WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.000 So today I'm going to be preaching on honor. 00:00:03.760 --> 00:00:09.000 Specifically, I'm going to be preaching on honor as pertains to the scriptural perspective of honor. 00:00:09.000 --> 00:00:20.000 ! When we say honor, there's different definitions. People use this word totally different. Like you'll hear one person using the term honor and another person using the term honor. 00:00:20.000 --> 00:00:28.000 They mean entirely different things. What the scripture means when he uses honor, the actual word from scripture means weight. 00:00:28.000 --> 00:00:34.000 So when we honor people, it means that we are valuing them highly. We are giving them great weight. 00:00:34.000 --> 00:00:50.000 Okay? And as we'll see, as we go through these scriptures, in our, let's say, selfish disposition toward honor, our primary relationship with honor can be demanding honor. 00:00:50.000 --> 00:01:00.000 But as we'll see, as we go through scripture, the entire focus, virtually the entire focus, is on us bestowing honor to others. 00:01:00.000 --> 00:01:06.000 It's not about us demanding honor. It's about us giving honor freely. 00:01:06.000 --> 00:01:12.000 We live in a day and age, I believe, that has really lost the virtue of honor. 00:01:12.000 --> 00:01:34.000 We don't live in an honor culture. We live in what's called cancel culture, where people's disgrace is what is sought after and advertised so as to dishonor them, rather than having a perspective of wanting to value people highly. 00:01:34.000 --> 00:01:49.000 Also, as we'll see, one of the really important aspects about honor is honor is something, when you get it right, the wisdom and maturity of generations reverberates through generations. 00:01:49.000 --> 00:02:01.000 Honor is one of the things that passes the wisdom and maturity, that passes the baton of wisdom and maturity, one generation to the next. 00:02:01.000 --> 00:02:09.000 And we live in a day and age where, you know, not that long ago, I think it was said, you know, don't trust anything a person says who's older than 30. 00:02:09.000 --> 00:02:13.000 And now we have our own version of that. That was back in the 1960s. 00:02:13.000 --> 00:02:17.000 And now we have our own version of that where you hear people say things all the time, like, okay, boomer. 00:02:17.000 --> 00:02:26.000 There's like these terms that people use, especially to those generations that go before them, that are particular terms of disgrace and dismissal. 00:02:26.000 --> 00:02:39.000 The Lord has called us and wants us to understand that there's a perspective of when we honor, there is a blessing that reverberates through generations. 00:02:39.000 --> 00:02:43.000 And when we get this wrong, we handicap younger generations. 00:02:43.000 --> 00:02:55.000 Furthermore, there is a really unique aspect about honor that specifically creates healthy dynamics in the midst of distinction. 00:02:55.000 --> 00:02:58.000 Honor loves distinction. 00:02:58.000 --> 00:03:08.000 Honor is something that when we get right, the parts of us that are very different than other parts, 00:03:08.000 --> 00:03:12.000 are able to have great teamwork communion. 00:03:12.000 --> 00:03:27.000 We are able to perform in a way that there is excellence in unity, because honor is one of the things specifically that creates healthy relationship in the midst of distinction. 00:03:27.000 --> 00:03:32.000 So I'm going to go over a couple of verses that are going to kind of create a framework here. 00:03:32.000 --> 00:03:37.000 And then I'm going to go through a bunch of different verses in scripture to refer to honor. 00:03:37.000 --> 00:03:48.000 The first one, Josh actually preached on this just a couple of months ago, but I'm going to preach on it as it pertains to this, which is the description of the body. 00:03:48.000 --> 00:03:51.000 That I cannot say to the hand. Think of distinction here. 00:03:51.000 --> 00:03:53.000 This is talking about distinction. 00:03:53.000 --> 00:04:02.000 The eye cannot say to the hand. I have no need of you, nor can the hand to the feet. I have no need of you. 00:04:02.000 --> 00:04:09.000 On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable. 00:04:09.000 --> 00:04:16.000 So the parts of the body that we think are easily cast aside are indispensable. 00:04:16.000 --> 00:04:18.000 This is a really powerful word. 00:04:18.000 --> 00:04:24.000 And those parts of the body that we think less honorable, we bestow greater honor. 00:04:24.000 --> 00:04:34.000 And our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, which are more presentable parts do not require. 00:04:34.000 --> 00:04:42.000 But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the parts that lack it, that there may be no division in the body. 00:04:42.000 --> 00:04:49.000 So this whole principle of honor is one of the things that causes the opposite of division, which is unity. 00:04:49.000 --> 00:04:53.000 But that the members may have the same care for one another. 00:04:53.000 --> 00:04:58.000 If one member suffers, all suffer. 00:04:58.000 --> 00:05:03.000 If one member is honored, all rejoice together. 00:05:03.000 --> 00:05:26.000 There is an aspect of honored that knits us together as a body, but also even our own families in such a manner that distinctions in those of us who are better at things that are easily forgotten or easily dismissed are built up, appreciated in their distinction, and it creates unity in the midst of diversity. 00:05:26.000 --> 00:05:27.000 Okay? 00:05:27.000 --> 00:05:36.000 But also, it helps so that the body appropriately experiences and suffers together. 00:05:36.000 --> 00:05:38.000 And what does it also say? 00:05:38.000 --> 00:05:40.000 Rejoices together. 00:05:40.000 --> 00:05:53.000 One of the things that can happen when we get honor wrong is that you can have a part, an indispensable part that is suffering and unacknowledged in isolation. 00:05:53.000 --> 00:06:00.000 If we had more honor, we would all actually suffer together and rejoice together with them. 00:06:00.000 --> 00:06:07.000 This is a really, really crucial thing, not only for us as a family of believers, but also for us to get right in our own homes. 