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 So I'd love to see how the church,

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 it's actually been, I think, a year since I've been here,

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 and you've grown so much.

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 And there's all these up-and-coming leaders

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 going through training,

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 and Sean's doing a great job there.

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 And so I'm just excited to see what God has for you.

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 And you're starting to outgrow this facility,

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 which has been a great facility for you.

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 And so I'm praying for you guys regularly,

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 and I'm just happy to be here again.

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 And hopefully next time it won't be quite so long.

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 Maybe I'll visit in the spring or something.

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 Anyway, you've been in a series on Ephesians.

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 And I hope what you've been, I trust,

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 and I'm sure you have.

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 I haven't listened to the sermons, though.

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 But Paul in Ephesians is hammering home

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 salvation by grace through faith in Christ, right?

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 He's talking about the unity of the church

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 and peace with God.

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 And he's talking about gifts.

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 Our gifts are for mutual edification.

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 And he talks about our new life in Christ.

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 And so he moves from gospel truths

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 to gospel attitudes and actions.

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 And so we are motivated by grace and love,

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 by the gospel,

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 not by a set of rules or law or legalism.

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 Now, I am going to focus my comments

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 primarily addressing verses 22 to the end,

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 but I had 18 to 21 read, really,

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 so that you get the context of what he's talking about here.

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 And so here we continue in the motivation

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 for gospel attitudes and actions

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 and not a call to observe commandments.

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 Let me pray, and we'll commit this time to the Lord.

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 Father, we thank you for your word.

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 Thank you that it is good.

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 Thank you that it is true,

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 that we can trust in it.

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 And when we're face to face with it, Lord,

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 help us to heed it

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 and not inject our own culture

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 or preconceived notions into it, Lord,

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 but to hear from you,

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 hear what your word truly says,

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 that we would change our minds

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 based on your word

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 and not to change the word based on our minds, Lord.

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 Help us to be shaped by it.

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 And Holy Spirit,

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 we ask that you would come and fill us now

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 as I know you are present, Lord.

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 We ask for your help in changing.

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 Lord, when we hear the word,

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 we want to be changed by your word.

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 And it is your Holy Spirit that can do that.

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 So we ask, Holy Spirit,

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 come and change us this morning.

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 We pray this in Jesus' name.

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 Amen.

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 In 2013, a shoe company

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 started promoting this new management structure.

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 It was called Holacracy.

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 Maybe you heard it.

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 Maybe you haven't.

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 This was an idea to get rid of hierarchy in the workplace.

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 So get rid of all the managers,

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 no bosses, no titles, nothing like that.

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 Instead, workers would track their decision

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 through this internal web app.

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 Back then, the news reported on it

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 and they hailed,

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 oh, this is a great idea.

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 Everyone reporting on it said,

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 oh, they loved it

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 and gave a defense for why it was great

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 and why it would work.

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 And people really hailed it

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 as the end of hierarchy in the workplace.

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 And this was going to change

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 the way society did business.

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 Now, fast forward to last year, 2016.

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 Employees are leaving this shoe company.

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 Employees reported that there was chaos

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 in the company.

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 They didn't know how to get things done anymore.

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 They actually reported that they wanted a boss

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 so that they could run ideas by

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 and decisions by.

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 And the reason for that

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 is because hierarchy in business

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 promotes order.

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 The structure of manager and worker,

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 that promotes order

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 so that you can get things done,

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 so that you can work together.

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 Now, this isn't to say

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 that everything about this idea was bad.

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 I'm not saying that.

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 But I say this to show that

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 it is important to have some kind of hierarchy

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 in business and as well in all relationships.

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 Our God is a God of order.

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 It's part of who God is.

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 And he's the one that everything

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 and everyone is subject to.

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 It really could be no other way.

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 We are to submit to God

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 because he is the one that created the universe.

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 And so he gets to make the rules.

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 And he is worthy of obeying.

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 And actually, there's joy in obedience to him.

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 So we are to be filled with the Spirit,

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 as it says in verse 18.

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 Part of that being filled with the Spirit

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 is addressing one another in song.

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 That's a whole other sermon.

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 I don't know if you've preached on that.

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 It's a great sermon.

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 Bob Coughlin also has a fantastic sermon

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 sermon on singing to one another.

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 That's part of what we do.

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 Not only singing to God,

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 but to singing to one another

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 as we're reminding each other

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 the truths of the gospel.

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 But that's a different sermon.

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 Part of it is giving thanks to God always.

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 That could be its own sermon too.

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 And then we come to this.

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 Part of it is submitting to one another

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 out of reverence for Christ.

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 So if you've been filled with the Spirit,

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 and really every Christian should endeavor

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 to be filled with the Spirit,

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 every Christian has received the Spirit,

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 you can ask the Spirit to fill you as well

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 and change you.

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 And if you've been filled with the Spirit,

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 you will bring glory to Jesus.

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 That's my main point this morning.

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 Be filled with the Spirit,

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 and you will show reverence for Christ.

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 You'll bring him honor.

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 You'll bring him glory.

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 Be filled with the Spirit,

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 and you will show reverence for Christ.

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 Now, Paul introduces the next three sections

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 with verse 21.

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 Some translations begin a new sentence here,

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 saying,

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 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

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 And then 22, verse 22,

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 begins a section on husbands and wives.

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 And chapter 6, verse 1,

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 begins a section on children and parents.

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 And then 6, 5,

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 begins a section on bond servants and masters.

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 The gospel has a profound effect on our relationships,

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 not just the ones listed here specifically,

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 those wives and husbands,

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 children and parents,

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 bond servants and masters,

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 but really, generally,

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 all towards all our brothers and sisters in Christ,

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 as well,

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 towards unbelievers,

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 towards those outside of the church.

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 The Spirit changes the way that we interact with each other.

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 And we have joy.

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 We have humility towards one another.

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 Really, we want to put this on,

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 being filled with the Spirit,

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 so that we are not asserting our desires and opinions

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 and preferences over others,

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 but we are making others more important than ourselves.

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 So here we are in this first section,

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 wives and husbands.

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 This isn't a particularly popular scripture in our culture.

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 It's not even really popular in our churches many times.

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 I think one reason is maybe somewhat of a good reason.

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 There have been many abuses of this doctrine

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 or misinterpretation of this doctrine

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 so that it produces like this self-centered chauvinism

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 or misogyny towards women.

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 And that is not what we want to represent.

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 We want to hold women in high regard and respect.

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 And on the other side,

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 we have a reaction against this doctrine

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 that is radical feminism,

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 one that seeks to even go so far

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 as to make women as more capable than men,

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 more valuable than men.

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 And that's not where we want to go either.

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 We want to be biblically minded.

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 And so this doctrine is often viewed

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 that because there are different roles,

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 there is inequality.

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 As one is the man is the head,

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 the husband is the head.

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 And so the one who submits,

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 the wife,

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 must be inferior.

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 No, that's far from the truth.

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 There are different roles.

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 And you can see this really in many relationships.

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 You have temporary roles.

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 Like if you go to somebody's house for dinner,

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 you actually submit to them, right?

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 You defer to them.

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 They make the decisions on what to have for dinner.

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 You may ask,

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 hey, what can I bring for dinner?

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 And typically you'll say,

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 oh yeah, I can bring that.

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 Or if you don't,

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 you ask politely,

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 oh, I don't think I could do that.

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 Could I bring this or that?

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 So really you're deferring to them.

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 That's a very temporary thing

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 and a very natural thing

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 that you would submit

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 to somebody who's hosting dinner.

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 And as well in the workplace, right?

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 You have a boss that you submit to.

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 You have a good working relationship with them,

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 I hope,

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 that a manager helps you to do your work well.

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 And so we have the church relationships as well.

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 You submit to your pastors

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 and to maybe your small group leader

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 or other ministry team leaders.

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 This is a natural thing that you submit to.

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 And as well,

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 we want to promote this in the home.

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 The husband is the head,

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 the wife submits.

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 And as a church,

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 we must be faithful to scripture,

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 not skipping over this part

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 or ignoring it because we don't like it.

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 But I think if we delve into it,

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 not just will we tolerate this doctrine,

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 but we will come to love it

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 and it will become encouraging to us.

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 Submission really is a beautiful thing to God

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 and it should be a beautiful thing to us.

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 Let's read in verse 22.

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 Wives,

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 Wives,

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 submit to your own husbands as to the Lord,

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 for the husband is head of the wife,

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 even as Christ is the head of the church,

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 his body,

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 and is himself its savior.

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 Now as the church submits to Christ,

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 so also wives should submit in everything

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 to their husbands.

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 So my first point here is

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 wives submitting to husbands

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 is a reflection of the church submitting to Christ.

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 A wife submitting to her husband

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 is a reflection of Christ submitting to the church.

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 And some preachers and commentators

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 have used other words to describe this,

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 such as subjugation or subordination.

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 And I don't think they're understanding

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 of the verses necessarily any different than ours,

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 just because they use a different word.

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 But because I am personally uncomfortable

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 with those words,

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 just because in the modern English

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 they carry some baggage with them.

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 And so the word that I prefer is submit.

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 And that is the language that the ESV has chosen

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 to represent that idea as well.

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 But don't,

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 what I'm saying is

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 don't react against the words

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 subjugation and subordination.

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 If you're reading a commentary

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 or hearing a preacher,

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 they may not necessarily be meaning

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 anything different than we are here.

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 but it's just a word choice often.

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 So I prefer the word submit.

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 Really, it's the same word Paul uses in verse 21.

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 Submit yourselves to one another

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 out of reverence for Christ.

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 And this is speaking to all Christians.

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 And so this specific instance

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 of wives submitting to husbands

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 is grounded in submitting to one another,

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 which really in turn is grounded

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 in being filled with the Spirit.

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 So indeed, we are bond servants to Christ.

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 Once we were slaves to sin,

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 now we are slaves to Christ.

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 And so we submit to Christ willingly.

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 Submission should not be a foreign word

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 or action to us.

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 It shouldn't be repulsive

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 or something that we need to shy away from.

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 As I said, at the workplace,

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 you submit to your manager.

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 If you have employees that you manage,

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 they submit to you.

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 And if you work alone,

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 maybe you're your own boss,

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 you're the only one there,

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 you still submit to the government.

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 They have regulations and taxes you must pay,

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 and so you must submit to them.

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 And actually, in this country,

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 there's really nobody in this country

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 who does not submit to another person.

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 Even the president must submit

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 to the Supreme Court decisions, thankfully.

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 In our lives, we submit to Christ.

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 The church submits to its pastor.

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 We submit to each other.

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 It's a working together for the gospel.

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 And now, we don't really have a problem

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 with the concept of submitting to Christ, right?

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 Wives, let me ask you this.

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 Is it difficult to submit to your husband?

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 And ask yourself, why is it difficult?

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 Certainly, I know one reason.

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 I'm very aware of this.

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 Your husband is not Christ.

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 He's not perfect.

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 I am not a perfect husband.

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 Far from it.

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 And I know that makes it harder to submit, right?

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 But you know what?

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 Even if your husband was Christ,

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 even if he was perfect,

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 you would not be able to submit perfectly, right?

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 There's this, we are sinners.

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 And we rebel against doing what is right often.

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 And we're far from perfect.

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 We will be made perfect when we get to heaven.

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 And then we will submit perfectly.

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 And, but let me, let's everyone look at it.

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 I don't want this to, you to feel like,

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 oh, I'm not married,

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 so this passage isn't for me.

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 No, this is for everyone.

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 And everyone can learn from this.

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 Look at your relationship with God.

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 We really do have a problem with submitting to Christ.

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 Every time we give in to sin,

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 we are throwing off the yoke

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 and committing that same sin

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 that Adam and Eve committed.

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 We want to be our own king and God.

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 We don't want to be told what to do.

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 But Jesus, Jesus said,

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 what about this yoke?

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 He said the yoke is easy to bear

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 and the burden is light.

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 The culture sees yoke of submission as slavery, really.

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 It's a tiresome and difficult burden to bear,

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 one that no one should have to do.

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 But to the ox,

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 the yoke is like it's work clothes.

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 Now, I work right down the street at Akamai.

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 Next door, we're building this brand new facility.

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 And I see the workers out there every day.

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 They have their work clothes all yellow.

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 And they have these big giant boots on

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 because there's so much mud that they're digging into

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 because the water table is like this deep, you know.

