00:31:32.680 thoughts. 00:31:35.160 --> 00:31:35.700 So what we 00:31:35.700 --> 00:31:36.399 see here is 00:31:36.399 --> 00:31:38.059 Christ as a 00:31:38.059 --> 00:31:38.460 model. 00:31:38.460 --> 00:31:40.920 He's 00:31:40.920 --> 00:31:42.460 appealing to 00:31:42.460 --> 00:31:43.680 us husbands 00:31:43.680 --> 00:31:44.799 to love our 00:31:44.799 --> 00:31:45.940 brides as 00:31:45.940 --> 00:31:46.920 Christ loved 00:31:46.920 --> 00:31:47.500 his church. 00:31:47.960 --> 00:31:48.319 In this 00:31:48.319 --> 00:31:48.779 case, his 00:31:48.779 --> 00:31:49.079 body. 00:31:50.400 --> 00:31:50.779 In verse 00:31:50.779 --> 00:31:52.279 29, we 00:31:52.279 --> 00:31:52.680 read this, 00:31:52.740 --> 00:31:53.180 for no one 00:31:53.180 --> 00:31:53.920 ever hated 00:31:53.920 --> 00:31:54.500 his own 00:31:54.500 --> 00:31:55.680 flesh, but 00:31:55.680 --> 00:31:56.539 nourishes it 00:31:56.539 --> 00:31:57.380 and cherishes 00:31:57.380 --> 00:31:57.680 it. 00:31:58.620 --> 00:31:59.380 Just as 00:31:59.380 --> 00:32:00.019 Christ does 00:32:00.019 --> 00:32:00.500 the church 00:32:00.500 --> 00:32:00.980 because we 00:32:00.980 --> 00:32:01.460 are members 00:32:01.460 --> 00:32:01.840 of his 00:32:01.840 --> 00:32:02.140 body. 00:32:02.240 --> 00:32:02.579 Do you 00:32:02.579 --> 00:32:02.880 see what 00:32:02.880 --> 00:32:03.240 Paul is 00:32:03.240 --> 00:32:03.660 doing right 00:32:03.660 --> 00:32:03.880 there? 00:32:03.880 --> 00:32:06.220 He is 00:32:06.220 --> 00:32:06.960 exhorting 00:32:06.960 --> 00:32:07.820 husbands to 00:32:07.820 --> 00:32:08.300 love their 00:32:08.300 --> 00:32:09.040 wives as 00:32:09.040 --> 00:32:09.480 their own 00:32:09.480 --> 00:32:10.260 bodies just 00:32:10.260 --> 00:32:11.000 as Christ 00:32:11.000 --> 00:32:12.600 loves his 00:32:12.600 --> 00:32:13.640 body, the 00:32:13.640 --> 00:32:14.100 church. 00:32:16.980 --> 00:32:17.760 And so 00:32:17.760 --> 00:32:18.380 when it 00:32:18.380 --> 00:32:18.960 talks about 00:32:18.960 --> 00:32:19.240 hey, 00:32:20.160 --> 00:32:20.660 husbands, 00:32:21.020 --> 00:32:21.520 nourish and 00:32:21.520 --> 00:32:22.020 cherish your 00:32:22.020 --> 00:32:22.460 wife like 00:32:22.460 --> 00:32:23.340 you do your 00:32:23.340 --> 00:32:23.840 own body, 00:32:24.300 --> 00:32:24.840 just as 00:32:24.840 --> 00:32:25.480 Christ did 00:32:25.480 --> 00:32:26.180 the church. 00:32:26.900 --> 00:32:27.340 What we 00:32:27.340 --> 00:32:27.660 can say 00:32:27.660 --> 00:32:28.020 there is 00:32:28.020 --> 00:32:28.560 Christ 00:32:28.560 --> 00:32:30.000 nourished and 00:32:30.000 --> 00:32:30.540 cherishes 00:32:30.540 --> 00:32:31.660 his body, 00:32:31.800 --> 00:32:32.460 the church. 00:32:32.460 --> 00:32:35.660 So 00:32:35.660 --> 00:32:36.120 husbands, 00:32:36.620 --> 00:32:37.200 nourish your 00:32:37.200 --> 00:32:37.799 wives. 00:32:38.240 --> 00:32:38.740 That word 00:32:38.740 --> 00:32:39.299 nourish is 00:32:39.299 --> 00:32:39.519 going to 00:32:39.519 --> 00:32:39.880 show up 00:32:39.880 --> 00:32:40.460 again just 00:32:40.460 --> 00:32:40.840 around the 00:32:40.840 --> 00:32:41.259 corner in 00:32:41.259 --> 00:32:42.120 Ephesians 6.4. 00:32:42.759 --> 00:32:43.120 It's the 00:32:43.120 --> 00:32:43.539 only other 00:32:43.539 --> 00:32:43.940 place it 00:32:43.940 --> 00:32:44.319 shows up 00:32:44.319 --> 00:32:44.480 in the 00:32:44.480 --> 00:32:44.880 New Testament. 00:32:45.940 --> 00:32:46.140 And in 00:32:46.140 --> 00:32:46.799 that context, 00:32:46.940 --> 00:32:47.519 Paul is 00:32:47.519 --> 00:32:48.740 telling parents 00:32:48.740 --> 00:32:50.220 to do 00:32:50.220 --> 00:32:50.840 this, to 00:32:50.840 --> 00:32:51.840 raise your 00:32:51.840 --> 00:32:53.440 children in 00:32:53.440 --> 00:32:54.220 the discipline, 00:32:54.799 --> 00:32:55.259 nurture, 00:32:56.259 --> 00:32:57.380 and 00:32:57.380 --> 00:32:58.700 instruction of 00:32:58.700 --> 00:32:59.240 the Lord. 00:32:59.660 --> 00:32:59.940 And the 00:32:59.940 --> 00:33:00.600 idea there 00:33:00.600 --> 00:33:01.779 is that we 00:33:01.779 --> 00:33:02.440 nurture our 00:33:02.440 --> 00:33:03.680 children into 00:33:03.680 --> 00:33:04.320 maturity. 00:33:04.600 --> 00:33:05.320 We nurture 00:33:05.320 --> 00:33:06.019 our children 00:33:06.019 --> 00:33:07.240 into adulthood. 