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 Good morning.

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 How are we doing on this Great Father's Day?

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 Outstanding.

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 Alright, it is a great privilege to be here this morning and to be able to share with you.

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 First of all, I want to thank Nathan and Chris for teeing the ball up way high for me,

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 putting the biggest driver they could find in my hand,

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 and standing me in front of the straightest fairway there ever was

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 by asking me to preach on this particular day.

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 Because as he said, for the last five months or so,

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 I've been working diligently with the guy in the back of the room

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 in creating a website especially for dads.

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 And it's actually called DadsTheKey.com.

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 DadsTheKey.com.

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 And for the past 26 years, I've been working many times with the Lord's help

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 at being a parent, being a dad.

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 And it's been quite a challenge, but quite an awesome privilege as well.

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 Alright, dads.

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 They made it easy for you to leave you away because the kids came out to you.

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 I'm asking you to come down here to the front and stand to start off here this morning.

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 All fathers, get on down here.

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 Get on down here and stand.

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 And stand down here until I tell you otherwise.

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 Now, just make your way across here.

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 My goodness.

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 It's awesome.

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 Stand right here.

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 That's good.

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 You can look out at the crowd.

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 You can look out at the crowd.

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 That's fine.

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 Now, just to get an idea of who all I have to actually preach to this morning,

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 I want to also ask a few other people to stand.

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 That is, would the wives of all these men up here please stand and remain standing?

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 Okay.

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 Excellent.

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 Wives of all those.

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 And next, I would like to ask if we have any single young men

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 who have the slightest inkling of desire to be a husband and perhaps father one day,

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 would you please stand?

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 Alright, we've got some bold men here this morning.

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 And last, but certainly by no means least,

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 if we have any single young women with the slightest inkling of desire

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 to be married to a great husband and father one day to their children,

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 would you please stand?

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 Alright, great.

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 Congratulations for being bold this morning and standing.

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 Alright, thank you for standing.

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 That looks like I've got a great audience to preach to this morning

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 because what I have to share applies to each and every one of you.

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 Okay?

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 Everyone but the dads can be seated.

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 Alright?

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 Alright?

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 And, um, now dads, it is a known fact, okay,

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 that our day will never equal, much less exceed,

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 the glitter, the glamour, and the attention of our counterpart's special day.

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 Right?

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 Okay?

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 We just, we just have to accept that fact.

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 Okay?

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 As they are indeed the glue that holds the family together.

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 Alright?

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 Alright?

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 But even that great philosopher and spokesman for the family himself,

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 Jim Carrey, said that behind every great man is a woman rolling her eyes.

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 Okay?

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 Okay?

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 Okay?

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 Okay?

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 Yes, we can look to Jim Carrey for a lot of great wisdom.

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 But, men, I do want you to know that I come bearing gifts.

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 You've already received some gifts this morning,

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 but I have another special gift for you.

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 And that is, my favorite daily devotional.

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 It's called The Word for You Today.

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 And it's put together by Bob Gass Ministries.

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 Bob Gass and his ministry is located in Alpharetta, Georgia.

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 So I want you to have a complimentary copy.

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 And you can order those if you want to continue to get those.

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 You can, I've been using this with my family for the last few years

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 and have thoroughly loved it.

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 It's a great in-the-car, on-the-way daily devotional

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 that Grant and I are using on a regular basis.

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 But I love this and I want to give that to you as well.

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 And in case, you know, you still would like to have another gift,

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 I've got one more gift for you at the end of the service.

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 As you go out, look for Joel Whetstone.

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 He's going to be handed out to you as we go.

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 It's going to kind of be a summary of the message.

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 Okay?

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 Let's give them a round of applause here.

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 Thank you, dads.

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 Thank you.

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 All right.

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 All right.

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 We're working with a clicker that hopefully is going to work for us.

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 And if not, as it's not right now, my trustee, John.

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 Okay.

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 Okay.

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 Charles Steinmetz.

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 I'm sure you're all familiar with Charles Steinmetz.

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 Charles Steinmetz was an electrical engineer with an enormous intellect.

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 Okay?

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 At the time of his death, he held over 200 patents.

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 I don't know about y'all, but I'm still working on my first,

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 and I'm not doing very well at it.

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 Okay?

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 Okay.

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 After retiring, Steinmetz was asked by a major appliance manufacturer to locate a malfunction

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 in their electrical equipment, something that none of their experts had been able to do.

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 So Steinmetz agreed to do that, and he spent some time walking around and testing the various parts of the machine complex.

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 And finally, after a period of time, he took a piece of chalk out of his pocket,

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 and he marked an X on a specific part of one machine.

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 The manufacturer's people disassembled the machine, and to their utter amazement,

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 found that the defect lay precisely where Steinmetz had placed the X.

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 Several days later, the company received a bill for $10,000.

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 Now, mind you, this was back in the early 1900s.

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 Okay?

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 So that had to be probably equivalent to about $100,000 or more today.

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 Okay?

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 Received a bill for $10,000.

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 Well, they protested the amount and asked him to itemize it.

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 So Steinmetz sent back an itemized bill, which said,

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 making one chalk mark, $1.

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 Knowing where to place that chalk mark, $9,999.

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 Now, I love that illustration.

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 Okay?

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 Almost any time I preach, I'm able to find a way to use it.

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 Okay?

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 Absolutely love it.

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 But it never hurts to be highly skilled at what you do, does it?

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 Never does.

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 Steinmetz knew that he knew where to place that X.

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 And you may think this is rather arrogant for me to say today,

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 but I declare to you today that I know exactly where the problem

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 and the solution lies with our country today.

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 I know exactly where it is.

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 And so if you have a direct line to the White House and President Obama or to the Congress,

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 you may want to give them a call and let them know that contrary to all the polls and the sound bites,

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 pardon the English, it ain't about the economy, stupid.

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 Okay?

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 No, but rather the problem and the solution in our country lies with the most important person

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 within the most vital of the three institutions that God has ordained here on earth,

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 and that is fathers in the home.

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 And that's where I want to focus my attention for the next few hours,

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 I mean minutes, that we have on this special Father's Day.

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 But I want to talk about what makes a great father.

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 A father that is honored and revered for being the leader that genuinely loves,

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 encourages, directs, and fights for each member on his family team.

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 And I believe the ingredients that make up what a great father is are found in a model that I created

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 while putting together my website that I call the five core values for dads.

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 And, you know, I don't know how many of you saw the great movie recently, Act of Valor,

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 about the Navy SEALs.

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 How many of you saw that movie?

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 Fantastic movie.

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 My son and I, we've only seen it about three or four times now.

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 All right, but early in that movie, one of the Navy SEALs, he said,

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 we all need a code, an ethos to live by.

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 And I couldn't agree more.

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 And the five core values are my code to live by as a man of God,

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 as a husband, and as a father,

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 and are what I want to present to the fathers of this country,

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 beginning with the fathers here at Christ Family Church,

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 in hopes that in some small or great way,

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 God might use them to revive and restore the heart of the home.

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 So let's look first.

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 The first core value that I want to share with you

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 is that a great father establishes his life and his family

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 on the sure and trusted foundation of the Word of God,

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 the Holy Bible, which will endure forever.

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 Now, dads, you don't have to take perfect notes on this

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 because at the end, you're going to have a compilation of these five core values

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 as a final gift from me here this morning.

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 But Webster, Noah Webster in his 1828 dictionary,

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 he defined foundation as the basis or groundwork of anything,

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 that on which anything stands and by which it is supported.

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 Now, you know, think about this.

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 Whatever facet of life that we're talking about,

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 whether we're talking about a physical home,

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 a tall skyscraper building,

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 or a sports team, or a church,

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 or even an individual life,

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 of all the particular individual parts and pieces that it takes

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 to put those together,

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 foundation is the absolute most important thing.

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 Everything else hangs or falls on it.

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 Okay?

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 And we're talking here today about who or what we look to

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 as our source of authority for life.

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 And I've got to tell you, folks,

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 I mean, I could talk the entire rest of the morning on this one point.

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 I mean, to me, there are so many great truths and rich principles to mine

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 from just this one point right here about the foundation.

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 So important.

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 But for the sake of time, I don't have that time.

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 But one of the greatest illustrations that Jesus ever gave,

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 and probably the best He gave,

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 as far as the importance of the foundation that we build our lives upon,

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 is in Matthew 7, 24 through 27.

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 And let's read this together.

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 I love it.

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 It is, Jesus said,

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 and this was at the very end of the Sermon on the Mount.

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 Jesus said,

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 Now, I see a cause and effect relationship in that passage right there.

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 And let's look at that.

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 Okay?

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 The first cause is Jesus is talking about the person who hears and does the Word of God.

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 And He likens that person to a wise man who builds his house upon a rock.

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 What is the effect of that person's life and decisions?

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 Well, his house and his life stands firm amidst rough weather and the hard times.

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 Now, conversely, the person who hears and ignores the Word of God,

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 they hear it, but then they just go on about their way,

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 as though there's no relatively little, if any, importance to it.

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 That man is like a foolish man who builds his house upon the sand.

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 And the effect of that is that his house and his life falls flat amidst the rough weather and the hard times.

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 You know, I've walked on sand as early as yesterday.

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 We came back from a week in Panama City.

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 And I was walking on sand as early as yesterday.

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 And two things I know relative to sand that you know as well.

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 Number one, it's a horrible thing to build a house upon.

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 Okay?

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 And in comparison, Jesus is saying the person who builds his house on the sand,

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 that is, who hears but does not do his Word, is equally as foolish.

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 And you can't build a life upon that as well, hearing and ignoring the Word of God.

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 You know, according to Jesus, there are only two foundations in life that we as human beings can build our lives upon.

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 We can build our lives upon man and his foolish reason,

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 or we can build it upon God and his infinite wisdom.

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 Now, think about it with me.

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 Where do we see or where can we see these two foundations lived out today?

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 And the effect and the result of those.

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 You know, occasionally we hear about people who are basing their lives and living their lives on the Word of God.

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 And we rejoice in that.

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 We get excited about that.

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 But more frequently, we hear and read every day of people who built their lives upon the sand of man's foolish reason.

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 Of what I call the four Ps, the things of the world.

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 So, popularity, pleasure, possessions, and power and position.

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 Okay?

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 And, you know, we are hearing and ignoring the Word of God.

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 And you know what?

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 The result of those that we see are either their lives collapse, as we saw in the last couple of months.

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 One, a former pro bowler in the NFL, Junior Seau, that probably you guys in particular remember.

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 He committed suicide.

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 You know, as early as a couple of months ago.

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 His lives collapsed before the public.

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 But for those whose lives don't just collapse, you know, they end up, they're revealed to just be more or less empty.

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 Okay?

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 And, you know, there's one comparison here, you know, today in this day and age in which we live,

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 that's being played out, no pun intended, on the football field.

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 And that is between Tim Tebow and Tom Brady.

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 Last year they met together shaking hands for the very first time at, you know, at the 50-yard line.

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 Okay?

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 Many of you guys in here, you know, I know are football fans.

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 And we all know about Tim Tebow's life, or at least all that we know about it.

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 Tim Tebow is a shining example of a young man who has based his entire life, thanks to his parents and others around him,

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 who based his life on hearing and doing the Word of God.

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 Okay?

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 His life is built upon the rock.

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 But Tom Brady, okay, as much as I love Tom Brady, okay, and he is one of my favorites,

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 Tom Brady, let me tell you a little bit about Tom Brady.

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 All before the age of 30, he had three Super Bowl rings, two Super Bowl MVP trophies,

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 named to the Pro Bowl several times, even a bulleted summary list of his accomplishments can go on for pages.

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 He's married to a supermodel, has a contract in the millions.

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 And the things that you would expect from a man that many are saying may be the greatest in NFL history.

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 Okay?

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 Tom Brady embodies the lifestyle of what I call the four Ps.

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 Okay?

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 Pleasure, popularity, possession, power, and position.

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 Tom Brady has it all, guys.

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 He has it all.

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 And yet, what I want you to hear and see is, in a 60 Minutes interview back in December of 2007,

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 Tom Brady expressed the following.

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 He said, why do I have three Super Bowl rings and still think there's something greater out there for me?

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 I mean, maybe a lot of people would say, hey man, this is what it is.

