WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.919 I'd like an amen on this next statement. 00:00:05.839 --> 00:00:09.040 Being a Christian parent is challenging. 00:00:13.439 --> 00:00:16.420 Being a Christian parent is challenging. 00:00:17.160 --> 00:00:17.839 Amen. 00:00:18.519 --> 00:00:20.420 It is challenging. 00:00:20.660 --> 00:00:22.280 I mean, we're living in a world right now, 00:00:22.339 --> 00:00:23.400 in a culture right now, 00:00:23.539 --> 00:00:28.320 where we're one step closer to moral bankruptcy. 00:00:28.320 --> 00:00:31.940 We seem like we are being handed over, Romans 1, 00:00:32.039 --> 00:00:36.179 by God to the desires of the flesh of our culture. 00:00:36.359 --> 00:00:39.320 And so it's challenging for us individually 00:00:39.859 --> 00:00:42.659 to navigate this season we're in in our culture. 00:00:42.960 --> 00:00:45.179 It's even more challenging to navigate our children 00:00:45.179 --> 00:00:47.820 to help them walk on the path of wisdom. 00:00:48.879 --> 00:00:52.539 In fact, many of us as parents, 00:00:53.179 --> 00:00:56.600 we will encounter hardship with our children. 00:00:56.600 --> 00:01:00.579 We're going to have head-scratching moments of confusion. 00:01:01.359 --> 00:01:04.700 We're going to experience heartache 00:01:04.700 --> 00:01:09.060 when our children choose foolish ways. 00:01:09.280 --> 00:01:10.120 It's going to be difficult. 00:01:10.599 --> 00:01:12.680 And when we encounter those kinds of things, 00:01:13.040 --> 00:01:14.799 this is what our temptations are. 00:01:14.900 --> 00:01:18.859 We can be kind of like want to give up and check out. 00:01:19.520 --> 00:01:20.340 That's one option. 00:01:20.340 --> 00:01:22.840 Another option is to kind of withdraw 00:01:22.840 --> 00:01:27.439 and to isolate within kind of a Christian holy huddle. 00:01:27.960 --> 00:01:29.719 And then there's always the, you know, 00:01:29.780 --> 00:01:31.680 I don't care at all whatsoever or anything. 00:01:32.079 --> 00:01:35.700 And you just kind of blend into everybody else. 00:01:36.879 --> 00:01:39.340 Well, I'm so grateful that God's Word 00:01:39.340 --> 00:01:42.920 speaks directly to parents, Christian parents. 00:01:43.600 --> 00:01:46.859 And God has us a way to walk, brothers and sisters, 00:01:46.859 --> 00:01:50.099 in order to raise our children in the fear of the Lord. 00:01:51.379 --> 00:01:54.400 And so here is the call that I want to put out early 00:01:54.400 --> 00:01:56.680 on all of you as parents and grandparents, 00:01:57.519 --> 00:02:00.579 brothers and sisters, moms and dads, 00:02:00.900 --> 00:02:02.120 grandmas and grandpas. 00:02:03.460 --> 00:02:06.900 The call this morning is to be faithful to the Lord 00:02:06.900 --> 00:02:08.199 in your parenting. 00:02:09.199 --> 00:02:12.699 To be faithful to God in your parenting. 00:02:12.699 --> 00:02:15.799 Eugene Peterson wrote a book entitled 00:02:15.799 --> 00:02:18.219 A Long Obedience in the Same Direction. 00:02:18.939 --> 00:02:23.000 Parenting is a long faithfulness in the same direction. 00:02:23.619 --> 00:02:26.599 Aiming our children at God over and over and over again. 00:02:27.359 --> 00:02:31.139 So this morning, as part of our study in the book of Proverbs, 00:02:31.519 --> 00:02:34.780 I'm going to do a bit of a survey of the book of Proverbs. 00:02:34.939 --> 00:02:38.620 And I'm going to point you to six wise ways, 00:02:38.620 --> 00:02:43.020 six wise ways we parent our children to the Lord, 00:02:43.080 --> 00:02:44.560 how to be faithful to the Lord. 00:02:45.000 --> 00:02:51.500 And the first way is that wise parents fear God first. 00:02:52.659 --> 00:02:55.319 Wise parents fear God first. 00:02:56.540 --> 00:02:58.580 Christian parenting doesn't start with your children. 00:03:00.000 --> 00:03:03.180 Christian parenting does not start with a parenting book 00:03:03.180 --> 00:03:04.400 and learning some skills. 00:03:04.400 --> 00:03:09.480 Christian parenting starts first with God. 00:03:11.040 --> 00:03:12.620 Fear God first. 00:03:13.900 --> 00:03:17.980 In Proverbs 9.10, we learn that the fear of the Lord 00:03:17.980 --> 00:03:19.520 is the beginning of wisdom. 00:03:20.599 --> 00:03:23.740 Wisdom is a life skill of crafting a life 00:03:23.740 --> 00:03:24.939 that is pleasing to God. 00:03:25.620 --> 00:03:29.379 And you craft a life according to the fear of the Lord. 00:03:29.780 --> 00:03:31.219 And that word fear is better understood 00:03:31.219 --> 00:03:32.580 as kind of a reverence, 00:03:33.580 --> 00:03:36.719 a controlling reverence of your entire life. 00:03:36.819 --> 00:03:40.620 It's this controlling reality that governs all that you do. 00:03:40.759 --> 00:03:42.039 And all throughout this series, 00:03:42.180 --> 00:03:44.979 I've been trying to put a little bit of an illustration in your minds 00:03:44.979 --> 00:03:50.780 as to the central operating system of your computer, your life. 00:03:52.560 --> 00:03:56.379 Proverbs depicts two ways to live, wisdom and folly. 00:03:56.379 --> 00:03:59.699 And there's two different operating systems at work in each of us. 00:03:59.699 --> 00:04:02.979 There's the operating system of the flesh, 00:04:02.979 --> 00:04:05.759 which moves towards folly. 00:04:06.439 --> 00:04:09.339 And then there's the operating system of faith, 00:04:09.659 --> 00:04:11.919 which moves towards wisdom. 00:04:13.299 --> 00:04:15.939 And the operating system of the flesh, 00:04:16.259 --> 00:04:19.459 what is the governing reality of that system is me, 00:04:20.159 --> 00:04:22.759 is you, is what we want. 00:04:23.000 --> 00:04:24.599 The world revolves around me. 00:04:24.600 --> 00:04:26.220 It's me centered. 00:04:26.740 --> 00:04:29.760 But the operating system of the faith, 00:04:29.879 --> 00:04:31.620 of wisdom, is God centered. 00:04:32.920 --> 00:04:36.100 It's God is the controlling reality of all of our lives. 00:04:38.100 --> 00:04:42.120 And this is where I get to preach the cross right now to you. 00:04:43.200 --> 00:04:45.640 Because it's the cross of Jesus Christ 00:04:45.640 --> 00:04:47.520 that delivers us daily 00:04:47.520 --> 00:04:50.620 from the operating system of the flesh 00:04:50.620 --> 00:04:54.360 and delivers us to the operating system of faith. 00:04:54.780 --> 00:04:57.019 From living a life for me 00:04:57.019 --> 00:05:00.319 to living a life for God and His glory. 00:05:01.079 --> 00:05:01.899 Every day, 00:05:02.959 --> 00:05:04.399 the cross of Jesus Christ 00:05:04.399 --> 00:05:08.780 delivers me from the flesh to faith. 00:05:08.779 --> 00:05:08.959 faith. 00:05:10.799 --> 00:05:12.579 An operating system in a computer 00:05:12.579 --> 00:05:14.819 controls all of a computer's applications. 00:05:16.819 --> 00:05:18.959 And the operating system of faith, 00:05:19.179 --> 00:05:20.439 fearing God above all else, 00:05:20.679 --> 00:05:24.719 it governs the application of parenting in our lives. 00:05:26.659 --> 00:05:30.159 We will either be governed by our flesh in our parenting, 00:05:30.500 --> 00:05:33.159 or we will be governed by faith. 00:05:33.160 --> 00:05:37.980 If you turn in your Bibles to Proverbs 14, 00:05:38.860 --> 00:05:40.800 chapter 14, verse 26, 00:05:41.700 --> 00:05:43.100 we read this. 00:05:44.520 --> 00:05:46.560 In the fear of the Lord, 00:05:47.380 --> 00:05:51.160 one has strong confidence, 00:05:51.860 --> 00:05:56.240 and his children will have a refuge. 00:05:57.260 --> 00:05:58.200 You see the logic? 00:05:58.199 --> 00:06:04.139 When I fear God above all else, 00:06:04.459 --> 00:06:07.779 God uses that to refuge my children. 00:06:12.420 --> 00:06:14.279 There's two applications of this. 00:06:14.699 --> 00:06:15.339 Moms and dads, 00:06:15.539 --> 00:06:16.419 grandmas and grandpas. 00:06:16.579 --> 00:06:19.459 The greatest way to love your children, 00:06:19.759 --> 00:06:21.860 to raise your children where it all starts, 00:06:22.240 --> 00:06:24.519 the greatest thing that you can do for your children 00:06:24.519 --> 00:06:27.219 is to love God with all that you've got. 00:06:27.220 --> 00:06:29.100 To fear Him above all else. 00:06:29.480 --> 00:06:31.580 To see who He is 00:06:31.580 --> 00:06:35.060 and allow that to govern all that you are. 00:06:35.720 --> 00:06:37.200 Every day, 00:06:37.920 --> 00:06:38.740 every morning, 00:06:38.860 --> 00:06:41.920 you need to go into the settings of your heart 00:06:41.920 --> 00:06:44.460 and disable, by faith, 00:06:44.940 --> 00:06:46.940 the old operating system of flesh. 00:06:47.340 --> 00:06:48.520 You say no to that, 00:06:48.700 --> 00:06:51.500 and you flip on through the cross and say, 00:06:51.860 --> 00:06:54.520 I am going to live for the glory of God today. 00:06:54.519 --> 00:06:57.039 I am going to fear Him above all else 00:06:57.039 --> 00:06:58.299 because He is worthy. 00:07:00.579 --> 00:07:03.159 Daily, you turn from living for yourself 00:07:03.159 --> 00:07:04.359 to trusting in Christ, 00:07:05.120 --> 00:07:07.259 and that's the best thing that you can do for your children. 00:07:08.799 --> 00:07:09.899 In the fear of the Lord, 00:07:09.979 --> 00:07:10.959 one has strong confidence, 00:07:11.099 --> 00:07:12.299 and his children will have a refuge. 00:07:12.599 --> 00:07:13.539 But it also, 00:07:13.719 --> 00:07:15.279 another application of this 00:07:15.279 --> 00:07:17.259 is when you fear the Lord, 00:07:17.379 --> 00:07:19.740 and that's the governing reality of your life. 00:07:19.740 --> 00:07:21.300 It's the operating system, 00:07:21.379 --> 00:07:23.600 the program that's governing all other applications. 00:07:24.000 --> 00:07:25.079 You start to understand 00:07:25.079 --> 00:07:26.699 what the goal is in your parenting. 00:07:27.900 --> 00:07:29.460 For every parent, 00:07:29.600 --> 00:07:31.160 the goal is to raise their children 00:07:31.160 --> 00:07:32.519 to be a responsible adult. 00:07:32.860 --> 00:07:34.000 That's the baseline. 00:07:35.100 --> 00:07:36.660 But it doesn't go far enough 00:07:36.660 --> 00:07:37.740 for Christian parents. 00:07:38.560 --> 00:07:39.819 For Christian parents, 00:07:40.240 --> 00:07:42.840 the goal is to raise your children 00:07:42.839 --> 00:07:44.379 to be responsible adults 00:07:44.379 --> 00:07:46.339 who fear the Lord. 00:07:47.500 --> 00:07:49.879 And that becomes the governing reality 00:07:49.879 --> 00:07:50.879 of our lives, 00:07:51.139 --> 00:07:52.139 of their lives. 00:07:52.979 --> 00:07:55.439 And I think you're probably starting to feel right now 00:07:55.439 --> 00:07:56.239 this sense of, 00:07:56.419 --> 00:07:57.439 this is beyond me. 00:07:58.719 --> 00:07:59.500 And well, you should. 