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 What would you call the most important teaching or learning center in Pickens County?

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 In Pickens County, the most important teaching center, or you may refer to it as a learning center.

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 I'm going to guess that a lot of people think about public schools in general, maybe a particular school,

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 maybe a particular level of school like elementary school.

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 Some people, what came to your mind was the church.

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 Hopefully this church, if that's what you're thinking.

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 Well, both certainly are true.

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 Schools are teaching centers.

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 Our church is a teaching center.

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 But I want you to think of this.

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 Before anyone ever sets foot in any church or school building,

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 they have spent their earliest and most life-shaping years in a home.

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 For good or bad,

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 we,

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 we all begin,

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 we all start out in life

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 in a home

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 that really is the most

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 crucial,

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 most important teaching and learning center

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 in our lives.

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 Chuck Swindoll agrees.

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 He wrote a book on the home called Home,

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 where life makes up its mind.

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 Here's how he describes the influence of the home.

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 Home,

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 your home,

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 that unique place where character is developed

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 and patterns for life are determined.

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 It is the first and most influential

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 teaching center

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 for every child.

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 And I want to

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 emphasize,

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 because a lot of

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 teachers here

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 know this better than anyone,

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 both good and bad.

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 Today,

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 I want us to look at the second most important

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 relationship in the home.

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 Described in Ephesians chapter 6,

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 verses 1 through 4,

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 we're talking about the parent-child relationship.

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 This is the third and final

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 in our series on

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 building a healthy home.

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 The first two studies

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 focused on the most important

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 relationship in the home,

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 the husband-wife relationship.

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 The husband-wife relationship

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 sets the foundation,

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 sets the tone

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 for everything that goes on

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 in a home.

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 We looked at the husband-wife relationship

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 as found in Genesis 2, 24

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 and in Ephesians chapter 5,

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 verses 21 through 33.

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 Today,

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 we're going to look at chapter 6,

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 verses 1 through 4

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 at the parent-child relationship.

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 The second part of the structure

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 of a healthy home.

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 Let's read together.

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 6-1 of Ephesians.

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 Children,

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 obey your parents and the Lord,

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 for this is right.

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 Honor your father and mother.

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 This is the first commandment

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 with a promise,

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 that it may go well with you

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 and that you may live long

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 in the land.

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 That's recalling the fifth

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 of the tenth,

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 of the ten commandments.

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 Verse 4.

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 Fathers,

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 do not provoke your children

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 to anger,

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 but bring them up

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 in the discipline

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 and instruction

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 of the Lord.

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 We're going to begin

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 the way the passage does.

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 Verses 1 through 3,

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 instructions to children.

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 Now,

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 I realized

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 today is children's church.

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 So,

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 our little ones,

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 children,

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 elementary age and under,

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 are over there.

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 I thought about it

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 toward the end of the week

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 about maybe

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 going over there

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 at the first part of the service

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 and talking about this

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 a little bit over there,

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 but they'd already had

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 everything planned.

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 I didn't even bring it up.

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 And so,

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 here's what we're going to do.

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 you,

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 as parents,

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 you teach

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 what they need to hear

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 from this message.

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 As part of what we're

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 going to look at this morning,

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 that is your responsibility

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 to teach your children.

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 So,

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 I want to encourage you

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 to listen carefully

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 and don't just

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 tell them the parts

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 that you want them to hear.

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 Tell them the whole thing

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 in its context.

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 Let's look at it.

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 God's instructions

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 to children

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 can be summarized

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 very simply,

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 obey and honor your parents.

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 Obey and honor.

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 Look at verse one.

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 God intends for children

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 to obey their parents.

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 It's real simple,

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 isn't it?

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 Children,

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 obey your parents

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 and the Lord

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 for this is right.

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 This is a command

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 that's directed

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 to children

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 who live at home.

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 If you look in verse four,

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 there are instructions

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 there about

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 teaching,

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 training,

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 instructing,

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 disciplining children

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 in the home.

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 Children are under

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 their parents' authority

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 as long as they live

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 in their parents' home

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 and depend on their parents

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 to provide

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 for their basic needs.

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 I want you to understand that.

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 You older kids here,

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 teenagers,

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 there's different ways

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 that parents

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 should relate

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 to their older children

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 for sure.

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 But bottom line,

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 children living

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 in their parents' home,

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 children dependent

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 upon them,

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 and you are dependent

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 upon them

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 by virtue of you

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 living in their home,

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 you're under

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 their authority.

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 Now,

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 if you're over 18

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 and you think

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 to yourself,

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 I don't agree

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 with that.

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 I don't think

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 somebody 18 years old

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 or 20 years old

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 should have to submit

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 to their parents'

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 authority.

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 We're young adults,

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 that's true.

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 But,

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 if you don't really

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 want to live

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 under your parents'

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 authority

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 in their home,

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 there is a good way

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 for you to become

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 independent.

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 move out,

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 get a job,

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 take care of

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 all of your bills.

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 I'm not joking

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 here now,

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 that's what it means

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 to be on your own.

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 And if you're not

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 moved out,

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 working,

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 making everything

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 yourself,

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 you're not

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 on your own.

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 You may not like

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 the way that sounds,

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 but that's the reality

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 that you are living

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 in right now.

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 And I don't think

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 your parents by any

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 means should make it

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 a burden,

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 just hell on earth

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 to live there.

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 But don't

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 misunderstand.

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 If you're living

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 under their roof,

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 you're under

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 their authority.

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 Children are

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 commanded by God

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 to obey their parents,

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 but parents

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 need to teach them

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 how to do it.

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 And it needs to start

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 when they're very young.

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 You know that.

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 Children are always

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 learning

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 about obedience,

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 but it may not be

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 what their parents

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 want them to learn,

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 and it may not be

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 what their parents

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 are intending to teach.

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 Some children learn

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 that they really

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 don't have to obey

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 their parents,

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 because when they

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 disobey,

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 there's no consequences.

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 Some children know,

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 I'm in charge.

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 I don't have to do

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 anything they tell me,

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 because if I disobey,

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 they're not going to

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 do anything about it.

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 I'm going to get by

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 with it.

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 Some children learn

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 they don't have to

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 obey their parents

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 until their parents

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 just lose control,

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 yell, get angry.

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 For an example,

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 I hope you haven't

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 been there and done this.

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 Supper's ready.

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 Mom or dad?

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 Johnny,

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 come to the table.

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 Supper's ready.

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 No movement.

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 No sounds.

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 Johnny,

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 did you hear me?

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 It's time to eat.

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 This is awful.

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 Johnny,

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 I'm going to count

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 to three.

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 And then finally,

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 a lot of us

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 have been here

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 and we don't want

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 to admit this.

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 If you don't get

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 your rear end

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 in that chair

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 right now,

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 I'm going to

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 wear you out.

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 And then they come.

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 And what they have

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 learned is,

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 I don't have to do

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 anything until they

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 are mad, angry,

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 yelling, and

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 threatening to hurt me.

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 And we know as parents,

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 that's true.

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 Not a lesson we intend,

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 but one that they learn.

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 When it comes to

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 teaching children to obey,

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 it is very important

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 for parents to take

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 into consideration

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 the age and maturity

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 level of their child.

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 Little children,

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 they need to learn

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 or be taught

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 to obey

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 just because

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 it's the right thing

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 to do.

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 We're going to talk

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 about that a little bit

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 more in a moment.

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 But little children,

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 they don't understand

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 a whole lot

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 about why you do

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 this or that.

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 But little children

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 just need to know

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 that if mom and daddy

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 tells them to do something,

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 they need to do it

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 because it's just

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 the right thing to do

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 to obey mom

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 and daddy.

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 That is where

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 they learn

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 to respect

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 and obey authority.

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 And that's important.

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 You should not

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 have to explain

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 to your five-year-old

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 why you tell him

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 or her to do

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 this or that.

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 The fact that you

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 as a parent

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 are telling them

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 should be sufficient.

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 Now,

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 a lot of parents

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 like that.

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 Some of you say,

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 oh, that's archaic.

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 No, that's true.

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 That's what's right.

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 If you've listened

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 to that liberal junk,

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 I can tell right now

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 you're already in trouble.

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 Now,

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 as children mature,

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 let's emphasize this.

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 As children grow up,

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 they're able to think

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 and reason

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 and understand.

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 They need to learn

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 why some things

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 are right and wrong.

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 They need to learn

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 some,

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 they need to learn

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 reasons why

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 you don't want them

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 to do this

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 and you want them

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 to do that.

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 That helps them

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 to learn

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 to think,

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 to reason,

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 to understand

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 basic right and wrong

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 or to understand

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 rational reasoning.

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 Children need

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 to be taught

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 to be responsible

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 as they grow up.

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 That includes

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 helping them

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 to think,

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 to make decisions,

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 to make choices

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 and it also includes

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 also it involves

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 letting them

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 sometimes suffer

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 the consequences

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 for their bad choices.

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 And I want to

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 think here for a moment,

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 I'm not talking

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 about sinful choices.

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 A learning experience

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 for children

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 is to suffer consequences

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 when they're just being

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 irresponsible,

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 when they don't think,

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 when they don't take

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 things necessary.

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 If you've got a child

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 who,

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 they don't,

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 they just,

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 it's like pulling teeth

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 to get them

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 to do their homework.

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 They won't

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 finish their homework

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 and put it

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 in their backpack.

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 They won't

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 take the responsibility

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 day after day

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 after day

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 to do the homework,

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 put it in the backpack

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 and take it back

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 to school.

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 You need to let them

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 learn some consequences

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 of not taking

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 the responsibility

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 to put it in their backpack

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 and take it to school.

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 Let them stay in

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 at recess some.

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 Let them suffer

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 whatever the consequences

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 are some.

