Biblical Submission | Ephesians 5 v22-25

[0:00] Hallelujah! Thank you for tuning in to this powerful message by David Entry at Karis Phase 2,! Our Christ Centred Youth Services. You can never find Christ outside of the open Word of God.

[0:13] May Jesus Christ reveal Himself to you as you listen. Ephesians 5, verse 22. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

[0:28] For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, and he is the Savior of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

[0:47] Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it, that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water with the Word.

[1:01] That He might present to Himself a glorious church, not having spots or wrinkles or any such thing.

[1:11] But that it should be holy without blemish. Here ends the reading. Amen. Now, it says, what's the role of a wife in a marriage?

[1:27] It's not cooking. It's not washing. It's not tidying the house. It's not making children. It's not a woman.

[1:38] It's not a woman. It's not a woman. It's not a woman. A wife. Let's all say a wife. A wife.

[1:49] The biblical role of a wife is submission. And I explained to you that submission is different from obedience.

[2:02] Submission is for the purposes of a unified direction. Because anything with two heads is a monster. So, the Bible says that the wife submits to the, watch this, to the headship or leadership responsibility of the husband.

[2:25] So, if you want to choose someone as a husband, make sure he's somebody you can submit to. Don't marry someone you cannot submit to. Because you will be in the wrong.

[2:37] In that of submission is not agreement with everything the person does. If you say, you said we should go to Kensington.

[2:50] I said we should go to Kilburn. And you feel very strong. Maybe Kensington is better. I feel very strong. Kilburn is better.

[3:00] If we are in partnership, then we have to go to one place. Do you understand that? We have to go to one place. So that the role of the wife is to submit to the leadership.

[3:12] It doesn't mean the husband does all the decisions. The husband doesn't have to make all the decisions. But the husband is responsible. When, who spoke to the devil in the garden of Eden?

[3:25] Genesis chapter 3. Who? The woman. He said, 1 Timothy chapter 2 verse 14. And Adam was not deceived. But the woman being deceived fell into transgression.

[3:38] What don't you like about this? What has that got to do with you? Is it you? We are talking about events that happen. Watch it.

[3:49] The reason I showed you in 1 Timothy chapter 2 verse 14. Is that in Genesis chapter 3. Let's go to verse 1. When they were about to start falling. The devil, the serpent went to the woman.

[4:02] It's in your Bible. The serpent was coming. And he said to. He said to. The woman. He said to whom? The woman. He said to the woman.

[4:12] As God said. And the woman spoke back. Hey. Didn't you even suspect this speaking serpent? I'm sure the serpent looked very romantic.

[4:25] So the woman spoke to the serpent. And they entered into a dialogue. And the devil told. The serpent told the woman. God is lying. Don't mind God. He doesn't want you to enjoy sex.

[4:37] But when God came. He called. Adam. Where are you? He said. I heard your voice. We are afraid. And so I covered. And God said.

[4:48] Who told you you are afraid? Have you eaten? God was not questioning the woman. He questioned. Adam. Did you eat what I said? He didn't come to the woman first. He came to Adam.

[4:58] Why? Because that is how leadership works. So in the same way. When it comes to the state of a family. God expects the husband. To make sure the family is in a good shape.

[5:10] Protection. Provision. Many marriages. Or families that are broken. Is one. Many of it is because the man. Is not taking responsibility enough.

[5:22] And then when the woman becomes. Very. Many women in our times. Are so responsible. Many of our modern day ladies. Are very responsible. In fact. Some of them deliver.

[5:33] Even at a higher level. Than many men. So. Can I advise you young ladies. Don't be in a rush. To be married. To somebody.

[5:47] Wives. What God demands of wives. In a marriage. Is very easy. But it becomes very complicated. And difficult. If you marry somebody.

[5:58] You can't submit to. Somebody who always makes. All the wrong decisions. And it's okay. For people to make wrong decisions. But it's very worrying.

[6:10] If they are arrogant. And proud. Then you can't correct them. A wife's role. Is that of submission. To.

[6:22] The husband. And the husband is supposed to provide. Leadership. Leadership. Some husband's decision. Must. Must make the wife feel.

[6:32] Wow. I'm covered here. Wives. Submit. To your. Own. Husbands. Then he says. As.

[6:43] Unto. What's the meaning of that? Like. Like. To that. One Lord. The Lord. There is not talking about. Landlord. God. It's talking about Christ.

[6:57] Your spirituality is reflected. As a wife. It's. It's reflective. In your attitude of submission. In your marriage. Are you guys in it? These are spiritual things.

[7:12] Submit. Unto your own husbands. As unto the Lord. Why? The next verse says. For the husband. Is the head. Of the wife.

[7:22] What is that? The head. Gets to make. The hard decisions. Did you understand? What I'm saying? So. Headship there. Is.

