WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:29.980 . . . 00:00:30.000 --> 00:00:39.859 Jesus loves me, this I know, 00:00:39.859 --> 00:00:46.799 For the Bible tells me so, 00:00:47.400 --> 00:00:53.620 Little ones to give me hope, 00:00:53.619 --> 00:01:00.919 They are weak, but He is strong. 00:01:02.640 --> 00:01:08.039 Yes, Jesus loves me, 00:01:08.040 --> 00:01:15.180 Yes, Jesus loves me, 00:01:15.180 --> 00:01:23.020 Yes, Jesus loves me, 00:01:23.020 --> 00:01:28.400 All my Lord tells me so. 00:01:28.400 --> 00:01:49.540 Jesus loves me, 00:01:49.540 --> 00:02:01.680 He who died, 00:02:01.680 --> 00:02:11.540 Heaven takes to hope and life, 00:02:11.539 --> 00:02:21.539 He will wash away my sins, 00:02:21.539 --> 00:02:31.539 Let His little child come in, 00:02:31.539 --> 00:02:38.539 Yes, Jesus loves me, 00:02:38.539 --> 00:02:46.539 Yes, Jesus loves me, 00:02:46.539 --> 00:02:50.539 Yes, Jesus loves me, 00:02:50.539 --> 00:03:01.539 Yes, Jesus loves me, 00:03:01.539 --> 00:03:12.639 The Bible tells me so, 00:03:12.639 --> 00:03:13.680 Yeah, Jesus loves me, 00:03:13.680 --> 00:03:14.500 That is, Jesus loves me, 00:03:14.500 --> 00:03:14.799 He will quam, 00:03:14.799 --> 00:03:15.000 He will quam, 00:03:15.000 --> 00:03:15.120 He will quam, 00:03:15.120 --> 00:03:15.219 He will quam, 00:03:15.219 --> 00:03:15.259 He will quam, 00:03:15.259 --> 00:03:15.299 He will quam, 00:03:15.299 --> 00:03:15.319 He will quam, 00:03:15.319 --> 00:03:15.359 He will quam, 00:03:15.359 --> 00:03:15.379 He will quam, 00:03:15.379 --> 00:03:15.399 He will quam, 00:03:15.399 --> 00:03:15.439 He will quam, 00:03:15.439 --> 00:03:15.439 00:03:15.439 --> 00:03:15.459 He will quam, 00:03:15.459 --> 00:03:15.479 He will quam, 00:03:15.479 --> 00:03:15.500 He will quam, 00:03:15.500 --> 00:03:15.500 00:03:15.500 --> 00:03:15.500 00:03:15.500 --> 00:03:15.519 He will quam, 00:03:15.519 --> 00:03:15.539 He will quam, 00:03:15.539 --> 00:03:15.579 He will quam, 00:03:15.579 --> 00:03:15.599 He will quam, 00:03:15.599 --> 00:03:15.620 He will quam, 00:03:15.620 --> 00:03:15.620 00:03:15.620 --> 00:03:15.620 00:03:15.620 --> 00:03:15.639 He will quam, 00:03:15.639 --> 00:03:15.639 00:03:15.639 --> 00:03:15.639 00:03:15.639 --> 00:03:15.639 00:03:15.639 --> 00:03:16.639 Amen. 00:03:45.639 --> 00:03:58.419 This heart of mine, make it pure and holy thine. 00:03:58.419 --> 00:04:06.779 Thou hast bled and died for me. 00:04:07.379 --> 00:04:14.759 I will dance or live for thee. 00:04:15.639 --> 00:04:23.639 Yes, Jesus loves me. 00:04:23.639 --> 00:04:31.639 Yes, Jesus loves me. 00:04:31.639 --> 00:04:39.639 Yes, Jesus loves me. 00:04:39.639 --> 00:04:45.639 Yes, Jesus loves me. 00:04:45.639 --> 00:04:55.639 Yes, Jesus loves me. 00:04:55.639 --> 00:05:05.639 Yes, Jesus loves me. 00:05:05.639 --> 00:05:15.639 Yes, Jesus loves me. 00:05:15.639 --> 00:05:27.639 The love of friend and lover is often sweetly sung. 00:05:27.639 --> 00:05:57.639 00:05:57.639 --> 00:06:27.639 00:06:27.639 --> 00:06:43.639 That's why I'm singing of God's love so rich and free. 00:06:43.639 --> 00:07:13.639 00:07:13.639 --> 00:07:19.639 He is not on earth of an equal worth. 00:07:19.639 --> 00:07:29.639 Oh, his love beyond the campaign. 00:07:29.639 --> 00:07:45.639 There is no greater love than that of Christ above. 00:07:45.639 --> 00:07:59.639 That made him stooped to become a man. 00:07:59.639 --> 00:08:09.639 And by his death provide redemption's plan. 00:08:09.639 --> 00:08:19.639 There is no greater love. 00:08:19.639 --> 00:08:33.639 That's why I'm singing of God's love so rich and free. 00:08:33.639 --> 00:08:41.639 Revealed at memory. 00:08:41.639 --> 00:08:51.639 There is no greater love. 00:08:51.639 --> 00:09:01.639 If he had died for angels, our seraphim on high. 00:09:01.639 --> 00:09:03.639 We could understand. 00:09:03.639 --> 00:09:05.639 We could understand. 00:09:05.639 --> 00:09:17.639 But amazed we stand that for sinners lost, he'd die. 00:09:17.639 --> 00:09:19.639 There is no greater love. 00:09:19.639 --> 00:09:27.639 There is no greater love. 00:09:27.639 --> 00:09:35.639 Than that of Christ above. 00:09:35.639 --> 00:09:45.639 That made him stooped to earth become a man. 00:09:45.639 --> 00:09:55.639 And by his death provide redemption's plan. 00:09:55.639 --> 00:10:05.639 There is no greater love. 00:10:05.639 --> 00:10:13.639 That's why I'm singing of God's love. 00:10:13.639 --> 00:10:19.639 God's love so rich and free. 00:10:19.639 --> 00:10:25.639 Revealed at memory. 00:10:25.639 --> 00:10:37.639 There is no greater love. 00:10:37.639 --> 00:11:01.639 The phrase for the series of study is found in Ephesians chapter 5. 00:11:01.639 --> 00:11:07.639 Understanding what the will of the Lord is. 00:11:07.639 --> 00:11:19.639 What the will of the Lord is. 00:11:19.639 --> 00:11:23.639 And in the last 18 months, we come this evening to the subject in the paragraph. 00:11:23.639 --> 00:11:29.639 Of what is the will of the Lord for a believing husband. 00:11:29.639 --> 00:11:35.639 Now, it's a very common subject nowadays. 00:11:35.639 --> 00:11:41.639 In my reading this week, I came across the statement which I cannot prove. 00:11:41.639 --> 00:11:53.639 And in the last 18 months, there have been 140 new books written from a biblical standpoint on the subject of husbands, wives, and marriage. 00:11:53.639 --> 00:11:55.639 That is probably true. 00:11:55.639 --> 00:12:03.639 That certainly highlights the attractiveness of the subject. 00:12:03.639 --> 00:12:13.639 And yet I wonder if it also doesn't highlight some of the problems that are being faced in this day and age. 00:12:13.639 --> 00:12:29.639 I'd remind you in this paragraph that Paul has said to the believers for a fifth time in regards to their conduct, he has brought up the subject of your walk. 00:12:29.639 --> 00:12:31.639 I will not take time to review. 00:12:31.639 --> 00:12:35.639 But to draw your attention to verse 15. 00:12:35.639 --> 00:12:42.639 Where he says that believers are to walk accurately. 00:12:42.639 --> 00:12:48.639 And then with that statement as a basis. 00:12:48.639 --> 00:13:02.639 He reminds us in the verses that follow that first of all, to walk accurately means to buy up the time and the opportunities you have so that you will not lose something that may be your last chance to do. 00:13:02.639 --> 00:13:08.639 And with that, we come to our phrase in verse 17. 00:13:08.639 --> 00:13:17.639 The accurate walk not only means redeeming the time, but it means understanding what the will of the Lord is. 00:13:17.639 --> 00:13:22.639 Now, it has nothing to do with service for God. 00:13:22.639 --> 00:13:27.639 It has nothing to do with life's dedication. 