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 I want to begin a three-part series today that I'm going to call,

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 What Kind of Church Do We Want to Be?

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 And that's what it focuses on.

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 What kind of church do we want to be going forward?

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 When you lose a pastor, especially a good pastor,

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 and one that's been there a long time, one of the caliber of Fred Stone,

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 I know we'd be just lying to ourselves to tell ourselves it doesn't make us real nervous, right?

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 We get an anxious feeling because what's the next guy coming in going to be like?

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 And where is he going to take us?

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 And how is the church going to change?

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 And what's it going to look like?

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 And all those kind of things.

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 And a lot of times we worry about, well, who's going to take care of this

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 or who's going to take care of that?

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 And how are things going to fall in place in the absence of a pastor?

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 Because you realize I'm pretty much just a preacher, right?

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 I live over in Greer, and I'm here one day a week.

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 And Brian and the other staff members, Jeff and others,

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 are carrying the load for the pastoral ministry.

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 But one of the things that happens when pastors leave, it's a good thing.

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 It causes those who are in secondary roles to pick up their game.

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 I mean, it means that deacons have got to pick up their game.

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 It means the Sunday school teachers have got to pick up their game

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 because a lot of times when a guy's been there a long time,

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 we just kind of get used to that guy kind of carrying the ball and doing everything, right?

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 And so one of the things that happens is it makes people step up.

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 And I hope you're doing that today,

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 that you're not just leaving to the Sunday school teachers,

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 to the deacons, to the staff that you're saying,

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 boy, what can I do to advance the cause of the kingdom of Christ

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 here at First Baptist Church of Pickens?

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 There's another thing, too, though, that happens.

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 Churches begin to wonder, well, where are we going from here?

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 And what kind of church do we want to be?

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 And I want to tell you, whether you've lost a pastor or you have a pastor,

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 that's always a good question from time to time to ask yourself,

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 what do we want to be as a church?

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 So I've taken it upon myself.

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 I didn't consult with the deacons, the personnel committee, or even the staff.

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 I've taken it upon myself.

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 I've invited in two experts to give us some advice about where do we go from here.

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 And I know some of you are thinking, boy, that guy has overshot the runway now.

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 I mean, how did he go spend money?

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 It's not going to cost you a thing, so don't get all anxious and all worried and fretful.

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 The two I'm inviting in are the Apostle Paul,

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 who would know more how to start a church

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 and what a church ought to look like than the Apostle Paul.

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 And the other is James, the first pastor of the church of Jerusalem.

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 So we're going to see what these two guys have got to say over the next three weeks

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 about what kind of church should we be.

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 This is not an all-inclusive message.

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 It's not everything.

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 This whole series won't be all-inclusive

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 about here's everything you need to be as a church.

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 But I'm going to mention just three things

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 that I think are right toward the top

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 of what we ought to be as a church.

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 So if you have your Bibles, turn with me to 1 Thessalonians 3.

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 1 Thessalonians 3.

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 And let me just set up this passage for you

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 so you'll understand what we're about to read.

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 Paul is on his second missionary journey.

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 Okay?

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 He's taking his second missionary journey.

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 He's going to the city of Philippi.

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 You know, the book of Philippians was written to that church in Philippi.

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 You read about it in the book of Acts.

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 When he gets to Philippi, a lot of people come on board

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 and they trust Christ as Savior.

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 But it's not without great suffering on Paul's part.

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 He's beaten, put in jail.

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 Even there, he wins a Philippian jailer and his family to Christ.

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 But ultimately, he has to flee because of persecution.

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 When he leaves there, he goes to another neighboring town

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 by the name of Thessalonica.

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 And there in Thessalonica on the Sabbath,

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 the Bible says he goes and he preaches.

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 And he does that three consecutive Sabbaths,

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 three consecutive Saturdays.

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 He's there in the Sabbath.

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 He's there in the synagogue.

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 And he's preaching the Word of God.

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 He's giving them the gospel of the Lord Jesus.

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 And many people hear that and they believe and become Christians.

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 He develops in a short period of time

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 a real strong relationship with these people.

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 Only there are three weeks.

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 They come to him after the third week and they say,

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 Paul, for your safety, you've got to get out of Dodge.

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 And so he takes the next flat out

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 and he's on his way to another place, right?

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 At their insistence, he leaves.

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 He gets to the next spot, though,

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 and he still has these Thessalonians on his mind.

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 And he's wondering,

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 what's become of these young believers

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 who had come into the church?

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 They don't have a pastor.

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 What are they going to do?

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 How are they going to make it?

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 How are they going to survive?

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 And so he's wondering about their spiritual future.

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 And so he wants to go back.

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 And he even tries to go back.

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 But the words he uses in 1 Thessalonians are these.

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 Satan hinders him in going.

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 He tries numerous times,

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 but every time Satan blocked his ability to go back.

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 So I want you to read in chapter 3 and verse 1 with me

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 what he now does.

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 Look at chapter 3 and verse 1.

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 Therefore, when we could no longer stand it,

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 we thought it was better to be left alone in Athens.

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 Now you understand,

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 persecution is always not far away from the door of Paul.

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 That's what he means when he says,

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 I thought even though it was dangerous,

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 it'd be better to be left alone.

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 And he sends Timothy back to get a report

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 on what's happening with these people in Thessalonica.

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 Look at verse 5.

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 For this reason, when I could stand it no longer,

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 I also sent to find out about your faith,

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 fearing that the tempter had tempted you

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 and that our labor might be for nothing.

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 Now what's he got in mind?

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 What's he fearful of?

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 Why is he so anxious?

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 You would readily understand without me even telling you

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 why he would be anxious in the circumstances I've outlined.

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 These are young believers.

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 He's done everything he can in the three weeks

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 to disciple them and give them the information that they need.

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 But they were like us.

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 Do you always get things right the first time?

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 Do you ever have to be reminded of anything?

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 And so Paul has said to them some things,

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 even about the second coming of Jesus,

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 they kind of get mixed up about.

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 We're going to see that at a later time.

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 But they were confused about some things.

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 And so he worries that in the absence of somebody

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 to preach the scripture to them

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 and to preach the truth to them,

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 they're going to just fall apart.

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 That's a natural concern, right?

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 So what does he do?

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 He sends Timothy back to check on them.

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 Look, if you will, at chapter 3 and verse 6,

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 and we read the report of Timothy from 6 through 10.

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 Now, Timothy has come to us from you

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 and brought us good news about your faith and love.

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 So look up for a minute.

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 Not bad news.

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 Timothy gets back and says,

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 Paul, relax.

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 It's good.

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 I mean, they're growing in love.

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 They're growing in faith.

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 It's good.

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 And that you always have good memories of us

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 wanting to see us as also we want to see you.

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 They miss you as bad as you miss them.

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 Therefore, brothers,

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 in all our distress and persecution,

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 we were encouraged about you through your faith.

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 For now we live if you stand firm in the Lord.

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 How can we thank God for you

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 in return for all the joy we experience

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 because of you before our God?

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 As we pray earnestly night and day

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 to see you face to face

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 and to complete what is lacking in your faith.

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 Boy, I cannot wait to get back with you

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 and all the things that you need bolstering up in.

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 I'm going to do that.

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 I can't wait for that day.

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 I'm praying for that day.

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 I anticipate that day.

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 And then he gives them this prayer.

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 And let me just tell you before we read it,

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 this is going to be our focus for the next three sermons.

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 Just these three verses, okay?

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 We'll bring in some other verses,

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 but these are the primary verses we're going to look at.

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 And it's a prayer.

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 And because we're reading it this morning, guess what?

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 It's a written prayer.

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 It's one he prayed, no doubt, verbally,

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 but it's a written prayer.

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 Now, I just want to help you

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 where you're thinking about that for a minute.

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 When I was a kid coming along,

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 I'm 69 years old.

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 When I was a kid,

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 and I don't think this mentality prevails today,

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 but when I was a kid,

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 if you grew up in a conservative church,

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 the conservative church had a kind of way

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 of looking down at prayers that were read.

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 Do you all remember that?

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 I can remember hearing people say,

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 well, you know, they just read that prayer.

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 They didn't mean it.

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 It wasn't from the heart.

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 They read that.

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 How many of you ever wrote a love letter?

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 Anybody here?

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 None of you are romantic at all.

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 You all have written love letters, right?

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 You started about third grade, right?

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 Sent that little note,

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 you love me if you ask,

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 check the box, you know?

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 Did you mean what you wrote?

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 Of course you did, right?

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 So that's just foggy thinking to think

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 because I write something,

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 and I don't mean it, you know?

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 That's a foolish notion.

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 In fact, what it reflects to me is this.

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 You've had a chance to think about it.

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 And I don't know about you,

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 when I start writing things,

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 sometimes I'll write it,

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 and I think, yeah, that's not it,

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 and I'll scratch it out,

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 or I'll tear it up,

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 and I'll start over, right?

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 We hit the delete key,

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 and we do it again.

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 And so Paul has the opportunity to think,

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 what am I going to say to these Thessalonians?

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 What is the prayer I really want to pray

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 for these Thessalonians?

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 This is a written prayer,

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 and so I've got to tell you,

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 to me it must be really important.

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 It's what he thought about

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 and concluded.

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 It's what I want to say.

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 So look at verse 11.

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 Now may our God and Father Himself

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 and our Lord Jesus

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 direct our way to you.

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 Let me come to you

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 as I've said I want to

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 and as you want me to.

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 Verse 12, and here's the heart of it.

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 And may the Lord cause you to increase.

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 What does it mean to increase?

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 Get more, right?

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 And may the Lord cause you to increase

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 and overflow.

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 You know what it is to overflow?

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 You start pouring something into a container

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 and you get to the top

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 and it just spills over.

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 There's more than even you can anticipate.

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 And may the Lord cause you to increase

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 and overflow with love

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 one for another.

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 Now, a lot of you say,

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 well preacher, that's us here at First Pickens.

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 We got it down, right?

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 We are having a love fest.

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 We just love each other.

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 Boy, we love one another.

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 We love everybody whose name is on our roll, right?

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 We just love, love, love, love, love each other.

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 We're good to go.

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 Boy, wait a second.

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 That's not where he ends.

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 He says,

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 and for everyone

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 just as we also do for you.

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 Hmm.

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 Okay, we'll do that.

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 That would mean we would love

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 the First Presbyterian Church, right?

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 We're okay with that.

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 Presbyterians are good people.

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 We'll okay love the Methodist people

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 behind us here, right?

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 We'll love them too.

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 We'll love the Pentecostals

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 and the Church of God.

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 Okay, we're good.

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 We'll love the Mormons.

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 We'll love Jehovah's Witness.

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 We'll love the Charismatics.

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 We'll love the Catholics.

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 We'll even love the Jews.

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 We'll love the Muslims.

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 We'll love the Mormons.

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 We'll love the Jehovah's Witnesses.

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 We'll love the folks who frequent the bars

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 and never come to church.

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 We'll love those who stand in the streets

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 and say,

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 I'm an atheist

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 and I hate your God

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 and don't even believe He exists.

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 You see,

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 everybody's everybody.

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 That includes

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 people from Pickens,

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 right?

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 I don't know what you call

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 people from Pickens.

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 I said in the first

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 service,

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 the first service,

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 Picanites,

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 and then Tim came and said,

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 well,

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 actually they're Pekingese.

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 It means you love

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 all the people from Pickens

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 who grew up in Pickens.

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 They're born and bred here.

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 It also means you love

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 those from out of town.

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 You love them from Greenville,

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 from Greer,

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 from Travers Rest,

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 and from Anderson,

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 and from North Carolina,

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 and from Virginia,

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 and yes,

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 Yankees.

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 You love even Yankees.

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 And that's what he's praying,

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 right?

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 He says,

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 I pray you will love

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 everyone in the church

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 and everyone else.

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 Everyone outside

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 the church as well.

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 And notice what he says.

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 Verse 13.

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 May He make your hearts

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 blameless in holiness

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 before our God and Father

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 at the coming of our Lord Jesus

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 with all His saints.

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 Amen.

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 Now there are three things

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 he prays for.

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 He prays for them to

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 begin to love

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 in an increasing fashion

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 and for that love

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 to overflow

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 and to love everybody

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 including those in

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 and out of the church.

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 For them to be blameless

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 in holiness

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 before our God.

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 That's what we'll look at

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 next week.

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 And to be ready

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 for the coming

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 of the Lord Jesus Christ.

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 And we'll look at that

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 two weeks

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 from today.

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 Now here's the big question.

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 He's had a chance

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 to think about this

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 and to know

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 what it is

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 he wants to say

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 in this prayer

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 what he's asking God

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 to do in their lives

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 and what he's wanting

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 them to be.

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 And it becomes apparent

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 the first order

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 of business is

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 that they love

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 one another

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 and love everyone else

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 and you have to ask

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 why do you think

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 that was the top priority

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 in his prayer

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 for this church

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 at Thessalonica.

