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 Okay, by way of introduction, we are having some microphone questions.

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 Right here.

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 And I need someone with two 16-penny nails.

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 So you can pray that I don't have to have my feet nailed in one spot.

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 That would be very difficult for me.

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 I want you to open your Bibles, if you will, to Ephesians chapter 5.

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 And we are going to look at verse 22 through 24 this morning.

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 Let me read the passage to you and you follow along in your own copy of the scriptures.

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 Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord.

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 Don't take that to be divine addition.

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 The text is important in itself without the additional help.

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 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, his body,

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 and he is himself its savior.

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 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

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 Let us pray.

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 Father God, for us prayer is not a habit or something that we do because it's part of the plan of this day.

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 It is the expression of our hearts that reflect our confidence in you, our glad dependence upon

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 your sufficiency and your supremacy and our humble recognition that apart from you we can do nothing.

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 And Father, this morning as we take the scriptures that you have given to us by divine revelation,

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 and you have given us for our good and your glory.

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 We confess that apart from the working of the Spirit of God, these texts and the lesson that you have for us is going to fall on deaf ears.

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 I know, Lord, that there are some here in our fellowship this morning that do not know Christ.

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 And there's not a one of us that this morning would not ask that you and your grace would draw that individual and those souls to you.

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 It's reasonable to think that there are those who also this morning need to hear explicitly what your word has to say regarding this matter.

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 And so we ask that you would give to us teachable hearts, desire for the glory of Christ, and confidence in the work of the Spirit of God.

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 And we pray this because of Jesus.

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 Amen.

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 As we begin with this passage this morning, let me encourage you to know that one of the dangerous things to do with Scripture is to deal with it out of context.

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 You always have to keep every piece of study within the larger frame of what the Scriptures teach.

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 And so as we take up this passage in Ephesians chapter 5, verse 22 through 24,

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 I want to remind you that actually this is all part of a larger lesson that the apostle has given beginning in Ephesians chapter 1 all the way through to where we are now,

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 in which first of all, he explains to believers the book of Ephesians was written primarily to people who knew Christ.

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 Most everybody in the church at Ephesus had come to faith by being drawn by the grace of God to realize the darkness of their own soul and the hardness of their spirit.

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 And they came by faith and cried out and said,

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 I'm a sinner who stands justly condemned before Christ, and I need him to be my Savior.

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 Ephesians takes three chapters to explain that salvation is the work of God in which he changes a man's heart and a woman's heart and brings them into sweet relationship and communion with the Lord of glory.

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 Following that, Paul takes the remaining three chapters to explain how the church, which is the bride of Christ, the body of Christ, is to relate.

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 And the passage that we are looking at here, actually, in Galatians chapter 5, verse 22,

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 is really an explanation of what we've seen earlier in which the apostle says to all of the members of the congregation

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 that this book was written to, you as God's people are to be, what?

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 Filled with the Spirit.

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 Filled with the Spirit.

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 And following that, the first piece of counsel that he gives regarding that has to do with the way in which we interact with one another,

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 speaking Scripture to one another, the attitude we have in our music and worship,

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 and then also the matter of being thankful in all things.

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 Following that, he makes one last statement in verse 21,

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 that we are to be a people who are submissive to one another,

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 and in particular because of our fear and our regard and our respect for Christ.

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 Now, I do want to explain this morning as we look at this passage

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 that one of the first things we need to do is really see the big picture.

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 So I want you to have it in mind.

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 First, the Holy Spirit's greater interest in this passage is not principally that Christians will have great marriages.

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 Now, that may strike you a little odd

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 because I want you to understand that God does care about Christians having great marriages.

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 But his greater concern is the glory of Christ,

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 and we need to have that fixed in our minds.

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 The gospel and the glory of Christ is at the center of everything that we are to be

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 and what his instruction is to us.

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 The explicit, on-point instructions that we are going to see this morning

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 that apply to wives is only a part of the larger interest that the apostle has

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 in believers' living, spirit-filled lives.

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 And in living that spirit-filled life, his intention is that we model the wisdom and the goodness of God,

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 that people looking at the way in which our lives are constructed and play out

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 will say, wow, where did they get that idea?

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 That is novel, and it seems to actually work.

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 Second, I do want you to understand that Paul actually is going to give us three lessons

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 following verse 21.

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 Remember what verse 21 says?

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 It says, submit to one another.

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 Then he is going to use three different pictures of what that relationship of submission looks like.

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 One is in marriage.

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 Two is in parenting.

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 Three is in employment.

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 And in every case, along with the lesson that he gives on the matter of submission,

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 he is also going to give a lesson on the responsibility of the one who is in the position of authority

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 in that particular arena or venue.

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 He is going to address the order of submission in the home, in marriage, and at work.

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 Now, third, when I say to you and when you heard the passage read, I think it would be fair to say

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 that for some this morning, hearing that statement, wives, submit to your own husbands,

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 you may kind of smile on the outside, but the heart, the natural response to any issue of submission

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 is, guess what?

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 It's a little bit like nails on the chalkboard.

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 Do you follow that?

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 I'll never forget as a pastor, one of the things that happens is a couple says to me,

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 well, we'd like to get married, and they come in for premarital counseling.

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 And I usually have the young man and the young woman in my office.

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 And more than one occasion, I've gotten to this part of the process of premarital counseling.

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 And I ask the little girl who grew up in our church, do you think you're going to have any problems with submission?

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 And she twitters and giggles and says, oh, not at all.

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 And I think, wow, really encouraged to hear that.

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 I do want you to understand that the issue of submission is not something that is a struggle just today.

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 And it is a struggle.

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 I want you to turn back in your Bibles just for a moment to a passage in Genesis chapter 3.

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 And I want you to understand that with the fall came the struggle that we see today.

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 Genesis chapter 3, verse 16, God comes to Adam and Eve following the entrance of sin into the garden.

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 And here's what He says in verse 16.

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 He says, I will surely multiply your pain and childbearing.

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 Is there any mother here that doesn't think God spoke authoritatively in that passage?

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 Huh?

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 No.

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 I have been the happy witness to my children's births.

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 And I can tell you, my wife's a trooper.

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 But I can also tell you, in the good old days, you didn't have private birthing rooms that had a lot of sound protection.

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 And I will never forget Judith and I having one of four stalls in this birthing place.

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 And the woman across the hall had a vocabulary of a drunken sailor.

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 And when she could draw breath, all that she could draw was spent on doing two things.

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 One of the things that had a lot of time was spent on doing two things.

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 And the woman was just like, oh, my God said, here's some of the consequences of sin.

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 And we find there in verse 16, in pain you shall bring forth children.

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 But mark the next part, it says, your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you.

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 It's not saying, hey girl, you're really going to have the hots for your husband.

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 Thank you.

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 It's explaining that the desire and the heart is going to resist the headship and leadership that God has ordained.

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 And the husband is going to be inclined to be a little bit of a whiner or a tyrant.

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 How's that?

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 So I want you to have it in mind that when Paul wrote this statement, and you can go back to Ephesians chapter 5,

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 he was addressing a problem that his desire was bent towards helping the body of Christ,

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 and people in particular, honor and adore the Lord Jesus Christ in their marriages.

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 As a note of history, and I think it is important for us to keep the context in mind,

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 if you're a student of history at all, you will know that in the ancient world,

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 whether you were in Jewish culture or you were in Roman culture or you were in Greek culture,

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 women as a general rule were not highly prized or valued.

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 I'm not going to get into all the details of what that was like,

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 but I want you to understand that for the larger part, women were kind of viewed as a...

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 I want to be careful how I say that, but they weren't viewed with respect.

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 And the gospel brought deliverance.

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 Do you follow that?

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 If you think with me just for a moment over in Galatians chapter 3, and I want you to turn back just a little bit so you can see this.

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 In Galatians chapter 3, verse 28, we get a picture of how the gospel delivered

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 believers from the cloud and the pall that set over top of the unbelieving world.

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 Verse 28, there is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

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 Now, is that Bible truth?

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 Truth?

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 Yes, it is.

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 And I would suspect that as this liberty and freedom that we find in salvation began to work its way into the culture of the church,

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 which reminds us that in God's eyes we are all equal, and we are,

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 that brutal suppression that had characterized the culture led to the pendulum began to swing a little bit.

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 And I would suspicion that the Spirit of God sensed we need to clarify something.

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 How many of you understand that the Bill of Rights declares that we are all as citizens what?

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 Equal.

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 But the fact that we are equal as citizens does not change the need for order and structure.

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 Would you recognize that?

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 There are a number of young men in our fellowship that have decided that they want to pursue the military.

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 And when you go into the military, in one sense you are all equal,

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 but do you understand that being equal before our Constitution and the Bill of Rights does not mean that you don't respect those who are an authority over you?

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 It would seem that as the gospel began to transform that ancient culture,

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 it became evident that believers still need to be reminded of the fact that God who created all things

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 and was the one who designed order to be what it is,

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 he saw the need and we recognize that there is still a need.

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 And we need to have attention to that.