00:08:00.299 --> 00:08:02.459 The goal is to raise our children 00:08:02.459 --> 00:08:04.299 to become responsible adults 00:08:04.299 --> 00:08:05.079 who fear the Lord. 00:08:05.239 --> 00:08:06.620 The strategy, then, 00:08:07.259 --> 00:08:09.739 is not behavioral modification. 00:08:09.740 --> 00:08:12.920 The strategy to that goal 00:08:12.920 --> 00:08:14.860 is to address our children's hearts 00:08:14.860 --> 00:08:16.879 over and over and over again. 00:08:17.060 --> 00:08:18.660 Because your child's heart 00:08:18.660 --> 00:08:21.699 is the control center of their life. 00:08:22.780 --> 00:08:24.620 And when you address that as a parent 00:08:24.620 --> 00:08:25.819 over and over and over again, 00:08:25.879 --> 00:08:26.780 you train them. 00:08:27.740 --> 00:08:30.740 You train them in fearing the Lord. 00:08:32.019 --> 00:08:33.340 So we have the goal. 00:08:33.820 --> 00:08:35.460 The goal is to train your children 00:08:35.460 --> 00:08:36.120 to fear the Lord. 00:08:36.539 --> 00:08:38.759 The strategy is to attend to their heart. 00:08:38.759 --> 00:08:41.439 And now there are tactics to that. 00:08:42.980 --> 00:08:46.120 The way that you train a young child 00:08:46.120 --> 00:08:48.080 in addressing their heart 00:08:48.080 --> 00:08:49.220 so that they fear the Lord 00:08:49.220 --> 00:08:51.460 is going to be different tactically 00:08:51.460 --> 00:08:53.379 than addressing a teenager 00:08:53.379 --> 00:08:55.319 and addressing their heart 00:08:55.319 --> 00:08:56.340 to fear the Lord. 00:08:56.939 --> 00:08:58.939 The same goal, same strategy, 00:08:59.139 --> 00:08:59.939 different tactics. 00:09:02.679 --> 00:09:03.600 Wise parents, 00:09:04.580 --> 00:09:06.639 fear God first. 00:09:06.639 --> 00:09:09.679 Moms and dads, 00:09:09.919 --> 00:09:10.919 grandmas and grandpas. 00:09:11.720 --> 00:09:12.799 The call on your life 00:09:12.799 --> 00:09:14.600 is to be faithful to the Lord 00:09:14.600 --> 00:09:15.740 in your parenting. 00:09:17.340 --> 00:09:18.480 Wise way number two. 00:09:18.679 --> 00:09:19.620 Wise parents, 00:09:19.960 --> 00:09:22.240 obey God's call. 00:09:23.120 --> 00:09:24.439 Obey God's call. 00:09:25.279 --> 00:09:26.500 If you flip in your Bible 00:09:26.500 --> 00:09:30.480 to Proverbs 22, verse 6, 00:09:30.639 --> 00:09:32.919 this is a classic Bible verse 00:09:32.919 --> 00:09:34.399 many of you are familiar with 00:09:34.399 --> 00:09:35.519 if you've been around the church. 00:09:36.720 --> 00:09:37.459 But oftentimes, 00:09:38.299 --> 00:09:39.559 it's somewhat misunderstood. 00:09:40.959 --> 00:09:41.819 Train up a child 00:09:41.819 --> 00:09:43.360 in the way he should go. 00:09:44.220 --> 00:09:45.419 Even when he's old, 00:09:45.519 --> 00:09:46.740 he will not depart from it. 00:09:46.840 --> 00:09:48.779 And we can use that proverb 00:09:48.779 --> 00:09:50.840 as a promise. 00:09:52.019 --> 00:09:53.799 But that's not how proverbs work. 00:09:54.840 --> 00:09:57.360 A proverb isn't a promise per se 00:09:57.360 --> 00:09:59.699 as much as it is a truism. 00:09:59.700 --> 00:10:01.660 Generally speaking, 00:10:02.660 --> 00:10:03.160 typically, 00:10:03.420 --> 00:10:04.560 when you raise up a child 00:10:04.560 --> 00:10:05.500 in the fear of the Lord, 00:10:06.060 --> 00:10:07.080 when he's old, 00:10:07.140 --> 00:10:08.160 he will not depart from it. 00:10:09.200 --> 00:10:11.240 What I want to emphasize 00:10:11.240 --> 00:10:12.340 in this verse 00:10:12.340 --> 00:10:14.640 is not the second half of it, 00:10:15.040 --> 00:10:16.400 but the first half. 00:10:16.960 --> 00:10:18.480 Because in the first half 00:10:18.480 --> 00:10:20.040 is a command. 00:10:21.240 --> 00:10:22.520 It's an imperative. 00:10:24.200 --> 00:10:26.720 Train up a child 00:10:26.720 --> 00:10:29.180 in the way he should go, 00:10:29.279 --> 00:10:30.300 in the way of wisdom, 00:10:30.600 --> 00:10:31.620 in fearing the Lord. 00:10:31.940 --> 00:10:32.600 It's a command, 00:10:32.740 --> 00:10:33.420 brothers and sisters, 00:10:33.560 --> 00:10:34.139 moms and dads, 00:10:34.240 --> 00:10:35.120 grandmas and grandpas. 00:10:35.519 --> 00:10:37.080 It's a command to us. 00:10:37.519 --> 00:10:39.279 God is calling us 00:10:39.279 --> 00:10:41.379 to train up our children 00:10:41.379 --> 00:10:43.759 in God's ways. 00:10:45.519 --> 00:10:47.080 It's not just a good idea. 00:10:47.759 --> 00:10:48.519 It's not something 00:10:48.519 --> 00:10:49.840 you acknowledge as a parent 00:10:49.840 --> 00:10:50.500 and then move on 00:10:50.500 --> 00:10:51.420 with the rest of your day. 00:10:51.840 --> 00:10:52.840 It's something you obey. 00:10:53.940 --> 00:10:54.720 Take it to heart 00:10:54.720 --> 00:10:55.680 and you act on it. 00:10:56.860 --> 00:10:58.060 Now, I want you to imagine 00:10:58.060 --> 00:10:59.980 a dude ranch in Wyoming. 00:11:02.340 --> 00:11:03.600 And as you're looking 00:11:03.600 --> 00:11:04.639 at this dude ranch, 00:11:04.820 --> 00:11:05.940 you come into sight 00:11:05.940 --> 00:11:07.560 of this circular pen. 00:11:07.720 --> 00:11:08.820 It's fenced in. 00:11:10.040 --> 00:11:11.100 And in that pen, 00:11:11.180 --> 00:11:12.340 in the middle of that pen, 00:11:12.420 --> 00:11:14.500 is an old-season cowboy. 00:11:15.860 --> 00:11:17.360 And in his left hand, 00:11:17.440 --> 00:11:18.639 there is a rope 00:11:18.639 --> 00:11:22.500 leading to this thoroughbred stallion. 00:11:22.560 --> 00:11:23.259 And that stallion 00:11:23.259 --> 00:11:24.340 is running around 00:11:24.340 --> 00:11:25.799 the circumference 00:11:25.799 --> 00:11:26.740 of that pen. 00:11:26.919 --> 00:11:28.279 And that rope 00:11:28.279 --> 00:11:30.159 is attached to the stallion, 00:11:30.419 --> 00:11:32.039 the bit and the bridle 00:11:32.039 --> 00:11:32.980 on that horse. 00:11:33.319 --> 00:11:35.340 And on the right hand 00:11:35.340 --> 00:11:36.879 of this cowboy 00:11:36.879 --> 00:11:38.220 is a long stick. 00:11:38.319 --> 00:11:39.460 And he is tapping 00:11:39.460 --> 00:11:40.559 the rear end 00:11:40.559 --> 00:11:41.319 of that stallion. 00:11:41.539 --> 00:11:42.939 And he's prodded on. 00:11:43.139 --> 00:11:44.559 And that stallion 00:11:44.559 --> 00:11:46.019 is moving around, 00:11:46.340 --> 00:11:47.779 going from right to left 00:11:47.779 --> 00:11:48.700 in the pen, 00:11:49.220 --> 00:11:50.259 day after day, 00:11:50.939 --> 00:11:52.000 week after week. 00:11:52.000 --> 00:11:53.360 That cowboy 00:11:53.360 --> 00:11:54.220 is training 00:11:54.220 --> 00:11:55.240 that stallion 00:11:55.240 --> 00:11:57.399 to feel the pressure. 00:11:58.159 --> 00:11:59.460 Feel the pressure 00:11:59.460 --> 00:12:00.919 on the bridle and bit 00:12:00.919 --> 00:12:02.080 and respond 00:12:02.080 --> 00:12:04.419 to the slightest tug 00:12:04.419 --> 00:12:05.860 in the bit and bridle. 00:12:06.059 --> 00:12:07.100 And it turns left. 00:12:08.200 --> 00:12:09.340 And then he turns 00:12:09.340 --> 00:12:10.940 that stallion around 00:12:10.940 --> 00:12:13.100 and puts the rod 00:12:13.100 --> 00:12:14.080 in his left hand 00:12:14.080 --> 00:12:15.080 and the lead 00:12:15.080 --> 00:12:15.639 in his right. 00:12:15.720 --> 00:12:16.340 And he trains 00:12:16.340 --> 00:12:17.299 that stallion 00:12:17.299 --> 00:12:19.159 to pull to the right 00:12:19.159 --> 00:12:20.440 day after day. 00:12:22.000 --> 00:12:22.820 Week after week. 00:12:24.159 --> 00:12:24.679 Training. 00:12:25.679 --> 00:12:26.240 Purposeful. 00:12:27.500 --> 00:12:27.899 Diligent. 00:12:28.960 --> 00:12:29.620 This cowboy 00:12:29.620 --> 00:12:31.019 sees the potential 00:12:31.019 --> 00:12:32.019 in this stallion. 00:12:32.360 --> 00:12:33.320 And above all else, 00:12:33.539 --> 00:12:35.500 he wants that stallion 00:12:35.500 --> 00:12:37.840 to ride trails well. 00:12:39.399 --> 00:12:41.340 We're not raising stallions. 00:12:42.940 --> 00:12:44.720 We're raising image bearers. 00:12:44.720 --> 00:12:47.320 We're raising worshipers. 00:12:48.460 --> 00:12:50.040 And it takes 00:12:50.040 --> 00:12:51.100 careful, 00:12:51.700 --> 00:12:52.139 diligent, 00:12:52.759 --> 00:12:53.500 patient, 00:12:54.139 --> 00:12:55.500 purposeful training 00:12:55.500 --> 00:12:57.920 over and over 00:12:57.920 --> 00:12:58.759 and over again 00:12:58.759 --> 00:13:00.920 to help our children 00:13:00.920 --> 00:13:03.180 respond to the slightest 00:13:03.180 --> 00:13:04.680 tug of God's word. 00:13:06.060 --> 00:13:07.340 To go to the left 00:13:07.340 --> 00:13:08.360 as God would have them 00:13:08.360 --> 00:13:09.379 or go to the right 00:13:09.379 --> 00:13:12.600 and to walk on the path 00:13:12.600 --> 00:13:13.560 of wisdom. 00:13:18.120 --> 00:13:19.139 Our goal 00:13:19.139 --> 00:13:20.600 as moms and dads 00:13:20.600 --> 00:13:22.779 is to train our children 00:13:22.779 --> 00:13:23.720 to fear the Lord 00:13:23.720 --> 00:13:26.659 so that they fear Him 00:13:26.659 --> 00:13:29.399 when they leave our homes. 00:13:30.500 --> 00:13:32.420 So that they know 00:13:32.420 --> 00:13:33.519 how to walk 00:13:33.519 --> 00:13:34.580 the path of wisdom. 00:13:35.139 --> 00:13:36.379 Because we have 00:13:36.379 --> 00:13:38.379 labored to that end 00:13:38.379 --> 00:13:39.840 in their lives. 00:13:39.840 --> 00:13:42.500 Now, I want to let you know 00:13:42.500 --> 00:13:44.060 that a family 00:13:44.060 --> 00:13:45.860 is not a boot camp. 00:13:46.899 --> 00:13:47.940 The way we train 00:13:47.940 --> 00:13:48.620 our children 00:13:48.620 --> 00:13:49.860 is not by 00:13:49.860 --> 00:13:51.280 having a sergeant 00:13:51.280 --> 00:13:52.480 yelling at our kids. 00:13:53.519 --> 00:13:54.540 The way 00:13:54.540 --> 00:13:56.000 that we raise 00:13:56.000 --> 00:13:56.800 our children 00:13:56.800 --> 00:13:58.660 is what Paul Tripp 00:13:58.660 --> 00:13:58.840 calls 00:13:59.379 --> 00:14:03.040 a loving, 00:14:03.759 --> 00:14:05.180 learning community. 00:14:06.480 --> 00:14:07.700 That's what a family is. 00:14:08.100 --> 00:14:09.200 That's God's design. 00:14:09.759 --> 00:14:10.520 That's Deuteronomy 00:14:10.520 --> 00:14:11.320 chapter 6, 00:14:11.420 --> 00:14:12.220 4 through 7, 00:14:12.320 --> 00:14:12.759 the Shema. 00:14:13.240 --> 00:14:14.140 Hear, O Israel, 00:14:14.240 --> 00:14:14.720 the Lord your God 00:14:14.720 --> 00:14:15.640 the Lord is one. 00:14:16.700 --> 00:14:17.340 You shall love Him 00:14:17.340 --> 00:14:18.360 with everything you've got. 00:14:18.660 --> 00:14:19.480 His word should be 00:14:19.480 --> 00:14:20.620 on your hearts, parents. 