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 I want to share with you

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 three reasons

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 real quickly

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 and then I want to share

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 with you

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 some ways

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 in which we do

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 what it is

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 he's asking us to do.

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 I believe

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 he prays what he prays

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 because Jesus said

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 so clearly

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 that love

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 is the mark

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 the badge

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 of someone

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 who is a disciple.

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 Right before his death

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 in John 13

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 34 and 35

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 you know what Jesus said?

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 He looked at his

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 disciples

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 and this is what he said

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 I give you

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 a new commandment

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 that you love

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 one another

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 even

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 as I have loved you.

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 He tells them how to love

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 as I have loved you

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 I want you to love others.

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 And then he says this

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 this is how they will know

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 that you're my disciples

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 by your love

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 for one another.

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 So what you can quickly see

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 is this love

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 is the badge

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 of discipleship.

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 It's the telltale indicator.

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 It's the sign

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 of somebody

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 who's a believer.

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 Let me ask you

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 how do you know

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 somebody's a believer?

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 Some folks

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 think the way

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 you let them

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 know you're a believer

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 is you get a tattoo

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 on your arm

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 it's got John 3.16

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 and I want to tell you

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 something

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 if you've got a tattoo

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 of John 3.16

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 or anything else

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 that don't bother me

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 in the least

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 because some folks

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 will use that

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 as an opportunity

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 to be a witness

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 for the Lord

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 but understand this

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 having the tattoo

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 doesn't make you

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 a believer.

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 Do you understand that?

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 It's not a real sign

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 that you're a believer.

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 It's okay to have a tattoo

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 if you want a tattoo

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 put whatever

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 what you want

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 on your arm

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 but understand this

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 it doesn't translate

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 into you being

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 automatically a Christian

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 any more

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 than having a bumper sticker

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 that says

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 honk if you love Jesus

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 right?

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 You can get that

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 on a bumper sticker

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 but that don't make you

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 a believer

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 you could have

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 bought the car

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 from somebody

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 who had put

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 the bumper sticker

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 on the car

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 right?

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 And so

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 none of those things

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 some of you

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 I'm sure today

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 are wearing gold earrings

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 or a necklace

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 that has a cross

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 around it

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 or a cross on it

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 and there's nothing

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 wrong with that

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 because it says to people

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 man I believe in the cross

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 and the cross is important

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 it's the centerpiece

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 of my life

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 but I don't tell you something

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 having the necklace

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 having the earrings

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 doesn't make you a Christian

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 Jesus says

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 the way you'll know

00:16:00.700 --> 00:16:01.560
 somebody's a Christian

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 is because they have love

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 one for another

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 it's by how you love

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 now I want to ask you something

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 have you ever been

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 in a department store

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 in a neighborhood

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 you're walking

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 you meet somebody

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 and you spend

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 four, five, six minutes

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 with them in conversation

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 maybe not even that long

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 and you walk away

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 you didn't talk about

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 anything theological

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 but you walk away from

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 and you say to yourself this

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 I just bet you

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 they were a Christian

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 you ever had that happen?

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 we all have right?

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 again that's yes and no

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 y'all gonna get that down

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 before I leave here

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 you know

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 so

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 we've all had that experience

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 what was it

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 about them

00:16:42.600 --> 00:16:43.360
 that made you reach

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 that conclusion

00:16:43.980 --> 00:16:44.559
 did you say

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 I saw the tattoo

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 I saw the bumper sticker

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 on his car

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 I saw the

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 the necklace

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 around their neck

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 no

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 it was always this

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 it was something

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 about their attitude

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 something about

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 how they treated you

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 something about

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 how they responded

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 they were so helpful

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 they were so kind

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 they were so patient

00:17:02.879 --> 00:17:03.559
 they were so loving

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 you just thought to yourself

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 that guy

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 that guy

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 has got

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 and it was because

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 of their love

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 the very thing

00:17:08.839 --> 00:17:09.779
 that Jesus said

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 he said

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 you'll know

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 that they're believers

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 because of how they love

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 one another

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 there's a second reason

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 from Paul's experience

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 he knew this

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 a church that doesn't love

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 the way Jesus loved

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 it's all for naught

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 now

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 like I said in the first service

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 I'll say it again now

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 I know I'm gonna offend somebody

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 and this is a bigger crowd

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 so I know I'm gonna offend somebody here

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 I don't intend to do that

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 I'm just trying to be honest with you

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 okay

00:17:35.259 --> 00:17:37.279
 why would anybody

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 ever name a church

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 car rent

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 I know in this many people

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 in the room

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 somebody here has belonged

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 to a car rent

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 at some point in time

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 I have preached

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 in several car rents

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 car rent number one

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 car rent number two

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 in another place

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 you just wonder

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 is your car rent number three

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 and four

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 because they couldn't get along

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 with each other either

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 but

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 why would you name a church

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 car rent

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 it's like

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 did you not have a copy

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 of the bible

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 I mean

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 this is

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 a hot mess

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 of a church

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 I mean

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 they're just

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 they're just

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 a mess

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 and Paul writes to him

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 and says

00:18:09.779 --> 00:18:11.340
 man I can't believe

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 what I'm hearing about you

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 and I believe it's true

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 you're divided

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 and you're fighting

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 among yourselves

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 and there's dissension

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 in the church

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 and there's a guy

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 who's sleeping

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 with his father's wife

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 are you crazy

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 what's going on

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 and you're suing one another

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 taking each other to court

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 and you get upset

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 over the Lord's Supper

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 and there's all kinds

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 of problems

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 about the spirit of God

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 and how he works

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 in your life

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 so much so

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 that between chapter 12

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 which is about the gifts

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 of the spirit

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 and chapter 14

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 which is about tongues

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 he sandwiches in

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 chapter 13

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 that says

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 you can have all the gifts

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 in the world

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 but if you don't have love

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 it's useless

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 right

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 you're just like a

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 loud set of symbols

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 or a gong

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 it means absolutely

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 nothing

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 unless you have

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 love

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 now I want to tell you something

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 I've seen churches

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 that try to build ministries

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 around somebody

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 who's a great great great

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 preacher

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 or musicians

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 who are great great great

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 musicians

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 but I want to tell you

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 something

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 antagonism

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 and division

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 and dissension

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 and lack of love

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 always trumps all that

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 you can have

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 every bit of that

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 but unless you have

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 love in a church

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 unless people know

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 that first church

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 of Pickens

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 boy I'll tell you

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 this about them

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 their preacher

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 may not be much

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 that guy they got

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 for the interim

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 their music's okay

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 but I'm going to tell you

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 something friend

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 they do love people

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 if you will be known

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 as a church

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 that loves

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 I mean really loves

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 well people will be

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 the path

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 to your door

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 so I think

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 that's one of the reasons

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 Paul said what he did

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 there's a third reason

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 and it's the most obvious

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 of all probably

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 how can we represent

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 Jesus

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 and not epitomize

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 love

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 because he did

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 John said

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 this of God

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 he said

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 God is love

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 I've been here now

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 about 15 or 16 weeks

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 I'm not sure

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 but about 13 of those weeks

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 the first 13 of those weeks

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 you know if you were here

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 I preached just about

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 every message

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 around a narrative

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 of Jesus

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 and I did that

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 with purpose

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 because I wanted you

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 to see

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 boy

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 Jesus is a loving Savior

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 he loves harlots

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 he loves the lowly

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 he loves the down and outers

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 he loves the publicans

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 he loves every manner

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 of sinner

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 he's helpful

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 he's compassionate

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 he's healing

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 he's raising the dead

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 he's doing all these miracles

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 I'm going to tell you something

00:20:37.940 --> 00:20:40.019
 Jesus is the epitome

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 of love

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 how crazy is it

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 for us to think

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 that we can go into the world

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 and declare to the world

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 there's this God

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 who you've never seen

00:20:51.579 --> 00:20:52.420
 who is invisible

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 who exists

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 who sent his son

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 who you've never seen

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 and he came

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 and he lived

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 and he died on the cross

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 and he rose from the dead

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 and he gives you

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 eternal life

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 and he loves you

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 and then be angry

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 with the world

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 have you ever seen churches

