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 Good evening. Evening. I've got one evening. Thanks, Johnny. Nice to see you out here this

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 evening with us. As Graham said, my name's Andy, and I'm one of the ministers down at

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 Nidra Community Church. I think I've spoken here a few times. It's a privilege to be back

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 with you here this evening. And as you said, we're talking about marriage, and there are

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 quite a few passages that talk about this important subject, but we're going to just

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 hone in on Ephesians chapter 5. So if you want to turn with me there, I'm going to read

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 that, and it's going to be important that you just have that open in front of you, because

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 I'm going to pretty much be preaching through that text. So Ephesians chapter 5, and we're

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 on verses 22 to the end of the chapter. All right, let's read this, and I'll pray, and

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 then we'll get stuck in. So, this is God's word to us. Wives, submit to your own husbands

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 as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of

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 the church, his body, and is himself its saviour. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also

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 wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the

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 church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by

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 the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendour,

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 without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

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 In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife

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 loves himself. For no one ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just

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 as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. Therefore, a man shall leave his

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 father and mother, and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery

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 is profound, and I'm saying it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you

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 love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Amen? Let's pray.

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 Father God, we thank you for that wonderful bit of scripture we just read, that tells of Christ's

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 love for his bride, the church. And we just pray as we come to this text, that you'd help me

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 to honour the Lord Jesus. And I pray for each one of us, that you'd help us to hear from your words.

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 And not just be hearers, but be doers as well. We desperately need your spirit to take these words,

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 and then put them in our hearts. We pray you do that this evening. In Jesus' name. Amen.

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 Amen. So I was speaking to someone a few weeks ago, and he said this to me. He said,

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 you know what, Andy? Marriage is one of the hardest things I've ever done since becoming a Christian.

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 Marriage is one of the hardest things I've ever done since becoming a Christian. And for those of us

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 who are maybe married this evening, I don't know if you can relate to that comment. Marriage can be

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 difficult, can't it? Because in marriage, what happens is that it brings two sinners together

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 from different backgrounds, with different ways of doing things, and puts them in a relationship

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 for life. No wonder the Apostle Paul calls marriage a mystery. A mystery.

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 So what is this marriage thing all about? Why did God create it? What's this thing all about?

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 What's the point? Well, if you just look back at our text, Paul gives us the reason for marriage

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 at the end of our text in verses 31 and 32. Let me say them again. He says,

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 therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother, and hold fast to his wife, and the two

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 shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I'm saying that it refers to Christ and the

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 church. So marriage means two things here. Firstly, marriage is a lifelong union between one man and

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 between one woman. So in this passage, Paul points back to the account in Genesis 2 that we got read

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 earlier. In Genesis 2, we see God taking Eve out of Adam because it was not good for man to be alone.

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 And when Adam sees Eve, he basically jumps out of his skin with excitement, doesn't he? He says this,

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 at last, I found someone whose bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. And then God says this,

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 a man shall leave his parents and then hold fast to his wife. And the language here is that of leaving

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 and cleaving. A man leaves his family unit and is united with his wife through the act of sex

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 to make a new family unit. And Genesis 2 points to the fact that sex is for marriage and marriage is

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 for life. Now in our culture these days, that's been thrown out a little bit, hasn't it? People say

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 this to me all the time, particularly in Nidri. Marriage, why do I need that? Why can't I just live

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 my partner? Isn't marriage just a piece of paper at the end of the day and that's it? I love them.

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 What more do I need than that? But Paul is showing us here that God created marriage in the very

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 beginning. It was the foundation to the very first society. The Bible actually begins with marriage

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 right at the beginning and it actually ends with marriage as well. So what the Bible is telling us

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 is that marriage is important to God. It's not something that we can let go. It's not just a

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 cultural thing. It's not an old-fashioned institution that doesn't matter anymore. Marriage is deeper

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 than that piece of paper. It's the foundation for society. It's the safest place to raise children.

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 It safeguards sex. It gives security to husband and wife. I mean, think about the heartbreak that is

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 caused by breakups, by broken relationships, the emotional distress that is caused by distress. Maybe some of us

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 have felt that in our lives. Marriage was created not to be like that. It was created to be a union.

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 It was created for life. So first, it's that union between man and woman. Secondly, Paul says there's a

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 deeper spiritual reality going on here. Paul says that the marriage relationship paints a picture

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 of Christ and the church. What does he mean by that? Well, he says Christ laid down his life for the

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 church's bride. And in the same way, our marriage relationship should reflect that relationship

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 that Christ has with his church. To reflect that sacrificial love. It should reflect that profound

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 love that Christ has for us. Dr. Martin Lloyd-Jones says this, or writes this,

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 how many of us have realized that we are always to think of the married state in terms of the doctrine

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 of the atonement. It does not belong to ethics, but we must consider marriage in terms of the

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 doctrine of the atonement. In other words, what we say is marriage is deep. It points to something.

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 It points to Christ dying on the cross. It teaches us about the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ.

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 And when we think about it, I take that step back. That can help us in our marriage, can't it?

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 I mean, a lot of people these days get into marriage because they found that perfect person.

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 And they're going to live happily ever after. They say things like, I found the one. I found

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 my soulmate. And this lasts until they get married and she finds his toenails in the bed.

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 Or he finds that her hair has blocked the drain once again. And then suddenly, it's out the window.

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 Marriage is rosy until we find out the other person is selfish and impatient and unloving.

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 And it's not the perfect person, the perfect match. In a word, we find out when we get married

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 that the other person is a big fat sinner. And at the engagement period, there's actually

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 been a little bit of a sham. But this spiritual picture of Jesus dying on the cross helps us,

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 doesn't it, this evening? It helps us to remember that Christ died for sinners, of which my spouse

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 is going to be one of them. We are married to a fellow sinner, not Mr. or Mrs. Perfect.

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 But it also reminds us that a godly marriage does not take place by us looking at one another.

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 A godly marriage is built as we look upon Christ.

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 A godly marriage is built as we look upon Christ, particularly dying on the cross.

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 I mean, his death, remember, shows us his gracious and his sacrificial love towards sinners like us.

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 And so what do we do when our husband or wife frustrates us, which happens, doesn't it,

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 from time to time? We do what Christ has done for us, don't we?

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 We forgive as Christ has forgiven us. We love as Christ has loved us. We are patient as Christ has been patient with us.

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 We remember that Christ humbled himself unto death on a cross, and so we need to put away pride

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 and humbly serve one another. Basically, empowered by the Spirit of God, two Christians together see the love of Christ

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 and mimic that in their relationships.

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 Let me make a little side point. Maybe some of you of us are single this evening, maybe looking to get married in the future.

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 And I always say this to my people back in Nidra, because we've got quite a few single lads and ladies,

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 I always say, marriage will not complete you.

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 Don't think marriage is going to sort out all your problems, because it isn't.

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 In fact, all that happens in marriage is that you find out how sinful you are.

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 You realise how selfish you are.

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 Marriage is like a little bit of a picture

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 that points out your faults

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 and your needs of Jesus Christ.

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 I remember my first

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 year anniversary with my wife.

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 We were away

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 in Greece,

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 and we were away with my family, but we went away for dinner.

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 Me and my wife went to a lovely evening

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 in the hills, candlelit dinner,

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 lovely food,

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 and then my wife turns around to me and says,

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 Andy, I need to tell you something.

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 Looks into my eyes.

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 You've been very selfish recently.

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 Happy anniversary.

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 And that's true, isn't it?

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 In marriage, you find out

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 how selfish

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 and sinful you are.

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 So how are two sinners

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 brought together going to last?

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 How are we going to get through

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 the ups and downs of life?

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 How are we going to get through

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 the different personality quirks

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 and stresses of life?

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 It's the gospel.

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 It's the gospel.

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 It's the death

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 of our Lord Jesus Christ.

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 We need him, don't we?

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 To build

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 healthy,

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 godly

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 marriages.

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 So the meaning of marriage

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 is that mysterious union

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 between man and woman.

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 That points to

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 Lord Jesus' death

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 on the cross.

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 So how do we reflect

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 Christ in the church

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 and our relationships?

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 What does

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 a godly marriage

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 look like?

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 Well, Paul gives us

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 two commands

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 in that text

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 if you remember.

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 Firstly,

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 it says wives

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 need to submit.

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 And secondly,

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 he says husbands

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 need to love.

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 Let me say

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 at this point

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 that these commands

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 are not just

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 for husbands and wives

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 but for the whole church.

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 Again,

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 if we're single

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 and thinking

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 I need to switch off

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 right now,

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 don't do it.

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 We are all called

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 to submit.

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 We are all called

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 to love.

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 So although I'm going to

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 apply these specifically

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 to Christians

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 who are married

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 this evening,

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 wherever life,

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 wherever we're at

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 in life,

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 these commands

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 apply to us.

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 So firstly,

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 wives submit.

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 Look at verse 22.

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 Again,

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 just so you can see

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 I'm not making it up.

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 It says wives submit

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 to your own husbands

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 as to the Lord.

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 So this is probably

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 one of the most

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 controversial commands

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 probably in the Bible

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 these days.

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 People think

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 this is backwards.

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 People think

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 this is old fashioned.

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 There's actually

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 quite a lot of hate

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 towards this command

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 because we live

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 in a generation

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 where women

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 have been liberated

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 from this kind of stuff.

