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 Let us all praise God together for the mercy He has shown us in the person and work of Jesus Christ by opening up the Word of God to the book of Colossians chapter 3.

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 If you have been gone this summer, you probably not have known that we've been studying through the book of Colossians and we had every intention of finishing it up last week and starting something new this morning, but we just didn't quite get there.

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 There's probably another, oh, I'm going to guess five weeks out from finishing up the book in total.

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 And if you have been here, I hope it's been very rich and good to you for your praise of God and for your pursuit of holiness.

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 This morning's text is Colossians 3 verses 18 through 21.

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 And I read, Wives, submit to your husbands as is fitting in the Lord.

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 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

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 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

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 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

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 This is God's Word to us.

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 It was written for His glory and our good.

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 And we would all do well to listen to it in order to believe its promises and obey its commands.

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 Now, over the past four weeks, we've studied together general exhortations for the new self, for the one whom Christ is all.

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 You can see there in verse 11 of chapter 3.

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 And we did so from verses 5 through 17.

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 We talked extensively about what it means to put to death those things that are earthly in us.

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 And to put on then as God's chosen ones the proper things for those for whom Christ is all.

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 Today we're going to look at four specific exhortations to wives, to husbands, to children, and to parents.

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 And Paul gives them to us in a rather rapid fire manner.

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 They're kind of bang, bang, bang, bang, back to back to back with no prepositional transitions between them whatsoever.

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 And I believe he does so in this way because they're all connected to the previous exhortations.

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 Because of who we are now.

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 If we have placed our faith in Jesus Christ.

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 If he has sent his spirit into us and changed who we are.

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 The old has passed away.

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 The new has come.

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 Because of who we are now, we will live differently.

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 Specifically, we will live differently in the way we relate to one another as the church.

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 That's what 5-17 is really talking about.

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 About putting off these versions of perverted love and perverted hate.

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 And putting on these righteous acts and how it is that we live together.

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 And Paul now narrows that scope down from the broader sense to more specific relationships within the home.

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 He notes for the Colossian believers and for us.

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 Particular ways in which the old self manifests itself.

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 And the new ways in which we should walk.

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 Now some of you may already be asking the question.

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 Is this the most appropriate text for a Sunday morning when college students return?

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 I ask myself the very same question as we work through.

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 We don't want to dogmatically work verse by verse through a text.

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 Although this is our normal habit and pattern.

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 Certainly it could be said that we could have stopped today to talk at length about something that seems to more specifically relate to college students.

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 But through prayer and study.

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 I think this is incredibly applicable to where you guys are in your lives.

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 Because so many of you are so close to this next step.

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 You're looking right now.

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 I know I remember being in college for that mate that you'll marry and live out your life with.

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 It's applicable because you're going to find many of you college students that you are still children.

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 And so this text has a lot to say to you concerning that.

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 And so I think very timely for where we are and for this particular Sunday.

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 Four exhortations for the household of the new self are number one.

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 This will be the outline for our text.

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 An exhortation to wives.

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 Number two, an exhortation to husbands.

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 Number three, an exhortation to children.

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 And finally, number four, an exhortation to parents.

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 So firstly, an exhortation to wives.

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 Verse 18.

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 Wives, submit to your husbands as is fitting in the Lord.

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 This word, submit, means to place oneself under the leadership of another.

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 And I want to note this morning five things about the submission of the Christian wife.

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 So these are your five sub points to point number one.

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 If you like to outline, keep up.

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 Today it might be a little hard.

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 Firstly, it is a submission that is willful.

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 It is a submission that is willful.

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 Sub-translations render this verb, be subject to.

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 But the Greek literally means to subject oneself.

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 Wives, this is a submission that is given.

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 Men, this is not a submission that is taken.

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 It is a submission that is willful.

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 Wives submitting themselves to their husbands.

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 Secondly, it is a submission that does not relegate the value of the wife.

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 It does not devalue the wife.

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 Now this word submission seems to be a bad word in our day.

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 It doesn't even get uttered amongst us.

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 I had someone who I love dearly come and talk to me about the way in which I officiate weddings

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 and asked me if I thought it was appropriate to even include the word submit or submission in that ceremony

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 because the turn off it can be to some people to hear the gospel.

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 And I just simply said I don't know what other word to use.

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 It's a biblical word.

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 I will use it because the Bible uses it and I will labor to explain it well.

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 The word submission or submit even seems to be a bad word in some of our Christian churches.

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 And so let me ask you kindly, particularly ladies, if this word makes you uncomfortable to hear me out.

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 Hear what the Bible has to say about submission.

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 There's a movement in our world of what's called egalitarianism,

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 which seeks to find genders equal in all respects, in all manner,

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 versus the view that we hold as a church which is called complementarianism.

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 And that is that we see men and women as equal,

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 but that they play different roles.

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 The second point, it's a submission that does not relegate the value of the wife.

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 It in no way devalues a wife to submit to her husband,

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 but rather recognizes her God-ordained role as a wife.

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 Let me give you a wonderful example of this.

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 There's no higher example of anything that's right and proper than the example of Jesus Christ.

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 Jesus subjected Himself to the will of the Father.

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 He submitted to what the Father had for Him.

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 This does not make Him a lesser part of the Trinity.

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 Rather, and in fact, He has been highly exalted because of the way in which He served the Father.

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 And He will be for all eternity.

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 If we're to model this, ladies, there's a specific way in which you are to look Christ-like.

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 And this is one of those ways to submit willingly to your husband.

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 To understand a bit more of this, it's of great value for us to look at Genesis 1.

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 You can turn there if you'd like or listen carefully to my reading.

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 Women have great value in standing in God's eyes.

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 We see this first telling of the creation of man and woman where it records,

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 Then God said,

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 Let us make man in our image after our likeness.

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 The Trinitarian likeness.

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 The way in which the Trinity functions together in relationship.

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 And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea,

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 and over the birds of the heavens, and over the livestock,

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 and over all of the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.

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 Verse 27.

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 So, God created man in His own image.

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 In the image of God, He created him.

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 Male and female, He created them.

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 So, ladies, you have great value in the eyes of God,

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 and in the eyes of this church.

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 And a willing submission to your husband does not devalue you.

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 Thirdly, the submission of a Christian wife is a submission that is not contingent on the quality of the leadership it submits to.

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 It is not contingent.

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 It is not dependent on the quality of the leadership it submits to.

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 Notice the simplicity of the exhortation that Paul gives.

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 He doesn't say, not wives, submit to your husbands when they love you.

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 Or, wives, submit to your husbands when they lead you well.

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 Or, wives, submit to your husbands when you feel like it.

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 But simply, wives, submit to your husbands.

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 Now, certainly it is easier to submit to loving leadership.

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 And the next verse speaks to that.

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 We find often in Christian relationships and otherwise, both positive and negative feedback loops.

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 If a husband leads well, it's easy for his wife to submit well.

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 Which makes leading a joy.

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 It makes leading easier if the wife submits well to that.

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 And so there's this positive feedback.

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 One feeds the other and feeds the other.

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 So often in relationships, one of those proper roles comes to a screeching halt and reverses itself.

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 And ladies, it's very difficult to submit to a man who doesn't love you the way he should.

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 So many households are disrupted because men are lazy.

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 They're laid back.

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 They don't fulfill the role they're meant to fulfill.

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 And so women begin to.

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 And the loop heads off in the other direction.

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 Negative feedback.

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 Negative feedback.

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 Negative feedback.

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 Someone has to stop that rotation.

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 As a man, I will put the majority of the blame on men.

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 But wives, you have to recognize that you're not less responsible for your submission when your husband leads poorly.

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 You are 100% responsible for the command of God concerning your role.

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 You will be held accountable for the way in which you submit apart from how your husband leads.

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 So it's a submission that is not contingent on the quality of the leadership it submits to.

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 Fourthly, it is a submission that bears the fruit of respect.

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 It bears the fruit of respect.

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 I'll step us away from Colossians for a moment to the parallel text, a very similar text that Paul wrote to the church at Ephesus chapter 5.

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 You may want to go there and put your finger there because we're going to reference it on numerous occasions this morning.

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 Ephesians chapter 5 verses 22 through 24.

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 Paul writes,

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 Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord.

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 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, his body and is himself its Savior.

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 Now, as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

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 So here we see this pattern of exhortation.

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 Wives, submit to your husbands.

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 But then at the end of this passage and speaking of this, verse 33, Paul says,

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 However, each one of you love his wife as himself.

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 Exhortation to husbands.

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 And the last part of that, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

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 So submission, willing submission to a husband, bears the fruit of respect.

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 Respect, it respects his position as the husband.

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 Whether or not he does this well, it plays to that.

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 You are my husband and therefore I will submit to her.

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 This bears out in the way in which you talk about your husband, ladies.

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 Are you supportive?

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 Are you building up?

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 Do people see you and say, this is a woman that respects her husband?

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 Or are you a woman that merely tears down and tears down and tears down?

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 This can sometimes be the problem with women's Bible studies.

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 They become gripe fests about husbands.

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 This ought not be so amongst us.

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 It's a submission that bears the fruit of respect.

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 And then fifthly and finally, it's a submission that recognizes God's good created order.

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 The last part of verse 18 says,

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 As is fitting in the Lord.

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 As is right and proper for those who are found in Christ.

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 That's what he is saying.

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 It recognizes God's good created order.

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 This is the way that God intended things to be.

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 The leadership of a husband and the submission of a wife is not a result of the fall.

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 It was the way things were designed to be before the fall.

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 The fall disrupted it.

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 The fall made it hard.

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 But it was the good thing that God had created.

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 After the first telling of mankind's creation in Genesis 1, 26-28,

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 we see Genesis 1, 31,

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 And God saw everything that he had made.

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 And behold, it was very good.

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 And there was evening and there was morning.

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 The sixth day.

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 In chapter 2, we see a second telling of the creation story.

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 And we pick up some details about it.

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 Genesis 2, 15 says,

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 The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and to keep it.

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 He gives man a mandate that you are meant to produce and protect the garden.

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 And then in 2, 18, we read,

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 Then the Lord God said,

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 It is not good that the man should be alone.

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 So everything had been good up to this point in the creation,

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 but now we see something that is not good.

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 It wasn't good that man be alone.

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 And so God says,

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 I will make a helper fit for him.

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 A sidekick.

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 Someone to come alongside the man and help him in this work that's been given to him.

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 This was the created order.

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 And it was good.

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 It's good and proper, ladies, to pursue this.

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 To submit willfully to your husband.

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 If your husband doesn't lead you well to pray for him,

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 that he might.

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 To encourage him in that.

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 To help that negative feedback loop come to a halt and move back in the other direction.

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 Just willingly submit to your husband.

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 Recognize God as the creator of the universe.

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 And gives proper respect and worship to the way he intended things to be.

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 Number two.

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 You with me?

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 Back to main point number two.

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 It's not fair that I can see it and you can't.

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 An exhortation to husbands.

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 Men, we are most certainly not off the hook.

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 An exhortation to husbands.

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 Husbands, love your wives.

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 And do not be harsh with them.

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 We get two exhortations.

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 One stated in the positive and one in the negative.

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 Do live this way with your wives.

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 Do not live this way with your wives.

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 It seems to me that Paul feels the need to spell it out a little more clearly for us.

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 I mean this.

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 I don't mean this.

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 Fellas.

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 We're to love our wives.

