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 our way through a series on biblical counseling for everybody.

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 And so I'll pray for us, and then we can get moving.

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 So let's pray together.

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 Lord, we thank You for this time.

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 We thank You for the opportunity to gather.

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 And we pray now that You would help us as we look at Your Word

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 and try to understand more and more how to be people who come alongside one another

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 to support one another, encourage one another,

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 help one another step more and more towards maturity in Christ.

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 So we ask for that help by the Spirit.

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 In Jesus' name, Amen.

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 All right, so there's a handout.

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 Simon's got handouts at the back if you need one.

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 All right, so we have been working through,

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 trying to understand more and more some principles,

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 some practical tips on how to come alongside one another

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 as Christian friends, counselors,

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 people who support one another in the walk of faith.

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 And so our goal in this series is just to grow into that more and more.

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 So tonight what we're going to do is begin a case study.

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 We'll do one case study tonight,

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 and I'll be teaching in this series two or three more times,

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 and every time I'm going to do a case study.

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 So a case study of examining a particular issue,

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 some of the most common issues I'll pick,

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 and we'll try to look at how might you help somebody else walk through that issue as a Christian.

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 So some ways to think about it and look at it,

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 really just applying some of the things Ryan talked about last time.

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 All right, so let's get into it.

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 The case study tonight is going to be dealing with the problem of self-esteem and ego,

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 which is a universal issue according to Genesis 3.

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 So let's think about that together.

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 But first let me just remind you of a couple things we've said already

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 just to kind of reorient into what we're doing here.

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 We are dealing with something that's very similar to the issue of evangelism,

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 and that's that a lot of times in church we get the sense that,

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 we've had the sense maybe in the past that ministers are the primary ones doing the work of ministry,

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 evangelism, counseling, meeting people's spiritual needs.

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 And I've got here printed Ephesians 4, 11 to 12,

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 and it says here that Jesus gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds, and teachers

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 to equip the saints for the work of ministry.

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 So here we see very explicit instructions from Paul

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 that tell us that all the times God gives gifts to people in the church to lead the church,

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 from the time of the apostles to evangelists to the missionary evangelists like Paul

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 to the prophets, which is just a preacher really, teachers.

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 He gives gifts not so that the people with the gifts will do all the ministry,

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 but so that the people will example the ministry for everybody to do, to equip all the saints.

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 So if you're a Christian tonight, it's your job, our job together,

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 to do the work of ministry, to do it all together.

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 That's what we learn here.

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 And so Richard Baxter here says, this is his reflection.

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 This is a 17th century minister.

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 It was quite famous at the time, English minister.

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 He says,

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 Counseling is for resolving our doubts,

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 helping against our sins,

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 helping fight our sins,

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 for direction in our duties,

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 and for an increase of knowledge of saving grace.

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 So he's saying that we're all meant to come alongside one of each other for at least those purposes.

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 And that's a calling that's universal,

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 that comes across the whole church.

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 And so we said in week one that there is a gap in our lives.

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 For all of us, we all feel this gap between who we are right now,

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 the negative emotions you experience,

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 the ways that you struggle with pride or a sin pattern that you know in your life right now,

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 in the person you will one day be in Jesus Christ.

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 So one day,

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 every single issue that you struggle with that is sucking away your joy,

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 will be gone.

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 One day.

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 So there's a gap.

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 When Christ comes to get you,

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 he will renew you so fully,

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 that you will be so full of joy,

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 that you will only have faint memories of the problems you used to face.

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 Now what counseling is there for,

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 is to help us in the path of sanctification.

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 What we're trying to do is to close that gap as much as we can in this life, right?

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 That's sanctification.

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 Moving from being called justification to the moment of glorification,

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 where we will become fully like Jesus.

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 We want to close that gap as much as we can.

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 Not simply to make progress,

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 not simply to check that off our to-do list,

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 not out of performance,

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 but because actually you can have joy.

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 You can have real joy the more you grow.

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 And so we're trying to help each other grow.

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 That's really all we're talking about in this series.

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 And so Hebrews 3.13 gives you a really explicit command about that.

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 So if we want to ask, where do we get this from in the Bible?

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 Hebrews 3.13, which is, Hebrews is a sermon, right?

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 And the preacher says to the church in Hebrews 3,

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 exhort one another every day as long as it is called today.

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 In other words, he's saying,

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 while you have today, exhort one another.

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 Now, exhort sounds like a negative word,

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 but it's the Greek word parakaleo.

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 And the Greek word parakaleo simply means

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 one who comes alongside somebody else and walks with them.

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 So the paraclete in the New Testament is who?

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 The Holy Spirit.

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 Yeah, so exactly.

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 We're being told in a way that's similar to the way God comes,

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 the Spirit ministers to us,

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 that we are charged to come alongside other people

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 and minister to them.

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 And so we're just calling that counseling.

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 Parakaleo, one another.

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 Come alongside one another.

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 That's it.

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 And so we want to universalize this.

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 We want everybody in our church to have a dear Christian friend

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 that they are walking alongside in their life,

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 that's talking with them about their issues,

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 that you're able to confess your sins to one another,

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 you're able to grow together in the same direction.

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 That's all this really means.

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 So let's think about this case study.

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 How can you help somebody?

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 And, of course, ourselves.

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 This applies to all of us,

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 but we're trying to think how we can help other people

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 with the issue of esteem, self-esteem and ego.

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 So the first, I've just listed some things to pay attention to here.

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 There's eight.

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 The first couple are prerequisites.

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 First couple things are,

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 before we deal and help other people in our lives,

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 we need to be in a path where we are focusing on our own devotional life.

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 That's really all.

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 So number one,

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 we must be actively addressing our own negative emotions

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 and devotion before God in order to help other people.

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 So all I mean by that is

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 not,

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 are you extremely spiritually mature

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 and therefore ready to walk alongside somebody else in the Christian life?

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 That's not the question here at all or the idea here at all.

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 Instead,

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 are you limping with the Lord

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 in a forward-facing direction?

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 Limping, struggling forward.

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 That's really the idea.

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 So do you have a fight in you for a devotional life?

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 Do you have a fight in you to know yourself enough to say,

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 these are my idols?

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 Do you have enough fight right now in your heart to say,

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 I'm able to look at myself and recognize the hidden sins?

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 So, and I want that.

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 That's all we're talking about.

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 A real life,

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 not of total victory,

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 because that's glorification,

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 but a life where you are intentionally seeking sanctification.

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 So that's where we've got to be.

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 That's a prereq for being able to help other people.

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 So as long as we can sit alongside somebody else

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 who's walking the path of the Christian life,

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 but maybe struggling and say,

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 me too.

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 This is how I've been fighting that.

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 This is how I've been dealing with that.

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 That's really what we're talking about here.