00:33:07.799 --> 00:33:08.559 We bring 00:33:08.559 --> 00:33:09.380 them up to 00:33:09.380 --> 00:33:10.279 live out the 00:33:10.279 --> 00:33:10.960 fullness of 00:33:10.960 --> 00:33:11.840 who God has 00:33:11.840 --> 00:33:12.660 made them to 00:33:12.660 --> 00:33:13.039 be. 00:33:13.960 --> 00:33:14.700 That's our 00:33:14.700 --> 00:33:15.240 task as 00:33:15.240 --> 00:33:15.779 parents. 00:33:17.420 --> 00:33:18.480 But when we 00:33:18.480 --> 00:33:19.080 look at it 00:33:19.080 --> 00:33:20.580 here in 00:33:20.580 --> 00:33:21.559 this verse, 00:33:22.259 --> 00:33:22.759 we've got to 00:33:22.759 --> 00:33:24.000 remember Paul's 00:33:24.000 --> 00:33:24.640 not talking to 00:33:24.640 --> 00:33:25.380 parents, he's 00:33:25.380 --> 00:33:25.720 talking to 00:33:25.720 --> 00:33:26.019 husbands. 00:33:26.820 --> 00:33:27.279 And he's 00:33:27.279 --> 00:33:27.680 using the 00:33:27.680 --> 00:33:28.380 framework of 00:33:28.380 --> 00:33:29.140 bodies. 00:33:29.700 --> 00:33:30.220 So here's 00:33:30.220 --> 00:33:30.559 what he's 00:33:30.559 --> 00:33:31.000 getting at. 00:33:31.000 --> 00:33:32.519 It would 00:33:32.519 --> 00:33:33.000 appear that 00:33:33.000 --> 00:33:33.579 Paul wants 00:33:33.579 --> 00:33:34.039 a husband 00:33:34.039 --> 00:33:34.559 to nurture 00:33:34.559 --> 00:33:35.240 their wives 00:33:35.240 --> 00:33:37.039 as they do 00:33:37.039 --> 00:33:37.500 their own 00:33:37.500 --> 00:33:38.259 bodies into 00:33:38.259 --> 00:33:38.839 health. 00:33:41.480 --> 00:33:42.039 Physical, 00:33:42.279 --> 00:33:42.799 emotional, 00:33:43.039 --> 00:33:43.960 spiritual health. 00:33:45.359 --> 00:33:46.099 Think of how 00:33:46.099 --> 00:33:46.880 Jesus nurtures 00:33:46.880 --> 00:33:47.619 his own body. 00:33:48.099 --> 00:33:48.779 The church. 00:33:48.859 --> 00:33:49.440 He provides 00:33:49.440 --> 00:33:50.019 for all of 00:33:50.019 --> 00:33:50.599 our needs. 00:33:51.079 --> 00:33:51.579 He has our 00:33:51.579 --> 00:33:52.240 greatest good 00:33:52.240 --> 00:33:52.700 at heart. 00:33:52.819 --> 00:33:53.220 He wants 00:33:53.220 --> 00:33:54.160 us to thrive 00:33:54.160 --> 00:33:54.900 under his 00:33:54.900 --> 00:33:55.480 headship. 00:33:55.480 --> 00:33:57.480 vitality. 00:33:57.480 --> 00:33:59.240 Think vitality. 00:34:01.799 --> 00:34:02.980 Husbands, you're 00:34:02.980 --> 00:34:03.799 being called 00:34:03.799 --> 00:34:05.099 here to lovingly 00:34:05.099 --> 00:34:06.079 exercise your 00:34:06.079 --> 00:34:07.319 responsibility as 00:34:07.319 --> 00:34:08.740 head so that 00:34:08.740 --> 00:34:09.480 your wives 00:34:09.480 --> 00:34:10.480 thrive. 00:34:13.039 --> 00:34:14.199 We don't 00:34:14.199 --> 00:34:15.219 exercise our 00:34:15.219 --> 00:34:16.320 headship to 00:34:16.320 --> 00:34:17.260 squelch our 00:34:17.260 --> 00:34:17.760 wives. 00:34:18.059 --> 00:34:18.800 That's not the 00:34:18.800 --> 00:34:19.320 picture here. 00:34:20.000 --> 00:34:21.179 We leverage our 00:34:21.179 --> 00:34:22.139 responsibility as 00:34:22.139 --> 00:34:22.519 husbands. 00:34:22.519 --> 00:34:23.759 we love our 00:34:23.759 --> 00:34:25.159 wives so that 00:34:25.159 --> 00:34:26.039 they become 00:34:26.039 --> 00:34:27.019 what God has 00:34:27.019 --> 00:34:27.699 fully called 00:34:27.699 --> 00:34:28.300 them to be. 00:34:30.599 --> 00:34:31.659 We want 00:34:31.659 --> 00:34:32.840 our wives 00:34:32.840 --> 00:34:33.539 to thrive. 00:34:34.559 --> 00:34:34.940 Sisters, 00:34:35.259 --> 00:34:35.900 married sisters, 00:34:36.579 --> 00:34:37.599 are you feeling 00:34:37.599 --> 00:34:38.300 God's love for 00:34:38.300 --> 00:34:38.840 you right now? 00:34:39.920 --> 00:34:40.480 Do you get a 00:34:40.480 --> 00:34:41.280 sense of what 00:34:41.280 --> 00:34:42.259 God wants for 00:34:42.259 --> 00:34:43.139 you in your 00:34:43.139 --> 00:34:43.440 husband? 00:34:44.320 --> 00:34:45.239 He is looking 00:34:45.239 --> 00:34:46.219 out for you. 00:34:46.219 --> 00:34:48.179 not looking to 00:34:48.179 --> 00:34:48.679 put you under 00:34:48.679 --> 00:34:49.099 someone's 00:34:49.099 --> 00:34:49.339 thumb. 00:34:52.799 --> 00:34:53.480 Not only are 00:34:53.480 --> 00:34:54.059 husbands to 00:34:54.059 --> 00:34:54.519 nourish their 00:34:54.519 --> 00:34:55.119 wives, we are 00:34:55.119 --> 00:34:56.139 to cherish our 00:34:56.139 --> 00:34:56.619 wives. 00:34:58.000 --> 00:34:58.879 In that original 00:34:58.879 --> 00:34:59.579 sense of that 00:34:59.579 --> 00:35:00.000 word, it 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:00.739 actually means 00:35:00.739 --> 00:35:03.659 warmth, as 00:35:03.659 --> 00:35:04.379 in tenderness. 