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 And they put on their work clothes.

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 It's what they work.

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 I wore this because I thought it would be appropriate for today.

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 I'm thankful that Sovereign Grace

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 is not really about the suit and tie thing.

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 But you put on your work clothes.

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 That's what the yoke is like.

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 Now, some yokes are difficult and don't quite fit right.

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 Others are made especially and specifically for the animal.

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 But God's yoke, God's yoke for us,

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 is specifically fit for just what you need.

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 That doesn't mean your marriage is going to be perfect.

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 That doesn't mean every relationship you have

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 is going to be perfect.

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 But what God has called you to

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 is just meant for what you need.

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 The difficulties that arise are for your good

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 and to shape you.

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 So God has called us to put on a yoke,

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 some to lead and some to follow,

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 but all to work together.

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 And this is a situation where maybe the stronger one

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 is trying to pull ahead,

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 and that's going to be hard.

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 That's going to make problems for the team.

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 Or if one is lagging behind,

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 that's going to be a problem for the team.

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 You both must work together in their own roles.

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 And yet one is always the lead.

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 So the yoke that Christ has given

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 is not just a burden,

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 but it is a gift.

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 And we should view this relationship

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 of submission and leadership as a gift.

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 So we put it on,

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 and there is work to be done together.

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 Submitting to God together,

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 joyfully working for God's glory

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 through the gospel,

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 bringing the gospel to bear in our lives

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 and in the church and outside the church.

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 telling others about Jesus.

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 This is how we do it.

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 We work together.

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 So let me get into a little bit of application here

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 in this first point.

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 This is not just for married people,

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 so keep on listening.

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 But first I will address the married.

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 I'm not going to tell you exactly

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 how your marriage should look

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 because people are different,

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 relationships are different,

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 it's not a one-size-fits-all kind of thing.

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 But Paul is encouraging wives

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 to lovingly submit to husbands,

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 not begrudgingly,

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 not with complaining,

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 but with joy,

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 like the church submits to Christ,

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 or like the church is supposed to submit to Christ.

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 Verse 24 says,

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 Now as the church submits to Christ,

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 so also wives should submit

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 in everything to their husbands.

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 Now a question for you, wives.

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 Does your husband agree

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 that you are walking this out?

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 Not perfectly.

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 No.

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 But are you walking it?

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 Are you growing in this?

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 Joyfully, not begrudgingly,

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 not with complaining.

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 Now,

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 I have to bring up,

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 what if your husband is not a Christian?

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 Or what if your husband is a very difficult man?

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 And that's a situation that a number of wives,

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 I know in our church,

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 are struggling with.

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 And that is,

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 I agree,

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 is a difficult situation to work out.

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 And yet,

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 Paul is still calling you

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 to submit to your husband,

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 even if he's not a Christian.

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 In that way,

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 may God bless that relationship.

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 And maybe God will use that submission

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 to bring the husband around.

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 But I would encourage you,

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 if that is your situation,

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 talk with your small group leaders,

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 talk with your pastors

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 and other leaders in the church.

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 Because every situation is different.

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 And that's not one

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 that I can particularly address

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 from the pulpit.

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 But it is one that we want to work on

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 and join together.

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 And we want to follow Scripture on,

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 even when it is difficult.

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 And really,

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 this is something,

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 this is something that we need

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 the Holy Spirit to fill us with.

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 Wives,

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 you need the Spirit

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 in order to submit to your husband.

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 I know it's not always easy,

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 especially,

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 I know myself,

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 your husband may not be the perfect man.

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 And he may not lead in the best ways.

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 But ask God to help you.

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 And for the Spirit to strengthen you,

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 to have joy,

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 to submit joyfully,

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 even when the one who leads you

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 is not the perfect example to submit to.

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 Now, I will say,

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 number two,

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 this does not mean subjugation

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 or oppression of women.

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 Our culture has not always been

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 like it is now.

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 And we're not desiring

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 to return to any age

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 where women couldn't vote

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 or own land

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 or were treated as property

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 or slaves

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 or when female workers

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 were treated unfairly

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 in the workplace.

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 And actually,

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 some of that still exists.

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 It's better than it was.

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 And hopefully,

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 in 10 years

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 and in 20 years,

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 things will get better.

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 And I would agree,

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 that is a great goal to have.

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 And there was often

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 rampant sexism

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 in the workplace.

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 And some of that still exists,

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 especially different segments

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 of the business sector

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 still have issues with that.

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 And I pray that that would cease.

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 I pray that that would go away

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 because that is not coming

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 from this doctrine.

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 That would not be

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 what we're wanting.

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 That is a disrespect of women.

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 But the alternative here

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 doesn't need to be militant feminism.

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 It needs to be biblical femininity.

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 One that reflects

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 and is obedient to this passage even.

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 One that is shaped by the word

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 and not by our preconceived notions.

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 Not one that is shaped

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 and founded in the culture,

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 but one is founded in Scripture.

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 And so, wives,

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 it needs to look like that.

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 Men, it needs to look like that.

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 Not with,

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 maybe you grew up as a chauvinist.

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 Well, now you have Christ.

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 So you need to put that off

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 and put respect for women on.

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 Men,

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 it doesn't mean that we tell our wives to do.

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 Men, I'm going to have you turn

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 to Proverbs 31.

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 I mean, you can all turn there,

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 but I really want the men

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 especially to go with me here.

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 So Psalms is right in the middle

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 of your Bible.

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 Proverbs,

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 and we're going to go

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 to the end of Proverbs,

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 Proverbs 31.

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 Verse 10.

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 I want you to pay attention, men.

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 This is what a woman looks like.

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 An excellent wife who can find.

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 She is far more precious than jewels.

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 The heart of her husband trusts in her,

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 and he will have no lack of gain.

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 She does him good

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 and not harm all the days of her life.

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 She seeks wool and flax

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 and works with willing hands.

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 She is like the ship of the merchant.

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 She brings her food from afar.

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 She rises while it is yet night

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 and provides food for her household

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 and portions for her maidens.

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 She considers a field

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 and buys it.

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 With the fruit of her hands,

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 she plants a vineyard.

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 Now, of course,

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 that's a great women's study,

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 and often women do study this passage,

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 and that's a good thing.

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 I think men should study

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 this passage as well.

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 You see that last part right there?

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 She considers a field

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 and she buys it.

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 She does this without consulting her husband,

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 and it's shown to be a good thing.

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 Look at the level of trust

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 that the husband has for this woman.

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 Look how the writer respects this woman.

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 Now, of course,

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 this is the ideal woman,

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 and wives don't feel like,

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 oh, I need to be this

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 in order to joyfully submit,

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 in order to actually serve my husband.

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 I need to work this out perfectly.

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 No, this is the ideal.

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 We're aiming for this.

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 But husbands, listen,

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 it is your job

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 to help your wife grow

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 so that she becomes

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 like this woman.

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 Now, this field was significant.

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 It was a significant purchase,

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 and she made this purchase

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 all on her own.

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 This is a task

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 that this woman has,

00:24:01.319 --> 00:24:02.759
 and we live in this age

00:24:02.759 --> 00:24:03.539
 of communication

00:24:03.539 --> 00:24:05.259
 where we're constantly communicating.

00:24:05.259 --> 00:24:06.059
 So I'm not saying

00:24:06.059 --> 00:24:07.599
 that you should stop communicating

00:24:07.599 --> 00:24:08.859
 and wives just go out

00:24:08.859 --> 00:24:09.859
 and make big purchases

00:24:09.859 --> 00:24:10.539
 all the time.

00:24:10.640 --> 00:24:11.819
 No, I'm not saying that.

00:24:14.180 --> 00:24:15.500
 The point here

00:24:15.500 --> 00:24:16.900
 is that there is a trust

00:24:16.900 --> 00:24:18.440
 and there is a responsibility,

00:24:18.440 --> 00:24:19.859
 and really,

00:24:20.000 --> 00:24:21.700
 women in many circles today

00:24:21.700 --> 00:24:22.799
 have really lost

00:24:22.799 --> 00:24:24.579
 some of that responsibility

00:24:24.579 --> 00:24:26.180
 and that decision-making

00:24:26.180 --> 00:24:27.180
 and, indeed, trust.

00:24:27.180 --> 00:24:31.480
 I want to recapture that a bit.

00:24:31.720 --> 00:24:32.759
 I don't know how that will look

00:24:32.759 --> 00:24:34.720
 in your relationships

00:24:34.720 --> 00:24:36.600
 and with your husband,

00:24:37.200 --> 00:24:39.460
 but I do think

00:24:39.460 --> 00:24:40.980
 that this is showing

00:24:40.980 --> 00:24:42.700
 a very capable woman, right?

00:24:43.519 --> 00:24:44.620
 We want our wives

00:24:44.620 --> 00:24:45.340
 to be capable

00:24:45.340 --> 00:24:46.500
 and feel the freedom

00:24:46.500 --> 00:24:47.600
 to make decisions

00:24:47.600 --> 00:24:50.140
 and to carry out responsibilities

00:24:50.140 --> 00:24:52.980
 because they are capable

00:24:52.980 --> 00:24:54.620
 and they are responsible.

00:24:56.620 --> 00:24:58.320
 And I submit to you, husbands,

00:24:58.480 --> 00:25:00.320
 that if you lack trust

00:25:00.320 --> 00:25:00.960
 and respect

00:25:00.960 --> 00:25:01.720
 and admiration

00:25:01.720 --> 00:25:02.400
 for your wife

00:25:02.400 --> 00:25:04.240
 as this husband

00:25:04.240 --> 00:25:06.000
 does in Proverbs 31,

00:25:06.420 --> 00:25:08.920
 I submit that you're not loving her

00:25:08.920 --> 00:25:11.380
 as Christ loved the church.

00:25:11.780 --> 00:25:12.220
 Husbands,

00:25:12.340 --> 00:25:14.900
 we need to receive godly wisdom

00:25:14.900 --> 00:25:16.060
 and correction from our wives.

00:25:16.059 --> 00:25:17.859
 We need to place trust

00:25:17.859 --> 00:25:18.879
 in our wives

00:25:18.879 --> 00:25:20.179
 to carry out these things

00:25:20.179 --> 00:25:21.059
 and help our wives

00:25:21.059 --> 00:25:22.419
 become the woman

00:25:22.419 --> 00:25:23.319
 that they can be.

00:25:25.579 --> 00:25:27.379
 I receive correction

00:25:27.379 --> 00:25:30.200
 and observations from Megan.

00:25:30.539 --> 00:25:31.700
 It is so helpful.

00:25:31.779 --> 00:25:33.079
 It's indispensable to me.

00:25:33.179 --> 00:25:35.099
 I wouldn't be the husband that I am.

00:25:35.159 --> 00:25:36.539
 I wouldn't be the father that I am.

00:25:36.700 --> 00:25:37.819
 I wouldn't be the pastor.

00:25:37.919 --> 00:25:39.559
 I may not be a pastor at all

00:25:39.559 --> 00:25:40.960
 if it weren't for Megan.

00:25:41.440 --> 00:25:43.079
 I had desires before I met her,

00:25:43.220 --> 00:25:45.399
 but she helped and changed me.

00:25:45.400 --> 00:25:46.620
 She offered correction.

00:25:47.180 --> 00:25:48.920
 She's praised for me regularly.

00:25:50.380 --> 00:25:51.360
 And through those prayers,

00:25:51.460 --> 00:25:52.360
 I can point to you

00:25:52.360 --> 00:25:53.340
 a number of times

00:25:53.340 --> 00:25:54.519
 that God,

00:25:55.160 --> 00:25:56.019
 she didn't even talk to me

00:25:56.019 --> 00:25:57.200
 about what she was praying about,

00:25:57.280 --> 00:25:57.980
 but she prayed

00:25:57.980 --> 00:26:00.560
 and God changed my mind

00:26:00.560 --> 00:26:01.240
 about something.

00:26:02.940 --> 00:26:03.280
 So,

00:26:03.560 --> 00:26:05.440
 I love my wife.

00:26:06.080 --> 00:26:06.400
 Her input

00:26:07.300 --> 00:26:09.460
 and her joining me

00:26:09.460 --> 00:26:10.060
 in this team

00:26:10.060 --> 00:26:11.740
 is indispensable to me.