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 Now secondly,

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 remember the principles of

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 parakaleo,

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 of coming alongside one another.

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 Number two.

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 Now I'm not going to go through these

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 because this is what we did

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 the first couple meetups for this series.

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 But I'll just list them.

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 Number one,

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 come and meet with Christian friends,

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 quick to listen,

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 active listening,

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 ready to hear.

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 Number two,

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 pray for compassion and understanding

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 prior to meeting with them.

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 Be very intentional about that.

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 Number three,

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 meet them where they are.

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 So don't be surprised by their lack of growth.

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 You know,

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 so if somebody confesses something to you

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 and you immediately,

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 it's like,

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 goodness gracious,

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 you know,

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 that doesn't,

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 they don't want to meet with you anymore.

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 Okay.

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 They're,

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 they feel like they've,

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 they've been the object of your gaze.

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 They want somebody who can say,

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 I want to help.

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 I want to walk alongside you in this.

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 Number four,

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 remember the goal.

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 The goal is encouragement,

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 building up.

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 The goal is to help them take a step.

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 Your dear friend,

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 to take a step towards Christ.

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 Trust,

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 however that might look.

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 Number five,

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 be ready to carry their burden with them.

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 To say,

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 you know,

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 I'll,

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 I'll stick with you in this as long as it takes,

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 as long as you want me to.

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 Number six,

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 be trustworthy.

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 It's between you and them.

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 It's,

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 it's just you guys.

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 Only expand that circle if they're,

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 if they want you to,

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 if you ask permission.

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 And then number seven,

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 remember that all scripture is useful.

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 So we've got to have some ability.

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 So this is where the counseling comes in.

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 This is where the parakaleoing really becomes effective.

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 It's an ability to take the Bible

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 and to take God's word

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 and apply it to people's lives.

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 So some ability,

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 not,

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 not like you've been to seminary,

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 nothing like that,

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 not at all,

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 but simply,

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 and sometimes you go to seminary

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 and you,

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 you walk away

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 and you're not as good as you were before.

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 Maybe,

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 but an ability,

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 a heartfelt ability to take a text

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 and to help somebody else feel,

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 feel the power of that text for them.

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 So that's,

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 that's what we mean by case study.

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 Okay.

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 So let's talk about the problem

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 for 15 minutes of esteem and ego.

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 What is that problem?

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 So we're listening to a dear friend.

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 We're looking at our own hearts.

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 We're recognizing a problem

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 with what is called self-esteem.

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 Okay.

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 Let me try,

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 let's see if anybody's willing.

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 What do you,

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 what do we mean by,

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 what do you think of?

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 I should ask,

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 let me ask it this way.

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 What do you think of

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 when I mentioned the problem

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 of esteem and ego?

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 Any synonyms,

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 any just single word answers

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 or a full sentence,

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 either way,

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 but any thoughts?

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 Pride,

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 yeah.

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 So pride or despair.

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 Yeah.

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 Pride and despair.

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 Yeah.

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 I think that's,

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 that's insightful.

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 Come back around to that.

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 Yep.

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 You can have low self-esteem

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 and feel so inferior

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 that it becomes

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 an inferiority complex,

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 which is a reverse type

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 of pride,

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 right?

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 Yeah.

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 Good.

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 Yeah.

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 Really good,

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 thoughtful answers there.

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 So all we mean by this

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 is the problem of esteem.

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 What is esteem?

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 Esteem is estimation,

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 right?

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 There's a family of words there,

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 and it means the,

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 the,

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 the inward look at yourself

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 to ask the question,

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 do I have value?

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 So when you esteem yourself,

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 the most basic sense of that word

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 etymologically is,

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 am I valuable?

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 Do I have value?

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 And you can have high self-esteem,

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 right?

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 Which is very obvious,

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 big,

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 boastful pride,

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 right?

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 So we,

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 we know somebody,

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 we know if we're listening

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 carefully to a friend,

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 if we're walking

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 alongside them,

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 we can usually recognize

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 pretty obviously

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 if they struggle

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 with boasting.

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 That's a sure sign

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 of a,

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 of a high self-esteem issue.

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 Another sign would be

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 constantly turning

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 conversations

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 back to themselves.

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 Another sign would be

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 one-upmanship,

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 right?

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 So a constant need

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 to tell a better story

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 than the story

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 you just told.

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 And we can think

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 of hundreds of more ways

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 where high self-esteem,

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 arrogant self-esteem,

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 a high regard of self

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 comes out very clearly

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 and very explicitly.

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 And then,

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 like Jean mentioned,

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 you can have a very low

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 view of self.

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 So,

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 some,

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 some folks really struggle

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 with self-loathing

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 and self-hatred

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 and they're asking

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 the question,

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 am I worth anything?

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 Am I valuable?

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 And so we're always running,

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 every single person,

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 so the reason I chose this

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 is because there's nobody

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 that's not running

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 this rat race,

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 alright?

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 There's nobody

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 that's not on this hamster wheel.

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 It's just where are you

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 with it?

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 That's all.

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 So there's a sense

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 in which we never graduate

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 from being

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 psychological S1s.

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 It's a psychological S1.

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 It's where you walk

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 into every room

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 and you think,

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 what does everybody

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 in this room

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 think about me?

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 Right?

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 That's the psychology

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 of an S1.

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 And,

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 and that's,

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 that's true of all of us

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 in a sense.

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 So that happens at work,

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 that happens in the local church,

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 that happens.

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 And you better believe

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 that ministers are incredibly prone.

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 Better believe that,

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 that they're in the hamster race

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 and the rat race,

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 hamster wheel and rat race

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 every week of,

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 I'm only as valuable

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 as the sermon was

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 last weekend.

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 Right?

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 That's something

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 that has to be mortified

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 constantly

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 in a minister's life.

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 And so we're all living

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 in this issue

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 of ego and esteem.

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 So it's a really common problem.

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 I'll give you a couple more examples.

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 If you're a parent at all,

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 or if you've worked

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 with kids and teens,

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 you see it.

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 Kids and teens wear this

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 much more outwardly

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 and explicitly.

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 But,

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 the need to perform

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 is a need that we never graduate from.

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 And so,

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 all of us could probably

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 tell stories

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 of our own personal struggles

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 with this in the workplace,

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 in the university,

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 in family.

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 It happens all the time

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 in family.

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 Even people vying for love

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 between parents

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 or spouse or sibling.

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 So we're always running this.

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 Okay, let me ask you.

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 Where might you take somebody

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 to help them deal with this?

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 Number four says here,

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 talk briefly maybe

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 about your own struggles

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 in ego

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 and low self-esteem

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 or high self-esteem,

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 but then let me jump

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 to number five.

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 This is where counseling

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 starts to really happen.

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 And that's when you can

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 effectively,

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 meaningfully,

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 sincerely

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 use what God says

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 to help somebody's life,

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 to help their heart

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 and soul.

