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 outside of your biological family,

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 where have you sensed the most family-like bond?

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 Just the sense of oneness or closeness.

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 Think about it for a moment.

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 As I think about it,

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 and I'm going to believe girls and guys both in here,

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 you experienced it to a great extent

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 on some type of sports team.

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 There are people who are on a team

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 all the way from little league to high school,

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 even college.

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 They don't get to play that much,

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 but they love the sense of camaraderie.

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 It's like a family.

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 Their fellow players or their brothers or their sisters.

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 Coaches are like fathers to them.

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 Some of you experienced that in a band.

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 Some of you at Pickens High School.

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 Some at maybe a college.

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 Some of you are fortunate in that the place that you work,

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 there's maybe your office,

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 or some department,

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 or some work group.

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 And there's just a real closeness,

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 a family-like bond.

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 Now, don't answer out loud,

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 but do you sense that at church?

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 Have you ever?

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 Do you here?

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 Do you in a Sunday school class,

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 or some other small group that meets on a regular basis,

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 and you really get to know one another

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 and share life together as brothers and sisters in Christ?

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 You know, one of the most well-known ways

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 the New Testament describes the church

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 is that we're the family of God.

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 I mean, God is our Father.

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 Jesus taught us to pray,

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 think of God as our Heavenly Father,

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 we who are Christians.

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 And throughout the New Testament,

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 Christians, members of the church,

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 are referred to as brothers and sisters

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 over and over again.

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 And so as we think about church,

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 we need to understand that from God's perspective,

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 what the Lord intends,

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 we're supposed to be like a family.

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 We love one another.

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 In spite of our differences,

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 and sometimes disagreements,

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 we love one another,

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 and we work together

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 in doing what God's called us to do

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 as Pickens First Baptist Church.

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 Now, I thank God that we don't have a problem

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 with bad blood or division

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 between individuals or groups in this church.

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 You know, if you were just here for the first time,

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 you haven't been here many times,

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 you might think the way he's starting,

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 and when we look at this particular passage of Scripture,

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 you might think to yourself,

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 there's a problem.

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 He is really dealing with some division in the church.

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 I'm not aware of anything like that.

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 We are dealing with this subject matter

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 because that's where we are in the book of Philippians,

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 and we're going through the book of Philippians.

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 So that's one of the good things

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 about going through a book of the Bible.

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 You cover all kinds of topics,

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 things that the Lord knows we need.

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 So I'm not thinking about,

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 I don't know about

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 any kind of rupture in our church family.

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 Here's the way I'm approaching this,

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 last week and this week.

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 Do you feel like you are a part of a

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 close-knit spiritual family

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 here in this church?

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 Now it's hard for that to take place

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 together here like this,

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 but in smaller groups is where you really experience it,

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 where you really feel it.

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 You know, many churches have difficulty

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 being a close-knit family.

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 There's a lot of reasons,

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 but one, we American Christians,

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 this is not my, I didn't come up with this idea.

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 I've read this numerous times, and it's true,

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 but we as American Christians,

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 we mainly emphasize the idea of our spiritual lives

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 having a close personal relationship with Jesus Christ,

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 with God as our Heavenly Father.

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 And while we like fellowship with other Christians,

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 it's sort of the icing on the cake.

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 It's not a part of the real foundation

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 of what the church is supposed to be

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 in the way that we normally think.

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 If we're right with God, that's the main thing.

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 And it is the main thing,

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 but it's not the only thing.

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 Another thing that makes it hard for a church

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 to really bond together,

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 some churches, some areas,

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 is a lot of us,

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 we have close, immediate,

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 or extended family members right here close by,

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 and we don't really have a need

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 for a lot of other close relationships.

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 And you think maybe how busy your life is

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 with work and other things you've got going on,

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 your immediate or extended family members,

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 they're not only meeting your needs,

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 but they're, you think to yourself,

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 they're the only ones I have time for.

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 And so when you think about all this together,

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 it's not an easy thing for a church family

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 to really,

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 it's not easy for us to come together

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 and really think of one another,

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 relate to one another

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 like a real family,

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 as the New Testament calls us to do.

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 Now, God calls us

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 to be serious about this,

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 to truly love one another like family,

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 and work together in harmony,

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 doing things to help us

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 to accomplish our purpose ministry-wise.

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 God wants us to do that

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 as a way of expressing our love to Him,

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 as a way of obeying Him.

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 We can think about,

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 we need to be the kind of spiritual family

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 that the Bible,

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 we're going to be reading about,

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 and it pleases our Heavenly Father.

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 Let me give you a thought here.

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 Every parent in this room,

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 it doesn't matter if their children

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 are 6, 8, 10,

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 or if they're 50, 60 years old,

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 every parent in this room

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 would say that one of the greatest joys

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 in my life

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 is for my children,

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 to see my children love one another.

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 Get alone.

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 Have good relationships.

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 Now, kids in this room,

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 people in this room who are children,

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 teenagers, never been married,

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 you may not can understand that,

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 but there is nothing

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 that pleases your parents more

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 than to see you get alone,

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 love one another,

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 just enjoy being together.

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 And on the other hand,

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 one of the most disappointing,

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 hurtful things in all of life

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 for a parent

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 is when their children

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 despise one another,

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 always at each other's throats,

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 or they don't have anything

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 to do with one another.

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 It's not enough for parents

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 to have children

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 that don't just fight,

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 but ignore one another.

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 That's the way it is in the church.

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 God is not pleased

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 just when we don't fight.

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 He wants us to really be a family

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 and live and enjoy life together

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 as we can

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 as a church family.

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 I want you to turn with me

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 back to Philippians chapter 2.

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 We're going to continue looking at

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 verses 1 through 4,

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 verses 3 and 4 in particular today,

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 what we started last week

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 about developing greater closeness

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 in this church,

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 developing real family-like relationships

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 with one another in this church.

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 Philippians 2, verse 1.

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 So, if there is any encouragement in Christ,

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 any comfort from love,

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 any participation in the Spirit,

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 any affection and sympathy,

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 complete my joy by being of the same mind,

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 having the same love,

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 being in full accord and of one mind.

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 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit,

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 but in humility count others

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 more significant than yourselves.

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 Let each of you

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 look not only to his own interests,

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 but also to the interests of others.

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 This is Paul's way of calling

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 this church he's writing to.

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 He knows them well.

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 He has a great relationship with them.

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 And overall,

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 it's probably the best church

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 that we have a letter

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 from Paul to that church

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 in the New Testament.

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 But everything's not perfect.

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 There are some issues there

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 that he is trying to address.

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 And trying to help them understand

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 how to grow deeper together

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 as true brothers and sisters in the Lord.

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 Let's look at what that requires.

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 Now, like we did last week,

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 as we go through this passage,

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 you apply this to your home life

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 wherever you can.

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 Every point,

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 everything we look at

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 is not going to apply

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 to your family.

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 But a lot of it can.

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 A lot of it will

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 if you'll think through it that way.

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 And it may be that

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 what you really need

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 to get out of this message

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 is not so much

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 being closer to people in this church,

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 although that may be a need,

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 but it may be that God's got you here

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 this morning to help you

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 see the need for you

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 to start working on

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 being a better parent

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 parent or child

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 or brother or sister

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 in your home.

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 Let's look at it.

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 Number one,

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 to experience true Christian unity,

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 we must build upon

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 some common Christian experiences.

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 Paul's writing to this church

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 and before he starts talking to them

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 about really, you know,

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 putting one another first

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 and be humble before one another,

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 he's trying to look at this church

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 and say,

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 there's a lot of things

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 you've got in common

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 that you share together.

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 And we looked at that

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 a little bit last week

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 in verse one.

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 I want to look at

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 just one thing right here.

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 He says,

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 we've all experienced

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 encouragement in Christ.

