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 Message this morning will warm you up, get you maybe riled up.

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 I don't know if you've looked ahead and read the passage, but it's Valentine's Day, right?

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 It's a land of chocolate and red roses and Hallmark schlock, and however you see that,

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 some of your romantics are cringing.

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 I love Valentine's Day and all of the romantic accoutrements that go with it,

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 but I also want to acknowledge that for many, and maybe many of you feel like this,

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 Valentine's Day is a day that no one can win.

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 Husbands, boyfriends struggle to feel like they can ever do enough to impress.

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 Wives and girlfriends struggle to dampen their rampant idealistic hopes of being swept off their feet

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 while hiberring the secret fears that they are not, in fact, deeply loved and desired.

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 And singles just wish it would go away.

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 All right?

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 So this is the problem with Valentine's Day, the way our culture construes it.

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 And often at the core of it, if you look deeply, part of what you see is that

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 the problem with Valentine's Day is that it makes everyone miserable

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 because it arouses desires that we aren't sure what to do with.

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 It makes us to focus more on selfish desires than anything else.

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 It drives us to think about things that we can't actually do,

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 and it makes us people who are discontent.

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 And in the sovereignty of God, as we are preaching sequentially through the book of 1 Corinthians,

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 Valentine's Day, we get this passage on sex and singleness,

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 two of the great taboo topics that the church doesn't like to talk about.

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 So I feel like we're already in the mood, but we're going to keep going with it

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 and see what's going on in this passage.

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 If you have your Bible, you can turn with me to 1 Corinthians chapter 7.

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 You know, as you turn there, I want to put a little bit of Valentine's Day in historical context.

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 What would it have looked like 2,000 plus years ago?

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 If you were in Greek culture, Valentine's Day might be celebrated through this lens,

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 the words of Apollodorus in his speech against Nera.

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 We have courtesans for pleasure, concubines for the daily tending of the body,

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 and wives in order to beget legitimate children

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 and have a trustworthy guardian of what is at home.

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 So this is the Greek culture a couple of centuries before Christ

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 and the way that they viewed relationships and sex.

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 Fast forward a couple of centuries to the first century when 1 Corinthians was written,

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 the Roman picture,

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 and though not quite so baldly crass as Apollodorus,

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 it was a similar perspective.

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 Wives were for children,

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 not for passion or pleasure.

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 Passion and pleasure would be found in other places,

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 as we saw last week at the temple prostitutes.

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 Or even within your own home,

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 the master of the house would have the right,

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 the social privilege,

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 of access to any woman in his household.

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 A slave, a servant,

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 someone under his care.

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 And what you see at the core of this

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 is that how deeply

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 ancient culture

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 was captured by a deeply

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 selfish perspective

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 on sex.

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 Sex was simply to

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 promulgate your line

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 or

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 for your own pleasure

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 as a man.

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 And women were not even really in the picture.

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 They were being used

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 for one or the other.

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 In our culture today,

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 we'd like to think

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 that we've been more liberated.

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 We'd like to think

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 that it's a different situation.

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 It's not always that way.

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 Might say it's often not that way.

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 But,

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 what I would say

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 is that the selfishness

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 has not changed.

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 We so

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 easily

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 approach our relationships

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 and when it gets down to it,

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 our sexual relationships

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 with the same selfish desire

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 of what can I get out of it?

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 How can I be pleased

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 through this?

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 We often

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 give to this relationship

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 and to this act

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 a sense of

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 ultimacy

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 that it was never meant to have

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 and so it gives us

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 meaning,

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 fulfillment,

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 affirmation.

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 And by giving it all of this,

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 for those of you who are single,

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 you may have felt this,

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 that somehow to be

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 not sexually active

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 is to be somehow

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 less than human.

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 Somehow

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 less than fully

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 who you were meant to be.

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 What does God say

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 about this?

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 Paul writes about it.

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 We're going to look at it.

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 But just to remember

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 what Pastor Nick

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 preached on last week,

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 if you weren't here,

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 you should go back

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 and listen to the sermon online.

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 Chapter 6,

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 verses 12 through 20,

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 talk about

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 Paul's

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 admonition.

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 Flee sexual immorality.

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 Why?

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 Because your body

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 was not created

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 for selfish things,

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 but for God.

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 God.

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 And as you live out

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 your sexual life,

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 you are meant to conduct

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 yourself in a way

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 that honors and glorifies God,

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 recognizing

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 that God has made

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 your body

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 the temple of the Holy Spirit

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 and that he has purchased

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 your life,

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 body,

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 soul,

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 and all

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 by the very blood

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 of his son

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 lovingly poured out

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 for you.

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 And so we are meant

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 to stop giving

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 sex

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 more or less

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 than it is due.

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 We are to glorify God

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 with our body.

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 And from this then,

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 Paul transitions

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 in chapter 7

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 into a long discussion,

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 a lot about marriage

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 and singleness,

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 and today particularly

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 about sex.

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 We're going to be here

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 for four weeks,

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 just so you know.

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 We're going to be

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 in chapter 7

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 for four weeks.

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 We're doing this

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 this week,

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 we're going to do

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 the next chunk,

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 Greg's going to preach

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 next week,

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 Nick's going to do it again,

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 and then just for those

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 of you who are single,

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 we're going to have

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 a whole sermon

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 in three weeks

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 on singleness

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 and thinking about it

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 biblically.

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 But we will address

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 it today as well.

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 So let's look

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 at this passage now.

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 1 Corinthians chapter 7

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 verses 1 through 9.

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 And the true sign

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 of middle age

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 is right here.

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 You ready?

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 There you go.

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 This is sexy, right?

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 Okay.

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 Now, concerning the matters

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 about which you wrote,

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 it is good for a man

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 not to have sexual relations

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 with a woman,

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 but because of the temptation

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 to sexual immorality,

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 each man should have

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 his own wife,

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 and each woman

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 her own husband.

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 The husband should give

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 to his wife

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 her conjugal rights,

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 and likewise

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 the wife to her husband.

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 For the wife does not

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 have authority

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 over her own body,

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 but the husband does.

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 Likewise,

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 the husband does not

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 have authority

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 over his own body,

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 but the wife does.

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 Do not deprive

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 one another,

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 except perhaps

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 by agreement

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 for a limited time

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 that you may devote

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 yourselves to prayer,

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 but then come together

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 again so that Satan

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 may not tempt you

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 because of your lack

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 of self-control.

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 Now, as a concession,

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 not a command,

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 I say this.

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 I wish that all

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 were as I myself am,

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 but each has his own gift

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 from God,

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 one of one kind

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 and one of another.

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 To the unmarried

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 and to the widows,

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 I say,

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 it is good for them

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 to remain single

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 as I am,

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 but if they cannot

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 exercise self-control,

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 they should marry,

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 for it is better

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 to marry

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 than to burn

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 with passion.

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 Let's pray.

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 Lord, help us

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 to understand this passage.

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 Lord, help us

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 to see

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 your design

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 for our lives.

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 Help us

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 to understand

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 what it is

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 that you have

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 given us

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 in marriage

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 and in singleness,

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 in sex

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 and in celibacy.

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 Lord, I pray

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 you would help me

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 this morning.

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 Lord, that my words

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 would teach clearly,

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 that you would use

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 my words, Lord,

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 to shape our hearts.

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 Lord, may we glorify you

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 in our bodies,

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 we pray.

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 In Jesus' name,

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 amen.

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 What I want you to see

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 this morning,

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 the big idea

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 of this passage

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 as we pull it all together,

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 is that we are called

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 to glorify God

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 by passionate living

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 in the gifts

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 that we have,

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 whether married

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 or single.

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 The hinge idea

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 as I see it

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 is actually

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 in verse 7,

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 if you see it

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 down there,

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 it says,

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 but each one

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 has its own gift.

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 The question this morning

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 is what is your gift?

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 How can you glorify God

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 with it?

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 Every gift

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 from God

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 is good.

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 Let's explore

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 how Paul instructs us

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 to live out

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 these callings together.

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 Firstly,

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 in verses 1 through 6,

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 we see Paul

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 talking about

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 the gift

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 of marital sex.

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 He continues

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 building on

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 what he said

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 at the end

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 of chapter 6

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 about what's

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 the nature

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 of sexual immorality.

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 And it seems

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 potentially

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 that he's replying

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 to something

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 that the Corinthians

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 have written to him

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 asking him,

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 hey,

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 you've told us

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 about avoiding

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 sexual immorality.

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 What does that

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 have to do

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 with marriage

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 and with sex

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 within marriage?

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 Now,

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 if you have

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 different Bible

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 translations,

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 you may have noticed

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 that there are

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 different ways

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 to translate it.

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 And the ESV

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 along with the NIV

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 and lots of

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 translations

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 have translated it

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 along the lines of,

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 it is good

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 for a man

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 not to have

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 sexual relations

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 with his wife.

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 If you have

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 a King James

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 or a New American Standard,

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 which tends

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 to be more literal,

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 you will see that

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 all these other

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 translations

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 have taken an idiom

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 and they've tried

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 to give you meaning,

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 which is normal

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 and that's what

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 translators do.

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 But the idiom

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 itself is,

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 it is good

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 for a man

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 not to touch

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 a woman.

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 Historically,

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 this has often

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 been presented

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 as the Corinthians

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 saying,

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 hey,

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 there's this

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 argument out there

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 that we should

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 actually be celibate

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 in marriage,

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 which is really odd.

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 But it's,

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 but you understand it

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 as you read this,

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 you think,

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 okay,

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 that kind of

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 makes sense.

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 But I will have

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 to say that

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 I have been

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 convinced

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 by

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 one modern

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 scholar

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 who looked

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 at this phrase,

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 to touch

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 a woman,

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 in different

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 contexts,

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 the way it was

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 used throughout

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 ancient literature.

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 He summarizes

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 his finding

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 this way.

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 To touch

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 a woman

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 means acting

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 on sexual

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 passions

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 for the sake

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 of pleasure

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 or sexual

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 release,

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 including

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 using it,

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 using the

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 following kinds

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 of people

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 for one's

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 own sexual

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 gratification.

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 Slaves,

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 people forced

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 to live

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 in one's

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 own

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 household,

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 defenseless

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 women,

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 virgins

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 placed under

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 one's

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 protective care,

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 a wife

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 during her

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 monthly cycle.

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 It's also

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 used in

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 predatory

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 male

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 homosexual

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 relationships,

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 unnatural

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 homosexual

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 relationships,

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 incest,

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 rape,

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 adultery,

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 sex with

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 a defiled

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 concubine,

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 or just

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 sex with

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 someone outside

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 of your

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 marriage,

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 someone who

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 is not

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 your wife.

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 So he

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 argues that

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 what the

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 position being

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 put forward

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 by the

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 Corinthians,

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 that the

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 Corinthians are

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 asking Paul

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 for comment

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 on,

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 is not,

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 should we be

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 celibate in

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 marriage?

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 That seems

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 like a bit

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 of a stretch.

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 It's more

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 saying,

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 hey,

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 there's a

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 statement out

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 there that

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 might be

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 translated,

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 don't use

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 other people

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 for your own

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 sexual

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 gratification.

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 Don't use

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 it for

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 selfish

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 passion.

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 The

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 Corinthian

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 church has

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 written to

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 Paul saying,

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 what do we

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 do with

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 this?

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 How do we

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 understand

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 this?

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 And Paul

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 is at

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 some of

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 his

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 pastoral

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 best in

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 this.

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 His

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 argument is

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 nuanced.

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 He does

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 not thunder.

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 He does

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 not say,

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 as he did

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 in chapter

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 six,

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 do you

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 not know?

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 Do you

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 not know

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 that this

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 is true,

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 and this

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 is true,

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 and this

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 is true?

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 Why are

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 you acting

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 that way?

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 He says,

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 well,

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 let's think

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 about this,

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 brothers and

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 sisters.

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 Let's come

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 together and

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 consider this,

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 because these

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 are hard

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 issues,

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 and he has

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 some really

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 practical

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 wisdom,

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 and I'm

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 hoping that

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 it will

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 translate to

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 you and

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 to your

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 lives as

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 we explore

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 it,

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 because his

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 fundamental

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 response is

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 yes,

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 but then he

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 takes it to

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 probably another

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 level that the

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 Corinthians never

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 imagined.

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 So the

00:14:08.440 --> 00:14:09.419
 question is,

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 how are we

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 meant to

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 live out

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 this calling

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 to not

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 be sexually

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 immoral in

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 marriage?

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 Are we

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 supposed to

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 just use our

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 wives for

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 babies,

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 and everything

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 else we find

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 somewhere else?

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 That's what the

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 culture tells us.

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 Are we supposed

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 to abstain

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 completely?

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 What are we

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 supposed to do?

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 And Paul says,

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 no,

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 no,

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 no.

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 The sexual

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 union between a

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 man and a

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 wife is a

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 part of the

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 gift and the

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 design of

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 marriage.

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 It is a

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 beautiful and

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 a wonderful

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 thing.

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 And I call

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 you to not

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 buy into the

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 cultural

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 disdain for

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 the passionate

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 and pleasurable

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 parts of it

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 within marriage.

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 This is a

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 good part of

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 the design.

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 Don't think

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 that's dirty

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 or wrong or

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 taking advantage

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 of it.

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 But let me

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 teach you how

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 to think about

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 it in a way

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 that actually is

00:15:09.980 --> 00:15:10.620
 shaped by the

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 gospel.

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 So that's what

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 he says in

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 verses 2-4.

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 Look with me

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 again,

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 verses 2-4.

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 Let me make a

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 couple of

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 observations.

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 First of all,

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 you see the

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 temptation.

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 Given the

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 cultural context

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 of you only

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 have sex with

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 your wife and

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 you go to a

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 prostitute for

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 release and

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 pleasure,

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 he's saying,

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 no, no, no,

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 no, no,

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 because that

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 sexual temptation

00:15:32.639 --> 00:15:33.519
 is out there,

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 but you ought

00:15:34.299 --> 00:15:34.819
 not to give

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 into it,

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 there is a

00:15:38.620 --> 00:15:39.340
 place for you

00:15:39.340 --> 00:15:40.019
 to spend your

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 energies.

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 Verse 2,

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 right?

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 Each man should

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 have his own

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 wife.

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 That doesn't

00:15:45.079 --> 00:15:45.519
 mean that he

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 just is married.

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 It means he

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 should have

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 her.

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 Have her in

00:15:49.340 --> 00:15:50.000
 the sense of

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 joining with

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 her sexually.

00:15:52.439 --> 00:15:52.919
 Right?

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 And there's an

00:15:54.159 --> 00:15:55.460
 emphasis on his

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 own and her

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 own, right?

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 And these are

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 two really

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 important things

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 that Paul is

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 saying here.

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 The only

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 place for you

00:16:04.420 --> 00:16:05.720
 to live out

00:16:05.720 --> 00:16:06.500
 your calling

00:16:06.500 --> 00:16:06.960
 and your

00:16:06.960 --> 00:16:07.760
 sexual desires

00:16:07.760 --> 00:16:08.379
 is within

00:16:08.379 --> 00:16:09.540
 your marriage

00:16:09.540 --> 00:16:10.180
 to your

00:16:10.180 --> 00:16:10.740
 spouse,

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 your own,

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 no one else's.

00:16:13.000 --> 00:16:13.600
 Wife swapping

00:16:13.600 --> 00:16:14.480
 is just out.

00:16:15.120 --> 00:16:16.100
 Doesn't fit.

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 Right?

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 But it's also

00:16:21.500 --> 00:16:23.200
 the wife to

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 his own,

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 to her own

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 husband and

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 the husband to

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 his own

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 wife.

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 wife.

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 Paul begins

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 to lay the

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 foundations of

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 a picture of

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 a mutuality in

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 marriage that

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 was very

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 foreign to

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 that culture.

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 A sense of

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 equality in

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 this role.

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 And even in

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 the pursuit of

00:16:44.099 --> 00:16:45.000
 the pleasing,

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 passionate part

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 of sex.

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 the husband

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 should give

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 himself to

00:17:01.120 --> 00:17:02.599
 his wife for

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 her conjugal

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 rights and

00:17:05.159 --> 00:17:05.879
 likewise the

00:17:05.879 --> 00:17:06.859
 wife to her

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 husband.

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 Now look,

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 men, we need

00:17:10.839 --> 00:17:11.319
 to be careful

00:17:11.319 --> 00:17:11.679
 here.

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 Because it's very

00:17:12.879 --> 00:17:13.579
 easy to read

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 this the way we

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 contend to give,

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 say,

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 anniversary gifts.

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 Look, honey, I

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 got you a

00:17:18.019 --> 00:17:18.840
 pneumatic drill.

00:17:19.400 --> 00:17:20.440
 We give gifts

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 that is completely

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 self-centered and

00:17:22.819 --> 00:17:23.680
 only for our

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 benefit.

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 And we can do

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 that in this

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 context as well.

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 Right?

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 Look, honey, I

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 did all this so

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 that you can

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 please me.

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 That's not what

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 it says.

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 It says the

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 husband is to

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 give to

00:17:41.620 --> 00:17:43.779
 his wife.

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 to let her

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 be pleased.

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 To seek for

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 her to be

00:17:53.460 --> 00:17:55.000
 blessed in the

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 sexual union.

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 It's not you

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 owe me this.

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 It's an I owe

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 you this.

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 I have not

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 just the privilege

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 but actually the

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 duty to give

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 this to you.

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 He develops

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 this a little

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 bit more in

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 verse 4 where

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 he says,

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 look,

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 the wife

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 doesn't have

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 authority over

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 her own body.

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 The husband

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 doesn't have

00:18:24.700 --> 00:18:25.440
 authority over

00:18:25.440 --> 00:18:26.259
 his own body.

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 You have in

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 pledging yourself

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 to one another

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 before God and

00:18:30.980 --> 00:18:31.599
 these witnesses

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 in marriage,

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 you have said,

00:18:34.059 --> 00:18:34.960
 I give myself

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 to you,

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 body and soul.

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 you now

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 have a claim.

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 But notice

00:18:43.340 --> 00:18:44.140
 that Paul never

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 says,

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 you now have a

00:18:45.500 --> 00:18:46.100
 claim that you

00:18:46.100 --> 00:18:47.160
 can cash in on

00:18:47.160 --> 00:18:48.279
 your agenda and

00:18:48.279 --> 00:18:49.220
 your time frame and

00:18:49.220 --> 00:18:49.460
 say,

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 I'm ready to

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 take a withdrawal

00:18:52.620 --> 00:18:53.440
 from my deposit.

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 Thank you.

00:18:55.759 --> 00:18:56.600
 Paul says,

00:18:56.779 --> 00:18:57.620
 you have this

00:18:57.620 --> 00:19:00.060
 claim and the

00:19:00.060 --> 00:19:01.120
 obligation is not

00:19:01.120 --> 00:19:02.779
 to take it but

00:19:02.779 --> 00:19:04.120
 is to give it

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 to the other.

00:19:06.680 --> 00:19:08.920
 So as one

00:19:08.920 --> 00:19:09.920
 commentator says,

00:19:10.039 --> 00:19:10.539
 Paul puts

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 sexual relations

00:19:11.440 --> 00:19:12.720
 within Christian

00:19:12.720 --> 00:19:14.120
 marriage on a

00:19:14.120 --> 00:19:14.799
 much higher

00:19:14.799 --> 00:19:15.580
 ground than one

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 finds in most

00:19:16.400 --> 00:19:17.360
 cultures including

00:19:17.360 --> 00:19:19.180
 the church where

00:19:19.180 --> 00:19:20.060
 sex is often

00:19:20.060 --> 00:19:21.460
 viewed as a

00:19:21.460 --> 00:19:22.400
 husband's privilege

00:19:22.400 --> 00:19:23.200
 and the wife's

00:19:23.200 --> 00:19:23.799
 obligation.

00:19:24.799 --> 00:19:25.380
 For Paul,

00:19:25.480 --> 00:19:26.180
 the marriage bed

00:19:26.180 --> 00:19:27.279
 is both unitive

00:19:27.279 --> 00:19:28.660
 that is bringing

00:19:28.660 --> 00:19:29.840
 together in a

00:19:29.840 --> 00:19:31.180
 unity and an

00:19:31.180 --> 00:19:32.340
 affirmation that

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 the two belong to

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 one another in

00:19:35.160 --> 00:19:36.279
 total mutuality.

00:19:36.680 --> 00:19:36.880
 equality.

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 Friends, this is

00:19:42.640 --> 00:19:43.180
 what God has

00:19:43.180 --> 00:19:43.980
 called us to in

00:19:43.980 --> 00:19:44.420
 marriage.

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 Because remember

00:19:46.000 --> 00:19:47.100
 what Pastor Nick

00:19:47.100 --> 00:19:47.860
 said last week?

00:19:48.299 --> 00:19:49.299
 Marriage and sex,

00:19:50.120 --> 00:19:50.799
 they're the Rick

00:19:50.799 --> 00:19:51.680
 Steve's guide.

00:19:52.380 --> 00:19:53.980
 They're the book

00:19:53.980 --> 00:19:54.840
 that tells you

00:19:54.840 --> 00:19:55.680
 about something

00:19:55.680 --> 00:19:56.860
 that's yet to

00:19:56.860 --> 00:19:57.279
 come.

00:19:57.440 --> 00:19:57.799
 Do you remember

00:19:57.799 --> 00:19:58.480
 that illustration

00:19:58.480 --> 00:19:59.000
 he gave?

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 That what marriage

00:20:01.240 --> 00:20:02.380
 and sex are given

00:20:02.380 --> 00:20:03.759
 for in this world

00:20:03.759 --> 00:20:05.279
 is to point us to

00:20:05.279 --> 00:20:06.680
 an eternal marriage

00:20:06.680 --> 00:20:07.639
 supper of the Lamb

00:20:07.639 --> 00:20:08.819
 and an intimacy

00:20:08.819 --> 00:20:09.879
 with God and

00:20:09.879 --> 00:20:10.680
 with one another

00:20:10.680 --> 00:20:11.500
 that we can't

00:20:11.500 --> 00:20:12.519
 even imagine

00:20:12.519 --> 00:20:14.039
 and the joy

00:20:14.039 --> 00:20:15.059
 and the fulfillment

00:20:15.059 --> 00:20:16.059
 and the pleasure

00:20:16.059 --> 00:20:17.359
 that we think

00:20:17.359 --> 00:20:19.019
 often sex is the

00:20:19.019 --> 00:20:19.940
 pinnacle of.

00:20:20.579 --> 00:20:21.539
 Sex is just a

00:20:21.539 --> 00:20:22.720
 signpost pointing

00:20:22.720 --> 00:20:23.920
 to something better.

00:20:24.379 --> 00:20:25.500
 It's just a taste

00:20:25.500 --> 00:20:26.420
 of the feast that

00:20:26.420 --> 00:20:27.440
 is yet to come.

00:20:27.440 --> 00:20:30.759
 And so we ought

00:20:30.759 --> 00:20:31.820
 now to live

00:20:31.820 --> 00:20:33.620
 enjoying it

00:20:33.620 --> 00:20:34.380
 fully

00:20:34.380 --> 00:20:37.880
 not selfishly

00:20:37.880 --> 00:20:42.400
 for the good

00:20:42.400 --> 00:20:45.420
 of one another.

00:20:47.799 --> 00:20:48.860
 We don't do this

00:20:48.860 --> 00:20:49.799
 naturally friends.

00:20:51.900 --> 00:20:53.299
 We can only do this

00:20:53.299 --> 00:20:54.120
 for Christ.

00:20:54.119 --> 00:20:57.079
 We can only do it

00:20:57.079 --> 00:20:58.039
 with Christ's help.

00:21:00.839 --> 00:21:01.779
 I think about

00:21:01.779 --> 00:21:02.399
 how sex

00:21:02.399 --> 00:21:03.559
 is often portrayed.