00:17:13.859 --> 00:17:16.420
 I reached my goal, my dream, my life.

00:17:16.420 --> 00:17:20.220
 I think, God, it's got to be more than this.

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 Can you believe this?

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 I mean, this can't be what it's all cracked up to be.

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 I love playing football and I love being quarterback for this team.

00:17:28.900 --> 00:17:34.759
 But at the same time, I think there are a lot of other parts about me that I'm trying to find.

00:17:35.200 --> 00:17:38.480
 And the narrator asked him at the end, what is the answer?

00:17:38.480 --> 00:17:41.720
 And Tom Brady says, I wish I knew.

00:17:42.299 --> 00:17:43.240
 I wish I knew.

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 You know, I just, I read that and I just, I just say a big wow.

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 Is that not amazing?

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 Guys, we have right before us and in an interview five years ago from a man's own lips who has everything the world could ever give him.

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 And always will probably.

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 And that's what he expressed.

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 There's quite a difference between the foundation that Tim Tebow has built his life upon, wouldn't you say?

00:18:11.859 --> 00:18:19.159
 Dads, there is nothing more important than making the Word of God the foundation of your life.

00:18:19.639 --> 00:18:19.799
 Okay?

00:18:20.220 --> 00:18:27.200
 And as my good friend, Robert Andrews, and I'm going to refer to him several times here through his book, The Family.

00:18:27.659 --> 00:18:27.859
 Okay?

00:18:28.159 --> 00:18:34.179
 Great book that I've had the privilege of reading through and learning a lot from him.

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 He says there is a big difference between saying that you believe the Bible and actually living it out and putting it into practice.

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 And I want to show you one other thing here, guys.

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 And this to me is what it means to make the Word of God the foundation of your life.

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 Every thought, fathers, every thought, plan, and decision about yourself, your marriage, your family, your finances, your vocation, your recreation is run through the filter of the Word of God.

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 And it comes out that you have a commitment that you're going to do exactly what the Word of God says and exactly how it says to do it.

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 And you're going to avoid exactly what the Word of God says to avoid.

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 That to me is what it means to make the Word of God the foundation of your life.

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 Not just saying it, but actually living it out.

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 And one last thing I would say on this point is keep in mind, fathers, it is not just your life and eternity at stake.

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 It's the lives and eternities of multiple generations that will be following in your footsteps.

00:19:46.099 --> 00:19:46.259
 Okay?

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 Very important.

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 Now, now that we've laid the proper foundation for you dads, we need to put the framing and the walls in place.

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 Okay?

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 And that's the second core value.

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 And that second core value is that a great father embraces his God-ordained role as head of the home.

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 And the delegated authority God has given him to carry out that responsibility with firm and compassionate leadership.

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 You know, there are many things that husbands and wives can base their view of family and their roles in it on.

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 And Robert Andrews mentions in his book several.

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 Our original family upbringing, which is the number one influence.

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 Also, movies and TV, i.e. Hollywood, pop psychology, peers around us, trial and error.

00:20:43.680 --> 00:20:44.960
 And lastly, the church.

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 But don't be deceived because the church can be very unhelpful and confusing here.

00:20:49.900 --> 00:20:50.620
 Okay?

00:20:51.060 --> 00:20:57.880
 But did you know that God has clearly laid out a divine authority structure for the family?

00:20:58.640 --> 00:20:59.500
 He has.

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 He has laid out a divine authority structure and is found in 1 Corinthians 11.3.

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 And that passage says, Paul says,

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 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ,

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 and the head of the woman is the man,

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 and the head of Christ is God.

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 It's all in there.

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 It's amazing.

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 And there's the divine authority structure.

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 We have God the Father, Jesus Christ, man.

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 I changed woman to wife because, men, you know,

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 God obviously doesn't intend that we be the head of every woman,

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 nor can we be, right?

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 I mean, it's a big enough job to be the head of one, right?

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 And I added children because of the obvious passages in the New Testament

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 about children being under the rule and the authority of their parents.

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 But there is our divine authority structure.

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 And I do want to say, like in the divine family,

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 the authority structure in the earthly family,

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 it relates to function and not to value or worth,

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 not to the value or the worth of the individual.

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 And how wonderful that is, but the world doesn't seem to get that, do they?

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 Whenever we start talking about the men being the heads

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 and the authorities in the home,

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 what do the women and others in the world start saying?

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 They start crying out, you know, suppression,

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 and that sort of thing, okay?

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 It's a misunderstanding of God's ideal

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 in this whole authority structure that we have.

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 But there can be some challenges, dads,

00:22:42.480 --> 00:22:45.440
 to fulfilling this divine authority structure.

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 First of all, there could be a lack of leadership on your part.

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 There is a syndrome that I refer to as strong at work, weak at home.

00:22:56.619 --> 00:22:57.059
 Okay?

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 That jumps on a lot of men.

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 I mean, man, they can go to work

00:23:04.179 --> 00:23:06.799
 and they can have the mentality, it's get her done.

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 And then once they pull up to the house and walk in,

00:23:10.099 --> 00:23:11.239
 it's let her do it.

00:23:12.019 --> 00:23:13.139
 A big difference.

00:23:13.659 --> 00:23:14.459
 Big difference.

00:23:14.839 --> 00:23:17.539
 Get her done at work, let her do it at home.

00:23:18.099 --> 00:23:18.359
 Alright?

00:23:18.739 --> 00:23:21.739
 And that can easily lead to a second challenge,

00:23:21.739 --> 00:23:23.799
 and that is a strong-willed wife

00:23:23.799 --> 00:23:27.079
 who has natural take-charge abilities

00:23:27.079 --> 00:23:31.700
 that maybe has had to take that responsibility in the past,

00:23:32.119 --> 00:23:32.960
 and guess what?

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 They don't want to give up power in the home.

00:23:36.460 --> 00:23:36.659
 Okay?

00:23:37.419 --> 00:23:38.919
 Something very serious to think about.

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 And the other one is just within our entire society and culture

00:23:42.139 --> 00:23:43.819
 is the whole feminist movement

00:23:43.819 --> 00:23:48.059
 which hates God's divine authority structure for the family.

00:23:48.059 --> 00:23:51.039
 they're all about destroying it

00:23:51.039 --> 00:23:53.220
 and doing away with it.

00:23:53.799 --> 00:23:54.399
 But you know what?

00:23:54.539 --> 00:23:56.779
 Whatever it is, whatever it takes, dads,

00:23:57.259 --> 00:24:02.339
 we must assume our role of leadership and authority in the home.

00:24:02.940 --> 00:24:04.319
 And to not do so

00:24:04.319 --> 00:24:07.539
 simply means that we are outside the will of God

00:24:07.539 --> 00:24:08.799
 in that area of our lives.

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 And we need to repent,

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 and that we need to sit down,

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 and we need to have a powwow with our wife,

00:24:13.700 --> 00:24:15.680
 maybe even our kids,

00:24:15.759 --> 00:24:20.580
 because guys, we can give over power to our kids in the home as well.

00:24:20.980 --> 00:24:23.319
 We may have to sit down and have a meeting about that.

00:24:23.740 --> 00:24:26.460
 But dads, where do we get our example of leadership from?

00:24:27.500 --> 00:24:29.220
 You know, if we're the head of the home,

00:24:29.580 --> 00:24:31.680
 where do we get our example of leadership from?

00:24:32.140 --> 00:24:33.279
 Who's up above us?

00:24:34.640 --> 00:24:35.960
 Jesus Christ.

00:24:37.080 --> 00:24:38.160
 Jesus Christ.

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 The supreme example of love and servanthood.

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 Just as Jesus completely yielded to the will of His Father

00:24:47.440 --> 00:24:48.920
 in the divine family,

00:24:49.480 --> 00:24:53.639
 we are to yield our will to our head,

00:24:54.000 --> 00:24:55.160
 which is Jesus Christ.

00:24:55.420 --> 00:24:56.119
 How awesome.

00:24:56.639 --> 00:24:57.779
 And just imagine that.

00:24:58.019 --> 00:24:59.619
 If that were being played out,

00:25:00.119 --> 00:25:01.500
 you know, in every home,

00:25:02.099 --> 00:25:04.960
 even in every home of professing believers

00:25:04.960 --> 00:25:06.339
 throughout this country,

00:25:06.700 --> 00:25:08.579
 what a difference that would make.

00:25:08.579 --> 00:25:13.039
 There's no one between us and Jesus Christ.

00:25:13.139 --> 00:25:13.960
 There's no church.

00:25:14.240 --> 00:25:15.019
 There's no elder.

00:25:15.179 --> 00:25:15.819
 No pastor.

00:25:16.279 --> 00:25:18.939
 No one or no thing that's in between us.

00:25:20.799 --> 00:25:22.839
 And if we're getting our lead from Him,

00:25:22.960 --> 00:25:25.339
 our lead and our inspiration from Jesus Christ,

00:25:25.819 --> 00:25:26.859
 I believe there's going to be

00:25:26.859 --> 00:25:29.839
 much fewer problems and headaches

00:25:29.839 --> 00:25:32.240
 for us to have to deal with in that regard.

00:25:32.240 --> 00:25:34.559
 So, dads, if you want your home

00:25:34.559 --> 00:25:37.960
 to be a place of harmony and great vision,

00:25:38.620 --> 00:25:40.079
 we need to follow God's blueprint,

00:25:40.779 --> 00:25:43.220
 which is His divine authority structure.

00:25:44.000 --> 00:25:47.500
 Now, next, we move on to relationships

00:25:47.500 --> 00:25:50.140
 in the kitchen and in the master bedroom

00:25:50.140 --> 00:25:53.079
 to continue with the home analogy.

00:25:53.559 --> 00:25:53.640
 Okay?

00:25:54.180 --> 00:25:57.680
 And that is, thirdly, what makes a great father

00:25:57.680 --> 00:26:00.340
 is that he cherishes his wife

00:26:00.340 --> 00:26:04.259
 by treating her in words, actions, and attitudes

00:26:04.259 --> 00:26:07.560
 with the highest of respect, value, and honor

00:26:07.560 --> 00:26:10.340
 following the example of Christ.

00:26:11.299 --> 00:26:13.980
 Now, you know what?

00:26:14.100 --> 00:26:16.340
 In my work, I'm in insurance

00:26:16.340 --> 00:26:17.860
 and I work with people on Medicare.

00:26:18.200 --> 00:26:20.700
 So, day in and day out for the last six years,

00:26:20.860 --> 00:26:22.500
 I've been visiting in the homes

00:26:22.500 --> 00:26:27.140
 of many 65-year-old and up individuals and couples.

00:26:27.140 --> 00:26:28.520
 And I can tell you this,

00:26:28.820 --> 00:26:30.380
 I've been in several homes

00:26:30.380 --> 00:26:33.840
 that the tension between husband and wife,

00:26:34.300 --> 00:26:35.460
 you can cut with a knife.

00:26:36.420 --> 00:26:38.060
 Now, that's not just a problem

00:26:38.060 --> 00:26:40.640
 for 65-year-olds and up, okay?

00:26:40.960 --> 00:26:44.160
 It can jump on even young couples, okay?

00:26:44.400 --> 00:26:48.120
 Very soon after that wonderful honeymoon,

00:26:48.780 --> 00:26:49.700
 if you're not careful.

00:26:50.460 --> 00:26:54.300
 And after six years of being in that line of work

00:26:54.300 --> 00:26:56.259
 and almost 30 years of being married,

00:26:56.259 --> 00:26:58.119
 I can tell you this for sure,

00:26:58.779 --> 00:27:00.839
 cherishing our wives, man,

00:27:00.980 --> 00:27:02.559
 does not come naturally.

00:27:03.220 --> 00:27:04.779
 Wives, can I get an amen on that?

00:27:05.660 --> 00:27:06.740
 A soft one.

00:27:07.420 --> 00:27:08.480
 Not too loud.

00:27:08.819 --> 00:27:09.559
 Don't rub it in.

00:27:09.619 --> 00:27:10.559
 Don't make it too hard.

00:27:11.039 --> 00:27:11.440
 But you know,

00:27:11.720 --> 00:27:14.119
 our human nature works to the contrary.

