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 The scripture reading comes from Deuteronomy chapter 5. You can find the passage in your bulletin.

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 Verse 1, And Moses summoned all Israel and said to them,

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 Hear, O Israel, the statues and the ruse I speak in your hearing today, and you shall learn them and be careful to do them.

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 Then in verse 6,

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 Observe the Sabbath day to keep it holy.

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 As the Lord your God commanded you.

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 Six days you shall labor and do all your work.

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 But the seventh day is the Sabbath to the Lord your God.

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 On it you shall not do any work.

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 You or your son or your daughter or your male servant or your female servant or your ox or your donkey or any of your livestock or the sojourner who is within your gates that your male servant and your female servant may rest as well as you.

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 You shall remember that you were a slave in the land of Egypt.

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 And the Lord your God brought you out from there with a mighty hand and an outstretched arm.

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 Therefore, the Lord your God commanded you to keep the Sabbath day.

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 Honor your father and your mother as the Lord your God commanded you that your days may be long and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God has given you.

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 You shall not murder.

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 Great.

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 Thank you so much, Sherman.

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 Thank you so much, Sherman.

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 It is so exciting to be back.

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 It's so great to be here together.

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 What I'd love us to do is just before I begin to share from this passage, I'd love us just to pray and ask God to really speak to us through this.

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 Father, we just thank you that when you speak, you call us to listen because you desire to love us through your word.

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 And you desire to change us through your word.

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 And you desire to make us into the people that you have created us to be through your word.

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 And I pray you would speak this morning.

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 Pray that you'd open our hearts to hear what you want us to hear.

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 Lord, remove anything that is not from you.

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 But I pray you'll come with power.

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 Take these simple words and let them just drive, be driven right into our hearts, Lord.

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 That we may love you more.

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 That we may truly worship you with every area of our lives, I pray.

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 In Jesus' name.

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 Amen.

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 Great.

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 So, we have been going through the Ten Commandments online.

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 Okay, who's been following online?

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 Okay, most of you.

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 So, you should know we've already gone through four of the commandments already.

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 And so, we're going to come to commandment number five, which is honor your father and mother.

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 So, before we start, what I'd like you to do is I'm going to do a poll.

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 Okay.

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 So, I want you to stand up if someone has experienced childbirth to bring you into the world.

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 Okay, there's a few people who clearly have not experienced, that didn't have any parents.

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 So, if you didn't stand up, then this sermon is completely irrelevant to you.

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 You can walk out right now.

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 You can sit down.

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 If you did stand up, then this sermon has great relevance to you.

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 Okay.

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 So, you just have to decide right now whether this is relevant or not.

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 Okay.

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 So, this command, I'm going to dive straight into looking at this command because I think

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 this has a real weight for all of us in where we are 2020 in Hong Kong.

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 Honor your father and mother.

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 First of all, what does that mean?

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 Well, the word honor literally means to be heavy or to give weight to someone.

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 So, it's saying you take treating your parents seriously.

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 It means giving your parents profound respect.

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 The opposite is to treat your parents lightly or to disrespect them as if they don't really

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 matter in your life.

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 And so, commentators have looked at this commandment and seen that it's actually a hinge commandment

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 between the first four commandments, which are really about your duty towards God, worshiping

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 him alone, having no other idols, honoring his name above all other names, and keeping the

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 Sabbath of worship to him.

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 The hinge and then moving on to the commands which really focus on duty towards your neighbor

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 and how you love your neighbor.

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 But this one comes in between them.

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 It's the way that you move from that upward focus to that horizontal focus.

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 And so, what you'll see is we move from loving God to loving other people through honoring

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 our parents.

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 Now, why does he do that?

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 Because your parents are the first and probably some of the most influential people that you've

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 encountered in your life.

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 And so, what you need to remember is God gave you your parents as a gift.

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 Okay?

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 Some of you, whether you like that or not, your parents didn't choose you.

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 Do you know that?

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 And you didn't choose your parents either.

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 And so, what that means is both ways, you are a gift to each other, but you are a broken

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 gift in different ways.

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 But God is in the redemption business.

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 So, what I want us to look at is the fact that this command is saying we don't honor our

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 parents because they deserve it.

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 They don't honor their parents because they deserve it.

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 Nowhere in scripture says you can only honor your parents if they've treated you really

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 well or if they've been so sacrificially loving to you.

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 It never says that anywhere.

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 Because what the parents, what the Bible says is, frankly, we live in a broken world where

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 some parents are not like that at all.

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 But the command comes to us even if you've been hurt by your parents.

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 And God takes that really seriously.

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 And we'll talk about that in a little bit.

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 But the command comes to us not to honor our parents because they merited it in some way,

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 but to honor them because in doing so we honor God who has given them to us as our parents,

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 as a gift.

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 And so, that is what we are called to do.

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 We're called to honor our parents.

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 But why should we have this command?

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 We honor them as we're honoring God.

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 And I'm going to stand up here as it's easier for me to, rather than looking over.

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 Why does God give us this command?

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 Well, there's three reasons.

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 Okay?

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 Three reasons that I think God gives this command.

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 The first reason is for our blessing.

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 You see what he says in the passage here.

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 He says,

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 Honor your father and mother, as the Lord commanded you,

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 that your days may be long and that it may go well with you in the land that your Lord,

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 your God, is giving you.

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 You see what he says?

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 That it may go well with you.

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 Another way of saying it is that you may prosper in the land.

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 The Israelites are on the edge of the promised land.

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 They're about to go into this place of incredible blessing.

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 And God says, if you want to enjoy this land as I really want you to, then take this command seriously.

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 That actually the path of blessing for you is actually goes through this obedience to this commandment.

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 And it's not saying, hey, like everyone's going to live to 102 or something.

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 That's not the point of it.

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 The point is, this is for your blessing.

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 Paul says in Ephesians, this is the first command with a promise.

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 It's a promise of blessing for us.

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 Now, I don't know how many Disney movies you've watched,

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 but so many Disney movies have this idea that there is this kind of princess or this prince,

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 and the way that they're to get freedom and blessing in their life

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 is to get out of the restrictions of their controlling parents.

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 You know, think of like Snow White or Tangled or Little Mermaid or Cinderella.

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 All of them have that narrative.

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 This command is saying, no, the way to blessing isn't to get out from your parents.

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 It's actually to honor your parents.

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 And so what this means is you can be singing in church every Sunday.

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 You can be serving all you like.

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 You can be evangelizing out in the world.

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 But if you are not doing this commandment well, there's going to be a hole inside of your heart.

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 There's going to be a wound there where you are not going to experience the blessing that God wants for you.

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 There's going to be a spiritual stuntedness in your growth until this command is taken seriously.

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 And we know that just from psychology and sociology,

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 we know research shows that actually the parent-child relationship is essential for emotional health,

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 for mental health, for your own sense of identity.

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 It's also for wisdom and guidance.

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 Like, I would have made so many stupid mistakes if I hadn't listened to some things my parents had said.

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 And also for social support networks, you know, for like the elderly particularly.

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 Family is essential for creating a healthy, prospering society.

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 And God knows that.

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 That's why he gives us this command.

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 And if we don't take this command seriously, there's always going to be a shadow hanging over your life,

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 even if everything else is going well with you.

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 And you know that if you have a difficult relationship with your parents.

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 So he says it's for your blessing.

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 But also, he says, actually, secondly,

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 it's also dishonoring your parents brings curse or judgment.

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 Now, this is a bit harder.

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 But Deuteronomy 22 says that there's a rebellious son who is not listening to his parents.

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 And he's basically going off the rails.

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 And God says in Deuteronomy, he says,

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 listen, the punishment for that son, for the harm that he's doing on the community,

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 is death.

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 Now, that sounds pretty harsh.

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 But what he's saying on the point of it is,

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 willful disobedience against your parents not only destroys your own blessing,

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 but it can harm society and harm the relationships around you.

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 You know that.

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 If there is relational breakdown,

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 you know it affects the poverty levels of both young and old.

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 You know that?

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 It affects the burden on hospitals and on the welfare system is totally different.

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 Just think about the, you know, the cultural revolution.

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 Do you know when sons and daughters denounce their parents?

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 And you see the devastation it just brought in the whole of society.

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 God takes this really seriously.

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 In fact, in Romans 1, there's this passage where God goes through this list of things

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 where people are under his judgment.

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 And he goes, you know, people who are liars, people who are envious,

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 people who are gossips, people who are haters of God.

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 And you go, yeah, that sounds about right for people who are under God's judgment.

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 And then he goes, and those who are disobedient to their parents.

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 And you go, wow, God really takes this seriously.

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 So why is he giving the command?

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 He's giving it for our blessing.

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 But he's also giving it so that we avoid his judgment

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 and avoid harm and curse in our lives individually and as a society.

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 But thirdly, and more important, even more importantly than those,

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 is because it actually is a way that we worship and please God.

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 We worship and please God.

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 Colossians 3 verse 20 says this.

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 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

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 I don't know, if you realize this, God gave the gift of your parents,

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 or gift of parents to teach us how to listen and how to respond to authority,

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 including God himself.

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 Because all of us are natural rebels.

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 Anyone not a rebel in any way?

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 All of us are in some ways.

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 And primarily we're rebels against God, naturally.

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 And where's the first place that you learn how to listen?

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 Because you know the true saying that you don't have to teach a child to disobey you.

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 They just do it naturally, right?

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 I've got an eight-month-old.

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 I know how it works.

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 But our parents were given to us so that they would be the first place we learn how to listen,

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 the first place we learn how to submit,

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 the first place we learn how to lay down our will and say yes to an authority figure over us.

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 And if you don't get to learn that,

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 just think what misery your kids are going to grow up with every teacher,

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 with every boss, everything the rest of their lives.

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 It would be miserable if you don't learn that.

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 And so what that means, if you are a parent,

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 it's actually really important that you know that God has given you your role,

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 not just to kind of get your kids a great education and get them a great start in life.

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 He's given you a role that your kids will learn to listen to God through listening to you.

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 Now that's not a stick to beat your kids up with,

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 but there is a responsibility that God gives to you

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 so that your kids will experience the goodness of God's rule

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 and the grace of listening and obedience to him through you.

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 It's serious.

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 I mean, in honoring our parents,

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 what we're doing is we are seeking to honor God

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 and honor the authority that he has placed over us,

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 and we want to please him above all else.

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 God's serious about families.

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 He wants us to honor him.

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 He wants our blessing.

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 He doesn't want our curse,

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 and he wants us to learn how to please him.

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 That's the why.

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 But what I want to go on to is how do we keep this?

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 And I'm going to spend more time on this section

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 because when we look at this,

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 I'm sure there's a thousand questions that just raise up in our minds as we hear this.

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 But we've got to listen first of all and see how Jesus actually treats this command.

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 So there's a couple of things that Jesus shows us of how he keeps us.

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 The first thing he shows us is how he holds this command in high regard.

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 I don't know if you know, Matthew 15,

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 there's this scenario where the Pharisees, the religious leaders,

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 are criticizing Jesus' disciples for not washing their hands.

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 And Jesus comes to them and says,

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 why do you break the commandment of God to honor your father and mother?

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 By what you do is you say,

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 hey, the money that you should give to your parents for supporting them,

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 you can give to us or you can give to the temple.

