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 Genesis chapter 2 verses 18 to 25.

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 The Lord God said,

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 It is not good for man to be alone.

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 I will make a helper suitable for him.

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 Now the Lord God has formed out of the ground

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 all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air.

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 He brought them to the man to see what he would name them

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 and whatever the man called each living creature,

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 that's what its name.

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 That was its name.

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 So the man gave names to all the livestock,

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 the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.

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 But for Adam, no suitable helper was found.

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 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep

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 and while he was sleeping,

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 he took one of the man's ribs

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 and closed up the place with flesh.

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 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib

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 that he had taken out of the man

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 and he brought her to the man.

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 The man said,

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 This is now bones of my bones and flesh of my flesh.

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 She shall be called woman,

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 for she was taken out of man.

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 For this reason,

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 a man will leave his father and mother

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 and be united to his wife

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 and they will become one flesh.

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 The man and his wife were both naked

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 and they felt no shame.

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 Our next reading is in 1 Corinthians 7,

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 verses 1-9.

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 And that's from page 1148.

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 Chapter 7, verses 1-9.

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 Now for the matters you wrote about.

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 It is good for a man not to marry.

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 But since there is so much immorality,

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 each man should have his own wife

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 and each woman her own husband.

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 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife

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 and likewise the wife to her husband.

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 The wife's body does not belong to her alone,

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 but also to her husband.

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 In the same way,

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 the husband's body does not belong to him alone,

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 but also to his wife.

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 Do not deprive each other

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 except by mutual consent and for a time,

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 so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.

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 Then come together again

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 so that Satan will not tempt you

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 because of your lack of self-control.

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 I say this as a concession,

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 not as a command.

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 I wish that all men were as I am,

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 but each man has his own gift from God.

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 One has this gift,

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 another has that.

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 Now to the unmarried and the widows,

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 I say,

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 it is good for them to stay unmarried as I am.

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 But if they cannot control themselves,

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 they should marry,

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 for it is better to marry

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 than to burn with passion.

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 Thank you.

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 Well, it's getting very hot and spicy, isn't it?

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 Reading like that.

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 Well, we need God's help

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 as we look at his word together.

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 So have your pens and your paper at the ready

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 to take notes.

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 Your Bible's open

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 and we'll ask God for his help

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 as we look at this together.

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 Father, there are many things

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 that we take for granted in this world,

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 not least our relationships one to another.

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 And we see that very often

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 our relationships one to another

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 can become distorted

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 and not what they ought to be.

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 And so we come this morning

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 with just a newness

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 wanting to hear again from you

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 your design for marriage

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 and what it's all about.

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 We pray for your help

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 for each one of us

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 to understand clearly

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 for myself as I speak this message.

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 and we ask, Father,

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 that you would pour out

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 your Holy Spirit upon us

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 to help us to apply it

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 and to work it into our lives

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 so that our marriage is everything

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 that it ought to be.

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 And whatever situation

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 that we find ourselves here this morning,

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 whether we are married

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 or whether we are on our own,

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 we pray, Lord,

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 that you would speak to us

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 and show us all

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 the kind of people

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 that we should be.

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 In Jesus' name.

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 Amen.

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 Amen.

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 So, as we've said

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 at the very beginning,

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 this is a series

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 which we're calling Pure.

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 And this morning,

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 we start by looking at

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 God's design for marriage.

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 I don't intend to cover

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 absolutely everything

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 that the Bible says about marriage.

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 We have done other talks

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 from Colossians

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 and also Ephesians.

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 And I'm sure you can look

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 in the website

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 to get talks on that

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 or I can give you notes for it.

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 But here we're going to be looking

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 at 1 Corinthians 7.

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 So, marriage,

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 what's the point?

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 So, you're married then.

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 Oh no, I would never get married.

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 What's the point in that?

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 We much prefer living together.

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 It's far less complicated.

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 Now, 20 years ago,

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 such a conversation

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 would have been very rare.

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 In fact,

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 it would have been even frowned upon.

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 Living in sin

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 was the phrase.

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 But today,

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 as we rapidly move

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 from a conservative

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 and religious culture

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 to a more liberal

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 and irreligious culture,

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 the opposite we find

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 is very true.

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 To talk about getting married

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 is outdated

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 and overrated.

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 Having a partner

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 or a live-in boyfriend

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 or girlfriend

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 is much easier

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 to deal with.

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 After all,

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 you might discover

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 that you're not suited

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 to each other.

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 According to the Iona Institute

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 for Religion and Society,

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 in 1986,

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 there were no figures available

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 for people

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 who were cohabiting.

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 It was so rare.

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 In 2006,

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 the number of cohabiting couples

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 is almost 122,000.

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 You might think

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 that's a small number,

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 but double it

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 because they're a couple

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 and you're almost

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 at a quarter of a million,

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 which is quite a lot

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 for our small population.

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 Marriage

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 no longer seems

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 to be a suitable option.

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 And perhaps the reason

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 for this is

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 marriage breakdown

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 has increased

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 by 10%

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 since 1986,

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 from 40,000

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 to over 200,000.

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 In fact,

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 today,

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 marital breakdown

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 stands at 27%.

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 So marriage

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 no longer seems

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 to be a viable

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 or a stable option.

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 So people say,

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 what's the point

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 of getting married?

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 It seems

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 an unnecessary cost.

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 It's complicated

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 if things don't work out.

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 And to be honest,

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 well,

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 it suits

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 if we don't have

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 any formal ties.

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 It seems like

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 there's not a lot

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 going for marriage

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 and even Scripture

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 sends out a warning

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 to those

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 who do consider marriage.

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 Have a look

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 at 1 Corinthians 7

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 and the middle

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 of verse 28.

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 Do you see it there

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 in verse 28?

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 Halfway down

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 in the verse.

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 But those

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 who marry

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 will face

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 many troubles

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 in this life.

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 And I want

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 to spare you this.

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 And all the married

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 couples are

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 nodding their head.

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 So why

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 bother with marriage?

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 marriage?

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 Why don't we all,

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 as they used to say

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 in ages past,

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 let's all live in sin?

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 Well,

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 I think we've lost

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 our way about marriage

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 and we need to get back

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 to the designer

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 of marriage,

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 the one who created us,

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 the one who loves us

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 and who knows

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 what is best for us.

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 We need to go back

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 to God's design

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 for marriage.

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 marriage.

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 And we ask the question,

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 what marriage is?

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 Look at verse 1

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 of chapter 7.

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 Now for the matters

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 you wrote about,

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 it is good for a man

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 not to marry.

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 1 Corinthians

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 is a letter

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 written to a church

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 in a culture

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 that was up to its eyes

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 in sexual freedom.

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 People did

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 whatever they wanted

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 with whoever

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 they wanted.

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 It was a promiscuous

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 and licentious city

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 where anything goes,

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 except,

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 it seems,

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 marriage.

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 The Christians thought,

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 verse 1,

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 that it was good

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 for a person

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 not to marry.

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 Or if you look

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 at the note

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 in the bottom

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 of your page,

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 there's probably

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 a little A

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 or something

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 at the end

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 of verse 1

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 and in the note

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 at the bottom

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 it says,

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 it is good for a man

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 not to have

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 sexual relations

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 with a woman.

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 In other words,

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 the only way

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 that they were to live

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 in such a sex-crazed society

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 was to live a life

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 of celibacy

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 whether you were

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 single or married.

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 The Christians thought

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 it was actually

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 more spiritual.

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 It was more holy

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 to abstain

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 even if you were married.

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 And in an attempt

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 to be counter-cultural,

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 they went from

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 one extreme

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 to the other.

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 So Paul seems

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 to address this balance.

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 He wants to put

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 things right.

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 So he says

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 in verse 2,

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 but since there is

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 so much immorality,

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 each man should have

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 his own wife

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 and each woman

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 her own husband.

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 In fact,

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 back in chapter 6,

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 just a couple of verses

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 back up,

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 in verse 16,

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 he's already referred

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 to God's good order.

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 He's actually

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 for marriage.

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 It was the people

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 in the church

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 who were saying

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 it wasn't good

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 for people to marry.

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 And Paul's trying

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 to get across

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 the point that,

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 yes,

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 there is a place

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 for marriage.

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 marriage.

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 And in chapter 6,

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 verse 16,

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 there he quotes

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 from Genesis chapter 2,

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 verse 24,

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 where he talks

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 about the two

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 becoming one flesh.

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 So what I want us

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 to do now

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 is to jump back

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 into Genesis chapter 2

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 to get the foundation

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 of which Paul

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 builds his whole argument.

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 So let's go back

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 to Genesis chapter 2

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 and verse 20.

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 Genesis chapter 2

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 and starting in

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 at verse 20.

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 We read there,

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 But for Adam

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 no suitable helper

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 was found.

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 So the Lord

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 caused the man

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 to fall into a deep sleep

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 and while he was sleeping

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 he took one of the man's ribs

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 and closed up the place

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 with flesh.

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 Then the Lord God

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 made a woman

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 from the rib.

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 He had taken out

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 of the man

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 and he brought her

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 to the man

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 and the man said

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 with his roses

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 in hands

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 and his great romance,

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 this is now

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 bone of my bones,

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 flesh of my flesh

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 and she shall be called

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 woe man

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 for she was taken

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 out of man.

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 For this reason

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 a man will leave

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 his father and mother

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 and be united

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 to his wife

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 and they will become

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 one flesh.

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 The man and his wife

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 were both naked

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 and they felt

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 no shame.

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 So marriage

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 is part of God's

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 good design

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 and order for the world.

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 It was one of the things

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 he established

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 at creation.

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 It is a gift

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 to us

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 but it comes

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 with special conditions.

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 We see this

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 in verses 24.

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 It is to be exclusive

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 between a man

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 and a woman

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 and not involving

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 anyone else

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 or any other partners.

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 It is also

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 to be permanent.

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 They are to leave

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 their father and mother.

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 They are not to live in

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 with their father and mother

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 but they are to set up

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 home together

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 and be united

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 together.

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 To be permanent

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 together.

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 And it is to be sexual

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 as they become

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 one flesh.

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 A seal of their

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 commitment

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 to one another.

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 Now while all of this

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 is true

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 it doesn't tell us

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 what the real purpose

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 of marriage is.

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 If you ask people today

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 why they get married

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 you will get a range

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 of answers.

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 You will get something

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 like this

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 because I love him.

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 Because I want to spend

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 the rest of my days

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 with her.

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 So I can have sex.

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 To get legal status

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 and benefit

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 from the tax breaks.

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 Because I am lonely

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 and needed security.

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 There are all the reasons

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 people might give.

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 But none of those

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 is the reason

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 that God gives.

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 Look at chapter 2

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 verse 18.

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 The Lord God said

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 it is not good

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 for the man

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 to be alone.

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 I will make

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 a suitable helper

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 for him.

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 Now when God

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 says that

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 we read it

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 and we think

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 poor Adam

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 he is all alone.

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 He needs someone

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 to satisfy

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 his loneliness.

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 And that is why

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 you get married

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 so that you are

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 not lonely anymore.

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 But that is not

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 what he actually

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 says is it?

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 God does not say

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 I am going to

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 make a suitable

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 companion.

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 No, God says

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 I am going to

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 make a suitable

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 helper.

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 And it is the same

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 in verse 20.

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 In the middle

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 of verse 20

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 but for Adam

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 no suitable

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 helper was found.

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 So God did

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 the rib thing

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 and he got a woman

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 and he presented

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 the woman

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 before the man

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 and there became

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 one flesh.

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 Now the purpose

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 for them coming

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 together

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 the reason why

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 God brought

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 them together

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 we have to go

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 back to Genesis

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 chapter 1

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 verse 27.

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 And there we read

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 in chapter 1

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 verse 27

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 God created man

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 in his own image.

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 In the image

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 of God

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 he created him

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 male and female.

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 He created them.

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 God blessed

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 them and he said

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 to them

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 be fruitful

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 and increase

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 in number

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 fill the earth

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 and subdue it

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 rule over the fish

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 of the sea

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 and the birds

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 of the air

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 and over every

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 living creature

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 that moves

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 on the ground.

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 So the man

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 and the woman

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 were to come

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 together for the

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 purpose of being

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 fruitful

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 that they would

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 increase in number

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 so that they

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 would have kids.

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 But that's

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 not all.

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 Together

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 they are to

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 rule over

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 the world

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 in which

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 they live.

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 They are to

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 rule over it.

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 They are to

00:15:40.659 --> 00:15:41.360
 care for the

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 world in which

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 they live.

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 They are to

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 manage it.

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 Now if Adam

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 was to do this

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 on his own

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 it would be

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 a pretty big

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 task wouldn't

00:15:50.839 --> 00:15:51.079
 it?

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 He couldn't do

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 all that work

00:15:52.899 --> 00:15:53.399
 on his own.

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 He needed a

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 helper.

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 Somebody who

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 would come

00:15:56.879 --> 00:15:57.679
 alongside and

00:15:57.679 --> 00:15:58.459
 help in the

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 work.

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 And so

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 a woman was

00:16:01.480 --> 00:16:02.000
 provided.

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 And to be

00:16:03.419 --> 00:16:03.759
 honest

00:16:03.759 --> 00:16:04.360
 the man and

00:16:04.360 --> 00:16:04.860
 woman they

00:16:04.860 --> 00:16:05.379
 couldn't do

00:16:05.379 --> 00:16:05.860
 it on their

00:16:05.860 --> 00:16:06.360
 own either.

00:16:06.840 --> 00:16:07.360
 They needed

00:16:07.360 --> 00:16:08.019
 a family.

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 So God

00:16:09.240 --> 00:16:09.819
 had said they

00:16:09.819 --> 00:16:10.259
 were to be

00:16:10.259 --> 00:16:10.939
 fruitful and

00:16:10.939 --> 00:16:11.480
 increase.

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 They were to

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 have a family

00:16:13.159 --> 00:16:14.259
 of gardeners

00:16:14.259 --> 00:16:16.139
 to take care

00:16:16.139 --> 00:16:16.819
 of God's

00:16:16.819 --> 00:16:17.639
 good creation.

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 Now of course

00:16:19.439 --> 00:16:19.919
 that doesn't

00:16:19.919 --> 00:16:20.399
 mean that they

00:16:20.399 --> 00:16:21.000
 all headed off

00:16:21.000 --> 00:16:21.679
 to university

00:16:21.679 --> 00:16:22.580
 to become

00:16:22.580 --> 00:16:23.879
 horticulturalists.

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 Gardeners is

00:16:25.539 --> 00:16:26.139
 simply a

00:16:26.139 --> 00:16:26.879
 metaphor for

00:16:26.879 --> 00:16:27.860
 serving God

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 the way that

00:16:28.580 --> 00:16:28.919
 he has

00:16:28.919 --> 00:16:29.399
 planned.