00:14:21.000 --> 00:14:21.940 And then you speak 00:14:21.940 --> 00:14:22.560 that word 00:14:22.560 --> 00:14:23.560 to your children 00:14:23.560 --> 00:14:25.040 24-7 00:14:25.040 --> 00:14:26.140 wherever you go 00:14:26.140 --> 00:14:27.180 always 00:14:27.180 --> 00:14:28.720 teaching your children 00:14:28.720 --> 00:14:29.480 God's words. 00:14:32.160 --> 00:14:32.920 The family 00:14:32.920 --> 00:14:33.860 is a learning community. 00:14:35.360 --> 00:14:36.640 And moms and dads 00:14:36.639 --> 00:14:38.039 you've been called 00:14:38.039 --> 00:14:40.059 to train your children 00:14:40.059 --> 00:14:42.039 to get them ready 00:14:42.039 --> 00:14:44.220 to get them used 00:14:44.220 --> 00:14:45.319 to God's word. 00:14:45.840 --> 00:14:46.199 And here's 00:14:46.199 --> 00:14:47.360 what's so sweet. 00:14:48.919 --> 00:14:50.120 God in His 00:14:50.120 --> 00:14:51.319 glorious sovereignty 00:14:51.319 --> 00:14:53.259 has placed 00:14:53.259 --> 00:14:55.340 each one 00:14:55.340 --> 00:14:56.480 of your children 00:14:56.480 --> 00:14:57.699 and grandchildren 00:14:57.699 --> 00:14:59.620 in your life. 00:15:00.700 --> 00:15:01.799 He intends 00:15:01.799 --> 00:15:03.019 for you 00:15:03.019 --> 00:15:04.620 to train them. 00:15:04.620 --> 00:15:06.419 He wants to show 00:15:06.419 --> 00:15:07.379 His goodness 00:15:07.379 --> 00:15:08.899 to your children 00:15:08.899 --> 00:15:09.980 through you 00:15:09.980 --> 00:15:12.560 that they would 00:15:12.560 --> 00:15:13.220 follow Him 00:15:13.220 --> 00:15:14.379 and you would 00:15:14.379 --> 00:15:15.279 show them the way 00:15:15.279 --> 00:15:17.679 which means 00:15:17.679 --> 00:15:19.639 you've been sent. 00:15:19.639 --> 00:15:22.399 God has sent 00:15:22.399 --> 00:15:23.379 you moms and dads 00:15:23.379 --> 00:15:24.240 to your learning 00:15:24.240 --> 00:15:24.799 communities 00:15:24.799 --> 00:15:26.039 to train your children 00:15:26.039 --> 00:15:29.120 to fear Him 00:15:29.120 --> 00:15:30.139 to love Him 00:15:30.139 --> 00:15:31.019 to learn 00:15:31.019 --> 00:15:31.639 to respond 00:15:31.639 --> 00:15:32.519 to His words. 00:15:33.039 --> 00:15:33.580 Wise parents 00:15:33.580 --> 00:15:34.679 obey God's call. 00:15:35.639 --> 00:15:35.939 Do you know 00:15:35.939 --> 00:15:36.860 that you've been called? 00:15:38.159 --> 00:15:39.240 Are you aware 00:15:39.240 --> 00:15:40.259 of what God 00:15:40.259 --> 00:15:41.299 requires of you 00:15:41.299 --> 00:15:42.159 moms and dads? 00:15:43.080 --> 00:15:43.819 That this is 00:15:43.819 --> 00:15:44.500 His word. 00:15:46.319 --> 00:15:47.480 So the question is 00:15:47.480 --> 00:15:48.000 have you been 00:15:48.000 --> 00:15:48.720 neglecting it? 00:15:49.639 --> 00:15:50.559 Have you been 00:15:50.559 --> 00:15:51.199 avoiding 00:15:51.199 --> 00:15:52.620 or minimizing 00:15:52.620 --> 00:15:54.559 this good 00:15:54.559 --> 00:15:55.600 responsibility 00:15:55.600 --> 00:15:57.000 entrusted to you? 00:15:57.379 --> 00:15:58.179 Do you need 00:15:58.179 --> 00:15:58.759 to take 00:15:58.759 --> 00:15:59.699 a humble 00:15:59.699 --> 00:16:00.439 U-turn 00:16:00.439 --> 00:16:01.159 in the way 00:16:01.159 --> 00:16:01.779 that you have 00:16:01.779 --> 00:16:02.759 been living 00:16:02.759 --> 00:16:04.059 and utilizing 00:16:04.059 --> 00:16:04.539 your time 00:16:04.539 --> 00:16:05.139 with your children? 00:16:06.639 --> 00:16:07.799 If you're married 00:16:07.799 --> 00:16:08.480 are you and your 00:16:08.480 --> 00:16:09.220 spouse on the same 00:16:09.220 --> 00:16:09.720 page? 00:16:12.120 --> 00:16:13.179 Despite what 00:16:13.179 --> 00:16:14.259 others may say 00:16:14.259 --> 00:16:15.059 or model 00:16:15.059 --> 00:16:16.980 being a 00:16:16.980 --> 00:16:18.100 Christian parent 00:16:18.100 --> 00:16:20.159 is one of the 00:16:20.159 --> 00:16:21.440 greatest 00:16:21.440 --> 00:16:22.800 responsibilities 00:16:22.800 --> 00:16:23.960 and privileges 00:16:23.960 --> 00:16:25.940 of your 00:16:25.940 --> 00:16:27.639 entire life. 00:16:29.019 --> 00:16:30.220 Your life. 00:16:30.220 --> 00:16:30.279 Your life. 00:16:34.620 --> 00:16:35.779 Wise parents 00:16:35.779 --> 00:16:37.320 obey God's call. 00:16:39.080 --> 00:16:40.060 The goal 00:16:40.060 --> 00:16:41.120 brothers and sisters 00:16:41.120 --> 00:16:42.580 is to be faithful 00:16:42.580 --> 00:16:43.740 to the Lord 00:16:43.740 --> 00:16:45.019 in our 00:16:45.019 --> 00:16:45.440 parenting. 00:16:46.539 --> 00:16:47.279 Which brings 00:16:47.279 --> 00:16:47.759 me to 00:16:47.759 --> 00:16:49.200 the third 00:16:49.200 --> 00:16:49.560 way. 00:16:51.000 --> 00:16:52.320 Wise parents 00:16:52.320 --> 00:16:53.860 pray God's 00:16:53.860 --> 00:16:54.019 will. 00:16:54.100 --> 00:16:54.639 Now I can 00:16:54.639 --> 00:16:55.519 only imagine 00:16:55.519 --> 00:16:56.399 coming off that 00:16:56.399 --> 00:16:57.259 last point 00:16:57.259 --> 00:16:58.259 some of you 00:16:58.259 --> 00:16:58.860 are thinking 00:16:58.860 --> 00:17:00.159 I am such 00:17:00.159 --> 00:17:00.960 a loser 00:17:00.960 --> 00:17:02.080 of a parent 00:17:02.080 --> 00:17:04.019 and you become 00:17:04.019 --> 00:17:04.779 ashamed of 00:17:04.779 --> 00:17:05.319 yourself. 00:17:05.660 --> 00:17:06.140 You think about 00:17:06.140 --> 00:17:06.819 all the ways 00:17:06.819 --> 00:17:07.620 you blew it. 00:17:09.620 --> 00:17:10.099 You think of 00:17:10.099 --> 00:17:10.960 yourself as a 00:17:10.960 --> 00:17:11.359 failure. 00:17:11.359 --> 00:17:11.519 failure. 00:17:13.899 --> 00:17:14.559 Or maybe 00:17:14.559 --> 00:17:15.659 you are just 00:17:15.659 --> 00:17:16.000 kind of like 00:17:16.000 --> 00:17:16.819 hearing this 00:17:16.819 --> 00:17:17.179 and you are 00:17:17.179 --> 00:17:17.659 hearing it for 00:17:17.659 --> 00:17:18.299 the first time 00:17:18.299 --> 00:17:18.659 and I am like 00:17:18.659 --> 00:17:19.419 I never knew 00:17:19.419 --> 00:17:19.919 that this is 00:17:19.919 --> 00:17:20.259 what God 00:17:20.259 --> 00:17:20.839 required of 00:17:20.839 --> 00:17:20.979 me. 00:17:21.359 --> 00:17:21.839 And now you 00:17:21.839 --> 00:17:22.559 feel overwhelmed. 00:17:23.399 --> 00:17:23.879 You feel like 00:17:23.879 --> 00:17:24.299 you are out of 00:17:24.299 --> 00:17:24.779 your league. 00:17:26.019 --> 00:17:26.479 And so you are 00:17:26.479 --> 00:17:27.079 starting to doubt 00:17:27.079 --> 00:17:27.579 yourself. 00:17:28.419 --> 00:17:28.919 I can't do 00:17:28.919 --> 00:17:29.139 that. 00:17:30.740 --> 00:17:31.359 Or maybe 00:17:31.359 --> 00:17:31.719 yet there is 00:17:31.719 --> 00:17:32.219 another group 00:17:32.219 --> 00:17:32.759 of parents in 00:17:32.759 --> 00:17:33.079 the room. 00:17:33.399 --> 00:17:33.740 They are like 00:17:33.740 --> 00:17:35.659 yeah. 00:17:36.759 --> 00:17:37.399 Just give me 00:17:37.399 --> 00:17:37.799 the plan. 00:17:37.919 --> 00:17:38.459 I will rock 00:17:38.459 --> 00:17:39.139 this thing. 00:17:39.140 --> 00:17:41.240 And so it is 00:17:41.240 --> 00:17:42.700 not being 00:17:42.700 --> 00:17:43.200 ashamed of 00:17:43.200 --> 00:17:43.460 yourself. 00:17:43.660 --> 00:17:43.940 It is not 00:17:43.940 --> 00:17:44.360 doubting 00:17:44.360 --> 00:17:44.720 yourself. 00:17:44.880 --> 00:17:45.360 It is like 00:17:45.360 --> 00:17:46.040 trusting in 00:17:46.040 --> 00:17:46.360 yourself. 00:17:46.500 --> 00:17:46.880 I can do 00:17:46.880 --> 00:17:47.140 this. 00:17:47.460 --> 00:17:47.620 Yeah. 00:17:47.780 --> 00:17:48.040 No big 00:17:48.040 --> 00:17:48.200 deal. 00:17:50.120 --> 00:17:51.100 Well you 00:17:51.100 --> 00:17:51.340 don't need 00:17:51.340 --> 00:17:51.860 to be ashamed 00:17:51.860 --> 00:17:52.660 nor do you 00:17:52.660 --> 00:17:53.040 need to doubt 00:17:53.040 --> 00:17:54.040 yourself nor 00:17:54.040 --> 00:17:54.440 should you 00:17:54.440 --> 00:17:55.200 trust yourself 00:17:55.200 --> 00:17:56.500 because Proverbs 00:17:56.500 --> 00:17:57.440 3, 5, and 6 00:17:57.440 --> 00:17:58.000 says what? 00:17:59.060 --> 00:18:00.060 Trust in the 00:18:00.060 --> 00:18:00.880 Lord with 00:18:00.880 --> 00:18:01.940 all of your 00:18:01.940 --> 00:18:02.380 heart. 00:18:03.020 --> 00:18:03.920 Lean not 00:18:03.920 --> 00:18:05.000 on your own 00:18:05.000 --> 00:18:05.720 understanding 00:18:05.720 --> 00:18:07.480 and in 00:18:07.480 --> 00:18:08.200 all of your 00:18:08.200 --> 00:18:09.360 parenting ways 00:18:09.360 --> 00:18:12.000 acknowledge 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:13.500 him 00:18:13.500 --> 00:18:15.579 and he 00:18:15.579 --> 00:18:15.920 will make 00:18:15.920 --> 00:18:16.299 straight your 00:18:16.299 --> 00:18:16.720 paths. 00:18:18.380 --> 00:18:18.740 And the 00:18:18.740 --> 00:18:19.500 principal way 00:18:19.500 --> 00:18:20.039 in which we 00:18:20.039 --> 00:18:21.120 acknowledge God 00:18:21.120 --> 00:18:22.819 is by praying 00:18:22.819 --> 00:18:23.279 to him. 00:18:24.500 --> 00:18:25.279 And not just 00:18:25.279 --> 00:18:26.799 saying acknowledging 00:18:26.799 --> 00:18:27.519 God's existence 00:18:27.519 --> 00:18:28.579 yes Lord I know 00:18:28.579 --> 00:18:29.120 you're there 00:18:29.120 --> 00:18:31.019 but you're 00:18:31.019 --> 00:18:32.000 praying God's 00:18:32.000 --> 00:18:32.460 will. 00:18:33.460 --> 00:18:33.799 You're taking 00:18:33.799 --> 00:18:34.579 your cues from 00:18:34.579 --> 00:18:35.500 Jesus himself 00:18:35.500 --> 00:18:36.079 who taught us 00:18:36.079 --> 00:18:36.500 to pray. 00:18:37.359 --> 00:18:37.859 Our Father 00:18:37.859 --> 00:18:38.359 who is in 00:18:38.359 --> 00:18:38.660 heaven. 00:18:39.900 --> 00:18:41.160 Hallowed be 00:18:41.160 --> 00:18:41.680 your name. 00:18:43.000 --> 00:18:43.539 Your kingdom 00:18:43.539 --> 00:18:43.920 come. 00:18:45.400 --> 00:18:46.079 Your will 00:18:46.079 --> 00:18:46.660 be done. 00:18:47.799 --> 00:18:49.500 On earth 00:18:49.500 --> 00:18:50.740 in my home 00:18:50.740 --> 00:18:51.700 as it is in 00:18:51.700 --> 00:18:51.960 heaven. 00:18:53.039 --> 00:18:53.700 You're praying 00:18:53.700 --> 00:18:54.839 God's will 00:18:54.839 --> 00:18:56.019 as you 00:18:56.019 --> 00:18:56.779 acknowledge him 00:18:56.779 --> 00:18:57.039 in your 00:18:57.039 --> 00:18:58.000 parenting ways. 00:18:58.700 --> 00:18:59.740 Wise parents 00:18:59.740 --> 00:19:00.940 just to let 00:19:00.940 --> 00:19:01.660 you know 00:19:01.660 --> 00:19:04.799 wise parents 00:19:04.799 --> 00:19:05.839 are always 00:19:05.839 --> 00:19:06.440 desperately 00:19:06.440 --> 00:19:07.220 praying for 00:19:07.220 --> 00:19:07.819 their children. 00:19:09.019 --> 00:19:09.759 That kind 00:19:09.759 --> 00:19:10.980 of desperation 00:19:10.980 --> 00:19:12.039 crazy praying 00:19:12.039 --> 00:19:13.099 that's normal 00:19:13.099 --> 00:19:13.700 for Christian 00:19:13.700 --> 00:19:14.339 parents. 