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 Don't always

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 help them.

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 If you've got a child

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 who's just,

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 they won't think,

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 they won't take the time

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 to be responsible,

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 and they're always

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 leaving their coat

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 here or there

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 in the wintertime.

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 let them be cold

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 some days.

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 Let them go to school

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 without a coat

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 and go out at recess

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 or go somewhere

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 without a coat

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 and freeze themselves

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 during that time,

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 and that may

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 wake them up.

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 Hey, I better

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 remember my coat.

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 And I,

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 there's all kinds

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 of situations

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 here in a room

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 this size.

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 The light's gone on

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 for some of you.

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 You're bailing

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 your children out

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 everywhere you turn.

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 Teach them

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 to think,

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 to make choices,

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 and be responsible

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 for their choices.

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 Now,

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 this command

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 to obey.

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 As children

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 get older,

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 especially teenagers

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 and older teenagers,

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 it should not

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 be wrong

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 in your house

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 when situations

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 come up

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 it shouldn't

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 be wrong

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 for a child

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 to ask why

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 in a respectful

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 way because

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 they'd like to know

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 what's wrong

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 with this.

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 Or they'd like

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 to know

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 why I need

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 to do this.

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 And they're just

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 wanting to learn

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 what I'm talking

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 about.

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 They're not being

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 defiant,

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 not being disrespectful.

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 It should not

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 be wrong

00:14:22.899 --> 00:14:23.500
 for children

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 to be able

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 to enter

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 into discussions

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 about

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 some things.

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 it's not

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 rebellious

00:14:31.039 --> 00:14:31.419
 to ask

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 questions.

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 It's not

00:14:33.799 --> 00:14:34.319
 rebellious

00:14:34.319 --> 00:14:34.659
 in some

00:14:34.659 --> 00:14:35.379
 situations

00:14:35.379 --> 00:14:37.379
 to ask

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 would you

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 reconsider?

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 Is there any

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 way it could

00:14:42.240 --> 00:14:43.019
 be different?

00:14:44.759 --> 00:14:45.179
 I want you

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 to understand

00:14:45.559 --> 00:14:46.059
 older

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 teenagers

00:14:47.519 --> 00:14:47.959
 and older

00:14:47.959 --> 00:14:48.839
 teenagers.

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 it's the way

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 you go about

00:14:51.940 --> 00:14:52.379
 it sometimes

00:14:52.379 --> 00:14:52.820
 that causes

00:14:52.820 --> 00:14:53.440
 the conflict.

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 But I want

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 you to understand

00:14:56.300 --> 00:14:57.060
 as a parent

00:14:57.060 --> 00:14:58.360
 as your children

00:14:58.360 --> 00:14:59.019
 are older

00:14:59.019 --> 00:15:01.780
 explain things

00:15:01.780 --> 00:15:02.160
 to them.

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 Let them

00:15:03.759 --> 00:15:04.200
 understand

00:15:04.200 --> 00:15:04.780
 you're being

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 reasonable

00:15:05.360 --> 00:15:05.899
 even if they

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 don't agree.

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 Even if they

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 still will not

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 be happy

00:15:09.860 --> 00:15:10.600
 about it

00:15:10.600 --> 00:15:12.780
 have some

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 give and take.

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 but it's

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 important

00:15:16.299 --> 00:15:16.759
 that everybody

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 at the table

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 have a good

00:15:18.580 --> 00:15:18.919
 attitude.

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 No disrespect

00:15:21.159 --> 00:15:22.000
 on either

00:15:22.000 --> 00:15:22.500
 end.

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 Ideally

00:15:24.120 --> 00:15:24.679
 older

00:15:24.679 --> 00:15:25.240
 teenagers

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 especially

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 those who

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 are college

00:15:26.639 --> 00:15:27.200
 age

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 should act

00:15:29.600 --> 00:15:30.179
 like young

00:15:30.179 --> 00:15:30.720
 adults

00:15:30.720 --> 00:15:31.139
 and be

00:15:31.139 --> 00:15:31.779
 treated like

00:15:31.779 --> 00:15:32.600
 young adults

00:15:32.600 --> 00:15:33.759
 at home.

00:15:35.659 --> 00:15:36.299
 Parents

00:15:36.299 --> 00:15:37.200
 should have

00:15:37.200 --> 00:15:38.460
 reasonable

00:15:38.460 --> 00:15:40.220
 rules of

00:15:40.220 --> 00:15:40.779
 the house.

00:15:40.779 --> 00:15:43.539
 when it

00:15:43.539 --> 00:15:43.759
 comes

00:15:43.759 --> 00:15:44.139
 especially

00:15:44.139 --> 00:15:44.720
 to older

00:15:44.720 --> 00:15:45.639
 people

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 older

00:15:46.439 --> 00:15:46.860
 children

00:15:46.860 --> 00:15:47.100
 living

00:15:47.100 --> 00:15:47.439
 at home.

00:15:49.220 --> 00:15:49.639
 And young

00:15:49.639 --> 00:15:50.259
 adults

00:15:50.259 --> 00:15:50.919
 should honor

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 those

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 reasonable

00:15:52.039 --> 00:15:53.159
 rules

00:15:53.159 --> 00:15:54.740
 as a part

00:15:54.740 --> 00:15:55.360
 of respecting

00:15:55.360 --> 00:15:55.959
 and honoring

00:15:55.959 --> 00:15:56.699
 their parents.

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 I want you

00:15:59.319 --> 00:15:59.519
 to look at

00:15:59.519 --> 00:15:59.819
 the reason

00:15:59.819 --> 00:16:00.360
 why children

00:16:00.360 --> 00:16:00.860
 obey their

00:16:00.860 --> 00:16:01.199
 parents.

00:16:01.339 --> 00:16:01.579
 Children

00:16:01.579 --> 00:16:01.939
 should obey

00:16:01.939 --> 00:16:02.360
 their parents

00:16:02.360 --> 00:16:03.199
 in the Lord

00:16:03.199 --> 00:16:03.559
 for this

00:16:03.559 --> 00:16:04.000
 is right.

00:16:04.259 --> 00:16:04.639
 In the Lord

00:16:04.639 --> 00:16:05.059
 means

00:16:05.059 --> 00:16:06.319
 that a child's

00:16:06.319 --> 00:16:07.139
 obedience is a

00:16:07.139 --> 00:16:07.600
 part of their

00:16:07.600 --> 00:16:08.339
 obedience to the

00:16:08.339 --> 00:16:08.600
 Lord.

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 If you're a

00:16:09.319 --> 00:16:09.659
 Christian

00:16:09.659 --> 00:16:11.299
 as a child

00:16:11.299 --> 00:16:11.860
 or teenager

00:16:11.860 --> 00:16:14.219
 one of the

00:16:14.219 --> 00:16:14.620
 reasons you

00:16:14.620 --> 00:16:15.059
 ought to obey

00:16:15.059 --> 00:16:15.600
 your parents

00:16:15.600 --> 00:16:16.159
 is because

00:16:16.159 --> 00:16:17.679
 that's what

00:16:17.679 --> 00:16:18.000
 the Lord

00:16:18.000 --> 00:16:18.480
 wants you

00:16:18.480 --> 00:16:18.839
 to do.

00:16:19.919 --> 00:16:20.539
 If you're

00:16:20.539 --> 00:16:21.100
 serious about

00:16:21.100 --> 00:16:21.579
 living a

00:16:21.579 --> 00:16:22.339
 Christian life

00:16:22.339 --> 00:16:24.199
 that's a

00:16:24.199 --> 00:16:24.480
 part of

00:16:24.480 --> 00:16:24.879
 living a

00:16:24.879 --> 00:16:25.579
 Christian life

00:16:25.579 --> 00:16:27.199
 to obey

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 your parents.

00:16:29.319 --> 00:16:29.719
 Look at the

00:16:29.719 --> 00:16:30.279
 last phrase

00:16:30.279 --> 00:16:30.759
 for this is

00:16:30.759 --> 00:16:31.120
 right.

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 This is just

00:16:31.579 --> 00:16:32.279
 part of God's

00:16:32.279 --> 00:16:33.279
 created order

00:16:33.279 --> 00:16:34.059
 for life.

00:16:35.959 --> 00:16:36.579
 It's just

00:16:36.579 --> 00:16:37.199
 the way God

00:16:37.199 --> 00:16:37.899
 made things

00:16:37.899 --> 00:16:38.319
 to be.

00:16:38.320 --> 00:16:38.900
 It's been

00:16:38.900 --> 00:16:39.900
 in every

00:16:39.900 --> 00:16:40.540
 culture.

00:16:42.240 --> 00:16:42.600
 Children

00:16:42.600 --> 00:16:42.980
 are to

00:16:42.980 --> 00:16:43.680
 obey their

00:16:43.680 --> 00:16:44.180
 parents.

00:16:46.020 --> 00:16:46.420
 It's also

00:16:46.420 --> 00:16:46.860
 how God

00:16:46.860 --> 00:16:47.240
 intends for

00:16:47.240 --> 00:16:47.700
 children to

00:16:47.700 --> 00:16:49.180
 learn discipline

00:16:49.180 --> 00:16:49.920
 and respect

00:16:49.920 --> 00:16:50.620
 and authority

00:16:50.620 --> 00:16:52.740
 as they grow

00:16:52.740 --> 00:16:53.220
 up and become

00:16:53.220 --> 00:16:54.100
 mature adults.

00:16:54.920 --> 00:16:55.379
 There's another

00:16:55.379 --> 00:16:55.960
 reason though why

00:16:55.960 --> 00:16:56.320
 children should

00:16:56.320 --> 00:16:56.620
 obey their

00:16:56.620 --> 00:16:57.020
 parents.

