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 I've been going through a series here talking a little bit about family and the household

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! And just even those principles that we've been looking at, you need to understand also apply

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! in other areas of our lives. But we need to understand the importance of marriage, the

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 importance of family. In that we've been understanding this through the context of Psalm 127 where

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 it says, except the Lord build the house. The Lord needs to be centerpiece in the home. And from the

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 very beginning, when the Lord joined Adam and Eve together in the garden, He established something

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 not only for their good and protection, but something that was a benefit for us even today,

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 for our benefit and for our protection. And it's a bond worthy of our devotion and worth guarding

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 with our heart. And that's what marriage is, a covenant that asks each of us to lay aside what's

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 best for ourselves and consider the other instead. You know, because as we think about this idea,

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 we're going to talk this morning about serving one another in love. Now here's another principle that

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 applies to anybody when it comes to serving. But this morning we're going to look specifically within

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 marriage and the dynamics of that applying to us because what does it mean to serve your spouse?

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 You know, have you really stopped to consider that in your relationship? What does it mean to serve

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 your spouse? Have you ever noticed that serving another seems to come unnaturally to us? Because

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 naturally instead of having a heart for service, we have a heart of selfishness, don't we?

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 You know, we desire to protect ourselves what's best for us? Because I want you to understand and just think

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 for a moment, could it be that the problem is not the serving but the source from what you're trying to serve?

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 Because if we try to serve out of our own selves, our heart is always selfish of what benefit am I getting

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 from this? What am I going to gain by this? In a marriage, I want you to understand, it's kind of like a

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 two-person team. You know, there's a lot of two-person team activities out there. But one thing you'll

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 notice that whether it's, if you've ever played ping pong with two people or tennis or other games,

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 you know, when you see that, what happens if both of them try to fight for the ball every time?

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 How successful are they? It fails pretty quick, doesn't it? You know, oftentimes, you know, we've been,

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 our grandkids are getting a little older now and we're going back to watching youth sports again.

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 And the one thing about youth sports that I found out is I don't even call it a game, I just call it

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 bunch ball. Because you throw a ball on the field and they all bunch to it. Doesn't matter what it is,

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 they all grab together and bunch together on it. But what are you trying to teach them? That they have

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 to do what? They have to serve one another by being where they're supposed to be doing what they're

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 supposed to do. Because if we all try to compete with one another, your team is going to do what?

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 It'll lose. It'll be the loss. In a relationship, the same is true. If you're both trying to compete,

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 compete, it's going to be a losing proposition. Because I want you to understand, God did not

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 design marriage as a competition. But oftentimes, people enter into it with that mindset. You know,

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 when we see that is in that dynamic is very important because when both are willing to set

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 the other up for success, you know what? The team wins. A marriage wins when once, when they serve one

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 another for each other's benefits. And we understand that, that's that championship mindset of saying, I

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 want a team that's going to win. That means we need to serve correctly. To be in our place doing what we're

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 supposed to do in the relationship. And to understand the importance of it because, but I want you to know that

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 teamwork alone is not enough. Because the question is not only whether we are serving, but the source from which

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 we serve. Because as a servant in marriage, a servant-based marriage draws its strength, not from yourself, but from

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 Christ. Because if your relationship with Christ isn't right, you know what? You're going to have a hard time having a

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 relationship in a marriage that's right. There's going to be a conflict that's going on always behind the background.

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 And that dynamic is important this morning as we look together in this, as we take a look over here.

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 Look over to Galatians chapter 5. Let's stand together this morning. As we look here, Galatians chapter 5

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 in verse 13 tells us this. It says,

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 Let's pray.

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 Heavenly Father, Heavenly Father, as we come before you this morning, Lord, as we take a look a few moments in this

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 reality of service and the opportunity that we have, Lord, we pray to you with the work and hearts

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 here this morning, Lord, that we might consider, are we serving, are we doing what we ought to do for the

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 right reasons? Lord, it is not selfish motivated, but out of love motivated. Lord, to love others just as

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 you loved us. And Lord, as we look at this reality here this morning, Lord, you might just stir our hearts

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 and our minds here this morning to contemplate the reality of it and where we stand with you.

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 And Lord, that we might not just think about it, but Lord, we might respond to it. Lord, to understand

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 the need that is involved in actually doing what you would want us to do. And Lord, we ask these things

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 here this morning in Jesus' name. Amen. You may be seated. You know, we find here in our text, Paul,

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 the Apostles, he's writing to a church at Galatia that's in an argument and a discussion about things,

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 and he's beginning looking here because they're talking about salvation in Galatians, the argument

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 of how is one saved. But I want you to understand is he says that we've been called to liberty.

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 When you're saved, you are set free from the bondage of sin. You're at liberty. Now, this liberty,

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 he points out very quickly, and he warns this just a little later, that freedom can turn towards the

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 flesh. Because a little later in Galatians, he talks about those things of being self-seeking and

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 strife and envy. I want you to understand, God doesn't set us free so we can go to those things.

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 He sets us free that we might be apart from them. And when we understand this principle that he's

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 pointed out here, we're called to liberty and to use that liberty to serve one another in love.

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 That liberty is not, what is it in it for me? You know, that's a modern concept of liberty.

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 Liberty, how do I gain from this? Where a biblical concept of liberty is how do I use my freedom

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 for the benefit of others? How do I use what Christ has given to me for somebody else?

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 Because just as he purchased us on the cross, as we'll look a little later, is the reality,

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 he set us free. And he did that not out of self-seeking for himself, but for our benefit.

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 He set us free. And we see here this morning that proper use of liberty to serve one another in love

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 is something that transforms a marriage. It transforms a marriage. The same liberty purchased

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 that Christ purchased for us at the cross is the liberty that he calls us to spend loving one another.

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 And it begins in your own home. You know, it begins right where you're at. You know, oftentimes people

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 take a lot of time to look outside. What can I do? How can I do this someplace else? But you know where

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 it begins? It begins at home. Because what you're not willing to do at home, you're not willing to do

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 truly someplace else. Because home is actually the hardest part, isn't it? You know, sometimes it's

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 easier to serve strangers than to somebody that you're living with. It becomes a problem because

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 as we notice here, service is the proper use of our freedom in Christ. You know, look again there at

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 verse 13. Notice what he tells us here. And he says this, and for brethren, ye have been called unto

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 liberty, only use not liberty for the occasion to the flesh. You know, the liberty Paul speaks about

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 here is freedom from the law's condemnation. But he immediately turns that freedom of what's been

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 given inwardly to an outward expression of it, to understand what's been transformed. Because true

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 Christian liberty doesn't curve inward towards self, it curves outwards towards others. And in marriage,

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 that's an important thing. This means using the freedom he's given you not to demand your rights.

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 You know, that's a concept we use quite a bit, isn't it? I am free, so therefore you must.

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 God says you've been set free, now lay them down for the benefit of others. You have now the freedom

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 of how you're going to use that liberty, of how you're going to employ that in the life. Because

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 today we face with radical individualism. You know, that's our concept. Especially in America,

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 we have a very radical idea of individualism. You know, I pulled myself up by my bootstraps. I did this,

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 I did that. You know, we have an eye problem. Because it's all about me. We live a generation,

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 it's a me generation. You know, the cultural script says you need to come first, your identity is your own,

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 and sacrificing for another person is optional or situational depending on how it benefits you.

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 You know, oftentimes we carry those same concepts into a relationship and then wonder why it

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 struggles. Somebody that you said you want to love and to honor and to cherish and want to be with

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 becomes instead of mutual benefit, becomes how does this relationship benefit me? And that's the

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 reason we see a high divorce rate. Because it's not about the other person, it's about self. As soon

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 as it becomes uncomfortable for self, it's time to go. And you'll see that a lot in relationships today.

