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 Father in heaven, we thank you that your word addresses every aspect of human life.

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 And Lord, we would be foolish to be people that treat your word like a buffet,

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 taking what we enjoy, leaving what might seem unappetizing.

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 Lord, this morning as we open up in your word and take a look at what you have to say to us

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 about husbands and wives, Lord, we pray that you would, by your Holy Spirit,

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 help us to be underneath your word, to consider your word, even to wrestle with your word,

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 but Lord, ultimately to hear and do and obey and to live by your word.

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 Not because you are some kind of vindictive or angry or egotistical or tyrannical God,

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 because you are good and perfect and holy.

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 You deserve all the praise and you've given us your word for our benefit, for our encouragement.

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 And we pray all of this in Christ's name. Amen.

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 So, obviously by my prayer, you might have guessed we're looking at a potentially controversial text.

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 And what's interesting, and maybe you guys would pick this up living in a government town,

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 whenever there's a controversial announcement in the government,

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 be it the liberals or the conservatives, whoever,

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 it's usually announced in the afternoon on a Friday before a long weekend.

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 So, it just so happens that we are going to be talking about wives being subject to their husbands

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 on a long weekend.

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 That was completely coincidental.

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 I mean, it could have been last week on Mother's Day,

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 but I don't think that would have flown super well either.

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 So, the point is, we preach through books of the Bible.

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 We set our preaching schedule months in advance,

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 and it just so happened that, here we go,

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 we're preaching through 1 Peter chapter 3 this morning.

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 But jokes aside, I want to open up with a question.

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 What is real power?

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 Is it the ability to subjugate, to conquer,

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 exert one's will upon another so that both you and the,

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 so that the subdued can serve you?

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 Is power merely a zero-sum game where there's winners and losers,

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 rulers and the ruled, the strong and the weak?

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 It seems that in our day, and again, generally speaking,

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 I'll use a lot of generalities, but I'll make sure I preface my generalities with,

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 this is a generality.

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 That seems to be the way power is portrayed.

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 But I'll just put forward to this right off the bat,

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 that we have a distorted view of power in the West,

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 partly because of the influences of socialism and Marxism

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 in universities over the last 100 years,

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 that seems to interpret everything through a power dynamic of oppressed and oppressor.

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 But I would say even more so because we are broken people.

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 We are bent.

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 We are addicted to power where we win and others lose.

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 We are addicted to a type of power where we are elevated and fawned over,

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 and that ultimately means people serving our interests.

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 We are addicted to a type of power that demands to be served and not to serve.

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 And by the way, if you aren't striving for the subjugating part of the power dynamic,

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 and you find yourself being subjugated and being on the low end of this equation,

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 that also speaks to the lens by which you view power in our world, strong and weak.

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 But you might just be on the weak end of it.

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 I would say, again, that this is a distorted view of what God intended when he created the world,

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 how we are to interact relationally with one another.

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 So we enter into a portion of our scripture, 1 Peter 3, 1-7,

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 that opens up by saying,

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 Wives, be subject to your husbands.

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 Big question underlines this entire section.

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 Is this a pretext to justify a ruler versus ruled relationship within a marriage?

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 Where the man is superior and the wife is inferior?

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 Or is there something else at work?

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 How should we navigate this text?

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 An easy way, and a lot of more conservative commentators would look at it as a contextual issue.

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 We can just talk about it contextually.

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 But really, that either diminishes God's word or it doesn't deal with the sharp edges.

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 So, how do we deal with a text like this?

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 I've said this in the past.

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 I'll say it again, and I'll say it in the future.

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 With trembling, we walk towards difficult passages in the Bible.

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 That's our commitment in this church.

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 That's why we try our very best to preach through the entirety of the Bible.

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 And that's what we'll do this morning.

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 But we're going to do so with the hermeneutic or the lens that God is good.

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 And that in God, there is no evil.

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 And that God looks to bless and to encourage and to build up.

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 Not to strike down, not to subjugate, not to curse.

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 So, this passage, like the rest of God's word, is good news.

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 If that makes your skin crawl a little bit, let's stick with me.

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 It is good news, not just for men, but it has to be good news for all, which includes women.

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 So, Peter does indeed address wives, verses 1 to 6.

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 The biggest portion of this section is addressed to wives.

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 Men have one verse.

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 However, in both cases, Peter provides principles that help men and women live in service to one another.

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 But most importantly, to glorify Christ and follow his example of using their freedom to serve others.

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 You would have known this if you were here the past couple weeks.

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 We talked about that Christ sets us free, not from responsibility, not from commandments,

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 but in order that we may serve and to lay down our lives for others.

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 That reality, that truth, is going to inform this section as well.

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 So, Peter addresses wives with three imperatives, three things, three commands.

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 But he also addresses husbands, in the case of husbands, verse 7, with two commands.

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 It's very simple.

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 We'll look at wives in these three imperatives and then husbands with their two imperatives

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 and see how God, through the writings of the Apostle Peter,

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 calls both men and women to imitate and image Christ in their lives and together in their marriage.

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 Friends, I'll say it again.

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 This is good news for us.

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 It helps us to live faithfully for God's glory and the good of our neighbors

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 and as citizens of heaven as we live here on earth.

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 It's the message of 1 Peter.

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 But this is good news.

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 Why don't we jump right into it?

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 Let's take a look at these three imperatives for wives.

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 But before we get into it,

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 just a bit of a reminder, a critical reminder from previous weeks.

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 The first one is to remember that this section is not an island in 1 Peter.

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 It has a whole portion that goes before it that will inform our reading.

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 I've mentioned that a bit already.

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 But this section is embedded in Peter's letter.

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 So it opens up by saying in verse 1,

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 likewise, which connects it to the previous section that calls for free citizens of heaven

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 and to offer their lives as a sacrifice for the service of God and for others.

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 That is a very important point.

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 The section that goes immediately before it,

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 verses 21 to 25 of chapter 2,

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 is this beautiful portrayal of Jesus as the suffering servant

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 who lays his life down for his sheep

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 and gathers and oversees his sheep who are wayward,

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 who are lost.

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 He is the overseer of their souls.

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 The second important thing, sorry,

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 the second important thing to remember

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 is that we,

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 and this is from a number of weeks previously,

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 that the imperatives of Jesus

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 always precede,

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 the indicatives of Jesus always precede the imperatives.

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 What am I saying?

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 What God does through Christ

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 always informs how we then live,

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 which is to say,

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 Jesus dies on the cross making us his own.

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 In light of that, then we live.

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 But it's not the other way around.

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 It's not,

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 we do fantastic works for God,

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 we curry his favor,

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 we tip the scale in our favor,

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 God looks down,

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 he then says,

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 worthy,

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 and then bestows upon us salvation.

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 And that's an important key bit in this

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 because this is a hard text,

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 a very difficult text,

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 not just for Roman women in the first century,

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 but for women and men,

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 we'll see,

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 throughout the centuries.

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 So two really important bits

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 to remember from previous sections

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 in 1 Peter

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 before we get into it.

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 So, okay,

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 that's a bit of an important lens,

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 a reminder,

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 as we get into the portion of Scripture.

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 Let me read.

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 The first imperative,

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 the first command,

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 be subject to your husbands.

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 Likewise,

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 verse 1,

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 likewise,

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 wives,

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 be subject to your own husbands,

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 so that even if some do not obey the word,

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 they may be won without a word

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 by the conduct of their wives,

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 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

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 Pause there.

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 The Roman world valued order

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 above almost everything else,

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 the building block for society.

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 A rightly ordered home

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 was critical

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 for a rightly ordered empire.

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 A properly ordered home

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 meant that a woman

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 would follow her husband

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 in all social,

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 religious,

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 and political matters.

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 Women would not enjoy friendships

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 apart from their husband's

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 sphere of connection.

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 She would worship

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 his household gods.

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 She would raise his children

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 and be faithful to him,

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 even though it was permissible

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 and almost,

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 it was almost ubiquitous

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 that men would have

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 mistresses

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 or other companions,

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 be they women or boys,

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 and they couldn't say

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 a thing about it.

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 But what happens

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 when a woman becomes a Christian

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 in ancient Rome?

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 The potential for disruption

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 or disorder

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 within the household

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 was a real threat.

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 That's specifically

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 if the husband didn't come to faith

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 as well,

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 but it was just

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 the wife.

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 She would not add Christ

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 to her household's

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 existing collection of gods,

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 but worship him alone.

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 Big problem in the ancient world

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 to not follow

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 one's husband.

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 She would have

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 a new friend group

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 outside of her home,

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 and not like a nice,

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 you know,

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 we're going to grab coffee

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 every, you know,

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 third Thursday of the month

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 and gossip.

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 This new friend group

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 was like a family.

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 She was welcomed

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 into a new community.

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 She wasn't calling

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 this person

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 or that person

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 by their names,

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 but brother and sister.

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 She would have

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 a new friend group

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 that would be

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 even closer

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 in many respects

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 to her own family.

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 She would continue

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 to honor the emperor.

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 We saw that

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 in chapter 2,

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 but no longer

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 would the emperor

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 be the god king,

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 for only Christ

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 is the eternal king

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 of kings.

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 You see how this

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 has a potential

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 to disorder

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 a home

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 and potentially

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 disorder

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 the empire.

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 it's in this context

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 that Peter exhorts

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 women to submit

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 to their husbands,

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 which raises

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 all sorts of

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 how does one

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 do that questions,

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 especially when one

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 considers that being

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 subject to one's

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 husband no longer

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 includes the very

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 aspects that would

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 maintain household

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 order.

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 This is a minefield

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 in the first century.

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 So Peter is doing

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 this for a couple

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 big reasons.

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 Number one,

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 God also is a god

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 of order,

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 not chaos.

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 An ordered household

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 is a good thing,

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 not necessarily

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 in the Roman context,

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 but nevertheless,

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 it's a good thing.

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 But also because

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 Peter wants

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 to prevent

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 Christianity

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 to be seen

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 as a social ill

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 and an evil

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 that destroys

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 family cohesion,

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 but also,

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 and finally,

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 because this is

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 an opportunity

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 to evangelize

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 an unbelieving

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 husband.

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 That's all well

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 and good,

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 but it's still,

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 it's still,

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 there's still the rub.

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 Wives,

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 be subject

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 to your husbands.

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 So a few

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 important notes.

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 What this is not

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 saying,

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 and this is an

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 important bit,

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 this does not

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 mean that husbands

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 are to have

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 authority over

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 the wife

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 as if she were

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 a slave

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 or piece of

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 property.

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 Not at all.

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 The only place,

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 I'll just say this,

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 nowhere in the New

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 Testament is the

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 husband given

00:14:17.980 --> 00:14:18.940
 one-way authority

00:14:18.940 --> 00:14:19.740
 over the wife,

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 interestingly.

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 The only place

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 that that kind

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 of authority

00:14:24.980 --> 00:14:25.480
 over,

00:14:25.620 --> 00:14:26.259
 that authority

00:14:26.259 --> 00:14:26.700
 over,

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 is referenced

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 is in marital

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 relations where

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 both the husband

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 and the wife

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 have authority

00:14:31.560 --> 00:14:32.900
 over each other's

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 bodies.

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 Again,

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 we're not going

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 to talk about that,

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 that's a rabbit

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 trail,

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 but that would

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 be unheard

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 of in the

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 ancient world.

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 That's 1 Corinthians

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 7 if you want

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 to take a look

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 at it.

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 This is also

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 not a blanket

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 statement that

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 all women should

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 be subject to

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 all men at

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 all times.

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 Instead,

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 very clearly,

00:14:54.079 --> 00:14:54.959
 it says that

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 a woman should

00:14:55.519 --> 00:14:55.899
 be subject

00:14:55.899 --> 00:14:56.639
 to her own

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 husband.

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 Also,

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 when it says

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 to be subject,

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 is it saying

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 that a woman

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 in every context

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 should be subject

00:15:04.919 --> 00:15:05.740
 to her husband

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 without exception,

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 without pushback?

