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 I'm going to preach on the topic of forsaking family to follow Jesus.

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! Forsaking family to follow Jesus.

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 There's a lot of hard sayings Jesus has. This is one of them.

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! Most of my text, the majority of my text is going to come from Luke 14.

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 So I'm going to read this passage and riff on it for a little bit.

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 And then I have some supplementals to follow.

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 But the bulk of my passage is Luke 14.

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 So I'm going to turn there. I'm just going to read it.

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 So Luke 14. If you have a Bible, I encourage you to go ahead and open it.

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 We'll read through this here.

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 It's a little bit of a longer section, so I don't want to lose people by just reading it out loud.

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 Luke chapter 14, starting in verse 12.

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 This is Jesus. He's at a dinner.

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 Okay.

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 He, meaning Jesus, he said also to the man who had invited him,

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 When you give a dinner or a banquet, do not invite your friends, or your brothers, or your relatives, or rich neighbors,

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 lest they also invite you in return and you be repaid.

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 But when you give a feast, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, and you will be blessed,

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 because they cannot repay you.

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 For you will be repaid at the resurrection of the just.

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 When one of those who were applying to table with him heard these things, he said to him,

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 Blessed is everyone who will eat bread in the kingdom of God.

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 But he said to him,

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 But he said to him,

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 A man once gave a great banquet and invited many.

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 And at the time for the banquet, he sent his servant to say to those who had been invited,

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 Come, for everything is now ready.

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 But they all alike began to make excuses.

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 The first said to him,

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 I have bought a field, and I must go out and see it.

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 Please have me excused.

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 And another said,

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 I have bought five yoke of oxen, and I go to examine them.

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 Please have me excused.

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 And another said,

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 I have married a wife, and therefore I cannot come.

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 So the servant came and reported these things to his master.

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 Then the master of the house became angry and said to his servant,

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 Go out quickly to the streets and lanes of the city, and bring in the poor and the crippled and blind and lame.

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 And the servant said,

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 Sir, what you have commanded has been done, and still there is room.

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 And the master said to the servant,

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 Go out into the highways and hedges, and compel people to come in, that my house may be filled.

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 For I tell you, none of those men who were invited shall taste my banquet.

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 I'm going to pause there.

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 I'm going to continue this here.

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 But I think this sets great context.

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 There's a verse I want to focus on.

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 It's going to come in this next section.

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 But I think everything we just read sets a really helpful context for what Jesus is about to say.

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 And the context is, he gives a call to mission.

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 So you guys, when you're hospitable, when you're giving a feast,

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 don't focus on people who are going to repay you, essentially.

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 People you're comfortable with.

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 You know?

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 You pat each other's backs, relationally speaking.

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 Okay?

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 It's a give and tip.

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 Use it for people who have nothing to give you.

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 It's a call to mission.

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 It's essentially, use what you've been given,

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 not to benefit yourself with these familiar, comfortable relationships that, basically, they feed you.

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 Instead, use it to further the gospel.

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 It's my interpretation of what he's saying here.

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 Okay.

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 And then someone says, you know, yeah, blessed be, you know, anyone who eats in the kingdom of God.

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 And he gives this wonderful example, a parable of this great banquet.

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 And he reiterates the same thing.

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 But this time you see the introduction of excuses.

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 The first people he invites, they all by one consent begin to make excuses.

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 Verse 18 and 20.

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 And you see that the excuses are good things.

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 They're not bad things.

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 They're not, I got to go gamble at the casino.

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 You know?

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 I got to go fornicate.

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 You know?

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 Sorry, please excuse me from the kingdom of God.

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 I got to go live in licentiousness.

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 No, no.

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 It's just like, hey, I got a job.

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 You know, I'm too busy, man.

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 Or I have a wife.

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 These are good things.

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 These are God things.

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 These are things that God commands us.

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 First of all, he gives these things.

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 They're good.

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 They're not sinful.

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 And then he commands us to be faithful with them.

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 Okay?

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 But these are the things that are given as an excuse for not answering the call to this banquet.

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 Which is a picture of eternal life in Christ.

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 And also the fellowship of his mission.

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 You know?

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 So, that's the context.

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 I'm going to continue on here.

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 Verse 25.

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 Now great crowds accompanied him.

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 And he turned and said to them,

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 If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters,

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 Yes, and even his own life,

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 Yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.

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 Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.

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 For which of you desiring to build a tower does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it.

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 Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it will begin to mock him, saying,

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 This man began to build and was not able to finish.

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 Or what king going out to encounter another king in war will not sit down first and deliberate whether he is able to 10,000 to meet him who comes against him with 20,000?

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 And if not, while the others get a great way off, he sends a delegation and asks for terms of peace.

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 So, therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.

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 So, the main text that I'm going to focus on is verse 26.

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 If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters,

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 Yes, even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.

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 But I think the rest of that passage is important, too, because you see this imagery of basically setting out to do a big thing,

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 and you can't finish this thing because you didn't count the cost at the front end.

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 You didn't meet the prerequisites.

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 You kicked that decision down the road, okay?

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 Ah, that's kind of hard.

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 I'm going to kick that one down the road, okay?

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 I'm going to try to follow Jesus, and I'll work out, you know, this whole really kind of weird thing he says about hating your family

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 and not being able to follow Jesus unless you hate your family and your own life.

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 That's, I don't know, that's kind of hard.

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 I'll kick that down the road.

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 I'll believe in Jesus.

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 I'll go on serving the kingdom, preaching the gospel, be part of the church,

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 and I don't know.

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 Eventually, I'll understand.

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 I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

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 Guess what?

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 You won't finish.

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 That's the point of the passage.

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 If you don't count the cost on the front end, you're not finishing, man.

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 It's impossible, okay?

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 There's something weighty about what he's saying here that you can't get around, okay?

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 Every Christian's got to deal with this.

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 So, anyway, that's going to be the purpose of my sermon is to deal with this

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 and to think through this and try to understand what is it Jesus is talking about

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 and how does it apply to our life, okay?

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 So, what's going on in verse 26?

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 This just seems so contradictory to so much in the New Testament about loving our families,

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 divine order, priorities.

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 Like, what is, like, we're supposed to love everybody, right?

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 Why does Jesus say you got to hate these people who are the closest to you?

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 I'm going to read a couple passages that I think kind of shed light on this.

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 First is Psalm 17, verse 13 through 15.

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 This is David speaking of men of this world.

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 Arise, O Lord, confront him, subdue him.

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 Deliver my soul from the wicked by your sword, from men by your hand, O Lord,

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 from men of the world whose portion is in this life.

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 You fill their womb with treasure.

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 They are satisfied with children, and they leave their abundance to their infants.

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 Okay, so I'm going to pause there.

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 That's speaking of men of this world, the wicked.

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 It doesn't say anything about gross sin.

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 What he's speaking of is what they value, okay?

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 What are their basic values?

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 What are the basic values of people in this world who are wicked, who are alienated from the life of God,

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 whose inheritance is not in the next life, but whose inheritance is in this life?

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 Children.

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 They leave their abundance for their infants.

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 They have good inheritances for their kids.

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 They think about their kids.

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 They think about their grandkids.

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 This is where their value system, this is where their heart is.

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 She's like, okay, those are good things, right?

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 Okay, well, what's David, the righteous man?

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 Like, where's his value system at?

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 He shares it.

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 He goes on to say,

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 David has a different thing on his heart.

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 Him.

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 The Lord.

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 So, in other words,

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 men of this world say family is number one.

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 Okay?

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 It's number one.

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 Family is everything.

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 A Christian says God's number one.

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 A believer has made an exchange of affections that rule the seat of their heart.

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 They have a totally different worldview that has been renewed by the Holy Spirit,

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 where Jesus has preeminence.

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 And it doesn't eliminate family.

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 It doesn't eliminate value from family or any of those things.

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 But it transforms it to be Christ-centered.

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 So, anyway, I think that's a good verse.

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 Romans 1.25 says,

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 They exchanged the truth of God for a lie,

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 and they worshiped and served the creature rather than the creator,

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 who is blessed forever.

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 It's a form of idolatry to love God's creation

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 and to worship God's creation above and beyond him.

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 This is an evidence of our idolatrous nature,

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 is that we creature worship.

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 Okay?

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 And we extra creature worship with the things that are more and more valuable to us.

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 And family is a big one.

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 It's baked in.

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 It's in our hard code.

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 This is like foundational value system is me and my own.

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 Okay?

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 And it's good.

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 That's why it's so hard to argue with.

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 Okay?

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 Christians are known for being family-centric

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 and for holding family in high esteem.

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 But that's kind of a catch-22,

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 because then you can have this idolatry just live on

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 and permeate and never go addressed.

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 And so Jesus just hits this head on.

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 This is, I believe this is what he's getting at, basically.

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 He's getting at this prioritization of family in our hearts

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 over and above the preeminence of Christ.

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 So, Romans goes on to say in that same chapter

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 that these people, these same people who worshipped

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 and served the creature rather than the creator,

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 says that though they know God's righteous decree

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 that those who practice such things deserve to die,

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 they not only do them, but give approval to those who practice them.

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 So, I believe this is what Jesus is hammering.

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 He doesn't give any qualifications to it.

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 He just says you have to need your family.

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 And you're kind of left with this shock of like,

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 how do I interpret that?

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 You know?

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 But it's shocking for a reason.

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 And I think I've read a lot of different interpretations

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 of this passage.

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 And I don't, we got to be careful with it.

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 There's a way of handling, like even how we define hate.

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 A lot of people who handle this passage

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 will just try to redefine hate, you know?

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 It's like, well, it's relative love, you know?

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 It's loving Jesus way more than you love your family,

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 but you still got to love your family.

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 And I get what they're saying,

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 but there's something about letting Jesus' word

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 just hit like he says it.

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 And it cuts and it exposes what's going on in our heart.

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 And I guess I do have some thoughts

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 on how this is exegeted a little bit,

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 but I think it's important for us

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 to realize that Jesus didn't qualify what he said.

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 He just said, he said, hey,

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 if you love your family more than me,

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 you are not worthy of being my disciple.

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 If you come after me and you don't hate your family,

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 you're not worthy of being my disciple.

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 And I think just for sake of, you know,

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 capturing the spirit of it,

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 friends and family, okay?

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 Those who are near and dear to us,

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 the relationships in our life that are right here, okay?

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 They're the ones I can't live without.

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 You got to realize that the Lord's going to go right for it, okay?

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 And to follow Jesus, you got to let it go.

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 You got to let it go.

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 That's what he's pointing to.

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 Okay, I am way behind here.

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 Okay.

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 So what's the solution?

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 The fact of the matter is we're all in this.

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 This is basic idolatry.

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 This is, we're born into this idolatry.

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 Not a single person in this room is excluded from this.

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 This is not something that's just like, oh, yeah, you know,

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 you know, Michael just really deals with the family idolatry part

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 and Judah doesn't, you know?

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 No.

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 This is just like, he's speaking to all of the people in the world

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 because Adam, our natural father that we all came from,

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 he has this value system.

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 Remember, who did he choose over God?

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 Eve.

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 So we got it honest, all right?

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 Everybody's in the same boat.

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 How do we get out of this boat?

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 Do we just try to pray this away, you know?

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 Do we try to fast and pray the idolatry out of our heart?

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 I mean, it's good to fast and pray and seek the Lord for freedom in these things.

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 There's a much more foundational solution that the Lord has.

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 And it is the gospel.

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 There's the aspect of the gospel that deals with this.

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 I'm going to share a few verses on this.

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 2 Corinthians 5, verse 14 through 17.

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 For the love of Christ controls us because we've concluded this,

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 that one has died for all, therefore all have died.

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 And he died for all that those who live might no longer live for themselves,

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 but for him who for their sake died and was raised.

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 So when Jesus died, we died.

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 Okay?

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 So this old idolatrous person that we got from our dad,

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 that we got organically, that we didn't ask for,

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 but we just came into the world being that person

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 who just idolizes family above and beyond the Lord and everything,

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 he died.

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 When Jesus died, that person died.

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 And if you're in Christ, this is true for you.

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 So you already got it, basically, is my point.

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 You have a solution already.

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 Your old man was crucified with him, is what it says in Romans 6.

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 He was crucified.

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 He's dead.

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 Therefore, when we go on,

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 from now on, therefore,

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 continuing in that 2 Corinthians 5 passage,

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 in light of this truth,

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 we regard no one according to the flesh.

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 Even though we once regarded Christ according to the flesh,

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 we regard him thus no longer.

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 Therefore, if anyone's in Christ,

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 he is a new creation.

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 The old has passed away,

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 the new has come.

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 Jesus set us free from this.

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 Okay?

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 He took away the old man

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 who is completely enslaved to this worldview,

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 and he made a new creation.

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 And that new creation is part of a new family.

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 It says in Colossians 1, 17 through 18,

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 he, meaning Jesus, is before all things,

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 and in him all things fold together.

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 And he's the head of the body of the church.

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 He is the beginning,

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 the firstborn from the dead,

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 that in everything he might be preeminent.

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 Another way of saying preeminent is first place.

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 Some translations render it that,

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 that he might have first place in everything.

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 So, the Lord dealt with this problem 2,000 years ago on the cross.

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 Okay?

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 That is the solution to our present problem,

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 is to recognize and believe this to be true.