00:06:07.000 --> 00:06:08.000 Okay? 00:06:08.000 --> 00:06:09.000 I'm going to go to the next. 00:06:09.000 --> 00:06:13.000 This is the most famous verse on honor in all of Scripture. 00:06:13.000 --> 00:06:17.000 Paul calls it the first commandment with a promise. 00:06:17.000 --> 00:06:23.000 Again, think of honor as something that causes a blessing to reverberate through generations. 00:06:23.000 --> 00:06:24.000 Exodus 20, 12. 00:06:24.000 --> 00:06:35.000 Honor your father and your mother so that you may live long in the land that your Lord God has given you. 00:06:35.000 --> 00:06:49.000 One of the reasons why it's so important that we honor our parents, one of the reasons it's so important that we teach our children to honor their parents, is because there is a blessing at stake here. 00:06:49.000 --> 00:06:57.000 There is an honor that produces a reverberation of wisdom and maturity through the generations. 00:06:57.000 --> 00:07:11.000 I think because we do live in a day and age that is kind of more disgrace oriented, the opposite of honor, we can casually coast into tolerating dishonor in our own presence, in our own home, and in our own hearts. 00:07:11.000 --> 00:07:16.000 And not actually see, there's actually very serious consequences. 00:07:16.000 --> 00:07:24.000 Also, this is one of those things that we want things to go well for our children. 00:07:24.000 --> 00:07:29.000 I was even just thinking in terms of what are some traditions that we can refer to that still do a good job of this. 00:07:29.000 --> 00:07:31.000 I think one of them is like martial arts traditions. 00:07:31.000 --> 00:07:37.000 You can kind of see where like lesson one is like honor the martial arts master. 00:07:37.000 --> 00:07:40.000 We don't necessarily do that. 00:07:40.000 --> 00:07:41.000 And you talk louder. 00:07:41.000 --> 00:07:42.000 We don't necessarily do that. 00:07:42.000 --> 00:07:50.000 But actually, that's a very important lesson one, because the wisdom he is trying to instill is not going to be instilled. 00:07:50.000 --> 00:07:55.000 It's not going to reverberate through to his disciples unless you get that right. 00:07:55.000 --> 00:08:03.000 And even us as parents, when we get this right, the wisdom we're trying to impart to our children, it is going to reverberate. 00:08:03.000 --> 00:08:11.000 But when we kind of like care little about this, I think we actually miss some of the consequences that happen. 00:08:11.000 --> 00:08:16.000 Furthermore, even us as adults, it says, honor your father and your mother. 00:08:16.000 --> 00:08:28.000 As we get older, one of the things that can happen, does happen, is we start to have a more mature reflection on how our parents raised us. 00:08:28.000 --> 00:08:44.000 One of the things that is very, very liberating, I think is one of the ways in which we can continue to have this verse mature in our hearts as we mature with years, is being able to see the ways in which your parents did things well. 00:08:44.000 --> 00:08:47.000 And honor those things. 00:08:47.000 --> 00:08:49.000 I'm so glad my parents taught me thus and so. 00:08:49.000 --> 00:08:52.000 I'm so glad they actually carry that baton. 00:08:52.000 --> 00:08:56.000 Your parents have given you a baton where you don't have to start all over again in life. 00:08:56.000 --> 00:08:59.000 You can start from where they started, where they handed it to you. 00:08:59.000 --> 00:09:03.000 Subsequently, we can also honor our parents. 00:09:03.000 --> 00:09:05.000 I'm talking about as adults here. 00:09:05.000 --> 00:09:17.000 The areas in which they failed us, to be able to let go of that and actually have forgiveness, and let that not be something that perpetually taint our disposition towards our parents. 00:09:17.000 --> 00:09:20.000 It's very honoring towards our parents for us to be able to let those things go. 00:09:20.000 --> 00:09:22.000 And don't we want our kids to be able to do that one day? 00:09:22.000 --> 00:09:27.000 One day our kids are going to be able to see how we really fail with them. 00:09:27.000 --> 00:09:35.000 We really want them to carry the baton of what we did well, and we really want them to let go of the things we did not. 00:09:35.000 --> 00:09:36.000 Right? 00:09:36.000 --> 00:09:47.000 And one of the things we're going to see, again, as we go through other scriptures, one of the things that's at stake here when you don't do this well is being overly quarrelsome and contentious. 00:09:47.000 --> 00:09:51.000 When we don't have a good relationship with honor, it creates division. 00:09:51.000 --> 00:09:53.000 That's even what's said in the last message. 00:09:53.000 --> 00:09:54.000 All right? 00:09:54.000 --> 00:09:56.000 All right, I'm going to keep on going. 00:09:56.000 --> 00:09:57.000 Philippians 2, verse 3. 00:09:57.000 --> 00:10:00.000 There are so many verses on honor in scripture. 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:01.000 The Lord cares a lot about this. 00:10:01.000 --> 00:10:05.000 Even though we don't talk about it very much, the Lord actually cares a lot about this. 00:10:05.000 --> 00:10:08.000 Philippians 2, verse 3. 00:10:08.000 --> 00:10:13.000 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or bane conceit. 00:10:13.000 --> 00:10:14.000 This is arrogance. 00:10:14.000 --> 00:10:20.000 Rather, in humility, value others above yourself. 00:10:20.000 --> 00:10:33.000 I think one of the most important things here when we're talking about honor is that if we receive this from the Lord and just think about all the ways in which other people aren't honoring us, we totally miss the mark. 00:10:33.000 --> 00:10:38.000 The Lord wants us to receive this insofar as we are extending honor to other people. 00:10:38.000 --> 00:10:53.000 And when we can have conviction and maturity in receiving the word of the Lord, what really can change is the way that we are extending honor rather than our entitlement towards how we want to receive honor. 00:10:53.000 --> 00:11:04.000 And I think this is one of those things where there is an arrogance that demands honor, but there is a humility that values others higher than ourselves. 00:11:04.000 --> 00:11:15.000 And that, I believe, is the real catalyst for us to be able to create a culture of honor, both in the body but also in our homes. 00:11:15.000 --> 00:11:18.000 Proverbs 20, verse 3. 00:11:18.000 --> 00:11:22.000 It is to one's honor to avoid strife. 