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 If a wife

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 tells a husband

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 to run an errand

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 or to consider

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 an issue

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 that he may

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 have overlooked

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 or encourages

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 him to do good

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 and not evil,

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 does that imply

00:15:18.220 --> 00:15:19.279
 an infringement

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 upon the commandment

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 in 1 Peter 3?

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 The answer

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 is no,

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 and we'll touch

00:15:25.779 --> 00:15:26.159
 on that a bit

00:15:26.159 --> 00:15:27.960
 more in the section

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 when we look

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 at husbands.

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 So,

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 that's all

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 of what

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 this isn't

00:15:33.179 --> 00:15:33.539
 saying.

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 So,

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 even that

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 is

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 some good

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 stuff.

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 I mean,

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 it puts it

00:15:39.460 --> 00:15:40.000
 in context,

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 it helps us

00:15:40.620 --> 00:15:41.279
 to nuance it.

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 Still,

00:15:42.319 --> 00:15:42.659
 it's a call

00:15:42.659 --> 00:15:43.279
 to be subject

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 to another

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 person.

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 And it's still,

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 there's still

00:15:47.120 --> 00:15:47.519
 a rub,

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 there's still

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 sharp edges

00:15:48.840 --> 00:15:49.379
 with that.

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 It's still

00:15:51.299 --> 00:15:52.319
 in a direct

00:15:52.319 --> 00:15:53.100
 contravention

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 to our,

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 to today's

00:15:56.639 --> 00:15:57.799
 egalitarian

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 standards and

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 values here

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 in Ottawa.

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 But again,

00:16:01.639 --> 00:16:02.399
 we must read

00:16:02.399 --> 00:16:02.979
 this text

00:16:02.979 --> 00:16:04.019
 and see

00:16:04.019 --> 00:16:04.739
 the great

00:16:04.739 --> 00:16:05.559
 wisdom and

00:16:05.559 --> 00:16:05.979
 encouragement

00:16:05.979 --> 00:16:06.519
 in it.

00:16:08.239 --> 00:16:08.899
 Men and

00:16:08.899 --> 00:16:09.179
 women are

00:16:09.179 --> 00:16:09.500
 different.

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 We are

00:16:11.619 --> 00:16:12.239
 different in

00:16:12.239 --> 00:16:12.839
 all sorts

00:16:12.839 --> 00:16:14.019
 of different

00:16:14.019 --> 00:16:14.519
 ways,

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 and some

00:16:15.279 --> 00:16:15.539
 of those

00:16:15.539 --> 00:16:15.879
 differences

00:16:15.879 --> 00:16:16.339
 are less

00:16:16.339 --> 00:16:16.799
 pronounced

00:16:16.799 --> 00:16:17.759
 in some

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 examples.

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 There are

00:16:19.439 --> 00:16:20.299
 some men

00:16:20.299 --> 00:16:20.739
 that aren't

00:16:20.739 --> 00:16:21.159
 as tall

00:16:21.159 --> 00:16:21.639
 as women

00:16:21.639 --> 00:16:22.019
 or as

00:16:22.019 --> 00:16:22.359
 strong

00:16:22.359 --> 00:16:22.899
 as women.

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 There's

00:16:24.899 --> 00:16:25.339
 a whole,

00:16:25.739 --> 00:16:26.319
 some men

00:16:26.319 --> 00:16:28.500
 are generally

00:16:28.500 --> 00:16:28.940
 speaking,

00:16:29.220 --> 00:16:29.679
 maybe more

00:16:29.679 --> 00:16:30.000
 nurturing,

00:16:30.139 --> 00:16:30.480
 some women

00:16:30.480 --> 00:16:31.019
 aren't so

00:16:31.019 --> 00:16:31.320
 nurturing,

00:16:31.419 --> 00:16:31.919
 but by and

00:16:31.919 --> 00:16:32.259
 large,

00:16:32.399 --> 00:16:32.659
 generally

00:16:32.659 --> 00:16:33.220
 speaking,

00:16:33.860 --> 00:16:34.379
 there are

00:16:34.379 --> 00:16:34.919
 significant

00:16:34.919 --> 00:16:35.379
 differences

00:16:35.379 --> 00:16:35.940
 between men

00:16:35.940 --> 00:16:36.220
 and women.

00:16:36.399 --> 00:16:37.139
 And to say

00:16:37.139 --> 00:16:38.100
 otherwise

00:16:38.100 --> 00:16:40.259
 is to not

00:16:40.259 --> 00:16:41.019
 understand

00:16:41.019 --> 00:16:42.419
 the way God

00:16:42.419 --> 00:16:43.080
 has created

00:16:43.080 --> 00:16:43.659
 mankind.

00:16:45.159 --> 00:16:45.879
 Women are

00:16:45.879 --> 00:16:46.919
 uniquely

00:16:46.919 --> 00:16:47.559
 positioned

00:16:47.559 --> 00:16:49.039
 in family

00:16:49.039 --> 00:16:49.840
 and community

00:16:49.840 --> 00:16:50.899
 to nurture

00:16:50.899 --> 00:16:51.940
 and to teach

00:16:51.940 --> 00:16:52.740
 and to guide

00:16:52.740 --> 00:16:53.379
 and to create

00:16:53.379 --> 00:16:53.779
 beauty,

00:16:54.299 --> 00:16:55.100
 to create

00:16:55.100 --> 00:16:55.720
 order from

00:16:55.720 --> 00:16:56.299
 chaos,

00:16:56.299 --> 00:16:57.879
 to civilize,

00:16:57.979 --> 00:16:58.479
 to cultivate.

00:16:59.620 --> 00:17:00.099
 But the

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 world does

00:17:00.539 --> 00:17:01.079
 not value

00:17:01.079 --> 00:17:01.879
 such qualities.

00:17:02.879 --> 00:17:03.039
 They're

00:17:03.039 --> 00:17:04.480
 spoken,

00:17:05.000 --> 00:17:06.180
 maybe not

00:17:06.180 --> 00:17:06.799
 ill of,

00:17:06.879 --> 00:17:07.139
 but they're

00:17:07.139 --> 00:17:07.960
 not elevated

00:17:07.960 --> 00:17:08.460
 to the

00:17:08.460 --> 00:17:09.180
 wonderful,

00:17:09.599 --> 00:17:10.000
 glorious

00:17:10.000 --> 00:17:10.599
 things that

00:17:10.599 --> 00:17:11.039
 they are

00:17:11.039 --> 00:17:13.259
 because it's

00:17:13.259 --> 00:17:13.819
 not a position

00:17:13.819 --> 00:17:14.339
 of power.

00:17:15.539 --> 00:17:16.079
 Such work

00:17:16.079 --> 00:17:16.539
 can't be

00:17:16.539 --> 00:17:17.399
 monetized.

00:17:19.180 --> 00:17:20.279
 It's a lie

00:17:20.279 --> 00:17:21.680
 that our

00:17:21.680 --> 00:17:22.440
 culture tells

00:17:22.440 --> 00:17:23.319
 us that

00:17:23.319 --> 00:17:24.240
 such work,

00:17:25.740 --> 00:17:26.220
 and by the

00:17:26.220 --> 00:17:26.339
 way,

00:17:26.419 --> 00:17:26.819
 this can be

00:17:26.819 --> 00:17:27.200
 done by

00:17:27.200 --> 00:17:27.919
 women that

00:17:27.919 --> 00:17:29.460
 work career

00:17:29.460 --> 00:17:30.379
 jobs or

00:17:30.379 --> 00:17:31.480
 not,

00:17:31.599 --> 00:17:32.119
 it's not so

00:17:32.119 --> 00:17:32.899
 much a call

00:17:32.899 --> 00:17:33.639
 for all women

00:17:33.639 --> 00:17:34.279
 to stay home

00:17:34.279 --> 00:17:34.960
 at all times,

00:17:35.619 --> 00:17:36.599
 but the lie

00:17:36.599 --> 00:17:37.200
 is that the

00:17:37.200 --> 00:17:38.019
 world tells

00:17:38.019 --> 00:17:38.379
 women,

00:17:39.079 --> 00:17:39.659
 in order to

00:17:39.659 --> 00:17:40.079
 flourish,

00:17:40.500 --> 00:17:41.000
 you need to

00:17:41.000 --> 00:17:41.439
 produce,

00:17:41.939 --> 00:17:42.359
 and you need

00:17:42.359 --> 00:17:42.879
 to earn,

00:17:43.059 --> 00:17:43.399
 and you need

00:17:43.399 --> 00:17:43.879
 to be a part

00:17:43.879 --> 00:17:44.539
 of the economy.

00:17:45.819 --> 00:17:46.500
 And I think

00:17:46.500 --> 00:17:47.240
 that's problematic

00:17:47.240 --> 00:17:48.700
 if that is

00:17:48.700 --> 00:17:50.319
 not understood

00:17:50.319 --> 00:17:52.000
 alongside of

00:17:52.000 --> 00:17:52.640
 this call

00:17:52.640 --> 00:17:54.759
 to create

00:17:54.759 --> 00:17:55.400
 and to

00:17:55.400 --> 00:17:55.759
 bless,

00:17:56.319 --> 00:17:58.200
 to cultivate,

00:17:58.940 --> 00:17:59.440
 to create

00:17:59.440 --> 00:18:00.000
 order out

00:18:00.000 --> 00:18:00.579
 of chaos.

00:18:03.279 --> 00:18:04.299
 It also

00:18:04.299 --> 00:18:05.380
 contravenes

00:18:05.380 --> 00:18:06.019
 this idea

00:18:06.019 --> 00:18:06.839
 of being

00:18:06.839 --> 00:18:08.740
 untethered

00:18:08.740 --> 00:18:09.359
 by nothing

00:18:09.359 --> 00:18:09.940
 or no one,

00:18:10.059 --> 00:18:10.599
 limitations

00:18:10.599 --> 00:18:12.119
 completely evil.

00:18:13.559 --> 00:18:14.160
 But what

00:18:14.160 --> 00:18:15.000
 is truly evil

00:18:15.000 --> 00:18:15.559
 is to call

00:18:15.559 --> 00:18:16.220
 foul what

00:18:16.220 --> 00:18:16.619
 God has

00:18:16.619 --> 00:18:17.119
 designed to

00:18:17.119 --> 00:18:17.500
 be good,

00:18:19.039 --> 00:18:19.480
 nurturing

00:18:19.480 --> 00:18:20.980
 and beauty

00:18:20.980 --> 00:18:22.360
 creation,

00:18:23.079 --> 00:18:23.559
 love,

00:18:24.120 --> 00:18:24.640
 teaching,

00:18:25.120 --> 00:18:25.579
 protecting.

00:18:26.380 --> 00:18:27.000
 It's a

00:18:27.000 --> 00:18:27.680
 beautiful thing.

00:18:29.900 --> 00:18:30.799
 I have a

00:18:30.799 --> 00:18:31.400
 dear friend,

00:18:31.500 --> 00:18:31.960
 he's preached

00:18:31.960 --> 00:18:32.440
 here a couple

00:18:32.440 --> 00:18:32.940
 times,

00:18:33.480 --> 00:18:34.099
 Dr. Lyndon

00:18:34.099 --> 00:18:34.440
 Jost,

00:18:34.700 --> 00:18:35.599
 he's in

00:18:35.599 --> 00:18:36.400
 Toronto at

00:18:36.400 --> 00:18:37.180
 Christ Church

00:18:37.180 --> 00:18:37.559
 Toronto.

00:18:38.160 --> 00:18:38.620
 He wrote

00:18:38.620 --> 00:18:39.160
 his dissertation

00:18:39.160 --> 00:18:40.920
 on headship,

00:18:41.000 --> 00:18:41.380
 this very

00:18:41.380 --> 00:18:41.839
 topic,

00:18:42.380 --> 00:18:42.700
 at

00:18:42.700 --> 00:18:44.079
 Wycliffe

00:18:44.079 --> 00:18:44.559
 College.

00:18:45.420 --> 00:18:45.759
 And he

00:18:45.759 --> 00:18:46.360
 said this,

00:18:46.359 --> 00:18:48.719
 our world,

00:18:48.879 --> 00:18:49.179
 quote,

00:18:49.299 --> 00:18:49.759
 our world

00:18:49.759 --> 00:18:50.419
 is confused

00:18:50.419 --> 00:18:50.919
 about what

00:18:50.919 --> 00:18:51.559
 true power

00:18:51.559 --> 00:18:52.139
 and authority

00:18:52.139 --> 00:18:52.519
 is.