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 Really the

00:16:57.900 --> 00:16:58.580
 main focus

00:16:58.580 --> 00:16:59.020
 here verses

00:16:59.020 --> 00:16:59.360
 two and

00:16:59.360 --> 00:17:00.200
 three God

00:17:00.200 --> 00:17:00.640
 intends for

00:17:00.640 --> 00:17:01.160
 children to

00:17:01.160 --> 00:17:01.780
 honor their

00:17:01.780 --> 00:17:02.120
 parents.

00:17:02.600 --> 00:17:02.860
 Honoring

00:17:02.860 --> 00:17:03.700
 involves more

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 than obedience

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 doesn't it?

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 Honor involves

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 the right

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 attitude.

00:17:10.399 --> 00:17:11.179
 Honor involves

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 love and

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 respect.

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 Let's just

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 take a little

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 point here.

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 Children,

00:17:17.379 --> 00:17:17.819
 teenagers,

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 one way to

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 honor your

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 parents is

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 to talk to

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 them.

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 Don't act

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 like they

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 don't exist.

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 Do things

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 with them.

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 Act like you

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 are a part

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 of the

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 family.

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 Help around

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 the house

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 because you

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 live there.

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 Don't

00:17:47.519 --> 00:17:48.740
 ignore your

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 parents.

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 Don't leave

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 them out of

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 your life

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 except when

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 you want

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 something.

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 If you're

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 doing that

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 your parents

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 know they're

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 not stupid.

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 They know

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 that you're

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 using them

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 if that's

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 what you

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 do.

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 See some

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 of you

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 younger

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 people

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 and let's

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 don't get

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 too harsh

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 because a lot

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 of us

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 older people

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 we developed

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 this well

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 when we

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 were young.

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 Some

00:18:16.740 --> 00:18:17.000
 younger

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 people are

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 kind

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 artists.

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 Kind

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 man,

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 kind

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 girl.

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 Well

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 a lot

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 of parents

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 see through

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 that and

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 they know

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 it.

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 And I

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 want you

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 to understand

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 when parents

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 see that

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 all they

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 care about

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 is what

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 they can

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 get out

00:18:39.240 --> 00:18:39.539
 of me.

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 All they

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 want to

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 do is

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 use me.

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 I want

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 you to

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 know

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 that

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 hurts.

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 Parents

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 that you

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 know,

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 love you,

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 they've

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 given much

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 of themselves

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 and what

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 they can

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 and there's

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 never anything

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 in return

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 in terms

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 of an

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 attitude,

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 a word

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 or an

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 action

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 that hurts

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 and it

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 gets old.

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 You need

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 to know

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 that.

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 There comes

00:19:10.960 --> 00:19:11.339
 a time

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 when children

00:19:11.799 --> 00:19:12.339
 outgrow

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 the command

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 to obey

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 their parents

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 when they

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 go out

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 on their

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 own,

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 even as

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 a single

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 adult or

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 as a

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 married

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 person.

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 And that's

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 good.

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 I don't

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 know,

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 no one

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 is,

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 nobody has

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 ever said

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 anything to

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 me in this

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 church about

00:19:28.099 --> 00:19:28.460
 this,

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 but this

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 might

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 ought to

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 be said.

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 If you

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 are a

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 grown

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 child

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 living

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 on your

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 own,

00:19:38.279 --> 00:19:38.799
 work,

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 have your

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 place,

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 do your

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 thing,

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 married or

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 not,

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 you don't

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 have to

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 obey your

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 parents.

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 You don't

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 have to

00:19:46.539 --> 00:19:46.900
 live the way

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 they tell

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 you to

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 live.

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 You don't

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 have to

00:19:49.039 --> 00:19:49.360
 work the

00:19:49.360 --> 00:19:49.539
 kind of

00:19:49.539 --> 00:19:49.860
 job they

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 tell you

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 to work.

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 You don't

00:19:51.559 --> 00:19:51.900
 have to

00:19:51.900 --> 00:19:52.279
 marry the

00:19:52.279 --> 00:19:52.700
 person they

00:19:52.700 --> 00:19:53.039
 tell you

00:19:53.039 --> 00:19:53.279
 you should

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 marry.

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 You don't

00:19:53.819 --> 00:19:54.120
 have to

00:19:54.120 --> 00:19:54.640
 quit being

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 married to

00:19:55.000 --> 00:19:55.259
 the person

00:19:55.259 --> 00:19:55.559
 they want

00:19:55.559 --> 00:19:55.700
 you to

00:19:55.700 --> 00:19:56.000
 quit being

00:19:56.000 --> 00:19:56.460
 married to.

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 And if

00:19:58.259 --> 00:19:58.640
 you've got

00:19:58.640 --> 00:19:59.059
 grown

00:19:59.059 --> 00:19:59.559
 children,

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 they're on

00:20:00.700 --> 00:20:01.200
 their own,

00:20:02.680 --> 00:20:03.140
 leave them

00:20:03.140 --> 00:20:03.559
 alone.

00:20:04.819 --> 00:20:05.640
 Don't try to

00:20:05.640 --> 00:20:06.220
 tell them how

00:20:06.220 --> 00:20:06.920
 to live their

00:20:06.920 --> 00:20:07.220
 life.

00:20:07.440 --> 00:20:07.960
 Don't try to

00:20:07.960 --> 00:20:09.000
 tell them what

00:20:09.000 --> 00:20:09.480
 they ought to

00:20:09.480 --> 00:20:09.759
 do, what

00:20:09.759 --> 00:20:10.200
 they ought

00:20:10.200 --> 00:20:10.819
 not do.

00:20:10.819 --> 00:20:15.039
 Let them be

00:20:15.039 --> 00:20:15.559
 adults.

00:20:15.799 --> 00:20:16.579
 Let them have a

00:20:16.579 --> 00:20:17.680
 positive relationship

00:20:17.680 --> 00:20:19.879
 with you and

00:20:19.879 --> 00:20:20.379
 you're no longer

00:20:20.379 --> 00:20:21.019
 the boss.

00:20:21.019 --> 00:20:27.379
 children outgrow

00:20:27.379 --> 00:20:28.940
 the requirement

00:20:28.940 --> 00:20:29.599
 to obey their

00:20:29.599 --> 00:20:30.119
 parents but

00:20:30.119 --> 00:20:30.720
 children never

00:20:30.720 --> 00:20:31.759
 outgrow God's

00:20:31.759 --> 00:20:32.359
 command to

00:20:32.359 --> 00:20:33.660
 honor their

00:20:33.660 --> 00:20:34.099
 father and

00:20:34.099 --> 00:20:34.339
 mother.

00:20:35.440 --> 00:20:36.299
 As adult

00:20:36.299 --> 00:20:37.779
 children, no

00:20:37.779 --> 00:20:38.099
 matter what

00:20:38.099 --> 00:20:38.660
 age we are,

00:20:39.660 --> 00:20:40.180
 we have a

00:20:40.180 --> 00:20:40.960
 responsibility to

00:20:40.960 --> 00:20:41.379
 honor our

00:20:41.379 --> 00:20:41.960
 parents as long

00:20:41.960 --> 00:20:42.579
 as they live

00:20:42.579 --> 00:20:44.960
 and among other

00:20:44.960 --> 00:20:45.720
 things that means

00:20:45.720 --> 00:20:46.160
 that we don't

00:20:46.160 --> 00:20:46.839
 ignore them.

00:20:48.460 --> 00:20:49.299
 We don't leave

00:20:49.299 --> 00:20:50.039
 them out of our

00:20:50.039 --> 00:20:50.579
 lives.

00:20:51.759 --> 00:20:52.659
 As long as our

00:20:52.659 --> 00:20:53.920
 parents are alive,

00:20:54.940 --> 00:20:55.539
 we need to make

00:20:55.539 --> 00:20:56.099
 sure that we're

00:20:56.099 --> 00:20:57.039
 honoring them in

00:20:57.039 --> 00:20:57.899
 the way that we

00:20:57.899 --> 00:20:59.879
 relate to them,

00:21:00.539 --> 00:21:01.259
 communicate with

00:21:01.259 --> 00:21:02.859
 them, help them

00:21:02.859 --> 00:21:03.579
 if they need it.

00:21:05.059 --> 00:21:05.539
 You know, the

00:21:05.539 --> 00:21:06.240
 command to honor

00:21:06.240 --> 00:21:07.099
 parents also comes

00:21:07.099 --> 00:21:07.740
 with a motivating

00:21:07.740 --> 00:21:08.220
 reason.

00:21:08.359 --> 00:21:08.960
 Look again in

00:21:08.960 --> 00:21:11.579
 verse 3, that it

00:21:11.579 --> 00:21:12.359
 may go well with

00:21:12.359 --> 00:21:13.099
 you and that you

00:21:13.099 --> 00:21:13.960
 may live long in

00:21:13.960 --> 00:21:14.579
 the land.

00:21:15.859 --> 00:21:16.940
 That was spoken

00:21:16.940 --> 00:21:17.879
 to Israel before

00:21:17.879 --> 00:21:18.440
 they went into

00:21:18.440 --> 00:21:19.339
 the promised land,

00:21:19.339 --> 00:21:20.359
 but that was

00:21:20.359 --> 00:21:22.159
 never a guarantee

00:21:22.159 --> 00:21:23.099
 that all children

00:21:23.099 --> 00:21:23.639
 who honor their

00:21:23.639 --> 00:21:25.099
 parents will live

00:21:25.099 --> 00:21:26.179
 a long time and

00:21:26.179 --> 00:21:26.720
 if you don't honor

00:21:26.720 --> 00:21:27.079
 your parents,

00:21:27.139 --> 00:21:27.839
 you'll die early.

