Understanding Forgiveness-1

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[0:45] Amen. Mark chapter 11. Mark chapter 11 verse 25.

[0:57] Mark chapter 11 verse 25.

[1:27] Mark chapter 13 say, Mark chapter 11 verse 29. Mark chapter 11 Mark chapter 15 if you are considering what he is asking for your father forgiving someone, then you can't be forgiven.

[1:53] If you're forgiving someone, then you'll be forgiven. But the question then goes about, what if I haven't sinned? I don't need forgiveness.

[2:04] Because that statement had encoded and embedded in it there. It's implicit that everyone praying needs forgiveness. That's what he's trying to say. Everyone praying needs forgiveness.

[2:16] So he said, that means that there's a possibility for you to be praying, and no one has done anything against you. So you don't have a problem with anybody.

[2:28] But he says that when you are praying, and you come under that situation, you fall into that category where someone has done anything against you. Now watch this. Look at this text very carefully.

[2:39] He said that if you have anything against anyone, forgive him. So you have something against someone. That presupposes that someone has done you something.

[2:49] That gives you the grounds to have something against the person. One of the things I realize is that it's always important to understand that.

[3:01] He says that forgive him. So someone has done something against you. I was going to say this. That usually one of the reasons why people find it difficult to forgive is that.

[3:14] But he hasn't seen what he has done. He's not even. He's continuing to do it. But she's continuing to even do that. And she doesn't even care.

[3:25] You know, so we focus on what. But Jesus says that if you have anything against someone, forgive the person. It's not that you are trying to be bad because you hate someone.

[3:39] He said you have anything against someone. The reason why I say forgive the person is because the person has done something against you. And it has made you develop an attitude towards the person. Right.

[3:50] It's very important to understand. I said when you stand. Okay. Unless you are not interested in praying. Do you know one interesting thing most of the parish members haven't noticed. This text comes right after when it says that the text, the major mighty text of faith.

[4:07] The verse 23 and 24. When it says that you shall say, if you have faith like a master said, you shall say to this mountain, be move and be cast into the sea. And the verse 24 talks about if you pray, whatever you pray about, therefore you pray, believe.

[4:19] And you have whatsoever. Then the next text talks about forgiveness. The disciples came to Jesus Christ to ask the master, the master teach us how to pray.

[4:29] Do you know what Jesus said? They asked him to teach us how to pray. Jesus said, when you pray, say our father who art in heaven fell eloquent with thy name, thy kingdom come.

[4:40] I hope that he gave them all that. Then when he finished his summary, his conclusion of the prayer format he gave them, the verse 14 of Matthew chapter 6. He says that, for if you forgive people who are, or anyone, Matthew chapter 6.

[4:54] He says that, for if you forgive men, they are trespassed, you are having fallen. Now, they came to him, teach us to pray. And he finished telling them the format of prayer. And he ended it by saying this condition, that if you forgive, you will be forgiven.

[5:08] That means that prayer and forgiveness go together. An unforgiving person cannot enjoy unsaid prayers. So possibly, one of the reasons why you are not enjoying unsaid prayers, have you checked?

[5:26] Maybe you have not forgiven. You are fasting, yes. You are giving, yes. You are in church regularly, yes.

[5:36] You are reading your Bible, yes. But why is it that I'm praying, I'm not enjoying unsaid prayers? Maybe. Have you checked the possibility that you have ought against someone?

[5:49] Pastor, you don't know what they have done against me. God knows better. But he said you have. Because your prayers have to be answered, you have to. Did you see that, Mr. Johnson? And, Madam, it's very interesting.

[6:02] Listen. He says that if you have ought against someone and you don't forgive the person, when you pray, who suffers? God didn't say it's the person.

[6:16] He said, is there you? Man, look at verse 15. He says that, verse 15 of Matthew chapter 6. He says that, but if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your heavenly father.

[6:28] What has forgiveness got to do with prayers? Everything. Why did God put it there?

[6:39] Because you cannot love without forgiving and you cannot forgive without loving. Love and forgiveness go together. I'm going to show us a few things about what forgiveness isn't.