00:18:53.159 --> 00:18:53.939
 In Christ's

00:18:53.939 --> 00:18:54.219
 kingdom,

00:18:54.779 --> 00:18:55.299
 it isn't

00:18:55.299 --> 00:18:56.039
 the external

00:18:56.039 --> 00:18:56.500
 things,

00:18:56.599 --> 00:18:57.179
 the overt,

00:18:57.579 --> 00:18:58.099
 strong,

00:18:58.279 --> 00:18:58.599
 harsh,

00:18:58.679 --> 00:18:59.279
 or abrasive

00:18:59.279 --> 00:18:59.639
 things,

00:19:00.319 --> 00:19:00.699
 but the

00:19:00.699 --> 00:19:01.019
 hidden,

00:19:01.379 --> 00:19:01.659
 gentle,

00:19:01.819 --> 00:19:02.219
 and quiet

00:19:02.219 --> 00:19:02.679
 things that

00:19:02.679 --> 00:19:03.159
 are beautiful.

00:19:04.199 --> 00:19:04.639
 Women are

00:19:04.639 --> 00:19:05.240
 called to be

00:19:05.240 --> 00:19:06.419
 exemplary of

00:19:06.419 --> 00:19:07.039
 what each

00:19:07.039 --> 00:19:07.879
 of us is

00:19:07.879 --> 00:19:08.279
 called to

00:19:08.279 --> 00:19:09.179
 be in

00:19:09.179 --> 00:19:09.779
 relation to

00:19:09.779 --> 00:19:10.079
 God.

00:19:11.159 --> 00:19:11.719
 Submission,

00:19:11.899 --> 00:19:12.240
 ironically,

00:19:12.419 --> 00:19:12.759
 is true

00:19:12.759 --> 00:19:13.139
 power,

00:19:13.399 --> 00:19:13.899
 for every

00:19:13.899 --> 00:19:14.479
 woman in

00:19:14.479 --> 00:19:14.979
 her marriage

00:19:14.980 --> 00:19:15.400
 has the

00:19:15.400 --> 00:19:16.599
 freedom to

00:19:16.599 --> 00:19:17.819
 choose whether

00:19:17.819 --> 00:19:18.200
 she will

00:19:18.200 --> 00:19:18.940
 submit or

00:19:18.940 --> 00:19:19.400
 demand

00:19:19.400 --> 00:19:20.059
 submission.

00:19:22.579 --> 00:19:23.620
 The world

00:19:23.620 --> 00:19:24.480
 confuses

00:19:24.480 --> 00:19:26.140
 beauty all

00:19:26.140 --> 00:19:26.579
 the time.

00:19:27.579 --> 00:19:28.000
 It takes

00:19:28.000 --> 00:19:28.319
 what is

00:19:28.319 --> 00:19:29.799
 good and

00:19:29.799 --> 00:19:30.240
 tarnishes

00:19:30.240 --> 00:19:30.860
 it, or

00:19:30.860 --> 00:19:32.079
 excludes a

00:19:32.079 --> 00:19:32.700
 key aspect

00:19:32.700 --> 00:19:33.039
 of what

00:19:33.039 --> 00:19:33.460
 makes it

00:19:33.460 --> 00:19:33.799
 beautiful.

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 This is

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 what it

00:19:35.339 --> 00:19:35.920
 was in

00:19:35.920 --> 00:19:36.380
 the garden

00:19:36.380 --> 00:19:37.700
 when Satan

00:19:37.700 --> 00:19:38.480
 said to

00:19:38.480 --> 00:19:39.000
 Adam and

00:19:39.000 --> 00:19:39.440
 Eve,

00:19:39.860 --> 00:19:40.279
 calling into

00:19:40.279 --> 00:19:41.759
 question what

00:19:41.759 --> 00:19:42.279
 God truly

00:19:42.279 --> 00:19:42.819
 said, the

00:19:42.819 --> 00:19:43.579
 beauty, the

00:19:43.579 --> 00:19:44.720
 goodness, the

00:19:44.720 --> 00:19:45.620
 kindness, the

00:19:45.620 --> 00:19:46.140
 grace of

00:19:46.140 --> 00:19:46.480
 God's

00:19:46.480 --> 00:19:46.880
 command.

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 He didn't

00:19:48.440 --> 00:19:50.779
 create, but

00:19:50.779 --> 00:19:52.019
 he bent and

00:19:52.019 --> 00:19:53.339
 tarnished and

00:19:53.339 --> 00:19:54.240
 confused,

00:19:54.980 --> 00:19:55.819
 bastardized.

00:19:59.900 --> 00:20:00.940
 Lyndon, my

00:20:00.940 --> 00:20:01.400
 friend Lyndon,

00:20:01.460 --> 00:20:01.960
 touches on

00:20:01.960 --> 00:20:03.759
 what this, the

00:20:03.759 --> 00:20:04.920
 beauty of what

00:20:04.920 --> 00:20:06.019
 godly submission

00:20:06.019 --> 00:20:06.740
 can look like,

00:20:06.839 --> 00:20:07.460
 both for men

00:20:07.460 --> 00:20:08.140
 and for women,

00:20:08.559 --> 00:20:09.259
 by affirming

00:20:09.259 --> 00:20:10.339
 what Peter says

00:20:10.339 --> 00:20:11.019
 about the

00:20:11.019 --> 00:20:11.680
 second imperative.

00:20:12.400 --> 00:20:12.860
 That second

00:20:12.860 --> 00:20:13.400
 imperative is

00:20:13.400 --> 00:20:14.240
 this, the

00:20:14.240 --> 00:20:15.420
 adornment of

00:20:15.420 --> 00:20:15.980
 a godly

00:20:15.980 --> 00:20:16.360
 heart.

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 So look

00:20:16.880 --> 00:20:17.220
 with me at

00:20:17.220 --> 00:20:17.680
 verses 3

00:20:17.680 --> 00:20:18.019
 and 4.

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 Do not

00:20:20.060 --> 00:20:20.460
 let your

00:20:20.460 --> 00:20:21.160
 adorning be

00:20:21.160 --> 00:20:22.420
 external, the

00:20:22.420 --> 00:20:22.860
 braiding of

00:20:22.860 --> 00:20:23.460
 hair and the

00:20:23.460 --> 00:20:24.160
 putting on of

00:20:24.160 --> 00:20:25.560
 gold jewelry, or

00:20:25.560 --> 00:20:26.259
 the clothing you

00:20:26.259 --> 00:20:27.560
 wear, but let

00:20:27.560 --> 00:20:28.500
 your adorning be

00:20:28.500 --> 00:20:29.060
 the hidden

00:20:29.060 --> 00:20:29.960
 person of the

00:20:29.960 --> 00:20:31.060
 heart, with

00:20:31.060 --> 00:20:31.840
 the, here it

00:20:31.840 --> 00:20:32.800
 is, imperishable

00:20:32.800 --> 00:20:34.180
 beauty of a

00:20:34.180 --> 00:20:34.700
 gentle and

00:20:34.700 --> 00:20:35.400
 quiet spirit,

00:20:35.580 --> 00:20:37.220
 which in

00:20:37.220 --> 00:20:38.000
 God's sight is

00:20:38.000 --> 00:20:38.820
 very precious.

00:20:40.420 --> 00:20:41.019
 Does Peter

00:20:41.019 --> 00:20:41.960
 forbid all

00:20:41.960 --> 00:20:42.440
 aesthetics?

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 The answer

00:20:45.720 --> 00:20:46.319
 is no.

00:20:46.440 --> 00:20:46.980
 I think what

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 is, to draw

00:20:49.240 --> 00:20:49.799
 from this a

00:20:49.799 --> 00:20:50.579
 legalistic ban

00:20:50.579 --> 00:20:51.680
 on beauty or

00:20:51.680 --> 00:20:52.359
 clothing is to

00:20:52.359 --> 00:20:52.980
 misread this

00:20:52.980 --> 00:20:53.319
 text.

00:20:54.160 --> 00:20:55.160
 Instead, what

00:20:55.160 --> 00:20:55.799
 he is doing is

00:20:55.799 --> 00:20:57.240
 lifting up what

00:20:57.240 --> 00:20:58.920
 is true, eternal

00:20:58.920 --> 00:20:59.339
 beauty.

00:21:00.200 --> 00:21:01.160
 And it is not

00:21:01.160 --> 00:21:03.920
 on trend that

00:21:03.920 --> 00:21:05.160
 trends come and

00:21:05.160 --> 00:21:06.619
 go, but it is

00:21:06.619 --> 00:21:08.599
 kindness and

00:21:08.599 --> 00:21:10.019
 goodness and

00:21:10.019 --> 00:21:10.720
 truth and

00:21:10.720 --> 00:21:11.559
 faithfulness and

00:21:11.559 --> 00:21:12.099
 compassion.

00:21:13.519 --> 00:21:14.319
 The kind of

00:21:14.319 --> 00:21:14.879
 beauty that is

00:21:14.879 --> 00:21:16.599
 not subject to

00:21:16.599 --> 00:21:17.920
 the whims of

00:21:17.920 --> 00:21:21.139
 whoever is the

00:21:21.139 --> 00:21:21.599
 number one

00:21:21.599 --> 00:21:22.660
 fashion whatever,

00:21:22.819 --> 00:21:23.220
 I'm not a

00:21:23.220 --> 00:21:23.680
 fashion guy, I

00:21:23.680 --> 00:21:23.859
 don't know what

00:21:23.859 --> 00:21:24.279
 they're called,

00:21:24.639 --> 00:21:26.519
 designer of the

00:21:26.519 --> 00:21:27.859
 day, but rather

00:21:27.859 --> 00:21:28.900
 it's rooted in the

00:21:28.900 --> 00:21:29.460
 imperishable

00:21:29.460 --> 00:21:29.900
 Christ.

00:21:32.299 --> 00:21:34.220
 And like this

00:21:34.220 --> 00:21:34.940
 view of power

00:21:34.940 --> 00:21:35.660
 that is broken,

00:21:35.960 --> 00:21:36.759
 we have a broken

00:21:36.759 --> 00:21:38.019
 view of beauty in

00:21:38.019 --> 00:21:38.500
 our culture.

00:21:39.599 --> 00:21:40.539
 And it is like

00:21:40.539 --> 00:21:42.779
 hyper broken in

00:21:42.779 --> 00:21:43.220
 our day.

00:21:44.660 --> 00:21:45.660
 Online influencers,

00:21:45.980 --> 00:21:46.759
 style blogs,

00:21:46.940 --> 00:21:47.700
 social media,

00:21:48.500 --> 00:21:49.639
 communicate to,

00:21:50.359 --> 00:21:51.440
 sorry, communicates

00:21:51.440 --> 00:21:52.359
 to us that youth is

00:21:52.359 --> 00:21:52.960
 the only thing that

00:21:52.960 --> 00:21:53.339
 matters.

00:21:54.240 --> 00:21:54.599
 Wrinkles,

00:21:54.940 --> 00:21:55.440
 grays,

00:21:56.240 --> 00:21:56.639
 didn't know how

00:21:56.639 --> 00:21:57.160
 to say this,

00:21:57.180 --> 00:21:57.879
 so I said this and

00:21:57.879 --> 00:21:58.579
 hopefully it's funny,

00:21:58.680 --> 00:21:59.319
 but you understand

00:21:59.319 --> 00:21:59.799
 what I'm trying to

00:21:59.799 --> 00:22:00.000
 say.

00:22:00.359 --> 00:22:01.619
 Any body that's

00:22:01.619 --> 00:22:03.180
 not a 21-year-old,

00:22:03.259 --> 00:22:04.500
 nine days a week,

00:22:04.500 --> 00:22:05.599
 Pilates instructor.

00:22:06.759 --> 00:22:07.859
 Anything that

00:22:07.859 --> 00:22:08.740
 deviates from that

00:22:08.740 --> 00:22:10.039
 isn't as nice,

00:22:10.539 --> 00:22:11.519
 isn't as beautiful.