00:21:28.559 --> 00:21:29.439
 This is a general

00:21:29.439 --> 00:21:30.459
 principle of life.

00:21:30.539 --> 00:21:30.939
 It's like a

00:21:30.939 --> 00:21:31.399
 proverb.

00:21:32.759 --> 00:21:33.399
 Children who

00:21:33.399 --> 00:21:34.519
 honor and respect

00:21:34.519 --> 00:21:37.779
 their parents tend

00:21:37.779 --> 00:21:39.539
 to live longer and

00:21:39.539 --> 00:21:40.799
 live better lives.

00:21:42.079 --> 00:21:43.099
 For an example,

00:21:44.099 --> 00:21:45.740
 the idea is a

00:21:45.740 --> 00:21:47.179
 child who grows up

00:21:47.180 --> 00:21:47.820
 and obeys their

00:21:47.820 --> 00:21:48.500
 parents, honor

00:21:48.500 --> 00:21:49.200
 their parents.

00:21:49.980 --> 00:21:50.620
 We're talking

00:21:50.620 --> 00:21:51.500
 about obeying and

00:21:51.500 --> 00:21:52.360
 honoring godly

00:21:52.360 --> 00:21:53.220
 parents in this

00:21:53.220 --> 00:21:53.740
 context.

00:21:54.680 --> 00:21:55.480
 And if you've got

00:21:55.480 --> 00:21:56.380
 Christian parents,

00:21:56.560 --> 00:21:57.500
 godly parents,

00:21:58.100 --> 00:21:58.920
 they're going to

00:21:58.920 --> 00:22:00.160
 try to help you

00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:02.440
 go in a good

00:22:02.440 --> 00:22:04.640
 direction in some

00:22:04.640 --> 00:22:05.420
 of the choices you

00:22:05.420 --> 00:22:05.759
 make.

00:22:06.320 --> 00:22:07.039
 And they're going

00:22:07.039 --> 00:22:08.000
 to try to help

00:22:08.000 --> 00:22:08.960
 you not go in the

00:22:08.960 --> 00:22:11.080
 wrong direction and

00:22:11.080 --> 00:22:11.820
 make some very

00:22:11.820 --> 00:22:14.320
 foolish, life-altering

00:22:14.319 --> 00:22:15.139
 choices.

00:22:16.939 --> 00:22:18.279
 That is the idea.

00:22:20.500 --> 00:22:21.480
 Proverbs is filled

00:22:21.480 --> 00:22:22.200
 with such warnings.

00:22:22.319 --> 00:22:22.759
 Look at some

00:22:22.759 --> 00:22:23.179
 examples.

00:22:23.919 --> 00:22:24.200
 He says,

00:22:24.319 --> 00:22:25.200
 Listen, my son,

00:22:25.279 --> 00:22:26.279
 accept what I say

00:22:26.279 --> 00:22:27.339
 and the years of

00:22:27.339 --> 00:22:28.980
 your life will be

00:22:28.980 --> 00:22:29.279
 many.

00:22:30.399 --> 00:22:31.159
 Proverbs 10,

00:22:31.439 --> 00:22:32.059
 The fear of the

00:22:32.059 --> 00:22:33.220
 Lord adds length

00:22:33.220 --> 00:22:34.139
 to life, but the

00:22:34.139 --> 00:22:35.139
 years of the wicked

00:22:35.139 --> 00:22:36.439
 are cut short.

00:22:38.240 --> 00:22:38.960
 Children who

00:22:38.960 --> 00:22:39.939
 reject the counsel

00:22:39.939 --> 00:22:40.720
 of their godly

00:22:40.720 --> 00:22:43.500
 parents will often

00:22:43.500 --> 00:22:46.079
 follow a path that

00:22:46.079 --> 00:22:46.859
 ruins their lives

00:22:46.859 --> 00:22:47.700
 or hurts their

00:22:47.700 --> 00:22:49.720
 lives, maybe even

00:22:49.720 --> 00:22:50.480
 cut it short.

00:22:51.700 --> 00:22:53.420
 If you are a wise

00:22:53.420 --> 00:22:55.960
 teenager or child,

00:22:57.079 --> 00:22:58.380
 you'll obey and

00:22:58.380 --> 00:22:59.099
 honor your parents

00:22:59.099 --> 00:22:59.720
 for a lot of

00:22:59.720 --> 00:23:00.299
 reasons.

00:23:01.240 --> 00:23:01.960
 Number one, God

00:23:01.960 --> 00:23:02.740
 commands it.

00:23:03.519 --> 00:23:04.839
 It's the right thing

00:23:04.839 --> 00:23:05.319
 to do.

00:23:06.640 --> 00:23:07.960
 But it really will,

00:23:08.099 --> 00:23:08.819
 as a general way of

00:23:08.819 --> 00:23:10.160
 life, it really will

00:23:10.160 --> 00:23:12.099
 work out for the best

00:23:12.099 --> 00:23:14.339
 for you in the long

00:23:14.339 --> 00:23:14.619
 run.

00:23:15.619 --> 00:23:16.159
 Let's turn our

00:23:16.159 --> 00:23:16.939
 attention quickly now

00:23:16.939 --> 00:23:17.659
 to verse four.

00:23:19.119 --> 00:23:19.699
 Instruction to

00:23:19.699 --> 00:23:20.099
 parents.

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 Look at it.

00:23:21.359 --> 00:23:22.059
 Fathers, do not

00:23:22.059 --> 00:23:22.619
 provoke your children

00:23:22.619 --> 00:23:24.119
 to anger, but bring

00:23:24.119 --> 00:23:24.879
 them up in the

00:23:24.879 --> 00:23:25.579
 discipline and

00:23:25.579 --> 00:23:26.319
 instruction of the

00:23:26.319 --> 00:23:26.579
 Lord.

00:23:27.539 --> 00:23:28.500
 Fathers are taking the

00:23:28.500 --> 00:23:29.159
 lead in spiritual

00:23:29.159 --> 00:23:29.599
 teaching.

00:23:30.679 --> 00:23:31.839
 We know, we've seen

00:23:31.839 --> 00:23:33.219
 in the other study

00:23:33.219 --> 00:23:34.519
 from chapter five,

00:23:34.599 --> 00:23:35.480
 22 through 33,

00:23:35.980 --> 00:23:36.719
 husbands are the

00:23:36.719 --> 00:23:37.599
 God-ordained leaders

00:23:37.599 --> 00:23:38.159
 of the home.

00:23:38.160 --> 00:23:40.400
 If there's no

00:23:40.400 --> 00:23:41.180
 father in your

00:23:41.180 --> 00:23:42.140
 home, or if the

00:23:42.140 --> 00:23:42.900
 father's not a

00:23:42.900 --> 00:23:43.779
 Christian, or if he

00:23:43.779 --> 00:23:44.120
 won't take

00:23:44.120 --> 00:23:45.120
 responsibility, then

00:23:45.120 --> 00:23:45.820
 by all means,

00:23:45.920 --> 00:23:46.700
 mothers take the

00:23:46.700 --> 00:23:47.000
 lead.

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 Don't let it slide.

00:23:50.440 --> 00:23:52.840
 If there is neither

00:23:52.840 --> 00:23:56.160
 parent a Christian, or

00:23:56.160 --> 00:23:56.519
 won't take

00:23:56.519 --> 00:23:57.220
 responsibility,

00:23:58.300 --> 00:23:59.900
 grandparents, you

00:23:59.900 --> 00:24:01.740
 step up, aunts and

00:24:01.740 --> 00:24:03.759
 uncles, family members,

00:24:03.960 --> 00:24:04.580
 members of this

00:24:04.580 --> 00:24:07.740
 church, do whatever

00:24:07.740 --> 00:24:09.079
 you can to help

00:24:09.079 --> 00:24:10.200
 children who have no

00:24:10.200 --> 00:24:11.279
 other spiritual

00:24:11.279 --> 00:24:13.380
 guidance, help them

00:24:13.380 --> 00:24:15.019
 be a spiritual

00:24:15.019 --> 00:24:16.819
 influencer in their

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 life.

00:24:18.039 --> 00:24:18.660
 Now, from this point

00:24:18.660 --> 00:24:19.480
 on, I want to refer

00:24:19.480 --> 00:24:20.819
 to parents, both

00:24:20.819 --> 00:24:22.620
 mother and dad.

00:24:23.299 --> 00:24:23.779
 Let's look.

00:24:24.599 --> 00:24:25.660
 What children don't

00:24:25.660 --> 00:24:26.120
 need from their

00:24:26.120 --> 00:24:26.960
 parents, verse four,

00:24:27.019 --> 00:24:27.559
 the first part,

00:24:27.980 --> 00:24:28.640
 fathers do not

00:24:28.640 --> 00:24:29.259
 provoke your children

00:24:29.259 --> 00:24:29.700
 to anger.

00:24:31.559 --> 00:24:33.859
 Now, I think it'd be

00:24:33.859 --> 00:24:34.960
 common sense that you

00:24:34.960 --> 00:24:37.319
 know that does not

00:24:37.319 --> 00:24:38.619
 mean you should never

00:24:38.619 --> 00:24:39.519
 do anything to make

00:24:39.519 --> 00:24:40.619
 your children angry.

00:24:41.079 --> 00:24:42.279
 Sometimes just doing

00:24:42.279 --> 00:24:43.519
 the right thing makes

00:24:43.519 --> 00:24:44.980
 some children angry.

00:24:46.399 --> 00:24:48.119
 Sometimes good, healthy,

00:24:48.319 --> 00:24:50.039
 proper discipline makes

00:24:50.039 --> 00:24:51.359
 a child angry because

00:24:51.359 --> 00:24:52.240
 they just got punished.

