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 Good morning again. On the St. Paul's App, we've got an outline for today. We are four weeks in now.

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! This is the fourth week on a series on marriage.

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 We kicked off with the mystery of marriage.

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 That is that the gospel of Jesus Christ and marriage explain each other.

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 Marriage is the ultimate human relationship, but it is the penultimate relationship.

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 It points to the eternal marriage of Christ and his church.

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 Then we moved into the power of marriage.

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 That is, what we saw there was that the problem, if you like, the main havoc-wreaking problem in many marriages

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 and the ever-present problem in every marriage is self-centeredness.

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 And Ephesians 5, which is our main test, says that marriage, everything that Paul writes about marriage

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 that was just read out to us, hangs on verse 21.

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 And it is the power to fulfill everything that Paul writes about marriage as he describes it.

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 And that is the indwelling work of the Holy Spirit, pointing us to the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ,

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 who surrendered his will for our sake, gave himself for us.

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 And therefore, the work of the Holy Spirit transforms us to be selfless.

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 And then last week, it was the meaning of marriage.

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 And that is a permanent and exclusive legal commitment between a man and a woman to share their entire life with the other.

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 And so this binding legal commitment is what is needed to provide the security for romance

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 and for love to flourish in life, in the married life.

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 And now we're asking the question, well, now that we've got all that sorted out,

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 what is marriage for?

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 What's its purpose, if you like?

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 What's its goal?

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 That's what we're up to today.

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 Four points, you've got them on the St. Paul's app if you've got that in front of you.

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 Now, the Bible, as I said right at the very beginning, starts with a marriage.

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 And it ends with a marriage.

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 And in the Bible, it starts with God creating the material universe.

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 The constant refrain in Genesis 1 and 2 is,

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 He created, he created, he created.

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 And then it says, the wording shifts when God creates humanity.

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 And it says in chapter 1, verse 26,

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 Let us make man in our image and our likeness.

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 That is, the language shifts to being plural.

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 Let us.

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 But the image and the likeness of God is singular.

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 And so what we have here, right at the very beginning of the Bible,

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 is the earliest glimpse of the Christian teaching

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 that there is one God who is three distinct persons,

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 Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

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 Each person of the Trinity is fully, completely, totally God,

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 and yet each person of the Trinity is distinct.

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 And so what we see there, the implications of that,

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 is that the very heart of ultimate reality,

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 as the Christian faith describes it,

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 is personal relationship.

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 The God of Christianity is community,

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 of mutual love relationships,

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 sacrificing and serving each other two members of the Trinity,

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 and delighting and loving them completely.

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 They exist for the other two.

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 And so that's the only way,

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 that's the only context where we can come to terms with Genesis 2, verse 18.

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 The Lord God said,

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 It is not good for the man to be alone.

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 You see, everything you read in the creation account up to this point

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 is God said and it happened and God declared it to be good.

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 This is the first time and the only time in the creation account

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 that we read the words,

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 not good, not good.

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 And it's not because it's sin.

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 It's not because there's a design flaw.

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 I mean, Adam is in perfect paradise,

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 walking and talking with God.

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 He's made in the image of God,

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 who is an us and not a me,

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 and that is what is not good.

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 Adam is alone.

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 God created us to have such a deep need for human relationships

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 that not even paradise itself can satisfy it.

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 It's why you can accumulate everything in the world,

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 but if you're alone, it means nothing.

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 You see, what Adam needed,

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 because God brought all the animals in front of him,

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 what Adam needed was a companion who was like him,

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 like him.

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 And so Genesis 2.18,

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 the Lord God said,

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 it is not good for a man to be alone.

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 I will make a helper suitable for him.

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 Now,

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 it says there in the original Hebrew language,

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 God created what the Hebrew language calls or used.

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 The word used there is an ezer.

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 It means a,

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 it's a word that means helper companion.

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 Quite literally,

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 what he needs is a friend.

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 Adam needs a friend.

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 So for all you dog lovers out there,

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 a dog is not man's best friend.

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 The concept of helper,

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 and we need to understand this,

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 unless it be taken out of context,

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 helper here is not personal assistant.

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 That's not what Adam needed.

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 He didn't need someone to schedule stuff for him.

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 He didn't need staff,

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 not looking for a mate or a domestic helper at all.

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 Doesn't mean,

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 the wording in no way applies,

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 and we'll unpack this later in the series.

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 In no way applies at all,

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 means that the helper,

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 who is any less than Adam,

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 because the woman too is made in the image of God.

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 The Old Testament,

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 the reason why we know it's not less than in any way whatsoever,

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 is because the Old Testament uses the same word

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 in a different context.

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 And it's describing God.

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 The same word that's used here for Adam's helper

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 is the same word that is used to describe God

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 and his relationship to Israel.

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 He is,

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 God is Israel's Ezer,

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 companion helper,

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 friend.

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 And in actual fact,

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 the verb form of Ezer,

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 literally means the one,

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 the friend who saves from danger.

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 And so in the context of Genesis 2,

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 what we're meant to read here is,

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 God provides the man

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 with a friend who delivers him from loneliness.

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 That's the helper,

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 a companion friend,

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 equal to him,

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 but different from him.

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 And so in Genesis 2,

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 verse 23,

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 we have the very first recorded words of any human being.

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 And this is it,

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 an emphatic outburst.

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 At last,

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 this is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.

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 at last.

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 He says,

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 he looks at the woman that God brings.

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 You're just like me.

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 Sort of.

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 But he's saying something even deeper.

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 In 2 Samuel 5,

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 we read this,

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 all the tribes of Israel came to David at Hebron

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 and said,

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 we are your own flesh and blood.

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 Literally,

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 in the Hebrew there,

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 it's,

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 we are your own flesh and bone.

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 The same language is used in the Old Testament

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 that Adam uses here when describing Eve,

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 same language is used

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 within the context of a covenant relationship.

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 You see,

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 what's happening here

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 is that when they come to David,

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 they're not saying,

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 we're your family.

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 David is king of Judah

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 and Israel's looking for a king.

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 In biblical language,

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 flesh and bone represent weakness and strength.

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 The flesh decays.

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 The bone doesn't.

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 It's a sign of one's weakness

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 and one's strength.

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 And so they're not making a statement

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 that hey,

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 we're family.

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 They're making a statement

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 of commitment to David,

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 loyalty to him as their king.

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 They're making a covenant statement.

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 We will be loyal to you,

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 King David,

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 committed to you

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 through all the ups and the downs,

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 the high points and the low points

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 in our future together.

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 And so when God brings the woman to the man

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 in Genesis 2,

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 his first words are not,

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 what a babe.

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 The first recorded words

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 are what would we call equivalent

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 to wedding vows.

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 In weakness and strength,

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 in richer and poorer,

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 sickness and in health,

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 I am committed to you.

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 my friend.

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 So in the beginning,

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 what we see here,

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 God gave the man a companion

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 to be his spouse.

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 And in fact,

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 the female speaker

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 in the Song of Songs

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 echoes Adam's words

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 in chapter 5, verse 16,

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 where she says,

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 this is my lover,

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 this is my friend.

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 Marriage,

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 expand the definition somewhat further,

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 marriage is a permanent

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 and exclusive legal commitment

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 between a man and a woman

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 to share their entire lives together

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 as friends.

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 So let's unpack

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 what a friendship is.

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 What's the biblical idea

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 of friendship?

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 The Bible does a lot,

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 spends a lot of time

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 unpacking what true friendship

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 looks like

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 and we have four main qualities

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 in terms of biblical friendship.

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 The first is dependability.

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 Proverbs 17, 17,

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 a friend loves at all times

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 and a brother is born

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 for a time of adversity.

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 This is the opposite

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 of the fair weather friend

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 who comes over

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 when things are successful

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 but when it goes away

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 when your prosperity hits

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 or there's a,

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 you know,

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 your influence wanes

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 or your status drops,

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 you don't have so many

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 Facebook friends anymore

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 or sickness hits

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 or whatever it might be.

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 Proverbs 18, 24 says,

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 true friends

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 stick closer to a brother

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 including the times of adversity.

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 They are always there with you.

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 They never leave you.

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 The second quality

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 is transparency.

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 Real friends encourage

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 and affirm one another

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 but they also critique one another.

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 Proverbs 27,

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 better is open rebuke

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 than hidden love.

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 Wounds from a friend

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 can be trusted

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 but an enemy multiplies kisses.

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 They just affirm.

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 A true friend

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 like a surgeon

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 will cut you

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 in order to heal you.

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 Proverbs 27, 17

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 tells us that

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 friends become wiser together

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 through a healthy clash

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 of viewpoints.

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 As iron sharpens iron

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 so friends sharpen friends.

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 And so you could

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 summarise the first two qualities

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 if you like

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 as true friends

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 will

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 always

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 let you in

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 to who they are

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 but they'll never

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 let you down

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 even when they let you in.

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 The third quality

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 of friendship

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 is

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 sympathy.

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 Now sympathy

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 is a combination

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 of two Greek words

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 which are

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 synpathos

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 which means

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 common passion.

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 That's what sympathy is.

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 It's not empathy.

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 They're two very different things.

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 Sympathy is a common passion.

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 So friends,

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 friendships are discovered

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 if you like

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 as people discover

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 that they have

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 common interests

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 in things

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 and longings

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 for the same sort of things.

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 C.S. Lewis

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 in his book

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 The Four Loves

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 insists

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 if you draw a picture

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 of the difference

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 between

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 erotic

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 romantic love

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 and

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 friendship love

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 he said

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 erotic love

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 is when two people

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 are just looking

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 at each other.

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 He said

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 friendship

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 is when

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 two people

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 are standing

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 side by side

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 and

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 are fixed

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 on a common

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 passion

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 together.

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 That's

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 friendship.

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 That's the difference.

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 When we meet

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 another person

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 who shares

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 our common

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 passion

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 there is a potential

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 for a real

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 friendship.

