WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:04.620 I am going to talk about our second word for the year. 00:00:04.839 --> 00:00:05.700 I'm going to talk about order. 00:00:07.219 --> 00:00:11.580 And there's a lot of definitions for the word order. 00:00:11.900 --> 00:00:16.240 So it's one of these words that has multiple different meanings depending how it's used. 00:00:16.660 --> 00:00:21.879 But I want to look at two different versions of the word or meanings of the word. 00:00:22.300 --> 00:00:27.600 The first one would be order in the sense of priority, divine order. 00:00:27.600 --> 00:00:29.679 We all have priorities. 00:00:30.240 --> 00:00:32.880 The question is, are our priorities God's priorities? 00:00:33.539 --> 00:00:41.120 Is the order of our priorities, the way we order the priorities of our life the same as what God wants us to? 00:00:41.859 --> 00:00:43.640 So that's one way to look at order. 00:00:43.700 --> 00:00:47.540 The other way to look at order is basically the opposite of disorder. 00:00:48.120 --> 00:00:53.480 So if you have a bunch of chaos and messiness and just kind of everything's everywhere 00:00:53.480 --> 00:00:55.579 and you just kind of don't know what's going on, 00:00:55.579 --> 00:00:58.939 the opposite of that is what I'm talking about. 00:00:59.039 --> 00:00:59.579 Okay, order. 00:00:59.739 --> 00:01:01.079 Bringing order to chaos. 00:01:01.600 --> 00:01:02.979 Bringing order to disorder. 00:01:03.879 --> 00:01:05.259 So two different things. 00:01:05.359 --> 00:01:06.140 They go together. 00:01:06.239 --> 00:01:06.780 They're similar. 00:01:07.659 --> 00:01:10.179 But kind of two different ways to look at order. 00:01:10.180 --> 00:01:20.100 And either one will cause problems and either one is not the way God wants it to be. 00:01:20.360 --> 00:01:20.520 Okay. 00:01:20.600 --> 00:01:26.260 God wants us to revere his order, his priorities, divine order priorities. 00:01:26.740 --> 00:01:31.400 And then I think when the kingdom of God comes, it always brings order. 00:01:31.960 --> 00:01:33.320 It always brings order. 00:01:33.420 --> 00:01:38.680 It always brings, God's word itself brings order into chaos. 00:01:38.680 --> 00:01:41.140 I mean, we see this in the book of Genesis right there in the beginning. 00:01:41.900 --> 00:01:43.460 And there's something about that. 00:01:44.280 --> 00:01:47.960 No matter how, you know, obviously different people have different personalities too. 00:01:48.560 --> 00:01:50.120 Birth order can affect this. 00:01:50.340 --> 00:01:58.360 But, you know, we have different kind of tolerances of cleanliness or chaos or all these kind of things. 00:01:58.359 --> 00:02:05.500 But there is something, I believe, that's inherently in all of us that loves when order is brought to chaos. 00:02:06.439 --> 00:02:09.039 And I think it's because it's the kingdom of God. 00:02:09.219 --> 00:02:12.580 The kingdom of God, when it comes, it's God's rule. 00:02:12.740 --> 00:02:14.599 It's the way that God wants things done. 00:02:14.819 --> 00:02:16.840 The priority at which he wants things done. 00:02:17.099 --> 00:02:19.400 It's coming down to earth as it is in heaven. 00:02:19.400 --> 00:02:28.740 And there's a reason why the kingdom of God is referred to in Romans chapter 14 as righteousness, peace, and joy in the Holy Spirit. 00:02:29.060 --> 00:02:32.860 When kingdom order comes, righteousness, peace, and joy come as well. 00:02:33.420 --> 00:02:33.680 Amen? 00:02:33.680 --> 00:02:33.819 Amen? 00:02:36.020 --> 00:02:38.000 So that's what I mean by order. 00:02:38.960 --> 00:02:43.960 That's what I mean by kind of the two portions of order that we want to focus on. 00:02:44.360 --> 00:02:51.460 So let's start with just looking at a handful of verses giving us the biblical value for order. 00:02:51.640 --> 00:02:57.120 Because I think we sometimes value order on a different scale. 00:02:57.319 --> 00:02:58.780 Some of us value it more than others. 00:02:58.780 --> 00:03:04.860 And we can develop a tolerance for disorder. 00:03:05.979 --> 00:03:06.379 Right? 00:03:06.960 --> 00:03:10.060 We can get so used to it, we don't even notice it anymore. 00:03:10.599 --> 00:03:10.979 Right? 00:03:11.699 --> 00:03:13.539 This is why we need the help of the body. 00:03:14.240 --> 00:03:24.560 Because some of us, kind of the boiling of a frog, you know, slowly but surely, we ended up being comfortable to a certain degree with disorder or chaos. 00:03:24.560 --> 00:03:30.060 And sometimes it can even go to the point where we're not just comfortable with it, we're actually dependent upon it. 00:03:30.280 --> 00:03:35.080 Because it's so familiar to us, we feel like a fish out of water when we don't experience it. 00:03:35.240 --> 00:03:36.300 That's not a good thing. 00:03:37.140 --> 00:03:37.979 That's not a good thing. 00:03:38.560 --> 00:03:41.659 We don't want to feel comfortable with a sense of disorder. 00:03:42.020 --> 00:03:47.900 We should feel a little bit of a divine agitation that says, hey, this needs to be brought into order. 00:03:47.900 --> 00:03:48.340 Okay? 00:03:48.800 --> 00:03:54.020 And so, some of us are probably going to have to ask questions of other people. 00:03:55.240 --> 00:04:02.020 And a little bit of advice, don't ask someone who's just as comfortable with disorder as you if there's disorder in your life. 00:04:02.400 --> 00:04:03.980 I don't see anyone finding me. 00:04:06.640 --> 00:04:08.819 Or someone who's more comfortable with disorder. 00:04:08.960 --> 00:04:10.379 He's like, oh, your life is great, man. 00:04:10.420 --> 00:04:10.879 I wish I could. 00:04:12.860 --> 00:04:15.560 So, but I think you know what I mean. 00:04:15.560 --> 00:04:17.920 You know, we can develop certain tolerances of that. 00:04:18.060 --> 00:04:27.259 So, let's look at, so I think sometimes to combat these kind of mindsets or experiences we get with being comfortable with things that maybe we shouldn't be, 00:04:27.759 --> 00:04:30.160 the best way to combat that is with the Word of God. 00:04:30.600 --> 00:04:30.740 Okay? 00:04:30.740 --> 00:04:34.220 So, let's just look at a few verses on what the Word of God says about order. 00:04:35.060 --> 00:04:37.019 First one's in 1 Corinthians chapter 7. 00:04:37.379 --> 00:04:38.519 He's speaking of marriage. 00:04:38.699 --> 00:04:41.019 He's talking about multiple different scenarios of marriage. 00:04:41.019 --> 00:04:45.819 And in verse 35 in chapter 7, he gives the reason for why he's saying things. 00:04:45.879 --> 00:04:52.120 And he says, I say this to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord. 00:04:52.659 --> 00:04:52.899 Okay? 00:04:53.199 --> 00:05:01.259 And so there you see him esteeming as the reason of why he's giving his counsel this kind of overarching theme that's in the Scriptures 00:05:01.259 --> 00:05:02.599 and that's a part of the kingdom of God. 00:05:02.859 --> 00:05:04.620 And it's this, to promote good order. 00:05:05.039 --> 00:05:06.699 Like, that's a noble thing to do. 00:05:06.699 --> 00:05:10.360 We should seek to promote good order. 00:05:10.839 --> 00:05:16.259 And the things that we say to one another, just like Paul was saying to these guys in regards to marriage, 00:05:16.339 --> 00:05:20.699 he said, hey, the reason I'm saying this to you is to promote good order. 00:05:20.860 --> 00:05:23.939 So you can see that Paul's goal is to bring order. 00:05:25.459 --> 00:05:27.060 And we should seek to do the same. 00:05:27.879 --> 00:05:30.300 We should seek to bring and to promote good order. 00:05:31.819 --> 00:05:35.019 It's interesting, even the word that he uses there, promote good order. 00:05:35.019 --> 00:05:39.659 There are things, this is more than just bringing order in the moment. 00:05:40.019 --> 00:05:47.500 This is just a way of thinking, talking, viewing things that is conducive to or promotes good order. 00:05:47.759 --> 00:05:50.419 That's like a step further than just bringing order in the moment. 00:05:50.819 --> 00:05:58.859 It's actually having a way that you are thinking and a way that you are aiming, okay, that promotes good order. 00:05:59.299 --> 00:06:00.639 And so you've got to ask the question. 00:06:00.639 --> 00:06:08.439 Listen, we have sometimes, sometimes we look at our lives and we say, oh, man, I could use more order in this particular area. 00:06:08.599 --> 00:06:18.360 And you've got to ask the question, well, are the systems of my life that currently exist, are they promoting good order? 00:06:19.240 --> 00:06:20.659 Or are they promoting disorder? 00:06:20.660 --> 00:06:26.740 And so if you're aiming at order and you're saying, hey, I know I need to get more order in my life. 00:06:26.939 --> 00:06:28.120 I know I need to do this. 00:06:28.240 --> 00:06:29.439 Like this word is from the Lord. 00:06:30.520 --> 00:06:30.840 Guilty. 00:06:30.960 --> 00:06:31.420 Like I'm ready. 00:06:31.500 --> 00:06:32.040 Let's do this. 00:06:32.100 --> 00:06:33.000 Let's aim at this. 00:06:33.700 --> 00:06:37.140 But the systems that you've set up in your life are promoting disorder. 00:06:37.580 --> 00:06:39.420 You can have all the great intentions of the world. 00:06:39.580 --> 00:06:41.240 You're still going to end up in the same spot. 00:06:42.220 --> 00:06:45.400 That's why Paul says, hey, I say this to promote good order. 00:06:45.399 --> 00:06:52.539 In other words, he's saying there's ways of thinking, doing and saying that promote good order. 00:06:52.659 --> 00:06:53.719 And then there's ways that don't. 00:06:53.819 --> 00:07:02.319 And so you've got to ask the question, do I just have desires without the systems or plans in place that would promote good order? 00:07:02.779 --> 00:07:04.399 Because those two don't gel. 00:07:05.339 --> 00:07:06.379 You've got to have both. 00:07:06.620 --> 00:07:07.279 You've got to have both. 00:07:07.459 --> 00:07:07.599 Okay. 00:07:07.600 --> 00:07:13.520 Also in 1 Corinthians, in chapter 14, he's speaking of spiritual gifts. 00:07:14.260 --> 00:07:18.360 It says, verse 39, he says, so my brothers earnestly desire to prophesy. 00:07:18.580 --> 00:07:20.020 Do not forbid speaking in tongues. 00:07:20.340 --> 00:07:23.960 But all things should be done decently and in order. 00:07:24.520 --> 00:07:24.760 Right? 00:07:24.860 --> 00:07:25.240 In order. 00:07:25.900 --> 00:07:29.120 So here he's speaking of church meetings, gatherings. 00:07:29.120 --> 00:07:41.060 He's, and I don't know, I'm sure a lot of you, maybe even all of you, have been in meetings with the spiritual gifts being exercised that were disorderly. 00:07:41.600 --> 00:07:42.000 Okay? 00:07:42.100 --> 00:07:43.560 So we know what that looks like. 00:07:43.840 --> 00:07:45.220 A lot of us, maybe all of us. 00:07:45.939 --> 00:07:49.420 And he's saying, hey, do these things. 00:07:49.840 --> 00:07:51.480 Go after these things, but do them in order. 00:07:51.480 --> 00:08:00.220 Again, it's this kind of overarching value that is this apostolic order that keeps being hit by Paul that, hey, yes, do multiple things. 00:08:00.340 --> 00:08:04.500 Do a lot of things that could potentially be chaotic, but pay attention to order. 00:08:05.480 --> 00:08:06.460 Pay attention to order. 00:08:07.120 --> 00:08:11.020 He says all things should be done decently and in order. 00:08:11.680 --> 00:08:16.720 And what happens is the reason he's saying that is because, and you'll see this later in the chapter, 00:08:16.720 --> 00:08:21.820 is that when the spiritual gifts are used in order, people are edified. 00:08:22.920 --> 00:08:24.900 Edification is the result of order. 00:08:25.800 --> 00:08:25.940 Okay? 00:08:26.200 --> 00:08:30.520 When things are ordered in the right priority, when things are ordered in the sense that they're not chaotic, 00:08:30.640 --> 00:08:34.500 but they're used the way they were supposed to be used, there's edification. 00:08:35.300 --> 00:08:37.540 People are growing and they're being built up. 00:08:38.019 --> 00:08:39.540 And that's true of families as well. 00:08:40.519 --> 00:08:41.560 It's true of families as well. 00:08:41.680 --> 00:08:42.420 It's true of marriages. 00:08:42.639 --> 00:08:43.940 It's true of households. 00:08:44.779 --> 00:08:45.040 Okay? 00:08:46.720 --> 00:08:49.680 Colossians 2 verse 5. 00:08:50.879 --> 00:08:52.120 This is in the CSB. 00:08:52.620 --> 00:08:54.620 This is Paul writing to Colossians and he says, 00:08:55.220 --> 00:09:01.680 I may be absent in body, but I am with you in spirit, rejoicing to see how well ordered you are 00:09:01.680 --> 00:09:03.660 and the strength of your faith in Christ. 00:09:04.920 --> 00:09:05.100 Okay? 00:09:05.759 --> 00:09:08.759 Rejoicing to see how well ordered you are. 00:09:09.139 --> 00:09:10.820 So Paul is looking for someone. 00:09:11.660 --> 00:09:14.040 He's doing his apostolic travels. 00:09:14.040 --> 00:09:14.980 He's in and out. 00:09:15.060 --> 00:09:16.200 He comes to Colossians. 