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 1 Peter chapter 3, not a passage that is universally loved, and yet this is the word of the Lord, isn't it?

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 And we want to be attentive to it.

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 1 Peter 3 verse 1,

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 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of a word.

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 1 Peter 3 verse 1,

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 1 Peter 3 verse 1,

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 Amen.

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 Definitely not universally loved, right?

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 1 Peter 3 verse 1,

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 He basically said this section is a bit like a house.

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 Each room of the house is dealing with kind of a different category of suffering, a different category of person.

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 But the gateway, the doorway into this house is back in chapter 2 verses 11 and 12.

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 Will you just set your eyes on that again?

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 Peter says,

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 It says,

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 So remember, the doorway into this is to say there is a way that God intends for his people to live in the world, and the world is not going to like that.

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 The world will naturally look at that faith.

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 The world will naturally look at that faith and look at that way of life and actually call it evil.

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 And certainly we see that happening all the time in our culture.

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 That was certainly true in Peter's culture as well.

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 But then Peter says that as we do that and as we represent God in the world, faithfulness to him despite the suffering that may come as a result of us,

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 that God will use the testimony of our faith and of our good works in order to draw some of those unbelievers to Christ so that they might then be saved.

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 Now we see that being repeated here in this passage in chapter 3.

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 We see Peter's presenting a practical outworking of that in the home.

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 So what does Peter mean when he says we're exiles?

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 Well, one, he means that we don't belong to this world.

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 We belong to God, and our responsibility is to glorify him in the world, to be his light shining in the darkness of sin here.

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 But he also means that those who live as faithful Christians will inevitably suffer in a world that views them and their faith as suspicious, at least, and dangerous at worst.

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 And again, back in chapter 2 and verse 12, unbelievers will generally view Christians as evildoers on account of their faith,

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 at least their philosophies as evil and wrong, immoral.

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 And here, Peter is demonstrating what that often looks like.

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 While Christians are to honor earthly authorities, they are to fear God above all.

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 And that inevitably will lead to conflict and suffering when those who have some authoritative role in our lives

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 instruct us to do something that we know God is not pleased with,

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 and we decide to obey God instead of that earthly authority.

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 That earthly authority isn't going to look at our lives and say,

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 well, I'm just very grateful that you love your God.

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 No, that's not how they respond, typically, is it?

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 It's the opposite of that.

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 So in this section of the letter, Peter is instructing us how to rightly submit to authority,

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 even unbelieving authority and wicked authority, but to do so in the fear of God primarily,

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 always acknowledging God above human authorities.

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 And then, of course, he's teaching us how to endure the suffering that will come,

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 not by pulling ourselves up by our bootstraps, right,

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 but by actually looking to Jesus and seeing the suffering of Christ.

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 That gives us hope on one hand, as we reflect on the atonement,

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 but it also gives us an example, doesn't it,

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 and how to faithfully follow him in suffering.

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 And when we get to this text, Peter is focusing on the third category of people

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 who are especially vulnerable to abuse on account of their faith.

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 After addressing Christian citizens in chapter 2 and then Christian slaves in chapter 2,

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 he now addresses Christian wives, Christian wives.

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 All three of these addresses, they're meant to work together here,

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 all three of them command submission in some regard,

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 the honoring of an authoritative role in your life,

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 even when that person, and maybe especially when that person,

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 is unbelieving and even wicked.

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 But we need to remember submission itself is not the goal of this text.

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 It's not that Peter is writing this because he really just wants us all

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 to be good, submissive people generally in our lives.

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 Submission is not the goal.

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 Being like Jesus is the goal.

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 The gravitational pull of this whole section is right in the heart of it.

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 At the end of chapter 2, where our attention is drawn to the suffering of Christ

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 and the atonement of Christ and his example.

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 His atonement then anchors our hope in a future salvation so that when we're the ones who are

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 suffering at the hands of evildoers on account of our faith,

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 we won't have a way to look at our circumstance and have hope in that circumstance.

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 But we can look to Jesus and say,

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 my hope is anchored there.

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 That my inheritance is not ultimately in this life.

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 My inheritance comes beyond this life.

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 And it is being kept in heaven for me.

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 Imperishable and undefiled and unfading.

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 And I am being kept for it by faith or by God through faith.

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 That's everything Peter's covered in the first chapter, right?

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 And now he says, he turns our attention to Jesus again and he says,

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 if you are the one who is in the position of suffering on account of your faith,

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 we look to Christ because that anchors our hope.

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 That it does get better.

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 Maybe not now, but it will.

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 And he will make all things right because he made all things right on the cross

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 when he provided salvation for us.

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 But it's not just our hope that it gives us.

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 It's an example.

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 He guides us on how to suffer well for his sake.

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 So that if you're a Christian citizen who is suffering under an oppressive government,

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 Peter says, this is how you faithfully follow in the footsteps of Jesus

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 by rightly submitting to earthly authorities in the fear of God.

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 And in his culture, at least, there was this dynamic of Christian slaves.

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 We might apply that in something of a parallel to what he was meaning there

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 to just our employment maybe.

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 Perhaps you're one who is suffering under an oppressive employer

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 or some type of relationship that fits that realm.

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 He says, here's how you suffer well and you follow in the steps of Jesus

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 as you submit insofar as you remain faithful to God in that submission.

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 And then he does it again here in chapter 3 as he looks to Christian wives.

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 We have an example in Christ here.

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 Certainly we have a hope in Christ here.

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 Now Peter does do something different at this point than he does in the previous two addresses.

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 He doesn't only address Christian wives who were vulnerable to abuse and suffering

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 at the hands of their husbands, particularly their unbelieving husbands.

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 He also addresses Christian husbands who were the ones who were in the position

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 to abuse their authority in the home.

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 And he confronts that here in this text.

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 And we need to keep both of those things in mind.

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 So in this text, it isn't just about wives or husbands.

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 It's about Christian marriage.

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 How do we thrive in Christian marriage in a world like ours and in the darkness of this world?

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 How can Christians represent God's kingdom and faithfully follow Jesus in their marriage?

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 And we understand as we read our Bibles, we understand that marriage, the home,

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 is the foundation of human flourishing.

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 God designed it that way, created it that way.

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 We also recognize that it's constantly under attack.

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 God's idea for the home, because it is the foundation for human flourishing,

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 is constantly being attacked.

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 Culture attempts to constantly redefine what it always is, what it is.

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 And of course, culture's definition of marriage is always absent of God.

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 It doesn't take God into account at all, does it?

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 Therefore, anything that God gives us in his word is immediately dismissed.

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 And what happens downstream from that is careless Christians and careless churches

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 who begin to be more influenced by their cultural ideas than they are by the word of God.

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 And we begin to see worldly philosophies of marriage begin to deteriorate in the church.

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 And we want to confront that, because God has called us to confront that.

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 What the Bible gives us in God's design for the home is not a theory.

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 It's not a theory anthropologically to figure out how to best get along together.

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 No, it's the difference between right and wrong, of righteousness and sinfulness,

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 of being faithful to the Lord or being unfaithful to the Lord.

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 So the stakes are high in a passage like this.

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 It's not just that it's controversial.

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 It's not just that it's sociological and that we can just kind of dismiss it.

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 No, this is actually quite important.

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 And if it wasn't, Peter wouldn't be addressing it here.

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 And so we need to give it the attention that it deserves.

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 I just want to break it up into the two sections, right?

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 There's an address to wives.

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 We're going to pull out three things from that address.

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 And then we're going to look at the address to husbands.

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 We're going to pull out three things from that address as well.

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 Here's the address to wives.

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 Most of the attention is given to that here in verses 1 to 6.

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 And it's this, Christian wives should submit to their husbands in the fear of God.

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 Christian wives, or we could say wives in general,

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 but particularly he's addressing Christians here.

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 Christian wives should submit to their husbands in the fear of God.

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 Now, no one in our culture likes the idea of submitting to authority at all.

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 But the notion that wives should submit to their husband's authority

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 or that the husband has a unique authority in the home at all,

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 it's not just disagreed with.

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 This is a principle that is loathed in our culture.

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 And it's not just by unbelievers.

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 This is a controversial idea even among Christians.

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 And I really do think that's in large part due to the fact

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 that there have been so many abuses of this doctrine through the years in Christian circles.

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 But that God-designed male headship in marriage is not at all obscure in the Bible.

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 It's actually quite clear.

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 It's very plain.

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 But we do need to understand exactly what that means and what it doesn't mean.

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 And Peter really helps us do that well here.

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 So the first thing we want to draw out from this is just the principle of submission.

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 Just the principle of submission.

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 We see this in the first two verses.

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 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands,

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 so that even if some do not obey the word,

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 they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives

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 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

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 Now, Peter forces us here to link this text with the previous text.

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 He does that with that very simple word at the beginning, likewise.

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 In other words, he's saying we're going to move on to marriage here,

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 but don't forget about everything that I just said about Christian slaves and about Christian citizens.

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 He's building on what he's just said there.

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 The principles that he established in those places of authority and submission,

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 they still apply in this case.

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 And the big one is this,

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 that the husband's authority in the home is not absolute.

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 It is not an absolute authority any more than an employer's authority over his employees is an absolute authority

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 or that the government's authority over its citizens is an absolute authority.

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 No human has absolute authority.

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 And that's being built upon here.