00:22:13.619 --> 00:22:14.740
 You can't diet

00:22:14.740 --> 00:22:15.420
 enough, you can't

00:22:15.420 --> 00:22:16.299
 exercise enough,

00:22:16.400 --> 00:22:17.579
 you can't serum

00:22:17.579 --> 00:22:19.039
 your wrinkles away

00:22:19.039 --> 00:22:19.819
 enough, you have

00:22:19.819 --> 00:22:21.440
 an entire, we have

00:22:21.440 --> 00:22:23.259
 an entire anti-aging

00:22:23.259 --> 00:22:24.339
 cosmetic industry

00:22:24.339 --> 00:22:25.480
 that promises youth

00:22:25.480 --> 00:22:26.420
 and virility.

00:22:27.279 --> 00:22:27.980
 So last year,

00:22:28.059 --> 00:22:28.880
 Canadians spent some

00:22:28.880 --> 00:22:30.000
 four billion dollars

00:22:30.000 --> 00:22:30.980
 on anti-aging.

00:22:31.500 --> 00:22:32.019
 That includes

00:22:32.019 --> 00:22:32.859
 cosmetic surgery.

00:22:32.859 --> 00:22:34.599
 I'm not lifting

00:22:34.599 --> 00:22:35.199
 this up to say

00:22:35.199 --> 00:22:35.879
 it is evil,

00:22:36.039 --> 00:22:36.959
 but just to say

00:22:36.959 --> 00:22:39.119
 it is disordered.

00:22:39.919 --> 00:22:40.359
 Beauty,

00:22:41.299 --> 00:22:41.679
 aesthetics,

00:22:42.500 --> 00:22:43.639
 they are God-given,

00:22:44.019 --> 00:22:45.519
 God has made this

00:22:45.519 --> 00:22:46.479
 world to be beautiful

00:22:46.479 --> 00:22:47.619
 and to capture it

00:22:47.619 --> 00:22:49.599
 and to enjoy it

00:22:49.599 --> 00:22:50.579
 is a wonderful thing,

00:22:50.639 --> 00:22:51.439
 but what happens

00:22:51.439 --> 00:22:53.299
 is that we put

00:22:53.299 --> 00:22:54.479
 our eternal worth

00:22:54.479 --> 00:22:55.959
 on the exterior,

00:22:56.819 --> 00:22:59.000
 not what's inside.

00:22:59.000 --> 00:23:04.059
 so pervasive

00:23:04.059 --> 00:23:04.680
 is this lie

00:23:04.680 --> 00:23:05.819
 that many young

00:23:05.819 --> 00:23:06.420
 women and

00:23:06.420 --> 00:23:07.480
 increasingly men

00:23:07.480 --> 00:23:08.680
 in their 20s

00:23:08.680 --> 00:23:09.200
 and 30s

00:23:09.200 --> 00:23:09.640
 are getting

00:23:09.640 --> 00:23:11.259
 body augmentation,

00:23:12.299 --> 00:23:13.079
 plastic surgery

00:23:13.079 --> 00:23:13.920
 to change the look

00:23:13.920 --> 00:23:14.640
 of their face,

00:23:15.180 --> 00:23:17.200
 but nothing is done

00:23:17.200 --> 00:23:17.980
 about the hidden

00:23:17.980 --> 00:23:18.859
 heart,

00:23:19.059 --> 00:23:19.559
 the character

00:23:19.559 --> 00:23:21.220
 of men and women.

00:23:24.420 --> 00:23:24.859
 Christ,

00:23:25.180 --> 00:23:26.099
 through Peter,

00:23:26.259 --> 00:23:26.740
 is saying,

00:23:26.740 --> 00:23:27.079
 listen,

00:23:27.880 --> 00:23:29.000
 where true beauty

00:23:29.000 --> 00:23:29.680
 resides

00:23:29.680 --> 00:23:32.359
 is in the heart

00:23:32.359 --> 00:23:33.680
 that is turned

00:23:33.680 --> 00:23:34.420
 towards God

00:23:34.420 --> 00:23:35.120
 in the service

00:23:35.120 --> 00:23:35.900
 of him and others.

00:23:36.480 --> 00:23:36.819
 By the way,

00:23:36.859 --> 00:23:37.240
 that's a call

00:23:37.240 --> 00:23:37.779
 for both men

00:23:37.779 --> 00:23:38.279
 and women.

00:23:42.079 --> 00:23:42.839
 The call

00:23:42.839 --> 00:23:43.579
 is towards

00:23:43.579 --> 00:23:44.759
 modesty

00:23:44.759 --> 00:23:45.500
 and restraint

00:23:45.500 --> 00:23:46.519
 in beauty

00:23:46.519 --> 00:23:47.240
 and aesthetics,

00:23:47.480 --> 00:23:48.559
 which will look

00:23:48.559 --> 00:23:49.339
 different from

00:23:49.339 --> 00:23:50.259
 culture to culture,

00:23:50.259 --> 00:23:50.319
 culture,

00:23:50.680 --> 00:23:51.240
 but it should

00:23:51.240 --> 00:23:52.039
 always mark

00:23:52.039 --> 00:23:52.680
 the Christian.

00:23:53.099 --> 00:23:53.379
 Again,

00:23:53.460 --> 00:23:53.859
 both men

00:23:53.859 --> 00:23:54.259
 and women.

00:23:54.980 --> 00:23:55.440
 Once again,

00:23:55.539 --> 00:23:56.420
 we are free

00:23:56.420 --> 00:23:57.420
 in Christ,

00:23:57.519 --> 00:23:58.019
 but what do we

00:23:58.019 --> 00:23:58.559
 use our freedom

00:23:58.559 --> 00:23:58.879
 for?

00:23:59.319 --> 00:24:00.059
 For the service

00:24:00.059 --> 00:24:00.599
 of others,

00:24:01.000 --> 00:24:03.000
 to grow in faith,

00:24:03.079 --> 00:24:03.740
 to give God

00:24:03.740 --> 00:24:04.180
 glory.

00:24:05.180 --> 00:24:05.700
 So it boils

00:24:05.700 --> 00:24:06.319
 down to this.

00:24:08.579 --> 00:24:09.240
 Go home

00:24:09.240 --> 00:24:09.799
 and trash

00:24:09.799 --> 00:24:11.119
 all of your,

00:24:11.319 --> 00:24:11.539
 no,

00:24:11.640 --> 00:24:12.140
 I'm not saying

00:24:12.140 --> 00:24:12.619
 that at all.

00:24:16.519 --> 00:24:17.200
 Ultimate worth

00:24:17.200 --> 00:24:18.000
 has to be found

00:24:18.000 --> 00:24:18.599
 in Christ

00:24:18.599 --> 00:24:21.039
 because only

00:24:21.039 --> 00:24:21.559
 Christ

00:24:21.559 --> 00:24:22.960
 is eternal.

00:24:23.640 --> 00:24:24.420
 Only he

00:24:24.420 --> 00:24:25.339
 is imperishable.

00:24:27.059 --> 00:24:28.240
 If we are

00:24:28.240 --> 00:24:31.640
 wearing nice

00:24:31.640 --> 00:24:32.039
 clothing,

00:24:32.680 --> 00:24:33.500
 if we want

00:24:33.500 --> 00:24:34.099
 to take care

00:24:34.099 --> 00:24:34.779
 of our bodies,

00:24:34.880 --> 00:24:35.700
 that is a beautiful,

00:24:35.940 --> 00:24:36.599
 godly thing

00:24:36.599 --> 00:24:37.640
 to do

00:24:37.640 --> 00:24:38.880
 if it is

00:24:38.880 --> 00:24:39.779
 properly ordered.

00:24:41.400 --> 00:24:42.619
 But it is a check

00:24:42.619 --> 00:24:43.220
 on our souls,

00:24:43.740 --> 00:24:44.559
 on our hearts.

00:24:45.259 --> 00:24:46.019
 Throughout history,

00:24:46.019 --> 00:24:48.539
 clothing and

00:24:48.539 --> 00:24:49.379
 jewelry have been

00:24:49.379 --> 00:24:50.440
 signs of worth

00:24:50.440 --> 00:24:51.099
 and empowerment

00:24:51.099 --> 00:24:51.839
 and value.

00:24:52.460 --> 00:24:54.220
 Purples and reds

00:24:54.220 --> 00:24:55.019
 were worn,

00:24:55.139 --> 00:24:55.879
 and maybe still are,

00:24:55.940 --> 00:24:56.339
 I don't know,

00:24:56.599 --> 00:24:57.259
 but they were worn

00:24:57.259 --> 00:24:58.859
 to show your wealth,

00:24:59.019 --> 00:25:00.440
 to show your

00:25:00.440 --> 00:25:02.599
 prowess.

00:25:03.480 --> 00:25:04.000
 Gold

00:25:04.000 --> 00:25:05.220
 to show,

00:25:05.400 --> 00:25:05.579
 again,

00:25:05.700 --> 00:25:06.539
 your wealth.

00:25:08.059 --> 00:25:08.960
 If we are dressing,

00:25:09.740 --> 00:25:10.779
 if we are engaging

00:25:10.779 --> 00:25:11.579
 in such a way

00:25:11.579 --> 00:25:12.559
 to promote

00:25:12.559 --> 00:25:13.359
 who we are,

00:25:13.359 --> 00:25:15.379
 but we are

00:25:15.379 --> 00:25:15.839
 leaving

00:25:15.839 --> 00:25:17.459
 the inside

00:25:17.459 --> 00:25:18.659
 much dirtier

00:25:18.659 --> 00:25:19.579
 than the outside,

00:25:20.339 --> 00:25:20.879
 we are missing

00:25:20.879 --> 00:25:21.319
 the point.

00:25:25.699 --> 00:25:26.479
 We will not

00:25:26.479 --> 00:25:27.000
 be free,

00:25:27.939 --> 00:25:28.839
 but we will be

00:25:28.839 --> 00:25:29.539
 enslaved to our

00:25:29.539 --> 00:25:30.659
 passions and desires.

00:25:31.419 --> 00:25:32.419
 This is telling us

00:25:32.419 --> 00:25:32.979
 that the inward

00:25:32.979 --> 00:25:33.579
 is the real.

00:25:34.099 --> 00:25:35.039
 Inward is the authentic,

00:25:35.379 --> 00:25:35.859
 the genuine.

00:25:36.859 --> 00:25:37.479
 The outward

00:25:37.479 --> 00:25:38.919
 fades and perishes.

00:25:40.039 --> 00:25:40.639
 It just does.

00:25:40.640 --> 00:25:43.380
 Concerning the gentle

00:25:43.380 --> 00:25:44.220
 and quiet spirit,

00:25:44.320 --> 00:25:44.920
 this is not some

00:25:44.920 --> 00:25:45.540
 euphemism,

00:25:46.060 --> 00:25:46.840
 this is not some

00:25:46.840 --> 00:25:48.220
 kind of veiled

00:25:48.220 --> 00:25:49.200
 way of saying

00:25:49.200 --> 00:25:49.920
 women need to be

00:25:49.920 --> 00:25:50.700
 pushovers or

00:25:50.700 --> 00:25:51.840
 defined by passivity,

00:25:52.080 --> 00:25:52.900
 not at all.

00:25:53.360 --> 00:25:53.980
 It is a call

00:25:53.980 --> 00:25:54.740
 to be like Christ.

00:25:55.720 --> 00:25:56.759
 Matthew 11,

00:25:56.840 --> 00:25:57.280
 29,

00:25:57.900 --> 00:25:58.640
 Jesus is described

00:25:58.640 --> 00:25:59.259
 as gentle

00:25:59.259 --> 00:26:00.280
 and lowly.

00:26:01.820 --> 00:26:02.300
 Gentle

00:26:02.300 --> 00:26:03.040
 and lowly

00:26:03.040 --> 00:26:04.060
 is our Savior.

