WEBVTT 00:00:00.620 --> 00:00:05.520 Morning everyone. So today's reading is from Proverbs chapter 7. 00:00:09.839 --> 00:00:13.759 My son, keep my words and treasure up my commandments with you. 00:00:14.160 --> 00:00:15.700 Keep my commandments and live. 00:00:16.359 --> 00:00:18.660 Keep my teaching as the apple of your eye. 00:00:19.120 --> 00:00:20.440 Find them on your fingers. 00:00:21.240 --> 00:00:23.100 Write them on the tablet of your heart. 00:00:23.859 --> 00:00:25.620 Say to wisdom, you are my sister. 00:00:26.219 --> 00:00:28.379 And call inside your intimate friend. 00:00:28.379 --> 00:00:30.619 To keep you from the forbidden woman. 00:00:31.140 --> 00:00:33.299 From the adulteress with her smooth words. 00:00:34.519 --> 00:00:37.960 For at the window of my house I have looked out through the lattice. 00:00:38.460 --> 00:00:39.939 And I have seen among the simple. 00:00:40.320 --> 00:00:42.060 I have perceived among the youths. 00:00:42.399 --> 00:00:43.899 A young man lacking sense. 00:00:44.460 --> 00:00:46.439 Passing along the street near her corner. 00:00:47.039 --> 00:00:49.480 Taking the road to her house in the twilight. 00:00:49.879 --> 00:00:52.299 In the evening at the time of night and darkness. 00:00:53.700 --> 00:00:56.960 And behold, the woman meets him dressed as a prostitute. 00:00:56.960 --> 00:00:58.120 Wily of heart. 00:00:58.380 --> 00:01:00.240 She is loud and wayward. 00:01:00.780 --> 00:01:02.240 Her feet do not stay at home. 00:01:02.920 --> 00:01:03.859 Now in the street. 00:01:04.120 --> 00:01:04.799 Now in the market. 00:01:05.159 --> 00:01:07.100 And at every corner she lies in wait. 00:01:07.939 --> 00:01:09.740 She seizes him and kisses him. 00:01:10.140 --> 00:01:12.180 And with bold face she says to him. 00:01:13.140 --> 00:01:14.920 I had to offer sacrifices. 00:01:15.300 --> 00:01:16.980 And today I have paid my vows. 00:01:17.920 --> 00:01:19.900 So now I have come out to meet you. 00:01:20.140 --> 00:01:21.140 To seek you eagerly. 00:01:21.200 --> 00:01:22.219 And I have found you. 00:01:22.219 --> 00:01:25.439 I have spread my couch with coverings. 00:01:25.659 --> 00:01:27.340 Coloured linens from Egyptian linen. 00:01:27.340 --> 00:01:31.460 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon. 00:01:32.200 --> 00:01:34.820 Come, let us take our fill of love till morning. 00:01:35.560 --> 00:01:37.300 Let us delight ourselves with love. 00:01:37.800 --> 00:01:39.480 For my husband is not at home. 00:01:39.680 --> 00:01:40.980 He has gone on a long journey. 00:01:41.980 --> 00:01:43.640 He took a bag of money with him. 00:01:43.640 --> 00:01:45.700 At full moon he will come home. 00:01:46.700 --> 00:01:49.620 With much seductive speech she persuades him. 00:01:50.239 --> 00:01:52.219 With her smooth talk she compels him. 00:01:53.400 --> 00:01:55.960 All at once he follows her. 00:01:55.959 --> 00:01:57.659 As an ox goes to the slaughter. 00:01:58.059 --> 00:01:59.839 Or as a stag is caught fast. 00:02:00.019 --> 00:02:01.459 Till an arrow pieces its liver. 00:02:02.399 --> 00:02:04.139 As a bird rushes into a snare. 00:02:04.619 --> 00:02:07.139 He does not know that it will cost him his life. 00:02:08.319 --> 00:02:10.379 And now, O sons, listen to me. 00:02:10.979 --> 00:02:13.079 And be attentive to the words of my mouth. 00:02:13.959 --> 00:02:16.539 Let not your heart turn aside to her ways. 00:02:17.060 --> 00:02:18.719 Do not stray into her paths. 00:02:19.139 --> 00:02:21.819 For many a victim has she laid low. 00:02:22.359 --> 00:02:24.699 And all her slain are a mighty throng. 00:02:24.699 --> 00:02:26.719 Her house is the way to Sheol. 00:02:27.319 --> 00:02:29.399 Going down to the chambers of death. 00:02:38.239 --> 00:02:39.539 Well, good morning everyone. 00:02:41.339 --> 00:02:44.519 I'm really thankful to Simon for his introduction earlier on. 00:02:45.579 --> 00:02:47.979 I guess it's actually true that I do spend a lot of time 00:02:47.979 --> 00:02:49.259 talking to myself with nobody listening. 00:02:49.459 --> 00:02:53.039 But I should point out, as you evaluate what Simon said about me, 00:02:53.039 --> 00:02:56.979 that his response to one of those safety slides 00:02:56.979 --> 00:02:59.680 where the guy was hanging out of the building cleaning the window 00:02:59.680 --> 00:03:04.599 on the 32nd floor was that the only issue Simon could see 00:03:04.599 --> 00:03:07.039 was the guy didn't have a shirt on, so he was going to get sunburned. 00:03:07.039 --> 00:03:13.659 So, factor that in as you evaluate Simon's comment about me. 00:03:16.919 --> 00:03:18.979 Question to get us going this morning 00:03:18.979 --> 00:03:24.379 as we want to jump into this familiar and perhaps foreboding chapter. 00:03:24.379 --> 00:03:32.139 Why do people find themselves doing that which they know is not good for them? 00:03:37.819 --> 00:03:40.719 We would typically say, well, it's a bad habit. 00:03:41.680 --> 00:03:42.800 And that's true. 00:03:44.240 --> 00:03:48.000 But then the question becomes, why are habits so compulsive? 00:03:48.000 --> 00:03:51.719 Especially when they're destructive. 00:03:56.620 --> 00:04:00.360 To help us understand this, I want to introduce a personal thing. 00:04:00.439 --> 00:04:04.219 I want to introduce you to my habit of comfort eating 00:04:04.219 --> 00:04:10.020 or what I would like to see as the idol of comfort eating. 00:04:10.020 --> 00:04:15.180 Now, we might think idols are images of a god 00:04:15.180 --> 00:04:18.379 that some remote tribe might worship. 00:04:19.100 --> 00:04:20.040 And that's true. 00:04:20.780 --> 00:04:24.120 But idols are actually much more immediate and much more personal. 00:04:25.540 --> 00:04:27.620 All of us, I believe, have idols. 00:04:27.980 --> 00:04:28.939 We worship many idols. 00:04:29.040 --> 00:04:29.900 Some of them we know about. 00:04:30.220 --> 00:04:31.699 Some of them we haven't even discovered yet. 00:04:33.740 --> 00:04:37.639 So, the question is then, personally, why do I overeat? 00:04:37.639 --> 00:04:42.259 Well, again, I might just say, well, it's a habit. 00:04:42.639 --> 00:04:46.079 It's a habit I've developed because it's been part of the culture of my family 00:04:46.079 --> 00:04:48.620 or because I like food. 00:04:49.159 --> 00:04:49.699 And I do. 00:04:53.439 --> 00:04:58.879 But why do I continue to overeat when I see myself getting fat? 00:04:59.439 --> 00:05:02.639 When I know it's bad for my health long term? 00:05:02.639 --> 00:05:06.180 And when Alison constantly says, stop eating. 00:05:06.539 --> 00:05:07.639 You don't need to eat. 00:05:12.139 --> 00:05:16.519 Now, I've tried to tell myself, just say to myself, stop eating. 00:05:16.639 --> 00:05:17.579 You don't need to eat. 00:05:19.039 --> 00:05:23.240 But strangely, when I do that, it actually increases the craving for food. 00:05:23.240 --> 00:05:33.040 It increases the craving to the point where I actually dominate. 00:05:33.240 --> 00:05:35.379 I can't think of anything else except food. 00:05:35.920 --> 00:05:36.600 It's really weird. 00:05:36.699 --> 00:05:40.960 I can sit there watching TV thinking about what I could be getting to snack out of the cupboard. 00:05:41.939 --> 00:05:43.579 That's how compulsive it is. 00:05:44.400 --> 00:05:45.620 That's how dominating it is. 00:05:45.620 --> 00:05:52.759 A couple of years ago, just in a random conversation, Rob Patterson made a comment to me 00:05:52.759 --> 00:05:57.000 that totally opened up a new perspective on eating for me 00:05:57.000 --> 00:06:00.959 and has helped me actually start breaking the habit of comfort eating. 00:06:03.360 --> 00:06:05.939 He suggested to me that eating can be an idol. 00:06:05.939 --> 00:06:14.899 That is, eating is something that can be done to achieve a goal buried deep in my thinking. 00:06:15.279 --> 00:06:17.279 So the eating isn't for the eating's sake. 00:06:17.439 --> 00:06:20.379 It's for what the eating promises to deliver to me. 00:06:23.399 --> 00:06:26.959 So from that point, I was forced to admit I was a comfort eater. 00:06:27.060 --> 00:06:29.019 My mom has been a comfort eater over her years, 00:06:29.259 --> 00:06:31.819 and I always wanted to say I wasn't like my mom at that point. 00:06:32.180 --> 00:06:34.120 But I was forced to say I was a comfort eater. 00:06:34.120 --> 00:06:39.840 That is, eating for me is a coping strategy. 