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 Good morning, everyone.

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 Mike is continuing our study of Proverbs today,

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 so I'm going to read some of those for you.

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 You can follow along in your bulletins.

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 You have a little handout.

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 In honor of God's word, will you please stand?

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 In Proverbs it says,

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 The tongue has the power of life and death,

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 and those who love it will eat its fruit.

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 The words of the reckless pierce like swords,

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 but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

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 The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint,

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 and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.

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 A person finds joy in giving an apt reply,

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 and how good is a timely word.

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 The soothing tongue is a tree of life,

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 but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.

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 A gossip betrays a confidence,

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 so avoid anyone who talks too much.

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 A gossip betrays a confidence,

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 but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.

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 Anxiety weighs down the heart,

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 but a kind word cheers it up.

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 Gracious words are a honeycomb,

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 sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

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 An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.

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 Plans are established by seeking advice,

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 so if you wage war, obtain guidance.

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 In Matthew 12, 34-35 it says,

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 For whatever is in your heart determines what you say.

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 A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart,

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 and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart.

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 And in John 1, 1 and 14,

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 we're reminded of this.

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 In the beginning was the Word,

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 and the Word was with God,

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 and the Word was God.

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 The Word became flesh,

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 and made His dwelling among us.

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 We have seen His glory,

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 the glory of the one and only Son,

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 who came from the Father,

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 full of grace and truth.

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 This is the reading of God's Word.

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 Good morning, Watermark.

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 Glad you all made it this morning.

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 It's pretty nice out there.

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 At least it was when I got out of the house.

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 Yeah, so it's kind of like beach weather today,

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 so it's great that you made it to church instead.

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 Well, our teaching pastor, Tobin, is currently traveling.

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 He'll be back in about two weeks.

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 So my name is Mike,

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 and I'm working with a college student,

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 so I'm filling in for him.

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 And next week, we'll have Eric come up and speak

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 and share about youth and family a little bit

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 and what we find in the Proverbs about that.

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 We also have a big group of teachers here with us,

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 so if you haven't been here last week and you met them,

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 then maybe you have a chance this week.

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 They're here with the English Language Institute

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 sharing just their lives

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 with some of the middle school students here in Hong Kong

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 for the next few weeks and teaching.

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 So we're really thankful for you guys being here

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 and serving with us

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 and just serving alongside the church.

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 At the beginning of the message,

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 I just wanted to share a little story

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 that happened this past week.

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 As Jeremy mentioned,

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 we have been talking about the sermon series

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 for a while with the staff.

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 And so after the last conversation I had with the staff,

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 I got this WhatsApp message

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 from one of our staff members,

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 and she was standing in line in the bank.

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 And so right in front of her was this elderly lady,

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 and the lady had two grandkids with her,

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 and suddenly the elderly lady turned to another stranger in line

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 and said,

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 Oh, look at my grandkids.

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 They are stupid like empty rice bowls.

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 Totally useless.

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 When I hear that kind of stories,

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 I always wonder,

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 what is happening in these kids,

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 in these little souls?

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 Words are really powerful.

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 Proverbs 18.21 actually says,

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 Death and life are in the power of words.

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 Words can give us life,

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 and they can tear us down.

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 They can hurt us,

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 and they can build us up

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 or bring healing.

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 When you think about your own life,

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 maybe you have experiences

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 where words have had an impact on you,

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 and you may recall some of these moments

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 where there are certain words

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 that just stick with you.

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 Maybe it's something your parents said,

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 maybe just a one-time thing

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 or over and over again,

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 and these words just stick with you

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 and make you feel useless

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 or like a failure.

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 Or maybe just some recent words

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 in your family,

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 like maybe with your spouse,

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 and you just recall

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 like an argument,

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 and you just feel the emotion again rising up

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 about the words that have been said.

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 Maybe it's just like the disrespectful

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 or downgrading words of a boss

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 that really just hit you

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 and make you not even want to go to work

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 or the gossip of a friend

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 that has something that they said about you back.

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 Or it's even words that you said yourself,

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 and now that you think about certain words,

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 you just regret it,

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 and you wish you just wouldn't have said it.

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 Sometimes I'm just surprised,

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 like in that story in the bank,

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 how people use words.

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 There was another similar story,

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 like a few years ago,

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 I lived in Calhoun City,

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 and I had this elderly retired couple as neighbors,

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 and about once a week,

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 in the middle of the night,

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 she would start yelling at him

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 at the top of her lungs,

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 and sometimes like an hour long.

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 And when I had Cantonese speaking friends over,

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 like they would always listen to it,

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 and then they giggle,

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 and then they would translate,

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 and say, oh yeah, she said that.

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 Why have I ever gotten married to you,

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 and you are so useless,

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 and a lot of things I don't even want to repeat here.

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 But she went on and on,

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 and I didn't even know like how many ways

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 you can say that I don't even want to be married to you

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 over and over again.

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 So I'm just startled how words are used.

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 And there are certain ways

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 of how words are used in Hong Kong

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 differently to where I come from.

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 So some of these encounters,

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 I might not understand so well.

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 It's just foreign to me

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 and how people talk,

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 maybe in Chinese culture

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 or German-American culture.

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 Some parents may say,

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 oh, you know,

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 that's the way of how I show love.

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 It's the way of how I want to motivate my kids

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 to do better.

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 I don't want them to be too prideful.

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 So I was thinking about this book

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 called The Five Love Languages.

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 Some of you may have heard of that,

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 and it's written by an American author

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 for an American audience,

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 so I don't know how much it applies

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 to worldwide culture,

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 but it's basically talking about

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 five different ways

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 of how people show that they care and love.

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 And one of these five love languages

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 is called the words of affirmation,

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 so words that are uplifting and encouraging.

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 And so I hear these stories,

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 and I wonder whether,

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 in a different setting,

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 you may have to have words of humiliation

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 that show that you really love and care.

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 But every culture,

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 even sometimes in a family culture,

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 you have this specific culture

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 with a set of values and principles

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 that you apply,

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 and it's a certain way of how you speak

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 and how you use words.

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 I have my own experiences

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 about how words have been used in my family.

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 I never really could recall a memory

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 where my dad ever got loud.

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 He never raised his voice.

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 He never really got angry.

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 I was always pretty calm at home,

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 and that's probably why I have a hard time

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 relating to some of the stories.

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 But what I'm describing

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 is not like the perfect happy family.

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 Even so, the words were not loud.

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 There were a lot of very hurtful words

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 that were said as well.

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 One of the moments that I remember pretty well

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 was the day of my high school graduation.

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 And so that day,

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 I was called up on stage,

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 and I was awarded

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 as the second best student to graduate.

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 And so when I got back home,

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 my dad said,

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 you could have been first

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 if you would have worked harder.

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 And I think a lot of people here

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 can probably relate to that

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 in the setting.

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 I think the Prussian system

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 of how my father raised his family

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 was similar to how some Asian families

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 are raised as well.

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 And I've struggled for quite a while

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 in my life with that feeling

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 of maybe not really being good enough

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 and being a failure.

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 I don't really remember uplifting words

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 in my family,

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 words that my dad would say

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 that he's proud of me

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 or that he believes in who I am

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 and what I do.

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 And words have power.

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 Once you release words,

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 they have kind of like this

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 power on their own

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 that they develop.

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 You cannot take them back.

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 And in that life on their own

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 that they have,

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 and it's kind of planted

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 in the souls of other people,

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 they begin to tear down

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 or build a person up.

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 But as I said,

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 it's different cultures

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 have different values.

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 And currently,

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 we are in this journey

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 of looking at Proverbs.

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 We are looking at

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 the kingdom perspective

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 in the Proverbs.

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 And we have looked at wealth

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 and different topics

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 and how a kingdom perspective

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 looks like.

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 And today,

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 we are looking at

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 what does a kingdom perspective

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 look like

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 in the topic of words.

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 So what do I mean

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 by a kingdom perspective?

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 If you have been here

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 for the last two weeks,

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 you probably know

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 a little bit more.

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 But let me just repeat that again.

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 So we are trying to look at

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 not what words

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 are supposed to be used

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 and how words

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 are supposed to be used

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 from a German or Chinese

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 or American perspective,

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 but what does

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 the kingdom of God say?

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 What does God's culture say

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 about the use of words?

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 Are there certain values

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 that we can apply

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 from how God thinks about that?

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 And so we use an illustration

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 that hopefully

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 you can get up here again.

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 It's that rug

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 that we have been looking at.

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 Okay, we'll get that in a while.

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 So we have this picture

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 up there with a rug.

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 And so when you look

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 at a rug from the back,

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 you basically see

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 that there are like

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 these like knots

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 and colors

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 that are a little like

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 merged together.

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 And you can't really see

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 fully the picture

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 that's on the other side.

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 And that's kind of like

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 how we look at life.

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 Some of the things

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 don't make sense.

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 We don't really see

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 the perspective

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 that God has.

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 God looks at life

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 and being all-knowing

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 and understanding the world

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 from his perspective.

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 He can see the beautiful picture

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 of even how words

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 should be spoken.

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 But our culture is broken.

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 We live in a broken world

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 and words we use

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 sometimes don't come out.

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 Like some of us,

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 you know,

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 you see the two different pictures.

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 So we are a little bit more

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 like the picture on the right.

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 And some of us may say,

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 I'm a really good communicator.

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 Tobin actually said

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 the same thing.

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 I always think

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 I'm a really good communicator

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 until my wife tells me

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 I'm not.

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 And that's, I think,

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 how it is

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 with so many words we use.

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 We think we say

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 something very clearly,

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 but so many things

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 kind of like get lost

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 in translation

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 of just from us

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 to the other person.

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 So we're realizing

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 that a lot of words

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 that we use,

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 they just don't come across

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 the way we want.

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 So we want to see

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 what can we learn

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 to see more clearly

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 how we communicate

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 and what are words

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 and how are words spoken

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 in light of what God,

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 you know,

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 how God sees words.

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 It's kind of funny to me

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 to use a sermon,

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 a lot of words,

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 to talk about

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 the biblical perspective

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 on words

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 because one of the things

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 that the Proverbs

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 and throughout the Bible

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 is being said that

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 don't use too many words.

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 Be wise with the way

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 you use words

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 because the more words

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 you say,

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 the more danger is there

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 that the words you say

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 may be miscommunicating

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 and hurting

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 and, yeah,

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 just bringing more hurt.

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 So in Proverbs 12, 18,

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 it actually says,

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 there are those

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 who chatter on

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 like a stabbing sword.

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 And I'll take a few chunks

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 first out of

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 some of the Proverbs

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 that kind of look at

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 more at the negative elements

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 of how words are used

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 and we look at the other parts

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 a little bit later.

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 But so here it says,

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 those who chatter on,

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 there are those

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 who chatter on

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 like a stabbing sword.

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 Now if you,

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 like me,

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 are a very kind of

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 social person,

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 you like being around people

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 and, yeah,

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 you just find it life-giving

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 to, you know,

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 sit down

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 and have a long conversation,

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 then you may struggle

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 with this a little bit.

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 And maybe you can relate

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 to the experience

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 of sitting somewhere

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 and starting to talk

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 and then you talk

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 and talk

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 and after a while

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 you say,

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 oh,

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 you shouldn't have said that.

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 Maybe,

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 maybe I said too much here.

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 I think that's a really

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 good question

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 that you can ask yourself

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 whether this is something

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 that you struggle with.

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 I sometimes ask myself,

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 where do I go

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 when I have

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 a negative experience?

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 So when I'm upset

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 or worried,

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 what do I do with that?

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 It's kind of like,

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 oh, you know,

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 something happens to you

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 and you get really worried

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 and really upset

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 and someone walks by

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 and says,

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 oh, hey,

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 seriously,

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 I need to tell you

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 something that just happened.

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 Or you get on your phone

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 and maybe the first thing

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 you do when you're really worried

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 and upset is,

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 I need to call my mom

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 or I need to call my best friend

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 and it's really vent

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 about what just happened

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 with my boss

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 or with my friends.

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 Or maybe you are

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 in the more modern generation

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 and you get on Facebook

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 and you change your status

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 to,

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 I'm so upset,

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 just don't ask me

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 what just happened.

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 You just want to,

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 you know,

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 the emotions just kind of

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 like take over

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 and you just want to talk about it

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 and you just want to let it out

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 and suddenly these words

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 become,

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 you know,

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 chattering

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 and then they can become

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 stabbing swords

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 because in our anger

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 and that first hint of emotion

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 that is still there,

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 we just start talking about things

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 that we shouldn't talk about

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 and the heatedness of the moment

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 kind of like takes over.

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 Proverbs 17.27 says,

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 the one who has knowledge

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 uses words with restraint.