[6:54] And then I will show us a few things about why we have to forgive. And some few facts about forgiveness. Let's look at this text in 2 Peter chapter 1 verse 5.

[7:10] I feel this month of covenant opportunities really going to work for somebody. Have you discovered that anytime God wants to bless you, he tries to page you?

[7:23] Because the blessing coming in your life is not the problem. It's the things inside you that will spoil your enjoyment of the blessing.

[7:35] You want to build a house in a muddy area or a muddy area or waterlogged area.

[7:49] It's not a problem. They can supply. You can buy all the building materials. But at the end of the day, you build them within five years. The whole thing will be breaking down. Because you didn't build on strong foundation. So guess what?

[8:00] Before you build, they will make sure the contractor or the civil engineer or structural engineer has to do everything to make sure that pillars have been sunk into you just to be able to sustain the weight of what is coming.

[8:13] Now, anytime God is bringing the weight of glory. Say weight of glory. Weight of glory. Some of us don't know that glory carries us weight. Yeah. All right. The Bible talks about eternal weight.

[8:26] So this is how he puts it. He said, for our temporal afflictions. I think in 2 Corinthians chapter 5. No, chapter 4 verse 17.

[8:37] I think so. 2 Corinthians chapter 4 verse 17. Look at that weight in there. For your light affliction. Say light. Light affliction, which is bad for a moment. It's not lifetime.

[8:48] How many of us have suffered lifetime? One thing comes and goes. Another thing will come. It's not for your lifetime. Watch this. For your life, your light affliction, which is bad for a moment.

[9:00] It's... Did you see that? That thing is not killing you. It's working for you. Far more exceeding, eternal what? Weight!

[9:13] Of glory. Glory is heavy. What you may... Now, it's not talking about any trouble people go through. Okay. Okay. You... You... You... You...

[9:23] You... Went to gossip about somebody. You are in trouble. You said, I'm suffering. But that's not what you're talking about. You go to... You go and steal something.

[9:34] And now they have been caught, you know, on camera. And then you say, oh, they don't like me. No. It's... That's not the suffering we're talking about. This is suffering for Christ. Because 1 Peter...

[9:45] 1 Peter actually qualifies it. He said, when you suffer for Christ, the glory of Christ rests upon you. All right. Now, this is... So, a light affliction, if you read the text very well, actually, verse 16 talks about we are pressed down, we are cast down.

[10:02] Go to verse 16. No, that's not that one. This is the one I mentioned earlier on 1 Peter chapter 4. But I'm talking about 2 Corinthians chapter 4, verse 16.

[10:13] All right. Interesting. 4, 16, 4, 16. That's how I tend to remember my scriptures. All right. Therefore, we do not lose heart, even though our outward man perishes. Go to the verse 15.

[10:25] See what's in verse 15. For all things are for your sake and... Okay. All right. That's... So, verse 16 says, we do not lose heart, even though our outward man perishes, yet our inward man is revealed day by day.

[10:37] Then verse 7 talks about, for our light affliction. Say light affliction. Light affliction. You remember Jesus said that my burden is light? That's what he's talking about. The burden for being a genuine Christian is lighter than the troubles you go through.

[10:52] It's just like the burden... A man of God. It's just like waiting for a wife. A Christian wife. The burden for waiting for a Christian wife is better than the trouble to marry an unbelieving wife.

[11:06] Yeah. Yeah. You understand? The burden. The burden. The challenge you go through for waiting for a genuine Christian husband is better than grabbing the trouble that comes after grabbing anything from the shelf.