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 That word encouragement,

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 sometimes it's translated comfort,

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 sometimes it's translated help.

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 The idea is

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 we've experienced

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 encouragement, comfort, help

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 through having a relationship

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 with Jesus Christ.

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 For an example,

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 if you're a Christian,

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 you know what it's like

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 to be forgiven of your sins.

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 Some people in this room may,

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 you may have before

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 you became a Christian

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 or at some point in your life

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 through what you did sinfully,

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 you confessed it,

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 you repented,

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 you know what it's like

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 to have a great weight

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 of guilt removed from you.

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 But all of us as Christians,

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 we know,

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 we have this common understanding,

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 I am a forgiven child of God.

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 I'm no longer guilty.

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 I have to hang my head

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 and walk around

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 with my head down anymore.

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 Another thing we have in common is

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 we have assurance as Christians

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 that we are children of God.

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 We're not like everybody else

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 in the world.

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 We're children of God.

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 Now and will be for all eternity.

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 Sharing common experiences

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 of any kind

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 has a way of drawing people

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 close together.

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 That's why people who play sports,

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 they do things together.

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 They work hard together.

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 People who are in the band,

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 people who, you know,

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 are together at work

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 and do some good things together.

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 It just draws you together.

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 This is a good reason

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 why it's good for families

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 to do all kinds of things together.

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 Think about it.

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 Spring is not far

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 and there's a lot of people

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 in this room

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 as spring comes

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 you're going to be outside more.

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 There's things you're going to

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 need to do

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 and want to do

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 in your yard,

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 in a garden.

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 Get your children involved.

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 That is something

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 that you can do together,

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 work together.

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 It can build

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 good relationships.

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 Your children need to learn to work

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 so let them work with you

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 and make it a positive experience.

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 But don't let it all be work.

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 Children and parents

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 need to do some fun things together.

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 Play together.

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 Find ways

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 where

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 you just

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 laugh.

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 You have fun.

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 You do things

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 that you all enjoy.

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 It brings you together,

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 doesn't it?

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 Even eating meals together.

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 I know there can be

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 some wars at the table

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 but eating meals together

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 can be that thing

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 that sort of brings you together.

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 I'm not talking about

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 just parents

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 with children at home.

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 I want to encourage you,

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 you've got brothers and sisters,

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 you've got parents,

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 you have adult children,

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 don't just

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 all go your separate ways

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 and lose the bond,

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 the closeness

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 that God intends for us to have

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 until death takes people out.

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 Do things with your adult children.

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 Do things with your parents.

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 Do things with your older brothers,

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 grown brothers and sisters.

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 Keep those relationships alive

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 if you can,

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 if they'll allow you to.

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 Now,

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 all of us who are members

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 of this church

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 have many common

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 spiritual experiences

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 that can

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 be used by God

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 to draw us closer together

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 as a church family.

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 think about them sometimes.

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 Talk about them.

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 Some of your common

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 spiritual experiences

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 with one another

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 and build

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 something more than

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 a shallow,

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 superficial relationship.

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 Number two,

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 to experience true Christian unity,

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 we must develop

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 a common Christian mindset.

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 mindset.

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 Not uniformity

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 we talked about last week.

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 Everybody's not going to think

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 the same way

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 about everything,

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 but what we're talking about

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 is something specific here.

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 Look,

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 he says,

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 complete my job

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 of being of the same mind,

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 having the same love,

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 being in full accord

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 and of one mind.

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 To summarize

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 what we looked at last week,

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 the key for a church

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 to experience

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 family-like unity

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 can be found

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 in two statements.

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 Number one,

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 we must love one another

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 with self-giving love.

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 If we're going to be

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 a true family here,

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 we've got to learn

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 to love one another

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 in this self-giving,

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 patient kind of way

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 and not go around

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 with our feelings

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 on our sleeves,

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 least little slight,

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 least little whatever,

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 and we're offended

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 and we withdraw.

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 Look at what

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 the kind of love

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 we're talking about involves.

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 Now,

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 this also is the kind of love

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 that we need to have

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 in our homes,

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 parents and children,

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 children and parents,

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 brothers and sisters.

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 Wake up,

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 brothers and sisters.

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 Look on this screen.

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 Love is patient

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 and kind.

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 Love does not envy

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 or boast.

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 It is not arrogant

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 or rude.

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 It does not insist

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 on its own way.

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 It is not irritable

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 or resentful.

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 It does not rejoice

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 at wrongdoing,

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 but rejoices

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 with the truth.

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 Love bears all things,

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 believes all things,

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 hopes all things,

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 endures all things.

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 Love never ends.

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 This is the kind of love

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 that we need to develop,

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 we need to work on,

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 really in all

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 of our relationships.

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 What we're talking about here,

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 among one another

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 and always in your home.

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 Second thing

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 that will help us

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 to be united,

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 we must focus

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 on our purpose

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 and work together

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 to accomplish it.

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 We looked at this

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 last week.

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 I don't want to spill it.

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 It's been a great deal

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 on that.

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 We exist for this.

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 In the book of Acts,

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 the first summary statement

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 of what the church

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 was doing,

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 they were worshiping,

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 evangelizing,

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 learning,

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 and loving.

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 That's what we're

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 called to do.

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 That's how we fulfill

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 the great commission

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 that the Lord

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 has given us.

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 You know,

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 in a church family,

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 we don't get to choose

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 who we will

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 or won't love.

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 It's like in your family.

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 I mean,

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 if you're going to really

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 be a strong family,

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 it doesn't matter

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 what your brother

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 or sister is like.

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 They're your brother

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 or sister.

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 And a lot of you

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 have close interactions

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 with more extended family.

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 You're cousins.

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 You don't get to choose

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 who they are.

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 That's decided for you.

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 And we just have to learn

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 to love one another.

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 And a lot of times

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 and a lot of ways

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 we do that at home.

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 And what Paul's talking about

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 is we've got to bring it

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 to the church.

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 We've got to love

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 one another.

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 Warts and all.

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 Differences and all.

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 Do you try to express

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 this kind of love

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 in some of the relationships

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 that you already have

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 here in this church?

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 Not be easily offended,

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 but really

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 give yourself to people

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 this way.

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 We're also called

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 to fulfill the Lord's

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 great commission

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 by being this well church.

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 And I want to ask you this.

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 Are you helping us

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 do that in some way?

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 Every Christian has

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 spiritual gifts,

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 talents, and abilities

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 that God expects us,

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 calls us,

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 commands us

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 to use in our church

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 or through some of the

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 ministries of our church

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 to glorify Him,

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 to help other people

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 come to know Christ,

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 to help people grow

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 in their relationship

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 with the Lord,

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 to meet real needs

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 that people have.

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 How are you involved?

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 I know we're not

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 doing a lot right now

00:19:24.580 --> 00:19:25.580
 because of the

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 COVID situation,

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 but how were you involved

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 before we sort of

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 put things on hold?

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 How do you plan

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 to be involved

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 when things

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 pick back up

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 and come to the,

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 what will be

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 a new normal?

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 Let's look on now

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 at the third way

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 to build church unity.

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 Look at this.

00:19:47.120 --> 00:19:47.779
 To experience true

00:19:47.779 --> 00:19:48.420
 Christian unity,

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 we must work daily

00:19:49.480 --> 00:19:50.580
 on our common

00:19:50.580 --> 00:19:51.759
 Christian responsibility

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 to humble ourselves.

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 I want you to look

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 at what he says here,

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 verses three and four.

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 Do nothing from

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 selfish ambition

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 or conceit,

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 but in humility

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 count others

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 more significant

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 than yourselves.

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 Let each of you

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 look not only

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 to his own interest,

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 but also to the

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 interest of others.

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 Let's look at

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 the specifics here.

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 Number one,

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 we can't promote

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 ourselves over

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 other people.

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 Do nothing from

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 selfish ambition

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 or conceit.