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 Christian wives are to submit to their husbands in the fear of God

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 so that just as citizens and slaves in the previous text are supposed to honor their earthly authorities

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 or the authoritative roles that God has designed for their lives,

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 they are not to honor that above their fear of God.

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 And Peter actually says it explicitly, though in the ESV it doesn't become quite as plain,

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 but let me just explain it to you.

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 The end of verse 2, he says that Christian husbands may,

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 or unbelieving husbands may be won by the conduct of their Christian wives

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 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

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 And we've already seen this word in this section.

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 If you look back to chapter 2, verse 18,

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 Servants, be subject to your masters with all what?

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 Respect.

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 Same word.

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 We addressed this there and we need to address it again here.

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 The word here is fear.

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 Tom Schreiner, he says a literal translation of this phrase is that they will observe your pure conduct,

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 righteous conduct, in fear.

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 The question is, to whom is this fear being directed?

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 To whom is this reverence and honor being directed in this verse?

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 Is it to the husbands that they will see your reverence for them?

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 Or is it to God that they will see your reverence to God?

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 Now this is why it's so important to keep context when you study your Bible.

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 Because we could take this one verse out, and I could really do a number on wives today,

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 about how your responsibility is to, above all things, give your husband unreserved reverence and fear.

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 That is not what Peter means to say here.

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 This respect and pure conduct has everything to do with fearing God.

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 It has everything to do with being faithful to the Lord.

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 Indeed, that's the thing that may win an unbelieving husband.

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 Not reverence for him.

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 What would your reverence for him do to point him toward Jesus?

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 No.

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 It's your reverence for God above him,

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 which results in a life that is pure and righteous and faithful.

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 And it is faithfulness and faith in our conduct that God uses to bring unbelievers to himself.

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 So the submission that Peter instructs here is a matter of function in the home,

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 not veneration of husbands as men.

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 Wives are to honor their husband's role,

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 but they are to fear the Lord above their husbands.

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 And that should show in their conduct.

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 And that's how their husbands may be one to Christ.

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 So what does it mean and what does it not mean?

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 Ladies, this text does not mean that you are a slave to your husband.

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 It does not mean that if he instructs you to do something sinful

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 or to abandon faithful Christianity or the faith in some way,

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 that you must comply just to keep the peace of your home.

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 It's not what this means.

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 It does not mean that you must always agree with him

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 and that you can never have a differing view from him.

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 I mean, we understand the reality of that, right?

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 I would be an absolute mess without Julie.

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 And you know that.

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 It doesn't mean that if he abuses you or is unfaithful to you,

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 that you must preserve that relationship at all costs.

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 It does not mean that you have no biblical recourse

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 for a hateful and abusive husband

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 who has abandoned the covenant that you've made with him.

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 That's not what this submission means.

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 We need to get that right.

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 Here's what it means.

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 It means that in the ordinary function of the home,

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 you are to recognize that God has given your husband

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 a responsibility to lead.

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 It's God given, whether he's a believer or not.

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 He will answer to God based on his leadership

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 because that responsibility has been given directly to him.

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 This submission really is about functioning in such a way

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 that you just recognize that.

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 You recognize that responsibility that he has

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 and you support and help him do that well

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 insofar as you are yourself living in the fear of God.

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 That's what it means.

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 Now, a couple other things are worth pointing out here

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 before we move on.

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 I want you to see that a wife's submission to her husband

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 is voluntary in this passage.

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 He addresses the wives.

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 Wives, you be subject to your husbands.

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 You choose to submit to the leadership of your husband

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 in your home.

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 It's voluntary.

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 It doesn't mean it's optional.

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 It just means that the responsibility to do it

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 falls squarely and wholly on the shoulders

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 of you as a wife.

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 It also means this.

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 For you husbands,

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 you are not authorized by God

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 to coerce your wife's submission.

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 You are not authorized by God

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 to punish its absence in your marriage.

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 There's no place in the scripture

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 where you have been given the authority by God to do that.

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 Yes, you must lead.

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 Yes, you must teach.

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 But a wife's submission to her husband

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 is a matter of personal obedience to God.

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 Just as the responsibility to lead the home

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 rests solely on the shoulders of that husband,

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 the responsibility to submit to the leadership of the husband

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 falls squarely on the shoulders of you as a wife.

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 That's what the scripture teaches us.

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 We understand this,

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 and Jonathan Lehman does a great job

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 of pointing this out in his book on authority.

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 God has given different kinds of authority

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 instruments of correction.

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 But not all authorities that are designed by God

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 have an instrument of correction.

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 The government does.

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 It's the sword.

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 They punish evildoers.

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 The church, the congregation,

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 has an instrument of correction.

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 It's the keys of the kingdom, right?

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 That's why we talk about church discipline.

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 Parents have the rod of correction

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 that's given to them by God

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 for the correction of their children.

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 Guess who does not have an instrument of correction

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 anywhere in the scriptures?

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 Husbands.

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 It's not your place

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 to force your wife into submission

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 or to subject her.

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 No, it's her place to obey the Lord.

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 That falls on her shoulders.

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 Second thing I think is helpful to point out here

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 is the power of faithful Christianity

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 in a rightly ordered marriage.

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 Just look again at what Peter says.

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 He's presenting the context here

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 which would have been very true

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 for many of the wives to whom he wrote.

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 Even if some do not obey the word,

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 they're unbelieving,

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 they may be won without a word

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 by the conduct of their wives.

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 This is really interesting, isn't it?

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 That a faithful wife

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 who lives in her home

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 first as a faithful disciple of Christ

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 which shows itself in proper

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 and right submission

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 to her husband's leadership

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 will be able to win an unbeliever,

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 an unbelieving husband to Christ

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 in the grace of God.

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 We might understand it this way.

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 What is the evangelistic role

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 of a Christian wife in the home

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 of an unbelieving husband?

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 We might understand what Peter's saying like this.

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 The most effective way

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 to win your husband to Christ

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 is not through evangelistic nagging.

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 He says if they don't obey the word of the gospel,

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 they may be won even without a word,

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 meaning that he's not telling wives

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 that their number one goal in the home

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 is to be an evangelist,

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 but that their number one goal in the home

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 is to be a faithful wife

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 and that it is in being faithful to God

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 as a faithful wife

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 that God will use

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 perhaps to bring their unbelieving husband

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 to faith.

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 Of course, we understand

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 salvation can't come apart

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 from the word of God.

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 We know that,

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 but I think he's emphasizing here

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 that your conduct in the home,

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 just faithfulness as a wife matters.

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 It matters a great deal

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 not to the Lord

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 but also to the power

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 of the gospel at work

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 in your husband's life.

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 So that's the principle of submission.

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 Secondly, we see the beauty of holiness.

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 The beauty of holiness.

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 Look at verses three and four.

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 Peter continues and it's connected.

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 He says,

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 Do not let your adorning be external,

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 the braiding of hair

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 and putting on of gold jewelry

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 or the clothing you wear.

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 Let your adorning,

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 your adornment,

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 be the hidden person of the heart

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 with the imperishable beauty

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 of a gentle and quiet spirit

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 which in God's sight

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 is very precious.

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 Peter's moving now

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 from the basic principle of submission

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 to the beauty of holiness

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 that produces it.

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 This is about character

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 and pursuing character

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 that gives way

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 eventually

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 to biblical submission

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 and the home.

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 And he makes the point

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 really in an interesting way.

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 He contrasts here

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 what the world values

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 with what God values.

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 Notice the language.

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 We've seen it a number of times now

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 in the letter, haven't we?

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 Notice he talks about

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 perishable and imperishable.

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 This is clearly on Peter's mind

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 as he sits down to write this letter.

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 He's used it over and over and over

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 to create these distinctions

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 between the world

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 and between the sacred

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 and of God's people

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 in the letter.

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 And here he says

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 there is something

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 that the world values

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 and it's perishable

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 but there's something

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 that God values about you

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 and it's imperishable

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 and it's unfading.

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 And what is it?

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 It's the beauty of holiness.

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 True beauty isn't

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 in external adornment

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 but it's in the hidden person

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 of the heart, he says.

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 Therefore the Christian woman's pursuit

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 is not the external trappings

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 of physical beauty

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 but the character of the heart

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 that is precious

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 in the sight of God.

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 And Peter's point is this

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 that holy character

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 is the place from which

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 a wife's godly submission

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 to her husband springs forth.

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 Submission isn't a social construct

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 meant to oppress women

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 and treat them as inferior to men.

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 That's not what the biblical idea is.

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 That's been abused in many places

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 but that's not actually

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 what the Bible teaches.

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 It's actually the fruit of godliness

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 that flows from a woman's desire

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 to know and please God.

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 Now some people have looked at this

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 and they've taken it too far

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 and you can see this

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 in some Christian circles

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 where they've said

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 well it's actually sinful

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 for a woman to fix her hair

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 or to wear jewelry

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 or to wear makeup

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 or to care about the way she looks.

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 That's not what Peter means.

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 He's not saying

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 that external adornment is sinful.

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 He's saying that it's not the priority.

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 That's not where your value is.

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 Now I want you to think about this

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 for just a second.

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 I want you to consider

00:28:42.059 --> 00:28:44.380
 Peter's exalted view of women here.

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 It's counter-cultural.

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 Certainly it was counter-cultural

00:28:49.720 --> 00:28:50.440
 to his day.