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 And this assumption is not neutral. It's a direct antithesis of Galatians chapter 5 here when Paul

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 says use not your liberty for an occasion to the flesh. He's describing to us precisely what

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 individualism does. It takes freedom and turns it inward. You know, we understand that self-gratification,

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 self-preservation. But here he tells us to do what to love one another. To understand the importance

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 of this picture, he says, notice in verse 13, but by love serve one another. By love serve one another.

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 In other words, he says the liberty you have ought to be used for the benefit of others also.

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 Liberty is not something that's designed to be consumed upon yourself.

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 Because that leads you into places that you're going to get in trouble. You know, think about even

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 Jesus here this morning. You know, over in John chapter 13, here we find Jesus does something

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 for his disciples that's outside their mindset of how it works. It's contrary to how they think.

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 Because what takes place is as they sit around getting ready for a meal.

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 As the meal gets done, what happens? Jesus gets up and he puts a towel about himself and he kneels down

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 and he washes their feet. Now, culturally, that doesn't mean much to us today. You know,

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 there's some people that take that and they want it. Well, in church, you ought to wash one another's

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 feet. And I'm like, nah.

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 But I want you to understand the cultural picture. Because what was custom in the day was that when

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 you had guests in your home, the lowest servant, that was their job, was to wash the guests' feet

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 when they came in. It was considered the lowest position. I think we can all agree that's a pretty

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 low position of servanthood. But here's the one who created the universe, gets up, and he puts

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 himself voluntarily in this position to do something as a servant to his disciples.

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 And we see that picture. And if you look there in John chapter 13, it tells us this in verse 14. It

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 says, if I then also, notice this, your Lord and Master have washed your feet, ye also ought to wash

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 one another's feet. For I have given you an example that you should do as I have done to you. Now,

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 notice the context here. He says, this is, verily, verily, I say unto you, the servant is not greater

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 than his Lord, neither he that is sent greater than he that sent him. If you know these things,

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 happy are ye if you do them. Now, I want you to understand here, Jesus isn't saying you ought to

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 wash people's feet. He's used that as a picture, an illustration to say, you ought to be able to

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 serve whatever it takes for the benefit of another. Even if you think it's below you.

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 Does America have a problem with that concept?

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 I can't do that.

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 When you think about the one who is Lord and Master, I'm going to say, I'm going to give

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 you an example of serving one another. And knelt down and washed those who were following

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 him. He displayed exactly what it means to love somebody else. To say, I don't care what the level

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 or what the dynamic is. You know, when we consider that question, are you using the freedom God has

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 given you, your time, your energy, and your gifts to serve the one that you're married to? Or serve

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 others? You know? Or are they quietly being consumed by your own comfort and preference?

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 You know, today we have a lot of people who are even believers who say, I'll serve God as long as

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 it's convenient. I'll serve God as long as it promotes me. As long as it shows for something that I'm going

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 to benefit. You know what? Jesus said, the best servants are those who aren't self-seeking in glory.

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 But by love, serve one another. Service isn't self-promotion. You know, have you noticed today

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 there's a lot of people who do things to try to promote, well, look how much I can put on my resume.

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 I served here. I did this. I did that.

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 All, they serve not for the benefit of what they're serving. They serve for the benefit of

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 themselves to say, hey, look what I did. Look what I'm a part of. That's not in love, by love,

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 serving one another. That's an application that we need to understand. Now, number two here this morning

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 is simply this, service fulfills God's law of love. You know, to serve one another is not a self-focus,

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 but it's serving is that display of God's love. It fulfills God's law of love.

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 You think about it, what did Jesus tell us? What does the apostle write here? You'll find this theme

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 throughout scripture. This concept is not a New Testament concept. Because take a look here,

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 look at our text first, and then we'll look in the Old Testament for a moment. But notice what verse

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 14 says, for all the law is fulfilled in one word, even this, thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.

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 Now, Paul's telling them that in this context of liberty. To understand that picture he's quoting

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 here from the Old Testament. You know, he's quoting the Old Testament back in Leviticus chapter 19.

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 Leviticus chapter 19 and verse 18 tells us this. God's commanding his people.

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 And he says this, thou shalt not avenge nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people.

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 Think about the context of what he's saying this. He's saying even if somebody else isn't doing what

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 they're supposed to do. Because isn't that a concept we talked about a few weeks ago?

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 The reality, oftentimes people enter into marriage to say, I will do this as long as it benefits me.

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 What's my benefit? And he says, thou shalt not avenge or bear any grudge against the people,

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 the children of thy people, but thou shalt what? Shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.

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 Paul's context here is from an Old Testament context. It says, liberty allows you to love and to serve

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 despite what somebody else does. Today, our basis of love often is what is my benefit instead of how

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 can I use what I have in Christ for the benefit of others? To serve one another. You know,

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 let me ask you a question. When it comes to this context, in marriage, who's your closest neighbor?

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 Very simply, it's the one that you lay down to by each night, isn't it?

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 You don't get much closer than that.

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 You know, we don't often think or talk our concept that in that reality, but that's the application,

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 the first application of the principle. Because you know what? Oftentimes, there's problems within

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 a marriage. And there's going to, when you have two people together, you're going to have problems.

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 Liberty allows you to work through them properly.

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 To not be hindered by a grudge or try to avenge. You know, that's trying to get even.

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 That's a contest. And you know what? The people I've seen and I've counseled and I've talked to in

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 life about when they're having trouble in marriage, you know what one of the biggest things is?

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 Is, well, they did that. You know what? If you lived with somebody, you know, if you lived it yourself,

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 you'd be upset pretty soon. Because trust me, you're not the perfect part of the

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 relationship.

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 The point isn't being perfect. The point is saying, Christ has set me free.

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 I'm at liberty to love

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 them properly.

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 That's a choice of what you're going to do

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 with that. Because when you think about our culture today,

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 people enter into a marriage

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 marriage as this 50-50 model.

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 You know, that's one of those things people got to get rid of is this 50-50 mindset.

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 Well, we're entering to a 50-50, we're going to make 100.

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 I want you to understand that starts things off on the wrong dynamic.

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 Because what it says, as long as each of you contributes equally and have the rights and

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 responsibilities are balanced and the relationship is evaluated by whether both parties are getting

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 what they deserve.

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 Now, in your mind, in contract, that sounds reasonable.

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 The reality, we already talked about that, marriage is not a contract.

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 You're not dealing in contract law.

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 Contract law says, I said, I agree to this if you do this.

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 Covenant says, I'm all in no matter what you do.

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 That's a thought process difference.

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 And that's where the devil loves to twist

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 because even though it sounds reasonable,

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 but what a 50-50 relationship does,

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 it produces a scorecard.

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 It starts keeping track and tally.

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 You know, when you sit down with a couple

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 that's having a marriage, it's amazing.

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 They pull out their scorecard.

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 It might not be a physical scorecard,

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 but you know what?

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 As soon as they start talking, it's a scorecard.

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 They didn't do this.

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 They didn't do this.

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 Or they did that.

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 They did this over here.

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 It's like,

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 you're focusing on the wrong elements here.

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 You're saying,

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 they didn't fulfill their end of the contract.

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 But remember,

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 when you got married,

00:23:35.740 --> 00:23:36.939
 you didn't enter into contract.

00:23:40.740 --> 00:23:42.179
 You entered into a covenant.

00:23:46.019 --> 00:23:48.579
 Two totally different things.

00:23:50.500 --> 00:23:52.759
 And when we understand the picture here,

00:23:52.859 --> 00:23:55.299
 because a servant-type marriage

00:23:55.299 --> 00:23:58.659
 that Paul describes here is not doing math.

00:23:58.720 --> 00:23:59.379
 It's asking,

00:23:59.680 --> 00:24:01.099
 what more can I give?

00:24:03.079 --> 00:24:03.399
 You know,

00:24:03.419 --> 00:24:05.139
 take a look over in the book of Philippians

00:24:05.139 --> 00:24:05.740
 for a moment.