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 That when Jesus died,

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 I died and I was crucified

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 to my earthly relationships

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 as they are sinful and warped

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 and messed up by the fall.

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 in such a way that the power of it

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 to rule my heart and my mind

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 and my affections

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 has been totally crucified

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 on the cross of Jesus.

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 And when Jesus rose from the dead,

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 he rose me

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 and all of you who are in Christ

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 up with him

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 and he's first.

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 He has first place.

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 He just is.

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 Okay?

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 So, he already has first place,

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 I guess is the point.

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 Okay?

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 We don't have to make Jesus have first place.

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 He has first place

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 and he fought us

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 and we have no rights

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 to let anything else

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 have first place in our life.

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 He's king.

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 He has total dominion.

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 The surrender

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 is an unconditional surrender.

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 He died for all

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 so that all who live

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 would no longer live for themselves

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 but for him.

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 So, he purchased us.

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 That's the point.

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 He purchased us

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 and now we're his.

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 Okay?

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 So, nothing else in our life

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 gets to have second place

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 with Jesus.

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 Especially, it doesn't get

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 to have first place

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 but it doesn't even get

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 to have second place.

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 It's destroyed.

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 It's last place.

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 It's hatred.

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 Okay?

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 It's hatred.

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 It's anything.

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 It's in the context

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 of anything that competes

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 with the Lord Jesus Christ

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 on the seat

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 of my affections.

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 I violently

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 put it to death

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 knowing

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 that Jesus

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 already did.

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 It took Jesus dying

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 to set me free

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 from that.

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 If I didn't do

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 anything else

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 in the world

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 and I just treasured

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 my family

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 above the Lord Jesus Christ,

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 Jesus Christ

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 would have had to suffer

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 in the agony of hell

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 on the cross

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 for my sin

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 because it's such

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 a wicked thing to do.

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 It's wicked.

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 It's so wicked.

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 And it doesn't seem

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 so bad, right?

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 Because family's good.

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 It's bad.

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 If we saw Jesus,

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 you know,

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 I'm confident

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 that so many things

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 that we just don't think

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 are that big a deal,

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 when we see Jesus,

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 we're going to immediately see

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 just our mouth

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 is going to be stopped.

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 We're going to be so thankful

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 that he paid for our sins.

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 But sins like these,

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 I think,

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 are going to magnify

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 and we're going to be able

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 to see and understand

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 how jacked up this was.

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 We'll look back

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 through time

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 and see Adam

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 choosing his wife

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 over God,

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 eating that fruit.

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 And we'll see,

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 oh no, Lord,

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 it's really wicked.

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 Nothing comes close

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 to Jesus.

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 It's not even a shadow.

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 Anything that even comes

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 close to Jesus

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 in my heart,

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 it's a wicked sin.

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 Lord, help me hate that,

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 run from that.

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 Give me grace

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 to escape this,

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 you know,

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 reset my values

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 in my heart

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 before you.

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 Okay, so basically,

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 that's it.

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 The solution is the gospel.

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 Okay?

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 When Jesus died,

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 he did everything.

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 There are so many aspects

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 of the Christian life

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 that tie directly back

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 to what Jesus did

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 on the cross.

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 He paid for our sins.

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 That's awesome.

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 The blood of Jesus

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 cleanses from all sin.

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 But he did a lot more

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 than that too.

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 He destroyed the power

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 of sin

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 to rule our life

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 on the cross.

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 He put the whole thing

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 to death.

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 That man of sin

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 was buried.

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 And when he rose

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 from the dead,

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 a new creation

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 rose from the dead.

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 We're seated

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 in the heavenly places

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 with Jesus.

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 And in the heavenly places

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 in Christ Jesus,

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 none of us has an idolatry

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 problem with family.

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 Okay?

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 And then the Holy Spirit

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 is ministering

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 that finished work

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 progressively in our life

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 as we follow Jesus.

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 May your kingdom come

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 and will be done

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 on earth

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 as it is in heaven.

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 And in this area,

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 the fruit of sanctification

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 looks like

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 Jesus increasingly

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 having preeminence.

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 And our natural way

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 of relating to family

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 getting renewed.

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 Okay?

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 So,

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 I want to talk through

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 a little bit

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 of the fruit of that.

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 Yeah.

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 Okay.

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 What results

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 can we expect

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 if we believe this truth?

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 If we apprehend this,

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 the Holy Spirit's

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 making this truth

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 a reality in our life,

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 what fruits,

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 what tangible evidence

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 should we expect

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 to see in our life?

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 I'm just going to walk

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 through some examples.

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 I didn't make any of these up.

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 These are just examples

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 pulled from the Bible.

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 Number one,

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 what we've been talking about,

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 Jesus has first place

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 in our affections.

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 Okay?

00:21:40.000 --> 00:21:41.060
 2 Corinthians 11,

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 verse 2 through 3,

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 Paul said,

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 I feel a divine jealousy

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 for you

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 since I betrothed you

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 to one husband

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 to present you

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 as a pure virgin to Christ.

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 But I'm afraid

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 as the serpent deceived Eve

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 by his cunning,

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 your thoughts

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 would be led astray

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 from the sincere

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 and pure devotion

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 to Christ.

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 A sincere

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 and pure devotion

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 to Christ

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 just springs up.

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 Okay?

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 Disorder in this area

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 dials down

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 our sense

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 of affection

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 for Jesus.

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 It clouds it.

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 We're like Martha

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 just worried

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 about so many things.

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 It's good to pray

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 for your family.

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 It's good to be concerned

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 with your family.

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 There's a right way

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 of doing it,

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 but not in such a way

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 where Jesus loses

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 first place in our heart.

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 You know?

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 If we've lost that,

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 Jesus says

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 the one thing is equal.

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 Okay?

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 That's what Paul's concerned

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 about for this group.

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 So,

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 what's a fruit

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 when we believe this truth?

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 Jesus has first place

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 in our heart.

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 Second,

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 you will experience

00:22:39.620 --> 00:22:40.720
 division and conflict

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 in your natural

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 family relationships.

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 There's no getting around it.

00:22:44.400 --> 00:22:44.519
 Okay?

00:22:44.960 --> 00:22:46.180
 Jesus says in Matthew 10

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 verse 34 through 42,

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 Do not think

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 that I came

00:22:49.640 --> 00:22:50.360
 to bring peace

00:22:50.360 --> 00:22:51.019
 on the earth.

00:22:51.420 --> 00:22:52.220
 I did not come

00:22:52.220 --> 00:22:52.940
 to bring peace,

00:22:53.180 --> 00:22:53.900
 but a sword.

00:22:54.600 --> 00:22:55.299
 Where specifically?

00:22:56.059 --> 00:22:56.600
 For I came

00:22:56.600 --> 00:22:57.340
 to set a man

00:22:57.340 --> 00:22:58.340
 against his father

00:22:58.340 --> 00:22:59.400
 and a daughter

00:22:59.400 --> 00:23:00.220
 against her mother

00:23:00.220 --> 00:23:01.440
 and a daughter-in-law

00:23:01.440 --> 00:23:02.559
 against her mother-in-law

00:23:02.559 --> 00:23:03.740
 and a man's enemies

00:23:03.740 --> 00:23:04.779
 will be the members

00:23:04.779 --> 00:23:05.700
 of his household.

00:23:05.700 --> 00:23:07.019
 All right.

00:23:07.600 --> 00:23:07.880
 So,

00:23:08.319 --> 00:23:09.019
 not only is he

00:23:09.019 --> 00:23:10.059
 not going to bring peace,

00:23:10.100 --> 00:23:11.180
 he's not going to bring peace

00:23:11.180 --> 00:23:12.880
 specifically within families.

00:23:13.680 --> 00:23:13.819
 Okay?

00:23:15.220 --> 00:23:16.019
 He who loves

00:23:16.019 --> 00:23:16.920
 father or mother

00:23:16.920 --> 00:23:17.799
 more than me

00:23:17.799 --> 00:23:18.900
 is not worthy of me.

00:23:19.380 --> 00:23:20.080
 He who loves

00:23:20.080 --> 00:23:20.759
 son or daughter

00:23:20.759 --> 00:23:21.400
 more than me

00:23:21.400 --> 00:23:22.380
 is not worthy of me.

00:23:23.100 --> 00:23:23.279
 Yeah,

00:23:23.299 --> 00:23:23.860
 it sounds familiar.

00:23:23.960 --> 00:23:24.920
 It's like a parallel passage.

00:23:25.440 --> 00:23:25.940
 And he who does not

00:23:25.940 --> 00:23:26.500
 take his cross

00:23:26.500 --> 00:23:27.340
 and follow after me

00:23:27.340 --> 00:23:28.140
 is not worthy of me.

00:23:28.740 --> 00:23:29.480
 He who has found

00:23:29.480 --> 00:23:30.440
 his life will lose it.

00:23:30.559 --> 00:23:31.120
 He who has lost

00:23:31.120 --> 00:23:32.039
 his life for my sake

00:23:32.039 --> 00:23:32.660
 will find it.

00:23:33.000 --> 00:23:34.180
 He who receives you

00:23:34.180 --> 00:23:35.019
 receives me,

00:23:35.019 --> 00:23:36.359
 and he who receives me

00:23:36.359 --> 00:23:37.759
 receives him who sent me.

00:23:38.680 --> 00:23:40.160
 He who receives a prophet

00:23:40.160 --> 00:23:41.019
 in the name of a prophet

00:23:41.019 --> 00:23:42.579
 shall receive a prophet's reward.

00:23:43.279 --> 00:23:44.200
 And he who receives

00:23:44.200 --> 00:23:45.099
 a righteous man

00:23:45.099 --> 00:23:47.139
 in the name of a righteous man

00:23:47.139 --> 00:23:48.240
 shall receive

00:23:48.240 --> 00:23:49.460
 a righteous man's reward.

00:23:49.460 --> 00:23:52.100
 You see the flip

00:23:52.100 --> 00:23:52.900
 that he does

00:23:52.900 --> 00:23:53.640
 with priorities?

00:23:54.920 --> 00:23:55.740
 Those of you

00:23:55.740 --> 00:23:56.759
 in your family

00:23:56.759 --> 00:23:57.860
 who receive

00:23:57.860 --> 00:23:59.340
 what you have to say

00:23:59.340 --> 00:24:00.059
 because it's

00:24:00.059 --> 00:24:01.240
 because of me,

00:24:01.460 --> 00:24:02.920
 because of Jesus,

00:24:03.420 --> 00:24:04.600
 not because you're

00:24:04.600 --> 00:24:05.579
 their family member,

00:24:05.940 --> 00:24:06.940
 because they're

00:24:06.940 --> 00:24:07.759
 your best friend,

00:24:08.299 --> 00:24:08.960
 but because

00:24:08.960 --> 00:24:10.039
 you're a disciple

00:24:10.039 --> 00:24:10.579
 of Jesus,

00:24:10.960 --> 00:24:12.100
 they're receiving me.

00:24:12.840 --> 00:24:13.799
 If they don't,

00:24:13.840 --> 00:24:14.039
 though,

00:24:14.039 --> 00:24:16.159
 hey,

00:24:16.700 --> 00:24:18.440
 that's part of the game.

00:24:18.839 --> 00:24:19.639
 That's part of the deal.

00:24:20.440 --> 00:24:21.519
 Don't be surprised.

00:24:21.899 --> 00:24:22.879
 I didn't come

00:24:22.879 --> 00:24:23.899
 to come make

00:24:23.899 --> 00:24:26.119
 your earthly family

00:24:26.119 --> 00:24:27.680
 a hoorah,

00:24:27.759 --> 00:24:28.759
 we're all getting along

00:24:28.759 --> 00:24:29.319
 sort of deal.

00:24:29.420 --> 00:24:29.700
 Actually,

00:24:29.759 --> 00:24:30.559
 I came to bring division

00:24:30.559 --> 00:24:32.819
 because I love those people

00:24:32.819 --> 00:24:34.159
 and their sin

00:24:34.159 --> 00:24:35.619
 was sending them to hell.

00:24:36.299 --> 00:24:37.680
 And if you love

00:24:37.680 --> 00:24:39.519
 their good opinion of you

00:24:39.519 --> 00:24:40.460
 more than you love

00:24:40.460 --> 00:24:41.619
 their eternal soul,

00:24:41.619 --> 00:24:43.500
 you're not willing to be.

00:24:45.059 --> 00:24:45.539
 So,

00:24:45.899 --> 00:24:47.699
 Jesus loves people

00:24:47.699 --> 00:24:49.679
 and he saves them

00:24:49.679 --> 00:24:51.299
 by convincing them

00:24:51.299 --> 00:24:52.159
 of sin

00:24:52.159 --> 00:24:54.459
 and the wrath to come

00:24:54.459 --> 00:24:56.059
 so that they escape

00:24:56.059 --> 00:24:57.399
 through the only escape

00:24:57.399 --> 00:24:58.019
 that's possible,

00:24:58.179 --> 00:24:58.479
 which is

00:24:58.479 --> 00:24:59.539
 his atonement

00:24:59.539 --> 00:25:00.159
 on the cross.

00:25:00.819 --> 00:25:01.359
 And if we love

00:25:01.359 --> 00:25:02.059
 our family members,

00:25:02.119 --> 00:25:02.719
 we're going to share

00:25:02.719 --> 00:25:03.459
 that with them too.