00:24:53.399 --> 00:24:54.220
 Sometimes doing what

00:24:54.220 --> 00:24:56.819
 your child, making your

00:24:56.819 --> 00:24:58.700
 child do what is right,

00:24:59.119 --> 00:25:00.359
 or not allowing your

00:25:00.359 --> 00:25:01.119
 child to do something

00:25:01.119 --> 00:25:01.960
 that you know is wrong

00:25:01.960 --> 00:25:03.139
 will make them angry.

00:25:03.140 --> 00:25:05.800
 That's not what he's

00:25:05.800 --> 00:25:06.680
 talking about, and I

00:25:06.680 --> 00:25:08.620
 think common sense helps

00:25:08.620 --> 00:25:09.800
 us to understand that.

00:25:11.420 --> 00:25:12.440
 He's talking about the

00:25:12.440 --> 00:25:13.080
 kind of things that

00:25:13.080 --> 00:25:13.960
 parents can do that

00:25:13.960 --> 00:25:15.600
 cause unnecessary,

00:25:16.060 --> 00:25:18.600
 harmful, resentful anger

00:25:18.600 --> 00:25:19.540
 in children.

00:25:20.259 --> 00:25:21.200
 Look at the few things

00:25:21.200 --> 00:25:22.360
 that Kent Hughes, a

00:25:22.360 --> 00:25:25.420
 pastor, describes ways to

00:25:25.420 --> 00:25:27.300
 avoid provoking anger.

00:25:27.300 --> 00:25:29.240
 Number one, don't have

00:25:29.240 --> 00:25:30.920
 unreasonable expectations.

00:25:30.920 --> 00:25:34.340
 Do not have unreasonable

00:25:34.340 --> 00:25:35.860
 expectations.

00:25:36.940 --> 00:25:39.560
 Don't expect your five-year-old

00:25:39.560 --> 00:25:40.800
 to be able to do what a

00:25:40.800 --> 00:25:41.580
 10-year-old can do.

00:25:41.800 --> 00:25:43.120
 Don't expect your 10-year-old

00:25:43.120 --> 00:25:44.539
 to be able to do what, or

00:25:44.539 --> 00:25:46.060
 think like a 15-year-old.

00:25:48.560 --> 00:25:51.779
 I can remember when my

00:25:51.779 --> 00:25:54.220
 oldest, David, was very

00:25:54.220 --> 00:25:54.759
 young.

00:25:55.420 --> 00:25:56.860
 I can remember, I don't know

00:25:56.859 --> 00:26:00.740
 what I did, what I said, but

00:26:00.740 --> 00:26:02.379
 I remember my dad sort of

00:26:02.379 --> 00:26:03.859
 standing off to the side

00:26:03.859 --> 00:26:05.519
 and doing it in a real

00:26:05.519 --> 00:26:07.699
 positive sort of a smile on

00:26:07.699 --> 00:26:08.879
 his face, but I remember

00:26:08.879 --> 00:26:11.099
 him telling me, don't expect

00:26:11.099 --> 00:26:12.639
 him to be a grown man.

00:26:15.240 --> 00:26:18.279
 Whatever it was, my dad

00:26:18.279 --> 00:26:20.179
 thought it was unreasonable.

00:26:21.619 --> 00:26:22.879
 He just looked at me.

00:26:23.759 --> 00:26:25.059
 Don't expect him to be a

00:26:25.059 --> 00:26:25.679
 grown man.

00:26:26.740 --> 00:26:27.899
 I've never forgot that.

00:26:29.299 --> 00:26:29.980
 Number two, don't

00:26:29.980 --> 00:26:31.379
 constantly criticize.

00:26:32.980 --> 00:26:34.220
 John Newton, the hymn

00:26:34.220 --> 00:26:36.279
 writer, he wrote Amazing

00:26:36.279 --> 00:26:36.819
 Grace.

00:26:37.879 --> 00:26:38.740
 He said he experienced

00:26:38.740 --> 00:26:39.720
 a difficult childhood.

00:26:39.919 --> 00:26:40.859
 Here's a statement he made

00:26:40.859 --> 00:26:41.500
 about his dad.

00:26:42.059 --> 00:26:43.539
 I know that my father

00:26:43.539 --> 00:26:45.419
 loved me, but he did not

00:26:45.419 --> 00:26:47.740
 seem to wish me to see it.

00:26:49.940 --> 00:26:51.500
 I know my father loved me,

00:26:51.500 --> 00:26:54.119
 but he just didn't show it

00:26:54.119 --> 00:26:55.220
 is what he was talking

00:26:55.220 --> 00:26:55.519
 about.

00:26:57.279 --> 00:26:58.140
 Don't, number three, don't

00:26:58.140 --> 00:26:59.940
 be harsh and overly strict.

00:27:00.240 --> 00:27:01.420
 Don't be harsh and overly

00:27:01.420 --> 00:27:02.019
 strict.

00:27:04.660 --> 00:27:06.420
 Don't let no be the

00:27:06.420 --> 00:27:08.960
 automatic default response

00:27:08.960 --> 00:27:10.599
 to everything your child

00:27:10.599 --> 00:27:11.319
 asks you.

00:27:11.319 --> 00:27:15.200
 You know, our goal as parents,

00:27:15.299 --> 00:27:16.480
 one of our goal as parents

00:27:16.480 --> 00:27:18.599
 is prepare our children to

00:27:18.599 --> 00:27:20.420
 leave home and be

00:27:20.420 --> 00:27:21.600
 independent adults.

00:27:21.900 --> 00:27:23.000
 I hope you all know that.

00:27:24.580 --> 00:27:26.100
 It's a gradual process

00:27:26.100 --> 00:27:28.779
 throughout life, but when

00:27:28.779 --> 00:27:29.560
 you take that little baby

00:27:29.560 --> 00:27:30.279
 home from the hospital,

00:27:30.380 --> 00:27:31.400
 you're looking at him or

00:27:31.400 --> 00:27:33.960
 her, their fifth birthday,

00:27:34.100 --> 00:27:34.980
 their tenth birthday,

00:27:35.220 --> 00:27:36.019
 fifteenth birthday,

00:27:36.100 --> 00:27:38.440
 whatever it is, the ultimate

00:27:38.440 --> 00:27:40.480
 goal in your parenting,

00:27:41.800 --> 00:27:43.360
 in this, what we're talking

00:27:43.360 --> 00:27:44.600
 about right here, the ultimate

00:27:44.600 --> 00:27:46.220
 goal is for you to raise a

00:27:46.220 --> 00:27:50.839
 child who is mature, who is

00:27:50.839 --> 00:27:53.220
 independent, who can think for

00:27:53.220 --> 00:27:55.839
 himself or herself, who has some

00:27:55.839 --> 00:27:59.039
 wisdom and can go out in this

00:27:59.039 --> 00:28:03.039
 world on their own and be

00:28:03.039 --> 00:28:05.819
 productive, be self-sufficient.

00:28:05.819 --> 00:28:11.460
 The ultimate goal is that they be a

00:28:11.460 --> 00:28:13.919
 boy or girl, man or woman who has a

00:28:13.919 --> 00:28:15.339
 close relationship with God and

00:28:15.339 --> 00:28:17.460
 seeks to know and do his will, but

00:28:17.460 --> 00:28:19.059
 I'm talking about just in this world

00:28:19.059 --> 00:28:22.339
 as a human being, our goal is to make

00:28:22.339 --> 00:28:24.559
 our children self-sufficient,

00:28:25.240 --> 00:28:25.779
 independent.

00:28:27.079 --> 00:28:30.279
 Well, that can't start when they're

00:28:30.279 --> 00:28:30.819
 fifteen.

00:28:32.220 --> 00:28:34.740
 It's got to be a lifelong process

00:28:34.740 --> 00:28:40.000
 of increasingly giving them freedom

00:28:40.000 --> 00:28:41.839
 and responsibility.

00:28:42.700 --> 00:28:44.399
 Freedom and responsibility.

00:28:46.440 --> 00:28:48.539
 Let them learn some things.

00:28:48.899 --> 00:28:50.039
 Don't always say no.

00:28:50.740 --> 00:28:52.539
 And then number four, don't fail to

00:28:52.539 --> 00:28:54.339
 give your child your attention.

00:28:55.980 --> 00:28:59.779
 Don't fail relationally, one-on-one.

00:28:59.779 --> 00:29:02.319
 Don't fail at FaceTime.

00:29:03.319 --> 00:29:06.660
 What gets most of your FaceTime?

00:29:07.220 --> 00:29:12.399
 Your smartphone, iPad, computer, TV,

00:29:13.240 --> 00:29:17.039
 book, or your child.

00:29:19.480 --> 00:29:22.500
 Meaningful relationships require

00:29:22.500 --> 00:29:26.359
 FaceTime, eye contact, listening,

00:29:26.839 --> 00:29:27.420
 talking.

00:29:27.420 --> 00:29:30.740
 You see this as well as I do.

00:29:31.680 --> 00:29:33.000
 Everywhere you go today,

00:29:33.860 --> 00:29:39.039
 people together, but they're not.

00:29:39.779 --> 00:29:42.039
 Because even at a restaurant,

00:29:42.620 --> 00:29:44.460
 people not talking to one another,

00:29:44.539 --> 00:29:45.720
 not looking at one another, but

00:29:45.720 --> 00:29:48.940
 looking at an iPhone, scrolling down

00:29:48.940 --> 00:29:52.900
 the iPhone and avoiding basically one

00:29:52.900 --> 00:29:53.279
 another.

00:29:53.279 --> 00:29:56.240
 Not too long ago, I was in a restaurant.

