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 This morning, I'm going to talk about fiction family and factual family.

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 Okay?

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 Fiction family and factual family.

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 A lot of little alliteration there.

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 So, you've heard me say before that probably one of the more disillusioning things

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 is to have the language of family without the experience of family, right?

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 Okay, so we have the language of family.

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 We talk about family as we should.

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 Okay?

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 Talk about the church being a family as we should.

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 We're getting that from the Bible, right?

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 The danger with people talking a lot about family would be that there's areas where we're not living like family,

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 or we're not experiencing family as much as we're talking about it.

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 And that's not to say, when I say that, we don't have to think in like extremes,

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 whether it's just all family or not family.

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 We can have certain experiences of family, and then others where it's just like,

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 well, this could be a little better.

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 We could experience this more.

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 We could, you know, do this better.

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 Okay?

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 And in talking with different people, I've heard a little bit of that.

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 You know?

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 It's like, yeah, this is good, but we could do this better.

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 I want to get to know each other better, get more deep.

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 It was even prayed.

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 Someone even prayed it.

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 I think Zemir might have prayed it this morning in our prayer time,

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 just praying that we would be a family together and experience more of what that looks like.

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 And the fact that there's areas where we can improve on that and grow in that,

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 that's nothing to be ashamed about.

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 That's nothing to feel condemned about in any way, shape, or form.

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 That's just part of being a church together.

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 We've got to grow in that.

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 We've got to be intentional in that.

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 And it doesn't happen without being intentional.

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 It's not like you just sit around and, oh, yeah, family just happens.

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 No.

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 We have to be intentional to really relate to each other in the right way

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 and to be obedient to Jesus, really.

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 And when we're obedient to Jesus and all the little things,

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 the bigger thing of family starts coming together.

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 So we want to get this right.

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 It's important that we get this right

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 because part of the good news of the gospel

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 is that God is a father who sent his son

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 so that we could be adopted into his family.

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 Okay?

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 And there's implications of that.

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 So the question would be really,

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 how do we make sure that our experience of family is real family,

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 not just kind of a family in name only kind of thing?

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 And it's important to start with the fact that sonship produces brotherhood.

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 The gospel creates family.

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 Okay?

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 Because Jesus adopted us into his family,

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 that now makes us family with each other.

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 Right?

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 Also makes us family with God, of course.

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 But it's not just that we're now family with God.

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 It's not just that he just adopted us into his family.

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 All his kids adopted into his family are brothers and sisters.

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 Right?

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 John chapter 1, 12 to 13,

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 To all who did receive him, who believed in his name,

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 he gave the right to become children of God,

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 who were born not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh,

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 nor of the will of man, but of God.

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 Okay?

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 There's some people in here who are blood brothers or sisters,

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 like that they lived in the same flesh family.

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 Okay?

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 But all of us who are in Christ

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 are automatically brothers and sisters.

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 All right?

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 And so when God reconciled us to him

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 and adopted us into his family,

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 that automatically, when you came to Christ,

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 that made you a brother or a sister

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 with all the other brothers and sisters.

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 And specifically, more specifically,

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 more practically in the local church

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 that you're a part of.

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 So it's really important for us,

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 for us to experience family,

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 to think of ourselves in that way.

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 1 Timothy 5, 1 to 2 says,

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 Don't rebuke an older man,

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 but encourage him as you would a father.

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 Younger men as brothers,

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 older women as mothers,

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 younger women as sisters.

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 Excuse me.

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 And all purity.

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 Okay?

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 So there's this,

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 when you're rebuking someone

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 or encouraging them,

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 you should treat them like family.

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 And one thing I was looking at

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 that I was honestly a little surprised about

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 looking in the Bible

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 is that from the book of Acts

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 to the book of Revelation,

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 so taking out the Gospels

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 because the Gospels talk a lot about natural family,

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 but through Acts,

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 Acts to the book of Revelation,

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 the word brother is used 256 times.

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 I didn't realize that it was actually used that much.

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 It's like you almost kind of take it for granted

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 when you're reading through the epistles

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 and you're reading through the book of Acts,

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 but it's constantly being used.

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 Paul's constantly calling someone a brother.

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 He's calling someone a sister.

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 Starts in the beginning of the letter.

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 He's like,

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 hey,

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 this letter's from so-and-so

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 and so-and-so,

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 our brothers.

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 At the end,

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 he's like,

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 hey,

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 say hi to so-and-so,

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 our sister.

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 And you just see this language.

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 I didn't realize it was so littered,

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 but once I started reading all the verses,

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 I was just thinking,

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 my goodness,

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 this is really pervasive.

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 And there's something to be gleaned from that.

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 Not only that,

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 but also even just thinking of the concept

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 of Jesus himself being our brother.

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 If Jesus himself is our brother,

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 which says in Romans 8, 29,

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 those whom he foreknew,

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 he also predestined to be conformed

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 to the image of his son

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 in order that he might be the firstborn

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 among many brothers.

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 Okay?

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 If Jesus calls his brothers,

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 you know,

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 in Mark chapter 3,

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 Jesus,

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 they said,

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 hey,

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 your mom and your brothers are here.

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 And he said,

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 who are my mother and my brothers?

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 He said,

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 he who does the will of God,

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 he is my brother and sister and mother.

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 So,

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 you see this language here.

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 He's the firstborn among brothers.

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 He calls those who obey him,

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 his brother and sister and mother.

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 Hebrews 2 says,

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 he's not ashamed to call us his brothers.

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 All right?

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 And Hebrews 2, 17 says,

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 he has to be made like his brothers

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 in every respect

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 so that he might become a merciful

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 and faithful high priest

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 in the service of God

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 to make propitiation

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 for the sins of the people.

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 Isn't it interesting

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 that God,

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 you know,

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 he doesn't have to earn

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 any kind of stature

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 or trust with us.

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 He's God.

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 Right?

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 He could have just came in

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 quote unquote,

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 you know,

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 kind of like guns a blazing,

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 so to speak.

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 Like,

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 I'm God,

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 you're not.

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 Like,

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 you do what I say

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 and I don't really care

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 what you think.

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 I'm God.

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 But Jesus

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 comes to earth

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 and he's made

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 like his brothers

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 in every respect.

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 Isn't that

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 just an incredible thought

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 to think?

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 Why did he do that?

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 Why would,

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 why was he made

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 like his brothers

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 and then called us

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 his brothers

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 so that he might

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 become a merciful

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 and faithful high priest

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 in the service of God

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 to make propitiation

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 for the sins of the people?

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 I mean,

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 it basically says

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 he came into our world.

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 He took on flesh.

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 The word became flesh

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 and dwelt among us,

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 right?

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 So he could be

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 a faithful high priest

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 so he could know

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 what we go through.

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 You know,

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 you can never say,

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 well,

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 Jesus,

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 you're just this distant God

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 who has no concept

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 of what we go through

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 because you're God

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 and then we're,

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 you know,

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 humans living this earthly

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 experience in a broken world.

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 You can never say that

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 because Jesus lived

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 in this broken world.

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 Jesus truly was our brother

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 and still is our brother

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 and that he took on,

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 took on flesh

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 and he was made

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 like his brothers

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 in every respect

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 so he might become

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 a merciful and faithful

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 high priest.

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 Now,

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 if God himself

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 became a brother

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 instead of just trumpeting,

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 hey,

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 I'm God

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 and I'm Father,

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 how much more should we

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 when we relate to one another

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 should we begin

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 the experience

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 of family

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 relating to one another

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 as brothers and sisters?

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 Okay?

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 So really for those two reasons

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 that I just laid out.

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 One,

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 because

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 that's where

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 we always start

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 with the gospel.

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 The gospel is the framework.

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 The gospel is the foundation.

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 That's what we build upon,

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 right?

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 We build upon Christ

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 and the gospel

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 reconciles us to each other

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 and makes us family members

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 with one another,

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 makes us brothers and sisters.

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 Okay?

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 And then second,

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 Jesus himself

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 related to us

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 like a brother

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 and came into our world

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 like a brother

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 and we should do

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 the same thing.

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 We should love one another

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 like brother and sister.

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 And so I think

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 oftentimes

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 if we want the quality

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 of family,

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 we have to start there

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 because that's what

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 the gospel does.

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 It gives us the right

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 to be called children of God

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 and if I'm a child of God

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 and you're a child of God,

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 that means

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 we're brothers

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 or we're sisters

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 or we're brothers and sisters

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 depending on

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 who we're talking about.

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 Okay?

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 Jesus,

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 or the Bible,

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 New Testament

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 has some more commands

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 about this.

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 Basically telling us

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 to love like brothers.

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 Romans chapter 12,

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 verse 10

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 says,

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 love one another,

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 how?

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 With brotherly affection.

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 And then it says,

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 outdo one another

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 in showing honor.

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 Okay?

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 Love one another

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 with brotherly affection.

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 So we should be affectionate

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 with one another.

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 How?

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 Like a brother would be.

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 Like a sister would be.

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 That brother-sister,

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 brother-brother,

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 sister-sister

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 kind of affection.

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 We love each other

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 in that way.

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 Do you love that way?

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 Do you think of that?

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 Say, okay,

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 when you relate

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 to the people in this room,

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 when you come on a gathering

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 like this morning,

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 you think, okay,

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 this person that I'm

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 now seeing face to face,

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 that's my brother.

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 That's my sister.

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 But what if they're,

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 you know,

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 what if they're way older?

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 What if they're way younger?

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 Yeah, there could be

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 some other different dynamics

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 that take place.

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 You know,

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 it says in 1 Timothy 5,

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 don't rebuke an older man

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 but encourage him

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 as you would a father.

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 But,

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 for starters,

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 we're all brothers and sisters.

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 Even your own

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 blood father

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 or mother,

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 if they're in Christ with you,

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 you're brothers,

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 you're sisters

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 in Christ

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 because you're both

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 children of God.

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 And so,

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 we should be thinking

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 if we start in that place,

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 number one,

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 that brings us

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 in unity with one another

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 because we're all

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 thinking the same thing.

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 We're all relating

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 the same way.

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 Hey,

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 I'm going to come in,

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 I'm going to hug someone.

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 Why?

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 Because the Bible says

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 love one another

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 with brotherly affection.

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 And I say,

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 well,

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 my brother never hugged me.

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 Well,

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 your brother needs some work.

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 Okay,

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 he shouldn't.

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 He shouldn't.

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 Okay,

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 so love one another

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 with brotherly affection

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 and outdo one another

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 in showing honor.

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 1 Peter 1,

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 22-23

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 says,

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 having purified your souls

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 by your obedience

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 to the truth

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 for a sincere

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 brotherly love,

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 love one another

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 earnestly

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 from a pure heart

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 since you have been

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 born again

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 not of perishable seed

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 but of imperishable

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 through the living

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 abiding word of God.

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 So,

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 you've been born again?

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 Have you been born

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 of imperishable seed

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 through the living

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 and abiding word of God?

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 If that's true,

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 then what do you do?

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 Then you should

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 love one another

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 with a sincere

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 brotherly love.

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 A sincere brotherly love.

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 Notice it says,

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 this one adds another word.

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 It doesn't just say

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 a brotherly love

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 or affection.

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 It says sincere.

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 Okay?

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 If we're just going

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 through the motions

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 and there's not sincerity,

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 we'll have the lingo,

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 we'll have the language

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 but not the experience

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 and that will,

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 that'll cause people's hearts

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 to take a nosedive.

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 All right?

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 It has to be sincere.

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 Well, where does that

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 sincere love come from?

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 Well, you don't have to try

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 to muster up in yourself

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 and I would actually

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 encourage you not

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 to try to muster up

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 in yourself

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 because newsflash,

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 you can't.

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 There's nothing in you

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 that can love.

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 You want to shipwreck

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 the love of this church,

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 try to do it on your own.

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 Try to do it in your flesh.

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 The good news

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 is that Jesus lives

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 inside of you

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 and Jesus loves

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 everybody perfectly.

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 Jesus is a good brother.

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 Okay?

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 Jesus loves

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 with the right affection.

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 He loves with

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 familial affection.

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 And when we die

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 to ourselves

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 and die to our own experiences

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 and die to our own preferences,

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 you might say,

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 well, I don't like

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 to be affectionate.

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 Well, Jesus does.

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 So Paul said,

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 I love you with what?

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 The affections of Christ.

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 Christ is affectionate.

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 You might say,

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 but I'm not.

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 Well, you've died.

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 It's no longer you who live.

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 It's Christ who lives in you.

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 We're just talking,

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 Seth was just talking

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 about this yesterday

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 at Workman's Trust.

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 Okay?

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 So if it's no longer

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 you who live,

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 then the one who lives

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 through you is sincere.

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 The one who lives

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 through you is

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 loves with brotherly affections.

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 And so you might say,

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 well, I'm not good

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 at that.

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 I got good news for you.

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 You don't have

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 to be good at it.

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 No one asked you

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 to be good at it.

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 The Bible just asked you

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 to get out of the way.

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 Die and let Jesus

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 possess you.

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 Let Jesus

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 move through you,

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 work through you.

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 So that when

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 we leave a service,

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 we don't say,

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 oh, so-and-so,

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 such a great person.

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 We say,

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 Jesus is so great

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 in his church.

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 To him be the glory.

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 He loves people well.

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 Okay?

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 The result of you

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 being born again

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 is sincere brotherly love.

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 Why?

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 Because you now have

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 another person

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 living inside of you

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 who loves with

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 sincere brotherly love.

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 That's why those two

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 are implicated together.

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 And,

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 because you're born again,

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 all the other people

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 who are born again

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 are now your brothers

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 and sisters.

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 Automatically.

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 1 Peter 2.17.

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 Peter goes on

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 and he says,

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 honor everyone.

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 And then he says,

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 love the brotherhood.

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 Love the brotherhood.

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 Okay?

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 So this is going,

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 this is,

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 you know,

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 again,

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 another kind of nuance

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 on this.

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 Love the brotherhood.

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 Love the fellowship

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 that you have together

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 as brothers.

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 Love the fellowship

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 and you could do

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 the same thing

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 with sisters.

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 Love the familial

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 fellowship you have.

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 Love this bond you have.

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 Love that.

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 So this is not saying

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 love each other.

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 This is saying

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 love the bond you have

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 with one another.

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 Love the fact that

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 you're brothers and sisters.

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 Love that.

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 Love this collection of people

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 and when you,

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 when you care about that,

00:14:43.080 --> 00:14:44.720
 when you love the brotherhood,

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 it's,

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 it's not just loving

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 those individual people

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 because you could do,

00:14:48.659 --> 00:14:49.840
 you could love a brother

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 without loving the brotherhood.

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 Do you understand

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 what I'm saying?

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 The brotherhood

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 is more than that

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 because that's you

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 loving the connection,

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 the bond together

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 and saying,

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 this is important.

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 I need to do that.

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 But I can't do that

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 if I'm not relating

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 to people as brothers

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 and sisters.

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 I can't do that.

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 And to the degree

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 that I'm not doing that,

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 I'm hindering

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 church as family

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 and I'm creating

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 kind of a fictional family

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 instead of a factual family.

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 Family,

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 in fact,

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 that is when

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 we love the brotherhood.

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 We love that bond

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 and we say,

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 I'm going to do what I can

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 to love as brothers

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 and sisters.

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 And I'm not just going to

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 only do guys with guys

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 and girls with girls

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 because that gets weird.

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 I want to love,

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 guys are going to love

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 sisters well.

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 Sisters are going to love

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 brothers well.

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 That's important.

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 Sometimes that's not as easy.

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 Sometimes it's easier.

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 It really doesn't matter

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 what's easier

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 or what's harder.

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 It just matters

00:15:48.779 --> 00:15:49.659
 that God

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 has reconciled to him,

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 given us the right

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 to be called children of God,

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 which makes us family,

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 which makes us brothers

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 and sisters.

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 And that has to be

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 the basis by which we build.

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 That has to be the basis

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 by which we relate

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 to one another.