00:21:04.959 --> 00:21:05.579
 All you have to do

00:21:05.579 --> 00:21:06.899
 is watch some sitcoms

00:21:06.899 --> 00:21:08.959
 or talk to your

00:21:08.959 --> 00:21:09.519
 co-workers.

00:21:10.079 --> 00:21:10.939
 Maybe even thinking

00:21:10.939 --> 00:21:11.919
 about your own life.

00:21:13.579 --> 00:21:14.279
 How is sex

00:21:14.279 --> 00:21:14.779
 in marriage

00:21:14.779 --> 00:21:15.679
 often used

00:21:15.679 --> 00:21:17.259
 and abused?

00:21:18.519 --> 00:21:19.319
 The range

00:21:19.319 --> 00:21:20.019
 is huge.

00:21:22.039 --> 00:21:22.739
 Marital rape

00:21:22.739 --> 00:21:23.679
 is a real thing

00:21:23.680 --> 00:21:24.740
 where one forces

00:21:24.740 --> 00:21:26.640
 himself usually

00:21:26.640 --> 00:21:27.680
 on the other.

00:21:29.940 --> 00:21:30.759
 But so is

00:21:30.759 --> 00:21:31.480
 banishment to the

00:21:31.480 --> 00:21:31.840
 couch.

00:21:34.539 --> 00:21:35.460
 We can use

00:21:35.460 --> 00:21:36.480
 sex as a weapon

00:21:36.480 --> 00:21:38.539
 to manipulate

00:21:38.539 --> 00:21:39.340
 one another

00:21:39.340 --> 00:21:40.660
 in our relationships.

00:21:41.980 --> 00:21:43.360
 We get caught up

00:21:43.360 --> 00:21:44.220
 in the cultural

00:21:44.220 --> 00:21:45.660
 fairy tales

00:21:45.660 --> 00:21:46.640
 that are put forth

00:21:46.640 --> 00:21:47.320
 whether by

00:21:47.320 --> 00:21:48.299
 pornography

00:21:48.299 --> 00:21:49.279
 or chick lit

00:21:49.279 --> 00:21:49.840
 about

00:21:49.840 --> 00:21:51.000
 what it's going

00:21:51.000 --> 00:21:51.740
 to look like.

00:21:51.740 --> 00:21:56.059
 and we've lost

00:21:56.059 --> 00:21:56.779
 God's vision

00:21:56.779 --> 00:21:57.519
 for us.

00:22:00.579 --> 00:22:01.799
 I want to be clear

00:22:01.799 --> 00:22:02.319
 here too

00:22:02.319 --> 00:22:03.779
 because historically

00:22:03.779 --> 00:22:04.460
 and typically

00:22:04.460 --> 00:22:05.160
 this passage

00:22:05.160 --> 00:22:06.039
 has been used

00:22:06.039 --> 00:22:08.519
 by Christian men

00:22:08.519 --> 00:22:09.120
 often

00:22:09.120 --> 00:22:10.200
 not always

00:22:10.200 --> 00:22:11.299
 but by Christian men

00:22:11.299 --> 00:22:11.759
 often

00:22:11.759 --> 00:22:13.180
 to coerce

00:22:13.180 --> 00:22:15.120
 saying

00:22:15.120 --> 00:22:16.120
 you owe me this.

00:22:16.119 --> 00:22:19.459
 it's typically

00:22:19.459 --> 00:22:20.139
 that way

00:22:20.139 --> 00:22:21.539
 although I want

00:22:21.539 --> 00:22:22.059
 to be careful

00:22:22.059 --> 00:22:22.799
 because I don't

00:22:22.799 --> 00:22:23.359
 think the gender

00:22:23.359 --> 00:22:24.279
 stereotypes always

00:22:24.279 --> 00:22:24.619
 fit.

00:22:25.339 --> 00:22:25.859
 I don't know

00:22:25.859 --> 00:22:26.619
 what your marriage

00:22:26.619 --> 00:22:27.079
 is like.

00:22:28.539 --> 00:22:29.519
 The hard issue

00:22:29.519 --> 00:22:29.839
 is

00:22:29.839 --> 00:22:31.739
 do you pursue

00:22:31.739 --> 00:22:32.500
 this part

00:22:32.500 --> 00:22:33.119
 of your marital

00:22:33.119 --> 00:22:33.659
 life

00:22:33.659 --> 00:22:34.979
 selfishly

00:22:34.979 --> 00:22:36.379
 or in a

00:22:36.379 --> 00:22:37.459
 self-sacrificial

00:22:37.459 --> 00:22:39.419
 giving sense?

00:22:39.420 --> 00:22:41.980
 are you willing

00:22:41.980 --> 00:22:43.740
 to give yourself

00:22:43.740 --> 00:22:45.060
 to your spouse

00:22:45.060 --> 00:22:46.019
 when you're not

00:22:46.019 --> 00:22:46.860
 up to it

00:22:46.860 --> 00:22:50.700
 for their pleasure?

00:22:51.140 --> 00:22:51.840
 Are you willing

00:22:51.840 --> 00:22:52.960
 to conduct yourself

00:22:52.960 --> 00:22:54.080
 with your spouse

00:22:54.080 --> 00:22:55.200
 saying

00:22:55.200 --> 00:22:56.560
 my greatest desire

00:22:56.560 --> 00:22:58.019
 is not my own

00:22:58.019 --> 00:23:00.320
 orgasm

00:23:00.320 --> 00:23:03.539
 but my own

00:23:03.539 --> 00:23:05.560
 but my desire

00:23:05.560 --> 00:23:06.800
 is to please them

00:23:06.799 --> 00:23:08.159
 and that they

00:23:08.159 --> 00:23:08.799
 would know

00:23:08.799 --> 00:23:09.599
 that this is

00:23:09.599 --> 00:23:10.700
 an act of love.

00:23:11.519 --> 00:23:12.659
 My greatest desire

00:23:12.659 --> 00:23:13.599
 is for their

00:23:13.599 --> 00:23:14.859
 pleasure in it.

00:23:18.220 --> 00:23:19.339
 Healthy marriages

00:23:19.339 --> 00:23:20.359
 have a healthy

00:23:20.359 --> 00:23:21.119
 sex life.

00:23:22.879 --> 00:23:24.139
 We all know

00:23:24.139 --> 00:23:26.220
 that there are seasons.

00:23:26.700 --> 00:23:27.539
 We all know

00:23:27.539 --> 00:23:28.839
 that there are

00:23:28.839 --> 00:23:29.539
 ups and downs

00:23:29.539 --> 00:23:30.419
 and I'm only

00:23:30.419 --> 00:23:31.379
 47.

00:23:32.259 --> 00:23:32.899
 Some of you

00:23:32.899 --> 00:23:33.379
 have walked

00:23:33.379 --> 00:23:34.220
 further into

00:23:34.220 --> 00:23:35.819
 what that looks

00:23:35.819 --> 00:23:36.419
 like as you

00:23:36.420 --> 00:23:37.039
 grow older.

00:23:38.640 --> 00:23:39.480
 But the Bible

00:23:39.480 --> 00:23:40.420
 knows very little

00:23:40.420 --> 00:23:40.940
 of a husband

00:23:40.940 --> 00:23:41.539
 and wife

00:23:41.539 --> 00:23:42.720
 who have no

00:23:42.720 --> 00:23:44.060
 sexual relations.

00:23:46.539 --> 00:23:47.380
 But broadly

00:23:47.380 --> 00:23:48.039
 defined

00:23:48.039 --> 00:23:49.300
 if it is missing

00:23:49.300 --> 00:23:50.600
 if it is

00:23:50.600 --> 00:23:51.440
 completely not

00:23:51.440 --> 00:23:51.820
 there

00:23:51.820 --> 00:23:54.220
 I'm inviting

00:23:54.220 --> 00:23:55.060
 pastoral counseling

00:23:55.060 --> 00:23:55.960
 I'm sure I am.

00:23:56.160 --> 00:23:56.920
 If it's not

00:23:56.920 --> 00:23:57.400
 there

00:23:57.400 --> 00:23:58.660
 there's a red

00:23:58.660 --> 00:23:59.720
 light on the

00:23:59.720 --> 00:24:00.120
 dashboard

00:24:00.120 --> 00:24:00.940
 saying

00:24:00.940 --> 00:24:03.680
 this marriage

00:24:03.680 --> 00:24:04.420
 might not be

00:24:04.420 --> 00:24:04.980
 all that God

00:24:04.980 --> 00:24:05.820
 wants it to be.

00:24:06.420 --> 00:24:07.880
 it's very

00:24:07.880 --> 00:24:08.740
 likely that

00:24:08.740 --> 00:24:09.800
 the issues

00:24:09.800 --> 00:24:10.920
 are not

00:24:10.920 --> 00:24:11.860
 purely physical

00:24:11.860 --> 00:24:13.180
 they're much

00:24:13.180 --> 00:24:13.600
 deeper

00:24:13.600 --> 00:24:14.539
 and complicated.

00:24:15.740 --> 00:24:16.539
 But part of

00:24:16.539 --> 00:24:17.039
 what Paul is

00:24:17.039 --> 00:24:17.539
 saying here

00:24:17.539 --> 00:24:18.000
 is that this

00:24:18.000 --> 00:24:18.640
 is a normal

00:24:18.640 --> 00:24:19.140
 part

00:24:19.140 --> 00:24:20.460
 of a healthy

00:24:20.460 --> 00:24:21.000
 marriage.

00:24:22.680 --> 00:24:23.180
 Now

00:24:23.180 --> 00:24:24.060
 having said

00:24:24.060 --> 00:24:24.400
 that

00:24:24.400 --> 00:24:25.360
 he then says

00:24:25.360 --> 00:24:26.600
 verses 5 and 6

00:24:26.600 --> 00:24:27.460
 and let's talk

00:24:27.460 --> 00:24:27.940
 about those

00:24:27.940 --> 00:24:28.380
 for a minute.

00:24:30.340 --> 00:24:31.019
 Because then

00:24:31.019 --> 00:24:31.560
 he says

00:24:31.560 --> 00:24:33.300
 look with me

00:24:33.299 --> 00:24:34.159
 again verse 5

00:24:34.159 --> 00:24:35.480
 don't deprive

00:24:35.480 --> 00:24:35.940
 one another.

00:24:36.039 --> 00:24:36.779
 That's the basic

00:24:36.779 --> 00:24:37.339
 thing that he's

00:24:37.339 --> 00:24:37.779
 been saying

00:24:37.779 --> 00:24:38.139
 like you're

00:24:38.139 --> 00:24:38.539
 supposed to

00:24:38.539 --> 00:24:39.299
 give yourselves

00:24:39.299 --> 00:24:40.039
 to one another.

00:24:40.619 --> 00:24:41.180
 Don't deprive

00:24:41.180 --> 00:24:41.659
 one another

00:24:41.659 --> 00:24:42.319
 except

00:24:42.319 --> 00:24:44.000
 except

00:24:44.000 --> 00:24:44.659
 and then he has

00:24:44.659 --> 00:24:45.039
 all these

00:24:45.039 --> 00:24:45.759
 qualifications

00:24:45.759 --> 00:24:46.379
 on what it

00:24:46.379 --> 00:24:47.039
 looks like.

00:24:47.759 --> 00:24:48.200
 Except

00:24:48.200 --> 00:24:49.440
 for a time

00:24:49.440 --> 00:24:50.619
 this shouldn't

00:24:50.619 --> 00:24:51.779
 be a long

00:24:51.779 --> 00:24:52.379
 term commitment

00:24:52.379 --> 00:24:53.539
 but for a time

00:24:53.539 --> 00:24:55.180
 it should be

00:24:55.180 --> 00:24:56.059
 for a purpose

00:24:56.059 --> 00:24:58.559
 and the purpose

00:24:58.559 --> 00:24:59.319
 seems to be

00:24:59.319 --> 00:24:59.980
 in mind here

00:24:59.980 --> 00:25:00.599
 kind of like

00:25:00.599 --> 00:25:01.179
 fasting.

00:25:01.679 --> 00:25:02.259
 Fasting is

00:25:02.259 --> 00:25:02.919
 seeing something

00:25:02.919 --> 00:25:03.559
 that God has

00:25:03.559 --> 00:25:04.000
 given us

00:25:04.000 --> 00:25:04.679
 that is good

00:25:04.679 --> 00:25:05.240
 and saying

00:25:05.240 --> 00:25:06.059
 I'm not

00:25:06.059 --> 00:25:06.339
 going to

00:25:06.339 --> 00:25:06.879
 partake of

00:25:06.879 --> 00:25:07.299
 that for

00:25:07.299 --> 00:25:07.779
 a period

00:25:07.779 --> 00:25:08.319
 of time

00:25:08.319 --> 00:25:09.000
 for the

00:25:09.000 --> 00:25:09.339
 sake of

00:25:09.339 --> 00:25:09.759
 focusing

00:25:09.759 --> 00:25:10.279
 solely

00:25:10.279 --> 00:25:10.679
 on the

00:25:10.679 --> 00:25:10.980
 Lord

00:25:10.980 --> 00:25:11.799
 because we

00:25:11.799 --> 00:25:12.599
 so easily

00:25:12.599 --> 00:25:13.899
 put our

00:25:13.899 --> 00:25:14.240
 hopes

00:25:14.240 --> 00:25:14.639
 and our

00:25:14.639 --> 00:25:14.960
 dreams

00:25:14.960 --> 00:25:15.919
 and our

00:25:15.919 --> 00:25:16.359
 attention

00:25:16.359 --> 00:25:16.919
 on the

00:25:16.919 --> 00:25:17.259
 things that

00:25:17.259 --> 00:25:17.679
 God gives

00:25:17.679 --> 00:25:18.159
 us instead

00:25:18.159 --> 00:25:18.539
 of God

00:25:18.539 --> 00:25:19.000
 himself.

00:25:20.519 --> 00:25:21.139
 So it

00:25:21.139 --> 00:25:21.480
 seems like

00:25:21.480 --> 00:25:21.919
 that's the

00:25:21.919 --> 00:25:22.379
 purpose

00:25:22.379 --> 00:25:23.759
 right?

00:25:24.799 --> 00:25:25.299
 Thirdly

00:25:25.299 --> 00:25:25.919
 it's meant

00:25:25.919 --> 00:25:26.279
 to be

00:25:26.279 --> 00:25:27.159
 by agreement.

00:25:27.579 --> 00:25:27.919
 It's a

00:25:27.919 --> 00:25:28.259
 beautiful

00:25:28.259 --> 00:25:28.619
 picture.

00:25:28.720 --> 00:25:29.019
 It actually

00:25:29.019 --> 00:25:29.720
 means in

00:25:29.720 --> 00:25:30.460
 concert or

00:25:30.460 --> 00:25:31.139
 in symphony

00:25:31.139 --> 00:25:31.980
 that this

00:25:31.980 --> 00:25:32.379
 is something

00:25:32.379 --> 00:25:32.759
 that you

00:25:32.759 --> 00:25:33.200
 would do

00:25:33.200 --> 00:25:33.919
 together

00:25:33.919 --> 00:25:34.680
 to say

00:25:34.680 --> 00:25:35.079
 no we're

00:25:35.079 --> 00:25:35.440
 not going

00:25:35.440 --> 00:25:35.659
 to do

00:25:35.659 --> 00:25:35.859
 this

00:25:35.859 --> 00:25:36.200
 together

00:25:36.200 --> 00:25:36.500
 because

00:25:36.500 --> 00:25:37.519
 we as

00:25:37.519 --> 00:25:37.960
 a couple

00:25:37.960 --> 00:25:38.359
 want to

00:25:38.359 --> 00:25:38.639
 pursue

00:25:38.639 --> 00:25:39.259
 the Lord

00:25:39.259 --> 00:25:40.240
 together

00:25:40.240 --> 00:25:43.240
 and again

00:25:43.240 --> 00:25:43.700
 at the end

00:25:43.700 --> 00:25:44.440
 with a plan

00:25:44.440 --> 00:25:44.879
 to come

00:25:44.879 --> 00:25:45.180
 back

00:25:45.180 --> 00:25:45.720
 together.

00:25:49.720 --> 00:25:50.539
 So Paul

00:25:50.539 --> 00:25:50.839
 says

00:25:50.839 --> 00:25:51.740
 there is a

00:25:51.740 --> 00:25:52.339
 reason why

00:25:52.339 --> 00:25:53.019
 maybe you

00:25:53.019 --> 00:25:53.799
 wouldn't pursue

00:25:53.799 --> 00:25:54.579
 this normal

00:25:54.579 --> 00:25:55.000
 healthy

00:25:55.000 --> 00:25:55.460
 pattern.

00:26:01.220 --> 00:26:01.740
 Here we

00:26:01.740 --> 00:26:02.000
 go into

00:26:02.000 --> 00:26:02.400
 the weeds.

00:26:03.700 --> 00:26:04.140
 Pastorally

00:26:04.140 --> 00:26:05.039
 I think

00:26:05.039 --> 00:26:05.319
 there are

00:26:05.319 --> 00:26:05.779
 some other

00:26:05.779 --> 00:26:06.599
 times when

00:26:06.599 --> 00:26:06.880
 it is

00:26:06.880 --> 00:26:07.559
 appropriate

00:26:07.559 --> 00:26:08.859
 for there

00:26:08.859 --> 00:26:09.299
 to be an

00:26:09.299 --> 00:26:09.839
 abstention

00:26:09.839 --> 00:26:10.200
 for a

00:26:10.200 --> 00:26:10.640
 period of

00:26:10.640 --> 00:26:10.960
 time.

00:26:13.019 --> 00:26:13.619
 I can

00:26:13.619 --> 00:26:14.160
 think of

00:26:14.160 --> 00:26:14.779
 a friend

00:26:14.779 --> 00:26:15.279
 of mine

00:26:15.279 --> 00:26:16.480
 who was

00:26:16.480 --> 00:26:16.799
 sexually

00:26:16.799 --> 00:26:17.259
 abused

00:26:17.259 --> 00:26:17.599
 as a

00:26:17.599 --> 00:26:18.000
 child.

00:26:19.299 --> 00:26:19.980
 When she

00:26:19.980 --> 00:26:20.680
 got married

00:26:20.680 --> 00:26:21.980
 her husband

00:26:21.980 --> 00:26:24.000
 lovingly

00:26:24.000 --> 00:26:25.339
 and patiently

00:26:25.339 --> 00:26:26.860
 walked

00:26:26.860 --> 00:26:27.640
 through with

00:26:27.640 --> 00:26:28.059
 her

00:26:28.059 --> 00:26:29.299
 a process

00:26:29.299 --> 00:26:29.940
 of healing

00:26:29.940 --> 00:26:31.940
 my guess

00:26:31.940 --> 00:26:32.360
 is it was

00:26:32.360 --> 00:26:33.180
 a long

00:26:33.180 --> 00:26:33.759
 road.

00:26:34.759 --> 00:26:35.440
 I don't

00:26:35.440 --> 00:26:35.740
 know the

00:26:35.740 --> 00:26:36.160
 details.

00:26:36.559 --> 00:26:36.940
 I certainly

00:26:36.940 --> 00:26:37.339
 won't share

00:26:37.339 --> 00:26:37.620
 them with

00:26:37.620 --> 00:26:37.819
 you.

00:26:38.319 --> 00:26:38.839
 But it was

00:26:38.839 --> 00:26:39.299
 a long

00:26:39.299 --> 00:26:39.819
 road

00:26:39.819 --> 00:26:40.859
 good for

00:26:40.859 --> 00:26:42.059
 them to

00:26:42.059 --> 00:26:42.839
 grow in

00:26:42.839 --> 00:26:43.500
 this area

00:26:43.500 --> 00:26:44.399
 given the

00:26:44.399 --> 00:26:44.980
 hurt and

00:26:44.980 --> 00:26:45.599
 the scars

00:26:45.599 --> 00:26:46.079
 of her

00:26:46.079 --> 00:26:46.579
 past.

00:26:46.579 --> 00:26:50.960
 If that

00:26:50.960 --> 00:26:51.539
 is true

00:26:51.539 --> 00:26:52.539
 for you

00:26:52.539 --> 00:26:53.619
 there is

00:26:53.619 --> 00:26:53.919
 a need

00:26:53.919 --> 00:26:54.359
 for much

00:26:54.359 --> 00:26:54.799
 grace

00:26:54.799 --> 00:26:55.419
 and much

00:26:55.419 --> 00:26:56.359
 patience.

00:26:59.059 --> 00:27:00.039
 But what I

00:27:00.039 --> 00:27:00.619
 would say

00:27:00.619 --> 00:27:01.960
 is I

00:27:01.960 --> 00:27:02.939
 hope that

00:27:02.939 --> 00:27:03.599
 even if you

00:27:03.599 --> 00:27:04.039
 are someone

00:27:04.039 --> 00:27:04.659
 with those

00:27:04.659 --> 00:27:05.960
 scars you

00:27:05.960 --> 00:27:07.720
 would long

00:27:07.720 --> 00:27:08.919
 for the

00:27:08.919 --> 00:27:09.879
 healing and

00:27:09.879 --> 00:27:10.399
 the growth

00:27:10.399 --> 00:27:10.740
 and the

00:27:10.740 --> 00:27:12.019
 ability to

00:27:12.019 --> 00:27:12.539
 please your

00:27:12.539 --> 00:27:14.139
 spouse in

00:27:14.139 --> 00:27:14.439
 the middle

00:27:14.439 --> 00:27:14.879
 of that.

00:27:15.259 --> 00:27:15.639
 That there

00:27:15.639 --> 00:27:16.019
 would be a

00:27:16.019 --> 00:27:16.519
 trajectory

00:27:16.519 --> 00:27:17.359
 not of

00:27:17.359 --> 00:27:18.019
 I can't

00:27:18.019 --> 00:27:18.539
 go there

00:27:18.539 --> 00:27:19.500
 done.

00:27:19.859 --> 00:27:20.379
 End of

00:27:20.379 --> 00:27:21.039
 conversation.

00:27:21.259 --> 00:27:21.819
 But I

00:27:21.819 --> 00:27:22.339
 can't go

00:27:22.339 --> 00:27:22.839
 there right

00:27:22.839 --> 00:27:23.680
 now and I

00:27:23.680 --> 00:27:24.039
 don't know

00:27:24.039 --> 00:27:24.559
 how I can

00:27:24.559 --> 00:27:25.240
 ever get to

00:27:25.240 --> 00:27:25.879
 going there

00:27:25.879 --> 00:27:26.940
 but gosh I

00:27:26.940 --> 00:27:27.400
 want to

00:27:27.400 --> 00:27:27.779
 because I

00:27:27.779 --> 00:27:28.299
 love you.

00:27:30.940 --> 00:27:31.660
 And that

00:27:31.660 --> 00:27:32.240
 the spouse

00:27:32.240 --> 00:27:32.980
 who is

00:27:32.980 --> 00:27:33.700
 loving that

00:27:33.700 --> 00:27:34.079
 abused

00:27:34.079 --> 00:27:34.740
 spouse would

00:27:34.740 --> 00:27:35.379
 be patient

00:27:35.379 --> 00:27:36.579
 and not

00:27:36.579 --> 00:27:37.079
 demanding.

00:27:38.079 --> 00:27:38.519
 It would

00:27:38.519 --> 00:27:38.920
 be self

00:27:38.920 --> 00:27:39.379
 controlled.

00:27:42.480 --> 00:27:43.079
 Similarly

00:27:43.079 --> 00:27:43.740
 in the

00:27:43.740 --> 00:27:44.440
 aftermath of

00:27:44.440 --> 00:27:45.019
 infidelity

00:27:45.019 --> 00:27:46.879
 I think

00:27:46.879 --> 00:27:47.279
 there's a

00:27:47.279 --> 00:27:47.599
 lot of

00:27:47.599 --> 00:27:48.339
 room for

00:27:48.339 --> 00:27:49.099
 rebuilding

00:27:49.099 --> 00:27:49.819
 of trust.