00:29:57.099 --> 00:29:58.859
 There was a lady about my age,

00:29:58.960 --> 00:30:02.259
 we'll say, and she obviously had her

00:30:02.259 --> 00:30:04.500
 mother, who would look to be a sharp,

00:30:04.619 --> 00:30:06.839
 alert, older lady.

00:30:07.740 --> 00:30:09.819
 This mother was sitting there,

00:30:10.539 --> 00:30:13.980
 and her 60-year-old daughter, say,

00:30:14.660 --> 00:30:17.500
 was sitting beside her with her face in

00:30:17.500 --> 00:30:19.460
 that phone, flipping through it,

00:30:19.460 --> 00:30:22.500
 and in completely ignoring her mother.

00:30:24.279 --> 00:30:26.019
 You see it at every age.

00:30:28.779 --> 00:30:31.519
 This probably is more like meddling than

00:30:31.519 --> 00:30:32.799
 preaching, but I'm going to do it anyway.

00:30:32.799 --> 00:30:36.460
 If I have children,

00:30:37.779 --> 00:30:39.740
 my children with me at a restaurant,

00:30:40.819 --> 00:30:43.259
 and they've got an iPhone that I'm paying for,

00:30:43.899 --> 00:30:48.460
 they will not sit there and ignore me

00:30:48.460 --> 00:30:50.960
 and look at that phone long,

00:30:50.960 --> 00:30:52.880
 because I'll take it.

00:30:55.340 --> 00:30:56.380
 It's mine.

00:30:57.720 --> 00:30:58.640
 Let me tell you something, kids,

00:30:59.240 --> 00:31:00.100
 of all ages,

00:31:00.340 --> 00:31:02.180
 if your mom and daddy is paying for the car,

00:31:02.299 --> 00:31:02.880
 it's theirs.

00:31:03.000 --> 00:31:04.340
 If they're paying for the cell phone,

00:31:04.440 --> 00:31:05.340
 it's theirs.

00:31:07.700 --> 00:31:10.340
 And I want to encourage parents to be parents

00:31:10.340 --> 00:31:12.779
 and be in control of some things.

00:31:12.900 --> 00:31:15.940
 Don't let your children control your life

00:31:15.940 --> 00:31:18.200
 and your home like so many do today.

00:31:18.200 --> 00:31:22.500
 And I would not sit there and complain

00:31:22.500 --> 00:31:24.620
 about a child looking at the phone

00:31:24.620 --> 00:31:25.460
 instead of looking at me.

00:31:25.539 --> 00:31:26.400
 If I'm paying for it,

00:31:26.460 --> 00:31:27.460
 you can take it.

00:31:27.920 --> 00:31:29.680
 And that's not being overbearing.

00:31:31.200 --> 00:31:34.200
 That's not being wrong

00:31:34.200 --> 00:31:36.440
 and going too far.

00:31:37.100 --> 00:31:39.779
 That's your children being disrespectful of you

00:31:39.779 --> 00:31:42.380
 and you intervening and not allowing it to happen.

00:31:44.620 --> 00:31:46.500
 Now, I might need somebody to stand with me

00:31:46.500 --> 00:31:47.440
 at the door this morning.

00:31:47.440 --> 00:31:49.480
 Some of you younger people may be mad at me,

00:31:50.000 --> 00:31:52.559
 but you'll get over it.

00:31:52.740 --> 00:31:53.700
 Because sooner or later,

00:31:53.759 --> 00:31:54.840
 you'll know that's right.

00:31:55.460 --> 00:31:56.320
 You may not know it

00:31:56.320 --> 00:31:57.340
 until you have your own children

00:31:57.340 --> 00:32:00.000
 and you're ready to knock that phone

00:32:00.000 --> 00:32:00.799
 out of their hand

00:32:00.799 --> 00:32:03.620
 just like your parents are you right now

00:32:03.620 --> 00:32:05.080
 because of the disrespect.

00:32:05.740 --> 00:32:06.620
 Nothing wrong with a phone.

00:32:06.700 --> 00:32:07.759
 I use one every day.

00:32:08.820 --> 00:32:09.880
 Nothing wrong with computers.

00:32:10.039 --> 00:32:11.059
 All this technology,

00:32:11.240 --> 00:32:12.740
 we all use them, enjoy them,

00:32:12.960 --> 00:32:14.320
 profit by them, work with them.

00:32:14.319 --> 00:32:17.700
 But they should not rob us

00:32:17.700 --> 00:32:20.919
 of FaceTime,

00:32:21.480 --> 00:32:23.299
 personal interaction,

00:32:23.299 --> 00:32:24.980
 and especially with people

00:32:24.980 --> 00:32:27.299
 we are the closest to.

00:32:29.159 --> 00:32:32.039
 What children need from their parents.

00:32:32.299 --> 00:32:33.319
 Look at the last part,

00:32:33.419 --> 00:32:33.939
 verse four,

00:32:34.059 --> 00:32:34.579
 the last part,

00:32:34.919 --> 00:32:36.659
 but bring them up in the discipline

00:32:36.659 --> 00:32:38.599
 and instruction of the Lord.

00:32:38.599 --> 00:32:42.059
 The phrase bring them up.

00:32:42.659 --> 00:32:44.159
 It could be translated

00:32:44.159 --> 00:32:45.879
 nourish them up

00:32:45.879 --> 00:32:47.639
 because that word translated bring,

00:32:47.939 --> 00:32:49.019
 it's the same word

00:32:49.019 --> 00:32:51.279
 that you find in verse 29 of chapter five

00:32:51.279 --> 00:32:52.919
 that is translated nourish.

00:32:53.859 --> 00:32:55.139
 Paul describes how a husband

00:32:55.139 --> 00:32:56.500
 should care for his wife

00:32:56.500 --> 00:32:58.359
 just as he does his own body

00:32:58.359 --> 00:33:01.039
 and just as Christ cares for the church.

00:33:01.559 --> 00:33:02.299
 So here in verse four,

00:33:02.379 --> 00:33:03.419
 the idea is that parents

00:33:03.419 --> 00:33:05.019
 should bring their children up

00:33:05.019 --> 00:33:08.279
 in a gentle, caring, and loving way.

00:33:10.259 --> 00:33:11.579
 That's what a nourishing,

00:33:11.799 --> 00:33:13.440
 healthy environment is.

00:33:14.960 --> 00:33:15.940
 Just think for a minute,

00:33:16.099 --> 00:33:17.000
 how would you describe

00:33:17.000 --> 00:33:18.639
 the environment of your home right now?

00:33:18.639 --> 00:33:21.879
 What kind of emotional atmosphere

00:33:21.879 --> 00:33:25.579
 is there as a general rule?

00:33:25.579 --> 00:33:35.119
 Is it stressful, harsh, sad, strict,

00:33:36.720 --> 00:33:38.460
 verbally and or physically abusive?

00:33:39.899 --> 00:33:42.299
 Or is it truly more nourishing,

00:33:43.779 --> 00:33:47.099
 more gentle, more joyful,

00:33:49.179 --> 00:33:53.559
 more loving, open, inviting?

00:33:53.559 --> 00:33:56.519
 Older children and teenagers,

00:33:56.859 --> 00:33:58.019
 you've got a responsibility

00:33:58.019 --> 00:33:59.519
 for helping to make

00:33:59.519 --> 00:34:01.200
 your home environment this way.

00:34:01.399 --> 00:34:02.700
 It's got to go both ways,

00:34:02.799 --> 00:34:03.899
 parents and children.

00:34:05.039 --> 00:34:05.460
 Number two,

00:34:05.559 --> 00:34:06.419
 children also need

00:34:06.419 --> 00:34:08.159
 consistent, loving discipline.

00:34:08.259 --> 00:34:09.139
 Look at that word there.

00:34:09.799 --> 00:34:10.599
 The word discipline here

00:34:10.599 --> 00:34:11.920
 is a strong word.

00:34:12.019 --> 00:34:13.940
 It means training by discipline.

00:34:14.420 --> 00:34:15.179
 It can even include

00:34:15.179 --> 00:34:16.139
 the idea of punishment.

00:34:17.519 --> 00:34:18.440
 It's the same word

00:34:18.440 --> 00:34:19.880
 used in Hebrews chapter 12

00:34:19.880 --> 00:34:21.460
 to describe God's discipline.

00:34:21.460 --> 00:34:25.139
 The emphasis in Hebrews 12

00:34:25.139 --> 00:34:26.360
 is that God disciplines

00:34:26.360 --> 00:34:28.159
 His children out of love for us.

00:34:28.619 --> 00:34:31.000
 Just as Christian parents

00:34:31.000 --> 00:34:31.920
 discipline their children

00:34:31.920 --> 00:34:32.980
 because they love them.

00:34:36.340 --> 00:34:37.960
 As we talk about discipline,

00:34:38.880 --> 00:34:39.980
 it is very important.

00:34:41.199 --> 00:34:42.740
 You can't have a healthy home

00:34:42.740 --> 00:34:43.320
 without it.

00:34:44.079 --> 00:34:45.039
 But the way we go about

00:34:45.039 --> 00:34:46.280
 our discipline as parents,

00:34:47.059 --> 00:34:48.559
 we need to be careful

00:34:48.559 --> 00:34:50.139
 that we go about it

00:34:50.139 --> 00:34:50.940
 the right way.

00:34:51.299 --> 00:34:52.359
 It's always dangerous

00:34:52.359 --> 00:34:53.219
 for us to discipline

00:34:53.219 --> 00:34:53.920
 our child

00:34:53.920 --> 00:34:55.599
 when we're mad,

00:34:56.460 --> 00:34:57.420
 when we're hurt,

00:34:58.359 --> 00:34:59.739
 when we're not in control

00:34:59.739 --> 00:35:00.679
 of our own emotions.