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 He goes on,

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 this third verse in Peter,

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 1 Peter 3,

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 okay,

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 we have 1 Peter 1,

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 1 Peter 2,

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 now in 1 Peter 3,

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 verse 8,

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 he wraps up,

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 he says,

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 finally all of you

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 have unity of mind,

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 sympathy,

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 brotherly love,

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 a tender heart,

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 and a humble mind.

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 Okay?

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 So he's,

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 Peter's really hammering

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 this one.

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 Three chapters in a row,

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 he's like,

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 hey,

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 you guys getting this?

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 I'm going to keep saying it.

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 Like,

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 why does he keep repeating it?

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 Well,

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 Peter obviously believed

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 that this was important,

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 right?

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 And even more so,

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 God thought it was important

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 because he's writing scripture.

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 Okay?

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 So he starts with

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 a sincere brotherly love,

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 he says,

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 love the brotherhood,

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 and then he culminates there

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 in 1 Peter 3,

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 verse 8,

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 with having a unity of mind,

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 sympathy,

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 and brotherly love.

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 Are you united,

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 are we united,

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 in mind,

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 to be brothers and sisters

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 to one another?

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 Starting there.

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 Like,

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 let's time out

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 on the father-mother thing

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 and all that kind of,

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 and the different authority

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 or hierarchy

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 and all this stuff.

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 Like,

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 let's just,

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 we're going to talk about

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 some of that stuff.

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 But again,

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 don't get distracted.

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 You have to start here.

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 Brothers and sisters,

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 brothers and sisters.

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 Am I a good brother?

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 Are you a good sister?

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 Are you a good brother?

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 Do you know how to love that way?

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 Do you know what the Bible

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 says about that?

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 Are we seeking

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 to be that to one another

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 and to be that way sincerely,

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 to be that way consistently?

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 And we can worry about

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 all the other dynamics.

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 Okay?

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 Even,

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 you know,

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 even in marriage,

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 you can worry about these things.

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 But again,

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 at the basis,

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 are we relating,

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 even in our marriages,

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 according to the gospel?

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 Like,

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 this is,

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 like,

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 the Bible even says,

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 relating to your wife

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 as heirs of the gift of life.

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 Why is she an heir?

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 Because she's your sister.

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 She's part of the same family,

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 the same inheritance.

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 And so,

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 we need to relate to one another

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 as brother and sister.

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 Peter writes about this,

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 again in his second letter,

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 2 Peter chapter 1.

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 Probably familiar with this portion

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 of scripture.

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 Verse 3 says,

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 His divine power

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 is granted to us

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 all things that pertain

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 to life and godliness.

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 Through the knowledge of him

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 who called us

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 to his own glory and excellence,

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 by which he has granted to us

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 his precious

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 and very great promises.

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 So that through them

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 you may become partakers

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 of the divine nature,

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 having escaped from the corruption

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 that is in the world

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 because of sinful desire.

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 for this very reason.

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 Make every effort

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 to supplement your faith

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 with virtue

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 and virtue with knowledge

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 and knowledge with self-control

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 and self-control

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 with steadfastness

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 and steadfastness

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 with godliness

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 and godliness

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 with brotherly affection

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 and brotherly affection

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 with love.

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 Okay, so he's saying

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 you need to make every effort

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 to supplement this.

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 You need to make sure

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 this is a part of your daily life,

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 your interactions

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 with the other people,

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 that you are adding

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 brotherly affection

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 kind of into your repertoire,

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 into your tool set.

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 And then in verse 8,

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 he says,

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 if these qualities

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 are yours

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 and are increasing,

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 they keep you

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 from being ineffective

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 or unfruitful

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 in the knowledge

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 of our Lord Jesus Christ.

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 Have you ever thought

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 that actually

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 not having brotherly affection

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 for one another

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 would keep you

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 from being effective

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 and it would actually

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 put you in a place

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 of unfruitfulness

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 in your knowledge

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 of the Lord Jesus Christ?

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 This is true.

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 Why?

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 Because whoever lacks

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 these qualities

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 is so nearsighted

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 that he is blind,

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 having forgotten

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 that he was cleansed

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 from his former sins.

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 Therefore, brothers,

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 be all the more diligently

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 to confirm

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 your calling and election.

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 For if you practice

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 these qualities,

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 you will never fall.

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 For in this way

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 there will be

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 richly provided for you

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 an entrance

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 into the eternal kingdom

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 of our Lord and Savior,

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 Jesus Christ.

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 Okay?

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 So, he's saying

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 if you lack

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 these qualities

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 including brotherly affection,

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 it's a nearsightedness,

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 it's a blindness

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 that comes from forgetting

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 that you've been cleansed

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 from your former sins.

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 Do you ever say,

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 I'm having a hard time

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 relating to

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 my brothers and sisters

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 as brothers and sisters.

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 I'm having a hard time

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 having brotherly affection

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 for them.

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 Why is that?

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 Well, it's because

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 you've forgotten.

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 You've forgotten

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 that you've been cleansed

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 from your past sins.

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 You've forgotten

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 that you were

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 cleansed from your sins

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 and they were

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 cleansed from your sins

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 by the Father

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 which makes you family

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 and makes you

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 brothers and sisters.

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 And when you forget that,

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 it becomes harder

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 to relate with them

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 because then you're

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 stuck

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 only relating to them

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 on similar interests

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 and similar background

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 and similar personality.

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 And then we have

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 these weird,

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 awkward conversations

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 about stuff

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 we really don't

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 even care about.

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 And the great thing

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 about being in Christ

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 together

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 and remembering

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 that Jesus

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 reconciled us

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 to the Father

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 and made us family

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 with one another

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 is there's a couple things.

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 One,

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 we now have a common

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 interest in Christ

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 and we can relate

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 with what the Bible

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 calls it

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 the fellowship

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 of the Spirit.

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 We have fellowship

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 in the Spirit

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 which is deeper

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 than any kind

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 of fellowship

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 we could have

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 over anything.

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 You know,

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 over liking the Chiefs

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 or, you know,

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 over, you know,

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 having same hobbies

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 or whatever it may be.

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 Being the same gender,

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 being whatever it may be.

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 Same age.

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 There's a greater bond

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 that happens

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 when we relate

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 to each other

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 and in fellowship

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 with one another

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 by the Spirit.

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 But here's the other thing

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 and this is one

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 that I don't think

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 we think about as much.

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 It's not just

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 that we have that

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 although if we only

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 had that,

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 that'd be pretty good.

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 That'd be pretty awesome.

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 It's also

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 that when you

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 realize that you've been

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 cleansed from your past sins

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 and you've been made family

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 with one another,

00:22:14.700 --> 00:22:16.440
 you begin to enjoy

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 even the things

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 in other people

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 that you normally

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 wouldn't enjoy.

00:22:19.539 --> 00:22:19.700
 Why?

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 Because you know

00:22:20.759 --> 00:22:21.519
 that they're your brother

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 or your sister.

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 Like, for those of you

00:22:24.680 --> 00:22:25.140
 who grew up

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 with a brother or sister,

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 did you ever start

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 to like the same things

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 as them just because

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 they were your brother

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 or sister

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 even though at first

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 you didn't like it?

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 I mean, I remember

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 that with my brother

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 sometimes even with music.

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 He'd listen to music

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 and I'm like,

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 bro, why are you listening to this?

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 This music sucks.

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 Don't listen to that music.

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 And then because I love

00:22:43.559 --> 00:22:44.079
 my brother,

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 I want to get into it

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 because he's my brother.

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 And it's maybe not

00:22:47.660 --> 00:22:48.579
 my favorite music

00:22:48.579 --> 00:22:49.019
 in the world

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 but he's my brother.

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 And if he likes it,

00:22:52.079 --> 00:22:53.180
 I like liking it

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 with him liking it.

00:22:54.279 --> 00:22:54.779
 You know?

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 Because that's fun.

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 And that's what affection is.

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 Affection is like

00:23:01.920 --> 00:23:02.860
 the lubrication

00:23:02.860 --> 00:23:03.640
 of relationships.

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 It's like the oil

00:23:05.000 --> 00:23:05.720
 of relationships

00:23:05.720 --> 00:23:07.259
 that keeps the engine

00:23:07.259 --> 00:23:08.660
 from getting overheated

00:23:08.660 --> 00:23:09.620
 and causing friction

00:23:09.620 --> 00:23:10.380
 between you two.

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 Which can happen

00:23:11.560 --> 00:23:12.360
 with brothers, right?

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 Happen with sisters,

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 happen with brothers

00:23:14.420 --> 00:23:15.019
 and sisters.

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 But when there's affection,

00:23:17.440 --> 00:23:20.940
 that keeps that relationship,

00:23:21.300 --> 00:23:23.279
 the pistons

00:23:23.279 --> 00:23:24.019
 of that relationship

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 moving in a way

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 that there's not friction.

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 And then you can even

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 actually enjoy things

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 that maybe you wouldn't

00:23:29.800 --> 00:23:30.660
 normally get into.

00:23:30.660 --> 00:23:31.940
 Why?

00:23:32.320 --> 00:23:33.160
 Because that's my brother.

00:23:33.820 --> 00:23:34.740
 That's my sister.

00:23:35.400 --> 00:23:37.360
 And you know this has happened

00:23:37.360 --> 00:23:38.220
 when you see that.

00:23:38.320 --> 00:23:38.519
 You know,

00:23:38.960 --> 00:23:40.340
 we know what this looks like

00:23:40.340 --> 00:23:41.580
 with a little kid, right?

00:23:41.779 --> 00:23:42.920
 When you see a little kid

00:23:42.920 --> 00:23:44.560
 and there's natural affection

00:23:44.560 --> 00:23:45.400
 that rises up,

00:23:45.620 --> 00:23:46.400
 you kind of just want

00:23:46.400 --> 00:23:47.259
 to squeeze them, right?

00:23:47.320 --> 00:23:48.279
 You just want to hug them

00:23:48.279 --> 00:23:49.560
 or squeeze their cheeks.

00:23:50.200 --> 00:23:51.259
 I'm not saying you're going

00:23:51.259 --> 00:23:52.340
 to do that with each other

00:23:52.340 --> 00:23:54.740
 but there's something similar

00:23:54.740 --> 00:23:55.900
 that happens in your heart.

00:23:56.200 --> 00:23:57.880
 It's not, you know,

00:23:57.940 --> 00:23:58.960
 the same way that it is

00:23:58.960 --> 00:23:59.420
 with a baby

00:23:59.420 --> 00:24:00.500
 but it's the same kind

00:24:00.500 --> 00:24:01.100
 of affection

00:24:01.100 --> 00:24:02.420
 where you see them

00:24:02.420 --> 00:24:02.940
 and you're just like,

00:24:03.039 --> 00:24:04.400
 I'm really glad to see them.

00:24:05.380 --> 00:24:06.299
 And even though

00:24:06.299 --> 00:24:07.819
 they're very different than me,

00:24:08.360 --> 00:24:09.019
 even though they might

00:24:09.019 --> 00:24:09.720
 think differently,

00:24:09.880 --> 00:24:11.240
 they might be different age,

00:24:11.299 --> 00:24:12.519
 they might be different gender,

00:24:12.620 --> 00:24:13.240
 they might have different

00:24:13.240 --> 00:24:14.299
 background,

00:24:14.640 --> 00:24:16.079
 different gift mix,

00:24:16.180 --> 00:24:16.579
 just different,

00:24:16.660 --> 00:24:17.680
 all these kind of things,

00:24:17.940 --> 00:24:19.579
 I actually feel affection

00:24:19.579 --> 00:24:20.140
 for them

00:24:20.140 --> 00:24:21.579
 because that's my brother.

00:24:22.240 --> 00:24:23.200
 That's my sister.

00:24:23.200 --> 00:24:25.600
 And I want to give them

00:24:25.600 --> 00:24:26.200
 a genuine,

00:24:26.500 --> 00:24:27.120
 sincere,

00:24:27.400 --> 00:24:29.200
 good squeeze hug

00:24:29.200 --> 00:24:30.080
 because I really,

00:24:30.500 --> 00:24:31.519
 not because that's my

00:24:31.519 --> 00:24:33.880
 religious familial obligation

00:24:33.880 --> 00:24:36.019
 but because I have

00:24:36.019 --> 00:24:36.440
 genuine,

00:24:36.700 --> 00:24:36.920
 sincere,

00:24:37.019 --> 00:24:38.019
 brotherly or sincerely

00:24:38.019 --> 00:24:38.620
 love for them.

00:24:39.860 --> 00:24:41.259
 And maybe you've experienced

00:24:41.259 --> 00:24:42.779
 that some,

00:24:43.340 --> 00:24:44.559
 maybe you've experienced

00:24:44.559 --> 00:24:45.160
 that a lot,

00:24:45.519 --> 00:24:46.980
 maybe you've never experienced

00:24:46.980 --> 00:24:47.860
 that in the context

00:24:47.860 --> 00:24:48.539
 of church

00:24:48.539 --> 00:24:50.500
 and maybe you have

00:24:50.500 --> 00:24:51.319
 a hard time believing

00:24:51.319 --> 00:24:51.980
 it's possible

00:24:51.980 --> 00:24:53.039
 or maybe you're just having,

00:24:53.159 --> 00:24:54.079
 maybe you have experienced

00:24:54.079 --> 00:24:54.439
 it and you're having

00:24:54.439 --> 00:24:55.139
 a hard time believing

00:24:55.139 --> 00:24:56.500
 it's possible in this church.

00:24:57.179 --> 00:24:58.000
 And if that's the case,

00:24:58.039 --> 00:24:59.200
 I want to encourage you

00:24:59.200 --> 00:24:59.980
 and exhort you

00:24:59.980 --> 00:25:01.419
 to actually repent

00:25:01.419 --> 00:25:02.220
 of your unbelief

00:25:02.220 --> 00:25:04.500
 because are you actually

00:25:04.500 --> 00:25:05.799
 saying that the God

00:25:05.799 --> 00:25:06.819
 who reconciles us

00:25:06.819 --> 00:25:07.379
 to one another

00:25:07.379 --> 00:25:08.099
 and adopts us

00:25:08.099 --> 00:25:08.839
 into his family

00:25:08.839 --> 00:25:10.299
 can't make us family

00:25:10.299 --> 00:25:11.000
 to the point

00:25:11.000 --> 00:25:11.939
 that we actually

00:25:11.939 --> 00:25:12.859
 have genuine affection

00:25:12.859 --> 00:25:13.539
 for one another?

00:25:14.919 --> 00:25:16.039
 That's kind of a slap

00:25:16.039 --> 00:25:16.819
 in the gospel's,

00:25:17.019 --> 00:25:19.139
 the gospel's face.

00:25:19.299 --> 00:25:19.419
 You know,

00:25:19.439 --> 00:25:20.500
 like God literally

00:25:20.500 --> 00:25:21.279
 gives this to us

00:25:21.279 --> 00:25:21.819
 and we're just going

00:25:21.819 --> 00:25:22.119
 to say,

00:25:22.200 --> 00:25:22.319
 no,

00:25:22.359 --> 00:25:22.940
 I don't believe

00:25:22.940 --> 00:25:24.160
 that then you could

00:25:24.160 --> 00:25:24.960
 actually make us

00:25:24.960 --> 00:25:26.480
 have real affection

00:25:26.480 --> 00:25:27.079
 for one another?

00:25:27.720 --> 00:25:28.839
 That's such an affront

00:25:28.839 --> 00:25:30.400
 to the gospel of grace.

00:25:30.440 --> 00:25:31.240
 That's such an affront

00:25:31.240 --> 00:25:32.279
 to all that he's done

00:25:32.279 --> 00:25:33.920
 and that's why it says

00:25:33.920 --> 00:25:35.079
 those who've forgotten

00:25:35.079 --> 00:25:36.380
 are nearsighted and blind.

00:25:37.619 --> 00:25:38.599
 And so they relate

00:25:38.599 --> 00:25:39.140
 to one another

00:25:39.140 --> 00:25:39.839
 in blindness.

00:25:40.920 --> 00:25:42.119
 We can't do that.