00:11:22.000 --> 00:11:29.000 Again, there's actually a real tension between being quarrelsome and having a poor relationship with honor. 00:11:29.000 --> 00:11:31.000 Again, this is the day and age we live in. 00:11:31.000 --> 00:11:33.000 We live in a very quarrelsome day and age. 00:11:33.000 --> 00:11:40.000 We live in a day and age that is very prone to have strife over distinction rather than being able to actually honor one another who are different. 00:11:40.000 --> 00:11:44.000 It is to one's honor to avoid strife. 00:11:44.000 --> 00:11:48.000 But every fool is quick to quarrel. 00:11:48.000 --> 00:11:52.000 There is quarrels in this when we lose vision for honor. 00:11:52.000 --> 00:11:57.000 We need to have this humility that values others want. 00:11:57.000 --> 00:12:00.000 1 Timothy 5, verses 1 and 2. 00:12:00.000 --> 00:12:03.000 I think this is an echo of that same verse. 00:12:03.000 --> 00:12:05.000 Honor thy father and thy mother. 00:12:05.000 --> 00:12:06.000 Can you guys hear me very good? 00:12:06.000 --> 00:12:08.000 Can you hear me back there? 00:12:08.000 --> 00:12:10.000 Do you want to talk louder? 00:12:10.000 --> 00:12:12.000 Okay, good. 00:12:12.000 --> 00:12:17.000 1 Timothy 5, starting in verse 1. 00:12:17.000 --> 00:12:24.000 Do not rebuke an older man, but encourage him as you would a father. 00:12:24.000 --> 00:12:32.000 There is a way that honor creates a good relationship one generation to the next. 00:12:32.000 --> 00:12:38.000 We should not be correcting our parents, even us as adults, in the same way that we would appear. 00:12:38.000 --> 00:12:46.000 And we should also not be correcting those who are older than us, like those of that next generation, in the same way that we would an equal. 00:12:46.000 --> 00:12:47.000 We just shouldn't. 00:12:47.000 --> 00:12:51.000 That's one of the ways in which we can have a strong relationship with honoring. 00:12:51.000 --> 00:12:56.000 When we are seeking that their wisdom and their maturity would reverberate through the generations. 00:12:56.000 --> 00:12:58.000 We should seek to honor them. 00:12:58.000 --> 00:13:03.000 This is actually one of the things that's been really helpful for me and Evangeline both, especially dealing with our in-laws. 00:13:03.000 --> 00:13:06.000 We actually quote this verse to each other. 00:13:06.000 --> 00:13:10.000 Because, you know, as you get older, you also have a familial relationship. 00:13:10.000 --> 00:13:12.000 We get more comfortable in our familial relationships. 00:13:12.000 --> 00:13:16.000 It's harder for me to honor my wife because there's less social rules. 00:13:16.000 --> 00:13:18.000 We're more our raw self. 00:13:18.000 --> 00:13:21.000 It's harder for us to honor our parents. 00:13:21.000 --> 00:13:25.000 One of the things we actually say to each other is you can't rebuke them. 00:13:25.000 --> 00:13:29.000 There's so many things that come up where it's very tempting to just let your parents have them. 00:13:29.000 --> 00:13:30.000 You know what I'm saying? 00:13:30.000 --> 00:13:31.000 There's so many things. 00:13:31.000 --> 00:13:33.000 And this also pertains to spouses. 00:13:33.000 --> 00:13:34.000 We're going to get to that. 00:13:34.000 --> 00:13:44.000 I believe it's harder to honor those who are more relationally near us, especially those of our own household. 00:13:44.000 --> 00:13:45.000 Okay? 00:13:45.000 --> 00:13:50.000 Do not rebuke an older man, but encourage him as you would a father. 00:13:50.000 --> 00:13:53.000 Younger men as brothers. 00:13:53.000 --> 00:13:55.000 Older women as mothers. 00:13:55.000 --> 00:13:57.000 Younger women as sisters in all purity. 00:13:57.000 --> 00:14:09.000 It's a really healthy thing for us to get this right as a body that we teach our children and our examples to our children of treating older women and older men as like fathers and mothers. 00:14:09.000 --> 00:14:12.000 It's really good for us to have these familial principles in place. 00:14:12.000 --> 00:14:20.000 It's one of the ways in which we can actually set our children up for success because this is actually an opportunity for us to embody some of these things, even as adults, I believe. 00:14:25.000 --> 00:14:26.000 Romans 12, 10. 00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:31.000 Be devoted to one another in love. 00:14:31.000 --> 00:14:35.000 Honor one another above yourself. 00:14:35.000 --> 00:14:37.000 Again, same thing. 00:14:37.000 --> 00:14:43.000 Having this disposition where we are trying to extend honor to others. 00:14:43.000 --> 00:14:44.000 That's the primary goal. 00:14:44.000 --> 00:14:47.000 Me extending honor to others. 00:14:47.000 --> 00:14:51.000 Proverbs 18, 12. 00:14:51.000 --> 00:14:53.000 I'm doing really good for time. 00:14:53.000 --> 00:14:55.000 Proverbs 18, 12. 00:14:55.000 --> 00:14:58.000 Before destruction. 00:14:58.000 --> 00:15:00.000 A man's heart is haughty. 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:03.000 But humility. 00:15:03.000 --> 00:15:04.000 Comes before. 00:15:04.000 --> 00:15:05.000 Honor. 00:15:05.000 --> 00:15:07.000 So again, this distinction. 00:15:07.000 --> 00:15:10.000 There's an arrogance that leads to destruction. 00:15:10.000 --> 00:15:15.000 But there's a humility that produces honor. 00:15:15.000 --> 00:15:19.000 And actually probably just as a theme. 00:15:19.000 --> 00:15:22.000 I think one of the main things that gets in our way of honoring other people's. 00:15:22.000 --> 00:15:26.000 Honoring other people well is our own arrogance. 00:15:26.000 --> 00:15:27.000 Yeah. 00:15:27.000 --> 00:15:28.000 Yeah. 00:15:28.000 --> 00:15:32.000 We are in the way of our ability to value others well. 00:15:32.000 --> 00:15:41.000 And this applies to our relationship with the wives. 00:15:41.000 --> 00:15:49.000 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way. 00:15:49.000 --> 00:15:54.000 Showing honor to the women as the weaker vessel. 00:15:54.000 --> 00:15:56.000 Since they are heirs with you. 00:15:56.000 --> 00:15:58.000 So again, think inheritance here. 00:15:58.000 --> 00:16:02.000 They are heirs with you of the grace of life. 00:16:02.000 --> 00:16:03.000 So this is Paul's. 00:16:03.000 --> 00:16:07.000 This is Paul's term for the fruit of honor. 00:16:07.000 --> 00:16:08.000 He's calling it the grace of life. 00:16:08.000 --> 00:16:10.000 And there is an inheritance that comes. 