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 Good morning and welcome to our Typhoon Sunday family worship service.

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 I hope you are warm and cozy, safe and secure at home.

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 Thanks for joining us today, even if via the internet.

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 It was Elizabeth Elliot who said,

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 The secular world looks for happiness through self-assertion.

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 The Christian knows that joy is found in self-abandonment.

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 Elizabeth Elliot was a missionary in the jungles of Ecuador amongst Indian tribespeople in the 1950s,

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 along with her husband Jim Elliot.

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 They had met at university and gone to the mission field in Ecuador independently of each other.

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 But there they met again, they had married and they had their first child there.

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 Soon afterwards, Elizabeth's husband Jim, along with four friends,

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 decided to try and meet the Hurani Indians face to face.

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 In order to get to know them, to love them, to tell them about Jesus.

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 It was a risk as these Indians were known by neighboring tribes to be savages.

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 A few hours after these five men left, news came back to the camp.

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 Jim and the other four missionaries had been found speared to death,

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 lying on the beaches near the Hurani tribe.

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 Jim and Elizabeth Elliot's daughter was just 10 months old.

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 But rather than returning to America to pursue a life of comfort and convenience,

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 she decided to stay in Ecuador to continue to live and work amongst the tribe's people.

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 And two years later, she and her daughter moved to live amongst the Hurani people,

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 the very tribe who had killed her husband just a few years before.

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 Elizabeth Elliot writes,

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 The secular world looks for happiness through self-assertion and self-preservation.

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 The Christian knows that joy is found in self-abandonment.

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 Today's passage of scripture is 1 Peter 3, verse 1-7.

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 But we're going to start by looking at chapter 2, verse 21.

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 It's a passage of scripture which has caused more heat than light.

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 And yet because these are the words of a good God,

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 who knows us better than we know ourselves,

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 and because Jesus really is who he said he is,

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 the passage of scripture we look at today are words of good news.

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 Good news for our own hearts.

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 Good news for our marriages.

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 Good news for our homes.

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 If Elizabeth Elliot is right,

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 if Jesus Christ is right,

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 that true joy is found in self-abandonment,

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 not self-assertion,

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 today's passage is a call to true joy.

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 This morning's passage really is part two of the arguments Chris unpacked for us last week.

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 These two passages together are one unit of thought with three applications.

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 And last week Chris looked at the first two applications.

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 Today's passage of scripture looks at the third.

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 So let's recap the flow of thought.

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 Remember the whole book of 1 Peter is a call for Christians to live lives that are distinctive and devoted.

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 Because this world is not our home,

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 because we belong to Jesus,

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 and therefore we live with a different hope.

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 We walk to a different tune.

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 So in chapter 2 verse 11 to 20,

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 Peter encourages the Christians to live distinctively in an unjust society.

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 The people to whom Peter is writing are being ostracized and criticized.

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 They are being marginalized and discriminated against because they are Christians.

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 They are regarded as bad news for society because they would not worship the cultural gods.

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 They are persecuted because they are followers of Jesus.

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 And yet rather than fighting back or protesting against this abuse or standing up for their rights

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 or even being passive aggressive, disrespecting their bosses behind their backs,

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 Peter says don't do that.

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 That's how you live if your hope is tied up to this world.

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 But you are born again to a living hope.

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 A hope which cannot perish, spoil or fade.

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 And so live distinctively.

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 Live devoted to Jesus.

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 And the reason he says this is because, verse 21,

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 because of Jesus.

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 The main point there was that Jesus Christ is the most perfect example of someone who did not demand his rights.

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 But he submitted himself to what was unworthy of him,

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 being treated unjustly.

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 But he did so because this world was not his home,

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 because his identity is found in God.

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 And as verse 23 said,

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 he entrusted himself to God the Father.

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 That's the key.

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 Jesus entrusted himself to God the Father.

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 He trusted in God even as he approached the cross.

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 He trusted that his life and his hope were not found in the hands of those who tied him up.

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 His life was not in the hands of those who bound him or beat him.

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 But even in the midst of what seemed as if it was not right,

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 he trusted in God as Father.

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 And therefore,

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 he could lay down his life.

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 He could forego what he was legitimately entitled to,

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 to live selflessly and sacrificially,

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 saying,

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 not my will,

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 but your will be done.

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 Throughout this letter,

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 Peter has been telling us that being a Christian is not just about praying a prayer,

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 or knowing Bible stories.

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 It's about a changed life,

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 a different way of seeing the world.

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 Being a Christian means everything is different,

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 because we have a new hope,

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 and a new purpose in Jesus.

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 And this has been Peter's plea to his readers the whole time.

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 That because your life is found in Jesus,

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 you have a different view of suffering.

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 Because your life is found in Jesus,

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 you can handle injustice.

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 Because of Jesus,

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 although you are treated like the rubbish of the earth,

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 you are in fact a royal priesthood,

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 a holy people.

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 Because of Jesus,

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 you don't need to fight for your rights.

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 You don't need to demand what you think you're entitled to.

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 You don't need to go about life feeling like a victim when things don't go your way.

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 Because what you have in Jesus,

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 and what you have in the gospel,

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 is more than sufficient to cover any shame you may suffer,

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 for being a follower of Jesus.

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 Because Jesus Christ is enough.

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 Friends, do you know this?

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 Do you know in your heart that Jesus Christ is more than enough?

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 Because otherwise,

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 when pressure comes,

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 and life gets difficult,

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 and persecution comes,

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 or people don't treat you fairly,

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 you may feel tempted to feel sorry for yourself,

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 and when things get really bad,

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 you will shake your fists in the air at God,

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 and say,

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 why is this happening to me?

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 I thought you were meant to be a good God.

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 Friends,

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 we have to know this,

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 that Jesus Christ is enough.

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 Robert Murray McShane was a Scottish minister,

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 and he actually died at the very young age of 29,

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 from a sickness he contracted.

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 He said this,

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 And so this has been Peter's plea,

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 keep your eyes fixed on Jesus,

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 because he's more than enough.

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 And so as we saw last week,

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 because Jesus is enough,

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 you don't need to insist on your rights,

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 and your privileges,

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 but you can live distinctively like Jesus,

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 in both society,

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 and the workplace,

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 even when you're being treated unfairly.

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 And now Peter gives us a third application,

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 live distinctively like Jesus,

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 at home.

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 Peter's going to,

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 first address the married woman,

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 and then married men.

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 And show how this gospel,

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 speaks to our marriages.

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 Now for those of you,

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 who are not yet married,

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 don't dial out just yet,

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 because what Peter's going to say,

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 to us actually addresses our hearts,

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 not just our behavior.

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 And in some ways,

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 this will be applicable to all of us.

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 So firstly,

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 wives be distinctive,

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 in your womanhood.

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 Let's look at chapter 3,

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 verse 1 to 2 together.

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 Peter says,

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 Likewise,

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 wives be subject,

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 to your own husbands,

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 so that even if some do not obey the word,

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 they may be won without a word,

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 by the conduct of their wives,

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 when they see your respectful,

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 and pure conduct.

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 Now in order to understand this,

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 we need to notice a few things.

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 First,

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 notice the first word.

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 What does it say?

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 It says likewise.

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 Well,

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 like what?

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 Well,

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 like he said in chapter 2,

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 verse 13,

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 Christians be subject,

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 to human institutions.

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 And in verse 18,

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 servants be subject,

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 to your masters.

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 And now he says,

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 likewise,

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 wives be subject,

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 to your husbands.

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 So let's think about this.

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 If you are a Christian,

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 who is your highest authority?

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 That's right.

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 It's King Jesus.

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 That's what it means,

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 to be a Christian.

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 It means you've turned away,

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 from a life,

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 where you are your own master.

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 You acknowledge your sin,

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 and you surrender to Jesus.

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 You hand over the throne,

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 of your life,

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 to King Jesus.

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 Now he is your Lord,

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 and master.

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 He is your king.

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 And now you live a life,

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 of faith in him,

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 obeying him,

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 trusting him,

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 and loving him,

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 as Lord.

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 So,

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 in chapter 2,

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 verse 13,

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 when the Roman rulers,

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 were threatening the Christians,

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 or giving them a hard time,

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 they might have been tempted,

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 to say,

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 well I'm not under your authority,

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 I'm under Jesus' authority.