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 If the real

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 friendship

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 is nurtured

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 beyond the

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 common passion

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 to transparency

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 and a

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 constancy

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 in the relationship

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 if it's just

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 the common

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 passion

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 passions

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 wax and wane

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 you know

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 especially

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 if your friend

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 has got ADHD

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 my goodness

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 they'll change

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 their mind

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 all the time

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 and so

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 friends

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 at stages

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 of life

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 particular

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 passion

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 they come

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 and they go

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 unless

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 there's a

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 constancy

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 and a

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 transparency

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 you see

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 the paradox

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 is that

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 friendship

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 cannot be

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 merely

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 about itself

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 you want

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 a friend

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 I need

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 a friend

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 well let's

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 be friends

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 that's not

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 a friendship

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 it must be

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 about something

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 that both

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 friends are

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 committed to

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 and passionate

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 about

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 besides each

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 other

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 and this

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 has

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 absolutely

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 remarkable

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 application

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 for every

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 single

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 Christian

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 despite

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 the enormous

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 differences

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 that we might

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 have

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 in life

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 we have

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 something

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 in common

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 that is

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 far more

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 powerful

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 than any

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 other

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 common

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 anything

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 we might

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 have in

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 common

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 or far

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 more powerful

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 than supersedes

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 everything that

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 we don't have

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 in common

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 and that is

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 we've all

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 experienced

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 the grace

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 of God

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 in the

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 gospel of

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 the Lord

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 Jesus

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 Christ

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 that is

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 the common

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 passion

00:16:52.960 --> 00:16:54.360
 Christ

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 and so

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 the fourth

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 quality

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 of

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 Christian

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 friendship

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 is a

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 shared

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 goal

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 if your

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 shared

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 goal

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 is

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 a run

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 club

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 one of you

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 breaks a

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 leg

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 and the

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 run

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 club

00:17:15.319 --> 00:17:15.980
 shared

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 goal

00:17:16.240 --> 00:17:16.640
 passion

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 is no

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 longer

00:17:17.559 --> 00:17:17.960
 there

00:17:17.960 --> 00:17:19.500
 the

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 beauty

00:17:20.039 --> 00:17:20.640
 of

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 the

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 Christian

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 shared

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 goal

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 is that

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 it is

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 never

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 ending

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 it always

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 exists

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 the goal

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 is always

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 there

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 any

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 two

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 Christians

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 with

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 nothing

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 else

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 but a

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 common

00:17:33.960 --> 00:17:34.440
 faith

00:17:34.440 --> 00:17:34.779
 in

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 Christ

00:17:35.379 --> 00:17:36.180
 can

00:17:36.180 --> 00:17:36.379
 have

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 a

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 robust

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 friendship

00:17:37.779 --> 00:17:38.099
 that

00:17:38.099 --> 00:17:38.759
 endures

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 to death

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 because

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 they don't

00:17:41.099 --> 00:17:41.680
 just have

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 Jesus

00:17:42.099 --> 00:17:42.779
 in common

00:17:42.779 --> 00:17:43.639
 but they're

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 heading

00:17:44.000 --> 00:17:44.700
 towards

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 Jesus

00:17:45.119 --> 00:17:45.639
 together

00:17:45.640 --> 00:17:51.200
 they're

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 helping

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 each

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 other

00:17:52.440 --> 00:17:53.780
 on

00:17:53.780 --> 00:17:54.240
 their

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 journey

00:17:55.040 --> 00:17:55.740
 towards

00:17:55.740 --> 00:17:56.160
 the new

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 creation

00:17:56.759 --> 00:17:58.900
 as well

00:17:58.900 --> 00:17:59.420
 as

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 doing

00:18:00.080 --> 00:18:00.980
 ministry

00:18:00.980 --> 00:18:01.540
 in the

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 world

00:18:01.759 --> 00:18:02.200
 together

00:18:02.200 --> 00:18:04.880
 and so

00:18:04.880 --> 00:18:05.640
 the picture

00:18:05.640 --> 00:18:06.820
 that the

00:18:06.820 --> 00:18:07.120
 Bible

00:18:07.120 --> 00:18:07.720
 draws

00:18:07.720 --> 00:18:08.500
 of this

00:18:08.500 --> 00:18:09.580
 spiritual

00:18:09.580 --> 00:18:11.980
 element

00:18:11.980 --> 00:18:12.660
 to friendship

00:18:12.660 --> 00:18:14.259
 this common

00:18:14.259 --> 00:18:14.920
 goal

00:18:14.920 --> 00:18:15.720
 Christ and

00:18:15.720 --> 00:18:16.099
 the common

00:18:16.099 --> 00:18:16.640
 goal

00:18:16.640 --> 00:18:18.339
 is profoundly

00:18:18.339 --> 00:18:19.160
 deep

00:18:19.160 --> 00:18:20.579
 profoundly

00:18:20.579 --> 00:18:21.099
 deep

00:18:21.099 --> 00:18:22.519
 you see

00:18:22.519 --> 00:18:22.920
 Christian

00:18:22.920 --> 00:18:23.460
 friendship

00:18:23.460 --> 00:18:25.079
 which is

00:18:25.079 --> 00:18:26.000
 often when we

00:18:26.000 --> 00:18:26.539
 talk about

00:18:26.539 --> 00:18:26.940
 we need

00:18:26.940 --> 00:18:27.720
 more community

00:18:27.720 --> 00:18:28.579
 Christian

00:18:28.579 --> 00:18:29.120
 friendship

00:18:29.120 --> 00:18:30.559
 is not

00:18:30.559 --> 00:18:31.620
 simply about

00:18:31.620 --> 00:18:32.120
 going to

00:18:32.120 --> 00:18:32.539
 concerts

00:18:32.539 --> 00:18:33.019
 together

00:18:33.019 --> 00:18:33.960
 or enjoying

00:18:33.960 --> 00:18:34.519
 the same

00:18:34.519 --> 00:18:34.819
 sort of

00:18:34.819 --> 00:18:35.259
 sporting

00:18:35.259 --> 00:18:35.759
 events

00:18:35.759 --> 00:18:36.700
 or common

00:18:36.700 --> 00:18:37.259
 interests

00:18:37.259 --> 00:18:38.740
 it is

00:18:38.740 --> 00:18:39.420
 the deep

00:18:39.420 --> 00:18:40.319
 oneness

00:18:40.319 --> 00:18:42.059
 that develops

00:18:42.059 --> 00:18:42.799
 as two

00:18:42.799 --> 00:18:43.220
 people

00:18:43.220 --> 00:18:44.119
 journey

00:18:44.119 --> 00:18:45.119
 together

00:18:45.119 --> 00:18:46.339
 towards

00:18:46.339 --> 00:18:46.920
 the same

00:18:46.920 --> 00:18:47.680
 destination

00:18:47.680 --> 00:18:49.839
 helping

00:18:49.839 --> 00:18:50.599
 one another

00:18:50.599 --> 00:18:51.500
 through

00:18:51.500 --> 00:18:52.700
 the dangers

00:18:52.700 --> 00:18:53.379
 and the

00:18:53.379 --> 00:18:54.059
 challenges

00:18:54.059 --> 00:18:55.640
 along the

00:18:55.640 --> 00:18:56.019
 way

00:18:56.019 --> 00:18:59.140
 it's a

00:18:59.140 --> 00:18:59.799
 relationship

00:18:59.799 --> 00:19:00.680
 that's actually

00:19:00.680 --> 00:19:01.740
 going somewhere

00:19:01.740 --> 00:19:04.559
 for the

00:19:04.559 --> 00:19:04.900
 Christian

00:19:04.900 --> 00:19:05.420
 Christ

00:19:05.420 --> 00:19:05.799
 is meant

00:19:05.799 --> 00:19:06.019
 to be

00:19:06.019 --> 00:19:06.240
 their

00:19:06.240 --> 00:19:07.180
 greatest

00:19:07.180 --> 00:19:07.680
 passion

00:19:07.680 --> 00:19:08.560
 in life

00:19:08.560 --> 00:19:10.480
 and

00:19:10.480 --> 00:19:11.000
 Christian

00:19:11.000 --> 00:19:11.600
 friendship

00:19:11.600 --> 00:19:12.500
 is sharing

00:19:12.500 --> 00:19:12.779
 that

00:19:12.779 --> 00:19:13.299
 passion

00:19:13.299 --> 00:19:14.880
 and

00:19:14.880 --> 00:19:15.480
 taking

00:19:15.480 --> 00:19:15.779
 that

00:19:15.779 --> 00:19:16.360
 journey

00:19:16.360 --> 00:19:16.960
 together

00:19:16.960 --> 00:19:22.440
 the

00:19:22.440 --> 00:19:23.160
 richest

00:19:23.160 --> 00:19:23.720
 and the

00:19:23.720 --> 00:19:24.019
 best

00:19:24.019 --> 00:19:24.700
 relationships

00:19:24.700 --> 00:19:25.759
 are those

00:19:25.759 --> 00:19:27.120
 that combine

00:19:27.120 --> 00:19:28.100
 if you like

00:19:28.100 --> 00:19:28.580
 both the

00:19:28.580 --> 00:19:29.060
 natural

00:19:29.060 --> 00:19:29.680
 and the

00:19:29.680 --> 00:19:30.019
 supernatural

00:19:30.019 --> 00:19:30.980
 elements

00:19:30.980 --> 00:19:33.860
 we

00:19:33.860 --> 00:19:35.660
 both

00:19:35.660 --> 00:19:36.480
 have a

00:19:36.480 --> 00:19:36.960
 passion

00:19:36.960 --> 00:19:36.960


00:19:36.960 --> 00:19:37.380
 for

00:19:37.380 --> 00:19:38.500
 cars

00:19:38.500 --> 00:19:39.880
 and we

00:19:39.880 --> 00:19:40.319
 both

00:19:40.319 --> 00:19:40.740
 have a

00:19:40.740 --> 00:19:40.980
 greater

00:19:40.980 --> 00:19:41.380
 passion

00:19:41.380 --> 00:19:41.640
 for

00:19:41.640 --> 00:19:42.140
 Jesus

00:19:42.140 --> 00:19:44.000
 you know

00:19:44.000 --> 00:19:44.539
 there's

00:19:44.539 --> 00:19:45.180
 those things

00:19:45.180 --> 00:19:45.539
 that link

00:19:45.539 --> 00:19:46.039
 together

00:19:46.039 --> 00:19:49.519
 but the

00:19:49.519 --> 00:19:49.880
 greater

00:19:49.880 --> 00:19:50.279
 one is

00:19:50.279 --> 00:19:50.460
 the

00:19:50.460 --> 00:19:50.940
 supernatural

00:19:50.940 --> 00:19:51.559
 passion

00:19:51.559 --> 00:19:53.200
 it's the

00:19:53.200 --> 00:19:53.900
 one that

00:19:53.900 --> 00:19:54.599
 endures

00:19:54.599 --> 00:19:55.559
 what

00:19:55.559 --> 00:19:56.120
 marriage

00:19:56.120 --> 00:19:56.660
 does

00:19:56.660 --> 00:19:57.420
 is

00:19:57.420 --> 00:19:58.000
 it

00:19:58.000 --> 00:19:59.279
 builds

00:19:59.279 --> 00:19:59.940
 on those

00:19:59.940 --> 00:20:00.319
 things

00:20:00.319 --> 00:20:00.819
 and it

00:20:00.819 --> 00:20:01.360
 adds

00:20:01.360 --> 00:20:02.019
 to that

00:20:02.019 --> 00:20:02.700
 the

00:20:02.700 --> 00:20:03.200
 supernatural

00:20:03.200 --> 00:20:04.680
 bonds

00:20:04.680 --> 00:20:05.160
 of

00:20:05.160 --> 00:20:05.559
 friendship

00:20:05.559 --> 00:20:07.160
 a

00:20:07.160 --> 00:20:08.200
 romantic

00:20:08.200 --> 00:20:09.420
 bond

00:20:09.420 --> 00:20:12.000
 as well

00:20:12.000 --> 00:20:13.859
 where you

00:20:13.859 --> 00:20:14.519
 don't

00:20:14.519 --> 00:20:15.139
 not just

00:20:15.139 --> 00:20:15.480
 standing

00:20:15.480 --> 00:20:16.019
 side by

00:20:16.019 --> 00:20:16.299
 side

00:20:16.299 --> 00:20:16.779
 looking at

00:20:16.779 --> 00:20:17.119
 Jesus

00:20:17.119 --> 00:20:17.559
 but you're

00:20:17.559 --> 00:20:17.940
 looking at

00:20:17.940 --> 00:20:18.359
 each other

00:20:18.359 --> 00:20:18.859
 as you look

00:20:18.859 --> 00:20:19.319
 to Jesus

00:20:19.319 --> 00:20:21.000
 it's that

00:20:21.000 --> 00:20:21.400
 other

00:20:21.400 --> 00:20:22.099
 element

00:20:22.099 --> 00:20:23.099
 and it's

00:20:23.099 --> 00:20:24.440
 what makes

00:20:24.440 --> 00:20:24.879
 marriage

00:20:24.879 --> 00:20:25.819
 the richest

00:20:25.819 --> 00:20:26.939
 and the

00:20:26.939 --> 00:20:27.299
 deepest

00:20:27.299 --> 00:20:28.139
 of human

00:20:28.139 --> 00:20:28.919
 relationships

00:20:28.919 --> 00:20:30.480
 and so

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 in the

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 Bible

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 marriage

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 is not

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 romance

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 garnished

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 with

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 friendship

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 hopefully

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 over time

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 it is

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 actually

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 friendship

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 that is

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 garnished

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 with

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 romance

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 that's

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 marriage

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 and that's

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 why

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 as the

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 Bible

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 sees it

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 you are

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 married

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 marriage

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 marriage

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 is

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 where

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 you are

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 married

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 to

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 your

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 best

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 friend

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 you see

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 when God

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 brought

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 the man

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 brought

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 this

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 first

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 man

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 his

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 spouse

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 together

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 he

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 brought

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 them

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 together

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 not just

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 as

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 lovers

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 but as

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 the

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 companion

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 friend

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 that

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 the

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 depths

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 of

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 their

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 heart

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 was

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 seeking

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 when

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 Proverbs

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 2

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 17

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 speaks

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 of

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 one's

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 spouse

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 it

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 uses

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 a

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 very

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 unique

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 word

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 that

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 means

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 your

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 special

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 confidant

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 it

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 means

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 we would

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 say

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 your

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 bestest

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 your

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 BBF

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 your

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 very

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 bestest

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 friends

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 now

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 bear

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 this in

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 mind

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 what this

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 is saying

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 here

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 this

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 is in

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 a day

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 these

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 words

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 are

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 written

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 in

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 Proverbs

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 2

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 are