00:25:43.140 --> 00:25:43.980
 So that begs

00:25:43.980 --> 00:25:44.859
 the question though,

00:25:45.500 --> 00:25:46.099
 and I told you

00:25:46.099 --> 00:25:46.660
 I'd get to this,

00:25:46.720 --> 00:25:46.799
 well,

00:25:46.839 --> 00:25:47.259
 what about,

00:25:47.859 --> 00:25:48.220
 what about,

00:25:48.339 --> 00:25:48.460
 okay,

00:25:48.460 --> 00:25:49.539
 that's brother-sister stuff.

00:25:49.539 --> 00:25:50.960
 What about father-mother stuff?

00:25:51.559 --> 00:25:51.759
 I mean,

00:25:51.859 --> 00:25:52.159
 come on,

00:25:52.240 --> 00:25:52.599
 Paul,

00:25:53.460 --> 00:25:53.720
 right,

00:25:53.819 --> 00:25:54.339
 Paul's using

00:25:54.339 --> 00:25:55.379
 the language of father.

00:25:55.980 --> 00:25:56.920
 So what about that?

00:25:56.960 --> 00:25:57.639
 How does that work?

00:25:57.700 --> 00:25:57.799
 Well,

00:25:57.819 --> 00:25:58.440
 let's look at it,

00:25:58.700 --> 00:25:58.960
 okay?

00:25:59.440 --> 00:26:00.059
 Let's look at it

00:26:00.059 --> 00:26:01.039
 with Paul

00:26:01.039 --> 00:26:01.619
 with Timothy,

00:26:01.839 --> 00:26:02.139
 Titus,

00:26:02.200 --> 00:26:02.940
 and Onesimus,

00:26:03.480 --> 00:26:03.720
 okay?

00:26:03.819 --> 00:26:05.200
 Three different men

00:26:05.200 --> 00:26:05.920
 that he related to

00:26:05.920 --> 00:26:06.619
 and talked about

00:26:06.619 --> 00:26:07.460
 a little bit more often

00:26:07.460 --> 00:26:08.259
 than some of the others.

00:26:08.759 --> 00:26:09.639
 First one with Timothy,

00:26:09.879 --> 00:26:10.099
 okay?

00:26:10.700 --> 00:26:11.839
 In 2 Corinthians 1

00:26:11.839 --> 00:26:13.200
 and 1 Thessalonians 3

00:26:13.200 --> 00:26:14.720
 and Philemon 1

00:26:14.720 --> 00:26:16.120
 and in Colossians 1,

00:26:16.559 --> 00:26:18.519
 all four of those books,

00:26:19.059 --> 00:26:20.380
 he refers to Timothy,

00:26:20.620 --> 00:26:21.960
 he uses this phrase,

00:26:22.400 --> 00:26:22.819
 Timothy,

00:26:23.240 --> 00:26:24.019
 our brother.

00:26:25.120 --> 00:26:25.480
 Timothy,

00:26:25.640 --> 00:26:26.079
 our brother,

00:26:26.720 --> 00:26:26.940
 okay?

00:26:27.279 --> 00:26:28.059
 Did you know that,

00:26:28.100 --> 00:26:29.839
 that he referred to Timothy

00:26:29.839 --> 00:26:30.500
 as his brother?

00:26:31.100 --> 00:26:32.000
 Because we know

00:26:32.000 --> 00:26:33.319
 that he referred to him

00:26:33.319 --> 00:26:34.140
 as his,

00:26:34.400 --> 00:26:35.180
 in other ways,

00:26:35.240 --> 00:26:35.460
 right?

00:26:35.940 --> 00:26:36.759
 In Philippians 2,

00:26:36.839 --> 00:26:37.200
 22,

00:26:37.360 --> 00:26:37.660
 he says,

00:26:37.759 --> 00:26:37.940
 you know,

00:26:38.019 --> 00:26:39.299
 Timothy's proven worth,

00:26:39.660 --> 00:26:40.440
 how as a son

00:26:40.440 --> 00:26:41.120
 with a father,

00:26:41.120 --> 00:26:42.240
 he has served me

00:26:42.240 --> 00:26:43.099
 in the gospel.

00:26:44.180 --> 00:26:46.120
 In 1 Corinthians 4, 17,

00:26:46.259 --> 00:26:46.579
 he says,

00:26:46.700 --> 00:26:46.980
 Timothy,

00:26:47.240 --> 00:26:48.880
 my beloved and faithful child

00:26:48.880 --> 00:26:49.539
 in the Lord,

00:26:49.799 --> 00:26:51.079
 I'm sending him to you,

00:26:51.559 --> 00:26:51.720
 okay?

00:26:51.759 --> 00:26:52.720
 He calls him his child.

00:26:53.440 --> 00:26:54.500
 And then when he writes

00:26:54.500 --> 00:26:55.759
 to Timothy specifically,

00:26:56.299 --> 00:26:57.660
 in 1 Timothy 1, 2,

00:26:57.720 --> 00:26:58.339
 and 1, 18,

00:26:58.500 --> 00:26:58.880
 he says,

00:26:58.960 --> 00:26:59.259
 Timothy,

00:26:59.720 --> 00:27:00.460
 my true child

00:27:00.460 --> 00:27:00.900
 and Timothy,

00:27:01.039 --> 00:27:01.660
 my child.

00:27:02.339 --> 00:27:03.059
 And then when he writes

00:27:03.059 --> 00:27:04.079
 the second letter to him

00:27:04.079 --> 00:27:04.640
 in 2 Timothy,

00:27:04.740 --> 00:27:04.960
 he says,

00:27:05.019 --> 00:27:05.220
 Timothy,

00:27:05.220 --> 00:27:06.160
 my beloved child.

00:27:07.039 --> 00:27:08.359
 So what is it?

00:27:08.940 --> 00:27:09.640
 Well, it's both.

00:27:10.700 --> 00:27:11.420
 It's both.

00:27:12.240 --> 00:27:14.960
 You can have someone

00:27:14.960 --> 00:27:17.019
 who is your child

00:27:17.019 --> 00:27:18.279
 or you can relate

00:27:18.279 --> 00:27:19.259
 to someone as father,

00:27:19.259 --> 00:27:21.240
 but that's sometimes,

00:27:21.279 --> 00:27:22.180
 not all the times,

00:27:22.299 --> 00:27:23.160
 you always,

00:27:23.279 --> 00:27:24.140
 always can relate

00:27:24.140 --> 00:27:24.680
 to one another

00:27:24.680 --> 00:27:26.019
 as brother or sister.

00:27:27.180 --> 00:27:28.500
 And you don't see

00:27:28.500 --> 00:27:29.680
 any place in Scripture

00:27:29.680 --> 00:27:30.579
 where there is

00:27:30.579 --> 00:27:31.500
 a referring to someone

00:27:31.500 --> 00:27:32.240
 as a father,

00:27:32.740 --> 00:27:33.640
 where there's also

00:27:33.640 --> 00:27:34.599
 not a referring

00:27:34.599 --> 00:27:35.099
 to one another

00:27:35.099 --> 00:27:35.559
 as a brother.

00:27:36.660 --> 00:27:37.759
 And in Timothy here,

00:27:38.579 --> 00:27:39.299
 Paul clearly

00:27:39.299 --> 00:27:40.400
 was a spiritual father.

00:27:41.259 --> 00:27:41.400
 Okay?

00:27:41.400 --> 00:27:42.820
 He had a fatherly role

00:27:42.820 --> 00:27:44.000
 in his life for sure.

00:27:44.320 --> 00:27:44.840
 That's clear.

00:27:45.480 --> 00:27:45.720
 Okay?

00:27:46.360 --> 00:27:48.200
 But there's multiple instances

00:27:48.200 --> 00:27:50.320
 of him also calling him

00:27:50.320 --> 00:27:51.759
 our brother.

00:27:53.040 --> 00:27:54.300
 So it was both

00:27:54.300 --> 00:27:55.540
 and it really should start there.

00:27:55.680 --> 00:27:56.019
 It gets,

00:27:56.120 --> 00:27:57.440
 things get really weird

00:27:57.440 --> 00:27:59.420
 when a person tries

00:27:59.420 --> 00:28:00.600
 to be someone's father

00:28:00.600 --> 00:28:01.140
 or mother

00:28:01.140 --> 00:28:02.560
 without first relating

00:28:02.560 --> 00:28:03.360
 to them as a brother

00:28:03.360 --> 00:28:03.880
 or sister.

00:28:05.720 --> 00:28:06.960
 Because there's not

00:28:06.960 --> 00:28:08.540
 that trust there.

00:28:08.539 --> 00:28:09.240
 there's not,

00:28:09.339 --> 00:28:10.359
 that's the basis

00:28:10.359 --> 00:28:12.079
 for what this happens.

00:28:12.220 --> 00:28:12.859
 What is the basis?

00:28:12.960 --> 00:28:13.619
 It's the gospel.

00:28:14.079 --> 00:28:15.379
 For you to be a father

00:28:15.379 --> 00:28:16.619
 or a mother to someone

00:28:16.619 --> 00:28:18.059
 is a very noble thing

00:28:18.059 --> 00:28:18.980
 and it should happen

00:28:18.980 --> 00:28:20.200
 in some instances

00:28:20.200 --> 00:28:21.240
 and at some time.

00:28:21.839 --> 00:28:22.879
 Especially as you get older,

00:28:22.960 --> 00:28:23.559
 that should happen,

00:28:23.799 --> 00:28:24.720
 be more common.

00:28:25.240 --> 00:28:25.519
 Okay?

00:28:26.480 --> 00:28:27.700
 But it's going to be

00:28:27.700 --> 00:28:28.180
 really weird

00:28:28.180 --> 00:28:29.220
 if it doesn't first

00:28:29.220 --> 00:28:30.200
 start with the gospel

00:28:30.200 --> 00:28:31.279
 and the fact that

00:28:31.279 --> 00:28:32.180
 we relate to one another

00:28:32.180 --> 00:28:33.139
 as brothers and sisters.

00:28:33.259 --> 00:28:34.639
 And the better you can be,

00:28:35.119 --> 00:28:36.299
 this is my opinion,

00:28:36.299 --> 00:28:37.759
 and I've seen it play out

00:28:37.759 --> 00:28:38.539
 in a lot of ways,

00:28:39.180 --> 00:28:39.839
 but I think the,

00:28:40.000 --> 00:28:41.059
 I believe that the better

00:28:41.059 --> 00:28:42.139
 you can be

00:28:42.139 --> 00:28:43.919
 at loving one another

00:28:43.919 --> 00:28:44.919
 with brotherly love

00:28:44.919 --> 00:28:46.000
 and loving each other

00:28:46.000 --> 00:28:46.519
 as sisters,

00:28:46.819 --> 00:28:48.619
 the more likely

00:28:48.619 --> 00:28:49.379
 it's going to be

00:28:49.379 --> 00:28:50.659
 that people will receive you

00:28:50.659 --> 00:28:51.559
 eventually someday

00:28:51.559 --> 00:28:52.799
 as a father or a mother.

00:28:53.839 --> 00:28:54.659
 Because that's what

00:28:54.659 --> 00:28:55.819
 builds the trust of that.

00:28:56.200 --> 00:28:56.819
 That's what builds

00:28:56.819 --> 00:28:58.000
 the foundation of that.

00:28:58.399 --> 00:28:59.839
 And if we get those things

00:28:59.839 --> 00:29:00.579
 out of order,

00:29:01.079 --> 00:29:01.919
 things get weird.

00:29:02.720 --> 00:29:02.899
 Okay?

00:29:03.079 --> 00:29:03.339
 So,

00:29:03.700 --> 00:29:04.519
 that's got to be,

00:29:04.720 --> 00:29:05.899
 because we're in the early stages

00:29:05.900 --> 00:29:06.440
 of our church,

00:29:06.740 --> 00:29:07.720
 of this church,

00:29:07.960 --> 00:29:10.040
 we have to make sure

00:29:10.040 --> 00:29:11.980
 that we're building on

00:29:11.980 --> 00:29:12.900
 with that.

00:29:13.440 --> 00:29:14.740
 Building first with father,

00:29:14.880 --> 00:29:15.340
 sorry,

00:29:15.519 --> 00:29:16.900
 with brother and sister,

00:29:17.420 --> 00:29:18.259
 affection and love

00:29:18.259 --> 00:29:18.780
 for one another,

00:29:18.880 --> 00:29:19.140
 right?

00:29:20.060 --> 00:29:21.160
 Same thing with Titus.

00:29:21.300 --> 00:29:22.840
 2 Corinthians 2.13,

00:29:23.400 --> 00:29:24.920
 Paul calls Titus his brother.

00:29:26.040 --> 00:29:27.620
 But then in Titus 1.4,

00:29:27.720 --> 00:29:28.720
 when he writes a letter to him,

00:29:28.740 --> 00:29:30.400
 he says to Titus,

00:29:30.960 --> 00:29:32.019
 my true child

00:29:32.019 --> 00:29:32.960
 in a common faith.

00:29:33.519 --> 00:29:33.880
 Do you see?

00:29:33.980 --> 00:29:34.820
 Same thing as Timothy.

00:29:34.920 --> 00:29:35.360
 It's both.

00:29:35.900 --> 00:29:36.900
 When he's writing to the Corinthians,

00:29:37.680 --> 00:29:37.940
 okay,

00:29:38.259 --> 00:29:39.280
 which is one of the first letters

00:29:39.280 --> 00:29:39.780
 he wrote,

00:29:40.780 --> 00:29:41.300
 he says,

00:29:41.860 --> 00:29:44.220
 my spirit was not at rest

00:29:44.220 --> 00:29:45.400
 because I did not find

00:29:45.400 --> 00:29:46.800
 my brother Titus there.

00:29:47.420 --> 00:29:48.200
 That's what he said.

00:29:48.980 --> 00:29:50.259
 But then when he writes to Titus

00:29:50.259 --> 00:29:51.160
 later on in his life,

00:29:51.200 --> 00:29:51.580
 he says,

00:29:52.040 --> 00:29:52.440
 Titus,

00:29:52.540 --> 00:29:53.440
 my true child,

00:29:54.060 --> 00:29:54.840
 my true child.

00:29:55.480 --> 00:29:55.620
 Okay?

00:29:55.620 --> 00:29:56.180
 It was both.

00:29:56.360 --> 00:29:57.460
 Paul didn't just relate.

00:29:58.019 --> 00:29:58.860
 He wasn't just this guy

00:29:58.860 --> 00:30:00.240
 who only related to his father.

00:30:00.620 --> 00:30:01.480
 He still related

00:30:01.480 --> 00:30:02.280
 even to people

00:30:02.280 --> 00:30:03.759
 who eventually were,

00:30:03.759 --> 00:30:05.240
 or maybe even early onward,

00:30:05.599 --> 00:30:06.680
 true children of his,

00:30:06.920 --> 00:30:07.980
 he related to his brother.

00:30:08.359 --> 00:30:09.359
 And he did the same thing

00:30:09.359 --> 00:30:10.220
 with Onesimus.

00:30:10.900 --> 00:30:12.379
 In Colossians 4.9,

00:30:12.640 --> 00:30:13.859
 he calls Onesimus

00:30:13.859 --> 00:30:14.599
 our faithful

00:30:14.599 --> 00:30:15.700
 and beloved brother.

00:30:16.539 --> 00:30:17.599
 And then when he writes

00:30:17.599 --> 00:30:18.420
 to Philemon,

00:30:19.420 --> 00:30:20.759
 he says,

00:30:20.759 --> 00:30:21.460
 I appeal to you

00:30:21.460 --> 00:30:23.039
 for my child Onesimus

00:30:23.039 --> 00:30:24.019
 whose father

00:30:24.019 --> 00:30:25.099
 I became in prison.

00:30:25.779 --> 00:30:25.920
 Okay?

00:30:25.980 --> 00:30:26.619
 So in prison,

00:30:26.859 --> 00:30:28.519
 he developed this relationship

00:30:28.519 --> 00:30:30.039
 with his brother Onesimus

00:30:30.039 --> 00:30:30.960
 that turned into

00:30:30.960 --> 00:30:32.000
 a father relationship.

00:30:32.640 --> 00:30:33.640
 And then he appeals

00:30:33.640 --> 00:30:34.359
 for Philemon

00:30:34.359 --> 00:30:35.740
 because Onesimus

00:30:35.740 --> 00:30:36.980
 was Philemon's slave,

00:30:37.759 --> 00:30:38.740
 his bondservant.