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 Or they could have said,

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 we have a higher authority,

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 than you.

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 I don't need to listen to you,

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 I only listen to Jesus.

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 But actually,

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 Peter says something,

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 counterintuitive.

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 He says,

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 because Jesus is your Lord,

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 follow his example.

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 Lay down your rights,

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 choose to submit to the emperor,

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 as part of your worship,

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 to King Jesus.

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 And then he says the same thing,

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 in chapter 2,

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 verse 18.

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 If a Christian's boss,

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 or master,

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 was giving them a hard time,

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 they might have been tempted,

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 to say,

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 well I'm not under your authority,

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 I'm under Jesus' authority.

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 Or they could have said,

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 I have a higher authority,

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 than you.

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 I won't listen to you,

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 I only listen to Jesus.

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 But what does Peter say?

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 As part of your worship,

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 and your submission to King Jesus,

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 follow his example,

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 by laying down your rights,

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 and choose to submit to your boss.

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 And now he says the same thing.

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 Likewise,

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 in the same way,

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 wives submit to your husbands.

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 In other words,

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 as part of your worship,

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 as part of your submission,

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 to King Jesus,

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 follow his example,

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 by laying down your rights,

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 and choose to follow your husband.

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 Another way of saying it is,

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 because your life is found in Jesus,

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 and because Jesus is more than enough,

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 live selflessly,

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 live sacrificially,

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 not insisting on your own rights,

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 or demanding your own way.

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 Now why does Peter say this?

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 What's going on here,

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 that makes Peter say this?

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 Well the next part of the sentence tells us,

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 look what it says,

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 it says,

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 likewise,

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 wives be subject to your own husbands,

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 so that,

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 even if some do not obey God's word,

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 they may be won without a word,

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 by the conduct of their wives,

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 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

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 You see,

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 what's going on here,

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 is that some of these ladies in the church,

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 had become Christians,

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 but their husbands weren't believers.

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 Or they,

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 maybe were Christians,

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 but they didn't take God's word very seriously.

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 Now the custom in,

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 Greek or Roman world at the time,

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 was that a husband's position,

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 and honor in society,

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 was very much dependent,

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 on how his wife and children were,

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 and whether they honored him,

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 as the head of the home.

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 In fact,

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 in this society,

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 it was expected,

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 that a man's wife,

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 would have no friends of her own,

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 because all her social relationships,

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 were tied to that of her own husbands.

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 And certainly a wife,

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 would not worship a God,

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 foreign to her husband's gods.

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 And so if a woman became a Christian,

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 this was a big deal.

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 This would put massive pressure on the family,

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 and the marriage,

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 because firstly,

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 it would automatically be considered rebellion,

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 which would bring shame,

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 and loss of face to her husband.

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 But additionally,

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 if she joined the community of believers,

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 and joined the church,

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 developing friends,

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 outside of her husband's circle of friends,

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 this would be received,

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 as being shameful for her husband.

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 And so what should a Christian wife do?

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 Should she honor her husband's desires,

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 which might mean not going to church?

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 Or should she insist on her own rights,

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 and freedoms that her newfound faith in Jesus gave her?

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 Peter doesn't tell these women,

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 to do this or that.

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 But he goes after the heart.

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 And this is what he says,

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 You see,

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 friends,

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 this is the very opposite of the world's understanding of freedom.

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 In the secular world's understanding of freedom,

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 freedom means having no constraints,

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 being able to live as I want,

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 how I want,

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 to pursue my own dreams and my own desires unhindered.

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 In the world's understanding of freedom,

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 I get to do what I want,

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 when I want,

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 how I want.

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 But actually,

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 in the end,

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 we become slaves to our own desires.

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 But Peter says that Jesus gives you a freedom to live selflessly,

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 sacrificially,

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 to say no to your own desires for the benefit of another.

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 And the reason is simple,

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 because the spirit of Jesus,

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 the most selfless,

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 sacrificial man who ever lived,

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 now lives inside of us,

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 because you've been mastered by him.

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 What is astonishing is that in Peter's day,

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 the secular philosophers would never address women or slaves.

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 That was a prerogative of the husbands or the head of the home.

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 Women and slaves were considered second class citizens.

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 And so no religious leader would dare address them.

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 But Peter does address them.

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 And so on the one hand,

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 Peter is cutting across the culture of his day

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 by affirming the value and the dignity of these women.

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 And the fact that they're not just objects in a man's household,

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 but responsible human beings,

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 capable of making their own choices and choosing their own behavior.

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 So Peter gives them a dignity and a respect,

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 which is unprecedented in Greek thought.

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 But at the same time,

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 no husband could ever complain that Peter's encouraging rebellion

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 or undermining his own authority,

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 because Peter explicitly affirms the husband's leadership

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 and position in the home.

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 And what is his rationale for this submission?

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 It's not the expectations of Greek or Roman society.

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 It's the authority and the example of Jesus.

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 Because Jesus is enough.

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 Because in Jesus,

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 you have such a depth of freedom

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 that you can freely deny your own desires

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 for the sake of another.

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 That in Jesus,

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 you have a treasure deep enough

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 that you don't need to fight for your individuality and your rights.

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 Jesus Christ is enough.

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 You see,

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 this freedom to serve rather than to be served,

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 this freedom to give love rather than demand love,

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 this freedom to give of yourself

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 rather than thinking of yourself

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 is what characterized New Testament Christianity.

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 And the reason is because this is the heart of Jesus.

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 New Testament scholar F.F. Bruce

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 sums this up in a remarkable way.

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 He says,

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 Do you see that?

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 Peter is so free,

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 he's not even enslaved to the idea of being free.

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 He's so free,

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 he could give up his independence

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 when it benefited others for him to do so.

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 Because Jesus Christ was enough.

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 Now,

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 what do you think happens

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 when a Roman or Greek wife

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 responds to her husband like this?

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 Well,

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 Peter gives us two consequences.

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 First,

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 a wordless sermon.

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 Look at what he says here.

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 He says,

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 Wives,

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 be subject to your husbands

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 so that even if some do not obey the word,

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 they may be won over

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 without a word

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 by the conduct of their wives

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 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

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 Last week,

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 Chris quoted that amazing statement

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 by Bill Clinton

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 after Mother Teresa

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 had just challenged his views on abortion.

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 Bill Clinton stood up,

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 not knowing what to say.

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 He simply said,

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 It's difficult to argue with a life well lived.

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 And this is what Peter is saying.

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 Your unbelieving husband may not agree with you.

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 He may not even like Christianity,

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 but it's going to be hard for him to argue

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 with a well lived life.

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 Your life will preach the gospel

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 and testify to the beauty of Jesus.

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 But then there's a second consequence of this.

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 It's an untouchable beauty.

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 Look at verse 3 to 5 with me.

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 He says,

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 Wives,

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 An untouchable beauty.

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 In Hong Kong,

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 we spend an inordinate amount of money

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 on beauty and cosmetic products.

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 The beauty and cosmetic products industry

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 in Hong Kong is worth billions of dollars

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 and is projected to grow

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 by almost 50% in the next three years.

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 Just think of how many billboards

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 advertising products and treatment

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 filled the corridors of our NTR stations.

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 But what is devastating about this industry

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 is that so many of the people

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 who really do spend thousands and thousands of dollars

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 feel no more worthwhile,

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 no more lovely,

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 no more lovable

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 for all the investment in the industry.

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 A few years ago,

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 a 19-year-old Australian model,

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 Essena O'Neill,

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 had half a million Instagram followers

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 and she decided to quit social media

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 and to be honest about her life

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 striving to look beautiful on social media.

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 This is what she writes,

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 I would spend hours

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 looking at everybody else's perfect lives

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 and I strived to make mine look just as good.

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 I had half a million followers

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 and I was famous

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 but I still felt average.

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 I'm just a girl.

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 It suffocated me.

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 I was lonely

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 and I was miserable.

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 Now friends,

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 is it wrong to want to look beautiful or attractive?

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 Should Christian women be banned

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 from wearing makeup

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 or wearing good clothing?

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 Does Peter say,

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 Now I don't want women to look attractive

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 but rather make yourselves

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 as ordinary and as boring as possible?