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 It's counter-cultural to our day.

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 And it's really simply this.

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 Ladies,

00:28:56.240 --> 00:28:58.880
 you are more than how you look.

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 You're more than how you look.

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 I want to suggest

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 that it's actually

00:29:06.859 --> 00:29:08.680
 the cultural view of women

00:29:08.680 --> 00:29:10.220
 that's actually so oppressive.

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 There's an enormous amount of pressure

00:29:14.059 --> 00:29:15.759
 on women to conform

00:29:15.759 --> 00:29:17.180
 to a particular idea

00:29:17.180 --> 00:29:18.700
 of physical beauty.

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 And the culture machine

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 has worked hard

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 to flip the truth on its head.

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 It markets vanity as virtue.

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 So that body modification

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 and obsessive dieting

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 and age prevention procedures

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 and materialism,

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 they're all built as self-care.

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 So then the world

00:29:38.440 --> 00:29:40.220
 puts this idea of beauty,

00:29:40.420 --> 00:29:40.980
 an unrealistic

00:29:40.980 --> 00:29:43.140
 and fabricated idea

00:29:43.140 --> 00:29:43.779
 that isn't real.

00:29:43.859 --> 00:29:44.879
 It's even less than human.

00:29:45.180 --> 00:29:45.480
 They say,

00:29:45.480 --> 00:29:47.180
 this is the idea of beauty

00:29:47.180 --> 00:29:49.400
 and you can't live up to that

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 unless you do

00:29:50.579 --> 00:29:51.740
 all of these things

00:29:51.740 --> 00:29:52.279
 and then you do

00:29:52.279 --> 00:29:52.980
 all of those things

00:29:52.980 --> 00:29:53.640
 and guess what?

00:29:54.140 --> 00:29:55.420
 Our bodies still fade,

00:29:55.500 --> 00:29:55.920
 don't they?

00:29:56.880 --> 00:29:58.079
 We still age.

00:29:58.079 --> 00:30:06.779
 then it tells you

00:30:06.779 --> 00:30:08.159
 that in order to gain

00:30:08.159 --> 00:30:09.000
 the self-esteem

00:30:09.000 --> 00:30:09.779
 which is supposed

00:30:09.779 --> 00:30:10.799
 to be your priority

00:30:10.799 --> 00:30:12.539
 that you have to trace

00:30:12.539 --> 00:30:13.299
 after youth.

00:30:14.679 --> 00:30:16.379
 Do you see the oppression

00:30:16.379 --> 00:30:16.899
 in that?

00:30:18.559 --> 00:30:19.879
 It's a vicious cycle.

00:30:20.039 --> 00:30:21.379
 It says that a woman's value

00:30:21.379 --> 00:30:22.000
 ultimately

00:30:22.000 --> 00:30:23.799
 is in how she looks.

00:30:23.799 --> 00:30:25.759
 The Bible teaches

00:30:25.759 --> 00:30:26.779
 the opposite of that.

00:30:27.720 --> 00:30:28.879
 Peter says it clearly.

00:30:30.259 --> 00:30:30.859
 You are more

00:30:30.859 --> 00:30:31.759
 than how you look.

00:30:32.740 --> 00:30:33.440
 Your value

00:30:33.440 --> 00:30:34.799
 is not in your youthfulness.

00:30:35.599 --> 00:30:36.240
 Your value

00:30:36.240 --> 00:30:37.779
 is not in what you have.

00:30:38.460 --> 00:30:39.059
 Your value

00:30:39.059 --> 00:30:40.000
 is not in

00:30:40.000 --> 00:30:40.879
 your style

00:30:40.879 --> 00:30:41.619
 or whatever.

00:30:44.139 --> 00:30:45.200
 He isn't saying

00:30:45.200 --> 00:30:46.299
 that adornment itself

00:30:46.299 --> 00:30:46.859
 is sinful.

00:30:47.019 --> 00:30:47.659
 He's saying that

00:30:47.659 --> 00:30:48.599
 external beauty

00:30:48.599 --> 00:30:49.519
 isn't the measure

00:30:49.519 --> 00:30:50.519
 of a woman's value.

00:30:50.519 --> 00:30:52.039
 So it shouldn't be

00:30:52.039 --> 00:30:52.779
 the main focus

00:30:52.779 --> 00:30:53.480
 of your life.

00:30:54.660 --> 00:30:55.460
 Because beauty

00:30:55.460 --> 00:30:56.240
 is perishable,

00:30:56.359 --> 00:30:56.700
 isn't it?

00:30:57.440 --> 00:30:58.420
 And it will always

00:30:58.420 --> 00:30:59.139
 be perishable.

00:30:59.779 --> 00:31:00.299
 And you know what?

00:31:00.339 --> 00:31:00.819
 That's okay.

00:31:02.240 --> 00:31:03.099
 It's okay

00:31:03.099 --> 00:31:04.000
 because your value

00:31:04.000 --> 00:31:05.240
 isn't in your youth anyways.

00:31:06.480 --> 00:31:07.619
 It's in who you are

00:31:07.619 --> 00:31:08.639
 as an image bearer

00:31:08.639 --> 00:31:09.079
 of God.

00:31:10.559 --> 00:31:11.900
 And it's demonstrated

00:31:11.900 --> 00:31:12.579
 primarily

00:31:12.579 --> 00:31:14.279
 in the cross of Christ.

00:31:15.799 --> 00:31:17.339
 That he did not die

00:31:17.339 --> 00:31:18.200
 for your beauty.

00:31:18.200 --> 00:31:20.440
 He died out of love

00:31:20.440 --> 00:31:21.440
 for your soul.

00:31:22.920 --> 00:31:23.840
 And I think Peter

00:31:23.840 --> 00:31:24.900
 is helping us

00:31:24.900 --> 00:31:26.039
 to remember this here.

00:31:26.680 --> 00:31:27.860
 In contrast

00:31:27.860 --> 00:31:29.660
 to the perishability

00:31:29.660 --> 00:31:31.160
 of external adornment,

00:31:31.759 --> 00:31:32.779
 he speaks of

00:31:32.779 --> 00:31:34.440
 the imperishable beauty

00:31:34.440 --> 00:31:35.960
 of a gentle

00:31:35.960 --> 00:31:36.960
 and quiet spirit

00:31:36.960 --> 00:31:38.860
 which in God's sight

00:31:38.860 --> 00:31:39.779
 is very precious.

00:31:40.400 --> 00:31:41.319
 What does that mean?

00:31:41.420 --> 00:31:42.440
 What does it mean

00:31:42.440 --> 00:31:43.019
 to be gentle

00:31:43.019 --> 00:31:43.620
 and quiet?

00:31:44.620 --> 00:31:45.299
 That in itself

00:31:45.299 --> 00:31:46.019
 feels offensive,

00:31:46.140 --> 00:31:46.620
 doesn't it?

00:31:48.200 --> 00:31:49.380
 Do you recognize

00:31:49.380 --> 00:31:50.460
 that this is exactly

00:31:50.460 --> 00:31:51.039
 how Jesus

00:31:51.039 --> 00:31:52.059
 described himself?

00:31:53.660 --> 00:31:55.240
 Matthew 11, 28

00:31:55.240 --> 00:31:57.279
 He says,

00:31:57.600 --> 00:31:58.059
 come to me

00:31:58.059 --> 00:31:58.920
 all who labor

00:31:58.920 --> 00:31:59.840
 and are heavy laden

00:31:59.840 --> 00:32:02.319
 and I will give you rest.

00:32:02.740 --> 00:32:03.700
 And how is it

00:32:03.700 --> 00:32:04.559
 that he's capable

00:32:04.559 --> 00:32:06.319
 of giving us rest?

00:32:06.519 --> 00:32:07.480
 Because he immediately

00:32:07.480 --> 00:32:08.059
 goes back

00:32:08.059 --> 00:32:08.700
 and he says,

00:32:09.080 --> 00:32:10.340
 because I am gentle

00:32:10.340 --> 00:32:12.360
 and lowly in heart.

00:32:12.359 --> 00:32:15.119
 my yoke is easy

00:32:15.119 --> 00:32:15.740
 and my burden

00:32:15.740 --> 00:32:16.839
 is light

00:32:16.839 --> 00:32:17.779
 and if you come to me

00:32:17.779 --> 00:32:18.559
 you will find rest

00:32:18.559 --> 00:32:19.139
 for your soul.

00:32:20.679 --> 00:32:21.279
 You know what Peter

00:32:21.279 --> 00:32:22.219
 is saying that

00:32:22.219 --> 00:32:23.139
 a godly woman

00:32:23.139 --> 00:32:23.679
 looks like?

00:32:24.179 --> 00:32:25.079
 She looks like Jesus.

00:32:26.319 --> 00:32:27.339
 She looks like Jesus.

00:32:28.399 --> 00:32:28.959
 This doesn't mean

00:32:28.959 --> 00:32:30.439
 that you must be silent.

00:32:30.539 --> 00:32:31.500
 That's not what this is.

00:32:32.799 --> 00:32:33.459
 It doesn't mean

00:32:33.459 --> 00:32:35.839
 that you can't have

00:32:35.839 --> 00:32:36.719
 vigor

00:32:36.719 --> 00:32:38.299
 in personality

00:32:38.299 --> 00:32:39.259
 or in your home.

