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 Well, Fred Stone called me about 3 o'clock yesterday afternoon and said,

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 Can you preach for me tomorrow?

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 But before he said a word, he's something like this,

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 Can you preach for me tomorrow?

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 And my response was, Fred, you sound awful.

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 And running a fever, thought he had the flu, not feeling good,

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 so we need to pray for him, and as has already been mentioned,

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 we need to pray for Lisa.

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 Fred and I are alike in a lot of ways, and Lisa and Ann have compared notes,

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 and we're not very good patients, I know, so pray for Lisa.

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 Pray for Fred that he'll get better as well.

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 A few weeks ago, when he was going through Colossians,

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 as he was going through Colossians 3, Fred preached about forgiveness.

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 And so I want to speak about forgiveness today,

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 not in any way to try to compete with what he's already said,

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 because I agree with everything he said.

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 It was a good sermon.

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 What I want to do is just take one facet of forgiveness and share it with you.

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 So if you have your Bibles, if you'll turn to Ephesians chapter 4 and verse 32.

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 One verse.

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 While you're turning, Colossians chapter 3 and verses 12 and 13 says,

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 So as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved,

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 put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience,

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 bearing with one another and forgiving each other.

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 Whoever has a complaint against anyone,

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 just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.

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 Then in Ephesians 4 and verse 32.

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 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other,

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 just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

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 Forgiveness is good for our souls.

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 Forgiveness is healthy.

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 Forgiveness is Christian.

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 Forgiveness is right.

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 Forgiveness is a gift from God that transforms us or should

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 to the point that we become like our Savior

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 in that we forgive when we've been wronged.

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 Now that's hard to do.

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 It's tough to do.

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 I remember many years ago now

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 when I was a pastor at Roebuck Baptist in Spartanburg,

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 I preached a sermon about forgiveness.

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 And I was younger then

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 and knew more then, of course, than I know now.

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 But I really preached it.

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 And I preached it hard.

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 And the next morning on Monday,

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 I go into a barber shop

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 that a woman had disguised as a beauty parlor.

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 But her ministry to me was,

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 I'll cut your hair for free.

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 Now, please, it was many years ago

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 when I had some hair.

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 So I go in there and I'm sitting in the chair.

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 She's cutting my hair.

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 And the guy comes in and he was at church Sunday.

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 He said, preacher, I heard that sermon about forgiveness.

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 I said, yeah.

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 He said, man, I don't know.

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 He said, that's hard.

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 I said, yeah.

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 He said, that forgiveness, he said, I don't know.

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 He said, there's some people

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 that's done things so wrong and so bad to me.

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 I don't think I can ever forgive them.

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 And so I said, yeah, you can.

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 Not knowing any better, I said, sure you can.

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 Looking back on it, I think it was the right thing to do

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 because you can because Jesus Christ

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 will never ask us to do anything

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 that he will not empower us to do.

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 So if forgiveness is God's will and it is,

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 you and I should be people of forgiveness.

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 We should be discerning.

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 We should be intelligent.

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 We should be wise.

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 But we should be people of forgiveness.

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 And forgiveness is not about how we feel.

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 It's about what we do.

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 It's not feeling something

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 as much as it is being committed to something.

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 So when we forgive somebody, we cancel the debt.

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 We don't hold it against them.

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 It's not something that we carry any longer

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 in our hearts, the hurt.

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 Dr. David Benner, who was a clinical Christian psychologist,

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 said this,

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 the single most important concept in biblical Christianity,

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 wow, the single most important concept

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 in biblical Christianity is forgiveness.

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 It is a freeing, empowering, refreshing, healing,

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 and joyful experience, which is capable

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 of transforming all of life.

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 To forgive is to show love.

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 To forgive is to actually receive love.

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 The Bible says we're to love one another,

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 to love our mates, to love our enemies.

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 And it's not so much that we're going to have

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 these effervescent feelings,

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 but that we are going to be committed

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 to do what is the right thing.

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 On Monday, December the 1st, 1997,

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 in Paducah, Kentucky,

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 and the reason I go back that far and remember that

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 is because when I was working on my second master's degree,

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 then there was a guy in the class

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 who was from Paducah, Kentucky,

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 and I had never heard of the place before,

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 but then sometime later, this happened,

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 and I was remembering that,

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 and I recall my friendship with him.

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 About a dozen students, you remember,

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 gathered to pray before school had started.

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 It was outside the administration building

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 at Heath High School.

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 Classes were getting ready to start,

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 and the prayer meeting was about to end

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 when shots rang out,

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 and a 22-year-old freshman

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 with an automatic .22 pistol came in,

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 and he began firing into the prayer meeting.

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 He killed three.

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 He seriously wounded five.

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 One of the girls that was wounded,

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 her name was Melissa Jenkins.

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 She was 15 years old,

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 and she had been shot.

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 She was taken to a nearby hospital,

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 and they did surgery on her,

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 but the results were

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 that she would be a paraplegic

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 for the rest of her life.

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 So as the days went by,

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 and she was able to talk,

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 she said to people who had visited her,

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 tell the shooter,

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 I forgive him.

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 Now that rocked the media.

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 They didn't know how to handle that

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 because the secular media

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 does not know how to handle spiritual stuff.

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 They were shocked by that.

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 They couldn't believe it.

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 Forgiveness is hard.

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 Forgiveness is not natural.

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 Forgiveness is supernatural

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 because forgiveness is the work of God

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 to us and through us

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 and in the lives of other people.

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 Just a few years ago,

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 you remember the Emanuel Nine

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 at Mother Emanuel AME Church

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 when Dylan Roof, a white supremacist,

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 comes in to a small prayer meeting

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 on a Wednesday night

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 and pulls out a weapon

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 and kills, murders nine people.

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 And once again,

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 the media was absolutely stunned

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 when that church rallied around

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 and then you had families of the victims

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 saying, we forgive him.

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 That's not natural.

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 The world doesn't expect that.

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 The media doesn't expect that.

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 Some Christians don't even expect that.

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 But that's what God expects from us.

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 To forgive.

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 But I would remind you that

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 over 2,000 years

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 before the Emanuel Nine

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 or before Melissa Jenkins

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 or before all these other terrible shootings,

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 Jesus Christ dying on the cross,

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 dehydrated in great pain,

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 bearing the sin of the world.

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 And just before he died,

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 do you remember what Jesus said?

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 Father, forgive them.

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 For they don't know what they're doing.

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 And we have a tendency to separate

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 who Jesus was and who we are

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 and we shouldn't

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 because the Bible says

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 he is in us

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 in the person of his spirit.

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 And if he is in us,

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 then we should be growing more and more

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 to be like him.

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 And Jesus Christ was about forgiveness.

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 Forgiveness is mentioned 260 times in the Bible.

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 A few years ago,

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 I went out to Dallas, Texas.

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 And I have had a license as a counselor

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 for a number of years.

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 But some of you know this.

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 If you're in any kind of profession

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 that you have to have a license

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 or certification,

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 then you have to go through continuing education.

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 You have to get these CEUs.

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 So they're having this

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 Christian counseling conference

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 and had these national speakers.

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 And then you know how those things go.

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 You have a plenary speaker

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 and then you have tracks.

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 And you have all these different courses

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 or tracks you can get on.

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 And I noticed that Dr. Richard Walters,

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 his track was forgiveness.

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 So I decided to take his lectures during the week

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 and I bought his book,

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 which was about forgiveness.

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 And I'll never forget

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 when he stood up the first day of his seminar,

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 he said this.

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 He's in Boulder, Colorado.

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 Christian psychologist.

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 Private practice.

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 He said,

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 over 90% of all the people I see in my practice

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 have an issue.

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 And the issue is forgiveness.

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 They either need to receive it

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 or they need to give it.

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 No wonder then Benner would say

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 it's the single most important concept

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 in biblical Christianity.

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 Forgiveness.