00:26:13.759 --> 00:26:14.860
 Now, to everyone,

00:26:15.400 --> 00:26:16.880
 it's beautiful

00:26:16.880 --> 00:26:18.780
 when you see reverence for Christ,

00:26:18.860 --> 00:26:19.640
 submitting to one another,

00:26:19.780 --> 00:26:20.480
 whether that be

00:26:20.480 --> 00:26:21.780
 the husband and wife relationship

00:26:21.780 --> 00:26:23.560
 or other relationships.

00:26:23.740 --> 00:26:24.720
 It's a beautiful thing

00:26:24.720 --> 00:26:25.940
 when we're submitting

00:26:25.940 --> 00:26:26.580
 to one another

00:26:26.580 --> 00:26:27.759
 out of reverence for Christ.

00:26:28.780 --> 00:26:29.820
 The world sees

00:26:29.820 --> 00:26:31.040
 everyone trying to fight

00:26:31.040 --> 00:26:31.900
 for their own,

00:26:33.000 --> 00:26:34.740
 but when you see

00:26:34.740 --> 00:26:35.519
 godly marriages,

00:26:36.180 --> 00:26:37.740
 be reminded of your place

00:26:37.740 --> 00:26:39.200
 in the bride of Christ.

00:26:39.580 --> 00:26:40.759
 We submit to each other

00:26:40.759 --> 00:26:41.560
 out of love,

00:26:41.780 --> 00:26:43.060
 and we submit to Christ

00:26:43.059 --> 00:26:43.119
 Christ,

00:26:43.799 --> 00:26:44.919
 out of love.

00:26:46.599 --> 00:26:47.460
 And the husband and wife

00:26:47.460 --> 00:26:48.359
 is just one example.

00:26:48.799 --> 00:26:49.940
 Now, to the unmarried,

00:26:50.940 --> 00:26:53.000
 rather than pining

00:26:53.000 --> 00:26:54.139
 to be married,

00:26:54.259 --> 00:26:54.839
 as I know,

00:26:55.039 --> 00:26:55.279
 some,

00:26:55.379 --> 00:26:55.679
 some,

00:26:55.879 --> 00:26:56.279
 some,

00:26:56.279 --> 00:26:57.980
 it's a difficult situation.

00:26:58.099 --> 00:26:58.819
 Sometimes you want

00:26:58.819 --> 00:26:59.399
 to be married,

00:26:59.480 --> 00:27:00.500
 but you're not.

00:27:00.819 --> 00:27:01.559
 Or maybe you're happy

00:27:01.559 --> 00:27:02.279
 not being married.

00:27:02.359 --> 00:27:03.440
 That's a good thing, too.

00:27:03.440 --> 00:27:06.799
 Well, know that,

00:27:07.660 --> 00:27:08.519
 know that,

00:27:08.640 --> 00:27:09.860
 and find joy

00:27:09.860 --> 00:27:10.519
 in the fact that

00:27:10.519 --> 00:27:12.039
 you are married to Christ.

00:27:12.580 --> 00:27:13.539
 He loves you more

00:27:13.539 --> 00:27:14.279
 than any husband

00:27:14.279 --> 00:27:15.920
 or wife could ever love you.

00:27:16.440 --> 00:27:17.799
 You are complete

00:27:17.799 --> 00:27:19.080
 in Christ already.

00:27:19.200 --> 00:27:20.080
 You don't need a spouse

00:27:20.080 --> 00:27:21.160
 to be complete,

00:27:21.420 --> 00:27:22.620
 to work for God,

00:27:22.740 --> 00:27:24.779
 and to work in your life.

00:27:24.940 --> 00:27:26.100
 You need the church body.

00:27:27.320 --> 00:27:28.259
 And he has called you,

00:27:28.340 --> 00:27:29.180
 at least for the time being,

00:27:29.180 --> 00:27:30.180
 to serve him unhindered.

00:27:31.120 --> 00:27:31.559
 God says,

00:27:31.700 --> 00:27:32.200
 and you don't have to

00:27:32.200 --> 00:27:32.680
 turn with me,

00:27:32.740 --> 00:27:33.680
 but God says in

00:27:33.680 --> 00:27:36.039
 verse Corinthians 7, 32,

00:27:36.279 --> 00:27:37.319
 I want you to be free

00:27:37.319 --> 00:27:38.100
 from anxieties.

00:27:38.240 --> 00:27:39.080
 The unmarried man

00:27:39.080 --> 00:27:40.559
 is anxious about

00:27:40.559 --> 00:27:41.640
 the things of the Lord,

00:27:42.059 --> 00:27:43.140
 how to please the Lord.

00:27:43.580 --> 00:27:44.500
 But the married man

00:27:44.500 --> 00:27:45.259
 is anxious about

00:27:45.259 --> 00:27:46.000
 worldly things,

00:27:46.059 --> 00:27:46.980
 how to please his wife.

00:27:47.200 --> 00:27:48.019
 And the interests

00:27:48.019 --> 00:27:48.660
 are divided.

00:27:48.840 --> 00:27:50.580
 The unmarried or betrothed woman

00:27:50.580 --> 00:27:51.319
 is anxious about

00:27:51.319 --> 00:27:53.019
 the things of the Lord,

00:27:54.019 --> 00:27:55.120
 how to be holy

00:27:55.120 --> 00:27:56.039
 in body and spirit.

00:27:56.220 --> 00:27:57.140
 But the married woman

00:27:57.140 --> 00:27:57.900
 is anxious about

00:27:57.900 --> 00:27:58.559
 worldly things,

00:27:58.559 --> 00:28:00.019
 how to please her husband.

00:28:01.039 --> 00:28:01.460
 And then, of course,

00:28:01.460 --> 00:28:02.420
 Paul goes on to say

00:28:02.420 --> 00:28:03.799
 that yes, marriage is good

00:28:03.799 --> 00:28:06.360
 and that that's good too.

00:28:06.720 --> 00:28:07.940
 So both of these things

00:28:07.940 --> 00:28:08.360
 are good,

00:28:08.400 --> 00:28:09.240
 whether you're married

00:28:09.240 --> 00:28:10.100
 or not married.

00:28:11.019 --> 00:28:12.059
 Find joy

00:28:12.059 --> 00:28:14.279
 where God has you right now.

00:28:15.039 --> 00:28:16.100
 Be filled with the Spirit

00:28:16.100 --> 00:28:17.180
 and let there be joy

00:28:17.180 --> 00:28:18.779
 in submitting in those roles

00:28:18.779 --> 00:28:19.920
 that you are called to submit.

00:28:20.920 --> 00:28:21.680
 So then,

00:28:21.960 --> 00:28:22.700
 Paul transitions

00:28:22.700 --> 00:28:23.880
 to addressing the men.

00:28:24.680 --> 00:28:25.960
 And he doesn't tell them

00:28:25.960 --> 00:28:26.900
 to rule well

00:28:26.900 --> 00:28:28.079
 or be orderly.

00:28:28.579 --> 00:28:29.420
 What does he say?

00:28:29.420 --> 00:28:31.039
 He tells husbands

00:28:31.039 --> 00:28:32.460
 to love.

00:28:34.800 --> 00:28:36.900
 Let's read in verse 25.

00:28:37.600 --> 00:28:37.960
 Husbands,

00:28:38.120 --> 00:28:38.960
 love your wives

00:28:38.960 --> 00:28:41.140
 as Christ loved the church

00:28:41.140 --> 00:28:43.539
 and gave himself up for her,

00:28:44.400 --> 00:28:45.820
 that he might sanctify her,

00:28:45.920 --> 00:28:46.680
 having cleansed her

00:28:46.680 --> 00:28:48.080
 by the washing of water

00:28:48.080 --> 00:28:48.680
 with the word,

00:28:48.779 --> 00:28:49.720
 so that he might present

00:28:49.720 --> 00:28:50.779
 the church to himself

00:28:50.779 --> 00:28:51.640
 in splendor,

00:28:51.700 --> 00:28:52.779
 without spot or wrinkle

00:28:52.779 --> 00:28:53.840
 or any such thing,

00:28:53.980 --> 00:28:55.340
 that she might be holy

00:28:55.340 --> 00:28:56.500
 and without blemish.

00:28:56.840 --> 00:28:57.660
 In the same way,

00:28:57.759 --> 00:28:58.779
 husbands should love

00:28:58.779 --> 00:28:59.399
 their wives

00:28:59.399 --> 00:29:00.639
 as their own bodies.

00:29:01.079 --> 00:29:02.299
 He who loves his wife

00:29:02.299 --> 00:29:03.339
 loves himself,

00:29:04.039 --> 00:29:05.359
 for no one ever hated

00:29:05.359 --> 00:29:05.980
 his own flesh

00:29:05.980 --> 00:29:06.519
 but nourishes

00:29:06.519 --> 00:29:07.799
 and cherishes it

00:29:07.799 --> 00:29:09.319
 just as Christ does

00:29:09.319 --> 00:29:09.819
 the church,

00:29:10.240 --> 00:29:11.500
 because we are members

00:29:11.500 --> 00:29:12.259
 of his body.

00:29:12.799 --> 00:29:13.119
 Therefore,

00:29:13.339 --> 00:29:14.299
 a man shall leave

00:29:14.299 --> 00:29:15.139
 his father and mother

00:29:15.139 --> 00:29:15.799
 and hold fast

00:29:15.799 --> 00:29:16.359
 to his wife,

00:29:16.460 --> 00:29:17.420
 and the two shall become

00:29:17.420 --> 00:29:18.859
 one flesh.

00:29:18.859 --> 00:29:23.740
 So I'm in my second point here.

00:29:23.979 --> 00:29:24.399
 Husbands,

00:29:24.539 --> 00:29:26.379
 sacrificially loving their wives

00:29:26.379 --> 00:29:28.779
 is a picture of Jesus' love

00:29:28.779 --> 00:29:29.679
 for the church.

00:29:30.399 --> 00:29:30.759
 Husbands,

00:29:30.919 --> 00:29:32.240
 sacrificially loving their wives,

00:29:32.299 --> 00:29:34.319
 it's a picture of Jesus' love

00:29:34.319 --> 00:29:35.500
 for the church.

00:29:35.759 --> 00:29:37.279
 This is to make the gospel

00:29:37.279 --> 00:29:39.259
 more real to us.

00:29:39.839 --> 00:29:41.699
 This is the institution

00:29:41.699 --> 00:29:42.859
 that God created

00:29:42.859 --> 00:29:44.859
 to reflect Christ

00:29:44.859 --> 00:29:45.779
 and his bride.

00:29:47.559 --> 00:29:48.039
 Husbands,

00:29:48.179 --> 00:29:48.899
 love your wives

00:29:48.899 --> 00:29:50.000
 as Christ loved the church,

00:29:50.059 --> 00:29:50.719
 verse 25,

00:29:50.879 --> 00:29:52.579
 and gave himself up for her.

00:29:52.799 --> 00:29:53.599
 This is a call

00:29:53.599 --> 00:29:54.359
 to the highest

00:29:54.359 --> 00:29:55.539
 kind of love,

00:29:55.639 --> 00:29:55.859
 men,

00:29:56.779 --> 00:29:58.519
 a self-sacrificing love.

00:29:58.779 --> 00:29:59.119
 Husbands,

00:29:59.240 --> 00:29:59.619
 you are called

00:29:59.619 --> 00:30:01.139
 not to just romantically

00:30:01.139 --> 00:30:02.359
 love your wife,

00:30:02.419 --> 00:30:04.119
 not just care for your wife,

00:30:04.199 --> 00:30:05.519
 but to love your wife

00:30:05.519 --> 00:30:06.039
 in such a way

00:30:06.039 --> 00:30:07.079
 that you sacrifice

00:30:07.079 --> 00:30:08.439
 and serve her.

00:30:08.440 --> 00:30:09.500
 This is maybe

00:30:09.500 --> 00:30:10.840
 the scariest verse

00:30:10.840 --> 00:30:11.380
 in the Bible

00:30:11.380 --> 00:30:12.600
 for husbands.

00:30:15.400 --> 00:30:15.880
 Now,

00:30:15.980 --> 00:30:16.279
 how?

00:30:16.519 --> 00:30:17.759
 How are we to do that?

