WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:07.820 it's really lovely to be here um i've got a question to get started just to wake up our 00:00:07.820 --> 00:00:10.759 brains give yourself a shake if you've been feeling like you've been sitting well you did 00:00:10.759 --> 00:00:16.719 just stand up and worship um i'm not very good at sitting still for a long time just share that 00:00:16.719 --> 00:00:23.400 with you so i've got a question one word you can just keep it to yourself you can tell someone if 00:00:23.399 --> 00:00:32.939 you want what brought you here this morning have a little think next question one word what got you 00:00:32.939 --> 00:00:44.079 out of bed last wednesday did you get out of bed last wednesday what will get you out of bed next 00:00:44.079 --> 00:00:53.200 wednesday well just have a little think about that um while i tell you a quick story um a 00:00:53.200 --> 00:00:59.580 vicar at this time of year was invited into school to do assembly went into school a sea of children 00:00:59.580 --> 00:01:07.400 in front of him and he said i just want to start by asking you a question see if you can guess who am i 00:01:07.400 --> 00:01:17.600 i've got pointy ears a big fluffy tail and i love nuts no answer he tries again i've got pointy ears 00:01:17.599 --> 00:01:28.780 big fluffy tail and i love nuts nothing no one once more he says i've got pointy ears 00:01:28.780 --> 00:01:36.899 big fluffy tail and i love nuts come on guys and this child very quietly in the front row puts his hand 00:01:36.899 --> 00:01:37.959 up and says 00:01:37.959 --> 00:01:45.280 i think the answer is jesus but you don't have sound like a squirrel 00:01:45.280 --> 00:01:55.500 i'm rubbish at telling jokes and i just got you to laugh yay um is the answer always jesus are you 00:01:55.500 --> 00:02:00.479 here this morning because of jesus did you get out of bed last wednesday because of jesus if you don't 00:02:00.479 --> 00:02:07.079 know jesus in your life is there someone that could introduce you to jesus we've just heard this 00:02:07.079 --> 00:02:13.479 um reading from thank you from susie and i'm going to be unpacking that this morning and bringing in 00:02:13.479 --> 00:02:17.759 a little bit of salt and light as well thank you wendy my name is kate so i'm part of the community 00:02:17.759 --> 00:02:24.419 here at christ church at the moment i serve christ church by being on the ecc i also do transport on a 00:02:24.419 --> 00:02:29.860 sunday morning lovely kim and marjorie are not here with us this morning they're in western but um the 00:02:29.860 --> 00:02:36.740 thing that i have probably done the longest is be a coach an early intervention coach and if my 00:02:36.740 --> 00:02:41.900 answer this morning wasn't jesus it would be early intervention and i'll tell you all about that i was 00:02:41.900 --> 00:02:48.439 a primary school teacher for eight years um then i moved to working for the local church in christ 00:02:48.439 --> 00:02:54.280 church for oh no i was primary school teacher for 10 years eight years here and during that time 00:02:54.280 --> 00:03:02.760 found tlg and just fell passionately in love with this program and have seen it in action on the 00:03:02.759 --> 00:03:08.340 ground here in clevedon when a job came up to work for tlg as a regional leader across the southwest 00:03:08.340 --> 00:03:14.359 supporting churches of all shapes and sizes um i was fortunate enough to get that job i remember being 00:03:14.359 --> 00:03:21.620 with angie the day i got that phone call went a little bit bananas and then i've now stepped into a 00:03:21.620 --> 00:03:27.359 new role away from that regional lead to uh the program lead for early intervention so i love the way 00:03:27.360 --> 00:03:37.060 that god takes us step by step he kind of he builds us up he supports us in um what we do and yeah i'm i 00:03:37.060 --> 00:03:45.180 love what i do um so i am here to share with you this heart that tlg as an organization has for 00:03:45.180 --> 00:03:50.740 transformation and seeing change in young people's lives so we're going to look at some of the challenges 00:03:50.740 --> 00:03:57.840 that are faced today by struggling children and families and we're going to reflect on god's heart 00:03:57.840 --> 00:04:04.460 we're going to join in with god's heart for that and then i'm going to invite you to consider some 00:04:04.460 --> 00:04:10.480 of the ways that you might like to join in of which there are many so bear with we're going to go on a 00:04:10.480 --> 00:04:16.060 whistle stop tour and i hope that you enjoy