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 So, I want you to recognize this morning as you look at this passage in Ephesians chapter 5,

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 that the Bible begins by telling us, it says here,

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 wives submit to your own husband as to the Lord.

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 And God's plan for order and for what is wise and good,

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 it still remains even though it is countercultural.

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 So, let's take up verse 22 in particular and kind of break it down and begin to pay attention to what the passage says.

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 I want you to understand that without question the Bible makes it clear that spirit-filled submission is for the wife.

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 The believing wife who values the Word of God,

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 and I want to say that carefully,

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 the believing wife who values the Word of God and seeks to be spirit-filled is subject to her husband.

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 That's what the Bible says.

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 To put it another way,

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 the Christian wife is under her husband's headship and authority.

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 That means she is to follow his lead,

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 to submit to his counsel and direction,

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 and respect the office and role that her husband has received from God.

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 Now, I want you to understand that God has assigned specific roles to each member of society

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 and each member in a marriage in particular.

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 He has appointed the husband to lead

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 and the husband to provide.

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 I want you to turn back again.

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 You were in Genesis,

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 but I want you to go back, if you would, to Genesis chapter 2,

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 and we are going to discover there several different passages

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 in relationship to a husband's responsibility to be the leader in his home.

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 Genesis chapter 2,

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 verse 7 through 18.

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 Then the Lord formed the man of dust from the ground

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 and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life.

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 Man became a living creature.

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 The Lord planted a garden.

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 And we find there in the matter of the garden

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 that God gives explicit instructions to man

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 regarding what he was to do in the garden.

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 I want you to also notice in Genesis chapter 3,

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 verse 1 through 9,

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 that after sin came into the garden,

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 that God was not going to deal,

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 first of all,

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 with the first perpetrator of the sin,

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 but to the one who was responsible with headship.

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 The fact of the matter is,

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 is that Eve was the one who was first tempted.

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 She fell.

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 Her husband followed her.

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 But when God came into the picture,

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 his question of what has happened in this situation

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 was not directed to the woman,

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 but was directed to the man.

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 The proof of God's plan in a home,

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 as seen in the passages that we are looking at

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 here in Genesis 2 and Genesis chapter 3,

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 makes several points.

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 Number one, that God created man first,

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 and in doing so,

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 he did so to establish order.

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 He wanted to make clear what that plan was,

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 and he did that for us so we don't forget.

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 For another, we find there in the passage,

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 in the Genesis chapter 2 passage,

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 that he gave explicit instructions to man,

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 and he expected the man to pass those on.

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 Many of you work in environments

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 where those who are in a leadership and authority over you,

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 they're the ones who are given the instructions

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 from those who are above them,

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 and they are responsible to see

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 that you know what the instructions are

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 and that you follow them.

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 And as we recognize,

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 and we've already noted,

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 after sin entered the picture,

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 we find that God came to man

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 and held man responsible.

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 And I want you to look again,

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 if you would,

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 at Genesis chapter 3,

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 and mark what it says there in verse 9.

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 Do you know what he's trying to do?

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 Trying to pass the buck.

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 Trying to shuffle off his responsibility.

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 So as we look at this passage,

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 I want you to understand that God has ordained,

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 and I want to make this clear,

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 and we're going to come back to that again,

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 but I want to make it clear

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 that God has ordained

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 that the husband is to be the leader in his home.

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 That is his office and his responsibility.

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 And it is his duty to develop the skill

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 to do so in a biblical and honoring fashion.

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 I'll never forget the commissioning service

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 that my son was at,

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 and I had the privilege of attending,

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 and there he stands

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 as a newly minted second lieutenant,

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 green behind the ears.

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 All the experience that he had

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 was getting through officer's training school.

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 And the one who is there

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 to recognize his transition

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 from being an enlisted man

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 to an officer

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 is a veteran of the chase.

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 And the man who is commissioned

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 makes a very interesting statement.

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 He says,

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 follow me.

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 And the commissioned,

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 the man who is,

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 what's the word here?

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 You have an officer

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 and you have an enlisted man.

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 And the enlisted man says,

00:20:41.599 --> 00:20:42.859
 lead the way.

00:20:44.359 --> 00:20:45.619
 By appointment,

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 in the military,

00:20:48.299 --> 00:20:49.599
 a man is placed in office

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 and he's expected to lead.

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 And by appointment,

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 God has set the man

00:20:55.119 --> 00:20:56.420
 to be the leader in his home,

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 and it is God's expectation

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 that he do that properly.

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 Well, what this passage teaches,

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 and I want us to go back

00:21:04.039 --> 00:21:05.519
 to Ephesians chapter 5

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 and mark what it says,

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 there in verse 22 and 23,

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 what it teaches

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 is that a wife,

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 a Christian wife,

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 and I want to make that clear,

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 a Christian wife

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 is not to assert authority

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 over her husband.

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 I want you to go to a passage

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 that will help us

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 with this a little bit,

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 and you are there

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 in Ephesians.

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 Go forward

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 to the back of the Bible,

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 to the right.

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 Go to 1 Timothy chapter 2,

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 verse 12.

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 In 1 Timothy chapter 2,

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 verse 12,

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 we find that Paul

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 writes to the church

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 and he gives instruction

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 here as well.

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 And there in the passage,

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 he says,

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 I do not permit a woman

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 to teach or to exercise

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 authority over a man,

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 rather she is to remain quiet.

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 For Adam was formed first,

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 then Eve.

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 The order,

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 the Spirit of God,

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 God makes clear

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 is an indicator

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 of headship.

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 Secondly,

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 I want you to understand

00:22:03.579 --> 00:22:04.660
 that the Christian wife

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 is to follow

00:22:05.319 --> 00:22:06.640
 her husband's lead

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 and decisions.

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 And going back

00:22:09.420 --> 00:22:11.220
 to Ephesians chapter 5,

00:22:11.279 --> 00:22:11.860
 verse 24,

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 I want you to understand

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 that her leadership

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 and her submission

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 is to be extensive.

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 Look at the passage.

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 Now,

00:22:18.099 --> 00:22:18.720
 as the church

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 submits to Christ,

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 so also the wife

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 should submit

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 in everything

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 to her husband.

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 The Bible instructs

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 the Spirit-filled wife.

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 Can I stop

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 just for a moment?

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 I want you to understand

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 that apart from

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 the enabling

00:22:35.259 --> 00:22:36.480
 of the Spirit of God,

00:22:37.360 --> 00:22:39.120
 submission is not natural

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 or normal

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 to any woman.

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 And by the way,

00:22:43.200 --> 00:22:44.120
 so that we don't think

00:22:44.120 --> 00:22:45.279
 this is a gender issue,

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 I want you to understand

00:22:46.720 --> 00:22:47.340
 that submission

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 is not normal

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 to any of us.

00:22:50.360 --> 00:22:51.620
 It is something

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 that happens

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 under the enabling

00:22:54.699 --> 00:22:55.740
 of the Spirit of God,

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 and we need to remember that

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 because as we work

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 our way through this passage,

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 if you're sitting here

00:23:00.079 --> 00:23:01.619
 as a woman and saying,

00:23:01.759 --> 00:23:02.980
 I don't want to do that,

00:23:03.099 --> 00:23:04.699
 and the guy I'm married to

00:23:04.699 --> 00:23:05.859
 I'm not sure about,

00:23:06.059 --> 00:23:06.779
 I want to tell you,

00:23:06.960 --> 00:23:08.659
 your problem is not with him.

00:23:10.539 --> 00:23:11.919
 Your problem is with

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 allowing the Spirit of God

00:23:13.960 --> 00:23:15.039
 to work in your heart

00:23:15.039 --> 00:23:15.599
 and life

00:23:15.599 --> 00:23:16.740
 and allowing God

00:23:16.740 --> 00:23:17.759
 to be the one who leads.

00:23:17.759 --> 00:23:23.000
 Come back to the point

00:23:23.000 --> 00:23:24.079
 that this submission

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 is to be extensive.

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 I want you to understand

00:23:28.119 --> 00:23:29.119
 that the Bible instructs

00:23:29.119 --> 00:23:30.079
 the Spirit-filled wife

00:23:30.079 --> 00:23:31.460
 to submit to her husband's lead

00:23:31.460 --> 00:23:32.299
 in all things

00:23:32.299 --> 00:23:34.619
 except where he instructs her

00:23:34.619 --> 00:23:36.619
 to be clearly disobedient

00:23:36.619 --> 00:23:38.740
 to the written Word of God.

00:23:39.599 --> 00:23:40.240
 Over the years,

00:23:40.339 --> 00:23:41.980
 I've had wives call me up

00:23:41.980 --> 00:23:42.319
 and say,

00:23:42.440 --> 00:23:43.900
 hey, my husband wants me

00:23:43.900 --> 00:23:45.220
 to sign the tax form

00:23:45.220 --> 00:23:47.519
 and I know that it's false.

00:23:51.360 --> 00:23:52.740
 I've had wives call me up

00:23:52.740 --> 00:23:53.120
 and say,

00:23:53.339 --> 00:23:55.880
 my husband has prohibited me

00:23:55.880 --> 00:23:57.640
 from going to church.