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 written

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 in a

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 day

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 in

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 the

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 age

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 when

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 where

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 women

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 were

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 primarily

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 seen

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 as a

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 husband's

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 property

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 where

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 marriages

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 was a

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 business

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 deal

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 to

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 bring

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 families

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 together

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 and to

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 increase

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 their

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 social

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 status

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 and

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 their

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 security

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 and

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 bear

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 in

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 mind

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 that

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 this

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 is

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 also

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 what

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 that

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 means

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 is

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 it's

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 inconceivable

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 in the

00:22:34.700 --> 00:22:34.940
 day

00:22:34.940 --> 00:22:35.119
 of

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 Proverbs

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 to

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 see

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 your

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 wife

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 as

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 your

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 best

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 friend

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 as

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 much

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 as

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 it

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 is

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 inconceivable

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 for

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 us

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 to

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 do

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 the

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 same

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 thing

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 today

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 what

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 do

00:22:47.440 --> 00:22:47.460
 you

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 mean

00:22:47.559 --> 00:22:47.680
 by

00:22:47.680 --> 00:22:47.960
 that

00:22:47.960 --> 00:22:49.079
 well

00:22:49.079 --> 00:22:49.399
 in

00:22:49.399 --> 00:22:49.720
 modern

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 society

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 with

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 its

00:22:52.259 --> 00:22:52.700
 emphasis

00:22:52.700 --> 00:22:53.119
 on

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 romantic

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 passion

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 sexual

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 chemistry

00:22:55.319 --> 00:22:55.500
 and

00:22:55.500 --> 00:22:55.899
 compatibility

00:22:55.899 --> 00:22:57.460
 it

00:22:57.460 --> 00:22:57.700
 is

00:22:57.700 --> 00:22:58.259
 just

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 as

00:22:58.500 --> 00:22:58.940
 radical

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 to

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 insist

00:23:00.639 --> 00:23:00.839
 that

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 your

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 spouse

00:23:01.440 --> 00:23:01.659
 should

00:23:01.659 --> 00:23:01.799
 be

00:23:01.799 --> 00:23:01.980
 your

00:23:01.980 --> 00:23:02.180
 best

00:23:02.180 --> 00:23:02.519
 friend

00:23:02.519 --> 00:23:04.200
 that's

00:23:04.200 --> 00:23:04.259
 the

00:23:04.259 --> 00:23:04.399
 very

00:23:04.399 --> 00:23:05.039
 foundation

00:23:05.039 --> 00:23:06.619
 you

00:23:06.619 --> 00:23:06.839
 see

00:23:06.839 --> 00:23:08.099
 if

00:23:08.099 --> 00:23:08.200
 you

00:23:08.200 --> 00:23:08.339
 can

00:23:08.339 --> 00:23:08.519
 think

00:23:08.519 --> 00:23:08.759
 back

00:23:08.759 --> 00:23:08.960
 this

00:23:08.960 --> 00:23:09.180
 far

00:23:09.180 --> 00:23:09.340
 to

00:23:09.340 --> 00:23:09.480
 the

00:23:09.480 --> 00:23:09.720
 dating

00:23:09.720 --> 00:23:10.140
 days

00:23:10.140 --> 00:23:11.680
 and

00:23:11.680 --> 00:23:12.220
 for

00:23:12.220 --> 00:23:12.460
 those

00:23:12.460 --> 00:23:12.580
 of

00:23:12.580 --> 00:23:12.720
 you

00:23:12.720 --> 00:23:12.940
 who

00:23:12.940 --> 00:23:13.200
 are

00:23:13.200 --> 00:23:13.860
 hoping

00:23:13.860 --> 00:23:14.039
 for

00:23:14.039 --> 00:23:14.220
 that

00:23:14.220 --> 00:23:14.539
 now

00:23:14.539 --> 00:23:15.279
 it

00:23:15.279 --> 00:23:15.519
 is

00:23:15.519 --> 00:23:16.000
 typical

00:23:16.000 --> 00:23:17.259
 for

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 a

00:23:17.480 --> 00:23:17.779
 single

00:23:17.779 --> 00:23:18.220
 person

00:23:18.220 --> 00:23:18.440
 to

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 walk

00:23:18.720 --> 00:23:18.960
 into

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 a

00:23:19.220 --> 00:23:19.600
 room

00:23:19.600 --> 00:23:20.320
 to

00:23:20.320 --> 00:23:20.519
 see

00:23:20.519 --> 00:23:20.700
 a

00:23:20.700 --> 00:23:20.920
 number

00:23:20.920 --> 00:23:21.120
 of

00:23:21.120 --> 00:23:21.440
 people

00:23:21.440 --> 00:23:21.640
 of

00:23:21.640 --> 00:23:21.799
 the

00:23:21.799 --> 00:23:22.160
 opposite

00:23:22.160 --> 00:23:22.799
 sex

00:23:22.799 --> 00:23:23.539
 and

00:23:23.539 --> 00:23:24.120
 immediately

00:23:24.120 --> 00:23:24.500
 begin

00:23:24.500 --> 00:23:24.779
 to

00:23:24.779 --> 00:23:25.420
 screen

00:23:25.420 --> 00:23:25.960
 those

00:23:25.960 --> 00:23:26.080
 who

00:23:26.080 --> 00:23:26.200
 are

00:23:26.200 --> 00:23:26.740
 appropriate

00:23:26.740 --> 00:23:26.940
 and

00:23:26.940 --> 00:23:27.200
 those

00:23:27.200 --> 00:23:27.299
 who

00:23:27.299 --> 00:23:27.400
 are

00:23:27.400 --> 00:23:27.539
 not

00:23:27.539 --> 00:23:28.120
 appropriate

00:23:28.120 --> 00:23:29.279
 or

00:23:29.279 --> 00:23:29.600
 those

00:23:29.600 --> 00:23:29.740
 who

00:23:29.740 --> 00:23:29.840
 are

00:23:29.840 --> 00:23:30.360
 potential

00:23:30.360 --> 00:23:31.259
 and

00:23:31.259 --> 00:23:31.560
 those

00:23:31.560 --> 00:23:31.700
 who

00:23:31.700 --> 00:23:31.799
 are

00:23:31.799 --> 00:23:31.980
 not

00:23:31.980 --> 00:23:32.920
 potentials

00:23:32.920 --> 00:23:34.900
 and

00:23:34.900 --> 00:23:35.100
 it's

00:23:35.100 --> 00:23:35.259
 got

00:23:35.259 --> 00:23:35.759
 nothing

00:23:35.759 --> 00:23:36.340
 to do

00:23:36.340 --> 00:23:36.620
 with

00:23:36.620 --> 00:23:37.620
 companionship

00:23:37.620 --> 00:23:37.620


00:23:39.180 --> 00:23:43.720
 you

00:23:43.720 --> 00:23:44.320
 screen

00:23:44.320 --> 00:23:44.680
 them

00:23:44.680 --> 00:23:45.360
 before

00:23:45.360 --> 00:23:46.140
 you've

00:23:46.140 --> 00:23:46.320
 even

00:23:46.320 --> 00:23:46.720
 spoken

00:23:46.720 --> 00:23:46.940
 to

00:23:46.940 --> 00:23:47.160
 them

00:23:47.160 --> 00:23:49.660
 you

00:23:49.660 --> 00:23:50.019
 eliminate

00:23:50.019 --> 00:23:50.660
 some

00:23:50.660 --> 00:23:51.860
 you've

00:23:51.860 --> 00:23:52.160
 got a

00:23:52.160 --> 00:23:52.480
 pool

00:23:52.480 --> 00:23:52.740
 that you

00:23:52.740 --> 00:23:53.019
 want to

00:23:53.019 --> 00:23:53.200
 fish

00:23:53.200 --> 00:23:53.560
 from

00:23:53.560 --> 00:23:54.480
 and

00:23:54.480 --> 00:23:54.580
 then

00:23:54.580 --> 00:23:54.720
 we

00:23:54.720 --> 00:23:55.060
 start

00:23:55.060 --> 00:23:55.380
 dripping

00:23:55.380 --> 00:23:56.320
 working

00:23:56.320 --> 00:23:56.660
 out

00:23:56.660 --> 00:23:58.400
 who's

00:23:58.400 --> 00:23:58.720
 the

00:23:58.720 --> 00:23:58.960
 most

00:23:58.960 --> 00:23:59.299
 likely

00:23:59.299 --> 00:23:59.779
 candor

00:23:59.779 --> 00:24:00.000
 from

00:24:00.000 --> 00:24:00.279
 here

00:24:00.279 --> 00:24:03.320
 you

00:24:03.320 --> 00:24:03.460
 see

00:24:03.460 --> 00:24:03.660
 so

00:24:03.660 --> 00:24:03.840
 many

00:24:03.840 --> 00:24:04.080
 people

00:24:04.080 --> 00:24:04.259
 go

00:24:04.259 --> 00:24:04.539
 about

00:24:04.539 --> 00:24:04.720
 their

00:24:04.720 --> 00:24:05.140
 dating

00:24:05.140 --> 00:24:05.720
 starting

00:24:05.720 --> 00:24:05.980
 from

00:24:05.980 --> 00:24:06.140
 the

00:24:06.140 --> 00:24:06.320
 wrong

00:24:06.320 --> 00:24:06.700
 end

00:24:06.700 --> 00:24:07.299
 and

00:24:07.299 --> 00:24:07.460
 they

00:24:07.460 --> 00:24:07.700
 end

00:24:07.700 --> 00:24:07.860
 up

00:24:07.860 --> 00:24:08.019
 in

00:24:08.019 --> 00:24:08.460
 marriages

00:24:08.460 --> 00:24:08.980
 that

00:24:08.980 --> 00:24:09.380
 aren't

00:24:09.380 --> 00:24:09.720
 really

00:24:09.720 --> 00:24:10.100
 about

00:24:10.100 --> 00:24:10.759
 anything

00:24:10.759 --> 00:24:11.819
 and

00:24:11.819 --> 00:24:11.980
 they

00:24:11.980 --> 00:24:12.220
 aren't

00:24:12.220 --> 00:24:12.559
 going

00:24:12.559 --> 00:24:13.240
 anywhere

00:24:13.240 --> 00:24:14.980
 and

00:24:14.980 --> 00:24:15.120
 so

00:24:15.120 --> 00:24:15.380
 here's

00:24:15.380 --> 00:24:15.519
 the

00:24:15.519 --> 00:24:15.940
 danger

00:24:15.940 --> 00:24:18.259
 if

00:24:18.259 --> 00:24:18.440
 you

00:24:18.440 --> 00:24:18.700
 see

00:24:18.700 --> 00:24:18.920
 your

00:24:18.920 --> 00:24:19.360
 spouse

00:24:19.360 --> 00:24:19.579
 as

00:24:19.579 --> 00:24:19.860
 mainly

00:24:19.860 --> 00:24:20.079
 a

00:24:20.079 --> 00:24:20.400
 sexual

00:24:20.400 --> 00:24:20.940
 partner

00:24:20.940 --> 00:24:21.299
 or

00:24:21.299 --> 00:24:21.460
 as

00:24:21.460 --> 00:24:21.600
 a

00:24:21.600 --> 00:24:22.039
 financial

00:24:22.039 --> 00:24:22.880
 partner

00:24:22.880 --> 00:24:25.340
 or

00:24:25.340 --> 00:24:25.600
 someone

00:24:25.600 --> 00:24:25.759
 who

00:24:25.759 --> 00:24:25.900
 will

00:24:25.900 --> 00:24:26.160
 nurse

00:24:26.160 --> 00:24:26.299
 you

00:24:26.299 --> 00:24:26.480
 when

00:24:26.480 --> 00:24:26.600
 you

00:24:26.600 --> 00:24:26.740
 get

00:24:26.740 --> 00:24:26.980
 really

00:24:26.980 --> 00:24:27.319
 old

00:24:27.319 --> 00:24:29.860
 you

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 will

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 find

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 over

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 the

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 course

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 of

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 your

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 marriage

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 you

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 will

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 find

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 that

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 you

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 will

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 need

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 pursuits

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 outside

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 of the

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 marriage

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 to

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 fulfill

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 your

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 sense

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 of

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 who

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 you

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 are

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 to

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 fill

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 up

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 your

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 make

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 you

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 feel

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 like

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 you've

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 got

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 a

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 whole

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 soul

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 and

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 when

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 that

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 happens

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 children

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 parents

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 work

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 hobbies

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 a network

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 of close

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 friends

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 will

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 capture

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 your

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 imagination

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 and

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 they

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 will

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 provide

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 you

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 with

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 the

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 joy

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 and

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 the

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 meaning

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 and

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 they

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 will

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 absorb

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 your

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 emotional

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 energy

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 more

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 than

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 your

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 marriage

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 so

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 Ephesians

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 5

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 31

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 is

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 quoting

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 the

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 very

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 first

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 marriage

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 in

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 Genesis

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 2

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 where

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 it

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 says

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 for

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 this

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 reason

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 a

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 man

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 will

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 leave

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 his

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 father

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 and

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 mother

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 and

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 be

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 united

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 to

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 his

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 wife

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 and

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 the

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 two

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 will

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 become

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 one

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 flesh

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 ancient

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 cultures

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 in

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 this

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 day

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 even

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 in

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 Ephesians

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 5

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 put

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 enormous

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 emphasis

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 on the

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 parent

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 child

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 relationship

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 enormous

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 emphasis

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 in

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 such a

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 way

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 that

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 pleasing

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 your

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 parents

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 and

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 being

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 faithful

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 to

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 the

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 wishes

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 of

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 your

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 parents

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 is

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 all

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 important

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 all

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 important

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 in

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 more

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 traditional

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 cultures

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 even

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 today

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 parents

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 and

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 grandparents

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 are

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 given

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 great

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 authority

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 and

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 children

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 are

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 expected

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 to

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 heed

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 their

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 parents

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 wishes

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 above

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 all

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 requests

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 the

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 relationship

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 that

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 most

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 shapes

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 our

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 life

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 whatever

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 cultural

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 background

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 you

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 come

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 from

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 shapes

00:26:34.659 --> 00:26:34.859
 our

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 life

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 of

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 who

00:26:35.440 --> 00:26:35.779
 we

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 are

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 is

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 our

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 relationship

00:26:38.440 --> 00:26:38.859
 with

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 our

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 parents

00:26:39.779 --> 00:26:42.079
 up to

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 a

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 certain

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 point

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 and

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 yet

00:26:46.599 --> 00:26:48.039
 nowhere

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!