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 Note two phrases.

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 Number one,

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 selfish ambition

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 refers to self-promotion.

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 Conceit,

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 or some translations

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 you have,

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 says vain conceit.

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 It refers to

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 seeking glory

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 for yourself

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 that is not deserved.

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 Now the thought

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 may come into your mind,

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 don't seek glory

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 for yourself

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 that's not deserved.

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 How do I know

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 if mine's deserved?

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 Don't seek glory

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 for yourself

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 and you don't have

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 to worry about it.

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 Just don't seek

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 glory for yourself.

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 Call attention

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 to yourself

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 and you won't have

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 to worry about

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 whether it's deserved

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 or not.

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 You know,

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 as I was,

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 you know,

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 studying this,

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 thinking about this,

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 we see it a lot

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 in the sports world,

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 especially among

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 professional athletes.

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 If you read a lot,

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 watch things

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 on ESPN

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 and so forth,

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 interviews,

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 what people are saying

00:21:13.280 --> 00:21:14.040
 about one another

00:21:14.040 --> 00:21:15.120
 and so forth,

00:21:15.460 --> 00:21:16.080
 there's a lot

00:21:16.080 --> 00:21:16.900
 of professional athletes

00:21:16.900 --> 00:21:18.040
 who complain about

00:21:18.040 --> 00:21:20.300
 not getting

00:21:20.300 --> 00:21:21.340
 the respect

00:21:21.340 --> 00:21:23.540
 they deserve.

00:21:23.539 --> 00:21:26.680
 when I read

00:21:26.680 --> 00:21:27.740
 a lot of these athletes

00:21:27.740 --> 00:21:30.319
 making multi-million

00:21:30.319 --> 00:21:31.460
 dollar salaries,

00:21:33.139 --> 00:21:34.440
 living just totally

00:21:34.440 --> 00:21:36.299
 ungodly lives

00:21:36.299 --> 00:21:37.920
 and thinking of no one

00:21:37.920 --> 00:21:38.339
 on the team

00:21:38.339 --> 00:21:39.159
 but themselves,

00:21:39.639 --> 00:21:40.440
 I think about how

00:21:40.440 --> 00:21:42.159
 absurd it is

00:21:42.159 --> 00:21:43.000
 for them to complain

00:21:43.000 --> 00:21:43.359
 about,

00:21:43.960 --> 00:21:44.700
 I don't get the proper

00:21:44.700 --> 00:21:45.839
 respect I should.

00:21:47.399 --> 00:21:47.839
 There's one thing

00:21:47.839 --> 00:21:48.420
 we need to make clear

00:21:48.420 --> 00:21:48.799
 this morning.

00:21:49.740 --> 00:21:51.220
 We can't demand

00:21:51.220 --> 00:21:52.759
 respect of other people.

00:21:52.759 --> 00:21:55.720
 You can't demand

00:21:55.720 --> 00:21:56.440
 people around you

00:21:56.440 --> 00:21:57.039
 respect you.

00:21:57.140 --> 00:21:58.000
 Now let me take

00:21:58.000 --> 00:21:58.759
 the time out here

00:21:58.759 --> 00:22:00.160
 with exceptions.

00:22:02.059 --> 00:22:03.379
 The Bible calls us

00:22:03.379 --> 00:22:04.680
 to respect our parents

00:22:04.680 --> 00:22:06.759
 throughout their life.

00:22:07.519 --> 00:22:08.619
 Boys and girls

00:22:08.619 --> 00:22:11.779
 and all of us

00:22:11.779 --> 00:22:12.140
 in this room

00:22:12.140 --> 00:22:12.579
 if our parents

00:22:12.579 --> 00:22:13.039
 are alive,

00:22:14.039 --> 00:22:14.799
 it's our God-given

00:22:14.799 --> 00:22:15.299
 responsibility

00:22:15.299 --> 00:22:16.480
 to respect them.

00:22:16.740 --> 00:22:17.440
 And boys and girls

00:22:17.440 --> 00:22:17.900
 at home,

00:22:17.900 --> 00:22:21.140
 if you show

00:22:21.140 --> 00:22:21.900
 disrespect

00:22:21.900 --> 00:22:22.720
 to your mother

00:22:22.720 --> 00:22:23.280
 or father,

00:22:24.280 --> 00:22:26.820
 they need to

00:22:26.820 --> 00:22:28.980
 just wear you

00:22:28.980 --> 00:22:29.480
 out

00:22:29.480 --> 00:22:32.420
 for your lack

00:22:32.420 --> 00:22:33.280
 of respect

00:22:33.280 --> 00:22:36.480
 and make you

00:22:36.480 --> 00:22:37.780
 at least show

00:22:37.780 --> 00:22:39.560
 respect for them

00:22:39.560 --> 00:22:41.220
 as the authorities

00:22:41.220 --> 00:22:42.160
 of the home

00:22:42.160 --> 00:22:43.120
 because that is

00:22:43.120 --> 00:22:43.980
 a God-given

00:22:43.980 --> 00:22:46.160
 authority picture.

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 There are

00:22:48.400 --> 00:22:49.120
 God-given

00:22:49.120 --> 00:22:49.680
 authorities

00:22:49.680 --> 00:22:50.460
 in the scripture

00:22:50.460 --> 00:22:53.420
 and parents

00:22:53.420 --> 00:22:54.040
 are one,

00:22:54.380 --> 00:22:55.340
 a main one

00:22:55.340 --> 00:22:57.200
 who do,

00:22:57.580 --> 00:22:58.259
 can make you

00:22:58.259 --> 00:22:58.860
 as children,

00:22:59.620 --> 00:23:00.200
 you've got to

00:23:00.200 --> 00:23:00.880
 show me respect.

00:23:01.000 --> 00:23:01.740
 You may not mean it.

00:23:01.759 --> 00:23:02.300
 They can't make you

00:23:02.300 --> 00:23:02.759
 mean it.

00:23:03.300 --> 00:23:04.040
 They can make you

00:23:04.040 --> 00:23:04.560
 show it

00:23:04.560 --> 00:23:05.120
 or suffer

00:23:05.120 --> 00:23:06.360
 serious consequences

00:23:06.360 --> 00:23:07.640
 and good parents

00:23:07.640 --> 00:23:10.019
 will make their

00:23:10.019 --> 00:23:11.180
 children show

00:23:11.180 --> 00:23:11.759
 respect

00:23:11.759 --> 00:23:13.540
 or suffer

00:23:13.540 --> 00:23:14.500
 the consequences

00:23:14.500 --> 00:23:15.940
 of not doing it.

00:23:16.359 --> 00:23:17.319
 That is important.

00:23:18.380 --> 00:23:18.900
 But outside

00:23:18.900 --> 00:23:20.359
 of the commands,

00:23:20.759 --> 00:23:21.500
 the authority

00:23:21.500 --> 00:23:22.039
 structures

00:23:22.039 --> 00:23:22.900
 of the world,

00:23:23.539 --> 00:23:25.160
 we can't demand

00:23:25.160 --> 00:23:25.619
 respect.

00:23:27.000 --> 00:23:27.779
 Respect is

00:23:27.779 --> 00:23:28.240
 something we've

00:23:28.240 --> 00:23:29.099
 got to earn

00:23:29.099 --> 00:23:32.859
 by our character,

00:23:33.519 --> 00:23:34.700
 by our work ethic,

00:23:35.240 --> 00:23:35.640
 by the way

00:23:35.640 --> 00:23:36.319
 that we treat

00:23:36.319 --> 00:23:37.039
 other people.