00:16:10.000 --> 00:16:12.000 It's called the grace of life. 00:16:12.000 --> 00:16:15.000 Which is the opposite of disgrace. 00:16:15.000 --> 00:16:16.000 Okay. 00:16:16.000 --> 00:16:18.000 There's a grace of life that comes. 00:16:18.000 --> 00:16:21.000 When we get honor correctly in our marriages. 00:16:21.000 --> 00:16:24.000 So that your prayers may not be hindered. 00:16:24.000 --> 00:16:25.000 I'm going to pick apart this verse. 00:16:25.000 --> 00:16:29.000 Live with your wives in an understanding way. 00:16:29.000 --> 00:16:31.000 The Lord has fashioned women as such. 00:16:31.000 --> 00:16:33.000 They have understanding. 00:16:33.000 --> 00:16:37.000 The embodiment of wisdom in the Old Testament is a woman. 00:16:37.000 --> 00:16:39.000 And for those of you who are married. 00:16:39.000 --> 00:16:41.000 The Lord has given you a woman. 00:16:41.000 --> 00:16:45.000 Who is to portray and communicate wisdom. 00:16:45.000 --> 00:16:47.000 That you might understand. 00:16:47.000 --> 00:16:53.000 When we believe that our wife is imparting wisdom to us. 00:16:53.000 --> 00:16:55.000 We can understand it. 00:16:55.000 --> 00:16:57.000 And we can live differently. 00:16:57.000 --> 00:17:01.000 Which is called living with your wife in an understanding way. 00:17:01.000 --> 00:17:04.000 When we dismiss them. 00:17:04.000 --> 00:17:07.000 When we just try to appease them. 00:17:07.000 --> 00:17:10.000 This is negating. 00:17:10.000 --> 00:17:13.000 The fruit that comes. 00:17:13.000 --> 00:17:15.000 From listening to your wife. 00:17:15.000 --> 00:17:17.000 With understanding. 00:17:17.000 --> 00:17:19.000 As if she. 00:17:19.000 --> 00:17:20.000 Is actual vehicle. 00:17:20.000 --> 00:17:24.000 Of the wisdom that comes from the Lord. 00:17:24.000 --> 00:17:26.000 Next part. 00:17:26.000 --> 00:17:27.000 Showing honor. 00:17:27.000 --> 00:17:28.000 So I think. 00:17:28.000 --> 00:17:29.000 Again think. 00:17:29.000 --> 00:17:30.000 Valuing highly. 00:17:30.000 --> 00:17:33.000 Showing honor to the woman. 00:17:33.000 --> 00:17:34.000 As the weaker vessel. 00:17:34.000 --> 00:17:38.000 Women are more of fine china. 00:17:38.000 --> 00:17:41.000 Men are more of tin cans. 00:17:41.000 --> 00:17:42.000 There is a distinction. 00:17:42.000 --> 00:17:44.000 In the actual makeup. 00:17:44.000 --> 00:17:45.000 Of women. 00:17:45.000 --> 00:17:47.000 Than men. 00:17:47.000 --> 00:17:50.000 For good reason. 00:17:50.000 --> 00:17:52.000 This is one of the opportunities again to honor. 00:17:52.000 --> 00:17:53.000 Think distinction here. 00:17:53.000 --> 00:17:54.000 Honor. 00:17:54.000 --> 00:17:55.000 Helps. 00:17:55.000 --> 00:17:56.000 Distinction. 00:17:56.000 --> 00:17:57.000 Have its full form. 00:17:57.000 --> 00:17:58.000 Its full valuable form. 00:17:58.000 --> 00:17:59.000 One of the ways that. 00:17:59.000 --> 00:18:00.000 The Lord has created women. 00:18:00.000 --> 00:18:01.000 Is he has heightened their sensitivity to life. 00:18:01.000 --> 00:18:02.000 Now you could choose to believe. 00:18:02.000 --> 00:18:03.000 That that is a mistake. 00:18:03.000 --> 00:18:04.000 It is not a mistake. 00:18:04.000 --> 00:18:05.000 It is a feature. 00:18:05.000 --> 00:18:06.000 Not a bug. 00:18:06.000 --> 00:18:07.000 One of the things that just happened the other day. 00:18:07.000 --> 00:18:08.000 Is I came into our workout room. 00:18:08.000 --> 00:18:09.000 And I had. 00:18:09.000 --> 00:18:10.000 We have cold plunge. 00:18:10.000 --> 00:18:11.000 I drink all the water out of it. 00:18:11.000 --> 00:18:12.000 And there was a little bit of water. 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:12.000 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:12.000 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:12.000 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:12.000 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:12.000 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:12.000 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:12.000 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:13.000 I could not smell at all. 00:18:13.000 --> 00:18:14.000 So I went ahead and fixed it. 00:18:14.000 --> 00:18:15.000 And I fixed it. 00:18:15.000 --> 00:18:16.000 Basically. 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being in that room because she gets smelled really strongly i could not smell it at all 00:18:39.400 --> 00:18:42.440 so i went ahead and fixed it there is something about women 00:18:44.279 --> 00:18:53.480 this is biological guys that are more sensitive to the nuances of life and those nuances of life 00:18:53.480 --> 00:18:58.680 because of their heightened sensitivity actually affects them more just the other night there was 00:18:58.680 --> 00:19:04.839 that thunderstorm and our dog nala was inside and it was super tormenting chary she was having 00:19:04.839 --> 00:19:08.359 such a hard time and it's not because she's some young dog that hasn't experienced lightning 00:19:08.359 --> 00:19:13.159 storms she's experienced them tons it's because she has better sense of hearing and it literally 00:19:13.159 --> 00:19:19.240 hurts her eardrums when it's really loud the lord has fashioned women so they are more sensitive to 00:19:19.240 --> 00:19:26.359 life so they pick up on a lot of things that men do not pick up on and men can appreciate them for 00:19:26.359 --> 00:19:32.839 that and honor them in that and protect them better for that and seek out what they what wisdom they 00:19:32.839 --> 00:19:41.319 have to portray or men can be yet another thing that is painful and difficult and overwhelming in life 00:19:42.519 --> 00:19:46.519 but here's let me just tell you husbands this is what's going to happen we can get home from work 00:19:47.079 --> 00:19:50.679 my wife does me all the time okay by the way i really suck at this i'm like speaking as the person 00:19:50.679 --> 00:19:54.439 who's done this really poorly so it says if you want to speak with confidence i'm not good at this 00:19:54.439 --> 00:19:59.559 evangelist told me on friday she was like man i wish you were preaching on honor all the time 00:19:59.559 --> 00:20:05.480 i've been feeling convicted by these things that have been treated very different she's like and 00:20:05.480 --> 00:20:07.319 