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 I can sometimes heart

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 to not let our response

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 be driven by our feelings.

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 Maybe we just need to learn

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 to kind of like take a deep breath

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 and then we just need to learn

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 that the first person

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 we probably should go to

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 is God.

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 I find that really hard

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 because the tangible situation

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 of, you know,

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 talking to my wife

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 or talking to a friend

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 is so much more real

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 to digest everything

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 but really just taking a breath

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 and taking these emotions to God

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 and let him take that first edge off.

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 I think there's a lot of wisdom in that

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 and so I think it's a good indicator

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 to ask ourselves,

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 is that what we do?

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 But you may say,

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 actually,

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 I don't really struggle

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 with that so much.

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 I'm always pretty calm

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 and when I get angry,

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 I'm kind of getting quiet.

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 I'm not really so confrontational

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 so I just, you know,

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 don't do that.

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 It doesn't apply to me.

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 So here's another proverb.

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 How good is a timely word?

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 In my life,

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 I have learned to avoid words.

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 So I mentioned how I grew up

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 in a house

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 with very little fighting.

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 One of the reasons was

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 because my dad was

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 the boss of the house.

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 He was the authority

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 and if he would say something,

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 that would be

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 nothing to argue about.

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 There would be no argument

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 or disagreements with that.

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 So my only response

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 to whenever there was

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 something going on

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 was to be quiet,

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 to walk away.

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 But words need to come

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 at one point

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 because the hurt is there

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 and some healing

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 needs to happen

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 in one way or the other.

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 So if you turn around 1523,

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 it would also say,

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 how bad

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 if a timely word

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 does not come?

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 So out of my upbringing,

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 I didn't learn

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 a healthy way

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 of talking about hurt

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 so it took me

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 quite a while

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 to really relearn that

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 later on in life,

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 not to avoid

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 all conflict

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 and to walk away

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 and just to give people

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 a silence treatment.

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 So when you think

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 about relationships

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 in your life,

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 maybe relationships

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 with your parents

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 or with your siblings,

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 with your spouse,

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 maybe relationships

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 in your workplace

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 or in close friendships,

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 where do you see yourself more?

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 like, is it more

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 that there are relationships

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 in which you just

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 see yourself more

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 on the side

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 of like digesting

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 more words

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 and chattering

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 and letting out

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 the emotions

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 or do you find more,

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 I have a hard time

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 even saying words.

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 Now, let's kind of like

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 address and explore

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 a little bit more

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 of these proverbs.

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 In 15.4,

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 it says,

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 a deceitful tongue

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 crushes the spirit.

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 It's a different element.

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 Have you met people

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 that are very good

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 with words?

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 Like, they can take

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 your words

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 and actually twist them

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 around and you walk away

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 and, ah,

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 I didn't even want

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 to say that,

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 but they took it that way

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 or that are really good

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 at manipulating

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 through their words

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 or even lie

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 and deceive

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 through the words

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 they say.

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 when I was reading

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 this proverb,

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 I had to think

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 of one of my colleagues.

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 It's 15 years ago,

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 but it's so interesting

00:16:58.779 --> 00:16:59.759
 how it sticks with me

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 that there was this one person

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 that I worked with

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 in the bank

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 and every time

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 we started talking,

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 suddenly the conversation

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 shifted to that one person

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 that was not in the room

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 and then we would be

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 on a coffee break

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 or a lunch table

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 and people would start talking

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 and suddenly again,

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 you know,

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 you would just talk

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 about the flaws

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 of whoever was not there

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 and I was 20 years old

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 when I started working there

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 and at that time,

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 it kind of seemed

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 like a revelation

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 when I first thought,

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 what happens

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 when I'm not in the room?

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 You know,

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 there are these reasons

00:17:31.659 --> 00:17:32.879
 that we have

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 for saying words

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 and now I look back

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 and I really wondered,

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 what was she so insecure about?

00:17:38.639 --> 00:17:38.680
 Like,

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 what did she,

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 why did she need that?

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 Was she unhappy

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 with herself

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 and with her life

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 and what are the words

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 that she may have needed

00:17:47.319 --> 00:17:48.440
 in her life

00:17:48.440 --> 00:17:49.619
 to be spoken to her

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 to not feel like

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 she has to push everyone down

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 and so even when

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 I find myself

00:17:54.820 --> 00:17:55.700
 using words

00:17:55.700 --> 00:17:56.460
 that are crushing

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 to others,

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 I kind of wonder,

00:17:58.700 --> 00:17:58.759
 like,

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 what's up in my heart?

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 What's going on

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 in my life

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 that I need to work on?

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 So we continue

00:18:05.980 --> 00:18:07.820
 in that kind of proverb.

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 There's a proverb

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 in 2019

00:18:09.880 --> 00:18:10.480
 that says,

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 a gossip betrays

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 a confidence,

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 so avoid anyone

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 who talks too much.

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 I actually believe

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 that one of the greatest

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 challenges in church today

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 is that we don't

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 really have safe places.

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 It's actually a problem

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 that we have

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 all in the world,

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 but when we come

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 to church,

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 we think of it,

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 oh,

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 this should be

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 a safe place,

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 but just thinking

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 about the relationships

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 in church

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 or, you know,

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 in your community groups,

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 maybe in your own family,

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 you may wonder,

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 is it really that safe

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 for me to really

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 be who I am?

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 You think of the

00:18:44.480 --> 00:18:45.240
 divorce rate

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 and you wonder,

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 should I even tell

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 my spouse everything

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 because maybe one thing

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 that breaks apart

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 and then,

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 oh,

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 she has all the power

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 of knowing everything

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 about me.

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 This all reminds me

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 of that story

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 in the first chapters

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 of the Bible.

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 Right in the beginning,

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 after God creates humankind,

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 it says,

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 and they were all naked

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 and felt no shame.

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 And I think

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 what it really talks about

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 is that people

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 were stripped naked

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 in their soul

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 and standing in front

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 of God

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 and God,

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 who is all-knowing

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 and who knows

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 everything already,

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 he's right there

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 and there was

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 no embarrassment,

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 no place

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 for feeling,

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 you know,

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 just shame

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 or embarrassment.

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 We can be safe

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 in his presence,

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 but the story

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 goes on.

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 And then Adam

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 and Eve,

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 that relationship

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 with God

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 and them

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 breaks apart.

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 And now the next

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 thing that happens,

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 because their trust

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 is broken,

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 they suddenly hide

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 behind that bush

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 and they cover

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 all their shame

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 and they are

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 in hiding.

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 And even today

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 we are in hiding.

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 There are barely

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 any people

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 that say,

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 I can just be

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 stripped naked

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 in my soul

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 and just let people

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 know everything

00:19:57.240 --> 00:19:57.920
 about me.

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 Instead,

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 we wear a mask

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 and we try to

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 protect ourselves

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 and make sure

00:20:02.200 --> 00:20:03.820
 that we cannot

00:20:03.820 --> 00:20:04.700
 be humiliated

00:20:04.700 --> 00:20:05.340
 and embarrassed

00:20:05.340 --> 00:20:05.880
 by others.

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 So we keep hiding.

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 And as I said,

00:20:08.320 --> 00:20:08.880
 I have seen that

00:20:08.880 --> 00:20:10.120
 in church as well,

00:20:10.220 --> 00:20:11.140
 that people

00:20:11.140 --> 00:20:12.740
 entrust themselves

00:20:12.740 --> 00:20:14.079
 to others,

00:20:14.200 --> 00:20:14.660
 maybe even

00:20:14.660 --> 00:20:15.240
 to the pastor,

00:20:15.779 --> 00:20:16.700
 and then their

00:20:16.700 --> 00:20:17.599
 souls are crushed

00:20:17.599 --> 00:20:18.700
 and their confidence

00:20:18.700 --> 00:20:19.299
 is broken.

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 The Bible calls us

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 to be one body.

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 And when one part

00:20:27.000 --> 00:20:27.359
 of the body

00:20:27.359 --> 00:20:27.880
 is hurting,

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 then all is hurting.

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 So it talks about

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 how maybe

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 you're bleeding

00:20:33.500 --> 00:20:34.279
 in your marriage,

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 in your relationships.

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 Maybe you're just

00:20:37.779 --> 00:20:38.539
 suffering in your

00:20:38.539 --> 00:20:39.640
 financial situation.

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 You struggle

00:20:41.279 --> 00:20:42.420
 with secret sins

00:20:42.420 --> 00:20:43.400
 and the body

00:20:43.400 --> 00:20:44.039
 should be there

00:20:44.039 --> 00:20:44.900
 and bring healing

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 and bring restoration

00:20:45.660 --> 00:20:47.200
 to the whole body

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 and embrace the people

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 and lift them up

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 out of their hurting.

00:20:52.940 --> 00:20:53.680
 At Watermark,

00:20:53.759 --> 00:20:54.980
 we desire that.

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 We desire community

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 and the inward focus

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 and community

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 is such an essential

00:20:59.720 --> 00:21:00.600
 element of what

00:21:00.600 --> 00:21:01.640
 we want to stand for.

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 And we hope that

00:21:02.920 --> 00:21:03.680
 the community groups

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 that you join,

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 that there would be

00:21:05.480 --> 00:21:06.180
 a place where you

00:21:06.180 --> 00:21:07.279
 find that kind of safety.

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 Where people around you

00:21:09.340 --> 00:21:10.960
 have the love of Christ

00:21:10.960 --> 00:21:11.660
 and surround you

00:21:11.660 --> 00:21:12.600
 with the love of Christ,

00:21:13.140 --> 00:21:14.920
 where you can be real

00:21:14.920 --> 00:21:15.840
 and be safe.

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 But where we fall

00:21:18.120 --> 00:21:18.860
 short of that,

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 it's because we are

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 fallen people.

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 And so I just want

00:21:22.440 --> 00:21:23.000
 to say sorry

00:21:23.000 --> 00:21:24.279
 if you have walked

00:21:24.279 --> 00:21:25.340
 through church experiences,

00:21:25.440 --> 00:21:25.880
 whether here

00:21:25.880 --> 00:21:26.740
 or anywhere else,

00:21:26.779 --> 00:21:27.940
 and you have gotten hurt

00:21:27.940 --> 00:21:28.920
 and you have gotten

00:21:28.920 --> 00:21:29.500
 disappointed.

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 I just encourage you

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 to take a step forward

00:21:32.579 --> 00:21:35.079
 in just allowing

00:21:35.079 --> 00:21:36.380
 a place of safety

00:21:36.380 --> 00:21:37.940
 to be built

00:21:37.940 --> 00:21:38.660
 in your life again.

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 And if you have been hurt

00:21:39.900 --> 00:21:41.360
 in your friendships

00:21:41.360 --> 00:21:42.500
 and your relationships,

00:21:43.460 --> 00:21:44.360
 I just pray that you

00:21:44.360 --> 00:21:45.460
 would find the strength

00:21:45.460 --> 00:21:47.220
 again to move forward

00:21:47.220 --> 00:21:48.100
 and finding community

00:21:48.100 --> 00:21:49.620
 in the way that God

00:21:49.620 --> 00:21:50.460
 designs it for

00:21:50.460 --> 00:21:51.680
 and desires it for us.

00:21:53.700 --> 00:21:54.720
 Proverbs 12.25,

00:21:55.100 --> 00:21:55.960
 and this is the last one

00:21:55.960 --> 00:21:56.720
 that I want to use

00:21:56.720 --> 00:21:58.840
 in that first part

00:21:58.840 --> 00:21:59.800
 of the message,

00:22:00.080 --> 00:22:02.660
 is that 12.25 says,

00:22:02.780 --> 00:22:03.500
 that anxiety makes

00:22:03.500 --> 00:22:04.360
 the heart of a person

00:22:04.360 --> 00:22:04.880
 depressed,

00:22:04.880 --> 00:22:05.000
 depressed,

00:22:05.320 --> 00:22:06.520
 but a kind word

00:22:06.520 --> 00:22:07.820
 cheers it up.

00:22:08.700 --> 00:22:09.480
 And so anxiety

00:22:09.480 --> 00:22:10.560
 and fear and depression,

00:22:11.140 --> 00:22:12.540
 when you hear these words,

00:22:12.620 --> 00:22:13.240
 they all mean something

00:22:13.240 --> 00:22:13.700
 very different

00:22:13.700 --> 00:22:14.820
 to all of us here.

00:22:14.940 --> 00:22:15.820
 Some may not relate

00:22:15.820 --> 00:22:16.740
 to it so much,

00:22:16.780 --> 00:22:17.260
 but for some,

00:22:17.300 --> 00:22:17.840
 it may be very,

00:22:17.940 --> 00:22:18.800
 very close to home.