00:23:38.500 --> 00:23:38.640
 You know,

00:23:38.660 --> 00:23:38.980
 a lot of these

00:23:38.980 --> 00:23:39.859
 professional athletes,

00:23:40.819 --> 00:23:41.740
 they could,

00:23:41.740 --> 00:23:44.099
 they would be

00:23:44.099 --> 00:23:44.779
 respected more

00:23:44.779 --> 00:23:45.519
 if they focus

00:23:45.519 --> 00:23:46.160
 on being a better

00:23:46.160 --> 00:23:46.680
 teammate,

00:23:48.480 --> 00:23:49.500
 if they focus

00:23:49.500 --> 00:23:50.920
 on being a

00:23:50.920 --> 00:23:51.460
 better human

00:23:51.460 --> 00:23:51.880
 being.

00:23:52.960 --> 00:23:53.980
 They would find

00:23:53.980 --> 00:23:54.240
 that they're

00:23:54.240 --> 00:23:54.960
 respected more

00:23:54.960 --> 00:23:56.000
 within their team

00:23:56.000 --> 00:23:56.900
 by their opponents,

00:23:57.039 --> 00:23:57.700
 their coaches,

00:23:58.319 --> 00:23:59.000
 their fans.

00:24:00.480 --> 00:24:01.279
 If you want to

00:24:01.279 --> 00:24:01.980
 develop closer

00:24:01.980 --> 00:24:02.680
 relationships with

00:24:02.680 --> 00:24:03.059
 people in your

00:24:03.059 --> 00:24:04.099
 life everywhere,

00:24:05.140 --> 00:24:05.759
 at home,

00:24:06.120 --> 00:24:06.559
 church,

00:24:06.859 --> 00:24:07.180
 wherever,

00:24:08.380 --> 00:24:09.819
 don't promote

00:24:09.819 --> 00:24:10.519
 yourself.

00:24:10.519 --> 00:24:12.900
 arrogance is

00:24:12.900 --> 00:24:13.599
 not becoming

00:24:13.599 --> 00:24:14.720
 on anyone

00:24:14.720 --> 00:24:15.980
 anywhere.

00:24:17.039 --> 00:24:17.359
 Instead,

00:24:17.619 --> 00:24:18.039
 look at this,

00:24:18.299 --> 00:24:18.639
 we've got to

00:24:18.639 --> 00:24:19.279
 humble ourselves.

00:24:19.559 --> 00:24:19.900
 We must not

00:24:19.900 --> 00:24:20.759
 think too highly.

00:24:21.299 --> 00:24:21.660
 We must not

00:24:21.660 --> 00:24:22.660
 think of ourselves

00:24:22.660 --> 00:24:23.359
 as being better

00:24:23.359 --> 00:24:23.960
 than others,

00:24:24.139 --> 00:24:24.740
 the second part

00:24:24.740 --> 00:24:25.359
 of verse 3.

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 But in humility,

00:24:27.259 --> 00:24:28.059
 count others

00:24:28.059 --> 00:24:28.700
 more significant

00:24:28.700 --> 00:24:29.359
 than yourselves.

00:24:29.839 --> 00:24:30.119
 I want to

00:24:30.119 --> 00:24:31.579
 explain this

00:24:31.579 --> 00:24:32.480
 with a story.

00:24:33.879 --> 00:24:34.299
 A.T.

00:24:34.299 --> 00:24:35.139
 Robertson,

00:24:36.079 --> 00:24:37.039
 in the early

00:24:37.039 --> 00:24:37.460
 part of the

00:24:37.460 --> 00:24:38.440
 1900s,

00:24:38.940 --> 00:24:39.319
 he was one

00:24:39.319 --> 00:24:39.639
 of the most

00:24:39.639 --> 00:24:40.259
 respected

00:24:40.259 --> 00:24:40.980
 New Testament

00:24:40.980 --> 00:24:42.279
 Greek scholars

00:24:42.279 --> 00:24:43.299
 in the English

00:24:43.299 --> 00:24:44.379
 speaking world.

00:24:45.339 --> 00:24:45.939
 He wrote

00:24:45.939 --> 00:24:47.379
 about 25 books

00:24:47.379 --> 00:24:48.899
 including a

00:24:48.899 --> 00:24:51.119
 1,500 page

00:24:51.119 --> 00:24:53.179
 grammar of the

00:24:53.179 --> 00:24:53.700
 Greek New

00:24:53.700 --> 00:24:54.039
 Testament.

00:24:55.039 --> 00:24:56.099
 He wrote a

00:24:56.099 --> 00:24:57.200
 verse-by-verse

00:24:57.200 --> 00:24:58.159
 commentary on the

00:24:58.159 --> 00:24:58.639
 entire New

00:24:58.639 --> 00:24:59.439
 Testament that

00:24:59.439 --> 00:25:00.259
 explains the

00:25:00.259 --> 00:25:02.019
 meaning of

00:25:02.019 --> 00:25:03.079
 every major

00:25:03.079 --> 00:25:04.299
 Greek word.

00:25:05.700 --> 00:25:06.339
 He was also

00:25:06.339 --> 00:25:07.359
 a full-time

00:25:07.359 --> 00:25:08.379
 professor at

00:25:08.379 --> 00:25:09.019
 the Southern

00:25:09.019 --> 00:25:09.679
 Baptist Theological

00:25:09.679 --> 00:25:10.219
 Seminary in

00:25:10.219 --> 00:25:10.459
 Louisville,

00:25:10.559 --> 00:25:10.879
 Kentucky.

00:25:12.179 --> 00:25:13.240
 He was up

00:25:13.240 --> 00:25:14.199
 there with

00:25:14.199 --> 00:25:15.639
 few peers

00:25:15.639 --> 00:25:18.119
 as a scholar,

00:25:18.379 --> 00:25:18.839
 as a Christian

00:25:18.839 --> 00:25:19.519
 scholar in his

00:25:19.519 --> 00:25:19.799
 day.

00:25:21.319 --> 00:25:22.579
 His father-in-law

00:25:22.579 --> 00:25:23.759
 was John

00:25:23.759 --> 00:25:24.419
 Broadus.

00:25:25.419 --> 00:25:26.000
 Broadus was

00:25:26.000 --> 00:25:26.319
 one of the

00:25:26.319 --> 00:25:27.339
 founders of

00:25:27.339 --> 00:25:27.979
 Southern Seminary.

00:25:27.979 --> 00:25:29.939
 He was also a

00:25:29.939 --> 00:25:30.359
 New Testament

00:25:30.359 --> 00:25:30.719
 scholar.

00:25:30.819 --> 00:25:31.559
 He was respected

00:25:31.559 --> 00:25:33.779
 but nowhere near

00:25:33.779 --> 00:25:36.179
 the level of

00:25:36.179 --> 00:25:36.859
 Robertson.

00:25:38.000 --> 00:25:39.299
 Now both were

00:25:39.299 --> 00:25:40.339
 buried in the

00:25:40.339 --> 00:25:41.099
 Cave Hill

00:25:41.099 --> 00:25:42.559
 Cemetery in

00:25:42.559 --> 00:25:42.960
 Louisville,

00:25:43.059 --> 00:25:43.419
 Kentucky.

00:25:44.759 --> 00:25:46.319
 Broadus died

00:25:46.319 --> 00:25:46.740
 first.

00:25:47.000 --> 00:25:47.559
 Much older,

00:25:47.700 --> 00:25:48.039
 so you would

00:25:48.039 --> 00:25:48.559
 expect that.

00:25:48.639 --> 00:25:49.000
 He did.

00:25:49.200 --> 00:25:49.759
 Broadus died

00:25:49.759 --> 00:25:50.159
 first.

00:25:51.000 --> 00:25:52.319
 His grave is

00:25:52.319 --> 00:25:53.740
 marked by a

00:25:53.740 --> 00:25:55.519
 towering monument

00:25:55.519 --> 00:25:57.099
 erected by his

00:25:57.099 --> 00:25:57.419
 family.