00:30:17.860 --> 00:30:18.500
 Not just in,

00:30:18.799 --> 00:30:20.320
 we're not just to love

00:30:20.320 --> 00:30:20.820
 our wives

00:30:20.820 --> 00:30:21.820
 in any way

00:30:21.820 --> 00:30:22.640
 that she wants

00:30:22.640 --> 00:30:23.080
 or any way

00:30:23.080 --> 00:30:23.700
 that you want,

00:30:23.779 --> 00:30:24.480
 but specifically,

00:30:24.840 --> 00:30:25.559
 verse 26,

00:30:25.840 --> 00:30:27.400
 that he might sanctify her

00:30:27.400 --> 00:30:28.500
 having cleansed her

00:30:28.500 --> 00:30:29.860
 by the washing of water

00:30:29.860 --> 00:30:30.519
 with the words

00:30:30.519 --> 00:30:31.500
 so that he might present

00:30:31.500 --> 00:30:32.700
 the church to himself

00:30:32.700 --> 00:30:33.320
 in splendor

00:30:33.320 --> 00:30:33.980
 without spot

00:30:33.980 --> 00:30:34.640
 or wrinkle

00:30:34.640 --> 00:30:35.600
 or any such thing

00:30:35.600 --> 00:30:36.640
 that she might be holy

00:30:36.640 --> 00:30:38.080
 and without blemish.

00:30:38.440 --> 00:30:38.880
 Now,

00:30:38.940 --> 00:30:39.340
 obviously,

00:30:40.279 --> 00:30:40.920
 husbands,

00:30:41.120 --> 00:30:42.620
 we do not have the power

00:30:42.620 --> 00:30:43.340
 that Jesus did.

00:30:43.400 --> 00:30:44.279
 We cannot die

00:30:44.279 --> 00:30:45.140
 in order to take away

00:30:45.140 --> 00:30:47.160
 the sin of another person

00:30:47.160 --> 00:30:48.580
 because we ourselves

00:30:48.580 --> 00:30:49.420
 are sinners.

00:30:50.180 --> 00:30:51.539
 Jesus was the only

00:30:51.539 --> 00:30:53.240
 perfect one.

00:30:53.759 --> 00:30:54.700
 He's the only one

00:30:54.700 --> 00:30:55.420
 that can save.

00:30:55.720 --> 00:30:56.400
 He's the only one

00:30:56.400 --> 00:30:57.299
 that can truly forgive.

00:30:58.640 --> 00:31:00.400
 And if you don't know him

00:31:00.400 --> 00:31:01.279
 as your savior,

00:31:01.960 --> 00:31:03.220
 know that he died

00:31:03.220 --> 00:31:04.900
 in order to take away

00:31:04.900 --> 00:31:06.519
 the sins of the world.

00:31:06.519 --> 00:31:08.579
 And he loves you

00:31:08.579 --> 00:31:09.519
 and desires you

00:31:09.519 --> 00:31:10.480
 to be saved,

00:31:10.900 --> 00:31:11.859
 to be forgiven,

00:31:12.200 --> 00:31:13.440
 to be in a relationship

00:31:13.440 --> 00:31:14.220
 with him,

00:31:14.500 --> 00:31:15.879
 to be joined with him.

00:31:16.920 --> 00:31:18.759
 Your call is to repent

00:31:18.759 --> 00:31:19.819
 from your sins

00:31:19.819 --> 00:31:21.859
 and turn and believe in him.

00:31:23.799 --> 00:31:25.079
 Join a church.

00:31:25.619 --> 00:31:26.200
 Be baptized.

00:31:28.119 --> 00:31:29.740
 Those might be scary things

00:31:29.740 --> 00:31:30.460
 for you if you

00:31:30.460 --> 00:31:31.519
 are not a believer.

00:31:31.519 --> 00:31:34.759
 But it is the most

00:31:34.759 --> 00:31:36.119
 wonderful thing

00:31:36.119 --> 00:31:36.779
 in the world

00:31:36.779 --> 00:31:37.700
 to be forgiven

00:31:37.700 --> 00:31:38.740
 by God

00:31:38.740 --> 00:31:39.460
 and to start

00:31:39.460 --> 00:31:40.279
 that relationship

00:31:40.279 --> 00:31:41.519
 with God.

00:31:42.839 --> 00:31:43.940
 You'll be filled

00:31:43.940 --> 00:31:44.779
 with the Spirit.

00:31:46.200 --> 00:31:47.079
 You'll be joined

00:31:47.079 --> 00:31:47.920
 with Christ

00:31:47.920 --> 00:31:48.680
 in a union

00:31:48.680 --> 00:31:50.460
 that is inseparable.

00:31:51.579 --> 00:31:53.180
 One where he loves you

00:31:53.180 --> 00:31:54.500
 unconditionally.

00:31:54.500 --> 00:31:59.160
 So repent

00:31:59.160 --> 00:32:00.480
 and believe.

00:32:02.339 --> 00:32:03.579
 Respect the husbands.

00:32:03.880 --> 00:32:05.180
 Husbands like Jesus,

00:32:05.339 --> 00:32:05.960
 we are called

00:32:05.960 --> 00:32:06.579
 to love

00:32:06.579 --> 00:32:07.359
 and sacrifice

00:32:07.359 --> 00:32:08.119
 so that we can

00:32:08.119 --> 00:32:09.359
 help our wives

00:32:09.359 --> 00:32:10.960
 be godly women.

00:32:12.259 --> 00:32:13.200
 Now how specifically?

00:32:13.700 --> 00:32:14.819
 Washing of water

00:32:14.819 --> 00:32:15.680
 with the word.

00:32:15.799 --> 00:32:17.240
 That's what Jesus did

00:32:17.240 --> 00:32:18.339
 and that is what husbands

00:32:18.339 --> 00:32:19.220
 you are to do.

00:32:20.359 --> 00:32:21.319
 When the disciples

00:32:21.319 --> 00:32:22.140
 needed correcting,

00:32:22.140 --> 00:32:23.740
 Jesus washed them

00:32:23.740 --> 00:32:24.740
 with the word.

00:32:25.180 --> 00:32:26.200
 He gave them scripture.

00:32:27.080 --> 00:32:27.920
 He taught them.

00:32:28.200 --> 00:32:28.860
 When the churches

00:32:28.860 --> 00:32:29.920
 needed guidance,

00:32:30.040 --> 00:32:30.940
 the apostle Paul

00:32:30.940 --> 00:32:31.920
 taught them

00:32:31.920 --> 00:32:33.220
 with the word.

00:32:35.040 --> 00:32:36.120
 One of the things

00:32:36.120 --> 00:32:37.340
 our wives need most

00:32:37.340 --> 00:32:38.220
 is to be thoroughly

00:32:38.220 --> 00:32:39.700
 washed in the word.

00:32:40.200 --> 00:32:40.940
 This is the way

00:32:40.940 --> 00:32:41.860
 that she can grow

00:32:41.860 --> 00:32:42.620
 spiritually.

00:32:43.580 --> 00:32:45.259
 This is really good advice

00:32:45.259 --> 00:32:46.160
 for anyone,

00:32:46.360 --> 00:32:47.120
 male or female,

00:32:47.340 --> 00:32:48.500
 but this is specifically

00:32:48.500 --> 00:32:49.360
 your responsibility,

00:32:49.620 --> 00:32:49.820
 husbands.

00:32:49.980 --> 00:32:51.220
 Wash your wife

00:32:51.220 --> 00:32:52.180
 with the word.

00:32:52.660 --> 00:32:53.600
 Soak her in it.

00:32:53.960 --> 00:32:55.019
 Make sure that she

00:32:55.019 --> 00:32:56.400
 is receiving

00:32:56.400 --> 00:32:57.519
 from the word.

00:33:00.200 --> 00:33:01.019
 And guys,

00:33:01.180 --> 00:33:02.819
 if you're not married,

00:33:03.759 --> 00:33:04.220
 maybe you think,

00:33:04.299 --> 00:33:05.920
 oh, I made it out

00:33:05.920 --> 00:33:06.940
 of that responsibility.

00:33:07.420 --> 00:33:08.460
 I'm okay for now.

00:33:09.819 --> 00:33:11.120
 Maybe you will get married

00:33:11.120 --> 00:33:11.839
 at some point.

00:33:12.180 --> 00:33:12.940
 Or maybe you won't.

00:33:13.319 --> 00:33:14.700
 But it's always good

00:33:14.700 --> 00:33:15.640
 to be familiar

00:33:15.640 --> 00:33:17.120
 with the word yourselves.

00:33:18.600 --> 00:33:19.400
 Read it.

00:33:19.400 --> 00:33:21.960
 Know it.

00:33:23.320 --> 00:33:24.300
 Pay attention

00:33:24.300 --> 00:33:25.240
 when the word

00:33:25.240 --> 00:33:26.380
 is preached to you.

00:33:29.060 --> 00:33:29.840
 And really,

00:33:30.340 --> 00:33:30.960
 women too.

00:33:32.259 --> 00:33:32.880
 The word

00:33:32.880 --> 00:33:34.100
 is what shapes us.

00:33:34.780 --> 00:33:35.720
 If you want to be able

00:33:35.720 --> 00:33:37.200
 to lovingly submit

00:33:37.200 --> 00:33:37.800
 to your husband,

00:33:38.100 --> 00:33:38.640
 you want to work

00:33:38.640 --> 00:33:39.540
 alongside him,

00:33:39.960 --> 00:33:40.640
 know the word.

00:33:41.740 --> 00:33:42.220
 Husbands,

00:33:42.320 --> 00:33:42.780
 you want to lead

00:33:42.780 --> 00:33:43.360
 effectively

00:33:43.360 --> 00:33:44.480
 and humbly

00:33:44.480 --> 00:33:46.640
 and as a servant,

00:33:47.019 --> 00:33:47.960
 know the word.

00:33:51.799 --> 00:33:52.559
 And of course,

00:33:52.660 --> 00:33:53.640
 you need the spirit.

00:33:53.640 --> 00:33:54.599
 When you approach

00:33:54.599 --> 00:33:55.059
 the word,

00:33:55.220 --> 00:33:56.059
 don't approach it

00:33:56.059 --> 00:33:57.799
 intellectually only.

00:33:58.579 --> 00:33:58.799
 Yes,

00:33:58.900 --> 00:34:00.019
 you need to know

00:34:00.019 --> 00:34:00.940
 the knowledge

00:34:00.940 --> 00:34:01.740
 of the word

00:34:01.740 --> 00:34:02.940
 and study it.

00:34:03.079 --> 00:34:04.380
 Theology is important.

00:34:05.140 --> 00:34:05.900
 But our theology

00:34:05.900 --> 00:34:07.319
 should move us

00:34:07.319 --> 00:34:07.640
 to action.

00:34:08.559 --> 00:34:09.300
 It should move us

00:34:09.300 --> 00:34:09.980
 to love.

00:34:09.980 --> 00:34:11.260
 So when we learn

00:34:11.260 --> 00:34:12.139
 from the word,

00:34:12.460 --> 00:34:13.420
 may it well up

00:34:13.420 --> 00:34:14.099
 in our hearts

00:34:14.099 --> 00:34:15.599
 that we be thankful

00:34:15.599 --> 00:34:16.159
 to God

00:34:16.159 --> 00:34:17.679
 and love him more

00:34:17.679 --> 00:34:18.740
 as we have studied

00:34:18.740 --> 00:34:19.500
 the word.

00:34:21.900 --> 00:34:22.420
 Now,

00:34:22.579 --> 00:34:24.360
 to get into application

00:34:24.360 --> 00:34:25.059
 here a little bit,

00:34:25.139 --> 00:34:25.500
 husbands,

00:34:25.960 --> 00:34:28.000
 you need to serve

00:34:28.000 --> 00:34:28.340
 in a way

00:34:28.340 --> 00:34:29.480
 that is sacrificial.

00:34:29.860 --> 00:34:30.860
 Sacrificial leadership.

00:34:30.860 --> 00:34:35.700
 And this

00:34:35.700 --> 00:34:37.500
 includes

00:34:37.500 --> 00:34:38.420
 a number of things.

00:34:38.599 --> 00:34:39.320
 I'll highlight

00:34:39.320 --> 00:34:40.180
 a few things here.

00:34:40.320 --> 00:34:41.120
 This is things

00:34:41.120 --> 00:34:41.920
 that I think about

00:34:41.920 --> 00:34:42.940
 maybe you would serve

00:34:42.940 --> 00:34:43.640
 in different ways.