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 Christopher

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 Ash,

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 the author,

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 put it in

00:16:33.120 --> 00:16:33.580
 his book,

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 like this.

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 It's called

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 Married for

00:16:36.039 --> 00:16:36.319
 God.

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 And this is

00:16:36.740 --> 00:16:37.220
 what he says,

00:16:37.259 --> 00:16:38.039
 as we rejoice

00:16:38.039 --> 00:16:38.620
 with the

00:16:38.620 --> 00:16:39.100
 lovers in

00:16:39.100 --> 00:16:39.620
 the garden,

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 we must not

00:16:41.159 --> 00:16:41.840
 forget that

00:16:41.840 --> 00:16:42.620
 there is work

00:16:42.620 --> 00:16:43.240
 to be done.

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 The garden

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 needs gardening.

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 God's world

00:16:47.600 --> 00:16:48.600
 needs careful

00:16:48.600 --> 00:16:49.980
 watch and

00:16:49.980 --> 00:16:51.240
 careful work.

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 You see,

00:16:54.399 --> 00:16:55.460
 God's purpose

00:16:55.460 --> 00:16:56.460
 for marriage

00:16:56.460 --> 00:16:57.960
 is mission.

00:16:58.120 --> 00:16:58.919
 This is God's

00:16:58.919 --> 00:16:59.700
 mission for

00:16:59.700 --> 00:17:00.419
 his people.

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 people.

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 It's not

00:17:02.139 --> 00:17:03.019
 just to

00:17:03.019 --> 00:17:03.419
 meet the

00:17:03.419 --> 00:17:03.879
 need of

00:17:03.879 --> 00:17:04.359
 loneliness.

00:17:05.119 --> 00:17:05.740
 It's not

00:17:05.740 --> 00:17:06.500
 just so

00:17:06.500 --> 00:17:07.039
 people can

00:17:07.039 --> 00:17:07.879
 have sex.

00:17:08.759 --> 00:17:09.319
 It's about

00:17:09.319 --> 00:17:10.119
 serving God's

00:17:10.119 --> 00:17:10.899
 greater plan

00:17:10.899 --> 00:17:11.819
 and purpose.

00:17:13.539 --> 00:17:14.059
 And as we

00:17:14.059 --> 00:17:14.460
 look at the

00:17:14.460 --> 00:17:15.039
 world today,

00:17:15.139 --> 00:17:15.659
 we see that

00:17:15.659 --> 00:17:16.139
 over the

00:17:16.139 --> 00:17:16.639
 centuries,

00:17:16.879 --> 00:17:17.440
 people have

00:17:17.440 --> 00:17:18.099
 been fruitful.

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 The world

00:17:18.639 --> 00:17:19.480
 has been

00:17:19.480 --> 00:17:20.099
 populated.

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 They have

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 obeyed the

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 command.

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 There's now

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 over 10

00:17:22.779 --> 00:17:23.639
 billion people

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 in the

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 world.

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 But rather

00:17:26.500 --> 00:17:27.519
 than gardeners

00:17:27.519 --> 00:17:28.140
 who care

00:17:28.140 --> 00:17:28.480
 for the

00:17:28.480 --> 00:17:28.859
 world,

00:17:29.980 --> 00:17:31.279
 we've become

00:17:31.279 --> 00:17:32.039
 vandals,

00:17:32.120 --> 00:17:32.579
 haven't we?

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 Mankind

00:17:34.339 --> 00:17:35.480
 has wrecked

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 the world

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 in which we

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 live.

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 We don't

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 take care

00:17:37.920 --> 00:17:38.299
 of it.

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 And the

00:17:39.880 --> 00:17:40.339
 world is

00:17:40.339 --> 00:17:40.759
 broken,

00:17:40.900 --> 00:17:41.339
 not just

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 physically,

00:17:42.019 --> 00:17:42.740
 but socially.

00:17:44.019 --> 00:17:44.440
 Marriages

00:17:44.440 --> 00:17:45.140
 break up,

00:17:45.299 --> 00:17:46.019
 families fall

00:17:46.019 --> 00:17:46.460
 apart,

00:17:47.740 --> 00:17:48.339
 children are

00:17:48.339 --> 00:17:48.779
 having to

00:17:48.779 --> 00:17:49.120
 live with

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 people who

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 aren't their

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 parents.

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 And socially

00:17:53.099 --> 00:17:53.740
 things are

00:17:53.740 --> 00:17:54.420
 broken down,

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 and morally

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 and spiritually.

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 And this

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 is the

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 world in

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 which we

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 live.

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 And God

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 has a

00:18:00.120 --> 00:18:01.799
 purpose for

00:18:01.799 --> 00:18:02.500
 the marriage

00:18:02.500 --> 00:18:03.299
 unit in

00:18:03.299 --> 00:18:04.200
 the context

00:18:04.200 --> 00:18:05.420
 of all this

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 mess.

00:18:07.500 --> 00:18:08.220
 To quote

00:18:08.220 --> 00:18:08.779
 again from

00:18:08.779 --> 00:18:09.299
 Christopher

00:18:09.299 --> 00:18:09.799
 Ash,

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 he says,

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 the creator

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 entrusts to

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 married couples

00:18:15.099 --> 00:18:16.579
 the awesome

00:18:16.579 --> 00:18:17.380
 privilege and

00:18:17.380 --> 00:18:18.539
 responsibility of

00:18:18.539 --> 00:18:19.480
 procreating

00:18:19.480 --> 00:18:21.120
 potential gardeners

00:18:21.120 --> 00:18:21.839
 to join his

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 team.

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 In other

00:18:22.680 --> 00:18:22.880
 words,

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 to build a

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 family.

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 They are to

00:18:25.579 --> 00:18:25.940
 work,

00:18:26.059 --> 00:18:26.539
 to teach,

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 to discipline

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 and pray

00:18:27.980 --> 00:18:29.259
 that they

00:18:29.259 --> 00:18:29.920
 will grow

00:18:29.920 --> 00:18:30.539
 up into

00:18:30.539 --> 00:18:31.819
 adult actual

00:18:31.819 --> 00:18:33.120
 gardeners who

00:18:33.120 --> 00:18:33.600
 learn to

00:18:33.600 --> 00:18:34.400
 love God

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 and care

00:18:35.860 --> 00:18:36.480
 for his

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 world.

00:18:38.340 --> 00:18:39.140
 So God's

00:18:39.140 --> 00:18:40.039
 whole design,

00:18:40.180 --> 00:18:40.559
 his whole

00:18:40.559 --> 00:18:41.299
 purpose for

00:18:41.299 --> 00:18:42.880
 marriage is

00:18:42.880 --> 00:18:43.620
 to be like a

00:18:43.620 --> 00:18:44.539
 little unit

00:18:44.539 --> 00:18:46.160
 living under

00:18:46.160 --> 00:18:47.019
 God's rule

00:18:47.019 --> 00:18:49.240
 within the

00:18:49.240 --> 00:18:50.259
 community in

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 which they

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 live,

00:18:51.160 --> 00:18:51.200
 love.

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 Demonstrating

00:18:53.060 --> 00:18:53.480
 to the

00:18:53.480 --> 00:18:54.300
 world and

00:18:54.300 --> 00:18:55.120
 witnessing to

00:18:55.120 --> 00:18:55.519
 the world

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 what it

00:18:56.220 --> 00:18:56.980
 actually looks

00:18:56.980 --> 00:18:57.480
 like to

00:18:57.480 --> 00:18:57.960
 live under

00:18:57.960 --> 00:18:58.820
 God's care

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 and under

00:18:59.220 --> 00:18:59.759
 his rule

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 and to

00:19:00.440 --> 00:19:01.920
 express God's

00:19:01.920 --> 00:19:02.720
 love out

00:19:02.720 --> 00:19:03.200
 through the

00:19:03.200 --> 00:19:04.400
 family to

00:19:04.400 --> 00:19:04.900
 others.

00:19:07.120 --> 00:19:08.300
 So marriage

00:19:08.300 --> 00:19:09.220
 is a witness

00:19:09.220 --> 00:19:09.920
 and a

00:19:09.920 --> 00:19:11.440
 demonstration of

00:19:11.440 --> 00:19:12.060
 how we should

00:19:12.060 --> 00:19:12.940
 live in this

00:19:12.940 --> 00:19:13.240
 world.

00:19:13.360 --> 00:19:14.040
 It's all part

00:19:14.040 --> 00:19:14.540
 of God's

00:19:14.540 --> 00:19:16.000
 mission and

00:19:16.000 --> 00:19:16.720
 it is God's

00:19:16.720 --> 00:19:17.259
 means for

00:19:17.259 --> 00:19:18.400
 bringing change

00:19:18.400 --> 00:19:19.480
 and healing

00:19:19.480 --> 00:19:20.880
 to a broken

00:19:20.880 --> 00:19:21.780
 and a

00:19:21.780 --> 00:19:22.680
 hurting world.

00:19:23.920 --> 00:19:24.740
 So marriage

00:19:24.740 --> 00:19:25.259
 isn't just

00:19:25.259 --> 00:19:26.080
 something that's

00:19:26.080 --> 00:19:26.540
 kind of come

00:19:26.540 --> 00:19:26.900
 up from

00:19:26.900 --> 00:19:27.259
 nowhere.

00:19:28.100 --> 00:19:28.960
 It was God's

00:19:28.960 --> 00:19:29.640
 design from

00:19:29.640 --> 00:19:30.100
 the very

00:19:30.100 --> 00:19:31.519
 beginning to

00:19:31.519 --> 00:19:32.140
 show people

00:19:32.140 --> 00:19:32.740
 what it is

00:19:32.740 --> 00:19:33.280
 to live

00:19:33.280 --> 00:19:34.240
 orderly and

00:19:34.240 --> 00:19:35.740
 correctly in

00:19:35.740 --> 00:19:36.480
 God's world.

00:19:37.759 --> 00:19:38.380
 So that

00:19:38.380 --> 00:19:38.960
 kind of looks

00:19:38.960 --> 00:19:39.440
 at the first

00:19:39.440 --> 00:19:40.160
 thing, a

00:19:40.160 --> 00:19:40.880
 definition if

00:19:40.880 --> 00:19:41.200
 you like,

00:19:41.240 --> 00:19:41.680
 of what

00:19:41.680 --> 00:19:43.220
 marriage is.

00:19:43.920 --> 00:19:44.640
 Which brings

00:19:44.640 --> 00:19:45.220
 us on to,

00:19:45.440 --> 00:19:46.040
 well, why

00:19:46.040 --> 00:19:46.800
 should we

00:19:46.800 --> 00:19:47.220
 marry?

00:19:47.220 --> 00:19:48.240
 Why should

00:19:48.240 --> 00:19:48.740
 we marry?

00:19:49.700 --> 00:19:50.039
 And we

00:19:50.039 --> 00:19:50.420
 need to

00:19:50.420 --> 00:19:51.059
 take all

00:19:51.059 --> 00:19:51.319
 of what

00:19:51.319 --> 00:19:51.819
 we've said

00:19:51.819 --> 00:19:53.259
 so far and

00:19:53.259 --> 00:19:53.920
 bring it with

00:19:53.920 --> 00:19:54.700
 us back to

00:19:54.700 --> 00:19:55.539
 1 Corinthians

00:19:55.539 --> 00:19:56.740
 chapter 7.

00:19:57.079 --> 00:19:57.759
 Because that

00:19:57.759 --> 00:19:58.079
 is the

00:19:58.079 --> 00:19:59.059
 foundation to

00:19:59.059 --> 00:19:59.640
 which Paul

00:19:59.640 --> 00:20:01.120
 builds the

00:20:01.120 --> 00:20:01.579
 rest of

00:20:01.579 --> 00:20:02.299
 what he

00:20:02.299 --> 00:20:03.019
 goes on to

00:20:03.019 --> 00:20:03.319
 say.

00:20:04.460 --> 00:20:05.140
 Now while

00:20:05.140 --> 00:20:05.960
 mission may

00:20:05.960 --> 00:20:06.319
 be the

00:20:06.319 --> 00:20:07.380
 primary reason

00:20:07.380 --> 00:20:08.180
 for marriage,

00:20:08.420 --> 00:20:08.819
 and I want

00:20:08.819 --> 00:20:09.480
 to underline

00:20:09.480 --> 00:20:10.079
 primary,

00:20:10.779 --> 00:20:11.559
 there is also

00:20:11.559 --> 00:20:11.960
 a very

00:20:11.960 --> 00:20:12.640
 practical

00:20:12.640 --> 00:20:13.120
 reason.

00:20:14.160 --> 00:20:14.539
 Look at

00:20:14.539 --> 00:20:15.279
 1 Corinthians

00:20:15.279 --> 00:20:16.900
 chapter 7

00:20:16.900 --> 00:20:17.560
 verses 1

00:20:17.560 --> 00:20:18.040
 and 2.

00:20:18.860 --> 00:20:19.480
 Now he

00:20:19.480 --> 00:20:19.680
 said,

00:20:19.720 --> 00:20:19.960
 for the

00:20:19.960 --> 00:20:20.440
 matters you

00:20:20.440 --> 00:20:21.060
 wrote about,

00:20:22.200 --> 00:20:23.160
 it is good

00:20:23.160 --> 00:20:23.920
 for a man

00:20:23.920 --> 00:20:25.220
 not to

00:20:25.220 --> 00:20:25.519
 marry,

00:20:25.740 --> 00:20:26.460
 but since

00:20:26.460 --> 00:20:27.160
 there is so

00:20:27.160 --> 00:20:28.280
 much immorality,

00:20:29.380 --> 00:20:30.019
 each man

00:20:30.019 --> 00:20:30.500
 should have

00:20:30.500 --> 00:20:31.080
 his own

00:20:31.080 --> 00:20:31.600
 wife,

00:20:32.380 --> 00:20:33.100
 and each

00:20:33.100 --> 00:20:34.180
 woman her

00:20:34.180 --> 00:20:34.560
 own

00:20:34.560 --> 00:20:35.080
 husband.

00:20:36.759 --> 00:20:37.280
 Verse

00:20:37.280 --> 00:20:37.860
 8.

00:20:38.880 --> 00:20:39.500
 Now to

00:20:39.500 --> 00:20:40.400
 the unmarried

00:20:40.400 --> 00:20:40.800
 and the

00:20:40.800 --> 00:20:41.160
 widows,

00:20:41.240 --> 00:20:41.700
 I say,

00:20:41.800 --> 00:20:42.280
 it is good

00:20:42.280 --> 00:20:42.820
 for them to

00:20:42.820 --> 00:20:43.880
 stay unmarried

00:20:43.880 --> 00:20:44.780
 as I

00:20:44.780 --> 00:20:45.100
 am,

00:20:45.220 --> 00:20:45.560
 and we'll

00:20:45.560 --> 00:20:45.940
 be looking

00:20:45.940 --> 00:20:46.260
 at that

00:20:46.260 --> 00:20:47.040
 more next

00:20:47.040 --> 00:20:47.440
 week.