00:09:16.200 --> 00:09:18.040 He's going to be coming to them. 00:09:18.600 --> 00:09:25.640 And he's saying that I'm rejoicing to see how orderly you are. 00:09:25.700 --> 00:09:26.520 He's looking for something. 00:09:26.840 --> 00:09:27.400 What's he looking for? 00:09:27.440 --> 00:09:28.080 He's looking for order. 00:09:28.720 --> 00:09:29.680 And not just any order. 00:09:29.820 --> 00:09:32.200 He's saying, I'm rejoicing to see how orderly you are. 00:09:32.259 --> 00:09:34.140 Like this is something you should strive after. 00:09:34.440 --> 00:09:35.400 It increases sin. 00:09:35.800 --> 00:09:36.940 How orderly are you? 00:09:36.940 --> 00:09:40.880 How is order manifesting itself in your life together? 00:09:41.840 --> 00:09:43.860 I delight to see how orderly you are. 00:09:44.200 --> 00:09:45.500 How orderly are you? 00:09:46.380 --> 00:09:49.460 How orderly are you in all the areas of your life? 00:09:49.460 --> 00:09:52.220 Not just one. 00:09:52.300 --> 00:09:52.780 Not just two. 00:09:52.860 --> 00:09:54.280 But saying, hey, is there? 00:09:54.879 --> 00:09:58.160 And sometimes we can hide behind areas where we're really good at bringing order 00:09:58.160 --> 00:10:01.340 while being very deficient in other areas of order. 00:10:01.560 --> 00:10:02.680 And we think, I'm cool. 00:10:03.680 --> 00:10:04.460 I'm good. 00:10:04.920 --> 00:10:05.400 Right? 00:10:06.100 --> 00:10:07.539 But Paul says, I delight. 00:10:07.759 --> 00:10:10.939 I enjoy to see how orderly you are. 00:10:11.740 --> 00:10:12.779 We should do the same thing. 00:10:13.220 --> 00:10:17.100 We should delight to see how orderly our own homes are and how we should delight in the 00:10:17.100 --> 00:10:17.879 order of others. 00:10:18.019 --> 00:10:18.959 And we should help one another. 00:10:19.059 --> 00:10:19.919 We should challenge one another. 00:10:19.980 --> 00:10:20.980 We should encourage one another. 00:10:21.379 --> 00:10:22.419 And this is what Paul was doing. 00:10:23.039 --> 00:10:23.319 Right? 00:10:23.740 --> 00:10:29.480 He rejoiced to see how well-ordered they were and the strength of their faith in Christ. 00:10:30.360 --> 00:10:30.519 Right? 00:10:31.000 --> 00:10:32.319 And really those two go together. 00:10:32.740 --> 00:10:32.860 Okay? 00:10:33.600 --> 00:10:34.360 Well-ordered. 00:10:34.360 --> 00:10:36.899 The only way you're going to do that is through faith in Christ. 00:10:37.980 --> 00:10:42.700 Because one of the results of disorder is overwhelm-ness. 00:10:43.899 --> 00:10:44.019 Right? 00:10:44.600 --> 00:10:46.039 Disorder overwhelms. 00:10:46.639 --> 00:10:52.800 Oftentimes we say that, oh, that person's overwhelmed because of so much, because they 00:10:52.800 --> 00:10:53.800 have so much on their plate. 00:10:54.700 --> 00:10:55.879 Usually not true. 00:10:57.539 --> 00:11:00.000 Especially if all the things on the plate were from the Lord. 00:11:00.000 --> 00:11:08.240 Most often, the overwhelm-ness is not due to the amount on the plate, but the lack of order 00:11:08.240 --> 00:11:10.480 of the things on the plate. 00:11:11.980 --> 00:11:14.059 Disorder causes you to be overwhelmed. 00:11:14.200 --> 00:11:18.639 The more orderly your home is, the less overwhelmed the people in that home are. 00:11:19.399 --> 00:11:19.539 Okay? 00:11:20.200 --> 00:11:23.600 Disorder makes you feel this sense of you don't have peace. 00:11:23.740 --> 00:11:26.019 That's why the kingdom of God is righteousness, peace, and joy in the Holy Spirit. 00:11:26.419 --> 00:11:26.980 You don't have joy. 00:11:26.980 --> 00:11:27.759 You don't have peace. 00:11:28.639 --> 00:11:29.639 Things aren't right. 00:11:30.259 --> 00:11:31.720 Because they're not rightly ordered. 00:11:32.500 --> 00:11:32.659 Okay? 00:11:33.200 --> 00:11:36.019 And so, oftentimes, though, we can blame the amount of things we have. 00:11:36.320 --> 00:11:39.940 Like I said before, though, the problem is, a lot of times those things that are on your 00:11:39.940 --> 00:11:41.539 plate are actually ordained by the Lord. 00:11:42.680 --> 00:11:43.500 Like kids. 00:11:43.920 --> 00:11:46.100 You know, it's like, I can't handle these kids. 00:11:46.220 --> 00:11:46.460 Really? 00:11:46.460 --> 00:11:46.600 Really? 00:11:48.259 --> 00:11:51.960 Is God's, oh, is God's grace not sufficient when it comes to your kids? 00:11:52.519 --> 00:11:54.980 Is God's grace not sufficient when it comes to your finances? 00:11:55.200 --> 00:11:57.940 Is God's grace not sufficient when it comes to your marriage? 00:11:58.139 --> 00:12:01.860 Is God's grace not sufficient when it comes to your household, your job? 00:12:02.379 --> 00:12:03.420 Is God's grace not sufficient? 00:12:03.660 --> 00:12:04.060 Is it? 00:12:04.840 --> 00:12:06.480 But I got a lot of stuff on my plate. 00:12:06.840 --> 00:12:07.080 Yeah. 00:12:07.639 --> 00:12:08.220 You do. 00:12:08.960 --> 00:12:10.639 You do have a lot of stuff on your plate. 00:12:11.040 --> 00:12:13.960 Yeah, I look around the room and I see a lot of people with a lot of stuff on their plate. 00:12:13.960 --> 00:12:17.060 and sometimes I get overwhelmed for you. 00:12:19.300 --> 00:12:20.780 You know, I think, oh my gosh, 00:12:20.980 --> 00:12:21.940 it's not that long ago, 00:12:22.000 --> 00:12:23.420 Gene and I were in the same stage 00:12:23.420 --> 00:12:25.259 of raising up children 00:12:25.259 --> 00:12:27.780 and trying to balance all the other things 00:12:27.780 --> 00:12:29.540 and we had to do the same thing. 00:12:29.620 --> 00:12:30.820 We had to see, you know, 00:12:30.879 --> 00:12:33.220 people had to see how firm our faith was in Christ. 00:12:33.340 --> 00:12:34.759 Do we believe that his grace is sufficient? 00:12:35.480 --> 00:12:39.340 Do we believe that when we do things God's way, 00:12:39.340 --> 00:12:40.420 it brings God's order 00:12:40.420 --> 00:12:41.560 and when it brings God's order, 00:12:41.700 --> 00:12:42.639 it brings God's peace? 00:12:43.960 --> 00:12:44.700 Do we believe that? 00:12:45.440 --> 00:12:47.240 Which just releases more grace. 00:12:47.940 --> 00:12:49.759 It's hard to experience grace without peace. 00:12:50.160 --> 00:12:52.379 That's why you always hear the phrase grace and peace too. 00:12:52.879 --> 00:12:54.680 Those are kind of, they're hard to separate, right? 00:12:54.759 --> 00:12:56.519 How do you separate grace and peace? 00:12:56.759 --> 00:12:58.560 They very much go together, okay? 00:13:00.300 --> 00:13:03.040 So he says, rejoicing to see how well ordered you are. 00:13:04.060 --> 00:13:05.519 Titus chapter one, verse five. 00:13:06.700 --> 00:13:08.340 Here you have Paul encouraging Titus, 00:13:09.000 --> 00:13:10.940 who I believe is a young apostle, 00:13:10.940 --> 00:13:13.080 kind of a protege of Paul's, 00:13:13.360 --> 00:13:14.720 spiritual son of Paul's. 00:13:15.220 --> 00:13:17.060 He says, this is why I left you in Crete, 00:13:17.600 --> 00:13:21.320 so that you might put what remained in order, 00:13:21.620 --> 00:13:22.140 into order, 00:13:22.500 --> 00:13:24.000 and appoint elders in every town 00:13:24.000 --> 00:13:25.420 as I directed you. 00:13:28.420 --> 00:13:30.840 Put what remained into order, okay? 00:13:30.840 --> 00:13:35.780 So this is one of the jobs of the Apostle gifting. 00:13:36.240 --> 00:13:38.040 This is one of the jobs of elders, 00:13:38.540 --> 00:13:39.780 is they bring order. 00:13:40.399 --> 00:13:40.700 Why? 00:13:40.780 --> 00:13:41.879 Because they have authority, 00:13:42.360 --> 00:13:44.280 and authority is given to bring order. 00:13:44.500 --> 00:13:45.820 Authority is given to build up. 00:13:46.580 --> 00:13:50.480 And sometimes we waste our authority, okay? 00:13:51.040 --> 00:13:52.540 Sometimes we waste our authority. 00:13:53.180 --> 00:13:55.100 And sometimes we have unbelief around our authority. 00:13:55.460 --> 00:13:56.440 We don't realize, you know, 00:13:56.440 --> 00:13:57.740 oftentimes in marriage, 00:13:58.500 --> 00:14:00.160 when people are having marriage problems, 00:14:00.860 --> 00:14:03.220 people start to be tempted with different lies 00:14:03.220 --> 00:14:06.580 about being able to deal with their spouse. 00:14:07.320 --> 00:14:09.440 And one thing Gene and I will say oftentimes 00:14:09.440 --> 00:14:11.140 in counseling with married couples 00:14:11.140 --> 00:14:14.400 is that there's nobody on planet Earth 00:14:14.400 --> 00:14:16.540 who's more grace to deal with your spouse than you. 00:14:18.320 --> 00:14:19.580 And do you believe that? 00:14:20.260 --> 00:14:21.140 Do you believe that? 00:14:21.620 --> 00:14:22.660 Because when you believe it, 00:14:22.659 --> 00:14:25.120 it really changes things, okay? 00:14:25.860 --> 00:14:27.399 And, you know, I say that to husbands 00:14:27.399 --> 00:14:28.699 with their whole families, 00:14:28.819 --> 00:14:29.579 and it's just like, listen, 00:14:30.360 --> 00:14:31.179 you're the guy. 00:14:31.319 --> 00:14:32.839 You're the one God put in this family. 00:14:33.000 --> 00:14:33.679 Like, you didn't, 00:14:34.459 --> 00:14:35.860 God orchestrated this. 00:14:36.360 --> 00:14:38.240 Do you believe that you have more grace than anybody, 00:14:38.319 --> 00:14:39.719 that the authority that God gave you 00:14:39.719 --> 00:14:41.899 is to bring order and to build up your family? 00:14:42.000 --> 00:14:43.959 Like, we have to believe that. 00:14:44.799 --> 00:14:46.179 And Paul had this desire 00:14:46.179 --> 00:14:47.819 to put what remained into order, 00:14:48.120 --> 00:14:49.419 where there was disorder, 00:14:49.600 --> 00:14:50.419 where there was lacking, 00:14:50.419 --> 00:14:52.799 the authority needed to bring things into order. 00:14:53.719 --> 00:14:54.620 He said, hey, 00:14:55.259 --> 00:14:58.139 put what remained into order. 00:14:58.919 --> 00:15:00.639 It's interesting, even right now, 00:15:00.699 --> 00:15:02.039 in our political situation, 00:15:02.659 --> 00:15:04.639 the difference between leaders 00:15:04.639 --> 00:15:07.979 and how leadership styles bring order 00:15:07.979 --> 00:15:09.899 or bring disorder, right? 00:15:10.379 --> 00:15:11.279 We've experienced, 00:15:12.559 --> 00:15:14.079 there's multiple different leaders 00:15:14.079 --> 00:15:15.179 over the years who've brought, 00:15:16.000 --> 00:15:18.159 bad leaders bring more disorder. 00:15:18.159 --> 00:15:19.579 Bad leaders, 00:15:19.699 --> 00:15:20.379 whether they're political, 00:15:21.120 --> 00:15:22.759 whether they're spiritual leaders, 00:15:22.879 --> 00:15:23.839 whether they're family leaders, 00:15:24.219 --> 00:15:25.039 business leaders, 00:15:25.500 --> 00:15:26.480 when leaders are bad, 00:15:26.579 --> 00:15:27.819 it just brings more disorder 00:15:27.819 --> 00:15:28.399 and it makes, 00:15:28.559 --> 00:15:29.679 it robs people of peace. 00:15:29.779 --> 00:15:32.399 But when leaders are strong 00:15:32.399 --> 00:15:34.799 and they bring good leadership, 00:15:35.299 --> 00:15:36.059 it brings order. 00:15:36.939 --> 00:15:37.439 And Paul's saying, 00:15:37.500 --> 00:15:37.879 hey, I gotta, 00:15:38.219 --> 00:15:39.939 I wanna put what remains into order, 00:15:40.100 --> 00:15:41.379 so go appoint elders 00:15:41.379 --> 00:15:42.559 in all these different cities. 00:15:42.559 --> 00:15:45.879 One more verse 00:15:45.879 --> 00:15:47.759 when it comes to biblical value for order. 00:15:48.979 --> 00:15:50.019 One of my favorite verses 00:15:50.019 --> 00:15:51.500 is 1 Samuel 2, 00:15:51.819 --> 00:15:52.899 verse 30. 00:15:53.599 --> 00:15:54.959 There's this amazing statement 00:15:54.959 --> 00:15:55.659 that says, 00:15:56.199 --> 00:15:56.419 those who, 00:15:56.519 --> 00:15:57.239 God is saying, 00:15:57.359 --> 00:15:58.299 those who honor me, 00:15:58.419 --> 00:15:59.119 I will honor. 00:16:00.279 --> 00:16:01.439 Those who honor me, 00:16:01.559 --> 00:16:02.239 I will honor. 00:16:03.039 --> 00:16:03.699 And to me, 00:16:03.799 --> 00:16:05.199 that's a verse about order. 00:16:05.279 --> 00:16:05.619 You might say, 00:16:05.639 --> 00:16:06.719 well, he's not talking about order there. 00:16:06.779 --> 00:16:07.059 And I'm thinking, 00:16:07.119 --> 00:16:07.899 well, I think he is. 00:16:09.099 --> 00:16:09.919 So he's basically saying, 00:16:09.919 --> 00:16:10.879 if you honor me 00:16:10.879 --> 00:16:12.659 in the way that things are supposed to be, 00:16:13.000 --> 00:16:14.259 I will honor you. 00:16:14.599 --> 00:16:15.740 That just begs 00:16:15.740 --> 00:16:17.179 such a great question to me. 00:16:17.519 --> 00:16:17.799 And that is, 00:16:17.879 --> 00:16:18.519 what does it look like 00:16:18.519 --> 00:16:19.500 when God honors you? 00:16:21.079 --> 00:16:22.159 Have you ever thought about that? 00:16:22.759 --> 00:16:24.419 And I think it's righteousness, 00:16:24.759 --> 00:16:25.939 peace, and joy in the Holy Spirit. 