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 I'm trying to get healthy because I want to see my kids graduate.

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 These numbers act like indicators, right?

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 They're indicators of actual health.

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 So no matter how you feel, you could feel like you're doing fine, but the numbers tell you the truth.

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 The numbers tell you how you're really doing.

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 And so as I've been going through all these scans and looking at my health by the numbers,

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 it got me thinking, what about spiritual health?

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 What indicators are there for spiritual health that, regardless of how you think you might be doing,

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 will tell you this is how you're actually doing?

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 And Psalm 51, which is the text we're going to focus on this morning,

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 would actually suggest that one of the strongest, clearest, most reliable indicators of spiritual health and growth and flourishing

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 is the presence of joy.

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 It's the presence of joy.

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 So let me ask you this.

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 How joyful are you feeling these days?

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 How much joy do you experience in your daily life?

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 For those of us who may not be feeling joyful right now,

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 why don't we feel more joy?

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 For Christians, if we believe everything that we're hearing and confessing and praying and singing about this morning,

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 why don't we feel more joy?

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 If you're here and you're not a Christian,

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 is there any difference between the experiences of joy that you feel like you've had in your life

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 and that that a Christian might feel?

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 Do I really need to be a follower of Jesus in order to experience joy?

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 I don't think so.

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 How can we, for those of us who feel like we've lost our sense of joy,

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 how can we recover it?

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 Psalm 51 speaks into these questions,

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 and it's going to show us the source of joy,

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 kind of where it comes from,

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 the loss of joy,

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 why we can have it and then lose it,

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 where does it go,

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 and then finally the recovery of joy,

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 how to get it back.

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 So let's pray.

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 Lord, we thank you for your word,

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 and we thank you for this season of Lent,

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 and we thank you for this song.

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 Lord, thousands of years when David wrote it,

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 he never could have imagined that we would be sitting here this morning

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 contemplating words that flowed out of one of the most personal and painful experiences of his life.

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 And yet, Lord, through the power of your Holy Spirit

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 and through your eternal wisdom,

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 you have appointed these words for us this morning.

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 So I pray that you would open our hearts to receive

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 what you have to say

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 through these words to us.

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 In Jesus' name, amen.

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 So first of all, the source of joy,

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 I want to clarify a little bit what we mean

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 when we talk about the word joy in this context.

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 I don't just mean happiness.

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 I don't just mean optimistic.

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 You know, some people just are naturally wired.

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 Some of you, I love seeing you on Sunday

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 because it doesn't matter if it's raining and cold and nasty outside.

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 When I see you, I know you're going to be smiling

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 and you're going to say,

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 How you doing?

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 Good morning.

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 Hopefully, if you're that kind of person, you're on the welcome team

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 because those are the kind of people that we want on the welcome team.

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 And you're a naturally optimistic person.

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 But that's not what I mean by joy.

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 In the Bible, joy is more like a deep, settled assurance

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 that all is well, no matter what the circumstances might be.

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 It could be sunny.

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 It could be raining.

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 It's a deep, settled assurance that all is well,

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 no matter what the circumstances might be.

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 So no matter what we read in the news,

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 when we're doom scrolling,

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 no matter what current crisis du jour is unfolding in our world,

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 no matter what we might be facing in our own lives,

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 true joy is marked by the fact that it remains solid and unshakable

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 because it's not affected by outward circumstances.

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 That's really the difference between happiness and joy.

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 Happiness depends on what we feel like at the moment.

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 Joy depends on what is unshakably true,

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 regardless of how we feel.

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 Let me say that again.

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 Happiness depends on what we feel like in the moment.

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 Joy depends on what is unshakably true,

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 regardless of how we feel in the moment.

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 It's a very different thing.

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 So think of your emotions.

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 Our emotions, the world of feeling is like shifting sand.

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 And the shifting sands of emotions are always blowing this way and that.

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 So one day we might be feeling happy and optimistic

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 and hopeful about our lives,

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 but maybe a couple of days later,

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 the direction of wind has changed

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 and the sand's blowing in a different direction

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 and we're feeling sad and hopeless.

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 We're feeling despair.

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 We're feeling pessimistic and morose.

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 But below those shifting sands of emotions,

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 joy is like that bedrock.

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 It sits under the surface.

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 It's the bedrock of joy

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 that is deep and rooted and secure.

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 Think of an ocean where there's a storm raging

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 and there's waves and there's wind,

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 but if you go down deep,

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 go down a mile below the surface,

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 you'd never know there was a storm up there.

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 It's calm.

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 It's quiet.

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 It's peaceful.

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 It's still.

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 That's joy.

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 And here's the thing about true joy.

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 Here's the, at times, frustrating thing about this kind of joy

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 is you can't get this kind of joy by aiming at it.

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 You can't wake up and say,

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 I want to have this kind of joy and aim at it.

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 You'll never reach it.

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 You'll always fall short of it.

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 You know, some churches try to stir joy up

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 and, you know, you create an emotional high for people

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 and the music is raging

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 and everybody's kind of whipped into a frenzy

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 and jumping in the air,

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 and that is super fun and awesome.

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 Right?

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 I love going to experiences like that,

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 but you can't replace joy with something like that

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 because you can't manufacture joy.

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 You can't.

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 It's not an experience that you can engineer.

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 Joy is the byproduct of something else.

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 It's downstream of something else,

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 and if we don't have that something else,

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 we'll never have this kind of joy.

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 David, the king over Israel,

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 who wrote many of the Psalms,

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 including this one,

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 he had experienced this joy firsthand,

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 and he knew that there's only one place it can be found,

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 and so there's a number of places in the Psalms

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 which are like his prayer book

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 where he writes about this joy.

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 Psalm 16 is very clear.

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 Verse 11, he writes of the Lord,

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 In your presence there is fullness of joy.

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 At your right hand are pleasures forevermore.

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 David's saying the times when I feel most full of joy

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 the times when I have that assurance,

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 when I have that bedrock,

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 those are the times, Lord, when I'm in your presence.

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 These are the only times when I feel that,

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 the fullness of joy.

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 So true joy can only be found in God's presence,

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 and by in God's presence,

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 I don't just mean being physically with God

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 because that's not how it works.

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 Being in God's presence means that our hearts

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 are fully aligned with his heart.

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 It means that we are spiritually connected to God,

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 that his will is our will,

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 that his heart is our heart,

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 that we're moving in step with his Holy Spirit,

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 that we're living out his desire for us as his creatures.

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 And so that's where true joy can be found.

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 So biblically speaking,

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 joy might be defined this way.

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 It is the deep, settled assurance

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 that God is in control of every aspect of my life,

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 and that therefore all is ultimately well

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 even when all is not immediately well.

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 The deep, settled assurance that God is in control

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 of every aspect of my life,

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 and that therefore the ultimate assurance

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 that all is ultimately well

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 even if it's not immediately well.

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 That's what we find in God's presence.

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 So when we lose that sense of joy,

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 it means that something is not right

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 in our relationship with God.

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 Because if that's downstream

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 from being in God's presence

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 in the way we described,

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 if we're not feeling it, experiencing it,

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 then it means that something is wrong

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 in that relationship.

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 And that's what Psalm 51 is really about.

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 David's relationship with God

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 has been fractured.

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 It's been damaged.

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 And all of the joy

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 has drained out of his life.

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 And that's why he prays

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 in verse 11 of this Psalm,

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 cast me not away from your presence.

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 That's David's worst fear,

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 to be cut off from God,

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 to be cast out the way Adam and Eve

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 were cast out of the garden.

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 Because he knows that life and joy and peace

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 are only to be found in God's presence.

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 And once you taste that, as David had,

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 you never want to do without it.

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 You can't imagine living a day without it.

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 So David is seeking to repair

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 that relationship.

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 And in the heart of the Psalm,

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 he prays,

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 and this is really the heartbeat

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 of Psalm 51,

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 restore to me the joy of your salvation.

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 I want to know what it's like

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 to live in your presence again.

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 So that's the source of joy.

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 It's living life in God's presence.

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 So why do we lose that?

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 How do we experience the loss of joy?

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 And what does that say?

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 And how do we understand that?

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 Well, in David's case,

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 it's pretty clear when we look back

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 and we read the text in 2 Samuel,

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 David, frankly, had done some terrible things.

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 David had abused his power.

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 David had slept with his best friend's wife.

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 When she got pregnant,

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 came and told him that she got pregnant,

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 David initiated a big mass cover-up operation,

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 including arranging to have his best friend killed

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 by sending him to the front lines

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 of a suicide mission.

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 And then David tries to go on

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 pretending that everything's okay,

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 which is what most of us do.

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 Tries to go on pretending like everything's fine,

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 nothing to see here.

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 Of course, we know all the servants

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 knew everything that was going on.

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 David's the only one

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 that actually thought it was a secret.

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 Of course, God knows

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 everything that's going on.

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 So David tries to pretend that everything's okay,

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 but his heart is not okay.

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 And his heart is very far from God.

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 And it's not a sustainable place to be.

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 And so in 2 Samuel 12,

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 his friend Nathan the prophet confronts him.

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 And only after Nathan confronts him

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 does David finally have the courage

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 to stop pretending that everything is okay.

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 I wonder if you've ever had that experience

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 where you just sort of reach a point

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 where you say,

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 I can't pretend that things are okay any longer.

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 I can't keep wearing the mask.

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 So David takes the mask off.

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 Everything comes pouring out.

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 And to our great benefit,

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 it comes out in the form of Psalm 51.

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 And there are some extraordinary insights here

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 into the things that drive us away from God

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 that would apply to all of us.

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 First, we see as we look at this Psalm,

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 what we see is that our relationship with God

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 can be damaged,

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 both by things that we have done

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 and things that we have left undone.

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 That's what we confess sometimes in our liturgy.

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 We confess things that we've done

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 and things that we've left undone.

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 So David uses several different words

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 to describe this problem

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 that has gotten in the way

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 of his relationship with God.

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 One of the words that he uses is the word peshah,

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 which we translate as transgressions.

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 Transgressions are,

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 this means active rebellion.

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 This is insurrection against God.

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 So part of what David has done

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 to damage his relationship with God

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 is he's rebelled against God.

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 In other words,

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 he's knowingly disobeyed

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 and gone against God's will.

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 You know, over the years,

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 I've had conversations with people

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 who've come to me

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 and they've wanted to talk.

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 I want to have a theological conversation

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 with you and ask you about this

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 with that aspect of the faith

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 because frankly,

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 I'm having a lot of doubts.

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 I'm not sure if I believe

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 any of this anymore

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 and I'm thinking about leaving the faith

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 or they're massively questioning their faith.

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 And sometimes those conversations

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 end up being theological,

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 but a lot of times I'll start out

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 by just asking,

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 what's going on in your life?

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 And it's surprising how often

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 that conversation ends up

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 taking a very different turn

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 because sometimes,

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 a surprisingly high amount of times,

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 you find out that other shifts in life

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 have coincided with that shift in faith.

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 You know, they moved in with their boyfriend

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 or they moved in with their girlfriend

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 or it turns out they're nursing

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 a deep resentment against somebody

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 and they're refusing to forgive that person, right?

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 So you begin to realize,

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 oh, the problem isn't theological.

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 You can't be actively living

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 against God's will

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 and still feel connected to him

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 at the same time, right?

