WEBVTT 00:00:00.440 --> 00:00:05.740 Beginning at verse 25, and that's on page 1176 of the Red Church Bibles. 00:00:08.040 --> 00:00:11.040 Ephesians chapter 4, beginning at verse 25. 00:00:30.000 --> 00:00:41.340 Okay, Ephesians chapter 4, beginning at verse 25, page 1176. 00:00:42.259 --> 00:00:49.379 Therefore, each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 00:00:50.420 --> 00:00:57.939 In your anger do not sin, do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. 00:00:57.939 --> 00:01:07.920 He who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his own hands, that he may have something to share with those in need. 00:01:09.000 --> 00:01:19.400 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 00:01:20.539 --> 00:01:24.959 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 00:01:24.959 --> 00:01:32.219 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 00:01:33.319 --> 00:01:39.780 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. 00:01:41.539 --> 00:01:45.479 Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children. 00:01:45.480 --> 00:01:50.400 And carrying on to chapter 6, beginning at verse 1. 00:01:51.920 --> 00:01:54.740 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 00:01:55.340 --> 00:01:58.620 Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment, with a promise, 00:01:59.159 --> 00:02:03.719 that it may go well with you, and that you may enjoy long life on the earth. 00:02:05.040 --> 00:02:07.200 Fathers, do not exasperate your children. 00:02:07.820 --> 00:02:11.300 Instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. 00:02:11.300 --> 00:02:22.560 And it's really in response to and to help us think through some of the issues that will be facing us this coming year. 00:02:23.100 --> 00:02:29.480 The government have already outlined that they would like to hold a referendum early next year 00:02:29.480 --> 00:02:35.380 to redefine marriage, which will have an impact on family. 00:02:35.379 --> 00:02:39.280 And to help us think through that, not only what we do this morning, 00:02:39.379 --> 00:02:42.079 but on the news sheet at the very top of the page, 00:02:42.560 --> 00:02:46.599 there's a link there just reminding you that if you go to the church website, 00:02:46.599 --> 00:02:53.259 on the recent church blog, there is a list of talks, sermons, and websites 00:02:53.259 --> 00:02:58.960 that will be helpful to you, generally around this whole theme. 00:02:59.400 --> 00:03:03.539 So I encourage you to check that out for yourselves. 00:03:03.539 --> 00:03:06.439 God's good design for marriage. 00:03:07.199 --> 00:03:10.259 This morning we are looking at God's design for family. 00:03:11.519 --> 00:03:14.699 So let's ask him for his help. 00:03:15.259 --> 00:03:16.180 Read to us. 00:03:16.799 --> 00:03:19.739 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, 00:03:20.280 --> 00:03:24.359 with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 00:03:24.360 --> 00:03:28.460 Father, as we listen to your word, 00:03:29.560 --> 00:03:33.300 so your spirit is active and at work. 00:03:34.720 --> 00:03:40.180 And we do not want to grieve your spirit's work in our own lives. 00:03:40.180 --> 00:03:51.360 But we humbly ask that the power of the Spirit would be at work within us individually, 00:03:52.560 --> 00:03:53.960 as a mother, 00:03:55.460 --> 00:03:56.540 or as a father, 00:03:57.659 --> 00:03:59.100 or as a child, 00:03:59.099 --> 00:04:04.620 or whatever circumstance we may find ourselves in, 00:04:06.060 --> 00:04:08.979 that you would speak into our hearts, 00:04:10.319 --> 00:04:11.759 changing us 00:04:11.759 --> 00:04:16.339 and transforming us to be more like Christ, 00:04:16.339 --> 00:04:19.519 and renewing us 00:04:19.519 --> 00:04:21.959 and enabling us to see 00:04:21.959 --> 00:04:23.519 your design 00:04:23.519 --> 00:04:25.519 for our lives 00:04:25.519 --> 00:04:27.099 and especially 00:04:27.099 --> 00:04:29.399 for family. 00:04:32.399 --> 00:04:34.239 We ask for your help 00:04:34.239 --> 00:04:35.219 in Jesus' name. 00:04:36.059 --> 00:04:36.519 Amen. 00:04:36.519 --> 00:04:40.699 Well, when we were kids, 00:04:42.000 --> 00:04:43.799 or when our kids were younger, rather, 00:04:43.859 --> 00:04:45.819 we used to play a card game. 00:04:46.139 --> 00:04:47.680 Some of you may know it. 00:04:47.719 --> 00:04:49.159 It was called Happy Families. 00:04:50.079 --> 00:04:54.299 The basic aim was for us to try and collect sets of families by name, 00:04:54.379 --> 00:04:58.159 and the cards included a Mr. and a Mrs., 00:04:58.159 --> 00:04:59.899 a Miss and a Master. 00:05:00.799 --> 00:05:02.839 And although it was called Happy Families, 00:05:02.839 --> 00:05:06.060 it very rarely produced a happy family. 00:05:06.519 --> 00:05:09.139 It usually turned into accusations of cheating, 00:05:09.560 --> 00:05:11.899 and the other one hitting another, 00:05:12.319 --> 00:05:13.659 just because they lost, 00:05:13.759 --> 00:05:15.060 and that was only the parents, 00:05:15.539 --> 00:05:18.139 while the kids got kicked off to their room. 00:05:19.000 --> 00:05:20.799 But there was something else about that game. 00:05:21.839 --> 00:05:23.919 There was a general acceptance, 00:05:24.219 --> 00:05:25.139 or understanding, 00:05:25.680 --> 00:05:27.120 of what family was. 00:05:27.859 --> 00:05:28.819 Family was, 00:05:29.099 --> 00:05:30.419 well, it was a mum and a dad, 00:05:30.620 --> 00:05:32.419 who were the parents of, 00:05:33.019 --> 00:05:33.659 well, at least, 00:05:33.959 --> 00:05:35.479 a boy or a girl. 00:05:36.519 --> 00:05:40.699 But experience tells us that family is not always like that. 00:05:41.620 --> 00:05:45.500 It's not unusual for a child to grow up with just one parent, 00:05:45.899 --> 00:05:50.039 or perhaps to not even know who their biological parents are. 00:05:50.040 --> 00:06:02.080 It may soon be possible and legal for a child to grow up with two dads and two mums as the parents. 00:06:03.140 --> 00:06:06.060 This was recently made clear by Glenn, 00:06:06.640 --> 00:06:10.580 which is the Gay and Lesbian Equality Network, 00:06:11.020 --> 00:06:14.720 responding to the government's proposal to redefine marriage, 00:06:14.720 --> 00:06:16.820 this is what they say. 00:06:18.060 --> 00:06:21.440 The government's historic decision in November 00:06:21.440 --> 00:06:26.100 to hold a referendum on equal access to marriage in 2015 00:06:26.100 --> 00:06:31.560 was a landmark moment in the evolution of equality for lesbian and gay people. 00:06:32.060 --> 00:06:38.400 We look forward to 2014 being the year that equality of rights and responsibilities 00:06:38.399 --> 00:06:44.239 is introduced for lesbian and gay families and their children. 00:06:46.000 --> 00:06:51.199 Implied in this is the right for same-sex couples to adopt. 00:06:51.859 --> 00:06:56.739 So a same-sex couple who obviously can't produce their own children, 00:06:56.959 --> 00:06:58.279 but want a family, 00:06:59.000 --> 00:07:01.379 will be able to apply for adoption. 00:07:01.379 --> 00:07:03.560 And according to Glenn, 00:07:03.699 --> 00:07:05.439 this is a rights issue, 00:07:06.040 --> 00:07:08.560 and every loving couple who wants a family 00:07:08.560 --> 00:07:10.839 should not be denied one. 00:07:11.959 --> 00:07:14.579 But not everybody agrees. 00:07:15.779 --> 00:07:16.500 Paddy Manning, 00:07:16.600 --> 00:07:19.719 who you may have seen on Primetime recently, 00:07:20.360 --> 00:07:24.759 represents an organisation called Preserve Marriage, 00:07:25.199 --> 00:07:28.899 which opposes adoption by same-sex couples 00:07:28.899 --> 00:07:30.879 and equal marriage rights. 00:07:31.379 --> 00:07:32.659 Now here's what he says, 00:07:33.639 --> 00:07:34.939 and bear in mind, 00:07:35.680 --> 00:07:37.759 he speaks as a gay man. 00:07:37.879 --> 00:07:38.240 He says, 00:07:38.339 --> 00:07:39.699 I am a gay man. 00:07:40.680 --> 00:07:41.899 I'm not a victim, 00:07:42.420 --> 00:07:43.899 and I reject this notion 00:07:43.899 --> 00:07:45.279 that traditional marriage 00:07:45.279 --> 00:07:48.120 should be drastically altered for some fantasy. 00:07:49.079 --> 00:07:50.959 Claiming that equality demands 00:07:50.959 --> 00:07:54.459 that men and women be as interchangeable as Lego blocks 00:07:54.459 --> 00:07:57.219 shows you don't understand men and women, 00:07:57.719 --> 00:07:59.159 marriage, or much else. 00:07:59.160 --> 00:08:02.320 We can ignore reality all we want, 00:08:02.840 --> 00:08:04.520 but the outcomes for children 00:08:04.520 --> 00:08:07.900 are not the same across all family models. 00:08:08.720 --> 00:08:10.360 Marriage of a man and a woman 00:08:10.360 --> 00:08:13.720 gives children the best chance. 00:08:13.720 --> 00:08:15.460 You see, 00:08:15.540 --> 00:08:17.940 by changing the definition of marriage, 00:08:18.400 --> 00:08:20.100 our government are creating 00:08:20.100 --> 00:08:21.280 or making way 00:08:21.280 --> 00:08:23.120 for legislation 00:08:23.120 --> 00:08:26.140 that will deny children 00:08:26.140 --> 00:08:27.060 the right 00:08:27.060 --> 00:08:29.280 to a father and a mother 00:08:29.280 --> 00:08:30.560 by design. 00:08:31.060 --> 00:08:31.880 Now that's important, 00:08:31.980 --> 00:08:33.000 we've got to understand that. 00:08:33.279 --> 00:08:34.200 It will mean 00:08:34.200 --> 00:08:36.800 that they will deny children 00:08:36.800 --> 00:08:37.840 the right 00:08:37.840 --> 00:08:40.620 to a father and a mother 00:08:40.620 --> 00:08:42.420 by design. 00:08:43.360 --> 00:08:44.000 In fact, 00:08:44.080 --> 00:08:46.259 when we look at God's design for family, 00:08:46.680 --> 00:08:48.660 we see that every child 00:08:48.660 --> 00:08:49.700 has the right 00:08:49.700 --> 00:08:51.120 to a loving mother 00:08:51.120 --> 00:08:52.580 and a loving father. 