00:16:26.079 --> 00:16:27.839 I think it's order. 00:16:28.620 --> 00:16:29.139 When you say, 00:16:29.199 --> 00:16:29.419 God, 00:16:29.740 --> 00:16:31.719 I'm going to pay attention 00:16:31.719 --> 00:16:33.279 to what you esteem. 00:16:33.579 --> 00:16:34.839 I am going to esteem 00:16:34.839 --> 00:16:35.620 what you esteem. 00:16:35.860 --> 00:16:37.539 I'm gonna aim at what you esteem. 00:16:37.759 --> 00:16:38.779 I'm going to honor you. 00:16:38.779 --> 00:16:39.879 And I know 00:16:39.879 --> 00:16:40.899 that I have this promise 00:16:40.899 --> 00:16:42.740 that if I honor you, 00:16:42.919 --> 00:16:44.039 you're gonna honor me. 00:16:44.179 --> 00:16:45.579 And that brings a sense 00:16:45.579 --> 00:16:46.539 of peace and order 00:16:46.539 --> 00:16:48.639 that like nothing else. 00:16:49.000 --> 00:16:49.899 It's a difference 00:16:49.899 --> 00:16:51.039 between us as Christians 00:16:51.039 --> 00:16:52.279 and everyone else in the world. 00:16:52.639 --> 00:16:53.959 We have this God 00:16:53.959 --> 00:16:56.399 who cares so deeply about us 00:16:56.399 --> 00:16:58.639 that he makes a statement like this. 00:16:59.259 --> 00:17:01.199 That's an amazing statement to me. 00:17:01.379 --> 00:17:02.419 I love that statement. 00:17:02.519 --> 00:17:03.139 On the flip side, 00:17:03.220 --> 00:17:03.819 it also says, 00:17:03.919 --> 00:17:06.200 if you don't honor me, 00:17:06.259 --> 00:17:07.319 then I'll disregard you. 00:17:07.319 --> 00:17:08.599 So there's a sense of like, 00:17:08.659 --> 00:17:08.819 hey, 00:17:08.960 --> 00:17:10.379 you have to pay attention 00:17:10.379 --> 00:17:11.240 to what God wants. 00:17:11.339 --> 00:17:12.299 You have to pay attention 00:17:12.299 --> 00:17:12.980 to what is right 00:17:12.980 --> 00:17:14.639 and godly and esteemed. 00:17:15.220 --> 00:17:16.399 And he promises, 00:17:16.639 --> 00:17:17.339 if you do this, 00:17:17.819 --> 00:17:18.740 I'll honor you in there. 00:17:19.659 --> 00:17:19.899 Okay? 00:17:20.879 --> 00:17:21.279 So, 00:17:21.700 --> 00:17:22.460 I hope that gives 00:17:22.460 --> 00:17:23.179 kind of more of just 00:17:23.179 --> 00:17:25.460 a broad kind of thematic value 00:17:25.460 --> 00:17:26.720 for order in the scriptures. 00:17:26.879 --> 00:17:27.759 I think that's 00:17:27.759 --> 00:17:28.500 just something 00:17:28.500 --> 00:17:29.279 that's in the Bible 00:17:29.279 --> 00:17:30.439 that we should esteem. 00:17:30.599 --> 00:17:31.419 And some of us 00:17:31.419 --> 00:17:33.879 need to esteem it 00:17:33.879 --> 00:17:34.579 more than others. 00:17:34.579 --> 00:17:35.159 Okay? 00:17:35.240 --> 00:17:36.339 Some of us 00:17:36.339 --> 00:17:37.439 have maybe gotten 00:17:37.439 --> 00:17:38.799 too used to disorder 00:17:38.799 --> 00:17:39.519 and chaos 00:17:39.519 --> 00:17:41.099 and we need to 00:17:41.099 --> 00:17:44.599 get things in order. 00:17:45.259 --> 00:17:45.679 I believe God's 00:17:45.679 --> 00:17:46.379 putting his finger on that. 00:17:46.419 --> 00:17:47.059 He gave us that word 00:17:47.059 --> 00:17:47.659 for a reason. 00:17:48.259 --> 00:17:49.279 And the truth is, 00:17:49.919 --> 00:17:52.899 there's certain aspects 00:17:52.899 --> 00:17:53.899 of our life 00:17:53.899 --> 00:17:54.819 where 00:17:54.819 --> 00:17:56.960 it's a lot more, 00:17:57.279 --> 00:17:58.480 disorder is a lot more 00:17:58.480 --> 00:17:59.099 consequential 00:17:59.099 --> 00:17:59.819 than other times. 00:18:00.419 --> 00:18:00.859 Okay? 00:18:00.859 --> 00:18:02.819 And really, 00:18:02.939 --> 00:18:03.939 where that really comes true 00:18:03.939 --> 00:18:05.059 is getting it right 00:18:05.059 --> 00:18:05.719 on the front end 00:18:05.719 --> 00:18:06.419 is really helpful 00:18:06.419 --> 00:18:07.119 on the back end. 00:18:08.639 --> 00:18:09.899 Especially in, 00:18:10.559 --> 00:18:10.819 I mean, 00:18:10.819 --> 00:18:11.500 just about everything. 00:18:11.679 --> 00:18:11.819 Like, 00:18:11.839 --> 00:18:12.519 if you get things 00:18:12.519 --> 00:18:13.899 in order on the front end, 00:18:14.219 --> 00:18:15.059 it's going to bear fruit 00:18:15.059 --> 00:18:15.679 on the back end. 00:18:15.740 --> 00:18:16.919 If you wait to bring order, 00:18:17.379 --> 00:18:18.259 the back end becomes 00:18:18.259 --> 00:18:19.099 a lot more difficult. 00:18:20.219 --> 00:18:20.479 I mean, 00:18:20.500 --> 00:18:21.079 have you ever said, 00:18:21.139 --> 00:18:21.259 man, 00:18:21.279 --> 00:18:21.859 I wish we would have 00:18:21.859 --> 00:18:22.579 brought more order 00:18:22.579 --> 00:18:23.559 to this before? 00:18:24.519 --> 00:18:25.139 Wish we would have 00:18:25.139 --> 00:18:25.819 brought more order 00:18:25.819 --> 00:18:26.879 to our kids before. 00:18:27.000 --> 00:18:27.359 Wish we would have, 00:18:27.599 --> 00:18:28.219 now they're older 00:18:28.219 --> 00:18:28.699 and it's like, 00:18:28.819 --> 00:18:29.500 and we had more 00:18:29.500 --> 00:18:30.139 and it's crazy. 00:18:31.060 --> 00:18:31.640 Wish we would have 00:18:31.640 --> 00:18:32.259 brought more order 00:18:32.259 --> 00:18:33.220 to our marriage before 00:18:33.220 --> 00:18:34.020 because we've developed 00:18:34.020 --> 00:18:35.160 some really bad habits. 00:18:35.900 --> 00:18:36.460 I wish we would have 00:18:36.460 --> 00:18:37.180 brought more order 00:18:37.180 --> 00:18:38.380 to our finances before 00:18:38.380 --> 00:18:39.120 because now we're 00:18:39.120 --> 00:18:40.640 in this kind of pit 00:18:40.640 --> 00:18:42.020 and we're digging 00:18:42.020 --> 00:18:42.640 ourselves out. 00:18:42.700 --> 00:18:43.180 But if we would have 00:18:43.180 --> 00:18:43.820 paid attention 00:18:43.820 --> 00:18:44.480 to this earlier, 00:18:44.700 --> 00:18:45.400 it would have been 00:18:45.400 --> 00:18:45.960 a lot easier. 00:18:46.240 --> 00:18:46.640 And so, 00:18:47.520 --> 00:18:49.000 I'm not saying that 00:18:49.000 --> 00:18:49.700 to condemn anyone 00:18:49.700 --> 00:18:50.460 who feels like you're 00:18:50.460 --> 00:18:51.259 in one of those pits. 00:18:51.759 --> 00:18:51.940 Okay? 00:18:52.000 --> 00:18:52.940 Or maybe a couple of them. 00:18:54.220 --> 00:18:54.580 But, 00:18:54.920 --> 00:18:55.740 let it be a lesson 00:18:55.740 --> 00:18:57.120 that when you pay 00:18:57.120 --> 00:18:57.860 attention to order 00:18:57.860 --> 00:18:58.600 on the front end, 00:18:58.599 --> 00:18:59.599 it bears fruit 00:18:59.599 --> 00:19:00.480 down the road. 00:19:00.939 --> 00:19:01.480 And that's why, 00:19:01.679 --> 00:19:02.359 and sometimes 00:19:02.359 --> 00:19:03.819 it's hard to have 00:19:03.819 --> 00:19:04.719 the value for it 00:19:04.719 --> 00:19:05.679 because a lot of times 00:19:05.679 --> 00:19:06.319 it's not immediate 00:19:06.319 --> 00:19:07.079 gratification. 00:19:09.079 --> 00:19:09.519 It's, 00:19:09.679 --> 00:19:10.139 and we love 00:19:10.139 --> 00:19:11.139 immediate gratification. 00:19:11.519 --> 00:19:12.379 But some things 00:19:12.379 --> 00:19:13.359 when it comes to order 00:19:13.359 --> 00:19:13.679 are, 00:19:14.000 --> 00:19:14.599 you won't bear 00:19:14.599 --> 00:19:15.219 the fruit of it 00:19:15.219 --> 00:19:16.579 until a long time after. 00:19:17.519 --> 00:19:18.039 You know, 00:19:18.079 --> 00:19:19.299 like I was saying 00:19:19.299 --> 00:19:20.399 this to Bellicose 00:19:20.399 --> 00:19:20.959 last week, 00:19:21.019 --> 00:19:21.179 you know, 00:19:21.219 --> 00:19:22.500 I love it when people say, 00:19:22.980 --> 00:19:23.059 hey, 00:19:23.099 --> 00:19:23.799 I tried spanking 00:19:23.799 --> 00:19:24.639 and it didn't work. 00:19:24.700 --> 00:19:24.919 I'm like, 00:19:24.960 --> 00:19:25.759 how old is your kid? 00:19:25.960 --> 00:19:26.720 My kid's three. 00:19:26.799 --> 00:19:27.000 I'm like, 00:19:27.019 --> 00:19:27.119 well, 00:19:27.119 --> 00:19:27.980 you're not done yet. 00:19:28.639 --> 00:19:28.960 Like, 00:19:29.019 --> 00:19:29.399 what do you, 00:19:29.460 --> 00:19:29.799 what do you mean 00:19:29.799 --> 00:19:30.319 you tried it 00:19:30.319 --> 00:19:30.799 and didn't work? 00:19:30.839 --> 00:19:31.579 You're not done. 00:19:32.500 --> 00:19:33.099 And it's like, 00:19:33.159 --> 00:19:33.299 well, 00:19:33.339 --> 00:19:33.960 I've been doing it 00:19:33.960 --> 00:19:34.539 for a while now. 00:19:34.559 --> 00:19:35.440 It's just not working. 00:19:35.619 --> 00:19:36.059 And it's like, 00:19:36.139 --> 00:19:36.299 well, 00:19:36.799 --> 00:19:38.559 you're on the front end 00:19:38.559 --> 00:19:39.079 of this thing. 00:19:39.139 --> 00:19:39.980 You got to keep going. 00:19:40.279 --> 00:19:41.659 You got years left 00:19:41.659 --> 00:19:42.200 of this. 00:19:43.079 --> 00:19:44.220 You just got to be consistent 00:19:44.220 --> 00:19:45.180 and it will bear fruit. 00:19:45.299 --> 00:19:45.419 Why? 00:19:45.500 --> 00:19:46.460 Because it's God's ways. 00:19:47.139 --> 00:19:48.079 It's God's ways. 00:19:48.740 --> 00:19:49.000 And so, 00:19:49.299 --> 00:19:50.059 don't let disorder 00:19:50.059 --> 00:19:50.899 come into your house 00:19:50.900 --> 00:19:52.060 because you lack faith 00:19:52.060 --> 00:19:53.640 in the ways of God 00:19:53.640 --> 00:19:54.500 and in the principles 00:19:54.500 --> 00:19:55.480 that God has set forth 00:19:55.480 --> 00:19:56.100 as priority. 00:19:57.700 --> 00:19:58.100 So, 00:19:58.180 --> 00:19:58.800 one of the things 00:19:58.800 --> 00:20:00.100 I think that is most important 00:20:00.100 --> 00:20:00.940 when it comes to order 00:20:00.940 --> 00:20:02.200 is this dynamic 00:20:02.200 --> 00:20:03.560 of household priority. 00:20:04.200 --> 00:20:04.380 Okay? 00:20:04.480 --> 00:20:05.140 And I'm going to look at it 00:20:05.140 --> 00:20:07.220 in 1 Timothy chapter 3 00:20:07.220 --> 00:20:08.460 and then chapter 5. 00:20:08.540 --> 00:20:08.980 But we'll start 00:20:08.980 --> 00:20:10.300 in 1 Timothy chapter 3. 00:20:13.900 --> 00:20:15.420 Can I get my water? 00:20:17.700 --> 00:20:19.200 1 Timothy chapter 3 00:20:19.200 --> 00:20:20.940 verses 4 through 5. 00:20:21.059 --> 00:20:21.440 It's talking about 00:20:21.440 --> 00:20:22.799 the qualifications 00:20:22.799 --> 00:20:23.400 of an elder. 00:20:27.980 --> 00:20:28.799 And it says, 00:20:30.240 --> 00:20:31.059 He must manage 00:20:31.059 --> 00:20:33.680 his own household well 00:20:33.680 --> 00:20:34.980 with all dignity 00:20:34.980 --> 00:20:35.799 keeping his children 00:20:35.799 --> 00:20:36.559 submissive. 00:20:37.080 --> 00:20:37.600 For if someone 00:20:37.600 --> 00:20:38.080 does not know 00:20:38.080 --> 00:20:38.559 how to manage 00:20:38.559 --> 00:20:39.480 his own household, 00:20:39.720 --> 00:20:40.720 how will he care 00:20:40.720 --> 00:20:41.600 for God's church? 00:20:41.940 --> 00:20:42.180 So, 00:20:42.279 --> 00:20:43.039 here you have an order. 00:20:43.420 --> 00:20:43.600 Right? 00:20:44.120 --> 00:20:44.440 He says, 00:20:44.500 --> 00:20:44.799 if you don't know 00:20:44.799 --> 00:20:45.299 how to manage 00:20:45.299 --> 00:20:45.880 your own household, 00:20:46.039 --> 00:20:46.680 how will you handle 00:20:46.680 --> 00:20:47.200 the church? 00:20:47.660 --> 00:20:48.059 We're talking 00:20:48.059 --> 00:20:48.960 order priority. 00:20:49.200 --> 00:20:49.720 First, 00:20:49.860 --> 00:20:50.880 start with your own household. 00:20:51.720 --> 00:20:51.860 Okay? 00:20:52.059 --> 00:20:52.400 Verse 4, 00:20:52.400 --> 00:20:53.000 right there in the beginning 00:20:53.000 --> 00:20:53.240 he said, 00:20:53.299 --> 00:20:53.860 He must manage 00:20:53.860 --> 00:20:55.720 his own household well. 00:20:56.840 --> 00:20:57.299 But he's talking 00:20:57.299 --> 00:20:58.100 about two households. 00:20:58.559 --> 00:20:59.319 Household of God 00:20:59.319 --> 00:21:00.640 and their own household. 00:21:01.039 --> 00:21:01.920 The priority 00:21:01.920 --> 00:21:03.259 is their own household. 00:21:03.720 --> 00:21:04.480 And this is where 00:21:04.480 --> 00:21:05.000 I'm talking about 00:21:05.000 --> 00:21:05.759 on the front end 00:21:05.759 --> 00:21:06.480 and the back end. 00:21:06.539 --> 00:21:07.220 On the front end, 00:21:07.279 --> 00:21:08.180 it's your own household. 00:21:08.500 --> 00:21:09.259 On the back end, 00:21:09.319 --> 00:21:10.480 it's fruit in the household 00:21:10.480 --> 00:21:11.000 of God. 00:21:11.360 --> 00:21:12.620 But you've got to start here. 00:21:12.619 --> 00:21:15.299 I've got to say, 00:21:15.359 --> 00:21:15.739 one of the most 00:21:15.739 --> 00:21:16.799 neglected things 00:21:16.799 --> 00:21:18.739 in the order of priority 00:21:18.739 --> 00:21:19.439 in the church, 00:21:19.539 --> 00:21:20.379 especially when it comes 00:21:20.379 --> 00:21:20.859 to leadership, 00:21:21.379 --> 00:21:23.079 is this priority order 00:21:23.079 --> 00:21:23.679 of household. 