00:25:57.679 --> 00:25:58.720
 That wasn't his

00:25:58.720 --> 00:26:00.379
 desire, but his

00:26:00.380 --> 00:26:01.300
 family chose to

00:26:01.300 --> 00:26:02.420
 erect a monument

00:26:02.420 --> 00:26:04.300
 over his grave.

00:26:05.840 --> 00:26:06.820
 Well, next to

00:26:06.820 --> 00:26:08.400
 Broadus' monument

00:26:08.400 --> 00:26:11.000
 is the flat,

00:26:11.220 --> 00:26:12.380
 level with the

00:26:12.380 --> 00:26:14.680
 ground grave

00:26:14.680 --> 00:26:16.720
 marker of A.T.

00:26:16.820 --> 00:26:17.400
 Robertson.

00:26:17.400 --> 00:26:19.820
 It was

00:26:19.820 --> 00:26:20.400
 Robertson's

00:26:21.000 --> 00:26:22.400
 request to

00:26:23.220 --> 00:26:25.400
 be buried in

00:26:25.400 --> 00:26:27.000
 Broadus' shadow.

00:26:27.000 --> 00:26:30.460
 And I read

00:26:30.460 --> 00:26:30.980
 that, I just

00:26:30.980 --> 00:26:31.880
 thought, what

00:26:31.880 --> 00:26:32.640
 humility.

00:26:33.700 --> 00:26:34.019
 A.T.

00:26:34.099 --> 00:26:34.960
 Robertson knew

00:26:34.960 --> 00:26:36.140
 who he was.

00:26:37.759 --> 00:26:38.839
 He knew what

00:26:38.839 --> 00:26:39.119
 he had

00:26:39.119 --> 00:26:39.539
 accomplished.

00:26:40.779 --> 00:26:41.519
 He knew what

00:26:41.519 --> 00:26:43.039
 his status was

00:26:43.039 --> 00:26:44.220
 as a scholar

00:26:44.220 --> 00:26:45.819
 in his day,

00:26:46.240 --> 00:26:47.380
 and that brought

00:26:47.380 --> 00:26:48.700
 us a great

00:26:48.700 --> 00:26:49.180
 man.

00:26:49.180 --> 00:26:51.119
 But nowhere

00:26:51.119 --> 00:26:52.039
 near his

00:26:52.039 --> 00:26:52.480
 level.

00:26:52.480 --> 00:26:54.740
 But he

00:26:54.740 --> 00:26:55.519
 chose,

00:26:55.880 --> 00:26:56.500
 requested,

00:26:57.500 --> 00:26:58.599
 to be buried

00:26:58.599 --> 00:26:59.940
 in what

00:26:59.940 --> 00:27:00.660
 the world

00:27:00.660 --> 00:27:01.200
 would say,

00:27:02.059 --> 00:27:02.559
 a lesser

00:27:02.559 --> 00:27:03.380
 man's

00:27:03.380 --> 00:27:04.339
 shadow.

00:27:06.339 --> 00:27:07.279
 That's the

00:27:07.279 --> 00:27:07.660
 kind of

00:27:07.660 --> 00:27:08.099
 attitude

00:27:08.099 --> 00:27:11.299
 that enables

00:27:11.299 --> 00:27:11.799
 us to

00:27:11.799 --> 00:27:12.180
 humble

00:27:12.180 --> 00:27:13.180
 ourselves

00:27:13.180 --> 00:27:15.099
 and count

00:27:15.099 --> 00:27:15.860
 others more

00:27:15.860 --> 00:27:16.620
 significant

00:27:16.620 --> 00:27:18.519
 than ourselves.

00:27:18.519 --> 00:27:20.460
 that's the

00:27:20.460 --> 00:27:20.660
 kind of

00:27:20.660 --> 00:27:21.180
 attitude we

00:27:21.180 --> 00:27:21.339
 need to

00:27:21.339 --> 00:27:21.940
 demonstrate in

00:27:21.940 --> 00:27:22.500
 this church

00:27:22.500 --> 00:27:22.759
 and in

00:27:22.759 --> 00:27:23.400
 our homes.

00:27:25.500 --> 00:27:26.619
 Now, some

00:27:26.619 --> 00:27:27.440
 husbands and

00:27:27.440 --> 00:27:28.200
 wives need to

00:27:28.200 --> 00:27:28.839
 work on this.

00:27:29.139 --> 00:27:29.639
 I haven't got

00:27:29.639 --> 00:27:30.000
 any kind of

00:27:30.000 --> 00:27:30.660
 emails or

00:27:30.660 --> 00:27:31.119
 letters or

00:27:31.119 --> 00:27:31.799
 calls, but

00:27:31.799 --> 00:27:33.639
 let me just

00:27:33.639 --> 00:27:34.099
 say this,

00:27:34.200 --> 00:27:34.440
 men.

00:27:35.900 --> 00:27:36.639
 Let your

00:27:36.639 --> 00:27:37.319
 wife and

00:27:37.319 --> 00:27:38.440
 children decide

00:27:38.440 --> 00:27:40.019
 if you should

00:27:40.019 --> 00:27:40.559
 be treated

00:27:40.559 --> 00:27:41.440
 like a king.

00:27:43.200 --> 00:27:43.940
 Don't you

00:27:43.940 --> 00:27:44.900
 demand it.

00:27:46.319 --> 00:27:47.400
 If you do,

00:27:47.400 --> 00:27:48.519
 you're an

00:27:48.519 --> 00:27:49.000
 arrogant

00:27:49.000 --> 00:27:49.600
 rascal.

00:27:53.040 --> 00:27:53.600
 Ladies,

00:27:54.200 --> 00:27:54.660
 let your

00:27:54.660 --> 00:27:55.480
 husband and

00:27:55.480 --> 00:27:56.580
 children decide

00:27:56.580 --> 00:27:57.060
 if you should

00:27:57.060 --> 00:27:57.480
 be treated

00:27:57.480 --> 00:27:58.280
 like a queen.

00:27:59.860 --> 00:28:00.540
 Don't

00:28:00.540 --> 00:28:01.900
 demand it.

00:28:03.040 --> 00:28:03.320
 It's

00:28:03.320 --> 00:28:04.080
 unbecoming

00:28:04.080 --> 00:28:05.000
 to be that

00:28:05.000 --> 00:28:05.840
 prideful.

00:28:07.180 --> 00:28:07.660
 Now, boys

00:28:07.660 --> 00:28:08.180
 and girls,

00:28:09.019 --> 00:28:09.519
 young people,

00:28:09.680 --> 00:28:10.040
 teenagers,

00:28:11.400 --> 00:28:12.200
 some brothers

00:28:12.200 --> 00:28:12.820
 and sisters

00:28:12.820 --> 00:28:13.440
 need to work

00:28:13.440 --> 00:28:14.160
 on developing

00:28:14.160 --> 00:28:15.019
 humility

00:28:15.019 --> 00:28:17.639
 and counting

00:28:17.639 --> 00:28:18.339
 their brother

00:28:18.339 --> 00:28:18.859
 or their

00:28:18.859 --> 00:28:21.480
 sister or

00:28:21.480 --> 00:28:22.220
 their parents

00:28:22.220 --> 00:28:25.139
 more important

00:28:25.139 --> 00:28:26.200
 than me.

00:28:27.119 --> 00:28:27.379
 You hear

00:28:27.379 --> 00:28:27.660
 that?

00:28:29.559 --> 00:28:30.079
 And

00:28:30.079 --> 00:28:30.799
 regardless of

00:28:30.799 --> 00:28:31.119
 what your

00:28:31.119 --> 00:28:31.680
 parents may

00:28:31.680 --> 00:28:32.440
 say or do,

00:28:32.799 --> 00:28:34.059
 you are not

00:28:34.059 --> 00:28:35.220
 a princess

00:28:35.220 --> 00:28:36.980
 or a prince.