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 Dr. Walter said,

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 when we don't forgive,

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 there's three things that happen.

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 There's broken relationships.

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 And a person has a tendency

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 to become kind of paranoid,

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 cynical, suspicious of almost everyone.

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 And then the second thing

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 is broken fellowship with God.

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 And he says,

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 you cannot have joy.

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 You can't be a witness.

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 You cannot really walk with God

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 if you don't receive forgiveness,

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 if you don't give forgiveness.

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 And then the third thing

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 is broken health.

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 And he says,

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 unforgiving people have a tendency

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 to have more physical difficulties

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 than others.

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 Well,

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 that was the introduction.

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 So I want to share two things

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 with you this morning.

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 And you know it's going to be short,

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 right Brian?

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 Because it's only two things.

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 The first is the foundation.

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 He says,

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 forgiving each other

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 just as God in Christ

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 has also forgiven you.

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 The foundation.

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 So why do we even need that verse

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 in the Bible?

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 He says,

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 forgiving each other.

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 And he's talking about Christians,

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 people that are born again,

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 forgiving each other.

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 Then the reason it's there

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 and the reason it's for Christians

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 is because we need it,

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 because we fail,

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 because we sin,

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 and because we hurt others,

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 and we are hurt by others.

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 It's a real temptation to say,

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 if you are perfect,

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 would you stand up and testify

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 about what life is like,

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 like that?

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 But I won't do it

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 because you never know

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 in a service

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 when some deranged person

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 may come in

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 thinking they're actually perfect.

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 We're not.

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 We sin.

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 We fail.

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 We stumble.

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 But we're to be forgiving.

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 And we're to receive forgiveness.

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 So the problem we have is

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 the problem of sin.

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 And guess what?

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 Sin doesn't go away.

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 It's always been in the world.

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 It always will be in the world.

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 And the root of sin is pride.

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 And pride is the reason

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 we don't forgive.

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 We don't think we need to forgive.

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 We think we're too good to forgive.

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 We're too hurt to forgive.

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 We know too much to forgive.

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 Pride gets even.

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 Pride destroys.

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 Proverbs 16 and verse 18 says,

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 Pride goes before destruction

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 and a haughty spirit before stumbling.

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 And Hebrews 12 and verse 1 says,

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 Laying aside every encumbrance

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 and the sin.

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 Note the article.

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 The sin which so easily entangles us.

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 A lot of Christians have been bothered by that.

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 They think it's this sin or this sin,

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 this thing I do or this thing I do.

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 But what the writer is talking about is

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 the sin is unbelief.

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 Theologically it's unbelief.

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 You flip it over and the other side of the coin

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 is psychologically.

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 It's pride.

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 And they're one and the same.

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 The sin that so easily entangles us

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 from pride, from unbelief,

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 comes this unwillingness to forgive.

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 And if we're unwilling to forgive

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 when we know we need to forgive,

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 then what happens inside of us

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 is a sort of bitterness

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 and stillness spiritually

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 begins to set up.

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 John MacArthur said,

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 Refusing to forgive

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 is a horrible sin.

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 Now forgiveness and reconciliation

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 are not the same thing.

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 You can forgive somebody

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 and you may never be able

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 to be reconciled with that person,

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 but you can never be reconciled

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 with someone

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 if you're not forgiving

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 of that person.

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 The problem is sin.

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 But the power

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 is Jesus Christ.

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 There's never been a shortage

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 of power

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 with Christ.

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 I'm in the process

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 of writing a book

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 about angels

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 and it's fascinating

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 about angels.

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 And I had one to appear

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 in my life

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 although I've never seen

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 an angel.

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 But Christ is so much

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 more powerful

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 than angels

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 and all the angels exist

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 to serve and honor

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 and glorify Jesus Christ.

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 The power is in Christ.

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 When His Spirit is in us,

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 it's His power

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 that works in us.

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 Forgiven people

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 know how to forgive.

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 Forgiven people

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 should be forgiving people.

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 Oh, but there's, you know,

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 that bothering story

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 in Matthew 18.

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 23 through 27.

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 The man had a debt

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 of 10,000 talents.

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 Huge debt.

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 The largest talent

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 was the largest

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 denomination of money

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 in the Roman Empire

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 in circulation.

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 One talent was equal

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 to 6,000 denarii

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 and a denarius

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 was a day's wage

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 for an everyday laborer

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 or a soldier.

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 6,000 denarii

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 would equal

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 about 17 years

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 of wages

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 and a debt

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 of 10,000 talents

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 would take 10,000 men

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 about 17 years

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 to pay off.

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 It would take

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 at least 100 men

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 a lifetime

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 to pay it off.

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 The debt

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 was insurmountable.

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 It was impossible

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 to pay off.

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 It was something like

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 12 to 14 million dollars.

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 And that's the debt

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 this man has accumulated.

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 The Bible doesn't say

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 how he accumulated it,

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 but he accumulated it

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 and he couldn't pay it.

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 So he goes to

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 the people he's indebted to

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 and he asks for mercy

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 and then they say,

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 your debt's been forgiven.

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 It's canceled.

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 You don't owe anything.

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 And then he leaves

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 that relieved,

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 wouldn't you?

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 He's rejoicing

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 and he runs into

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 his friend on the street

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 who owes him $20.

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 And he says,

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 give me my money.

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 I don't have,

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 if you don't give me

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 my money,

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 I'm going to have you

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 thrown in jail.

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 And he had him

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 thrown in jail.

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 And then Jesus

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 makes the point

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 that this man

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 did not know forgiveness

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 because if he knew

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 forgiveness

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 of this insurmountable death

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 like we had with sin

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 and was not willing

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 to forgive a man

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 $20,

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 he did not know

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 the power

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 or the principle

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 or the reality

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 of forgiveness.

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 Ephesians 1, 7 says,

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 we have redemption

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 through his blood,

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 the forgiveness

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 of our trespasses

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 according to the riches

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 of his grace.

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 God never overlooks sin

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 for God's sin is serious

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 and sin ought to be

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 serious for us.

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 And God paid the price

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 for sin.

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 When the price for sin

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 is paid,

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 our condition,

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 our condition

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 has been changed.

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 God looks at us

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 not as sinners then

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 but he looks at us

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 as redeemed

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 but we commit sins.

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 And that's where we go

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 to a verse like

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 1 John 1, 9.

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 If conditional.

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 If we confess

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 our sins.

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 He's faithful

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 and righteous

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 to forgive us our sins

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 and cleanse us

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 of all unrighteousness.

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 It is a condition

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 based on the confessing

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 and the confess.

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 Mike,

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 I know you're

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 a Greek scholar.

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 The confess

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 is a compound word

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 in Greek.

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 Homo,

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 legio.

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 Homo meaning same.

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 Legio meaning word.

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 Speak the same word.

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 Say the same thing.

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 In other words,

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 agree with God.

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 When we confess

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 our sin to God,

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 we are agreeing

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 with God

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 that what we've done

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 is wrong.

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 Instead of playing games,

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 instead of hiding,

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 instead of not owning up

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 to it,

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 we confess it

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 with God.

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 Pain,

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 hurt,

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 that lingers

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 in our heart

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 will fester

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 spiritually.

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 and if we don't

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 confess that,

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 it will lead

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 to this heart,

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 this spirit,

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 this practice

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 of unforgiveness.

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 The last thing,

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 the second thing

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 is the explanation.

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 He says,

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 forgiving each

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 other.

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 Now,

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 what do we do

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 when we forgive somebody?

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 Well,

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 somebody,

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 say somebody comes

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 to us

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 and they say,

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 you know what,

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 I did this,

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 will you forgive me?

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 We say,

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 yeah,

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 I forgive you.

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 Now,

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 one thing with the problem

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 with that

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 is that most of us

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 in this country,

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 Christians,

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 when somebody says,

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 will you forgive me

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 and we don't want

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 to talk about it,

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 we don't have to deal

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 with the hurt,

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 we say,

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 oh yeah,

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 yeah,

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 I forgive you

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 because we don't

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 think about it.