00:20:48.500 --> 00:20:49.200
 But if

00:20:49.200 --> 00:20:49.740
 they cannot

00:20:49.740 --> 00:20:50.260
 control

00:20:50.260 --> 00:20:50.960
 themselves,

00:20:51.640 --> 00:20:52.280
 they should

00:20:52.280 --> 00:20:52.700
 marry,

00:20:53.200 --> 00:20:53.820
 for it is

00:20:53.820 --> 00:20:54.320
 better to

00:20:54.320 --> 00:20:54.880
 marry than

00:20:54.880 --> 00:20:55.440
 to burn

00:20:55.440 --> 00:20:56.760
 with passion.

00:20:59.000 --> 00:20:59.560
 Now Corinth

00:20:59.560 --> 00:21:00.520
 was known

00:21:00.520 --> 00:21:00.960
 for its

00:21:00.960 --> 00:21:01.940
 sexual freedom

00:21:01.940 --> 00:21:02.920
 and its

00:21:02.920 --> 00:21:03.280
 loose

00:21:03.280 --> 00:21:04.020
 lifestyle.

00:21:04.240 --> 00:21:04.640
 In fact,

00:21:04.700 --> 00:21:05.340
 it was so

00:21:05.340 --> 00:21:05.900
 prominent

00:21:05.900 --> 00:21:07.300
 that it

00:21:07.300 --> 00:21:07.780
 had become

00:21:07.780 --> 00:21:08.540
 integrated

00:21:08.540 --> 00:21:09.120
 into the

00:21:09.120 --> 00:21:09.480
 life of

00:21:09.480 --> 00:21:09.980
 the church.

00:21:09.980 --> 00:21:10.740
 So have a

00:21:10.740 --> 00:21:11.260
 look back at

00:21:11.260 --> 00:21:12.000
 chapter 5,

00:21:12.220 --> 00:21:12.780
 verse 1.

00:21:13.880 --> 00:21:16.300
 chapter 5,

00:21:16.380 --> 00:21:16.900
 verse 1.

00:21:17.280 --> 00:21:18.100
 It is actually

00:21:18.100 --> 00:21:19.620
 reported that

00:21:19.620 --> 00:21:20.500
 there is sexual

00:21:20.500 --> 00:21:21.500
 immorality among

00:21:21.500 --> 00:21:23.000
 you, and of a

00:21:23.000 --> 00:21:24.180
 kind that does

00:21:24.180 --> 00:21:25.100
 not even occur

00:21:25.100 --> 00:21:26.100
 even among the

00:21:26.100 --> 00:21:27.680
 pagans, amongst

00:21:27.680 --> 00:21:28.440
 those who aren't

00:21:28.440 --> 00:21:28.880
 Christians.

00:21:29.760 --> 00:21:31.340
 A man has

00:21:31.340 --> 00:21:32.100
 his father's

00:21:32.100 --> 00:21:32.520
 wife.

00:21:33.400 --> 00:21:34.180
 So somebody's

00:21:34.180 --> 00:21:34.640
 run off with

00:21:34.640 --> 00:21:35.400
 his stepmother.

00:21:37.220 --> 00:21:37.840
 And in

00:21:37.840 --> 00:21:38.600
 chapter 6,

00:21:38.680 --> 00:21:39.520
 verse 16.

00:21:42.020 --> 00:21:42.860
 As quick as

00:21:42.860 --> 00:21:43.360
 they were to

00:21:43.360 --> 00:21:43.860
 go off to

00:21:43.859 --> 00:21:44.339
 the prayer

00:21:44.339 --> 00:21:44.859
 meeting on

00:21:44.859 --> 00:21:45.279
 a Wednesday

00:21:45.279 --> 00:21:45.779
 night,

00:21:47.179 --> 00:21:47.699
 they were as

00:21:47.699 --> 00:21:48.299
 quick to run

00:21:48.299 --> 00:21:48.979
 down to visit

00:21:48.979 --> 00:21:49.439
 the local

00:21:49.439 --> 00:21:50.240
 prostitute.

00:21:51.199 --> 00:21:52.199
 Verse 16 of

00:21:52.199 --> 00:21:52.819
 chapter 6.

00:21:52.939 --> 00:21:53.639
 Do you know

00:21:53.639 --> 00:21:54.459
 that he who

00:21:54.459 --> 00:21:55.319
 unites himself

00:21:55.319 --> 00:21:55.699
 with a

00:21:55.699 --> 00:21:56.500
 prostitute is

00:21:56.500 --> 00:21:57.079
 one with her

00:21:57.079 --> 00:21:57.519
 in body?

00:21:58.279 --> 00:21:58.779
 For it is

00:21:58.779 --> 00:21:59.439
 said the two

00:21:59.439 --> 00:22:00.019
 will become

00:22:00.019 --> 00:22:00.939
 one flesh.

00:22:02.219 --> 00:22:03.039
 Verse 18.

00:22:03.419 --> 00:22:04.639
 Flee from

00:22:04.639 --> 00:22:05.779
 sexual immorality.

00:22:07.139 --> 00:22:08.139
 So it was an

00:22:08.139 --> 00:22:09.099
 anything-goes

00:22:09.099 --> 00:22:09.819
 society,

00:22:09.819 --> 00:22:11.339
 immorality, and

00:22:11.339 --> 00:22:12.099
 it was becoming

00:22:12.099 --> 00:22:14.200
 acceptable within

00:22:14.200 --> 00:22:15.200
 church life.

00:22:16.339 --> 00:22:17.159
 And so Paul's

00:22:17.159 --> 00:22:18.619
 pastoral response

00:22:18.619 --> 00:22:20.220
 is so very

00:22:20.220 --> 00:22:20.879
 practical.

00:22:21.259 --> 00:22:21.960
 Verse 2 of

00:22:21.960 --> 00:22:22.679
 chapter 7.

00:22:23.240 --> 00:22:24.379
 Since there is

00:22:24.379 --> 00:22:24.960
 so much

00:22:24.960 --> 00:22:25.720
 immorality,

00:22:26.559 --> 00:22:27.819
 each man should

00:22:27.819 --> 00:22:28.759
 have his own

00:22:28.759 --> 00:22:29.939
 wife, and each

00:22:29.939 --> 00:22:31.259
 woman should have

00:22:31.259 --> 00:22:32.200
 her own husband.

00:22:32.200 --> 00:22:34.319
 So he's saying

00:22:34.319 --> 00:22:34.920
 to them very

00:22:34.920 --> 00:22:35.940
 clearly, there is

00:22:35.940 --> 00:22:36.700
 a place for

00:22:36.700 --> 00:22:37.900
 sexual expression.

00:22:39.160 --> 00:22:40.100
 But it's not

00:22:40.100 --> 00:22:40.680
 down in the

00:22:40.680 --> 00:22:41.500
 local brothel.

00:22:42.140 --> 00:22:42.840
 And it's not

00:22:42.840 --> 00:22:43.220
 with your

00:22:43.220 --> 00:22:43.840
 stepmother.

00:22:44.559 --> 00:22:45.460
 It's to be

00:22:45.460 --> 00:22:46.080
 within the

00:22:46.080 --> 00:22:47.740
 context of

00:22:47.740 --> 00:22:48.279
 marriage.

00:22:50.299 --> 00:22:51.120
 Now, listening

00:22:51.120 --> 00:22:51.900
 here, we may be

00:22:51.900 --> 00:22:52.720
 trying to relate

00:22:52.720 --> 00:22:53.500
 all of this to

00:22:53.500 --> 00:22:54.059
 us, and you

00:22:54.059 --> 00:22:55.240
 might not be

00:22:55.240 --> 00:22:55.940
 particularly

00:22:55.940 --> 00:22:56.799
 attracted to

00:22:56.799 --> 00:22:57.620
 your stepmother

00:22:57.620 --> 00:22:58.480
 or stepfather

00:22:58.480 --> 00:22:59.019
 if you have

00:22:59.019 --> 00:22:59.279
 one.

00:22:59.799 --> 00:23:00.319
 And you

00:23:00.319 --> 00:23:00.779
 might be

00:23:00.779 --> 00:23:01.480
 visiting the

00:23:01.480 --> 00:23:02.259
 local brothel.

00:23:02.980 --> 00:23:03.559
 But we

00:23:03.559 --> 00:23:04.559
 can't deny

00:23:04.559 --> 00:23:05.259
 the sexual

00:23:05.259 --> 00:23:06.240
 temptation that

00:23:06.240 --> 00:23:06.819
 surrounds us

00:23:06.819 --> 00:23:07.420
 every day.

00:23:08.539 --> 00:23:09.440
 Easy access

00:23:09.440 --> 00:23:10.380
 to internet

00:23:10.380 --> 00:23:11.180
 porn in the

00:23:11.180 --> 00:23:11.900
 chat rooms.

00:23:13.059 --> 00:23:13.880
 Films and

00:23:13.880 --> 00:23:14.960
 TV programs.

00:23:15.720 --> 00:23:16.500
 Our culture

00:23:16.500 --> 00:23:17.440
 is continually

00:23:17.440 --> 00:23:18.519
 bombarding us,

00:23:18.599 --> 00:23:19.259
 telling us that

00:23:19.259 --> 00:23:20.140
 sexual freedom

00:23:20.140 --> 00:23:20.819
 is good.

00:23:21.099 --> 00:23:22.120
 It's satisfying

00:23:22.120 --> 00:23:22.599
 and it's

00:23:22.599 --> 00:23:23.640
 fulfilling, and

00:23:23.640 --> 00:23:24.240
 it's okay.

00:23:24.559 --> 00:23:25.400
 Everybody else

00:23:25.400 --> 00:23:26.339
 is at it, so

00:23:26.339 --> 00:23:26.799
 why don't

00:23:26.799 --> 00:23:27.079
 you?

00:23:29.519 --> 00:23:30.160
 And the

00:23:30.160 --> 00:23:30.640
 point is

00:23:30.640 --> 00:23:31.299
 simply this,

00:23:31.299 --> 00:23:31.759
 that it's

00:23:31.759 --> 00:23:32.599
 actually very

00:23:32.599 --> 00:23:34.839
 hard to

00:23:34.839 --> 00:23:35.619
 remain very

00:23:35.619 --> 00:23:37.639
 pure in a

00:23:37.639 --> 00:23:38.559
 sex-crazed

00:23:38.559 --> 00:23:39.119
 world.

00:23:40.399 --> 00:23:41.180
 The sex

00:23:41.180 --> 00:23:41.859
 drive is

00:23:41.859 --> 00:23:42.619
 very real,

00:23:42.740 --> 00:23:43.000
 and when

00:23:43.000 --> 00:23:43.680
 continually

00:23:43.680 --> 00:23:44.599
 aroused by

00:23:44.599 --> 00:23:45.279
 our culture,

00:23:45.619 --> 00:23:45.980
 and when

00:23:45.980 --> 00:23:46.599
 it's driven

00:23:46.599 --> 00:23:47.279
 to the heart

00:23:47.279 --> 00:23:48.319
 through temptation,

00:23:49.319 --> 00:23:50.379
 it is very

00:23:50.379 --> 00:23:51.259
 difficult for

00:23:51.259 --> 00:23:51.659
 us all,

00:23:51.740 --> 00:23:52.379
 whoever we

00:23:52.379 --> 00:23:53.980
 are, to

00:23:53.980 --> 00:23:54.639
 live rightly.

00:23:56.500 --> 00:23:57.339
 So to

00:23:57.339 --> 00:23:58.240
 save and

00:23:58.240 --> 00:23:58.980
 to help the

00:23:58.980 --> 00:23:59.960
 poor Christian

00:23:59.960 --> 00:24:00.460
 who is

00:24:00.460 --> 00:24:01.299
 trying to

00:24:01.299 --> 00:24:01.660
 live a

00:24:01.660 --> 00:24:02.279
 pure life

00:24:02.279 --> 00:24:02.640
 in this

00:24:02.640 --> 00:24:03.680
 mad society,

00:24:03.680 --> 00:24:04.640
 and let's

00:24:04.640 --> 00:24:05.160
 face it,

00:24:05.160 --> 00:24:05.940
 our society

00:24:05.940 --> 00:24:06.360
 is no

00:24:06.360 --> 00:24:07.259
 different today,

00:24:08.220 --> 00:24:08.920
 so to

00:24:08.920 --> 00:24:09.360
 try and

00:24:09.360 --> 00:24:09.819
 help the

00:24:09.819 --> 00:24:10.360
 Christian who

00:24:10.360 --> 00:24:10.940
 is trying to

00:24:10.940 --> 00:24:11.220
 live a

00:24:11.220 --> 00:24:11.880
 pure life,

00:24:12.340 --> 00:24:13.180
 Paul says,

00:24:13.440 --> 00:24:14.940
 get married.

00:24:16.940 --> 00:24:17.660
 Look at

00:24:17.660 --> 00:24:18.360
 verse 9.

00:24:18.359 --> 00:24:20.859
 But if

00:24:20.859 --> 00:24:21.459
 they cannot

00:24:21.459 --> 00:24:22.139
 control

00:24:22.139 --> 00:24:22.740
 themselves,

00:24:22.879 --> 00:24:23.159
 if they

00:24:23.159 --> 00:24:23.740
 can't live

00:24:23.740 --> 00:24:24.279
 properly,

00:24:25.079 --> 00:24:25.719
 they should

00:24:25.719 --> 00:24:26.159
 marry,

00:24:26.479 --> 00:24:27.000
 for it is

00:24:27.000 --> 00:24:27.519
 better to

00:24:27.519 --> 00:24:28.679
 marry than

00:24:28.679 --> 00:24:29.240
 to burn

00:24:29.240 --> 00:24:30.339
 with passion.

00:24:32.000 --> 00:24:32.579
 Now some

00:24:32.579 --> 00:24:33.000
 of you know

00:24:33.000 --> 00:24:34.319
 that Kirstie

00:24:34.319 --> 00:24:34.659
 and I

00:24:34.659 --> 00:24:36.079
 were met

00:24:36.079 --> 00:24:37.859
 and engaged

00:24:37.859 --> 00:24:39.119
 and married

00:24:39.119 --> 00:24:40.339
 within nine

00:24:40.339 --> 00:24:40.819
 months,

00:24:41.359 --> 00:24:42.039
 so it was

00:24:42.039 --> 00:24:42.779
 quite clear

00:24:42.779 --> 00:24:43.379
 that Kirstie

00:24:43.379 --> 00:24:43.879
 was burning

00:24:43.879 --> 00:24:44.500
 with passion

00:24:44.500 --> 00:24:44.899
 and she

00:24:44.899 --> 00:24:45.379
 couldn't keep

00:24:45.379 --> 00:24:45.859
 away from

00:24:45.859 --> 00:24:46.059
 me.