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 Alright, so,

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 let me ask a question again.

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 Any passages,

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 any stories,

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 anything that comes

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 to your mind,

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 okay if not,

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 but I think there's

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 more than one answer

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 to this,

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 to dealing with the problem

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 of self-esteem

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 and pride,

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 low self-esteem,

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 high self-esteem,

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 really there's

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 the same types

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 of solutions

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 that we need?

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 Yeah.

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 Yeah.

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 Yeah.

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 Yeah, so,

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 you know,

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 you can think of

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 the steadfast love

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 of the Lord

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 in some of the Psalms.

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 He is my refuge,

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 my strength,

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 my ever-present shield,

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 Psalm 3,

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 a shield all around me,

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 no matter what

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 anybody thinks about me.

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 Yeah.

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 So,

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 we walk in every room

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 and we think,

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 at the bottom of our souls,

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 what does everybody

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 in this room

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 think about me?

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 What other passages

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 might help us

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 deal with that?

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 Yeah.

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 Yeah.

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 Yeah,

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 that's good.

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 Yeah,

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 Christ's recovery

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 of Peter's heart

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 after such shame.

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 Peter went back

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 to fishing,

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 right,

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 because that was

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 his original day job

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 before Jesus

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 has called him

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 because he thought,

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 I'm out,

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 I'm out.

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 You know,

00:16:13.040 --> 00:16:13.840
 I denied Christ,

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 I'm on the outside

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 looking in,

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 he will never love me again

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 and yet he comes to him

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 and says,

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 get out of the boat,

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 come to the shore,

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 let's have breakfast together,

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 right,

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 that's good.

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 That's a nice narratival

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 story of what Christ

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 has done

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 that could be used.

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 Let me point you

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 to one tonight

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 that I think

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 is really helpful

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 and I've used this

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 in prayer quite often.

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 I've used this

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 on my heart.

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 This has been a passage

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 that I've come back

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 to constantly

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 to deal with

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 the issues of ego

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 and it is

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 in 1 Corinthians 4.

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 So,

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 if you were to read

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 the full section,

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 you would go

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 from probably

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 1 Corinthians

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 midway through

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 chapter 3

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 through chapter 4

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 with somebody

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 but let me just

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 point you to

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 1 Corinthians 4

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 and I'll just read

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 a couple verses

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 for us

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 just from

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 verse 2

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 for a few

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 verses.

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 Paul says,

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 moreover,

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 it's required

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 of stewards

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 that they be found

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 faithful.

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 He's talking about

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 pastors,

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 ministers there.

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 But with me,

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 it is a very small thing.

00:17:16.079 --> 00:17:17.059
 It's a very small thing.

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 I've learned,

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 he's telling us,

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 to make this a small thing

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 in my life.

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 That I should be judged

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 by you

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 or by any

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 human court.

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 In fact,

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 I do not even judge myself.

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 I'm not currently aware

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 of anything against myself

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 but I am not thereby

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 acquitted.

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 It is the Lord

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 who judges me.

00:17:37.859 --> 00:17:38.259
 Okay,

00:17:38.480 --> 00:17:39.680
 in this passage,

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 Paul is

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 dealing with an issue

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 in the Corinthian church

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 that he had planted

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 where

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 Apollos

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 and Peter

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 had come through later

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 and everybody's been

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 saying in Corinth,

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 Peter's better than Paul,

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 Apollos is better

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 than Peter

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 and Paul.

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 Apollos was such

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 a better preacher

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 than Paul ever was

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 and

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 then they're saying,

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 then others are saying,

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 Apollos discipled me

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 so I rank

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 before you

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 because Paul,

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 you know,

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 wasn't as good

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 of a public speaker

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 as Apollos was

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 and so there's all

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 these sorts of issues

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 going on like that.

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 So everybody's playing

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 the comparison game.

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 Everybody is

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 and Paul is writing

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 to deal with that problem

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 and Paul,

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 like he does

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 in other places,

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 is saying,

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 I have learned

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 in my time

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 with the Lord,

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 my devotional life,

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 a secret,

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 a secret of contentment

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 and the secret

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 of contentment

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 is this,

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 I do not care

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 what you say

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 about me

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 and I don't care

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 and then he shocks

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 because you see

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 that's exactly

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 what the modern world

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 says as well.

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 So a person

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 might be getting

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 counsel

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 to struggle,

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 they're struggling

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 so much with feeling

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 that they have no value

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 because they're worried

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 about what everybody

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 else is saying

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 about them

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 and they're asking

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 why is this,

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 why don't I have

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 a relationship

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 that I want,

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 why don't I have

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 the job success

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 and career that I want,

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 why don't I have

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 this or that,

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 right,

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 everybody's asking

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 questions like that,

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 we all are

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 and Paul comes

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 and says

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 what modern

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 counselors will say,

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 you don't need

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 to care about

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 other people's opinions

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 but then the modern

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 counselor often

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 will turn and say

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 all you need

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 to care about

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 is what?

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 your own opinion

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 of yourself,

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 you need to look

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 inside and you need

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 to think,

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 look,

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 I'm happy with who

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 I am,

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 I've got the resources

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 within me

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 to find contentment

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 and that's the shock

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 of this passage

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 for a modern reader

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 is Paul comes

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 and says,

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 I don't even care

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 what I think

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 about me

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 so I do not

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 trust my opinion

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 of myself,

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 right,

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 and it's real key

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 to contentment

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 and joy in your life

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 to not trust your opinion

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 about yourself

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 and he's saying

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 I don't trust my opinion,

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 I don't trust your opinion

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 Corinthian church

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 and I don't trust

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 the opinion I have

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 about me

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 and he uses the language

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 of judge,

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 why?

