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 Well, if you are new to Watermark and you don't know me, my name's Kevin, I'm one of the leaders here.

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 And as you heard, we are doing this series called Living Distinctively.

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 Those of us that are Christians believe that Jesus, or Christianity is not just good advice, it's good news.

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 It's good news that actually changes us.

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 The gospel doesn't just save us to get to heaven one day, it creates a new kind of people.

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 And Christians are those who then live distinctively.

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 And specifically, we are looking at how the Christian faith reshapes and reframes three things that most Hong Kongers think are essential for a meaningful and satisfying life.

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 In Hong Kong, we generally believe that we treat things like money, sex, and power in a very consumeristic way.

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 And we believe that to have a meaningful and satisfied life, you need more of those things, right?

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 More money, more sex, and more power is going to make you a happy person.

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 Well, this morning we want to look at how, well, in this series we're looking at how Christian faith challenges that and reframes that.

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 And this morning we're going to look at the topic of sex.

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 How does Christian faith, and the gospel in particular, reframe and reshape the way we think about sex and intimacy and sexuality?

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 Now, before we dive in, Henry's going to come and read the scripture to us this morning.

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 But before we go there, I want to just say a couple of things.

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 The first thing to say is I know that this topic is one that for probably most of us in the room is one that is very difficult to talk about and very difficult to listen to in church.

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 And there's a couple of reasons for that.

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 One of the reasons is probably all of us here carry some level of shame or regret when it comes to sexuality and sex and intimacy.

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 None of us here are the standard of moral perfection.

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 Probably all of us here have some track record of regret and guilt and shame.

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 And so that alone just makes it difficult.

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 For some of us here, maybe we are right now feel enslaved to some kind of sexual addiction.

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 It could be pornography.

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 It could be visiting sex workers.

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 It could be some other kind of addiction.

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 And so in addition to the shame and the guilt, we feel trapped.

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 We feel enslaved.

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 We feel like there's no way out.

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 I don't know.

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 We can't see any light at the end of the tunnel.

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 For some of us here, we may have been the victims of sexual abuse.

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 That could be physical and overt and direct in our face.

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 It could be subtle and suggested, but it's abuse nonetheless.

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 And abuse is always traumatic.

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 For some of us here, maybe we carry either the shame or the scars of betrayal, of unfaithfulness in a marriage.

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 And even if that was many years ago, and there's been reconciliation, and there's been forgiveness, and there's been healing, we still live with the scars and the shame and the memory.

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 And we'll live with that for all of our lives probably.

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 Friends, for some of us, maybe you've been hurt by the worst of Christian purity culture.

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 Churches typically have handled this really bad.

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 And so maybe you were told growing up, listen, if you're a good boy and a good girl, and you keep your pants up, one day God is going to bring you an amazing spouse, and you're going to have sexual utopia for the rest of your life.

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 And it doesn't quite work like that.

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 That's not how things work.

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 Or maybe you're told in the church, if you have sex outside of marriage, it's the unforgivable sin, and you're now broken goods.

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 The petal's being pulled off, and that's the way it is.

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 Sorry for you.

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 Friends, that's not necessarily true.

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 It's serious, but it's not unforgivable.

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 There's redemption.

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 There's healing.

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 You are not broken goods.

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 Or maybe you experience kind of a male chauvinism, where the women were just told, your job is not to make men stumble.

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 And your job is to please your husband so that they don't go off somewhere else.

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 And it's kind of this very chauvinistic misogynist in the church.

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 Friends, for lots of different reasons, this is an area.

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 Here's another reason.

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 Most marriages experience real difficulty in the area of sex and intimacy.

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 Most marriages.

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 And so for lots of different reasons, the chances are, most of us, this is a difficult topic.

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 And I just want to acknowledge that and say, we're going to try and deal with it, with grace.

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 We're not here to add shame.

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 We're here, we want to talk about it because we think God's got something to say.

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 And we trust that as we listen to Him, we'll experience the grace and the kindness and the freedom of God.

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 One other thing I want to say before we start is, or before we get to our scripture, we're going to look at the scripture today.

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 And the reason is because we believe that the scripture, God's word is good.

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 What it means to be the church is to be God's people.

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 And God's word, the Bible, is not just advice or moralism or the rules.

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 It is the living words of the true God.

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 Or it's the true words, the living God.

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 God's word comes to us to bring hope, to challenge us at times, but also to bring freedom.

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 To speak a better word than the word of our culture, the word of our shame, the word of our guilt.

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 To speak a better word.

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 And so we're going to look at the scriptures because God's word is good for us.

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 So, as Henry comes up, Henry, do you want to come and read?

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 We're going to look at 1 Corinthians chapter 6.

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 As he does that, I want you to notice something about this passage.

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 There's lots of quotation marks.

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 And the way it works is those quotation marks aren't in the original Greek.

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 The English translators put them in.

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 But they're probably accurate.

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 They put them there to help us.

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 What's happening here, there's a conversation.

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 The Corinthians, either in a previous letter or this is their thinking,

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 they say some things in quotation mark and then Paul responds.

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 And so Paul says, you say this, but listen to my response.

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 And so this is a conversation between Paul and the Corinthians.

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 I say that just so you can understand a bit of what's going on.

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 So on that note, let's listen to the reading of God's word this morning.

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 So the passage that we're looking at is from 1 Corinthians 6, starting at verse 12.

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 Sometimes there are really surprising things in the Bible.

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 And we think, does the Bible really say that?

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 Well, let's listen to what God says, really says in his word this morning.

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 1 Corinthians 6, verse 12.

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 All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful.

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 All things are lawful for me, but I will not be enslaved by anything.

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 Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food.

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 And God will destroy both one and the other.

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 The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord and the Lord for the body.

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 And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power.

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 Do you not know that your bodies are the members of Christ?

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 Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute?

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 Never.

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 Or do you know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her?

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 For it is written, the two will become one flesh.

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 But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.

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 Flee from sexual immorality.

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 Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

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 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God?

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 You are not your own, for you were bought with a price.

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 So glorify God in your body.

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 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote, it's good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.

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 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

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 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.

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 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does.

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 Likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

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 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time that you may devote yourselves to prayer.

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 But then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

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 This is the Word of God.

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 Great, thank you Henry.

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 Okay, so let's dive in.

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 The big idea for today is this.

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 Christianity shows us that sex and intimacy are God's good gifts for relationship, not self-gratification,

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 to deepen and develop intimacy, not identity,

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 and to point us to Christ because sexual love is meant to reflect God's saving love.

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 Okay, so that's the big idea.

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 I know it's a long sentence.

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 Let me say it again.

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 Christianity shows us that sex and intimacy are God's good gifts given for relationship, not self-gratification,

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 given to develop and strengthen intimacy, not identity,

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 and to point us to Christ because sexual love is meant to reflect God's saving love.

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 And I've got four things to say along these lines, okay?

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 Let's dive into the first one.

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 Sex is about love, not freedom.

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 Okay, sounds very obvious.

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 Look at our passage here today.

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 I want you to notice a couple of things that the Corinthians were saying that reflect our own culture's view

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 towards sex and intimacy and sexuality.

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 The first thing that they say is,

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 sex is a private matter.

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 Sex is about my own freedom.

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 Who are you to tell me what to do?

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 They say here, look at the quotation marks,

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 all things are lawful for me.

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 Or as the NIV says,

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 I have the right to do anything I want.

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 That's what they're saying, right?

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 Listen, Paul, who are you?

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 Who is this Jesus fellow?

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 Who is the church to tell me what to do with my body?

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 I am free.

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 I can do whatever I want.

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 All things are lawful for me.

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 I have the right to do whatever I want.

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 And Paul says, if you approach sexuality like that,

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 you won't be free at all.

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 You'll become a slave.

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 You'll be a slave to your own desires.

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 Slave to your addictions.

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 Look at what he says.

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 All things are lawful for me.

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 You say, but I tell you, not all things are helpful.

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 You say, all things are lawful for me.

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 Yes, but don't be enslaved or dominated by anything.

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 In the ancient world, when Paul's writing this,

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 sex and intimacy largely had to do with,

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 yes, personal fulfillment and gratification,

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 but it actually had a lot to do with power

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 and the power structures of the day.

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 In the ancient world,

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 not anybody could just hook up with anybody.

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 Men were allowed to have sex with almost anybody they wanted,

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 but women who had far less social standing and power

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 had to be chaste and very conservative and dignified

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 and were expected to be virgins by the time they got married.

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 But men could sleep with almost anybody they wanted

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 as long as they were lower than them

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 on the social standing ladder.

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 So men could have sex with a servant, a slave, a concubine,

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 a poorer woman, even young boys.

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 No problem.

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 But for the women, they had to be very chaste.

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 In other words, in the ancient world,

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 sex was about personal fulfillment and pleasure,

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 but it was also an exercise of power.

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 The strong enforcing themselves,

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 gratifying themselves on the weak,

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 the powerful taking advantage of the powerless.

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 And so when the Corinthians say,

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 I have the right to do whatever I want,

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 what that means is I'm free.

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 I'm my own person.

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 Who are you to tell me what to do?

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 Until the gospel comes in, and the gospel says this,

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 sex is about love, not freedom,

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 because sex is not about using your power

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 to get your own way or personal fulfillment.

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 It's actually about becoming vulnerable

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 and mutually giving up power

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 in the service of one another.

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 It's not about using your power to gratify yourself.

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 It's actually about giving up your power mutually

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 and becoming vulnerable to serve each other,

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 just as Christ did for us.

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 Think about how Christ Jesus,

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 who had all the power in the universe,

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 gave up his power,

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 became vulnerable to serve his bride, the church.

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 Look at chapter seven.

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 Henry read it to us in verse four.

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 There's a lot here, so we won't go into all of it,

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 but verse four says,

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 the wife does not have authority over her own body,

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 but the husband does.

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 In the ancient world, every male reading that says,

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 yeah, we all know that.

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 So what?

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 What's the big deal?

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 Until the next line, Paul writes,

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 likewise, the husband does not have authority

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 over his own body, but the wife does.

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 What?

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 Wait.

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 In the ancient world,

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 nobody would have believed

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 such progressive nonsense, right?

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 Everybody knew the man has authority

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 over the wife's body and not the other way around.

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 But the gospel comes and shows another way.

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 Friends, the gospel shows and says,

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 sex is not about power,

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 about what you can get,

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 it's about what you can give.

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 Those that had discovered Christ

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 and Christ's approach to loving his bride

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 saw there's another way to approach this.

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 Now, in modern times,

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 we also view sex as personal freedom and pleasure,

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 not so much based on power and authority,

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 but based on individualism and autonomy.

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 So in our culture,

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 these days,

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 we believe that to be fully human,

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 to be a fully authentic person,

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 you must be free to express your individual desires,

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 however you want,

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 on your journey towards personal fulfillment.

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 But again,

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 the gospel comes and says,

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 sex is not about expressing individual autonomy

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 or fulfillment,

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 it's about giving up your autonomy.

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 It's about serving and vulnerability

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 and mutually serving one another,

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 just as Christ did the church.

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 Think about how Christ gave up his autonomy,

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 became a servant,

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 a man to serve his church,

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 his bride,

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 and so,

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 sex is not so much about freedom,

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 what can I do,

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 what can I not do,

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 gratifying myself,

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 it's about loving and giving up your rights

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 for the sake of the other.

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 In 1 John chapter 4,

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 the apostle John writes and says,

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 this is how we know what love is.

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 This is the love of God made manifest,

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 that God sent his son into the world

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 to be an atoning sacrifice

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 that we might live for him.

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 This is love,

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 not demanding my rights

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 or my privileges,

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 but giving those up

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 for the sake of the other.

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 This is love,

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 not demanding my own gratification,

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 but serving.

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 Sex is about love,

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 not freedom.

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 In the 1990s,

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 there was a famous pop song called,

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 What's Love Got to Do With It?

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 Anybody remember that?

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 Okay?

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 Tina Turner,

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 I think it was.

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 That is the tagline

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 of our modern sexual ethic, right?

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 What's love got to do with it?

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 Prince Christianity says,

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 love has everything to do with it,

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 because sexual love

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 is meant to reflect

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 God's gracious,

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 generous,

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 saving love,

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 a giving of himself,

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 which means giving up power,

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 giving up individualism,

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 becoming vulnerable and naked,

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 not just physically,

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 but emotionally,

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 relationally,

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 letting the other in

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 and say,

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 this is who I am.

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 Giving up individualism

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 as you love and serve

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 the person you committed

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 to loving and serving,

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 whether for better or worse,

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 all the days of your life.

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 Okay?

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 I hope that makes sense.

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 Sex is for love,

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 not freedom.

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 For relationship,

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 not individualism.

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 Secondly,

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 sex is sacred,

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 not insignificant.

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 Look at the second thing

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 these Corinthians are saying.

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 I think this is verse 13.

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 They say,

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 listen,

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 food is for stomach

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 and the stomach is for food.

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 Okay?

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 In other words,

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 what they're saying is,

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 sex is really nothing,

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 it's just a natural biological impulse,

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 it's a natural desire.

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 There's food,

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 I've got a hungry stomach,

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 they go together.

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 I've got a body,

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 it desires sex,

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 they go together.

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 In other words,

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 just as food

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 and my stomach

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 is a natural appetite,

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 is what it means,

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 I've got to satisfy this appetite,

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 so I have a sexual appetite,

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 my body does that,

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 what's the big deal, right?

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 Like food and sleep

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 and any other natural appetite,

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 the way to handle

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 my sexual desires

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 is to feed them.

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 Food is for the stomach,

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 stomach is for the food,

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 certain body parts are for sex,

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 sex is for certain body parts,

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 what's the deal?

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 In other words,

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 sex is nothing.

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 Don't make it a big deal.

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 Friends, again,

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 does this not reflect

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 our modern culture?