00:32:39.359 --> 00:32:39.659
 It certainly

00:32:39.659 --> 00:32:40.419
 doesn't mean that.

00:32:40.420 --> 00:32:42.500
 I know your husband's

00:32:42.500 --> 00:32:43.120
 well enough to know

00:32:43.120 --> 00:32:43.640
 that you need

00:32:43.640 --> 00:32:44.220
 to be vigorous

00:32:44.220 --> 00:32:44.940
 in the home.

00:32:48.640 --> 00:32:49.400
 It means that

00:32:49.400 --> 00:32:49.820
 the beauty

00:32:49.820 --> 00:32:50.900
 of a godly wife

00:32:50.900 --> 00:32:52.060
 is when her spirit

00:32:52.060 --> 00:32:53.039
 is a place of

00:32:53.039 --> 00:32:54.019
 rest

00:32:54.019 --> 00:32:55.600
 and refuge

00:32:55.600 --> 00:32:57.600
 rather than war.

00:32:58.900 --> 00:33:00.160
 I know your husband's

00:33:00.160 --> 00:33:00.940
 well enough to know

00:33:00.940 --> 00:33:01.560
 that they know

00:33:01.560 --> 00:33:02.420
 that you are women

00:33:02.420 --> 00:33:03.960
 of rest.

00:33:06.019 --> 00:33:06.800
 That they don't have

00:33:06.800 --> 00:33:07.740
 to come home to war.

00:33:09.340 --> 00:33:10.340
 And coming on to you

00:33:10.339 --> 00:33:11.159
 is like coming home

00:33:11.159 --> 00:33:11.679
 to Jesus

00:33:11.679 --> 00:33:12.980
 over and over

00:33:12.980 --> 00:33:13.799
 and over again.

00:33:14.959 --> 00:33:15.679
 Because you're

00:33:15.679 --> 00:33:17.099
 modeling how he is

00:33:17.099 --> 00:33:18.539
 in your home.

00:33:20.039 --> 00:33:20.500
 That's

00:33:20.500 --> 00:33:22.000
 the beauty

00:33:22.000 --> 00:33:22.879
 of holiness.

00:33:23.559 --> 00:33:24.220
 Isn't it?

00:33:25.579 --> 00:33:26.579
 It's another way

00:33:26.579 --> 00:33:27.179
 of describing

00:33:27.179 --> 00:33:28.019
 meekness.

00:33:29.519 --> 00:33:30.139
 Meekness isn't

00:33:30.139 --> 00:33:30.619
 weakness.

00:33:31.139 --> 00:33:32.099
 Meekness is actually

00:33:32.099 --> 00:33:33.159
 power

00:33:33.159 --> 00:33:35.099
 and capability

00:33:35.099 --> 00:33:36.919
 that's controlled

00:33:36.919 --> 00:33:37.819
 and channeled

00:33:37.819 --> 00:33:38.579
 for righteousness.

00:33:41.460 --> 00:33:41.939
 Meekness

00:33:41.939 --> 00:33:42.919
 often looks like

00:33:42.919 --> 00:33:43.480
 submission

00:33:43.480 --> 00:33:45.700
 in lots of

00:33:45.700 --> 00:33:46.700
 different relationships.

00:33:47.519 --> 00:33:48.359
 But especially

00:33:48.359 --> 00:33:49.099
 in marriage.

00:33:49.879 --> 00:33:50.419
 And God says

00:33:50.419 --> 00:33:51.099
 that's a precious

00:33:51.099 --> 00:33:52.019
 thing in his sight.

00:33:53.700 --> 00:33:54.399
 External beauty

00:33:54.399 --> 00:33:55.319
 will always fade.

00:33:55.480 --> 00:33:56.099
 Godliness is

00:33:56.099 --> 00:33:56.779
 imperishable.

00:33:57.019 --> 00:33:58.579
 And if you take

00:33:58.579 --> 00:33:59.119
 nothing else

00:33:59.119 --> 00:33:59.839
 from this ladies

00:33:59.839 --> 00:34:01.259
 take this

00:34:01.259 --> 00:34:02.039
 that your value

00:34:02.039 --> 00:34:02.819
 is not in how

00:34:02.819 --> 00:34:03.460
 you look.

00:34:03.460 --> 00:34:05.059
 it is in the

00:34:05.059 --> 00:34:05.860
 value that

00:34:05.860 --> 00:34:07.000
 God has placed

00:34:07.000 --> 00:34:07.740
 on you as his

00:34:07.740 --> 00:34:08.360
 creature.

00:34:09.539 --> 00:34:10.679
 And that he has

00:34:10.679 --> 00:34:11.579
 demonstrated his

00:34:11.579 --> 00:34:12.340
 love for on the

00:34:12.340 --> 00:34:12.720
 cross.

00:34:13.740 --> 00:34:14.360
 There's a third

00:34:14.360 --> 00:34:14.900
 thing here.

00:34:15.000 --> 00:34:16.079
 I don't mean to

00:34:16.079 --> 00:34:16.820
 just dwell on this

00:34:16.820 --> 00:34:17.360
 forever but

00:34:17.360 --> 00:34:18.280
 there's a third

00:34:18.280 --> 00:34:18.820
 thing here that I

00:34:18.820 --> 00:34:19.380
 think is helpful

00:34:19.380 --> 00:34:20.119
 for us and it's

00:34:20.119 --> 00:34:21.000
 the faith of

00:34:21.000 --> 00:34:21.460
 submission.

00:34:22.679 --> 00:34:23.639
 The faith of

00:34:23.639 --> 00:34:23.980
 submission.

00:34:24.099 --> 00:34:24.639
 We see this in

00:34:24.639 --> 00:34:25.820
 verses 5 and 6.

00:34:28.679 --> 00:34:29.559
 Peter grounds

00:34:29.559 --> 00:34:31.139
 this discussion.

00:34:31.320 --> 00:34:32.019
 He says this is

00:34:32.019 --> 00:34:32.960
 how the holy

00:34:32.960 --> 00:34:33.940
 women who hoped

00:34:33.940 --> 00:34:35.579
 in God used

00:34:35.579 --> 00:34:36.139
 to adorn

00:34:36.139 --> 00:34:38.039
 themselves by

00:34:38.039 --> 00:34:38.679
 submitting to

00:34:38.679 --> 00:34:39.699
 their own

00:34:39.699 --> 00:34:40.139
 husbands.

00:34:40.280 --> 00:34:40.800
 And he illustrates

00:34:40.800 --> 00:34:41.519
 it as Sarah

00:34:41.519 --> 00:34:42.800
 obeyed Abraham

00:34:42.800 --> 00:34:43.480
 calling him

00:34:43.480 --> 00:34:43.820
 Lord.

00:34:45.199 --> 00:34:45.820
 And you are

00:34:45.820 --> 00:34:46.559
 her children.

00:34:46.980 --> 00:34:47.480
 That's interesting

00:34:47.480 --> 00:34:47.940
 isn't it?

00:34:48.619 --> 00:34:50.960
 Who is typically

00:34:50.960 --> 00:34:52.019
 referred to in

00:34:52.019 --> 00:34:53.259
 the Bible when

00:34:53.259 --> 00:34:53.800
 we're thinking of

00:34:53.800 --> 00:34:54.460
 spiritual things?

00:34:54.579 --> 00:34:54.960
 We are the

00:34:54.960 --> 00:34:55.659
 children of who?

00:34:56.480 --> 00:34:57.139
 Of Abraham.

00:34:58.099 --> 00:34:58.880
 And here Peter

00:34:58.880 --> 00:34:59.659
 doesn't say that

00:34:59.659 --> 00:35:00.199
 we're the children

00:35:00.199 --> 00:35:00.860
 of Abraham does

00:35:00.860 --> 00:35:01.340
 he looks at

00:35:01.340 --> 00:35:01.800
 these wives and

00:35:01.800 --> 00:35:02.000
 says the

00:35:02.019 --> 00:35:02.619
 no you're the

00:35:02.619 --> 00:35:03.239
 children of Sarah.

00:35:03.320 --> 00:35:03.800
 I think that's

00:35:03.800 --> 00:35:04.619
 significant actually.

00:35:05.920 --> 00:35:06.539
 You are her

00:35:06.539 --> 00:35:08.960
 children if you

00:35:08.960 --> 00:35:10.579
 do good and do

00:35:10.579 --> 00:35:11.400
 not fear anything

00:35:11.400 --> 00:35:12.960
 that is frightening.

00:35:13.800 --> 00:35:14.519
 Now he's merging

00:35:14.519 --> 00:35:15.360
 here the principle

00:35:15.360 --> 00:35:16.659
 of submission with

00:35:16.659 --> 00:35:17.300
 the idea of

00:35:17.300 --> 00:35:18.420
 adornment and he

00:35:18.420 --> 00:35:19.639
 insists that the

00:35:19.639 --> 00:35:20.719
 holy women of old

00:35:20.719 --> 00:35:22.539
 live this way not

00:35:22.539 --> 00:35:23.400
 because of their

00:35:23.400 --> 00:35:24.420
 culture or a

00:35:24.420 --> 00:35:26.219
 cultural idea but

00:35:26.219 --> 00:35:27.780
 because they quote

00:35:27.780 --> 00:35:29.659
 hoped in God.

