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 A lot of new faces.

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 So if this is your first time, welcome to Watermark.

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 If this is your 100th time, welcome.

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 My name is Tobin, and I'm one of the pastors here.

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 If you're joining us for the first time, we have been looking at the book of 1 Peter.

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 1 Peter was written by Peter to Christians,

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 Christians who were churches that were probably 20 to 30 years old.

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 They were growing, they were vibrant, but there was a problem.

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 There was a problem, and it was that there was persecution coming along very quickly and rapidly,

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 and the Christians didn't know how to act in a world that was hostile to them.

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 Peter's been telling us all along, and we've been looking at it throughout this passage,

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 that when we come to Christ, if you're a Christ follower here,

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 that Christ's Spirit comes inside of you, and He enters into you, the Holy Spirit,

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 the third person of the Trinity, He enters into you, and He starts to change us.

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 He changes us. He changes the way we think.

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 He changes the way we speak. He changes the way we act.

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 He changes our values. He changes the way we dress.

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 Some people, the change happens really quickly.

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 It's like you've seen people who are addicted to something, and all of a sudden, boom,

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 they're no longer addicted.

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 But then for some people, the change happens slower,

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 and God has different lessons to teach them,

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 and different things to build into their life.

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 And so He's working with each one of us as His children in a journey,

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 and each one of these journeys looks different.

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 We get in trouble when we start to compare our journeys with each other

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 because God sees us as different people.

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 We're different talents and vessels that have His image stamped on us.

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 Last week, He started using different words about us.

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 You remember when we talked about it last week.

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 If you weren't here, go back and listen to the passage.

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 He says that He started calling us things like a royal priesthood,

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 and the idea was the priest was the Latin actually means a bridge builder,

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 that we're bridge builders.

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 We're here to build bridges between the world that doesn't know Christ

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 and our community and our family.

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 So we're called something different.

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 We're called a holy nation.

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 It's holy that we're set apart,

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 and we talked about how our passports are in heaven

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 and not in Hong Kong or America or Texas or wherever you're from.

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 We talked about that we are these living stones,

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 that we're these living stones,

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 and life has been put into us by the living stone, Jesus.

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 And we used an illustration.

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 We talked about how Christ says that He's just His foundation.

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 He's this cornerstone, this precious thing,

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 and that all of us fit onto this foundation.

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 This might be just our life,

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 and then Jesus is in our life,

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 and my life is fitting here,

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 and Christ is teaching me,

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 and He's ordering things and orienting things,

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 and I'm learning things.

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 But He says also that these rolling stones come together,

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 and they lay on top of this foundation together,

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 and they start to build this thing called a church.

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 That's one of my prayers as a pastor often,

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 and it's probably the most difficult prayer,

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 is to try to pray that the holy stones will stop being rolling stones,

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 and they'll come together,

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 and they'll build this church,

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 this vessel of God's glory and His honor.

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 And we said that when we began this church,

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 that several of us prayed,

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 and we thought,

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 well, what does it look like to be a holy nation,

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 and a royal priesthood,

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 and different stones, living stones.

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 And we said that we felt like God was calling us within this congregation

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 to do a couple things.

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 We said that we would have to pray,

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 and we mentioned it last week,

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 that we're all called to pray.

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 Someone came up to me afterwards and said,

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 I mean, this isn't the venue that we always have,

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 and no, you know,

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 we don't know where we're going to meet almost every week.

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 We find out about a month ahead,

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 and we start scrambling,

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 and this is the venue we want to meet in every time,

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 but sometimes we don't get to meet this in here

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 because there's lawyers in here,

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 or a banquet in here,

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 or something like that,

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 and then we get put up on the 7th floor,

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 and the 6th floor,

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 and the 4th floor,

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 or ISF,

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 and all those are great places to meet,

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 and we're so thankful for those places,

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 but we're not choosing,

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 hey, let's go on the 7th floor today,

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 because I know some people really hate the 7th floor,

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 and they don't like it,

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 but we're just praying and saying,

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 God, where do you want us,

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 and we want to be here,

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 and we need places for kids to meet,

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 and so every Sunday is an adventure for the staff,

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 and so we, as a family,

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 need to be praying about those things,

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 and thinking about those things.

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 We said that every one of us needs to serve.

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 You can't see that,

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 but serve,

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 that we're called to serve.

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 Every Sunday,

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 there's 20 to 50 people that serve in here,

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 and do different things,

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 and Sunday school teachers,

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 and teaching,

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 and leading,

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 and worship,

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 and we feel like if we don't all do it together,

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 then it's not,

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 it's not going to work,

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 and so we feel like it's part of being this living stone,

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 is that we come together,

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 and we're all called to serve.

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 If you serve one Sunday a month,

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 in some capacity,

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 that's amazing,

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 and we usually do it within our community groups here,

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 at Watermark.

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 We're called to tithe,

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 tithe,

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 we talk about tithing,

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 and giving,

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 and we talk about what does that look like,

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 and you know,

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 we don't pass a tithe here.

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 If you're new here,

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 you're going to see these little purple envelopes,

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 and there's little boxes here,

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 but it was a step of faith for us,

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 the 40 people who started.

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 We said,

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 hey,

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 we want to bring our friends to a place

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 where they're not always passing money buckets around,

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 because it freaks them out,

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 but we're going to talk about money,

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 because we feel like it's one of the greatest hindrances

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 to people in Hong Kong,

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 money,

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 and education,

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 and power,

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 and lust.

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 Well,

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 we're going to talk about all those things,

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 but we don't pass an offering around,

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 because we didn't want your guests to feel uncomfortable,

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 but it means that those in the family need to give,

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 and help us with the outreaches,

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 and the cost of the venue,

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 and all these things that are involved in being a church family,

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 and building this building,

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 and when we talked about,

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 the last thing we said we were called to do as a holy people

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 is to invest and invite,

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 that we're all called to invest in people's lives,

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 and invite people into the community group,

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 and invite people into church,

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 and there are people that you're going to meet today,

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 and tomorrow,

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 and at work,

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 I'll never get a chance to meet.

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 In fact,

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 the minute I meet them,

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 and I say,

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 you know,

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 I'm a pastor,

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 they're like,

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 you know,

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 shut up,

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 and they don't,

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 you know,

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 they usually say other things,

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 but you,

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 you get a chance to just talk about it,

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 and live a life that's different,

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 and that's what Peter's talking about,

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 he's talking about living a life that's different,

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 a life apart from words,

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 and we talked last week that we all need to do this,

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 as a family,

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 that if one block doesn't fit in,

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 then the Lego house that we built here was,

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 would have holes in it,

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 and it wouldn't function the way that God meant for it to function,

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 and then we'd be in trouble,

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 we wouldn't be the church that God wants us to be,

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 because we need everybody,

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 we need you to come and to serve if you're in God's family,

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 we don't want you just to come and be a spectator,

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 and that's what happens in churches a lot,

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 right,

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 sometimes churches have like a football match,

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 there's 22 people playing in the front,

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 and there's 80,000 people watching,

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 but we believe that for you to serve,

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 and to do all these things,

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 it will actually make you a better you,

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 it's a step of faith,

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 and trusting the Lord,

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 and then we come to this passage this week,

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 and we're looking at it,

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 and I know some of you are laughing,

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 I mean some of you,

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 the minute you heard the word submit,

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 you just shut your mouth,

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 and said there's nothing I'm going to listen to here,

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 there's nothing I can learn from here,

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 and some of you are laughing at me,

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 because you're like,

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 oh Tobin,

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 he just opened this hand grenade,

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 and he's holding this hand grenade there,

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 and he's going to blow himself up,

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 and let's see how long it takes him to blow himself up,

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 with the word submit,

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 maybe he'll get the pin in,

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 but he's probably going to blow himself up,

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 you know,

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 because it's just a different,

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 it's the S word,

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 you know,

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 in Christianity,

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 and in the world today,

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 no one wants to talk about submitting,

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 or what that looks like,

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 or submission,

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 it's crazy,

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 but you know,

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 Paul,

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 he talks about that,

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 he's been talking about that,

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 but it's,

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 it's scary,

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 it's scary,

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 you know,

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 I used to work in a hospital,

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 I studied medicine,

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 and I did trauma unit,

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 which was my love,

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 and then,

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 I can remember,

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 I was working in,

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 in a cardiac care unit one day,

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 and with the doctors,

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 and just kind of interning,

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 and watching things,

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 and this guy came in,

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 and he was probably my age,

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 you know,

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 a young 50,

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 and,

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 but he had had his massive heart attack,

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 and he,

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 I had a heart attack 10 years ago,

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 mine was about medium,

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 and his was really bad,

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 and he was frail,

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 and he was not doing good,

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 and his wife came in all dressed,

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 and she was,

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 she looked beautiful,

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 and she walked in,

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 and they walked into the doctor's office,

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 and the first thing the doctor said to him was,

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 can you step out,

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 I need to talk to your wife alone,

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 and so he,

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 he's kind of concerned,

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 so he got up,

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 and he,

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 he stepped out,

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 and the doctor and the wife were talking,

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 and the doctor looked at him,

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 and said,

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 your husband's in really bad shape,

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 I mean,

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 any kind of stress,

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 any kind of things that can agitate him,

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 it will,

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 it will kill him,

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 and she's just taking notes,

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 and listening,

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 and she's just so meek,

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 and so,

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 and just wants to help her husband,

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 right,

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 and she's taking,

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 he goes,

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 so you just need to remove all stress from his life,

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 you can't have any stress in his life,

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 so when he comes home,

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 there can't be any kind of stress,

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 or things like that,

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 and you don't need to talk about stress,

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 you need to talk to the kids,

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 about being quiet in the house,

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 because at this point,

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 it's very delicate,

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 and it could kill him,

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 and I mean,

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 it would be really bad,

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 stress is bad,

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 and she's like,

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 you're taking notes,

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 and she goes,

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 you need to,

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 you need to cook him his favorite foods,

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 you need to cook things that he likes,

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 and because sometimes,

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 eating meals can make you upset,

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 and digesting,

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 and things like that,

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 and so you need to cook his really,

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 really food,

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 and go,

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 okay,

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 thank you doctor,

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 and she goes,

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 and you need to dress nicely,

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 you need to present yourself,

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 so whenever your husband comes to the front door,

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 you,

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 you greet him,

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 and you smile,

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 and you,

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 you look the best,

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 that you've ever looked,

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 and you're just beautiful,

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 because that would just relieve stress,

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 as he walks in,

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 and he was like,

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 sanctuary,

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 a place of home,

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 it's peace,

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 I'm okay,

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 and she's taking these notes down,

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 and he goes,

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 you know,

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 one other thing is,

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 you need to have sex with him,

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 because sex has been known to be this thing,

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 that relieves a lot of tension,

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 and stress,

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 and so you,

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 you need to,

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 you need as a wife,

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 to have sex with your husband,

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 and in fact,

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 you need to have sex whenever he wants it,

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 you just need to write,

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 you know,

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 whenever he wants to have sex,

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 whenever he engages with you,

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 you just have sex,

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 because that's going to take away all the tension,

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 and all the pressure,

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 and all the stress,

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 and so that's,

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 that's what you need to do,

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 and she said,

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 thank you doctor,

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 okay,

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 I'll write it down,

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 and then she writes it down,

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 and he goes,

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 I'm going to bring your husband in,

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 and you guys can talk about this,

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 and so he walks,

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 and he opens the door,

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 and the guy,

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 he comes shuffling in,

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 he sits down,

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 and he sits to his wife,

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 because he's just thinking,

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 you know,

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 and he says,

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 what did the doctor say?

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 and she says,

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 you know,

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 honey,

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 I love you,

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 but you're going to die,

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 you get it?

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 Come on,

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 but that's what submission is like,

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 right,

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 that's why it's so hard,

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 and so we want to look at,

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 it's a joke,

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 okay,

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 some of you are like,

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 what?

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 I worked in a trauma unit,

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 but not in a cardiac unit,

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 but no,

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 but I think that's why it's just so difficult,

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 but what we want to do today,

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 in our time that we have,

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 is I just want to look at submission,

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 or what it means to submit,

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 I want to look at a little definition of it,

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 I want to look at some examples of what it is,

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 and what it isn't in our world today,

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 because I feel like we have all these things bombarding us,

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 and this is what it means,

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 this is what it doesn't mean,

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 this is what it means,

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 so we want to look at that definition,

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 what it is or what it isn't,

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 and then how do we do it,

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 how do we come about it,

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 and you realize right away,

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 that when Paul,

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 and Peter is talking about it,

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 he's been talking about it throughout the whole book,

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 he's been talking about it,

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 about how we deal with our governments,

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 he's been talking about it,

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 with how we deal with our bosses,

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 he's been talking about it,

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 how we deal with our relationship with God,

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 he's been talking about,

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 how we deal with our relationship with each,

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 Other. And now he talks about how we deal with it in marriage. And what scripture does, and I don't

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 know if you realize this, is that when God writes the Bible, he puts these institutions that are

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 over us. Some people call them umbrellas to protect us, but they're these structures, these institutions.

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 And there's the institution of God in our relationship with him. There's the institution

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 of government or the king. There's the institution of the family. There's the institution of the

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 church. There's the institution of work. And all of these institutions are put in us, and he talks

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 about them in his word. And what he says in his word is that within every one of these institutions,

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 there's a structure. And within a structure, there's authority. And there's those who have authority,

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 and there's those who are under authority. He says whatever structure you're in, you're either

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 reporting to somebody or you have authority over somebody. And it's really important to listen to

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 this, because the scripture says that authority, the word, is always used in the meaning of to

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 protect and bless. When somebody has authority over somebody, whether it's the king, God, family,

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 husband, church, or work, whoever has the authority over it, the meaning of it within scripture was

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 to protect and to be a blessing. Authority was never meant to benefit the person who has authority.