00:27:14.119 --> 00:27:17.579
 The longer we are together,

00:27:18.579 --> 00:27:22.619
 it tends to be that the less we cherish one another

00:27:22.619 --> 00:27:25.379
 and the more we tend to argue and fight

00:27:25.379 --> 00:27:26.979
 and bicker with one another, right?

00:27:27.479 --> 00:27:29.399
 That's the way human nature tends to be.

00:27:29.819 --> 00:27:30.839
 And why is that?

00:27:31.219 --> 00:27:33.399
 Well, it's because anyone that you live with

00:27:33.399 --> 00:27:34.819
 for any length of time,

00:27:35.279 --> 00:27:37.819
 particularly for years, you know, years on end,

00:27:37.819 --> 00:27:40.879
 you come to see them for who they really are.

00:27:41.179 --> 00:27:42.980
 Their imperfections, their weaknesses,

00:27:43.299 --> 00:27:44.460
 their anxieties,

00:27:45.039 --> 00:27:48.599
 and that causes you to tend to be more critical

00:27:48.599 --> 00:27:50.579
 than, you know,

00:27:50.819 --> 00:27:53.619
 and less cherishing towards them.

00:27:54.619 --> 00:27:55.919
 But praise the Lord,

00:27:56.519 --> 00:27:59.220
 it's not at all about relying on our human nature,

00:27:59.220 --> 00:28:00.019
 is it, Dad?

00:28:00.700 --> 00:28:03.460
 Instead, this is about cooperating

00:28:03.460 --> 00:28:06.840
 with the divine nature that resides within us.

00:28:07.519 --> 00:28:09.240
 Cooperating with the Spirit of God.

00:28:09.819 --> 00:28:11.519
 And that's what we have to do, men.

00:28:11.940 --> 00:28:14.100
 I mean, this is a spiritual issue.

00:28:14.660 --> 00:28:15.940
 And it's all about us

00:28:15.940 --> 00:28:19.960
 allowing the Spirit of God

00:28:19.960 --> 00:28:21.440
 who lives within us

00:28:21.440 --> 00:28:23.900
 to control us by faith

00:28:23.900 --> 00:28:27.440
 in our very words, actions, and attitudes.

00:28:28.019 --> 00:28:29.860
 You know, God's really convicted me of that

00:28:29.860 --> 00:28:32.400
 even going back several months

00:28:32.400 --> 00:28:34.560
 as I started putting together the website

00:28:34.560 --> 00:28:36.840
 of just the way that I treat Gail.

00:28:37.460 --> 00:28:39.820
 And he's doing the work on it.

00:28:39.900 --> 00:28:41.759
 Now, he's still working on me, okay?

00:28:41.820 --> 00:28:43.700
 And he'll continue to be working on me

00:28:43.700 --> 00:28:44.680
 for the rest of my life.

00:28:45.019 --> 00:28:45.820
 But thank the Lord,

00:28:45.880 --> 00:28:47.140
 I've got a very patient wife.

00:28:48.480 --> 00:28:49.660
 But anyway,

00:28:50.180 --> 00:28:51.440
 the bottom line is here,

00:28:51.680 --> 00:28:51.940
 you know,

00:28:52.019 --> 00:28:54.480
 if you're not doing too well at this, Dad's,

00:28:54.820 --> 00:28:57.200
 you're either trying too hard yourself

00:28:57.200 --> 00:28:59.400
 or you're not trying at all.

00:28:59.940 --> 00:29:00.100
 Okay?

00:29:00.380 --> 00:29:01.140
 The bottom line,

00:29:01.140 --> 00:29:03.259
 it's about that we cannot do this.

00:29:03.800 --> 00:29:05.860
 We cannot accomplish this in our own strength.

00:29:06.600 --> 00:29:06.780
 Now,

00:29:07.259 --> 00:29:10.900
 one of the verses I really love about this

00:29:10.900 --> 00:29:12.640
 is 1 Peter 3.7.

00:29:13.280 --> 00:29:15.380
 And Peter says in there,

00:29:15.800 --> 00:29:17.320
 you husbands likewise,

00:29:17.860 --> 00:29:19.320
 live with your wives

00:29:19.320 --> 00:29:21.000
 in an understanding way

00:29:21.000 --> 00:29:23.560
 as with a weaker vessel

00:29:23.560 --> 00:29:25.420
 since she is a woman

00:29:25.420 --> 00:29:27.080
 and grant her honor

00:29:27.080 --> 00:29:29.180
 as a fellow heir of the grace of life

00:29:29.180 --> 00:29:31.000
 so that your prayers

00:29:31.000 --> 00:29:32.400
 may not be hindered.

00:29:32.880 --> 00:29:33.759
 I'm going over here

00:29:33.759 --> 00:29:35.100
 to grab something this morning

00:29:35.100 --> 00:29:37.600
 that I all but had to fight

00:29:37.600 --> 00:29:38.580
 my wife

00:29:38.580 --> 00:29:40.779
 to get it out of the house this morning.

00:29:41.900 --> 00:29:43.740
 And I will quote her.

00:29:44.140 --> 00:29:44.800
 She said,

00:29:45.160 --> 00:29:45.400
 honey,

00:29:45.539 --> 00:29:48.360
 that is $150 right there.

00:29:48.759 --> 00:29:49.840
 You cannot

00:29:49.840 --> 00:29:51.820
 take that out of the house.

00:29:51.819 --> 00:29:53.539
 But here it is this morning.

00:29:53.859 --> 00:29:54.039
 Okay?

00:29:54.319 --> 00:29:55.240
 If I drop it,

00:29:55.599 --> 00:29:55.939
 guys,

00:29:56.099 --> 00:29:57.119
 please come protect me

00:29:57.119 --> 00:29:58.879
 because I'm dead mean.

00:29:59.399 --> 00:29:59.659
 Okay?

00:30:00.259 --> 00:30:00.899
 You know what?

00:30:02.099 --> 00:30:03.779
 Very fragile,

00:30:04.200 --> 00:30:06.720
 fine piece of china glassware here.

00:30:07.079 --> 00:30:07.319
 Okay?

00:30:07.319 --> 00:30:08.919
 Moving these,

00:30:09.000 --> 00:30:10.379
 this set last year,

00:30:10.819 --> 00:30:11.819
 we wrapped them

00:30:11.819 --> 00:30:14.059
 in four to five times

00:30:14.059 --> 00:30:15.119
 the normal paper.

00:30:15.740 --> 00:30:16.019
 Okay?

00:30:16.619 --> 00:30:17.939
 Why did we do that?

00:30:18.879 --> 00:30:21.000
 Because they were made

00:30:21.000 --> 00:30:22.099
 with TLC,

00:30:22.460 --> 00:30:23.460
 tender loving care,

00:30:23.879 --> 00:30:24.759
 that's exactly

00:30:24.759 --> 00:30:26.559
 how we have to treat them

00:30:26.559 --> 00:30:28.139
 or else they'll break.

00:30:28.599 --> 00:30:28.819
 Okay?

00:30:29.259 --> 00:30:29.559
 You know,

00:30:29.559 --> 00:30:30.740
 a hundred pieces of your board.

00:30:31.379 --> 00:30:32.240
 And I'll come

00:30:32.240 --> 00:30:34.059
 swiftly behind you

00:30:34.059 --> 00:30:35.519
 as far as being broken.

00:30:35.519 --> 00:30:37.420
 But you know what?

00:30:38.319 --> 00:30:39.200
 That is exactly

00:30:39.200 --> 00:30:40.119
 what Peter is,

00:30:40.460 --> 00:30:40.960
 I believe,

00:30:41.019 --> 00:30:42.160
 is getting across here.

00:30:42.619 --> 00:30:43.519
 That is exactly

00:30:43.519 --> 00:30:44.400
 the same way

00:30:44.400 --> 00:30:45.599
 that he's saying,

00:30:46.039 --> 00:30:46.240
 man,

00:30:46.299 --> 00:30:46.859
 that we need

00:30:46.859 --> 00:30:47.900
 to treat our lives.

00:30:48.180 --> 00:30:49.440
 We need to treat them

00:30:49.440 --> 00:30:50.119
 like they are

00:30:50.119 --> 00:30:51.619
 a prized possession.

00:30:52.119 --> 00:30:52.940
 We don't use

00:30:52.940 --> 00:30:54.220
 these glasses every day.

00:30:54.599 --> 00:30:55.539
 We only use them

00:30:55.539 --> 00:30:56.639
 on special occasions

00:30:56.639 --> 00:30:57.420
 like you do

00:30:57.420 --> 00:30:58.079
 in your home.

00:30:58.799 --> 00:30:59.480
 Treat them

00:30:59.480 --> 00:31:00.200
 like they're

00:31:00.200 --> 00:31:01.500
 a prized possession

00:31:01.500 --> 00:31:02.639
 like this glass.

00:31:03.240 --> 00:31:03.379
 Okay?

00:31:03.900 --> 00:31:04.420
 Treat them

00:31:04.420 --> 00:31:05.000
 with tender,

00:31:05.220 --> 00:31:05.900
 loving care.

00:31:07.000 --> 00:31:07.000


00:31:07.880 --> 00:31:09.960
 yeah,

00:31:10.200 --> 00:31:10.600
 that's why

00:31:10.600 --> 00:31:11.600
 I brought that this morning.

00:31:12.100 --> 00:31:12.860
 I think I better

00:31:12.860 --> 00:31:13.519
 put it right back

00:31:13.519 --> 00:31:13.960
 over here.

00:31:17.240 --> 00:31:17.680
 Okay.

00:31:19.820 --> 00:31:20.500
 But anyway,

00:31:21.160 --> 00:31:22.240
 let me share with you

00:31:22.240 --> 00:31:23.460
 a couple of practical ways

00:31:23.460 --> 00:31:24.380
 to apply this.

00:31:24.519 --> 00:31:25.279
 First of all,

00:31:25.720 --> 00:31:26.140
 guys,

00:31:27.180 --> 00:31:28.080
 I encourage you

00:31:28.080 --> 00:31:29.080
 to thank God

00:31:29.080 --> 00:31:29.980
 every day

00:31:29.980 --> 00:31:32.299
 for your wife's

00:31:32.299 --> 00:31:33.240
 unique qualities

00:31:33.240 --> 00:31:33.900
 and abilities.

00:31:34.599 --> 00:31:35.140
 And I want you to,

00:31:35.440 --> 00:31:36.599
 and a great thing

00:31:36.599 --> 00:31:37.940
 to do is to treat her

00:31:37.940 --> 00:31:38.980
 like you did

00:31:38.980 --> 00:31:41.019
 when you first met her

00:31:41.019 --> 00:31:41.680
 and you started

00:31:41.680 --> 00:31:42.519
 dating her

00:31:42.519 --> 00:31:44.000
 and you were trying

00:31:44.000 --> 00:31:45.420
 to win her over.

00:31:45.839 --> 00:31:46.559
 You were in that

00:31:46.559 --> 00:31:47.940
 conquering phase.

00:31:48.319 --> 00:31:48.579
 Okay?

00:31:48.920 --> 00:31:49.440
 There's a guy

00:31:49.440 --> 00:31:50.259
 sitting on the back

00:31:50.259 --> 00:31:52.000
 row back there

00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:52.920
 in a black shirt

00:31:52.920 --> 00:31:54.539
 by the name

00:31:54.539 --> 00:31:55.339
 of John Overton.

00:31:55.819 --> 00:31:57.159
 John has recently

00:31:57.159 --> 00:31:59.439
 just completed

00:31:59.439 --> 00:32:00.879
 that conquering phase.

00:32:01.319 --> 00:32:01.579
 Okay?

00:32:01.899 --> 00:32:02.720
 So we can have

00:32:02.720 --> 00:32:03.779
 John come up

00:32:03.779 --> 00:32:04.919
 and give us

00:32:04.919 --> 00:32:07.839
 a great dissertation

00:32:07.839 --> 00:32:09.879
 on that conquering phase.

00:32:10.179 --> 00:32:10.939
 He's just gone

00:32:10.939 --> 00:32:11.519
 through that.