this morning i've got three short clips that you're going 00:04:16.060 --> 00:04:20.879 to watch so you don't just have to listen to me the whole time um i was going to pray but susie's 00:04:20.879 --> 00:04:25.379 already prayed but you know prayed but you know what my prayer is this morning that the holy spirit 00:04:25.379 --> 00:04:32.199 would disturb us that it would disturb he would come and disturb our spirits open our ears our eyes and 00:04:32.199 --> 00:04:40.600 our kind of our hearts to respond so we've listened to the words of isaiah god's word and when we look 00:04:40.600 --> 00:04:50.760 at the first couple of passages it says comfort oh comfort my people says god she's been punished 00:04:50.760 --> 00:04:59.820 enough more than enough and now it's over and done with so we see here god's desire to bring comfort 00:04:59.820 --> 00:05:08.500 to those that have struggled literally comfort means to just speak to the heart in this passage we see his 00:05:08.500 --> 00:05:16.000 desire to peace uh just to comfort those uh particularly with hurting hearts and we see god's heart for 00:05:16.000 --> 00:05:24.019 the people of israel who've been in captivity experienced destruction but it reminds us that we are all 00:05:24.019 --> 00:05:32.959 waiting for god and we are waiting for him to bring his justice on oppressive systems his kingdom of 00:05:32.959 --> 00:05:41.759 justice peace and love and we are in that time now god's kingdom come his will be done and when we look 00:05:41.759 --> 00:05:50.319 at the statistics from our own nation today then well i hope that this breaks our hearts i hope that 00:05:50.319 --> 00:05:54.759 statistics are tricky aren't they sometimes it takes a while for them to land and i'm about to whiz 00:05:54.759 --> 00:06:00.519 through some so let's open our ears to hear them this is already out of date this slide was made six 00:06:00.519 --> 00:06:07.719 months ago it's now 5.3 million children living in poverty and it's increased by over half a million 00:06:07.719 --> 00:06:14.719 in the last five years so a massive impact on families one in three parents say they've missed a 00:06:14.719 --> 00:06:21.279 meal just in order to feed their kids in the wake of the pandemic the nhs are estimating that an extra 00:06:21.279 --> 00:06:27.539 1.5 million children and young people are going to require mental health support in the next five years 00:06:27.540 --> 00:06:36.460 and in the last academic year there were over 418 000 exclusions from school around 25 000 of those 00:06:36.460 --> 00:06:44.720 25 000 of those were in primary school and that's children as young as five who are being told that 00:06:44.720 --> 00:06:51.560 they don't fit in a system and are being put on a path which statistically so research has shown 00:06:51.560 --> 00:06:59.879 statistically leads them to much more potential for unemployment poverty gang county lines involvement 00:06:59.879 --> 00:07:08.279 imprisonment worst case scenario suicide it shortens lives these statistics and we can see the injustice 00:07:08.279 --> 00:07:15.879 on a greater scale if we can get our heads around what this means that poor children are four times 00:07:15.879 --> 00:07:23.240 more likely to be excluded and we only need to turn on the news or tune into the news to hear tragedies 00:07:23.240 --> 00:07:30.680 affecting young people and families really challenging circumstances due to the cost of living crisis and 00:07:30.680 --> 00:07:39.079 many other things that are challenges in our day to day these statistics the statistics look at that are 00:07:39.079 --> 00:07:45.240 nationwide but we're part of this nation so in our own community 00:07:47.000 --> 00:07:55.879 this is happening and we know it breaks god's heart let's not become numb to this ourselves it should break our 00:07:55.879 --> 00:08:07.000 heart and then what follows in isaiah is what we believe is god's call to the local church today that's you and me 00:08:07.000 --> 00:08:18.680 it says prepare for god's arrival make straight the roads smooth a highway fit for god fill in the valleys 00:08:18.680 --> 00:08:25.160 and level off the hills so i'm thinking i did a bit of gardening yesterday i mean to be honest my garden's a wreck 00:08:25.160 --> 00:08:31.240 just filling in anything in the garden is just like exhausting what does it mean fill in the valleys 00:08:31.240 --> 00:08:38.120 level off the hills well let's go on a bit of a journey here we are in bolivia it's not quite like 00:08:38.120 --> 00:08:45.000 the road to ken is it a bit different so this is one of