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 that you get the feeling

00:21:08.379 --> 00:21:09.539
 when you listen

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 to what they say

00:21:10.559 --> 00:21:11.480
 and what they do

00:21:11.480 --> 00:21:12.539
 and how they flesh out

00:21:12.539 --> 00:21:13.680
 their ministry

00:21:13.680 --> 00:21:15.639
 boy they are angry

00:21:15.639 --> 00:21:16.740
 with the world

00:21:16.740 --> 00:21:18.079
 you know more

00:21:18.079 --> 00:21:19.099
 for what they're against

00:21:19.099 --> 00:21:20.119
 than what they're for

00:21:20.119 --> 00:21:22.440
 have you ever seen that

00:21:22.440 --> 00:21:24.139
 Jesus says

00:21:24.139 --> 00:21:24.879
 I want to tell you something

00:21:24.879 --> 00:21:26.099
 or Paul says

00:21:26.099 --> 00:21:27.679
 if you want to be the church

00:21:27.679 --> 00:21:29.000
 that God would have you to be

00:21:29.000 --> 00:21:30.619
 then by all means

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 you've got to

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 be a church

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 that increases

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 in love

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 and overflows

00:21:37.779 --> 00:21:38.339
 with love

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 now let me ask you

00:21:39.259 --> 00:21:39.959
 is that

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 who first pickings is

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 well I hope it is

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 I really hope it is

00:21:43.779 --> 00:21:45.259
 because that's the first step

00:21:45.259 --> 00:21:46.199
 in becoming a great church

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 you are increasing

00:21:47.679 --> 00:21:48.500
 in love

00:21:48.500 --> 00:21:49.659
 and you absolutely

00:21:49.659 --> 00:21:50.819
 exude love

00:21:50.819 --> 00:21:51.519
 and overflow

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 in love

00:21:52.240 --> 00:21:53.079
 now some of you say

00:21:53.079 --> 00:21:54.519
 well we're working on it

00:21:54.519 --> 00:21:56.079
 but how do we do that

00:21:56.079 --> 00:21:57.539
 you got a sheet of paper

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 and a pencil

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 I'm going to give you

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 five quick ideas

00:21:59.460 --> 00:22:00.079
 and I'm done

00:22:00.079 --> 00:22:00.480
 you ready

00:22:00.480 --> 00:22:02.420
 here's five things

00:22:02.420 --> 00:22:03.079
 you need to do

00:22:03.079 --> 00:22:04.220
 if you want to be a church

00:22:04.220 --> 00:22:05.740
 that overflows

00:22:05.740 --> 00:22:06.339
 in love

00:22:06.339 --> 00:22:07.200
 and is increasing

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 in love

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 and the first thing

00:22:08.819 --> 00:22:09.619
 you may not like

00:22:09.619 --> 00:22:09.960
 you ready

00:22:09.960 --> 00:22:11.859
 you got to get over yourself

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 you just got to get over

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 yourself

00:22:15.460 --> 00:22:17.500
 you say preacher

00:22:17.500 --> 00:22:18.279
 what in the world

00:22:18.279 --> 00:22:18.819
 you mean

00:22:18.819 --> 00:22:20.059
 look with me

00:22:20.059 --> 00:22:21.799
 to Philippians chapter 2

00:22:21.799 --> 00:22:23.400
 and verse 3 and 4

00:22:23.400 --> 00:22:24.820
 turn there real quickly

00:22:24.820 --> 00:22:26.000
 Philippians

00:22:26.000 --> 00:22:27.300
 just a few pages

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 to your left

00:22:27.980 --> 00:22:30.060
 Philippians chapter 2

00:22:30.060 --> 00:22:31.400
 verse 3 and 4

00:22:31.400 --> 00:22:33.360
 Paul is telling us

00:22:33.360 --> 00:22:34.620
 how Jesus lived

00:22:34.620 --> 00:22:35.720
 and this is what he says

00:22:35.720 --> 00:22:37.540
 do nothing out of rivalry

00:22:37.540 --> 00:22:38.400
 or conceit

00:22:38.400 --> 00:22:39.160
 but in humility

00:22:39.160 --> 00:22:40.140
 consider others

00:22:40.140 --> 00:22:41.160
 as more important

00:22:41.160 --> 00:22:42.220
 than yourselves

00:22:42.220 --> 00:22:44.220
 everyone should look out

00:22:44.220 --> 00:22:46.380
 not only for his own interest

00:22:46.380 --> 00:22:47.860
 but also for the interest

00:22:47.860 --> 00:22:49.259
 of others

00:22:49.259 --> 00:22:51.100
 now I want to tell you something

00:22:51.100 --> 00:22:53.220
 that's the way kingdom people live

00:22:53.220 --> 00:22:54.120
 but I want to warn you

00:22:54.120 --> 00:22:54.640
 about something

00:22:54.640 --> 00:22:56.120
 that's the opposite

00:22:56.120 --> 00:22:58.460
 of how people of this world live

00:22:58.460 --> 00:23:00.640
 people of this world

00:23:00.640 --> 00:23:01.380
 the biggest difference

00:23:01.380 --> 00:23:02.539
 between you and them

00:23:02.539 --> 00:23:03.180
 outwardly

00:23:03.180 --> 00:23:04.120
 as we look at your life

00:23:04.120 --> 00:23:04.740
 should be this

00:23:04.740 --> 00:23:06.400
 we should recognize quickly

00:23:06.400 --> 00:23:08.259
 that guy is a kingdom person

00:23:08.259 --> 00:23:08.799
 and so

00:23:08.799 --> 00:23:10.460
 he's thinking of others

00:23:10.460 --> 00:23:12.500
 before he thinks of himself

00:23:12.500 --> 00:23:13.960
 and I want to tell you something

00:23:13.960 --> 00:23:15.000
 that's sacrificial

00:23:15.000 --> 00:23:17.039
 that requires real humility

00:23:17.039 --> 00:23:18.059
 not fake humility

00:23:18.059 --> 00:23:20.579
 to put others ahead of yourself

00:23:20.579 --> 00:23:21.740
 but the way the world

00:23:21.740 --> 00:23:23.059
 looks at situations is this

00:23:23.059 --> 00:23:24.220
 it's me first

00:23:24.220 --> 00:23:26.220
 I take care of me first

00:23:26.220 --> 00:23:27.799
 I may take care of others later

00:23:27.799 --> 00:23:29.240
 but I got to take care of me

00:23:29.240 --> 00:23:30.539
 in fact I see commercials

00:23:30.539 --> 00:23:31.659
 I tell my wife yesterday

00:23:31.659 --> 00:23:32.619
 we were watching television

00:23:32.619 --> 00:23:33.980
 I saw a commercial

00:23:33.980 --> 00:23:35.200
 where they actually justified

00:23:35.200 --> 00:23:36.059
 that kind of mentality

00:23:36.059 --> 00:23:37.740
 it's me first

00:23:37.740 --> 00:23:40.539
 I need to take care of me

00:23:40.539 --> 00:23:42.339
 humility

00:23:42.339 --> 00:23:43.619
 is not thinking

00:23:43.619 --> 00:23:45.059
 lowly of yourself

00:23:45.059 --> 00:23:46.059
 it's not thinking

00:23:46.059 --> 00:23:46.960
 less of yourself

00:23:46.960 --> 00:23:48.440
 it's thinking of yourself

00:23:48.440 --> 00:23:49.720
 less

00:23:49.720 --> 00:23:51.740
 you see the difference

00:23:51.740 --> 00:23:52.319
 in those two ideas

00:23:52.319 --> 00:23:53.880
 it's not thinking

00:23:53.880 --> 00:23:54.700
 less of myself

00:23:54.700 --> 00:23:55.220
 that I think

00:23:55.220 --> 00:23:55.920
 poor me

00:23:55.920 --> 00:23:56.980
 how bad I am

00:23:56.980 --> 00:23:58.759
 it's just not thinking

00:23:58.759 --> 00:23:59.319
 about me

00:23:59.319 --> 00:24:01.279
 it's just not being

00:24:01.279 --> 00:24:02.259
 really concerned

00:24:02.259 --> 00:24:02.940
 so much

00:24:02.940 --> 00:24:03.799
 about me

00:24:03.799 --> 00:24:05.380
 now I'm going to

00:24:05.380 --> 00:24:06.140
 tip you off on something

00:24:06.140 --> 00:24:07.200
 if you haven't already noticed it

00:24:07.200 --> 00:24:09.019
 we're pretty self-centered

00:24:09.019 --> 00:24:09.600
 creatures

00:24:09.600 --> 00:24:10.220
 you know that

00:24:10.220 --> 00:24:11.200
 by nature

00:24:11.200 --> 00:24:12.880
 I mean

00:24:12.880 --> 00:24:14.140
 we all have this

00:24:14.140 --> 00:24:15.000
 tendency to

00:24:15.000 --> 00:24:16.259
 focus more on

00:24:16.259 --> 00:24:17.299
 our problems

00:24:17.299 --> 00:24:17.859
 than we do

00:24:17.859 --> 00:24:19.639
 other people's

00:24:19.639 --> 00:24:20.440
 problems

00:24:20.440 --> 00:24:22.740
 I'm pastoring

00:24:22.740 --> 00:24:23.599
 at Brushy Creek

00:24:23.599 --> 00:24:24.279
 years ago

00:24:24.279 --> 00:24:25.680
 there was a man

00:24:25.680 --> 00:24:26.180
 in our church

00:24:26.180 --> 00:24:27.419
 in his early 70's

00:24:27.419 --> 00:24:29.059
 he develops

00:24:29.059 --> 00:24:29.440
 what they

00:24:29.440 --> 00:24:30.079
 fearful

00:24:30.079 --> 00:24:31.980
 is cancer

00:24:31.980 --> 00:24:33.639
 he has to go in

00:24:33.639 --> 00:24:34.379
 for an operation

00:24:34.379 --> 00:24:35.359
 I'm sitting there

00:24:35.359 --> 00:24:35.839
 with his wife

00:24:35.839 --> 00:24:36.500
 in the waiting room

00:24:36.500 --> 00:24:37.779
 they do the procedure

00:24:37.779 --> 00:24:38.559
 they come out

00:24:38.559 --> 00:24:40.460
 wasn't going long

00:24:40.460 --> 00:24:42.399
 just struck a note

00:24:42.399 --> 00:24:42.980
 of fear in me

00:24:42.980 --> 00:24:43.619
 because he wasn't

00:24:43.619 --> 00:24:44.319
 in there very long

00:24:44.319 --> 00:24:44.559
 at all

00:24:44.559 --> 00:24:45.039
 and the surgeon

00:24:45.039 --> 00:24:45.559
 comes out

00:24:45.559 --> 00:24:46.000
 and he says

00:24:46.000 --> 00:24:47.559
 I've got to tell you

00:24:47.559 --> 00:24:48.660
 some bad news

00:24:48.660 --> 00:24:50.180
 he kneels down there

00:24:50.180 --> 00:24:51.359
 in front of the guy's wife

00:24:51.359 --> 00:24:52.799
 and he says

00:24:52.799 --> 00:24:53.500
 your husband

00:24:53.500 --> 00:24:54.920
 has a cancer

00:24:54.920 --> 00:24:55.940
 that's just inoperable

00:24:55.940 --> 00:24:56.720
 we got in there

00:24:56.720 --> 00:24:57.420
 and it spreads

00:24:57.420 --> 00:24:58.420
 metastasized

00:24:58.420 --> 00:24:59.819
 and he's not going

00:24:59.819 --> 00:25:00.319
 to live long

00:25:00.319 --> 00:25:00.740
 I'm real

00:25:00.740 --> 00:25:01.539
 real sorry

00:25:01.539 --> 00:25:03.700
 he pats her on the knee

00:25:03.700 --> 00:25:04.619
 asks if she's anything

00:25:04.619 --> 00:25:05.720
 she can do

00:25:05.720 --> 00:25:06.380
 she looks just

00:25:06.380 --> 00:25:06.940
 dumbfounded

00:25:06.940 --> 00:25:08.579
 and he walks out

00:25:08.579 --> 00:25:10.480
 as soon as he gets out

00:25:10.480 --> 00:25:11.380
 she turns to me

00:25:11.380 --> 00:25:13.000
 and she says to me

00:25:13.000 --> 00:25:13.799
 these are almost

00:25:13.799 --> 00:25:14.599
 her exact words

00:25:14.599 --> 00:25:16.439
 what am I going

00:25:16.439 --> 00:25:16.959
 to do

00:25:16.959 --> 00:25:18.779
 when he's gone

00:25:18.779 --> 00:25:20.539
 how am I going

00:25:20.539 --> 00:25:21.119
 to make it

00:25:21.119 --> 00:25:22.199
 who's going

00:25:22.199 --> 00:25:22.879
 to take care of me

00:25:22.879 --> 00:25:23.759
 what's my life

00:25:23.759 --> 00:25:24.339
 going to be like

00:25:24.339 --> 00:25:25.500
 when he's gone

00:25:25.500 --> 00:25:27.339
 you know what

00:25:27.339 --> 00:25:28.000
 I couldn't help

00:25:28.000 --> 00:25:28.379
 but think

00:25:28.379 --> 00:25:31.299
 he's the guy

00:25:31.299 --> 00:25:31.839
 with cancer

00:25:31.839 --> 00:25:34.000
 you're going

00:25:34.000 --> 00:25:34.339
 to be the one

00:25:34.339 --> 00:25:34.659
 living

00:25:34.659 --> 00:25:36.879