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 We haven't forgiven them,

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 we just say,

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 I don't want to talk about it.

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 Forgiveness is a process.

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 Forgiveness takes time.

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 It doesn't just,

00:18:58.580 --> 00:18:59.960
 to forgive someone,

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 you have to feel

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 what has happened

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 and you have to release

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 any claim on that.

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 You have to be willing

00:19:05.519 --> 00:19:07.039
 to cancel the debt

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 even though somebody

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 has done you wrong.

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 Remember the model prayer

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 in Matthew 6

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 and verse 12.

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 Jesus said,

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 forgive us our debts

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 as we also have forgiven

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 our debtors

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 or our trespasses

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 as we forgive those

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 who trespass against us.

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 Our condition

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 has changed

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 but our practice

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 as sinners

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 continues.

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 when we forgive

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 we release

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 and we don't take it back.

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 Now you can forgive someone

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 and never be able

00:19:44.880 --> 00:19:47.059
 to walk in fellowship

00:19:47.059 --> 00:19:48.100
 with that person again

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 depending on the person's life

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 not yours.

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 Let me give you an example.

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 I'm like Fred,

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 I'm a dog man,

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 I don't particularly like cats.

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 So,

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 if I'm walking down the street

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 and there's this

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 fenced in front yard

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 and I go by the sidewalk

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 and there's a little dog

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 on the inside

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 and he's jumping up

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 and down,

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 he's wagging his tail

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 which is a sign to say

00:20:07.960 --> 00:20:08.559
 I love you,

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 I love you,

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 I love you.

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 And I open the gate

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 and I go and I say,

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 hey little buddy,

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 how you doing?

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 He goes,

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 he writes my finger off.

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 And I'm bleeding profusely

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 and so I wrap it up

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 and I run down

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 to the doctor

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 and he stitches it up

00:20:21.279 --> 00:20:21.819
 and he says,

00:20:22.099 --> 00:20:22.359
 look,

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 we can't save your finger,

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 you're gonna be without a finger.

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 And I recover

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 and get back on my daily walk

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 and I go by that same house

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 and that same dog

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 and the dog's barking

00:20:31.879 --> 00:20:32.919
 and wagging his tail again

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 and I said,

00:20:33.379 --> 00:20:34.399
 I'm not messing with you.

00:20:35.980 --> 00:20:37.279
 Now I've forgiven the dog,

00:20:37.339 --> 00:20:38.359
 I didn't kill the dog.

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 I've forgiven the dog

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 but I'm not gonna get in there

00:20:43.259 --> 00:20:43.819
 with the dog,

00:20:43.919 --> 00:20:44.759
 have fellowship with it

00:20:44.759 --> 00:20:46.419
 because the nature of the dog

00:20:46.420 --> 00:20:48.180
 has not changed.

00:20:49.600 --> 00:20:50.279
 There's some people

00:20:50.279 --> 00:20:51.060
 you'll meet in life

00:20:51.060 --> 00:20:52.220
 because of the way,

00:20:52.320 --> 00:20:53.539
 the trajectory they're on,

00:20:53.640 --> 00:20:54.380
 where they live,

00:20:54.660 --> 00:20:55.820
 what their life is like,

00:20:56.000 --> 00:20:56.759
 they may do something

00:20:56.759 --> 00:20:57.259
 to hurt you

00:20:57.259 --> 00:20:58.360
 and you may forgive them

00:20:58.360 --> 00:20:59.900
 but you may not be able

00:20:59.900 --> 00:21:01.759
 to be reconciled with them

00:21:01.759 --> 00:21:03.960
 or to have fellowship with them.

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 But when you forgive,

00:21:05.800 --> 00:21:07.060
 a commitment is made

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 and that commitment

00:21:08.580 --> 00:21:09.900
 is maintained.

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 How can we tell

00:21:12.420 --> 00:21:13.340
 if we need

00:21:13.340 --> 00:21:14.900
 to forgive somebody?

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 Have you ever wondered that?

00:21:18.720 --> 00:21:20.380
 Dr. Walters in his book

00:21:20.380 --> 00:21:21.920
 and I've used this for years

00:21:21.920 --> 00:21:23.220
 in counseling with people

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 would give them a list of things

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 and this was on the list.

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 But he said,

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 there's six things

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 that you can ask

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 and he used this

00:21:30.360 --> 00:21:30.980
 as a checklist

00:21:30.980 --> 00:21:32.680
 in his practice

00:21:32.680 --> 00:21:33.800
 in counseling with people.

00:21:34.240 --> 00:21:35.320
 Six things

00:21:35.320 --> 00:21:36.440
 to see if you need

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 to forgive someone.

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 Let me give them to you

00:21:38.480 --> 00:21:38.980
 real quickly.

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 Number one is,

00:21:40.580 --> 00:21:41.660
 do I often think

00:21:41.660 --> 00:21:42.640
 about the hurt?

00:21:42.640 --> 00:21:44.780
 Do I often think

00:21:44.780 --> 00:21:45.420
 about the hurt

00:21:45.420 --> 00:21:47.140
 and have strong feelings

00:21:47.140 --> 00:21:48.360
 of anger?

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 Now there's a difference

00:21:50.080 --> 00:21:50.780
 in being hurt

00:21:50.780 --> 00:21:51.960
 and being unforgiving.

00:21:52.660 --> 00:21:53.700
 If you're hurt,

00:21:53.820 --> 00:21:54.660
 you can be forgiving.

00:21:56.200 --> 00:21:57.160
 You can be hurt

00:21:57.160 --> 00:21:57.960
 and be unforgiving

00:21:57.960 --> 00:21:58.900
 but there's a difference

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 in the two.

00:22:00.220 --> 00:22:00.440
 Second,

00:22:00.580 --> 00:22:01.600
 do I imagine

00:22:01.600 --> 00:22:02.720
 or desire injury

00:22:02.720 --> 00:22:03.220
 or hurt

00:22:03.220 --> 00:22:04.259
 coming to the person

00:22:04.259 --> 00:22:05.680
 who hurt me?

00:22:06.580 --> 00:22:07.980
 Revenge is the opposite

00:22:07.980 --> 00:22:09.020
 of forgiveness.

00:22:09.019 --> 00:22:11.379
 Many years ago

00:22:11.379 --> 00:22:12.339
 when I was pastor

00:22:12.339 --> 00:22:13.339
 at Roebuck Baptist

00:22:13.339 --> 00:22:14.299
 in Spartanburg

00:22:14.299 --> 00:22:16.400
 doing counseling,

00:22:16.960 --> 00:22:17.940
 there was a couple

00:22:17.940 --> 00:22:18.839
 that joined our church.

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 It was a blended family.

00:22:20.279 --> 00:22:21.160
 They both had lost

00:22:21.160 --> 00:22:22.220
 their mates

00:22:22.220 --> 00:22:23.480
 and so they come together

00:22:23.480 --> 00:22:24.420
 as this blended family

00:22:24.420 --> 00:22:25.319
 and blended,

00:22:25.480 --> 00:22:26.299
 they had eight children.

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 So it was a struggle

00:22:30.220 --> 00:22:31.119
 from the very beginning

00:22:31.119 --> 00:22:32.400
 and they just kind of

00:22:32.400 --> 00:22:33.519
 got married

00:22:33.519 --> 00:22:34.400
 before anybody knew it.

00:22:34.460 --> 00:22:34.700
 Bam!

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 And there they were.

00:22:36.759 --> 00:22:38.180
 And so they came to me

00:22:38.180 --> 00:22:38.700
 for counseling.

00:22:38.840 --> 00:22:39.620
 I counseled with them

00:22:39.620 --> 00:22:40.360
 for a few weeks

00:22:40.360 --> 00:22:41.460
 and then one day

00:22:41.460 --> 00:22:42.779
 she comes in alone

00:22:42.779 --> 00:22:44.900
 and she is absolutely hysterical.