00:08:53.100 --> 00:08:54.860 So we're going to be looking at family 00:08:54.860 --> 00:08:56.000 under two headings. 00:08:56.600 --> 00:08:57.379 First of all, 00:08:57.580 --> 00:08:59.639 family as God designed it to be, 00:09:00.420 --> 00:09:03.879 and then family as God ordered it to be. 00:09:04.759 --> 00:09:05.500 So first, 00:09:05.720 --> 00:09:08.259 family as God designed it to be. 00:09:08.340 --> 00:09:09.879 Let's look at our text 00:09:09.879 --> 00:09:12.019 in Ephesians chapter 6, 00:09:12.700 --> 00:09:13.879 verses 1 to 4. 00:09:14.360 --> 00:09:15.980 Let's read those verses again. 00:09:17.399 --> 00:09:17.960 Children, 00:09:18.320 --> 00:09:20.080 obey your parents in the Lord, 00:09:20.179 --> 00:09:21.059 for this is right. 00:09:21.740 --> 00:09:23.659 Honor your father and mother, 00:09:23.799 --> 00:09:24.980 which is the first commandment, 00:09:25.639 --> 00:09:26.840 with a promise, 00:09:27.419 --> 00:09:29.120 that it may go well with you 00:09:29.120 --> 00:09:31.100 and that you may enjoy long life 00:09:31.100 --> 00:09:31.659 on the earth. 00:09:32.059 --> 00:09:32.500 Fathers, 00:09:32.500 --> 00:09:35.659 do not exasperate your children. 00:09:35.899 --> 00:09:36.299 Instead, 00:09:36.980 --> 00:09:38.220 bring them up in the training 00:09:38.220 --> 00:09:39.379 and instruction 00:09:39.379 --> 00:09:41.000 of the Lord. 00:09:42.120 --> 00:09:42.840 So here, 00:09:42.940 --> 00:09:44.320 within these couple of verses, 00:09:44.539 --> 00:09:46.899 we've got a picture of family. 00:09:47.480 --> 00:09:48.240 It includes, 00:09:48.320 --> 00:09:49.259 look at verse 1, 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:52.960 children and parents. 00:09:53.960 --> 00:09:55.320 And the parents are, 00:09:55.460 --> 00:09:56.080 verse 2, 00:09:56.799 --> 00:09:59.419 a father and a mother. 00:09:59.419 --> 00:10:00.740 This is the design, 00:10:00.740 --> 00:10:02.100 this is the structure 00:10:02.100 --> 00:10:03.680 in which children 00:10:03.680 --> 00:10:05.259 are to be raised. 00:10:05.399 --> 00:10:05.519 Now, 00:10:05.620 --> 00:10:06.860 just because you've got 00:10:06.860 --> 00:10:08.560 heterosexual parents, 00:10:08.639 --> 00:10:09.820 a mother and a father, 00:10:10.220 --> 00:10:11.440 doesn't mean to say 00:10:11.440 --> 00:10:12.440 that the family 00:10:12.440 --> 00:10:13.460 will flourish. 00:10:14.320 --> 00:10:15.940 Parents must also live 00:10:15.940 --> 00:10:17.700 according to God's good design. 00:10:17.860 --> 00:10:18.840 So in verse 4, 00:10:19.620 --> 00:10:20.060 fathers, 00:10:20.220 --> 00:10:21.639 do not exasperate 00:10:21.639 --> 00:10:22.720 your children. 00:10:22.879 --> 00:10:23.200 Instead, 00:10:23.419 --> 00:10:24.680 bring them up in the training 00:10:24.680 --> 00:10:25.960 and instruction 00:10:25.960 --> 00:10:26.700 of the Lord. 00:10:26.700 --> 00:10:28.360 It's implying there 00:10:28.360 --> 00:10:29.379 that the parents, 00:10:29.800 --> 00:10:30.900 the father and the mother, 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:32.320 that they themselves 00:10:32.320 --> 00:10:33.259 must provide 00:10:33.259 --> 00:10:33.920 a loving 00:10:33.920 --> 00:10:36.060 and caring environment. 00:10:36.180 --> 00:10:37.280 Just because you're a man 00:10:37.280 --> 00:10:37.840 and a woman 00:10:37.840 --> 00:10:38.480 in marriage 00:10:38.480 --> 00:10:39.379 doesn't mean to say 00:10:39.379 --> 00:10:40.580 that it's all going to go well. 00:10:40.840 --> 00:10:41.860 It must be a loving 00:10:41.860 --> 00:10:43.120 and caring environment. 00:10:43.259 --> 00:10:44.500 They've got to be gentle, 00:10:44.879 --> 00:10:46.340 not angry. 00:10:46.900 --> 00:10:47.860 And above all, 00:10:47.960 --> 00:10:48.540 to be those 00:10:48.540 --> 00:10:49.460 who are teaching 00:10:49.460 --> 00:10:50.720 their children 00:10:50.720 --> 00:10:51.600 in the way 00:10:51.600 --> 00:10:52.420 of the Lord. 00:10:52.419 --> 00:10:54.099 And if all this design 00:10:54.099 --> 00:10:54.759 is followed, 00:10:54.919 --> 00:10:55.860 it leads to 00:10:55.860 --> 00:10:57.839 healthy family life. 00:10:57.959 --> 00:10:59.039 So look at verse 3. 00:11:00.959 --> 00:11:02.939 That it may go well with you 00:11:02.939 --> 00:11:05.299 and that you may enjoy 00:11:05.299 --> 00:11:06.399 long life 00:11:06.399 --> 00:11:07.819 on the earth. 00:11:08.079 --> 00:11:09.199 We'll come back to that 00:11:09.199 --> 00:11:10.779 a little later on. 00:11:11.500 --> 00:11:13.639 But we shouldn't be surprised then 00:11:13.639 --> 00:11:15.599 that when this design 00:11:15.599 --> 00:11:16.939 of God is followed, 00:11:17.779 --> 00:11:19.500 it actually proves 00:11:19.500 --> 00:11:20.339 to be true. 00:11:20.340 --> 00:11:22.340 UNICEF, 00:11:23.019 --> 00:11:24.000 the organisation 00:11:24.000 --> 00:11:24.800 that works 00:11:24.800 --> 00:11:26.080 for children's rights, 00:11:26.899 --> 00:11:27.680 now accepts 00:11:27.680 --> 00:11:28.420 that children 00:11:28.420 --> 00:11:29.980 tend to do best 00:11:29.980 --> 00:11:31.580 when they are raised 00:11:31.580 --> 00:11:33.720 by their biological parents, 00:11:33.840 --> 00:11:34.440 both a mother 00:11:34.440 --> 00:11:35.280 and a father. 00:11:35.480 --> 00:11:37.060 So this is what they say. 00:11:37.160 --> 00:11:39.100 Research clearly demonstrates 00:11:39.100 --> 00:11:40.899 that family structure 00:11:40.899 --> 00:11:42.399 matters for children. 00:11:43.120 --> 00:11:44.340 And the family structure 00:11:44.340 --> 00:11:45.740 that helps the most 00:11:45.740 --> 00:11:47.220 is a family headed 00:11:47.220 --> 00:11:49.180 by two biological parents 00:11:49.179 --> 00:11:51.699 in a low-conflict marriage. 00:11:52.399 --> 00:11:53.219 There is value 00:11:53.219 --> 00:11:54.519 in promoting 00:11:54.519 --> 00:11:55.419 strong, 00:11:55.979 --> 00:11:57.000 stable marriages 00:11:57.000 --> 00:12:00.339 between biological parents. 00:12:01.699 --> 00:12:02.559 In fact, 00:12:03.399 --> 00:12:04.599 this is not just good 00:12:04.599 --> 00:12:05.359 for children, 00:12:05.539 --> 00:12:06.279 it's actually good 00:12:06.279 --> 00:12:07.699 for all of society. 00:12:08.339 --> 00:12:09.179 Further research 00:12:09.179 --> 00:12:10.079 has also shown 00:12:10.079 --> 00:12:11.059 that when mothers 00:12:11.059 --> 00:12:12.379 and fathers 00:12:12.379 --> 00:12:14.000 are encouraged together 00:12:14.000 --> 00:12:15.139 to stay together 00:12:15.139 --> 00:12:17.199 and raise their children together, 00:12:17.200 --> 00:12:19.020 it reduces poverty. 00:12:20.040 --> 00:12:20.940 In other words, 00:12:21.000 --> 00:12:21.759 it's found that 00:12:21.759 --> 00:12:22.860 where there are communities 00:12:22.860 --> 00:12:23.540 where there is 00:12:23.540 --> 00:12:25.120 high marriage breakdown, 00:12:25.900 --> 00:12:27.860 there is greater poverty. 00:12:28.520 --> 00:12:29.600 And in communities 00:12:29.600 --> 00:12:30.960 where there are strong 00:12:30.960 --> 00:12:32.100 and healthy marriages, 00:12:32.759 --> 00:12:34.680 there is less poverty. 00:12:34.679 --> 00:12:36.939 So God knew 00:12:36.939 --> 00:12:37.899 what he was about 00:12:37.899 --> 00:12:39.939 when he was designing 00:12:39.939 --> 00:12:40.659 family. 00:12:43.500 --> 00:12:44.519 But what about 00:12:44.519 --> 00:12:45.919 single-parent families? 00:12:47.199 --> 00:12:48.419 What if a child 00:12:48.419 --> 00:12:49.299 only has 00:12:49.299 --> 00:12:50.359 a mother 00:12:50.359 --> 00:12:50.939 or 00:12:50.939 --> 00:12:52.039 a father? 00:12:52.899 --> 00:12:53.620 Does that mean 00:12:53.620 --> 00:12:54.279 they're not going 00:12:54.279 --> 00:12:55.039 to flourish? 00:12:56.819 --> 00:12:57.219 Well, 00:12:57.239 --> 00:12:58.139 there are all kinds 00:12:58.139 --> 00:12:58.659 of reasons 00:12:58.659 --> 00:12:59.899 a child may only 00:12:59.899 --> 00:13:01.039 have one parent. 00:13:02.000 --> 00:13:02.519 Sadly, 00:13:02.519 --> 00:13:04.220 a parent may 00:13:04.220 --> 00:13:05.100 pass away. 00:13:06.079 --> 00:13:06.699 We live 00:13:06.699 --> 00:13:07.919 in a broken world 00:13:07.919 --> 00:13:08.779 where there are 00:13:08.779 --> 00:13:09.439 accidents 00:13:09.439 --> 00:13:11.279 and there is 00:13:11.279 --> 00:13:11.980 sickness. 00:13:13.159 --> 00:13:14.019 Things happen. 00:13:15.179 --> 00:13:16.000 Other reasons 00:13:16.000 --> 00:13:16.519 may be 00:13:16.519 --> 00:13:17.360 that a child 00:13:17.360 --> 00:13:18.600 only has one parent 00:13:18.600 --> 00:13:19.139 is because, 00:13:19.299 --> 00:13:19.480 well, 00:13:19.860 --> 00:13:20.679 there may have been 00:13:20.679 --> 00:13:21.399 adultery 00:13:21.399 --> 00:13:22.819 or some form 00:13:22.819 --> 00:13:23.460 of abuse 00:13:23.460 --> 00:13:24.259 within the home 00:13:24.259 --> 00:13:24.980 which may lead 00:13:24.980 --> 00:13:25.620 to divorce 00:13:25.620 --> 00:13:26.480 or separation. 00:13:27.759 --> 00:13:28.620 But whatever 00:13:28.620 --> 00:13:29.860 the actual reason 00:13:29.860 --> 00:13:30.419 is, 00:13:31.439 --> 00:13:32.039 it doesn't 00:13:32.039 --> 00:13:33.059 always mean 00:13:33.059 --> 00:13:33.799 that the child 00:13:33.799 --> 00:13:34.539 is now somehow 00:13:34.539 --> 00:13:35.699 at a disadvantage. 00:13:37.519 --> 00:13:38.379 For example, 00:13:38.539 --> 00:13:39.059 my wife, 00:13:39.279 --> 00:13:39.539 Kirsty, 00:13:39.679 --> 00:13:40.379 who most of you 00:13:40.379 --> 00:13:40.719 know, 00:13:41.259 --> 00:13:42.059 she grew up 00:13:42.059 --> 00:13:42.480 in a home 00:13:42.480 --> 00:13:43.699 with just a mum. 00:13:44.439 --> 00:13:45.019 Her father 00:13:45.019 --> 00:13:46.079 left when she 00:13:46.079 --> 00:13:46.879 was very young. 