 your life's going

00:25:36.879 --> 00:25:37.099
 on

00:25:37.099 --> 00:25:38.059
 he's getting ready

00:25:38.059 --> 00:25:38.740
 from the earthly

00:25:38.740 --> 00:25:39.279
 perspective

00:25:39.279 --> 00:25:39.799
 getting ready

00:25:39.799 --> 00:25:41.119
 to end

00:25:41.119 --> 00:25:42.500
 have you ever

00:25:42.500 --> 00:25:43.019
 noticed how

00:25:43.019 --> 00:25:43.879
 when tragedies

00:25:43.879 --> 00:25:45.039
 occur so often times

00:25:45.039 --> 00:25:45.779
 we don't even

00:25:45.779 --> 00:25:46.539
 realize we do it

00:25:46.539 --> 00:25:47.539
 we make it

00:25:47.539 --> 00:25:48.899
 about us

00:25:48.899 --> 00:25:50.619
 we become

00:25:50.619 --> 00:25:51.039
 the center

00:25:51.039 --> 00:25:51.539
 of the universe

00:25:51.539 --> 00:25:52.039
 and they become

00:25:52.039 --> 00:25:52.799
 almost secondary

00:25:52.799 --> 00:25:53.959
 how does this

00:25:53.959 --> 00:25:55.019
 impact my life

00:25:55.019 --> 00:25:55.679
 not how does it

00:25:55.679 --> 00:25:56.959
 impact his life

00:25:56.959 --> 00:25:58.619
 you might think

00:25:58.619 --> 00:25:59.439
 if she really loved him

00:25:59.439 --> 00:26:00.159
 she'd be thinking

00:26:00.159 --> 00:26:01.159
 and I know she did

00:26:01.159 --> 00:26:02.859
 she's just self-absorbed

00:26:02.859 --> 00:26:05.159
 but she might be thinking

00:26:05.159 --> 00:26:06.179
 how am I going to help him

00:26:06.179 --> 00:26:07.219
 through this difficult time

00:26:07.219 --> 00:26:08.659
 well he's facing

00:26:08.659 --> 00:26:09.859
 some dark days ahead

00:26:09.859 --> 00:26:11.539
 he's facing

00:26:11.539 --> 00:26:12.599
 a real message here

00:26:12.599 --> 00:26:13.399
 when he wakes up

00:26:13.399 --> 00:26:14.699
 that no one wants

00:26:14.699 --> 00:26:15.079
 to get

00:26:15.079 --> 00:26:16.039
 that you're dying

00:26:16.039 --> 00:26:17.939
 but instead

00:26:17.939 --> 00:26:18.899
 right now in the moment

00:26:18.899 --> 00:26:20.000
 she's consumed in herself

00:26:20.000 --> 00:26:20.919
 can I ask you something

00:26:20.919 --> 00:26:22.019
 is that kind of indicative

00:26:22.019 --> 00:26:22.979
 of your life

00:26:22.979 --> 00:26:25.000
 your problems matter

00:26:25.000 --> 00:26:25.459
 so much

00:26:25.459 --> 00:26:26.000
 that other people

00:26:26.000 --> 00:26:27.399
 just don't matter

00:26:27.399 --> 00:26:28.079
 as much

00:26:28.079 --> 00:26:30.219
 so

00:26:30.219 --> 00:26:31.199
 first thing you need

00:26:31.199 --> 00:26:31.659
 to do is

00:26:31.659 --> 00:26:33.179
 get over yourself

00:26:33.179 --> 00:26:34.639
 second thing you need

00:26:34.639 --> 00:26:35.139
 to do is

00:26:35.139 --> 00:26:35.919
 empathize

00:26:35.919 --> 00:26:37.019
 begin seeing others

00:26:37.019 --> 00:26:37.899
 and their hurts

00:26:37.899 --> 00:26:38.679
 and needs

00:26:38.680 --> 00:26:39.960
 before you do

00:26:39.960 --> 00:26:40.640
 your own

00:26:40.640 --> 00:26:41.759
 now turn with me

00:26:41.759 --> 00:26:43.000
 quickly to 1 Corinthians

00:26:43.000 --> 00:26:44.120
 chapter 12

00:26:44.120 --> 00:26:46.340
 look at 1 Corinthians

00:26:46.340 --> 00:26:47.400
 chapter 12

00:26:47.400 --> 00:26:50.039
 and verse 26

00:26:50.039 --> 00:26:52.580
 so if one member

00:26:52.580 --> 00:26:53.019
 suffers

00:26:53.019 --> 00:26:53.820
 all the members

00:26:53.820 --> 00:26:54.920
 suffer with it

00:26:54.920 --> 00:26:55.840
 if one member

00:26:55.840 --> 00:26:56.299
 is honored

00:26:56.299 --> 00:26:57.080
 all the members

00:26:57.080 --> 00:26:59.200
 rejoice with it

00:26:59.200 --> 00:27:01.120
 you know what he's saying

00:27:01.120 --> 00:27:02.519
 he's saying

00:27:02.519 --> 00:27:03.240
 when you're in the body

00:27:03.240 --> 00:27:03.799
 of Christ

00:27:03.799 --> 00:27:05.019
 and you feel for others

00:27:05.019 --> 00:27:05.860
 the way you should

00:27:05.860 --> 00:27:06.500
 and you're not

00:27:06.500 --> 00:27:07.480
 putting yourself first

00:27:07.480 --> 00:27:08.600
 it's always about you

00:27:08.599 --> 00:27:09.599
 you've gotten over

00:27:09.599 --> 00:27:09.939
 yourself

00:27:09.939 --> 00:27:11.039
 and you learn

00:27:11.039 --> 00:27:11.879
 how to empathize

00:27:11.879 --> 00:27:12.359
 with others

00:27:12.359 --> 00:27:13.579
 when they rejoice

00:27:13.579 --> 00:27:14.240
 guess what

00:27:14.240 --> 00:27:15.959
 you get happy

00:27:15.959 --> 00:27:16.759
 with them

00:27:16.759 --> 00:27:19.099
 and when they're sad

00:27:19.099 --> 00:27:19.799
 and they're broken

00:27:19.799 --> 00:27:21.059
 and their heart aches

00:27:21.059 --> 00:27:23.259
 man your heart aches

00:27:23.259 --> 00:27:23.899
 right along

00:27:23.899 --> 00:27:24.439
 with them

00:27:24.439 --> 00:27:24.899
 because

00:27:24.899 --> 00:27:26.980
 you put yourself

00:27:26.980 --> 00:27:27.699
 in their shoes

00:27:27.699 --> 00:27:28.699
 that's what it means

00:27:28.699 --> 00:27:29.399
 to empathize

00:27:29.399 --> 00:27:30.779
 I take myself

00:27:30.779 --> 00:27:31.699
 out of my life

00:27:31.699 --> 00:27:32.659
 and I insert myself

00:27:32.659 --> 00:27:33.839
 into somebody

00:27:33.839 --> 00:27:35.240
 else's life

00:27:35.240 --> 00:27:36.920
 I'm going to tell you

00:27:36.920 --> 00:27:37.559
 when you begin

00:27:37.559 --> 00:27:38.279
 to do that

00:27:38.279 --> 00:27:39.620
 well you'll begin

00:27:39.620 --> 00:27:40.480
 to feel for people

00:27:40.480 --> 00:27:41.160
 and love people

00:27:41.160 --> 00:27:41.579
 in a way

00:27:41.579 --> 00:27:43.539
 you never have before

00:27:43.539 --> 00:27:44.519
 here's the tragedy

00:27:44.519 --> 00:27:45.220
 most times

00:27:45.220 --> 00:27:46.019
 we see people

00:27:46.019 --> 00:27:46.620
 with needs

00:27:46.620 --> 00:27:47.099
 who are hurting

00:27:47.099 --> 00:27:48.220
 and we just go

00:27:48.220 --> 00:27:49.299
 oh that's bad

00:27:49.299 --> 00:27:51.519
 that's bad

00:27:51.519 --> 00:27:51.740
 boy

00:27:51.740 --> 00:27:52.880
 I wish I could

00:27:52.880 --> 00:27:53.240
 do something

00:27:53.240 --> 00:27:53.779
 about that

00:27:53.779 --> 00:27:55.160
 and we just

00:27:55.160 --> 00:27:55.779
 walk right on

00:27:55.779 --> 00:27:58.120
 I'm pastor

00:27:58.120 --> 00:27:58.839
 of Western Avenue

00:27:58.839 --> 00:27:59.579
 Baptist Church

00:27:59.579 --> 00:28:00.220
 when this happened

00:28:00.220 --> 00:28:00.539
 I'm about

00:28:00.539 --> 00:28:01.779
 34 years of age

00:28:01.779 --> 00:28:02.940
 there was a lady

00:28:02.940 --> 00:28:03.720
 in our church

00:28:03.720 --> 00:28:04.740
 who was chronically

00:28:04.740 --> 00:28:05.599
 going in and out

00:28:05.599 --> 00:28:06.019
 of the hospital

00:28:06.019 --> 00:28:06.700
 all the time

00:28:06.700 --> 00:28:09.399
 and she wasn't

00:28:09.399 --> 00:28:10.399
 sick a whole lot

00:28:10.399 --> 00:28:10.660
 of times

00:28:10.660 --> 00:28:11.399
 she just loved

00:28:11.399 --> 00:28:12.420
 doctors and hospitals

00:28:12.420 --> 00:28:14.639
 and so she's about

00:28:14.639 --> 00:28:15.839
 45 miles away

00:28:15.839 --> 00:28:17.200
 and I got to go see her

00:28:17.200 --> 00:28:17.740
 and it's been

00:28:17.740 --> 00:28:18.259
 one of the most

00:28:18.259 --> 00:28:19.200
 horrendous weeks

00:28:19.200 --> 00:28:20.759
 in my life

00:28:20.759 --> 00:28:21.339
 to that point

00:28:21.339 --> 00:28:22.680
 in time as a pastor

00:28:22.680 --> 00:28:24.339
 so I'm just

00:28:24.339 --> 00:28:25.279
 wore slap out

00:28:25.279 --> 00:28:26.399
 I've slept very little

00:28:26.399 --> 00:28:26.879
 this week

00:28:26.879 --> 00:28:28.099
 and I'm in my car

00:28:28.099 --> 00:28:28.759
 and I'm driving

00:28:28.759 --> 00:28:29.539
 to Winston-Salem

00:28:29.539 --> 00:28:30.440
 and I can remember

00:28:30.440 --> 00:28:30.819
 the conversation

00:28:30.819 --> 00:28:31.599
 it's been many many

00:28:31.599 --> 00:28:32.259
 years ago

00:28:32.259 --> 00:28:33.559
 about half a lifetime

00:28:33.559 --> 00:28:33.960
 ago

00:28:33.960 --> 00:28:35.439
 and yeah I remember

00:28:35.439 --> 00:28:36.179
 very distinctly

00:28:36.179 --> 00:28:37.720
 I'm having a pity party

00:28:37.720 --> 00:28:38.259
 have any of y'all

00:28:38.259 --> 00:28:38.879
 ever done that

00:28:38.879 --> 00:28:40.659
 I'm the only

00:28:40.659 --> 00:28:41.539
 invited guest

00:28:41.539 --> 00:28:42.159
 and I'm just

00:28:42.159 --> 00:28:43.119
 wallowing in it

00:28:43.119 --> 00:28:44.220
 I'm just thinking

00:28:44.220 --> 00:28:44.939
 poor me

00:28:44.939 --> 00:28:46.039
 I'm so tired

00:28:46.039 --> 00:28:46.799
 I'm hungry

00:28:46.799 --> 00:28:48.200
 I haven't slept

00:28:48.200 --> 00:28:49.240
 they're just running

00:28:49.240 --> 00:28:49.799
 me ragged

00:28:49.799 --> 00:28:50.299
 I'm going over

00:28:50.299 --> 00:28:50.879
 to see somebody

00:28:50.879 --> 00:28:51.379
 who I need

00:28:51.379 --> 00:28:51.839
 the bed worse

00:28:51.839 --> 00:28:52.480
 than they need it

00:28:52.480 --> 00:28:54.119
 and I'm riding

00:28:54.119 --> 00:28:54.619
 over there

00:28:54.619 --> 00:28:57.079
 and I pull up

00:28:57.079 --> 00:28:58.019
 into the parking lot

00:28:58.019 --> 00:28:59.079
 and I have to park

00:28:59.079 --> 00:29:00.579
 two floors up

00:29:00.579 --> 00:29:01.639
 and that's an

00:29:01.639 --> 00:29:02.159
 aggravation

00:29:02.159 --> 00:29:02.740
 and I get out

00:29:02.740 --> 00:29:03.299
 and I'm walking

00:29:03.299 --> 00:29:03.759
 a long way

00:29:03.759 --> 00:29:04.299
 to the hospital

00:29:04.299 --> 00:29:05.500
 big huge hospital

00:29:05.500 --> 00:29:06.159
 in Winston-Salem

00:29:06.159 --> 00:29:07.359
 and I get to the

00:29:07.359 --> 00:29:08.599
 back door of the hospital

00:29:08.599 --> 00:29:09.159
 and it's got these

00:29:09.159 --> 00:29:09.899
 electric doors

00:29:09.899 --> 00:29:10.220
 you know

00:29:10.220 --> 00:29:11.619
 and I'm in a hurry

00:29:11.619 --> 00:29:12.179
 because I just want

00:29:12.179 --> 00:29:12.619
 to get in there

00:29:12.619 --> 00:29:13.059
 and see her

00:29:13.059 --> 00:29:13.799
 and get out of there

00:29:13.799 --> 00:29:15.199
 bless the Lord Jesus

00:29:15.199 --> 00:29:17.339
 and I'm just

00:29:17.339 --> 00:29:19.000
 I'm just getting in

00:29:19.000 --> 00:29:19.519
 and getting out

00:29:19.519 --> 00:29:20.879
 and just doing my job

00:29:20.879 --> 00:29:21.099
 right

00:29:21.099 --> 00:29:22.879
 and just as I start

00:29:22.879 --> 00:29:23.379
 in that door

00:29:23.379 --> 00:29:24.240
 and the electric door

00:29:24.240 --> 00:29:24.599
 opens

00:29:24.599 --> 00:29:25.460
 there's a lady

00:29:25.460 --> 00:29:26.399
 with a kid

00:29:26.399 --> 00:29:26.859
 in a wheelchair

00:29:26.859 --> 00:29:28.139
 and she's pushing him out

00:29:28.140 --> 00:29:29.180
 and I just nearly

00:29:29.180 --> 00:29:29.740
 run right over

00:29:29.740 --> 00:29:30.440
 the top of him

00:29:30.440 --> 00:29:31.620
 so I did like

00:29:31.620 --> 00:29:32.080
 any of you

00:29:32.080 --> 00:29:32.640
 I stop

00:29:32.640 --> 00:29:33.220
 I apologize

00:29:33.220 --> 00:29:34.100
 and I back up

00:29:34.100 --> 00:29:34.920
 and I just get out

00:29:34.920 --> 00:29:35.040
 of there

00:29:35.040 --> 00:29:35.300
 and wait

00:29:35.300 --> 00:29:35.759
 and wait

00:29:35.759 --> 00:29:37.220
 and she pushes

00:29:37.220 --> 00:29:38.380
 this little boy out

00:29:38.380 --> 00:29:40.180
 she's about my wife's age