00:13:27.639 --> 00:13:35.639 From this point on, he deals with the will of God for every believer. 00:13:35.639 --> 00:13:38.639 And of course, it's simple. 00:13:38.639 --> 00:13:46.639 For the first part or the first tenet of the will of God for every believer is verse 18. 00:13:46.639 --> 00:13:51.639 To be filled with the Holy Spirit. 00:13:51.639 --> 00:13:56.639 It doesn't just say men are to be filled with the Holy Spirit. 00:13:56.639 --> 00:14:03.639 It doesn't say just preachers or missionaries or full-time servants for the Lord are to be filled with the Holy Spirit. 00:14:03.639 --> 00:14:10.639 He is talking to the ordinary Christian saved by grace. 00:14:10.639 --> 00:14:16.639 Having taught them three chapters of doctrine, he teaches them three chapters of practice. 00:14:16.639 --> 00:14:26.639 And having given them the last step on the ladder of walk, he says you are to walk accurately and to buy up the opportunities you have to walk accurately lest it's your last chance. 00:14:26.639 --> 00:14:31.639 Then you are to understand what the will of the Lord is. 00:14:31.639 --> 00:14:37.639 And he begins by saying, be not drunk with wine wherein is excess, but be filled with the Holy Spirit. 00:14:37.639 --> 00:14:44.639 That doesn't just include adults, that includes boys and girls. 00:14:44.639 --> 00:14:54.639 For if they can know to accept Christ and biblically follow the work of accepting Christ, then they ought to be able to be responsible for what God expects them and as they're taught. 00:14:54.639 --> 00:14:59.639 Now, he goes from there to give us the results of a Spirit-filled life. 00:14:59.639 --> 00:15:02.639 And for the moment, there is no argument with the epistle. 00:15:02.639 --> 00:15:06.639 In fact, the same thing is found in Colossians 3 about being filled with the Word of God. 00:15:07.639 --> 00:15:10.639 The first two verses we readily accept. 00:15:10.639 --> 00:15:11.639 We call it helpfulness. 00:15:11.639 --> 00:15:13.639 We call it happiness. 00:15:13.639 --> 00:15:15.639 And we call verse 20 thankfulness. 00:15:15.639 --> 00:15:21.639 If you want to know if you're filled with the Holy Spirit, let me ask you, are you help happy? 00:15:21.639 --> 00:15:24.639 Number two, are you a helpful Christian? 00:15:24.639 --> 00:15:27.639 Number three, are you a thankful Christian? 00:15:27.639 --> 00:15:33.639 That's the manifestation of being filled with the Holy Spirit, which is the will of God for every believer who wants to walk accurately. 00:15:33.639 --> 00:15:35.639 Isn't it amazing how simple the Bible is? 00:15:37.639 --> 00:15:47.639 But then, because our reference Bible has all these paragraphs and these headliners in them, we get mixed up and forget that there is a fourth result of the filling of the Holy Spirit. 00:15:47.639 --> 00:15:53.639 And that result is submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of the Lord. 00:15:53.639 --> 00:16:05.639 In other words, submission is the fourth result of being filled with the Holy Spirit, which causes you to walk accurately. 00:16:05.639 --> 00:16:08.639 God is a God of order. 00:16:08.639 --> 00:16:17.639 And as we've laid these tenets before you, we've tried to show you that the Bible is based on order. 00:16:17.639 --> 00:16:32.639 And because of the fact the rest of the paragraph to chapter 6, verse 11, dealing with the accurate walk and the will of God and the filling of the Holy Spirit is so important. 00:16:32.639 --> 00:16:39.639 It is important because it refers to the Lord Jesus Christ no less than 14 times. 00:16:39.639 --> 00:16:48.639 And therefore, the biblical illustration of submission is the Lord Jesus Christ. 00:16:48.639 --> 00:16:54.639 Five times in the book of John, he says, I come not to do my will, but the will of him that set me. 00:16:54.639 --> 00:16:59.639 I do always those things which pleased him. 00:16:59.639 --> 00:17:09.639 Now, from verse 22 on, Paul breaks down the order of submission, not one, two, three, four, but a parallel situation. 00:17:09.640 --> 00:17:16.640 I'm not going to teach you wives anymore. 00:17:16.640 --> 00:17:18.640 I'm just leaving it lay for a moment. 00:17:18.640 --> 00:17:25.640 I'm tacking it from the standpoint that the six categories which follow are first and foremost to believers. 00:17:25.640 --> 00:17:32.640 What is the will of God for a spirit-filled, believing wife? 00:17:32.640 --> 00:17:42.640 And the answer is submitting yourself unto your own husband as unto the Lord. 00:17:42.640 --> 00:17:52.640 You destroy the order which God gives here between husbands and wife, and you destroy the teaching of Christ and the saint. 00:17:52.640 --> 00:17:58.640 For always there is the reference back to Christ and his church. 00:17:58.640 --> 00:18:03.640 Kindly notice there are no resolutions or conditions. 00:18:03.640 --> 00:18:05.640 I have heard all the phrases. 00:18:05.640 --> 00:18:08.640 A wife says, well, if my husband would be right, I'd be submissive. 00:18:08.640 --> 00:18:10.640 It doesn't say anything about that. 00:18:10.640 --> 00:18:16.640 And I'd remind you ladies that it just says flat out. 00:18:16.640 --> 00:18:20.640 If you are a believing wife filled with the Holy Spirit, 00:18:20.640 --> 00:18:26.640 one of the proofs that you are filled with the Holy Spirit will be biblical submission to your own husband. 00:18:26.640 --> 00:18:38.640 And I gave you five things last week, ladies, that we compared what Paul and the other writers say about believing wives especially 00:18:38.640 --> 00:18:44.640 in what they show of the Lord Jesus Christ, how the believer is to answer to Christ. 00:18:44.640 --> 00:18:48.640 One of them is the believer is subject to Christ, right? 00:18:48.640 --> 00:18:51.640 That's what you have in Ephesians 5. 00:18:51.640 --> 00:18:57.640 In verse 33, you have the believing wife showing reverence to the husband. 00:18:57.640 --> 00:19:03.640 And so Jesus Christ expects you and I as believers to reverence him. 00:19:03.640 --> 00:19:08.640 In Colossians chapter 3, the phrase is, 00:19:08.640 --> 00:19:15.640 Wife, submit yourself unto your own husband as it is fit in the Lord. 00:19:15.640 --> 00:19:17.640 I said to you, that's the word becoming. 00:19:17.640 --> 00:19:19.640 It's the word for attractiveness. 00:19:19.640 --> 00:19:27.640 And therefore, the believer is expected to make Christ attractive. 00:19:27.640 --> 00:19:33.640 Then, of course, we went to Peter for complimentary references and we ended up in Titus, 00:19:33.640 --> 00:19:41.640 where Titus, Paul writes to Titus that the older women are to teach the younger women to love their husbands. 