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 In scripture, you'll never see that. That's not how God prescribes that. He always says that authority

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 is over us to protect us and to make us thrive. And that's the number one responsibility for those

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 who have that authority. But what scripture says is that sin came in, and it broke up all of these

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 relationships. Our relationship with God, our relationship with the government, our relationship

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 with the church, our relationship with each other, our relationship with work, our relationship with

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 the family. And it broke up all these authority structures. And so now people don't know what to do and how

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 to live within these things. And so Peter is teaching you and me, he's saying as Christians now, we need to go

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 back to the way it was before. That when God's spirit comes into us, God's spirit changes us. The word submit,

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 it's a military term. It actually means to stay in rank. That's what the Greek word means. It means just

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 to get put in rank. But the Bible, it doesn't use it that way. The Bible uses the word submit as an

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 attitude of our heart, an attitude of our mind. It says that submission is a choice. It's just something

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 that we willingly yield to the one in authority. That we do it, we yield to the one in authority,

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 whoever that is within the structure, God, government, church, family, husband, work. We yield to those

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 people in authority because we want to honor God. Does that make sense? The word actually means that,

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 it actually means, I don't like using a lot of Greek words sometimes because, yeah. But anyway,

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 I can barely speak English sometimes. So, but it means to be ordered in God's will.

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 So that when we're called to submit, it means that we are to follow God's will. We're to follow God's

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 order within the structures that he set up for us. And the Bible never talks about submission as weakness.

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 In fact, it uses God and Jesus often in submitting. Do you know that we're the only faith in the world

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 that has a God who submitted? You know, no other faith, no other religion, no other belief system

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 would even think about having a God who submits to people underneath him. But the passage says that Jesus,

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 who is God, submitted to us so that he might bring us to a new place.

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 The idea behind submission biblically is always to bless, to protect, to make better off. And the idea

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 is always strength and it's always voluntary. Does that make sense? Now, the world tells us a lot of

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 different things, doesn't it? I mean, the world says different things, but the Bible says this is what

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 we are to do is God's people because we have a God who did it for us. When you read scripture, what you

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 see right away is when God set up these structures, what he said is that unless we submit within these

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 structures, unless we give in and follow out of obedience to what he said, these structures won't

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 work. There's not going to be harmony between us and God. There's not going to be harmony between us

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 and our government and king. There's not going to be harmony between us and our boss. There's not

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 going to be harmony between us and our wives or our husbands. I mean, we talk a lot in our churches

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 about serving, but what we hardly ever talk about is submitting and submission. But in the language at the

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 core of serving is this idea of submitting and submission. You can't truly serve another person

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 unless you submit to them and you submit to them. The scripture tells us in two books in the very front

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 of the Old Testament. We're going to study them one day, probably in our fifth or sixth year.

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 In Isaiah 14 and Ezekiel 28, it says, at one time there was an angel. He was the most beautiful angel.

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 His words in Hebrew and Greek actually means he was a covering angel. He covered the throne of God.

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 He's the most perfect creation. In Ezekiel 28 and Isaiah 14, it says that this angel, Satan,

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 was kicked out of heaven because he didn't want to submit. He didn't want to submit. He didn't want to

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 obey God. And then we read in the first book of the Bible, Genesis, this same angel, this demon,

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 he comes into creation, into these structures, and he enters right into the relationship of man and God

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 and husband and wife. And what he does is he uses the same thing that he used on himself.

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 He talks to Adam and Eve about looking out after their own interest.

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 He talks to Adam and Eve about disobeying God and not submitting to him because if you submit to him,

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 then you're not going to get everything that you want.

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 And they listened. And those structures became fractured.

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 I mean, you see it again in the Matthew and Mark and Luke. We spent three years going through Luke.

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 And all throughout Luke, you see that Satan, this perfect angel who's fallen now, he comes to Jesus.

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 And how does he tempt Jesus?

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 He tempts him the same way in the authority structures.

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 And he tempts Jesus not to submit to God.

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 He tempts Jesus not to obey God.

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 He tempts Jesus to be independent of God.

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 And the scripture says over and over and over that at the center of all of our relationships,

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 at the center of all that God has created,

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 there's this core sense of us working together,

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 thinking the best of each other,

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 sacrificing for each other,

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 loving each other,

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 submitting to each other,

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 that this thing is at the center of it.

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 And Jesus talked about it all the time in the Gospels, right?

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 He said, hey, just don't,

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 it's not enough just to believe me.

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 He says, believe me and follow me.

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 Follow, that word means to submit.

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 It means to take our interest and put them below the interest of the person that we're helping or serving or following.

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 Does that make sense?

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 Now, this is a foundation.

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 I know I'm going to,

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 this is the hand grenade.

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 I'm trying to hold on to it,

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 but eventually I'm going to let it go.

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 The good thing about letting it go is when it blows up and people get angry,

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 I'm here.

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 You can write me in emails.

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 You can write the elders' emails.

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 We're happy to get together with you.

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 We want to discuss God's word

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 because we want to be a healthy church.

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 We want to be a healthy family.

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 We want to be a healthy community.

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 We want to be an amazing, healthy city, Hong Kong.

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 So the grenade's going to blow up.

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 Some of you, it's already blown up and you got shrapnel everywhere,

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 but I'm not leaving.

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 So you can email me.

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 You can get angry with me.

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 You can get angry with the elders,

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 but let's talk about it.

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 But what I hope you're dealing with is not me.

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 I hope you're dealing with God.

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 Because if you come to church every Sunday

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 and there's nothing that ever bothers you in here,

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 that's bad.

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 Because God's words and his commandments and the laws,

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 they are hard sometimes.

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 And Jesus calls us to struggle.

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 And I think this is one of the areas that I struggle with so much,

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 and it is so hard.

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 You know, the world says that submission has to be limited.

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 The world says limit your submission

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 and make it all about authority.

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 Only submit to those people who can beat you up.

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 Only submit to those people who can get you what you need.

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 I mean, we tend to think of submission as this.

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 It's Tobin, and there's people above me,

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 and there's people below me.

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 People above me, I submit to.

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 They have authority to me, so I obey them.

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 People below me, they listen to me.

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 But my goal in life,

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 my goal in life is to take those people from the top

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 and put them where?

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 Come on.

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 It's church.

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 You can talk.

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 Where?

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 I want to put them underneath me, right?

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 I mean, to be successful in every area of life,

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 whether it's my finances or the stuff I have

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 or the house I have

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 or the kids that go to school,

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 my goal is always to take these people who are above me

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 to put them below me.

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 And the more people that are below me than above me,

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 that ratio determines how successful I am.

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 And that's the struggle we have all the time.

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 The disciples had that problem, didn't they?

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 I mean, over and over, Jesus was saying,

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 what are you guys talking about?

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 They're talking about who's the greatest in the kingdom.

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 They wanted to put people that were above them below them

00:22:34.160 --> 00:22:35.640
 and people who were below them above them,

00:22:35.680 --> 00:22:36.800
 and they wanted to put themselves above.

00:22:38.420 --> 00:22:39.700
 But what the Bible says

00:22:39.700 --> 00:22:41.040
 and what Peter's been trying to tell us

00:22:41.040 --> 00:22:43.160
 throughout these passages is that submission is broad.

00:22:44.360 --> 00:22:46.340
 Submission is to our peers,

00:22:46.460 --> 00:22:48.540
 and it's to those not in authority over us.

00:22:49.400 --> 00:22:50.900
 Submission is in God's kingdom.

00:22:51.260 --> 00:22:52.820
 I mean, in God's kingdom, we've been reading,

00:22:52.960 --> 00:22:55.020
 and it says the greatest person in God's kingdom

00:22:55.020 --> 00:22:59.520
 is the person who serves everyone.

00:23:02.760 --> 00:23:04.740
 The greatest person in God's kingdom

00:23:04.740 --> 00:23:06.500
 is the person who serves everyone.

00:23:06.580 --> 00:23:09.320
 And when he says that, he's thinking of Jesus, right?

00:23:09.340 --> 00:23:10.340
 And he's thinking of us.

00:23:11.420 --> 00:23:12.460
 He said, hey, Tobin,

00:23:12.460 --> 00:23:16.059
 don't just place your interest before others,

00:23:16.180 --> 00:23:18.579
 but seek other person's glory.

00:23:19.860 --> 00:23:21.259
 Seek other people's benefit.

00:23:22.279 --> 00:23:23.900
 The world's going to tell you this,

00:23:24.759 --> 00:23:27.559
 but the Bible says this.

00:23:28.740 --> 00:23:29.980
 I mean, the world says that submission

00:23:29.980 --> 00:23:31.360
 should only be observed

00:23:31.360 --> 00:23:33.680
 if your best interest is at heart, right?

00:23:33.900 --> 00:23:34.360
 Doesn't it?

00:23:34.359 --> 00:23:37.899
 I mean, the world says that if someone is watching,

00:23:38.379 --> 00:23:39.099
 you submit.

00:23:40.599 --> 00:23:40.919
 Right?

00:23:42.019 --> 00:23:44.839
 I mean, we have radar detectors in our cars,

00:23:44.919 --> 00:23:45.479
 some of us,

00:23:45.919 --> 00:23:47.339
 because we want to see if somebody's watching.

00:23:49.740 --> 00:23:50.539
 If they're watching,

00:23:51.079 --> 00:23:52.059
 we slow down.

00:23:53.559 --> 00:23:54.399
 I mean, we're at work,

00:23:54.439 --> 00:23:56.439
 and we want to make sure that our boss is there

00:23:56.439 --> 00:23:57.179
 when we get in there,

00:23:57.219 --> 00:23:58.019
 or before we get in there,

00:23:58.059 --> 00:23:59.339
 and we want to make sure our boss leaves,

00:23:59.339 --> 00:24:00.059
 you know,

00:24:00.500 --> 00:24:01.959
 way before we leave,

00:24:02.679 --> 00:24:04.659
 because we realize that there's this idea of submitting,

00:24:04.859 --> 00:24:05.740
 and if somebody's watching,

00:24:05.899 --> 00:24:06.639
 then we do it.

00:24:08.679 --> 00:24:09.980
 But if not, no.

00:24:11.599 --> 00:24:13.159
 I mean, many of us in here, right,

00:24:13.199 --> 00:24:14.539
 you're working crazy hours.

00:24:16.299 --> 00:24:17.740
 You're working unhealthy hours.

00:24:17.839 --> 00:24:19.039
 You're working insane hours.

00:24:19.899 --> 00:24:22.639
 You're working for this big paycheck or a bonus.

00:24:22.640 --> 00:24:24.940
 I mean, we,

00:24:25.140 --> 00:24:25.940
 the world tells us,

00:24:26.120 --> 00:24:27.200
 if you submit,

00:24:28.640 --> 00:24:30.259
 you won't experience pain.

00:24:31.660 --> 00:24:32.940
 You won't experience suffering.

00:24:33.860 --> 00:24:35.120
 I mean, most of our lives,

00:24:35.259 --> 00:24:36.500
 as people in the world,

00:24:36.560 --> 00:24:38.440
 we're trying to get rid of pain and suffering,

00:24:38.520 --> 00:24:38.820
 aren't we?

00:24:40.460 --> 00:24:41.620
 If I submit to my boss,

00:24:41.660 --> 00:24:43.200
 I'm not going to have the pain of losing my job.

00:24:44.980 --> 00:24:46.820
 If I submit to this person,

00:24:46.880 --> 00:24:48.320
 then I'm not going to experience suffering.

00:24:48.420 --> 00:24:49.360
 If I submit to my husband,

00:24:49.460 --> 00:24:50.500
 or I submit to my wife,

00:24:50.780 --> 00:24:52.220
 then my life will be easier,

00:24:52.220 --> 00:24:53.600
 because I'm not going to have all this suffering.

00:24:54.779 --> 00:24:57.140
 I mean, that's what the world says.

00:24:57.220 --> 00:24:59.180
 See, the pin is flying off right now,

00:24:59.220 --> 00:25:00.360
 and the hand grenade's about to blow up.

00:25:01.620 --> 00:25:02.100
 But, you know,

00:25:02.519 --> 00:25:04.740
 but what the Bible says is that our submission is,

00:25:04.920 --> 00:25:07.160
 is motivated by faith.

00:25:10.339 --> 00:25:12.980
 The Bible says our submission is motivated by hope.

00:25:12.980 --> 00:25:16.259
 The Bible says our submission is motivated by love.

00:25:16.640 --> 00:25:18.220
 I mean, the Bible says that as Christians,

00:25:18.360 --> 00:25:18.980
 when we submit,

00:25:18.980 --> 00:25:22.319
 submit that we actually often move towards suffering.

00:25:24.160 --> 00:25:26.759
 We actually often move towards pain.

00:25:27.720 --> 00:25:30.680
 We actually often do things that make us very uncomfortable

00:25:30.680 --> 00:25:31.599
 and very difficult.

00:25:34.539 --> 00:25:35.539
 The world says,

00:25:35.660 --> 00:25:36.599
 no, get away from those things,

00:25:36.640 --> 00:25:37.700
 but what Scripture says is,

00:25:38.380 --> 00:25:39.559
 we're following Christ.

00:25:39.559 --> 00:25:43.539
 Christ is throwing himself on the hand grenade.

00:25:47.740 --> 00:25:49.399
 So we, as Christians,

00:25:49.519 --> 00:25:51.539
 are called to move towards self-sacrifice.

00:25:51.679 --> 00:25:53.740
 We're actually called towards to move pain,

00:25:53.819 --> 00:25:55.940
 and you know what the hard thing about being a Christian is sometimes?

00:25:56.399 --> 00:25:57.200
 Paul says this.

00:25:58.200 --> 00:25:58.559
 He says,

00:25:58.559 --> 00:25:59.960
 sometimes you're going to do those things,

00:26:00.619 --> 00:26:03.419
 and you're never going to receive your reward here.

00:26:03.420 --> 00:26:10.539
 I mean, most of us do things so we can receive our reward here and now.

00:26:11.980 --> 00:26:13.759
 But Paul says if we follow God,

00:26:15.100 --> 00:26:16.000
 that the benefit of that,

00:26:16.060 --> 00:26:18.279
 we might not ever even receive that until we get to heaven.