00:29:40.180 --> 00:29:41.040
 and the little boy

00:29:41.040 --> 00:29:41.600
 is about the age

00:29:41.600 --> 00:29:42.380
 of my little boy

00:29:42.380 --> 00:29:45.259
 about seven years of age

00:29:45.259 --> 00:29:45.960
 and he's sitting

00:29:45.960 --> 00:29:46.620
 in this wheelchair

00:29:46.620 --> 00:29:48.200
 and he's got

00:29:48.200 --> 00:29:49.320
 hospital gown on

00:29:49.320 --> 00:29:50.940
 but a baseball cap

00:29:50.940 --> 00:29:51.380
 one of these

00:29:51.380 --> 00:29:52.759
 plastic baseball caps

00:29:52.759 --> 00:29:54.680
 and you can't help

00:29:54.680 --> 00:29:55.140
 but notice

00:29:55.140 --> 00:29:56.259
 all his hair is gone

00:29:56.259 --> 00:29:57.819
 and he's got those

00:29:57.819 --> 00:29:58.859
 marks that indicate

00:29:58.859 --> 00:30:00.339
 he's a radiation

00:30:00.339 --> 00:30:02.039
 treatment patient

00:30:02.039 --> 00:30:04.259
 and so

00:30:04.259 --> 00:30:05.359
 I just stand back

00:30:05.359 --> 00:30:07.019
 and she pushes him out

00:30:07.019 --> 00:30:08.720
 and they go out here

00:30:08.720 --> 00:30:09.920
 to that divider

00:30:09.920 --> 00:30:11.160
 and there's a little wall

00:30:11.160 --> 00:30:12.099
 and she sits on the wall

00:30:12.099 --> 00:30:13.019
 and he's there in sunshine

00:30:13.019 --> 00:30:13.900
 and they're just out

00:30:13.900 --> 00:30:14.740
 soaking up sunshine

00:30:14.740 --> 00:30:17.559
 and I stand there

00:30:17.559 --> 00:30:19.279
 for about 30 seconds

00:30:19.279 --> 00:30:20.599
 and watch that lady

00:30:20.599 --> 00:30:22.299
 I remember

00:30:22.299 --> 00:30:23.539
 just big tears

00:30:23.539 --> 00:30:24.379
 just pouring down

00:30:24.379 --> 00:30:25.099
 my face

00:30:25.099 --> 00:30:26.779
 and I thought

00:30:26.779 --> 00:30:27.659
 you big baby

00:30:27.659 --> 00:30:30.179
 you're complaining

00:30:30.179 --> 00:30:30.859
 about this

00:30:30.859 --> 00:30:31.539
 and about that

00:30:31.539 --> 00:30:32.539
 and how hard you got it

00:30:32.539 --> 00:30:33.359
 you don't know

00:30:33.359 --> 00:30:34.019
 what trouble is

00:30:34.019 --> 00:30:34.819
 that's trouble

00:30:34.819 --> 00:30:38.099
 or can you put yourself

00:30:38.099 --> 00:30:39.279
 in that mama's shoes

00:30:39.279 --> 00:30:39.959
 she's sitting there

00:30:39.959 --> 00:30:40.939
 saying nice things

00:30:40.939 --> 00:30:41.539
 and smiling

00:30:41.539 --> 00:30:42.799
 and trying to cheer up her boy

00:30:42.799 --> 00:30:44.579
 but on the inside

00:30:44.579 --> 00:30:45.519
 can you imagine

00:30:45.519 --> 00:30:46.259
 the turmoil

00:30:46.259 --> 00:30:47.219
 and the heartache

00:30:47.219 --> 00:30:48.000
 and the hurt

00:30:48.000 --> 00:30:49.059
 and the fear

00:30:49.059 --> 00:30:50.500
 and the anxiety

00:30:50.500 --> 00:30:51.740
 that's going on

00:30:51.740 --> 00:30:52.859
 inside that lady

00:30:52.859 --> 00:30:56.200
 and that's what

00:30:56.200 --> 00:30:57.500
 empathy looks like

00:30:57.500 --> 00:30:58.799
 it's when you don't

00:30:58.799 --> 00:30:59.460
 just see it

00:30:59.460 --> 00:31:01.259
 when you stop long enough

00:31:01.259 --> 00:31:02.700
 to just insert yourself

00:31:02.700 --> 00:31:03.299
 in their place

00:31:03.299 --> 00:31:03.839
 and I'm going to tell you

00:31:03.839 --> 00:31:03.980
 something

00:31:03.980 --> 00:31:04.660
 every one of you

00:31:04.660 --> 00:31:05.680
 got friends right now

00:31:05.680 --> 00:31:06.680
 who've got cancer

00:31:06.680 --> 00:31:07.700
 they got a heart problem

00:31:07.700 --> 00:31:09.180
 they don't have money

00:31:09.180 --> 00:31:11.420
 a lot of us in this room

00:31:11.420 --> 00:31:12.839
 most of us in this room

00:31:12.839 --> 00:31:13.579
 you may have had

00:31:13.579 --> 00:31:14.160
 this experience

00:31:14.160 --> 00:31:14.640
 at some time

00:31:14.640 --> 00:31:15.480
 where you didn't know

00:31:15.480 --> 00:31:16.380
 where your next check

00:31:16.380 --> 00:31:17.019
 was coming from

00:31:17.019 --> 00:31:17.660
 your next meal

00:31:17.660 --> 00:31:18.220
 was coming from

00:31:18.220 --> 00:31:18.859
 how you're going to pay

00:31:18.859 --> 00:31:19.559
 the rent

00:31:19.559 --> 00:31:20.359
 at the end of the month

00:31:20.359 --> 00:31:21.899
 but most of us

00:31:21.899 --> 00:31:22.479
 get through life

00:31:22.479 --> 00:31:23.219
 without that

00:31:23.219 --> 00:31:24.459
 it may have happened

00:31:24.459 --> 00:31:25.319
 once or twice

00:31:25.319 --> 00:31:26.059
 but most of us

00:31:26.059 --> 00:31:27.159
 we live free of that

00:31:27.159 --> 00:31:27.699
 but I'm going to tell you

00:31:27.699 --> 00:31:27.839
 something

00:31:27.839 --> 00:31:28.859
 there's some folk

00:31:28.859 --> 00:31:29.500
 out there

00:31:29.500 --> 00:31:31.639
 they live that way

00:31:31.639 --> 00:31:33.240
 every day of their lives

00:31:33.240 --> 00:31:35.459
 there are folk out there

00:31:35.459 --> 00:31:36.399
 who have prescriptions

00:31:36.399 --> 00:31:36.919
 this morning

00:31:36.919 --> 00:31:37.559
 that they need

00:31:37.559 --> 00:31:38.099
 to have fill

00:31:38.099 --> 00:31:39.379
 but they can't get them

00:31:39.379 --> 00:31:39.819
 filled because

00:31:39.819 --> 00:31:40.259
 they don't have

00:31:40.259 --> 00:31:40.879
 the money to do it

00:31:40.879 --> 00:31:41.740
 they're making choices

00:31:41.740 --> 00:31:42.639
 about do I do this

00:31:42.639 --> 00:31:43.539
 or do I do that

00:31:43.539 --> 00:31:44.839
 and that's something

00:31:44.839 --> 00:31:45.279
 a lot of us

00:31:45.279 --> 00:31:45.979
 we just don't know

00:31:45.979 --> 00:31:46.939
 anything about that

00:31:46.940 --> 00:31:49.460
 and that's the beginning

00:31:49.460 --> 00:31:50.000
 of love

00:31:50.000 --> 00:31:51.480
 if you want to have love

00:31:51.480 --> 00:31:52.620
 that increases

00:31:52.620 --> 00:31:53.420
 and overflows

00:31:53.420 --> 00:31:54.259
 you've got to get

00:31:54.259 --> 00:31:54.840
 the place you can

00:31:54.840 --> 00:31:55.920
 empathize with people

00:31:55.920 --> 00:31:57.080
 you see them

00:31:57.080 --> 00:31:58.400
 and you live

00:31:58.400 --> 00:31:59.200
 in their shoes

00:31:59.200 --> 00:32:00.160
 for just a few minutes

00:32:00.160 --> 00:32:00.820
 until you can get

00:32:00.820 --> 00:32:01.320
 your head around

00:32:01.320 --> 00:32:02.700
 here's what I need to do

00:32:02.700 --> 00:32:05.279
 here's the third thing

00:32:05.279 --> 00:32:07.019
 I think you can do

00:32:07.019 --> 00:32:07.920
 if you want to increase

00:32:07.920 --> 00:32:08.279
 in love

00:32:08.279 --> 00:32:09.100
 and overflow in love

00:32:09.100 --> 00:32:10.220
 and that's to pray

00:32:10.220 --> 00:32:10.880
 for one another

00:32:10.880 --> 00:32:11.420
 James

00:32:11.420 --> 00:32:12.620
 remember I mentioned James

00:32:12.620 --> 00:32:13.500
 we're going to look at it

00:32:13.500 --> 00:32:14.600
 more closely next week

00:32:14.599 --> 00:32:15.859
 but James in chapter 5

00:32:15.859 --> 00:32:16.899
 and verse 16 says

00:32:16.899 --> 00:32:19.199
 pray for one another

00:32:19.199 --> 00:32:21.500
 do that continually

00:32:21.500 --> 00:32:23.740
 and look up and listen

00:32:23.740 --> 00:32:26.719
 I don't want to beat up

00:32:26.719 --> 00:32:27.419
 on anybody this morning

00:32:27.419 --> 00:32:28.359
 but you know so often

00:32:28.359 --> 00:32:29.719
 what we take that to mean

00:32:29.719 --> 00:32:31.199
 that in Sunday school

00:32:31.199 --> 00:32:31.959
 we hear about somebody

00:32:31.959 --> 00:32:32.480
 who's sick

00:32:32.480 --> 00:32:33.119
 and we say yeah

00:32:33.119 --> 00:32:33.859
 I'll pray for them

00:32:33.859 --> 00:32:35.719
 oh yeah I'll pray for them

00:32:35.719 --> 00:32:37.159
 a lot of times

00:32:37.159 --> 00:32:37.740
 we never give it

00:32:37.740 --> 00:32:38.419
 another thought

00:32:38.419 --> 00:32:41.539
 we say sometimes

00:32:41.539 --> 00:32:43.139
 when we say

00:32:43.139 --> 00:32:44.000
 I pray for you

00:32:44.000 --> 00:32:44.439
 it just means

00:32:44.440 --> 00:32:45.460
 you crossed my mind

00:32:45.460 --> 00:32:46.220
 I thought about you

00:32:46.220 --> 00:32:48.080
 but I didn't really

00:32:48.080 --> 00:32:48.779
 pray for you

00:32:48.779 --> 00:32:52.000
 and even how we pray

00:32:52.000 --> 00:32:54.000
 when James says that

00:32:54.000 --> 00:32:54.700
 he didn't mean just

00:32:54.700 --> 00:32:55.400
 to let them pass

00:32:55.400 --> 00:32:56.000
 through your mind

00:32:56.000 --> 00:32:57.480
 to allow their name

00:32:57.480 --> 00:32:58.600
 to fall for your lips

00:32:58.600 --> 00:33:00.080
 okay I mentioned them

00:33:00.080 --> 00:33:01.039
 I'm done with that

00:33:01.039 --> 00:33:02.880
 you know how I think

00:33:02.880 --> 00:33:03.580
 he meant for us

00:33:03.580 --> 00:33:04.019
 to pray

00:33:04.019 --> 00:33:06.160
 that we stop

00:33:06.160 --> 00:33:06.980
 and put ourselves

00:33:06.980 --> 00:33:07.920
 in the shoes

00:33:07.920 --> 00:33:08.580
 and right now

00:33:08.580 --> 00:33:10.080
 well I got a lot of

00:33:10.080 --> 00:33:10.940
 friends that have cancer

00:33:10.940 --> 00:33:12.720
 I'm getting older

00:33:12.720 --> 00:33:13.400
 and a lot of my friends

00:33:13.400 --> 00:33:13.820
 are getting older

00:33:13.819 --> 00:33:14.500
 and they're getting sick

00:33:14.500 --> 00:33:15.559
 I mean close friends

00:33:15.559 --> 00:33:15.919
 to me

00:33:15.919 --> 00:33:17.099
 and I'm going to tell you

00:33:17.099 --> 00:33:18.039
 every night when I pray

00:33:18.039 --> 00:33:18.539
 and in the morning

00:33:18.539 --> 00:33:19.039
 when I pray

00:33:19.039 --> 00:33:19.960
 I try to think

00:33:19.960 --> 00:33:21.039
 what's it like to be

00:33:21.039 --> 00:33:22.799
 and I won't call their name

00:33:22.799 --> 00:33:24.259
 but this particular person

00:33:24.259 --> 00:33:25.819
 what's it like

00:33:25.819 --> 00:33:26.679
 to be their wife

00:33:26.679 --> 00:33:28.240
 what's it like

00:33:28.240 --> 00:33:28.899
 to have to go get

00:33:28.899 --> 00:33:29.559
 chemotherapy

00:33:29.559 --> 00:33:30.559
 and radiation

00:33:30.559 --> 00:33:32.379
 what's it like

00:33:32.379 --> 00:33:33.519
 to be so sick

00:33:33.519 --> 00:33:35.099
 you think you're going to die

00:33:35.099 --> 00:33:35.819
 and then you're fearful

00:33:35.819 --> 00:33:36.539
 you might

00:33:36.539 --> 00:33:38.419
 what's it like

00:33:38.419 --> 00:33:39.220
 to be like

00:33:39.220 --> 00:33:39.960
 what's it like

00:33:39.960 --> 00:33:40.960
 to see your spouse

00:33:40.960 --> 00:33:41.620
 slipping away

00:33:41.620 --> 00:33:42.460
 from you

00:33:42.460 --> 00:33:44.600
 what's it like

00:33:44.600 --> 00:33:46.000
 and to pray

00:33:46.000 --> 00:33:46.920
 from that perspective

00:33:46.920 --> 00:33:47.340
 God

00:33:47.340 --> 00:33:48.880
 give them peace

00:33:48.880 --> 00:33:50.519
 let them think

00:33:50.519 --> 00:33:50.920
 of something

00:33:50.920 --> 00:33:52.100
 other than their cancer

00:33:52.100 --> 00:33:53.000
 or their problem

00:33:53.000 --> 00:33:53.860
 or their sickness

00:33:53.860 --> 00:33:54.779
 or whatever it is

00:33:54.779 --> 00:33:55.759
 that's wrong in their life

00:33:55.759 --> 00:33:56.779
 they got problems

00:33:56.779 --> 00:33:57.299
 with their children

00:33:57.299 --> 00:33:57.920
 or their marriage

00:33:57.920 --> 00:33:58.680
 is falling apart

00:33:58.680 --> 00:34:00.019