00:28:38.539 --> 00:28:39.319
 I know

00:28:39.319 --> 00:28:39.720
 some of the

00:28:39.720 --> 00:28:40.460
 parents today,

00:28:41.460 --> 00:28:42.519
 you have this

00:28:42.519 --> 00:28:43.359
 mindset, you

00:28:43.359 --> 00:28:43.819
 treat your

00:28:43.819 --> 00:28:44.460
 child, your

00:28:44.460 --> 00:28:45.220
 girl as if

00:28:45.220 --> 00:28:45.660
 she's some

00:28:45.660 --> 00:28:46.039
 kind of

00:28:46.039 --> 00:28:47.140
 princess that

00:28:47.140 --> 00:28:47.579
 can do no

00:28:47.579 --> 00:28:47.900
 wrong.

00:28:49.640 --> 00:28:50.160
 There's a few

00:28:50.160 --> 00:28:51.079
 that even

00:28:51.079 --> 00:28:51.700
 treat their

00:28:51.700 --> 00:28:53.460
 boy as if

00:28:53.460 --> 00:28:53.799
 he's some

00:28:53.799 --> 00:28:54.180
 kind of

00:28:54.180 --> 00:28:57.100
 prince who's

00:28:57.100 --> 00:28:57.539
 never done

00:28:57.539 --> 00:28:57.860
 wrong.

00:28:59.799 --> 00:29:00.460
 Let me tell

00:29:00.460 --> 00:29:00.940
 you about what

00:29:00.940 --> 00:29:01.420
 your children

00:29:01.420 --> 00:29:01.759
 are.

00:29:03.519 --> 00:29:04.579
 Your children

00:29:04.579 --> 00:29:06.920
 are selfish,

00:29:07.480 --> 00:29:08.140
 self-centered

00:29:08.140 --> 00:29:10.460
 sinners just

00:29:11.079 --> 00:29:11.640
 like you

00:29:11.640 --> 00:29:11.900
 are.

00:29:11.900 --> 00:29:14.020
 And just

00:29:14.020 --> 00:29:14.700
 like I

00:29:14.700 --> 00:29:15.000
 am.

00:29:16.820 --> 00:29:17.500
 They can

00:29:17.500 --> 00:29:18.240
 be arrogant,

00:29:18.960 --> 00:29:19.800
 they can be

00:29:19.800 --> 00:29:20.680
 selfish and

00:29:20.680 --> 00:29:21.340
 self-centered,

00:29:22.220 --> 00:29:23.500
 just like we

00:29:23.500 --> 00:29:24.480
 all can be

00:29:24.480 --> 00:29:25.640
 arrogant and

00:29:25.640 --> 00:29:27.120
 selfish and

00:29:27.120 --> 00:29:27.660
 self-centered.

00:29:30.460 --> 00:29:31.360
 It's hard to

00:29:31.360 --> 00:29:31.800
 do, I don't

00:29:31.800 --> 00:29:32.140
 know any kind

00:29:32.140 --> 00:29:32.940
 of easy lesson,

00:29:32.940 --> 00:29:35.500
 but we as

00:29:35.500 --> 00:29:37.160
 parents, we

00:29:37.160 --> 00:29:38.080
 need to model

00:29:38.080 --> 00:29:38.539
 and then we

00:29:38.539 --> 00:29:39.320
 need to teach

00:29:39.320 --> 00:29:40.880
 our children

00:29:40.880 --> 00:29:41.740
 how to

00:29:41.740 --> 00:29:42.240
 humble

00:29:42.240 --> 00:29:43.279
 themselves,

00:29:44.279 --> 00:29:46.259
 not think

00:29:46.259 --> 00:29:47.880
 they're some

00:29:47.880 --> 00:29:48.420
 kind of prince

00:29:48.420 --> 00:29:48.900
 or princess,

00:29:48.900 --> 00:29:51.279
 and to think

00:29:51.279 --> 00:29:52.160
 of others

00:29:52.160 --> 00:29:54.360
 more

00:29:54.360 --> 00:29:55.100
 significant

00:29:55.100 --> 00:29:57.640
 than

00:29:57.640 --> 00:29:58.100
 themselves.

00:29:58.099 --> 00:30:00.959
 Paul provides

00:30:00.959 --> 00:30:01.699
 more details

00:30:01.699 --> 00:30:02.219
 about what

00:30:02.219 --> 00:30:02.839
 humility involves.

00:30:02.919 --> 00:30:03.279
 Look at this,

00:30:03.539 --> 00:30:04.000
 we must not

00:30:04.000 --> 00:30:05.000
 be so self-centered

00:30:05.000 --> 00:30:06.000
 that we fail to

00:30:06.000 --> 00:30:07.699
 look out for the

00:30:07.699 --> 00:30:08.240
 interests of

00:30:08.240 --> 00:30:08.619
 others.

00:30:08.879 --> 00:30:09.219
 I want you to

00:30:09.219 --> 00:30:09.839
 think about this.

00:30:10.159 --> 00:30:10.500
 Look at the

00:30:10.500 --> 00:30:10.799
 verse.

00:30:12.019 --> 00:30:12.639
 Let each of you

00:30:12.639 --> 00:30:13.240
 look not only to

00:30:13.240 --> 00:30:14.000
 his own interests,

00:30:14.439 --> 00:30:15.099
 but also to the

00:30:15.099 --> 00:30:15.579
 interests of

00:30:15.579 --> 00:30:15.919
 others.

00:30:16.619 --> 00:30:17.099
 Note that he

00:30:17.099 --> 00:30:17.699
 says we should

00:30:17.699 --> 00:30:19.919
 not look only to

00:30:19.919 --> 00:30:20.459
 our interests.

00:30:21.259 --> 00:30:21.399
 Do you

00:30:21.399 --> 00:30:21.679
 understand?

00:30:21.919 --> 00:30:22.559
 It's just a part

00:30:22.559 --> 00:30:23.439
 of human nature

00:30:23.439 --> 00:30:24.480
 to take care of

00:30:24.480 --> 00:30:24.819
 yourself.

00:30:25.899 --> 00:30:26.339
 Jesus,

00:30:26.899 --> 00:30:27.579
 talking about the

00:30:27.579 --> 00:30:28.159
 second greatest

00:30:28.159 --> 00:30:28.639
 commandment,

00:30:28.720 --> 00:30:29.199
 said to love

00:30:29.199 --> 00:30:29.619
 your neighbor

00:30:29.619 --> 00:30:30.199
 as yourself.

00:30:30.379 --> 00:30:31.199
 That is not a

00:30:31.199 --> 00:30:31.859
 command to love

00:30:31.859 --> 00:30:32.199
 yourself.

00:30:33.000 --> 00:30:33.939
 We already do.

00:30:36.839 --> 00:30:37.839
 It's just human

00:30:37.839 --> 00:30:38.220
 nature.

00:30:39.019 --> 00:30:39.439
 We love

00:30:39.439 --> 00:30:39.919
 ourselves.

00:30:40.839 --> 00:30:41.519
 We look out

00:30:41.519 --> 00:30:42.220
 for ourselves.

00:30:42.519 --> 00:30:43.039
 In fact,

00:30:44.299 --> 00:30:45.539
 in some ways,

00:30:45.659 --> 00:30:46.720
 important ways,

00:30:47.359 --> 00:30:48.099
 it's a part of our

00:30:48.099 --> 00:30:49.159
 Christian responsibility

00:30:49.159 --> 00:30:50.699
 to provide for

00:30:50.699 --> 00:30:51.919
 ourselves and our

00:30:51.919 --> 00:30:53.319
 family and not be

00:30:53.319 --> 00:30:54.000
 dependent on other

00:30:54.000 --> 00:30:54.279
 people.

00:30:55.000 --> 00:30:55.559
 We've talked about

00:30:55.559 --> 00:30:56.139
 that in a day

00:30:56.139 --> 00:30:56.599
 gone by.