[11:21] so light affliction which is by for a moment is working for us a far more exceeding weight of glory so glory is weighty say glory is weighty and so then if god is about to bring glory on you he has to take some things out of you so that the weight of the glory will not you will not collapse under it because there are some infiltrations in you when there are cracks in your wall you can't take heavy weight you can't take weight when there are cracks so when god is about to bless you he has to sort out some cracks reinforcement that's what god is doing in our midst now reinforcement for the unusual covenant opportunities that is coming are you ready can you take this opportunity i see it coming to someone so god is preparing us in second peter chapter one verse five as as i said earlier on listen this is a very interesting text you know brothers and sisters very interesting text isn't it you know the judge shall live by the judge shall live by how many of us have faith hallelujah i was listening to a 16 great man of god he made a statement i'll never forget he said there are people who have faith to move mountains but leave the mountains in the path of others that's a serious one isn't it all right so he goes on to say but also for this very reason giving all diligence at at what at your faith what at your faith what faith is not the end you are a man of faith add to your faith what is a man of faith who doesn't help the wife at home you are casting demons in town everywhere some of the guys didn't like what i said all right let me check what's a woman of faith who doesn't take care of your babies at home and take care of domestic matters what is a son or a daughter full of fire full of faith and at home you don't do anything you eat and throw the bowl wash it no bible said add to your faith i'm a believer add to your faith that you sister learn how to cook beside your faith say ouch can i go a little further add to your faith virtue when we say someone is virtuous woman that means a virtuous person someone you has values you can trade with so he said add to your faith value that can be traded with don't be a reckless person and full of faith but there's really nothing nothing to your life again apart from faith tell somebody add to your faith if you have to go and study go and study add to your faith did you hear that if you have to go back to school brother go back to school add to your faith add to your faith virtue don't be hanging around the brothers or the sisters just eating their food and then you keep breaking their heart add to your faith virtue and you would say but he didn't tell you anything but when you are eating your food women you don't need to hear words they work things out wired things out and she she thought that you are the one you are the one and you give you give her this high hope boosted her desires and feelings now when her heart is highly targeted towards you you say oh god is moving me towards somebody else and you break their heart and he says that you say oh but he didn't tell her anything brother add to your faith virtue i know you're a man of faith add virtue it happens to come

[15:23] on thank god it has not happened here because my eyes are very widely open you know that you've been a christian for a while you you were christian brothers they hang around some christian sisters they eat their food they walk around with them for a long time always together and then one day you say oh they are they are moving someone else the woman is hurt you didn't come to prayer meeting what this broke my heart you two you are not wise okay and they and you know what they normally say god has spoken to me god has spoken to me all they say but i didn't tell her anything i don't know why she said she thinks i'm going to marry her then you were hanging around her every day midnight 10 pm calling her so how are you doing i hope you had a wonderful day i'm praying you are my mind what do you think you are doing to her and then we finish every couple does someone feel aware of what i'm talking about i've seen so many times but just one of the things i determined never to do was not to give mixed feelings or mixed signals to any woman before i got married so there's only one woman who had the signal and that's all and your brother add to your faith so that when you come to church you are shouting you are dancing you are free to dance you are free to shout because you've added to your faith virtue in church authentic outside authentic say amen can you move on from death forgiveness i like that so my boy says add your faith out your faith virtue and to virtue knowledge you have to know something know something know something empty head is too expensive know something this your head is meant to know things and have you have you discovered that you don't know by injection maybe you are asleep and they come and inject knowledge into you and all of us you become you become very knowledgeable no you have to know based on a quest all right so know something after your how to your faith virtue how to virtue knowledge uh-huh and how to knowledge what temperance how to knowledge what self-control the same thing this scripture is very powerful add add there are a lot of things to add start with faith but you have to keep adding adding the other ones oh i like god anytime we are worshiping i'm rolling on the floor crying okay after that what again you have to add something to it get a job add to it and polish yourself to you can promote you can be promoted in your job start a business add to it earn some money add to it don't be here standing around for two years i can't find a job add to it i don't want to go there yet add to your faith all right am i talking like a pastor hey why should we why should we go through the challenge and the wickedness of pastoring failures you have to make it based on the way because the credibility the validity of our pastoral work it says that you are the evidence the evidence of the accoling so if you are failing that means i'm failing uh-huh you see what i'm saying your marriage must make it to ah hey you must make it in a marriage you must make it in your career your business must not shut down you don't close down a business you add you start more at the other ones that's why i'm begging you sisters if you are not married don't be in a rush you enter one you are locked in even if it's wrong you are locked in so take your time step inside cautiously because this life is long a long journey long distance don't be in a rush at all