00:34:44.620 --> 00:34:45.620
 But for me,

00:34:46.200 --> 00:34:47.220
 here's just a couple.

00:34:47.579 --> 00:34:48.480
 And I'd say this

00:34:48.480 --> 00:34:49.260
 as an example.

00:34:50.340 --> 00:34:51.320
 You don't need to do

00:34:51.320 --> 00:34:51.780
 all the things

00:34:51.780 --> 00:34:52.340
 that I do.

00:34:52.480 --> 00:34:53.460
 I'm sure Sean's marriage

00:34:53.460 --> 00:34:54.059
 looks different.

00:34:54.340 --> 00:34:55.220
 Paul Buckley's marriage

00:34:55.220 --> 00:34:56.019
 looks different.

00:34:56.160 --> 00:34:56.760
 Taryn's marriage

00:34:56.760 --> 00:34:57.780
 looks different.

00:34:58.780 --> 00:34:59.539
 But schedule.

00:34:59.680 --> 00:35:00.680
 I take care of the schedule.

00:35:00.860 --> 00:35:01.660
 There's a lot of things

00:35:01.660 --> 00:35:02.260
 I'd like to do.

00:35:02.559 --> 00:35:03.920
 But my priority time

00:35:03.920 --> 00:35:04.840
 is with Megan.

00:35:05.440 --> 00:35:06.280
 Time with my kids.

00:35:06.380 --> 00:35:07.000
 So for us,

00:35:07.280 --> 00:35:08.240
 we say no

00:35:08.240 --> 00:35:08.880
 when there would be

00:35:08.880 --> 00:35:09.780
 too much time away.

00:35:10.240 --> 00:35:12.640
 And I have a rule

00:35:12.640 --> 00:35:13.200
 for myself.

00:35:13.400 --> 00:35:13.640
 Again,

00:35:13.740 --> 00:35:14.599
 you don't have to have

00:35:14.599 --> 00:35:15.200
 the same rule.

00:35:15.480 --> 00:35:16.000
 But for me,

00:35:16.140 --> 00:35:17.160
 I don't really like

00:35:17.160 --> 00:35:18.000
 having two nights

00:35:18.000 --> 00:35:19.039
 away from my family.

00:35:19.240 --> 00:35:20.240
 I'll do it sometimes.

00:35:20.460 --> 00:35:21.559
 But I don't like it.

00:35:22.519 --> 00:35:24.120
 So there's a thing.

00:35:25.880 --> 00:35:26.860
 What's the opportunity?

00:35:27.079 --> 00:35:27.220
 Okay,

00:35:27.280 --> 00:35:27.780
 I'll weigh that

00:35:27.780 --> 00:35:28.780
 against being away

00:35:28.780 --> 00:35:29.280
 from my family.

00:35:29.539 --> 00:35:30.440
 If it's three nights

00:35:30.440 --> 00:35:30.880
 in a row

00:35:30.880 --> 00:35:31.340
 that I have

00:35:31.340 --> 00:35:31.800
 different things

00:35:31.800 --> 00:35:32.280
 that I'm doing,

00:35:32.940 --> 00:35:33.519
 that's almost

00:35:33.519 --> 00:35:34.539
 an automatic no.

00:35:34.659 --> 00:35:35.220
 Unless it's like

00:35:35.220 --> 00:35:35.780
 a conference

00:35:35.780 --> 00:35:37.740
 or something for work

00:35:37.740 --> 00:35:38.420
 or whatever.

00:35:38.960 --> 00:35:40.559
 I don't like to be away

00:35:40.559 --> 00:35:41.539
 three nights in a way

00:35:41.539 --> 00:35:43.079
 from my family.

00:35:44.500 --> 00:35:44.639
 Now,

00:35:44.760 --> 00:35:45.119
 again,

00:35:45.179 --> 00:35:45.760
 that's just me.

00:35:46.539 --> 00:35:47.220
 But it's a way

00:35:47.220 --> 00:35:48.059
 that I manage

00:35:48.059 --> 00:35:49.380
 so that I can spend

00:35:49.380 --> 00:35:50.420
 time with my family.

00:35:51.280 --> 00:35:52.440
 Sometimes it means

00:35:52.440 --> 00:35:53.099
 a sacrifice.

00:35:53.240 --> 00:35:53.840
 So things that I'd

00:35:53.840 --> 00:35:54.300
 like to do.

00:35:54.420 --> 00:35:55.980
 Things that maybe

00:35:55.980 --> 00:35:57.240
 maybe I feel like

00:35:57.240 --> 00:35:58.400
 God is calling me

00:35:58.400 --> 00:35:58.780
 to do that,

00:35:58.820 --> 00:35:59.519
 but I can't do

00:35:59.519 --> 00:36:00.619
 all of those things.

00:36:01.440 --> 00:36:02.179
 And so we have to

00:36:02.179 --> 00:36:03.000
 manage the schedule.

00:36:03.539 --> 00:36:03.920
 And as well,

00:36:04.000 --> 00:36:04.480
 I manage,

00:36:05.000 --> 00:36:06.199
 make sure that there's

00:36:06.199 --> 00:36:07.119
 time for date nights

00:36:07.119 --> 00:36:08.019
 and time with kids

00:36:08.019 --> 00:36:08.559
 after,

00:36:09.019 --> 00:36:09.440
 time,

00:36:09.760 --> 00:36:10.019
 sorry,

00:36:10.139 --> 00:36:10.760
 time with Megan

00:36:10.760 --> 00:36:11.460
 after the kids

00:36:11.460 --> 00:36:12.159
 go to bed.

00:36:13.159 --> 00:36:13.940
 And so that's

00:36:13.940 --> 00:36:14.599
 one way.

00:36:15.480 --> 00:36:16.320
 Maybe for you

00:36:16.320 --> 00:36:16.860
 it would be similar,

00:36:17.079 --> 00:36:17.599
 maybe it would be

00:36:17.599 --> 00:36:17.880
 different.

00:36:18.300 --> 00:36:18.840
 So really,

00:36:19.039 --> 00:36:19.559
 it's my role

00:36:19.559 --> 00:36:20.219
 to protect

00:36:20.219 --> 00:36:20.939
 our calendar.

00:36:22.239 --> 00:36:23.639
 And if maybe

00:36:23.639 --> 00:36:24.439
 your wife is good

00:36:24.439 --> 00:36:25.019
 with the calendar

00:36:25.019 --> 00:36:26.159
 and she does that,

00:36:26.279 --> 00:36:27.639
 that's totally fine too.

00:36:28.079 --> 00:36:28.759
 Like I said,

00:36:28.839 --> 00:36:29.439
 every marriage

00:36:29.439 --> 00:36:29.859
 is different.

00:36:30.259 --> 00:36:30.419
 Now,

00:36:30.459 --> 00:36:30.959
 I take care of

00:36:30.959 --> 00:36:31.379
 the budget,

00:36:32.459 --> 00:36:33.039
 finances,

00:36:33.259 --> 00:36:33.519
 taxes,

00:36:33.659 --> 00:36:34.399
 all that kind of stuff.

00:36:34.519 --> 00:36:36.000
 I really don't like

00:36:36.000 --> 00:36:36.819
 dealing with money.

00:36:36.919 --> 00:36:37.559
 That's not my favorite

00:36:37.559 --> 00:36:38.059
 thing to do,

00:36:38.299 --> 00:36:38.779
 but it's a way

00:36:38.779 --> 00:36:39.779
 to serve our marriage.

00:36:40.239 --> 00:36:40.500
 Now,

00:36:40.639 --> 00:36:41.159
 your marriage

00:36:41.159 --> 00:36:41.719
 might look different.

00:36:41.779 --> 00:36:42.859
 Maybe your wife,

00:36:43.679 --> 00:36:45.539
 you love working,

00:36:45.959 --> 00:36:46.579
 doing taxes,

00:36:46.779 --> 00:36:47.679
 all that kind of stuff.

00:36:47.919 --> 00:36:48.219
 Actually,

00:36:48.299 --> 00:36:49.139
 my mom likes

00:36:49.139 --> 00:36:49.779
 doing taxes,

00:36:49.780 --> 00:36:51.040
 so I don't quite

00:36:51.040 --> 00:36:51.780
 understand it.

00:36:52.340 --> 00:36:53.240
 So she actually

00:36:53.240 --> 00:36:53.920
 does the stuff

00:36:53.920 --> 00:36:54.720
 in my parents'

00:36:55.480 --> 00:36:56.060
 relationship,

00:36:56.820 --> 00:36:58.160
 but it's a way

00:36:58.160 --> 00:36:58.940
 that I serve her.

00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:00.640
 But guys,

00:37:00.720 --> 00:37:01.200
 I want you to

00:37:01.200 --> 00:37:02.100
 study your wife.

00:37:02.220 --> 00:37:03.860
 Know what her likes

00:37:03.860 --> 00:37:04.940
 are and what

00:37:04.940 --> 00:37:06.000
 her dislikes are.

00:37:07.960 --> 00:37:08.640
 She'd probably

00:37:08.640 --> 00:37:09.220
 be embarrassed,

00:37:09.620 --> 00:37:12.400
 but maybe she's

00:37:12.400 --> 00:37:12.780
 downstairs.

00:37:13.019 --> 00:37:13.180
 Okay,

00:37:13.280 --> 00:37:13.680
 it's okay.

00:37:13.900 --> 00:37:14.400
 I'm just telling her.

00:37:14.700 --> 00:37:15.420
 She doesn't really

00:37:15.420 --> 00:37:16.600
 like being in a

00:37:16.600 --> 00:37:17.180
 crowded place

00:37:17.180 --> 00:37:17.820
 where there's food,

00:37:17.900 --> 00:37:18.120
 you know,

00:37:18.160 --> 00:37:18.900
 like a buffet

00:37:18.900 --> 00:37:19.400
 or whatever.

00:37:20.060 --> 00:37:20.580
 It's just

00:37:20.580 --> 00:37:22.200
 not her thing.

00:37:23.120 --> 00:37:24.220
 And so I'll just

00:37:24.220 --> 00:37:24.800
 go and say,

00:37:24.900 --> 00:37:25.060
 hey,

00:37:25.200 --> 00:37:25.960
 what would you like?

00:37:26.000 --> 00:37:27.200
 And I'll go get her food.

00:37:27.280 --> 00:37:28.120
 It's a very small

00:37:28.120 --> 00:37:28.940
 thing to do,

00:37:29.380 --> 00:37:29.800
 but it's a way

00:37:29.800 --> 00:37:30.680
 that I can serve her.

00:37:31.060 --> 00:37:32.200
 Because I know,

00:37:32.300 --> 00:37:32.720
 I'm familiar.

00:37:32.880 --> 00:37:33.500
 This is not really

00:37:33.500 --> 00:37:34.120
 something that she's

00:37:34.120 --> 00:37:34.640
 going to get over

00:37:34.640 --> 00:37:35.400
 anytime soon,

00:37:35.720 --> 00:37:36.540
 and so I serve her

00:37:36.540 --> 00:37:37.060
 in that way.

00:37:37.180 --> 00:37:38.160
 It's a very easy way

00:37:38.160 --> 00:37:38.600
 to do that.

00:37:38.660 --> 00:37:39.480
 But know what your

00:37:39.480 --> 00:37:40.460
 wife's likes

00:37:40.460 --> 00:37:41.280
 and dislikes are,

00:37:41.440 --> 00:37:42.380
 and if you can help

00:37:42.380 --> 00:37:43.040
 her in some of those

00:37:43.040 --> 00:37:43.320
 ways,

00:37:43.440 --> 00:37:43.640
 you know,

00:37:43.740 --> 00:37:44.680
 take out the trash

00:37:44.680 --> 00:37:45.960
 and all those jobs

00:37:45.960 --> 00:37:46.620
 that may be not

00:37:46.619 --> 00:37:47.940
 the most glorious

00:37:47.940 --> 00:37:48.599
 at home.

00:37:48.900 --> 00:37:49.619
 Do those things

00:37:49.619 --> 00:37:50.279
 to serve.

00:37:53.139 --> 00:37:53.779
 Another one,

00:37:53.839 --> 00:37:54.199
 prayer.

00:37:54.339 --> 00:37:55.179
 It takes effort

00:37:55.179 --> 00:37:55.659
 to prayer.