00:35:05.739 --> 00:35:06.799 This word also 00:35:06.799 --> 00:35:07.439 shows up in one 00:35:07.439 --> 00:35:08.039 other place in 00:35:08.039 --> 00:35:08.539 the New Testament. 00:35:08.779 --> 00:35:09.239 It's in 1 00:35:09.239 --> 00:35:10.099 Thessalonians 2 00:35:10.099 --> 00:35:10.439 7. 00:35:11.119 --> 00:35:11.859 And Paul starts 00:35:11.859 --> 00:35:12.699 by saying this, 00:35:12.819 --> 00:35:13.539 but we were 00:35:13.539 --> 00:35:14.739 gentle among you 00:35:14.739 --> 00:35:15.839 like a nursing 00:35:15.839 --> 00:35:16.799 mother taking 00:35:16.799 --> 00:35:18.339 care, cherishing 00:35:18.339 --> 00:35:19.319 her own 00:35:19.319 --> 00:35:19.719 children. 00:35:20.859 --> 00:35:21.879 So when we 00:35:21.879 --> 00:35:22.439 hear that word 00:35:22.439 --> 00:35:23.259 cherish, brothers, 00:35:23.539 --> 00:35:24.299 we think 00:35:24.299 --> 00:35:24.799 tenderness. 00:35:25.579 --> 00:35:26.219 We think 00:35:26.219 --> 00:35:26.719 warmth. 00:35:27.719 --> 00:35:28.279 We think 00:35:28.279 --> 00:35:29.179 gentleness. 00:35:30.459 --> 00:35:31.639 We exercise 00:35:31.639 --> 00:35:33.459 our responsibility 00:35:33.459 --> 00:35:34.859 gently, 00:35:36.099 --> 00:35:36.919 tenderly, 00:35:37.339 --> 00:35:39.439 just as 00:35:39.439 --> 00:35:40.399 Christ tenderly 00:35:40.399 --> 00:35:41.079 cares for his 00:35:41.079 --> 00:35:41.619 body, the 00:35:41.619 --> 00:35:41.979 church. 00:35:44.739 --> 00:35:51.319 Christ nourishes 00:35:51.319 --> 00:35:51.979 and cherishes 00:35:51.979 --> 00:35:53.099 us because we 00:35:53.099 --> 00:35:53.899 are so 00:35:53.899 --> 00:35:54.719 intimately 00:35:54.719 --> 00:35:55.879 connected to 00:35:55.879 --> 00:35:57.059 him, he 00:35:57.059 --> 00:35:58.419 thinks of us 00:35:58.419 --> 00:35:59.719 as part of 00:35:59.719 --> 00:36:00.099 him. 00:36:02.379 --> 00:36:03.319 That's how 00:36:03.319 --> 00:36:04.119 much he loves 00:36:04.119 --> 00:36:04.500 us. 00:36:05.119 --> 00:36:05.619 And so what 00:36:05.619 --> 00:36:06.179 we're getting 00:36:06.179 --> 00:36:06.819 told here, 00:36:06.899 --> 00:36:07.359 brothers, is 00:36:07.359 --> 00:36:07.679 this. 00:36:08.199 --> 00:36:09.319 We are so 00:36:09.319 --> 00:36:09.919 intimately 00:36:09.919 --> 00:36:10.799 connected to 00:36:10.799 --> 00:36:11.619 our wives, 00:36:11.779 --> 00:36:12.919 we must think 00:36:12.919 --> 00:36:13.759 of them as 00:36:13.760 --> 00:36:14.760 part of us 00:36:14.760 --> 00:36:15.960 just as the 00:36:15.960 --> 00:36:16.980 church is 00:36:16.980 --> 00:36:17.900 part of 00:36:17.900 --> 00:36:18.500 Christ. 00:36:23.920 --> 00:36:25.020 We are to 00:36:25.020 --> 00:36:26.680 love our 00:36:26.680 --> 00:36:27.680 wives as 00:36:27.680 --> 00:36:29.020 Christ loves 00:36:29.020 --> 00:36:30.900 his body. 00:36:32.500 --> 00:36:33.540 Point four. 00:36:35.920 --> 00:36:36.600 Husbands, 00:36:36.740 --> 00:36:37.080 love your 00:36:37.080 --> 00:36:38.340 wives just 00:36:38.340 --> 00:36:39.640 as Christ 00:36:39.640 --> 00:36:41.400 loves his 00:36:41.400 --> 00:36:42.560 church and 00:36:42.559 --> 00:36:43.500 is one with 00:36:43.500 --> 00:36:44.179 his church. 00:36:45.079 --> 00:36:45.440 In verse 00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:47.659 31, Paul 00:36:47.659 --> 00:36:48.199 quotes 00:36:48.199 --> 00:36:48.679 Genesis 00:36:48.679 --> 00:36:49.420 2.24. 00:36:52.139 --> 00:36:52.920 2.24 00:36:52.920 --> 00:36:53.639 happens, this 00:36:53.639 --> 00:36:53.980 is one of my 00:36:53.980 --> 00:36:54.659 favorite passages 00:36:54.659 --> 00:36:55.139 of scripture. 00:36:56.000 --> 00:36:56.259 Remember 00:36:56.259 --> 00:36:56.460 this? 00:36:58.579 --> 00:36:59.199 Adam is 00:36:59.199 --> 00:36:59.840 naming all of 00:36:59.840 --> 00:37:00.799 the animals, 00:37:01.259 --> 00:37:01.599 he bear, 00:37:01.719 --> 00:37:02.139 she bear, 00:37:02.579 --> 00:37:03.099 he giraffe, 00:37:03.199 --> 00:37:03.799 she giraffe, 00:37:04.519 --> 00:37:05.019 he gorilla, 00:37:05.179 --> 00:37:05.679 she gorilla. 