maybe you should just do like a series on honor 00:20:10.599 --> 00:20:17.480 okay i'm gonna give you guys a scenario come over to work and your wife has a report that she would 00:20:17.480 --> 00:20:25.319 like to give you it reminds me of that episode in the office when corporate sends like a corporate review 00:20:26.039 --> 00:20:31.480 to michael and pam prints it out for him and it's like the profit and laws and the performance and 00:20:31.480 --> 00:20:35.480 they're like maybe going to get shut down as a branch it's like a really important document they send 00:20:35.480 --> 00:20:41.960 over this corporate evaluation and pam prints it out for him and brings it to his desk and he picks it up 00:20:41.960 --> 00:20:51.000 and throws it right in the trash your wives are designed such they are more in tune and making up on 00:20:51.000 --> 00:20:58.279 things faster than you are and more accurately than you are and you are coming home and i'm wanting 00:20:58.279 --> 00:21:03.880 to give you a report on not only how things are going but how things are going such that is 00:21:03.880 --> 00:21:09.319 significantly affecting them the only things we do as husbands this is not honoring our life as the 00:21:09.319 --> 00:21:15.319 weaker vessel because we pick it up we throw it in the trash or even worse than that we attack them and 00:21:15.319 --> 00:21:21.399 treat them as an enemy so now they're overwhelmed by life because of their increased sensitivity life 00:21:21.399 --> 00:21:26.439 does affect them more significantly to us and we can see that as a strength or we can treat it as like 00:21:26.439 --> 00:21:33.480 a flaw we can see that as a feature we can see that as a bug and what we do we can get offended we can 00:21:33.480 --> 00:21:40.439 fight with them we can be yet another thing that is devastating and shattering to them right i think one 00:21:40.440 --> 00:21:46.519 of the things that i want to be a champion for a champion for femininity in these regards is i think 00:21:46.519 --> 00:21:52.759 when women are honored well in these things they're able to be more feminine because they are able to not 00:21:52.759 --> 00:21:59.320 feel the pressure to defend themselves all the time they're able to be free they will be free to be nurturing 00:21:59.320 --> 00:22:08.680 they will be free to be a fountain of wisdom and nuance but i think a lot of modern day women feel like 00:22:08.680 --> 00:22:14.920 they are the only thing that can protect themselves and they've kind of given up and having vision 00:22:14.920 --> 00:22:20.279 for this kind of femininity and here's a really good question actually both for husbands and wives but 00:22:20.279 --> 00:22:31.000 just in general when you're around does your wife feel like she can take a huge sigh of relief does she 00:22:31.000 --> 00:22:38.200 feel like she can be more free like she can doesn't need to defend herself so much or when you're around 00:22:38.200 --> 00:22:43.400 does she feel like she needs to be more defensive and more on guard because you're one of the you're 00:22:43.400 --> 00:22:51.960 one of the additional things that this answer it's a really good question also how do women feel when 00:22:51.960 --> 00:22:59.559 they're around you do women feel honored do they feel like you are extending additional uh 00:23:01.000 --> 00:23:05.960 protective care honoring them as a weaker vessel they feel like they have to be really careful and on 00:23:05.960 --> 00:23:11.480 guard around you and not that you see what's really going on with them etc etc guys this is what it means 00:23:11.480 --> 00:23:21.799 to be a gentle man there's a historical term we use for honorable men and it's men who are gentle towards 00:23:21.799 --> 00:23:29.960 women men who use their strength for and to protect women not to take advantage of them and we have 00:23:29.960 --> 00:23:35.240 lived in unfortunate we unfortunately live in a day and age where this is not the norm that is the 00:23:35.240 --> 00:23:41.799 exception not the rule and many women care around carry around a strong defensiveness towards men because 00:23:41.799 --> 00:23:48.039 men are the thing they do fear and probably should fear the most because there is whatever that thing 00:23:48.039 --> 00:23:56.279 that reverberates through generations honor there is an honor in this i think historically men felt the burden 00:23:56.279 --> 00:24:01.319 to instill in one another you don't treat women like that that has just been lost it's one of the 00:24:01.319 --> 00:24:05.879 things that's been lost one blessing like one generation to the next i think it's really really been lost 00:24:06.440 --> 00:24:14.759 and i think that women um are more unsafe towards men because men are less honorable towards them 00:24:15.639 --> 00:24:20.680 and there's something we can really fight for as far as femininity in the same age whenever we do this well 00:24:20.680 --> 00:24:32.200 also this is just food for thought how many of you guys how many of us really wish that our mom was more 00:24:32.200 --> 00:24:43.400 nurturing more caring more at peace and more of a wellspring of life versus resentful bitter um 00:24:43.400 --> 00:24:53.800 um guarded defensive reactive there's something that's really really beautiful about femininity when 00:24:53.800 --> 00:25:01.960 it's treated with honor and cause them to not feel women that's what actually the scripture says she will 00:25:01.960 --> 00:25:08.360 not feel what is frightful she will laugh the days to come that is a woman who is not feeling like she has 00:25:08.359 --> 00:25:14.039 to be on guard all the time that she can face the adversity of life with confidence this is a hallmark 00:25:14.039 --> 00:25:21.079 of femininity that women maintain their vulnerability towards life despite its danger this is one of the 00:25:21.079 --> 00:25:26.679 things we as men us as a body also us in our homes can do well to set our wives up for success 00:25:26.680 --> 00:25:31.560 problems for eight 00:25:33.720 --> 00:25:46.039 prize her highly and she will exalt you she will honor you if you embrace her there is a thing in men that 00:25:46.039 --> 00:25:54.600 was to demand honor and demand respect according to this verse how will she exalt you when you prize her 00:25:54.599 --> 00:25:59.719 highly i think one of