00:25:04.039 --> 00:25:04.919
 That brings division.

00:25:05.279 --> 00:25:06.239
 There's no way around it.

00:25:06.399 --> 00:25:07.099
 But that's how people

00:25:07.099 --> 00:25:07.619
 get saved.

00:25:07.619 --> 00:25:08.259
 You know,

00:25:08.519 --> 00:25:09.379
 so my dad got saved.

00:25:09.380 --> 00:25:11.760
 His sister

00:25:11.760 --> 00:25:12.520
 shared the gospel

00:25:12.520 --> 00:25:12.880
 with them.

00:25:14.660 --> 00:25:15.620
 Not everyone else

00:25:15.620 --> 00:25:16.020
 in their family

00:25:16.020 --> 00:25:16.600
 received it,

00:25:16.920 --> 00:25:17.620
 but he did.

00:25:20.740 --> 00:25:21.260
 Okay,

00:25:21.620 --> 00:25:22.180
 next.

00:25:23.100 --> 00:25:24.320
 Also related to family,

00:25:24.520 --> 00:25:25.080
 number three.

00:25:26.000 --> 00:25:26.900
 Limited ministry

00:25:26.900 --> 00:25:27.460
 effectiveness

00:25:27.460 --> 00:25:29.000
 in our extended family

00:25:29.000 --> 00:25:29.940
 at least

00:25:29.940 --> 00:25:30.820
 over the short term.

00:25:31.660 --> 00:25:31.960
 All right,

00:25:32.000 --> 00:25:33.100
 where am I getting this from?

00:25:33.920 --> 00:25:34.920
 I'm getting it from Jesus.

00:25:35.420 --> 00:25:36.680
 Matthew chapter 13

00:25:36.680 --> 00:25:38.100
 verse 57 through 58.

00:25:38.099 --> 00:25:39.719
 Speaking of Jesus,

00:25:39.879 --> 00:25:40.240
 it says,

00:25:40.619 --> 00:25:41.559
 and they took offense

00:25:41.559 --> 00:25:42.019
 at him.

00:25:42.659 --> 00:25:43.579
 But Jesus said to them,

00:25:43.619 --> 00:25:44.459
 a prophet is not

00:25:44.459 --> 00:25:45.059
 without honor

00:25:45.059 --> 00:25:46.519
 except in his hometown

00:25:46.519 --> 00:25:47.839
 and his own household.

00:25:48.259 --> 00:25:49.019
 And he did not do

00:25:49.019 --> 00:25:49.839
 many miracles there

00:25:49.839 --> 00:25:51.579
 because of their unbelief.

00:25:52.279 --> 00:25:52.919
 There's a bunch

00:25:52.919 --> 00:25:53.919
 of other examples of this.

00:25:54.039 --> 00:25:54.959
 They're in all the gospels,

00:25:55.039 --> 00:25:55.399
 basically,

00:25:55.539 --> 00:25:56.519
 except for John.

00:25:56.619 --> 00:25:57.500
 There's some different examples.

00:25:57.679 --> 00:25:58.879
 But basically,

00:25:59.119 --> 00:26:00.839
 Jesus started with his family

00:26:00.839 --> 00:26:01.579
 as a priority,

00:26:01.939 --> 00:26:03.779
 was not effective

00:26:03.779 --> 00:26:04.579
 in the short term,

00:26:04.639 --> 00:26:04.779
 though.

00:26:04.839 --> 00:26:06.079
 He didn't get to see fruit

00:26:06.079 --> 00:26:08.059
 from his short term ministry

00:26:08.059 --> 00:26:09.119
 to his extended family.

00:26:09.639 --> 00:26:10.079
 In fact,

00:26:10.159 --> 00:26:10.639
 the opposite.

00:26:11.460 --> 00:26:12.240
 They didn't believe in him.

00:26:12.659 --> 00:26:13.419
 They mocked him.

00:26:13.699 --> 00:26:14.359
 And in his hometown,

00:26:14.500 --> 00:26:15.039
 they tried to throw him

00:26:15.039 --> 00:26:15.419
 off a cliff.

00:26:16.299 --> 00:26:16.480
 So,

00:26:16.839 --> 00:26:18.159
 did he prioritize them

00:26:18.159 --> 00:26:19.359
 according to God's word?

00:26:19.939 --> 00:26:20.259
 Yes,

00:26:20.539 --> 00:26:21.059
 he did.

00:26:21.299 --> 00:26:22.179
 He shared the truth

00:26:22.179 --> 00:26:23.220
 with them first.

00:26:24.419 --> 00:26:25.299
 That's our example.

00:26:25.720 --> 00:26:26.500
 We share the truth

00:26:26.500 --> 00:26:27.339
 with those who are closest

00:26:27.339 --> 00:26:28.339
 to us first.

00:26:29.819 --> 00:26:31.259
 Did they receive him?

00:26:31.659 --> 00:26:31.939
 No.

00:26:31.939 --> 00:26:33.519
 In fact,

00:26:33.519 --> 00:26:34.139
 the opposite.

00:26:34.900 --> 00:26:35.019
 You know,

00:26:35.059 --> 00:26:35.579
 that phrase,

00:26:35.700 --> 00:26:36.980
 familiarity breeds contempt.

00:26:37.079 --> 00:26:37.759
 It comes from this.

00:26:38.059 --> 00:26:38.240
 It says,

00:26:38.440 --> 00:26:39.500
 no prophet is without honor

00:26:39.500 --> 00:26:41.839
 except in his own family

00:26:41.839 --> 00:26:43.259
 and his hometown

00:26:43.259 --> 00:26:44.059
 among his relatives,

00:26:44.720 --> 00:26:45.980
 the people who know you the most.

00:26:46.519 --> 00:26:46.779
 So,

00:26:47.180 --> 00:26:48.379
 my question for you is,

00:26:48.660 --> 00:26:49.359
 are you expecting

00:26:49.359 --> 00:26:50.099
 something different

00:26:50.099 --> 00:26:50.619
 than Jesus?

00:26:53.319 --> 00:26:54.180
 Do you have a more

00:26:54.180 --> 00:26:55.000
 inflated view

00:26:55.000 --> 00:26:56.039
 of your winsomeness

00:26:56.039 --> 00:26:58.019
 than you ought to have?

00:26:58.559 --> 00:26:58.900
 I mean,

00:26:58.940 --> 00:26:59.440
 I know I do.

00:26:59.440 --> 00:27:01.379
 I've been totally

00:27:01.379 --> 00:27:01.900
 just like

00:27:01.900 --> 00:27:03.420
 deluded into thinking

00:27:03.420 --> 00:27:04.019
 that I'm somehow

00:27:04.019 --> 00:27:04.600
 more winsome

00:27:04.600 --> 00:27:05.640
 than the Lord Jesus Christ.

00:27:06.480 --> 00:27:06.660
 Okay?

00:27:06.840 --> 00:27:07.480
 You're not.

00:27:07.960 --> 00:27:08.340
 We're not.

00:27:10.259 --> 00:27:10.780
 If,

00:27:11.380 --> 00:27:11.960
 Jesus says,

00:27:12.120 --> 00:27:12.620
 a disciple,

00:27:12.820 --> 00:27:13.440
 when he's perfect,

00:27:13.540 --> 00:27:14.400
 will be like his master.

00:27:15.500 --> 00:27:15.980
 So,

00:27:16.320 --> 00:27:17.259
 when we're perfect,

00:27:17.420 --> 00:27:18.340
 meaning when we're mature,

00:27:19.519 --> 00:27:20.700
 the best we can get

00:27:20.700 --> 00:27:22.060
 is like Jesus.

00:27:22.880 --> 00:27:23.400
 So,

00:27:23.519 --> 00:27:24.480
 we need to recalibrate

00:27:24.480 --> 00:27:25.340
 our expectations

00:27:25.340 --> 00:27:26.280
 based on what

00:27:26.280 --> 00:27:27.100
 the Bible says.

00:27:27.720 --> 00:27:28.420
 Later on,

00:27:28.500 --> 00:27:29.220
 a lot of them did believe.

00:27:29.660 --> 00:27:30.400
 Two of them wrote

00:27:30.400 --> 00:27:31.460
 books in the New Testament.

00:27:31.460 --> 00:27:32.759
 James was one

00:27:32.759 --> 00:27:33.259
 of his brothers.

00:27:33.880 --> 00:27:34.279
 Jude was one

00:27:34.279 --> 00:27:34.740
 of his brothers.

00:27:36.680 --> 00:27:37.420
 But it might not

00:27:37.420 --> 00:27:37.840
 have even been

00:27:37.840 --> 00:27:38.500
 until after he rose

00:27:38.500 --> 00:27:38.900
 from the dead.

00:27:39.940 --> 00:27:40.079
 Okay?

00:27:40.960 --> 00:27:41.340
 So,

00:27:41.420 --> 00:27:41.819
 the Lord

00:27:41.819 --> 00:27:43.299
 saves people.

00:27:43.480 --> 00:27:44.340
 We don't save people.

00:27:44.539 --> 00:27:45.680
 Our job is to testify

00:27:45.680 --> 00:27:46.279
 to the truth

00:27:46.279 --> 00:27:47.059
 and do it faithfully,

00:27:47.180 --> 00:27:48.660
 even if it causes

00:27:48.660 --> 00:27:49.640
 division

00:27:49.640 --> 00:27:50.720
 and shaking

00:27:50.720 --> 00:27:52.299
 our precious family peace.

00:27:52.660 --> 00:27:53.960
 If we love Jesus

00:27:53.960 --> 00:27:55.000
 more than we love

00:27:55.000 --> 00:27:56.279
 our precious family peace,

00:27:56.640 --> 00:27:57.960
 we'll be okay doing it.

00:27:58.440 --> 00:27:59.059
 Because you know

00:27:59.059 --> 00:27:59.779
 he's trying to do it.

00:27:59.980 --> 00:28:00.740
 If he loves them,

00:28:00.740 --> 00:28:01.500
 which we trust

00:28:01.500 --> 00:28:01.900
 he does,

00:28:02.440 --> 00:28:03.880
 that's what

00:28:03.880 --> 00:28:04.620
 he's trying to do.

00:28:05.359 --> 00:28:05.740
 And if we're

00:28:05.740 --> 00:28:06.200
 going to be faithful

00:28:06.200 --> 00:28:06.660
 to Jesus,

00:28:07.000 --> 00:28:08.039
 we participate

00:28:08.039 --> 00:28:09.839
 in this work of

00:28:09.839 --> 00:28:11.220
 this is what

00:28:11.220 --> 00:28:11.960
 the Bible says.

00:28:12.660 --> 00:28:12.759
 Okay?

00:28:14.279 --> 00:28:15.079
 Sinners hate it.

00:28:15.299 --> 00:28:15.900
 Just remember

00:28:15.900 --> 00:28:16.700
 how you

00:28:16.700 --> 00:28:18.200
 have behaved

00:28:18.200 --> 00:28:18.660
 when people

00:28:18.660 --> 00:28:19.180
 have called you

00:28:19.180 --> 00:28:19.980
 out about your sin.

00:28:20.120 --> 00:28:20.359
 Okay?

00:28:20.740 --> 00:28:21.440
 There's been a lot

00:28:21.440 --> 00:28:21.799
 of people

00:28:21.799 --> 00:28:22.420
 who've suffered

00:28:22.420 --> 00:28:24.400
 a lot of my backlash

00:28:24.400 --> 00:28:25.700
 and my tood

00:28:25.700 --> 00:28:27.920
 and my foul speaking

00:28:27.920 --> 00:28:29.700
 because they love me

00:28:29.700 --> 00:28:30.440
 and they confronted me

00:28:30.440 --> 00:28:30.840
 in my sin.

00:28:30.920 --> 00:28:31.160
 There's people

00:28:31.160 --> 00:28:31.540
 in this room

00:28:31.540 --> 00:28:31.980
 who've done it.

00:28:32.340 --> 00:28:32.480
 Okay?

00:28:33.480 --> 00:28:34.240
 God uses it.

00:28:34.940 --> 00:28:35.140
 Okay?

00:28:36.220 --> 00:28:36.500
 Okay.

00:28:38.200 --> 00:28:38.860
 Number four,

00:28:38.940 --> 00:28:39.980
 our family might get mad at us

00:28:39.980 --> 00:28:40.460
 and that's okay.

00:28:40.640 --> 00:28:41.320
 That's really kind of

00:28:41.320 --> 00:28:41.820
 just a repeat.

00:28:43.620 --> 00:28:43.980
 Five,

00:28:44.700 --> 00:28:46.500
 there's freedom.

00:28:46.859 --> 00:28:47.859
 If we obey this

00:28:47.859 --> 00:28:49.160
 reordering of priorities,

00:28:49.380 --> 00:28:50.339
 Jesus number one,

00:28:51.779 --> 00:28:52.519
 there's freedom

00:28:52.519 --> 00:28:53.299
 to follow Jesus

00:28:53.299 --> 00:28:53.900
 unhindered

00:28:53.900 --> 00:28:54.980
 wherever he wants us to go.

00:28:55.619 --> 00:28:56.259
 So I'm going to read

00:28:56.259 --> 00:28:56.960
 an example of this.