00:32:11.779 --> 00:32:12.519
 He has won

00:32:12.519 --> 00:32:13.480
 that girl back there,

00:32:13.519 --> 00:32:14.319
 that wonderful girl

00:32:14.319 --> 00:32:14.779
 Mallory,

00:32:15.159 --> 00:32:15.679
 and they're soon

00:32:15.679 --> 00:32:16.279
 to be married.

00:32:16.819 --> 00:32:18.480
 But that's one thing,

00:32:18.599 --> 00:32:18.779
 guys,

00:32:18.819 --> 00:32:19.559
 I want to encourage you

00:32:19.559 --> 00:32:19.819
 to do.

00:32:19.919 --> 00:32:20.980
 Treat her like you did

00:32:20.980 --> 00:32:21.799
 when you were trying

00:32:21.799 --> 00:32:22.579
 to win her over.

00:32:23.019 --> 00:32:23.939
 And the second thing

00:32:23.940 --> 00:32:24.680
 is whether you've

00:32:24.680 --> 00:32:25.940
 been married six weeks,

00:32:26.220 --> 00:32:27.000
 six months,

00:32:27.140 --> 00:32:27.759
 six years,

00:32:27.840 --> 00:32:28.900
 or 16 years,

00:32:29.460 --> 00:32:30.059
 is guys,

00:32:30.460 --> 00:32:31.220
 pick out a pen

00:32:31.220 --> 00:32:32.100
 and paper

00:32:32.100 --> 00:32:33.840
 and write down

00:32:33.840 --> 00:32:34.960
 and make a list

00:32:34.960 --> 00:32:36.740
 of all the things

00:32:36.740 --> 00:32:37.440
 that you loved

00:32:37.440 --> 00:32:38.420
 about your wife

00:32:38.420 --> 00:32:40.240
 when you were dating her

00:32:40.240 --> 00:32:41.440
 that made you

00:32:41.440 --> 00:32:42.500
 want to marry her.

00:32:42.880 --> 00:32:43.100
 Okay?

00:32:43.299 --> 00:32:44.180
 I think that's one

00:32:44.180 --> 00:32:45.059
 of the most important

00:32:45.059 --> 00:32:46.100
 and significant things

00:32:46.100 --> 00:32:47.299
 to do for any

00:32:47.299 --> 00:32:48.380
 young guy

00:32:48.380 --> 00:32:49.440
 engaged,

00:32:49.640 --> 00:32:50.400
 recently married,

00:32:50.460 --> 00:32:50.860
 or whatever.

00:32:51.279 --> 00:32:52.279
 Write those things

00:32:52.279 --> 00:32:53.400
 down because,

00:32:53.400 --> 00:32:54.040
 trust me,

00:32:54.480 --> 00:32:55.380
 you will tend

00:32:55.380 --> 00:32:56.080
 to forget them

00:32:56.080 --> 00:32:56.700
 over time.

00:32:57.880 --> 00:32:58.140
 Okay?

00:32:58.560 --> 00:32:59.960
 The busyness of life,

00:33:00.080 --> 00:33:01.700
 the challenges of life

00:33:01.700 --> 00:33:02.680
 will cause you

00:33:02.680 --> 00:33:03.980
 to easily forget

00:33:03.980 --> 00:33:04.660
 those things

00:33:04.660 --> 00:33:05.920
 and you can begin

00:33:05.920 --> 00:33:06.700
 to look at her

00:33:06.700 --> 00:33:07.620
 as an adversary

00:33:07.620 --> 00:33:08.960
 if you're not careful.

00:33:09.560 --> 00:33:09.759
 Okay?

00:33:10.400 --> 00:33:10.700
 Now,

00:33:11.720 --> 00:33:12.160
 guys,

00:33:12.220 --> 00:33:13.620
 if there's only one thing

00:33:13.620 --> 00:33:14.580
 you remember today,

00:33:14.940 --> 00:33:15.880
 I want you to remember

00:33:15.880 --> 00:33:17.240
 this next slide,

00:33:17.780 --> 00:33:18.660
 this next quote.

00:33:18.660 --> 00:33:20.820
 And it is,

00:33:20.980 --> 00:33:21.800
 when you're tempted

00:33:21.800 --> 00:33:22.580
 to criticize

00:33:22.580 --> 00:33:23.860
 your wife's faults,

00:33:24.320 --> 00:33:24.860
 remember,

00:33:25.420 --> 00:33:26.320
 that it was those

00:33:26.320 --> 00:33:27.259
 very faults

00:33:27.259 --> 00:33:28.279
 that kept her

00:33:28.279 --> 00:33:28.800
 from getting

00:33:28.800 --> 00:33:29.680
 a better husband.

00:33:31.279 --> 00:33:31.840
 Okay?

00:33:33.440 --> 00:33:34.040
 Wives,

00:33:34.100 --> 00:33:34.900
 there's another amen

00:33:34.900 --> 00:33:35.640
 right there.

00:33:36.320 --> 00:33:36.620
 Okay?

00:33:37.019 --> 00:33:37.700
 Let's read that

00:33:37.700 --> 00:33:38.360
 one more time.

00:33:38.440 --> 00:33:39.160
 When you're tempted

00:33:39.160 --> 00:33:39.880
 to criticize

00:33:39.880 --> 00:33:41.140
 your wife's faults,

00:33:41.660 --> 00:33:42.259
 remember,

00:33:42.440 --> 00:33:43.180
 it was those

00:33:43.180 --> 00:33:44.220
 very faults

00:33:44.220 --> 00:33:45.640
 that kept her

00:33:45.640 --> 00:33:46.220
 from getting

00:33:46.220 --> 00:33:47.120
 a better husband.

00:33:48.400 --> 00:33:48.720
 Okay.

00:33:49.620 --> 00:33:49.960
 Now,

00:33:50.279 --> 00:33:51.039
 on to the other

00:33:51.039 --> 00:33:52.180
 bedrooms in your home.

00:33:54.279 --> 00:33:56.140
 The fourth core value,

00:33:56.259 --> 00:33:57.100
 the fourth thing

00:33:57.100 --> 00:33:58.460
 that makes a great father

00:33:58.460 --> 00:34:00.460
 is that he covenants

00:34:00.460 --> 00:34:01.779
 along with his wife

00:34:01.779 --> 00:34:03.759
 to be faithful stewards

00:34:03.759 --> 00:34:04.740
 that love their children

00:34:04.740 --> 00:34:05.440
 by training

00:34:05.440 --> 00:34:06.339
 and equipping them

00:34:06.339 --> 00:34:07.140
 with Christ-like

00:34:07.140 --> 00:34:08.220
 character and purpose

00:34:08.220 --> 00:34:10.240
 in the limited time

00:34:10.240 --> 00:34:11.000
 that they are

00:34:11.000 --> 00:34:12.099
 entrusted with Him.

00:34:13.420 --> 00:34:13.740
 You know,

00:34:13.739 --> 00:34:14.759
 the way the world

00:34:14.759 --> 00:34:15.579
 views children

00:34:15.579 --> 00:34:16.619
 and the way God

00:34:16.619 --> 00:34:17.199
 views them

00:34:17.199 --> 00:34:19.299
 is totally different.

00:34:19.959 --> 00:34:20.159
 Okay?

00:34:20.659 --> 00:34:21.679
 The world says

00:34:21.679 --> 00:34:23.079
 we have to endure them.

00:34:23.739 --> 00:34:24.879
 God wants us

00:34:24.879 --> 00:34:25.859
 to enjoy them.

00:34:26.239 --> 00:34:27.099
 The world says

00:34:27.099 --> 00:34:28.319
 they're largely a burden.

00:34:28.879 --> 00:34:29.779
 God wants them

00:34:29.779 --> 00:34:30.679
 to be a blessing.

00:34:31.279 --> 00:34:31.519
 Amen?

00:34:32.519 --> 00:34:32.879
 Okay?

00:34:33.299 --> 00:34:34.539
 But it's totally different

00:34:34.539 --> 00:34:35.419
 the way the world

00:34:35.419 --> 00:34:35.939
 views them

00:34:35.939 --> 00:34:37.279
 and the way God does.

00:34:37.659 --> 00:34:38.399
 But if you buy

00:34:38.399 --> 00:34:40.099
 into a core value

00:34:40.099 --> 00:34:40.699
 number one

00:34:40.699 --> 00:34:41.259
 and number two

00:34:41.259 --> 00:34:41.839
 that we've already

00:34:41.839 --> 00:34:42.379
 looked at,

00:34:42.380 --> 00:34:43.920
 then seeing children

00:34:43.920 --> 00:34:45.059
 as God sees them

00:34:45.059 --> 00:34:46.220
 will not be an issue

00:34:46.220 --> 00:34:46.740
 for you.

00:34:47.220 --> 00:34:47.420
 Okay?

00:34:47.920 --> 00:34:49.780
 One of my favorite passages

00:34:49.780 --> 00:34:51.140
 in all the Bible

00:34:51.140 --> 00:34:52.000
 on children

00:34:52.000 --> 00:34:53.780
 is Psalm 127

00:34:53.780 --> 00:34:55.780
 verses 3-5.

00:34:56.340 --> 00:34:57.940
 There is an incredible

00:34:57.940 --> 00:34:58.840
 word picture

00:34:58.840 --> 00:35:00.300
 in this passage here.

00:35:00.640 --> 00:35:01.360
 Let's read it.

00:35:01.820 --> 00:35:02.420
 Behold,

00:35:02.900 --> 00:35:04.360
 children are a gift

00:35:04.360 --> 00:35:05.119
 of the Lord.

00:35:05.260 --> 00:35:06.300
 The fruit of the womb

00:35:06.300 --> 00:35:07.760
 is a reward.

00:35:08.260 --> 00:35:08.940
 It doesn't sound like

00:35:08.940 --> 00:35:09.380
 a burden

00:35:09.380 --> 00:35:11.059
 or an endurance

00:35:11.059 --> 00:35:12.139
 test right there

00:35:12.139 --> 00:35:12.500
 to me,

00:35:12.720 --> 00:35:13.820
 the words,

00:35:13.920 --> 00:35:14.300
 does it you?

00:35:15.079 --> 00:35:15.740
 Get this.

00:35:15.800 --> 00:35:16.820
 Here's the word picture.

00:35:17.079 --> 00:35:17.980
 Like arrows

00:35:17.980 --> 00:35:19.119
 in the hand

00:35:19.119 --> 00:35:19.960
 of a warrior,

00:35:20.440 --> 00:35:21.980
 so are the children

00:35:21.980 --> 00:35:22.960
 of one Jew.

00:35:23.320 --> 00:35:24.039
 Think about that.

00:35:24.340 --> 00:35:25.360
 Think about that warrior

00:35:25.360 --> 00:35:26.559
 pulling back

00:35:26.559 --> 00:35:27.679
 that bow.

00:35:28.679 --> 00:35:29.420
 Pulling it back

00:35:29.420 --> 00:35:30.260
 all he can.

00:35:30.679 --> 00:35:31.500
 How blessed

00:35:31.500 --> 00:35:32.240
 is the man

00:35:32.240 --> 00:35:32.860
 whose quiver

00:35:32.860 --> 00:35:33.800
 is full of them.

00:35:34.179 --> 00:35:34.960
 They shall not

00:35:34.960 --> 00:35:35.559
 be ashamed

00:35:35.559 --> 00:35:36.320
 when they speak

00:35:36.320 --> 00:35:37.159
 with their enemies

00:35:37.159 --> 00:35:38.319
 in the gate.

00:35:39.399 --> 00:35:39.839
 Guys,

00:35:40.039 --> 00:35:41.119
 as heads

00:35:41.119 --> 00:35:41.920
 of our homes,

00:35:42.059 --> 00:35:43.359
 we have an incredible

00:35:43.359 --> 00:35:44.239
 privilege

00:35:44.239 --> 00:35:45.779
 and responsibility

00:35:45.779 --> 00:35:47.619
 to make a mark

00:35:47.619 --> 00:35:48.379
 on our children.

00:35:49.099 --> 00:35:50.399
 And it's not a question

00:35:50.399 --> 00:35:51.179
 of whether we'll

00:35:51.179 --> 00:35:51.879
 make a mark.