00:27:52.339 --> 00:27:52.980
 There is

00:27:52.980 --> 00:27:53.539
 no place

00:27:53.539 --> 00:27:53.879
 for a

00:27:53.879 --> 00:27:54.619
 demand of

00:27:54.619 --> 00:27:56.019
 I know

00:27:56.019 --> 00:27:56.519
 I cheated

00:27:56.519 --> 00:27:56.920
 on you

00:27:56.920 --> 00:27:57.900
 but the

00:27:57.900 --> 00:27:58.420
 Bible says

00:27:58.420 --> 00:27:58.920
 this is my

00:27:58.920 --> 00:27:59.579
 right so

00:27:59.579 --> 00:28:00.379
 you need

00:28:00.379 --> 00:28:00.740
 to give.

00:28:03.519 --> 00:28:03.819
 I think

00:28:03.819 --> 00:28:04.220
 there's

00:28:04.220 --> 00:28:05.299
 again there's

00:28:05.299 --> 00:28:05.960
 a trajectory

00:28:05.960 --> 00:28:07.319
 in the wake

00:28:07.319 --> 00:28:08.079
 of infidelity

00:28:08.079 --> 00:28:08.940
 the hope is

00:28:08.940 --> 00:28:09.440
 that there's a

00:28:09.440 --> 00:28:10.759
 rebuilding of a

00:28:10.759 --> 00:28:11.420
 marriage and of

00:28:11.420 --> 00:28:12.079
 that trust

00:28:12.079 --> 00:28:12.839
 and the

00:28:12.839 --> 00:28:13.379
 trajectory is

00:28:13.379 --> 00:28:13.659
 we're going

00:28:13.659 --> 00:28:13.899
 to get

00:28:13.899 --> 00:28:14.220
 there.

00:28:17.139 --> 00:28:17.659
 But I

00:28:17.659 --> 00:28:18.220
 also think

00:28:18.220 --> 00:28:18.619
 that there's

00:28:18.619 --> 00:28:19.079
 a lot of

00:28:19.079 --> 00:28:19.480
 room for

00:28:19.480 --> 00:28:20.000
 patience.

00:28:22.539 --> 00:28:23.019
 Certainly

00:28:23.019 --> 00:28:24.359
 there are

00:28:24.359 --> 00:28:24.799
 lots of

00:28:24.799 --> 00:28:25.579
 health reasons

00:28:25.579 --> 00:28:26.579
 why this

00:28:26.579 --> 00:28:27.220
 might happen.

00:28:29.220 --> 00:28:29.919
 Right after

00:28:29.919 --> 00:28:30.659
 a child is

00:28:30.659 --> 00:28:31.960
 born there's

00:28:31.960 --> 00:28:32.659
 almost always

00:28:32.659 --> 00:28:33.199
 a recovery

00:28:33.199 --> 00:28:34.960
 time for

00:28:34.960 --> 00:28:35.299
 a mother.

00:28:35.299 --> 00:28:40.720
 the vision

00:28:40.720 --> 00:28:41.440
 of marital

00:28:41.440 --> 00:28:42.019
 union and

00:28:42.019 --> 00:28:42.519
 intimacy

00:28:42.519 --> 00:28:47.519
 doesn't

00:28:47.519 --> 00:28:48.539
 overrun some

00:28:48.539 --> 00:28:48.919
 of these

00:28:48.919 --> 00:28:49.519
 realities.

00:28:51.139 --> 00:28:51.879
 I came

00:28:51.879 --> 00:28:52.399
 across a

00:28:52.399 --> 00:28:53.000
 story this

00:28:53.000 --> 00:28:54.519
 week about

00:28:54.519 --> 00:28:55.200
 a guy who's

00:28:55.200 --> 00:28:55.740
 suffering from

00:28:55.740 --> 00:28:56.659
 prostate cancer

00:28:56.659 --> 00:28:59.919
 and I want

00:28:59.919 --> 00:29:00.419
 to share it

00:29:00.419 --> 00:29:01.220
 just to give

00:29:01.220 --> 00:29:01.720
 you a sense

00:29:01.720 --> 00:29:02.119
 because I

00:29:02.119 --> 00:29:02.480
 think this

00:29:02.480 --> 00:29:03.159
 guy gets

00:29:03.159 --> 00:29:04.299
 it in some

00:29:04.299 --> 00:29:04.960
 really powerful

00:29:04.960 --> 00:29:05.259
 ways.

00:29:05.299 --> 00:29:05.579
 And I think

00:29:05.579 --> 00:29:06.299
 his wife does

00:29:06.299 --> 00:29:06.639
 too.

00:29:07.039 --> 00:29:07.399
 Some of

00:29:07.399 --> 00:29:08.019
 these dynamics.

00:29:08.859 --> 00:29:09.419
 This is what

00:29:09.419 --> 00:29:10.059
 he writes about

00:29:10.059 --> 00:29:10.480
 himself.

00:29:11.139 --> 00:29:11.720
 And this is

00:29:11.720 --> 00:29:12.460
 slightly edited

00:29:12.460 --> 00:29:12.980
 because it was

00:29:12.980 --> 00:29:13.440
 a little more

00:29:13.440 --> 00:29:14.180
 graphic than I'm

00:29:14.180 --> 00:29:14.680
 willing to be

00:29:14.680 --> 00:29:15.159
 this morning.

00:29:15.500 --> 00:29:17.099
 So if it's

00:29:17.099 --> 00:29:18.039
 too graphic for

00:29:18.039 --> 00:29:18.419
 you I'm

00:29:18.419 --> 00:29:18.700
 sorry.

00:29:19.659 --> 00:29:20.740
 Right now I'm

00:29:20.740 --> 00:29:21.379
 not quite what

00:29:21.379 --> 00:29:21.940
 you would call

00:29:21.940 --> 00:29:22.460
 a catch.

00:29:22.639 --> 00:29:23.399
 I wear man

00:29:23.399 --> 00:29:24.019
 pads for

00:29:24.019 --> 00:29:24.579
 intermittent

00:29:24.579 --> 00:29:25.440
 incontinence.

00:29:25.859 --> 00:29:26.139
 I'm a

00:29:26.139 --> 00:29:26.659
 bizarre of

00:29:26.659 --> 00:29:27.399
 scars and I've

00:29:27.399 --> 00:29:28.039
 been unable to

00:29:28.039 --> 00:29:28.799
 perform sexually

00:29:28.799 --> 00:29:29.419
 for several

00:29:29.419 --> 00:29:29.879
 months.

00:29:30.279 --> 00:29:30.879
 Most nights

00:29:30.879 --> 00:29:31.379
 I'm in bed

00:29:31.379 --> 00:29:31.960
 by ten.

00:29:32.460 --> 00:29:33.039
 The Lupron

00:29:33.039 --> 00:29:34.000
 hormone shots

00:29:34.000 --> 00:29:34.759
 have sent my

00:29:34.759 --> 00:29:35.579
 sex drive lower

00:29:35.579 --> 00:29:36.220
 than the stock

00:29:36.220 --> 00:29:37.619
 market and

00:29:37.619 --> 00:29:38.599
 given me hot

00:29:38.599 --> 00:29:39.279
 flashes so

00:29:39.279 --> 00:29:39.920
 fierce that I

00:29:39.920 --> 00:29:40.720
 sweat outdoors

00:29:40.720 --> 00:29:41.480
 when it's 20

00:29:41.480 --> 00:29:42.180
 degrees and

00:29:42.180 --> 00:29:42.859
 snowing.

00:29:43.960 --> 00:29:44.619
 Pretty attractive

00:29:44.619 --> 00:29:44.920
 huh?

00:29:45.160 --> 00:29:45.759
 There's a hunk

00:29:45.759 --> 00:29:46.339
 of guy for

00:29:46.339 --> 00:29:46.500
 you.

00:29:47.500 --> 00:29:48.160
 Even so

00:29:48.160 --> 00:29:48.980
 Deb has taught

00:29:48.980 --> 00:29:49.940
 me that love

00:29:49.940 --> 00:29:50.480
 is in the

00:29:50.480 --> 00:29:50.960
 details.

00:29:51.539 --> 00:29:51.900
 Humid

00:29:51.900 --> 00:29:52.700
 professions of

00:29:52.700 --> 00:29:53.420
 undying love

00:29:53.420 --> 00:29:53.799
 and tear

00:29:53.799 --> 00:29:54.559
 stained sonnets

00:29:54.559 --> 00:29:55.059
 are all well

00:29:55.059 --> 00:29:56.019
 and good but

00:29:56.019 --> 00:29:56.480
 they can't

00:29:56.480 --> 00:29:57.079
 compete with

00:29:57.079 --> 00:29:57.539
 the earthly

00:29:57.539 --> 00:29:58.359
 love of Deb

00:29:58.359 --> 00:29:58.960
 helping me

00:29:58.960 --> 00:30:00.059
 change and

00:30:00.059 --> 00:30:00.539
 drain my

00:30:00.539 --> 00:30:01.519
 catheter pouches

00:30:01.519 --> 00:30:02.720
 every day when

00:30:02.720 --> 00:30:03.420
 I come home from

00:30:03.420 --> 00:30:04.000
 the hospital.

00:30:05.060 --> 00:30:06.039
 When I say to

00:30:06.039 --> 00:30:06.680
 Deb I love

00:30:06.680 --> 00:30:07.380
 you I mean it

00:30:07.380 --> 00:30:07.900
 and when she

00:30:07.900 --> 00:30:08.900
 responds I love

00:30:08.900 --> 00:30:09.620
 you more she

00:30:09.620 --> 00:30:10.380
 means it too.

00:30:10.960 --> 00:30:11.660
 We understand

00:30:11.660 --> 00:30:12.480
 that time

00:30:12.480 --> 00:30:13.700
 perhaps is not

00:30:13.700 --> 00:30:15.200
 on our side.

00:30:16.240 --> 00:30:17.019
 Time we are

00:30:17.019 --> 00:30:17.720
 told will give

00:30:17.720 --> 00:30:18.580
 us our sex life

00:30:18.580 --> 00:30:18.960
 back.

00:30:19.420 --> 00:30:20.120
 As I said the

00:30:20.120 --> 00:30:20.800
 hormone shots

00:30:20.800 --> 00:30:21.420
 have shut down

00:30:21.420 --> 00:30:22.140
 my sex drive

00:30:22.140 --> 00:30:23.180
 and physically I

00:30:23.180 --> 00:30:23.740
 am still in

00:30:23.740 --> 00:30:25.160
 recovery from

00:30:25.160 --> 00:30:26.120
 surgery and

00:30:26.120 --> 00:30:26.860
 from radiation.

00:30:27.600 --> 00:30:28.500
 But as we

00:30:28.500 --> 00:30:29.420
 wait I tell you

00:30:29.420 --> 00:30:30.660
 this love abides.

00:30:31.200 --> 00:30:32.019
 Yes yes and

00:30:32.019 --> 00:30:33.039
 yes lust is

00:30:33.039 --> 00:30:33.779
 essential but

00:30:33.779 --> 00:30:34.859
 right now sex

00:30:34.859 --> 00:30:35.720
 seems quaint.

00:30:36.500 --> 00:30:37.319
 Old fashioned.

00:30:38.480 --> 00:30:39.460
 Oddly enough it

00:30:39.460 --> 00:30:40.379
 can't compete with

00:30:40.379 --> 00:30:40.980
 the depth and

00:30:40.980 --> 00:30:41.680
 gravity of a

00:30:41.680 --> 00:30:43.099
 light touch or

00:30:43.099 --> 00:30:44.420
 sly glance.

00:30:45.839 --> 00:30:46.839
 I'm in the mood

00:30:46.839 --> 00:30:47.559
 for the Beatles

00:30:47.559 --> 00:30:48.400
 and I want to

00:30:48.400 --> 00:30:49.240
 hold your hand.

00:30:49.480 --> 00:30:50.559
 Not Grace Jones

00:30:50.559 --> 00:30:51.900
 growling pull up

00:30:51.900 --> 00:30:52.579
 to my bumper

00:30:52.579 --> 00:30:52.960
 baby.

00:30:54.180 --> 00:30:55.099
 Don't get me

00:30:55.099 --> 00:30:55.440
 wrong.

00:30:56.220 --> 00:30:57.000
 I really really

00:30:57.000 --> 00:30:58.119
 like sex but

00:30:58.119 --> 00:30:58.819
 given a choice

00:30:58.819 --> 00:30:59.480
 between the mere

00:30:59.480 --> 00:31:00.799
 biology of lust and

00:31:00.799 --> 00:31:03.000
 the deep soul of

00:31:03.000 --> 00:31:04.500
 love I will

00:31:04.500 --> 00:31:05.159
 take love.

00:31:06.680 --> 00:31:07.519
 I just thought

00:31:07.519 --> 00:31:08.359
 this is such a

00:31:08.359 --> 00:31:09.559
 beautiful picture of

00:31:09.559 --> 00:31:10.599
 the balance that I

00:31:10.599 --> 00:31:11.279
 think Paul is

00:31:11.279 --> 00:31:12.079
 trying to get and

00:31:12.079 --> 00:31:13.579
 what I pastorly am

00:31:13.579 --> 00:31:14.500
 trying to bring to

00:31:14.500 --> 00:31:15.399
 you this morning.

00:31:16.500 --> 00:31:17.299
 Sex is a good

00:31:17.299 --> 00:31:17.680
 thing.

00:31:17.799 --> 00:31:18.720
 It's a normal part

00:31:18.720 --> 00:31:19.240
 of a healthy

00:31:19.240 --> 00:31:20.059
 marriage and it

00:31:20.059 --> 00:31:21.200
 ought to be pursued

00:31:21.200 --> 00:31:21.899
 and desired.

00:31:22.440 --> 00:31:23.039
 And that's what I

00:31:23.039 --> 00:31:23.359
 see.

00:31:23.500 --> 00:31:24.059
 I see in this

00:31:24.059 --> 00:31:24.839
 couple yes we

00:31:24.839 --> 00:31:25.419
 want that.

00:31:26.879 --> 00:31:27.940
 But right now

00:31:27.940 --> 00:31:28.980
 there's a lot of

00:31:28.980 --> 00:31:29.779
 patience and there's

00:31:29.779 --> 00:31:30.519
 a lot of grace and

00:31:30.519 --> 00:31:31.119
 there's a lot of

00:31:31.119 --> 00:31:31.879
 learning that love

00:31:31.879 --> 00:31:32.740
 is actually much

00:31:32.740 --> 00:31:33.759
 deeper and broader

00:31:33.759 --> 00:31:35.319
 than our sex life.

00:31:35.399 --> 00:31:35.879
 It's an important

00:31:35.879 --> 00:31:36.740
 part of it but it's

00:31:36.740 --> 00:31:37.660
 not the essence or

00:31:37.660 --> 00:31:38.700
 the substance of it.

00:31:39.500 --> 00:31:40.559
 And in fact

00:31:40.559 --> 00:31:44.180
 not only that

00:31:44.180 --> 00:31:45.399
 but they have

00:31:45.399 --> 00:31:47.500
 but they also

00:31:47.500 --> 00:31:48.720
 recognize

00:31:48.720 --> 00:31:50.139
 that

00:31:50.139 --> 00:31:56.039
 in the midst

00:31:56.039 --> 00:31:56.740
 of it all

00:31:56.740 --> 00:31:58.700
 there can be

00:31:58.700 --> 00:31:59.440
 forms of

00:31:59.440 --> 00:32:00.200
 seeking to

00:32:00.200 --> 00:32:00.759
 please one

00:32:00.759 --> 00:32:01.480
 another even

00:32:01.480 --> 00:32:02.700
 physically that

00:32:02.700 --> 00:32:03.539
 don't have to

00:32:03.539 --> 00:32:05.319
 do with

00:32:05.319 --> 00:32:06.279
 acrobatic

00:32:06.279 --> 00:32:08.440
 gymnastics or

00:32:08.440 --> 00:32:10.220
 even the very

00:32:10.220 --> 00:32:12.399
 functional parts

00:32:12.399 --> 00:32:13.639
 of intercourse.

00:32:14.619 --> 00:32:15.559
 The sexual

00:32:15.559 --> 00:32:17.299
 pleasing of one

00:32:17.299 --> 00:32:18.440
 another can be a

00:32:18.440 --> 00:32:19.099
 very broad

00:32:19.099 --> 00:32:20.079
 category and I

00:32:20.079 --> 00:32:20.579
 think it's really

00:32:20.579 --> 00:32:21.319
 interesting that he

00:32:21.319 --> 00:32:22.019
 nodded to that.

00:32:22.099 --> 00:32:23.200
 He said you know

00:32:23.200 --> 00:32:24.279
 that other stuff

00:32:24.279 --> 00:32:26.000
 like that's fun but

00:32:26.000 --> 00:32:26.899
 but there's another

00:32:26.899 --> 00:32:28.399
 kind of loving one

00:32:28.399 --> 00:32:29.960
 another that happens

00:32:29.960 --> 00:32:31.420
 in these seasons that

00:32:31.420 --> 00:32:32.059
 is different

00:32:32.059 --> 00:32:34.720
 and can be very

00:32:34.720 --> 00:32:35.200
 beautiful.

00:32:39.359 --> 00:32:40.680
 You singles are like

00:32:40.680 --> 00:32:41.559
 are we done with

00:32:41.559 --> 00:32:42.099
 this yet?

00:32:42.759 --> 00:32:43.799
 This is not

00:32:43.799 --> 00:32:44.259
 helpful.

00:32:44.259 --> 00:32:47.640
 but I hope that

00:32:47.640 --> 00:32:48.400
 you will see

00:32:48.400 --> 00:32:49.519
 that actually

00:32:49.519 --> 00:32:51.319
 it is helpful.

00:32:52.119 --> 00:32:52.700
 It's helpful

00:32:52.700 --> 00:32:53.559
 for those of you

00:32:53.559 --> 00:32:53.900
 who are married

00:32:53.900 --> 00:32:54.660
 to ask yourselves

00:32:54.660 --> 00:32:55.299
 the questions

00:32:55.299 --> 00:32:56.539
 am I giving myself

00:32:56.539 --> 00:32:57.319
 to my spouse

00:32:57.319 --> 00:32:57.839
 physically?

00:32:58.299 --> 00:32:59.319
 Am I available?

00:32:59.759 --> 00:33:00.779
 Am I depriving

00:33:00.779 --> 00:33:01.140
 them?

00:33:01.559 --> 00:33:02.759
 Am I using sex

00:33:02.759 --> 00:33:03.440
 as a weapon

00:33:03.440 --> 00:33:04.779
 or manipulation

00:33:04.779 --> 00:33:06.099
 in my marriage?

00:33:06.480 --> 00:33:07.599
 Am I selfishly

00:33:07.599 --> 00:33:08.539
 forcing myself

00:33:08.539 --> 00:33:09.599
 on my spouse?

00:33:09.599 --> 00:33:12.500
 All right

00:33:12.500 --> 00:33:12.959
 for those of you

00:33:12.959 --> 00:33:13.359
 who are single

00:33:13.359 --> 00:33:14.079
 here's your first

00:33:14.079 --> 00:33:15.519
 application.

00:33:17.799 --> 00:33:18.240
 Golly

00:33:18.240 --> 00:33:19.219
 what does your

00:33:19.219 --> 00:33:20.019
 dating life look

00:33:20.019 --> 00:33:20.359
 like?

00:33:21.059 --> 00:33:22.319
 Is it selfish

00:33:22.319 --> 00:33:23.579
 or is it

00:33:23.579 --> 00:33:24.279
 selfless?

00:33:26.019 --> 00:33:26.779
 What are the

00:33:26.779 --> 00:33:27.559
 physical boundaries

00:33:27.559 --> 00:33:28.519
 that you've set up

00:33:28.519 --> 00:33:29.299
 to honor

00:33:29.299 --> 00:33:31.039
 the marriage bed

00:33:31.039 --> 00:33:31.579
 by saying

00:33:31.579 --> 00:33:32.159
 there are lots

00:33:32.159 --> 00:33:32.559
 of things

00:33:32.559 --> 00:33:33.279
 that I don't

00:33:33.279 --> 00:33:34.019
 need to do

00:33:34.019 --> 00:33:35.859
 until such a time

00:33:35.859 --> 00:33:36.619
 as God may give

00:33:36.619 --> 00:33:37.299
 me a spouse

00:33:37.299 --> 00:33:38.819
 and I'm not

00:33:38.819 --> 00:33:40.180
 going to

00:33:40.180 --> 00:33:41.599
 jump the line

00:33:41.599 --> 00:33:42.079
 on that.

00:33:44.159 --> 00:33:44.960
 And when you're

00:33:44.960 --> 00:33:45.940
 looking for someone

00:33:45.940 --> 00:33:46.519
 who's going to

00:33:46.519 --> 00:33:47.220
 walk with you

00:33:47.220 --> 00:33:47.819
 through all the

00:33:47.819 --> 00:33:48.359
 ups and downs

00:33:48.359 --> 00:33:48.940
 of life

00:33:48.940 --> 00:33:51.619
 make sure it's

00:33:51.619 --> 00:33:52.159
 someone who isn't

00:33:52.159 --> 00:33:52.559
 going to push

00:33:52.559 --> 00:33:53.159
 those boundaries

00:33:53.159 --> 00:33:54.819
 because if they're

00:33:54.819 --> 00:33:55.519
 selfish in their

00:33:55.519 --> 00:33:56.099
 dating life

00:33:56.099 --> 00:33:56.500
 they're going to

00:33:56.500 --> 00:33:57.200
 be more selfish

00:33:57.200 --> 00:33:57.960
 in their marriage.

00:34:01.740 --> 00:34:02.339
 All right

00:34:02.339 --> 00:34:03.139
 so

00:34:03.139 --> 00:34:04.779
 having held up

00:34:04.779 --> 00:34:05.740
 this incredibly

00:34:05.740 --> 00:34:06.659
 high view

00:34:06.660 --> 00:34:08.320
 of marriage

00:34:08.320 --> 00:34:09.220
 and particularly

00:34:09.220 --> 00:34:10.599
 marital sex

00:34:10.599 --> 00:34:11.900
 as a joy

00:34:11.900 --> 00:34:12.619
 and a blessing

00:34:12.619 --> 00:34:14.059
 and as a guard

00:34:14.059 --> 00:34:14.840
 against sexual

00:34:14.840 --> 00:34:15.579
 infidelity

00:34:15.579 --> 00:34:16.700
 even.

00:34:17.760 --> 00:34:18.599
 Little side note

00:34:18.599 --> 00:34:18.980
 on that.

00:34:19.300 --> 00:34:20.119
 It's very easy

00:34:20.119 --> 00:34:20.659
 to think

00:34:20.659 --> 00:34:21.659
 that that can be

00:34:21.659 --> 00:34:22.360
 used as a weapon

00:34:22.360 --> 00:34:22.700
 too.

00:34:22.900 --> 00:34:23.720
 Hey Paul says

00:34:23.720 --> 00:34:24.539
 like I'm going

00:34:24.539 --> 00:34:25.119
 to go wander

00:34:25.119 --> 00:34:25.639
 if you don't

00:34:25.639 --> 00:34:26.220
 give to me

00:34:26.220 --> 00:34:27.780
 so you know

00:34:27.780 --> 00:34:28.579
 you got to

00:34:28.579 --> 00:34:29.380
 give right?

00:34:29.800 --> 00:34:30.599
 And what he's

00:34:30.599 --> 00:34:31.059
 saying is no

00:34:31.059 --> 00:34:31.360
 no no

00:34:31.360 --> 00:34:32.260
 that's the wrong

00:34:32.260 --> 00:34:32.619
 spirit.