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 So there's a way that some of that doubt

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 is your brain trying to make sense of the fact

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 that now all of a sudden

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 because you're rebelling against God,

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 there's no connection

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 or even sense of God's presence

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 in your life any longer, right?

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 But then later,

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 he uses the word hatat,

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 which we translate sin.

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 And this is a very different nuance.

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 It means missing the mark.

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 So imagine archery and you aim

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 and you miss the bullseye,

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 you miss the target.

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 Or it means falling short

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 or failing to live

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 according to God's standard,

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 way we might say it is living

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 as though God doesn't exist.

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 So maybe this is somebody

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 who's not in active rebellion against God.

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 Maybe this is somebody

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 who doesn't even acknowledge

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 that there is a God.

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 Or maybe they believe there's a God

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 but they think that God

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 is for religious people

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 or church-going people

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 but God doesn't really have anything

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 to do with me.

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 Or maybe they think that God

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 created everything

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 and just kind of wants us to be happy

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 but doesn't really get involved

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 in the everyday affairs of our life.

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 He just kind of lets us do our thing, right?

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 These are popular ideas

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 that people in our country have about God.

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 So, you know,

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 maybe in the way we,

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 maybe we think,

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 you know, when I go to church

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 and I pray, that's God stuff.

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 But the way I spend my money

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 and manage my budget,

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 that's kind of my business.

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 or what I do with my body,

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 that's my business.

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 But it can be in how we deal

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 with things like anxiety in our life.

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 Right?

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 Anxiety, it turns out,

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 is actually deeply rooted

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 in our desire to have control.

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 So, ultimately,

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 anxiety is the result of us

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 trying to control things

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 we can't control.

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 We try to control future outcomes.

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 We try to control

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 other people's choices.

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 Man, you have teenagers

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 and you just give anything

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 to just be able to just control

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 what they do, right?

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 Don't do this, do this, right?

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 You know, anxiety is sometimes

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 just trying to control

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 what other people think about us.

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 Trying to manage

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 what other people think about us.

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 The point is,

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 these are things

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 that we can't control.

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 Only God can control these things.

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 So, in reality,

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 when we try to control things

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 that only God can control,

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 we're living in a functionally

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 atheistic way.

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 We're living as though

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 there is no God.

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 We're living as though

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 maybe we are God, right?

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 So that would be a way

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 that we live in God's world

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 as though He doesn't exist.

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 So, that damages

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 our relationship with God.

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 When we live in a way

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 where we're failing

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 we're willing to let God be God

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 and we're trying to be Him instead.

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 So, the first thing

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 that we see here

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 is that our relationship

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 with God can be broken

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 both by things

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 that we're actively doing

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 in rebellion against God

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 but also simply by living

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 as though God doesn't exist.

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 Or not doing things

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 that God has called us to do.

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 The second thing we learn

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 is that the problem

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 that we're talking about here

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 runs a lot,

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 a lot deeper

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 than our actions.

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 In verse 5, David says,

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 Behold, I was brought forth

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 in iniquity

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 and in sin

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 did my mother conceive me.

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 Now, that word iniquity

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 is a third word

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 and that refers to

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 a kind of inner bentness

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 or crookedness.

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 And it's something

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 that we inherit from birth.

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 There's a kind of inner,

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 you know,

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 St. Augustine articulated it

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 as with the Latin phrase

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 in curvata sensei.

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 There's a curving inward

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 on oneself

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 that we are born with.

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 A kind of spiritual condition

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 that means

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 what comes most naturally

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 to us, right?

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 So, we live in a society

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 where for the last hundred years

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 there's been a lot of emphasis

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 on letting people do

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 what comes most naturally

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 to them

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 and not getting in the way

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 of what comes naturally

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 to people

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 and letting people live

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 out of their natural inclinations.

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 And what this is saying

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 is that what comes

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 most naturally to me

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 is to turn away from God

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 and to curve in on myself.

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 And I was born that way

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 and there's nothing

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 that I can do

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 to change that

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 in my own strength.

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 So, what this means

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 is that because this is rooted

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 in my nature

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 as a human being,

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 because I was born this way,

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 this is not something

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 that we can fix

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 on our own.

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 You can't read a book

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 to fix this

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 and think your way out of it.

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 You can't go to a therapist

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 and get this treated

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 with CBT

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 or DBT, right,

00:17:49.340 --> 00:17:51.640
 or any of the other interventions.

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 We can't fix this therapeutically.

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 We can't fix it

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 with the right life plan.

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 You can't fix it

00:17:57.259 --> 00:17:58.900
 through diet and cold plunges.

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 You can't engineer

00:18:01.300 --> 00:18:02.640
 your way out of this.

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 So, that's the second thing

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 we learn.

00:18:07.120 --> 00:18:08.660
 This problem goes a lot deeper

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 than our behavior.

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 And then the third thing

00:18:10.440 --> 00:18:10.980
 that we learn

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 is that this disconnection

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 that many of us feel

00:18:14.039 --> 00:18:14.660
 from God

00:18:14.660 --> 00:18:16.500
 is because part of our heart

00:18:16.500 --> 00:18:17.839
 is actually closed off

00:18:17.839 --> 00:18:18.339
 from God.

00:18:20.099 --> 00:18:21.319
 Verse 6 talks about

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 our need for God's truth

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 in the inward being

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 and the secret heart.

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 And that word

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 for secret heart

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 is satum.

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 And it shows up

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 a number of times

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 in the Old Testament.

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 And that describes

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 situations

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 where people

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 plug up a well

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 or plug up a spring

00:18:38.539 --> 00:18:39.980
 or plug up a water source

00:18:39.980 --> 00:18:41.079
 to prevent other people

00:18:41.079 --> 00:18:42.420
 from having access to it.

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 And David very poetically

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 uses that word here

00:18:45.680 --> 00:18:46.680
 to describe a part

00:18:46.680 --> 00:18:47.319
 of our heart

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 that we wall off

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 from other people

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 and from God.

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 It's part of your heart

00:18:52.660 --> 00:18:53.099
 that you say

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 no access

00:18:54.240 --> 00:18:55.680
 beyond this point.

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 No trespassing.

00:18:58.180 --> 00:18:58.559
 Right?

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 So, we might say

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 to other people,

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 you can know this part of me,

00:19:01.240 --> 00:19:02.000
 you can know this thing

00:19:02.000 --> 00:19:02.460
 about me,

00:19:02.500 --> 00:19:03.339
 I will let you in

00:19:03.339 --> 00:19:04.099
 on these aspects

00:19:04.099 --> 00:19:04.879
 of my life,

00:19:05.759 --> 00:19:07.359
 but I won't ever

00:19:07.359 --> 00:19:07.779
 let you know

00:19:07.779 --> 00:19:08.500
 about this.

00:19:09.799 --> 00:19:10.019
 Right?

00:19:10.059 --> 00:19:10.899
 I read this study

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 that said that

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 on average

00:19:12.639 --> 00:19:13.679
 people carry around

00:19:13.679 --> 00:19:15.159
 13 secrets,

00:19:15.779 --> 00:19:16.639
 five of which

00:19:16.639 --> 00:19:17.419
 they've never told

00:19:17.419 --> 00:19:18.379
 another living soul.

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 And then apparently

00:19:21.219 --> 00:19:22.019
 somebody did

00:19:22.019 --> 00:19:23.899
 some related research

00:19:23.899 --> 00:19:25.480
 on insurance

00:19:25.480 --> 00:19:26.980
 and that they correlated,

00:19:27.219 --> 00:19:27.699
 and I don't know

00:19:27.699 --> 00:19:28.579
 how much there is to this,

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 they correlated

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 the amount of secrets,

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 the number of secrets

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 that people said

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 that they were holding

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 and weren't sharing

00:19:34.779 --> 00:19:35.639
 with the people around them

00:19:35.639 --> 00:19:37.159
 and their perception

00:19:37.159 --> 00:19:38.679
 of their endurance

00:19:38.679 --> 00:19:39.359
 over time.

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 In other words,

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 people seemed to feel

00:19:40.819 --> 00:19:42.199
 physically burdened

00:19:42.199 --> 00:19:43.519
 and have less endurance

00:19:43.519 --> 00:19:45.720
 in a way

00:19:45.720 --> 00:19:46.539
 that was proportionately

00:19:46.539 --> 00:19:47.319
 related to the amount

00:19:47.319 --> 00:19:47.799
 of secrets

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 they were carrying.

00:19:48.740 --> 00:19:49.119
 Now, I don't know

00:19:49.119 --> 00:19:49.759
 if that's true,

00:19:50.439 --> 00:19:51.179
 but I do know

00:19:51.179 --> 00:19:51.579
 that there's been

00:19:51.579 --> 00:19:52.539
 a massive rise

00:19:52.539 --> 00:19:54.279
 in online anonymous confessions.

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 Maybe you've read

00:19:55.699 --> 00:19:56.279
 about this too

00:19:56.279 --> 00:19:57.679
 because people are hungry

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 and desperate

00:19:58.339 --> 00:20:00.099
 to unburden themselves.

00:20:02.579 --> 00:20:03.339
 But there's a part

00:20:03.339 --> 00:20:03.879
 of our heart

00:20:03.879 --> 00:20:05.379
 that we sort of wall off,

00:20:05.439 --> 00:20:06.319
 and so, you know,

00:20:06.460 --> 00:20:07.720
 we've experienced this.

00:20:07.720 --> 00:20:08.379
 This is what David

00:20:08.379 --> 00:20:09.220
 was doing, right?

00:20:09.659 --> 00:20:10.359
 He's pretending

00:20:10.359 --> 00:20:11.240
 everything's okay,

00:20:11.399 --> 00:20:12.299
 and it's easy to think

00:20:12.299 --> 00:20:12.980
 that the best way

00:20:12.980 --> 00:20:13.939
 to deal with our sin

00:20:13.939 --> 00:20:15.339
 is simply to hide it

00:20:15.339 --> 00:20:16.599
 and to wall it off

00:20:16.599 --> 00:20:17.799
 and to hide our true self,

00:20:18.220 --> 00:20:19.759
 and we're incentivized

00:20:19.759 --> 00:20:20.859
 because it's scary

00:20:20.859 --> 00:20:21.439
 to be vulnerable.

00:20:22.339 --> 00:20:22.960
 We're afraid

00:20:22.960 --> 00:20:23.439
 that if people

00:20:23.439 --> 00:20:24.439
 really know who we are

00:20:24.439 --> 00:20:24.879
 or really know

00:20:24.879 --> 00:20:25.419
 what we've done

00:20:25.419 --> 00:20:25.859
 or really know

00:20:25.859 --> 00:20:26.740
 what we think

00:20:26.740 --> 00:20:28.960
 or the things

00:20:28.960 --> 00:20:29.740
 that we struggle with

00:20:29.740 --> 00:20:30.079
 that they're going

00:20:30.079 --> 00:20:31.339
 to immediately reject us.

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 And so,

00:20:33.039 --> 00:20:34.539
 we will wall off

00:20:34.539 --> 00:20:35.500
 parts of ourself.

00:20:36.220 --> 00:20:37.659
 We'll hide our true self.

00:20:39.019 --> 00:20:40.079
 The problem is,

00:20:40.139 --> 00:20:40.740
 it's impossible

00:20:40.740 --> 00:20:41.839
 to have a real

00:20:41.839 --> 00:20:43.619
 three-dimensional relationship

00:20:43.619 --> 00:20:44.899
 with other human beings

00:20:44.899 --> 00:20:46.559
 if nobody really

00:20:46.559 --> 00:20:47.619
 fully knows us.