00:26:22.279 --> 00:26:25.120
 For some of us who like the gospel sexy,

00:26:26.100 --> 00:26:27.500
 I come to Christ, everything's perfect,

00:26:27.580 --> 00:26:28.060
 I get a Rolex,

00:26:28.240 --> 00:26:29.100
 I get a beautiful wife,

00:26:29.160 --> 00:26:29.800
 everything works out.

00:26:30.579 --> 00:26:32.220
 We don't like to hear those things.

00:26:34.079 --> 00:26:36.500
 But Paul's saying this is what happens in the real world.

00:26:38.220 --> 00:26:39.059
 Can I share one more?

00:26:39.659 --> 00:26:40.059
 Is that okay?

00:26:40.159 --> 00:26:40.539
 Can I share one?

00:26:40.839 --> 00:26:41.879
 These are all personal.

00:26:42.019 --> 00:26:43.000
 These are all me, okay?

00:26:43.500 --> 00:26:44.379
 This is Tobin.

00:26:44.519 --> 00:26:45.339
 I'm sharing you.

00:26:45.740 --> 00:26:46.799
 Okay, one thing,

00:26:46.799 --> 00:26:49.059
 and then I'm going to bring a special speaker up here

00:26:49.059 --> 00:26:50.779
 who's much wiser than I am.

00:26:51.619 --> 00:26:52.859
 This is what I've been learning.

00:26:54.359 --> 00:26:55.919
 In Tobin's world,

00:26:55.920 --> 00:27:00.460
 the idea of submission often involves complex sets of rules

00:27:00.460 --> 00:27:02.920
 and regulations in gray areas.

00:27:04.920 --> 00:27:06.120
 In Tobin's world,

00:27:06.840 --> 00:27:09.039
 submission has to be centered around rules

00:27:09.039 --> 00:27:11.180
 and what's enough and what's not enough

00:27:11.180 --> 00:27:12.500
 and what should I do and what shouldn't I do

00:27:12.500 --> 00:27:13.360
 and all these regulations.

00:27:14.820 --> 00:27:15.920
 Is it like that in your world?

00:27:18.080 --> 00:27:19.360
 I mean, when you read the Old Testament,

00:27:19.500 --> 00:27:20.240
 it's full of it, right?

00:27:20.340 --> 00:27:21.800
 The people of God,

00:27:21.880 --> 00:27:23.080
 they were given 12 commandments,

00:27:23.200 --> 00:27:24.860
 but how many rules did they end up with?

00:27:25.920 --> 00:27:26.519
 Hundreds.

00:27:28.580 --> 00:27:29.519
 Hundreds of rules.

00:27:29.700 --> 00:27:30.100
 Why?

00:27:31.880 --> 00:27:33.840
 Well, what you see eventually is that the people,

00:27:34.900 --> 00:27:36.440
 they didn't really love God.

00:27:38.980 --> 00:27:41.000
 They didn't really want to submit to God.

00:27:42.519 --> 00:27:44.420
 And so they set up all these different rules

00:27:44.420 --> 00:27:46.779
 to see how close they could get to doing things

00:27:46.779 --> 00:27:48.340
 so that it wasn't comfortable enough for them.

00:27:51.820 --> 00:27:52.880
 We do that, don't we?

00:27:55.920 --> 00:27:56.320
 I mean,

00:27:57.840 --> 00:27:58.580
 my kids are,

00:27:58.800 --> 00:27:59.759
 are my kids in here?

00:28:00.700 --> 00:28:01.039
 They're not in here.

00:28:01.060 --> 00:28:01.900
 My kids are playing.

00:28:04.100 --> 00:28:04.640
 Kip's here.

00:28:05.279 --> 00:28:06.820
 I won't use your name this time, buddy.

00:28:08.300 --> 00:28:09.460
 But my kids are playing.

00:28:10.259 --> 00:28:11.080
 And all of a sudden I hear a scream

00:28:11.080 --> 00:28:12.019
 and I walk in there

00:28:12.019 --> 00:28:12.279
 and I say,

00:28:12.279 --> 00:28:12.660
 what happened?

00:28:13.320 --> 00:28:13.460
 Well,

00:28:13.580 --> 00:28:15.080
 so-and-so hit me.

00:28:15.880 --> 00:28:16.240
 Okay.

00:28:16.880 --> 00:28:17.960
 So that's what I usually do.

00:28:18.060 --> 00:28:19.440
 I usually find blames.

00:28:19.740 --> 00:28:20.559
 Christina's really going,

00:28:20.980 --> 00:28:21.299
 oh,

00:28:21.539 --> 00:28:22.680
 so tell me what happened here.

00:28:23.180 --> 00:28:24.059
 But I walk in there like,

00:28:24.140 --> 00:28:24.340
 okay,

00:28:24.500 --> 00:28:25.580
 let's deal with it right away.

00:28:25.840 --> 00:28:26.259
 So what happened?

00:28:26.580 --> 00:28:27.259
 So-and-so hit me.

00:28:27.740 --> 00:28:27.840
 Oh,

00:28:27.900 --> 00:28:28.539
 did you hit them?

00:28:29.299 --> 00:28:29.620
 No.

00:28:30.440 --> 00:28:31.080
 So what did you do?

00:28:31.600 --> 00:28:32.220
 I flicked them.

00:28:35.360 --> 00:28:35.759
 Okay.

00:28:36.880 --> 00:28:37.559
 No hitting,

00:28:38.279 --> 00:28:39.120
 no flicking.

00:28:40.559 --> 00:28:41.299
 Have fun

00:28:41.299 --> 00:28:42.220
 and be nice to each other.

00:28:43.460 --> 00:28:44.880
 It's about 20 minutes later, right?

00:28:45.360 --> 00:28:46.779
 People start freaking out and screaming.

00:28:46.779 --> 00:28:48.480
 And I walk in there and go,

00:28:48.519 --> 00:28:48.960
 what happened?

00:28:49.700 --> 00:28:50.519
 Did you hit somebody?

00:28:50.720 --> 00:28:50.960
 No.

00:28:51.180 --> 00:28:52.000
 Did you flick somebody?

00:28:52.099 --> 00:28:52.279
 No.

00:28:53.019 --> 00:28:53.720
 I bumped them.

00:28:58.139 --> 00:28:59.579
 But we laugh, right?

00:29:00.079 --> 00:29:01.119
 But we do that too,

00:29:01.180 --> 00:29:01.519
 don't we?

00:29:03.619 --> 00:29:04.480
 Don't we do that?

00:29:05.519 --> 00:29:05.799
 I mean,

00:29:05.819 --> 00:29:06.700
 the command is there

00:29:06.700 --> 00:29:07.379
 and we look at it

00:29:07.379 --> 00:29:07.660
 and we go,

00:29:07.740 --> 00:29:07.920
 oh,

00:29:08.019 --> 00:29:08.539
 but you know,

00:29:09.299 --> 00:29:11.359
 what if I just did this instead?

00:29:13.099 --> 00:29:14.440
 What does it mean to serve?

00:29:14.519 --> 00:29:15.700
 Or what does it mean to give?

00:29:16.039 --> 00:29:16.759
 Or what does it really mean

00:29:16.759 --> 00:29:18.259
 to pray for people?

00:29:18.319 --> 00:29:18.859
 What does it really mean

00:29:18.859 --> 00:29:19.839
 to be a part of a church?

00:29:20.240 --> 00:29:20.359
 I mean,

00:29:20.400 --> 00:29:22.420
 I'm doing a sliver of that thing, right?

00:29:23.299 --> 00:29:24.299
 That's okay, right?

00:29:26.900 --> 00:29:28.059
 In Tobin's world,

00:29:28.220 --> 00:29:30.680
 the laws multiply

00:29:30.680 --> 00:29:32.720
 and they flourish

00:29:32.720 --> 00:29:35.559
 when there's no inward submission

00:29:35.559 --> 00:29:36.119
 in my heart.

00:29:43.200 --> 00:29:44.859
 If my heart isn't after the Lord,

00:29:44.859 --> 00:29:48.879
 if my heart isn't to love my life,

00:29:49.879 --> 00:29:51.479
 if my heart isn't to be a good

00:29:51.479 --> 00:29:52.979
 wherever God's placed me,

00:29:54.279 --> 00:29:55.339
 then I set up all these rules

00:29:55.339 --> 00:29:56.219
 and these gradations

00:29:56.219 --> 00:29:58.619
 so that I can feel good about myself.

00:30:00.419 --> 00:30:02.000
 Am I just talking to myself?

00:30:02.000 --> 00:30:08.119
 We all flick,

00:30:08.819 --> 00:30:09.200
 hit,

00:30:09.980 --> 00:30:10.500
 push,

00:30:11.500 --> 00:30:11.900
 tug,

00:30:12.140 --> 00:30:14.220
 because we don't want to obey.

00:30:16.220 --> 00:30:17.319
 We don't want to submit.

00:30:18.940 --> 00:30:20.619
 And so Peter comes to this passage today

00:30:20.619 --> 00:30:21.720
 and he talks about

00:30:21.720 --> 00:30:24.700
 this next relationship

00:30:24.700 --> 00:30:25.920
 and it's husband and wife.

00:30:26.299 --> 00:30:27.859
 He talks about how wives and husbands

00:30:27.859 --> 00:30:28.640
 should interact,

00:30:28.640 --> 00:30:30.620
 but he's been talking about it all along

00:30:30.620 --> 00:30:31.480
 within the government

00:30:31.480 --> 00:30:34.240
 and within the work.

00:30:34.560 --> 00:30:35.240
 He's been talking about

00:30:35.240 --> 00:30:35.900
 how we're different.

00:30:36.420 --> 00:30:37.520
 And so what I thought I would do

00:30:37.520 --> 00:30:40.120
 is I would drop the grenade

00:30:40.120 --> 00:30:40.840
 on my marriage.

00:30:41.000 --> 00:30:42.259
 And so I've asked

00:30:42.259 --> 00:30:43.780
 probably the wisest person

00:30:43.780 --> 00:30:44.759
 that I know,

00:30:44.860 --> 00:30:45.560
 my wife Christina,

00:30:45.640 --> 00:30:46.080
 to come up

00:30:46.080 --> 00:30:47.800
 and I want to ask her

00:30:47.800 --> 00:30:49.240
 some questions about this passage.

00:30:49.780 --> 00:30:50.200
 So Christina,

00:30:50.280 --> 00:30:51.000
 will you come up here?

00:30:51.000 --> 00:30:51.480
 Okay.

00:30:57.759 --> 00:30:58.380
 How are you doing?

00:30:59.700 --> 00:31:00.460
 Are you worried?

00:31:01.299 --> 00:31:01.700
 Okay.

00:31:02.380 --> 00:31:03.680
 So we haven't actually

00:31:03.680 --> 00:31:04.599
 talked about this a lot.

00:31:04.660 --> 00:31:05.480
 We looked at the passages

00:31:05.480 --> 00:31:06.180
 and things like that.

00:31:08.400 --> 00:31:09.279
 Christina and I have been married

00:31:09.279 --> 00:31:11.740
 for 17 years now, right?

00:31:11.900 --> 00:31:13.299
 And we have four kids, right?

00:31:16.579 --> 00:31:18.359
 And Christina was heavily involved

00:31:18.359 --> 00:31:18.920
 in ministry.

00:31:19.519 --> 00:31:20.059
 What you don't know

00:31:20.059 --> 00:31:21.940
 is she's an amazing discipler.

00:31:22.319 --> 00:31:23.819
 Okay, you don't have to say all that.

00:31:24.220 --> 00:31:26.299
 She's probably just as gifted as I am.

00:31:30.079 --> 00:31:30.799
 Or more.

00:31:33.200 --> 00:31:34.419
 You think you have a pastor

00:31:34.419 --> 00:31:35.379
 in the church,

00:31:35.460 --> 00:31:36.879
 but you really have two people

00:31:36.879 --> 00:31:39.119
 working for the church, right?

00:31:39.259 --> 00:31:40.339
 That's the way we see it.

00:31:40.399 --> 00:31:41.419
 We're a package deal.

00:31:42.500 --> 00:31:42.899
 So Christina,

00:31:42.960 --> 00:31:44.139
 when you look at this passage for...

00:31:44.139 --> 00:31:45.200
 Does that mean I have to get up here

00:31:45.200 --> 00:31:46.079
 every time you ask me?

00:31:46.079 --> 00:31:46.159
 Okay.

00:31:46.960 --> 00:31:50.240
 So if we look at 1 Peter 2 and 3,

00:31:50.339 --> 00:31:51.159
 1 through 9,

00:31:51.779 --> 00:31:52.699
 maybe just the question

00:31:52.699 --> 00:31:53.699
 we thought about was,

00:31:53.819 --> 00:31:54.720
 what in your life,

00:31:54.779 --> 00:31:55.639
 how have you come to think

00:31:55.639 --> 00:31:56.919
 about this idea of concept

00:31:56.919 --> 00:31:57.539
 of marriage

00:31:57.539 --> 00:31:59.179
 and submission within marriage?

00:31:59.439 --> 00:31:59.819
 Okay.

00:32:00.460 --> 00:32:01.879
 Well, first off,

00:32:01.919 --> 00:32:02.859
 I have to say that

00:32:02.859 --> 00:32:04.879
 when Tobin asked me

00:32:04.879 --> 00:32:06.419
 to come up here,

00:32:06.980 --> 00:32:09.039
 I didn't want to.

00:32:09.039 --> 00:32:10.639
 So this is definitely

00:32:10.639 --> 00:32:12.240
 you're seeing submission in action.

00:32:14.480 --> 00:32:16.319
 But we just got back

00:32:16.319 --> 00:32:16.799
 from the summary

00:32:16.799 --> 00:32:17.559
 and I asked him

00:32:17.559 --> 00:32:18.379
 about his sermon series

00:32:18.379 --> 00:32:19.119
 and he was like,

00:32:19.200 --> 00:32:22.000
 okay, we're going to talk about stuff

00:32:22.000 --> 00:32:22.839
 and I want you to come up.