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 Because he's taking it

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 into the courtroom

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 and he's saying

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 you have stuck me

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 in the dock

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 and you've put yourself

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 on the bench

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 and said Paul

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 was not as good

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 of a speaker

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 as Apollos

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 and Paul,

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 you know,

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 therefore Paul

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 just didn't really

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 leave the legacy

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 around here

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 that people came

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 after him too

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 and he's saying

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 I won't sit

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 underneath that judgment

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 I won't let my heart

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 sit underneath that

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 and I won't let my heart

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 sit underneath

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 my own judgments

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 about myself

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 and then he gives

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 a solution

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 so for the person

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 that you're walking

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 alongside

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 and for all of us

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 tonight

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 we need to hear

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 probably to some degree

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 every single day

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 the pronouncement

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 all that matters

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 is what God

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 says about me

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 he's the only judge

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 that really matters

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 he's the only one

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 that has the right

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 to look at me

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 from the bench

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 and put me in the dock

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 and if you read

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 the rest of this passage

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 what you realize

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 is what

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 Paul goes on

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 to talk about

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 what God does say

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 in an implicit way

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 so what God says

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 about you

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 is that

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 when you look at Christ

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 you can say

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 he regards me

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 as a prince

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 and a princess

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 he regards me

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 as a son

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 and a daughter

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 he regards me

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 as the one

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 that no matter

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 what I do

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 no matter what

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 he will still

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 get down on his knee

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 accept my teary

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 head into his shoulder

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 and give me a hug

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 and bring me home again

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 he's a tender father

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 that's what he's saying

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 okay so what does

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 a person need

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 who's either struggling

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 with deep self-loathing

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 deep self-loathing

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 or big arrogant pride

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 they both need

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 the same thing

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 they need to be told

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 see both

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 both are pride issues

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 because both people

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 are thinking

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 all I care about

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 is what everybody

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 else thinks about me

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 or all I care about

00:21:46.200 --> 00:21:47.299
 is what I think about me

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 and how I feel

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 both are pride issues

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 and they can either

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 lead to total self-hatred

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 or total self-love

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 big self-love

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 right

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 and competition

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 it's all competition

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 and both persons

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 need to hear the same thing

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 they need to hear

00:22:01.779 --> 00:22:03.599
 all that matters

00:22:03.599 --> 00:22:04.299
 is what the Lord

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 says about you

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 and when you hear that

00:22:06.180 --> 00:22:08.019
 it will really humble

00:22:08.019 --> 00:22:10.379
 the prideful person

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 because if they're being honest