00:30:39.299 --> 00:30:39.960
 He says,

00:30:40.240 --> 00:30:43.379
 to relate to him

00:30:43.379 --> 00:30:44.339
 as a beloved brother,

00:30:44.579 --> 00:30:44.879
 especially,

00:30:45.140 --> 00:30:45.879
 because that's how

00:30:45.879 --> 00:30:46.980
 he's become to me,

00:30:47.079 --> 00:30:47.799
 a beloved one,

00:30:47.920 --> 00:30:49.000
 a beloved brother to me.

00:30:49.000 --> 00:30:50.640
 But how much more to you,

00:30:50.880 --> 00:30:51.440
 both in the flesh

00:30:51.440 --> 00:30:52.140
 and in the Lord?

00:30:52.519 --> 00:30:52.680
 Okay?

00:30:53.160 --> 00:30:53.839
 So he's wanting him

00:30:53.839 --> 00:30:54.660
 to relate to him

00:30:54.660 --> 00:30:55.140
 as a brother.

00:30:55.240 --> 00:30:55.759
 He's appealing.

00:30:56.200 --> 00:30:57.359
 Relate to Onesimus

00:30:57.359 --> 00:30:58.059
 as your brother,

00:30:58.160 --> 00:30:58.759
 even though he's

00:30:58.759 --> 00:30:59.599
 your bondservant.

00:31:00.420 --> 00:31:01.160
 Relate to him

00:31:01.160 --> 00:31:03.319
 as a brother.

00:31:07.420 --> 00:31:08.240
 A lot of this

00:31:08.240 --> 00:31:08.740
 comes down,

00:31:08.900 --> 00:31:09.119
 gets,

00:31:10.200 --> 00:31:11.160
 a lot of times

00:31:11.160 --> 00:31:11.619
 what ends up

00:31:11.619 --> 00:31:12.720
 getting mixed with this

00:31:12.720 --> 00:31:14.579
 is the whole concept

00:31:14.579 --> 00:31:15.259
 of authority.

00:31:15.819 --> 00:31:16.220
 Okay?

00:31:16.539 --> 00:31:17.119
 When authority

00:31:17.119 --> 00:31:18.039
 gets in the mix,

00:31:18.500 --> 00:31:18.900
 it's like,

00:31:18.900 --> 00:31:19.200
 oh,

00:31:19.519 --> 00:31:20.240
 can I relate

00:31:20.240 --> 00:31:20.960
 to someone

00:31:20.960 --> 00:31:22.180
 as a brother

00:31:22.180 --> 00:31:22.820
 or sister

00:31:22.820 --> 00:31:25.280
 if they're

00:31:25.280 --> 00:31:25.880
 in authority?

00:31:27.220 --> 00:31:27.620
 Yes.

00:31:28.040 --> 00:31:28.440
 And,

00:31:29.519 --> 00:31:30.100
 when is there

00:31:30.100 --> 00:31:30.580
 authority

00:31:30.580 --> 00:31:31.200
 and when is there

00:31:31.200 --> 00:31:31.920
 just influence?

00:31:32.040 --> 00:31:32.820
 Let's look at this

00:31:32.820 --> 00:31:33.259
 because this,

00:31:33.400 --> 00:31:33.740
 I think,

00:31:33.820 --> 00:31:35.100
 it impacts things.

00:31:35.780 --> 00:31:36.120
 It's like,

00:31:36.180 --> 00:31:37.019
 I think that sometimes

00:31:37.019 --> 00:31:38.100
 we get confused

00:31:38.100 --> 00:31:38.720
 with how to relate

00:31:38.720 --> 00:31:39.300
 to one another.

00:31:39.640 --> 00:31:39.920
 Right?

00:31:40.259 --> 00:31:41.400
 So let's look at this.

00:31:41.700 --> 00:31:42.320
 What's the difference

00:31:42.320 --> 00:31:43.000
 between authority

00:31:43.000 --> 00:31:43.560
 and influence?

00:31:43.780 --> 00:31:44.759
 There's people

00:31:44.759 --> 00:31:45.360
 who have authority

00:31:45.360 --> 00:31:45.900
 in our life

00:31:45.900 --> 00:31:46.540
 and we have to

00:31:46.540 --> 00:31:47.240
 listen to them.

00:31:47.780 --> 00:31:48.019
 Right?

00:31:48.019 --> 00:31:49.259
 A great example

00:31:49.259 --> 00:31:49.879
 would be like

00:31:49.879 --> 00:31:50.460
 when you're a kid,

00:31:50.519 --> 00:31:51.059
 your parents.

00:31:52.059 --> 00:31:52.220
 You know,

00:31:52.299 --> 00:31:53.259
 Ephesians 6

00:31:53.259 --> 00:31:53.900
 says,

00:31:54.000 --> 00:31:54.379
 children,

00:31:54.759 --> 00:31:55.779
 obey your parents.

00:31:56.119 --> 00:31:56.319
 Right?

00:31:56.619 --> 00:31:56.859
 Kids,

00:31:56.900 --> 00:31:57.319
 you guys heard

00:31:57.319 --> 00:31:58.139
 this many times?

00:31:58.639 --> 00:31:58.859
 Children,

00:31:58.940 --> 00:31:59.619
 obey your parents.

00:31:59.700 --> 00:31:59.859
 Like,

00:31:59.920 --> 00:32:00.200
 yeah,

00:32:00.319 --> 00:32:00.639
 okay.

00:32:00.640 --> 00:32:03.680
 you might have

00:32:03.680 --> 00:32:04.080
 sometimes

00:32:04.080 --> 00:32:04.420
 when you don't

00:32:04.420 --> 00:32:04.900
 want to obey

00:32:04.900 --> 00:32:05.320
 your parents,

00:32:05.380 --> 00:32:05.600
 right?

00:32:06.360 --> 00:32:07.180
 I know you guys

00:32:07.180 --> 00:32:07.640
 all want to

00:32:07.640 --> 00:32:08.180
 obey your parents,

00:32:08.240 --> 00:32:08.460
 right?

00:32:08.680 --> 00:32:08.960
 Max,

00:32:09.020 --> 00:32:09.360
 Charlie,

00:32:09.720 --> 00:32:10.400
 never had that

00:32:10.400 --> 00:32:10.940
 happen before

00:32:10.940 --> 00:32:11.340
 where you didn't

00:32:11.340 --> 00:32:11.800
 want to obey?

00:32:13.020 --> 00:32:13.380
 Right,

00:32:13.560 --> 00:32:13.800
 right.

00:32:14.900 --> 00:32:15.100
 But,

00:32:15.240 --> 00:32:15.500
 okay,

00:32:15.620 --> 00:32:16.759
 but if you did,

00:32:17.000 --> 00:32:17.280
 let's,

00:32:17.460 --> 00:32:17.980
 hypothetically,

00:32:18.100 --> 00:32:18.780
 if you actually

00:32:18.780 --> 00:32:19.540
 didn't want to

00:32:19.540 --> 00:32:20.200
 obey your parents,

00:32:20.780 --> 00:32:21.200
 would you have

00:32:21.200 --> 00:32:21.640
 the option

00:32:21.640 --> 00:32:22.200
 to not obey

00:32:22.200 --> 00:32:22.580
 your parents?

00:32:22.680 --> 00:32:22.780
 No,

00:32:22.820 --> 00:32:23.360
 you have to

00:32:23.360 --> 00:32:23.820
 obey them,

00:32:24.140 --> 00:32:24.400
 right?

00:32:24.500 --> 00:32:24.880
 Otherwise,

00:32:25.580 --> 00:32:26.520
 your parents

00:32:26.520 --> 00:32:27.100
 have the authority

00:32:27.100 --> 00:32:28.040
 to discipline you

00:32:28.039 --> 00:32:29.779
 because they're,

00:32:29.779 --> 00:32:30.639
 Max's like,

00:32:30.740 --> 00:32:30.899
 yeah,

00:32:31.159 --> 00:32:34.460
 okay,

00:32:34.460 --> 00:32:34.859
 because they have

00:32:34.859 --> 00:32:35.420
 authority.

00:32:36.099 --> 00:32:36.680
 It's not,

00:32:36.779 --> 00:32:37.139
 you can't,

00:32:37.240 --> 00:32:37.299
 like,

00:32:37.379 --> 00:32:37.639
 prefer,

00:32:37.720 --> 00:32:37.879
 like,

00:32:37.980 --> 00:32:38.220
 well,

00:32:38.799 --> 00:32:39.039
 you know,

00:32:39.079 --> 00:32:39.759
 I prefer not

00:32:39.759 --> 00:32:40.559
 to obey my parents

00:32:40.559 --> 00:32:40.940
 and then you're

00:32:40.940 --> 00:32:41.220
 just going to

00:32:41.220 --> 00:32:41.680
 get away with it.

00:32:41.720 --> 00:32:41.799
 No,

00:32:41.839 --> 00:32:42.259
 because they're

00:32:42.259 --> 00:32:42.879
 your authority,

00:32:43.799 --> 00:32:44.139
 all right?

00:32:46.000 --> 00:32:46.359
 Someday,

00:32:46.559 --> 00:32:47.399
 you're going to

00:32:47.399 --> 00:32:47.980
 leave your father

00:32:47.980 --> 00:32:48.240
 and mother

00:32:48.240 --> 00:32:48.799
 and start your

00:32:48.799 --> 00:32:49.319
 own family

00:32:49.319 --> 00:32:50.019
 and when you

00:32:50.019 --> 00:32:50.579
 do that,

00:32:51.200 --> 00:32:52.519
 they don't have

00:32:52.519 --> 00:32:53.319
 that same role

00:32:53.319 --> 00:32:54.059
 in your life

00:32:54.059 --> 00:32:54.420
 anymore.

00:32:54.659 --> 00:32:54.960
 Hopefully,

00:32:55.059 --> 00:32:55.259
 they wouldn't

00:32:55.259 --> 00:32:55.799
 be spanking

00:32:55.799 --> 00:32:56.539
 you at that point

00:32:56.539 --> 00:32:57.220
 so everything's

00:32:57.220 --> 00:32:57.659
 good there.

00:32:58.039 --> 00:32:58.799
 Um,

00:32:59.639 --> 00:33:00.379
 but they still

00:33:00.379 --> 00:33:00.940
 have strong

00:33:00.940 --> 00:33:01.920
 influence on you,

00:33:02.079 --> 00:33:02.319
 okay?

00:33:03.480 --> 00:33:04.339
 And I think

00:33:04.339 --> 00:33:04.980
 that's important

00:33:04.980 --> 00:33:05.980
 to remember.

00:33:06.099 --> 00:33:06.720
 There's some people

00:33:06.720 --> 00:33:07.480
 who have authority

00:33:07.480 --> 00:33:07.960
 in your life

00:33:07.960 --> 00:33:08.299
 and then there's

00:33:08.299 --> 00:33:08.659
 some people

00:33:08.659 --> 00:33:09.180
 that influence

00:33:09.180 --> 00:33:09.440
 you,

00:33:09.639 --> 00:33:11.019
 especially for kids.

00:33:11.379 --> 00:33:12.000
 Your parents

00:33:12.000 --> 00:33:12.579
 have authority

00:33:12.579 --> 00:33:13.099
 over you

00:33:13.099 --> 00:33:13.960
 and then there's

00:33:13.960 --> 00:33:14.519
 other people

00:33:14.519 --> 00:33:16.019
 who have influence

00:33:16.019 --> 00:33:16.759
 and you should

00:33:16.759 --> 00:33:17.240
 respect,

00:33:17.559 --> 00:33:17.799
 right?

00:33:18.159 --> 00:33:18.740
 But the kids

00:33:18.740 --> 00:33:19.359
 don't relate to

00:33:19.359 --> 00:33:19.960
 them in the same

00:33:19.960 --> 00:33:20.359
 way.

00:33:21.079 --> 00:33:21.220
 You know,

00:33:21.259 --> 00:33:21.980
 they should respect

00:33:21.980 --> 00:33:22.819
 other adults.

00:33:23.399 --> 00:33:23.700
 They should,

00:33:23.819 --> 00:33:24.240
 they could see

00:33:24.240 --> 00:33:25.059
 other adults

00:33:25.059 --> 00:33:25.859
 having even

00:33:25.859 --> 00:33:26.700
 a certain level

00:33:26.700 --> 00:33:27.319
 of influence

00:33:27.319 --> 00:33:28.079
 in their life

00:33:28.079 --> 00:33:28.939
 that's stronger

00:33:28.939 --> 00:33:29.319
 than maybe

00:33:29.319 --> 00:33:30.779
 other adults,

00:33:30.779 --> 00:33:31.619
 but they don't

00:33:31.619 --> 00:33:32.039
 have the same

00:33:32.039 --> 00:33:32.579
 authority

00:33:32.579 --> 00:33:33.700
 that the actual

00:33:33.700 --> 00:33:34.379
 parents have.

00:33:34.439 --> 00:33:34.740
 The parents

00:33:34.740 --> 00:33:35.240
 have different

00:33:35.240 --> 00:33:35.679
 authority,

00:33:36.179 --> 00:33:36.419
 okay?

00:33:37.179 --> 00:33:37.740
 So there's

00:33:37.740 --> 00:33:38.519
 parenting authority.

00:33:38.919 --> 00:33:39.519
 There's also

00:33:39.519 --> 00:33:40.359
 elder authority,

00:33:40.720 --> 00:33:41.000
 right?

00:33:41.000 --> 00:33:42.119
 In a church

00:33:42.119 --> 00:33:42.619
 you might have

00:33:42.619 --> 00:33:43.640
 specific fathers

00:33:43.640 --> 00:33:44.119
 and mothers,

00:33:44.759 --> 00:33:45.240
 but then you

00:33:45.240 --> 00:33:46.299
 have fathers

00:33:46.299 --> 00:33:46.980
 who are elders

00:33:46.980 --> 00:33:47.559
 in the church.

00:33:47.660 --> 00:33:48.019
 They have an

00:33:48.019 --> 00:33:49.220
 office of

00:33:49.220 --> 00:33:50.579
 eldership that

00:33:50.579 --> 00:33:51.319
 carries with it

00:33:51.319 --> 00:33:51.920
 authority,

00:33:52.180 --> 00:33:53.200
 not just influence,

00:33:53.299 --> 00:33:53.900
 but authority.

00:33:55.059 --> 00:33:55.640
 Hebrews 13,

00:33:55.779 --> 00:33:56.460
 17 says,

00:33:56.559 --> 00:33:57.299
 Obey your leaders

00:33:57.299 --> 00:33:58.380
 and submit to

00:33:58.380 --> 00:33:58.660
 them,

00:33:59.079 --> 00:33:59.460
 for they are

00:33:59.460 --> 00:33:59.960
 keeping watch

00:33:59.960 --> 00:34:00.720
 over your souls

00:34:00.720 --> 00:34:01.279
 as those who

00:34:01.279 --> 00:34:01.640
 have to give

00:34:01.640 --> 00:34:02.079
 an account.

00:34:02.579 --> 00:34:03.039
 Let them do

00:34:03.039 --> 00:34:03.619
 this with joy

00:34:03.619 --> 00:34:04.099
 and not with

00:34:04.099 --> 00:34:04.519
 groaning,

00:34:04.779 --> 00:34:05.119
 for that would

00:34:05.119 --> 00:34:05.480
 be of no

00:34:05.480 --> 00:34:06.299
 advantage to you.

00:34:07.180 --> 00:34:07.940
 1 Timothy 5,

00:34:08.019 --> 00:34:09.000
 17 in the NIV

00:34:09.000 --> 00:34:10.219
 speaks of the

00:34:10.219 --> 00:34:10.719
 elders who

00:34:10.719 --> 00:34:11.199
 direct the

00:34:11.199 --> 00:34:11.719
 affairs of

00:34:11.719 --> 00:34:12.300
 the church,

00:34:12.659 --> 00:34:12.900
 okay?