00:32:22.899 --> 00:32:23.460
 And I said,

00:32:23.599 --> 00:32:24.180
 oh no,

00:32:24.539 --> 00:32:24.740
 you know,

00:32:24.779 --> 00:32:26.299
 just trying to settle in,

00:32:26.359 --> 00:32:27.019
 get the kids in school.

00:32:27.139 --> 00:32:28.740
 I really don't want to have to,

00:32:28.740 --> 00:32:29.079
 you know,

00:32:29.200 --> 00:32:30.920
 think about something like that.

00:32:31.259 --> 00:32:31.940
 And he goes,

00:32:32.680 --> 00:32:34.159
 but it's the subject submission.

00:32:34.160 --> 00:32:37.940
 Oh, okay, great, lovely.

00:32:38.620 --> 00:32:39.500
 So yeah, so I'm here.

00:32:41.779 --> 00:32:44.380
 So I grew up in a family

00:32:44.380 --> 00:32:46.740
 that actually did live by this concept.

00:32:47.519 --> 00:32:50.180
 And so I did see this role model to me.

00:32:50.920 --> 00:32:54.440
 And I remember actually very clearly

00:32:54.440 --> 00:32:56.120
 my grandmother talking to me

00:32:56.120 --> 00:32:57.060
 about one time.

00:32:58.200 --> 00:32:59.740
 She, her husband,

00:33:00.120 --> 00:33:03.080
 and she would travel around the world actually.

00:33:03.079 --> 00:33:04.699
 And back then,

00:33:04.740 --> 00:33:07.119
 that was quite extravagant

00:33:07.119 --> 00:33:08.099
 and people didn't do,

00:33:08.220 --> 00:33:09.220
 didn't travel around the world

00:33:09.220 --> 00:33:10.639
 back in my grandparents' day very often.

00:33:11.339 --> 00:33:11.799
 And so,

00:33:11.980 --> 00:33:14.460
 but my grandfather really liked to do this.

00:33:14.559 --> 00:33:15.759
 And so my grandmother was,

00:33:15.939 --> 00:33:17.619
 I guess this particular time was like,

00:33:18.139 --> 00:33:18.419
 you know,

00:33:18.480 --> 00:33:19.559
 I don't see the purpose in it.

00:33:19.599 --> 00:33:20.599
 Why do we have to go on another,

00:33:20.799 --> 00:33:21.659
 you know, holiday?

00:33:21.859 --> 00:33:22.359
 It's a holiday.

00:33:22.639 --> 00:33:23.839
 It's, you'd think you'd be excited,

00:33:24.000 --> 00:33:24.319
 but there's,

00:33:24.399 --> 00:33:25.220
 why do we have to do this?

00:33:25.740 --> 00:33:27.039
 And she said,

00:33:27.139 --> 00:33:27.919
 but you know,

00:33:28.500 --> 00:33:30.659
 every time I followed my husband

00:33:30.659 --> 00:33:32.139
 and every time

00:33:32.140 --> 00:33:33.100
 the Lord,

00:33:33.340 --> 00:33:34.259
 I'd be along the way

00:33:34.259 --> 00:33:35.600
 and I'd talk to somebody

00:33:35.600 --> 00:33:36.620
 and this specific time

00:33:36.620 --> 00:33:37.920
 they went to Europe or something.

00:33:38.380 --> 00:33:39.259
 And she said,

00:33:39.320 --> 00:33:40.320
 and I talked to somebody,

00:33:40.520 --> 00:33:40.780
 you know,

00:33:40.800 --> 00:33:41.300
 along the way

00:33:41.300 --> 00:33:43.180
 and I was able to share my faith with them.

00:33:43.400 --> 00:33:44.960
 And it was such an encouraging time.

00:33:45.160 --> 00:33:46.520
 And so the Lord always,

00:33:46.920 --> 00:33:47.160
 you know,

00:33:47.200 --> 00:33:49.440
 it always gave me a purpose in it.

00:33:49.520 --> 00:33:51.120
 And so that was kind of what I saw

00:33:51.120 --> 00:33:52.180
 growing up

00:33:52.180 --> 00:33:55.080
 with my family.

00:33:55.079 --> 00:33:57.059
 But also,

00:33:57.399 --> 00:34:00.179
 I did struggle with this concept

00:34:00.179 --> 00:34:02.480
 when it came to husband and wife relationships

00:34:02.480 --> 00:34:06.159
 because just what we learn in society,

00:34:06.359 --> 00:34:06.559
 you know,

00:34:06.619 --> 00:34:09.360
 that it's a superior versus inferior thing,

00:34:09.539 --> 00:34:11.400
 which is what I've come to believe

00:34:11.400 --> 00:34:13.139
 is not what the Bible is saying,

00:34:13.239 --> 00:34:14.239
 but our world says that.

00:34:14.319 --> 00:34:17.380
 And I think that as I talk with women,

00:34:17.519 --> 00:34:18.279
 my friends,

00:34:18.599 --> 00:34:20.759
 our study groups that we do together,

00:34:20.760 --> 00:34:22.520
 you know,

00:34:22.680 --> 00:34:23.920
 we always push back

00:34:23.920 --> 00:34:24.600
 when we hear that

00:34:24.600 --> 00:34:26.480
 because we think of,

00:34:26.520 --> 00:34:26.660
 you know,

00:34:26.740 --> 00:34:28.460
 Confucianism says that

00:34:28.460 --> 00:34:33.000
 that submission is,

00:34:33.420 --> 00:34:35.240
 there's a superior and an inferior,

00:34:35.920 --> 00:34:36.180
 right?

00:34:36.280 --> 00:34:38.400
 And so it wasn't until

00:34:38.400 --> 00:34:40.740
 I was shown 1 Corinthians 3,

00:34:41.220 --> 00:34:42.760
 11, 3,

00:34:43.440 --> 00:34:46.380
 that I really learned to accept this more

00:34:46.380 --> 00:34:49.600
 and realize that it's God's order of things.

00:34:49.720 --> 00:34:50.320
 It's a structure.

00:34:50.320 --> 00:34:52.559
 It doesn't have anything to do about equality.

00:34:53.039 --> 00:34:54.539
 And that made me be able to relax

00:34:54.539 --> 00:34:55.700
 and open up and go,

00:34:55.840 --> 00:34:55.960
 okay,

00:34:56.000 --> 00:34:57.880
 maybe I can listen to this more

00:34:57.880 --> 00:34:59.320
 and see what God has to say

00:34:59.320 --> 00:35:00.800
 if it's not about equality.

00:35:01.100 --> 00:35:02.420
 Do you want to read that passage?

00:35:02.440 --> 00:35:03.580
 It's in the bulletin.

00:35:04.000 --> 00:35:04.180
 Oh,

00:35:04.240 --> 00:35:04.440
 okay.

00:35:04.680 --> 00:35:05.980
 So it talks,

00:35:06.100 --> 00:35:07.080
 it says that,

00:35:07.080 --> 00:35:08.940
 that Jesus Christ

00:35:08.940 --> 00:35:11.200
 submits to God the Father

00:35:11.200 --> 00:35:16.200
 and that man submits to Jesus Christ

00:35:16.200 --> 00:35:18.640
 and that woman submits to man.

00:35:18.639 --> 00:35:21.819
 So where it starts to rub me wrong,

00:35:21.900 --> 00:35:22.239
 I was like,

00:35:22.379 --> 00:35:22.639
 wow,

00:35:22.759 --> 00:35:22.920
 well,

00:35:23.359 --> 00:35:25.579
 is Jesus equal to God the Father?

00:35:26.759 --> 00:35:27.199
 Yes.

00:35:27.519 --> 00:35:29.079
 The Bible talks about the Trinity

00:35:29.079 --> 00:35:30.359
 and so,

00:35:30.739 --> 00:35:31.739
 and how they're equal.

00:35:31.900 --> 00:35:32.759
 They are all God,

00:35:32.879 --> 00:35:33.139
 right?

00:35:33.500 --> 00:35:34.359
 Three parts.

00:35:35.019 --> 00:35:37.379
 But Jesus submitted to God the Father,

00:35:37.480 --> 00:35:38.139
 so they're equal.

00:35:38.440 --> 00:35:40.119
 It doesn't have anything to do with superiority

00:35:40.119 --> 00:35:40.639
 or inferiority.

00:35:40.639 --> 00:35:42.339
 So then,

00:35:43.039 --> 00:35:44.519
 wow,

00:35:44.699 --> 00:35:46.859
 if Jesus submitted to God,

00:35:47.139 --> 00:35:49.359
 perhaps I can submit to my husband.

00:35:49.920 --> 00:35:52.099
 And the verse that we're talking about says,

00:35:52.159 --> 00:35:54.139
 you know,

00:35:54.259 --> 00:35:56.460
 submitting to your husband.

00:35:57.259 --> 00:35:58.679
 And I just want to make clear

00:35:58.679 --> 00:36:00.059
 that the Bible does not say

00:36:00.059 --> 00:36:01.779
 submitting to your boyfriend

00:36:01.779 --> 00:36:03.960
 or all men,

00:36:04.440 --> 00:36:04.759
 right?

00:36:04.759 --> 00:36:06.279
 Like some cultures say,

00:36:06.420 --> 00:36:06.719
 actually,

00:36:06.839 --> 00:36:07.019
 right?

00:36:07.019 --> 00:36:09.639
 So the biblical way

00:36:09.639 --> 00:36:11.219
 is only your husband.

00:36:12.400 --> 00:36:13.639
 And so I do actually think

00:36:13.639 --> 00:36:14.159
 that's important

00:36:14.159 --> 00:36:16.800
 because sometimes we think the other.

00:36:17.880 --> 00:36:18.440
 So anyways,

00:36:19.340 --> 00:36:22.719
 I think that in light of this,

00:36:23.000 --> 00:36:24.679
 that submission is not

00:36:24.679 --> 00:36:26.300
 an ignorance,

00:36:26.420 --> 00:36:26.599
 right?

00:36:26.699 --> 00:36:29.059
 That I walk around in ignorance

00:36:29.059 --> 00:36:31.039
 or ignorant to the situation,

00:36:31.500 --> 00:36:32.239
 any situation.

00:36:32.400 --> 00:36:33.400
 It does not mean

00:36:33.400 --> 00:36:34.300
 that I'm subservient

00:36:34.300 --> 00:36:35.079
 to my husband.

00:36:35.079 --> 00:36:36.199
 It does not mean

00:36:36.199 --> 00:36:37.739
 that I have to be silent

00:36:37.739 --> 00:36:39.039
 when my husband sins.

00:36:39.179 --> 00:36:40.279
 I need to admonish him

00:36:40.279 --> 00:36:41.279
 and love him in Christ

00:36:41.279 --> 00:36:41.900
 as a brother.

00:36:43.059 --> 00:36:44.319
 It does not give me,

00:36:44.739 --> 00:36:46.299
 this is not an excuse

00:36:46.299 --> 00:36:47.239
 for abuse

00:36:47.239 --> 00:36:48.380
 in families,

00:36:48.500 --> 00:36:48.739
 right?

00:36:49.059 --> 00:36:50.000
 If you

00:36:50.000 --> 00:36:51.960
 feel threatened

00:36:51.960 --> 00:36:53.019
 in any way

00:36:53.019 --> 00:36:54.179
 for your safety,

00:36:54.900 --> 00:36:56.219
 this is not an excuse

00:36:56.219 --> 00:36:57.579
 for that to go on.

00:36:57.659 --> 00:36:59.159
 You need to ask for help

00:36:59.159 --> 00:37:00.059
 from others,

00:37:00.219 --> 00:37:00.519
 right?

00:37:00.639 --> 00:37:01.759
 So that's not what

00:37:01.759 --> 00:37:02.599
 he's talking about.

00:37:05.079 --> 00:37:06.579
 But if it is

00:37:06.579 --> 00:37:09.699
 an average unkindness

00:37:09.699 --> 00:37:10.819
 within the family

00:37:10.819 --> 00:37:12.460
 or a lack of love,

00:37:13.000 --> 00:37:14.639
 God says that he

00:37:14.639 --> 00:37:15.539
 is going to be the one

00:37:15.539 --> 00:37:16.319
 to judge them.

00:37:17.380 --> 00:37:19.139
 And so it's not my place.

00:37:19.279 --> 00:37:20.420
 I don't have to be the one

00:37:20.420 --> 00:37:21.440
 to take revenge

00:37:21.440 --> 00:37:23.219
 or to fight back.

00:37:24.420 --> 00:37:25.819
 But you never had that happen

00:37:25.819 --> 00:37:26.779
 in our family at all.

00:37:26.779 --> 00:37:27.460
 Never, ever.

00:37:27.659 --> 00:37:28.779
 I'll just wait.

00:37:28.840 --> 00:37:29.279
 You just wait.

00:37:29.280 --> 00:37:32.840
 It's very risky

00:37:32.840 --> 00:37:33.740
 for him to ask me up here.

00:37:33.800 --> 00:37:34.860
 Maybe he won't do it again.

00:37:35.060 --> 00:37:35.540
 How about that?

00:37:38.100 --> 00:37:39.920
 So it's not our place

00:37:39.920 --> 00:37:40.480
 of revenge,

00:37:40.660 --> 00:37:42.620
 but what the verse says

00:37:42.620 --> 00:37:43.400
 that we're talking about,

00:37:43.540 --> 00:37:44.500
 it's an opportunity

00:37:44.500 --> 00:37:45.660
 for us to show

00:37:45.660 --> 00:37:46.420
 God's love

00:37:46.420 --> 00:37:47.420
 and grace

00:37:47.420 --> 00:37:49.340
 to our husbands

00:37:49.340 --> 00:37:50.200
 as a witness,

00:37:50.380 --> 00:37:50.600
 right?

00:37:50.700 --> 00:37:51.060
 For them,

00:37:51.180 --> 00:37:51.600
 to them.