00:37:56.319 --> 00:37:56.759
 And one of my

00:37:56.759 --> 00:37:58.019
 prayers for Megan

00:37:58.019 --> 00:37:58.619
 is actually a prayer

00:37:58.619 --> 00:37:58.960
 for me.

00:37:59.460 --> 00:38:00.839
 Help me to be aware

00:38:00.839 --> 00:38:02.659
 of how to point

00:38:02.659 --> 00:38:04.359
 Megan to Christ

00:38:04.359 --> 00:38:05.420
 and apply the grace

00:38:05.420 --> 00:38:06.199
 of God for today.

00:38:06.579 --> 00:38:07.219
 There's many things

00:38:07.219 --> 00:38:07.940
 I pray for her,

00:38:08.000 --> 00:38:08.880
 that she would

00:38:08.880 --> 00:38:10.139
 receive the word,

00:38:10.239 --> 00:38:10.719
 that she would

00:38:10.719 --> 00:38:12.500
 have time to study,

00:38:12.500 --> 00:38:13.079
 because I know

00:38:13.079 --> 00:38:13.960
 with the kids

00:38:13.960 --> 00:38:14.539
 and all that's

00:38:14.539 --> 00:38:15.019
 going on,

00:38:15.199 --> 00:38:16.000
 sometimes she doesn't

00:38:16.000 --> 00:38:17.659
 get that solid time

00:38:17.659 --> 00:38:18.059
 away.

00:38:18.960 --> 00:38:20.139
 But I pray that she

00:38:20.139 --> 00:38:20.760
 would be aware

00:38:20.760 --> 00:38:21.400
 of God's grace

00:38:21.400 --> 00:38:21.960
 for the day.

00:38:22.300 --> 00:38:22.820
 And I want you

00:38:22.820 --> 00:38:23.880
 to pray for your

00:38:23.880 --> 00:38:24.280
 wife.

00:38:26.000 --> 00:38:26.960
 Not just a little

00:38:26.960 --> 00:38:27.300
 prayer.

00:38:27.780 --> 00:38:28.679
 Pray longing

00:38:28.679 --> 00:38:30.880
 for God to work

00:38:30.880 --> 00:38:31.440
 in her.

00:38:32.179 --> 00:38:33.539
 And pray every day

00:38:33.539 --> 00:38:34.519
 for her.

00:38:35.260 --> 00:38:36.340
 I don't pray

00:38:36.340 --> 00:38:37.219
 every day for her.

00:38:37.219 --> 00:38:37.840
 I miss.

00:38:37.940 --> 00:38:38.519
 I'm not perfect

00:38:38.519 --> 00:38:38.940
 with that.

00:38:39.440 --> 00:38:40.159
 But have that

00:38:40.159 --> 00:38:41.360
 as a goal.

00:38:41.480 --> 00:38:42.119
 Pray as much

00:38:42.119 --> 00:38:42.799
 for your wife

00:38:42.799 --> 00:38:43.639
 as you can.

00:38:44.299 --> 00:38:44.920
 It will benefit

00:38:44.920 --> 00:38:45.299
 you.

00:38:50.639 --> 00:38:51.519
 And then lastly,

00:38:51.639 --> 00:38:52.359
 I talked about

00:38:52.359 --> 00:38:52.819
 schedule,

00:38:53.019 --> 00:38:53.859
 but I want to

00:38:53.859 --> 00:38:54.739
 talk a little bit

00:38:54.739 --> 00:38:55.500
 about time.

00:38:55.599 --> 00:38:56.099
 And this is a

00:38:56.099 --> 00:38:56.639
 little bit different.

00:38:57.239 --> 00:38:58.000
 Time is maybe

00:38:58.000 --> 00:38:58.940
 one of those things

00:38:58.940 --> 00:38:59.420
 that husbands

00:38:59.420 --> 00:39:00.519
 struggle to give up.

00:39:00.819 --> 00:39:02.000
 And maybe this

00:39:02.000 --> 00:39:02.739
 is the call

00:39:02.739 --> 00:39:03.679
 that is the most

00:39:03.679 --> 00:39:05.019
 sacrificial for guys.

00:39:05.559 --> 00:39:06.839
 It depends on the guy.

00:39:06.839 --> 00:39:08.299
 But what I mean

00:39:08.299 --> 00:39:09.559
 is time from work.

00:39:10.679 --> 00:39:11.480
 Now, some guys,

00:39:11.480 --> 00:39:12.619
 you get a long

00:39:12.619 --> 00:39:14.320
 hours of the day

00:39:14.320 --> 00:39:15.099
 and you have to

00:39:15.099 --> 00:39:15.539
 take home.

00:39:15.619 --> 00:39:15.980
 You have to be

00:39:15.980 --> 00:39:17.500
 on call 24-7.

00:39:19.079 --> 00:39:19.960
 And that's just

00:39:19.960 --> 00:39:20.659
 the way things are.

00:39:21.159 --> 00:39:21.740
 But I know

00:39:21.740 --> 00:39:22.860
 there's plenty

00:39:22.860 --> 00:39:23.579
 of guys

00:39:23.579 --> 00:39:25.000
 who come home.

00:39:25.500 --> 00:39:25.860
 They're still

00:39:25.860 --> 00:39:26.480
 on email.

00:39:26.960 --> 00:39:27.880
 They don't need

00:39:27.880 --> 00:39:29.300
 to be on email.

00:39:31.599 --> 00:39:32.280
 They're still

00:39:32.280 --> 00:39:33.000
 checking their email.

00:39:33.119 --> 00:39:33.659
 Or maybe they

00:39:33.659 --> 00:39:34.800
 work extra hours

00:39:34.800 --> 00:39:35.860
 and they don't

00:39:35.860 --> 00:39:36.760
 need to work

00:39:36.760 --> 00:39:37.599
 extra hours.

00:39:37.599 --> 00:39:39.860
 Now, it's a good

00:39:39.860 --> 00:39:40.420
 thing to work

00:39:40.420 --> 00:39:41.199
 and work hard.

00:39:42.119 --> 00:39:42.799
 And I'm not telling

00:39:42.799 --> 00:39:43.579
 you how many

00:39:43.579 --> 00:39:44.679
 hours to work.

00:39:45.739 --> 00:39:46.579
 But it can be

00:39:46.579 --> 00:39:46.960
 an escape.

00:39:48.059 --> 00:39:49.179
 The easy thing

00:39:49.179 --> 00:39:49.819
 to choose

00:39:49.819 --> 00:39:50.480
 is to go

00:39:50.480 --> 00:39:51.219
 and continue

00:39:51.219 --> 00:39:51.960
 to work

00:39:51.960 --> 00:39:53.539
 for your job.

00:39:55.619 --> 00:39:56.539
 When maybe

00:39:56.539 --> 00:39:57.299
 what God has

00:39:57.299 --> 00:39:57.579
 for you

00:39:57.579 --> 00:39:58.420
 is to put

00:39:58.420 --> 00:39:59.039
 that down

00:39:59.039 --> 00:39:59.819
 at night

00:39:59.819 --> 00:40:01.119
 and spend time

00:40:01.119 --> 00:40:01.880
 with your wife

00:40:01.880 --> 00:40:02.940
 and with your kids.

00:40:04.179 --> 00:40:05.079
 Now, other guys,

00:40:05.159 --> 00:40:06.000
 maybe it's not work,

00:40:06.000 --> 00:40:07.440
 but it's video games

00:40:07.440 --> 00:40:08.480
 or you go out

00:40:08.480 --> 00:40:09.760
 golfing all the time

00:40:09.760 --> 00:40:10.679
 or whatever

00:40:10.679 --> 00:40:14.059
 hobby occupies you

00:40:14.059 --> 00:40:14.579
 and you're very

00:40:14.579 --> 00:40:15.400
 interested in.

00:40:15.780 --> 00:40:17.079
 And you do that

00:40:17.079 --> 00:40:17.960
 to the exclusion

00:40:17.960 --> 00:40:19.000
 of spending time

00:40:19.000 --> 00:40:19.780
 with your wife

00:40:19.780 --> 00:40:20.920
 and with your family.

00:40:21.980 --> 00:40:23.119
 Guys, we are called

00:40:23.119 --> 00:40:24.340
 to sacrificially

00:40:24.340 --> 00:40:26.500
 love our wives.

00:40:27.679 --> 00:40:28.500
 And so sometimes

00:40:28.500 --> 00:40:29.380
 that's going to mean

00:40:29.380 --> 00:40:30.579
 putting those things

00:40:30.579 --> 00:40:31.199
 aside

00:40:31.199 --> 00:40:33.380
 and spending time

00:40:33.380 --> 00:40:33.900
 with your wife.

00:40:33.900 --> 00:40:36.220
 because if you love,

00:40:36.300 --> 00:40:37.400
 say you love your wife

00:40:37.400 --> 00:40:38.119
 but you never

00:40:38.119 --> 00:40:39.099
 spend time with her.

00:40:39.180 --> 00:40:40.180
 Say you love your kids

00:40:40.180 --> 00:40:40.720
 and you never

00:40:40.720 --> 00:40:41.740
 spend time with them.

00:40:43.280 --> 00:40:45.460
 That's not loving

00:40:45.460 --> 00:40:46.539
 to your wife

00:40:46.539 --> 00:40:47.240
 and to your kids.

00:40:48.119 --> 00:40:48.680
 And I recognize

00:40:48.680 --> 00:40:49.539
 there's some difficult

00:40:49.539 --> 00:40:50.539
 situations out there

00:40:50.539 --> 00:40:51.039
 where a guy

00:40:51.039 --> 00:40:51.680
 is required

00:40:51.680 --> 00:40:52.300
 to work maybe

00:40:52.300 --> 00:40:52.920
 two jobs

00:40:52.920 --> 00:40:53.880
 or three jobs

00:40:53.880 --> 00:40:54.660
 just to afford

00:40:54.660 --> 00:40:56.619
 to all that.

00:40:57.860 --> 00:40:59.300
 And maybe there's not

00:40:59.300 --> 00:41:00.240
 a lot you can do

00:41:00.240 --> 00:41:00.860
 about that,

00:41:00.860 --> 00:41:02.220
 but have a heart

00:41:02.220 --> 00:41:03.180
 towards caring

00:41:03.180 --> 00:41:03.800
 for your wife

00:41:03.800 --> 00:41:04.519
 as much as possible.

00:41:04.780 --> 00:41:06.160
 Get out of that situation

00:41:06.160 --> 00:41:07.940
 as fast as you can.

00:41:08.800 --> 00:41:09.620
 Bring your leaders

00:41:09.620 --> 00:41:10.140
 into that.

00:41:10.300 --> 00:41:11.260
 Pray about getting

00:41:11.260 --> 00:41:12.400
 out of that situation

00:41:12.400 --> 00:41:14.059
 so that you can spend

00:41:14.059 --> 00:41:15.300
 time with your family.

00:41:17.360 --> 00:41:17.940
 And then washing

00:41:17.940 --> 00:41:18.640
 with the word.

00:41:20.400 --> 00:41:20.539
 Those,

00:41:21.280 --> 00:41:22.620
 previously all those things

00:41:22.620 --> 00:41:23.860
 are about really loving

00:41:23.860 --> 00:41:25.079
 but what about washing

00:41:25.079 --> 00:41:25.559
 with the word?

00:41:25.760 --> 00:41:26.300
 And I know

00:41:26.300 --> 00:41:27.780
 I need to grow in this.

00:41:28.220 --> 00:41:29.079
 I need to get better.

00:41:29.079 --> 00:41:31.099
 When Megan comes to me

00:41:31.099 --> 00:41:31.960
 and is upset

00:41:31.960 --> 00:41:33.139
 or there's a problem,

00:41:33.219 --> 00:41:35.360
 my tendency can be laziness

00:41:35.360 --> 00:41:37.159
 or impatience with her even.

00:41:37.980 --> 00:41:39.159
 But God calls me

00:41:39.159 --> 00:41:40.119
 to bring scripture

00:41:40.119 --> 00:41:41.799
 to bear on the issue.

00:41:41.900 --> 00:41:43.659
 And don't get that wrong.

00:41:43.819 --> 00:41:44.679
 Like she comes to you

00:41:44.679 --> 00:41:45.799
 and she's upset.

00:41:45.900 --> 00:41:47.199
 Well, let's turn to Philippians

00:41:47.199 --> 00:41:48.579
 and should I have joy?