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 And I want to note two things about the love of the Christian husband.

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 Number one.

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 It is a love that is willful.

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 The same way that submission is willful for the wife.

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 Love is willful for the husband.

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 This love.

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 This word here used for love is the present tense of the imperative verb agapate.

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 It's not referring to a love of passion or emotion.

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 It's not based in how you feel.

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 This is a love of choice.

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 It is a covenant love.

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 Husbands, you chose to marry your wives.

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 Therefore, you are to love them.

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 Without condition.

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 Now and in a continuous manner.

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 This is the exhortation Paul is giving to Christian husbands.

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 Husbands, love your wives.

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 And our culture is destroying the meaning of marriage.

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 And I'm not referring to homosexual marriage.

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 I'm referring to all the messed up marriages that we live in and around.

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 The church is not insulated from this.

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 This is happening within our churches.

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 Marriage is such a flippant thing.

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 It's just the next step in some process of feeling and emotion.

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 People ought not say, I love you very much, but rather, I lust you very much.

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 Let's get married.

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 They have trashed it up and thrown it out.

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 It is a sacred commitment before God.

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 It is a commitment to love that woman until death causes you to part.

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 The Christian man does not fall in and out of love.

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 These are not words that should come out of our mouths.

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 And some of you may need to man up by the grace that God provides and love.

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 Your wives.

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 When I officiate weddings, I always say this kind of as the close of the preaching component of the ceremony.

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 I say, remember this.

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 Your feelings do not sustain the covenant that you are making today.

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 But the covenant you are making today properly exercised will sustain your love.

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 And by that, I mean the passionate love for one another.

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 It is a love of volition.

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 We choose to love our wives.

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 Secondly, it is a love that is sacrificial.

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 Let's look again at the parallel text in Ephesians chapter 5.

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 Paul's a little tougher on the Ephesian church than he is on the Colossian church here.

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 We are going to look at verses 25-30 of Ephesians chapter 5.

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 Much of feminism in our day is a response to male chauvinism.

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 Men, you need to hear this.

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 The way in which you talk about and the way in which you treat women generally.

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 And those of us who are husbands, the way we treat our wives, often feminism is a response to this.

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 Many of you know I was a sociology major at University of North Georgia.

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 Then North Georgia College and State University.

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 I believe I was a sociology major in one of the darkest times in that degree program.

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 And I enjoyed that.

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 I liked going in and being light in a dark place.

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 I liked having my understanding of the truth challenged at every term.

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 My favorite professor in college was an atheist, an admitted atheist feminist,

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 who had both a husband, excuse me, a father.

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 I've said the word husband too many times.

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 A father and a brother who were Baptist preachers.

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 So he knew all of the typical arguments.

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 And he would get really mad if you made the typical argument.

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 He would cuss you out if you made the typical argument.

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 And so he forced, by God's grace, he was such a tool used by God,

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 he pushed my face into the scriptures because I knew there had to be absolute truth

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 and that his challenges needed to be answered.

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 And I had a sociology of religion class with him

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 where he basically took the entire semester to make the case that Christianity was horrible to women.

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 And he loosely quoted, didn't send anybody to any text,

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 but pulled out of context this idea of submission

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 and how horrible this was, the enslaving of women.

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 I think it's a response.

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 I think it's a response to things that he had seen.

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 And there were girls in the class that just applauded this.

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 And my heart broke for them.

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 I don't know the circumstances of their lives,

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 who their fathers were, what they had experienced and seen.

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 But one day he was particularly railing

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 and he actually referenced Ephesians chapter 5,

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 finally referenced something.

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 And so I simply took my Bible out of my bag

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 and I had it out on my desk and I was just looking at the text,

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 not saying a word.

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 And by God's providential hand,

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 we're getting close to the end of class

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 and boy, they were just going at it.

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 And I was just reading the text

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 and I was sad for what was going on in the room

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 because they weren't going on.

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 They weren't going on to verse 25.

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 And finally, he's no longer at the school.

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 His name was Dr. Luck.

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 He said,

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 Alright, Nathan.

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 What do you think?

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 In that tone.

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 I hadn't raised my hand.

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 I think I may have grinned at them a few times.

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 Maybe this was it.

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 Alright, Nathan.

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 What do you think?

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 I had the great pleasure of turning to the class

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 and saying,

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 you have to hear the rest of the text.

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 You can't stop there.

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 You can't just stop there.

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 You can't tear it apart

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 and do whatever you want with it.

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 You have to read the rest of the text.

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 And it reads, beginning in verse 25,

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 Husbands, love your wives.

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 And he goes on,

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 As Christ loved the church

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 and gave Himself up for her.

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 Jesus Christ died for the sake of the church.

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 This is the kind of love

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 that husbands are meant to show their wives.

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 Verse 26,

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 That He might sanctify her,

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 having cleansed her by the washing of water

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 with the Word,

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 so that He might present the church to Himself

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 in splendor,

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 without spot or wrinkle or any such thing,

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 that she might be holy and without blemish.

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 In the same way,

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 husbands should love their wives

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 as their own bodies.

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 He who loves his wife loves himself.

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 For no one ever hated his own flesh,

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 but nourishes and cherishes it

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 just as Christ does the church.

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 because we are members of His body.

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 So I read that and I just said,

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 I don't know what experiences you've had in life.

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 But if you find a man

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 that is willing to love you this way,

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 I believe that you will want

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 to submit to this man.

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 And the room fell silent.

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 And Dr. Luck said,

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 I think that's good for today.

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 And we left.

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 And I don't know what happened,

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 what came of that,

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 but I was thankful that God allowed me

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 to speak truth into this situation.

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 I think that so much feminism,

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 so much, not all of it,

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 but so much of it,

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 is a response to the way in which

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 men have loved their wives.

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 And this is meant to be

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 a sacrificial love.

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 We become servants of our wives.

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 We lay down our lives

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 for the sake of theirs.

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 John Piper has a wonderful definition of love

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 that I'm going to give application to here.

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 He wrote,

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 Love is doing whatever you need to do

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 to help people,

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 insert your wife.

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 Love is doing whatever you need to do

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 to help your wife

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 see and savor the glory of God in Christ

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 forever and ever.

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 Love seeks the highest good

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 of the object of that love.

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 Husbands, we should love our wives in this way.

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 We should lead them to Christ

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 every single day.

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 And then there's the negative exhortation

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 to not be harsh with our wives.

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 Do not be harsh with them.

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 Different translations render this differently.

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 The NSB renders this.

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 Do not be embittered against them.

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 It could rightly be translated,

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 Do not have the habit of being embittered.

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 And what Paul means is,

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 Do not display a harshness of temper

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 or resentment toward your wife.

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 To state the same in the positive,

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 Appreciate your wife.

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 Rightly see her as a gift from God,

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 as a grace to you.

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 Men, even when they're not easy to see

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 in this light.

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 Our wives aren't perfect,

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 but yet still they're given to us as a gift.

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 They're sanctifying for us.

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 They're helpers to us.

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 They're a helper fit for us.

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 And we should love them accordingly.

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 And I can tell you this,

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 it has been my experience

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 in my short nine and a half years now

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 of marriage,

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 that when I love my wife properly,

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 she responds in kind.

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 She so gladly falls into that place

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 of submission and loves and serves

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 and supports me.

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 The more I lovingly lead her,

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 the more lovely she becomes

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 as she fulfills her role.

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 She seems to come to life in that place.

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 And when I don't love her well,

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 when she's conflicted on how she's supposed

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 to act in our home and with our children,

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 this is when she becomes a challenge to me.

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 You see that it's not her fault,

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 but it's mine.

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 Love your wives as you should.

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 As I previously stated,

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 your wife is responsible for 100%

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 of the command of God concerning her role.

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 However, if you want to see the quality

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 of a leader,

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 look to the quality of those

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 who are put under his leadership.

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 Men, this should cause you to quake.

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 We have a responsibility to our wives.

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 And many of us are too weak as leaders.

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 And I hope that this causes you

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 to run to the grace of God.

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 He has commanded that you would do this thing.

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 And He will provide for all that He commands.

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 Now, to wives and husbands,

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 your marriage matters.

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 It matters to you,

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 but it matters so much more than that.

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 Firstly, your marriage matters

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 because of what it is meant to display.

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 Back in Ephesians 5,

00:28:01.759 --> 00:28:03.579
 verses 31 and 32,

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 Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother

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 and hold fast to his wife,

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 and the two shall become one flesh.

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 That's Genesis 2, 32, I believe.

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 And then Paul goes on to say,

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 this mystery,

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 the fact that they leave

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 and they cleave together,

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 that they become one flesh,

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 he says this mystery is profound.

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 And I'm saying that it refers to Christ

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 and the church.

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 Your marriage is not firstly and foremost about you.

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 Oh, do we reap the benefits of marriage.

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 There's so much that is good for us about marriage,

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 but it's not firstly about you.

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 It's firstly about Christ.

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 It's a shadow of a thing to come.

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 And it's meant to portray this

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 to the world around us.

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 Your marriage matters

00:28:55.539 --> 00:28:57.460
 because of what it's meant to display.

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 Your marriage also matters

00:28:59.100 --> 00:29:01.860
 because of who is meant to see it.

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 The world needs to see God's good creation

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 and praise Him for it.

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 They need to see that the way

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 in which God designs things to work, works.

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 They see that and they go,

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 this is an amazing thing.

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 These Christian marriages are astounding to us.

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 That they may turn and praise God

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 for the things that He has done.

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 This church needs to see your marriage

00:29:29.019 --> 00:29:31.640
 displayed in a healthy manner.

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 These young people,

00:29:34.019 --> 00:29:35.400
 so many of these young people,

00:29:35.579 --> 00:29:36.160
 married folks,

00:29:36.319 --> 00:29:37.779
 come from broken homes.

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 Homes that are disrupted.

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 I cannot believe the more we get to know

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 college students,

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 how few college students come from homes

00:29:45.100 --> 00:29:46.299
 that are healthy.

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 It's the exception and not the norm.

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 I hear of a young person

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 that has a family that's still intact

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 and I praise God for it.

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 Wait, you mean your mom and your dad

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 are still married?

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 Incredible!

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 And those that are together

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 and actually walking with the Lord

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 and leading in the household,

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 that are actively engaged

00:30:08.619 --> 00:30:09.779
 in the life of a church,

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 it's so slim.

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 You want to know a way

00:30:14.079 --> 00:30:15.019
 that you can serve the church?

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 If you're married, husbands, wives,

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 even those of you who are young in this,

00:30:19.039 --> 00:30:21.599
 brand new husbands and wives,

00:30:22.119 --> 00:30:23.579
 there is a ministry for you.

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 Wives, submit to your husbands.

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 Husbands, love your wives

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 and seek opportunities

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 to share your lives

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 with the young adults in our church.

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 Paul exhorts Titus to this ministry

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 that people often call Titus 2 ministry,

00:30:39.579 --> 00:30:40.700
 which is just this idea

00:30:40.700 --> 00:30:41.779
 that in the church,

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 there should be a passing along

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 of skill set,

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 that older women

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 should be teaching younger women

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 how it is they're meant to live.

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 And the same for older men

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 to younger men.

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 I encourage you to go read Titus 2

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 and I won't for the sake of time

00:30:54.880 --> 00:30:55.779
 this morning.

00:30:57.279 --> 00:30:58.700
 Submit to your husbands.