00:20:48.939 --> 00:20:49.799
 And it's no different

00:20:49.799 --> 00:20:50.419
 with God.

00:20:52.279 --> 00:20:53.279
 The only difference

00:20:53.279 --> 00:20:54.019
 is that you can't

00:20:54.019 --> 00:20:54.720
 hide from God,

00:20:55.899 --> 00:20:56.859
 and yet if we're

00:20:56.859 --> 00:20:58.519
 actively walling off

00:20:58.519 --> 00:20:59.199
 parts of ourself

00:20:59.199 --> 00:20:59.659
 from God,

00:20:59.659 --> 00:21:00.539
 we can never really

00:21:00.539 --> 00:21:01.960
 have a life-giving

00:21:01.960 --> 00:21:03.559
 relationship with God

00:21:03.559 --> 00:21:04.159
 because we're trying

00:21:04.159 --> 00:21:05.039
 to convince God

00:21:05.039 --> 00:21:05.519
 that we're somebody

00:21:05.519 --> 00:21:06.079
 that we're not.

00:21:06.159 --> 00:21:06.920
 And God knows.

00:21:08.200 --> 00:21:09.259
 He knows that that's

00:21:09.259 --> 00:21:10.000
 a lie, right?

00:21:12.159 --> 00:21:13.779
 So God desires wisdom

00:21:13.779 --> 00:21:14.659
 in the secret heart.

00:21:14.779 --> 00:21:16.000
 God desires access

00:21:16.000 --> 00:21:17.539
 to all of us.

00:21:18.940 --> 00:21:19.940
 So all of these

00:21:19.940 --> 00:21:20.799
 are aspects

00:21:20.799 --> 00:21:22.039
 of the issue

00:21:22.039 --> 00:21:23.019
 that comes between

00:21:23.019 --> 00:21:23.500
 us and God,

00:21:23.559 --> 00:21:24.259
 the reason why

00:21:24.259 --> 00:21:25.039
 we can live

00:21:25.039 --> 00:21:25.899
 so much of our lives

00:21:25.899 --> 00:21:26.440
 with a kind of

00:21:26.440 --> 00:21:27.480
 fractured relationship

00:21:27.480 --> 00:21:28.440
 with God.

00:21:28.440 --> 00:21:29.039
 So the question

00:21:29.039 --> 00:21:29.559
 then arises,

00:21:29.700 --> 00:21:30.180
 how can we

00:21:30.180 --> 00:21:31.279
 reconnect with God

00:21:31.279 --> 00:21:33.420
 and recover the joy

00:21:33.420 --> 00:21:34.680
 that comes with that,

00:21:34.759 --> 00:21:35.259
 which is the whole

00:21:35.259 --> 00:21:36.799
 point of this psalm.

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 And the key

00:21:38.400 --> 00:21:39.180
 to repairing

00:21:39.180 --> 00:21:40.039
 our relationship

00:21:40.039 --> 00:21:40.660
 with God,

00:21:40.940 --> 00:21:41.799
 the key to

00:21:41.799 --> 00:21:43.299
 restoring joy

00:21:43.299 --> 00:21:44.279
 that comes with

00:21:44.279 --> 00:21:45.059
 that repairing

00:21:45.059 --> 00:21:45.900
 of the breach

00:21:45.900 --> 00:21:47.580
 is what the Bible

00:21:47.580 --> 00:21:48.920
 calls repentance.

00:21:50.460 --> 00:21:50.980
 Now,

00:21:51.180 --> 00:21:51.940
 when you say

00:21:51.940 --> 00:21:52.500
 repentance,

00:21:52.820 --> 00:21:53.980
 the challenge is

00:21:53.980 --> 00:21:55.279
 that for some people

00:21:55.279 --> 00:21:55.820
 who've grown up

00:21:55.819 --> 00:21:56.279
 in the church,

00:21:56.460 --> 00:21:57.159
 this feels like

00:21:57.159 --> 00:21:58.099
 Christianity 101.

00:21:58.639 --> 00:21:59.200
 I've heard this

00:21:59.200 --> 00:22:00.099
 a thousand times.

00:22:00.740 --> 00:22:01.559
 For other people,

00:22:01.619 --> 00:22:02.619
 it sounds like

00:22:02.619 --> 00:22:03.039
 this kind of

00:22:03.039 --> 00:22:04.000
 archaic word

00:22:04.000 --> 00:22:06.019
 that only kind of

00:22:06.019 --> 00:22:06.899
 traditionalist Christians

00:22:06.899 --> 00:22:08.099
 even talk about anymore.

00:22:08.460 --> 00:22:09.139
 You go to a lot of churches

00:22:09.139 --> 00:22:09.500
 and you don't even

00:22:09.500 --> 00:22:10.159
 hear this word.

00:22:11.480 --> 00:22:12.500
 The problem is

00:22:12.500 --> 00:22:13.159
 that regardless

00:22:13.159 --> 00:22:13.899
 of what category

00:22:13.899 --> 00:22:14.779
 or camp you're in,

00:22:14.839 --> 00:22:15.439
 a lot of us tend

00:22:15.439 --> 00:22:16.059
 to misunderstand

00:22:16.059 --> 00:22:17.039
 repentance.

00:22:18.879 --> 00:22:19.419
 Psalm 51

00:22:19.419 --> 00:22:19.879
 is one of the

00:22:19.879 --> 00:22:20.519
 clearest places

00:22:20.519 --> 00:22:21.539
 to see what actual

00:22:21.539 --> 00:22:22.059
 repentance,

00:22:22.279 --> 00:22:22.859
 what actual

00:22:22.859 --> 00:22:25.139
 relationship-restoring

00:22:25.140 --> 00:22:26.360
 joy-restoring

00:22:26.360 --> 00:22:27.640
 repentance looks like.

00:22:28.040 --> 00:22:28.860
 And the path

00:22:28.860 --> 00:22:29.500
 of repentance

00:22:29.500 --> 00:22:31.720
 involves a few things

00:22:31.720 --> 00:22:32.520
 that basically

00:22:32.520 --> 00:22:33.640
 determine whether

00:22:33.640 --> 00:22:34.100
 or not it's

00:22:34.100 --> 00:22:34.800
 actual true

00:22:34.800 --> 00:22:35.820
 repentance or not.

00:22:37.259 --> 00:22:38.420
 The first thing

00:22:38.420 --> 00:22:39.100
 that we see

00:22:39.100 --> 00:22:39.580
 in this psalm

00:22:39.580 --> 00:22:39.940
 is this,

00:22:40.000 --> 00:22:40.660
 is that repentance

00:22:40.660 --> 00:22:43.280
 involves appealing

00:22:43.280 --> 00:22:45.060
 to God's mercy

00:22:45.060 --> 00:22:45.920
 alone.

00:22:47.740 --> 00:22:48.940
 Appealing to God's

00:22:48.940 --> 00:22:49.780
 mercy alone.

00:22:51.480 --> 00:22:52.240
 So I don't know

00:22:52.240 --> 00:22:53.100
 when the last time

00:22:53.100 --> 00:22:53.780
 you said you were

00:22:53.780 --> 00:22:54.820
 sorry to somebody

00:22:54.819 --> 00:22:55.799
 or to God was,

00:22:55.899 --> 00:22:56.659
 but we tend to say

00:22:56.659 --> 00:22:57.220
 things like,

00:22:57.539 --> 00:22:58.200
 I'm so sorry,

00:22:58.339 --> 00:22:59.519
 I'll try to do

00:22:59.519 --> 00:23:00.139
 better next time.

00:23:01.000 --> 00:23:01.439
 Or,

00:23:01.799 --> 00:23:02.819
 I didn't mean

00:23:02.819 --> 00:23:03.339
 to do that.

00:23:04.099 --> 00:23:04.519
 Or,

00:23:05.059 --> 00:23:05.839
 it was a huge

00:23:05.839 --> 00:23:06.439
 misunderstanding.

00:23:07.480 --> 00:23:07.879
 Or,

00:23:08.039 --> 00:23:08.899
 I made a mistake

00:23:08.899 --> 00:23:09.480
 but that's not

00:23:09.480 --> 00:23:10.339
 who I really am.

00:23:11.639 --> 00:23:12.899
 And in all

00:23:12.899 --> 00:23:13.679
 of those cases

00:23:13.679 --> 00:23:14.439
 what we're really

00:23:14.439 --> 00:23:15.720
 essentially doing

00:23:15.720 --> 00:23:16.259
 is that we're

00:23:16.259 --> 00:23:16.980
 actually appealing

00:23:16.980 --> 00:23:17.980
 to our own character.

00:23:18.659 --> 00:23:19.240
 We're saying,

00:23:19.399 --> 00:23:19.879
 forgive me

00:23:19.879 --> 00:23:21.119
 because of who I am,

00:23:21.519 --> 00:23:21.980
 forgive me

00:23:21.980 --> 00:23:22.519
 because of who

00:23:22.519 --> 00:23:23.240
 I really am,

00:23:23.240 --> 00:23:23.940
 and you just

00:23:23.940 --> 00:23:24.680
 misunderstood it

00:23:24.680 --> 00:23:25.539
 or forgive me

00:23:25.539 --> 00:23:26.160
 because of what

00:23:26.160 --> 00:23:26.940
 I promised to do

00:23:26.940 --> 00:23:27.299
 differently.

00:23:27.660 --> 00:23:28.420
 It's all based

00:23:28.420 --> 00:23:29.039
 on me

00:23:29.039 --> 00:23:29.799
 and my character.

00:23:30.799 --> 00:23:31.299
 But David

00:23:31.299 --> 00:23:32.019
 doesn't do that.

00:23:32.420 --> 00:23:33.039
 David appeals

00:23:33.039 --> 00:23:34.759
 solidly and squarely

00:23:34.759 --> 00:23:35.720
 to God's character.

00:23:37.039 --> 00:23:37.319
 He says,

00:23:37.480 --> 00:23:38.380
 have mercy on me,

00:23:38.440 --> 00:23:38.900
 O God,

00:23:39.579 --> 00:23:40.140
 according to

00:23:40.140 --> 00:23:41.519
 your steadfast love,

00:23:43.059 --> 00:23:43.579
 according to

00:23:43.579 --> 00:23:44.400
 your abundant

00:23:44.400 --> 00:23:44.839
 mercy.

00:23:46.500 --> 00:23:47.339
 We'll come back

00:23:47.339 --> 00:23:47.680
 to this,

00:23:47.680 --> 00:23:49.799
 but God

00:23:49.799 --> 00:23:50.420
 doesn't owe

00:23:50.420 --> 00:23:51.320
 you anything.

00:23:53.100 --> 00:23:53.799
 He doesn't

00:23:53.799 --> 00:23:54.340
 owe me

00:23:54.340 --> 00:23:54.900
 anything.

00:23:55.580 --> 00:23:56.039
 Have mercy

00:23:56.039 --> 00:23:56.400
 on me,

00:23:56.440 --> 00:23:56.740
 O God,

00:23:56.779 --> 00:23:57.259
 according to

00:23:57.259 --> 00:23:57.600
 the fact

00:23:57.600 --> 00:23:57.980
 that it is

00:23:57.980 --> 00:23:58.560
 your character

00:23:58.560 --> 00:23:59.120
 and nature

00:23:59.120 --> 00:23:59.840
 to have mercy.