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 Is that what Peter is saying?

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 Of course not.

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 But he does call us to a much higher calling.

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 He says,

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 Let your adorning,

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 your beautification,

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 be the hidden person of the heart.

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 So what's Peter saying here?

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 He's calling Christian women

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 to be so stunningly beautiful,

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 so exquisitely attractive

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 and so spectacularly gorgeous

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 that others cannot help

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 but stop and take notice of you.

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 But not because of your expensive clothing,

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 not because of your fashionable accessories,

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 but because of the stunning beauty

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 of your character,

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 because of the beauty of your security in Jesus,

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 and because of the attractiveness

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 of your unshakable hope

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 and confidence in the living God.

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 He says,

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 This is how holy women

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 who hoped in God

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 used to adorn themselves.

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 Friends,

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 if you are a teenager,

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 let me ask you to sit up

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 and listen for just a second.

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 Every day,

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 you are being lied to

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 and you are being disrespected

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 by social media

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 and by advertising companies

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 which lie to you,

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 telling you that your value

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 and your dignity

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 are found

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 in your physical appearance

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 or how socially acceptable you are.

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 How you look,

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 where you shop,

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 who's interested in you,

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 what clothes you are wearing

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 or accessories you have.

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 Friends,

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 it's a lie.

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 And for some of you,

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 it's already become a rope

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 around your neck.

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 You're a slave

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 to other people's opinions

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 and it's killing you.

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 There is a way

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 to be free from that.

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 It's to be adorned

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 with the beauty

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 that comes from

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 a rock solid security

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 and confidence in Jesus.

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 Friends,

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 if you don't want to be ordinary,

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 if you want to glow

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 with a beauty

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 that takes people's breath away.

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 Friends,

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 if you want to glow

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 with a beauty

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 that neither age

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 nor changing fashion

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 can steal from you,

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 if you want to be free

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 from the cruelty

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 and the tyranny

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 of wondering about your appearance

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 and what people think about you

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 or whether you look good enough,

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 follow the footsteps

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 of the godly women

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 who have gone before you.

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 They may never make it

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 on the cover of magazines,

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 but their lives

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 have radiated

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 with a beauty

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 and a magnificence

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 that very few others

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 have ever known.

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 Friends,

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 Jesus Christ

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 is enough

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 and therefore

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 you can live lives

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 of self-sacrifice,

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 finding your hope

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 and your identity

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 in him.

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 Well,

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 what about the men?

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 Does Peter have anything

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 to say to them?

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 Well,

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 secondly,

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 husbands,

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 be distinctive

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 in your manhood.

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 Let's look at verse 7 together.

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 Peter writes this,

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 Likewise,

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 husbands,

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 husbands,

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 live with your wives

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 in an understanding way,

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 showing honor to the woman

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 as the weaker vessel,

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 since they are heirs with you

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 of the grace of life,

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 so that your prayers

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 may not be hindered.

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 Up until now,

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 Peter has spoken to citizens

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 to submit to the emperor

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 and governors.

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 He's spoken to slaves

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 to submit to their bosses.

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 He's spoken to wives

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 to submit to their husbands.

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 And now he speaks

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 to those

00:21:26.420 --> 00:21:27.660
 who have all the power

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 and all the authority

00:21:28.840 --> 00:21:30.480
 in the Greek and Roman world,

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 the men.

00:21:32.140 --> 00:21:33.100
 Peter's going to show

00:21:33.100 --> 00:21:34.200
 how the gospel cuts

00:21:34.200 --> 00:21:35.920
 right across male privilege

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 and he calls these men

00:21:37.120 --> 00:21:38.700
 to display the distinctiveness

00:21:38.700 --> 00:21:39.360
 of the gospel

00:21:39.359 --> 00:21:41.500
 by also living lives

00:21:41.500 --> 00:21:42.139
 of selfless

00:21:42.139 --> 00:21:44.119
 and sacrificial love.

00:21:45.039 --> 00:21:46.279
 Look at what he says.

00:21:46.559 --> 00:21:47.459
 He starts off saying,

00:21:47.679 --> 00:21:48.039
 Likewise,

00:21:48.419 --> 00:21:49.439
 in the same way.

00:21:49.919 --> 00:21:50.419
 In other words,

00:21:50.500 --> 00:21:51.419
 the very attitude

00:21:51.419 --> 00:21:52.459
 he has just called

00:21:52.459 --> 00:21:53.299
 these Christian women

00:21:53.299 --> 00:21:53.899
 to display

00:21:53.899 --> 00:21:55.279
 is the exact same attitude

00:21:55.279 --> 00:21:56.699
 he calls these Christian men

00:21:56.699 --> 00:21:57.240
 to display,

00:21:57.639 --> 00:21:59.000
 which is to follow Jesus

00:21:59.000 --> 00:21:59.959
 and to live lives

00:21:59.959 --> 00:22:00.699
 of selflessness

00:22:00.699 --> 00:22:01.979
 and sacrificial love,

00:22:02.459 --> 00:22:03.419
 knowing that Jesus

00:22:03.419 --> 00:22:04.099
 is enough.

00:22:04.759 --> 00:22:05.979
 Now it's going to look different

00:22:05.979 --> 00:22:06.759
 for wives,

00:22:06.859 --> 00:22:07.539
 their distinctiveness

00:22:07.539 --> 00:22:08.240
 was displayed

00:22:08.240 --> 00:22:08.839
 in selfless

00:22:08.839 --> 00:22:10.139
 and sacrificial surrender.

00:22:10.980 --> 00:22:11.679
 For husbands,

00:22:12.139 --> 00:22:12.879
 their distinctiveness

00:22:12.879 --> 00:22:13.919
 is going to be displayed

00:22:13.919 --> 00:22:14.659
 in selfless,

00:22:15.240 --> 00:22:16.319
 servant-hearted leadership.

00:22:16.839 --> 00:22:18.019
 So what does Peter say

00:22:18.019 --> 00:22:18.980
 to these Christian men?

00:22:19.359 --> 00:22:20.459
 Well, he says three things.

00:22:20.839 --> 00:22:21.379
 He says,

00:22:21.959 --> 00:22:22.599
 Be selfless

00:22:22.599 --> 00:22:23.659
 by loving your wives

00:22:23.659 --> 00:22:24.579
 with understanding.

00:22:25.779 --> 00:22:26.539
 Earlier this year,

00:22:26.679 --> 00:22:27.159
 Claire and I

00:22:27.159 --> 00:22:28.259
 went through

00:22:28.259 --> 00:22:29.720
 one of those times

00:22:29.720 --> 00:22:30.299
 in marriage

00:22:30.299 --> 00:22:31.000
 when we weren't

00:22:31.000 --> 00:22:32.179
 quite seeing eye to eye.

00:22:32.619 --> 00:22:33.779
 We weren't fighting,

00:22:34.299 --> 00:22:34.759
 but there was

00:22:34.759 --> 00:22:35.759
 a certain coldness,

00:22:35.859 --> 00:22:36.699
 a certain tension

00:22:36.699 --> 00:22:37.419
 between us.

00:22:37.420 --> 00:22:38.960
 And what was frustrating

00:22:38.960 --> 00:22:39.860
 for me was that

00:22:39.860 --> 00:22:41.039
 because I knew this,

00:22:41.279 --> 00:22:42.000
 I tried to go

00:22:42.000 --> 00:22:42.820
 the extra mile.

00:22:43.140 --> 00:22:44.340
 I tried to be around more.

00:22:44.460 --> 00:22:45.440
 I tried to serve more.

00:22:45.539 --> 00:22:46.700
 I tried to wash more dishes.

00:22:47.140 --> 00:22:47.920
 I tried to help

00:22:47.920 --> 00:22:48.800
 around the house more

00:22:48.800 --> 00:22:49.860
 in order to ease

00:22:49.860 --> 00:22:50.400
 the tension.

00:22:50.840 --> 00:22:51.680
 But it didn't seem

00:22:51.680 --> 00:22:52.100
 to help.

00:22:52.440 --> 00:22:52.880
 There was still

00:22:52.880 --> 00:22:53.759
 this coldness,

00:22:53.840 --> 00:22:54.560
 this distance

00:22:54.560 --> 00:22:55.279
 between us.