[19:31] don't be in a rush who was i talking to oh our sister did 20 years in marriage last two days or three days or three days sister if what 20 years in marriage i said my friend you've done well but keep going some will pay anything to have half of what you've got so we have to keep adding keep adding keep adding my brother keep adding you must polish yourself to be the best you can ever be all right let's move on to forgiveness when i go back in some of these are the scriptures some of the scriptures were blessing to me and some of these scriptures when i'm asleep you wake me i can't go there because i remember i need this all right god and to godliness brotherly excuse me excuse me excuse me to godliness brotherly kindness what what is brotherly kindness what do you i didn't hear what do you say kindness to the brother okay yes what is brotherly kindness brotherly kindness so it's two ways filios filios brotherly filios the philadelphia has to do brotherly kind philis and then adele for soul brotherly kindness let me just leave that brotherly so a kindness you see when you have a brother you can't change him or change him like your brother is your brother for life unless one of you dies and still you have a dead brother you understand that you can't change that mother brother family you can't change it some of you some of us some people here if you don't value family you will suffer in life family is the best gift god gave to any any person treasure your family take care of your brother take care of your sister take care of your mother take care of your father take care of your children to your faith advert you let your family people know that you are a caring person you love them yeah some of them are going to hell pray for them and still love them don't see it's it's it's it's it's disgraceful to say i mean i don't get on with my family members at all and you are christian you are not doing anything about it because we don't talk hey hey i don't talk to my brother he's naughty i think it's not nice your faith is it's not proper many people don't talk to people because of offense i think you are doing that somebody no you are not hurting the one i'm going to show you in a minute so add to add to godliness is it what's godliness what is godliness godliness being godly is it blessed what i've been talking about claire ah you can't go hear the voice i don't know where this is coming from godliness just being godly you you are you you you you are radiating and god is emanating from your there's this you carry this godly aura around you god all right he said add brotherly kindness you see isn't it interesting somebody will be in church in the name of jesus in the name of jesus and yet doesn't talk to some other person oh sister add to your godliness brotherly kindness brotherly my brother for life is my brother so i'm attached to you and i have i don't have any choice i'm obliged to be kind to you now kindness all right kindness is the responsibility or the prerogative of the kind so if i'm going to be kind to you i choose to i can choose not to be

[23:38] kind to you so kind so when it's a brotherly kindness excuse me when he says brotherly kindness what he's trying to say is that you are extending something that maybe the person may not even fully deserve all right some the person may know you don't have to wait till people deserve your love or people deserve your niceness in order to be nice towards them he said if you have godliness then add to it brotherly kindness particularly the why did he use the word brotherly people in church need your some kindness from one another people in church need some kindness from you so then it it's do you know it's kind to forgive forgiving to forgive being forgiveness is kindness all right so there is enshrined in it that after you are talking about faith faith faith godliness godliness godliness godliness virtue virtue virtue knowledge knowledge knowledge add to it some kindness brotherly kindness go to let me show you the next oh jesus this is very good look at verse eight verse eight says that for if these things are yours and abound you will be neither barren or unfruitful unfruitful unfruitful in the knowledge of our lord jesus christ do you see that so there are people who know jesus but they are unfruitful faith just just your faith without other things being added makes you unfruitful or makes you fruitless that's what i said he says that for if these things are yours you have them and not that you have them but they are increasing you will neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our lord jesus christ look at the next next verse verse 9 for he who loves this thing is short-sighted you are suffering from a sickness called myopia you are myopic you can't see far you only see around you you can't see the future ability to see the future to be able to see the future means that some things must be added to our faith it helps you see better it helps you see further so when people are thinking about today today today now how i feel today this is what i'm thinking today today today today you are thinking far one of the things that i always try to make sure i do after adding all these things i always try to look far ahead so if i'm relating to pastor charles i don't relate him to him based on yesterday or today i'm relating to him based on his future god that's how god relates to us most of us are stuck in the past relating to people based on their past um one of the american presidents um i think abraham lincoln said he said forgive your enemies but don't forget their names what does that mean some of us deal with people based on the past always looking back backwards but look ahead it says that it makes you on um for if these things are yours and abound it will neither you it will make neither barren or unfruitful in your knowledge in the not in the knowledge of our lord jesus christ for he who lacks these things is short-sighted even even to blindness and has forgotten that he has been cleansed from his old sincere sin has come in think about it he's brought sin in so you forgot that you have been cleansed from your sin because you lack some things see if you lack some things you don't