00:30:56.599 --> 00:30:58.839
 talking about the

00:30:58.839 --> 00:30:59.519
 importance of

00:30:59.519 --> 00:31:00.899
 working and saving

00:31:00.899 --> 00:31:02.359
 and investing and

00:31:02.359 --> 00:31:07.139
 the awful way that

00:31:07.139 --> 00:31:09.899
 socialism will lead

00:31:09.899 --> 00:31:10.919
 this country and ruin

00:31:10.919 --> 00:31:11.559
 our lives.

00:31:11.939 --> 00:31:12.459
 I just had to throw

00:31:12.459 --> 00:31:13.779
 that in a lot of the

00:31:13.779 --> 00:31:15.000
 socialistic Congress

00:31:15.000 --> 00:31:16.379
 and president that we

00:31:16.379 --> 00:31:17.079
 have today.

00:31:17.439 --> 00:31:18.919
 Just to throw it out

00:31:18.919 --> 00:31:20.500
 there, keep it on

00:31:20.500 --> 00:31:21.179
 people's minds.

00:31:21.180 --> 00:31:22.720
 They are not looking

00:31:22.720 --> 00:31:24.880
 out for our best

00:31:24.880 --> 00:31:26.340
 interests as

00:31:26.340 --> 00:31:27.380
 Christians in this

00:31:27.380 --> 00:31:28.920
 world who desire to

00:31:28.920 --> 00:31:29.740
 live according to the

00:31:29.740 --> 00:31:30.420
 truth of God.

00:31:31.100 --> 00:31:31.820
 And we need to keep

00:31:31.820 --> 00:31:32.420
 that in mind.

00:31:33.320 --> 00:31:34.240
 Living humbly before

00:31:34.240 --> 00:31:35.220
 others is not an easy

00:31:35.220 --> 00:31:35.759
 thing to do.

00:31:37.140 --> 00:31:39.100
 It is contrary to our

00:31:39.100 --> 00:31:40.440
 selfish and self-centered

00:31:40.440 --> 00:31:41.820
 sinful nature.

00:31:42.820 --> 00:31:44.160
 But it can be done.

00:31:44.160 --> 00:31:47.900
 There are no commands.

00:31:48.380 --> 00:31:50.140
 There are no instructions

00:31:50.140 --> 00:31:51.040
 in the Bible for us to

00:31:51.040 --> 00:31:51.700
 do anything that we

00:31:51.700 --> 00:31:53.000
 cannot do.

00:31:55.820 --> 00:31:57.100
 Paul is telling us

00:31:57.100 --> 00:31:59.779
 here that we can't live

00:31:59.779 --> 00:32:00.420
 this way as a church

00:32:00.420 --> 00:32:00.800
 family.

00:32:02.160 --> 00:32:04.259
 We can't have healthy

00:32:04.259 --> 00:32:05.820
 families in our homes

00:32:05.820 --> 00:32:07.759
 humbling ourselves,

00:32:08.080 --> 00:32:09.080
 putting others first.

00:32:09.079 --> 00:32:10.939
 The key to doing this

00:32:10.939 --> 00:32:12.179
 though is to first

00:32:12.179 --> 00:32:13.179
 humble ourselves before

00:32:13.179 --> 00:32:13.559
 God.

00:32:13.679 --> 00:32:14.159
 I want you to look at

00:32:14.159 --> 00:32:14.379
 this.

00:32:14.799 --> 00:32:15.879
 Peter explains this in

00:32:15.879 --> 00:32:16.319
 1 Peter.

00:32:16.980 --> 00:32:17.259
 He says,

00:32:17.359 --> 00:32:17.980
 Clothe yourselves,

00:32:18.119 --> 00:32:18.740
 all of you, with

00:32:18.740 --> 00:32:19.720
 humility toward one

00:32:19.720 --> 00:32:21.179
 another, for God

00:32:21.179 --> 00:32:22.699
 opposes the proud, but

00:32:22.699 --> 00:32:23.379
 he gives grace to the

00:32:23.379 --> 00:32:23.579
 humble.

00:32:24.000 --> 00:32:24.699
 Boys and girls,

00:32:24.859 --> 00:32:26.259
 teenagers, adults,

00:32:28.139 --> 00:32:30.000
 God opposes the

00:32:30.000 --> 00:32:30.519
 proud.

00:32:32.319 --> 00:32:33.879
 God will humble the

00:32:33.879 --> 00:32:34.199
 proud.

00:32:35.159 --> 00:32:35.960
 Make no mistake.

00:32:35.960 --> 00:32:37.759
 He says,

00:32:37.759 --> 00:32:38.799
 humble yourselves

00:32:38.799 --> 00:32:40.099
 therefore under the

00:32:40.099 --> 00:32:41.039
 mighty hand of God

00:32:41.039 --> 00:32:41.859
 so that at the

00:32:41.859 --> 00:32:43.740
 proper time he may

00:32:43.740 --> 00:32:44.799
 exalt you.

00:32:46.559 --> 00:32:48.240
 At the proper time he

00:32:48.240 --> 00:32:49.400
 will exalt you.

00:32:50.500 --> 00:32:51.619
 As we live in humble

00:32:51.619 --> 00:32:52.819
 dependence upon God,

00:32:53.700 --> 00:32:54.519
 he'll supply us with

00:32:54.519 --> 00:32:57.140
 everything we need to

00:32:57.140 --> 00:32:57.900
 obey him in this

00:32:57.900 --> 00:32:58.140
 matter.

00:32:59.140 --> 00:32:59.900
 One of the things that

00:32:59.900 --> 00:33:02.000
 God will supply us is

00:33:02.000 --> 00:33:03.879
 the Holy Spirit who

00:33:03.879 --> 00:33:05.660
 lives in us if we're

00:33:05.660 --> 00:33:06.039
 Christians.

00:33:06.039 --> 00:33:08.259
 It's the Holy Spirit's

00:33:08.259 --> 00:33:10.339
 work to give us

00:33:10.339 --> 00:33:11.899
 desires and then give

00:33:11.899 --> 00:33:14.680
 us the ability to live

00:33:14.680 --> 00:33:15.339
 this kind of life.

00:33:16.619 --> 00:33:18.200
 In fact, Paul describes

00:33:18.200 --> 00:33:18.759
 the work of the Holy

00:33:18.759 --> 00:33:19.700
 Spirit, he talks about

00:33:19.700 --> 00:33:20.619
 the fruit of the Spirit.

00:33:21.700 --> 00:33:22.579
 Some people describe the

00:33:22.579 --> 00:33:23.420
 fruit of the Spirit as the

00:33:23.420 --> 00:33:24.220
 character of Jesus.

00:33:24.639 --> 00:33:25.119
 It's in Galatians

00:33:25.119 --> 00:33:25.819
 chapter 5.

00:33:25.960 --> 00:33:27.019
 The fruit of the Spirit is

00:33:27.019 --> 00:33:28.539
 love, joy, peace,

00:33:28.700 --> 00:33:29.599
 patience, kindness,

00:33:30.440 --> 00:33:31.680
 goodness, faithfulness,

00:33:31.799 --> 00:33:33.180
 gentleness, self-control,

00:33:33.299 --> 00:33:34.079
 these kind of things.

00:33:34.079 --> 00:33:35.240
 If we're Christians, the

00:33:35.240 --> 00:33:36.240
 Spirit of God works within

00:33:36.240 --> 00:33:38.899
 us to help us to develop.

00:33:39.019 --> 00:33:40.740
 It's a lifetime endeavor to

00:33:40.740 --> 00:33:42.399
 help us develop this kind

00:33:42.399 --> 00:33:43.000
 of character.

00:33:43.679 --> 00:33:45.220
 And by God's grace, we can

00:33:45.220 --> 00:33:48.699
 make progress over time,

00:33:50.059 --> 00:33:50.980
 trial and error.