00:34:32.760 --> 00:34:33.599
 It is true

00:34:33.599 --> 00:34:34.320
 that a healthy

00:34:34.320 --> 00:34:35.260
 sex life is a

00:34:35.260 --> 00:34:35.900
 good boundary

00:34:35.900 --> 00:34:36.860
 to help

00:34:36.860 --> 00:34:37.940
 us from

00:34:37.940 --> 00:34:38.579
 wander into

00:34:38.579 --> 00:34:40.079
 sexual immorality

00:34:40.079 --> 00:34:40.800
 and infidelity

00:34:40.800 --> 00:34:41.980
 but it can

00:34:41.980 --> 00:34:42.720
 never be used

00:34:42.720 --> 00:34:43.340
 to manipulate

00:34:43.340 --> 00:34:44.000
 or to force

00:34:44.000 --> 00:34:44.480
 like that.

00:34:44.760 --> 00:34:45.240
 It's contrary

00:34:45.240 --> 00:34:45.900
 to the whole

00:34:45.900 --> 00:34:46.440
 sense of

00:34:46.440 --> 00:34:47.240
 mutuality

00:34:47.240 --> 00:34:48.200
 and seeking

00:34:48.200 --> 00:34:49.019
 one's pleasure

00:34:49.019 --> 00:34:49.619
 that Paul

00:34:49.619 --> 00:34:50.059
 is holding

00:34:50.059 --> 00:34:50.599
 up here.

00:34:52.160 --> 00:34:52.440
 All right

00:34:52.440 --> 00:34:54.180
 Paul goes

00:34:54.180 --> 00:34:54.480
 on.

00:34:54.980 --> 00:34:55.460
 He does not

00:34:55.460 --> 00:34:56.019
 end there.

00:34:57.599 --> 00:34:58.119
 Verse 6

00:34:58.119 --> 00:34:58.780
 when it says

00:34:58.780 --> 00:34:59.639
 now this

00:34:59.639 --> 00:35:00.300
 I say this

00:35:00.300 --> 00:35:01.079
 as a concession

00:35:01.079 --> 00:35:02.139
 the ESV

00:35:02.139 --> 00:35:02.559
 has a very

00:35:02.559 --> 00:35:03.099
 unfortunate

00:35:03.099 --> 00:35:04.160
 paragraph break.

00:35:04.159 --> 00:35:05.099
 I think it

00:35:05.099 --> 00:35:05.819
 goes with

00:35:05.819 --> 00:35:06.480
 verse 5

00:35:06.480 --> 00:35:07.339
 because verse 5

00:35:07.339 --> 00:35:08.199
 is a concession.

00:35:08.799 --> 00:35:09.199
 A normal

00:35:09.199 --> 00:35:10.279
 healthy sex life

00:35:10.279 --> 00:35:11.079
 is a normal

00:35:11.079 --> 00:35:11.579
 part of a

00:35:11.579 --> 00:35:11.980
 marriage.

00:35:12.420 --> 00:35:13.039
 Oh but there's

00:35:13.039 --> 00:35:13.699
 one concession

00:35:13.699 --> 00:35:14.079
 I'm going to

00:35:14.079 --> 00:35:14.619
 give to it.

00:35:14.719 --> 00:35:15.039
 Now that's

00:35:15.039 --> 00:35:15.460
 what I say

00:35:15.460 --> 00:35:16.079
 is a concession

00:35:16.079 --> 00:35:16.519
 not as a

00:35:16.519 --> 00:35:16.799
 command.

00:35:17.259 --> 00:35:17.859
 Now let's

00:35:17.859 --> 00:35:18.440
 go back to

00:35:18.440 --> 00:35:19.059
 what I really

00:35:19.059 --> 00:35:19.559
 want to say.

00:35:20.000 --> 00:35:20.899
 Now having

00:35:20.899 --> 00:35:21.539
 said all of

00:35:21.539 --> 00:35:22.000
 that about

00:35:22.000 --> 00:35:22.579
 how wonderful

00:35:22.579 --> 00:35:23.159
 marriage is

00:35:23.159 --> 00:35:23.399
 and how

00:35:23.399 --> 00:35:23.739
 wonderful

00:35:23.739 --> 00:35:24.519
 sex is

00:35:24.519 --> 00:35:25.279
 I wish

00:35:25.279 --> 00:35:25.659
 you weren't

00:35:25.659 --> 00:35:26.099
 married.

00:35:26.500 --> 00:35:26.899
 I wish

00:35:26.899 --> 00:35:27.219
 you didn't

00:35:27.219 --> 00:35:27.719
 have to be

00:35:27.719 --> 00:35:28.500
 bothered by

00:35:28.500 --> 00:35:28.960
 all that

00:35:28.960 --> 00:35:29.460
 stuff.

00:35:30.639 --> 00:35:31.199
 I wish

00:35:31.199 --> 00:35:31.519
 you were

00:35:31.519 --> 00:35:32.420
 as I am.

00:35:32.420 --> 00:35:34.340
 Each one

00:35:34.340 --> 00:35:34.880
 has a

00:35:34.880 --> 00:35:35.380
 gift.

00:35:36.800 --> 00:35:37.820
 A charisma.

00:35:38.280 --> 00:35:38.579
 We'll see

00:35:38.579 --> 00:35:39.180
 this later.

00:35:39.599 --> 00:35:40.159
 Gifts of

00:35:40.159 --> 00:35:40.800
 prophecy

00:35:40.800 --> 00:35:41.500
 and teaching

00:35:41.500 --> 00:35:43.139
 and service

00:35:43.139 --> 00:35:44.079
 and administration

00:35:44.079 --> 00:35:44.940
 and mercy.

00:35:46.380 --> 00:35:46.900
 Paul uses

00:35:46.900 --> 00:35:47.300
 the same

00:35:47.300 --> 00:35:47.800
 word here.

00:35:47.900 --> 00:35:48.159
 He says

00:35:48.159 --> 00:35:48.500
 you have

00:35:48.500 --> 00:35:48.940
 a gift

00:35:48.940 --> 00:35:49.579
 each one.

00:35:50.200 --> 00:35:50.639
 Some of

00:35:50.639 --> 00:35:50.920
 you have

00:35:50.920 --> 00:35:51.340
 the gift

00:35:51.340 --> 00:35:52.039
 of marriage.

00:35:52.960 --> 00:35:53.420
 Some of

00:35:53.420 --> 00:35:53.700
 you have

00:35:53.700 --> 00:35:54.119
 the gift

00:35:54.119 --> 00:35:54.800
 of singleness.

00:35:56.000 --> 00:35:56.180
 Okay

00:35:56.180 --> 00:35:56.860
 really brief

00:35:56.860 --> 00:35:57.340
 side note

00:35:57.340 --> 00:35:57.800
 culturally

00:35:57.800 --> 00:35:58.780
 drives me

00:35:58.780 --> 00:35:59.240
 crazy.

00:35:59.420 --> 00:35:59.740
 Some of

00:35:59.740 --> 00:36:00.400
 you young

00:36:00.400 --> 00:36:00.720
 people

00:36:00.720 --> 00:36:01.260
 nowadays

00:36:01.260 --> 00:36:01.860
 use

00:36:01.860 --> 00:36:02.300
 single

00:36:02.300 --> 00:36:02.660
 meaning

00:36:02.660 --> 00:36:02.940
 you're

00:36:02.940 --> 00:36:03.139
 not

00:36:03.139 --> 00:36:03.539
 dating

00:36:03.539 --> 00:36:04.039
 and

00:36:04.039 --> 00:36:04.220
 when

00:36:04.220 --> 00:36:04.420
 you're

00:36:04.420 --> 00:36:04.740
 dating

00:36:04.740 --> 00:36:04.980
 you're

00:36:04.980 --> 00:36:05.200
 not

00:36:05.200 --> 00:36:05.639
 single

00:36:05.639 --> 00:36:06.119
 anymore.

00:36:06.760 --> 00:36:07.400
 The Bible

00:36:07.400 --> 00:36:08.059
 only has

00:36:08.059 --> 00:36:09.000
 two categories

00:36:09.000 --> 00:36:09.960
 married

00:36:09.960 --> 00:36:10.800
 and not

00:36:10.800 --> 00:36:11.340
 married.

00:36:11.800 --> 00:36:12.380
 When you

00:36:12.380 --> 00:36:12.820
 are not

00:36:12.820 --> 00:36:13.139
 married

00:36:13.139 --> 00:36:13.440
 you are

00:36:13.440 --> 00:36:13.660
 not

00:36:13.660 --> 00:36:14.119
 married

00:36:14.119 --> 00:36:14.980
 and you

00:36:14.980 --> 00:36:15.260
 can't

00:36:15.260 --> 00:36:15.500
 act

00:36:15.500 --> 00:36:15.740
 like

00:36:15.740 --> 00:36:16.059
 married

00:36:16.059 --> 00:36:16.519
 people.

00:36:18.800 --> 00:36:19.440
 It's

00:36:19.440 --> 00:36:19.900
 helpful

00:36:19.900 --> 00:36:20.539
 to fight

00:36:20.539 --> 00:36:20.860
 against

00:36:20.860 --> 00:36:21.079
 that

00:36:21.079 --> 00:36:21.539
 cultural

00:36:21.539 --> 00:36:22.039
 stand.

00:36:22.460 --> 00:36:22.599
 When

00:36:22.599 --> 00:36:22.960
 you are

00:36:22.960 --> 00:36:23.320
 single

00:36:23.320 --> 00:36:23.780
 be

00:36:23.780 --> 00:36:24.160
 fully

00:36:24.160 --> 00:36:24.579
 single.

00:36:24.820 --> 00:36:24.920
 It

00:36:24.920 --> 00:36:25.200
 doesn't

00:36:25.200 --> 00:36:25.360
 mean

00:36:25.360 --> 00:36:25.500
 you

00:36:25.500 --> 00:36:25.720
 can't

00:36:25.720 --> 00:36:25.860
 be

00:36:25.860 --> 00:36:26.200
 dating

00:36:26.200 --> 00:36:26.360
 or

00:36:26.360 --> 00:36:26.680
 even

00:36:26.680 --> 00:36:27.280
 engaged.

00:36:27.380 --> 00:36:27.539
 There's

00:36:27.539 --> 00:36:27.900
 a good

00:36:27.900 --> 00:36:28.380
 process

00:36:28.380 --> 00:36:28.780
 in that

00:36:28.780 --> 00:36:29.280
 but

00:36:29.280 --> 00:36:29.820
 recognize

00:36:29.820 --> 00:36:30.000
 that

00:36:30.000 --> 00:36:30.540
 until

00:36:30.540 --> 00:36:30.840
 you

00:36:30.840 --> 00:36:31.040
 are

00:36:31.040 --> 00:36:31.380
 married

00:36:31.380 --> 00:36:31.580
 you

00:36:31.580 --> 00:36:31.740
 are

00:36:31.740 --> 00:36:32.060
 not

00:36:32.060 --> 00:36:32.519
 married.

00:36:33.200 --> 00:36:33.480
 Sorry

00:36:33.480 --> 00:36:33.740
 that's

00:36:33.740 --> 00:36:33.940
 really

00:36:33.940 --> 00:36:34.360
 simple

00:36:34.360 --> 00:36:34.660
 right?