00:19:42.640 --> 00:19:46.640 Christ expects believers to love him. 00:19:46.640 --> 00:19:53.640 And the last tenet that he says is, the wives are to obey their husbands. 00:19:53.640 --> 00:19:59.640 Five things you find that the wife is reminded of, which is a picture of the believer to Christ. 00:19:59.640 --> 00:20:06.640 Submission, reverence, attractiveness, love, and obedience. 00:20:06.640 --> 00:20:18.640 No believing wife can be filled with the Holy Spirit or claimed to be without the practice of biblical submission. 00:20:18.640 --> 00:20:21.640 Now, come to verse 25 tonight. 00:20:21.640 --> 00:20:26.640 And always because we feel pressured, we want to hurry. 00:20:26.640 --> 00:20:30.640 Sunday school teachers do this, pastors do this and say, 00:20:30.640 --> 00:20:36.640 Well, to get myself right, I've got to cover so many verses tonight and so many verses next Sunday. 00:20:36.640 --> 00:20:39.640 And I've got to be at a certain place at a certain time. 00:20:39.640 --> 00:20:43.640 I'm afraid I can't do that. 00:20:43.640 --> 00:20:51.640 And have you noticed that as he breaks down the submission part of the filling of the Holy Spirit, 00:20:51.640 --> 00:20:59.640 he says to husbands, husbands, love your wife. 00:20:59.640 --> 00:21:02.640 Now, kindly remember something from last week. 00:21:02.640 --> 00:21:08.640 The head of every believing man is Christ. 00:21:08.640 --> 00:21:11.640 1 Corinthians 11.4 00:21:11.640 --> 00:21:16.640 Where does the submission of the believing husband come in? 00:21:16.640 --> 00:21:20.640 It comes in the submission that Christ is his head. 00:21:20.640 --> 00:21:32.640 You can see what an atrocity you get when a believing woman tries to bypass her husband. 00:21:32.640 --> 00:21:37.640 You then get more than a one-headed body. 00:21:37.640 --> 00:21:40.640 And that is not biblically possible. 00:21:40.640 --> 00:21:47.640 For he says, the head of the believing man is Christ. 00:21:47.640 --> 00:21:50.640 And the head of the woman is the man. 00:21:50.640 --> 00:21:53.640 And the head of Christ is God. 00:21:53.640 --> 00:22:11.640 Now, it's interesting to me that he writes more to the husband by the Holy Spirit about the position of the husband in regards to the filling of the Spirit than he does in any other category. 00:22:11.640 --> 00:22:22.640 It is also interesting to me that this is the only paragraph written to husbands that analyzes the biblical concept of marriage. 00:22:22.640 --> 00:22:24.640 He never mentioned that to the wife. 00:22:24.640 --> 00:22:31.640 For you know the paragraph as well as I do. 00:22:31.640 --> 00:22:33.640 Why did he reiterate? 00:22:33.640 --> 00:22:38.640 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife. 00:22:38.640 --> 00:22:40.640 And they too shall be one flesh. 00:22:40.640 --> 00:22:42.640 He didn't say that to the wife. 00:22:42.640 --> 00:22:47.640 He said that to the believing man for the moment. 00:22:47.640 --> 00:22:54.640 Because always the key to a biblical marriage is the man. 00:22:54.640 --> 00:22:59.640 It is the man who is to cleave. 00:22:59.640 --> 00:23:10.640 And of course, if you've been through these situations, you understand that from a human analyzation, this is always the untruth. 00:23:10.640 --> 00:23:25.640 Normally, if you get a marriage that's in trouble, even between two believers, if it even gets to the place where it shouldn't have been a problem of separation, the husband makes the demand and the dear little woman comes crawling back to keep the marriage together. 00:23:25.640 --> 00:23:27.640 Totally unbiblical. 00:23:31.640 --> 00:23:37.640 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. 00:23:37.640 --> 00:23:40.640 And say the wife cleaves to the husband. 00:23:40.640 --> 00:23:45.640 The very word itself demands that God write it that way. 00:23:45.640 --> 00:23:46.640 What is a husband? 00:23:46.640 --> 00:23:49.640 Well, of course, you know, it's a house band. 00:23:51.640 --> 00:23:53.640 That's the old word, right? 00:23:53.640 --> 00:23:55.640 Some of you get packages. 00:23:55.640 --> 00:23:56.640 They don't use steel anymore. 00:23:56.640 --> 00:23:57.640 They use plastic. 00:23:57.640 --> 00:24:01.640 You know, we get packages plastic with plastic bands around it. 00:24:01.640 --> 00:24:02.640 You've seen it, but it's very interesting. 00:24:02.640 --> 00:24:03.640 That's the exact word. 00:24:03.640 --> 00:24:07.640 Some of you have been in shipping, have steel bags, 00:24:07.640 --> 00:24:08.640 abandoned things. 00:24:08.640 --> 00:24:10.640 That's the band that holds it together. 00:24:10.640 --> 00:24:14.640 The purpose of that band is to keep it from falling apart. 00:24:14.640 --> 00:24:16.640 That's the exact word for husband. 00:24:16.640 --> 00:24:21.640 He is the band that keeps that house together. 00:24:21.640 --> 00:24:26.640 And I would remind you, most wives are husbands when it comes to keeping a house together. 00:24:26.640 --> 00:24:30.640 That's biblically wrong. 00:24:30.640 --> 00:24:31.640 It is the house band. 00:24:31.640 --> 00:24:32.640 It is the house band. 00:24:32.640 --> 00:24:37.640 I'd ask you men to go home and see of your husbands. 00:24:37.640 --> 00:24:42.640 If you are the house band, it's the husband that keeps those kids coming to church. 00:24:42.640 --> 00:24:46.640 It's the husband that binds that family together spiritually. 00:24:46.640 --> 00:24:52.640 Not only is there the band, that band supports that which is inside of it so it doesn't fall apart. 00:24:52.640 --> 00:24:53.640 That's a husband. 00:24:53.640 --> 00:24:57.640 I'm interested in this word and most of you know I like words. 00:24:57.640 --> 00:25:01.640 I just encourage you kids that hate language in high school. 00:25:01.640 --> 00:25:03.640 It'll come out alright. 00:25:03.640 --> 00:25:06.640 I detested language in high school. 00:25:06.640 --> 00:25:07.640 I hated English. 00:25:07.640 --> 00:25:09.640 That's why I can't talk it. 00:25:09.640 --> 00:25:12.640 I can't write it to begin with. 00:25:12.640 --> 00:25:15.640 But I have become enamored with words. 00:25:15.640 --> 00:25:21.640 It's a very interesting thing about the word that is used for husband in the New Testament. 00:25:21.640 --> 00:25:28.640 It's a word which is translated quite often in another form. 00:25:28.640 --> 00:25:29.640 Sir. 00:25:29.640 --> 00:25:34.640 And across my mind runs a phrase. 00:25:34.640 --> 00:25:41.640 Do you as a believing husband have the privilege of being called Sir? 00:25:41.640 --> 00:25:46.640 That's the Greek word. 00:25:46.640 --> 00:25:47.640 Sir. 00:25:47.640 --> 00:25:59.640 In fact, there is a root word from Ger called Gerizo, which is the word for manliness. 