00:24:03.240 --> 00:24:04.160
 Number two,

00:24:04.840 --> 00:24:05.360
 so appealing

00:24:05.360 --> 00:24:06.180
 to God's mercy,

00:24:07.420 --> 00:24:08.720
 honestly admitting

00:24:08.720 --> 00:24:09.440
 our sin.

00:24:10.180 --> 00:24:10.440
 Friends,

00:24:10.539 --> 00:24:11.060
 I think this

00:24:11.060 --> 00:24:11.580
 may be,

00:24:11.740 --> 00:24:12.240
 in everything

00:24:12.240 --> 00:24:12.720
 we talk about

00:24:12.720 --> 00:24:13.140
 this morning,

00:24:13.480 --> 00:24:14.080
 the hardest

00:24:14.080 --> 00:24:14.680
 thing for us

00:24:14.680 --> 00:24:15.039
 to do.

00:24:15.039 --> 00:24:17.139
 If you've

00:24:17.139 --> 00:24:17.399
 ever,

00:24:17.940 --> 00:24:18.379
 and I assume

00:24:18.379 --> 00:24:19.000
 most of you

00:24:19.000 --> 00:24:19.299
 have,

00:24:19.639 --> 00:24:20.500
 really had to

00:24:20.500 --> 00:24:20.799
 admit that

00:24:20.799 --> 00:24:21.279
 you were wrong,

00:24:22.539 --> 00:24:23.259
 it is never

00:24:23.259 --> 00:24:24.480
 not excruciatingly

00:24:24.480 --> 00:24:24.779
 painful.

00:24:25.559 --> 00:24:26.220
 If you're

00:24:26.220 --> 00:24:26.799
 really doing

00:24:26.799 --> 00:24:27.039
 it,

00:24:27.539 --> 00:24:27.899
 if you're

00:24:27.899 --> 00:24:28.379
 really naming

00:24:28.379 --> 00:24:28.500
 it,

00:24:28.519 --> 00:24:28.940
 there's always

00:24:28.940 --> 00:24:29.480
 something in

00:24:29.480 --> 00:24:29.720
 you that

00:24:29.720 --> 00:24:29.879
 goes,

00:24:30.159 --> 00:24:31.220
 when you do

00:24:31.220 --> 00:24:31.399
 it,

00:24:31.659 --> 00:24:32.220
 it hurts.

00:24:33.579 --> 00:24:34.220
 But this

00:24:34.220 --> 00:24:34.599
 is saying

00:24:34.599 --> 00:24:34.960
 that true

00:24:34.960 --> 00:24:35.299
 repentance

00:24:35.299 --> 00:24:36.539
 means unblocking

00:24:36.539 --> 00:24:36.960
 the parts

00:24:36.960 --> 00:24:37.599
 of our hearts

00:24:37.599 --> 00:24:38.639
 that we have

00:24:38.639 --> 00:24:39.440
 walled off

00:24:39.440 --> 00:24:39.960
 and letting

00:24:39.960 --> 00:24:40.619
 everything flow

00:24:40.619 --> 00:24:40.879
 out.

00:24:41.519 --> 00:24:42.159
 Pulling out

00:24:42.159 --> 00:24:43.059
 that stopper

00:24:43.059 --> 00:24:43.940
 and just letting

00:24:43.940 --> 00:24:44.440
 it all come

00:24:44.440 --> 00:24:44.700
 out.

00:24:45.039 --> 00:24:45.879
 But that

00:24:45.879 --> 00:24:46.399
 is really

00:24:46.399 --> 00:24:46.899
 hard to

00:24:46.899 --> 00:24:47.119
 do.

00:24:47.299 --> 00:24:47.440
 You know,

00:24:47.659 --> 00:24:48.279
 a few years

00:24:48.279 --> 00:24:48.720
 back,

00:24:48.920 --> 00:24:49.460
 a couple

00:24:49.460 --> 00:24:49.920
 of social

00:24:49.920 --> 00:24:50.579
 psychologists

00:24:50.579 --> 00:24:51.139
 wrote a

00:24:51.139 --> 00:24:51.460
 book,

00:24:52.079 --> 00:24:52.379
 and it

00:24:52.379 --> 00:24:52.639
 was a

00:24:52.639 --> 00:24:52.960
 book

00:24:52.960 --> 00:24:54.099
 primarily

00:24:54.099 --> 00:24:54.899
 on marriage,

00:24:55.339 --> 00:24:55.519
 and it

00:24:55.519 --> 00:24:55.940
 was called

00:24:55.940 --> 00:24:56.460
 Mistakes

00:24:56.460 --> 00:24:56.960
 Were Made

00:24:56.960 --> 00:24:57.339
 But Not

00:24:57.339 --> 00:24:57.779
 By Me.

00:24:58.680 --> 00:24:59.039
 So I like

00:24:59.039 --> 00:24:59.420
 the title,

00:24:59.539 --> 00:24:59.859
 Mistakes

00:24:59.859 --> 00:25:00.240
 Were Made

00:25:00.240 --> 00:25:00.599
 But Not

00:25:00.599 --> 00:25:00.980
 By Me.

00:25:01.740 --> 00:25:02.539
 And based

00:25:02.539 --> 00:25:03.000
 on their

00:25:03.000 --> 00:25:03.579
 research,

00:25:03.819 --> 00:25:04.139
 they say

00:25:04.139 --> 00:25:04.740
 the majority

00:25:04.740 --> 00:25:05.279
 of married

00:25:05.279 --> 00:25:05.899
 couples who

00:25:05.899 --> 00:25:06.639
 drift apart

00:25:06.639 --> 00:25:07.399
 over time

00:25:07.399 --> 00:25:08.539
 do so

00:25:08.539 --> 00:25:09.099
 slowly.

00:25:10.139 --> 00:25:10.519
 So they

00:25:10.519 --> 00:25:10.899
 drift apart

00:25:10.899 --> 00:25:11.539
 slowly over

00:25:11.539 --> 00:25:12.740
 time in

00:25:12.740 --> 00:25:13.059
 what they

00:25:13.059 --> 00:25:13.980
 describe as a

00:25:13.980 --> 00:25:14.879
 snowballing

00:25:14.880 --> 00:25:16.100
 pattern of

00:25:16.100 --> 00:25:16.960
 blame and

00:25:16.960 --> 00:25:18.220
 self-justification.

00:25:19.300 --> 00:25:20.200
 So each

00:25:20.200 --> 00:25:21.220
 partner focuses

00:25:21.220 --> 00:25:21.920
 on what the

00:25:21.920 --> 00:25:22.700
 other one is

00:25:22.700 --> 00:25:23.480
 doing wrong

00:25:23.480 --> 00:25:25.140
 while justifying

00:25:25.140 --> 00:25:25.860
 his or her

00:25:25.860 --> 00:25:26.800
 own preferences,

00:25:27.080 --> 00:25:27.500
 attitudes,

00:25:27.660 --> 00:25:28.760
 and ways of

00:25:28.760 --> 00:25:29.560
 doing things.

00:25:30.560 --> 00:25:31.440
 So the big

00:25:31.440 --> 00:25:32.280
 conclusion of the

00:25:32.280 --> 00:25:32.880
 book is this.

00:25:33.080 --> 00:25:33.280
 You know,

00:25:33.340 --> 00:25:33.640
 this is a

00:25:33.640 --> 00:25:34.040
 CliffsNotes

00:25:34.040 --> 00:25:34.400
 version.

00:25:34.520 --> 00:25:35.480
 I'll spoil the

00:25:35.480 --> 00:25:36.080
 ending for you.

00:25:36.079 --> 00:25:37.199
 The thing that

00:25:37.199 --> 00:25:38.220
 chokes the love

00:25:38.220 --> 00:25:38.859
 out of these

00:25:38.859 --> 00:25:39.439
 relationships

00:25:39.439 --> 00:25:40.659
 is not

00:25:40.659 --> 00:25:41.339
 conflicts,

00:25:42.019 --> 00:25:42.740
 it's not

00:25:42.740 --> 00:25:43.819
 misunderstandings,

00:25:44.119 --> 00:25:44.839
 it's not

00:25:44.839 --> 00:25:45.379
 personality

00:25:45.379 --> 00:25:45.919
 differences,

00:25:46.460 --> 00:25:47.139
 it's not the

00:25:47.139 --> 00:25:47.579
 fact that you

00:25:47.579 --> 00:25:48.059
 have different

00:25:48.059 --> 00:25:48.639
 hobbies and

00:25:48.639 --> 00:25:49.059
 interests,

00:25:49.199 --> 00:25:49.559
 or that one

00:25:49.559 --> 00:25:49.960
 of you goes

00:25:49.960 --> 00:25:50.480
 to bed early

00:25:50.480 --> 00:25:50.779
 and one

00:25:50.779 --> 00:25:51.119
 of you goes

00:25:51.119 --> 00:25:51.679
 to bed late,

00:25:51.759 --> 00:25:52.059
 or that one

00:25:52.059 --> 00:25:52.480
 of you likes

00:25:52.480 --> 00:25:53.079
 a clean house

00:25:53.079 --> 00:25:53.339
 and one

00:25:53.339 --> 00:25:53.720
 of you doesn't

00:25:53.720 --> 00:25:54.259
 mind a mess,

00:25:54.500 --> 00:25:54.819
 or that one

00:25:54.819 --> 00:25:55.159
 of you likes

00:25:55.159 --> 00:25:55.819
 to plan ahead

00:25:55.819 --> 00:25:56.139
 and the other

00:25:56.139 --> 00:25:56.460
 one likes

00:25:56.460 --> 00:25:56.779
 to live

00:25:56.779 --> 00:25:57.439
 spontaneously.

00:25:57.720 --> 00:25:58.099
 It's none

00:25:58.099 --> 00:25:58.379
 of those

00:25:58.379 --> 00:25:58.779
 things.

00:25:59.919 --> 00:26:00.500
 The thing

00:26:00.500 --> 00:26:01.019
 that chokes

00:26:01.019 --> 00:26:01.480
 the love

00:26:01.480 --> 00:26:02.459
 out is

00:26:02.459 --> 00:26:04.319
 self-justification.

00:26:06.240 --> 00:26:07.740
 Self-justification.

00:26:09.899 --> 00:26:10.659
 Question is,

00:26:10.719 --> 00:26:11.399
 if we're tempted

00:26:11.399 --> 00:26:12.240
 to do that

00:26:12.240 --> 00:26:13.299
 in our marriages

00:26:13.299 --> 00:26:14.159
 with the people

00:26:14.159 --> 00:26:15.399
 that we supposedly

00:26:15.399 --> 00:26:16.319
 love the most

00:26:16.319 --> 00:26:16.740
 of anybody

00:26:16.740 --> 00:26:17.519
 in the world,

00:26:18.599 --> 00:26:19.599
 how much more

00:26:19.599 --> 00:26:20.219
 are we tempted

00:26:20.219 --> 00:26:20.759
 to do this

00:26:20.759 --> 00:26:21.539
 in our relationship

00:26:21.539 --> 00:26:22.679
 with God?