00:36:36.820 --> 00:36:37.460
 But the

00:36:37.460 --> 00:36:37.840
 language

00:36:37.840 --> 00:36:38.320
 today

00:36:38.320 --> 00:36:38.620
 I've

00:36:38.620 --> 00:36:38.740
 been

00:36:38.740 --> 00:36:39.019
 really

00:36:39.019 --> 00:36:39.560
 concerned

00:36:39.560 --> 00:36:39.800
 because

00:36:39.800 --> 00:36:40.000
 I've

00:36:40.000 --> 00:36:40.140
 heard

00:36:40.140 --> 00:36:40.380
 many

00:36:40.380 --> 00:36:40.660
 people

00:36:40.660 --> 00:36:40.880
 say

00:36:40.880 --> 00:36:41.080
 oh

00:36:41.080 --> 00:36:41.220
 well

00:36:41.220 --> 00:36:41.460
 he's

00:36:41.460 --> 00:36:41.700
 single

00:36:41.700 --> 00:36:41.940
 what

00:36:41.940 --> 00:36:42.060
 does

00:36:42.060 --> 00:36:42.220
 that

00:36:42.220 --> 00:36:42.360
 mean

00:36:42.360 --> 00:36:42.600
 he's

00:36:42.600 --> 00:36:42.740
 not

00:36:42.740 --> 00:36:43.019
 dating

00:36:43.019 --> 00:36:43.380
 anyone

00:36:43.380 --> 00:36:44.120
 that's

00:36:44.120 --> 00:36:44.400
 not

00:36:44.400 --> 00:36:44.540
 that

00:36:44.540 --> 00:36:44.920
 anyway

00:36:44.920 --> 00:36:45.460
 all

00:36:45.460 --> 00:36:45.660
 right

00:36:45.660 --> 00:36:45.920
 come

00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:46.140
 on

00:36:46.140 --> 00:36:48.440
 so

00:36:48.440 --> 00:36:48.580
 what

00:36:48.580 --> 00:36:48.680
 does

00:36:48.680 --> 00:36:48.900
 Paul

00:36:48.900 --> 00:36:49.100
 say

00:36:49.100 --> 00:36:49.300
 Paul

00:36:49.300 --> 00:36:49.500
 says

00:36:49.500 --> 00:36:49.680
 I

00:36:49.680 --> 00:36:49.940
 wish

00:36:49.940 --> 00:36:50.200
 yours

00:36:50.200 --> 00:36:50.580
 why

00:36:50.580 --> 00:36:50.860
 I

00:36:50.860 --> 00:36:51.160
 am

00:36:51.160 --> 00:36:52.180
 why

00:36:52.180 --> 00:36:52.840
 because

00:36:52.840 --> 00:36:53.120
 it's

00:36:53.120 --> 00:36:53.420
 clear

00:36:53.420 --> 00:36:53.640
 that

00:36:53.640 --> 00:36:53.800
 in

00:36:53.800 --> 00:36:53.980
 this

00:36:53.980 --> 00:36:54.360
 context

00:36:54.360 --> 00:36:54.620
 Paul

00:36:54.620 --> 00:36:54.960
 says

00:36:54.960 --> 00:36:55.380
 he

00:36:55.380 --> 00:36:55.559
 was

00:36:55.559 --> 00:36:55.880
 single

00:36:55.880 --> 00:36:56.500
 right

00:36:56.500 --> 00:36:57.000
 now

00:36:57.000 --> 00:36:57.180
 was

00:36:57.180 --> 00:36:57.460
 Paul

00:36:57.460 --> 00:36:57.800
 ever

00:36:57.800 --> 00:36:58.280
 married

00:36:58.280 --> 00:37:00.120
 yeah

00:37:00.120 --> 00:37:00.400
 it's

00:37:00.400 --> 00:37:00.780
 a fun

00:37:00.780 --> 00:37:01.519
 conversation

00:37:01.519 --> 00:37:02.559
 most

00:37:02.559 --> 00:37:03.059
 Pharisees

00:37:03.059 --> 00:37:03.260
 were

00:37:03.260 --> 00:37:03.559
 married

00:37:03.559 --> 00:37:03.700
 it

00:37:03.700 --> 00:37:03.820
 would

00:37:03.820 --> 00:37:03.900
 have

00:37:03.900 --> 00:37:04.019
 been

00:37:04.019 --> 00:37:04.200
 very

00:37:04.200 --> 00:37:04.760
 surprising

00:37:04.760 --> 00:37:04.940
 if

00:37:04.940 --> 00:37:05.059
 he

00:37:05.059 --> 00:37:05.360
 hadn't

00:37:05.360 --> 00:37:05.539
 been

00:37:05.539 --> 00:37:05.880
 married

00:37:05.880 --> 00:37:06.320
 but

00:37:06.320 --> 00:37:06.480
 it

00:37:06.480 --> 00:37:06.720
 seems

00:37:06.720 --> 00:37:06.880
 at

00:37:06.880 --> 00:37:07.079
 this

00:37:07.079 --> 00:37:07.280
 point

00:37:07.280 --> 00:37:07.420
 in

00:37:07.420 --> 00:37:07.680
 his

00:37:07.680 --> 00:37:07.920
 life

00:37:07.920 --> 00:37:08.099
 he

00:37:08.099 --> 00:37:08.420
 clearly

00:37:08.420 --> 00:37:08.900
 isn't

00:37:08.900 --> 00:37:09.280
 married

00:37:09.280 --> 00:37:10.500
 we

00:37:10.500 --> 00:37:10.680
 don't

00:37:10.680 --> 00:37:10.860
 know

00:37:10.860 --> 00:37:11.220
 why

00:37:11.220 --> 00:37:11.519
 we

00:37:11.519 --> 00:37:11.780
 never

00:37:11.780 --> 00:37:12.019
 hear

00:37:12.019 --> 00:37:12.220
 the

00:37:12.220 --> 00:37:12.599
 story

00:37:12.599 --> 00:37:13.120
 she's

00:37:13.120 --> 00:37:13.380
 never

00:37:13.380 --> 00:37:13.980
 referenced

00:37:13.980 --> 00:37:15.079
 in

00:37:15.079 --> 00:37:15.320
 fact

00:37:15.320 --> 00:37:15.539
 there's

00:37:15.539 --> 00:37:15.800
 another

00:37:15.800 --> 00:37:16.160
 place

00:37:16.160 --> 00:37:16.300
 where

00:37:16.300 --> 00:37:16.579
 Paul

00:37:16.579 --> 00:37:16.940
 says

00:37:16.940 --> 00:37:17.079
 you

00:37:17.079 --> 00:37:17.260
 know

00:37:17.260 --> 00:37:17.820
 Peter

00:37:17.820 --> 00:37:18.099
 has

00:37:18.099 --> 00:37:18.240
 the

00:37:18.240 --> 00:37:18.440
 right

00:37:18.440 --> 00:37:18.599
 to

00:37:18.599 --> 00:37:18.720
 get

00:37:18.719 --> 00:37:19.039
 married

00:37:19.039 --> 00:37:19.259
 and

00:37:19.259 --> 00:37:19.379
 he

00:37:19.379 --> 00:37:19.539
 has

00:37:19.539 --> 00:37:19.679
 the

00:37:19.679 --> 00:37:19.980
 privilege

00:37:19.980 --> 00:37:20.179
 and

00:37:20.179 --> 00:37:20.339
 I

00:37:20.339 --> 00:37:20.839
 have

00:37:20.839 --> 00:37:21.000
 the

00:37:21.000 --> 00:37:21.259
 calling

00:37:21.259 --> 00:37:21.519
 to be

00:37:21.519 --> 00:37:21.819
 single

00:37:21.819 --> 00:37:22.219
 and

00:37:22.219 --> 00:37:22.659
 we're

00:37:22.659 --> 00:37:22.939
 both

00:37:22.939 --> 00:37:23.179
 doing

00:37:23.179 --> 00:37:23.379
 this

00:37:23.379 --> 00:37:23.539
 for

00:37:23.539 --> 00:37:23.639
 the

00:37:23.639 --> 00:37:23.879
 glory

00:37:23.879 --> 00:37:24.039
 of

00:37:24.039 --> 00:37:24.359
 God

00:37:24.359 --> 00:37:25.759
 and

00:37:25.759 --> 00:37:26.199
 so

00:37:26.199 --> 00:37:27.519
 we

00:37:27.519 --> 00:37:27.919
 don't

00:37:27.919 --> 00:37:28.359
 know

00:37:28.359 --> 00:37:29.379
 and

00:37:29.379 --> 00:37:29.579
 we

00:37:29.579 --> 00:37:29.759
 will

00:37:29.759 --> 00:37:29.980
 look

00:37:29.980 --> 00:37:30.359
 into

00:37:30.359 --> 00:37:30.599
 in

00:37:30.599 --> 00:37:30.839
 three

00:37:30.839 --> 00:37:31.139
 weeks

00:37:31.139 --> 00:37:31.319
 when

00:37:31.319 --> 00:37:31.439
 we

00:37:31.439 --> 00:37:31.579
 get

00:37:31.579 --> 00:37:31.819
 to

00:37:31.819 --> 00:37:32.299
 verses

00:37:32.299 --> 00:37:32.799
 32

00:37:32.799 --> 00:37:33.079
 through

00:37:33.079 --> 00:37:33.439
 40

00:37:33.439 --> 00:37:33.699
 we're

00:37:33.699 --> 00:37:33.799
 going

00:37:33.799 --> 00:37:33.980
 to

00:37:33.980 --> 00:37:34.399
 dive

00:37:34.399 --> 00:37:34.939
 into

00:37:34.939 --> 00:37:35.299
 a

00:37:35.299 --> 00:37:35.519
 lot

00:37:35.519 --> 00:37:35.859
 more

00:37:35.859 --> 00:37:36.019
 of

00:37:36.019 --> 00:37:36.339
 Paul's

00:37:36.339 --> 00:37:36.599
 thoughts

00:37:36.599 --> 00:37:36.919
 about

00:37:36.919 --> 00:37:37.419
 singleness

00:37:37.419 --> 00:37:38.579
 but

00:37:38.579 --> 00:37:39.059
 in

00:37:39.059 --> 00:37:39.259
 this

00:37:39.259 --> 00:37:39.779
 context

00:37:39.779 --> 00:37:40.399
 did

00:37:40.399 --> 00:37:40.659
 Paul

00:37:40.659 --> 00:37:40.939
 really

00:37:40.939 --> 00:37:41.239
 think

00:37:41.239 --> 00:37:41.619
 singleness

00:37:41.619 --> 00:37:41.919
 was

00:37:41.919 --> 00:37:42.459
 better

00:37:42.459 --> 00:37:42.779
 than

00:37:42.779 --> 00:37:43.399
 marriage

00:37:43.399 --> 00:37:45.699
 and

00:37:45.699 --> 00:38:15.679
 the

00:38:15.679 --> 00:38:16.919
 being

00:38:16.919 --> 00:38:17.279
 married

00:38:17.279 --> 00:38:17.639
 is a

00:38:17.639 --> 00:38:18.279
 huge

00:38:18.279 --> 00:38:18.940
 huge

00:38:18.940 --> 00:38:19.319
 burden

00:38:19.319 --> 00:38:20.519
 because

00:38:20.519 --> 00:38:20.719
 you

00:38:20.719 --> 00:38:20.879
 have

00:38:20.879 --> 00:38:21.039
 to

00:38:21.039 --> 00:38:21.259
 care

00:38:21.259 --> 00:38:21.500
 not

00:38:21.500 --> 00:38:21.699
 only

00:38:21.699 --> 00:38:21.879
 for

00:38:21.879 --> 00:38:22.319
 yourself

00:38:22.319 --> 00:38:22.599
 but

00:38:22.599 --> 00:38:22.699
 you

00:38:22.699 --> 00:38:22.839
 have

00:38:22.839 --> 00:38:22.960
 to

00:38:22.960 --> 00:38:23.119
 care

00:38:23.119 --> 00:38:23.279
 for

00:38:23.279 --> 00:38:23.419
 your

00:38:23.419 --> 00:38:23.799
 family

00:38:23.799 --> 00:38:24.279
 and

00:38:24.279 --> 00:38:24.500
 that's

00:38:24.500 --> 00:38:24.719
 right

00:38:24.719 --> 00:38:24.879
 and

00:38:24.879 --> 00:38:25.079
 good

00:38:25.079 --> 00:38:25.219
 and

00:38:25.219 --> 00:38:25.379
 if

00:38:25.379 --> 00:38:25.500
 you

00:38:25.500 --> 00:38:25.639
 are

00:38:25.639 --> 00:38:25.859
 married

00:38:25.859 --> 00:38:26.179
 that's

00:38:26.179 --> 00:38:26.319
 what

00:38:26.319 --> 00:38:26.419
 you

00:38:26.419 --> 00:38:26.559
 were

00:38:26.559 --> 00:38:26.799
 called

00:38:26.799 --> 00:38:27.059
 to

00:38:27.059 --> 00:38:28.480
 but

00:38:28.480 --> 00:38:28.839
 maybe

00:38:28.839 --> 00:38:29.099
 you

00:38:29.099 --> 00:38:29.460
 shouldn't

00:38:29.460 --> 00:38:29.719
 take

00:38:29.719 --> 00:38:29.839
 it

00:38:29.839 --> 00:38:30.239
 on

00:38:30.239 --> 00:38:34.099
 maybe

00:38:34.099 --> 00:38:34.359
 you

00:38:34.359 --> 00:38:34.659
 shouldn't

00:38:34.659 --> 00:38:34.859
 take

00:38:34.859 --> 00:38:34.980
 it

00:38:34.980 --> 00:38:35.159
 on

00:38:35.159 --> 00:38:35.460
 in

00:38:35.460 --> 00:38:35.679
 that

00:38:35.679 --> 00:38:36.179
 season

00:38:36.179 --> 00:38:39.099
 if

00:38:39.099 --> 00:38:39.199
 you

00:38:39.199 --> 00:38:39.359
 have

00:38:39.359 --> 00:38:39.480
 a

00:38:39.480 --> 00:38:39.819
 choice

00:38:39.819 --> 00:38:40.339
 I

00:38:40.339 --> 00:38:40.500
 think

00:38:40.500 --> 00:38:40.699
 that's

00:38:40.699 --> 00:38:40.799
 what

00:38:40.799 --> 00:38:41.119
 Paul's

00:38:41.119 --> 00:38:41.319
 saying

00:38:41.319 --> 00:38:41.819
 we'll

00:38:41.819 --> 00:38:42.000
 come

00:38:42.000 --> 00:38:42.179
 back

00:38:42.179 --> 00:38:42.319
 to

00:38:42.319 --> 00:38:42.500
 it

00:38:42.500 --> 00:38:45.320
 what

00:38:45.320 --> 00:38:45.440
 I

00:38:45.440 --> 00:38:45.539
 do

00:38:45.539 --> 00:38:45.719
 think

00:38:45.719 --> 00:38:45.920
 Paul

00:38:45.920 --> 00:38:46.059
 is

00:38:46.059 --> 00:38:46.260
 saying

00:38:46.260 --> 00:38:46.519
 is

00:38:46.519 --> 00:38:47.340
 it's

00:38:47.340 --> 00:38:47.559
 better

00:38:47.559 --> 00:38:47.760
 to

00:38:47.760 --> 00:38:47.940
 stay

00:38:47.940 --> 00:38:48.260
 single

00:38:48.260 --> 00:38:48.519
 because

00:38:48.519 --> 00:38:48.980
 singleness

00:38:48.980 --> 00:38:49.559
 is a

00:38:49.559 --> 00:38:50.079
 glorious

00:38:50.079 --> 00:38:50.760
 estate

00:38:50.760 --> 00:38:51.219
 it

00:38:51.219 --> 00:38:51.539
 is a

00:38:51.539 --> 00:38:51.940
 great

00:38:51.940 --> 00:38:52.380
 place

00:38:52.380 --> 00:38:52.599
 to

00:38:52.599 --> 00:38:52.840
 be

00:38:52.840 --> 00:38:53.340
 now

00:38:53.340 --> 00:38:53.559
 I

00:38:53.559 --> 00:38:53.719
 know

00:38:53.719 --> 00:38:53.980
 some

00:38:53.980 --> 00:38:54.099
 of

00:38:54.099 --> 00:38:54.199
 you

00:38:54.199 --> 00:38:54.320
 are

00:38:54.320 --> 00:38:54.539
 thinking

00:38:54.539 --> 00:38:54.780
 here

00:38:54.780 --> 00:38:55.119
 saying

00:38:55.119 --> 00:38:55.480
 yeah

00:38:55.480 --> 00:38:56.179
 right

00:38:56.179 --> 00:38:56.960
 well

00:38:56.960 --> 00:38:57.340
 here's

00:38:57.340 --> 00:38:57.719
 here's

00:38:57.719 --> 00:38:58.000
 a couple

00:38:58.000 --> 00:38:58.320
 things

00:38:58.320 --> 00:38:58.699
 for you

00:38:58.699 --> 00:38:58.840
 to

00:38:58.840 --> 00:38:59.019
 know

00:38:59.019 --> 00:38:59.400
 one

00:38:59.400 --> 00:38:59.780
 Jesus

00:38:59.780 --> 00:39:00.059
 was

00:39:00.059 --> 00:39:00.380
 single

00:39:00.380 --> 00:39:01.000
 Jesus

00:39:01.000 --> 00:39:01.260
 was

00:39:01.260 --> 00:39:01.519
 single

00:39:01.519 --> 00:39:01.780
 his

00:39:01.780 --> 00:39:02.340
 whole

00:39:02.340 --> 00:39:02.940
 human

00:39:02.940 --> 00:39:03.500
 life

00:39:03.500 --> 00:39:03.900
 he

00:39:03.900 --> 00:39:04.099
 was

00:39:04.099 --> 00:39:04.420
 never

00:39:04.420 --> 00:39:04.820
 married

00:39:04.820 --> 00:39:05.039
 he

00:39:05.039 --> 00:39:05.400
 never

00:39:05.400 --> 00:39:05.679
 had

00:39:05.679 --> 00:39:06.179
 sex

00:39:06.179 --> 00:39:06.719
 and

00:39:06.719 --> 00:39:06.860
 you

00:39:06.860 --> 00:39:07.039
 know

00:39:07.039 --> 00:39:07.360
 what

00:39:07.360 --> 00:39:09.000
 he

00:39:09.000 --> 00:39:09.199
 was

00:39:09.199 --> 00:39:09.940
 completely

00:39:09.940 --> 00:39:11.280
 satisfied

00:39:11.280 --> 00:39:12.680
 his

00:39:12.680 --> 00:39:13.120
 life

00:39:13.120 --> 00:39:13.360
 was

00:39:13.360 --> 00:39:13.540
 to

00:39:13.540 --> 00:39:13.720
 the

00:39:13.720 --> 00:39:14.080
 glory

00:39:14.080 --> 00:39:14.300
 of

00:39:14.300 --> 00:39:14.600
 God

00:39:14.600 --> 00:39:14.860
 in

00:39:14.860 --> 00:39:15.500
 every

00:39:15.500 --> 00:39:16.200
 way

00:39:16.200 --> 00:39:17.820
 friends

00:39:17.820 --> 00:39:18.100
 do

00:39:18.100 --> 00:39:18.380
 not

00:39:18.380 --> 00:39:18.840
 believe

00:39:18.840 --> 00:39:19.120
 the

00:39:19.120 --> 00:39:19.519
 lie

00:39:19.519 --> 00:39:19.740
 that

00:39:19.740 --> 00:39:19.900
 our

00:39:19.900 --> 00:39:20.260
 culture

00:39:20.260 --> 00:39:20.660
 or

00:39:20.660 --> 00:39:21.140
 heaven

00:39:21.140 --> 00:39:21.480
 forbid

00:39:21.480 --> 00:39:21.680
 that

00:39:21.680 --> 00:39:21.820
 our

00:39:21.820 --> 00:39:22.200
 church

00:39:22.200 --> 00:39:22.500
 might

00:39:22.500 --> 00:39:22.820
 say

00:39:22.820 --> 00:39:23.300
 that

00:39:23.300 --> 00:39:23.420
 if

00:39:23.420 --> 00:39:23.560
 you're

00:39:23.560 --> 00:39:23.800
 not

00:39:23.800 --> 00:39:24.220
 married

00:39:24.220 --> 00:39:24.519
 you're

00:39:24.519 --> 00:39:24.900
 somehow

00:39:24.900 --> 00:39:25.420
 a

00:39:25.420 --> 00:39:25.740
 second

00:39:25.740 --> 00:39:26.180
 class

00:39:26.180 --> 00:39:26.580
 citizen

00:39:26.580 --> 00:39:27.920
 it's

00:39:27.920 --> 00:39:28.180
 just

00:39:28.180 --> 00:39:28.480
 not

00:39:28.480 --> 00:39:28.960
 true

00:39:28.960 --> 00:39:30.019
 Paul

00:39:30.019 --> 00:39:30.220
 and

00:39:30.220 --> 00:39:30.480
 Jesus

00:39:30.480 --> 00:39:30.700
 are

00:39:30.700 --> 00:39:30.900
 saying

00:39:30.900 --> 00:39:31.160
 this

00:39:31.160 --> 00:39:31.320
 is

00:39:31.320 --> 00:39:31.480
 a

00:39:31.480 --> 00:39:32.019
 great

00:39:32.019 --> 00:39:32.700
 thing

00:39:32.700 --> 00:39:36.440
 Jesus

00:39:36.440 --> 00:39:36.840
 didn't

00:39:36.840 --> 00:39:37.080
 need

00:39:37.080 --> 00:39:37.580
 sex

00:39:37.580 --> 00:39:37.920
 and

00:39:37.920 --> 00:39:38.340
 marriage

00:39:38.340 --> 00:39:38.720
 to

00:39:38.720 --> 00:39:38.900
 be

00:39:38.900 --> 00:39:39.180
 whole

00:39:39.180 --> 00:39:41.260
 remember

00:39:41.260 --> 00:39:41.660
 sex

00:39:41.660 --> 00:39:41.840
 is

00:39:41.840 --> 00:39:42.200
 not

00:39:42.200 --> 00:39:42.680
 the

00:39:42.680 --> 00:39:43.060
 ultimate

00:39:43.060 --> 00:39:43.480
 it's

00:39:43.480 --> 00:39:43.640
 a

00:39:43.640 --> 00:39:44.040
 sign

00:39:44.040 --> 00:39:48.140
 now

00:39:48.140 --> 00:39:48.540
 having

00:39:48.540 --> 00:39:48.820
 said

00:39:48.820 --> 00:39:49.160
 that

00:39:49.160 --> 00:39:49.800
 I

00:39:49.800 --> 00:39:49.880
 want

00:39:49.880 --> 00:39:49.960
 to

00:39:49.960 --> 00:39:50.120
 talk

00:39:50.120 --> 00:39:50.760
 for

00:39:50.760 --> 00:39:50.880
 a

00:39:50.880 --> 00:39:51.000
 few

00:39:51.000 --> 00:39:51.240
 minutes

00:39:51.240 --> 00:39:51.460
 about

00:39:51.460 --> 00:39:51.660
 the

00:39:51.660 --> 00:39:52.100
 perils

00:39:52.100 --> 00:39:52.280
 of

00:39:52.280 --> 00:39:52.660
 singleness

00:39:52.660 --> 00:39:53.040
 in

00:39:53.040 --> 00:39:53.280
 our

00:39:53.280 --> 00:39:53.620
 culture

00:39:53.620 --> 00:39:54.120
 today

00:39:54.120 --> 00:39:55.080
 because

00:39:55.080 --> 00:39:55.260
 there

00:39:55.260 --> 00:39:55.440
 are

00:39:55.440 --> 00:39:55.760
 some

00:39:55.760 --> 00:39:58.420
 for

00:39:58.420 --> 00:39:58.620
 those

00:39:58.620 --> 00:39:58.780
 of you

00:39:58.780 --> 00:39:58.900
 who

00:39:58.900 --> 00:39:59.200
 don't

00:39:59.200 --> 00:39:59.440
 know

00:39:59.440 --> 00:39:59.760
 I

00:39:59.760 --> 00:39:59.980
 was

00:39:59.980 --> 00:40:00.340
 single

00:40:00.340 --> 00:40:00.660
 until

00:40:00.660 --> 00:40:00.860
 I

00:40:00.860 --> 00:40:01.040
 was

00:40:01.040 --> 00:40:01.560
 38

00:40:01.560 --> 00:40:03.180
 and

00:40:03.180 --> 00:40:03.280
 then

00:40:03.280 --> 00:40:03.380
 I

00:40:03.380 --> 00:40:03.560
 got

00:40:03.560 --> 00:40:03.980
 married

00:40:03.980 --> 00:40:04.780
 and

00:40:04.780 --> 00:40:04.860
 I

00:40:04.860 --> 00:40:05.000
 was

00:40:05.000 --> 00:40:05.280
 married

00:40:05.280 --> 00:40:05.480
 for

00:40:05.480 --> 00:40:05.720
 eight

00:40:05.720 --> 00:40:06.180
 years

00:40:06.180 --> 00:40:07.220
 and

00:40:07.220 --> 00:40:07.600
 now

00:40:07.600 --> 00:40:07.980
 I'm

00:40:07.980 --> 00:40:08.340
 single

00:40:08.340 --> 00:40:08.900
 again

00:40:08.900 --> 00:40:11.139
 I

00:40:11.139 --> 00:40:11.280
 have

00:40:11.280 --> 00:40:11.619
 lots

00:40:11.619 --> 00:40:11.840
 to

00:40:11.840 --> 00:40:12.059
 learn

00:40:12.059 --> 00:40:12.360
 about

00:40:12.360 --> 00:40:12.880
 what

00:40:12.880 --> 00:40:12.980
 it

00:40:12.980 --> 00:40:13.160
 looks

00:40:13.160 --> 00:40:13.420
 like

00:40:13.420 --> 00:40:13.599
 in

00:40:13.599 --> 00:40:13.800
 this

00:40:13.800 --> 00:40:14.079
 season

00:40:14.079 --> 00:40:14.240
 of

00:40:14.240 --> 00:40:14.559
 life

00:40:14.559 --> 00:40:14.860
 I

00:40:14.860 --> 00:40:15.019
 know

00:40:15.019 --> 00:40:15.320
 some

00:40:15.320 --> 00:40:15.480
 of

00:40:15.480 --> 00:40:15.619
 you

00:40:15.619 --> 00:40:15.780
 are

00:40:15.780 --> 00:40:16.180
 single

00:40:16.180 --> 00:40:17.760
 as

00:40:17.760 --> 00:40:20.240
 even

00:40:20.240 --> 00:40:22.139
 another

00:40:22.139 --> 00:40:22.980
 decade

00:40:22.980 --> 00:40:23.480
 beyond

00:40:23.480 --> 00:40:23.880
 me

00:40:23.880 --> 00:40:24.360
 and

00:40:24.360 --> 00:40:24.740
 it

00:40:24.740 --> 00:40:24.960
 has

00:40:24.960 --> 00:40:25.139
 its

00:40:25.139 --> 00:40:25.420
 own

00:40:25.420 --> 00:40:26.000
 challenges

00:40:26.000 --> 00:40:27.840
 but I

00:40:27.840 --> 00:40:28.059
 want to

00:40:28.059 --> 00:40:28.420
 talk a

00:40:28.420 --> 00:40:28.519
 little

00:40:28.519 --> 00:40:28.680
 bit

00:40:28.680 --> 00:40:28.880
 about

00:40:28.880 --> 00:40:29.059
 what

00:40:29.059 --> 00:40:29.260
 some

00:40:29.260 --> 00:40:29.360
 of

00:40:29.360 --> 00:40:29.619
 the

00:40:29.619 --> 00:40:30.940
 perils

00:40:30.940 --> 00:40:31.139