00:24:46.059 --> 00:24:48.299
 But what

00:24:48.299 --> 00:24:48.720
 Paul is

00:24:48.720 --> 00:24:49.480
 saying here

00:24:49.480 --> 00:24:50.220
 in this

00:24:50.220 --> 00:24:50.940
 is,

00:24:51.339 --> 00:24:51.559
 look,

00:24:51.700 --> 00:24:52.139
 don't be

00:24:52.139 --> 00:24:52.720
 trying to

00:24:52.720 --> 00:24:54.379
 force people

00:24:54.379 --> 00:24:55.480
 to remain

00:24:55.480 --> 00:24:56.319
 single.

00:24:57.559 --> 00:24:58.200
 Don't be

00:24:58.200 --> 00:24:58.679
 trying to

00:24:58.679 --> 00:24:59.379
 force people

00:24:59.379 --> 00:25:00.259
 to live a

00:25:00.259 --> 00:25:01.079
 celibate life.

00:25:01.259 --> 00:25:02.059
 It's not the

00:25:02.059 --> 00:25:02.740
 way to deal

00:25:02.740 --> 00:25:03.099
 with it.

00:25:03.359 --> 00:25:03.940
 We'll look at

00:25:03.940 --> 00:25:04.720
 this next week,

00:25:04.799 --> 00:25:05.220
 but he says

00:25:05.220 --> 00:25:06.079
 there is a

00:25:06.079 --> 00:25:06.519
 gift for

00:25:06.519 --> 00:25:06.919
 singleness

00:25:06.919 --> 00:25:07.659
 and there is

00:25:07.659 --> 00:25:08.440
 a gift for

00:25:08.440 --> 00:25:09.200
 getting married.

00:25:11.000 --> 00:25:11.639
 And he is

00:25:11.639 --> 00:25:12.099
 saying in a

00:25:12.099 --> 00:25:12.859
 very practical

00:25:12.859 --> 00:25:13.399
 way,

00:25:14.480 --> 00:25:14.980
 that the

00:25:14.980 --> 00:25:15.500
 sexual

00:25:15.500 --> 00:25:16.079
 passion

00:25:16.079 --> 00:25:16.799
 that burns

00:25:16.799 --> 00:25:17.539
 within us,

00:25:18.180 --> 00:25:18.839
 the only

00:25:18.839 --> 00:25:19.440
 place in

00:25:19.440 --> 00:25:19.779
 which it

00:25:19.779 --> 00:25:20.519
 is cooled

00:25:20.519 --> 00:25:21.839
 is within

00:25:21.839 --> 00:25:22.599
 the context

00:25:22.599 --> 00:25:23.880
 of marriage.

00:25:25.380 --> 00:25:26.000
 And it

00:25:26.000 --> 00:25:26.819
 saves you

00:25:26.819 --> 00:25:27.200
 from a

00:25:27.200 --> 00:25:27.619
 life of

00:25:27.619 --> 00:25:28.460
 brokenness

00:25:28.460 --> 00:25:29.240
 and a

00:25:29.240 --> 00:25:29.640
 life of

00:25:29.640 --> 00:25:30.339
 destruction.

00:25:31.240 --> 00:25:31.799
 And instead

00:25:31.799 --> 00:25:32.680
 what happens

00:25:32.680 --> 00:25:33.200
 within the

00:25:33.200 --> 00:25:34.039
 marriage unit,

00:25:34.160 --> 00:25:34.619
 it becomes

00:25:34.619 --> 00:25:35.579
 the context

00:25:35.579 --> 00:25:36.599
 for bringing

00:25:36.599 --> 00:25:38.259
 help and

00:25:38.259 --> 00:25:39.039
 bringing healing

00:25:39.039 --> 00:25:39.559
 to a

00:25:39.559 --> 00:25:40.059
 sexually

00:25:40.059 --> 00:25:41.619
 disorientated

00:25:41.619 --> 00:25:42.039
 world.

00:25:42.039 --> 00:25:42.200
 world.

00:25:44.200 --> 00:25:45.019
 So he's

00:25:45.019 --> 00:25:45.539
 being very

00:25:45.539 --> 00:25:46.599
 practical about

00:25:46.599 --> 00:25:47.379
 these things.

00:25:47.899 --> 00:25:48.420
 And I want

00:25:48.420 --> 00:25:49.500
 to speak,

00:25:49.879 --> 00:25:50.440
 I suppose,

00:25:50.720 --> 00:25:51.440
 generally but

00:25:51.440 --> 00:25:52.460
 specifically to

00:25:52.460 --> 00:25:53.519
 younger people.

00:25:54.200 --> 00:25:54.920
 Don't be

00:25:54.920 --> 00:25:55.779
 following the

00:25:55.779 --> 00:25:57.079
 ways of the

00:25:57.079 --> 00:25:57.440
 world.

00:25:58.619 --> 00:25:59.420
 Sexual freedom

00:25:59.420 --> 00:26:00.500
 is not good.

00:26:01.779 --> 00:26:02.500
 It will lead

00:26:02.500 --> 00:26:03.379
 to all kinds of

00:26:03.379 --> 00:26:04.299
 difficulties and

00:26:04.299 --> 00:26:05.039
 all kinds of

00:26:05.039 --> 00:26:05.779
 hurts and

00:26:05.779 --> 00:26:06.240
 suffering.

00:26:07.619 --> 00:26:08.559
 We must

00:26:08.559 --> 00:26:09.460
 follow God's

00:26:09.460 --> 00:26:10.000
 good order.

00:26:10.000 --> 00:26:10.619
 He has

00:26:10.619 --> 00:26:11.299
 designed the

00:26:11.299 --> 00:26:11.700
 world the

00:26:11.700 --> 00:26:12.339
 way it is

00:26:12.339 --> 00:26:13.319
 and this

00:26:13.319 --> 00:26:13.619
 is the

00:26:13.619 --> 00:26:14.279
 right way

00:26:14.279 --> 00:26:15.400
 to live.

00:26:16.339 --> 00:26:16.960
 There is a

00:26:16.960 --> 00:26:18.240
 place for

00:26:18.240 --> 00:26:19.200
 sexual passion

00:26:19.200 --> 00:26:20.400
 and that is

00:26:20.400 --> 00:26:21.019
 only within

00:26:21.019 --> 00:26:21.799
 the context

00:26:21.799 --> 00:26:23.079
 of marriage.

00:26:25.099 --> 00:26:25.740
 But I

00:26:25.740 --> 00:26:26.500
 suppose as we

00:26:26.500 --> 00:26:27.160
 look at this,

00:26:27.200 --> 00:26:27.920
 it does raise

00:26:27.920 --> 00:26:28.680
 the question,

00:26:29.599 --> 00:26:30.160
 and we're all

00:26:30.160 --> 00:26:30.839
 probably wanting

00:26:30.839 --> 00:26:31.480
 to ask it,

00:26:31.559 --> 00:26:32.420
 but far too

00:26:32.420 --> 00:26:33.240
 embarrassed to

00:26:33.240 --> 00:26:33.900
 ask it,

00:26:34.519 --> 00:26:35.380
 does that mean

00:26:35.380 --> 00:26:36.079
 that when I get

00:26:36.079 --> 00:26:37.680
 married that I

00:26:37.680 --> 00:26:38.599
 can have sex

00:26:38.599 --> 00:26:39.519
 whenever I want

00:26:39.519 --> 00:26:39.799
 to?

00:26:40.000 --> 00:26:42.259
 Well, I

00:26:42.259 --> 00:26:43.079
 don't think

00:26:43.079 --> 00:26:43.700
 that's what

00:26:43.700 --> 00:26:44.420
 he's saying.

00:26:45.359 --> 00:26:45.940
 There is a

00:26:45.940 --> 00:26:46.759
 primary reason

00:26:46.759 --> 00:26:47.519
 for marriage

00:26:47.519 --> 00:26:48.480
 and that's

00:26:48.480 --> 00:26:48.920
 mission,

00:26:49.279 --> 00:26:50.019
 God's design

00:26:50.019 --> 00:26:50.539
 and God's

00:26:50.539 --> 00:26:50.819
 order.

00:26:51.299 --> 00:26:51.619
 There's a

00:26:51.619 --> 00:26:52.420
 very practical

00:26:52.420 --> 00:26:53.099
 reason as

00:26:53.099 --> 00:26:53.599
 well as we

00:26:53.599 --> 00:26:54.019
 live in a

00:26:54.019 --> 00:26:55.359
 very sexual

00:26:55.359 --> 00:26:56.279
 immoral world

00:26:56.279 --> 00:26:56.779
 and we have

00:26:56.779 --> 00:26:57.500
 those struggles

00:26:57.500 --> 00:26:58.220
 and there's a

00:26:58.220 --> 00:26:58.759
 way to deal

00:26:58.759 --> 00:26:59.240
 with it,

00:26:59.839 --> 00:27:00.359
 but there's

00:27:00.359 --> 00:27:01.019
 also a way

00:27:01.019 --> 00:27:01.500
 in which we

00:27:01.500 --> 00:27:02.220
 should conduct

00:27:02.220 --> 00:27:02.980
 our marriage.

00:27:03.940 --> 00:27:04.500
 Look at

00:27:04.500 --> 00:27:05.119
 verse 3.

00:27:05.119 --> 00:27:08.619
 The husband

00:27:08.619 --> 00:27:09.939
 should fulfill

00:27:09.939 --> 00:27:10.839
 his marital

00:27:10.839 --> 00:27:12.799
 duty to

00:27:12.799 --> 00:27:13.579
 his wife

00:27:13.579 --> 00:27:15.079
 and likewise

00:27:15.079 --> 00:27:15.879
 the wife

00:27:15.879 --> 00:27:16.699
 to her

00:27:16.699 --> 00:27:17.159
 husband.

00:27:18.319 --> 00:27:18.579
 Now,

00:27:18.639 --> 00:27:19.219
 contrary to

00:27:19.219 --> 00:27:19.719
 what many

00:27:19.719 --> 00:27:20.699
 people think,

00:27:21.379 --> 00:27:21.759
 and I'm

00:27:21.759 --> 00:27:22.359
 talking of

00:27:22.359 --> 00:27:23.319
 people outside

00:27:23.319 --> 00:27:23.659
 the church,

00:27:23.739 --> 00:27:24.219
 perhaps even

00:27:24.219 --> 00:27:24.719
 within the

00:27:24.719 --> 00:27:25.199
 church as

00:27:25.199 --> 00:27:25.399
 well,

00:27:25.719 --> 00:27:26.259
 God is

00:27:26.259 --> 00:27:27.139
 actually for

00:27:27.139 --> 00:27:27.579
 sex.

00:27:27.679 --> 00:27:28.019
 He's not

00:27:28.019 --> 00:27:28.699
 against it.

00:27:28.799 --> 00:27:29.339
 It's not a

00:27:29.339 --> 00:27:30.000
 naughty thing

00:27:30.000 --> 00:27:30.559
 or a bad

00:27:30.559 --> 00:27:30.879
 thing.

00:27:31.259 --> 00:27:31.899
 It's a good

00:27:31.899 --> 00:27:32.199
 thing.

00:27:32.200 --> 00:27:33.740
 And if you

00:27:33.740 --> 00:27:34.220
 want to know

00:27:34.220 --> 00:27:34.779
 more about

00:27:34.779 --> 00:27:35.019
 that,

00:27:35.120 --> 00:27:35.640
 have a read

00:27:35.640 --> 00:27:36.400
 of Proverbs

00:27:36.400 --> 00:27:37.279
 chapter 5

00:27:37.279 --> 00:27:37.759
 or read

00:27:37.759 --> 00:27:38.340
 through Song

00:27:38.340 --> 00:27:38.840
 of Solomon

00:27:38.840 --> 00:27:39.480
 and you

00:27:39.480 --> 00:27:40.059
 will see

00:27:40.059 --> 00:27:40.480
 that it

00:27:40.480 --> 00:27:41.100
 is really

00:27:41.100 --> 00:27:41.819
 celebrated.

00:27:43.080 --> 00:27:44.080
 But again,

00:27:44.299 --> 00:27:45.259
 it is only

00:27:45.259 --> 00:27:46.100
 to be in

00:27:46.100 --> 00:27:46.740
 the context

00:27:46.740 --> 00:27:47.600
 of marriage.

00:27:48.559 --> 00:27:49.360
 And spouses,

00:27:49.600 --> 00:27:50.140
 and here I

00:27:50.140 --> 00:27:51.100
 speak particularly

00:27:51.100 --> 00:27:51.900
 to spouses,

00:27:52.900 --> 00:27:53.559
 we have

00:27:53.559 --> 00:27:54.440
 responsibilities

00:27:54.440 --> 00:27:55.319
 to each

00:27:55.319 --> 00:27:55.660
 other,

00:27:56.480 --> 00:27:56.880
 as he

00:27:56.880 --> 00:27:57.680
 explains in

00:27:57.680 --> 00:27:58.299
 verse 4.

00:27:58.400 --> 00:27:58.759
 Have a look

00:27:58.759 --> 00:27:59.460
 at verse 4.

00:28:00.779 --> 00:28:01.779
 The wife

00:28:01.779 --> 00:28:02.420
 this body

00:28:02.420 --> 00:28:03.940
 does not

00:28:03.940 --> 00:28:04.960
 belong to

00:28:04.960 --> 00:28:05.940
 her alone,

00:28:06.899 --> 00:28:08.039
 but also

00:28:08.039 --> 00:28:08.660
 to her

00:28:08.660 --> 00:28:09.079
 husband.

00:28:10.139 --> 00:28:10.700
 But he

00:28:10.700 --> 00:28:11.220
 doesn't stop

00:28:11.220 --> 00:28:11.440
 there.

00:28:11.539 --> 00:28:11.839
 There's an

00:28:11.839 --> 00:28:12.359
 equality.

00:28:13.399 --> 00:28:13.859
 In the

00:28:13.859 --> 00:28:14.480
 same way,

00:28:14.559 --> 00:28:15.460
 the husband's

00:28:15.460 --> 00:28:16.139
 body does

00:28:16.139 --> 00:28:16.819
 not belong

00:28:16.819 --> 00:28:17.299
 to him

00:28:17.299 --> 00:28:17.700
 alone,

00:28:18.319 --> 00:28:19.200
 but also

00:28:19.200 --> 00:28:20.019
 to his

00:28:20.019 --> 00:28:20.519
 wife.