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 As moderns,

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 we no longer think of sex

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 as a function of procreation

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 or having children

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 or an expression of commitment

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 is nothing more

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 than just a physical appetite,

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 something to satisfy

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 from time to time.

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 But look at what Paul does

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 in response to this.

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 Paul tells the Corinthians

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 that they've profoundly misunderstood

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 both the nature of sex

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 and also the human body

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 because sex is overwhelmingly sacred,

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 precious,

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 not insignificant.

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 Who you sleep with

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 is profoundly significant.

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 Look at how Paul says this.

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 He says,

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 the body is not meant

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 for sexual immorality

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 but for the Lord

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 and the Lord is for the body.

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 Friends, Christians understand

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 that as Christians,

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 our bodies are not just

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 a container

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 to hold our immaterial soul.

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 We are not just immaterial beings

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 that happen to have a body

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 that will one day

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 go to an immaterial world.

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 We are embodied beings

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 and our body is important.

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 Our body matters to God.

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 What we do with our body

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 shapes who we are

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 and it shapes our very self.

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 It is important to shape

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 the kind of people we become.

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 We are to worship God

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 and glorify God with our bodies.

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 Verse 14, Paul says,

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 God raised the Lord Jesus Christ

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 in a body

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 and will raise us

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 by power as well.

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 In other words,

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 Jesus Christ came to earth

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 in a physical body.

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 He died and rose again

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 in a physical body.

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 He will come back again

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 in a physical body

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 and we will be with him

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 in glory

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 in a renewed,

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 healed,

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 restored physical body.

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 Our physical bodies matter

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 and what we do with our bodies

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 and how we handle them

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 shapes us

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 and shapes our hearts

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 and matters to God as well.

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 Verse 15,

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 Do you not know

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 that your bodies

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 are members of Christ?

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 Or verse 19,

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 Do you not know

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 that your body

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 is a temple

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 of the Holy Spirit

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 with whom you have from God?

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 Think of what a temple is.

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 A temple is the place

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 where God's Spirit resides.

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 It's a holy place.

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 It's a sacred place.

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 And Paul says

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 that our physical bodies

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 and in this context

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 our sexuality

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 is a sacred and a place.

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 It's a place

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 where God's presence is.

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 Where God is with us.

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 What we do

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 with our bodies

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 matters.

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 It's profoundly significant.

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 He says,

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 You are not your own

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 or your body

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 is not your own

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 for you were bought

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 with a price.

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 So glorify God

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 with your body.

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 See the Corinthians

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 are saying

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 it doesn't really matter

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 it's just a physical desire

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 it's a natural impulse.

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 What really matters

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 is what's going on

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 in our hearts.

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 Do I love God

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 with my heart?

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 And Paul's saying

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 yes your heart matters

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 but so does your body.

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 Friends,

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 if you are a Christian

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 in other words

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 if you've come

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 to see yourself

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 as a sinner

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 that is saved

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 by grace alone

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 you've cried out to God

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 for his saving mercy

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 do you realize

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 that you are not your own?

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 You belong to Christ.

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 Christ is your Lord

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 and your master.

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 You belong to him.

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 Previously

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 your motivation

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 was what glorifies me?

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 what satisfies me?

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 What pleases me?

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 But a Christian

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 is someone who says

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 Christ you are my master

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 now

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 I live for what pleases you

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 what satisfies you

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 what glorifies you.

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 Friends,

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 if you are

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 not a Christian

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 this morning

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 well of course

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 you get to live

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 however you please

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 right?

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 You do you.

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 But I must warn you

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 there are two things

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 you must be aware of.

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 One

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 you doing you

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 will enslave you

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 forever.

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 It won't set you free.

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 You'll be a slave

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 to your desires

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 and a slave

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 to sin.

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 And two

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 you doing you

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 you will do that

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 in a Christless hell

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 for all eternity.

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 But friends

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 if you are

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 a follower of Jesus

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 if you are

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 a Christian

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 this morning

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 now you've come

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 to love God

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 with your heart

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 your soul

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 your mind

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 your strength

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 and your body.

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 Now in view

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 of God's profound mercy

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 we offer our body

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 to God

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 as a living sacrifice.

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 Friends look at verse 19

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 you are not your own

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 you are bought

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 to the price

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 so glorify God

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 not just in my heart

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 but with your body

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 as well.

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 Our culture

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 screams at us

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 a thousand times

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 a day

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 that our desires

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 are nothing but

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 just private

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 physical

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 natural desires.

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 Means for you

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 to express

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 your authentic selfhood.

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 And Jesus Christ

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 says nothing

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 could be further

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 from the truth.

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 Friends

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 isn't the long

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 long track record

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 of pain

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 and shame

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 and trauma

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 and embarrassment

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 and bitterness

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 and resentment

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 and loneliness

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 in our culture

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 attest me

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 to what Jesus

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 says is true

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 that sex

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 is profoundly

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 significant

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 profoundly precious.

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 Why does sexual

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 abuse pain us

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 so much

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 more than

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 physical abuse?

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 Because there's

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 something profoundly

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 significant

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 about it.

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 And so Paul

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 says in verse 18

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 here he says

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 every other sin

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 that a man

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 or a person

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 commits

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 is outside the body

00:23:01.980 --> 00:23:02.839
 but the sexually

00:23:02.839 --> 00:23:03.899
 immoral person

00:23:03.899 --> 00:23:04.679
 sins against

00:23:04.679 --> 00:23:05.500
 his own body.

00:23:06.319 --> 00:23:06.819
 When somebody

00:23:06.819 --> 00:23:07.460
 gets drunk

00:23:07.460 --> 00:23:08.200
 they don't become

00:23:08.200 --> 00:23:09.559
 one with a bottle

00:23:09.559 --> 00:23:10.079
 of alcohol.

00:23:11.539 --> 00:23:11.899
 When someone

00:23:11.899 --> 00:23:12.419
 cheats on their

00:23:12.419 --> 00:23:13.099
 tax return

00:23:13.099 --> 00:23:14.079
 there's not this

00:23:14.079 --> 00:23:15.200
 deep mingling

00:23:15.200 --> 00:23:15.879
 a oneness

00:23:15.879 --> 00:23:16.419
 a unity

00:23:16.419 --> 00:23:17.599
 with money.

00:23:18.599 --> 00:23:18.960
 But there's

00:23:18.960 --> 00:23:19.919
 something profoundly

00:23:19.919 --> 00:23:20.639
 significant

00:23:20.640 --> 00:23:21.560
 about intimacy

00:23:21.560 --> 00:23:22.800
 that God

00:23:22.800 --> 00:23:23.580
 has designed.

00:23:24.780 --> 00:23:25.620
 Lewis Smedes

00:23:25.620 --> 00:23:26.920
 wrote this

00:23:26.920 --> 00:23:27.300
 he says

00:23:27.300 --> 00:23:28.140
 there's more

00:23:28.140 --> 00:23:28.540
 to sex

00:23:28.540 --> 00:23:28.840
 than meets

00:23:28.840 --> 00:23:29.280
 the eye

00:23:29.280 --> 00:23:30.000
 or excites

00:23:30.000 --> 00:23:30.500
 the body.

00:23:31.180 --> 00:23:31.600
 There's no

00:23:31.600 --> 00:23:32.000
 such thing

00:23:32.000 --> 00:23:32.580
 as casual

00:23:32.580 --> 00:23:32.900
 sex.

00:23:32.960 --> 00:23:33.480
 No such thing

00:23:33.480 --> 00:23:34.480
 as no matter

00:23:34.480 --> 00:23:35.120
 how casual

00:23:35.120 --> 00:23:35.700
 people are

00:23:35.700 --> 00:23:36.240
 about it.

00:23:36.780 --> 00:23:37.220
 No one

00:23:37.220 --> 00:23:37.620
 can take

00:23:37.620 --> 00:23:38.140
 sex out

00:23:38.140 --> 00:23:38.560
 at night

00:23:38.560 --> 00:23:39.000
 and put

00:23:39.000 --> 00:23:39.440
 it away

00:23:39.440 --> 00:23:40.320
 until he

00:23:40.320 --> 00:23:40.660
 or she

00:23:40.660 --> 00:23:41.100
 wants to

00:23:41.100 --> 00:23:41.480
 play with

00:23:41.480 --> 00:23:41.820
 it again.

00:23:42.400 --> 00:23:42.780
 Nobody

00:23:42.780 --> 00:23:43.180
 can go

00:23:43.180 --> 00:23:43.580
 to bed

00:23:43.580 --> 00:23:44.040
 with someone

00:23:44.040 --> 00:23:44.700
 and leave

00:23:44.700 --> 00:23:45.420
 their soul

00:23:45.420 --> 00:23:46.000
 parked

00:23:46.000 --> 00:23:46.600
 outside.

00:23:46.599 --> 00:23:48.659
 your soul

00:23:48.659 --> 00:23:49.519
 is necessarily

00:23:49.519 --> 00:23:50.459
 intrinsically

00:23:50.459 --> 00:23:51.119
 involved.

00:23:51.639 --> 00:23:51.959
 And that's

00:23:51.959 --> 00:23:52.480
 Paul's point

00:23:52.480 --> 00:23:52.639
 here.

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 He says

00:23:53.299 --> 00:23:54.219
 sex is not

00:23:54.219 --> 00:23:54.659
 just body

00:23:54.659 --> 00:23:55.139
 on body

00:23:55.139 --> 00:23:55.939
 flesh

00:23:55.939 --> 00:23:56.439
 on flesh

00:23:56.439 --> 00:23:56.759
 skin

00:23:56.759 --> 00:23:57.240
 on skin

00:23:57.240 --> 00:23:58.259
 it's heart

00:23:58.259 --> 00:23:58.759
 on heart

00:23:58.759 --> 00:23:59.379
 it's soul

00:23:59.379 --> 00:23:59.799
 on soul

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 there's a deep

00:24:00.359 --> 00:24:01.199
 intermingling

00:24:01.199 --> 00:24:03.019
 and intertwining

00:24:03.019 --> 00:24:03.559
 the two

00:24:03.559 --> 00:24:04.480
 becoming one

00:24:04.480 --> 00:24:05.959
 as people

00:24:05.959 --> 00:24:07.199
 join themselves

00:24:07.199 --> 00:24:07.740
 together

00:24:07.740 --> 00:24:09.099
 in love.

00:24:10.199 --> 00:24:10.639
 Okay so

00:24:10.639 --> 00:24:11.480
 two things

00:24:11.480 --> 00:24:12.379
 sex is for love

00:24:12.379 --> 00:24:13.399
 not freedom

00:24:13.399 --> 00:24:15.079
 sex is significant

00:24:15.079 --> 00:24:16.019
 it's profound

00:24:16.019 --> 00:24:17.160
 it's not

00:24:17.160 --> 00:24:17.720
 insignificant

00:24:17.720 --> 00:24:18.519
 it's sacred.

00:24:19.319 --> 00:24:19.859
 Here's the third

00:24:19.859 --> 00:24:19.980
 thing

00:24:19.980 --> 00:24:20.440
 this is probably

00:24:20.440 --> 00:24:20.799
 the biggest

00:24:20.799 --> 00:24:21.379
 thing that speaks

00:24:21.379 --> 00:24:21.920
 against our

00:24:21.920 --> 00:24:22.240
 culture

00:24:22.240 --> 00:24:23.420
 sex is for

00:24:23.420 --> 00:24:23.960
 covenant

00:24:23.960 --> 00:24:25.879
 not consumerism

00:24:25.879 --> 00:24:26.460
 or another way

00:24:26.460 --> 00:24:26.879
 of saying that

00:24:26.879 --> 00:24:27.539
 sex is for

00:24:27.539 --> 00:24:28.619
 self-giving

00:24:28.619 --> 00:24:30.240
 not self-gratification.