00:41:48.860 --> 00:41:49.119
 No.

00:41:49.900 --> 00:41:51.319
 That's not going to help probably.

00:41:51.400 --> 00:41:52.299
 You'll find that out

00:41:52.299 --> 00:41:53.259
 pretty quickly I think.

00:41:54.400 --> 00:41:56.059
 But to help her,

00:41:56.299 --> 00:41:57.519
 come alongside her

00:41:57.519 --> 00:41:58.940
 in whatever it is.

00:41:59.259 --> 00:42:01.340
 Help her be redirected

00:42:01.340 --> 00:42:03.800
 towards joy in the Lord.

00:42:04.480 --> 00:42:05.960
 Even amidst difficulties.

00:42:06.420 --> 00:42:07.679
 And that is something

00:42:07.679 --> 00:42:09.059
 that takes patience

00:42:09.059 --> 00:42:10.699
 and takes effort

00:42:10.699 --> 00:42:11.980
 to walk alongside

00:42:11.980 --> 00:42:13.940
 and not just blast them

00:42:13.940 --> 00:42:14.800
 with scripture

00:42:14.800 --> 00:42:16.400
 or ignore them

00:42:16.400 --> 00:42:18.119
 or get impatient

00:42:18.119 --> 00:42:19.860
 as I do sometimes.

00:42:19.860 --> 00:42:22.579
 And as well,

00:42:22.700 --> 00:42:23.440
 be proactive.

00:42:24.680 --> 00:42:25.720
 You should know

00:42:25.720 --> 00:42:26.420
 that your wife

00:42:26.420 --> 00:42:27.880
 is doing well

00:42:27.880 --> 00:42:29.740
 or not doing well.

00:42:30.079 --> 00:42:31.460
 And help her to do well.

00:42:31.599 --> 00:42:33.740
 Help her if she needs

00:42:33.740 --> 00:42:34.700
 to spend more time

00:42:34.700 --> 00:42:35.140
 in scripture.

00:42:35.640 --> 00:42:36.579
 Make time for her.

00:42:37.039 --> 00:42:38.260
 If the mornings

00:42:38.260 --> 00:42:39.059
 don't work

00:42:39.059 --> 00:42:39.720
 because of the kids

00:42:39.720 --> 00:42:41.240
 and all that's going on,

00:42:41.680 --> 00:42:43.160
 maybe give her some time

00:42:43.160 --> 00:42:43.519
 at night

00:42:43.519 --> 00:42:44.660
 to spend in the word.

00:42:45.220 --> 00:42:46.860
 Or find some other time

00:42:46.860 --> 00:42:48.700
 that she can benefit

00:42:48.700 --> 00:42:49.440
 and pray

00:42:49.440 --> 00:42:50.500
 and spend time.

00:42:50.840 --> 00:42:51.599
 And then also

00:42:51.599 --> 00:42:52.920
 discuss with her.

00:42:53.380 --> 00:42:54.340
 Talk about God.

00:42:54.440 --> 00:42:55.160
 What he's doing.

00:42:57.460 --> 00:42:58.019
 Now,

00:42:58.180 --> 00:43:00.360
 as if the example

00:43:00.360 --> 00:43:01.320
 of Christ isn't enough,

00:43:01.660 --> 00:43:02.900
 the reality is that

00:43:02.900 --> 00:43:04.420
 the husband and wife

00:43:04.420 --> 00:43:06.059
 are one flesh.

00:43:06.360 --> 00:43:08.840
 Let's read in verse 28.

00:43:09.599 --> 00:43:10.820
 In the same way,

00:43:10.880 --> 00:43:11.660
 husbands should love

00:43:11.660 --> 00:43:12.120
 their wives

00:43:12.120 --> 00:43:13.000
 as their own bodies.

00:43:13.320 --> 00:43:14.320
 He who loves his wife

00:43:14.320 --> 00:43:15.039
 loves himself

00:43:15.039 --> 00:43:16.059
 for no one ever

00:43:16.059 --> 00:43:16.920
 hated his own flesh

00:43:16.920 --> 00:43:18.460
 but nourishes and cherishes it

00:43:18.460 --> 00:43:21.480
 just as Christ does the church.

00:43:22.420 --> 00:43:23.360
 So if your wife

00:43:23.360 --> 00:43:24.360
 is not doing well,

00:43:24.440 --> 00:43:25.700
 then you are probably

00:43:25.700 --> 00:43:27.059
 not going to do well either.

00:43:28.039 --> 00:43:29.700
 And I want you to have joy

00:43:29.700 --> 00:43:31.340
 in life and in Christ.

00:43:31.519 --> 00:43:33.580
 And if only for selfish reasons,

00:43:33.700 --> 00:43:34.680
 you will heed this.

00:43:35.400 --> 00:43:36.860
 If you want to do well,

00:43:37.519 --> 00:43:38.820
 then you've got to cherish

00:43:38.820 --> 00:43:40.220
 your wife.

00:43:41.440 --> 00:43:41.880
 Really,

00:43:41.880 --> 00:43:43.480
 how can you not love

00:43:43.480 --> 00:43:44.360
 and respect her?

00:43:44.660 --> 00:43:46.519
 She is your own body.

00:43:48.160 --> 00:43:49.460
 And when you don't love her,

00:43:49.519 --> 00:43:50.619
 it's like trying to separate

00:43:50.619 --> 00:43:52.000
 your body from itself.

00:43:52.740 --> 00:43:53.240
 You say,

00:43:53.420 --> 00:43:55.440
 I'm angry with my arms right now.

00:43:55.579 --> 00:43:56.680
 I'm not going to use them anymore.

00:43:56.800 --> 00:43:57.440
 I'm just going to let them

00:43:57.440 --> 00:43:58.519
 flail around.

00:43:59.300 --> 00:44:00.400
 That tends to be ridiculous.

00:44:00.900 --> 00:44:02.320
 Or if you've got

00:44:02.320 --> 00:44:03.340
 a sprained ankle

00:44:03.340 --> 00:44:03.740
 and you say,

00:44:03.820 --> 00:44:05.000
 I'm just going to ignore that.

00:44:05.039 --> 00:44:05.500
 I'm going to walk

00:44:05.500 --> 00:44:06.440
 like I normally do.

00:44:06.800 --> 00:44:07.460
 Well, you know what?

00:44:07.539 --> 00:44:07.860
 Soon,

00:44:08.160 --> 00:44:09.660
 your ankle's going to puff up

00:44:09.659 --> 00:44:11.679
 and it's going to be unusable.

00:44:13.639 --> 00:44:15.960
 If you ignore your wife

00:44:15.960 --> 00:44:17.639
 when she is hurting,

00:44:18.699 --> 00:44:19.440
 she's going to be like

00:44:19.440 --> 00:44:20.679
 that sprained ankle

00:44:20.679 --> 00:44:22.079
 trampled upon

00:44:22.079 --> 00:44:24.399
 and going to do much worse.

00:44:24.920 --> 00:44:26.000
 So when she's hurting,

00:44:26.139 --> 00:44:28.000
 when she needs care,

00:44:28.759 --> 00:44:30.899
 take the time to care

00:44:30.899 --> 00:44:31.719
 and come alongside.

00:44:32.159 --> 00:44:33.179
 Like a sprained ankle,

00:44:33.339 --> 00:44:35.119
 maybe you need to keep off it

00:44:35.119 --> 00:44:35.899
 for a little while.

00:44:36.559 --> 00:44:37.579
 I don't know what that looks like.

00:44:37.579 --> 00:44:39.920
 Maybe taking some of her responsibilities

00:44:39.920 --> 00:44:40.519
 for a time

00:44:40.519 --> 00:44:42.199
 so that she can get better.

00:44:43.539 --> 00:44:44.779
 Whether she's sick,

00:44:45.380 --> 00:44:46.920
 whether it's a spiritual oppression,

00:44:47.539 --> 00:44:47.900
 whatever.

00:44:49.059 --> 00:44:50.759
 Take time to care for your wife.

00:44:51.539 --> 00:44:52.079
 Now, husbands,

00:44:52.199 --> 00:44:53.319
 you can't do this

00:44:53.319 --> 00:44:54.420
 without the spirit independence.

00:44:54.779 --> 00:44:55.819
 I know you may be feeling

00:44:55.819 --> 00:44:56.920
 condemned right now.

00:44:57.579 --> 00:44:59.099
 How could I live up

00:44:59.099 --> 00:45:00.360
 to this kind of standard?

00:45:01.039 --> 00:45:01.739
 Well, we can't.

00:45:01.779 --> 00:45:03.559
 This is the standard of Christ.

00:45:04.559 --> 00:45:06.219
 Christ loved the church perfectly,

00:45:06.219 --> 00:45:08.659
 gave himself up for it perfectly.

00:45:09.699 --> 00:45:12.139
 But I do want you to be convicted.

00:45:12.379 --> 00:45:14.779
 I want you to be envisioned

00:45:14.779 --> 00:45:17.359
 to grow in your marriage.

00:45:20.259 --> 00:45:21.759
 Or if you're not married yet,

00:45:21.819 --> 00:45:24.619
 guys, grow in knowing the word

00:45:24.619 --> 00:45:27.579
 so that if you do come a time

00:45:27.579 --> 00:45:28.579
 where you do get married,

00:45:28.719 --> 00:45:29.559
 you are prepared,

00:45:29.719 --> 00:45:32.779
 well prepared to lead well

00:45:32.780 --> 00:45:34.560
 and lead by the word

00:45:34.560 --> 00:45:35.720
 and lead by Christ

00:45:35.720 --> 00:45:37.000
 and his example.

00:45:38.240 --> 00:45:39.820
 We're called to be servant leaders,

00:45:40.100 --> 00:45:41.420
 not authoritarians.

00:45:41.519 --> 00:45:43.220
 We're called to be humble guys,

00:45:44.360 --> 00:45:45.340
 accountable to God

00:45:45.340 --> 00:45:46.140
 and to other men.

00:45:47.460 --> 00:45:49.080
 Your wife should feel the freedom

00:45:49.080 --> 00:45:50.660
 if you are in sin

00:45:50.660 --> 00:45:52.220
 to go to some other guy

00:45:52.220 --> 00:45:53.600
 within the church

00:45:53.600 --> 00:45:57.480
 and he will help bring correction to you

00:45:57.480 --> 00:45:59.480
 and receive that.

00:45:59.480 --> 00:46:02.400
 And so we want a leadership

00:46:02.400 --> 00:46:03.659
 that is marked by love

00:46:03.659 --> 00:46:05.059
 and not authoritarianism.

00:46:05.740 --> 00:46:07.179
 Now imagine what it would be like

00:46:07.179 --> 00:46:08.460
 if every Christian loved the church

00:46:08.460 --> 00:46:09.659
 as much as Christ does.

00:46:09.760 --> 00:46:11.659
 That would be a wonderful thing.

00:46:13.179 --> 00:46:15.840
 And so let us love others,

00:46:16.760 --> 00:46:17.840
 whoever it might be,

00:46:18.780 --> 00:46:20.320
 as Christ loved the church.

00:46:20.420 --> 00:46:22.780
 Let us put on the self-sacrificial love.

00:46:22.860 --> 00:46:23.800
 This is a call to all,

00:46:23.880 --> 00:46:24.619
 not just husbands.

00:46:25.079 --> 00:46:26.380
 And when others struggle,

00:46:26.380 --> 00:46:29.019
 bring the word to bear for them.

00:46:29.900 --> 00:46:31.059
 You can help others

00:46:31.059 --> 00:46:32.199
 be washed in the word

00:46:32.199 --> 00:46:34.440
 if you are sharing the word with them

00:46:34.440 --> 00:46:35.760
 and encouraging them

00:46:35.760 --> 00:46:38.280
 in what God is already doing in them.

00:46:39.360 --> 00:46:40.579
 This is good for all,

00:46:40.659 --> 00:46:41.719
 but this specifically

00:46:41.719 --> 00:46:42.760
 is the responsibility

00:46:42.760 --> 00:46:44.820
 of the husband for the wife.

00:46:45.139 --> 00:46:46.320
 So this is a good thing for all.

00:46:46.440 --> 00:46:47.599
 Let's all do this.

00:46:48.079 --> 00:46:48.500
 But husbands,

00:46:48.800 --> 00:46:50.760
 this is your role for your wife.