00:13:47.879 --> 00:13:48.139 Yes, 00:13:48.179 --> 00:13:48.879 it was difficult 00:13:48.879 --> 00:13:49.439 for her. 00:13:49.779 --> 00:13:49.980 Yes, 00:13:50.000 --> 00:13:50.559 it was tough 00:13:50.559 --> 00:13:51.419 for all of the 00:13:51.419 --> 00:13:52.459 children in that family. 00:13:52.559 --> 00:13:53.099 It was hard 00:13:53.099 --> 00:13:53.819 for her mum. 00:13:54.399 --> 00:13:54.659 Yes, 00:13:54.860 --> 00:13:55.980 it did affect 00:13:55.980 --> 00:13:56.860 and it continues 00:13:56.860 --> 00:13:57.759 to impact 00:13:57.759 --> 00:13:59.599 on Kirsty's life. 00:13:59.600 --> 00:14:02.100 But whatever 00:14:02.100 --> 00:14:03.120 the reason 00:14:03.120 --> 00:14:04.100 may be 00:14:04.100 --> 00:14:04.960 for a single 00:14:04.960 --> 00:14:05.899 parent family, 00:14:06.580 --> 00:14:07.420 let's remember 00:14:07.420 --> 00:14:07.940 this. 00:14:08.580 --> 00:14:09.240 God, 00:14:09.360 --> 00:14:10.159 in his goodness 00:14:10.159 --> 00:14:10.980 and grace, 00:14:11.440 --> 00:14:12.899 provides all 00:14:12.899 --> 00:14:13.980 that we need 00:14:13.980 --> 00:14:15.420 for every parent 00:14:15.420 --> 00:14:17.120 and for every child. 00:14:17.960 --> 00:14:18.399 Healing, 00:14:19.340 --> 00:14:19.759 forgiving, 00:14:20.659 --> 00:14:21.320 restoring. 00:14:22.200 --> 00:14:23.019 God isn't 00:14:23.019 --> 00:14:23.920 bound by the 00:14:23.920 --> 00:14:24.480 actions 00:14:24.480 --> 00:14:25.680 or behaviours 00:14:25.680 --> 00:14:26.440 of others. 00:14:26.440 --> 00:14:28.000 God is never 00:14:28.000 --> 00:14:28.720 derailed 00:14:28.720 --> 00:14:30.160 by the circumstances 00:14:30.160 --> 00:14:31.060 of our lives. 00:14:31.440 --> 00:14:32.000 Remember the 00:14:32.000 --> 00:14:32.700 psalms that we 00:14:32.700 --> 00:14:33.320 read earlier 00:14:33.320 --> 00:14:34.040 just before we 00:14:34.040 --> 00:14:35.040 sang those songs. 00:14:35.820 --> 00:14:36.560 Let me remind 00:14:36.560 --> 00:14:37.220 you of them. 00:14:37.800 --> 00:14:38.140 Though 00:14:38.140 --> 00:14:39.720 my father 00:14:39.720 --> 00:14:40.360 and mother 00:14:40.360 --> 00:14:41.440 forsake me, 00:14:42.300 --> 00:14:43.080 the Lord 00:14:43.080 --> 00:14:45.200 will receive 00:14:45.200 --> 00:14:45.560 me. 00:14:46.800 --> 00:14:47.340 God 00:14:47.340 --> 00:14:48.360 is a 00:14:48.360 --> 00:14:48.800 father 00:14:48.800 --> 00:14:50.160 to the 00:14:50.160 --> 00:14:50.960 fatherless 00:14:50.960 --> 00:14:52.240 and the 00:14:52.240 --> 00:14:52.900 defender 00:14:52.900 --> 00:14:54.720 of widows. 00:14:54.720 --> 00:14:56.259 let's 00:14:56.259 --> 00:14:56.680 never 00:14:56.680 --> 00:14:57.240 forget 00:14:57.240 --> 00:14:58.120 he is a 00:14:58.120 --> 00:14:58.500 God 00:14:58.500 --> 00:14:58.700 who 00:14:58.700 --> 00:14:58.899 has 00:14:58.899 --> 00:15:00.120 intervened 00:15:00.120 --> 00:15:00.779 into 00:15:00.779 --> 00:15:01.420 our 00:15:01.420 --> 00:15:01.899 broken 00:15:01.899 --> 00:15:02.180 and 00:15:02.180 --> 00:15:02.759 disordered 00:15:02.759 --> 00:15:03.180 world. 00:15:03.540 --> 00:15:03.940 He's come 00:15:03.940 --> 00:15:04.500 into the 00:15:04.500 --> 00:15:04.920 mess 00:15:04.920 --> 00:15:05.580 of our 00:15:05.580 --> 00:15:06.019 lives 00:15:06.019 --> 00:15:06.399 and into 00:15:06.399 --> 00:15:06.600 the 00:15:06.600 --> 00:15:06.840 mess 00:15:06.840 --> 00:15:07.000 of 00:15:07.000 --> 00:15:07.660 families. 00:15:08.080 --> 00:15:08.360 He is 00:15:08.360 --> 00:15:08.519 a 00:15:08.519 --> 00:15:08.779 God 00:15:08.779 --> 00:15:09.040 who 00:15:09.040 --> 00:15:09.879 redeems 00:15:09.879 --> 00:15:10.620 and who 00:15:10.620 --> 00:15:11.500 renews. 00:15:11.720 --> 00:15:12.139 This is 00:15:12.139 --> 00:15:12.580 the kind 00:15:12.580 --> 00:15:13.000 of God 00:15:13.000 --> 00:15:13.340 that we 00:15:13.340 --> 00:15:13.860 deal 00:15:13.860 --> 00:15:14.340 with. 00:15:16.460 --> 00:15:17.379 In fact, 00:15:17.540 --> 00:15:18.040 one of the 00:15:18.040 --> 00:15:18.440 ways 00:15:18.440 --> 00:15:18.879 God 00:15:18.879 --> 00:15:19.500 provides 00:15:19.500 --> 00:15:21.340 is actually 00:15:21.340 --> 00:15:21.879 through the 00:15:21.879 --> 00:15:22.259 wider 00:15:22.259 --> 00:15:22.700 church 00:15:22.700 --> 00:15:23.080 family. 00:15:23.360 --> 00:15:23.680 That's 00:15:23.680 --> 00:15:24.120 why we're 00:15:24.120 --> 00:15:24.899 gathered here 00:15:24.899 --> 00:15:26.019 this morning. 00:15:27.500 --> 00:15:28.240 The wider 00:15:28.240 --> 00:15:28.720 church 00:15:28.720 --> 00:15:29.960 family is 00:15:29.960 --> 00:15:30.500 part of 00:15:30.500 --> 00:15:30.899 God's 00:15:30.899 --> 00:15:31.639 plan to 00:15:31.639 --> 00:15:32.379 help and 00:15:32.379 --> 00:15:32.899 encourage 00:15:32.899 --> 00:15:33.919 all families. 00:15:34.980 --> 00:15:35.500 So in 00:15:35.500 --> 00:15:36.080 a sense, 00:15:36.679 --> 00:15:37.820 all fathers 00:15:37.820 --> 00:15:40.080 should be 00:15:40.080 --> 00:15:40.940 fathers to 00:15:40.940 --> 00:15:42.080 all children 00:15:42.080 --> 00:15:43.560 and all 00:15:43.560 --> 00:15:44.100 mothers 00:15:44.100 --> 00:15:45.320 should be 00:15:45.320 --> 00:15:46.019 mothers to 00:15:46.019 --> 00:15:46.899 all children 00:15:46.899 --> 00:15:47.840 and all 00:15:47.840 --> 00:15:48.720 siblings 00:15:48.720 --> 00:15:49.720 should be 00:15:49.720 --> 00:15:50.840 siblings to 00:15:50.840 --> 00:15:51.720 all children. 00:15:51.720 --> 00:15:51.820 children. 00:15:52.620 --> 00:15:53.279 The church 00:15:53.279 --> 00:15:53.980 plays a 00:15:53.980 --> 00:15:54.660 huge role, 00:15:54.720 --> 00:15:55.240 a massive 00:15:55.240 --> 00:15:56.480 role in 00:15:56.480 --> 00:15:57.040 providing 00:15:57.040 --> 00:15:59.080 the practical, 00:16:00.080 --> 00:16:01.720 emotional and 00:16:01.720 --> 00:16:03.200 spiritual support 00:16:03.200 --> 00:16:03.720 to all 00:16:03.720 --> 00:16:04.160 families. 00:16:04.399 --> 00:16:05.000 That's why we 00:16:05.000 --> 00:16:05.580 make such a 00:16:05.580 --> 00:16:06.220 big point of 00:16:06.220 --> 00:16:06.720 us coming 00:16:06.720 --> 00:16:07.639 together like 00:16:07.639 --> 00:16:07.840 this. 00:16:07.840 --> 00:16:08.360 We're not 00:16:08.360 --> 00:16:08.860 just coming 00:16:08.860 --> 00:16:09.779 as individuals, 00:16:10.320 --> 00:16:10.960 me and my 00:16:10.960 --> 00:16:11.540 family and 00:16:11.540 --> 00:16:12.100 just our 00:16:12.100 --> 00:16:12.899 little core 00:16:12.899 --> 00:16:13.420 group. 00:16:13.960 --> 00:16:14.639 We're coming 00:16:14.639 --> 00:16:15.639 together to 00:16:15.639 --> 00:16:16.420 support and 00:16:16.420 --> 00:16:17.300 encourage each 00:16:17.300 --> 00:16:18.160 other and to 00:16:18.160 --> 00:16:18.680 help each 00:16:18.680 --> 00:16:19.379 other along. 00:16:19.379 --> 00:16:21.480 But having 00:16:21.480 --> 00:16:22.279 said all of 00:16:22.279 --> 00:16:23.100 those things, 00:16:23.740 --> 00:16:24.620 we mustn't 00:16:24.620 --> 00:16:25.399 lose sight of 00:16:25.399 --> 00:16:26.139 what God's 00:16:26.139 --> 00:16:27.080 best design 00:16:27.080 --> 00:16:27.759 for family 00:16:27.759 --> 00:16:28.379 is. 00:16:29.139 --> 00:16:30.000 That is a 00:16:30.000 --> 00:16:30.899 loving marriage 00:16:30.899 --> 00:16:32.279 between one 00:16:32.279 --> 00:16:33.480 man and 00:16:33.480 --> 00:16:34.220 one woman 00:16:34.220 --> 00:16:35.419 that is in 00:16:35.419 --> 00:16:36.340 an exclusive 00:16:36.340 --> 00:16:37.240 lifelong 00:16:37.240 --> 00:16:38.340 commitment. 00:16:40.340 --> 00:16:41.419 So that is 00:16:41.419 --> 00:16:42.159 family as 00:16:42.159 --> 00:16:43.899 God designed 00:16:43.899 --> 00:16:44.960 it to be. 00:16:46.139 --> 00:16:46.799 But second, 00:16:47.019 --> 00:16:47.740 family as 00:16:47.740 --> 00:16:48.980 God ordered 00:16:48.980 --> 00:16:49.960 it to be. 00:16:51.039 --> 00:16:51.879 Because within 00:16:51.879 --> 00:16:52.800 this design, 00:16:52.940 --> 00:16:53.759 this beautiful 00:16:53.759 --> 00:16:54.600 design that 00:16:54.600 --> 00:16:55.320 God has, 00:16:55.639 --> 00:16:56.560 we find an 00:16:56.560 --> 00:16:57.100 order. 00:16:57.980 --> 00:16:58.279 And that 00:16:58.279 --> 00:16:59.159 order starts 00:16:59.159 --> 00:16:59.659 back in 00:16:59.659 --> 00:17:00.440 chapter 5 00:17:00.440 --> 00:17:01.460 verse 21. 00:17:04.339 --> 00:17:05.440 Chapter 5 00:17:05.440 --> 00:17:06.200 verse 21 00:17:06.200 --> 00:17:06.759 says, 00:17:07.200 --> 00:17:08.160 Submit to 00:17:08.160 --> 00:17:08.839 one another 00:17:08.839 --> 00:17:09.740 out of 00:17:09.740 --> 00:17:10.539 reverence for 00:17:10.539 --> 00:17:11.079 Christ. 00:17:13.339 --> 00:17:14.680 So this is 00:17:14.680 --> 00:17:15.180 the beginning 00:17:15.180 --> 00:17:16.000 of the, 00:17:16.140 --> 00:17:16.880 verse 21 is 00:17:16.880 --> 00:17:17.259 really the 00:17:17.259 --> 00:17:17.700 beginning of 00:17:17.700 --> 00:17:18.039 the whole 00:17:18.039 --> 00:17:18.700 section through 00:17:18.700 --> 00:17:19.259 the rest of 00:17:19.259 --> 00:17:19.980 chapter 5 00:17:19.980 --> 00:17:20.839 and into 00:17:20.839 --> 00:17:21.899 chapter 6. 00:17:22.819 --> 00:17:23.319 It's telling 00:17:23.319 --> 00:17:23.779 us that we 00:17:23.779 --> 00:17:24.299 are all to 00:17:24.299 --> 00:17:25.839 submit to 00:17:25.839 --> 00:17:26.720 God's 00:17:26.720 --> 00:17:27.299 ordering, 00:17:27.920 --> 00:17:28.779 to submit to 00:17:28.779 --> 00:17:29.680 God's design, 00:17:29.839 --> 00:17:31.139 his structure 00:17:31.139 --> 00:17:32.159 for family 00:17:32.159 --> 00:17:32.519 life. 00:17:32.659 --> 00:17:33.359 So in 00:17:33.359 --> 00:17:34.180 verse 22 00:17:34.180 --> 00:17:34.839 following, 00:17:35.319 --> 00:17:36.099 there is an 00:17:36.099 --> 00:17:37.399 order for the 00:17:37.399 --> 00:17:38.220 husbands and 00:17:38.220 --> 00:17:38.659 wives. 