00:35:52.219 --> 00:35:53.079
 It's just a question

00:35:53.079 --> 00:35:54.259
 of what kind of mark

00:35:54.259 --> 00:35:54.799
 we'll make

00:35:54.799 --> 00:35:55.839
 and how deep

00:35:55.839 --> 00:35:56.319
 that mark,

00:35:56.440 --> 00:35:57.079
 how impactful

00:35:57.079 --> 00:35:58.379
 that mark will be.

00:35:59.519 --> 00:36:00.019
 You know,

00:36:00.099 --> 00:36:00.920
 the world can be

00:36:00.920 --> 00:36:02.279
 going loony around us

00:36:02.279 --> 00:36:03.279
 and I think we'd all

00:36:03.279 --> 00:36:04.279
 agree that it is,

00:36:04.799 --> 00:36:05.759
 but our homes

00:36:05.759 --> 00:36:06.379
 and everything

00:36:06.380 --> 00:36:07.480
 that comes in contact

00:36:07.480 --> 00:36:08.320
 with our homes

00:36:08.320 --> 00:36:09.420
 can be a place

00:36:09.420 --> 00:36:10.119
 of peace

00:36:10.119 --> 00:36:11.500
 and can be a place

00:36:11.500 --> 00:36:12.619
 of great vision

00:36:12.619 --> 00:36:13.700
 of being imparted.

00:36:14.400 --> 00:36:15.140
 Just a matter

00:36:15.140 --> 00:36:15.820
 of what we choose

00:36:15.820 --> 00:36:16.200
 to do.

00:36:16.619 --> 00:36:17.019
 You know what?

00:36:17.059 --> 00:36:18.420
 There are few areas

00:36:18.420 --> 00:36:19.840
 where I believe

00:36:19.840 --> 00:36:20.420
 the church

00:36:20.420 --> 00:36:21.340
 has missed the mark

00:36:21.340 --> 00:36:22.740
 more than in the area

00:36:22.740 --> 00:36:24.019
 of equipping parents

00:36:24.019 --> 00:36:26.079
 for their vital ministry

00:36:26.079 --> 00:36:26.760
 of multiplication

00:36:26.760 --> 00:36:27.519
 in the home.

00:36:28.340 --> 00:36:30.800
 And here's a quote

00:36:30.800 --> 00:36:31.700
 I want to share with you.

00:36:31.820 --> 00:36:32.660
 I believe that

00:36:32.660 --> 00:36:33.720
 the number one

00:36:33.720 --> 00:36:34.980
 equipping ministry

00:36:34.980 --> 00:36:35.659
 of the church

00:36:35.659 --> 00:36:36.280
 should be that

00:36:36.280 --> 00:36:37.699
 of equipping parents

00:36:37.699 --> 00:36:39.340
 to train their children

00:36:39.340 --> 00:36:40.639
 in Christ-like character

00:36:40.639 --> 00:36:41.199
 and purpose

00:36:41.199 --> 00:36:42.480
 and to extend

00:36:42.480 --> 00:36:43.240
 His kingdom

00:36:43.240 --> 00:36:44.960
 to the next generations.

00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:46.219
 You know,

00:36:46.440 --> 00:36:47.519
 why is it that

00:36:47.519 --> 00:36:48.860
 much of the modern church

00:36:48.860 --> 00:36:49.659
 and particularly

00:36:49.659 --> 00:36:50.500
 youth ministry

00:36:50.500 --> 00:36:50.980
 today

00:36:50.980 --> 00:36:52.219
 sees their role

00:36:52.219 --> 00:36:54.400
 as being entertainers?

00:36:55.119 --> 00:36:55.300
 Okay?

00:36:55.719 --> 00:36:56.280
 Wouldn't you agree

00:36:56.280 --> 00:36:56.480
 that?

00:36:56.639 --> 00:36:57.340
 That's primarily

00:36:57.340 --> 00:36:58.500
 what a lot of churches

00:36:58.500 --> 00:36:59.880
 and youth ministry

00:36:59.880 --> 00:37:00.860
 see their role

00:37:00.860 --> 00:37:01.420
 as today

00:37:01.420 --> 00:37:03.079
 is being entertainers.

00:37:05.480 --> 00:37:06.900
 Why in the world

00:37:06.900 --> 00:37:08.659
 would you feel like

00:37:08.659 --> 00:37:10.079
 your job needed

00:37:10.079 --> 00:37:10.900
 to be relegated

00:37:10.900 --> 00:37:11.880
 to entertaining

00:37:11.880 --> 00:37:13.320
 when you understand,

00:37:13.420 --> 00:37:14.139
 if we can go back,

00:37:14.440 --> 00:37:15.219
 when you understand

00:37:15.219 --> 00:37:17.099
 that you've got

00:37:17.099 --> 00:37:18.139
 the great vision

00:37:18.139 --> 00:37:19.000
 of imparting

00:37:19.000 --> 00:37:19.840
 to your children

00:37:19.840 --> 00:37:21.519
 just like the arrows

00:37:21.519 --> 00:37:22.119
 in the hand

00:37:22.119 --> 00:37:23.820
 of a warrior

00:37:23.820 --> 00:37:25.320
 that you're shooting out,

00:37:25.420 --> 00:37:26.039
 you're aiming

00:37:26.039 --> 00:37:26.980
 to shoot out

00:37:26.980 --> 00:37:29.500
 straight and sharp arrows

00:37:29.500 --> 00:37:31.679
 into the next generation.

00:37:32.219 --> 00:37:32.739
 And you have

00:37:32.739 --> 00:37:34.579
 that priceless opportunity

00:37:34.579 --> 00:37:35.599
 and privilege

00:37:35.599 --> 00:37:36.579
 in the children

00:37:36.579 --> 00:37:37.880
 that God entrusts to you.

00:37:38.360 --> 00:37:39.739
 And it's a very limited time

00:37:39.739 --> 00:37:40.519
 as we've said.

00:37:41.019 --> 00:37:41.500
 But you know what?

00:37:41.539 --> 00:37:42.980
 I think the greatest tragedy

00:37:42.980 --> 00:37:44.380
 for a man and a father

00:37:44.380 --> 00:37:46.139
 is not that he fails

00:37:46.139 --> 00:37:48.079
 to achieve a six-figure

00:37:48.079 --> 00:37:49.759
 or even a seven-figure income

00:37:49.759 --> 00:37:50.360
 in his work.

00:37:51.159 --> 00:37:51.739
 No way.

00:37:52.139 --> 00:37:53.920
 I believe the greatest tragedy

00:37:53.920 --> 00:37:54.679
 for a man

00:37:54.679 --> 00:37:56.500
 is to fail

00:37:56.500 --> 00:37:58.319
 to see himself

00:37:58.319 --> 00:37:59.519
 and his role

00:37:59.519 --> 00:38:00.199
 in a family.

00:38:00.460 --> 00:38:02.599
 To only have a vision

00:38:02.599 --> 00:38:05.000
 that he is a provider

00:38:05.000 --> 00:38:06.179
 that puts food

00:38:06.179 --> 00:38:06.819
 on the table,

00:38:07.179 --> 00:38:08.039
 that puts a roof

00:38:08.039 --> 00:38:09.279
 over his family's head,

00:38:09.619 --> 00:38:10.659
 and maybe provides

00:38:10.659 --> 00:38:11.719
 a college education.

00:38:11.899 --> 00:38:12.639
 But that's about it.

00:38:12.779 --> 00:38:13.980
 And then once that job

00:38:13.980 --> 00:38:14.500
 is done,

00:38:14.919 --> 00:38:15.799
 then he can get back

00:38:15.799 --> 00:38:16.599
 to more pertinent

00:38:16.599 --> 00:38:17.639
 and important things

00:38:17.639 --> 00:38:18.719
 like his golf

00:38:18.719 --> 00:38:19.619
 or tennis game

00:38:19.619 --> 00:38:20.619
 or trading stocks

00:38:20.619 --> 00:38:21.719
 or traveling the world.

00:38:22.219 --> 00:38:22.460
 Folks,

00:38:22.460 --> 00:38:23.179
 that is to me

00:38:23.179 --> 00:38:24.179
 the greatest tragedy

00:38:24.179 --> 00:38:25.380
 for a man and a father.

00:38:25.840 --> 00:38:26.639
 Because I want to share

00:38:26.639 --> 00:38:26.960
 with you,

00:38:27.019 --> 00:38:27.880
 I don't know if you

00:38:27.880 --> 00:38:29.240
 and your lifetime dads

00:38:29.240 --> 00:38:30.639
 have arrived

00:38:30.639 --> 00:38:32.280
 at your life quote,

00:38:33.039 --> 00:38:33.740
 but I want to share

00:38:33.740 --> 00:38:34.400
 with you mine.

00:38:35.220 --> 00:38:36.460
 And you can imagine

00:38:36.460 --> 00:38:38.240
 it's out of Robert Andrews'

00:38:38.240 --> 00:38:38.420
 book,

00:38:38.519 --> 00:38:38.940
 The Family.

00:38:39.280 --> 00:38:39.840
 And that is,

00:38:41.179 --> 00:38:42.800
 nothing is more satisfying,

00:38:42.960 --> 00:38:43.599
 more fulfilling

00:38:43.599 --> 00:38:44.280
 to a man

00:38:44.280 --> 00:38:45.059
 than to have those

00:38:45.059 --> 00:38:45.860
 in his family

00:38:45.860 --> 00:38:47.059
 over whom he has ruled

00:38:47.059 --> 00:38:49.039
 reflect in their thoughts,

00:38:49.199 --> 00:38:49.500
 words,

00:38:49.500 --> 00:38:49.980
 and deeds

00:38:49.980 --> 00:38:50.739
 what he has given

00:38:50.739 --> 00:38:51.639
 his very life

00:38:51.639 --> 00:38:52.860
 to build into them.

00:38:53.280 --> 00:38:54.139
 His influence

00:38:54.139 --> 00:38:54.780
 for the kingdom

00:38:54.780 --> 00:38:55.460
 is extended

00:38:55.460 --> 00:38:56.639
 into the next generation

00:38:56.639 --> 00:38:57.920
 and will indeed

00:38:57.920 --> 00:38:59.260
 live on through the ages

00:38:59.260 --> 00:39:00.480
 as his children

00:39:00.480 --> 00:39:02.320
 perpetuate the change.

00:39:03.380 --> 00:39:03.679
 Now,

00:39:04.320 --> 00:39:05.599
 can the four Ps,

00:39:05.780 --> 00:39:06.760
 the four Ps,

00:39:07.199 --> 00:39:07.820
 popularity,

00:39:08.099 --> 00:39:08.500
 pleasure,

00:39:08.900 --> 00:39:09.400
 possessions,

00:39:10.019 --> 00:39:10.920
 power and position,

00:39:11.380 --> 00:39:12.559
 we've already seen folks,

00:39:12.880 --> 00:39:13.500
 we've seen it

00:39:13.500 --> 00:39:14.579
 from Tom Brady's

00:39:14.579 --> 00:39:15.679
 own lips.

00:39:16.179 --> 00:39:17.280
 Those can't come near

00:39:17.280 --> 00:39:18.400
 to achieving

00:39:18.400 --> 00:39:20.360
 that kind of vision.

00:39:21.480 --> 00:39:22.160
 And the younger

00:39:22.160 --> 00:39:23.600
 you come to realize this,

00:39:23.820 --> 00:39:24.840
 young men,

00:39:24.960 --> 00:39:25.440
 the better,

00:39:25.760 --> 00:39:26.900
 because it will spare you,

00:39:26.900 --> 00:39:27.420
 it will prevent

00:39:27.420 --> 00:39:28.780
 a lot of wasted years.

00:39:29.540 --> 00:39:30.360
 Don't be out there

00:39:30.360 --> 00:39:31.060
 thinking that,

00:39:31.120 --> 00:39:31.440
 you know,

00:39:31.680 --> 00:39:35.180
 your greatest accomplishment

00:39:35.180 --> 00:39:36.540
 is out in the workforce.

00:39:36.920 --> 00:39:37.100
 No,

00:39:37.260 --> 00:39:37.940
 that's not it.

00:39:38.300 --> 00:39:39.519
 Your greatest achievement

00:39:39.519 --> 00:39:41.140
 is in your home,

00:39:41.740 --> 00:39:45.100
 right where your family

00:39:45.100 --> 00:39:45.980
 and your children are.