00:19:15.180 --> 00:19:15.899 It's normal 00:19:15.899 --> 00:19:16.559 for Christian 00:19:16.559 --> 00:19:17.220 grandparents. 00:19:17.819 --> 00:19:18.159 You're so 00:19:18.159 --> 00:19:18.960 burdened for 00:19:18.960 --> 00:19:19.500 your children 00:19:19.500 --> 00:19:20.180 and recognize 00:19:20.180 --> 00:19:20.779 that it's 00:19:20.779 --> 00:19:21.960 God alone 00:19:21.960 --> 00:19:22.659 that can 00:19:22.659 --> 00:19:23.359 change their 00:19:23.359 --> 00:19:23.779 hearts. 00:19:24.299 --> 00:19:24.940 You just 00:19:24.940 --> 00:19:25.919 cry out to 00:19:25.919 --> 00:19:26.639 him regularly. 00:19:28.940 --> 00:19:29.819 Wise parents 00:19:29.819 --> 00:19:31.180 pray God's 00:19:31.180 --> 00:19:31.480 will. 00:19:32.379 --> 00:19:32.519 You know 00:19:32.519 --> 00:19:33.339 parenting is like 00:19:33.339 --> 00:19:33.980 firefighting. 00:19:35.039 --> 00:19:35.679 When your 00:19:35.679 --> 00:19:36.579 four-year-old 00:19:36.579 --> 00:19:37.659 melts down 00:19:37.659 --> 00:19:38.259 in front of 00:19:38.259 --> 00:19:39.079 you they are 00:19:39.079 --> 00:19:39.919 producing kind 00:19:39.919 --> 00:19:40.419 of this kind 00:19:40.419 --> 00:19:41.039 of heat. 00:19:42.519 --> 00:19:43.299 Or when your 00:19:43.299 --> 00:19:44.000 middle schooler 00:19:44.000 --> 00:19:44.519 and your high 00:19:44.519 --> 00:19:45.759 schooler are at 00:19:45.759 --> 00:19:47.500 odds again and 00:19:47.500 --> 00:19:48.119 it leads to 00:19:48.119 --> 00:19:49.339 tears and then 00:19:49.339 --> 00:19:50.599 doors are 00:19:50.599 --> 00:19:51.599 slammed and 00:19:51.599 --> 00:19:52.659 then there's 00:19:52.659 --> 00:19:53.659 this he says 00:19:53.659 --> 00:19:54.699 she says not 00:19:54.699 --> 00:19:55.220 that Jenny and 00:19:55.220 --> 00:19:55.879 I have experienced 00:19:55.879 --> 00:19:56.559 that in our 00:19:56.559 --> 00:19:57.099 home. 00:20:00.659 --> 00:20:01.519 Same fight 00:20:01.519 --> 00:20:02.299 different day. 00:20:05.660 --> 00:20:06.480 These kind of 00:20:06.480 --> 00:20:07.400 meltdowns and 00:20:07.400 --> 00:20:08.480 sibling fights 00:20:08.480 --> 00:20:09.980 they generate 00:20:09.980 --> 00:20:10.660 this kind of 00:20:10.660 --> 00:20:11.420 heat and 00:20:11.420 --> 00:20:12.279 then you find 00:20:12.279 --> 00:20:12.839 out one of 00:20:12.839 --> 00:20:13.200 your children 00:20:13.200 --> 00:20:13.720 is looking at 00:20:13.720 --> 00:20:14.440 pornography on 00:20:14.440 --> 00:20:14.819 the side. 00:20:15.139 --> 00:20:15.839 That's heat. 00:20:18.879 --> 00:20:19.379 And the 00:20:19.379 --> 00:20:20.019 mistake that we 00:20:20.019 --> 00:20:20.480 can make as 00:20:20.480 --> 00:20:22.019 parents is run 00:20:22.019 --> 00:20:23.180 from the fire 00:20:23.180 --> 00:20:25.019 when it actually 00:20:25.019 --> 00:20:25.960 is it's God 00:20:25.960 --> 00:20:26.920 giving you an 00:20:26.920 --> 00:20:27.559 opportunity 00:20:27.559 --> 00:20:28.299 brothers and 00:20:28.299 --> 00:20:28.619 sisters. 00:20:28.619 --> 00:20:30.479 this is an 00:20:30.479 --> 00:20:31.439 opportunity to 00:20:31.439 --> 00:20:34.299 train before a 00:20:34.299 --> 00:20:35.299 firefighter runs 00:20:35.299 --> 00:20:36.099 into a burning 00:20:36.099 --> 00:20:36.819 building they 00:20:36.819 --> 00:20:38.099 make sure that 00:20:38.099 --> 00:20:39.199 their mask is 00:20:39.199 --> 00:20:40.259 affixed and 00:20:40.259 --> 00:20:41.239 that their oxygen 00:20:41.239 --> 00:20:42.259 tank is turned 00:20:42.259 --> 00:20:44.559 on and they 00:20:44.559 --> 00:20:45.099 go in for the 00:20:45.099 --> 00:20:45.439 rescue. 00:20:47.639 --> 00:20:49.759 Prayer is the 00:20:49.759 --> 00:20:50.719 means by which 00:20:50.719 --> 00:20:52.359 we access 00:20:52.359 --> 00:20:54.259 God's life 00:20:54.259 --> 00:20:55.179 giving grace 00:20:55.180 --> 00:20:57.259 in times of 00:20:57.259 --> 00:20:58.240 heated 00:20:58.240 --> 00:20:59.740 situations. 00:21:01.620 --> 00:21:02.320 A wise 00:21:02.320 --> 00:21:03.200 parent is 00:21:03.200 --> 00:21:03.840 seeking 00:21:03.840 --> 00:21:05.860 the Lord 00:21:05.860 --> 00:21:07.400 when they 00:21:07.400 --> 00:21:08.019 encounter 00:21:08.019 --> 00:21:09.580 heat 00:21:09.580 --> 00:21:10.680 from their 00:21:10.680 --> 00:21:11.100 children 00:21:11.100 --> 00:21:12.320 and they 00:21:12.320 --> 00:21:13.400 prayerfully 00:21:13.400 --> 00:21:15.200 move towards 00:21:15.200 --> 00:21:16.000 the fire 00:21:16.000 --> 00:21:17.560 trusting God's 00:21:17.560 --> 00:21:18.160 going to provide 00:21:18.160 --> 00:21:18.799 the grace 00:21:18.799 --> 00:21:19.680 in the moment 00:21:19.680 --> 00:21:20.700 to rescue 00:21:20.700 --> 00:21:21.460 their children 00:21:21.460 --> 00:21:22.580 yet again. 00:21:22.579 --> 00:21:26.939 when confronted 00:21:26.939 --> 00:21:28.039 with heated 00:21:28.039 --> 00:21:28.759 parenting 00:21:28.759 --> 00:21:29.579 opportunities 00:21:29.579 --> 00:21:31.619 we must 00:21:31.619 --> 00:21:32.240 be aligning 00:21:32.240 --> 00:21:32.799 ourselves 00:21:32.799 --> 00:21:33.379 with the 00:21:33.379 --> 00:21:33.720 will of 00:21:33.720 --> 00:21:33.899 our 00:21:33.899 --> 00:21:34.279 Father. 00:21:38.039 --> 00:21:38.939 So let 00:21:38.939 --> 00:21:39.399 me ask you 00:21:39.399 --> 00:21:39.699 this. 00:21:40.939 --> 00:21:41.879 Are you 00:21:41.879 --> 00:21:42.639 in your 00:21:42.639 --> 00:21:43.279 parenting 00:21:43.279 --> 00:21:44.119 ways 00:21:44.119 --> 00:21:45.960 acknowledging 00:21:45.960 --> 00:21:47.259 Him? 00:21:48.599 --> 00:21:49.539 Are you 00:21:49.539 --> 00:21:50.220 looking to 00:21:50.220 --> 00:21:50.740 your God 00:21:50.740 --> 00:21:51.259 regularly 00:21:51.259 --> 00:21:51.700 when it 00:21:51.700 --> 00:21:52.400 comes to 00:21:52.400 --> 00:21:53.299 parenting 00:21:53.299 --> 00:21:53.559 your 00:21:53.559 --> 00:21:53.859 children 00:21:53.859 --> 00:21:54.079 or 00:21:54.079 --> 00:21:54.940 grandparenting 00:21:54.940 --> 00:21:55.119 your 00:21:55.119 --> 00:21:55.660 grandchildren? 00:21:56.619 --> 00:21:57.400 Are you 00:21:57.400 --> 00:21:57.740 seeking 00:21:57.740 --> 00:21:58.140 Him? 00:21:59.440 --> 00:21:59.839 Are you 00:21:59.839 --> 00:22:00.420 prayerfully 00:22:00.420 --> 00:22:01.059 crying out 00:22:01.059 --> 00:22:01.339 to Him 00:22:01.339 --> 00:22:01.920 for help? 00:22:03.539 --> 00:22:04.279 Is there 00:22:04.279 --> 00:22:05.420 a specific 00:22:05.420 --> 00:22:06.839 reoccurring 00:22:06.839 --> 00:22:07.680 parenting 00:22:07.680 --> 00:22:08.379 opportunity? 00:22:08.900 --> 00:22:09.480 It's a 00:22:09.480 --> 00:22:10.379 hot spot 00:22:10.379 --> 00:22:11.339 that regularly 00:22:11.339 --> 00:22:12.460 lights up 00:22:12.460 --> 00:22:13.119 again in 00:22:13.119 --> 00:22:13.519 your children. 00:22:15.259 --> 00:22:16.000 Maybe it's 00:22:16.000 --> 00:22:16.640 your four-year-old 00:22:16.640 --> 00:22:17.339 melting down, 00:22:17.460 --> 00:22:17.819 maybe it's 00:22:17.819 --> 00:22:18.799 your 16-year-old 00:22:18.799 --> 00:22:20.019 provoking your 00:22:20.019 --> 00:22:20.700 10-year-old, 00:22:20.700 --> 00:22:23.120 start seeing 00:22:23.120 --> 00:22:24.180 that as an 00:22:24.180 --> 00:22:25.779 opportunity to 00:22:25.779 --> 00:22:26.299 parent your 00:22:26.299 --> 00:22:26.900 children, to 00:22:26.900 --> 00:22:27.660 train them. 00:22:28.220 --> 00:22:29.180 Start praying 00:22:29.180 --> 00:22:30.019 towards that. 00:22:31.660 --> 00:22:32.259 God's will be 00:22:32.259 --> 00:22:34.000 done in your 00:22:34.000 --> 00:22:35.660 family on 00:22:35.660 --> 00:22:36.380 earth as it 00:22:36.380 --> 00:22:36.980 is in 00:22:36.980 --> 00:22:37.259 heaven. 00:22:38.059 --> 00:22:38.920 Wise parents 00:22:38.920 --> 00:22:40.200 pray God's 00:22:40.200 --> 00:22:40.519 will. 00:22:41.580 --> 00:22:41.940 Moms and 00:22:41.940 --> 00:22:42.340 dads, are you 00:22:42.340 --> 00:22:42.580 praying? 00:22:43.460 --> 00:22:44.400 You must be 00:22:44.400 --> 00:22:45.259 faithful to God 00:22:45.259 --> 00:22:46.420 in your 00:22:46.420 --> 00:22:46.860 parenting. 00:22:46.859 --> 00:22:47.839 Four. 00:22:50.479 --> 00:22:51.379 Wise parents 00:22:51.379 --> 00:22:54.079 minister God's 00:22:54.079 --> 00:22:54.419 word. 00:22:55.679 --> 00:22:56.740 Wise parents 00:22:56.740 --> 00:22:57.959 minister God's 00:22:57.959 --> 00:23:00.219 word constantly. 00:23:04.279 --> 00:23:05.159 Maybe you're 00:23:05.159 --> 00:23:06.419 like, I did 00:23:06.419 --> 00:23:07.159 not know I 00:23:07.159 --> 00:23:07.779 signed up to 00:23:07.779 --> 00:23:08.939 this for this. 00:23:08.940 --> 00:23:11.720 God has 00:23:11.720 --> 00:23:12.700 deputized you, 00:23:12.779 --> 00:23:13.059 mom and 00:23:13.059 --> 00:23:13.279 dad. 00:23:14.539 --> 00:23:15.400 He has 00:23:15.400 --> 00:23:16.400 called you 00:23:16.400 --> 00:23:17.440 and authorized 00:23:17.440 --> 00:23:18.740 you to 00:23:18.740 --> 00:23:19.960 minister his 00:23:19.960 --> 00:23:21.039 word to each 00:23:21.039 --> 00:23:21.360 of your 00:23:21.360 --> 00:23:21.640 children. 00:23:21.640 --> 00:23:22.160 If you would 00:23:22.160 --> 00:23:22.820 flip back to 00:23:22.820 --> 00:23:23.360 Deuteronomy 00:23:23.360 --> 00:23:24.559 chapter 6, 00:23:24.680 --> 00:23:25.480 4 through 7. 00:23:26.759 --> 00:23:27.519 This is called 00:23:27.519 --> 00:23:28.059 the Shema. 00:23:28.720 --> 00:23:29.180 Hear, 00:23:29.840 --> 00:23:30.580 O Israel, 00:23:30.820 --> 00:23:31.400 the Lord our 00:23:31.400 --> 00:23:32.019 God, the Lord 00:23:32.019 --> 00:23:32.440 is one. 00:23:32.500 --> 00:23:33.160 That's verse 4. 00:23:33.259 --> 00:23:33.580 That's saying 00:23:33.580 --> 00:23:34.120 there's no other 00:23:34.120 --> 00:23:35.980 God but this 00:23:35.980 --> 00:23:36.759 God, Yahweh. 00:23:36.759 --> 00:23:38.779 Verse 5, 00:23:39.259 --> 00:23:40.160 how we respond, 00:23:40.339 --> 00:23:40.940 you shall love 00:23:40.940 --> 00:23:41.440 the Lord your 00:23:41.440 --> 00:23:42.420 God with all 00:23:42.420 --> 00:23:42.879 your heart and 00:23:42.879 --> 00:23:43.259 with all your 00:23:43.259 --> 00:23:43.700 soul and with 00:23:43.700 --> 00:23:44.039 all your 00:23:44.039 --> 00:23:44.359 might. 00:23:44.920 --> 00:23:47.440 The response 00:23:47.440 --> 00:23:48.519 to the one 00:23:48.519 --> 00:23:49.279 and only God 00:23:49.279 --> 00:23:50.440 is to worship 00:23:50.440 --> 00:23:50.900 him with 00:23:50.900 --> 00:23:51.400 everything you 00:23:51.400 --> 00:23:51.940 got, moms 00:23:51.940 --> 00:23:52.359 and dads. 00:23:54.259 --> 00:23:54.900 And then in 00:23:54.900 --> 00:23:55.980 verse 6, we 00:23:55.980 --> 00:23:56.980 see, and 00:23:56.980 --> 00:23:57.900 these words that 00:23:57.900 --> 00:23:58.400 I command you 00:23:58.400 --> 00:23:59.039 today shall be 00:23:59.039 --> 00:23:59.680 on your heart. 