00:17:38.799 --> 00:17:39.559 They have 00:17:39.559 --> 00:17:40.480 distinct and 00:17:40.480 --> 00:17:41.359 different roles 00:17:41.359 --> 00:17:42.619 to play within 00:17:42.619 --> 00:17:43.159 marriage, 00:17:43.220 --> 00:17:43.740 one to 00:17:43.740 --> 00:17:44.059 another. 00:17:44.159 --> 00:17:44.599 There's an 00:17:44.599 --> 00:17:46.000 order and 00:17:46.000 --> 00:17:46.960 God's designed 00:17:46.960 --> 00:17:47.559 it in that 00:17:47.559 --> 00:17:47.859 way. 00:17:48.759 --> 00:17:49.140 And in 00:17:49.140 --> 00:17:49.720 our text, 00:17:49.839 --> 00:17:50.579 in chapter 6, 00:17:50.640 --> 00:17:51.240 1 to 4, 00:17:51.380 --> 00:17:52.259 there is an 00:17:52.259 --> 00:17:53.059 order, there's 00:17:53.059 --> 00:17:53.680 a particular 00:17:53.680 --> 00:17:55.859 structure for 00:17:55.859 --> 00:17:56.880 parents and 00:17:56.880 --> 00:17:57.680 for children. 00:17:58.839 --> 00:17:59.519 So in these 00:17:59.519 --> 00:18:00.359 verses, parents 00:18:00.359 --> 00:18:01.599 are placed in 00:18:01.599 --> 00:18:03.220 authority over 00:18:03.220 --> 00:18:04.119 their children 00:18:04.119 --> 00:18:05.440 and children 00:18:05.440 --> 00:18:06.180 are placed 00:18:06.180 --> 00:18:07.559 under the 00:18:07.559 --> 00:18:08.359 care of 00:18:08.359 --> 00:18:09.339 their parents. 00:18:10.240 --> 00:18:11.000 So we're 00:18:11.000 --> 00:18:11.380 going to look 00:18:11.380 --> 00:18:12.400 at them in 00:18:12.400 --> 00:18:13.759 two ways. 00:18:13.880 --> 00:18:14.339 First, we're 00:18:14.339 --> 00:18:14.680 going to look 00:18:14.680 --> 00:18:15.140 at the role 00:18:15.140 --> 00:18:15.900 of parents. 00:18:16.759 --> 00:18:17.640 So listen 00:18:17.640 --> 00:18:18.539 up, parents. 00:18:22.259 --> 00:18:22.880 Look at 00:18:22.880 --> 00:18:23.500 verse 1. 00:18:25.460 --> 00:18:26.120 Or I 00:18:26.120 --> 00:18:26.460 could even 00:18:26.460 --> 00:18:27.299 say potential 00:18:27.299 --> 00:18:28.400 parents. 00:18:29.920 --> 00:18:30.519 Children, 00:18:31.779 --> 00:18:32.600 obey your 00:18:32.600 --> 00:18:34.380 parents in 00:18:34.380 --> 00:18:34.860 the Lord, 00:18:34.980 --> 00:18:36.000 for this is 00:18:36.000 --> 00:18:36.440 right. 00:18:38.200 --> 00:18:39.120 So parenting 00:18:39.120 --> 00:18:40.340 is to be 00:18:40.340 --> 00:18:41.019 the responsible 00:18:41.019 --> 00:18:41.640 of the 00:18:41.640 --> 00:18:42.380 parents, 00:18:42.860 --> 00:18:43.860 mother and 00:18:43.859 --> 00:18:44.759 father. 00:18:45.579 --> 00:18:45.979 You don't 00:18:45.979 --> 00:18:46.500 just leave 00:18:46.500 --> 00:18:47.159 it to one 00:18:47.159 --> 00:18:47.659 or the 00:18:47.659 --> 00:18:47.919 other. 00:18:48.259 --> 00:18:48.979 They both 00:18:48.979 --> 00:18:49.699 have their 00:18:49.699 --> 00:18:50.319 distinctive 00:18:50.319 --> 00:18:50.859 roles. 00:18:51.179 --> 00:18:51.599 A mother 00:18:51.599 --> 00:18:52.299 is gifted 00:18:52.299 --> 00:18:52.939 and a 00:18:52.939 --> 00:18:53.599 father is 00:18:53.599 --> 00:18:53.939 gifted 00:18:53.939 --> 00:18:54.679 differently, 00:18:55.199 --> 00:18:55.500 but yet 00:18:55.500 --> 00:18:56.500 they complement 00:18:56.500 --> 00:18:57.339 each other. 00:18:57.719 --> 00:18:58.459 They work 00:18:58.459 --> 00:18:59.439 together to 00:18:59.439 --> 00:19:00.139 provide the 00:19:00.139 --> 00:19:01.240 best environment 00:19:01.240 --> 00:19:02.759 and care for 00:19:02.759 --> 00:19:03.559 their children. 00:19:04.059 --> 00:19:04.779 So parenting 00:19:04.779 --> 00:19:05.679 is a dual 00:19:05.679 --> 00:19:06.379 task, 00:19:07.139 --> 00:19:07.839 something they're 00:19:07.839 --> 00:19:08.639 in it together. 00:19:09.039 --> 00:19:09.479 However, 00:19:10.679 --> 00:19:11.179 and I think 00:19:11.179 --> 00:19:11.679 this is right, 00:19:11.740 --> 00:19:12.259 you might want 00:19:12.259 --> 00:19:12.740 to come back 00:19:12.740 --> 00:19:13.160 to me on 00:19:13.160 --> 00:19:13.599 it later. 00:19:13.920 --> 00:19:14.279 However, 00:19:14.420 --> 00:19:14.839 I think 00:19:14.839 --> 00:19:15.759 within God's 00:19:15.759 --> 00:19:16.519 order, 00:19:17.000 --> 00:19:17.819 the father 00:19:17.819 --> 00:19:19.279 is given 00:19:19.279 --> 00:19:19.980 a particular 00:19:19.980 --> 00:19:20.799 responsibility. 00:19:21.220 --> 00:19:21.799 So he jumps 00:19:21.799 --> 00:19:22.440 from verse 1 00:19:22.440 --> 00:19:23.019 talking about 00:19:23.019 --> 00:19:24.079 parents generally, 00:19:24.619 --> 00:19:25.799 now to verse 4, 00:19:26.180 --> 00:19:26.859 fathers. 00:19:29.160 --> 00:19:30.000 Fathers have 00:19:30.000 --> 00:19:30.599 a particular 00:19:30.599 --> 00:19:31.619 responsibility 00:19:31.619 --> 00:19:32.839 that the 00:19:32.839 --> 00:19:33.579 mothers don't. 00:19:33.640 --> 00:19:33.819 Yes, 00:19:33.879 --> 00:19:34.460 they all play 00:19:34.460 --> 00:19:35.079 their role in 00:19:35.079 --> 00:19:35.259 it, 00:19:35.660 --> 00:19:36.579 but fathers 00:19:36.579 --> 00:19:38.220 listen up, 00:19:38.220 --> 00:19:40.740 myself included. 00:19:41.559 --> 00:19:42.059 Fathers, 00:19:42.940 --> 00:19:43.620 do not 00:19:43.620 --> 00:19:44.720 exasperate 00:19:44.720 --> 00:19:45.880 your children. 00:19:46.920 --> 00:19:47.400 Instead, 00:19:48.160 --> 00:19:48.819 fathers, 00:19:49.420 --> 00:19:50.140 bring them 00:19:50.140 --> 00:19:50.640 up in the 00:19:50.640 --> 00:19:51.579 training and 00:19:51.579 --> 00:19:52.559 instruction of 00:19:52.559 --> 00:19:53.000 the Lord. 00:19:55.799 --> 00:19:57.420 One commentator 00:19:57.420 --> 00:19:58.059 has pointed 00:19:58.059 --> 00:19:59.740 out the 00:19:59.740 --> 00:20:00.860 common abuse 00:20:00.860 --> 00:20:02.019 of a father 00:20:02.019 --> 00:20:03.160 at that time 00:20:03.160 --> 00:20:03.920 in a typical 00:20:03.920 --> 00:20:05.380 Roman family. 00:20:05.380 --> 00:20:06.460 Let me read 00:20:06.460 --> 00:20:06.900 it to you 00:20:06.900 --> 00:20:07.420 what it was 00:20:07.420 --> 00:20:08.060 like or what 00:20:08.060 --> 00:20:08.620 it could 00:20:08.620 --> 00:20:09.160 have been 00:20:09.160 --> 00:20:09.580 like. 00:20:10.380 --> 00:20:11.100 A Roman 00:20:11.100 --> 00:20:12.080 father had 00:20:12.080 --> 00:20:13.340 absolute power 00:20:13.340 --> 00:20:14.000 over his 00:20:14.000 --> 00:20:14.420 family. 00:20:15.420 --> 00:20:15.800 He could 00:20:15.800 --> 00:20:16.340 sell them 00:20:16.340 --> 00:20:17.100 as slaves. 00:20:17.980 --> 00:20:18.300 He could 00:20:18.300 --> 00:20:18.680 make them 00:20:18.680 --> 00:20:19.160 work in 00:20:19.160 --> 00:20:19.880 his fields, 00:20:20.060 --> 00:20:20.620 even in 00:20:20.620 --> 00:20:21.020 chains. 00:20:22.080 --> 00:20:22.460 He could 00:20:22.460 --> 00:20:23.220 take the 00:20:23.220 --> 00:20:25.960 law into 00:20:25.960 --> 00:20:26.460 his own 00:20:26.460 --> 00:20:26.980 hands, 00:20:27.240 --> 00:20:27.760 for the 00:20:27.760 --> 00:20:28.620 law was 00:20:28.620 --> 00:20:29.240 in his 00:20:29.240 --> 00:20:29.860 own hands, 00:20:30.120 --> 00:20:30.520 and he 00:20:30.520 --> 00:20:31.240 could punish 00:20:31.240 --> 00:20:31.820 as he 00:20:31.820 --> 00:20:32.220 liked. 00:20:32.740 --> 00:20:33.160 He could 00:20:33.160 --> 00:20:34.040 even inflict 00:20:34.040 --> 00:20:34.760 the death 00:20:34.759 --> 00:20:36.319 penalty on 00:20:36.319 --> 00:20:37.019 his child. 00:20:38.599 --> 00:20:39.079 Now, 00:20:39.140 --> 00:20:39.500 that might 00:20:39.500 --> 00:20:40.160 seem a bit 00:20:40.160 --> 00:20:41.200 extreme for 00:20:41.200 --> 00:20:41.819 us in our 00:20:41.819 --> 00:20:42.599 context and 00:20:42.599 --> 00:20:42.980 in our 00:20:42.980 --> 00:20:44.180 environment, 00:20:45.279 --> 00:20:46.460 but I 00:20:46.460 --> 00:20:46.940 don't think 00:20:46.940 --> 00:20:47.440 it's too 00:20:47.440 --> 00:20:48.019 uncommon 00:20:48.019 --> 00:20:49.779 for children 00:20:49.779 --> 00:20:50.740 in Ireland 00:20:50.740 --> 00:20:52.640 to experience 00:20:52.640 --> 00:20:53.740 the abuse 00:20:53.740 --> 00:20:54.420 or the 00:20:54.420 --> 00:20:55.200 absence of 00:20:55.200 --> 00:20:55.740 a father. 00:20:56.539 --> 00:20:57.240 It's all 00:20:57.240 --> 00:20:58.160 too common. 00:20:59.319 --> 00:20:59.859 The number 00:20:59.859 --> 00:21:00.940 of fatherless 00:21:00.940 --> 00:21:01.700 children or 00:21:01.700 --> 00:21:02.680 children being 00:21:02.680 --> 00:21:03.299 raised not 00:21:03.299 --> 00:21:04.180 knowing who 00:21:04.180 --> 00:21:04.820 their father 00:21:04.820 --> 00:21:05.440 is, or 00:21:05.440 --> 00:21:06.340 perhaps who 00:21:06.340 --> 00:21:06.840 their mother 00:21:06.840 --> 00:21:07.279 is, is 00:21:07.279 --> 00:21:08.600 increasing all 00:21:08.600 --> 00:21:09.259 the time. 00:21:10.220 --> 00:21:10.840 So there 00:21:10.840 --> 00:21:11.180 is a 00:21:11.180 --> 00:21:12.840 specific and 00:21:12.840 --> 00:21:13.560 an important 00:21:13.560 --> 00:21:15.019 correction here 00:21:15.019 --> 00:21:16.720 for how a 00:21:16.720 --> 00:21:18.060 father should 00:21:18.060 --> 00:21:18.539 parent. 00:21:19.880 --> 00:21:20.240 And there 00:21:20.240 --> 00:21:20.580 are two 00:21:20.580 --> 00:21:21.060 primary 00:21:21.060 --> 00:21:21.759 concerns. 00:21:22.860 --> 00:21:23.799 The first 00:21:23.799 --> 00:21:25.240 concern, if 00:21:25.240 --> 00:21:25.960 you split the 00:21:25.960 --> 00:21:26.560 verse, verse 00:21:26.560 --> 00:21:27.460 four, in two 00:21:27.460 --> 00:21:27.940 parts. 