[27:41] see far you've forgotten that you've been cleansed from because he that loves he that is forgiving much loves much so when you are conscious of how you are forgiving you find it easy to forgive but when you lose sight of how you've been forgiven you don't see the big deal if you hold it against your brother because guess what you don't have to invite anyone to offend you human beings are like that yesterday i was having a chat with someone and i was telling the person that i have discovered that we are all not good everyone has issues everyone today charles is my best friend because i don't like frank so just become my best friend i don't like frank oh just give us time he didn't want to get up don't worry it's exercise he needs some exercise i've fallen out with christine so now he's my best friend and then we got here and then i realized that i mean lucy smiles better so i abandoned him and this is my best friend human beings are like that we pick friends based on what we like and what's convenient for us so that's why you have to learn how to focus on where you are going because people don't make you their friends because they like you because of themselves so you have to focus so that when people leave your life you don't hold it against them because people will definitely leave your life my friend thank you pastor let's clap for pastor see he has made new friends so he has forgotten about fun you look nice man very cool my friend said something to me i'll never forget he said there's a nigerian adage he said there's a nigerian adage that 10 children don't play together for 20 years you understand what that means some of you some of some friends that you were very close to about five years ago now you're good you could life takes you apart so i can say 10 of us we always play together for 20 years no it doesn't happen like that so as time goes on that's why you have to focus on what god has assigned you to do and minimize the distraction by setting on unhealthy relationships or the restrictions of people's attitudes because people always have attitude the one you thought is your angel is someone's demon haven't you seen people who are tearing each other apart husband and wife they want to divorce not just divorce they want to kill each other meanwhile this man who this woman is saying is a devil this man is another woman's hair biggest angel he says bigot angel if i don't see you i can't sleep this woman you are complaining about she's like this she's like that retinue of negative uh criteria about this woman someone said this is the best one i've ever seen someone is but die he wants to even die whether you swim and drown in the sea to get to uk can we do anything and you to your uk uk what country ah i don't like uk so one man's meat is another man's poison life is always like that so i realized that the older you grow you understand a lot of things better because people will hurt you i don't even know what i'm talking about people will help hurt you particularly you see one wise man forgotten who said it and you say that's where i'm going that's where i'm going you know what one wise man i forgot who said it when i was doing my research a certain wise man said i forgot

[31:45] what's in he said um when your enemies hurt you it doesn't hurt as much as when your friends am i talking to someone yes enemies hurt you expected by friends hurt jesus said the same one i act with has lifted his heel against me beat you just you betrayed me with a kiss your kiss kiss is a sign of affection no no you are doing the rather you are selling me jesus went through that he died i taught you something he says died through rejection men rejected him and then finally heaven also rejected because of our sin so he said he died he died before his time the normal time people die on the cross because the soldiers came they were coming to pierre and this one's died already they didn't kill him he he died the rejection was too much especially when heaven rejected it but people rejected he expected it but i said judas you betray me with the kiss how many of you have ever been betrayed it's not one of the worst things that can happen to you but the problem is if you don't take care the one who betrayed you will control your future how because when you choose not to forgive them they are holding the key it's like you put a hook in your nose and they will control your future that is why forgiveness is is in your own interest forgive that man your husband forgive him your wife forgive her how long will you stretch this thing how long are you going to stretch it so the scriptures make us to understand that we have to add all these things let me show you the text in rathu chapter 18 this is a very interesting text this is supposed to ask him some interesting questions let me take my bible matthew chapter 18 from verse 21 some of you know the story already but then it's good to read it because some people have not seen it before in their lives but that's fine because we all uh but just we all of us at the point in time we have never seen it so we all came to meet can you imagine um the this beautiful lady minister johnson has been alive for so long but i didn't know she existed so a few years ago we met like you two years ago i didn't know there was anyone in the world called hanker did you know some of you never knew i existed so what i'm trying to say is that you discover things in life as you as you you don't know the next blessing you are going to discover so just walk with god god knows how to connect you matthew chapter 18 verse 21 then peter came to him and said lord how often shall shall my brother say my brother sin against me and i forgive him up to seven up to seven times so peter said how often this jesus this thing is getting too much how often should i go on saying forgive forgive forgive forgive how long can i give doing this forgiving especially not the other brother over there that church sister that church brother how many times can i go on doing this thing i'm not talking to someone oh check brothers who offend you especially when you get closer to them not because they want to offend you because that's human nature there are people here you don't talk to your sister you don't talk to your brother you all grew out and you were always fighting how many of you fought with your brothers and sisters yeah me but my brother joshua i used to fight i used to beat him now if you if you i mean obviously he was younger than me so i was beating him if you somewhere around my time i've got this big scar i was fighting with my sister elder sister she took