the most treacherous roads in bolivia and we're 00:08:45.000 --> 00:08:51.080 going to imagine a man called alfredo who is a real person alfredo's job is to transport timber 00:08:51.080 --> 00:08:57.240 from zayamas situated in the tropical lowlands of bolivia to the mega city of la paz along the youngest road 00:08:57.240 --> 00:09:06.200 road anyone want to hazard a guess at what youngest road translates as death road this journey can take 00:09:06.200 --> 00:09:13.159 up to three days and it can be really dusty and then when it rains mud forms and of course the truck 00:09:13.159 --> 00:09:19.399 gets stuck in the mud drivers have to abandon their vehicles to physically fill in the holes and i'm having 00:09:19.399 --> 00:09:25.480 a moan about the little potholes in my garden fill them with stones piles of leaves to provide traction 00:09:25.480 --> 00:09:32.440 the truck needs to move forward there are many sections of the road where the drivers find 00:09:32.440 --> 00:09:39.480 themselves on an extremely narrow path rocks jutting out one side deep valley valleys down on the other 00:09:40.039 --> 00:09:45.960 so people drive with their heads out of the window and they keep their eyes on the edge of the path 00:09:45.960 --> 00:09:48.840 to ensure that they don't fall to an almost certain death 00:09:48.840 --> 00:10:00.920 can you imagine this as your path in life feeling so overwhelmed by the potential danger and 00:10:00.920 --> 00:10:08.519 constantly consumed with worry that you're in that state of anxiety all the time and this 00:10:08.519 --> 00:10:16.680 is the reality that i want us to be kind of invited into this morning maybe if we're honest it's a 00:10:16.679 --> 00:10:22.120 reality that some of us are living in ourselves let's not just make this about outside of the church 00:10:22.120 --> 00:10:29.159 community we are part of this community this is a reality for many today young people that we work with 00:10:30.599 --> 00:10:39.559 are facing exclusion rejection anxiety jail shorter life expectancy the first thing one of the first 00:10:39.559 --> 00:10:44.199 children that i coached told me here in clevedon is that he expected to go to prison when he's older 00:10:44.200 --> 00:10:47.800 in clevedon in year five 00:10:47.800 --> 00:10:58.200 as alfredo reaches the last couple of kilometers of his journey the road to la paz is finally paved 00:10:58.840 --> 00:11:04.360 and after three days of treacherous driving conditions the road is smooth straight and the 00:11:04.360 --> 00:11:10.520 first thing he does is give thanks to god that he has survived once again he knows that he's on the 00:11:10.519 --> 00:11:19.079 final stretch and he is safe we talk a lot about being safe at tlg i'm going to now sort of in a 00:11:19.079 --> 00:11:26.279 minute describe what those spaces look like so for many children their journey does feel fraught with pain 00:11:26.279 --> 00:11:36.279 and worry but what if it doesn't have to be entirely like this so at tlg we have this opportunity with our 00:11:36.279 --> 00:11:42.120 incredible partner churches christ church is a partner church there's 220 at the moment over the 00:11:42.120 --> 00:11:52.600 the whole nation and we are just passionate about this paving a way for broken lives to be road builders 00:11:52.600 --> 00:12:00.919 clear a highway of hope preparing a way for god's light to shine to be salt and light in our community 00:12:00.919 --> 00:12:09.719 picture again that last two kilometers here is after three days of terrifying driving finally alfredo can 00:12:09.719 --> 00:12:20.679 feel safe reassured free from worry and on a broad road to hope so back in isaiah the scripture calls us 00:12:21.319 --> 00:12:30.759 to fill in the valleys level off the hills smooth out the ruts clear out of clear out the rocks 00:12:30.919 --> 00:12:38.759 isn't this a reason to get out of bed in the morning isn't this an incredible mandate for us as 00:12:38.759 --> 00:12:40.199 followers of jesus christ 00:12:40.199 --> 00:12:49.639 we want to be sought and light if you're sitting here thinking do you know what kate i'd love to be 00:12:49.639 --> 00:12:53.719 sought and light but i'm absolutely exhausted and i've got a whole load of stuff going on myself 00:12:53.720 --> 00:13:02.440 tell god that is not his heart for us life is unbelievably difficult it is so hard we are all 00:13:02.440 --> 00:13:09.960 facing huge challenges pretty much back to back crazy i'm 50 next week i wasn't going to bother doing 00:13:09.960 --> 00:13:17.320 anything and then i suddenly thought you know what i'm alive