00:22:46.860 --> 00:22:47.580
 What happened?

00:22:48.380 --> 00:22:49.080
 He's gone.

00:22:49.560 --> 00:22:50.360
 What do you mean he's gone?

00:22:50.560 --> 00:22:51.680
 While I was at work,

00:22:52.460 --> 00:22:54.900
 he had a U-Haul come,

00:22:55.360 --> 00:22:56.539
 loaded up all his furniture,

00:22:56.779 --> 00:22:57.580
 took his kids

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 and they've gone to Florida.

00:23:00.000 --> 00:23:00.440
 I said,

00:23:00.500 --> 00:23:00.860
 oh my.

00:23:01.900 --> 00:23:02.660
 And she was,

00:23:02.700 --> 00:23:03.000
 I mean,

00:23:03.060 --> 00:23:03.720
 she was hot.

00:23:03.799 --> 00:23:04.580
 She was livid.

00:23:05.580 --> 00:23:06.620
 And so we began to talk

00:23:06.620 --> 00:23:07.060
 and I'm thinking,

00:23:07.160 --> 00:23:07.200
 well,

00:23:07.200 --> 00:23:08.480
 how can we work through this now?

00:23:10.960 --> 00:23:11.840
 I didn't want to say,

00:23:11.880 --> 00:23:11.940
 well,

00:23:11.940 --> 00:23:12.819
 how do you feel about him?

00:23:12.880 --> 00:23:13.980
 Because I had an idea

00:23:13.980 --> 00:23:14.860
 how she felt about him.

00:23:18.660 --> 00:23:20.039
 As we began to talk,

00:23:22.140 --> 00:23:23.400
 forgiveness was a little early

00:23:23.400 --> 00:23:24.180
 in the conversation.

00:23:24.720 --> 00:23:25.799
 I was just trying to get her

00:23:25.799 --> 00:23:26.279
 to a place

00:23:26.279 --> 00:23:27.319
 that she didn't want to kill him.

00:23:28.779 --> 00:23:31.100
 And I said,

00:23:31.160 --> 00:23:31.240
 well,

00:23:31.319 --> 00:23:33.180
 after a couple of times,

00:23:33.259 --> 00:23:33.460
 I said,

00:23:33.500 --> 00:23:33.580
 well,

00:23:33.740 --> 00:23:34.759
 how are you feeling

00:23:34.759 --> 00:23:35.539
 about things now?

00:23:35.600 --> 00:23:35.819
 She said,

00:23:35.940 --> 00:23:36.059
 well,

00:23:36.080 --> 00:23:36.600
 you know what?

00:23:36.599 --> 00:23:38.279
 I don't want him to die.

00:23:39.639 --> 00:23:39.879
 And I thought,

00:23:39.939 --> 00:23:40.039
 well,

00:23:40.059 --> 00:23:40.799
 that's a success.

00:23:41.019 --> 00:23:41.359
 She said,

00:23:41.399 --> 00:23:42.019
 I just want him

00:23:42.019 --> 00:23:42.980
 to have an accident

00:23:42.980 --> 00:23:44.240
 or get a disease

00:23:44.240 --> 00:23:45.279
 and just linger

00:23:45.279 --> 00:23:46.959
 for a long time in pain.

00:23:49.500 --> 00:23:50.519
 That's not forgiveness.

00:23:51.899 --> 00:23:52.939
 That's not forgiveness.

00:23:54.619 --> 00:23:56.539
 Do I imagine hurt

00:23:56.539 --> 00:23:58.379
 or injury

00:23:58.379 --> 00:23:59.579
 coming to this person?

00:23:59.859 --> 00:24:00.480
 The third thing,

00:24:01.219 --> 00:24:02.559
 do I go out of my way

00:24:02.559 --> 00:24:04.299
 to avoid the person?

00:24:04.299 --> 00:24:07.099
 They have hurt me.

00:24:07.099 --> 00:24:09.039
 Do I go out of my way

00:24:09.039 --> 00:24:09.720
 to avoid them?

00:24:10.799 --> 00:24:11.960
 The fourth thing is,

00:24:12.099 --> 00:24:13.599
 do I have physical symptoms

00:24:13.599 --> 00:24:16.339
 like irritability

00:24:16.339 --> 00:24:18.359
 when we think of that person

00:24:18.359 --> 00:24:19.480
 or that wrong?

00:24:19.559 --> 00:24:20.579
 Does it change

00:24:20.579 --> 00:24:22.879
 the way I behave?

00:24:24.220 --> 00:24:24.940
 Number five,

00:24:25.059 --> 00:24:25.919
 do I directly

00:24:25.919 --> 00:24:27.039
 or indirectly

00:24:27.039 --> 00:24:27.839
 attack

00:24:27.839 --> 00:24:29.419
 the other person?

00:24:30.059 --> 00:24:31.379
 Am I very aggressive

00:24:31.380 --> 00:24:32.380
 aggressive

00:24:32.380 --> 00:24:32.800
 or am I passive aggressive?

00:24:33.940 --> 00:24:35.260
 And then number six,

00:24:35.420 --> 00:24:36.180
 am I critical

00:24:36.180 --> 00:24:37.100
 of myself,

00:24:37.960 --> 00:24:38.840
 self-demanding

00:24:38.840 --> 00:24:40.700
 and self-condemning?

00:24:40.700 --> 00:24:42.860
 In other words,

00:24:43.500 --> 00:24:44.700
 if I am angry

00:24:45.500 --> 00:24:47.620
 and I'm not going

00:24:47.620 --> 00:24:48.580
 to express it

00:24:48.580 --> 00:24:49.400
 to this person

00:24:49.400 --> 00:24:49.880
 because I'm going

00:24:49.880 --> 00:24:50.580
 to avoid them

00:24:50.579 --> 00:24:53.079
 and I'm not

00:24:53.079 --> 00:24:53.799
 confessing it

00:24:53.799 --> 00:24:54.419
 to God,

00:24:55.139 --> 00:24:55.599
 then that means

00:24:55.599 --> 00:24:56.659
 I'm suppressing it

00:24:56.659 --> 00:24:57.699
 and if I'm suppressing

00:24:57.699 --> 00:24:58.220
 that anger

00:24:58.220 --> 00:24:58.599
 that comes

00:24:58.599 --> 00:24:59.139
 from that hurt,

00:24:59.299 --> 00:24:59.759
 that means

00:24:59.759 --> 00:25:00.639
 I'm probably

00:25:00.639 --> 00:25:02.000
 depressed

00:25:02.000 --> 00:25:04.759
 and my countenance,

00:25:04.899 --> 00:25:05.519
 my inside,

00:25:05.619 --> 00:25:06.279
 my soul

00:25:06.279 --> 00:25:07.099
 changes.

00:25:10.980 --> 00:25:11.419
 Anybody,

00:25:11.599 --> 00:25:12.199
 you need to forgive.

00:25:15.379 --> 00:25:16.419
 The best time

00:25:16.419 --> 00:25:17.639
 to forgive somebody

00:25:17.639 --> 00:25:18.599
 is when you can.

00:25:18.599 --> 00:25:22.219
 I want to close

00:25:22.219 --> 00:25:22.899
 with this story

00:25:22.899 --> 00:25:23.740
 that happened

00:25:23.740 --> 00:25:24.459
 in my life.

00:25:24.659 --> 00:25:25.480
 I grew up

00:25:25.480 --> 00:25:26.679
 in the little town

00:25:26.679 --> 00:25:27.859
 of Iva,

00:25:28.359 --> 00:25:29.219
 South Carolina.

00:25:29.899 --> 00:25:30.439
 Has anybody

00:25:30.439 --> 00:25:31.539
 ever heard of it?

00:25:33.439 --> 00:25:33.819
 Okay.