00:24:32.460 --> 00:24:33.099
 In the

00:24:33.099 --> 00:24:34.079
 Corinthian church

00:24:34.079 --> 00:24:35.240
 what is happening

00:24:35.240 --> 00:24:37.900
 in the Corinthian church

00:24:37.900 --> 00:24:39.000
 rather than

00:24:39.000 --> 00:24:39.920
 letting the gospel

00:24:39.920 --> 00:24:41.039
 cause them

00:24:41.039 --> 00:24:41.359
 to live

00:24:41.359 --> 00:24:42.240
 distinctively

00:24:42.240 --> 00:24:43.460
 the Corinthians

00:24:43.460 --> 00:24:43.940
 were living

00:24:43.940 --> 00:24:44.639
 just like the

00:24:44.639 --> 00:24:44.940
 culture

00:24:44.940 --> 00:24:45.460
 they were an

00:24:45.460 --> 00:24:46.039
 echo of

00:24:46.039 --> 00:24:46.600
 their culture

00:24:46.600 --> 00:24:47.960
 and what

00:24:47.960 --> 00:24:48.420
 is happening

00:24:48.420 --> 00:24:48.680
 in the

00:24:48.680 --> 00:24:49.039
 culture

00:24:49.039 --> 00:24:49.799
 in the

00:24:49.799 --> 00:24:50.120
 culture

00:24:50.120 --> 00:24:50.440
 of the

00:24:50.440 --> 00:24:50.700
 ancient

00:24:50.700 --> 00:24:51.799
 Roman

00:24:51.799 --> 00:24:52.039
 and

00:24:52.039 --> 00:24:52.259
 Greek

00:24:52.259 --> 00:24:52.799
 world

00:24:52.799 --> 00:24:54.860
 prostitution

00:24:54.860 --> 00:24:55.940
 was just

00:24:55.940 --> 00:24:57.059
 a non-issue

00:24:57.059 --> 00:24:57.500
 there were

00:24:57.500 --> 00:24:57.759
 temple

00:24:57.759 --> 00:24:58.640
 prostitutes

00:24:58.640 --> 00:25:00.360
 many men

00:25:00.360 --> 00:25:00.940
 after dinner

00:25:00.940 --> 00:25:01.340
 party

00:25:01.340 --> 00:25:02.340
 they would

00:25:02.340 --> 00:25:02.880
 go down

00:25:02.880 --> 00:25:03.160
 to the

00:25:03.160 --> 00:25:03.539
 temple

00:25:03.539 --> 00:25:04.160
 and engage

00:25:04.160 --> 00:25:05.220
 in prostitution

00:25:05.220 --> 00:25:05.920
 it was not

00:25:05.920 --> 00:25:06.460
 a big deal

00:25:06.460 --> 00:25:06.840
 at all

00:25:06.840 --> 00:25:07.660
 everybody

00:25:07.660 --> 00:25:08.240
 was doing

00:25:08.240 --> 00:25:08.519
 it

00:25:08.519 --> 00:25:10.539
 and Paul

00:25:10.539 --> 00:25:11.120
 writes and says

00:25:11.120 --> 00:25:11.799
 you are becoming

00:25:11.799 --> 00:25:12.380
 just like your

00:25:12.380 --> 00:25:12.740
 culture

00:25:12.740 --> 00:25:14.019
 and so

00:25:14.019 --> 00:25:14.539
 the problem

00:25:14.539 --> 00:25:15.000
 was

00:25:15.000 --> 00:25:15.559
 that even

00:25:15.559 --> 00:25:15.759
 the

00:25:15.759 --> 00:25:16.200
 Corinthians

00:25:16.200 --> 00:25:17.000
 were viewing

00:25:17.000 --> 00:25:17.620
 sex

00:25:17.620 --> 00:25:18.059
 as a

00:25:18.059 --> 00:25:18.620
 consumer

00:25:18.620 --> 00:25:19.180
 product

00:25:19.180 --> 00:25:19.620
 to

00:25:19.620 --> 00:25:20.339
 consume

00:25:20.339 --> 00:25:21.259
 to satisfy

00:25:21.259 --> 00:25:22.400
 their own

00:25:22.400 --> 00:25:23.680
 desires

00:25:23.680 --> 00:25:24.700
 they were seeing

00:25:24.700 --> 00:25:25.079
 it as something

00:25:25.079 --> 00:25:25.660
 for my own

00:25:25.660 --> 00:25:26.019
 pleasure

00:25:26.019 --> 00:25:26.579
 my own

00:25:26.579 --> 00:25:27.460
 self-fulfillment

00:25:27.460 --> 00:25:27.859
 my own

00:25:27.859 --> 00:25:28.539
 gratification

00:25:28.539 --> 00:25:29.920
 but look at

00:25:29.920 --> 00:25:30.380
 what Paul

00:25:30.380 --> 00:25:30.940
 does here

00:25:30.940 --> 00:25:32.380
 he says

00:25:32.380 --> 00:25:33.259
 that sex

00:25:33.259 --> 00:25:34.120
 and intimacy

00:25:34.120 --> 00:25:34.819
 is given

00:25:34.819 --> 00:25:35.240
 to us

00:25:35.240 --> 00:25:35.880
 not for

00:25:35.880 --> 00:25:37.059
 self-consumption

00:25:37.059 --> 00:25:38.119
 not for

00:25:38.119 --> 00:25:39.179
 self-gratification

00:25:39.179 --> 00:25:40.759
 but as a way

00:25:40.759 --> 00:25:41.299
 as a means

00:25:41.299 --> 00:25:42.119
 of strengthening

00:25:42.119 --> 00:25:42.859
 the one

00:25:42.859 --> 00:25:43.339
 flesh

00:25:43.339 --> 00:25:43.940
 union

00:25:43.940 --> 00:25:44.940
 and intimacy

00:25:44.940 --> 00:25:46.319
 and relationship

00:25:46.319 --> 00:25:47.679
 that is

00:25:47.679 --> 00:25:48.359
 birthed

00:25:48.359 --> 00:25:48.839
 and started

00:25:48.839 --> 00:25:49.720
 when you

00:25:49.720 --> 00:25:50.159
 commit to

00:25:50.159 --> 00:25:50.500
 love each

00:25:50.500 --> 00:25:50.679
 other

00:25:50.679 --> 00:25:51.119
 for better

00:25:51.119 --> 00:25:51.480
 or worse

00:25:51.480 --> 00:25:51.740
 throughout

00:25:51.740 --> 00:25:52.339
 your life

00:25:52.339 --> 00:25:53.559
 look at

00:25:53.559 --> 00:25:54.099
 verse 18

00:25:54.099 --> 00:25:54.500
 he says

00:25:54.500 --> 00:25:55.460
 do you not

00:25:55.460 --> 00:25:55.859
 know that

00:25:55.859 --> 00:25:56.440
 one who is

00:25:56.440 --> 00:25:56.859
 joined to

00:25:56.859 --> 00:25:57.419
 a prostitute

00:25:57.419 --> 00:25:58.339
 becomes one

00:25:58.339 --> 00:25:58.759
 in body

00:25:58.759 --> 00:25:59.179
 with her

00:25:59.179 --> 00:26:00.179
 for it is

00:26:00.179 --> 00:26:00.480
 written

00:26:00.480 --> 00:26:01.079
 the two

00:26:01.079 --> 00:26:01.700
 will become

00:26:01.700 --> 00:26:02.440
 one flesh

00:26:02.440 --> 00:26:03.559
 so Paul

00:26:03.559 --> 00:26:03.879
 is quoting

00:26:03.879 --> 00:26:04.639
 Genesis 2

00:26:04.639 --> 00:26:05.740
 God's original

00:26:05.740 --> 00:26:06.919
 marriage mandate

00:26:06.920 --> 00:26:07.840
 and he says

00:26:07.840 --> 00:26:08.360
 the main

00:26:08.360 --> 00:26:08.880
 purpose

00:26:08.880 --> 00:26:09.340
 of sexual

00:26:09.340 --> 00:26:09.740
 intimacy

00:26:09.740 --> 00:26:11.080
 yes to have

00:26:11.080 --> 00:26:11.480
 children

00:26:11.480 --> 00:26:12.240
 and procreate

00:26:12.240 --> 00:26:12.700
 that's true

00:26:12.700 --> 00:26:13.519
 but also

00:26:13.519 --> 00:26:14.279
 to deepen

00:26:14.279 --> 00:26:15.400
 and intensify

00:26:15.400 --> 00:26:16.460
 the relationship

00:26:16.460 --> 00:26:17.680
 the oneness

00:26:17.680 --> 00:26:19.039
 the vulnerability

00:26:19.039 --> 00:26:20.600
 the relational

00:26:20.600 --> 00:26:21.039
 intimacy

00:26:21.039 --> 00:26:21.820
 that exists

00:26:21.820 --> 00:26:23.180
 within marriage

00:26:23.180 --> 00:26:25.840
 in this sense

00:26:25.840 --> 00:26:27.440
 the Bible

00:26:27.440 --> 00:26:28.259
 portrays

00:26:28.259 --> 00:26:28.960
 intimacy

00:26:28.960 --> 00:26:29.500
 as like

00:26:29.500 --> 00:26:30.160
 a covenant

00:26:30.160 --> 00:26:30.759
 renewal

00:26:30.759 --> 00:26:31.440
 celebration

00:26:31.440 --> 00:26:32.240
 okay

00:26:32.240 --> 00:26:33.740
 and I know

00:26:33.740 --> 00:26:34.779
 that that sounds

00:26:34.779 --> 00:26:35.560
 awfully boring

00:26:35.559 --> 00:26:37.039
 that's one way

00:26:37.039 --> 00:26:37.579
 to take all

00:26:37.579 --> 00:26:38.179
 the passion

00:26:38.179 --> 00:26:38.799
 out of it

00:26:38.799 --> 00:26:39.099
 okay

00:26:39.099 --> 00:26:39.720
 a covenant

00:26:39.720 --> 00:26:40.339
 renewal

00:26:40.339 --> 00:26:41.000
 celebration

00:26:41.000 --> 00:26:41.700
 but hear me

00:26:41.700 --> 00:26:42.039
 out here

00:26:42.039 --> 00:26:42.519
 okay

00:26:42.519 --> 00:26:43.839
 I know

00:26:43.839 --> 00:26:44.240
 that sounds

00:26:44.240 --> 00:26:44.659
 very

00:26:44.659 --> 00:26:45.919
 terrible

00:26:45.919 --> 00:26:46.940
 but

00:26:46.940 --> 00:26:48.220
 hear me

00:26:48.220 --> 00:26:48.399
 out

00:26:48.399 --> 00:26:50.119
 I hope

00:26:50.119 --> 00:26:50.379
 I'm not

00:26:50.379 --> 00:26:50.619
 going to

00:26:50.619 --> 00:26:50.960
 destroy

00:26:50.960 --> 00:26:51.419
 communion

00:26:51.419 --> 00:26:51.899
 for us

00:26:51.899 --> 00:26:52.220
 forever

00:26:52.220 --> 00:26:52.700
 but

00:26:52.700 --> 00:26:54.039
 most Sundays

00:26:54.039 --> 00:26:55.240
 as a church

00:26:55.240 --> 00:26:55.599
 we take

00:26:55.599 --> 00:26:56.000
 communion

00:26:56.000 --> 00:26:56.700
 okay

00:26:56.700 --> 00:26:57.579
 we take

00:26:57.579 --> 00:26:58.019
 the Lord's

00:26:58.019 --> 00:26:58.220
 Supper

00:26:58.220 --> 00:26:59.599
 what is

00:26:59.599 --> 00:27:00.059
 the Lord's

00:27:00.059 --> 00:27:00.259
 Supper

00:27:00.259 --> 00:27:00.679
 about

00:27:00.679 --> 00:27:01.799
 it's a

00:27:01.799 --> 00:27:02.159
 covenant

00:27:02.159 --> 00:27:02.899
 renewal

00:27:02.899 --> 00:27:03.740
 celebration

00:27:03.740 --> 00:27:05.160
 you come

00:27:05.160 --> 00:27:05.579
 to church

00:27:05.579 --> 00:27:06.079
 on a Sunday

00:27:06.079 --> 00:27:06.740
 and you feel

00:27:06.740 --> 00:27:07.480
 beaten up

00:27:07.480 --> 00:27:08.279
 you've had

00:27:08.279 --> 00:27:08.960
 a rough week

00:27:08.960 --> 00:27:10.099
 life has been

00:27:10.099 --> 00:27:10.500
 hard

00:27:10.500 --> 00:27:11.380
 parenting is

00:27:11.380 --> 00:27:11.720
 hard

00:27:11.720 --> 00:27:12.480
 marriage is

00:27:12.480 --> 00:27:12.880
 hard

00:27:12.880 --> 00:27:13.859
 work is

00:27:13.859 --> 00:27:14.220
 hard

00:27:14.220 --> 00:27:14.960
 or maybe

00:27:14.960 --> 00:27:15.279
 you feel

00:27:15.279 --> 00:27:15.799
 beaten up

00:27:15.799 --> 00:27:16.079
 by your

00:27:16.079 --> 00:27:16.599
 own sinful

00:27:16.599 --> 00:27:17.039
 nature

00:27:17.039 --> 00:27:17.359
 your own

00:27:17.359 --> 00:27:17.579
 sinful

00:27:17.579 --> 00:27:18.180
 desires

00:27:18.180 --> 00:27:19.019
 and you

00:27:19.019 --> 00:27:19.380