00:23:59.039 --> 00:24:00.279
 I've had wives call me up

00:24:00.279 --> 00:24:00.539
 and say,

00:24:00.860 --> 00:24:02.360
 my husband has prohibited me

00:24:02.360 --> 00:24:03.220
 from being baptized.

00:24:05.380 --> 00:24:07.259
 My explicit counsel

00:24:07.259 --> 00:24:08.660
 in such case is,

00:24:08.779 --> 00:24:09.039
 listen,

00:24:09.960 --> 00:24:11.200
 you are to respectfully

00:24:11.200 --> 00:24:12.660
 let your husband know

00:24:12.660 --> 00:24:15.100
 that you are also

00:24:15.100 --> 00:24:17.040
 under someone else's authority

00:24:17.040 --> 00:24:18.360
 and that is the Word of God.

00:24:18.720 --> 00:24:20.060
 And humbly show him

00:24:20.060 --> 00:24:20.980
 what the Word of God

00:24:20.980 --> 00:24:22.320
 has to say in these regards.

00:24:22.840 --> 00:24:24.180
 Can a husband

00:24:24.180 --> 00:24:25.720
 command his wife

00:24:25.720 --> 00:24:26.980
 to sin against God?

00:24:27.120 --> 00:24:28.360
 The answer is,

00:24:28.920 --> 00:24:29.360
 no.

00:24:30.800 --> 00:24:32.320
 But if he doesn't want

00:24:32.320 --> 00:24:33.180
 to eat liver

00:24:33.180 --> 00:24:34.400
 and Brussels sprouts

00:24:34.400 --> 00:24:35.580
 and he says,

00:24:35.860 --> 00:24:36.759
 don't ever fix that

00:24:36.759 --> 00:24:37.680
 for me again,

00:24:38.880 --> 00:24:39.620
 don't.

00:24:39.880 --> 00:24:40.380
 You got it?

00:24:40.400 --> 00:24:40.820
 Pretty clear.

00:24:40.819 --> 00:24:43.039
 And I happen to like

00:24:43.039 --> 00:24:43.919
 liver and Brussels sprouts

00:24:43.919 --> 00:24:44.700
 in case you're wondering.

00:24:44.819 --> 00:24:45.559
 I did that at home.

00:24:45.639 --> 00:24:45.759
 No.

00:24:47.399 --> 00:24:48.179
 In our home,

00:24:48.220 --> 00:24:49.179
 I want you to understand

00:24:49.179 --> 00:24:50.179
 there's kind of a plan

00:24:50.179 --> 00:24:51.779
 that if God produced it

00:24:51.779 --> 00:24:53.799
 and my wife cooked it

00:24:53.799 --> 00:24:55.720
 and we prayed for it,

00:24:56.220 --> 00:24:57.399
 it's going home.

00:24:58.859 --> 00:24:59.259
 Okay?

00:24:59.519 --> 00:25:00.259
 You got that?

00:25:03.079 --> 00:25:04.419
 And we have,

00:25:04.599 --> 00:25:05.399
 of course our children

00:25:05.399 --> 00:25:06.200
 are all grown now

00:25:06.200 --> 00:25:06.859
 and under their own

00:25:06.859 --> 00:25:07.700
 authority and rules,

00:25:07.819 --> 00:25:08.779
 but we had a plan

00:25:08.779 --> 00:25:10.059
 that things that weren't

00:25:10.059 --> 00:25:10.740
 eaten for supper

00:25:10.740 --> 00:25:11.619
 were for breakfast.

00:25:13.920 --> 00:25:14.920
 And things that weren't

00:25:14.920 --> 00:25:15.859
 eaten for supper

00:25:15.859 --> 00:25:16.660
 and for breakfast

00:25:16.660 --> 00:25:17.579
 were for lunch.

00:25:17.819 --> 00:25:17.940
 You know,

00:25:18.339 --> 00:25:19.079
 eventually,

00:25:19.339 --> 00:25:19.920
 the refrigerator

00:25:19.920 --> 00:25:21.039
 was an amazing thing

00:25:21.039 --> 00:25:22.000
 and eventually,

00:25:22.839 --> 00:25:23.619
 there's a saying,

00:25:24.500 --> 00:25:25.200
 Shakespeare said,

00:25:25.279 --> 00:25:26.379
 hunger makes the best

00:25:26.379 --> 00:25:27.480
 sauce.

00:25:28.160 --> 00:25:28.480
 Okay,

00:25:28.660 --> 00:25:29.160
 back we go.

00:25:29.160 --> 00:25:34.759
 A wife's humility

00:25:34.759 --> 00:25:36.620
 and submission

00:25:36.620 --> 00:25:37.340
 to her husband

00:25:37.340 --> 00:25:39.600
 is to be extensive.

00:25:40.420 --> 00:25:41.360
 Let me come to another

00:25:41.360 --> 00:25:42.019
 point that I think

00:25:42.019 --> 00:25:42.540
 is important.

00:25:42.940 --> 00:25:43.900
 I want you to recognize

00:25:43.900 --> 00:25:44.820
 that the Bible says

00:25:44.820 --> 00:25:45.880
 that her husband

00:25:45.880 --> 00:25:47.420
 is the head.

00:25:49.300 --> 00:25:50.580
 I want you to recognize

00:25:50.580 --> 00:25:52.040
 that the Bible says

00:25:52.040 --> 00:25:52.759
 that the husband

00:25:52.759 --> 00:25:54.200
 is the head.

00:25:54.480 --> 00:25:55.200
 Put your finger,

00:25:55.320 --> 00:25:55.880
 if you will,

00:25:56.340 --> 00:25:57.480
 on verse 23.

00:25:57.480 --> 00:25:59.220
 The husband is

00:25:59.220 --> 00:26:00.779
 the head of the wife.

00:26:01.180 --> 00:26:02.000
 Not might be,

00:26:02.279 --> 00:26:03.180
 not should be,

00:26:03.720 --> 00:26:04.960
 not let's have a vote,

00:26:05.279 --> 00:26:06.079
 it says is.

00:26:07.019 --> 00:26:08.400
 The husband may be

00:26:08.400 --> 00:26:09.200
 a poor head.

00:26:10.579 --> 00:26:11.440
 There may be

00:26:11.440 --> 00:26:12.400
 some pieces missing

00:26:12.400 --> 00:26:13.640
 in terms of his logic

00:26:13.640 --> 00:26:14.259
 and structure,

00:26:14.620 --> 00:26:15.720
 but at the end of the day,

00:26:16.019 --> 00:26:17.000
 if God arrives

00:26:17.000 --> 00:26:17.539
 on the scene

00:26:17.539 --> 00:26:18.420
 and asks a question

00:26:18.420 --> 00:26:19.559
 about what's going on

00:26:19.559 --> 00:26:20.640
 at that address,

00:26:20.839 --> 00:26:21.980
 he's not going to talk

00:26:21.980 --> 00:26:22.480
 to the wife,

00:26:22.539 --> 00:26:23.079
 he's going to talk

00:26:23.079 --> 00:26:23.700
 to the husband.

00:26:23.700 --> 00:26:26.220
 Whether the wife

00:26:26.220 --> 00:26:27.519
 recognizes it or not,

00:26:27.700 --> 00:26:28.400
 God himself

00:26:28.400 --> 00:26:29.980
 has appointed the husband

00:26:29.980 --> 00:26:31.019
 to be the head

00:26:31.019 --> 00:26:31.840
 in that home

00:26:31.840 --> 00:26:32.799
 and he is.

00:26:34.160 --> 00:26:34.779
 By the way,

00:26:35.480 --> 00:26:36.319
 if the wife

00:26:36.319 --> 00:26:37.240
 doesn't like the head,

00:26:37.319 --> 00:26:38.000
 she probably should have

00:26:38.000 --> 00:26:38.660
 thought about that

00:26:38.660 --> 00:26:39.319
 before she said,

00:26:39.440 --> 00:26:39.700
 I do.

00:26:41.460 --> 00:26:42.319
 Don't be saying,

00:26:42.440 --> 00:26:43.200
 yes, I'll follow,

00:26:43.440 --> 00:26:44.100
 I do,

00:26:45.240 --> 00:26:47.559
 and then do it,

00:26:47.720 --> 00:26:48.440
 then not do it.

00:26:49.380 --> 00:26:49.819
 Again,

00:26:49.900 --> 00:26:50.660
 come back to the issue

00:26:50.660 --> 00:26:51.580
 of premarital counseling.

00:26:51.699 --> 00:26:52.199
 I can tell you

00:26:52.199 --> 00:26:53.159
 on more than one occasion,

00:26:53.339 --> 00:26:54.179
 and I've had the privilege

00:26:54.179 --> 00:26:55.799
 of, for the most part,

00:26:55.859 --> 00:26:56.480
 doing marriages

00:26:56.480 --> 00:26:57.859
 of young people

00:26:57.859 --> 00:26:58.439
 that have grown up

00:26:58.439 --> 00:26:59.000
 in our fellowship.