00:26:48.099 --> 00:26:50.099
 in

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 the

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 biblical

00:26:51.460 --> 00:26:52.000
 account

00:26:52.000 --> 00:26:52.179
 of

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 creation

00:26:52.899 --> 00:26:54.460
 did

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 God

00:26:54.819 --> 00:26:55.099
 put

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 a

00:26:55.379 --> 00:26:55.759
 parent

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 and

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 a

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 child

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 together

00:26:57.140 --> 00:26:57.420
 in

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 the

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 garden

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 of

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 Eden

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 nowhere

00:27:00.840 --> 00:27:03.800
 he

00:27:03.800 --> 00:27:04.060
 put a

00:27:04.060 --> 00:27:04.380
 husband

00:27:04.380 --> 00:27:04.800
 and a

00:27:04.800 --> 00:27:05.160
 wife

00:27:05.160 --> 00:27:07.000
 and

00:27:07.000 --> 00:27:07.160
 what

00:27:07.160 --> 00:27:07.460
 we are

00:27:07.460 --> 00:27:07.640
 meant

00:27:07.640 --> 00:27:08.220
 to see

00:27:08.220 --> 00:27:08.540
 and

00:27:08.540 --> 00:27:08.940
 everything

00:27:08.940 --> 00:27:09.420
 from

00:27:09.420 --> 00:27:09.700
 this

00:27:09.700 --> 00:27:10.000
 moment

00:27:10.000 --> 00:27:10.300
 we're

00:27:10.300 --> 00:27:10.440
 meant

00:27:10.440 --> 00:27:10.840
 to see

00:27:10.840 --> 00:27:11.220
 is the

00:27:11.220 --> 00:27:11.700
 relationship

00:27:11.700 --> 00:27:12.220
 with your

00:27:12.220 --> 00:27:12.880
 spouse

00:27:12.880 --> 00:27:14.380
 supersedes

00:27:14.380 --> 00:27:14.380


00:27:14.380 --> 00:27:15.259
 all

00:27:15.259 --> 00:27:15.880
 other

00:27:15.880 --> 00:27:16.700
 relationships

00:27:16.700 --> 00:27:18.380
 including

00:27:18.380 --> 00:27:19.259
 the

00:27:19.259 --> 00:27:19.840
 parental

00:27:19.840 --> 00:27:20.620
 relationship

00:27:20.620 --> 00:27:21.300
 the moment

00:27:21.300 --> 00:27:21.820
 you get

00:27:21.820 --> 00:27:22.300
 married

00:27:22.299 --> 00:27:24.440
 marriage

00:27:24.440 --> 00:27:25.000
 must be

00:27:25.000 --> 00:27:25.279
 more

00:27:25.279 --> 00:27:25.779
 important

00:27:25.779 --> 00:27:26.139
 to you

00:27:26.139 --> 00:27:26.379
 than

00:27:26.379 --> 00:27:27.379
 absolutely

00:27:27.379 --> 00:27:28.299
 everything

00:27:28.299 --> 00:27:28.940
 else

00:27:28.940 --> 00:27:31.059
 absolutely

00:27:31.059 --> 00:27:31.839
 everything

00:27:31.839 --> 00:27:32.279
 else

00:27:32.279 --> 00:27:33.599
 there is

00:27:33.599 --> 00:27:34.000
 no

00:27:34.000 --> 00:27:34.419
 human

00:27:34.419 --> 00:27:35.039
 being

00:27:35.039 --> 00:27:36.079
 should

00:27:36.079 --> 00:27:36.319
 get

00:27:36.319 --> 00:27:36.799
 more

00:27:36.799 --> 00:27:37.240
 of your

00:27:37.240 --> 00:27:37.759
 love

00:27:37.759 --> 00:27:38.059
 your

00:27:38.059 --> 00:27:38.559
 energy

00:27:38.559 --> 00:27:38.899
 your

00:27:38.899 --> 00:27:39.440
 activity

00:27:39.440 --> 00:27:39.839
 and

00:27:39.839 --> 00:27:40.039
 your

00:27:40.039 --> 00:27:40.500
 commitment

00:27:40.500 --> 00:27:40.839
 than

00:27:40.839 --> 00:27:41.059
 your

00:27:41.059 --> 00:27:41.639
 spouse

00:27:41.639 --> 00:27:42.559
 the

00:27:42.559 --> 00:27:42.940
 wedding

00:27:42.940 --> 00:27:43.440
 vows

00:27:43.440 --> 00:27:44.000
 that we

00:27:44.000 --> 00:27:44.559
 take

00:27:44.559 --> 00:27:44.839
 are

00:27:44.839 --> 00:27:45.259
 very

00:27:45.259 --> 00:27:45.680
 clear

00:27:45.680 --> 00:27:45.960
 of this

00:27:45.960 --> 00:27:46.339
 in terms

00:27:46.339 --> 00:27:46.619
 of the

00:27:46.619 --> 00:27:47.079
 traditional

00:27:47.079 --> 00:27:47.379
 wedding

00:27:47.379 --> 00:27:47.720
 vows

00:27:47.720 --> 00:27:49.059
 Christian

00:27:49.059 --> 00:27:49.339
 wedding

00:27:49.339 --> 00:27:49.720
 vows

00:27:49.720 --> 00:27:51.980
 it

00:27:51.980 --> 00:27:52.400
 uses

00:27:52.400 --> 00:27:52.740
 it

00:27:52.740 --> 00:27:52.980
 picks

00:27:52.980 --> 00:27:53.100
 it

00:27:53.100 --> 00:27:53.240
 up

00:27:53.240 --> 00:27:53.400
 from

00:27:53.400 --> 00:27:53.740
 Genesis

00:27:53.740 --> 00:27:54.259
 2

00:27:54.259 --> 00:27:54.559
 and

00:27:54.559 --> 00:27:55.039
 Ephesians

00:27:55.039 --> 00:27:55.480
 5

00:27:55.480 --> 00:27:56.660
 and

00:27:56.660 --> 00:27:56.839
 it's

00:27:56.839 --> 00:27:57.200
 very

00:27:57.200 --> 00:27:57.740
 clear

00:27:57.740 --> 00:27:58.819
 the

00:27:58.819 --> 00:27:59.460
 vow

00:27:59.460 --> 00:27:59.819
 that you

00:27:59.819 --> 00:28:00.220
 make

00:28:00.220 --> 00:28:00.559
 is

00:28:00.559 --> 00:28:01.559
 forsaking

00:28:01.559 --> 00:28:02.180
 all

00:28:02.180 --> 00:28:02.980
 others

00:28:02.980 --> 00:28:06.200
 the

00:28:06.200 --> 00:28:06.579
 all

00:28:06.579 --> 00:28:07.039
 others

00:28:07.039 --> 00:28:07.700
 is not

00:28:07.700 --> 00:28:08.400
 forsaking

00:28:08.400 --> 00:28:08.640
 other

00:28:08.640 --> 00:28:09.059
 potential

00:28:09.059 --> 00:28:09.620
 spouses

00:28:09.620 --> 00:28:10.900
 it

00:28:10.900 --> 00:28:11.240
 is

00:28:11.240 --> 00:28:12.120
 all

00:28:12.120 --> 00:28:13.360
 others

00:28:13.360 --> 00:28:18.000
 it

00:28:18.000 --> 00:28:18.200
 is

00:28:18.200 --> 00:28:18.600
 very

00:28:18.600 --> 00:28:19.319
 symbolic

00:28:19.319 --> 00:28:20.859
 in a

00:28:20.859 --> 00:28:21.240
 traditional

00:28:21.240 --> 00:28:21.980
 service

00:28:21.980 --> 00:28:22.939
 when the

00:28:22.939 --> 00:28:23.319
 father

00:28:23.319 --> 00:28:23.859
 comes

00:28:23.859 --> 00:28:24.279
 with the

00:28:24.279 --> 00:28:24.579
 bride

00:28:24.579 --> 00:28:24.879
 down

00:28:24.879 --> 00:28:25.119
 the

00:28:25.119 --> 00:28:25.659
 aisle

00:28:25.659 --> 00:28:26.299
 and

00:28:26.299 --> 00:28:26.700
 stands

00:28:26.700 --> 00:28:27.039
 before

00:28:27.039 --> 00:28:27.359
 me

00:28:27.359 --> 00:28:27.599
 there

00:28:27.599 --> 00:28:27.720
 is

00:28:27.720 --> 00:28:27.919
 a

00:28:27.919 --> 00:28:28.240
 certain

00:28:28.240 --> 00:28:28.740
 point

00:28:28.740 --> 00:28:30.439
 where

00:28:30.439 --> 00:28:30.740
 I

00:28:30.740 --> 00:28:31.079
 ask

00:28:31.079 --> 00:28:31.259
 the

00:28:31.259 --> 00:28:31.859
 question

00:28:31.859 --> 00:28:32.659
 who

00:28:32.659 --> 00:28:33.359
 brings

00:28:33.359 --> 00:28:34.059
 this

00:28:34.059 --> 00:28:34.500
 bride

00:28:34.500 --> 00:28:34.799
 to be

00:28:34.799 --> 00:28:35.079
 married

00:28:35.079 --> 00:28:35.339
 to

00:28:35.339 --> 00:28:35.559
 this

00:28:35.559 --> 00:28:35.939
 man

00:28:35.939 --> 00:28:36.579
 this

00:28:36.579 --> 00:28:37.319
 groom

00:28:37.319 --> 00:28:39.740
 and

00:28:39.740 --> 00:28:39.939
 the

00:28:39.939 --> 00:28:40.240
 father

00:28:40.240 --> 00:28:40.439
 or

00:28:40.439 --> 00:28:40.839
 sometimes

00:28:40.839 --> 00:28:41.039
 it's

00:28:41.039 --> 00:28:41.279
 both

00:28:41.279 --> 00:28:41.399
 the

00:28:41.399 --> 00:28:41.559
 mother

00:28:41.559 --> 00:28:41.720
 and

00:28:41.720 --> 00:28:41.839
 the

00:28:41.839 --> 00:28:42.059
 father

00:28:42.059 --> 00:28:42.399
 stand

00:28:42.399 --> 00:28:42.559
 up

00:28:42.559 --> 00:28:42.659
 at

00:28:42.659 --> 00:28:42.799
 that

00:28:42.799 --> 00:28:43.119
 point

00:28:43.119 --> 00:28:43.679
 and

00:28:43.679 --> 00:28:43.859
 say

00:28:43.859 --> 00:28:44.119
 we

00:28:44.119 --> 00:28:44.419
 do

00:28:44.419 --> 00:28:44.839
 or

00:28:44.839 --> 00:28:45.000
 I

00:28:45.000 --> 00:28:45.200
 do

00:28:45.200 --> 00:28:46.279
 and

00:28:46.279 --> 00:28:46.460
 at

00:28:46.460 --> 00:28:46.639
 that

00:28:46.639 --> 00:28:46.879
 point

00:28:46.879 --> 00:28:47.139
 I

00:28:47.139 --> 00:28:47.599
 say

00:28:47.599 --> 00:28:49.159
 sit

00:28:49.159 --> 00:28:49.480
 down

00:28:49.480 --> 00:28:52.179
 thank

00:28:52.179 --> 00:28:52.459
 you

00:28:52.459 --> 00:28:54.459
 when

00:28:54.459 --> 00:28:54.619
 I

00:28:54.619 --> 00:28:54.819
 say

00:28:54.819 --> 00:28:55.199
 sit

00:28:55.199 --> 00:28:55.740
 down

00:28:55.740 --> 00:28:56.659
 what

00:28:56.659 --> 00:28:56.939
 I'm

00:28:56.939 --> 00:28:57.359
 saying

00:28:57.359 --> 00:28:57.819
 is

00:28:57.819 --> 00:28:58.659
 sit

00:28:58.659 --> 00:28:59.139
 down

00:28:59.139 --> 00:28:59.519
 and

00:28:59.519 --> 00:29:00.059
 back

00:29:00.059 --> 00:29:00.539
 away

00:29:00.539 --> 00:29:03.899
 that's

00:29:03.899 --> 00:29:04.059
 what

00:29:04.059 --> 00:29:04.539
 that's

00:29:04.539 --> 00:29:05.139
 symbolically

00:29:05.139 --> 00:29:05.439
 what's

00:29:05.439 --> 00:29:05.799
 happening

00:29:05.799 --> 00:29:06.199
 there

00:29:06.199 --> 00:29:07.740
 you've

00:29:07.740 --> 00:29:08.019
 done a

00:29:08.019 --> 00:29:08.279
 great

00:29:08.279 --> 00:29:08.759
 job

00:29:08.759 --> 00:29:09.119
 it's

00:29:09.119 --> 00:29:09.439
 now

00:29:09.439 --> 00:29:09.859
 over

00:29:09.859 --> 00:29:15.839
 God

00:29:15.839 --> 00:29:16.259
 here

00:29:16.259 --> 00:29:16.500
 in

00:29:16.500 --> 00:29:17.279
 Ephesians

00:29:17.279 --> 00:29:17.879
 5

00:29:17.879 --> 00:29:18.219
 which is

00:29:18.219 --> 00:29:18.439
 even

00:29:18.439 --> 00:29:18.959
 more

00:29:18.959 --> 00:29:19.619
 remarkable

00:29:19.619 --> 00:29:21.139
 in a

00:29:21.139 --> 00:29:21.959
 patriarchal

00:29:21.959 --> 00:29:22.559
 society

00:29:22.559 --> 00:29:23.819
 for the

00:29:23.819 --> 00:29:24.659
 man

00:29:24.659 --> 00:29:26.439
 to

00:29:26.439 --> 00:29:26.959
 leave

00:29:26.959 --> 00:29:27.259
 his

00:29:27.259 --> 00:29:27.699
 father

00:29:27.699 --> 00:29:28.459
 and

00:29:28.459 --> 00:29:28.759
 mother

00:29:28.759 --> 00:29:30.819
 whereas

00:29:30.819 --> 00:29:31.319
 we

00:29:31.319 --> 00:29:31.919
 think

00:29:31.919 --> 00:29:32.279
 in

00:29:32.279 --> 00:29:32.939
 patriarchal

00:29:32.939 --> 00:29:33.559
 societies

00:29:33.559 --> 00:29:34.199
 the

00:29:34.199 --> 00:29:34.599
 woman

00:29:34.599 --> 00:29:34.979
 now

00:29:34.979 --> 00:29:35.419
 joins

00:29:35.419 --> 00:29:35.639
 the

00:29:35.639 --> 00:29:36.179
 man

00:29:36.179 --> 00:29:36.519
 and

00:29:36.519 --> 00:29:36.879
 becomes

00:29:36.879 --> 00:29:37.299
 part

00:29:37.299 --> 00:29:37.699
 of

00:29:37.699 --> 00:29:38.279
 the

00:29:38.279 --> 00:29:38.879
 man's

00:29:38.879 --> 00:29:39.579
 family

00:29:39.579 --> 00:29:41.159
 that's

00:29:41.159 --> 00:29:41.299
 not

00:29:41.299 --> 00:29:41.579
 what's

00:29:41.579 --> 00:29:41.839
 happening

00:29:41.839 --> 00:29:42.000
 in

00:29:42.000 --> 00:29:42.399
 Ephesians

00:29:42.399 --> 00:29:42.759
 5

00:29:42.759 --> 00:29:49.439
 if

00:29:49.439 --> 00:29:49.619
 you

00:29:49.619 --> 00:29:49.779
 are

00:29:49.779 --> 00:29:50.199
 married

00:29:50.199 --> 00:29:51.039
 the

00:29:51.039 --> 00:29:51.480
 opinion

00:29:51.480 --> 00:29:51.839
 of

00:29:51.839 --> 00:29:52.019
 your

00:29:52.019 --> 00:29:52.619
 parents

00:29:52.619 --> 00:29:52.980
 ought

00:29:52.980 --> 00:29:53.220
 not

00:29:53.220 --> 00:29:53.379
 to

00:29:53.379 --> 00:29:53.500
 be

00:29:53.500 --> 00:29:53.720
 more

00:29:53.720 --> 00:29:54.159
 important

00:29:54.159 --> 00:29:54.399
 than

00:29:54.399 --> 00:29:54.599
 your

00:29:54.599 --> 00:29:55.099
 spouses

00:29:55.099 --> 00:29:59.119
 nothing

00:29:59.119 --> 00:29:59.460
 should

00:29:59.460 --> 00:29:59.699
 get

00:29:59.699 --> 00:30:00.059
 more

00:30:00.059 --> 00:30:00.220
 of

00:30:00.220 --> 00:30:00.460
 your

00:30:00.460 --> 00:30:01.279
 ingenuity

00:30:01.279 --> 00:30:01.599
 your

00:30:01.599 --> 00:30:01.960
 time

00:30:01.960 --> 00:30:02.079
 and

00:30:02.079 --> 00:30:02.240
 your

00:30:02.240 --> 00:30:02.579
 energy

00:30:02.579 --> 00:30:02.819
 than

00:30:02.819 --> 00:30:03.019
 your

00:30:03.019 --> 00:30:03.539
 spouse

00:30:03.539 --> 00:30:04.779
 if

00:30:04.779 --> 00:30:04.960
 your

00:30:04.960 --> 00:30:05.379
 spouse

00:30:05.379 --> 00:30:05.599
 does

00:30:05.599 --> 00:30:05.799
 not

00:30:05.799 --> 00:30:06.099
 feel

00:30:06.099 --> 00:30:06.279
 that

00:30:06.279 --> 00:30:06.419
 you

00:30:06.419 --> 00:30:06.559
 are

00:30:06.559 --> 00:30:06.859
 putting

00:30:06.859 --> 00:30:07.179
 him

00:30:07.179 --> 00:30:07.339
 or

00:30:07.339 --> 00:30:07.519
 her

00:30:07.519 --> 00:30:08.059
 first

00:30:08.059 --> 00:30:08.659
 then

00:30:08.659 --> 00:30:08.879
 by

00:30:08.879 --> 00:30:09.439
 definition

00:30:09.440 --> 00:30:09.940
 you

00:30:09.940 --> 00:30:10.100
 are

00:30:10.100 --> 00:30:10.480
 not

00:30:10.480 --> 00:30:12.920
 you're

00:30:12.920 --> 00:30:13.140
 not

00:30:13.140 --> 00:30:16.279
 if

00:30:16.279 --> 00:30:16.420
 you've

00:30:16.420 --> 00:30:16.600
 got a

00:30:16.600 --> 00:30:16.940
 communication

00:30:16.940 --> 00:30:17.620
 problem

00:30:17.620 --> 00:30:17.980
 and one

00:30:17.980 --> 00:30:18.360
 says

00:30:18.360 --> 00:30:18.980
 I don't

00:30:18.980 --> 00:30:19.240
 think we've

00:30:19.240 --> 00:30:19.380
 got a

00:30:19.380 --> 00:30:19.620
 communication

00:30:19.620 --> 00:30:20.080
 problem

00:30:20.080 --> 00:30:20.320
 the other

00:30:20.320 --> 00:30:20.539
 says

00:30:20.539 --> 00:30:21.380
 we do

00:30:21.380 --> 00:30:21.580
 have a

00:30:21.580 --> 00:30:21.820
 communication

00:30:21.820 --> 00:30:22.279
 problem

00:30:22.279 --> 00:30:23.380
 by definition

00:30:23.380 --> 00:30:24.120
 you've got a

00:30:24.120 --> 00:30:24.380
 communication

00:30:24.380 --> 00:30:24.900
 problem

00:30:24.900 --> 00:30:31.420
 and when

00:30:31.420 --> 00:30:34.160
 when this