00:06:41.160 --> 00:06:47.720 It's a go-to behavior because I think it will deliver a goal or an outcome 00:06:47.720 --> 00:06:50.819 that I believe I need or want or desire. 00:06:52.120 --> 00:06:59.660 And that associated with eating is a sense of feeling as if I've got a space to unwind, 00:06:59.660 --> 00:07:04.760 to feel relaxed, to feel sort of comfortable and safe, 00:07:05.260 --> 00:07:10.320 to feel satisfied in the midst of a day when there might have been turmoil all around me. 00:07:11.040 --> 00:07:13.400 I withdraw and I eat. 00:07:13.399 --> 00:07:22.019 And so it's no surprise then, I can also detect in my life, 00:07:22.099 --> 00:07:26.639 that the greater the stress in my life or work or relationships, 00:07:26.959 --> 00:07:29.199 the more likely I am to overeat. 00:07:31.359 --> 00:07:33.120 And so I want to say it in these terms, 00:07:33.439 --> 00:07:38.839 that the idol of overeating demands ever-increasing sacrifices from me. 00:07:38.839 --> 00:07:44.119 That is, I find over the years that I've had to eat more and more to get the same outcome, 00:07:44.339 --> 00:07:46.959 to get the same results, to get the same level of satisfaction. 00:07:47.679 --> 00:07:49.319 And so it becomes a habit. 00:07:49.560 --> 00:07:50.560 But it's more than a habit. 00:07:51.899 --> 00:07:52.620 It's an idol. 00:07:52.719 --> 00:07:53.639 It's something I worship. 00:07:54.000 --> 00:07:55.019 It controls me. 00:07:55.019 --> 00:08:01.259 And it controlled me regardless. 00:08:01.519 --> 00:08:03.039 I sacrificed that idol, 00:08:04.759 --> 00:08:09.719 regardless of the cost to my overall health and a growing belly. 00:08:13.299 --> 00:08:15.019 And so as a Christian then, 00:08:15.599 --> 00:08:18.740 I realized that I was trying to find in food 00:08:18.740 --> 00:08:24.359 something that I could only properly find in God. 00:08:25.019 --> 00:08:30.699 And so my idol ended up being a cheap substitute 00:08:30.699 --> 00:08:33.899 for real satisfaction. 00:08:35.100 --> 00:08:36.120 And that was obvious. 00:08:36.399 --> 00:08:38.480 It didn't give me lasting satisfaction. 00:08:42.980 --> 00:08:45.559 Now, this process of thinking, 00:08:46.259 --> 00:08:49.699 these idols exist in so many areas of life. 00:08:49.700 --> 00:08:52.320 And if you're not an overeater like me, 00:08:52.400 --> 00:08:55.379 perhaps you're a binge alcohol drinker. 00:08:55.379 --> 00:09:00.519 Perhaps you're a binge Netflix user. 00:09:01.059 --> 00:09:04.799 Perhaps you binge social media. 00:09:05.460 --> 00:09:08.080 Perhaps you binge electronic gaming. 00:09:09.220 --> 00:09:12.340 Or perhaps you binge at the shops and shopping. 00:09:12.340 --> 00:09:16.019 Perhaps for you it's work. 00:09:16.300 --> 00:09:18.639 Or being outstanding in your career. 00:09:20.100 --> 00:09:21.420 Maybe that's your idol. 00:09:21.680 --> 00:09:24.280 Maybe that's the thing that you sacrifice everything for. 00:09:25.120 --> 00:09:30.000 Because you hope it will deliver the outcome of satisfaction and fulfillment. 00:09:31.860 --> 00:09:34.480 Perhaps your idol is simply being happy. 00:09:34.480 --> 00:09:38.159 Being married. 00:09:38.159 --> 00:09:38.240 Being beautiful. 00:09:39.240 --> 00:09:40.519 Being beautiful. 00:09:42.060 --> 00:09:42.920 Being needed. 00:09:44.100 --> 00:09:44.899 Being liked. 00:09:46.039 --> 00:09:48.920 All of these things can get a hold of us 00:09:48.920 --> 00:09:52.820 and cause us to sacrifice again and again 00:09:52.820 --> 00:09:55.259 at ever more increasing cost. 00:09:56.259 --> 00:10:00.940 Simply to get that which that thing promises delivered to us. 00:10:00.940 --> 00:10:08.600 And we push aside or sacrifice whatever we need to sacrifice. 00:10:09.300 --> 00:10:10.500 And that might be people. 00:10:11.120 --> 00:10:11.520 At one point. 00:10:11.560 --> 00:10:12.600 It might be relationships. 00:10:12.760 --> 00:10:13.340 At another point. 00:10:13.580 --> 00:10:14.500 It might be money. 00:10:14.640 --> 00:10:15.480 It might be time. 00:10:15.840 --> 00:10:16.740 It might be our health. 00:10:17.060 --> 00:10:20.600 All of which will be sacrificed as we chase the goal 00:10:20.600 --> 00:10:25.160 which the habit or action promises to deliver to us. 00:10:28.300 --> 00:10:30.160 Now, coming closer to the passage. 00:10:30.159 --> 00:10:31.639 I want to suggest this morning 00:10:31.639 --> 00:10:35.579 that sex easily becomes an idol. 00:10:37.579 --> 00:10:38.159 We ask the question, 00:10:38.559 --> 00:10:41.139 why do people keep doing wrong things? 00:10:41.559 --> 00:10:45.279 Keep showing unfaithfulness in this realm of how we use our sexuality 00:10:45.279 --> 00:10:48.179 when we know so jolly well 00:10:48.179 --> 00:10:50.500 that the results are destructive? 00:10:52.079 --> 00:10:53.299 Very destructive. 00:10:53.299 --> 00:10:59.879 I suggest it's much more than just saying to ourselves, 00:11:00.000 --> 00:11:00.719 well, don't do that. 00:11:00.799 --> 00:11:01.219 Do this. 00:11:01.559 --> 00:11:04.879 We've got to see sex and sexuality from a new perspective. 00:11:05.219 --> 00:11:06.620 I suggest this morning we've got to see it 00:11:06.620 --> 00:11:08.259 as the potential of being an idol 00:11:08.259 --> 00:11:09.559 which we're serving. 00:11:11.000 --> 00:11:12.620 Because it promises something 00:11:12.620 --> 00:11:14.659 that we think we need. 00:11:14.659 --> 00:11:22.360 Now, sex, of course, is a good thing. 00:11:23.939 --> 00:11:25.419 Make that, hear that very clearly. 00:11:25.679 --> 00:11:26.860 Sex is God's idea. 00:11:27.039 --> 00:11:30.019 It's built into the very fabric of every single one of us 00:11:30.019 --> 00:11:31.659 in all its pleasure. 00:11:31.659 --> 00:11:36.500 But it easily becomes an idol. 00:11:36.879 --> 00:11:38.059 Something we crave 00:11:38.059 --> 00:11:40.539 because we believe it delivers something 00:11:40.539 --> 00:11:42.279 we think we need or want or desire. 00:11:42.519 --> 00:11:45.139 That is, in the case of sex, 00:11:45.719 --> 00:11:47.919 it promises to deliver intimacy. 00:11:50.579 --> 00:11:54.100 And intimacy is something we all desperately want. 00:11:54.600 --> 00:11:56.459 And intimacy is a feeling of being loved. 00:11:57.399 --> 00:11:58.759 A feeling of being valued. 00:11:59.079 --> 00:12:00.579 A feeling of fulfillment. 00:12:00.580 --> 00:12:01.580 A feeling of being loved. 00:12:01.580 --> 00:12:02.580 A feeling of being loved. 00:12:02.580 --> 00:12:03.580 A feeling of being loved. 00:12:03.580 --> 00:12:04.060 A feeling of being loved. 00:12:04.060 --> 00:12:04.580 A feeling of being loved. 00:12:04.580 --> 00:12:05.580 A feeling of being loved. 00:12:05.580 --> 00:12:06.580 A feeling of being loved. 00:12:06.580 --> 00:12:09.240 All of those things are built into the idea of intimacy. 00:12:09.820 --> 00:12:11.360 And as people, as individuals, 00:12:11.920 --> 00:12:13.680 we desperately crave that. 00:12:17.759 --> 00:12:19.340 And so if we're not careful, 00:12:20.360 --> 00:12:22.840 then sex can become that idol 00:12:22.840 --> 00:12:25.620 and the desire for sex 00:12:25.620 --> 00:12:27.540 can start to dominate us 00:12:27.540 --> 00:12:29.259 like an addiction. 00:12:30.580 --> 00:12:33.400 And that addiction can happen 00:12:33.400 --> 00:12:34.240 whether you're married 00:12:34.240 --> 00:12:36.460 or in a de facto relationship 00:12:36.460 --> 00:12:39.980 or whether you're in a serial monogamy situation 00:12:39.980 --> 00:12:42.580 where you say faithfulness is really important 00:12:42.580 --> 00:12:44.980 but you don't mind changing partners every 18 months. 00:12:44.980 --> 00:12:49.639 or the classic affair 00:12:49.639 --> 00:12:51.860 having sex with someone you're not married to 00:12:51.860 --> 00:12:54.200 or just one night stand 00:12:54.200 --> 00:12:55.879 or pornography 00:12:55.879 --> 00:12:58.060 whether it's male pornography visual 00:12:58.060 --> 00:13:00.639 or female pornography emotionally driven. 00:13:04.519 --> 00:13:06.060 In any of these situations, 00:13:06.259 --> 00:13:07.320 sex can become an idol. 00:13:07.420 --> 00:13:09.399 That is something that takes a hold of you 00:13:09.399 --> 00:13:12.600 and starts to dominate your whole pattern of thinking. 00:13:12.600 --> 00:13:15.120 It's a demanding idol. 00:13:15.420 --> 00:13:17.560 Pushing a person to sacrifice 00:13:17.560 --> 00:13:19.300 whatever is required 00:13:19.300 --> 00:13:22.259 to achieve the outcome 00:13:22.259 --> 00:13:24.300 it promises 00:13:24.300 --> 00:13:26.060 and the person desires. 