00:24:06.619 --> 00:24:07.940
 Philippians chapter 2.

00:24:09.220 --> 00:24:09.700
 You know,

00:24:09.740 --> 00:24:11.119
 Philippians chapter 2

00:24:11.119 --> 00:24:13.720
 tells us here something very important.

00:24:13.720 --> 00:24:27.240
 Philippians chapter 2.

00:24:27.319 --> 00:24:28.839
 Look down at verses 3 and 4.

00:24:30.100 --> 00:24:31.360
 Notice what he tells us.

00:24:31.559 --> 00:24:31.559


00:24:31.640 --> 00:24:34.339
 let nothing be done through strife or vainglory,

00:24:34.900 --> 00:24:36.759
 but in lowliness of mind,

00:24:36.860 --> 00:24:38.019
 let each do what?

00:24:38.279 --> 00:24:40.660
 Esteem the other better than themselves.

00:24:40.660 --> 00:24:45.080
 Look not every man on his own things,

00:24:45.180 --> 00:24:50.340
 but let every man also on the things of others.

00:24:50.680 --> 00:24:54.360
 To esteem the other better than themselves.

00:24:55.720 --> 00:24:58.759
 Marriage is never meant to be a partnership of halves.

00:24:59.640 --> 00:25:02.940
 It's not a 50 from you and 50 from the other.

00:25:03.259 --> 00:25:05.660
 It's a covenant that calls one to 100%.

00:25:06.500 --> 00:25:09.740
 Because if you enter in with a balance sheet,

00:25:09.740 --> 00:25:11.859
 you know what follows a balance sheet in marriage?

00:25:12.460 --> 00:25:12.900
 Resentment.

00:25:14.859 --> 00:25:16.319
 You know what else follows it?

00:25:16.500 --> 00:25:17.460
 You have resentment,

00:25:17.640 --> 00:25:18.579
 then you have bitterness.

00:25:20.700 --> 00:25:21.640
 Then what do you have?

00:25:21.700 --> 00:25:22.380
 You have anger.

00:25:26.259 --> 00:25:28.039
 Are any of those beneficial for you?

00:25:30.079 --> 00:25:31.539
 Are any of those beneficial?

00:25:31.539 --> 00:25:36.059
 When we understand what Christ is,

00:25:36.960 --> 00:25:39.059
 when loving us like Christ loved us,

00:25:39.079 --> 00:25:39.779
 it's important.

00:25:40.119 --> 00:25:42.759
 Because when we consider that dynamic,

00:25:42.920 --> 00:25:43.240
 you know,

00:25:43.480 --> 00:25:45.319
 and understand the picture,

00:25:45.819 --> 00:25:48.879
 what is the one need your spouse has

00:25:48.879 --> 00:25:50.480
 that you've stopped noticing?

00:25:50.700 --> 00:25:50.899
 You know,

00:25:51.119 --> 00:25:53.639
 sometimes it's easy when you hang out with somebody all the time

00:25:53.639 --> 00:25:54.659
 to start missing things.

00:25:54.660 --> 00:25:57.640
 You know,

00:25:57.680 --> 00:25:59.160
 one thing I want to encourage you today,

00:25:59.240 --> 00:26:00.019
 if you're married,

00:26:00.380 --> 00:26:03.300
 find out what you can do for your spouse this week.

00:26:04.080 --> 00:26:06.060
 Something that you may have forgotten about.

00:26:06.779 --> 00:26:07.019
 You say,

00:26:07.100 --> 00:26:07.340
 preacher,

00:26:07.500 --> 00:26:08.620
 now you're getting uncomfortable.

00:26:08.619 --> 00:26:17.739
 You've got to remember,

00:26:17.799 --> 00:26:18.599
 I've got to go home too.

00:26:24.279 --> 00:26:26.099
 It's not any more uncomfortable for me

00:26:26.099 --> 00:26:26.959
 than it is for you.

00:26:30.500 --> 00:26:31.099
 But you know,

00:26:31.199 --> 00:26:32.279
 it makes a difference

00:26:32.279 --> 00:26:34.419
 because I want you to understand

00:26:34.419 --> 00:26:36.219
 when you do something out of love,

00:26:36.279 --> 00:26:37.519
 it doesn't go unnoticed,

00:26:37.519 --> 00:26:39.519
 even if the other person doesn't take note,

00:26:40.579 --> 00:26:41.799
 God still takes note.

00:26:43.359 --> 00:26:45.619
 God recognizes what you're doing.

00:26:46.779 --> 00:26:48.259
 So understand here next,

00:26:48.259 --> 00:26:49.639
 the mutual service

00:26:49.639 --> 00:26:51.379
 builds a strong,

00:26:51.539 --> 00:26:53.359
 wholehearted marriage.

00:26:54.599 --> 00:26:54.799
 You know,

00:26:54.940 --> 00:26:56.339
 builds a strong,

00:26:56.480 --> 00:26:57.599
 wholehearted marriage.

00:26:58.099 --> 00:26:58.319
 You know,

00:26:58.339 --> 00:26:59.579
 as we look here this morning,

00:26:59.639 --> 00:27:00.299
 I want you to understand,

00:27:00.379 --> 00:27:02.720
 look back at verse 13 again.

00:27:02.960 --> 00:27:04.299
 And it tells us this,

00:27:04.559 --> 00:27:05.039
 it says,

00:27:05.160 --> 00:27:05.680
 for brethren,

00:27:05.779 --> 00:27:07.059
 you have been called unto liberty,

00:27:07.059 --> 00:27:09.019
 but only use not liberty

00:27:09.019 --> 00:27:11.539
 for an occasion to the flesh.

00:27:12.019 --> 00:27:12.240
 You know,

00:27:12.279 --> 00:27:13.379
 that's just like we read here

00:27:13.379 --> 00:27:14.579
 a few moments ago

00:27:14.579 --> 00:27:16.099
 in Philippians chapter 2.

00:27:16.519 --> 00:27:17.879
 Let nothing be done

00:27:17.879 --> 00:27:19.259
 through strife or what?

00:27:19.919 --> 00:27:20.480
 Vainglory.

00:27:20.539 --> 00:27:21.440
 What's vainglory?

00:27:26.379 --> 00:27:27.460
 That's a good question.

00:27:31.460 --> 00:27:32.059
 Empty glory.

00:27:32.059 --> 00:27:32.740
 glory.

00:27:32.740 --> 00:27:34.299
 What's empty when we spend it

00:27:34.299 --> 00:27:36.019
 on ourselves?

00:27:38.179 --> 00:27:39.700
 Whether that's in marriage,

00:27:39.839 --> 00:27:40.819
 whether that's a personal,

00:27:40.980 --> 00:27:41.799
 any dynamic,

00:27:42.639 --> 00:27:43.460
 vainglory,

00:27:43.659 --> 00:27:44.839
 empty glory is saying,

00:27:45.159 --> 00:27:47.919
 I want to be magnified

00:27:47.919 --> 00:27:49.259
 or lifted up.

00:27:50.139 --> 00:27:52.059
 When Christ set us free,

00:27:52.220 --> 00:27:53.419
 what does that do for us?

00:27:54.099 --> 00:27:54.839
 It says,

00:27:55.039 --> 00:27:56.039
 for His glory,

00:27:56.200 --> 00:27:57.940
 Him to be glorified

00:27:57.940 --> 00:27:59.159
 in us.

00:27:59.160 --> 00:28:00.880
 And when we understand

00:28:00.880 --> 00:28:01.700
 that picture

00:28:01.700 --> 00:28:03.840
 and get the right perspective,

00:28:04.040 --> 00:28:05.220
 it makes a difference.