00:26:22.799 --> 00:26:23.619
 Or another way

00:26:23.619 --> 00:26:24.079
 of putting it,

00:26:24.119 --> 00:26:24.619
 what makes us

00:26:24.619 --> 00:26:25.099
 think we would

00:26:25.099 --> 00:26:25.759
 do any better

00:26:25.759 --> 00:26:26.819
 with God?

00:26:26.819 --> 00:26:28.379
 You know,

00:26:28.460 --> 00:26:28.839
 I don't know

00:26:28.839 --> 00:26:29.740
 if you're like me,

00:26:29.859 --> 00:26:30.299
 but sometimes

00:26:30.299 --> 00:26:31.039
 it feels like

00:26:31.039 --> 00:26:31.899
 we're all born

00:26:31.899 --> 00:26:32.659
 with this little

00:26:32.659 --> 00:26:34.059
 team of defense

00:26:34.059 --> 00:26:35.220
 attorneys in our brain.

00:26:36.319 --> 00:26:36.539
 You know,

00:26:36.579 --> 00:26:36.939
 you're born

00:26:36.939 --> 00:26:37.359
 of these little

00:26:37.359 --> 00:26:38.059
 defense attorneys

00:26:38.059 --> 00:26:38.679
 and they're yours

00:26:38.679 --> 00:26:39.599
 and they work

00:26:39.599 --> 00:26:39.980
 for you.

00:26:40.079 --> 00:26:40.799
 They work pro bono

00:26:40.799 --> 00:26:41.460
 just for you.

00:26:42.259 --> 00:26:43.359
 And so when somebody

00:26:43.359 --> 00:26:43.960
 comes along

00:26:43.960 --> 00:26:44.359
 and they say,

00:26:44.480 --> 00:26:44.939
 when you said

00:26:44.939 --> 00:26:45.359
 or did that,

00:26:45.439 --> 00:26:46.099
 you hurt my feelings

00:26:46.099 --> 00:26:46.700
 or you did this,

00:26:46.879 --> 00:26:47.559
 the defense attorneys

00:26:47.559 --> 00:26:47.899
 are like,

00:26:48.399 --> 00:26:49.000
 we're here to go.

00:26:49.139 --> 00:26:49.259
 You know,

00:26:49.279 --> 00:26:49.819
 and they all

00:26:49.819 --> 00:26:50.559
 stop to attention

00:26:50.559 --> 00:26:50.980
 and they start

00:26:50.980 --> 00:26:51.579
 taking notes,

00:26:51.659 --> 00:26:51.859
 right?

00:26:52.439 --> 00:26:52.980
 And they use

00:26:52.980 --> 00:26:53.500
 on some of

00:26:53.500 --> 00:26:54.359
 who are defense attorneys,

00:26:54.559 --> 00:26:54.759
 right?

00:26:54.960 --> 00:26:55.539
 And you know

00:26:55.539 --> 00:26:56.339
 all the tactics,

00:26:56.460 --> 00:26:56.599
 right?

00:26:56.819 --> 00:26:57.000
 We're going to

00:26:57.000 --> 00:26:57.759
 discredit the witness.

00:26:57.939 --> 00:26:58.099
 We're going to,

00:26:58.179 --> 00:26:59.139
 did you really say this?

00:26:59.220 --> 00:26:59.460
 And you really,

00:26:59.559 --> 00:26:59.879
 and I,

00:26:59.980 --> 00:27:00.359
 you know,

00:27:01.119 --> 00:27:01.740
 and then they start

00:27:01.740 --> 00:27:02.639
 to just poke

00:27:02.639 --> 00:27:03.919
 a thousand holes

00:27:03.919 --> 00:27:05.379
 in that person's claim

00:27:05.379 --> 00:27:05.799
 that you've done

00:27:05.799 --> 00:27:06.259
 something wrong

00:27:06.259 --> 00:27:06.819
 against them,

00:27:06.879 --> 00:27:07.099
 right?

00:27:08.000 --> 00:27:09.500
 And their sole job

00:27:09.500 --> 00:27:10.220
 in your life

00:27:10.220 --> 00:27:10.700
 is to get you

00:27:10.700 --> 00:27:11.179
 off the hook.

00:27:12.359 --> 00:27:13.259
 Those defense attorneys,

00:27:13.379 --> 00:27:14.259
 they exist for one

00:27:14.259 --> 00:27:15.399
 purpose alone.

00:27:16.519 --> 00:27:18.019
 It's to convince you

00:27:18.019 --> 00:27:19.139
 and everybody around you

00:27:19.139 --> 00:27:19.779
 that you're actually

00:27:19.779 --> 00:27:20.119
 innocent,

00:27:20.240 --> 00:27:21.159
 maybe even the victim,

00:27:22.639 --> 00:27:23.659
 and that that other person

00:27:23.659 --> 00:27:25.559
 is the one

00:27:25.559 --> 00:27:26.279
 who's in the wrong,

00:27:26.359 --> 00:27:26.599
 right?

00:27:27.559 --> 00:27:28.059
 And you know,

00:27:28.119 --> 00:27:28.699
 I would say

00:27:28.699 --> 00:27:29.339
 to a certain extent,

00:27:29.419 --> 00:27:30.119
 I think we live

00:27:30.119 --> 00:27:30.679
 in a culture

00:27:30.679 --> 00:27:31.339
 that has kind of

00:27:31.339 --> 00:27:32.859
 inflamed and empowered

00:27:32.859 --> 00:27:33.740
 our defense attorneys.

00:27:33.859 --> 00:27:34.619
 We live in a culture

00:27:34.619 --> 00:27:35.980
 of victimization

00:27:35.980 --> 00:27:37.539
 where there's a,

00:27:37.539 --> 00:27:38.559
 there's a readiness

00:27:38.559 --> 00:27:39.719
 to jump into

00:27:39.719 --> 00:27:40.500
 the role of victim.

00:27:40.779 --> 00:27:41.539
 People sort of want

00:27:41.539 --> 00:27:42.399
 to claim that they've

00:27:42.399 --> 00:27:43.139
 been victimized.

00:27:43.339 --> 00:27:44.719
 You see that all the time.

00:27:44.799 --> 00:27:45.500
 You see it in the church

00:27:45.500 --> 00:27:46.339
 as well as anywhere else.

00:27:46.339 --> 00:27:47.059
 People who are,

00:27:47.399 --> 00:27:47.500
 you know,

00:27:47.539 --> 00:27:48.559
 somebody raises concerns

00:27:48.559 --> 00:27:49.219
 and they respond

00:27:49.219 --> 00:27:49.659
 by saying,

00:27:49.740 --> 00:27:50.799
 you're victimizing me.

00:27:51.240 --> 00:27:51.939
 And then the entire

00:27:51.939 --> 00:27:52.819
 conflict becomes

00:27:52.819 --> 00:27:53.699
 who's the bigger victim?

00:27:54.119 --> 00:27:55.179
 Who's been more wronged,

00:27:55.180 --> 00:27:55.519
 right?

00:27:55.960 --> 00:27:56.740
 All the while,

00:27:56.820 --> 00:27:57.620
 what's not happening?

00:27:58.240 --> 00:27:59.580
 Nobody's taking responsibility.

00:28:00.100 --> 00:28:01.279
 Nobody's owning their stuff.

00:28:03.500 --> 00:28:05.299
 So what we see here,

00:28:05.380 --> 00:28:06.519
 what we see in David's words,

00:28:07.259 --> 00:28:08.860
 is that true repentance

00:28:08.860 --> 00:28:10.500
 requires that we fire

00:28:10.500 --> 00:28:11.460
 our defense attorneys.

00:28:12.640 --> 00:28:13.160
 Right?

00:28:13.240 --> 00:28:13.920
 We fire them.

00:28:13.920 --> 00:28:16.820
 We stop trying

00:28:16.820 --> 00:28:17.820
 to justify ourselves.

00:28:19.120 --> 00:28:20.080
 And we start to do

00:28:20.080 --> 00:28:20.700
 the hard work

00:28:20.700 --> 00:28:21.500
 of owning our sin.

00:28:22.779 --> 00:28:23.800
 And it's not easy.

00:28:24.759 --> 00:28:25.660
 And I can imagine

00:28:25.660 --> 00:28:26.180
 for David

00:28:26.180 --> 00:28:26.860
 it would have been hard

00:28:26.860 --> 00:28:27.860
 to write these words.

00:28:28.759 --> 00:28:30.240
 For I know my transgressions

00:28:30.240 --> 00:28:31.460
 and my sin

00:28:31.460 --> 00:28:32.340
 is ever before me.

00:28:32.400 --> 00:28:32.779
 He's like,

00:28:33.080 --> 00:28:34.080
 it's all right here.

00:28:34.340 --> 00:28:35.279
 I'm not going to hide anymore.

00:28:35.400 --> 00:28:36.220
 No defense attorneys.

00:28:36.920 --> 00:28:37.660
 Here's my sin.

00:28:38.600 --> 00:28:39.360
 Against you

00:28:39.360 --> 00:28:40.120
 and you only

00:28:40.120 --> 00:28:40.860
 have I sinned

00:28:40.860 --> 00:28:41.680
 and done what is evil

00:28:41.680 --> 00:28:42.279
 in your sight

00:28:42.279 --> 00:28:44.339
 so that you may be justified

00:28:44.339 --> 00:28:45.099
 in your words

00:28:45.099 --> 00:28:45.740
 and blameless

00:28:45.740 --> 00:28:46.899
 in your judgment.

00:28:47.079 --> 00:28:48.399
 Here's how to own your sin.

00:28:48.500 --> 00:28:48.960
 What's he doing?

00:28:49.039 --> 00:28:49.399
 Number one,

00:28:49.420 --> 00:28:49.779
 he's saying,

00:28:49.879 --> 00:28:50.700
 I admit my sin.

00:28:50.759 --> 00:28:51.639
 I'm not going to try to hide it.

00:28:51.980 --> 00:28:52.720
 I was wrong.

00:28:54.000 --> 00:28:54.839
 And then he says,

00:28:54.940 --> 00:28:55.859
 and all of my sin

00:28:55.859 --> 00:28:56.899
 is ultimately committed

00:28:56.899 --> 00:28:57.700
 against God.

00:28:57.759 --> 00:28:58.059
 And you say,

00:28:58.119 --> 00:28:58.240
 well,

00:28:58.480 --> 00:29:00.139
 he kind of mistreated Bathsheba

00:29:00.139 --> 00:29:01.920
 and her late husband.

00:29:02.019 --> 00:29:02.299
 And you're like,

00:29:02.339 --> 00:29:02.759
 absolutely.

00:29:02.940 --> 00:29:03.139
 Yes,

00:29:03.180 --> 00:29:04.200
 he sinned against Bathsheba

00:29:04.200 --> 00:29:05.420
 and her dead husband.

00:29:05.420 --> 00:29:05.980
 He sinned against

00:29:05.980 --> 00:29:07.379
 the whole nation of Israel.

00:29:07.519 --> 00:29:08.079
 But guess what?

00:29:08.339 --> 00:29:09.420
 Before he ever committed

00:29:09.420 --> 00:29:10.519
 adultery with Bathsheba,

00:29:10.779 --> 00:29:11.680
 he committed adultery

00:29:11.680 --> 00:29:12.220
 against God.