00:13:26.059 --> 00:13:32.059 even though all the evidence says 00:13:32.059 --> 00:13:35.119 that it actually delivers destruction and hurt. 00:13:36.059 --> 00:13:37.399 Not true intimacy. 00:13:37.759 --> 00:13:39.679 Not a lasting reality 00:13:39.679 --> 00:13:41.759 of being loved and valued 00:13:41.759 --> 00:13:42.819 and happy. 00:13:42.820 --> 00:13:48.060 Now, with that perspective 00:13:48.060 --> 00:13:50.200 on craving intimacy 00:13:50.200 --> 00:13:51.420 and the alternatives 00:13:51.420 --> 00:13:53.120 of true and false intimacy 00:13:53.120 --> 00:13:54.600 which Martin opened up last week 00:13:54.600 --> 00:13:55.440 from chapter 6 00:13:55.440 --> 00:13:56.879 and those 00:13:56.879 --> 00:13:58.760 that true and false intimacy 00:13:58.760 --> 00:14:01.000 correspond with wisdom and foolishness 00:14:01.000 --> 00:14:04.640 and with the importance of talking to myself 00:14:04.640 --> 00:14:06.000 about the temptation 00:14:06.000 --> 00:14:07.780 to settle for false intimacy 00:14:07.780 --> 00:14:09.780 let's, with all that in mind 00:14:09.780 --> 00:14:11.280 let's jump into chapter 7 00:14:11.279 --> 00:14:13.620 with what I hope is a new perspective 00:14:13.620 --> 00:14:15.600 this morning 00:14:15.600 --> 00:14:17.379 focused on what I'm now wanting to call 00:14:17.379 --> 00:14:18.659 the idol of sex. 00:14:21.740 --> 00:14:22.939 Now, another question 00:14:22.939 --> 00:14:25.079 to step up your thinking. 00:14:25.080 --> 00:14:29.700 Why do people opt for sexual unfaithfulness 00:14:29.700 --> 00:14:31.580 and betrayal 00:14:31.580 --> 00:14:33.500 even when they know 00:14:33.500 --> 00:14:35.759 from the experience all around them 00:14:35.759 --> 00:14:37.940 that it's so destructive 00:14:37.940 --> 00:14:39.259 self-destructive 00:14:39.259 --> 00:14:40.780 and destructive to everyone 00:14:40.780 --> 00:14:41.560 who's betrayed? 00:14:47.720 --> 00:14:49.580 Make the question personal. 00:14:49.580 --> 00:14:54.420 Proverbs warned repeatedly 00:14:54.420 --> 00:14:55.639 about the awfulness 00:14:55.639 --> 00:14:56.520 of unfaithfulness 00:14:56.520 --> 00:14:57.180 and betrayal. 00:14:58.720 --> 00:15:00.060 But I wonder how you've been 00:15:00.060 --> 00:15:01.100 engaging with that 00:15:01.100 --> 00:15:01.879 over past weeks 00:15:01.879 --> 00:15:03.000 as we work through this series. 00:15:03.540 --> 00:15:05.100 Is it something that you think 00:15:05.100 --> 00:15:06.280 well that's a problem 00:15:06.280 --> 00:15:07.280 for somebody else 00:15:07.280 --> 00:15:09.420 and you might actually 00:15:09.420 --> 00:15:10.820 have names in your mind 00:15:10.820 --> 00:15:14.180 but it's not an issue for me. 00:15:14.179 --> 00:15:18.059 It's not something 00:15:18.059 --> 00:15:18.739 you're going to get caught 00:15:18.739 --> 00:15:19.739 or I'm going to get caught in. 00:15:21.659 --> 00:15:22.899 Is it a temptation 00:15:22.899 --> 00:15:23.719 that you think 00:15:23.719 --> 00:15:24.579 you're immune to? 00:15:25.399 --> 00:15:26.839 Or even worse perhaps 00:15:26.839 --> 00:15:27.899 is it a temptation 00:15:27.899 --> 00:15:28.819 that you recognize 00:15:28.819 --> 00:15:29.299 but you think 00:15:29.299 --> 00:15:29.919 you're strong enough 00:15:29.919 --> 00:15:30.559 to resist 00:15:30.559 --> 00:15:32.279 without too much fuss? 00:15:37.719 --> 00:15:38.639 C.S. Lewis 00:15:38.639 --> 00:15:39.099 I come across 00:15:39.099 --> 00:15:39.819 an interesting quote 00:15:39.819 --> 00:15:40.679 from C.S. Lewis 00:15:40.679 --> 00:15:41.899 and it says this 00:15:41.899 --> 00:15:44.360 we often say 00:15:44.360 --> 00:15:44.899 that a man 00:15:44.899 --> 00:15:45.399 and you could read 00:15:45.399 --> 00:15:46.319 a woman in there as well 00:15:46.319 --> 00:15:47.299 because it works in reverse 00:15:47.299 --> 00:15:48.539 we often say 00:15:48.539 --> 00:15:49.340 that a man 00:15:49.340 --> 00:15:51.779 driven by lust 00:15:51.779 --> 00:15:53.980 wants a woman 00:15:53.980 --> 00:15:58.139 but strictly speaking 00:15:58.139 --> 00:15:58.899 he does not 00:15:58.899 --> 00:15:59.620 want a woman. 00:16:01.340 --> 00:16:02.399 What he wants 00:16:02.399 --> 00:16:03.860 is a pleasure 00:16:03.860 --> 00:16:05.159 to achieve 00:16:05.159 --> 00:16:06.120 his inner goal 00:16:06.120 --> 00:16:07.000 of being loved 00:16:07.000 --> 00:16:07.659 or happy 00:16:07.659 --> 00:16:10.000 for which 00:16:10.000 --> 00:16:11.120 a beautiful woman 00:16:11.120 --> 00:16:12.320 is simply 00:16:12.320 --> 00:16:13.659 a necessary piece 00:16:13.659 --> 00:16:14.440 of apparatus. 00:16:16.560 --> 00:16:17.120 In some ways 00:16:17.120 --> 00:16:18.639 it's a confronting statement 00:16:18.639 --> 00:16:19.440 isn't it? 00:16:19.799 --> 00:16:20.500 And it's profound. 00:16:20.720 --> 00:16:21.379 So I'll read it again. 00:16:21.919 --> 00:16:22.799 We often say 00:16:22.799 --> 00:16:23.419 that a man 00:16:23.419 --> 00:16:24.539 driven by lust 00:16:24.539 --> 00:16:25.940 wants a woman 00:16:25.940 --> 00:16:28.879 but strictly speaking 00:16:28.879 --> 00:16:30.019 he does not want a woman 00:16:30.019 --> 00:16:31.700 he wants a pleasure 00:16:31.700 --> 00:16:32.759 to achieve 00:16:32.759 --> 00:16:33.860 his inner goal 00:16:33.860 --> 00:16:34.639 of being loved 00:16:34.639 --> 00:16:35.259 or happy 00:16:35.259 --> 00:16:36.519 for which 00:16:36.519 --> 00:16:37.460 a beautiful woman 00:16:37.460 --> 00:16:38.580 is simply 00:16:38.580 --> 00:16:39.580 a necessary 00:16:39.580 --> 00:16:41.560 piece of apparatus. 00:16:47.139 --> 00:16:47.620 He would lose 00:16:47.620 --> 00:16:47.940 his sin 00:16:47.940 --> 00:16:48.340 he's saying 00:16:48.340 --> 00:16:49.600 the idol 00:16:49.600 --> 00:16:50.259 of sex 00:16:50.259 --> 00:16:50.920 has got a hold 00:16:50.920 --> 00:16:51.580 of this person 00:16:51.580 --> 00:16:55.720 and it's the pleasure 00:16:55.720 --> 00:16:57.020 that they're craving 00:16:57.020 --> 00:16:57.639 and seeking 00:16:57.639 --> 00:16:59.320 in a sense 00:16:59.320 --> 00:17:00.200 the woman's irrelevant 00:17:00.200 --> 00:17:02.800 or at best 00:17:02.800 --> 00:17:04.019 just a tool. 00:17:04.019 --> 00:17:06.700 Now of course 00:17:06.700 --> 00:17:07.339 as I said before 00:17:07.339 --> 00:17:07.960 the reverse 00:17:07.960 --> 00:17:08.519 may be said 00:17:08.519 --> 00:17:09.519 for a woman. 00:17:10.819 --> 00:17:11.619 Lust for both 00:17:11.619 --> 00:17:12.339 men and women 00:17:12.339 --> 00:17:13.319 is the expression 00:17:13.319 --> 00:17:14.400 of a heart idol 00:17:14.400 --> 00:17:17.559 a genuine craving 00:17:17.559 --> 00:17:18.740 for true intimacy 00:17:18.740 --> 00:17:19.819 of being loved 00:17:19.819 --> 00:17:20.420 and accepted 00:17:20.420 --> 00:17:21.119 and valued 00:17:21.119 --> 00:17:22.759 while settling 00:17:22.759 --> 00:17:24.059 for a false 00:17:24.059 --> 00:17:25.000 or substitute 00:17:25.000 --> 00:17:25.639 intimacy 00:17:25.639 --> 00:17:28.460 through sex. 00:17:28.460 --> 00:17:31.460 and again 00:17:31.460 --> 00:17:32.819 it has to be 00:17:32.819 --> 00:17:33.460 a false intimacy 00:17:33.460 --> 00:17:34.180 because true 00:17:34.180 --> 00:17:34.840 and lasting 00:17:34.840 --> 00:17:35.680 intimacy 00:17:35.680 --> 00:17:37.120 can only be 00:17:37.120 --> 00:17:37.779 found in God. 00:17:39.160 --> 00:17:39.319 So 00:17:39.319 --> 00:17:40.059 when we come 00:17:40.059 --> 00:17:40.720 into this picture 00:17:40.720 --> 00:17:41.059 here 00:17:41.059 --> 00:17:41.559 and we're about 00:17:41.559 --> 00:17:42.059 to look into 00:17:42.059 --> 00:17:42.840 the details of it 00:17:42.840 --> 00:17:44.319 so in practice 00:17:44.319 --> 00:17:45.000 adultery 00:17:45.000 --> 00:17:45.640 that's talked 00:17:45.640 --> 00:17:46.160 about here 00:17:46.160 --> 00:17:46.460 and right 00:17:46.460 --> 00:17:46.960 through it 00:17:46.960 --> 00:17:48.380 Proverbs 00:17:48.380 --> 00:17:49.279 adultery 00:17:49.279 --> 00:17:50.720 is both 00:17:50.720 --> 00:17:51.720 a picture 00:17:51.720 --> 00:17:52.860 of unfaithfulness 00:17:52.860 --> 00:17:53.700 and betrayal 00:17:53.700 --> 00:17:54.559 in practical 00:17:54.559 --> 00:17:55.319 relationships 00:17:55.319 --> 00:17:56.740 marriage relationship 