 God just let them

00:34:00.019 --> 00:34:00.900
 get free of that

00:34:00.900 --> 00:34:01.640
 for a few minutes

00:34:01.640 --> 00:34:02.480
 would you do that

00:34:02.480 --> 00:34:04.180
 would you intervene

00:34:04.180 --> 00:34:04.740
 somehow

00:34:04.740 --> 00:34:06.500
 and help them

00:34:06.500 --> 00:34:08.679
 I'm going to tell you

00:34:08.679 --> 00:34:09.980
 if you'll begin

00:34:09.980 --> 00:34:10.699
 to do that

00:34:10.699 --> 00:34:11.659
 more folks

00:34:11.659 --> 00:34:12.420
 will begin to notice

00:34:12.420 --> 00:34:13.119
 the first baptist

00:34:13.119 --> 00:34:13.639
 picking the boy

00:34:13.639 --> 00:34:14.239
 those folks

00:34:14.239 --> 00:34:14.980
 they don't just say

00:34:14.980 --> 00:34:15.539
 they pray for

00:34:15.539 --> 00:34:17.099
 they really pray for you

00:34:17.099 --> 00:34:18.780
 they really love you

00:34:18.780 --> 00:34:20.440
 they're growing

00:34:20.440 --> 00:34:20.940
 in their life

00:34:20.940 --> 00:34:21.760
 and they're abounding

00:34:21.760 --> 00:34:22.699
 in their life

00:34:22.699 --> 00:34:24.179
 which leads me

00:34:24.179 --> 00:34:24.900
 to the fourth thing

00:34:24.900 --> 00:34:25.440
 and this is something

00:34:25.440 --> 00:34:26.139
 I really like

00:34:26.139 --> 00:34:27.780
 it's pretty simple

00:34:27.780 --> 00:34:28.119
 you ready

00:34:28.119 --> 00:34:29.000
 do something

00:34:29.000 --> 00:34:31.039
 do something

00:34:31.039 --> 00:34:33.159
 I want you to listen

00:34:33.159 --> 00:34:33.719
 as I read

00:34:33.719 --> 00:34:35.719
 1 John chapter 3

00:34:35.719 --> 00:34:38.059
 and verse 17

00:34:38.059 --> 00:34:40.099
 listen to what

00:34:40.099 --> 00:34:40.779
 John says

00:34:40.779 --> 00:34:42.179
 1 John chapter 3

00:34:42.179 --> 00:34:44.059
 and verse 17

00:34:44.059 --> 00:34:46.439
 if anyone has

00:34:46.439 --> 00:34:47.379
 this world's goods

00:34:47.379 --> 00:34:48.299
 and sees his brother

00:34:48.299 --> 00:34:48.799
 in need

00:34:48.799 --> 00:34:49.500
 but shuts off

00:34:49.500 --> 00:34:50.259
 his compassion

00:34:50.259 --> 00:34:50.919
 from him

00:34:50.919 --> 00:34:52.639
 how can God's love

00:34:52.639 --> 00:34:54.659
 reside in him

00:34:54.659 --> 00:34:57.199
 boy

00:34:57.199 --> 00:34:58.480
 I don't know

00:34:58.480 --> 00:34:58.939
 how you'd make it

00:34:58.939 --> 00:34:59.959
 any clearer than that

00:34:59.959 --> 00:35:01.799
 Bob Goff

00:35:01.799 --> 00:35:02.480
 remember that book

00:35:02.480 --> 00:35:02.819
 I mentioned

00:35:02.819 --> 00:35:04.099
 four, five, six weeks ago

00:35:04.099 --> 00:35:04.839
 Bob Goff

00:35:04.840 --> 00:35:06.039
 I'm telling you that

00:35:06.039 --> 00:35:06.559
 again so you can

00:35:06.559 --> 00:35:07.079
 write it down

00:35:07.079 --> 00:35:08.180
 Bob Goff

00:35:08.180 --> 00:35:09.660
 Love Does

00:35:09.660 --> 00:35:10.660
 is the book he authored

00:35:10.660 --> 00:35:12.460
 I told you about

00:35:12.460 --> 00:35:13.480
 that book several weeks ago

00:35:13.480 --> 00:35:14.100
 one gentleman

00:35:14.100 --> 00:35:15.160
 in the crowd came

00:35:15.160 --> 00:35:15.740
 and said to me

00:35:15.740 --> 00:35:16.160
 the following

00:35:16.160 --> 00:35:16.640
 he said

00:35:16.640 --> 00:35:17.320
 I bought that book

00:35:17.320 --> 00:35:17.900
 I'm not a reader

00:35:17.900 --> 00:35:18.460
 I want to tell you something

00:35:18.460 --> 00:35:19.860
 I finished it in two days

00:35:19.860 --> 00:35:20.880
 he said

00:35:20.880 --> 00:35:21.840
 one of the greatest books

00:35:21.840 --> 00:35:22.360
 I've ever read

00:35:22.360 --> 00:35:23.200
 if you haven't read it

00:35:23.200 --> 00:35:24.160
 you ought to get that book

00:35:24.160 --> 00:35:24.940
 I'm telling you

00:35:24.940 --> 00:35:25.860
 you'll laugh

00:35:25.860 --> 00:35:26.300
 you'll cry

00:35:26.300 --> 00:35:27.100
 it's a great

00:35:27.100 --> 00:35:28.059
 great great read

00:35:28.059 --> 00:35:28.860
 Love Does

00:35:28.860 --> 00:35:29.940
 and the whole basis

00:35:29.940 --> 00:35:30.660
 of it is this

00:35:30.660 --> 00:35:31.860
 that love is not

00:35:31.860 --> 00:35:32.660
 something you look at

00:35:32.659 --> 00:35:33.460
 somebody and say

00:35:33.460 --> 00:35:34.539
 with goo goo eyes

00:35:34.539 --> 00:35:38.179
 when you love somebody

00:35:38.179 --> 00:35:40.319
 you act

00:35:40.319 --> 00:35:42.440
 love is an action

00:35:42.440 --> 00:35:43.299
 it's not a thought

00:35:43.299 --> 00:35:44.599
 it's not a suggestion

00:35:44.599 --> 00:35:45.440
 it's not a word

00:35:45.440 --> 00:35:46.420
 it's not a proposal

00:35:46.420 --> 00:35:48.420
 it's an action

00:35:48.420 --> 00:35:49.219
 you love

00:35:49.219 --> 00:35:50.440
 folk by doing

00:35:50.440 --> 00:35:52.079
 so do something

00:35:52.079 --> 00:35:53.299
 go cut somebody's grass

00:35:53.299 --> 00:35:54.039
 if you love them

00:35:54.039 --> 00:35:55.739
 take them a meal

00:35:55.739 --> 00:35:56.679
 this afternoon

00:35:56.679 --> 00:35:57.719
 if you love them

00:35:57.719 --> 00:35:59.379
 pay their light bill

00:35:59.379 --> 00:36:00.259
 if you love them

00:36:00.260 --> 00:36:01.920
 take care of that

00:36:01.920 --> 00:36:03.040
 prescription for them

00:36:03.040 --> 00:36:04.240
 if you love them

00:36:04.240 --> 00:36:05.860
 keep their kids

00:36:05.860 --> 00:36:06.600
 and give them a night

00:36:06.600 --> 00:36:07.200
 on the town

00:36:07.200 --> 00:36:08.880
 if you love them

00:36:08.880 --> 00:36:09.740
 you understand what I'm saying

00:36:09.740 --> 00:36:11.140
 that's what real love

00:36:11.140 --> 00:36:11.540
 looks like

00:36:11.540 --> 00:36:12.380
 it acts

00:36:12.380 --> 00:36:14.160
 it does something

00:36:14.160 --> 00:36:16.420
 the church

00:36:16.420 --> 00:36:17.680
 every day

00:36:17.680 --> 00:36:18.780
 it exists

00:36:18.780 --> 00:36:20.920
 has tons

00:36:20.920 --> 00:36:22.000
 of opportunities

00:36:22.000 --> 00:36:24.020
 to show the world

00:36:24.020 --> 00:36:24.600
 to demonstrate

00:36:24.600 --> 00:36:24.900
 the world

00:36:24.900 --> 00:36:26.080
 that we love them

00:36:26.080 --> 00:36:27.120
 but can I tell you something

00:36:27.120 --> 00:36:28.580
 we just seldom

00:36:28.580 --> 00:36:29.900
 take those opportunities

00:36:29.900 --> 00:36:33.840
 we let them come

00:36:33.840 --> 00:36:34.820
 and we let them go

00:36:34.820 --> 00:36:37.160
 instead of seizing

00:36:37.160 --> 00:36:37.800
 the moment

00:36:37.800 --> 00:36:39.599
 and I'm going to tell you something

00:36:39.599 --> 00:36:41.000
 every time I see the church

00:36:41.000 --> 00:36:41.740
 be the church

00:36:41.740 --> 00:36:44.260
 boy my head swells

00:36:44.260 --> 00:36:44.940
 with pride

00:36:44.940 --> 00:36:47.139
 and every time I see

00:36:47.139 --> 00:36:47.639
 the church

00:36:47.639 --> 00:36:48.780
 not be the church

00:36:48.780 --> 00:36:50.519
 as a pastor

00:36:50.519 --> 00:36:51.619
 it always broke my heart

00:36:51.619 --> 00:36:54.760
 I'm preaching revival

00:36:54.760 --> 00:36:56.840
 about 23

00:36:56.840 --> 00:36:57.920
 or 24 years ago

00:36:57.920 --> 00:36:59.039
 best I can remember

00:36:59.039 --> 00:37:01.139
 in a community

00:37:01.139 --> 00:37:03.039
 a number of miles

00:37:03.039 --> 00:37:03.639
 from Greer

00:37:03.639 --> 00:37:05.920
 the guy who calls me

00:37:05.920 --> 00:37:06.639
 and asks me to preach

00:37:06.639 --> 00:37:07.420
 I've never met

00:37:07.420 --> 00:37:08.980
 pretty unusual

00:37:08.980 --> 00:37:10.019
 I got a few invitations

00:37:10.019 --> 00:37:10.440
 like that

00:37:10.440 --> 00:37:11.340
 but usually there were guys

00:37:11.340 --> 00:37:11.920
 that I knew

00:37:11.920 --> 00:37:12.719
 guys like Fred

00:37:12.719 --> 00:37:13.019
 would say

00:37:13.019 --> 00:37:13.599
 would you come over

00:37:13.599 --> 00:37:14.500
 and would you preach for me

00:37:14.500 --> 00:37:16.099
 this guy that I'd never met

00:37:16.099 --> 00:37:16.900
 didn't know his name

00:37:16.900 --> 00:37:17.860
 didn't know anything about it

00:37:17.860 --> 00:37:19.039
 he calls me out of the blue

00:37:19.039 --> 00:37:19.480
 and he says

00:37:19.480 --> 00:37:20.360
 I've heard about you

00:37:20.360 --> 00:37:21.340
 could you come and preach

00:37:21.340 --> 00:37:21.980
 I said yeah

00:37:21.980 --> 00:37:22.940
 he gives me the dates

00:37:22.940 --> 00:37:24.000
 I'm going to be there

00:37:24.000 --> 00:37:24.699
 Sunday night

00:37:24.699 --> 00:37:25.539
 through a Wednesday

00:37:25.539 --> 00:37:27.219
 so I go and I preach

00:37:27.219 --> 00:37:28.659
 I preach Sunday night

00:37:28.659 --> 00:37:29.739
 Monday Tuesday

00:37:29.739 --> 00:37:31.299
 and when Wednesday comes

00:37:31.299 --> 00:37:32.519
 I get there

00:37:32.519 --> 00:37:33.239
 and he comes over to me

00:37:33.239 --> 00:37:33.719
 and sits down

00:37:33.719 --> 00:37:34.159
 and he says

00:37:34.159 --> 00:37:36.279
 tells me he's enjoyed it

00:37:36.279 --> 00:37:36.639
 and he says

00:37:36.639 --> 00:37:37.659
 could you go with me

00:37:37.659 --> 00:37:38.239
 to supper tonight

00:37:38.239 --> 00:37:39.219
 after this is over

00:37:39.219 --> 00:37:40.359
 I said I'd be glad to

00:37:40.359 --> 00:37:41.879
 so when it was over

00:37:41.879 --> 00:37:43.139
 his wife couldn't be there

00:37:43.139 --> 00:37:43.539
 that night

00:37:43.539 --> 00:37:44.279
 and he and I

00:37:44.279 --> 00:37:45.000
 go to supper

00:37:45.000 --> 00:37:45.939
 in this little fish camp

00:37:45.939 --> 00:37:47.359
 we're sitting there

00:37:47.359 --> 00:37:48.899
 we're ordering our meal

00:37:48.899 --> 00:37:50.119
 and we're just waiting

00:37:50.119 --> 00:37:50.679
 on the waitress

00:37:50.679 --> 00:37:51.359
 to bring our food

00:37:51.359 --> 00:37:53.099
 it's kind of awkward

00:37:53.099 --> 00:37:53.739
 it's just real

00:37:53.739 --> 00:37:54.779
 unusually silent

00:37:54.780 --> 00:37:55.480
 and he says

00:37:55.480 --> 00:37:57.080
 has anybody told you

00:37:57.080 --> 00:37:57.540
 about me

00:37:57.540 --> 00:37:59.220
 my situation

00:37:59.220 --> 00:38:01.720
 I said no

00:38:01.720 --> 00:38:03.220
 I felt a little bit odd

00:38:03.220 --> 00:38:03.860
 I said no

00:38:03.860 --> 00:38:04.380
 I don't know

00:38:04.380 --> 00:38:05.019
 what you're talking about

00:38:05.019 --> 00:38:06.380
 he says you don't know

00:38:06.380 --> 00:38:07.420
 anything about my situation

00:38:07.420 --> 00:38:07.760
 at all

00:38:07.760 --> 00:38:08.519
 no

00:38:08.519 --> 00:38:10.519
 he says you're probably

00:38:10.519 --> 00:38:11.140
 the only preacher

00:38:11.140 --> 00:38:11.800
 in South Carolina

00:38:11.800 --> 00:38:12.540
 who doesn't

00:38:12.540 --> 00:38:13.980
 I want to tell you something

00:38:13.980 --> 00:38:15.500
 I really didn't

00:38:15.500 --> 00:38:16.160
 I didn't know him

00:38:16.160 --> 00:38:16.700
 from Adam

00:38:16.700 --> 00:38:18.400
 other than I'd met him

00:38:18.400 --> 00:38:19.320
 for those three days

00:38:19.320 --> 00:38:20.920
 he says

00:38:20.920 --> 00:38:21.900
 can I tell you my story

00:38:21.900 --> 00:38:22.720
 I'd be glad to

00:38:22.720 --> 00:38:24.000
 to listen

00:38:24.000 --> 00:38:26.059
 he tells me

00:38:26.059 --> 00:38:27.920
 short as I can make it

00:38:27.920 --> 00:38:30.000
 a few years back

00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:31.619
 a couple years back