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 People look at this command

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 and think it's been

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 misused over the years

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 and so we're past

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 that submitting malarkey.

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 We're going to

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 throw that one out.

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 That's just a cultural thing.

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 But let me make this clear

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 this evening.

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 This command

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 should never be used

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 to oppress women.

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 That's not what

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 it's there for.

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 This command

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 should actually

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 allow wives

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 to flourish

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 under the loving

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 headship

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 of their husbands.

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 And the problem

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 here isn't

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 the command.

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 The problem

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 is the abuse

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 of the command

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 over many years.

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 I mean no wife

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 would be questioning

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 this command

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 if men

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 led their wives

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 as they were supposed to.

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 No wife

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 would be complaining

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 if her husband

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 was selfless,

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 patient,

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 gentle,

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 sensitive,

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 always looking for her best

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 and loving her well.

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 There wouldn't be any

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 question about it

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 would there?

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 But the problem

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 is that as men

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 we can be a muppet

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 a lot of the time.

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 We're self-centered.

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 We're lazy.

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 We're impatient.

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 We're proud.

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 Sometimes we're bulls

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 like bulls

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 in a china shop

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 a lot of the time.

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 But either way

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 this command

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 is here

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 and we cannot

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 escape it.

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 And we cannot

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 even just say

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 it's not for our time

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 anymore because

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 Paul roots this

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 again in creation

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 to prove his point.

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 He says that

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 in his original

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 design

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 Adam was created

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 to be head

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 of his wife.

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 Adam was created

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 first

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 and he was created

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 to have

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 authority

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 over Eve.

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 He was supposed

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 to lead her

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 and he was supposed

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 to care for her

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 as God had cared

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 and led him.

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 So what does

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 submission look like?

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 Well let me start

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 with what it doesn't

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 mean.

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 Submission

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 doesn't mean

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 that a wife

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 is less than

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 a husband.

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 It doesn't mean

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 that she is a

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 second class

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 citizen.

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 Again the

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 Genesis account

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 says man and

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 woman were created

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 equally in the

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 image of God

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 but they were

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 given different

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 roles.

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 submission

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 also doesn't

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 mean that wives

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 are some sort

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 of slaves

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 to their

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 husbands.

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 She's not some

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 sort of doormat

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 that is supposed

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 to be chained

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 to the kitchen

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 sink.

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 Headship

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 does not mean

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 dictatorship.

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 We're not

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 in North Korea.

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 It's not do

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 whatever the

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 supreme leader

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 says and I

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 have no say.

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 That's not what

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 submission and

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 headship should

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 look like.

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 Submission

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 in the Bible

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 is a voluntary

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 act of love.

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 It's a voluntary

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 act of love.

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 So think about

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 in the Trinity.

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 What does the

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 son do?

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 The son

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 submits to

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 the father.

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 This does not

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 mean that he is

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 less God.

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 This does not

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 mean he's a

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 doormat.

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 But he chooses

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 to submit to

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 the father.

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 Why?

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 Because he

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 loves him.

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 It's his role

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 to submit as

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 a son.

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 Even though

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 he is totally

00:16:28.980 --> 00:16:30.500
 100% equal

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 with God.

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 And actually

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 when wives

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 submit to

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 their husbands

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 as to the

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 Lord,

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 they honour

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 the Lord

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 Jesus.

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 They honour

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 the Lord

00:16:43.040 --> 00:16:43.360
 Jesus.

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 And in fact

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 when wives

00:16:45.500 --> 00:16:46.740
 submit to

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 their husbands

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 they mirror

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 the action

00:16:48.720 --> 00:16:49.259
 of God

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 the son.

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 They are

00:16:52.680 --> 00:16:53.240
 acting in a

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 very Christ-like

00:16:54.480 --> 00:16:55.280
 manner.

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 So for

00:16:58.539 --> 00:16:59.059
 those of us

00:16:59.059 --> 00:16:59.379
 who are

00:16:59.379 --> 00:16:59.919
 wives this

00:16:59.919 --> 00:17:00.079
 evening,

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 the question

00:17:00.519 --> 00:17:00.759
 is,

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 are we

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 submitting

00:17:01.779 --> 00:17:03.519
 with a

00:17:03.519 --> 00:17:04.379
 good attitude?

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 Are we

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 encouraging

00:17:08.160 --> 00:17:09.599
 our husband's

00:17:09.599 --> 00:17:10.059
 leadership?

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 Or are we

00:17:11.440 --> 00:17:12.160
 always trying

00:17:12.160 --> 00:17:12.799
 to undermine

00:17:12.799 --> 00:17:13.180
 him?

00:17:13.180 --> 00:17:15.279
 Do we

00:17:15.279 --> 00:17:15.879
 honour our

00:17:15.879 --> 00:17:16.940
 husbands as

00:17:16.940 --> 00:17:18.180
 our spiritual

00:17:18.180 --> 00:17:18.720
 heads?

00:17:19.119 --> 00:17:19.339
 Are we

00:17:19.339 --> 00:17:19.700
 constantly

00:17:19.700 --> 00:17:20.240
 moaning

00:17:20.240 --> 00:17:21.900
 and nagging

00:17:21.900 --> 00:17:22.200
 him?

00:17:23.000 --> 00:17:23.299
 You see

00:17:23.299 --> 00:17:23.779
 submission

00:17:23.779 --> 00:17:24.380
 again is

00:17:24.380 --> 00:17:24.880
 all about

00:17:24.880 --> 00:17:25.579
 attitudes.

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 Doing it

00:17:26.460 --> 00:17:27.039
 joyfully,

00:17:27.620 --> 00:17:28.019
 doing it

00:17:28.019 --> 00:17:28.539
 freely,

00:17:29.339 --> 00:17:29.759
 doing it

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 because we

00:17:31.120 --> 00:17:33.059
 love our

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 husbands.

00:17:35.660 --> 00:17:36.180
 And remember

00:17:36.180 --> 00:17:36.740
 I'm not saying

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 this is easy.

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 Remember it

00:17:39.200 --> 00:17:39.819
 wasn't easy

00:17:39.819 --> 00:17:40.279
 for Jesus

00:17:40.279 --> 00:17:40.980
 Christ to go

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 to the cross

00:17:41.579 --> 00:17:42.279
 and submit

00:17:42.279 --> 00:17:42.620
 to the

00:17:42.620 --> 00:17:43.359
 Father and

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 yet he did

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 it.

00:17:45.039 --> 00:17:45.420
 So as

00:17:45.420 --> 00:17:46.120
 wives we

00:17:46.120 --> 00:17:46.660
 are called

00:17:46.660 --> 00:17:47.579
 to do that

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 even if it

00:17:48.339 --> 00:17:49.099
 is painful

00:17:49.099 --> 00:17:50.359
 at times.

00:17:52.139 --> 00:17:52.759
 Others have

00:17:52.759 --> 00:17:53.539
 some of us

00:17:53.539 --> 00:17:54.039
 this evening

00:17:54.039 --> 00:17:54.379
 who are

00:17:54.379 --> 00:17:54.939
 wiser thinking

00:17:54.939 --> 00:17:56.279
 well I

00:17:56.279 --> 00:17:56.679
 want to

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 submit to

00:17:57.220 --> 00:17:57.679
 my husband

00:17:57.679 --> 00:17:58.159
 but he

00:17:58.159 --> 00:17:58.859
 is a

00:17:58.859 --> 00:17:59.119
 lazy

00:17:59.119 --> 00:17:59.519
 jab of

00:17:59.519 --> 00:17:59.639
 the

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 huts.

00:18:02.199 --> 00:18:02.799
 What am

00:18:02.799 --> 00:18:03.099
 I to

00:18:03.099 --> 00:18:03.359
 do?

00:18:05.759 --> 00:18:06.220
 Do I

00:18:06.220 --> 00:18:06.500
 still need

00:18:06.500 --> 00:18:07.019
 to submit?