00:37:51.600 --> 00:37:52.560
 As a witness

00:37:52.560 --> 00:37:53.800
 to win them

00:37:53.800 --> 00:37:55.860
 over to Christ

00:37:55.860 --> 00:37:57.360
 or as a witness

00:37:57.360 --> 00:37:57.980
 to draw them

00:37:57.980 --> 00:37:59.240
 closer to Christ.

00:38:00.280 --> 00:38:01.820
 So I've come to see

00:38:01.820 --> 00:38:02.760
 that this is a choice

00:38:02.760 --> 00:38:03.580
 that God has given

00:38:03.580 --> 00:38:04.860
 to us as wives.

00:38:05.760 --> 00:38:06.900
 It's not a commandment

00:38:06.900 --> 00:38:07.560
 from my husband,

00:38:07.820 --> 00:38:09.100
 which I'm very happy about.

00:38:10.240 --> 00:38:13.240
 And in Colossians 3, 23,

00:38:13.660 --> 00:38:15.500
 it says that I'm not even

00:38:15.500 --> 00:38:16.420
 really submitting

00:38:16.420 --> 00:38:17.240
 to my husband.

00:38:17.860 --> 00:38:19.620
 I'm submitting ultimately

00:38:19.620 --> 00:38:20.540
 to God.

00:38:20.960 --> 00:38:21.780
 Don't tell him that

00:38:21.780 --> 00:38:23.080
 because I think he likes it

00:38:23.080 --> 00:38:23.780
 when he thinks

00:38:23.780 --> 00:38:25.519
 I'm yielding to him.

00:38:25.620 --> 00:38:27.000
 No, I'm yielding to God,

00:38:27.060 --> 00:38:27.280
 really.

00:38:27.280 --> 00:38:29.500
 You know,

00:38:29.580 --> 00:38:30.700
 and if you think about it,

00:38:30.820 --> 00:38:31.500
 that means

00:38:31.500 --> 00:38:36.920
 that my loving him

00:38:36.920 --> 00:38:39.000
 or yielding my own desires

00:38:39.000 --> 00:38:41.320
 is actually not based

00:38:41.320 --> 00:38:42.220
 on his performance,

00:38:42.880 --> 00:38:43.200
 right?

00:38:43.199 --> 00:38:45.259
 And so if it's not based

00:38:45.259 --> 00:38:46.179
 on his performance,

00:38:47.039 --> 00:38:49.919
 then when I'm obeying

00:38:49.919 --> 00:38:50.879
 my Lord

00:38:50.879 --> 00:38:52.239
 and I'm following God

00:38:52.239 --> 00:38:52.859
 and I'm trusting

00:38:52.859 --> 00:38:53.399
 and caring

00:38:53.399 --> 00:38:54.319
 that he's going

00:38:54.319 --> 00:38:55.079
 to take care of me,

00:38:55.159 --> 00:38:56.039
 I don't have to worry

00:38:56.039 --> 00:38:57.819
 about my own self,

00:38:57.960 --> 00:38:59.099
 that I'm following him.

00:38:59.099 --> 00:39:01.019
 And this can actually

00:39:01.019 --> 00:39:01.779
 save marriages.

00:39:02.059 --> 00:39:03.139
 I think I've seen it

00:39:03.139 --> 00:39:03.839
 save marriages

00:39:03.839 --> 00:39:05.920
 when women are willing

00:39:05.920 --> 00:39:07.960
 to lay their life down

00:39:07.960 --> 00:39:08.639
 for their husband.

00:39:10.579 --> 00:39:13.019
 Also, in Ephesians 4,

00:39:13.319 --> 00:39:15.219
 it says that God calls us

00:39:15.219 --> 00:39:15.860
 to be humble,

00:39:16.119 --> 00:39:17.219
 gentle, patient,

00:39:17.699 --> 00:39:18.900
 bearing one another's burdens

00:39:18.900 --> 00:39:19.539
 in love.

00:39:19.539 --> 00:39:21.659
 And I grew up

00:39:21.659 --> 00:39:22.759
 going to a summer camp

00:39:22.759 --> 00:39:24.440
 where we had a motto

00:39:24.440 --> 00:39:25.320
 that we went around

00:39:25.320 --> 00:39:25.739
 cheering,

00:39:26.179 --> 00:39:27.219
 chanting all day

00:39:27.219 --> 00:39:28.880
 and it's called

00:39:28.880 --> 00:39:30.500
 the I'm Third model

00:39:30.500 --> 00:39:31.960
 and it's where

00:39:31.960 --> 00:39:33.960
 God is first,

00:39:34.579 --> 00:39:35.440
 others are second,

00:39:36.000 --> 00:39:36.960
 and myself third.

00:39:37.619 --> 00:39:38.639
 So that became

00:39:38.639 --> 00:39:40.059
 my motto in life.

00:39:40.639 --> 00:39:42.000
 Not that I'm very good at it,

00:39:42.039 --> 00:39:42.460
 but you know.

00:39:42.460 --> 00:39:45.760
 So the next question

00:39:45.760 --> 00:39:46.539
 will be when we talked

00:39:46.539 --> 00:39:46.820
 about it,

00:39:46.860 --> 00:39:47.440
 it's like what are

00:39:47.440 --> 00:39:48.360
 some of the hardships

00:39:48.360 --> 00:39:49.139
 or benefits

00:39:49.139 --> 00:39:50.639
 that maybe you've,

00:39:51.320 --> 00:39:52.400
 probably no hardships

00:39:52.400 --> 00:39:53.940
 in our marriage,

00:39:54.059 --> 00:39:54.920
 but the benefits

00:39:54.920 --> 00:39:55.920
 are huge.

00:39:56.420 --> 00:39:57.720
 So what are the benefits

00:39:57.720 --> 00:39:58.800
 that you've experienced

00:39:58.800 --> 00:39:59.780
 in our lives

00:39:59.780 --> 00:40:00.720
 as you've lived out

00:40:00.720 --> 00:40:01.400
 this principle?

00:40:02.220 --> 00:40:02.980
 I know I'm just,

00:40:02.980 --> 00:40:03.960
 boom, boom, boom.

00:40:03.960 --> 00:40:04.860
 You're having a lot of fun,

00:40:04.920 --> 00:40:05.059
 right?

00:40:05.099 --> 00:40:05.380
 Yeah, yeah.

00:40:07.340 --> 00:40:08.460
 Well, really I don't know

00:40:08.460 --> 00:40:09.400
 why I'm up here

00:40:09.400 --> 00:40:10.920
 because I'm not very good

00:40:10.920 --> 00:40:11.519
 at this thing

00:40:11.519 --> 00:40:12.440
 called submission anyway,

00:40:12.460 --> 00:40:13.920
 so I don't know.

00:40:15.760 --> 00:40:17.079
 I do remember

00:40:17.079 --> 00:40:19.539
 the first time

00:40:19.539 --> 00:40:20.240
 in our marriage

00:40:20.240 --> 00:40:21.260
 when we just got married

00:40:21.260 --> 00:40:22.460
 when I did submit

00:40:22.460 --> 00:40:24.019
 for the first time.

00:40:24.079 --> 00:40:25.139
 I remember it very clearly

00:40:25.139 --> 00:40:25.980
 maybe because,

00:40:26.099 --> 00:40:26.420
 you know,

00:40:26.559 --> 00:40:27.179
 I had to,

00:40:27.440 --> 00:40:28.139
 it was the first time

00:40:28.139 --> 00:40:29.000
 I actually did it.

00:40:29.940 --> 00:40:31.340
 And we were moving

00:40:31.340 --> 00:40:31.840
 to China

00:40:31.840 --> 00:40:33.380
 and we,

00:40:33.740 --> 00:40:34.139
 I had,

00:40:34.400 --> 00:40:34.980
 Tobin had given me

00:40:34.980 --> 00:40:35.699
 this ring

00:40:35.699 --> 00:40:36.380
 to get,

00:40:36.679 --> 00:40:38.099
 as an engagement ring

00:40:38.099 --> 00:40:39.099
 and our marriage ring

00:40:39.099 --> 00:40:40.720
 and he said,

00:40:40.840 --> 00:40:40.960
 well,

00:40:41.119 --> 00:40:41.519
 there's,

00:40:41.519 --> 00:40:43.280
 uninsurable in China,

00:40:43.480 --> 00:40:45.800
 so I don't want you

00:40:45.800 --> 00:40:46.840
 to take it with you.

00:40:47.000 --> 00:40:47.259
 I had,

00:40:47.480 --> 00:40:47.699
 you know,

00:40:47.739 --> 00:40:48.219
 and I'm like,

00:40:48.679 --> 00:40:49.599
 wait a minute.

00:40:50.039 --> 00:40:51.639
 I just waited 30 years

00:40:51.639 --> 00:40:52.259
 for this ring.

00:40:53.400 --> 00:40:54.860
 And it might seem silly now,

00:40:54.980 --> 00:40:55.880
 but I was like,

00:40:55.980 --> 00:40:56.800
 and my grandmother,

00:40:57.039 --> 00:40:57.380
 you know,

00:40:57.420 --> 00:40:58.059
 my grandmother has,

00:40:58.239 --> 00:40:59.460
 her stone is in this ring

00:40:59.460 --> 00:41:00.420
 and I'm never,

00:41:00.559 --> 00:41:01.480
 ever going to take it off.

00:41:01.599 --> 00:41:01.920
 So,

00:41:02.059 --> 00:41:02.420
 you know,

00:41:02.900 --> 00:41:04.239
 nobody's ever going to steal it.

00:41:04.239 --> 00:41:04.879
 I don't think it needs

00:41:04.879 --> 00:41:06.059
 to be insured anyway

00:41:06.059 --> 00:41:07.000
 and so it's really

00:41:07.000 --> 00:41:07.679
 not a big deal

00:41:07.679 --> 00:41:08.039
 and,

00:41:08.179 --> 00:41:08.379
 you know,

00:41:08.439 --> 00:41:09.019
 I want to take,

00:41:09.119 --> 00:41:10.039
 I want to take this ring.

00:41:10.099 --> 00:41:11.479
 This is very symbolic for me.

00:41:12.019 --> 00:41:13.739
 And then at the end of the day,

00:41:13.919 --> 00:41:14.279
 you know,

00:41:14.759 --> 00:41:15.279
 he said,

00:41:15.379 --> 00:41:16.699
 I really don't think you should,

00:41:16.799 --> 00:41:17.899
 I don't want you to risk it.

00:41:17.939 --> 00:41:18.839
 I don't want you to take it.

00:41:19.220 --> 00:41:20.100
 So I remember

00:41:20.100 --> 00:41:21.720
 that was the first time

00:41:21.720 --> 00:41:23.280
 I put it in the safety deposit box

00:41:23.280 --> 00:41:24.960
 and I didn't see it again

00:41:24.960 --> 00:41:26.200
 for another five years.

00:41:26.519 --> 00:41:27.920
 And it was very sad,

00:41:28.100 --> 00:41:28.900
 but I did it

00:41:28.900 --> 00:41:29.500
 and I don't know

00:41:29.500 --> 00:41:30.059
 that there were necessarily

00:41:30.059 --> 00:41:30.740
 any benefits

00:41:30.740 --> 00:41:31.920
 that came out of it for me.

00:41:35.539 --> 00:41:37.260
 Except for the fact that,

00:41:37.360 --> 00:41:37.620
 you know,

00:41:37.680 --> 00:41:38.480
 it's the first time

00:41:38.480 --> 00:41:39.640
 I totally remembered

00:41:39.640 --> 00:41:41.660
 having to not get my way,

00:41:41.920 --> 00:41:42.160
 right?

00:41:43.180 --> 00:41:43.579
 So,

00:41:43.820 --> 00:41:45.260
 but other things like,

00:41:45.360 --> 00:41:46.720
 even silly things like,

00:41:46.780 --> 00:41:47.019
 you know,

00:41:47.100 --> 00:41:47.860
 going on a date night

00:41:47.860 --> 00:41:48.760
 and we go to dinner.

00:41:49.420 --> 00:41:50.019
 And, you know,

00:41:50.079 --> 00:41:53.700
 we've had major blot arguments

00:41:53.700 --> 00:41:55.400
 over where we're going to dinner.

00:41:55.680 --> 00:41:57.160
 And if I only would have just,

00:41:57.320 --> 00:41:57.640
 you know,

00:41:57.720 --> 00:41:58.320
 said,

00:41:58.440 --> 00:41:58.620
 oh,

00:41:58.660 --> 00:42:00.160
 I think about the other person

00:42:00.160 --> 00:42:01.300
 instead of me,

00:42:01.420 --> 00:42:02.500
 it wouldn't have been such a,

00:42:02.860 --> 00:42:03.039
 you know,

00:42:03.100 --> 00:42:04.240
 ruined our whole evening,

00:42:04.380 --> 00:42:04.640
 right?

00:42:05.120 --> 00:42:07.120
 Tobin loves Western food

00:42:07.120 --> 00:42:08.039
 and I like Chinese food.

00:42:08.120 --> 00:42:08.380
 That's,

00:42:08.420 --> 00:42:08.860
 that's the,

00:42:09.039 --> 00:42:09.860
 that's our issue.

00:42:10.360 --> 00:42:10.840
 And then,

00:42:10.980 --> 00:42:12.800
 when we,

00:42:12.900 --> 00:42:14.260
 we started doing

00:42:14.260 --> 00:42:15.180
 these Israel trips,

00:42:15.280 --> 00:42:15.840
 just trying to give you

00:42:15.840 --> 00:42:16.960
 a few examples of,

00:42:17.100 --> 00:42:17.740
 of our life.

00:42:17.820 --> 00:42:18.280
 We started doing

00:42:18.280 --> 00:42:19.080
 these Israel trips

00:42:19.080 --> 00:42:21.380
 when we take tour groups

00:42:21.380 --> 00:42:22.980
 over to see the Holy Land

00:42:22.980 --> 00:42:23.980
 and my children,

00:42:24.060 --> 00:42:24.620
 when we started doing it,

00:42:24.640 --> 00:42:25.480
 my children were quite young.

00:42:25.600 --> 00:42:26.160
 They were babies.