00:22:20.220 --> 00:22:20.700
 Like for me,

00:22:20.760 --> 00:22:21.400
 I think when I read

00:22:21.400 --> 00:22:22.220
 through that proverb,

00:22:22.900 --> 00:22:23.580
 it connects

00:22:23.580 --> 00:22:24.360
 with a lot of things

00:22:24.360 --> 00:22:24.980
 because I've been

00:22:24.980 --> 00:22:25.800
 ministering to students

00:22:25.800 --> 00:22:26.880
 for the last seven years

00:22:26.880 --> 00:22:27.600
 here in the city

00:22:27.600 --> 00:22:28.740
 and it seems like

00:22:28.740 --> 00:22:29.840
 a reoccurring theme

00:22:29.840 --> 00:22:31.640
 that people worry about

00:22:31.640 --> 00:22:33.160
 and deal with.

00:22:33.860 --> 00:22:34.800
 For most of my life,

00:22:34.799 --> 00:22:35.339
 I've been a pretty

00:22:35.339 --> 00:22:36.099
 positive person.

00:22:36.619 --> 00:22:37.200
 I've not really been

00:22:37.200 --> 00:22:37.680
 too anxious.

00:22:38.119 --> 00:22:39.379
 I thought I can deal

00:22:39.379 --> 00:22:40.639
 with most things

00:22:40.639 --> 00:22:42.419
 and depression

00:22:42.419 --> 00:22:42.919
 was something

00:22:42.919 --> 00:22:43.299
 that I couldn't

00:22:43.299 --> 00:22:44.259
 really relate to either.

00:22:45.779 --> 00:22:46.899
 But several years ago,

00:22:46.960 --> 00:22:47.460
 there was a time

00:22:47.460 --> 00:22:48.220
 where God allowed me

00:22:48.220 --> 00:22:49.319
 to walk through

00:22:49.319 --> 00:22:50.279
 a season of my life

00:22:50.279 --> 00:22:51.599
 where I started

00:22:51.599 --> 00:22:52.000
 to connect

00:22:52.000 --> 00:22:52.919
 with many of the things.

00:22:53.279 --> 00:22:54.139
 I realized that

00:22:54.139 --> 00:22:54.859
 I have put myself

00:22:54.859 --> 00:22:55.500
 in an environment

00:22:55.500 --> 00:22:56.720
 where it was not

00:22:56.720 --> 00:22:57.319
 very healthy.

00:22:58.200 --> 00:22:58.899
 I had moved

00:22:58.899 --> 00:22:59.899
 to a different place.

00:23:00.019 --> 00:23:00.619
 I didn't really know

00:23:00.619 --> 00:23:01.200
 a lot of people.

00:23:01.339 --> 00:23:02.240
 People didn't know me

00:23:02.240 --> 00:23:03.299
 so well.

00:23:03.980 --> 00:23:05.359
 So I started to be

00:23:05.359 --> 00:23:05.759
 in a place

00:23:05.759 --> 00:23:06.319
 where I just started

00:23:06.319 --> 00:23:07.940
 working and living life

00:23:07.940 --> 00:23:08.920
 but not being known.

00:23:09.900 --> 00:23:11.359
 I worked under a boss

00:23:11.359 --> 00:23:13.559
 that was very manipulative.

00:23:14.420 --> 00:23:15.539
 When we had a disagreement

00:23:15.539 --> 00:23:17.140
 and started discussing

00:23:17.140 --> 00:23:18.120
 these disagreements,

00:23:18.660 --> 00:23:19.279
 I realized that

00:23:19.279 --> 00:23:19.859
 every place

00:23:19.859 --> 00:23:20.740
 that I went to

00:23:20.740 --> 00:23:21.380
 trying to find

00:23:21.380 --> 00:23:21.960
 some help

00:23:21.960 --> 00:23:23.140
 with the personnel department

00:23:23.140 --> 00:23:24.319
 and the leadership,

00:23:24.880 --> 00:23:25.299
 they were all

00:23:25.299 --> 00:23:26.039
 very close friends

00:23:26.039 --> 00:23:26.440
 to him.

00:23:26.440 --> 00:23:28.620
 and I realized

00:23:28.620 --> 00:23:29.620
 that in that

00:23:29.620 --> 00:23:30.360
 whole situation,

00:23:30.620 --> 00:23:31.460
 I was very alone.

00:23:32.420 --> 00:23:33.019
 So anxiety

00:23:33.019 --> 00:23:33.680
 built up in me

00:23:33.680 --> 00:23:34.400
 and when I went

00:23:34.400 --> 00:23:35.200
 to work,

00:23:35.720 --> 00:23:36.880
 I would get really nervous

00:23:36.880 --> 00:23:37.720
 just being on the bus

00:23:37.720 --> 00:23:38.180
 to work

00:23:38.180 --> 00:23:38.580
 and wondering

00:23:38.580 --> 00:23:39.680
 what will happen today

00:23:39.680 --> 00:23:42.180
 and I was afraid

00:23:42.180 --> 00:23:43.240
 of losing the job

00:23:43.240 --> 00:23:44.200
 and the relationships

00:23:44.200 --> 00:23:44.600
 that had built

00:23:44.600 --> 00:23:45.320
 over the years

00:23:45.320 --> 00:23:46.720
 and so over weeks,

00:23:46.820 --> 00:23:47.940
 depression built up in me.

00:23:50.519 --> 00:23:51.460
 And so as I was

00:23:51.460 --> 00:23:52.220
 walking through that,

00:23:52.299 --> 00:23:52.880
 I realized

00:23:52.880 --> 00:23:53.820
 I don't really have

00:23:53.820 --> 00:23:54.279
 a lot of people

00:23:54.279 --> 00:23:54.960
 that know me.

00:23:54.960 --> 00:23:56.819
 I don't really have

00:23:56.819 --> 00:23:57.360
 people that can

00:23:57.360 --> 00:23:58.460
 tell me words

00:23:58.460 --> 00:23:59.579
 that speak into

00:23:59.579 --> 00:24:00.259
 my situation

00:24:00.259 --> 00:24:00.819
 because people

00:24:00.819 --> 00:24:02.000
 don't know my situation.

00:24:02.960 --> 00:24:03.460
 I didn't have

00:24:03.460 --> 00:24:04.180
 people in my life

00:24:04.180 --> 00:24:04.940
 that would speak

00:24:04.940 --> 00:24:06.900
 the truth that

00:24:06.900 --> 00:24:07.759
 there's nothing

00:24:07.759 --> 00:24:08.360
 to worry.

00:24:09.279 --> 00:24:10.180
 It's okay to step

00:24:10.180 --> 00:24:11.059
 out of the situation.

00:24:11.240 --> 00:24:12.140
 It's actually okay

00:24:12.140 --> 00:24:13.960
 because God has,

00:24:14.180 --> 00:24:14.460
 you know,

00:24:14.480 --> 00:24:15.880
 still so many things

00:24:15.880 --> 00:24:16.360
 that he will do

00:24:16.360 --> 00:24:16.840
 in your life.

00:24:16.920 --> 00:24:17.200
 There's nothing

00:24:17.200 --> 00:24:17.880
 to fear about

00:24:17.880 --> 00:24:19.019
 because you are

00:24:19.019 --> 00:24:20.539
 safe in God

00:24:20.539 --> 00:24:21.160
 and your identity

00:24:21.160 --> 00:24:22.019
 is not shaken

00:24:22.019 --> 00:24:24.480
 by losing any of this.

00:24:25.400 --> 00:24:26.100
 So I've learned

00:24:26.100 --> 00:24:27.340
 that it is important

00:24:27.340 --> 00:24:29.019
 to include people

00:24:29.019 --> 00:24:29.559
 in my life

00:24:29.559 --> 00:24:30.220
 that can speak

00:24:30.220 --> 00:24:32.039
 into these times

00:24:32.039 --> 00:24:33.340
 in my life

00:24:33.340 --> 00:24:34.420
 and who know me

00:24:34.420 --> 00:24:35.819
 and they don't act

00:24:35.819 --> 00:24:36.620
 based on kind of

00:24:36.620 --> 00:24:37.360
 like their own

00:24:37.360 --> 00:24:38.480
 insecurities

00:24:38.480 --> 00:24:39.160
 and agendas

00:24:39.160 --> 00:24:40.620
 but they act

00:24:40.620 --> 00:24:41.120
 because they have

00:24:41.120 --> 00:24:41.799
 a clear vision,

00:24:42.180 --> 00:24:42.759
 a God vision

00:24:42.759 --> 00:24:43.720
 on the situation

00:24:43.720 --> 00:24:44.240
 I'm in.

00:24:44.559 --> 00:24:45.600
 So they can point me

00:24:45.600 --> 00:24:46.460
 on a kingdom perspective

00:24:46.460 --> 00:24:47.740
 in the words they use.

00:24:49.340 --> 00:24:50.180
 So at this stage

00:24:50.180 --> 00:24:50.660
 we have looked at

00:24:50.660 --> 00:24:52.059
 a couple of proverbs.

00:24:52.059 --> 00:24:52.980
 We've examined

00:24:52.980 --> 00:24:54.359
 how they can be hurtful

00:24:54.359 --> 00:24:55.579
 and tearing people down.

00:24:55.700 --> 00:24:56.599
 We have looked at

00:24:56.599 --> 00:24:57.139
 what it means

00:24:57.139 --> 00:24:57.799
 to actually use

00:24:57.799 --> 00:24:58.619
 wise words

00:24:58.619 --> 00:25:00.139
 and timely words

00:25:00.139 --> 00:25:01.500
 and we looked at

00:25:01.500 --> 00:25:03.559
 how we need to be cautious

00:25:03.559 --> 00:25:04.679
 in who we allow

00:25:04.679 --> 00:25:05.559
 to speak words

00:25:05.559 --> 00:25:06.299
 and in what time

00:25:06.299 --> 00:25:07.960
 into our lives

00:25:07.960 --> 00:25:08.779
 and the people

00:25:08.779 --> 00:25:09.799
 that speak these words

00:25:09.799 --> 00:25:10.720
 need to know us

00:25:10.720 --> 00:25:11.240
 really.

00:25:12.359 --> 00:25:13.220
 Before we kind of

00:25:13.220 --> 00:25:14.059
 go a little bit more

00:25:14.059 --> 00:25:15.220
 into looking

00:25:15.220 --> 00:25:15.940
 into the kingdom

00:25:15.940 --> 00:25:17.480
 perspective

00:25:17.480 --> 00:25:18.740
 and what these

00:25:18.740 --> 00:25:19.860
 positive words are

00:25:19.860 --> 00:25:21.220
 and what this

00:25:21.220 --> 00:25:22.519
 God culture is about

00:25:22.519 --> 00:25:23.440
 I actually want to

00:25:23.440 --> 00:25:24.539
 invite Jason

00:25:24.539 --> 00:25:25.039
 and Natalie

00:25:25.039 --> 00:25:25.980
 and Jason Jr.

00:25:26.079 --> 00:25:26.759
 up on stage

00:25:26.759 --> 00:25:27.900
 and they'll be sharing

00:25:27.900 --> 00:25:28.960
 with us for a few minutes

00:25:28.960 --> 00:25:30.720
 just on their life journey

00:25:30.720 --> 00:25:32.240
 how words have influenced

00:25:32.240 --> 00:25:33.160
 their life

00:25:33.160 --> 00:25:34.319
 the positive

00:25:34.319 --> 00:25:35.319
 and negative words

00:25:35.319 --> 00:25:36.339
 and how they

00:25:36.339 --> 00:25:37.120
 as a young family

00:25:37.120 --> 00:25:38.400
 with the little guy

00:25:38.400 --> 00:25:39.480
 how they discern

00:25:39.480 --> 00:25:40.880
 how they want to use words.

00:25:42.079 --> 00:25:43.480
 Well hello watermark

00:25:43.480 --> 00:25:44.720
 my name is Natalie Mann

00:25:44.720 --> 00:25:46.180
 my name is Jason Mann

00:25:46.180 --> 00:25:48.200
 and this is Jason Jr.

00:25:50.200 --> 00:25:52.400
 He gets a little stage fright

00:25:52.400 --> 00:25:53.259
 now and again.

00:25:53.799 --> 00:25:54.640
 Well today

00:25:54.640 --> 00:25:55.680
 as Mike said

00:25:55.680 --> 00:25:57.000
 words are powerful.