00:28:57.180 --> 00:28:58.240
 Jesus calling the apostles.

00:28:58.900 --> 00:28:59.420
 Matthew 4,

00:28:59.460 --> 00:29:00.559
 verse 18 through 22.

00:29:01.140 --> 00:29:01.599
 And Jesus,

00:29:01.759 --> 00:29:02.779
 walking by the Sea of Galilee,

00:29:02.880 --> 00:29:03.519
 saw two brothers,

00:29:03.640 --> 00:29:04.380
 Simon called Peter,

00:29:04.740 --> 00:29:05.400
 Andrew his brother,

00:29:05.819 --> 00:29:06.960
 casting a net into the sea

00:29:06.960 --> 00:29:07.740
 for they were fishers.

00:29:08.180 --> 00:29:10.279
 And he saith unto them,

00:29:11.539 --> 00:29:12.440
 follow me

00:29:12.440 --> 00:29:13.259
 and I will make you

00:29:13.259 --> 00:29:13.940
 fishers of men.

00:29:14.680 --> 00:29:15.519
 And straight away

00:29:15.519 --> 00:29:16.319
 they left their nets

00:29:16.319 --> 00:29:16.939
 and followed them.

00:29:17.619 --> 00:29:18.480
 And going on from there,

00:29:18.519 --> 00:29:19.419
 he saw two other brothers,

00:29:19.579 --> 00:29:20.639
 James the son of Zebedee

00:29:20.639 --> 00:29:21.419
 and John his brother,

00:29:21.799 --> 00:29:22.859
 in a ship with Zebedee,

00:29:22.919 --> 00:29:23.359
 their father.

00:29:23.819 --> 00:29:25.079
 See the familial connection here?

00:29:25.139 --> 00:29:25.559
 They're working

00:29:25.559 --> 00:29:26.339
 and they're doing it

00:29:26.339 --> 00:29:26.819
 with their dad.

00:29:29.019 --> 00:29:29.799
 Mending their nets

00:29:29.799 --> 00:29:30.439
 and he called them.

00:29:30.899 --> 00:29:32.019
 And they immediately

00:29:32.019 --> 00:29:32.919
 left the ship

00:29:32.919 --> 00:29:34.299
 and their father

00:29:34.299 --> 00:29:35.619
 and followed him.

00:29:36.379 --> 00:29:36.599
 Okay?

00:29:37.200 --> 00:29:37.639
 So,

00:29:38.000 --> 00:29:38.679
 this is a type

00:29:38.679 --> 00:29:39.159
 in the shadow.

00:29:39.679 --> 00:29:40.599
 You see other people

00:29:40.599 --> 00:29:42.599
 in the other example

00:29:42.599 --> 00:29:44.000
 we read in Luke 14

00:29:44.000 --> 00:29:45.599
 getting called

00:29:45.599 --> 00:29:47.019
 but refusing the call

00:29:47.019 --> 00:29:47.859
 because of family.

00:29:49.039 --> 00:29:49.899
 Here you see

00:29:49.899 --> 00:29:51.000
 the disciples

00:29:51.000 --> 00:29:51.919
 doing completely the opposite.

00:29:52.299 --> 00:29:52.480
 Okay?

00:29:53.139 --> 00:29:53.639
 He says,

00:29:53.719 --> 00:29:53.819
 hey,

00:29:53.859 --> 00:29:54.559
 come follow me.

00:29:55.059 --> 00:29:55.480
 They don't say,

00:29:55.599 --> 00:29:55.740
 oh,

00:29:55.779 --> 00:29:56.599
 but I got to honor my dad.

00:29:57.740 --> 00:29:58.139
 Oh,

00:29:58.179 --> 00:29:58.719
 I got this job

00:29:58.719 --> 00:29:59.519
 I'm doing with my dad.

00:29:59.659 --> 00:29:59.859
 You know,

00:29:59.879 --> 00:30:00.299
 my dad's,

00:30:00.379 --> 00:30:00.559
 you know,

00:30:00.699 --> 00:30:01.639
 he's going to be out of luck.

00:30:01.699 --> 00:30:02.179
 He's not going to be

00:30:02.179 --> 00:30:03.439
 able to do his job.

00:30:03.679 --> 00:30:03.939
 Right?

00:30:04.079 --> 00:30:05.219
 I don't want to dishonor my dad.

00:30:05.699 --> 00:30:05.799
 No,

00:30:05.859 --> 00:30:05.879
 no,

00:30:05.919 --> 00:30:06.000
 no.

00:30:06.199 --> 00:30:07.119
 Jesus has preeminence.

00:30:07.699 --> 00:30:08.099
 He says,

00:30:08.159 --> 00:30:08.559
 follow me.

00:30:08.939 --> 00:30:09.799
 They left it

00:30:09.799 --> 00:30:10.859
 and they followed him.

00:30:10.859 --> 00:30:11.299
 So,

00:30:11.659 --> 00:30:13.139
 Jesus gets to call the shots.

00:30:13.219 --> 00:30:13.919
 He's just the boss.

00:30:14.039 --> 00:30:15.079
 He's the boss of everything.

00:30:15.839 --> 00:30:16.019
 So,

00:30:16.599 --> 00:30:17.000
 he

00:30:17.000 --> 00:30:18.799
 has preeminence

00:30:18.799 --> 00:30:19.659
 over our

00:30:19.659 --> 00:30:20.899
 callers.

00:30:21.339 --> 00:30:21.379
 Okay?

00:30:21.619 --> 00:30:21.859
 So,

00:30:22.099 --> 00:30:23.099
 a natural byproduct is

00:30:23.099 --> 00:30:23.799
 we're just free.

00:30:24.319 --> 00:30:24.579
 Okay?

00:30:24.719 --> 00:30:25.279
 We're free

00:30:25.279 --> 00:30:26.899
 to go obey Jesus

00:30:26.899 --> 00:30:28.259
 in whatever he's called us to do.

00:30:28.859 --> 00:30:29.240
 And,

00:30:29.459 --> 00:30:30.719
 if what he calls us to do

00:30:30.719 --> 00:30:31.299
 conflicts

00:30:31.299 --> 00:30:33.019
 with some of our family priorities,

00:30:33.399 --> 00:30:34.339
 we need to get a renewed mind

00:30:34.339 --> 00:30:35.599
 because he's never going to call us

00:30:35.599 --> 00:30:36.199
 to do something

00:30:36.199 --> 00:30:37.199
 that disobeys him

00:30:37.199 --> 00:30:38.439
 with respect to

00:30:38.439 --> 00:30:39.579
 our family obligations.

00:30:39.579 --> 00:30:40.939
 Um,

00:30:41.460 --> 00:30:42.139
 number six.

00:30:42.819 --> 00:30:43.619
 What else do we get?

00:30:44.019 --> 00:30:44.980
 What are the evidences?

00:30:45.639 --> 00:30:46.000
 Uh,

00:30:46.279 --> 00:30:47.659
 we get new family relationships

00:30:47.659 --> 00:30:48.220
 in the church.

00:30:49.099 --> 00:30:49.939
 Mark 10,

00:30:50.159 --> 00:30:51.419
 verse 29 through 31,

00:30:51.539 --> 00:30:52.099
 Jesus says,

00:30:52.599 --> 00:30:53.259
 truly I say to you,

00:30:53.299 --> 00:30:54.000
 there's no man

00:30:54.000 --> 00:30:54.779
 that has left house

00:30:54.779 --> 00:30:55.240
 or brethren

00:30:55.240 --> 00:30:55.699
 or sisters

00:30:55.699 --> 00:30:56.199
 or father

00:30:56.199 --> 00:30:56.559
 or mother

00:30:56.559 --> 00:30:56.960
 or wife

00:30:56.960 --> 00:30:57.339
 or children

00:30:57.339 --> 00:30:57.899
 or lands

00:30:57.899 --> 00:30:58.819
 for my sake

00:30:58.819 --> 00:30:59.559
 and the gospels

00:30:59.559 --> 00:31:00.899
 that shall not receive

00:31:00.899 --> 00:31:01.899
 a hundredfold

00:31:01.899 --> 00:31:03.259
 now in this time

00:31:03.259 --> 00:31:04.039
 houses

00:31:04.039 --> 00:31:04.699
 and brethren

00:31:04.699 --> 00:31:05.279
 and sisters

00:31:05.279 --> 00:31:05.839
 and mothers

00:31:05.839 --> 00:31:06.359
 and children

00:31:06.359 --> 00:31:06.879
 and lands

00:31:06.879 --> 00:31:08.500
 with persecutions.

00:31:08.500 --> 00:31:10.039
 And the world

00:31:10.039 --> 00:31:10.339
 to come

00:31:10.339 --> 00:31:11.019
 eternal life.

00:31:12.140 --> 00:31:13.240
 And in Mark 3,

00:31:13.380 --> 00:31:13.599
 uh,

00:31:13.599 --> 00:31:14.480
 33 through 35,

00:31:14.480 --> 00:31:15.079
 he said,

00:31:15.240 --> 00:31:16.019
 uh,

00:31:16.059 --> 00:31:16.740
 who are my mother

00:31:16.740 --> 00:31:17.220
 and brothers?

00:31:17.519 --> 00:31:18.460
 And looking at those

00:31:18.460 --> 00:31:19.140
 who sat around him,

00:31:19.160 --> 00:31:19.480
 he said,

00:31:19.579 --> 00:31:20.559
 here are my mother

00:31:20.559 --> 00:31:21.059
 and brothers.

00:31:21.380 --> 00:31:22.259
 Forever does the will

00:31:22.259 --> 00:31:22.599
 of God.

00:31:22.700 --> 00:31:23.500
 He is my brother

00:31:23.500 --> 00:31:23.900
 and sister

00:31:23.900 --> 00:31:24.259
 and mother.

00:31:24.660 --> 00:31:25.079
 All right.

00:31:25.119 --> 00:31:25.339
 So,

00:31:25.900 --> 00:31:26.259
 uh,

00:31:26.359 --> 00:31:27.559
 we leave our natural

00:31:27.559 --> 00:31:27.980
 family

00:31:27.980 --> 00:31:29.000
 and we get a spiritual

00:31:29.000 --> 00:31:29.359
 family.

00:31:30.079 --> 00:31:30.839
 We're not going to have

00:31:30.839 --> 00:31:31.400
 our natural family

00:31:31.400 --> 00:31:31.640
 in heaven.

00:31:32.279 --> 00:31:32.700
 You know what we're

00:31:32.700 --> 00:31:33.079
 going to have?

00:31:33.420 --> 00:31:33.940
 We're going to have

00:31:33.940 --> 00:31:34.519
 our spiritual family.

00:31:34.519 --> 00:31:35.500
 Okay.

00:31:35.740 --> 00:31:36.980
 So it starts on earth.

00:31:37.740 --> 00:31:39.700
 We get converted.

00:31:40.700 --> 00:31:42.180
 Our tie,

00:31:42.579 --> 00:31:44.519
 our primary familial tie

00:31:44.519 --> 00:31:45.359
 to Adam

00:31:45.359 --> 00:31:46.420
 gets crucified

00:31:46.420 --> 00:31:46.920
 in Christ

00:31:46.920 --> 00:31:47.460
 in the cross.

00:31:47.799 --> 00:31:48.740
 And he raises us

00:31:48.740 --> 00:31:49.279
 to new life.

00:31:50.160 --> 00:31:52.119
 Who's our new family?

00:31:52.279 --> 00:31:53.119
 What's our primary

00:31:53.119 --> 00:31:53.980
 familial tie?

00:31:55.420 --> 00:31:56.180
 Sons of God

00:31:56.180 --> 00:31:56.700
 through Christ.

00:31:57.319 --> 00:31:58.460
 Our brothers and sisters

00:31:58.460 --> 00:31:58.920
 in the Lord.

00:31:59.740 --> 00:32:00.400
 That's the one

00:32:00.400 --> 00:32:01.119
 that's going to last forever.

00:32:02.059 --> 00:32:02.240
 Okay.

00:32:02.240 --> 00:32:04.620
 That's the most

00:32:04.620 --> 00:32:05.680
 prominent identity

00:32:05.680 --> 00:32:06.299
 we have.

00:32:06.640 --> 00:32:07.400
 Does this nullify

00:32:07.400 --> 00:32:07.759
 the family?

00:32:07.920 --> 00:32:08.140
 No.

00:32:09.259 --> 00:32:10.180
 But it's the one

00:32:10.180 --> 00:32:11.259
 that's going to last forever.

00:32:12.500 --> 00:32:12.640
 You know,

00:32:12.680 --> 00:32:13.079
 Julie and I

00:32:13.079 --> 00:32:13.620
 aren't going to be married

00:32:13.620 --> 00:32:13.819
 now.

00:32:14.339 --> 00:32:15.140
 The Bible's very clear

00:32:15.140 --> 00:32:15.460
 about that.

00:32:15.519 --> 00:32:16.200
 Jesus says they need

00:32:16.200 --> 00:32:16.620
 to marry

00:32:16.620 --> 00:32:17.180
 nor give them

00:32:17.180 --> 00:32:17.500
 marriage

00:32:17.500 --> 00:32:18.420
 in the resurrection.