00:27:00.339 --> 00:27:01.399
 But there have been

00:27:01.399 --> 00:27:02.399
 those rare occasions

00:27:02.399 --> 00:27:03.199
 where individuals

00:27:03.199 --> 00:27:03.899
 have come to me

00:27:03.899 --> 00:27:04.199
 and said,

00:27:04.480 --> 00:27:05.740
 would you do our wedding?

00:27:07.399 --> 00:27:08.399
 Wonderful opportunity

00:27:08.399 --> 00:27:09.259
 of evangelism.

00:27:09.379 --> 00:27:10.039
 I've done two

00:27:10.039 --> 00:27:11.079
 non-believing people

00:27:11.079 --> 00:27:12.279
 and I did the civil service.

00:27:13.500 --> 00:27:14.259
 But I said,

00:27:14.460 --> 00:27:15.539
 if you want me

00:27:15.539 --> 00:27:16.179
 to marry you,

00:27:16.259 --> 00:27:16.839
 yeah, we want you

00:27:16.839 --> 00:27:17.980
 to marry us.

00:27:18.039 --> 00:27:18.259
 I said,

00:27:18.579 --> 00:27:19.480
 try that again.

00:27:19.799 --> 00:27:20.960
 We want you to marry us.

00:27:21.579 --> 00:27:23.339
 I said,

00:27:23.419 --> 00:27:23.919
 you have to go

00:27:23.919 --> 00:27:24.740
 through counseling

00:27:24.740 --> 00:27:25.259
 with me.

00:27:26.279 --> 00:27:26.799
 Oh yeah,

00:27:26.879 --> 00:27:27.359
 not a problem.

00:27:27.460 --> 00:27:27.639
 It's good,

00:27:27.759 --> 00:27:27.980
 blah, blah, blah.

00:27:28.039 --> 00:27:29.079
 And so there we go

00:27:29.079 --> 00:27:29.599
 and we get over

00:27:29.599 --> 00:27:30.259
 to this part

00:27:30.259 --> 00:27:31.220
 and it's like,

00:27:32.000 --> 00:27:32.240
 whoa,

00:27:32.839 --> 00:27:33.599
 what is that?

00:27:33.619 --> 00:27:34.839
 I'm not following him.

00:27:35.199 --> 00:27:35.599
 I said,

00:27:35.639 --> 00:27:36.359
 find somebody else

00:27:36.359 --> 00:27:37.019
 to do the wedding.

00:27:38.480 --> 00:27:38.939
 You know,

00:27:39.379 --> 00:27:40.220
 you're going to stand up

00:27:40.220 --> 00:27:40.699
 there and say,

00:27:40.759 --> 00:27:41.039
 I do.

00:27:41.119 --> 00:27:41.639
 What are you saying

00:27:41.639 --> 00:27:42.339
 I do too?

00:27:42.339 --> 00:27:42.439
 I do.

00:27:46.099 --> 00:27:47.139
 So let me give you

00:27:47.139 --> 00:27:48.339
 some practical counsel

00:27:48.919 --> 00:27:49.679
 for godly,

00:27:49.799 --> 00:27:50.839
 spirit-filled wives.

00:27:52.579 --> 00:27:53.619
 This verse,

00:27:53.759 --> 00:27:54.500
 and by extension

00:27:54.500 --> 00:27:55.240
 these verses

00:27:55.240 --> 00:27:56.119
 suggest that,

00:27:56.199 --> 00:27:56.659
 number one,

00:27:57.179 --> 00:27:58.019
 a Christian wife

00:27:58.019 --> 00:27:59.039
 will support her husband

00:27:59.039 --> 00:28:00.419
 as he learns to lead.

00:28:01.259 --> 00:28:02.240
 Let me say that slowly

00:28:02.240 --> 00:28:03.419
 so you don't miss it.

00:28:04.099 --> 00:28:05.079
 A Christian wife

00:28:05.079 --> 00:28:07.099
 will support her husband

00:28:07.099 --> 00:28:08.740
 as he learns to lead.

00:28:08.859 --> 00:28:09.879
 In most cases,

00:28:10.299 --> 00:28:11.500
 I think it was last Sunday

00:28:11.500 --> 00:28:12.859
 as I was teaching Sunday school

00:28:12.859 --> 00:28:13.819
 in our class

00:28:13.819 --> 00:28:14.740
 called Home Improvements,

00:28:15.240 --> 00:28:15.939
 I asked,

00:28:16.139 --> 00:28:16.659
 how many of you

00:28:16.659 --> 00:28:17.299
 in this class

00:28:17.299 --> 00:28:18.399
 grew up in Christian homes?

00:28:18.400 --> 00:28:20.100
 Probably 80%

00:28:20.100 --> 00:28:20.880
 of my class

00:28:20.880 --> 00:28:21.860
 grew up in Christian homes.

00:28:22.960 --> 00:28:23.519
 That's good.

00:28:24.360 --> 00:28:24.860
 I said,

00:28:25.120 --> 00:28:25.780
 how many of you

00:28:25.780 --> 00:28:26.480
 young men

00:28:26.480 --> 00:28:27.740
 or how many of you

00:28:27.740 --> 00:28:29.560
 who are husbands

00:28:29.560 --> 00:28:31.800
 had specific training

00:28:31.800 --> 00:28:33.040
 in what it was

00:28:33.040 --> 00:28:34.400
 to be the leader

00:28:34.400 --> 00:28:35.180
 of your home?

00:28:35.720 --> 00:28:37.620
 No one raised their hand

00:28:37.620 --> 00:28:38.060
 and say,

00:28:38.480 --> 00:28:39.180
 oh, yeah,

00:28:39.320 --> 00:28:40.560
 I had that class.

00:28:41.660 --> 00:28:43.160
 My father taught me

00:28:43.160 --> 00:28:44.160
 the responsibility

00:28:44.160 --> 00:28:46.519
 of being the spiritual leader

00:28:46.519 --> 00:28:47.440
 of his home.

00:28:50.160 --> 00:28:51.480
 I want you to understand

00:28:51.480 --> 00:28:52.680
 that in most cases,

00:28:53.480 --> 00:28:55.160
 and I trust it does not

00:28:55.160 --> 00:28:56.960
 stay this way,

00:28:57.860 --> 00:28:58.800
 most cases,

00:28:59.519 --> 00:29:00.380
 young men are not

00:29:00.380 --> 00:29:01.540
 explicitly instructed

00:29:01.540 --> 00:29:02.740
 in what the responsibility

00:29:02.740 --> 00:29:04.000
 and obligations are

00:29:04.000 --> 00:29:05.019
 of being the spiritual leader

00:29:05.019 --> 00:29:05.560
 of their home.

00:29:06.019 --> 00:29:06.820
 And so, wives,

00:29:06.960 --> 00:29:07.519
 godly women,

00:29:07.800 --> 00:29:08.600
 you have to learn

00:29:08.600 --> 00:29:09.660
 how to support your husband

00:29:09.660 --> 00:29:11.140
 as he learns how to lead.

00:29:11.140 --> 00:29:13.060
 And learning how to lead

00:29:13.060 --> 00:29:14.840
 is a challenge.

00:29:16.840 --> 00:29:17.360
 Furthermore,

00:29:17.640 --> 00:29:17.980
 secondly,

00:29:18.100 --> 00:29:18.880
 the Christian wife

00:29:18.880 --> 00:29:19.560
 should pray

00:29:19.560 --> 00:29:20.700
 for her husband

00:29:20.700 --> 00:29:22.080
 as he grows in this area.

00:29:23.880 --> 00:29:25.160
 Something you learn

00:29:25.160 --> 00:29:26.380
 in leadership

00:29:26.380 --> 00:29:28.720
 is that

00:29:28.720 --> 00:29:30.580
 you learn by

00:29:30.580 --> 00:29:31.860
 trial and error,

00:29:32.080 --> 00:29:33.240
 you learn by consulting

00:29:33.240 --> 00:29:34.980
 those who are wise,

00:29:35.100 --> 00:29:35.740
 you learn upon,

00:29:36.140 --> 00:29:37.259
 you learn how to rely

00:29:37.259 --> 00:29:38.220
 upon the word of God,

00:29:38.360 --> 00:29:39.500
 and guess who suffers

00:29:39.500 --> 00:29:40.300
 as the young man

00:29:40.299 --> 00:29:40.940
 is going through

00:29:40.940 --> 00:29:41.680
 the learning curve.

00:29:41.740 --> 00:29:42.639
 Does anybody have an idea?

00:29:43.740 --> 00:29:44.859
 It's the other person

00:29:44.859 --> 00:29:45.500
 in the canoe.

00:29:47.919 --> 00:29:48.740
 Poor girl.

00:29:49.759 --> 00:29:50.680
 She decided,

00:29:50.839 --> 00:29:51.819
 yes, I'm going to follow,

00:29:52.119 --> 00:29:53.059
 yes, I'm going to be

00:29:53.059 --> 00:29:54.720
 his wife,

00:29:54.960 --> 00:29:56.220
 and the poor guy,

00:29:56.379 --> 00:29:58.019
 without extensive instructions

00:29:58.019 --> 00:29:59.019
 in what to do

00:29:59.019 --> 00:29:59.819
 as he leads,

00:30:00.099 --> 00:30:01.379
 he's bumbling around

00:30:01.379 --> 00:30:02.539
 and causing accidents,

00:30:02.779 --> 00:30:03.720
 and she is saying,

00:30:03.839 --> 00:30:04.519
 I don't like

00:30:04.519 --> 00:30:05.440
 all this consequence.