00:30:59.160 --> 00:31:00.480
 Love your wives.

00:31:00.560 --> 00:31:02.980
 It has deep and meaningful impact

00:31:02.980 --> 00:31:04.720
 for you and beyond.

00:31:05.880 --> 00:31:06.640
 Now a quick aside

00:31:06.640 --> 00:31:07.680
 concerning dating.

00:31:08.620 --> 00:31:08.960
 You ready?

00:31:08.960 --> 00:31:14.220
 The Bible does not speak to us

00:31:14.220 --> 00:31:15.740
 about dating.

00:31:17.460 --> 00:31:18.660
 There's no instruction

00:31:18.660 --> 00:31:19.259
 in the Scriptures

00:31:19.259 --> 00:31:20.039
 concerning dating.

00:31:20.360 --> 00:31:22.360
 We believe that this book

00:31:22.360 --> 00:31:23.920
 is timely,

00:31:24.440 --> 00:31:25.680
 that it's inerrant,

00:31:26.039 --> 00:31:27.000
 that it's sufficient.

00:31:27.200 --> 00:31:27.900
 That means it contains

00:31:27.900 --> 00:31:28.860
 everything in it

00:31:28.860 --> 00:31:30.120
 that we need to know

00:31:30.120 --> 00:31:31.380
 for godly living.

00:31:32.600 --> 00:31:34.500
 How curious that it excludes

00:31:34.500 --> 00:31:35.600
 dating.

00:31:36.380 --> 00:31:38.000
 Some process by which

00:31:38.000 --> 00:31:39.339
 we're supposed to sort through

00:31:39.339 --> 00:31:40.299
 all of the people

00:31:40.299 --> 00:31:41.220
 that we interact with

00:31:41.220 --> 00:31:42.839
 and find the one.

00:31:45.640 --> 00:31:47.019
 I grew up at a church,

00:31:47.140 --> 00:31:48.920
 a large, large church,

00:31:49.240 --> 00:31:51.180
 where I was actually taught

00:31:51.180 --> 00:31:52.000
 this was the normal

00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:52.920
 and healthy process,

00:31:53.119 --> 00:31:55.740
 that I built my good quality list

00:31:55.740 --> 00:31:57.000
 and my bad quality list

00:31:57.000 --> 00:31:57.960
 by getting to know people

00:31:57.960 --> 00:31:59.539
 of the opposite sex.

00:32:00.900 --> 00:32:03.099
 Horrible, horrible theology

00:32:03.099 --> 00:32:04.539
 concerning that.

00:32:04.539 --> 00:32:06.819
 Christian dating,

00:32:06.940 --> 00:32:08.159
 we can call it something else.

00:32:08.240 --> 00:32:09.779
 Some people like to call it courtship.

00:32:09.980 --> 00:32:11.200
 Some people have a real aversion

00:32:11.200 --> 00:32:11.859
 to that term.

00:32:12.559 --> 00:32:13.659
 I don't really care,

00:32:13.740 --> 00:32:14.299
 so I'm going to call it

00:32:14.299 --> 00:32:15.079
 Christian dating,

00:32:15.079 --> 00:32:17.500
 should look much different

00:32:17.500 --> 00:32:18.899
 than that of the world.

00:32:19.680 --> 00:32:21.079
 It should look dramatically different

00:32:21.079 --> 00:32:22.420
 than that of the world.

00:32:23.680 --> 00:32:25.359
 So much dating today

00:32:25.359 --> 00:32:28.440
 is just glorified divorce practice.

00:32:28.440 --> 00:32:32.340
 Now, an aside to my aside.

00:32:35.019 --> 00:32:35.779
 Most of you,

00:32:37.000 --> 00:32:38.580
 and I don't know a lot of you,

00:32:38.740 --> 00:32:39.580
 but I know where you're at

00:32:39.580 --> 00:32:40.480
 in your stage of life,

00:32:41.120 --> 00:32:42.559
 most of you do not possess

00:32:42.559 --> 00:32:43.840
 the maturity to date

00:32:43.840 --> 00:32:44.920
 as a Christian should.

00:32:46.380 --> 00:32:48.140
 Your desire for a girlfriend

00:32:48.140 --> 00:32:48.980
 or boyfriend

00:32:48.980 --> 00:32:51.160
 is in so many cases

00:32:51.160 --> 00:32:52.600
 an idol for you.

00:32:53.500 --> 00:32:54.740
 You worship yourself

00:32:54.740 --> 00:32:56.320
 or you worship somebody else

00:32:56.319 --> 00:32:58.000
 or you worship some idea

00:32:58.000 --> 00:32:59.379
 before God.

00:32:59.919 --> 00:33:01.379
 If you cannot be satisfied

00:33:01.379 --> 00:33:02.500
 in Christ,

00:33:02.599 --> 00:33:03.759
 then you are not ready

00:33:03.759 --> 00:33:04.879
 to date.

00:33:05.679 --> 00:33:06.939
 If you look to anyone

00:33:06.939 --> 00:33:07.980
 other than God

00:33:07.980 --> 00:33:08.839
 for your approval,

00:33:08.980 --> 00:33:10.519
 then you are not ready

00:33:10.519 --> 00:33:11.919
 to date.

00:33:12.659 --> 00:33:13.759
 If your identity

00:33:13.759 --> 00:33:15.159
 is solidified

00:33:15.159 --> 00:33:16.059
 or shattered

00:33:16.059 --> 00:33:17.359
 based on whether or not

00:33:17.359 --> 00:33:18.579
 you were in a relationship,

00:33:19.179 --> 00:33:20.619
 then you are not ready

00:33:20.619 --> 00:33:21.980
 to date.

00:33:22.879 --> 00:33:24.159
 If you do not know

00:33:24.159 --> 00:33:25.059
 if you're ready to date,

00:33:25.059 --> 00:33:26.519
 then you're probably not.

00:33:27.919 --> 00:33:29.159
 And let me encourage you,

00:33:30.019 --> 00:33:30.940
 even if you believe

00:33:30.940 --> 00:33:31.539
 that you are,

00:33:31.619 --> 00:33:33.319
 to ask for godly counsel

00:33:33.319 --> 00:33:34.879
 from someone

00:33:34.879 --> 00:33:35.839
 who is married,

00:33:35.919 --> 00:33:37.159
 who's on the other side

00:33:37.159 --> 00:33:39.079
 of all of the silly feelings

00:33:39.079 --> 00:33:39.759
 that accompany

00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:41.460
 single life

00:33:41.460 --> 00:33:42.379
 and dating.

00:33:42.940 --> 00:33:43.679
 Ask someone

00:33:43.679 --> 00:33:45.119
 who's stepped beyond that

00:33:45.119 --> 00:33:45.819
 and has a little more

00:33:45.819 --> 00:33:47.440
 clarity of head

00:33:47.440 --> 00:33:49.079
 to help you

00:33:49.079 --> 00:33:50.379
 and to examine you

00:33:50.379 --> 00:33:51.039
 and to see if you're

00:33:51.039 --> 00:33:51.819
 actually ready

00:33:51.819 --> 00:33:52.519
 to enter into

00:33:52.519 --> 00:33:54.400
 a godly relationship

00:33:54.400 --> 00:33:55.559
 that ends

00:33:55.559 --> 00:33:57.200
 in marriage.

00:33:58.639 --> 00:33:59.579
 Enough about that.

00:34:00.039 --> 00:34:00.500
 Number three,

00:34:00.920 --> 00:34:01.980
 main point number three,

00:34:02.819 --> 00:34:03.900
 an exhortation

00:34:03.900 --> 00:34:05.460
 to children.

00:34:06.480 --> 00:34:06.900
 Verse 20,

00:34:06.980 --> 00:34:07.220
 children,

00:34:07.660 --> 00:34:08.599
 obey your parents

00:34:08.599 --> 00:34:09.759
 in everything

00:34:09.759 --> 00:34:10.619
 for this

00:34:10.619 --> 00:34:11.500
 pleases

00:34:11.500 --> 00:34:12.480
 the Lord.

00:34:13.039 --> 00:34:13.380
 Now,

00:34:13.420 --> 00:34:14.239
 how do we define

00:34:14.239 --> 00:34:14.940
 a child?

00:34:15.340 --> 00:34:15.480
 Right?

00:34:15.500 --> 00:34:16.440
 A little bit of a difficult

00:34:16.440 --> 00:34:17.219
 thing to do.

00:34:17.300 --> 00:34:17.960
 We get into some

00:34:17.960 --> 00:34:19.500
 cultural issues.

00:34:20.119 --> 00:34:21.059
 Think in the Scriptures,

00:34:21.059 --> 00:34:22.719
 you saw this rite

00:34:22.719 --> 00:34:23.239
 of passage

00:34:23.239 --> 00:34:25.139
 for the Jewish people

00:34:25.139 --> 00:34:26.340
 around the age

00:34:26.340 --> 00:34:27.400
 of 12 or 13.

00:34:27.719 --> 00:34:27.900
 It was called

00:34:27.900 --> 00:34:28.699
 the Bar Mitzvah.

00:34:28.840 --> 00:34:29.360
 It was a passage

00:34:29.360 --> 00:34:30.799
 into manhood.

00:34:31.420 --> 00:34:32.480
 Many more things

00:34:32.480 --> 00:34:33.259
 were expected.

00:34:33.880 --> 00:34:34.619
 In our culture,

00:34:34.779 --> 00:34:35.799
 we've created

00:34:35.799 --> 00:34:37.019
 a whole category

00:34:37.019 --> 00:34:37.639
 of person

00:34:37.639 --> 00:34:38.340
 that we don't find

00:34:38.340 --> 00:34:38.759
 in the Scriptures

00:34:38.759 --> 00:34:39.199
 anywhere,

00:34:39.579 --> 00:34:40.539
 and that is teenager.

00:34:41.159 --> 00:34:42.599
 It seems in so many ways

00:34:42.599 --> 00:34:43.380
 to be the result

00:34:43.380 --> 00:34:45.079
 of young people worship.

00:34:45.219 --> 00:34:46.299
 We worship youth

00:34:46.299 --> 00:34:46.960
 in this country

00:34:46.960 --> 00:34:48.219
 to such a high degree.

00:34:48.679 --> 00:34:50.139
 We want to prolong youth,

00:34:50.139 --> 00:34:50.900
 prolong youth,

00:34:50.900 --> 00:34:51.139
 prolong.

00:34:51.420 --> 00:34:52.480
 Many of your parents

00:34:52.480 --> 00:34:53.859
 wanted to absolve you

00:34:53.859 --> 00:34:55.259
 of all responsibility

00:34:55.259 --> 00:34:56.659
 throughout high school

00:34:56.659 --> 00:34:57.440
 because they just wanted

00:34:57.440 --> 00:34:58.879
 you to have a great time

00:34:58.879 --> 00:34:59.900
 because those are

00:34:59.900 --> 00:35:00.859
 the good old days

00:35:00.859 --> 00:35:01.779
 and you've got to soak

00:35:01.779 --> 00:35:02.920
 everything up out of it

00:35:02.920 --> 00:35:04.199
 that you possibly can.

00:35:04.500 --> 00:35:05.179
 And so many of you

00:35:05.179 --> 00:35:06.000
 enter into college

00:35:06.000 --> 00:35:07.139
 having no clue

00:35:07.139 --> 00:35:08.319
 how to live life

00:35:08.319 --> 00:35:09.199
 as an adult.