00:21:28.560 --> 00:21:29.060 The first 00:21:29.060 --> 00:21:29.940 concern is the 00:21:29.940 --> 00:21:30.640 first part. 00:21:31.519 --> 00:21:32.360 Fathers do 00:21:32.359 --> 00:21:33.659 not exasperate 00:21:33.659 --> 00:21:34.819 your children 00:21:34.819 --> 00:21:35.479 or as some 00:21:35.479 --> 00:21:36.419 translations have 00:21:36.419 --> 00:21:37.299 it, fathers 00:21:37.299 --> 00:21:38.299 don't provoke 00:21:38.299 --> 00:21:39.019 your children 00:21:39.019 --> 00:21:39.799 to anger. 00:21:41.000 --> 00:21:42.000 Don't provoke 00:21:42.000 --> 00:21:42.619 your children 00:21:42.619 --> 00:21:43.359 to anger. 00:21:43.799 --> 00:21:44.599 Don't get 00:21:44.599 --> 00:21:45.399 them angry 00:21:45.399 --> 00:21:46.000 and annoyed. 00:21:47.839 --> 00:21:48.439 Let's think 00:21:48.439 --> 00:21:49.039 about that for 00:21:49.039 --> 00:21:49.399 a minute. 00:21:50.399 --> 00:21:51.419 Because anger, 00:21:52.740 --> 00:21:53.699 and I guess 00:21:53.699 --> 00:21:54.199 this is the 00:21:54.199 --> 00:21:54.899 experience of 00:21:54.899 --> 00:21:55.500 all parents, 00:21:55.699 --> 00:21:56.519 it's a common 00:21:56.519 --> 00:21:57.399 response, isn't 00:21:57.399 --> 00:21:57.799 it, of a 00:21:57.799 --> 00:21:58.500 child to a 00:21:58.500 --> 00:21:58.799 parent. 00:21:59.479 --> 00:22:00.000 If you had 00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:00.759 children, do 00:22:00.759 --> 00:22:01.199 they ever get 00:22:01.200 --> 00:22:01.920 angry with 00:22:01.920 --> 00:22:02.120 you? 00:22:06.319 --> 00:22:07.039 It's alright, 00:22:07.240 --> 00:22:07.779 they do. 00:22:08.759 --> 00:22:09.180 It's alright, 00:22:09.620 --> 00:22:10.180 children will 00:22:10.180 --> 00:22:10.640 get their own 00:22:10.640 --> 00:22:11.600 backs in a 00:22:11.600 --> 00:22:12.080 minute, so 00:22:12.080 --> 00:22:12.440 don't worry. 00:22:13.299 --> 00:22:13.860 So when a 00:22:13.860 --> 00:22:14.559 parent says 00:22:14.559 --> 00:22:15.759 no to their 00:22:15.759 --> 00:22:16.420 child, or 00:22:16.420 --> 00:22:17.380 no, not 00:22:17.380 --> 00:22:18.059 there, or 00:22:18.059 --> 00:22:19.120 don't touch 00:22:19.120 --> 00:22:20.940 this, what's 00:22:20.940 --> 00:22:21.480 the reaction? 00:22:21.960 --> 00:22:22.680 Sometimes they 00:22:22.680 --> 00:22:23.759 get angry and 00:22:23.759 --> 00:22:24.420 they throw a 00:22:24.420 --> 00:22:25.039 tantrum and 00:22:25.039 --> 00:22:25.500 they start 00:22:25.500 --> 00:22:26.240 shouting and 00:22:26.240 --> 00:22:26.640 doing all 00:22:26.640 --> 00:22:27.160 kinds of 00:22:27.160 --> 00:22:27.600 things. 00:22:28.039 --> 00:22:28.460 Why? 00:22:29.420 --> 00:22:30.140 Because the 00:22:30.140 --> 00:22:30.759 child is 00:22:30.759 --> 00:22:31.440 simply doing 00:22:31.440 --> 00:22:31.940 what we 00:22:31.940 --> 00:22:33.059 all do. 00:22:33.500 --> 00:22:33.799 They're 00:22:33.799 --> 00:22:34.960 fighting against 00:22:34.960 --> 00:22:35.940 authority. 00:22:36.500 --> 00:22:36.920 They're 00:22:36.920 --> 00:22:38.220 resisting God's 00:22:38.220 --> 00:22:38.839 good design 00:22:38.839 --> 00:22:39.279 for life. 00:22:39.379 --> 00:22:39.680 They don't 00:22:39.680 --> 00:22:40.460 like it. 00:22:41.119 --> 00:22:41.559 They don't 00:22:41.559 --> 00:22:42.099 want to 00:22:42.099 --> 00:22:43.099 submit to 00:22:43.099 --> 00:22:43.740 their parents' 00:22:43.900 --> 00:22:44.279 authority. 00:22:44.559 --> 00:22:45.099 They want to 00:22:45.099 --> 00:22:45.660 live life 00:22:45.660 --> 00:22:46.680 their way and 00:22:46.680 --> 00:22:47.319 do things the 00:22:47.319 --> 00:22:48.000 way they want 00:22:48.000 --> 00:22:49.200 to, like 00:22:49.200 --> 00:22:49.660 us. 00:22:51.299 --> 00:22:52.319 They have a 00:22:52.319 --> 00:22:53.379 sinful nature 00:22:53.379 --> 00:22:55.819 that reacts 00:22:55.819 --> 00:22:56.900 against authority, 00:22:57.140 --> 00:22:57.940 doesn't want to 00:22:57.940 --> 00:22:58.940 submit to it, 00:22:58.940 --> 00:23:00.779 and responds 00:23:00.779 --> 00:23:01.600 in anger. 00:23:03.500 --> 00:23:04.120 So does 00:23:04.120 --> 00:23:04.519 that mean 00:23:04.519 --> 00:23:05.299 then parents 00:23:05.299 --> 00:23:06.660 must avoid 00:23:06.660 --> 00:23:07.360 saying or 00:23:07.360 --> 00:23:08.059 doing anything 00:23:08.059 --> 00:23:08.420 that will 00:23:08.420 --> 00:23:09.059 ever cause a 00:23:09.059 --> 00:23:09.600 response of 00:23:09.600 --> 00:23:09.779 anger? 00:23:10.039 --> 00:23:10.240 Well, I 00:23:10.240 --> 00:23:10.900 possibly couldn't 00:23:10.900 --> 00:23:11.680 tell them never 00:23:11.680 --> 00:23:12.840 say no or 00:23:12.840 --> 00:23:13.360 don't do that 00:23:13.360 --> 00:23:13.799 because, well, 00:23:13.820 --> 00:23:14.180 if they get 00:23:14.180 --> 00:23:14.600 angry. 00:23:16.059 --> 00:23:16.519 Well, I don't 00:23:16.519 --> 00:23:17.019 think that's 00:23:17.019 --> 00:23:17.420 what it's 00:23:17.420 --> 00:23:17.720 saying. 00:23:18.799 --> 00:23:19.600 What does it 00:23:19.600 --> 00:23:20.100 mean then? 00:23:20.200 --> 00:23:21.080 Well, parents 00:23:21.080 --> 00:23:21.880 and in 00:23:21.880 --> 00:23:23.080 particular fathers, 00:23:23.680 --> 00:23:24.460 we must 00:23:24.460 --> 00:23:26.000 exercise our 00:23:26.000 --> 00:23:26.519 authority. 00:23:26.519 --> 00:23:27.059 we must 00:23:27.059 --> 00:23:27.759 be firm 00:23:27.759 --> 00:23:28.180 with our 00:23:28.180 --> 00:23:29.119 yes and 00:23:29.119 --> 00:23:29.539 with our 00:23:29.539 --> 00:23:30.740 no, but 00:23:30.740 --> 00:23:32.579 in a way 00:23:32.579 --> 00:23:33.019 that is 00:23:33.019 --> 00:23:34.339 Christ-like, 00:23:35.359 --> 00:23:36.299 in a way 00:23:36.299 --> 00:23:37.119 that doesn't 00:23:37.119 --> 00:23:38.200 cause a 00:23:38.200 --> 00:23:39.500 wrong response. 00:23:41.160 --> 00:23:42.139 So, have a 00:23:42.139 --> 00:23:42.500 look at the 00:23:42.500 --> 00:23:43.220 verses that we 00:23:43.220 --> 00:23:43.900 read earlier 00:23:43.900 --> 00:23:45.259 in chapter 4, 00:23:45.339 --> 00:23:46.359 verse 26. 00:23:46.519 --> 00:23:47.099 All of us, 00:23:47.180 --> 00:23:47.819 whether we're a 00:23:47.819 --> 00:23:48.720 father or not, 00:23:49.079 --> 00:23:50.019 this applies to 00:23:50.019 --> 00:23:50.519 us all. 00:23:51.400 --> 00:23:51.900 These are 00:23:51.900 --> 00:23:53.319 searching and 00:23:53.319 --> 00:23:53.859 challenging 00:23:53.859 --> 00:23:54.579 words. 00:23:54.579 --> 00:23:56.439 verse 26 00:23:56.439 --> 00:23:57.279 of chapter 4, 00:23:57.679 --> 00:23:58.059 in your 00:23:58.059 --> 00:23:58.579 anger, 00:24:00.339 --> 00:24:00.980 do not 00:24:00.980 --> 00:24:01.439 sin. 00:24:03.519 --> 00:24:04.299 Do not 00:24:04.299 --> 00:24:04.779 let the 00:24:04.779 --> 00:24:05.539 sun go 00:24:05.539 --> 00:24:06.199 down while 00:24:06.199 --> 00:24:06.519 you are 00:24:06.519 --> 00:24:07.220 still angry. 00:24:07.539 --> 00:24:07.799 In other 00:24:07.799 --> 00:24:08.319 words, don't 00:24:08.319 --> 00:24:08.960 go to bed 00:24:08.960 --> 00:24:09.679 without having 00:24:09.679 --> 00:24:10.639 sorted out what 00:24:10.639 --> 00:24:11.220 you need to 00:24:11.220 --> 00:24:11.819 sort out with 00:24:11.819 --> 00:24:12.460 your wife or 00:24:12.460 --> 00:24:13.619 your husband or 00:24:13.619 --> 00:24:14.019 with your 00:24:14.019 --> 00:24:14.480 children. 00:24:16.159 --> 00:24:17.000 Go to bed 00:24:17.000 --> 00:24:17.659 at peace, 00:24:18.439 --> 00:24:19.119 having forgiven 00:24:19.119 --> 00:24:19.699 each other. 00:24:19.980 --> 00:24:20.659 Verse 27, 00:24:20.799 --> 00:24:21.319 and do not 00:24:21.319 --> 00:24:21.960 give the devil 00:24:21.960 --> 00:24:22.379 a foothold. 00:24:22.439 --> 00:24:23.000 If we don't 00:24:23.000 --> 00:24:23.619 sort it out, 00:24:23.619 --> 00:24:24.459 he gets 00:24:24.459 --> 00:24:24.819 in. 00:24:26.919 --> 00:24:27.519 And he 00:24:27.519 --> 00:24:28.059 makes things 00:24:28.059 --> 00:24:28.619 difficult. 00:24:29.879 --> 00:24:30.699 Verse 29, 00:24:32.439 --> 00:24:33.659 do not 00:24:33.659 --> 00:24:34.159 let any 00:24:34.159 --> 00:24:34.779 unwholesome 00:24:34.779 --> 00:24:35.579 talk come 00:24:35.579 --> 00:24:35.899 out of 00:24:35.899 --> 00:24:36.599 your mouths, 00:24:37.599 --> 00:24:38.739 but only 00:24:38.739 --> 00:24:39.139 what is 00:24:39.139 --> 00:24:40.019 helpful for 00:24:40.019 --> 00:24:40.719 building others 00:24:40.719 --> 00:24:41.079 up. 00:24:42.079 --> 00:24:42.579 So if you 00:24:42.579 --> 00:24:42.959 haven't got 00:24:42.959 --> 00:24:43.579 something good 00:24:43.579 --> 00:24:44.259 to say that 00:24:44.259 --> 00:24:44.839 is going to 00:24:44.839 --> 00:24:46.000 be helpful 00:24:46.000 --> 00:24:46.659 or building 00:24:46.659 --> 00:24:47.239 up to your 00:24:47.239 --> 00:24:48.559 children or 00:24:48.559 --> 00:24:48.879 to your 00:24:48.879 --> 00:24:49.459 husband and 00:24:49.459 --> 00:24:49.679 wife, 00:24:49.759 --> 00:24:50.319 don't say 00:24:50.319 --> 00:24:50.659 it. 00:24:50.660 --> 00:24:53.640 verse 31, 00:24:54.460 --> 00:24:55.840 get rid of 00:24:55.840 --> 00:24:56.900 all bitterness, 00:24:58.240 --> 00:25:00.060 rage and 00:25:00.060 --> 00:25:00.680 anger, 00:25:01.640 --> 00:25:02.460 brawling and 00:25:02.460 --> 00:25:03.460 slander along 00:25:03.460 --> 00:25:04.220 with every 00:25:04.220 --> 00:25:04.920 form of 00:25:04.920 --> 00:25:05.440 malice. 00:25:06.900 --> 00:25:07.300 You see, 00:25:07.600 --> 00:25:08.420 this is what 00:25:08.420 --> 00:25:09.019 it is to 00:25:09.019 --> 00:25:09.759 parent. 