 come to

00:27:19.380 --> 00:27:19.640
 church

00:27:19.640 --> 00:27:19.900
 and your

00:27:19.900 --> 00:27:20.220
 shoulders

00:27:20.220 --> 00:27:20.759
 are drooping

00:27:20.759 --> 00:27:21.200
 and just

00:27:21.200 --> 00:27:21.819
 feel like

00:27:21.819 --> 00:27:22.759
 I've got

00:27:22.759 --> 00:27:23.220
 to grind

00:27:23.220 --> 00:27:23.539
 through

00:27:23.539 --> 00:27:24.579
 and you

00:27:24.579 --> 00:27:24.920
 come to

00:27:24.920 --> 00:27:25.180
 church

00:27:25.180 --> 00:27:25.420
 and you

00:27:25.420 --> 00:27:25.660
 take

00:27:25.660 --> 00:27:26.039
 communion

00:27:26.039 --> 00:27:26.480
 and the

00:27:26.480 --> 00:27:26.819
 communion

00:27:26.819 --> 00:27:27.359
 steward

00:27:27.359 --> 00:27:28.019
 looks you

00:27:28.019 --> 00:27:28.740
 in the eye

00:27:28.740 --> 00:27:29.900
 and says

00:27:29.900 --> 00:27:30.620
 this is

00:27:30.620 --> 00:27:31.180
 Christ's

00:27:31.180 --> 00:27:31.420
 body

00:27:31.420 --> 00:27:32.099
 broken for

00:27:32.099 --> 00:27:32.259
 you

00:27:32.259 --> 00:27:33.279
 this is

00:27:33.279 --> 00:27:33.960
 Christ's

00:27:33.960 --> 00:27:34.319
 blood

00:27:34.319 --> 00:27:34.899
 shed

00:27:34.899 --> 00:27:35.420
 for you

00:27:35.420 --> 00:27:36.359
 do this

00:27:36.359 --> 00:27:36.799
 in remembrance

00:27:36.799 --> 00:27:37.200
 of him

00:27:37.200 --> 00:27:38.399
 and as you

00:27:38.399 --> 00:27:38.759
 do that

00:27:38.759 --> 00:27:39.059
 you are

00:27:39.059 --> 00:27:39.539
 reminded

00:27:39.539 --> 00:27:40.200
 I am

00:27:40.200 --> 00:27:40.619
 welcome

00:27:40.619 --> 00:27:41.359
 and accepted

00:27:41.359 --> 00:27:42.079
 here by

00:27:42.079 --> 00:27:42.779
 grace

00:27:42.779 --> 00:27:44.220
 yes I feel

00:27:44.220 --> 00:27:44.819
 beat up

00:27:44.819 --> 00:27:45.819
 but Christ

00:27:45.819 --> 00:27:46.480
 is for me

00:27:46.480 --> 00:27:47.319
 Christ

00:27:47.319 --> 00:27:48.000
 is with me

00:27:48.000 --> 00:27:49.059
 I can go

00:27:49.059 --> 00:27:49.759
 into another

00:27:49.759 --> 00:27:50.639
 week with

00:27:50.639 --> 00:27:51.519
 Christ for

00:27:51.519 --> 00:27:51.799
 me

00:27:51.799 --> 00:27:52.859
 before me

00:27:52.859 --> 00:27:53.539
 behind me

00:27:53.539 --> 00:27:54.220
 above me

00:27:54.220 --> 00:27:55.279
 Christ is

00:27:55.279 --> 00:27:55.740
 with me

00:27:55.740 --> 00:27:56.539
 and you

00:27:56.539 --> 00:27:57.200
 leave this

00:27:57.200 --> 00:27:57.639
 place with

00:27:57.639 --> 00:27:58.180
 your shoulders

00:27:58.180 --> 00:27:59.480
 back feeling

00:27:59.480 --> 00:28:00.940
 like I know

00:28:00.940 --> 00:28:01.399
 it's a wild

00:28:01.399 --> 00:28:02.039
 world out there

00:28:02.039 --> 00:28:02.899
 but I am

00:28:02.899 --> 00:28:03.359
 in Christ

00:28:03.359 --> 00:28:03.859
 and Christ

00:28:03.859 --> 00:28:04.220
 is in me

00:28:04.220 --> 00:28:04.960
 this covenant

00:28:04.960 --> 00:28:05.599
 is renewed

00:28:05.599 --> 00:28:05.980
 right

00:28:05.980 --> 00:28:06.920
 it's a covenant

00:28:06.920 --> 00:28:07.319
 renewal

00:28:07.319 --> 00:28:08.099
 celebration

00:28:08.099 --> 00:28:10.139
 friends when a

00:28:10.139 --> 00:28:11.460
 couple make

00:28:11.460 --> 00:28:12.299
 love together

00:28:12.299 --> 00:28:13.980
 it's not just

00:28:13.980 --> 00:28:15.539
 about satisfaction

00:28:15.539 --> 00:28:16.279
 and desires

00:28:16.279 --> 00:28:17.779
 it's a way of

00:28:17.779 --> 00:28:19.159
 saying those

00:28:19.159 --> 00:28:19.879
 vows that we

00:28:19.879 --> 00:28:20.559
 made to each

00:28:20.559 --> 00:28:21.319
 other on our

00:28:21.319 --> 00:28:21.940
 wedding day

00:28:21.940 --> 00:28:23.440
 that all that I

00:28:23.440 --> 00:28:24.279
 am and all that I

00:28:24.279 --> 00:28:25.299
 have belongs to

00:28:25.299 --> 00:28:26.680
 you I'm giving

00:28:26.680 --> 00:28:27.759
 myself to you

00:28:27.759 --> 00:28:29.440
 those vows are

00:28:29.440 --> 00:28:29.980
 still true

00:28:29.980 --> 00:28:31.120
 and we may

00:28:31.120 --> 00:28:31.519
 have had a

00:28:31.519 --> 00:28:31.900
 rough week

00:28:31.900 --> 00:28:32.360
 maybe we

00:28:32.360 --> 00:28:32.799
 haven't seen

00:28:32.799 --> 00:28:33.220
 each other

00:28:33.220 --> 00:28:33.539
 much

00:28:33.539 --> 00:28:34.380
 maybe you've

00:28:34.380 --> 00:28:34.759
 been working

00:28:34.759 --> 00:28:35.299
 hard I've

00:28:35.299 --> 00:28:35.720
 been working

00:28:35.720 --> 00:28:36.839
 hard maybe

00:28:36.839 --> 00:28:37.259
 we haven't

00:28:37.259 --> 00:28:38.019
 actually connected

00:28:38.019 --> 00:28:38.620
 that well

00:28:38.620 --> 00:28:40.099
 but this

00:28:40.099 --> 00:28:41.279
 this is me

00:28:41.279 --> 00:28:41.960
 telling you

00:28:41.960 --> 00:28:42.920
 that all that I

00:28:42.920 --> 00:28:43.740
 am belongs to

00:28:43.740 --> 00:28:44.640
 you I give

00:28:44.640 --> 00:28:45.640
 myself to you

00:28:45.640 --> 00:28:46.799
 in vulnerability

00:28:46.799 --> 00:28:48.019
 in transparency

00:28:48.019 --> 00:28:49.000
 in nakedness

00:28:49.000 --> 00:28:49.380
 not just

00:28:49.380 --> 00:28:49.799
 physically

00:28:49.799 --> 00:28:51.099
 relationally

00:28:51.099 --> 00:28:52.099
 emotionally

00:28:52.099 --> 00:28:53.339
 all that I

00:28:53.339 --> 00:28:53.819
 am I'm

00:28:53.819 --> 00:28:54.380
 giving myself

00:28:54.380 --> 00:28:54.980
 to you

00:28:54.980 --> 00:28:56.220
 he says

00:28:56.220 --> 00:28:56.559
 it's meant to

00:28:56.559 --> 00:28:57.160
 be a covenant

00:28:57.160 --> 00:28:57.960
 renewing

00:28:57.960 --> 00:28:58.819
 celebration

00:28:58.819 --> 00:28:59.579
 it's not just

00:28:59.579 --> 00:29:00.480
 consumeristic

00:29:00.480 --> 00:29:01.759
 gratifying my

00:29:01.759 --> 00:29:02.299
 desires

00:29:02.299 --> 00:29:03.579
 and that's of

00:29:03.579 --> 00:29:03.879
 course the

00:29:03.879 --> 00:29:04.299
 problem with

00:29:04.299 --> 00:29:04.759
 pornography

00:29:04.759 --> 00:29:05.179
 right

00:29:05.179 --> 00:29:06.659
 our world

00:29:06.659 --> 00:29:07.299
 tells us

00:29:07.299 --> 00:29:07.720
 listen you

00:29:07.720 --> 00:29:08.220
 don't need the

00:29:08.220 --> 00:29:08.980
 messiness of a

00:29:08.980 --> 00:29:09.960
 real relationship

00:29:09.960 --> 00:29:10.779
 of actually getting

00:29:10.779 --> 00:29:11.379
 to know the

00:29:11.379 --> 00:29:11.779
 person

00:29:11.779 --> 00:29:12.839
 putting up with

00:29:12.839 --> 00:29:13.399
 their drama

00:29:13.399 --> 00:29:14.279
 yeah just

00:29:14.279 --> 00:29:15.220
 just satisfy

00:29:15.220 --> 00:29:15.779
 yourself

00:29:15.779 --> 00:29:16.619
 here's endless

00:29:16.619 --> 00:29:17.119
 pornography

00:29:17.119 --> 00:29:17.980
 here's a screen

00:29:17.980 --> 00:29:18.939
 here's some tools

00:29:18.939 --> 00:29:19.879
 just look after

00:29:19.879 --> 00:29:20.339
 yourself

00:29:20.339 --> 00:29:21.980
 and it's

00:29:21.980 --> 00:29:22.559
 removed the

00:29:22.559 --> 00:29:23.299
 very heart

00:29:23.299 --> 00:29:23.899
 of what intimacy

00:29:23.899 --> 00:29:24.759
 is all about

00:29:24.759 --> 00:29:26.659
 from covenant

00:29:26.659 --> 00:29:27.500
 and relationship

00:29:27.500 --> 00:29:28.279
 and love

00:29:28.279 --> 00:29:29.099
 to just a

00:29:29.099 --> 00:29:29.960
 consumeristic

00:29:29.960 --> 00:29:30.960
 tool

00:29:30.960 --> 00:29:31.680
 that I just

00:29:31.680 --> 00:29:32.180
 trade with

00:29:32.180 --> 00:29:32.599
 to please

00:29:32.599 --> 00:29:33.119
 myself

00:29:33.119 --> 00:29:34.579
 listen to how

00:29:34.579 --> 00:29:35.180
 Brian Chappelle

00:29:35.180 --> 00:29:35.960
 and Kevin DeYoung

00:29:35.960 --> 00:29:36.639
 described this

00:29:36.639 --> 00:29:37.200
 in one article

00:29:37.200 --> 00:29:37.579
 they wrote

00:29:37.579 --> 00:29:38.839
 today's sexual

00:29:38.839 --> 00:29:39.319
 culture

00:29:39.319 --> 00:29:40.680
 is just as

00:29:40.680 --> 00:29:41.899
 depersonalizing

00:29:41.899 --> 00:29:43.019
 and objectifying

00:29:43.019 --> 00:29:43.759
 as the ancient

00:29:43.759 --> 00:29:44.139
 world

00:29:44.139 --> 00:29:45.399
 in the ancient

00:29:45.399 --> 00:29:45.759
 world

00:29:45.759 --> 00:29:46.399
 there was usually

00:29:46.399 --> 00:29:47.099
 one party

00:29:47.099 --> 00:29:47.599
 the party

00:29:47.599 --> 00:29:48.119
 with power

00:29:48.119 --> 00:29:49.160
 using the other

00:29:49.160 --> 00:29:49.960
 party as an

00:29:49.960 --> 00:29:50.599
 object to

00:29:50.599 --> 00:29:51.240
 satisfy

00:29:51.240 --> 00:29:52.539
 typically his

00:29:52.539 --> 00:29:53.379
 physical needs

00:29:53.379 --> 00:29:54.940
 today the parties

00:29:54.940 --> 00:29:56.000
 are often both

00:29:56.000 --> 00:29:56.940
 using one another

00:29:56.940 --> 00:29:58.140
 treating the other

00:29:58.140 --> 00:29:58.799
 as an object

00:29:58.799 --> 00:29:59.279
 for meeting

00:29:59.279 --> 00:30:00.059
 one's needs

00:30:00.059 --> 00:30:01.480
 to be related

00:30:01.480 --> 00:30:02.480
 to only as long

00:30:02.480 --> 00:30:03.039
 as those needs

00:30:03.039 --> 00:30:03.640
 are being met

00:30:03.640 --> 00:30:06.440
 that's the message

00:30:06.440 --> 00:30:07.000
 of our culture

00:30:07.000 --> 00:30:07.299
 right

00:30:07.299 --> 00:30:08.400
 satisfy yourself

00:30:08.400 --> 00:30:09.100
 please yourself

00:30:09.100 --> 00:30:09.580
 and when you're

00:30:09.580 --> 00:30:09.799