00:25:57.740 --> 00:25:59.299
 I grew up in a girl's home

00:25:59.299 --> 00:26:00.880
 I grew up in a boy's home

00:26:00.880 --> 00:26:02.500
 so what this meant

00:26:02.500 --> 00:26:03.799
 was I was taught

00:26:03.799 --> 00:26:05.039
 to suppress my words

00:26:05.039 --> 00:26:06.259
 my parents didn't

00:26:06.259 --> 00:26:07.680
 allow me to articulate

00:26:07.680 --> 00:26:09.039
 any negative emotion

00:26:09.039 --> 00:26:10.220
 with my words

00:26:10.220 --> 00:26:11.880
 so I figured out

00:26:11.880 --> 00:26:12.920
 at a very young age

00:26:12.920 --> 00:26:14.100
 that I had to walk around

00:26:14.099 --> 00:26:15.000
 with a lot of heaviness

00:26:15.000 --> 00:26:17.759
 so I couldn't experience

00:26:17.759 --> 00:26:18.559
 full joy

00:26:18.559 --> 00:26:20.919
 without expressing myself

00:26:20.919 --> 00:26:21.599
 with words

00:26:21.599 --> 00:26:22.879
 so I was often

00:26:22.879 --> 00:26:24.099
 a very sad girl.

00:26:24.919 --> 00:26:26.159
 I would say in my house

00:26:26.159 --> 00:26:27.439
 there were several boys

00:26:27.439 --> 00:26:28.419
 and whether it was around

00:26:28.419 --> 00:26:29.740
 food or air time

00:26:29.740 --> 00:26:30.399
 in the family

00:26:30.399 --> 00:26:32.039
 you kind of had to fight

00:26:32.039 --> 00:26:33.019
 for that a little bit.

00:26:33.099 --> 00:26:33.480
 It wasn't

00:26:33.480 --> 00:26:34.519
 I wouldn't say it was toxic

00:26:34.519 --> 00:26:35.179
 but there was just

00:26:35.179 --> 00:26:36.000
 that element of

00:26:36.000 --> 00:26:37.759
 a kind of competitive environment

00:26:37.759 --> 00:26:39.319
 and you needed to articulate

00:26:39.319 --> 00:26:40.779
 your needs out loud

00:26:40.779 --> 00:26:41.500
 so words were

00:26:41.500 --> 00:26:43.379
 a key part of self expression.

00:26:43.380 --> 00:26:45.940
 So I'm a trained

00:26:45.940 --> 00:26:46.820
 family counselor

00:26:46.820 --> 00:26:48.600
 and I found out

00:26:48.600 --> 00:26:50.320
 very quickly

00:26:50.320 --> 00:26:51.580
 in working with families

00:26:51.580 --> 00:26:52.660
 and with kids

00:26:52.660 --> 00:26:54.180
 that there isn't a family

00:26:54.180 --> 00:26:54.740
 out there

00:26:54.740 --> 00:26:56.160
 that is not dysfunctional

00:26:56.840 --> 00:26:58.520
 that doesn't have

00:26:58.520 --> 00:26:59.120
 a problem

00:26:59.120 --> 00:27:00.680
 with using words

00:27:00.680 --> 00:27:03.440
 so I figured out

00:27:03.440 --> 00:27:04.220
 that quickly

00:27:04.220 --> 00:27:05.600
 at a very young age

00:27:05.600 --> 00:27:06.540
 four or five

00:27:06.540 --> 00:27:07.420
 and in raising

00:27:07.420 --> 00:27:08.140
 this little guy

00:27:08.140 --> 00:27:08.680
 right now

00:27:08.680 --> 00:27:10.180
 I could say that

00:27:10.180 --> 00:27:11.700
 Jason and I

00:27:11.700 --> 00:27:13.000
 have even experienced

00:27:13.000 --> 00:27:14.460
 with getting into

00:27:14.460 --> 00:27:16.120
 some heated discussions

00:27:16.120 --> 00:27:17.380
 around him

00:27:17.380 --> 00:27:18.539
 that he's actually

00:27:18.539 --> 00:27:19.620
 affected by it.