00:22:12.420 --> 00:22:13.560
 what the Lord says about you

00:22:13.560 --> 00:22:14.560
 is you're a big sinner

00:22:14.560 --> 00:22:15.520
 in need of a big savior

00:22:15.520 --> 00:22:17.360
 and you're not great

00:22:17.360 --> 00:22:19.660
 apart from the redemptive

00:22:19.660 --> 00:22:20.480
 work of Jesus Christ

00:22:20.480 --> 00:22:22.620
 and for the self-loathing person

00:22:22.620 --> 00:22:23.180
 they need to hear

00:22:23.180 --> 00:22:24.520
 do you know what the Lord

00:22:24.520 --> 00:22:25.180
 says about you

00:22:25.180 --> 00:22:25.740
 do you know how much

00:22:25.740 --> 00:22:26.400
 the Lord loves you

00:22:26.400 --> 00:22:28.520
 do you know how much

00:22:28.520 --> 00:22:29.000
 he's promised

00:22:29.000 --> 00:22:30.120
 he will never let you go

00:22:30.120 --> 00:22:31.820
 you know that he regards you

00:22:31.820 --> 00:22:32.700
 as a prince and princess

00:22:32.700 --> 00:22:33.400
 in his kingdom

00:22:33.400 --> 00:22:34.780
 that he wants to give you

00:22:34.780 --> 00:22:35.260
 the inheritance

00:22:35.260 --> 00:22:35.820
 that he's giving

00:22:35.820 --> 00:22:36.920
 Jesus Christ himself

00:22:36.920 --> 00:22:37.700
 right

00:22:37.700 --> 00:22:38.760
 alright so what

00:22:38.760 --> 00:22:39.520
 what do you do with that

00:22:39.519 --> 00:22:40.079
 as a counselor

00:22:40.079 --> 00:22:41.139
 then you take that

00:22:41.139 --> 00:22:43.019
 and you try to massage

00:22:43.019 --> 00:22:45.039
 that into their hearts

00:22:45.039 --> 00:22:46.240
 not because you're trying

00:22:46.240 --> 00:22:47.039
 to be manipulative

00:22:47.039 --> 00:22:48.339
 but because it's true

00:22:48.339 --> 00:22:50.539
 and number six here

00:22:50.539 --> 00:22:51.480
 is prescribe

00:22:51.480 --> 00:22:52.900
 some spiritual exercises

00:22:52.900 --> 00:22:54.339
 now what do I mean by this

00:22:54.339 --> 00:22:55.160
 okay just like

00:22:55.160 --> 00:22:56.660
 you've got to work out

00:22:56.660 --> 00:22:57.639
 you know if you want to

00:22:57.639 --> 00:22:58.960
 get stronger

00:22:58.960 --> 00:22:59.519
 you've got to have

00:22:59.519 --> 00:23:00.599
 resistance in your life

00:23:00.599 --> 00:23:01.379
 you've got to exercise

00:23:01.379 --> 00:23:02.799
 something like that

00:23:02.799 --> 00:23:03.599
 in the same way

00:23:03.599 --> 00:23:04.500
 our souls

00:23:04.500 --> 00:23:05.460
 much more importantly

00:23:05.460 --> 00:23:07.799
 have to have exercise

00:23:07.799 --> 00:23:10.779
 physical training

00:23:10.779 --> 00:23:12.139
 Paul says is of some value

00:23:12.139 --> 00:23:12.919
 but he's trying to point

00:23:12.919 --> 00:23:14.819
 to the more important thing

00:23:14.819 --> 00:23:15.919
 and that's spiritual training

00:23:15.919 --> 00:23:17.460
 so there does have to be

00:23:17.460 --> 00:23:18.200
 spiritual training

00:23:18.200 --> 00:23:18.720
 in our lives

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 so one of the pieces

00:23:19.779 --> 00:23:20.659
 that may be missing

00:23:20.659 --> 00:23:21.440
 in point one

00:23:21.440 --> 00:23:22.319
 and then here

00:23:22.319 --> 00:23:23.619
 in our lives

00:23:23.619 --> 00:23:24.139
 in my life

00:23:24.139 --> 00:23:24.619
 in your life

00:23:24.619 --> 00:23:24.980
 right now

00:23:24.980 --> 00:23:26.379
 is I'm not taking

00:23:26.379 --> 00:23:27.159
 seriously enough

00:23:27.159 --> 00:23:28.339
 the discipline

00:23:28.339 --> 00:23:29.599
 of spiritual exercise

00:23:29.599 --> 00:23:31.700
 and they need

00:23:31.700 --> 00:23:32.859
 spiritual exercise too

00:23:32.859 --> 00:23:34.720
 so what does that look like

00:23:34.720 --> 00:23:36.100
 it can look like

00:23:36.100 --> 00:23:37.200
 a number of different things

00:23:37.200 --> 00:23:37.900
 we could talk about

00:23:37.900 --> 00:23:39.160
 the normal means of grace

00:23:39.160 --> 00:23:40.539
 so one of the questions

00:23:40.539 --> 00:23:41.740
 I want to ask a person

00:23:41.740 --> 00:23:43.420
 who's really struggling

00:23:43.420 --> 00:23:44.460
 with their heart

00:23:44.460 --> 00:23:45.799
 with too much pride

00:23:45.799 --> 00:23:47.279
 or too low of a view

00:23:47.279 --> 00:23:47.819
 of the self

00:23:47.819 --> 00:23:48.779
 is I want to say

00:23:48.779 --> 00:23:49.819
 are you going to church

00:23:49.819 --> 00:23:52.259
 do you just

00:23:52.259 --> 00:23:52.700
 you know

00:23:52.700 --> 00:23:53.880
 you might struggle

00:23:53.880 --> 00:23:55.600
 and not want to

00:23:55.600 --> 00:23:56.839
 but you need to be there

00:23:56.839 --> 00:23:58.759
 you need to get out of bed

00:23:58.759 --> 00:23:59.720
 you need to go to church

00:23:59.720 --> 00:24:00.980
 especially the person

00:24:00.980 --> 00:24:02.420
 that's self-loathing

00:24:02.420 --> 00:24:03.960
 I want to just

00:24:03.960 --> 00:24:04.560
 connect them

00:24:04.560 --> 00:24:04.880
 and ask

00:24:04.880 --> 00:24:05.840
 are you in the normal

00:24:05.840 --> 00:24:07.740
 means of corporate grace

00:24:07.740 --> 00:24:08.759
 the corporate means of grace

00:24:08.759 --> 00:24:09.380
 that God's given us

00:24:09.380 --> 00:24:10.440
 but then I want to turn

00:24:10.440 --> 00:24:11.800
 and talk about their private lives

00:24:11.800 --> 00:24:13.360
 and help them

00:24:13.360 --> 00:24:13.680
 and say

00:24:13.680 --> 00:24:15.080
 and say it through the lens of

00:24:15.080 --> 00:24:16.160
 this is what has helped me

00:24:16.160 --> 00:24:16.820
 this is what

00:24:16.820 --> 00:24:19.019
 this is how I've thought about this

00:24:19.019 --> 00:24:20.180
 this is what has really been

00:24:20.180 --> 00:24:21.380
 helpful to my life

00:24:21.380 --> 00:24:21.880
 and my heart

00:24:21.880 --> 00:24:23.880
 and the most important thing

00:24:23.880 --> 00:24:24.480
 I think

00:24:24.480 --> 00:24:25.640
 I can say

00:24:25.640 --> 00:24:26.279
 quickly

00:24:26.279 --> 00:24:27.080
 is this

00:24:27.080 --> 00:24:29.360
 they really need

00:24:29.360 --> 00:24:31.259
 to learn

00:24:31.259 --> 00:24:32.339
 or be helped

00:24:32.339 --> 00:24:33.119
 with the idea

00:24:33.119 --> 00:24:34.259
 of Christian meditation

00:24:34.259 --> 00:24:36.500
 so what is Christian meditation

00:24:36.500 --> 00:24:37.980
 Christian meditation

00:24:37.980 --> 00:24:39.319
 is not vacating

00:24:39.319 --> 00:24:40.039
 the mind

00:24:40.039 --> 00:24:40.900
 of content

00:24:40.900 --> 00:24:42.140
 like in Buddhist meditation

00:24:42.140 --> 00:24:42.920
 or something like that

00:24:42.920 --> 00:24:43.379
 not at all

00:24:43.379 --> 00:24:44.400
 Christian meditation

00:24:44.400 --> 00:24:45.720
 we see all across the Psalms

00:24:45.720 --> 00:24:47.220
 and that's the daily

00:24:47.220 --> 00:24:48.240