00:23:59.940 --> 00:24:00.619 Before it can 00:24:00.619 --> 00:24:01.099 get to your 00:24:01.099 --> 00:24:01.900 kids, it needs 00:24:01.900 --> 00:24:02.480 to come through 00:24:02.480 --> 00:24:02.839 you. 00:24:04.000 --> 00:24:04.740 God's word 00:24:04.740 --> 00:24:06.000 on your 00:24:06.000 --> 00:24:06.460 heart, 00:24:06.759 --> 00:24:07.680 ready, 00:24:09.680 --> 00:24:10.059 governing, 00:24:11.619 --> 00:24:12.019 affecting. 00:24:14.119 --> 00:24:15.000 And then 00:24:15.000 --> 00:24:16.339 verse 7, 00:24:16.779 --> 00:24:17.379 you shall teach 00:24:17.379 --> 00:24:18.039 them diligently 00:24:18.039 --> 00:24:18.480 to your 00:24:18.480 --> 00:24:19.400 children and 00:24:19.400 --> 00:24:20.200 shall talk 00:24:20.200 --> 00:24:20.640 of them when 00:24:20.640 --> 00:24:21.079 you sit in 00:24:21.079 --> 00:24:21.660 your house and 00:24:21.660 --> 00:24:22.099 when you walk 00:24:22.099 --> 00:24:22.720 by the way and 00:24:22.720 --> 00:24:23.200 when you lie 00:24:23.200 --> 00:24:23.859 down and when 00:24:23.859 --> 00:24:24.559 you rise. 00:24:26.180 --> 00:24:27.059 God's word 00:24:27.059 --> 00:24:29.500 is living 00:24:29.500 --> 00:24:30.039 and active. 00:24:31.240 --> 00:24:32.440 It penetrates 00:24:32.440 --> 00:24:34.559 separating bone 00:24:34.559 --> 00:24:35.839 from marrow. 00:24:36.899 --> 00:24:37.619 God's word, 00:24:37.740 --> 00:24:38.379 every word is 00:24:38.379 --> 00:24:39.940 breathed out by 00:24:39.940 --> 00:24:40.779 God and 00:24:40.779 --> 00:24:42.059 profitable for 00:24:42.059 --> 00:24:42.500 teaching, 00:24:43.039 --> 00:24:43.539 correcting, 00:24:44.079 --> 00:24:45.179 reproof, and 00:24:45.179 --> 00:24:45.799 training in 00:24:45.799 --> 00:24:46.279 righteousness. 00:24:46.759 --> 00:24:47.919 We want to get 00:24:47.919 --> 00:24:50.099 these words into 00:24:50.099 --> 00:24:51.039 our children's 00:24:51.039 --> 00:24:51.539 hearts. 00:24:53.299 --> 00:24:53.740 And God has 00:24:53.740 --> 00:24:54.799 called us to do 00:24:54.799 --> 00:24:56.779 this 24-7 00:24:56.779 --> 00:24:58.779 everywhere we 00:24:58.779 --> 00:24:59.059 go. 00:25:00.240 --> 00:25:01.079 Speaking God's 00:25:01.079 --> 00:25:01.899 word in season 00:25:01.899 --> 00:25:02.339 and out of 00:25:02.339 --> 00:25:02.819 season, when 00:25:02.819 --> 00:25:03.339 it's convenient 00:25:03.339 --> 00:25:04.039 and when it's 00:25:04.039 --> 00:25:04.579 inconvenient. 00:25:05.899 --> 00:25:06.599 Here's what you 00:25:06.599 --> 00:25:06.819 need to 00:25:06.819 --> 00:25:07.200 understand. 00:25:08.240 --> 00:25:09.019 There is this 00:25:09.019 --> 00:25:10.019 phrase all 00:25:10.019 --> 00:25:10.559 throughout the 00:25:10.559 --> 00:25:10.879 book of 00:25:10.879 --> 00:25:11.399 Proverbs. 00:25:12.399 --> 00:25:13.039 It goes 00:25:13.039 --> 00:25:13.500 something like 00:25:13.500 --> 00:25:13.859 this. 00:25:15.039 --> 00:25:15.579 My son, 00:25:16.579 --> 00:25:17.139 listen. 00:25:18.319 --> 00:25:18.759 Hear my 00:25:18.759 --> 00:25:18.980 son. 00:25:19.740 --> 00:25:20.279 My son, 00:25:20.619 --> 00:25:21.399 do not forsake 00:25:21.399 --> 00:25:21.960 my words. 00:25:22.879 --> 00:25:23.539 Do not spurn 00:25:23.539 --> 00:25:24.019 your mother's 00:25:24.019 --> 00:25:24.440 instruction. 00:25:25.220 --> 00:25:25.639 My son, 00:25:25.740 --> 00:25:26.319 hear me out. 00:25:27.079 --> 00:25:27.480 My son, 00:25:27.559 --> 00:25:28.139 don't go that 00:25:28.139 --> 00:25:28.379 way. 00:25:28.759 --> 00:25:29.339 My son, 00:25:29.680 --> 00:25:30.180 my son, 00:25:30.240 --> 00:25:31.279 over 40 00:25:31.279 --> 00:25:32.659 times in 00:25:32.659 --> 00:25:33.079 the book of 00:25:33.079 --> 00:25:33.659 Proverbs, 00:25:33.879 --> 00:25:34.659 you have this 00:25:34.659 --> 00:25:35.619 repeated phrase 00:25:35.619 --> 00:25:37.019 of a dad 00:25:37.019 --> 00:25:37.859 calling his 00:25:37.859 --> 00:25:38.940 son to hear 00:25:38.940 --> 00:25:39.740 his words. 00:25:40.200 --> 00:25:40.579 And in his 00:25:40.579 --> 00:25:41.440 father's words 00:25:41.440 --> 00:25:42.759 are God's 00:25:42.759 --> 00:25:43.099 words. 00:25:44.819 --> 00:25:45.700 We're seeing 00:25:45.700 --> 00:25:46.579 Deuteronomy 6, 00:25:46.680 --> 00:25:47.819 4-7 played 00:25:47.819 --> 00:25:48.819 out all 00:25:48.819 --> 00:25:49.440 throughout the 00:25:49.440 --> 00:25:50.399 book of 00:25:50.399 --> 00:25:51.220 Proverbs. 00:25:51.220 --> 00:25:55.240 It's a 00:25:55.240 --> 00:25:55.559 call. 00:25:56.880 --> 00:25:57.500 Time and 00:25:57.500 --> 00:25:57.980 time again. 00:25:58.759 --> 00:25:59.519 This dad 00:25:59.519 --> 00:25:59.900 and this 00:25:59.900 --> 00:26:00.240 mom, 00:26:00.500 --> 00:26:01.120 both moms 00:26:01.120 --> 00:26:01.620 and dads, 00:26:01.660 --> 00:26:02.220 we see that 00:26:02.220 --> 00:26:02.940 in 1-8 and 00:26:02.940 --> 00:26:03.500 6-20, 00:26:03.900 --> 00:26:04.600 both moms 00:26:04.600 --> 00:26:05.160 and dads 00:26:05.160 --> 00:26:06.940 are communicating 00:26:06.940 --> 00:26:07.920 God's word to 00:26:07.920 --> 00:26:08.299 their children. 00:26:08.440 --> 00:26:08.860 Now, if you're a 00:26:08.860 --> 00:26:09.440 single mom or 00:26:09.440 --> 00:26:10.360 dad, don't 00:26:10.360 --> 00:26:10.839 fear. 00:26:11.680 --> 00:26:12.380 God's word 00:26:12.380 --> 00:26:13.480 is powerful. 00:26:15.200 --> 00:26:15.980 He can use 00:26:15.980 --> 00:26:16.240 you. 00:26:16.539 --> 00:26:17.039 He used 00:26:17.039 --> 00:26:18.400 Timothy's mom 00:26:18.400 --> 00:26:19.840 to raise 00:26:19.840 --> 00:26:20.540 him up 00:26:20.540 --> 00:26:21.920 with his 00:26:21.920 --> 00:26:22.360 grandma 00:26:22.360 --> 00:26:23.780 to become 00:26:23.780 --> 00:26:24.580 one who 00:26:24.580 --> 00:26:25.060 fears the 00:26:25.060 --> 00:26:25.360 Lord. 00:26:28.680 --> 00:26:29.440 What we 00:26:29.440 --> 00:26:30.180 see modeled 00:26:30.180 --> 00:26:30.500 in the book 00:26:30.500 --> 00:26:31.060 of Proverbs 00:26:31.060 --> 00:26:32.300 is a 00:26:32.300 --> 00:26:32.820 parent 00:26:32.820 --> 00:26:33.860 regularly 00:26:33.860 --> 00:26:34.560 speaking 00:26:34.560 --> 00:26:35.280 God's 00:26:35.280 --> 00:26:36.180 words to 00:26:36.180 --> 00:26:36.920 his sons 00:26:36.920 --> 00:26:37.580 and children 00:26:37.580 --> 00:26:39.540 again and 00:26:39.540 --> 00:26:39.980 again and 00:26:39.980 --> 00:26:40.320 again. 00:26:40.700 --> 00:26:41.080 1-8, 00:26:41.160 --> 00:26:41.560 2-1, 00:26:41.660 --> 00:26:42.100 3-1, 00:26:42.240 --> 00:26:42.700 4-1 through 00:26:42.700 --> 00:26:43.019 4, 00:26:43.120 --> 00:26:43.600 4-20, 00:26:43.720 --> 00:26:44.240 5-1, 00:26:44.560 --> 00:26:45.259 and on 00:26:45.259 --> 00:26:46.019 and on 00:26:46.019 --> 00:26:46.900 and on 00:26:46.900 --> 00:26:47.540 over 40 00:26:47.539 --> 00:26:48.000 times. 00:26:49.799 --> 00:26:50.700 And in 00:26:50.700 --> 00:26:52.079 those 40 00:26:52.079 --> 00:26:52.720 or so 00:26:52.720 --> 00:26:53.700 times, 00:26:54.480 --> 00:26:54.899 this 00:26:54.899 --> 00:26:55.799 father 00:26:55.799 --> 00:26:56.440 addresses 00:26:56.440 --> 00:26:56.960 the fear 00:26:56.960 --> 00:26:57.220 of the 00:26:57.220 --> 00:26:57.480 Lord, 00:26:58.599 --> 00:26:59.659 the contrast 00:26:59.659 --> 00:27:00.180 between 00:27:00.180 --> 00:27:00.799 wisdom and 00:27:00.799 --> 00:27:01.180 folly, 00:27:01.960 --> 00:27:02.579 who your 00:27:02.579 --> 00:27:03.240 companions 00:27:03.240 --> 00:27:04.019 are, 00:27:05.960 --> 00:27:06.480 he who is 00:27:06.480 --> 00:27:06.920 wise who 00:27:06.920 --> 00:27:07.359 walks with 00:27:07.359 --> 00:27:07.700 the wise, 00:27:07.799 --> 00:27:08.019 but a 00:27:08.019 --> 00:27:08.680 companion of 00:27:08.680 --> 00:27:09.099 fools will 00:27:09.099 --> 00:27:09.839 suffer harm, 00:27:10.079 --> 00:27:10.639 whether that 00:27:10.639 --> 00:27:11.079 is in the 00:27:11.079 --> 00:27:11.899 physical world 00:27:11.899 --> 00:27:12.420 or whether 00:27:12.420 --> 00:27:13.019 that's in 00:27:13.019 --> 00:27:13.579 the virtual 00:27:13.579 --> 00:27:14.420 world with 00:27:14.420 --> 00:27:15.259 social media. 00:27:15.839 --> 00:27:16.319 Has anybody 00:27:16.319 --> 00:27:16.879 seen the 00:27:16.880 --> 00:27:17.480 social dilemma 00:27:17.480 --> 00:27:17.820 yet on 00:27:17.820 --> 00:27:18.080 Netflix? 00:27:19.660 --> 00:27:20.400 It doesn't 00:27:20.400 --> 00:27:20.880 address the 00:27:20.880 --> 00:27:21.460 biggest problem 00:27:21.460 --> 00:27:21.880 of sin in 00:27:21.880 --> 00:27:22.200 the human 00:27:22.200 --> 00:27:22.560 heart, 00:27:22.680 --> 00:27:23.160 but it 00:27:23.160 --> 00:27:23.800 does help 00:27:23.800 --> 00:27:24.820 us understand 00:27:24.820 --> 00:27:25.860 the extent 00:27:25.860 --> 00:27:27.060 and the 00:27:27.060 --> 00:27:27.620 manipulation 00:27:27.620 --> 00:27:28.640 of social 00:27:28.640 --> 00:27:29.000 media. 00:27:30.000 --> 00:27:30.600 We're going 00:27:30.600 --> 00:27:30.960 to watch it 00:27:30.960 --> 00:27:31.160 with our 00:27:31.160 --> 00:27:31.640 own children 00:27:31.640 --> 00:27:33.100 so that they 00:27:33.100 --> 00:27:33.940 understand what's 00:27:33.940 --> 00:27:34.660 at stake. 00:27:36.020 --> 00:27:36.860 So your 00:27:36.860 --> 00:27:37.380 companions 00:27:37.380 --> 00:27:37.960 matter. 00:27:40.600 --> 00:27:41.600 Self-control, 00:27:41.820 --> 00:27:42.860 sexual purity, 00:27:43.820 --> 00:27:44.320 speech, 00:27:44.319 --> 00:27:45.220 not envying 00:27:45.220 --> 00:27:45.740 sinners, 00:27:46.619 --> 00:27:47.939 hard work, 00:27:48.279 --> 00:27:48.779 ethic, 00:27:49.779 --> 00:27:50.579 stewardship of 00:27:50.579 --> 00:27:51.500 your resources. 00:27:54.439 --> 00:27:55.379 What we see 00:27:55.379 --> 00:27:55.859 modeled in 00:27:55.859 --> 00:27:57.339 Proverbs is 00:27:57.339 --> 00:27:58.259 that moms 00:27:58.259 --> 00:27:59.240 and dads 00:27:59.240 --> 00:28:01.099 minister God's 00:28:01.099 --> 00:28:01.399 word. 00:28:02.079 --> 00:28:02.639 In our 00:28:02.639 --> 00:28:03.559 house, we 00:28:03.559 --> 00:28:04.139 have a third 00:28:04.139 --> 00:28:06.259 story room. 00:28:06.919 --> 00:28:07.700 I call it the 00:28:07.700 --> 00:28:08.200 pastoral 00:28:08.200 --> 00:28:08.720 workshop. 00:28:08.720 --> 00:28:11.639 I write a lot 00:28:11.639 --> 00:28:12.319 of sermons up 00:28:12.319 --> 00:28:12.579 there. 