00:25:34.379 --> 00:25:35.039
 I don't know

00:25:35.039 --> 00:25:35.439
 if you'd want

00:25:35.439 --> 00:25:36.240
 to go there today

00:25:36.240 --> 00:25:38.379
 but there was

00:25:38.379 --> 00:25:39.219
 a lady that grew

00:25:39.219 --> 00:25:40.319
 that was in my church

00:25:40.319 --> 00:25:42.059
 and she was

00:25:42.059 --> 00:25:42.779
 kind of the,

00:25:44.819 --> 00:25:45.459
 she was

00:25:45.459 --> 00:25:46.339
 Miss Missions

00:25:46.339 --> 00:25:46.599
 to everybody

00:25:46.599 --> 00:25:48.079
 in the whole area,

00:25:48.079 --> 00:25:48.779
 every church.

00:25:49.299 --> 00:25:49.639
 Her name

00:25:49.639 --> 00:25:50.679
 was Reva Wansley.

00:25:51.399 --> 00:25:52.599
 She was a school teacher.

00:25:53.099 --> 00:25:53.480
 She had been

00:25:53.480 --> 00:25:53.980
 a widow

00:25:53.980 --> 00:25:54.539
 for as long

00:25:54.539 --> 00:25:55.279
 as I knew her

00:25:55.279 --> 00:25:55.879
 as a little boy

00:25:55.879 --> 00:25:56.539
 growing up.

00:25:57.539 --> 00:25:58.339
 She had two jobs.

00:25:58.460 --> 00:25:59.159
 She'd be a substitute

00:25:59.159 --> 00:25:59.699
 teacher

00:25:59.699 --> 00:26:00.639
 and then she would

00:26:00.639 --> 00:26:02.019
 also work

00:26:02.019 --> 00:26:02.559
 for the Anderson

00:26:02.559 --> 00:26:03.059
 Independent

00:26:03.059 --> 00:26:03.859
 and she covered

00:26:03.859 --> 00:26:04.980
 Northeast Georgia

00:26:04.980 --> 00:26:05.740
 and she had

00:26:05.740 --> 00:26:06.699
 a column in there

00:26:06.699 --> 00:26:07.159
 called

00:26:07.159 --> 00:26:08.699
 Roving with Reva

00:26:08.699 --> 00:26:09.879
 and she'd tell

00:26:09.879 --> 00:26:10.720
 about all

00:26:10.720 --> 00:26:11.679
 these little things

00:26:11.679 --> 00:26:12.359
 that were happening

00:26:12.359 --> 00:26:13.480
 and dinners

00:26:13.480 --> 00:26:14.699
 and all this stuff

00:26:14.699 --> 00:26:15.539
 and coming

00:26:15.539 --> 00:26:16.079
 and going

00:26:16.079 --> 00:26:16.819
 and vacation

00:26:16.819 --> 00:26:17.799
 and get togethers

00:26:17.799 --> 00:26:18.379
 and stuff

00:26:18.379 --> 00:26:19.859
 in Northeast Georgia

00:26:19.859 --> 00:26:22.299
 but she was

00:26:22.299 --> 00:26:23.000
 a member

00:26:23.000 --> 00:26:23.539
 of the church

00:26:23.539 --> 00:26:24.319
 I grew up in

00:26:24.319 --> 00:26:26.579
 and she smelled

00:26:26.579 --> 00:26:27.059
 good.

00:26:28.740 --> 00:26:28.980
 I mean

00:26:28.980 --> 00:26:29.599
 she smelled

00:26:29.599 --> 00:26:30.460
 real good.

00:26:31.460 --> 00:26:31.779
 I mean

00:26:31.779 --> 00:26:32.460
 she smelled

00:26:32.460 --> 00:26:33.339
 strong

00:26:33.339 --> 00:26:36.359
 and you knew

00:26:36.359 --> 00:26:37.000
 Miss Reva

00:26:37.000 --> 00:26:37.679
 was coming

00:26:37.679 --> 00:26:39.679
 before she got there

00:26:39.679 --> 00:26:41.139
 and she wore

00:26:41.139 --> 00:26:41.559
 makeup

00:26:41.559 --> 00:26:41.960
 and she had

00:26:41.960 --> 00:26:42.759
 beautiful,

00:26:42.879 --> 00:26:43.839
 beautiful gray hair

00:26:43.839 --> 00:26:44.639
 but she put

00:26:44.639 --> 00:26:45.000
 her makeup

00:26:45.000 --> 00:26:45.220
 on

00:26:45.220 --> 00:26:45.619
 and she always

00:26:45.619 --> 00:26:46.240
 had these red

00:26:46.240 --> 00:26:46.699
 circles

00:26:46.699 --> 00:26:47.599
 that she put

00:26:47.599 --> 00:26:48.299
 on her cheeks

00:26:48.299 --> 00:26:50.720
 and she was

00:26:50.720 --> 00:26:52.099
 something else

00:26:52.099 --> 00:26:52.679
 but boy

00:26:52.679 --> 00:26:53.799
 was she mighty,

00:26:54.059 --> 00:26:54.379
 mighty

00:26:54.379 --> 00:26:55.559
 in prayer

00:26:55.559 --> 00:26:56.279
 and missions.

00:26:56.659 --> 00:26:57.059
 She loved

00:26:57.059 --> 00:26:57.839
 missions so much

00:26:57.839 --> 00:26:58.199
 she wanted

00:26:58.199 --> 00:26:58.519
 to help

00:26:58.519 --> 00:26:59.000
 missionaries

00:26:59.000 --> 00:26:59.539
 so much

00:26:59.539 --> 00:27:00.359
 that instead

00:27:00.359 --> 00:27:01.039
 of spending

00:27:01.039 --> 00:27:01.439
 money

00:27:01.439 --> 00:27:01.779
 and getting

00:27:01.779 --> 00:27:02.419
 new shoes

00:27:02.419 --> 00:27:03.199
 she would

00:27:03.199 --> 00:27:03.679
 cut out

00:27:03.679 --> 00:27:04.379
 of cardboard

00:27:04.379 --> 00:27:05.619
 the size

00:27:05.619 --> 00:27:06.119
 of her shoe

00:27:06.119 --> 00:27:06.559
 and put it

00:27:06.559 --> 00:27:06.980
 in her shoe

00:27:06.980 --> 00:27:07.639
 so she could

00:27:07.639 --> 00:27:08.500
 wear it longer

00:27:08.500 --> 00:27:09.220
 so she could

00:27:09.220 --> 00:27:09.619
 give more

00:27:09.619 --> 00:27:10.019
 to missions.

00:27:10.019 --> 00:27:11.940
 You talk

00:27:11.940 --> 00:27:12.700
 about Lottie Moon

00:27:12.700 --> 00:27:13.440
 Christmas offering

00:27:13.440 --> 00:27:14.599
 this is a woman

00:27:14.599 --> 00:27:15.740
 that inspired

00:27:15.740 --> 00:27:16.519
 many,

00:27:16.720 --> 00:27:17.220
 many people

00:27:17.220 --> 00:27:18.099
 to give.