00:39:45.980 --> 00:39:47.099
 If you want to see

00:39:47.099 --> 00:39:48.300
 your children's children

00:39:48.300 --> 00:39:49.940
 walking in God's ways

00:39:49.940 --> 00:39:51.539
 and having a major impact

00:39:51.539 --> 00:39:52.380
 for the kingdom

00:39:52.380 --> 00:39:53.840
 generations to come,

00:39:54.400 --> 00:39:55.599
 then dads,

00:39:55.960 --> 00:39:57.280
 you and your wives

00:39:57.280 --> 00:39:58.039
 need to commit

00:39:58.039 --> 00:39:58.960
 as a team

00:39:58.960 --> 00:40:00.159
 to making that

00:40:00.159 --> 00:40:01.559
 a significant investment.

00:40:03.019 --> 00:40:04.300
 And as far as resources,

00:40:04.460 --> 00:40:06.000
 I have plenty on my website

00:40:06.000 --> 00:40:07.400
 that I would share with you,

00:40:07.480 --> 00:40:08.639
 dadsthekey.com.

00:40:09.099 --> 00:40:09.340
 Now,

00:40:09.440 --> 00:40:10.659
 if this is all true

00:40:10.659 --> 00:40:11.539
 about children,

00:40:12.159 --> 00:40:13.579
 then the last part

00:40:13.579 --> 00:40:14.300
 about what makes

00:40:14.300 --> 00:40:15.080
 a great father

00:40:15.080 --> 00:40:16.860
 has to do with that time

00:40:16.860 --> 00:40:17.980
 in a dad's life

00:40:17.980 --> 00:40:20.480
 when he's reaching

00:40:20.480 --> 00:40:21.620
 or soon to be at

00:40:21.620 --> 00:40:22.760
 the empty nest,

00:40:23.100 --> 00:40:23.300
 okay,

00:40:23.360 --> 00:40:24.760
 which we're not too far away from.

00:40:25.000 --> 00:40:26.360
 We've got about three more years

00:40:26.360 --> 00:40:27.360
 before Grant, man,

00:40:27.420 --> 00:40:28.519
 is out of the house

00:40:28.519 --> 00:40:29.900
 and we have achieved

00:40:29.900 --> 00:40:31.900
 that empty nest status.

00:40:32.360 --> 00:40:34.180
 The last point

00:40:34.180 --> 00:40:35.500
 of what it takes

00:40:35.500 --> 00:40:36.400
 to be a great father

00:40:36.400 --> 00:40:38.140
 is he enlarges

00:40:38.140 --> 00:40:39.720
 his vision and calling

00:40:39.719 --> 00:40:41.659
 by investing these values

00:40:41.659 --> 00:40:42.500
 in as many men

00:40:42.500 --> 00:40:43.139
 as possible,

00:40:43.559 --> 00:40:43.899
 young,

00:40:44.039 --> 00:40:44.239
 middle,

00:40:44.319 --> 00:40:45.099
 and older age

00:40:45.099 --> 00:40:46.659
 through foster parenting,

00:40:47.000 --> 00:40:47.439
 adoption,

00:40:48.019 --> 00:40:49.379
 and or discipling

00:40:49.379 --> 00:40:50.239
 relationships.

00:40:51.339 --> 00:40:51.659
 You know,

00:40:52.239 --> 00:40:52.919
 obviously,

00:40:53.459 --> 00:40:55.239
 the very first

00:40:55.239 --> 00:40:56.299
 spiritual battle

00:40:56.299 --> 00:40:57.319
 that we must win,

00:40:57.459 --> 00:40:57.759
 dads,

00:40:58.079 --> 00:40:59.279
 is in our own domains,

00:40:59.439 --> 00:41:00.279
 in our own homes.

00:41:01.099 --> 00:41:01.939
 But when we reach

00:41:01.939 --> 00:41:02.379
 that point

00:41:02.379 --> 00:41:03.059
 where the nest

00:41:03.059 --> 00:41:03.599
 is empty

00:41:03.599 --> 00:41:04.639
 or soon to be empty,

00:41:04.759 --> 00:41:05.460
 the temptation

00:41:05.460 --> 00:41:06.259
 for us

00:41:06.259 --> 00:41:07.839
 is to kick back

00:41:07.839 --> 00:41:08.679
 and kind of,

00:41:08.679 --> 00:41:09.359
 you know,

00:41:09.559 --> 00:41:10.639
 attain a mentality

00:41:10.639 --> 00:41:12.059
 of just enjoying life.

00:41:12.900 --> 00:41:13.099
 Okay?

00:41:14.799 --> 00:41:16.099
 But I want to ask you,

00:41:16.400 --> 00:41:17.359
 at any point

00:41:17.359 --> 00:41:18.819
 in our lives,

00:41:19.619 --> 00:41:20.619
 do you think God

00:41:20.619 --> 00:41:21.659
 wants us to focus

00:41:21.659 --> 00:41:22.679
 on ourselves

00:41:22.679 --> 00:41:23.759
 and our own

00:41:23.759 --> 00:41:24.659
 individual wants

00:41:24.659 --> 00:41:25.219
 and needs

00:41:25.219 --> 00:41:26.659
 or on others

00:41:26.659 --> 00:41:27.779
 and their needs?

00:41:29.000 --> 00:41:29.619
 I think you know

00:41:29.619 --> 00:41:30.679
 the answer to that question.

00:41:32.759 --> 00:41:34.019
 And the last passage

00:41:34.019 --> 00:41:34.699
 that I want to share

00:41:34.699 --> 00:41:35.099
 with you

00:41:35.099 --> 00:41:36.460
 is one of my favorites

00:41:36.460 --> 00:41:37.960
 from 2 Timothy 2.2

00:41:37.960 --> 00:41:39.199
 where Paul said

00:41:39.199 --> 00:41:41.199
 gave Timothy the charge,

00:41:41.619 --> 00:41:42.320
 and the things

00:41:42.320 --> 00:41:43.239
 which you have heard

00:41:43.239 --> 00:41:43.800
 from me

00:41:43.800 --> 00:41:44.900
 in the presence

00:41:44.900 --> 00:41:45.820
 of many witnesses,

00:41:46.460 --> 00:41:47.699
 these entrust

00:41:47.699 --> 00:41:49.119
 to faithful men

00:41:49.119 --> 00:41:50.079
 who will be able

00:41:50.079 --> 00:41:51.300
 to teach others also.

00:41:51.659 --> 00:41:51.920
 You know,

00:41:51.960 --> 00:41:53.039
 there's four generations,

00:41:53.539 --> 00:41:54.460
 there's four spiritual

00:41:54.460 --> 00:41:55.059
 generations

00:41:55.059 --> 00:41:57.179
 in that one verse

00:41:57.179 --> 00:41:57.719
 right there.

00:41:58.219 --> 00:41:59.659
 Four spiritual generations.

00:42:00.119 --> 00:42:00.340
 Now,

00:42:00.519 --> 00:42:01.340
 I want to just share

00:42:01.340 --> 00:42:02.380
 with you two ways

00:42:02.380 --> 00:42:03.219
 that God has been

00:42:03.219 --> 00:42:04.179
 working that out

00:42:04.179 --> 00:42:05.299
 in my life

00:42:05.299 --> 00:42:05.799
 and in mine

00:42:05.799 --> 00:42:06.500
 and Gail's life

00:42:06.500 --> 00:42:06.919
 recently.

00:42:07.239 --> 00:42:07.939
 First is,

00:42:08.319 --> 00:42:10.259
 is that as God

00:42:10.259 --> 00:42:10.959
 led me to start

00:42:10.959 --> 00:42:12.219
 creating the website,

00:42:13.099 --> 00:42:13.879
 a lot of it

00:42:13.879 --> 00:42:15.099
 was based on

00:42:15.099 --> 00:42:15.939
 the book that I've

00:42:15.939 --> 00:42:16.480
 shared with you,

00:42:16.539 --> 00:42:17.019
 The Family,

00:42:17.579 --> 00:42:18.980
 and I have

00:42:18.980 --> 00:42:20.519
 recently started

00:42:20.519 --> 00:42:21.599
 a second group

00:42:21.599 --> 00:42:22.519
 with young men,

00:42:23.059 --> 00:42:23.819
 many of whom

00:42:23.819 --> 00:42:24.659
 are in this church,

00:42:25.199 --> 00:42:25.879
 to go through

00:42:25.879 --> 00:42:26.459
 this book

00:42:26.459 --> 00:42:27.119
 right here

00:42:27.119 --> 00:42:28.239
 to walk them

00:42:28.239 --> 00:42:29.239
 through the principles

00:42:29.239 --> 00:42:30.599
 of biblical

00:42:30.599 --> 00:42:31.479
 family life.

00:42:31.959 --> 00:42:32.679
 And it has been

00:42:32.679 --> 00:42:33.279
 a blast.

00:42:33.759 --> 00:42:34.399
 I'm excited.

00:42:34.500 --> 00:42:35.159
 We're just kind of

00:42:35.159 --> 00:42:35.679
 getting started

00:42:35.679 --> 00:42:36.299
 with the second

00:42:36.299 --> 00:42:36.979
 group of guys,

00:42:37.039 --> 00:42:38.719
 about five or six guys,

00:42:39.199 --> 00:42:40.459
 and I'm loving it.

00:42:40.839 --> 00:42:41.579
 The other thing

00:42:41.579 --> 00:42:42.839
 where God is working

00:42:42.839 --> 00:42:43.399
 this out

00:42:43.399 --> 00:42:44.199
 is in mine

00:42:44.199 --> 00:42:44.979
 and Gail's life

00:42:44.979 --> 00:42:45.619
 is where we've

00:42:45.619 --> 00:42:46.579
 opened ourselves up

00:42:46.579 --> 00:42:47.319
 to becoming

00:42:47.319 --> 00:42:48.219
 foster parents.

00:42:48.599 --> 00:42:49.159
 After about

00:42:49.159 --> 00:42:50.259
 10,000 pages

00:42:50.259 --> 00:42:51.159
 of applications

00:42:51.159 --> 00:42:53.319
 and thousands

00:42:53.319 --> 00:42:55.659
 of questions,

00:42:56.119 --> 00:42:56.899
 we're just about

00:42:56.900 --> 00:42:57.460
 ready to be

00:42:57.460 --> 00:42:58.360
 foster parents.

00:42:59.340 --> 00:43:01.500
 That was a

00:43:01.500 --> 00:43:02.420
 little sarcastic

00:43:02.420 --> 00:43:03.139
 note right there.

00:43:03.380 --> 00:43:04.039
 There's a lot

00:43:04.039 --> 00:43:05.160
 of work that you

00:43:05.160 --> 00:43:05.500
 go through

00:43:05.500 --> 00:43:07.000
 to be foster parents

00:43:07.000 --> 00:43:07.980
 and if you are one,

00:43:08.280 --> 00:43:08.700
 you know what

00:43:08.700 --> 00:43:09.440
 I'm talking about.

00:43:09.720 --> 00:43:10.619
 You know even more.

00:43:11.000 --> 00:43:11.539
 Do you know what?

00:43:11.920 --> 00:43:12.300
 Truly,

00:43:12.500 --> 00:43:14.099
 the sky is the limit

00:43:14.099 --> 00:43:15.960
 if and when

00:43:15.960 --> 00:43:16.820
 we just open

00:43:16.820 --> 00:43:18.099
 ourselves up to God

00:43:18.099 --> 00:43:19.360
 and let Him

00:43:19.360 --> 00:43:19.980
 lead us

00:43:19.980 --> 00:43:21.079
 to other people

00:43:21.079 --> 00:43:21.820
 around us

00:43:21.820 --> 00:43:22.639
 that need

00:43:22.639 --> 00:43:24.000
 spiritual guidance,

00:43:24.260 --> 00:43:24.660
 direction,

00:43:24.840 --> 00:43:25.320
 and courage.

00:43:25.760 --> 00:43:26.840
 The sky is the limit.