00:35:29.659 --> 00:35:31.799
 do you see what's

00:35:31.799 --> 00:35:32.879
 at the heart of

00:35:32.879 --> 00:35:34.239
 this life of

00:35:34.239 --> 00:35:35.000
 submission or this

00:35:35.000 --> 00:35:35.879
 way of life in the

00:35:35.879 --> 00:35:36.179
 home?

00:35:36.179 --> 00:35:37.119
 It's faith.

00:35:37.619 --> 00:35:38.599
 It's hope.

00:35:39.440 --> 00:35:40.259
 It's trust in the

00:35:40.259 --> 00:35:40.559
 Lord.

00:35:41.039 --> 00:35:41.539
 They didn't adorn

00:35:41.539 --> 00:35:42.259
 themselves in

00:35:42.259 --> 00:35:43.159
 submission out of a

00:35:43.159 --> 00:35:44.139
 blind reverence for

00:35:44.139 --> 00:35:45.559
 men but a full

00:35:45.559 --> 00:35:46.699
 trust in God's

00:35:46.699 --> 00:35:47.500
 promises and

00:35:47.500 --> 00:35:47.859
 provision.

00:35:48.699 --> 00:35:49.379
 In other words

00:35:49.379 --> 00:35:50.960
 it takes tremendous

00:35:50.960 --> 00:35:52.259
 faith in God

00:35:52.259 --> 00:35:54.879
 not in men for a

00:35:54.879 --> 00:35:55.879
 wife to submit to

00:35:55.879 --> 00:35:56.460
 her husband's

00:35:56.460 --> 00:35:56.819
 leadership.

00:35:56.820 --> 00:36:00.180
 Sarah is the

00:36:00.180 --> 00:36:00.780
 one that Peter

00:36:00.780 --> 00:36:01.600
 points to to

00:36:01.600 --> 00:36:02.480
 illustrate his

00:36:02.480 --> 00:36:03.019
 point and I want

00:36:03.019 --> 00:36:03.380
 you to think

00:36:03.380 --> 00:36:03.800
 about that.

00:36:03.900 --> 00:36:04.280
 You know her

00:36:04.280 --> 00:36:04.600
 life.

00:36:04.740 --> 00:36:05.120
 You know her

00:36:05.120 --> 00:36:05.580
 story.

00:36:07.400 --> 00:36:08.320
 God's call of

00:36:08.320 --> 00:36:09.580
 Abraham was also

00:36:09.580 --> 00:36:10.580
 a call to Sarah

00:36:10.580 --> 00:36:13.680
 as his wife and

00:36:13.680 --> 00:36:14.400
 it took amazing

00:36:14.400 --> 00:36:15.360
 faith for her to

00:36:15.360 --> 00:36:16.480
 follow Abraham as

00:36:16.480 --> 00:36:17.559
 they left their

00:36:17.559 --> 00:36:18.519
 home and what they

00:36:18.519 --> 00:36:19.580
 knew in Ur of the

00:36:19.580 --> 00:36:20.820
 Chaldees to go and

00:36:20.820 --> 00:36:22.519
 wander in the

00:36:22.519 --> 00:36:23.180
 wilderness of a

00:36:23.180 --> 00:36:23.900
 foreign country.

00:36:25.019 --> 00:36:25.660
 She spent her life

00:36:25.660 --> 00:36:26.160
 wondering.

00:36:26.820 --> 00:36:29.019
 Not because she

00:36:29.019 --> 00:36:29.700
 just really loved

00:36:29.700 --> 00:36:30.320
 Abraham though I

00:36:30.320 --> 00:36:32.059
 think she did but

00:36:32.059 --> 00:36:32.960
 because she trusted

00:36:32.960 --> 00:36:33.360
 God.

00:36:34.420 --> 00:36:35.720
 It took just as much

00:36:35.720 --> 00:36:37.580
 faith for her as it

00:36:37.580 --> 00:36:39.200
 did from Abraham to

00:36:39.200 --> 00:36:40.180
 believe that God

00:36:40.180 --> 00:36:40.960
 would give them a

00:36:40.960 --> 00:36:42.340
 son well after

00:36:42.340 --> 00:36:43.500
 childbearing years.

00:36:45.180 --> 00:36:46.680
 It took tremendous

00:36:46.680 --> 00:36:48.519
 faith for her to

00:36:48.519 --> 00:36:49.780
 trust in God's

00:36:49.780 --> 00:36:51.240
 promises and in

00:36:51.240 --> 00:36:52.820
 God's protection when

00:36:52.820 --> 00:36:53.840
 her husband Abraham

00:36:53.840 --> 00:36:54.920
 repeatedly put her

00:36:54.920 --> 00:36:55.440
 in vulnerable

00:36:55.440 --> 00:36:56.059
 positions.

00:36:56.059 --> 00:36:58.619
 Do you remember

00:36:58.619 --> 00:36:59.279
 what he did?

00:36:59.559 --> 00:37:00.619
 He forced her on

00:37:00.619 --> 00:37:01.579
 multiple occasions to

00:37:01.579 --> 00:37:02.340
 lie about who she

00:37:02.340 --> 00:37:02.779
 was.

00:37:04.519 --> 00:37:04.980
 And you know what

00:37:04.980 --> 00:37:05.400
 she did?

00:37:06.460 --> 00:37:07.320
 She loved her

00:37:07.320 --> 00:37:09.179
 husband well but she

00:37:09.179 --> 00:37:10.099
 trusted that God would

00:37:10.099 --> 00:37:10.980
 protect her even if

00:37:10.980 --> 00:37:12.079
 Abraham had failed to.

00:37:13.299 --> 00:37:14.679
 That's amazing faith.

00:37:16.639 --> 00:37:17.900
 We can look at Sarah's

00:37:17.900 --> 00:37:18.900
 worst moment in

00:37:18.900 --> 00:37:20.420
 Genesis and what is

00:37:20.420 --> 00:37:21.400
 it basically traced

00:37:21.400 --> 00:37:21.920
 back to?

00:37:22.659 --> 00:37:24.000
 That in that moment she

00:37:24.000 --> 00:37:25.119
 wasn't trusting God to

00:37:25.119 --> 00:37:25.920
 fulfill a promise.

00:37:26.599 --> 00:37:27.599
 She decided to take

00:37:27.599 --> 00:37:28.659
 matters into her own

00:37:28.659 --> 00:37:29.980
 hands and force

00:37:29.980 --> 00:37:31.119
 Abraham to have sex

00:37:31.119 --> 00:37:32.299
 with her slave.

00:37:34.619 --> 00:37:35.900
 But through it all

00:37:35.900 --> 00:37:37.819
 she adorned herself in

00:37:37.819 --> 00:37:39.460
 submission not because

00:37:39.460 --> 00:37:40.980
 of Abraham but because

00:37:40.980 --> 00:37:42.019
 she believed God.

00:37:42.880 --> 00:37:43.859
 Her submission to

00:37:43.859 --> 00:37:45.199
 Abraham was the sign of

00:37:45.199 --> 00:37:46.159
 her submission to God

00:37:46.159 --> 00:37:47.639
 and the result of that

00:37:47.639 --> 00:37:49.819
 is amazing.

00:37:50.500 --> 00:37:51.539
 It's the blessing of

00:37:51.539 --> 00:37:52.579
 God's promises which

00:37:52.579 --> 00:37:54.279
 eventually lead to the

00:37:54.279 --> 00:37:55.900
 coming of Christ so

00:37:55.900 --> 00:37:57.320
 that we might be saved.

00:37:58.559 --> 00:38:00.539
 And Peter says ladies

00:38:00.539 --> 00:38:02.800
 you will be the

00:38:02.800 --> 00:38:04.759
 children of Sarah the

00:38:04.759 --> 00:38:06.179
 matriarch of God's

00:38:06.179 --> 00:38:09.380
 people when you trust

00:38:09.380 --> 00:38:10.500
 God like she trusted

00:38:10.500 --> 00:38:10.860
 God.

00:38:12.079 --> 00:38:13.900
 And that trust will

00:38:13.900 --> 00:38:16.179
 force you in some way

00:38:16.179 --> 00:38:19.259
 to follow the leadership

00:38:19.260 --> 00:38:21.100
 of a man who you

00:38:21.100 --> 00:38:22.380
 can't trust like you

00:38:22.380 --> 00:38:22.860
 can God.

00:38:27.740 --> 00:38:28.820
 You're the children of

00:38:28.820 --> 00:38:29.720
 Sarah when you live in

00:38:29.720 --> 00:38:30.860
 faith of submission even

00:38:30.860 --> 00:38:32.000
 when it's a fearful

00:38:32.000 --> 00:38:32.760
 thing to do.

00:38:33.500 --> 00:38:34.700
 And for some of you and

00:38:34.700 --> 00:38:35.720
 for some of your friends

00:38:35.720 --> 00:38:36.560
 that you may would have

00:38:36.560 --> 00:38:37.760
 these conversations with

00:38:37.760 --> 00:38:39.100
 what's frightening could

00:38:39.100 --> 00:38:41.660
 just be the unknowns of

00:38:41.660 --> 00:38:42.400
 where your husband may

00:38:42.400 --> 00:38:42.760
 lead you.