00:21:25.119 --> 00:21:25.519 Why? 00:21:26.319 --> 00:21:27.579 It's so straightforward 00:21:27.579 --> 00:21:28.199 in the scriptures 00:21:28.199 --> 00:21:29.299 and yet so often 00:21:29.299 --> 00:21:30.259 we think, 00:21:30.339 --> 00:21:30.739 oh no, 00:21:31.099 --> 00:21:32.500 I just got to keep ministering. 00:21:32.539 --> 00:21:33.259 I just got to be 00:21:33.259 --> 00:21:33.979 a minister 00:21:33.979 --> 00:21:34.859 while my family 00:21:34.859 --> 00:21:35.939 and my own household 00:21:35.939 --> 00:21:37.199 is not in order. 00:21:37.200 --> 00:21:38.480 And why in the world 00:21:38.480 --> 00:21:39.380 do I think I can bring 00:21:39.380 --> 00:21:40.720 a household into the church 00:21:40.720 --> 00:21:41.539 if I can't bring it 00:21:41.539 --> 00:21:42.319 into my own home? 00:21:43.160 --> 00:21:44.539 Why do we think that? 00:21:44.980 --> 00:21:46.059 If you think that, 00:21:46.240 --> 00:21:46.759 stop. 00:21:47.440 --> 00:21:48.420 Please, stop. 00:21:48.819 --> 00:21:49.640 It's wrong. 00:21:50.259 --> 00:21:51.120 It's unbiblical. 00:21:51.840 --> 00:21:52.299 If you're living 00:21:52.299 --> 00:21:53.720 in some kind of delusion, 00:21:54.400 --> 00:21:55.480 that's not how 00:21:55.480 --> 00:21:56.559 God's kingdom works. 00:21:56.720 --> 00:21:57.779 You have to get 00:21:57.779 --> 00:21:58.940 your household. 00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:00.480 And then when you, 00:22:00.640 --> 00:22:01.059 when you're, 00:22:01.160 --> 00:22:02.220 that's the training ground. 00:22:02.299 --> 00:22:04.080 That is the microcosm 00:22:04.080 --> 00:22:05.059 of the bigger. 00:22:05.180 --> 00:22:06.620 Like when you can handle that, 00:22:06.619 --> 00:22:07.459 it will, 00:22:07.579 --> 00:22:09.419 it will do wonders 00:22:09.419 --> 00:22:10.259 beyond that. 00:22:11.779 --> 00:22:13.099 But what ends up happening 00:22:13.099 --> 00:22:14.039 is we end up putting 00:22:14.039 --> 00:22:15.799 a disproportionate time 00:22:15.799 --> 00:22:16.779 into the church 00:22:16.779 --> 00:22:18.119 without being able 00:22:18.119 --> 00:22:19.119 to manage our own family. 00:22:19.239 --> 00:22:19.399 Now, 00:22:19.599 --> 00:22:20.319 I'm not telling you 00:22:20.319 --> 00:22:21.019 about one or the other. 00:22:21.179 --> 00:22:22.039 We do both in the, 00:22:22.099 --> 00:22:22.759 but we do both 00:22:22.759 --> 00:22:23.479 in the right order. 00:22:23.979 --> 00:22:24.919 And that's the problem. 00:22:25.019 --> 00:22:25.979 Sometimes we go to extremes. 00:22:26.099 --> 00:22:26.579 Some people are like, 00:22:26.619 --> 00:22:27.539 oh, I'm all in on the church 00:22:27.539 --> 00:22:28.639 but I neglect my family. 00:22:29.000 --> 00:22:29.959 And so then to correct, 00:22:29.959 --> 00:22:31.419 people go all in on their family 00:22:31.419 --> 00:22:32.379 and neglect the church. 00:22:32.559 --> 00:22:33.579 No, it's both 00:22:33.579 --> 00:22:34.559 but in the right order. 00:22:34.559 --> 00:22:37.259 Don't go to extremes. 00:22:37.799 --> 00:22:38.579 Just do right, 00:22:38.700 --> 00:22:39.480 both in the right order. 00:22:39.559 --> 00:22:40.319 And you've got to start 00:22:40.319 --> 00:22:41.220 with your own household. 00:22:42.079 --> 00:22:43.179 There's a reason he says 00:22:43.179 --> 00:22:43.940 this is a qualification 00:22:43.940 --> 00:22:44.599 for an elder 00:22:44.599 --> 00:22:46.740 because if someone doesn't know 00:22:46.740 --> 00:22:47.359 how to manage 00:22:47.359 --> 00:22:48.099 his own household, 00:22:48.579 --> 00:22:50.179 how will he care 00:22:50.179 --> 00:22:51.079 for God's church? 00:22:51.720 --> 00:22:53.319 Goes out in 1 Timothy 3, 00:22:53.359 --> 00:22:53.859 verse 12 00:22:53.859 --> 00:22:54.940 and he talks about deacons. 00:22:55.200 --> 00:22:56.460 And he says a similar thing. 00:22:56.519 --> 00:22:56.779 He says, 00:22:56.779 --> 00:22:57.799 let deacons each be 00:22:57.799 --> 00:22:58.819 the husband of one wife 00:22:58.819 --> 00:23:00.519 managing their children 00:23:00.519 --> 00:23:03.279 and their own households well. 00:23:03.940 --> 00:23:04.899 Do you manage 00:23:04.899 --> 00:23:05.940 your own households well? 00:23:06.619 --> 00:23:07.639 Are you managing it well? 00:23:08.000 --> 00:23:08.799 And if you're not, 00:23:08.879 --> 00:23:10.039 are you honest about it? 00:23:10.359 --> 00:23:11.139 Because if you don't 00:23:11.139 --> 00:23:12.099 get in the light on it, 00:23:12.160 --> 00:23:13.639 like Zemir was talking about 00:23:13.639 --> 00:23:14.299 when we shared 00:23:14.299 --> 00:23:15.279 the Lord's table together, 00:23:15.639 --> 00:23:16.759 if we don't get 00:23:16.759 --> 00:23:17.779 in the light on that, 00:23:18.779 --> 00:23:20.839 we have no fellowship. 00:23:21.940 --> 00:23:22.740 We're not going to have 00:23:22.740 --> 00:23:23.279 any growth. 00:23:23.279 --> 00:23:25.059 We got to get in the light 00:23:25.059 --> 00:23:25.960 in those areas where, 00:23:26.119 --> 00:23:27.519 hey, I, yeah, 00:23:27.720 --> 00:23:29.079 there's areas in my household 00:23:29.079 --> 00:23:29.759 that aren't in order 00:23:29.759 --> 00:23:31.420 and this shouldn't be a secret. 00:23:31.759 --> 00:23:32.920 Why am I hiding these things? 00:23:32.980 --> 00:23:33.599 I need help. 00:23:34.079 --> 00:23:34.899 I need love. 00:23:34.960 --> 00:23:35.619 I need fellowship. 00:23:37.660 --> 00:23:39.500 He goes on in 1 Timothy 5 00:23:39.500 --> 00:23:41.339 and he's talking about widows. 00:23:41.759 --> 00:23:43.940 But you see the same concept 00:23:43.940 --> 00:23:45.359 of household priority. 00:23:46.119 --> 00:23:47.579 1 Timothy 5, verse 4. 00:23:48.740 --> 00:23:50.299 If a widow has children 00:23:50.299 --> 00:23:51.180 or grandchildren, 00:23:51.180 --> 00:23:53.279 let them first learn 00:23:53.279 --> 00:23:54.180 to show godliness 00:23:54.180 --> 00:23:55.160 to their what? 00:23:55.460 --> 00:23:56.460 Their own household. 00:23:58.620 --> 00:23:59.580 You see in this, 00:23:59.580 --> 00:24:01.539 it's thematic here. 00:24:02.360 --> 00:24:03.460 Let them first learn 00:24:03.460 --> 00:24:04.180 to show godliness 00:24:04.180 --> 00:24:05.140 to their own household 00:24:05.140 --> 00:24:06.560 and to make some return 00:24:06.560 --> 00:24:07.320 to their parents 00:24:07.320 --> 00:24:08.940 for this is pleasing 00:24:08.940 --> 00:24:09.880 in the sight of God. 00:24:10.560 --> 00:24:11.420 She who is truly a widow 00:24:11.420 --> 00:24:12.180 left all alone 00:24:12.180 --> 00:24:13.299 has set her hope on God 00:24:13.299 --> 00:24:15.140 and continues in supplications 00:24:15.140 --> 00:24:16.220 and prayers night and day. 00:24:16.560 --> 00:24:18.019 But she who is self-indulgent 00:24:18.019 --> 00:24:19.580 is dead even while she lives. 00:24:19.579 --> 00:24:21.279 Command these things as well 00:24:21.279 --> 00:24:24.159 so that they may be without reproach. 00:24:24.359 --> 00:24:24.779 Verse 8. 00:24:24.859 --> 00:24:26.179 But if anyone does not provide 00:24:26.179 --> 00:24:27.099 for his relatives 00:24:27.099 --> 00:24:29.159 and especially for members 00:24:29.159 --> 00:24:31.199 of his own household, 00:24:31.960 --> 00:24:33.500 he has denied the faith 00:24:33.500 --> 00:24:34.839 and is worse than an unbeliever. 00:24:35.379 --> 00:24:37.039 Some pretty strong language there. 00:24:38.439 --> 00:24:39.079 Why would the Bible, 00:24:39.240 --> 00:24:40.279 doesn't that seem a little extreme? 00:24:41.000 --> 00:24:42.079 Denied the faith 00:24:42.079 --> 00:24:43.679 and is worse than an unbeliever? 00:24:44.899 --> 00:24:45.259 I mean, 00:24:45.859 --> 00:24:46.899 doesn't that kind of feel 00:24:46.899 --> 00:24:47.759 like a little out of place? 00:24:47.759 --> 00:24:48.019 Like, 00:24:48.299 --> 00:24:49.420 we would kind of cruise him along 00:24:49.420 --> 00:24:50.579 there good talking about widows 00:24:50.579 --> 00:24:51.440 and then he just throws 00:24:51.440 --> 00:24:52.480 that bomb in there? 00:24:53.079 --> 00:24:53.559 It's just like, 00:24:53.619 --> 00:24:53.759 hey, 00:24:53.879 --> 00:24:54.220 just say, 00:24:54.299 --> 00:24:54.460 oh, 00:24:54.519 --> 00:24:55.559 if you don't take care of, 00:24:56.039 --> 00:24:56.720 if you don't take care 00:24:56.720 --> 00:24:57.400 of the members of your household, 00:24:57.900 --> 00:24:59.000 you've denied the faith 00:24:59.000 --> 00:25:00.279 and are worse than an unbeliever. 00:25:00.379 --> 00:25:00.640 It's like, 00:25:00.759 --> 00:25:01.079 whoa, 00:25:01.299 --> 00:25:02.700 where did that come from? 00:25:03.920 --> 00:25:04.940 We should take notice. 00:25:05.539 --> 00:25:06.619 This is serious. 00:25:07.480 --> 00:25:08.500 This is serious. 00:25:09.420 --> 00:25:10.460 If anyone does not provide 00:25:10.460 --> 00:25:10.980 for his relatives, 00:25:11.259 --> 00:25:12.700 especially for members 00:25:12.700 --> 00:25:13.759 of his household, 00:25:14.259 --> 00:25:15.379 God cares about 00:25:15.379 --> 00:25:16.579 the divine priority 00:25:16.579 --> 00:25:17.339 of household. 00:25:19.359 --> 00:25:20.079 He has denied the faith 00:25:20.079 --> 00:25:20.759 and is worse than an unbeliever. 00:25:20.819 --> 00:25:21.220 Verse 9, 00:25:21.279 --> 00:25:22.159 let a widow be enrolled 00:25:22.159 --> 00:25:23.159 if she is not less than 00:25:23.159 --> 00:25:24.139 six years of age, 00:25:24.599 --> 00:25:25.240 have been the wife 00:25:25.240 --> 00:25:25.859 of one husband 00:25:25.859 --> 00:25:26.699 and having a reputation 00:25:26.699 --> 00:25:27.759 for good works. 00:25:28.740 --> 00:25:29.939 She has brought up children, 00:25:30.099 --> 00:25:31.159 has shown hospitality, 00:25:31.699 --> 00:25:32.480 has washed the feet 00:25:32.480 --> 00:25:33.039 of the saints, 00:25:33.159 --> 00:25:34.399 has cared for the afflicted, 00:25:34.579 --> 00:25:35.639 has devoted herself 00:25:35.639 --> 00:25:36.759 to every good work, 00:25:37.720 --> 00:25:40.099 but refused to enroll 00:25:40.099 --> 00:25:41.759 younger widows 00:25:41.759 --> 00:25:42.579 for when their passions 00:25:42.579 --> 00:25:43.819 draw them away from Christ, 00:25:44.299 --> 00:25:44.960 they desire to marry 00:25:44.960 --> 00:25:46.720 and so incur condemnation 00:25:46.720 --> 00:25:47.900 for having abandoned 00:25:47.900 --> 00:25:48.700 their former faith. 00:25:49.160 --> 00:25:49.619 Besides that, 00:25:49.660 --> 00:25:50.480 they learn to be idlers, 00:25:50.879 --> 00:25:52.279 going about from house to house, 00:25:52.359 --> 00:25:53.079 not only idlers, 00:25:53.220 --> 00:25:54.059 but also gossips 00:25:54.059 --> 00:25:54.900 and busybodies 00:25:54.900 --> 00:25:56.559 saying what they should not. 00:25:57.339 --> 00:25:58.519 So then in verse 14, 00:25:58.599 --> 00:25:59.259 he brings this all 00:25:59.259 --> 00:25:59.859 to conclusion. 00:26:00.019 --> 00:26:00.740 What does he say? 00:26:00.740 --> 00:26:03.700 So I would have younger widows 00:26:03.700 --> 00:26:04.599 marry, 00:26:05.059 --> 00:26:05.799 bear children, 00:26:06.180 --> 00:26:08.839 and manage their households 00:26:08.839 --> 00:26:11.299 and give the adversary 00:26:11.299 --> 00:26:12.680 no occasion for slander 00:26:12.680 --> 00:26:13.559 for some have already 00:26:13.559 --> 00:26:14.500 strayed after Satan. 00:26:15.079 --> 00:26:16.539 If any believing woman 00:26:16.539 --> 00:26:18.180 has relatives who are widows, 00:26:18.680 --> 00:26:20.140 let her care for them. 00:26:21.079 --> 00:26:22.680 Let the church not be burdened 00:26:22.680 --> 00:26:23.359 so that it may care 00:26:23.359 --> 00:26:24.799 for those who are truly widows. 00:26:25.140 --> 00:26:25.779 Again, you see, 00:26:25.880 --> 00:26:26.259 I'm just saying, 00:26:26.339 --> 00:26:27.259 hey, if you've got widows 00:26:27.259 --> 00:26:27.700 in your family, 00:26:27.819 --> 00:26:29.000 don't have the church 00:26:29.000 --> 00:26:29.720 take care of them. 00:26:29.720 --> 00:26:31.039 You take care 00:26:31.039 --> 00:26:32.559 of your household first. 00:26:33.299 --> 00:26:34.319 You take care 00:26:34.319 --> 00:26:35.259 of the household first. 00:26:36.360 --> 00:26:37.140 To me, 00:26:37.339 --> 00:26:38.660 the pages of 00:26:38.660 --> 00:26:39.920 1 Timothy 3 and 5 00:26:39.920 --> 00:26:41.200 are screaming out 00:26:41.200 --> 00:26:42.279 household first, 00:26:42.420 --> 00:26:43.220 household first, 00:26:43.500 --> 00:26:44.259 household first. 00:26:44.500 --> 00:26:45.299 Let me ask you, 00:26:46.000 --> 00:26:46.839 where's your household? 00:26:47.920 --> 00:26:48.660 Where's your household? 00:26:49.480 --> 00:26:50.039 Where is it 00:26:50.039 --> 00:26:50.980 in the order of priority? 00:26:53.059 --> 00:26:54.539 Is it above the things 00:26:54.539 --> 00:26:55.799 that seem to be more fun 00:26:55.799 --> 00:26:56.819 than ordering your household? 