00:30:34.160 --> 00:30:34.799
 happens

00:30:34.799 --> 00:30:36.320
 your marriage

00:30:36.320 --> 00:30:37.360
 is dying

00:30:37.359 --> 00:30:38.399
 you're

00:30:38.399 --> 00:30:38.399


00:30:38.399 --> 00:30:38.619
 in a

00:30:38.619 --> 00:30:38.779
 lot

00:30:38.779 --> 00:30:38.879
 of

00:30:38.879 --> 00:30:39.219
 trouble

00:30:39.219 --> 00:30:42.179
 too

00:30:42.179 --> 00:30:42.419
 many

00:30:42.419 --> 00:30:42.819
 marriage

00:30:42.819 --> 00:30:43.199
 problems

00:30:43.199 --> 00:30:43.799
 arise

00:30:43.799 --> 00:30:44.240
 because

00:30:44.240 --> 00:30:44.839
 couples

00:30:44.839 --> 00:30:45.259
 are

00:30:45.259 --> 00:30:45.740
 yet

00:30:45.740 --> 00:30:46.479
 or

00:30:46.479 --> 00:30:46.659
 have

00:30:46.659 --> 00:30:47.079
 never

00:30:47.079 --> 00:30:50.319
 left

00:30:50.319 --> 00:30:50.319


00:30:51.779 --> 00:30:52.339
 They've

00:30:52.339 --> 00:30:52.479
 never

00:30:52.479 --> 00:30:52.740
 gone

00:30:52.740 --> 00:30:52.899
 through

00:30:52.899 --> 00:30:53.039
 the

00:30:53.039 --> 00:30:53.379
 process

00:30:53.379 --> 00:30:53.579
 of

00:30:53.579 --> 00:30:53.839
 leaving

00:30:53.839 --> 00:30:54.059
 and

00:30:54.059 --> 00:30:54.439
 cleaving

00:30:54.439 --> 00:30:54.779
 to

00:30:54.779 --> 00:30:55.000
 each

00:30:55.000 --> 00:30:55.259
 other

00:30:55.259 --> 00:30:57.379
 and

00:30:57.379 --> 00:30:58.059
 just

00:30:58.059 --> 00:30:58.439
 bear in

00:30:58.439 --> 00:30:58.659
 mind

00:30:58.659 --> 00:30:58.919
 here

00:30:58.919 --> 00:31:00.479
 when we

00:31:00.479 --> 00:31:00.799
 hear that

00:31:00.799 --> 00:31:01.139
 we think

00:31:01.139 --> 00:31:02.459
 mummy's

00:31:02.459 --> 00:31:02.719
 boy

00:31:02.720 --> 00:31:03.640
 kind of

00:31:03.640 --> 00:31:04.000
 person

00:31:04.000 --> 00:31:04.740
 the person

00:31:04.740 --> 00:31:04.940
 who's

00:31:04.940 --> 00:31:05.100
 not

00:31:05.100 --> 00:31:05.299
 cut

00:31:05.299 --> 00:31:05.460
 the

00:31:05.460 --> 00:31:05.720
 apron

00:31:05.720 --> 00:31:06.180
 strings

00:31:06.180 --> 00:31:07.700
 yes

00:31:07.700 --> 00:31:08.400
 that's

00:31:08.400 --> 00:31:08.640
 one

00:31:08.640 --> 00:31:09.079
 example

00:31:09.079 --> 00:31:09.500
 of it

00:31:09.500 --> 00:31:10.600
 another

00:31:10.600 --> 00:31:11.140
 example

00:31:11.140 --> 00:31:11.500
 of it

00:31:11.500 --> 00:31:12.140
 is those

00:31:12.140 --> 00:31:12.559
 who have

00:31:12.559 --> 00:31:12.940
 a real

00:31:12.940 --> 00:31:13.539
 detesting

00:31:13.539 --> 00:31:14.120
 of their

00:31:14.120 --> 00:31:14.700
 parents

00:31:14.700 --> 00:31:15.940
 you too

00:31:15.940 --> 00:31:16.420
 have not

00:31:16.420 --> 00:31:16.680
 left

00:31:16.680 --> 00:31:18.860
 and cleaved

00:31:18.860 --> 00:31:20.500
 if you

00:31:20.500 --> 00:31:21.259
 resent your

00:31:21.259 --> 00:31:21.640
 parents

00:31:21.640 --> 00:31:22.079
 you still

00:31:22.079 --> 00:31:22.339
 haven't

00:31:22.339 --> 00:31:22.579
 left

00:31:22.579 --> 00:31:22.839
 them

00:31:22.839 --> 00:31:25.339
 you're

00:31:25.339 --> 00:31:25.539
 still

00:31:25.539 --> 00:31:25.900
 making

00:31:25.900 --> 00:31:26.460
 decisions

00:31:26.460 --> 00:31:27.140
 about

00:31:27.140 --> 00:31:27.380
 your

00:31:27.380 --> 00:31:27.700
 married

00:31:27.700 --> 00:31:28.339
 life

00:31:28.339 --> 00:31:29.500
 to

00:31:29.500 --> 00:31:30.460
 spite

00:31:30.460 --> 00:31:30.799
 them

00:31:30.799 --> 00:31:36.940
 so many

00:31:36.940 --> 00:31:37.440
 spouses

00:31:37.440 --> 00:31:37.839
 allow

00:31:37.839 --> 00:31:38.079
 their

00:31:38.079 --> 00:31:38.500
 bad

00:31:38.500 --> 00:31:38.819
 relationship

00:31:38.819 --> 00:31:39.000
 to

00:31:39.000 --> 00:31:39.039
 their

00:31:39.039 --> 00:31:39.519
 parents

00:31:39.519 --> 00:31:39.659
 to

00:31:39.659 --> 00:31:40.079
 control

00:31:40.079 --> 00:31:40.279
 how

00:31:40.279 --> 00:31:40.399
 they

00:31:40.399 --> 00:31:40.659
 relate

00:31:40.659 --> 00:31:40.799
 to

00:31:40.799 --> 00:31:41.019
 their

00:31:41.019 --> 00:31:41.980
 spouse

00:31:41.980 --> 00:31:42.480
 you

00:31:42.480 --> 00:31:42.980
 must

00:31:42.980 --> 00:31:43.599
 leave

00:31:43.599 --> 00:31:43.720
 it

00:31:43.720 --> 00:31:44.200
 behind

00:31:44.200 --> 00:31:48.200
 leaving

00:31:48.200 --> 00:31:48.419
 and

00:31:48.419 --> 00:31:48.740
 cleaving

00:31:48.740 --> 00:31:50.419
 means

00:31:50.419 --> 00:31:50.859
 that

00:31:50.859 --> 00:31:51.220
 no

00:31:51.220 --> 00:31:51.700
 couple

00:31:51.700 --> 00:31:52.859
 should

00:31:52.859 --> 00:31:53.119
 do

00:31:53.119 --> 00:31:53.960
 anything

00:31:53.960 --> 00:31:56.139
 anything

00:31:56.139 --> 00:31:56.759
 at all

00:31:56.759 --> 00:31:57.480
 simply

00:31:57.480 --> 00:31:58.059
 because

00:31:58.059 --> 00:31:58.440
 my

00:31:58.440 --> 00:31:58.839
 family

00:31:58.839 --> 00:31:59.200
 did it

00:31:59.200 --> 00:31:59.419
 this

00:31:59.419 --> 00:31:59.680
 way

00:31:59.680 --> 00:32:01.980
 if

00:32:01.980 --> 00:32:02.200
 the

00:32:02.200 --> 00:32:02.539
 Bible

00:32:02.539 --> 00:32:02.900
 says

00:32:02.900 --> 00:32:03.080
 you

00:32:03.080 --> 00:32:03.400
 do

00:32:03.400 --> 00:32:03.519
 it

00:32:03.519 --> 00:32:03.799
 it's

00:32:03.799 --> 00:32:04.539
 unquestioned

00:32:04.539 --> 00:32:05.120
 everything

00:32:05.120 --> 00:32:05.440
 else

00:32:05.440 --> 00:32:05.799
 is open

00:32:05.799 --> 00:32:05.980
 for

00:32:05.980 --> 00:32:06.759
 negotiation

00:32:06.759 --> 00:32:08.500
 one of

00:32:08.500 --> 00:32:08.660
 the things

00:32:08.660 --> 00:32:09.000
 I do

00:32:09.000 --> 00:32:09.259
 when I

00:32:09.259 --> 00:32:09.440
 tell

00:32:09.440 --> 00:32:09.940
 couples

00:32:09.940 --> 00:32:10.660
 or

00:32:10.660 --> 00:32:11.120
 prepare

00:32:11.120 --> 00:32:11.400
 couples

00:32:11.400 --> 00:32:11.560
 for

00:32:11.560 --> 00:32:11.980
 marriage

00:32:11.980 --> 00:32:13.220
 one bit

00:32:13.220 --> 00:32:13.580
 of advice

00:32:13.580 --> 00:32:14.080
 I ask

00:32:14.080 --> 00:32:14.220
 them

00:32:14.220 --> 00:32:14.500
 or one

00:32:14.500 --> 00:32:14.779
 question

00:32:14.779 --> 00:32:15.019
 I ask

00:32:15.019 --> 00:32:15.100
 them

00:32:15.100 --> 00:32:15.560
 what are

00:32:15.560 --> 00:32:16.000
 you doing

00:32:16.000 --> 00:32:16.220
 on the

00:32:16.220 --> 00:32:16.400
 first

00:32:16.400 --> 00:32:16.779
 Christmas

00:32:16.779 --> 00:32:17.120
 after

00:32:17.120 --> 00:32:17.320
 you've

00:32:17.320 --> 00:32:17.420
 been

00:32:17.420 --> 00:32:17.740
 married

00:32:17.740 --> 00:32:19.380
 I

00:32:19.380 --> 00:32:19.480
 don't

00:32:19.480 --> 00:32:19.580
 know

00:32:19.580 --> 00:32:19.600
 I

00:32:19.600 --> 00:32:19.759
 haven't

00:32:19.759 --> 00:32:19.940
 thought

00:32:19.940 --> 00:32:20.180
 about

00:32:20.180 --> 00:32:20.360
 it

00:32:20.360 --> 00:32:20.820
 think

00:32:20.820 --> 00:32:21.080
 about

00:32:21.080 --> 00:32:21.580
 it

00:32:21.580 --> 00:32:23.799
 here's

00:32:23.799 --> 00:32:23.960
 my

00:32:23.960 --> 00:32:24.680
 recommendation

00:32:24.680 --> 00:32:26.860
 set

00:32:26.860 --> 00:32:27.039
 the

00:32:27.039 --> 00:32:27.420
 agenda

00:32:27.420 --> 00:32:27.940
 right

00:32:27.940 --> 00:32:28.259
 from the

00:32:28.259 --> 00:32:28.480
 very

00:32:28.480 --> 00:32:28.900
 beginning

00:32:28.900 --> 00:32:30.340
 to do

00:32:30.340 --> 00:32:30.560
 your

00:32:30.560 --> 00:32:30.920
 own

00:32:30.920 --> 00:32:31.220
 thing

00:32:31.220 --> 00:32:31.480
 on your

00:32:31.480 --> 00:32:31.680
 very

00:32:31.680 --> 00:32:31.980
 first

00:32:31.980 --> 00:32:32.500
 Christmas

00:32:32.500 --> 00:32:34.160
 accept

00:32:34.160 --> 00:32:34.560
 no

00:32:34.560 --> 00:32:35.180
 invitation

00:32:35.180 --> 00:32:35.880
 from extended

00:32:35.880 --> 00:32:36.400
 family

00:32:36.400 --> 00:32:37.240
 and do

00:32:37.240 --> 00:32:37.600
 your own

00:32:37.600 --> 00:32:37.820
 thing

00:32:37.820 --> 00:32:38.040
 for the

00:32:38.040 --> 00:32:38.220
 very

00:32:38.220 --> 00:32:38.480
 first

00:32:38.480 --> 00:32:38.900
 Christmas

00:32:38.900 --> 00:32:41.240
 set

00:32:41.240 --> 00:32:41.440
 the

00:32:41.440 --> 00:32:41.780
 pattern

00:32:41.780 --> 00:32:42.200
 that you

00:32:42.200 --> 00:32:42.540
 are a

00:32:42.540 --> 00:32:42.740
 new

00:32:42.740 --> 00:32:43.100
 family

00:32:43.100 --> 00:32:43.480
 unit

00:32:43.480 --> 00:33:13.480


00:33:13.480 --> 00:33:13.960
 and that

00:33:13.960 --> 00:33:14.259
 spouse

00:33:14.259 --> 00:33:14.660
 is not

00:33:14.660 --> 00:33:15.059
 left

00:33:15.059 --> 00:33:18.599
 now

00:33:18.599 --> 00:33:19.319
 the

00:33:19.319 --> 00:33:19.579
 other

00:33:19.579 --> 00:33:20.059
 problem

00:33:20.059 --> 00:33:20.420
 that

00:33:20.420 --> 00:33:20.860
 sinks

00:33:20.860 --> 00:33:21.240
 so

00:33:21.240 --> 00:33:21.559
 many

00:33:21.559 --> 00:33:22.180
 marriages

00:33:22.180 --> 00:33:23.099
 is the

00:33:23.099 --> 00:33:23.779
 over

00:33:23.779 --> 00:33:24.259
 commitment

00:33:24.259 --> 00:33:25.380
 to

00:33:25.380 --> 00:33:25.839
 the

00:33:25.839 --> 00:33:26.039
 next

00:33:26.039 --> 00:33:26.579
 generation

00:33:26.579 --> 00:33:26.839
 to

00:33:26.839 --> 00:33:27.299
 children

00:33:27.299 --> 00:33:29.200
 this

00:33:29.200 --> 00:33:29.660
 one's

00:33:29.660 --> 00:33:30.319
 slightly

00:33:30.319 --> 00:33:30.599
 more

00:33:30.599 --> 00:33:30.940
 harder

00:33:30.940 --> 00:33:31.539
 because

00:33:31.539 --> 00:33:32.220
 they're

00:33:32.220 --> 00:33:32.640
 actually

00:33:32.640 --> 00:33:33.019
 part

00:33:33.019 --> 00:33:33.140
 of

00:33:33.140 --> 00:33:33.240
 your

00:33:33.240 --> 00:33:33.440
 new

00:33:33.440 --> 00:33:33.720
 family

00:33:33.720 --> 00:33:34.099
 unit

00:33:34.099 --> 00:33:35.960
 they're

00:33:35.960 --> 00:33:36.079
 not

00:33:36.079 --> 00:33:36.319
 part

00:33:36.319 --> 00:33:36.440
 of

00:33:36.440 --> 00:33:36.579
 your

00:33:36.579 --> 00:33:36.900
 former

00:33:36.900 --> 00:33:37.240
 family

00:33:37.240 --> 00:33:37.500
 unit

00:33:37.500 --> 00:33:37.700
 they're

00:33:37.700 --> 00:33:37.839
 part

00:33:37.839 --> 00:33:37.920
 of

00:33:37.920 --> 00:33:38.039
 your

00:33:38.039 --> 00:33:38.200
 new

00:33:38.200 --> 00:33:38.500
 family

00:33:38.500 --> 00:33:38.860
 unit

00:33:38.860 --> 00:33:39.480
 and so

00:33:39.480 --> 00:33:39.620
 it's

00:33:39.620 --> 00:33:39.900
 right

00:33:39.900 --> 00:33:40.059
 to

00:33:40.059 --> 00:33:40.460
 consider

00:33:40.460 --> 00:33:40.700
 that

00:33:40.700 --> 00:33:41.059
 parenting

00:33:41.059 --> 00:33:41.500
 is a

00:33:41.500 --> 00:33:41.840
 very

00:33:41.840 --> 00:33:42.380
 high

00:33:42.380 --> 00:33:42.579
 and

00:33:42.579 --> 00:33:43.000
 important

00:33:43.000 --> 00:33:43.360
 calling

00:33:43.360 --> 00:33:43.539
 in

00:33:43.539 --> 00:33:43.940
 life

00:33:43.940 --> 00:33:45.880
 if

00:33:45.880 --> 00:33:46.180
 a

00:33:46.180 --> 00:33:46.559
 marriage

00:33:46.559 --> 00:33:47.279
 cools

00:33:47.279 --> 00:33:48.640
 which

00:33:48.640 --> 00:33:48.799
 it

00:33:48.799 --> 00:33:49.160
 can

00:33:49.160 --> 00:33:49.460
 in

00:33:49.460 --> 00:33:49.620
 the

00:33:49.620 --> 00:33:50.039
 years

00:33:50.039 --> 00:33:50.620
 during

00:33:50.620 --> 00:33:52.140
 when

00:33:52.140 --> 00:33:52.340
 the

00:33:52.340 --> 00:33:52.579
 kids

00:33:52.579 --> 00:33:52.759
 are

00:33:52.759 --> 00:33:53.240
 so

00:33:53.240 --> 00:33:54.680
 needy

00:33:54.680 --> 00:33:56.720
 which

00:33:56.720 --> 00:33:56.960
 means

00:33:56.960 --> 00:33:57.220
 up to

00:33:57.220 --> 00:33:57.380
 probably

00:33:57.380 --> 00:33:57.539
 about

00:33:57.539 --> 00:33:57.900
 25

00:33:57.900 --> 00:33:58.400
 nowadays

00:33:58.400 --> 00:34:00.279
 it

00:34:00.279 --> 00:34:00.579
 is

00:34:00.579 --> 00:34:02.360
 it

00:34:02.360 --> 00:34:02.559
 is

00:34:02.559 --> 00:34:03.039
 natural

00:34:03.039 --> 00:34:03.980
 to

00:34:03.980 --> 00:34:04.240
 get

00:34:04.240 --> 00:34:04.700
 your

00:34:04.700 --> 00:34:05.680
 primary

00:34:05.680 --> 00:34:06.299
 need

00:34:06.299 --> 00:34:06.640
 of

00:34:06.640 --> 00:34:07.340
 love

00:34:07.340 --> 00:34:10.320
 and

00:34:10.320 --> 00:34:10.880
 affection

00:34:10.880 --> 00:34:12.019
 to

00:34:12.019 --> 00:34:12.180
 have

00:34:12.180 --> 00:34:12.320
 it

00:34:12.320 --> 00:34:12.700
 met

00:34:12.700 --> 00:34:12.920
 through

00:34:12.920 --> 00:34:13.140
 the

00:34:13.140 --> 00:34:13.680
 child

00:34:13.680 --> 00:34:14.240
 parent

00:34:14.240 --> 00:34:15.059
 relationship

00:34:15.059 --> 00:34:16.280
 rather

00:34:16.280 --> 00:34:16.460
 than

00:34:16.460 --> 00:34:16.700
 the

00:34:16.700 --> 00:34:17.360
 husband

00:34:17.360 --> 00:34:17.940
 wife

00:34:17.940 --> 00:34:19.160
 relationship

00:34:19.160 --> 00:34:21.039
 but

00:34:21.039 --> 00:34:21.360
 when

00:34:21.360 --> 00:34:21.640
 we

00:34:21.640 --> 00:34:22.080
 love

00:34:22.080 --> 00:34:22.460
 our

00:34:22.460 --> 00:34:23.140
 children

00:34:23.140 --> 00:34:24.400
 more

00:34:24.400 --> 00:34:24.600
 than

00:34:24.600 --> 00:34:24.780
 we

00:34:24.780 --> 00:34:25.180
 love

00:34:25.180 --> 00:34:25.600
 our

00:34:25.600 --> 00:34:26.420
 spouse

00:34:26.420 --> 00:34:27.380
 then

00:34:27.380 --> 00:34:27.660
 the

00:34:27.660 --> 00:34:28.380
 entire

00:34:28.380 --> 00:34:29.220
 family

00:34:29.220 --> 00:34:29.640
 unit

00:34:29.640 --> 00:34:29.960
 gets

00:34:29.960 --> 00:34:30.340
 pulled

00:34:30.340 --> 00:34:30.559
 off

00:34:30.559 --> 00:34:30.920
 centre

00:34:30.920 --> 00:34:31.620
 and

00:34:31.620 --> 00:34:32.100
 everyone

00:34:32.100 --> 00:34:32.680
 suffers

00:34:32.680 --> 00:34:34.140
 it's

00:34:34.140 --> 00:34:34.320
 the

00:34:34.320 --> 00:34:34.640
 worst

00:34:34.640 --> 00:34:34.920
 thing

00:34:34.920 --> 00:34:35.220
 you can

00:34:35.220 --> 00:34:35.580
 do