00:37:06.440 --> 00:37:06.699 Remember 00:37:06.699 --> 00:37:06.960 that? 00:37:08.759 --> 00:37:09.380 And there's 00:37:09.380 --> 00:37:09.820 no she 00:37:09.820 --> 00:37:10.139 man. 00:37:10.139 --> 00:37:12.519 he's like, 00:37:12.719 --> 00:37:13.279 he man, 00:37:13.559 --> 00:37:14.119 where's the 00:37:14.119 --> 00:37:14.639 she man? 00:37:15.799 --> 00:37:16.400 He gorilla, 00:37:16.559 --> 00:37:17.099 she gorilla, 00:37:17.579 --> 00:37:19.059 no she 00:37:19.059 --> 00:37:19.559 woman, 00:37:19.839 --> 00:37:20.420 she man, 00:37:20.500 --> 00:37:20.839 there's none 00:37:20.839 --> 00:37:21.299 of that. 00:37:21.779 --> 00:37:22.099 Remember what 00:37:22.099 --> 00:37:22.519 God does? 00:37:24.400 --> 00:37:25.199 Falls asleep 00:37:25.199 --> 00:37:26.759 and he pulls 00:37:26.759 --> 00:37:27.519 out of Adam 00:37:27.519 --> 00:37:28.239 one of his 00:37:28.239 --> 00:37:29.000 ribs and he 00:37:29.000 --> 00:37:30.279 forms Eve 00:37:30.279 --> 00:37:30.940 out of his 00:37:30.940 --> 00:37:31.199 ribs. 00:37:31.299 --> 00:37:31.440 Do you 00:37:31.440 --> 00:37:31.799 remember that? 00:37:32.739 --> 00:37:33.199 And then do you 00:37:33.199 --> 00:37:33.500 remember what 00:37:33.500 --> 00:37:33.980 God does? 00:37:34.659 --> 00:37:35.819 He presents 00:37:35.819 --> 00:37:37.420 her to 00:37:37.420 --> 00:37:39.460 Adam and 00:37:39.460 --> 00:37:40.039 in my 00:37:40.039 --> 00:37:40.579 little 00:37:40.579 --> 00:37:41.220 imagination, 00:37:41.599 --> 00:37:42.039 this is how 00:37:42.039 --> 00:37:42.460 I think it 00:37:42.460 --> 00:37:42.659 went. 00:37:43.260 --> 00:37:43.579 You ready? 00:37:45.519 --> 00:37:46.159 Adam wakes 00:37:46.159 --> 00:37:46.460 up, 00:37:46.780 --> 00:37:47.639 oh man, 00:37:49.639 --> 00:37:50.619 and before 00:37:50.619 --> 00:37:52.360 him is 00:37:52.360 --> 00:37:53.159 something amazing. 00:37:54.220 --> 00:37:55.360 I think he 00:37:55.360 --> 00:37:55.720 would have said 00:37:55.720 --> 00:37:56.280 the equivalent, 00:37:56.740 --> 00:37:57.360 Hebrew equivalent 00:37:57.360 --> 00:37:58.780 of whoa. 00:38:01.240 --> 00:38:01.720 Whoa, 00:38:02.480 --> 00:38:03.340 God you're 00:38:03.340 --> 00:38:03.740 good. 00:38:05.000 --> 00:38:05.519 Whoa, 00:38:05.519 --> 00:38:05.619 whoa, 00:38:05.619 --> 00:38:06.019 whoa, 00:38:06.019 --> 00:38:06.119 whoa, 00:38:06.119 --> 00:38:06.259 whoa. 00:38:06.980 --> 00:38:07.759 And then he 00:38:07.759 --> 00:38:08.119 says, 00:38:08.900 --> 00:38:09.940 she came out 00:38:09.940 --> 00:38:10.920 of man. 00:38:11.759 --> 00:38:12.519 Whoa, 00:38:13.400 --> 00:38:15.159 man, 00:38:16.219 --> 00:38:16.659 whoa, 00:38:16.779 --> 00:38:17.559 man. 00:38:19.679 --> 00:38:20.699 You get 00:38:20.699 --> 00:38:20.880 it? 00:38:23.759 --> 00:38:25.039 It is 00:38:25.039 --> 00:38:26.359 Adam naming 00:38:26.359 --> 00:38:27.299 Eve in 00:38:27.299 --> 00:38:28.500 utter joy. 00:38:29.199 --> 00:38:29.619 He's no 00:38:29.619 --> 00:38:30.519 longer alone. 00:38:31.559 --> 00:38:32.219 He is a helper 00:38:32.219 --> 00:38:32.960 fit for him. 00:38:33.799 --> 00:38:34.339 And God 00:38:34.339 --> 00:38:35.199 provided her. 00:38:36.119 --> 00:38:36.639 for him. 00:38:37.759 --> 00:38:38.279 And so 00:38:38.279 --> 00:38:39.099 Genesis 2 00:38:39.099 --> 00:38:39.559 24 00:38:39.559 --> 00:38:41.019 is the 00:38:41.019 --> 00:38:41.940 summing up 00:38:41.940 --> 00:38:42.699 of what 00:38:42.699 --> 00:38:43.559 God did 00:38:43.559 --> 00:38:44.319 in Genesis 00:38:44.319 --> 00:38:44.880 2. 00:38:45.619 --> 00:38:46.319 It is the 00:38:46.319 --> 00:38:46.799 biblical 00:38:46.799 --> 00:38:47.539 foundation 00:38:47.539 --> 00:38:48.639 for marriage. 00:38:48.859 --> 00:38:49.559 It's shot 00:38:49.559 --> 00:38:50.219 through your 00:38:50.219 --> 00:38:50.679 Bibles. 00:38:51.380 --> 00:38:51.839 It reads, 00:38:51.980 --> 00:38:52.739 therefore a man 00:38:52.739 --> 00:38:53.259 shall leave 00:38:53.259 --> 00:38:53.779 his father 00:38:53.779 --> 00:38:54.239 and mother 00:38:54.239 --> 00:38:54.599 and hold 00:38:54.599 --> 00:38:55.099 fast to 00:38:55.099 --> 00:38:55.559 his wife 00:38:55.559 --> 00:38:56.239 and the 00:38:56.239 --> 00:38:56.759 two shall 00:38:56.759 --> 00:38:57.299 become 00:38:57.299 --> 00:38:58.539 one flesh. 