[7:33] It means. Responsibility. Christ. Is responsible. For the state. Of the church. Not the pastor. So. It's a.

[7:44] As. For the husband. Is the head. Of the wife. Not the woman. Not the girl. This is. So. Listen to what the Bible. It didn't say. It didn't say. Men are the heads.

[7:55] Of women. No. The Bible never said that. And the Bible never said. Women should submit to men. No. Don't submit to anybody. In church.

[8:06] We submit to each other. Brothers submit to sisters. Sisters submit to brothers. That's the Christian life. We submit. Submit to the king. Submission is in different levels. So.

[8:17] But. Wife. If you are not a wife. You don't owe anybody. The duty to submit. It's just. That's. That's what it means. To be a wife. A wife means someone.

[8:28] Who is ready to submit. To one person. In the married context. Not your mother-in-law. Not. Your father-in-law. Not even your father or mother.

[8:40] Not necessarily even your pastor. You submit to your pastor. In your. In the church life. You can choose. I'm not coming to church. I'm not coming to church today.

[8:51] And. Pastor will be disappointed. Because he thinks that is a good service. But he can't say. I command you to come. It's not part of the jurisdiction.

[9:02] But. When the wife says I don't go to. The husband says. No. You have to. You have to. And then your husband has spoken. So. You have to obey. Or you have to submit.

[9:13] My darling. You have to. We are going. Let's go. It's different from ruling. And dominating. Or. Controlling. No. That's not control. So.

[9:24] Now. There's one point. Yes. Submission. They think. Why should I let somebody control me? Your mind is not. Circumcised. That's why you see submission. As an authorization for control.

[9:36] But this is written to sanctify people. So. It says that. Let's go to verse 23. For the husband is the head of the wife. In what way? Us. Anytime you are reading the epistle.

[9:47] You see us. It's. An analogy. Similar to. Us. Also. Christ is the head of the church. And he is the savior of the body. You see. Christ is two things to the church.

[9:58] What is he? Amen. Amen. Herrship. Connotes authority and governance. Savior. Connotes love. And protection.

[10:09] Wow. So before you begin to give instructions as a husband. Make sure. You are also protective. And providing. And loving.

[10:21] Particularly. Do you understand what I'm saying? So. It said. Wife. Submit to your husbands. As unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife.

[10:34] In first Corinthians chapter 11 verse 3. It says that. The head of the woman. Not a woman. It's not a man.

[10:48] It's the man. Are you guys in it? The head of the woman. Is the man. So. That woman must have the man. Not. Not.

[11:00] Men. Or man. Efficiency. So it says that. The husband is the head of the wife. As. Also Christ is the head of the church. And he's the savior of the body.

[11:12] The next verse. Therefore. Just ask. Watch this. The church is subject. To Christ. So. You see. Another analogical terminology.

[11:23] It's giving an analogy. Or comparative. Relative. Relative. Comparative. So. As. So. Alright. So. Just ask. Just ask.

[11:35] The same way. In which the church is subject to Christ. So. Let. Wives. Be. To. Their. It's. Their. Own. Husband. Stop telling somebody's.

[11:47] Husband. Or wife. What he should do to their husband. You. Let them be to their own husband. In. Everything. That everything. Is. Talking about. Two. Ways.

[11:57] You have to understand everything. Within the jurisdiction. Of what is acceptable. Before God. And then number two. Within. The. Limits.

[12:07] Of. Marital. Life. And family life. The wife's. Boss. Said. We. Start. Work. Here. At. Eight. But.

[12:18] Her husband. Said. No. My wife. Can't go to work. At. Eight. Eight. Really. Employ your wife. And then.

[12:29] If the wife. Said. No. But. This is our company. I was trying to negotiate. Start nine. They said. No. I have to start eight. And. They were trying to change it. But. The wife said. Hey. The husband said. No. You can go. Said.

[12:39] No. I don't want to lose my job. Said. You are not going. I am the head. Head of what? The Bible says. Submit. Submit. In what way?

[12:50] Yeah. I will submit. But. Not when it comes to my job. Unless. Of course. You want me to leave the job. If I have to leave. And I'm leaving. Then. That's a different story.

[13:02] But. At work. You are not my head. So. That everything. I hope now you are. It's making sense. Their wife must be subject. To their.

[13:12] Her own husband. Or their own husband. In everything. Don't say. Okay. I'll be subject to you here. This one. It's not. No. As long as the marital relationship is concerned.

[13:24] The family life is concerned. This field of endeavor. You are together. As a team. See. Their home. Is a team. Okay. Whatever happens. Whatever happens.

[13:34] In the house. If the roof is blown off. It's all of us who suffer. Right. So. We are building. If the children are not well. It's both of us who suffer. So. We are building the home together. But. In this union.