00:18:08.799 --> 00:18:09.179
 Well if

00:18:09.179 --> 00:18:09.619
 you are a

00:18:09.619 --> 00:18:09.980
 wife in

00:18:09.980 --> 00:18:10.919
 that situation

00:18:10.919 --> 00:18:11.299
 and you

00:18:11.299 --> 00:18:11.599
 need to

00:18:11.599 --> 00:18:11.980
 pray for

00:18:11.980 --> 00:18:12.419
 your husband

00:18:12.419 --> 00:18:13.639
 and you

00:18:13.639 --> 00:18:14.399
 need to

00:18:14.399 --> 00:18:14.939
 gently

00:18:14.939 --> 00:18:15.819
 encourage

00:18:15.819 --> 00:18:16.379
 your husband

00:18:16.379 --> 00:18:18.179
 do not

00:18:18.180 --> 00:18:18.539
 push him

00:18:18.539 --> 00:18:19.019
 away by

00:18:19.019 --> 00:18:19.400
 nagging

00:18:19.400 --> 00:18:19.660
 him

00:18:19.660 --> 00:18:20.140
 it's

00:18:20.140 --> 00:18:20.380
 going to

00:18:20.380 --> 00:18:20.680
 get you

00:18:20.680 --> 00:18:21.039
 nowhere

00:18:21.039 --> 00:18:23.080
 but pray

00:18:23.080 --> 00:18:23.580
 for him

00:18:23.580 --> 00:18:24.759
 gently

00:18:24.759 --> 00:18:26.660
 encourage

00:18:26.660 --> 00:18:27.019
 him

00:18:27.019 --> 00:18:28.580
 and know

00:18:28.580 --> 00:18:29.279
 we men

00:18:29.279 --> 00:18:29.460
 are going

00:18:29.460 --> 00:18:29.759
 to mess

00:18:29.759 --> 00:18:30.580
 up

00:18:30.580 --> 00:18:32.220
 I can

00:18:32.220 --> 00:18:32.560
 guarantee

00:18:32.560 --> 00:18:33.080
 you that

00:18:33.080 --> 00:18:34.820
 for 100%

00:18:34.820 --> 00:18:36.279
 but that

00:18:36.279 --> 00:18:37.039
 doesn't change

00:18:37.039 --> 00:18:37.759
 the command

00:18:37.759 --> 00:18:39.240
 of submission

00:18:39.240 --> 00:18:45.720
 and those

00:18:45.720 --> 00:18:46.000
 of us

00:18:46.000 --> 00:18:46.220
 who are

00:18:46.220 --> 00:18:46.519
 husbands

00:18:46.519 --> 00:18:46.900
 let me

00:18:46.900 --> 00:18:47.440
 remind

00:18:47.440 --> 00:18:47.960
 us

00:18:47.960 --> 00:18:48.759
 that when

00:18:48.759 --> 00:18:49.380
 we lead

00:18:49.380 --> 00:18:49.779
 well

00:18:49.779 --> 00:18:50.519
 our wives

00:18:50.519 --> 00:18:50.779
 should

00:18:50.779 --> 00:18:51.279
 flourish

00:18:51.279 --> 00:18:53.240
 as

00:18:53.240 --> 00:18:53.680
 husbands

00:18:53.680 --> 00:18:54.000
 we need

00:18:54.000 --> 00:18:54.279
 to think

00:18:54.279 --> 00:18:54.559
 of our

00:18:54.559 --> 00:18:54.880
 wives

00:18:54.880 --> 00:18:55.100
 as

00:18:55.100 --> 00:18:55.640
 flowers

00:18:55.640 --> 00:18:56.220
 that

00:18:56.220 --> 00:18:56.440
 need

00:18:56.440 --> 00:18:56.720
 to be

00:18:56.720 --> 00:18:57.400
 nurtured

00:18:57.400 --> 00:18:57.900
 and

00:18:57.900 --> 00:18:58.320
 taken

00:18:58.320 --> 00:18:59.220
 care

00:18:59.220 --> 00:18:59.640
 of

00:18:59.640 --> 00:19:01.120
 you see

00:19:01.120 --> 00:19:01.420
 if our

00:19:01.420 --> 00:19:01.700
 wives

00:19:01.700 --> 00:19:02.299
 are wilting

00:19:02.299 --> 00:19:02.680
 and not

00:19:02.680 --> 00:19:03.360
 flourishing

00:19:03.360 --> 00:19:04.120
 then we

00:19:04.120 --> 00:19:04.400
 are not

00:19:04.400 --> 00:19:04.700
 leading

00:19:04.700 --> 00:19:05.019
 well

00:19:05.019 --> 00:19:05.559
 are we

00:19:05.559 --> 00:19:06.920
 we need

00:19:06.920 --> 00:19:07.539
 to repent

00:19:07.539 --> 00:19:08.940
 ask the

00:19:08.940 --> 00:19:09.180
 Lord's

00:19:09.180 --> 00:19:09.580
 forgiveness

00:19:09.580 --> 00:19:11.400
 and work

00:19:11.400 --> 00:19:12.080
 on our

00:19:12.080 --> 00:19:12.519
 headship

00:19:12.519 --> 00:19:13.160
 once again

00:19:13.160 --> 00:19:14.800
 so in a

00:19:14.800 --> 00:19:15.019
 godly

00:19:15.019 --> 00:19:15.340
 marriage

00:19:15.340 --> 00:19:15.640
 wives

00:19:15.640 --> 00:19:16.000
 submit

00:19:16.000 --> 00:19:16.620
 secondly

00:19:16.620 --> 00:19:17.800
 husbands

00:19:17.800 --> 00:19:19.180
 are called

00:19:19.180 --> 00:19:19.560
 to love

00:19:19.560 --> 00:19:19.759
 their

00:19:19.759 --> 00:19:20.240
 wives

00:19:20.240 --> 00:19:22.340
 and this

00:19:22.340 --> 00:19:22.620
 is a

00:19:22.620 --> 00:19:23.000
 deep

00:19:23.000 --> 00:19:23.700
 deep

00:19:23.700 --> 00:19:24.140
 love

00:19:24.140 --> 00:19:24.779
 once again

00:19:24.779 --> 00:19:25.420
 that we

00:19:25.420 --> 00:19:25.880
 are called

00:19:25.880 --> 00:19:26.080
 to

00:19:26.080 --> 00:19:26.480
 just look at

00:19:26.480 --> 00:19:27.259
 verses 25

00:19:27.259 --> 00:19:27.840
 to 28

00:19:27.840 --> 00:19:28.220
 again

00:19:28.220 --> 00:19:29.519
 let me read

00:19:29.519 --> 00:19:29.980
 them again

00:19:29.980 --> 00:19:30.779
 husbands

00:19:30.779 --> 00:19:31.420
 love your

00:19:31.420 --> 00:19:31.779
 wives

00:19:31.779 --> 00:19:32.259
 as Christ

00:19:32.259 --> 00:19:32.660
 loved the

00:19:32.660 --> 00:19:33.100
 church

00:19:33.100 --> 00:19:33.920
 and gave

00:19:33.920 --> 00:19:34.279
 himself

00:19:34.279 --> 00:19:34.759
 up for

00:19:34.759 --> 00:19:35.000
 her

00:19:35.000 --> 00:19:36.140
 that he

00:19:36.140 --> 00:19:36.279
 might

00:19:36.279 --> 00:19:36.960
 sanctify

00:19:36.960 --> 00:19:37.259
 her

00:19:37.259 --> 00:19:37.759
 having

00:19:37.759 --> 00:19:38.299
 cleansed

00:19:38.299 --> 00:19:38.380
 her

00:19:38.380 --> 00:19:38.640
 by the

00:19:38.640 --> 00:19:38.920
 washing

00:19:38.920 --> 00:19:39.380
 of water

00:19:39.380 --> 00:19:39.680
 with the

00:19:39.680 --> 00:19:40.039
 words

00:19:40.039 --> 00:19:41.079
 so that

00:19:41.079 --> 00:19:41.400
 he might

00:19:41.400 --> 00:19:41.759
 present

00:19:41.759 --> 00:19:42.000
 the

00:19:42.000 --> 00:19:42.360
 church

00:19:42.360 --> 00:19:42.559
 to

00:19:42.559 --> 00:19:43.079
 himself

00:19:43.079 --> 00:19:43.339
 in

00:19:43.339 --> 00:19:43.980
 splendor

00:19:43.980 --> 00:19:44.660
 without

00:19:44.660 --> 00:19:45.279
 spot

00:19:45.279 --> 00:19:45.920
 or wrinkle

00:19:45.920 --> 00:19:46.500
 or any

00:19:46.500 --> 00:19:47.140
 such thing

00:19:47.140 --> 00:19:48.079
 that she

00:19:48.079 --> 00:19:48.500
 might be

00:19:48.500 --> 00:19:48.920
 holy

00:19:48.920 --> 00:19:50.259
 and without

00:19:50.259 --> 00:19:50.880
 blemish

00:19:50.880 --> 00:19:51.660
 in the same

00:19:51.660 --> 00:19:52.100
 ways

00:19:52.100 --> 00:19:52.740
 husbands

00:19:52.740 --> 00:19:53.620
 should love

00:19:53.620 --> 00:19:54.120
 their wives

00:19:54.120 --> 00:19:54.339
 as their

00:19:54.339 --> 00:19:54.980
 own bodies

00:19:54.980 --> 00:19:55.980
 he who

00:19:55.980 --> 00:19:56.519
 loves his

00:19:56.519 --> 00:19:56.900
 wife

00:19:56.900 --> 00:19:57.740
 loves

00:19:57.740 --> 00:19:58.960
 himself

00:19:58.960 --> 00:20:00.559
 so in this

00:20:00.559 --> 00:20:01.400
 passage we see

00:20:01.400 --> 00:20:02.140
 Christ's love

00:20:02.140 --> 00:20:02.779
 once again

00:20:02.779 --> 00:20:03.900
 the fact that

00:20:03.900 --> 00:20:04.480
 he gave up

00:20:04.480 --> 00:20:05.220
 his life

00:20:05.220 --> 00:20:06.099
 for his

00:20:06.099 --> 00:20:06.640
 church

00:20:06.640 --> 00:20:07.339
 the fact that

00:20:07.339 --> 00:20:08.339
 he sanctifies

00:20:08.339 --> 00:20:08.500
 her

00:20:08.500 --> 00:20:09.200
 the fact that

00:20:09.200 --> 00:20:09.980
 he cleanses

00:20:09.980 --> 00:20:10.140
 her

00:20:10.140 --> 00:20:10.859
 the fact that