 consistent pattern

00:24:48.240 --> 00:24:49.859
 of talking to yourself

00:24:49.859 --> 00:24:50.940
 about what God says

00:24:50.940 --> 00:24:52.640
 so David does this

00:24:52.640 --> 00:24:53.059
 all the time

00:24:53.059 --> 00:24:53.740
 in the Psalms

00:24:53.740 --> 00:24:54.680
 he says

00:24:54.680 --> 00:24:55.779
 bless the Lord

00:24:55.779 --> 00:24:56.759
 oh my soul

00:24:56.759 --> 00:24:58.160
 right

00:24:58.160 --> 00:24:59.079
 who's he talking to

00:24:59.079 --> 00:25:01.939
 in that Psalm

00:25:01.939 --> 00:25:03.059
 he's talking to himself

00:25:03.059 --> 00:25:03.980
 he's saying

00:25:03.980 --> 00:25:04.439
 David

00:25:04.439 --> 00:25:05.699
 you bless the Lord

00:25:05.699 --> 00:25:06.639
 oh my soul

00:25:06.639 --> 00:25:07.399
 soul

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 you've got to

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 you've got to get yourself

00:25:09.679 --> 00:25:09.980
 in gear

00:25:09.980 --> 00:25:10.899
 and start blessing the Lord

00:25:10.899 --> 00:25:11.480
 praising God

00:25:11.480 --> 00:25:12.079
 right

00:25:12.079 --> 00:25:13.220
 he's actually talking to himself

00:25:13.220 --> 00:25:13.980
 and then he's letting that

00:25:13.980 --> 00:25:14.679
 roll into prayer

00:25:14.679 --> 00:25:15.879
 so one of the things

00:25:15.879 --> 00:25:16.460
 I would really

00:25:16.460 --> 00:25:17.639
 say to a person

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 that's struggling

00:25:18.399 --> 00:25:19.259
 with big pride

00:25:19.259 --> 00:25:20.099
 or self-loathing

00:25:20.099 --> 00:25:20.899
 and we've gotten to have

00:25:20.899 --> 00:25:21.919
 an honest conversation

00:25:21.919 --> 00:25:22.559
 about that

00:25:22.559 --> 00:25:23.419
 and I've said

00:25:23.419 --> 00:25:23.659
 you know

00:25:23.659 --> 00:25:24.519
 1 Corinthians 4

00:25:24.519 --> 00:25:25.399
 all that matters

00:25:25.399 --> 00:25:26.259
 is what God says

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 I would say

00:25:28.000 --> 00:25:28.720
 why don't you

00:25:28.720 --> 00:25:30.019
 every single day

00:25:30.019 --> 00:25:31.240
 for the next seven days

00:25:31.240 --> 00:25:33.240
 every morning

00:25:33.240 --> 00:25:36.099
 read that passage

00:25:36.099 --> 00:25:37.279
 1 Corinthians 4

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 1 to 4

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 and then just sit there

00:25:40.220 --> 00:25:41.079
 in ten minutes

00:25:41.079 --> 00:25:41.920
 with your eyes closed

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 and let it soak over you

00:25:43.000 --> 00:25:44.619
 this morning

00:25:44.619 --> 00:25:45.500
 as I go to work

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 as I go to perform

00:25:46.579 --> 00:25:47.259
 at my job

00:25:47.259 --> 00:25:48.000
 as I go to perform

00:25:48.000 --> 00:25:49.099
 in public spaces

00:25:49.099 --> 00:25:50.539
 all that matters

00:25:50.539 --> 00:25:51.099
 is what the Lord

00:25:51.099 --> 00:25:51.720
 says about me

00:25:51.720 --> 00:25:52.640
 all that matters

00:25:52.640 --> 00:25:53.119
 is what the Lord

00:25:53.119 --> 00:25:53.740
 says about me

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 look to Christ

00:25:55.200 --> 00:25:56.279
 let that soak in

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 over and over

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 and then

00:25:57.900 --> 00:25:59.180
 after five or so minutes

00:25:59.180 --> 00:26:00.000
 of just reflection

00:26:00.000 --> 00:26:00.559
 on that

00:26:00.559 --> 00:26:02.380
 let it roll into prayer

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 Lord work this

00:26:03.539 --> 00:26:04.120
 into my soul

00:26:04.120 --> 00:26:04.900
 change me

00:26:04.900 --> 00:26:05.480
 change me

00:26:05.480 --> 00:26:06.240
 plead with the Lord

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 and then

00:26:07.660 --> 00:26:09.019
 that would be one

00:26:09.019 --> 00:26:09.640
 there's other

00:26:09.640 --> 00:26:10.460
 spiritual practices

00:26:10.460 --> 00:26:11.120
 and exercises

00:26:11.120 --> 00:26:12.200
 that they could have

00:26:12.200 --> 00:26:12.740
 and they may need

00:26:12.740 --> 00:26:13.759
 but for the lack of time

00:26:13.759 --> 00:26:15.180
 I'll move on

00:26:15.180 --> 00:26:16.380
 and then from there

00:26:16.380 --> 00:26:18.080
 what you do

00:26:18.080 --> 00:26:19.400
 as a dear Christian friend

00:26:19.400 --> 00:26:20.120
 a good Christian friend

00:26:20.120 --> 00:26:21.140
 is you make a plan

00:26:21.140 --> 00:26:22.039
 to meet again

00:26:22.039 --> 00:26:23.799
 and to address

00:26:23.799 --> 00:26:24.319
 this issue

00:26:24.319 --> 00:26:25.240
 in a week

00:26:25.240 --> 00:26:26.019
 and let's say

00:26:26.019 --> 00:26:27.019
 let's meet back up

00:26:27.019 --> 00:26:28.240
 I want to ask you

00:26:28.240 --> 00:26:28.839
 how that went

00:26:28.839 --> 00:26:29.559
 I want to ask you

00:26:29.559 --> 00:26:30.039
 if you feel like

00:26:30.039 --> 00:26:30.960
 there's been change

00:26:30.960 --> 00:26:32.159
 I want to ask you

00:26:32.159 --> 00:26:33.619
 what the condition

00:26:33.619 --> 00:26:34.139
 of your soul

00:26:34.139 --> 00:26:35.259
 is seven days from now

00:26:35.259 --> 00:26:36.759
 in regard to this

00:26:36.759 --> 00:26:38.559
 you could also ask

00:26:38.559 --> 00:26:39.180
 questions like

00:26:39.180 --> 00:26:40.159
 what other passages

00:26:40.159 --> 00:26:41.099
 could we look at

00:26:41.099 --> 00:26:42.139
 together next time

00:26:42.139 --> 00:26:43.180
 say do that for seven days

00:26:43.180 --> 00:26:43.920
 and then next time

00:26:43.920 --> 00:26:45.019
 why don't we look

00:26:45.019 --> 00:26:45.579
 together

00:26:45.579 --> 00:26:47.720
 at this specific psalm

00:26:47.720 --> 00:26:49.039
 just read it together

00:26:49.039 --> 00:26:49.879
 and pray it together

00:26:49.879 --> 00:26:50.460
 next time

00:26:50.460 --> 00:26:51.660
 you could ask

00:26:51.660 --> 00:26:52.640
 from there

00:26:52.640 --> 00:26:53.480
 what book

00:26:53.480 --> 00:26:54.180
 could we read

00:26:54.180 --> 00:26:54.860
 what book of the bible

00:26:54.860 --> 00:26:55.920
 what book

00:26:55.920 --> 00:26:57.579
 so in this instance

00:26:57.579 --> 00:26:58.860
 I would highly recommend

00:26:58.860 --> 00:27:00.360
 short books are wonderful

00:27:00.360 --> 00:27:02.360
 for helping people

00:27:02.360 --> 00:27:03.240
 I would say

00:27:03.240 --> 00:27:04.440
 I would love to read

00:27:04.440 --> 00:27:05.100
 Tim Keller's

00:27:05.100 --> 00:27:06.440
 The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness

00:27:06.440 --> 00:27:06.880
 with you

00:27:06.880 --> 00:27:08.120
 can we do

00:27:08.120 --> 00:27:08.819
 I'll buy it

00:27:08.819 --> 00:27:10.039
 I'll bring it to you next time

00:27:10.039 --> 00:27:10.799
 do this for seven days

00:27:10.799 --> 00:27:11.480
 let me bring this book

00:27:11.480 --> 00:27:12.079
 to you next time

00:27:12.079 --> 00:27:13.380
 and let's walk through it together

00:27:13.380 --> 00:27:16.460
 and then lastly

00:27:16.460 --> 00:27:18.460
 we said this

00:27:18.460 --> 00:27:19.240
 a few weeks back

00:27:19.240 --> 00:27:20.200
 but make sure that

00:27:20.200 --> 00:27:21.500
 you never leave

00:27:21.500 --> 00:27:22.700
 a meeting like this

00:27:22.700 --> 00:27:23.299
 a meeting

00:27:23.299 --> 00:27:24.200
 walking with somebody

00:27:24.200 --> 00:27:25.140
 without praying

00:27:25.140 --> 00:27:26.620
 so pray for them

00:27:26.620 --> 00:27:27.519
 encourage them

00:27:27.519 --> 00:27:29.160
 and then I've just listed

00:27:29.160 --> 00:27:30.299
 finally at the very end

00:27:30.299 --> 00:27:31.559
 use calls

00:27:31.559 --> 00:27:32.460
 and text messages

00:27:32.460 --> 00:27:34.579
 so the

00:27:34.579 --> 00:27:36.579
 the unfortunate thing

00:27:36.579 --> 00:27:37.259
 about the modern world

00:27:37.259 --> 00:27:37.700
 we live in

00:27:37.700 --> 00:27:38.319
 is that we can all

00:27:38.319 --> 00:27:39.319
 be reached all the time

00:27:39.319 --> 00:27:40.620
 yeah

00:27:40.620 --> 00:27:41.120
 and

00:27:41.120 --> 00:27:43.319
 the beautiful thing

00:27:43.319 --> 00:27:43.660
 is that

00:27:43.660 --> 00:27:44.420
 it's so quick

00:27:44.420 --> 00:27:44.660
 and easy

00:27:44.660 --> 00:27:45.359
 to reach somebody

00:27:45.359 --> 00:27:46.240
 and so it's

00:27:46.240 --> 00:27:47.819
 it's a tough call

00:27:47.819 --> 00:27:48.139
 on that

00:27:48.139 --> 00:27:48.379
 but

00:27:48.379 --> 00:27:50.000
 use

00:27:50.000 --> 00:27:51.059
 text messages

00:27:51.059 --> 00:27:52.720
 for ministry

00:27:52.720 --> 00:27:53.679
 use calls

00:27:53.679 --> 00:27:54.159
 for ministry

00:27:54.159 --> 00:27:54.639
 it's

00:27:54.639 --> 00:27:55.220
 you don't

00:27:55.220 --> 00:27:55.919
 you don't have to be

00:27:55.919 --> 00:27:56.359
 getting together

00:27:56.359 --> 00:27:56.799
 as often

00:27:56.799 --> 00:27:57.619
 maybe

00:27:57.619 --> 00:27:58.379
 if you're just

00:27:58.379 --> 00:27:59.059
 checking in

00:27:59.059 --> 00:27:59.559
 and saying

00:27:59.559 --> 00:28:00.539
 hey

00:28:00.539 --> 00:28:01.220
 I just prayed

00:28:01.220 --> 00:28:01.659
 for you

00:28:01.659 --> 00:28:03.679
 did you read

00:28:03.679 --> 00:28:04.359
 1 Corinthians 4

00:28:04.359 --> 00:28:04.759
 this morning

00:28:04.759 --> 00:28:05.220
 1 to 4

00:28:05.220 --> 00:28:06.299
 and meditate on it

00:28:06.299 --> 00:28:08.720
 I thought about it

00:28:08.720 --> 00:28:09.220
 I read it

00:28:09.220 --> 00:28:09.919
 I thought about it

00:28:09.919 --> 00:28:10.460
 I'm praying it

00:28:10.460 --> 00:28:10.939
 for you today

00:28:10.939 --> 00:28:11.859
 get back in

00:28:11.859 --> 00:28:12.720
 if you haven't done it

00:28:12.720 --> 00:28:13.339
 get back in

00:28:13.339 --> 00:28:13.700
 right

00:28:13.700 --> 00:28:14.580
 so this is

00:28:14.580 --> 00:28:15.279
 this is using

00:28:15.279 --> 00:28:16.700
 the tools we have

00:28:16.700 --> 00:28:17.640
 in modern technology

00:28:17.640 --> 00:28:18.840
 to really work truth

00:28:18.840 --> 00:28:19.600
 into somebody's life

00:28:19.600 --> 00:28:20.500
 okay

00:28:20.500 --> 00:28:22.140
 let me give you

00:28:22.140 --> 00:28:23.340
 a challenge

00:28:23.340 --> 00:28:24.160
 as we close

00:28:24.160 --> 00:28:28.539
 the challenge

00:28:28.539 --> 00:28:29.120
 is just

00:28:29.120 --> 00:28:30.539
 I'm saying this to me

00:28:30.539 --> 00:28:31.519
 I'm saying this to all of us

00:28:31.519 --> 00:28:33.920
 when we're talking about this

00:28:33.920 --> 00:28:34.980
 and doing a series like this

00:28:34.980 --> 00:28:35.620
 we go back to

00:28:35.620 --> 00:28:36.759
 Ephesians 4

00:28:36.759 --> 00:28:37.480
 and we learn

00:28:37.480 --> 00:28:39.920
 all of us are called

00:28:39.920 --> 00:28:41.440
 all of us are called

00:28:41.440 --> 00:28:42.600
 to the ministry

00:28:42.600 --> 00:28:43.480
 of exhortation

00:28:43.480 --> 00:28:44.620
 and that's all

00:28:44.620 --> 00:28:45.200
 we've been describing

00:28:45.200 --> 00:28:45.839
 is the ministry

00:28:45.839 --> 00:28:46.420
 of exhortation

00:28:46.420 --> 00:28:47.079
 parakalea

00:28:47.079 --> 00:28:47.940
 coming alongside

00:28:47.940 --> 00:28:48.799
 so wherever you are

00:28:48.799 --> 00:28:49.120
 right now

00:28:49.120 --> 00:28:51.099
 the challenge is

00:28:51.099 --> 00:28:53.700
 we should all

00:28:53.700 --> 00:28:54.720
 in the light of that

00:28:54.720 --> 00:28:55.759
 be receiving

00:28:55.759 --> 00:28:57.019
 Paul's call

00:28:57.019 --> 00:28:57.839
 God's call

00:28:57.839 --> 00:28:58.380
 in our lives

00:28:58.380 --> 00:28:58.819
 right now

00:28:58.819 --> 00:29:00.519
 to take a next step

00:29:00.519 --> 00:29:01.440
 in that ministry

00:29:01.440 --> 00:29:04.640
 so maybe the next step

00:29:04.640 --> 00:29:06.319
 towards a more meaningful

00:29:06.319 --> 00:29:06.900
 ministry

00:29:06.900 --> 00:29:08.220
 of parakalea

00:29:08.220 --> 00:29:09.140
 coming alongside somebody

00:29:09.140 --> 00:29:10.559
 is just to say

00:29:10.559 --> 00:29:11.019
 you know what

00:29:11.019 --> 00:29:11.720
 tonight I realize

00:29:11.720 --> 00:29:12.620
 I've got to get

00:29:12.619 --> 00:29:14.759
 my devotional life

00:29:14.759 --> 00:29:16.000
 under grips

00:29:16.000 --> 00:29:17.719
 not because that

00:29:17.719 --> 00:29:18.399
 saves me

00:29:18.399 --> 00:29:19.259
 no it does not

00:29:19.259 --> 00:29:20.500
 but because

00:29:20.500 --> 00:29:22.159
 I need the Lord

00:29:22.159 --> 00:29:22.799
 the Spirit

00:29:22.799 --> 00:29:23.219
 to be dealing

00:29:23.219 --> 00:29:23.799
 with my heart

00:29:23.799 --> 00:29:24.639
 in order that I can

00:29:24.639 --> 00:29:25.279
 help other people

00:29:25.279 --> 00:29:26.000
 deal with their hearts

00:29:26.000 --> 00:29:27.599
 so tonight

00:29:27.599 --> 00:29:28.879
 it may just simply be

00:29:28.879 --> 00:29:29.979
 that the next step

00:29:29.979 --> 00:29:31.039
 of being a counselor

00:29:31.039 --> 00:29:32.259
 is to actually

00:29:32.259 --> 00:29:33.000
 let the Holy Spirit

00:29:33.000 --> 00:29:34.019