the things that does exasperate women does exasperate our lives 00:26:01.240 --> 00:26:08.279 is when we are always prizing other things all the time and she sees it and we're never doing that 00:26:08.279 --> 00:26:15.000 towards her there's kind of like uh there was i was listening to a comedian weeks ago he was talking about 00:26:15.000 --> 00:26:22.439 why is it that every time i sit down to watch the game with my boys my wife decides that that's the time 00:26:22.440 --> 00:26:26.440 she's going to come over and stand in front of the tv and all of a sudden went all my attention 00:26:27.000 --> 00:26:31.960 it was like a joke it was like a relatable joke and i was actually thinking i was like i know exactly 00:26:31.960 --> 00:26:37.000 why she's doing that it's because she sees you rising something that she wants you to do that to her 00:26:37.559 --> 00:26:43.400 she sees you giving your entire full attention and presence to one thing and you're not doing it to 00:26:43.400 --> 00:26:47.480 her so she sees you doing that your kids will actually start doing the same thing as well 00:26:47.480 --> 00:26:55.400 our kids see us men giving our full attention and rising things and not doing that for them 00:26:57.160 --> 00:27:06.920 prize her highly and she will exalt you i think it makes men very easy to honor and respect 00:27:08.120 --> 00:27:13.319 when we are doing this well towards our lives it makes it very very hard when we're being very 00:27:13.319 --> 00:27:20.439 dismissive of them even back to the board living with your wife in an understanding way right she 00:27:20.439 --> 00:27:27.240 will honor you if you embrace her which is this kind of like the old um adage wait when what love men 00:27:27.240 --> 00:27:35.559 won't respect there is an extent to which it makes it easy for our wives to honor us when we are being 00:27:35.559 --> 00:27:40.279 loving and affectionate towards them okay well you're sitting in front of it 00:27:45.720 --> 00:27:57.000 proverbs 11 16 a kind-hearted woman gains honor but ruthless main ruthless men gain only wealth 00:27:58.919 --> 00:28:02.519 again this is kind of an echo of the same thing there's something about femininity 00:28:02.519 --> 00:28:09.079 that's what it means when it maintains an open heart is so distinct so beautiful and it does 00:28:09.079 --> 00:28:13.000 things that men came out to i think one of the things that's a huge challenge for women in this 00:28:13.000 --> 00:28:18.599 day and age is maintaining kind-heartedness another passage says open-heartedness or sorry another 00:28:18.599 --> 00:28:23.639 translation says open-heartedness there's a lot of women who are very um closed off because they've 00:28:23.640 --> 00:28:33.320 been taken advantage of um the the world um is feels too dangerous for them right a kind-hearted woman 00:28:33.320 --> 00:28:38.040 gains honor i would really really encourage you ladies i hope that some of the things i'm saying are 00:28:38.600 --> 00:28:44.920 are landing and uh are relatable i really encourage you ladies if you have been chewed up and spit out i 00:28:44.920 --> 00:28:51.720 would really really encourage you to not only take that to the lord but know that whenever you are able to 00:28:51.720 --> 00:28:56.519 maintain that position of vulnerability towards life it makes you easier to honor 00:28:59.319 --> 00:29:06.120 it's very easy to honor and cries and value a woman who maintains her kind-heartedness towards life 00:29:07.559 --> 00:29:13.799 that's not that's not a pass on our contribution towards women feeling chained by men that's not a pass 00:29:14.440 --> 00:29:21.559 but it is the case when women maintain that open-heartedness towards life it is so much easier to 00:29:21.559 --> 00:29:23.559 appreciate their distinction of femininity 00:29:26.440 --> 00:29:38.839 poverbs 3 35 the wise will inherit honor but fools get disgrace again the consequence of us missing 00:29:38.839 --> 00:29:47.480 on honor is disgrace again we live in a day and age where disgrace is the theme of the day 00:29:48.440 --> 00:29:54.920 we're here in grandview there was just enormous disgrace on ihop with you know the fall of mike pickle 00:29:55.400 --> 00:30:01.799 disgrace is everywhere in the church you know what i mean may we not be so may that not be our inheritance 00:30:03.079 --> 00:30:04.920 both as a church but also in our own homes 00:30:04.920 --> 00:30:19.560 all right back to the theme of honor reverberating wisdom to new generations first timothy 5 17 00:30:19.559 --> 00:30:40.519 let the elders who rule well but considered worthy of double honor so there's there's something about how we can relate to our elders in the church that extends them honor and i believe the same exact thing we want them to pass the baton to us we are running 00:30:41.240 --> 00:30:52.759 the elders to be able to instill wisdom and maturity in us we make that easy we capture that baton by honoring them he even says double honor 00:30:52.759 --> 00:31:04.039 i'm going to read one more passage and i'm going to read a long quote by c.s lewis 00:31:04.039 --> 00:31:09.720 that josh just read to me uh in our work that's just a couple weeks ago it's a really good quote 00:31:11.399 --> 00:31:19.639 first peter 2 13-17 be subject be subject for the lord's sake to every human institution 00:31:20.519 --> 00:31:27.559 whether it be to the emperor supreme or to the governors as sent by him to punish those who do evil 00:31:27.559 --> 00:31:34.759 and to praise those who do good for this is the will of god that by doing good you should put to silence 00:31:34.759 --> 00:31:42.519 the ignorance of foolish people live as people who are free not using your freedom as a cover-up for evil 00:31:43.079 --> 00:31:45.000 but living as a servant of god 00:31:47.240 --> 00:31:53.000 honor everyone love the brotherhood fear god honor the emperor 00:31:53.000 --> 00:32:01.319 god i'm saying a lot of these things but we have reference to the body and also by way of reference 00:32:01.319 --> 00:32:08.039 to our own personal homes but according to first peter we're actually committed to honor everyone 00:32:10.359 --> 00:32:12.039 when we 00:32:14.440 --> 00:32:21.640 give weight to what the scripture is saying it helps us to be able to be a light according to god's tradition 00:32:22.200 --> 