00:32:19.099 --> 00:32:20.480
 So this is the family

00:32:20.480 --> 00:32:21.299
 that's going to last.

00:32:21.680 --> 00:32:22.279
 And guess what?

00:32:22.880 --> 00:32:23.640
 When we cut ties

00:32:23.640 --> 00:32:24.180
 with the old one,

00:32:24.220 --> 00:32:24.900
 we get the new one

00:32:24.900 --> 00:32:25.480
 and it's glorious.

00:32:25.579 --> 00:32:26.519
 It's a really precious thing.

00:32:27.400 --> 00:32:28.279
 Now there's extremes

00:32:28.279 --> 00:32:29.059
 with all this stuff

00:32:29.059 --> 00:32:29.960
 as there is with

00:32:29.960 --> 00:32:30.740
 everything in the Bible.

00:32:31.079 --> 00:32:31.880
 There's weird ways

00:32:31.880 --> 00:32:32.640
 that going with this,

00:32:33.020 --> 00:32:35.720
 but it's a glorious truth.

00:32:35.820 --> 00:32:36.720
 It's a wonderful truth.

00:32:37.240 --> 00:32:37.860
 One of the words

00:32:37.860 --> 00:32:38.880
 this year is family,

00:32:39.120 --> 00:32:39.760
 like specifically

00:32:39.760 --> 00:32:40.360
 church family,

00:32:40.440 --> 00:32:41.040
 not talking about

00:32:41.040 --> 00:32:41.580
 like family,

00:32:41.960 --> 00:32:42.560
 natural family.

00:32:42.660 --> 00:32:43.260
 It's church family.

00:32:44.840 --> 00:32:45.600
 I think this is

00:32:45.600 --> 00:32:46.120
 one of the truths

00:32:46.120 --> 00:32:46.560
 that we need to

00:32:46.560 --> 00:32:47.480
 internalize a little bit more.

00:32:47.760 --> 00:32:48.300
 I know I do.

00:32:48.300 --> 00:32:49.000
 This is something

00:32:49.000 --> 00:32:50.940
 I'm chief of offenders

00:32:50.940 --> 00:32:51.320
 in this,

00:32:51.460 --> 00:32:52.480
 prioritizing my family

00:32:52.480 --> 00:32:53.820
 over spiritual family,

00:32:54.120 --> 00:32:55.120
 but it ought not be so.

00:32:55.620 --> 00:32:55.720
 Okay.

00:32:55.720 --> 00:32:58.460
 So related to that,

00:32:58.519 --> 00:32:59.000
 number seven,

00:32:59.380 --> 00:33:00.559
 an ability to relate

00:33:00.559 --> 00:33:02.120
 according to the spirit,

00:33:02.200 --> 00:33:02.900
 not to the flesh.

00:33:03.000 --> 00:33:03.980
 We already read that verse

00:33:03.980 --> 00:33:05.259
 from 2 Corinthians 5

00:33:05.259 --> 00:33:07.140
 about in light of this

00:33:07.140 --> 00:33:08.600
 exchange that happened

00:33:08.600 --> 00:33:09.200
 on the cross,

00:33:09.279 --> 00:33:10.480
 this crucifixion

00:33:10.480 --> 00:33:11.240
 of the old man

00:33:11.240 --> 00:33:12.019
 and this resurrection

00:33:12.019 --> 00:33:12.720
 of the new man.

00:33:13.079 --> 00:33:14.259
 We don't regard people

00:33:14.259 --> 00:33:15.400
 according to the flesh anymore.

00:33:15.519 --> 00:33:16.700
 We look at it

00:33:16.700 --> 00:33:17.940
 with spiritual eyes.

00:33:18.480 --> 00:33:18.620
 Okay.

00:33:19.079 --> 00:33:20.100
 When we look at believers,

00:33:20.360 --> 00:33:21.000
 we're saying,

00:33:21.180 --> 00:33:22.880
 they're a new creation

00:33:22.880 --> 00:33:23.440
 in Christ.

00:33:23.800 --> 00:33:24.880
 In spite of all their

00:33:24.880 --> 00:33:26.660
 besetting sin

00:33:26.660 --> 00:33:27.560
 and things God's

00:33:27.560 --> 00:33:28.280
 sanctifying them in,

00:33:28.940 --> 00:33:29.880
 the primary way

00:33:29.880 --> 00:33:30.740
 I'm going to relate to them

00:33:30.740 --> 00:33:31.520
 is they're my brother

00:33:31.520 --> 00:33:32.460
 and sister in Jesus

00:33:32.460 --> 00:33:33.180
 and in Christ,

00:33:33.280 --> 00:33:33.760
 they're perfect.

00:33:34.800 --> 00:33:35.380
 And they're going

00:33:35.380 --> 00:33:35.940
 to last forever

00:33:35.940 --> 00:33:36.980
 and I'm going to last forever

00:33:36.980 --> 00:33:37.560
 and our fellowship

00:33:37.560 --> 00:33:38.180
 is forever.

00:33:39.100 --> 00:33:40.360
 And it's just

00:33:40.360 --> 00:33:41.300
 this glorious thing.

00:33:41.720 --> 00:33:42.380
 And if we relate

00:33:42.380 --> 00:33:42.860
 to each other

00:33:42.860 --> 00:33:43.720
 from that vantage point,

00:33:43.780 --> 00:33:44.800
 we got way more

00:33:44.800 --> 00:33:45.680
 margin for each other.

00:33:46.120 --> 00:33:46.640
 Love covers

00:33:46.640 --> 00:33:47.560
 a multitude of sins.

00:33:48.200 --> 00:33:48.820
 I'm not just like,

00:33:48.920 --> 00:33:50.640
 but this sin is so bad,

00:33:50.680 --> 00:33:51.220
 I can't handle it

00:33:51.220 --> 00:33:51.760
 until it's fixed.

00:33:51.920 --> 00:33:52.100
 You know,

00:33:52.099 --> 00:33:53.459
 like that's

00:33:53.459 --> 00:33:54.359
 viewing each other

00:33:54.359 --> 00:33:55.219
 according to the flesh.

00:33:56.959 --> 00:33:57.619
 Amen's in Christ.

00:33:57.740 --> 00:33:58.439
 He's a new creation.

00:33:58.619 --> 00:33:58.879
 Behold,

00:33:59.019 --> 00:34:00.379
 old things have passed away.

00:34:00.939 --> 00:34:02.159
 All things have become new.

00:34:02.839 --> 00:34:03.699
 So I'm going to just

00:34:03.699 --> 00:34:04.279
 believe that.

00:34:05.119 --> 00:34:05.839
 I'm going to set my,

00:34:06.219 --> 00:34:09.139
 I'm going to put a stake,

00:34:09.559 --> 00:34:10.199
 you know,

00:34:10.219 --> 00:34:10.699
 on that.

00:34:10.759 --> 00:34:11.219
 I'm going to say,

00:34:11.319 --> 00:34:12.139
 that's how I'm going to

00:34:12.139 --> 00:34:12.839
 view people.

00:34:13.199 --> 00:34:13.799
 By God's grace,

00:34:13.880 --> 00:34:14.559
 please renew my mind.

00:34:14.639 --> 00:34:15.579
 Help me to relate

00:34:15.579 --> 00:34:16.639
 to each other like this.

00:34:17.199 --> 00:34:18.019
 For people who are unbelievers,

00:34:18.440 --> 00:34:19.440
 since Christ died for all,

00:34:19.480 --> 00:34:20.339
 so all who live

00:34:20.339 --> 00:34:21.460
 would no longer

00:34:21.460 --> 00:34:22.199
 live for themselves.

00:34:22.480 --> 00:34:23.260
 They don't have any right

00:34:23.260 --> 00:34:23.840
 to their life.

00:34:24.240 --> 00:34:24.539
 Okay?

00:34:25.380 --> 00:34:26.220
 I don't need to apologize

00:34:26.220 --> 00:34:28.019
 to them for the gospel

00:34:28.019 --> 00:34:29.260
 and what Jesus has to say.

00:34:29.720 --> 00:34:31.079
 They lost their rights.

00:34:31.619 --> 00:34:31.920
 Okay?

00:34:32.320 --> 00:34:33.380
 They owe Jesus

00:34:33.380 --> 00:34:34.340
 their life.

00:34:35.139 --> 00:34:36.320
 And I'm here to command

00:34:36.320 --> 00:34:37.119
 them to repent.

00:34:37.619 --> 00:34:38.500
 And I know that

00:34:38.500 --> 00:34:38.820
 they're going to be

00:34:38.820 --> 00:34:39.740
 my brother and sister

00:34:39.740 --> 00:34:41.619
 in this living way

00:34:41.619 --> 00:34:42.480
 if they do so.

00:34:42.920 --> 00:34:43.800
 That's what I want to,

00:34:43.860 --> 00:34:44.460
 I want to have that

00:34:44.460 --> 00:34:45.360
 relationship with them.

00:34:45.820 --> 00:34:46.519
 I don't want to have

00:34:46.519 --> 00:34:47.300
 relationships with my

00:34:47.300 --> 00:34:47.960
 brothers and sisters

00:34:47.960 --> 00:34:48.539
 where we just

00:34:48.539 --> 00:34:49.740
 sit around avoiding

00:34:49.740 --> 00:34:51.099
 all the controversial

00:34:51.099 --> 00:34:52.220
 things that Jesus says

00:34:52.220 --> 00:34:53.139
 in order to keep

00:34:53.139 --> 00:34:53.720
 peace with them.

00:34:54.199 --> 00:34:54.440
 Okay?

00:34:56.639 --> 00:34:57.000
 Like,

00:34:57.360 --> 00:34:58.139
 if they don't repent

00:34:58.139 --> 00:34:58.840
 and believe in Jesus,

00:34:58.920 --> 00:34:59.559
 they're going to hell.

00:34:59.980 --> 00:35:00.639
 And I'll never have

00:35:00.639 --> 00:35:01.440
 a relationship with them

00:35:01.440 --> 00:35:02.039
 for eternity.

00:35:03.380 --> 00:35:04.039
 I want to have

00:35:04.039 --> 00:35:04.720
 a new relationship

00:35:04.720 --> 00:35:05.139
 with them.

00:35:05.240 --> 00:35:06.820
 I want to regard them

00:35:06.820 --> 00:35:07.940
 according to the spirit,

00:35:08.019 --> 00:35:09.000
 not according to the flesh.

00:35:09.659 --> 00:35:10.579
 And so there's an aspect

00:35:10.579 --> 00:35:11.559
 in which we can under,

00:35:11.659 --> 00:35:12.199
 we can look at

00:35:12.199 --> 00:35:13.199
 unbelievers like this

00:35:13.199 --> 00:35:13.500
 and be like,

00:35:13.539 --> 00:35:13.820
 wait a minute,

00:35:13.900 --> 00:35:14.019
 no.

00:35:14.019 --> 00:35:15.719
 They need to be

00:35:15.719 --> 00:35:16.159
 transformed,

00:35:16.380 --> 00:35:16.599
 you know.

00:35:17.019 --> 00:35:17.420
 I don't want to

00:35:17.420 --> 00:35:18.099
 commiserate with

00:35:18.099 --> 00:35:18.820
 their sin anymore.

00:35:20.679 --> 00:35:20.860
 So,

00:35:21.219 --> 00:35:22.559
 okay,

00:35:22.679 --> 00:35:22.860
 well,

00:35:22.880 --> 00:35:23.320
 I can't get to

00:35:23.320 --> 00:35:23.780
 everything here.

00:35:24.940 --> 00:35:25.500
 There are a few

00:35:25.500 --> 00:35:26.280
 objections to these

00:35:26.280 --> 00:35:26.519
 things.

00:35:26.599 --> 00:35:26.960
 I'm sure there's

00:35:26.960 --> 00:35:27.300
 a lot more

00:35:27.300 --> 00:35:27.739
 evidences.

00:35:28.420 --> 00:35:28.739
 Those should just

00:35:28.739 --> 00:35:29.259
 be one of them

00:35:29.259 --> 00:35:29.960
 that stood out to me.

00:35:30.400 --> 00:35:31.119
 A few objections

00:35:31.119 --> 00:35:31.980
 I want to speak to.

00:35:33.079 --> 00:35:33.719
 This is one of

00:35:33.719 --> 00:35:34.380
 the hard sayings.

00:35:34.440 --> 00:35:34.880
 I think R.C.

00:35:34.940 --> 00:35:35.519
 Sproul has a book

00:35:35.519 --> 00:35:36.599
 called Hard Sayings.

00:35:36.980 --> 00:35:37.480
 I can't remember

00:35:37.480 --> 00:35:38.079
 if this is in there

00:35:38.079 --> 00:35:38.320
 or not.

00:35:38.360 --> 00:35:38.980
 I think it is.

00:35:39.219 --> 00:35:40.099
 But anyway,

00:35:40.159 --> 00:35:40.920
 this is a hard say.

00:35:41.119 --> 00:35:42.000
 Luke 14, 26.

00:35:42.860 --> 00:35:43.480
 You got to hate

00:35:43.480 --> 00:35:43.980
 your family.

00:35:44.599 --> 00:35:45.360
 And if you don't,

00:35:45.860 --> 00:35:46.559
 you're not worthy

00:35:46.559 --> 00:35:47.119
 of being Jesus'

00:35:47.280 --> 00:35:47.599
 disciple.