00:38:59.019 --> 00:38:59.380 Paul has 00:38:59.380 --> 00:38:59.880 been talking 00:38:59.880 --> 00:39:01.679 about Christ's 00:39:01.679 --> 00:39:02.079 love for 00:39:02.079 --> 00:39:02.699 his bride 00:39:02.699 --> 00:39:03.839 and Christ's 00:39:03.839 --> 00:39:04.480 love for 00:39:04.480 --> 00:39:05.059 his body 00:39:05.059 --> 00:39:07.179 as a 00:39:07.179 --> 00:39:07.820 motivator 00:39:07.820 --> 00:39:08.519 for husbands 00:39:08.519 --> 00:39:09.039 to love 00:39:09.039 --> 00:39:10.400 their wife 00:39:10.400 --> 00:39:11.480 as their 00:39:11.480 --> 00:39:11.880 bride, 00:39:12.039 --> 00:39:12.860 as their 00:39:12.860 --> 00:39:13.199 wife, 00:39:13.320 --> 00:39:14.079 as their 00:39:14.079 --> 00:39:14.440 body. 00:39:14.440 --> 00:39:16.199 But by 00:39:16.199 --> 00:39:16.679 quoting 00:39:16.679 --> 00:39:17.400 Genesis 2 00:39:17.400 --> 00:39:18.320 24 here, 00:39:19.159 --> 00:39:19.699 Paul is 00:39:19.699 --> 00:39:20.280 bringing it 00:39:20.280 --> 00:39:21.119 all together 00:39:21.119 --> 00:39:21.579 in a 00:39:21.579 --> 00:39:22.480 climax in 00:39:22.480 --> 00:39:23.039 his way 00:39:23.039 --> 00:39:23.679 of thinking. 00:39:25.559 --> 00:39:26.579 He's bringing 00:39:26.579 --> 00:39:27.460 together these 00:39:27.460 --> 00:39:28.059 thoughts of 00:39:28.059 --> 00:39:28.880 both bride 00:39:28.880 --> 00:39:29.780 and body. 00:39:29.780 --> 00:39:32.380 for this 00:39:32.380 --> 00:39:33.340 reason a 00:39:33.340 --> 00:39:34.100 man and 00:39:34.100 --> 00:39:34.860 woman leave 00:39:34.860 --> 00:39:35.740 their father 00:39:35.740 --> 00:39:36.340 and mother 00:39:36.340 --> 00:39:38.420 in order to 00:39:38.420 --> 00:39:39.060 get married 00:39:39.060 --> 00:39:39.640 and become 00:39:39.640 --> 00:39:40.720 one flesh, 00:39:40.940 --> 00:39:41.700 one body. 00:39:42.080 --> 00:39:42.519 So remember 00:39:42.519 --> 00:39:43.660 that 28 to 00:39:43.660 --> 00:39:44.560 29 switch 00:39:44.560 --> 00:39:45.060 from body 00:39:45.060 --> 00:39:45.640 to flesh? 00:39:46.120 --> 00:39:46.740 This is where 00:39:46.740 --> 00:39:47.100 Paul was 00:39:47.100 --> 00:39:47.440 heading with 00:39:47.440 --> 00:39:47.660 that. 00:39:49.440 --> 00:39:50.280 Genesis 2 00:39:50.280 --> 00:39:50.720 24. 00:39:53.280 --> 00:39:53.920 Brothers, 00:39:54.060 --> 00:39:54.340 love your 00:39:54.340 --> 00:39:54.580 wife. 00:39:55.680 --> 00:39:56.200 You are 00:39:56.200 --> 00:39:56.720 one with 00:39:56.720 --> 00:39:57.180 your wife 00:39:57.180 --> 00:39:57.760 just as 00:39:57.760 --> 00:39:59.120 Christ is 00:39:59.119 --> 00:39:59.699 united with 00:39:59.699 --> 00:40:00.299 his bride, 00:40:01.019 --> 00:40:01.539 the church. 00:40:06.559 --> 00:40:07.199 There is 00:40:07.199 --> 00:40:07.599 an awesome 00:40:07.599 --> 00:40:08.239 surprise in 00:40:08.239 --> 00:40:08.779 this passage. 00:40:11.799 --> 00:40:12.339 Would you 00:40:12.339 --> 00:40:12.539 look at 00:40:12.539 --> 00:40:13.099 verse 32? 00:40:14.440 --> 00:40:14.819 He just 00:40:14.819 --> 00:40:15.339 started, 00:40:16.359 --> 00:40:16.579 quoted 00:40:16.579 --> 00:40:17.179 Genesis 2 00:40:17.179 --> 00:40:18.239 24 and 00:40:18.239 --> 00:40:18.480 then he 00:40:18.480 --> 00:40:18.859 says this, 00:40:18.920 --> 00:40:19.819 this is a 00:40:19.819 --> 00:40:20.179 mystery. 00:40:20.859 --> 00:40:21.539 This mystery 00:40:21.539 --> 00:40:22.299 is profound. 00:40:23.259 --> 00:40:23.539 And you're 00:40:23.539 --> 00:40:23.980 left kind of 00:40:23.980 --> 00:40:24.279 saying like, 00:40:24.359 --> 00:40:24.579 huh? 00:40:24.779 --> 00:40:24.960 What? 00:40:25.099 --> 00:40:25.659 What mystery? 00:40:25.759 --> 00:40:25.940 What are you 00:40:25.940 --> 00:40:26.460 talking about? 00:40:27.039 --> 00:40:27.219 Huh? 00:40:28.219 --> 00:40:28.759 What's so 00:40:28.760 --> 00:40:29.360 mysterious about 00:40:29.360 --> 00:40:29.860 Genesis 2 00:40:29.860 --> 00:40:30.240 24? 00:40:31.920 --> 00:40:32.640 It's very 00:40:32.640 --> 00:40:33.060 clear. 00:40:33.300 --> 00:40:33.640 It's very 00:40:33.640 --> 00:40:34.040 compelling. 00:40:34.240 --> 00:40:35.000 A husband 00:40:35.000 --> 00:40:35.500 and his 00:40:35.500 --> 00:40:36.340 bride becoming 00:40:36.340 --> 00:40:37.160 one in 00:40:37.160 --> 00:40:37.500 body? 00:40:37.620 --> 00:40:38.260 That's very 00:40:38.260 --> 00:40:38.700 clear, 00:40:38.820 --> 00:40:39.280 thank you. 00:40:39.720 --> 00:40:40.180 What's so 00:40:40.180 --> 00:40:41.020 mysterious about 00:40:41.020 --> 00:40:41.440 that? 00:40:44.020 --> 00:40:44.500 Well, 00:40:44.540 --> 00:40:44.840 look at the 00:40:44.840 --> 00:40:45.200 rest of 00:40:45.200 --> 00:40:45.720 verse 32. 00:40:45.840 --> 00:40:46.320 This mystery 00:40:46.320 --> 00:40:46.840 is profound 00:40:46.840 --> 00:40:47.460 and I am 00:40:47.460 --> 00:40:47.900 saying that 00:40:47.900 --> 00:40:48.520 it refers to 00:40:48.520 --> 00:40:49.320 Christ and 00:40:49.320 --> 00:40:49.760 the church. 