00:28:12.579 --> 00:28:13.519 And so I'm 00:28:13.519 --> 00:28:14.079 usually up there 00:28:14.079 --> 00:28:14.359 Thursday, 00:28:14.519 --> 00:28:14.740 Friday, 00:28:14.859 --> 00:28:15.119 Saturday, 00:28:15.119 --> 00:28:15.679 writing a 00:28:15.679 --> 00:28:15.899 sermon. 00:28:17.220 --> 00:28:18.000 And I have 00:28:18.000 --> 00:28:18.579 this great 00:28:18.579 --> 00:28:19.159 view of our 00:28:19.159 --> 00:28:19.519 neighborhood. 00:28:19.899 --> 00:28:20.339 Three nice 00:28:20.339 --> 00:28:20.960 big windows. 00:28:21.099 --> 00:28:21.559 I'm looking at 00:28:21.559 --> 00:28:22.000 our neighborhood 00:28:22.000 --> 00:28:22.699 and I always 00:28:22.699 --> 00:28:23.339 see the mail 00:28:23.339 --> 00:28:25.759 carrier making 00:28:25.759 --> 00:28:26.480 his or her 00:28:26.480 --> 00:28:27.519 way to every 00:28:27.519 --> 00:28:28.019 house. 00:28:28.519 --> 00:28:29.199 He's got this 00:28:29.199 --> 00:28:30.559 addressed parcel 00:28:30.559 --> 00:28:31.720 of words that 00:28:31.720 --> 00:28:32.619 he is going to 00:28:32.619 --> 00:28:33.740 bring to a 00:28:33.740 --> 00:28:34.679 specific house 00:28:34.679 --> 00:28:35.480 and he's going 00:28:35.480 --> 00:28:36.500 to drop that 00:28:36.500 --> 00:28:38.039 into the mail 00:28:38.039 --> 00:28:39.139 slot of the 00:28:39.139 --> 00:28:39.639 house. 00:28:39.640 --> 00:28:39.740 house. 00:28:41.100 --> 00:28:41.520 And at that 00:28:41.520 --> 00:28:42.840 point, it's 00:28:42.840 --> 00:28:43.220 up to the 00:28:43.220 --> 00:28:44.880 resident to do 00:28:44.880 --> 00:28:45.360 with the mail 00:28:45.360 --> 00:28:45.920 with what the 00:28:45.920 --> 00:28:46.840 mail needs to 00:28:46.840 --> 00:28:47.259 be done. 00:28:47.940 --> 00:28:48.400 Respond 00:28:48.400 --> 00:28:48.980 accordingly. 00:28:50.460 --> 00:28:52.300 Parents, we 00:28:52.300 --> 00:28:52.900 deliver the mail. 00:28:54.720 --> 00:28:55.800 We deliver the 00:28:55.800 --> 00:28:56.480 mail of God's 00:28:56.480 --> 00:28:56.759 word. 00:28:58.100 --> 00:28:58.880 Every day. 00:28:59.720 --> 00:29:00.280 Multiple times 00:29:00.280 --> 00:29:00.620 a day. 00:29:01.120 --> 00:29:01.780 We're bringing 00:29:01.780 --> 00:29:02.860 God's word 00:29:02.860 --> 00:29:04.420 addressed uniquely 00:29:04.420 --> 00:29:05.560 to each of our 00:29:05.560 --> 00:29:06.360 children because we 00:29:06.360 --> 00:29:07.040 know them. 00:29:07.039 --> 00:29:08.139 children and 00:29:08.139 --> 00:29:08.539 we're going to 00:29:08.539 --> 00:29:09.659 bring it to each 00:29:09.659 --> 00:29:10.319 of our children 00:29:10.319 --> 00:29:11.500 and drop it 00:29:11.500 --> 00:29:13.839 into the mail 00:29:13.839 --> 00:29:14.500 slot of their 00:29:14.500 --> 00:29:16.819 heart and then 00:29:16.819 --> 00:29:17.079 we're going to 00:29:17.079 --> 00:29:18.259 trust that to 00:29:18.259 --> 00:29:19.039 them and the 00:29:19.039 --> 00:29:19.319 Lord. 00:29:21.079 --> 00:29:21.899 They need to 00:29:21.899 --> 00:29:22.759 respond to that. 00:29:23.460 --> 00:29:24.420 We pray that 00:29:24.420 --> 00:29:24.779 they will. 00:29:25.379 --> 00:29:26.240 We pray that God 00:29:26.240 --> 00:29:26.839 would open their 00:29:26.839 --> 00:29:27.879 hearts but we're 00:29:27.879 --> 00:29:29.059 constantly delivering 00:29:29.059 --> 00:29:30.180 the mail of God's 00:29:30.180 --> 00:29:30.980 very words. 00:29:33.059 --> 00:29:33.960 So let me ask you 00:29:33.960 --> 00:29:34.599 a couple questions. 00:29:34.599 --> 00:29:38.319 When you hear that 00:29:38.319 --> 00:29:39.639 wise parents minister 00:29:39.639 --> 00:29:42.139 God's word, do you 00:29:42.139 --> 00:29:43.859 feel the weight and 00:29:43.859 --> 00:29:45.000 privilege of that? 00:29:45.819 --> 00:29:46.539 You should. 00:29:47.740 --> 00:29:48.839 You realize that God 00:29:48.839 --> 00:29:49.819 has called you to 00:29:49.819 --> 00:29:50.079 this. 00:29:50.439 --> 00:29:51.539 This is one of the 00:29:51.539 --> 00:29:53.059 greatest responsibilities 00:29:53.059 --> 00:29:54.539 and privileges of 00:29:54.539 --> 00:29:55.559 your life as a 00:29:55.559 --> 00:29:55.819 Christian. 00:29:56.179 --> 00:29:56.819 This is what it 00:29:56.819 --> 00:29:57.459 means to make 00:29:57.459 --> 00:29:58.619 disciples of Jesus 00:29:58.619 --> 00:29:59.519 of our children. 00:29:59.519 --> 00:29:59.660 children. 00:30:02.279 --> 00:30:03.759 Second question, are 00:30:03.759 --> 00:30:05.220 you actively taking 00:30:05.220 --> 00:30:06.359 God's word into 00:30:06.359 --> 00:30:07.740 your own heart? 00:30:09.160 --> 00:30:11.900 Are you coming 00:30:11.900 --> 00:30:12.859 before God in his 00:30:12.859 --> 00:30:13.160 word? 00:30:13.359 --> 00:30:15.019 It's the Deuteronomy 00:30:15.019 --> 00:30:18.139 6 part of the 00:30:18.139 --> 00:30:18.400 Shema. 00:30:19.139 --> 00:30:20.339 Is God's word 00:30:20.339 --> 00:30:21.980 functioning in your 00:30:21.980 --> 00:30:23.259 heart, governing 00:30:23.259 --> 00:30:24.920 your life, changing 00:30:24.920 --> 00:30:26.139 you from the inside 00:30:26.139 --> 00:30:26.559 out? 00:30:26.559 --> 00:30:27.879 There is an 00:30:27.879 --> 00:30:28.839 integrity principle 00:30:28.839 --> 00:30:29.799 here, brothers and 00:30:29.799 --> 00:30:30.119 sisters. 00:30:32.799 --> 00:30:33.799 Be sure you're 00:30:33.799 --> 00:30:34.740 taking it in before 00:30:34.740 --> 00:30:35.559 you start dishing it 00:30:35.559 --> 00:30:35.779 out. 00:30:37.859 --> 00:30:39.480 Be a man or woman 00:30:39.480 --> 00:30:40.119 of integrity. 00:30:44.259 --> 00:30:45.259 Are you seeing 00:30:45.259 --> 00:30:46.440 areas of your life, 00:30:46.599 --> 00:30:47.599 your children's life, 00:30:48.279 --> 00:30:49.799 that you need to 00:30:49.799 --> 00:30:50.819 deliver God's word 00:30:50.819 --> 00:30:51.039 to? 00:30:52.940 --> 00:30:53.619 Take it. 00:30:54.839 --> 00:30:55.440 Deliver the mail. 00:30:55.440 --> 00:30:57.680 Trust God with it. 00:30:58.580 --> 00:30:59.420 Trust God that he 00:30:59.420 --> 00:31:01.100 can use his word to 00:31:01.100 --> 00:31:02.620 bring about a heart 00:31:02.620 --> 00:31:03.960 change in your child 00:31:03.960 --> 00:31:05.160 forever. 00:31:08.700 --> 00:31:09.860 There is a particular 00:31:09.860 --> 00:31:11.240 area that I want you 00:31:11.240 --> 00:31:12.240 to consider, moms and 00:31:12.240 --> 00:31:12.480 dads. 00:31:13.740 --> 00:31:14.920 There is an encroachment 00:31:14.920 --> 00:31:16.600 in our culture on 00:31:16.600 --> 00:31:17.340 Sunday mornings. 00:31:17.660 --> 00:31:19.460 It's children's sports. 00:31:19.759 --> 00:31:20.940 I'm all for sports. 00:31:22.519 --> 00:31:23.440 But Sunday morning 00:31:23.440 --> 00:31:24.039 when the church 00:31:24.039 --> 00:31:25.400 gathers to receive 00:31:25.400 --> 00:31:26.180 God's word and 00:31:26.180 --> 00:31:27.120 sing God's praises, 00:31:27.400 --> 00:31:28.259 that is a very 00:31:28.259 --> 00:31:29.500 important value to 00:31:29.500 --> 00:31:30.360 show our children, 00:31:30.500 --> 00:31:31.320 to instruct them. 00:31:32.259 --> 00:31:32.980 So moms and dads, 00:31:33.060 --> 00:31:33.759 if you have not 00:31:33.759 --> 00:31:34.460 wrestled through this 00:31:34.460 --> 00:31:35.680 one yet, you need 00:31:35.680 --> 00:31:35.880 to. 00:31:37.860 --> 00:31:39.480 How to manage your 00:31:39.480 --> 00:31:40.620 family and your 00:31:40.620 --> 00:31:41.960 children's activities 00:31:41.960 --> 00:31:44.200 in sports on 00:31:44.200 --> 00:31:44.660 Sundays. 00:31:46.660 --> 00:31:47.519 There's a way to 00:31:47.519 --> 00:31:48.160 trust God there. 00:31:48.300 --> 00:31:49.560 In our family, we 00:31:49.560 --> 00:31:50.980 made it a very clear 00:31:50.980 --> 00:31:52.720 rule that the 00:31:52.720 --> 00:31:53.740 Salvadis were not 00:31:53.740 --> 00:31:54.480 going to participate 00:31:54.480 --> 00:31:56.799 in group sports 00:31:56.799 --> 00:31:57.960 on Sunday mornings 00:31:57.960 --> 00:31:59.140 because as for me 00:31:59.140 --> 00:32:00.099 and my house, we're 00:32:00.099 --> 00:32:00.819 going to worship the 00:32:00.819 --> 00:32:01.400 Lord on Sunday 00:32:01.400 --> 00:32:01.779 mornings. 00:32:02.779 --> 00:32:03.359 We're going to 00:32:03.359 --> 00:32:04.359 establish that as a 00:32:04.359 --> 00:32:04.599 norm. 00:32:05.140 --> 00:32:05.599 And there will be 00:32:05.599 --> 00:32:06.519 exceptions from time 00:32:06.519 --> 00:32:07.779 to time, but it's 00:32:07.779 --> 00:32:08.319 the norm. 00:32:09.960 --> 00:32:10.799 Because it's about 00:32:10.799 --> 00:32:11.559 values. 00:32:12.839 --> 00:32:14.279 If you're saying no to 00:32:14.279 --> 00:32:14.980 this, what are you 00:32:14.980 --> 00:32:15.359 saying? 00:32:19.359 --> 00:32:20.160 There's much to 00:32:20.160 --> 00:32:20.840 consider here. 00:32:21.100 --> 00:32:21.800 But moms and dads, 00:32:21.900 --> 00:32:22.840 we are to minister 00:32:22.840 --> 00:32:23.840 God's word. 00:32:24.420 --> 00:32:25.360 We must be faithful 00:32:25.360 --> 00:32:27.720 to God in our 00:32:27.720 --> 00:32:28.259 parenting. 00:32:30.560 --> 00:32:31.360 Point five. 00:32:32.540 --> 00:32:34.000 Wise parents redeem 00:32:34.000 --> 00:32:35.220 God-given 00:32:35.220 --> 00:32:36.259 opportunities. 00:32:39.380 --> 00:32:40.380 You might be asking 00:32:40.380 --> 00:32:41.100 now, well, how do I 00:32:41.100 --> 00:32:41.580 do this? 00:32:43.500 --> 00:32:45.540 How do I train up my 00:32:45.540 --> 00:32:47.120 child in the way he or 00:32:47.120 --> 00:32:48.019 she should go? 00:32:48.019 --> 00:32:49.779 How do I do this? 00:32:50.240 --> 00:32:51.019 What does that look 00:32:51.019 --> 00:32:51.379 like? 00:32:52.379 --> 00:32:53.920 Well, I want to give 00:32:53.920 --> 00:32:56.539 you an aid, an A-I-D 00:32:56.539 --> 00:32:59.500 to anticipate, to 00:32:59.500 --> 00:33:00.559 intervene, and to 00:33:00.559 --> 00:33:01.619 debrief as a parent. 00:33:01.740 --> 00:33:02.059 You're chilled. 00:33:02.740 --> 00:33:04.079 But before we can talk 00:33:04.079 --> 00:33:07.099 about the parent aid, I 00:33:07.099 --> 00:33:07.960 just want to help you 00:33:07.960 --> 00:33:08.900 think about something 00:33:08.900 --> 00:33:10.500 else that doesn't get 00:33:10.500 --> 00:33:12.119 talked about, but we 00:33:12.119 --> 00:33:13.240 need to talk about it. 00:33:14.220 --> 00:33:17.319 It's about the context 00:33:17.319 --> 00:33:20.439 the relationships with 00:33:20.439 --> 00:33:21.039 your children. 00:33:22.379 --> 00:33:23.319 Training our children 00:33:23.319 --> 00:33:25.399 to fear the Lord is 00:33:25.399 --> 00:33:28.000 best done, best done, 00:33:28.559 --> 00:33:31.319 in a context of love 00:33:31.859 --> 00:33:32.779 and trust. 