00:38:31.619 --> 00:38:33.460
 from when this happened

00:38:33.460 --> 00:38:34.179
 years ago

00:38:34.179 --> 00:38:35.500
 he said

00:38:35.500 --> 00:38:36.820
 I got a 19 year old daughter

00:38:36.820 --> 00:38:39.380
 she just got out

00:38:39.380 --> 00:38:39.960
 of high school

00:38:39.960 --> 00:38:42.199
 she's dating

00:38:42.199 --> 00:38:43.219
 our youth minister

00:38:43.219 --> 00:38:45.340
 and

00:38:45.340 --> 00:38:46.800
 she suddenly

00:38:46.800 --> 00:38:47.840
 begins to develop

00:38:47.840 --> 00:38:48.900
 these health problems

00:38:48.900 --> 00:38:51.199
 my wife

00:38:51.199 --> 00:38:52.219
 asked her

00:38:52.219 --> 00:38:53.219
 what's going on

00:38:53.219 --> 00:38:54.679
 she just

00:38:54.679 --> 00:38:55.739
 evades it

00:38:55.739 --> 00:38:56.819
 leads us down

00:38:56.819 --> 00:38:57.619
 this rabbit trail

00:38:57.619 --> 00:38:59.519
 but she's not

00:38:59.519 --> 00:39:00.659
 changing in size

00:39:00.659 --> 00:39:00.919
 any

00:39:00.919 --> 00:39:02.500
 that we can tell

00:39:02.500 --> 00:39:03.899
 she's camouflaging

00:39:03.899 --> 00:39:04.739
 it with her clothes

00:39:04.739 --> 00:39:06.980
 and one Saturday night

00:39:06.980 --> 00:39:08.679
 she's so deathly ill

00:39:08.679 --> 00:39:09.480
 we think it must be

00:39:09.480 --> 00:39:10.019
 a gallbladder

00:39:10.019 --> 00:39:10.839
 appendicitis

00:39:10.839 --> 00:39:12.859
 so at 3 in the morning

00:39:12.859 --> 00:39:13.679
 when we can't

00:39:13.679 --> 00:39:14.480
 manage it anymore

00:39:14.480 --> 00:39:16.679
 we rush her to

00:39:16.679 --> 00:39:17.799
 the hospital

00:39:17.799 --> 00:39:18.659
 local hospital

00:39:18.659 --> 00:39:20.439
 we get there

00:39:20.440 --> 00:39:21.500
 and she's back

00:39:21.500 --> 00:39:22.220
 there just a few

00:39:22.220 --> 00:39:22.619
 minutes

00:39:22.619 --> 00:39:24.220
 and this doctor

00:39:24.220 --> 00:39:24.840
 comes out

00:39:24.840 --> 00:39:25.659
 and he says

00:39:25.659 --> 00:39:27.079
 pastor can I

00:39:27.079 --> 00:39:27.480
 talk with you

00:39:27.480 --> 00:39:28.220
 he says yes sir

00:39:28.220 --> 00:39:30.099
 and he sits down

00:39:30.099 --> 00:39:30.559
 he says I don't

00:39:30.559 --> 00:39:31.039
 know how to tell

00:39:31.039 --> 00:39:31.500
 you this

00:39:31.500 --> 00:39:32.400
 he said but your

00:39:32.400 --> 00:39:33.240
 daughter is about

00:39:33.240 --> 00:39:34.059
 8 months pregnant

00:39:34.059 --> 00:39:36.079
 and she's in labor

00:39:36.079 --> 00:39:36.579
 and she's going to

00:39:36.579 --> 00:39:37.200
 have this baby

00:39:37.200 --> 00:39:37.740
 tonight

00:39:37.740 --> 00:39:40.099
 he said me and my

00:39:40.099 --> 00:39:40.820
 wife look at each

00:39:40.820 --> 00:39:41.780
 other and we cannot

00:39:41.780 --> 00:39:42.920
 believe what we're

00:39:42.920 --> 00:39:43.639
 hearing

00:39:43.639 --> 00:39:44.940
 and I'm going to

00:39:44.940 --> 00:39:45.559
 tell you I've sat

00:39:45.559 --> 00:39:46.139
 across from a lot

00:39:46.139 --> 00:39:46.539
 of people

00:39:46.539 --> 00:39:47.639
 pretty good about

00:39:47.639 --> 00:39:48.159
 telling me

00:39:48.159 --> 00:39:49.119
 telling when people

00:39:49.119 --> 00:39:49.639
 are telling me the

00:39:49.639 --> 00:39:50.339
 truth and they're

00:39:50.339 --> 00:39:51.639
 telling me a lie

00:39:51.639 --> 00:39:52.679
 I've done this so

00:39:52.679 --> 00:39:53.019
 long

00:39:53.019 --> 00:39:54.739
 I can look in his

00:39:54.739 --> 00:39:55.539
 face and just tell

00:39:55.539 --> 00:39:57.500
 I don't understand

00:39:57.500 --> 00:39:58.460
 that but he's telling

00:39:58.460 --> 00:39:59.139
 me the absolute

00:39:59.139 --> 00:39:59.719
 truth

00:39:59.719 --> 00:40:02.039
 he says we're

00:40:02.039 --> 00:40:02.699
 grief stricken

00:40:02.699 --> 00:40:04.460
 he said we're just

00:40:04.460 --> 00:40:05.379
 in shock the baby's

00:40:05.379 --> 00:40:06.039
 born a few hours

00:40:06.039 --> 00:40:06.339
 later

00:40:06.339 --> 00:40:07.980
 it's a Saturday

00:40:07.980 --> 00:40:09.019
 night so I haven't

00:40:09.019 --> 00:40:09.759
 been to bed all

00:40:09.759 --> 00:40:10.399
 night long

00:40:10.399 --> 00:40:11.779
 I've been up with

00:40:11.779 --> 00:40:12.579
 my daughter now I

00:40:12.579 --> 00:40:13.279
 have a baby about

00:40:13.279 --> 00:40:13.819
 8 in the morning

00:40:13.819 --> 00:40:15.599
 I show up at church

00:40:15.599 --> 00:40:16.599
 and the clothes I

00:40:16.599 --> 00:40:17.699
 worn to the hospital

00:40:17.699 --> 00:40:19.339
 the church service

00:40:19.339 --> 00:40:20.339
 begins but I tell

00:40:20.339 --> 00:40:21.699
 the guy I'm going

00:40:21.699 --> 00:40:22.659
 to take charge and

00:40:22.659 --> 00:40:24.259
 I just got something

00:40:24.259 --> 00:40:24.799
 I got to tell the

00:40:24.799 --> 00:40:25.359
 congregation he

00:40:25.359 --> 00:40:26.119
 stands up and he

00:40:26.119 --> 00:40:26.899
 tells the congregation

00:40:26.899 --> 00:40:28.759
 just what I told you

00:40:28.759 --> 00:40:30.699
 and he says I want to

00:40:30.699 --> 00:40:31.319
 tell you I didn't know

00:40:31.319 --> 00:40:32.079
 about this I'm

00:40:32.079 --> 00:40:33.039
 embarrassed about this

00:40:33.039 --> 00:40:34.879
 but I understand if

00:40:34.879 --> 00:40:35.399
 you want me to

00:40:35.399 --> 00:40:35.899
 resign

00:40:35.899 --> 00:40:37.639
 he said we haven't

00:40:37.639 --> 00:40:38.539
 tried to hide anything

00:40:38.539 --> 00:40:39.460
 from you but I'm

00:40:39.460 --> 00:40:41.359
 just I'm finding this

00:40:41.359 --> 00:40:42.219
 out for myself and I'm

00:40:42.219 --> 00:40:43.319
 tired and I can't do

00:40:43.319 --> 00:40:44.059
 this this morning

00:40:44.059 --> 00:40:45.939
 so there's not going

00:40:45.939 --> 00:40:46.539
 to be any preaching

00:40:46.539 --> 00:40:48.420
 brother so and so

00:40:48.420 --> 00:40:48.920
 is going to come

00:40:48.920 --> 00:40:49.300
 and he's going to

00:40:49.300 --> 00:40:50.019
 lead us in a song

00:40:50.019 --> 00:40:51.340
 or two you're going

00:40:51.340 --> 00:40:52.360
 to pray and then

00:40:52.360 --> 00:40:53.099
 you're going home

00:40:53.099 --> 00:40:54.860
 but if you want me

00:40:54.860 --> 00:40:56.079
 to resign I'm not

00:40:56.079 --> 00:40:56.759
 going to be here you

00:40:56.759 --> 00:40:57.800
 can talk openly about

00:40:57.800 --> 00:40:58.599
 it among yourselves

00:40:58.599 --> 00:41:00.460
 and I'm going to leave

00:41:00.460 --> 00:41:01.420
 and go back to the

00:41:01.420 --> 00:41:02.139
 hospital be with my

00:41:02.139 --> 00:41:02.820
 wife and daughter

00:41:02.820 --> 00:41:04.420
 he walks out the

00:41:04.420 --> 00:41:05.820
 door he goes to

00:41:05.820 --> 00:41:07.320
 the hospital he stays

00:41:07.320 --> 00:41:08.719
 till about 3 3 30 in

00:41:08.719 --> 00:41:10.079
 the afternoon he gets

00:41:10.079 --> 00:41:11.139
 in his car and he and

00:41:11.139 --> 00:41:11.900
 his wife are going

00:41:11.900 --> 00:41:12.779
 home they're just dead

00:41:12.779 --> 00:41:14.759
 tired he says when I

00:41:14.760 --> 00:41:15.780
 get to the pastoral

00:41:15.780 --> 00:41:17.420
 I start turning in

00:41:17.420 --> 00:41:19.200
 the driveway and as

00:41:19.200 --> 00:41:20.180
 I turn in the driveway

00:41:20.180 --> 00:41:21.960
 I look and they're

00:41:21.960 --> 00:41:23.220
 under our carport it

00:41:23.220 --> 00:41:24.860
 looks like the whole

00:41:24.860 --> 00:41:25.720
 church has gone to

00:41:25.720 --> 00:41:27.660
 Walmart and they

00:41:27.660 --> 00:41:28.900
 bought out everything

00:41:28.900 --> 00:41:30.000
 Walmart had to sell

00:41:30.000 --> 00:41:32.500
 on babies he says the

00:41:32.500 --> 00:41:34.600
 carport is just packed

00:41:34.600 --> 00:41:36.720
 from top to bottom with

00:41:36.720 --> 00:41:37.620
 things that baby could

00:41:37.620 --> 00:41:40.920
 use he said I can't

00:41:40.920 --> 00:41:43.200
 tell you how I felt in

00:41:43.199 --> 00:41:45.599
 my heart I'm going to

00:41:45.599 --> 00:41:48.099
 tell you I sat there

00:41:48.099 --> 00:41:49.559
 listening and I just

00:41:49.559 --> 00:41:51.619
 began to cry I mean

00:41:51.619 --> 00:41:53.139
 I'm emotional I just

00:41:53.139 --> 00:41:55.000
 began to cry you know

00:41:55.000 --> 00:41:56.879
 why I cried not for the

00:41:56.879 --> 00:41:59.199
 hardship he endured I

00:41:59.199 --> 00:42:00.939
 cried because I thought

00:42:00.939 --> 00:42:03.199
 to myself what a

00:42:03.199 --> 00:42:05.259
 beautiful picture of

00:42:05.259 --> 00:42:06.059
 what the church ought to

00:42:06.059 --> 00:42:09.319
 be that's when the

00:42:09.319 --> 00:42:10.539
 church acts like the

00:42:10.539 --> 00:42:13.519
 church right I've seen

00:42:13.519 --> 00:42:14.719
 it so many times be so

00:42:14.719 --> 00:42:17.019
 judgmental and we

00:42:17.019 --> 00:42:18.139
 want to just preach to

00:42:18.139 --> 00:42:19.300
 people and beat up on

00:42:19.300 --> 00:42:20.119
 people and tell them

00:42:20.119 --> 00:42:20.860
 how you shouldn't have

00:42:20.860 --> 00:42:21.559
 done this and you

00:42:21.559 --> 00:42:22.159
 shouldn't have done

00:42:22.159 --> 00:42:24.599
 that when many of us

00:42:24.599 --> 00:42:25.519
 ourselves have found

00:42:25.519 --> 00:42:27.099
 ourselves in sin's path

00:42:27.099 --> 00:42:29.159
 boy we need the mercy

00:42:29.159 --> 00:42:30.119
 and the grace of God

00:42:30.119 --> 00:42:30.860
 bestowed on us and

00:42:30.860 --> 00:42:31.960
 thank God he showed us

00:42:31.960 --> 00:42:33.420
 mercy but why is it we're

00:42:33.420 --> 00:42:34.739
 so slow sometimes to show

00:42:34.739 --> 00:42:35.779
 mercy and grace to other

00:42:35.779 --> 00:42:38.239
 people it's a beautiful

00:42:38.239 --> 00:42:39.719