 that

00:40:31.139 --> 00:40:31.360
 I

00:40:31.360 --> 00:40:31.500
 have

00:40:31.500 --> 00:40:31.900
 seen

00:40:31.900 --> 00:40:33.240
 in

00:40:33.240 --> 00:40:33.400
 our

00:40:33.400 --> 00:40:33.740
 culture

00:40:33.740 --> 00:40:34.039
 about

00:40:34.039 --> 00:40:34.500
 singleness

00:40:34.500 --> 00:40:35.599
 the

00:40:35.599 --> 00:40:35.860
 first

00:40:35.860 --> 00:40:36.059
 one

00:40:36.059 --> 00:40:36.219
 is

00:40:36.219 --> 00:40:36.380
 what

00:40:36.380 --> 00:40:36.460
 I

00:40:36.460 --> 00:40:36.519
 have

00:40:36.519 --> 00:40:36.780
 already

00:40:36.780 --> 00:40:37.119
 talked

00:40:37.119 --> 00:40:37.420
 about

00:40:37.420 --> 00:40:37.639
 that

00:40:37.639 --> 00:40:37.840
 we

00:40:37.840 --> 00:40:38.500
 believe

00:40:38.500 --> 00:40:38.980
 the

00:40:38.980 --> 00:40:39.440
 lie

00:40:39.440 --> 00:40:40.239
 that

00:40:40.239 --> 00:40:41.199
 you

00:40:41.199 --> 00:40:41.360
 are

00:40:41.360 --> 00:40:42.000
 subhuman

00:40:42.000 --> 00:40:42.320
 if

00:40:42.320 --> 00:40:42.440
 you

00:40:42.440 --> 00:40:42.539
 are

00:40:42.539 --> 00:40:42.739
 not

00:40:42.739 --> 00:40:43.360
 actively

00:40:43.360 --> 00:40:45.820
 engaged

00:40:45.820 --> 00:40:46.079
 in

00:40:46.079 --> 00:40:46.480
 sexual

00:40:46.480 --> 00:40:47.059
 activity

00:40:47.059 --> 00:40:50.079
 our

00:40:50.079 --> 00:40:50.460
 culture

00:40:50.460 --> 00:40:50.880
 screams

00:40:50.880 --> 00:40:51.239
 at us

00:40:51.239 --> 00:40:51.480
 that

00:40:51.480 --> 00:40:51.940
 to be

00:40:51.940 --> 00:40:52.280
 human

00:40:52.280 --> 00:40:52.480
 is

00:40:52.480 --> 00:40:52.800
 to be

00:40:52.800 --> 00:40:53.199
 sexually

00:40:53.199 --> 00:40:53.639
 active

00:40:53.639 --> 00:40:54.400
 and

00:40:54.400 --> 00:40:54.639
 it's

00:40:54.639 --> 00:40:54.940
 just

00:40:54.940 --> 00:40:55.260
 not

00:40:55.260 --> 00:40:55.699
 true

00:40:55.699 --> 00:40:56.900
 for

00:40:56.900 --> 00:40:57.179
 those

00:40:57.179 --> 00:40:57.340
 of

00:40:57.340 --> 00:40:57.500
 you

00:40:57.500 --> 00:40:57.679
 who

00:40:57.679 --> 00:40:57.840
 are

00:40:57.840 --> 00:40:57.980
 in

00:40:57.980 --> 00:40:58.300
 high

00:40:58.300 --> 00:40:58.659
 school

00:40:58.659 --> 00:40:59.460
 let

00:40:59.460 --> 00:40:59.579
 me

00:40:59.579 --> 00:40:59.860
 speak

00:40:59.860 --> 00:41:00.039
 to

00:41:00.039 --> 00:41:00.199
 you

00:41:00.199 --> 00:41:00.719
 directly

00:41:00.719 --> 00:41:02.739
 let me

00:41:02.739 --> 00:41:03.139
 rephrase

00:41:03.139 --> 00:41:03.300
 that

00:41:03.300 --> 00:41:03.480
 for

00:41:03.480 --> 00:41:03.719
 those

00:41:03.719 --> 00:41:03.860
 of

00:41:03.860 --> 00:41:04.019
 you

00:41:04.019 --> 00:41:04.180
 who

00:41:04.180 --> 00:41:04.320
 are

00:41:04.320 --> 00:41:04.480
 in

00:41:04.480 --> 00:41:04.740
 fifth

00:41:04.740 --> 00:41:05.140
 grade

00:41:05.140 --> 00:41:05.380
 and

00:41:05.380 --> 00:41:05.900
 above

00:41:05.900 --> 00:41:06.760
 let

00:41:06.760 --> 00:41:06.920
 me

00:41:06.920 --> 00:41:07.260
 speak

00:41:07.260 --> 00:41:07.500
 to

00:41:07.500 --> 00:41:07.700
 you

00:41:07.700 --> 00:41:08.320
 directly

00:41:08.320 --> 00:41:11.059
 the

00:41:11.059 --> 00:41:11.420
 world

00:41:11.420 --> 00:41:11.780
 out

00:41:11.780 --> 00:41:12.140
 there

00:41:12.140 --> 00:41:12.980
 the

00:41:12.980 --> 00:41:13.340
 culture

00:41:13.340 --> 00:41:13.559
 you

00:41:13.559 --> 00:41:13.680
 are

00:41:13.680 --> 00:41:13.960
 living

00:41:13.960 --> 00:41:14.200
 in

00:41:14.200 --> 00:41:14.360
 the

00:41:14.360 --> 00:41:14.680
 TV

00:41:14.680 --> 00:41:15.059
 shows

00:41:15.059 --> 00:41:15.220
 that

00:41:15.220 --> 00:41:15.360
 you

00:41:15.360 --> 00:41:15.840
 watch

00:41:15.840 --> 00:41:16.120
 the

00:41:16.120 --> 00:41:16.420
 things

00:41:16.420 --> 00:41:16.599
 that

00:41:16.599 --> 00:41:16.760
 your

00:41:16.760 --> 00:41:17.320
 peers

00:41:17.320 --> 00:41:18.280
 in

00:41:18.280 --> 00:41:18.860
 school

00:41:18.860 --> 00:41:19.260
 may

00:41:19.260 --> 00:41:19.420
 or

00:41:19.420 --> 00:41:19.559
 may

00:41:19.559 --> 00:41:19.760
 not

00:41:19.760 --> 00:41:19.960
 be

00:41:19.960 --> 00:41:20.340
 doing

00:41:20.340 --> 00:41:21.440
 are

00:41:21.440 --> 00:41:21.820
 all

00:41:21.820 --> 00:41:22.240
 based

00:41:22.240 --> 00:41:22.420
 on

00:41:22.420 --> 00:41:22.620
 a

00:41:22.620 --> 00:41:22.980
 lie

00:41:22.980 --> 00:41:23.260
 that

00:41:23.260 --> 00:41:23.480
 you

00:41:23.480 --> 00:41:23.640
 are

00:41:23.640 --> 00:41:23.880
 being

00:41:23.880 --> 00:41:24.559
 deprived

00:41:24.559 --> 00:41:24.940
 of

00:41:24.940 --> 00:41:25.360
 something

00:41:25.360 --> 00:41:25.800
 if

00:41:25.800 --> 00:41:25.980
 you

00:41:25.980 --> 00:41:26.120
 are

00:41:26.120 --> 00:41:26.400
 not

00:41:26.400 --> 00:41:26.860
 sexually

00:41:26.860 --> 00:41:27.440
 active

00:41:27.440 --> 00:41:28.680
 you

00:41:28.680 --> 00:41:28.820
 are

00:41:28.820 --> 00:41:29.019
 being

00:41:29.019 --> 00:41:29.599
 deprived

00:41:29.599 --> 00:41:29.920
 of

00:41:29.920 --> 00:41:30.099
 your

00:41:30.099 --> 00:41:30.500
 worth

00:41:30.500 --> 00:41:30.800
 of

00:41:30.800 --> 00:41:30.960
 your

00:41:30.960 --> 00:41:31.760
 affirmation

00:41:31.760 --> 00:41:32.120
 of

00:41:32.119 --> 00:41:32.279
 your

00:41:32.279 --> 00:41:32.759
 joy

00:41:32.759 --> 00:41:33.099
 of

00:41:33.099 --> 00:41:33.279
 your

00:41:33.279 --> 00:41:33.779
 pleasure

00:41:33.779 --> 00:41:36.679
 and

00:41:36.679 --> 00:41:36.819
 that

00:41:36.819 --> 00:41:37.099
 there's

00:41:37.099 --> 00:41:37.380
 something

00:41:37.380 --> 00:41:37.719
 wrong

00:41:37.719 --> 00:41:37.940
 with

00:41:37.940 --> 00:41:38.099
 you

00:41:38.099 --> 00:41:38.279
 if

00:41:38.279 --> 00:41:38.480
 you

00:41:38.480 --> 00:41:38.599
 are

00:41:38.599 --> 00:41:38.980
 not

00:41:38.980 --> 00:41:40.319
 engaged

00:41:40.319 --> 00:41:40.739
 like

00:41:40.739 --> 00:41:41.000
 they

00:41:41.000 --> 00:41:41.319
 are

00:41:41.320 --> 00:41:46.760
 recognize

00:41:46.760 --> 00:41:47.100
 that

00:41:47.100 --> 00:41:47.300
 this

00:41:47.300 --> 00:41:47.460
 is

00:41:47.460 --> 00:41:47.760
 not

00:41:47.760 --> 00:41:48.160
 true

00:41:48.160 --> 00:41:49.780
 hear

00:41:49.780 --> 00:41:50.000
 from

00:41:50.000 --> 00:41:50.220
 this

00:41:50.220 --> 00:41:50.559
 pulpit

00:41:50.559 --> 00:41:50.760
 that

00:41:50.760 --> 00:41:50.940
 there

00:41:50.940 --> 00:41:51.080
 is

00:41:51.080 --> 00:41:51.220
 a

00:41:51.220 --> 00:41:51.760
 beautiful

00:41:51.760 --> 00:41:52.300
 picture

00:41:52.300 --> 00:41:52.840
 that

00:41:52.840 --> 00:41:53.059
 God

00:41:53.059 --> 00:41:53.220
 has

00:41:53.220 --> 00:41:53.440
 given

00:41:53.440 --> 00:41:53.680
 us

00:41:53.680 --> 00:41:53.900
 for

00:41:53.900 --> 00:41:54.080
 our

00:41:54.080 --> 00:41:54.600
 sexuality

00:41:54.600 --> 00:41:54.880
 but

00:41:54.880 --> 00:41:55.039
 it

00:41:55.039 --> 00:41:55.200
 is

00:41:55.200 --> 00:41:55.480
 for

00:41:55.480 --> 00:41:55.660
 the

00:41:55.660 --> 00:41:56.039
 boundaries

00:41:56.039 --> 00:41:56.300
 of

00:41:56.300 --> 00:41:56.720
 marriage

00:41:56.720 --> 00:41:56.940
 for

00:41:56.940 --> 00:41:57.180
 good

00:41:57.180 --> 00:41:57.620
 reason

00:41:57.620 --> 00:41:58.640
 because

00:41:58.640 --> 00:41:58.920
 the

00:41:58.920 --> 00:41:59.460
 commitment

00:41:59.460 --> 00:41:59.780
 and

00:41:59.780 --> 00:41:59.940
 the

00:41:59.940 --> 00:42:00.300
 covenant

00:42:00.300 --> 00:42:01.019
 relationship

00:42:01.019 --> 00:42:01.300
 of

00:42:01.300 --> 00:42:01.640
 marriage

00:42:01.640 --> 00:42:02.180
 is

00:42:02.180 --> 00:42:02.440
 meant

00:42:02.440 --> 00:42:02.620
 to

00:42:02.620 --> 00:42:02.720
 be

00:42:02.720 --> 00:42:02.940
 the

00:42:02.940 --> 00:42:03.380
 safety

00:42:03.380 --> 00:42:03.800
 whereby

00:42:03.800 --> 00:42:04.200
 that

00:42:04.200 --> 00:42:04.740
 vulnerability

00:42:04.740 --> 00:42:06.660
 can

00:42:06.660 --> 00:42:07.080
 actually

00:42:07.080 --> 00:42:07.360
 be

00:42:07.360 --> 00:42:07.960
 worthwhile

00:42:07.960 --> 00:42:09.720
 you

00:42:09.720 --> 00:42:09.940
 are

00:42:09.940 --> 00:42:10.119
 a

00:42:10.119 --> 00:42:10.619
 person

00:42:10.619 --> 00:42:11.039
 with

00:42:11.039 --> 00:42:11.260
 a

00:42:11.260 --> 00:42:11.619
 soul

00:42:11.619 --> 00:42:12.380
 not

00:42:12.380 --> 00:42:12.760
 just

00:42:12.760 --> 00:42:12.980
 a

00:42:12.980 --> 00:42:13.260
 sex

00:42:13.260 --> 00:42:13.760
 machine

00:42:13.760 --> 00:42:14.539
 waiting

00:42:14.539 --> 00:42:14.780
 to

00:42:14.780 --> 00:42:14.960
 get

00:42:14.960 --> 00:42:15.280
 turned

00:42:15.280 --> 00:42:15.720
 on

00:42:15.720 --> 00:42:21.420
 that's

00:42:21.420 --> 00:42:21.599
 one

00:42:21.599 --> 00:42:21.699
 of

00:42:21.699 --> 00:42:21.820
 the

00:42:21.820 --> 00:42:22.059
 things

00:42:22.059 --> 00:42:22.360
 that's

00:42:22.360 --> 00:42:22.519
 one

00:42:22.519 --> 00:42:22.599
 of

00:42:22.599 --> 00:42:22.720
 the

00:42:22.720 --> 00:42:23.099
 dynamics

00:42:23.099 --> 00:42:23.400
 out

00:42:23.400 --> 00:42:23.599
 there

00:42:23.599 --> 00:42:23.820
 about

00:42:23.820 --> 00:42:24.000
 how

00:42:24.000 --> 00:42:24.159
 we

00:42:24.159 --> 00:42:24.380
 think

00:42:24.380 --> 00:42:24.639
 about

00:42:24.639 --> 00:42:25.059
 sex

00:42:25.059 --> 00:42:26.139
 singleness

00:42:26.139 --> 00:42:26.519
 that I

00:42:26.519 --> 00:42:26.659
 think

00:42:26.659 --> 00:42:26.800
 is

00:42:26.800 --> 00:42:27.199
 challenging

00:42:27.199 --> 00:42:27.760
 secondly

00:42:27.760 --> 00:42:28.460
 I

00:42:28.460 --> 00:42:28.720
 think

00:42:28.720 --> 00:42:28.900
 that

00:42:28.900 --> 00:42:29.079
 there

00:42:29.079 --> 00:42:29.320
 can

00:42:29.320 --> 00:42:29.599
 be

00:42:29.599 --> 00:42:29.860
 and

00:42:29.860 --> 00:42:30.039
 I'm

00:42:30.039 --> 00:42:30.360
 speaking

00:42:30.360 --> 00:42:31.019
 probably

00:42:31.019 --> 00:42:31.440
 more

00:42:31.440 --> 00:42:31.659
 to

00:42:31.659 --> 00:42:31.920
 some

00:42:31.920 --> 00:42:32.079
 of

00:42:32.079 --> 00:42:32.300
 you

00:42:32.300 --> 00:42:32.579
 young

00:42:32.579 --> 00:42:33.220
 professionals

00:42:33.220 --> 00:42:33.720
 and

00:42:33.720 --> 00:42:34.720
 students

00:42:34.720 --> 00:42:35.139
 although

00:42:35.139 --> 00:42:35.380
 it

00:42:35.380 --> 00:42:35.539
 could

00:42:35.539 --> 00:42:35.699
 be

00:42:35.699 --> 00:42:35.920
 for

00:42:35.920 --> 00:42:36.159
 any

00:42:36.159 --> 00:42:36.360
 of

00:42:36.360 --> 00:42:36.659
 us

00:42:36.659 --> 00:42:37.240
 are

00:42:37.239 --> 00:42:37.799
 we

00:42:37.799 --> 00:42:38.039
 can

00:42:38.039 --> 00:42:38.379
 pursue

00:42:38.379 --> 00:42:38.919
 singleness

00:42:38.919 --> 00:42:39.459
 in a

00:42:39.459 --> 00:42:39.779
 very

00:42:39.779 --> 00:42:40.259
 selfish

00:42:40.259 --> 00:42:40.739
 way

00:42:40.739 --> 00:42:43.159
 it

00:42:43.159 --> 00:42:43.359
 looks

00:42:43.359 --> 00:42:43.599
 like

00:42:43.599 --> 00:42:43.979
 this

00:42:43.979 --> 00:42:45.399
 I

00:42:45.399 --> 00:42:45.679
 can't

00:42:45.679 --> 00:42:45.839
 be

00:42:45.839 --> 00:42:46.179
 bothered

00:42:46.179 --> 00:42:46.739
 with

00:42:46.739 --> 00:42:46.859
 a

00:42:46.859 --> 00:42:47.419
 relationship

00:42:47.419 --> 00:42:48.799
 it's

00:42:48.799 --> 00:42:49.019
 just

00:42:49.019 --> 00:42:49.539
 way

00:42:49.539 --> 00:42:50.159
 too

00:42:50.159 --> 00:42:50.799
 much

00:42:50.799 --> 00:42:51.739
 time

00:42:51.739 --> 00:42:52.039
 and

00:42:52.039 --> 00:42:52.539
 investment

00:42:52.539 --> 00:42:53.279
 I

00:42:53.279 --> 00:42:53.539
 have

00:42:53.539 --> 00:42:53.899
 things

00:42:53.899 --> 00:42:54.119
 to

00:42:54.119 --> 00:42:54.379
 do

00:42:54.379 --> 00:42:54.659
 I

00:42:54.659 --> 00:42:54.879
 have

00:42:54.879 --> 00:42:55.339
 places

00:42:55.339 --> 00:42:55.599
 to

00:42:55.599 --> 00:42:55.879
 go

00:42:55.879 --> 00:42:56.379
 I

00:42:56.379 --> 00:42:56.539
 have

00:42:56.539 --> 00:42:56.699
 a

00:42:56.699 --> 00:42:57.039
 career

00:42:57.039 --> 00:42:57.239
 to

00:42:57.239 --> 00:42:57.539
 make

00:42:57.539 --> 00:42:57.839
 a

00:42:57.839 --> 00:42:58.119
 name

00:42:58.119 --> 00:42:58.359
 to

00:42:58.359 --> 00:42:59.619
 build

00:42:59.619 --> 00:43:00.019
 I'm

00:43:00.019 --> 00:43:00.099
 going

00:43:00.099 --> 00:43:00.179
 to

00:43:00.179 --> 00:43:00.319
 go

00:43:00.319 --> 00:43:00.659
 change

00:43:00.659 --> 00:43:00.859
 the

00:43:00.859 --> 00:43:01.139
 world

00:43:01.139 --> 00:43:01.359
 and

00:43:01.359 --> 00:43:01.619
 I

00:43:01.619 --> 00:43:01.959
 can't

00:43:01.959 --> 00:43:02.159
 get

00:43:02.159 --> 00:43:02.539
 slowed

00:43:02.539 --> 00:43:03.079
 down

00:43:03.079 --> 00:43:06.079
 by

00:43:06.079 --> 00:43:06.399
 those

00:43:06.399 --> 00:43:06.859
 things

00:43:06.860 --> 00:43:08.660
 now

00:43:08.660 --> 00:43:08.980
 look

00:43:08.980 --> 00:43:09.900
 this

00:43:09.900 --> 00:43:10.059
 is

00:43:10.059 --> 00:43:10.380
 really

00:43:10.380 --> 00:43:10.680
 hard

00:43:10.680 --> 00:43:10.900
 you're

00:43:10.900 --> 00:43:11.000
 going

00:43:11.000 --> 00:43:11.099
 to

00:43:11.099 --> 00:43:11.280
 have

00:43:11.280 --> 00:43:11.460
 to

00:43:11.460 --> 00:43:11.780
 search

00:43:11.780 --> 00:43:11.980
 your

00:43:11.980 --> 00:43:12.320
 heart

00:43:12.320 --> 00:43:12.860
 you're

00:43:12.860 --> 00:43:12.940
 going

00:43:12.940 --> 00:43:12.980
 to

00:43:12.980 --> 00:43:13.140
 have

00:43:13.140 --> 00:43:13.260
 to

00:43:13.260 --> 00:43:13.539
 ask

00:43:13.539 --> 00:43:13.740
 your

00:43:13.740 --> 00:43:14.180
 friends

00:43:14.180 --> 00:43:14.440
 and

00:43:14.440 --> 00:43:14.579
 the

00:43:14.579 --> 00:43:14.860
 wise

00:43:14.860 --> 00:43:15.180
 people

00:43:15.180 --> 00:43:15.340
 in

00:43:15.340 --> 00:43:15.460
 your

00:43:15.460 --> 00:43:15.780
 life

00:43:15.780 --> 00:43:16.260
 to

00:43:16.260 --> 00:43:16.420
 know

00:43:16.420 --> 00:43:16.559
 if

00:43:16.559 --> 00:43:16.740
 this

00:43:16.740 --> 00:43:16.880
 is

00:43:16.880 --> 00:43:17.140
 true

00:43:17.140 --> 00:43:17.280
 or

00:43:17.280 --> 00:43:17.480
 not

00:43:17.480 --> 00:43:17.980
 because

00:43:17.980 --> 00:43:18.240
 there

00:43:18.240 --> 00:43:18.380
 is

00:43:18.380 --> 00:43:18.519
 a

00:43:18.519 --> 00:43:18.960
 proper

00:43:18.960 --> 00:43:19.539
 place

00:43:19.539 --> 00:43:19.880
 of

00:43:19.880 --> 00:43:20.620
 single

00:43:20.620 --> 00:43:20.960
 minded

00:43:20.960 --> 00:43:21.579
 devotion

00:43:21.579 --> 00:43:21.880
 to

00:43:21.880 --> 00:43:22.160
 living

00:43:22.160 --> 00:43:22.380
 your

00:43:22.380 --> 00:43:22.640
 life

00:43:22.640 --> 00:43:22.800
 to

00:43:22.800 --> 00:43:22.960
 the

00:43:22.960 --> 00:43:23.300
 glory

00:43:23.300 --> 00:43:23.500
 of

00:43:23.500 --> 00:43:23.740
 God

00:43:23.740 --> 00:43:23.900
 and

00:43:23.900 --> 00:43:24.099
 all

00:43:24.099 --> 00:43:24.300
 that

00:43:24.300 --> 00:43:24.440
 you

00:43:24.440 --> 00:43:24.860
 do

00:43:24.860 --> 00:43:26.880
 that

00:43:26.880 --> 00:43:27.120
 means

00:43:27.120 --> 00:43:27.240
 you're

00:43:27.240 --> 00:43:27.400
 not

00:43:27.400 --> 00:43:27.640
 paying

00:43:27.640 --> 00:43:27.860
 any

00:43:27.860 --> 00:43:28.240
 attention

00:43:28.240 --> 00:43:28.519
 to

00:43:28.519 --> 00:43:28.720
 your

00:43:28.720 --> 00:43:29.260
 relationship

00:43:29.260 --> 00:43:29.980
 status

00:43:29.980 --> 00:43:31.079
 and

00:43:36.860 --> 00:43:37.680
 desires

00:43:37.680 --> 00:43:37.920
 and

00:43:37.920 --> 00:43:38.180
 your

00:43:38.180 --> 00:43:38.720
 relationship

00:43:38.720 --> 00:43:39.280
 desires

00:43:39.280 --> 00:43:39.860
 as

00:43:39.860 --> 00:43:40.039
 you

00:43:40.039 --> 00:43:40.640
 are

00:43:40.640 --> 00:43:41.200
 fully

00:43:41.200 --> 00:43:41.800
 awake

00:43:41.800 --> 00:43:42.140
 towards

00:43:42.140 --> 00:43:42.700
 pursuing

00:43:42.700 --> 00:43:43.000
 what

00:43:43.000 --> 00:43:43.420
 God

00:43:43.420 --> 00:43:43.780
 has

00:43:43.780 --> 00:43:43.980
 for

00:43:43.980 --> 00:43:44.220
 you

00:43:44.220 --> 00:43:44.360
 in

00:43:44.360 --> 00:43:44.500
 your

00:43:44.500 --> 00:43:44.880
 life

00:43:44.880 --> 00:43:45.039
 and

00:43:45.039 --> 00:43:45.599
 glorifying

00:43:45.599 --> 00:43:45.860
 God

00:43:45.860 --> 00:43:46.000
 in

00:43:46.000 --> 00:43:46.440
 everything

00:43:46.440 --> 00:43:46.700
 that

00:43:46.700 --> 00:43:46.820
 you

00:43:46.820 --> 00:43:47.099
 do

00:43:47.099 --> 00:43:47.539
 and

00:43:47.539 --> 00:43:47.680
 there

00:43:47.680 --> 00:43:47.820
 is

00:43:47.820 --> 00:43:47.960
 a

00:43:47.960 --> 00:43:48.440
 right

00:43:48.440 --> 00:43:48.700
 way

00:43:48.700 --> 00:43:48.860
 to

00:43:48.860 --> 00:43:49.059
 do

00:43:49.059 --> 00:43:49.400
 that

00:43:49.400 --> 00:43:52.039
 but

00:43:52.039 --> 00:43:52.180
 I

00:43:52.180 --> 00:43:52.380
 was

00:43:52.380 --> 00:43:52.539
 a

00:43:52.539 --> 00:43:52.760
 part

00:43:52.760 --> 00:43:52.880
 of

00:43:52.880 --> 00:43:53.000
 the

00:43:53.000 --> 00:43:53.420
 inaugural

00:43:53.420 --> 00:43:54.000
 chapter

00:43:54.000 --> 00:43:54.220
 of

00:43:54.220 --> 00:43:54.340
 the

00:43:54.340 --> 00:43:54.640
 bachelor

00:43:54.640 --> 00:43:54.820
 of

00:43:54.820 --> 00:43:54.940
 the

00:43:54.940 --> 00:43:55.360
 rapture

00:43:55.360 --> 00:43:55.660
 club

00:43:55.660 --> 00:43:55.840
 at

00:43:55.840 --> 00:43:56.220
 Princeton

00:43:56.220 --> 00:43:56.480
 when

00:43:56.480 --> 00:43:56.620
 I

00:43:56.620 --> 00:43:56.760
 was

00:43:56.760 --> 00:43:56.960
 a

00:43:56.960 --> 00:43:57.240
 student

00:43:57.240 --> 00:43:58.200
 and

00:43:58.200 --> 00:43:58.360
 I

00:43:58.360 --> 00:43:58.620
 thought

00:43:58.620 --> 00:43:58.840
 we

00:43:58.840 --> 00:43:59.019
 were

00:43:59.019 --> 00:43:59.200
 going

00:43:59.200 --> 00:43:59.280
 to

00:43:59.280 --> 00:43:59.440
 be

00:43:59.440 --> 00:43:59.740
 so

00:43:59.740 --> 00:44:00.380
 spiritual

00:44:00.380 --> 00:44:01.059
 and

00:44:01.059 --> 00:44:01.460
 so

00:44:01.460 --> 00:44:02.099
 impressive

00:44:02.099 --> 00:44:02.819
 by

00:44:02.819 --> 00:44:03.679
 forsaking

00:44:03.679 --> 00:44:04.019
 all

00:44:04.019 --> 00:44:04.219
 of

00:44:04.219 --> 00:44:04.480
 that

00:44:04.480 --> 00:44:05.900
 distracting

00:44:05.900 --> 00:44:06.500
 stuff

00:44:06.500 --> 00:44:06.739
 so

00:44:06.739 --> 00:44:06.900
 that

00:44:06.900 --> 00:44:07.059
 we

00:44:07.059 --> 00:44:07.199