00:33:34.779 --> 00:33:36.379 If you look at Proverbs 00:33:36.379 --> 00:33:40.139 23, 26, we read this. 00:33:40.899 --> 00:33:42.099 My son, give me your 00:33:42.099 --> 00:33:45.879 heart and let your eyes 00:33:45.880 --> 00:33:47.060 observe my ways. 00:33:47.900 --> 00:33:48.380 Do you know what that 00:33:48.380 --> 00:33:48.760 means? 00:33:49.500 --> 00:33:50.360 Give me your heart. 00:33:53.520 --> 00:33:54.360 Trust me, son. 00:33:56.840 --> 00:33:58.040 Give me your confidence. 00:34:00.780 --> 00:34:01.600 It's trust. 00:34:02.820 --> 00:34:04.380 And in order for someone 00:34:04.380 --> 00:34:05.920 to see, observe your 00:34:05.920 --> 00:34:06.840 ways, you need to be 00:34:06.840 --> 00:34:07.320 close. 00:34:08.619 --> 00:34:09.059 Proximity. 00:34:09.059 --> 00:34:12.599 So, before we talk 00:34:12.599 --> 00:34:14.940 about the parent aid, we 00:34:14.940 --> 00:34:15.820 need to talk about 00:34:15.820 --> 00:34:17.179 relationships. 00:34:18.139 --> 00:34:19.579 To invest in your 00:34:19.579 --> 00:34:19.940 children. 00:34:20.159 --> 00:34:22.219 To establish rhythms in 00:34:22.219 --> 00:34:23.840 your family's life. 00:34:23.920 --> 00:34:24.639 Reading the Bible. 00:34:25.259 --> 00:34:26.219 Eating meals together. 00:34:26.400 --> 00:34:27.139 Driving your children 00:34:27.139 --> 00:34:27.759 to school. 00:34:28.079 --> 00:34:28.960 These are all 00:34:28.960 --> 00:34:30.059 opportunities to build 00:34:30.599 --> 00:34:32.099 trust and proximity 00:34:32.099 --> 00:34:33.039 with your children. 00:34:34.079 --> 00:34:35.179 So you can deliver the 00:34:35.179 --> 00:34:35.440 mail. 00:34:36.480 --> 00:34:37.500 To delight in them. 00:34:37.500 --> 00:34:38.320 To know them. 00:34:42.760 --> 00:34:44.019 Watching TV together. 00:34:44.519 --> 00:34:45.219 Reading at night 00:34:45.219 --> 00:34:45.619 together. 00:34:46.480 --> 00:34:47.260 There's so many things 00:34:47.260 --> 00:34:48.119 that we can be doing 00:34:48.119 --> 00:34:49.360 to build our 00:34:49.360 --> 00:34:50.000 relationship. 00:34:50.320 --> 00:34:51.559 To establish this 00:34:51.559 --> 00:34:52.780 context of love and 00:34:52.780 --> 00:34:53.239 trust. 00:34:53.920 --> 00:34:54.719 Because we've got 00:34:54.719 --> 00:34:55.619 training to do, 00:34:55.719 --> 00:34:56.719 brothers, sisters. 00:35:00.260 --> 00:35:01.199 So let's talk about 00:35:01.199 --> 00:35:01.900 the parent aid. 00:35:03.019 --> 00:35:05.519 A good coach is going 00:35:05.519 --> 00:35:06.219 to not only just know 00:35:06.219 --> 00:35:06.799 his team. 00:35:06.919 --> 00:35:07.359 He's going to know 00:35:07.359 --> 00:35:08.399 the individual players 00:35:08.399 --> 00:35:09.019 on his team. 00:35:09.319 --> 00:35:09.899 He's going to know 00:35:09.899 --> 00:35:10.959 how individual players 00:35:10.959 --> 00:35:12.019 respond to different 00:35:12.019 --> 00:35:12.699 situations. 00:35:13.619 --> 00:35:15.019 And so a good coach is 00:35:15.019 --> 00:35:17.039 going to anticipate how 00:35:17.039 --> 00:35:18.519 his player is going to 00:35:18.519 --> 00:35:19.619 respond to this 00:35:19.619 --> 00:35:20.899 particular situation and 00:35:20.899 --> 00:35:21.419 he's going to prepare 00:35:21.419 --> 00:35:21.819 him for it. 00:35:22.759 --> 00:35:24.159 And then before the game 00:35:24.159 --> 00:35:25.199 starts, he's going to 00:35:25.199 --> 00:35:26.059 anticipate and prepare. 00:35:26.419 --> 00:35:27.519 And then during the game, 00:35:27.939 --> 00:35:29.059 he's going to intervene. 00:35:29.319 --> 00:35:29.819 Because when his 00:35:29.819 --> 00:35:30.859 quarterback starts flipping 00:35:30.859 --> 00:35:31.579 out, he's going to say, 00:35:31.639 --> 00:35:32.139 time out. 00:35:33.099 --> 00:35:34.139 Quarterback comes over. 00:35:34.500 --> 00:35:35.259 He's going to correct him 00:35:35.260 --> 00:35:35.840 on some things. 00:35:36.120 --> 00:35:37.720 And even might exercise 00:35:37.720 --> 00:35:38.360 some discipline. 00:35:38.520 --> 00:35:41.700 Your bench buddy, all for 00:35:41.700 --> 00:35:42.820 that player's good. 00:35:44.620 --> 00:35:45.420 And then he puts him 00:35:45.420 --> 00:35:45.820 back in. 00:35:46.560 --> 00:35:47.300 He intervenes. 00:35:48.060 --> 00:35:49.200 And then after the game, 00:35:49.260 --> 00:35:49.800 they debrief. 00:35:51.220 --> 00:35:51.880 Hey, what did we learn 00:35:51.880 --> 00:35:52.520 from this play? 00:35:52.620 --> 00:35:53.100 Hey, what did we learn 00:35:53.100 --> 00:35:53.520 from that? 00:35:54.520 --> 00:35:56.060 And it helps anticipate 00:35:56.060 --> 00:35:57.220 the next time around. 00:35:57.219 --> 00:36:02.980 parents are coaches. 00:36:03.859 --> 00:36:05.099 We're coaching our kids, 00:36:05.559 --> 00:36:07.739 cheering them on, to fear 00:36:07.739 --> 00:36:09.119 the Lord, to walk in 00:36:09.119 --> 00:36:09.480 wisdom. 00:36:10.459 --> 00:36:11.279 And there are going to be 00:36:11.279 --> 00:36:12.480 some things that we need 00:36:12.480 --> 00:36:13.779 to anticipate with our 00:36:13.779 --> 00:36:14.079 children. 00:36:16.019 --> 00:36:18.119 We need to help them think 00:36:18.119 --> 00:36:20.439 things through, understand 00:36:20.439 --> 00:36:21.799 consequences. 00:36:21.800 --> 00:36:24.060 What will happen if you 00:36:24.060 --> 00:36:25.900 step off the path of 00:36:25.900 --> 00:36:27.100 wisdom into folly? 00:36:27.860 --> 00:36:29.140 Help them think that 00:36:29.140 --> 00:36:29.519 through. 00:36:29.900 --> 00:36:31.100 Right now, I'm helping 00:36:31.100 --> 00:36:32.100 my youngest daughter, 00:36:32.240 --> 00:36:32.500 Mary. 00:36:32.840 --> 00:36:34.120 Every day we go to school, 00:36:34.240 --> 00:36:35.120 I'm asking her. 00:36:35.440 --> 00:36:36.480 I'm building a relationship. 00:36:37.000 --> 00:36:38.160 I'm praying with her. 00:36:38.420 --> 00:36:39.320 We're pulling up to 00:36:39.320 --> 00:36:40.180 K-Tech West. 00:36:40.380 --> 00:36:41.780 And I am asking her a 00:36:41.780 --> 00:36:42.600 series of questions. 00:36:42.940 --> 00:36:44.500 I'm trying to build into 00:36:44.500 --> 00:36:45.820 her a Christian worldview. 00:36:46.260 --> 00:36:47.160 Here's the four questions 00:36:47.160 --> 00:36:48.160 I ask her on a regular 00:36:48.160 --> 00:36:48.620 basis. 00:36:49.100 --> 00:36:50.820 Mary, where do we come 00:36:50.820 --> 00:36:51.059 from? 00:36:52.100 --> 00:36:52.539 God. 00:36:53.320 --> 00:36:54.340 God created us. 00:36:54.920 --> 00:36:55.980 Mary, every human being 00:36:55.980 --> 00:36:57.059 in the K-Techs building 00:36:57.059 --> 00:36:58.360 is an image bearer of God. 00:36:58.460 --> 00:36:58.960 They're going to worship 00:36:58.960 --> 00:36:59.420 something. 00:37:00.380 --> 00:37:01.059 Second question. 00:37:01.900 --> 00:37:02.620 Mary, what's our biggest 00:37:02.620 --> 00:37:03.080 problem? 00:37:04.640 --> 00:37:06.140 Our biggest problem is our 00:37:06.140 --> 00:37:07.059 disobedience to God. 00:37:07.140 --> 00:37:07.640 It's sin. 00:37:08.660 --> 00:37:09.280 Mary, there's going to be 00:37:09.280 --> 00:37:10.740 people in the building 00:37:10.740 --> 00:37:12.080 saying our greatest problem 00:37:12.080 --> 00:37:12.840 is something else. 00:37:12.900 --> 00:37:13.660 But that's not what God's 00:37:13.660 --> 00:37:14.059 word says. 00:37:14.980 --> 00:37:16.519 Mary, what is God's 00:37:16.519 --> 00:37:17.680 greatest solution to that 00:37:17.680 --> 00:37:18.140 problem? 00:37:20.100 --> 00:37:20.539 Jesus. 00:37:20.820 --> 00:37:22.840 on the cross. 00:37:23.960 --> 00:37:25.220 Mary, every person in 00:37:25.220 --> 00:37:26.080 that building needs 00:37:26.080 --> 00:37:26.420 Jesus. 00:37:27.700 --> 00:37:29.700 Mary, what's the greatest 00:37:29.700 --> 00:37:30.780 hope we have? 00:37:31.860 --> 00:37:33.120 When Jesus comes back, 00:37:33.240 --> 00:37:34.700 Dad, he's going to make 00:37:34.700 --> 00:37:35.400 all wrongs right. 00:37:36.900 --> 00:37:38.620 In those four questions, 00:37:38.720 --> 00:37:40.000 I'm training my daughter 00:37:40.000 --> 00:37:42.380 to anticipate what she 00:37:42.380 --> 00:37:43.120 will encounter. 00:37:43.559 --> 00:37:44.940 Not just that day in 00:37:44.940 --> 00:37:46.340 K-Tech, but for the rest 00:37:46.340 --> 00:37:47.120 of our lives. 00:37:47.119 --> 00:37:47.259 us. 00:37:47.259 --> 00:37:50.699 How to view the world. 00:37:53.259 --> 00:37:55.299 But it also means we're 00:37:55.299 --> 00:37:56.619 preparing our children for 00:37:56.619 --> 00:37:58.599 pointed issues. 00:37:59.819 --> 00:38:01.380 In Proverbs 5, 6, and 7, 00:38:01.920 --> 00:38:04.339 that wise dad prepares his 00:38:04.339 --> 00:38:06.199 son when he encounters an 00:38:06.199 --> 00:38:06.779 adulteress. 00:38:07.099 --> 00:38:07.819 He knows it's coming. 00:38:09.019 --> 00:38:10.119 He prepares him beforehand. 00:38:10.119 --> 00:38:12.359 Don't go that way, son. 00:38:12.400 --> 00:38:13.279 It's going to happen, and 00:38:13.279 --> 00:38:14.339 when it happens, you bolt. 00:38:15.739 --> 00:38:16.639 We need to be having 00:38:16.639 --> 00:38:17.719 conversations now. 00:38:19.039 --> 00:38:20.159 Right now, Jenny and I 00:38:20.159 --> 00:38:21.500 have conversations with our 00:38:21.500 --> 00:38:24.039 children about what marriage 00:38:24.039 --> 00:38:26.940 is between one man, one 00:38:26.940 --> 00:38:29.239 woman, together, for life. 00:38:29.239 --> 00:38:32.519 We're framing things. 00:38:32.619 --> 00:38:33.500 We're getting ahead of 00:38:33.500 --> 00:38:34.659 conversations that will 00:38:34.659 --> 00:38:35.299 surely come. 00:38:36.559 --> 00:38:38.099 We're anticipating things, 00:38:38.599 --> 00:38:39.839 both on a larger scale 00:38:39.839 --> 00:38:40.899 and smaller scale. 00:38:42.219 --> 00:38:44.139 And of course, there's going 00:38:44.139 --> 00:38:45.179 to be times when we need 00:38:45.179 --> 00:38:46.019 to intervene. 00:38:48.099 --> 00:38:49.539 When we call a timeout, 00:38:50.159 --> 00:38:51.299 when our four-year-old's 00:38:51.299 --> 00:38:53.119 melting down, when our 00:38:53.119 --> 00:38:55.000 teenagers are fighting again, 00:38:55.099 --> 00:38:56.519 we need to call a timeout, 00:38:56.619 --> 00:38:57.639 and sometimes we're going to 00:38:57.639 --> 00:38:58.399 have to discipline. 00:38:59.239 --> 00:39:01.719 The book of Proverbs doesn't 00:39:01.719 --> 00:39:03.019 shy away from discipline. 00:39:03.939 --> 00:39:05.379 It doesn't shy away with the 00:39:05.379 --> 00:39:06.679 application of the rod. 00:39:07.699 --> 00:39:08.899 I'm not going to expand on 00:39:08.899 --> 00:39:10.159 that right now, but I do 00:39:10.159 --> 00:39:11.279 have some Proverbs I want to 00:39:11.279 --> 00:39:12.319 give you to look it up if 00:39:12.319 --> 00:39:13.719 that seems new to you. 00:39:14.759 --> 00:39:18.119 Proverbs 22.6, 22.15, 23, 00:39:18.539 --> 00:39:22.099 13 through 14, 29.15, 29.17. 