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 You don't have to support your parents,

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 and God will accept it.

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 It's fine.

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 And Jesus says, no way.

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 Your heart is far away from God's heart, he says.

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 And what he says is this.

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 He says, your support for your parents,

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 and Jesus is showing us this,

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 your support for your parents in their old age,

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 whether it's financially or in other ways,

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 is a key way that you honor God in that.

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 And in Hong Kong,

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 I think they actually do this much better than where I'm from.

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 So you see that Jesus takes it seriously.

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 At the cross,

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 Jesus' mission has reached its climax.

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 He is in utter agony.

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 He is emotionally exhausted.

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 He is taking the sins of the whole world on his shoulders.

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 This is the greatest moment in history.

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 And do you know what is right at the front of Jesus' mind?

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 At that moment,

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 his mother.

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 Because he looks and he sees his mother,

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 and he says to John, his disciple,

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 please take care of my mother.

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 Isn't that incredible?

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 At that ultimate moment,

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 he cares for his mother.

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 And John takes her in and looks after her.

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 You see,

00:18:59.599 --> 00:19:00.619
 Jesus is saying,

00:19:00.799 --> 00:19:03.899
 this is not just a cultural duty that you should do.

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 It is an act of worship to God,

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 because God is pleased with this.

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 And Jesus shows you that right in the hardest moment.

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 God has designed things so that the parents who looked after you

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 and took care of you when you were young,

00:19:21.000 --> 00:19:21.940
 that when they get old,

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 that we are to take care of them.

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 We're not meant to outsource all the care for our parents

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 just to elderly homes.

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 God designs it so that we have a responsibility.

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 And if I'm honest,

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 I really wrestle with this,

00:19:37.359 --> 00:19:38.960
 because my parents are in the UK,

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 and they're getting older.

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 And so we have to really wrestle with what that looks like in our situation.

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 I know many of you probably have similar wrestles.

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 But I want you to see Jesus take this seriously.

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 So he honors it.

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 But then I also want you to see a second thing that Jesus does.

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 This is really interesting.

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 He shows that honoring does not always mean obeying.

00:20:02.880 --> 00:20:05.180
 Here we go.

00:20:05.780 --> 00:20:06.520
 Some of you are going,

00:20:06.580 --> 00:20:07.540
 hmm, what's that about?

00:20:08.960 --> 00:20:10.460
 Some of you are going, yes.

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 Before you're getting too excited, Jillian,

00:20:15.140 --> 00:20:17.840
 we'll hear what the Bible says.

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 Jesus goes to celebrate the Passover in Jerusalem

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 when he's 12 years old with his whole family.

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 The whole village is going along.

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 And then Mary and Joseph are on their way back,

00:20:28.100 --> 00:20:28.720
 and they turn around,

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 and they realize, where's Jesus?

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 We've lost him.

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 And then they spend three days,

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 and they're stressed out of their minds,

00:20:38.039 --> 00:20:38.960
 trying to find Jesus.

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 And eventually, they come to the temple,

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 and there is Jesus.

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 And Mary goes to Jesus,

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 why are you treating us like this?

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 Didn't you know we've been looking for you everywhere?

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 We're so stressed.

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 How can you do this to us?

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 And Jesus, calm as you like, says,

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 didn't you know I had to be in my father's house?

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 He's going,

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 don't you realize that actually,

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 the worship of my heavenly father

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 has a priority,

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 even over following your wishes

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 in this moment.

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 But before you think Jesus is just being

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 a kind of rebellious,

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 not even a teenager yet,

00:21:18.379 --> 00:21:18.819
 he's 12,

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 he then,

00:21:20.259 --> 00:21:21.839
 the next line Luke says is,

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 and Jesus went to Nazareth with his parents

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 and was submissive to them.

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 Do you see that tension there?

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 You see,

00:21:29.339 --> 00:21:31.500
 his heart attitude as a child

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 is an attitude of submission,

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 but where there is a clash

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 between the ultimate allegiance

00:21:37.019 --> 00:21:38.179
 to his heavenly father

00:21:38.179 --> 00:21:39.659
 and the wishes of his parents,

00:21:39.919 --> 00:21:40.359
 he says,

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 no,

00:21:40.619 --> 00:21:42.639
 my heavenly father comes first.

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 Let me give you one more example.

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 Luke 8.

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 Jesus is teaching to the crowds

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 and his mother and his brother turn up

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 and they go,

00:21:54.480 --> 00:21:54.600
 hey,

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 we want to see you.

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 I think food's getting cold

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 or whatever it was.

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 And they say,

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 and Jesus says to them

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 and to the crowd

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 and everyone watching,

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 who are my mother and brothers?

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 Which is actually

00:22:06.720 --> 00:22:08.780
 totally culturally offensive.

00:22:09.480 --> 00:22:09.640
 Okay,

00:22:09.759 --> 00:22:10.800
 your mother and brothers are there.

00:22:11.040 --> 00:22:11.240
 He says,

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 no,

00:22:11.420 --> 00:22:12.720
 who are my mother and brothers?

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 The person who hears my word

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 and does it,

00:22:16.680 --> 00:22:18.080
 that's my mother and brothers.

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 Imagine the parents hearing that.

00:22:23.960 --> 00:22:25.600
 But Jesus is making a point.

00:22:25.720 --> 00:22:26.300
 He's saying

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 that your family identity,

00:22:29.519 --> 00:22:31.240
 your blood family ties

00:22:31.240 --> 00:22:33.259
 are important and significant,

00:22:33.440 --> 00:22:34.279
 but they are temporary.

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 But your spiritual family ties

00:22:37.140 --> 00:22:38.900
 are even more significant

00:22:38.900 --> 00:22:39.840
 because they're eternal.

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 and they're with me.

00:22:42.959 --> 00:22:43.240
 And so,

00:22:43.359 --> 00:22:45.159
 what Jesus is doing here,

00:22:45.379 --> 00:22:46.359
 he's showing you

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 that this tension,

00:22:47.759 --> 00:22:50.279
 that he is to honor your parents,

00:22:50.759 --> 00:22:51.639
 but also,

00:22:51.859 --> 00:22:54.079
 we are to allow God

00:22:54.079 --> 00:22:54.839
 to be the one

00:22:54.839 --> 00:22:56.519
 that we are honoring ultimately.

00:22:57.259 --> 00:22:57.500
 Now,

00:22:57.559 --> 00:22:58.799
 why is that significant?

00:22:58.799 --> 00:22:58.899
 significant?

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 It's significant

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 because

00:23:03.180 --> 00:23:05.460
 it's a challenge

00:23:05.460 --> 00:23:06.839
 both to Eastern culture

00:23:06.839 --> 00:23:08.940
 where we often idolize our parents,

00:23:09.599 --> 00:23:10.539
 and it's a challenge

00:23:10.539 --> 00:23:11.659
 to Western culture

00:23:11.659 --> 00:23:12.599
 where we idolize

00:23:12.599 --> 00:23:13.419
 our independence.

00:23:15.180 --> 00:23:15.500
 So,

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 I'll just give you

00:23:17.440 --> 00:23:18.039
 an example of this.

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 When Fiona and I

00:23:18.899 --> 00:23:19.419
 were dating,

00:23:20.579 --> 00:23:21.819
 and we'd known each other

00:23:21.819 --> 00:23:22.319
 a long time,

00:23:22.379 --> 00:23:23.319
 so we were looking to get married

00:23:23.319 --> 00:23:24.619
 actually quite early on

00:23:24.619 --> 00:23:26.220
 because we'd been together

00:23:26.220 --> 00:23:26.879
 for a long time

00:23:26.880 --> 00:23:27.920
 as friends.

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 And Fiona told her

00:23:30.120 --> 00:23:31.240
 her parents this,

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 and they flipped out.

00:23:34.220 --> 00:23:35.500
 For 10 months,

00:23:35.600 --> 00:23:36.860
 her dad didn't speak to her.

00:23:37.800 --> 00:23:39.480
 Her mom would ring up

00:23:39.480 --> 00:23:40.860
 very emotional

00:23:40.860 --> 00:23:42.160
 at 2 a.m. in the morning

00:23:42.160 --> 00:23:42.540
 saying,

00:23:42.880 --> 00:23:44.240
 you cannot marry Chris.

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 And

00:23:46.600 --> 00:23:49.860
 me as an independent

00:23:49.860 --> 00:23:50.600
 Westerner,

00:23:50.880 --> 00:23:53.680
 I was going,

00:23:54.880 --> 00:23:55.100
 well,

00:23:55.099 --> 00:23:56.079
 we're trying to honor God

00:23:56.079 --> 00:23:56.559
 in this.

00:23:57.059 --> 00:23:57.819
 We're not going to let

00:23:57.819 --> 00:23:59.240
 your parents control us

00:23:59.240 --> 00:23:59.839
 in this.

00:24:01.519 --> 00:24:01.919
 We

00:24:01.919 --> 00:24:04.759
 mustn't be slaves

00:24:04.759 --> 00:24:05.480
 to the kind of

00:24:05.480 --> 00:24:06.439
 idolatrous,

00:24:06.839 --> 00:24:07.980
 sinful expectations

00:24:07.980 --> 00:24:08.679
 of your parents.

00:24:09.039 --> 00:24:09.919
 Let's just go ahead

00:24:09.919 --> 00:24:10.579
 and do it anyway.

00:24:12.359 --> 00:24:13.219
 But then the

00:24:13.219 --> 00:24:14.959
 Eastern kind of side

00:24:14.959 --> 00:24:16.379
 goes,

00:24:16.519 --> 00:24:17.039
 but actually,

00:24:17.359 --> 00:24:18.539
 your parents

00:24:18.539 --> 00:24:19.579
 have given you everything.

00:24:20.859 --> 00:24:21.139
 Like,

00:24:21.219 --> 00:24:22.079
 you owe them

00:24:22.079 --> 00:24:22.879
 your life.

00:24:22.880 --> 00:24:23.680
 Like,

00:24:23.740 --> 00:24:24.980
 they've invested in you,

00:24:25.040 --> 00:24:26.140
 so you've got to

00:24:26.140 --> 00:24:27.200
 actually almost

00:24:27.200 --> 00:24:28.100
 pay them back.

00:24:28.200 --> 00:24:29.140
 So you can't rebel

00:24:29.140 --> 00:24:29.940
 against them.

00:24:30.680 --> 00:24:31.300
 You've just got to,

00:24:31.520 --> 00:24:32.100
 honoring them

00:24:32.100 --> 00:24:33.140
 means you do what

00:24:33.140 --> 00:24:33.620
 they want

00:24:33.620 --> 00:24:34.440
 and what they wish.

00:24:34.740 --> 00:24:35.160
 And so there was

00:24:35.160 --> 00:24:35.860
 this tension

00:24:35.860 --> 00:24:36.640
 that we felt.

00:24:38.020 --> 00:24:38.260
 And so,

00:24:38.380 --> 00:24:39.220
 how do we get

00:24:39.220 --> 00:24:39.920
 through this?

00:24:41.940 --> 00:24:42.380
 Well,

00:24:42.400 --> 00:24:43.060
 we're wrestling.