00:27:20.860 --> 00:27:21.299
 Yeah

00:27:21.299 --> 00:27:22.100
 actually

00:27:22.100 --> 00:27:23.240
 to be very candid

00:27:23.240 --> 00:27:25.000
 I remember

00:27:25.000 --> 00:27:25.600
 our first fight

00:27:25.600 --> 00:27:26.420
 after we brought him

00:27:26.420 --> 00:27:27.060
 home from the hospital

00:27:27.060 --> 00:27:27.480
 he was about

00:27:27.480 --> 00:27:28.160
 four days old

00:27:28.160 --> 00:27:29.860
 and I don't even remember

00:27:29.860 --> 00:27:30.640
 what we were fighting about

00:27:30.640 --> 00:27:31.960
 but we just went on a walk

00:27:31.960 --> 00:27:32.560
 it was great

00:27:32.560 --> 00:27:32.960
 I was thinking

00:27:32.960 --> 00:27:34.019
 this is awesome

00:27:34.019 --> 00:27:34.880
 and then

00:27:34.880 --> 00:27:35.860
 family moment

00:27:35.859 --> 00:27:36.219
 yeah

00:27:36.219 --> 00:27:36.679
 and then something

00:27:36.679 --> 00:27:37.159
 happened

00:27:37.159 --> 00:27:38.939
 and he started

00:27:38.939 --> 00:27:39.859
 breathing kind of

00:27:39.859 --> 00:27:41.059
 in a noisy way

00:27:41.059 --> 00:27:43.000
 and I was convinced

00:27:43.000 --> 00:27:43.759
 we had given him

00:27:43.759 --> 00:27:44.859
 asthma by stressing

00:27:44.859 --> 00:27:45.379
 him out

00:27:45.379 --> 00:27:47.979
 but it turns out

00:27:47.979 --> 00:27:48.639
 he just had a little

00:27:48.639 --> 00:27:49.679
 gunk in his throat

00:27:49.679 --> 00:27:50.619
 and he's fine

00:27:50.619 --> 00:27:52.219
 but it was kind of

00:27:52.219 --> 00:27:53.079
 scary that first

00:27:53.079 --> 00:27:53.879
 realization when he said

00:27:53.879 --> 00:27:54.399
 wait a second

00:27:54.399 --> 00:27:55.240
 there's this little

00:27:55.240 --> 00:27:55.679
 person

00:27:55.679 --> 00:27:56.859
 they kind of like

00:27:56.859 --> 00:27:57.539
 live in our home

00:27:57.539 --> 00:27:58.179
 which as you can

00:27:58.179 --> 00:27:58.859
 imagine is small

00:27:58.859 --> 00:27:59.679
 being here in Hong Kong

00:27:59.679 --> 00:28:01.339
 and they just kind of

00:28:01.339 --> 00:28:02.259
 like passively

00:28:02.259 --> 00:28:03.359
 you know

00:28:03.359 --> 00:28:04.500
 take up all that energy

00:28:04.500 --> 00:28:05.140
 even if they can't

00:28:05.140 --> 00:28:05.940
 understand all the words

00:28:05.940 --> 00:28:07.039
 and

00:28:07.039 --> 00:28:08.859
 why don't I share

00:28:08.859 --> 00:28:09.640
 briefly about

00:28:09.640 --> 00:28:11.200
 myself as a

00:28:11.200 --> 00:28:12.119
 now as a husband

00:28:12.119 --> 00:28:12.960
 and dad

00:28:12.960 --> 00:28:14.019
 I would say

00:28:14.019 --> 00:28:15.180
 coming out of my childhood

00:28:15.180 --> 00:28:16.279
 again there was this

00:28:16.279 --> 00:28:16.819
 this kind of

00:28:16.819 --> 00:28:17.640
 self-expression mode

00:28:17.640 --> 00:28:18.640
 so my view of words

00:28:18.640 --> 00:28:19.920
 was I need to use them

00:28:19.920 --> 00:28:20.460
 to make sure

00:28:20.460 --> 00:28:21.480
 my knees are heard

00:28:21.480 --> 00:28:22.240
 right

00:28:22.240 --> 00:28:23.119
 so Natalie needs to

00:28:23.119 --> 00:28:23.480
 hear them

00:28:23.480 --> 00:28:23.920
 if it's

00:28:23.920 --> 00:28:24.839
 if she's not hearing it

00:28:24.839 --> 00:28:25.440
 then I probably need

00:28:25.440 --> 00:28:26.099
 to speak louder

00:28:26.099 --> 00:28:27.779
 and get more intense

00:28:27.779 --> 00:28:30.079
 and all the women

00:28:30.079 --> 00:28:30.980
 especially are laughing

00:28:30.980 --> 00:28:32.779
 so that's not

00:28:32.779 --> 00:28:33.700
 effective obviously

00:28:33.700 --> 00:28:34.860
 and I think the

00:28:34.860 --> 00:28:35.440
 biggest lesson

00:28:35.440 --> 00:28:36.259
 that I try and

00:28:36.259 --> 00:28:36.880
 remind myself

00:28:36.880 --> 00:28:37.940
 is around

00:28:37.940 --> 00:28:38.920
 just using words

00:28:38.920 --> 00:28:39.380
 with wisdom

00:28:39.380 --> 00:28:39.880
 in other words

00:28:39.880 --> 00:28:40.740
 not just knee-jerk

00:28:40.740 --> 00:28:41.180
 reaction

00:28:41.180 --> 00:28:42.440
 what am I feeling

00:28:42.440 --> 00:28:43.019
 that therefore

00:28:43.019 --> 00:28:43.900
 needs to be blurted

00:28:43.900 --> 00:28:45.120
 out as some kind

00:28:45.120 --> 00:28:45.779
 of distorted

00:28:45.779 --> 00:28:46.940
 honesty

00:28:46.940 --> 00:28:47.680
 quote-unquote

00:28:47.680 --> 00:28:49.799
 but using words

00:28:49.799 --> 00:28:51.200
 as a tool

00:28:51.200 --> 00:28:51.580
 to say

00:28:51.580 --> 00:28:52.240
 what is the goal

00:28:52.240 --> 00:28:52.559
 here

00:28:52.559 --> 00:28:54.559
 as a key member

00:28:54.559 --> 00:28:55.059
 of this family

00:28:55.059 --> 00:28:57.600
 what can I say

00:28:57.600 --> 00:28:58.420
 or not say

00:28:58.420 --> 00:28:59.140
 that helps our

00:28:59.140 --> 00:28:59.759
 family get to

00:28:59.759 --> 00:29:00.400
 a better place

00:29:00.400 --> 00:29:01.340
 and of course

00:29:01.340 --> 00:29:02.200
 when that is

00:29:02.200 --> 00:29:03.120
 consistently happening

00:29:03.119 --> 00:29:03.699
 my needs

00:29:03.699 --> 00:29:04.419
 have a way

00:29:04.419 --> 00:29:05.119
 of getting met

00:29:05.119 --> 00:29:05.859
 in the process

00:29:05.859 --> 00:29:08.919
 but yeah

00:29:08.919 --> 00:29:10.079
 why don't I leave it

00:29:10.079 --> 00:29:10.399
 to them

00:29:10.399 --> 00:29:13.099
 so just to wrap up

00:29:13.099 --> 00:29:13.899
 I feel like

00:29:13.899 --> 00:29:14.659
 I've experienced

00:29:14.659 --> 00:29:15.239
 freedom

00:29:15.239 --> 00:29:16.759
 with using words

00:29:16.759 --> 00:29:17.619
 in my relationship

00:29:17.619 --> 00:29:18.359
 with Christ

00:29:18.359 --> 00:29:19.939
 and going to God's word

00:29:19.939 --> 00:29:21.239
 and so that's how

00:29:21.239 --> 00:29:22.199
 I found freedom

00:29:22.199 --> 00:29:24.059
 growing into adulthood

00:29:24.059 --> 00:29:26.259
 and in my own marriage

00:29:26.259 --> 00:29:26.939
 and in becoming

00:29:26.939 --> 00:29:27.659
 a new mother

00:29:27.659 --> 00:29:29.000
 so we definitely

00:29:29.000 --> 00:29:30.119
 have a ton of work

00:29:30.119 --> 00:29:30.399
 to do

00:29:30.399 --> 00:29:30.939
 don't we honey

00:29:30.939 --> 00:29:31.459
 yes

00:29:31.459 --> 00:29:33.599
 we do not

00:29:33.599 --> 00:29:34.659
 have it all together

00:29:34.659 --> 00:29:35.979
 but we're working

00:29:35.979 --> 00:29:36.699
 hard on it

00:29:36.699 --> 00:29:37.239
 and I'd say

00:29:37.239 --> 00:29:38.539
 we go to God's word

00:29:38.539 --> 00:29:40.419
 to find our wisdom

00:29:40.419 --> 00:29:41.739
 in using words

00:29:41.739 --> 00:29:42.519
 and so I want

00:29:42.519 --> 00:29:43.539
 to encourage you guys

00:29:43.539 --> 00:29:44.339
 to come on this

00:29:44.339 --> 00:29:45.319
 journey with us

00:29:45.319 --> 00:29:46.500
 and figure out

00:29:46.500 --> 00:29:47.919
 how to use words

00:29:47.919 --> 00:29:48.500
 wisely

00:29:48.500 --> 00:29:50.000
 and figure that out

00:29:50.000 --> 00:29:50.619
 with the Lord

00:29:50.619 --> 00:29:52.799
 so thank you so much

00:29:52.799 --> 00:29:53.519
 can I share a couple

00:29:53.519 --> 00:29:54.000
 quick things

00:29:54.000 --> 00:29:55.239
 so number one

00:29:55.239 --> 00:29:56.219
 you can come find us

00:29:56.219 --> 00:29:56.879
 later and we'll tell you

00:29:56.880 --> 00:29:58.240
 more ugly stories

00:29:58.240 --> 00:29:59.920
 but number two

00:29:59.920 --> 00:30:00.520
 is I just thought

00:30:00.520 --> 00:30:01.220
 of two quick things

00:30:01.220 --> 00:30:01.920
 that have been helpful

00:30:01.920 --> 00:30:02.280
 for me

00:30:02.280 --> 00:30:04.280
 so growing up

00:30:04.280 --> 00:30:05.220
 part of the reason

00:30:05.220 --> 00:30:06.040
 you had to articulate

00:30:06.040 --> 00:30:07.660
 your needs quickly

00:30:07.660 --> 00:30:08.440
 was because

00:30:08.440 --> 00:30:09.740
 if things did get

00:30:09.740 --> 00:30:10.180
 too heated

00:30:10.180 --> 00:30:11.040
 then mom and dad

00:30:11.040 --> 00:30:11.720
 would shut it down

00:30:11.720 --> 00:30:12.100
 and they'd say

00:30:12.100 --> 00:30:13.040
 we'll talk about this later

00:30:13.040 --> 00:30:14.060
 but we never talked

00:30:14.060 --> 00:30:14.500
 about it later

00:30:14.500 --> 00:30:15.360
 so you kind of had

00:30:15.360 --> 00:30:16.160
 to like get things

00:30:16.160 --> 00:30:17.180
 out at the moment

00:30:17.180 --> 00:30:18.200
 I think I've found

00:30:18.200 --> 00:30:18.940
 in our family

00:30:18.940 --> 00:30:20.780
 it's sometimes helpful

00:30:20.780 --> 00:30:22.180
 to not shove

00:30:22.180 --> 00:30:23.140
 something under the rug

00:30:23.140 --> 00:30:24.360
 but also not just

00:30:24.360 --> 00:30:25.560
 share whatever

00:30:25.560 --> 00:30:26.200
 is coming out

00:30:26.200 --> 00:30:26.960
 in the heat of the motion

00:30:26.960 --> 00:30:27.860
 in the moment

00:30:27.860 --> 00:30:28.680
 so it's kind of

00:30:28.680 --> 00:30:29.299
 this middle ground

00:30:29.299 --> 00:30:29.940
 where you say

00:30:29.940 --> 00:30:32.160
 okay there's something here

00:30:32.160 --> 00:30:33.039
 we need to address this

00:30:33.039 --> 00:30:33.860
 but we're a little bit

00:30:33.860 --> 00:30:34.660
 charged right now

00:30:34.660 --> 00:30:36.200
 let's just take a breather

00:30:36.200 --> 00:30:36.960
 and we'll be more

00:30:36.960 --> 00:30:37.819
 constructive later

00:30:37.819 --> 00:30:38.779
 the other thing is

00:30:38.779 --> 00:30:39.539
 I have two guys

00:30:39.539 --> 00:30:40.519
 in my life now

00:30:40.519 --> 00:30:41.559
 who ask me regularly

00:30:41.559 --> 00:30:43.080
 how are you doing

00:30:43.080 --> 00:30:43.500
 with this

00:30:43.500 --> 00:30:44.620
 are you staying calm

00:30:44.620 --> 00:30:45.380
 are you being

00:30:45.380 --> 00:30:46.120
 a good dad and husband

00:30:46.120 --> 00:30:47.039
 so it's helpful

00:30:47.039 --> 00:30:48.000
 to be part of a team

00:30:48.000 --> 00:30:48.720
 in that process

00:30:48.720 --> 00:30:49.720
 absolutely

00:30:49.720 --> 00:30:50.740
 thank you so much

00:30:50.740 --> 00:30:51.080
 you guys

00:30:51.080 --> 00:30:52.019
 have a blessed week

00:30:52.019 --> 00:30:54.019
 applause

00:30:54.019 --> 00:30:58.819
 thank you guys

00:30:58.819 --> 00:31:01.200
 I don't really know

00:31:01.200 --> 00:31:02.779
 I don't really know

00:31:02.779 --> 00:31:04.460
 what your story is like

00:31:04.460 --> 00:31:05.879
 I don't know whether

00:31:05.879 --> 00:31:06.559
 you relate to

00:31:06.559 --> 00:31:07.799
 much of what's happening

00:31:07.799 --> 00:31:09.139
 but Natalie said

00:31:09.139 --> 00:31:09.720
 that there is

00:31:09.720 --> 00:31:10.420
 no family

00:31:10.420 --> 00:31:11.420
 that's not dysfunctional

00:31:11.420 --> 00:31:11.960
 so there may be

00:31:11.960 --> 00:31:12.740
 something that you can

00:31:12.740 --> 00:31:13.379
 learn

00:31:13.379 --> 00:31:14.700
 even if it's

00:31:14.700 --> 00:31:15.680
 not like a

00:31:15.680 --> 00:31:16.759
 childhood trauma

00:31:16.759 --> 00:31:17.379
 that you're carrying

00:31:17.379 --> 00:31:18.019
 with you

00:31:18.019 --> 00:31:20.920
 if in your story

00:31:20.920 --> 00:31:22.200
 there are certain things

00:31:22.200 --> 00:31:23.139
 that you carry around

00:31:23.140 --> 00:31:23.860
 and you have seen

00:31:23.860 --> 00:31:24.759
 that words

00:31:24.759 --> 00:31:25.460
 have had an impact

00:31:25.460 --> 00:31:25.920
 on you

00:31:25.920 --> 00:31:26.540
 and how you live

00:31:26.540 --> 00:31:27.300
 your life today

00:31:27.300 --> 00:31:28.220
 and it's like

00:31:28.220 --> 00:31:28.660
 that backpack

00:31:28.660 --> 00:31:29.480
 that you're carrying

00:31:29.480 --> 00:31:29.980
 around

00:31:29.980 --> 00:31:31.640
 maybe something

00:31:31.640 --> 00:31:32.400
 where you are

00:31:32.400 --> 00:31:34.259