00:25:59.640 --> 00:26:04.640 It is the root word of a band and a support. 00:26:04.640 --> 00:26:18.640 I would remind you that most of the time the Holy Spirit giving to us the living word of God writes contrary to public opinion. 00:26:18.640 --> 00:26:21.640 And he does in this case. 00:26:21.640 --> 00:26:22.640 Now. 00:26:22.640 --> 00:26:31.640 If you and I as believing husbands and I use that term if you're a visitor, not because it's in the word of God, but that's the way I'm attacking it. 00:26:31.640 --> 00:26:38.640 I showed you believing wives last week that if you have an unbelieving husband, you still have to be subject to them unless the word of God is blasphemed. 00:26:38.640 --> 00:26:39.640 That's what Peter writes. 00:26:39.640 --> 00:26:40.640 That's what Peter writes. 00:26:40.640 --> 00:26:45.640 What is the accurate walk of a believing husband? 00:26:45.640 --> 00:26:54.640 Well, the accurate walk of a believing husband is to be filled with the Holy Spirit, right? 00:26:54.640 --> 00:26:59.640 Now, how do I prove that a believing husband is filled with the Holy Spirit? 00:26:59.640 --> 00:27:00.640 Number one, he's got to be happy. 00:27:00.640 --> 00:27:02.640 Some of you guys are in trouble already. 00:27:02.640 --> 00:27:03.640 You're always miserable. 00:27:03.640 --> 00:27:07.640 Number two, he's got to be helpful. 00:27:07.640 --> 00:27:09.640 That sort of pulls the rug out from under your feet. 00:27:09.640 --> 00:27:11.640 You never do nothing at home. 00:27:11.640 --> 00:27:14.640 Number three, he's got to be thankful. 00:27:14.640 --> 00:27:16.640 The biggest gripers in the world are men. 00:27:16.640 --> 00:27:23.640 Totally contrary to the word of God. 00:27:23.640 --> 00:27:27.640 But the fourth thing, fellas, is what he's talking about. 00:27:27.640 --> 00:27:38.640 For a believing man to be filled with the Holy Spirit, he has to submit to the word of God and to Christ as the head. 00:27:38.640 --> 00:27:50.640 And the world will never see Christ and the believer unless you reveal him in your married life. 00:27:50.640 --> 00:27:56.640 And this is why it's so important that believing husbands and wives live according to the word of God. 00:27:56.640 --> 00:28:12.640 Because if a believing wife does not submit, respect, attract, love, and obey, we do not have to the world the illustration of the believer who obeys and submits and attracts the Lord Jesus Christ. 00:28:12.640 --> 00:28:30.640 And if a believing husband, filled with the Holy Spirit, does not love his wife, the world will never see the illustration of the sacrificial, persevering, constant, tender love of Jesus Christ for the Lord. 00:28:30.640 --> 00:28:35.640 That's what my Bible says. 00:28:35.640 --> 00:28:39.640 Now look what it says in verse 25. 00:28:39.640 --> 00:28:42.640 Husbands, love your wife. 00:28:42.640 --> 00:28:49.640 The proof that you're filled with the Holy Spirit, believing man, is that you love your wife. 00:28:49.640 --> 00:28:55.640 The proof that you as a Christian man are walking accurately is that you love your wife. 00:28:55.640 --> 00:29:00.640 The husband is the model of Christ loving the church. 00:29:00.640 --> 00:29:04.640 Now that's not natural for the natural man. 00:29:04.640 --> 00:29:10.640 In fact, that is probably not totally natural for the believing man. 00:29:10.640 --> 00:29:14.640 Now all of you, I don't know why this word has come up three times today. 00:29:14.640 --> 00:29:19.640 It came up in my Sunday school class, it came up in the morning service, and it's coming up tonight, the word love. 00:29:23.640 --> 00:29:24.640 All of you are students. 00:29:24.640 --> 00:29:28.640 Three words for love in the New Testament, right? 00:29:28.640 --> 00:29:30.640 One is erotic love. 00:29:30.640 --> 00:29:33.640 That's the sensual love that we hear so much about. 00:29:33.640 --> 00:29:40.640 One is the Philadelphia love, the brotherly love, the love of feeling is how we normally identify that. 00:29:40.640 --> 00:29:47.640 The other is the word which we see on some mottos and some plaques, the agape situation. 00:29:47.640 --> 00:29:52.640 The love of reasoning, or the reasonable love. 00:29:52.640 --> 00:29:58.640 Now let me draw attention to you something that I mentioned in my Sunday school class. 00:29:58.640 --> 00:30:17.640 I am convinced that the reason that this verse is here and is attached to the filling of the Holy Spirit is a necessity because it's a gift of the Holy Spirit. 00:30:17.640 --> 00:30:22.640 You remember last week when we were reading from Titus chapter 2 and it says that... 00:30:23.640 --> 00:30:26.640 Beautiful word. 00:30:26.640 --> 00:30:31.640 You, dear ladies, love by feeling. 00:30:33.640 --> 00:30:35.640 That's right. 00:30:35.640 --> 00:30:38.640 And that's exactly what Paul wrote. 00:30:38.640 --> 00:30:41.640 Even Peter used this when the Lord said to him, 00:30:41.640 --> 00:30:43.640 Peter, do you love me? 00:30:43.640 --> 00:30:45.640 And he came back, yeah, I feel love toward you. 00:30:45.640 --> 00:30:47.640 Remember that phrase? 00:30:47.640 --> 00:30:48.640 That's not wrong. 00:30:48.640 --> 00:30:53.640 I will remind you of something. 00:30:53.640 --> 00:31:00.640 The accurate, filled with the Spirit walk of a believing husband is a love which is unnatural. 00:31:00.640 --> 00:31:07.640 Now, of course, we turn to 1 Corinthians 13. 00:31:07.640 --> 00:31:10.640 And we see why. 00:31:10.640 --> 00:31:22.640 The filling of the Holy Spirit to the believing man is the reasonable love or the highest love of the Holy Spirit's gift. 00:31:22.640 --> 00:31:23.640 And I'm interested in this. 00:31:23.640 --> 00:31:25.640 Maybe we won't be able to finish it tonight. 00:31:25.640 --> 00:31:27.640 My attack on this lesson is three ways, man. 00:31:27.640 --> 00:31:30.640 Number one, from the love standpoint. 00:31:30.640 --> 00:31:33.640 Number two, from the illustrative standpoint of Ephesians 5. 00:31:33.640 --> 00:31:40.640 And number three, from the practical standpoint of the four things that believing husbands are to do for believing wives. 00:31:40.640 --> 00:31:43.640 And I assume that's three lessons. 00:31:43.640 --> 00:31:45.640 I can't do it in one. 00:31:45.640 --> 00:31:47.640 All of you are familiar with 1 Corinthians 13. 00:31:47.640 --> 00:32:04.640 May I remind you tonight, if you would take this chapter, men, and put it after Ephesians 5, the command of believing husbands filled with the Holy Spirit, you'll have exactly what God expects of you as a believing husband. 