00:28:23.000 --> 00:28:23.599
 Now,

00:28:23.680 --> 00:28:24.059
 what he's

00:28:24.059 --> 00:28:24.720
 talking about

00:28:24.720 --> 00:28:25.319
 here is,

00:28:25.399 --> 00:28:26.099
 I'm calling

00:28:26.099 --> 00:28:27.480
 mutual

00:28:27.480 --> 00:28:28.379
 submission

00:28:28.379 --> 00:28:30.119
 and service.

00:28:30.119 --> 00:28:31.819
 Now,

00:28:31.859 --> 00:28:32.259
 before you

00:28:32.259 --> 00:28:32.639
 all come

00:28:32.639 --> 00:28:33.159
 down on

00:28:33.159 --> 00:28:33.500
 me like

00:28:33.500 --> 00:28:33.839
 a ton

00:28:33.839 --> 00:28:34.379
 of bricks,

00:28:34.539 --> 00:28:34.819
 let me

00:28:34.819 --> 00:28:35.279
 try to

00:28:35.279 --> 00:28:36.059
 explain and

00:28:36.059 --> 00:28:36.479
 work this

00:28:36.479 --> 00:28:36.959
 one out.

00:28:37.519 --> 00:28:37.839
 Our

00:28:37.839 --> 00:28:38.419
 culture

00:28:38.419 --> 00:28:38.959
 views

00:28:38.959 --> 00:28:39.539
 sexual

00:28:39.539 --> 00:28:40.319
 activity

00:28:40.319 --> 00:28:41.599
 as all

00:28:41.599 --> 00:28:41.879
 about

00:28:41.879 --> 00:28:42.399
 fulfilling

00:28:42.399 --> 00:28:43.779
 my needs

00:28:43.779 --> 00:28:44.399
 and my

00:28:44.399 --> 00:28:44.879
 wants.

00:28:45.079 --> 00:28:45.539
 It's all

00:28:45.539 --> 00:28:46.279
 very me

00:28:46.279 --> 00:28:46.799
 centered.

00:28:47.599 --> 00:28:48.099
 It says

00:28:48.099 --> 00:28:48.679
 get what

00:28:48.679 --> 00:28:49.259
 you can

00:28:49.259 --> 00:28:49.859
 when you

00:28:49.859 --> 00:28:50.219
 can.

00:28:51.179 --> 00:28:51.419
 You

00:28:51.419 --> 00:28:51.899
 treat the

00:28:51.899 --> 00:28:52.239
 person

00:28:52.239 --> 00:28:52.939
 however you

00:28:52.939 --> 00:28:53.679
 like to

00:28:53.679 --> 00:28:54.439
 satisfy your

00:28:54.439 --> 00:28:55.179
 own needs.

00:28:56.359 --> 00:28:57.059
 So the

00:28:57.059 --> 00:28:57.699
 person who

00:28:57.699 --> 00:28:58.079
 you are

00:28:58.079 --> 00:28:58.819
 with is

00:28:58.819 --> 00:28:59.439
 just simply

00:28:59.439 --> 00:29:00.200
 treated as

00:29:00.200 --> 00:29:00.980
 an object,

00:29:01.759 --> 00:29:02.480
 a means of

00:29:02.480 --> 00:29:03.399
 gratification.

00:29:04.599 --> 00:29:05.039
 And what

00:29:05.039 --> 00:29:05.619
 that does

00:29:05.619 --> 00:29:05.980
 is it

00:29:05.980 --> 00:29:06.859
 just degrades

00:29:06.859 --> 00:29:07.359
 people.

00:29:07.539 --> 00:29:08.399
 It destroys

00:29:08.399 --> 00:29:09.399
 who they

00:29:09.399 --> 00:29:09.720
 are.

00:29:10.019 --> 00:29:10.679
 It creates

00:29:10.679 --> 00:29:11.720
 fear and

00:29:11.720 --> 00:29:12.339
 it creates

00:29:12.339 --> 00:29:13.299
 mistrust.

00:29:16.599 --> 00:29:17.259
 That's the

00:29:17.259 --> 00:29:17.700
 way in which

00:29:17.700 --> 00:29:18.200
 the world

00:29:18.200 --> 00:29:18.919
 operates.

00:29:19.240 --> 00:29:19.779
 But that's

00:29:19.779 --> 00:29:20.079
 not the

00:29:20.079 --> 00:29:20.379
 way it

00:29:20.379 --> 00:29:20.700
 has to

00:29:20.700 --> 00:29:21.079
 be with

00:29:21.079 --> 00:29:21.740
 marriage.

00:29:23.299 --> 00:29:23.839
 In

00:29:23.839 --> 00:29:24.419
 marriage,

00:29:24.759 --> 00:29:25.759
 it's about

00:29:25.759 --> 00:29:26.359
 submission.

00:29:26.359 --> 00:29:26.479
 submission.

00:29:28.240 --> 00:29:28.679
 You don't

00:29:28.679 --> 00:29:29.779
 take from

00:29:29.779 --> 00:29:30.179
 the other

00:29:30.179 --> 00:29:30.699
 person.

00:29:31.519 --> 00:29:32.599
 You give

00:29:32.599 --> 00:29:33.319
 to the

00:29:33.319 --> 00:29:33.500
 other

00:29:33.500 --> 00:29:34.000
 person.

00:29:35.119 --> 00:29:35.819
 You don't

00:29:35.819 --> 00:29:37.139
 demand from

00:29:37.139 --> 00:29:37.819
 your wife.

00:29:38.939 --> 00:29:39.759
 You seek

00:29:39.759 --> 00:29:40.399
 their good.

00:29:41.759 --> 00:29:42.619
 You don't

00:29:42.619 --> 00:29:43.740
 force something

00:29:43.740 --> 00:29:44.179
 from your

00:29:44.179 --> 00:29:44.619
 husband.

00:29:45.779 --> 00:29:46.299
 You want

00:29:46.299 --> 00:29:47.000
 their best.

00:29:48.619 --> 00:29:49.479
 Your body,

00:29:49.619 --> 00:29:50.119
 when you get

00:29:50.119 --> 00:29:50.459
 married,

00:29:50.579 --> 00:29:51.000
 when we

00:29:51.000 --> 00:29:51.359
 looked at

00:29:51.359 --> 00:29:51.699
 Genesis,

00:29:51.819 --> 00:29:52.159
 the two

00:29:52.159 --> 00:29:52.819
 become one

00:29:52.819 --> 00:29:53.119
 flesh.

00:29:53.240 --> 00:29:53.500
 When you

00:29:53.500 --> 00:29:54.199
 come together,

00:29:54.579 --> 00:29:55.000
 and as it

00:29:55.000 --> 00:29:55.539
 says here in

00:29:55.539 --> 00:29:56.000
 verse 4,

00:29:56.079 --> 00:29:56.559
 your body

00:29:56.559 --> 00:29:56.980
 doesn't

00:29:56.980 --> 00:29:57.519
 belong to

00:29:57.519 --> 00:29:58.379
 you alone

00:29:58.379 --> 00:29:59.119
 anymore.

00:30:00.240 --> 00:30:01.319
 It belongs

00:30:01.319 --> 00:30:02.740
 also to

00:30:02.740 --> 00:30:03.259
 the other.

00:30:04.220 --> 00:30:04.819
 And that

00:30:04.819 --> 00:30:05.359
 means that

00:30:05.359 --> 00:30:05.759
 it's not

00:30:05.759 --> 00:30:06.500
 about your

00:30:06.500 --> 00:30:08.779
 rights and

00:30:08.779 --> 00:30:09.359
 what you

00:30:09.359 --> 00:30:09.940
 want,

00:30:11.220 --> 00:30:12.139
 but it's

00:30:12.139 --> 00:30:13.240
 about their

00:30:13.240 --> 00:30:15.039
 rights and

00:30:15.039 --> 00:30:15.519
 what they

00:30:15.519 --> 00:30:16.180
 need.

00:30:17.480 --> 00:30:18.220
 So within

00:30:18.220 --> 00:30:18.960
 the context

00:30:18.960 --> 00:30:19.799
 of marriage,

00:30:20.379 --> 00:30:20.980
 you are

00:30:20.980 --> 00:30:21.539
 submitting

00:30:21.539 --> 00:30:23.359
 yourself to

00:30:23.359 --> 00:30:23.799
 the other

00:30:23.799 --> 00:30:24.379
 person.

00:30:25.539 --> 00:30:25.899
 in

00:30:25.899 --> 00:30:26.440
 marriage,

00:30:26.659 --> 00:30:27.279
 you are

00:30:27.279 --> 00:30:28.039
 entrusting

00:30:28.039 --> 00:30:28.700
 yourself,

00:30:28.879 --> 00:30:29.220
 and it

00:30:29.220 --> 00:30:29.559
 is a

00:30:29.559 --> 00:30:29.899
 trust

00:30:29.899 --> 00:30:30.440
 exercise

00:30:30.440 --> 00:30:31.019
 in coming

00:30:31.019 --> 00:30:31.339
 to be

00:30:31.339 --> 00:30:31.720
 married,

00:30:32.359 --> 00:30:32.720
 you are

00:30:32.720 --> 00:30:33.299
 entrusting

00:30:33.299 --> 00:30:33.819
 yourself

00:30:33.819 --> 00:30:34.500
 into the

00:30:34.500 --> 00:30:35.319
 loving care

00:30:35.319 --> 00:30:36.619
 because you

00:30:36.619 --> 00:30:37.960
 know that

00:30:37.960 --> 00:30:38.440
 you are

00:30:38.440 --> 00:30:38.859
 going to

00:30:38.859 --> 00:30:39.599
 be treated

00:30:39.599 --> 00:30:41.159
 sensitively,

00:30:41.599 --> 00:30:42.099
 carefully,

00:30:42.539 --> 00:30:43.559
 and lovingly.

00:30:44.899 --> 00:30:45.359
 So

00:30:45.359 --> 00:30:46.379
 submission is

00:30:46.379 --> 00:30:46.980
 a mutual

00:30:46.980 --> 00:30:47.639
 submission,

00:30:48.000 --> 00:30:48.579
 one to

00:30:48.579 --> 00:30:49.079
 the other.

00:30:50.119 --> 00:30:50.440
 In

00:30:50.440 --> 00:30:50.879
 summary,

00:30:51.079 --> 00:30:51.339
 we could

00:30:51.339 --> 00:30:51.920
 put it like

00:30:51.920 --> 00:30:52.180
 this,

00:30:52.259 --> 00:30:53.000
 that sexual

00:30:53.000 --> 00:30:53.700
 expression,

00:30:53.700 --> 00:30:55.840
 expression,

00:30:55.840 --> 00:30:56.900
 sexual

00:30:56.900 --> 00:30:57.620
 expression

00:30:57.620 --> 00:30:58.420
 within the

00:30:58.420 --> 00:30:58.940
 marriage,

00:31:00.279 --> 00:31:01.039
 should never

00:31:01.039 --> 00:31:02.019
 be demanded,

00:31:03.620 --> 00:31:04.620
 and it

00:31:04.620 --> 00:31:05.140
 should never

00:31:05.140 --> 00:31:06.680
 be withheld.

00:31:08.440 --> 00:31:09.299
 Now that's

00:31:09.299 --> 00:31:09.819
 all he says

00:31:09.819 --> 00:31:10.480
 about that

00:31:10.480 --> 00:31:11.160
 in these

00:31:11.160 --> 00:31:11.519
 verses.

00:31:12.319 --> 00:31:12.940
 It doesn't

00:31:12.940 --> 00:31:13.440
 say how

00:31:13.440 --> 00:31:13.799
 often,

00:31:14.319 --> 00:31:15.100
 how much,

00:31:16.640 --> 00:31:17.140
 and that's

00:31:17.140 --> 00:31:17.539
 for each

00:31:17.539 --> 00:31:18.160
 couple here

00:31:18.160 --> 00:31:18.860
 to work out

00:31:18.860 --> 00:31:19.580
 for themselves,

00:31:19.579 --> 00:31:20.359
 and that

00:31:20.359 --> 00:31:20.679
 will be

00:31:20.679 --> 00:31:21.059
 different

00:31:21.059 --> 00:31:21.599
 for every

00:31:21.599 --> 00:31:21.960
 couple.

00:31:22.339 --> 00:31:22.859
 And they've

00:31:22.859 --> 00:31:23.179
 got to

00:31:23.179 --> 00:31:23.539
 work that

00:31:23.539 --> 00:31:23.960
 out within

00:31:23.960 --> 00:31:24.480
 a loving

00:31:24.480 --> 00:31:25.720
 and caring

00:31:25.720 --> 00:31:26.699
 relationship.

00:31:28.159 --> 00:31:28.599
 But the

00:31:28.599 --> 00:31:28.980
 first thing

00:31:28.980 --> 00:31:29.740
 is mutual

00:31:29.740 --> 00:31:30.379
 submission.

00:31:30.919 --> 00:31:31.460
 Not about

00:31:31.460 --> 00:31:32.139
 your rights,

00:31:32.500 --> 00:31:33.059
 but their

00:31:33.059 --> 00:31:33.519
 rights.

00:31:35.720 --> 00:31:36.319
 But it's

00:31:36.319 --> 00:31:36.720
 not just

00:31:36.720 --> 00:31:37.139
 mutual

00:31:37.139 --> 00:31:37.619
 submission,

00:31:37.779 --> 00:31:38.359
 there's also

00:31:38.359 --> 00:31:38.799
 to be

00:31:38.799 --> 00:31:39.419
 mutual

00:31:39.419 --> 00:31:40.099
 agreement.

00:31:40.899 --> 00:31:41.279
 Look at

00:31:41.279 --> 00:31:41.980
 verse 5.

00:31:41.980 --> 00:31:45.240
 Do not

00:31:45.240 --> 00:31:46.000
 deprive

00:31:46.000 --> 00:31:46.779
 each other

00:31:46.779 --> 00:31:47.900
 except by

00:31:47.900 --> 00:31:48.460
 mutual

00:31:48.460 --> 00:31:49.120
 consent

00:31:49.120 --> 00:31:49.779
 and for

00:31:49.779 --> 00:31:50.380
 a time,

00:31:51.380 --> 00:31:52.019
 so that

00:31:52.019 --> 00:31:52.440
 you may

00:31:52.440 --> 00:31:52.940
 devote

00:31:52.940 --> 00:31:53.579
 yourselves

00:31:53.579 --> 00:31:54.500
 to prayer.

00:31:55.559 --> 00:31:56.519
 Then come

00:31:56.519 --> 00:31:57.420
 together again

00:31:57.420 --> 00:31:57.900
 so that

00:31:57.900 --> 00:31:58.599
 Satan will

00:31:58.599 --> 00:31:59.220
 not tempt

00:31:59.220 --> 00:31:59.740
 you because

00:31:59.740 --> 00:32:00.299
 your lack

00:32:00.299 --> 00:32:01.599
 of self-control.