00:26:58.759 --> 00:26:59.519 Is it 00:26:59.519 --> 00:27:01.200 a priority so much 00:27:01.200 --> 00:27:02.220 so that you're consistent 00:27:02.220 --> 00:27:02.660 in it? 00:27:04.980 --> 00:27:06.539 That you give time to it 00:27:06.539 --> 00:27:08.019 in such a way that, 00:27:08.700 --> 00:27:09.960 hey, this is important 00:27:09.960 --> 00:27:10.900 to me and my family. 00:27:11.400 --> 00:27:12.139 This is important 00:27:12.139 --> 00:27:13.859 to me as a single person 00:27:13.859 --> 00:27:14.619 who has a household. 00:27:14.779 --> 00:27:15.859 Like, I want my household 00:27:15.859 --> 00:27:16.279 in order. 00:27:16.660 --> 00:27:17.480 I want my household 00:27:17.480 --> 00:27:18.319 prioritized. 00:27:18.599 --> 00:27:19.440 I want my household 00:27:19.440 --> 00:27:20.900 to be a place 00:27:20.900 --> 00:27:22.859 where I'm creating 00:27:22.859 --> 00:27:23.799 a harmonious 00:27:23.799 --> 00:27:24.619 and systematic 00:27:24.619 --> 00:27:25.460 arrangement 00:27:25.460 --> 00:27:26.259 in the household 00:27:26.259 --> 00:27:26.980 where things are 00:27:26.980 --> 00:27:28.039 in their proper place 00:27:28.039 --> 00:27:29.000 and activities 00:27:29.000 --> 00:27:29.759 are carried out 00:27:29.759 --> 00:27:31.140 efficiently and effectively. 00:27:32.259 --> 00:27:32.440 Right? 00:27:33.000 --> 00:27:34.059 I want that kind 00:27:34.059 --> 00:27:34.579 of harmony 00:27:34.579 --> 00:27:35.220 in my home. 00:27:35.940 --> 00:27:36.400 Where is that 00:27:36.400 --> 00:27:36.940 as a priority? 00:27:37.079 --> 00:27:37.440 Where is that 00:27:37.440 --> 00:27:38.200 as a consistency? 00:27:39.799 --> 00:27:40.360 I think the Bible 00:27:40.360 --> 00:27:40.920 is very clear 00:27:40.920 --> 00:27:41.759 that your household 00:27:41.759 --> 00:27:42.680 has to be first. 00:27:42.680 --> 00:27:45.920 and I love 00:27:45.920 --> 00:27:46.460 the, 00:27:46.840 --> 00:27:47.019 the, 00:27:47.019 --> 00:27:47.500 the, 00:27:47.500 --> 00:27:47.960 uh, 00:27:48.519 --> 00:27:49.480 like, 00:27:49.560 --> 00:27:50.580 one of my favorite quotes 00:27:50.580 --> 00:27:51.100 is, uh, 00:27:51.160 --> 00:27:52.120 Roosevelt talking about 00:27:52.120 --> 00:27:52.840 the man in the arena 00:27:52.840 --> 00:27:54.680 and how the critics 00:27:54.680 --> 00:27:55.340 who aren't in the arena 00:27:55.340 --> 00:27:56.259 who like to criticize 00:27:56.259 --> 00:27:56.840 the people who aren't 00:27:56.840 --> 00:27:57.700 in the arena 00:27:57.700 --> 00:27:58.600 and not being like 00:27:58.600 --> 00:27:59.920 those cold and timid souls 00:27:59.920 --> 00:28:00.480 who neither know 00:28:00.480 --> 00:28:01.279 victory nor defeat. 00:28:01.840 --> 00:28:02.940 I love that quote 00:28:02.940 --> 00:28:03.779 because I, 00:28:03.799 --> 00:28:05.000 I hate when people 00:28:05.000 --> 00:28:05.840 criticize people 00:28:05.840 --> 00:28:06.519 who are in the arena. 00:28:06.940 --> 00:28:07.320 It's like, 00:28:07.380 --> 00:28:07.900 you get in the arena 00:28:07.900 --> 00:28:08.779 and you see how it is 00:28:08.779 --> 00:28:09.640 before you criticize. 00:28:10.300 --> 00:28:11.200 And one thing I can say 00:28:11.200 --> 00:28:12.100 about all of you 00:28:12.100 --> 00:28:13.360 who came to this church 00:28:13.360 --> 00:28:13.759 together, 00:28:14.040 --> 00:28:14.840 you're in the arena. 00:28:15.040 --> 00:28:15.860 I love you guys. 00:28:16.300 --> 00:28:16.980 You guys are my, 00:28:17.140 --> 00:28:17.380 like, 00:28:18.060 --> 00:28:19.840 I'm rooting for this church 00:28:19.840 --> 00:28:20.560 because you guys 00:28:20.560 --> 00:28:21.280 got out there and did it. 00:28:21.320 --> 00:28:22.240 So I'm going to be 00:28:22.240 --> 00:28:23.120 the last person 00:28:23.120 --> 00:28:24.080 to say, 00:28:24.480 --> 00:28:25.340 to bring this 00:28:25.340 --> 00:28:26.280 harsh critique, 00:28:26.500 --> 00:28:27.660 but I am going to say 00:28:27.660 --> 00:28:28.960 in your love for the church, 00:28:29.040 --> 00:28:29.780 make sure that your 00:28:29.780 --> 00:28:30.680 household is first 00:28:30.680 --> 00:28:33.180 so that you can be 00:28:33.180 --> 00:28:33.920 for the church. 00:28:34.120 --> 00:28:35.360 I love that you jumped 00:28:35.360 --> 00:28:36.280 out there and did this. 00:28:36.380 --> 00:28:37.100 I love that you 00:28:37.100 --> 00:28:38.560 left comfort 00:28:38.559 --> 00:28:39.879 and friendships 00:28:39.879 --> 00:28:41.220 and established church 00:28:41.220 --> 00:28:42.659 to come and do this church. 00:28:42.839 --> 00:28:44.159 But please remember 00:28:44.159 --> 00:28:45.339 to do household first 00:28:45.339 --> 00:28:47.220 and do both 00:28:47.220 --> 00:28:48.319 in the right order. 00:28:48.619 --> 00:28:48.819 Okay? 00:28:49.279 --> 00:28:50.819 But do household first. 00:28:51.200 --> 00:28:52.440 We have to do that. 00:28:52.879 --> 00:28:53.059 Okay? 00:28:53.200 --> 00:28:54.179 There's no other way 00:28:54.179 --> 00:28:55.359 to do a healthy church plant. 00:28:56.059 --> 00:28:57.240 That's why it's so important 00:28:57.240 --> 00:28:57.500 to say, 00:28:57.559 --> 00:28:57.980 I'm going to say it 00:28:57.980 --> 00:28:58.539 really clearly. 00:28:58.799 --> 00:28:59.799 Please listen to me on this. 00:28:59.839 --> 00:29:00.659 If you don't hear anything else, 00:29:00.700 --> 00:29:01.200 hear this. 00:29:01.579 --> 00:29:03.879 If we don't do household first 00:29:03.879 --> 00:29:05.159 before church, 00:29:05.359 --> 00:29:07.139 we'll never have 00:29:07.139 --> 00:29:07.799 a healthy church. 00:29:08.559 --> 00:29:10.279 We won't. 00:29:11.099 --> 00:29:12.220 Because it's out of order. 00:29:12.759 --> 00:29:13.859 God doesn't bless that. 00:29:14.500 --> 00:29:15.720 God does not bless that. 00:29:16.039 --> 00:29:16.980 Are you hearing me on this? 00:29:17.019 --> 00:29:17.720 Like, this is important. 00:29:18.279 --> 00:29:18.639 And again, 00:29:18.700 --> 00:29:19.419 that's not me criticizing. 00:29:19.619 --> 00:29:20.000 I'm saying, 00:29:20.500 --> 00:29:21.960 you're my people. 00:29:22.619 --> 00:29:23.759 You stepped out 00:29:23.759 --> 00:29:24.039 and said, 00:29:24.099 --> 00:29:24.759 we're going to do this. 00:29:24.879 --> 00:29:25.740 Praise God for you. 00:29:25.779 --> 00:29:26.379 I love you. 00:29:27.139 --> 00:29:27.399 Right? 00:29:27.879 --> 00:29:29.779 But know what that means. 00:29:30.359 --> 00:29:31.339 That doesn't just mean, 00:29:31.460 --> 00:29:31.720 oh, 00:29:31.720 --> 00:29:33.319 we got this little storefront 00:29:33.319 --> 00:29:33.919 in Raytown 00:29:33.920 --> 00:29:34.680 and, you know, 00:29:35.100 --> 00:29:36.140 we're making it happen. 00:29:37.460 --> 00:29:37.820 No, 00:29:37.920 --> 00:29:38.440 it means 00:29:38.440 --> 00:29:40.320 I got to do the work 00:29:40.320 --> 00:29:41.800 of putting my household first 00:29:41.800 --> 00:29:42.539 so that this church 00:29:42.539 --> 00:29:43.160 can be healthy. 00:29:44.080 --> 00:29:44.820 You see what I'm saying? 00:29:44.920 --> 00:29:45.060 Like, 00:29:45.140 --> 00:29:46.120 that is the work. 00:29:46.680 --> 00:29:46.900 You say, 00:29:46.940 --> 00:29:47.100 oh no, 00:29:47.140 --> 00:29:48.060 the work is evangelism. 00:29:48.140 --> 00:29:49.279 Of course it's evangelism. 00:29:50.019 --> 00:29:51.140 But if you're doing 00:29:51.140 --> 00:29:51.980 a bunch of evangelism 00:29:51.980 --> 00:29:52.580 and your household's 00:29:52.580 --> 00:29:53.060 not in order, 00:29:53.640 --> 00:29:54.259 there's not going to be 00:29:54.259 --> 00:29:55.000 good fruit in that. 00:29:55.960 --> 00:29:56.100 Right? 00:29:56.140 --> 00:29:56.759 So I know the work 00:29:56.759 --> 00:29:57.680 is preaching and teaching 00:29:57.680 --> 00:29:58.500 and doing discipleship. 00:29:58.759 --> 00:29:59.440 Of course it is. 00:29:59.779 --> 00:30:00.420 But if you're not 00:30:00.420 --> 00:30:01.180 taking care of first 00:30:01.180 --> 00:30:02.240 discipling and raising 00:30:02.240 --> 00:30:03.039 up your own family, 00:30:03.160 --> 00:30:03.880 it ain't going to happen. 00:30:05.559 --> 00:30:05.759 Okay? 00:30:06.720 --> 00:30:07.880 The work is building up 00:30:07.880 --> 00:30:08.460 the house of God. 00:30:08.539 --> 00:30:09.200 Of course it is. 00:30:09.240 --> 00:30:10.000 But if you can't even 00:30:10.000 --> 00:30:10.960 handle your own house, 00:30:11.059 --> 00:30:11.720 your own household, 00:30:12.240 --> 00:30:13.140 how in the world 00:30:13.140 --> 00:30:13.799 do you take care 00:30:13.799 --> 00:30:14.440 of the church? 00:30:15.380 --> 00:30:16.120 Paul says he can. 00:30:17.320 --> 00:30:17.559 Right? 00:30:18.340 --> 00:30:18.700 So, 00:30:19.140 --> 00:30:20.880 this is why I think 00:30:20.880 --> 00:30:21.779 this is so important. 00:30:22.400 --> 00:30:23.460 And I hope you can hear 00:30:23.460 --> 00:30:25.160 the dual kind of language 00:30:25.160 --> 00:30:25.759 that I'm using 00:30:25.759 --> 00:30:26.440 where you can say, 00:30:27.279 --> 00:30:28.799 I'm proud of you 00:30:28.799 --> 00:30:29.480 for stepping out. 00:30:29.579 --> 00:30:30.740 And I'm rooting 00:30:30.740 --> 00:30:32.000 for every single one of you 00:30:32.000 --> 00:30:33.200 and for us together 00:30:33.200 --> 00:30:33.859 to do this 00:30:33.859 --> 00:30:34.879 and see a healthy church. 00:30:35.240 --> 00:30:36.000 And I believe 00:30:36.000 --> 00:30:36.460 we're going to. 00:30:37.779 --> 00:30:38.919 But there's only one way. 00:30:40.019 --> 00:30:40.159 Like, 00:30:40.180 --> 00:30:40.659 there's no way. 00:30:40.720 --> 00:30:41.720 You can't get around 00:30:41.720 --> 00:30:42.379 this thing. 00:30:42.680 --> 00:30:42.879 Okay? 00:30:44.159 --> 00:30:44.819 So what does that 00:30:44.819 --> 00:30:45.579 look like practically? 00:30:46.180 --> 00:30:46.339 Well, 00:30:46.359 --> 00:30:46.919 number one, 00:30:48.200 --> 00:30:50.139 we've got to 00:30:50.139 --> 00:30:50.879 prioritize God. 00:30:51.839 --> 00:30:52.879 It's the obvious one, 00:30:52.899 --> 00:30:53.099 right? 00:30:53.980 --> 00:30:54.240 You know, 00:30:54.279 --> 00:30:55.119 it's just, 00:30:55.240 --> 00:30:55.960 it's obvious. 00:30:55.960 --> 00:30:57.559 But it's so neglected. 00:30:57.559 --> 00:30:58.980 It's saying, 00:30:59.240 --> 00:31:00.419 is God my first priority? 00:31:00.819 --> 00:31:01.899 And have I planned it in? 00:31:02.700 --> 00:31:03.579 Have I planned it in? 00:31:03.859 --> 00:31:04.720 The busier you get, 00:31:04.779 --> 00:31:05.619 the more you've got to plan. 00:31:06.119 --> 00:31:06.399 You may say, 00:31:06.440 --> 00:31:06.500 well, 00:31:06.500 --> 00:31:07.079 I'm not a planner. 00:31:07.159 --> 00:31:09.039 I like just kind of 00:31:09.039 --> 00:31:09.859 going by that seat, 00:31:09.899 --> 00:31:10.159 you know, 00:31:10.240 --> 00:31:10.819 flying by the seat 00:31:10.819 --> 00:31:11.399 of my own pants. 00:31:11.559 --> 00:31:11.679 You know, 00:31:11.679 --> 00:31:12.379 I just like that. 00:31:12.399 --> 00:31:12.799 It's cool. 00:31:12.899 --> 00:31:13.159 It's fun. 00:31:13.339 --> 00:31:14.279 It's like, 00:31:14.359 --> 00:31:14.599 yeah, 00:31:14.619 --> 00:31:15.559 you're too busy for that. 00:31:16.379 --> 00:31:17.079 Maybe that worked 00:31:17.079 --> 00:31:17.759 when you were single 00:31:17.759 --> 00:31:18.700 or when you, 00:31:18.839 --> 00:31:19.179 you know, 00:31:19.679 --> 00:31:20.039 you didn't have 00:31:20.039 --> 00:31:21.099 as much responsibilities 00:31:21.099 --> 00:31:22.000 or maybe 00:31:22.000 --> 00:31:23.119 when you were single 00:31:23.119 --> 00:31:23.940 with less responsibilities, 00:31:23.940 --> 00:31:24.539 now you're single 00:31:24.539 --> 00:31:25.480 with a ton of responsibilities 00:31:25.480 --> 00:31:26.159 or you're married 00:31:26.159 --> 00:31:27.240 with a bunch of responsibilities. 00:31:27.240 --> 00:31:28.079 You've got a bunch of kids. 00:31:28.160 --> 00:31:28.940 You've got jobs, 00:31:29.039 --> 00:31:29.299 business, 00:31:29.400 --> 00:31:29.920 all this stuff, 00:31:30.279 --> 00:31:30.799 whatever it may be, 00:31:30.980 --> 00:31:31.279 church. 00:31:35.259 --> 00:31:35.759 And you said, 00:31:35.799 --> 00:31:36.759 but I like to do that. 00:31:36.819 --> 00:31:37.740 That's the way I like it. 00:31:38.019 --> 00:31:38.140 Well, 00:31:38.140 --> 00:31:38.720 I'm sorry. 00:31:39.259 --> 00:31:40.420 You're not good at it. 00:31:41.259 --> 00:31:42.220 You're not good at it 00:31:42.220 --> 00:31:43.299 and someone needs to tell you, 00:31:43.319 --> 00:31:44.180 right? 00:31:45.200 --> 00:31:46.200 Maybe you used to be, 00:31:46.259 --> 00:31:47.079 but you're not anymore. 00:31:47.240 --> 00:31:47.759 The more things 00:31:47.759 --> 00:31:48.539 have gotten to your plate, 00:31:48.539 --> 00:31:49.720 the more it requires 00:31:49.720 --> 00:31:50.920 you to order your life, 00:31:51.559 --> 00:31:52.279 order your priorities, 00:31:52.400 --> 00:31:53.019 plan things. 