 or words have

00:31:34.259 --> 00:31:34.600
 kind of like

00:31:34.600 --> 00:31:35.420
 crushed your soul

00:31:35.420 --> 00:31:37.340
 in some part

00:31:37.340 --> 00:31:39.060
 and you really

00:31:39.060 --> 00:31:39.960
 wonder like

00:31:39.960 --> 00:31:40.440
 how healing

00:31:40.440 --> 00:31:41.320
 comes for that

00:31:41.320 --> 00:31:41.920
 and how you can

00:31:41.920 --> 00:31:42.600
 step out of that

00:31:42.600 --> 00:31:42.940
 again

00:31:42.940 --> 00:31:43.920
 or maybe there are

00:31:43.920 --> 00:31:44.680
 words that you said

00:31:44.680 --> 00:31:46.259
 that you do regret

00:31:46.259 --> 00:31:47.759
 and that really

00:31:47.759 --> 00:31:48.500
 weigh on you

00:31:48.500 --> 00:31:49.120
 because they

00:31:49.120 --> 00:31:50.640
 burden a relationship

00:31:50.640 --> 00:31:51.580
 and burden the way

00:31:51.580 --> 00:31:52.020
 that you live

00:31:52.019 --> 00:31:52.839
 and I just want

00:31:52.839 --> 00:31:53.500
 to let you know

00:31:53.500 --> 00:31:55.039
 that after the service

00:31:55.039 --> 00:31:55.720
 we will have

00:31:55.720 --> 00:31:56.960
 our prayer team

00:31:56.960 --> 00:31:57.500
 up here

00:31:57.500 --> 00:31:58.819
 we'll also have

00:31:58.819 --> 00:31:59.720
 the staff team

00:31:59.720 --> 00:32:00.039
 around

00:32:00.039 --> 00:32:00.759
 and also in the

00:32:00.759 --> 00:32:01.359
 back of the church

00:32:01.359 --> 00:32:02.639
 we just really

00:32:02.639 --> 00:32:03.319
 encourage you

00:32:03.319 --> 00:32:04.839
 to just take

00:32:04.839 --> 00:32:05.319
 the opportunity

00:32:05.319 --> 00:32:06.619
 to have people

00:32:06.619 --> 00:32:07.079
 speak some

00:32:07.079 --> 00:32:07.680
 encouraging words

00:32:07.680 --> 00:32:08.139
 in your life

00:32:08.139 --> 00:32:08.599
 to be able

00:32:08.599 --> 00:32:09.259
 to get the words

00:32:09.259 --> 00:32:10.119
 out of your heart

00:32:10.119 --> 00:32:10.980
 that you've been

00:32:10.980 --> 00:32:11.779
 stuffing down

00:32:11.779 --> 00:32:13.379
 encourage you

00:32:13.379 --> 00:32:14.480
 to just let people

00:32:14.480 --> 00:32:15.279
 pray for you

00:32:15.279 --> 00:32:16.599
 just really get

00:32:16.599 --> 00:32:17.059
 on a journey

00:32:17.059 --> 00:32:17.859
 of healing

00:32:17.859 --> 00:32:18.799
 these things

00:32:18.799 --> 00:32:19.920
 that are

00:32:19.920 --> 00:32:21.160
 just in your life

00:32:21.160 --> 00:32:21.920
 so we want to

00:32:21.920 --> 00:32:23.140
 now spend

00:32:23.140 --> 00:32:23.720
 just a little bit

00:32:23.720 --> 00:32:24.220
 more time

00:32:24.220 --> 00:32:24.920
 and just looking

00:32:24.920 --> 00:32:25.279
 a little bit

00:32:25.279 --> 00:32:26.180
 on God's way

00:32:26.180 --> 00:32:27.140
 of how does he

00:32:27.140 --> 00:32:27.820
 help us to

00:32:27.820 --> 00:32:29.480
 see how words

00:32:29.480 --> 00:32:30.300
 should be used

00:32:30.300 --> 00:32:31.900
 and so I want to

00:32:31.900 --> 00:32:32.880
 just first go back

00:32:32.880 --> 00:32:33.320
 at the proverbs

00:32:33.320 --> 00:32:33.740
 that we already

00:32:33.740 --> 00:32:34.220
 looked at

00:32:34.220 --> 00:32:34.700
 but look at

00:32:34.700 --> 00:32:35.420
 the other elements

00:32:35.420 --> 00:32:36.800
 so in 1113

00:32:36.800 --> 00:32:37.600
 for example

00:32:37.600 --> 00:32:39.080
 it's a gossip

00:32:39.080 --> 00:32:39.920
 betrays confidence

00:32:39.920 --> 00:32:41.279
 but this one

00:32:41.279 --> 00:32:41.800
 about gossip

00:32:41.800 --> 00:32:42.320
 says but a

00:32:42.320 --> 00:32:43.200
 trustworthy person

00:32:43.200 --> 00:32:43.940
 keeps a secret

00:32:43.940 --> 00:32:45.400
 so trust is

00:32:45.400 --> 00:32:46.540
 the positive value

00:32:46.540 --> 00:32:46.960
 here

00:32:46.960 --> 00:32:48.740
 so where the

00:32:48.740 --> 00:32:49.300
 safe place

00:32:49.300 --> 00:32:49.720
 that we talked

00:32:49.720 --> 00:32:50.440
 about is provided

00:32:50.440 --> 00:32:50.940
 when people are

00:32:50.940 --> 00:32:52.100
 dependable

00:32:52.100 --> 00:32:53.340
 and faithful

00:32:53.340 --> 00:32:54.840
 so it's like

00:32:54.840 --> 00:32:55.440
 that story

00:32:55.440 --> 00:32:56.440
 in Genesis

00:32:56.440 --> 00:32:58.580
 when we just

00:32:58.580 --> 00:32:59.500
 recall the story

00:32:59.500 --> 00:33:00.500
 of being

00:33:00.500 --> 00:33:01.180
 in the presence

00:33:01.180 --> 00:33:01.600
 of God

00:33:01.600 --> 00:33:02.320
 and Adam and Eve

00:33:02.320 --> 00:33:03.380
 struggling with

00:33:03.380 --> 00:33:04.420
 feeling safe

00:33:04.420 --> 00:33:05.279
 where Adam and Eve

00:33:05.279 --> 00:33:05.920
 hide and they

00:33:05.920 --> 00:33:06.720
 cover their shame

00:33:06.720 --> 00:33:08.279
 a little later

00:33:08.279 --> 00:33:08.960
 in that story

00:33:08.960 --> 00:33:09.960
 actually God

00:33:09.960 --> 00:33:10.559
 tells them that

00:33:10.559 --> 00:33:11.180
 they can't go out

00:33:11.180 --> 00:33:11.500
 like this

00:33:11.500 --> 00:33:12.000
 and he actually

00:33:12.000 --> 00:33:12.840
 makes a garment

00:33:12.840 --> 00:33:14.259
 of skin for them

00:33:14.259 --> 00:33:16.580
 he knows that

00:33:16.580 --> 00:33:17.080
 the world that

00:33:17.080 --> 00:33:17.720
 they're going out

00:33:17.720 --> 00:33:19.140
 there is a cruel

00:33:19.140 --> 00:33:19.620
 place

00:33:19.620 --> 00:33:20.340
 and that it

00:33:20.340 --> 00:33:21.060
 can crush

00:33:21.060 --> 00:33:21.620
 their soul

00:33:21.620 --> 00:33:22.660
 and so God

00:33:22.660 --> 00:33:23.400
 protects them

00:33:23.400 --> 00:33:23.980
 and gives them

00:33:23.980 --> 00:33:24.640
 that garment

00:33:24.640 --> 00:33:25.140
 of skin

00:33:25.140 --> 00:33:26.300
 and I think

00:33:26.300 --> 00:33:27.259
 that if you

00:33:27.259 --> 00:33:27.759
 just think of

00:33:27.759 --> 00:33:28.380
 your life

00:33:28.380 --> 00:33:29.580
 wondering whether

00:33:29.580 --> 00:33:30.000
 you have like

00:33:30.000 --> 00:33:30.780
 that one person

00:33:30.780 --> 00:33:32.060
 that gives you

00:33:32.060 --> 00:33:32.640
 that safety

00:33:32.640 --> 00:33:33.320
 and strength

00:33:33.320 --> 00:33:34.140
 that you need

00:33:34.140 --> 00:33:35.020
 to walk

00:33:35.020 --> 00:33:35.640
 through life

00:33:35.640 --> 00:33:36.580
 the one person

00:33:36.580 --> 00:33:37.080
 that you know

00:33:37.080 --> 00:33:37.960
 that will be

00:33:37.960 --> 00:33:38.500
 dependable

00:33:38.500 --> 00:33:39.240
 and keep the

00:33:39.240 --> 00:33:39.560
 secret

00:33:39.560 --> 00:33:41.100
 and that will

00:33:41.100 --> 00:33:41.680
 be trustworthy

00:33:41.680 --> 00:33:42.620
 that will walk

00:33:42.620 --> 00:33:43.280
 you through

00:33:43.280 --> 00:33:44.580
 a place

00:33:44.580 --> 00:33:45.400
 without embarrassment

00:33:45.400 --> 00:33:46.259
 and shame

00:33:46.259 --> 00:33:47.620
 I think that

00:33:47.620 --> 00:33:48.040
 one person

00:33:48.040 --> 00:33:48.519
 can be like

00:33:48.519 --> 00:33:49.019
 that oasis

00:33:49.019 --> 00:33:49.860
 in a desert

00:33:49.860 --> 00:33:51.019
 walking through

00:33:51.019 --> 00:33:51.820
 life nowadays

00:33:51.820 --> 00:33:53.240
 just having

00:33:53.240 --> 00:33:53.900
 that one person

00:33:53.900 --> 00:33:55.519
 where we strip

00:33:55.519 --> 00:33:56.200
 our soul naked

00:33:56.200 --> 00:33:57.340
 and be real

00:33:57.340 --> 00:33:58.840
 Proverbs 12

00:33:58.840 --> 00:33:59.840
 18 actually

00:33:59.840 --> 00:34:01.460
 also has a second

00:34:01.460 --> 00:34:01.800
 part

00:34:01.800 --> 00:34:02.700
 there are those

00:34:02.700 --> 00:34:03.340
 who chatter on

00:34:03.340 --> 00:34:03.960
 like a stabbing

00:34:03.960 --> 00:34:04.800
 sword but a

00:34:04.800 --> 00:34:05.519
 wise tongue

00:34:05.519 --> 00:34:05.960
 heals

00:34:05.960 --> 00:34:07.660
 so it's not only

00:34:07.660 --> 00:34:08.780
 that words

00:34:08.780 --> 00:34:09.860
 can hurt

00:34:09.860 --> 00:34:10.720
 and they can

00:34:10.720 --> 00:34:11.340
 be like swords

00:34:11.340 --> 00:34:12.619
 but used in

00:34:12.619 --> 00:34:13.180
 the right moment

00:34:13.180 --> 00:34:14.160
 so words used

00:34:14.159 --> 00:34:14.779
 in wisdom

00:34:14.779 --> 00:34:16.099
 they can heal

00:34:16.099 --> 00:34:16.559
 so healing

00:34:16.559 --> 00:34:17.000
 can come

00:34:17.000 --> 00:34:17.659
 through words

00:34:17.659 --> 00:34:19.099
 Proverbs 15

00:34:19.099 --> 00:34:19.759
 4 in the same

00:34:19.759 --> 00:34:20.379
 context says

00:34:20.379 --> 00:34:21.000
 the soothing

00:34:21.000 --> 00:34:21.619
 tongue is a

00:34:21.619 --> 00:34:22.480
 tree of life

00:34:22.480 --> 00:34:23.619
 but a harsh

00:34:23.619 --> 00:34:24.619
 tongue crushes

00:34:24.619 --> 00:34:25.179
 the spirit

00:34:25.179 --> 00:34:26.799
 so again

00:34:26.799 --> 00:34:27.440
 words can be

00:34:27.440 --> 00:34:27.759
 crushing

00:34:27.759 --> 00:34:29.239
 but when they're

00:34:29.239 --> 00:34:29.819
 spoken in

00:34:29.819 --> 00:34:30.579
 comfort and

00:34:30.579 --> 00:34:31.159
 gentleness and

00:34:31.159 --> 00:34:31.519
 peace

00:34:31.519 --> 00:34:32.879
 words can lift

00:34:32.879 --> 00:34:33.579
 a soul up

00:34:33.579 --> 00:34:34.259
 and they can

00:34:34.259 --> 00:34:34.920
 bring an

00:34:34.920 --> 00:34:35.379
 encouragement

00:34:35.379 --> 00:34:36.239
 one of my

00:34:36.239 --> 00:34:36.759
 favorite authors

00:34:36.759 --> 00:34:37.379
 is Donald Miller

00:34:37.379 --> 00:34:37.859
 some of you

00:34:37.859 --> 00:34:38.699
 may know him

00:34:38.699 --> 00:34:39.299
 and he has

00:34:39.299 --> 00:34:39.579
 this book

00:34:39.579 --> 00:34:40.019
 called Father

00:34:40.019 --> 00:34:40.359
 Fiction

00:34:40.359 --> 00:34:40.899
 and he tells

00:34:40.899 --> 00:34:41.359
 that story

00:34:41.359 --> 00:34:41.839
 of how he

00:34:41.839 --> 00:34:42.279
 grew up

00:34:42.279 --> 00:34:43.219
 in a very

00:34:43.219 --> 00:34:43.799
 dysfunctional

00:34:43.799 --> 00:34:44.059
 home

00:34:44.059 --> 00:34:44.820
 his father

00:34:44.820 --> 00:34:45.360
 actually walked

00:34:45.360 --> 00:34:46.000
 out of the

00:34:46.000 --> 00:34:46.500
 family pretty

00:34:46.500 --> 00:34:46.799
 early

00:34:46.799 --> 00:34:48.079
 and so he's

00:34:48.079 --> 00:34:48.659
 been struggling

00:34:48.659 --> 00:34:49.659
 with guilt

00:34:49.659 --> 00:34:50.980
 and feeling

00:34:50.980 --> 00:34:51.699
 responsible for

00:34:51.699 --> 00:34:52.059
 that and

00:34:52.059 --> 00:34:52.539
 feeling like a

00:34:52.539 --> 00:34:52.820
 failure

00:34:52.820 --> 00:34:54.059
 and so he

00:34:54.059 --> 00:34:54.480
 looks at his

00:34:54.480 --> 00:34:55.059
 life and he

00:34:55.059 --> 00:34:55.820
 always feels

00:34:55.820 --> 00:34:57.299
 that there's

00:34:57.299 --> 00:34:58.699
 nobody that

00:34:58.699 --> 00:34:59.199
 there's no

00:34:59.199 --> 00:34:59.820
 reason why I'm

00:34:59.820 --> 00:35:00.179
 really here

00:35:00.179 --> 00:35:00.480
 there's no

00:35:00.480 --> 00:35:01.079
 really meaning

00:35:01.079 --> 00:35:01.840
 of my life

00:35:01.840 --> 00:35:02.239
 whether I

00:35:02.239 --> 00:35:02.759
 would be here

00:35:02.759 --> 00:35:03.279
 or not

00:35:03.279 --> 00:35:04.259
 doesn't really

00:35:04.259 --> 00:35:05.139
 matter at

00:35:05.139 --> 00:35:05.460
 all

00:35:05.460 --> 00:35:07.039
 but in his

00:35:07.039 --> 00:35:07.880
 journey he

00:35:07.880 --> 00:35:08.320
 starts to

00:35:08.320 --> 00:35:08.719
 meet other

00:35:08.719 --> 00:35:09.219
 people other

00:35:09.219 --> 00:35:09.759
 guys in his

00:35:09.759 --> 00:35:10.159
 life they

00:35:10.159 --> 00:35:10.500
 begin to

00:35:10.500 --> 00:35:11.059
 mentor him

00:35:11.059 --> 00:35:11.759
 and they

00:35:11.759 --> 00:35:12.079
 speak the

00:35:12.079 --> 00:35:13.420
 truth just