00:34:13.480 --> 00:34:13.800
 So,

00:34:14.760 --> 00:34:15.539
 in a church

00:34:15.539 --> 00:34:16.320
 there's going

00:34:16.320 --> 00:34:16.980
 to be people

00:34:16.980 --> 00:34:17.739
 who have

00:34:17.739 --> 00:34:18.679
 influence and

00:34:18.679 --> 00:34:18.960
 then there's

00:34:18.960 --> 00:34:19.280
 going to be

00:34:19.280 --> 00:34:19.719
 people who

00:34:19.719 --> 00:34:20.340
 have authority.

00:34:22.219 --> 00:34:22.699
 Those are

00:34:22.699 --> 00:34:23.099
 two different

00:34:23.099 --> 00:34:23.719
 things.

00:34:24.000 --> 00:34:24.920
 If you relate

00:34:24.920 --> 00:34:25.579
 to someone

00:34:25.579 --> 00:34:26.420
 who has

00:34:26.420 --> 00:34:27.679
 authority in

00:34:27.679 --> 00:34:29.039
 just a way

00:34:29.039 --> 00:34:29.380
 that, oh,

00:34:29.420 --> 00:34:29.780
 they have

00:34:29.780 --> 00:34:30.420
 influence in

00:34:30.420 --> 00:34:30.900
 my life,

00:34:31.119 --> 00:34:31.820
 that's going

00:34:31.820 --> 00:34:32.139
 to be a

00:34:32.139 --> 00:34:32.460
 problem.

00:34:32.460 --> 00:34:32.980
 Just like if

00:34:32.980 --> 00:34:33.280
 you related

00:34:33.280 --> 00:34:33.820
 to your parents

00:34:33.820 --> 00:34:34.380
 that way and

00:34:34.380 --> 00:34:34.699
 just said,

00:34:34.780 --> 00:34:35.480
 well, I'm

00:34:35.480 --> 00:34:35.679
 not really

00:34:35.679 --> 00:34:36.000
 going to relate

00:34:36.000 --> 00:34:36.280
 to them as

00:34:36.280 --> 00:34:36.579
 authority.

00:34:36.699 --> 00:34:37.179
 Let's just say,

00:34:37.500 --> 00:34:37.900
 Dad, you're

00:34:37.900 --> 00:34:38.320
 a strong

00:34:38.320 --> 00:34:38.960
 influence in

00:34:38.960 --> 00:34:39.440
 my life.

00:34:39.800 --> 00:34:40.280
 I don't

00:34:40.280 --> 00:34:40.539
 think I'd

00:34:40.539 --> 00:34:40.900
 go over

00:34:40.900 --> 00:34:41.380
 too well

00:34:41.380 --> 00:34:41.820
 right here

00:34:41.820 --> 00:34:42.300
 with Max

00:34:42.300 --> 00:34:42.720
 and Charlie.

00:34:43.320 --> 00:34:43.780
 I keep

00:34:43.780 --> 00:34:44.179
 using you

00:34:44.179 --> 00:34:44.460
 guys as

00:34:44.460 --> 00:34:44.820
 an example,

00:34:44.960 --> 00:34:45.179
 but you're

00:34:45.179 --> 00:34:45.440
 just a

00:34:45.440 --> 00:34:46.559
 great example

00:34:46.559 --> 00:34:47.019
 for this.

00:34:48.519 --> 00:34:49.139
 So, if

00:34:49.139 --> 00:34:49.740
 you confuse

00:34:49.740 --> 00:34:50.400
 those two,

00:34:51.079 --> 00:34:51.500
 it's not

00:34:51.500 --> 00:34:51.860
 going to go

00:34:51.860 --> 00:34:52.199
 well.

00:34:52.820 --> 00:34:53.720
 When someone's

00:34:53.720 --> 00:34:54.159
 an authority

00:34:54.159 --> 00:34:54.599
 in your life,

00:34:54.659 --> 00:34:54.940
 they should

00:34:54.940 --> 00:34:55.139
 be an

00:34:55.139 --> 00:34:55.360
 authority.

00:34:55.460 --> 00:34:55.760
 You should

00:34:55.760 --> 00:34:56.199
 treat them

00:34:56.199 --> 00:34:56.539
 like an

00:34:56.539 --> 00:34:56.900
 authority,

00:34:57.079 --> 00:34:57.579
 and they

00:34:57.579 --> 00:34:58.199
 should act

00:34:58.199 --> 00:34:58.599
 like they're

00:34:58.599 --> 00:34:59.000
 an authority.

00:34:59.519 --> 00:35:00.340
 When someone's

00:35:00.340 --> 00:35:00.980
 an influence

00:35:00.980 --> 00:35:01.539
 in someone's

00:35:01.539 --> 00:35:01.820
 life,

00:35:02.619 --> 00:35:03.559
 they shouldn't

00:35:03.559 --> 00:35:04.240
 act like an

00:35:04.240 --> 00:35:04.599
 authority,

00:35:04.740 --> 00:35:05.139
 and you

00:35:05.139 --> 00:35:05.720
 should treat

00:35:05.720 --> 00:35:06.320
 them like an

00:35:06.320 --> 00:35:06.720
 authority.

00:35:06.719 --> 00:35:08.899
 That's an

00:35:08.899 --> 00:35:09.619
 important thing.

00:35:11.079 --> 00:35:11.699
 Same thing

00:35:11.699 --> 00:35:13.399
 with apostolic

00:35:13.399 --> 00:35:13.839
 authority.

00:35:14.099 --> 00:35:14.659
 In 2 Corinthians

00:35:14.659 --> 00:35:15.559
 13.10,

00:35:16.039 --> 00:35:16.500
 Paul, which

00:35:16.500 --> 00:35:17.059
 he's writing

00:35:17.059 --> 00:35:17.379
 about his

00:35:17.379 --> 00:35:17.859
 apostolic

00:35:17.859 --> 00:35:18.219
 authority,

00:35:18.379 --> 00:35:18.619
 says,

00:35:18.619 --> 00:35:19.319
 for this

00:35:19.319 --> 00:35:19.699
 reason I

00:35:19.699 --> 00:35:20.119
 write these

00:35:20.119 --> 00:35:20.559
 things while

00:35:20.559 --> 00:35:20.880
 I'm away

00:35:20.880 --> 00:35:21.299
 from you,

00:35:21.539 --> 00:35:21.900
 that when

00:35:21.900 --> 00:35:22.199
 I may

00:35:22.199 --> 00:35:22.619
 come,

00:35:22.920 --> 00:35:23.239
 I may

00:35:23.239 --> 00:35:23.599
 not have

00:35:23.599 --> 00:35:23.940
 to be

00:35:23.940 --> 00:35:25.059
 severe in

00:35:25.059 --> 00:35:25.579
 my use

00:35:25.579 --> 00:35:25.839
 of the

00:35:25.839 --> 00:35:26.539
 authority that

00:35:26.539 --> 00:35:26.859
 the Lord

00:35:26.859 --> 00:35:27.259
 has given

00:35:27.259 --> 00:35:27.980
 me for

00:35:27.980 --> 00:35:28.699
 building up

00:35:28.699 --> 00:35:29.099
 and not

00:35:29.099 --> 00:35:29.539
 for tearing

00:35:29.539 --> 00:35:29.940
 down.

00:35:30.299 --> 00:35:30.539
 This is

00:35:30.539 --> 00:35:30.859
 always a

00:35:30.859 --> 00:35:31.319
 good reminder.

00:35:31.480 --> 00:35:31.940
 Authority is

00:35:31.940 --> 00:35:32.359
 given to

00:35:32.359 --> 00:35:32.839
 build up.

00:35:33.019 --> 00:35:33.420
 That's the

00:35:33.420 --> 00:35:33.880
 purpose of

00:35:33.880 --> 00:35:34.279
 authority,

00:35:34.440 --> 00:35:35.019
 is to

00:35:35.019 --> 00:35:35.599
 build up.

00:35:36.420 --> 00:35:36.559
 So,

00:35:36.659 --> 00:35:37.380
 apostles and

00:35:37.380 --> 00:35:38.339
 elders have

00:35:38.339 --> 00:35:38.960
 authority in

00:35:38.960 --> 00:35:39.539
 the church,

00:35:40.019 --> 00:35:40.299
 okay,

00:35:40.940 --> 00:35:42.359
 and we

00:35:42.359 --> 00:35:43.079
 should respect

00:35:43.079 --> 00:35:43.559
 that authority,

00:35:43.659 --> 00:35:43.900
 we should

00:35:43.900 --> 00:35:44.420
 submit to that

00:35:44.420 --> 00:35:44.859
 authority,

00:35:45.460 --> 00:35:45.980
 and then

00:35:45.980 --> 00:35:48.039
 there's also

00:35:48.039 --> 00:35:48.440
 going to be

00:35:48.440 --> 00:35:49.059
 people who

00:35:49.059 --> 00:35:50.000
 are aspiring

00:35:50.000 --> 00:35:51.500
 to leadership

00:35:51.500 --> 00:35:52.380
 or aspiring

00:35:52.380 --> 00:35:53.079
 to eldership,

00:35:53.159 --> 00:35:53.340
 right?

00:35:53.719 --> 00:35:54.480
 1 Timothy 3,

00:35:54.519 --> 00:35:54.920
 1 says,

00:35:55.000 --> 00:35:55.539
 this saying

00:35:55.539 --> 00:35:56.820
 is trustworthy.

00:35:57.380 --> 00:35:57.760
 If anyone

00:35:57.760 --> 00:35:58.659
 aspires to

00:35:58.659 --> 00:35:59.139
 the office

00:35:59.139 --> 00:35:59.960
 of overseer,

00:36:00.340 --> 00:36:00.900
 overseer

00:36:00.900 --> 00:36:01.300
 meaning the

00:36:01.300 --> 00:36:01.659
 same thing

00:36:01.659 --> 00:36:02.059
 as elder,

00:36:02.500 --> 00:36:02.960
 he desires

00:36:02.960 --> 00:36:03.380
 a noble

00:36:03.380 --> 00:36:03.980
 task,

00:36:04.219 --> 00:36:04.440
 okay?

00:36:04.639 --> 00:36:04.940
 So,

00:36:04.960 --> 00:36:05.199
 he's saying

00:36:05.199 --> 00:36:05.719
 it's a noble

00:36:05.719 --> 00:36:06.199
 thing to

00:36:06.199 --> 00:36:07.079
 aspire to

00:36:07.079 --> 00:36:07.719
 eldership.

00:36:08.340 --> 00:36:09.019
 In this

00:36:09.019 --> 00:36:09.539
 church plant,

00:36:09.699 --> 00:36:10.320
 I would hope

00:36:10.320 --> 00:36:10.659
 that there

00:36:10.659 --> 00:36:11.059
 would be

00:36:11.059 --> 00:36:12.139
 multiple men

00:36:12.139 --> 00:36:12.460
 who would

00:36:12.460 --> 00:36:13.079
 be aspiring

00:36:13.079 --> 00:36:13.940
 to eldership,

00:36:14.579 --> 00:36:14.740
 okay?

00:36:14.860 --> 00:36:15.240
 That's a,

00:36:15.239 --> 00:36:15.879
 the Bible

00:36:15.879 --> 00:36:16.099
 says,

00:36:16.179 --> 00:36:16.259
 hey,

00:36:16.299 --> 00:36:16.819
 that's noble.

00:36:17.379 --> 00:36:18.000
 That's a good

00:36:18.000 --> 00:36:18.319
 thing.

00:36:18.439 --> 00:36:18.919
 You should

00:36:18.919 --> 00:36:19.439
 do that,

00:36:19.859 --> 00:36:20.119
 right?

00:36:20.519 --> 00:36:20.759
 So,

00:36:20.819 --> 00:36:21.379
 aspiring to

00:36:21.379 --> 00:36:21.699
 eldership

00:36:21.699 --> 00:36:22.179
 is a noble

00:36:22.179 --> 00:36:22.739
 task,

00:36:23.099 --> 00:36:23.579
 but someone

00:36:23.579 --> 00:36:24.419
 aspiring to

00:36:24.419 --> 00:36:25.419
 eldership,

00:36:26.459 --> 00:36:27.859
 to aspire to

00:36:27.859 --> 00:36:28.279
 eldership

00:36:28.279 --> 00:36:29.419
 doesn't mean

00:36:29.419 --> 00:36:30.359
 you treat

00:36:30.359 --> 00:36:30.859
 them like

00:36:30.859 --> 00:36:31.219
 they are

00:36:31.219 --> 00:36:31.599
 an elder,

00:36:31.739 --> 00:36:32.019
 and it

00:36:32.019 --> 00:36:32.459
 doesn't mean

00:36:32.459 --> 00:36:34.319
 they take

00:36:34.319 --> 00:36:34.639
 on the

00:36:34.639 --> 00:36:35.179
 authority of

00:36:35.179 --> 00:36:35.539
 an elder.

00:36:36.219 --> 00:36:36.939
 Aspiring to

00:36:36.939 --> 00:36:37.579
 eldership

00:36:37.579 --> 00:36:38.379
 means that

00:36:38.379 --> 00:36:38.919
 I try to

00:36:38.919 --> 00:36:39.819
 become the

00:36:39.819 --> 00:36:40.139
 kind of

00:36:40.139 --> 00:36:40.659
 person that

00:36:40.659 --> 00:36:41.659
 has influence

00:36:41.659 --> 00:36:42.199
 like an

00:36:42.199 --> 00:36:42.419
 elder,

00:36:42.679 --> 00:36:43.179
 and then

00:36:43.179 --> 00:36:43.819
 hopefully when

00:36:43.819 --> 00:36:44.559
 the influence

00:36:44.559 --> 00:36:45.179
 is there

00:36:45.179 --> 00:36:45.960
 and recognized,

00:36:46.500 --> 00:36:47.099
 it becomes a

00:36:47.099 --> 00:36:47.519
 no-brainer

00:36:47.519 --> 00:36:47.839
 when that

00:36:47.839 --> 00:36:48.419
 person ends

00:36:48.419 --> 00:36:49.039
 up becoming

00:36:49.039 --> 00:36:49.619
 an actual

00:36:49.619 --> 00:36:49.960
 elder.

00:36:50.960 --> 00:36:51.579
 But where

00:36:51.579 --> 00:36:51.919
 does that

00:36:51.919 --> 00:36:52.319
 influence

00:36:52.319 --> 00:36:52.859
 start?

00:36:53.319 --> 00:36:53.960
 Relating as

00:36:53.960 --> 00:36:54.279
 a brother

00:36:54.279 --> 00:36:54.799
 or sister,

00:36:55.799 --> 00:36:55.980
 right?

00:36:56.539 --> 00:36:57.159
 Relating as

00:36:57.159 --> 00:36:57.719
 a brother or

00:36:57.719 --> 00:36:58.039
 sister.

00:36:58.319 --> 00:36:58.859
 When that

00:36:58.859 --> 00:36:59.579
 trust of

00:36:59.579 --> 00:36:59.859
 being,

00:37:00.039 --> 00:37:00.539
 relating to

00:37:00.539 --> 00:37:00.859
 one another

00:37:00.859 --> 00:37:01.379
 as a brother

00:37:01.379 --> 00:37:01.839
 and sister

00:37:01.839 --> 00:37:02.539
 happens,

00:37:03.000 --> 00:37:03.539
 it becomes a

00:37:03.539 --> 00:37:03.779
 lot more

00:37:03.779 --> 00:37:04.319
 natural to

00:37:04.319 --> 00:37:04.839
 be fathers

00:37:04.839 --> 00:37:05.579
 and mothers.

00:37:06.339 --> 00:37:06.799
 And make

00:37:06.799 --> 00:37:07.419
 no mistake,

00:37:07.759 --> 00:37:08.119
 the church

00:37:08.119 --> 00:37:08.799
 needs fathers

00:37:08.799 --> 00:37:09.259
 and mothers.

00:37:09.260 --> 00:37:09.420
 fathers.