00:17:56.740 --> 00:17:57.420 that's spoken 00:17:57.420 --> 00:17:57.900 about here 00:17:57.900 --> 00:17:59.040 it's immediate 00:17:59.040 --> 00:17:59.660 and earthy 00:17:59.660 --> 00:18:00.019 and real 00:18:00.019 --> 00:18:00.400 and human 00:18:00.400 --> 00:18:01.480 it's both 00:18:01.480 --> 00:18:01.920 that 00:18:01.920 --> 00:18:03.440 and 00:18:03.440 --> 00:18:05.380 simultaneously 00:18:05.380 --> 00:18:06.960 a picture 00:18:06.960 --> 00:18:08.160 of unfaithfulness 00:18:08.160 --> 00:18:08.960 and betrayal 00:18:08.960 --> 00:18:10.100 in our relationship 00:18:10.100 --> 00:18:10.759 with God 00:18:10.759 --> 00:18:12.400 that the two 00:18:12.400 --> 00:18:13.100 are essentially 00:18:13.100 --> 00:18:13.900 and fundamentally 00:18:13.900 --> 00:18:14.480 the same 00:18:14.480 --> 00:18:16.780 because each 00:18:16.780 --> 00:18:18.240 situation 00:18:18.240 --> 00:18:19.040 of unfaithfulness 00:18:19.040 --> 00:18:20.240 is chasing 00:18:20.240 --> 00:18:21.560 what something 00:18:21.560 --> 00:18:22.280 else other 00:18:22.280 --> 00:18:22.860 than God 00:18:22.860 --> 00:18:23.740 offers us 00:18:23.740 --> 00:18:30.160 chasing 00:18:30.160 --> 00:18:30.180 chasing 00:18:30.180 --> 00:18:30.940 after love 00:18:30.940 --> 00:18:31.660 and acceptance 00:18:31.660 --> 00:18:32.519 and validation 00:18:32.519 --> 00:18:33.680 in things 00:18:33.680 --> 00:18:34.799 or relationships 00:18:34.799 --> 00:18:36.140 other than 00:18:36.140 --> 00:18:37.660 that which we 00:18:37.660 --> 00:18:38.380 have with God 00:18:38.380 --> 00:18:43.120 this passage 00:18:43.120 --> 00:18:44.420 is incredibly 00:18:44.420 --> 00:18:45.060 confronting 00:18:45.060 --> 00:18:46.420 in its description 00:18:46.420 --> 00:18:47.580 of what I'm 00:18:47.580 --> 00:18:48.020 calling the 00:18:48.020 --> 00:18:48.880 slippery slope 00:18:48.880 --> 00:18:49.460 the slippery 00:18:49.460 --> 00:18:49.940 slide 00:18:49.940 --> 00:18:51.100 of seduction 00:18:51.100 --> 00:18:51.960 in verses 00:18:51.960 --> 00:18:52.520 6 through 00:18:52.520 --> 00:18:53.060 to 23 00:18:53.060 --> 00:18:55.680 and here's 00:18:55.680 --> 00:18:56.020 the point 00:18:56.020 --> 00:18:56.340 you see 00:18:56.340 --> 00:18:57.020 adultery 00:18:57.020 --> 00:18:58.160 doesn't happen 00:18:58.160 --> 00:18:59.660 randomly 00:18:59.660 --> 00:19:00.680 in a vacuum 00:19:00.680 --> 00:19:01.980 there is 00:19:01.980 --> 00:19:02.780 always a 00:19:02.780 --> 00:19:03.240 process 00:19:03.240 --> 00:19:04.800 of small 00:19:04.800 --> 00:19:05.360 steps 00:19:05.360 --> 00:19:05.680 that are 00:19:05.680 --> 00:19:06.020 taken 00:19:06.019 --> 00:19:07.319 sometimes 00:19:07.319 --> 00:19:08.039 the process 00:19:08.039 --> 00:19:09.000 as a whole 00:19:09.000 --> 00:19:09.319 unit 00:19:09.319 --> 00:19:09.900 happens 00:19:09.900 --> 00:19:10.519 fairly quickly 00:19:10.519 --> 00:19:11.480 sometimes 00:19:11.480 --> 00:19:12.079 and most 00:19:12.079 --> 00:19:12.339 often 00:19:12.339 --> 00:19:12.680 I would 00:19:12.680 --> 00:19:12.960 venture 00:19:12.960 --> 00:19:13.460 to suggest 00:19:13.460 --> 00:19:14.359 most often 00:19:14.359 --> 00:19:15.099 that process 00:19:15.099 --> 00:19:16.019 happens rather 00:19:16.019 --> 00:19:16.460 slowly 00:19:16.460 --> 00:19:17.000 over a long 00:19:17.000 --> 00:19:17.660 period of time 00:19:17.660 --> 00:19:19.400 but it is 00:19:19.400 --> 00:19:20.220 a process 00:19:20.220 --> 00:19:22.379 and the 00:19:22.379 --> 00:19:23.119 scenario here 00:19:23.119 --> 00:19:24.400 is that 00:19:24.400 --> 00:19:24.859 of a young 00:19:24.859 --> 00:19:25.180 bloke 00:19:25.180 --> 00:19:26.279 he's 00:19:26.279 --> 00:19:27.900 depicted here 00:19:27.900 --> 00:19:28.460 the term 00:19:28.460 --> 00:19:28.859 as being 00:19:28.859 --> 00:19:29.400 simple 00:19:29.400 --> 00:19:30.200 and that 00:19:30.200 --> 00:19:30.859 in Proverbs 00:19:30.859 --> 00:19:31.720 is a sort 00:19:31.720 --> 00:19:32.379 of poetic 00:19:32.379 --> 00:19:33.440 descriptive 00:19:33.440 --> 00:19:33.859 term 00:19:33.859 --> 00:19:34.180 it doesn't 00:19:34.180 --> 00:19:34.619 mean he's 00:19:34.619 --> 00:19:35.579 lacking intellect 00:19:35.579 --> 00:19:36.279 far from it 00:19:36.279 --> 00:19:37.059 it means 00:19:37.059 --> 00:19:37.619 he's naive 00:19:37.619 --> 00:19:38.500 he's 00:19:38.500 --> 00:19:39.480 inexperienced 00:19:39.480 --> 00:19:39.939 in life 00:19:39.939 --> 00:19:40.279 and yet 00:19:40.279 --> 00:19:40.720 at the same 00:19:40.720 --> 00:19:41.019 time 00:19:41.019 --> 00:19:41.639 willful 00:19:41.639 --> 00:19:42.779 unwilling 00:19:42.779 --> 00:19:43.339 to accept 00:19:43.339 --> 00:19:43.899 instruction 00:19:43.899 --> 00:19:44.460 in life 00:19:44.460 --> 00:19:50.579 and he 00:19:50.579 --> 00:19:50.819 drifts 00:19:50.819 --> 00:19:51.599 into temptation 00:19:51.599 --> 00:19:52.039 here 00:19:52.039 --> 00:19:54.559 led by 00:19:54.559 --> 00:19:55.119 his thinking 00:19:55.119 --> 00:19:55.779 and feelings 00:19:55.779 --> 00:19:56.679 convinced 00:19:56.679 --> 00:19:57.259 that he 00:19:57.259 --> 00:19:57.599 is in 00:19:57.599 --> 00:19:58.059 control 00:19:58.059 --> 00:19:58.659 of events 00:19:58.659 --> 00:19:59.839 when all 00:19:59.839 --> 00:20:00.299 the time 00:20:00.299 --> 00:20:01.119 this woman 00:20:01.119 --> 00:20:02.720 has him 00:20:02.720 --> 00:20:03.139 in her 00:20:03.139 --> 00:20:03.460 hands 00:20:03.460 --> 00:20:03.720 and 00:20:03.720 --> 00:20:04.699 moulding 00:20:04.699 --> 00:20:04.899 him 00:20:04.899 --> 00:20:05.119 like 00:20:05.119 --> 00:20:05.480 putty 00:20:05.480 --> 00:20:08.880 and the 00:20:08.880 --> 00:20:09.279 process 00:20:09.279 --> 00:20:09.920 is this 00:20:09.920 --> 00:20:11.180 working 00:20:11.180 --> 00:20:11.519 through the 00:20:11.519 --> 00:20:11.740 verses 00:20:11.740 --> 00:20:12.019 fairly 00:20:12.019 --> 00:20:12.299 quickly 00:20:12.299 --> 00:20:12.519 here 00:20:12.519 --> 00:20:13.460 the first 00:20:13.460 --> 00:20:13.660 thing 00:20:13.660 --> 00:20:13.799 is 00:20:13.799 --> 00:20:14.019 verses 00:20:14.019 --> 00:20:14.360 8 and 00:20:14.360 --> 00:20:14.640 9 00:20:14.640 --> 00:20:16.019 imagining 00:20:16.019 --> 00:20:19.720 imagining 00:20:19.720 --> 00:20:20.279 what is 00:20:20.279 --> 00:20:20.720 on offer 00:20:20.720 --> 00:20:21.420 is what 00:20:21.420 --> 00:20:21.799 he's doing 00:20:21.799 --> 00:20:23.360 and so 00:20:23.360 --> 00:20:23.579 he 00:20:23.579 --> 00:20:24.740 that imagination 00:20:24.740 --> 00:20:25.480 takes him 00:20:25.480 --> 00:20:25.980 to hang 00:20:25.980 --> 00:20:26.319 out 00:20:26.319 --> 00:20:27.240 near where 00:20:27.240 --> 00:20:27.860 she lives 00:20:27.860 --> 00:20:29.799 and he 00:20:29.799 --> 00:20:30.079 takes 00:20:30.079 --> 00:20:30.640 him there 00:20:30.640 --> 00:20:31.360 after dark 00:20:31.359 --> 00:20:35.639 his 00:20:35.639 --> 00:20:36.279 imagining 00:20:36.279 --> 00:20:37.579 is already 00:20:37.579 --> 00:20:38.959 driving 00:20:38.959 --> 00:20:39.259 his 00:20:39.259 --> 00:20:39.899 actions 00:20:39.899 --> 00:20:41.779 to move 00:20:41.779 --> 00:20:42.339 towards 00:20:42.339 --> 00:20:42.639 this 00:20:42.639 --> 00:20:42.979 woman 00:20:42.979 --> 00:20:46.859 he's 00:20:46.859 --> 00:20:47.119 already 00:20:47.119 --> 00:20:47.519 moving 00:20:47.519 --> 00:20:47.779 towards 00:20:47.779 --> 00:20:47.899 her 00:20:47.899 --> 00:20:48.279 physically 00:20:48.279 --> 00:20:48.759 and 00:20:48.759 --> 00:20:49.039 verse 00:20:49.039 --> 00:20:49.619 10 00:20:49.619 --> 00:20:50.000 it says 00:20:50.000 --> 00:20:50.479 behold 00:20:50.479 --> 00:20:50.979 in other 00:20:50.979 --> 00:20:51.139 words 00:20:51.139 --> 00:20:52.179 it means 00:20:52.179 --> 00:20:53.079 surprise 00:20:53.079 --> 00:20:53.619 surprise 00:20:53.619 --> 00:20:54.799 he moves 00:20:54.799 --> 00:20:55.019 here 00:20:55.019 --> 00:20:55.219 and he 00:20:55.219 --> 00:20:55.659 hangs out 00:20:55.659 --> 00:20:55.979 near her 00:20:55.979 --> 00:20:56.159 house 00:20:56.159 --> 00:20:56.479 and guess 00:20:56.479 --> 00:20:56.759 what 00:20:56.759 --> 00:20:57.379 oh he 00:20:57.379 --> 00:20:57.679 bumps 00:20:57.679 --> 00:20:58.079 into her 00:20:58.079 --> 00:20:58.299 just 00:20:58.299 --> 00:20:58.759 randomly 00:20:58.759 --> 00:21:00.859 and 00:21:00.859 --> 00:21:01.019 they're 00:21:01.019 --> 00:21:01.180 off 00:21:01.180 --> 00:21:01.299 and 00:21:01.299 --> 00:21:01.539 running 00:21:01.539 --> 00:21:06.619 and 00:21:06.619 --> 00:21:06.819 when 00:21:06.819 --> 00:21:07.019 they 00:21:07.019 --> 00:21:07.700 do 00:21:07.700 --> 00:21:08.079 meet 00:21:08.079 --> 00:21:09.159 she's 00:21:09.159 --> 00:21:09.500 dressed 00:21:09.500 --> 00:21:10.139 really 00:21:10.139 --> 00:21:10.879 provocatively 00:21:10.879 --> 00:21:11.460 and her 00:21:11.460 --> 00:21:11.680 body 00:21:11.680 --> 00:21:12.039 language 00:21:12.039 --> 00:21:12.359 is saying 00:21:12.359 --> 00:21:12.839 hey 00:21:12.839 --> 00:21:13.960 I'm 00:21:13.960 --> 00:21:14.480 available 00:21:14.480 --> 00:21:15.299 with 00:21:15.299 --> 00:21:15.460 an 00:21:15.460 --> 00:21:16.379 overpowering 00:21:16.379 --> 00:21:17.019 sexuality 00:21:17.019 --> 00:21:18.919 and 00:21:18.919 --> 00:21:19.079 at 00:21:19.079 --> 00:21:19.319 the 00:21:19.319 --> 00:21:19.740 very 00:21:19.740 --> 00:21:20.139 first 00:21:20.139 --> 00:21:20.659 stage 00:21:20.659 --> 00:21:21.619 whatever 00:21:21.619 --> 00:21:22.019 he 00:21:22.019 --> 00:21:22.279 might 00:21:22.279 --> 00:21:22.720 think 00:21:22.720 --> 00:21:24.079 she 00:21:24.079 --> 00:21:24.379 has 00:21:24.379 --> 00:21:24.619 taken 00:21:24.619 --> 00:21:25.079 control 00:21:25.079 --> 00:21:31.599 compartmentalizing 00:21:31.599 --> 00:21:32.839 verse 13 00:21:32.839 --> 00:21:33.119 is the 00:21:33.119 --> 00:21:33.299 next 00:21:33.299 --> 00:21:33.659 stage 00:21:33.659 --> 00:21:35.579 and by 00:21:35.579 --> 00:21:35.759 the way 00:21:35.759 --> 00:21:36.259 this isn't 00:21:36.259 --> 00:21:36.699 absolute 00:21:36.699 --> 00:21:37.299 I'm 00:21:37.299 --> 00:21:37.500 just 00:21:37.500 --> 00:21:38.159 trying to 00:21:38.159 --> 00:21:38.539 put words 00:21:38.539 --> 00:21:38.779 in here 00:21:38.779 --> 00:21:39.059 to help 00:21:39.059 --> 00:21:39.319 us see 00:21:39.319 --> 00:21:39.619 how this 00:21:39.619 --> 00:21:40.000 process 00:21:40.000 --> 00:21:40.419 works 00:21:40.419 --> 00:21:41.819 compartmentalizing 00:21:41.819 --> 00:21:42.879 verse 13 00:21:42.879 --> 00:21:44.079 they embrace 00:21:44.079 --> 00:21:44.819 and kiss 00:21:44.819 --> 00:21:47.480 the first 00:21:47.480 --> 00:21:48.000 movement 00:21:48.000 --> 00:21:49.039 of a 00:21:49.039 --> 00:21:49.679 monorail 00:21:49.679 --> 00:21:50.619 that will 00:21:50.619 --> 00:21:51.059 end 00:21:51.059 --> 00:21:51.799 in 00:21:51.799 --> 00:21:52.500 sexual 00:21:52.500 --> 00:21:53.000 intercourse 00:21:53.000 --> 00:21:56.640 and 00:21:56.640 --> 00:21:56.720 in 00:21:56.720 --> 00:21:56.859 the 00:21:56.859 --> 00:21:57.079 same 00:21:57.079 --> 00:21:57.599 moment 00:21:57.599 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00:27:03.060 --> 00:27:03.300 text 00:27:03.300 --> 00:27:03.640 and remember 00:27:03.640 --> 00:27:04.060 the text 00:27:04.060 --> 00:27:04.660 is poetry 00:27:04.660 --> 00:27:05.220 it's picture 00:27:05.220 --> 00:27:05.660 language 00:27:05.660 --> 00:27:06.820 so none 00:27:06.820 --> 00:27:07.040 of this 00:27:07.040 --> 00:27:07.380 is meant 00:27:07.380 --> 00:27:07.640 to be 00:27:07.640 --> 00:27:07.880 taken 00:27:07.880 --> 00:27:08.420 in absolute 00:27:08.420 --> 00:27:08.940 sense 00:27:08.940 --> 00:27:09.660 including 00:27:09.660 --> 00:27:10.000 the word 00:27:10.000 --> 00:27:10.360 death 00:27:10.359 --> 00:27:11.979 it's not 00:27:11.979 --> 00:27:12.339 as if 00:27:12.339 --> 00:27:13.319 the bible 00:27:13.319 --> 00:27:13.639 is saying 00:27:13.639 --> 00:27:14.240 anybody 00:27:14.240 --> 00:27:14.959 who commits 00:27:14.959 --> 00:27:15.500 adultery 00:27:15.500 --> 00:27:16.519 automatically 00:27:16.519 --> 00:27:17.759 is guaranteed 00:27:17.759 --> 00:27:18.259 to death 00:27:18.259 --> 00:27:18.639 and go to 00:27:18.639 --> 00:27:18.859 hell 00:27:18.859 --> 00:27:19.719 it's a 00:27:19.719 --> 00:27:20.099 picture 00:27:20.099 --> 00:27:20.819 of how 00:27:20.819 --> 00:27:21.579 serious 00:27:21.579 --> 00:27:21.979 it is 00:27:21.979 --> 00:27:22.419 in God's 00:27:22.419 --> 00:27:22.759 economy 00:27:22.759 --> 00:27:24.099 and persisted 00:27:24.099 --> 00:27:24.359 in it 00:27:24.359 --> 00:27:25.059 will lead 00:27:25.059 --> 00:27:25.500 to death 00:27:25.500 --> 00:27:26.339 actual death 00:27:26.339 --> 00:27:26.939 and destruction 00:27:26.939 --> 00:27:27.399 and hell 00:27:27.399 --> 00:27:29.500 but it's a 00:27:29.500 --> 00:27:30.159 picture of 00:27:30.159 --> 00:27:31.819 see the 00:27:31.819 --> 00:27:32.439 seriousness 00:27:32.439 --> 00:27:33.000 of it 00:27:33.000 --> 00:27:34.299 see that 00:27:34.299 --> 00:27:34.839 you're standing 00:27:34.839 --> 00:27:35.519 on the abyss 00:27:35.519 --> 00:27:36.259 and move 00:27:36.259 --> 00:27:36.879 away from 00:27:36.879 --> 00:27:37.099 it 00:27:37.099 --> 00:27:42.559 so what's 00:27:42.559 --> 00:27:42.980 the secret 00:27:42.980 --> 00:27:43.839 of staying 00:27:43.839 --> 00:27:44.319 on the track 00:27:44.319 --> 00:27:44.759 of wisdom 00:27:44.759 --> 00:27:45.259 and true 00:27:45.259 --> 00:27:45.599 intimacy 00:27:45.599 --> 00:27:46.039 well the 00:27:46.039 --> 00:27:46.359 first one 00:27:46.359 --> 00:27:46.839 I'm suggesting 00:27:46.839 --> 00:27:47.159 here is 00:27:47.159 --> 00:27:47.639 talk to 00:27:47.639 --> 00:27:48.019 yourself 00:27:48.019 --> 00:27:49.399 talk to 00:27:49.399 --> 00:27:49.679 yourself 00:27:49.679 --> 00:27:50.019 about what 00:27:50.019 --> 00:27:50.579 is really 00:27:50.579 --> 00:27:51.119 important 00:27:51.119 --> 00:27:51.779 and true 00:27:51.779 --> 00:27:52.899 now it's 00:27:52.899 --> 00:27:53.619 commonly said 00:27:53.619 --> 00:27:55.779 that talking 00:27:55.779 --> 00:27:56.219 to yourself 00:27:56.219 --> 00:27:57.059 is the first 00:27:57.059 --> 00:27:57.579 sign of 00:27:57.579 --> 00:27:58.159 madness 00:27:58.159 --> 00:28:01.259 that's 00:28:01.259 --> 00:28:01.759 ridiculous 00:28:01.759 --> 00:28:03.719 firstly 00:28:03.719 --> 00:28:04.240 because we're 00:28:04.240 --> 00:28:04.980 always talking 00:28:04.980 --> 00:28:05.519 to ourselves 00:28:05.519 --> 00:28:06.099 it's just 00:28:06.099 --> 00:28:06.619 that sometimes 00:28:06.619 --> 00:28:07.119 when we talk 00:28:07.119 --> 00:28:07.440 to ourselves 00:28:07.440 --> 00:28:07.740 we just 00:28:07.740 --> 00:28:08.200 fill our 00:28:08.200 --> 00:28:08.379 mind 00:28:08.379 --> 00:28:08.599 that we 00:28:08.599 --> 00:28:08.839 talk to 00:28:08.839 --> 00:28:09.079 ourselves 00:28:09.079 --> 00:28:09.500 rubbish 00:28:09.500 --> 00:28:10.839 but we're 00:28:10.839 --> 00:28:11.279 always talking 00:28:11.279 --> 00:28:11.819 to ourselves 00:28:11.819 --> 00:28:13.339 in Proverbs 00:28:13.339 --> 00:28:13.859 talking to 00:28:13.859 --> 00:28:14.220 yourself 00:28:14.220 --> 00:28:15.059 is the 00:28:15.059 --> 00:28:15.960 first sign 00:28:15.960 --> 00:28:16.460 of wisdom 00:28:16.460 --> 00:28:17.980 when you're 00:28:17.980 --> 00:28:18.440 talking to 00:28:18.440 --> 00:28:18.779 yourself 00:28:18.779 --> 00:28:19.500 about God's 00:28:19.500 --> 00:28:19.980 commands 00:28:19.980 --> 00:28:25.680 the key 00:28:25.680 --> 00:28:26.400 is to speak 00:28:26.400 --> 00:28:26.859 wisdom 00:28:26.859 --> 00:28:27.460 to ourselves 00:28:27.460 --> 00:28:27.779 or as 00:28:27.779 --> 00:28:28.319 Martin Lloyd 00:28:28.319 --> 00:28:28.660 John 00:28:28.660 --> 00:28:30.099 says it 00:28:30.099 --> 00:28:30.819 the key 00:28:30.819 --> 00:28:31.119 is to 00:28:31.119 --> 00:28:31.519 preach 00:28:31.519 --> 00:28:32.059 God's 00:28:32.059 --> 00:28:32.339 word 00:28:32.339 --> 00:28:32.559 to 00:28:32.559 --> 00:28:33.119 ourselves 00:28:33.119 --> 00:28:33.900 to our 00:28:33.900 --> 00:28:34.059 own 00:28:34.059 --> 00:28:34.400 hearts 00:28:34.400 --> 00:28:35.140 verses 4 00:28:35.140 --> 00:28:35.740 and 5 00:28:35.740 --> 00:28:36.620 say to 00:28:36.620 --> 00:28:36.960 wisdom 00:28:36.960 --> 00:28:37.380 you are 00:28:37.380 --> 00:28:37.960 my sister 00:28:37.960 --> 00:28:38.759 and call 00:28:38.759 --> 00:28:39.340 insight 00:28:39.340 --> 00:28:39.940 your intimate 00:28:39.940 --> 00:28:40.420 friend 00:28:40.420 --> 00:28:41.840 and then 00:28:41.840 --> 00:28:42.340 verse 5 00:28:42.340 --> 00:28:42.660 that will 00:28:42.660 --> 00:28:43.080 keep you 00:28:43.080 --> 00:28:43.380 from