00:35:11.599 --> 00:35:12.739
 That's kind of an aside.

00:35:13.379 --> 00:35:14.219
 I think,

00:35:14.500 --> 00:35:15.259
 if we're going to take

00:35:15.259 --> 00:35:16.719
 what we look at

00:35:16.719 --> 00:35:18.659
 both biblically

00:35:18.659 --> 00:35:19.679
 and for our culture,

00:35:20.859 --> 00:35:21.319
 this is the way

00:35:21.319 --> 00:35:22.619
 I would define a child.

00:35:23.940 --> 00:35:24.799
 I think that while

00:35:24.799 --> 00:35:25.399
 you're under

00:35:25.399 --> 00:35:26.239
 the provision

00:35:26.239 --> 00:35:27.179
 of your parent,

00:35:27.659 --> 00:35:28.980
 the primary provision,

00:35:29.139 --> 00:35:30.639
 your livelihood comes,

00:35:30.759 --> 00:35:32.099
 your ability to survive

00:35:32.099 --> 00:35:33.000
 as a human being

00:35:33.000 --> 00:35:34.779
 comes from your parent,

00:35:35.739 --> 00:35:36.579
 then you're a child.

00:35:38.059 --> 00:35:39.199
 This includes many of you

00:35:39.199 --> 00:35:40.460
 in the room today.

00:35:41.599 --> 00:35:42.339
 And I don't mean that

00:35:42.339 --> 00:35:43.399
 as an insult at all.

00:35:43.799 --> 00:35:44.799
 I just mean to say to you,

00:35:45.000 --> 00:35:46.259
 how does this exhortation

00:35:46.259 --> 00:35:47.219
 apply to you?

00:35:47.219 --> 00:35:48.119
 How do you function

00:35:48.119 --> 00:35:49.439
 at your age

00:35:49.439 --> 00:35:50.480
 in this world

00:35:50.480 --> 00:35:52.279
 in your particular context?

00:35:52.639 --> 00:35:53.579
 Let's note two things

00:35:53.579 --> 00:35:55.199
 about the proper obedience

00:35:55.199 --> 00:35:56.819
 of Christian children.

00:35:58.500 --> 00:35:59.339
 I have,

00:35:59.739 --> 00:36:00.339
 you'll note I said

00:36:00.339 --> 00:36:01.759
 Christian children here.

00:36:01.879 --> 00:36:03.239
 I think this is the exhortation

00:36:03.239 --> 00:36:03.919
 that Paul means.

00:36:04.000 --> 00:36:04.939
 It's been writing to believers

00:36:04.939 --> 00:36:05.599
 and writing to believers

00:36:05.599 --> 00:36:06.379
 and writing to believers.

00:36:06.659 --> 00:36:07.579
 I don't think he means

00:36:07.579 --> 00:36:08.399
 to turn aside.

00:36:08.839 --> 00:36:09.859
 So I think that these things

00:36:09.859 --> 00:36:11.179
 are meant to be exhortations

00:36:11.179 --> 00:36:12.559
 to Christian children,

00:36:12.679 --> 00:36:13.559
 obey your parents

00:36:13.559 --> 00:36:15.019
 in everything.

00:36:15.960 --> 00:36:17.199
 I have a five-year-old

00:36:17.199 --> 00:36:18.539
 and a three-year-old,

00:36:19.099 --> 00:36:19.719
 Cade and Judah,

00:36:20.400 --> 00:36:21.900
 and they cannot obey everything

00:36:21.900 --> 00:36:22.880
 Sam and I ask of them.

00:36:23.079 --> 00:36:24.619
 They're absolutely sinful.

00:36:24.699 --> 00:36:26.619
 They prove it every single day.

00:36:27.019 --> 00:36:28.400
 We try and we try

00:36:28.400 --> 00:36:29.460
 and we try.

00:36:29.559 --> 00:36:30.460
 And they are bound

00:36:30.460 --> 00:36:31.639
 to be deceptive.

00:36:31.699 --> 00:36:32.239
 They're bound

00:36:32.239 --> 00:36:33.119
 to go around.

00:36:33.559 --> 00:36:34.860
 I asked Judah the other day

00:36:34.860 --> 00:36:35.659
 why he did something

00:36:35.659 --> 00:36:36.039
 and he said,

00:36:36.199 --> 00:36:37.279
 I was just being sneaky.

00:36:37.280 --> 00:36:37.840
 Exactly.

00:36:40.480 --> 00:36:40.880
 Exactly.

00:36:42.800 --> 00:36:44.120
 So I don't think that Paul,

00:36:44.340 --> 00:36:45.300
 while we should exhort

00:36:45.300 --> 00:36:46.320
 our children to obey,

00:36:46.560 --> 00:36:47.560
 we certainly should,

00:36:47.600 --> 00:36:48.560
 I think Paul means this,

00:36:48.760 --> 00:36:49.480
 to be a command

00:36:49.480 --> 00:36:50.580
 that can be kept

00:36:50.580 --> 00:36:52.019
 by the power of Christ

00:36:52.019 --> 00:36:53.760
 in these young people.

00:36:54.580 --> 00:36:55.120
 So firstly,

00:36:55.280 --> 00:36:55.860
 it is an obedience

00:36:55.860 --> 00:36:57.300
 that is not contingent

00:36:57.300 --> 00:36:57.800
 on the quality

00:36:57.800 --> 00:36:58.300
 of the leadership

00:36:58.300 --> 00:36:58.920
 it submits to.

00:36:59.519 --> 00:37:00.560
 Obedience is an outflow

00:37:00.560 --> 00:37:01.060
 of submission

00:37:01.060 --> 00:37:02.540
 and it's not contingent

00:37:02.540 --> 00:37:03.180
 on the quality

00:37:03.180 --> 00:37:03.760
 of the leadership.

00:37:04.120 --> 00:37:05.400
 I know that some

00:37:05.400 --> 00:37:06.080
 of your parents

00:37:06.079 --> 00:37:07.380
 don't lead you well.

00:37:07.519 --> 00:37:08.679
 I know that some

00:37:08.679 --> 00:37:09.159
 of the things

00:37:09.159 --> 00:37:10.079
 they ask and require

00:37:10.079 --> 00:37:12.239
 of you don't make sense.

00:37:12.519 --> 00:37:13.659
 But it's not contingent

00:37:13.659 --> 00:37:14.179
 on that.

00:37:14.519 --> 00:37:15.319
 Obey your parents

00:37:15.319 --> 00:37:17.019
 in everything.

00:37:17.360 --> 00:37:18.199
 You ought to obey them.

00:37:19.519 --> 00:37:20.619
 Disobedience to parents

00:37:20.619 --> 00:37:22.599
 marks the ungodly.

00:37:23.279 --> 00:37:23.659
 Paul writes

00:37:23.659 --> 00:37:24.860
 in 2 Timothy 3, 2,

00:37:25.239 --> 00:37:26.139
 for people will be

00:37:26.139 --> 00:37:27.000
 lovers of self,

00:37:27.299 --> 00:37:28.039
 lovers of money,

00:37:28.500 --> 00:37:29.000
 proud,

00:37:29.599 --> 00:37:30.019
 arrogant,

00:37:30.319 --> 00:37:30.860
 abusive,

00:37:31.659 --> 00:37:32.440
 disobedient

00:37:32.440 --> 00:37:33.460
 to their parents,

00:37:33.799 --> 00:37:34.360
 ungrateful,

00:37:34.819 --> 00:37:35.299
 unholy.

00:37:35.300 --> 00:37:36.440
 He goes on

00:37:36.440 --> 00:37:37.019
 in the next

00:37:37.019 --> 00:37:38.400
 verse.

00:37:39.700 --> 00:37:40.100
 Provided

00:37:40.100 --> 00:37:41.800
 that their desires

00:37:41.800 --> 00:37:43.320
 do not contradict

00:37:43.320 --> 00:37:45.260
 the expressed

00:37:45.260 --> 00:37:45.940
 commands

00:37:45.940 --> 00:37:47.340
 of God.

00:37:48.120 --> 00:37:48.820
 Young people

00:37:48.820 --> 00:37:49.440
 in this room,

00:37:49.539 --> 00:37:50.400
 obey your parents

00:37:50.400 --> 00:37:52.019
 in everything,

00:37:52.400 --> 00:37:53.440
 provided their desires

00:37:53.440 --> 00:37:54.300
 do not contradict

00:37:54.300 --> 00:37:55.519
 the expressed

00:37:55.519 --> 00:37:56.120
 commands

00:37:56.120 --> 00:37:57.160
 of God.

00:37:57.880 --> 00:37:58.300
 Jesus anticipated

00:37:59.000 --> 00:37:59.519
 there would be

00:37:59.519 --> 00:38:00.100
 people that would

00:38:00.100 --> 00:38:00.680
 come to faith

00:38:00.680 --> 00:38:01.360
 in Christ

00:38:01.360 --> 00:38:02.500
 and their family

00:38:02.500 --> 00:38:03.500
 would not be

00:38:03.500 --> 00:38:04.780
 okay with it.

00:38:04.780 --> 00:38:06.360
 He says in Luke 12,

00:38:06.540 --> 00:38:07.600
 51-53,

00:38:07.600 --> 00:38:08.840
 do you think

00:38:08.840 --> 00:38:09.780
 that I have come

00:38:09.780 --> 00:38:10.519
 to give peace

00:38:10.519 --> 00:38:10.960
 on earth?

00:38:11.420 --> 00:38:12.420
 No, I tell you,

00:38:12.500 --> 00:38:13.600
 but rather division.

00:38:14.320 --> 00:38:15.480
 For from now on

00:38:15.480 --> 00:38:16.220
 in one house

00:38:16.220 --> 00:38:16.600
 there will be

00:38:16.600 --> 00:38:17.480
 five divided,

00:38:17.660 --> 00:38:18.440
 three against two

00:38:18.440 --> 00:38:19.540
 and two against three.

00:38:20.000 --> 00:38:20.880
 They will be divided

00:38:20.880 --> 00:38:21.920
 father against son

00:38:21.920 --> 00:38:22.960
 and son against father,

00:38:23.380 --> 00:38:24.240
 mother against daughter

00:38:24.240 --> 00:38:25.360
 and daughter against mother,

00:38:25.760 --> 00:38:26.280
 mother-in-law

00:38:26.280 --> 00:38:27.240
 against her daughter-in-law

00:38:27.240 --> 00:38:27.980
 and daughter-in-law

00:38:27.980 --> 00:38:30.200
 against her mother-in-law.

00:38:30.879 --> 00:38:32.099
 We know as a church

00:38:32.099 --> 00:38:32.960
 this is real.

00:38:33.259 --> 00:38:34.059
 We deal with this

00:38:34.059 --> 00:38:34.779
 type of thing,

00:38:34.879 --> 00:38:35.759
 pursuing the Lord

00:38:35.759 --> 00:38:37.179
 and having parents

00:38:37.179 --> 00:38:38.019
 who don't,

00:38:38.539 --> 00:38:39.559
 who want us to live

00:38:39.559 --> 00:38:40.399
 in contradiction

00:38:40.399 --> 00:38:42.460
 to the expressed

00:38:42.460 --> 00:38:44.239
 commands of God.