00:20:10.859 --> 00:20:11.539
 he presents

00:20:11.539 --> 00:20:12.519
 her spotless

00:20:12.519 --> 00:20:13.240
 before the

00:20:13.240 --> 00:20:13.859
 throne of

00:20:13.859 --> 00:20:14.299
 God

00:20:14.299 --> 00:20:15.720
 and in the

00:20:15.720 --> 00:20:16.220
 same way that

00:20:16.220 --> 00:20:16.839
 Christ loves

00:20:16.839 --> 00:20:17.500
 his church

00:20:17.500 --> 00:20:18.900
 we husbands

00:20:18.900 --> 00:20:19.680
 are called to

00:20:19.680 --> 00:20:20.299
 love our wives

00:20:20.299 --> 00:20:20.720
 in the same

00:20:20.720 --> 00:20:21.019
 way

00:20:21.019 --> 00:20:23.440
 so let's look

00:20:23.440 --> 00:20:23.819
 at some of

00:20:23.819 --> 00:20:24.420
 those things

00:20:24.420 --> 00:20:25.559
 firstly we're

00:20:25.559 --> 00:20:25.980
 supposed to

00:20:25.980 --> 00:20:26.720
 love our wives

00:20:26.720 --> 00:20:27.640
 with a

00:20:27.640 --> 00:20:28.259
 sacrificial

00:20:28.259 --> 00:20:28.680
 love

00:20:28.680 --> 00:20:30.280
 a sacrificial

00:20:30.280 --> 00:20:30.860
 love

00:20:30.860 --> 00:20:32.020
 I mean think

00:20:32.020 --> 00:20:32.580
 about Christ

00:20:32.580 --> 00:20:33.020
 once again

00:20:33.020 --> 00:20:33.620
 he left

00:20:33.620 --> 00:20:34.840
 the joys of

00:20:34.840 --> 00:20:35.900
 heaven to

00:20:35.900 --> 00:20:36.380
 come to the

00:20:36.380 --> 00:20:36.860
 poverty of

00:20:36.860 --> 00:20:37.240
 this earth

00:20:37.240 --> 00:20:39.100
 and what did

00:20:39.100 --> 00:20:39.500
 he do while

00:20:39.500 --> 00:20:40.140
 he was here

00:20:40.140 --> 00:20:41.780
 well

00:20:41.780 --> 00:20:43.280
 although he was

00:20:43.280 --> 00:20:43.780
 king of the

00:20:43.780 --> 00:20:44.560
 universe a

00:20:44.560 --> 00:20:45.300
 mighty king he

00:20:45.300 --> 00:20:45.840
 came as a

00:20:45.840 --> 00:20:46.700
 lowly servant

00:20:46.700 --> 00:20:47.160
 didn't he

00:20:47.160 --> 00:20:48.240
 and served his

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 disciples

00:20:48.720 --> 00:20:50.940
 and then he

00:20:50.940 --> 00:20:51.460
 died the most

00:20:51.460 --> 00:20:52.580
 agonizing death

00:20:52.580 --> 00:20:53.680
 on the cross

00:20:53.680 --> 00:20:55.120
 for undeserving

00:20:55.120 --> 00:20:56.560
 sinners like you

00:20:56.559 --> 00:20:57.079
 and me

00:20:57.079 --> 00:20:58.319
 and that is

00:20:58.319 --> 00:20:58.659
 the kind of

00:20:58.659 --> 00:20:59.240
 love that is

00:20:59.240 --> 00:21:00.240
 called for in

00:21:00.240 --> 00:21:00.839
 our marriages

00:21:00.839 --> 00:21:02.859
 as husbands

00:21:02.859 --> 00:21:03.839
 we are called

00:21:03.839 --> 00:21:05.419
 to put our

00:21:05.419 --> 00:21:06.980
 wives needs

00:21:06.980 --> 00:21:07.679
 above our

00:21:07.679 --> 00:21:07.919
 own

00:21:07.919 --> 00:21:09.859
 we're called

00:21:09.859 --> 00:21:10.879
 to die to

00:21:10.879 --> 00:21:11.799
 our desires

00:21:11.799 --> 00:21:12.919
 our wishes

00:21:12.919 --> 00:21:14.000
 our wants

00:21:14.000 --> 00:21:14.980
 for the sake

00:21:14.980 --> 00:21:15.779
 of our

00:21:15.779 --> 00:21:16.399
 wives

00:21:16.399 --> 00:21:18.399
 but this again

00:21:18.399 --> 00:21:19.220
 won't be easy

00:21:19.220 --> 00:21:19.980
 because we are

00:21:19.980 --> 00:21:20.859
 naturally selfish

00:21:20.859 --> 00:21:22.019
 we are naturally

00:21:22.019 --> 00:21:23.339
 bent inwards

00:21:23.339 --> 00:21:24.339
 we naturally

00:21:24.339 --> 00:21:25.279
 want what

00:21:25.279 --> 00:21:26.019
 we want

00:21:26.019 --> 00:21:27.759
 but joy

00:21:27.759 --> 00:21:28.619
 is found

00:21:28.619 --> 00:21:29.699
 when we put

00:21:29.699 --> 00:21:30.099
 one another

00:21:30.099 --> 00:21:30.740
 first isn't

00:21:30.740 --> 00:21:30.959
 it

00:21:30.959 --> 00:21:32.379
 that's where

00:21:32.379 --> 00:21:32.859
 real joy

00:21:32.859 --> 00:21:33.500
 is found

00:21:33.500 --> 00:21:36.179
 Alistair Begg

00:21:36.179 --> 00:21:36.799
 writes this

00:21:36.799 --> 00:21:38.039
 the greatest

00:21:38.039 --> 00:21:39.500
 joy we will

00:21:39.500 --> 00:21:40.579
 experience in

00:21:40.579 --> 00:21:41.279
 marriage is

00:21:41.279 --> 00:21:42.519
 found when

00:21:42.519 --> 00:21:43.199
 we learn to

00:21:43.199 --> 00:21:43.539
 put our

00:21:43.539 --> 00:21:44.339
 partner first

00:21:44.339 --> 00:21:46.139
 when we

00:21:46.139 --> 00:21:46.839
 value the

00:21:46.839 --> 00:21:47.659
 happiness of

00:21:47.659 --> 00:21:48.500
 our spouse

00:21:48.500 --> 00:21:49.599
 over our

00:21:49.599 --> 00:21:50.319
 own happiness

00:21:50.319 --> 00:21:51.700
 we will

00:21:51.700 --> 00:21:52.159
 begin to

00:21:52.159 --> 00:21:52.679
 understand the

00:21:52.679 --> 00:21:53.299
 meaning of

00:21:53.299 --> 00:21:53.779
 true

00:21:53.779 --> 00:21:55.099
 sacrificial

00:21:55.099 --> 00:21:56.059
 love

00:21:56.059 --> 00:21:57.579
 and that's

00:21:57.579 --> 00:21:57.879
 what we're

00:21:57.879 --> 00:21:58.339
 called to

00:21:58.339 --> 00:21:59.059
 as husbands

00:21:59.059 --> 00:21:59.740
 this evening

00:21:59.740 --> 00:22:01.039
 we're called

00:22:01.039 --> 00:22:01.599
 to put our

00:22:01.599 --> 00:22:02.359
 partner's

00:22:02.359 --> 00:22:03.319
 happiness

00:22:03.319 --> 00:22:04.279
 our wives

00:22:04.279 --> 00:22:04.899
 happiness

00:22:04.899 --> 00:22:05.899
 above our

00:22:05.899 --> 00:22:06.220
 own

00:22:06.220 --> 00:22:07.819
 we're called

00:22:07.819 --> 00:22:09.019
 to selfless

00:22:09.019 --> 00:22:09.480
 love

00:22:09.480 --> 00:22:10.619
 as opposed

00:22:10.619 --> 00:22:12.319
 to selfishness

00:22:12.319 --> 00:22:14.379
 at the end

00:22:14.379 --> 00:22:14.939
 of the day

00:22:14.939 --> 00:22:15.919
 headship

00:22:15.919 --> 00:22:16.619
 is about

00:22:16.619 --> 00:22:17.539
 service

00:22:17.539 --> 00:22:19.579
 Jesus said

00:22:19.579 --> 00:22:20.000
 this to

00:22:20.000 --> 00:22:20.619
 disciples

00:22:20.619 --> 00:22:21.700
 squabbling

00:22:21.700 --> 00:22:22.319
 for power

00:22:22.319 --> 00:22:23.579
 but whoever

00:22:23.579 --> 00:22:24.059
 would be

00:22:24.059 --> 00:22:24.680
 great among

00:22:24.680 --> 00:22:25.940
 you must

00:22:25.940 --> 00:22:26.639
 be your

00:22:26.639 --> 00:22:27.180
 servant

00:22:27.180 --> 00:22:28.159
 and whoever

00:22:28.159 --> 00:22:28.579
 would be

00:22:28.579 --> 00:22:29.279
 first among

00:22:29.279 --> 00:22:30.259
 you must

00:22:30.259 --> 00:22:30.940
 be slave

00:22:30.940 --> 00:22:31.420
 of all

00:22:31.420 --> 00:22:32.259
 for even

00:22:32.259 --> 00:22:32.740
 the son

00:22:32.740 --> 00:22:33.279
 of man

00:22:33.279 --> 00:22:34.039
 came not

00:22:34.039 --> 00:22:34.399
 to be

00:22:34.399 --> 00:22:34.819
 served

00:22:34.819 --> 00:22:35.259
 but to

00:22:35.259 --> 00:22:35.619
 serve

00:22:35.619 --> 00:22:36.079
 and give

00:22:36.079 --> 00:22:36.539
 his life

00:22:36.539 --> 00:22:36.779
 as a

00:22:36.779 --> 00:22:37.019
 ransom

00:22:37.019 --> 00:22:37.460
 for many

00:22:37.460 --> 00:22:38.899
 and that

00:22:38.899 --> 00:22:39.440
 should be

00:22:39.440 --> 00:22:40.519
 our cool

00:22:40.519 --> 00:22:40.920
 husbands

00:22:40.920 --> 00:22:41.920
 we serve

00:22:41.920 --> 00:22:42.859