00:42:26.800 --> 00:42:27.340
 And so,

00:42:27.540 --> 00:42:29.260
 when he first asked me,

00:42:29.320 --> 00:42:29.600
 he said,

00:42:29.660 --> 00:42:30.440
 let's do this together.

00:42:30.540 --> 00:42:31.200
 I don't want to do this

00:42:31.200 --> 00:42:31.880
 without you.

00:42:32.140 --> 00:42:33.019
 Let's do it together.

00:42:33.019 --> 00:42:34.440
 And I said,

00:42:34.599 --> 00:42:37.579
 any mom in their right mind

00:42:37.579 --> 00:42:38.460
 would not leave

00:42:38.460 --> 00:42:39.880
 their one-year-old child.

00:42:40.380 --> 00:42:41.219
 I was nursing.

00:42:41.340 --> 00:42:41.960
 The last time I,

00:42:42.119 --> 00:42:43.679
 the last time I nursed my child

00:42:43.679 --> 00:42:44.460
 was the day before

00:42:44.460 --> 00:42:45.500
 we went on this trip,

00:42:46.000 --> 00:42:46.420
 you know,

00:42:46.480 --> 00:42:47.480
 to go,

00:42:47.659 --> 00:42:48.139
 you know,

00:42:48.219 --> 00:42:49.159
 and do this,

00:42:49.219 --> 00:42:49.539
 you know.

00:42:51.119 --> 00:42:51.519
 And,

00:42:51.719 --> 00:42:52.860
 but I said,

00:42:52.940 --> 00:42:53.099
 okay,

00:42:53.119 --> 00:42:54.199
 I'm going to follow my husband

00:42:54.199 --> 00:42:55.419
 and it has been

00:42:55.419 --> 00:42:56.399
 an amazing adventure.

00:42:56.399 --> 00:42:57.599
 I was able to go

00:42:57.599 --> 00:43:00.279
 and walk in the footsteps

00:43:00.279 --> 00:43:00.879
 of Jesus,

00:43:01.099 --> 00:43:01.399
 you know,

00:43:01.460 --> 00:43:02.639
 and learn a ton.

00:43:03.519 --> 00:43:04.399
 And my children,

00:43:04.500 --> 00:43:04.739
 I think,

00:43:04.799 --> 00:43:05.399
 are still okay.

00:43:07.639 --> 00:43:08.159
 And,

00:43:08.239 --> 00:43:09.199
 yes,

00:43:09.359 --> 00:43:11.079
 even God asks me

00:43:11.079 --> 00:43:11.799
 to yield

00:43:11.799 --> 00:43:12.980
 and serve my husband

00:43:12.980 --> 00:43:14.079
 in sex,

00:43:14.799 --> 00:43:15.699
 which he's very happy about.

00:43:16.199 --> 00:43:16.399
 Okay.

00:43:16.400 --> 00:43:18.240
 So,

00:43:18.559 --> 00:43:19.660
 whether it's seemingly

00:43:19.660 --> 00:43:20.880
 a small thing

00:43:20.880 --> 00:43:23.320
 or a large thing

00:43:23.320 --> 00:43:25.519
 that we are giving up

00:43:25.519 --> 00:43:26.000
 our,

00:43:26.440 --> 00:43:28.300
 yielding our own desires to,

00:43:29.240 --> 00:43:31.480
 I don't want,

00:43:31.680 --> 00:43:32.099
 I don't,

00:43:32.200 --> 00:43:33.400
 don't let anybody

00:43:33.400 --> 00:43:34.680
 convince you

00:43:34.680 --> 00:43:37.460
 that it is easy

00:43:37.460 --> 00:43:38.019
 to submit,

00:43:38.720 --> 00:43:39.019
 right,

00:43:39.119 --> 00:43:40.460
 or to serve another

00:43:40.460 --> 00:43:41.460
 before yourself

00:43:41.460 --> 00:43:42.539
 because it's or not,

00:43:42.619 --> 00:43:42.860
 right?

00:43:43.940 --> 00:43:45.320
 Because we all have

00:43:45.320 --> 00:43:46.700
 stubborn self-wills,

00:43:46.980 --> 00:43:47.260
 right?

00:43:49.019 --> 00:43:50.420
 But this is the beauty of it.

00:43:50.480 --> 00:43:50.900
 I think that's,

00:43:51.000 --> 00:43:52.200
 this is the beauty of it

00:43:52.200 --> 00:43:53.260
 is that only through

00:43:53.260 --> 00:43:54.180
 Jesus Christ

00:43:54.180 --> 00:43:55.720
 can we have the ability

00:43:55.720 --> 00:43:57.039
 to obey the Lord.

00:43:57.700 --> 00:43:58.820
 That he gives us that.

00:43:59.280 --> 00:44:00.000
 He gives us this,

00:44:00.240 --> 00:44:01.940
 he doesn't leave us alone

00:44:01.940 --> 00:44:03.059
 to do it on our own.

00:44:03.400 --> 00:44:04.360
 He gives us the Lord.

00:44:04.460 --> 00:44:05.500
 He gives us the fruits

00:44:05.500 --> 00:44:06.220
 of the Holy Spirit.

00:44:06.360 --> 00:44:07.820
 He gives us his spirit.

00:44:08.740 --> 00:44:10.500
 And even when we don't,

00:44:10.500 --> 00:44:11.620
 you know,

00:44:11.680 --> 00:44:12.580
 obey God,

00:44:12.800 --> 00:44:14.980
 he forgives us.

00:44:15.320 --> 00:44:15.660
 Right?

00:44:16.300 --> 00:44:17.800
 And he seems to always

00:44:17.800 --> 00:44:19.340
 have future opportunities

00:44:19.340 --> 00:44:20.120
 for me

00:44:20.120 --> 00:44:21.580
 to follow him

00:44:21.580 --> 00:44:22.240
 in this way.

00:44:24.480 --> 00:44:25.500
 I have a few,

00:44:25.580 --> 00:44:26.420
 just a few more things.

00:44:27.600 --> 00:44:28.360
 One thing.

00:44:29.980 --> 00:44:30.880
 For me,

00:44:31.120 --> 00:44:33.200
 I pray a lot.

00:44:33.440 --> 00:44:33.960
 I pray

00:44:33.960 --> 00:44:36.500
 for our relationship

00:44:36.500 --> 00:44:37.440
 and I pray

00:44:37.440 --> 00:44:38.679
 for Tobin

00:44:38.679 --> 00:44:40.360
 as he leads our family.

00:44:40.719 --> 00:44:41.159
 I pray,

00:44:41.820 --> 00:44:43.659
 I ask God

00:44:43.659 --> 00:44:44.960
 to help yield myself

00:44:44.960 --> 00:44:46.019
 to him,

00:44:46.199 --> 00:44:47.059
 to Christ,

00:44:47.280 --> 00:44:47.940
 and to trust,

00:44:48.440 --> 00:44:49.179
 that I can trust

00:44:49.179 --> 00:44:49.940
 and care for him.

00:44:50.420 --> 00:44:51.679
 I read these verses

00:44:51.679 --> 00:44:52.860
 a lot,

00:44:52.940 --> 00:44:53.260
 actually.

00:44:53.380 --> 00:44:54.860
 I did a whole study once

00:44:54.860 --> 00:44:55.719
 on the role of men

00:44:55.719 --> 00:44:56.079
 and women,

00:44:56.219 --> 00:44:57.079
 which was fascinating.

00:44:57.079 --> 00:45:00.480
 I remember that,

00:45:00.619 --> 00:45:01.199
 I try to remember

00:45:01.199 --> 00:45:01.920
 why I'm doing this.

00:45:01.980 --> 00:45:02.699
 I'm doing this

00:45:02.699 --> 00:45:04.239
 because it is

00:45:04.239 --> 00:45:06.139
 to win over my husband

00:45:06.139 --> 00:45:06.940
 to Christ

00:45:06.940 --> 00:45:08.699
 or closer to Christ.

00:45:09.360 --> 00:45:10.360
 And he says,

00:45:10.460 --> 00:45:11.019
 in these verses,

00:45:11.199 --> 00:45:11.679
 he says,

00:45:11.759 --> 00:45:12.940
 it actually makes me

00:45:12.940 --> 00:45:14.599
 beautiful in his eyes

00:45:14.599 --> 00:45:16.679
 when I follow God's ways.

00:45:17.219 --> 00:45:18.380
 And as a woman,

00:45:18.380 --> 00:45:19.380
 I do desire

00:45:19.920 --> 00:45:21.139
 to be beautiful

00:45:21.139 --> 00:45:22.500
 and to be precious

00:45:22.500 --> 00:45:23.239
 to God.

00:45:23.839 --> 00:45:24.679
 So that's some

00:45:24.679 --> 00:45:25.279
 of my motivation.

00:45:25.419 --> 00:45:26.500
 I hope it encourages you.

00:45:26.639 --> 00:45:27.439
 That's the only reason

00:45:27.439 --> 00:45:28.339
 I really got up here

00:45:28.339 --> 00:45:29.519
 was to hopefully

00:45:29.519 --> 00:45:30.619
 encourage other women

00:45:30.619 --> 00:45:33.219
 and love my husband.

00:45:33.759 --> 00:45:34.319
 Thank you, Hannah.

00:45:36.679 --> 00:45:37.399
 You're going to be

00:45:37.399 --> 00:45:37.679
 excited.

00:45:41.479 --> 00:45:42.519
 So the third question

00:45:42.519 --> 00:45:43.119
 I was going to ask

00:45:43.119 --> 00:45:43.819
 is when we first

00:45:43.819 --> 00:45:44.459
 saw each other,

00:45:44.459 --> 00:45:45.919
 you were checking me out.

00:45:46.719 --> 00:45:47.259
 I just want to know

00:45:47.259 --> 00:45:47.959
 what was it

00:45:47.959 --> 00:45:49.079
 that drew you to me,

00:45:49.199 --> 00:45:49.439
 right?

00:45:50.299 --> 00:45:50.659
 Teasing.

00:45:51.259 --> 00:45:51.839
 You know,

00:45:52.019 --> 00:45:52.539
 the passage

00:45:52.539 --> 00:45:53.320
 is talking

00:45:53.320 --> 00:45:54.579
 to all of us.

00:45:55.500 --> 00:45:56.440
 We talk about it

00:45:56.440 --> 00:45:57.219
 and it makes a big deal

00:45:57.219 --> 00:45:57.800
 within marriage,

00:45:57.900 --> 00:45:59.579
 but Peter's been saying

00:45:59.579 --> 00:46:00.619
 it's within all

00:46:00.619 --> 00:46:01.320
 our relationships.

00:46:02.139 --> 00:46:03.239
 It's for married people,

00:46:03.360 --> 00:46:04.000
 it's for wives,

00:46:04.099 --> 00:46:04.659
 it's for husbands,

00:46:05.039 --> 00:46:06.199
 it's for single people.

00:46:06.320 --> 00:46:07.079
 All the citizens

00:46:07.079 --> 00:46:07.840
 of God's kingdom

00:46:07.840 --> 00:46:08.400
 are called

00:46:08.400 --> 00:46:10.300
 to submit

00:46:10.300 --> 00:46:11.179
 and to

00:46:11.179 --> 00:46:14.099
 seek the other person's

00:46:14.099 --> 00:46:14.719
 glory

00:46:14.719 --> 00:46:15.940
 and betterness

00:46:15.940 --> 00:46:17.440
 than our own.

00:46:17.880 --> 00:46:18.300
 I don't know

00:46:18.300 --> 00:46:19.059
 how you feel.

00:46:19.380 --> 00:46:19.739
 I mean, again,

00:46:19.779 --> 00:46:20.320
 this is a grenade,

00:46:20.519 --> 00:46:21.159
 it's going off,

00:46:21.219 --> 00:46:21.579
 and we're thinking

00:46:21.579 --> 00:46:22.159
 about these things.

00:46:22.159 --> 00:46:23.000
 You're thinking in yourself,

00:46:23.359 --> 00:46:23.960
 okay, what does this mean

00:46:23.960 --> 00:46:24.619
 for me at work?

00:46:26.779 --> 00:46:27.440
 Maybe some of you

00:46:27.440 --> 00:46:27.739
 are thinking,

00:46:27.859 --> 00:46:28.639
 what does this really mean

00:46:28.639 --> 00:46:29.960
 for me in my dating relationship

00:46:29.960 --> 00:46:32.159
 or with the other singles

00:46:32.159 --> 00:46:32.739
 I hang out with?

00:46:32.759 --> 00:46:33.440
 What does that mean?

00:46:34.119 --> 00:46:34.719
 What does it mean

00:46:34.719 --> 00:46:35.440
 for me at school?

00:46:35.539 --> 00:46:36.039
 I'm a student,

00:46:36.199 --> 00:46:37.500
 and I'm submitting.

00:46:37.619 --> 00:46:38.000
 Am I submitting

00:46:38.000 --> 00:46:38.659
 just so my teachers

00:46:38.659 --> 00:46:39.719
 see me do things

00:46:39.719 --> 00:46:40.139
 and they think,

00:46:40.239 --> 00:46:41.039
 wow, he's a great student,

00:46:41.159 --> 00:46:42.440
 or is my heart behind it

00:46:42.440 --> 00:46:43.619
 and I'm really trying

00:46:43.619 --> 00:46:44.679
 to honor God

00:46:44.679 --> 00:46:46.199
 as God's child?

00:46:47.099 --> 00:46:48.039
 What does it mean

00:46:48.039 --> 00:46:49.099
 in church

00:46:49.099 --> 00:46:49.980
 when I'm doing things?

00:46:49.980 --> 00:46:50.639
 Am I doing things

00:46:50.639 --> 00:46:51.880
 because people are watching me

00:46:51.880 --> 00:46:52.579
 or is it because

00:46:52.579 --> 00:46:53.740
 I'm doing it

00:46:53.740 --> 00:46:54.960
 for the Lord

00:46:54.960 --> 00:46:57.360
 so that I'll be beautiful

00:46:57.360 --> 00:46:58.300
 in his sight?