00:28:05.620 --> 00:28:06.880
 When both the husband

00:28:06.880 --> 00:28:08.460
 and wife are competing

00:28:08.460 --> 00:28:10.480
 to out-serve the other,

00:28:10.820 --> 00:28:12.259
 it changes something.

00:28:13.259 --> 00:28:13.480
 You know,

00:28:13.519 --> 00:28:15.279
 the conflict deflates,

00:28:15.660 --> 00:28:17.120
 the intimacy deepens.

00:28:17.480 --> 00:28:17.740
 You know,

00:28:17.800 --> 00:28:18.680
 when we understand,

00:28:18.900 --> 00:28:21.080
 it helps you serve together.

00:28:22.000 --> 00:28:24.180
 Because mutual service

00:28:24.180 --> 00:28:25.120
 builds a strong,

00:28:25.279 --> 00:28:26.880
 wholehearted marriage.

00:28:26.880 --> 00:28:28.580
 Serving together.

00:28:29.640 --> 00:28:30.720
 Loving together.

00:28:31.240 --> 00:28:32.260
 Doing together.

00:28:35.460 --> 00:28:36.840
 It makes a difference

00:28:36.840 --> 00:28:38.080
 when people invest

00:28:38.080 --> 00:28:39.080
 in that.

00:28:39.200 --> 00:28:39.440
 You know,

00:28:39.660 --> 00:28:41.400
 we have a great model of this

00:28:41.400 --> 00:28:42.240
 within the Scripture.

00:28:42.380 --> 00:28:43.020
 You have a couple

00:28:43.020 --> 00:28:45.060
 by the name of Aquila and Priscilla.

00:28:47.700 --> 00:28:49.200
 They're the only couple

00:28:49.200 --> 00:28:49.820
 in the Bible

00:28:49.820 --> 00:28:51.480
 that's always mentioned together.

00:28:51.480 --> 00:28:55.920
 Where you find one,

00:28:56.000 --> 00:28:57.539
 you always find the other.

00:29:01.039 --> 00:29:01.599
 Interesting.

00:29:03.079 --> 00:29:04.360
 But you know what they did?

00:29:04.440 --> 00:29:07.240
 They served the Lord together.

00:29:08.700 --> 00:29:10.599
 They were there together.

00:29:10.799 --> 00:29:11.339
 It wasn't,

00:29:11.799 --> 00:29:11.980
 well,

00:29:12.120 --> 00:29:13.039
 one does this

00:29:13.039 --> 00:29:14.079
 and the other does that.

00:29:14.140 --> 00:29:15.480
 It said they were serving together.

00:29:15.480 --> 00:29:16.200
 together.

00:29:18.200 --> 00:29:19.400
 To understand

00:29:19.400 --> 00:29:20.460
 that picture

00:29:20.460 --> 00:29:21.740
 of working together.

00:29:22.220 --> 00:29:22.620
 They never,

00:29:22.720 --> 00:29:23.680
 it's never recorded

00:29:23.680 --> 00:29:24.839
 that they were competing

00:29:24.839 --> 00:29:26.019
 for credit.

00:29:27.180 --> 00:29:27.460
 You know,

00:29:27.640 --> 00:29:28.700
 of how one was serving.

00:29:28.819 --> 00:29:29.140
 It was just,

00:29:29.380 --> 00:29:30.940
 there was a mutual dynamic.

00:29:33.759 --> 00:29:34.779
 But I want you

00:29:34.779 --> 00:29:35.940
 to understand today

00:29:35.940 --> 00:29:37.180
 that many times

00:29:37.180 --> 00:29:40.019
 I believe people

00:29:40.019 --> 00:29:40.660
 are genuinely

00:29:40.660 --> 00:29:41.900
 trying to serve.

00:29:41.900 --> 00:29:44.380
 but the problem is

00:29:44.380 --> 00:29:44.780
 oftentimes

00:29:44.780 --> 00:29:45.800
 we run on empty.

00:29:47.240 --> 00:29:48.640
 We feel exhausted.

00:29:49.540 --> 00:29:49.700
 You know,

00:29:49.720 --> 00:29:50.580
 you think about today,

00:29:50.660 --> 00:29:52.280
 you have two income households,

00:29:52.780 --> 00:29:53.640
 youth sports

00:29:53.640 --> 00:29:54.740
 that want to run

00:29:54.740 --> 00:29:56.019
 seven days a week,

00:29:56.380 --> 00:29:57.080
 a smartphone

00:29:57.080 --> 00:29:57.960
 that demands

00:29:57.960 --> 00:29:58.680
 your attention,

00:29:59.080 --> 00:30:00.360
 a general exhaustion

00:30:00.360 --> 00:30:01.420
 of modern life

00:30:01.420 --> 00:30:02.420
 means that patience

00:30:02.420 --> 00:30:03.340
 and generosity

00:30:03.340 --> 00:30:05.140
 are the first casualties

00:30:05.140 --> 00:30:06.640
 of a tired evening

00:30:06.640 --> 00:30:07.220
 at home.

00:30:09.019 --> 00:30:10.060
 You're so done

00:30:10.060 --> 00:30:11.080
 before you get there

00:30:11.079 --> 00:30:12.139
 you don't even realize

00:30:12.139 --> 00:30:12.799
 what's happening.

00:30:13.980 --> 00:30:15.139
 You're exhausted

00:30:15.139 --> 00:30:21.039
 and when somebody,

00:30:21.279 --> 00:30:22.399
 when the mindset is

00:30:22.399 --> 00:30:23.799
 and the reality sets in

00:30:23.799 --> 00:30:24.839
 that I still have

00:30:24.839 --> 00:30:25.980
 a responsibility

00:30:25.980 --> 00:30:27.379
 to love,

00:30:28.099 --> 00:30:30.639
 it's difficult.

00:30:32.539 --> 00:30:33.960
 I want you to understand

00:30:33.960 --> 00:30:35.139
 this isn't necessarily

00:30:35.139 --> 00:30:36.500
 a character problem

00:30:36.500 --> 00:30:39.000
 but it's a depletion problem.

00:30:39.000 --> 00:30:42.259
 when you run

00:30:42.259 --> 00:30:43.059
 your life

00:30:43.059 --> 00:30:43.720
 on empty.

00:30:44.759 --> 00:30:45.680
 The answer

00:30:45.680 --> 00:30:46.220
 is not

00:30:46.220 --> 00:30:47.299
 to try harder

00:30:47.299 --> 00:30:48.480
 but the answer

00:30:48.480 --> 00:30:49.240
 is to draw

00:30:49.240 --> 00:30:50.099
 more deeply

00:30:50.099 --> 00:30:50.960
 from the one

00:30:50.960 --> 00:30:52.079
 who sets you free.

00:30:53.380 --> 00:30:54.440
 He is the one

00:30:54.440 --> 00:30:54.839
 that says

00:30:54.839 --> 00:30:55.940
 I will have

00:30:55.940 --> 00:30:56.720
 the ability

00:30:56.720 --> 00:30:57.619
 to give you

00:30:57.619 --> 00:30:58.539
 what you need

00:30:58.539 --> 00:30:59.259
 to do

00:30:59.259 --> 00:31:00.299
 what you ought to do.

00:31:01.579 --> 00:31:01.900
 You know,

00:31:02.019 --> 00:31:02.700
 when we look

00:31:02.700 --> 00:31:03.599
 at the right picture,

00:31:03.700 --> 00:31:04.740
 the right dynamic,

00:31:04.940 --> 00:31:05.460
 the answer

00:31:05.460 --> 00:31:06.940
 is not trying harder,

00:31:06.940 --> 00:31:09.019
 it's drawing deeper

00:31:09.019 --> 00:31:10.180
 from Christ,

00:31:10.279 --> 00:31:10.680
 the one

00:31:10.680 --> 00:31:11.840
 who has set you free.