00:38:44.359 --> 00:38:45.460
 And I'm using that phrase

00:38:45.460 --> 00:38:46.559
 very carefully

00:38:46.559 --> 00:38:47.980
 because a common question

00:38:47.980 --> 00:38:49.460
 asked with young people,

00:38:50.019 --> 00:38:51.119
 young people want to

00:38:51.119 --> 00:38:52.919
 go on a particular trip.

00:38:53.019 --> 00:38:53.259
 Typically,

00:38:53.339 --> 00:38:54.099
 it's a mission trip.

00:38:54.159 --> 00:38:55.259
 They want to go someplace

00:38:55.259 --> 00:38:55.879
 with their summer

00:38:55.879 --> 00:38:56.419
 and their parents

00:38:56.419 --> 00:38:57.379
 just aren't comfortable

00:38:57.380 --> 00:38:57.820
 with it.

00:38:58.140 --> 00:38:58.920
 Unbelieving parents

00:38:58.920 --> 00:38:59.099
 say,

00:38:59.180 --> 00:38:59.960
 I don't want you to go.

00:39:00.160 --> 00:39:01.559
 That could be dangerous.

00:39:01.680 --> 00:39:02.340
 I'm not comfortable

00:39:02.340 --> 00:39:03.099
 with you traveling.

00:39:03.380 --> 00:39:04.519
 I don't want to spend money

00:39:04.519 --> 00:39:05.579
 in that way.

00:39:06.000 --> 00:39:07.140
 And students get so

00:39:07.140 --> 00:39:08.099
 wrecked over that.

00:39:08.160 --> 00:39:09.640
 But God wants me to go.

00:39:09.760 --> 00:39:11.160
 God has called me to go.

00:39:11.320 --> 00:39:11.880
 Has He?

00:39:14.320 --> 00:39:15.059
 He's called you

00:39:15.059 --> 00:39:15.960
 to obey your parents.

00:39:16.780 --> 00:39:17.619
 That's clear.

00:39:18.800 --> 00:39:19.920
 Your feeling,

00:39:20.180 --> 00:39:20.800
 your desire

00:39:20.800 --> 00:39:21.940
 to go someplace

00:39:21.940 --> 00:39:22.900
 does not trump

00:39:22.900 --> 00:39:23.940
 the expressed command

00:39:23.940 --> 00:39:24.840
 of God

00:39:24.840 --> 00:39:25.460
 in the Scriptures.

00:39:25.460 --> 00:39:27.800
 your parents

00:39:27.800 --> 00:39:28.800
 forbid you

00:39:28.800 --> 00:39:29.599
 to have faith

00:39:29.599 --> 00:39:30.440
 in Jesus Christ.

00:39:31.320 --> 00:39:31.840
 Your parents

00:39:31.840 --> 00:39:33.000
 forbid you

00:39:33.000 --> 00:39:33.720
 to meet,

00:39:33.820 --> 00:39:34.679
 to congregate

00:39:34.679 --> 00:39:35.539
 with other Christians.

00:39:36.139 --> 00:39:36.740
 Your parents

00:39:36.740 --> 00:39:37.599
 forbid you

00:39:37.599 --> 00:39:38.900
 to share your faith

00:39:38.900 --> 00:39:39.800
 with your roommate

00:39:39.800 --> 00:39:40.900
 or your co-worker.

00:39:41.240 --> 00:39:41.960
 Then you have

00:39:41.960 --> 00:39:42.559
 God's permission

00:39:42.559 --> 00:39:44.699
 to go around

00:39:44.699 --> 00:39:45.360
 their command.

00:39:45.519 --> 00:39:46.320
 Because you feel

00:39:46.320 --> 00:39:46.840
 like you want

00:39:46.840 --> 00:39:47.699
 to do something

00:39:47.699 --> 00:39:49.119
 is not

00:39:49.119 --> 00:39:50.820
 a permission

00:39:50.820 --> 00:39:52.400
 to ignore

00:39:52.400 --> 00:39:53.460
 the expressed command

00:39:53.460 --> 00:39:53.960
 of God

00:39:53.960 --> 00:39:54.519
 to obey

00:39:54.519 --> 00:39:56.300
 your parents.

00:39:56.940 --> 00:39:57.639
 I hope that clears

00:39:57.639 --> 00:39:58.539
 up some frustration

00:39:58.539 --> 00:39:59.099
 for some of you

00:39:59.099 --> 00:39:59.500
 this year.

00:40:01.360 --> 00:40:01.860
 Secondly,

00:40:02.239 --> 00:40:02.960
 it is an obedience

00:40:02.960 --> 00:40:03.820
 that seeks

00:40:03.820 --> 00:40:05.039
 to please God.

00:40:05.119 --> 00:40:05.599
 And the last part

00:40:05.599 --> 00:40:06.119
 of that verse,

00:40:06.259 --> 00:40:06.800
 for this

00:40:06.800 --> 00:40:07.759
 pleases

00:40:07.759 --> 00:40:09.159
 the Lord.

00:40:09.559 --> 00:40:09.980
 Again,

00:40:10.059 --> 00:40:10.480
 part of His

00:40:10.480 --> 00:40:11.599
 good created

00:40:11.599 --> 00:40:12.179
 order.

00:40:12.320 --> 00:40:12.940
 There's many

00:40:12.940 --> 00:40:14.199
 strict instructions

00:40:14.199 --> 00:40:15.099
 in the Old Testament

00:40:15.099 --> 00:40:16.420
 in the civil law

00:40:16.420 --> 00:40:17.559
 for those children

00:40:17.559 --> 00:40:18.460
 who didn't obey

00:40:18.460 --> 00:40:19.219
 their parents

00:40:19.219 --> 00:40:20.500
 to be put to death.

00:40:20.960 --> 00:40:21.679
 Civil law,

00:40:21.800 --> 00:40:22.719
 it's passed away.

00:40:22.719 --> 00:40:23.879
 Parents can't do

00:40:23.879 --> 00:40:24.559
 that under

00:40:24.559 --> 00:40:26.519
 our nation's laws.

00:40:26.659 --> 00:40:27.299
 But this is how

00:40:27.299 --> 00:40:28.079
 seriously

00:40:28.079 --> 00:40:29.579
 God takes this.

00:40:29.839 --> 00:40:30.139
 Why?

00:40:30.739 --> 00:40:31.359
 Because He loves

00:40:31.359 --> 00:40:32.059
 His creation.

00:40:32.500 --> 00:40:33.500
 Exodus 20.12

00:40:33.500 --> 00:40:34.619
 in the Ten Commandments

00:40:34.619 --> 00:40:35.379
 says,

00:40:35.639 --> 00:40:36.119
 Honor your father

00:40:36.119 --> 00:40:36.500
 and mother

00:40:36.500 --> 00:40:37.319
 that your days

00:40:37.319 --> 00:40:38.079
 may be long

00:40:38.079 --> 00:40:38.699
 in the land

00:40:38.699 --> 00:40:39.679
 that the Lord

00:40:39.679 --> 00:40:40.139
 your God

00:40:40.139 --> 00:40:40.819
 is giving you.

00:40:41.819 --> 00:40:42.419
 There goes

00:40:42.419 --> 00:40:43.239
 discipline right now.

00:40:43.359 --> 00:40:43.719
 Right, Liz?

00:40:45.899 --> 00:40:46.839
 Honor your father

00:40:46.839 --> 00:40:47.199
 and mother

00:40:47.199 --> 00:40:47.879
 that your days

00:40:47.879 --> 00:40:48.599
 may be long

00:40:48.599 --> 00:40:49.119
 in the land

00:40:49.119 --> 00:40:49.719
 that the Lord

00:40:49.719 --> 00:40:50.539
 your God

00:40:50.539 --> 00:40:51.480
 is giving you.

00:40:51.559 --> 00:40:52.259
 It will go

00:40:52.259 --> 00:40:53.739
 good for you

00:40:53.739 --> 00:40:55.279
 if you obey

00:40:55.279 --> 00:40:56.819
 your parents.

00:40:57.539 --> 00:40:58.439
 Ephesians 6.1

00:40:58.439 --> 00:40:58.879
 Children,

00:40:59.079 --> 00:40:59.500
 you should know

00:40:59.500 --> 00:41:00.219
 this one with me.

00:41:00.279 --> 00:41:01.039
 We've memorized it.

00:41:01.059 --> 00:41:01.339
 Children,

00:41:02.039 --> 00:41:02.980
 obey your parents

00:41:02.980 --> 00:41:03.500
 and the Lord

00:41:03.500 --> 00:41:04.199
 for this

00:41:04.199 --> 00:41:05.259
 is

00:41:05.259 --> 00:41:06.739
 right.

00:41:09.239 --> 00:41:09.719
 Obedience

00:41:09.719 --> 00:41:10.399
 to your parents

00:41:10.399 --> 00:41:11.980
 even at your age,

00:41:12.480 --> 00:41:13.199
 many of you,

00:41:13.919 --> 00:41:14.559
 is good

00:41:14.559 --> 00:41:15.299
 and pleasing

00:41:15.299 --> 00:41:16.639
 to God.

00:41:16.639 --> 00:41:19.599
 One other note

00:41:19.599 --> 00:41:20.420
 before we move on

00:41:20.420 --> 00:41:21.420
 to the fourth exhortation.

00:41:21.519 --> 00:41:22.059
 I know I'm running

00:41:22.059 --> 00:41:23.279
 long on time.

00:41:25.779 --> 00:41:26.920
 Notice that the children,

00:41:27.819 --> 00:41:28.579
 at least those

00:41:28.579 --> 00:41:28.960
 old enough

00:41:28.960 --> 00:41:29.619
 to understand

00:41:29.619 --> 00:41:29.940
 the reading

00:41:29.940 --> 00:41:30.659
 of Paul's letter,

00:41:31.480 --> 00:41:32.059
 were there.

00:41:33.179 --> 00:41:34.379
 He doesn't say,

00:41:35.119 --> 00:41:35.759
 be sure to tell

00:41:35.759 --> 00:41:36.279
 the children

00:41:36.279 --> 00:41:37.980
 to obey their parents.

00:41:38.659 --> 00:41:39.799
 The letter itself,

00:41:39.920 --> 00:41:40.759
 Paul specifically

00:41:40.759 --> 00:41:42.219
 addresses the children.

00:41:42.460 --> 00:41:42.839
 Now, I don't know

00:41:42.839 --> 00:41:43.339
 what that means.

00:41:43.400 --> 00:41:44.139
 I can't draw a line

00:41:44.139 --> 00:41:44.980
 anywhere in the sand,

00:41:45.219 --> 00:41:46.119
 but I'm just saying

00:41:46.119 --> 00:41:46.460
 to you,

00:41:46.519 --> 00:41:47.019
 it's an interesting

00:41:47.019 --> 00:41:47.819
 place to note

00:41:47.819 --> 00:41:49.000
 that children

00:41:49.000 --> 00:41:49.779
 were part of

00:41:49.779 --> 00:41:50.500
 church gathering.

00:41:51.219 --> 00:41:52.279
 We're glad for that.

00:41:52.319 --> 00:41:53.339
 If you're a total guest

00:41:53.339 --> 00:41:53.799
 and you've never

00:41:53.799 --> 00:41:54.460
 been here before,

00:41:54.779 --> 00:41:55.559
 we love kids.

00:41:55.799 --> 00:41:56.380
 We don't see them

00:41:56.380 --> 00:41:56.839
 as a burden,

00:41:57.099 --> 00:41:58.179
 but rather as a blessing

00:41:58.179 --> 00:41:59.279
 to our church.