00:32:04.640 --> 00:32:11.640 And again, totally contrary to men. 00:32:11.640 --> 00:32:13.640 I'm interested in this. 00:32:13.640 --> 00:32:14.640 Please look. 00:32:14.640 --> 00:32:18.640 I'm not arguing the gifts of the Spirit. 00:32:18.640 --> 00:32:21.640 I am saying to you that here is a gift of the Spirit. 00:32:21.640 --> 00:32:25.640 I'm not arguing whether you believe in tongues, healings, prophecies, or anything else. 00:32:25.640 --> 00:32:27.640 He did say there's something better than those. 00:32:27.640 --> 00:32:32.640 It is tied to the gift of the Holy Spirit. 00:32:32.640 --> 00:32:45.640 And he actually says in Ephesians 5, husbands, I want you to have the highest love for your husbands, even as or in like manner as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. 00:32:45.640 --> 00:32:48.640 That is the first tenet of a husband's love. 00:32:48.640 --> 00:32:49.640 Giving. 00:32:49.640 --> 00:32:59.640 It doesn't say, husband, you can be filled with the Holy Spirit and love your wife if she submits to you. 00:32:59.640 --> 00:33:02.640 There are no conditions. 00:33:02.640 --> 00:33:07.640 If there are those conditions which are written in some of the hundred and forty new books. 00:33:07.640 --> 00:33:14.640 In fact, if you have Barnes notes on the Bible, he is totally wrong in that passage. 00:33:14.640 --> 00:33:23.640 He has re-translated Ephesians 5 to his own benefit of saying that if a believing wife submits to a believing husband, then a believing husband should love her. 00:33:23.640 --> 00:33:26.640 But if a believing wife does not submit, he doesn't have to love her. 00:33:26.640 --> 00:33:29.640 That's biblically wrong. 00:33:29.640 --> 00:33:35.640 If that is true, when you don't submit to Jesus Christ as the head, he stops loving you. 00:33:35.640 --> 00:33:42.640 And that's not true, is it? 00:33:42.640 --> 00:33:45.640 This is what he says. 00:33:45.640 --> 00:33:56.640 So we are immediately thrown believing men, believing husbands, or talking to, about the fact of how many believing husbands are honestly ever filled with the Holy Spirit. 00:33:56.640 --> 00:34:04.640 Now let me do what I just said Barnes did, which I shouldn't have done. 00:34:04.640 --> 00:34:05.640 Okay. 00:34:05.640 --> 00:34:08.640 Look at verse 1 of chapter 13. 00:34:08.640 --> 00:34:11.640 Speaking to believers. 00:34:11.639 --> 00:34:18.639 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels and have not love, I am become a sounding brass or a tinkling cymbal. 00:34:18.639 --> 00:34:26.639 In other words, I as a believing man, a believing husband, can say the right things to my wife. 00:34:26.639 --> 00:34:36.639 And without love, it's empty words. 00:34:36.639 --> 00:34:45.639 In other words, a believing man can talk right and not be right with his believing wife. 00:34:45.639 --> 00:34:53.639 Because he does not have the reasonable love that God demands of a spirit-filled husband. 00:34:53.639 --> 00:34:56.639 Go to verse 2. 00:34:56.639 --> 00:35:05.639 Though I have the gift of prophecy and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, I can be a spiritual giant. 00:35:05.639 --> 00:35:08.639 That's what he says. 00:35:08.639 --> 00:35:11.639 That's what he says. 00:35:11.639 --> 00:35:17.639 And have not love, and I am nothing. 00:35:17.639 --> 00:35:22.639 I wish I had kept track of the times. 00:35:22.639 --> 00:35:29.639 That believing wives have said to me, Pastor, he's a man of great faith, but he doesn't know anything about love. 00:35:29.639 --> 00:35:32.639 He's a paradox. 00:35:32.639 --> 00:35:37.639 I can say the right things. 00:35:37.639 --> 00:35:38.639 I can have the right word. 00:35:38.639 --> 00:35:41.639 I can even have the gifts of the ability to do that. 00:35:41.639 --> 00:35:48.639 And if I have not love towards that believing wife, I am nothing more than a gonging cymbal. 00:35:48.639 --> 00:35:51.639 I'm empty. 00:35:51.639 --> 00:36:04.639 And I can brag about my faith, and how I move mountains, and how I pray, and if I do not love that wife as a spirit-filled believer, I'm nothing. 00:36:04.639 --> 00:36:05.639 I go to the third. 00:36:05.639 --> 00:36:07.639 I go to the third. 00:36:07.639 --> 00:36:19.639 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, in other words, I'm a generous Christian. 00:36:19.639 --> 00:36:22.639 I give the shirt off my back for anybody. 00:36:22.639 --> 00:36:25.639 I will not give the shirt off my back for anybody. 00:36:25.639 --> 00:36:38.639 But if I have not love, the highest reasonable love, it's not even going to gain me a spot in the Book of God's recording. 00:36:38.639 --> 00:36:43.639 I will ask you something, men, when you read Ephesians 5, which says to you, walk after it. 00:36:43.639 --> 00:36:49.639 And redeem the opportunity you have right now, lest it's your last chance. 00:36:49.639 --> 00:36:56.639 And understand what the will of the Lord is for a believing husband that is to be filled with the Holy Spirit, 00:36:56.639 --> 00:37:01.639 which makes him a happy, helpful, thankful, submissive to Christ, the head Christian. 00:37:01.639 --> 00:37:05.639 Then the first place it comes out has to be towards the last. 00:37:07.639 --> 00:37:12.639 And not towards the fact that you can open the Word of God, and not open the fact that you can sing like the angels. 00:37:12.639 --> 00:37:14.639 And they don't sing, I forgot that. 00:37:18.639 --> 00:37:23.639 And I don't care if you have faith to move mountains and send a hundred missionaries to the field. 00:37:25.639 --> 00:37:31.639 If you are not practicing the Spirit-filled life of loving that wife first, you are not worth it. 00:37:33.639 --> 00:37:39.639 Now the strange thing is, after taking this three bents, which we never turn to a believing husband, 00:37:39.639 --> 00:37:42.639 we always put it in what we call the gift of the Spirit. 00:37:42.639 --> 00:37:46.639 The best gift is the gift of reasonable, intelligent, high, godly love. 00:37:46.639 --> 00:37:51.639 Now, I remind you of something. 00:37:51.639 --> 00:37:54.639 God never used that word towards women. 00:37:56.639 --> 00:37:58.639 He only used it towards men. 00:37:58.639 --> 00:38:01.639 And it's just the opposite of human nature. 00:38:01.639 --> 00:38:05.639 It seems like believing women can have the reasonable love of God better than believing men. 00:38:05.639 --> 00:38:15.639 Now, from there on, as you read 1 Corinthians 13, he lists 16 characteristics of this kind of love. 00:38:17.639 --> 00:38:18.639 Are you ready to read? 00:38:18.639 --> 00:38:20.639 It gets to be funny pretty soon. 00:38:20.639 --> 00:38:28.639 What are the 16 characteristics of a believing Spirit-filled husband towards his wife? 00:38:28.639 --> 00:38:33.639 Well, of course, you already know what the illustration is going to be of the one command. 