00:37:09.980 --> 00:37:10.240
 That's

00:37:10.240 --> 00:37:10.700
 why Paul

00:37:10.700 --> 00:37:11.260
 said in

00:37:11.260 --> 00:37:12.940
 1 Corinthians

00:37:12.940 --> 00:37:13.740
 4.15,

00:37:14.280 --> 00:37:14.480
 though you

00:37:14.480 --> 00:37:14.980
 have countless

00:37:14.980 --> 00:37:15.420
 guides in

00:37:15.420 --> 00:37:15.660
 Christ,

00:37:15.720 --> 00:37:15.920
 you don't

00:37:15.920 --> 00:37:16.220
 have any

00:37:16.220 --> 00:37:16.520
 fathers.

00:37:16.640 --> 00:37:16.840
 And he

00:37:16.840 --> 00:37:16.980
 said,

00:37:17.080 --> 00:37:17.560
 I became

00:37:17.560 --> 00:37:18.060
 your father

00:37:18.060 --> 00:37:18.800
 in the

00:37:18.800 --> 00:37:19.200
 gospel.

00:37:19.720 --> 00:37:19.860
 Okay?

00:37:20.180 --> 00:37:20.840
 So what

00:37:20.840 --> 00:37:21.160
 kind of

00:37:21.160 --> 00:37:21.500
 father did

00:37:21.500 --> 00:37:21.900
 he become?

00:37:21.980 --> 00:37:22.120
 Did he

00:37:22.120 --> 00:37:22.540
 become like

00:37:22.540 --> 00:37:22.920
 a natural

00:37:22.920 --> 00:37:23.420
 father where

00:37:23.420 --> 00:37:23.740
 now he

00:37:23.740 --> 00:37:23.980
 has,

00:37:25.540 --> 00:37:25.760
 you know,

00:37:25.800 --> 00:37:26.020
 that when

00:37:26.020 --> 00:37:26.760
 you get

00:37:26.760 --> 00:37:27.400
 someone saved,

00:37:27.460 --> 00:37:27.760
 all of a

00:37:27.760 --> 00:37:27.940
 sudden you

00:37:27.940 --> 00:37:28.380
 have authority

00:37:28.380 --> 00:37:28.780
 over them?

00:37:28.840 --> 00:37:29.100
 No.

00:37:29.580 --> 00:37:29.940
 But when

00:37:29.940 --> 00:37:30.220
 you lead

00:37:30.220 --> 00:37:30.540
 someone to

00:37:30.540 --> 00:37:30.780
 Christ,

00:37:30.860 --> 00:37:31.060
 you have

00:37:31.060 --> 00:37:31.760
 influence over

00:37:31.760 --> 00:37:31.940
 them.

00:37:32.000 --> 00:37:32.340
 You become

00:37:32.340 --> 00:37:33.020
 their father

00:37:33.020 --> 00:37:33.300
 in the

00:37:33.300 --> 00:37:33.680
 gospel.

00:37:34.300 --> 00:37:34.440
 Okay?

00:37:34.440 --> 00:37:34.860
 If you

00:37:34.860 --> 00:37:35.539
 have someone

00:37:35.539 --> 00:37:35.840
 where you

00:37:35.840 --> 00:37:36.800
 love them

00:37:36.800 --> 00:37:37.099
 like a

00:37:37.099 --> 00:37:37.840
 brother and

00:37:37.840 --> 00:37:38.220
 a sister,

00:37:38.360 --> 00:37:38.599
 and then

00:37:38.599 --> 00:37:38.980
 through that

00:37:38.980 --> 00:37:39.360
 you start

00:37:39.360 --> 00:37:39.960
 to source

00:37:39.960 --> 00:37:40.420
 them in

00:37:40.420 --> 00:37:41.179
 discipleship,

00:37:41.700 --> 00:37:42.220
 you start

00:37:42.220 --> 00:37:42.619
 to teach

00:37:42.619 --> 00:37:43.019
 them what

00:37:43.019 --> 00:37:43.659
 Jesus has

00:37:43.659 --> 00:37:44.059
 commanded,

00:37:44.539 --> 00:37:44.900
 what ends

00:37:44.900 --> 00:37:45.420
 up happening

00:37:45.420 --> 00:37:46.099
 is you

00:37:46.099 --> 00:37:46.659
 start gaining

00:37:46.659 --> 00:37:47.320
 influence in

00:37:47.320 --> 00:37:47.840
 their life,

00:37:48.099 --> 00:37:48.460
 and maybe

00:37:48.460 --> 00:37:48.860
 they start

00:37:48.860 --> 00:37:49.240
 to relate

00:37:49.240 --> 00:37:49.539
 to you

00:37:49.539 --> 00:37:49.920
 in a

00:37:49.920 --> 00:37:50.579
 more fatherly

00:37:50.579 --> 00:37:50.880
 way.

00:37:51.599 --> 00:37:51.740
 Okay?

00:37:52.099 --> 00:37:52.960
 You never

00:37:52.960 --> 00:37:54.200
 assert like

00:37:54.200 --> 00:37:54.840
 a fatherly

00:37:54.840 --> 00:37:55.400
 authority,

00:37:56.599 --> 00:37:58.800
 but hopefully

00:37:58.800 --> 00:37:59.139
 you have

00:37:59.139 --> 00:37:59.599
 fatherly

00:37:59.599 --> 00:38:00.260
 influence.

00:38:01.599 --> 00:38:01.980
 Even

00:38:01.980 --> 00:38:03.099
 someone who

00:38:03.099 --> 00:38:03.679
 has the

00:38:03.679 --> 00:38:04.320
 title of

00:38:04.320 --> 00:38:04.880
 elder or

00:38:04.880 --> 00:38:06.760
 apostle should

00:38:06.760 --> 00:38:07.200
 be very

00:38:07.200 --> 00:38:08.039
 selective in

00:38:08.039 --> 00:38:08.940
 how often

00:38:08.940 --> 00:38:09.980
 he asserts

00:38:09.980 --> 00:38:10.600
 his authority.

00:38:11.200 --> 00:38:12.160
 Should always

00:38:12.160 --> 00:38:12.760
 try to win

00:38:12.760 --> 00:38:13.700
 influence through

00:38:13.700 --> 00:38:14.280
 relating to

00:38:14.280 --> 00:38:15.180
 people in

00:38:15.180 --> 00:38:15.880
 that familial

00:38:15.880 --> 00:38:16.260
 way.

00:38:16.920 --> 00:38:17.039
 Okay?

00:38:17.180 --> 00:38:18.559
 I have been

00:38:18.559 --> 00:38:19.100
 an elder now

00:38:19.100 --> 00:38:19.680
 for 13

00:38:19.680 --> 00:38:20.200
 years,

00:38:20.980 --> 00:38:22.160
 and elder

00:38:22.160 --> 00:38:22.940
 or slash

00:38:22.940 --> 00:38:23.500
 apostle,

00:38:24.039 --> 00:38:24.720
 church planter

00:38:24.720 --> 00:38:25.400
 in those

00:38:25.400 --> 00:38:26.380
 13 years.

00:38:26.940 --> 00:38:27.120
 Okay?

00:38:27.640 --> 00:38:28.780
 And very

00:38:28.780 --> 00:38:29.580
 rarely do I

00:38:29.580 --> 00:38:30.300
 say,

00:38:30.480 --> 00:38:30.720
 hey,

00:38:30.980 --> 00:38:33.080
 because I'm

00:38:33.080 --> 00:38:33.400
 an elder,

00:38:33.519 --> 00:38:33.860
 this needs

00:38:33.860 --> 00:38:34.220
 to happen.

00:38:34.320 --> 00:38:35.039
 I'm always,

00:38:35.140 --> 00:38:35.460
 always,

00:38:35.539 --> 00:38:36.340
 always trying

00:38:36.340 --> 00:38:36.740
 to win

00:38:36.740 --> 00:38:37.260
 trust.

00:38:37.660 --> 00:38:38.420
 I'm always

00:38:38.420 --> 00:38:39.220
 trying to

00:38:39.220 --> 00:38:40.039
 get into

00:38:40.039 --> 00:38:40.519
 people's

00:38:40.519 --> 00:38:40.900
 lives,

00:38:41.320 --> 00:38:41.600
 serve

00:38:41.600 --> 00:38:42.120
 people,

00:38:42.920 --> 00:38:43.860
 and win

00:38:43.860 --> 00:38:44.640
 influence

00:38:44.640 --> 00:38:46.039
 so that

00:38:46.039 --> 00:38:47.260
 the authority

00:38:47.260 --> 00:38:49.180
 is recognized

00:38:49.180 --> 00:38:51.160
 because there's

00:38:51.160 --> 00:38:51.720
 buy-in,

00:38:51.920 --> 00:38:52.660
 there's sincere

00:38:52.660 --> 00:38:53.180
 brotherly

00:38:53.180 --> 00:38:53.740
 effects to

00:38:53.740 --> 00:38:53.860
 him.

00:38:55.460 --> 00:38:56.380
 I think so

00:38:56.380 --> 00:38:56.860
 often we

00:38:56.860 --> 00:38:57.080
 think,

00:38:57.160 --> 00:38:57.400
 well,

00:38:58.000 --> 00:38:58.680
 the influence

00:38:58.680 --> 00:38:59.220
 comes from

00:38:59.220 --> 00:38:59.640
 a title.

00:38:59.639 --> 00:39:00.099
 no,

00:39:00.779 --> 00:39:01.259
 no,

00:39:01.259 --> 00:39:01.460
 no,

00:39:01.460 --> 00:39:02.639
 no.

00:39:03.839 --> 00:39:04.299
 Influence

00:39:04.299 --> 00:39:05.319
 comes from

00:39:05.319 --> 00:39:06.119
 loving one

00:39:06.119 --> 00:39:06.500
 another like

00:39:06.500 --> 00:39:06.980
 brothers and

00:39:06.980 --> 00:39:07.359
 sisters.

00:39:08.960 --> 00:39:09.799
 The best,

00:39:09.920 --> 00:39:10.539
 most effective

00:39:10.539 --> 00:39:11.859
 leaders weren't

00:39:11.859 --> 00:39:12.619
 someone that just

00:39:12.619 --> 00:39:13.639
 got conferred a

00:39:13.639 --> 00:39:14.000
 title,

00:39:14.400 --> 00:39:14.940
 and we know how

00:39:14.940 --> 00:39:15.440
 this is.

00:39:15.500 --> 00:39:16.119
 You've seen this

00:39:16.119 --> 00:39:16.940
 in business,

00:39:17.199 --> 00:39:17.719
 you've seen this

00:39:17.719 --> 00:39:18.259
 in churches,

00:39:18.259 --> 00:39:19.359
 when someone just

00:39:19.359 --> 00:39:20.119
 gets conferred a

00:39:20.119 --> 00:39:20.639
 title and you're

00:39:20.639 --> 00:39:21.079
 just like,

00:39:22.079 --> 00:39:23.539
 who's this

00:39:23.539 --> 00:39:23.920
 person?

00:39:23.920 --> 00:39:25.119
 They don't

00:39:25.119 --> 00:39:25.840
 know anybody.

00:39:26.019 --> 00:39:26.720
 You see this in

00:39:26.720 --> 00:39:27.900
 war movies where

00:39:27.900 --> 00:39:29.760
 you see all of a

00:39:29.760 --> 00:39:30.639
 sudden so-and-so

00:39:30.639 --> 00:39:31.940
 has this

00:39:31.940 --> 00:39:33.639
 authority position

00:39:33.639 --> 00:39:34.980
 in the platoon or

00:39:34.980 --> 00:39:35.300
 whatever,

00:39:35.800 --> 00:39:36.059
 and you're just

00:39:36.059 --> 00:39:36.300
 thinking,

00:39:36.720 --> 00:39:37.900
 this guy has

00:39:37.900 --> 00:39:38.940
 won no trust

00:39:38.940 --> 00:39:39.460
 with any of the

00:39:39.460 --> 00:39:39.880
 soldiers.

00:39:40.559 --> 00:39:41.559
 He hasn't laid

00:39:41.559 --> 00:39:42.340
 down his life for

00:39:42.340 --> 00:39:42.840
 any of them.

00:39:43.159 --> 00:39:44.079
 He's not served

00:39:44.079 --> 00:39:44.440
 them.

00:39:44.780 --> 00:39:45.780
 He's not been in

00:39:45.780 --> 00:39:46.579
 the trenches with

00:39:46.579 --> 00:39:46.860
 them.

00:39:47.360 --> 00:39:47.539
 Now,

00:39:47.599 --> 00:39:48.380
 he has a place of

00:39:48.380 --> 00:39:48.760
 authority,

00:39:48.900 --> 00:39:49.260
 but he doesn't

00:39:49.260 --> 00:39:49.940
 have respect and

00:39:49.940 --> 00:39:50.420
 he doesn't have

00:39:50.420 --> 00:39:51.000
 influence.

00:39:51.659 --> 00:39:52.400
 That's honestly

00:39:52.400 --> 00:39:53.200
 the worst kind.

00:39:53.920 --> 00:39:54.940
 The best kind

00:39:54.940 --> 00:39:56.019
 is the kind of

00:39:56.019 --> 00:39:57.240
 authority that's

00:39:57.240 --> 00:39:57.980
 real authority,

00:39:58.579 --> 00:39:59.260
 but that would

00:39:59.260 --> 00:40:00.559
 still have the

00:40:00.559 --> 00:40:01.460
 same influence

00:40:01.460 --> 00:40:02.200
 even if the

00:40:02.200 --> 00:40:03.159
 title was removed.

00:40:04.260 --> 00:40:05.460
 Because behind

00:40:05.460 --> 00:40:06.380
 that authority is

00:40:06.380 --> 00:40:07.059
 real serving,

00:40:07.280 --> 00:40:08.059
 is real brotherly

00:40:08.059 --> 00:40:08.500
 affection,

00:40:09.019 --> 00:40:09.700
 is real brother

00:40:09.700 --> 00:40:10.159
 and sister

00:40:10.159 --> 00:40:10.860
 relationship.

00:40:11.360 --> 00:40:11.820
 Does that make

00:40:11.820 --> 00:40:12.200
 sense?

00:40:12.920 --> 00:40:13.800
 And that's what we

00:40:13.800 --> 00:40:14.500
 should fight for.

00:40:14.960 --> 00:40:15.559
 And that's what you

00:40:15.559 --> 00:40:16.220
 should always fight

00:40:16.220 --> 00:40:17.019
 for, even if you

00:40:17.019 --> 00:40:17.659
 would get a title

00:40:17.659 --> 00:40:19.119
 someday, or an

00:40:19.119 --> 00:40:19.920
 office or a

00:40:19.920 --> 00:40:20.300
 position.

00:40:20.960 --> 00:40:21.539
 Let's say some

00:40:21.539 --> 00:40:22.320
 of you men become

00:40:22.320 --> 00:40:23.320
 elders in this

00:40:23.320 --> 00:40:23.780
 church,

00:40:23.920 --> 00:40:24.800
 you would never

00:40:24.800 --> 00:40:26.019
 want to rest on

00:40:26.019 --> 00:40:26.220
 that.

00:40:26.300 --> 00:40:26.659
 You would never

00:40:26.659 --> 00:40:27.240
 want to just say,

00:40:27.320 --> 00:40:27.980
 well, because of

00:40:27.980 --> 00:40:29.200
 that, that's the

00:40:29.200 --> 00:40:29.460
 deal.

00:40:29.579 --> 00:40:29.820
 No.

00:40:30.079 --> 00:40:31.019
 We always want to

00:40:31.019 --> 00:40:32.139
 build trust,

00:40:32.420 --> 00:40:34.480
 build that rapport

00:40:34.480 --> 00:40:35.900
 and that influence

00:40:35.900 --> 00:40:37.280
 that comes from

00:40:37.280 --> 00:40:38.320
 being someone who

00:40:38.320 --> 00:40:39.220
 cares enough like a

00:40:39.220 --> 00:40:39.760
 brother or a

00:40:39.760 --> 00:40:40.019
 sister.

00:40:41.139 --> 00:40:42.159
 Or like a father

00:40:42.159 --> 00:40:42.680
 or a mother.