 done

00:30:09.799 --> 00:30:11.600
 just dump the

00:30:11.600 --> 00:30:11.900
 person

00:30:11.900 --> 00:30:12.299
 dump the

00:30:12.299 --> 00:30:12.779
 relationship

00:30:12.779 --> 00:30:13.460
 move on

00:30:13.460 --> 00:30:15.180
 in the old

00:30:15.180 --> 00:30:15.559
 testament

00:30:15.559 --> 00:30:16.299
 you'll often

00:30:16.299 --> 00:30:16.759
 read

00:30:16.759 --> 00:30:17.580
 when it's

00:30:17.580 --> 00:30:17.980
 talking about

00:30:17.980 --> 00:30:18.440
 the act of

00:30:18.440 --> 00:30:18.759
 sex

00:30:18.759 --> 00:30:19.559
 it'll say

00:30:19.559 --> 00:30:20.680
 for instance

00:30:20.680 --> 00:30:21.279
 Genesis 2

00:30:21.279 --> 00:30:22.720
 Genesis 4

00:30:22.720 --> 00:30:23.019
 I think

00:30:23.019 --> 00:30:23.799
 Adam

00:30:23.799 --> 00:30:24.759
 knew his

00:30:24.759 --> 00:30:25.240
 wife

00:30:25.240 --> 00:30:25.660
 and she

00:30:25.660 --> 00:30:26.019
 conceived

00:30:26.019 --> 00:30:26.319
 and gave

00:30:26.319 --> 00:30:26.539
 birth

00:30:26.539 --> 00:30:26.799
 to a

00:30:26.799 --> 00:30:26.960
 son

00:30:26.960 --> 00:30:28.180
 the bible

00:30:28.180 --> 00:30:28.759
 uses the

00:30:28.759 --> 00:30:29.099
 word for

00:30:29.099 --> 00:30:29.400
 the act

00:30:29.400 --> 00:30:29.779
 of sex

00:30:29.779 --> 00:30:30.240
 as to

00:30:30.240 --> 00:30:30.700
 yada

00:30:30.700 --> 00:30:31.099
 as the

00:30:31.099 --> 00:30:31.559
 Hebrew word

00:30:31.559 --> 00:30:32.220
 to know

00:30:32.220 --> 00:30:32.740
 somebody

00:30:32.740 --> 00:30:33.759
 and the

00:30:33.759 --> 00:30:34.279
 reason the

00:30:34.279 --> 00:30:35.319
 biblical authors

00:30:35.319 --> 00:30:35.740
 did that

00:30:35.740 --> 00:30:36.119
 was not

00:30:36.119 --> 00:30:36.579
 because they

00:30:36.579 --> 00:30:37.039
 are shy

00:30:37.039 --> 00:30:37.440
 and don't

00:30:37.440 --> 00:30:37.579
 want to

00:30:37.579 --> 00:30:37.879
 use the

00:30:37.879 --> 00:30:38.379
 S word

00:30:38.379 --> 00:30:40.819
 it's because

00:30:40.819 --> 00:30:41.200
 they're trying

00:30:41.200 --> 00:30:41.599
 to tell us

00:30:41.599 --> 00:30:41.920
 something

00:30:41.920 --> 00:30:42.480
 this daughter

00:30:42.480 --> 00:30:43.119
 I hold

00:30:43.119 --> 00:30:43.680
 books at

00:30:43.680 --> 00:30:43.920
 home

00:30:43.920 --> 00:30:44.359
 on sex

00:30:44.359 --> 00:30:45.220
 my one

00:30:45.220 --> 00:30:45.460
 daughter

00:30:45.460 --> 00:30:45.819
 says

00:30:45.819 --> 00:30:46.559
 dad

00:30:46.559 --> 00:30:46.740
 there's

00:30:46.740 --> 00:30:46.920
 a lot

00:30:46.920 --> 00:30:47.259
 of books

00:30:47.259 --> 00:30:47.559
 with the

00:30:47.559 --> 00:30:48.079
 S word

00:30:48.079 --> 00:30:48.539
 all over

00:30:48.539 --> 00:30:48.980
 the house

00:30:48.980 --> 00:30:49.240
 right

00:30:49.240 --> 00:30:50.059
 okay

00:30:50.059 --> 00:30:51.779
 that's

00:30:51.779 --> 00:30:52.079
 not what

00:30:52.079 --> 00:30:52.759
 the biblical

00:30:52.759 --> 00:30:53.339
 authors are

00:30:53.339 --> 00:30:53.759
 trying to

00:30:53.759 --> 00:30:54.199
 avoid

00:30:54.199 --> 00:30:55.799
 they use

00:30:55.799 --> 00:30:56.199
 this word

00:30:56.199 --> 00:30:56.539
 yada

00:30:56.539 --> 00:30:57.419
 to know

00:30:57.419 --> 00:30:58.579
 to know

00:30:58.579 --> 00:30:59.079
 somebody

00:30:59.079 --> 00:31:00.119
 because that's

00:31:00.119 --> 00:31:00.539
 the heart

00:31:00.539 --> 00:31:00.779
 of what

00:31:00.779 --> 00:31:01.359
 intimacy

00:31:01.359 --> 00:31:01.939
 is about

00:31:01.939 --> 00:31:03.099
 it's about

00:31:03.099 --> 00:31:03.500
 saying

00:31:03.500 --> 00:31:04.419
 I'm gonna

00:31:04.419 --> 00:31:04.960
 let you

00:31:04.960 --> 00:31:05.299
 know me

00:31:05.299 --> 00:31:05.599
 I'm gonna

00:31:05.599 --> 00:31:06.399
 open myself

00:31:06.399 --> 00:31:06.899
 up and be

00:31:06.899 --> 00:31:07.399
 vulnerable

00:31:07.399 --> 00:31:09.220
 and I'm gonna

00:31:09.220 --> 00:31:09.699
 get to know

00:31:09.699 --> 00:31:09.960
 you

00:31:09.960 --> 00:31:11.259
 in the bible

00:31:11.259 --> 00:31:11.919
 that word

00:31:11.919 --> 00:31:12.199
 yada

00:31:12.199 --> 00:31:12.779
 is the word

00:31:12.779 --> 00:31:13.240
 that the bible

00:31:13.240 --> 00:31:13.699
 often uses

00:31:13.699 --> 00:31:14.259
 for God

00:31:14.259 --> 00:31:14.679
 to know

00:31:14.679 --> 00:31:15.079
 us

00:31:15.079 --> 00:31:15.879
 you have

00:31:15.879 --> 00:31:16.359
 searched me

00:31:16.359 --> 00:31:16.919
 and you know

00:31:16.919 --> 00:31:17.319
 me oh

00:31:17.319 --> 00:31:17.740
 God

00:31:17.740 --> 00:31:19.419
 Psalm 139

00:31:19.419 --> 00:31:21.159
 at the heart

00:31:21.159 --> 00:31:21.619
 of intimacy

00:31:21.619 --> 00:31:22.019
 is about

00:31:22.019 --> 00:31:22.399
 knowing

00:31:22.399 --> 00:31:22.979
 one another

00:31:22.979 --> 00:31:24.079
 being vulnerable

00:31:24.079 --> 00:31:24.579
 and real

00:31:24.579 --> 00:31:25.879
 now there's

00:31:25.879 --> 00:31:26.439
 two important

00:31:26.439 --> 00:31:27.199
 implications for

00:31:27.199 --> 00:31:27.679
 this okay

00:31:27.679 --> 00:31:29.699
 and those of you

00:31:29.699 --> 00:31:30.219
 that are single

00:31:30.219 --> 00:31:30.859
 listen up

00:31:30.859 --> 00:31:32.799
 the first is this

00:31:32.799 --> 00:31:33.639
 the narrative

00:31:33.639 --> 00:31:34.459
 that we hear

00:31:34.459 --> 00:31:35.639
 in our media

00:31:35.639 --> 00:31:36.359
 and our culture

00:31:36.359 --> 00:31:36.799
 is this

00:31:36.799 --> 00:31:37.959
 when you get

00:31:37.959 --> 00:31:38.500
 when you get

00:31:38.500 --> 00:31:38.859
 married

00:31:38.859 --> 00:31:39.619
 you're gonna have

00:31:39.619 --> 00:31:40.359
 the most amazing

00:31:40.359 --> 00:31:40.839
 passionate

00:31:40.839 --> 00:31:41.519
 wonderful sex

00:31:41.519 --> 00:31:42.319
 in the whole world

00:31:42.319 --> 00:31:43.539
 and then it just

00:31:43.539 --> 00:31:44.139
 all goes downhill

00:31:44.139 --> 00:31:44.819
 okay

00:31:44.819 --> 00:31:46.739
 this is for you

00:31:46.739 --> 00:31:47.379
 finance people

00:31:47.379 --> 00:31:47.899
 I know you like

00:31:47.899 --> 00:31:48.259
 graphs

00:31:48.259 --> 00:31:48.819
 and that kind of

00:31:48.819 --> 00:31:49.079
 stuff

00:31:49.079 --> 00:31:51.059
 our culture

00:31:51.059 --> 00:31:51.699
 tells us

00:31:51.699 --> 00:31:52.960
 it starts amazing

00:31:52.960 --> 00:31:53.559
 and then it's

00:31:53.559 --> 00:31:54.039
 just downhill

00:31:54.039 --> 00:31:54.539
 okay

00:31:54.539 --> 00:31:58.279
 that may be the

00:31:58.279 --> 00:31:58.599
 case

00:31:58.599 --> 00:31:59.319
 but that's not

00:31:59.319 --> 00:32:00.019
 God's design

00:32:00.019 --> 00:32:01.179
 that's not the

00:32:01.179 --> 00:32:01.599
 way it's meant

00:32:01.599 --> 00:32:01.919
 to be

00:32:01.919 --> 00:32:04.579
 that's how it is

00:32:04.579 --> 00:32:05.039
 when you think

00:32:05.039 --> 00:32:05.460
 of it as a

00:32:05.460 --> 00:32:06.599
 consumeristic way

00:32:06.599 --> 00:32:07.819
 but friends

00:32:07.819 --> 00:32:08.799
 for those who

00:32:08.799 --> 00:32:10.359
 are approaching

00:32:10.359 --> 00:32:11.379
 sex and intimacy

00:32:11.379 --> 00:32:12.559
 as a way of

00:32:12.559 --> 00:32:13.299
 getting to know

00:32:13.299 --> 00:32:13.839
 and love

00:32:13.839 --> 00:32:14.399
 and serve

00:32:14.399 --> 00:32:15.279
 the other person

00:32:15.279 --> 00:32:16.879
 deepening intimacy

00:32:16.880 --> 00:32:17.560
 and relationship

00:32:17.560 --> 00:32:19.640
 God's design

00:32:19.640 --> 00:32:20.120
 is actually

00:32:20.120 --> 00:32:20.740
 the opposite

00:32:20.740 --> 00:32:23.040
 when you first

00:32:23.040 --> 00:32:23.600
 get married

00:32:23.600 --> 00:32:24.800
 it's clunky

00:32:24.800 --> 00:32:25.400
 it's messy

00:32:25.400 --> 00:32:25.980
 nobody really

00:32:25.980 --> 00:32:26.300
 knows what

00:32:26.300 --> 00:32:26.660
 they're going

00:32:26.660 --> 00:32:27.020
 on

00:32:27.020 --> 00:32:28.860
 it's awkward

00:32:28.860 --> 00:32:30.940
 but God's design

00:32:30.940 --> 00:32:31.580
 is that as you

00:32:31.580 --> 00:32:32.440
 love each other

00:32:32.440 --> 00:32:33.800
 not just physically

00:32:33.800 --> 00:32:35.360
 but emotionally

00:32:35.360 --> 00:32:35.800
 your relation

00:32:35.800 --> 00:32:36.540
 as you open up

00:32:36.540 --> 00:32:36.960
 your heart

00:32:36.960 --> 00:32:37.320
 to each other

00:32:37.320 --> 00:32:38.060
 as you serve

00:32:38.060 --> 00:32:38.600
 each other

00:32:38.600 --> 00:32:40.500
 actually over the

00:32:40.500 --> 00:32:40.960
 years it gets

00:32:40.960 --> 00:32:41.680
 better and better

00:32:41.680 --> 00:32:42.860
 and all the

00:32:42.860 --> 00:32:43.620
 research actually

00:32:43.620 --> 00:32:44.500
 proves this

00:32:44.500 --> 00:32:45.600
 that those that

00:32:45.599 --> 00:32:46.199
 are on healthy

00:32:46.199 --> 00:32:46.799
 marriages

00:32:46.799 --> 00:32:47.699
 are actually

00:32:47.699 --> 00:32:48.500
 having the best

00:32:48.500 --> 00:32:49.379
 intimacy

00:32:49.379 --> 00:32:50.399
 10 and 20

00:32:50.399 --> 00:32:51.179
 years into marriage

00:32:51.179 --> 00:32:51.899
 way more than

00:32:51.899 --> 00:32:53.039
 the beginning

00:32:53.039 --> 00:32:54.319
 okay

00:32:54.319 --> 00:32:55.379
 and here's the

00:32:55.379 --> 00:32:55.619
 reason

00:32:55.619 --> 00:32:56.299