00:34:35.580 --> 00:34:35.860
 for

00:34:35.860 --> 00:34:36.100
 your

00:34:36.100 --> 00:34:36.519
 children

00:34:36.519 --> 00:34:42.699
 it's

00:34:42.699 --> 00:34:42.840
 why

00:34:42.840 --> 00:34:43.039
 so

00:34:43.039 --> 00:34:43.280
 many

00:34:43.280 --> 00:34:43.840
 marriages

00:34:43.840 --> 00:34:45.280
 come

00:34:45.280 --> 00:34:45.759
 to a

00:34:45.759 --> 00:34:46.259
 grinding

00:34:46.259 --> 00:34:46.699
 halt

00:34:46.699 --> 00:34:46.940
 when

00:34:46.940 --> 00:34:47.139
 the

00:34:47.139 --> 00:34:47.440
 kids

00:34:47.440 --> 00:34:48.039
 depart

00:34:48.039 --> 00:34:50.480
 Ephesians

00:34:50.480 --> 00:34:50.900
 6

00:34:50.900 --> 00:34:51.460
 verse 4

00:34:51.460 --> 00:34:51.719
 says

00:34:51.719 --> 00:34:51.900
 the

00:34:51.900 --> 00:34:52.440
 goal

00:34:52.440 --> 00:34:53.860
 of

00:34:53.860 --> 00:34:54.360
 parenting

00:34:54.360 --> 00:34:55.420
 is

00:34:55.420 --> 00:34:55.679
 to

00:34:55.679 --> 00:34:56.139
 raise

00:34:56.139 --> 00:34:56.400
 them

00:34:56.400 --> 00:34:56.800
 up

00:34:56.800 --> 00:34:57.659
 in

00:34:57.659 --> 00:34:57.820
 the

00:34:57.820 --> 00:34:58.159
 Lord

00:34:58.159 --> 00:34:59.099
 raise

00:34:59.099 --> 00:34:59.259
 them

00:34:59.259 --> 00:34:59.539
 up

00:34:59.539 --> 00:35:00.239
 grow

00:35:00.239 --> 00:35:00.420
 them

00:35:00.420 --> 00:35:00.619
 up

00:35:00.619 --> 00:35:00.759
 the

00:35:00.759 --> 00:35:00.980
 goal

00:35:00.980 --> 00:35:01.139
 of

00:35:01.139 --> 00:35:01.579
 parenting

00:35:01.579 --> 00:35:02.820
 to

00:35:02.820 --> 00:35:03.219
 summarize

00:35:03.219 --> 00:35:03.759
 that

00:35:03.759 --> 00:35:04.420
 the

00:35:04.420 --> 00:35:04.599
 goal

00:35:04.599 --> 00:35:04.759
 of

00:35:04.759 --> 00:35:05.079
 parenting

00:35:05.079 --> 00:35:05.280
 is

00:35:05.280 --> 00:35:05.380
 to

00:35:05.380 --> 00:35:05.500
 get

00:35:05.500 --> 00:35:05.679
 rid

00:35:05.679 --> 00:35:05.759
 of

00:35:05.759 --> 00:35:05.920
 them

00:35:05.920 --> 00:35:08.099
 to

00:35:08.099 --> 00:35:08.360
 have

00:35:08.360 --> 00:35:08.559
 them

00:35:08.559 --> 00:35:08.960
 in

00:35:08.960 --> 00:35:09.099
 order

00:35:09.099 --> 00:35:09.220
 to

00:35:09.220 --> 00:35:09.320
 get

00:35:09.320 --> 00:35:09.519
 rid

00:35:09.519 --> 00:35:09.599
 of

00:35:09.599 --> 00:35:09.720
 them

00:35:09.720 --> 00:35:10.099
 that's

00:35:10.099 --> 00:35:10.240
 the

00:35:10.240 --> 00:35:10.559
 goal

00:35:10.559 --> 00:35:12.119
 I've

00:35:12.119 --> 00:35:12.720
 summarized

00:35:12.720 --> 00:35:13.320
 it

00:35:13.320 --> 00:35:16.800
 that's

00:35:16.800 --> 00:35:17.159
 not

00:35:17.159 --> 00:35:17.360
 the

00:35:17.360 --> 00:35:17.840
 goal

00:35:17.840 --> 00:35:19.400
 in

00:35:19.400 --> 00:35:19.680
 this

00:35:19.680 --> 00:35:20.240
 life

00:35:20.240 --> 00:35:22.860
 that you

00:35:22.860 --> 00:35:23.039
 should

00:35:23.039 --> 00:35:23.220
 have

00:35:23.220 --> 00:35:23.340
 for

00:35:23.340 --> 00:35:23.480
 your

00:35:23.480 --> 00:35:24.019
 spouse

00:35:24.019 --> 00:35:26.720
 the

00:35:26.720 --> 00:35:27.079
 best

00:35:27.079 --> 00:35:27.420
 way

00:35:27.420 --> 00:35:27.659
 to

00:35:27.659 --> 00:35:27.880
 be

00:35:27.880 --> 00:35:28.139
 a

00:35:28.139 --> 00:35:28.500
 great

00:35:28.500 --> 00:35:29.039
 parent

00:35:29.039 --> 00:35:29.860
 is

00:35:29.860 --> 00:35:30.099
 to

00:35:30.099 --> 00:35:30.639
 be

00:35:30.639 --> 00:35:31.720
 a

00:35:31.720 --> 00:35:32.079
 great

00:35:32.079 --> 00:35:32.740
 spouse

00:35:32.739 --> 00:35:35.159
 that

00:35:35.159 --> 00:35:35.559
 is

00:35:35.559 --> 00:35:35.699
 the

00:35:35.699 --> 00:35:35.939
 main

00:35:35.939 --> 00:35:36.379
 thing

00:35:36.379 --> 00:35:36.839
 that

00:35:36.839 --> 00:35:37.139
 our

00:35:37.139 --> 00:35:37.459
 children

00:35:37.459 --> 00:35:37.799
 need

00:35:37.799 --> 00:35:37.979
 from

00:35:37.979 --> 00:35:38.359
 us

00:35:38.359 --> 00:35:41.159
 so

00:35:41.159 --> 00:35:41.319
 the

00:35:41.319 --> 00:35:41.639
 crucial

00:35:41.639 --> 00:35:42.119
 principle

00:35:42.119 --> 00:35:42.519
 here

00:35:42.519 --> 00:35:42.899
 is

00:35:42.899 --> 00:35:43.039
 that

00:35:43.039 --> 00:35:43.219
 your

00:35:43.219 --> 00:35:43.719
 spouse

00:35:43.719 --> 00:35:44.419
 should

00:35:44.419 --> 00:35:44.759
 be

00:35:44.759 --> 00:35:46.299
 or

00:35:46.299 --> 00:35:46.439
 is

00:35:46.439 --> 00:35:46.579
 at

00:35:46.579 --> 00:35:46.779
 least

00:35:46.779 --> 00:35:47.439
 capable

00:35:47.439 --> 00:35:48.239
 of

00:35:48.239 --> 00:35:48.759
 becoming

00:35:48.759 --> 00:35:49.619
 your

00:35:49.619 --> 00:35:49.959
 best

00:35:49.959 --> 00:35:50.459
 friend

00:35:50.459 --> 00:35:51.359
 where

00:35:51.359 --> 00:35:51.579
 they

00:35:51.579 --> 00:35:51.879
 know

00:35:51.879 --> 00:35:52.179
 your

00:35:52.179 --> 00:35:52.559
 heart

00:35:52.559 --> 00:35:52.799
 more

00:35:52.799 --> 00:35:52.959
 than

00:35:52.959 --> 00:35:53.359
 anyone

00:35:53.359 --> 00:35:53.859
 else

00:35:53.859 --> 00:35:54.659
 anyone

00:35:54.659 --> 00:35:55.139
 else

00:35:55.139 --> 00:35:56.839
 it's

00:35:56.839 --> 00:35:56.939
 a

00:35:56.939 --> 00:35:57.479
 relationship

00:35:57.479 --> 00:35:57.879
 of

00:35:57.879 --> 00:35:58.699
 dependability

00:35:58.699 --> 00:35:59.599
 transparency

00:35:59.599 --> 00:36:00.179
 sympathy

00:36:00.179 --> 00:36:01.059
 with a

00:36:01.059 --> 00:36:01.319
 common

00:36:01.319 --> 00:36:01.779
 vision

00:36:01.779 --> 00:36:03.539
 and

00:36:03.539 --> 00:36:04.019
 together

00:36:04.019 --> 00:36:04.359
 it

00:36:04.359 --> 00:36:05.019
 creates

00:36:05.019 --> 00:36:05.339
 a

00:36:05.339 --> 00:36:05.859
 deep

00:36:05.859 --> 00:36:06.500
 deep

00:36:06.500 --> 00:36:07.199
 oneness

00:36:07.199 --> 00:36:07.559
 over

00:36:07.559 --> 00:36:08.099
 time

00:36:08.099 --> 00:36:09.960
 in

00:36:09.960 --> 00:36:10.159
 other

00:36:10.159 --> 00:36:10.519
 words

00:36:10.519 --> 00:36:10.799
 to

00:36:10.799 --> 00:36:11.139
 summarize

00:36:11.139 --> 00:36:11.460
 it

00:36:11.460 --> 00:36:11.579
 if

00:36:11.579 --> 00:36:11.679
 you

00:36:11.679 --> 00:36:12.119
 like

00:36:12.119 --> 00:36:12.599
 the

00:36:12.599 --> 00:36:12.940
 common

00:36:12.940 --> 00:36:13.480
 vision

00:36:13.480 --> 00:36:14.119
 for

00:36:14.119 --> 00:36:14.319
 your

00:36:14.319 --> 00:36:14.819
 marriage

00:36:14.819 --> 00:36:15.139
 is

00:36:15.139 --> 00:36:15.319
 that

00:36:15.319 --> 00:36:16.359
 you're

00:36:16.359 --> 00:36:17.440
 playing

00:36:17.440 --> 00:36:17.759
 dress

00:36:17.759 --> 00:36:18.099
 ups

00:36:18.099 --> 00:36:19.500
 I

00:36:19.500 --> 00:36:19.639
 need

00:36:19.639 --> 00:36:19.759
 to

00:36:19.759 --> 00:36:20.139
 explain

00:36:20.139 --> 00:36:20.440
 that

00:36:20.440 --> 00:36:21.379
 it's

00:36:21.379 --> 00:36:21.559
 up

00:36:21.559 --> 00:36:21.919
 there

00:36:21.919 --> 00:36:22.339
 my

00:36:22.339 --> 00:36:22.699
 last

00:36:22.699 --> 00:36:23.059
 point

00:36:23.059 --> 00:36:23.539
 preparing

00:36:23.539 --> 00:36:23.779
 for

00:36:23.779 --> 00:36:23.940
 the

00:36:23.940 --> 00:36:24.299
 ultimate

00:36:24.299 --> 00:36:24.739
 friend

00:36:24.739 --> 00:36:25.440
 in

00:36:25.440 --> 00:36:25.919
 Ephesians

00:36:25.919 --> 00:36:26.480
 5

00:36:26.480 --> 00:36:27.139
 25

00:36:27.139 --> 00:36:27.519
 to

00:36:27.519 --> 00:36:28.239
 27

00:36:28.239 --> 00:36:29.319
 this

00:36:29.319 --> 00:36:29.519
 is

00:36:29.519 --> 00:36:29.839
 the

00:36:29.840 --> 00:36:31.300
 goal

00:36:31.300 --> 00:36:31.579
 if

00:36:31.579 --> 00:36:31.680
 you

00:36:31.680 --> 00:36:32.000
 like

00:36:32.000 --> 00:36:32.780
 the

00:36:32.780 --> 00:36:33.160
 common

00:36:33.160 --> 00:36:33.660
 vision

00:36:33.660 --> 00:36:33.980
 for

00:36:33.980 --> 00:36:34.620
 marriage

00:36:34.620 --> 00:36:35.539
 is

00:36:35.539 --> 00:36:36.039
 getting

00:36:36.039 --> 00:36:36.579
 each

00:36:36.579 --> 00:36:37.079
 other

00:36:37.079 --> 00:36:38.559
 to

00:36:38.559 --> 00:36:38.860
 their

00:36:38.860 --> 00:36:39.380
 ultimate

00:36:39.380 --> 00:36:39.940
 friend

00:36:39.940 --> 00:36:41.760
 that's

00:36:41.760 --> 00:36:41.900
 the

00:36:41.900 --> 00:36:42.200
 vision

00:36:42.200 --> 00:36:42.660
 that's

00:36:42.660 --> 00:36:42.800
 the

00:36:42.800 --> 00:36:43.220
 goal

00:36:43.220 --> 00:36:44.880
 that

00:36:44.880 --> 00:36:45.100
 is

00:36:45.100 --> 00:36:45.500
 to

00:36:45.500 --> 00:36:45.940
 get

00:36:45.940 --> 00:36:46.700
 your

00:36:46.700 --> 00:36:47.780
 spouse

00:36:47.780 --> 00:36:49.160
 prepared

00:36:49.160 --> 00:36:49.700
 and

00:36:49.700 --> 00:36:50.180
 ready

00:36:50.180 --> 00:36:50.760
 for

00:36:50.760 --> 00:36:51.120
 her

00:36:51.120 --> 00:36:51.539
 wedding

00:36:51.539 --> 00:36:51.980
 day

00:36:51.980 --> 00:36:55.400
 the

00:36:55.400 --> 00:36:55.900
 ultimate

00:36:55.900 --> 00:36:56.280
 wedding

00:36:56.280 --> 00:36:56.680
 day

00:36:56.680 --> 00:36:57.600
 her

00:36:57.600 --> 00:36:58.280
 true

00:36:58.280 --> 00:36:59.019
 lover

00:36:59.019 --> 00:36:59.680
 friend

00:36:59.679 --> 00:37:00.980
 their

00:37:00.980 --> 00:37:01.239
 true

00:37:01.239 --> 00:37:01.440
 love

00:37:01.440 --> 00:37:01.579
 of

00:37:01.579 --> 00:37:01.879
 friend

00:37:01.879 --> 00:37:03.059
 putting

00:37:03.059 --> 00:37:04.859
 Christian

00:37:04.859 --> 00:37:05.859
 friendship

00:37:05.859 --> 00:37:06.559
 at the

00:37:06.559 --> 00:37:06.960
 heart

00:37:06.960 --> 00:37:07.199
 of

00:37:07.199 --> 00:37:07.579
 marriage

00:37:07.579 --> 00:37:07.919
 what it

00:37:07.919 --> 00:37:08.179
 does

00:37:08.179 --> 00:37:08.460
 is it

00:37:08.460 --> 00:37:08.919
 lifts

00:37:08.919 --> 00:37:09.179
 it

00:37:09.179 --> 00:37:10.139
 to a

00:37:10.139 --> 00:37:10.440
 level

00:37:10.440 --> 00:37:10.699
 that

00:37:10.699 --> 00:37:11.099
 no

00:37:11.099 --> 00:37:11.460
 other

00:37:11.460 --> 00:37:11.960
 vision

00:37:11.960 --> 00:37:12.219
 of

00:37:12.219 --> 00:37:12.539
 marriage

00:37:12.539 --> 00:37:12.879
 even

00:37:12.879 --> 00:37:13.179
 comes

00:37:13.179 --> 00:37:13.659
 close

00:37:13.659 --> 00:37:13.940
 to

00:37:13.940 --> 00:37:14.379
 you

00:37:14.379 --> 00:37:14.460
 see

00:37:14.460 --> 00:37:14.619
 the

00:37:14.619 --> 00:37:15.019
 Bible's

00:37:15.019 --> 00:37:15.259
 vision

00:37:15.259 --> 00:37:15.419
 of

00:37:15.419 --> 00:37:15.759
 marriage

00:37:15.759 --> 00:37:16.259
 is

00:37:16.259 --> 00:37:16.460
 to

00:37:16.460 --> 00:37:16.799
 look

00:37:16.799 --> 00:37:17.059
 at

00:37:17.059 --> 00:37:17.279
 your

00:37:17.279 --> 00:37:17.980
 spouse

00:37:17.980 --> 00:37:18.960
 and

00:37:18.960 --> 00:37:19.099
 to

00:37:19.099 --> 00:37:19.219
 get

00:37:19.219 --> 00:37:19.440
 a

00:37:19.440 --> 00:37:19.799
 glimpse

00:37:19.799 --> 00:37:20.000
!

00:37:20.000 --> 00:37:20.799
 of

00:37:20.799 --> 00:37:20.980
 the

00:37:20.980 --> 00:37:21.539
 person

00:37:21.539 --> 00:37:21.779
 that

00:37:21.779 --> 00:37:22.059
 God

00:37:22.059 --> 00:37:22.219
 is

00:37:22.219 --> 00:37:22.779
 creating

00:37:22.779 --> 00:37:24.099
 and

00:37:24.099 --> 00:37:24.279
 you

00:37:24.279 --> 00:37:24.960
 fall

00:37:24.960 --> 00:37:25.559
 in

00:37:25.559 --> 00:37:25.839
 love

00:37:25.839 --> 00:37:26.059
 with

00:37:26.059 --> 00:37:26.539
 that

00:37:26.539 --> 00:37:28.559
 that's

00:37:28.559 --> 00:37:29.340
 Christian

00:37:29.340 --> 00:37:29.860
 marriage

00:37:29.860 --> 00:37:31.440
 when

00:37:31.440 --> 00:37:32.119
 Michelangelo

00:37:32.119 --> 00:37:32.659
 was asked

00:37:32.659 --> 00:37:33.019
 how he

00:37:33.019 --> 00:37:33.440
 carved

00:37:33.440 --> 00:37:33.659
 his

00:37:33.659 --> 00:37:34.259
 magnificent

00:37:34.259 --> 00:37:35.320
 David

00:37:35.320 --> 00:37:35.900
 statue

00:37:35.900 --> 00:37:36.239
 out of

00:37:36.239 --> 00:37:36.679
 a lump

00:37:36.679 --> 00:37:36.980
 of

00:37:36.980 --> 00:37:40.079
 marble

00:37:40.079 --> 00:37:41.360
 he's

00:37:41.360 --> 00:37:41.840
 reputed

00:37:41.840 --> 00:37:42.259
 to have

00:37:42.259 --> 00:37:42.639
 said

00:37:42.639 --> 00:37:43.259
 I

00:37:43.259 --> 00:37:43.719
 looked

00:37:43.719 --> 00:37:44.460
 inside

00:37:44.460 --> 00:37:44.699
 the

00:37:44.699 --> 00:37:45.139
 marble

00:37:45.139 --> 00:37:46.199
 and I

00:37:46.199 --> 00:37:46.679
 just

00:37:46.679 --> 00:37:46.960
 took

00:37:46.960 --> 00:37:47.219
 away

00:37:47.219 --> 00:37:47.440
 the

00:37:47.440 --> 00:37:47.699
 bits

00:37:47.699 --> 00:37:47.880
 that

00:37:47.880 --> 00:37:48.019
 were

00:37:48.019 --> 00:37:48.259
 not

00:37:48.259 --> 00:37:48.719
 David

00:37:48.719 --> 00:37:51.940
 that's

00:37:51.940 --> 00:37:52.079
 the

00:37:52.079 --> 00:37:52.320
 vision

00:37:52.320 --> 00:37:52.480
 of

00:37:52.480 --> 00:37:52.920
 marriage

00:37:52.920 --> 00:37:53.739
 right

00:37:53.739 --> 00:37:54.139
 there

00:37:54.139 --> 00:37:57.699
 Jesus

00:37:57.699 --> 00:37:58.239
 died

00:37:58.239 --> 00:37:58.599
 on the

00:37:58.599 --> 00:37:58.859
 cross

00:37:58.859 --> 00:37:59.059
 for

00:37:59.059 --> 00:37:59.259
 our

00:37:59.259 --> 00:37:59.719
 sin

00:37:59.719 --> 00:38:02.219
 to

00:38:02.219 --> 00:38:03.059
 remake

00:38:03.059 --> 00:38:03.559
 us

00:38:03.559 --> 00:38:03.839
 into

00:38:03.839 --> 00:38:04.159
 his

00:38:04.159 --> 00:38:04.739
 image

00:38:04.739 --> 00:38:06.900
 his

00:38:06.900 --> 00:38:07.420
 goal

00:38:07.420 --> 00:38:07.900
 is to

00:38:07.900 --> 00:38:08.319
 perfect

00:38:08.319 --> 00:38:08.599
 his

00:38:08.599 --> 00:38:09.199
 church

00:38:09.199 --> 00:38:09.879
 according

00:38:09.879 --> 00:38:10.119
 to

00:38:10.119 --> 00:38:10.539
 Ephesians

00:38:10.539 --> 00:38:11.099
 5

00:38:11.099 --> 00:38:12.859
 his

00:38:12.859 --> 00:38:13.599
 bride

00:38:13.599 --> 00:38:13.699
!