00:24:43.280 --> 00:24:44.180
 What does it mean

00:24:44.180 --> 00:24:46.780
 to honor our parents

00:24:46.780 --> 00:24:47.880
 without just being

00:24:47.880 --> 00:24:48.560
 independent,

00:24:48.800 --> 00:24:49.860
 but also not being a

00:24:49.860 --> 00:24:50.540
 slave to their

00:24:50.540 --> 00:24:51.180
 expectations?

00:24:51.180 --> 00:24:53.080
 And so,

00:24:53.180 --> 00:24:53.740
 what do we do?

00:24:53.940 --> 00:24:55.860
 We asked a lot of

00:24:55.860 --> 00:24:56.840
 people for advice.

00:24:57.980 --> 00:24:58.799
 And then,

00:24:59.180 --> 00:24:59.860
 we decided

00:24:59.860 --> 00:25:00.600
 we'd be patient.

00:25:01.640 --> 00:25:02.039
 So,

00:25:02.420 --> 00:25:03.960
 I moved to Hong Kong

00:25:03.960 --> 00:25:06.880
 and I spent

00:25:06.880 --> 00:25:09.200
 every week

00:25:09.200 --> 00:25:11.279
 for one year

00:25:11.279 --> 00:25:13.000
 going to Delhi,

00:25:13.160 --> 00:25:14.340
 France in Tune 1,

00:25:15.039 --> 00:25:16.279
 meeting my future

00:25:16.279 --> 00:25:17.019
 mother-in-law

00:25:17.019 --> 00:25:18.700
 and her speaking

00:25:18.700 --> 00:25:19.860
 Cantonese to me

00:25:19.859 --> 00:25:20.939
 and me just

00:25:20.939 --> 00:25:21.799
 nodding and smiling,

00:25:21.939 --> 00:25:22.619
 not understanding

00:25:22.619 --> 00:25:23.439
 anything that she

00:25:23.439 --> 00:25:24.319
 was talking about,

00:25:24.859 --> 00:25:25.859
 but because

00:25:25.859 --> 00:25:26.939
 I wanted her

00:25:26.939 --> 00:25:29.439
 to see that

00:25:29.439 --> 00:25:30.019
 actually I was

00:25:30.019 --> 00:25:30.919
 investing in her

00:25:30.919 --> 00:25:31.359
 and she was

00:25:31.359 --> 00:25:31.839
 important.

00:25:32.599 --> 00:25:33.240
 I wanted to

00:25:33.240 --> 00:25:33.919
 honor her

00:25:33.919 --> 00:25:34.619
 by trying to

00:25:34.619 --> 00:25:35.279
 listen to her

00:25:35.279 --> 00:25:35.839
 and engage

00:25:35.839 --> 00:25:36.279
 with her.

00:25:37.479 --> 00:25:38.500
 But after about

00:25:38.500 --> 00:25:39.219
 a year or so

00:25:39.219 --> 00:25:39.619
 of this,

00:25:39.799 --> 00:25:40.559
 we came to the

00:25:40.559 --> 00:25:41.259
 point where we

00:25:41.259 --> 00:25:42.639
 really felt God

00:25:42.639 --> 00:25:43.139
 actually saying,

00:25:43.240 --> 00:25:43.439
 actually,

00:25:43.659 --> 00:25:44.740
 you've been waiting

00:25:44.740 --> 00:25:45.299
 long enough

00:25:45.299 --> 00:25:45.899
 and I feel like

00:25:45.899 --> 00:25:46.399
 you're actually

00:25:46.399 --> 00:25:47.539
 more a slave

00:25:47.539 --> 00:25:48.279
 to what your

00:25:48.279 --> 00:25:48.759
 parents are

00:25:48.759 --> 00:25:49.079
 thinking.

00:25:49.920 --> 00:25:50.159
 So,

00:25:50.259 --> 00:25:50.819
 we ended up

00:25:50.819 --> 00:25:51.720
 after a lot

00:25:51.720 --> 00:25:52.279
 of discussion,

00:25:52.659 --> 00:25:53.339
 we then went

00:25:53.339 --> 00:25:54.119
 back and

00:25:54.119 --> 00:25:55.359
 Fiona went to

00:25:55.359 --> 00:25:56.159
 her mom

00:25:56.159 --> 00:25:57.119
 and asked her

00:25:57.119 --> 00:25:58.720
 if we could

00:25:58.720 --> 00:25:59.259
 get married.

00:26:00.059 --> 00:26:00.680
 And if they

00:26:00.680 --> 00:26:01.460
 had said no

00:26:01.460 --> 00:26:02.299
 at that point,

00:26:02.920 --> 00:26:04.099
 I think in our

00:26:04.099 --> 00:26:04.799
 hearts we would

00:26:04.799 --> 00:26:05.559
 have prayed about

00:26:05.559 --> 00:26:05.720
 it,

00:26:05.759 --> 00:26:06.139
 but we would

00:26:06.139 --> 00:26:06.619
 probably have

00:26:06.619 --> 00:26:06.779
 said,

00:26:06.879 --> 00:26:07.139
 actually,

00:26:07.279 --> 00:26:07.960
 I think we've

00:26:07.960 --> 00:26:08.539
 honored you

00:26:08.539 --> 00:26:09.319
 and really been

00:26:09.319 --> 00:26:09.899
 trying to do

00:26:09.899 --> 00:26:10.440
 what's right,

00:26:10.659 --> 00:26:11.180
 but we will

00:26:11.180 --> 00:26:12.079
 go ahead anyway

00:26:12.079 --> 00:26:13.299
 because we believe

00:26:13.299 --> 00:26:13.940
 that honors God

00:26:13.940 --> 00:26:14.480
 first.

00:26:14.480 --> 00:26:16.480
 but we didn't

00:26:16.480 --> 00:26:17.279
 do that lightly

00:26:17.279 --> 00:26:19.860
 because we need

00:26:19.860 --> 00:26:20.500
 to see that in

00:26:20.500 --> 00:26:21.480
 our own hearts,

00:26:22.220 --> 00:26:23.779
 I can be

00:26:23.779 --> 00:26:24.539
 idolatrous in

00:26:24.539 --> 00:26:25.160
 both ways,

00:26:25.319 --> 00:26:26.500
 independent or

00:26:26.500 --> 00:26:27.160
 in slavery,

00:26:27.519 --> 00:26:28.519
 but God calls

00:26:28.519 --> 00:26:29.680
 us to take this

00:26:29.680 --> 00:26:31.480
 command seriously

00:26:31.480 --> 00:26:32.599
 and actually,

00:26:32.900 --> 00:26:33.380
 by the way,

00:26:33.519 --> 00:26:34.160
 as you may well

00:26:34.160 --> 00:26:34.380
 know,

00:26:34.460 --> 00:26:35.200
 they said yes

00:26:35.200 --> 00:26:36.519
 and we've got a

00:26:36.519 --> 00:26:37.279
 great relationship

00:26:37.279 --> 00:26:37.799
 with them.

00:26:38.860 --> 00:26:39.640
 But here's the

00:26:39.640 --> 00:26:40.220
 crucial thing,

00:26:40.740 --> 00:26:41.680
 you place your

00:26:41.680 --> 00:26:42.460
 parents and their

00:26:42.460 --> 00:26:44.200
 wishes first and

00:26:44.200 --> 00:26:45.180
 you will idolize

00:26:45.180 --> 00:26:45.440
 them.

00:26:47.100 --> 00:26:47.840
 And you know,

00:26:47.920 --> 00:26:48.559
 if you ever get

00:26:48.559 --> 00:26:49.220
 married,

00:26:49.680 --> 00:26:50.259
 and that's still

00:26:50.259 --> 00:26:50.620
 the case,

00:26:50.660 --> 00:26:51.380
 you will destroy

00:26:51.380 --> 00:26:52.180
 your marriage

00:26:52.180 --> 00:26:53.039
 because your

00:26:53.039 --> 00:26:54.180
 spouse will

00:26:54.180 --> 00:26:54.900
 always know that

00:26:54.900 --> 00:26:55.539
 your parents have

00:26:55.539 --> 00:26:56.220
 a greater voice

00:26:56.220 --> 00:26:56.860
 than your spouse

00:26:56.860 --> 00:26:57.380
 has in your

00:26:57.380 --> 00:26:58.120
 marriage and

00:26:58.120 --> 00:26:58.740
 they'll feel

00:26:58.740 --> 00:26:59.120
 that.

00:27:00.380 --> 00:27:01.340
 But also,

00:27:02.180 --> 00:27:02.860
 if you honor

00:27:02.860 --> 00:27:03.580
 God first,

00:27:03.640 --> 00:27:04.279
 it will humble

00:27:04.279 --> 00:27:05.240
 your independence

00:27:05.240 --> 00:27:07.140
 and it will make

00:27:07.140 --> 00:27:08.600
 you seek to love

00:27:08.600 --> 00:27:09.279
 and honor them

00:27:09.279 --> 00:27:10.319
 when even at

00:27:10.319 --> 00:27:11.019
 times that may

00:27:11.019 --> 00:27:12.080
 lead to conflict,

00:27:13.039 --> 00:27:13.840
 but you don't do

00:27:13.839 --> 00:27:14.480
 that lightly.

00:27:17.319 --> 00:27:18.419
 So how do we

00:27:18.419 --> 00:27:19.740
 honor our parents

00:27:19.740 --> 00:27:21.639
 well without

00:27:21.639 --> 00:27:22.579
 idolizing them?

00:27:22.639 --> 00:27:23.279
 How do you get

00:27:23.279 --> 00:27:24.119
 that tension

00:27:24.119 --> 00:27:24.480
 right?

00:27:24.699 --> 00:27:25.139
 Because actually,

00:27:25.220 --> 00:27:25.639
 there's so many

00:27:25.639 --> 00:27:26.500
 emotions with our

00:27:26.500 --> 00:27:26.859
 parents,

00:27:26.939 --> 00:27:27.259
 aren't there?

00:27:29.859 --> 00:27:30.859
 I think the

00:27:30.859 --> 00:27:33.019
 key to this

00:27:33.019 --> 00:27:34.319
 is to realize

00:27:34.319 --> 00:27:35.379
 one very important

00:27:35.379 --> 00:27:35.759
 thing.

00:27:37.119 --> 00:27:38.439
 Your parents

00:27:38.439 --> 00:27:39.859
 are not God.

00:27:39.859 --> 00:27:42.219
 your parents

00:27:42.219 --> 00:27:43.000
 can never

00:27:43.000 --> 00:27:43.759
 fulfill

00:27:43.759 --> 00:27:45.019
 what God

00:27:45.019 --> 00:27:45.819
 has said

00:27:45.819 --> 00:27:46.439
 that he will

00:27:46.439 --> 00:27:46.779
 fulfill.

00:27:47.819 --> 00:27:48.259
 You see,

00:27:49.339 --> 00:27:50.679
 your parents

00:27:50.679 --> 00:27:51.259
 will always

00:27:51.259 --> 00:27:51.979
 disappoint you

00:27:51.979 --> 00:27:52.679
 in some way,

00:27:53.399 --> 00:27:54.139
 but God

00:27:54.139 --> 00:27:54.559
 will never

00:27:54.559 --> 00:27:55.519
 disappoint you.