[13:45] And in this teamwork. There must be somebody. Who must take responsibility. That is the head. Do you understand that? And God didn't give that. To the woman. The woman can be making.

[13:55] All the decisions. But allow the man. To lead. To take the responsibility. Does that make sense? Listen. The verse 25.

[14:07] Says that. Husbands. Love your wives. If she submits. Oh sorry. I read into it. Oh no.

[14:21] It's not a. It's not conditional love. Love your wives. Don't mind.

[14:31] Don't mind. Don't mind. Don't mind. Don't mind. All men. Bible says. We should pray. This is. Responsibility love. Love your wives.

[14:45] And he didn't say. If they submit. They didn't give conditions. For submission. The only condition. For submission. Is that you are his wife. If you are not his wife.

[14:56] Don't mind. Don't mind. Just. Respect. All men. Bible says. We should pray. Whether male or female. Just respect people. If you don't know. How to be curious.

[15:07] You are very. Crude. And crass. And. Brute. Tish. Brutish. Courtesy. Is good. Is decent. That's one thing. That I believe.

[15:17] That. Is taught. In schools. Very early. Isn't it? It teach you. How to say please. How to be polite. The Bible. Goes into. Existential situation.

[15:29] What we live with. And if you get this right. Much of your life. Will be peaceful. You don't marry a man. For the size of his muscles. You marry a man.

[15:40] For the size of his responsibility. And the size. Of his. Willingness. To take on. A challenge. To protect the family. So if he.

[15:52] He has to. Go and work. He has to work. To build his backpack. That's a man. A man. Is someone. Who is so responsible. That.

[16:03] Anybody. He has. Duty of careful. Feels very safe. And is actually safe. That's a man. Safety.

[16:14] Not only. When it comes to. Physical. Strength. But safety. When it comes to. Emotional issues. At home. Financial situations. At home. Protecting.

[16:25] The wife. From. Even herself. Sometimes. Her husband. Must be so strong. Can tell the wife. No. You are not. Leaving the choir. Go back there.

[16:37] And because. Your wife. Respects you. And knows you are. Even though. She doesn't want to go. My husband. She has to stay. Later. She said. My darling. Thank you for. Making me stay. That was the best decision.

[16:47] I could make. A responsible man. Not to someone. Who is. Carrying. He's not a courier service person. Carrying the wife. In the house. Always. Husbands.

[17:02] Love your wives. As Christ. Also. Loves. The church. And give himself. For the church. Who gave himself. For who? So he says that.

[17:14] The. Husband. Is supposed to love. The wife. Watch this. Not. To kill herself. Himself. For her. One day. A certain man. Came to the wife.

[17:24] He said that. Honey. I love you so much. I will die for you. He said. No. Don't die. She said. Don't die. Please. Can you go. And just do the dishes. Just do the dishes. It's enough.

[17:38] Watch this. He said. As Christ. Loved. The church. And. He. Christ. Gave himself. For. He loved. The church. To the extent. That. If it meant.

[17:49] Giving himself up. He will. It. So. It's. The kind of. Love. That he. Had for the. Church. That made him. Go. To that extent.

[18:00] He said. You should love your wife. In a way that. You are willing to go to. A certain extent. At your own expense. Unfortunately.

[18:10] Some of us. Have been trained. To just live for ourselves. One of us. One of the problems. Of hardships. In marriage. Is selfishness. It's a sickness.

[18:22] I call. Pigitis. You know. Meningitis. This one is. Pigitis. Pig. You know. Pig. Pigs are the only creatures. That. Will. Dificate.

[18:34] Or. If you don't understand. They. Pull. And then. Turn and eat. The poo. That's why. Some people don't eat pig. Many of. Marital crisis.

[18:45] Is. As a result. Of selfishness. Self-centeredness. It's always about me. Always about me. Marriage. Only works. When. The. Parties.

[18:55] In the marriage. Are selfless. But when you are selfless. And you are married. To a selfish person. It can be very. Very devastating. So.

[19:06] Said. The husband. First. She'll love the wife. He didn't give any other instructions. She said. Love your wives. That's it. Love your wives. So. A husband must love the wife. To protect the wife.

[19:17] And sometimes. Ignore her. Emotional. Dantrums. That's love. It said. Christ loved the church so much. Verse 26. That he might sanctify.

[19:27] Say sanctify. Sanctify. Sanctify means to. Set. Aside. Okay. Sanctify. And cleanse her. With the washing of water. There's a lot packed in here.

[19:38] I really was going to. That's where I really wanted to. Dig into. The washing of water. By the word. And then sanctify. And cleanse. Not only sanctify. But sanctify her.

[19:49] And cleanse her. But time will not permit me. So. I have to end now. Amen. Thank you for choosing to listen to this message by David Entry.

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