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 And so one day,

00:22:57.240 --> 00:22:58.279
 I had the day off.

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 The kids were at school

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 and we went for a walk

00:23:00.480 --> 00:23:01.180
 around the peak

00:23:01.180 --> 00:23:02.000
 and we both knew

00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:02.500
 it was coming.

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 So eventually,

00:23:03.240 --> 00:23:03.700
 we said,

00:23:03.700 --> 00:23:04.059
 okay,

00:23:04.400 --> 00:23:05.220
 what's going on

00:23:05.220 --> 00:23:05.840
 between us?

00:23:06.240 --> 00:23:07.100
 Why the distance?

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 I can't really remember

00:23:09.480 --> 00:23:10.160
 what I said,

00:23:10.519 --> 00:23:11.259
 but I do remember

00:23:11.259 --> 00:23:12.100
 what Claire said.

00:23:12.740 --> 00:23:13.319
 She said,

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 I can see you're trying

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 and you're doing

00:23:16.080 --> 00:23:16.960
 all the right things,

00:23:17.120 --> 00:23:18.039
 but you're not showing

00:23:18.039 --> 00:23:18.840
 any tenderness

00:23:18.840 --> 00:23:19.620
 towards me.

00:23:20.279 --> 00:23:20.580
 You see,

00:23:20.620 --> 00:23:21.340
 I was trying to do

00:23:21.340 --> 00:23:22.019
 the right things.

00:23:22.200 --> 00:23:23.340
 I was doing what I thought

00:23:23.340 --> 00:23:24.120
 was a good idea,

00:23:24.240 --> 00:23:24.900
 what seemed like

00:23:24.900 --> 00:23:25.460
 the right thing,

00:23:25.580 --> 00:23:26.160
 but it wasn't

00:23:26.160 --> 00:23:26.799
 what she needed.

00:23:27.100 --> 00:23:28.000
 It wasn't what made

00:23:28.000 --> 00:23:28.860
 her feel loved

00:23:28.860 --> 00:23:29.559
 or appreciated.

00:23:30.200 --> 00:23:31.259
 What Claire didn't need

00:23:31.259 --> 00:23:32.160
 was more service

00:23:32.160 --> 00:23:33.180
 or more flowers.

00:23:33.720 --> 00:23:34.580
 What she needed

00:23:34.580 --> 00:23:35.759
 was an apology.

00:23:36.920 --> 00:23:37.160
 Men,

00:23:37.720 --> 00:23:38.500
 do our wives

00:23:38.500 --> 00:23:39.360
 feel understood?

00:23:39.940 --> 00:23:40.920
 Do our wives

00:23:40.920 --> 00:23:41.620
 feel heard?

00:23:42.200 --> 00:23:43.000
 Do we demonstrate

00:23:43.000 --> 00:23:43.779
 thoughtfulness

00:23:43.779 --> 00:23:44.460
 to our wives?

00:23:45.140 --> 00:23:45.920
 Peter calls us

00:23:45.920 --> 00:23:46.779
 to honor the women

00:23:46.779 --> 00:23:47.400
 in our lives

00:23:47.400 --> 00:23:48.160
 by loving them

00:23:48.160 --> 00:23:49.080
 with thoughtfulness,

00:23:49.340 --> 00:23:50.220
 with understanding,

00:23:50.680 --> 00:23:51.540
 knowing what makes

00:23:51.540 --> 00:23:52.500
 them feel loved

00:23:52.500 --> 00:23:53.720
 and appreciated.

00:23:54.800 --> 00:23:55.360
 Secondly,

00:23:55.500 --> 00:23:55.720
 he says,

00:23:56.360 --> 00:23:57.100
 be selfless,

00:23:57.480 --> 00:23:58.400
 not only by loving

00:23:58.400 --> 00:23:58.820
 your wives

00:23:58.820 --> 00:23:59.480
 with understanding,

00:23:59.820 --> 00:24:00.920
 but loving your wives

00:24:00.920 --> 00:24:01.880
 with your strength.

00:24:02.160 --> 00:24:03.200
 Look what he says here.

00:24:03.220 --> 00:24:03.560
 He says,

00:24:03.960 --> 00:24:04.740
 live with your wives

00:24:04.740 --> 00:24:05.700
 in understanding,

00:24:06.220 --> 00:24:06.860
 showing honor

00:24:06.860 --> 00:24:07.420
 to the woman

00:24:07.420 --> 00:24:08.540
 as the weaker vessel.

00:24:09.360 --> 00:24:09.600
 Now,

00:24:09.640 --> 00:24:10.380
 when Peter talks

00:24:10.380 --> 00:24:11.340
 about being weaker,

00:24:11.640 --> 00:24:12.240
 it doesn't mean

00:24:12.240 --> 00:24:13.300
 weaker emotionally

00:24:13.300 --> 00:24:14.259
 or spiritually

00:24:14.259 --> 00:24:15.420
 or psychologically,

00:24:15.940 --> 00:24:16.600
 as if women

00:24:16.600 --> 00:24:17.420
 are just fragile

00:24:17.420 --> 00:24:18.300
 rose petals.

00:24:18.720 --> 00:24:19.600
 It literally just

00:24:19.600 --> 00:24:20.400
 means physically

00:24:20.400 --> 00:24:20.800
 weaker.

00:24:21.340 --> 00:24:22.100
 In Peter's day,

00:24:22.259 --> 00:24:22.880
 no one would have

00:24:22.880 --> 00:24:23.660
 contested that,

00:24:23.779 --> 00:24:24.580
 generally speaking,

00:24:25.060 --> 00:24:25.380
 men,

00:24:25.680 --> 00:24:26.259
 many of whom

00:24:26.259 --> 00:24:26.840
 were soldiers

00:24:26.840 --> 00:24:27.540
 or farmers,

00:24:28.040 --> 00:24:28.779
 were more physical

00:24:28.779 --> 00:24:29.279
 than women.

00:24:29.720 --> 00:24:30.740
 But what's Peter's point?

00:24:30.740 --> 00:24:31.579
 What's he saying?

00:24:32.420 --> 00:24:32.839
 He's saying,

00:24:32.920 --> 00:24:33.319
 husbands,

00:24:33.900 --> 00:24:34.960
 use your strength

00:24:34.960 --> 00:24:36.299
 not to serve yourself,

00:24:36.700 --> 00:24:37.660
 but to selflessly

00:24:37.660 --> 00:24:38.539
 and sacrificially

00:24:38.539 --> 00:24:39.480
 serve the woman

00:24:39.480 --> 00:24:40.120
 in your life.

00:24:40.460 --> 00:24:41.440
 His point is that

00:24:41.440 --> 00:24:42.120
 because you,

00:24:42.220 --> 00:24:42.400
 husband,

00:24:42.500 --> 00:24:43.640
 are stronger physically,

00:24:44.120 --> 00:24:44.819
 don't use that

00:24:44.819 --> 00:24:45.660
 to your advantage.

00:24:46.099 --> 00:24:46.980
 Don't take advantage

00:24:46.980 --> 00:24:47.599
 of your wife,

00:24:47.980 --> 00:24:49.160
 but in the fear of God,

00:24:49.259 --> 00:24:49.880
 use your strength

00:24:49.880 --> 00:24:50.599
 to honor her,

00:24:50.900 --> 00:24:51.759
 to encourage her,

00:24:51.900 --> 00:24:53.039
 to make much of her,

00:24:53.200 --> 00:24:54.779
 to see your wife flourish.

00:24:54.779 --> 00:24:56.379
 One of the greatest

00:24:56.379 --> 00:24:57.539
 tragedies of the fall

00:24:57.539 --> 00:24:58.160
 of humanity

00:24:58.160 --> 00:24:59.059
 and the deceitfulness

00:24:59.059 --> 00:25:00.240
 of sin in our hearts

00:25:00.240 --> 00:25:01.619
 is that as men,

00:25:02.039 --> 00:25:02.839
 we tend to use

00:25:02.839 --> 00:25:03.420
 our strength

00:25:03.420 --> 00:25:04.079
 to dominate,

00:25:04.639 --> 00:25:05.259
 to manipulate,

00:25:05.899 --> 00:25:06.920
 and to control women

00:25:06.920 --> 00:25:08.299
 rather than serving

00:25:08.299 --> 00:25:09.339
 the women in our lives.