00:35:13.420 --> 00:35:13.880
 who God

00:35:13.880 --> 00:35:14.119
 is in

00:35:14.119 --> 00:35:14.460
 his life

00:35:14.460 --> 00:35:14.700
 and that

00:35:14.700 --> 00:35:15.000
 he is

00:35:15.000 --> 00:35:15.440
 loved by

00:35:15.440 --> 00:35:15.880
 God and

00:35:15.880 --> 00:35:16.920
 that God

00:35:16.920 --> 00:35:17.639
 desires healing

00:35:17.639 --> 00:35:18.559
 for him

00:35:18.559 --> 00:35:19.400
 and so

00:35:19.400 --> 00:35:20.039
 suddenly he

00:35:20.039 --> 00:35:20.900
 realizes that

00:35:20.900 --> 00:35:22.220
 history would

00:35:22.220 --> 00:35:22.940
 not be the

00:35:22.940 --> 00:35:24.820
 same without

00:35:24.820 --> 00:35:25.300
 him

00:35:25.300 --> 00:35:26.700
 and I just

00:35:26.700 --> 00:35:27.780
 wonder how I

00:35:27.780 --> 00:35:28.280
 feel about that

00:35:28.280 --> 00:35:28.840
 sometimes whether

00:35:28.840 --> 00:35:30.260
 the world would

00:35:30.260 --> 00:35:31.740
 be not even

00:35:31.740 --> 00:35:33.200
 noticing whether

00:35:33.200 --> 00:35:33.700
 I'm here or

00:35:33.700 --> 00:35:34.940
 not whether you

00:35:34.940 --> 00:35:35.880
 think of my

00:35:35.880 --> 00:35:36.579
 existence whether

00:35:36.579 --> 00:35:37.099
 I'm here or

00:35:37.099 --> 00:35:37.800
 not I don't

00:35:37.800 --> 00:35:38.260
 think it really

00:35:38.260 --> 00:35:39.440
 matters or

00:35:39.440 --> 00:35:39.760
 whether you

00:35:39.760 --> 00:35:40.940
 would think the

00:35:40.940 --> 00:35:41.440
 history of the

00:35:41.440 --> 00:35:42.340
 world is not

00:35:42.340 --> 00:35:42.880
 the same

00:35:42.880 --> 00:35:43.940
 because I'm

00:35:43.940 --> 00:35:45.800
 here that God

00:35:45.800 --> 00:35:46.519
 has a plan for

00:35:46.519 --> 00:35:46.960
 you that he

00:35:46.960 --> 00:35:47.400
 has a purpose

00:35:47.400 --> 00:35:48.079
 for you being

00:35:48.079 --> 00:35:48.940
 here and that

00:35:48.940 --> 00:35:49.579
 he wants you to

00:35:49.579 --> 00:35:50.380
 be that tree of

00:35:50.380 --> 00:35:51.700
 life to other

00:35:51.700 --> 00:35:52.380
 people around

00:35:52.380 --> 00:35:53.440
 you and and

00:35:53.440 --> 00:35:54.220
 bringing renewal

00:35:54.220 --> 00:35:54.900
 and reconciliation

00:35:54.900 --> 00:35:55.980
 to the world and

00:35:55.980 --> 00:35:57.320
 so Donald Miller

00:35:57.320 --> 00:35:58.039
 as he starts to

00:35:58.039 --> 00:35:58.440
 go through the

00:35:58.440 --> 00:35:58.940
 process of

00:35:58.940 --> 00:35:59.679
 realizing that

00:35:59.679 --> 00:36:00.579
 that he has

00:36:00.579 --> 00:36:01.260
 meaning in his

00:36:01.260 --> 00:36:02.420
 life and that

00:36:02.420 --> 00:36:02.900
 God has a

00:36:02.900 --> 00:36:03.559
 purpose for him

00:36:03.559 --> 00:36:04.139
 and he is going

00:36:04.139 --> 00:36:04.659
 through his own

00:36:04.659 --> 00:36:05.599
 healing he then

00:36:05.599 --> 00:36:06.420
 begins this

00:36:06.420 --> 00:36:08.000
 ministry or

00:36:08.000 --> 00:36:09.320
 project that he

00:36:09.320 --> 00:36:09.760
 starts it's called

00:36:09.760 --> 00:36:10.179
 the mentorship

00:36:10.179 --> 00:36:11.360
 project and it's

00:36:11.360 --> 00:36:12.260
 inspired by his

00:36:12.260 --> 00:36:12.820
 own experience

00:36:12.820 --> 00:36:13.280
 the mentorship

00:36:13.280 --> 00:36:14.700
 project is a

00:36:14.700 --> 00:36:15.200
 place where he

00:36:15.200 --> 00:36:15.800
 has the vision

00:36:15.800 --> 00:36:16.519
 of wanting for

00:36:16.519 --> 00:36:17.480
 now to raise

00:36:17.480 --> 00:36:19.380
 10,000 mentors

00:36:19.380 --> 00:36:21.019
 10,000 adults

00:36:21.019 --> 00:36:21.920
 that will be the

00:36:21.920 --> 00:36:23.300
 father fathers to

00:36:23.300 --> 00:36:24.059
 the fatherless

00:36:24.059 --> 00:36:26.360
 basically men that

00:36:26.360 --> 00:36:26.940
 would step into

00:36:26.940 --> 00:36:27.800
 the life of youth

00:36:27.800 --> 00:36:28.420
 that are troubled

00:36:28.420 --> 00:36:29.180
 that don't have

00:36:29.180 --> 00:36:30.079
 fathers that speak

00:36:30.079 --> 00:36:30.860
 into their lives

00:36:30.860 --> 00:36:32.180
 life-giving words

00:36:32.180 --> 00:36:33.460
 and they are

00:36:33.460 --> 00:36:34.880
 trained to be the

00:36:34.880 --> 00:36:35.860
 trees that give

00:36:35.860 --> 00:36:36.760
 life to the to

00:36:36.760 --> 00:36:37.420
 the young people

00:36:37.420 --> 00:36:40.599
 and I look at

00:36:40.599 --> 00:36:41.340
 this story and I

00:36:41.340 --> 00:36:43.000
 wonder how much

00:36:43.000 --> 00:36:43.539
 does his life

00:36:43.539 --> 00:36:44.760
 matter and how

00:36:44.760 --> 00:36:46.260
 much impact does

00:36:46.260 --> 00:36:47.380
 his life bring to

00:36:47.380 --> 00:36:48.260
 the fatherless

00:36:48.260 --> 00:36:50.800
 so I wonder like

00:36:50.800 --> 00:36:51.579
 how we feel about

00:36:51.579 --> 00:36:52.880
 that do we see

00:36:52.880 --> 00:36:54.340
 that we can be

00:36:54.340 --> 00:36:56.119
 people that bring

00:36:56.119 --> 00:36:57.019
 our life to other

00:36:57.019 --> 00:36:58.500
 people the same

00:36:58.500 --> 00:36:59.180
 kind of teaching is

00:36:59.180 --> 00:36:59.539
 found in the

00:36:59.539 --> 00:37:00.760
 proverbs 1624

00:37:00.760 --> 00:37:01.960
 gracious words are

00:37:01.960 --> 00:37:03.020
 a honeycomb sweet

00:37:03.020 --> 00:37:03.680
 to the soul and

00:37:03.680 --> 00:37:04.360
 healing to the

00:37:04.360 --> 00:37:06.240
 bones so these

00:37:06.240 --> 00:37:07.360
 words spoken in

00:37:07.360 --> 00:37:08.020
 graciousness and

00:37:08.020 --> 00:37:08.700
 gentleness how they

00:37:08.700 --> 00:37:09.620
 can lift up and

00:37:09.620 --> 00:37:11.640
 encourage it's just

00:37:11.640 --> 00:37:12.900
 all over the place

00:37:12.900 --> 00:37:16.500
 but when I look at

00:37:16.500 --> 00:37:17.360
 the proverbs it's

00:37:17.360 --> 00:37:18.420
 not just about this

00:37:18.420 --> 00:37:19.600
 like nice honey

00:37:19.600 --> 00:37:21.420
 coated speech I

00:37:21.420 --> 00:37:22.300
 could it may feel

00:37:22.300 --> 00:37:22.900
 like oh you know

00:37:22.900 --> 00:37:23.360
 we just have to

00:37:23.360 --> 00:37:24.240
 smile all the time

00:37:24.240 --> 00:37:25.440
 and and be happy

00:37:25.440 --> 00:37:26.840
 if you look at

00:37:26.840 --> 00:37:28.500
 proverbs 24 26 you

00:37:28.500 --> 00:37:29.580
 actually see an

00:37:29.580 --> 00:37:30.580
 honest answer is

00:37:30.579 --> 00:37:31.279
 like a kiss on

00:37:31.279 --> 00:37:33.360
 the lips so

00:37:33.360 --> 00:37:34.179
 suddenly you see

00:37:34.179 --> 00:37:34.940
 yeah it's about

00:37:34.940 --> 00:37:35.719
 graciousness and

00:37:35.719 --> 00:37:37.840
 gentleness but

00:37:37.840 --> 00:37:39.139
 there needs to be

00:37:39.139 --> 00:37:41.480
 truth it doesn't

00:37:41.480 --> 00:37:42.759
 help if you just

00:37:42.759 --> 00:37:43.639
 honey coated and

00:37:43.639 --> 00:37:44.659
 and nice and

00:37:44.659 --> 00:37:45.719
 smile at people so

00:37:45.719 --> 00:37:46.239
 the question is do

00:37:46.239 --> 00:37:46.779
 we have truth

00:37:46.779 --> 00:37:47.319
 tellers in our

00:37:47.319 --> 00:37:47.880
 lives do we have

00:37:47.880 --> 00:37:48.519
 people that really

00:37:48.519 --> 00:37:49.039
 know what's

00:37:49.039 --> 00:37:49.460
 what's happening

00:37:49.460 --> 00:37:50.400
 in our lives that

00:37:50.400 --> 00:37:51.279
 will say you know

00:37:51.279 --> 00:37:52.279
 you messed up and

00:37:52.279 --> 00:37:53.440
 you need to change

00:37:53.440 --> 00:37:56.199
 proverbs 20 18

00:37:56.199 --> 00:37:57.739
 plans are established

00:37:57.739 --> 00:37:58.779
 by seeking advice so

00:37:58.779 --> 00:38:00.159
 if you wage war

00:38:00.159 --> 00:38:01.699
 obtain guidance

00:38:01.699 --> 00:38:03.799
 now look at that

00:38:03.799 --> 00:38:06.299
 and using that

00:38:06.299 --> 00:38:07.000
 picture of the

00:38:07.000 --> 00:38:07.639
 proverbs if you

00:38:07.639 --> 00:38:08.819
 are in the danger

00:38:08.819 --> 00:38:09.379
 of losing a

00:38:09.379 --> 00:38:10.299
 battle like maybe

00:38:10.299 --> 00:38:12.199
 you're wrestling

00:38:12.199 --> 00:38:12.980
 with a job

00:38:12.980 --> 00:38:13.659
 situation family

00:38:13.659 --> 00:38:15.379
 situation and and

00:38:15.379 --> 00:38:17.039
 in the middle of

00:38:17.039 --> 00:38:18.239
 of advice that you

00:38:18.239 --> 00:38:18.839
 are seeking you

00:38:18.839 --> 00:38:19.420
 are asking a

00:38:19.420 --> 00:38:20.579
 person that doesn't

00:38:20.579 --> 00:38:21.339
 tell you the truth

00:38:21.339 --> 00:38:21.920
 he just wants to be

00:38:21.920 --> 00:38:23.379
 your friend like I

00:38:23.379 --> 00:38:24.000
 have had friends in

00:38:24.000 --> 00:38:26.059
 my life that were

00:38:26.059 --> 00:38:26.799
 just always telling

00:38:26.799 --> 00:38:27.460
 me yeah you are

00:38:27.460 --> 00:38:28.219
 right you know you're

00:38:28.219 --> 00:38:30.079
 always right you do

00:38:30.079 --> 00:38:31.419
 good but there was

00:38:31.419 --> 00:38:32.459
 no truth in it like

00:38:32.459 --> 00:38:33.339
 sometimes I needed to

00:38:33.339 --> 00:38:34.579
 hear it's not wise so

00:38:34.579 --> 00:38:35.819
 if I have a friend and

00:38:35.819 --> 00:38:36.839
 I want to want to go

00:38:36.839 --> 00:38:38.079
 into war and I

00:38:38.079 --> 00:38:39.459
 realize that battle I

00:38:39.459 --> 00:38:40.199
 could probably not win

00:38:40.199 --> 00:38:41.159
 and I go for for

00:38:41.159 --> 00:38:42.159
 guidance and he says

00:38:42.159 --> 00:38:42.859
 oh you're a great

00:38:42.859 --> 00:38:43.919
 leader like you can do

00:38:43.919 --> 00:38:45.159
 it I'll lose

00:38:45.159 --> 00:38:47.980
 everything so truth is

00:38:47.980 --> 00:38:49.019
 such an essential part

00:38:49.019 --> 00:38:51.599
 that that we need so

00:38:51.599 --> 00:38:52.519
 when I see that

00:38:52.519 --> 00:38:55.139
 heartbeat of proverbs I

00:38:55.139 --> 00:38:56.339
 see graciousness and

00:38:56.339 --> 00:38:58.420
 the gentleness but I

00:38:58.420 --> 00:39:01.639
 also see truth now

00:39:01.639 --> 00:39:02.460
 when you look at that

00:39:02.460 --> 00:39:04.000
 there is no way around

00:39:04.000 --> 00:39:05.519
 that you can see that

00:39:05.519 --> 00:39:06.879
 it all points to the

00:39:06.879 --> 00:39:08.819
 same thing it's the

00:39:08.819 --> 00:39:11.699
 story of Christ we look

00:39:11.699 --> 00:39:13.420
 at John chapter 1 verse

00:39:13.420 --> 00:39:14.460
 1 it says in the

00:39:14.460 --> 00:39:15.639
 beginning was the word

00:39:15.639 --> 00:39:17.119
 and the word was God

00:39:17.119 --> 00:39:18.619
 and the word was with

00:39:18.619 --> 00:39:19.420
 God and the word was

00:39:19.420 --> 00:39:20.739
 God and in verse 14

00:39:20.739 --> 00:39:22.460
 and the word became

00:39:22.460 --> 00:39:23.539
 flesh and he made his

00:39:23.539 --> 00:39:25.559
 dwelling among us and

00:39:25.559 --> 00:39:26.340
 we have seen his

00:39:26.340 --> 00:39:27.779
 glory the glory of the

00:39:27.779 --> 00:39:28.739
 one and only son who

00:39:28.739 --> 00:39:30.239
 came from the father

00:39:30.239 --> 00:39:32.420
 full of grace and

00:39:32.420 --> 00:39:36.500
 truth the word

00:39:36.500 --> 00:39:39.699
 Christ spoken into

00:39:39.699 --> 00:39:42.380
 being the world that

00:39:42.380 --> 00:39:43.659
 that has been been

00:39:43.659 --> 00:39:45.279
 breathing into existence

00:39:45.279 --> 00:39:46.599
 by the very Christ

00:39:46.599 --> 00:39:48.519
 this word becomes

00:39:48.519 --> 00:39:49.719
 flesh and he makes it

00:39:49.719 --> 00:39:50.800
 makes his dwelling among

00:39:50.800 --> 00:39:52.779
 us Jesus Christ in him

00:39:52.780 --> 00:39:53.860
 we see the full glory of

00:39:53.860 --> 00:39:54.840
 God right here where we