00:29:12.279 --> 00:29:15.920
 All sin we commit

00:29:15.920 --> 00:29:17.200
 horizontally

00:29:17.200 --> 00:29:19.440
 flows out of sin

00:29:19.440 --> 00:29:20.339
 and rebellion

00:29:20.339 --> 00:29:20.960
 that we've committed

00:29:20.960 --> 00:29:22.359
 first and foremost

00:29:22.359 --> 00:29:23.079
 against God.

00:29:25.279 --> 00:29:26.579
 But then David goes on

00:29:26.579 --> 00:29:27.480
 to say a final thing

00:29:27.480 --> 00:29:28.700
 that we would often overlook.

00:29:29.279 --> 00:29:29.940
 He says that God

00:29:29.940 --> 00:29:31.059
 is fully justified

00:29:31.059 --> 00:29:31.920
 in condemning him.

00:29:32.139 --> 00:29:33.240
 And this is very important.

00:29:33.339 --> 00:29:33.940
 We come back to what

00:29:33.940 --> 00:29:34.779
 we said a little while ago.

00:29:35.119 --> 00:29:35.799
 We have to realize

00:29:35.799 --> 00:29:37.079
 God doesn't owe us anything.

00:29:37.079 --> 00:29:40.819
 And God would be fully justified

00:29:40.819 --> 00:29:41.679
 in condemning us.

00:29:42.000 --> 00:29:42.740
 God's judgments

00:29:42.740 --> 00:29:43.559
 are just.

00:29:44.619 --> 00:29:45.619
 And we have to recognize

00:29:45.619 --> 00:29:47.119
 if we get what we deserve

00:29:47.119 --> 00:29:47.720
 from God,

00:29:47.779 --> 00:29:48.500
 there would be no hope

00:29:48.500 --> 00:29:49.319
 for any of us.

00:29:50.480 --> 00:29:51.679
 And David names all of that.

00:29:51.759 --> 00:29:52.460
 I've sinned.

00:29:53.500 --> 00:29:54.240
 All of my sin

00:29:54.240 --> 00:29:54.639
 was ultimately

00:29:54.639 --> 00:29:54.939
 against,

00:29:55.059 --> 00:29:55.720
 in first and foremost,

00:29:55.720 --> 00:29:56.439
 against you, God,

00:29:56.500 --> 00:29:57.519
 and you would be justified

00:29:57.519 --> 00:29:58.279
 and right

00:29:58.279 --> 00:29:59.079
 in condemning me.

00:29:59.079 --> 00:30:02.960
 And then finally,

00:30:05.019 --> 00:30:05.779
 repentance involves

00:30:05.779 --> 00:30:06.919
 asking not only

00:30:06.919 --> 00:30:07.579
 for forgiveness,

00:30:08.779 --> 00:30:10.899
 but for a new heart.

00:30:12.699 --> 00:30:13.599
 Create in me,

00:30:13.659 --> 00:30:14.139
 he says,

00:30:14.199 --> 00:30:15.220
 a clean heart,

00:30:15.339 --> 00:30:15.879
 O God,

00:30:16.319 --> 00:30:17.519
 a pure heart,

00:30:17.819 --> 00:30:18.579
 and renew

00:30:18.579 --> 00:30:19.740
 a right spirit

00:30:19.740 --> 00:30:20.379
 within me.

00:30:20.500 --> 00:30:21.339
 So repentance

00:30:21.339 --> 00:30:22.539
 is more than just

00:30:22.539 --> 00:30:24.279
 behavior modification.

00:30:25.240 --> 00:30:26.259
 It's a cry

00:30:26.259 --> 00:30:27.279
 from new creation.

00:30:27.279 --> 00:30:29.059
 It's a cry

00:30:29.059 --> 00:30:29.839
 for recreation.

00:30:30.220 --> 00:30:31.319
 God who said,

00:30:31.519 --> 00:30:32.119
 let there be light.

00:30:32.519 --> 00:30:33.299
 God who created

00:30:33.299 --> 00:30:34.279
 the heavens and the earth.

00:30:35.299 --> 00:30:35.799
 I need you

00:30:35.799 --> 00:30:36.700
 to recreate me.

00:30:38.619 --> 00:30:39.740
 God has the power

00:30:39.740 --> 00:30:40.720
 to transform us

00:30:40.720 --> 00:30:41.680
 from the inside out

00:30:41.680 --> 00:30:42.740
 through the power

00:30:42.740 --> 00:30:43.599
 of the Holy Spirit.

00:30:45.279 --> 00:30:46.379
 And this is where

00:30:46.379 --> 00:30:47.420
 we see the good news

00:30:47.420 --> 00:30:48.139
 of the gospel.

00:30:48.680 --> 00:30:49.740
 That when we come

00:30:49.740 --> 00:30:50.740
 to God in the way

00:30:50.740 --> 00:30:52.039
 that we have just laid out,

00:30:52.139 --> 00:30:52.920
 when we come to God

00:30:52.920 --> 00:30:54.420
 appealing to God's mercy,

00:30:54.960 --> 00:30:55.879
 honestly admitting

00:30:55.879 --> 00:30:56.480
 our sin,

00:30:56.480 --> 00:30:58.059
 and asking for a new heart,

00:30:58.200 --> 00:30:58.620
 guess what?

00:30:58.900 --> 00:30:59.579
 God's answer

00:30:59.579 --> 00:31:00.940
 is always yes.

00:31:01.799 --> 00:31:03.460
 It is always yes.

00:31:03.880 --> 00:31:04.579
 Because God

00:31:04.579 --> 00:31:05.599
 has already accomplished

00:31:05.599 --> 00:31:06.680
 everything necessary

00:31:06.680 --> 00:31:07.720
 to set us free

00:31:07.720 --> 00:31:08.380
 from sin.

00:31:09.099 --> 00:31:10.059
 David was praying

00:31:10.059 --> 00:31:11.500
 this before the cross.

00:31:12.059 --> 00:31:12.779
 He was praying

00:31:12.779 --> 00:31:13.980
 with a kind of uncertainty.

00:31:14.140 --> 00:31:14.539
 I don't know.

00:31:14.799 --> 00:31:15.779
 Maybe God will forgive him.

00:31:15.920 --> 00:31:16.720
 Maybe he won't.

00:31:17.759 --> 00:31:18.680
 But we're praying

00:31:18.680 --> 00:31:19.319
 yes, friends,

00:31:19.400 --> 00:31:20.200
 on the other side

00:31:20.200 --> 00:31:20.640
 of the cross.

00:31:20.720 --> 00:31:21.279
 So we're not looking

00:31:21.279 --> 00:31:22.200
 ahead into the unknown.

00:31:22.400 --> 00:31:23.220
 We're looking back

00:31:23.220 --> 00:31:23.860
 on what is known

00:31:23.860 --> 00:31:24.360
 and certain.

00:31:24.359 --> 00:31:26.559
 Because of the cross,

00:31:26.759 --> 00:31:27.719
 unlike David,

00:31:27.979 --> 00:31:29.259
 we know that when we

00:31:29.259 --> 00:31:29.979
 pray this way,

00:31:30.359 --> 00:31:32.259
 God's answer is always yes.

00:31:32.699 --> 00:31:33.519
 We just have to come

00:31:33.519 --> 00:31:34.099
 and ask him.

00:31:34.579 --> 00:31:35.559
 The people who aren't

00:31:35.559 --> 00:31:36.359
 reconciled to God,

00:31:36.439 --> 00:31:37.119
 the people who are

00:31:37.119 --> 00:31:38.359
 disconnected from God,

00:31:38.439 --> 00:31:39.639
 the people who don't

00:31:39.639 --> 00:31:40.359
 know the Lord,

00:31:40.459 --> 00:31:41.039
 the people who've never

00:31:41.039 --> 00:31:42.099
 experienced this life

00:31:42.099 --> 00:31:42.479
 in joy,

00:31:43.240 --> 00:31:44.579
 the reason that is the case

00:31:44.579 --> 00:31:45.240
 is because they have

00:31:45.240 --> 00:31:46.059
 never come to God

00:31:46.059 --> 00:31:46.599
 and asked.

00:31:47.439 --> 00:31:48.319
 There is no one

00:31:48.319 --> 00:31:49.419
 who has ever come to God

00:31:49.419 --> 00:31:51.079
 where God has said no.

00:31:51.079 --> 00:31:54.240
 So when we know

00:31:54.240 --> 00:31:55.539
 that we've been forgiven

00:31:55.539 --> 00:31:57.339
 and restored to God,

00:31:57.539 --> 00:31:58.679
 that's when the joy

00:31:58.679 --> 00:32:00.079
 begins to return.

00:32:00.779 --> 00:32:01.819
 And that is that kind

00:32:01.819 --> 00:32:02.399
 of unique,

00:32:02.599 --> 00:32:03.539
 powerful joy

00:32:03.539 --> 00:32:05.199
 that comes from being

00:32:05.199 --> 00:32:06.720
 fully known

00:32:06.720 --> 00:32:08.779
 and fully loved

00:32:08.779 --> 00:32:10.039
 because we've unstopped

00:32:10.039 --> 00:32:11.579
 the secret places.

00:32:12.299 --> 00:32:13.299
 And that makes us

00:32:13.299 --> 00:32:14.019
 fully secure.

00:32:14.019 --> 00:32:16.460
 And that's,

00:32:16.579 --> 00:32:16.740
 I think,

00:32:16.839 --> 00:32:17.019
 friends,

00:32:17.119 --> 00:32:18.200
 what many of us

00:32:18.200 --> 00:32:18.879
 are really after,

00:32:19.759 --> 00:32:21.099
 what we really need,

00:32:21.940 --> 00:32:22.639
 is I need to know

00:32:22.639 --> 00:32:23.680
 that somewhere out there,

00:32:23.900 --> 00:32:24.720
 the one whose opinion

00:32:24.720 --> 00:32:25.619
 matters most,

00:32:26.059 --> 00:32:27.019
 more than anyone else

00:32:27.019 --> 00:32:27.559
 in my life,

00:32:28.400 --> 00:32:29.420
 fully knows me,

00:32:30.279 --> 00:32:31.400
 fully loves me,

00:32:32.000 --> 00:32:32.779
 and in him

00:32:32.779 --> 00:32:34.400
 I am absolutely secure.

00:32:35.359 --> 00:32:35.599
 I mean,

00:32:35.660 --> 00:32:36.819
 just when I say those words,

00:32:36.900 --> 00:32:37.579
 don't you feel,

00:32:37.759 --> 00:32:38.579
 do you feel something

00:32:38.579 --> 00:32:39.579
 in you just kind of go,

00:32:39.960 --> 00:32:43.379
 fully known,

00:32:44.019 --> 00:32:45.319
 fully loved,

00:32:46.339 --> 00:32:47.579
 absolutely secure.

00:32:48.940 --> 00:32:49.420
 Right?

00:32:51.019 --> 00:32:52.339
 So let's step back

00:32:52.339 --> 00:32:54.279
 and look at all this together,

00:32:54.400 --> 00:32:55.460
 just kind of pull it together.

00:32:57.940 --> 00:32:59.400
 God desires for you

00:32:59.400 --> 00:32:59.879
 and for me

00:32:59.879 --> 00:33:00.799
 to live lives

00:33:00.799 --> 00:33:01.940
 marked by joy.

00:33:03.579 --> 00:33:04.740
 Christianity is not

00:33:04.740 --> 00:33:06.460
 about a grim compliance

00:33:06.460 --> 00:33:08.440
 or grudging obedience.