00:43:27.619 --> 00:43:28.079
 And I want to

00:43:28.079 --> 00:43:28.840
 conclude with

00:43:28.840 --> 00:43:29.480
 one of my

00:43:29.480 --> 00:43:30.440
 favorite stories

00:43:30.440 --> 00:43:32.740
 and it's from

00:43:32.740 --> 00:43:33.380
 a guy named

00:43:33.380 --> 00:43:34.139
 Russ Crossan

00:43:34.139 --> 00:43:35.139
 who's a family

00:43:35.139 --> 00:43:35.940
 friend of ours

00:43:35.940 --> 00:43:37.059
 who's written a book.

00:43:37.139 --> 00:43:37.660
 I know at least

00:43:37.660 --> 00:43:38.519
 a couple of guys

00:43:38.519 --> 00:43:39.260
 personally

00:43:39.260 --> 00:43:40.320
 who are authors.

00:43:40.860 --> 00:43:41.780
 Russ is another one

00:43:41.780 --> 00:43:42.940
 and he wrote a

00:43:42.940 --> 00:43:43.700
 great book

00:43:43.700 --> 00:43:44.480
 several years ago

00:43:44.480 --> 00:43:45.400
 called A Life

00:43:45.400 --> 00:43:46.200
 Well Spent.

00:43:46.840 --> 00:43:48.059
 And in his book

00:43:48.059 --> 00:43:48.780
 on the chapter

00:43:48.780 --> 00:43:49.720
 entitled

00:43:49.720 --> 00:43:50.700
 Posterity,

00:43:51.280 --> 00:43:52.079
 Russ talks about

00:43:52.079 --> 00:43:52.920
 flying out

00:43:52.920 --> 00:43:54.360
 to another state

00:43:54.360 --> 00:43:55.920
 one weekend

00:43:55.920 --> 00:43:56.800
 where he was

00:43:56.800 --> 00:43:57.400
 going to spend

00:43:57.400 --> 00:43:58.280
 with two men

00:43:58.280 --> 00:43:59.260
 and their names

00:43:59.260 --> 00:43:59.900
 were Paul

00:43:59.900 --> 00:44:00.559
 and Jim

00:44:00.559 --> 00:44:01.280
 Montague.

00:44:02.079 --> 00:44:03.039
 Paul was the

00:44:03.039 --> 00:44:04.300
 dad in his

00:44:04.300 --> 00:44:05.139
 early 70s

00:44:05.139 --> 00:44:05.800
 and they'd

00:44:05.800 --> 00:44:06.559
 started a small

00:44:06.559 --> 00:44:07.680
 manufacturing business

00:44:07.680 --> 00:44:08.659
 several years ago

00:44:08.659 --> 00:44:09.840
 and the son,

00:44:10.099 --> 00:44:10.320
 Jim,

00:44:10.380 --> 00:44:11.099
 was working with him

00:44:11.099 --> 00:44:11.599
 in it now

00:44:11.599 --> 00:44:13.360
 and Russ was

00:44:13.360 --> 00:44:13.940
 going out to

00:44:13.940 --> 00:44:14.440
 Russ had been

00:44:14.440 --> 00:44:15.119
 working with them

00:44:15.119 --> 00:44:15.920
 on implementing

00:44:15.920 --> 00:44:17.960
 biblical financial

00:44:17.960 --> 00:44:19.059
 principles in

00:44:19.059 --> 00:44:19.680
 their business

00:44:19.679 --> 00:44:20.759
 and since they

00:44:20.759 --> 00:44:21.359
 were gathering

00:44:21.359 --> 00:44:22.019
 their family

00:44:22.019 --> 00:44:22.819
 together for a

00:44:22.819 --> 00:44:23.159
 reunion,

00:44:23.359 --> 00:44:24.259
 they thought it

00:44:24.259 --> 00:44:24.480
 would be a

00:44:24.480 --> 00:44:25.000
 great idea

00:44:25.000 --> 00:44:25.659
 for Russ to

00:44:25.659 --> 00:44:26.000
 come out

00:44:26.000 --> 00:44:26.679
 that particular

00:44:26.679 --> 00:44:27.119
 weekend.

00:44:27.519 --> 00:44:28.319
 So he flew out,

00:44:28.419 --> 00:44:28.980
 they picked him

00:44:28.980 --> 00:44:29.219
 up,

00:44:29.519 --> 00:44:30.219
 he got there

00:44:30.219 --> 00:44:31.319
 and he says

00:44:31.319 --> 00:44:31.759
 in his book

00:44:31.759 --> 00:44:32.699
 when he got

00:44:32.699 --> 00:44:33.179
 there and he

00:44:33.179 --> 00:44:34.159
 saw all the

00:44:34.159 --> 00:44:35.839
 four or five

00:44:35.839 --> 00:44:36.919
 generations there

00:44:36.919 --> 00:44:37.960
 all together,

00:44:38.440 --> 00:44:39.099
 he says he had

00:44:39.099 --> 00:44:39.879
 little idea

00:44:39.879 --> 00:44:40.399
 of what he was

00:44:40.399 --> 00:44:41.219
 in store for.

00:44:41.839 --> 00:44:42.819
 And he said

00:44:42.819 --> 00:44:43.359
 when he reached

00:44:43.359 --> 00:44:43.859
 the entire,

00:44:43.960 --> 00:44:44.619
 and I'm just

00:44:44.619 --> 00:44:45.059
 going to read

00:44:45.059 --> 00:44:46.059
 this as we

00:44:46.059 --> 00:44:46.899
 finish up here,

00:44:46.900 --> 00:44:47.639
 when they

00:44:47.639 --> 00:44:48.320
 realized the

00:44:48.320 --> 00:44:49.240
 entire Montague

00:44:49.240 --> 00:44:49.880
 family was

00:44:49.880 --> 00:44:50.300
 going to be

00:44:50.300 --> 00:44:50.619
 together,

00:44:50.760 --> 00:44:51.480
 they decided

00:44:51.480 --> 00:44:52.180
 to be beneficial

00:44:52.180 --> 00:44:52.760
 to bring him

00:44:52.760 --> 00:44:52.980
 in.

00:44:53.639 --> 00:44:54.680
 At least 100

00:44:54.680 --> 00:44:55.820
 people representing

00:44:55.820 --> 00:44:56.940
 four generations

00:44:56.940 --> 00:44:57.539
 were at this

00:44:57.539 --> 00:44:58.340
 family reunion.

00:44:58.880 --> 00:44:59.599
 As I mingled

00:44:59.599 --> 00:45:00.039
 through the

00:45:00.039 --> 00:45:00.700
 happy throng

00:45:00.700 --> 00:45:01.340
 meeting many

00:45:01.340 --> 00:45:01.960
 of the family

00:45:01.960 --> 00:45:02.320
 members,

00:45:02.660 --> 00:45:03.400
 I noticed a

00:45:03.400 --> 00:45:04.380
 unity and harmony

00:45:04.380 --> 00:45:05.180
 that is rare

00:45:05.180 --> 00:45:06.599
 in many families

00:45:06.599 --> 00:45:06.940
 today.

00:45:07.400 --> 00:45:08.200
 I was especially

00:45:08.200 --> 00:45:08.900
 impressed with

00:45:08.900 --> 00:45:09.599
 the relationships

00:45:09.599 --> 00:45:10.380
 between the

00:45:10.380 --> 00:45:10.920
 generations.

00:45:11.599 --> 00:45:12.079
 The children

00:45:12.079 --> 00:45:12.660
 and adults

00:45:12.660 --> 00:45:13.599
 interacted in a

00:45:13.599 --> 00:45:14.240
 very mature

00:45:14.240 --> 00:45:14.880
 and respectful

00:45:14.880 --> 00:45:15.340
 manner,

00:45:15.840 --> 00:45:16.400
 seeming to

00:45:16.400 --> 00:45:17.480
 genuinely enjoy

00:45:17.480 --> 00:45:17.960
 each other.

00:45:18.440 --> 00:45:19.220
 The jet skis

00:45:19.220 --> 00:45:19.760
 on the small

00:45:19.760 --> 00:45:20.340
 lake next to

00:45:20.340 --> 00:45:20.680
 the house

00:45:20.680 --> 00:45:21.000
 were in

00:45:21.000 --> 00:45:21.720
 constant use

00:45:21.720 --> 00:45:22.059
 with the

00:45:22.059 --> 00:45:22.740
 older kids

00:45:22.740 --> 00:45:23.280
 and adults

00:45:23.280 --> 00:45:24.160
 helping the

00:45:24.160 --> 00:45:24.840
 younger kids.

00:45:25.260 --> 00:45:25.680
 The food

00:45:25.680 --> 00:45:26.260
 spread on

00:45:26.260 --> 00:45:26.880
 tables under

00:45:26.880 --> 00:45:27.320
 the shade

00:45:27.320 --> 00:45:28.079
 trees provided

00:45:28.079 --> 00:45:28.579
 a setting

00:45:28.579 --> 00:45:29.180
 for wide

00:45:29.180 --> 00:45:29.559
 ranging

00:45:29.559 --> 00:45:30.599
 conversation

00:45:30.599 --> 00:45:31.460
 as the

00:45:31.460 --> 00:45:32.139
 family members

00:45:32.139 --> 00:45:32.740
 ate together.

00:45:33.320 --> 00:45:34.300
 But what I

00:45:34.300 --> 00:45:35.220
 wondered was

00:45:35.220 --> 00:45:35.980
 behind the

00:45:35.980 --> 00:45:36.840
 interactions I

00:45:36.840 --> 00:45:37.539
 was observing,

00:45:38.119 --> 00:45:39.019
 why and how

00:45:39.019 --> 00:45:39.420
 did this

00:45:39.420 --> 00:45:40.079
 family get

00:45:40.079 --> 00:45:41.139
 along so well?

00:45:41.619 --> 00:45:42.400
 I decided to

00:45:42.400 --> 00:45:42.900
 ask Paul,

00:45:42.980 --> 00:45:43.820
 the patriarch of

00:45:43.820 --> 00:45:44.180
 the group.

00:45:44.820 --> 00:45:45.400
 After all,

00:45:45.460 --> 00:45:45.840
 I was just

00:45:45.840 --> 00:45:46.380
 beginning to

00:45:46.380 --> 00:45:47.059
 my own

00:45:47.059 --> 00:45:47.880
 family and

00:45:47.880 --> 00:45:48.320
 I welcomed

00:45:48.320 --> 00:45:49.019
 his advice.

00:45:49.760 --> 00:45:50.460
 Paul explained

00:45:50.460 --> 00:45:50.980
 to me that

00:45:50.980 --> 00:45:51.660
 in six

00:45:51.660 --> 00:45:52.720
 generations of

00:45:52.720 --> 00:45:53.119
 Montagues,

00:45:53.360 --> 00:45:53.660
 there had

00:45:53.660 --> 00:45:54.240
 been 11

00:45:54.240 --> 00:45:54.800
 ministers,

00:45:55.340 --> 00:45:55.980
 four lay

00:45:55.980 --> 00:45:56.420
 ministers,

00:45:56.960 --> 00:45:57.900
 15 music

00:45:57.900 --> 00:45:58.380
 ministers,

00:45:58.820 --> 00:45:59.519
 20 Sunday

00:45:59.519 --> 00:46:00.180
 school teachers,

00:46:00.400 --> 00:46:01.360
 seven missionaries,

00:46:01.720 --> 00:46:02.700
 seven professors,

00:46:03.260 --> 00:46:04.740
 17 school teachers,

00:46:04.900 --> 00:46:05.900
 and 12 Christian

00:46:05.900 --> 00:46:06.840
 college students.

00:46:07.619 --> 00:46:08.780
 What a heritage

00:46:08.780 --> 00:46:09.340
 I thought.

00:46:10.380 --> 00:46:11.260
 What was the

00:46:11.260 --> 00:46:11.960
 secret to

00:46:11.960 --> 00:46:12.840
 ensuring that

00:46:12.840 --> 00:46:13.660
 generation after

00:46:13.660 --> 00:46:14.880
 generation would

00:46:14.880 --> 00:46:15.900
 pass on to the

00:46:15.900 --> 00:46:16.260
 next,

00:46:16.660 --> 00:46:17.579
 the essentials for

00:46:17.579 --> 00:46:18.500
 leading lives

00:46:18.500 --> 00:46:19.480
 that counted

00:46:19.480 --> 00:46:20.260
 for eternity?