this is a gift and it is crazy so i just 00:13:17.320 --> 00:13:23.320 sent out a quick message to a few people saying fancy joining in raising a glass just to toast this 00:13:23.320 --> 00:13:30.280 crazy thing called life i'm not saying that it's an easy thing it's crazy we need to love one another 00:13:30.280 --> 00:13:38.840 we need to show our community god's love that we have experienced and if we haven't then let's ask him to 00:13:38.840 --> 00:13:48.280 show us show us show us in the people around us don't just give up god's at work so let's have a little 00:13:48.280 --> 00:13:55.960 bit of a think about tlg transforming lives for good well we know that anything really begins with one thing 00:13:55.960 --> 00:14:03.120 pretty much so the tl journey big sort of tlg journey began with this young man 20 years ago he's called 00:14:03.120 --> 00:14:11.399 lewis and he was suffering under the injustice of actually the system that he was in he was struggling to cope 00:14:11.399 --> 00:14:17.460 he'd been excluded from school time and time again he'd given up and when lewis started coming to the 00:14:17.460 --> 00:14:23.539 local church youth group the guys there realized that they had to do quite a lot more there was an opportunity 00:14:23.539 --> 00:14:28.259 to do a lot more to support lewis but also to support other young people like him 00:14:28.259 --> 00:14:34.519 they had to level off the hills the barriers that stood in his path and so tlg was born 00:14:34.519 --> 00:14:41.539 and there's been a careful program building over 20 years so these are the things that tlg do 00:14:41.539 --> 00:14:48.000 three things we've got education centers their alternative learning provisions for those children 00:14:48.000 --> 00:14:54.460 that really are at point of exclusion they are not managing to be in school they've got nothing else 00:14:54.460 --> 00:15:02.019 the local church partners with tlg and we help them to set up a school provision in a church site 00:15:02.019 --> 00:15:09.540 we've then got two volunteer programs that's what we do early intervention coaching i'm going to tell 00:15:09.540 --> 00:15:15.379 you more about that and make lunch which we did for a while was an incredible thing and at some point 00:15:15.379 --> 00:15:19.460 i really believe that god will invite us into that again as we build team 00:15:19.460 --> 00:15:29.320 so tlg is just an umbrella organization with a heart and passion that we share you know that comes 00:15:29.320 --> 00:15:35.960 from god it's about the local church it is just about the work on the ground that local churches are 00:15:35.960 --> 00:15:44.180 doing so here i go to wendy who has been a coach for how long have you coached do you reckon 2017 we 00:15:44.179 --> 00:15:51.120 partnered i think you're in the first cohort so 2017 christ church partnered with early tlg to do 00:15:51.120 --> 00:15:58.459 early intervention coaching we trained nine people next year another 13 next year another eight and i 00:15:58.459 --> 00:16:05.419 think it's something like we've got over 30 people trained as coaches and we've worked with over 55 00:16:05.419 --> 00:16:11.219 children in our community so it's for an hour a week for a whole year and it's not just the children 00:16:11.220 --> 00:16:17.500 wendy no no we help the children in their desperate need and build up a relationship with them but by 00:16:17.500 --> 00:16:22.660 doing that we're helping the schools to help them as well and we're getting alongside them and building 00:16:22.660 --> 00:16:28.580 a relationship with their families um to help them as well and by doing that you're building the 00:16:28.580 --> 00:16:33.980 relationship with the community and helping the community we are wendy thank you i realized this 00:16:33.980 --> 00:16:41.420 morning when liz prayed that community com unity means with unity like that's the church isn't it 00:16:41.420 --> 00:16:49.139 thank you wendy lucy is a school key contact so for every early intervention center like christ church 00:16:49.139 --> 00:16:55.240 we have a coordinator emmy is our coordinator at the moment and lucy you sort of wear two hats because 00:16:55.240 --> 00:17:01.360 you also do a bit of that and the coordinator from church liaises with the school contact so lucy tell 00:17:01.360 --> 00:17:06.480 us a bit about what you think is amazing about early intervention in school okay and i'll be quick 00:17:06.480 --> 00:17:11.160 even though there's a lot of things i could say so i have the amazing privilege of also working in a 00:17:11.160 --> 00:17:16.839 school um so