00:46:59.900 --> 00:47:01.119
 There's a lot of things

00:47:01.119 --> 00:47:02.179
 we need to unpack here,

00:47:02.240 --> 00:47:03.199
 and hopefully as you go out

00:47:03.199 --> 00:47:04.199
 and we meet in community groups

00:47:04.199 --> 00:47:04.579
 this week,

00:47:04.740 --> 00:47:05.780
 we'll be talking about

00:47:05.780 --> 00:47:06.360
 some of these things

00:47:06.360 --> 00:47:07.340
 and thinking about these things,

00:47:07.699 --> 00:47:08.460
 but the last thing

00:47:08.460 --> 00:47:09.240
 the passage says

00:47:09.240 --> 00:47:09.619
 is this,

00:47:09.679 --> 00:47:11.019
 because these things,

00:47:11.320 --> 00:47:11.980
 if you go out

00:47:11.980 --> 00:47:12.780
 and you try to do it

00:47:12.780 --> 00:47:13.360
 on your own,

00:47:13.440 --> 00:47:14.000
 you're going to fail

00:47:14.000 --> 00:47:14.639
 every time.

00:47:14.639 --> 00:47:17.119
 And what he talks about

00:47:17.119 --> 00:47:20.239
 in 1 Peter 2

00:47:20.239 --> 00:47:23.119
 verses 21 through 25

00:47:23.119 --> 00:47:24.839
 is how this all

00:47:24.839 --> 00:47:26.119
 is possible in our life.

00:47:26.659 --> 00:47:27.920
 And what he says is this,

00:47:29.519 --> 00:47:30.199
 that you and I

00:47:30.199 --> 00:47:30.920
 on our own

00:47:30.920 --> 00:47:31.799
 are dead,

00:47:32.039 --> 00:47:33.039
 we can't do anything.

00:47:34.440 --> 00:47:35.559
 But Christ came

00:47:35.559 --> 00:47:36.400
 and he submitted

00:47:36.400 --> 00:47:38.039
 on a cross.

00:47:39.099 --> 00:47:40.219
 He submitted himself

00:47:40.219 --> 00:47:41.139
 to God's will,

00:47:41.779 --> 00:47:42.819
 he put us

00:47:42.819 --> 00:47:43.819
 above himself.

00:47:43.820 --> 00:47:45.059
 This is God, right?

00:47:45.160 --> 00:47:45.380
 This is,

00:47:45.440 --> 00:47:45.700
 if you think about

00:47:45.700 --> 00:47:46.480
 the hierarchy structure,

00:47:46.880 --> 00:47:47.680
 God puts himself

00:47:47.680 --> 00:47:48.580
 above us

00:47:48.580 --> 00:47:50.580
 and he dies for us

00:47:50.580 --> 00:47:51.700
 on the cross

00:47:51.700 --> 00:47:52.600
 so that we then

00:47:52.600 --> 00:47:53.800
 can come back

00:47:53.800 --> 00:47:55.400
 into this relationship

00:47:55.400 --> 00:47:57.019
 that we're broken

00:47:57.019 --> 00:47:58.200
 but now they're fixed.

00:47:59.780 --> 00:48:00.400
 And what he says

00:48:00.400 --> 00:48:01.019
 is the only way

00:48:01.019 --> 00:48:01.760
 that we can do this

00:48:01.760 --> 00:48:02.460
 as a church family,

00:48:02.539 --> 00:48:02.900
 the only way

00:48:02.900 --> 00:48:03.400
 we can even hope

00:48:03.400 --> 00:48:03.720
 to do this

00:48:03.720 --> 00:48:04.820
 as husbands and wives

00:48:04.820 --> 00:48:05.660
 and single people,

00:48:05.940 --> 00:48:06.480
 the only way

00:48:06.480 --> 00:48:07.420
 we can hope to do this

00:48:07.420 --> 00:48:08.680
 is by continually

00:48:08.680 --> 00:48:09.480
 coming to the Lord

00:48:09.480 --> 00:48:10.240
 that's inside of us

00:48:10.240 --> 00:48:10.960
 and praying to him

00:48:10.960 --> 00:48:11.780
 and reading his word

00:48:11.780 --> 00:48:13.220
 and submitting our lives

00:48:13.219 --> 00:48:13.799
 and confessing

00:48:13.799 --> 00:48:14.839
 we may do it wrong

00:48:14.839 --> 00:48:16.199
 because we're not up here

00:48:16.199 --> 00:48:17.139
 saying we do it right

00:48:17.139 --> 00:48:19.419
 even 50% of the time.

00:48:19.500 --> 00:48:21.119
 We struggle all the time.

00:48:22.039 --> 00:48:22.639
 But what we know

00:48:22.639 --> 00:48:23.839
 is that God's spirit

00:48:23.839 --> 00:48:24.459
 inside of us

00:48:24.459 --> 00:48:26.000
 is continually empowering us

00:48:26.000 --> 00:48:27.459
 and continually giving us

00:48:27.459 --> 00:48:28.919
 choices that we never had before.

00:48:29.659 --> 00:48:30.439
 And the choice now

00:48:30.439 --> 00:48:31.419
 is am I going to submit

00:48:31.419 --> 00:48:32.819
 and do what I know

00:48:32.819 --> 00:48:33.739
 is best for Christina

00:48:33.739 --> 00:48:35.259
 or am I going to stay selfish

00:48:35.259 --> 00:48:36.079
 and do what is best

00:48:36.079 --> 00:48:36.599
 for Tobin?

00:48:36.599 --> 00:48:38.739
 When I got married

00:48:38.739 --> 00:48:40.119
 I had a terrible time

00:48:40.119 --> 00:48:40.739
 with marriage

00:48:40.739 --> 00:48:42.319
 because I thought marriage

00:48:42.319 --> 00:48:43.059
 was just like the rest

00:48:43.059 --> 00:48:43.880
 of single guyhood.

00:48:44.819 --> 00:48:45.960
 We all have uniforms.

00:48:46.460 --> 00:48:47.420
 The goal is to make sure

00:48:47.420 --> 00:48:48.500
 your uniform wins

00:48:48.500 --> 00:48:50.360
 and the other uniforms lose.

00:48:51.619 --> 00:48:52.380
 But what I didn't realize

00:48:52.380 --> 00:48:52.839
 in marriage

00:48:52.839 --> 00:48:54.440
 is that your husband

00:48:54.440 --> 00:48:54.940
 and your wife

00:48:54.940 --> 00:48:55.940
 you have the same uniform.

00:48:57.360 --> 00:48:58.679
 And if your wife loses

00:48:58.679 --> 00:48:59.440
 you lose.

00:49:00.440 --> 00:49:01.159
 But what the passage

00:49:01.159 --> 00:49:01.719
 is saying here

00:49:01.719 --> 00:49:02.719
 is as God's children

00:49:02.719 --> 00:49:04.159
 that all of us

00:49:04.159 --> 00:49:06.480
 have the same uniform.

00:49:08.899 --> 00:49:10.199
 And if we try to win

00:49:10.199 --> 00:49:12.939
 then the body of Christ loses.

00:49:15.399 --> 00:49:16.899
 And the people around us lose.

00:49:18.500 --> 00:49:19.279
 And the only way

00:49:19.279 --> 00:49:20.000
 we're going to win

00:49:20.000 --> 00:49:21.959
 is by continually submitting

00:49:21.959 --> 00:49:22.599
 to Christ

00:49:22.599 --> 00:49:23.939
 and the power within us.

00:49:24.859 --> 00:49:25.759
 He says a very interesting

00:49:25.759 --> 00:49:26.219
 word there

00:49:26.219 --> 00:49:27.359
 and there's two phrases

00:49:27.359 --> 00:49:28.219
 I want you to think about

00:49:28.219 --> 00:49:28.719
 as you leave.

00:49:29.799 --> 00:49:30.899
 He says Christ gave us

00:49:30.899 --> 00:49:31.439
 a pattern.

00:49:31.440 --> 00:49:33.220
 It's a very interesting

00:49:33.220 --> 00:49:33.760
 Greek word.

00:49:33.840 --> 00:49:34.980
 It actually means a tracing.

00:49:35.960 --> 00:49:37.260
 What it means is this

00:49:37.260 --> 00:49:39.320
 that Christ traced his life

00:49:39.320 --> 00:49:40.300
 on his piece of paper.

00:49:41.700 --> 00:49:42.340
 And every day

00:49:42.340 --> 00:49:43.700
 you and I have a choice

00:49:43.700 --> 00:49:44.760
 to lay our life

00:49:44.760 --> 00:49:45.679
 piece of paper

00:49:45.679 --> 00:49:46.639
 on top of this paper

00:49:46.639 --> 00:49:49.000
 and start to trace our life

00:49:49.000 --> 00:49:50.240
 over what Christ did.

00:49:51.780 --> 00:49:53.220
 Christ left us a tracing.

00:49:54.780 --> 00:49:55.659
 Now some of us

00:49:55.659 --> 00:49:57.059
 aren't in the family yet

00:49:57.059 --> 00:49:59.000
 and we're tracing

00:49:59.000 --> 00:50:01.519
 dollar signs

00:50:01.519 --> 00:50:03.480
 or we're tracing

00:50:03.480 --> 00:50:04.179
 power

00:50:04.179 --> 00:50:06.440
 or we're chasing

00:50:06.440 --> 00:50:07.579
 Citibank

00:50:07.579 --> 00:50:09.139
 or whatever we think

00:50:09.139 --> 00:50:09.619
 is going to bring us

00:50:09.619 --> 00:50:10.500
 hope and satisfaction

00:50:10.500 --> 00:50:11.000
 and meaning.

00:50:12.280 --> 00:50:13.219
 But the passage says here

00:50:13.219 --> 00:50:14.340
 that Christ left us

00:50:14.340 --> 00:50:15.739
 this tracing,

00:50:16.460 --> 00:50:17.480
 this pattern

00:50:17.480 --> 00:50:19.599
 and now as his people

00:50:19.599 --> 00:50:20.480
 we have a choice

00:50:20.480 --> 00:50:21.300
 because his spirit

00:50:21.300 --> 00:50:21.980
 inside of us

00:50:21.980 --> 00:50:22.840
 gives us the power

00:50:22.840 --> 00:50:23.900
 to do that.

00:50:25.119 --> 00:50:26.079
 He says that Christ

00:50:26.079 --> 00:50:27.480
 walked these footsteps.

00:50:27.480 --> 00:50:29.440
 The imagery is very strong

00:50:29.440 --> 00:50:29.900
 in the language.

00:50:30.000 --> 00:50:30.500
 What it means is

00:50:30.500 --> 00:50:32.219
 this dad walked on this beach

00:50:32.219 --> 00:50:33.159
 and the little kid

00:50:33.159 --> 00:50:34.639
 is walking behind the dad

00:50:34.639 --> 00:50:35.619
 in the dad's footprints.

00:50:36.740 --> 00:50:37.780
 And what Peter is saying

00:50:37.780 --> 00:50:38.719
 is as we walk

00:50:38.719 --> 00:50:39.780
 with God together,

00:50:40.099 --> 00:50:40.920
 as the spirit

00:50:40.920 --> 00:50:42.260
 changes our lives,

00:50:42.400 --> 00:50:43.380
 we start to take

00:50:43.380 --> 00:50:44.059
 our footprints

00:50:44.059 --> 00:50:45.000
 and we start to take

00:50:45.000 --> 00:50:45.559
 our patterns

00:50:45.559 --> 00:50:46.559
 and we start to pattern

00:50:46.559 --> 00:50:47.380
 them after Christ.

00:50:47.460 --> 00:50:48.119
 We start walking

00:50:48.119 --> 00:50:49.500
 in his footsteps.

00:50:50.940 --> 00:50:51.719
 But every day

00:50:51.719 --> 00:50:52.480
 is a choice.

00:50:54.159 --> 00:50:55.039
 You and I

00:50:55.039 --> 00:50:55.740
 have a choice.

00:50:55.739 --> 00:50:57.679
 Are we going

00:50:57.679 --> 00:50:58.239
 to submit

00:50:58.239 --> 00:51:00.859
 and follow the God,

00:51:01.199 --> 00:51:01.639
 the creator

00:51:01.639 --> 00:51:02.279
 of our soul?

00:51:03.479 --> 00:51:04.239
 Or are we going

00:51:04.239 --> 00:51:06.059
 to trace our lives

00:51:06.059 --> 00:51:07.979
 after something else?

00:51:09.519 --> 00:51:10.659
 It's interesting to me,

00:51:10.819 --> 00:51:12.459
 Peter wrote this passage

00:51:12.459 --> 00:51:13.739
 to people who were

00:51:13.739 --> 00:51:15.379
 very, very mature Christians.

00:51:16.439 --> 00:51:17.259
 They've been walking

00:51:17.259 --> 00:51:18.939
 with God 20 and 30 years

00:51:18.939 --> 00:51:21.299
 and he still comes back

00:51:21.299 --> 00:51:22.119
 to the same thing

00:51:22.119 --> 00:51:22.779
 every time.

00:51:22.780 --> 00:51:24.360
 he comes back

00:51:24.360 --> 00:51:25.080
 to the cross.

00:51:26.260 --> 00:51:27.000
 He comes back

00:51:27.000 --> 00:51:28.240
 to Jesus' sacrifice

00:51:28.240 --> 00:51:28.920
 for life.

00:51:30.200 --> 00:51:30.920
 And what I understand

00:51:30.920 --> 00:51:31.560
 as a pastor

00:51:31.560 --> 00:51:32.320
 is that that's what

00:51:32.320 --> 00:51:33.400
 all of our life

00:51:33.400 --> 00:51:33.960
 is about.