00:38:33.639 --> 00:38:37.639 Husband, love your wife, even as Christ loved the church and gave. 00:38:37.639 --> 00:38:40.639 You know, men are the most selfish creatures I've ever seen. 00:38:40.639 --> 00:38:51.639 Apart from being Spirit-filled, we are. 00:38:51.639 --> 00:38:59.639 And every characteristic list of a Spirit-filled believer is the direct opposite of many, or maybe most, believing men. 00:38:59.639 --> 00:39:01.639 Let's start reading. 00:39:01.639 --> 00:39:02.639 What are the characteristics? 00:39:02.639 --> 00:39:03.639 Number one. 00:39:03.639 --> 00:39:11.639 The godly, intelligent, reasonable, high love of God is patient. 00:39:11.639 --> 00:39:16.639 Hmm. 00:39:16.639 --> 00:39:21.639 With whom? 00:39:21.639 --> 00:39:31.639 Husband, be patient with your wife, because you are filled with the Holy Spirit, which presents you. 00:39:31.639 --> 00:39:33.639 With godly love. 00:39:33.639 --> 00:39:38.639 Now, I am aware that women are naturally exasperating. 00:39:38.639 --> 00:39:52.639 Isn't it strange he starts here? 00:39:52.639 --> 00:39:59.639 The godly, Spirit-filled man is patient. 00:39:59.639 --> 00:40:02.639 The word also is forbearing a couple of times in your Bible. 00:40:03.639 --> 00:40:06.639 Your King James Version says, suffers long. 00:40:06.639 --> 00:40:10.639 Men are the worst sufferers I've ever seen in my life. 00:40:10.639 --> 00:40:13.639 They get a toenail ache and they've got to go to the hospital. 00:40:15.639 --> 00:40:16.639 That's right. 00:40:16.639 --> 00:40:19.639 Look at the second characteristic. 00:40:19.639 --> 00:40:21.639 One word. 00:40:21.639 --> 00:40:22.639 Kind. 00:40:23.639 --> 00:40:27.639 If I took all the kids here tonight. 00:40:27.639 --> 00:40:29.639 No, we have intelligent kids in this church. 00:40:29.639 --> 00:40:30.639 We really do. 00:40:31.639 --> 00:40:33.639 In fact, sometimes they're too intelligent. 00:40:33.639 --> 00:40:36.639 The conversations I get in with them are really bad. 00:40:36.639 --> 00:40:37.639 You know. 00:40:37.639 --> 00:40:41.639 They know more theology than most adults will ever know. 00:40:43.639 --> 00:40:46.639 But if you take all of our intelligent kids tonight and say, 00:40:46.639 --> 00:40:48.639 Which of your two parents is the kindest? 00:40:48.639 --> 00:40:49.639 What would they answer me? 00:40:50.639 --> 00:40:51.639 Hmm? 00:40:52.639 --> 00:40:53.639 Mom. 00:40:54.639 --> 00:40:56.639 That's biblically wrong. 00:40:57.639 --> 00:40:59.639 It should be dead. 00:41:00.639 --> 00:41:01.639 Why? 00:41:01.639 --> 00:41:04.639 Because father looks to Christ. 00:41:04.639 --> 00:41:08.639 The believing husband looks to Christ who is the head. 00:41:08.639 --> 00:41:12.639 And Christ is always patient and kind. 00:41:16.639 --> 00:41:17.639 Look at the third one. 00:41:18.639 --> 00:41:24.639 The believing husband who practices spirit-filled love is never jealous. 00:41:24.639 --> 00:41:26.639 Where have you been? 00:41:27.639 --> 00:41:32.639 You're supposed to be home at six o'clock and it's six oh five. 00:41:41.639 --> 00:41:42.639 That's true. 00:41:46.639 --> 00:41:48.639 Love never boasts. 00:41:48.639 --> 00:41:51.639 The word is, vaunteth not. 00:41:51.639 --> 00:41:52.639 Vain glorious. 00:41:52.639 --> 00:41:54.639 But in simple language, it's not both. 00:41:58.639 --> 00:42:06.639 If most believing men had to get rid of the times they tell their wives how good they are and how much they do for them, they'd have very little vocabulary. 00:42:11.639 --> 00:42:12.639 Or the fifth one. 00:42:14.639 --> 00:42:16.639 I like the revised translation better. 00:42:16.639 --> 00:42:20.639 Remember, love is never arrogant. 00:42:23.639 --> 00:42:24.639 It's not puffed up. 00:42:25.639 --> 00:42:29.639 It's a word which is close to anger or inflammation. 00:42:32.639 --> 00:42:34.639 Some of you men are sitting back and saying, 00:42:35.639 --> 00:42:37.639 Pastor, this is an impossibility. 00:42:41.639 --> 00:42:42.639 Then Paul wrote a lie. 00:42:42.639 --> 00:42:43.639 The Holy Spirit wrote a command which was a figment of his imagination. 00:42:43.639 --> 00:42:47.639 Husband, love with the intelligent, reasonable, divine love of God towards the church. 00:42:47.639 --> 00:42:48.639 Your wife. 00:42:48.639 --> 00:42:49.639 It's not easy. 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:49.639 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:50.639 It's not easy. 00:42:50.639 --> 00:43:02.799 husband love with the intelligent reasonable divine love of god towards the church 00:43:09.599 --> 00:43:10.480 that is not easy 00:43:13.199 --> 00:43:14.400 that's face facts 00:43:14.400 --> 00:43:21.200 that is most difficult it's hard to love a person that's unlovely sometimes 00:43:22.559 --> 00:43:26.160 it's hard to love a person who is exasperating 00:43:27.599 --> 00:43:32.559 it's hard to love a person whose personality has changed from the day you married her 00:43:36.000 --> 00:43:37.680 when god says that's no excuse 00:43:37.679 --> 00:43:48.639 the key to a marriage is the husband not the wife look at verse five 00:43:51.119 --> 00:43:56.879 doth not behave itself unseemly in other words it never acts improperly 00:43:59.359 --> 00:43:59.759 never 00:43:59.760 --> 00:44:10.240 i answered the question that was asked in my class this morning what does a believing wife do when a 00:44:10.240 --> 00:44:16.240 husband does not allow her to serve the lord in the position she would like or some areas 00:44:16.880 --> 00:44:22.400 because of other things i'd remind you you got a believing husband problem in regard to love 00:44:22.400 --> 00:44:33.760 there are times i say to my wife i think seriously you know you may have too many irons in a fire 00:44:39.680 --> 00:44:43.680 but i do not dare to say to her you can't do it 00:44:43.679 --> 00:44:53.359 because i have no right to say to her if i love her with a godly love a spirit-filled love 00:44:54.480 --> 00:45:01.359 i am more of god than god is and he's giving you too many opportunities and you better listen to me and 00:45:01.359 --> 00:45:02.159 not to god 00:45:02.159 --> 00:45:19.920 this is the love that he's characterizing that has to be the spirit-filled christian it does not act 00:45:19.920 --> 00:45:28.639 in property there is even respect for the believing wife when you are alone in fact 00:45:28.639 --> 00:45:39.279 you ought to act in public exactly as you