the 00:28:43.380 --> 00:28:43.700 forbidden 00:28:43.700 --> 00:28:44.040 woman 00:28:44.040 --> 00:28:44.560 from the 00:28:44.560 --> 00:28:45.060 adulteress 00:28:45.060 --> 00:28:45.360 with their 00:28:45.360 --> 00:28:45.660 smooth 00:28:45.660 --> 00:28:46.080 idols 00:28:46.080 --> 00:28:46.780 fruits 00:28:46.780 --> 00:28:47.259 or smooth 00:28:47.259 --> 00:28:47.540 words 00:28:47.540 --> 00:28:48.180 what will 00:28:48.180 --> 00:28:48.580 keep you 00:28:48.580 --> 00:28:49.560 from idols 00:28:49.560 --> 00:28:50.280 of any 00:28:50.280 --> 00:28:50.740 sort 00:28:50.740 --> 00:28:54.120 valuing 00:28:54.120 --> 00:28:54.440 and that's 00:28:54.440 --> 00:28:54.880 the picture 00:28:54.880 --> 00:28:55.440 of verse 4 00:28:55.440 --> 00:28:57.019 valuing God's 00:28:57.019 --> 00:28:57.340 wisdom 00:28:57.340 --> 00:28:57.960 like you 00:28:57.960 --> 00:28:58.580 would a 00:28:58.580 --> 00:28:58.900 loving 00:28:58.900 --> 00:28:59.500 sister 00:28:59.500 --> 00:29:00.540 who's not 00:29:00.540 --> 00:29:01.320 afraid 00:29:01.320 --> 00:29:02.360 to look you 00:29:02.360 --> 00:29:02.700 in the eye 00:29:02.700 --> 00:29:03.280 and call you 00:29:03.280 --> 00:29:03.620 out and say 00:29:03.620 --> 00:29:03.940 you've been 00:29:03.940 --> 00:29:04.559 an absolute 00:29:04.559 --> 00:29:05.460 idiot 00:29:05.460 --> 00:29:09.620 I've 00:29:09.620 --> 00:29:10.039 thankfully 00:29:10.039 --> 00:29:10.360 only got 00:29:10.360 --> 00:29:10.820 one sister 00:29:10.820 --> 00:29:11.140 for that 00:29:11.140 --> 00:29:11.460 reason 00:29:11.460 --> 00:29:13.420 three brothers 00:29:13.420 --> 00:29:14.100 but only one 00:29:14.100 --> 00:29:14.420 sister 00:29:14.420 --> 00:29:14.720 and one 00:29:14.720 --> 00:29:14.980 I think 00:29:14.980 --> 00:29:15.320 is enough 00:29:15.320 --> 00:29:15.660 for any 00:29:15.660 --> 00:29:16.000 family 00:29:16.000 --> 00:29:16.740 but I 00:29:16.740 --> 00:29:17.059 can have 00:29:17.059 --> 00:29:17.519 that discussion 00:29:17.519 --> 00:29:17.820 with you 00:29:17.820 --> 00:29:18.039 later 00:29:18.039 --> 00:29:18.259 so 00:29:18.259 --> 00:29:18.640 yeah 00:29:18.640 --> 00:29:20.320 or at least 00:29:20.320 --> 00:29:20.820 one of my 00:29:20.820 --> 00:29:21.259 sisters 00:29:21.259 --> 00:29:22.620 anyway 00:29:22.620 --> 00:29:22.900 I'll just 00:29:22.900 --> 00:29:23.160 stop 00:29:23.160 --> 00:29:23.320 now 00:29:23.320 --> 00:29:23.539 okay 00:29:23.539 --> 00:29:25.880 value 00:29:25.880 --> 00:29:26.920 wisdom 00:29:26.920 --> 00:29:27.299 like a 00:29:27.299 --> 00:29:27.460 loving 00:29:27.460 --> 00:29:27.740 sister 00:29:27.740 --> 00:29:28.259 value 00:29:28.259 --> 00:29:28.539 wisdom 00:29:28.539 --> 00:29:28.900 like a 00:29:28.900 --> 00:29:29.200 close 00:29:29.200 --> 00:29:29.620 friend 00:29:29.620 --> 00:29:30.120 and again 00:29:30.120 --> 00:29:30.539 a close 00:29:30.539 --> 00:29:30.860 friend 00:29:30.860 --> 00:29:31.120 is a 00:29:31.120 --> 00:29:31.400 picture 00:29:31.400 --> 00:29:31.840 of somebody 00:29:31.840 --> 00:29:32.559 who will 00:29:32.559 --> 00:29:33.220 actually speak 00:29:33.220 --> 00:29:33.759 the truth 00:29:33.759 --> 00:29:34.200 in love 00:29:34.200 --> 00:29:34.740 to you 00:29:34.740 --> 00:29:35.740 who will 00:29:35.740 --> 00:29:36.299 call you 00:29:36.299 --> 00:29:36.539 out 00:29:36.539 --> 00:29:36.980 when you're 00:29:36.980 --> 00:29:37.740 being an 00:29:37.740 --> 00:29:39.039 idiot 00:29:39.039 --> 00:29:40.660 who will 00:29:40.660 --> 00:29:40.980 say look 00:29:40.980 --> 00:29:42.100 you're not 00:29:42.100 --> 00:29:42.900 thinking straight 00:29:42.900 --> 00:29:43.360 you need to 00:29:43.360 --> 00:29:43.839 say it like 00:29:43.839 --> 00:29:44.339 this 00:29:44.339 --> 00:29:50.299 second strategy 00:29:50.299 --> 00:29:51.140 put a fire 00:29:51.140 --> 00:29:52.140 awareness plan 00:29:52.140 --> 00:29:52.740 in place 00:29:52.740 --> 00:29:53.000 now 00:29:53.000 --> 00:29:53.579 we're very 00:29:53.579 --> 00:29:54.559 much in 00:29:54.559 --> 00:29:54.940 tune with 00:29:54.940 --> 00:29:55.579 fire awareness 00:29:55.579 --> 00:29:55.960 plans 00:29:55.960 --> 00:29:56.299 we all 00:29:56.299 --> 00:29:57.160 the bushfires 00:29:57.160 --> 00:29:57.779 last year 00:29:57.779 --> 00:29:59.720 and the 00:29:59.720 --> 00:30:00.299 devastation 00:30:00.299 --> 00:30:00.619 of it 00:30:00.619 --> 00:30:01.980 last week 00:30:01.980 --> 00:30:02.339 in chapter 00:30:02.339 --> 00:30:02.660 6 00:30:02.660 --> 00:30:03.799 verse 27 00:30:03.799 --> 00:30:04.139 Martin 00:30:04.139 --> 00:30:04.599 talked about 00:30:04.599 --> 00:30:04.960 the verse 00:30:04.960 --> 00:30:06.720 can a man 00:30:06.720 --> 00:30:07.839 carry fire 00:30:07.839 --> 00:30:08.519 next to his 00:30:08.519 --> 00:30:08.879 chest 00:30:08.879 --> 00:30:09.160 and his 00:30:09.160 --> 00:30:09.500 clothes 00:30:09.500 --> 00:30:09.940 not be 00:30:09.940 --> 00:30:10.259 burned 00:30:10.259 --> 00:30:15.519 playing with 00:30:15.519 --> 00:30:16.299 false intimacy 00:30:16.299 --> 00:30:17.059 is like 00:30:17.059 --> 00:30:17.619 playing with 00:30:17.619 --> 00:30:18.180 fire 00:30:18.180 --> 00:30:20.299 it's like 00:30:20.299 --> 00:30:21.059 lighting a 00:30:21.059 --> 00:30:21.859 fire in a 00:30:21.859 --> 00:30:22.740 dry bushland 00:30:22.740 --> 00:30:23.319 setting on a 00:30:23.319 --> 00:30:24.079 hot windy 00:30:24.079 --> 00:30:24.500 day 00:30:24.500 --> 00:30:25.940 it's just 00:30:25.940 --> 00:30:26.460 not going to 00:30:26.460 --> 00:30:27.180 end well 00:30:27.180 --> 00:30:31.600 it will get 00:30:31.600 --> 00:30:32.140 out of control 00:30:32.140 --> 00:30:32.400 and it will 00:30:32.400 --> 00:30:33.079 consume you 00:30:33.079 --> 00:30:34.200 and so 00:30:34.200 --> 00:30:34.900 verses 1 00:30:34.900 --> 00:30:35.319 and 2 00:30:35.319 --> 00:30:35.880 and 4 00:30:35.880 --> 00:30:37.400 the time 00:30:37.400 --> 00:30:38.000 to prepare 00:30:38.000 --> 00:30:38.440 for a 00:30:38.440 --> 00:30:39.340 wildfire 00:30:39.340 --> 00:30:40.680 is now 00:30:40.680 --> 00:30:43.340 ahead of 00:30:43.340 --> 00:30:43.720 time 00:30:43.720 --> 00:30:45.340 when you're 00:30:45.340 --> 00:30:45.779 calm 00:30:45.779 --> 00:30:46.400 when you're 00:30:46.400 --> 00:30:46.920 in control 00:30:46.920 --> 00:30:47.220 of your 00:30:47.220 --> 00:30:47.620 senses 00:30:47.620 --> 00:30:48.360 when your 00:30:48.360 --> 00:30:48.840 passions 00:30:48.840 --> 00:30:49.840 are under 00:30:49.840 --> 00:30:50.660 control 00:30:50.660 --> 00:30:51.779 when you're 00:30:51.779 --> 00:30:52.360 saying things 00:30:52.360 --> 00:30:52.720 straight 00:30:52.720 --> 00:30:53.360 when you can 00:30:53.360 --> 00:30:53.960 actually read 00:30:53.960 --> 00:30:54.480 God's word 00:30:54.480 --> 00:30:55.120 and see the 00:30:55.120 --> 00:30:55.740 implications 00:30:55.740 --> 00:30:56.380 and feel the 00:30:56.380 --> 00:30:56.980 import of it 00:30:56.980 --> 00:30:57.920 that's the 00:30:57.920 --> 00:30:58.420 time to put 00:30:58.420 --> 00:30:58.860 your fire 00:30:58.860 --> 00:30:59.540 plan in 00:30:59.540 --> 00:30:59.900 place 00:30:59.900 --> 00:31:01.020 not when 00:31:01.020 --> 00:31:01.700 the fire 00:31:01.700 --> 00:31:02.120 is licking 00:31:02.120 --> 00:31:02.420 at your 00:31:02.420 --> 00:31:02.720 door 00:31:02.720 --> 00:31:03.640 not when 00:31:03.640 --> 00:31:04.200 in this 00:31:04.200 --> 00:31:05.000 situation 00:31:05.000 --> 00:31:05.920 when you're 00:31:05.920 --> 00:31:06.620 actually in 00:31:06.620 --> 00:31:07.260 the embrace 00:31:07.260 --> 00:31:07.640 of this 00:31:07.640 --> 00:31:08.060 woman and 00:31:08.060 --> 00:31:08.520 kissing her 00:31:08.520 --> 00:31:09.140 passionately 00:31:09.140 --> 00:31:10.160 that ain't no 00:31:10.160 --> 00:31:10.780 time to try 00:31:10.780 --> 00:31:11.220 and formulate 00:31:11.220 --> 00:31:11.600 a plan 00:31:11.600 --> 00:31:12.040 well what 00:31:12.040 --> 00:31:12.360 should I 00:31:12.360 --> 00:31:12.980 do now 00:31:12.980 --> 00:31:13.720 hmm 00:31:13.720 --> 00:31:22.759 keep your 00:31:22.759 --> 00:31:23.519 inner landscape 00:31:23.519 --> 00:31:24.299 fixed and 00:31:24.299 --> 00:31:24.860 healthy 00:31:24.860 --> 00:31:25.980 verse 25 00:31:25.980 --> 00:31:26.680 again this 00:31:26.680 --> 00:31:27.400 repeated thing 00:31:27.400 --> 00:31:28.000 through Proverbs 