00:27:56.039 --> 00:27:56.379
 You know,

00:27:56.439 --> 00:27:57.159
 when you're a kid,

00:27:57.240 --> 00:27:57.740
 you think your

00:27:57.740 --> 00:27:58.419
 parents can do

00:27:58.419 --> 00:27:59.119
 nothing wrong.

00:27:59.379 --> 00:27:59.879
 When you're a

00:27:59.879 --> 00:28:00.299
 teenager,

00:28:00.539 --> 00:28:01.179
 you wonder if

00:28:01.179 --> 00:28:01.659
 they can ever

00:28:01.659 --> 00:28:02.159
 do anything

00:28:02.159 --> 00:28:02.659
 right.

00:28:02.660 --> 00:28:03.720
 But actually,

00:28:04.240 --> 00:28:05.620
 you know that

00:28:05.620 --> 00:28:06.400
 as you go

00:28:06.400 --> 00:28:07.200
 through life,

00:28:08.100 --> 00:28:08.740
 some of us

00:28:08.740 --> 00:28:09.279
 wanted our

00:28:09.279 --> 00:28:09.759
 parents to

00:28:09.759 --> 00:28:10.480
 accept us

00:28:10.480 --> 00:28:10.740
 and they

00:28:10.740 --> 00:28:11.519
 rejected us

00:28:11.519 --> 00:28:11.900
 or they were

00:28:11.900 --> 00:28:12.259
 absent.

00:28:12.980 --> 00:28:13.759
 Some of us

00:28:13.759 --> 00:28:14.360
 wanted our

00:28:14.360 --> 00:28:14.840
 parents to

00:28:14.840 --> 00:28:15.680
 listen to us

00:28:15.680 --> 00:28:16.300
 and understand

00:28:16.300 --> 00:28:17.380
 us and they

00:28:17.380 --> 00:28:17.940
 just didn't

00:28:17.940 --> 00:28:18.580
 get you.

00:28:19.500 --> 00:28:20.120
 Or they were

00:28:20.120 --> 00:28:21.060
 too busy for

00:28:21.060 --> 00:28:21.380
 you.

00:28:22.180 --> 00:28:23.340
 Some of us

00:28:23.340 --> 00:28:25.880
 have been

00:28:25.880 --> 00:28:26.660
 disappointed

00:28:26.660 --> 00:28:27.259
 because they

00:28:27.259 --> 00:28:28.140
 broke promises.

00:28:28.140 --> 00:28:32.420
 And even

00:28:32.420 --> 00:28:33.240
 if you have

00:28:33.240 --> 00:28:34.759
 amazing parents,

00:28:34.920 --> 00:28:35.420
 like I've got

00:28:35.420 --> 00:28:35.960
 pretty good

00:28:35.960 --> 00:28:36.420
 parents,

00:28:36.800 --> 00:28:37.620
 here's a truth,

00:28:38.040 --> 00:28:38.820
 your parents

00:28:38.820 --> 00:28:39.560
 are sinners.

00:28:40.720 --> 00:28:41.280
 And so are

00:28:41.280 --> 00:28:41.860
 you, by the

00:28:41.860 --> 00:28:42.140
 way.

00:28:44.700 --> 00:28:45.720
 But God

00:28:45.720 --> 00:28:46.380
 gave you

00:28:46.380 --> 00:28:47.400
 your parents

00:28:47.400 --> 00:28:48.420
 to make you

00:28:48.420 --> 00:28:49.800
 long for

00:28:49.800 --> 00:28:50.460
 the perfect

00:28:50.460 --> 00:28:51.120
 parent,

00:28:51.759 --> 00:28:52.580
 your heavenly

00:28:52.580 --> 00:28:53.160
 father.

00:28:54.540 --> 00:28:54.960
 You see,

00:28:55.080 --> 00:28:55.660
 John chapter

00:28:55.660 --> 00:28:56.240
 13,

00:28:56.340 --> 00:28:56.600
 there's this

00:28:56.600 --> 00:28:57.380
 beautiful verse

00:28:57.380 --> 00:28:57.980
 which says,

00:28:58.140 --> 00:28:59.120
 Jesus says,

00:28:59.520 --> 00:29:00.259
 I will not

00:29:00.259 --> 00:29:00.940
 leave you

00:29:00.940 --> 00:29:02.100
 as orphans,

00:29:02.360 --> 00:29:03.259
 but I will

00:29:03.259 --> 00:29:04.520
 come to you.

00:29:05.040 --> 00:29:05.660
 If your

00:29:05.660 --> 00:29:06.920
 parents have

00:29:06.920 --> 00:29:08.000
 abandoned you,

00:29:08.080 --> 00:29:08.660
 God says,

00:29:08.800 --> 00:29:09.600
 I will never

00:29:09.600 --> 00:29:10.080
 leave you

00:29:10.080 --> 00:29:10.480
 alone.

00:29:10.800 --> 00:29:11.320
 Today,

00:29:11.460 --> 00:29:11.840
 I want to

00:29:11.840 --> 00:29:12.540
 come to

00:29:12.540 --> 00:29:12.960
 you,

00:29:13.080 --> 00:29:13.780
 whatever your

00:29:13.780 --> 00:29:14.320
 circumstance.

00:29:15.320 --> 00:29:16.180
 Romans 8

00:29:16.180 --> 00:29:16.900
 says this,

00:29:17.560 --> 00:29:18.180
 we do not

00:29:18.180 --> 00:29:18.780
 have a spirit

00:29:18.780 --> 00:29:19.259
 that makes us

00:29:19.259 --> 00:29:19.940
 a slave

00:29:19.940 --> 00:29:20.680
 again to

00:29:20.680 --> 00:29:21.259
 fear,

00:29:21.259 --> 00:29:22.020
 but we have

00:29:22.020 --> 00:29:22.640
 the spirit

00:29:22.640 --> 00:29:23.900
 of adoption

00:29:23.900 --> 00:29:24.820
 as sons

00:29:24.820 --> 00:29:25.600
 and daughters

00:29:25.600 --> 00:29:26.680
 by whom

00:29:26.680 --> 00:29:27.880
 we cry

00:29:27.880 --> 00:29:28.920
 Abba,

00:29:29.280 --> 00:29:30.020
 Father.

00:29:31.520 --> 00:29:32.260
 You know,

00:29:33.060 --> 00:29:33.680
 when my

00:29:33.680 --> 00:29:34.360
 eight-year-old

00:29:34.360 --> 00:29:35.720
 son cries,

00:29:36.040 --> 00:29:36.600
 doesn't matter

00:29:36.600 --> 00:29:37.600
 where he is

00:29:37.600 --> 00:29:38.380
 in the room,

00:29:39.460 --> 00:29:40.120
 my ears

00:29:40.120 --> 00:29:40.720
 prick up

00:29:40.720 --> 00:29:40.960
 and I'm

00:29:40.960 --> 00:29:41.520
 going to run

00:29:41.520 --> 00:29:42.140
 to where he

00:29:42.140 --> 00:29:42.740
 is straight

00:29:42.740 --> 00:29:43.380
 away to see

00:29:43.380 --> 00:29:43.960
 what's wrong.

00:29:44.920 --> 00:29:46.040
 Your heavenly

00:29:46.040 --> 00:29:47.960
 father is a

00:29:47.960 --> 00:29:49.180
 billion times

00:29:49.180 --> 00:29:49.920
 more attentive

00:29:49.920 --> 00:29:50.780
 to your cry

00:29:50.780 --> 00:29:51.640
 than I could

00:29:51.640 --> 00:29:52.180
 ever be.

00:29:52.180 --> 00:29:54.160
 he hears

00:29:54.160 --> 00:29:54.480
 you,

00:29:54.660 --> 00:29:55.500
 he knows

00:29:55.500 --> 00:29:55.940
 you,

00:29:56.660 --> 00:29:57.519
 and he

00:29:57.519 --> 00:29:58.220
 cares for

00:29:58.220 --> 00:29:58.600
 you.

00:30:00.180 --> 00:30:00.940
 Parents may

00:30:00.940 --> 00:30:01.480
 disappoint,

00:30:01.640 --> 00:30:01.900
 but your

00:30:01.900 --> 00:30:03.039
 heavenly father

00:30:03.039 --> 00:30:04.120
 will always

00:30:04.120 --> 00:30:04.759
 be faithful

00:30:04.759 --> 00:30:05.400
 to you.

00:30:07.259 --> 00:30:07.759
 You know,

00:30:08.460 --> 00:30:09.259
 the thing

00:30:09.259 --> 00:30:09.759
 that gives

00:30:09.759 --> 00:30:10.400
 God the

00:30:10.400 --> 00:30:10.920
 greatest

00:30:10.920 --> 00:30:11.740
 happiness,

00:30:12.940 --> 00:30:13.680
 the thing

00:30:13.680 --> 00:30:14.519
 that he

00:30:14.519 --> 00:30:15.240
 thinks is

00:30:15.240 --> 00:30:15.660
 the most

00:30:15.660 --> 00:30:16.880
 amazing thing

00:30:16.880 --> 00:30:17.420
 that he

00:30:17.420 --> 00:30:18.120
 can do,

00:30:18.279 --> 00:30:18.779
 that he

00:30:18.779 --> 00:30:19.980
 gets excited

00:30:19.980 --> 00:30:20.539
 about,

00:30:21.240 --> 00:30:23.120
 isn't to

00:30:23.120 --> 00:30:23.740
 point out

00:30:23.740 --> 00:30:24.180
 all your

00:30:24.180 --> 00:30:24.779
 mistakes.

00:30:25.759 --> 00:30:26.360
 It isn't

00:30:26.360 --> 00:30:26.660
 to go,

00:30:26.740 --> 00:30:26.940
 oh,

00:30:27.099 --> 00:30:27.700
 I've got to

00:30:27.700 --> 00:30:28.319
 love you

00:30:28.319 --> 00:30:29.400
 because I'm

00:30:29.400 --> 00:30:29.779
 God,

00:30:30.500 --> 00:30:30.960
 but,

00:30:31.099 --> 00:30:31.539
 you know,

00:30:31.680 --> 00:30:32.319
 if you keep

00:30:32.319 --> 00:30:32.779
 doing what

00:30:32.779 --> 00:30:33.220
 you're doing,

00:30:33.319 --> 00:30:33.720
 then maybe

00:30:33.720 --> 00:30:34.120
 that might

00:30:34.120 --> 00:30:34.640
 be in doubt

00:30:34.640 --> 00:30:35.079
 in a few

00:30:35.079 --> 00:30:35.319
 weeks'

00:30:35.440 --> 00:30:35.700
 time.

00:30:36.620 --> 00:30:37.140
 That's not

00:30:37.140 --> 00:30:37.779
 what excites

00:30:37.779 --> 00:30:37.960
 him.