00:25:09.819 --> 00:25:11.279
 The recent hashtag

00:25:11.279 --> 00:25:12.339
 MeToo movement

00:25:12.339 --> 00:25:13.099
 around the world

00:25:13.099 --> 00:25:14.220
 has thankfully exposed

00:25:14.220 --> 00:25:14.819
 and highlighted

00:25:14.819 --> 00:25:15.700
 some of the ways

00:25:15.700 --> 00:25:17.259
 that we as men

00:25:17.259 --> 00:25:17.779
 do this,

00:25:18.359 --> 00:25:19.839
 exploit and harass women.

00:25:20.160 --> 00:25:21.039
 But the tragedy

00:25:21.039 --> 00:25:22.399
 is that even in the church

00:25:22.399 --> 00:25:23.000
 we're not immune

00:25:23.000 --> 00:25:23.519
 from this.

00:25:23.519 --> 00:25:25.039
 And so while very few

00:25:25.039 --> 00:25:25.940
 of us will have our names

00:25:25.940 --> 00:25:26.819
 written in headlines

00:25:26.819 --> 00:25:27.480
 or plastered

00:25:27.480 --> 00:25:28.359
 across the internet,

00:25:28.779 --> 00:25:29.700
 the truth is that

00:25:29.700 --> 00:25:30.740
 the same sin

00:25:30.740 --> 00:25:31.879
 and the same tendency

00:25:31.879 --> 00:25:32.759
 to exploit

00:25:32.759 --> 00:25:33.900
 rather than to serve

00:25:33.900 --> 00:25:34.759
 is not far from

00:25:34.759 --> 00:25:35.420
 our own hearts

00:25:35.420 --> 00:25:36.339
 and therefore

00:25:36.339 --> 00:25:37.160
 not far from

00:25:37.160 --> 00:25:37.839
 our own homes.

00:25:38.500 --> 00:25:39.440
 And while this is

00:25:39.440 --> 00:25:40.279
 applicable to both

00:25:40.279 --> 00:25:41.139
 men and women,

00:25:41.319 --> 00:25:42.279
 for women are stronger

00:25:42.279 --> 00:25:43.440
 than men in other areas,

00:25:43.879 --> 00:25:44.619
 I want to address

00:25:44.619 --> 00:25:45.460
 the men for a second

00:25:45.460 --> 00:25:46.559
 and I want to ask

00:25:46.559 --> 00:25:48.019
 you if the women

00:25:48.019 --> 00:25:48.660
 in your life,

00:25:48.839 --> 00:25:49.779
 that may be your wife,

00:25:49.960 --> 00:25:50.519
 your daughters,

00:25:50.759 --> 00:25:51.240
 your girlfriend,

00:25:51.559 --> 00:25:52.059
 your colleague,

00:25:52.160 --> 00:25:53.379
 or even just female friends,

00:25:53.519 --> 00:25:54.879
 do they feel

00:25:54.879 --> 00:25:55.740
 like you use

00:25:55.740 --> 00:25:56.379
 the strengths

00:25:56.379 --> 00:25:57.139
 God has given you

00:25:57.139 --> 00:25:58.119
 to their advantage

00:25:58.119 --> 00:25:59.559
 or to your own advantage?

00:26:00.180 --> 00:26:01.339
 When you have a disagreement

00:26:01.339 --> 00:26:02.279
 with your wife,

00:26:02.500 --> 00:26:03.740
 does she feel scared

00:26:03.740 --> 00:26:05.200
 or does she feel safe?

00:26:06.059 --> 00:26:06.759
 Peter says that

00:26:06.759 --> 00:26:07.319
 one of the ways

00:26:07.319 --> 00:26:08.039
 we demonstrate

00:26:08.039 --> 00:26:08.879
 the distinctiveness

00:26:08.879 --> 00:26:09.539
 of the gospel

00:26:09.539 --> 00:26:10.180
 is the way that

00:26:10.180 --> 00:26:11.400
 we use the strength

00:26:11.400 --> 00:26:12.299
 God has given us

00:26:12.299 --> 00:26:13.559
 to selflessly

00:26:13.559 --> 00:26:14.539
 and sacrificially

00:26:14.539 --> 00:26:15.579
 serve and love

00:26:15.579 --> 00:26:16.079
 our wives.

00:26:16.759 --> 00:26:17.779
 And then thirdly,

00:26:18.460 --> 00:26:19.440
 Peter says this,

00:26:19.440 --> 00:26:20.620
 be selfless

00:26:20.620 --> 00:26:21.600
 not only by

00:26:21.600 --> 00:26:22.680
 loving your wives

00:26:22.680 --> 00:26:23.360
 with understanding,

00:26:23.580 --> 00:26:24.480
 not only by loving

00:26:24.480 --> 00:26:24.940
 your wives

00:26:24.940 --> 00:26:25.740
 with your strength,

00:26:26.180 --> 00:26:26.799
 be selfless

00:26:26.799 --> 00:26:27.920
 by loving your wife

00:26:27.920 --> 00:26:28.980
 as your equal.

00:26:29.880 --> 00:26:30.900
 Look what he says here,

00:26:30.940 --> 00:26:31.140
 he says,

00:26:31.200 --> 00:26:31.460
 husbands,

00:26:31.660 --> 00:26:32.380
 live with your wives

00:26:32.380 --> 00:26:33.480
 in an understanding way,

00:26:33.680 --> 00:26:34.740
 showing honor to the woman

00:26:34.740 --> 00:26:35.680
 as the weaker vessel,

00:26:36.120 --> 00:26:37.420
 since they are joint

00:26:37.420 --> 00:26:38.400
 heirs with you

00:26:38.400 --> 00:26:39.820
 of the grace of life,

00:26:40.160 --> 00:26:41.299
 so that your prayers

00:26:41.299 --> 00:26:42.140
 may not be hindered.

00:26:42.140 --> 00:26:44.360
 In a culture

00:26:44.360 --> 00:26:45.740
 which elevated masculinity

00:26:45.740 --> 00:26:46.500
 and looked down

00:26:46.500 --> 00:26:47.660
 upon femininity,

00:26:48.080 --> 00:26:48.640
 in a culture

00:26:48.640 --> 00:26:49.920
 which undeniably favored

00:26:49.920 --> 00:26:50.880
 men and not women,

00:26:51.300 --> 00:26:51.900
 in a culture

00:26:51.900 --> 00:26:52.460
 which honored

00:26:52.460 --> 00:26:53.580
 and advantaged men

00:26:53.580 --> 00:26:54.259
 over women,

00:26:54.700 --> 00:26:56.300
 the gospel of Jesus Christ

00:26:56.300 --> 00:26:57.180
 speaks radically

00:26:57.180 --> 00:26:58.259
 and counter-culturally

00:26:58.259 --> 00:26:59.240
 when it says

00:26:59.240 --> 00:27:00.520
 both men and women,

00:27:00.720 --> 00:27:02.160
 both husbands and wives,

00:27:02.420 --> 00:27:03.860
 both sons and daughters,

00:27:04.420 --> 00:27:05.720
 both singles and married,

00:27:05.940 --> 00:27:07.259
 both rich and poor,

00:27:07.259 --> 00:27:08.320
 both educated

00:27:08.320 --> 00:27:09.480
 and uneducated,

00:27:09.920 --> 00:27:10.700
 are completely

00:27:10.700 --> 00:27:11.759
 and utterly

00:27:11.759 --> 00:27:12.619
 equal

00:27:12.619 --> 00:27:13.700
 and worthy of honor

00:27:13.700 --> 00:27:15.640
 because both men and women,

00:27:15.900 --> 00:27:16.680
 boys and girls,

00:27:16.900 --> 00:27:17.980
 married and singles,

00:27:18.220 --> 00:27:19.079
 rich and poor,

00:27:19.200 --> 00:27:19.799
 are sinners

00:27:19.799 --> 00:27:20.879
 without hope

00:27:20.879 --> 00:27:22.059
 apart from Jesus.