i am a coach a volunteer coach but i also work in st john's primary school in clevedon 00:17:16.839 --> 00:17:22.579 and i work with children with social emotional and mental health things going on or things they're 00:17:22.579 --> 00:17:30.259 struggling with and i just i am so lucky because i get to see the other side of not just that hour a week 00:17:30.259 --> 00:17:35.859 but the difference it makes to those children so i'll tell you about a little girl who had a coach 00:17:35.859 --> 00:17:41.980 for a year and i used to work with her before i wasn't her coach but i used to do maths with her 00:17:41.980 --> 00:17:47.819 and her self-esteem was just so low you she just she was like a little ball a lot of the time she'd 00:17:47.819 --> 00:17:54.440 just be screwed up she'd quite often be crying she couldn't make friends very difficult home life 00:17:54.440 --> 00:18:00.079 spent a lot of time on her own and also helped to look after an adult at home he wasn't very well 00:18:00.079 --> 00:18:08.539 so she was a young carer and she had a coach she loved it this amazing gift of an hour a week and 00:18:08.539 --> 00:18:13.139 it was just about her and she could choose what she wanted to do and kate will tell you about that 00:18:13.139 --> 00:18:19.819 and just this week i now have her in a maths group again and i was reflecting on she is like a 00:18:19.819 --> 00:18:26.779 different child she's got lots to say she's got her hand up she's joining in she's actively engaged 00:18:26.779 --> 00:18:31.460 in the learning i can tell whereas she wasn't really with me before when i was doing math 00:18:31.460 --> 00:18:37.859 and i know that her mum also says that she's just seems happier and it doesn't mean that 00:18:37.859 --> 00:18:45.039 everything's changed for her and everything at home home has changed but it's she's grown she's grown 00:18:45.039 --> 00:18:52.319 physically and how she holds herself but i know that she's grown so much on the inside as well that 00:18:52.319 --> 00:18:58.319 she's just very different so yeah thank you it makes a difference and we believe that is god's 00:18:58.319 --> 00:19:04.879 work that we are showing god's love it's god's love that transforms lives and we are the conduits 00:19:04.879 --> 00:19:09.619 of that there are children in our community they don't have any contact with their grandparents 00:19:09.619 --> 00:19:16.439 you know somebody like honestly if i could choose a granny wendy it would be you 00:19:16.440 --> 00:19:24.380 and i just think you know it's a gift that you give your time jim i can't even see where you are 00:19:24.380 --> 00:19:30.120 but there you are jim used to leave work at i don't know he used to fly down the motor at whatever 00:19:30.120 --> 00:19:35.640 time it was on a friday afternoon just so he could coach he'd worked all week just so he could coach 00:19:35.640 --> 00:19:42.759 a child in school amazing story of jim who was like just stepped up really felt that kind of heart 00:19:42.759 --> 00:19:48.700 thump when somebody else came from tlg a few years ago but um the first session that jim had with the 00:19:48.700 --> 00:19:55.400 child that he'd been matched with and we work really hard to match children well we're not talking 00:19:55.400 --> 00:20:00.200 in primary school about those children that are getting other professional interventions we're 00:20:00.200 --> 00:20:05.640 talking about those kids that need it but they just don't get any extra time and teachers are 00:20:05.640 --> 00:20:12.079 struggling and these children need help so jim first session i was in there as well and you know 00:20:12.079 --> 00:20:19.460 wondering how's it going to go jim's an engineer in comes this lovely little boy says jim says what 00:20:19.460 --> 00:20:24.199 do you think you'd like to do when you grow up i'd like to be an engineer and i just left them with 00:20:24.199 --> 00:20:30.799 this massive box of lego off we go amazing god is in this there are children and young people in 00:20:30.799 --> 00:20:38.399 our community who've lost a parent in the last year we can love these children by being a consistent 00:20:38.400 --> 00:20:43.940 adult in their lives for a year and supporting their single parent there are children who will 00:20:43.940 --> 00:20:50.100 step into school and feel overwhelmed just because of what school is like it's like sensory overload 00:20:50.100 --> 00:20:58.880 we can provide a safe space for them each week there are children who are struggling with change maybe 00:20:58.880 --> 00:21:04.900 family breakdown maybe they've moved into this