00:30:38.200 --> 00:30:38.940
 What excites

00:30:38.940 --> 00:30:39.819
 him is to

00:30:39.819 --> 00:30:40.980
 pour out

00:30:40.980 --> 00:30:42.259
 his compassion

00:30:42.259 --> 00:30:43.079
 and his

00:30:43.079 --> 00:30:44.079
 love and

00:30:44.079 --> 00:30:44.960
 his mercy

00:30:44.960 --> 00:30:46.380
 on rebellious

00:30:46.380 --> 00:30:47.319
 children like

00:30:47.319 --> 00:30:47.980
 you and

00:30:47.980 --> 00:30:48.299
 me,

00:30:48.599 --> 00:30:49.599
 again and

00:30:49.599 --> 00:30:50.579
 again and

00:30:50.579 --> 00:30:51.559
 again and

00:30:51.559 --> 00:30:52.279
 again and

00:30:52.279 --> 00:30:52.619
 he gets

00:30:52.619 --> 00:30:53.519
 excited about

00:30:53.519 --> 00:30:53.839
 it.

00:30:55.000 --> 00:30:55.399
 You know

00:30:55.399 --> 00:30:56.000
 the prodigal

00:30:56.000 --> 00:30:56.779
 son story?

00:30:57.919 --> 00:30:58.359
 You know

00:30:58.359 --> 00:30:59.059
 that story

00:30:59.059 --> 00:30:59.919
 where the

00:30:59.919 --> 00:31:00.799
 son has

00:31:00.799 --> 00:31:01.399
 rebelled

00:31:01.399 --> 00:31:01.980
 against his

00:31:01.980 --> 00:31:02.740
 family and

00:31:02.740 --> 00:31:03.000
 then he

00:31:03.000 --> 00:31:03.799
 comes back

00:31:03.799 --> 00:31:04.299
 and he

00:31:04.299 --> 00:31:05.039
 prepares this

00:31:05.039 --> 00:31:05.779
 little speech

00:31:05.779 --> 00:31:06.139
 because he

00:31:06.139 --> 00:31:06.379
 thinks,

00:31:06.539 --> 00:31:06.679
 okay,

00:31:06.939 --> 00:31:07.399
 maybe I

00:31:07.399 --> 00:31:07.919
 can get

00:31:07.919 --> 00:31:08.359
 my father

00:31:08.359 --> 00:31:08.799
 to accept

00:31:08.799 --> 00:31:09.159
 me if I

00:31:09.159 --> 00:31:09.519
 just kind

00:31:09.519 --> 00:31:09.740
 of make

00:31:09.740 --> 00:31:09.839
 an

00:31:09.839 --> 00:31:10.399
 explanation.

00:31:12.359 --> 00:31:12.899
 And he

00:31:12.899 --> 00:31:13.419
 gets back

00:31:13.419 --> 00:31:13.819
 and while

00:31:13.819 --> 00:31:14.240
 he's a

00:31:14.240 --> 00:31:14.779
 long way

00:31:14.779 --> 00:31:15.079
 off,

00:31:15.419 --> 00:31:16.039
 the father

00:31:16.039 --> 00:31:16.759
 sees him

00:31:16.759 --> 00:31:17.199
 and doesn't

00:31:17.199 --> 00:31:17.379
 go,

00:31:17.480 --> 00:31:17.779
 oh,

00:31:17.859 --> 00:31:18.139
 what have I

00:31:18.139 --> 00:31:18.339
 got to

00:31:18.339 --> 00:31:18.699
 say to him

00:31:18.699 --> 00:31:19.000
 now?

00:31:20.379 --> 00:31:20.819
 He

00:31:20.819 --> 00:31:22.019
 runs

00:31:22.019 --> 00:31:24.219
 with his

00:31:24.219 --> 00:31:25.259
 arms open

00:31:25.259 --> 00:31:25.779
 and the

00:31:25.779 --> 00:31:26.299
 guy starts

00:31:26.299 --> 00:31:26.919
 preparing his

00:31:26.919 --> 00:31:27.339
 little speech

00:31:27.339 --> 00:31:27.919
 and he cuts

00:31:27.919 --> 00:31:28.359
 him short

00:31:28.359 --> 00:31:29.019
 and he wraps

00:31:29.019 --> 00:31:29.480
 his arms

00:31:29.480 --> 00:31:29.879
 around and

00:31:29.879 --> 00:31:30.039
 says,

00:31:30.139 --> 00:31:30.359
 let's have

00:31:30.359 --> 00:31:30.819
 a party.

00:31:31.859 --> 00:31:32.480
 That's what

00:31:32.480 --> 00:31:33.159
 your heavenly

00:31:33.159 --> 00:31:33.879
 father is

00:31:33.879 --> 00:31:34.240
 like.

00:31:34.659 --> 00:31:35.279
 That's the

00:31:35.279 --> 00:31:35.740
 heart of

00:31:35.740 --> 00:31:36.119
 God.

00:31:36.599 --> 00:31:37.240
 That's who

00:31:37.240 --> 00:31:38.259
 we have to

00:31:38.259 --> 00:31:38.839
 find our

00:31:38.839 --> 00:31:39.599
 rest and

00:31:39.599 --> 00:31:40.399
 our security

00:31:40.399 --> 00:31:41.099
 and our

00:31:41.099 --> 00:31:41.659
 hope in

00:31:41.659 --> 00:31:42.459
 because if

00:31:42.459 --> 00:31:42.919
 we do

00:31:42.919 --> 00:31:43.519
 not,

00:31:44.199 --> 00:31:44.579
 then we

00:31:44.579 --> 00:31:44.959
 will look

00:31:44.959 --> 00:31:45.379
 for it in

00:31:45.379 --> 00:31:46.119
 other places

00:31:46.119 --> 00:31:46.500
 and even

00:31:46.500 --> 00:31:46.939
 look for it

00:31:46.939 --> 00:31:47.179
 in our

00:31:47.179 --> 00:31:47.779
 parents.

00:31:49.599 --> 00:31:50.359
 And that

00:31:50.359 --> 00:31:51.099
 will always

00:31:51.099 --> 00:31:52.379
 hurt you.

00:31:53.099 --> 00:31:53.980
 Some of us,

00:31:54.079 --> 00:31:54.679
 our view of

00:31:54.679 --> 00:31:55.059
 God as

00:31:55.059 --> 00:31:55.719
 father has

00:31:55.719 --> 00:31:56.339
 been colored

00:31:56.339 --> 00:31:56.859
 by our

00:31:56.859 --> 00:31:57.059
 own

00:31:57.059 --> 00:31:57.699
 parents.

00:31:59.419 --> 00:32:00.099
 But what

00:32:00.099 --> 00:32:00.839
 God wants

00:32:00.839 --> 00:32:01.899
 to do is

00:32:01.899 --> 00:32:02.439
 to let your

00:32:02.439 --> 00:32:03.319
 view of who

00:32:03.319 --> 00:32:03.879
 God is

00:32:03.879 --> 00:32:04.919
 reshape the

00:32:04.919 --> 00:32:05.339
 way that you

00:32:05.339 --> 00:32:05.959
 relate to

00:32:05.959 --> 00:32:06.819
 your parents

00:32:06.819 --> 00:32:08.279
 out of a

00:32:08.279 --> 00:32:09.059
 security and

00:32:09.059 --> 00:32:09.559
 a love.

00:32:11.159 --> 00:32:11.919
 And so I'm

00:32:11.919 --> 00:32:12.259
 going to give

00:32:12.259 --> 00:32:12.559
 you some

00:32:12.559 --> 00:32:13.619
 practical steps

00:32:13.619 --> 00:32:14.240
 in how we

00:32:14.240 --> 00:32:14.779
 honor our

00:32:14.779 --> 00:32:15.699
 parents in a

00:32:15.699 --> 00:32:15.899
 minute.

00:32:15.900 --> 00:32:17.960
 But all

00:32:17.960 --> 00:32:18.360
 of these

00:32:18.360 --> 00:32:19.259
 are useless.

00:32:20.259 --> 00:32:20.740
 Maybe not

00:32:20.740 --> 00:32:21.380
 useless, but

00:32:21.380 --> 00:32:21.700
 they're going

00:32:21.700 --> 00:32:22.220
 to be so

00:32:22.220 --> 00:32:23.000
 less effective

00:32:23.000 --> 00:32:24.500
 unless you

00:32:24.500 --> 00:32:26.019
 know that

00:32:26.019 --> 00:32:26.860
 God doesn't

00:32:26.860 --> 00:32:27.440
 love you

00:32:27.440 --> 00:32:27.980
 because he

00:32:27.980 --> 00:32:28.700
 has to.

00:32:29.180 --> 00:32:29.840
 That God

00:32:29.840 --> 00:32:30.460
 loves you

00:32:30.460 --> 00:32:31.000
 because he

00:32:31.000 --> 00:32:31.700
 loves to.

00:32:32.980 --> 00:32:33.680
 And out

00:32:33.680 --> 00:32:34.220
 of that

00:32:34.220 --> 00:32:34.800
 knowledge,

00:32:35.280 --> 00:32:36.019
 that's the

00:32:36.019 --> 00:32:37.259
 security with

00:32:37.259 --> 00:32:37.800
 which you can

00:32:37.800 --> 00:32:38.240
 do these

00:32:38.240 --> 00:32:38.759
 things that I'm

00:32:38.759 --> 00:32:39.180
 going to share

00:32:39.180 --> 00:32:39.700
 with you right

00:32:39.700 --> 00:32:40.019
 now.

00:32:40.019 --> 00:32:42.720
 when you

00:32:42.720 --> 00:32:43.559
 are a kid,

00:32:45.059 --> 00:32:45.400
 honoring

00:32:45.400 --> 00:32:46.240
 fundamentally

00:32:46.240 --> 00:32:47.259
 means obeying

00:32:47.259 --> 00:32:48.119
 what your

00:32:48.119 --> 00:32:49.019
 parents tell

00:32:49.019 --> 00:32:49.460
 you, even

00:32:49.460 --> 00:32:49.960
 if you don't

00:32:49.960 --> 00:32:50.579
 like it.

00:32:51.799 --> 00:32:52.460
 Unless they're

00:32:52.460 --> 00:32:52.799
 telling you to

00:32:52.799 --> 00:32:53.180
 do something

00:32:53.180 --> 00:32:53.700
 that God has

00:32:53.700 --> 00:32:54.200
 told you not

00:32:54.200 --> 00:32:54.579
 to do.

00:32:55.639 --> 00:32:56.500
 But as you

00:32:56.500 --> 00:32:57.079
 grow through

00:32:57.079 --> 00:32:57.559
 the teenage

00:32:57.559 --> 00:32:58.240
 years and

00:32:58.240 --> 00:32:58.720
 become an

00:32:58.720 --> 00:32:59.119
 adult,

00:32:59.599 --> 00:33:00.139
 honoring your

00:33:00.139 --> 00:33:01.000
 parents begins

00:33:01.000 --> 00:33:01.619
 to look a

00:33:01.619 --> 00:33:02.000
 little bit

00:33:02.000 --> 00:33:03.059
 different in

00:33:03.059 --> 00:33:03.920
 different ways.

00:33:04.400 --> 00:33:04.900
 And so here

00:33:04.900 --> 00:33:05.220
 are some

00:33:05.220 --> 00:33:07.599
 ways that I

00:33:07.599 --> 00:33:08.019
 want to just

00:33:08.019 --> 00:33:09.019
 give you four

00:33:09.019 --> 00:33:09.759
 or five ways

00:33:09.759 --> 00:33:10.920
 that we can

00:33:10.920 --> 00:33:11.500
 actually learn

00:33:11.500 --> 00:33:12.079
 how to honor

00:33:12.079 --> 00:33:12.740
 our parents.