00:41:59.559 --> 00:42:00.500
 We're glad to have them

00:42:00.500 --> 00:42:01.880
 in our meetings with us.

00:42:03.039 --> 00:42:03.539
 Okay, fourth,

00:42:04.279 --> 00:42:05.039
 an exhortation

00:42:05.039 --> 00:42:06.699
 to parents.

00:42:06.819 --> 00:42:07.259
 Verse 21,

00:42:07.400 --> 00:42:07.679
 fathers,

00:42:07.779 --> 00:42:08.299
 do not provoke

00:42:08.299 --> 00:42:08.799
 your children

00:42:08.799 --> 00:42:10.239
 lest they become

00:42:10.239 --> 00:42:11.099
 discouraged.

00:42:11.159 --> 00:42:11.519
 You've heard me

00:42:11.519 --> 00:42:12.339
 a couple of times

00:42:12.339 --> 00:42:12.920
 now say

00:42:12.920 --> 00:42:13.859
 there's an exhortation

00:42:13.859 --> 00:42:15.179
 here to parents

00:42:15.179 --> 00:42:16.059
 and this is why.

00:42:16.619 --> 00:42:17.419
 The Greek word

00:42:17.419 --> 00:42:18.379
 for fathers

00:42:18.379 --> 00:42:20.239
 is used specifically

00:42:20.239 --> 00:42:21.399
 for father,

00:42:21.559 --> 00:42:22.059
 but it's used

00:42:22.059 --> 00:42:24.079
 generally for parent.

00:42:24.639 --> 00:42:25.759
 It's used in a broader

00:42:25.759 --> 00:42:27.719
 sense for parent.

00:42:27.919 --> 00:42:28.759
 So, translators

00:42:28.759 --> 00:42:29.759
 get into a spot here.

00:42:29.819 --> 00:42:30.699
 Well, which way

00:42:30.699 --> 00:42:31.279
 do we go?

00:42:31.460 --> 00:42:32.460
 Who is Paul specifically?

00:42:32.460 --> 00:42:33.079
 Is he talking about

00:42:33.079 --> 00:42:33.879
 the general parent

00:42:33.879 --> 00:42:34.559
 or is he talking

00:42:34.559 --> 00:42:35.219
 about the specific

00:42:35.219 --> 00:42:36.119
 father?

00:42:36.239 --> 00:42:36.919
 And many have gone

00:42:36.919 --> 00:42:37.699
 the father route

00:42:37.699 --> 00:42:39.799
 and I respect translators.

00:42:39.899 --> 00:42:40.440
 They are much more

00:42:40.440 --> 00:42:41.679
 intelligent than I,

00:42:41.679 --> 00:42:43.019
 but I also respect

00:42:43.019 --> 00:42:43.819
 commentators who

00:42:43.819 --> 00:42:44.419
 tend to disagree

00:42:44.419 --> 00:42:45.159
 with the translators

00:42:45.159 --> 00:42:47.239
 so very often.

00:42:48.039 --> 00:42:48.519
 So, let me kind of

00:42:48.519 --> 00:42:49.299
 break this down.

00:42:49.399 --> 00:42:50.739
 The primary responsibility,

00:42:51.079 --> 00:42:51.940
 the primary responsibility

00:42:51.940 --> 00:42:52.719
 of the raising of children

00:42:52.719 --> 00:42:54.619
 falls to the husband.

00:42:55.199 --> 00:42:56.539
 The raising of our kids,

00:42:56.619 --> 00:42:57.399
 our boys,

00:42:57.819 --> 00:42:58.699
 in the fear and admonition

00:42:58.699 --> 00:42:59.159
 of the Lord,

00:42:59.500 --> 00:43:01.699
 rests on my shoulders.

00:43:02.579 --> 00:43:03.639
 But praise God,

00:43:04.099 --> 00:43:05.719
 I've been given a helper

00:43:05.719 --> 00:43:07.299
 suitable to me,

00:43:07.460 --> 00:43:07.619
 right?

00:43:07.619 --> 00:43:08.960
 A good helper.

00:43:09.299 --> 00:43:09.960
 Someone who I can

00:43:09.960 --> 00:43:11.779
 task out with things

00:43:11.779 --> 00:43:12.799
 that can help

00:43:12.799 --> 00:43:13.859
 in this process

00:43:13.859 --> 00:43:14.940
 as I go off to work

00:43:14.940 --> 00:43:16.079
 and she is at home

00:43:16.079 --> 00:43:17.199
 with the children.

00:43:18.519 --> 00:43:19.699
 I believe it's more

00:43:19.699 --> 00:43:20.920
 proper to understand

00:43:20.920 --> 00:43:21.920
 Paul to be addressing

00:43:21.920 --> 00:43:22.619
 both parents

00:43:22.619 --> 00:43:23.819
 because of this.

00:43:24.019 --> 00:43:24.679
 Even if,

00:43:25.219 --> 00:43:26.159
 rightly it should say,

00:43:26.299 --> 00:43:26.739
 fathers,

00:43:26.839 --> 00:43:27.599
 fathers still have

00:43:27.599 --> 00:43:28.839
 partners in this process

00:43:28.839 --> 00:43:30.480
 and so I like to say

00:43:30.480 --> 00:43:31.339
 parents.

00:43:32.199 --> 00:43:33.339
 As children have

00:43:33.339 --> 00:43:33.859
 a responsibility

00:43:33.859 --> 00:43:34.819
 to their parents,

00:43:35.019 --> 00:43:35.940
 so parents

00:43:35.940 --> 00:43:37.319
 have a responsibility

00:43:37.320 --> 00:43:38.440
 to their children

00:43:38.440 --> 00:43:40.019
 and it is a higher

00:43:40.019 --> 00:43:40.940
 responsibility.

00:43:41.360 --> 00:43:42.059
 Children just simply

00:43:42.059 --> 00:43:43.120
 get to obey.

00:43:44.000 --> 00:43:44.880
 Parents have the responsibility

00:43:44.880 --> 00:43:46.680
 of raising up.

00:43:46.780 --> 00:43:47.720
 Ephesians 6.4 says,

00:43:47.840 --> 00:43:48.059
 fathers,

00:43:48.180 --> 00:43:48.660
 do not provoke

00:43:48.660 --> 00:43:49.320
 your children to anger

00:43:49.320 --> 00:43:50.400
 but bring them up

00:43:50.400 --> 00:43:51.160
 in the discipline

00:43:51.160 --> 00:43:52.400
 and instruction

00:43:52.400 --> 00:43:53.780
 of the Lord.

00:43:54.280 --> 00:43:55.100
 This means that

00:43:55.100 --> 00:43:55.880
 we are to bring

00:43:55.880 --> 00:43:56.700
 our children up

00:43:56.700 --> 00:43:57.720
 in a way

00:43:57.720 --> 00:43:58.620
 in which they

00:43:58.620 --> 00:43:59.660
 fear God,

00:43:59.780 --> 00:44:01.220
 they understand God,

00:44:01.320 --> 00:44:01.980
 that they get

00:44:01.980 --> 00:44:02.640
 the Gospel.

00:44:03.820 --> 00:44:05.080
 And this is a challenge

00:44:05.080 --> 00:44:06.059
 in the raising

00:44:06.059 --> 00:44:06.720
 of children.

00:44:06.719 --> 00:44:07.779
 How to speak

00:44:07.779 --> 00:44:08.719
 to their hearts

00:44:08.719 --> 00:44:09.439
 and not just

00:44:09.439 --> 00:44:10.159
 their minds.

00:44:10.459 --> 00:44:11.000
 How to help

00:44:11.000 --> 00:44:12.039
 them to understand

00:44:12.039 --> 00:44:13.939
 that their disobedience

00:44:13.939 --> 00:44:14.579
 is ultimately

00:44:14.579 --> 00:44:15.679
 an offense against

00:44:15.679 --> 00:44:17.079
 God and not just

00:44:17.079 --> 00:44:18.539
 mommy or daddy.

00:44:19.599 --> 00:44:20.259
 It's a work

00:44:20.259 --> 00:44:20.819
 in our home.

00:44:20.919 --> 00:44:21.559
 We're always trying

00:44:21.559 --> 00:44:22.359
 to find ways

00:44:22.359 --> 00:44:22.919
 in which we can

00:44:22.919 --> 00:44:24.099
 do this well.

00:44:24.179 --> 00:44:25.039
 I love now

00:44:25.039 --> 00:44:25.639
 that Kay and my

00:44:25.639 --> 00:44:26.179
 five-year-old's

00:44:26.179 --> 00:44:26.719
 little wheels

00:44:26.719 --> 00:44:27.259
 are turning

00:44:27.259 --> 00:44:28.019
 and the things

00:44:28.019 --> 00:44:28.379
 that I've been

00:44:28.379 --> 00:44:29.179
 saying to him

00:44:29.179 --> 00:44:29.859
 since he was

00:44:29.859 --> 00:44:30.639
 a little guy,

00:44:30.719 --> 00:44:31.539
 one-year-old,

00:44:31.639 --> 00:44:32.099
 I'm already trying

00:44:32.099 --> 00:44:32.899
 to use the right

00:44:32.899 --> 00:44:33.819
 language with him,

00:44:34.099 --> 00:44:34.559
 are starting to

00:44:34.559 --> 00:44:35.439
 click into gear.

00:44:35.440 --> 00:44:36.200
 He's starting

00:44:36.200 --> 00:44:37.820
 to get the concept

00:44:37.820 --> 00:44:38.760
 of sin

00:44:38.760 --> 00:44:39.740
 and what obedience

00:44:39.740 --> 00:44:40.840
 to God looks like.

00:44:40.900 --> 00:44:41.200
 He's starting

00:44:41.200 --> 00:44:42.360
 to see that I'm

00:44:42.360 --> 00:44:43.579
 an agent of the

00:44:43.579 --> 00:44:44.539
 Lord to help him

00:44:44.539 --> 00:44:45.460
 walk in the way

00:44:45.460 --> 00:44:46.420
 of the Lord

00:44:46.420 --> 00:44:46.800
 and therefore

00:44:46.800 --> 00:44:47.720
 it's right and

00:44:47.720 --> 00:44:49.059
 proper for him

00:44:49.059 --> 00:44:49.619
 to obey.

00:44:50.000 --> 00:44:50.960
 We desperately

00:44:50.960 --> 00:44:52.300
 want this to bear

00:44:52.300 --> 00:44:53.780
 fruit in their

00:44:53.780 --> 00:44:54.099
 lives.

00:44:54.200 --> 00:44:54.800
 We want our

00:44:54.800 --> 00:44:55.659
 children to be

00:44:55.659 --> 00:44:56.220
 regenerate.

00:44:56.280 --> 00:44:56.820
 We want them

00:44:56.820 --> 00:44:57.760
 to belong to

00:44:57.760 --> 00:44:58.200
 the Lord and

00:44:58.200 --> 00:44:59.420
 honor them with

00:44:59.420 --> 00:45:00.019
 their lives.

00:45:00.179 --> 00:45:00.720
 And this is the

00:45:00.720 --> 00:45:01.880
 great call for

00:45:01.880 --> 00:45:03.300
 parents to

00:45:03.300 --> 00:45:03.619
 children.