act when you're alone you should not be a two-faced couple 00:45:43.440 --> 00:45:49.359 does christ act differently to you when private than he does in public no the word of god works both ways 00:45:49.359 --> 00:45:58.079 the same thing now he may quietly speak to you differently but he uses the same word 00:45:58.639 --> 00:46:11.920 i must read fast the seventh characteristic is seek it not sell oh boy 00:46:13.519 --> 00:46:19.119 some of you dear believing husbands wouldn't be near so fat if you didn't demand that your wife cook for 00:46:19.119 --> 00:46:26.639 you the way you want to cook which is purely unsensible 00:46:29.199 --> 00:46:35.920 never never never seeks self never 00:46:40.639 --> 00:46:44.239 so you don't put the lord first what's he do he just stands back and wait 00:46:44.239 --> 00:46:49.519 does it 00:46:49.519 --> 00:46:54.000 you don't give him first place in your life what's he do jump on you no he just stands back and wait he 00:46:54.000 --> 00:47:00.719 never seeks himself the holy spirit never seeks himself either he always seeks christ 00:47:02.159 --> 00:47:08.799 so when the holy spirit fills the believing husband with the divine love of god he's going to turn that love 00:47:08.800 --> 00:47:15.280 towards christ and in order to do that that love towards that wife has to exalt christ because he's the head 00:47:15.280 --> 00:47:20.400 and that wife submits herself to that loving husband and therefore she submits to christ and you got a 00:47:20.400 --> 00:47:25.200 beautiful obedient circle between the two which shows the world what christ and the believer has 00:47:25.199 --> 00:47:38.000 he goes on is not quickly irritated i am glad paul wrote it that way because it said sometime you might be 00:47:38.000 --> 00:47:43.679 but it isn't at the drop of a hat 00:47:43.679 --> 00:47:45.840 husband 00:47:45.840 --> 00:47:48.000 husband 00:47:48.000 --> 00:47:51.519 are the world's greatest powders 00:47:51.519 --> 00:47:59.280 yes they are there is the the silent treatment 00:48:03.280 --> 00:48:05.840 the wife says what's the matter and he said nothing 00:48:10.400 --> 00:48:10.960 nothing 00:48:12.320 --> 00:48:14.480 oh okay forget it then 00:48:14.480 --> 00:48:20.559 there are times that god gets irritated 00:48:24.639 --> 00:48:30.480 when you let the money changers run through your spiritual temple the body he becomes angry 00:48:34.400 --> 00:48:40.719 and a believing husband who manifests love to this point who has a wife that is only 00:48:40.719 --> 00:48:45.839 interested in material things and getting has a right to be irritated 00:48:49.759 --> 00:48:54.959 then a wife sent across the desk from me and say well he never gives me any money of my own 00:48:56.559 --> 00:49:03.119 i said maybe he doesn't have any he's paying for the washer and the dryer and the stove and the 00:49:03.119 --> 00:49:06.400 dresses and the junk you bought well she said i needed them 00:49:09.759 --> 00:49:11.759 no wonder the poor guy didn't have any money 00:49:13.119 --> 00:49:15.440 he had a right to be irritated 00:49:17.039 --> 00:49:24.319 you see an obedient wife says we have some needs and a husband who loves says fine i will not be selfish 00:49:24.320 --> 00:49:26.240 i'll give you whatever you need 00:49:29.200 --> 00:49:34.080 and he is not when he is spirit filled with love easily irritated 00:49:35.519 --> 00:49:36.559 that's maturity 00:49:38.400 --> 00:49:39.360 go a little further 00:49:41.840 --> 00:49:48.400 he thinketh no evil how many of you believing husbands accuse your wife 00:49:48.400 --> 00:49:51.680 there are some 00:49:54.320 --> 00:50:00.639 what it really says is the love of a believing husband based on the filling of the holy spirit 00:50:00.639 --> 00:50:03.360 never supposes evil within his wife 00:50:05.440 --> 00:50:05.760 never 00:50:10.400 --> 00:50:12.800 does god trust you yes he does 00:50:12.800 --> 00:50:16.640 he trusts you implicitly 00:50:18.240 --> 00:50:20.560 sometimes we can't be trusted as his saints 00:50:22.240 --> 00:50:31.680 look at verse c does not rejoice in unrighteousness a husband becomes sorrowful when a believing wife acts 00:50:31.680 --> 00:50:33.360 contrary to the word of god 00:50:33.360 --> 00:50:44.960 but rejoices when she acts according to the word of god in truth 00:50:47.200 --> 00:50:52.400 now look at something in verse 7 i've used this verse hundreds of times 00:50:55.599 --> 00:51:01.120 the spirit-filled love of believing husband for a believing wife bears all things 00:51:03.360 --> 00:51:06.320 interesting 00:51:09.360 --> 00:51:11.680 i'm not enamored with norman vincent peel 00:51:12.079 --> 00:51:14.320 certainly he's an intellect he writes well 00:51:16.079 --> 00:51:17.760 sometimes not totally biblical 00:51:20.400 --> 00:51:25.440 but you read his answers sometimes and they're interesting if you read the answer to the husband 00:51:25.440 --> 00:51:32.720 he gave to a wife he said the husband said to dr peel i just can't get along with that woman 00:51:33.360 --> 00:51:40.960 she's a changed personality she yells she screams she does everything else 00:51:42.800 --> 00:51:47.120 and of course he was trying to say to him there has to be humor in each marriage 00:51:50.240 --> 00:51:57.440 and so he suggested that he tried to be kind and gentle so the next time she was ranting and raving 00:51:57.440 --> 00:52:03.119 she got he got out of paper and pencil and she started to write very quietly well that just irritated her to no end 00:52:04.320 --> 00:52:10.960 you know and finally she over got the paper and he had written she yells but i still love her 00:52:12.240 --> 00:52:19.039 she irritates but she's still my wife and you know something he won the battle 00:52:19.039 --> 00:52:24.000 spirit-filled husband 00:52:24.000 --> 00:52:27.759 not only is the word here bears the word is concealed 00:52:28.800 --> 00:52:34.000 the word is covers the word is bears with all things 00:52:36.639 --> 00:52:37.440 that's what it says 00:52:37.440 --> 00:52:42.960 i would never tell you how bad my wife is 00:52:46.960 --> 00:52:47.679 i'm serious 00:52:49.039 --> 00:52:49.599 you know why 00:52:51.119 --> 00:52:56.400 because if i'm spirit-filled and lover i conceal those things which should not be known 00:52:56.400 --> 00:53:06.800 and god remind you most men who bring things out in the open about their wife are just trying to feed 00:53:06.800 --> 00:53:08.639 their own ego to get back at it 00:53:10.880 --> 00:53:15.280 and when we get to ephesians you're going to see everything you do you do towards yourself 00:53:18.000 --> 00:53:19.200 because you're one