 thing when the church

00:42:39.719 --> 00:42:40.599
 acts like the church

00:42:40.599 --> 00:42:41.719
 it's a sad thing when

00:42:41.719 --> 00:42:43.899
 the church doesn't seize

00:42:43.899 --> 00:42:44.979
 the opportunity it's been

00:42:44.979 --> 00:42:46.079
 given to be the church

00:42:46.079 --> 00:42:48.319
 there's one last thing

00:42:48.319 --> 00:42:49.539
 and I close with this

00:42:49.539 --> 00:42:53.359
 if you want to love to

00:42:53.359 --> 00:42:54.419
 increase in your life and

00:42:54.419 --> 00:42:55.439
 in your church and to

00:42:55.439 --> 00:42:57.779
 overflow begin forgiving

00:42:57.779 --> 00:43:00.359
 people who have hurt you

00:43:00.359 --> 00:43:03.239
 now Brian has not had a

00:43:03.239 --> 00:43:04.219
 single conversation with

00:43:04.219 --> 00:43:05.199
 me and I had dinner with

00:43:05.199 --> 00:43:06.359
 Fred Stone about 10 days

00:43:06.360 --> 00:43:07.440
 ago or nine days ago

00:43:07.440 --> 00:43:09.300
 Fred has not said a

00:43:09.300 --> 00:43:10.760
 single word to me I

00:43:10.760 --> 00:43:11.480
 don't know if anybody

00:43:11.480 --> 00:43:12.920
 in this church has had a

00:43:12.920 --> 00:43:13.940
 riff with anybody else

00:43:13.940 --> 00:43:15.140
 that's the honest truth

00:43:15.140 --> 00:43:17.160
 before God but I want

00:43:17.160 --> 00:43:17.660
 to tell you something in

00:43:17.660 --> 00:43:18.780
 a church this size it

00:43:18.780 --> 00:43:19.599
 would seem almost

00:43:19.599 --> 00:43:21.180
 impossible to me that

00:43:21.180 --> 00:43:22.320
 you could be members

00:43:22.320 --> 00:43:23.180
 here for a long long

00:43:23.180 --> 00:43:24.860
 long time and somebody

00:43:24.860 --> 00:43:27.539
 not get crosswise with

00:43:27.539 --> 00:43:30.720
 somebody else and I'm

00:43:30.720 --> 00:43:32.000
 asking you if you want

00:43:32.000 --> 00:43:34.260
 love to abound to

00:43:34.260 --> 00:43:34.940
 forgive them

00:43:34.940 --> 00:43:38.280
 right now today to make

00:43:38.280 --> 00:43:39.139
 a choice that going

00:43:39.139 --> 00:43:41.320
 forward I'm forgiving

00:43:41.320 --> 00:43:43.420
 them I'm going to live

00:43:43.420 --> 00:43:44.039
 as though that never

00:43:44.039 --> 00:43:45.800
 happened I'm going to

00:43:45.800 --> 00:43:46.639
 put it out of my life

00:43:46.639 --> 00:43:47.760
 and some of you are

00:43:47.760 --> 00:43:48.659
 thinking already I know

00:43:48.659 --> 00:43:49.159
 what you're thinking

00:43:49.159 --> 00:43:50.119
 because I've been where

00:43:50.119 --> 00:43:52.220
 you are you don't know

00:43:52.220 --> 00:43:54.780
 what they did you don't

00:43:54.780 --> 00:43:56.099
 know how inexcusable

00:43:56.099 --> 00:43:57.280
 their action against me

00:43:57.280 --> 00:43:59.720
 was and boy I get that

00:43:59.720 --> 00:44:00.119
 because I'm going to

00:44:00.119 --> 00:44:01.659
 tell you I've had some

00:44:01.659 --> 00:44:02.720
 folk do some pretty mean

00:44:02.720 --> 00:44:03.740
 stuff to me through the

00:44:03.739 --> 00:44:05.419
 years hard to get by

00:44:05.419 --> 00:44:07.639
 hard just to get past

00:44:07.639 --> 00:44:09.859
 that I don't tell you

00:44:09.859 --> 00:44:11.339
 something they nailed

00:44:11.339 --> 00:44:13.779
 Jesus to the cross and

00:44:13.779 --> 00:44:14.619
 as they're nailed him to

00:44:14.619 --> 00:44:15.799
 the cross the first words

00:44:15.799 --> 00:44:16.699
 out of his mouth were

00:44:16.699 --> 00:44:17.699
 these father forgive them

00:44:17.699 --> 00:44:18.619
 for they know not what

00:44:18.619 --> 00:44:20.899
 they do I think that

00:44:20.899 --> 00:44:23.399
 prayer included pilot who

00:44:23.399 --> 00:44:24.679
 like a coward found him

00:44:24.679 --> 00:44:25.539
 guilty when he should have

00:44:25.539 --> 00:44:27.719
 found him innocent I think

00:44:27.719 --> 00:44:29.799
 it included the Jewish

00:44:29.799 --> 00:44:32.239
 leaders of that mob who

00:44:32.239 --> 00:44:33.679
 made false accusations

00:44:33.679 --> 00:44:34.739
 knowing they weren't

00:44:34.739 --> 00:44:37.039
 true I think it applied to

00:44:37.039 --> 00:44:38.979
 the Roman soldiers who

00:44:38.979 --> 00:44:40.539
 brutally drove those spikes

00:44:40.539 --> 00:44:43.019
 through his hands and I

00:44:43.019 --> 00:44:44.479
 think it included all those

00:44:44.479 --> 00:44:45.659
 folk out there for whom he

00:44:45.659 --> 00:44:47.079
 had done good who failed to

00:44:47.079 --> 00:44:48.759
 stand in his behalf even the

00:44:48.759 --> 00:44:50.819
 disciples who betrayed him

00:44:50.819 --> 00:44:53.139
 and who denied ever even

00:44:53.139 --> 00:44:55.119
 knowing him and I'm going to

00:44:55.119 --> 00:44:56.179
 say to you if Jesus can

00:44:56.179 --> 00:44:58.339
 forgive us that what's anybody

00:44:58.339 --> 00:44:59.599
 ever done to you you can't

00:44:59.599 --> 00:45:02.880
 forgive remember Joseph in the

00:45:02.880 --> 00:45:05.599
 Old Testament chapter 45 his

00:45:06.380 --> 00:45:07.679
 brothers you know how bad his

00:45:07.679 --> 00:45:10.460
 brothers disliked him they

00:45:10.460 --> 00:45:13.139
 wanted him dead they threw him

00:45:13.139 --> 00:45:14.739
 into a cistern we're going to

00:45:14.739 --> 00:45:16.920
 kill him later to make a few

00:45:16.920 --> 00:45:18.880
 bucks and to allow their

00:45:18.880 --> 00:45:20.119
 conscience to be a little at

00:45:20.119 --> 00:45:21.559
 ease they sold him to slave

00:45:21.559 --> 00:45:24.119
 traders he ends up in prison

00:45:24.119 --> 00:45:25.179
 because of a lie that

00:45:25.179 --> 00:45:26.659
 Potiphar's wife told about it

00:45:26.659 --> 00:45:28.279
 all that because of what these

00:45:28.280 --> 00:45:29.620
 brothers did and yet when they

00:45:29.620 --> 00:45:31.460
 come years later in need of

00:45:31.460 --> 00:45:32.400
 help you know what he does

00:45:32.400 --> 00:45:34.640
 instead of turning them away or

00:45:34.640 --> 00:45:36.620
 being angry with them he

00:45:36.620 --> 00:45:38.460
 literally literally drives all

00:45:38.460 --> 00:45:39.380
 the Egyptians out of the room

00:45:39.380 --> 00:45:41.200
 and reaches out and embraces

00:45:41.200 --> 00:45:42.440
 them and hugs them and even

00:45:42.440 --> 00:45:45.100
 says this don't blame yourself

00:45:45.100 --> 00:45:49.560
 you didn't put me here God put me

00:45:49.560 --> 00:45:52.200
 here he did everything in his

00:45:52.200 --> 00:45:54.900
 power to restore a broken

00:45:54.900 --> 00:45:56.280
 relationship and I'm going to

00:45:56.280 --> 00:45:57.700
 tell you something when your love

00:45:57.700 --> 00:46:00.360
 grows and when you abound in love

00:46:00.360 --> 00:46:03.820
 that's exactly what every one of

00:46:03.820 --> 00:46:06.140
 us need to do we need to come to

00:46:06.140 --> 00:46:07.960
 the place that we forgive others

00:46:07.960 --> 00:46:12.519
 even inexcusable hurts in our life

00:46:12.519 --> 00:46:15.940
 so let me ask you have you ever

00:46:15.940 --> 00:46:18.519
 done that can you think of somebody

00:46:18.519 --> 00:46:20.660
 right now at First Baptist Pickens or

00:46:20.660 --> 00:46:22.880
 somebody in your family or somebody at

00:46:22.880 --> 00:46:25.160
 work and you say you know I have

00:46:25.160 --> 00:46:27.059
 trouble loving them because they did

00:46:27.059 --> 00:46:29.300
 this to me right here would you let

00:46:29.300 --> 00:46:31.539
 it go today would you just let that

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 go you say I can't yeah you can you

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 got a choice I want to tell you

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 something they don't even hold the

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 keys to that you do you're the only

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 one who can forgive them you're the

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 only one who can let it go so would

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 you do that this morning we're going to

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 have a hymn of invitation and Brian's

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 going to sing it lead us in it but if

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 the Lord's spoken to your heart and

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 there's something you need to deal

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 with God about would you just get up

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 out of your seat right now and just

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 come and you can just stand here at

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 the front or kneel or you can do it

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 right there at your chair if you don't

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 want to come forward just maybe be

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 seated again follow their stand just

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 say I got some business I got to take

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 care of God I haven't been loving the

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 way I need to love let's stand this

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 Brian leads us

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 you

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 you

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 you

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 you

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 you

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 you

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 you