00:31:28.000 --> 00:31:29.299 let not 00:31:29.299 --> 00:31:29.819 your heart 00:31:29.819 --> 00:31:30.079 and that 00:31:30.079 --> 00:31:30.559 includes your 00:31:30.559 --> 00:31:30.960 attitudes 00:31:30.960 --> 00:31:31.700 your thinking 00:31:31.700 --> 00:31:32.180 and all those 00:31:32.180 --> 00:31:32.600 sort of things 00:31:32.600 --> 00:31:32.940 let not 00:31:32.940 --> 00:31:33.519 your heart 00:31:33.519 --> 00:31:34.660 turn aside 00:31:34.660 --> 00:31:35.000 to her 00:31:35.000 --> 00:31:35.319 way 00:31:35.319 --> 00:31:36.059 do not 00:31:36.059 --> 00:31:36.740 stray 00:31:36.740 --> 00:31:37.539 do not 00:31:37.539 --> 00:31:37.740 just 00:31:37.740 --> 00:31:38.599 endlessly 00:31:38.599 --> 00:31:39.460 wander 00:31:39.460 --> 00:31:41.200 into her 00:31:41.200 --> 00:31:41.559 path 00:31:41.559 --> 00:31:42.000 because 00:31:42.000 --> 00:31:42.960 you've not 00:31:42.960 --> 00:31:43.700 maintained a 00:31:43.700 --> 00:31:44.480 healthy inner 00:31:44.480 --> 00:31:45.000 landscape 00:31:45.000 --> 00:31:46.079 you've not 00:31:46.079 --> 00:31:46.720 guarded your 00:31:46.720 --> 00:31:47.400 attitudes and 00:31:47.400 --> 00:31:47.960 your thinking 00:31:47.960 --> 00:31:55.640 make the 00:31:55.640 --> 00:31:56.039 Lord 00:31:56.039 --> 00:31:56.960 cultivate a 00:31:56.960 --> 00:31:57.200 healthy 00:31:57.200 --> 00:31:57.460 heart 00:31:57.460 --> 00:31:57.980 make the 00:31:57.980 --> 00:31:58.299 Lord 00:31:58.299 --> 00:31:59.019 the object 00:31:59.019 --> 00:31:59.460 of your 00:31:59.460 --> 00:31:59.980 desire 00:31:59.980 --> 00:32:00.779 and source 00:32:00.779 --> 00:32:01.299 of delight 00:32:01.299 --> 00:32:03.620 don't 00:32:03.620 --> 00:32:04.400 overestimate 00:32:04.400 --> 00:32:05.220 your ability 00:32:05.220 --> 00:32:05.819 to resist 00:32:05.819 --> 00:32:06.480 temptation 00:32:06.480 --> 00:32:09.120 don't 00:32:09.120 --> 00:32:09.700 underestimate 00:32:09.700 --> 00:32:10.380 the power 00:32:10.380 --> 00:32:10.980 of sex 00:32:10.980 --> 00:32:11.680 and seduction 00:32:11.680 --> 00:32:14.140 you can't 00:32:14.140 --> 00:32:14.700 play with it 00:32:14.700 --> 00:32:15.220 without getting 00:32:15.220 --> 00:32:15.579 burnt 00:32:15.579 --> 00:32:18.259 don't 00:32:18.259 --> 00:32:18.960 allow yourself 00:32:18.960 --> 00:32:19.500 to wander 00:32:19.500 --> 00:32:20.099 aimlessly 00:32:20.099 --> 00:32:20.759 in life 00:32:20.759 --> 00:32:22.720 but lastly 00:32:22.720 --> 00:32:23.759 and this is a 00:32:23.759 --> 00:32:24.039 bit of a 00:32:24.039 --> 00:32:24.579 negative one 00:32:24.579 --> 00:32:25.399 this is one 00:32:25.399 --> 00:32:26.019 from Eeyore 00:32:26.019 --> 00:32:28.000 if nothing 00:32:28.000 --> 00:32:28.879 else works 00:32:28.879 --> 00:32:30.639 use fear 00:32:30.639 --> 00:32:31.139 as a 00:32:31.139 --> 00:32:31.619 motivation 00:32:31.619 --> 00:32:33.759 fear of 00:32:33.759 --> 00:32:34.639 the carnage 00:32:34.639 --> 00:32:35.859 verses 26 00:32:35.859 --> 00:32:36.359 and 27 00:32:36.359 --> 00:32:37.259 if nothing 00:32:37.259 --> 00:32:37.659 else works 00:32:37.659 --> 00:32:38.839 just try and 00:32:38.839 --> 00:32:39.519 fill your mind 00:32:39.519 --> 00:32:40.319 with a fear 00:32:40.319 --> 00:32:41.319 of the carnage 00:32:41.319 --> 00:32:42.659 that unfaithfulness 00:32:42.659 --> 00:32:43.240 brings 00:32:43.240 --> 00:32:45.500 it's not 00:32:45.500 --> 00:32:45.839 the best 00:32:45.839 --> 00:32:46.319 motivation 00:32:46.319 --> 00:32:47.599 but it's 00:32:47.599 --> 00:32:48.059 far better 00:32:48.059 --> 00:32:48.500 than none 00:32:48.500 --> 00:32:52.640 because fear 00:32:52.640 --> 00:32:53.140 makes even 00:32:53.140 --> 00:32:53.500 the most 00:32:53.500 --> 00:32:54.859 self-reliant 00:32:54.859 --> 00:32:55.819 self-confident 00:32:55.819 --> 00:32:56.319 and that's 00:32:56.319 --> 00:32:56.599 what this 00:32:56.599 --> 00:32:57.440 young man 00:32:57.440 --> 00:32:57.900 is here 00:32:57.900 --> 00:32:58.200 as he's 00:32:58.200 --> 00:32:58.759 depicted here 00:32:58.759 --> 00:32:59.099 that's what 00:32:59.099 --> 00:32:59.740 the foolish 00:32:59.740 --> 00:33:00.180 man is 00:33:00.180 --> 00:33:00.700 he's 00:33:00.700 --> 00:33:01.480 self-reliant 00:33:01.480 --> 00:33:02.039 he's 00:33:02.039 --> 00:33:02.599 self-confident 00:33:02.599 --> 00:33:03.120 he thinks 00:33:03.120 --> 00:33:03.640 I'm in 00:33:03.640 --> 00:33:03.980 control 00:33:03.980 --> 00:33:04.359 I can 00:33:04.359 --> 00:33:04.799 do this 00:33:04.799 --> 00:33:05.079 I can 00:33:05.079 --> 00:33:05.339 go to 00:33:05.339 --> 00:33:05.559 this 00:33:05.559 --> 00:33:05.859 point 00:33:05.859 --> 00:33:06.579 and stop 00:33:06.579 --> 00:33:07.019 safely 00:33:07.019 --> 00:33:07.480 and enjoy 00:33:07.480 --> 00:33:07.720 it up 00:33:07.720 --> 00:33:07.960 to this 00:33:07.960 --> 00:33:08.140 point 00:33:08.140 --> 00:33:08.799 but not 00:33:08.799 --> 00:33:09.319 get myself 00:33:09.319 --> 00:33:09.680 into 00:33:09.680 --> 00:33:10.420 danger 00:33:10.420 --> 00:33:13.400 fear 00:33:13.400 --> 00:33:14.680 makes 00:33:14.680 --> 00:33:15.519 even the 00:33:15.519 --> 00:33:15.720 most 00:33:15.720 --> 00:33:16.779 self-confident 00:33:16.779 --> 00:33:17.420 willful 00:33:17.420 --> 00:33:17.800 people 00:33:17.800 --> 00:33:18.460 more 00:33:18.460 --> 00:33:18.980 cautious 00:33:18.980 --> 00:33:20.880 and therefore 00:33:20.880 --> 00:33:21.320 hopefully 00:33:21.320 --> 00:33:22.080 more thoughtful 00:33:22.080 --> 00:33:23.300 in their 00:33:23.300 --> 00:33:23.980 life actions 00:33:23.980 --> 00:33:24.940 life decisions 00:33:24.940 --> 00:33:27.240 so friends 00:33:27.240 --> 00:33:29.259 as always 00:33:29.259 --> 00:33:30.800 and as always 00:33:30.800 --> 00:33:32.000 as is always 00:33:32.000 --> 00:33:32.640 the conclusion 00:33:32.640 --> 00:33:33.400 in proverbs 00:33:33.400 --> 00:33:35.300 experiencing 00:33:35.300 --> 00:33:36.100 the slippery 00:33:36.100 --> 00:33:36.660 slope of 00:33:36.660 --> 00:33:37.200 foolishness 00:33:37.200 --> 00:33:37.759 and destruction 00:33:37.759 --> 00:33:38.600 or 00:33:38.600 --> 00:33:39.480 staying on 00:33:39.480 --> 00:33:39.839 the track 00:33:39.839 --> 00:33:40.220 of true 00:33:40.220 --> 00:33:40.620 intimacy 00:33:40.620 --> 00:33:41.799 comes down 00:33:41.799 --> 00:33:42.480 to a very 00:33:42.480 --> 00:33:43.380 simple 00:33:43.380 --> 00:33:44.160 factor 00:33:44.160 --> 00:33:44.460 a very 00:33:44.460 --> 00:33:44.700 simple 00:33:44.700 --> 00:33:45.039 choice 00:33:45.039 --> 00:33:45.259 and that 00:33:45.259 --> 00:33:45.440 is 00:33:45.440 --> 00:33:46.400 who 00:33:46.400 --> 00:33:47.039 is your 00:33:47.039 --> 00:33:47.700 standard 00:33:47.700 --> 00:33:48.500 of beauty 00:33:48.500 --> 00:33:50.559 of desirability 00:33:50.559 --> 00:33:51.440 of delight 00:33:51.440 --> 00:33:52.160 of love 00:33:52.160 --> 00:33:53.980 of satisfaction 00:33:53.980 --> 00:33:57.180 proverbs 00:33:57.180 --> 00:33:57.559 and the 00:33:57.559 --> 00:33:57.799 scripture 00:33:57.799 --> 00:33:58.240 generally 00:33:58.240 --> 00:33:58.799 tell us 00:33:58.799 --> 00:34:00.759 that wisdom 00:34:00.759 --> 00:34:02.380 equals 00:34:02.380 --> 00:34:03.259 getting 00:34:03.259 --> 00:34:03.860 Jesus 00:34:03.860 --> 00:34:06.059 because 00:34:06.059 --> 00:34:06.460 Jesus 00:34:06.460 --> 00:34:07.140 is the 00:34:07.140 --> 00:34:07.500 wisdom 00:34:07.500 --> 00:34:08.219 and righteousness 00:34:08.219 --> 00:34:08.740 of God 00:34:08.740 --> 00:34:09.260 1 Corinthians 00:34:09.260 --> 00:34:11.360 getting 00:34:11.360 --> 00:34:11.840 Jesus 00:34:11.840 --> 00:34:12.760 is to 00:34:12.760 --> 00:34:13.080 get 00:34:13.080 --> 00:34:13.720 true 00:34:13.720 --> 00:34:14.300 intimacy 00:34:14.300 --> 00:34:15.880 full 00:34:15.880 --> 00:34:16.360 acceptance 00:34:16.360 --> 00:34:16.880 with God 00:34:16.880 --> 00:34:18.200 steadfast 00:34:18.200 --> 00:34:18.500 love 00:34:18.500 --> 00:34:19.040 eternal 00:34:19.040 --> 00:34:19.560 love 00:34:19.560 --> 00:34:21.080 total 00:34:21.080 --> 00:34:21.740 validation 00:34:21.740 --> 00:34:26.240 and that 00:34:26.240 --> 00:34:26.900 all results 00:34:26.900 --> 00:34:27.820 in expressing 00:34:27.820 --> 00:34:28.280 wisdom 00:34:28.280 --> 00:34:28.640 in our 00:34:28.640 --> 00:34:29.340 life decisions 00:34:29.340 --> 00:34:29.960 expressing 