00:31:53.200 --> 00:31:54.259 And that's true with God. 00:31:54.859 --> 00:31:55.480 Most often, 00:31:55.559 --> 00:31:56.339 what's the thing that goes? 00:31:56.480 --> 00:31:56.660 Prayer. 00:31:56.660 --> 00:31:56.779 Prayer. 00:31:57.980 --> 00:31:59.279 Sitting at the feet of Jesus. 00:31:59.620 --> 00:32:00.620 It's Luke 10, 00:32:00.700 --> 00:32:00.900 right? 00:32:01.500 --> 00:32:02.680 Mary has chosen what is better 00:32:02.680 --> 00:32:03.940 and it will not be taken away from her. 00:32:04.000 --> 00:32:04.580 What did she do? 00:32:06.019 --> 00:32:07.320 She sat at the feet of Jesus 00:32:07.320 --> 00:32:07.800 and listened. 00:32:07.900 --> 00:32:08.840 This is the kind of love 00:32:08.840 --> 00:32:10.120 that God is highest 00:32:10.120 --> 00:32:10.940 in divine order, 00:32:11.140 --> 00:32:11.360 right? 00:32:11.759 --> 00:32:12.279 Sitting at, 00:32:12.660 --> 00:32:14.380 tell my sister to help me, 00:32:14.720 --> 00:32:14.980 right? 00:32:16.100 --> 00:32:16.440 It's like, 00:32:16.600 --> 00:32:16.720 well, 00:32:16.740 --> 00:32:16.940 yeah, 00:32:17.220 --> 00:32:18.160 someone's got to make the food. 00:32:18.240 --> 00:32:18.920 We can't all just sit 00:32:18.920 --> 00:32:19.620 at the feet of Jesus 00:32:19.620 --> 00:32:20.279 and no one would eat, 00:32:20.460 --> 00:32:20.720 right? 00:32:20.720 --> 00:32:22.700 But she chose 00:32:22.700 --> 00:32:23.240 what was better. 00:32:24.339 --> 00:32:25.460 And it's easy to choose 00:32:25.460 --> 00:32:26.220 the service 00:32:26.220 --> 00:32:27.140 and the making the food 00:32:27.140 --> 00:32:27.940 and to never sit 00:32:27.940 --> 00:32:28.600 at Jesus' feet 00:32:28.600 --> 00:32:29.019 and listen. 00:32:29.579 --> 00:32:30.660 And that's a mistake. 00:32:31.240 --> 00:32:32.680 We've got to prioritize that. 00:32:32.900 --> 00:32:33.980 We've got to prioritize that. 00:32:34.079 --> 00:32:34.839 We've got to plan it in. 00:32:35.600 --> 00:32:36.539 We've got to plan it in. 00:32:36.860 --> 00:32:37.759 If we don't plan it, 00:32:37.839 --> 00:32:38.920 it's just not going to happen. 00:32:40.559 --> 00:32:41.720 If you don't plan your life, 00:32:41.819 --> 00:32:42.500 someone else will be 00:32:42.500 --> 00:32:43.200 more than happy 00:32:43.200 --> 00:32:44.100 to plan it for you. 00:32:44.099 --> 00:32:48.419 Number two, 00:32:49.000 --> 00:32:49.459 practical. 00:32:51.299 --> 00:32:52.240 If you're married, 00:32:53.240 --> 00:32:53.959 I'm going to bring order 00:32:53.959 --> 00:32:55.419 to our marriages, 00:32:56.319 --> 00:32:56.519 okay? 00:32:56.939 --> 00:32:57.759 Where we prioritize 00:32:57.759 --> 00:32:58.359 our marriage 00:32:58.359 --> 00:32:59.039 in the right order. 00:32:59.759 --> 00:33:00.500 I have this kind of 00:33:00.500 --> 00:33:01.279 working theory 00:33:01.279 --> 00:33:02.719 that every woman 00:33:02.719 --> 00:33:03.480 who's married 00:33:03.480 --> 00:33:04.879 is tempted periodically, 00:33:05.000 --> 00:33:05.899 if not very often, 00:33:06.399 --> 00:33:07.139 to believe either 00:33:07.139 --> 00:33:07.980 that her husband 00:33:07.980 --> 00:33:09.019 doesn't care more 00:33:09.019 --> 00:33:10.379 about her 00:33:10.379 --> 00:33:11.259 than himself 00:33:11.259 --> 00:33:12.980 or that 00:33:12.980 --> 00:33:14.400 he doesn't care 00:33:14.400 --> 00:33:15.660 about anything. 00:33:16.980 --> 00:33:17.799 But that is a 00:33:17.799 --> 00:33:20.220 constant thread 00:33:20.220 --> 00:33:21.380 in most wives, 00:33:21.460 --> 00:33:22.220 if not all wives, 00:33:22.299 --> 00:33:22.799 that they're tempted 00:33:22.799 --> 00:33:23.559 to believe that. 00:33:24.299 --> 00:33:25.140 And so as husbands, 00:33:25.599 --> 00:33:26.059 what are you going to do 00:33:26.059 --> 00:33:26.539 about it? 00:33:27.180 --> 00:33:28.140 Because that's real. 00:33:28.940 --> 00:33:29.839 And a lot of times 00:33:29.839 --> 00:33:30.259 they're tempted 00:33:30.259 --> 00:33:30.900 to think that 00:33:30.900 --> 00:33:31.720 because of you, 00:33:32.120 --> 00:33:32.819 because of me, 00:33:33.000 --> 00:33:33.279 right? 00:33:33.740 --> 00:33:34.759 We're giving them reasons. 00:33:34.900 --> 00:33:35.940 And I've been asking 00:33:35.940 --> 00:33:36.980 guys this recently. 00:33:37.700 --> 00:33:38.660 What are the things 00:33:38.660 --> 00:33:39.059 that are, 00:33:39.240 --> 00:33:39.839 when you're away 00:33:39.839 --> 00:33:40.960 at work during the day 00:33:40.960 --> 00:33:42.519 and your wife's at home, 00:33:42.980 --> 00:33:44.019 what are the things 00:33:44.019 --> 00:33:45.160 that are speaking to her 00:33:45.160 --> 00:33:46.220 that you care more 00:33:46.220 --> 00:33:47.220 about yourself than her? 00:33:48.019 --> 00:33:49.079 I asked a couple guys 00:33:49.079 --> 00:33:49.680 this the other day 00:33:49.680 --> 00:33:50.460 and the one guy said, 00:33:50.539 --> 00:33:51.440 oh, it's my baseboards. 00:33:52.759 --> 00:33:53.559 Like, what do you mean? 00:33:53.720 --> 00:33:55.700 Well, my wife really wanted 00:33:55.700 --> 00:33:56.860 me to get these baseboards done. 00:33:57.000 --> 00:33:58.220 I haven't got them done forever. 00:33:59.019 --> 00:33:59.460 And I'm like, yeah, 00:33:59.480 --> 00:34:00.960 your baseboards are speaking 00:34:00.960 --> 00:34:02.160 to your wife all day, 00:34:02.220 --> 00:34:02.700 every day. 00:34:02.940 --> 00:34:04.380 He loves himself 00:34:04.380 --> 00:34:05.019 more than you. 00:34:06.700 --> 00:34:07.759 I asked the other guy, 00:34:07.819 --> 00:34:08.340 he said, oh, 00:34:08.400 --> 00:34:10.079 it's my backsplash. 00:34:10.760 --> 00:34:11.380 My backsplash. 00:34:11.380 --> 00:34:11.720 I'm like, yeah, 00:34:11.760 --> 00:34:12.500 your backsplash 00:34:12.500 --> 00:34:13.579 is speaking to your wife 00:34:13.579 --> 00:34:13.980 every day. 00:34:14.019 --> 00:34:15.119 Every day she's in the kitchen. 00:34:15.320 --> 00:34:16.019 She looks over 00:34:16.019 --> 00:34:16.800 at the backsplash. 00:34:16.960 --> 00:34:17.740 That's not done. 00:34:17.880 --> 00:34:18.519 And it's just, 00:34:18.880 --> 00:34:19.480 the backsplash 00:34:19.480 --> 00:34:20.559 is just shouting to her. 00:34:20.780 --> 00:34:21.480 He cares more 00:34:21.480 --> 00:34:22.539 about himself than you. 00:34:23.800 --> 00:34:24.599 That's real. 00:34:25.280 --> 00:34:26.260 It is real. 00:34:27.260 --> 00:34:28.880 So what are the things, 00:34:29.640 --> 00:34:30.200 your husband, 00:34:30.420 --> 00:34:30.619 guys, 00:34:30.700 --> 00:34:31.440 what are the things 00:34:31.440 --> 00:34:33.980 that you've left 00:34:33.980 --> 00:34:35.340 that you haven't done 00:34:35.340 --> 00:34:36.660 that are speaking 00:34:36.660 --> 00:34:37.200 to your wife? 00:34:37.280 --> 00:34:37.480 Hey, 00:34:37.480 --> 00:34:40.179 I care more 00:34:40.179 --> 00:34:41.079 about myself than you. 00:34:41.179 --> 00:34:42.119 You don't want anything 00:34:42.119 --> 00:34:42.980 speaking to your wife 00:34:42.980 --> 00:34:43.519 while you're gone. 00:34:43.860 --> 00:34:44.019 Okay? 00:34:44.099 --> 00:34:44.500 Number one. 00:34:46.440 --> 00:34:47.500 But you can do something 00:34:47.500 --> 00:34:47.840 about that. 00:34:47.880 --> 00:34:48.579 We can do something 00:34:48.579 --> 00:34:49.179 about that. 00:34:49.900 --> 00:34:51.079 And it goes both ways too. 00:34:51.139 --> 00:34:51.659 I'm not just picking 00:34:51.659 --> 00:34:52.179 on the husbands. 00:34:52.320 --> 00:34:53.099 There's things that wives 00:34:53.099 --> 00:34:53.800 can do as well 00:34:53.800 --> 00:34:55.380 that I've been asked 00:34:55.380 --> 00:34:56.619 to do and should do. 00:34:57.099 --> 00:34:58.579 But we don't want 00:34:58.579 --> 00:34:59.099 those things 00:34:59.099 --> 00:34:59.880 to be in the way. 00:35:00.039 --> 00:35:00.780 And sometimes we, 00:35:01.820 --> 00:35:02.679 there's things like that 00:35:02.679 --> 00:35:03.340 that we let go 00:35:03.340 --> 00:35:04.159 for way too long. 00:35:04.159 --> 00:35:04.899 Right? 00:35:06.139 --> 00:35:06.980 We all do this. 00:35:07.259 --> 00:35:07.980 We all do this. 00:35:08.719 --> 00:35:09.259 And we have to 00:35:09.259 --> 00:35:10.379 get serious about saying, 00:35:10.460 --> 00:35:10.639 all right, 00:35:10.859 --> 00:35:11.819 I'm not going to do this anymore. 00:35:14.619 --> 00:35:15.420 That's bringing order 00:35:15.420 --> 00:35:16.019 to our marriage. 00:35:16.619 --> 00:35:16.839 Right? 00:35:17.239 --> 00:35:18.000 What about children? 00:35:18.339 --> 00:35:18.839 Bringing order 00:35:18.839 --> 00:35:19.519 to the children. 00:35:20.779 --> 00:35:21.739 Looks like obedience. 00:35:22.119 --> 00:35:22.819 Looks like order 00:35:22.819 --> 00:35:23.299 in the home. 00:35:23.379 --> 00:35:24.399 It looks like respect. 00:35:25.199 --> 00:35:25.440 Okay? 00:35:27.139 --> 00:35:28.059 When you say 00:35:28.059 --> 00:35:28.579 for your kids 00:35:28.579 --> 00:35:29.359 to do something 00:35:29.359 --> 00:35:30.759 and then they don't do it 00:35:30.759 --> 00:35:31.519 and you don't do anything 00:35:31.519 --> 00:35:32.039 about it, 00:35:32.219 --> 00:35:33.339 you're teaching your kids 00:35:33.339 --> 00:35:34.000 to disobey. 00:35:34.559 --> 00:35:35.379 Do you realize that? 00:35:36.199 --> 00:35:36.899 That's literally, 00:35:37.239 --> 00:35:38.699 when you don't enforce 00:35:38.699 --> 00:35:39.519 your authority, 00:35:40.239 --> 00:35:41.839 you're subtly telling them, 00:35:41.940 --> 00:35:42.879 oh, you can get away with this. 00:35:42.920 --> 00:35:43.579 It's totally cool. 00:35:44.219 --> 00:35:44.779 I'm not going to do 00:35:44.779 --> 00:35:45.500 anything about it. 00:35:46.079 --> 00:35:47.539 And every little kid 00:35:47.539 --> 00:35:48.279 is looking 00:35:48.279 --> 00:35:50.139 to see how much 00:35:50.139 --> 00:35:50.719 you'll give them. 00:35:51.879 --> 00:35:53.119 That's what kids do. 00:35:53.239 --> 00:35:54.599 They're constantly looking. 00:35:55.960 --> 00:35:57.039 Got a little eye contact 00:35:57.039 --> 00:35:58.679 for some kids here. 00:35:58.759 --> 00:35:59.079 That's good. 00:35:59.839 --> 00:36:00.960 They're always looking 00:36:00.960 --> 00:36:02.179 like, 00:36:02.299 --> 00:36:03.319 what can I get away with? 00:36:03.320 --> 00:36:04.420 What can I get away with? 00:36:04.840 --> 00:36:05.039 Like, 00:36:05.059 --> 00:36:06.200 this is built into them. 00:36:06.620 --> 00:36:07.559 Their sinful nature. 00:36:08.519 --> 00:36:09.539 And if you let them 00:36:09.539 --> 00:36:10.120 get away with it, 00:36:10.200 --> 00:36:10.320 oh, 00:36:10.400 --> 00:36:11.440 that's like 00:36:11.440 --> 00:36:13.059 a green light for them. 00:36:13.200 --> 00:36:13.519 Whoa! 00:36:14.039 --> 00:36:15.340 He didn't do anything. 00:36:15.980 --> 00:36:16.960 Mom didn't do anything. 00:36:17.500 --> 00:36:18.380 I can do this. 00:36:19.019 --> 00:36:19.660 So you're literally, 00:36:19.940 --> 00:36:20.800 we don't think 00:36:20.800 --> 00:36:21.360 about it that way, 00:36:21.440 --> 00:36:22.180 but often we are 00:36:22.180 --> 00:36:23.039 teaching our kids 00:36:23.039 --> 00:36:23.660 to disobey 00:36:23.660 --> 00:36:24.780 by not enforcing 00:36:24.780 --> 00:36:26.260 our rule and authority. 00:36:27.600 --> 00:36:27.840 Okay? 00:36:27.840 --> 00:36:28.600 Another thing 00:36:28.600 --> 00:36:29.500 that's just a practical. 00:36:30.620 --> 00:36:32.300 It amazes me nowadays 00:36:32.300 --> 00:36:33.360 how often kids 00:36:33.360 --> 00:36:35.100 say no to their parents 00:36:35.100 --> 00:36:35.920 and the parents 00:36:35.920 --> 00:36:36.820 have a conversation 00:36:36.820 --> 00:36:37.579 after that. 00:36:38.180 --> 00:36:38.640 It's like, 00:36:39.059 --> 00:36:40.600 no conversation 00:36:40.600 --> 00:36:41.760 with your kids, 00:36:41.840 --> 00:36:42.960 especially your little kids, 00:36:43.140 --> 00:36:44.180 should ever start 00:36:44.180 --> 00:36:44.880 with them saying 00:36:44.880 --> 00:36:45.460 the word no. 00:36:46.260 --> 00:36:46.500 Like, 00:36:46.539 --> 00:36:47.120 that's the end 00:36:47.120 --> 00:36:48.000 of the conversation. 00:36:48.539 --> 00:36:49.100 Do you understand? 00:36:49.920 --> 00:36:50.180 Like, 00:36:50.280 --> 00:36:51.320 that's not a time 00:36:51.320 --> 00:36:52.460 to start a conversation. 00:36:53.059 --> 00:36:53.800 Hi is a way 00:36:53.800 --> 00:36:54.820 to start a conversation. 00:36:55.039 --> 00:36:55.200 Okay? 00:36:55.259 --> 00:36:55.919 Not no. 00:36:56.839 --> 00:36:58.000 My son or daughter 00:36:58.000 --> 00:36:58.759 just said no to me. 00:36:59.079 --> 00:36:59.599 I think I'm going 00:36:59.599 --> 00:37:00.579 to talk to him about it. 00:37:01.179 --> 00:37:02.079 How do you feel? 00:37:02.759 --> 00:37:03.839 Do you feel like 00:37:03.839 --> 00:37:04.819 you're not doing too well? 00:37:05.219 --> 00:37:05.679 You know, 00:37:05.919 --> 00:37:06.139 no, 00:37:06.239 --> 00:37:07.319 there's no conversation. 