 because God's

00:32:56.299 --> 00:32:57.099
 purpose for sex

00:32:57.099 --> 00:32:58.219
 it's not about

00:32:58.219 --> 00:32:59.139
 positions and body

00:32:59.139 --> 00:32:59.519
 parts

00:32:59.519 --> 00:33:00.779
 it's about knowing

00:33:00.779 --> 00:33:01.119
 each other

00:33:01.119 --> 00:33:01.679
 it's about being

00:33:01.679 --> 00:33:02.019
 known

00:33:02.019 --> 00:33:03.240
 it's about being

00:33:03.240 --> 00:33:04.500
 safe even though

00:33:04.500 --> 00:33:05.079
 you are your

00:33:05.079 --> 00:33:05.879
 most vulnerable

00:33:05.879 --> 00:33:07.359
 because sex is

00:33:07.359 --> 00:33:08.139
 meant to reflect

00:33:08.139 --> 00:33:09.240
 but also strengthen

00:33:09.240 --> 00:33:10.019
 the complete

00:33:10.019 --> 00:33:10.839
 nakedness

00:33:10.839 --> 00:33:11.679
 emotionally

00:33:11.679 --> 00:33:13.980
 relationally

00:33:13.980 --> 00:33:15.140
 even more than

00:33:15.140 --> 00:33:15.759
 physically

00:33:15.759 --> 00:33:17.120
 here's the

00:33:17.120 --> 00:33:17.960
 second implication

00:33:17.960 --> 00:33:19.720
 don't believe

00:33:19.720 --> 00:33:20.579
 the lie that our

00:33:20.579 --> 00:33:21.559
 culture tells us

00:33:21.559 --> 00:33:22.360
 that says

00:33:22.360 --> 00:33:23.599
 you must

00:33:23.599 --> 00:33:24.480
 work out

00:33:24.480 --> 00:33:24.799
 with your

00:33:24.799 --> 00:33:25.299
 boyfriend or

00:33:25.299 --> 00:33:25.539
 girlfriend

00:33:25.539 --> 00:33:26.019
 whether you're

00:33:26.019 --> 00:33:26.759
 sexually compatible

00:33:26.759 --> 00:33:27.579
 before you get

00:33:27.579 --> 00:33:27.900
 married

00:33:27.900 --> 00:33:29.940
 and the reason is

00:33:29.940 --> 00:33:30.920
 because nobody is

00:33:30.920 --> 00:33:31.559
 sexually compatible

00:33:31.559 --> 00:33:32.079
 when you first

00:33:32.079 --> 00:33:32.579
 get married

00:33:32.579 --> 00:33:34.160
 you've got to

00:33:34.160 --> 00:33:34.880
 as you love

00:33:34.880 --> 00:33:35.680
 and serve each

00:33:35.680 --> 00:33:35.920
 other

00:33:35.920 --> 00:33:36.660
 as you open up

00:33:36.660 --> 00:33:37.240
 your lives

00:33:37.240 --> 00:33:37.920
 to each other

00:33:37.920 --> 00:33:39.220
 that's how you

00:33:39.220 --> 00:33:39.680
 grow more

00:33:39.680 --> 00:33:40.079
 compatible

00:33:40.079 --> 00:33:41.220
 that's how

00:33:41.220 --> 00:33:41.940
 actually intimacy

00:33:41.940 --> 00:33:43.059
 gets better

00:33:43.059 --> 00:33:43.539
 and better

00:33:43.539 --> 00:33:45.359
 as you lay

00:33:45.359 --> 00:33:46.059
 down your life

00:33:46.059 --> 00:33:46.639
 and your rights

00:33:46.639 --> 00:33:47.480
 and your expectations

00:33:47.480 --> 00:33:48.319
 and look to serve

00:33:48.319 --> 00:33:49.119
 and honor each other

00:33:49.119 --> 00:33:50.519
 just as Christ did

00:33:50.519 --> 00:33:51.079
 for us

00:33:51.079 --> 00:33:52.039
 so

00:33:52.039 --> 00:33:53.039
 sex is for

00:33:53.039 --> 00:33:53.519
 covenants

00:33:53.519 --> 00:33:54.480
 not consumerism

00:33:54.480 --> 00:33:55.599
 it's for self-giving

00:33:55.599 --> 00:33:57.259
 not self-gratification

00:33:57.259 --> 00:33:58.399
 friends

00:33:58.399 --> 00:33:58.839
 those of us

00:33:58.839 --> 00:33:59.319
 who are married

00:33:59.319 --> 00:33:59.799
 or those of us

00:33:59.799 --> 00:34:00.460
 that hope to get

00:34:00.460 --> 00:34:00.779
 married

00:34:00.779 --> 00:34:01.759
 one of the best

00:34:01.759 --> 00:34:02.179
 things that you

00:34:02.179 --> 00:34:02.599
 can do

00:34:02.599 --> 00:34:04.000
 apart from prayer

00:34:04.000 --> 00:34:04.579
 and possibly

00:34:04.579 --> 00:34:05.059
 repentance

00:34:05.059 --> 00:34:06.599
 is to ask

00:34:06.599 --> 00:34:07.019
 yourself

00:34:07.019 --> 00:34:07.619
 and maybe even

00:34:07.619 --> 00:34:08.460
 ask your spouse

00:34:08.460 --> 00:34:10.460
 how can I serve

00:34:10.460 --> 00:34:10.799
 you

00:34:10.799 --> 00:34:11.599
 physically

00:34:11.599 --> 00:34:13.259
 how can I

00:34:13.259 --> 00:34:14.199
 satisfy you

00:34:14.199 --> 00:34:16.159
 how can I

00:34:16.159 --> 00:34:16.860
 become more

00:34:16.860 --> 00:34:17.319
 vulnerable

00:34:17.319 --> 00:34:19.099
 to make you

00:34:19.099 --> 00:34:19.699
 feel loved

00:34:19.699 --> 00:34:20.279
 and served

00:34:20.279 --> 00:34:21.119
 in this moment

00:34:21.119 --> 00:34:22.599
 sex is not

00:34:22.599 --> 00:34:23.460
 an end in itself

00:34:23.460 --> 00:34:24.039
 it's a means

00:34:24.039 --> 00:34:24.539
 to an end

00:34:24.539 --> 00:34:25.199
 not only

00:34:25.199 --> 00:34:25.880
 child rearing

00:34:25.880 --> 00:34:26.679
 and procreation

00:34:26.679 --> 00:34:27.819
 but strengthening

00:34:27.819 --> 00:34:28.539
 the commitment

00:34:28.539 --> 00:34:29.159
 the bond

00:34:29.159 --> 00:34:29.839
 the intimacy

00:34:29.839 --> 00:34:30.500
 the love

00:34:30.500 --> 00:34:31.699
 the relationship

00:34:31.699 --> 00:34:33.239
 between two people

00:34:33.239 --> 00:34:33.699
 who have committed

00:34:33.699 --> 00:34:34.400
 to themselves

00:34:34.400 --> 00:34:36.500
 all their lives

00:34:36.500 --> 00:34:36.839
 okay

00:34:36.839 --> 00:34:37.539
 are you with me

00:34:37.539 --> 00:34:38.679
 okay

00:34:38.679 --> 00:34:39.559
 last thing

00:34:39.559 --> 00:34:40.480
 is this

00:34:40.480 --> 00:34:41.420
 sex is good

00:34:41.420 --> 00:34:42.480
 but it's not God

00:34:42.480 --> 00:34:42.740
 okay

00:34:42.740 --> 00:34:43.420
 so sex is about

00:34:43.420 --> 00:34:43.740
 love

00:34:43.740 --> 00:34:44.380
 not freedom

00:34:44.380 --> 00:34:45.480
 it's

00:34:45.480 --> 00:34:46.800
 sacred

00:34:46.800 --> 00:34:47.559
 not insignificant

00:34:47.559 --> 00:34:48.579
 it's about

00:34:48.579 --> 00:34:49.300
 covenant

00:34:49.300 --> 00:34:50.659
 not consumerism

00:34:50.659 --> 00:34:51.639
 it's good

00:34:51.639 --> 00:34:52.420
 but it's not God

00:34:52.420 --> 00:34:53.699
 modern culture

00:34:53.699 --> 00:34:54.500
 seems to have

00:34:54.500 --> 00:34:55.519
 a bipolar attitude

00:34:55.519 --> 00:34:56.440
 towards the value

00:34:56.440 --> 00:34:56.780
 of sex

00:34:56.780 --> 00:34:57.559
 on the one hand

00:34:57.559 --> 00:34:58.579
 we tend to use it

00:34:58.579 --> 00:34:59.480
 and exploit it

00:34:59.480 --> 00:35:00.280
 it's as if

00:35:00.280 --> 00:35:00.820
 it's nothing

00:35:00.820 --> 00:35:01.619
 we use it

00:35:01.619 --> 00:35:02.360
 to get a job

00:35:02.360 --> 00:35:03.300
 we use it

00:35:03.300 --> 00:35:04.340
 to advance

00:35:04.340 --> 00:35:04.980
 our careers

00:35:04.980 --> 00:35:05.880
 we use it

00:35:05.880 --> 00:35:06.780
 to pay the bills

00:35:06.780 --> 00:35:07.579
 we use it

00:35:07.579 --> 00:35:08.760
 to avoid loneliness

00:35:08.760 --> 00:35:09.380
 we use it

00:35:09.380 --> 00:35:10.039
 to make friends

00:35:10.039 --> 00:35:10.320
 right

00:35:10.320 --> 00:35:11.539
 it's just a commodity

00:35:11.539 --> 00:35:12.320
 that we trade

00:35:12.320 --> 00:35:13.940
 and at the same time

00:35:13.940 --> 00:35:14.820
 our culture also

00:35:14.820 --> 00:35:16.000
 tends to elevate it

00:35:16.000 --> 00:35:16.500
 where we say

00:35:16.500 --> 00:35:17.340
 it's everything

00:35:17.340 --> 00:35:18.760
 it's your identity

00:35:18.760 --> 00:35:20.240
 if you're not having sex

00:35:20.240 --> 00:35:21.440
 you are not a fully

00:35:21.440 --> 00:35:22.519
 functioning human being

00:35:22.519 --> 00:35:24.080
 and so we elevate it

00:35:24.080 --> 00:35:25.440
 to the place of identity

00:35:25.440 --> 00:35:26.960
 Julie Slattery says this

00:35:26.960 --> 00:35:28.320
 we have both cheapened it

00:35:28.320 --> 00:35:29.860
 but also elevated it

00:35:29.860 --> 00:35:31.260
 to represent our identity

00:35:31.260 --> 00:35:31.960
 our status

00:35:31.960 --> 00:35:32.600
 our happiness

00:35:32.600 --> 00:35:34.559
 but God tells us

00:35:34.559 --> 00:35:35.680
 that his design for sex

00:35:35.680 --> 00:35:36.720
 is not nothing

00:35:36.720 --> 00:35:38.380
 it's not everything

00:35:38.380 --> 00:35:40.000
 it's a good gift

00:35:40.000 --> 00:35:40.900
 that he gives

00:35:40.900 --> 00:35:41.920
 but it's not

00:35:41.920 --> 00:35:42.840
 the main purpose

00:35:42.840 --> 00:35:43.280
 in life

00:35:43.280 --> 00:35:46.160
 in Genesis 1-2

00:35:46.160 --> 00:35:46.900
 God says

00:35:46.900 --> 00:35:48.019
 that he calls

00:35:48.019 --> 00:35:49.000
 male and female

00:35:49.000 --> 00:35:50.539
 to multiply

00:35:50.539 --> 00:35:51.360
 and fill the earth

00:35:51.360 --> 00:35:51.860
 and he says

00:35:51.860 --> 00:35:53.059
 this is very good

00:35:53.059 --> 00:35:54.260
 very good

00:35:54.260 --> 00:35:55.539
 this is he calls

00:35:55.539 --> 00:35:56.059
 husband and wife

00:35:56.059 --> 00:35:57.059
 to leave their father

00:35:57.059 --> 00:35:57.360
 and mother

00:35:57.360 --> 00:35:58.579
 to be united together

00:35:58.579 --> 00:35:59.720
 in one flesh union

00:35:59.720 --> 00:36:00.860
 and they were naked

00:36:00.860 --> 00:36:02.059
 and they felt no shame

00:36:02.059 --> 00:36:03.360
 and this is good

00:36:03.360 --> 00:36:05.480
 it's God's good gift

00:36:05.480 --> 00:36:07.840
 now what that means

00:36:07.840 --> 00:36:08.260
 is this

00:36:08.260 --> 00:36:09.659
 contrary to Netflix

00:36:09.659 --> 00:36:11.179
 and the porn industry

00:36:11.179 --> 00:36:12.240
 would have you believe