00:32:28.759 rather than kind of just giving into the spirit of the age i think even as we're trying to be missional 00:32:29.400 --> 00:32:34.280 even as we're trying to advance the kingdom of god as a church one of the things that 00:32:34.280 --> 00:32:41.080 things really important to remember and not give into is there we're in a spirit in a day and age 00:32:41.080 --> 00:32:48.759 where even prominent christian figures is very much the norm to be very very demeaning and dishonoring 00:32:48.759 --> 00:32:55.720 especially towards those they disagree with i think it's really important for us to remember that 00:32:55.720 --> 00:33:01.079 these things don't just apply to our marriage and in our body but they also apply to literally everyone 00:33:01.079 --> 00:33:09.879 make on the cross i think it is a um very much makes the gospel the the uh it makes the way straight for 00:33:09.879 --> 00:33:16.919 the gospel when we're able to be extremely honoring to those especially um in the household of god etc but 00:33:16.919 --> 00:33:22.279 also even those who very much disagree with us or whose whose lives we have a really hard time with 00:33:22.279 --> 00:33:32.440 i think that honor if we can do honor right it's something that um what is it it's like a missing 00:33:32.440 --> 00:33:39.480 piece in uh the virtues of this day and age that are really like i actually thinking actually even 00:33:39.480 --> 00:33:43.480 michael especially with um unbelievers and just people he knows but one of the things that's really 00:33:43.480 --> 00:33:48.839 a hallmark of michael he is so curious about meeting new people he's really really good 00:33:48.839 --> 00:33:55.799 at completely um wanting to get to know them and wanting to understand their distinctions and 00:33:55.799 --> 00:33:59.319 nuance and what they are really good at and he's a really quick technology it's one of the things 00:33:59.319 --> 00:34:02.599 that's really wonderful about michael i think it's one of the reasons why things have gone so well for 00:34:02.599 --> 00:34:09.000 him in many regards is because he has such an aptitude and belief that every single person is really 00:34:09.000 --> 00:34:13.559 distinct and really unique and worthy of on he's really good at extending it to people especially 00:34:13.559 --> 00:34:18.519 people he's like doesn't know at all it's a really awesome thing and i think that even as we're being 00:34:18.519 --> 00:34:24.199 missional that's a really good thing for us to be really deeply considering is being honoring you 00:34:24.199 --> 00:34:33.320 know the last one first timothy chapter 5 verse 3 it says honor widows who are truly widows i think 00:34:33.320 --> 00:34:38.280 this is again kind of the same callback to the body there are certain people that are easy to dismiss 00:34:38.280 --> 00:34:43.719 there are certain people that are easy to forget i think this is how some of the moms feel at home 00:34:43.719 --> 00:34:47.079 where they're doing all these things or making only sacrifices and nobody sees it 00:34:47.079 --> 00:34:54.440 there are certain members of the body right now he's saying honor widows who are easy to miss and easy 00:34:54.440 --> 00:35:02.360 to dismiss easy to overlook the scripture calls us specifically to honor them are we honoring them 00:35:03.799 --> 00:35:07.799 all right i'm going to end with 00:35:07.800 --> 00:35:17.400 this quote from c.s lewis some of you guys have heard this before he's specifically talking about 00:35:17.400 --> 00:35:25.400 what the essence of praise is but i think it gets to the heart of um one of the ways in which we can 00:35:25.400 --> 00:35:31.480 cultivate the soil of our own heart in the area of honor because basically it's going to get down to 00:35:31.480 --> 00:35:39.960 what do we really enjoy i think when we enjoy distinction when we enjoy um these aspects of 00:35:39.960 --> 00:35:43.159 one another and of life it makes honor really easy 00:35:46.599 --> 00:35:53.240 this is c.s lewis this one was reflections on the psalms the most obvious fact about praise 00:35:53.239 --> 00:36:00.679 whether of god or anything strangely escaped me i thought of it in terms of compliment approval the 00:36:00.679 --> 00:36:07.479 giving of honor i had never noticed that all enjoyment spontaneously overflows into praise 00:36:08.039 --> 00:36:12.359 unless shyness or the fear of boring others is deliberately brought in to check it 00:36:12.360 --> 00:36:21.079 the world rings with praise lovers praising their mistresses readers their favorite poet walkers 00:36:21.079 --> 00:36:27.800 praising the countryside players praising their favorite game praise of weather wine dishes actors 00:36:27.800 --> 00:36:34.360 motors forces colleges countries historical personages children flowers mountains rare stamps 00:36:34.360 --> 00:36:41.160 rare beetles even sometimes politicians or scholars i had not noticed how the humblest 00:36:41.159 --> 00:36:49.000 and at all the same time most balanced and capacious minds praised most while the cranks misfits and 00:36:49.000 --> 00:36:57.239 malcontents praised the least except where intolerable adverse circumstances interfere praise almost 00:36:58.279 --> 00:37:06.759 praise almost seems to be inner health made audible really interesting inner health made audible i had not noticed 00:37:06.760 --> 00:37:15.320 that just as men spontaneously praise whatever they value so they spontaneously urge us to join them in praising 00:37:16.120 --> 00:37:26.520 isn't she lovely wasn't it glorious don't you think that magnificent the psalmist in telling everyone to praise god 00:37:26.520 --> 00:37:35.080 are doing what all men do when they speak of what they care about my whole more general difficulty about praise of god 00:37:35.079 --> 00:37:43.559 i am dependent on my absurdly denying to us as a reward that as regards the supremely valuable what we delight to do 00:37:44.360 --> 00:37:50.840 what we indeed can't help doing about everything else we value i think we delight to praise 00:37:51.639 --> 00:37:58.759 i think we delight to praise what we enjoy because we praise not merely because the praise not merely expresses 00:37:58.760 --> 00:38:10.440 but completes the enjoyment it is its appointed consummation it is not out of compliment that lovers keep on telling one