community maybe someone they love has moved away 00:21:04.900 --> 00:21:13.019 and there are others who are experiencing things that are far worse and very hidden or very internal 00:21:13.019 --> 00:21:21.380 who have no safe adult in their life to talk to and so what begins to happen is their struggles begin 00:21:21.380 --> 00:21:29.680 to show through their behaviors showing that distress there are people sitting in this room who have coached 00:21:29.680 --> 00:21:35.019 many there are people who have trained and haven't yet managed to start coaching but are going to 00:21:35.019 --> 00:21:40.940 there are people who have experienced what it's like to have a grandchild coached and see the difference 00:21:40.940 --> 00:21:47.600 that it makes um i thank you if this is something you've already done and i mean you can probably i'm just 00:21:47.600 --> 00:21:53.200 probably oozing i hope i'm oozing like the invitation to join in and we'll think about what that looks like 00:21:53.200 --> 00:21:59.660 in a moment when i re-enter my password james said don't let it go to sleep 00:21:59.660 --> 00:22:07.640 there we go um so i've told you a little bit about the numbers of coaches that we've had trained but 00:22:07.640 --> 00:22:14.840 covid really interrupted that we moved some of the coaching online but we've um we are in a period of 00:22:14.840 --> 00:22:21.120 time now where we are praying in a new team of coaches especially for yo moore school we've got coaches 00:22:21.119 --> 00:22:27.839 coaches in st john's coaches in st nick's um emily and myself have transitioned with our coaches to 00:22:27.839 --> 00:22:34.479 clevedon's with our coach children to clevedon school because um then they've moved there so we 00:22:34.479 --> 00:22:40.719 just want to help them kind of settle well and at yo moore at the moment we don't have a team of coaches 00:22:40.719 --> 00:22:46.519 and we are really praying that there may be some people in the room this morning or perhaps people 00:22:46.519 --> 00:22:50.419 that you know aren't in the room this morning but you're sitting there thinking do you know what 00:22:50.420 --> 00:22:56.880 so and so could so do this they would love this it would be an absolute gift to a family 00:22:56.880 --> 00:23:07.060 so charles's story um you can see another way he says almost all the time i really love that it's 00:23:07.060 --> 00:23:13.580 like he's on the edge or something um charles's story was filmed in his local church coaching does 00:23:13.580 --> 00:23:18.080 that was because of covid quite a few of our films were made just kind of where there were still 00:23:18.079 --> 00:23:24.519 restrictions in school all coaching happens in school and then there's an invitation to build 00:23:24.519 --> 00:23:29.919 relationship with family as a member of the local church under the church's safeguarding with the 00:23:29.919 --> 00:23:35.799 whole family and we have seen seven families connecting to the fridge our local our youth group 00:23:35.799 --> 00:23:42.439 i know that many of our coaches are still in touch with their coach families and just carry on 00:23:42.440 --> 00:23:48.320 journeying with them and um jim again this morning just shared that he bumped into his child that he 00:23:48.320 --> 00:23:54.340 had coached and like just how excited he was and like bright smiles and it really does make a difference 00:23:54.340 --> 00:24:00.580 building these relationships and it's all underpinned with prayer so i'm just going to move over here to 00:24:00.580 --> 00:24:06.840 draw your attention and just get you to move your necks um so on this table is just lots of stuff from 00:24:06.839 --> 00:24:12.279 tlg and i would love you to come and just look at it please don't think if you come up kate's just 00:24:12.279 --> 00:24:17.679 gonna she's gonna nail me and i'm gonna like be signed up to something it is not like that emmy at 00:24:17.679 --> 00:24:22.899 the moment is not with us because she's unwell but she is coordinating early intervention and i'm 00:24:22.899 --> 00:24:27.980 chatting to emmy a lot and at the moment yes i'm gonna just kind of be that point of contact in 00:24:27.980 --> 00:24:34.759 clevedon but um there are so many different ways to get involved you don't have to become a coach 00:24:34.759 --> 00:24:39.599 although i'll just talk about that a little bit more in a minute um on this table lots of resources 00:24:39.599 --> 00:24:43.859 that tlg have produced for working with young people you might just be interested in them 00:24:43.859 --> 00:24:50.740 emotional first aid that training