00:51:34.960 --> 00:51:36.080
 Understanding the cross,

00:51:37.120 --> 00:51:37.880
 how it impacts

00:51:37.880 --> 00:51:38.480
 our work,

00:51:39.340 --> 00:51:40.019
 how we interact

00:51:40.019 --> 00:51:40.580
 with our government,

00:51:41.300 --> 00:51:41.840
 how we interact

00:51:41.840 --> 00:51:42.500
 with our family,

00:51:43.040 --> 00:51:43.500
 how we interact

00:51:43.500 --> 00:51:44.300
 with our colleagues,

00:51:44.460 --> 00:51:44.940
 how we interact

00:51:44.940 --> 00:51:45.660
 with other singles,

00:51:46.519 --> 00:51:47.519
 understanding grace

00:51:47.519 --> 00:51:48.700
 and the power

00:51:48.700 --> 00:51:50.000
 of God's spirit

00:51:50.000 --> 00:51:50.640
 within us.

00:51:50.639 --> 00:51:52.619
 we can give you

00:51:52.619 --> 00:51:53.879
 50 things to do

00:51:53.879 --> 00:51:54.739
 when you leave here

00:51:54.739 --> 00:51:56.759
 but all that's going

00:51:56.759 --> 00:51:57.199
 to do is make

00:51:57.199 --> 00:51:58.099
 your performance better.

00:52:00.059 --> 00:52:00.659
 It's going to be

00:52:00.659 --> 00:52:01.319
 those laws,

00:52:01.519 --> 00:52:02.199
 Tobin's laws,

00:52:02.319 --> 00:52:02.719
 prolific.

00:52:04.400 --> 00:52:05.319
 But what we're talking

00:52:05.319 --> 00:52:06.199
 about is our heart.

00:52:08.739 --> 00:52:09.639
 And the choice is

00:52:09.639 --> 00:52:10.460
 are we going to let God

00:52:10.460 --> 00:52:11.900
 change our heart

00:52:11.900 --> 00:52:14.339
 or are we going

00:52:14.339 --> 00:52:14.940
 to keep the heart

00:52:14.940 --> 00:52:15.940
 the same way it is?

00:52:17.599 --> 00:52:18.559
 It's step by step.

00:52:18.559 --> 00:52:21.360
 I fail, fail, fail, fail.

00:52:21.480 --> 00:52:22.739
 Okay, God does something.

00:52:22.860 --> 00:52:23.579
 Fail, fail, fail.

00:52:23.659 --> 00:52:24.559
 Okay, God does something.

00:52:25.219 --> 00:52:25.900
 But when I realize

00:52:25.900 --> 00:52:26.880
 that God is taking

00:52:26.880 --> 00:52:27.920
 us on a journey

00:52:27.920 --> 00:52:30.299
 and the question is

00:52:30.299 --> 00:52:31.299
 do we want to go with him?

00:52:33.539 --> 00:52:34.500
 Does that make sense?

00:52:36.299 --> 00:52:37.039
 Always comes back

00:52:37.039 --> 00:52:37.619
 to the cross.

00:52:38.759 --> 00:52:39.500
 Always comes back

00:52:39.500 --> 00:52:40.199
 to what Jesus did.

00:52:41.019 --> 00:52:41.679
 Always comes back

00:52:41.679 --> 00:52:42.299
 to a choice.

00:52:43.539 --> 00:52:44.519
 Are we going to use

00:52:44.519 --> 00:52:45.119
 that power,

00:52:45.259 --> 00:52:45.880
 allow that power

00:52:45.880 --> 00:52:46.719
 to change us?

00:52:46.719 --> 00:52:48.579
 Or are we going

00:52:48.579 --> 00:52:48.980
 to follow

00:52:48.980 --> 00:52:49.739
 in somebody else's

00:52:49.739 --> 00:52:50.159
 footsteps?

00:52:52.059 --> 00:52:52.879
 Father, we thank you

00:52:52.879 --> 00:52:53.379
 for this day.

00:52:53.480 --> 00:52:53.859
 We thank you

00:52:53.859 --> 00:52:55.179
 for your word

00:52:55.179 --> 00:52:55.819
 that is living

00:52:55.819 --> 00:52:56.379
 and active.

00:52:57.619 --> 00:52:58.980
 This is true today

00:52:58.980 --> 00:52:59.500
 as it was

00:52:59.500 --> 00:53:00.639
 2,000 years ago

00:53:00.639 --> 00:53:01.759
 as Peter shared it

00:53:01.759 --> 00:53:03.559
 to all these churches

00:53:03.559 --> 00:53:04.159
 that were about

00:53:04.159 --> 00:53:04.679
 to struggle

00:53:04.679 --> 00:53:05.500
 with persecution

00:53:05.500 --> 00:53:07.219
 and death

00:53:07.219 --> 00:53:08.899
 and difficulties

00:53:08.899 --> 00:53:10.199
 as your people.

00:53:12.239 --> 00:53:12.899
 Father, I pray

00:53:12.899 --> 00:53:13.659
 for us in here.

00:53:14.899 --> 00:53:15.459
 I know that there

00:53:15.459 --> 00:53:16.019
 are many of us

00:53:16.019 --> 00:53:16.719
 in here right now

00:53:16.719 --> 00:53:17.539
 that we are

00:53:17.539 --> 00:53:18.639
 copying,

00:53:19.880 --> 00:53:20.239
 drawing,

00:53:20.659 --> 00:53:21.039
 tracing

00:53:21.039 --> 00:53:23.159
 something else

00:53:23.159 --> 00:53:23.800
 besides you.

00:53:24.759 --> 00:53:25.619
 We have our hope

00:53:25.619 --> 00:53:26.239
 in the job.

00:53:26.360 --> 00:53:26.820
 We have our hope

00:53:26.820 --> 00:53:27.440
 in Hong Kong.

00:53:28.059 --> 00:53:28.900
 We have our hope

00:53:28.900 --> 00:53:29.599
 in our body.

00:53:29.880 --> 00:53:30.500
 We have our hope

00:53:30.500 --> 00:53:31.320
 in our ability

00:53:31.320 --> 00:53:31.860
 to think

00:53:31.860 --> 00:53:32.579
 and be clear

00:53:32.579 --> 00:53:33.259
 and outthink

00:53:33.259 --> 00:53:33.980
 and outtalk

00:53:33.980 --> 00:53:34.599
 other people.

00:53:35.139 --> 00:53:36.000
 We have our hope

00:53:36.000 --> 00:53:37.019
 in all these things

00:53:37.019 --> 00:53:37.679
 and we're tracing

00:53:37.679 --> 00:53:38.440
 this life.

00:53:39.480 --> 00:53:40.500
 But if we were honest

00:53:40.500 --> 00:53:42.420
 and looked

00:53:42.420 --> 00:53:43.599
 at the end picture,

00:53:45.119 --> 00:53:46.219
 we'd realize

00:53:46.219 --> 00:53:46.980
 that there's very,

00:53:47.179 --> 00:53:48.400
 very little hope

00:53:48.400 --> 00:53:48.679
 there.

00:53:50.280 --> 00:53:50.940
 So I pray

00:53:50.940 --> 00:53:51.559
 for those of us

00:53:51.559 --> 00:53:51.820
 in here

00:53:51.820 --> 00:53:52.440
 who are tracing

00:53:52.440 --> 00:53:53.239
 something different

00:53:53.239 --> 00:53:53.940
 and haven't yet

00:53:53.940 --> 00:53:54.800
 entered into the family.

00:53:55.780 --> 00:53:56.500
 I pray that they

00:53:56.500 --> 00:53:57.400
 would ask questions.

00:53:57.519 --> 00:53:58.440
 They would seek

00:53:58.440 --> 00:53:59.420
 the people that brought them.

00:53:59.480 --> 00:54:00.059
 I pray they would come

00:54:00.059 --> 00:54:00.800
 talk to Christina

00:54:00.800 --> 00:54:01.300
 and myself

00:54:01.300 --> 00:54:02.900
 and we would talk

00:54:02.900 --> 00:54:03.940
 about these things

00:54:03.940 --> 00:54:05.539
 and look at your son

00:54:05.539 --> 00:54:06.639
 and look at the claims

00:54:06.639 --> 00:54:07.519
 of your word.

00:54:09.500 --> 00:54:09.699
 And Lord,

00:54:09.739 --> 00:54:10.360
 for the rest of us

00:54:10.360 --> 00:54:10.940
 in here who've been

00:54:10.940 --> 00:54:11.599
 on this journey

00:54:11.599 --> 00:54:12.480
 and we've been walking

00:54:12.480 --> 00:54:13.199
 in these footprints

00:54:13.199 --> 00:54:14.119
 but then all of a sudden

00:54:14.119 --> 00:54:14.719
 we realize

00:54:14.719 --> 00:54:15.420
 that we've lost

00:54:15.420 --> 00:54:15.960
 the footprints

00:54:15.960 --> 00:54:18.599
 and we look behind us

00:54:18.599 --> 00:54:20.279
 and we look in front of us

00:54:20.279 --> 00:54:21.199
 and there's no feet

00:54:21.199 --> 00:54:23.639
 and we're just going

00:54:23.639 --> 00:54:24.360
 down this trail

00:54:24.360 --> 00:54:24.980
 on our own

00:54:24.980 --> 00:54:25.920
 and in our own power

00:54:25.920 --> 00:54:26.779
 and our own strength

00:54:26.779 --> 00:54:29.980
 and we're lost.

00:54:34.559 --> 00:54:34.940
 Father,

00:54:34.940 --> 00:54:35.800
 we just come before you

00:54:35.800 --> 00:54:36.760
 and we just confess

00:54:36.760 --> 00:54:38.019
 that our selfishness

00:54:38.019 --> 00:54:38.740
 and our pride

00:54:38.740 --> 00:54:39.700
 and our arrogance

00:54:39.700 --> 00:54:41.900
 and our self-sufficiency

00:54:41.900 --> 00:54:42.860
 is your people.

00:54:44.220 --> 00:54:45.280
 We're so thankful

00:54:45.280 --> 00:54:46.099
 that you're always

00:54:46.099 --> 00:54:46.940
 watching us.

00:54:47.039 --> 00:54:47.700
 We're so thankful

00:54:47.700 --> 00:54:48.400
 that you give us

00:54:48.400 --> 00:54:49.200
 other opportunities

00:54:49.200 --> 00:54:49.940
 to obey

00:54:49.940 --> 00:54:50.820
 and to trust you.

00:54:51.340 --> 00:54:52.260
 We're so thankful

00:54:52.260 --> 00:54:52.940
 that you're the God

00:54:52.940 --> 00:54:53.780
 of second chances

00:54:53.780 --> 00:54:54.559
 and that you never,

00:54:54.760 --> 00:54:55.880
 you never,

00:54:56.099 --> 00:54:57.720
 you never give up on us

00:54:57.720 --> 00:54:58.420
 as we sing

00:54:58.420 --> 00:55:00.000
 but I don't know

00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:01.240
 if we really believe that.

00:55:03.300 --> 00:55:03.740
 Lord,

00:55:03.780 --> 00:55:04.920
 we pray for this church

00:55:04.920 --> 00:55:06.440
 and we pray

00:55:06.440 --> 00:55:07.059
 for the people

00:55:07.059 --> 00:55:07.680
 who serve

00:55:07.680 --> 00:55:09.059
 and for the people

00:55:09.059 --> 00:55:09.700
 who speak

00:55:09.700 --> 00:55:11.420
 and pray that our lives

00:55:11.420 --> 00:55:11.800
 are different

00:55:11.800 --> 00:55:12.860
 than the people around us.

00:55:12.920 --> 00:55:14.380
 We pray for the offering

00:55:14.380 --> 00:55:15.059
 that's being taken

00:55:15.059 --> 00:55:16.500
 that it would honor you

00:55:16.500 --> 00:55:17.519
 and allow us to do

00:55:17.519 --> 00:55:18.300
 the ministries

00:55:18.300 --> 00:55:19.420
 that you've called us to do

00:55:19.420 --> 00:55:20.820
 and we pray

00:55:20.820 --> 00:55:22.599
 just that we would be

00:55:22.599 --> 00:55:23.260
 your hands

00:55:23.260 --> 00:55:24.079
 and your feet

00:55:24.079 --> 00:55:26.579
 in this amazing city

00:55:26.579 --> 00:55:27.480
 called Hong Kong.

00:55:28.740 --> 00:55:29.220
 Father,

00:55:29.300 --> 00:55:29.559
 thank you

00:55:29.559 --> 00:55:30.420
 that we do it together

00:55:30.420 --> 00:55:32.340
 and I pray

00:55:32.340 --> 00:55:33.320
 that there's any words

00:55:33.320 --> 00:55:34.260
 that we spoke today

00:55:34.260 --> 00:55:35.099
 that were not of you

00:55:35.099 --> 00:55:35.860
 that we would quickly

00:55:35.860 --> 00:55:36.720
 forget those things

00:55:36.720 --> 00:55:37.519
 but your word,

00:55:37.680 --> 00:55:38.700
 that precious nugget

00:55:38.700 --> 00:55:40.659
 of your son

00:55:40.659 --> 00:55:41.900
 and his life,

00:55:42.659 --> 00:55:43.360
 help us to think

00:55:43.360 --> 00:55:43.980
 about that.

00:55:45.079 --> 00:55:46.280
 Help us to live that out

00:55:46.280 --> 00:55:46.860
 in every area

00:55:46.860 --> 00:55:47.280
 of our life.

00:55:47.360 --> 00:55:47.720
 I know there are

00:55:47.720 --> 00:55:48.360
 students here,

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 there's teachers here,

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 there's doctors here,

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 there's lawyers here,

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 there's bankers,

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 there's housewives,

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 there's husband wives,

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 our husbands

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 and all those people

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 where we have to

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 just every day

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 think about

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 what does it mean for me?

00:56:02.380 --> 00:56:03.400
 What does it mean for me?

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 What does it mean for me

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 to trace my life

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 after Christ?

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 What does it mean for me

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 to walk in his footsteps?

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 I know that we need

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 this message even more

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 when difficult times come

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 and your word says they will.

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 If we're different,

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 difficult times will come

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 but we have a shepherd

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 who watches after our soul

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 and who takes care of us.

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 And so we come to you today,

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 our shepherd.

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 We love you.

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 We need you.

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 We pray these things

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 in Jesus' holy name.

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 Amen.