00:36:12.240 --> 00:36:14.059
 sex is not the ultimate

00:36:14.059 --> 00:36:15.199
 experience in life

00:36:15.199 --> 00:36:16.420
 without which you're doomed

00:36:16.420 --> 00:36:17.420
 to a life of misery

00:36:17.420 --> 00:36:18.159
 and loneliness

00:36:18.159 --> 00:36:19.500
 that's not true

00:36:19.500 --> 00:36:20.940
 it's not everything

00:36:20.940 --> 00:36:22.840
 it's not your identity

00:36:22.840 --> 00:36:24.219
 friends

00:36:24.219 --> 00:36:25.159
 some of us

00:36:25.159 --> 00:36:26.539
 if you're going to

00:36:26.539 --> 00:36:27.699
 take God's word seriously

00:36:27.699 --> 00:36:29.159
 some of us may go

00:36:29.159 --> 00:36:29.960
 our whole lives

00:36:29.960 --> 00:36:31.300
 never experiencing

00:36:31.300 --> 00:36:32.280
 sexual intimacy

00:36:32.280 --> 00:36:33.740
 because you're going to

00:36:33.740 --> 00:36:34.679
 take God's word seriously

00:36:34.679 --> 00:36:36.359
 and that does not mean

00:36:36.359 --> 00:36:37.599
 that you're half a human being

00:36:37.599 --> 00:36:39.019
 that does not mean

00:36:39.019 --> 00:36:39.819
 that you are not

00:36:39.819 --> 00:36:41.059
 an authentic human being

00:36:41.059 --> 00:36:42.500
 you're not your authentic self

00:36:42.500 --> 00:36:43.859
 that does not mean

00:36:43.859 --> 00:36:44.839
 that you are doomed

00:36:44.839 --> 00:36:45.859
 to a life of misery

00:36:45.859 --> 00:36:46.419
 and loneliness

00:36:46.419 --> 00:36:47.679
 not at all

00:36:47.679 --> 00:36:48.739
 sex is not everything

00:36:48.739 --> 00:36:50.579
 at the same time

00:36:50.579 --> 00:36:52.559
 contrary to traditional cultures

00:36:52.559 --> 00:36:54.239
 and some people's experience

00:36:54.239 --> 00:36:55.480
 sex is not just

00:36:55.480 --> 00:36:56.359
 this degrading

00:36:56.359 --> 00:36:57.199
 humiliating

00:36:57.199 --> 00:36:58.219
 necessary evil

00:36:58.219 --> 00:36:59.099
 just to go through

00:36:59.099 --> 00:36:59.559
 to endure

00:36:59.559 --> 00:37:00.319
 and have children

00:37:00.319 --> 00:37:01.940
 it's a good gift

00:37:01.940 --> 00:37:02.659
 that God gives

00:37:02.659 --> 00:37:03.519
 to married people

00:37:03.519 --> 00:37:04.099
 to strengthen

00:37:04.099 --> 00:37:05.400
 their covenant relationship

00:37:05.400 --> 00:37:07.279
 the problem however

00:37:07.279 --> 00:37:08.940
 as Julie Slattery says

00:37:08.940 --> 00:37:10.259
 is that when our culture

00:37:10.259 --> 00:37:11.579
 so elevates sex

00:37:11.579 --> 00:37:12.500
 to identity

00:37:12.500 --> 00:37:14.719
 it turns it into

00:37:14.719 --> 00:37:15.460
 a kind of God

00:37:15.460 --> 00:37:16.319
 that you've got to worship

00:37:16.319 --> 00:37:17.639
 friends

00:37:17.639 --> 00:37:18.719
 when we look to anything

00:37:18.719 --> 00:37:20.019
 to form our identity

00:37:20.019 --> 00:37:21.460
 to give us a sense of meaning

00:37:21.460 --> 00:37:22.079
 and value

00:37:22.079 --> 00:37:22.900
 and self worth

00:37:22.900 --> 00:37:23.960
 we are

00:37:23.960 --> 00:37:25.739
 on very

00:37:25.739 --> 00:37:26.719
 very thin ice

00:37:26.719 --> 00:37:28.440
 because that identity

00:37:28.440 --> 00:37:30.219
 can never sustain you

00:37:30.219 --> 00:37:31.579
 never sustain you

00:37:31.579 --> 00:37:32.139
 trying to

00:37:32.139 --> 00:37:33.420
 tying your identity

00:37:33.420 --> 00:37:34.400
 and sense of self worth

00:37:34.400 --> 00:37:35.279
 to how attractive

00:37:35.279 --> 00:37:36.619
 or enchanting

00:37:36.619 --> 00:37:38.179
 or beautiful you are

00:37:38.179 --> 00:37:39.380
 or romantic relationships

00:37:39.380 --> 00:37:41.139
 is profoundly fragile

00:37:41.139 --> 00:37:43.819
 is building your entire self worth

00:37:43.819 --> 00:37:44.819
 on such thin ice

00:37:44.819 --> 00:37:46.019
 and it's only a matter of time

00:37:46.019 --> 00:37:46.960
 before that ice cracks

00:37:46.960 --> 00:37:48.039
 and you get dumped

00:37:48.039 --> 00:37:48.639
 in a lake

00:37:48.639 --> 00:37:49.659
 of despair

00:37:49.659 --> 00:37:50.699
 and hopelessness

00:37:50.699 --> 00:37:51.659
 friends

00:37:51.659 --> 00:37:52.539
 the only identity

00:37:52.539 --> 00:37:53.519
 that can withstand

00:37:53.519 --> 00:37:54.360
 real pressures

00:37:54.360 --> 00:37:55.819
 real rejection

00:37:55.819 --> 00:37:56.440
 from people

00:37:56.440 --> 00:37:57.699
 real struggles in life

00:37:57.699 --> 00:37:58.839
 is an identity

00:37:58.839 --> 00:38:00.739
 that is given to you

00:38:00.739 --> 00:38:01.839
 by the one

00:38:01.839 --> 00:38:02.799
 who loves you

00:38:02.799 --> 00:38:04.299
 by grace alone

00:38:04.299 --> 00:38:05.919
 an identity

00:38:05.919 --> 00:38:06.480
 that's given to you

00:38:06.480 --> 00:38:07.159
 it's not earned

00:38:07.159 --> 00:38:08.339
 it's not achieved

00:38:08.339 --> 00:38:09.399
 you don't get it

00:38:09.399 --> 00:38:09.980
 by performance

00:38:09.980 --> 00:38:10.980
 it's given to you

00:38:10.980 --> 00:38:11.980
 by grace alone

00:38:11.980 --> 00:38:12.879
 by the one

00:38:12.879 --> 00:38:13.619
 who knows you better

00:38:13.619 --> 00:38:14.439
 than you know yourself

00:38:14.439 --> 00:38:15.980
 and loves you still

00:38:15.980 --> 00:38:17.159
 friends

00:38:17.159 --> 00:38:18.199
 if you look to sex

00:38:18.199 --> 00:38:18.739
 and intimacy

00:38:18.739 --> 00:38:20.159
 in order to feel beautiful

00:38:20.159 --> 00:38:21.139
 or enchanting

00:38:21.139 --> 00:38:22.659
 you'll feel ugly

00:38:22.659 --> 00:38:23.519
 and unlovable

00:38:23.519 --> 00:38:24.619
 your whole life

00:38:24.619 --> 00:38:26.359
 rather let those

00:38:26.359 --> 00:38:27.519
 desires for intimacy

00:38:27.519 --> 00:38:28.380
 drive you

00:38:28.380 --> 00:38:28.739
 to the one

00:38:28.739 --> 00:38:30.000
 who truly loves you

00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:30.900
 and who truly

00:38:30.900 --> 00:38:31.679
 will accept you

00:38:31.679 --> 00:38:32.940
 the one who gave himself

00:38:32.940 --> 00:38:33.639
 up on the cross

00:38:33.639 --> 00:38:34.019
 for you

00:38:34.019 --> 00:38:35.340
 sex is good

00:38:35.340 --> 00:38:36.739
 within the safety

00:38:36.739 --> 00:38:37.820
 of a lasting covenant

00:38:37.820 --> 00:38:38.940
 but it's not God

00:38:38.940 --> 00:38:40.599
 it can't rescue you

00:38:40.599 --> 00:38:41.980
 it can't give you hope

00:38:41.980 --> 00:38:43.619
 it can't give you peace

00:38:43.619 --> 00:38:44.780
 it can't give you

00:38:44.780 --> 00:38:45.280
 an identity

00:38:45.280 --> 00:38:46.940
 it can't give you meaning

00:38:46.940 --> 00:38:48.019
 it can't give you

00:38:48.019 --> 00:38:48.980
 a satisfying life

00:38:48.980 --> 00:38:50.780
 sex is not your God

00:38:50.780 --> 00:38:52.079
 only Jesus

00:38:52.079 --> 00:38:52.960
 can give you that

00:38:52.960 --> 00:38:55.219
 okay I've gone on

00:38:55.219 --> 00:38:56.320
 longer than I expected

00:38:56.320 --> 00:38:57.940
 I'm sorry

00:38:57.940 --> 00:38:59.140
 let me

00:38:59.140 --> 00:39:01.039
 let me close

00:39:01.039 --> 00:39:02.039
 really practically

00:39:02.039 --> 00:39:02.380
 okay

00:39:02.380 --> 00:39:03.380
 now don't get nervous

00:39:03.380 --> 00:39:03.800
 it's not going to be

00:39:03.800 --> 00:39:04.400
 that practical

00:39:04.400 --> 00:39:05.600
 but a couple of

00:39:05.600 --> 00:39:06.340
 practical things

00:39:06.340 --> 00:39:06.620
 okay

00:39:06.620 --> 00:39:07.500
 a couple of

00:39:07.500 --> 00:39:08.120
 practical things

00:39:08.120 --> 00:39:09.180
 firstly

00:39:09.180 --> 00:39:11.300
 for all of us today

00:39:11.300 --> 00:39:13.820
 Galatians 5 says this

00:39:13.820 --> 00:39:14.800
 it is for freedom

00:39:14.800 --> 00:39:15.800
 that Christ Jesus

00:39:15.800 --> 00:39:16.580
 has set you free

00:39:16.580 --> 00:39:18.519
 so stand firm then

00:39:18.519 --> 00:39:19.720
 do not submit again

00:39:19.720 --> 00:39:20.720
 to a yoke of slavery

00:39:20.720 --> 00:39:21.160
 friends

00:39:21.159 --> 00:39:22.539
 this is an area

00:39:22.539 --> 00:39:23.739
 where most people

00:39:23.739 --> 00:39:24.639
 are enslaved

00:39:24.639 --> 00:39:26.420
 slave to past guilt

00:39:26.420 --> 00:39:27.000
 and shame

00:39:27.000 --> 00:39:28.279
 slave to current

00:39:28.279 --> 00:39:29.359
 addictions and desires

00:39:29.359 --> 00:39:30.920
 Jesus Christ

00:39:30.920 --> 00:39:31.779
 wants to set us free

00:39:31.779 --> 00:39:33.879
 and freedom starts

00:39:33.879 --> 00:39:34.940
 with a very little word

00:39:34.940 --> 00:39:35.779
 called repentance

00:39:35.779 --> 00:39:37.879
 repentance

00:39:37.879 --> 00:39:41.359
 friends all of us here

00:39:41.359 --> 00:39:42.899
 if I can be so bold

00:39:42.899 --> 00:39:43.239
 to say

00:39:43.239 --> 00:39:44.259
 all of us are sexual

00:39:44.259 --> 00:39:44.639
 sinners

00:39:44.639 --> 00:39:46.139
 including me

00:39:46.139 --> 00:39:47.980
 I need repentance

00:39:47.980 --> 00:39:48.940
 I need grace

00:39:48.940 --> 00:39:50.500
 I need the mercy

00:39:50.500 --> 00:39:51.400
 of the loving God

00:39:51.400 --> 00:39:53.019
 to come wash me clean

00:39:53.019 --> 00:39:54.799
 and be a work of my life

00:39:54.799 --> 00:39:56.539
 friends we all need it

00:39:56.539 --> 00:39:58.000
 why don't we

00:39:58.000 --> 00:40:00.000
 start by getting on our knees

00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.920
 and asking God Almighty