00:32:02.940 --> 00:32:03.240
 Now,

00:32:03.640 --> 00:32:04.680
 I just

00:32:04.680 --> 00:32:05.319
 find scripture

00:32:05.319 --> 00:32:06.279
 so practical,

00:32:06.500 --> 00:32:06.980
 isn't it?

00:32:08.059 --> 00:32:08.740
 There are

00:32:08.740 --> 00:32:09.660
 times when

00:32:09.660 --> 00:32:10.140
 the married

00:32:10.140 --> 00:32:11.079
 couple need

00:32:11.079 --> 00:32:11.440
 to put

00:32:11.440 --> 00:32:11.920
 everything

00:32:11.920 --> 00:32:12.519
 else to

00:32:12.519 --> 00:32:13.340
 one side

00:32:13.340 --> 00:32:14.480
 and give

00:32:14.480 --> 00:32:15.060
 themselves

00:32:15.060 --> 00:32:15.880
 not to

00:32:15.880 --> 00:32:16.519
 each other

00:32:16.519 --> 00:32:17.960
 but to

00:32:17.960 --> 00:32:18.340
 prayer.

00:32:19.400 --> 00:32:19.880
 And the

00:32:19.880 --> 00:32:20.539
 prayer life

00:32:20.539 --> 00:32:20.820
 of a

00:32:20.820 --> 00:32:21.039
 married

00:32:21.039 --> 00:32:21.380
 couple

00:32:21.380 --> 00:32:22.200
 is crucial

00:32:22.200 --> 00:32:23.480
 and time

00:32:23.480 --> 00:32:23.980
 needs to

00:32:23.980 --> 00:32:24.320
 be given

00:32:24.320 --> 00:32:24.920
 to pray

00:32:24.920 --> 00:32:25.720
 for specific

00:32:25.720 --> 00:32:26.220
 needs,

00:32:26.460 --> 00:32:27.060
 not least

00:32:27.060 --> 00:32:27.420
 for the

00:32:27.420 --> 00:32:27.740
 marriage

00:32:27.740 --> 00:32:28.240
 itself

00:32:28.240 --> 00:32:28.740
 and for

00:32:28.740 --> 00:32:28.920
 the

00:32:28.920 --> 00:32:29.340
 family.

00:32:30.580 --> 00:32:31.400
 And once

00:32:31.400 --> 00:32:31.900
 again,

00:32:32.259 --> 00:32:32.560
 as it

00:32:32.560 --> 00:32:33.800
 was in

00:32:33.800 --> 00:32:34.279
 verse 4,

00:32:34.380 --> 00:32:34.759
 this isn't

00:32:34.759 --> 00:32:35.060
 to be

00:32:35.060 --> 00:32:35.560
 forced

00:32:35.560 --> 00:32:36.480
 or demanded,

00:32:37.259 --> 00:32:38.180
 but it

00:32:38.180 --> 00:32:38.740
 is to be

00:32:38.740 --> 00:32:39.779
 agreed upon.

00:32:39.920 --> 00:32:40.140
 There is

00:32:40.140 --> 00:32:40.440
 to be

00:32:40.440 --> 00:32:40.980
 mutual

00:32:40.980 --> 00:32:41.700
 consent.

00:32:41.920 --> 00:32:44.980
 Now,

00:32:45.019 --> 00:32:45.440
 when I was

00:32:45.440 --> 00:32:46.000
 reading through

00:32:46.000 --> 00:32:46.400
 this,

00:32:46.600 --> 00:32:47.160
 I found

00:32:47.160 --> 00:32:47.400
 it a

00:32:47.400 --> 00:32:47.600
 real

00:32:47.600 --> 00:32:48.420
 challenge.

00:32:49.940 --> 00:32:50.660
 When was

00:32:50.660 --> 00:32:51.200
 the last

00:32:51.200 --> 00:32:51.740
 time,

00:32:51.880 --> 00:32:52.259
 and I

00:32:52.259 --> 00:32:52.860
 speak again

00:32:52.860 --> 00:32:53.420
 to married

00:32:53.420 --> 00:32:53.880
 couples,

00:32:54.700 --> 00:32:55.140
 when was

00:32:55.140 --> 00:32:55.539
 the last

00:32:55.539 --> 00:32:56.200
 time that

00:32:56.200 --> 00:32:56.680
 you took

00:32:56.680 --> 00:32:57.360
 time out

00:32:57.360 --> 00:32:57.960
 to pray

00:32:57.960 --> 00:32:58.500
 together

00:32:58.500 --> 00:32:59.640
 as husband

00:32:59.640 --> 00:33:00.240
 and wife?

00:33:01.900 --> 00:33:02.580
 When did

00:33:02.580 --> 00:33:02.980
 you last

00:33:02.980 --> 00:33:03.440
 do that?

00:33:03.519 --> 00:33:03.759
 Can you

00:33:03.759 --> 00:33:04.220
 remember?

00:33:04.220 --> 00:33:05.220
 I

00:33:05.220 --> 00:33:07.960
 think there's

00:33:07.960 --> 00:33:08.220
 a real

00:33:08.220 --> 00:33:08.640
 imbalance

00:33:08.640 --> 00:33:09.140
 in our

00:33:09.140 --> 00:33:09.620
 lives.

00:33:10.539 --> 00:33:10.819
 People

00:33:10.819 --> 00:33:11.460
 will rush

00:33:11.460 --> 00:33:11.860
 to the

00:33:11.860 --> 00:33:12.420
 counselor

00:33:12.420 --> 00:33:13.279
 because their

00:33:13.279 --> 00:33:13.980
 sex life

00:33:13.980 --> 00:33:14.360
 is in

00:33:14.360 --> 00:33:14.660
 trouble,

00:33:15.460 --> 00:33:16.019
 but you

00:33:16.019 --> 00:33:16.480
 ever hear

00:33:16.480 --> 00:33:16.960
 of people

00:33:16.960 --> 00:33:17.539
 rushing to

00:33:17.539 --> 00:33:18.140
 their pastor

00:33:18.140 --> 00:33:18.480
 or to

00:33:18.480 --> 00:33:18.779
 somebody

00:33:18.779 --> 00:33:19.299
 else because

00:33:19.299 --> 00:33:19.880
 their prayer

00:33:19.880 --> 00:33:20.339
 life is

00:33:20.339 --> 00:33:20.759
 in trouble?

00:33:20.759 --> 00:33:25.160
 there are

00:33:25.160 --> 00:33:26.039
 times when

00:33:26.039 --> 00:33:26.900
 we have

00:33:26.900 --> 00:33:27.579
 to kneel

00:33:27.579 --> 00:33:28.460
 beside the

00:33:28.460 --> 00:33:30.059
 bed instead

00:33:30.059 --> 00:33:30.619
 of jumping

00:33:30.619 --> 00:33:31.279
 into the

00:33:31.279 --> 00:33:31.619
 bed.

00:33:33.279 --> 00:33:33.640
 And I

00:33:33.640 --> 00:33:34.039
 want to

00:33:34.039 --> 00:33:34.859
 encourage us

00:33:34.859 --> 00:33:35.379
 to think

00:33:35.379 --> 00:33:35.879
 about what

00:33:35.879 --> 00:33:36.440
 it is to

00:33:36.440 --> 00:33:37.400
 pray together

00:33:37.400 --> 00:33:38.619
 as couples.

00:33:40.039 --> 00:33:40.759
 You need

00:33:40.759 --> 00:33:41.440
 to plan.

00:33:41.859 --> 00:33:42.460
 I need

00:33:42.460 --> 00:33:43.200
 to plan.

00:33:43.200 --> 00:33:44.620
 to take

00:33:44.620 --> 00:33:45.440
 time out

00:33:45.440 --> 00:33:45.900
 with my

00:33:45.900 --> 00:33:46.220
 wife.

00:33:46.580 --> 00:33:47.180
 To pray

00:33:47.180 --> 00:33:47.740
 together.

00:33:48.980 --> 00:33:49.460
 To pray

00:33:49.460 --> 00:33:49.840
 for your

00:33:49.840 --> 00:33:50.620
 children if

00:33:50.620 --> 00:33:51.059
 you have

00:33:51.059 --> 00:33:51.539
 children.

00:33:51.920 --> 00:33:52.440
 To pray

00:33:52.440 --> 00:33:52.960
 not only

00:33:52.960 --> 00:33:53.360
 that they

00:33:53.360 --> 00:33:53.900
 would have

00:33:53.900 --> 00:33:54.900
 a great

00:33:54.900 --> 00:33:55.620
 career and

00:33:55.620 --> 00:33:55.940
 they'd be

00:33:55.940 --> 00:33:56.740
 very healthy

00:33:56.740 --> 00:33:57.640
 and successful,

00:33:58.539 --> 00:33:59.440
 but ultimately

00:33:59.440 --> 00:33:59.920
 that your

00:33:59.920 --> 00:34:00.640
 children would

00:34:00.640 --> 00:34:01.100
 come to

00:34:01.100 --> 00:34:01.640
 love God

00:34:01.640 --> 00:34:02.200
 and follow

00:34:02.200 --> 00:34:02.660
 God.

00:34:05.240 --> 00:34:06.000
 That they

00:34:06.000 --> 00:34:06.640
 would become

00:34:06.640 --> 00:34:07.580
 people who

00:34:07.580 --> 00:34:08.720
 would example

00:34:08.720 --> 00:34:09.199
 what a

00:34:09.199 --> 00:34:09.699
 marriage is

00:34:09.699 --> 00:34:10.039
 meant to

00:34:10.039 --> 00:34:10.619
 look like.

00:34:10.619 --> 00:34:13.299
 I had

00:34:13.299 --> 00:34:13.960
 parents who

00:34:13.960 --> 00:34:14.460
 prayed for

00:34:14.460 --> 00:34:15.380
 me in

00:34:15.380 --> 00:34:15.920
 that way.

00:34:16.799 --> 00:34:17.359
 Right from

00:34:17.359 --> 00:34:17.679
 the very

00:34:17.679 --> 00:34:18.099
 beginning,

00:34:18.239 --> 00:34:18.619
 if it was

00:34:18.619 --> 00:34:19.279
 God's will,

00:34:19.380 --> 00:34:19.759
 they prayed

00:34:19.759 --> 00:34:20.079
 that I

00:34:20.079 --> 00:34:20.420
 would have

00:34:20.420 --> 00:34:20.880
 a wife.

00:34:22.199 --> 00:34:22.519
 And the

00:34:22.519 --> 00:34:23.000
 first day

00:34:23.000 --> 00:34:23.299
 that I

00:34:23.299 --> 00:34:23.559
 brought

00:34:23.559 --> 00:34:24.039
 Kirstie

00:34:24.039 --> 00:34:24.659
 back home,

00:34:25.119 --> 00:34:25.799
 in a very

00:34:25.799 --> 00:34:26.440
 embarrassing

00:34:26.440 --> 00:34:26.779
 way,

00:34:26.880 --> 00:34:27.239
 my mother

00:34:27.239 --> 00:34:27.440
 said,

00:34:27.539 --> 00:34:27.739
 oh,

00:34:27.819 --> 00:34:28.179
 you're the

00:34:28.179 --> 00:34:28.599
 one we've

00:34:28.599 --> 00:34:29.139
 been praying

00:34:29.139 --> 00:34:29.579
 for.

00:34:30.139 --> 00:34:30.579
 How

00:34:30.579 --> 00:34:31.319
 embarrassing

00:34:31.319 --> 00:34:32.099
 was that?

00:34:33.119 --> 00:34:33.559
 Anyway,

00:34:34.339 --> 00:34:34.759
 thanks,

00:34:34.920 --> 00:34:35.059
 mum.

00:34:36.359 --> 00:34:37.059
 She still

00:34:37.059 --> 00:34:37.599
 stayed with

00:34:37.599 --> 00:34:37.739
 me.

00:34:37.799 --> 00:34:38.059
 It was

00:34:38.059 --> 00:34:38.519
 Kirstie,

00:34:38.599 --> 00:34:39.000
 by the way.

00:34:39.579 --> 00:34:40.039
 Although she

00:34:40.039 --> 00:34:40.360
 called her

00:34:40.360 --> 00:34:40.639
 by the

00:34:40.639 --> 00:34:41.079
 wrong name,

00:34:41.139 --> 00:34:41.440
 she called

00:34:41.440 --> 00:34:41.980
 her Denise

00:34:41.980 --> 00:34:42.599
 instead of

00:34:42.599 --> 00:34:43.059
 Kirstie.

00:34:43.940 --> 00:34:44.559
 I'll tell

00:34:44.559 --> 00:34:44.860
 you about

00:34:44.860 --> 00:34:45.179
 Denise

00:34:45.179 --> 00:34:45.779
 another day.

00:34:49.940 --> 00:34:50.599
 But the

00:34:50.599 --> 00:34:51.300
 point is

00:34:51.300 --> 00:34:52.139
 that marriage

00:34:52.139 --> 00:34:52.920
 is good.

00:34:53.119 --> 00:34:53.719
 Marriage is

00:34:53.719 --> 00:34:54.500
 important.

00:34:55.159 --> 00:34:55.500
 Sorry,

00:34:55.659 --> 00:34:56.279
 prayer is

00:34:56.279 --> 00:34:56.880
 important.

00:34:58.000 --> 00:34:58.420
 And we

00:34:58.420 --> 00:34:59.059
 need to

00:34:59.059 --> 00:34:59.920
 conduct that

00:34:59.920 --> 00:35:01.119
 rightfully and

00:35:01.119 --> 00:35:01.739
 in the proper

00:35:01.739 --> 00:35:02.719
 place within

00:35:02.719 --> 00:35:03.279
 marriage.

00:35:05.219 --> 00:35:05.739
 But,

00:35:06.079 --> 00:35:06.480
 and there's

00:35:06.480 --> 00:35:07.039
 a big but

00:35:07.039 --> 00:35:07.500
 there in

00:35:07.500 --> 00:35:08.239
 verse 5,

00:35:08.239 --> 00:35:09.659
 never

00:35:09.659 --> 00:35:10.859
 use prayer

00:35:10.859 --> 00:35:11.399
 as an

00:35:11.399 --> 00:35:12.119
 excuse

00:35:12.119 --> 00:35:13.000
 for

00:35:13.000 --> 00:35:13.699
 withholding

00:35:13.699 --> 00:35:14.239
 yourself

00:35:14.239 --> 00:35:15.159
 from your

00:35:15.159 --> 00:35:15.699
 spouse.