00:38:14.460 --> 00:38:14.519
 He

00:38:14.519 --> 00:38:15.239
 saved

00:38:15.239 --> 00:38:15.559
 us

00:38:15.559 --> 00:38:16.000
 he

00:38:16.000 --> 00:38:16.659
 made

00:38:16.659 --> 00:38:16.900
 a

00:38:16.900 --> 00:38:17.239
 covenant

00:38:17.239 --> 00:38:17.839
 commitment

00:38:17.839 --> 00:38:18.179
 to

00:38:18.179 --> 00:38:18.659
 us

00:38:18.659 --> 00:38:22.739
 to

00:38:22.739 --> 00:38:23.440
 perfect

00:38:23.440 --> 00:38:24.000
 us

00:38:24.000 --> 00:38:26.940
 that's

00:38:26.940 --> 00:38:27.099
 his

00:38:27.099 --> 00:38:27.500
 purpose

00:38:27.500 --> 00:38:27.719
 and

00:38:27.719 --> 00:38:28.079
 goal

00:38:28.079 --> 00:38:29.519
 for

00:38:29.519 --> 00:38:29.739
 his

00:38:29.739 --> 00:38:30.219
 church

00:38:30.219 --> 00:38:30.480
 and

00:38:30.480 --> 00:38:30.659
 it's

00:38:30.659 --> 00:38:30.840
 his

00:38:30.840 --> 00:38:31.179
 purpose

00:38:31.179 --> 00:38:31.380
 and

00:38:31.380 --> 00:38:31.579
 goal

00:38:31.579 --> 00:38:31.780
 for

00:38:31.780 --> 00:38:32.219
 marriage

00:38:32.219 --> 00:38:33.860
 marriage

00:38:33.860 --> 00:38:34.340
 is a

00:38:34.340 --> 00:38:34.800
 permanent

00:38:34.800 --> 00:38:35.059
 and

00:38:35.059 --> 00:38:35.619
 exclusive

00:38:35.619 --> 00:38:36.099
 legal

00:38:36.099 --> 00:38:36.480
 commitment

00:38:36.480 --> 00:38:36.760
 between

00:38:36.760 --> 00:38:37.139
 a man

00:38:37.139 --> 00:38:37.300
 and a

00:38:37.300 --> 00:38:37.500
 woman

00:38:37.500 --> 00:38:38.039
 to

00:38:38.039 --> 00:38:38.320
 share

00:38:38.320 --> 00:38:38.519
 their

00:38:38.519 --> 00:38:38.960
 entire

00:38:38.960 --> 00:38:39.440
 life

00:38:39.440 --> 00:38:39.739
 with

00:38:39.739 --> 00:38:39.980
 each

00:38:39.980 --> 00:38:40.260
 other

00:38:40.260 --> 00:38:40.739
 and

00:38:40.739 --> 00:38:40.920
 to

00:38:40.920 --> 00:38:41.280
 prepare

00:38:41.280 --> 00:38:41.500
 each

00:38:41.500 --> 00:38:41.679
 other

00:38:41.679 --> 00:38:41.860
 for

00:38:41.860 --> 00:38:42.019
 the

00:38:42.019 --> 00:38:42.219
 day

00:38:42.219 --> 00:38:42.420
 when

00:38:42.420 --> 00:38:42.539
 they

00:38:42.539 --> 00:38:42.699
 will

00:38:42.699 --> 00:38:43.079
 stand

00:38:43.079 --> 00:38:43.420
 before

00:38:43.420 --> 00:38:43.659
 their

00:38:43.659 --> 00:38:44.039
 ultimate

00:38:44.039 --> 00:38:44.380
 friend

00:38:44.380 --> 00:38:44.539
 and

00:38:44.539 --> 00:38:44.719
 lover

00:38:44.719 --> 00:38:45.099
 Jesus

00:38:45.099 --> 00:38:47.059
 that's

00:38:47.059 --> 00:38:47.199
 the

00:38:47.199 --> 00:38:47.460
 purpose

00:38:47.460 --> 00:38:47.599
 of

00:38:47.599 --> 00:38:48.000
 marriage

00:38:48.000 --> 00:38:50.679
 marriage

00:38:50.679 --> 00:38:50.860
 is

00:38:50.860 --> 00:38:51.260
 where I

00:38:51.260 --> 00:38:51.559
 say

00:38:51.559 --> 00:38:51.820
 I

00:38:51.820 --> 00:38:52.260
 want

00:38:52.260 --> 00:38:52.260


00:38:54.000 --> 00:38:54.340
 I

00:38:54.340 --> 00:38:54.599
 want

00:38:54.599 --> 00:38:54.780
 to

00:38:54.780 --> 00:38:55.420
 partner

00:38:55.420 --> 00:38:55.800
 with

00:38:55.800 --> 00:38:56.320
 you

00:38:56.320 --> 00:38:57.900
 and

00:38:57.900 --> 00:38:58.440
 God

00:38:58.440 --> 00:38:59.940
 in

00:38:59.940 --> 00:39:00.139
 the

00:39:00.139 --> 00:39:00.820
 journey

00:39:00.820 --> 00:39:01.559
 that

00:39:01.559 --> 00:39:01.900
 he

00:39:01.900 --> 00:39:02.239
 is

00:39:02.239 --> 00:39:02.679
 taking

00:39:02.679 --> 00:39:03.000
 you

00:39:03.000 --> 00:39:03.179
 to

00:39:03.179 --> 00:39:03.559
 his

00:39:03.559 --> 00:39:04.039
 throne

00:39:04.039 --> 00:39:10.199
 each

00:39:10.199 --> 00:39:10.780
 spouse

00:39:10.780 --> 00:39:11.500
 should

00:39:11.500 --> 00:39:11.820
 see

00:39:11.820 --> 00:39:12.019
 the

00:39:12.019 --> 00:39:12.340
 great

00:39:12.340 --> 00:39:12.619
 thing

00:39:12.619 --> 00:39:12.820
 that

00:39:12.820 --> 00:39:13.119
 Jesus

00:39:13.119 --> 00:39:13.280
 is

00:39:13.280 --> 00:39:13.460
 doing

00:39:13.460 --> 00:39:13.579
 in

00:39:13.579 --> 00:39:13.659
 the

00:39:13.659 --> 00:39:13.880
 life

00:39:13.880 --> 00:39:14.000
 of

00:39:14.000 --> 00:39:14.139
 their

00:39:14.139 --> 00:39:14.599
 partner

00:39:14.599 --> 00:39:17.579
 by

00:39:17.579 --> 00:39:17.980
 God

00:39:17.980 --> 00:39:18.280
 through

00:39:18.280 --> 00:39:18.559
 his

00:39:18.559 --> 00:39:19.000
 word

00:39:19.000 --> 00:39:19.579
 and

00:39:19.579 --> 00:39:19.780
 his

00:39:19.780 --> 00:39:20.179
 spirit

00:39:20.179 --> 00:39:22.039
 and

00:39:22.039 --> 00:39:22.379
 each

00:39:22.379 --> 00:39:22.679
 spouse

00:39:22.679 --> 00:39:22.960
 should

00:39:22.960 --> 00:39:23.399
 give

00:39:23.399 --> 00:39:24.059
 themselves

00:39:24.059 --> 00:39:24.319
 to

00:39:24.319 --> 00:39:24.500
 be

00:39:24.500 --> 00:39:24.799
 a

00:39:24.799 --> 00:39:25.199
 vehicle

00:39:25.199 --> 00:39:25.899
 for

00:39:25.899 --> 00:39:26.059
 the

00:39:26.059 --> 00:39:26.639
 work

00:39:26.639 --> 00:39:27.279
 of

00:39:27.279 --> 00:39:27.719
 gospel

00:39:27.719 --> 00:39:28.419
 transformation

00:39:28.419 --> 00:39:29.139
 in

00:39:29.139 --> 00:39:29.339
 the

00:39:29.339 --> 00:39:29.699
 life

00:39:29.699 --> 00:39:30.480
 of

00:39:30.480 --> 00:39:30.819
 their

00:39:30.819 --> 00:39:31.359
 partner

00:39:31.359 --> 00:39:32.460
 they

00:39:32.460 --> 00:39:32.599
 are

00:39:32.599 --> 00:39:32.759
 to

00:39:32.759 --> 00:39:33.279
 envisage

00:39:33.279 --> 00:39:33.480
 the

00:39:33.480 --> 00:39:33.879
 day

00:39:33.879 --> 00:39:34.799
 when

00:39:34.799 --> 00:39:35.019
 they

00:39:35.019 --> 00:39:35.239
 will

00:39:35.239 --> 00:39:35.980
 stand

00:39:35.980 --> 00:39:37.359
 before

00:39:37.359 --> 00:39:38.259
 God

00:39:38.259 --> 00:39:40.399
 and

00:39:40.399 --> 00:39:43.019
 seeing

00:39:43.019 --> 00:39:43.359
 each

00:39:43.359 --> 00:39:43.619
 other

00:39:43.619 --> 00:39:44.559
 spotless

00:39:44.559 --> 00:39:47.339
 beautiful

00:39:47.339 --> 00:39:49.519
 glorious

00:39:49.519 --> 00:39:50.579
 in

00:39:50.579 --> 00:39:50.759
 his

00:39:50.759 --> 00:39:51.280
 presence

00:39:51.280 --> 00:39:54.019
 when

00:39:54.019 --> 00:39:54.440
 Christians

00:39:54.440 --> 00:39:55.280
 understand

00:39:55.280 --> 00:39:57.059
 the

00:39:57.059 --> 00:39:57.480
 meaning

00:39:57.480 --> 00:39:57.679
 of

00:39:57.679 --> 00:39:58.099
 marriage

00:39:58.099 --> 00:39:58.219
 and

00:39:58.219 --> 00:39:58.360
 the

00:39:58.360 --> 00:39:58.579
 purpose

00:39:58.579 --> 00:39:58.719
 of

00:39:58.719 --> 00:39:58.940
 marriage

00:39:58.940 --> 00:39:59.119
 in

00:39:59.119 --> 00:39:59.320
 this

00:39:59.320 --> 00:39:59.780
 way

00:39:59.780 --> 00:40:00.599
 it

00:40:00.599 --> 00:40:01.219
 sheds

00:40:01.219 --> 00:40:01.380
 an

00:40:01.380 --> 00:40:01.840
 entire

00:40:01.840 --> 00:40:02.159
 different

00:40:02.159 --> 00:40:02.559
 light

00:40:02.559 --> 00:40:02.800
 on

00:40:02.800 --> 00:40:02.960
 their

00:40:02.960 --> 00:40:03.239
 wedding

00:40:03.239 --> 00:40:03.679
 day

00:40:03.679 --> 00:40:06.239
 entire

00:40:06.239 --> 00:40:06.259
!