 be counseling you

00:29:34.019 --> 00:29:35.259
 in morning devotion

00:29:35.259 --> 00:29:36.059
 that might be

00:29:36.059 --> 00:29:37.559
 all that you take away

00:29:37.559 --> 00:29:38.980
 and so

00:29:38.980 --> 00:29:40.480
 the issue here

00:29:40.480 --> 00:29:40.819
 is not

00:29:40.819 --> 00:29:41.779
 who in the room

00:29:41.779 --> 00:29:42.960
 has 100% devotional

00:29:42.960 --> 00:29:43.519
 life every single

00:29:43.519 --> 00:29:43.940
 day perfectly

00:29:43.940 --> 00:29:44.659
 nobody does

00:29:44.659 --> 00:29:44.879
 right

00:29:44.879 --> 00:29:45.339
 nobody

00:29:45.339 --> 00:29:46.379
 are you just

00:29:46.379 --> 00:29:47.159
 simply taking

00:29:47.159 --> 00:29:48.940
 limping steps

00:29:48.940 --> 00:29:49.279
 forward

00:29:49.279 --> 00:29:49.759
 that's all we're

00:29:49.759 --> 00:29:50.279
 talking about

00:29:50.279 --> 00:29:51.059
 in growth

00:29:51.059 --> 00:29:51.839
 in this area

00:29:51.839 --> 00:29:53.000
 and then

00:29:53.000 --> 00:29:53.839
 if you feel like

00:29:53.839 --> 00:29:54.440
 you are in a place

00:29:54.440 --> 00:29:54.819
 right now

00:29:54.819 --> 00:29:55.980
 where God is

00:29:55.980 --> 00:29:56.940
 working in your life

00:29:56.940 --> 00:29:57.619
 he's dealing

00:29:57.619 --> 00:29:58.279
 with your emotions

00:29:58.279 --> 00:29:59.440
 he's helping you

00:29:59.440 --> 00:30:00.759
 see idols

00:30:00.759 --> 00:30:01.799
 fighting negative

00:30:01.799 --> 00:30:02.539
 emotions that are

00:30:02.539 --> 00:30:03.059
 coming up

00:30:03.059 --> 00:30:04.220
 and it's a struggle

00:30:04.220 --> 00:30:04.740
 but at least

00:30:04.740 --> 00:30:05.659
 you're in the struggle

00:30:05.660 --> 00:30:06.840
 you're in the fight

00:30:06.840 --> 00:30:07.920
 then the next step

00:30:07.920 --> 00:30:08.519
 could be

00:30:08.519 --> 00:30:09.800
 who has God

00:30:09.800 --> 00:30:10.880
 very naturally

00:30:10.880 --> 00:30:11.940
 put in my life

00:30:11.940 --> 00:30:13.080
 right now

00:30:13.080 --> 00:30:15.120
 ideally in St. Columbus

00:30:15.120 --> 00:30:16.100
 but maybe externally

00:30:16.100 --> 00:30:17.019
 that's great too

00:30:17.019 --> 00:30:18.220
 to say

00:30:18.220 --> 00:30:19.019
 could we have

00:30:19.019 --> 00:30:20.060
 a more meaningful

00:30:20.060 --> 00:30:21.380
 regular meet up

00:30:21.380 --> 00:30:21.779
 together

00:30:21.779 --> 00:30:22.740
 once a month

00:30:22.740 --> 00:30:23.820
 twice a month

00:30:23.820 --> 00:30:24.980
 and answer

00:30:24.980 --> 00:30:25.840
 a few questions

00:30:25.840 --> 00:30:27.900
 how have you

00:30:27.900 --> 00:30:28.600
 been

00:30:28.600 --> 00:30:29.620
 in your

00:30:29.620 --> 00:30:30.420
 spiritual life

00:30:30.420 --> 00:30:30.860
 your soul

00:30:30.860 --> 00:30:31.580
 have you been

00:30:31.580 --> 00:30:32.660
 meeting with God

00:30:32.660 --> 00:30:33.500
 in the early mornings

00:30:33.500 --> 00:30:35.240
 whatever the question

00:30:35.240 --> 00:30:36.000
 lists need to be

00:30:36.000 --> 00:30:36.859
 depending on your

00:30:36.859 --> 00:30:37.319
 circumstances

00:30:37.319 --> 00:30:39.079
 taking a step

00:30:39.079 --> 00:30:39.420
 of saying

00:30:39.420 --> 00:30:40.579
 could we meet

00:30:40.579 --> 00:30:41.640
 regularly

00:30:41.640 --> 00:30:42.620
 and talk about this

00:30:42.620 --> 00:30:44.240
 we all need that

00:30:44.240 --> 00:30:45.359
 so it goes both ways

00:30:45.359 --> 00:30:46.420
 when we do things

00:30:46.420 --> 00:30:48.039
 when we take that step

00:30:48.039 --> 00:30:49.099
 alright

00:30:49.099 --> 00:30:51.880
 let's pray

00:30:51.880 --> 00:30:52.740
 Father

00:30:52.740 --> 00:30:54.640
 we ask

00:30:54.640 --> 00:30:55.700
 that you would help us

00:30:55.700 --> 00:30:56.299
 by the spirit

00:30:56.299 --> 00:30:58.799
 to desire

00:30:58.799 --> 00:30:59.640
 more and more

00:30:59.640 --> 00:31:00.440
 of you

00:31:00.440 --> 00:31:01.140
 that we would want

00:31:01.140 --> 00:31:01.940
 more and more of you

00:31:01.940 --> 00:31:02.420
 in our lives

00:31:02.420 --> 00:31:03.079
 that we would want

00:31:03.079 --> 00:31:04.000
 to be with you

00:31:04.000 --> 00:31:04.380
 Lord

00:31:04.380 --> 00:31:04.840
 so maybe

00:31:04.840 --> 00:31:05.480
 Father

00:31:05.480 --> 00:31:06.180
 that's the prayer

00:31:06.180 --> 00:31:06.920
 we ask tonight

00:31:06.920 --> 00:31:07.660
 that you would help us

00:31:07.660 --> 00:31:08.240
 to want

00:31:08.240 --> 00:31:09.220
 to be with you

00:31:09.220 --> 00:31:11.340
 and therefore

00:31:11.340 --> 00:31:12.060
 to become more

00:31:12.060 --> 00:31:12.640
 like you

00:31:12.640 --> 00:31:14.820
 and then to

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 externalize that

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 to help other people

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 be with you

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 and become more

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 like you

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 and so that's really

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 our request tonight

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 so I pray that you

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 would work in our

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 hearts with the

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 problem

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 of esteem

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 and ego

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 whether it's

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 very high

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 in our lives

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 right now

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 very low

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 bring it

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 to whatever

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 it looks like

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 to be Christ-like

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 we ask

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 in Jesus name

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 Amen

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 Amen

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 Amen

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