00:35:17.659 --> 00:35:18.139
 So,

00:35:18.279 --> 00:35:18.579
 none of

00:35:18.579 --> 00:35:18.879
 this,

00:35:19.459 --> 00:35:20.099
 sorry dear,

00:35:20.179 --> 00:35:20.459
 can we

00:35:20.459 --> 00:35:21.039
 pray again

00:35:21.039 --> 00:35:21.519
 tonight.

00:35:23.399 --> 00:35:24.000
 Look at

00:35:24.000 --> 00:35:24.259
 what it

00:35:24.259 --> 00:35:24.639
 says at

00:35:24.639 --> 00:35:24.899
 the end

00:35:24.899 --> 00:35:25.219
 of verse

00:35:25.219 --> 00:35:25.699
 5.

00:35:26.379 --> 00:35:26.899
 Come

00:35:26.899 --> 00:35:27.419
 together

00:35:27.419 --> 00:35:27.959
 again

00:35:27.959 --> 00:35:29.079
 so that

00:35:29.079 --> 00:35:29.599
 Satan

00:35:29.599 --> 00:35:30.239
 will not

00:35:30.239 --> 00:35:30.719
 tempt

00:35:30.719 --> 00:35:31.139
 you

00:35:31.139 --> 00:35:32.119
 because of

00:35:32.119 --> 00:35:32.539
 your lack

00:35:32.539 --> 00:35:33.039
 of self

00:35:33.039 --> 00:35:33.659
 control.

00:35:33.659 --> 00:35:35.759
 he is

00:35:35.759 --> 00:35:36.299
 just so

00:35:36.299 --> 00:35:37.019
 practical.

00:35:38.420 --> 00:35:38.779
 There are

00:35:38.779 --> 00:35:39.059
 enough

00:35:39.059 --> 00:35:39.960
 temptations

00:35:39.960 --> 00:35:40.899
 outside of

00:35:40.899 --> 00:35:41.259
 marriage,

00:35:41.519 --> 00:35:41.839
 there are

00:35:41.839 --> 00:35:42.079
 enough

00:35:42.079 --> 00:35:42.440
 things

00:35:42.440 --> 00:35:43.239
 bombarding

00:35:43.239 --> 00:35:43.460
 us.

00:35:43.940 --> 00:35:44.379
 Marriages

00:35:44.379 --> 00:35:45.199
 are under

00:35:45.199 --> 00:35:46.079
 so much

00:35:46.079 --> 00:35:46.719
 pressure

00:35:46.719 --> 00:35:49.039
 that married

00:35:49.039 --> 00:35:49.940
 people should

00:35:49.940 --> 00:35:50.759
 live in such

00:35:50.759 --> 00:35:51.339
 a way that

00:35:51.339 --> 00:35:51.940
 they don't

00:35:51.940 --> 00:35:52.659
 give Satan

00:35:52.659 --> 00:35:53.579
 a chance

00:35:53.579 --> 00:35:55.239
 to ruin

00:35:55.239 --> 00:35:56.539
 and destroy

00:35:56.539 --> 00:35:57.299
 the marriage

00:35:57.299 --> 00:35:58.359
 relationship.

00:35:58.360 --> 00:36:02.539
 So,

00:36:02.660 --> 00:36:02.960
 there is

00:36:02.960 --> 00:36:03.260
 to be

00:36:03.260 --> 00:36:03.780
 mutual

00:36:03.780 --> 00:36:04.480
 submission

00:36:04.480 --> 00:36:05.760
 and there

00:36:05.760 --> 00:36:06.019
 is to

00:36:06.019 --> 00:36:06.220
 be

00:36:06.220 --> 00:36:06.900
 mutual

00:36:06.900 --> 00:36:07.940
 agreement.

00:36:09.780 --> 00:36:10.340
 Which

00:36:10.340 --> 00:36:10.960
 brings us

00:36:10.960 --> 00:36:11.320
 to,

00:36:11.480 --> 00:36:11.940
 I suppose,

00:36:12.059 --> 00:36:12.599
 our summary,

00:36:12.780 --> 00:36:13.360
 the point

00:36:13.360 --> 00:36:14.620
 of marriage.

00:36:15.700 --> 00:36:16.360
 Look at

00:36:16.360 --> 00:36:17.019
 verse 6.

00:36:18.460 --> 00:36:19.200
 He says,

00:36:19.260 --> 00:36:19.700
 I say

00:36:19.700 --> 00:36:20.640
 this as

00:36:20.640 --> 00:36:21.460
 a concession,

00:36:22.300 --> 00:36:23.200
 not as

00:36:23.200 --> 00:36:23.740
 a command.

00:36:24.680 --> 00:36:25.519
 I wish

00:36:25.519 --> 00:36:26.120
 that all

00:36:26.120 --> 00:36:26.599
 men were

00:36:26.599 --> 00:36:27.240
 as I am,

00:36:27.239 --> 00:36:28.419
 but each

00:36:28.419 --> 00:36:28.959
 man has

00:36:28.959 --> 00:36:29.339
 his own

00:36:29.339 --> 00:36:29.859
 gift from

00:36:29.859 --> 00:36:30.159
 God.

00:36:30.279 --> 00:36:30.679
 One has

00:36:30.679 --> 00:36:31.239
 this gift

00:36:31.239 --> 00:36:32.059
 and another

00:36:32.059 --> 00:36:32.819
 has that.

00:36:34.319 --> 00:36:34.879
 Marriage

00:36:34.879 --> 00:36:35.679
 is a gift

00:36:35.679 --> 00:36:36.199
 from God.

00:36:36.299 --> 00:36:36.619
 It's a

00:36:36.619 --> 00:36:37.419
 wonderful gift

00:36:37.419 --> 00:36:38.039
 from God.

00:36:38.959 --> 00:36:39.639
 And we

00:36:39.639 --> 00:36:40.059
 will see

00:36:40.059 --> 00:36:40.679
 that next

00:36:40.679 --> 00:36:41.199
 week that

00:36:41.199 --> 00:36:41.919
 singleness

00:36:41.919 --> 00:36:43.019
 is also

00:36:43.019 --> 00:36:43.599
 a gift

00:36:43.599 --> 00:36:44.459
 from God.

00:36:46.419 --> 00:36:47.159
 And what

00:36:47.159 --> 00:36:47.619
 is said

00:36:47.619 --> 00:36:48.199
 here in

00:36:48.199 --> 00:36:48.699
 these few

00:36:48.699 --> 00:36:49.279
 verses of

00:36:49.279 --> 00:36:49.959
 chapter 7

00:36:49.959 --> 00:36:51.199
 is practical

00:36:51.199 --> 00:36:51.879
 advice for

00:36:51.879 --> 00:36:52.359
 those who

00:36:52.359 --> 00:36:52.919
 do get

00:36:52.919 --> 00:36:53.379
 married.

00:36:54.279 --> 00:36:54.559
 So,

00:36:54.639 --> 00:36:54.879
 when we

00:36:54.879 --> 00:36:55.159
 look at

00:36:55.159 --> 00:36:55.599
 verse 6,

00:36:55.659 --> 00:36:55.899
 it says,

00:36:56.000 --> 00:36:56.279
 I say

00:36:56.279 --> 00:36:56.779
 this as a

00:36:56.780 --> 00:36:57.260
 concession,

00:36:57.400 --> 00:36:57.720
 not as

00:36:57.720 --> 00:36:58.220
 a command.

00:36:59.000 --> 00:36:59.420
 Paul is

00:36:59.420 --> 00:36:59.820
 not

00:36:59.820 --> 00:37:00.440
 commanding

00:37:00.440 --> 00:37:00.680
 that

00:37:00.680 --> 00:37:01.340
 everybody

00:37:01.340 --> 00:37:01.920
 gets

00:37:01.920 --> 00:37:02.300
 married.

00:37:02.440 --> 00:37:02.580
 He's

00:37:02.580 --> 00:37:02.760
 not

00:37:02.760 --> 00:37:02.940
 saying

00:37:02.940 --> 00:37:03.240
 this is

00:37:03.240 --> 00:37:03.380
 what

00:37:03.380 --> 00:37:03.519
 you

00:37:03.519 --> 00:37:03.880
 all

00:37:03.880 --> 00:37:04.180
 have

00:37:04.180 --> 00:37:04.340
 to

00:37:04.340 --> 00:37:04.660
 do.

00:37:06.340 --> 00:37:07.080
 And he

00:37:07.080 --> 00:37:07.620
 is not

00:37:07.620 --> 00:37:08.220
 commanding

00:37:08.220 --> 00:37:08.460
 that

00:37:08.460 --> 00:37:09.000
 everybody

00:37:09.000 --> 00:37:09.640
 has to

00:37:09.640 --> 00:37:10.000
 stay

00:37:10.000 --> 00:37:10.600
 single.

00:37:12.100 --> 00:37:12.660
 But for

00:37:12.660 --> 00:37:13.200
 those who

00:37:13.200 --> 00:37:14.160
 are married,

00:37:14.580 --> 00:37:15.100
 for those

00:37:15.100 --> 00:37:15.800
 who are

00:37:15.800 --> 00:37:16.440
 going to

00:37:16.440 --> 00:37:17.040
 get married,

00:37:17.480 --> 00:37:17.960
 this is

00:37:17.960 --> 00:37:18.320
 what it

00:37:18.320 --> 00:37:19.080
 looks like.

00:37:20.519 --> 00:37:21.180
 And we

00:37:21.180 --> 00:37:21.620
 need to

00:37:21.620 --> 00:37:22.340
 spend time

00:37:22.340 --> 00:37:23.100
 reading through

00:37:23.100 --> 00:37:23.760
 the passages

00:37:23.760 --> 00:37:24.460
 in Scripture

00:37:24.460 --> 00:37:25.240
 that tell us

00:37:25.239 --> 00:37:26.059
 about marriage

00:37:26.059 --> 00:37:27.599
 because sadly

00:37:27.599 --> 00:37:28.519
 many marriages

00:37:28.519 --> 00:37:29.159
 do break

00:37:29.159 --> 00:37:29.719
 down and

00:37:29.719 --> 00:37:30.299
 the Christian

00:37:30.299 --> 00:37:30.899
 marriage is

00:37:30.899 --> 00:37:31.479
 not immune

00:37:31.479 --> 00:37:31.859
 to the

00:37:31.859 --> 00:37:32.259
 pressures.

00:37:35.039 --> 00:37:35.899
 Kirsty and I

00:37:35.899 --> 00:37:36.699
 are only married

00:37:36.699 --> 00:37:37.879
 still only a few

00:37:37.879 --> 00:37:38.239
 years,

00:37:38.399 --> 00:37:39.739
 but many of

00:37:39.739 --> 00:37:40.539
 our friends,

00:37:41.099 --> 00:37:41.959
 or quite a few,

00:37:42.139 --> 00:37:42.819
 some of those we

00:37:42.819 --> 00:37:43.419
 were in college

00:37:43.419 --> 00:37:43.819
 with,

00:37:44.599 --> 00:37:45.219
 their marriages

00:37:45.219 --> 00:37:45.919
 are no longer

00:37:45.919 --> 00:37:46.459
 together.

00:37:48.619 --> 00:37:49.659
 And very often

00:37:49.659 --> 00:37:50.439
 the reason is

00:37:50.439 --> 00:37:51.219
 because people

00:37:51.219 --> 00:37:51.959
 begin to look

00:37:51.960 --> 00:37:53.800
 outside of

00:37:53.800 --> 00:37:54.380
 their marriage,

00:37:54.679 --> 00:37:55.019
 they look

00:37:55.019 --> 00:37:55.960
 outside of

00:37:55.960 --> 00:37:56.740
 their spouse

00:37:56.740 --> 00:37:58.340
 to meet

00:37:58.340 --> 00:37:58.840
 their own

00:37:58.840 --> 00:38:00.199
 selfish needs,

00:38:01.000 --> 00:38:01.699
 whether through

00:38:01.699 --> 00:38:02.400
 affairs,

00:38:02.860 --> 00:38:03.320
 or through

00:38:03.320 --> 00:38:03.920
 porn,

00:38:04.380 --> 00:38:04.860
 or through

00:38:04.860 --> 00:38:05.300
 some other

00:38:05.300 --> 00:38:05.780
 means.

00:38:07.500 --> 00:38:08.159
 And God's

00:38:08.159 --> 00:38:08.699
 word here

00:38:08.699 --> 00:38:09.179
 gives us

00:38:09.179 --> 00:38:09.679
 some very

00:38:09.679 --> 00:38:10.659
 clear direction

00:38:10.659 --> 00:38:11.360
 to those

00:38:11.360 --> 00:38:11.940
 who are

00:38:11.940 --> 00:38:12.380
 married.

00:38:13.699 --> 00:38:14.539
 And if we

00:38:14.539 --> 00:38:15.199
 follow it,

00:38:16.199 --> 00:38:16.780
 it will

00:38:16.780 --> 00:38:17.960
 bring unity,

00:38:19.000 --> 00:38:19.559
 it will

00:38:19.559 --> 00:38:20.039
 deepen

00:38:20.039 --> 00:38:21.340
 trust and

00:38:21.340 --> 00:38:22.019
 oneness.

00:38:22.920 --> 00:38:23.500
 It will

00:38:23.500 --> 00:38:24.239
 strengthen

00:38:24.239 --> 00:38:25.219
 the relationship.

00:38:26.259 --> 00:38:26.739
 And the

00:38:26.739 --> 00:38:27.659
 stronger the

00:38:27.659 --> 00:38:28.619
 marriage is,

00:38:28.679 --> 00:38:29.300
 the more at

00:38:29.300 --> 00:38:30.039
 one together

00:38:30.039 --> 00:38:30.619
 we are going

00:38:30.619 --> 00:38:31.079
 to be,

00:38:31.820 --> 00:38:32.460
 and the

00:38:32.460 --> 00:38:33.500
 better position

00:38:33.500 --> 00:38:34.119
 we are going

00:38:34.119 --> 00:38:34.559
 to be in

00:38:34.559 --> 00:38:35.199
 to serve

00:38:35.199 --> 00:38:35.739
 God's

00:38:35.739 --> 00:38:36.320
 ultimate

00:38:36.320 --> 00:38:37.039
 purpose.

00:38:37.980 --> 00:38:38.500
 And I

00:38:38.500 --> 00:38:38.880
 want to

00:38:38.880 --> 00:38:39.400
 finish with

00:38:39.400 --> 00:38:39.599
 this,

00:38:39.679 --> 00:38:40.259
 because this

00:38:40.259 --> 00:38:40.940
 is God's

00:38:40.940 --> 00:38:41.360
 ultimate

00:38:41.360 --> 00:38:41.900
 purpose.

00:38:42.380 --> 00:38:42.900
 Marriage

00:38:42.900 --> 00:38:43.639
 is

00:38:43.639 --> 00:38:44.599
 mission.