00:26:05.700 --> 00:26:06.580
 He is compassionate,

00:26:06.780 --> 00:26:07.360
 he is loving,

00:26:07.560 --> 00:26:09.200
 he is empathetic,

00:26:09.280 --> 00:26:10.120
 he is kind,

00:26:10.119 --> 00:26:12.199
 he is ferociously

00:26:12.199 --> 00:26:13.839
 protective of the

00:26:13.839 --> 00:26:14.199
 vulnerable.

00:26:17.219 --> 00:26:17.659
 Again,

00:26:17.859 --> 00:26:18.679
 like my friend

00:26:18.679 --> 00:26:19.359
 Lyndon said,

00:26:19.879 --> 00:26:20.500
 women are called

00:26:20.500 --> 00:26:21.659
 to be exemplary

00:26:21.659 --> 00:26:22.679
 of what each of us

00:26:22.679 --> 00:26:23.279
 is called to be

00:26:23.279 --> 00:26:24.419
 in relation to God.

00:26:26.079 --> 00:26:27.079
 It changes things

00:26:27.079 --> 00:26:27.599
 when we read it

00:26:27.599 --> 00:26:27.919
 that way.

00:26:27.979 --> 00:26:28.139
 I mean,

00:26:28.159 --> 00:26:28.639
 you can read,

00:26:29.779 --> 00:26:31.279
 it's a terrible thing

00:26:31.279 --> 00:26:32.119
 about certain

00:26:32.119 --> 00:26:33.000
 interpretations,

00:26:33.139 --> 00:26:33.639
 you can read

00:26:33.639 --> 00:26:34.479
 whatever you want

00:26:34.479 --> 00:26:35.119
 into this,

00:26:36.279 --> 00:26:37.199
 but again,

00:26:37.339 --> 00:26:38.479
 we have this

00:26:38.479 --> 00:26:39.099
 hermeneutic

00:26:39.099 --> 00:26:39.619
 that we can't

00:26:39.619 --> 00:26:40.199
 read one part

00:26:40.199 --> 00:26:40.679
 of the Bible

00:26:40.679 --> 00:26:42.599
 at the expense

00:26:42.599 --> 00:26:43.259
 of another part

00:26:43.259 --> 00:26:43.679
 of the Bible.

00:26:44.319 --> 00:26:45.259
 We can't read

00:26:45.259 --> 00:26:46.099
 a quiet

00:26:46.099 --> 00:26:47.179
 and gentle spirit

00:26:47.179 --> 00:26:48.259
 without reading

00:26:48.259 --> 00:26:49.079
 about how Jesus

00:26:49.079 --> 00:26:50.279
 is gentle

00:26:50.279 --> 00:26:50.819
 and lowly

00:26:50.819 --> 00:26:51.299
 and all

00:26:51.299 --> 00:26:52.279
 of what that means.

00:26:53.240 --> 00:26:54.339
 The final imperative

00:26:54.339 --> 00:26:56.259
 is to fear nothing.

00:26:56.439 --> 00:26:57.099
 Take a look with me

00:26:57.099 --> 00:26:58.259
 at verses 5 to 6.

00:26:58.259 --> 00:26:59.440
 For this is how

00:26:59.440 --> 00:27:00.319
 the holy women

00:27:00.319 --> 00:27:01.519
 who hoped in God

00:27:01.519 --> 00:27:02.579
 used to adorn themselves

00:27:02.579 --> 00:27:03.259
 by submitting

00:27:03.259 --> 00:27:04.279
 to their own husbands

00:27:04.279 --> 00:27:06.180
 as Sarah obeyed Abraham,

00:27:06.339 --> 00:27:07.019
 calling him Lord.

00:27:07.599 --> 00:27:08.980
 And you are her children

00:27:08.980 --> 00:27:09.839
 if you do good

00:27:09.839 --> 00:27:11.379
 and do not fear

00:27:11.379 --> 00:27:12.879
 anything that is frightening.

00:27:13.660 --> 00:27:14.700
 The third imperative

00:27:14.700 --> 00:27:15.339
 is found,

00:27:15.799 --> 00:27:16.240
 verse 6,

00:27:16.339 --> 00:27:16.859
 fear nothing

00:27:16.859 --> 00:27:17.720
 that is frightening.

00:27:18.599 --> 00:27:19.039
 Once again,

00:27:19.099 --> 00:27:19.799
 this is not some kind

00:27:19.799 --> 00:27:21.099
 of blanket command

00:27:21.099 --> 00:27:22.279
 to never fear,

00:27:22.420 --> 00:27:22.720
 but again,

00:27:22.779 --> 00:27:23.599
 it's in the context

00:27:23.599 --> 00:27:25.639
 of hope in God,

00:27:26.199 --> 00:27:27.379
 a life of faith.

00:27:28.419 --> 00:27:29.539
 To have faith in Christ

00:27:29.539 --> 00:27:31.159
 even in a situation

00:27:31.159 --> 00:27:32.359
 where one's husband

00:27:32.359 --> 00:27:33.500
 is an unbeliever,

00:27:33.959 --> 00:27:35.159
 it's no easy task.

00:27:35.779 --> 00:27:37.719
 Fear seems to be a default.

00:27:38.439 --> 00:27:41.359
 Courage is not common.

00:27:41.859 --> 00:27:43.019
 That's why we hold up courage

00:27:43.019 --> 00:27:44.579
 as this wonderful,

00:27:44.799 --> 00:27:45.519
 beautiful virtue

00:27:45.519 --> 00:27:48.279
 because it is not common.

00:27:48.439 --> 00:27:49.799
 It is remarkable.

00:27:50.240 --> 00:27:51.439
 It is exemplary.

00:27:51.440 --> 00:27:55.200
 In this case,

00:27:55.620 --> 00:27:57.860
 this is a call

00:27:57.860 --> 00:27:59.259
 to not fear.

00:28:00.059 --> 00:28:00.620
 And this is

00:28:00.620 --> 00:28:02.340
 a tough situation

00:28:02.340 --> 00:28:03.799
 because marriages,

00:28:04.200 --> 00:28:04.860
 even the best,

00:28:04.960 --> 00:28:06.400
 can be full and fraught

00:28:06.400 --> 00:28:08.279
 with difficulty and trials.

00:28:09.180 --> 00:28:10.140
 In the case of Sarah,

00:28:10.320 --> 00:28:11.759
 she entrusted herself to God

00:28:11.759 --> 00:28:15.779
 even as Abraham

00:28:15.779 --> 00:28:17.000
 led her

00:28:17.000 --> 00:28:20.360
 into some horrendous situations,

00:28:20.359 --> 00:28:22.159
 marrying her off

00:28:22.159 --> 00:28:25.919
 to basically a warlord,

00:28:26.740 --> 00:28:27.240
 lying,

00:28:28.619 --> 00:28:31.379
 not showing courage himself.

00:28:32.399 --> 00:28:34.000
 He was not a good man.

00:28:34.139 --> 00:28:35.240
 He made decisions

00:28:35.240 --> 00:28:36.279
 that put her life

00:28:36.279 --> 00:28:38.539
 and her future in jeopardy.

00:28:38.599 --> 00:28:39.959
 But she entrusted herself

00:28:39.959 --> 00:28:40.599
 to the Lord.

00:28:40.679 --> 00:28:41.459
 And I think this is

00:28:41.459 --> 00:28:42.639
 the big emphasis

00:28:42.639 --> 00:28:44.179
 behind what Peter

00:28:44.179 --> 00:28:45.019
 is trying to say.

00:28:47.019 --> 00:28:47.879
 But this raises

00:28:47.879 --> 00:28:48.619
 another question.

00:28:48.619 --> 00:28:50.539
 Does faith in God

00:28:50.539 --> 00:28:51.119
 mean that a woman

00:28:51.119 --> 00:28:52.419
 ought to stay in a marriage

00:28:52.419 --> 00:28:53.519
 even though there is

00:28:53.519 --> 00:28:54.659
 abuse or neglect?

00:28:56.539 --> 00:28:57.919
 She is subject to her husband

00:28:57.919 --> 00:28:58.799
 no matter what, correct?

00:28:59.079 --> 00:29:00.199
 It seems like there's a bit,

00:29:00.459 --> 00:29:02.159
 there's no caveat here.

00:29:03.179 --> 00:29:03.639
 There's no,

00:29:03.879 --> 00:29:05.199
 only in this case.

00:29:06.279 --> 00:29:06.759
 But again,

00:29:06.899 --> 00:29:07.439
 we don't read

00:29:07.439 --> 00:29:08.819
 Bible portions

00:29:08.819 --> 00:29:10.219
 as islands.

00:29:11.399 --> 00:29:11.839
 Historically,

00:29:11.959 --> 00:29:12.559
 in the church,

00:29:14.679 --> 00:29:15.819
 there has been,

00:29:15.819 --> 00:29:17.720
 well,

00:29:17.779 --> 00:29:18.480
 I'll say this first.

00:29:18.740 --> 00:29:20.359
 This is not a how-to manual,

00:29:20.679 --> 00:29:21.859
 an exhaustive how-to manual

00:29:21.859 --> 00:29:23.079
 of how husbands and wives

00:29:23.079 --> 00:29:23.619
 ought to live.

00:29:24.339 --> 00:29:25.319
 It's a part of that.

00:29:25.839 --> 00:29:27.279
 But it is not an exhaustive.

00:29:27.319 --> 00:29:28.179
 So that's why we

00:29:28.179 --> 00:29:29.599
 can't read it as,

00:29:29.740 --> 00:29:29.859
 aha,

00:29:30.139 --> 00:29:31.539
 this is justification

00:29:31.539 --> 00:29:33.399
 for enduring

00:29:33.399 --> 00:29:34.980
 terrible abuse.

00:29:35.399 --> 00:29:35.819
 Historically,

00:29:35.960 --> 00:29:37.099
 abuse has been

00:29:37.099 --> 00:29:37.819
 among the three

00:29:37.819 --> 00:29:38.799
 legitimate reasons

00:29:38.799 --> 00:29:39.579
 for separation.

00:29:40.220 --> 00:29:41.240
 The other two,

00:29:42.240 --> 00:29:43.439
 abandonment and adultery.

00:29:43.440 --> 00:29:44.120
 It's easy to remember

00:29:44.120 --> 00:29:45.059
 the three A's.

00:29:45.559 --> 00:29:45.940
 Abuse,

00:29:46.059 --> 00:29:46.539
 abandonment,

00:29:46.600 --> 00:29:47.140
 and adultery.

00:29:48.000 --> 00:29:48.680
 But again,

00:29:48.820 --> 00:29:49.820
 what is in view here

00:29:49.820 --> 00:29:50.900
 is that a wife

00:29:50.900 --> 00:29:52.220
 who willingly submits

00:29:52.220 --> 00:29:53.539
 to an unbelieving husband

00:29:53.539 --> 00:29:56.460
 or in a problematic situation

00:29:56.460 --> 00:29:57.480
 within a marriage

00:29:57.480 --> 00:29:59.140
 is to do so

00:29:59.140 --> 00:29:59.820
 in order to

00:29:59.820 --> 00:30:01.039
 win

00:30:01.039 --> 00:30:02.820
 her husband

00:30:02.820 --> 00:30:04.100
 to faith.

00:30:04.840 --> 00:30:06.200
 To lay down her life

00:30:06.200 --> 00:30:07.380
 for the sake of her husband

00:30:07.380 --> 00:30:09.100
 and to trust in God's

00:30:09.100 --> 00:30:10.120
 leading and provision.

00:30:10.119 --> 00:30:13.199
 I mean,

00:30:13.279 --> 00:30:13.459
 listen,

00:30:13.539 --> 00:30:13.959
 I'm not saying

00:30:13.959 --> 00:30:14.959
 it's an easy text

00:30:14.959 --> 00:30:15.619
 here to read.

00:30:16.119 --> 00:30:16.639
 This is stuff

00:30:16.639 --> 00:30:17.839
 that we have to wrestle with.

00:30:18.619 --> 00:30:19.219
 Christine and I,

00:30:19.339 --> 00:30:21.259
 we have a mentor couple.

00:30:21.419 --> 00:30:23.379
 They were instrumental

00:30:23.379 --> 00:30:25.219
 in us coming together.