00:37:07.500 --> 00:37:08.119 There's no talking 00:37:08.119 --> 00:37:09.099 about their feelings. 00:37:10.679 --> 00:37:11.619 They're about to feel 00:37:11.619 --> 00:37:12.239 something else. 00:37:12.319 --> 00:37:12.899 They should feel 00:37:12.899 --> 00:37:14.079 something else real quick. 00:37:14.699 --> 00:37:15.119 Like, 00:37:15.199 --> 00:37:15.619 there should be 00:37:15.619 --> 00:37:17.319 a zero no policy 00:37:17.319 --> 00:37:18.539 in your homes. 00:37:19.019 --> 00:37:19.799 And the amount 00:37:19.799 --> 00:37:21.219 of young parents 00:37:21.219 --> 00:37:21.859 I see now 00:37:21.859 --> 00:37:22.279 where it's like, 00:37:22.539 --> 00:37:23.259 they say something 00:37:23.259 --> 00:37:24.099 and the kid says no 00:37:24.099 --> 00:37:24.679 and I'm thinking, 00:37:25.679 --> 00:37:28.839 what's going on here? 00:37:29.279 --> 00:37:30.519 You don't say no 00:37:30.519 --> 00:37:31.339 to your parents. 00:37:31.739 --> 00:37:32.119 And then like, 00:37:32.219 --> 00:37:32.539 the parent, 00:37:32.739 --> 00:37:33.299 the parent just 00:37:33.299 --> 00:37:34.179 has a conversation. 00:37:34.319 --> 00:37:34.399 Like, 00:37:34.460 --> 00:37:34.539 no, 00:37:34.579 --> 00:37:35.399 don't talk to them. 00:37:36.039 --> 00:37:36.960 Go discipline them. 00:37:37.259 --> 00:37:38.059 Go discipline them. 00:37:38.099 --> 00:37:38.559 This is not 00:37:38.559 --> 00:37:39.679 a conversation starter. 00:37:40.440 --> 00:37:40.980 No is never 00:37:40.980 --> 00:37:41.879 a conversation starter 00:37:41.879 --> 00:37:42.419 with your kid. 00:37:42.519 --> 00:37:42.739 Okay? 00:37:43.319 --> 00:37:44.119 Very important. 00:37:48.299 --> 00:37:48.899 Takes a lot 00:37:48.899 --> 00:37:49.599 of consistency. 00:37:50.339 --> 00:37:50.579 There's, 00:37:50.679 --> 00:37:51.359 parenting, 00:37:51.759 --> 00:37:52.460 disciplining your kids 00:37:52.460 --> 00:37:53.079 is one of the most 00:37:53.079 --> 00:37:53.879 difficult things 00:37:53.880 --> 00:37:54.579 because of the level 00:37:54.579 --> 00:37:55.320 of consistency 00:37:55.320 --> 00:37:56.460 it requires. 00:37:57.500 --> 00:37:57.820 And, 00:37:57.880 --> 00:37:59.200 that's why we need 00:37:59.200 --> 00:37:59.920 people in our life 00:37:59.920 --> 00:38:00.940 who can even say to us, 00:38:00.980 --> 00:38:01.160 hey, 00:38:01.320 --> 00:38:02.500 you're not being consistent. 00:38:03.960 --> 00:38:04.539 Gene and I had 00:38:04.539 --> 00:38:06.320 many young friends 00:38:06.320 --> 00:38:07.039 who were raising kids 00:38:07.039 --> 00:38:07.660 at the same time 00:38:07.660 --> 00:38:08.400 as us 00:38:08.400 --> 00:38:09.280 and we'd finish 00:38:09.280 --> 00:38:09.960 the night together 00:38:09.960 --> 00:38:11.059 and as we're walking 00:38:11.059 --> 00:38:11.380 out the door 00:38:11.380 --> 00:38:12.519 putting our coats on, 00:38:12.780 --> 00:38:13.380 one of them would grab 00:38:13.380 --> 00:38:13.680 and say, 00:38:13.740 --> 00:38:13.880 hey, 00:38:13.940 --> 00:38:14.240 you know, 00:38:14.599 --> 00:38:15.220 you said no 00:38:15.220 --> 00:38:16.220 to your kid a lot tonight 00:38:16.220 --> 00:38:17.019 and never got up 00:38:17.019 --> 00:38:18.000 to discipline them. 00:38:18.000 --> 00:38:19.559 Ouch. 00:38:20.219 --> 00:38:20.860 You're right. 00:38:21.059 --> 00:38:21.760 It's totally true. 00:38:22.219 --> 00:38:23.440 I've been really tired lately. 00:38:23.760 --> 00:38:24.000 Well, 00:38:24.420 --> 00:38:25.260 we're all tired. 00:38:25.659 --> 00:38:26.380 Be consistent. 00:38:27.380 --> 00:38:27.880 Thank you. 00:38:28.000 --> 00:38:28.699 Thank you so much. 00:38:28.760 --> 00:38:29.300 I appreciate that. 00:38:29.320 --> 00:38:30.039 You're totally right. 00:38:30.500 --> 00:38:31.199 You're totally right. 00:38:31.260 --> 00:38:32.340 I did do that a lot tonight 00:38:32.340 --> 00:38:33.599 and I've been lazy. 00:38:33.719 --> 00:38:34.679 I need to be more consistent. 00:38:35.360 --> 00:38:36.019 You have people 00:38:36.019 --> 00:38:36.519 that do that. 00:38:36.579 --> 00:38:37.059 Do you do that 00:38:37.059 --> 00:38:37.659 with other people? 00:38:37.760 --> 00:38:38.639 Do they do that to you? 00:38:39.079 --> 00:38:39.880 This church needs 00:38:39.880 --> 00:38:40.599 to create a culture 00:38:40.599 --> 00:38:41.199 like that. 00:38:41.960 --> 00:38:42.139 Okay? 00:38:42.519 --> 00:38:43.019 We need to teach 00:38:43.019 --> 00:38:44.019 our kids how to sit. 00:38:44.699 --> 00:38:45.039 Listen, 00:38:45.039 --> 00:38:46.779 if you're primarily 00:38:46.779 --> 00:38:47.639 teaching your kids 00:38:47.639 --> 00:38:48.159 to sit, 00:38:48.400 --> 00:38:48.980 to obey, 00:38:49.159 --> 00:38:49.900 and to respect 00:38:49.900 --> 00:38:51.279 in public settings, 00:38:51.460 --> 00:38:52.239 you're doing it wrong. 00:38:53.679 --> 00:38:54.619 You're doing it wrong. 00:38:54.840 --> 00:38:54.940 Now, 00:38:55.000 --> 00:38:55.699 you do have to do it 00:38:55.699 --> 00:38:56.360 in public settings, 00:38:56.539 --> 00:38:57.440 but that should be 00:38:57.440 --> 00:38:58.300 the overflow 00:38:58.300 --> 00:38:58.940 of what you're doing 00:38:58.940 --> 00:38:59.400 at home. 00:38:59.920 --> 00:39:00.759 And it is the overflow 00:39:00.759 --> 00:39:01.279 of what you're doing 00:39:01.279 --> 00:39:01.619 at home. 00:39:02.239 --> 00:39:02.940 And sometimes 00:39:02.940 --> 00:39:03.519 it ain't pretty. 00:39:04.420 --> 00:39:04.619 You know? 00:39:04.960 --> 00:39:05.880 I remember a time 00:39:05.880 --> 00:39:07.380 when I was like, 00:39:07.579 --> 00:39:09.300 Elijah used to wiggle 00:39:09.300 --> 00:39:09.900 all the time 00:39:09.900 --> 00:39:11.259 and he'd sit with me 00:39:11.259 --> 00:39:11.759 and I'd be like, 00:39:12.099 --> 00:39:13.300 I'm winning this battle today. 00:39:13.360 --> 00:39:14.179 And I got up 00:39:14.179 --> 00:39:15.019 and left in church 00:39:15.019 --> 00:39:15.759 so many times 00:39:15.759 --> 00:39:16.419 and spanked him 00:39:16.419 --> 00:39:17.460 because every time 00:39:17.460 --> 00:39:18.559 he wouldn't sit 00:39:18.559 --> 00:39:19.099 on my lap. 00:39:19.339 --> 00:39:19.519 Oh, 00:39:19.559 --> 00:39:19.739 look at him. 00:39:19.739 --> 00:39:20.480 He sits so great. 00:39:20.519 --> 00:39:21.099 Isn't that awesome? 00:39:24.179 --> 00:39:25.019 But I just kept 00:39:25.019 --> 00:39:25.679 being consistent 00:39:25.679 --> 00:39:26.139 with him. 00:39:27.339 --> 00:39:27.659 Right? 00:39:28.139 --> 00:39:28.419 But, 00:39:29.099 --> 00:39:29.399 yes, 00:39:29.440 --> 00:39:30.359 I did it in that meeting, 00:39:30.500 --> 00:39:30.639 but, 00:39:31.539 --> 00:39:31.799 like, 00:39:31.899 --> 00:39:32.239 that's not, 00:39:32.339 --> 00:39:33.299 if I'm just doing it 00:39:33.299 --> 00:39:33.839 in that meeting, 00:39:34.119 --> 00:39:34.919 this is going to be 00:39:34.919 --> 00:39:35.239 a long, 00:39:35.379 --> 00:39:35.759 hard battle. 00:39:35.879 --> 00:39:36.579 I need to do this 00:39:36.579 --> 00:39:37.019 at home. 00:39:37.339 --> 00:39:38.159 I need to teach him 00:39:38.159 --> 00:39:39.000 how to sit on my lap 00:39:39.000 --> 00:39:39.960 at some times at home 00:39:39.960 --> 00:39:40.419 where it's just like, 00:39:40.440 --> 00:39:40.539 hey, 00:39:40.559 --> 00:39:40.719 bud, 00:39:40.919 --> 00:39:41.460 you're just going 00:39:41.460 --> 00:39:42.259 to sit on my lap 00:39:42.259 --> 00:39:43.139 and you're not going 00:39:43.139 --> 00:39:43.940 to wiggle and get off. 00:39:43.940 --> 00:39:44.420 And if you do, 00:39:44.480 --> 00:39:45.300 you're going to get spanked. 00:39:45.340 --> 00:39:45.579 Like, 00:39:45.599 --> 00:39:45.960 you're just going 00:39:45.960 --> 00:39:46.740 to sit on my lap. 00:39:47.599 --> 00:39:47.920 Right? 00:39:48.400 --> 00:39:48.980 The other thing 00:39:48.980 --> 00:39:49.780 is teaching our kids 00:39:49.780 --> 00:39:51.159 to respect other adults. 00:39:51.980 --> 00:39:52.139 Okay? 00:39:53.740 --> 00:39:54.559 It's not okay 00:39:54.559 --> 00:39:55.340 if your kids 00:39:55.340 --> 00:39:56.659 say things like, 00:39:56.740 --> 00:39:56.780 well, 00:39:56.780 --> 00:39:57.380 I don't have to listen 00:39:57.380 --> 00:39:57.720 to you, 00:39:57.780 --> 00:39:58.460 not my dad. 00:39:58.539 --> 00:39:58.659 Well, 00:39:58.840 --> 00:39:59.179 yes, 00:39:59.280 --> 00:39:59.460 like, 00:39:59.519 --> 00:40:00.260 if your parents are, 00:40:00.920 --> 00:40:01.820 if some other person 00:40:01.820 --> 00:40:02.639 is overstepping 00:40:02.639 --> 00:40:03.320 their authority, 00:40:03.480 --> 00:40:04.099 that's fine. 00:40:04.559 --> 00:40:05.220 But a lot of times 00:40:05.220 --> 00:40:05.679 it's just like, 00:40:05.720 --> 00:40:05.840 hey, 00:40:05.900 --> 00:40:06.960 stop hinting Susie 00:40:06.960 --> 00:40:07.360 or whatever. 00:40:07.700 --> 00:40:08.039 It's like, 00:40:08.039 --> 00:40:08.679 I don't have to listen 00:40:08.679 --> 00:40:08.860 to you. 00:40:08.900 --> 00:40:09.139 It's like, 00:40:09.220 --> 00:40:09.460 whoa, 00:40:09.679 --> 00:40:10.079 okay. 00:40:11.179 --> 00:40:11.920 That's not good. 00:40:12.200 --> 00:40:12.880 We don't want to create 00:40:13.940 --> 00:40:15.480 kids to respect adults. 00:40:15.900 --> 00:40:16.980 And when they say things like, 00:40:17.039 --> 00:40:17.099 hey, 00:40:17.099 --> 00:40:18.179 we're going to go sit down now 00:40:18.179 --> 00:40:18.519 or hey, 00:40:19.139 --> 00:40:19.780 stop hitting, 00:40:19.960 --> 00:40:20.320 you know, 00:40:20.900 --> 00:40:21.599 little Susie, 00:40:22.000 --> 00:40:22.400 little Johnny. 00:40:22.500 --> 00:40:23.240 It's always little Susie 00:40:23.240 --> 00:40:23.740 and little Johnny 00:40:23.740 --> 00:40:24.400 if you don't know that. 00:40:24.480 --> 00:40:25.380 That's always the example. 00:40:26.599 --> 00:40:27.679 But teaching our kids 00:40:27.679 --> 00:40:28.320 to respect, 00:40:28.700 --> 00:40:28.960 right? 00:40:29.220 --> 00:40:30.220 That's really important. 00:40:30.820 --> 00:40:31.659 We had a friend 00:40:31.659 --> 00:40:32.119 whose kid, 00:40:32.159 --> 00:40:32.800 whenever they'd walk 00:40:32.800 --> 00:40:33.200 in the door, 00:40:33.280 --> 00:40:33.820 he'd walk up 00:40:33.820 --> 00:40:34.519 and he'd kick me. 00:40:35.400 --> 00:40:36.460 And the dad would never 00:40:36.460 --> 00:40:37.340 do anything about it. 00:40:37.400 --> 00:40:37.860 And man, 00:40:38.240 --> 00:40:40.240 I started to not like the kid. 00:40:42.059 --> 00:40:43.320 Was that the kid's fault 00:40:43.320 --> 00:40:43.920 ultimately? 00:40:44.800 --> 00:40:45.059 Yes, 00:40:45.119 --> 00:40:45.920 the kid has a fault 00:40:45.920 --> 00:40:46.639 for kicking. 00:40:46.740 --> 00:40:47.340 He shouldn't kick. 00:40:47.880 --> 00:40:49.059 But this is a little kid. 00:40:49.500 --> 00:40:50.539 His dad was teaching him 00:40:50.539 --> 00:40:51.019 it was okay 00:40:51.019 --> 00:40:52.000 because he'd never do anything 00:40:52.000 --> 00:40:52.920 when this kid would walk up 00:40:52.920 --> 00:40:53.400 and kick me. 00:40:54.539 --> 00:40:54.760 Right? 00:40:55.240 --> 00:40:56.260 We need to teach our kids 00:40:56.260 --> 00:40:57.200 to respect other kids. 00:40:57.340 --> 00:40:57.880 It's order. 00:40:58.619 --> 00:40:59.340 You're bringing order 00:40:59.340 --> 00:40:59.960 in your home. 00:41:00.800 --> 00:41:00.960 Okay? 00:41:01.340 --> 00:41:01.880 You have husbands 00:41:01.880 --> 00:41:02.179 who say, 00:41:02.280 --> 00:41:02.400 man, 00:41:02.440 --> 00:41:03.639 my wife's always so overwhelmed 00:41:03.639 --> 00:41:04.300 when I get home. 00:41:04.880 --> 00:41:05.639 What are you doing 00:41:05.639 --> 00:41:06.760 to lead and to bring order 00:41:06.760 --> 00:41:07.280 in that home? 00:41:07.280 --> 00:41:08.320 How are you setting up 00:41:08.320 --> 00:41:09.639 systems and things 00:41:09.639 --> 00:41:10.059 in place 00:41:10.059 --> 00:41:10.940 so that there can be order? 00:41:12.360 --> 00:41:12.720 Lastly, 00:41:12.860 --> 00:41:13.679 practical yourself. 00:41:14.559 --> 00:41:15.980 Bring order to your 00:41:15.980 --> 00:41:18.119 sex life, 00:41:18.219 --> 00:41:19.279 your sexual desires 00:41:19.279 --> 00:41:21.199 and rightly ordering them. 00:41:21.919 --> 00:41:23.359 Bring order to your feelings. 00:41:24.480 --> 00:41:24.679 Right? 00:41:25.299 --> 00:41:25.799 It's just like, 00:41:25.859 --> 00:41:27.719 I'm going to let my feelings rule me. 00:41:27.839 --> 00:41:28.399 I'm going to put them 00:41:28.399 --> 00:41:29.019 in right order. 00:41:29.719 --> 00:41:31.059 Bring order to your finances. 00:41:32.079 --> 00:41:33.159 Finances can really 00:41:33.159 --> 00:41:34.899 unsettle a home 00:41:34.899 --> 00:41:36.019 and bring a lot of disorder. 00:41:36.820 --> 00:41:38.000 And it means that you're going to have 00:41:38.000 --> 00:41:39.019 to say no to stuff. 