00:31:13.120 --> 00:31:13.320
 You know,

00:31:13.340 --> 00:31:14.460
 I spoke a little bit ago

00:31:14.460 --> 00:31:15.820
 about Aquila and Priscilla.

00:31:16.500 --> 00:31:16.680
 You know,

00:31:16.720 --> 00:31:18.140
 Acts chapter 18,

00:31:19.019 --> 00:31:20.120
 you find here

00:31:20.120 --> 00:31:21.140
 that they pull

00:31:21.140 --> 00:31:22.720
 Apollos aside together

00:31:22.720 --> 00:31:24.140
 and instruct him together

00:31:24.140 --> 00:31:25.640
 and to build

00:31:25.640 --> 00:31:26.700
 those things together.

00:31:26.840 --> 00:31:27.600
 Their marriage

00:31:27.600 --> 00:31:29.740
 was a shared ministry.

00:31:30.220 --> 00:31:31.240
 The two lives

00:31:31.240 --> 00:31:31.980
 wholly given

00:31:31.980 --> 00:31:32.920
 to one work.

00:31:33.779 --> 00:31:34.080
 You know,

00:31:34.400 --> 00:31:35.120
 think about this.

00:31:35.119 --> 00:31:36.759
 Look here in verse 24.

00:31:36.939 --> 00:31:37.119
 It says,

00:31:37.239 --> 00:31:38.039
 And a certain Jew

00:31:38.039 --> 00:31:38.919
 named Apollos,

00:31:39.000 --> 00:31:39.799
 born of Alexandria,

00:31:39.919 --> 00:31:40.719
 an eloquent man

00:31:40.719 --> 00:31:41.679
 and a mighty

00:31:41.679 --> 00:31:42.459
 in the scripture,

00:31:42.679 --> 00:31:43.479
 came to Ephesus.

00:31:43.659 --> 00:31:44.699
 The man was instructed

00:31:44.699 --> 00:31:45.579
 in the way of the Lord

00:31:45.579 --> 00:31:46.839
 and being fervent in spirit,

00:31:47.159 --> 00:31:48.159
 he spake and taught

00:31:48.159 --> 00:31:48.599
 diligently

00:31:48.599 --> 00:31:49.500
 that things are knowing

00:31:49.500 --> 00:31:51.399
 only the baptism

00:31:51.399 --> 00:31:53.199
 of John.

00:31:54.359 --> 00:31:55.299
 And we see here

00:31:55.299 --> 00:31:57.219
 that as he comes,

00:31:57.519 --> 00:31:58.500
 we find here

00:31:58.500 --> 00:31:59.959
 that they pull him aside,

00:32:00.319 --> 00:32:01.279
 Aquila and Priscilla,

00:32:01.399 --> 00:32:02.339
 and give him

00:32:02.339 --> 00:32:03.319
 what is needed.

00:32:03.319 --> 00:32:04.879
 We find here

00:32:04.879 --> 00:32:06.399
 that they taught him

00:32:06.399 --> 00:32:07.200
 diligently.

00:32:08.159 --> 00:32:08.339
 You know,

00:32:08.639 --> 00:32:09.439
 being fervent

00:32:09.439 --> 00:32:10.319
 in spirit and spake

00:32:10.319 --> 00:32:11.259
 and taught diligently

00:32:11.259 --> 00:32:12.220
 the things of the Lord.

00:32:12.700 --> 00:32:13.659
 And we want to see

00:32:13.659 --> 00:32:14.819
 Aquila and Priscilla

00:32:14.819 --> 00:32:16.539
 pull him out.

00:32:17.119 --> 00:32:18.159
 Is the next verse

00:32:18.159 --> 00:32:18.759
 on the slide?

00:32:19.019 --> 00:32:19.259
 Okay,

00:32:19.539 --> 00:32:20.379
 let's get this continued.

00:32:20.779 --> 00:32:21.240
 Because it's the one

00:32:21.240 --> 00:32:21.899
 I want to get to.

00:32:22.119 --> 00:32:22.359
 I'm like,

00:32:22.419 --> 00:32:23.259
 did that get put in there?

00:32:25.759 --> 00:32:26.379
 Notice this.

00:32:26.439 --> 00:32:27.359
 And he began to speak

00:32:27.359 --> 00:32:28.439
 boldly in the synagogue

00:32:28.439 --> 00:32:29.679
 when Aquila and Priscilla

00:32:29.679 --> 00:32:30.139
 heard.

00:32:30.140 --> 00:32:33.440
 They took him

00:32:33.440 --> 00:32:34.120
 unto them

00:32:34.120 --> 00:32:35.440
 and expounded unto him

00:32:35.440 --> 00:32:36.480
 the way of God

00:32:36.480 --> 00:32:37.820
 more perfectly.

00:32:39.460 --> 00:32:40.480
 Now I want you to understand

00:32:40.480 --> 00:32:41.740
 there's a lot in that verse.

00:32:41.840 --> 00:32:42.580
 We could spend a lot

00:32:42.580 --> 00:32:43.380
 of time right there.

00:32:45.840 --> 00:32:47.020
 Because there's a theological

00:32:47.020 --> 00:32:48.560
 point they're making here too.

00:32:49.320 --> 00:32:50.300
 But I want you to see

00:32:50.300 --> 00:32:50.880
 what they do.

00:32:50.980 --> 00:32:51.800
 They served

00:32:51.800 --> 00:32:52.600
 the Lord

00:32:52.600 --> 00:32:53.520
 together.

00:32:55.120 --> 00:32:56.540
 It was a togetherness

00:32:56.540 --> 00:32:57.259
 that made

00:32:57.259 --> 00:32:58.099
 a difference.

00:32:58.519 --> 00:32:59.500
 To understand

00:32:59.500 --> 00:33:00.319
 the importance

00:33:00.319 --> 00:33:01.460
 of it.

00:33:01.900 --> 00:33:02.119
 You know,

00:33:02.180 --> 00:33:03.200
 have you thought together

00:33:03.200 --> 00:33:03.940
 for a moment

00:33:03.940 --> 00:33:05.099
 of how

00:33:05.099 --> 00:33:07.400
 the local church

00:33:07.400 --> 00:33:08.140
 is enriched

00:33:08.140 --> 00:33:08.920
 when marriages

00:33:08.920 --> 00:33:09.960
 are built on

00:33:09.960 --> 00:33:10.539
 mutual,

00:33:10.759 --> 00:33:11.799
 wholehearted service

00:33:11.799 --> 00:33:13.140
 and not rivalry?

00:33:15.640 --> 00:33:16.440
 You know,

00:33:16.519 --> 00:33:17.680
 serving one another

00:33:17.680 --> 00:33:18.359
 is something

00:33:18.359 --> 00:33:19.079
 that God

00:33:19.079 --> 00:33:20.359
 has designed

00:33:20.359 --> 00:33:21.220
 for us

00:33:21.220 --> 00:33:22.180
 and for the benefit

00:33:22.180 --> 00:33:22.879
 of everybody.

00:33:24.019 --> 00:33:25.240
 To understand

00:33:25.240 --> 00:33:26.140
 the reality

00:33:26.140 --> 00:33:26.799
 of it,

00:33:27.160 --> 00:33:28.039
 what would your

00:33:28.039 --> 00:33:29.180
 marriage look like

00:33:29.180 --> 00:33:30.059
 if both of you

00:33:30.059 --> 00:33:30.859
 were more committed

00:33:30.859 --> 00:33:31.680
 to serving

00:33:31.680 --> 00:33:33.120
 than being served?

00:33:37.519 --> 00:33:38.819
 Would that concept

00:33:38.819 --> 00:33:40.000
 change a relationship?

00:33:42.900 --> 00:33:44.039
 I guarantee you

00:33:44.039 --> 00:33:44.380
 it would,

00:33:44.500 --> 00:33:44.819
 doesn't it?