[35:53] uh broken chair with the and then hit me and shoo we fight his brothers is just doesn't fight is it only my family happy some of you have grown and you are still fighting but it's worse when it turns into major feudal tension adults they don't families don't i mean it's nasty it's ugly for family members you have your children and your children can't talk to their cousins it's ugly distasteful make sure believe god that this thing will stay away from you you may have some family members you can't do anything about but start with forgiveness it feels like it hurts but it blesses more and jesus bita said how often this church this choir choir brother is offending me too much yeah this asha every time he sees me coming he's upset he's always trying to frustrate me she's always she knows that i'm allergic to these black seats but he's the same city wants me to sit on it's trying to frustrate me this will come listen this will come we must grow and realize that these things will definitely happen it will happen because we are brothers and sisters it's easy to laugh from afar laugh from a distance oh i love you i love you when we get close then you can really tell whether you love me or not and some of us our inability to forgive is destroying all our in good relationships and god puts people in our life to bless us i told you god blesses three ways generationally revelationally and relationally you need people to enjoy blessings is it not true some of you since you met me your life has really changed you need people you need people in spite of sometimes hey you wear you wear you all that i do but still i'm a blessing isn't it that's what i'm trying to say there's some aspect of me that your personality may have clashes with but the blessing i carry in it you need it for your destiny so if you let your personality it's pediatric you go to work because they're still when i sit on the till the noise and you think you'll go home and you'll be hungry you drink you'll be do you understand what i'm saying adults know that they can do some things you have to keep up um um not keep my appearance like accommodate some things countenance some things it will make your journey smoother because people are very troublesome some of us we can't even stand our own children is that a bike oh why are you hypocritical sometimes this little child who doesn't even know how to talk can you scream and scream as you leave a letter i can't be bothered and people are saying oh i tell you the child oh no i can't be i'm tired i'm tired we let me also sleep that's what i'm talking about people are like that people are like that that is why the british government put in a regulation you don't smack a child because they can push you and you do it out of anger and hurt them and then that becomes abuse because they can't fight you you use your energy to be them you understand because people are like that people will offend you people will step on your toe if you think what i'm saying is not you wait to have a child as little as they are just when you are about to sleep