00:27:21.379 --> 00:27:22.180
 Well I came

00:27:22.180 --> 00:27:22.759
 along and

00:27:22.759 --> 00:27:24.660
 after she had

00:27:24.660 --> 00:27:25.240
 retired from

00:27:25.240 --> 00:27:25.680
 just about

00:27:25.680 --> 00:27:26.039
 everything

00:27:26.039 --> 00:27:27.900
 I was working

00:27:27.900 --> 00:27:28.440
 at the Anderson

00:27:28.440 --> 00:27:28.720
 Independent

00:27:28.720 --> 00:27:29.279
 for a couple

00:27:29.279 --> 00:27:29.680
 of years

00:27:29.680 --> 00:27:30.559
 I went to

00:27:30.559 --> 00:27:31.139
 University of

00:27:31.139 --> 00:27:31.660
 South Carolina

00:27:31.660 --> 00:27:32.359
 I continued

00:27:32.359 --> 00:27:33.079
 to be a writer

00:27:33.079 --> 00:27:33.879
 for them

00:27:33.879 --> 00:27:34.400
 in the sports

00:27:34.400 --> 00:27:34.879
 department

00:27:34.879 --> 00:27:35.839
 and then I

00:27:35.839 --> 00:27:36.299
 announced

00:27:36.299 --> 00:27:37.059
 that I was

00:27:37.059 --> 00:27:37.759
 God had called

00:27:37.759 --> 00:27:38.440
 me into ministry

00:27:38.440 --> 00:27:39.220
 and I was

00:27:39.220 --> 00:27:40.100
 shifting gears

00:27:40.100 --> 00:27:41.059
 and I was

00:27:41.059 --> 00:27:41.539
 going to study

00:27:41.539 --> 00:27:42.140
 for the ministry

00:27:42.140 --> 00:27:42.519
 then.