00:33:13.160 --> 00:33:13.619
 Here's some

00:33:13.619 --> 00:33:14.339
 practical things.

00:33:14.859 --> 00:33:15.279
 The first

00:33:15.279 --> 00:33:16.379
 one, and

00:33:16.379 --> 00:33:17.259
 this is huge,

00:33:19.279 --> 00:33:20.039
 forgive our

00:33:20.039 --> 00:33:20.619
 parents.

00:33:22.900 --> 00:33:23.400
 Do you know,

00:33:23.839 --> 00:33:24.599
 I think one

00:33:24.599 --> 00:33:25.240
 of the biggest

00:33:25.240 --> 00:33:26.059
 reasons we

00:33:26.059 --> 00:33:26.720
 struggle with

00:33:26.720 --> 00:33:27.359
 this command

00:33:27.359 --> 00:33:29.099
 is because

00:33:29.099 --> 00:33:30.960
 all of us

00:33:30.960 --> 00:33:31.980
 in some way

00:33:31.980 --> 00:33:32.740
 have been

00:33:32.740 --> 00:33:33.500
 wounded by our

00:33:33.500 --> 00:33:33.980
 parents.

00:33:34.720 --> 00:33:35.180
 Some of it

00:33:35.180 --> 00:33:35.660
 may be a

00:33:35.660 --> 00:33:36.119
 scratch,

00:33:36.279 --> 00:33:36.720
 some of it

00:33:36.720 --> 00:33:37.259
 may be a

00:33:37.259 --> 00:33:37.879
 very deep

00:33:37.879 --> 00:33:38.539
 wound in our

00:33:38.539 --> 00:33:39.000
 hearts.

00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:40.980
 But the

00:33:40.980 --> 00:33:41.500
 thing is,

00:33:42.680 --> 00:33:43.480
 like, I

00:33:43.480 --> 00:33:44.299
 hardly meet a

00:33:44.299 --> 00:33:44.779
 person in

00:33:44.779 --> 00:33:45.259
 Hong Kong

00:33:45.259 --> 00:33:45.940
 who hasn't

00:33:45.940 --> 00:33:46.440
 got some

00:33:46.440 --> 00:33:47.259
 family hurt

00:33:47.259 --> 00:33:47.559
 in their

00:33:47.559 --> 00:33:47.920
 life.

00:33:48.619 --> 00:33:48.879
 It was

00:33:48.879 --> 00:33:49.680
 emotional

00:33:49.680 --> 00:33:50.160
 absence,

00:33:50.299 --> 00:33:50.619
 they never

00:33:50.619 --> 00:33:50.960
 said I

00:33:50.960 --> 00:33:51.480
 love you,

00:33:51.720 --> 00:33:52.039
 there was

00:33:52.039 --> 00:33:52.359
 all this

00:33:52.359 --> 00:33:52.579
 kind of

00:33:52.579 --> 00:33:53.420
 expectations

00:33:53.420 --> 00:33:54.180
 placed on

00:33:54.180 --> 00:33:54.279
 you,

00:33:54.339 --> 00:33:54.660
 you never

00:33:54.660 --> 00:33:55.079
 felt that

00:33:55.079 --> 00:33:55.299
 you could

00:33:55.299 --> 00:33:55.839
 meet up to

00:33:55.839 --> 00:33:56.920
 the requirements

00:33:56.920 --> 00:33:57.279
 that were

00:33:57.279 --> 00:33:57.819
 expected,

00:33:58.140 --> 00:33:58.660
 a whole

00:33:58.660 --> 00:33:59.000
 load of

00:33:59.000 --> 00:33:59.200
 things,

00:33:59.279 --> 00:34:00.140
 even abuse

00:34:00.140 --> 00:34:01.220
 and harshness

00:34:01.220 --> 00:34:02.279
 and criticalness.

00:34:02.279 --> 00:34:07.539
 God doesn't

00:34:07.539 --> 00:34:08.019
 take those

00:34:08.019 --> 00:34:08.779
 wounds lightly.

00:34:09.940 --> 00:34:10.519
 That's why

00:34:10.519 --> 00:34:11.159
 he died for

00:34:11.159 --> 00:34:11.500
 you.

00:34:12.759 --> 00:34:13.320
 Because he

00:34:13.320 --> 00:34:13.679
 wants to

00:34:13.679 --> 00:34:14.059
 die for

00:34:14.059 --> 00:34:14.159
 you,

00:34:14.199 --> 00:34:14.619
 he died

00:34:14.619 --> 00:34:15.039
 for you

00:34:15.039 --> 00:34:15.360
 so he

00:34:15.360 --> 00:34:15.940
 can heal

00:34:15.940 --> 00:34:16.300
 you.

00:34:16.639 --> 00:34:17.239
 But some

00:34:17.239 --> 00:34:17.739
 of us

00:34:17.739 --> 00:34:18.340
 have been

00:34:18.340 --> 00:34:19.500
 masking over

00:34:19.500 --> 00:34:20.639
 those wounds

00:34:20.639 --> 00:34:21.300
 inside with

00:34:21.300 --> 00:34:21.940
 busyness,

00:34:22.279 --> 00:34:22.840
 with a whole

00:34:22.840 --> 00:34:23.079
 load of

00:34:23.079 --> 00:34:23.460
 things we've

00:34:23.460 --> 00:34:23.860
 been trying

00:34:23.860 --> 00:34:24.279
 to do in

00:34:24.279 --> 00:34:24.739
 our lives

00:34:24.739 --> 00:34:25.320
 just to

00:34:25.320 --> 00:34:25.880
 cover over

00:34:25.880 --> 00:34:26.259
 the fact

00:34:26.259 --> 00:34:26.539
 that we

00:34:26.539 --> 00:34:27.259
 actually have

00:34:27.259 --> 00:34:28.320
 deep wounds

00:34:28.320 --> 00:34:28.679
 from our

00:34:28.679 --> 00:34:29.159
 parents in

00:34:29.159 --> 00:34:29.639
 our hearts.

00:34:29.639 --> 00:34:30.900
 And we're

00:34:32.280 --> 00:34:34.540
 I think

00:34:34.540 --> 00:34:34.940
 God wants

00:34:34.940 --> 00:34:35.400
 today to

00:34:35.400 --> 00:34:35.660
 say to

00:34:35.660 --> 00:34:36.060
 some of

00:34:36.060 --> 00:34:36.220
 you,

00:34:36.360 --> 00:34:36.519
 stop

00:34:36.519 --> 00:34:37.040
 pretending

00:34:37.040 --> 00:34:37.340
 it's

00:34:37.340 --> 00:34:37.740
 fine.

00:34:38.700 --> 00:34:39.120
 I want

00:34:39.120 --> 00:34:39.519
 to take

00:34:39.519 --> 00:34:40.120
 off that

00:34:40.120 --> 00:34:40.880
 band-aid,

00:34:41.000 --> 00:34:41.720
 that plaster,

00:34:41.880 --> 00:34:42.760
 that bandage,

00:34:43.400 --> 00:34:44.400
 and I want

00:34:44.400 --> 00:34:44.880
 to bring

00:34:44.880 --> 00:34:45.640
 healing to

00:34:45.640 --> 00:34:45.840
 you.

00:34:45.920 --> 00:34:46.180
 But the

00:34:46.180 --> 00:34:46.460
 way I

00:34:46.460 --> 00:34:46.680
 want to

00:34:46.680 --> 00:34:47.000
 do that

00:34:47.000 --> 00:34:47.320
 is through

00:34:47.320 --> 00:34:47.800
 forgiveness.

00:34:49.260 --> 00:34:49.560
 You see,

00:34:49.660 --> 00:34:50.100
 forgiveness

00:34:50.100 --> 00:34:51.700
 is a

00:34:51.700 --> 00:34:52.740
 release from

00:34:52.740 --> 00:34:53.700
 the cage

00:34:53.700 --> 00:34:55.160
 of idolizing

00:34:55.160 --> 00:34:55.940
 our parents.

00:34:57.960 --> 00:34:58.240
 Do you

00:34:58.240 --> 00:34:58.480
 know,

00:34:59.260 --> 00:35:00.019
 what I mean

00:35:00.019 --> 00:35:00.480
 by that is

00:35:00.480 --> 00:35:01.280
 you idolize

00:35:01.280 --> 00:35:01.900
 your parents

00:35:01.900 --> 00:35:02.340
 when you

00:35:02.340 --> 00:35:02.960
 put too

00:35:02.960 --> 00:35:03.680
 much weight

00:35:03.680 --> 00:35:04.220
 on their

00:35:04.220 --> 00:35:05.340
 words or

00:35:05.340 --> 00:35:06.059
 their actions,

00:35:06.260 --> 00:35:07.000
 more weight

00:35:07.000 --> 00:35:07.280
 than you

00:35:07.280 --> 00:35:07.800
 put on what

00:35:07.800 --> 00:35:08.480
 Jesus says

00:35:08.480 --> 00:35:09.099
 about you

00:35:09.099 --> 00:35:09.980
 and what

00:35:09.980 --> 00:35:10.619
 Jesus has

00:35:10.619 --> 00:35:11.099
 done for

00:35:11.099 --> 00:35:11.420
 you.

00:35:13.300 --> 00:35:13.519
 And so

00:35:13.519 --> 00:35:14.160
 today we're

00:35:14.160 --> 00:35:14.280
 going to

00:35:14.280 --> 00:35:14.579
 have some

00:35:14.579 --> 00:35:15.000
 people who

00:35:15.000 --> 00:35:15.360
 will be up

00:35:15.360 --> 00:35:15.960
 to pray

00:35:15.960 --> 00:35:16.280
 with you.

00:35:16.340 --> 00:35:16.559
 If you

00:35:16.559 --> 00:35:17.079
 know that

00:35:17.079 --> 00:35:17.660
 actually there's

00:35:17.660 --> 00:35:18.240
 areas in

00:35:18.240 --> 00:35:18.820
 your life

00:35:18.820 --> 00:35:19.480
 where you

00:35:19.480 --> 00:35:19.860
 need to

00:35:19.860 --> 00:35:20.260
 work through

00:35:20.260 --> 00:35:20.920
 some forgiveness

00:35:20.920 --> 00:35:21.420
 with your

00:35:21.420 --> 00:35:21.760
 parents,

00:35:21.980 --> 00:35:22.440
 I want you

00:35:22.440 --> 00:35:22.980
 to come up

00:35:22.980 --> 00:35:23.660
 afterwards for

00:35:23.660 --> 00:35:24.039
 prayer.

00:35:24.240 --> 00:35:25.240
 Don't run

00:35:25.240 --> 00:35:25.460
 away,

00:35:25.559 --> 00:35:25.920
 don't go

00:35:25.920 --> 00:35:26.700
 another day

00:35:26.700 --> 00:35:27.320
 without dealing

00:35:27.320 --> 00:35:27.740
 with it.

00:35:27.860 --> 00:35:28.240
 Because this

00:35:28.240 --> 00:35:29.119
 is so serious

00:35:29.119 --> 00:35:29.579
 because God

00:35:29.579 --> 00:35:29.960
 wants your

00:35:29.960 --> 00:35:31.200
 blessing in

00:35:31.200 --> 00:35:31.720
 life.