00:34:29.960 --> 00:34:30.600 the mind 00:34:30.600 --> 00:34:31.140 of Christ 00:34:31.140 --> 00:34:31.960 in all 00:34:31.960 --> 00:34:32.620 points 00:34:32.620 --> 00:34:32.940 in all 00:34:32.940 --> 00:34:33.400 facets 00:34:33.400 --> 00:34:33.900 in all 00:34:33.900 --> 00:34:34.700 categories 00:34:34.700 --> 00:34:35.300 of life 00:34:35.300 --> 00:34:41.080 including 00:34:41.080 --> 00:34:42.960 our 00:34:42.960 --> 00:34:43.580 sexuality 00:34:43.580 --> 00:34:47.000 now at 00:34:47.000 --> 00:34:47.539 first glance 00:34:47.539 --> 00:34:48.080 wisdom 00:34:48.080 --> 00:34:48.840 may not 00:34:48.840 --> 00:34:50.539 look as 00:34:50.539 --> 00:34:50.940 appealing 00:34:50.940 --> 00:34:52.539 as the 00:34:52.539 --> 00:34:52.860 picture 00:34:52.860 --> 00:34:53.420 portrayed 00:34:53.420 --> 00:34:54.539 in this 00:34:54.539 --> 00:34:56.920 chapter 00:34:56.920 --> 00:34:58.220 of a 00:34:58.220 --> 00:34:58.700 woman who's 00:34:58.700 --> 00:34:59.340 dressed to 00:34:59.340 --> 00:34:59.560 kill 00:34:59.560 --> 00:35:00.320 as we say 00:35:00.320 --> 00:35:00.680 dressed 00:35:00.680 --> 00:35:01.320 provocatively 00:35:01.320 --> 00:35:02.120 and just 00:35:02.120 --> 00:35:02.840 oozing 00:35:02.840 --> 00:35:03.360 sex 00:35:03.360 --> 00:35:04.160 and sexuality 00:35:04.160 --> 00:35:05.100 that 00:35:05.100 --> 00:35:05.780 seems to 00:35:05.780 --> 00:35:06.280 grab our 00:35:06.280 --> 00:35:06.660 attention 00:35:06.660 --> 00:35:07.180 that looks 00:35:07.180 --> 00:35:07.860 so appealing 00:35:07.860 --> 00:35:08.740 but man 00:35:08.740 --> 00:35:08.940 it's 00:35:08.940 --> 00:35:09.360 poison 00:35:09.360 --> 00:35:15.500 wisdom 00:35:15.500 --> 00:35:16.039 may not 00:35:16.039 --> 00:35:16.740 at first glance 00:35:16.740 --> 00:35:17.220 look that 00:35:17.220 --> 00:35:17.519 appealing 00:35:17.519 --> 00:35:18.000 but it 00:35:18.000 --> 00:35:18.539 delivers 00:35:18.539 --> 00:35:19.960 it delivers 00:35:19.960 --> 00:35:20.800 true intimacy 00:35:20.800 --> 00:35:21.660 it delivers 00:35:21.660 --> 00:35:22.240 the acceptance 00:35:22.240 --> 00:35:22.820 value 00:35:22.820 --> 00:35:23.380 and love 00:35:23.380 --> 00:35:23.960 we crave 00:35:23.960 --> 00:35:24.980 unfaithfulness 00:35:24.980 --> 00:35:25.400 on the other 00:35:25.400 --> 00:35:25.580 hand 00:35:25.580 --> 00:35:26.260 or foolishness 00:35:26.260 --> 00:35:27.660 is chasing 00:35:27.660 --> 00:35:28.240 our own 00:35:28.240 --> 00:35:28.740 form of 00:35:28.740 --> 00:35:29.020 wisdom 00:35:29.020 --> 00:35:30.960 and it's 00:35:30.960 --> 00:35:31.340 settling 00:35:31.340 --> 00:35:31.820 for the 00:35:31.820 --> 00:35:33.180 false 00:35:33.180 --> 00:35:33.580 intimacy 00:35:33.580 --> 00:35:34.880 of idols 00:35:34.880 --> 00:35:35.940 they promise 00:35:35.940 --> 00:35:36.460 delight 00:35:36.460 --> 00:35:37.620 but ultimately 00:35:37.620 --> 00:35:39.000 deliver destruction 00:35:39.000 --> 00:35:40.380 it may seem 00:35:40.380 --> 00:35:41.020 more attractive 00:35:41.020 --> 00:35:42.680 but it 00:35:42.680 --> 00:35:43.140 embodies 00:35:43.140 --> 00:35:44.100 everything 00:35:44.100 --> 00:35:44.400 that is 00:35:44.400 --> 00:35:45.100 against 00:35:45.100 --> 00:35:47.920 how God's 00:35:47.920 --> 00:35:48.200 people are 00:35:48.200 --> 00:35:48.660 defined 00:35:48.660 --> 00:35:53.100 and from 00:35:53.100 --> 00:35:53.620 here I think 00:35:53.620 --> 00:35:54.080 I'll finish 00:35:54.080 --> 00:35:54.440 with this 00:35:54.440 --> 00:35:55.020 from here I 00:35:55.020 --> 00:35:55.260 think 00:35:55.260 --> 00:35:56.580 we can see 00:35:56.580 --> 00:35:57.220 our best 00:35:57.220 --> 00:35:57.840 defense 00:35:57.840 --> 00:35:58.920 against 00:35:58.920 --> 00:36:00.000 temptation 00:36:00.000 --> 00:36:00.800 to unfaithfulness 00:36:00.800 --> 00:36:02.980 you see 00:36:02.980 --> 00:36:03.500 when we think 00:36:03.500 --> 00:36:04.020 of the Lord 00:36:04.020 --> 00:36:04.380 Jesus 00:36:04.380 --> 00:36:06.300 it was 00:36:06.300 --> 00:36:06.980 our 00:36:06.980 --> 00:36:07.860 unfaithfulness 00:36:07.860 --> 00:36:09.260 at every 00:36:09.260 --> 00:36:09.940 point in 00:36:09.940 --> 00:36:10.400 life 00:36:10.400 --> 00:36:12.200 which 00:36:12.200 --> 00:36:12.940 forced the 00:36:12.940 --> 00:36:13.360 father to 00:36:13.360 --> 00:36:13.820 put him 00:36:13.820 --> 00:36:14.140 on the 00:36:14.140 --> 00:36:14.520 cross 00:36:14.520 --> 00:36:15.840 and kill 00:36:15.840 --> 00:36:16.340 him 00:36:16.340 --> 00:36:19.340 it doesn't 00:36:19.340 --> 00:36:19.740 get any 00:36:19.740 --> 00:36:19.940 more 00:36:19.940 --> 00:36:20.780 the carnage 00:36:20.780 --> 00:36:21.300 doesn't get 00:36:21.300 --> 00:36:21.740 any bigger 00:36:21.740 --> 00:36:22.120 than that 00:36:22.120 --> 00:36:22.480 does it 00:36:22.480 --> 00:36:29.699 he 00:36:29.699 --> 00:36:30.460 experienced 00:36:30.460 --> 00:36:30.699 the 00:36:30.699 --> 00:36:31.380 ultimate 00:36:31.380 --> 00:36:32.260 carnage 00:36:32.260 --> 00:36:33.260 of 00:36:33.260 --> 00:36:33.900 unfaithfulness 00:36:33.900 --> 00:36:36.699 he lost 00:36:36.699 --> 00:36:37.440 everything 00:36:37.440 --> 00:36:39.380 because of 00:36:39.380 --> 00:36:39.579 our 00:36:39.579 --> 00:36:40.179 unfaithfulness 00:36:40.179 --> 00:36:41.400 he 00:36:41.400 --> 00:36:42.059 suffered 00:36:42.059 --> 00:36:42.820 everything 00:36:42.820 --> 00:36:44.679 because of 00:36:44.679 --> 00:36:44.860 our 00:36:44.860 --> 00:36:45.400 unfaithfulness 00:36:45.400 --> 00:36:51.840 he 00:36:51.840 --> 00:36:52.380 he bore 00:36:52.380 --> 00:36:52.579 the 00:36:52.579 --> 00:36:53.019 brunt 00:36:53.019 --> 00:36:53.860 of the 00:36:53.860 --> 00:36:54.280 anger 00:36:54.280 --> 00:36:54.980 of God 00:36:54.980 --> 00:36:56.960 who is 00:36:56.960 --> 00:36:57.220 our 00:36:57.220 --> 00:36:57.800 aggrieved 00:36:57.800 --> 00:36:58.340 lover 00:36:58.340 --> 00:37:00.820 because we 00:37:00.820 --> 00:37:01.700 betrayed him 00:37:01.700 --> 00:37:02.460 in unfaithfulness 00:37:02.460 --> 00:37:03.119 repeatedly 00:37:03.119 --> 00:37:07.320 he bore 00:37:07.320 --> 00:37:08.059 the shame 00:37:08.059 --> 00:37:08.860 and the 00:37:08.860 --> 00:37:09.260 judgment 00:37:09.260 --> 00:37:10.079 of all 00:37:10.079 --> 00:37:10.280 our 00:37:10.280 --> 00:37:10.900 unfaithfulness 00:37:10.900 --> 00:37:11.820 smeared 00:37:11.820 --> 00:37:12.280 onto him 00:37:12.280 --> 00:37:13.080 and quite 00:37:13.080 --> 00:37:13.680 literally 00:37:13.680 --> 00:37:14.200 he went 00:37:14.200 --> 00:37:14.660 down to 00:37:14.660 --> 00:37:14.980 the pit 00:37:14.980 --> 00:37:15.420 of hell 00:37:15.420 --> 00:37:17.120 because of 00:37:17.120 --> 00:37:17.260 our 00:37:17.260 --> 00:37:17.820 unfaithfulness 00:37:17.820 --> 00:37:21.960 why 00:37:21.960 --> 00:37:23.900 to free 00:37:23.900 --> 00:37:24.240 us from 00:37:24.240 --> 00:37:24.620 our sin 00:37:24.620 --> 00:37:25.060 to set 00:37:25.060 --> 00:37:25.700 us free 00:37:25.700 --> 00:37:26.900 from a 00:37:26.900 --> 00:37:27.340 lifetime 00:37:27.340 --> 00:37:27.640 of 00:37:27.640 --> 00:37:28.400 unfaithfulness 00:37:28.400 --> 00:37:30.019 to set 00:37:30.019 --> 00:37:30.460 us free 00:37:30.460 --> 00:37:30.700 to 00:37:30.700 --> 00:37:31.280 righteousness 00:37:31.280 --> 00:37:36.260 so 00:37:36.260 --> 00:37:37.140 the best 00:37:37.140 --> 00:37:37.840 temptation 00:37:37.840 --> 00:37:38.360 the best 00:37:38.360 --> 00:37:40.060 motivation 00:37:40.060 --> 00:37:40.580 to avoid 00:37:40.580 --> 00:37:41.080 temptation 00:37:41.080 --> 00:37:41.760 to unfaithfulness 00:37:41.760 --> 00:37:44.100 I keep 00:37:44.100 --> 00:37:44.500 saying to 00:37:44.500 --> 00:37:44.780 myself 00:37:44.780 --> 00:37:45.040 now 00:37:45.040 --> 00:37:45.820 as of 00:37:45.820 --> 00:37:45.920 a 00:37:45.920 --> 00:37:46.360 temptation 00:37:46.360 --> 00:37:46.720 to 00:37:46.720 --> 00:37:46.920 eat 00:37:46.920 --> 00:37:47.260 again 00:37:47.260 --> 00:37:49.040 look 00:37:49.040 --> 00:37:49.300 to 00:37:49.300 --> 00:37:49.780 Jesus 00:37:49.780 --> 00:37:50.240 for that 00:37:50.240 --> 00:37:50.520 which 00:37:50.520 --> 00:37:50.800 you're 00:37:50.800 --> 00:37:51.420 craving 00:37:51.420 --> 00:37:51.720 at the 00:37:51.720 --> 00:37:51.980 moment 00:37:51.980 --> 00:37:52.760 don't 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