[39:59] jesus said to him i did not say i did not say to you upon seven times but on up to 70 times seven therefore the therefore the kingdom of god is like a certain king who went to to settle accounts with his servants and when he had begun to settle accounts one was brought to him who owed him 10 000 talents now 10 000 talents those times was a lot of talents was i think the highest um final economic value right those times when you talk about talents so one talent is about i think scholars is about six thousand denarius of drachma okay and he says so that this man owed 10 000 not a thousand 10 000 talents that's a lot all right he he was owing 10 000 talents this this is just 10 000 talents just to let us know that there's no way this man could pay it well it's a lot of money all right even america can't pay all their debt at the moment so but verse 25 but as he was not able to pay his master commanded that he be sold those times that was the culture if you can't pay this not bailiffs you yourself will be sold not only you with your wife and children and all that you have so you should thank god for these days they will just take your television those times they will take you and your children and everything and they'll sell everything so the rich people were buying people like that all right that will not permit me to show you in the old testament the custom therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a certain oh where have i gone please forgive me i've gone to verse 22 again um okay so if i swipe to that that payment be made that 26 the servant therefore fell down before him saying master have patience with me and i will pay you all the master of the servants was moved with compassion say compassion release him release him and forgive him the debt but that said that servant the same guy that servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii just hundred denarii he was hoeing now i told you that talent talent the equivalent of talents about six thousand denarii one talent and he was owing ten thousand and he said okay go and he found someone oh he's a hundred and a hundred denarii and what did he say this man he said hey where's my money because of you i almost well got i was almost got sold bring my money and then the man uh seven sorry what person okay 20 but the servant um where 28 but the servant went out and found one okay oh him so his his fellow servant fell down at his feet and begged him saying have patience with me and i will pay you all little by little by little i will pay it okay let's come to some payment arrangements or some uh terms and he would not but went and threw him in prison so he should pay and she paid the debt so when his fellow servants saw what he had done they they were very grieved and came and told the master all that had had that he had done then his master after he had called him said to him you wicked servant i forgive you all the debt because you begged me should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant just as i had pity on you and his master was angry and delivered him to the top to the tortures until he should pay all that was due him so

[44:01] this is this comment so my heavenly father my heavenly father also will do to you if you if each of you his heart does not forgive his brother his words so people will trespass you against you jesus said this is what god will do to you if you don't forgive those who trespass against you why must i forgive wrong understanding of forgiveness number one forgiveness is not a feeling i feel i still feel hurt and so what forgiveness is forgiveness is not a feeling someone will hurt you don't worry i can do all things through christ's training me number two forgiveness is not a response or a reaction or is not subjective i will forgive you subject to these conditions forgiveness is not subjection uh subjective forgiveness is is watch this forgiveness is the responsibility of the offended does that make sense so if i offend you you don't have to wait for me to come and say sorry whether i say sorry or not it's your responsibility to forgive me this is the truth and the facts about so forgiveness is not a reaction you are not waiting for someone to say sorry before you forgive you don't need that now let me pause to say this apology is your responsibility as a christian and guess what not just that forgiveness is also your responsibility as a christian so if i offend pastor charles it's my responsibility to say pastor charles i'm sorry if pastor charles offends me it's my responsibility to say pastor charles i forgive you whether you say sorry or not it's not got anything to do with that so that's the truth about forgiveness it's not reactionary you are not trying to wait for them to say before you forgive it's it's mandatory you have to for yourself for a safe journey and smooth sail when you preach this kind of things people really some people really some people don't like you understood yeah hey this thing you are saying are you sure maybe my own is different because me the way they have done against me i don't think i can forgive you that's what discriminating against the word of god wavering and the wealth of god stammering diecreen you are saying it applies to some people not me right so what did i say forgiveness is not a feeling well don't wait till you feel before you forgive forgiveness is not a reactionary or it's not a response it's not subjective so it's very important to understand that and then why do i have to forgive because it's mandatory it's a command jesus said when you stand praying and someone ought against you he said forgive so it's a command do it stop saying about that you will never know how it's maybe they will never get to know it doesn't matter do you hear what i said maybe they will never get to know how they've hurt you yesterday i was telling one of my brothers about this gentleman who betrayed me so much sometime years ago i don't even want to mention his name for it to look like i still have it it was hurtful he was always with me in my car and pastor who no no when we are in our car we were talking he was taking what we say and misinterpreted it and tell gossip to those people who are also close to us and he was smiling with us meanwhile there was a dagger behind his smile and the first church troubles we had church people some can't be like that there are some people their gift is to gossip if they don't guess if they feel something is wrong the world is destroying they have to gossip it's not their natural tendency get ready they will gossip against you i was telling somebody this one thing i discovered as a pastor as well because people usually fall out and people always want your favor when you're a leader