00:33:46.480 --> 00:33:47.539
 It would alter

00:33:47.539 --> 00:33:48.480
 a lot of things

00:33:48.480 --> 00:33:50.380
 because you know

00:33:50.380 --> 00:33:51.019
 what it does?

00:33:51.079 --> 00:33:51.599
 It throws

00:33:51.599 --> 00:33:52.740
 the scorecard

00:33:52.740 --> 00:33:54.279
 out.

00:33:55.240 --> 00:33:57.720
 it's no longer

00:33:57.720 --> 00:33:58.799
 a contest

00:33:58.799 --> 00:34:01.859
 or a competition

00:34:01.859 --> 00:34:06.019
 because it's not

00:34:06.019 --> 00:34:06.920
 about what you're

00:34:06.920 --> 00:34:07.400
 getting,

00:34:07.799 --> 00:34:09.199
 it's about

00:34:09.199 --> 00:34:10.179
 your opportunity

00:34:10.179 --> 00:34:12.199
 to love

00:34:12.199 --> 00:34:13.360
 another.

00:34:14.639 --> 00:34:15.699
 To understand

00:34:15.699 --> 00:34:16.579
 that picture,

00:34:16.719 --> 00:34:17.579
 that dynamic,

00:34:20.079 --> 00:34:20.920
 you know,

00:34:20.960 --> 00:34:21.780
 when we serve,

00:34:21.900 --> 00:34:22.420
 I want you to

00:34:22.420 --> 00:34:22.739
 understand,

00:34:22.880 --> 00:34:23.300
 I want you to

00:34:23.300 --> 00:34:23.800
 challenge you

00:34:23.800 --> 00:34:24.400
 to try to do

00:34:24.400 --> 00:34:25.000
 one thing

00:34:25.000 --> 00:34:25.660
 this week

00:34:25.660 --> 00:34:28.039
 of unexpected

00:34:28.039 --> 00:34:28.900
 service

00:34:28.900 --> 00:34:30.420
 for another

00:34:30.420 --> 00:34:32.519
 with no

00:34:32.519 --> 00:34:34.039
 strings attached.

00:34:37.320 --> 00:34:38.000
 Zero

00:34:38.000 --> 00:34:38.900
 expectation

00:34:38.900 --> 00:34:39.500
 attached

00:34:39.500 --> 00:34:40.400
 to yourself.

00:34:46.420 --> 00:34:47.280
 You know,

00:34:47.320 --> 00:34:47.740
 oftentimes,

00:34:48.140 --> 00:34:48.800
 we do do

00:34:48.800 --> 00:34:49.740
 a lot of service,

00:34:50.380 --> 00:34:51.060
 but sometimes

00:34:51.060 --> 00:34:51.519
 there's always

00:34:51.519 --> 00:34:51.880
 a string

00:34:51.880 --> 00:34:52.380
 attached.

00:34:57.400 --> 00:34:57.960
 But we

00:34:57.960 --> 00:34:58.380
 ought to

00:34:58.380 --> 00:34:59.000
 serve not

00:34:59.000 --> 00:34:59.380
 for what

00:34:59.380 --> 00:34:59.940
 it benefits

00:34:59.940 --> 00:35:00.300
 us,

00:35:00.400 --> 00:35:00.679
 but for

00:35:00.679 --> 00:35:01.340
 the well-being

00:35:01.340 --> 00:35:02.159
 of the

00:35:02.159 --> 00:35:02.400
 other.

00:35:03.460 --> 00:35:04.539
 To understand

00:35:04.539 --> 00:35:05.719
 that picture

00:35:05.719 --> 00:35:06.380
 clearly.

00:35:08.460 --> 00:35:09.079
 You know,

00:35:09.159 --> 00:35:10.099
 this idea

00:35:10.099 --> 00:35:11.059
 of service,

00:35:11.400 --> 00:35:11.960
 we've been

00:35:11.960 --> 00:35:12.820
 set free

00:35:12.820 --> 00:35:13.739
 in Christ

00:35:13.739 --> 00:35:14.820
 because even

00:35:14.820 --> 00:35:15.400
 Jesus,

00:35:15.619 --> 00:35:15.820
 you know,

00:35:16.159 --> 00:35:16.860
 Jesus when

00:35:16.860 --> 00:35:17.519
 he came,

00:35:18.019 --> 00:35:18.860
 Jesus came

00:35:18.860 --> 00:35:19.519
 not to be

00:35:19.519 --> 00:35:20.300
 ministered unto,

00:35:20.300 --> 00:35:20.860
 but to

00:35:20.860 --> 00:35:21.280
 minister.

00:35:21.880 --> 00:35:22.160
 You know,

00:35:22.220 --> 00:35:22.660
 in Mark

00:35:22.660 --> 00:35:23.539
 chapter 10

00:35:23.539 --> 00:35:24.420
 verse 45,

00:35:24.800 --> 00:35:25.519
 the word of

00:35:25.519 --> 00:35:26.080
 God makes

00:35:26.080 --> 00:35:26.820
 it very clear,

00:35:26.900 --> 00:35:27.460
 for even the

00:35:27.460 --> 00:35:27.960
 Son of Man

00:35:27.960 --> 00:35:28.660
 came not

00:35:28.660 --> 00:35:29.320
 to be

00:35:29.320 --> 00:35:30.200
 ministered unto.

00:35:30.640 --> 00:35:31.039
 In other

00:35:31.039 --> 00:35:31.220
 words,

00:35:31.300 --> 00:35:31.900
 God didn't

00:35:31.900 --> 00:35:32.380
 come for

00:35:32.380 --> 00:35:33.060
 his benefit.

00:35:35.560 --> 00:35:36.160
 And it

00:35:36.160 --> 00:35:36.620
 tells us

00:35:36.620 --> 00:35:37.620
 exactly why

00:35:37.620 --> 00:35:38.300
 he came.

00:35:38.300 --> 00:35:41.720
 but to

00:35:41.720 --> 00:35:42.180
 minister,

00:35:42.480 --> 00:35:43.260
 to serve,

00:35:44.680 --> 00:35:46.039
 and to

00:35:46.039 --> 00:35:46.860
 give his

00:35:46.860 --> 00:35:48.519
 life a

00:35:48.519 --> 00:35:50.039
 ransom for

00:35:50.039 --> 00:35:51.340
 many.

00:35:53.260 --> 00:35:53.860
 Have you

00:35:53.860 --> 00:35:54.300
 stopped to

00:35:54.300 --> 00:35:54.720
 think that

00:35:54.720 --> 00:35:55.240
 when Jesus

00:35:55.240 --> 00:35:55.860
 went to the

00:35:55.860 --> 00:35:56.280
 cross,

00:35:56.340 --> 00:35:56.760
 it was a

00:35:56.760 --> 00:35:57.440
 service for

00:35:57.440 --> 00:35:58.039
 your benefit?

00:35:58.039 --> 00:35:58.800
 He was

00:35:58.800 --> 00:36:03.880
 ministering

00:36:03.880 --> 00:36:04.960
 for your

00:36:04.960 --> 00:36:06.160
 benefit.

00:36:06.159 --> 00:36:06.299
 benefit.

00:36:08.099 --> 00:36:09.420
 That benefit

00:36:09.420 --> 00:36:10.059
 of being

00:36:10.059 --> 00:36:10.579
 able to

00:36:10.579 --> 00:36:11.019
 offer

00:36:11.019 --> 00:36:12.099
 salvation

00:36:12.099 --> 00:36:14.399
 full and

00:36:14.399 --> 00:36:15.859
 free for

00:36:15.859 --> 00:36:16.199
 you.

00:36:23.500 --> 00:36:24.619
 He shed

00:36:24.619 --> 00:36:25.079
 his own

00:36:25.079 --> 00:36:25.799
 blood as

00:36:25.799 --> 00:36:26.399
 the ransom

00:36:26.399 --> 00:36:28.079
 for your

00:36:28.079 --> 00:36:28.420
 sin.