00:25:10.700 --> 00:25:11.259 This is what 00:25:11.259 --> 00:25:12.060 it is to be 00:25:12.060 --> 00:25:13.640 a father who 00:25:13.640 --> 00:25:16.000 uses authority 00:25:16.000 --> 00:25:17.259 but in a 00:25:17.259 --> 00:25:18.019 Christ-like 00:25:18.019 --> 00:25:18.460 way. 00:25:21.079 --> 00:25:21.740 Well, how 00:25:21.740 --> 00:25:22.099 are we going 00:25:22.099 --> 00:25:22.359 to do 00:25:22.359 --> 00:25:22.779 that? 00:25:24.099 --> 00:25:24.819 Because I 00:25:24.819 --> 00:25:25.460 know myself 00:25:25.460 --> 00:25:26.059 having read 00:25:26.059 --> 00:25:26.519 through all 00:25:26.519 --> 00:25:26.859 of this, 00:25:27.519 --> 00:25:28.099 I know I 00:25:28.099 --> 00:25:29.339 failed in 00:25:29.339 --> 00:25:29.879 all of these 00:25:29.879 --> 00:25:31.180 areas as 00:25:31.180 --> 00:25:31.779 a father. 00:25:33.140 --> 00:25:33.859 How are we 00:25:33.859 --> 00:25:34.279 going to 00:25:34.279 --> 00:25:34.839 get it 00:25:34.839 --> 00:25:35.259 right? 00:25:36.220 --> 00:25:36.539 Well, look 00:25:36.539 --> 00:25:37.480 at verse 32. 00:25:38.519 --> 00:25:39.299 Be kind 00:25:39.299 --> 00:25:40.160 and compassionate 00:25:40.160 --> 00:25:40.759 to one 00:25:40.759 --> 00:25:41.079 another, 00:25:41.240 --> 00:25:41.960 forgiving each 00:25:41.960 --> 00:25:42.279 other, 00:25:42.940 --> 00:25:44.259 just as in 00:25:44.259 --> 00:25:45.640 Christ God 00:25:45.640 --> 00:25:46.879 forgave you. 00:25:47.259 --> 00:25:48.460 Do you 00:25:48.460 --> 00:25:48.879 see that 00:25:48.879 --> 00:25:49.539 beautiful 00:25:49.539 --> 00:25:50.180 picture? 00:25:50.700 --> 00:25:51.359 We have a 00:25:51.359 --> 00:25:52.460 father in 00:25:52.460 --> 00:25:54.099 heaven who 00:25:54.099 --> 00:25:55.180 has fathered 00:25:55.180 --> 00:25:55.720 us in the 00:25:55.720 --> 00:25:56.799 most ultimate 00:25:56.799 --> 00:25:57.879 and best way 00:25:57.879 --> 00:25:58.660 in that he 00:25:58.660 --> 00:25:59.440 has forgiven 00:25:59.440 --> 00:25:59.980 us. 00:26:00.859 --> 00:26:01.859 God was the 00:26:01.859 --> 00:26:02.619 only one who 00:26:02.619 --> 00:26:03.420 was just and 00:26:03.420 --> 00:26:04.079 right to be 00:26:04.079 --> 00:26:05.339 angry with 00:26:05.339 --> 00:26:05.879 our sin, 00:26:06.220 --> 00:26:06.740 but yet he 00:26:06.740 --> 00:26:07.259 didn't pour 00:26:07.259 --> 00:26:07.700 out his 00:26:07.700 --> 00:26:08.599 anger on 00:26:08.599 --> 00:26:09.579 us, but he 00:26:09.579 --> 00:26:10.519 removed his 00:26:10.519 --> 00:26:11.200 anger from 00:26:11.200 --> 00:26:12.220 us so that 00:26:12.220 --> 00:26:12.859 we didn't 00:26:12.859 --> 00:26:13.680 have to face 00:26:13.680 --> 00:26:14.059 it. 00:26:14.579 --> 00:26:15.140 And he 00:26:15.140 --> 00:26:15.980 cared for 00:26:15.980 --> 00:26:16.859 us as 00:26:16.859 --> 00:26:17.500 his 00:26:17.500 --> 00:26:18.859 children so 00:26:18.859 --> 00:26:19.539 that we 00:26:19.539 --> 00:26:20.459 in turn 00:26:20.459 --> 00:26:21.119 would be 00:26:21.119 --> 00:26:21.699 able to 00:26:21.699 --> 00:26:22.240 care for 00:26:22.240 --> 00:26:22.799 our 00:26:22.799 --> 00:26:23.459 children. 00:26:24.959 --> 00:26:26.039 Chapter 5 00:26:26.039 --> 00:26:26.679 verse 1. 00:26:27.179 --> 00:26:28.500 Be imitators 00:26:28.500 --> 00:26:29.339 of God 00:26:29.339 --> 00:26:31.219 therefore as 00:26:31.219 --> 00:26:32.659 dearly loved 00:26:32.659 --> 00:26:35.259 children and 00:26:35.259 --> 00:26:36.259 live a 00:26:36.259 --> 00:26:37.219 life of 00:26:37.219 --> 00:26:39.619 love just 00:26:39.619 --> 00:26:40.259 as Christ 00:26:40.259 --> 00:26:41.240 loved us. 00:26:41.240 --> 00:26:42.240 love. 00:26:42.240 --> 00:26:43.579 You see, 00:26:43.799 --> 00:26:44.279 fathers, 00:26:44.839 --> 00:26:45.400 parents, 00:26:45.599 --> 00:26:46.380 if you want 00:26:46.380 --> 00:26:47.680 a model for 00:26:47.680 --> 00:26:48.279 how to 00:26:48.279 --> 00:26:49.380 parent well, 00:26:51.180 --> 00:26:51.660 yeah, the 00:26:51.660 --> 00:26:52.359 books are 00:26:52.359 --> 00:26:52.880 great, 00:26:53.740 --> 00:26:54.420 talking to 00:26:54.420 --> 00:26:54.960 others will 00:26:54.960 --> 00:26:55.700 be great, 00:26:56.700 --> 00:26:57.640 but look at 00:26:57.640 --> 00:26:58.420 the model that 00:26:58.420 --> 00:26:59.319 we see on 00:26:59.319 --> 00:27:00.539 the cross of 00:27:00.539 --> 00:27:01.140 what the 00:27:01.140 --> 00:27:02.359 Father has 00:27:02.359 --> 00:27:03.359 done for 00:27:03.359 --> 00:27:03.799 you. 00:27:04.559 --> 00:27:05.359 That is the 00:27:05.359 --> 00:27:07.359 example that 00:27:07.359 --> 00:27:07.779 we should 00:27:07.779 --> 00:27:08.279 follow. 00:27:08.279 --> 00:27:10.559 the loving, 00:27:10.839 --> 00:27:11.379 forgiving 00:27:11.379 --> 00:27:12.639 Father. 00:27:14.639 --> 00:27:15.539 So that's the 00:27:15.539 --> 00:27:16.399 first concern. 00:27:18.099 --> 00:27:18.700 Fathers, 00:27:19.019 --> 00:27:19.579 take your 00:27:19.579 --> 00:27:20.059 role 00:27:20.059 --> 00:27:21.599 responsibly. 00:27:22.160 --> 00:27:22.759 Do not 00:27:22.759 --> 00:27:23.740 exasperate your 00:27:23.740 --> 00:27:24.059 children. 00:27:24.200 --> 00:27:24.619 The second 00:27:24.619 --> 00:27:25.440 concern is the 00:27:25.440 --> 00:27:26.139 second part of 00:27:26.139 --> 00:27:26.500 the verse. 00:27:26.980 --> 00:27:27.799 Instead, in 00:27:27.799 --> 00:27:28.599 place of 00:27:28.599 --> 00:27:30.399 this, bring 00:27:30.399 --> 00:27:31.559 them up in 00:27:31.559 --> 00:27:32.160 the training 00:27:32.160 --> 00:27:33.559 and instruction 00:27:33.559 --> 00:27:34.859 of the 00:27:34.859 --> 00:27:35.179 Lord. 00:27:36.599 --> 00:27:37.619 The greatest 00:27:37.619 --> 00:27:39.319 desire parents 00:27:39.319 --> 00:27:40.119 can have for 00:27:40.119 --> 00:27:40.779 their children 00:27:40.779 --> 00:27:42.659 is that they 00:27:42.659 --> 00:27:43.700 love the 00:27:43.700 --> 00:27:44.419 Lord Jesus. 00:27:45.659 --> 00:27:46.639 It's not that 00:27:46.639 --> 00:27:47.259 your children 00:27:47.259 --> 00:27:47.919 are good at 00:27:47.919 --> 00:27:48.419 sport. 00:27:48.720 --> 00:27:49.700 It's not that 00:27:49.700 --> 00:27:50.319 they are good 00:27:50.319 --> 00:27:51.419 educationally. 00:27:51.599 --> 00:27:52.500 It's not that 00:27:52.500 --> 00:27:53.059 they have a 00:27:53.059 --> 00:27:53.940 stable career. 00:27:54.259 --> 00:27:55.079 It's not even 00:27:55.079 --> 00:27:55.899 their health. 00:27:57.039 --> 00:27:58.000 All of those 00:27:58.000 --> 00:27:58.519 things are 00:27:58.519 --> 00:27:59.119 good. 00:28:00.799 --> 00:28:01.579 But to 00:28:01.579 --> 00:28:02.500 paraphrase the 00:28:02.500 --> 00:28:03.019 words of 00:28:03.019 --> 00:28:04.160 Jesus, what 00:28:04.160 --> 00:28:05.139 good is it 00:28:05.139 --> 00:28:05.819 for your 00:28:05.819 --> 00:28:06.619 son or 00:28:06.619 --> 00:28:08.119 daughter to 00:28:08.119 --> 00:28:08.619 gain the 00:28:08.619 --> 00:28:09.559 whole world 00:28:09.559 --> 00:28:10.799 but lose 00:28:10.799 --> 00:28:11.599 their own 00:28:11.599 --> 00:28:12.039 soul? 00:28:12.279 --> 00:28:12.960 What good 00:28:12.960 --> 00:28:13.759 is it if 00:28:13.759 --> 00:28:14.440 your son 00:28:14.440 --> 00:28:15.079 becomes the 00:28:15.079 --> 00:28:15.920 greatest sports 00:28:15.920 --> 00:28:16.599 person on 00:28:16.599 --> 00:28:17.000 the field? 00:28:17.359 --> 00:28:17.940 What good 00:28:17.940 --> 00:28:18.680 is it if 00:28:18.680 --> 00:28:19.299 your daughter 00:28:19.299 --> 00:28:20.019 is the 00:28:20.019 --> 00:28:20.319 best 00:28:20.319 --> 00:28:21.420 educationally 00:28:21.420 --> 00:28:22.379 if they 00:28:22.379 --> 00:28:22.960 do not 00:28:22.960 --> 00:28:23.920 know the 00:28:23.920 --> 00:28:24.599 Lord Jesus? 00:28:29.900 --> 00:28:30.619 Bring 00:28:30.619 --> 00:28:31.220 them up 00:28:31.220 --> 00:28:32.139 in the 00:28:32.139 --> 00:28:32.819 training 00:28:32.819 --> 00:28:33.700 and 00:28:33.700 --> 00:28:34.359 instruction 00:28:34.359 --> 00:28:34.879 of the 00:28:34.879 --> 00:28:35.220 Lord, 00:28:35.539 --> 00:28:35.960 fathers. 00:28:38.859 --> 00:28:39.939 Make sure 00:28:39.939 --> 00:28:40.379 they are 00:28:40.379 --> 00:28:40.799 learning 00:28:40.799 --> 00:28:41.460 Christ 00:28:41.460 --> 00:28:42.639 from you. 00:28:43.139 --> 00:28:43.740 Make every 00:28:43.740 --> 00:28:44.460 effort to 00:28:44.460 --> 00:28:45.119 teach them 00:28:45.119 --> 00:28:45.720 about their 00:28:45.720 --> 00:28:46.339 true 00:28:46.339 --> 00:28:47.059 heavenly 00:28:47.059 --> 00:28:47.759 father. 00:28:50.500 --> 00:28:51.679 I dream 00:28:51.679 --> 00:28:52.639 that my 00:28:52.639 --> 00:28:53.299 son will 00:28:53.299 --> 00:28:54.279 score goals 00:28:54.279 --> 00:28:55.179 and tries. 00:28:55.839 --> 00:28:56.359 I have to 00:28:56.359 --> 00:28:56.960 dream because 00:28:56.960 --> 00:28:57.319 it doesn't 00:28:57.319 --> 00:28:57.939 happen at the 00:28:57.939 --> 00:28:58.200 minute. 00:28:58.200 --> 00:29:00.160 I long 00:29:00.160 --> 00:29:00.960 that my 00:29:00.960 --> 00:29:01.980 daughter makes 00:29:01.980 --> 00:29:02.779 it at 00:29:02.779 --> 00:29:03.360 school. 00:29:04.019 --> 00:29:04.600 I want 00:29:04.600 --> 00:29:05.420 the best 00:29:05.420 --> 00:29:06.160 for my 00:29:06.160 --> 00:29:06.980 children in 00:29:06.980 --> 00:29:08.059 every area 00:29:08.059 --> 00:29:08.920 of life. 00:29:10.920 --> 00:29:12.160 But let's 00:29:12.160 --> 00:29:13.039 make every 00:29:13.039 --> 00:29:14.340 effort to 00:29:14.340 --> 00:29:15.000 make sure 00:29:15.000 --> 00:29:15.519 that none 00:29:15.519 --> 00:29:15.980 of these 00:29:15.980 --> 00:29:16.880 passing 00:29:16.880 --> 00:29:17.440 things, 00:29:17.660 --> 00:29:18.220 these are 00:29:18.220 --> 00:29:18.900 empty 00:29:18.900 --> 00:29:19.380 things, 00:29:19.519 --> 00:29:19.740 they're 00:29:19.740 --> 00:29:20.700 unfulfilling 00:29:20.700 --> 00:29:21.360 things. 