00:33:52.819 --> 00:33:54.099
 Like Swindoll says, three

00:33:54.099 --> 00:33:55.220
 steps forward, two steps

00:33:55.220 --> 00:33:55.619
 back.

00:33:56.379 --> 00:33:57.659
 But even that is progress.

00:33:57.660 --> 00:34:00.060
 Now, based on what you see

00:34:00.060 --> 00:34:01.620
 in this passage about

00:34:01.620 --> 00:34:04.460
 growing closer together as a

00:34:04.460 --> 00:34:09.460
 real church family, what do

00:34:09.460 --> 00:34:10.360
 you need to do to make this

00:34:10.360 --> 00:34:12.519
 happen here in our church?

00:34:14.099 --> 00:34:16.019
 Or if God's spoken to you

00:34:16.019 --> 00:34:20.920
 about making your home a

00:34:20.920 --> 00:34:23.940
 closer-knit family, what do

00:34:23.940 --> 00:34:24.480
 you need to do?

00:34:24.480 --> 00:34:28.159
 Would we be a closer

00:34:28.159 --> 00:34:30.460
 church family if you would

00:34:30.460 --> 00:34:33.039
 stop talking negatively or

00:34:33.039 --> 00:34:35.920
 critically about other

00:34:35.920 --> 00:34:36.500
 church members?

00:34:39.139 --> 00:34:40.740
 Would we be a stronger,

00:34:41.139 --> 00:34:42.460
 closer-knit church family if

00:34:42.460 --> 00:34:44.519
 you'd start saying positive

00:34:44.519 --> 00:34:44.880
 things?

00:34:44.940 --> 00:34:46.740
 Go out of your way to affirm

00:34:46.740 --> 00:34:47.179
 people.

00:34:48.860 --> 00:34:50.119
 Would your home be better?

00:34:50.119 --> 00:34:53.920
 Would your home be better if

00:34:53.920 --> 00:34:55.159
 you just stopped that

00:34:55.159 --> 00:35:00.599
 negative complaining, fighting

00:35:00.599 --> 00:35:01.699
 with your brother or sister,

00:35:03.359 --> 00:35:04.779
 whining to your parents,

00:35:06.500 --> 00:35:07.339
 disobeying them?

00:35:09.519 --> 00:35:10.900
 Would we be a closer church

00:35:10.900 --> 00:35:13.539
 family if you'd stop promoting

00:35:13.539 --> 00:35:14.679
 yourself, trying to call

00:35:14.679 --> 00:35:15.659
 attention to yourself?

00:35:15.659 --> 00:35:21.940
 Would your home be stronger if

00:35:21.940 --> 00:35:22.599
 you didn't try to make

00:35:22.599 --> 00:35:24.039
 everything about you?

00:35:25.879 --> 00:35:27.239
 Would we be a closer church

00:35:27.239 --> 00:35:29.259
 family if you started paying

00:35:29.259 --> 00:35:30.279
 attention to other people?

00:35:32.239 --> 00:35:35.339
 Noticing something's not quite

00:35:35.339 --> 00:35:35.739
 right.

00:35:37.099 --> 00:35:38.500
 And because you love them and

00:35:38.500 --> 00:35:39.500
 you care about them, you sort

00:35:39.500 --> 00:35:41.139
 of, you try to inquire, is

00:35:41.139 --> 00:35:41.920
 there something wrong?

00:35:42.179 --> 00:35:43.420
 Is there something I could help

00:35:43.420 --> 00:35:43.940
 you with?

00:35:46.420 --> 00:35:47.400
 And then you do.

00:35:49.000 --> 00:35:50.200
 Would our church family be a

00:35:50.200 --> 00:35:54.099
 stronger church family if we

00:35:54.099 --> 00:35:57.220
 would inconvenience ourselves

00:35:57.220 --> 00:35:58.159
 for the benefit of somebody

00:35:58.159 --> 00:35:58.460
 else?

00:36:00.180 --> 00:36:02.159
 Even make sacrifices of our

00:36:02.159 --> 00:36:07.059
 time to serve somebody else, a

00:36:07.059 --> 00:36:07.820
 brother or sister?

00:36:09.400 --> 00:36:10.579
 I want you to think about it.

00:36:10.579 --> 00:36:13.880
 What is God calling you to do or

00:36:13.880 --> 00:36:17.299
 stop doing to make us a closer

00:36:17.299 --> 00:36:18.119
 church family?

00:36:20.179 --> 00:36:21.500
 Well, I want to encourage you to

00:36:21.500 --> 00:36:22.559
 obey Him.

00:36:23.779 --> 00:36:26.340
 And then, what's the Lord calling

00:36:26.340 --> 00:36:30.159
 you to do or stop doing to make

00:36:30.159 --> 00:36:35.259
 your home a closer-knit family?

00:36:36.900 --> 00:36:38.079
 Make that commitment.

00:36:38.079 --> 00:36:40.819
 It won't be easy.

00:36:42.039 --> 00:36:43.719
 By God's grace, the indwelling

00:36:43.719 --> 00:36:49.639
 Spirit of God, you can be the kind

00:36:49.639 --> 00:36:52.299
 of church brother or sister that we

00:36:52.299 --> 00:36:52.679
 need.

00:36:53.679 --> 00:36:58.519
 You can be the loving member of your

00:36:58.519 --> 00:37:03.219
 home family that everyone needs and

00:37:03.219 --> 00:37:03.860
 wants you to be.

00:37:03.860 --> 00:37:06.860
 Let's pray and ask God to help us be

00:37:06.860 --> 00:37:07.059
 there.

00:37:07.400 --> 00:37:08.079
 Would you join with me?

00:37:08.500 --> 00:37:12.360
 Dear God, help us to see right now how

00:37:12.360 --> 00:37:16.340
 we should respond to you so that we can

00:37:16.340 --> 00:37:22.300
 be contributing family members to a

00:37:22.300 --> 00:37:29.019
 close, loving, serving together.

00:37:29.019 --> 00:37:32.440
 church family call, pickings first

00:37:32.440 --> 00:37:32.800
 Baptist.

00:37:35.800 --> 00:37:38.900
 And then, Father, show us parents,

00:37:39.079 --> 00:37:42.940
 children, siblings, how we should

00:37:42.940 --> 00:37:47.800
 respond to make our homes better, more

00:37:47.800 --> 00:37:50.280
 positive, more loving.

00:37:50.280 --> 00:37:57.860
 Let's listen to the Lord and obey Him as

00:37:57.860 --> 00:37:59.660
 we just go through a time, attitude of

00:37:59.660 --> 00:38:02.460
 prayer, listen to God, take it seriously,

00:38:03.340 --> 00:38:04.260
 and respond to Him.

00:38:04.260 --> 00:38:06.800
 to God so far, listen to God.

00:38:06.800 --> 00:38:10.240
 Right now, today, we need some

00:38:10.240 --> 00:38:14.600
 things.

00:38:14.600 --> 00:38:16.640
 Come with us.

00:38:16.640 --> 00:38:17.700
 Welcome to God.

00:38:17.780 --> 00:38:20.120
 Let's pray for us.

00:38:20.140 --> 00:38:21.820
 And that's right for you.

00:38:23.180 --> 00:38:23.600
 Let's pray.

00:38:23.820 --> 00:38:23.960
 Will —

00:38:23.960 --> 00:38:26.040
 Please go ahead.

00:38:26.260 --> 00:38:27.480
 And there's not as is,

00:38:27.480 --> 00:38:28.360
 you know?

00:38:29.260 --> 00:38:29.700
 Oh,

00:38:29.700 --> 00:38:30.260
 good reason.

00:38:30.380 --> 00:38:31.260
 Just do love for you able to

00:38:31.260 --> 00:38:31.900
 to transform.