00:36:29.420 --> 00:36:30.739
 The price

00:36:30.739 --> 00:36:31.239
 that sin

00:36:31.239 --> 00:36:31.759
 demanded.

00:36:31.759 --> 00:36:31.879
 He

00:36:31.839 --> 00:36:31.879
 He

00:36:31.839 --> 00:36:31.879
 He

00:36:31.839 --> 00:36:31.879
 He

00:36:31.839 --> 00:36:31.839


00:36:36.159 --> 00:36:40.659
 Why did

00:36:40.659 --> 00:36:40.980
 he do

00:36:40.980 --> 00:36:41.279
 that?

00:36:41.359 --> 00:36:41.960
 Because

00:36:41.960 --> 00:36:44.039
 he understood

00:36:44.039 --> 00:36:45.039
 this principle,

00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:46.219
 this reality,

00:36:47.019 --> 00:36:49.219
 that you're

00:36:49.219 --> 00:36:49.759
 a sinner

00:36:49.759 --> 00:36:50.699
 who needs

00:36:50.699 --> 00:36:51.159
 a Savior.

00:36:55.239 --> 00:36:56.519
 He died

00:36:56.519 --> 00:36:57.119
 in your

00:36:57.119 --> 00:36:57.579
 place.

00:36:57.659 --> 00:36:57.980
 The Bible

00:36:57.980 --> 00:36:58.440
 says the

00:36:58.440 --> 00:36:59.059
 wages of

00:36:59.059 --> 00:37:00.539
 sin is

00:37:00.539 --> 00:37:00.980
 death.

00:37:02.199 --> 00:37:03.199
 He died

00:37:03.199 --> 00:37:03.639
 in your

00:37:03.639 --> 00:37:04.339
 place and

00:37:04.339 --> 00:37:05.159
 rose again

00:37:05.159 --> 00:37:05.659
 so that you

00:37:05.659 --> 00:37:06.179
 might be

00:37:06.179 --> 00:37:06.679
 forgiven,

00:37:06.819 --> 00:37:07.079
 that you

00:37:07.079 --> 00:37:07.500
 might be

00:37:07.500 --> 00:37:07.980
 able to

00:37:07.980 --> 00:37:08.980
 call upon

00:37:08.980 --> 00:37:09.239
 him,

00:37:09.299 --> 00:37:09.960
 accept the

00:37:09.960 --> 00:37:10.659
 free gift

00:37:10.659 --> 00:37:11.440
 of salvation.

00:37:15.779 --> 00:37:16.339
 You know,

00:37:16.359 --> 00:37:16.819
 the reality

00:37:16.819 --> 00:37:17.559
 is oftentimes

00:37:17.559 --> 00:37:18.359
 people are

00:37:18.359 --> 00:37:19.119
 self-seeking,

00:37:20.599 --> 00:37:22.940
 but salvation

00:37:22.940 --> 00:37:23.759
 isn't about

00:37:23.759 --> 00:37:24.799
 self-seeking on

00:37:24.799 --> 00:37:25.659
 anybody's part

00:37:25.659 --> 00:37:28.019
 because salvation

00:37:28.019 --> 00:37:29.019
 is recognizing

00:37:29.019 --> 00:37:29.659
 that yes,

00:37:29.759 --> 00:37:30.440
 he is right,

00:37:30.539 --> 00:37:31.099
 I am a

00:37:31.099 --> 00:37:31.319
 sinner.

00:37:32.539 --> 00:37:33.279
 I have

00:37:33.279 --> 00:37:33.799
 broken the

00:37:33.799 --> 00:37:34.079
 law.

00:37:35.659 --> 00:37:36.699
 I have

00:37:36.699 --> 00:37:37.219
 done that

00:37:37.219 --> 00:37:37.699
 which is

00:37:37.699 --> 00:37:38.559
 contrary to

00:37:38.559 --> 00:37:38.980
 the things

00:37:38.980 --> 00:37:39.519
 of God.

00:37:43.019 --> 00:37:43.579
 It's

00:37:43.579 --> 00:37:44.159
 recognizing

00:37:44.159 --> 00:37:44.799
 who you

00:37:44.799 --> 00:37:45.179
 are,

00:37:46.239 --> 00:37:48.259
 your need.

00:37:49.539 --> 00:37:50.279
 When you

00:37:50.279 --> 00:37:51.179
 recognize your

00:37:51.179 --> 00:37:51.739
 need, he

00:37:51.739 --> 00:37:52.279
 says you need

00:37:52.279 --> 00:37:52.599
 to do

00:37:52.599 --> 00:37:53.119
 something and

00:37:53.119 --> 00:37:53.559
 that's to

00:37:53.559 --> 00:37:55.059
 recognize it

00:37:55.059 --> 00:37:55.639
 to him.

00:37:56.579 --> 00:37:57.279
 That's called

00:37:57.279 --> 00:37:57.839
 repentance.

00:37:59.980 --> 00:38:00.539
 It's

00:38:00.539 --> 00:38:01.159
 recognizing

00:38:01.159 --> 00:38:01.819
 you're a

00:38:01.819 --> 00:38:02.339
 sinner and

00:38:02.339 --> 00:38:02.859
 he's the

00:38:02.859 --> 00:38:03.539
 perfect one,

00:38:03.539 --> 00:38:03.980
 he's the

00:38:03.980 --> 00:38:04.300
 savior.

00:38:05.679 --> 00:38:06.559
 Turning from

00:38:06.559 --> 00:38:07.340
 your sin

00:38:07.340 --> 00:38:08.079
 to the

00:38:08.079 --> 00:38:08.420
 savior.

00:38:09.219 --> 00:38:09.659
 To say,

00:38:09.860 --> 00:38:10.639
 I want what

00:38:10.639 --> 00:38:11.519
 he has

00:38:11.519 --> 00:38:12.079
 provided,

00:38:12.199 --> 00:38:12.820
 the liberty

00:38:12.820 --> 00:38:13.539
 to set me

00:38:13.539 --> 00:38:13.880
 free.

00:38:15.259 --> 00:38:16.340
 To understand

00:38:16.340 --> 00:38:17.300
 the reality

00:38:17.300 --> 00:38:18.460
 of it,

00:38:18.500 --> 00:38:19.159
 your need

00:38:19.159 --> 00:38:20.279
 to repent

00:38:20.279 --> 00:38:20.900
 and to

00:38:20.900 --> 00:38:21.420
 recognize you're

00:38:21.420 --> 00:38:22.039
 a sinner that

00:38:22.039 --> 00:38:22.820
 needs to turn

00:38:22.820 --> 00:38:23.400
 to him and

00:38:23.400 --> 00:38:24.559
 call upon him

00:38:24.559 --> 00:38:26.000
 because you

00:38:26.000 --> 00:38:26.259
 know what,

00:38:26.279 --> 00:38:26.599
 it's not

00:38:26.599 --> 00:38:27.019
 enough to

00:38:27.019 --> 00:38:27.820
 recognize you're

00:38:27.820 --> 00:38:28.119
 a sinner.

00:38:28.119 --> 00:38:33.159
 today we

00:38:33.159 --> 00:38:33.799
 have call

00:38:33.799 --> 00:38:34.440
 in therapy.

00:38:34.579 --> 00:38:34.679
 You know

00:38:34.679 --> 00:38:34.980
 what most

00:38:34.980 --> 00:38:35.139
 of the

00:38:35.139 --> 00:38:35.679
 problem is?

00:38:35.739 --> 00:38:36.239
 It's sin.