 we don't

00:22:42.859 --> 00:22:43.440
 domineer

00:22:43.440 --> 00:22:44.240
 but we

00:22:44.240 --> 00:22:44.799
 serve

00:22:44.799 --> 00:22:46.159
 our wives

00:22:46.160 --> 00:22:48.220
 so we

00:22:48.220 --> 00:22:48.660
 have that

00:22:48.660 --> 00:22:49.160
 sacrificial

00:22:49.160 --> 00:22:49.460
 love

00:22:49.460 --> 00:22:49.740
 secondly

00:22:49.740 --> 00:22:50.920
 we're

00:22:50.920 --> 00:22:51.440
 called to

00:22:51.440 --> 00:22:52.340
 sacrificially

00:22:52.340 --> 00:22:53.320
 and lovingly

00:22:53.320 --> 00:22:54.600
 lead our

00:22:54.600 --> 00:22:55.080
 wives

00:22:55.080 --> 00:22:56.300
 spiritually

00:22:56.300 --> 00:22:57.600
 we're called

00:22:57.600 --> 00:22:58.540
 to lovingly

00:22:58.540 --> 00:22:59.440
 lead our

00:22:59.440 --> 00:22:59.759
 wives

00:22:59.759 --> 00:23:00.300
 spiritually

00:23:00.300 --> 00:23:01.580
 you see

00:23:01.580 --> 00:23:01.880
 if you

00:23:01.880 --> 00:23:02.140
 notice in

00:23:02.140 --> 00:23:02.519
 that text

00:23:02.519 --> 00:23:03.000
 Christ

00:23:03.000 --> 00:23:03.759
 doesn't

00:23:03.759 --> 00:23:04.220
 just leave

00:23:04.220 --> 00:23:04.519
 us on

00:23:04.519 --> 00:23:04.900
 our own

00:23:04.900 --> 00:23:05.220
 when we're

00:23:05.220 --> 00:23:05.460
 saved

00:23:05.460 --> 00:23:05.820
 does he

00:23:05.820 --> 00:23:07.200
 what does

00:23:07.200 --> 00:23:07.660
 he do

00:23:07.660 --> 00:23:08.800
 he gently

00:23:08.800 --> 00:23:09.660
 sanctifies

00:23:09.660 --> 00:23:11.220
 cleanses

00:23:11.220 --> 00:23:12.120
 and presents

00:23:12.120 --> 00:23:13.140
 us spotless

00:23:13.140 --> 00:23:14.240
 before the

00:23:14.240 --> 00:23:14.680
 throne

00:23:14.680 --> 00:23:15.460
 of

00:23:15.460 --> 00:23:16.040
 God

00:23:16.039 --> 00:23:17.200
 he is

00:23:17.200 --> 00:23:17.599
 constantly

00:23:17.599 --> 00:23:18.220
 changing

00:23:18.220 --> 00:23:18.579
 us

00:23:18.579 --> 00:23:19.359
 by his

00:23:19.359 --> 00:23:19.839
 spirit

00:23:19.839 --> 00:23:20.559
 as believers

00:23:20.559 --> 00:23:21.819
 this evening

00:23:21.819 --> 00:23:22.659
 and he does

00:23:22.659 --> 00:23:23.299
 that patiently

00:23:23.299 --> 00:23:23.740
 doesn't he

00:23:23.740 --> 00:23:24.000
 he's so

00:23:24.000 --> 00:23:24.539
 patient with

00:23:24.539 --> 00:23:24.779
 us

00:23:24.779 --> 00:23:26.659
 he does

00:23:26.659 --> 00:23:27.339
 that gently

00:23:27.339 --> 00:23:29.440
 but he

00:23:29.440 --> 00:23:29.960
 doesn't let

00:23:29.960 --> 00:23:30.420
 sing go

00:23:30.420 --> 00:23:31.119
 at the same

00:23:31.119 --> 00:23:31.579
 time

00:23:31.579 --> 00:23:33.379
 and in the

00:23:33.379 --> 00:23:33.879
 same way

00:23:33.879 --> 00:23:35.000
 as husbands

00:23:35.000 --> 00:23:35.519
 this evening

00:23:35.519 --> 00:23:36.000
 we're called

00:23:36.000 --> 00:23:36.639
 to gently

00:23:36.639 --> 00:23:38.599
 and sensitively

00:23:38.599 --> 00:23:39.319
 lead

00:23:39.319 --> 00:23:40.079
 our

00:23:40.079 --> 00:23:41.059
 wives

00:23:41.059 --> 00:23:42.980
 and this

00:23:42.980 --> 00:23:43.579
 is important

00:23:43.579 --> 00:23:44.119
 because as

00:23:44.119 --> 00:23:44.539
 husbands

00:23:44.539 --> 00:23:45.779
 we are

00:23:45.779 --> 00:23:45.980
 going to

00:23:45.980 --> 00:23:46.480
 be called

00:23:46.480 --> 00:23:47.259
 to account

00:23:47.259 --> 00:23:48.220
 on how

00:23:48.220 --> 00:23:48.559
 we have

00:23:48.559 --> 00:23:49.059
 led our

00:23:49.059 --> 00:23:49.359
 wives

00:23:49.359 --> 00:23:49.879
 spiritually

00:23:49.879 --> 00:23:52.000
 when

00:23:52.000 --> 00:23:52.259
 Eve

00:23:52.259 --> 00:23:52.980
 sinned

00:23:52.980 --> 00:23:53.559
 who did

00:23:53.559 --> 00:23:53.779
 God

00:23:53.779 --> 00:23:54.339
 call upon

00:23:54.339 --> 00:23:54.700
 it wasn't

00:23:54.700 --> 00:23:55.079
 Eve

00:23:55.079 --> 00:23:56.579
 he went

00:23:56.579 --> 00:23:57.019
 straight to

00:23:57.019 --> 00:23:57.279
 Adam

00:23:57.279 --> 00:23:59.599
 and as

00:23:59.599 --> 00:24:00.200
 husbands

00:24:00.200 --> 00:24:00.599
 this evening

00:24:00.599 --> 00:24:01.119
 we will be

00:24:01.119 --> 00:24:01.460
 judged

00:24:01.460 --> 00:24:02.460
 more strictly

00:24:02.460 --> 00:24:03.119
 on that

00:24:03.119 --> 00:24:03.460
 day

00:24:03.460 --> 00:24:05.659
 so the

00:24:05.659 --> 00:24:06.200
 question is

00:24:06.200 --> 00:24:06.519
 are we

00:24:06.519 --> 00:24:06.960
 leading our

00:24:06.960 --> 00:24:07.259
 wives

00:24:07.259 --> 00:24:07.700
 spiritually

00:24:07.700 --> 00:24:08.259
 this evening

00:24:08.259 --> 00:24:08.819
 as

00:24:08.819 --> 00:24:09.399
 husbands

00:24:09.400 --> 00:24:12.820
 and my

00:24:12.820 --> 00:24:13.140
 guess is

00:24:13.140 --> 00:24:13.400
 some of

00:24:13.400 --> 00:24:13.640
 us are

00:24:13.640 --> 00:24:13.900
 not

00:24:13.900 --> 00:24:14.860
 some of

00:24:14.860 --> 00:24:15.080
 us are

00:24:15.080 --> 00:24:15.320
 quite

00:24:15.320 --> 00:24:15.780
 lazy

00:24:15.780 --> 00:24:16.720
 we'd

00:24:16.720 --> 00:24:16.980
 rather

00:24:16.980 --> 00:24:17.800
 watch

00:24:17.800 --> 00:24:18.240
 sport

00:24:18.240 --> 00:24:18.720
 all day

00:24:18.720 --> 00:24:19.340
 than

00:24:19.340 --> 00:24:19.800
 focus

00:24:19.800 --> 00:24:20.300
 and point

00:24:20.300 --> 00:24:20.480
 our

00:24:20.480 --> 00:24:20.900
 wives

00:24:20.900 --> 00:24:21.540
 to the

00:24:21.540 --> 00:24:21.700
 Lord

00:24:21.700 --> 00:24:21.960
 Jesus

00:24:21.960 --> 00:24:22.480
 Christ

00:24:22.480 --> 00:24:23.500
 we have

00:24:23.500 --> 00:24:23.820
 a hard

00:24:23.820 --> 00:24:24.120
 day at

00:24:24.120 --> 00:24:24.460
 work

00:24:24.460 --> 00:24:25.140
 and then

00:24:25.140 --> 00:24:25.460
 we come

00:24:25.460 --> 00:24:25.820
 home

00:24:25.820 --> 00:24:26.180
 and we

00:24:26.180 --> 00:24:26.560
 laze

00:24:26.560 --> 00:24:26.920
 upon the

00:24:26.920 --> 00:24:27.180
 TV

00:24:27.180 --> 00:24:27.700
 all evening

00:24:27.700 --> 00:24:28.580
 instead of

00:24:28.580 --> 00:24:28.960
 serving

00:24:28.960 --> 00:24:29.540
 our

00:24:29.540 --> 00:24:30.080
 family

00:24:30.080 --> 00:24:32.960
 but as

00:24:32.960 --> 00:24:33.360
 husbands

00:24:33.360 --> 00:24:34.080
 we are

00:24:34.080 --> 00:24:34.540
 called

00:24:34.540 --> 00:24:35.500
 to lead

00:24:35.500 --> 00:24:36.040
 the family

00:24:36.040 --> 00:24:36.420
 unit

00:24:36.420 --> 00:24:37.019
 spiritually

00:24:37.019 --> 00:24:37.600
 by reading

00:24:37.600 --> 00:24:38.100
 the Bible

00:24:38.100 --> 00:24:39.060
 through

00:24:39.060 --> 00:24:39.680
 prayer

00:24:39.680 --> 00:24:40.560
 and holding

00:24:40.560 --> 00:24:41.200
 our wives

00:24:41.200 --> 00:24:42.220
 to account

00:24:42.220 --> 00:24:44.180
 here's a

00:24:44.180 --> 00:24:44.600
 question to

00:24:44.600 --> 00:24:45.160
 ask yourselves

00:24:45.160 --> 00:24:45.600
 this evening

00:24:45.600 --> 00:24:45.880
 if you're

00:24:45.880 --> 00:24:46.259
 a husband

00:24:46.259 --> 00:24:47.960
 is my

00:24:47.960 --> 00:24:48.500
 wife

00:24:48.500 --> 00:24:49.700
 more like

00:24:49.700 --> 00:24:50.180
 Christ

00:24:50.180 --> 00:24:50.759
 because she's

00:24:50.759 --> 00:24:51.180
 married to