00:27:22.599 --> 00:27:23.519
 Our hearts

00:27:23.519 --> 00:27:24.680
 have turned away from God.

00:27:25.140 --> 00:27:26.460
 We've become our own God

00:27:26.460 --> 00:27:27.799
 and yet in Christ

00:27:27.799 --> 00:27:29.299
 both are equally saved

00:27:29.299 --> 00:27:30.599
 and equally loved by God

00:27:30.599 --> 00:27:31.460
 and equally welcomed

00:27:31.460 --> 00:27:32.299
 into his family.

00:27:32.879 --> 00:27:33.180
 You see,

00:27:33.519 --> 00:27:34.779
 in a Roman or Greek culture

00:27:34.779 --> 00:27:36.200
 a woman wasn't really expected

00:27:36.200 --> 00:27:37.599
 to even have her own faith.

00:27:38.079 --> 00:27:39.420
 Her religion was just assumed

00:27:39.420 --> 00:27:40.539
 to be that of her husband's

00:27:40.539 --> 00:27:41.740
 and if there was a God

00:27:41.740 --> 00:27:43.099
 she would access

00:27:43.099 --> 00:27:43.620
 that God

00:27:43.620 --> 00:27:44.900
 by her husband's devotion.

00:27:45.680 --> 00:27:46.940
 But here Peter reminds us

00:27:46.940 --> 00:27:47.599
 that the ground

00:27:47.599 --> 00:27:48.799
 is equal at the cross.

00:27:49.660 --> 00:27:50.420
 He calls husbands

00:27:50.420 --> 00:27:51.140
 to see that

00:27:51.140 --> 00:27:52.160
 in the most important

00:27:52.160 --> 00:27:52.940
 area of life

00:27:52.940 --> 00:27:54.039
 who God is

00:27:54.039 --> 00:27:55.200
 and how you can know Him

00:27:55.200 --> 00:27:56.380
 and how you can be accepted

00:27:56.380 --> 00:27:56.880
 by Him.

00:27:57.319 --> 00:27:58.599
 In this most important

00:27:58.599 --> 00:27:59.299
 area of life

00:27:59.299 --> 00:28:00.380
 he calls husbands

00:28:00.380 --> 00:28:01.380
 to recognize

00:28:01.380 --> 00:28:02.240
 their wives

00:28:02.240 --> 00:28:03.480
 as equals

00:28:03.480 --> 00:28:05.099
 since they are

00:28:05.099 --> 00:28:06.420
 joint heirs with you

00:28:06.420 --> 00:28:07.579
 of the grace

00:28:07.579 --> 00:28:08.400
 of life.

00:28:08.400 --> 00:28:09.980
 And then look

00:28:09.980 --> 00:28:10.620
 what he says.

00:28:11.000 --> 00:28:11.440
 He says,

00:28:11.560 --> 00:28:12.080
 Do this

00:28:12.080 --> 00:28:13.600
 so that your prayers

00:28:13.600 --> 00:28:14.320
 may be heard.

00:28:15.060 --> 00:28:15.500
 Brothers,

00:28:15.600 --> 00:28:16.200
 it doesn't matter

00:28:16.200 --> 00:28:17.220
 how much we serve,

00:28:17.740 --> 00:28:18.280
 preach,

00:28:18.880 --> 00:28:19.220
 pray,

00:28:19.759 --> 00:28:20.360
 how much money

00:28:20.360 --> 00:28:21.340
 we give to the church

00:28:21.340 --> 00:28:22.360
 or the kingdom of God.

00:28:22.759 --> 00:28:23.880
 If we do not love

00:28:23.880 --> 00:28:24.820
 the woman in our lives

00:28:24.820 --> 00:28:25.480
 like Jesus

00:28:25.480 --> 00:28:26.620
 selflessly

00:28:26.620 --> 00:28:27.540
 and sacrificially

00:28:27.539 --> 00:28:28.799
 it's meaningless.

00:28:29.399 --> 00:28:30.139
 We know better

00:28:30.139 --> 00:28:31.180
 than the 19 year old

00:28:31.180 --> 00:28:31.799
 supermodel

00:28:31.799 --> 00:28:32.659
 posting photos

00:28:32.659 --> 00:28:33.159
 of herself

00:28:33.159 --> 00:28:33.819
 looking happy

00:28:33.819 --> 00:28:34.500
 and carefree

00:28:34.500 --> 00:28:35.700
 or being miserable

00:28:35.700 --> 00:28:36.359
 and alone

00:28:36.359 --> 00:28:37.019
 inside.

00:28:37.619 --> 00:28:38.399
 And while the world

00:28:38.399 --> 00:28:39.159
 may be fooled

00:28:39.159 --> 00:28:40.740
 Jesus is not.

00:28:41.399 --> 00:28:41.980
 And so because

00:28:41.980 --> 00:28:43.000
 Jesus is enough

00:28:43.000 --> 00:28:43.740
 husbands live

00:28:43.740 --> 00:28:44.480
 distinctively

00:28:44.480 --> 00:28:45.639
 in your manhood

00:28:45.639 --> 00:28:46.659
 by leading

00:28:46.659 --> 00:28:47.619
 the woman in your lives

00:28:47.619 --> 00:28:48.579
 with servant heart

00:28:48.579 --> 00:28:49.779
 sacrificial love.

00:28:50.899 --> 00:28:52.359
 As we come to close

00:28:52.359 --> 00:28:53.839
 let me land

00:28:53.839 --> 00:28:54.200
 with three

00:28:54.200 --> 00:28:54.859
 very quick

00:28:54.859 --> 00:28:56.159
 practical applications.

00:28:56.819 --> 00:28:57.220
 Firstly,

00:28:57.220 --> 00:28:58.059
 for those of you

00:28:58.059 --> 00:28:58.779
 who are married

00:28:58.779 --> 00:29:00.140
 can I ask you

00:29:00.140 --> 00:29:01.200
 to start today.

00:29:01.980 --> 00:29:02.779
 Start today.

00:29:03.460 --> 00:29:04.039
 This passage

00:29:04.039 --> 00:29:05.259
 calls us to follow Jesus

00:29:05.259 --> 00:29:06.100
 and to live lives

00:29:06.100 --> 00:29:06.700
 of selfless

00:29:06.700 --> 00:29:07.779
 and sacrificial love

00:29:07.779 --> 00:29:08.759
 and surrender.

00:29:09.579 --> 00:29:10.000
 Husbands,

00:29:10.519 --> 00:29:11.720
 can you today

00:29:11.720 --> 00:29:12.519
 choose to love

00:29:12.519 --> 00:29:13.000
 your wife

00:29:13.000 --> 00:29:13.559
 in this way?

00:29:14.259 --> 00:29:15.019
 Can you today

00:29:15.019 --> 00:29:16.039
 choose to lay aside

00:29:16.039 --> 00:29:17.039
 what you may think

00:29:17.039 --> 00:29:18.279
 be your right

00:29:18.279 --> 00:29:19.579
 knowing that Jesus

00:29:19.579 --> 00:29:20.220
 is enough

00:29:20.220 --> 00:29:21.279
 and selflessly

00:29:21.279 --> 00:29:22.140
 and sacrificially

00:29:22.140 --> 00:29:23.460
 serve your wife?

00:29:23.860 --> 00:29:24.279
 Wife,

00:29:24.339 --> 00:29:25.180
 can you surrender

00:29:25.180 --> 00:29:26.460
 to Jesus

00:29:26.460 --> 00:29:27.380
 and sacrificially

00:29:27.380 --> 00:29:28.220
 serve your husband?

00:29:28.819 --> 00:29:29.400
 You may have been

00:29:29.400 --> 00:29:30.500
 married for 30 years

00:29:30.500 --> 00:29:31.340
 or three weeks.

00:29:31.880 --> 00:29:32.600
 There may be much

00:29:32.600 --> 00:29:33.660
 water under the bridge

00:29:33.660 --> 00:29:35.019
 but start today.