 can

00:44:07.199 --> 00:44:07.380
 be

00:44:07.380 --> 00:44:08.039
 serious

00:44:08.039 --> 00:44:08.440
 about

00:44:08.440 --> 00:44:08.880
 pursuing

00:44:08.880 --> 00:44:09.219
 the

00:44:09.219 --> 00:44:09.599
 Lord

00:44:09.599 --> 00:44:10.219
 I

00:44:10.219 --> 00:44:10.420
 think

00:44:10.420 --> 00:44:10.559
 I

00:44:10.559 --> 00:44:10.719
 had

00:44:10.719 --> 00:44:10.880
 a

00:44:10.880 --> 00:44:11.199
 nine

00:44:11.199 --> 00:44:11.480
 month

00:44:11.480 --> 00:44:11.779
 window

00:44:11.779 --> 00:44:12.000
 where

00:44:12.000 --> 00:44:12.099
 I

00:44:12.099 --> 00:44:12.360
 wasn't

00:44:12.360 --> 00:44:12.639
 dating

00:44:12.639 --> 00:44:13.099
 someone

00:44:13.099 --> 00:44:13.599
 and

00:44:13.599 --> 00:44:13.759
 we

00:44:13.759 --> 00:44:14.119
 started

00:44:14.119 --> 00:44:14.380
 this

00:44:14.380 --> 00:44:14.679
 chapter

00:44:14.679 --> 00:44:15.019
 during

00:44:15.019 --> 00:44:15.259
 that

00:44:15.259 --> 00:44:15.659
 time

00:44:15.659 --> 00:44:20.239
 and

00:44:20.239 --> 00:44:20.380
 I

00:44:20.380 --> 00:44:20.980
 tormented

00:44:20.980 --> 00:44:21.420
 one of

00:44:21.420 --> 00:44:21.599
 my

00:44:21.599 --> 00:44:22.079
 mentors

00:44:22.079 --> 00:44:22.400
 when

00:44:22.400 --> 00:44:22.940
 he

00:44:22.940 --> 00:44:23.219
 had

00:44:23.219 --> 00:44:23.339
 the

00:44:23.339 --> 00:44:23.839
 audacity

00:44:23.839 --> 00:44:24.019
 to

00:44:24.019 --> 00:44:24.159
 get

00:44:24.159 --> 00:44:24.759
 engaged

00:44:24.759 --> 00:44:24.980
 he

00:44:24.980 --> 00:44:25.159
 was

00:44:25.159 --> 00:44:25.339
 our

00:44:25.339 --> 00:44:25.759
 figure

00:44:25.759 --> 00:44:26.139
 head

00:44:26.139 --> 00:44:26.699
 we

00:44:26.699 --> 00:44:27.019
 broke

00:44:27.019 --> 00:44:27.179
 into

00:44:27.179 --> 00:44:27.380
 his

00:44:27.380 --> 00:44:27.819
 apartment

00:44:27.819 --> 00:44:28.079
 we

00:44:28.079 --> 00:44:28.420
 opened

00:44:28.420 --> 00:44:28.860
 Bibles

00:44:28.860 --> 00:44:29.219
 all

00:44:29.219 --> 00:44:29.500
 over

00:44:29.500 --> 00:44:29.699
 his

00:44:29.699 --> 00:44:30.119
 apartment

00:44:30.119 --> 00:44:30.579
 to

00:44:30.579 --> 00:44:30.839
 this

00:44:30.839 --> 00:44:31.480
 passage

00:44:32.099 --> 00:44:38.980
 and

00:44:38.980 --> 00:44:39.119
 me

00:44:39.119 --> 00:44:39.219
 and

00:44:39.219 --> 00:44:39.380
 my

00:44:39.380 --> 00:44:39.659
 fellow

00:44:39.659 --> 00:44:40.039
 members

00:44:40.039 --> 00:44:40.279
 have

00:44:40.279 --> 00:44:40.619
 all

00:44:40.619 --> 00:44:40.920
 been

00:44:40.920 --> 00:44:41.380
 happily

00:44:41.380 --> 00:44:41.860
 married

00:44:41.860 --> 00:44:42.739
 most

00:44:42.739 --> 00:44:42.940
 of

00:44:42.940 --> 00:44:43.119
 them

00:44:43.119 --> 00:44:43.319
 have

00:44:43.319 --> 00:44:43.480
 been

00:44:43.480 --> 00:44:43.819
 happily

00:44:43.819 --> 00:44:44.119
 married

00:44:44.119 --> 00:44:44.299
 for

00:44:44.299 --> 00:44:44.539
 over

00:44:44.539 --> 00:44:44.880
 20

00:44:44.880 --> 00:44:45.199
 years

00:44:45.199 --> 00:44:45.380
 and

00:44:45.380 --> 00:44:45.679
 have

00:44:45.679 --> 00:44:46.179
 lots

00:44:46.179 --> 00:44:46.360
 of

00:44:46.360 --> 00:44:46.719
 kids

00:44:46.719 --> 00:44:47.759
 so

00:44:47.759 --> 00:44:48.059
 it

00:44:48.059 --> 00:44:48.219
 was

00:44:48.219 --> 00:44:48.440
 not

00:44:48.440 --> 00:44:48.559
 a

00:44:48.559 --> 00:44:48.759
 very

00:44:48.759 --> 00:44:49.179
 success

00:44:49.179 --> 00:44:49.719
 but

00:44:49.719 --> 00:44:49.960
 there

00:44:49.960 --> 00:44:50.139
 was

00:44:50.139 --> 00:44:50.339
 an

00:44:50.339 --> 00:44:50.719
 arrogance

00:44:50.719 --> 00:44:51.159
 and

00:44:51.159 --> 00:44:51.319
 a

00:44:51.319 --> 00:44:51.799
 pride

00:44:51.799 --> 00:44:52.339
 about

00:44:52.339 --> 00:44:52.659
 the

00:44:52.659 --> 00:44:53.159
 desire

00:44:53.159 --> 00:44:53.420
 for

00:44:53.420 --> 00:44:53.779
 that

00:44:53.779 --> 00:44:54.739
 and

00:44:54.739 --> 00:44:54.980
 it's

00:44:54.980 --> 00:44:55.559
 possible

00:44:55.559 --> 00:44:55.920
 that

00:44:55.920 --> 00:44:56.179
 some

00:44:56.179 --> 00:44:56.380
 of

00:44:56.380 --> 00:44:56.779
 you

00:44:56.779 --> 00:44:57.739
 are

00:44:57.739 --> 00:44:58.559
 are

00:44:58.559 --> 00:44:58.860
 thinking

00:44:58.860 --> 00:44:59.559
 it's

00:44:59.559 --> 00:44:59.779
 just

00:44:59.779 --> 00:45:00.019
 too

00:45:00.019 --> 00:45:00.219
 much

00:45:00.219 --> 00:45:00.679
 work

00:45:00.679 --> 00:45:01.000
 to

00:45:01.000 --> 00:45:01.199
 be

00:45:01.199 --> 00:45:01.639
 married

00:45:01.639 --> 00:45:03.420
 and

00:45:03.420 --> 00:45:03.579
 if

00:45:03.579 --> 00:45:04.019
 that's

00:45:04.019 --> 00:45:04.539
 true

00:45:04.539 --> 00:45:05.000
 that's

00:45:05.000 --> 00:45:05.500
 probably

00:45:05.500 --> 00:45:05.879
 not

00:45:05.879 --> 00:45:06.059
 a

00:45:06.059 --> 00:45:06.299
 very

00:45:06.299 --> 00:45:06.599
 good

00:45:06.599 --> 00:45:07.079
 reason

00:45:07.079 --> 00:45:07.819
 to

00:45:07.819 --> 00:45:09.679
 pursue

00:45:09.679 --> 00:45:10.259
 singleness

00:45:10.259 --> 00:45:12.619
 because

00:45:12.619 --> 00:45:13.000
 it's a

00:45:13.000 --> 00:45:13.219
 very

00:45:13.219 --> 00:45:13.699
 self

00:45:13.699 --> 00:45:14.319
 centered

00:45:14.319 --> 00:45:14.679
 and

00:45:14.679 --> 00:45:15.259
 selfish

00:45:15.259 --> 00:45:16.679
 understanding

00:45:16.679 --> 00:45:18.420
 right

00:45:18.420 --> 00:45:18.759
 so what

00:45:18.759 --> 00:45:19.019
 I want

00:45:19.019 --> 00:45:19.219
 you to

00:45:19.219 --> 00:45:19.400
 hear

00:45:19.400 --> 00:45:19.639
 this

00:45:19.639 --> 00:45:19.940
 is

00:45:19.940 --> 00:45:20.199
 really

00:45:20.199 --> 00:45:20.639
 nuanced

00:45:20.639 --> 00:45:20.940
 right

00:45:20.940 --> 00:45:21.199
 this

00:45:21.199 --> 00:45:21.339
 is

00:45:21.339 --> 00:45:22.400
 that

00:45:22.400 --> 00:45:22.960
 there's

00:45:22.960 --> 00:45:23.079
 a

00:45:23.079 --> 00:45:23.480
 good

00:45:23.480 --> 00:45:24.059
 calling

00:45:24.059 --> 00:45:24.759
 to

00:45:24.759 --> 00:45:25.139
 pursue

00:45:25.139 --> 00:45:25.299
 the

00:45:25.299 --> 00:45:25.539
 glory

00:45:25.539 --> 00:45:25.699
 of

00:45:25.699 --> 00:45:25.879
 God

00:45:25.879 --> 00:45:26.039
 in

00:45:26.039 --> 00:45:26.159
 your

00:45:26.159 --> 00:45:26.420
 life

00:45:26.420 --> 00:45:26.539
 and

00:45:26.539 --> 00:45:26.699
 to

00:45:26.699 --> 00:45:26.960
 pursue

00:45:26.960 --> 00:45:27.440
 singleness

00:45:27.440 --> 00:45:27.659
 and

00:45:27.659 --> 00:45:28.039
 not

00:45:28.039 --> 00:45:28.259
 be

00:45:28.259 --> 00:45:28.980
 not

00:45:28.980 --> 00:45:29.359
 spend

00:45:29.359 --> 00:45:29.699
 all

00:45:29.699 --> 00:45:29.819
 of

00:45:29.819 --> 00:45:29.940
 your

00:45:29.940 --> 00:45:30.219
 time

00:45:30.219 --> 00:45:30.519
 looking

00:45:30.519 --> 00:45:30.820
 saying

00:45:30.820 --> 00:45:31.000
 oh

00:45:31.000 --> 00:45:31.119
 do

00:45:31.119 --> 00:45:31.199
 you

00:45:31.199 --> 00:45:31.400
 think

00:45:31.400 --> 00:45:31.780
 I

00:45:31.780 --> 00:45:32.019
 wonder

00:45:32.019 --> 00:45:32.159
 if

00:45:32.159 --> 00:45:32.420
 she's

00:45:32.420 --> 00:45:32.759
 you

00:45:32.759 --> 00:45:32.920
 know

00:45:32.920 --> 00:45:33.500
 where

00:45:33.500 --> 00:45:33.599
 you

00:45:33.599 --> 00:45:33.800
 spend

00:45:33.800 --> 00:45:34.019
 all

00:45:34.019 --> 00:45:34.179
 your

00:45:34.179 --> 00:45:34.440
 time

00:45:34.440 --> 00:45:34.840
 wondering

00:45:34.840 --> 00:45:35.099
 where

00:45:35.099 --> 00:45:35.280
 the

00:45:35.280 --> 00:45:35.480
 next

00:45:35.480 --> 00:45:35.900
 relationship

00:45:35.900 --> 00:45:36.239
 might

00:45:36.239 --> 00:45:36.639
 happen

00:45:36.639 --> 00:45:36.780
 or

00:45:36.780 --> 00:45:36.980
 might

00:45:36.980 --> 00:45:37.219
 come

00:45:37.219 --> 00:45:37.519
 from

00:45:37.519 --> 00:45:38.039
 right

00:45:38.039 --> 00:45:38.460
 there's

00:45:38.460 --> 00:45:38.619
 a

00:45:38.619 --> 00:45:38.880
 goodness

00:45:38.880 --> 00:45:39.239
 about

00:45:39.239 --> 00:45:39.420
 that

00:45:39.420 --> 00:45:39.719
 but there

00:45:39.719 --> 00:45:40.320
 can be

00:45:40.320 --> 00:45:40.699
 a

00:45:40.699 --> 00:45:41.219
 selfishness

00:45:41.219 --> 00:45:41.480
 about

00:45:41.480 --> 00:45:41.800
 that I

00:45:41.800 --> 00:45:42.159
 think we

00:45:42.159 --> 00:45:42.820
 need to be

00:45:42.820 --> 00:45:43.820
 really careful

00:45:43.820 --> 00:45:44.239
 with

00:45:44.239 --> 00:45:46.480
 thirdly

00:45:46.480 --> 00:45:47.000
 the perils

00:45:47.000 --> 00:45:47.619
 of singleness

00:45:47.619 --> 00:45:48.539
 welcome to

00:45:48.539 --> 00:45:49.139
 church

00:45:49.139 --> 00:45:50.099
 church

00:45:50.099 --> 00:45:50.619
 can be one

00:45:50.619 --> 00:45:50.880
 of the

00:45:50.880 --> 00:45:51.219
 hardest

00:45:51.219 --> 00:45:51.800
 places

00:45:51.800 --> 00:45:52.599
 to be

00:45:52.599 --> 00:45:53.000
 single

00:45:53.000 --> 00:45:53.940
 at times

00:45:53.940 --> 00:45:54.739
 because

00:45:54.739 --> 00:45:55.900
 we stand up

00:45:55.900 --> 00:45:56.340
 here and we

00:45:56.340 --> 00:45:56.940
 talk about

00:45:56.940 --> 00:45:57.780
 marriage

00:45:57.780 --> 00:45:58.400
 and the

00:45:58.400 --> 00:45:58.940
 glories

00:45:58.940 --> 00:45:59.600
 of marriage

00:45:59.600 --> 00:45:59.900
 and the

00:45:59.900 --> 00:46:00.220
 wonders

00:46:00.220 --> 00:46:00.780
 of sex

00:46:00.780 --> 00:46:01.040
 and you're

00:46:01.040 --> 00:46:01.380
 sitting there

00:46:01.380 --> 00:46:01.640
 going

00:46:01.640 --> 00:46:02.120
 uh-huh

00:46:02.120 --> 00:46:02.620
 I know

00:46:02.620 --> 00:46:03.100
 I know

00:46:03.100 --> 00:46:04.420
 and you have

00:46:04.420 --> 00:46:05.000
 people who come

00:46:05.000 --> 00:46:05.300
 and say

00:46:05.300 --> 00:46:06.060
 oh well don't you

00:46:06.060 --> 00:46:06.580
 think he's

00:46:06.580 --> 00:46:07.760
 he's a really

00:46:07.760 --> 00:46:08.480
 godly guy

00:46:08.480 --> 00:46:09.100
 I think you

00:46:09.100 --> 00:46:09.560
 should get to

00:46:09.560 --> 00:46:10.000
 know him

00:46:10.000 --> 00:46:11.580
 and you feel

00:46:11.580 --> 00:46:11.940
 like you're

00:46:11.940 --> 00:46:12.780
 constantly getting

00:46:12.780 --> 00:46:13.460
 fixed up

00:46:13.460 --> 00:46:14.320
 and the subtext

00:46:14.320 --> 00:46:14.880
 is always

00:46:14.880 --> 00:46:15.400
 there's something

00:46:15.400 --> 00:46:16.080
 wrong with you

00:46:16.080 --> 00:46:16.640
 if you're not

00:46:16.640 --> 00:46:17.600
 pursuing someone

00:46:17.600 --> 00:46:18.500
 or you're not

00:46:18.500 --> 00:46:19.300
 getting married

00:46:19.300 --> 00:46:22.220
 and you know

00:46:22.220 --> 00:46:22.740
 and you get

00:46:22.740 --> 00:46:23.640
 offhand comments

00:46:23.640 --> 00:46:24.380
 like oh you're

00:46:24.380 --> 00:46:24.900
 serving in the

00:46:24.900 --> 00:46:25.140
 nursery

00:46:25.140 --> 00:46:25.800
 well that looks

00:46:25.800 --> 00:46:26.320
 good doesn't

00:46:26.320 --> 00:46:26.780
 and I'm sure

00:46:26.780 --> 00:46:27.460
 that means

00:46:27.460 --> 00:46:27.840
 you love

00:46:27.840 --> 00:46:28.220
 children

00:46:28.220 --> 00:46:29.100
 you know

00:46:29.100 --> 00:46:29.720
 and these

00:46:29.720 --> 00:46:30.539
 these little

00:46:30.539 --> 00:46:31.360
 comments like

00:46:31.360 --> 00:46:31.960
 that that get

00:46:31.960 --> 00:46:32.660
 thrown around

00:46:32.660 --> 00:46:33.860
 in church

00:46:33.860 --> 00:46:34.620
 can can

00:46:34.620 --> 00:46:35.480
 completely

00:46:35.480 --> 00:46:36.360
 undermine

00:46:36.360 --> 00:46:37.920
 the gift

00:46:37.920 --> 00:46:38.620
 of singleness

00:46:38.620 --> 00:46:41.600
 because the

00:46:41.600 --> 00:46:42.240
 gift of

00:46:42.240 --> 00:46:42.720
 singleness

00:46:42.720 --> 00:46:44.019
 is that you

00:46:44.019 --> 00:46:44.780
 can devote

00:46:44.780 --> 00:46:45.260
 yourself

00:46:45.260 --> 00:46:46.600
 to loving

00:46:46.600 --> 00:46:47.880
 and serving

00:46:47.880 --> 00:46:48.660
 others

00:46:48.660 --> 00:46:50.360
 that you

00:46:50.360 --> 00:46:51.120
 can devote

00:46:51.120 --> 00:46:51.720
 yourself

00:46:51.720 --> 00:46:53.519
 all of

00:46:53.519 --> 00:46:54.180
 your time

00:46:54.180 --> 00:46:56.160
 at 1130

00:46:56.159 --> 00:46:56.679
 at night

00:46:56.679 --> 00:46:57.559
 when your

00:46:57.559 --> 00:46:57.960
 married

00:46:57.960 --> 00:46:58.480
 friends

00:46:58.480 --> 00:46:59.159
 are wiping

00:46:59.159 --> 00:46:59.960
 noses

00:46:59.960 --> 00:47:00.839
 and changing

00:47:00.839 --> 00:47:01.779
 wet beds

00:47:01.779 --> 00:47:03.379
 you are free

00:47:03.379 --> 00:47:04.239
 to go sit

00:47:04.239 --> 00:47:04.819
 with a friend

00:47:04.819 --> 00:47:05.460
 in crisis

00:47:05.460 --> 00:47:08.579
 when you

00:47:08.579 --> 00:47:09.179
 meet someone

00:47:09.179 --> 00:47:09.639
 who wants

00:47:09.639 --> 00:47:10.019
 to grow

00:47:10.019 --> 00:47:10.279
 in the

00:47:10.279 --> 00:47:10.480
 Lord

00:47:10.480 --> 00:47:10.859
 you have

00:47:10.859 --> 00:47:11.219
 the ability

00:47:11.219 --> 00:47:11.500
 to say

00:47:11.500 --> 00:47:12.019
 hey

00:47:12.019 --> 00:47:12.759
 let's get

00:47:12.759 --> 00:47:13.319
 out of here

00:47:13.319 --> 00:47:13.639
 tonight

00:47:13.639 --> 00:47:14.000
 let's

00:47:14.000 --> 00:47:14.619
 let's drive

00:47:14.619 --> 00:47:15.079
 to New York

00:47:15.079 --> 00:47:15.339
 City

00:47:15.339 --> 00:47:15.819
 and have a

00:47:15.819 --> 00:47:16.339
 great

00:47:16.339 --> 00:47:17.099
 evening

00:47:17.099 --> 00:47:17.579
 of just

00:47:17.579 --> 00:47:18.119
 fellowship

00:47:18.119 --> 00:47:18.519
 and a

00:47:18.519 --> 00:47:19.179
 crazy road

00:47:19.179 --> 00:47:19.500
 trip

00:47:19.500 --> 00:47:21.460
 friends

00:47:21.460 --> 00:47:21.960
 you're

00:47:21.960 --> 00:47:22.359
 married

00:47:22.359 --> 00:47:23.239
 particularly

00:47:23.239 --> 00:47:23.819
 your parenting

00:47:23.819 --> 00:47:24.579
 married

00:47:24.579 --> 00:47:25.360
 they don't

00:47:25.360 --> 00:47:25.819
 have that

00:47:25.819 --> 00:47:26.360
 flexibility

00:47:26.360 --> 00:47:27.880
 you have

00:47:27.880 --> 00:47:28.880
 an incredible

00:47:28.880 --> 00:47:29.679
 opportunity

00:47:29.679 --> 00:47:31.659
 to serve

00:47:31.659 --> 00:47:32.279
 the married

00:47:32.279 --> 00:47:32.759
 couples

00:47:32.759 --> 00:47:33.380
 in this

00:47:33.380 --> 00:47:33.900
 church

00:47:33.900 --> 00:47:38.980
 I'm getting

00:47:38.980 --> 00:47:39.319
 ahead of

00:47:39.319 --> 00:47:39.699
 myself

00:47:39.699 --> 00:47:40.139
 but

00:47:40.139 --> 00:47:42.159
 you have

00:47:42.159 --> 00:47:42.639
 an incredible

00:47:42.639 --> 00:47:43.400
 opportunity

00:47:43.400 --> 00:47:44.739
 in singleness

00:47:44.739 --> 00:47:46.940
 Paul calls

00:47:46.940 --> 00:47:47.519
 it a gift

00:47:47.519 --> 00:47:48.219
 to be

00:47:48.219 --> 00:47:48.840
 single-minded

00:47:48.840 --> 00:47:49.259
 and not

00:47:49.259 --> 00:47:49.840
 distracted

00:47:49.840 --> 00:47:51.340
 it's a

00:47:51.340 --> 00:47:51.880
 really good

00:47:51.880 --> 00:47:52.319
 thing

00:47:52.320 --> 00:47:54.000
 I want

00:47:54.000 --> 00:47:54.440
 to acknowledge

00:47:54.440 --> 00:47:55.380
 it can

00:47:55.380 --> 00:47:56.059
 be costly

00:47:56.059 --> 00:47:56.660
 right

00:47:56.660 --> 00:47:57.300
 it can

00:47:57.300 --> 00:47:57.900
 be lonely

00:47:57.900 --> 00:47:59.440
 and sexual

00:47:59.440 --> 00:47:59.880
 temptation

00:47:59.880 --> 00:48:00.440
 doesn't just

00:48:00.440 --> 00:48:00.940
 come from

00:48:00.940 --> 00:48:01.440
 our culture

00:48:01.440 --> 00:48:02.140
 it comes

00:48:02.140 --> 00:48:02.420
 from our

00:48:02.420 --> 00:48:02.960
 own hearts

00:48:02.960 --> 00:48:03.340
 and our

00:48:03.340 --> 00:48:04.039
 own desires

00:48:04.039 --> 00:48:05.860
 and there

00:48:05.860 --> 00:48:06.200
 are different

00:48:06.200 --> 00:48:06.900
 seasons of

00:48:06.900 --> 00:48:07.300
 singleness

00:48:07.300 --> 00:48:08.080
 that have

00:48:08.080 --> 00:48:08.380
 different

00:48:08.380 --> 00:48:08.920
 challenges

00:48:08.920 --> 00:48:09.860
 it's way

00:48:09.860 --> 00:48:10.220
 different

00:48:10.220 --> 00:48:10.920
 being single

00:48:10.920 --> 00:48:11.519
 and 24

00:48:11.519 --> 00:48:12.160
 and wondering

00:48:12.160 --> 00:48:12.600
 why you

00:48:12.600 --> 00:48:13.100
 haven't found

00:48:13.100 --> 00:48:13.760
 someone yet

00:48:13.760 --> 00:48:14.640
 and being

00:48:14.640 --> 00:48:15.360
 35

00:48:15.360 --> 00:48:16.660
 or 45

00:48:16.660 --> 00:48:17.760
 and not

00:48:17.760 --> 00:48:18.400
 having found

00:48:18.400 --> 00:48:19.140
 someone yet

00:48:19.140 --> 00:48:20.180
 and it's

00:48:20.180 --> 00:48:20.980
 different when

00:48:20.980 --> 00:48:21.780
 you've been

00:48:21.780 --> 00:48:22.180
 married

00:48:22.179 --> 00:48:23.019
 and now

00:48:23.019 --> 00:48:23.579
 you're not

00:48:23.579 --> 00:48:24.179
 and wondering

00:48:24.179 --> 00:48:24.619
 what do I

00:48:24.619 --> 00:48:25.019
 do with

00:48:25.019 --> 00:48:25.299
 that

00:48:25.299 --> 00:48:27.139
 each of

00:48:27.139 --> 00:48:27.359
 these

00:48:27.359 --> 00:48:28.859
 seasons

00:48:28.859 --> 00:48:29.239
 have

00:48:29.239 --> 00:48:29.719
 different

00:48:29.719 --> 00:48:30.299
 challenges

00:48:30.299 --> 00:48:34.000
 and yet

00:48:34.000 --> 00:48:35.319
 Paul says

00:48:35.319 --> 00:48:35.919
 this is a

00:48:35.919 --> 00:48:36.279
 gift

00:48:36.279 --> 00:48:38.019
 and you

00:48:38.019 --> 00:48:38.279
 are to

00:48:38.279 --> 00:48:38.699
 take it

00:48:38.699 --> 00:48:38.960
 and to

00:48:38.960 --> 00:48:39.679
 treasure it

00:48:39.679 --> 00:48:40.239
 and to

00:48:40.239 --> 00:48:40.960
 seek all

00:48:40.960 --> 00:48:41.480
 the good

00:48:41.480 --> 00:48:41.879
 that is

00:48:41.879 --> 00:48:42.379
 in it

00:48:42.379 --> 00:48:45.440
 and to

00:48:45.440 --> 00:48:46.059
 not spend

00:48:46.059 --> 00:48:46.419
 all the

00:48:46.419 --> 00:48:46.980
 time looking

00:48:46.980 --> 00:48:47.480
 over the

00:48:47.480 --> 00:48:47.839
 fence

00:48:47.839 --> 00:48:48.799
 because you

00:48:48.799 --> 00:48:49.000
 know what

00:48:49.000 --> 00:48:49.299
 your married

00:48:49.299 --> 00:48:49.759
 friends do

00:48:49.759 --> 00:48:50.279
 that too

00:48:50.279 --> 00:48:50.859
 they look

00:48:50.859 --> 00:48:51.099
 at all

00:48:51.099 --> 00:48:51.579
 your single

00:48:51.579 --> 00:48:52.219
 all you