00:24:51.180 --> 00:24:51.420
 me

00:24:51.420 --> 00:24:55.120
 is my

00:24:55.120 --> 00:24:55.560
 wife

00:24:55.560 --> 00:24:56.060
 more like

00:24:56.060 --> 00:24:56.500
 Christ

00:24:56.500 --> 00:24:57.320
 because she's

00:24:57.320 --> 00:24:57.720
 married to

00:24:57.720 --> 00:24:57.900
 me

00:24:57.900 --> 00:24:58.740
 is my

00:24:58.740 --> 00:24:59.279
 wife

00:24:59.279 --> 00:25:00.220
 flourishing

00:25:00.220 --> 00:25:00.779
 under my

00:25:00.779 --> 00:25:01.340
 headship

00:25:01.340 --> 00:25:01.860
 or is

00:25:01.860 --> 00:25:02.140
 she

00:25:02.140 --> 00:25:02.720
 wilting

00:25:02.720 --> 00:25:04.580
 too

00:25:04.580 --> 00:25:05.000
 often

00:25:05.000 --> 00:25:05.400
 we're like

00:25:05.400 --> 00:25:05.759
 balls in

00:25:05.759 --> 00:25:06.100
 a china

00:25:06.099 --> 00:25:06.419
 shop

00:25:06.419 --> 00:25:06.859
 dishing

00:25:06.859 --> 00:25:07.039
 out

00:25:07.039 --> 00:25:07.519
 advice

00:25:07.519 --> 00:25:08.079
 without

00:25:08.079 --> 00:25:08.879
 sensitively

00:25:08.879 --> 00:25:09.279
 listening

00:25:09.279 --> 00:25:09.679
 to our

00:25:09.679 --> 00:25:10.059
 wives

00:25:10.059 --> 00:25:11.179
 and now

00:25:11.179 --> 00:25:11.799
 I am

00:25:11.799 --> 00:25:13.579
 too often

00:25:13.579 --> 00:25:13.779
 we're

00:25:13.779 --> 00:25:14.139
 ready to

00:25:14.139 --> 00:25:14.659
 rebuke

00:25:14.659 --> 00:25:15.240
 and yet

00:25:15.240 --> 00:25:15.579
 we do

00:25:15.579 --> 00:25:15.819
 it with

00:25:15.819 --> 00:25:16.279
 a self

00:25:16.279 --> 00:25:16.819
 righteous

00:25:16.819 --> 00:25:17.779
 attitude

00:25:17.779 --> 00:25:20.199
 too often

00:25:20.199 --> 00:25:20.500
 we are

00:25:20.500 --> 00:25:20.899
 lazy

00:25:20.899 --> 00:25:21.559
 and we

00:25:21.559 --> 00:25:21.939
 do not

00:25:21.939 --> 00:25:22.359
 point our

00:25:22.359 --> 00:25:22.819
 wives to

00:25:22.819 --> 00:25:23.079
 the Lord

00:25:23.079 --> 00:25:23.339
 Jesus

00:25:23.339 --> 00:25:23.839
 Christ

00:25:23.839 --> 00:25:24.159
 and we

00:25:24.159 --> 00:25:24.339
 need to

00:25:24.339 --> 00:25:24.639
 repent

00:25:24.639 --> 00:25:24.899
 of these

00:25:24.899 --> 00:25:25.279
 attitudes

00:25:25.279 --> 00:25:25.759
 don't we

00:25:25.759 --> 00:25:26.699
 this evening

00:25:26.699 --> 00:25:27.639
 we need to

00:25:27.639 --> 00:25:28.139
 repent

00:25:28.139 --> 00:25:29.500
 and seek

00:25:29.500 --> 00:25:30.419
 to lead

00:25:30.419 --> 00:25:31.019
 as Christ

00:25:31.019 --> 00:25:31.459
 has called

00:25:31.459 --> 00:25:31.819
 us to

00:25:31.819 --> 00:25:34.000
 so as

00:25:34.000 --> 00:25:34.259
 husbands

00:25:34.259 --> 00:25:34.559
 we have a

00:25:34.559 --> 00:25:34.740
 great

00:25:34.740 --> 00:25:35.259
 responsibility

00:25:35.259 --> 00:25:35.719
 don't we

00:25:35.720 --> 00:25:36.160
 this evening

00:25:36.160 --> 00:25:37.480
 a great

00:25:37.480 --> 00:25:37.759
 one

00:25:37.759 --> 00:25:39.380
 I don't

00:25:39.380 --> 00:25:39.759
 know about

00:25:39.759 --> 00:25:40.059
 you but

00:25:40.059 --> 00:25:40.460
 every time

00:25:40.460 --> 00:25:40.900
 I read

00:25:40.900 --> 00:25:41.140
 these

00:25:41.140 --> 00:25:41.480
 commands

00:25:41.480 --> 00:25:41.720
 in fact

00:25:41.720 --> 00:25:42.100
 I've been

00:25:42.100 --> 00:25:42.519
 preparing

00:25:42.519 --> 00:25:43.100
 this week

00:25:43.100 --> 00:25:43.680
 it's been

00:25:43.680 --> 00:25:44.100
 kicking me

00:25:44.100 --> 00:25:44.460
 left and

00:25:44.460 --> 00:25:44.779
 right

00:25:44.779 --> 00:25:46.140
 because we

00:25:46.140 --> 00:25:46.720
 fall so

00:25:46.720 --> 00:25:48.240
 far short

00:25:48.240 --> 00:25:48.720
 don't we

00:25:48.720 --> 00:25:50.220
 and so

00:25:50.220 --> 00:25:50.700
 what I need

00:25:50.700 --> 00:25:51.019
 to do

00:25:51.019 --> 00:25:51.259
 and what

00:25:51.259 --> 00:25:51.620
 you need

00:25:51.620 --> 00:25:52.000
 to do

00:25:52.000 --> 00:25:52.680
 is constantly

00:25:52.680 --> 00:25:53.299
 confess

00:25:53.299 --> 00:25:54.019
 our lack

00:25:54.019 --> 00:25:54.339
 of love

00:25:54.339 --> 00:25:54.660
 for our

00:25:54.660 --> 00:25:54.940
 wives

00:25:54.940 --> 00:25:55.480
 to Christ

00:25:55.480 --> 00:25:56.180
 and ask

00:25:56.180 --> 00:25:56.420
 him that

00:25:56.420 --> 00:25:56.680
 he might

00:25:56.680 --> 00:25:57.220
 help us

00:25:57.220 --> 00:25:58.120
 because we

00:25:58.120 --> 00:25:58.700
 cannot do it

00:25:58.700 --> 00:25:59.579
 by ourselves

00:25:59.579 --> 00:26:05.279
 if we're

00:26:05.279 --> 00:26:05.399
 going to

00:26:05.399 --> 00:26:05.599
 remember

00:26:05.599 --> 00:26:05.939
 anything

00:26:05.939 --> 00:26:06.339
 this evening

00:26:06.339 --> 00:26:06.599
 remember

00:26:06.599 --> 00:26:07.000
 this

00:26:07.000 --> 00:26:08.319
 Christ

00:26:08.319 --> 00:26:09.119
 showed

00:26:09.119 --> 00:26:09.720
 his love

00:26:09.720 --> 00:26:10.079
 for each

00:26:10.079 --> 00:26:10.460
 one of

00:26:10.460 --> 00:26:10.740
 us

00:26:10.740 --> 00:26:11.720
 by dying

00:26:11.720 --> 00:26:12.279
 for us

00:26:12.279 --> 00:26:12.939
 not while

00:26:12.939 --> 00:26:13.220
 we were

00:26:13.220 --> 00:26:13.799
 perfect

00:26:13.799 --> 00:26:14.480
 not while

00:26:14.480 --> 00:26:14.740
 we were

00:26:14.740 --> 00:26:15.059
 good

00:26:15.059 --> 00:26:15.740
 not while

00:26:15.740 --> 00:26:16.039
 we were

00:26:16.039 --> 00:26:16.419
 righteous

00:26:16.419 --> 00:26:17.079
 but when

00:26:17.079 --> 00:26:17.359
 we were

00:26:17.359 --> 00:26:17.859
 in sin

00:26:17.859 --> 00:26:19.379
 Graham

00:26:19.379 --> 00:26:19.679
 read this

00:26:19.679 --> 00:26:20.199
 out earlier

00:26:20.199 --> 00:26:21.099
 this is

00:26:21.099 --> 00:26:21.460
 love

00:26:21.460 --> 00:26:23.079
 not that

00:26:23.079 --> 00:26:23.519
 we love

00:26:23.519 --> 00:26:23.899
 God

00:26:23.900 --> 00:26:25.140
 we were

00:26:25.140 --> 00:26:25.680
 his enemies

00:26:25.680 --> 00:26:26.680
 but that

00:26:26.680 --> 00:26:27.320
 he loved

00:26:27.320 --> 00:26:27.840
 us

00:26:27.840 --> 00:26:28.620
 and sent

00:26:28.620 --> 00:26:29.300
 his son

00:26:29.300 --> 00:26:29.880
 as an

00:26:29.880 --> 00:26:30.280
 atoning

00:26:30.280 --> 00:26:30.960
 sacrifice

00:26:30.960 --> 00:26:32.180
 for our

00:26:32.180 --> 00:26:32.580
 sins

00:26:32.580 --> 00:26:33.880
 just think

00:26:33.880 --> 00:26:34.080
 about

00:26:34.080 --> 00:26:34.380
 Jesus

00:26:34.380 --> 00:26:34.759
 Christ

00:26:34.759 --> 00:26:35.360
 he loved

00:26:35.360 --> 00:26:35.580
 his

00:26:35.580 --> 00:26:36.060
 disciples

00:26:36.060 --> 00:26:36.700
 even though

00:26:36.700 --> 00:26:37.019
 they were

00:26:37.019 --> 00:26:37.420
 annoying

00:26:37.420 --> 00:26:39.360
 they were

00:26:39.360 --> 00:26:39.920
 frustrating

00:26:39.920 --> 00:26:40.620
 at times

00:26:40.620 --> 00:26:43.120
 he loved

00:26:43.120 --> 00:26:43.519
 his

00:26:43.519 --> 00:26:43.980
 disciples

00:26:43.980 --> 00:26:44.700
 even though

00:26:44.700 --> 00:26:45.140
 one

00:26:45.140 --> 00:26:45.640
 betrayed

00:26:45.640 --> 00:26:45.960
 him

00:26:45.960 --> 00:26:47.000
 he still

00:26:47.000 --> 00:26:47.240
 washed

00:26:47.240 --> 00:26:47.500
 Judas'