00:29:21.360 --> 00:29:22.120 Make sure 00:29:22.120 --> 00:29:22.620 that none 00:29:22.620 --> 00:29:22.940 of them 00:29:22.940 --> 00:29:24.200 interfere or 00:29:24.200 --> 00:29:24.740 take the 00:29:24.740 --> 00:29:25.559 place of 00:29:25.559 --> 00:29:26.299 the desire 00:29:26.299 --> 00:29:26.980 within your 00:29:26.980 --> 00:29:27.599 parents' 00:29:27.799 --> 00:29:28.500 heart for 00:29:28.500 --> 00:29:29.379 your child 00:29:29.379 --> 00:29:30.079 to know 00:29:30.079 --> 00:29:30.879 Christ. 00:29:32.639 --> 00:29:33.359 Fathers, 00:29:34.039 --> 00:29:34.960 make it 00:29:34.960 --> 00:29:35.899 your priority 00:29:35.899 --> 00:29:37.659 to read 00:29:37.659 --> 00:29:38.559 the Bible 00:29:38.559 --> 00:29:39.179 and to 00:29:39.179 --> 00:29:39.819 pray with 00:29:39.819 --> 00:29:40.019 them. 00:29:40.700 --> 00:29:41.500 Forget about 00:29:41.500 --> 00:29:41.940 the little 00:29:41.940 --> 00:29:42.720 job that 00:29:42.720 --> 00:29:43.279 needs to 00:29:43.279 --> 00:29:43.879 be fixed. 00:29:44.259 --> 00:29:44.919 Forget about 00:29:44.919 --> 00:29:45.460 having to 00:29:45.460 --> 00:29:46.179 spend extra 00:29:46.179 --> 00:29:47.259 time at 00:29:47.259 --> 00:29:47.879 the office. 00:29:48.259 --> 00:29:48.819 Forget about 00:29:48.819 --> 00:29:49.379 the stuff 00:29:49.379 --> 00:29:49.720 that you 00:29:49.720 --> 00:29:50.079 need to 00:29:50.079 --> 00:29:51.079 do outside 00:29:51.079 --> 00:29:51.940 or going 00:29:51.940 --> 00:29:52.319 to the 00:29:52.319 --> 00:29:53.079 gym or 00:29:53.079 --> 00:29:53.740 playing that 00:29:53.740 --> 00:29:54.099 game. 00:29:54.399 --> 00:29:54.779 You'll 00:29:54.779 --> 00:29:55.279 have all 00:29:55.279 --> 00:29:55.779 the time 00:29:55.779 --> 00:29:56.059 in the 00:29:56.059 --> 00:29:56.599 world when 00:29:56.599 --> 00:29:57.119 your children 00:29:57.119 --> 00:29:57.740 are gone 00:29:57.740 --> 00:29:58.180 and left 00:29:58.180 --> 00:29:58.579 home. 00:29:59.139 --> 00:30:00.059 Make it 00:30:00.059 --> 00:30:01.799 your priority. 00:30:03.319 --> 00:30:04.099 Change your 00:30:04.099 --> 00:30:04.680 habits. 00:30:06.059 --> 00:30:06.680 Do things 00:30:06.680 --> 00:30:07.339 now to 00:30:07.339 --> 00:30:07.700 get in 00:30:07.700 --> 00:30:09.259 place so 00:30:09.259 --> 00:30:09.639 that we 00:30:09.639 --> 00:30:10.519 have time 00:30:10.519 --> 00:30:11.839 to bring 00:30:11.839 --> 00:30:12.319 them up 00:30:12.319 --> 00:30:12.839 in the 00:30:12.839 --> 00:30:14.079 training and 00:30:14.079 --> 00:30:14.700 instruction 00:30:14.700 --> 00:30:15.160 of the 00:30:15.160 --> 00:30:15.440 Lord. 00:30:16.740 --> 00:30:17.299 Use the 00:30:17.299 --> 00:30:17.940 website, 00:30:18.460 --> 00:30:18.720 go 00:30:18.720 --> 00:30:19.279 therefore. 00:30:20.720 --> 00:30:21.299 It'll 00:30:21.299 --> 00:30:21.879 help you. 00:30:21.880 --> 00:30:22.880 help you 00:30:22.880 --> 00:30:23.880 to 00:30:23.880 --> 00:30:24.320 help you 00:30:24.320 --> 00:30:24.880 to 00:30:24.880 --> 00:30:26.160 help you 00:30:26.160 --> 00:30:26.220 with your 00:30:26.220 --> 00:30:26.640 children. 00:30:27.700 --> 00:30:28.200 Let me 00:30:28.200 --> 00:30:29.000 encourage all 00:30:29.000 --> 00:30:29.660 the parents 00:30:29.660 --> 00:30:30.380 and potential 00:30:30.380 --> 00:30:31.420 parents because 00:30:31.420 --> 00:30:32.220 we all know 00:30:32.220 --> 00:30:32.580 that we 00:30:32.580 --> 00:30:33.420 live and 00:30:33.420 --> 00:30:34.540 parent very 00:30:34.540 --> 00:30:35.660 often out 00:30:35.660 --> 00:30:36.140 of guilt. 00:30:37.520 --> 00:30:38.160 So let me 00:30:38.160 --> 00:30:38.860 encourage us 00:30:38.860 --> 00:30:39.440 all, whatever 00:30:39.440 --> 00:30:40.520 age your 00:30:40.520 --> 00:30:41.300 children may 00:30:41.300 --> 00:30:42.100 be, whether 00:30:42.100 --> 00:30:42.520 they're at 00:30:42.520 --> 00:30:42.980 home with 00:30:42.980 --> 00:30:43.660 you now or 00:30:43.660 --> 00:30:44.200 whether they've 00:30:44.200 --> 00:30:44.840 left home, 00:30:45.200 --> 00:30:45.660 and this is 00:30:45.660 --> 00:30:46.440 the encouragement, 00:30:46.940 --> 00:30:48.780 salvation is 00:30:48.780 --> 00:30:49.800 a gift from 00:30:49.800 --> 00:30:50.240 God. 00:30:50.240 --> 00:30:57.180 God is 00:30:57.180 --> 00:30:57.660 never 00:30:57.660 --> 00:30:59.240 forced by 00:30:59.240 --> 00:31:00.380 your success 00:31:00.380 --> 00:31:01.200 as a 00:31:01.200 --> 00:31:02.819 parent, and 00:31:02.819 --> 00:31:03.620 God is not 00:31:03.620 --> 00:31:04.339 bound by 00:31:04.339 --> 00:31:05.160 your failure 00:31:05.160 --> 00:31:05.940 as a 00:31:05.940 --> 00:31:06.400 parent. 00:31:07.660 --> 00:31:08.339 He is so 00:31:08.339 --> 00:31:09.900 good, he 00:31:09.900 --> 00:31:10.900 is so kind, 00:31:11.579 --> 00:31:12.180 he is so 00:31:12.180 --> 00:31:14.079 gracious, and 00:31:14.079 --> 00:31:14.579 so as 00:31:14.579 --> 00:31:15.460 parents we 00:31:15.460 --> 00:31:16.740 pray our 00:31:16.740 --> 00:31:18.400 children into 00:31:18.400 --> 00:31:19.740 his care. 00:31:20.240 --> 00:31:21.000 every day. 00:31:23.339 --> 00:31:25.339 Parents and 00:31:25.339 --> 00:31:28.019 fathers bring 00:31:28.019 --> 00:31:28.440 up our 00:31:28.440 --> 00:31:29.059 children in 00:31:29.059 --> 00:31:29.599 the training 00:31:29.599 --> 00:31:30.380 and instruction 00:31:30.380 --> 00:31:31.839 of the 00:31:31.839 --> 00:31:32.180 Lord. 00:31:34.559 --> 00:31:35.440 The role of 00:31:35.440 --> 00:31:35.900 children. 00:31:37.339 --> 00:31:38.200 Verses one and 00:31:38.200 --> 00:31:39.000 two, children, 00:31:39.779 --> 00:31:40.660 all of us, 00:31:41.660 --> 00:31:42.400 we're all 00:31:42.400 --> 00:31:44.279 children, and 00:31:44.279 --> 00:31:44.740 those who are 00:31:44.740 --> 00:31:45.440 younger here, 00:31:45.620 --> 00:31:47.180 obey your 00:31:47.180 --> 00:31:48.000 parents in the 00:31:48.000 --> 00:31:48.680 Lord for this 00:31:48.680 --> 00:31:49.279 is right. 00:31:49.880 --> 00:31:50.500 Honor your 00:31:50.500 --> 00:31:51.840 father and 00:31:51.840 --> 00:31:52.180 mother, 00:31:52.620 --> 00:31:53.299 obeying. 00:31:54.140 --> 00:31:54.740 It's always 00:31:54.740 --> 00:31:55.360 hard for 00:31:55.360 --> 00:31:56.039 children, no 00:31:56.039 --> 00:31:56.500 matter what 00:31:56.500 --> 00:31:57.320 age we are. 00:31:58.060 --> 00:31:58.640 It's always 00:31:58.640 --> 00:31:59.500 difficult to 00:31:59.500 --> 00:32:00.600 obey your 00:32:00.600 --> 00:32:01.259 parents. 00:32:02.700 --> 00:32:03.120 And it's 00:32:03.120 --> 00:32:03.720 only when we 00:32:03.720 --> 00:32:04.200 look at the 00:32:04.200 --> 00:32:05.299 obedience of 00:32:05.299 --> 00:32:06.060 Jesus to 00:32:06.060 --> 00:32:07.000 his father that 00:32:07.000 --> 00:32:07.700 we can learn 00:32:07.700 --> 00:32:08.460 what it is to 00:32:08.460 --> 00:32:08.860 obey. 00:32:09.220 --> 00:32:09.660 When the 00:32:09.660 --> 00:32:10.519 father asked 00:32:10.519 --> 00:32:11.460 his son to 00:32:11.460 --> 00:32:12.019 go to the 00:32:12.019 --> 00:32:13.740 cross, Jesus 00:32:13.740 --> 00:32:15.000 obeyed his 00:32:15.000 --> 00:32:15.460 father. 00:32:15.820 --> 00:32:16.539 He submitted 00:32:16.539 --> 00:32:17.379 to the will 00:32:17.379 --> 00:32:17.960 of his 00:32:17.960 --> 00:32:18.299 father. 00:32:18.619 --> 00:32:19.099 He did 00:32:19.099 --> 00:32:19.440 what he 00:32:19.440 --> 00:32:19.980 asked him 00:32:19.980 --> 00:32:20.960 to do, and 00:32:20.960 --> 00:32:21.440 here's the 00:32:21.440 --> 00:32:22.240 reason why he 00:32:22.240 --> 00:32:22.859 went to the 00:32:22.859 --> 00:32:23.819 cross to 00:32:23.819 --> 00:32:24.279 take the 00:32:24.279 --> 00:32:25.220 blame for 00:32:25.220 --> 00:32:25.879 all of our 00:32:25.879 --> 00:32:27.059 disobedience. 00:32:28.500 --> 00:32:29.639 He came to 00:32:29.639 --> 00:32:30.720 forgive us of 00:32:30.720 --> 00:32:31.480 all the times 00:32:31.480 --> 00:32:32.000 that we get 00:32:32.000 --> 00:32:33.099 angry and 00:32:33.099 --> 00:32:34.139 annoyed and 00:32:34.139 --> 00:32:35.180 cross and 00:32:35.180 --> 00:32:36.559 frustrated at 00:32:36.559 --> 00:32:37.339 our parents. 00:32:38.740 --> 00:32:39.920 Jesus obeyed 00:32:39.920 --> 00:32:41.440 in our 00:32:41.440 --> 00:32:42.059 place. 00:32:42.059 --> 00:32:42.159 forgiveness. 00:32:43.480 --> 00:32:44.220 And the 00:32:44.220 --> 00:32:44.960 way to show 00:32:44.960 --> 00:32:45.839 our thanks for 00:32:45.839 --> 00:32:46.759 all that Jesus 00:32:46.759 --> 00:32:47.659 has done for 00:32:47.659 --> 00:32:49.240 us is to 00:32:49.240 --> 00:32:49.740 obey. 00:32:50.819 --> 00:32:51.839 We obey our 00:32:51.839 --> 00:32:52.659 mum and dad 00:32:52.659 --> 00:32:53.980 not to earn 00:32:53.980 --> 00:32:54.859 God's love or 00:32:54.859 --> 00:32:55.799 to earn their 00:32:55.799 --> 00:32:56.759 favour, but 00:32:56.759 --> 00:32:57.619 because we have 00:32:57.619 --> 00:32:59.200 received God's 00:32:59.200 --> 00:33:00.099 love and 00:33:00.099 --> 00:33:00.559 forgiveness. 00:33:00.859 --> 00:33:01.879 We honour our 00:33:01.879 --> 00:33:02.720 parents in 00:33:02.720 --> 00:33:04.019 response to 00:33:04.019 --> 00:33:05.179 say thank you 00:33:05.179 --> 00:33:05.980 to our 00:33:05.980 --> 00:33:06.579 father in 00:33:06.579 --> 00:33:07.399 heaven for 00:33:07.399 --> 00:33:07.960 what he has 00:33:07.960 --> 00:33:08.899 done for us. 00:33:09.819 --> 00:33:10.659 So children, 00:33:10.660 --> 00:33:12.380 if we want 00:33:12.380 --> 00:33:13.160 a model for 00:33:13.160 --> 00:33:14.120 how to obey 00:33:14.120 --> 00:33:14.880 and honour 00:33:14.880 --> 00:33:15.759 your parents, 00:33:16.560 --> 00:33:17.220 look to the 00:33:17.220 --> 00:33:19.120 cross and 00:33:19.120 --> 00:33:20.120 see how Jesus 00:33:20.120 --> 00:33:21.180 obeyed his 00:33:21.180 --> 00:33:21.820 father for 00:33:21.820 --> 00:33:22.180 you. 00:33:23.940 --> 00:33:24.940 This is all 00:33:24.940 --> 00:33:25.600 God's good 00:33:25.600 --> 00:33:27.019 design for 00:33:27.019 --> 00:33:27.720 his family. 