00:40:50.080 --> 00:40:50.560 What are you 00:40:50.560 --> 00:40:51.260 talking about, 00:40:51.340 --> 00:40:51.600 Paul? 00:40:53.320 --> 00:40:54.000 When Paul 00:40:54.000 --> 00:40:54.660 uses the word 00:40:54.660 --> 00:40:55.560 mystery in 00:40:55.560 --> 00:40:55.940 his letters, 00:40:56.080 --> 00:40:56.520 it has to do 00:40:56.520 --> 00:40:56.920 with making 00:40:56.920 --> 00:40:57.920 known something 00:40:57.920 --> 00:40:58.420 that's been 00:40:58.420 --> 00:40:59.519 secret on a 00:40:59.519 --> 00:41:00.599 large scale. 00:41:03.240 --> 00:41:04.300 In Ephesians, 00:41:04.360 --> 00:41:04.639 he's been 00:41:04.639 --> 00:41:05.260 talking about 00:41:05.260 --> 00:41:06.000 in terms of 00:41:06.000 --> 00:41:06.539 Jews and 00:41:06.539 --> 00:41:07.139 Gentiles, 00:41:07.400 --> 00:41:08.800 that God 00:41:08.800 --> 00:41:09.400 had kept 00:41:09.400 --> 00:41:10.000 secret, 00:41:10.119 --> 00:41:10.400 that his 00:41:10.400 --> 00:41:10.900 plan for 00:41:10.900 --> 00:41:11.539 all along 00:41:11.539 --> 00:41:11.900 was to 00:41:11.900 --> 00:41:12.300 create a 00:41:12.300 --> 00:41:12.700 whole new 00:41:12.700 --> 00:41:13.420 people group 00:41:13.420 --> 00:41:14.320 out of 00:41:14.320 --> 00:41:14.900 Jews and 00:41:14.900 --> 00:41:15.659 Gentiles by 00:41:15.659 --> 00:41:16.260 uniting them 00:41:16.260 --> 00:41:16.760 in Christ. 00:41:16.860 --> 00:41:17.200 It was a 00:41:17.200 --> 00:41:18.440 mystery made 00:41:18.440 --> 00:41:18.780 known in 00:41:18.780 --> 00:41:19.240 Christ. 00:41:20.599 --> 00:41:21.220 And in 00:41:21.220 --> 00:41:21.900 Romans 11, 00:41:21.960 --> 00:41:22.420 he talks about 00:41:22.420 --> 00:41:23.139 another mystery, 00:41:24.079 --> 00:41:24.659 the partial 00:41:24.659 --> 00:41:25.519 hardening of 00:41:25.519 --> 00:41:26.440 Israel until 00:41:26.440 --> 00:41:26.960 the fullness 00:41:26.960 --> 00:41:27.780 of Gentiles 00:41:27.780 --> 00:41:28.320 come in. 00:41:29.719 --> 00:41:30.579 The mystery 00:41:30.579 --> 00:41:32.340 is a secret. 00:41:33.860 --> 00:41:34.659 It has to 00:41:34.659 --> 00:41:34.960 do with a 00:41:34.960 --> 00:41:36.019 big sweep 00:41:36.019 --> 00:41:36.840 of salvation 00:41:36.840 --> 00:41:37.659 and God 00:41:37.659 --> 00:41:38.579 bringing stuff 00:41:38.579 --> 00:41:39.980 into clarity 00:41:39.980 --> 00:41:40.820 in Christ. 00:41:42.280 --> 00:41:42.639 And so the 00:41:42.639 --> 00:41:43.380 mystery Paul is 00:41:43.380 --> 00:41:43.880 talking about 00:41:43.880 --> 00:41:44.239 here in 00:41:44.239 --> 00:41:45.219 Ephesians 5.32, 00:41:46.079 --> 00:41:46.480 it's the 00:41:46.480 --> 00:41:46.980 making known 00:41:46.980 --> 00:41:47.519 of another 00:41:47.519 --> 00:41:48.000 kind of a 00:41:48.000 --> 00:41:48.320 secret. 00:41:51.039 --> 00:41:51.840 I've told you, 00:41:51.880 --> 00:41:53.000 Genesis 2.24 00:41:53.000 --> 00:41:53.400 is the 00:41:53.400 --> 00:41:54.119 foundation for 00:41:54.119 --> 00:41:54.460 marriage, 00:41:54.460 --> 00:41:55.420 a lifelong 00:41:55.420 --> 00:41:56.099 exclusive 00:41:56.099 --> 00:41:56.519 covenant 00:41:56.519 --> 00:41:57.059 between one 00:41:57.059 --> 00:41:57.360 man and 00:41:57.360 --> 00:41:57.780 one woman. 00:41:58.679 --> 00:41:58.940 And what 00:41:58.940 --> 00:41:59.500 God does 00:41:59.500 --> 00:41:59.940 throughout the 00:41:59.940 --> 00:42:00.519 Old Testament 00:42:00.519 --> 00:42:01.519 is he takes 00:42:01.519 --> 00:42:03.119 Genesis 2.24 00:42:03.119 --> 00:42:04.420 and uses it 00:42:04.420 --> 00:42:05.179 to describe 00:42:05.179 --> 00:42:06.139 his relationship 00:42:06.139 --> 00:42:06.639 with his 00:42:06.639 --> 00:42:06.980 people. 00:42:08.420 --> 00:42:09.320 He describes 00:42:09.320 --> 00:42:10.199 himself as a 00:42:10.199 --> 00:42:11.039 husband and his 00:42:11.039 --> 00:42:11.760 people as his 00:42:11.760 --> 00:42:12.920 bride all 00:42:12.920 --> 00:42:13.340 throughout the 00:42:13.340 --> 00:42:13.820 Old Testament. 00:42:16.000 --> 00:42:17.199 He's exclusively 00:42:17.199 --> 00:42:17.940 devoted to 00:42:17.940 --> 00:42:19.480 his wife, 00:42:19.800 --> 00:42:20.179 Israel, 00:42:20.420 --> 00:42:21.159 and his wife, 00:42:21.320 --> 00:42:21.539 Israel, 00:42:21.619 --> 00:42:21.960 is to be 00:42:21.960 --> 00:42:23.019 exclusively devoted 00:42:23.019 --> 00:42:23.539 to him. 00:42:24.460 --> 00:42:25.159 We see it in 00:42:25.159 --> 00:42:25.780 passages like 00:42:25.780 --> 00:42:26.840 Jeremiah 2.1 and 00:42:26.840 --> 00:42:27.059 2. 