00:26:47.700 --> 00:26:47.960
 feet

00:26:47.960 --> 00:26:48.600
 in John

00:26:48.600 --> 00:26:49.060
 13

00:26:49.060 --> 00:26:51.560
 he loved

00:26:51.560 --> 00:26:52.460
 even though

00:26:52.460 --> 00:26:52.860
 all his

00:26:52.860 --> 00:26:53.440
 disciples

00:26:53.440 --> 00:26:54.259
 abandoned

00:26:54.259 --> 00:26:54.920
 him

00:26:54.920 --> 00:26:55.320
 at his

00:26:55.320 --> 00:26:55.880
 greatest

00:26:55.880 --> 00:26:56.320
 time

00:26:56.320 --> 00:26:57.039
 of need

00:26:57.039 --> 00:26:57.519
 as he

00:26:57.519 --> 00:26:57.820
 died

00:26:57.820 --> 00:26:58.120
 on the

00:26:58.120 --> 00:26:58.480
 cross

00:26:58.480 --> 00:26:59.860
 and he

00:26:59.860 --> 00:27:00.160
 loved

00:27:00.160 --> 00:27:00.559
 us

00:27:00.559 --> 00:27:01.180
 even

00:27:01.180 --> 00:27:01.539
 when

00:27:01.539 --> 00:27:01.799
 we

00:27:01.799 --> 00:27:02.059
 were

00:27:02.059 --> 00:27:02.480
 his

00:27:02.480 --> 00:27:03.039
 enemies

00:27:03.039 --> 00:27:03.480
 not his

00:27:03.480 --> 00:27:03.880
 friends

00:27:03.880 --> 00:27:06.059
 and in the

00:27:06.059 --> 00:27:06.720
 same way

00:27:06.720 --> 00:27:07.380
 this evening

00:27:07.380 --> 00:27:07.700
 we are

00:27:07.700 --> 00:27:08.039
 called to

00:27:08.039 --> 00:27:08.380
 love one

00:27:08.380 --> 00:27:08.700
 another

00:27:08.700 --> 00:27:10.420
 and this is

00:27:10.420 --> 00:27:10.759
 for all

00:27:10.759 --> 00:27:11.019
 people

00:27:11.019 --> 00:27:11.400
 isn't it

00:27:11.400 --> 00:27:11.740
 whether you're

00:27:11.740 --> 00:27:12.100
 single

00:27:12.100 --> 00:27:12.900
 or whether

00:27:12.900 --> 00:27:13.580
 you are

00:27:13.580 --> 00:27:13.980
 married

00:27:13.980 --> 00:27:16.259
 listen

00:27:16.259 --> 00:27:16.860
 husbands

00:27:16.860 --> 00:27:17.880
 our wives

00:27:17.880 --> 00:27:18.340
 will annoy

00:27:18.340 --> 00:27:18.600
 us at

00:27:18.600 --> 00:27:19.000
 times

00:27:19.000 --> 00:27:20.799
 our wives

00:27:20.799 --> 00:27:21.160
 will nag

00:27:21.160 --> 00:27:21.420
 us at

00:27:21.420 --> 00:27:21.840
 times

00:27:21.840 --> 00:27:22.860
 and that

00:27:22.860 --> 00:27:23.100
 will be

00:27:23.099 --> 00:27:23.719
 frustrating

00:27:23.719 --> 00:27:25.679
 listen

00:27:25.679 --> 00:27:26.079
 wives

00:27:26.079 --> 00:27:26.659
 our husbands

00:27:26.659 --> 00:27:27.079
 will do

00:27:27.079 --> 00:27:27.459
 stupid

00:27:27.459 --> 00:27:28.000
 things

00:27:28.000 --> 00:27:28.839
 will say

00:27:28.839 --> 00:27:29.240
 things at

00:27:29.240 --> 00:27:29.559
 the wrong

00:27:29.559 --> 00:27:30.039
 time

00:27:30.039 --> 00:27:33.579
 will be

00:27:33.579 --> 00:27:34.179
 insensitive

00:27:34.179 --> 00:27:36.019
 but we are

00:27:36.019 --> 00:27:36.399
 called to

00:27:36.399 --> 00:27:36.859
 love one

00:27:36.859 --> 00:27:37.059
 another

00:27:37.059 --> 00:27:37.599
 like Christ

00:27:37.599 --> 00:27:38.079
 has loved

00:27:38.079 --> 00:27:38.659
 us

00:27:38.659 --> 00:27:39.319
 and what

00:27:39.319 --> 00:27:39.839
 that means

00:27:39.839 --> 00:27:40.159
 is that we

00:27:40.159 --> 00:27:40.679
 love people

00:27:40.679 --> 00:27:40.959
 we don't

00:27:40.959 --> 00:27:41.599
 deserve it

00:27:41.599 --> 00:27:43.319
 that's the

00:27:43.319 --> 00:27:43.759
 love that we

00:27:43.759 --> 00:27:44.119
 need for

00:27:44.119 --> 00:27:44.539
 one another

00:27:44.539 --> 00:27:47.139
 we start

00:27:47.139 --> 00:27:47.459
 with the fact

00:27:47.459 --> 00:27:47.839
 that marriage

00:27:47.839 --> 00:27:48.459
 is difficult

00:27:48.459 --> 00:27:50.439
 it is a joy

00:27:50.439 --> 00:27:50.919
 of course

00:27:50.919 --> 00:27:51.359
 as well

00:27:51.359 --> 00:27:51.579
 we've been

00:27:51.579 --> 00:27:52.000
 married six

00:27:52.000 --> 00:27:52.379
 years

00:27:52.379 --> 00:27:53.240
 and I

00:27:53.240 --> 00:27:54.019
 love marriage

00:27:54.019 --> 00:27:54.819
 but it is

00:27:54.819 --> 00:27:55.179
 difficult

00:27:55.179 --> 00:27:56.099
 isn't it

00:27:56.099 --> 00:27:59.000
 my task

00:27:59.000 --> 00:27:59.419
 isn't made

00:27:59.419 --> 00:27:59.979
 any easier

00:27:59.979 --> 00:28:00.339
 by looking

00:28:00.339 --> 00:28:00.619
 at those

00:28:00.619 --> 00:28:01.039
 commands

00:28:01.039 --> 00:28:01.419
 isn't it

00:28:01.419 --> 00:28:01.899
 submission

00:28:01.899 --> 00:28:02.979
 and love

00:28:02.979 --> 00:28:04.279
 especially when

00:28:04.279 --> 00:28:04.939
 you have a

00:28:04.939 --> 00:28:05.339
 look at them

00:28:05.339 --> 00:28:05.740
 and see how

00:28:05.740 --> 00:28:06.339
 difficult they

00:28:06.339 --> 00:28:06.579
 are

00:28:06.579 --> 00:28:07.659
 we're going

00:28:07.659 --> 00:28:08.000
 to mess

00:28:08.000 --> 00:28:08.279
 up

00:28:08.279 --> 00:28:08.759
 we're going

00:28:08.759 --> 00:28:09.339
 to dishonor

00:28:09.339 --> 00:28:09.819
 one another

00:28:09.819 --> 00:28:14.159
 but here's the

00:28:14.159 --> 00:28:14.439
 hope

00:28:14.439 --> 00:28:14.959
 we have the

00:28:14.959 --> 00:28:15.299
 gospel

00:28:15.299 --> 00:28:17.339
 do not

00:28:17.339 --> 00:28:17.779
 flee to

00:28:17.779 --> 00:28:18.259
 one another

00:28:18.259 --> 00:28:19.000
 this evening

00:28:19.000 --> 00:28:19.379
 but flee

00:28:19.379 --> 00:28:19.919
 to Christ

00:28:19.919 --> 00:28:20.759
 for help

00:28:20.759 --> 00:28:22.200
 if anything

00:28:22.200 --> 00:28:22.779
 all these

00:28:22.779 --> 00:28:23.399
 commands do

00:28:23.399 --> 00:28:23.859
 is help us

00:28:23.859 --> 00:28:24.339
 to cling

00:28:24.339 --> 00:28:25.039
 to the

00:28:25.039 --> 00:28:25.480
 Lord Jesus

00:28:25.480 --> 00:28:26.000
 more and

00:28:26.000 --> 00:28:26.359
 more

00:28:26.359 --> 00:28:26.980
 because he

00:28:26.980 --> 00:28:27.319
 is our

00:28:27.319 --> 00:28:27.759
 strength

00:28:27.759 --> 00:28:28.480
 he is our

00:28:28.480 --> 00:28:28.779
 hope

00:28:28.779 --> 00:28:29.419
 he is our

00:28:29.419 --> 00:28:29.759
 portion

00:28:29.759 --> 00:28:30.279
 this evening

00:28:30.279 --> 00:28:30.879
 and as we

00:28:30.879 --> 00:28:31.399
 run to the

00:28:31.399 --> 00:28:31.819
 Lord Jesus

00:28:31.819 --> 00:28:32.359
 Christ

00:28:32.359 --> 00:28:33.220
 and see the

00:28:33.220 --> 00:28:33.879
 great love

00:28:33.879 --> 00:28:34.339
 that he has

00:28:34.339 --> 00:28:35.019
 had for us

00:28:35.019 --> 00:28:35.599
 as sinners

00:28:35.599 --> 00:28:36.639
 it will help

00:28:36.639 --> 00:28:37.139
 us to have

00:28:37.139 --> 00:28:37.859
 compassion and

00:28:37.859 --> 00:28:38.680
 love for each

00:28:38.680 --> 00:28:39.119
 other in our

00:28:39.119 --> 00:28:39.480
 marriages

00:28:39.480 --> 00:28:40.639
 and also in

00:28:40.639 --> 00:28:41.119
 this church

00:28:41.119 --> 00:28:41.519
 as well

00:28:41.519 --> 00:28:44.819
 we confess

00:28:44.819 --> 00:28:45.500
 our sin

00:28:45.500 --> 00:28:46.019
 regularly

00:28:46.019 --> 00:28:47.440
 we look to

00:28:47.440 --> 00:28:47.859
 Christ

00:28:47.859 --> 00:28:49.119
 and love

00:28:49.119 --> 00:28:49.900
 one another

00:28:49.900 --> 00:28:50.200
 well

00:28:50.200 --> 00:28:50.940
 amen

00:28:50.940 --> 00:28:53.359
 let me pray

00:28:53.359 --> 00:28:54.859
 for us

00:28:54.859 --> 00:29:02.879
 father God

00:29:02.879 --> 00:29:03.359
 we thank you

00:29:03.359 --> 00:29:03.779
 for the great

00:29:03.779 --> 00:29:04.160
 joy

00:29:04.160 --> 00:29:05.859
 and privilege

00:29:05.859 --> 00:29:06.960
 marriage is

00:29:06.960 --> 00:29:08.960
 but we know

00:29:08.960 --> 00:29:09.440
 when we look

00:29:09.440 --> 00:29:10.119
 at our

00:29:10.119 --> 00:29:10.680
 relationships

00:29:10.680 --> 00:29:11.420
 that marriage

00:29:11.420 --> 00:29:11.940
 is difficult

00:29:11.940 --> 00:29:12.400
 as well

00:29:12.400 --> 00:29:13.880
 and I just

00:29:13.880 --> 00:29:14.279
 pray that you

00:29:14.279 --> 00:29:14.820
 might empower

00:29:14.820 --> 00:29:15.940
 each one of

00:29:15.940 --> 00:29:16.420