00:39:24.719 --> 00:39:27.439 Wisdom uses discipline to 00:39:27.439 --> 00:39:29.219 train our children to 00:39:29.219 --> 00:39:32.139 get off the way of 00:39:32.139 --> 00:39:34.699 folly and back on the way 00:39:34.699 --> 00:39:35.219 of wisdom. 00:39:37.859 --> 00:39:39.939 There's a way to exercise 00:39:39.939 --> 00:39:42.439 discipline that is pleasing 00:39:42.439 --> 00:39:43.619 to God and loving of our 00:39:43.619 --> 00:39:43.919 children. 00:39:46.079 --> 00:39:47.480 There's a really helpful book. 00:39:47.559 --> 00:39:48.319 It's old now. 00:39:49.139 --> 00:39:50.159 It's called Shepherding a 00:39:50.159 --> 00:39:50.759 Child's Heart. 00:39:50.879 --> 00:39:52.279 It's by Paul Tripp's brother, 00:39:52.399 --> 00:39:52.899 Ted Tripp. 00:39:53.199 --> 00:39:54.599 And in this book, there's a 00:39:54.599 --> 00:39:56.000 very helpful piece on the use 00:39:56.000 --> 00:39:56.659 of the rod. 00:39:57.139 --> 00:39:58.920 I would encourage you to look 00:39:58.920 --> 00:39:59.780 it up. 00:40:00.019 --> 00:40:01.099 There's another very helpful 00:40:01.099 --> 00:40:02.739 book by Paul Tripp. 00:40:02.820 --> 00:40:03.619 It's called Parenting. 00:40:03.679 --> 00:40:05.039 It's his latest release on 00:40:05.039 --> 00:40:05.380 parenting. 00:40:05.539 --> 00:40:06.519 I would recommend it to 00:40:06.519 --> 00:40:07.579 parents and grandparents 00:40:07.579 --> 00:40:08.179 alike. 00:40:08.480 --> 00:40:09.400 If you're parenting a 00:40:09.400 --> 00:40:10.860 teenager, Paul David Tripp 00:40:10.860 --> 00:40:11.860 wrote this book, Age of 00:40:11.860 --> 00:40:12.280 Opportunity. 00:40:12.340 --> 00:40:13.159 It's a little dated now, but 00:40:13.159 --> 00:40:14.099 it's very helpful. 00:40:14.539 --> 00:40:15.960 I would recommend them all 00:40:15.960 --> 00:40:16.500 to you. 00:40:16.500 --> 00:40:20.500 When you discipline your 00:40:20.500 --> 00:40:22.019 children, what you want to be 00:40:22.019 --> 00:40:23.119 sure you're doing is you're 00:40:23.119 --> 00:40:24.199 being clear in what the 00:40:24.199 --> 00:40:26.280 expectations are, clear in 00:40:26.280 --> 00:40:27.780 what the consequences will be, 00:40:27.920 --> 00:40:29.559 and then consistent in the 00:40:29.559 --> 00:40:30.539 application of it. 00:40:33.139 --> 00:40:33.960 We intervene. 00:40:34.239 --> 00:40:35.260 We call timeouts. 00:40:35.679 --> 00:40:37.260 And when we intervene, it is 00:40:37.260 --> 00:40:38.880 always a gospel opportunity, 00:40:39.059 --> 00:40:39.559 moms and dads. 00:40:41.119 --> 00:40:43.780 When our children step off the 00:40:43.780 --> 00:40:45.880 path of blessing into folly, 00:40:46.500 --> 00:40:47.179 they sin. 00:40:47.980 --> 00:40:50.039 And we say that too, son, 00:40:50.239 --> 00:40:50.519 daughter. 00:40:50.840 --> 00:40:51.960 That's why Jesus died. 00:40:52.719 --> 00:40:53.960 That's why we need him to, 00:40:54.539 --> 00:40:55.539 why he shed his blood. 00:40:55.920 --> 00:40:56.599 For that. 00:40:58.039 --> 00:41:00.500 And we lead them in seeking 00:41:00.500 --> 00:41:01.380 God's forgiveness. 00:41:03.940 --> 00:41:06.059 A-I-D, debrief. 00:41:06.539 --> 00:41:07.980 Later during the day, you 00:41:07.980 --> 00:41:08.960 circle back to stuff. 00:41:09.900 --> 00:41:11.360 Hey, have you thought further 00:41:11.360 --> 00:41:12.000 about that? 00:41:12.500 --> 00:41:13.719 Any further thoughts? 00:41:14.059 --> 00:41:14.579 How are you going to deal 00:41:14.579 --> 00:41:15.219 with it next time? 00:41:15.219 --> 00:41:18.579 And so, our anticipating, our 00:41:18.579 --> 00:41:20.319 intervening, our debriefing, 00:41:20.839 --> 00:41:22.159 this is the way we do 00:41:22.159 --> 00:41:22.599 parenting. 00:41:23.379 --> 00:41:25.359 In the context of loving, 00:41:25.559 --> 00:41:26.459 trusting relationships. 00:41:28.759 --> 00:41:32.039 So the question is, what is the 00:41:32.039 --> 00:41:34.279 opportunity right now? 00:41:34.899 --> 00:41:38.699 God is giving you to aid your 00:41:39.539 --> 00:41:39.859 children. 00:41:39.860 --> 00:41:42.120 Can you identify it? 00:41:43.500 --> 00:41:44.800 Are you ready to bring the 00:41:44.800 --> 00:41:45.079 mail? 00:41:45.720 --> 00:41:46.420 Show the love? 00:41:47.500 --> 00:41:48.099 Train them up? 00:41:50.720 --> 00:41:53.420 We need to redeem God's, 00:41:53.680 --> 00:41:54.780 God-given opportunities. 00:41:56.039 --> 00:41:57.360 We need to be faithful to the 00:41:57.360 --> 00:41:57.559 Lord. 00:41:57.820 --> 00:41:58.960 The last piece, and I'll be 00:41:58.960 --> 00:41:59.260 quick. 00:41:59.640 --> 00:42:01.360 Wise parents trust in God's 00:42:01.360 --> 00:42:01.760 grace. 00:42:02.599 --> 00:42:04.660 Parenting is a long faithfulness 00:42:04.660 --> 00:42:05.539 in the same direction. 00:42:06.400 --> 00:42:07.500 You're going to be parenting your 00:42:07.500 --> 00:42:08.719 children through different seasons 00:42:08.719 --> 00:42:09.739 of their life. 00:42:10.860 --> 00:42:12.019 It's hard work. 00:42:12.579 --> 00:42:13.420 There's head scratching 00:42:13.420 --> 00:42:14.059 confusion. 00:42:14.320 --> 00:42:15.460 There will be heartache. 00:42:15.860 --> 00:42:17.019 Your children will choose to do 00:42:17.019 --> 00:42:17.760 foolish things. 00:42:18.119 --> 00:42:19.320 You will do foolish things. 00:42:19.659 --> 00:42:21.059 You will make mistakes. 00:42:21.500 --> 00:42:22.820 You will sin against your 00:42:22.820 --> 00:42:23.179 children. 00:42:23.579 --> 00:42:24.780 You're going to be needing God's 00:42:24.780 --> 00:42:26.739 grace over and over and over 00:42:26.739 --> 00:42:27.179 again. 00:42:27.500 --> 00:42:29.760 And our great God is lavish with 00:42:29.760 --> 00:42:30.260 his grace. 00:42:30.260 --> 00:42:33.520 He gives it to parents. 00:42:33.900 --> 00:42:35.240 He gives it to children. 00:42:35.760 --> 00:42:38.520 He wants his grace permeating 00:42:38.520 --> 00:42:42.460 our lives because God wants your 00:42:42.460 --> 00:42:44.880 children to fear him more than you 00:42:44.880 --> 00:42:45.180 do. 00:42:48.060 --> 00:42:49.620 And he's got the power to do 00:42:49.620 --> 00:42:49.860 that. 00:42:49.860 --> 00:42:57.620 Because of the challenging nature 00:42:57.620 --> 00:43:00.940 of parenting, we are in constant 00:43:00.940 --> 00:43:02.200 need of God's grace. 00:43:02.500 --> 00:43:04.840 Constant need of God's grace. 00:43:06.400 --> 00:43:08.079 So we're always calling out for it. 00:43:08.940 --> 00:43:10.200 And God's always given it. 00:43:14.740 --> 00:43:18.099 Every Christian has somewhere to 00:43:18.099 --> 00:43:19.420 turn in their parenting. 00:43:20.599 --> 00:43:22.159 You're never without options. 00:43:24.159 --> 00:43:26.219 Every Christian parent needs to 00:43:26.219 --> 00:43:30.199 turn to Jesus to abide in him 00:43:30.199 --> 00:43:31.880 through prayer and obedience to 00:43:31.880 --> 00:43:32.339 his word. 00:43:33.199 --> 00:43:34.679 We attach ourselves to Jesus 00:43:34.679 --> 00:43:35.500 every day. 00:43:37.139 --> 00:43:38.059 He's the vine. 00:43:38.259 --> 00:43:39.039 We are the branches. 00:43:39.380 --> 00:43:41.860 Apart from him, we can do no good 00:43:41.860 --> 00:43:43.139 parenting thing. 00:43:45.239 --> 00:43:46.739 But we also have each other. 00:43:48.099 --> 00:43:50.860 We get to abide in Jesus together 00:43:50.860 --> 00:43:51.940 as we raise our children. 00:43:53.199 --> 00:43:55.639 We have this unique privilege as a 00:43:55.639 --> 00:43:57.079 church to follow Jesus together 00:43:57.079 --> 00:43:59.460 and to raise up the next 00:43:59.460 --> 00:44:00.440 generation together. 00:44:02.360 --> 00:44:03.299 Parenting is hard. 00:44:04.099 --> 00:44:06.299 So we get to encourage one another 00:44:06.299 --> 00:44:09.500 when there's hardship. 00:44:10.559 --> 00:44:12.319 We get to share wisdom with one 00:44:12.319 --> 00:44:14.699 another when we're scratching our 00:44:14.699 --> 00:44:15.779 heads wondering what to do. 00:44:15.780 --> 00:44:18.920 We get to comfort one another 00:44:18.920 --> 00:44:22.340 when one of us learns our child 00:44:22.340 --> 00:44:23.920 has done something very foolish. 00:44:25.600 --> 00:44:27.420 And we get to rejoice with one 00:44:27.420 --> 00:44:30.140 another when God does a work. 00:44:31.280 --> 00:44:32.600 And we say hallelujah. 00:44:33.400 --> 00:44:34.540 We've been praying for that. 00:44:35.740 --> 00:44:38.100 We're in this together, moms and dads, 00:44:38.220 --> 00:44:39.240 grandmas and grandpas. 00:44:39.239 --> 00:44:41.739 So not do we just seek Jesus. 00:44:42.639 --> 00:44:44.079 We seek each other. 00:44:45.919 --> 00:44:46.799 Fear God first. 00:44:47.079 --> 00:44:47.879 Obey God's call. 00:44:48.039 --> 00:44:48.759 Pray God's will. 00:44:48.939 --> 00:44:49.839 Minister God's word. 00:44:50.039 --> 00:44:51.459 Redeem God's opportunities. 00:44:52.719 --> 00:44:54.219 Trust God's grace. 00:44:55.099 --> 00:44:55.919 That's how we do it. 00:44:57.259 --> 00:44:59.939 That's how we make disciples of our 00:44:59.939 --> 00:45:01.899 children and fulfill the great 00:45:01.899 --> 00:45:02.859 commission in our homes. 00:45:04.019 --> 00:45:04.739 Pray with me. 00:45:04.739 --> 00:45:06.739 God in heaven, 00:45:07.879 --> 00:45:10.139 this is a lot of information. 00:45:12.000 --> 00:45:13.339 And I pray now, God, 00:45:13.399 --> 00:45:14.539 for those who are feeling 00:45:14.539 --> 00:45:17.039 like they don't measure up, 00:45:17.239 --> 00:45:18.479 they're ashamed of themselves, 00:45:18.739 --> 00:45:19.899 or they feel overwhelmed, 00:45:20.339 --> 00:45:22.199 or their tendency is to trust 00:45:22.199 --> 00:45:22.839 in themselves. 00:45:23.519 --> 00:45:25.319 God, we ask that you would help us 00:45:25.319 --> 00:45:26.979 to trust you with all of our hearts. 00:45:27.679 --> 00:45:29.919 To lean not on our own understanding. 00:45:30.339 --> 00:45:31.619 In all of our ways, 00:45:31.699 --> 00:45:32.519 acknowledge you, 00:45:32.679 --> 00:45:33.959 and you will make straight our paths. 00:45:33.960 --> 00:45:35.659 God, would you pour out your Holy Spirit 00:45:35.659 --> 00:45:38.139 in us and through us 00:45:38.139 --> 00:45:40.740 to affect heart change in our children 00:45:40.740 --> 00:45:42.039 that only you can do. 00:45:43.420 --> 00:45:44.699 God, raise up for yourself 00:45:44.699 --> 00:45:46.300 a generation to follow us 00:45:46.300 --> 00:45:49.619 who love you with everything they got. 00:45:50.240 --> 00:45:52.280 In Jesus' name, amen.