00:40:43.460 --> 00:40:44.260
 Because when you

00:40:44.260 --> 00:40:44.880
 get into those

00:40:44.880 --> 00:40:45.440
 things, it's like

00:40:45.440 --> 00:40:46.119
 that's more of a

00:40:46.119 --> 00:40:47.420
 fatherly, an elder

00:40:47.420 --> 00:40:48.300
 should be a father,

00:40:48.460 --> 00:40:49.320
 an apostle should be

00:40:49.320 --> 00:40:49.800
 a father.

00:40:50.420 --> 00:40:50.579
 Okay?

00:40:50.860 --> 00:40:51.860
 But he's first a

00:40:51.860 --> 00:40:53.079
 brother, just like

00:40:53.079 --> 00:40:53.539
 Paul was.

00:40:53.920 --> 00:40:54.559
 Right?

00:40:54.900 --> 00:40:55.539
 It's like Paul was

00:40:55.539 --> 00:40:56.139
 with Titus,

00:40:56.460 --> 00:40:57.000
 Timothy,

00:40:57.400 --> 00:40:58.119
 Onesimus.

00:40:59.360 --> 00:41:01.700
 And so, you

00:41:01.700 --> 00:41:02.159
 can see the

00:41:02.159 --> 00:41:02.639
 difference here.

00:41:02.740 --> 00:41:03.440
 There's parenting

00:41:03.440 --> 00:41:04.200
 authority, elder

00:41:04.200 --> 00:41:05.820
 authority, apostle

00:41:05.820 --> 00:41:06.340
 authority.

00:41:06.820 --> 00:41:07.800
 I forgot one.

00:41:08.099 --> 00:41:08.920
 There's also Bible

00:41:08.920 --> 00:41:09.320
 authority.

00:41:09.440 --> 00:41:10.000
 Here's one other

00:41:10.000 --> 00:41:11.220
 authority that we

00:41:11.220 --> 00:41:11.740
 can have.

00:41:12.320 --> 00:41:12.519
 Okay?

00:41:12.900 --> 00:41:13.300
 This is an

00:41:13.300 --> 00:41:13.840
 important one.

00:41:14.200 --> 00:41:14.740
 So you might not

00:41:14.740 --> 00:41:18.079
 have a parenting

00:41:18.079 --> 00:41:18.900
 role in someone's

00:41:18.900 --> 00:41:19.420
 life where you're

00:41:19.420 --> 00:41:19.960
 like they're your

00:41:19.960 --> 00:41:23.480
 kid or you're an

00:41:23.480 --> 00:41:24.039
 elder in the

00:41:24.039 --> 00:41:25.500
 church over them.

00:41:26.000 --> 00:41:26.099
 Okay?

00:41:26.579 --> 00:41:28.539
 But you can come

00:41:28.539 --> 00:41:29.760
 to anyone, older,

00:41:29.980 --> 00:41:31.380
 younger, and you

00:41:31.380 --> 00:41:32.300
 can speak with the

00:41:32.300 --> 00:41:32.840
 authority of the

00:41:32.840 --> 00:41:33.380
 word of God.

00:41:34.099 --> 00:41:35.139
 You know, if someone

00:41:35.139 --> 00:41:36.280
 was in an affair in

00:41:36.280 --> 00:41:37.940
 this church, you have

00:41:37.940 --> 00:41:39.400
 full authority to say,

00:41:39.539 --> 00:41:40.760
 you must repent.

00:41:41.579 --> 00:41:42.180
 It's like, hey, you

00:41:42.180 --> 00:41:42.920
 can't take authority

00:41:42.920 --> 00:41:43.280
 over me.

00:41:43.340 --> 00:41:44.000
 You're not my elder.

00:41:44.000 --> 00:41:45.239
 It's like, you're

00:41:45.239 --> 00:41:45.480
 right.

00:41:45.760 --> 00:41:46.380
 I'm not.

00:41:47.099 --> 00:41:48.940
 But Jesus happens to

00:41:48.940 --> 00:41:49.460
 have a lot of

00:41:49.460 --> 00:41:50.320
 authority over you, and

00:41:50.320 --> 00:41:51.400
 he's the one who said

00:41:51.400 --> 00:41:53.179
 in his word, you know,

00:41:53.219 --> 00:41:53.980
 the Bible says in the

00:41:53.980 --> 00:41:54.679
 word that this is

00:41:54.679 --> 00:41:55.400
 adultery and you

00:41:55.400 --> 00:41:56.079
 can't do that.

00:41:56.500 --> 00:41:57.380
 You must repent.

00:41:58.199 --> 00:41:58.360
 Okay?

00:41:58.400 --> 00:41:59.280
 So there's authority

00:41:59.280 --> 00:42:00.219
 in the word of God.

00:42:00.539 --> 00:42:02.480
 Now, when we claim

00:42:02.480 --> 00:42:03.219
 authority in the word

00:42:03.219 --> 00:42:05.320
 of God, you know,

00:42:05.400 --> 00:42:07.260
 over things that

00:42:07.260 --> 00:42:07.880
 aren't really in the

00:42:07.880 --> 00:42:08.679
 word of God or these

00:42:08.679 --> 00:42:09.679
 disputable matters that

00:42:09.679 --> 00:42:10.619
 can get weird really

00:42:10.619 --> 00:42:12.000
 fast, but when we're

00:42:12.000 --> 00:42:13.880
 talking about there's a

00:42:13.880 --> 00:42:14.800
 lot in here that's

00:42:14.800 --> 00:42:15.920
 not disputable, right?

00:42:16.280 --> 00:42:17.559
 We all have authority,

00:42:17.660 --> 00:42:18.280
 all of us.

00:42:18.860 --> 00:42:19.460
 I don't care if you're

00:42:19.460 --> 00:42:20.320
 a man or a woman.

00:42:20.460 --> 00:42:20.900
 I don't care if you're

00:42:20.900 --> 00:42:23.280
 young or old, right?

00:42:23.860 --> 00:42:24.980
 We have authority to

00:42:24.980 --> 00:42:25.920
 call people to

00:42:25.920 --> 00:42:27.400
 obedience to Jesus,

00:42:28.000 --> 00:42:28.920
 obedience to the word

00:42:28.920 --> 00:42:30.660
 of God, and there's an

00:42:30.660 --> 00:42:31.579
 authority in that, and

00:42:31.579 --> 00:42:32.220
 you can speak

00:42:32.220 --> 00:42:33.740
 authoritatively on that,

00:42:33.860 --> 00:42:34.420
 and you should.

00:42:35.039 --> 00:42:35.700
 You should.

00:42:35.820 --> 00:42:36.460
 That's important.

00:42:37.740 --> 00:42:38.980
 But it's important to

00:42:38.980 --> 00:42:40.579
 sometimes we can do

00:42:40.579 --> 00:42:41.320
 that and then think,

00:42:41.440 --> 00:42:42.079
 oh, well, then I have

00:42:42.079 --> 00:42:42.660
 the world that, you

00:42:42.660 --> 00:42:43.260
 know, I could say,

00:42:43.260 --> 00:42:45.680
 hey, you must move

00:42:45.680 --> 00:42:46.440
 to Raytown.

00:42:46.600 --> 00:42:47.100
 It's like, well,

00:42:47.180 --> 00:42:47.800
 hold on here.

00:42:48.080 --> 00:42:50.020
 I mean, you just

00:42:50.020 --> 00:42:51.140
 kind of overstepped it.

00:42:51.460 --> 00:42:52.240
 But if I say, hey,

00:42:52.300 --> 00:42:53.120
 yeah, you must repent

00:42:53.120 --> 00:42:53.980
 of adultery, yeah,

00:42:54.120 --> 00:42:54.420
 you do.

00:42:54.520 --> 00:42:55.240
 You need to repent

00:42:55.240 --> 00:42:55.980
 of adultery if you're

00:42:55.980 --> 00:42:56.320
 an adult.

00:42:57.020 --> 00:42:58.000
 Those kind of things.

00:42:58.520 --> 00:42:59.320
 So in closing,

00:43:00.840 --> 00:43:02.380
 what do we do with

00:43:02.380 --> 00:43:02.600
 this?

00:43:02.760 --> 00:43:03.720
 How do we respond to

00:43:03.720 --> 00:43:03.980
 this?

00:43:04.800 --> 00:43:05.780
 Five quick things

00:43:05.780 --> 00:43:05.920
 here.

00:43:05.960 --> 00:43:06.360
 I'm just going to

00:43:06.360 --> 00:43:06.760
 read through.

00:43:07.040 --> 00:43:08.780
 Number one, seek to

00:43:08.780 --> 00:43:09.840
 grow in brotherly love

00:43:09.840 --> 00:43:10.360
 and affection.

00:43:11.300 --> 00:43:12.320
 Seek to grow in that.

00:43:12.320 --> 00:43:13.039
 Okay?

00:43:13.200 --> 00:43:14.120
 I know we want to

00:43:14.120 --> 00:43:14.880
 experience more

00:43:14.880 --> 00:43:16.000
 familial relationship.

00:43:16.740 --> 00:43:17.620
 I'm trying to be more

00:43:17.620 --> 00:43:19.340
 specific with how we do

00:43:19.340 --> 00:43:19.660
 that.

00:43:19.900 --> 00:43:20.900
 It starts with just being

00:43:20.900 --> 00:43:21.860
 brother and sister to

00:43:21.860 --> 00:43:22.980
 one another and being

00:43:22.980 --> 00:43:25.680
 creative and intentional

00:43:25.680 --> 00:43:27.820
 to do that and to relate

00:43:27.820 --> 00:43:28.740
 to one another that way.

00:43:29.120 --> 00:43:29.960
 Again, how can I do

00:43:29.960 --> 00:43:30.200
 that?

00:43:30.860 --> 00:43:32.559
 How can I start with

00:43:32.559 --> 00:43:34.360
 that in every interaction

00:43:34.360 --> 00:43:35.620
 that I have with people?

00:43:35.619 --> 00:43:37.279
 When I see them on a

00:43:37.279 --> 00:43:38.359
 Sunday morning like this,

00:43:38.460 --> 00:43:39.880
 when we hang out in

00:43:39.880 --> 00:43:40.920
 each other's homes or

00:43:40.920 --> 00:43:41.759
 we're doing other

00:43:41.759 --> 00:43:42.920
 things, when I see these

00:43:42.920 --> 00:43:44.460
 people, how am I

00:43:44.460 --> 00:43:45.119
 relating to them?

00:43:45.599 --> 00:43:46.880
 And seek to grow in

00:43:46.880 --> 00:43:47.980
 brotherly love and

00:43:47.980 --> 00:43:48.400
 affection.

00:43:48.759 --> 00:43:49.539
 And know, again,

00:43:49.579 --> 00:43:50.739
 remember, know that

00:43:50.739 --> 00:43:52.619
 Jesus in you is full of

00:43:52.619 --> 00:43:53.480
 brotherly affection,

00:43:54.239 --> 00:43:55.039
 right, and brotherly

00:43:55.039 --> 00:43:55.279
 love.

00:43:56.219 --> 00:43:56.440
 Okay?

00:43:56.819 --> 00:43:58.679
 Number two, seek to

00:43:58.679 --> 00:43:59.960
 grow in fatherly and

00:43:59.960 --> 00:44:00.619
 motherly influence.

00:44:02.059 --> 00:44:02.500
 Okay?

00:44:03.139 --> 00:44:03.819
 Seek to grow in

00:44:03.819 --> 00:44:04.639
 fatherly and motherly

00:44:04.639 --> 00:44:04.900
 influence.

00:44:04.900 --> 00:44:05.619
 Honestly, we should

00:44:05.619 --> 00:44:07.000
 all seek to do that.

00:44:07.740 --> 00:44:08.720
 Like the goal, I mean,

00:44:09.300 --> 00:44:10.119
 especially for some of

00:44:10.119 --> 00:44:10.920
 us who are younger, that

00:44:10.920 --> 00:44:12.480
 might be, take a little

00:44:12.480 --> 00:44:13.280
 longer to get there.

00:44:13.440 --> 00:44:14.660
 It's, it's, it's harder

00:44:14.660 --> 00:44:15.619
 for people to relate to

00:44:15.619 --> 00:44:16.440
 younger people that way.

00:44:16.480 --> 00:44:17.519
 That's just makes sense,

00:44:17.539 --> 00:44:17.800
 right?

00:44:18.360 --> 00:44:19.260
 But you should also

00:44:19.260 --> 00:44:20.039
 never think, well,

00:44:20.079 --> 00:44:20.800
 because I'm young, I

00:44:20.800 --> 00:44:22.559
 can never have, um, the

00:44:22.559 --> 00:44:23.420
 word father in the Bible

00:44:23.420 --> 00:44:24.280
 means source.

00:44:24.680 --> 00:44:25.079
 Okay?

00:44:25.320 --> 00:44:26.139
 It's even translated

00:44:26.139 --> 00:44:27.240
 that way in some versions

00:44:27.240 --> 00:44:28.099
 where it says the father

00:44:28.099 --> 00:44:28.920
 of all compassion.

00:44:29.180 --> 00:44:30.340
 Some versions will say the

00:44:30.340 --> 00:44:31.519
 source of all compassion

00:44:31.519 --> 00:44:33.820
 because it's the same, uh,

00:44:33.820 --> 00:44:34.440
 same meaning.

00:44:35.000 --> 00:44:35.740
 Father means source.

00:44:35.840 --> 00:44:37.260
 So young people can source

00:44:37.260 --> 00:44:39.019
 older people because they

00:44:39.019 --> 00:44:39.519
 have Christ.

00:44:39.960 --> 00:44:41.019
 They have the word of God,

00:44:41.300 --> 00:44:41.539
 right?

00:44:42.200 --> 00:44:43.460
 So even if you're younger,

00:44:43.500 --> 00:44:44.480
 you can seek that, but

00:44:44.480 --> 00:44:46.639
 irregardless of age, we

00:44:46.639 --> 00:44:47.659
 should all seek to say,

00:44:47.720 --> 00:44:49.980
 Hey, I want to become in

00:44:49.980 --> 00:44:51.500
 Christ, in the spirit.

00:44:51.500 --> 00:44:53.019
 I want to become more

00:44:53.019 --> 00:44:54.920
 fatherly, more motherly,

00:44:55.039 --> 00:44:55.340
 right?

00:44:55.639 --> 00:44:56.480
 Does that make sense?

00:44:56.820 --> 00:44:57.719
 We should all seek to

00:44:57.719 --> 00:44:57.980
 that.

00:44:58.619 --> 00:45:00.900
 But remembering the first

00:45:00.900 --> 00:45:03.159
 one though, I grow in

00:45:03.159 --> 00:45:04.199
 fatherly or motherly

00:45:04.199 --> 00:45:06.539
 influence after I seek to

00:45:06.539 --> 00:45:07.579
 grow in brotherly love and

00:45:07.579 --> 00:45:09.420
 affection, sisterly love and

00:45:09.420 --> 00:45:09.840
 affection.

00:45:10.199 --> 00:45:11.659
 When I lay that foundation,

00:45:11.940 --> 00:45:13.099
 then my fatherly and

00:45:13.099 --> 00:45:15.360
 motherly influence will go

00:45:15.360 --> 00:45:15.719
 up.

00:45:16.539 --> 00:45:16.659
 Okay.

00:45:17.099 --> 00:45:19.959
 Number three, men, aspire to

00:45:19.959 --> 00:45:21.939
 eldership, aspire to

00:45:21.939 --> 00:45:22.459
 eldership.

00:45:22.739 --> 00:45:22.859
 Okay.

00:45:23.039 --> 00:45:23.959
 Some of you aren't called to

00:45:23.959 --> 00:45:24.339
 be elders.

00:45:24.500 --> 00:45:24.779
 Okay.

00:45:24.919 --> 00:45:28.199
 But even just aspire, if that

00:45:28.199 --> 00:45:29.079
 is something we think that

00:45:29.079 --> 00:45:31.139
 God's called you to, aspire to

00:45:31.139 --> 00:45:31.239
 it.

00:45:31.279 --> 00:45:32.139
 Don't just say, that'd be

00:45:32.139 --> 00:45:32.439
 cool.

00:45:33.399 --> 00:45:34.199
 Aspire to it.