00:40:06.259 --> 00:40:06.539
 different

00:40:06.539 --> 00:40:06.860
 light

00:40:06.860 --> 00:40:07.940
 when

00:40:07.940 --> 00:40:08.259
 two

00:40:08.259 --> 00:40:08.759
 Christians

00:40:08.759 --> 00:40:09.199
 stand

00:40:09.199 --> 00:40:09.780
 before

00:40:09.780 --> 00:40:11.019
 me

00:40:11.019 --> 00:40:11.239
 the

00:40:11.239 --> 00:40:11.559
 minister

00:40:11.559 --> 00:40:11.920
 for

00:40:11.920 --> 00:40:12.340
 instance

00:40:12.340 --> 00:40:13.079
 on

00:40:13.079 --> 00:40:13.280
 their

00:40:13.280 --> 00:40:13.579
 wedding

00:40:13.579 --> 00:40:13.920
 day

00:40:13.920 --> 00:40:14.320
 all

00:40:14.320 --> 00:40:14.800
 decked

00:40:14.800 --> 00:40:15.059
 out

00:40:15.059 --> 00:40:15.340
 in

00:40:15.340 --> 00:40:15.559
 their

00:40:15.559 --> 00:40:16.000
 wedding

00:40:16.000 --> 00:40:17.000
 outfits

00:40:17.000 --> 00:40:17.840
 they're

00:40:17.840 --> 00:40:18.119
 kind

00:40:18.119 --> 00:40:18.280
 of

00:40:18.280 --> 00:40:18.759
 what

00:40:18.759 --> 00:40:19.500
 they're

00:40:19.500 --> 00:40:19.960
 doing

00:40:19.960 --> 00:40:20.139
 in

00:40:20.139 --> 00:40:20.320
 this

00:40:20.320 --> 00:40:20.599
 moment

00:40:20.599 --> 00:40:20.800
 they're

00:40:20.800 --> 00:40:20.960
 kind

00:40:20.960 --> 00:40:21.059
 of

00:40:21.059 --> 00:40:21.340
 playing

00:40:21.340 --> 00:40:21.760
 dress

00:40:21.760 --> 00:40:22.119
 ups

00:40:22.119 --> 00:40:23.280
 they're

00:40:23.280 --> 00:40:23.420
 just

00:40:23.420 --> 00:40:23.679
 like

00:40:23.679 --> 00:40:24.119
 kids

00:40:24.119 --> 00:40:24.360
 at

00:40:24.360 --> 00:40:24.519
 that

00:40:24.519 --> 00:40:24.800
 point

00:40:24.800 --> 00:40:25.139
 when

00:40:25.139 --> 00:40:25.400
 kids

00:40:25.400 --> 00:40:25.659
 play

00:40:25.659 --> 00:40:26.000
 dress

00:40:26.000 --> 00:40:26.360
 ups

00:40:26.360 --> 00:40:27.780
 they're

00:40:27.780 --> 00:40:28.420
 mirroring

00:40:28.420 --> 00:40:28.659
 a

00:40:28.659 --> 00:40:29.159
 greater

00:40:29.159 --> 00:40:29.920
 reality

00:40:29.920 --> 00:40:30.460
 a much

00:40:30.460 --> 00:40:30.780
 bigger

00:40:30.780 --> 00:40:31.360
 reality

00:40:31.360 --> 00:40:31.739
 and

00:40:31.739 --> 00:40:32.099
 that's

00:40:32.099 --> 00:40:32.280
 what

00:40:32.280 --> 00:40:32.920
 happens

00:40:32.920 --> 00:40:34.440
 when

00:40:34.440 --> 00:40:34.760
 two

00:40:34.760 --> 00:40:35.360
 Christians

00:40:35.360 --> 00:40:36.800
 do

00:40:36.800 --> 00:40:37.019
 the

00:40:37.019 --> 00:40:37.300
 same

00:40:37.300 --> 00:40:37.699
 thing

00:40:37.699 --> 00:40:37.980
 on

00:40:37.980 --> 00:40:38.159
 their

00:40:38.159 --> 00:40:38.420
 wedding

00:40:38.420 --> 00:40:38.880
 day

00:40:38.880 --> 00:40:41.400
 they're

00:40:41.400 --> 00:40:41.880
 mirroring

00:40:41.880 --> 00:40:42.159
 a

00:40:42.159 --> 00:40:42.940
 far

00:40:42.940 --> 00:40:43.820
 more

00:40:43.820 --> 00:40:44.480
 important

00:40:44.480 --> 00:40:45.099
 reality

00:40:45.099 --> 00:40:48.019
 they're

00:40:48.019 --> 00:40:48.380
 saying

00:40:48.380 --> 00:40:48.799
 this

00:40:48.799 --> 00:40:49.400
 moment

00:40:49.400 --> 00:40:50.519
 represents

00:40:50.519 --> 00:40:51.599
 the

00:40:51.599 --> 00:40:52.059
 ultimate

00:40:52.059 --> 00:40:52.599
 moment

00:40:52.599 --> 00:40:57.259
 as

00:40:57.259 --> 00:40:57.500
 they're

00:40:57.500 --> 00:40:57.679
 all

00:40:57.679 --> 00:40:58.000
 dressed

00:40:58.000 --> 00:40:58.259
 up

00:40:58.259 --> 00:40:58.500
 and put

00:40:58.500 --> 00:40:58.639
 on

00:40:58.639 --> 00:40:58.779
 their

00:40:58.779 --> 00:40:59.019
 best

00:40:59.019 --> 00:40:59.460
 versions

00:40:59.460 --> 00:40:59.679
 of

00:40:59.679 --> 00:41:00.119
 themselves

00:41:00.119 --> 00:41:00.380
 they're

00:41:00.380 --> 00:41:00.579
 looking

00:41:00.579 --> 00:41:01.299
 forward

00:41:01.299 --> 00:41:02.719
 publicly

00:41:02.719 --> 00:41:04.299
 where

00:41:04.299 --> 00:41:06.440
 they are

00:41:06.440 --> 00:41:08.039
 displaying

00:41:08.039 --> 00:41:08.639
 the

00:41:08.639 --> 00:41:09.219
 ultimate

00:41:09.219 --> 00:41:09.639
 wedding

00:41:09.639 --> 00:41:10.139
 day

00:41:10.139 --> 00:41:11.059
 where

00:41:11.059 --> 00:41:11.480
 each

00:41:11.480 --> 00:41:11.659
 of

00:41:11.659 --> 00:41:11.839
 them

00:41:11.839 --> 00:41:12.059
 will

00:41:12.059 --> 00:41:12.559
 stand

00:41:12.559 --> 00:41:12.859
 not

00:41:12.859 --> 00:41:13.480
 before

00:41:13.480 --> 00:41:14.379
 me

00:41:14.379 --> 00:41:14.739
 a

00:41:14.739 --> 00:41:15.119
 flawed

00:41:15.119 --> 00:41:15.480
 human

00:41:15.480 --> 00:41:16.079
 being

00:41:16.079 --> 00:41:16.579
 but

00:41:16.579 --> 00:41:16.759
 they

00:41:16.759 --> 00:41:16.940
 will

00:41:16.940 --> 00:41:17.440
 stand

00:41:17.440 --> 00:41:17.799
 before

00:41:17.799 --> 00:41:18.000
 the

00:41:18.000 --> 00:41:18.179
 Lord

00:41:18.179 --> 00:41:18.480
 Jesus

00:41:18.480 --> 00:41:19.039
 Christ

00:41:19.039 --> 00:41:25.279
 and

00:41:25.279 --> 00:41:25.420
 they

00:41:25.420 --> 00:41:25.579
 will

00:41:25.579 --> 00:41:25.960
 turn

00:41:25.960 --> 00:41:26.119
 to

00:41:26.119 --> 00:41:26.359
 each

00:41:26.359 --> 00:41:26.659
 other

00:41:26.659 --> 00:41:29.319
 and

00:41:29.319 --> 00:41:29.519
 what

00:41:29.519 --> 00:41:29.699
 they

00:41:29.699 --> 00:41:29.859
 will

00:41:29.859 --> 00:41:30.400
 see

00:41:30.400 --> 00:41:31.819
 is

00:41:31.819 --> 00:41:32.159
 an

00:41:32.159 --> 00:41:33.159
 indescribable

00:41:33.159 --> 00:41:33.679
 beauty

00:41:33.679 --> 00:41:34.819
 a

00:41:34.819 --> 00:41:35.679
 flawlessness

00:41:35.679 --> 00:41:36.599
 a

00:41:36.599 --> 00:41:37.319
 radiance

00:41:37.319 --> 00:41:37.719
 and a

00:41:37.719 --> 00:41:38.460
 glory

00:41:38.460 --> 00:41:39.279
 that

00:41:39.280 --> 00:41:39.760
 no

00:41:39.760 --> 00:41:40.100
 wedding

00:41:40.100 --> 00:41:40.700
 ceremony

00:41:40.700 --> 00:41:41.300
 today

00:41:41.300 --> 00:41:41.580
 can

00:41:41.580 --> 00:41:41.920
 ever

00:41:41.920 --> 00:41:42.400
 reproduce

00:41:42.400 --> 00:41:45.519
 that

00:41:45.519 --> 00:41:46.360
 is

00:41:46.360 --> 00:41:46.500
 a

00:41:46.500 --> 00:41:46.780
 common

00:41:46.780 --> 00:41:47.280
 vision

00:41:47.280 --> 00:41:50.160
 for

00:41:50.160 --> 00:41:50.380
 your

00:41:50.380 --> 00:41:51.019
 spouse

00:41:51.019 --> 00:41:53.720
 your

00:41:53.720 --> 00:41:54.140
 vision

00:41:54.140 --> 00:41:54.380
 for

00:41:54.380 --> 00:41:54.580
 your

00:41:54.580 --> 00:41:55.160
 spouse

00:41:55.160 --> 00:41:56.960
 is

00:41:56.960 --> 00:41:57.180
 to

00:41:57.180 --> 00:41:57.840
 hear

00:41:57.840 --> 00:41:59.300
 God

00:41:59.300 --> 00:41:59.960
 say

00:41:59.960 --> 00:42:02.640
 well

00:42:02.640 --> 00:42:03.040
 done

00:42:03.040 --> 00:42:05.080
 good

00:42:05.080 --> 00:42:05.580
 and

00:42:05.580 --> 00:42:05.980
 faithful

00:42:05.980 --> 00:42:06.560
 servants

00:42:06.560 --> 00:42:07.760
 well

00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:08.060
 done

00:42:08.059 --> 00:42:10.739
 over

00:42:10.739 --> 00:42:11.000
 the

00:42:11.000 --> 00:42:11.559
 years

00:42:11.559 --> 00:42:13.619
 you

00:42:13.619 --> 00:42:14.179
 have

00:42:14.179 --> 00:42:15.299
 lifted

00:42:15.299 --> 00:42:16.420
 each

00:42:16.420 --> 00:42:16.699
 other

00:42:16.699 --> 00:42:17.019
 up

00:42:17.019 --> 00:42:17.219
 to

00:42:17.219 --> 00:42:17.559
 me

00:42:17.559 --> 00:42:18.259
 you

00:42:18.259 --> 00:42:18.519
 have

00:42:18.519 --> 00:42:19.400
 sacrificed

00:42:19.400 --> 00:42:20.460
 for

00:42:20.460 --> 00:42:20.679
 each

00:42:20.679 --> 00:42:20.900
 other

00:42:20.900 --> 00:42:21.099
 you

00:42:21.099 --> 00:42:21.320
 have

00:42:21.320 --> 00:42:21.659
 held

00:42:21.659 --> 00:42:21.880
 one

00:42:21.880 --> 00:42:22.279
 another

00:42:22.279 --> 00:42:22.599
 up

00:42:22.599 --> 00:42:22.820
 in

00:42:22.820 --> 00:42:23.239
 prayer

00:42:23.239 --> 00:42:23.519
 and

00:42:23.519 --> 00:42:24.239
 thanksgiving

00:42:24.239 --> 00:42:24.960
 you

00:42:24.960 --> 00:42:25.219
 have

00:42:25.219 --> 00:42:25.920
 confronted

00:42:25.920 --> 00:42:26.279
 each

00:42:26.279 --> 00:42:26.519
 other

00:42:26.519 --> 00:42:26.739
 with

00:42:26.739 --> 00:42:27.039
 your

00:42:27.039 --> 00:42:28.219
 flaws

00:42:28.219 --> 00:42:28.500
 you

00:42:28.500 --> 00:42:28.639
 have

00:42:28.639 --> 00:42:29.179
 confronted

00:42:29.179 --> 00:42:29.500
 your

00:42:29.500 --> 00:42:30.079
 sins

00:42:30.079 --> 00:42:30.619
 you

00:42:30.619 --> 00:42:30.880
 have

00:42:30.880 --> 00:42:31.539
 rebuked

00:42:31.539 --> 00:42:31.739
 each

00:42:31.739 --> 00:42:31.960
 other

00:42:31.960 --> 00:42:32.139
 you

00:42:32.139 --> 00:42:32.320
 have

00:42:32.320 --> 00:42:32.799
 corrected

00:42:32.799 --> 00:42:33.139
 each

00:42:33.139 --> 00:42:33.320
 other

00:42:33.320 --> 00:42:33.500
 you

00:42:33.500 --> 00:42:33.659
 have

00:42:33.659 --> 00:42:34.179
 trained

00:42:34.179 --> 00:42:34.440
 each

00:42:34.440 --> 00:42:34.639
 other

00:42:34.639 --> 00:42:34.799
 in

00:42:34.799 --> 00:42:35.279
 righteousness

00:42:35.280 --> 00:42:36.100
 you

00:42:36.100 --> 00:42:36.840
 have

00:42:36.840 --> 00:42:37.480
 repented

00:42:37.480 --> 00:42:37.740
 you

00:42:37.740 --> 00:42:37.920
 have

00:42:37.920 --> 00:42:38.360
 forgiven

00:42:38.360 --> 00:42:38.680
 each

00:42:38.680 --> 00:42:38.940
 other

00:42:38.940 --> 00:42:39.300
 you

00:42:39.300 --> 00:42:39.480
 have

00:42:39.480 --> 00:42:39.980
 hugged

00:42:39.980 --> 00:42:40.100
 you

00:42:40.100 --> 00:42:40.280
 have

00:42:40.280 --> 00:42:40.580
 loved

00:42:40.580 --> 00:42:40.840
 each

00:42:40.840 --> 00:42:41.140
 other

00:42:41.140 --> 00:42:41.720
 you

00:42:41.720 --> 00:42:41.940
 have

00:42:41.940 --> 00:42:42.820
 continually

00:42:42.820 --> 00:42:43.460
 pushed

00:42:43.460 --> 00:42:43.900
 each

00:42:43.900 --> 00:42:44.240
 other

00:42:44.240 --> 00:42:44.700
 towards

00:42:44.700 --> 00:42:45.220
 me

00:42:45.220 --> 00:42:47.519
 now

00:42:47.519 --> 00:42:47.860
 look at

00:42:47.860 --> 00:42:48.140
 you

00:42:48.140 --> 00:42:51.220
 you're

00:42:51.220 --> 00:42:51.780
 beautiful

00:42:51.780 --> 00:42:54.540
 and as

00:42:54.540 --> 00:42:54.840
 he looks

00:42:54.840 --> 00:42:55.200
 at one

00:42:55.200 --> 00:42:55.620
 spouse

00:42:55.620 --> 00:42:56.040
 you look

00:42:56.040 --> 00:42:56.340
 for the

00:42:56.340 --> 00:42:56.540
 other

00:42:56.540 --> 00:42:56.820
 in the

00:42:56.820 --> 00:42:57.220
 crowd

00:42:57.220 --> 00:42:58.260
 might have

00:42:58.260 --> 00:42:58.600
 got there

00:42:58.600 --> 00:42:58.880
 10

00:42:58.880 --> 00:42:59.140
 years

00:42:59.140 --> 00:42:59.540
 earlier

00:42:59.540 --> 00:43:00.640
 where

00:43:00.640 --> 00:43:00.900
 are

00:43:00.900 --> 00:43:01.360
 you

00:43:01.360 --> 00:43:01.940
 well

00:43:01.940 --> 00:43:02.360
 done

00:43:02.360 --> 00:43:04.040
 well

00:43:04.040 --> 00:43:04.340
 done

00:43:04.340 --> 00:43:09.180
 and

00:43:09.180 --> 00:43:09.539
 friends

00:43:09.539 --> 00:43:09.880
 when

00:43:09.880 --> 00:43:10.160
 that's

00:43:10.160 --> 00:43:10.340
 our

00:43:10.340 --> 00:43:10.860
 vision

00:43:10.860 --> 00:43:12.900
 romance

00:43:12.900 --> 00:43:14.460
 sex

00:43:14.460 --> 00:43:16.160
 travel

00:43:16.160 --> 00:43:17.100
 laughter

00:43:17.100 --> 00:43:17.820
 the common

00:43:17.820 --> 00:43:18.460
 interest

00:43:18.460 --> 00:43:19.780
 just the

00:43:19.780 --> 00:43:20.180
 plain

00:43:20.180 --> 00:43:20.920
 fun

00:43:20.920 --> 00:43:25.100
 they're

00:43:25.100 --> 00:43:25.300
 all

00:43:25.300 --> 00:43:26.300
 byproducts

00:43:26.300 --> 00:43:27.440
 they're

00:43:27.440 --> 00:43:28.940
 all byproducts

00:43:28.940 --> 00:43:30.700
 of this

00:43:30.700 --> 00:43:31.600
 process of

00:43:31.600 --> 00:43:32.539
 sanctification

00:43:32.539 --> 00:43:33.420
 and refinement

00:43:33.420 --> 00:43:34.300
 and glorification

00:43:34.300 --> 00:43:35.740
 what keeps

00:43:35.740 --> 00:43:36.539
 the marriage

00:43:36.539 --> 00:43:37.039
 going

00:43:37.039 --> 00:43:38.240
 what takes

00:43:38.240 --> 00:43:38.740
 it to the

00:43:38.740 --> 00:43:39.400
 deepest

00:43:39.400 --> 00:43:40.000
 deepest

00:43:40.000 --> 00:43:40.640
 levels

00:43:40.640 --> 00:43:41.480
 of love

00:43:41.480 --> 00:43:42.200
 and romance

00:43:42.200 --> 00:43:42.880
 and joy

00:43:42.880 --> 00:43:43.760
 is your

00:43:43.760 --> 00:43:44.180
 commitment

00:43:44.180 --> 00:43:44.640
 to your

00:43:44.640 --> 00:43:45.120
 spouse's

00:43:45.120 --> 00:43:45.500
 holiness

00:43:45.500 --> 00:43:49.280
 you're

00:43:49.280 --> 00:43:49.640
 committed

00:43:49.640 --> 00:43:50.400
 to presenting

00:43:50.400 --> 00:43:51.220
 your spouse

00:43:51.220 --> 00:43:51.680
 to her

00:43:51.680 --> 00:43:52.300
 ultimate

00:43:52.300 --> 00:43:53.300
 spouse

00:43:53.300 --> 00:43:53.900
 her ultimate

00:43:53.900 --> 00:43:54.240
 lover

00:43:54.240 --> 00:43:54.780
 her ultimate

00:43:54.780 --> 00:43:55.300
 friend

00:43:55.300 --> 00:43:56.180
 Jesus

00:43:56.180 --> 00:43:57.920
 for those

00:43:57.920 --> 00:43:58.280
 of you

00:43:58.280 --> 00:43:58.600
 who are

00:43:58.600 --> 00:43:58.900
 feeling

00:43:58.900 --> 00:43:59.940
 overwhelmingly

00:43:59.940 --> 00:44:00.580
 guilty

00:44:00.580 --> 00:44:01.460
 right now

00:44:01.460 --> 00:44:03.559
 let me

00:44:03.559 --> 00:44:04.240
 just say

00:44:04.240 --> 00:44:06.019
 no amount

00:44:06.019 --> 00:44:06.860
 of failure

00:44:06.860 --> 00:44:07.860
 on behalf

00:44:07.860 --> 00:44:08.619
 of any

00:44:08.619 --> 00:44:09.320
 spouse

00:44:09.320 --> 00:44:11.920
 will in

00:44:11.920 --> 00:44:12.980
 any way

00:44:12.980 --> 00:44:14.900
 hinder

00:44:14.900 --> 00:44:16.320
 your

00:44:16.320 --> 00:44:17.380
 spouse's

00:44:17.380 --> 00:44:18.300
 glorious

00:44:18.300 --> 00:44:18.840
 moment

00:44:18.840 --> 00:44:20.380
 in front

00:44:20.380 --> 00:44:20.659
 of her

00:44:20.659 --> 00:44:21.179
 true friend

00:44:21.179 --> 00:44:21.500
 and lover

00:44:21.500 --> 00:44:22.039
 Jesus

00:44:22.039 --> 00:44:26.019
 but it's

00:44:26.019 --> 00:44:26.460
 for your

00:44:26.460 --> 00:44:26.940
 joy

00:44:26.940 --> 00:44:27.340
 to be

00:44:27.340 --> 00:44:27.619
 part

00:44:27.619 --> 00:44:28.480
 of it

00:44:28.480 --> 00:44:31.719
 Ephesians

00:44:31.719 --> 00:44:32.460
 5 tells

00:44:32.460 --> 00:44:32.820
 us

00:44:32.820 --> 00:44:33.679
 that this

00:44:33.679 --> 00:44:34.000
 is the

00:44:34.000 --> 00:44:34.420
 mission

00:44:34.420 --> 00:44:35.400
 of Jesus

00:44:35.400 --> 00:44:35.920
 for his

00:44:35.920 --> 00:44:36.460
 church

00:44:36.460 --> 00:44:39.320
 and so

00:44:39.320 --> 00:44:39.579
 if you're

00:44:39.579 --> 00:44:39.800
 feeling

00:44:39.800 --> 00:44:40.179
 guilty

00:44:40.179 --> 00:44:40.599
 and how

00:44:40.599 --> 00:44:40.800
 do you

00:44:40.800 --> 00:44:41.240
 do it

00:44:41.240 --> 00:44:42.079
 you look

00:44:42.079 --> 00:44:42.679
 to Jesus

00:44:42.679 --> 00:44:43.800
 look to

00:44:43.800 --> 00:44:44.019
 Jesus

00:44:44.019 --> 00:44:44.300
 on a

00:44:44.300 --> 00:44:44.659
 cross

00:44:44.659 --> 00:44:45.659
 when

00:44:45.659 --> 00:44:46.000
 Jesus

00:44:46.000 --> 00:44:46.460
 was on

00:44:46.460 --> 00:44:47.400
 the cross

00:44:47.400 --> 00:44:48.000
 he did

00:44:48.000 --> 00:44:48.619
 not look

00:44:48.619 --> 00:44:49.220
 down

00:44:49.220 --> 00:44:49.960
 at his

00:44:49.960 --> 00:44:50.780
 potential

00:44:50.780 --> 00:44:51.880
 spouses

00:44:51.880 --> 00:44:52.880
 and look

00:44:52.880 --> 00:44:53.320
 at them

00:44:53.320 --> 00:44:54.380
 and eliminate

00:44:54.380 --> 00:44:55.340
 them based

00:44:55.340 --> 00:44:55.860
 on their

00:44:55.860 --> 00:44:56.699
 attractiveness

00:44:56.699 --> 00:44:57.179
 or their

00:44:57.179 --> 00:44:57.860
 suitability

00:44:57.860 --> 00:45:02.119
 he did

00:45:02.119 --> 00:45:02.619
 not look

00:45:02.619 --> 00:45:03.199
 down on

00:45:03.199 --> 00:45:03.960
 humanity

00:45:03.960 --> 00:45:04.360
 with a

00:45:04.360 --> 00:45:05.179
 heart full

00:45:05.179 --> 00:45:06.300
 of admiration

00:45:06.300 --> 00:45:07.200
 and affection

00:45:07.200 --> 00:45:09.180
 he saw

00:45:09.180 --> 00:45:09.600
 no

00:45:09.600 --> 00:45:10.180
 compatibility

00:45:10.180 --> 00:45:11.440
 he saw

00:45:11.440 --> 00:45:12.660
 no chemistry

00:45:12.660 --> 00:45:13.660
 but he

00:45:13.660 --> 00:45:14.440
 gave

00:45:14.440 --> 00:45:15.380
 himself

00:45:15.380 --> 00:45:16.200
 he

00:45:16.200 --> 00:45:18.600
 covenanted

00:45:18.600 --> 00:45:19.820
 with us

00:45:19.820 --> 00:45:20.940
 he put

00:45:20.940 --> 00:45:21.800
 our needs

00:45:21.800 --> 00:45:22.300
 ahead of his

00:45:22.300 --> 00:45:22.519
 own

00:45:22.519 --> 00:45:23.420
 he sacrificed

00:45:23.420 --> 00:45:23.660
 faith

00:45:23.660 --> 00:45:24.600
 he gave

00:45:24.600 --> 00:45:25.140
 himself

00:45:25.140 --> 00:45:26.200
 to bring

00:45:26.200 --> 00:45:26.700
 us

00:45:26.700 --> 00:45:27.980
 to himself

00:45:27.980 --> 00:45:30.260
 to make

00:45:30.260 --> 00:45:30.620
 us

00:45:30.620 --> 00:45:31.420
 beautiful

00:45:31.420 --> 00:45:33.400
 glorious

00:45:33.400 --> 00:45:35.400
 love

00:45:35.400 --> 00:45:36.639
 and the

00:45:36.639 --> 00:45:36.860
 bible

00:45:36.860 --> 00:45:37.300
 tells

00:45:37.300 --> 00:45:37.820
 spouses

00:45:37.820 --> 00:45:38.320
 not only

00:45:38.320 --> 00:45:38.940
 to imitate

00:45:38.940 --> 00:45:39.680
 the quality

00:45:39.680 --> 00:45:40.000
 and the

00:45:40.000 --> 00:45:40.200
 manner

00:45:40.200 --> 00:45:40.660
 of his

00:45:40.660 --> 00:45:41.019
 love

00:45:41.019 --> 00:45:41.920
 but also

00:45:41.920 --> 00:45:42.660
 the goal

00:45:42.660 --> 00:45:43.180
 of it

00:45:43.180 --> 00:45:44.280
 he died

00:45:44.280 --> 00:45:44.740
 to make

00:45:44.740 --> 00:45:45.059
 us

00:45:45.059 --> 00:45:45.480
 holy

00:45:45.480 --> 00:45:46.260
 and so

00:45:46.260 --> 00:45:46.720
 spouses

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 this means

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 what Paul's

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 urging spouses

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 here

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 all the

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 all the

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 hard bits

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 Nick's going

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 to tell you

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 next week

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