00:38:38.339 --> 00:38:38.980
 And they

00:38:38.980 --> 00:38:39.599
 expect a

00:38:39.599 --> 00:38:40.319
 therapist to

00:38:40.319 --> 00:38:40.839
 solve it

00:38:40.839 --> 00:38:43.539
 who's charging

00:38:43.539 --> 00:38:44.259
 you by the

00:38:44.259 --> 00:38:44.559
 minute.

00:38:48.679 --> 00:38:49.539
 And Christ

00:38:49.539 --> 00:38:49.880
 said, I

00:38:49.880 --> 00:38:50.239
 have the

00:38:50.239 --> 00:38:51.179
 solution for

00:38:51.179 --> 00:38:54.559
 sin and I

00:38:54.559 --> 00:38:55.219
 picked up the

00:38:55.219 --> 00:38:55.559
 check.

00:38:55.559 --> 00:39:00.460
 what greater

00:39:00.460 --> 00:39:01.039
 thing is

00:39:01.039 --> 00:39:01.380
 that?

00:39:02.199 --> 00:39:03.500
 By love

00:39:03.500 --> 00:39:05.159
 serving you.

00:39:06.440 --> 00:39:07.679
 To understand

00:39:07.679 --> 00:39:08.659
 that ransom

00:39:08.659 --> 00:39:09.119
 that he

00:39:09.119 --> 00:39:10.139
 paid is

00:39:10.139 --> 00:39:11.599
 counted as

00:39:11.599 --> 00:39:12.059
 yours.

00:39:12.299 --> 00:39:13.139
 The ultimate

00:39:13.139 --> 00:39:14.039
 example of

00:39:14.039 --> 00:39:15.900
 serving one

00:39:15.900 --> 00:39:16.299
 another.

00:39:17.559 --> 00:39:18.119
 Your very

00:39:18.119 --> 00:39:19.279
 salvation is a

00:39:19.279 --> 00:39:19.880
 picture of

00:39:19.880 --> 00:39:20.880
 God's love

00:39:20.880 --> 00:39:22.759
 for you.

00:39:22.760 --> 00:39:25.580
 to call

00:39:25.580 --> 00:39:26.240
 upon him.

00:39:29.000 --> 00:39:29.560
 You know,

00:39:29.580 --> 00:39:29.960
 maybe you

00:39:29.960 --> 00:39:30.640
 can understand

00:39:30.640 --> 00:39:31.240
 the reality

00:39:31.240 --> 00:39:31.780
 of a time

00:39:31.780 --> 00:39:32.100
 when you

00:39:32.100 --> 00:39:32.700
 called upon

00:39:32.700 --> 00:39:33.000
 him.

00:39:37.000 --> 00:39:37.580
 But you

00:39:37.580 --> 00:39:37.640
 know,

00:39:37.680 --> 00:39:37.940
 if you're

00:39:37.940 --> 00:39:38.440
 saved,

00:39:38.520 --> 00:39:39.020
 it still

00:39:39.020 --> 00:39:40.340
 can sometimes

00:39:40.340 --> 00:39:40.980
 be draining.

00:39:40.980 --> 00:39:44.860
 but I

00:39:44.860 --> 00:39:45.159
 want you

00:39:45.159 --> 00:39:45.519
 to let

00:39:45.519 --> 00:39:45.960
 the love

00:39:45.960 --> 00:39:46.619
 of Christ

00:39:46.619 --> 00:39:47.079
 be the

00:39:47.079 --> 00:39:47.800
 fuel for

00:39:47.800 --> 00:39:48.019
 your

00:39:48.019 --> 00:39:48.539
 service.

00:39:52.240 --> 00:39:52.880
 Because

00:39:52.880 --> 00:39:53.579
 that empty

00:39:53.579 --> 00:39:54.240
 tank of

00:39:54.240 --> 00:39:54.960
 life gets

00:39:54.960 --> 00:39:55.940
 refilled and

00:39:55.940 --> 00:39:56.579
 refreshed

00:39:56.579 --> 00:39:58.820
 when we

00:39:58.820 --> 00:40:00.059
 refocus and

00:40:00.059 --> 00:40:00.780
 draw from

00:40:00.780 --> 00:40:01.400
 the well

00:40:01.400 --> 00:40:03.019
 that's

00:40:03.019 --> 00:40:03.400
 endless.

00:40:04.400 --> 00:40:05.320
 Of what we

00:40:05.320 --> 00:40:06.059
 have in

00:40:06.059 --> 00:40:06.579
 Christ.

00:40:07.699 --> 00:40:08.320
 From the

00:40:08.320 --> 00:40:09.719
 resources of

00:40:09.719 --> 00:40:10.599
 his grace,

00:40:10.679 --> 00:40:10.859
 you know,

00:40:10.919 --> 00:40:11.579
 to serve

00:40:11.579 --> 00:40:12.159
 another,

00:40:12.259 --> 00:40:12.759
 to serve

00:40:12.759 --> 00:40:13.419
 your spouse

00:40:13.419 --> 00:40:13.939
 today.

00:40:14.939 --> 00:40:15.579
 But let

00:40:15.579 --> 00:40:16.000
 it be an

00:40:16.000 --> 00:40:16.659
 act of

00:40:16.659 --> 00:40:17.039
 worship.

00:40:17.199 --> 00:40:17.319
 You know,

00:40:17.359 --> 00:40:17.679
 we don't

00:40:17.679 --> 00:40:18.279
 do it for

00:40:18.279 --> 00:40:18.879
 ourselves.

00:40:19.339 --> 00:40:19.819
 Colossians

00:40:19.819 --> 00:40:20.539
 3.23

00:40:20.539 --> 00:40:20.919
 says,

00:40:21.039 --> 00:40:21.379
 and whatsoever

00:40:21.379 --> 00:40:21.919
 you do,

00:40:22.000 --> 00:40:22.239
 do it

00:40:22.239 --> 00:40:22.879
 heartily as

00:40:22.879 --> 00:40:23.279
 unto the

00:40:23.279 --> 00:40:24.099
 Lord and

00:40:24.099 --> 00:40:24.659
 not unto

00:40:24.659 --> 00:40:25.079
 men.

00:40:26.779 --> 00:40:26.959
 Have you

00:40:26.959 --> 00:40:27.319
 ever thought

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 about by

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 serving your

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 spouse,

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 you're honoring

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 the Lord?

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 Do it

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 heartily as

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 as to the

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 Lord and

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 not unto

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 men.

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 You know,

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 that attitude

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 alone will

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 get rid of

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 the score

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 card.

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 Because what

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 Christ did on

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 Calvary was

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 remove the

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 score card.

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 Your sin

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 is gone.

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 Now I want

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 you to consider

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 something else,

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 and we're going

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 to get into

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 this a little

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 more next

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 week.

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 to be a

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 week.

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 But when

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 you serve

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 your spouse,

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 it's the

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 first sermon

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 your kids

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 see and

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 hear about

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 loving one

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 another.

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 The first

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 message your

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 kids see is

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 how you

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 parents love

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 and serve

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 one another.

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 We're going

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 to look at

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 that next

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 week, so

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 make sure to

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 be back.

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 But I want

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 you to

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 understand,

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 how are you

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 serving in

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 love one

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 another today?

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 Have you

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 loved your

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 neighbor as

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 yourself?

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 Because our

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 well is not

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 us, it's

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 him.

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 As heads

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 are bowed

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 and eyes are

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 closed this

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 morning,

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 what about

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 you today?

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 Are you

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 willing to

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 say,

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 Lord,

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 I need

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 to use

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 the liberty

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 that I

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 have in

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 you because

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 of your

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 salvation

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 to serve

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 the one

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 that I'm

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 married to

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 or to

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 serve somebody

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 else because

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 the application

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 goes far

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 beyond just

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 marriage.

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 It applies

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 to everybody

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 but directly

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 in a

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 relationship

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 together.

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 What are you

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 doing?

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 Is it

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 selfish

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 or is it

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 serving?

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 away may

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 may

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 may

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 may

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