00:30:25.619 --> 00:30:27.099
 They are retired missionaries

00:30:27.099 --> 00:30:27.639
 in France.

00:30:28.639 --> 00:30:31.279
 But Catherine has this line

00:30:31.279 --> 00:30:31.519
 where,

00:30:32.099 --> 00:30:32.379
 well,

00:30:32.419 --> 00:30:33.299
 I guess David as well,

00:30:34.059 --> 00:30:34.500
 where they say,

00:30:34.559 --> 00:30:34.719
 listen,

00:30:34.819 --> 00:30:35.059
 you just,

00:30:35.239 --> 00:30:36.559
 you lead people to Jesus

00:30:36.559 --> 00:30:38.519
 and they can wrestle with him.

00:30:38.519 --> 00:30:40.559
 They can wrestle with him.

00:30:40.599 --> 00:30:41.259
 And in a sense,

00:30:41.299 --> 00:30:41.980
 this is what we're doing.

00:30:42.119 --> 00:30:43.339
 We're coming before this text

00:30:43.339 --> 00:30:44.680
 taking a hard,

00:30:44.839 --> 00:30:45.460
 honest look at it.

00:30:45.519 --> 00:30:46.420
 It is not easy.

00:30:46.779 --> 00:30:48.019
 Wrestle with God over it.

00:30:51.559 --> 00:30:52.700
 His shoulders are broad.

00:30:52.759 --> 00:30:53.359
 He can take it.

00:30:54.879 --> 00:30:55.819
 But thanks be to God

00:30:55.819 --> 00:30:57.559
 that Peter doesn't stop here

00:30:57.559 --> 00:30:59.220
 but also address his husband.

00:30:59.359 --> 00:30:59.480
 So,

00:31:00.019 --> 00:31:00.339
 women,

00:31:00.900 --> 00:31:01.379
 wives,

00:31:01.519 --> 00:31:03.160
 they are called to be subject.

00:31:04.039 --> 00:31:05.420
 There's all sorts of different caveats

00:31:05.420 --> 00:31:06.160
 that we looked at.

00:31:06.160 --> 00:31:09.080
 They are to adorn themselves

00:31:09.080 --> 00:31:10.660
 with godly character,

00:31:11.120 --> 00:31:12.400
 which is our call as well

00:31:12.400 --> 00:31:14.320
 as husbands and men

00:31:14.320 --> 00:31:15.180
 married or not.

00:31:16.580 --> 00:31:17.740
 And then to fear nothing,

00:31:17.840 --> 00:31:19.000
 which again is a call

00:31:19.000 --> 00:31:19.880
 to a life of faith.

00:31:19.960 --> 00:31:20.420
 You see,

00:31:21.120 --> 00:31:22.900
 all of these imperatives

00:31:22.900 --> 00:31:24.560
 are applied across the board

00:31:24.560 --> 00:31:25.180
 to everybody

00:31:25.180 --> 00:31:26.720
 regardless of where they are at

00:31:26.720 --> 00:31:27.720
 relationally.

00:31:28.860 --> 00:31:29.960
 But let's take a look at husbands

00:31:29.960 --> 00:31:30.880
 as we continue on.

00:31:32.820 --> 00:31:34.060
 Before we get into it,

00:31:34.160 --> 00:31:35.580
 I'll read this wonderful quote.

00:31:36.160 --> 00:31:37.300
 By Ambrose of Milan.

00:31:38.440 --> 00:31:39.660
 You are not a master

00:31:39.660 --> 00:31:40.279
 but a husband.

00:31:41.220 --> 00:31:42.220
 What you have acquired

00:31:42.220 --> 00:31:43.200
 is not a handmaid

00:31:43.200 --> 00:31:43.759
 but a wife.

00:31:44.540 --> 00:31:45.900
 Be a sharer in her love.

00:31:48.519 --> 00:31:49.680
 Verse 7 says this.

00:31:50.720 --> 00:31:51.740
 Likewise, husbands,

00:31:51.880 --> 00:31:52.779
 live with your wives

00:31:52.779 --> 00:31:54.160
 in an understanding way,

00:31:54.860 --> 00:31:56.160
 showing honor to the woman

00:31:56.160 --> 00:31:57.259
 as the weaker vessel,

00:31:57.800 --> 00:31:59.300
 since they are heirs with you

00:31:59.300 --> 00:32:00.600
 of the grace of life,

00:32:01.060 --> 00:32:02.080
 so that your prayers

00:32:02.080 --> 00:32:03.160
 may not be hindered.

00:32:03.160 --> 00:32:05.060
 The first commandment

00:32:05.060 --> 00:32:06.240
 we see here

00:32:06.240 --> 00:32:08.680
 is to live with one's wife

00:32:08.680 --> 00:32:09.980
 in an understanding way.

00:32:11.620 --> 00:32:13.100
 This is, I mean,

00:32:14.080 --> 00:32:15.380
 maybe the most challenging

00:32:15.380 --> 00:32:16.500
 imperative

00:32:16.500 --> 00:32:19.200
 that command

00:32:19.200 --> 00:32:20.060
 that is given

00:32:20.060 --> 00:32:22.259
 because it requires men

00:32:22.259 --> 00:32:22.920
 to be humble

00:32:22.920 --> 00:32:23.840
 and brave.

00:32:24.840 --> 00:32:26.060
 To authentically

00:32:26.060 --> 00:32:27.240
 and genuinely count

00:32:27.240 --> 00:32:28.300
 his wife's needs

00:32:28.300 --> 00:32:29.140
 as more significant

00:32:29.140 --> 00:32:29.740
 than his own

00:32:29.740 --> 00:32:31.660
 means asking questions

00:32:31.660 --> 00:32:32.759
 and lots of questions,

00:32:33.380 --> 00:32:33.980
 listening,

00:32:34.580 --> 00:32:35.220
 empathetically,

00:32:35.600 --> 00:32:36.640
 doing the hard work

00:32:36.640 --> 00:32:37.340
 to understand

00:32:37.340 --> 00:32:38.380
 what makes

00:32:38.380 --> 00:32:39.880
 one's wife tick,

00:32:41.019 --> 00:32:42.019
 which is to say

00:32:42.019 --> 00:32:43.440
 recognizing her uniqueness,

00:32:43.680 --> 00:32:44.200
 her strength,

00:32:44.300 --> 00:32:44.840
 her weaknesses,

00:32:45.180 --> 00:32:46.480
 her qualities,

00:32:46.700 --> 00:32:47.420
 her quirks.

00:32:48.140 --> 00:32:48.900
 It means earning

00:32:48.900 --> 00:32:49.920
 her trust

00:32:49.920 --> 00:32:50.880
 and safeguarding it.

00:32:51.580 --> 00:32:52.300
 It's hard work.

00:32:53.160 --> 00:32:53.720
 It might seem

00:32:53.720 --> 00:32:54.460
 so overwhelming

00:32:54.460 --> 00:32:56.040
 that there's

00:32:56.040 --> 00:32:56.759
 a paralysis.

00:32:58.080 --> 00:32:58.640
 That's where

00:32:58.640 --> 00:32:59.580
 the bravery comes in.

00:32:59.579 --> 00:33:00.740
 there's a call

00:33:00.740 --> 00:33:01.539
 to be brave

00:33:01.539 --> 00:33:02.299
 in all of this.

00:33:03.939 --> 00:33:05.500
 It's to restrict

00:33:05.500 --> 00:33:07.960
 your enjoyment

00:33:07.960 --> 00:33:09.439
 in terms of hobbies

00:33:09.439 --> 00:33:10.819
 and the way

00:33:10.819 --> 00:33:11.539
 you spend your money

00:33:11.539 --> 00:33:12.220
 and your time

00:33:12.220 --> 00:33:13.539
 to focus on

00:33:13.539 --> 00:33:14.159
 this person

00:33:14.159 --> 00:33:14.699
 in front of you.

00:33:15.460 --> 00:33:15.759
 You know,

00:33:16.519 --> 00:33:17.559
 it is also the call

00:33:17.559 --> 00:33:19.460
 for all of us

00:33:19.460 --> 00:33:21.099
 as we interact

00:33:21.099 --> 00:33:22.039
 with brothers and sisters

00:33:22.039 --> 00:33:22.559
 in the church,

00:33:22.619 --> 00:33:23.960
 not to the same degree,

00:33:23.960 --> 00:33:26.579
 but it's still

00:33:26.579 --> 00:33:27.079
 the call

00:33:27.079 --> 00:33:28.460
 to live

00:33:28.460 --> 00:33:29.279
 in a godly,

00:33:29.460 --> 00:33:30.019
 selfless,

00:33:30.160 --> 00:33:31.319
 self-giving relationship.

00:33:35.000 --> 00:33:35.519
 Whenever

00:33:35.519 --> 00:33:36.779
 Christine and I

00:33:36.779 --> 00:33:37.880
 have disagreements,

00:33:37.960 --> 00:33:38.559
 which happens,

00:33:38.740 --> 00:33:39.140
 I mean,

00:33:39.680 --> 00:33:41.559
 every fifth year

00:33:41.559 --> 00:33:42.039
 or something,

00:33:42.299 --> 00:33:42.519
 it's,

00:33:42.779 --> 00:33:43.279
 we're always,

00:33:43.900 --> 00:33:44.680
 we nail it

00:33:44.680 --> 00:33:45.380
 all the time.

00:33:45.460 --> 00:33:45.640
 No,

00:33:46.440 --> 00:33:47.559
 we get into,

00:33:47.620 --> 00:33:48.460
 we get into arguments

00:33:48.460 --> 00:33:50.059
 and almost every time,

00:33:50.240 --> 00:33:51.819
 9.5 times out of 10,

00:33:51.819 --> 00:33:53.019
 I'm saying,

00:33:54.079 --> 00:33:54.779
 you're not

00:33:54.779 --> 00:33:55.599
 understanding me.

00:33:56.240 --> 00:33:56.659
 You're not

00:33:56.659 --> 00:33:57.480
 understanding me.

00:33:57.759 --> 00:33:58.200
 And somehow

00:33:58.200 --> 00:33:58.799
 I turn into,

00:33:58.960 --> 00:33:59.659
 like an Italian,

00:33:59.839 --> 00:34:00.379
 like you're not

00:34:00.379 --> 00:34:01.119
 understanding me,

00:34:01.159 --> 00:34:02.000
 my hands go crazy.

00:34:03.059 --> 00:34:04.019
 The call isn't

00:34:04.019 --> 00:34:05.279
 for her to understand me,

00:34:05.339 --> 00:34:05.759
 although that's

00:34:05.759 --> 00:34:06.480
 a very appropriate,

00:34:06.679 --> 00:34:07.439
 that's a very good thing.

00:34:08.159 --> 00:34:08.900
 I am called

00:34:08.900 --> 00:34:09.799
 to understand her.

00:34:11.420 --> 00:34:12.319
 In the moment,

00:34:12.440 --> 00:34:13.019
 that means

00:34:13.019 --> 00:34:17.000
 I may or may not

00:34:17.000 --> 00:34:18.299
 get to my issues

00:34:18.299 --> 00:34:21.039
 within this disagreement,

00:34:21.039 --> 00:34:22.079
 within this

00:34:22.079 --> 00:34:23.440
 tete-a-tete.

00:34:24.880 --> 00:34:25.699
 But I ought to

00:34:25.699 --> 00:34:26.259
 get to hers.

00:34:29.360 --> 00:34:30.159
 How on earth

00:34:30.159 --> 00:34:30.940
 are you to understand

00:34:30.940 --> 00:34:31.340
 anyone,

00:34:31.519 --> 00:34:31.960
 let alone

00:34:31.960 --> 00:34:33.279
 your own wife?

00:34:33.880 --> 00:34:34.420
 Or, again,

00:34:34.500 --> 00:34:35.279
 expand it out

00:34:35.279 --> 00:34:36.440
 to your friends,

00:34:36.599 --> 00:34:37.219
 to your parents,

00:34:37.300 --> 00:34:38.000
 whoever it may be,

00:34:38.239 --> 00:34:39.440
 if you are heavy-handed,

00:34:39.599 --> 00:34:40.059
 demanding,

00:34:40.340 --> 00:34:41.500
 and using your authority

00:34:41.500 --> 00:34:43.179
 for your selfish gain

00:34:43.179 --> 00:34:44.460
 and not for her flourishing.