00:35:31.900 --> 00:35:33.780
 And some

00:35:33.780 --> 00:35:34.099
 of those

00:35:34.099 --> 00:35:34.639
 wounds may

00:35:34.639 --> 00:35:35.119
 be very

00:35:35.119 --> 00:35:35.639
 deep.

00:35:36.519 --> 00:35:36.900
 And it's

00:35:36.900 --> 00:35:37.240
 not going to

00:35:37.240 --> 00:35:38.059
 be a quick

00:35:38.059 --> 00:35:38.380
 fix.

00:35:38.460 --> 00:35:38.740
 You need

00:35:38.740 --> 00:35:39.059
 some people

00:35:39.059 --> 00:35:39.579
 to journey

00:35:39.579 --> 00:35:40.280
 with you.

00:35:41.519 --> 00:35:42.220
 And I

00:35:42.220 --> 00:35:42.760
 want you to

00:35:42.760 --> 00:35:43.380
 come up and

00:35:43.380 --> 00:35:43.980
 talk to me

00:35:43.980 --> 00:35:44.460
 or talk to

00:35:44.460 --> 00:35:45.099
 Kevin or

00:35:45.099 --> 00:35:46.160
 Sylvie or a

00:35:46.160 --> 00:35:46.900
 CG leader or

00:35:46.900 --> 00:35:47.200
 one of the

00:35:47.200 --> 00:35:47.760
 other elders.

00:35:47.980 --> 00:35:48.740
 But don't go

00:35:48.740 --> 00:35:50.940
 away with a

00:35:50.940 --> 00:35:51.920
 festering wound

00:35:51.920 --> 00:35:52.400
 because that's

00:35:52.400 --> 00:35:52.840
 only going to

00:35:52.840 --> 00:35:53.579
 infect for

00:35:53.579 --> 00:35:53.960
 longer.

00:35:53.960 --> 00:35:54.099
 Yeah.

00:35:54.099 --> 00:35:59.639
 God wants

00:35:59.639 --> 00:36:00.059
 to bless

00:36:00.059 --> 00:36:00.420
 us.

00:36:01.099 --> 00:36:01.380
 He wants

00:36:01.380 --> 00:36:01.759
 to do it

00:36:01.759 --> 00:36:02.319
 through forgiving

00:36:02.319 --> 00:36:02.960
 our parents.

00:36:03.319 --> 00:36:03.579
 Secondly,

00:36:04.019 --> 00:36:04.380
 he wants

00:36:04.380 --> 00:36:05.759
 us to

00:36:05.759 --> 00:36:06.239
 honor our

00:36:06.239 --> 00:36:07.400
 parents through

00:36:07.400 --> 00:36:08.400
 saying sorry.

00:36:09.259 --> 00:36:10.019
 This is a

00:36:10.019 --> 00:36:10.539
 hard one.

00:36:11.920 --> 00:36:12.279
 You know,

00:36:12.339 --> 00:36:12.739
 I was talking

00:36:12.739 --> 00:36:13.219
 to someone the

00:36:13.219 --> 00:36:13.880
 other day who

00:36:13.880 --> 00:36:14.940
 said they

00:36:14.940 --> 00:36:15.839
 still had just

00:36:15.839 --> 00:36:16.619
 some real

00:36:16.619 --> 00:36:17.500
 issues with

00:36:17.500 --> 00:36:18.219
 their dad.

00:36:18.219 --> 00:36:20.279
 And God

00:36:20.279 --> 00:36:20.719
 just kind of

00:36:20.719 --> 00:36:21.779
 convicted them

00:36:21.779 --> 00:36:22.339
 in their own

00:36:22.339 --> 00:36:22.919
 heart of how

00:36:22.919 --> 00:36:23.359
 they've been

00:36:23.359 --> 00:36:24.659
 disrespecting their

00:36:24.659 --> 00:36:25.199
 father even

00:36:25.199 --> 00:36:25.519
 though there's

00:36:25.519 --> 00:36:25.859
 just been a

00:36:25.859 --> 00:36:26.480
 lot of tension.

00:36:27.019 --> 00:36:27.359
 And so they

00:36:27.359 --> 00:36:28.099
 went to their

00:36:28.099 --> 00:36:28.799
 father.

00:36:29.619 --> 00:36:30.379
 They rang him

00:36:30.379 --> 00:36:30.839
 up and said

00:36:30.839 --> 00:36:31.399
 dad I just

00:36:31.399 --> 00:36:31.859
 want to say

00:36:31.859 --> 00:36:32.299
 I'm really

00:36:32.299 --> 00:36:33.099
 sorry that I've

00:36:33.099 --> 00:36:34.159
 actually disrespected

00:36:34.159 --> 00:36:34.899
 you in different

00:36:34.899 --> 00:36:35.659
 ways in life.

00:36:37.639 --> 00:36:38.399
 And normally

00:36:38.399 --> 00:36:39.039
 the dad would

00:36:39.039 --> 00:36:39.500
 kind of just

00:36:39.500 --> 00:36:40.599
 brush it off or

00:36:40.599 --> 00:36:41.319
 do something like

00:36:41.319 --> 00:36:41.699
 that but he

00:36:41.699 --> 00:36:42.459
 didn't this time.

00:36:43.439 --> 00:36:44.000
 He actually

00:36:44.000 --> 00:36:46.139
 responded by

00:36:46.139 --> 00:36:47.959
 saying yeah

00:36:47.960 --> 00:36:48.720
 and I'm sorry

00:36:48.720 --> 00:36:50.079
 for some of

00:36:50.079 --> 00:36:50.619
 the things I've

00:36:50.619 --> 00:36:50.920
 done.

00:36:52.420 --> 00:36:53.139
 And there was

00:36:53.139 --> 00:36:54.720
 a beginning of

00:36:54.720 --> 00:36:56.320
 a healing process

00:36:56.320 --> 00:36:57.960
 which is what

00:36:57.960 --> 00:36:59.220
 God loves to do

00:36:59.220 --> 00:36:59.980
 in our family.

00:37:01.019 --> 00:37:01.519
 Do you see

00:37:01.519 --> 00:37:02.840
 saying sorry

00:37:02.840 --> 00:37:03.740
 is such a

00:37:03.740 --> 00:37:04.820
 powerful way

00:37:04.820 --> 00:37:05.900
 of honoring

00:37:05.900 --> 00:37:08.000
 God and

00:37:08.000 --> 00:37:08.500
 honoring our

00:37:08.500 --> 00:37:08.980
 parents.

00:37:10.460 --> 00:37:11.119
 Some of you

00:37:11.119 --> 00:37:11.659
 may need to do

00:37:11.659 --> 00:37:12.000
 that through

00:37:12.000 --> 00:37:12.559
 writing a letter

00:37:12.559 --> 00:37:12.960
 to them.

00:37:13.460 --> 00:37:13.980
 Some of you

00:37:13.980 --> 00:37:14.559
 may need to do

00:37:14.559 --> 00:37:15.260
 that personally.

00:37:15.900 --> 00:37:16.699
 And even if

00:37:16.699 --> 00:37:17.400
 you don't get a

00:37:17.400 --> 00:37:18.539
 great response

00:37:18.539 --> 00:37:20.019
 do it anyway

00:37:20.019 --> 00:37:21.000
 to honor Jesus.

00:37:22.300 --> 00:37:22.980
 Say sorry.

00:37:23.519 --> 00:37:24.160
 Third thing

00:37:24.160 --> 00:37:25.519
 say thank you.

00:37:26.920 --> 00:37:27.220
 You know

00:37:27.220 --> 00:37:28.780
 every birthday

00:37:28.780 --> 00:37:29.700
 every mother's

00:37:29.700 --> 00:37:30.340
 or father's

00:37:30.340 --> 00:37:30.619
 day

00:37:30.619 --> 00:37:33.019
 I write

00:37:33.019 --> 00:37:33.619
 well I've

00:37:33.619 --> 00:37:33.880
 actually

00:37:33.880 --> 00:37:34.280
 I've written

00:37:34.280 --> 00:37:35.220
 songs for my

00:37:35.220 --> 00:37:35.579
 parents.

00:37:36.220 --> 00:37:36.740
 I've written

00:37:36.740 --> 00:37:37.780
 letters to my

00:37:37.780 --> 00:37:38.180
 parents.

00:37:39.059 --> 00:37:39.980
 Poems to my

00:37:39.980 --> 00:37:40.340
 parents.

00:37:40.680 --> 00:37:41.039
 But often

00:37:41.039 --> 00:37:41.400
 one of the

00:37:41.400 --> 00:37:41.920
 things I'll do

00:37:41.920 --> 00:37:42.440
 is I'll write a

00:37:42.440 --> 00:37:42.920
 card and I'll

00:37:42.920 --> 00:37:43.740
 just say I

00:37:43.740 --> 00:37:44.500
 will detail the

00:37:44.500 --> 00:37:45.079
 things that

00:37:45.079 --> 00:37:45.840
 actually I really

00:37:45.840 --> 00:37:46.660
 appreciate about

00:37:46.659 --> 00:37:46.960
 them.

00:37:48.119 --> 00:37:48.940
 Make a list

00:37:48.940 --> 00:37:49.399
 of them.

00:37:51.359 --> 00:37:51.779
 You know I've

00:37:51.779 --> 00:37:52.379
 actually run out

00:37:52.379 --> 00:37:52.779
 of things because

00:37:52.779 --> 00:37:53.279
 I've done it so

00:37:53.279 --> 00:37:53.819
 often I've actually

00:37:53.819 --> 00:37:54.379
 I'm trying to

00:37:54.379 --> 00:37:54.980
 search my memory

00:37:54.980 --> 00:37:56.259
 for like more

00:37:56.259 --> 00:37:57.159
 things I can say.

00:37:57.599 --> 00:37:58.859
 Like mom I

00:37:58.859 --> 00:37:59.519
 thank you so

00:37:59.519 --> 00:38:00.899
 much that you

00:38:00.899 --> 00:38:01.879
 actually when we

00:38:01.879 --> 00:38:02.519
 had meals you

00:38:02.519 --> 00:38:03.420
 always served

00:38:03.420 --> 00:38:04.319
 everybody else

00:38:04.319 --> 00:38:04.980
 first before

00:38:04.980 --> 00:38:05.619
 yourself even

00:38:05.619 --> 00:38:06.099
 when we were

00:38:06.099 --> 00:38:06.679
 ungrateful.

00:38:07.219 --> 00:38:07.839
 Thank you.

00:38:08.759 --> 00:38:09.079
 Do you know

00:38:09.079 --> 00:38:10.279
 how powerful that

00:38:10.279 --> 00:38:10.559
 is?

00:38:10.779 --> 00:38:11.199
 And what you

00:38:11.199 --> 00:38:11.659
 can do is

00:38:11.659 --> 00:38:12.179
 father's day

00:38:12.179 --> 00:38:12.920
 coming up soon.

00:38:14.239 --> 00:38:15.059
 Write something

00:38:15.059 --> 00:38:15.539
 down and you

00:38:15.539 --> 00:38:16.239
 can even read

00:38:16.239 --> 00:38:16.800
 it out to

00:38:16.800 --> 00:38:17.039
 them.