00:38:45.940 --> 00:38:46.759
 God has

00:38:46.759 --> 00:38:47.400
 brought you

00:38:47.400 --> 00:38:48.219
 together in

00:38:48.219 --> 00:38:49.039
 his plan

00:38:49.039 --> 00:38:49.480
 and in

00:38:49.480 --> 00:38:50.320
 his design,

00:38:51.019 --> 00:38:51.739
 and if you

00:38:51.739 --> 00:38:52.440
 have children,

00:38:52.579 --> 00:38:52.940
 God has

00:38:52.940 --> 00:38:53.500
 blessed you

00:38:53.500 --> 00:38:54.139
 with children.

00:38:55.059 --> 00:38:55.559
 And he

00:38:55.559 --> 00:38:56.079
 is saying

00:38:56.079 --> 00:38:56.519
 to you,

00:38:56.659 --> 00:38:57.039
 I want

00:38:57.039 --> 00:38:57.779
 your marriage

00:38:57.779 --> 00:38:59.259
 unit to

00:38:59.259 --> 00:38:59.980
 be a light,

00:39:00.239 --> 00:39:00.920
 to be a

00:39:00.920 --> 00:39:01.400
 witness.

00:39:02.360 --> 00:39:02.779
 Your

00:39:02.779 --> 00:39:03.659
 marriage is

00:39:03.659 --> 00:39:04.079
 to be a

00:39:04.079 --> 00:39:04.559
 means of

00:39:04.559 --> 00:39:04.840
 bringing

00:39:04.840 --> 00:39:07.059
 healing to

00:39:07.059 --> 00:39:07.639
 a broken

00:39:07.639 --> 00:39:08.300
 world.

00:39:09.800 --> 00:39:10.559
 And just

00:39:10.559 --> 00:39:11.239
 as much

00:39:11.239 --> 00:39:12.400
 as through

00:39:12.400 --> 00:39:12.960
 the marriage

00:39:12.960 --> 00:39:13.340
 unit,

00:39:13.480 --> 00:39:13.880
 God can

00:39:13.880 --> 00:39:14.559
 bring healing

00:39:14.559 --> 00:39:15.239
 to a broken

00:39:15.239 --> 00:39:15.779
 world,

00:39:15.780 --> 00:39:16.780
 marriages.

00:39:16.780 --> 00:39:17.940
 God can

00:39:17.940 --> 00:39:18.380
 also,

00:39:18.580 --> 00:39:19.000
 by his

00:39:19.000 --> 00:39:19.540
 grace,

00:39:20.280 --> 00:39:21.120
 bring healing

00:39:21.120 --> 00:39:22.340
 to broken

00:39:22.340 --> 00:39:22.880
 marriages.

00:39:24.140 --> 00:39:24.880
 God can

00:39:24.880 --> 00:39:25.400
 help.

00:39:26.060 --> 00:39:26.540
 God can

00:39:26.540 --> 00:39:27.180
 restore.

00:39:28.500 --> 00:39:28.800
 Having

00:39:28.800 --> 00:39:29.440
 difficulties

00:39:29.440 --> 00:39:30.019
 and having

00:39:30.019 --> 00:39:30.600
 struggles

00:39:30.600 --> 00:39:31.700
 is not

00:39:31.700 --> 00:39:32.220
 uncommon.

00:39:32.620 --> 00:39:32.880
 It's

00:39:32.880 --> 00:39:33.400
 normal.

00:39:33.820 --> 00:39:34.360
 That's why

00:39:34.360 --> 00:39:34.860
 he said

00:39:34.860 --> 00:39:35.220
 in verse

00:39:35.220 --> 00:39:35.760
 28,

00:39:35.900 --> 00:39:36.280
 those who

00:39:36.280 --> 00:39:36.700
 marry will

00:39:36.700 --> 00:39:37.380
 face many

00:39:37.380 --> 00:39:37.820
 troubles.

00:39:38.600 --> 00:39:38.940
 And I

00:39:38.940 --> 00:39:39.340
 want to

00:39:39.340 --> 00:39:39.780
 spare you

00:39:39.780 --> 00:39:40.140
 this.

00:39:40.139 --> 00:39:42.339
 So if

00:39:42.339 --> 00:39:42.739
 you find

00:39:42.739 --> 00:39:43.139
 you are

00:39:43.139 --> 00:39:43.400
 going

00:39:43.400 --> 00:39:43.659
 through

00:39:43.659 --> 00:39:44.119
 struggles

00:39:44.119 --> 00:39:44.500
 and you

00:39:44.500 --> 00:39:44.960
 are going

00:39:44.960 --> 00:39:45.199
 through

00:39:45.199 --> 00:39:45.940
 difficulties,

00:39:46.339 --> 00:39:47.839
 don't hide

00:39:47.839 --> 00:39:48.079
 it.

00:39:48.259 --> 00:39:48.759
 Speak to

00:39:48.759 --> 00:39:49.099
 somebody.

00:39:49.219 --> 00:39:49.539
 Come and

00:39:49.539 --> 00:39:49.940
 speak to

00:39:49.940 --> 00:39:50.139
 me.

00:39:50.599 --> 00:39:51.000
 Come and

00:39:51.000 --> 00:39:51.440
 speak to

00:39:51.440 --> 00:39:51.799
 Kirsty.

00:39:52.279 --> 00:39:52.699
 Go and

00:39:52.699 --> 00:39:53.199
 talk to

00:39:53.199 --> 00:39:53.639
 an older

00:39:53.639 --> 00:39:54.119
 Christian

00:39:54.119 --> 00:39:54.599
 that you

00:39:54.599 --> 00:39:54.940
 know.

00:39:57.420 --> 00:39:58.159
 Because if

00:39:58.159 --> 00:39:58.779
 our marriages

00:39:58.779 --> 00:39:59.440
 are breaking,

00:40:00.359 --> 00:40:01.239
 we can

00:40:01.239 --> 00:40:02.400
 heal no

00:40:02.400 --> 00:40:02.699
 one.

00:40:03.940 --> 00:40:04.579
 First of

00:40:04.579 --> 00:40:04.920
 all, we

00:40:04.920 --> 00:40:05.319
 must get

00:40:05.319 --> 00:40:05.859
 ourselves

00:40:05.859 --> 00:40:06.239
 right.

00:40:09.159 --> 00:40:09.679
 So,

00:40:09.679 --> 00:40:11.919
 this is

00:40:11.919 --> 00:40:12.339
 God's

00:40:12.339 --> 00:40:13.299
 design for

00:40:13.299 --> 00:40:13.799
 marriage.

00:40:14.759 --> 00:40:15.219
 It is

00:40:15.219 --> 00:40:15.839
 foundational.

00:40:16.480 --> 00:40:17.119
 He set it

00:40:17.119 --> 00:40:17.480
 out at

00:40:17.480 --> 00:40:18.000
 creation.

00:40:18.779 --> 00:40:19.339
 And it is

00:40:19.339 --> 00:40:20.119
 very practical

00:40:20.119 --> 00:40:20.519
 and it

00:40:20.519 --> 00:40:20.879
 needs to

00:40:20.879 --> 00:40:21.299
 be worked

00:40:21.299 --> 00:40:21.599
 on.

00:40:22.319 --> 00:40:22.819
 So I

00:40:22.819 --> 00:40:23.480
 encourage us

00:40:23.480 --> 00:40:23.919
 all to

00:40:23.919 --> 00:40:24.419
 think through

00:40:24.419 --> 00:40:24.960
 these things

00:40:24.960 --> 00:40:25.339
 more.

00:40:26.219 --> 00:40:26.699
 Talk it

00:40:26.699 --> 00:40:27.299
 through with

00:40:27.299 --> 00:40:27.980
 your spouse,

00:40:28.379 --> 00:40:28.679
 with your

00:40:28.679 --> 00:40:29.299
 husband and

00:40:29.299 --> 00:40:29.639
 with your

00:40:29.639 --> 00:40:30.000
 wife.

00:40:31.139 --> 00:40:31.599
 Seek to

00:40:31.599 --> 00:40:32.399
 encourage your

00:40:32.399 --> 00:40:33.039
 children in

00:40:33.039 --> 00:40:33.539
 the way that

00:40:33.539 --> 00:40:33.980
 they should

00:40:33.980 --> 00:40:34.239
 go.

00:40:35.239 --> 00:40:36.039
 Let's pray

00:40:36.039 --> 00:40:36.679
 together.

00:40:39.679 --> 00:40:53.500
 God, we

00:40:53.500 --> 00:40:54.099
 thank you so

00:40:54.099 --> 00:40:54.779
 much that you

00:40:54.779 --> 00:40:55.539
 don't leave

00:40:55.539 --> 00:40:56.440
 us alone.

00:40:57.899 --> 00:40:58.859
 You don't

00:40:58.859 --> 00:41:00.179
 just put us

00:41:00.179 --> 00:41:00.639
 into this

00:41:00.639 --> 00:41:01.219
 world and

00:41:01.219 --> 00:41:01.899
 tell us now

00:41:01.899 --> 00:41:02.359
 you just

00:41:02.359 --> 00:41:02.759
 make the

00:41:02.759 --> 00:41:03.319
 best job

00:41:03.319 --> 00:41:03.639
 that you

00:41:03.639 --> 00:41:04.000
 can.

00:41:04.000 --> 00:41:06.059
 but that

00:41:06.059 --> 00:41:06.440
 you have

00:41:06.440 --> 00:41:07.099
 given us

00:41:07.099 --> 00:41:08.159
 your commands

00:41:08.159 --> 00:41:08.559
 and your

00:41:08.559 --> 00:41:10.099
 direction as

00:41:10.099 --> 00:41:10.679
 to how we

00:41:10.679 --> 00:41:11.340
 should live,

00:41:11.639 --> 00:41:12.039
 particularly

00:41:12.039 --> 00:41:13.079
 within marriage.

00:41:14.719 --> 00:41:15.360
 Again,

00:41:15.460 --> 00:41:15.860
 Father, we

00:41:15.860 --> 00:41:16.679
 pray that you

00:41:16.679 --> 00:41:17.440
 would protect

00:41:17.440 --> 00:41:18.440
 every marriage

00:41:18.440 --> 00:41:19.539
 represented here.

00:41:20.539 --> 00:41:21.360
 Make it

00:41:21.360 --> 00:41:23.219
 strong and

00:41:23.219 --> 00:41:23.599
 make it

00:41:23.599 --> 00:41:24.059
 healthy.

00:41:25.480 --> 00:41:26.920
 May it be a

00:41:26.920 --> 00:41:27.900
 witness and a

00:41:27.900 --> 00:41:28.840
 demonstration of

00:41:28.840 --> 00:41:29.380
 your love.

00:41:29.380 --> 00:41:32.440
 may it be a

00:41:32.440 --> 00:41:33.300
 mission within

00:41:33.300 --> 00:41:34.079
 the community

00:41:34.079 --> 00:41:34.960
 where they

00:41:34.960 --> 00:41:35.300
 live.

00:41:37.539 --> 00:41:38.340
 We pray,

00:41:38.660 --> 00:41:39.099
 Father, too,

00:41:39.200 --> 00:41:39.680
 that if there

00:41:39.680 --> 00:41:40.680
 is any marriage

00:41:40.680 --> 00:41:41.619
 that is

00:41:41.619 --> 00:41:42.320
 struggling or

00:41:42.320 --> 00:41:42.880
 finding it

00:41:42.880 --> 00:41:43.760
 difficult at

00:41:43.760 --> 00:41:44.380
 this time,

00:41:45.380 --> 00:41:46.360
 we pray that

00:41:46.360 --> 00:41:46.900
 you would pour

00:41:46.900 --> 00:41:47.280
 out your

00:41:47.280 --> 00:41:47.740
 grace,

00:41:49.500 --> 00:41:50.119
 that you

00:41:50.119 --> 00:41:50.680
 would enable

00:41:50.680 --> 00:41:52.300
 them to find

00:41:52.300 --> 00:41:52.980
 the help and

00:41:52.980 --> 00:41:53.599
 the support.

00:41:55.980 --> 00:41:56.860
 And we pray

00:41:56.860 --> 00:41:57.539
 for each one

00:41:57.539 --> 00:41:58.160
 of us here,

00:41:58.159 --> 00:41:59.799
 whatever situation

00:41:59.799 --> 00:42:00.440
 we find

00:42:00.440 --> 00:42:01.379
 ourselves in,

00:42:02.519 --> 00:42:04.299
 whether we're

00:42:04.299 --> 00:42:05.059
 looking forward

00:42:05.059 --> 00:42:06.019
 to marriage,

00:42:07.319 --> 00:42:08.039
 whether we're

00:42:08.039 --> 00:42:08.719
 looking back

00:42:08.719 --> 00:42:09.679
 on marriage,

00:42:11.259 --> 00:42:12.059
 that all of

00:42:12.059 --> 00:42:12.920
 us would pray

00:42:12.920 --> 00:42:13.799
 for one another,

00:42:14.980 --> 00:42:15.659
 pray for the

00:42:15.659 --> 00:42:16.659
 strengthening of

00:42:16.659 --> 00:42:17.559
 the relationships,

00:42:19.319 --> 00:42:20.539
 seeking purity

00:42:20.539 --> 00:42:22.440
 in every way.

00:42:26.259 --> 00:42:27.219
 And we ask,

00:42:27.420 --> 00:42:27.920
 Lord, that we

00:42:27.920 --> 00:42:28.559
 would ever come

00:42:28.559 --> 00:42:29.159
 to you and

00:42:29.159 --> 00:42:29.659
 find the

00:42:29.659 --> 00:42:30.400
 forgiveness that

00:42:30.400 --> 00:42:31.780
 we need for

00:42:31.780 --> 00:42:32.280
 where we get

00:42:32.280 --> 00:42:32.700
 it wrong.

00:42:33.960 --> 00:42:34.820
 Please forgive

00:42:34.820 --> 00:42:36.860
 us and help

00:42:36.860 --> 00:42:37.460
 us to follow

00:42:37.460 --> 00:42:39.119
 your pure and

00:42:39.119 --> 00:42:39.880
 good design.

00:42:40.659 --> 00:42:41.440
 In Jesus'

00:42:41.659 --> 00:42:41.900
 name,

00:42:42.639 --> 00:42:43.019
 Amen.

00:42:43.019 --> 00:42:48.639
 we're going to

00:42:48.639 --> 00:42:49.500
 sing together.

00:42:49.500 --> 00:42:49.599
 Amen.

00:42:53.599 --> 00:42:55.840
 This song reminds

00:42:55.840 --> 00:42:58.019
 us of the love

00:42:58.019 --> 00:42:59.159
 of Jesus towards

00:42:59.159 --> 00:42:59.599
 us.

00:42:59.599 --> 00:43:00.599
 Amen.