is free online for anyone just go to the website and sign up 00:24:50.740 --> 00:24:57.099 it so equips you even as a parent or grandparent to understand what's it like for young people 00:24:57.099 --> 00:25:02.359 that are really feeling emotional distress brilliant stuff that's for parents and children 00:25:02.359 --> 00:25:08.099 then all the sort of fun projects we do in coaching the space is so about what the children 00:25:08.099 --> 00:25:14.699 want to do we talk about being playful having fun i feel like i found my inner child by just becoming 00:25:14.699 --> 00:25:21.139 a coach because i'm a bit boring and sensible most of the time acceptance really accepting them for who 00:25:21.139 --> 00:25:29.919 they are not judging not judging their parents curiosity being curious about them and ourselves and life 00:25:29.920 --> 00:25:37.440 crazy life and finally empathy literally sitting with them in what they're feeling not trying to tell 00:25:37.440 --> 00:25:43.220 them that it'll get better at a time when they're feeling like i don't think this can get better 00:25:43.220 --> 00:25:50.759 my dad's just died you know how is that going to get better but just sitting with them in their 00:25:50.759 --> 00:25:56.440 distress maybe just because they're kind of like worried about the spelling test that they've got 00:25:56.440 --> 00:26:04.460 tomorrow the the scale of anxiety is you know it's very varied so lots of um things that we do just 00:26:04.460 --> 00:26:11.100 come up and play with a squidgy ball if you want um there's free magazines for everybody um there's 00:26:11.100 --> 00:26:23.380 information about prayer becoming oh blast i'm just so high tech sorry that's there is information over 00:26:23.380 --> 00:26:31.940 there about becoming prayer partners so for every coach check out not being able to multitask 00:26:31.940 --> 00:26:41.960 just go slow being a prayer partner is a way that you can get involved so every coach has a partner 00:26:41.960 --> 00:26:49.020 who prays for them there's confidentiality around coaching but god knows the details and it really does 00:26:49.019 --> 00:26:54.539 katherine i remember maybe katherine's out but one time i was really struggling with the child i was 00:26:54.539 --> 00:27:00.960 coaching i was in the office with katherine and asked her to pray and that session was so different 00:27:00.960 --> 00:27:10.920 you know just a reminder that praying really does make a difference and um under your chairs can i just 00:27:10.920 --> 00:27:16.879 ask you to actually pull these out right now you've got pens and you've got a little leaflet so pull it 00:27:16.880 --> 00:27:24.240 out and have a look and if you haven't got one then someone will bring you one so just put your hand up 00:27:24.240 --> 00:27:31.740 um but sort of between you they're probably like every other so it looks like this and the invitation 00:27:31.740 --> 00:27:38.000 first is to just stay in touch with tlg so that you can pray about the work and it's this little form 00:27:38.000 --> 00:27:46.420 here staying in touch with tlg if you fill out that form today you get a free copy of this book which i 00:27:46.420 --> 00:27:53.720 would really recommend it's the story of tlg and the story of the difference that it's making in the 00:27:53.720 --> 00:28:01.340 lives of young people through the local church so please do fill that out and come and hand it to me 00:28:01.340 --> 00:28:08.539 and i'll give you a book um the other way that we would like to invite you to support the work of tlg 00:28:08.539 --> 00:28:14.820 is to become a hope giver it's self-explanatory a couple of pounds a month it makes a difference 00:28:14.819 --> 00:28:20.099 if we can get people behind this movement it's making a difference across the whole nation 00:28:20.099 --> 00:28:28.079 i just want to say please always consider your local church first as you consider prayerfully 00:28:28.079 --> 00:28:34.079 your stewardship your giving god nothing we have is ours it's all god's what are we doing with it 00:28:34.079 --> 00:28:39.799 what are we doing with our finances what are we doing with our gifts and skills ask god if you feel 00:28:39.799 --> 00:28:46.619 that his invitation to you is to support the work of tlg we massively value it and on that note 00:28:46.619 --> 00:28:55.059 um love this there's little business cards and little flyers i know in this room there are some 00:28:55.059 --> 00:29:01.000 business people business type people pete and i my husband and i he's on the rugby pitch with tom this 00:29:01.000 --> 00:29:07.399 morning