another how beautiful they are 00:38:11.000 --> 00:38:25.800 the delight is incomplete until it's expressed if it were possible for a creative soul to fully appreciate that is to love and delight in the worthiest object of all in simultaneously at every moment to give us the light perfect expression 00:38:25.800 --> 00:38:38.440 then that soul would be in supreme beatitude the scottish catechism says that man's chief end is to glorify god and enjoy him forever 00:38:39.240 --> 00:38:48.440 but we shall then know that these are the same thing fully to enjoy is to glorify and commanding us to glorify him 00:38:48.440 --> 00:39:01.960 god is inviting us to enjoy him and i just want to add to that that i think one of the keys that unlocks a lot of this stuff is us actually seeing how the lord has made things and how the lord has made things beautiful 00:39:01.960 --> 00:39:08.599 each member men and women even relationship with their children even our relationship with unbelievers 00:39:08.599 --> 00:39:14.599 there is a certain beauty that can actually be appreciated you can actually appreciate and it makes it really easy to honor it 00:39:14.599 --> 00:39:21.639 and i think that one of the things that i think is a good place to start is just check our own hearts 00:39:22.199 --> 00:39:28.920 both for arrogance you know that produces the opposite but also i think for what are we really enjoying do we 00:39:28.920 --> 00:39:35.639 like the distinctions that the lord has created one of the things i think is really really cool is like if 00:39:35.639 --> 00:39:41.239 you can even see this in sports where you'll have a superstar like have a buzzer beater and then there'll be a 00:39:41.239 --> 00:39:45.559 press conference afterwards and people are just wanting to praise him for how awesome a job he does 00:39:45.559 --> 00:39:51.319 but it's really honorable when you see these guys be like actually um i know i made the shot and everything 00:39:51.319 --> 00:39:56.599 if he hadn't uh you know if he hadn't made that layup for me then i wouldn't be able or like another 00:39:56.599 --> 00:40:01.239 one would be like you know that great touchdown grab is like yeah but my other receiver he actually 00:40:01.239 --> 00:40:04.359 abandoned his wrap and blocked the safety he hadn't done that he would attack with me i wouldn't 00:40:04.359 --> 00:40:10.839 make the touchdown just like acknowledging that which is easy to miss it's a really beautiful thing i think 00:40:10.840 --> 00:40:19.960 there's an aspect of honor where the lord is emphasizing the aspects that need to be honored that are 00:40:19.960 --> 00:40:27.000 really really easy for us to miss and i think it actually reveals what we care about what we love and 00:40:27.000 --> 00:40:34.600 how much we actually enjoy distinction in what we honor and i think there's part of us that wants honor 00:40:34.599 --> 00:40:45.000 but also is really annoyed at all of the um sharp edges that rub into each other when people are 00:40:45.000 --> 00:40:50.039 really really different than you or when you have a lot of distinction or when your wife is really 00:40:50.039 --> 00:40:54.759 really different than you there are these ways in which the lord has actually fashioned us that we can 00:40:54.759 --> 00:40:59.719 actually really appreciate and see as beautiful as created by him or we can just be inconvenienced by 00:40:59.719 --> 00:41:05.399 and be really um maybe entitled to honor ourselves can be very slow to extend it to others i think this 00:41:05.399 --> 00:41:12.359 is one of those topics where as the lord matures because in our hearts i think what a beautiful thing 00:41:12.359 --> 00:41:17.480 for our children to actually honor us and seek the maturity wisdom that can work right through the 00:41:17.480 --> 00:41:22.679 generations same thing towards our parents same thing towards those who are as fathers and mothers same 00:41:22.679 --> 00:41:29.319 things to our relationship with our elders same things to us as an entire body that a beautiful 00:41:29.320 --> 00:41:36.280 representation of the body is us being a team and doing something together we can never have done 00:41:36.280 --> 00:41:39.880 by ourselves actually that's one of the things most been most encouraging to me about man camp 00:41:40.600 --> 00:41:47.720 is one of the things that's been really cool to see is on monday nights how much different guys 00:41:47.720 --> 00:41:54.519 that are equipped so differently are so quick to be helping in counseling and it's just been one of the 00:41:54.519 --> 00:42:02.519 the best demonstration of teamwork um that i've seen so far in this young church plant it's one of the 00:42:02.519 --> 00:42:07.800 things i actually long for it even more that there would be no bench warmers in our body you know what 00:42:07.800 --> 00:42:15.079 i mean both because of how we treat and have low honor towards one another but also what we believed 00:42:15.079 --> 00:42:20.759 about ourselves and i should just be a bench warmer and i think that's the case there are no bench warmers in 00:42:20.760 --> 00:42:26.360 the body of christ there is no one who is discarding there is no one who is just dispensable that's 00:42:26.360 --> 00:42:32.680 what the scripture at the beginning there was rebuking us for may we be a body where it is all hands on deck 00:42:32.680 --> 00:42:37.800 everyone feels highly valued in their contribution and highly valued in their distinction and they 00:42:37.800 --> 00:42:43.640 don't look at another person who maybe it's easier to see their contribution and look at themselves 00:42:43.640 --> 00:42:48.440 as like having nothing to actually contribute and for the people that are in those positions 00:42:48.440 --> 00:42:55.079 before the lord we need to go the extra mile and show extra honor to them there's a lot of things 00:42:55.079 --> 00:43:01.159 that happen behind the scenes that we don't even have to like pay any attention to but actually there 00:43:01.159 --> 00:43:07.800 is a a heart that is feeling less connected to the rest of the body less appreciated for its distinction 00:43:07.800 --> 00:43:12.039 because it's actually not receiving honor and what honor is one of the ways in which the lord 00:43:12.039 --> 00:43:15.000 solves for that it's one of the ways in which the body is healthy