00:40:01.920 --> 00:40:03.359
 you can do it physically

00:40:03.359 --> 00:40:03.659
 if you want

00:40:03.659 --> 00:40:04.299
 but you don't have to

00:40:04.299 --> 00:40:04.879
 but in your heart

00:40:04.879 --> 00:40:05.539
 get on your knees

00:40:05.539 --> 00:40:06.639
 and say God Almighty

00:40:06.639 --> 00:40:07.559
 pour out your grace

00:40:07.559 --> 00:40:08.000
 and mercy

00:40:08.000 --> 00:40:10.359
 for those of us

00:40:10.359 --> 00:40:10.839
 that are married

00:40:10.839 --> 00:40:11.559
 here's four very

00:40:11.559 --> 00:40:12.400
 practical things

00:40:12.400 --> 00:40:13.599
 firstly

00:40:13.599 --> 00:40:14.659
 I want to encourage you

00:40:14.659 --> 00:40:15.539
 to talk about it

00:40:15.539 --> 00:40:16.440
 most married couples

00:40:16.440 --> 00:40:17.519
 don't talk about it

00:40:17.519 --> 00:40:18.559
 and when they do

00:40:18.559 --> 00:40:19.539
 it's full of shame

00:40:19.539 --> 00:40:20.179
 and embarrassment

00:40:20.179 --> 00:40:21.179
 and defensiveness

00:40:21.179 --> 00:40:22.400
 and it's awkward

00:40:22.400 --> 00:40:24.079
 talk about it

00:40:24.079 --> 00:40:25.779
 ask each other the question

00:40:25.779 --> 00:40:26.440
 what

00:40:26.440 --> 00:40:28.340
 is our sex life satisfying

00:40:28.340 --> 00:40:29.980
 do you actually enjoy it

00:40:29.980 --> 00:40:31.360
 you might be surprised

00:40:31.360 --> 00:40:31.940
 what you hear

00:40:31.940 --> 00:40:33.900
 but talk about it

00:40:33.900 --> 00:40:34.699
 secondly

00:40:34.699 --> 00:40:35.920
 pray about it

00:40:35.920 --> 00:40:36.960
 God

00:40:36.960 --> 00:40:37.860
 is the author

00:40:37.860 --> 00:40:38.739
 and the designer

00:40:38.739 --> 00:40:39.420
 of sex

00:40:39.420 --> 00:40:41.259
 God is more interested

00:40:41.259 --> 00:40:42.019
 in your sexuality

00:40:42.019 --> 00:40:42.840
 than you are

00:40:42.840 --> 00:40:44.599
 I really think so

00:40:44.599 --> 00:40:46.219
 so pray about it

00:40:46.219 --> 00:40:46.799
 pray about it

00:40:46.799 --> 00:40:47.199
 together

00:40:47.199 --> 00:40:48.559
 as a spouse

00:40:48.559 --> 00:40:49.460
 bring it before God

00:40:49.460 --> 00:40:49.880
 say God

00:40:49.880 --> 00:40:50.619
 we need your help

00:40:50.619 --> 00:40:51.420
 we need your wisdom

00:40:51.420 --> 00:40:52.159
 we need your guidance

00:40:52.159 --> 00:40:52.440
 God

00:40:52.440 --> 00:40:53.119
 we're struggling

00:40:53.119 --> 00:40:53.819
 God

00:40:53.819 --> 00:40:54.739
 won't you help us

00:40:54.739 --> 00:40:56.019
 pray about it

00:40:56.019 --> 00:40:56.480
 thirdly

00:40:56.480 --> 00:40:57.739
 work on it

00:40:57.739 --> 00:40:59.079
 get some books

00:40:59.079 --> 00:41:00.099
 get some

00:41:00.099 --> 00:41:01.500
 speak to a professional

00:41:01.500 --> 00:41:03.239
 if you're struggling

00:41:03.239 --> 00:41:04.339
 talk to somebody

00:41:04.339 --> 00:41:04.839
 about it

00:41:04.839 --> 00:41:05.679
 here's a book

00:41:05.679 --> 00:41:06.539
 I want to recommend

00:41:06.539 --> 00:41:07.539
 I read half of it

00:41:07.539 --> 00:41:07.960
 this week

00:41:07.960 --> 00:41:09.279
 it's an outstanding book

00:41:09.279 --> 00:41:10.500
 Julie Stattery's book

00:41:10.500 --> 00:41:11.239
 God

00:41:11.239 --> 00:41:11.639
 Sex

00:41:11.639 --> 00:41:12.319
 and Your Marriage

00:41:12.320 --> 00:41:13.500
 I meant to bring a copy

00:41:13.500 --> 00:41:15.140
 it's an outstanding book

00:41:15.140 --> 00:41:16.580
 I think Henrico's got some copies

00:41:16.580 --> 00:41:17.200
 at the office

00:41:17.200 --> 00:41:18.360
 so we can order some more

00:41:18.360 --> 00:41:20.559
 I really encourage you

00:41:20.559 --> 00:41:21.100
 if you're married

00:41:21.100 --> 00:41:22.260
 read this book

00:41:22.260 --> 00:41:23.519
 it's a great great book

00:41:23.519 --> 00:41:24.740
 here's the final thing

00:41:24.740 --> 00:41:25.240
 if you're married

00:41:25.240 --> 00:41:26.720
 prioritize it

00:41:26.720 --> 00:41:27.980
 it's not nothing

00:41:27.980 --> 00:41:29.200
 but it is sacred

00:41:29.200 --> 00:41:30.519
 it is important

00:41:30.519 --> 00:41:31.080
 Paul says

00:41:31.080 --> 00:41:31.660
 don't

00:41:31.660 --> 00:41:33.039
 don't withhold

00:41:33.039 --> 00:41:33.860
 from one another

00:41:33.860 --> 00:41:35.120
 it's meant to deepen

00:41:35.120 --> 00:41:35.580
 your love

00:41:35.580 --> 00:41:36.600
 strengthen your union

00:41:36.600 --> 00:41:38.120
 so put away your laptop

00:41:38.120 --> 00:41:40.240
 cancel your Netflix subscription

00:41:40.239 --> 00:41:43.459
 unsubscribe from Disney

00:41:43.459 --> 00:41:43.919
 plus

00:41:43.919 --> 00:41:45.539
 put away your phone

00:41:45.539 --> 00:41:47.500
 and prioritize it

00:41:47.500 --> 00:41:48.659
 honestly

00:41:48.659 --> 00:41:49.159
 okay

00:41:49.159 --> 00:41:50.519
 for those of us

00:41:50.519 --> 00:41:51.059
 that are single

00:41:51.059 --> 00:41:52.839
 here are a couple

00:41:52.839 --> 00:41:53.479
 things to think about

00:41:53.479 --> 00:41:54.579
 your sexuality

00:41:54.579 --> 00:41:55.500
 doesn't start

00:41:55.500 --> 00:41:56.559
 when you only get married

00:41:56.559 --> 00:41:58.739
 you're a sexual being now

00:41:58.739 --> 00:42:00.739
 what does it look like

00:42:00.739 --> 00:42:01.659
 to steward

00:42:01.659 --> 00:42:02.619
 your sexuality

00:42:02.619 --> 00:42:03.839
 now

00:42:03.839 --> 00:42:05.099
 what does it look like

00:42:05.099 --> 00:42:06.119
 to bring it before God

00:42:06.119 --> 00:42:07.299
 what does it look like

00:42:07.299 --> 00:42:08.139
 to honor Christ

00:42:08.139 --> 00:42:08.819
 with your sexuality

00:42:08.820 --> 00:42:09.539
 now

00:42:09.539 --> 00:42:11.660
 here's the second thing

00:42:11.660 --> 00:42:12.160
 if you're single

00:42:12.160 --> 00:42:12.880
 I want to encourage you

00:42:12.880 --> 00:42:14.160
 cultivate good healthy

00:42:14.160 --> 00:42:14.720
 relationships

00:42:14.720 --> 00:42:15.920
 with the other gender

00:42:15.920 --> 00:42:17.039
 in the church

00:42:17.039 --> 00:42:18.680
 learn how to become

00:42:18.680 --> 00:42:19.580
 the kind of person

00:42:19.580 --> 00:42:20.640
 that sees

00:42:20.640 --> 00:42:22.160
 cross gender relationships

00:42:22.160 --> 00:42:23.360
 as a way of honoring

00:42:23.360 --> 00:42:23.740
 each other

00:42:23.740 --> 00:42:24.820
 not using each other

00:42:24.820 --> 00:42:26.380
 our culture tells us

00:42:26.380 --> 00:42:27.640
 someone the opposite gender

00:42:27.640 --> 00:42:28.860
 you're there to use them

00:42:28.860 --> 00:42:29.940
 for your own gratification

00:42:29.940 --> 00:42:31.720
 but if you go your whole

00:42:31.720 --> 00:42:32.400
 single life

00:42:32.400 --> 00:42:33.400
 thinking like that

00:42:33.400 --> 00:42:34.460
 you don't just

00:42:34.460 --> 00:42:35.160
 on your wedding day

00:42:35.160 --> 00:42:35.980
 suddenly become a

00:42:35.980 --> 00:42:36.500
 selfless

00:42:36.500 --> 00:42:37.140
 giving

00:42:37.139 --> 00:42:38.019
 person

00:42:38.019 --> 00:42:40.420
 cultivate a heart

00:42:40.420 --> 00:42:41.259
 of selflessness

00:42:41.259 --> 00:42:41.980
 of giving

00:42:41.980 --> 00:42:42.839
 of honoring

00:42:42.839 --> 00:42:43.879
 of treasuring

00:42:43.879 --> 00:42:44.679
 the other gender

00:42:44.679 --> 00:42:45.319
 now

00:42:45.319 --> 00:42:46.539
 while you're single

00:42:46.539 --> 00:42:47.879
 and then thirdly

00:42:47.879 --> 00:42:48.480
 I want to say

00:42:48.480 --> 00:42:49.619
 to those of us

00:42:49.619 --> 00:42:50.119
 that are single

00:42:50.119 --> 00:42:51.619
 sex is not utopia

00:42:51.619 --> 00:42:53.659
 marriage is not utopia

00:42:53.659 --> 00:42:54.539
 friends

00:42:54.539 --> 00:42:55.259
 the greatest sex

00:42:55.259 --> 00:42:55.799
 in the world

00:42:55.799 --> 00:42:57.659
 will not satisfy you

00:42:57.659 --> 00:42:58.639
 or your heart

00:42:58.639 --> 00:43:00.679
 Jesus Christ will

00:43:00.679 --> 00:43:02.579
 the media is lying to you

00:43:02.579 --> 00:43:04.219
 pornography is lying to you

00:43:04.219 --> 00:43:05.579
 Jesus Christ

00:43:05.579 --> 00:43:06.659
 is what you were made for

00:43:06.659 --> 00:43:07.500
 he's the only one

00:43:07.500 --> 00:43:07.919
 that can give you

00:43:07.919 --> 00:43:08.539
 the treasure

00:43:08.539 --> 00:43:09.439
 the meaning

00:43:09.439 --> 00:43:10.399
 the peace

00:43:10.399 --> 00:43:11.259
 the hope

00:43:11.259 --> 00:43:12.159
 the longing

00:43:12.159 --> 00:43:14.359
 the satisfied life

00:43:14.359 --> 00:43:16.399
 trust in Jesus

00:43:16.399 --> 00:43:18.299
 sex will not be your God

00:43:18.299 --> 00:43:19.659
 but Jesus will be your God

00:43:19.659 --> 00:43:20.619
 and he will save you

00:43:20.619 --> 00:43:21.559
 and rescue you

00:43:21.559 --> 00:43:23.339
 let me close

00:43:23.339 --> 00:43:24.039
 with this

00:43:24.039 --> 00:43:25.259
 one day

00:43:25.259 --> 00:43:26.000
 Jesus Christ

00:43:26.000 --> 00:43:26.579
 is walking

00:43:26.579 --> 00:43:27.199
 in the

00:43:27.199 --> 00:43:28.259
 Middle East

00:43:28.259 --> 00:43:29.519
 and he comes

00:43:29.519 --> 00:43:31.019
 across a lady

00:43:31.019 --> 00:43:33.199
 who's had a litany

00:43:33.199 --> 00:43:33.940
 of relationships

00:43:33.940 --> 00:43:35.840
 and she's a social outcast

00:43:35.840 --> 00:43:36.920
 because she's had

00:43:36.920 --> 00:43:37.719
 tons of relationships

00:43:37.719 --> 00:43:38.659
 and the man she's with

00:43:38.659 --> 00:43:39.019
 right now

00:43:39.019 --> 00:43:39.739
 is not her husband

00:43:39.739 --> 00:43:41.599
 she had five husbands

00:43:41.599 --> 00:43:42.219
 and she's not

00:43:42.219 --> 00:43:43.360
 the man she's living with

00:43:43.360 --> 00:43:44.019
 and sleeping with

00:43:44.019 --> 00:43:44.900
 is not her husband now

00:43:44.900 --> 00:43:46.699
 and she's an outcast

00:43:46.699 --> 00:43:48.300
 and society has cast her aside

00:43:48.300 --> 00:43:49.300
 she's rejected

00:43:49.300 --> 00:43:50.079
 she's scorned

00:43:50.079 --> 00:43:50.679
 she's shamed

00:43:50.679 --> 00:43:52.639
 and Jesus Christ

00:43:52.639 --> 00:43:53.119
 comes to her

00:43:53.119 --> 00:43:54.019
 and he does two things

00:43:54.019 --> 00:43:55.800
 he puts his finger

00:43:55.800 --> 00:43:57.460
 right on her shame

00:43:57.460 --> 00:43:58.199
 and her pain

00:43:58.199 --> 00:43:59.679
 he doesn't avoid it

00:43:59.679 --> 00:44:01.099
 he doesn't save face

00:44:01.099 --> 00:44:02.119
 he doesn't ask her

00:44:02.119 --> 00:44:02.659
 about the weather

00:44:02.659 --> 00:44:04.299
 he goes right

00:44:04.299 --> 00:44:05.119
 to her area

00:44:05.119 --> 00:44:05.739
 of shame

00:44:05.739 --> 00:44:06.239
 and pain

00:44:06.239 --> 00:44:07.079
 and he puts his finger

00:44:07.079 --> 00:44:07.480
 on it

00:44:07.480 --> 00:44:09.699
 and he brings

00:44:09.699 --> 00:44:10.299
 into the light

00:44:10.299 --> 00:44:12.119
 but the other thing

00:44:12.119 --> 00:44:12.480
 he does

00:44:12.480 --> 00:44:13.960
 is he meets her pain

00:44:13.960 --> 00:44:14.699
 and her shame

00:44:14.699 --> 00:44:15.879
 with grace

00:44:15.879 --> 00:44:17.239
 and kindness

00:44:17.239 --> 00:44:19.759
 friends

00:44:19.759 --> 00:44:20.899
 all of us here

00:44:20.899 --> 00:44:21.859
 have probably got shame

00:44:21.859 --> 00:44:23.460
 in the area of sexuality

00:44:23.460 --> 00:44:24.119
 and intimacy

00:44:24.119 --> 00:44:26.500
 Jesus Christ

00:44:26.500 --> 00:44:27.059
 doesn't want us

00:44:27.059 --> 00:44:28.000
 to skirt around the edges

00:44:28.000 --> 00:44:29.599
 he wants to meet us

00:44:29.599 --> 00:44:30.839
 right in that place

00:44:30.839 --> 00:44:32.719
 but he wants to meet us

00:44:32.719 --> 00:44:33.940
 not with condemnation

00:44:33.940 --> 00:44:35.519
 not with a scorn

00:44:35.519 --> 00:44:36.739
 not with a finger

00:44:36.739 --> 00:44:38.480
 but with open arms

00:44:38.480 --> 00:44:39.279
 and with a grace

00:44:39.279 --> 00:44:40.480
 and with kindness

00:44:40.480 --> 00:44:41.299
 Jesus says

00:44:41.299 --> 00:44:42.299
 he knows us better

00:44:42.299 --> 00:44:43.179
 than we know ourselves

00:44:43.179 --> 00:44:44.799
 and he loves you

00:44:44.799 --> 00:44:45.759
 infinitely more

00:44:45.759 --> 00:44:46.739
 than any person

00:44:46.739 --> 00:44:47.380
 will ever love you

00:44:47.380 --> 00:44:48.019
 or even you

00:44:48.019 --> 00:44:48.719
 will love yourself

00:44:48.719 --> 00:44:50.279
 and he's come

00:44:50.279 --> 00:44:50.960
 to bring healing

00:44:50.960 --> 00:44:51.539
 and grace

00:44:51.539 --> 00:44:54.799
 so bring your life to him

00:44:54.799 --> 00:44:56.099
 bring your sexuality

00:44:56.099 --> 00:44:57.079
 bring your intimacy

00:44:57.079 --> 00:44:59.179
 submit and surrender to him

00:44:59.179 --> 00:45:00.019
 and let him bring

00:45:00.019 --> 00:45:00.739
 his healing grace

00:45:00.739 --> 00:45:01.359
 to your life

00:45:01.359 --> 00:45:02.480
 let's pray

00:45:02.480 --> 00:45:05.980
 Lord Jesus Christ

00:45:05.980 --> 00:45:08.779
 this is such a massive

00:45:08.779 --> 00:45:09.460
 area of life

00:45:09.460 --> 00:45:09.739
 God

00:45:09.739 --> 00:45:10.460
 and our culture

00:45:10.460 --> 00:45:11.500
 is screaming at us

00:45:11.500 --> 00:45:12.239
 and lying to us

00:45:12.239 --> 00:45:12.759
 every day

00:45:12.759 --> 00:45:14.879
 Lord we need your grace

00:45:14.879 --> 00:45:15.899
 we need your grace

00:45:15.899 --> 00:45:16.779
 God for some of us here

00:45:16.779 --> 00:45:17.639
 we are enslaved

00:45:17.639 --> 00:45:18.219
 and trapped

00:45:18.219 --> 00:45:19.519
 oh God

00:45:19.519 --> 00:45:20.599
 won't you set us free

00:45:20.599 --> 00:45:22.079
 God

00:45:22.079 --> 00:45:22.980
 we want to say

00:45:22.980 --> 00:45:23.519
 this morning

00:45:23.519 --> 00:45:24.559
 we hate

00:45:24.559 --> 00:45:26.019
 what sexual sin

00:45:26.019 --> 00:45:26.779
 has done to us

00:45:26.779 --> 00:45:28.679
 we hate God

00:45:28.679 --> 00:45:30.199
 the feeling of shame

00:45:30.199 --> 00:45:31.119
 and guilt

00:45:31.119 --> 00:45:32.559
 we hate God

00:45:32.559 --> 00:45:33.940
 the being enslaved

00:45:33.940 --> 00:45:34.400
 and trapped

00:45:34.400 --> 00:45:35.639
 not knowing how to get out

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 God we hate

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 the trauma

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 that we carry

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 and the memories

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 that we carry

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 God almighty

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 we ask

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 by your spirit

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 and your power

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 won't you set us free

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 God we're sorry

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 we're sorry

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 Jesus

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 we need you

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 every hour

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 we need you

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 Jesus

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 we need you

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 God I pray

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 won't you give us faith

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 to turn to you

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 to turn to you

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 in faith and repentance

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 and to trust you

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 God I pray

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 for those of us

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 that are married

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 I pray God

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 that you help us

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 to strengthen our union

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 and our oneness

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 and our intimacy

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 help us to have

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 great marriages

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 God

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 Lord I pray

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 this church

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 will be a church

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 full of great marriages

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 for those of us

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 that are single

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 God help us

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 to steward our sexuality

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 help us to honor you

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 help us to know

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 God your profound

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 love for us

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 God for all of us

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 may we live

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 distinctively

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 from our city

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 and from our world

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 as you let the gospel

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 shape us

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 I pray this in your

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 great and wonderful name

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 Amen

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 Amen