00:46:52.619 --> 00:46:53.639
 And we need the Spirit.

00:46:53.719 --> 00:46:55.019
 We need to be filled with the Spirit

00:46:55.019 --> 00:46:56.159
 so that we can do this.

00:46:56.159 --> 00:47:00.059
 Now, marriages are supposed to show us

00:47:00.059 --> 00:47:02.359
 a picture of Christ and the church.

00:47:03.239 --> 00:47:05.159
 Let's read verse 31.

00:47:05.159 --> 00:47:09.599
 Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother

00:47:09.599 --> 00:47:10.920
 and hold fast to his wife,

00:47:10.980 --> 00:47:12.899
 and the two shall become one flesh.

00:47:13.079 --> 00:47:14.799
 This mystery is profound,

00:47:15.079 --> 00:47:16.899
 and I am saying that it refers to Christ

00:47:16.899 --> 00:47:17.599
 and the church.

00:47:17.980 --> 00:47:19.719
 However, let each one of you

00:47:19.719 --> 00:47:21.119
 love his wife as himself,

00:47:21.259 --> 00:47:22.259
 and let the wife see

00:47:22.259 --> 00:47:24.059
 that she respects her husband.

00:47:25.159 --> 00:47:26.779
 My third and final point here

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 is the one flesh union of marriage

00:47:29.000 --> 00:47:31.339
 points to Christ and his bride.

00:47:31.340 --> 00:47:32.940
 This one flesh union,

00:47:33.059 --> 00:47:33.740
 this marriage,

00:47:34.300 --> 00:47:36.480
 points to Christ and his bride.

00:47:37.480 --> 00:47:38.840
 Jesus left his father

00:47:38.840 --> 00:47:39.680
 in order to come down

00:47:39.680 --> 00:47:41.100
 and humble himself as a baby.

00:47:41.600 --> 00:47:43.100
 He was born humbly

00:47:43.100 --> 00:47:45.180
 in a feeding trough, really.

00:47:45.260 --> 00:47:46.820
 This is what Christmas is all about,

00:47:46.960 --> 00:47:48.559
 celebrating the beginning

00:47:48.559 --> 00:47:50.519
 of the joining of Christ

00:47:50.519 --> 00:47:52.500
 and his bride, the church.

00:47:53.720 --> 00:47:55.079
 Christ was humble,

00:47:55.480 --> 00:47:56.200
 is humble.

00:47:56.700 --> 00:47:58.440
 He is self-sacrificing.

00:47:58.440 --> 00:48:01.820
 And because of his abundant love for us,

00:48:01.920 --> 00:48:02.900
 we get to benefit.

00:48:04.500 --> 00:48:06.480
 Our marriages point to

00:48:06.480 --> 00:48:08.179
 the greatest marriage of all,

00:48:08.260 --> 00:48:09.200
 one that will happen

00:48:09.200 --> 00:48:10.679
 at the end of the age,

00:48:10.700 --> 00:48:12.179
 when Christ comes for us,

00:48:12.480 --> 00:48:13.179
 his bride.

00:48:14.740 --> 00:48:15.740
 Christ promises.

00:48:15.920 --> 00:48:18.340
 Jesus promises to love us.

00:48:18.460 --> 00:48:19.840
 He promises to keep us

00:48:19.840 --> 00:48:21.200
 and cherish us.

00:48:22.019 --> 00:48:24.099
 Our response is to submit to him

00:48:24.099 --> 00:48:25.720
 in love, with joy.

00:48:25.719 --> 00:48:28.419
 The love of Jesus

00:48:28.419 --> 00:48:30.519
 is a never-ending love

00:48:30.519 --> 00:48:32.079
 and it's a never-stopping love

00:48:32.079 --> 00:48:33.699
 and nothing can take us

00:48:33.699 --> 00:48:35.299
 out of his hand.

00:48:35.739 --> 00:48:36.739
 There is beauty

00:48:36.739 --> 00:48:38.399
 in this relationship.

00:48:40.480 --> 00:48:41.899
 When we submit,

00:48:42.459 --> 00:48:44.399
 when the church submits to Christ,

00:48:44.939 --> 00:48:46.980
 that's the way things should be.

00:48:48.480 --> 00:48:50.219
 There is beauty in this covenant,

00:48:50.819 --> 00:48:52.219
 the one that Christ bought

00:48:52.219 --> 00:48:53.099
 with his blood.

00:48:53.099 --> 00:48:58.039
 This is a never-ending love.

00:48:58.739 --> 00:48:59.539
 This is one of the reasons

00:48:59.539 --> 00:49:01.739
 that God hates divorce,

00:49:02.119 --> 00:49:03.920
 because it does not reflect

00:49:03.920 --> 00:49:05.079
 Christ and the church.

00:49:05.739 --> 00:49:06.480
 Christ and the church

00:49:06.480 --> 00:49:07.880
 are not going to get divorced,

00:49:08.319 --> 00:49:10.539
 because Jesus didn't even give up

00:49:10.539 --> 00:49:12.539
 on us when we are unfaithful.

00:49:13.659 --> 00:49:15.559
 When we fail at being a husband

00:49:15.559 --> 00:49:17.279
 who loves or a wife who submits,

00:49:18.799 --> 00:49:20.900
 when we fail at loving others,

00:49:21.400 --> 00:49:22.900
 at obeying God's word,

00:49:22.900 --> 00:49:25.440
 when we're lazy or impatient or angry,

00:49:25.760 --> 00:49:28.119
 when we're materialistic or selfish

00:49:28.119 --> 00:49:29.320
 or self-centered,

00:49:29.800 --> 00:49:31.780
 God forgives us

00:49:31.780 --> 00:49:35.420
 because of his never-ending love

00:49:35.420 --> 00:49:38.300
 that Jesus bought on the cross.

00:49:38.300 --> 00:49:41.980
 Why did he do this?

00:49:41.980 --> 00:49:44.000
 It was to save a marriage

00:49:44.000 --> 00:49:46.060
 hadn't completed yet,

00:49:46.560 --> 00:49:47.980
 a marriage to his people,

00:49:48.400 --> 00:49:49.080
 to his church,

00:49:49.400 --> 00:49:52.019
 that he would hold them for eternity.

00:49:52.560 --> 00:49:53.740
 That's God's promise.

00:49:54.080 --> 00:49:55.240
 If you've been joined to him,

00:49:55.940 --> 00:49:57.360
 he will not divorce you.

00:49:57.360 --> 00:50:01.940
 So our marriages are supposed to be

00:50:01.940 --> 00:50:05.260
 a reflection of Christ and the church.

00:50:06.340 --> 00:50:08.420
 And so we need to be filled with the Spirit

00:50:08.420 --> 00:50:11.400
 so that we show reverence for Christ,

00:50:11.640 --> 00:50:13.599
 so that we bring him honor and glory

00:50:13.599 --> 00:50:15.079
 in our own lives.

00:50:15.900 --> 00:50:16.680
 And so to us,

00:50:16.740 --> 00:50:18.079
 let's celebrate and encourage

00:50:18.079 --> 00:50:19.280
 marriages in the church.

00:50:19.280 --> 00:50:21.560
 Help those marriages

00:50:21.560 --> 00:50:24.320
 if we're aware of difficult ones.

00:50:24.940 --> 00:50:26.180
 Come alongside them.

00:50:27.760 --> 00:50:28.940
 And let's submit to one another

00:50:28.940 --> 00:50:30.040
 out of reverence for Christ,

00:50:30.160 --> 00:50:31.180
 joyfully, willingly.

00:50:32.160 --> 00:50:33.620
 Let's love each other.

00:50:34.200 --> 00:50:35.600
 Let's endeavor to wash each other

00:50:35.600 --> 00:50:36.340
 with the word.

00:50:37.040 --> 00:50:37.980
 Husbands especially,

00:50:38.140 --> 00:50:40.300
 because that is your role for your wife.

00:50:41.280 --> 00:50:43.080
 Let us be filled with the Spirit.

00:50:43.200 --> 00:50:45.140
 Have joy in whatever roles

00:50:45.139 --> 00:50:46.559
 God have given us.

00:50:47.199 --> 00:50:48.339
 In the workplace,

00:50:48.759 --> 00:50:49.319
 at church,

00:50:49.639 --> 00:50:50.179
 in the home,

00:50:50.879 --> 00:50:52.599
 with friends.

00:50:53.960 --> 00:50:55.500
 If you're called to submit

00:50:55.500 --> 00:50:58.579
 in whatever relationship it is,

00:50:58.639 --> 00:50:59.460
 do it with joy

00:50:59.460 --> 00:51:00.299
 and without complaining.

00:51:00.739 --> 00:51:01.920
 If you're called to lead

00:51:01.920 --> 00:51:03.659
 in whatever relationship it is,

00:51:04.299 --> 00:51:05.819
 love and serve

00:51:05.819 --> 00:51:07.679
 those who are submitted to you.

00:51:09.539 --> 00:51:10.759
 Let's pray and ask God

00:51:10.759 --> 00:51:12.199
 to do that work in us.

00:51:12.199 --> 00:51:15.299
 Father, we thank you

00:51:15.299 --> 00:51:17.539
 that you have

00:51:17.539 --> 00:51:19.739
 given us your word.

00:51:20.379 --> 00:51:21.759
 Lord, sometimes it's not

00:51:21.759 --> 00:51:23.779
 the easiest to obey

00:51:23.779 --> 00:51:24.980
 and to follow.

00:51:25.980 --> 00:51:27.000
 But Lord, we want to be

00:51:27.000 --> 00:51:28.839
 shaped by your word.

00:51:29.519 --> 00:51:31.379
 And so help us to apply this

00:51:31.379 --> 00:51:33.000
 in our marriages

00:51:33.000 --> 00:51:35.039
 and in our relationships

00:51:35.039 --> 00:51:36.159
 at work

00:51:36.159 --> 00:51:39.319
 and at church

00:51:39.320 --> 00:51:42.400
 and wherever we are,

00:51:42.500 --> 00:51:43.380
 would we be

00:51:43.380 --> 00:51:45.660
 joyful in submitting.

00:51:46.720 --> 00:51:47.400
 And in any

00:51:47.400 --> 00:51:49.100
 leadership relationship,

00:51:49.400 --> 00:51:49.539
 Lord,

00:51:49.960 --> 00:51:51.420
 let us serve

00:51:51.420 --> 00:51:53.539
 and sacrifice

00:51:53.539 --> 00:51:54.920
 and love those

00:51:54.920 --> 00:51:56.940
 who are under us,

00:51:57.100 --> 00:51:58.580
 who are submitted to us,

00:51:58.720 --> 00:51:58.880
 Lord,

00:51:59.220 --> 00:52:01.080
 but not wielding our authority

00:52:01.080 --> 00:52:02.880
 with authoritarianism,

00:52:02.980 --> 00:52:04.380
 but leading it

00:52:04.380 --> 00:52:05.100
 with humility,

00:52:05.340 --> 00:52:05.539
 Lord.

00:52:05.539 --> 00:52:08.519
 And so I ask,

00:52:08.840 --> 00:52:09.019
 Lord,

00:52:09.099 --> 00:52:10.219
 would you do a work

00:52:10.219 --> 00:52:11.500
 in each and every

00:52:11.500 --> 00:52:12.259
 one of us,

00:52:12.679 --> 00:52:13.639
 whether that is

00:52:13.639 --> 00:52:14.699
 to shape us

00:52:14.699 --> 00:52:15.400
 as a husband,

00:52:16.360 --> 00:52:18.059
 shape as a wife,

00:52:19.219 --> 00:52:20.460
 shape as a single,

00:52:21.139 --> 00:52:21.860
 a child,

00:52:22.079 --> 00:52:22.300
 Lord.

00:52:24.400 --> 00:52:25.659
 Help us all

00:52:25.659 --> 00:52:27.579
 to love you,

00:52:28.380 --> 00:52:29.239
 love the church,

00:52:30.239 --> 00:52:31.279
 love our relationships

00:52:31.279 --> 00:52:32.199
 that we have

00:52:32.199 --> 00:52:34.320
 as you have loved us.

00:52:34.320 --> 00:52:36.180
 We pray this

00:52:36.180 --> 00:52:37.420
 in Jesus' name.

00:52:37.420 --> 00:52:37.519
 Amen.