00:27:43.120 --> 00:27:44.180
 Well I got

00:27:44.180 --> 00:27:44.500
 a letter

00:27:44.500 --> 00:27:44.960
 from her

00:27:44.960 --> 00:27:46.100
 it means a lot

00:27:46.100 --> 00:27:46.440
 to me

00:27:46.440 --> 00:27:46.860
 so I'm going

00:27:46.860 --> 00:27:47.160
 to share

00:27:47.160 --> 00:27:47.620
 it with you

00:27:47.620 --> 00:27:48.680
 I hope it

00:27:48.680 --> 00:27:49.100
 means something

00:27:49.100 --> 00:27:49.500
 to you

00:27:49.500 --> 00:27:50.480
 she said

00:27:50.480 --> 00:27:51.100
 my dear

00:27:51.100 --> 00:27:51.519
 Rudy

00:27:51.519 --> 00:27:53.299
 congratulations

00:27:53.299 --> 00:27:54.339
 I'm so proud

00:27:54.339 --> 00:27:54.579
 of you

00:27:54.579 --> 00:27:55.279
 I'm expecting

00:27:55.279 --> 00:27:55.940
 great things

00:27:55.940 --> 00:27:56.220
 of you

00:27:56.220 --> 00:27:56.680
 and I'm sure

00:27:56.680 --> 00:27:57.079
 I won't be

00:27:57.079 --> 00:27:57.579
 disappointed

00:27:57.579 --> 00:27:58.039
 you're doing

00:27:58.039 --> 00:27:58.539
 well as a

00:27:58.539 --> 00:27:59.140
 sports writer

00:27:59.140 --> 00:28:00.160
 I read

00:28:00.160 --> 00:28:00.620
 and enjoy

00:28:00.620 --> 00:28:01.420
 all you write

00:28:01.420 --> 00:28:02.180
 and she gave

00:28:02.180 --> 00:28:02.600
 me a list

00:28:02.600 --> 00:28:03.079
 of several

00:28:03.079 --> 00:28:03.420
 verses

00:28:03.420 --> 00:28:04.120
 and then said

00:28:04.120 --> 00:28:05.039
 these along

00:28:05.039 --> 00:28:05.559
 with others

00:28:05.559 --> 00:28:05.880
 have meant

00:28:05.880 --> 00:28:06.339
 so much

00:28:06.339 --> 00:28:06.620
 to me

00:28:06.620 --> 00:28:07.140
 in my life

00:28:07.140 --> 00:28:07.600
 and work

00:28:07.600 --> 00:28:08.559
 they are so

00:28:08.559 --> 00:28:09.319
 very comforting

00:28:09.319 --> 00:28:09.839
 when the going

00:28:09.839 --> 00:28:10.419
 gets tough

00:28:10.419 --> 00:28:11.200
 don't let

00:28:11.200 --> 00:28:11.519
 anything

00:28:11.519 --> 00:28:12.299
 discourage you

00:28:12.299 --> 00:28:12.659
 in life

00:28:12.659 --> 00:28:13.500
 discouragements

00:28:13.500 --> 00:28:14.059
 will come

00:28:14.059 --> 00:28:14.639
 but don't let

00:28:14.639 --> 00:28:15.119
 them get you

00:28:15.119 --> 00:28:15.460
 down

00:28:15.460 --> 00:28:16.679
 I'm so proud

00:28:16.679 --> 00:28:17.200
 of the interest

00:28:17.200 --> 00:28:17.899
 you are taking

00:28:17.899 --> 00:28:19.059
 in the Lord's

00:28:19.059 --> 00:28:19.279
 work

00:28:19.279 --> 00:28:19.859
 keep it up

00:28:19.859 --> 00:28:20.299
 may God

00:28:20.299 --> 00:28:20.839
 bless you

00:28:20.839 --> 00:28:21.919
 and use you

00:28:21.919 --> 00:28:22.419
 in a marvelous

00:28:22.419 --> 00:28:22.679
 way

00:28:22.679 --> 00:28:23.460
 now and always

00:28:23.460 --> 00:28:24.579
 I love you

00:28:24.579 --> 00:28:25.039
 dearly

00:28:25.039 --> 00:28:25.720
 and she signed

00:28:25.720 --> 00:28:25.859
 it

00:28:25.859 --> 00:28:26.919
 Mrs. Wansley

00:28:26.920 --> 00:28:31.820
 in 1978

00:28:31.820 --> 00:28:35.100
 there was a

00:28:35.100 --> 00:28:35.920
 fire in her

00:28:35.920 --> 00:28:36.400
 house

00:28:36.400 --> 00:28:37.800
 she was 81

00:28:37.800 --> 00:28:38.500
 at the time

00:28:38.500 --> 00:28:40.100
 she had a

00:28:40.100 --> 00:28:41.019
 retarded son

00:28:41.019 --> 00:28:42.300
 who was 57

00:28:42.300 --> 00:28:44.279
 and somehow

00:28:44.279 --> 00:28:45.180
 he had turned

00:28:45.180 --> 00:28:45.960
 a kerosene

00:28:45.960 --> 00:28:46.720
 heater over

00:28:46.720 --> 00:28:47.980
 it had spilled

00:28:47.980 --> 00:28:48.560
 out and the

00:28:48.560 --> 00:28:49.140
 house had caught

00:28:49.140 --> 00:28:50.860
 fire and she

00:28:50.860 --> 00:28:51.560
 was unable

00:28:51.560 --> 00:28:52.560
 to move

00:28:52.560 --> 00:28:54.440
 and it burned

00:28:54.440 --> 00:28:55.720
 60% of her

00:28:55.720 --> 00:28:57.000
 body badly

00:28:57.000 --> 00:28:58.819
 she was in

00:28:58.819 --> 00:28:59.720
 intensive care

00:28:59.720 --> 00:29:01.200
 and they

00:29:01.200 --> 00:29:01.600
 didn't hold

00:29:01.600 --> 00:29:02.039
 out much

00:29:02.039 --> 00:29:02.420
 hope

00:29:02.420 --> 00:29:03.880
 during that

00:29:03.880 --> 00:29:04.579
 time she

00:29:04.579 --> 00:29:04.980
 had a

00:29:04.980 --> 00:29:05.319
 daughter

00:29:05.319 --> 00:29:07.240
 who was

00:29:07.240 --> 00:29:08.000
 estranged

00:29:08.000 --> 00:29:08.460
 from her

00:29:08.460 --> 00:29:08.740
 mother

00:29:08.740 --> 00:29:09.960
 she wouldn't

00:29:09.960 --> 00:29:10.539
 speak to her

00:29:10.539 --> 00:29:10.799
 mother

00:29:10.799 --> 00:29:11.480
 she wouldn't

00:29:11.480 --> 00:29:12.000
 visit her

00:29:12.000 --> 00:29:12.259
 mother

00:29:12.259 --> 00:29:12.900
 she would

00:29:12.900 --> 00:29:13.319
 not even

00:29:13.319 --> 00:29:13.980
 go see her

00:29:13.980 --> 00:29:14.500
 mother on

00:29:14.500 --> 00:29:14.860
 her death

00:29:14.860 --> 00:29:15.600
 bed when

00:29:15.600 --> 00:29:16.019
 she was in

00:29:16.019 --> 00:29:16.380
 all that

00:29:16.380 --> 00:29:16.799
 pain in

00:29:16.799 --> 00:29:17.339
 the hospital

00:29:17.339 --> 00:29:19.240
 just before

00:29:19.240 --> 00:29:20.059
 she died

00:29:20.059 --> 00:29:20.799
 she said

00:29:20.799 --> 00:29:21.299
 this

00:29:21.299 --> 00:29:22.860
 tell her

00:29:22.860 --> 00:29:23.420
 her daughter

00:29:23.420 --> 00:29:24.740
 tell her

00:29:24.740 --> 00:29:25.380
 I'm going

00:29:25.380 --> 00:29:26.060
 to die

00:29:26.060 --> 00:29:26.760
 soon

00:29:26.760 --> 00:29:27.980
 I know

00:29:27.980 --> 00:29:28.300
 it

00:29:28.300 --> 00:29:29.620
 but tell

00:29:29.620 --> 00:29:29.920
 her

00:29:29.920 --> 00:29:31.140
 I have

00:29:31.140 --> 00:29:31.600
 forgiven

00:29:31.600 --> 00:29:32.040
 her

00:29:32.040 --> 00:29:34.320
 now what

00:29:34.320 --> 00:29:34.560
 I want

00:29:34.560 --> 00:29:34.820
 to say

00:29:34.820 --> 00:29:35.140
 to you

00:29:35.140 --> 00:29:35.780
 is that's

00:29:35.780 --> 00:29:35.980
 the way

00:29:35.980 --> 00:29:36.380
 forgiveness

00:29:36.380 --> 00:29:36.920
 works

00:29:36.920 --> 00:29:38.400
 when you

00:29:38.400 --> 00:29:38.740
 got it

00:29:38.740 --> 00:29:39.020
 in your

00:29:39.020 --> 00:29:39.360
 heart

00:29:39.360 --> 00:29:39.960
 you want

00:29:39.960 --> 00:29:40.400
 to let

00:29:40.400 --> 00:29:41.100
 that person

00:29:41.100 --> 00:29:41.700
 know

00:29:41.700 --> 00:29:42.460
 whatever

00:29:42.460 --> 00:29:43.220
 way

00:29:43.220 --> 00:29:43.980
 possible

00:29:43.980 --> 00:29:45.260
 I forgive

00:29:45.260 --> 00:29:45.560
 you

00:29:45.560 --> 00:29:47.060
 and it

00:29:47.060 --> 00:29:47.560
 is

00:29:47.560 --> 00:29:48.740
 liberating

00:29:48.740 --> 00:29:49.940
 it is

00:29:49.940 --> 00:29:50.640
 powerful

00:29:50.640 --> 00:29:51.440
 it is

00:29:51.440 --> 00:29:52.020
 compelling

00:29:52.020 --> 00:29:53.520
 it may

00:29:53.520 --> 00:29:54.060
 be the

00:29:54.060 --> 00:29:54.420
 single

00:29:54.420 --> 00:29:55.360
 most important

00:29:55.360 --> 00:29:56.120
 concept

00:29:56.120 --> 00:29:57.080
 in the

00:29:57.080 --> 00:29:57.400
 Christian

00:29:57.400 --> 00:29:57.880
 life

00:29:57.880 --> 00:30:01.100
 Jesus

00:30:01.100 --> 00:30:02.140
 forgave

00:30:02.140 --> 00:30:03.720
 his

00:30:03.720 --> 00:30:04.100
 message

00:30:04.100 --> 00:30:04.740
 to us

00:30:04.740 --> 00:30:04.940
 is

00:30:04.940 --> 00:30:05.700
 as I

00:30:05.700 --> 00:30:05.900
 have

00:30:05.900 --> 00:30:06.259
 forgiven

00:30:06.259 --> 00:30:07.700
 you

00:30:07.700 --> 00:30:08.039
 go and

00:30:08.039 --> 00:30:08.500
 forgive

00:30:08.500 --> 00:30:10.060
 has anybody

00:30:10.060 --> 00:30:10.620
 hurt you

00:30:10.620 --> 00:30:12.460
 anybody

00:30:12.460 --> 00:30:12.900
 done you

00:30:12.900 --> 00:30:13.300
 wrong

00:30:13.300 --> 00:30:14.560