00:42:27.260 --> 00:42:28.740 Jeremiah 31.31 and 00:42:28.740 --> 00:42:29.039 32. 00:42:29.179 --> 00:42:29.920 Isaiah 54. 00:42:30.820 --> 00:42:32.619 Hosea 1-3. 00:42:33.960 --> 00:42:34.679 It's a tragic 00:42:34.679 --> 00:42:35.280 example. 00:42:35.980 --> 00:42:37.220 Israel is a 00:42:37.220 --> 00:42:37.820 whore, 00:42:38.559 --> 00:42:39.659 unfaithful to 00:42:39.659 --> 00:42:40.220 her husband. 00:42:40.220 --> 00:42:42.199 It is a hard 00:42:42.199 --> 00:42:42.800 thing to read. 00:42:43.539 --> 00:42:44.159 If you haven't 00:42:44.159 --> 00:42:45.920 read Ezekiel 16, 00:42:46.300 --> 00:42:47.119 oh, you've got to 00:42:47.119 --> 00:42:48.039 read Ezekiel 16. 00:42:48.960 --> 00:42:50.000 It is a beautiful 00:42:50.000 --> 00:42:51.639 picture of God's 00:42:51.639 --> 00:42:52.759 redemptive love 00:42:52.759 --> 00:42:54.019 for Israel whom 00:42:54.019 --> 00:42:54.859 he makes a 00:42:54.859 --> 00:42:55.319 bride. 00:42:55.659 --> 00:42:56.299 His bride. 00:42:57.719 --> 00:42:58.500 All throughout 00:42:58.500 --> 00:42:59.159 the Old Testament, 00:42:59.319 --> 00:43:00.019 God refers to 00:43:00.019 --> 00:43:00.460 his covenant 00:43:00.460 --> 00:43:01.440 people as his 00:43:01.440 --> 00:43:01.920 bride. 00:43:02.119 --> 00:43:02.960 Which brings us 00:43:02.960 --> 00:43:03.460 back to the 00:43:03.460 --> 00:43:03.879 mystery of 00:43:03.879 --> 00:43:04.779 Ephesians 5.32. 00:43:05.699 --> 00:43:06.179 Here's the 00:43:06.179 --> 00:43:06.579 mystery. 00:43:07.359 --> 00:43:08.059 Made known. 00:43:11.199 --> 00:43:12.400 Christ claims 00:43:12.400 --> 00:43:13.019 to be the 00:43:13.019 --> 00:43:13.739 bridegroom. 00:43:13.739 --> 00:43:14.239 He says, 00:43:16.379 --> 00:43:17.059 I'm him. 00:43:18.420 --> 00:43:19.339 New covenant 00:43:19.340 --> 00:43:21.280 in my blood. 00:43:22.120 --> 00:43:23.059 I am the 00:43:23.059 --> 00:43:24.019 bridegroom now. 00:43:24.860 --> 00:43:25.240 That's the 00:43:25.240 --> 00:43:25.519 mystery. 00:43:26.500 --> 00:43:27.640 The church is 00:43:27.640 --> 00:43:28.400 his new covenant 00:43:28.400 --> 00:43:29.360 bride. 00:43:31.420 --> 00:43:32.720 Jesus is saying 00:43:32.720 --> 00:43:33.940 it's about me. 00:43:36.740 --> 00:43:37.840 The union 00:43:37.840 --> 00:43:38.720 between Christ 00:43:38.720 --> 00:43:39.400 and his body, 00:43:39.500 --> 00:43:40.160 the church, 00:43:41.160 --> 00:43:42.460 is a mystery 00:43:42.460 --> 00:43:43.320 made known. 00:43:43.980 --> 00:43:44.700 Jesus is 00:43:44.700 --> 00:43:45.760 claiming to 00:43:45.760 --> 00:43:46.059 be the 00:43:46.059 --> 00:43:47.100 fulfillment of 00:43:47.100 --> 00:43:48.059 this picture in 00:43:48.059 --> 00:43:48.720 the Old Testament. 00:43:48.719 --> 00:43:49.619 So here's what 00:43:49.619 --> 00:43:50.219 Paul is saying 00:43:50.219 --> 00:43:50.779 about Genesis 00:43:50.779 --> 00:43:51.539 2.24. 00:43:53.199 --> 00:43:54.359 Genesis 2.24 00:43:54.359 --> 00:43:55.459 has always been 00:43:55.459 --> 00:43:56.119 pointing to 00:43:56.119 --> 00:43:56.879 Jesus in the 00:43:56.879 --> 00:43:57.199 church. 00:43:58.319 --> 00:43:59.079 It always 00:43:59.079 --> 00:43:59.559 has been. 00:44:00.319 --> 00:44:01.279 It was always 00:44:01.279 --> 00:44:01.980 aimed at 00:44:01.980 --> 00:44:02.599 Jesus in the 00:44:02.599 --> 00:44:02.899 church. 00:44:03.279 --> 00:44:03.719 It was going 00:44:03.719 --> 00:44:04.399 to be fulfilled 00:44:04.399 --> 00:44:04.719 in him. 00:44:04.839 --> 00:44:05.439 God knew it 00:44:05.439 --> 00:44:05.899 when it was 00:44:05.899 --> 00:44:06.259 penned. 00:44:12.119 --> 00:44:12.739 That's why 00:44:12.739 --> 00:44:13.379 Paul says, 00:44:14.539 --> 00:44:15.739 and I am 00:44:15.739 --> 00:44:16.059 saying, 00:44:16.239 --> 00:44:16.719 he's putting 00:44:16.719 --> 00:44:17.619 his apostolic 00:44:17.619 --> 00:44:18.699 stamp on this. 00:44:18.719 --> 00:44:22.259 when we 00:44:22.259 --> 00:44:22.899 realize that 00:44:22.899 --> 00:44:23.959 Genesis 2.24 00:44:23.959 --> 00:44:24.739 has always 00:44:24.739 --> 00:44:25.259 been pointing 00:44:25.259 --> 00:44:25.879 to Christ, 00:44:25.980 --> 00:44:26.619 we realize a 00:44:26.619 --> 00:44:27.159 couple things. 