00:38:42.920 --> 00:38:44.920
 Maybe you're a planner and

00:38:44.920 --> 00:38:45.820
 you like to have things in

00:38:45.820 --> 00:38:47.940
 order and maybe he likes

00:38:47.940 --> 00:38:48.800
 to fly by the seat of

00:38:48.800 --> 00:38:49.639
 his pants a little bit

00:38:49.639 --> 00:38:50.460
 and just says we'll

00:38:50.460 --> 00:38:51.280
 just we'll figure it out

00:38:51.280 --> 00:38:52.320
 as we go and you have

00:38:52.320 --> 00:38:53.159
 to say that's a scary

00:38:53.159 --> 00:38:53.880
 thing for me.

00:38:55.380 --> 00:38:56.340
 But I gotta follow my

00:38:56.340 --> 00:38:57.260
 husband I'm gonna help

00:38:57.260 --> 00:38:58.300
 him in any way that I

00:38:58.300 --> 00:38:58.700
 can.

00:38:59.000 --> 00:38:59.200
 Right?

00:38:59.320 --> 00:39:00.380
 That's a fearful thing to

00:39:00.380 --> 00:39:00.980
 do isn't it?

00:39:01.900 --> 00:39:02.679
 Of course it gets worse

00:39:02.679 --> 00:39:03.420
 than that doesn't it?

00:39:06.159 --> 00:39:07.420
 Sometimes Christian women

00:39:07.420 --> 00:39:08.599
 are just married to

00:39:08.599 --> 00:39:09.599
 morons right?

00:39:10.559 --> 00:39:11.820
 It's a fearful thing to

00:39:11.820 --> 00:39:13.119
 have to continually follow

00:39:13.119 --> 00:39:14.579
 him poor decision after

00:39:14.579 --> 00:39:15.700
 poor decision after poor

00:39:15.700 --> 00:39:16.039
 decision.

00:39:16.400 --> 00:39:17.659
 It's a fearful thing to do.

00:39:17.940 --> 00:39:21.000
 For some it's even worse

00:39:21.000 --> 00:39:21.519
 than that.

00:39:22.800 --> 00:39:23.940
 What's frightening is an

00:39:23.940 --> 00:39:26.079
 unbelieving husband who

00:39:26.079 --> 00:39:27.480
 does not love you or lead

00:39:27.480 --> 00:39:28.200
 you the way that the

00:39:28.200 --> 00:39:29.700
 Bible demands for him to

00:39:29.700 --> 00:39:29.880
 do.

00:39:30.000 --> 00:39:30.860
 Maybe it's an abusive

00:39:30.860 --> 00:39:31.079
 husband.

00:39:31.159 --> 00:39:31.960
 It's frightening things

00:39:31.960 --> 00:39:32.400
 isn't it?

00:39:33.619 --> 00:39:34.579
 And you need to remember

00:39:34.579 --> 00:39:35.539
 that even in the most

00:39:35.539 --> 00:39:38.039
 fearful moments God is

00:39:38.039 --> 00:39:39.619
 faithful even when your

00:39:39.619 --> 00:39:40.360
 husband is not.

00:39:41.679 --> 00:39:43.000
 And his grace is

00:39:43.000 --> 00:39:45.240
 sufficient for you even

00:39:45.240 --> 00:39:46.119
 when your husband's

00:39:46.119 --> 00:39:47.039
 leadership is not.

00:39:47.940 --> 00:39:50.579
 So keep hoping in him

00:39:50.579 --> 00:39:53.019
 and trusting that he is

00:39:53.019 --> 00:39:54.519
 working for your good

00:39:54.519 --> 00:39:56.539
 and pursue the beauty of

00:39:56.539 --> 00:39:58.480
 holiness and just watch

00:39:58.480 --> 00:39:59.500
 the way that he works in

00:39:59.500 --> 00:40:00.800
 your life and in the life

00:40:00.800 --> 00:40:02.059
 of your husband.

00:40:03.059 --> 00:40:03.400
 All right.

00:40:03.460 --> 00:40:04.400
 Well that's a lot for the

00:40:04.400 --> 00:40:04.659
 women.

00:40:05.079 --> 00:40:06.079
 Peter doesn't just talk to

00:40:06.079 --> 00:40:06.920
 the wives does he?

00:40:07.679 --> 00:40:08.960
 We move on to the men now.

00:40:09.059 --> 00:40:10.360
 Here's the second big

00:40:10.360 --> 00:40:10.820
 section.

00:40:10.980 --> 00:40:11.940
 Christian husbands should

00:40:13.019 --> 00:40:15.500
 lead their homes in the

00:40:15.500 --> 00:40:16.000
 fear of God.

00:40:16.840 --> 00:40:18.579
 Christian husbands should

00:40:18.579 --> 00:40:20.059
 lead their homes in the

00:40:20.059 --> 00:40:20.719
 fear of God.

00:40:20.840 --> 00:40:21.760
 The first one Christian

00:40:21.760 --> 00:40:22.659
 wives should submit to

00:40:22.659 --> 00:40:23.300
 their husbands in the

00:40:23.300 --> 00:40:23.800
 fear of God.

00:40:24.179 --> 00:40:25.260
 Now husbands are to

00:40:25.260 --> 00:40:26.559
 rightly lead their homes

00:40:26.559 --> 00:40:28.619
 in the fear of God.

00:40:28.679 --> 00:40:29.380
 Look at verse seven.

00:40:30.639 --> 00:40:31.760
 Likewise husbands live

00:40:31.760 --> 00:40:32.760
 with your wives in an

00:40:32.760 --> 00:40:34.599
 understanding way showing

00:40:34.599 --> 00:40:35.900
 honor to the woman as the

00:40:35.900 --> 00:40:37.960
 weaker vessel since they

00:40:37.960 --> 00:40:39.440
 are heirs with you of the

00:40:39.440 --> 00:40:41.800
 grace of life so that your

00:40:41.800 --> 00:40:43.239
 prayers may not be

00:40:43.239 --> 00:40:43.619
 hindered.

00:40:44.419 --> 00:40:45.459
 Now remember the focus of

00:40:45.459 --> 00:40:46.519
 this part of the letter is

00:40:46.519 --> 00:40:48.899
 on how to faithfully live as

00:40:48.899 --> 00:40:50.239
 God's people when under

00:40:50.239 --> 00:40:53.099
 authority especially the

00:40:53.099 --> 00:40:54.359
 authority of unbelievers.

00:40:55.619 --> 00:40:57.000
 So Peter's primary subjects

00:40:57.000 --> 00:40:58.239
 here if we can just look at

00:40:58.239 --> 00:40:59.500
 the bigger picture for again

00:40:59.500 --> 00:41:01.000
 for just a second I don't mean

00:41:01.000 --> 00:41:02.399
 to just beat a dead horse

00:41:02.399 --> 00:41:03.239
 here but if we just look at

00:41:03.239 --> 00:41:05.179
 the big picture again he's

00:41:05.179 --> 00:41:07.219
 dealing with citizens who

00:41:07.219 --> 00:41:08.899
 live under the authoritative

00:41:08.899 --> 00:41:09.879
 role of unbelievers.

00:41:10.419 --> 00:41:11.699
 He's looking at slaves Christian

00:41:11.699 --> 00:41:12.939
 slaves who live under the

00:41:12.940 --> 00:41:14.079
 authoritative role of

00:41:14.079 --> 00:41:15.460
 unbelieving masters and then

00:41:15.460 --> 00:41:17.220
 he's looking at Christian

00:41:17.220 --> 00:41:18.380
 wives who live under the

00:41:18.380 --> 00:41:20.300
 authoritative role of an

00:41:20.300 --> 00:41:21.220
 unbelieving husband.

00:41:22.260 --> 00:41:23.760
 This sticks out because it's

00:41:23.760 --> 00:41:24.720
 the first time in all of

00:41:24.720 --> 00:41:26.679
 those situations that Peter

00:41:26.679 --> 00:41:28.920
 addresses the other role.

00:41:29.519 --> 00:41:31.420
 The role that's not so much

00:41:31.420 --> 00:41:33.500
 in a position of vulnerability

00:41:33.500 --> 00:41:35.119
 in the relationship.

00:41:36.059 --> 00:41:37.179
 But the reason that he doesn't

00:41:37.179 --> 00:41:38.440
 spend so much time here is

00:41:38.440 --> 00:41:40.500
 because the focus is on the

00:41:40.500 --> 00:41:41.199
 one who suffers.

00:41:41.199 --> 00:41:43.739
 The one who's vulnerable in

00:41:43.739 --> 00:41:44.239
 the section.

00:41:44.380 --> 00:41:45.679
 But it is helpful that he

00:41:45.679 --> 00:41:46.780
 moves on to this isn't it?

00:41:47.780 --> 00:41:48.760
 When Peter does something

00:41:48.760 --> 00:41:49.960
 here in these two sections

00:41:49.960 --> 00:41:51.739
 he takes this moment to

00:41:51.739 --> 00:41:53.159
 address them.

00:41:54.500 --> 00:41:56.440
 Christian wives will thrive in

00:41:56.440 --> 00:41:57.900
 exile as they submit in the

00:41:57.900 --> 00:41:58.280
 fear of the Lord.

00:41:58.659 --> 00:42:00.239
 Christian men will do so when

00:42:00.239 --> 00:42:01.639
 they lovingly lead their homes

00:42:01.639 --> 00:42:03.480
 in the fear of the Lord.

00:42:04.440 --> 00:42:05.840
 And when the home functions

00:42:05.840 --> 00:42:07.079
 according to God's will

00:42:07.079 --> 00:42:08.860
 everybody wins.