 the couples

00:29:16.420 --> 00:29:17.300
 here to

00:29:17.300 --> 00:29:17.840
 love one

00:29:17.840 --> 00:29:18.320
 another as

00:29:18.320 --> 00:29:18.840
 Christ has

00:29:18.840 --> 00:29:19.360
 loved them

00:29:19.360 --> 00:29:21.320
 help wives

00:29:21.320 --> 00:29:21.820
 to submit

00:29:21.820 --> 00:29:22.539
 with a joyful

00:29:22.539 --> 00:29:23.360
 attitude as

00:29:23.360 --> 00:29:24.019
 Christ submitted

00:29:24.019 --> 00:29:24.360
 to the

00:29:24.360 --> 00:29:24.759
 father

00:29:24.759 --> 00:29:27.460
 I pray that

00:29:27.460 --> 00:29:28.060
 husbands would

00:29:28.060 --> 00:29:28.600
 lay down their

00:29:28.600 --> 00:29:29.820
 lives for

00:29:29.820 --> 00:29:30.600
 their wives

00:29:30.600 --> 00:29:32.420
 Lord forgive

00:29:32.420 --> 00:29:34.140
 us for our

00:29:34.140 --> 00:29:35.400
 sin we

00:29:35.400 --> 00:29:36.220
 confess that we

00:29:36.220 --> 00:29:36.880
 have not lived

00:29:36.880 --> 00:29:37.380
 up to the

00:29:37.380 --> 00:29:37.940
 standards that

00:29:37.940 --> 00:29:38.320
 you've called

00:29:38.320 --> 00:29:38.640
 us in

00:29:38.640 --> 00:29:39.960
 scripture and

00:29:39.960 --> 00:29:40.480
 yet we flee

00:29:40.480 --> 00:29:41.060
 to Christ

00:29:41.059 --> 00:29:42.019
 thank you

00:29:42.019 --> 00:29:42.240
 that there

00:29:42.240 --> 00:29:42.779
 is forgiveness

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 there thank

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 you that there

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 is rest

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 there I

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 just pray that

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 this church

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 at Brunsfield

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 would continue

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 to be built

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 up in

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 Christ and

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 that they

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 would reflect

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 his bride

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 more and

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 more and

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 that you

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 would present

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 them spotless

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 and without

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 fault before

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 you on that

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 glorious day

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 when Christ

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 finally meets

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 his bride the

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 church forever

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 in Jesus

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 name we

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 pray amen

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 before we

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 sing I'll

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 hand back to

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 Graham

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 a couple of

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 questions

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 apparently you

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 have a bit of

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 Q&A

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 well you're not

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 asking me

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 questions but I'm

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 going to give you a

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 couple of questions

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 to go away and

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 think about

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 so a couple of

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 questions should you

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 think about what does

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 it mean for

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 husbands to love

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 their wives as

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 Christ loves the

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 church

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 and then second

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 question in what

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 ways can I love my

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 spouse better and

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 are there any sins

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 that I need to

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 confess if you

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 want to go

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 dangerous then

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 you ask your

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 husband and wife

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 that question

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 me and my wife

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 do this once a

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 quarter we ask

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 each other is

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 there anything

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 that I've done

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 to harm you in

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 the last few

00:30:46.679 --> 00:30:47.839
 months particularly

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 is there anything

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 I can improve on

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 any sins that

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 you see in my

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 life that can be

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 a painful

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 conversation but

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 a fruitful one as

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 well so you can

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 either ask it to

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 yourself or ask

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 your husband and

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 wife cool

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 hand up to

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 Graham

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 or then

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chat

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 m

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 director

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 of

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居

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 ch

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 come

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 read

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 com