00:29:35.600 --> 00:29:36.220
 It's interesting

00:29:36.220 --> 00:29:36.920
 to note that

00:29:36.920 --> 00:29:38.200
 Peter tells

00:29:38.200 --> 00:29:38.920
 neither husbands

00:29:38.920 --> 00:29:39.700
 nor wives

00:29:39.700 --> 00:29:40.720
 to get their spouses

00:29:40.720 --> 00:29:41.180
 in order

00:29:41.180 --> 00:29:42.500
 to help their spouses

00:29:42.500 --> 00:29:43.160
 see the error

00:29:43.160 --> 00:29:43.759
 in their ways.

00:29:44.240 --> 00:29:44.980
 He merely calls

00:29:44.980 --> 00:29:45.620
 both husbands

00:29:45.620 --> 00:29:46.259
 and wives

00:29:46.259 --> 00:29:47.279
 to follow Jesus

00:29:47.279 --> 00:29:48.539
 in selflessly

00:29:48.539 --> 00:29:49.200
 laying aside

00:29:49.200 --> 00:29:49.740
 their rights

00:29:49.740 --> 00:29:51.079
 in order to serve

00:29:51.079 --> 00:29:52.160
 and love the other.

00:29:52.860 --> 00:29:53.559
 Maybe it needs

00:29:53.559 --> 00:29:54.700
 to start with an apology

00:29:54.700 --> 00:29:56.100
 asking your spouse

00:29:56.100 --> 00:29:56.920
 to forgive you

00:29:56.920 --> 00:29:58.120
 asking your spouse

00:29:58.120 --> 00:29:58.660
 to gently

00:29:58.660 --> 00:29:59.279
 and graciously

00:29:59.279 --> 00:29:59.860
 help you

00:29:59.860 --> 00:30:01.400
 whatever it takes

00:30:01.400 --> 00:30:02.680
 start today.

00:30:03.940 --> 00:30:04.460
 Secondly

00:30:04.460 --> 00:30:05.660
 for those of you

00:30:05.660 --> 00:30:06.580
 who are not yet married

00:30:06.580 --> 00:30:07.680
 be careful

00:30:07.680 --> 00:30:08.420
 who you date

00:30:08.420 --> 00:30:09.700
 and be extra careful

00:30:09.700 --> 00:30:10.380
 who you marry.

00:30:11.059 --> 00:30:11.840
 No marriage partner

00:30:11.840 --> 00:30:12.480
 is perfect

00:30:12.480 --> 00:30:13.460
 every marriage

00:30:13.460 --> 00:30:14.680
 consists of two sinners

00:30:14.680 --> 00:30:15.680
 whose natural bent

00:30:15.680 --> 00:30:16.840
 is to look after themselves

00:30:16.840 --> 00:30:17.980
 and think about themselves.

00:30:18.759 --> 00:30:19.480
 Coming to Jesus

00:30:19.480 --> 00:30:20.400
 doesn't completely

00:30:20.400 --> 00:30:21.860
 eradicate that overnight

00:30:21.859 --> 00:30:23.759
 but Christ does

00:30:23.759 --> 00:30:24.639
 give us a new heart

00:30:24.639 --> 00:30:25.839
 and he does give us

00:30:25.839 --> 00:30:26.439
 an example

00:30:26.439 --> 00:30:27.779
 and the power

00:30:27.779 --> 00:30:28.659
 to live differently.

00:30:29.519 --> 00:30:30.199
 Dating and then

00:30:30.199 --> 00:30:31.039
 marrying someone

00:30:31.039 --> 00:30:31.839
 who's not a follower

00:30:31.839 --> 00:30:32.279
 of Jesus

00:30:32.279 --> 00:30:33.339
 opens the door

00:30:33.339 --> 00:30:34.859
 to many of the difficulties

00:30:34.859 --> 00:30:35.719
 that this passage

00:30:35.719 --> 00:30:36.219
 addresses.

00:30:36.819 --> 00:30:37.679
 Living with a spouse

00:30:37.679 --> 00:30:38.299
 who doesn't share

00:30:38.299 --> 00:30:38.819
 your ethic

00:30:38.819 --> 00:30:39.659
 or your understanding

00:30:39.659 --> 00:30:40.119
 of marriage

00:30:40.119 --> 00:30:41.019
 or being married

00:30:41.019 --> 00:30:41.500
 to a spouse

00:30:41.500 --> 00:30:42.099
 who doesn't see

00:30:42.099 --> 00:30:42.699
 the importance

00:30:42.699 --> 00:30:43.459
 of selfless

00:30:43.459 --> 00:30:44.559
 and sacrificial love.

00:30:45.079 --> 00:30:45.519
 Being married

00:30:45.519 --> 00:30:46.039
 to a spouse

00:30:46.039 --> 00:30:46.519
 who insists

00:30:46.519 --> 00:30:47.299
 on their own right

00:30:47.299 --> 00:30:48.259
 and their own privilege.

00:30:49.039 --> 00:30:49.439
 Friends

00:30:49.439 --> 00:30:51.399
 be very careful.

00:30:52.319 --> 00:30:53.059
 Pray about it.

00:30:53.259 --> 00:30:53.659
 Ask God

00:30:53.659 --> 00:30:54.199
 to lead you

00:30:54.199 --> 00:30:54.699
 in Godly

00:30:54.699 --> 00:30:56.059
 and ask God

00:30:56.059 --> 00:30:56.719
 to give you

00:30:56.719 --> 00:30:57.779
 a believing spouse

00:30:57.779 --> 00:30:58.359
 that will help you

00:30:58.359 --> 00:30:59.479
 to love Jesus more.

00:31:00.299 --> 00:31:00.779
 And finally

00:31:00.779 --> 00:31:02.240
 for all the couples

00:31:02.240 --> 00:31:03.000
 who have children

00:31:03.000 --> 00:31:04.779
 coach your children

00:31:04.779 --> 00:31:06.379
 that should God

00:31:06.379 --> 00:31:06.839
 call them

00:31:06.839 --> 00:31:07.500
 to get married

00:31:07.500 --> 00:31:07.959
 one day

00:31:07.959 --> 00:31:09.099
 coach them

00:31:09.099 --> 00:31:09.839
 what it looks like

00:31:09.839 --> 00:31:10.879
 to be a godly husband

00:31:10.879 --> 00:31:12.240
 or a godly wife.

00:31:12.879 --> 00:31:13.439
 Teach them now

00:31:13.439 --> 00:31:14.299
 that Christian marriage

00:31:14.299 --> 00:31:14.939
 is patterned

00:31:14.939 --> 00:31:15.579
 after the life

00:31:15.579 --> 00:31:16.099
 of Jesus.

00:31:16.579 --> 00:31:17.099
 Servanthood

00:31:17.099 --> 00:31:18.099
 selflessness

00:31:18.099 --> 00:31:19.639
 sacrificial love.

00:31:20.419 --> 00:31:21.219
 Teach your children

00:31:21.220 --> 00:31:22.319
 to use their strength

00:31:22.319 --> 00:31:23.140
 in order to serve

00:31:23.140 --> 00:31:23.579
 the others.

00:31:24.200 --> 00:31:24.860
 Teach your daughters

00:31:24.860 --> 00:31:25.819
 what a godly man

00:31:25.819 --> 00:31:26.400
 looks like

00:31:26.400 --> 00:31:27.799
 and how a godly man

00:31:27.799 --> 00:31:28.519
 treats a woman

00:31:28.519 --> 00:31:29.480
 so she'll recognize

00:31:29.480 --> 00:31:30.180
 a good man.

00:31:30.779 --> 00:31:31.440
 Teach your sons

00:31:31.440 --> 00:31:32.319
 how to be selfless

00:31:32.319 --> 00:31:33.039
 and understanding

00:31:33.039 --> 00:31:34.259
 thoughtful and caring

00:31:34.259 --> 00:31:35.059
 towards the women

00:31:35.059 --> 00:31:36.180
 in their lives.

00:31:36.680 --> 00:31:37.319
 Teach your daughters

00:31:37.319 --> 00:31:38.319
 to desire to be

00:31:38.319 --> 00:31:39.500
 stunningly beautiful

00:31:39.500 --> 00:31:40.420
 and attractive

00:31:40.420 --> 00:31:41.279
 in character

00:31:41.279 --> 00:31:42.420
 in godliness

00:31:42.420 --> 00:31:43.259
 and confidence

00:31:43.259 --> 00:31:44.579
 and in faith.