person 00:53:19.199 --> 00:53:25.439 somebody says to me pastor i want a wife that i'm proud of then make her that way 00:53:26.879 --> 00:53:32.719 for the lord said that he might sanctify and wash it by the water of her word that he might present it to 00:53:34.879 --> 00:53:35.599 himself 00:53:39.919 --> 00:53:45.199 why do you think god is still loving you in jesus christ because he wants you to present it to himself 00:53:45.199 --> 00:53:48.480 that's the picture of the husband 00:53:50.239 --> 00:53:55.839 the spirit-filled love of a believing husband bears all things he believes or be persuades or he gives 00:53:55.839 --> 00:54:02.799 credit he has confidence or in all things he hopes all things he has some expectation he remains 00:54:02.799 --> 00:54:06.159 constant and bears up under anything that's the word endures 00:54:07.919 --> 00:54:14.480 did you ever notice what the next verse says love never fails i'd like to retranslate it 00:54:16.159 --> 00:54:17.359 love never stops 00:54:25.439 --> 00:54:27.919 now drop down with me you know the rest of this paragraph 00:54:30.960 --> 00:54:32.480 paul writes when i was a child 00:54:34.319 --> 00:54:37.679 i speak as a child i understood as a child i thought as a child 00:54:40.159 --> 00:54:42.799 i acted without the full knowledge of spirit-filled love 00:54:45.199 --> 00:54:48.159 infants work on feeling 00:54:50.879 --> 00:54:53.359 children work on feelings 00:54:56.799 --> 00:54:56.960 no 00:54:56.960 --> 00:54:59.599 it's not what he's talking about 00:54:59.599 --> 00:55:02.239 a spirit-filled 00:55:02.239 --> 00:55:09.039 accurately walking believing husband works on the highest type of reasonable divine love 00:55:10.399 --> 00:55:12.879 that's what paul is going to say in the rest of the verse 00:55:12.880 --> 00:55:15.360 but when i became a man 00:55:17.039 --> 00:55:18.079 a godly husband 00:55:21.760 --> 00:55:22.559 i did away 00:55:24.000 --> 00:55:26.160 with all the infant things 00:55:26.159 --> 00:55:29.839 getting my own way 00:55:29.839 --> 00:55:32.960 buying what i want to buy 00:55:34.079 --> 00:55:37.359 pouting because things don't go the way i want them to go 00:55:37.360 --> 00:55:42.320 trying to be critical in order to win my point 00:55:42.320 --> 00:55:46.720 and just saying to a wife 00:55:48.400 --> 00:55:49.200 i don't need you 00:55:49.199 --> 00:55:55.839 if christ said that to you and me tonight 00:55:57.439 --> 00:55:58.879 we'd be sunk 00:55:58.880 --> 00:56:02.800 and when a believing husband 00:56:02.800 --> 00:56:07.280 does not walk accurately he sinks 00:56:07.280 --> 00:56:08.960 a wife 00:56:11.519 --> 00:56:13.120 and now abideth these three 00:56:13.920 --> 00:56:14.400 faith 00:56:15.680 --> 00:56:17.200 hope and love 00:56:18.560 --> 00:56:19.840 can be a man of faith 00:56:20.960 --> 00:56:22.400 and be an unbiblical husband 00:56:22.400 --> 00:56:26.400 you can be a man of hope 00:56:27.920 --> 00:56:29.360 and be an unbiblical husband 00:56:31.200 --> 00:56:32.320 but the greatest of these 00:56:34.400 --> 00:56:34.960 is love 00:56:38.079 --> 00:56:41.840 and it's a husband's responsibility 00:56:43.840 --> 00:56:44.720 and without it 00:56:46.720 --> 00:56:49.200 you cannot be filled with the holy spirit 00:56:49.199 --> 00:56:53.599 and conversely being filled with the holy spirit 00:56:54.559 --> 00:56:55.359 you'll have it 00:56:57.039 --> 00:56:57.759 heavenly father 00:57:00.159 --> 00:57:01.919 the word of god is before us tonight 00:57:04.879 --> 00:57:05.519 very simple 00:57:10.399 --> 00:57:14.399 trying with all the effort of the power of satan to be snatched away from men 00:57:14.400 --> 00:57:21.360 because they don't want to appear to be different from the world 00:57:26.079 --> 00:57:29.599 for we know that the world says manliness is to be independent 00:57:30.240 --> 00:57:30.960 and harsh 00:57:31.680 --> 00:57:32.160 critical 00:57:33.920 --> 00:57:34.480 selfish 00:57:35.119 --> 00:57:35.680 proving 00:57:38.320 --> 00:57:41.840 and god says to be manly is to be able to be called sir 00:57:44.400 --> 00:57:48.720 we know not how to close 00:57:51.039 --> 00:57:56.320 but we do believe that the holy spirit takes the word of god to expectant lives 00:57:59.200 --> 00:58:02.960 and by his divine power turns us to jesus christ 00:58:05.440 --> 00:58:07.519 and makes us willing to submit 00:58:08.720 --> 00:58:09.440 to the head 00:58:10.639 --> 00:58:12.000 of every believing man 00:58:15.119 --> 00:58:16.720 so tonight gracious god 00:58:21.680 --> 00:58:24.639 if we are willing to be changed do it 00:58:29.760 --> 00:58:34.400 and we pray most of all that believing husbands will forget what they say 00:58:34.400 --> 00:58:38.639 and their so-called spiritual tone 00:58:38.639 --> 00:58:42.320 and their generosity with others 00:58:42.320 --> 00:58:47.840 and look and see where they stand with the command 00:58:49.440 --> 00:58:53.119 of an accurate walk filled with the holy spirit loving 00:58:53.119 --> 00:58:57.759 with godly love their wife 00:58:57.760 --> 00:59:05.280 our heads are bowed our eyes are closed will you stand right where you are with your head bowed 00:59:05.280 --> 00:59:16.800 with your head bowed and your eyes closed the organ will just give me an e-flat chord 00:59:16.800 --> 00:59:30.560 i would like to have us sing quietly have thine own way lord have thine own way you don't need your book thou art the potter i am the clay mold me and make me after thy will while i am waiting 00:59:30.559 --> 00:59:32.719 yielded and still 00:59:32.719 --> 00:59:35.519 i'm aware you ladies tonight could sit and relax 00:59:38.320 --> 00:59:39.840 but are you a submissive wife 00:59:39.840 --> 00:59:45.200 are you a respecting wife are you making your husband attractive 00:59:46.880 --> 00:59:48.559 do you love him with feeling 00:59:48.559 --> 00:59:50.960 are you obedient 00:59:53.200 --> 00:59:59.280 husband i've just introduced you to that line in ephesians tonight there's a couple of other lessons that have to go with it 00:59:59.280 --> 01:00:06.080 if the holy spirit moves your heart to do something about it you're going to feel foolish 01:00:07.760 --> 01:00:11.760 and hot dear believing wife if your husband starts changing don't make fun of them 01:00:13.200 --> 01:00:16.320 for that's what some wives do they say what are you trying to prove now 01:00:16.320 --> 01:00:30.000 every marriage of believers here tonight can be happy if the husband follows the word of god 01:00:31.760 --> 01:00:39.840 i have no open invitation just going to sing the first verse of this little song and that's the benediction for tonight