[48:05] so you go and gossip with someone about pastor but later on the person will say pastor me i know you're a good man but i know you're a good man and then they come and deliver everything but it's not nice to gossip it's not nice we say negative things about people and you call yourself a christian you should be ashamed negative things are people malicious at their back oh wait this one what did i say this one is like this oh even the shoes where it's not for him listen to me you do it regularly particularly the female species we do it a lot oh you know it's true it's not true i'm not saying it's only women who gossip men some men are dangerous especially but it's natural it's more it comes to most women naturally that's why you find oh wait most of the time women are quarrying against this one you are saying again i've been passing this church the only time i've had to deal with gossip is always amongst the women no i'm not saying do you understand what i'm saying you know what i'm talking about because some people right now even before service you are gossiping and your gossiping is spoiling our fellowship don't you see that may god forgive all of us and forgive you particularly he has died to to build a church like this and you are gossiping spreading spreading malicious things why are you telling pastor frank about pastor charles that he went to steal money and went to find next time pastor charles is standing here he said and pastor charles says the thief the thief the thief the thief the thief you are spoiling our fellowship meanwhile he said thief but god is still using him no no please and disclaimer he's not a thief okay yeah but you understand what i'm saying and so then the one who is supposed to receive the blessings chokes the blessing because you have poisoned them and now they can't open their hearts have you realized that most of you sometimes said oh tell me don't worry i can't take it say no no i don't want to tell you say tell me tell me when someone tells you i don't want to tell you watch the person that's one and when somebody tells you you are the only one who can understand me they are very dangerous when they come and tell me you are the only one i can confide in they are very dangerous watch them when it comes to church i'm talking from experience you wait you grow you understand what i'm saying later i'm talking from experience nobody understands me please you what what i'm going to share is just between you and i you don't know you don't know you see the people in the church like that they don't like us so they are killing you they are killing you and you will die i'm telling you somebody is killing you there's venom in their mouth it's the truth bible says that watch mark those who cause division among us and stay away from them because they are dangerous to our fellowship please somebody will go see you hear the message pastor charles it's not nice for you to go and hear that this is what this guy was saying about you oh we're all laughing and sometimes you know we hear something you can tell them there's some level of truth in this one because you actually know you were telling this but not like this so then you know you conclude that it's true they said it and sometimes you you get hurt if you don't pray it by the principle of forgiveness guess what as soon as you get hurt your prayers are all gone on holiday your answers to your prayer they say okay we are waiting for you while you finish when you finish forgiving and so you are praying you are fasting god this is what i don't understand why should i fast and fast in vain fasting is one of the most unpleasant things i punish myself fast not that i don't have food there's food and then fast and fast and fast and all is waste think about it you are giving offering you are doing everything and all is like

[52:11] you put in a bag of holes because your state of your heart so long as forgiveness is constant has disqualify your chances in god because you chose that me i won't let this thing go i won't let this thing go bible says that god resist the proud but give praise to the humble i'm teaching christian message if you are not a full christian you will appreciate it don't worry we will still accommodate you i will love you i will know that very soon we'll be doing prayer meeting for you because the blessing that is meant to come you join us we are burning them and you're also doing it hey we buy we buy they'll meet you out there because you are not covered hey pastor it what where do you see this one in the bible this is this is how it is that uh most of the anointed pastors use them threatening people but then it's not a threat to is that because you see we are like surgeons and specialists we deal with some of so many things you can tell why people the entry level where people's sufferings come most people will try and keep their garments clean and keep focused i'm not talking about even sin falling to sin but once you always find yourself back to scriptures and keep going keep going it's very difficult for you to become a victim in life that's what i'm saying you can't easily become a victim in life working on god's word you may make mistakes you may cause find yourself oh i should have said this i should have misused this be bad behavior you ask for forgiveness and keep your approach and keep going you cannot be a victim in life but we are more than congress we are more than congress i have made it the point that today we have to close it so let me stop what i'm saying we are here next week we can continue is it not true did you guess something thank you for listening for more resources please visit carriers.org or call us on 0207 740 9960 god bless you