00:33:08.700 --> 00:33:09.799
 Some people treat Christianity

00:33:09.799 --> 00:33:10.900
 as though we're children

00:33:10.900 --> 00:33:12.079
 learning to like broccoli.

00:33:14.519 --> 00:33:15.639
 God's invited us

00:33:15.639 --> 00:33:16.379
 into a life

00:33:16.379 --> 00:33:17.539
 of joy and peace.

00:33:17.779 --> 00:33:18.420
 Don't you understand?

00:33:18.779 --> 00:33:20.039
 God wants to teach us

00:33:20.039 --> 00:33:20.579
 to dance.

00:33:21.259 --> 00:33:22.259
 God wants to invite us

00:33:22.259 --> 00:33:22.839
 to fly.

00:33:24.319 --> 00:33:24.440
 Right?

00:33:24.500 --> 00:33:26.039
 God wants to lift us

00:33:26.039 --> 00:33:27.299
 right out of the mire,

00:33:27.460 --> 00:33:28.619
 set us on solid ground.

00:33:29.379 --> 00:33:30.139
 That's the life

00:33:30.139 --> 00:33:31.000
 that we're invited into.

00:33:31.119 --> 00:33:32.539
 So if we lack joy

00:33:32.539 --> 00:33:33.519
 in our lives,

00:33:33.539 --> 00:33:34.139
 if we don't have

00:33:34.139 --> 00:33:35.579
 that bedrock assurance

00:33:35.579 --> 00:33:36.859
 that all is well

00:33:36.859 --> 00:33:37.400
 and that God

00:33:37.400 --> 00:33:38.099
 is in control,

00:33:38.299 --> 00:33:39.599
 that means that something

00:33:39.599 --> 00:33:40.940
 has come in the way

00:33:40.940 --> 00:33:41.799
 of our relationship

00:33:41.799 --> 00:33:42.299
 with God.

00:33:43.500 --> 00:33:44.419
 It means that something

00:33:44.419 --> 00:33:45.319
 has gotten in the way

00:33:45.319 --> 00:33:46.099
 and as we said,

00:33:46.159 --> 00:33:47.079
 it could be things

00:33:47.079 --> 00:33:48.159
 that we're actively doing

00:33:48.159 --> 00:33:48.680
 in rebellion.

00:33:48.839 --> 00:33:49.539
 Maybe you already know

00:33:49.539 --> 00:33:50.659
 exactly what that is.

00:33:50.899 --> 00:33:51.779
 It could simply be

00:33:51.779 --> 00:33:52.819
 the fact that we're living

00:33:52.819 --> 00:33:54.000
 by our own standards

00:33:54.000 --> 00:33:54.819
 instead of His

00:33:54.819 --> 00:33:56.019
 or it could be

00:33:56.019 --> 00:33:56.599
 that we're living

00:33:56.599 --> 00:33:57.639
 like He doesn't exist

00:33:57.639 --> 00:33:58.379
 in certain areas

00:33:58.379 --> 00:33:59.079
 of our lives.

00:33:59.899 --> 00:34:00.960
 But in every case,

00:34:01.039 --> 00:34:01.940
 the answer is always

00:34:01.940 --> 00:34:02.379
 the same.

00:34:02.460 --> 00:34:03.460
 There's only one path

00:34:03.460 --> 00:34:04.180
 back in

00:34:04.180 --> 00:34:05.480
 and that is the path

00:34:05.480 --> 00:34:06.099
 of repentance.

00:34:08.259 --> 00:34:09.019
 And friends,

00:34:09.139 --> 00:34:10.239
 this is the first Sunday

00:34:10.239 --> 00:34:10.899
 as we've said

00:34:10.899 --> 00:34:11.879
 of the season of Lent

00:34:11.879 --> 00:34:12.679
 which is entirely

00:34:12.679 --> 00:34:14.000
 focused on repentance.

00:34:14.879 --> 00:34:15.959
 And hopefully by now

00:34:15.959 --> 00:34:17.059
 it is abundantly clear

00:34:17.059 --> 00:34:17.879
 that that doesn't mean

00:34:17.879 --> 00:34:18.679
 Lent is a time

00:34:18.679 --> 00:34:19.639
 to be morose

00:34:19.639 --> 00:34:20.759
 and self-critical.

00:34:22.619 --> 00:34:23.239
 Lent is about

00:34:23.239 --> 00:34:24.579
 restoring joy.

00:34:25.619 --> 00:34:26.059
 I think Lent

00:34:26.059 --> 00:34:27.079
 is often misunderstood.

00:34:27.339 --> 00:34:27.759
 Lent is about

00:34:27.759 --> 00:34:28.299
 the restoration

00:34:28.299 --> 00:34:29.079
 and the recovery

00:34:29.079 --> 00:34:30.159
 of joy

00:34:30.159 --> 00:34:31.419
 that is found

00:34:31.419 --> 00:34:32.299
 in God's presence.

00:34:33.439 --> 00:34:34.259
 The last thing

00:34:34.259 --> 00:34:34.939
 I'll say is this.

00:34:35.059 --> 00:34:35.859
 Depending on how

00:34:35.859 --> 00:34:36.579
 you're wired,

00:34:36.579 --> 00:34:38.360
 this might look

00:34:38.360 --> 00:34:38.920
 different

00:34:38.920 --> 00:34:40.480
 depending on

00:34:40.480 --> 00:34:41.500
 how you operate.

00:34:42.279 --> 00:34:43.159
 So just a couple

00:34:43.159 --> 00:34:43.639
 of final

00:34:43.639 --> 00:34:45.079
 case applications

00:34:45.079 --> 00:34:45.599
 here

00:34:45.599 --> 00:34:46.960
 because I want

00:34:46.960 --> 00:34:47.860
 to press this home

00:34:47.860 --> 00:34:48.199
 a little bit

00:34:48.199 --> 00:34:48.539
 for you.

00:34:49.599 --> 00:34:50.380
 Some of us

00:34:50.380 --> 00:34:51.420
 really struggle

00:34:51.420 --> 00:34:52.699
 with all due respect

00:34:52.699 --> 00:34:53.559
 to admit

00:34:53.559 --> 00:34:55.179
 that we need grace.

00:34:56.759 --> 00:34:57.719
 We tend to be

00:34:57.719 --> 00:34:58.360
 very defensive.

00:34:59.099 --> 00:34:59.659
 We tend to have

00:34:59.659 --> 00:35:00.599
 a very hard time

00:35:00.599 --> 00:35:02.039
 seeing or admitting

00:35:02.039 --> 00:35:02.940
 our own sin.

00:35:03.779 --> 00:35:04.239
 And so,

00:35:04.539 --> 00:35:04.719
 again,

00:35:04.840 --> 00:35:05.559
 with all due respect,

00:35:05.559 --> 00:35:06.519
 for you,

00:35:06.659 --> 00:35:07.360
 if that's you,

00:35:07.619 --> 00:35:08.279
 Lent is a time

00:35:08.279 --> 00:35:09.440
 to stop pretending

00:35:09.440 --> 00:35:10.019
 that everything

00:35:10.019 --> 00:35:10.739
 is okay.

00:35:12.039 --> 00:35:13.199
 Because like David,

00:35:13.340 --> 00:35:13.960
 chances are

00:35:13.960 --> 00:35:14.980
 everybody around you

00:35:14.980 --> 00:35:15.659
 knows it's not.

00:35:17.000 --> 00:35:17.900
 It's the emperor

00:35:17.900 --> 00:35:18.659
 has no clothes.

00:35:18.779 --> 00:35:20.099
 You're only fooling

00:35:20.099 --> 00:35:20.480
 yourself.

00:35:22.000 --> 00:35:23.139
 It's time to start

00:35:23.139 --> 00:35:23.739
 being honest

00:35:23.739 --> 00:35:24.380
 about who you

00:35:24.380 --> 00:35:25.000
 really are.

00:35:25.340 --> 00:35:26.139
 And before you

00:35:26.139 --> 00:35:27.159
 can experience grace,

00:35:27.239 --> 00:35:27.960
 you may need God

00:35:27.960 --> 00:35:28.840
 to show you

00:35:28.840 --> 00:35:30.219
 that you need grace.

00:35:30.320 --> 00:35:31.239
 You may need to pray

00:35:31.239 --> 00:35:32.380
 for God's truth

00:35:32.380 --> 00:35:32.860
 and wisdom

00:35:32.860 --> 00:35:33.840
 to illuminate

00:35:33.840 --> 00:35:35.720
 your own inward

00:35:35.720 --> 00:35:36.620
 being to help

00:35:36.620 --> 00:35:37.460
 you see your need

00:35:37.460 --> 00:35:37.880
 for him.

00:35:39.500 --> 00:35:41.820
 And just to push

00:35:41.820 --> 00:35:42.840
 this a little further,

00:35:44.680 --> 00:35:45.880
 when David prays,

00:35:46.220 --> 00:35:46.920
 let the bones

00:35:46.920 --> 00:35:48.059
 that you have broken

00:35:48.059 --> 00:35:48.760
 rejoice.

00:35:51.400 --> 00:35:51.600
 Okay,

00:35:51.600 --> 00:35:52.460
 that's a sobering

00:35:52.460 --> 00:35:52.840
 reminder.

00:35:52.980 --> 00:35:53.559
 What's he saying?

00:35:54.920 --> 00:35:56.240
 Sometimes God

00:35:56.240 --> 00:35:56.840
 uses

00:35:56.840 --> 00:35:57.360
 uses

00:35:57.360 --> 00:35:58.519
 or even

00:35:58.519 --> 00:36:00.000
 introduces

00:36:00.000 --> 00:36:01.440
 hard and painful

00:36:01.440 --> 00:36:02.160
 experiences

00:36:02.160 --> 00:36:03.800
 to humble us

00:36:03.800 --> 00:36:04.140
 enough

00:36:04.140 --> 00:36:04.940
 so that we will

00:36:04.940 --> 00:36:05.440
 see our need

00:36:05.440 --> 00:36:05.800
 for him.

00:36:07.720 --> 00:36:08.620
 It's like the

00:36:08.620 --> 00:36:09.500
 smelling salts

00:36:09.500 --> 00:36:11.940
 meant to wake

00:36:11.940 --> 00:36:12.400
 us up.

00:36:13.880 --> 00:36:14.920
 So some of us,

00:36:15.039 --> 00:36:15.800
 that's what Lent

00:36:15.800 --> 00:36:16.380
 may need to be

00:36:16.380 --> 00:36:16.760
 for you.

00:36:19.660 --> 00:36:20.600
 I suspect

00:36:20.600 --> 00:36:21.220
 there are many

00:36:21.220 --> 00:36:21.760
 of us who have

00:36:21.760 --> 00:36:22.180
 the opposite

00:36:22.180 --> 00:36:22.740
 challenge,

00:36:23.120 --> 00:36:24.000
 that we are

00:36:24.000 --> 00:36:25.200
 all too aware

00:36:25.199 --> 00:36:26.339
 of our sin.

00:36:27.779 --> 00:36:28.500
 We're never

00:36:28.500 --> 00:36:29.259
 not aware of it.

00:36:30.460 --> 00:36:31.279
 Most of the time

00:36:31.279 --> 00:36:31.819
 we feel like

00:36:31.819 --> 00:36:32.179
 failures.