00:31:44.579 --> 00:31:47.259
 when Elizabeth

00:31:47.259 --> 00:31:48.139
 Elliot died

00:31:48.139 --> 00:31:49.679
 in 2015

00:31:49.679 --> 00:31:51.599
 John Piper

00:31:51.599 --> 00:31:52.639
 wrote this of her

00:31:52.639 --> 00:31:54.480
 whether it was

00:31:54.480 --> 00:31:55.079
 the spears

00:31:55.079 --> 00:31:55.980
 of the Ecuadorian

00:31:55.980 --> 00:31:56.319
 jungle

00:31:56.319 --> 00:31:57.379
 or the standards

00:31:57.379 --> 00:31:58.679
 of American glamour

00:31:58.679 --> 00:31:59.980
 Elizabeth Elliot

00:31:59.980 --> 00:32:00.619
 would not be

00:32:00.619 --> 00:32:01.099
 frightened

00:32:01.099 --> 00:32:01.819
 or intimidated

00:32:01.819 --> 00:32:03.319
 she was captured

00:32:03.319 --> 00:32:04.019
 by Christ

00:32:04.019 --> 00:32:05.500
 she was not her own

00:32:05.500 --> 00:32:06.759
 she was supremely

00:32:06.759 --> 00:32:07.199
 mastered

00:32:07.199 --> 00:32:08.539
 not by any

00:32:08.539 --> 00:32:09.299
 ordinary man

00:32:09.299 --> 00:32:10.279
 but by the king

00:32:10.279 --> 00:32:11.059
 of the universe.

00:32:11.059 --> 00:32:12.960
 Let me close

00:32:12.960 --> 00:32:13.519
 with the words

00:32:13.519 --> 00:32:14.279
 of Elizabeth Elliot

00:32:14.279 --> 00:32:14.839
 herself

00:32:14.839 --> 00:32:15.839
 the missionary

00:32:15.839 --> 00:32:16.480
 to Ecuador

00:32:16.480 --> 00:32:17.559
 who watched

00:32:17.559 --> 00:32:18.019
 her husband

00:32:18.019 --> 00:32:18.659
 getting killed

00:32:18.659 --> 00:32:19.559
 and chose

00:32:19.559 --> 00:32:20.099
 to stay

00:32:20.099 --> 00:32:20.460
 and love

00:32:20.460 --> 00:32:21.000
 the people

00:32:21.000 --> 00:32:22.299
 that killed him

00:32:22.299 --> 00:32:23.259
 she says

00:32:23.259 --> 00:32:24.359
 for the Christian

00:32:24.359 --> 00:32:24.700
 woman

00:32:24.700 --> 00:32:25.419
 and this is also

00:32:25.419 --> 00:32:26.220
 true for Christian

00:32:26.220 --> 00:32:26.559
 men

00:32:26.559 --> 00:32:27.879
 but a Christian's

00:32:27.879 --> 00:32:28.839
 true freedom

00:32:28.839 --> 00:32:30.059
 lies on the other

00:32:30.059 --> 00:32:31.000
 side of a very

00:32:31.000 --> 00:32:32.000
 small gate

00:32:32.000 --> 00:32:33.000
 the gate

00:32:33.000 --> 00:32:34.220
 of humble obedience

00:32:34.220 --> 00:32:35.619
 but that gate

00:32:35.619 --> 00:32:36.259
 leads out

00:32:36.259 --> 00:32:37.319
 into a largeness

00:32:37.319 --> 00:32:37.960
 of life

00:32:37.960 --> 00:32:39.200
 into a freedom

00:32:39.200 --> 00:32:40.659
 undreamed of

00:32:40.660 --> 00:32:41.180
 by those

00:32:41.180 --> 00:32:41.840
 who consider

00:32:41.840 --> 00:32:42.320
 themselves

00:32:42.320 --> 00:32:43.160
 the liberators

00:32:43.160 --> 00:32:43.860
 of our modern

00:32:43.860 --> 00:32:44.320
 world

00:32:44.320 --> 00:32:45.400
 the world

00:32:45.400 --> 00:32:45.840
 looks for

00:32:45.840 --> 00:32:46.300
 happiness

00:32:46.300 --> 00:32:47.120
 through self

00:32:47.120 --> 00:32:47.920
 assertion

00:32:47.920 --> 00:32:48.880
 the Christian

00:32:48.880 --> 00:32:49.320
 knows

00:32:49.320 --> 00:32:49.920
 that true

00:32:49.920 --> 00:32:50.720
 joy is found

00:32:50.720 --> 00:32:51.759
 in self

00:32:51.759 --> 00:32:53.120
 abandonment

00:32:53.120 --> 00:32:53.960
 Watermark

00:32:53.960 --> 00:32:55.000
 because of the

00:32:55.000 --> 00:32:55.680
 beauty and the

00:32:55.680 --> 00:32:56.560
 wonder of Jesus

00:32:56.560 --> 00:32:57.920
 and because of

00:32:57.920 --> 00:32:58.759
 his supremely

00:32:58.759 --> 00:32:59.720
 glorious example

00:32:59.720 --> 00:33:00.900
 because our hope

00:33:00.900 --> 00:33:01.380
 is in him

00:33:01.380 --> 00:33:01.800
 and because

00:33:01.800 --> 00:33:03.120
 in Christ

00:33:03.120 --> 00:33:03.880
 we have found

00:33:03.880 --> 00:33:04.640
 all the treasures

00:33:04.640 --> 00:33:05.300
 that our hearts

00:33:05.300 --> 00:33:05.640
 seek

00:33:05.640 --> 00:33:06.400
 and because

00:33:06.400 --> 00:33:07.340
 no other being

00:33:07.340 --> 00:33:08.180
 in all the world

00:33:08.180 --> 00:33:09.019
 is so beautiful

00:33:09.019 --> 00:33:09.820
 and so worthy

00:33:09.820 --> 00:33:10.480
 of our lives

00:33:10.480 --> 00:33:12.099
 let's trust him

00:33:12.099 --> 00:33:13.660
 let's follow him

00:33:13.660 --> 00:33:15.240
 let us be men

00:33:15.240 --> 00:33:15.720
 and women

00:33:15.720 --> 00:33:16.700
 who follow him

00:33:16.700 --> 00:33:17.500
 living lives

00:33:17.500 --> 00:33:18.539
 of distinction

00:33:18.539 --> 00:33:19.819
 as men and women

00:33:19.819 --> 00:33:20.220
 who have been

00:33:20.220 --> 00:33:21.360
 mastered by Christ

00:33:21.360 --> 00:33:22.500
 and let us know

00:33:22.500 --> 00:33:23.279
 that true joy

00:33:23.279 --> 00:33:24.039
 is found

00:33:24.039 --> 00:33:24.740
 not in self

00:33:24.740 --> 00:33:25.460
 assertion

00:33:25.460 --> 00:33:26.519
 not in self

00:33:26.519 --> 00:33:27.039
 fulfillment

00:33:27.039 --> 00:33:28.579
 but in selfless

00:33:28.579 --> 00:33:29.660
 sacrificial

00:33:29.660 --> 00:33:31.099
 self abandon

00:33:31.099 --> 00:33:33.919
 thanks so much

00:33:33.919 --> 00:33:34.759
 for joining us

00:33:34.759 --> 00:33:35.859
 I hope you've

00:33:35.859 --> 00:33:36.859
 had a good morning

00:33:36.859 --> 00:33:37.559
 worshipping with

00:33:37.559 --> 00:33:38.159
 your family

00:33:38.159 --> 00:33:39.119
 we look forward

00:33:39.119 --> 00:33:39.879
 to seeing you

00:33:39.879 --> 00:33:40.779
 next Sunday

00:33:40.779 --> 00:33:41.759
 at our family

00:33:41.759 --> 00:33:42.579
 worship service

00:33:42.579 --> 00:33:42.980
 together

00:33:42.980 --> 00:33:44.159
 keep safe

00:33:44.159 --> 00:33:44.959
 keep warm

00:33:44.959 --> 00:33:45.899
 and we look forward

00:33:45.899 --> 00:33:46.639
 to seeing you soon

00:33:46.639 --> 00:33:47.399
 bye

00:33:47.400 --> 00:33:50.680
 bye