00:34:44.599 --> 00:34:45.639
 How on earth

00:34:45.639 --> 00:34:47.440
 can you understand

00:34:47.440 --> 00:34:48.840
 your wife?

00:34:48.840 --> 00:34:52.120
 If your chest

00:34:52.120 --> 00:34:53.440
 is so puffed up

00:34:53.440 --> 00:34:54.480
 and your ears

00:34:54.480 --> 00:34:55.519
 are so stopped

00:34:55.519 --> 00:34:57.320
 that you can't

00:34:57.320 --> 00:34:57.900
 understand what

00:34:57.900 --> 00:34:58.600
 she has to say,

00:34:59.960 --> 00:35:01.740
 what's even worse

00:35:01.740 --> 00:35:02.640
 is when you tell her

00:35:02.640 --> 00:35:04.800
 what she thinks.

00:35:05.579 --> 00:35:06.380
 And I'm not trying

00:35:06.380 --> 00:35:06.920
 to make a joke

00:35:06.920 --> 00:35:07.380
 about that,

00:35:07.420 --> 00:35:08.059
 because that is

00:35:08.059 --> 00:35:08.940
 a dismissal.

00:35:10.880 --> 00:35:11.700
 That's not hearing

00:35:11.700 --> 00:35:12.240
 somebody.

00:35:12.960 --> 00:35:13.880
 That is thinking

00:35:13.880 --> 00:35:14.740
 you hear somebody.

00:35:14.920 --> 00:35:15.680
 Different things.

00:35:15.679 --> 00:35:17.319
 you start to see

00:35:17.319 --> 00:35:18.259
 how this call

00:35:18.259 --> 00:35:19.699
 to understand

00:35:19.699 --> 00:35:20.659
 the wife

00:35:20.659 --> 00:35:21.559
 that you are living with

00:35:21.559 --> 00:35:23.019
 is not some kind

00:35:23.019 --> 00:35:24.440
 of throwaway command,

00:35:24.759 --> 00:35:25.599
 but it is deep.

00:35:26.379 --> 00:35:27.119
 It's heavy,

00:35:27.679 --> 00:35:28.779
 but it is good.

00:35:30.440 --> 00:35:31.279
 The second command

00:35:31.279 --> 00:35:32.139
 is no less demanding,

00:35:32.259 --> 00:35:32.379
 though,

00:35:32.859 --> 00:35:33.559
 showing honor

00:35:33.559 --> 00:35:34.179
 to the woman

00:35:34.179 --> 00:35:36.219
 as the weaker vessel.

00:35:36.399 --> 00:35:37.079
 Let me read here.

00:35:40.079 --> 00:35:40.859
 Showing honor

00:35:40.859 --> 00:35:41.379
 to the woman

00:35:41.379 --> 00:35:42.379
 as the weaker vessel,

00:35:42.579 --> 00:35:44.079
 since they are heirs

00:35:44.079 --> 00:35:45.139
 with you of the grace

00:35:45.139 --> 00:35:45.719
 of life.

00:35:46.319 --> 00:35:47.000
 I'll pause there.

00:35:47.340 --> 00:35:48.219
 Let's deal first

00:35:48.219 --> 00:35:49.079
 with this weaker vessel

00:35:49.079 --> 00:35:49.420
 comment.

00:35:49.500 --> 00:35:50.119
 For Aristotle,

00:35:50.799 --> 00:35:51.460
 women were weak

00:35:51.460 --> 00:35:52.699
 in body and courage.

00:35:53.279 --> 00:35:54.159
 For other philosophers,

00:35:54.559 --> 00:35:55.840
 women also lacked

00:35:55.840 --> 00:35:56.980
 mental endurance.

00:35:57.940 --> 00:35:58.539
 Peter's not saying

00:35:58.539 --> 00:35:59.019
 either of that.

00:36:00.519 --> 00:36:01.559
 But he is certainly

00:36:01.559 --> 00:36:04.980
 referring to physical strength

00:36:04.980 --> 00:36:06.380
 in comparison to a man.

00:36:07.500 --> 00:36:08.699
 And that, by the way,

00:36:09.319 --> 00:36:11.219
 has other implications

00:36:11.219 --> 00:36:12.759
 as well for how women

00:36:12.759 --> 00:36:14.819
 have been pushed down

00:36:14.819 --> 00:36:15.619
 and subjugated

00:36:15.619 --> 00:36:16.579
 and how that can

00:36:16.579 --> 00:36:18.679
 cause all sorts

00:36:18.679 --> 00:36:20.799
 of other appearances

00:36:20.799 --> 00:36:21.459
 of weakness.

00:36:21.719 --> 00:36:22.579
 I'm not saying it is,

00:36:23.439 --> 00:36:24.519
 because it would happen

00:36:24.519 --> 00:36:25.399
 in a man as well.

00:36:26.059 --> 00:36:27.299
 But Peter is specifically

00:36:27.299 --> 00:36:27.839
 talking,

00:36:28.659 --> 00:36:29.379
 almost certainly,

00:36:30.019 --> 00:36:33.079
 referring to a physical difference,

00:36:33.259 --> 00:36:34.119
 a physical weakness.

00:36:34.859 --> 00:36:35.239
 And again,

00:36:35.299 --> 00:36:36.480
 it is a generality.

00:36:36.759 --> 00:36:37.459
 There are some women

00:36:37.459 --> 00:36:38.179
 that are stronger

00:36:38.179 --> 00:36:39.819
 than some men,

00:36:39.820 --> 00:36:40.820
 but generally speaking,

00:36:40.920 --> 00:36:42.300
 men are stronger

00:36:42.300 --> 00:36:42.840
 than women.

00:36:45.180 --> 00:36:45.980
 And by doing this,

00:36:46.039 --> 00:36:46.640
 he recognizes

00:36:46.640 --> 00:36:47.940
 the very real vulnerability

00:36:47.940 --> 00:36:48.800
 men have,

00:36:50.180 --> 00:36:53.460
 or that women have faced

00:36:53.460 --> 00:36:55.260
 with men who take advantage

00:36:55.260 --> 00:36:56.980
 of their vulnerability

00:36:56.980 --> 00:36:57.820
 over the centuries

00:36:57.820 --> 00:36:58.720
 and millennia.

00:36:59.200 --> 00:37:00.019
 So the response

00:37:00.019 --> 00:37:01.200
 to this reality,

00:37:01.500 --> 00:37:02.000
 showing honor.

00:37:03.000 --> 00:37:04.280
 Honor includes living

00:37:04.280 --> 00:37:05.100
 with understanding,

00:37:05.220 --> 00:37:05.960
 like we just saw,

00:37:06.300 --> 00:37:07.840
 but also seeking the good.

00:37:08.080 --> 00:37:08.600
 Remember,

00:37:08.599 --> 00:37:09.539
 the previous section,

00:37:10.119 --> 00:37:10.679
 Peter says,

00:37:10.960 --> 00:37:12.639
 show honor to everyone,

00:37:13.219 --> 00:37:14.000
 including the emperor.

00:37:15.279 --> 00:37:16.019
 It means spending

00:37:16.019 --> 00:37:16.739
 one's life,

00:37:16.960 --> 00:37:18.179
 his talents,

00:37:18.360 --> 00:37:18.900
 his time,

00:37:18.980 --> 00:37:19.559
 his treasures

00:37:19.559 --> 00:37:20.299
 for the sake

00:37:20.299 --> 00:37:21.139
 of one's family,

00:37:21.599 --> 00:37:23.420
 but also others as well.

00:37:23.519 --> 00:37:24.380
 So important is this

00:37:24.380 --> 00:37:25.219
 that Peter says,

00:37:25.759 --> 00:37:26.639
 an abdication

00:37:26.639 --> 00:37:27.639
 of such command

00:37:27.639 --> 00:37:28.319
 will stunt

00:37:28.319 --> 00:37:29.360
 one's spirituality.

00:37:29.360 --> 00:37:32.400
 how can one pray

00:37:32.400 --> 00:37:33.920
 to the Savior

00:37:33.920 --> 00:37:36.780
 who had all the freedoms

00:37:36.780 --> 00:37:37.579
 and privileges

00:37:37.579 --> 00:37:38.320
 of heaven

00:37:38.320 --> 00:37:41.000
 and left it

00:37:41.000 --> 00:37:42.539
 to take on human flesh,

00:37:42.760 --> 00:37:43.960
 to die as a servant

00:37:43.960 --> 00:37:44.940
 on our behalf?

00:37:45.519 --> 00:37:46.599
 How are we

00:37:46.599 --> 00:37:49.640
 to pray to that God

00:37:49.640 --> 00:37:50.980
 when we are subjugating

00:37:50.980 --> 00:37:51.360
 the very person

00:37:51.900 --> 00:37:53.680
 that he has given us

00:37:53.680 --> 00:37:54.880
 the privilege to help

00:37:54.880 --> 00:37:55.960
 in their walk

00:37:55.960 --> 00:37:57.180
 and life to flourish?

00:37:57.179 --> 00:38:00.359
 You can see how

00:38:00.359 --> 00:38:01.919
 it would totally

00:38:01.919 --> 00:38:03.039
 stymie

00:38:03.039 --> 00:38:04.219
 one's spiritual life.

00:38:05.259 --> 00:38:05.819
 Again,

00:38:06.019 --> 00:38:07.119
 a call for the inward

00:38:07.119 --> 00:38:08.500
 to match the outward,

00:38:08.639 --> 00:38:08.819
 right?

00:38:10.099 --> 00:38:11.579
 So what ends up happening?

00:38:11.579 --> 00:38:15.500
 We see that in the call

00:38:15.500 --> 00:38:18.480
 to show understanding

00:38:18.480 --> 00:38:23.519
 and to honor a woman,

00:38:24.179 --> 00:38:26.940
 it is directly connected

00:38:26.940 --> 00:38:28.139
 with what we will be judged

00:38:28.139 --> 00:38:28.779
 with as men.

00:38:29.679 --> 00:38:31.079
 Because Christ himself,

00:38:31.360 --> 00:38:31.920
 what will he,

00:38:32.539 --> 00:38:33.500
 at the end of the age,

00:38:33.960 --> 00:38:35.000
 what will he do?

00:38:35.099 --> 00:38:37.319
 He will present his bride,

00:38:37.420 --> 00:38:37.799
 the church,

00:38:37.960 --> 00:38:39.059
 spotless before God.

00:38:39.059 --> 00:38:41.279
 And that in a part

00:38:41.279 --> 00:38:42.440
 is our call as well,

00:38:42.559 --> 00:38:43.980
 to make sure that

00:38:43.980 --> 00:38:45.380
 the people in our lives,

00:38:45.480 --> 00:38:47.000
 especially wives,

00:38:47.119 --> 00:38:47.880
 they flourish,

00:38:48.480 --> 00:38:49.159
 they grow,

00:38:50.400 --> 00:38:51.480
 that they are heard,

00:38:51.579 --> 00:38:52.340
 that they are understood,

00:38:53.139 --> 00:38:54.460
 that they grow

00:38:54.460 --> 00:38:55.599
 in their spiritual life,

00:38:55.639 --> 00:38:56.559
 in their emotional life,

00:38:56.599 --> 00:38:57.759
 that they are healthy.

00:38:58.739 --> 00:39:00.219
 It's not a perfect thing,

00:39:00.320 --> 00:39:01.360
 but it is a good thing.

00:39:03.299 --> 00:39:03.440
 You know,

00:39:03.500 --> 00:39:03.739
 there's a,

00:39:03.920 --> 00:39:04.940
 and I'll just say this,

00:39:04.980 --> 00:39:06.019
 because men in our culture

00:39:06.019 --> 00:39:07.759
 have been really struck down

00:39:07.760 --> 00:39:08.340
 quite a bit.

00:39:09.700 --> 00:39:10.780
 I'll wrap things up shortly.