00:42:09.900 --> 00:42:10.599
 And that's what we learn

00:42:10.599 --> 00:42:11.059
 from this.

00:42:12.099 --> 00:42:14.039
 Likewise again ties this all

00:42:14.039 --> 00:42:14.819
 together doesn't it?

00:42:14.860 --> 00:42:16.000
 He says it again at the

00:42:16.000 --> 00:42:16.920
 beginning of verse 7.

00:42:17.119 --> 00:42:18.500
 He doesn't mean it exactly in

00:42:18.500 --> 00:42:19.819
 the same way as before.

00:42:19.920 --> 00:42:21.360
 The context is changing now.

00:42:21.840 --> 00:42:22.920
 He doesn't mean that husbands

00:42:22.920 --> 00:42:24.319
 are now to submit to their

00:42:24.319 --> 00:42:24.719
 wives.

00:42:25.519 --> 00:42:26.779
 That would be counterintuitive

00:42:26.779 --> 00:42:27.559
 to the discussion.

00:42:28.059 --> 00:42:29.539
 The likewise here relates to

00:42:29.539 --> 00:42:31.099
 living in the fear of God.

00:42:32.079 --> 00:42:33.539
 So they are not the vulnerable

00:42:33.539 --> 00:42:34.759
 in the relationship now.

00:42:34.860 --> 00:42:36.480
 They're the authoritative one in

00:42:36.480 --> 00:42:37.559
 the relationship and they are

00:42:37.559 --> 00:42:39.960
 to exercise that authority in

00:42:39.960 --> 00:42:41.679
 the fear of God as one who is

00:42:41.679 --> 00:42:44.679
 under the authority of God.

00:42:45.639 --> 00:42:46.699
 In the case of Christian

00:42:46.699 --> 00:42:49.079
 husbands living in the fear of

00:42:49.079 --> 00:42:51.760
 God means lovingly leading your

00:42:51.760 --> 00:42:54.800
 wife as an equal in Christ

00:42:54.800 --> 00:42:55.179
 Jesus.

00:42:55.440 --> 00:42:57.760
 Not as an inferior but as an

00:42:57.760 --> 00:42:58.079
 equal.

00:42:59.280 --> 00:43:00.880
 And there's three things we can

00:43:00.880 --> 00:43:02.460
 just maybe quickly note here.

00:43:02.679 --> 00:43:06.219
 Number one men live with your

00:43:06.219 --> 00:43:09.279
 wife in intimate care.

00:43:10.719 --> 00:43:12.980
 Live with your wife in intimate

00:43:12.980 --> 00:43:13.279
 care.

00:43:13.359 --> 00:43:14.119
 Look at the beginning of the

00:43:14.119 --> 00:43:14.359
 verse.

00:43:14.500 --> 00:43:16.319
 Likewise husbands live with your

00:43:16.319 --> 00:43:19.059
 wives in an understanding way.

00:43:19.379 --> 00:43:20.299
 In an understanding way.

00:43:20.339 --> 00:43:21.199
 What does that mean?

00:43:21.939 --> 00:43:23.139
 Well it's clear isn't it?

00:43:23.939 --> 00:43:25.319
 You need to know her.

00:43:26.699 --> 00:43:28.439
 And you need to pursue knowing

00:43:28.439 --> 00:43:29.159
 her.

00:43:30.439 --> 00:43:32.079
 But it's not just intellectual

00:43:32.079 --> 00:43:33.639
 knowledge that Peter has in mind

00:43:33.639 --> 00:43:34.079
 here men.

00:43:34.079 --> 00:43:35.679
 The understanding that Peter

00:43:35.679 --> 00:43:38.480
 refers to is the same word to

00:43:38.480 --> 00:43:40.860
 know that's routinely used in the

00:43:40.860 --> 00:43:44.299
 Bible as relational intimacy.

00:43:45.159 --> 00:43:47.199
 Which may be a scary phrase for

00:43:47.199 --> 00:43:48.539
 you but don't let that scare you

00:43:48.539 --> 00:43:48.900
 away.

00:43:49.039 --> 00:43:50.159
 That's a godly thing.

00:43:51.239 --> 00:43:52.539
 Typically in the Bible when the

00:43:52.539 --> 00:43:54.299
 Bible says that a man knows his

00:43:54.299 --> 00:43:56.000
 wife or knew his wife it's

00:43:56.000 --> 00:43:57.779
 referring to sexual intercourse.

00:43:58.659 --> 00:44:00.139
 Peter is not referring to sex here.

00:44:00.139 --> 00:44:01.339
 Don't misunderstand me.

00:44:01.659 --> 00:44:03.019
 But he is talking about the

00:44:03.019 --> 00:44:05.839
 intimacy of relationship that

00:44:05.839 --> 00:44:08.259
 leads to a healthy marriage.

00:44:09.679 --> 00:44:12.379
 This is a man who lives to know

00:44:12.379 --> 00:44:14.239
 his wife well.

00:44:14.440 --> 00:44:15.679
 He adores her.

00:44:15.859 --> 00:44:17.339
 He pursues her.

00:44:17.480 --> 00:44:20.480
 He wants to know her intimately

00:44:20.480 --> 00:44:26.059
 as a person so that he might best

00:44:26.059 --> 00:44:27.079
 care for her.

00:44:27.559 --> 00:44:28.799
 That's the end goal isn't it?

00:44:28.800 --> 00:44:32.240
 I want to know her so that I might

00:44:32.240 --> 00:44:34.800
 rightly under the authority of God

00:44:34.800 --> 00:44:38.700
 love her and care for her as an

00:44:38.700 --> 00:44:39.120
 individual.

00:44:39.900 --> 00:44:42.700
 Which may look different than how he

00:44:42.700 --> 00:44:44.340
 would care or love an individual

00:44:44.340 --> 00:44:45.800
 who is not his wife.

00:44:47.680 --> 00:44:49.420
 It's a man who doesn't view his role

00:44:49.420 --> 00:44:51.300
 as one to be served.

00:44:51.820 --> 00:44:53.740
 Rather he understands his authority

00:44:53.740 --> 00:44:56.340
 to be given to him so that he might

00:44:56.340 --> 00:44:58.340
 serve her.

00:44:58.340 --> 00:44:59.400
 And in order to serve her and to

00:44:59.400 --> 00:45:02.360
 faithfully lead her you must know her

00:45:02.360 --> 00:45:06.340
 intimately, lovingly, caringly.

00:45:07.620 --> 00:45:11.000
 And to do that well men we must learn to

00:45:11.000 --> 00:45:14.960
 pursue relational intimacy with our wives

00:45:14.960 --> 00:45:18.680
 so that we might use our authority to

00:45:18.680 --> 00:45:19.980
 care well for them.

00:45:19.980 --> 00:45:25.000
 Maybe that's men just as simple as regular

00:45:25.000 --> 00:45:28.320
 date nights where you can just learn a little

00:45:28.320 --> 00:45:30.280
 bit better what makes her tick.

00:45:31.800 --> 00:45:33.219
 And all of you men have been married a long

00:45:33.219 --> 00:45:33.619
 time.

00:45:33.820 --> 00:45:36.019
 Those of you and you young people back there

00:45:36.019 --> 00:45:37.900
 at the back table you can just listen and

00:45:37.900 --> 00:45:39.139
 learn for your future, right?

00:45:39.139 --> 00:45:42.759
 You've been married long enough to know

00:45:42.759 --> 00:45:45.039
 that in those early days you think you know

00:45:45.039 --> 00:45:45.739
 your wife.

00:45:46.099 --> 00:45:48.799
 And then you realize I don't know this person

00:45:48.799 --> 00:45:49.299
 at all.

00:45:49.879 --> 00:45:51.539
 And if that's scary for you imagine what she

00:45:51.539 --> 00:45:52.019
 was thinking.

00:45:54.759 --> 00:45:59.099
 You've been married 15, 20, 30, 40, 50 years.

00:45:59.279 --> 00:46:01.719
 I know Marty and Fay are getting close to that

00:46:01.719 --> 00:46:01.980
 now.

00:46:03.480 --> 00:46:05.159
 And you don't really know your wife.

00:46:05.159 --> 00:46:07.339
 What have you been doing?

00:46:09.139 --> 00:46:11.460
 How can you lovingly lead somebody that you

00:46:11.460 --> 00:46:12.440
 don't really know well?

00:46:14.179 --> 00:46:15.980
 You know what this is a picture of?

00:46:17.420 --> 00:46:17.899
 Pursuit.

00:46:19.460 --> 00:46:21.579
 Not the pursuit of physical intimacy.

00:46:22.579 --> 00:46:26.839
 The pursuit of her as a person so that you

00:46:26.839 --> 00:46:30.839
 might use your authority rightly in the fear

00:46:30.839 --> 00:46:31.239
 of God.

00:46:32.059 --> 00:46:35.119
 Live with her with intimate care.

00:46:36.039 --> 00:46:40.859
 Second, love your wife like a treasured

00:46:40.859 --> 00:46:41.359
 possession.

00:46:42.399 --> 00:46:44.079
 Love her like a treasured possession.

00:46:44.219 --> 00:46:46.339
 I don't mean to insinuate that your wife is

00:46:46.339 --> 00:46:46.960
 your possession.