00:45:03.619 --> 00:45:05.980
 He says in

00:45:05.980 --> 00:45:06.440
 this negative

00:45:06.440 --> 00:45:07.099
 exhortation,

00:45:07.239 --> 00:45:08.880
 do not provoke

00:45:08.880 --> 00:45:09.799
 your children

00:45:09.799 --> 00:45:12.059
 lest they become

00:45:12.059 --> 00:45:13.039
 discouraged.

00:45:13.679 --> 00:45:14.239
 This idea of

00:45:14.239 --> 00:45:14.799
 not provoking

00:45:14.799 --> 00:45:15.299
 your children

00:45:15.299 --> 00:45:16.940
 means to stir

00:45:16.940 --> 00:45:17.960
 up or to

00:45:17.960 --> 00:45:19.139
 irritate or

00:45:19.139 --> 00:45:20.699
 to exasperate.

00:45:21.539 --> 00:45:22.339
 Failure to

00:45:22.339 --> 00:45:23.039
 not provoke

00:45:23.039 --> 00:45:24.000
 them can cause

00:45:24.000 --> 00:45:25.599
 them to become

00:45:25.599 --> 00:45:26.799
 discouraged.

00:45:27.079 --> 00:45:27.960
 NASB renders

00:45:27.960 --> 00:45:29.420
 that to lose

00:45:29.420 --> 00:45:30.359
 heart or to

00:45:30.359 --> 00:45:31.299
 be without

00:45:31.299 --> 00:45:32.839
 courage.

00:45:33.619 --> 00:45:33.819
 And the

00:45:33.819 --> 00:45:34.199
 picture there

00:45:34.199 --> 00:45:34.679
 I think is

00:45:34.679 --> 00:45:35.539
 this constant

00:45:35.539 --> 00:45:37.199
 nagging,

00:45:37.519 --> 00:45:38.039
 nitpicking,

00:45:38.400 --> 00:45:39.239
 beating down.

00:45:39.339 --> 00:45:39.759
 You can never

00:45:39.759 --> 00:45:40.480
 do anything

00:45:40.480 --> 00:45:41.279
 right in the

00:45:41.279 --> 00:45:41.819
 sight of your

00:45:41.819 --> 00:45:42.159
 parents.

00:45:42.219 --> 00:45:42.619
 Your parents

00:45:42.619 --> 00:45:43.139
 are on top

00:45:43.139 --> 00:45:44.000
 of you all

00:45:44.000 --> 00:45:44.500
 the time.

00:45:44.839 --> 00:45:45.839
 Always hard.

00:45:46.119 --> 00:45:46.839
 Always hard.

00:45:47.179 --> 00:45:48.559
 Always hard.

00:45:49.019 --> 00:45:50.179
 Never encouraging.

00:45:50.659 --> 00:45:51.400
 Never helping

00:45:51.400 --> 00:45:52.420
 the children see

00:45:52.420 --> 00:45:53.119
 that they have

00:45:53.119 --> 00:45:54.400
 value and that

00:45:54.400 --> 00:45:55.380
 they know that

00:45:55.380 --> 00:45:56.059
 they're trying

00:45:56.059 --> 00:45:56.359
 and they're

00:45:56.359 --> 00:45:57.079
 working at it.

00:45:57.179 --> 00:45:57.920
 Never saying

00:45:57.920 --> 00:45:58.519
 to the children,

00:45:58.839 --> 00:45:59.639
 I'm proud of

00:45:59.639 --> 00:45:59.839
 you.

00:46:01.139 --> 00:46:01.859
 We could get

00:46:01.859 --> 00:46:02.440
 into this for

00:46:02.440 --> 00:46:03.039
 the longest

00:46:03.039 --> 00:46:03.500
 of time,

00:46:03.559 --> 00:46:03.800
 but it's

00:46:03.800 --> 00:46:04.200
 10 till

00:46:04.200 --> 00:46:04.539
 12,

00:46:04.619 --> 00:46:04.860
 so I'm

00:46:04.860 --> 00:46:05.119
 going to

00:46:05.119 --> 00:46:05.619
 skip a

00:46:05.619 --> 00:46:06.559
 bit down

00:46:06.559 --> 00:46:07.139
 in this.

00:46:07.760 --> 00:46:08.179
 Parents,

00:46:08.280 --> 00:46:08.780
 we are not

00:46:08.780 --> 00:46:09.300
 to provoke

00:46:09.300 --> 00:46:09.860
 our children

00:46:09.860 --> 00:46:10.400
 unless they

00:46:10.400 --> 00:46:11.679
 become discouraged.

00:46:12.019 --> 00:46:12.360
 We don't

00:46:12.360 --> 00:46:12.679
 want our

00:46:12.679 --> 00:46:13.179
 kids feeling

00:46:13.179 --> 00:46:13.519
 like they

00:46:13.519 --> 00:46:13.940
 can never

00:46:13.940 --> 00:46:15.099
 do anything

00:46:15.099 --> 00:46:16.460
 right in

00:46:16.460 --> 00:46:17.079
 our eyes.

00:46:17.539 --> 00:46:18.440
 We are to

00:46:18.440 --> 00:46:20.659
 lovingly train

00:46:20.659 --> 00:46:21.720
 our children.

00:46:22.360 --> 00:46:23.019
 The opposite

00:46:23.019 --> 00:46:23.519
 of this would

00:46:23.519 --> 00:46:24.400
 be to lovingly

00:46:24.400 --> 00:46:25.039
 train and

00:46:25.039 --> 00:46:26.059
 encourage our

00:46:26.059 --> 00:46:26.980
 children in

00:46:26.980 --> 00:46:27.679
 the right way.

00:46:28.079 --> 00:46:28.780
 To correct

00:46:28.780 --> 00:46:29.519
 them in the

00:46:29.519 --> 00:46:30.720
 same way that

00:46:30.719 --> 00:46:31.439
 God corrects

00:46:31.439 --> 00:46:31.799
 us.

00:46:32.239 --> 00:46:32.799
 His children.

00:46:33.899 --> 00:46:34.779
 Children need

00:46:34.779 --> 00:46:35.399
 to learn that

00:46:35.399 --> 00:46:35.719
 there are

00:46:35.719 --> 00:46:36.459
 consistent

00:46:36.459 --> 00:46:37.779
 consequences

00:46:37.779 --> 00:46:38.599
 for their

00:46:38.599 --> 00:46:39.000
 actions.

00:46:39.159 --> 00:46:39.619
 Consistent

00:46:39.619 --> 00:46:40.239
 consequences.

00:46:40.559 --> 00:46:41.000
 Like rules

00:46:41.000 --> 00:46:41.379
 need to be

00:46:41.379 --> 00:46:42.199
 made and

00:46:42.199 --> 00:46:43.199
 consequences for

00:46:43.199 --> 00:46:44.159
 breaking those

00:46:44.159 --> 00:46:44.679
 rules and

00:46:44.679 --> 00:46:45.259
 those things

00:46:45.259 --> 00:46:46.359
 need to be

00:46:46.359 --> 00:46:47.539
 followed through.

00:46:48.439 --> 00:46:49.119
 The writer of

00:46:49.119 --> 00:46:49.879
 Hebrews says

00:46:49.879 --> 00:46:50.519
 in chapter 12

00:46:50.519 --> 00:46:51.019
 verse 6,

00:46:51.119 --> 00:46:51.679
 for the Lord

00:46:51.679 --> 00:46:53.000
 disciplines the

00:46:53.000 --> 00:46:54.179
 one he loves

00:46:54.179 --> 00:46:55.500
 and chastises

00:46:55.500 --> 00:46:56.199
 every son

00:46:56.199 --> 00:46:57.379
 whom he receives.

00:46:57.439 --> 00:46:58.039
 It is good

00:46:58.039 --> 00:46:58.679
 and right

00:46:58.679 --> 00:46:59.319
 and proper

00:46:59.320 --> 00:46:59.700
 that we

00:46:59.700 --> 00:47:00.539
 discipline

00:47:00.539 --> 00:47:02.140
 our children.

00:47:04.000 --> 00:47:04.880
 Children need

00:47:04.880 --> 00:47:05.620
 to properly

00:47:05.620 --> 00:47:06.740
 understand

00:47:06.740 --> 00:47:08.340
 grace.

00:47:09.200 --> 00:47:09.680
 We should

00:47:09.680 --> 00:47:10.440
 not dismiss

00:47:10.440 --> 00:47:11.580
 their disobedience

00:47:11.580 --> 00:47:12.820
 but give

00:47:12.820 --> 00:47:13.300
 loving

00:47:13.300 --> 00:47:14.380
 discipline.

00:47:14.920 --> 00:47:15.400
 I hear this

00:47:15.400 --> 00:47:16.039
 a lot in

00:47:16.039 --> 00:47:17.080
 the talk of

00:47:17.080 --> 00:47:17.780
 Christian

00:47:17.780 --> 00:47:18.700
 parents.

00:47:19.160 --> 00:47:19.620
 I'll tell you

00:47:19.620 --> 00:47:20.260
 now that it's

00:47:20.260 --> 00:47:20.940
 laziness.

00:47:21.420 --> 00:47:22.059
 It's not well

00:47:22.059 --> 00:47:22.539
 motivated.

00:47:22.660 --> 00:47:23.019
 It's just

00:47:23.019 --> 00:47:23.580
 laziness.

00:47:23.880 --> 00:47:24.140
 But the

00:47:24.140 --> 00:47:24.900
 passing over,

00:47:25.220 --> 00:47:25.920
 the sometimes

00:47:25.920 --> 00:47:26.600
 punishing and

00:47:26.600 --> 00:47:27.240
 the sometimes

00:47:27.240 --> 00:47:28.900
 not intending

00:47:28.900 --> 00:47:29.440
 to display

00:47:29.440 --> 00:47:29.980
 the character

00:47:29.980 --> 00:47:30.579
 of God,

00:47:31.660 --> 00:47:32.119
 God did

00:47:32.119 --> 00:47:32.860
 not pass

00:47:32.860 --> 00:47:33.820
 over our

00:47:33.820 --> 00:47:34.539
 sins in a

00:47:34.539 --> 00:47:35.340
 dismissive way

00:47:35.340 --> 00:47:35.559
 like,

00:47:35.940 --> 00:47:36.180
 well,

00:47:36.460 --> 00:47:36.920
 I'm just

00:47:36.920 --> 00:47:37.059
 going to

00:47:37.059 --> 00:47:37.280
 look at

00:47:37.280 --> 00:47:37.820
 Nathan and

00:47:37.820 --> 00:47:38.099
 I'm just

00:47:38.099 --> 00:47:38.619
 not going

00:47:38.619 --> 00:47:39.099
 to discipline

00:47:39.099 --> 00:47:40.000
 Nathan for

00:47:40.000 --> 00:47:40.460
 all of his

00:47:40.460 --> 00:47:40.700
 sin.

00:47:41.639 --> 00:47:41.880
 No,

00:47:42.440 --> 00:47:43.519
 God fully,

00:47:43.639 --> 00:47:44.059
 in a way I

00:47:44.059 --> 00:47:44.420
 can never

00:47:44.420 --> 00:47:44.860
 do with my

00:47:44.860 --> 00:47:45.099
 children,

00:47:45.240 --> 00:47:46.300
 God fully

00:47:46.300 --> 00:47:47.660
 punished my

00:47:47.660 --> 00:47:49.160
 sin in

00:47:49.160 --> 00:47:49.579
 Christ.