00:35:01.779 --> 00:35:02.839
 Martin Lloyd-Jones

00:35:02.839 --> 00:35:04.000
 made this statement

00:35:04.000 --> 00:35:06.000
 that all parents

00:35:06.000 --> 00:35:07.519
 need to take to heart.

00:35:08.039 --> 00:35:08.400
 He says,

00:35:08.460 --> 00:35:09.579
 when you discipline a child,

00:35:10.079 --> 00:35:10.559
 you should have

00:35:10.559 --> 00:35:13.480
 first control with yourself.

00:35:14.099 --> 00:35:15.099
 What right have you

00:35:15.099 --> 00:35:16.139
 to say to your child

00:35:16.139 --> 00:35:18.059
 that he needs discipline

00:35:18.059 --> 00:35:19.179
 when you obviously

00:35:19.179 --> 00:35:20.099
 need it yourself?

00:35:20.639 --> 00:35:21.480
 Self-control,

00:35:21.839 --> 00:35:22.920
 the control of temper

00:35:22.920 --> 00:35:25.619
 is an essential prerequisite

00:35:25.619 --> 00:35:27.199
 in the control of others.

00:35:27.879 --> 00:35:28.559
 Children certainly

00:35:28.559 --> 00:35:29.239
 need discipline.

00:35:30.579 --> 00:35:31.099
 And spanking

00:35:31.099 --> 00:35:32.239
 is not abuse.

00:35:33.579 --> 00:35:34.359
 But we must make sure

00:35:34.359 --> 00:35:35.940
 we do it the right way.

00:35:36.279 --> 00:35:37.000
 And it begins

00:35:37.000 --> 00:35:38.199
 with our own attitude,

00:35:38.339 --> 00:35:39.839
 our own being in control.

00:35:40.420 --> 00:35:40.779
 One more.

00:35:40.879 --> 00:35:41.579
 Children also need

00:35:41.579 --> 00:35:43.139
 intentional Christian instruction.

00:35:43.139 --> 00:35:43.579
 instruction.

00:35:44.659 --> 00:35:45.339
 They need instruction

00:35:45.339 --> 00:35:45.980
 about the things

00:35:45.980 --> 00:35:46.599
 of the Lord

00:35:46.599 --> 00:35:47.359
 tells us here.

00:35:48.659 --> 00:35:50.219
 Most Christian parents

00:35:50.219 --> 00:35:52.079
 do take

00:35:52.079 --> 00:35:53.139
 their children's

00:35:53.759 --> 00:35:55.460
 instruction

00:35:55.460 --> 00:35:57.099
 in school

00:35:57.099 --> 00:35:57.839
 seriously.

00:35:59.179 --> 00:36:00.440
 Most good parents,

00:36:00.539 --> 00:36:01.400
 Christian parents,

00:36:02.279 --> 00:36:03.639
 they make sure

00:36:03.639 --> 00:36:04.299
 the child goes

00:36:04.299 --> 00:36:05.019
 to school every day,

00:36:05.099 --> 00:36:05.659
 they're on time,

00:36:05.759 --> 00:36:06.460
 they do their homework,

00:36:06.579 --> 00:36:07.179
 they're prepared

00:36:07.179 --> 00:36:08.019
 for testing

00:36:08.019 --> 00:36:09.460
 like we've just gone through

00:36:09.460 --> 00:36:10.319
 not too long ago.

00:36:11.319 --> 00:36:12.339
 But let me ask you,

00:36:12.400 --> 00:36:12.679
 parent,

00:36:13.139 --> 00:36:14.460
 how much effort

00:36:14.460 --> 00:36:15.139
 do you put into

00:36:15.139 --> 00:36:16.099
 your children's

00:36:16.099 --> 00:36:17.579
 spiritual education

00:36:17.579 --> 00:36:19.379
 at home

00:36:19.379 --> 00:36:22.079
 and then at church?

00:36:23.199 --> 00:36:24.779
 Do you pray with them?

00:36:26.000 --> 00:36:27.099
 Do you read the Bible

00:36:27.099 --> 00:36:27.420
 with them

00:36:27.420 --> 00:36:28.460
 or read Bible stories

00:36:28.460 --> 00:36:29.019
 when they're little?

00:36:29.119 --> 00:36:29.839
 Do you encourage them

00:36:29.839 --> 00:36:30.920
 to read the Bible

00:36:30.920 --> 00:36:31.839
 themselves?

00:36:33.619 --> 00:36:34.299
 Do you talk to them

00:36:34.299 --> 00:36:36.099
 about the things of God?

00:36:36.159 --> 00:36:36.579
 Do you talk to them

00:36:36.579 --> 00:36:37.139
 about Jesus?

00:36:37.659 --> 00:36:38.279
 Do you try to roll,

00:36:38.480 --> 00:36:39.059
 help them to see

00:36:39.059 --> 00:36:40.019
 how God's involved

00:36:40.019 --> 00:36:40.920
 in all of life?

00:36:40.920 --> 00:36:42.980
 Do you bring them

00:36:42.980 --> 00:36:43.699
 to Sunday school

00:36:43.699 --> 00:36:44.280
 regularly,

00:36:44.460 --> 00:36:45.840
 or wanna regularly,

00:36:45.940 --> 00:36:46.380
 other things

00:36:46.380 --> 00:36:47.099
 that we have here?

00:36:48.480 --> 00:36:49.139
 Do you bring them

00:36:49.139 --> 00:36:49.960
 here on time?

00:36:50.119 --> 00:36:52.000
 Is it as important

00:36:52.000 --> 00:36:53.579
 to come to Sunday school

00:36:53.579 --> 00:36:54.880
 Bible study on time

00:36:54.880 --> 00:36:55.740
 as it is to go

00:36:55.740 --> 00:36:56.480
 to work and school

00:36:56.480 --> 00:36:57.199
 on time?

00:37:00.199 --> 00:37:01.099
 That's important.

00:37:01.780 --> 00:37:02.820
 It's teaching children.

00:37:05.519 --> 00:37:06.860
 It's tough being a parent.

00:37:06.860 --> 00:37:09.640
 I think being a parent

00:37:09.640 --> 00:37:11.180
 is the most difficult thing

00:37:11.180 --> 00:37:12.860
 I've ever tried to do.

00:37:13.640 --> 00:37:14.500
 I really do.

00:37:17.519 --> 00:37:18.900
 But with God's help,

00:37:19.579 --> 00:37:22.460
 we can be godly parents.

00:37:23.460 --> 00:37:24.480
 We can do

00:37:24.480 --> 00:37:26.539
 what we're being instructed

00:37:26.539 --> 00:37:27.000
 to do.

00:37:27.920 --> 00:37:29.039
 God has put His Spirit

00:37:29.039 --> 00:37:29.720
 in us

00:37:29.720 --> 00:37:31.099
 to equip us,

00:37:31.680 --> 00:37:32.700
 to give us the desire

00:37:32.700 --> 00:37:33.500
 and ability to do it.

00:37:33.500 --> 00:37:35.119
 He's put us in His Word

00:37:35.119 --> 00:37:35.840
 what to do.

00:37:37.579 --> 00:37:38.500
 We've just gotta be

00:37:38.500 --> 00:37:39.519
 faithful

00:37:39.519 --> 00:37:43.420
 to the best of our ability.

00:37:44.300 --> 00:37:45.400
 I wanna close this message

00:37:45.400 --> 00:37:45.900
 with a quote

00:37:45.900 --> 00:37:47.059
 from Cal Thomas.

00:37:48.780 --> 00:37:49.579
 He talks about

00:37:49.579 --> 00:37:50.300
 the responsibility

00:37:50.300 --> 00:37:51.199
 of parents

00:37:51.199 --> 00:37:52.039
 when all is said

00:37:52.039 --> 00:37:52.539
 and done.

00:37:52.539 --> 00:37:54.099
 Look at it.

00:37:55.480 --> 00:37:56.639
 Think about it carefully.

00:37:58.360 --> 00:37:58.659
 He says,

00:37:58.659 --> 00:37:59.339
 make sure

00:37:59.339 --> 00:37:59.960
 that at the end

00:37:59.960 --> 00:38:00.719
 of your life,

00:38:01.399 --> 00:38:02.379
 regardless of how

00:38:02.379 --> 00:38:04.460
 your child turns out,

00:38:05.019 --> 00:38:06.000
 that you can honestly

00:38:06.000 --> 00:38:07.000
 stand before God

00:38:07.000 --> 00:38:07.619
 and say,

00:38:08.639 --> 00:38:09.920
 in a fallen world,

00:38:10.379 --> 00:38:11.239
 being the sinner

00:38:11.239 --> 00:38:12.379
 that I am,

00:38:12.859 --> 00:38:13.879
 I did the best

00:38:13.879 --> 00:38:14.779
 I could

00:38:14.779 --> 00:38:16.079
 through the power

00:38:16.079 --> 00:38:17.379
 you gave me.

00:38:18.599 --> 00:38:20.199
 If you can't say that,

00:38:21.139 --> 00:38:22.119
 whatever else

00:38:22.119 --> 00:38:23.279
 you have accomplished

00:38:23.279 --> 00:38:24.759
 doesn't matter.

00:38:25.699 --> 00:38:26.739
 Let's pray together.

00:38:27.739 --> 00:38:28.339
 Father,

00:38:28.659 --> 00:38:33.059
 help all of us

00:38:33.059 --> 00:38:33.319
 to know

00:38:33.319 --> 00:38:34.659
 how we should respond

00:38:34.659 --> 00:38:35.659
 to what you have

00:38:35.659 --> 00:38:36.379
 taught us

00:38:36.379 --> 00:38:37.539
 in this passage.