00:46:47.079 --> 00:46:48.079
 That's not what I mean by that.

00:46:48.639 --> 00:46:50.039
 But I want you to see what Peter says.

00:46:50.739 --> 00:46:51.699
 Second part of the verse.

00:46:52.199 --> 00:46:53.719
 Live with your wives in an understanding

00:46:53.719 --> 00:46:58.199
 way showing honor to the woman as the weaker

00:46:58.199 --> 00:46:58.639
 vessel.

00:46:59.179 --> 00:47:00.960
 Ladies, don't get upset at that.

00:47:02.039 --> 00:47:03.859
 What does he mean when he says weaker

00:47:03.859 --> 00:47:04.299
 vessel?

00:47:04.300 --> 00:47:07.280
 He's not speaking about emotional weakness there

00:47:07.280 --> 00:47:09.519
 because we know that women are not emotionally

00:47:09.519 --> 00:47:10.280
 weaker than men.

00:47:11.560 --> 00:47:13.960
 He's not talking about spiritual weakness because we

00:47:13.960 --> 00:47:16.740
 know that sometimes the mainstay of spiritual life in a

00:47:16.740 --> 00:47:18.440
 home is the wife, not the husband.

00:47:20.080 --> 00:47:23.320
 He's just speaking of generally physical weakness.

00:47:23.320 --> 00:47:28.180
 You are just not quite as strong as your husband is for the most part.

00:47:28.660 --> 00:47:31.820
 There may be some exceptions, but generally it's not true.

00:47:33.019 --> 00:47:34.280
 But why does he say that?

00:47:35.740 --> 00:47:39.900
 Because the temptation for the strong one will always be to abuse the weaker

00:47:39.900 --> 00:47:40.180
 one.

00:47:41.460 --> 00:47:46.340
 To treat the weaker one as if they exist to serve him.

00:47:46.340 --> 00:47:50.780
 And when that service doesn't happen the way that he means for it to happen,

00:47:51.280 --> 00:47:54.620
 he responds with intimidation and domination.

00:47:55.720 --> 00:47:57.340
 Peter's confronting that here.

00:47:57.740 --> 00:47:58.579
 That's the idea.

00:47:58.579 --> 00:48:01.460
 That's not a godly thing.

00:48:02.400 --> 00:48:03.219
 In fact, it's wicked.

00:48:03.960 --> 00:48:05.440
 And it's worthy of God's judgment.

00:48:05.840 --> 00:48:07.579
 And it will receive God's judgment.

00:48:08.900 --> 00:48:13.159
 No, you are to view your wife like the most treasured thing in your life.

00:48:13.159 --> 00:48:18.940
 Like a precious thing that you don't want broken, that you don't want stolen,

00:48:19.079 --> 00:48:21.039
 that you don't want hindered in any way.

00:48:21.119 --> 00:48:26.420
 And you're going to use your authority to honor the preciousness of your wife so

00:48:26.420 --> 00:48:29.960
 that you might protect her, love her, and lead her well.

00:48:31.299 --> 00:48:36.079
 So in Peter's words, you will honor her for her preciousness.

00:48:37.639 --> 00:48:42.059
 Men, your role is to love and cherish and protect her as a precious and

00:48:42.059 --> 00:48:42.839
 treasured vessel.

00:48:43.839 --> 00:48:50.879
 Third thing, lead your wife, not as an inferior because that's not what she is.

00:48:51.960 --> 00:48:56.839
 Lead your wife as an equal heir of the grace of God.

00:48:58.119 --> 00:49:03.079
 Lead your wife as an equal heir of the grace of God.

00:49:03.279 --> 00:49:05.619
 This is why the earlier discussion at the beginning,

00:49:05.719 --> 00:49:08.379
 we're just trying to parse through some of the misunderstandings about this

00:49:08.379 --> 00:49:09.000
 conversation.

00:49:09.359 --> 00:49:10.539
 That's why this is so important.

00:49:10.539 --> 00:49:20.219
 The wrong idea is to say, well, I must lead my wife because she is less than me as a woman.

00:49:20.340 --> 00:49:21.019
 That's just not true.

00:49:21.759 --> 00:49:23.519
 The Bible never says that in any way.

00:49:23.519 --> 00:49:25.800
 This is a matter of function.

00:49:26.519 --> 00:49:32.960
 In the home, as in many other places, there must be a relationship of authority and submission

00:49:32.960 --> 00:49:34.239
 for the home to function well.

00:49:34.659 --> 00:49:39.079
 God has designed it to function with a husband leading his home faithfully.

00:49:39.079 --> 00:49:43.059
 Not leading his wife as an inferior but as an equal.

00:49:44.340 --> 00:49:46.639
 And yet they have differing responsibilities.

00:49:47.039 --> 00:49:49.139
 That's why we call ourselves complementarians.

00:49:49.139 --> 00:49:53.480
 We have complementary roles in the home for human flourishing.

00:49:53.960 --> 00:49:57.460
 So that authority and submission in the home, they're not matters of superiority.

00:49:58.639 --> 00:49:59.679
 They're matters of function.

00:50:00.779 --> 00:50:03.920
 Men and women are equal in their dignity.

00:50:04.539 --> 00:50:08.099
 They're equal in their worth as people made in the image of God.

00:50:08.359 --> 00:50:14.159
 And even more, Christian men and women are equal heirs of God's salvation.

00:50:14.159 --> 00:50:20.039
 Your inheritance, ladies, is exactly the same as your husband's inheritance in heaven.

00:50:20.319 --> 00:50:21.119
 It's the same.

00:50:21.519 --> 00:50:21.739
 Why?

00:50:22.179 --> 00:50:25.000
 Because in Christ, there is no male and female.

00:50:25.159 --> 00:50:27.599
 That's what Paul says in Galatians 3.

00:50:28.299 --> 00:50:29.519
 There's neither Jew or Greek.

00:50:29.659 --> 00:50:30.920
 There's neither slave or free.

00:50:31.079 --> 00:50:32.319
 There's neither male or female.

00:50:32.839 --> 00:50:34.920
 You are all one in Christ Jesus.

00:50:35.920 --> 00:50:39.259
 And if you are in Christ Jesus, then you are Abraham's offspring.

00:50:39.879 --> 00:50:41.319
 Heirs according to the promise.

00:50:41.320 --> 00:50:46.720
 Joint heirs with Jesus is who we are as believers.

00:50:47.539 --> 00:50:51.960
 And the essential equality does not deny male headship.

00:50:52.720 --> 00:50:54.360
 It clarifies it.

00:50:54.980 --> 00:51:00.980
 It clarifies it lest we misunderstand God's design as dominance or superiority.

00:51:01.340 --> 00:51:04.380
 No, it's actually sacrificial service.

00:51:05.240 --> 00:51:08.580
 Men are to lead their wives in light of the gospel of Jesus.

00:51:08.579 --> 00:51:14.380
 Husbands, you are to recognize your wife as an equal heir of grace.

00:51:14.759 --> 00:51:23.519
 And your leadership is to be modeled after him who loved the church and gave himself for her, Paul said in Ephesians 5.

00:51:24.059 --> 00:51:30.360
 You're to lead your wife as an equal means of loving her as your own body.

00:51:30.360 --> 00:51:36.360
 For he who loves his wife loves himself, Paul says in Ephesians 5.

00:51:37.519 --> 00:51:41.960
 So there's this warning that Peter then brings to the surface after all of that.

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 He says, men, if you fail in leading your wives in the fear of God,

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 you should have no expectation that God will just be at your beckoning call to meet your needs.

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 That's a strong warning, isn't it?

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 Isn't that what he says?

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 Since there are heirs with you of the grace of life, do this so that your prayers won't be hindered.

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 What does he mean by the prayers there?

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 It doesn't mean that God is deaf to us.

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 He means that why would we have any expectation of God meeting our needs when we're unwilling to meet the needs of our wives?

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 Christian men, they need to model this kind of intimate care and love to the rest of the world.

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 Why?

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 Because it displays the gospel.

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 Displays Jesus' love for his people.

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 His sacrificial love.

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 Women are to model this kind of godly submission to the world.

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 Why?

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 Because it displays the gospel.

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 The gospel of faith and trust in the Lord.

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 God, again, created marriage as the foundational institution of society.

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 And that's why Christians are always so eager to defend and confirm it, right?

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 That's why we care about that.

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 We need to care about it.

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 But then, of course, few things are more loathed than this idea in our culture, too.

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 And that means that to live faithfully as God's people, Christians will inevitably be working against the grain of our culture.

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 And the adversary knows how important biblical marriage is.

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 He attacks it both on the left, who seeks to redefine marriage, and he attacks it on the right, by those who would take what God has said and twist it for their own sake.

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 As God's people, we must remain faithful to God's design, even when it's costly.

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 And that's why it's so important to see how faith is at the heart of Peter's addresses here.

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 Men and women must simply trust God to live this way.

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 We must view our marriages through the lens of the gospel.

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 We must determine to display God's glory and biblical authority and submission to the world.

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 And as we've seen, this is how God will draw men and women to himself.

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 Keeping our eyes on Jesus, we will persevere in hope, even when in a broken relationship, if that's your experience.

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 Or perhaps maybe you know someone you could counsel who's had that experience.

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 And in the end, this is how Christians thrive in exile.

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 This is how Christian marriage thrives in exile.