00:35:48.219 --> 00:35:48.539
 Unqualified.

00:35:48.980 --> 00:35:49.259
 Hard.

00:35:49.579 --> 00:35:50.000
 It's difficult.

00:35:51.119 --> 00:35:51.519
 So,

00:35:52.259 --> 00:35:52.880
 I want to think

00:35:52.880 --> 00:35:53.360
 through a couple

00:35:53.360 --> 00:35:54.259
 objections to speak

00:35:54.259 --> 00:35:54.840
 to them real quick.

00:35:55.360 --> 00:35:56.119
 One is,

00:35:56.860 --> 00:35:57.920
 objection number one,

00:35:58.440 --> 00:35:59.360
 Jesus can't really

00:35:59.360 --> 00:35:59.980
 mean hate,

00:36:00.480 --> 00:36:00.739
 right?

00:36:01.900 --> 00:36:02.460
 That would

00:36:02.460 --> 00:36:03.259
 contradict all

00:36:03.259 --> 00:36:03.860
 the other commands

00:36:03.860 --> 00:36:04.500
 in the New Testament

00:36:04.500 --> 00:36:05.440
 about love.

00:36:06.119 --> 00:36:06.320
 You know,

00:36:06.360 --> 00:36:06.780
 love,

00:36:07.059 --> 00:36:07.719
 love, love, love.

00:36:07.759 --> 00:36:08.320
 There's love everywhere.

00:36:08.519 --> 00:36:08.900
 How could he

00:36:08.900 --> 00:36:09.800
 possibly mean we're

00:36:09.800 --> 00:36:10.440
 supposed to hate people

00:36:10.440 --> 00:36:10.780
 when we're supposed

00:36:10.780 --> 00:36:11.239
 to love them?

00:36:11.559 --> 00:36:12.840
 Especially our family

00:36:12.840 --> 00:36:13.800
 when we're commanded

00:36:13.800 --> 00:36:14.579
 to give priority

00:36:14.579 --> 00:36:15.260
 to our family

00:36:15.260 --> 00:36:16.320
 in love and affection

00:36:16.320 --> 00:36:17.039
 and service,

00:36:17.360 --> 00:36:17.500
 you know,

00:36:17.539 --> 00:36:17.960
 and all that.

00:36:18.720 --> 00:36:19.500
 How do these

00:36:19.500 --> 00:36:20.240
 mesh?

00:36:20.900 --> 00:36:21.059
 Okay.

00:36:21.840 --> 00:36:23.140
 I think there's two senses.

00:36:23.340 --> 00:36:23.940
 We can think of hate

00:36:23.940 --> 00:36:24.400
 in two ways.

00:36:24.820 --> 00:36:25.900
 These are these two

00:36:25.900 --> 00:36:26.940
 that occur to me.

00:36:27.100 --> 00:36:27.200
 Okay.

00:36:27.199 --> 00:36:29.359
 Number one is,

00:36:29.659 --> 00:36:30.480
 consider that also

00:36:30.480 --> 00:36:31.119
 in that passage

00:36:31.119 --> 00:36:31.659
 he said,

00:36:32.019 --> 00:36:32.179
 you.

00:36:33.119 --> 00:36:33.679
 He said,

00:36:33.719 --> 00:36:34.299
 you have to hate

00:36:34.299 --> 00:36:35.539
 your own life,

00:36:35.659 --> 00:36:35.779
 too.

00:36:37.179 --> 00:36:37.539
 Okay.

00:36:37.619 --> 00:36:37.799
 So,

00:36:38.000 --> 00:36:38.639
 how do we hate

00:36:38.639 --> 00:36:39.199
 our own life?

00:36:40.139 --> 00:36:40.319
 Well,

00:36:40.339 --> 00:36:41.139
 I can think of two ways

00:36:41.139 --> 00:36:42.099
 that I hate my own life.

00:36:42.819 --> 00:36:43.500
 One is,

00:36:43.879 --> 00:36:44.460
 that I know,

00:36:44.579 --> 00:36:45.119
 like Romans 7,

00:36:45.159 --> 00:36:45.719
 18 says,

00:36:45.799 --> 00:36:46.439
 that in my flesh

00:36:46.439 --> 00:36:47.219
 doles no good thing.

00:36:48.119 --> 00:36:48.419
 Okay.

00:36:49.779 --> 00:36:50.679
 I love Jesus.

00:36:50.819 --> 00:36:51.439
 He saved me.

00:36:51.739 --> 00:36:52.699
 He gave me a new heart.

00:36:53.960 --> 00:36:55.500
 I rejoice after God

00:36:55.500 --> 00:36:56.619
 in the innermost beauty.

00:36:57.199 --> 00:36:59.039
 But I see another principle

00:36:59.039 --> 00:36:59.500
 in me,

00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:01.559
 that when I want to do

00:37:01.559 --> 00:37:02.179
 what's right,

00:37:02.519 --> 00:37:04.460
 there's another force

00:37:04.460 --> 00:37:05.439
 inside of me

00:37:05.439 --> 00:37:07.659
 that sin.

00:37:07.839 --> 00:37:08.179
 It's important.

00:37:09.159 --> 00:37:10.199
 And I hate that guy.

00:37:10.739 --> 00:37:11.799
 I hate how selfish I am.

00:37:12.659 --> 00:37:13.759
 And I want to be free from it.

00:37:14.199 --> 00:37:15.259
 And I'm confident

00:37:15.259 --> 00:37:16.460
 that the Lord is

00:37:16.460 --> 00:37:18.419
 progressively sanctifying me

00:37:18.419 --> 00:37:18.919
 and giving me

00:37:18.919 --> 00:37:20.139
 increasing victory

00:37:20.139 --> 00:37:22.079
 over that indwelling sin.

00:37:22.460 --> 00:37:22.960
 I don't,

00:37:23.079 --> 00:37:23.899
 I hate that guy, though.

00:37:24.179 --> 00:37:24.679
 I hate him.

00:37:25.779 --> 00:37:26.419
 Any Christian,

00:37:26.420 --> 00:37:27.420
 if you're a Christian,

00:37:27.740 --> 00:37:28.420
 you know exactly

00:37:28.420 --> 00:37:29.220
 what I'm talking about.

00:37:29.900 --> 00:37:30.760
 If you don't,

00:37:31.340 --> 00:37:32.039
 you might need

00:37:32.039 --> 00:37:32.559
 to become a Christian.

00:37:33.139 --> 00:37:34.200
 Because this is evidence

00:37:34.200 --> 00:37:34.960
 of the Holy Spirit

00:37:34.960 --> 00:37:36.039
 as he teaches you

00:37:36.039 --> 00:37:37.099
 to recognize

00:37:37.099 --> 00:37:38.619
 your depravity

00:37:38.619 --> 00:37:39.680
 and hate it.

00:37:40.380 --> 00:37:40.619
 And,

00:37:40.700 --> 00:37:42.440
 in that sense,

00:37:42.639 --> 00:37:43.860
 we hate ourselves.

00:37:43.940 --> 00:37:44.159
 We say,

00:37:44.260 --> 00:37:44.480
 no,

00:37:45.039 --> 00:37:46.559
 I hate that guy.

00:37:46.760 --> 00:37:47.320
 I don't want to have

00:37:47.320 --> 00:37:47.740
 anything to do

00:37:47.740 --> 00:37:48.340
 with that guy.

00:37:49.099 --> 00:37:49.460
 I,

00:37:49.619 --> 00:37:51.260
 I want to live

00:37:51.260 --> 00:37:51.980
 for Jesus now.

00:37:52.059 --> 00:37:52.760
 He's my life.

00:37:52.760 --> 00:37:53.360
 Okay?

00:37:54.860 --> 00:37:55.220
 So,

00:37:55.360 --> 00:37:56.000
 how does this apply

00:37:56.000 --> 00:37:56.520
 to other people?

00:37:56.640 --> 00:37:56.760
 Well,

00:37:56.820 --> 00:37:57.400
 they are

00:37:57.400 --> 00:37:58.260
 just as much

00:37:58.260 --> 00:37:58.940
 a sinner as you are.

00:37:59.300 --> 00:37:59.460
 Okay?

00:38:00.320 --> 00:38:00.520
 So,

00:38:00.560 --> 00:38:01.220
 in the same sense

00:38:01.220 --> 00:38:01.840
 in which I hate

00:38:01.840 --> 00:38:02.660
 my own sin,

00:38:02.860 --> 00:38:04.500
 I can also recognize

00:38:04.500 --> 00:38:05.380
 it in my family.

00:38:05.820 --> 00:38:05.980
 And so,

00:38:06.080 --> 00:38:06.520
 you know what?

00:38:07.440 --> 00:38:08.960
 My self-centered,

00:38:09.240 --> 00:38:11.900
 self-preoccupied

00:38:11.900 --> 00:38:13.000
 infatuation

00:38:13.000 --> 00:38:13.960
 with my own

00:38:13.960 --> 00:38:15.880
 desires,

00:38:16.320 --> 00:38:16.800
 that sin,

00:38:16.800 --> 00:38:19.480
 was sending me

00:38:19.480 --> 00:38:19.860
 to hell.

00:38:21.240 --> 00:38:21.620
 And,

00:38:21.760 --> 00:38:23.539
 they got the same thing

00:38:23.539 --> 00:38:24.260
 and it's sending them

00:38:24.260 --> 00:38:24.640
 to hell.

00:38:25.340 --> 00:38:25.519
 And,

00:38:25.580 --> 00:38:26.039
 I'm not going to have

00:38:26.039 --> 00:38:26.860
 anything to do with it.

00:38:27.240 --> 00:38:27.680
 I'm not going to

00:38:27.680 --> 00:38:28.440
 commiserate with it.

00:38:28.720 --> 00:38:29.519
 I'm not going to

00:38:29.519 --> 00:38:30.720
 sympathize with it.

00:38:32.260 --> 00:38:32.660
 Because,

00:38:32.780 --> 00:38:33.500
 if I sympathize

00:38:33.500 --> 00:38:34.120
 with my own,

00:38:34.620 --> 00:38:35.440
 I'm screwed.

00:38:36.100 --> 00:38:36.600
 You know?

00:38:36.720 --> 00:38:37.800
 I can't sympathize

00:38:37.800 --> 00:38:38.440
 with it anymore.

00:38:39.320 --> 00:38:40.500
 I have to crucify it.

00:38:41.120 --> 00:38:41.480
 And,

00:38:41.600 --> 00:38:42.660
 they need to crucify it too.

00:38:43.500 --> 00:38:43.900
 And so,

00:38:43.980 --> 00:38:44.320
 I'm going to start

00:38:44.320 --> 00:38:45.100
 having more wisdom

00:38:45.100 --> 00:38:46.120
 with how I relate.

00:38:46.800 --> 00:38:49.039
 to their

00:38:49.039 --> 00:38:50.240
 sinful,

00:38:50.760 --> 00:38:51.580
 depraved nature

00:38:51.580 --> 00:38:53.740
 that's pulling them

00:38:53.740 --> 00:38:54.900
 headlong into the pit of hell.

00:38:55.240 --> 00:38:55.460
 And,

00:38:55.519 --> 00:38:56.140
 if they're Christians,

00:38:56.519 --> 00:38:58.420
 they're commanded

00:38:58.420 --> 00:38:59.080
 to be conformed

00:38:59.080 --> 00:38:59.800
 to the image of Jesus.

00:38:59.900 --> 00:39:00.019
 So,

00:39:00.080 --> 00:39:00.500
 I'm not going to

00:39:00.500 --> 00:39:01.039
 commiserate

00:39:01.039 --> 00:39:02.120
 with their sin

00:39:02.120 --> 00:39:03.120
 because it's preventing

00:39:03.120 --> 00:39:03.800
 them from being

00:39:03.800 --> 00:39:04.500
 conformed to the image

00:39:04.500 --> 00:39:04.920
 of Jesus.

00:39:05.500 --> 00:39:05.680
 So,

00:39:06.060 --> 00:39:06.840
 in neither of those

00:39:06.840 --> 00:39:07.620
 two areas am I going

00:39:07.620 --> 00:39:08.100
 to commiserate

00:39:08.100 --> 00:39:08.940
 with their sin anymore

00:39:08.940 --> 00:39:09.460
 because I don't

00:39:09.460 --> 00:39:10.240
 commiserate with my own.

00:39:10.720 --> 00:39:11.120
 Okay?

00:39:11.680 --> 00:39:12.080
 That was,

00:39:12.320 --> 00:39:13.060
 I died to him

00:39:13.060 --> 00:39:13.700
 on the cross.

00:39:14.280 --> 00:39:14.400
 So,

00:39:14.480 --> 00:39:15.039
 I'm therefore

00:39:15.039 --> 00:39:16.340
 commanded to mortify

00:39:16.340 --> 00:39:17.539
 therefore your members

00:39:17.539 --> 00:39:18.460
 which are upon the earth

00:39:18.460 --> 00:39:19.519
 in light of the fact

00:39:19.519 --> 00:39:19.920
 that I,

00:39:20.780 --> 00:39:21.440
 it was mortified

00:39:21.440 --> 00:39:21.840
 on the cross

00:39:21.840 --> 00:39:22.220
 by Jesus.