00:38:39.639 --> 00:38:40.119
 Father,

00:38:40.179 --> 00:38:40.739
 if there are parents

00:38:40.739 --> 00:38:41.420
 here who've just

00:38:41.420 --> 00:38:41.920
 failed,

00:38:43.299 --> 00:38:44.339
 they haven't

00:38:44.339 --> 00:38:45.619
 put forth

00:38:45.619 --> 00:38:46.179
 any effort,

00:38:47.399 --> 00:38:48.639
 they haven't prayed,

00:38:48.879 --> 00:38:49.599
 they haven't sought

00:38:49.599 --> 00:38:50.079
 to be

00:38:50.079 --> 00:38:51.079
 true,

00:38:51.859 --> 00:38:52.500
 spiritual

00:38:52.500 --> 00:38:53.899
 examples

00:38:53.899 --> 00:38:54.399
 and leaders

00:38:54.399 --> 00:38:55.159
 to their children,

00:38:56.500 --> 00:38:57.379
 help them

00:38:57.379 --> 00:38:57.940
 to confess

00:38:57.940 --> 00:38:59.059
 that as the sin

00:38:59.059 --> 00:38:59.800
 that it is

00:38:59.800 --> 00:39:00.260
 and truly

00:39:00.260 --> 00:39:01.500
 repent of it.

00:39:02.880 --> 00:39:03.460
 Help them,

00:39:03.599 --> 00:39:03.659
 Father,

00:39:03.720 --> 00:39:04.000
 right now

00:39:04.000 --> 00:39:04.820
 to make a new

00:39:04.820 --> 00:39:05.440
 commitment

00:39:05.440 --> 00:39:08.639
 to seek

00:39:08.639 --> 00:39:09.460
 your help

00:39:09.460 --> 00:39:10.360
 day by day

00:39:10.360 --> 00:39:12.539
 to live

00:39:12.539 --> 00:39:13.460
 a faithful Christian

00:39:13.460 --> 00:39:14.099
 life before their

00:39:14.099 --> 00:39:14.460
 children

00:39:14.460 --> 00:39:16.940
 and then to seek

00:39:16.940 --> 00:39:17.599
 to be the

00:39:17.599 --> 00:39:17.940
 spiritual

00:39:17.940 --> 00:39:18.940
 influence

00:39:18.940 --> 00:39:20.420
 influence in their

00:39:20.420 --> 00:39:22.220
 lives that you've

00:39:22.220 --> 00:39:23.000
 called them to be.

00:39:24.800 --> 00:39:25.659
 Help them to see,

00:39:25.880 --> 00:39:25.980
 Father,

00:39:26.079 --> 00:39:27.840
 that they can't be

00:39:27.840 --> 00:39:28.679
 perfect parents

00:39:28.679 --> 00:39:29.280
 and they don't have

00:39:29.280 --> 00:39:29.980
 perfect children,

00:39:30.119 --> 00:39:30.240
 but

00:39:30.240 --> 00:39:34.320
 you will work in them

00:39:34.320 --> 00:39:36.059
 to help them to guide

00:39:36.059 --> 00:39:36.800
 and influence their

00:39:36.800 --> 00:39:37.840
 children in a good way.

00:39:37.840 --> 00:39:41.220
 Father,

00:39:41.300 --> 00:39:41.880
 if there are

00:39:41.880 --> 00:39:43.760
 parents in this

00:39:43.760 --> 00:39:44.559
 room that while

00:39:44.559 --> 00:39:45.120
 they know

00:39:45.120 --> 00:39:45.760
 they've not done

00:39:45.760 --> 00:39:46.519
 everything right,

00:39:46.660 --> 00:39:48.019
 they do see

00:39:48.019 --> 00:39:49.019
 some good signs

00:39:49.019 --> 00:39:49.800
 in their life,

00:39:50.400 --> 00:39:51.019
 but they're very

00:39:51.019 --> 00:39:52.019
 difficult,

00:39:52.160 --> 00:39:52.680
 they're very

00:39:52.680 --> 00:39:55.280
 concerned,

00:39:56.340 --> 00:39:57.860
 they're tired,

00:39:59.220 --> 00:39:59.940
 they have a lot

00:39:59.940 --> 00:40:00.500
 of unanswered

00:40:00.500 --> 00:40:01.140
 questions,

00:40:01.500 --> 00:40:02.120
 I pray,

00:40:02.400 --> 00:40:02.440
 Father,

00:40:02.500 --> 00:40:02.980
 that you will

00:40:02.980 --> 00:40:03.800
 comfort them,

00:40:04.280 --> 00:40:04.519
 that you'll

00:40:04.519 --> 00:40:05.360
 encourage them

00:40:05.360 --> 00:40:06.240
 not to give up,

00:40:06.300 --> 00:40:06.920
 not to quit,

00:40:06.920 --> 00:40:09.880
 but to persevere

00:40:09.880 --> 00:40:12.940
 in being that

00:40:12.940 --> 00:40:14.220
 faithful parent,

00:40:15.340 --> 00:40:15.940
 influencer,

00:40:16.380 --> 00:40:16.760
 teacher

00:40:16.760 --> 00:40:19.079
 of their child.

00:40:20.740 --> 00:40:21.300
 Father,

00:40:21.380 --> 00:40:21.659
 if there are

00:40:21.659 --> 00:40:22.360
 children in this

00:40:22.360 --> 00:40:23.360
 room who are

00:40:23.360 --> 00:40:25.180
 disobedient,

00:40:26.019 --> 00:40:26.720
 disrespectful,

00:40:27.840 --> 00:40:30.500
 they have bad

00:40:30.500 --> 00:40:31.079
 attitudes,

00:40:31.980 --> 00:40:32.840
 I pray that you

00:40:32.840 --> 00:40:33.780
 will convict them

00:40:33.780 --> 00:40:34.599
 of that sin

00:40:34.599 --> 00:40:35.119
 right now.

00:40:36.920 --> 00:40:37.619
 you'll cause

00:40:37.619 --> 00:40:38.480
 them to not

00:40:38.480 --> 00:40:39.200
 only seek your

00:40:39.200 --> 00:40:39.579
 forgiveness,

00:40:39.720 --> 00:40:40.180
 but seek their

00:40:40.180 --> 00:40:40.539
 parents'

00:40:40.700 --> 00:40:41.019
 forgiveness.

00:40:43.940 --> 00:40:44.740
 Just as,

00:40:44.960 --> 00:40:45.039
 Father,

00:40:45.139 --> 00:40:45.680
 you cause

00:40:45.680 --> 00:40:47.300
 parents to

00:40:47.300 --> 00:40:47.720
 seek their

00:40:47.720 --> 00:40:48.559
 child's forgiveness

00:40:48.559 --> 00:40:49.260
 in addition to

00:40:49.260 --> 00:40:49.720
 yours.

00:40:53.960 --> 00:40:54.559
 I pray,

00:40:54.820 --> 00:40:54.840
 Father,

00:40:54.880 --> 00:40:55.360
 that you'll just

00:40:55.360 --> 00:40:56.000
 do the work

00:40:56.000 --> 00:40:56.700
 in the life

00:40:56.700 --> 00:40:58.200
 of each parent

00:40:58.200 --> 00:40:58.980
 and child,

00:40:59.440 --> 00:41:00.500
 each influencer

00:41:00.500 --> 00:41:01.360
 of children

00:41:01.360 --> 00:41:02.079
 in this room

00:41:02.079 --> 00:41:04.639
 that will

00:41:04.639 --> 00:41:05.380
 all profit

00:41:05.380 --> 00:41:07.739
 from what

00:41:07.739 --> 00:41:08.239
 you've said

00:41:08.239 --> 00:41:09.139
 to us.

00:41:10.659 --> 00:41:10.779
 Lord,

00:41:10.920 --> 00:41:11.299
 help us to

00:41:11.299 --> 00:41:11.860
 see that

00:41:11.860 --> 00:41:13.960
 none of us

00:41:13.960 --> 00:41:14.400
 can do this

00:41:14.400 --> 00:41:14.860
 on our own.

00:41:16.639 --> 00:41:17.699
 We need

00:41:17.699 --> 00:41:18.579
 your help.

00:41:19.639 --> 00:41:20.319
 Help us to

00:41:20.319 --> 00:41:21.019
 look to you,

00:41:21.139 --> 00:41:21.739
 talk to you,

00:41:21.880 --> 00:41:22.480
 cooperate with

00:41:22.480 --> 00:41:23.420
 you every day.

00:41:23.420 --> 00:41:26.599
 and just

00:41:26.599 --> 00:41:27.000
 in an attitude

00:41:27.000 --> 00:41:27.720
 of prayer,

00:41:27.840 --> 00:41:28.220
 you listen

00:41:28.220 --> 00:41:28.559
 to the Lord

00:41:28.559 --> 00:41:29.119
 and you obey

00:41:29.119 --> 00:41:29.539
 Him about

00:41:29.539 --> 00:41:30.059
 this matter.

00:41:30.800 --> 00:41:31.180
 If I could

00:41:31.180 --> 00:41:31.659
 pray with you

00:41:31.659 --> 00:41:32.300
 during this time,

00:41:32.340 --> 00:41:32.720
 I'll be happy

00:41:32.720 --> 00:41:33.340
 to here at the

00:41:33.340 --> 00:41:33.539
 front.

00:41:33.539 --> 00:41:33.659
 Amen.

00:41:33.659 --> 00:41:33.700
 Amen.

00:41:33.700 --> 00:41:33.760
 Amen.

00:41:33.760 --> 00:41:33.800
 Amen.

00:41:33.800 --> 00:41:34.240
 Amen.

00:41:34.240 --> 00:41:34.300
 Amen.

00:41:34.300 --> 00:41:34.360
 Amen.

00:41:34.360 --> 00:41:34.400
 Amen.