00:41:39.480 --> 00:41:39.659 Gina, 00:41:39.719 --> 00:41:40.280 I've been talking about this 00:41:40.280 --> 00:41:40.719 a lot lately. 00:41:41.079 --> 00:41:41.360 Nowadays, 00:41:41.960 --> 00:41:42.759 everybody wants, 00:41:42.940 --> 00:41:44.320 thinks that they can have everything. 00:41:45.019 --> 00:41:45.239 Like, 00:41:45.280 --> 00:41:45.659 I can just, 00:41:45.800 --> 00:41:46.099 I can, 00:41:46.320 --> 00:41:47.320 they look at other people 00:41:47.320 --> 00:41:47.800 and they say, 00:41:47.880 --> 00:41:48.019 well, 00:41:48.099 --> 00:41:48.679 they have it 00:41:48.679 --> 00:41:49.519 so I can have it. 00:41:50.239 --> 00:41:51.000 They have this, 00:41:51.079 --> 00:41:51.500 I can have that. 00:41:51.519 --> 00:41:52.480 And we never want to say no 00:41:52.480 --> 00:41:52.940 to anything. 00:41:53.739 --> 00:41:54.059 Well, 00:41:54.099 --> 00:41:54.679 to bring order, 00:41:54.780 --> 00:41:55.659 you have to say no 00:41:55.659 --> 00:41:56.300 to certain things, 00:41:56.360 --> 00:41:57.420 especially with finances. 00:41:58.460 --> 00:41:59.500 Especially with finances. 00:41:59.500 --> 00:42:01.800 You know how often it is 00:42:01.800 --> 00:42:03.300 that people end up 00:42:03.300 --> 00:42:04.699 getting in financial vines 00:42:04.699 --> 00:42:06.219 where something happens, 00:42:06.300 --> 00:42:07.019 it's an emergency 00:42:07.019 --> 00:42:08.199 and a big ticket item 00:42:08.199 --> 00:42:09.059 can't be purchased. 00:42:09.679 --> 00:42:11.059 And you know what the reason is 00:42:11.059 --> 00:42:11.739 why they need help 00:42:11.739 --> 00:42:12.320 in that moment? 00:42:12.920 --> 00:42:14.619 It's because they didn't say no 00:42:14.619 --> 00:42:15.480 to the little things 00:42:15.480 --> 00:42:16.179 over the course 00:42:16.179 --> 00:42:17.039 of the year before. 00:42:18.320 --> 00:42:18.840 And so they don't have 00:42:18.840 --> 00:42:19.480 anything in savings. 00:42:19.699 --> 00:42:20.639 They weren't planning ahead 00:42:20.639 --> 00:42:21.800 for something that could happen 00:42:21.800 --> 00:42:22.860 like a car breaking down. 00:42:23.219 --> 00:42:24.460 Which happens often, 00:42:24.579 --> 00:42:25.039 trust me. 00:42:25.780 --> 00:42:27.460 I've dealt with so many people 00:42:27.460 --> 00:42:28.820 who've had broken down cars 00:42:28.820 --> 00:42:30.100 and it's always interesting 00:42:30.100 --> 00:42:31.220 to see how people prepare. 00:42:31.320 --> 00:42:32.240 Now I get things happen 00:42:32.240 --> 00:42:32.980 that are out of control 00:42:32.980 --> 00:42:34.580 and we all need help on that. 00:42:34.720 --> 00:42:35.640 I've needed help on that. 00:42:35.720 --> 00:42:36.480 Other people have. 00:42:36.980 --> 00:42:37.920 I'm not talking about that. 00:42:38.000 --> 00:42:38.600 I'm talking about 00:42:38.600 --> 00:42:40.160 when those things happen 00:42:40.160 --> 00:42:41.320 and they could have been prevented 00:42:41.320 --> 00:42:42.580 but we didn't say no 00:42:42.580 --> 00:42:43.680 to things that we wanted 00:42:43.680 --> 00:42:44.700 for a long time 00:42:44.700 --> 00:42:46.500 so that we weren't prepared 00:42:46.500 --> 00:42:48.420 to deal with the emergency situation 00:42:48.420 --> 00:42:49.140 that comes up. 00:42:49.420 --> 00:42:50.559 That's because our finances 00:42:50.559 --> 00:42:51.240 are out of order. 00:42:52.460 --> 00:42:53.340 That's because our finances 00:42:53.340 --> 00:42:53.880 are out of order. 00:42:53.960 --> 00:42:54.300 And a lot of times 00:42:54.300 --> 00:42:54.940 we don't think of that 00:42:54.940 --> 00:42:55.360 because we think, 00:42:55.480 --> 00:42:55.600 oh, 00:42:55.840 --> 00:42:57.559 I was living within my means 00:42:57.559 --> 00:42:58.160 all that time. 00:42:58.159 --> 00:42:58.639 Yeah, 00:42:58.679 --> 00:42:59.440 but you weren't thinking 00:42:59.440 --> 00:43:00.579 about the future at all. 00:43:01.599 --> 00:43:02.279 Did you think 00:43:02.279 --> 00:43:02.839 that your vehicle 00:43:02.839 --> 00:43:03.819 was going to last forever? 00:43:05.059 --> 00:43:05.739 Did you think 00:43:05.739 --> 00:43:06.199 that your kids 00:43:06.199 --> 00:43:07.000 weren't going to eat more? 00:43:08.099 --> 00:43:08.279 You know, 00:43:08.339 --> 00:43:09.579 did you think 00:43:09.579 --> 00:43:11.019 that something in your house 00:43:11.019 --> 00:43:11.559 that you bought 00:43:11.559 --> 00:43:12.379 wasn't going to break? 00:43:13.719 --> 00:43:14.039 Like, 00:43:14.139 --> 00:43:15.019 these things happen 00:43:15.019 --> 00:43:16.460 and so we have to say no 00:43:16.460 --> 00:43:17.079 to things. 00:43:17.619 --> 00:43:18.799 Sometimes we have to work jobs 00:43:18.799 --> 00:43:19.639 we don't want to work. 00:43:19.739 --> 00:43:19.859 Well, 00:43:19.879 --> 00:43:20.819 I really like this job. 00:43:21.079 --> 00:43:21.239 Well, 00:43:21.239 --> 00:43:21.599 so what? 00:43:21.659 --> 00:43:22.599 Your job doesn't pay enough. 00:43:22.659 --> 00:43:23.619 You need to get a different job. 00:43:24.879 --> 00:43:25.239 Like, 00:43:25.259 --> 00:43:25.980 we have to say no 00:43:25.980 --> 00:43:27.059 to some things sometimes. 00:43:27.859 --> 00:43:28.079 Right? 00:43:28.079 --> 00:43:28.500 And just say, 00:43:28.579 --> 00:43:28.759 I mean, 00:43:28.860 --> 00:43:29.639 I've had to do that 00:43:29.639 --> 00:43:30.639 multiple times. 00:43:31.739 --> 00:43:32.360 So many times 00:43:32.360 --> 00:43:33.139 I've had conversations 00:43:33.139 --> 00:43:34.159 with bosses 00:43:34.159 --> 00:43:35.599 who talk about pay 00:43:35.599 --> 00:43:36.719 and I'm just like, 00:43:37.039 --> 00:43:37.159 hey, 00:43:37.199 --> 00:43:37.420 listen, 00:43:37.719 --> 00:43:38.739 this honestly has nothing 00:43:38.739 --> 00:43:39.840 to do with you or me. 00:43:40.119 --> 00:43:41.319 This has to do with the fact 00:43:41.319 --> 00:43:42.360 that I have this many kids. 00:43:42.440 --> 00:43:43.519 I have this house payment. 00:43:43.819 --> 00:43:44.639 This is my budget 00:43:44.639 --> 00:43:45.960 and if you can't pay me 00:43:45.960 --> 00:43:46.920 the amount that I need, 00:43:48.319 --> 00:43:48.599 this has, 00:43:48.799 --> 00:43:49.099 this is, 00:43:49.139 --> 00:43:49.920 there's nothing personal 00:43:49.920 --> 00:43:50.460 about this 00:43:50.460 --> 00:43:51.119 and it has nothing 00:43:51.119 --> 00:43:51.880 to do with this job. 00:43:52.039 --> 00:43:53.460 I have to pay my bills. 00:43:53.460 --> 00:43:55.280 I mean, 00:43:55.300 --> 00:43:55.880 I would say that 00:43:55.880 --> 00:43:56.460 to my bosses. 00:43:56.639 --> 00:43:56.960 I'm like, 00:43:57.139 --> 00:43:57.460 trust me, 00:43:57.519 --> 00:43:58.639 I actually like working here. 00:43:58.740 --> 00:43:59.920 I would love to keep working here 00:43:59.920 --> 00:44:01.360 but if you can't pay me more, 00:44:01.480 --> 00:44:02.179 I'm out of here 00:44:02.179 --> 00:44:04.260 because like, 00:44:04.460 --> 00:44:04.900 if this, 00:44:05.059 --> 00:44:05.639 our relationship 00:44:05.639 --> 00:44:06.880 is totally based on 00:44:06.880 --> 00:44:08.019 me doing a service 00:44:08.019 --> 00:44:08.400 for you 00:44:08.400 --> 00:44:09.340 and you paying me 00:44:09.340 --> 00:44:10.519 and if the amount 00:44:10.519 --> 00:44:11.220 you pay me 00:44:11.220 --> 00:44:12.679 isn't more than my expenses, 00:44:13.199 --> 00:44:14.199 we got a problem 00:44:14.199 --> 00:44:15.500 and it's not personal. 00:44:16.240 --> 00:44:17.240 It's not personal. 00:44:17.420 --> 00:44:18.519 It's just reality 00:44:18.519 --> 00:44:21.199 because like people would, 00:44:21.880 --> 00:44:22.519 bosses would try 00:44:22.519 --> 00:44:23.340 to pull this stuff 00:44:23.340 --> 00:44:23.539 like, 00:44:23.639 --> 00:44:23.699 oh, 00:44:23.719 --> 00:44:24.340 we're doing everything 00:44:24.340 --> 00:44:24.619 we can. 00:44:24.679 --> 00:44:24.880 I'm like, 00:44:24.920 --> 00:44:25.119 listen, 00:44:25.400 --> 00:44:26.739 that's fine 00:44:26.739 --> 00:44:28.300 but what you're doing 00:44:28.300 --> 00:44:28.960 isn't enough 00:44:28.960 --> 00:44:30.380 and so you're either 00:44:30.380 --> 00:44:30.800 telling me 00:44:30.800 --> 00:44:31.480 you want me to go 00:44:31.480 --> 00:44:32.340 find another job 00:44:32.340 --> 00:44:33.480 because I need more money 00:44:33.480 --> 00:44:34.719 or you're going to 00:44:34.719 --> 00:44:35.380 make something happen. 00:44:35.460 --> 00:44:35.940 That's really what 00:44:35.940 --> 00:44:36.460 this is about. 00:44:36.559 --> 00:44:37.119 This is a business 00:44:37.119 --> 00:44:37.659 relationship. 00:44:38.360 --> 00:44:39.679 So let's just figure this out 00:44:39.679 --> 00:44:40.219 because that's why 00:44:40.219 --> 00:44:41.239 I work here, 00:44:41.679 --> 00:44:43.159 to pay my bills 00:44:43.159 --> 00:44:44.119 and to have a little extra 00:44:44.119 --> 00:44:44.679 so I can save 00:44:44.679 --> 00:44:45.159 for an emergency 00:44:45.159 --> 00:44:47.840 and so don't make it personal. 00:44:48.519 --> 00:44:49.039 We need to get 00:44:49.039 --> 00:44:49.860 our finances order. 00:44:49.960 --> 00:44:51.960 We need to get 00:44:51.960 --> 00:44:52.820 our life in order 00:44:52.820 --> 00:44:53.759 in a personal way 00:44:53.759 --> 00:44:54.960 by our maturity, 00:44:55.380 --> 00:44:56.320 by growing in maturity, 00:44:56.539 --> 00:44:57.559 not staying a child 00:44:57.559 --> 00:44:58.739 in specific areas, 00:45:00.019 --> 00:45:01.739 by being consistent, 00:45:03.420 --> 00:45:05.420 sometimes by leaving money 00:45:05.420 --> 00:45:06.019 on the table 00:45:06.019 --> 00:45:07.159 for other priorities. 00:45:08.099 --> 00:45:09.300 Sometimes the temptation 00:45:09.300 --> 00:45:10.119 isn't to live 00:45:10.119 --> 00:45:10.880 beyond our means, 00:45:10.980 --> 00:45:11.960 sometimes the temptation 00:45:11.960 --> 00:45:14.039 is all the opportunities 00:45:14.039 --> 00:45:15.000 to make more money 00:45:15.000 --> 00:45:15.920 when it would take time 00:45:15.920 --> 00:45:16.780 away from the things 00:45:16.780 --> 00:45:17.460 that we need to bring 00:45:17.460 --> 00:45:18.480 order and leadership 00:45:18.480 --> 00:45:19.480 to in our families. 00:45:20.320 --> 00:45:20.980 Sometimes you've got 00:45:20.980 --> 00:45:21.400 to leave money 00:45:21.400 --> 00:45:21.880 on the table 00:45:21.880 --> 00:45:22.559 to bring order 00:45:22.559 --> 00:45:23.579 to your life 00:45:23.579 --> 00:45:24.280 and to your family. 00:45:24.820 --> 00:45:25.480 You need to look 00:45:25.480 --> 00:45:26.159 for these things. 00:45:26.940 --> 00:45:27.679 In conclusion, 00:45:28.519 --> 00:45:29.619 what's your plan? 00:45:30.980 --> 00:45:31.639 What's your plan 00:45:31.639 --> 00:45:32.199 to bring order? 00:45:33.300 --> 00:45:34.240 If you know 00:45:34.240 --> 00:45:35.079 that there's a particular 00:45:35.079 --> 00:45:35.880 area where you need 00:45:35.880 --> 00:45:36.400 to bring order 00:45:36.400 --> 00:45:36.900 in your life, 00:45:37.219 --> 00:45:38.059 what's your plan? 00:45:39.099 --> 00:45:39.260 Okay? 00:45:39.860 --> 00:45:41.079 Do your brothers 00:45:41.079 --> 00:45:42.320 and sisters know your plan? 00:45:42.400 --> 00:45:43.000 Does your spouse 00:45:43.000 --> 00:45:43.679 know your plan? 00:45:44.079 --> 00:45:44.740 Is it clear? 00:45:45.280 --> 00:45:46.079 Is it realistic? 00:45:46.800 --> 00:45:47.760 Has it been tested? 00:45:47.760 --> 00:45:49.140 What's your plan? 00:45:50.020 --> 00:45:51.020 Let's get into order. 00:45:51.760 --> 00:45:53.000 I close with 2 Timothy 2, 00:45:53.040 --> 00:45:53.900 20 to 21. 00:45:54.220 --> 00:45:55.100 Now in a great house, 00:45:55.800 --> 00:45:56.200 which are not only 00:45:56.200 --> 00:45:57.080 vessels of gold 00:45:57.080 --> 00:45:58.040 and silver, 00:45:58.320 --> 00:45:59.400 but also of wood 00:45:59.400 --> 00:45:59.820 and clay. 00:46:01.700 --> 00:46:03.180 Some for honorable use, 00:46:03.820 --> 00:46:04.880 some for dishonorable. 00:46:05.600 --> 00:46:05.820 Therefore, 00:46:05.960 --> 00:46:06.780 if anyone cleanses 00:46:06.780 --> 00:46:07.520 himself from what 00:46:07.520 --> 00:46:07.760 is dishonorable, 00:46:08.840 --> 00:46:09.620 he will be a vessel 00:46:09.620 --> 00:46:10.760 for honorable use, 00:46:11.160 --> 00:46:12.220 set apart as holy, 00:46:12.640 --> 00:46:13.560 useful to the master 00:46:13.560 --> 00:46:14.140 of the house, 00:46:14.600 --> 00:46:16.360 ready for every good work. 00:46:16.360 --> 00:46:18.140 The way we become 00:46:18.140 --> 00:46:18.940 vessels of honor 00:46:18.940 --> 00:46:20.320 is bringing our homes, 00:46:20.900 --> 00:46:21.480 our households, 00:46:21.640 --> 00:46:22.599 our lives into order. 00:46:22.820 --> 00:46:23.019 Amen? 00:46:23.700 --> 00:46:24.740 Let's be vessels of honor 00:46:24.740 --> 00:46:25.880 that God wants us to be. 00:46:26.539 --> 00:46:27.579 I'm going to close in 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