00:30:06.839 --> 00:30:08.339
 Here's what usually happens.

00:30:08.339 --> 00:30:10.919
 they leave this place

00:30:10.919 --> 00:30:11.519
 where they've said,

00:30:11.659 --> 00:30:11.980
 I do,

00:30:12.059 --> 00:30:13.119
 and smiles and giggles

00:30:13.119 --> 00:30:13.559
 and stuff,

00:30:13.720 --> 00:30:14.759
 and they walk out

00:30:14.759 --> 00:30:16.039
 and begin life,

00:30:16.579 --> 00:30:18.099
 and that rookie

00:30:18.099 --> 00:30:19.000
 novice husband

00:30:19.000 --> 00:30:19.879
 decides he's going

00:30:19.879 --> 00:30:20.500
 to try out

00:30:20.500 --> 00:30:21.359
 a couple decisions,

00:30:21.359 --> 00:30:22.519
 and he makes

00:30:22.519 --> 00:30:23.899
 a couple boneheaded ones,

00:30:24.159 --> 00:30:25.659
 and she begins

00:30:25.659 --> 00:30:26.279
 to say,

00:30:26.639 --> 00:30:27.439
 that was dumb,

00:30:27.679 --> 00:30:28.500
 that was dumb,

00:30:28.720 --> 00:30:29.559
 that was dumb,

00:30:29.659 --> 00:30:30.599
 and pretty soon

00:30:30.599 --> 00:30:31.099
 he says,

00:30:31.279 --> 00:30:32.339
 well, you take over,

00:30:32.339 --> 00:30:35.099
 and guess what happens

00:30:35.099 --> 00:30:35.879
 when she begins

00:30:35.879 --> 00:30:36.619
 to take over?

00:30:38.019 --> 00:30:39.019
 Two things.

00:30:40.500 --> 00:30:42.019
 She diminishes

00:30:42.019 --> 00:30:42.980
 her value

00:30:42.980 --> 00:30:43.959
 and respect

00:30:43.959 --> 00:30:45.179
 for him.

00:30:45.740 --> 00:30:47.039
 Can't help it.

00:30:48.019 --> 00:30:49.199
 And number two,

00:30:49.859 --> 00:30:50.879
 he begins

00:30:50.879 --> 00:30:51.959
 to think less

00:30:51.959 --> 00:30:53.419
 of her as well.

00:30:55.099 --> 00:30:56.359
 So when you have

00:30:56.359 --> 00:30:57.279
 a couple accidents

00:30:57.279 --> 00:30:59.119
 and you tip

00:30:59.119 --> 00:31:00.139
 that canoe over,

00:31:00.459 --> 00:31:01.279
 and he says,

00:31:01.279 --> 00:31:02.379
 why don't you try it

00:31:02.379 --> 00:31:03.000
 for a while,

00:31:03.599 --> 00:31:04.220
 godly,

00:31:04.579 --> 00:31:05.839
 young girl,

00:31:06.359 --> 00:31:06.940
 wife,

00:31:07.759 --> 00:31:08.460
 you say,

00:31:08.680 --> 00:31:11.019
 not on your life.

00:31:16.299 --> 00:31:17.220
 I want you

00:31:17.220 --> 00:31:17.819
 to understand

00:31:17.819 --> 00:31:18.660
 in relationship

00:31:18.660 --> 00:31:19.240
 to this,

00:31:19.420 --> 00:31:20.220
 the Christian wife

00:31:20.220 --> 00:31:21.039
 must trust

00:31:21.039 --> 00:31:22.180
 the Holy Spirit

00:31:22.180 --> 00:31:23.980
 to be more instructive

00:31:23.980 --> 00:31:24.920
 and persuasive

00:31:24.920 --> 00:31:26.259
 than she is.

00:31:26.920 --> 00:31:27.359
 Now,

00:31:27.399 --> 00:31:27.779
 what do I mean

00:31:27.779 --> 00:31:28.200
 by that?

00:31:29.539 --> 00:31:30.420
 Let me explain

00:31:30.420 --> 00:31:30.940
 something to you

00:31:30.940 --> 00:31:31.580
 so you get this,

00:31:31.620 --> 00:31:31.940
 and I've got to

00:31:31.940 --> 00:31:32.779
 watch my time here,

00:31:33.039 --> 00:31:33.779
 take my watch off,

00:31:33.840 --> 00:31:34.660
 so that's a real signal

00:31:34.660 --> 00:31:35.500
 I'm going to do that.

00:31:37.600 --> 00:31:38.259
 Truth of the matter

00:31:38.259 --> 00:31:38.559
 is,

00:31:38.580 --> 00:31:39.400
 is that little girls

00:31:39.400 --> 00:31:40.340
 learn a whole lot

00:31:40.340 --> 00:31:41.160
 more about playing

00:31:41.160 --> 00:31:42.180
 house than boys do.

00:31:42.259 --> 00:31:42.860
 Do you follow that?

00:31:44.019 --> 00:31:44.440
 I mean,

00:31:45.120 --> 00:31:47.320
 I'm around my grandkids,

00:31:47.500 --> 00:31:48.660
 and just from

00:31:48.660 --> 00:31:49.519
 this time they're little,

00:31:49.600 --> 00:31:50.360
 they get dolls.

00:31:50.519 --> 00:31:51.380
 Girls get dolls.

00:31:51.480 --> 00:31:51.680
 Do you know

00:31:51.680 --> 00:31:52.380
 what boys get?

00:31:53.480 --> 00:31:54.059
 In fact,

00:31:54.200 --> 00:31:55.220
 they get guns

00:31:55.220 --> 00:31:55.880
 and swords,

00:31:55.880 --> 00:31:58.019
 and my grandchildren,

00:31:58.019 --> 00:31:59.319
 my grandsons

00:31:59.319 --> 00:32:00.440
 can turn anything

00:32:00.440 --> 00:32:01.319
 into a sword.

00:32:02.000 --> 00:32:02.539
 I mean,

00:32:02.599 --> 00:32:03.480
 almost anything.

00:32:03.839 --> 00:32:04.500
 Do you follow that?

00:32:05.660 --> 00:32:06.839
 My little grandson

00:32:06.839 --> 00:32:08.079
 had tinker toys

00:32:08.079 --> 00:32:09.079
 crammed down

00:32:09.079 --> 00:32:09.779
 into his pants.

00:32:09.900 --> 00:32:10.039
 I mean,

00:32:10.079 --> 00:32:10.200
 you know,

00:32:10.200 --> 00:32:10.759
 tinker toys,

00:32:11.019 --> 00:32:11.440
 you know how you

00:32:11.440 --> 00:32:12.339
 join them together?

00:32:13.440 --> 00:32:13.539
 And,

00:32:13.660 --> 00:32:13.920
 you know,

00:32:14.119 --> 00:32:15.220
 tinker toy is a really

00:32:15.220 --> 00:32:16.019
 floppy sword,

00:32:16.099 --> 00:32:16.799
 but he pulled that out

00:32:16.799 --> 00:32:17.019
 and said,

00:32:17.079 --> 00:32:17.720
 see my sword?

00:32:18.480 --> 00:32:18.900
 I mean,

00:32:19.019 --> 00:32:20.539
 boys have swords.

00:32:20.980 --> 00:32:21.980
 Girls have what?

00:32:23.379 --> 00:32:23.900
 Dolls.

00:32:23.900 --> 00:32:25.740
 And they are learning

00:32:25.740 --> 00:32:26.920
 because they're being

00:32:26.920 --> 00:32:27.980
 coached by mommy.

00:32:28.440 --> 00:32:28.759
 Hey,

00:32:29.080 --> 00:32:30.180
 you don't just drop

00:32:30.180 --> 00:32:31.240
 that thing on the head.

00:32:31.380 --> 00:32:31.500
 Now,

00:32:31.519 --> 00:32:32.259
 why do you say that

00:32:32.259 --> 00:32:32.800
 to the girl?

00:32:34.540 --> 00:32:34.980
 Huh?

00:32:36.759 --> 00:32:37.360
 You know,

00:32:37.460 --> 00:32:39.160
 there's some consequences

00:32:39.160 --> 00:32:40.220
 to dropping a baby

00:32:40.220 --> 00:32:40.759
 on their head,

00:32:40.800 --> 00:32:41.000
 you know?