00:36:33.919 --> 00:36:34.699
 I'm failing

00:36:34.699 --> 00:36:35.199
 at being a

00:36:35.199 --> 00:36:35.779
 faithful Christian.

00:36:36.399 --> 00:36:37.139
 I'm failing

00:36:37.139 --> 00:36:37.779
 at my friendships.

00:36:38.119 --> 00:36:38.659
 I'm failing

00:36:38.659 --> 00:36:39.239
 at parenting.

00:36:40.799 --> 00:36:40.980
 You know,

00:36:41.039 --> 00:36:41.319
 kids,

00:36:41.579 --> 00:36:42.199
 maybe you don't

00:36:42.199 --> 00:36:42.859
 know that most

00:36:42.859 --> 00:36:43.339
 of the time

00:36:43.339 --> 00:36:43.960
 your parents

00:36:43.960 --> 00:36:44.919
 feel like they're

00:36:44.919 --> 00:36:45.799
 doing a horrible

00:36:45.799 --> 00:36:46.079
 job.

00:36:47.119 --> 00:36:49.079
 And we're plagued

00:36:49.079 --> 00:36:49.839
 by all the things

00:36:49.839 --> 00:36:50.239
 that we know

00:36:50.239 --> 00:36:50.919
 that we should be

00:36:50.919 --> 00:36:51.199
 doing,

00:36:51.279 --> 00:36:51.679
 but we're not

00:36:51.679 --> 00:36:51.980
 doing.

00:36:51.980 --> 00:36:54.480
 So in order

00:36:54.480 --> 00:36:55.240
 for us to

00:36:55.240 --> 00:36:56.179
 experience joy,

00:36:56.920 --> 00:36:58.860
 we not only

00:36:58.860 --> 00:36:59.599
 need to repent,

00:37:00.380 --> 00:37:01.579
 but we need to

00:37:01.579 --> 00:37:02.179
 repent and then

00:37:02.179 --> 00:37:03.000
 believe the gospel.

00:37:03.800 --> 00:37:04.460
 We need to

00:37:04.460 --> 00:37:05.260
 actually believe

00:37:05.260 --> 00:37:05.840
 what's on the

00:37:05.840 --> 00:37:06.360
 other side of

00:37:06.360 --> 00:37:06.840
 repentance.

00:37:07.639 --> 00:37:08.059
 We need to

00:37:08.059 --> 00:37:08.679
 understand,

00:37:08.920 --> 00:37:09.400
 as it says in

00:37:09.400 --> 00:37:09.740
 this psalm,

00:37:09.820 --> 00:37:10.260
 that God does

00:37:10.260 --> 00:37:11.019
 not see us

00:37:11.019 --> 00:37:11.480
 the way we

00:37:11.480 --> 00:37:12.119
 see ourselves.

00:37:12.960 --> 00:37:13.380
 That God

00:37:13.380 --> 00:37:14.139
 has cleansed

00:37:14.139 --> 00:37:14.360
 you.

00:37:14.860 --> 00:37:16.059
 God delights

00:37:16.059 --> 00:37:16.579
 in you.

00:37:17.079 --> 00:37:17.219
 Right?

00:37:17.280 --> 00:37:17.699
 And when we

00:37:17.699 --> 00:37:18.460
 go on acting

00:37:18.460 --> 00:37:18.980
 as though we

00:37:18.980 --> 00:37:19.559
 are miserable

00:37:19.559 --> 00:37:19.960
 sinners,

00:37:20.079 --> 00:37:20.420
 when God

00:37:20.420 --> 00:37:20.860
 has declared

00:37:20.860 --> 00:37:21.380
 us clean,

00:37:21.380 --> 00:37:22.039
 when God

00:37:22.039 --> 00:37:22.260
 has,

00:37:22.400 --> 00:37:22.760
 as David

00:37:22.760 --> 00:37:22.980
 prays,

00:37:23.140 --> 00:37:23.740
 blotted out

00:37:23.740 --> 00:37:24.740
 our transgressions,

00:37:25.320 --> 00:37:26.079
 it's a denial

00:37:26.079 --> 00:37:26.720
 of the gospel.

00:37:28.660 --> 00:37:29.559
 There's nothing

00:37:29.559 --> 00:37:30.200
 that you can

00:37:30.200 --> 00:37:30.440
 do,

00:37:30.579 --> 00:37:30.820
 friends,

00:37:30.900 --> 00:37:31.200
 that would

00:37:31.200 --> 00:37:31.780
 make God

00:37:31.780 --> 00:37:32.220
 love you

00:37:32.220 --> 00:37:32.840
 any more

00:37:32.840 --> 00:37:33.099
 than he

00:37:33.099 --> 00:37:33.500
 loves you

00:37:33.500 --> 00:37:34.140
 right now.

00:37:34.980 --> 00:37:35.460
 And there

00:37:35.460 --> 00:37:35.820
 is nothing

00:37:35.820 --> 00:37:36.099
 that you

00:37:36.099 --> 00:37:36.519
 could ever

00:37:36.519 --> 00:37:36.880
 do that

00:37:36.880 --> 00:37:37.220
 would make

00:37:37.220 --> 00:37:37.700
 God love

00:37:37.700 --> 00:37:38.140
 you any

00:37:38.140 --> 00:37:38.720
 less than

00:37:38.720 --> 00:37:39.079
 he does

00:37:39.079 --> 00:37:39.680
 right now.

00:37:41.640 --> 00:37:42.280
 If the

00:37:42.280 --> 00:37:42.920
 gospel is

00:37:42.920 --> 00:37:43.320
 true,

00:37:43.780 --> 00:37:44.140
 and you

00:37:44.140 --> 00:37:44.480
 have come

00:37:44.480 --> 00:37:44.800
 to him

00:37:44.800 --> 00:37:45.340
 in repentance,

00:37:45.800 --> 00:37:46.360
 then you

00:37:46.360 --> 00:37:47.440
 are clean.

00:37:48.000 --> 00:37:48.380
 Period.

00:37:51.380 --> 00:37:53.039
 So Lent

00:37:53.039 --> 00:37:53.440
 is about

00:37:53.440 --> 00:37:54.019
 no longer

00:37:54.019 --> 00:37:54.700
 denying that

00:37:54.700 --> 00:37:55.599
 fact and

00:37:55.599 --> 00:37:56.340
 living out of

00:37:56.340 --> 00:37:56.840
 the freedom

00:37:56.840 --> 00:37:57.539
 that it

00:37:57.539 --> 00:37:58.039
 imparts.

00:37:59.360 --> 00:38:00.019
 So no matter

00:38:00.019 --> 00:38:00.780
 where you are

00:38:00.780 --> 00:38:01.260
 this morning,

00:38:01.340 --> 00:38:01.980
 the invitation

00:38:01.980 --> 00:38:03.300
 is the

00:38:03.300 --> 00:38:03.720
 same.

00:38:05.260 --> 00:38:05.920
 Repent and

00:38:05.920 --> 00:38:06.500
 believe the

00:38:06.500 --> 00:38:06.880
 gospel,

00:38:07.039 --> 00:38:07.980
 because repentance

00:38:07.980 --> 00:38:09.160
 is the key to

00:38:09.160 --> 00:38:09.780
 enjoy the

00:38:09.780 --> 00:38:10.079
 love.

00:38:10.079 --> 00:38:11.380
 of

00:38:11.380 --> 00:38:11.659
 sin.

00:38:13.539 --> 00:38:14.099
 Lord, we

00:38:14.099 --> 00:38:14.519
 thank you

00:38:14.519 --> 00:38:14.880
 for your

00:38:14.880 --> 00:38:15.420
 word.

00:38:17.559 --> 00:38:18.019
 Oh, that

00:38:18.019 --> 00:38:18.199
 it would

00:38:18.199 --> 00:38:18.360
 become

00:38:18.360 --> 00:38:21.840
 fresh in

00:38:21.840 --> 00:38:22.219
 us.

00:38:24.159 --> 00:38:24.719
 Please,

00:38:24.840 --> 00:38:25.099
 Lord,

00:38:25.199 --> 00:38:26.179
 dwell in

00:38:26.179 --> 00:38:26.480
 us,

00:38:26.539 --> 00:38:27.480
 move in

00:38:27.480 --> 00:38:27.960
 us,

00:38:29.239 --> 00:38:29.619
 that we

00:38:29.619 --> 00:38:30.279
 fall on

00:38:30.279 --> 00:38:30.659
 knees and

00:38:30.659 --> 00:38:31.139
 cry out,

00:38:31.299 --> 00:38:32.019
 mercy on

00:38:32.019 --> 00:38:32.299
 the way

00:38:32.299 --> 00:38:32.579
 God,

00:38:32.659 --> 00:38:32.819
 what

00:38:32.819 --> 00:38:33.059
 you

00:38:33.059 --> 00:38:33.500
 said to

00:38:33.500 --> 00:38:33.759
 us.

00:38:35.500 --> 00:38:36.239
 And if

00:38:36.239 --> 00:38:36.500
 Lord,

00:38:36.599 --> 00:38:37.159
 lift us

00:38:37.159 --> 00:38:37.480
 up,

00:38:38.519 --> 00:38:39.059
 teach us

00:38:39.059 --> 00:38:39.779
 to dance

00:38:39.780 --> 00:38:40.320
 in the

00:38:40.320 --> 00:38:41.060
 joy and

00:38:41.060 --> 00:38:41.519
 freedom.

00:38:43.460 --> 00:38:44.000
 Teach us

00:38:44.000 --> 00:38:44.500
 to dance

00:38:44.500 --> 00:38:44.900
 in the

00:38:44.900 --> 00:38:45.300
 developed

00:38:45.300 --> 00:38:45.800
 joy.

00:38:47.360 --> 00:38:47.940
 Teach us

00:38:47.940 --> 00:38:48.460
 to dance

00:38:48.460 --> 00:38:48.900
 knowing

00:38:48.900 --> 00:38:49.120
 that we

00:38:49.120 --> 00:38:49.300
 are

00:38:49.300 --> 00:38:49.640
 filling

00:38:49.640 --> 00:38:50.019
 them

00:38:50.019 --> 00:38:50.260
 in

00:38:50.260 --> 00:38:50.600
 full.

00:38:52.480 --> 00:38:53.200
 Teach us

00:38:53.200 --> 00:38:53.680
 to dance

00:38:53.680 --> 00:38:54.000
 in the

00:38:54.000 --> 00:38:54.500
 absolute

00:38:54.500 --> 00:38:55.220
 spirit

00:38:55.220 --> 00:38:56.840
 of living

00:38:56.840 --> 00:38:57.380
 life

00:38:57.380 --> 00:38:58.340
 before

00:38:58.340 --> 00:38:58.560
 we

00:38:58.560 --> 00:38:58.640
 are

00:38:58.640 --> 00:38:58.940
 alive

00:38:58.940 --> 00:38:59.140
 of

00:38:59.140 --> 00:38:59.519
 this.

00:39:00.740 --> 00:39:00.880
 We

00:39:00.880 --> 00:39:01.100
 pray

00:39:01.100 --> 00:39:01.320
 this

00:39:01.320 --> 00:39:01.580
 which

00:39:01.580 --> 00:39:01.720
 on

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 the

00:39:01.900 --> 00:39:02.220
 way.

00:39:02.580 --> 00:39:02.840
 Amen.