00:39:22.620 --> 00:39:22.860
 So,

00:39:22.920 --> 00:39:23.600
 that's one sense.

00:39:23.760 --> 00:39:23.940
 Okay?

00:39:25.079 --> 00:39:25.480
 Hating

00:39:25.480 --> 00:39:27.380
 our sinful nature

00:39:27.380 --> 00:39:28.120
 in ourselves

00:39:28.120 --> 00:39:29.059
 and in others

00:39:29.059 --> 00:39:30.460
 and stopping

00:39:30.460 --> 00:39:31.559
 commiserating with them.

00:39:31.840 --> 00:39:32.000
 You know?

00:39:32.380 --> 00:39:32.500
 And,

00:39:32.500 --> 00:39:33.700
 the second is

00:39:33.700 --> 00:39:36.940
 order of morals.

00:39:37.700 --> 00:39:38.860
 Order of loves.

00:39:38.860 --> 00:39:42.460
 I naturally

00:39:42.460 --> 00:39:43.800
 love myself

00:39:43.800 --> 00:39:44.900
 above everything.

00:39:46.019 --> 00:39:46.980
 That's the basic

00:39:46.980 --> 00:39:47.720
 default

00:39:47.720 --> 00:39:48.740
 human setting.

00:39:49.360 --> 00:39:50.099
 Me first.

00:39:51.160 --> 00:39:51.900
 Everyone else

00:39:51.900 --> 00:39:52.820
 can take a hike.

00:39:54.240 --> 00:39:55.220
 That's the default.

00:39:55.480 --> 00:39:55.860
 Clean God.

00:39:56.579 --> 00:39:57.079
 Okay?

00:39:57.260 --> 00:39:57.800
 Well,

00:39:57.820 --> 00:39:58.160
 that's wicked.

00:39:58.940 --> 00:39:59.840
 When God comes

00:39:59.840 --> 00:40:00.460
 into our life,

00:40:00.720 --> 00:40:02.000
 he completely flips it

00:40:02.000 --> 00:40:02.720
 around and it's

00:40:02.720 --> 00:40:03.760
 me first,

00:40:03.880 --> 00:40:04.079
 son.

00:40:04.079 --> 00:40:07.019
 I'm number one

00:40:07.019 --> 00:40:09.779
 and everything else

00:40:09.779 --> 00:40:11.679
 finds its right place

00:40:11.679 --> 00:40:12.539
 when I'm number one.

00:40:13.139 --> 00:40:13.340
 Okay?

00:40:13.400 --> 00:40:13.500
 So,

00:40:13.539 --> 00:40:14.380
 it's order of affection.

00:40:14.699 --> 00:40:14.819
 So,

00:40:15.360 --> 00:40:16.480
 in that sense,

00:40:17.279 --> 00:40:19.139
 I hate myself.

00:40:19.279 --> 00:40:19.519
 I say,

00:40:19.619 --> 00:40:19.819
 no,

00:40:20.219 --> 00:40:20.920
 I don't want anything

00:40:20.920 --> 00:40:21.559
 to do with that

00:40:21.559 --> 00:40:22.099
 selfish,

00:40:22.279 --> 00:40:22.840
 self-centered,

00:40:23.699 --> 00:40:25.719
 wicked guy

00:40:25.719 --> 00:40:26.480
 who makes him

00:40:26.480 --> 00:40:27.340
 the God of himself

00:40:27.340 --> 00:40:27.860
 and the God

00:40:27.860 --> 00:40:28.639
 of his whole life.

00:40:29.199 --> 00:40:29.519
 No.

00:40:31.000 --> 00:40:31.400
 Self

00:40:31.400 --> 00:40:32.599
 off the throne.

00:40:33.059 --> 00:40:33.980
 Jesus on the throne.

00:40:35.000 --> 00:40:35.159
 Well,

00:40:35.179 --> 00:40:35.719
 in the same way,

00:40:35.799 --> 00:40:36.279
 everyone else

00:40:36.279 --> 00:40:36.900
 is the same.

00:40:37.079 --> 00:40:37.279
 Like,

00:40:37.319 --> 00:40:37.599
 they're just,

00:40:37.799 --> 00:40:39.139
 they're preoccupied

00:40:39.139 --> 00:40:39.759
 with themselves,

00:40:40.199 --> 00:40:40.480
 you know?

00:40:40.719 --> 00:40:41.219
 And so,

00:40:41.299 --> 00:40:41.440
 no,

00:40:41.500 --> 00:40:42.440
 I'm not going to make them,

00:40:43.000 --> 00:40:44.339
 I'm not going to

00:40:44.339 --> 00:40:45.139
 let them be God.

00:40:45.460 --> 00:40:46.480
 And there's a tendency,

00:40:46.960 --> 00:40:47.159
 you know,

00:40:47.299 --> 00:40:47.539
 just,

00:40:48.379 --> 00:40:49.940
 we're not selfless

00:40:49.940 --> 00:40:50.619
 in our affection

00:40:50.619 --> 00:40:51.179
 with our family.

00:40:51.299 --> 00:40:51.879
 I guess that's part

00:40:51.879 --> 00:40:52.239
 of the point.

00:40:52.339 --> 00:40:53.460
 This natural affection

00:40:53.460 --> 00:40:53.960
 and connection

00:40:53.960 --> 00:40:54.599
 we have with family,

00:40:54.920 --> 00:40:56.139
 it has to do with self.

00:40:56.199 --> 00:40:56.980
 It's what I get

00:40:56.980 --> 00:40:57.779
 out of my family.

00:40:58.639 --> 00:40:59.480
 It doesn't have anything

00:40:59.480 --> 00:41:00.739
 to do with God

00:41:00.739 --> 00:41:01.799
 and what he gets out of them.

00:41:01.859 --> 00:41:02.619
 It's all about me.

00:41:04.059 --> 00:41:04.279
 And so,

00:41:04.420 --> 00:41:04.900
 in that sense,

00:41:04.940 --> 00:41:05.460
 I don't know if I'm making

00:41:05.460 --> 00:41:05.819
 that clear,

00:41:05.980 --> 00:41:06.639
 I think I'm bouncing

00:41:06.639 --> 00:41:07.199
 around a little bit.

00:41:07.799 --> 00:41:08.119
 It's,

00:41:08.980 --> 00:41:09.859
 I hate them

00:41:09.859 --> 00:41:11.219
 in the sense

00:41:11.219 --> 00:41:11.739
 that I'm

00:41:11.739 --> 00:41:13.639
 not letting them

00:41:13.639 --> 00:41:14.460
 be chief of my

00:41:14.460 --> 00:41:15.239
 affections anymore.

00:41:15.500 --> 00:41:16.319
 Just like I don't let

00:41:16.319 --> 00:41:17.199
 myself be the chief

00:41:17.199 --> 00:41:18.039
 of my affection anymore.

00:41:18.299 --> 00:41:19.199
 I don't let my family

00:41:19.199 --> 00:41:20.000
 be the chief of my

00:41:20.000 --> 00:41:20.719
 affection anymore.

00:41:21.619 --> 00:41:22.639
 They both get taken

00:41:22.639 --> 00:41:23.219
 off the throne.

00:41:23.799 --> 00:41:24.699
 Jesus is on the throne.

00:41:25.179 --> 00:41:25.339
 So,

00:41:25.500 --> 00:41:25.679
 anyway,

00:41:25.980 --> 00:41:26.679
 I think that there's

00:41:26.679 --> 00:41:27.480
 two senses in which

00:41:27.480 --> 00:41:28.179
 I think we can say,

00:41:28.259 --> 00:41:28.420
 hey,

00:41:28.639 --> 00:41:29.299
 and I think it

00:41:29.299 --> 00:41:30.159
 maintains the

00:41:30.159 --> 00:41:31.960
 strongness of the

00:41:31.960 --> 00:41:32.920
 language that he uses.

00:41:32.920 --> 00:41:33.940
 It's actually hate.

00:41:34.480 --> 00:41:34.759
 Okay?

00:41:35.239 --> 00:41:35.859
 It's not,

00:41:35.980 --> 00:41:36.719
 you know,

00:41:37.339 --> 00:41:38.859
 really disparate

00:41:38.859 --> 00:41:39.460
 affections.

00:41:39.559 --> 00:41:40.400
 It's actually hate.

00:41:40.859 --> 00:41:41.960
 Because the two things

00:41:41.960 --> 00:41:42.639
 he's pointing out

00:41:42.639 --> 00:41:43.179
 have to do with

00:41:43.179 --> 00:41:43.920
 idolatry

00:41:43.920 --> 00:41:45.400
 and our depravity.

00:41:45.799 --> 00:41:46.579
 And we are supposed

00:41:46.579 --> 00:41:47.199
 to hate those

00:41:47.199 --> 00:41:47.599
 and get those

00:41:47.599 --> 00:41:48.719
 completely out of

00:41:48.719 --> 00:41:50.039
 the ruling

00:41:50.039 --> 00:41:51.679
 seat on our hearts.

00:41:51.679 --> 00:41:54.679
 Okay.

00:41:55.239 --> 00:41:55.919
 I'm going to burn

00:41:55.919 --> 00:41:56.319
 through these

00:41:56.319 --> 00:41:57.000
 a little bit faster.

00:41:57.159 --> 00:41:57.319
 Okay.

00:41:58.079 --> 00:41:58.919
 Next objection.

00:41:59.619 --> 00:42:00.779
 My first ministry,

00:42:00.899 --> 00:42:01.879
 my primary responsibility

00:42:01.879 --> 00:42:02.759
 is to love and care

00:42:02.759 --> 00:42:03.379
 for my family.

00:42:03.839 --> 00:42:04.819
 How can I obey

00:42:04.819 --> 00:42:05.299
 this command

00:42:05.299 --> 00:42:06.259
 about hitting my family

00:42:06.259 --> 00:42:06.919
 and following Jesus?

00:42:07.059 --> 00:42:07.940
 It seems like a contradiction.

00:42:08.460 --> 00:42:09.519
 It's not a contradiction

00:42:09.519 --> 00:42:10.839
 because what they

00:42:10.839 --> 00:42:11.559
 actually need

00:42:11.559 --> 00:42:12.480
 is Christ's love.

00:42:12.839 --> 00:42:13.500
 What they need

00:42:13.500 --> 00:42:14.480
 is the Lord Jesus

00:42:14.480 --> 00:42:15.859
 to love them

00:42:15.859 --> 00:42:16.599
 through you.

00:42:17.239 --> 00:42:18.059
 All the commands

00:42:18.059 --> 00:42:18.659
 of the New Testament

00:42:18.659 --> 00:42:20.319
 about loving our family,

00:42:20.659 --> 00:42:21.579
 caring for our family,

00:42:21.880 --> 00:42:22.619
 Ephesians 5,

00:42:22.759 --> 00:42:23.839
 husbands loving your wives,

00:42:23.940 --> 00:42:24.799
 laying down your lives for,

00:42:25.039 --> 00:42:25.699
 wives submitting

00:42:25.699 --> 00:42:26.480
 to your husbands,

00:42:26.960 --> 00:42:27.199
 you know,

00:42:27.420 --> 00:42:30.599
 parents raising

00:42:30.599 --> 00:42:31.039
 your children,

00:42:31.179 --> 00:42:32.559
 children obeying

00:42:32.559 --> 00:42:32.980
 your parents,

00:42:33.019 --> 00:42:33.739
 all this stuff.

00:42:35.519 --> 00:42:36.259
 It's only,

00:42:36.679 --> 00:42:37.179
 you're only able

00:42:37.179 --> 00:42:37.819
 to obey it

00:42:37.819 --> 00:42:38.719
 through Jesus.

00:42:39.239 --> 00:42:39.519
 Okay.

00:42:40.079 --> 00:42:41.119
 He's the provision

00:42:41.119 --> 00:42:42.099
 for that love

00:42:42.099 --> 00:42:43.319
 and the accomplishing

00:42:43.319 --> 00:42:44.139
 of that commandment.

00:42:44.599 --> 00:42:45.539
 So how it works is

00:42:45.539 --> 00:42:46.339
 we give Jesus

00:42:46.340 --> 00:42:47.019
 first place

00:42:47.019 --> 00:42:49.620
 and he leads us

00:42:49.620 --> 00:42:50.140
 into obedience

00:42:50.140 --> 00:42:50.980
 to all those commandments.

00:42:51.280 --> 00:42:52.059
 He cares about them

00:42:52.059 --> 00:42:53.200
 way more than we do.

00:42:53.940 --> 00:42:55.440
 So we ought not think

00:42:55.440 --> 00:42:56.620
 that we need to contradict,

00:42:57.500 --> 00:42:57.740
 you know,

00:42:57.880 --> 00:42:58.880
 or set these two commandments

00:42:58.880 --> 00:42:59.680
 against each other.

00:42:59.860 --> 00:43:00.300
 This is actually

00:43:00.300 --> 00:43:01.019
 the fulfillment of it.

00:43:01.180 --> 00:43:02.000
 This is how Jesus

00:43:02.000 --> 00:43:03.720
 fulfills his command

00:43:03.720 --> 00:43:04.400
 to love people

00:43:04.400 --> 00:43:05.559
 by coming inside

00:43:05.559 --> 00:43:06.539
 our selfish heart

00:43:06.539 --> 00:43:07.640
 and loving people.