00:32:41.400 --> 00:32:41.560
 Now,

00:32:42.120 --> 00:32:42.900
 sticking each other

00:32:42.900 --> 00:32:43.480
 with a sword,

00:32:43.560 --> 00:32:44.300
 now those are details

00:32:44.300 --> 00:32:45.019
 you've got to work on,

00:32:45.019 --> 00:32:47.180
 but girls are being

00:32:47.180 --> 00:32:48.460
 coached about being

00:32:48.460 --> 00:32:49.019
 mommies

00:32:49.019 --> 00:32:50.320
 and nurturing

00:32:50.320 --> 00:32:51.100
 and caring,

00:32:51.320 --> 00:32:52.600
 and they learn

00:32:52.599 --> 00:32:53.919
 a lot of things

00:32:53.919 --> 00:32:55.059
 about what makes

00:32:55.059 --> 00:32:56.019
 life happen

00:32:56.019 --> 00:32:57.359
 that boys who are

00:32:57.359 --> 00:32:58.339
 playing with swords

00:32:58.339 --> 00:32:59.139
 and guns

00:32:59.139 --> 00:33:00.359
 and trying to hurt

00:33:00.359 --> 00:33:00.919
 each other,

00:33:01.159 --> 00:33:01.439
 you know,

00:33:02.259 --> 00:33:03.139
 they're not learning.

00:33:04.859 --> 00:33:05.279
 And so,

00:33:05.439 --> 00:33:06.659
 that well-trained

00:33:06.659 --> 00:33:07.539
 little girl

00:33:07.539 --> 00:33:09.179
 marries that rookie

00:33:09.179 --> 00:33:10.099
 boy who has

00:33:10.099 --> 00:33:11.179
 no idea

00:33:11.179 --> 00:33:13.339
 what leadership

00:33:13.339 --> 00:33:14.579
 really requires.

00:33:16.899 --> 00:33:18.019
 And they climb

00:33:18.019 --> 00:33:19.339
 on the tandem bicycle,

00:33:19.599 --> 00:33:20.099
 she says,

00:33:20.159 --> 00:33:20.339
 honey,

00:33:20.599 --> 00:33:21.099
 you're supposed

00:33:21.099 --> 00:33:21.899
 to be in front,

00:33:21.900 --> 00:33:23.140
 and he says,

00:33:23.220 --> 00:33:24.019
 I'll do that.

00:33:24.060 --> 00:33:24.240
 And so,

00:33:24.300 --> 00:33:24.940
 they get on the tandem

00:33:24.940 --> 00:33:25.140
 by,

00:33:25.200 --> 00:33:25.860
 they go down the road

00:33:25.860 --> 00:33:26.660
 and have a couple wrecks

00:33:26.660 --> 00:33:27.660
 and guess what she says?

00:33:29.000 --> 00:33:30.040
 She lets him know

00:33:30.040 --> 00:33:31.240
 that wrecks are not fun.

00:33:32.759 --> 00:33:33.600
 And he says,

00:33:33.680 --> 00:33:33.800
 well,

00:33:33.860 --> 00:33:34.380
 you drive.

00:33:35.759 --> 00:33:37.080
 And from then on in,

00:33:37.180 --> 00:33:37.920
 she's up front

00:33:37.920 --> 00:33:38.740
 catching bugs

00:33:38.740 --> 00:33:39.840
 and complaining about it

00:33:39.840 --> 00:33:40.860
 and he's behind

00:33:40.860 --> 00:33:41.540
 wondering about

00:33:41.540 --> 00:33:42.519
 who's doing the driving

00:33:42.519 --> 00:33:43.780
 and it gets messier

00:33:43.780 --> 00:33:44.380
 and messier.

00:33:44.380 --> 00:33:50.560
 I want you to understand

00:33:50.560 --> 00:33:51.540
 that a godly wife

00:33:51.540 --> 00:33:52.300
 will rely upon

00:33:52.300 --> 00:33:53.160
 the Holy Spirit

00:33:53.160 --> 00:33:54.520
 to be more instructive

00:33:54.520 --> 00:33:55.400
 and more persuasive

00:33:55.400 --> 00:33:56.920
 than she ever will be.

00:33:58.620 --> 00:33:59.680
 And by the way,

00:33:59.960 --> 00:34:00.820
 a Christian wife

00:34:00.820 --> 00:34:01.620
 cannot play

00:34:01.620 --> 00:34:02.920
 the I told you so card.

00:34:05.400 --> 00:34:06.460
 One of the ways

00:34:06.460 --> 00:34:07.520
 men learn to lead

00:34:07.520 --> 00:34:08.920
 is by making dumb mistakes.

00:34:09.079 --> 00:34:09.700
 How many men here

00:34:09.700 --> 00:34:10.119
 would agree?

00:34:10.420 --> 00:34:12.119
 You learn the hard way.

00:34:12.119 --> 00:34:15.199
 And the wisest thing

00:34:15.199 --> 00:34:16.739
 for a godly wife to do

00:34:16.739 --> 00:34:18.299
 is just kind of smile

00:34:18.299 --> 00:34:19.859
 and let him learn.

00:34:19.980 --> 00:34:20.940
 Can I tell you women

00:34:20.940 --> 00:34:22.299
 that the Holy Spirit

00:34:22.299 --> 00:34:23.420
 is more persuasive

00:34:23.420 --> 00:34:24.219
 and more painful

00:34:24.219 --> 00:34:25.599
 than you will ever be?

00:34:30.699 --> 00:34:31.859
 I'll never forget

00:34:31.859 --> 00:34:34.239
 an experience I had

00:34:34.239 --> 00:34:34.940
 several years ago

00:34:34.940 --> 00:34:36.119
 of driving on 270.

00:34:36.299 --> 00:34:38.880
 I saw this Land Rover

00:34:38.880 --> 00:34:40.079
 mega SUV

00:34:40.079 --> 00:34:41.659
 blow my doors off.

00:34:42.119 --> 00:34:42.960
 You know,

00:34:43.099 --> 00:34:43.859
 got my attention.

00:34:44.359 --> 00:34:45.619
 And on the back

00:34:45.619 --> 00:34:47.679
 it had a large bumper sticker.

00:34:48.299 --> 00:34:48.980
 And bumper stickers

00:34:48.980 --> 00:34:50.940
 are how you advertise

00:34:50.940 --> 00:34:53.319
 your view of life.

00:34:53.599 --> 00:34:54.059
 Isn't that right?

00:34:54.719 --> 00:34:56.279
 And here's this bumper sticker.

00:34:56.400 --> 00:34:56.639
 It said,

00:34:56.900 --> 00:34:57.579
 all men are idiots

00:34:57.579 --> 00:34:58.699
 and I married their king.

00:35:01.460 --> 00:35:02.799
 I thought to myself,

00:35:03.239 --> 00:35:03.920
 whoa.

00:35:03.920 --> 00:35:07.240
 I bet you

00:35:07.240 --> 00:35:09.000
 the woman driving

00:35:09.000 --> 00:35:09.760
 that SUV

00:35:09.760 --> 00:35:11.200
 is a sight to behold.

00:35:11.360 --> 00:35:11.460
 You know,

00:35:11.519 --> 00:35:12.180
 something kind of

00:35:12.180 --> 00:35:13.559
 in the Amazon culture.

00:35:14.079 --> 00:35:14.300
 You know,

00:35:14.559 --> 00:35:16.019
 6'5",

00:35:16.019 --> 00:35:16.680
 you know,

00:35:17.099 --> 00:35:18.920
 forearm resting on the...

00:35:18.920 --> 00:35:19.380
 So,

00:35:19.579 --> 00:35:20.820
 I did speed up.

00:35:20.880 --> 00:35:21.659
 I do want you to admit.

00:35:21.659 --> 00:35:25.880
 I pulled kind of,

00:35:26.019 --> 00:35:26.180
 you know,

00:35:26.420 --> 00:35:28.280
 it was a little

00:35:28.280 --> 00:35:29.400
 furtive glance,

00:35:29.400 --> 00:35:29.680
 you know.

00:35:31.360 --> 00:35:34.000
 It was this little

00:35:34.000 --> 00:35:35.740
 Walter Mitty type of guy.

00:35:36.940 --> 00:35:37.639
 You know what

00:35:37.639 --> 00:35:38.780
 Walter Mitty is for you?

00:35:39.260 --> 00:35:39.639
 You know,

00:35:40.280 --> 00:35:40.860
 a wuss.

00:35:42.820 --> 00:35:43.300
 I mean,

00:35:43.340 --> 00:35:43.860
 I looked at it,

00:35:43.900 --> 00:35:44.079
 I thought,

00:35:44.559 --> 00:35:45.019
 heaven,

00:35:45.180 --> 00:35:45.660
 help me.

00:35:46.519 --> 00:35:46.960
 Bud,

00:35:47.019 --> 00:35:48.280
 you need to get that off.

00:35:49.740 --> 00:35:50.059
 You know,

00:35:50.480 --> 00:35:50.760
 here,

00:35:50.760 --> 00:35:53.220
 given the command

00:35:53.220 --> 00:35:53.960
 that we have,

00:35:55.460 --> 00:35:56.160
 it would be wise

00:35:56.160 --> 00:35:57.320
 for godly parents

00:35:57.320 --> 00:36:00.460
 to help their sons

00:36:00.460 --> 00:36:01.400
 learn how to be

00:36:01.400 --> 00:36:02.080
 godly leaders.