 anybody

00:30:14.560 --> 00:30:15.360
 just done

00:30:15.360 --> 00:30:15.800
 something

00:30:15.800 --> 00:30:16.320
 that's not

00:30:16.320 --> 00:30:16.759
 right

00:30:16.759 --> 00:30:18.060
 big or

00:30:18.060 --> 00:30:18.380
 small

00:30:18.380 --> 00:30:18.900
 and you're

00:30:18.900 --> 00:30:19.500
 holding that

00:30:19.500 --> 00:30:19.779
 in your

00:30:19.779 --> 00:30:20.120
 heart

00:30:20.120 --> 00:30:21.240
 you won't

00:30:21.240 --> 00:30:21.600
 let go

00:30:21.599 --> 00:30:21.959
 of it

00:30:21.959 --> 00:30:25.139
 the most

00:30:25.139 --> 00:30:26.079
 freeing

00:30:26.079 --> 00:30:26.899
 releasing

00:30:26.899 --> 00:30:28.119
 powerful

00:30:28.119 --> 00:30:28.659
 thing

00:30:28.659 --> 00:30:29.599
 that you

00:30:29.599 --> 00:30:30.000
 can do

00:30:30.000 --> 00:30:30.459
 if that's

00:30:30.459 --> 00:30:31.019
 the case

00:30:31.019 --> 00:30:32.719
 is to

00:30:32.719 --> 00:30:33.139
 forgive

00:30:33.139 --> 00:30:33.839
 that person

00:30:33.839 --> 00:30:36.759
 now

00:30:36.759 --> 00:30:38.459
 sometimes

00:30:38.459 --> 00:30:39.219
 this happens

00:30:39.219 --> 00:30:40.519
 you hold

00:30:40.519 --> 00:30:41.079
 there for so

00:30:41.079 --> 00:30:41.459
 long that

00:30:41.459 --> 00:30:42.279
 person dies

00:30:42.279 --> 00:30:43.500
 and you're

00:30:43.500 --> 00:30:43.980
 still holding

00:30:43.980 --> 00:30:44.379
 that hurt

00:30:44.379 --> 00:30:44.619
 in your

00:30:44.619 --> 00:30:44.899
 heart

00:30:44.899 --> 00:30:46.259
 what can

00:30:46.259 --> 00:30:46.519
 you do

00:30:46.519 --> 00:30:46.699
 then

00:30:46.699 --> 00:30:47.379
 you still

00:30:47.379 --> 00:30:48.319
 can forgive

00:30:48.319 --> 00:30:48.939
 you still

00:30:48.939 --> 00:30:49.579
 can release

00:30:49.579 --> 00:30:50.299
 you can't

00:30:50.299 --> 00:30:50.679
 make the

00:30:50.679 --> 00:30:50.939
 circuit

00:30:50.939 --> 00:30:51.460
 complete

00:30:51.460 --> 00:30:52.839
 but you

00:30:52.839 --> 00:30:53.220
 can let

00:30:53.220 --> 00:30:53.740
 go

00:30:53.740 --> 00:30:54.740
 of the

00:30:54.740 --> 00:30:55.039
 hurt

00:30:55.039 --> 00:30:56.480
 you can

00:30:56.480 --> 00:30:57.000
 see the

00:30:57.000 --> 00:30:57.399
 person

00:30:57.399 --> 00:30:58.119
 differently

00:30:58.119 --> 00:30:59.519
 you can

00:30:59.519 --> 00:30:59.859
 cancel

00:30:59.859 --> 00:31:00.379
 the debt

00:31:00.379 --> 00:31:03.779
 anybody

00:31:03.779 --> 00:31:04.379
 you need

00:31:04.379 --> 00:31:04.599
 to

00:31:04.599 --> 00:31:05.579
 forgive

00:31:05.579 --> 00:31:12.599
 if there

00:31:12.599 --> 00:31:12.899
 is

00:31:12.899 --> 00:31:13.240
 would you

00:31:13.240 --> 00:31:13.859
 think about

00:31:13.859 --> 00:31:14.899
 praying about

00:31:14.899 --> 00:31:15.159
 it

00:31:15.159 --> 00:31:16.919
 and maybe

00:31:16.919 --> 00:31:17.339
 even this

00:31:17.339 --> 00:31:17.679
 week

00:31:17.679 --> 00:31:18.819
 as God

00:31:18.819 --> 00:31:19.480
 gives you

00:31:19.480 --> 00:31:20.140
 direction

00:31:20.140 --> 00:31:20.559
 to do

00:31:20.559 --> 00:31:20.819
 it

00:31:20.819 --> 00:31:22.099
 would you

00:31:22.099 --> 00:31:22.539
 just do

00:31:22.539 --> 00:31:22.799
 it

00:31:22.799 --> 00:31:24.500
 you say

00:31:24.500 --> 00:31:24.740
 do I

00:31:24.740 --> 00:31:25.000
 need to

00:31:25.000 --> 00:31:25.259
 talk to

00:31:25.259 --> 00:31:25.420
 that

00:31:25.420 --> 00:31:25.799
 person

00:31:25.799 --> 00:31:27.039
 maybe

00:31:27.039 --> 00:31:28.640
 maybe

00:31:28.640 --> 00:31:29.059
 not

00:31:29.059 --> 00:31:30.420
 most

00:31:30.420 --> 00:31:30.779
 cases

00:31:30.779 --> 00:31:31.200
 yes

00:31:31.200 --> 00:31:32.120
 because

00:31:32.120 --> 00:31:32.360
 you want

00:31:32.360 --> 00:31:32.620
 to make

00:31:32.620 --> 00:31:32.839
 that

00:31:32.839 --> 00:31:33.480
 circuit

00:31:33.480 --> 00:31:33.980
 complete

00:31:33.980 --> 00:31:34.440
 but if

00:31:34.440 --> 00:31:34.740
 they won't

00:31:34.740 --> 00:31:35.160
 hear you

00:31:35.160 --> 00:31:36.019
 they shut

00:31:36.019 --> 00:31:36.299
 the door

00:31:36.299 --> 00:31:36.500
 in your

00:31:36.500 --> 00:31:36.839
 face

00:31:36.839 --> 00:31:37.640
 they hang

00:31:37.640 --> 00:31:37.920
 up on

00:31:37.920 --> 00:31:38.240
 your phone

00:31:38.240 --> 00:31:38.620
 call

00:31:38.620 --> 00:31:40.220
 send them

00:31:40.220 --> 00:31:40.539
 a note

00:31:40.539 --> 00:31:40.940
 send them

00:31:40.940 --> 00:31:41.299
 an email

00:31:41.299 --> 00:31:41.720
 send them

00:31:41.720 --> 00:31:42.259
 a text

00:31:42.259 --> 00:31:43.240
 and let

00:31:43.240 --> 00:31:43.660
 them know

00:31:43.660 --> 00:31:44.839
 that you

00:31:44.839 --> 00:31:45.360
 forgive them

00:31:45.360 --> 00:31:46.220
 not in a

00:31:46.220 --> 00:31:46.819
 condescending

00:31:46.819 --> 00:31:47.099
 way

00:31:47.099 --> 00:31:47.579
 not in a

00:31:47.579 --> 00:31:48.099
 judgmental

00:31:48.099 --> 00:31:48.339
 way

00:31:48.339 --> 00:31:49.359
 but in a

00:31:49.359 --> 00:31:49.819
 genuinely

00:31:49.819 --> 00:31:50.619
 caring

00:31:50.619 --> 00:31:51.259
 way

00:31:51.259 --> 00:31:52.099
 like

00:31:52.099 --> 00:31:52.699
 Jesus

00:31:52.699 --> 00:31:53.759
 does

00:31:53.759 --> 00:31:55.359
 anybody

00:31:55.359 --> 00:31:56.720
 that you

00:31:56.720 --> 00:31:57.059
 need to

00:31:57.059 --> 00:31:57.519
 forgive

00:31:57.519 --> 00:32:00.240
 let's pray

00:32:00.240 --> 00:32:00.599
 together

00:32:00.599 --> 00:32:05.039
 father we

00:32:05.039 --> 00:32:05.579
 thank you

00:32:05.579 --> 00:32:06.079
 for the

00:32:06.079 --> 00:32:06.779
 power

00:32:06.779 --> 00:32:08.459
 and the

00:32:08.459 --> 00:32:09.019
 forgiveness

00:32:09.019 --> 00:32:09.859
 that you

00:32:09.859 --> 00:32:10.519
 empower

00:32:10.519 --> 00:32:11.559
 through us

00:32:11.559 --> 00:32:13.700
 we thank

00:32:13.700 --> 00:32:14.240
 you for

00:32:14.240 --> 00:32:14.599
 the

00:32:14.599 --> 00:32:16.460
 forgiveness

00:32:16.460 --> 00:32:17.379
 that you

00:32:17.379 --> 00:32:18.319
 give us

00:32:18.319 --> 00:32:20.759
 that is so

00:32:20.759 --> 00:32:21.679
 magnificent

00:32:21.679 --> 00:32:23.279
 so deep

00:32:23.279 --> 00:32:24.460
 so eternal

00:32:24.460 --> 00:32:26.099
 we'll never

00:32:26.099 --> 00:32:26.819
 get over it

00:32:26.819 --> 00:32:29.220
 help us

00:32:29.220 --> 00:32:30.119
 if we hold

00:32:30.119 --> 00:32:30.539
 on to

00:32:30.539 --> 00:32:31.079
 hurts

00:32:31.079 --> 00:32:32.379
 to get

00:32:32.379 --> 00:32:32.599
 over

00:32:32.599 --> 00:32:33.200
 ourselves

00:32:33.200 --> 00:32:35.319
 so that

00:32:35.319 --> 00:32:35.679
 we can

00:32:35.679 --> 00:32:36.659
 experience

00:32:36.659 --> 00:32:38.759
 a life

00:32:38.759 --> 00:32:39.419
 that reflects

00:32:39.419 --> 00:32:39.960
 obedience

00:32:39.960 --> 00:32:40.740
 to you

00:32:40.740 --> 00:32:42.160
 and finds

00:32:42.160 --> 00:32:42.819
 freedom

00:32:42.819 --> 00:32:44.059
 and not

00:32:44.059 --> 00:32:44.779
 bondage

00:32:44.779 --> 00:32:45.920
 from following

00:32:45.920 --> 00:32:46.360
 you

00:32:46.360 --> 00:32:47.779
 there's anyone

00:32:47.779 --> 00:32:48.340
 here that

00:32:48.340 --> 00:32:49.860
 really needs

00:32:49.860 --> 00:32:50.360
 to forgive

00:32:50.360 --> 00:32:50.880
 someone

00:32:50.880 --> 00:32:52.680
 I pray that

00:32:52.680 --> 00:32:52.980
 you would

00:32:52.980 --> 00:32:53.400
 give them

00:32:53.400 --> 00:32:54.039
 the grace

00:32:54.039 --> 00:32:54.680
 and the

00:32:54.680 --> 00:32:55.120
 strength

00:32:55.120 --> 00:32:56.200
 and the

00:32:56.200 --> 00:32:56.680
 courage

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 to do it

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 in Jesus

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 name

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 amen