00:48:52.219 --> 00:48:52.699
 singles out

00:48:52.699 --> 00:48:52.940
 there and

00:48:52.940 --> 00:48:53.719
 say that

00:48:53.719 --> 00:48:54.099
 looks like

00:48:54.099 --> 00:48:54.460
 fun

00:48:54.460 --> 00:48:55.420
 we used

00:48:55.420 --> 00:48:55.679
 to be

00:48:55.679 --> 00:48:56.039
 fun

00:48:56.039 --> 00:48:57.000
 didn't we

00:48:57.000 --> 00:48:58.819
 did we

00:48:58.819 --> 00:48:59.179
 ever do

00:48:59.179 --> 00:48:59.539
 that

00:48:59.539 --> 00:49:00.719
 man that

00:49:00.719 --> 00:49:01.000
 was a

00:49:01.000 --> 00:49:01.500
 long time

00:49:01.500 --> 00:49:01.759
 ago

00:49:01.759 --> 00:49:02.279
 I can't

00:49:02.279 --> 00:49:02.619
 remember

00:49:02.619 --> 00:49:04.659
 it's so

00:49:04.659 --> 00:49:05.199
 easy to

00:49:05.199 --> 00:49:06.259
 be discontent

00:49:06.259 --> 00:49:08.139
 Paul says

00:49:08.139 --> 00:49:08.819
 no God's

00:49:08.819 --> 00:49:09.119
 given you

00:49:09.119 --> 00:49:09.579
 a gift

00:49:09.579 --> 00:49:10.559
 use it

00:49:10.559 --> 00:49:11.380
 invest it

00:49:11.380 --> 00:49:12.639
 practically

00:49:12.639 --> 00:49:12.900
 it's

00:49:12.900 --> 00:49:13.539
 Valentine's

00:49:13.539 --> 00:49:13.759
 Day

00:49:13.759 --> 00:49:15.059
 anyone want

00:49:15.059 --> 00:49:15.259
 to do

00:49:15.259 --> 00:49:15.440
 some

00:49:15.440 --> 00:49:16.000
 babysitting

00:49:16.000 --> 00:49:16.639
 I don't

00:49:16.639 --> 00:49:17.059
 need it

00:49:17.059 --> 00:49:17.619
 but I'm

00:49:17.619 --> 00:49:17.799
 sure

00:49:17.799 --> 00:49:17.980
 there's

00:49:17.980 --> 00:49:18.099
 some

00:49:18.099 --> 00:49:18.320
 people

00:49:18.320 --> 00:49:18.579
 in our

00:49:18.579 --> 00:49:18.799
 church

00:49:18.799 --> 00:49:19.199
 who do

00:49:19.199 --> 00:49:20.480
 have you

00:49:20.480 --> 00:49:20.880
 asked your

00:49:20.880 --> 00:49:21.079
 married

00:49:21.079 --> 00:49:21.400
 friends

00:49:21.400 --> 00:49:21.860
 if you

00:49:21.860 --> 00:49:22.059
 could

00:49:22.059 --> 00:49:22.840
 give them

00:49:22.840 --> 00:49:23.279
 a couple

00:49:23.279 --> 00:49:23.679
 hours

00:49:23.679 --> 00:49:24.119
 today

00:49:24.119 --> 00:49:25.039
 to go

00:49:25.039 --> 00:49:25.360
 off

00:49:25.360 --> 00:49:25.820
 to just

00:49:25.820 --> 00:49:27.159
 celebrate

00:49:27.159 --> 00:49:27.679
 being married

00:49:27.679 --> 00:49:28.079
 together

00:49:28.079 --> 00:49:28.960
 can you

00:49:28.960 --> 00:49:29.400
 serve them

00:49:29.400 --> 00:49:29.719
 in that

00:49:29.719 --> 00:49:29.960
 way

00:49:29.960 --> 00:49:31.340
 or maybe

00:49:31.340 --> 00:49:31.820
 that's not

00:49:31.820 --> 00:49:32.199
 your deal

00:49:32.199 --> 00:49:32.480
 or maybe

00:49:32.480 --> 00:49:32.739
 you don't

00:49:32.739 --> 00:49:32.880
 know

00:49:32.880 --> 00:49:33.119
 married

00:49:33.119 --> 00:49:33.400
 people

00:49:33.400 --> 00:49:33.659
 yet

00:49:33.659 --> 00:49:33.900
 in our

00:49:33.900 --> 00:49:34.199
 church

00:49:34.199 --> 00:49:36.119
 celebrate

00:49:36.119 --> 00:49:36.900
 Valentine's

00:49:36.900 --> 00:49:37.119
 Day

00:49:37.119 --> 00:49:39.079
 by pulling

00:49:39.079 --> 00:49:39.400
 together

00:49:39.400 --> 00:49:39.779
 some of

00:49:39.779 --> 00:49:40.119
 your other

00:49:40.119 --> 00:49:40.400
 single

00:49:40.400 --> 00:49:40.820
 friends

00:49:40.820 --> 00:49:41.619
 and having

00:49:41.619 --> 00:49:42.039
 a time

00:49:42.039 --> 00:49:42.779
 just have

00:49:42.779 --> 00:49:43.059
 a time

00:49:43.059 --> 00:49:43.420
 together

00:49:43.420 --> 00:49:43.940
 have fun

00:49:43.940 --> 00:49:45.260
 you know

00:49:45.260 --> 00:49:45.900
 watch a

00:49:45.900 --> 00:49:46.200
 cheesy

00:49:46.200 --> 00:49:46.599
 Hallmark

00:49:46.599 --> 00:49:46.980
 romance

00:49:46.980 --> 00:49:47.280
 movie

00:49:47.280 --> 00:49:47.679
 and laugh

00:49:47.679 --> 00:49:48.039
 at it

00:49:48.039 --> 00:49:48.619
 and talk

00:49:48.619 --> 00:49:49.119
 about how

00:49:49.119 --> 00:49:50.059
 the glorious

00:49:50.059 --> 00:49:50.579
 picture of

00:49:50.579 --> 00:49:50.980
 what God

00:49:50.980 --> 00:49:51.320
 gives you

00:49:51.320 --> 00:49:51.679
 is much

00:49:51.679 --> 00:49:52.039
 better

00:49:52.039 --> 00:49:53.260
 than the

00:49:53.260 --> 00:49:53.519
 cheesy

00:49:53.519 --> 00:49:54.059
 romances

00:49:54.059 --> 00:49:55.480
 on channel

00:49:55.480 --> 00:49:56.960
 117

00:49:56.960 --> 00:49:59.519
 not that I

00:49:59.519 --> 00:50:00.000
 know anything

00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:00.619
 about it

00:50:00.619 --> 00:50:00.880
 but

00:50:00.880 --> 00:50:05.960
 or maybe

00:50:05.960 --> 00:50:06.320
 you just

00:50:06.320 --> 00:50:06.900
 need to go

00:50:06.900 --> 00:50:07.380
 and spend

00:50:07.380 --> 00:50:07.900
 time with

00:50:07.900 --> 00:50:08.539
 your bridegroom

00:50:08.539 --> 00:50:10.320
 go spend

00:50:10.320 --> 00:50:10.960
 time with

00:50:10.960 --> 00:50:11.260
 Jesus

00:50:11.260 --> 00:50:13.019
 and live

00:50:13.019 --> 00:50:13.340
 in his

00:50:13.340 --> 00:50:13.840
 love

00:50:13.840 --> 00:50:15.240
 and know

00:50:15.240 --> 00:50:15.559
 that you

00:50:15.559 --> 00:50:16.180
 don't need

00:50:16.180 --> 00:50:16.680
 anything

00:50:16.680 --> 00:50:17.300
 beyond

00:50:17.300 --> 00:50:18.720
 him

00:50:18.720 --> 00:50:19.700
 and his

00:50:19.700 --> 00:50:20.180
 church

00:50:20.180 --> 00:50:21.980
 you don't

00:50:21.980 --> 00:50:22.519
 need to be

00:50:22.519 --> 00:50:22.940
 married

00:50:22.940 --> 00:50:24.220
 to be

00:50:24.220 --> 00:50:24.559
 whole

00:50:24.559 --> 00:50:25.420
 and to be

00:50:25.420 --> 00:50:25.760
 all that

00:50:25.760 --> 00:50:26.260
 God has

00:50:26.260 --> 00:50:26.700
 called you

00:50:26.700 --> 00:50:27.240
 to be

00:50:27.240 --> 00:50:30.740
 now the

00:50:30.740 --> 00:50:31.180
 passage

00:50:31.180 --> 00:50:31.640
 ends

00:50:31.640 --> 00:50:32.320
 with

00:50:32.320 --> 00:50:33.920
 a caveat

00:50:33.920 --> 00:50:34.500
 that helps

00:50:34.500 --> 00:50:35.100
 put everything

00:50:35.100 --> 00:50:35.700
 into balance

00:50:35.700 --> 00:50:36.000
 right

00:50:36.000 --> 00:50:37.700
 pastor Paul

00:50:37.700 --> 00:50:38.340
 comes in

00:50:38.340 --> 00:50:38.920
 and having

00:50:38.920 --> 00:50:39.820
 held up

00:50:39.820 --> 00:50:40.240
 the glory

00:50:40.240 --> 00:50:40.860
 of marriage

00:50:40.860 --> 00:50:41.280
 and now

00:50:41.280 --> 00:50:41.760
 held up

00:50:41.760 --> 00:50:42.160
 the glory

00:50:42.160 --> 00:50:42.680
 of singleness

00:50:42.679 --> 00:50:43.719
 he says

00:50:43.719 --> 00:50:44.239
 well okay

00:50:44.239 --> 00:50:44.699
 how do you

00:50:44.699 --> 00:50:45.519
 muddle through

00:50:45.519 --> 00:50:45.899
 the middle

00:50:45.899 --> 00:50:46.440
 well

00:50:46.440 --> 00:50:47.399
 it's better

00:50:47.399 --> 00:50:47.699
 to get

00:50:47.699 --> 00:50:48.039
 married

00:50:48.039 --> 00:50:48.419
 than to

00:50:48.419 --> 00:50:48.719
 sin

00:50:48.719 --> 00:50:49.480
 that's

00:50:49.480 --> 00:50:49.859
 basically

00:50:49.859 --> 00:50:50.299
 what he's

00:50:50.299 --> 00:50:50.519
 saying

00:50:50.519 --> 00:50:50.879
 in verse

00:50:50.879 --> 00:50:51.259
 nine

00:50:51.259 --> 00:50:52.299
 right

00:50:52.299 --> 00:50:54.219
 if you

00:50:54.219 --> 00:50:54.839
 find

00:50:54.839 --> 00:50:57.199
 if you

00:50:57.199 --> 00:50:57.739
 find that

00:50:57.739 --> 00:50:58.239
 this is a

00:50:58.239 --> 00:50:58.919
 huge area

00:50:58.919 --> 00:50:59.399
 of struggle

00:50:59.399 --> 00:50:59.980
 that may

00:50:59.980 --> 00:51:00.500
 very well

00:51:00.500 --> 00:51:01.359
 be an

00:51:01.359 --> 00:51:01.819
 indication

00:51:01.819 --> 00:51:02.299
 that God

00:51:02.299 --> 00:51:02.579
 is going

00:51:02.579 --> 00:51:02.899
 to lead

00:51:02.899 --> 00:51:03.279
 you into

00:51:03.279 --> 00:51:03.839
 a marriage

00:51:03.839 --> 00:51:04.779
 right

00:51:04.779 --> 00:51:05.539
 now let

00:51:05.539 --> 00:51:05.859
 me tell

00:51:05.859 --> 00:51:06.339
 you this

00:51:06.339 --> 00:51:06.940
 getting

00:51:06.940 --> 00:51:07.379
 married

00:51:07.379 --> 00:51:07.819
 so that

00:51:07.819 --> 00:51:08.199
 you can

00:51:08.199 --> 00:51:08.480
 find

00:51:08.480 --> 00:51:08.899
 sexual

00:51:08.899 --> 00:51:09.299
 release

00:51:09.300 --> 00:51:09.740
 is a

00:51:09.740 --> 00:51:10.080
 really

00:51:10.080 --> 00:51:10.420
 really

00:51:10.420 --> 00:51:10.800
 bad

00:51:10.800 --> 00:51:11.180
 idea

00:51:11.180 --> 00:51:12.300
 it's a

00:51:12.300 --> 00:51:12.700
 really

00:51:12.700 --> 00:51:13.080
 really

00:51:13.080 --> 00:51:13.460
 bad

00:51:13.460 --> 00:51:13.860
 idea

00:51:13.860 --> 00:51:14.600
 it will

00:51:14.600 --> 00:51:15.000
 come

00:51:15.000 --> 00:51:15.380
 and it

00:51:15.380 --> 00:51:15.640
 will be

00:51:15.640 --> 00:51:16.000
 a good

00:51:16.000 --> 00:51:16.420
 blessing

00:51:16.420 --> 00:51:16.800
 of that

00:51:16.800 --> 00:51:17.100
 marriage

00:51:17.100 --> 00:51:17.640
 but if

00:51:17.640 --> 00:51:17.900
 that's

00:51:17.900 --> 00:51:18.440
 your primary

00:51:18.440 --> 00:51:18.980
 reason

00:51:18.980 --> 00:51:20.260
 then you

00:51:20.260 --> 00:51:20.980
 have violated

00:51:20.980 --> 00:51:21.760
 all of what

00:51:21.760 --> 00:51:22.500
 I was saying

00:51:22.500 --> 00:51:23.560
 in verses

00:51:23.560 --> 00:51:24.260
 one through

00:51:24.260 --> 00:51:24.720
 five

00:51:24.720 --> 00:51:26.260
 right

00:51:26.260 --> 00:51:27.460
 because what

00:51:27.460 --> 00:51:28.200
 what I want

00:51:28.200 --> 00:51:28.660
 you to see

00:51:28.660 --> 00:51:28.980
 is that

00:51:28.980 --> 00:51:29.900
 if you have

00:51:29.900 --> 00:51:30.640
 that desire

00:51:30.640 --> 00:51:31.640
 there is a

00:51:31.640 --> 00:51:32.700
 good estate

00:51:32.700 --> 00:51:33.320
 for you to

00:51:33.320 --> 00:51:34.039
 aspire to

00:51:34.039 --> 00:51:35.080
 but understand

00:51:35.080 --> 00:51:35.620
 that what God

00:51:35.620 --> 00:51:36.260
 calls you to

00:51:36.260 --> 00:51:36.900
 in that estate

00:51:36.900 --> 00:51:38.019
 is not selfish

00:51:38.019 --> 00:51:39.100
 gratification

00:51:39.099 --> 00:51:40.219
 but it is

00:51:40.219 --> 00:51:41.139
 self-sacrificial

00:51:41.139 --> 00:51:41.940
 loving

00:51:41.940 --> 00:51:42.679
 and giving

00:51:42.679 --> 00:51:43.980
 for the sake

00:51:43.980 --> 00:51:44.440
 of God

00:51:44.440 --> 00:51:45.119
 and for his

00:51:45.119 --> 00:51:45.539
 kingdom

00:51:45.539 --> 00:51:48.739
 so Paul says

00:51:48.739 --> 00:51:49.519
 recognize your

00:51:49.519 --> 00:51:49.960
 gift

00:51:49.960 --> 00:51:54.099
 wait for it

00:51:54.099 --> 00:51:57.440
 really briefly

00:51:57.440 --> 00:51:58.239
 some people talk

00:51:58.239 --> 00:51:58.759
 about the gift

00:51:58.759 --> 00:51:59.199
 of singleness

00:51:59.199 --> 00:51:59.799
 like oh do you

00:51:59.799 --> 00:52:00.179
 have the gift

00:52:00.179 --> 00:52:00.619
 of singleness

00:52:00.619 --> 00:52:01.799
 24 year olds

00:52:01.799 --> 00:52:02.239
 shouldn't be

00:52:02.239 --> 00:52:02.659
 having that

00:52:02.659 --> 00:52:03.239
 conversation

00:52:03.239 --> 00:52:03.639
 about whether

00:52:03.639 --> 00:52:03.880
 they have

00:52:03.880 --> 00:52:04.139
 the gift

00:52:04.139 --> 00:52:04.559
 of singleness

00:52:04.559 --> 00:52:05.099
 there are

00:52:05.099 --> 00:52:05.579
 almost no

00:52:05.579 --> 00:52:06.299
 24 year olds

00:52:06.299 --> 00:52:06.599
 who know

00:52:06.599 --> 00:52:07.000
 whether they

00:52:07.000 --> 00:52:07.539
 do or not

00:52:07.539 --> 00:52:08.319
 I think

00:52:08.319 --> 00:52:08.819
 it's often

00:52:08.820 --> 00:52:09.200
 something

00:52:09.200 --> 00:52:09.539
 that you

00:52:09.539 --> 00:52:10.140
 discover

00:52:10.140 --> 00:52:11.100
 over time

00:52:11.100 --> 00:52:11.780
 as you

00:52:11.780 --> 00:52:12.240
 continue

00:52:12.240 --> 00:52:12.940
 to walk

00:52:12.940 --> 00:52:14.340
 in life

00:52:14.340 --> 00:52:15.280
 pursue the

00:52:15.280 --> 00:52:15.960
 glory of God

00:52:15.960 --> 00:52:16.260
 and his

00:52:16.260 --> 00:52:16.880
 purposes for

00:52:16.880 --> 00:52:17.220
 your life

00:52:17.220 --> 00:52:17.500
 and you

00:52:17.500 --> 00:52:18.220
 will decide

00:52:18.220 --> 00:52:18.860
 you will

00:52:18.860 --> 00:52:19.500
 find out

00:52:19.500 --> 00:52:20.039
 along the

00:52:20.039 --> 00:52:20.180
 way

00:52:20.180 --> 00:52:20.600
 because if

00:52:20.600 --> 00:52:20.860
 you don't

00:52:20.860 --> 00:52:21.340
 get married

00:52:21.340 --> 00:52:21.820
 you probably

00:52:21.820 --> 00:52:22.160
 have the

00:52:22.160 --> 00:52:22.480
 gift

00:52:22.480 --> 00:52:28.100
 again

00:52:28.100 --> 00:52:28.480
 bachelor

00:52:28.480 --> 00:52:28.700
 of the

00:52:28.700 --> 00:52:28.900
 ratchet

00:52:28.900 --> 00:52:29.160
 club

00:52:29.160 --> 00:52:29.440
 we had

00:52:29.440 --> 00:52:29.720
 that all

00:52:29.720 --> 00:52:29.960
 figured

00:52:29.960 --> 00:52:30.240
 out

00:52:30.240 --> 00:52:30.660
 not

00:52:30.660 --> 00:52:31.000
 really

00:52:31.000 --> 00:52:33.680
 but God

00:52:33.680 --> 00:52:34.019
 has given

00:52:34.019 --> 00:52:34.420
 you this

00:52:34.420 --> 00:52:34.840
 gift

00:52:34.840 --> 00:52:38.160
 God

00:52:38.160 --> 00:52:38.500
 has given

00:52:38.500 --> 00:52:38.880
 you this

00:52:38.880 --> 00:52:39.340
 gift

00:52:39.340 --> 00:52:40.280
 of your

00:52:40.280 --> 00:52:40.760
 life

00:52:40.760 --> 00:52:41.780
 a life

00:52:41.780 --> 00:52:42.320
 that he

00:52:42.320 --> 00:52:43.039
 has bought

00:52:43.039 --> 00:52:44.660
 going back

00:52:44.660 --> 00:52:45.039
 to the end

00:52:45.039 --> 00:52:45.460
 of chapter

00:52:45.460 --> 00:52:45.960
 six

00:52:45.960 --> 00:52:46.920
 your life

00:52:46.920 --> 00:52:47.260
 has been

00:52:47.260 --> 00:52:47.579
 bought

00:52:47.579 --> 00:52:47.960
 with the

00:52:47.960 --> 00:52:48.300
 precious

00:52:48.300 --> 00:52:48.660
 blood

00:52:48.660 --> 00:52:49.079
 of Jesus

00:52:49.079 --> 00:52:49.519
 Christ

00:52:49.519 --> 00:52:49.840
 he has

00:52:49.840 --> 00:52:50.400
 laid down

00:52:50.400 --> 00:52:50.880
 his life

00:52:50.880 --> 00:52:51.539
 to redeem

00:52:51.539 --> 00:52:52.079
 you

00:52:52.079 --> 00:52:52.700
 from

00:52:52.700 --> 00:52:53.720
 selfishness

00:52:53.720 --> 00:52:54.360
 and self

00:52:54.360 --> 00:52:54.740
 centered

00:52:54.740 --> 00:52:55.200
 living

00:52:55.200 --> 00:52:56.160
 and he

00:52:56.160 --> 00:52:56.620
 has given

00:52:56.620 --> 00:52:57.120
 you not

00:52:57.120 --> 00:52:58.000
 only a

00:52:58.000 --> 00:52:58.820
 new life

00:52:58.820 --> 00:52:59.500
 so that

00:52:59.500 --> 00:52:59.960
 you might

00:52:59.960 --> 00:53:00.700
 live for

00:53:00.700 --> 00:53:01.140
 the glory

00:53:01.140 --> 00:53:01.660
 of God

00:53:01.660 --> 00:53:01.960
 but he

00:53:01.960 --> 00:53:02.340
 has given

00:53:02.340 --> 00:53:02.680
 you a

00:53:02.680 --> 00:53:03.079
 pattern

00:53:03.079 --> 00:53:03.559
 of how

00:53:03.559 --> 00:53:04.099
 to live

00:53:04.099 --> 00:53:04.659
 that way

00:53:04.659 --> 00:53:06.259
 not

00:53:06.259 --> 00:53:06.960
 selfishly

00:53:06.960 --> 00:53:07.380
 taking

00:53:07.380 --> 00:53:08.699
 but giving

00:53:08.699 --> 00:53:10.199
 to one

00:53:10.199 --> 00:53:10.539
 another

00:53:10.539 --> 00:53:11.219
 will you

00:53:11.219 --> 00:53:11.639
 invest

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 your life

00:53:12.259 --> 00:53:13.659
 your love

00:53:13.659 --> 00:53:13.940
 life

00:53:13.940 --> 00:53:14.480
 whatever it

00:53:14.480 --> 00:53:14.840
 is

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 to the

00:53:16.219 --> 00:53:16.480
 glory

00:53:16.480 --> 00:53:16.960
 of God

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 and happy

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 Valentine's

00:53:19.480 --> 00:53:19.659
 Day

00:53:19.659 --> 00:53:20.460
 let's pray

00:53:20.460 --> 00:53:27.900
 Lord we

00:53:27.900 --> 00:53:28.199
 ask for

00:53:28.199 --> 00:53:28.619
 your help

00:53:28.619 --> 00:53:30.039
 because these

00:53:30.039 --> 00:53:30.519
 things are

00:53:30.519 --> 00:53:30.960
 hard

00:53:30.960 --> 00:53:31.840
 there are

00:53:31.840 --> 00:53:32.679
 hard words

00:53:32.679 --> 00:53:33.519
 that challenge

00:53:33.519 --> 00:53:34.000
 us

00:53:34.000 --> 00:53:36.739
 challenge

00:53:36.739 --> 00:53:37.159
 how we

00:53:37.159 --> 00:53:37.539
 live

00:53:37.539 --> 00:53:38.079
 challenge

00:53:38.079 --> 00:53:38.500
 how we

00:53:38.500 --> 00:53:38.960
 feel

00:53:38.960 --> 00:53:41.199
 challenge

00:53:41.199 --> 00:53:41.719
 what our

00:53:41.719 --> 00:53:42.139
 assumptions

00:53:42.139 --> 00:53:42.819
 are about

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 what is

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 and what

00:53:43.719 --> 00:53:44.119
 ought to

00:53:44.119 --> 00:53:44.440
 be

00:53:44.440 --> 00:53:45.419
 in our

00:53:45.419 --> 00:53:45.940
 relationship

00:53:45.940 --> 00:53:46.519
 life

00:53:46.519 --> 00:53:48.259
 God I

00:53:48.259 --> 00:53:48.699
 pray

00:53:48.699 --> 00:53:49.699
 that you

00:53:49.699 --> 00:53:50.179
 would help

00:53:50.179 --> 00:53:50.559
 us this

00:53:50.559 --> 00:53:50.859
 morning

00:53:50.859 --> 00:53:53.339
 Lord to

00:53:53.339 --> 00:53:53.940
 see the

00:53:53.940 --> 00:53:54.339
 depth of

00:53:54.339 --> 00:53:54.519
 our

00:53:54.519 --> 00:53:55.219
 selfishness

00:53:55.219 --> 00:53:56.019
 to see

00:53:56.019 --> 00:53:56.519
 the depth

00:53:56.519 --> 00:53:56.899
 of your

00:53:56.899 --> 00:53:57.500
 love for

00:53:57.500 --> 00:53:57.879
 us in

00:53:57.879 --> 00:53:58.299
 Christ

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 and how

00:53:59.519 --> 00:54:00.039
 he can

00:54:00.039 --> 00:54:00.579
 free us

00:54:00.579 --> 00:54:01.159
 from that

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 so that

00:54:01.599 --> 00:54:01.980
 we might

00:54:01.980 --> 00:54:02.500
 live for

00:54:02.500 --> 00:54:03.139
 your glory

00:54:03.139 --> 00:54:04.379
 in all

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 that we

00:54:04.659 --> 00:54:04.920
 do

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 we pray

00:54:06.539 --> 00:54:07.000
 these things

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 in Jesus

00:54:07.359 --> 00:54:07.719
 name

00:54:07.719 --> 00:54:08.639
 amen

00:54:08.639 --> 00:54:08.739
 amen