um we bought a little pub in lockdown and one of the first things we wanted to do was think 00:29:07.400 --> 00:29:13.360 well how can we use this business that we believe god has given us for community how can we also use 00:29:13.360 --> 00:29:19.700 it financially to support something well who tlg have got something called future builders so we're 00:29:19.700 --> 00:29:26.720 future builders we give every month to this initiative and it's got like this is so dull but 00:29:26.720 --> 00:29:31.500 tax benefits you know like if you actually give from a business to another one it's it's brilliant you 00:29:31.500 --> 00:29:39.500 kind of are really encouraged to do it as a business please please please pray and think is there anyone 00:29:39.500 --> 00:29:46.539 that you could give a future builder invitation to i'm about to go up and down hill road and ask them 00:29:46.539 --> 00:29:53.059 all if they might like to do that and it's our birthday the pub birthday into next week actually and we're 00:29:53.059 --> 00:30:01.339 going to raise money for tlg by um doing a raffle so that's future builders all and then last of all 00:30:01.339 --> 00:30:08.899 it's a blank screen guess what i'm going to ask you to think about becoming a coach so come and chat to 00:30:08.899 --> 00:30:14.819 me or two put your hand up if you're in the room and you've either coached or you've trained as a coach 00:30:14.819 --> 00:30:20.539 could you just wave your hand talk to one of these people and just bear in mind that in your community 00:30:20.539 --> 00:30:25.599 there's about 20 more people that you could chat to too who aren't here this morning becoming an early 00:30:25.599 --> 00:30:32.859 intervention coach it tlg trains you thoroughly we journey with you we support you we resource you 00:30:32.859 --> 00:30:38.220 you are not going to be alone you're not going to be put with a child that you think oh my goodness 00:30:38.220 --> 00:30:44.839 that's just going to be so difficult we have we are learning and we are wanting to make sure that you 00:30:44.839 --> 00:30:50.519 are with the child god has got for you i've got a coach in bristol she's 86 and she's about to 00:30:50.519 --> 00:30:57.639 start coaching again and so that's pretty much it for me i'm just going to play you a very last clip 00:30:57.639 --> 00:30:58.440 to finish 00:30:58.440 --> 00:31:13.900 we're aware that children in our local community struggle for so many different reasons we thought 00:31:13.900 --> 00:31:18.539 this is something that would make such a huge difference by going in and encouraging kids 00:31:18.539 --> 00:31:25.019 spending time with them on a one-to-one just the opportunity to see our church do fruitful active 00:31:25.019 --> 00:31:29.899 work it's a massive part of our church it's a massive part of our ministry to the love of jesus 00:31:29.899 --> 00:31:36.779 to to people in a really practical way that child has one hour a week where all the attention is on them 00:31:36.779 --> 00:31:43.099 and you get to walk with them journey with them you see just massive change in that one year it really is 00:31:43.099 --> 00:31:48.699 incredible how much these young people change i like the quality time that you're able to spend 00:31:48.699 --> 00:31:54.219 with the child you get to play fun games you get to make interesting things you get to have a laugh 00:31:54.219 --> 00:32:01.259 and when i came out of that session boy was i filled with joy and when the kids just come running in to see 00:32:01.259 --> 00:32:08.140 you with big smiles on their faces building a trusting relationship with the child helping a 00:32:08.140 --> 00:32:17.019 child who's struggling it is just listening to them share with you perhaps things that they don't share 00:32:17.019 --> 00:32:25.579 with other adults god is so much in us we can either um just look on and be bystanders or we can 00:32:25.579 --> 00:32:31.419 actually take part in trying to change lives for good could i do it could i do it the answer is yes 00:32:31.419 --> 00:32:37.819 you can give it a go i mean an hour a week to you probably doesn't mean that much but to the child 00:32:37.819 --> 00:32:42.379 you could be coaching that could change their life it's just a wonderful hour a week and i would just 00:32:42.379 --> 00:32:51.899 say go for it why didn't i know about it earlier simply go for it go for it go for it right now because 00:32:51.900 --> 00:32:58.540 what you've helped me with i always feel like i want to be like the tombi to help other children so 00:32:58.540 --> 00:33:07.820 i know what i've been through