00:45:34.399 --> 00:45:35.500
 Well, how do you aspire to

00:45:35.500 --> 00:45:35.659
 it?

00:45:36.000 --> 00:45:37.379
 Be a good brother.

00:45:37.380 --> 00:45:40.160
 Lord, love the sisters well,

00:45:40.760 --> 00:45:42.380
 love your brothers well, love

00:45:42.380 --> 00:45:43.180
 the brotherhood.

00:45:43.920 --> 00:45:44.059
 Okay.

00:45:44.980 --> 00:45:46.380
 And even if you're not called

00:45:46.380 --> 00:45:49.160
 to be an elder, still aspire

00:45:49.160 --> 00:45:50.980
 to the character qualities of

00:45:50.980 --> 00:45:51.340
 an elder.

00:45:51.800 --> 00:45:51.980
 Okay.

00:45:52.059 --> 00:45:53.440
 That's a noble thing.

00:45:53.500 --> 00:45:54.420
 Those are good things.

00:45:55.920 --> 00:45:57.400
 But yeah, aspire to that.

00:45:57.660 --> 00:45:59.640
 Number four, don't assert or

00:45:59.640 --> 00:46:01.440
 affirm imaginary authority.

00:46:01.900 --> 00:46:02.039
 Okay.

00:46:02.440 --> 00:46:04.619
 Don't try to, that's the

00:46:04.619 --> 00:46:05.500
 shortcut, right?

00:46:05.500 --> 00:46:05.539
 Right.

00:46:06.059 --> 00:46:07.579
 The, the, the temptation for

00:46:07.579 --> 00:46:09.519
 a church plant is to try to

00:46:09.519 --> 00:46:10.340
 shortcut things.

00:46:10.340 --> 00:46:11.300
 It was just like, oh, can

00:46:11.300 --> 00:46:12.480
 we get going on this?

00:46:13.000 --> 00:46:14.639
 Like, I just want to, I want

00:46:14.639 --> 00:46:15.800
 this experience of family

00:46:15.800 --> 00:46:16.420
 faster.

00:46:17.039 --> 00:46:19.019
 And so we try to shortcut it

00:46:19.019 --> 00:46:23.679
 by, you know, pressing things

00:46:23.679 --> 00:46:25.079
 that take a lot longer and

00:46:25.079 --> 00:46:26.179
 we're trying to speed them up.

00:46:26.179 --> 00:46:28.059
 And so we try to force them or

00:46:28.059 --> 00:46:28.880
 assert them.

00:46:28.880 --> 00:46:30.039
 And we try to, we start

00:46:30.039 --> 00:46:30.960
 relating to each other in

00:46:30.960 --> 00:46:31.380
 weird ways.

00:46:31.460 --> 00:46:32.840
 It's like, there's no

00:46:32.840 --> 00:46:33.739
 shortcuts in this.

00:46:34.139 --> 00:46:35.219
 There's no shortcuts.

00:46:35.500 --> 00:46:37.519
 You can't go any faster than

00:46:37.519 --> 00:46:38.659
 the pace of relationship.

00:46:39.099 --> 00:46:40.019
 You can't.

00:46:40.420 --> 00:46:41.340
 You can't go any faster than

00:46:41.340 --> 00:46:42.280
 the pace of relationship.

00:46:42.980 --> 00:46:46.860
 And I know, just as you do,

00:46:47.659 --> 00:46:48.639
 that sometimes that's

00:46:48.639 --> 00:46:49.079
 frustrating.

00:46:49.860 --> 00:46:51.079
 Sometimes you wish there was

00:46:51.079 --> 00:46:52.099
 more brotherly sister

00:46:52.099 --> 00:46:52.519
 relationship.

00:46:52.940 --> 00:46:53.880
 Sometimes you wish you had

00:46:53.880 --> 00:46:54.659
 more influence.

00:46:55.280 --> 00:46:56.159
 Have you ever wished you had

00:46:56.159 --> 00:46:56.679
 more influence?

00:46:57.400 --> 00:46:58.519
 I certainly have.

00:46:59.460 --> 00:47:00.480
 Sometimes you wish, man, I

00:47:00.480 --> 00:47:02.039
 wish I had more impact in

00:47:02.039 --> 00:47:02.880
 this person's life.

00:47:02.880 --> 00:47:05.019
 I wish I had more trust in

00:47:05.019 --> 00:47:05.800
 this person's life.

00:47:05.880 --> 00:47:07.160
 I wish they trusted me more.

00:47:07.700 --> 00:47:09.300
 I wish I trusted them more.

00:47:09.760 --> 00:47:09.860
 Right?

00:47:09.940 --> 00:47:10.640
 Sometimes it's the other way

00:47:10.640 --> 00:47:10.840
 around.

00:47:10.900 --> 00:47:12.260
 You're like, I love this guy,

00:47:12.380 --> 00:47:14.400
 but I love this girl, but I

00:47:14.400 --> 00:47:15.260
 don't really, I don't really

00:47:15.260 --> 00:47:15.780
 trust them.

00:47:15.840 --> 00:47:16.680
 But I want to.

00:47:17.619 --> 00:47:17.860
 Right?

00:47:18.300 --> 00:47:19.780
 You can't speed that up.

00:47:19.840 --> 00:47:21.360
 It's not like, well, if I just,

00:47:21.619 --> 00:47:22.019
 you know.

00:47:22.700 --> 00:47:23.360
 It's time.

00:47:24.420 --> 00:47:24.820
 Time.

00:47:25.200 --> 00:47:25.880
 Takes time.

00:47:26.280 --> 00:47:27.240
 Be okay with that.

00:47:27.619 --> 00:47:30.260
 Be okay with it taking time to

00:47:30.260 --> 00:47:32.220
 build the trust, to build

00:47:32.220 --> 00:47:32.840
 relationship.

00:47:33.360 --> 00:47:34.900
 And don't try to shortcut it.

00:47:35.400 --> 00:47:37.040
 Don't try to force your way

00:47:37.040 --> 00:47:38.340
 into people's lives or onto

00:47:38.340 --> 00:47:40.040
 people or have them to relate

00:47:40.040 --> 00:47:40.980
 to you in any weird way.

00:47:41.540 --> 00:47:42.720
 You know, if you're thinking,

00:47:42.840 --> 00:47:43.840
 man, they just don't trust me.

00:47:44.080 --> 00:47:44.860
 Well, they should trust me.

00:47:44.900 --> 00:47:45.700
 Why don't they trust me?

00:47:48.200 --> 00:47:50.420
 Let the relationship determine

00:47:50.420 --> 00:47:51.700
 where you're at, not you

00:47:51.700 --> 00:47:52.780
 determine where you're at.

00:47:53.480 --> 00:47:54.600
 I know, I don't know about you,

00:47:54.660 --> 00:47:56.120
 but in my mind, I'm like, you

00:47:56.120 --> 00:47:56.940
 ever think that, man, they

00:47:56.940 --> 00:47:57.540
 should trust me.

00:47:58.720 --> 00:47:59.460
 But they don't.

00:47:59.460 --> 00:48:00.260
 So what am I going to do?

00:48:00.380 --> 00:48:01.720
 Assert my trust?

00:48:02.320 --> 00:48:03.400
 Hey, you should trust me.

00:48:03.659 --> 00:48:04.440
 Oh, that makes me really

00:48:04.440 --> 00:48:05.079
 trust you more.

00:48:05.440 --> 00:48:06.579
 I love it when you say that

00:48:06.579 --> 00:48:06.960
 to me.

00:48:07.460 --> 00:48:08.639
 I've never trusted you more

00:48:08.639 --> 00:48:09.539
 than when you said you should

00:48:09.539 --> 00:48:10.099
 trust me.

00:48:11.059 --> 00:48:13.039
 That doesn't work that way,

00:48:13.079 --> 00:48:13.360
 right?

00:48:13.679 --> 00:48:15.240
 So whenever I feel like someone

00:48:15.240 --> 00:48:17.019
 doesn't trust me, although I'm

00:48:17.019 --> 00:48:18.720
 tempted to be like, come on,

00:48:18.760 --> 00:48:21.000
 man, you should trust me.

00:48:21.760 --> 00:48:23.500
 That to me is kind of a

00:48:23.500 --> 00:48:26.679
 dashboard light that says, hey,

00:48:28.000 --> 00:48:29.400
 you got to pay attention here.

00:48:29.460 --> 00:48:30.820
 You got more work to do.

00:48:31.220 --> 00:48:32.699
 But I don't want more work.

00:48:33.440 --> 00:48:34.139
 Well, too bad.

00:48:34.679 --> 00:48:35.720
 The dashboard of your

00:48:35.720 --> 00:48:37.059
 relationships is telling you,

00:48:37.420 --> 00:48:38.940
 you got more work to do.

00:48:39.579 --> 00:48:41.000
 But shouldn't it take less

00:48:41.000 --> 00:48:41.679
 time than this?

00:48:42.380 --> 00:48:42.880
 Should?

00:48:43.440 --> 00:48:45.039
 Who determines the should?

00:48:46.000 --> 00:48:47.119
 Shouldn't we be farther

00:48:47.119 --> 00:48:47.980
 along by now?

00:48:48.480 --> 00:48:49.019
 Should we?

00:48:49.740 --> 00:48:51.179
 Where do we get this should

00:48:51.179 --> 00:48:51.579
 from?

00:48:52.260 --> 00:48:53.699
 Where does the should come

00:48:53.699 --> 00:48:54.019
 from?

00:48:54.460 --> 00:48:55.780
 How long should it take?

00:48:56.059 --> 00:48:56.780
 Great question.

00:48:57.280 --> 00:48:58.400
 It's not in here.

00:48:59.440 --> 00:49:00.760
 You're not going to find in

00:49:00.760 --> 00:49:02.200
 here where it says, well, it

00:49:02.200 --> 00:49:03.880
 takes this long to build

00:49:03.880 --> 00:49:05.519
 family and to build trust and

00:49:05.519 --> 00:49:06.460
 to really be brothers and

00:49:06.460 --> 00:49:07.519
 sisters and to raise up

00:49:07.519 --> 00:49:09.340
 fathers and mothers and all

00:49:09.340 --> 00:49:09.920
 that stuff.

00:49:10.280 --> 00:49:11.100
 It takes this long.

00:49:11.500 --> 00:49:14.260
 But in our minds, we put times

00:49:14.260 --> 00:49:15.120
 and dates, right?

00:49:19.120 --> 00:49:19.980
 Sam and I were just talking

00:49:19.980 --> 00:49:20.620
 about this other day.

00:49:20.619 --> 00:49:23.539
 Should we be farther

00:49:23.539 --> 00:49:23.940
 along?

00:49:24.559 --> 00:49:25.199
 You tell me.

00:49:25.559 --> 00:49:26.699
 Is that should in here?

00:49:26.799 --> 00:49:27.420
 No, it's not.

00:49:27.619 --> 00:49:28.920
 If the should ain't here, then

00:49:28.920 --> 00:49:29.900
 you should get the should out

00:49:29.900 --> 00:49:30.440
 of your mind.

00:49:31.400 --> 00:49:31.559
 Okay?

00:49:32.639 --> 00:49:34.480
 Because you start thinking

00:49:34.480 --> 00:49:36.500
 things in a way that is not

00:49:36.500 --> 00:49:36.839
 helpful.

00:49:39.440 --> 00:49:41.880
 So, and then lastly,

00:49:42.599 --> 00:49:45.679
 number five, outdo one another

00:49:45.679 --> 00:49:46.440
 in showing honor.

00:49:47.039 --> 00:49:48.259
 That's from Romans 12.10,

00:49:48.319 --> 00:49:49.139
 which says, love one another

00:49:49.139 --> 00:49:49.960
 with brotherly affection.

00:49:50.059 --> 00:49:51.000
 And then it closes with,

00:49:51.359 --> 00:49:52.480
 outdo one another in showing

00:49:52.480 --> 00:49:52.779
 honor.

00:49:53.219 --> 00:49:54.199
 You know, it's a great way to

00:49:54.199 --> 00:49:55.460
 love one another like a good

00:49:55.460 --> 00:49:55.799
 brother.

00:49:56.440 --> 00:49:58.879
 I mean, a lot of brothers and

00:49:58.879 --> 00:50:00.279
 sisters kind of like to do

00:50:00.279 --> 00:50:00.799
 the opposite.

00:50:01.239 --> 00:50:02.359
 Outdo one another in showing

00:50:02.359 --> 00:50:03.460
 dishonor to one another

00:50:03.460 --> 00:50:05.019
 sometimes, you know, teasing

00:50:05.019 --> 00:50:06.779
 and like, you know, doing all

00:50:06.779 --> 00:50:07.559
 kinds of things.

00:50:07.779 --> 00:50:09.039
 And now you guys can't relate

00:50:09.039 --> 00:50:09.920
 to any of this, but you know,

00:50:09.960 --> 00:50:11.400
 some some brothers do that.

00:50:11.839 --> 00:50:12.379
 All right.

00:50:12.400 --> 00:50:14.239
 Where we're like constantly

00:50:14.239 --> 00:50:15.480
 getting at each other.

00:50:15.879 --> 00:50:17.339
 But the Bible says out in the

00:50:17.339 --> 00:50:18.719
 same context as brotherly

00:50:18.719 --> 00:50:20.679
 affection says outdo one

00:50:20.679 --> 00:50:21.739
 another in showing honor.

00:50:22.919 --> 00:50:25.619
 What would that do to our

00:50:25.619 --> 00:50:27.659
 familial relationships and to

00:50:27.659 --> 00:50:30.000
 the speed at which we get more

00:50:30.000 --> 00:50:32.219
 trust and more of that familial

00:50:32.219 --> 00:50:32.759
 experience?

00:50:32.879 --> 00:50:34.500
 If all of us were really

00:50:34.500 --> 00:50:38.179
 intentional to outdo one

00:50:38.179 --> 00:50:40.019
 another in showing honor, that

00:50:40.019 --> 00:50:41.059
 if we had a good godly

00:50:41.059 --> 00:50:42.419
 competition to see who could

00:50:42.419 --> 00:50:44.500
 show the most honor, that's the

00:50:44.500 --> 00:50:46.000
 only competition that I see in

00:50:46.000 --> 00:50:48.239
 Bible that is encouraged to do

00:50:48.239 --> 00:50:51.159
 among believers in the context

00:50:51.159 --> 00:50:53.340
 of their life together is outdo

00:50:53.340 --> 00:50:54.780
 one another in showing honor.

00:50:55.539 --> 00:50:57.139
 And if we did that in the

00:50:57.139 --> 00:50:58.559
 context of brotherly affection,

00:50:58.679 --> 00:50:59.800
 because that's the context he's

00:50:59.800 --> 00:51:02.460
 saying this in, what would that

00:51:02.460 --> 00:51:02.960
 look like?

00:51:03.579 --> 00:51:05.139
 And I think, you know, none of us,

00:51:05.340 --> 00:51:06.480
 myself included, any of us, I

00:51:06.480 --> 00:51:07.219
 don't think any of us could say,

00:51:07.300 --> 00:51:08.679
 well, I do that perfectly.

00:51:08.780 --> 00:51:09.579
 I got that down.

00:51:10.019 --> 00:51:11.599
 I could I don't I can't show any

00:51:11.599 --> 00:51:12.719
 more honor than I already do.

00:51:13.099 --> 00:51:14.519
 No, we could all do that.

00:51:15.159 --> 00:51:16.880
 And if someone else is doing it

00:51:16.880 --> 00:51:17.639
 more than you, then there you

00:51:17.639 --> 00:51:17.799
 go.

00:51:17.880 --> 00:51:18.440
 Outdo them.

00:51:18.799 --> 00:51:19.679
 There's your new standard.

00:51:20.299 --> 00:51:22.179
 OK, outdo the next person and

00:51:22.179 --> 00:51:23.519
 then you outdo that person and

00:51:23.519 --> 00:51:25.079
 then it'll just keep going up.

00:51:25.219 --> 00:51:25.420
 Amen.

00:51:26.699 --> 00:51:27.019
 Amen.

00:51:27.579 --> 00:51:27.900
 All right.