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 Would you agree

00:36:03.260 --> 00:36:03.620
 with that?

00:36:04.160 --> 00:36:05.040
 It's important.

00:36:06.100 --> 00:36:07.080
 And also,

00:36:07.500 --> 00:36:08.420
 can I tell you

00:36:08.420 --> 00:36:09.780
 that you

00:36:09.780 --> 00:36:11.020
 who are parents

00:36:11.020 --> 00:36:11.800
 would be wise

00:36:11.800 --> 00:36:13.080
 to teach your daughters

00:36:13.080 --> 00:36:14.940
 how to make good picks.

00:36:17.220 --> 00:36:17.580
 You know,

00:36:17.579 --> 00:36:20.279
 he may be

00:36:20.279 --> 00:36:21.139
 Joe Sixpack

00:36:21.139 --> 00:36:21.819
 in the gym,

00:36:23.119 --> 00:36:24.599
 but if the word

00:36:24.599 --> 00:36:25.139
 of God

00:36:25.139 --> 00:36:26.099
 does not govern

00:36:26.099 --> 00:36:26.779
 his life,

00:36:27.019 --> 00:36:28.239
 he is going to be

00:36:28.239 --> 00:36:29.059
 a leader

00:36:29.059 --> 00:36:30.579
 that is a terrifying

00:36:30.579 --> 00:36:32.000
 fact in your life.

00:36:34.139 --> 00:36:34.920
 Let's come to

00:36:34.920 --> 00:36:35.759
 one more piece.

00:36:38.279 --> 00:36:38.940
 Going back

00:36:38.940 --> 00:36:39.460
 to the passage

00:36:39.460 --> 00:36:40.079
 in Ephesians

00:36:40.079 --> 00:36:41.759
 chapter 5,

00:36:41.799 --> 00:36:42.340
 verse 22,

00:36:42.480 --> 00:36:42.799
 it says,

00:36:43.079 --> 00:36:43.539
 Wives,

00:36:44.119 --> 00:36:44.519
 submit

00:36:44.519 --> 00:36:45.980
 to your own

00:36:45.980 --> 00:36:46.539
 husbands

00:36:46.539 --> 00:36:47.960
 as

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 to

00:36:48.840 --> 00:36:49.960
 the Lord.

00:36:51.960 --> 00:36:52.699
 I want you

00:36:52.699 --> 00:36:53.360
 to go back

00:36:53.360 --> 00:36:53.599
 with me

00:36:53.599 --> 00:36:54.320
 just for a moment

00:36:54.320 --> 00:36:55.059
 to Ephesians

00:36:55.059 --> 00:36:55.800
 chapter 5,

00:36:55.840 --> 00:36:56.559
 verse 21,

00:36:56.820 --> 00:36:57.559
 where it says,

00:36:57.659 --> 00:36:58.360
 Submitting to one

00:36:58.360 --> 00:36:59.619
 another out of

00:36:59.619 --> 00:37:01.119
 fear for Christ.

00:37:03.679 --> 00:37:04.860
 A godly wife

00:37:04.860 --> 00:37:05.480
 submits

00:37:05.480 --> 00:37:06.199
 because of her

00:37:06.199 --> 00:37:07.119
 relationship with

00:37:07.119 --> 00:37:07.460
 Christ.

00:37:07.519 --> 00:37:07.940
 And let me say

00:37:07.940 --> 00:37:08.559
 that carefully.

00:37:09.059 --> 00:37:09.940
 A godly wife

00:37:09.940 --> 00:37:10.779
 submits because

00:37:10.779 --> 00:37:11.699
 of her relationship

00:37:11.699 --> 00:37:12.519
 with Christ

00:37:12.519 --> 00:37:13.619
 and her desire

00:37:13.619 --> 00:37:14.440
 to please Him

00:37:14.440 --> 00:37:15.219
 as her Lord

00:37:15.219 --> 00:37:15.719
 and Savior.

00:37:15.719 --> 00:37:16.599
 And where there

00:37:16.599 --> 00:37:17.279
 is a lack

00:37:17.279 --> 00:37:17.839
 of willingness

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 to submit,

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 the problem

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 is not principally

00:37:21.119 --> 00:37:22.559
 with the husband

00:37:22.559 --> 00:37:23.059
 that God

00:37:23.059 --> 00:37:23.859
 has given her.

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 Her first problem

00:37:25.199 --> 00:37:26.219
 is with the

00:37:26.219 --> 00:37:26.839
 headship of

00:37:26.839 --> 00:37:27.639
 Christ Himself.

00:37:30.699 --> 00:37:32.299
 Her unwillingness

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 to hear

00:37:33.759 --> 00:37:34.879
 the authority

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 of her Savior

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 only plays out

00:37:37.419 --> 00:37:38.299
 in the home,

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 in the place

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 where she lives.

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 I want to tell you

00:37:42.079 --> 00:37:42.699
 it's quite easy

00:37:42.699 --> 00:37:43.699
 to profess a love

00:37:43.699 --> 00:37:44.399
 for Christ

00:37:44.399 --> 00:37:45.679
 and a faith

00:37:45.679 --> 00:37:46.239
 in Christ,

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 but the real proof

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 is not in

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 what we say,

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 but how we live

00:37:50.359 --> 00:37:51.299
 in the settings

00:37:51.299 --> 00:37:52.559
 where He places us.

00:37:54.719 --> 00:37:56.019
 A godly child

00:37:56.019 --> 00:37:56.699
 obeys,

00:37:57.259 --> 00:37:58.419
 as we see

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 in this passage

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 later in Ephesians

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 chapter 6,

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 because of Christ.

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 A godly employee

00:38:05.319 --> 00:38:06.319
 works hard

00:38:06.319 --> 00:38:08.480
 because of Christ.

00:38:08.480 --> 00:38:10.740
 And by extension,

00:38:11.679 --> 00:38:12.599
 a godly wife

00:38:12.599 --> 00:38:13.340
 submits

00:38:13.340 --> 00:38:15.420
 because of Christ.

00:38:16.380 --> 00:38:17.340
 So let me close

00:38:17.340 --> 00:38:18.059
 with this wonderful

00:38:18.059 --> 00:38:18.639
 little picture

00:38:18.639 --> 00:38:19.679
 that Jesus gave us.

00:38:19.760 --> 00:38:20.300
 I want you to turn

00:38:20.300 --> 00:38:21.079
 back in your Bibles,

00:38:21.199 --> 00:38:21.559
 if you will,

00:38:21.820 --> 00:38:23.199
 to Matthew chapter 25.

00:38:23.740 --> 00:38:25.119
 Matthew chapter 25.

00:38:25.679 --> 00:38:26.500
 And we're going

00:38:26.500 --> 00:38:26.960
 to be looking

00:38:26.960 --> 00:38:28.079
 at a little

00:38:28.079 --> 00:38:29.639
 setting

00:38:29.639 --> 00:38:31.000
 that Jesus gives us

00:38:31.000 --> 00:38:32.400
 that's a little surprising.

00:38:32.400 --> 00:38:39.320
 Let me pick up

00:38:39.320 --> 00:38:39.680
 and read

00:38:39.680 --> 00:38:40.240
 beginning there

00:38:40.240 --> 00:38:41.000
 in verse 31.

00:38:42.260 --> 00:38:43.420
 Matthew chapter 25

00:38:43.420 --> 00:38:44.059
 verse 31.

00:38:44.260 --> 00:38:45.139
 When the Son of Man

00:38:45.139 --> 00:38:46.000
 comes in His glory

00:38:46.000 --> 00:38:46.720
 and all the angels

00:38:46.720 --> 00:38:47.220
 with Him,

00:38:47.440 --> 00:38:48.200
 and He will sit

00:38:48.200 --> 00:38:49.200
 on His glorious throne

00:38:49.200 --> 00:38:49.840
 before Him,

00:38:50.019 --> 00:38:50.619
 will be gathered

00:38:50.619 --> 00:38:51.320
 all the nations

00:38:51.320 --> 00:38:52.200
 and He will separate

00:38:52.200 --> 00:38:53.300
 people one from another

00:38:53.300 --> 00:38:54.280
 as a shepherd

00:38:54.280 --> 00:38:55.440
 separates the sheep

00:38:55.440 --> 00:38:56.160
 from the goats.

00:38:57.980 --> 00:38:58.940
 You know this passage,

00:38:59.039 --> 00:38:59.360
 don't you?

00:38:59.360 --> 00:39:02.740
 One group goes one side,

00:39:02.820 --> 00:39:03.220
 the other group

00:39:03.220 --> 00:39:04.160
 goes the other side.

00:39:07.579 --> 00:39:08.780
 And there in verse 34

00:39:08.780 --> 00:39:09.160
 it says,

00:39:09.260 --> 00:39:10.039
 And the King will say

00:39:10.039 --> 00:39:10.880
 to those on the right,

00:39:10.980 --> 00:39:11.720
 Come you who are

00:39:11.720 --> 00:39:12.760
 blessed by my Father.