00:47:50.800 --> 00:47:51.860
 The punishment

00:47:51.860 --> 00:47:52.500
 had to be

00:47:52.500 --> 00:47:53.000
 dealt out.

00:47:53.079 --> 00:47:53.460
 That was the

00:47:53.460 --> 00:47:54.280
 just thing for

00:47:54.280 --> 00:47:54.940
 God to do.

00:47:55.559 --> 00:47:56.340
 He took all

00:47:56.340 --> 00:47:56.860
 of my

00:47:56.860 --> 00:47:57.780
 sin and

00:47:57.780 --> 00:47:58.260
 he laid

00:47:58.260 --> 00:47:58.539
 it on

00:47:58.539 --> 00:47:59.180
 Christ.

00:47:59.880 --> 00:48:00.680
 The perfect,

00:48:00.800 --> 00:48:01.460
 the spotless,

00:48:01.539 --> 00:48:01.980
 the one who

00:48:01.980 --> 00:48:02.519
 had lived a

00:48:02.519 --> 00:48:03.760
 sinless life.

00:48:03.900 --> 00:48:04.640
 He gave it

00:48:04.640 --> 00:48:05.920
 to him and

00:48:05.920 --> 00:48:06.460
 then he gave

00:48:06.460 --> 00:48:07.760
 me his

00:48:07.760 --> 00:48:08.760
 righteousness.

00:48:09.200 --> 00:48:09.680
 This double

00:48:09.680 --> 00:48:11.019
 imputation that

00:48:11.019 --> 00:48:11.920
 occurred in

00:48:11.920 --> 00:48:12.440
 that way.

00:48:12.720 --> 00:48:13.440
 So now I

00:48:13.440 --> 00:48:14.140
 can stand

00:48:14.140 --> 00:48:15.420
 justified before

00:48:15.420 --> 00:48:16.240
 God having

00:48:16.240 --> 00:48:16.740
 to have all

00:48:16.740 --> 00:48:17.400
 my sins

00:48:17.400 --> 00:48:18.120
 forgiven because

00:48:18.120 --> 00:48:18.660
 they were

00:48:18.660 --> 00:48:19.800
 punished in

00:48:19.800 --> 00:48:20.240
 Christ.

00:48:20.500 --> 00:48:20.940
 And I can

00:48:20.940 --> 00:48:21.840
 now be an

00:48:21.840 --> 00:48:23.320
 adopted son

00:48:23.320 --> 00:48:24.640
 in right

00:48:24.640 --> 00:48:26.120
 standing with

00:48:26.120 --> 00:48:26.660
 the Lord.

00:48:27.660 --> 00:48:28.360
 By just

00:48:28.360 --> 00:48:29.280
 ignoring some

00:48:29.280 --> 00:48:29.600
 of the things

00:48:29.600 --> 00:48:30.019
 our children

00:48:30.019 --> 00:48:30.500
 do, we

00:48:30.500 --> 00:48:31.240
 don't accomplish

00:48:31.240 --> 00:48:31.700
 this.

00:48:31.800 --> 00:48:32.059
 We don't

00:48:32.059 --> 00:48:32.580
 teach them

00:48:32.580 --> 00:48:33.500
 the gospel.

00:48:34.200 --> 00:48:34.660
 The way you

00:48:34.660 --> 00:48:34.960
 teach your

00:48:34.960 --> 00:48:35.360
 children the

00:48:35.360 --> 00:48:36.240
 gospel is

00:48:36.240 --> 00:48:36.480
 that you

00:48:36.480 --> 00:48:37.100
 punish them

00:48:37.100 --> 00:48:37.680
 when they

00:48:37.680 --> 00:48:38.740
 sin and

00:48:38.740 --> 00:48:39.019
 then you

00:48:39.019 --> 00:48:39.539
 talk to

00:48:39.539 --> 00:48:40.260
 them about

00:48:40.260 --> 00:48:41.120
 sin and

00:48:41.120 --> 00:48:41.760
 the ultimate

00:48:41.760 --> 00:48:43.080
 punishment for

00:48:43.080 --> 00:48:43.960
 sin and

00:48:43.960 --> 00:48:44.400
 you tell them

00:48:44.400 --> 00:48:44.660
 that you

00:48:44.660 --> 00:48:45.600
 love them and

00:48:45.600 --> 00:48:46.220
 that they're

00:48:46.220 --> 00:48:46.940
 yours and

00:48:46.940 --> 00:48:47.340
 they'll never

00:48:47.340 --> 00:48:48.440
 not be

00:48:48.440 --> 00:48:49.360
 yours.

00:48:50.559 --> 00:48:51.140
 We always

00:48:51.140 --> 00:48:51.920
 reconcile after

00:48:51.920 --> 00:48:52.620
 punishment in

00:48:52.620 --> 00:48:53.180
 our house.

00:48:53.920 --> 00:48:54.080
 Right?

00:48:54.340 --> 00:48:55.539
 After I wear

00:48:55.539 --> 00:48:56.380
 Cade's rear end

00:48:56.380 --> 00:48:58.280
 out and he's

00:48:58.280 --> 00:48:58.960
 done thinking

00:48:58.960 --> 00:48:59.660
 about what he

00:48:59.660 --> 00:49:00.420
 did, we go

00:49:00.420 --> 00:49:01.220
 have a conversation

00:49:01.220 --> 00:49:02.120
 about why he

00:49:02.120 --> 00:49:02.580
 was punished,

00:49:02.700 --> 00:49:03.240
 that he sees

00:49:03.240 --> 00:49:03.500
 it's the

00:49:03.500 --> 00:49:04.160
 consequence for

00:49:04.160 --> 00:49:04.580
 what he

00:49:04.580 --> 00:49:05.000
 did.

00:49:05.080 --> 00:49:05.280
 It's not

00:49:05.280 --> 00:49:05.740
 because dad's

00:49:05.740 --> 00:49:06.880
 mean, it's

00:49:06.880 --> 00:49:07.340
 because he

00:49:07.340 --> 00:49:08.519
 broke my

00:49:08.519 --> 00:49:09.800
 law and

00:49:09.800 --> 00:49:10.559
 therefore a

00:49:10.559 --> 00:49:11.120
 punishment was

00:49:11.120 --> 00:49:12.680
 necessary for

00:49:12.680 --> 00:49:13.059
 that.

00:49:13.720 --> 00:49:14.300
 And I always

00:49:14.300 --> 00:49:14.760
 tell him that

00:49:14.760 --> 00:49:15.660
 he's my son

00:49:15.660 --> 00:49:17.140
 and I love

00:49:17.140 --> 00:49:18.340
 him and that's

00:49:18.340 --> 00:49:18.740
 why his

00:49:18.740 --> 00:49:19.720
 obedience is so

00:49:19.720 --> 00:49:20.860
 important to

00:49:20.860 --> 00:49:21.780
 me because I

00:49:21.780 --> 00:49:22.220
 want what's

00:49:22.220 --> 00:49:23.140
 good and

00:49:23.139 --> 00:49:23.759
 what's right

00:49:23.759 --> 00:49:24.219
 for him.

00:49:24.420 --> 00:49:25.480
 That's grace.

00:49:26.599 --> 00:49:27.259
 This is the

00:49:27.259 --> 00:49:27.879
 way that God

00:49:27.879 --> 00:49:29.299
 deals with us.

00:49:29.659 --> 00:49:30.440
 That when Cade

00:49:30.440 --> 00:49:31.259
 is disobedient to

00:49:31.259 --> 00:49:31.679
 me that I

00:49:31.679 --> 00:49:32.259
 don't kick him

00:49:32.259 --> 00:49:32.719
 out on the

00:49:32.719 --> 00:49:33.639
 street and

00:49:33.639 --> 00:49:34.119
 say you're

00:49:34.119 --> 00:49:35.019
 not my son

00:49:35.019 --> 00:49:35.420
 anymore.

00:49:35.819 --> 00:49:36.259
 I want

00:49:36.259 --> 00:49:37.219
 nothing to do

00:49:37.219 --> 00:49:37.579
 with you.

00:49:37.579 --> 00:49:38.299
 Good luck,

00:49:38.399 --> 00:49:39.079
 five-year-old.

00:49:43.279 --> 00:49:44.219
 The fact that I

00:49:44.219 --> 00:49:45.019
 don't do that

00:49:45.019 --> 00:49:45.639
 is grace.

00:49:46.579 --> 00:49:47.339
 That I love

00:49:47.339 --> 00:49:48.799
 him in this

00:49:48.799 --> 00:49:49.000
 way.

00:49:49.099 --> 00:49:49.679
 Children need

00:49:49.679 --> 00:49:50.500
 to properly

00:49:50.500 --> 00:49:53.159
 understand grace.

00:49:54.259 --> 00:49:54.739
 And so do

00:49:54.739 --> 00:49:55.000
 we.

00:49:56.219 --> 00:49:57.039
 We need to see

00:49:57.039 --> 00:49:57.819
 that relationship

00:49:57.819 --> 00:49:58.399
 with God and

00:49:58.399 --> 00:49:58.859
 children are so

00:49:58.859 --> 00:50:00.379
 very helpful for

00:50:00.379 --> 00:50:02.039
 us in this.

00:50:03.239 --> 00:50:03.739
 And so there's

00:50:03.739 --> 00:50:04.639
 four exhortations

00:50:04.639 --> 00:50:05.559
 for the

00:50:05.559 --> 00:50:07.099
 household of

00:50:07.099 --> 00:50:07.359
 the new

00:50:07.359 --> 00:50:07.759
 self.

00:50:08.699 --> 00:50:09.239
 One to

00:50:09.239 --> 00:50:10.159
 wives, one to

00:50:10.159 --> 00:50:11.119
 husbands, one to

00:50:11.119 --> 00:50:12.639
 children, and

00:50:12.639 --> 00:50:13.299
 one to parents.

00:50:14.259 --> 00:50:15.099
 The one for

00:50:15.099 --> 00:50:16.879
 whom Christ is

00:50:16.879 --> 00:50:18.299
 all, the one

00:50:18.299 --> 00:50:19.019
 who treasures

00:50:19.019 --> 00:50:20.059
 Christ above all

00:50:20.059 --> 00:50:21.579
 else, will live

00:50:21.579 --> 00:50:22.199
 differently than

00:50:22.199 --> 00:50:22.979
 they once did and

00:50:22.979 --> 00:50:23.319
 will live

00:50:23.319 --> 00:50:24.000
 differently than

00:50:24.000 --> 00:50:24.719
 the world that

00:50:24.719 --> 00:50:25.399
 surrounds them.

00:50:26.319 --> 00:50:26.879
 We shouldn't

00:50:26.879 --> 00:50:27.259
 take these

00:50:27.259 --> 00:50:28.319
 exhortations lightly

00:50:28.319 --> 00:50:29.819
 this morning because

00:50:29.819 --> 00:50:30.319
 Christ Family

00:50:30.319 --> 00:50:32.000
 Church exists to

00:50:32.000 --> 00:50:33.260
 glorify God by

00:50:33.260 --> 00:50:33.840
 experiencing,

00:50:34.500 --> 00:50:35.500
 proclaiming, and

00:50:35.500 --> 00:50:36.800
 displaying the

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 supremacy of Jesus

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 Christ in all

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 things to all

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 peoples.

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 Let's pray

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 together.