00:33:28.800 --> 00:33:29.400 It's something 00:33:29.400 --> 00:33:30.140 beautiful. 00:33:30.519 --> 00:33:31.200 It's something 00:33:31.200 --> 00:33:31.880 wonderful. 00:33:32.480 --> 00:33:33.320 He designed 00:33:33.320 --> 00:33:33.980 it from the 00:33:33.980 --> 00:33:34.560 beginning of 00:33:34.560 --> 00:33:35.140 time. 00:33:35.980 --> 00:33:36.560 And God's 00:33:36.560 --> 00:33:37.820 order for 00:33:37.820 --> 00:33:39.000 family brings 00:33:39.000 --> 00:33:39.640 life and 00:33:39.640 --> 00:33:40.019 blessing. 00:33:40.019 --> 00:33:40.480 Look at 00:33:40.480 --> 00:33:41.200 verse 3. 00:33:41.599 --> 00:33:41.900 That it 00:33:41.900 --> 00:33:42.339 may go 00:33:42.339 --> 00:33:43.180 well with 00:33:43.180 --> 00:33:44.299 you and 00:33:44.299 --> 00:33:44.619 that you 00:33:44.619 --> 00:33:45.359 may enjoy 00:33:45.359 --> 00:33:46.359 long life 00:33:46.359 --> 00:33:47.079 on the 00:33:47.079 --> 00:33:47.579 earth. 00:33:48.579 --> 00:33:49.119 So as 00:33:49.119 --> 00:33:49.960 parents and 00:33:49.960 --> 00:33:51.039 children, as 00:33:51.039 --> 00:33:51.779 together we 00:33:51.779 --> 00:33:52.339 live under 00:33:52.339 --> 00:33:53.339 God's design 00:33:53.339 --> 00:33:53.940 and order 00:33:53.940 --> 00:33:54.660 for family, 00:33:54.960 --> 00:33:55.539 so our 00:33:55.539 --> 00:33:56.359 lives begin 00:33:56.359 --> 00:33:57.339 to flourish 00:33:57.339 --> 00:33:58.200 as God 00:33:58.200 --> 00:33:58.839 intended. 00:33:59.240 --> 00:33:59.740 It's not 00:33:59.740 --> 00:34:00.240 saying that 00:34:00.240 --> 00:34:00.539 it's going 00:34:00.539 --> 00:34:00.920 to be a 00:34:00.920 --> 00:34:01.940 perfect life 00:34:01.940 --> 00:34:02.639 or that it's 00:34:02.639 --> 00:34:03.000 going to be 00:34:03.000 --> 00:34:04.079 without frustration 00:34:04.079 --> 00:34:04.700 or things 00:34:04.700 --> 00:34:05.579 won't happen. 00:34:06.039 --> 00:34:06.539 Yes, they 00:34:06.539 --> 00:34:07.160 will, but 00:34:07.160 --> 00:34:07.779 this is saying 00:34:07.779 --> 00:34:09.119 generally, under 00:34:09.119 --> 00:34:09.839 God's good 00:34:09.839 --> 00:34:10.400 order and 00:34:10.400 --> 00:34:11.059 God's good 00:34:11.059 --> 00:34:12.039 design until 00:34:12.039 --> 00:34:13.079 the day we 00:34:13.079 --> 00:34:13.880 reach heaven 00:34:13.880 --> 00:34:14.819 where it will 00:34:14.819 --> 00:34:15.559 be perfect. 00:34:15.799 --> 00:34:16.400 He's saying 00:34:16.400 --> 00:34:17.940 this is the 00:34:17.940 --> 00:34:18.739 best life 00:34:18.739 --> 00:34:19.699 for you 00:34:19.699 --> 00:34:21.319 as parents 00:34:21.319 --> 00:34:23.019 and this 00:34:23.019 --> 00:34:23.960 is the best 00:34:23.960 --> 00:34:24.920 life for you 00:34:24.920 --> 00:34:26.179 as children. 00:34:28.059 --> 00:34:28.699 Don't 00:34:28.699 --> 00:34:29.139 interfere 00:34:29.139 --> 00:34:30.639 with God's 00:34:30.639 --> 00:34:31.079 design. 00:34:31.960 --> 00:34:32.619 He knows 00:34:32.619 --> 00:34:33.519 what he is 00:34:33.519 --> 00:34:33.839 doing. 00:34:35.039 --> 00:34:35.940 Let's play. 00:34:35.940 --> 00:34:36.740 Let's pray. 00:34:48.740 --> 00:34:49.880 Father, we 00:34:49.880 --> 00:34:50.860 are taken 00:34:50.860 --> 00:34:51.760 aback again 00:34:51.760 --> 00:34:52.460 at the 00:34:52.460 --> 00:34:53.320 amazing, 00:34:53.860 --> 00:34:54.480 beautiful, 00:34:54.860 --> 00:34:55.500 and wonderful 00:34:55.500 --> 00:34:57.300 design of 00:34:57.300 --> 00:35:00.039 family and 00:35:00.039 --> 00:35:00.720 the way you 00:35:00.720 --> 00:35:01.519 have created 00:35:01.519 --> 00:35:02.920 life to be 00:35:02.920 --> 00:35:04.360 under your 00:35:04.360 --> 00:35:05.039 good order. 00:35:07.840 --> 00:35:08.680 And we 00:35:08.680 --> 00:35:09.320 confess, 00:35:10.119 --> 00:35:11.440 we repent 00:35:11.440 --> 00:35:14.019 that we 00:35:14.019 --> 00:35:14.480 have so 00:35:14.480 --> 00:35:15.059 often made 00:35:15.059 --> 00:35:15.639 a mess 00:35:15.639 --> 00:35:16.360 of your 00:35:16.360 --> 00:35:17.159 good design. 00:35:18.539 --> 00:35:19.519 We have so 00:35:19.519 --> 00:35:20.079 often not 00:35:20.079 --> 00:35:21.039 been the 00:35:21.039 --> 00:35:21.800 father or 00:35:21.800 --> 00:35:23.119 mother or 00:35:23.119 --> 00:35:24.000 child that 00:35:24.000 --> 00:35:24.400 we should 00:35:24.400 --> 00:35:26.420 be, and 00:35:26.420 --> 00:35:27.099 life hasn't 00:35:27.099 --> 00:35:28.619 gone the 00:35:28.619 --> 00:35:28.980 way it 00:35:28.980 --> 00:35:29.460 should go. 00:35:29.460 --> 00:35:32.019 And so 00:35:32.019 --> 00:35:32.639 we look to 00:35:32.639 --> 00:35:33.260 you, our 00:35:33.260 --> 00:35:33.760 ultimate 00:35:33.760 --> 00:35:36.320 father, asking 00:35:36.320 --> 00:35:37.139 for forgiveness 00:35:37.139 --> 00:35:39.059 afresh on 00:35:39.059 --> 00:35:39.800 our lives, 00:35:41.480 --> 00:35:42.360 asking again 00:35:42.360 --> 00:35:42.900 that you 00:35:42.900 --> 00:35:43.460 would mould 00:35:43.460 --> 00:35:43.920 us and 00:35:43.920 --> 00:35:44.659 shape us, 00:35:45.679 --> 00:35:46.079 that we 00:35:46.079 --> 00:35:46.659 would live a 00:35:46.659 --> 00:35:47.360 Christ-like 00:35:47.360 --> 00:35:49.340 life, obeying 00:35:49.340 --> 00:35:50.199 our father in 00:35:50.199 --> 00:35:52.199 heaven and 00:35:52.199 --> 00:35:53.220 fulfilling the 00:35:53.220 --> 00:35:53.900 role that he 00:35:53.900 --> 00:35:54.619 has called us 00:35:54.619 --> 00:35:56.619 to do in 00:35:56.619 --> 00:35:57.740 the power of 00:35:57.740 --> 00:35:58.240 your Holy 00:35:58.240 --> 00:35:58.760 Spirit. 00:35:59.460 --> 00:36:01.360 Father, would 00:36:01.360 --> 00:36:01.880 you please 00:36:01.880 --> 00:36:02.360 give to 00:36:02.360 --> 00:36:03.300 every parent 00:36:03.300 --> 00:36:04.380 here this 00:36:04.380 --> 00:36:06.000 morning your 00:36:06.000 --> 00:36:06.500 grace. 00:36:08.099 --> 00:36:08.740 Fill them 00:36:08.740 --> 00:36:09.659 with your 00:36:09.659 --> 00:36:10.240 Spirit. 00:36:11.619 --> 00:36:12.800 Enable them 00:36:12.800 --> 00:36:13.699 to care for 00:36:13.699 --> 00:36:14.320 their children 00:36:14.320 --> 00:36:15.639 well, to 00:36:15.639 --> 00:36:16.360 provide for 00:36:16.360 --> 00:36:16.860 their every 00:36:16.860 --> 00:36:17.840 need physically, 00:36:18.619 --> 00:36:19.280 emotionally. 00:36:20.760 --> 00:36:21.400 And for 00:36:21.400 --> 00:36:22.380 every father 00:36:22.380 --> 00:36:22.840 who is 00:36:22.840 --> 00:36:23.460 represented 00:36:23.460 --> 00:36:25.099 here, may 00:36:25.099 --> 00:36:25.679 you fill 00:36:25.679 --> 00:36:26.119 them with 00:36:26.119 --> 00:36:26.920 that wonderful 00:36:26.920 --> 00:36:27.639 role and 00:36:27.639 --> 00:36:28.860 responsibility to 00:36:28.860 --> 00:36:29.500 teach and 00:36:29.500 --> 00:36:30.099 instruct. 00:36:31.180 --> 00:36:31.460 And may 00:36:31.460 --> 00:36:32.039 they live 00:36:32.039 --> 00:36:32.680 such an 00:36:32.680 --> 00:36:34.539 example that 00:36:34.539 --> 00:36:35.300 their child 00:36:35.300 --> 00:36:36.920 grows to be 00:36:36.920 --> 00:36:37.460 like them. 00:36:39.460 --> 00:36:40.200 And we 00:36:40.200 --> 00:36:40.680 pray for 00:36:40.680 --> 00:36:41.440 every child 00:36:41.440 --> 00:36:42.120 represented 00:36:42.120 --> 00:36:44.220 here, that 00:36:44.220 --> 00:36:44.539 you would 00:36:44.539 --> 00:36:45.220 care for 00:36:45.220 --> 00:36:48.120 them and 00:36:48.120 --> 00:36:48.460 that you 00:36:48.460 --> 00:36:48.900 would help 00:36:48.900 --> 00:36:49.640 them to see 00:36:49.640 --> 00:36:51.519 through the 00:36:51.519 --> 00:36:52.500 mistakes the 00:36:52.500 --> 00:36:53.599 parents make 00:36:53.599 --> 00:36:55.319 and look to 00:36:55.319 --> 00:36:55.699 the Lord 00:36:55.699 --> 00:36:56.099 Jesus. 00:36:58.699 --> 00:36:59.739 We pray that 00:36:59.739 --> 00:37:00.079 they will 00:37:00.079 --> 00:37:01.279 grow to be 00:37:01.279 --> 00:37:03.599 obedient and 00:37:03.599 --> 00:37:04.179 that they in 00:37:04.179 --> 00:37:05.559 turn will 00:37:05.559 --> 00:37:06.400 become parents 00:37:06.400 --> 00:37:08.500 themselves and 00:37:08.500 --> 00:37:09.039 raise their 00:37:09.039 --> 00:37:09.779 children well. 00:37:09.780 --> 00:37:12.080 father, protect 00:37:12.080 --> 00:37:13.640 every marriage, 00:37:14.220 --> 00:37:15.519 protect every 00:37:15.519 --> 00:37:17.380 home and 00:37:17.380 --> 00:37:18.040 use it for 00:37:18.040 --> 00:37:18.920 your glory to 00:37:18.920 --> 00:37:19.700 be a witness 00:37:19.700 --> 00:37:21.340 and an 00:37:21.340 --> 00:37:23.260 example of 00:37:23.260 --> 00:37:24.040 your amazing 00:37:24.040 --> 00:37:24.480 gospel. 00:37:25.420 --> 00:37:26.380 We pray this 00:37:26.380 --> 00:37:26.880 in Jesus' 00:37:27.140 --> 00:37:27.340 name. 00:37:28.300 --> 00:37:28.600 Amen. 00:37:28.600 --> 00:37:28.740 Amen. 00:37:28.740 --> 00:37:28.760 Amen. 00:37:28.760 --> 00:37:28.780 Amen. 00:37:28.780 --> 00:37:28.800 Amen. 00:37:28.800 --> 00:37:28.820 Amen. 00:37:28.820 --> 00:37:28.840 Amen. 00:37:28.840 --> 00:37:28.860 Amen. 00:37:28.860 --> 00:37:30.840 Amen. 00:37:30.840 --> 00:37:32.740 Amen. 00:37:32.740 --> 00:37:32.840 Amen. 00:37:32.840 --> 00:37:32.860 Amen. 00:37:32.860 --> 00:37:32.880 Amen. 00:37:32.880 --> 00:37:32.920 Amen. 00:37:32.920 --> 00:37:32.960 Amen. 00:37:32.960 --> 00:37:33.920 Amen. 00:37:33.920 --> 00:37:34.920 Amen. 00:37:34.920 --> 00:37:34.960 Amen. 00:37:34.960 --> 00:37:35.920 Amen. 00:37:35.920 --> 00:37:35.960 Amen. 00:37:35.960 --> 00:37:36.920 Amen. 00:37:36.920 --> 00:37:37.960 Amen. 00:37:37.960 --> 00:37:38.000 Amen. 00:37:38.000 --> 00:37:39.760 Amen.