00:44:27.359 --> 00:44:27.679 First, 00:44:27.819 --> 00:44:28.159 Christ, 00:44:28.419 --> 00:44:28.919 the second 00:44:28.919 --> 00:44:29.339 Adam, 00:44:29.619 --> 00:44:30.379 is reversing 00:44:30.379 --> 00:44:30.980 the failure 00:44:30.980 --> 00:44:31.839 and fallout 00:44:31.839 --> 00:44:32.519 of the first 00:44:32.519 --> 00:44:33.519 Adam's marriage. 00:44:34.980 --> 00:44:35.500 Second, 00:44:35.679 --> 00:44:36.519 when you think 00:44:36.519 --> 00:44:37.939 of Genesis 2.24, 00:44:38.399 --> 00:44:39.099 you need to be 00:44:39.099 --> 00:44:39.799 thinking Christ 00:44:39.799 --> 00:44:40.659 in the church. 00:44:41.000 --> 00:44:41.480 It's pointing 00:44:41.480 --> 00:44:41.980 to him. 00:44:42.579 --> 00:44:43.299 It's a big 00:44:43.299 --> 00:44:43.719 picture, 00:44:43.819 --> 00:44:44.179 isn't it? 00:44:44.179 --> 00:44:44.639 third, 00:44:47.359 --> 00:44:48.079 our marriages 00:44:48.079 --> 00:44:50.000 are living 00:44:50.000 --> 00:44:50.659 examples 00:44:50.659 --> 00:44:52.299 of Christ's 00:44:52.299 --> 00:44:52.839 redemptive 00:44:52.839 --> 00:44:53.299 love for 00:44:53.299 --> 00:44:53.839 his bride. 00:44:55.039 --> 00:44:55.419 Do you know 00:44:55.419 --> 00:44:55.799 about the 00:44:55.799 --> 00:44:56.399 passion play 00:44:56.399 --> 00:44:57.019 that takes 00:44:57.019 --> 00:44:58.179 place in 00:44:58.179 --> 00:44:58.500 Zion? 00:44:58.779 --> 00:44:59.919 It's a huge 00:44:59.919 --> 00:45:00.699 scale event. 00:45:01.419 --> 00:45:01.799 And what the 00:45:01.799 --> 00:45:02.440 passion play 00:45:02.440 --> 00:45:02.899 is, 00:45:02.960 --> 00:45:04.319 is a live 00:45:04.319 --> 00:45:05.719 living out 00:45:05.719 --> 00:45:07.519 of Christ's 00:45:07.519 --> 00:45:08.519 redemptive 00:45:08.519 --> 00:45:09.259 work. 00:45:10.219 --> 00:45:11.019 Brothers and 00:45:11.019 --> 00:45:11.339 sisters, 00:45:11.340 --> 00:45:12.860 your marriages 00:45:12.860 --> 00:45:14.500 are live 00:45:14.500 --> 00:45:15.920 passion plays 00:45:15.920 --> 00:45:17.800 of Christ 00:45:17.800 --> 00:45:18.700 loving 00:45:18.700 --> 00:45:19.720 his bride. 00:45:23.200 --> 00:45:24.000 The key 00:45:24.000 --> 00:45:24.559 to Christian 00:45:24.559 --> 00:45:25.019 marriage 00:45:25.019 --> 00:45:26.320 is Christ. 00:45:27.200 --> 00:45:27.360 Oh, 00:45:27.460 --> 00:45:27.860 I've gone 00:45:27.860 --> 00:45:28.200 long. 00:45:28.480 --> 00:45:28.760 Sorry. 00:45:29.960 --> 00:45:30.500 Husbands, 00:45:31.640 --> 00:45:32.460 let me just 00:45:32.460 --> 00:45:32.980 boil down to 00:45:32.980 --> 00:45:33.260 this. 00:45:33.519 --> 00:45:33.860 Brothers, 00:45:34.740 --> 00:45:36.140 the greatest 00:45:36.140 --> 00:45:36.620 thing that you 00:45:36.620 --> 00:45:37.019 can do for 00:45:37.019 --> 00:45:37.440 your wife 00:45:37.440 --> 00:45:37.980 is love 00:45:37.980 --> 00:45:38.340 Jesus. 00:45:39.500 --> 00:45:39.980 Wives, 00:45:39.980 --> 00:45:41.380 the greatest 00:45:41.380 --> 00:45:41.820 thing that you 00:45:41.820 --> 00:45:42.219 can do for 00:45:42.219 --> 00:45:42.659 your husband 00:45:42.659 --> 00:45:44.440 is love 00:45:44.440 --> 00:45:44.820 Jesus. 00:45:45.960 --> 00:45:46.480 And so when 00:45:46.480 --> 00:45:46.880 you have a 00:45:46.880 --> 00:45:47.380 husband and 00:45:47.380 --> 00:45:48.199 a wife both 00:45:48.199 --> 00:45:48.940 loving Jesus 00:45:48.940 --> 00:45:50.440 with all their 00:45:50.440 --> 00:45:50.860 hearts, 00:45:51.400 --> 00:45:51.760 you know what's 00:45:51.760 --> 00:45:52.240 going to happen? 00:45:54.039 --> 00:45:54.599 You're going to 00:45:54.599 --> 00:45:55.019 have a marriage 00:45:55.019 --> 00:45:55.679 that thrives. 00:45:57.300 --> 00:45:57.619 And you're 00:45:57.619 --> 00:45:57.900 going to have a 00:45:57.900 --> 00:45:59.240 marriage that 00:45:59.240 --> 00:46:00.820 speaks a word 00:46:00.820 --> 00:46:02.000 about Christ 00:46:02.000 --> 00:46:02.780 and his 00:46:02.780 --> 00:46:03.380 church. 00:46:03.380 --> 00:46:03.500 Amen. 00:46:03.500 --> 00:46:03.539 Amen. 00:46:03.539 --> 00:46:03.559 Amen. 00:46:03.559 --> 00:46:03.619 Amen. 00:46:03.619 --> 00:46:03.639 Amen. 00:46:03.639 --> 00:46:03.679 Amen. 00:46:03.679 --> 00:46:03.699 Amen. 00:46:03.699 --> 00:46:03.740 Amen. 00:46:03.740 --> 00:46:04.199 Amen. 00:46:04.199 --> 00:46:05.599 Amen. 00:46:05.599 --> 00:46:05.639 Amen. 00:46:05.639 --> 00:46:05.679 Amen. 00:46:05.679 --> 00:46:05.699 Amen. 00:46:05.699 --> 00:46:06.199 Amen. 00:46:06.199 --> 00:46:06.639 Amen.