00:38:18.400 --> 00:38:19.099
 I guarantee

00:38:19.099 --> 00:38:20.159
 God will use

00:38:20.159 --> 00:38:20.719
 that in a

00:38:20.719 --> 00:38:21.539
 powerful way.

00:38:22.860 --> 00:38:23.360
 Say thank

00:38:23.360 --> 00:38:23.599
 you.

00:38:24.900 --> 00:38:25.320
 Forgive.

00:38:25.860 --> 00:38:26.340
 Say sorry.

00:38:26.480 --> 00:38:26.900
 Say thank

00:38:26.900 --> 00:38:27.099
 you.

00:38:27.420 --> 00:38:28.059
 Ask them for

00:38:28.059 --> 00:38:28.579
 advice.

00:38:28.920 --> 00:38:29.179
 You know if

00:38:29.179 --> 00:38:29.679
 you're a youth

00:38:29.679 --> 00:38:32.119
 here even if

00:38:32.119 --> 00:38:32.559
 you've got the

00:38:32.559 --> 00:38:33.460
 most messed up

00:38:33.460 --> 00:38:34.900
 parents in the

00:38:34.900 --> 00:38:36.039
 world they

00:38:36.039 --> 00:38:36.779
 probably still

00:38:36.779 --> 00:38:37.639
 have quite a lot

00:38:37.639 --> 00:38:38.519
 of insight into

00:38:38.519 --> 00:38:38.820
 you.

00:38:39.920 --> 00:38:40.840
 So don't think

00:38:40.840 --> 00:38:41.619
 that your parents

00:38:41.619 --> 00:38:44.099
 actually are just

00:38:44.099 --> 00:38:44.860
 kind of annoying

00:38:44.860 --> 00:38:46.420
 old whatevers

00:38:46.420 --> 00:38:48.019
 fill in the

00:38:48.019 --> 00:38:48.339
 blank.

00:38:51.259 --> 00:38:52.119
 Your parents

00:38:52.119 --> 00:38:53.019
 actually know

00:38:53.019 --> 00:38:53.539
 you better than

00:38:53.539 --> 00:38:54.119
 you think they

00:38:54.119 --> 00:38:54.339
 do.

00:38:55.460 --> 00:38:56.059
 That doesn't

00:38:56.059 --> 00:38:56.380
 mean you have

00:38:56.380 --> 00:38:57.019
 to agree with

00:38:57.019 --> 00:38:57.519
 everything they

00:38:57.519 --> 00:38:57.880
 say.

00:38:58.819 --> 00:38:59.579
 But ask them

00:38:59.579 --> 00:39:00.339
 for advice.

00:39:01.059 --> 00:39:01.619
 That's a way to

00:39:01.619 --> 00:39:01.980
 honour them.

00:39:02.119 --> 00:39:04.119
 Finally pray for

00:39:04.119 --> 00:39:05.679
 them and look to

00:39:05.679 --> 00:39:06.259
 bless them.

00:39:07.719 --> 00:39:08.539
 How often do you

00:39:08.539 --> 00:39:08.960
 pray for your

00:39:08.960 --> 00:39:09.380
 parents?

00:39:12.099 --> 00:39:13.039
 Really how often

00:39:13.039 --> 00:39:13.559
 do you pray for

00:39:13.559 --> 00:39:13.779
 them?

00:39:15.920 --> 00:39:16.799
 Because when you

00:39:16.799 --> 00:39:17.579
 begin to pray

00:39:17.579 --> 00:39:18.360
 then you begin to

00:39:18.360 --> 00:39:19.279
 look for opportunities

00:39:19.279 --> 00:39:20.199
 to bless them.

00:39:21.219 --> 00:39:22.199
 Because some of us

00:39:22.199 --> 00:39:23.480
 actually we can be

00:39:23.480 --> 00:39:24.579
 dutiful children.

00:39:25.139 --> 00:39:25.960
 We've been dutiful

00:39:25.960 --> 00:39:26.860
 for a long time.

00:39:27.279 --> 00:39:27.900
 God doesn't just

00:39:27.900 --> 00:39:28.400
 want us to be

00:39:28.400 --> 00:39:29.239
 dutiful children.

00:39:29.360 --> 00:39:30.000
 He wants us to be

00:39:30.000 --> 00:39:31.639
 loving children who

00:39:31.639 --> 00:39:32.599
 are actively looking

00:39:32.599 --> 00:39:33.440
 to bless our

00:39:33.440 --> 00:39:33.980
 parents.

00:39:35.940 --> 00:39:36.500
 And I don't know

00:39:36.500 --> 00:39:36.940
 what that looks

00:39:36.940 --> 00:39:37.599
 like for you.

00:39:38.860 --> 00:39:39.880
 It's not just going

00:39:39.880 --> 00:39:40.559
 through the motions

00:39:40.559 --> 00:39:41.519
 of family meals.

00:39:41.759 --> 00:39:42.599
 It's actually looking

00:39:42.599 --> 00:39:43.579
 how can I show

00:39:43.579 --> 00:39:44.279
 the kindness

00:39:44.279 --> 00:39:44.940
 that God has

00:39:44.940 --> 00:39:45.699
 shown to me

00:39:45.699 --> 00:39:47.799
 to my parents.

00:39:49.559 --> 00:39:50.360
 Honour your

00:39:50.360 --> 00:39:51.199
 father and mother

00:39:51.199 --> 00:39:52.779
 that it may go

00:39:52.779 --> 00:39:53.679
 well with you.

00:39:53.799 --> 00:39:54.539
 That your days

00:39:54.539 --> 00:39:55.319
 may be long.

00:39:56.599 --> 00:39:57.519
 Because we have

00:39:57.519 --> 00:39:58.319
 a great heavenly

00:39:58.319 --> 00:40:00.500
 father who loves

00:40:00.500 --> 00:40:02.860
 us and he wants

00:40:02.860 --> 00:40:03.900
 us to be a conduit

00:40:03.900 --> 00:40:04.639
 of his blessing

00:40:04.639 --> 00:40:05.400
 to our families.

00:40:06.940 --> 00:40:07.980
 Let me just pray

00:40:07.980 --> 00:40:08.579
 for us.

00:40:08.579 --> 00:40:11.099
 And we're going

00:40:11.099 --> 00:40:11.539
 to come and take

00:40:11.539 --> 00:40:12.219
 communion in a

00:40:12.219 --> 00:40:12.380
 minute.

00:40:12.900 --> 00:40:13.519
 I want to invite

00:40:13.519 --> 00:40:14.179
 the communion

00:40:14.179 --> 00:40:14.920
 stewards to come

00:40:14.920 --> 00:40:15.099
 up.

00:40:17.639 --> 00:40:18.500
 But right now I

00:40:18.500 --> 00:40:19.179
 want you just to

00:40:19.179 --> 00:40:22.139
 think of what is

00:40:22.139 --> 00:40:23.360
 God saying to you?

00:40:24.880 --> 00:40:25.880
 How are you doing

00:40:25.880 --> 00:40:26.400
 with your own

00:40:26.400 --> 00:40:26.880
 parents?

00:40:29.340 --> 00:40:30.440
 Even as you think

00:40:30.440 --> 00:40:31.779
 about some of the

00:40:31.779 --> 00:40:32.259
 things that have

00:40:32.259 --> 00:40:32.819
 happened in the

00:40:32.819 --> 00:40:35.179
 past, where's your

00:40:35.179 --> 00:40:36.199
 heart towards them?

00:40:36.199 --> 00:40:39.139
 Maybe you need to

00:40:39.139 --> 00:40:40.039
 repent of the way

00:40:40.039 --> 00:40:40.779
 you've treated them

00:40:40.779 --> 00:40:41.819
 or ignored them.

00:40:42.960 --> 00:40:43.679
 Maybe you need to

00:40:43.679 --> 00:40:44.819
 repent of idolizing

00:40:44.819 --> 00:40:45.079
 them.

00:40:46.819 --> 00:40:47.879
 Maybe you just need

00:40:47.879 --> 00:40:48.719
 to come honestly

00:40:48.719 --> 00:40:49.739
 before God and just

00:40:49.739 --> 00:40:50.819
 to be real about how

00:40:50.819 --> 00:40:51.899
 you feel about them.

00:40:53.779 --> 00:40:54.579
 Maybe you need to

00:40:54.579 --> 00:40:55.619
 be more active in

00:40:55.619 --> 00:40:56.559
 just saying thank

00:40:56.559 --> 00:40:56.839
 you.

00:40:59.599 --> 00:41:00.779
 Just ask the Holy

00:41:00.779 --> 00:41:01.859
 Spirit just to work

00:41:01.859 --> 00:41:03.059
 in your heart and

00:41:03.059 --> 00:41:04.279
 just respond in prayer

00:41:04.279 --> 00:41:05.299
 to him right now.

00:41:06.779 --> 00:41:21.699
 Möglichkeit he

00:41:21.939 --> 00:41:23.439
 just had to

00:41:23.439 --> 00:41:24.379
 oppose

00:41:24.379 --> 00:41:25.519
 a

00:41:25.519 --> 00:41:26.279
 man

00:41:26.279 --> 00:41:27.259
 who

00:41:27.259 --> 00:41:27.919
 you

00:41:27.919 --> 00:41:28.980
 in

00:41:28.980 --> 00:41:29.259
 and

00:41:29.259 --> 00:41:31.259
 who

00:41:31.259 --> 00:41:32.159
 have

00:41:34.159 --> 00:41:35.219
 this

00:41:35.219 --> 00:41:50.139
 We're going to come to take communion in a minute.

00:41:50.139 --> 00:41:59.359
 But communion is a time for rebellious children.

00:41:59.360 --> 00:42:10.320
 For those of us who have treated our heavenly father badly, we haven't honored him.

00:42:14.200 --> 00:42:20.780
 But there's a time where he shows you that your parents may have sacrificed a lot for you.

00:42:22.720 --> 00:42:25.780
 They may be willing to give their lives for you.

00:42:25.780 --> 00:42:33.980
 But they've never given their life like Christ has given his life for you.

00:42:35.740 --> 00:42:41.400
 So that he can pour his love and his healing and his blessing into your life.

00:42:43.240 --> 00:42:45.460
 To draw you back to himself.

00:42:48.820 --> 00:42:51.700
 Your parents' love does not define you.

00:42:51.699 --> 00:43:00.599
 If you're a Christian and you put your faith in Christ, his love, his father heart for you defines you.

00:43:00.599 --> 00:43:06.579
 Father, we just pray that you would speak into our hearts.

00:43:07.380 --> 00:43:08.980
 Heal our hearts where we are wounded.

00:43:10.519 --> 00:43:13.139
 Encourage our hearts where we are indifferent.

00:43:15.279 --> 00:43:22.199
 Fill our hearts with your love and your forgiveness that we can forgive with your grace.

00:43:22.199 --> 00:43:30.119
 And as we take communion, I pray, Lord, that you would just minister again your kindness to us.

00:43:30.919 --> 00:43:32.359
 That we are not orphans.

00:43:33.059 --> 00:43:35.219
 But we are sons and daughters of the King.

00:43:36.559 --> 00:43:37.899
 In Jesus' name.

00:43:38.739 --> 00:43:39.099
 Amen.