00:46:20.840 --> 00:46:21.440
 When I asked

00:46:21.440 --> 00:46:21.840
 Paul this

00:46:21.840 --> 00:46:22.280
 question,

00:46:22.700 --> 00:46:23.519
 he motioned for

00:46:23.519 --> 00:46:24.099
 me to follow

00:46:24.099 --> 00:46:24.680
 him into the

00:46:24.680 --> 00:46:26.079
 house where he

00:46:26.079 --> 00:46:26.760
 pulled an old

00:46:26.760 --> 00:46:27.400
 book from a

00:46:27.400 --> 00:46:28.119
 shelf in his

00:46:28.119 --> 00:46:29.340
 library and he

00:46:29.340 --> 00:46:30.180
 dusted off its

00:46:30.180 --> 00:46:30.539
 cover.

00:46:31.119 --> 00:46:31.940
 He flipped a few

00:46:31.940 --> 00:46:33.019
 pages and stopped,

00:46:33.220 --> 00:46:33.760
 then he handed

00:46:33.760 --> 00:46:34.500
 it to me and

00:46:34.500 --> 00:46:34.780
 said,

00:46:35.280 --> 00:46:35.700
 Russ,

00:46:36.340 --> 00:46:37.260
 this is the key

00:46:37.260 --> 00:46:38.160
 to what you see

00:46:38.160 --> 00:46:39.039
 out here today.

00:46:39.840 --> 00:46:40.599
 On the page

00:46:40.599 --> 00:46:41.539
 were words spoken

00:46:41.539 --> 00:46:42.800
 by his grandfather

00:46:42.800 --> 00:46:43.800
 Daniel Montague

00:46:43.800 --> 00:46:44.940
 more than a

00:46:44.940 --> 00:46:45.739
 hundred years

00:46:45.739 --> 00:46:46.619
 ago on August

00:46:46.619 --> 00:46:47.320
 the 2nd,

00:46:47.699 --> 00:46:48.599
 1882.

00:46:49.400 --> 00:46:50.199
 At the age of

00:46:50.199 --> 00:46:51.259
 77, he had

00:46:51.259 --> 00:46:51.820
 addressed a

00:46:51.820 --> 00:46:52.599
 similar family

00:46:52.599 --> 00:46:53.840
 reunion, telling

00:46:53.840 --> 00:46:54.759
 his loved ones

00:46:54.759 --> 00:46:55.159
 this,

00:46:55.739 --> 00:46:57.079
 Now if you wish

00:46:57.079 --> 00:46:57.980
 those principles

00:46:57.980 --> 00:46:59.000
 established and

00:46:59.000 --> 00:46:59.659
 carried out by

00:46:59.659 --> 00:47:00.460
 your descendants,

00:47:01.179 --> 00:47:02.099
 inculcate into

00:47:02.099 --> 00:47:02.820
 the minds and

00:47:02.820 --> 00:47:03.420
 hearts of your

00:47:03.420 --> 00:47:04.480
 children the

00:47:04.480 --> 00:47:05.340
 principles of

00:47:05.340 --> 00:47:06.440
 religious instruction.

00:47:06.440 --> 00:47:08.639
 everything almost

00:47:08.639 --> 00:47:09.360
 that is evil,

00:47:09.920 --> 00:47:10.780
 everything almost

00:47:10.780 --> 00:47:11.720
 to subvert the

00:47:11.720 --> 00:47:12.619
 religion of Jesus

00:47:12.619 --> 00:47:13.800
 Christ is at

00:47:13.800 --> 00:47:15.539
 work and it is

00:47:15.539 --> 00:47:16.619
 absolutely necessary

00:47:16.619 --> 00:47:17.559
 to train the

00:47:17.559 --> 00:47:18.639
 rising generation

00:47:18.639 --> 00:47:19.519
 in the principles

00:47:19.519 --> 00:47:20.260
 of Christ.

00:47:20.880 --> 00:47:21.679
 It is the great

00:47:21.679 --> 00:47:22.280
 work of the

00:47:22.280 --> 00:47:22.639
 country.

00:47:23.700 --> 00:47:24.340
 For Christian

00:47:24.340 --> 00:47:25.019
 institutions,

00:47:25.360 --> 00:47:26.059
 friends, we have

00:47:26.059 --> 00:47:27.059
 reason this day to

00:47:27.059 --> 00:47:27.780
 thank God.

00:47:28.400 --> 00:47:29.440
 And what I ask

00:47:29.440 --> 00:47:30.440
 of you who are

00:47:30.440 --> 00:47:31.980
 now on the stage

00:47:31.980 --> 00:47:33.880
 of action is that

00:47:33.880 --> 00:47:34.860
 you should be true

00:47:34.860 --> 00:47:35.599
 to the principles

00:47:35.599 --> 00:47:36.420
 of Christ and

00:47:36.420 --> 00:47:37.920
 humanity to the

00:47:37.920 --> 00:47:38.480
 name and

00:47:38.480 --> 00:47:39.440
 characteristics of

00:47:39.440 --> 00:47:40.000
 the Montagues

00:47:40.000 --> 00:47:41.139
 that have gone

00:47:41.139 --> 00:47:41.820
 before you.

00:47:42.599 --> 00:47:43.780
 Russ finishes up

00:47:43.780 --> 00:47:45.340
 saying there was

00:47:45.340 --> 00:47:46.740
 the key, the

00:47:46.740 --> 00:47:48.039
 rising generations,

00:47:48.740 --> 00:47:49.460
 the children.

00:47:50.180 --> 00:47:50.680
 And he says,

00:47:50.740 --> 00:47:51.500
 What I observed

00:47:51.500 --> 00:47:52.220
 at this family

00:47:52.220 --> 00:47:53.139
 reunion was a

00:47:53.139 --> 00:47:54.240
 family's godly

00:47:54.240 --> 00:47:55.019
 posterity.

00:47:55.440 --> 00:47:56.280
 Their unity and

00:47:56.280 --> 00:47:57.039
 harmony was the

00:47:57.039 --> 00:47:57.780
 result of a

00:47:57.780 --> 00:47:59.840
 focused plan to

00:47:59.840 --> 00:48:00.840
 pass on Christ's

00:48:00.840 --> 00:48:01.519
 principles from

00:48:01.519 --> 00:48:02.480
 one generation to

00:48:02.480 --> 00:48:02.880
 the next.

00:48:03.440 --> 00:48:04.680
 And the only way

00:48:04.680 --> 00:48:05.619
 that these principles

00:48:05.619 --> 00:48:06.360
 could have gotten

00:48:06.360 --> 00:48:07.120
 from Daniel

00:48:07.120 --> 00:48:08.300
 Montague in

00:48:08.300 --> 00:48:10.120
 1882 to the

00:48:10.120 --> 00:48:11.120
 young children that

00:48:11.120 --> 00:48:12.099
 were playing before

00:48:12.099 --> 00:48:12.900
 him that Sunday

00:48:12.900 --> 00:48:14.519
 afternoon was for

00:48:14.519 --> 00:48:15.780
 succeeding generations

00:48:15.780 --> 00:48:17.099
 to do their part

00:48:17.099 --> 00:48:18.400
 while they were on

00:48:18.400 --> 00:48:19.140
 their stage of

00:48:19.140 --> 00:48:19.460
 action.

00:48:20.780 --> 00:48:21.660
 You know, the

00:48:21.660 --> 00:48:22.539
 last part of my

00:48:22.539 --> 00:48:23.300
 core value,

00:48:23.640 --> 00:48:24.380
 number five,

00:48:24.640 --> 00:48:25.740
 is that we're to

00:48:25.740 --> 00:48:26.620
 train our children

00:48:26.620 --> 00:48:27.760
 in the limited time

00:48:27.760 --> 00:48:28.599
 that we're entrusted

00:48:28.599 --> 00:48:29.079
 with them.

00:48:29.079 --> 00:48:31.239
 and it truly is

00:48:31.239 --> 00:48:32.099
 limited, guys.

00:48:32.619 --> 00:48:34.199
 It flies by faster

00:48:34.199 --> 00:48:34.799
 than we know it.

00:48:34.840 --> 00:48:35.639
 If you've got younger

00:48:35.639 --> 00:48:36.559
 children right now,

00:48:36.619 --> 00:48:37.659
 I just encourage you,

00:48:38.199 --> 00:48:39.980
 make the most under

00:48:39.980 --> 00:48:41.319
 God's help and

00:48:41.319 --> 00:48:41.739
 guidance.

00:48:42.199 --> 00:48:43.139
 Make the most of

00:48:43.139 --> 00:48:44.000
 each and every

00:48:44.000 --> 00:48:45.059
 moment and every

00:48:45.059 --> 00:48:46.420
 day that you can

00:48:46.420 --> 00:48:47.539
 because it flies by

00:48:47.539 --> 00:48:48.480
 so fast.

00:48:48.480 --> 00:48:51.579
 And to have a

00:48:51.579 --> 00:48:52.820
 lasting legacy,

00:48:53.059 --> 00:48:54.000
 Dad, we must base

00:48:54.000 --> 00:48:55.219
 our lives on God's

00:48:55.219 --> 00:48:57.059
 core values and be

00:48:57.059 --> 00:48:58.099
 genuinely committed

00:48:58.099 --> 00:48:59.460
 to living by them.

00:48:59.679 --> 00:49:00.539
 And that's my charge

00:49:00.539 --> 00:49:01.400
 to you this morning.

00:49:02.119 --> 00:49:03.099
 And remember as you

00:49:03.099 --> 00:49:04.760
 go out, your last

00:49:04.760 --> 00:49:07.539
 gift is a compilation

00:49:07.539 --> 00:49:08.539
 of the five core

00:49:08.539 --> 00:49:09.320
 values that I put

00:49:09.320 --> 00:49:10.240
 together and framed

00:49:10.240 --> 00:49:11.139
 for you this morning

00:49:11.139 --> 00:49:11.920
 to take with you.

00:49:11.920 --> 00:49:13.440
 And let's pray.

00:49:13.559 --> 00:49:14.320
 Join me in prayer.

00:49:18.000 --> 00:49:19.780
 Father God, I thank

00:49:19.780 --> 00:49:21.880
 you that you know

00:49:21.880 --> 00:49:24.599
 all about family.

00:49:25.260 --> 00:49:26.360
 And you know how it

00:49:26.360 --> 00:49:27.220
 was made to work

00:49:27.220 --> 00:49:28.619
 because you put it

00:49:28.619 --> 00:49:29.000
 together.

00:49:29.740 --> 00:49:30.579
 And I thank you for

00:49:30.579 --> 00:49:31.840
 this incredible

00:49:31.840 --> 00:49:33.639
 institution of the

00:49:33.639 --> 00:49:35.519
 family and the

00:49:35.519 --> 00:49:36.880
 individual relationships

00:49:36.880 --> 00:49:38.519
 with it, beginning

00:49:38.519 --> 00:49:40.900
 with fathers and their

00:49:40.900 --> 00:49:41.900
 role as the head

00:49:41.900 --> 00:49:42.380
 of the home.

00:49:42.579 --> 00:49:43.980
 I just pray for each

00:49:43.980 --> 00:49:46.280
 father in this room

00:49:46.280 --> 00:49:48.380
 right now that you

00:49:48.380 --> 00:49:50.220
 would take the things

00:49:50.220 --> 00:49:50.599
 that have been

00:49:50.599 --> 00:49:51.380
 shared this morning

00:49:51.380 --> 00:49:52.240
 and you would just

00:49:52.240 --> 00:49:53.639
 drive them deep into

00:49:53.639 --> 00:49:54.720
 each of our hearts

00:49:54.720 --> 00:49:56.480
 and our minds and

00:49:56.480 --> 00:49:58.700
 make us fathers that

00:49:58.700 --> 00:50:00.160
 are our wives and

00:50:00.160 --> 00:50:01.180
 our children won't

00:50:01.180 --> 00:50:02.980
 emulate and see that

00:50:02.980 --> 00:50:03.780
 passed on for

00:50:03.780 --> 00:50:04.920
 generations to come.

00:50:05.660 --> 00:50:06.660
 Pray this now in

00:50:06.660 --> 00:50:07.780
 Christ's precious name.

00:50:08.360 --> 00:50:08.559
 Amen.