00:39:54.840 --> 00:39:56.140
 are and then it says in

00:39:56.140 --> 00:39:57.680
 the fullness of grace and

00:39:57.680 --> 00:39:59.320
 truth so hundreds of

00:39:59.320 --> 00:40:00.940
 years before Christ even

00:40:00.940 --> 00:40:01.740
 comes we see the

00:40:01.740 --> 00:40:02.860
 proverbs and the

00:40:02.860 --> 00:40:03.840
 proverbs guide us in a

00:40:03.840 --> 00:40:04.360
 kingdom perspective

00:40:04.360 --> 00:40:05.540
 saying when you speak

00:40:05.540 --> 00:40:07.080
 words they need to be

00:40:07.080 --> 00:40:08.340
 spoken with graciousness

00:40:08.340 --> 00:40:10.940
 but also with truth and

00:40:10.940 --> 00:40:12.000
 then 600 years later the

00:40:12.000 --> 00:40:13.019
 word becomes flesh and

00:40:13.019 --> 00:40:14.320
 dwells among us in the

00:40:14.320 --> 00:40:15.180
 fullness of grace and

00:40:15.180 --> 00:40:16.840
 truth seen by the

00:40:16.840 --> 00:40:18.920
 people it actually

00:40:18.920 --> 00:40:19.980
 reminds me of a story

00:40:19.980 --> 00:40:21.920
 that happened to me

00:40:21.920 --> 00:40:22.820
 during the time that I

00:40:22.820 --> 00:40:24.420
 was was struggling with

00:40:24.420 --> 00:40:25.579
 was anxiety and

00:40:25.579 --> 00:40:27.880
 depression so there

00:40:27.880 --> 00:40:28.400
 are a lot of words

00:40:28.400 --> 00:40:29.539
 being said that really

00:40:29.539 --> 00:40:31.539
 crushed my soul and a

00:40:31.539 --> 00:40:32.539
 lot of trust was broken

00:40:32.539 --> 00:40:35.340
 with people and even the

00:40:35.340 --> 00:40:36.019
 people that kind of like

00:40:36.019 --> 00:40:37.840
 knew me said words but

00:40:37.840 --> 00:40:39.079
 they couldn't really lift

00:40:39.079 --> 00:40:40.480
 me up from where I was

00:40:40.480 --> 00:40:42.840
 but there was this story

00:40:42.840 --> 00:40:44.079
 that happened one of my

00:40:44.079 --> 00:40:45.800
 friends actually decided to

00:40:45.800 --> 00:40:47.960
 get on the plane and flew

00:40:47.960 --> 00:40:49.920
 out in the morning on one

00:40:49.920 --> 00:40:51.559
 day and he met me for an

00:40:51.559 --> 00:40:52.440
 afternoon and the evening

00:40:52.440 --> 00:40:53.340
 of that day he got back

00:40:53.340 --> 00:40:54.579
 on the plane and flew

00:40:54.579 --> 00:40:56.720
 back to England he saw

00:40:56.720 --> 00:40:57.920
 me for an afternoon and

00:40:57.920 --> 00:41:00.619
 why that story means so

00:41:00.619 --> 00:41:03.880
 much to me is because it

00:41:03.880 --> 00:41:04.880
 was not about the words

00:41:04.880 --> 00:41:06.280
 but it was the effort that

00:41:06.280 --> 00:41:09.599
 showed that he cared and

00:41:09.599 --> 00:41:11.539
 I see that in God I see

00:41:11.539 --> 00:41:13.639
 that in his word that he

00:41:13.639 --> 00:41:15.699
 gave us words lots of

00:41:15.699 --> 00:41:16.400
 words in the Old

00:41:16.400 --> 00:41:17.900
 Testaments lots of words

00:41:17.900 --> 00:41:18.880
 about his graciousness

00:41:18.880 --> 00:41:19.680
 and his truth and his

00:41:19.680 --> 00:41:21.079
 character but at one

00:41:21.079 --> 00:41:22.599
 point he decides it's

00:41:22.599 --> 00:41:24.559
 enough words and the

00:41:24.559 --> 00:41:25.880
 word becomes flesh and he

00:41:25.880 --> 00:41:27.019
 dwells among us and he

00:41:27.019 --> 00:41:28.599
 walks among us and he

00:41:28.599 --> 00:41:29.780
 shows us who he is

00:41:29.780 --> 00:41:33.460
 words need to be followed

00:41:33.460 --> 00:41:34.940
 by by action and lived

00:41:34.940 --> 00:41:36.119
 out to become real and

00:41:36.119 --> 00:41:38.539
 true and so I look at

00:41:38.539 --> 00:41:40.760
 what Christ does and how

00:41:40.760 --> 00:41:42.340
 the God of the universe

00:41:42.340 --> 00:41:43.980
 becomes the word becomes

00:41:43.980 --> 00:41:45.119
 flesh and he dwells among

00:41:45.119 --> 00:41:47.900
 us and there he takes on

00:41:47.900 --> 00:41:49.400
 all our hurt even the

00:41:49.400 --> 00:41:50.579
 hurt from all our words

00:41:50.579 --> 00:41:51.639
 that have happened our

00:41:51.639 --> 00:41:52.519
 life stories he takes it

00:41:52.519 --> 00:41:53.480
 on himself and he goes

00:41:53.480 --> 00:41:54.819
 to the cross and he dies

00:41:54.819 --> 00:41:56.239
 for us and he shows us

00:41:56.239 --> 00:41:58.000
 all his graciousness and

00:41:58.000 --> 00:42:02.099
 truth the word becomes

00:42:02.099 --> 00:42:04.819
 flesh like no more words

00:42:04.819 --> 00:42:06.679
 to say there he steps

00:42:06.679 --> 00:42:08.179
 right in the middle of our

00:42:08.179 --> 00:42:08.940
 hurting and of our

00:42:08.940 --> 00:42:10.400
 suffering and he shows that

00:42:10.400 --> 00:42:12.019
 he cares he identifies with

00:42:12.019 --> 00:42:13.739
 our story he identifies

00:42:13.739 --> 00:42:16.179
 with our hurting and he

00:42:16.179 --> 00:42:18.699
 takes it to the cross so

00:42:18.699 --> 00:42:19.880
 if you are here today and

00:42:19.880 --> 00:42:21.199
 your soul has been

00:42:21.199 --> 00:42:23.619
 crushed by words or if

00:42:23.619 --> 00:42:25.039
 you struggle over souls

00:42:25.039 --> 00:42:25.980
 that you have crushed on

00:42:25.980 --> 00:42:28.000
 the way then know that

00:42:28.000 --> 00:42:30.179
 the word became flesh and

00:42:30.179 --> 00:42:30.940
 in his mercy and

00:42:30.940 --> 00:42:31.900
 forgiveness and grace he

00:42:31.900 --> 00:42:32.920
 died on the cross to

00:42:32.920 --> 00:42:33.960
 enter a relationship and

00:42:33.960 --> 00:42:35.239
 to heal the relationship

00:42:35.239 --> 00:42:36.679
 with him and give you the

00:42:36.679 --> 00:42:37.579
 strength to find healing

00:42:37.579 --> 00:42:39.000
 in your own soul

00:42:39.000 --> 00:42:44.219
 so as we close I just

00:42:44.219 --> 00:42:45.559
 encourage you to not walk

00:42:45.559 --> 00:42:47.719
 out today without finding

00:42:47.719 --> 00:42:49.559
 some step of healing I

00:42:49.559 --> 00:42:50.179
 want to emphasize that

00:42:50.179 --> 00:42:51.059
 again the prayer team will

00:42:51.059 --> 00:42:52.500
 be up here we'll sing like

00:42:52.500 --> 00:42:54.480
 two songs and just you

00:42:54.480 --> 00:42:55.500
 know be able to reflect and

00:42:55.500 --> 00:42:56.480
 see where you are with all

00:42:56.480 --> 00:42:58.119
 that and then take the

00:42:58.119 --> 00:42:59.059
 opportunity to just really

00:42:59.059 --> 00:43:00.139
 talk with someone and pray

00:43:00.139 --> 00:43:01.460
 with someone and and just

00:43:01.460 --> 00:43:02.920
 get out what's what's in

00:43:02.920 --> 00:43:06.099
 you and we hope that

00:43:06.099 --> 00:43:07.400
 ultimately you will see

00:43:07.400 --> 00:43:08.219
 that in the death and

00:43:08.219 --> 00:43:10.239
 resurrection of Christ we

00:43:10.239 --> 00:43:11.659
 find the hope that this

00:43:11.659 --> 00:43:13.000
 is not the end but the

00:43:13.000 --> 00:43:14.059
 kingdom perspective shows

00:43:14.059 --> 00:43:15.079
 that there is a kingdom

00:43:15.079 --> 00:43:15.899
 coming which all

00:43:15.899 --> 00:43:17.079
 relationships are restored

00:43:17.079 --> 00:43:20.079
 and there reconciliation

00:43:20.079 --> 00:43:21.219
 will be happen over the

00:43:21.219 --> 00:43:21.799
 words that have been

00:43:21.799 --> 00:43:23.439
 spoken and that have been

00:43:23.439 --> 00:43:24.119
 hurtful and that have been

00:43:24.119 --> 00:43:25.239
 destroying relationships

00:43:25.239 --> 00:43:26.339
 and there are people

00:43:26.339 --> 00:43:27.299
 probably in heaven that we

00:43:27.299 --> 00:43:28.219
 may not want to be with

00:43:28.219 --> 00:43:30.059
 right now but that's where

00:43:30.059 --> 00:43:31.279
 the cross of Christ is so

00:43:31.279 --> 00:43:32.480
 much greater than even the

00:43:32.480 --> 00:43:33.879
 things that we want but he

00:43:33.879 --> 00:43:35.219
 reconciles things that are

00:43:35.219 --> 00:43:36.699
 greater than every hurt or

00:43:36.699 --> 00:43:38.000
 any hurt that we can

00:43:38.000 --> 00:43:39.860
 experience let me pray for

00:43:39.860 --> 00:43:40.440
 us

00:43:40.440 --> 00:43:46.380
 father we just

00:43:46.380 --> 00:43:51.199
 humbled by the reality

00:43:51.199 --> 00:43:53.500
 that you the word becomes

00:43:53.500 --> 00:43:54.000
 flesh

00:43:54.000 --> 00:43:58.840
 that you don't stay in a far

00:43:58.840 --> 00:44:00.480
 distance as a religion that

00:44:00.480 --> 00:44:01.739
 is read in a book but

00:44:01.739 --> 00:44:04.900
 that you stepped into

00:44:04.900 --> 00:44:07.619
 humanity and into you right

00:44:07.619 --> 00:44:10.619
 among us and that you the

00:44:10.619 --> 00:44:12.119
 word became flesh because you

00:44:12.119 --> 00:44:13.559
 care about us and that you

00:44:13.559 --> 00:44:15.960
 desire for our relationship

00:44:15.960 --> 00:44:17.820
 with you to be healed and that

00:44:17.820 --> 00:44:19.160
 relationships among us would be

00:44:19.160 --> 00:44:20.960
 healed and that you would make

00:44:20.960 --> 00:44:23.840
 the way for that father just

00:44:23.840 --> 00:44:24.940
 pray for the people here today

00:44:24.940 --> 00:44:26.960
 that have been hurt by words and

00:44:26.960 --> 00:44:28.220
 that have heard through words

00:44:28.220 --> 00:44:31.000
 that today would be a this is a

00:44:31.000 --> 00:44:32.880
 time where healing would begin

00:44:32.880 --> 00:44:35.059
 um you know we would just look

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 at you and what you have done

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 and um that you would humble

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 yourself and even go to the

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 cross for us

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 that that would give us um yeah

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 just a motivation and an

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 encouragement

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 and that you desire healing for us

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 as well

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 father just pray for the families

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 here um for the parents that you

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 would continue to speak a kingdom

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 perspectives into them that they

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 would know that it's not about

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 being perfect and saying the

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 perfect words and uh that many

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 many families are overwhelmed by

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 raising kids

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 but that your grace and your mercy

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 is right there and that you desire

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 to teach everyone through the words

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 that you have and that you put

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 people in community um yeah just

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 learn together from you and your

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 word

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 so today we just uh want to look

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 again at the cross and um what it

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 means for us and that it means that

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 uh we can find healing in you we

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 pray this in christ's name amen