00:43:08.100 --> 00:43:08.940
 The delusion is

00:43:08.940 --> 00:43:09.460
 that we think

00:43:09.460 --> 00:43:10.240
 that we can actually

00:43:10.240 --> 00:43:11.300
 love people without God.

00:43:11.740 --> 00:43:12.500
 We don't.

00:43:12.620 --> 00:43:12.740
 Okay.

00:43:12.820 --> 00:43:13.240
 We're selfish.

00:43:13.360 --> 00:43:14.059
 We're super self-centered.

00:43:14.420 --> 00:43:14.880
 We're in it

00:43:14.880 --> 00:43:15.480
 for ourselves.

00:43:15.760 --> 00:43:16.019
 Okay.

00:43:17.160 --> 00:43:18.500
 I will love you

00:43:18.500 --> 00:43:19.539
 and do you good

00:43:19.539 --> 00:43:20.780
 as long as you do me good.

00:43:21.980 --> 00:43:22.460
 Okay.

00:43:22.700 --> 00:43:24.460
 That's the extent

00:43:24.460 --> 00:43:25.920
 of self-centered love.

00:43:26.320 --> 00:43:27.200
 As soon as you

00:43:27.200 --> 00:43:28.180
 stop doing me good,

00:43:28.300 --> 00:43:28.660
 you're done.

00:43:29.880 --> 00:43:31.240
 Jesus is not like that.

00:43:31.900 --> 00:43:32.740
 Those whom he loved,

00:43:32.840 --> 00:43:34.780
 he loved to end.

00:43:35.579 --> 00:43:36.120
 And that's what

00:43:36.120 --> 00:43:36.840
 our family needs.

00:43:37.220 --> 00:43:37.360
 Okay.

00:43:37.380 --> 00:43:38.100
 They don't need our love.

00:43:39.220 --> 00:43:40.000
 The other objection,

00:43:40.100 --> 00:43:41.019
 I've heard this a lot actually,

00:43:41.019 --> 00:43:42.800
 is this only applies

00:43:42.800 --> 00:43:44.200
 to unbelieving families,

00:43:44.340 --> 00:43:45.060
 not believers.

00:43:45.780 --> 00:43:46.019
 All right.

00:43:46.220 --> 00:43:46.900
 Why would you ever need

00:43:46.900 --> 00:43:47.940
 to hate or forsake

00:43:47.940 --> 00:43:49.019
 your believing family?

00:43:49.160 --> 00:43:50.519
 That has to be in reference

00:43:50.519 --> 00:43:51.840
 to pagans

00:43:51.840 --> 00:43:53.660
 who don't believe in God

00:43:53.660 --> 00:43:54.560
 and because you decide

00:43:54.560 --> 00:43:55.300
 to follow Jesus,

00:43:55.440 --> 00:43:55.980
 you have to,

00:43:55.980 --> 00:43:56.519
 you know,

00:43:56.580 --> 00:43:56.900
 separate.

00:43:57.220 --> 00:43:57.440
 Well,

00:43:57.620 --> 00:43:59.039
 that's obviously true too,

00:43:59.300 --> 00:44:00.140
 but he doesn't say anything

00:44:00.140 --> 00:44:00.800
 about the quality

00:44:00.800 --> 00:44:01.360
 of these people.

00:44:01.440 --> 00:44:01.840
 He just says,

00:44:01.940 --> 00:44:02.400
 they're family.

00:44:02.960 --> 00:44:03.720
 It has to do with

00:44:03.720 --> 00:44:05.360
 the place they hold

00:44:05.360 --> 00:44:06.240
 in our affections.

00:44:06.239 --> 00:44:09.239
 So,

00:44:09.500 --> 00:44:09.739
 anyway,

00:44:10.779 --> 00:44:12.739
 the last is,

00:44:13.179 --> 00:44:14.500
 I really want my family,

00:44:15.359 --> 00:44:15.519
 you know,

00:44:15.599 --> 00:44:17.000
 unbelieving or unchurched Christians,

00:44:17.119 --> 00:44:18.500
 I want them to follow Jesus

00:44:18.500 --> 00:44:20.699
 and this just doesn't seem

00:44:20.699 --> 00:44:21.679
 like a winsome approach.

00:44:22.959 --> 00:44:23.199
 Okay.

00:44:24.319 --> 00:44:25.779
 I would encourage us all

00:44:25.779 --> 00:44:27.239
 to consider the example

00:44:27.239 --> 00:44:27.859
 of Jesus.

00:44:29.039 --> 00:44:29.959
 Following Jesus

00:44:29.959 --> 00:44:30.719
 is not just

00:44:30.719 --> 00:44:32.519
 an abstract thing

00:44:32.519 --> 00:44:33.779
 that we just sort of imagine

00:44:33.779 --> 00:44:34.939
 and come up with our own idea

00:44:34.939 --> 00:44:35.719
 of what that looks like.

00:44:35.719 --> 00:44:37.819
 We have real examples

00:44:37.819 --> 00:44:41.219
 of what Jesus did.

00:44:42.159 --> 00:44:43.039
 We're commanded

00:44:43.039 --> 00:44:43.659
 to follow

00:44:43.659 --> 00:44:45.599
 his example

00:44:45.599 --> 00:44:47.179
 of what he did.

00:44:48.359 --> 00:44:48.519
 So,

00:44:48.919 --> 00:44:50.099
 my question is,

00:44:50.619 --> 00:44:51.339
 are you trying

00:44:51.339 --> 00:44:52.419
 to be more winsome

00:44:52.419 --> 00:44:54.259
 than the Lord Jesus Christ

00:44:54.259 --> 00:44:55.419
 with how you approach

00:44:55.419 --> 00:44:56.379
 missions in your family?

00:44:57.319 --> 00:44:58.419
 And if the answer is yes,

00:44:59.439 --> 00:45:00.219
 then you need to repent.

00:45:00.659 --> 00:45:00.799
 Okay.

00:45:01.559 --> 00:45:02.439
 God's in the business

00:45:02.439 --> 00:45:03.159
 of saving people.

00:45:03.359 --> 00:45:04.000
 We're in the business

00:45:04.000 --> 00:45:04.839
 of obeying Jesus

00:45:04.839 --> 00:45:05.639
 and being faithful.

00:45:06.239 --> 00:45:06.339
 Okay.

00:45:07.000 --> 00:45:07.739
 Sometimes we're trying

00:45:07.739 --> 00:45:08.379
 to do both

00:45:08.379 --> 00:45:10.679
 and then we're forced

00:45:10.679 --> 00:45:11.819
 into compromising

00:45:11.819 --> 00:45:13.359
 for long seasons of time.

00:45:13.459 --> 00:45:14.019
 I know this

00:45:14.019 --> 00:45:14.879
 from personal experience.

00:45:15.839 --> 00:45:16.000
 Okay.

00:45:16.259 --> 00:45:16.559
 So,

00:45:17.099 --> 00:45:18.659
 that's about it.

00:45:18.739 --> 00:45:19.179
 I'm going to run

00:45:19.179 --> 00:45:20.399
 through a few exhortations.

00:45:21.759 --> 00:45:22.659
 Exhortation number one

00:45:22.659 --> 00:45:23.559
 is specifically

00:45:23.559 --> 00:45:24.219
 for our church,

00:45:24.279 --> 00:45:24.619
 just praying

00:45:24.619 --> 00:45:25.179
 through our church.

00:45:25.179 --> 00:45:27.139
 I think these are meaningful

00:45:27.139 --> 00:45:27.799
 and they have bearing

00:45:27.799 --> 00:45:28.219
 on us.

00:45:28.779 --> 00:45:29.559
 Number one is

00:45:29.559 --> 00:45:30.699
 we just have to pick

00:45:30.699 --> 00:45:32.619
 family first

00:45:32.619 --> 00:45:33.519
 or Jesus first.

00:45:34.099 --> 00:45:34.319
 Okay.

00:45:34.579 --> 00:45:35.500
 You can't solve

00:45:35.500 --> 00:45:36.119
 doing both.

00:45:36.199 --> 00:45:36.799
 You cannot solve

00:45:36.799 --> 00:45:37.259
 that equation.

00:45:37.359 --> 00:45:38.519
 It's an unsolvable equation.

00:45:38.519 --> 00:45:39.519
 you have to pick

00:45:39.519 --> 00:45:41.000
 one or the other.

00:45:41.539 --> 00:45:41.820
 Okay.

00:45:42.239 --> 00:45:43.519
 That's how he calls it out.

00:45:43.759 --> 00:45:44.579
 That's what our response

00:45:44.579 --> 00:45:45.019
 has to be.

00:45:47.079 --> 00:45:47.519
 Second,

00:45:47.780 --> 00:45:48.380
 believers' families

00:45:48.380 --> 00:45:49.019
 are not exempt.

00:45:49.139 --> 00:45:50.320
 This does not just apply

00:45:50.320 --> 00:45:51.300
 to unbelieving families.

00:45:51.539 --> 00:45:52.639
 This just applies

00:45:52.639 --> 00:45:53.940
 to all Christians

00:45:53.940 --> 00:45:55.119
 and all families.

00:45:55.360 --> 00:45:55.820
 You can have

00:45:55.820 --> 00:45:57.079
 the most God-honoring,

00:45:57.639 --> 00:45:59.480
 gospel-glorifying family

00:45:59.480 --> 00:46:00.179
 on the face

00:46:00.179 --> 00:46:00.699
 of the planet

00:46:00.699 --> 00:46:01.920
 and you still

00:46:01.920 --> 00:46:03.059
 have to do this.

00:46:03.840 --> 00:46:04.659
 It doesn't matter

00:46:04.659 --> 00:46:05.539
 how good the person is,

00:46:05.579 --> 00:46:06.019
 they're not God.

00:46:06.960 --> 00:46:07.199
 Okay.

00:46:07.559 --> 00:46:07.960
 Jesus,

00:46:08.840 --> 00:46:09.920
 there's only one Jesus.

00:46:10.340 --> 00:46:11.380
 He's Lord of our heart.

00:46:11.739 --> 00:46:12.000
 Okay.

00:46:12.380 --> 00:46:13.440
 So he brings division

00:46:13.440 --> 00:46:14.699
 and he brings it

00:46:14.699 --> 00:46:15.880
 in the best of families.

00:46:16.559 --> 00:46:17.480
 So let him do it.

00:46:18.219 --> 00:46:18.599
 Second,

00:46:18.759 --> 00:46:19.239
 don't be ashamed

00:46:19.239 --> 00:46:19.980
 of Christ's words

00:46:19.980 --> 00:46:21.079
 and the division they cause.

00:46:22.219 --> 00:46:22.920
 We've already talked

00:46:22.920 --> 00:46:23.559
 about that a lot,

00:46:23.679 --> 00:46:24.420
 but just I want to

00:46:24.420 --> 00:46:24.980
 admonish us

00:46:24.980 --> 00:46:25.880
 not to do that.

00:46:27.940 --> 00:46:29.099
 This is how we,

00:46:29.159 --> 00:46:30.320
 this is how we

00:46:30.320 --> 00:46:31.279
 quench the spirit

00:46:31.279 --> 00:46:32.480
 is by

00:46:32.480 --> 00:46:34.880
 making the primary value

00:46:34.880 --> 00:46:36.480
 for our familial relationships

00:46:36.480 --> 00:46:37.719
 being having a happy,

00:46:37.920 --> 00:46:38.260
 good time

00:46:38.260 --> 00:46:39.300
 without any conflict.

00:46:39.800 --> 00:46:40.579
 That's not good.

00:46:41.260 --> 00:46:41.840
 Jesus is here

00:46:41.840 --> 00:46:42.519
 to bring conflict

00:46:42.519 --> 00:46:43.179
 for the salvation

00:46:43.179 --> 00:46:44.300
 of all of our souls.

00:46:45.019 --> 00:46:45.900
 Remember all the conflict

00:46:45.900 --> 00:46:47.119
 we had when we got saved.

00:46:47.400 --> 00:46:47.559
 Okay.

00:46:47.960 --> 00:46:48.360
 Like,

00:46:48.420 --> 00:46:49.179
 do we think that

00:46:49.179 --> 00:46:50.159
 that's just magically

00:46:50.159 --> 00:46:51.280
 not going to happen with him?

00:46:51.480 --> 00:46:52.940
 Especially when Jesus promises

00:46:52.940 --> 00:46:53.460
 and says,

00:46:53.679 --> 00:46:53.840
 hey,

00:46:53.940 --> 00:46:55.280
 this is how it's going to go.

00:46:55.340 --> 00:46:56.300
 There's going to be conflict.

00:46:57.079 --> 00:46:57.519
 Okay.

00:46:58.000 --> 00:46:59.659
 So we should just be okay

00:46:59.659 --> 00:47:00.039
 with that.

00:47:00.860 --> 00:47:06.119
 I think I'm going to stop.

00:47:06.920 --> 00:47:07.759
 Those are all the

00:47:07.759 --> 00:47:08.659
 expectations I have.

00:47:08.759 --> 00:47:09.239
 I just won't frame.

00:47:09.239 --> 00:47:09.300
 Okay.

00:47:09.300 --> 00:47:09.539
 Let's go.

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