00:39:10.980 --> 00:39:12.000
 They have been struck down,

00:39:12.080 --> 00:39:13.160
 men have been poo-pooed,

00:39:13.600 --> 00:39:15.380
 and there's a certain segment

00:39:15.380 --> 00:39:16.860
 of a type of masculinity

00:39:16.860 --> 00:39:18.040
 that is not good.

00:39:18.520 --> 00:39:19.580
 But by and large,

00:39:19.760 --> 00:39:20.840
 men have been told

00:39:20.840 --> 00:39:21.800
 that being a man

00:39:21.800 --> 00:39:22.440
 is a problem,

00:39:23.260 --> 00:39:24.480
 and that it's pervasive

00:39:24.480 --> 00:39:24.980
 in the church.

00:39:25.100 --> 00:39:25.860
 But what's interesting

00:39:25.860 --> 00:39:27.740
 is that a lot of studies

00:39:27.740 --> 00:39:28.460
 are coming out now

00:39:28.460 --> 00:39:29.780
 that show that men

00:39:29.780 --> 00:39:31.140
 who take this seriously

00:39:31.139 --> 00:39:36.679
 are laying down their lives

00:39:36.679 --> 00:39:37.460
 for their families

00:39:37.460 --> 00:39:38.319
 and their wives.

00:39:40.359 --> 00:39:44.519
 They are living in homes

00:39:44.519 --> 00:39:46.059
 where they are valued

00:39:46.059 --> 00:39:48.199
 as fathers and husbands.

00:39:48.940 --> 00:39:50.639
 It's not just church talk.

00:39:51.400 --> 00:39:52.619
 There's empirical research

00:39:52.619 --> 00:39:53.359
 that backs it up.

00:39:53.539 --> 00:39:54.480
 There's a wonderful book,

00:39:54.559 --> 00:39:55.199
 Worth Your Time.

00:39:55.699 --> 00:39:56.039
 It's called

00:39:56.039 --> 00:39:57.559
 The Toxic War on Masculinity

00:39:57.559 --> 00:39:58.840
 by Nancy Percy,

00:39:59.460 --> 00:40:01.019
 and she dispels

00:40:01.019 --> 00:40:02.759
 a lot of myths about this.

00:40:03.799 --> 00:40:04.920
 Anyways, to wrap things up,

00:40:05.840 --> 00:40:07.179
 Peter has called men and women

00:40:07.179 --> 00:40:08.239
 to a high standard

00:40:08.239 --> 00:40:09.480
 of sacrificial living.

00:40:09.599 --> 00:40:11.679
 That's really what it boils down to,

00:40:11.739 --> 00:40:12.840
 and it's incredibly difficult

00:40:12.840 --> 00:40:14.440
 because the ideal

00:40:14.440 --> 00:40:15.519
 is incredibly high,

00:40:15.599 --> 00:40:17.860
 for it is Christ Jesus himself.

00:40:18.059 --> 00:40:19.000
 We are called to imitate

00:40:19.000 --> 00:40:19.920
 and image him.

00:40:21.039 --> 00:40:22.380
 Women in this context

00:40:22.380 --> 00:40:23.820
 imitate Christ

00:40:23.820 --> 00:40:25.079
 by using their freedom

00:40:25.079 --> 00:40:26.420
 to willingly be subject

00:40:26.420 --> 00:40:27.199
 to their husbands

00:40:27.199 --> 00:40:29.460
 as Christ uses freedom

00:40:29.460 --> 00:40:30.739
 to willingly be subject

00:40:30.739 --> 00:40:31.840
 to the will of God.

00:40:32.380 --> 00:40:34.340
 She lays down her desire

00:40:34.340 --> 00:40:35.679
 for self-glorification

00:40:35.679 --> 00:40:37.960
 so that through her

00:40:37.960 --> 00:40:39.739
 imperishable beauty

00:40:39.739 --> 00:40:40.659
 Christ is glorified.

00:40:41.019 --> 00:40:41.619
 This is something

00:40:41.619 --> 00:40:42.500
 only women can do.

00:40:43.460 --> 00:40:45.179
 Only women can image

00:40:45.179 --> 00:40:47.179
 and represent Christ

00:40:47.179 --> 00:40:48.079
 in this way,

00:40:48.259 --> 00:40:49.659
 in the marriage context.

00:40:50.880 --> 00:40:52.900
 Men are to imitate Christ

00:40:52.900 --> 00:40:54.039
 by using their freedom

00:40:54.039 --> 00:40:55.500
 to willingly serve

00:40:55.500 --> 00:40:56.820
 and lay down their lives,

00:40:57.279 --> 00:40:58.179
 their ambitions,

00:40:58.960 --> 00:40:59.719
 their goals

00:40:59.719 --> 00:41:00.460
 for the sake

00:41:00.460 --> 00:41:01.719
 of their wives and families.

00:41:02.940 --> 00:41:03.619
 He should not use

00:41:03.619 --> 00:41:04.820
 his physical prowess

00:41:04.820 --> 00:41:05.579
 to subjugate,

00:41:05.659 --> 00:41:06.300
 but to protect

00:41:06.300 --> 00:41:07.380
 and provide

00:41:07.380 --> 00:41:09.340
 to help life

00:41:09.340 --> 00:41:09.960
 and beauty

00:41:09.960 --> 00:41:10.800
 and goodness

00:41:10.800 --> 00:41:12.159
 flourish in his home.

00:41:13.420 --> 00:41:14.320
 He will be judged

00:41:14.320 --> 00:41:16.059
 by how his home flourishes,

00:41:16.239 --> 00:41:17.259
 how his wife flourishes.

00:41:18.099 --> 00:41:18.900
 And by doing this,

00:41:18.960 --> 00:41:19.800
 he imitates Christ,

00:41:19.900 --> 00:41:21.159
 something he alone can do.

00:41:21.500 --> 00:41:23.139
 A woman can't do this

00:41:23.139 --> 00:41:23.679
 like a man.

00:41:24.019 --> 00:41:25.079
 So what does this tell us?

00:41:25.579 --> 00:41:26.920
 That it takes both men

00:41:26.920 --> 00:41:27.400
 and women

00:41:27.400 --> 00:41:28.559
 to image Christ

00:41:28.559 --> 00:41:31.299
 in a marriage context.

00:41:31.779 --> 00:41:32.440
 It's not simply

00:41:32.440 --> 00:41:35.480
 Jesus is the husband

00:41:35.480 --> 00:41:36.759
 and the church is the bride,

00:41:36.920 --> 00:41:38.079
 therefore that's kind of it.

00:41:38.179 --> 00:41:38.940
 And that is good,

00:41:39.019 --> 00:41:39.779
 but that is not

00:41:39.779 --> 00:41:40.460
 the full picture.

00:41:40.900 --> 00:41:41.940
 Both men and women

00:41:41.940 --> 00:41:42.960
 image Jesus,

00:41:43.359 --> 00:41:44.339
 proclaim Jesus,

00:41:44.679 --> 00:41:45.519
 what he has done,

00:41:45.599 --> 00:41:46.119
 his goodness,

00:41:46.319 --> 00:41:46.739
 his grace,

00:41:46.819 --> 00:41:47.400
 his gospel.

00:41:47.400 --> 00:41:50.800
 Power and strength

00:41:50.800 --> 00:41:52.139
 in this context,

00:41:52.579 --> 00:41:53.700
 in the context of Christ,

00:41:53.780 --> 00:41:54.960
 is never to subjugate

00:41:54.960 --> 00:41:55.420
 and dominate,

00:41:55.539 --> 00:41:56.440
 but always to love

00:41:56.440 --> 00:41:57.440
 and to serve

00:41:57.440 --> 00:41:58.340
 and to bless.

00:41:58.440 --> 00:41:59.579
 And like we learned earlier,

00:41:59.840 --> 00:42:01.059
 this is what true power

00:42:01.059 --> 00:42:01.639
 looks like

00:42:01.639 --> 00:42:02.800
 and it's displayed beautifully

00:42:02.800 --> 00:42:04.160
 on the cross of Christ.

00:42:07.340 --> 00:42:07.820
 Friends,

00:42:07.940 --> 00:42:08.840
 whether you are married

00:42:08.840 --> 00:42:09.579
 or not,

00:42:10.340 --> 00:42:11.360
 whether things are going

00:42:11.360 --> 00:42:12.760
 well or not

00:42:12.760 --> 00:42:13.559
 in your marriage,

00:42:13.559 --> 00:42:15.460
 throw yourself

00:42:15.460 --> 00:42:16.279
 at the mercy

00:42:16.279 --> 00:42:18.079
 and the grace of Christ.

00:42:18.759 --> 00:42:19.539
 Look to him.

00:42:20.460 --> 00:42:21.219
 Imitate him.

00:42:21.920 --> 00:42:22.639
 Work hard

00:42:22.639 --> 00:42:24.199
 by his strength

00:42:24.199 --> 00:42:26.179
 and trust that

00:42:26.179 --> 00:42:27.059
 by his grace,

00:42:27.639 --> 00:42:28.659
 by his cross,

00:42:29.239 --> 00:42:29.920
 he will bless

00:42:29.920 --> 00:42:30.659
 and he will help.

00:42:31.219 --> 00:42:31.779
 Let's pray.

00:42:33.199 --> 00:42:33.719
 Father,

00:42:33.840 --> 00:42:34.659
 thank you for

00:42:34.659 --> 00:42:35.799
 tough passages

00:42:35.799 --> 00:42:36.539
 in your word.

00:42:38.579 --> 00:42:39.099
 Lord,

00:42:39.219 --> 00:42:39.759
 we thank you

00:42:39.759 --> 00:42:40.019
 that

00:42:40.019 --> 00:42:43.480
 that truth is good.

00:42:43.559 --> 00:42:44.099
 for us,

00:42:44.179 --> 00:42:44.659
 whether we want

00:42:44.659 --> 00:42:45.599
 to hear it or not.

00:42:46.880 --> 00:42:47.460
 Not to say

00:42:47.460 --> 00:42:49.219
 that every last bit

00:42:49.219 --> 00:42:50.619
 of what we needed

00:42:50.619 --> 00:42:51.059
 to cover

00:42:51.059 --> 00:42:51.639
 was covered,

00:42:51.759 --> 00:42:52.199
 but God,

00:42:52.659 --> 00:42:53.659
 there's enough in here

00:42:53.659 --> 00:42:54.579
 where we can wrestle.

00:42:55.299 --> 00:42:56.000
 But also, Lord,

00:42:56.039 --> 00:42:56.960
 we can be encouraged

00:42:56.960 --> 00:42:58.779
 that we are not

00:42:58.779 --> 00:42:59.559
 called

00:42:59.559 --> 00:43:03.380
 to live lives

00:43:03.380 --> 00:43:04.559
 for our own

00:43:04.559 --> 00:43:06.880
 selfish gain,

00:43:07.059 --> 00:43:08.400
 but selflessly

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 for the sake of others.

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 Lord, help us.

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 We need your help.

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 And Lord,

00:43:13.219 --> 00:43:13.900
 we pray that

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 in this church

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 that you would

00:43:15.619 --> 00:43:16.819
 bless marriages,

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 that you would

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 help marriages,

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 husbands and wives

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 to grow together,

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 to grow as one

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 and to do so

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 for your glory.

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 And for those

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 that aren't married,

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 Lord, we pray

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 that you would

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 help them to serve well

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 and Lord,

00:43:32.059 --> 00:43:32.619
 we ask that you

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 would bless them

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 if it is your will

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 for marriage.

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 We pray this

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 in Jesus' name.

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 Amen.

00:43:38.400 --> 00:43:38.500
 Amen.

00:43:38.500 --> 00:43:38.539
 Amen.

00:43:38.539 --> 00:43:38.559
 Amen.

00:43:38.559 --> 00:43:38.579
 Amen.

00:43:38.579 --> 00:43:38.599
 Amen.

00:43:38.599 --> 00:43:38.619
 Amen.

00:43:38.619 --> 00:43:38.659
 Amen.

00:43:38.659 --> 00:43:40.599
 Amen.

00:43:40.599 --> 00:43:40.619
 Amen.

00:43:40.619 --> 00:43:40.679
 Amen.