00:39:13.360 --> 00:39:14.160
 Inherit the kingdom

00:39:14.160 --> 00:39:14.900
 prepared for you

00:39:14.900 --> 00:39:15.660
 from the foundation

00:39:15.660 --> 00:39:16.260
 of the world.

00:39:16.579 --> 00:39:17.579
 For I was hungry

00:39:17.579 --> 00:39:18.539
 and you gave me food

00:39:18.539 --> 00:39:19.360
 and I was thirsty

00:39:19.360 --> 00:39:20.579
 and you gave me drink.

00:39:20.700 --> 00:39:21.599
 I was a stranger

00:39:21.599 --> 00:39:22.780
 and you welcomed me in.

00:39:23.460 --> 00:39:24.300
 I was naked

00:39:24.300 --> 00:39:25.200
 and you clothed me.

00:39:26.720 --> 00:39:27.640
 I was sick

00:39:27.640 --> 00:39:29.300
 and you visited me.

00:39:29.360 --> 00:39:31.180
 I was in prison

00:39:31.180 --> 00:39:33.200
 and you came to me.

00:39:33.400 --> 00:39:34.700
 The righteous will answer

00:39:34.700 --> 00:39:36.039
 and saying,

00:39:36.460 --> 00:39:36.700
 Lord,

00:39:36.820 --> 00:39:38.519
 when did we see you hungry

00:39:38.519 --> 00:39:39.140
 and feed you

00:39:39.140 --> 00:39:39.640
 or thirsty

00:39:39.640 --> 00:39:40.680
 and give you drink?

00:39:41.380 --> 00:39:43.019
 When did all these things happen?

00:39:44.019 --> 00:39:44.760
 You know what Jesus

00:39:44.760 --> 00:39:45.340
 is going to say

00:39:45.340 --> 00:39:48.380
 to the godly wife?

00:39:48.820 --> 00:39:49.220
 He'll say,

00:39:49.280 --> 00:39:49.420
 Hey,

00:39:50.120 --> 00:39:51.740
 you served me,

00:39:52.500 --> 00:39:53.660
 you fed me,

00:39:54.539 --> 00:39:55.860
 you cared for me,

00:39:55.860 --> 00:39:58.200
 you honored me,

00:39:58.200 --> 00:39:58.200


00:39:58.200 --> 00:40:01.160
 when you followed

00:40:01.160 --> 00:40:03.680
 your husband's leadership.

00:40:06.920 --> 00:40:08.079
 Look at the passage.

00:40:09.840 --> 00:40:11.079
 Jesus says,

00:40:11.519 --> 00:40:11.760
 What?

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 If you did it

00:40:15.140 --> 00:40:16.640
 to the least of these,

00:40:16.840 --> 00:40:17.460
 you did it,

00:40:17.660 --> 00:40:17.960
 what?

00:40:18.660 --> 00:40:19.240
 To me.

00:40:20.160 --> 00:40:21.059
 And he says,

00:40:21.240 --> 00:40:22.860
 If you refuse to do it,

00:40:23.579 --> 00:40:24.860
 you refuse to do it

00:40:24.860 --> 00:40:25.660
 to me.

00:40:32.840 --> 00:40:33.620
 Verse 40,

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 Truly I say to you,

00:40:37.180 --> 00:40:37.780
 as you did it

00:40:37.780 --> 00:40:38.360
 to the one

00:40:38.360 --> 00:40:39.079
 of the least

00:40:39.079 --> 00:40:40.180
 of these my brothers,

00:40:41.000 --> 00:40:42.579
 you did it to me.

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 So here's the truth.

00:40:45.620 --> 00:40:46.800
 The godly wife,

00:40:47.640 --> 00:40:48.900
 the spirit-filled wife,

00:40:48.900 --> 00:40:51.320
 who submits to her husband,

00:40:52.519 --> 00:40:53.980
 lifts up the name of Jesus.

00:40:56.220 --> 00:40:57.539
 Listen to me as I close.

00:40:59.539 --> 00:41:01.079
 Do you realize that

00:41:01.079 --> 00:41:03.740
 God puts all kinds of

00:41:03.740 --> 00:41:04.720
 couples together,

00:41:05.059 --> 00:41:07.539
 and in most cases,

00:41:07.920 --> 00:41:08.240
 A,

00:41:08.880 --> 00:41:09.880
 the young man

00:41:09.880 --> 00:41:11.119
 was not born,

00:41:11.820 --> 00:41:12.000
 well,

00:41:12.720 --> 00:41:13.940
 always not born,

00:41:13.940 --> 00:41:15.059
 but in most cases,

00:41:15.099 --> 00:41:15.599
 he didn't learn

00:41:15.599 --> 00:41:16.200
 how to lead.

00:41:17.740 --> 00:41:19.159
 The girls had an advantage

00:41:19.159 --> 00:41:20.019
 in many ways.

00:41:21.480 --> 00:41:22.500
 But the godly,

00:41:22.659 --> 00:41:23.599
 spirit-filled wife

00:41:23.599 --> 00:41:23.920
 says,

00:41:24.019 --> 00:41:24.440
 You know what?

00:41:24.500 --> 00:41:25.659
 I want my husband

00:41:25.659 --> 00:41:26.940
 to develop leadership,

00:41:27.340 --> 00:41:28.480
 and I will invest

00:41:28.480 --> 00:41:29.139
 my energy

00:41:29.139 --> 00:41:30.360
 in helping him learn

00:41:30.360 --> 00:41:31.720
 how to do it

00:41:31.720 --> 00:41:32.579
 wisely.

00:41:32.579 --> 00:41:40.759
 Judith and I,

00:41:41.599 --> 00:41:42.400
 this is the whole truth,

00:41:43.779 --> 00:41:44.559
 I'll tell you the truth.

00:41:44.980 --> 00:41:46.900
 When I was dating

00:41:46.900 --> 00:41:48.480
 with the intelligent intention

00:41:48.480 --> 00:41:49.860
 of finally marrying somebody,

00:41:50.340 --> 00:41:51.860
 I knew what kind of girl

00:41:51.860 --> 00:41:52.340
 I needed.

00:41:52.659 --> 00:41:53.340
 Do you follow that?

00:41:55.039 --> 00:41:56.119
 I knew, actually,

00:41:56.199 --> 00:41:56.920
 I needed someone

00:41:56.920 --> 00:41:58.360
 that was smarter than I was.

00:42:02.579 --> 00:42:03.759
 And I married

00:42:03.759 --> 00:42:04.980
 a very wonderful,

00:42:05.400 --> 00:42:05.960
 intelligent,

00:42:06.460 --> 00:42:06.880
 capable,

00:42:07.699 --> 00:42:08.480
 organized,

00:42:09.679 --> 00:42:11.199
 outstanding young lady.

00:42:14.099 --> 00:42:15.679
 I, by nature,

00:42:15.960 --> 00:42:17.099
 came into that marriage

00:42:17.099 --> 00:42:18.039
 as a tyrant

00:42:18.039 --> 00:42:19.259
 and a coward.

00:42:20.900 --> 00:42:22.480
 And our home

00:42:22.480 --> 00:42:23.980
 suffered significantly

00:42:23.980 --> 00:42:26.079
 under my lack

00:42:26.079 --> 00:42:27.679
 of biblical leadership.

00:42:27.679 --> 00:42:27.819
 friendship.

00:42:31.299 --> 00:42:32.559
 And when the doors

00:42:32.559 --> 00:42:33.639
 blew off of our home,

00:42:34.639 --> 00:42:37.339
 God came and talked to me

00:42:37.339 --> 00:42:37.739
 and said,

00:42:37.859 --> 00:42:38.119
 Tim,

00:42:38.259 --> 00:42:40.419
 this is your problem.

00:42:41.519 --> 00:42:43.000
 And he fixed it eventually.

00:42:46.639 --> 00:42:48.279
 And one of the first things

00:42:48.279 --> 00:42:49.000
 I said

00:42:49.000 --> 00:42:51.059
 after we got reconciled,

00:42:52.059 --> 00:42:53.139
 I said,

00:42:53.559 --> 00:42:54.779
 never let me

00:42:54.779 --> 00:42:56.299
 abrogate

00:42:56.300 --> 00:42:57.360
 or give away

00:42:57.360 --> 00:42:58.720
 my responsibility

00:42:58.720 --> 00:43:00.780
 of leading again.

00:43:03.460 --> 00:43:04.660
 And I want to tell you,

00:43:04.800 --> 00:43:05.940
 thank you for the Lord

00:43:05.940 --> 00:43:08.480
 that my wife

00:43:08.480 --> 00:43:09.620
 has been smart enough

00:43:09.620 --> 00:43:11.920
 that when there's

00:43:11.920 --> 00:43:12.800
 a scary sound

00:43:12.800 --> 00:43:13.539
 in the house,

00:43:15.140 --> 00:43:15.900
 she sends me

00:43:15.900 --> 00:43:16.600
 to check on it.

00:43:20.920 --> 00:43:21.780
 That's the way it,

00:43:21.880 --> 00:43:22.120
 what,

00:43:22.720 --> 00:43:23.640
 should be.

00:43:24.620 --> 00:43:25.720
 Let's close in prayer.

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